I am not the OOP. The OOP is u/Mediocre_Bluejay_555 posting in AITAH
Ongoing as per OOP
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Thanks to u/Prestigious-Maybe-73 for finding this BORU
Original - 25th March 2024
Update - 14th May 2024
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AITAH for telling my wife I don't give a damn how she drives when it's just her and her kids in the car but if me or our kids are in it she must be safe.
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My wife had two kids before we got married and the have an actively involved father. We have had two children of our own.
My wife is a terrible driver but she refuses to acknowledge this. She has been in multiple accidents and even had her license suspended. Not for a DUI or anything. Just because she is a shitty driver. She will do stuff like reach into the back seat to deal with a kid rather than either pull over or let me or one of the older kids deal with it.
She got t-boned in August last year because she took her foot off the brake at a red light to pick up my son's soother that had fallen out. She didn't put the car in park. Thankfully only she was injured. All four kids were in the car.
I have had it. I told her that she is welcome to endanger herself and her kids. But that if I am in the car or if our children are in the car she will keep her eyes on the road and her hands on the steering wheel.
She is finally at the point in her rehab where she can drive again. I reminded her of what I said. I told her that I loved her. I said that her older kids were important to me and that I loved them too. But I told her that if she ever decided to do stupid shit while driving our relationship would be over and I would make it part of our divorce that she NOT be allowed to drive with my kids in the car.
She started crying and said she didn't do it on purpose. I asked her how exactly she took her hands off the wheel, took off her seatbelt, took her foot off the brake, and turned around to pick up the soother by accident. She said that I'm treating her like an idiot. I don't think I am. My children have to be safe.
Before you ask I try and do as much of the driving as I possibly can. I have stopped drinking when we go out. I traded in my car that I loved for an SUV so there is room for all of us. I offered to pay for Uber so she didn't have to drive if I wasn't available. She actually likes driving.
Her ex and her parents are on my side. He also told her that if she ever thinks about endangering his kids and he would either go for full custody or ask that she be barred from driving with his kids in the car. Her parents have threatened to stop helping her pay her stupid high insurance premiums.
She thinks we are being unfair because she loves her kids and would never intentionally harm them. She just loses concentration when one of the kids needs something and doesn't think to ask for help.
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JaguarZealousideal55

She started crying and said she didn't do it on purpose. I asked her how exactly she took her hands off the wheel, took off her seatbelt, took her foot off the brake, and turned around to pick up the soother by accident. She said that I'm treating her like an idiot. I don't think I am. My children have to be safe.

Well... what did she expect? She is behaving like an idiot, to be honest. Her intention (doing it on purpose or not) is not relevant here. She shouldn't be driving at all since she is putting other people at risk. But clearly she shouldn't drive the children. That is the least you can demand.
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LastBaron
There comes a point where “intentionality” as a concept sort of breaks down.
Maybe she is having the subjective experience of not feeling like she’s doing it on purpose, I don’t know. But she has been presented with such an overwhelming amount of evidence and testimony from her own family that her actions are endangering herself and her kids, that any reasonable person (and plenty of unreasonable ones) would have gotten the message.
If she doesn’t believe it that’s on her.
In a way it’s actually worse; if a person is so deeply delusional that THIS degree of evidence is available and she still doesn’t feel at fault, she’s just straight up dangerous and probably in way more scenarios than just this one. How far gone do you have to be to not see that your actions are causing this? What else in your life are you this delusional about?
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JanetInSpain
You're treating her like an idiot because, now hear me out here... SHE'S AN IDIOT.
What mature, responsible adult pulls that shit while driving? If losing her license and being in multiple accidents wasn't enough to show her that she has a serious problem, I doubt your threat will either.
Every time she does one of those stupid actions, she is INTENTIONALLY harming her kids (or potentially harming). She could have fixed this long ago. She's just too lazy and in denial to do anything about it.
You and her ex should both put your foot down: no more driving unless she is the only person in the car. Period. No exceptions. Any breach of that agreement will be grounds for leaving. By giving her more chances you are continuing to endanger your kids.
NTA but don't let this slide.
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**Judgement - NTA*\*
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AITAH for initiating a divorce while my wife is in the hospital after a car accident. - 7 weeks later
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My wife was involved in a single vehicle accident. She was seriously injured but thank goodness no one else was in the car with her.
I have spoke to her about her driving habits and I warned her. I went to see her in the hospital and then I went to a lawyer. I am also going for full custody with only supervised visitation for her.
I am sick to death of her driving habits and I will not wait for her to injure or kill one of our kids with her bullshit.
I feel bad for doing this while she is in the hospital and facing charges. But I can't take any more chances on her.
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emjkr
NTA I remember your last post. Protect yourself and your kids.

OOP: I can't believe it happened this quickly. I'm just glad none of the kids were with her.

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emjkr
I definitely understand that! Has she said anything about the new accident? Realised that she got a problem? If I remember right she was very upset about you stating that she should not drive with the kids in the car anymore.

OOP: She left some paperwork in the back seat. So she parked. Then she went to grab it. Unfortunately she left the car in gear and stepped on the gas and drove into a canal by the mall. I'm just done.

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stufferkneee
So even after she caused the accident last time reaching for the soother, she STILL managed to do nearly the same maneuver (reaching into the back seat for something without ensuring the car was properly parked) and caused another accident. She's a lost cause, they need to permanently take away her license. She's a danger to herself and every single person on the road, pedestrian or driver.
NTA OP. Keep your kids safe. Let the ex husband know your plans & the situation as well, I'm sure he's going to want to push forward on his custody fight as well after this. If her parents are still on your side, make sure you keep their line open for the kids too.
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efrendel
NTA. You told her what you needed from her to keep your marriage intact and give you peace of mind. The consequences of ignoring you is on her.
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19 M, i work at a bar for the Summer season and know the owner well, he really likes me and offered me the job. He spoke very highly of me with his family and i made a positive impression on his daughter. In april i started working on the weekends and met his daughter, she is my type both extetichally and personality wise. She liked me from the very start and we quickly established a connection, whenever i am around her she Is happy and calm, despite her kind of bad temperament with others. For ten days we chatted every day, talked about a lot of stuff unrealated to work and we get along amazingly. Last weekend there was a party near the town we work in and she really wanted me to go with her, i said i couldnt drive back home if i drank anything and she said She wanted to sleep with me in my car. We talked for an hour at the party before i met my friends and at 1 am i got back go my car and found her waiting for me since Midnight. In the car we kissed for hours and we did something more ( not sex i dont know the proper term), It wasnt what i'd immagined would have happened but It seemed that She wanted It more than i did. The day After She got colder and texted me saying that She regrets what we have done and she feels miserabile, she didn't expect It and didn't kiss a guy for 7 months( her last relationships). She is obviously scared and told me she feels emotionally numb and isn't ready for a relationships( which i never asked for even remotely). In her last relationship she was cheated on while still in love so it hurt a lot, she also said that my personality is wonderful and that she never felt so free as when she is with me but i think that what we did made her think back to the time she got hurt badly and now she is frozen. What can i do to fix things with her? I didn't want her just for one night, she makes me happy and wanted to be close to her as long as possibile. I know i should have slowed thinghs down, but now that the damage is done how can I let her know that I'm not here to cause her any pain? Can she open up again with me?

So, I (m25) started talking to this girl (f22) in February and the vibe was really great. Because we were both busy with exams we waited until the middle of March for the first date but texted almost daily (it was mostly voice notes) and had a phone call in the evening for like an hour. The date itself was one of the best I’ve ever had, and the attraction was mutual. She also wanted to say like good morning and good night texts, but I was a bit hesitant to follow along because I felt it was a bit too early and I also told her so. Later on, I followed along more, and she did as well. We continued to have 2 following dates in the next 2 weeks, and everything went great. Had our first kiss on the third date. After that she continued to text a lot until like a week after it became less and less.
She was busy again for 4 weeks for the other half of exams, but I was complete chill. She still sends a good night voice message late in the evening where she said how busy she was and that she has some mental breakdowns because she thinks she’s not going to make it. On the other hand, she still had time to go for a walk with some friends but when I said I’d come over for a 30min walk she declined and said I didn’t have to come over just for that. We still had phone calls. She still complimented my insta pictures, liked my stories and so on. Then after the last exam was over, we had a phone call again. Not that long this time where she told me about her plans for the week. She had something planned for every single day of the week. So, I asked her when we’re going to meet then. She said that she already asked that herself and said maybe during the week in the morning or on Sunday but an old male friend from uni wanted to meet her as well a few weeks ago and she told him she’d get back to him after the exams are over which would be now. We agreed on Monday next week. During the week I only heard from her twice. In one voice note she told me that she needs time for herself because there was so much going on lately.
On Sunday, I texted her about what time we’d meet on Monday. Later that evening she texted a very long paragraph where she stated that she realized she can’t do the whole thing justice now and she thought it would get better after the exams, but she realized she still needs time for herself because she kind of neglected herself. She still thinks I’m super nice and always enjoyed the time spend with me and felt very comfortable. She also felt bad because she had so little time during the exam phase and concluded that she won’t have that more time or head space right now either. But she doesn’t want to be unfair and it’s not about me but about her and her feeling that she needs to take time for herself and that she’s really sorry and been thinking about this the last few days. I actually responded that it’s okay, I think it’s a pity but I’m going to respect her choice of course and she can text me when she’s feeling better and we can see what the situation is like then to which she responded that it’s very kind and understanding of me and she’ll happily get back in touch to see where we both stand.

So that was 2,5 weeks ago and I haven’t heard from her since. Basically, how do I continue? Thank you for your help and for reading.

So, I (m25) started talking to this girl (f22) in February and the vibe was really great. Because we were both busy with exams we waited until the middle of March for the first date but texted almost daily (it was mostly voice notes) and had a phone call in the evening for like an hour. The date itself was one of the best I’ve ever had, and the attraction was mutual. She also wanted to say like good morning and good night texts, but I was a bit hesitant to follow along because I felt it was a bit too early and I also told her so. Later on, I followed along more, and she did as well. We continued to have 2 following dates in the next 2 weeks, and everything went great. Had our first kiss on the third date. After that she continued to text a lot until like a week after it became less and less.
She was busy again for 4 weeks for the other half of exams, but I was complete chill. She still sends a good night voice message late in the evening where she said how busy she was and that she has some mental breakdowns because she thinks she’s not going to make it. On the other hand, she still had time to go for a walk with some friends but when I said I’d come over for a 30min walk she declined and said I didn’t have to come over just for that. We still had phone calls. She still complimented my insta pictures, liked my stories and so on. Then after the last exam was over, we had a phone call again. Not that long this time where she told me about her plans for the week. She had something planned for every single day of the week. So, I asked her when we’re going to meet then. She said that she already asked that herself and said maybe during the week in the morning or on Sunday but an old male friend from uni wanted to meet her as well a few weeks ago and she told him she’d get back to him after the exams are over which would be now. We agreed on Monday next week. During the week I only heard from her twice. In one voice note she told me that she needs time for herself because there was so much going on lately.
On Sunday, I texted her about what time we’d meet on Monday. Later that evening she texted a very long paragraph where she stated that she realized she can’t do the whole thing justice now and she thought it would get better after the exams, but she realized she still needs time for herself because she kind of neglected herself. She still thinks I’m super nice and always enjoyed the time spend with me and felt very comfortable. She also felt bad because she had so little time during the exam phase and concluded that she won’t have that more time or head space right now either. But she doesn’t want to be unfair and it’s not about me but about her and her feeling that she needs to take time for herself and that she’s really sorry and been thinking about this the last few days. I actually responded that it’s okay, I think it’s a pity but I’m going to respect her choice of course and she can text me when she’s feeling better and we can see what the situation is like then to which she responded that it’s very kind and understanding of me and she’ll happily get back in touch to see where we both stand.

So that was 2,5 weeks ago and I haven’t heard from her since. Basically, how do I continue? Thank you for your help and reading

So im a very timid person and i can talk to people comfortable but these past two years I've been verbally bullied by my college piers for example having people come up to my desk just to call me stupid. calling me names behind my back or calling me weird or how 'll shoot up a school.
i had one person i would talk to (as in i would start all the conversations and he'd just listen) sure he helped me with my work but he treated me like i was a job and only seemed to hang out with me out of pitty he never starts conversations and never defended me when i was being shamed and he would just sit there with the people who bullied me. Even when i told him about how i was being treated by them he said "ITS BECAUSE I DONT TALK." i remember texting him i liked him and he said he would talk to me about it later but he actually just ghost me for a 2 days before i texted him "yeah I'll just wait." before he could tell me "how he didn't feel the same way and how he just didn't want to deal with it"
i stopped being friends with him after that and he practically helps everyone including me sometimes but i don't accept it. (he acts like he did nothing wrong)
because of this my grades has gone down even worse than before even my college professor seem to be treating me even more harshly i cried in a bathroom stall he came down to check on me and when he saw me crying unable to speak from the tears and heavy breathing he told me i was being rude and being aggressive. i told him how i was feeling the other day and he sarcastically brought it up in class and saying things to me like " anyone wants to go to the bathroom?! *Insert my name* Dont forget your phone this time."
when i call him to help me with a question he sucks his teeth or sighs loudly in annoyance. i talked to him about how im afraid ask him questions now because of him and how he pressures me when i make a mistake( for example *me taking a long time typing something* he says " your wasting my time.") he practically shifted the blame onto me with a question and told me "you hang onto things" he then makes sarcastic remarks in front of the class like " oh am i being to aggressive or im not scaring annoying. the whole class laughs.
anyway this is still going on but this happens all the time i get bullied in every school i go to i don't know why. i assume it's because of how i look but are people really that shallow? or maybe im to sensitive and need to grow up.

Hey there, i hope you're doing well. I think that i have a severe carpal tunnel, and I'm panicking, like a lot. And what annoys me more is how i got it.
After looking for a student job for so long, i finally managed to get one, at one the busiest bars in my city, Brussels. So last Thursday day, it was my second shift, a 5h25 min shift. I worked so hard as a server. The whole time, it had a server tray, that were heavy most of the time. At some point, i realised i had my fingers, from the one that's after the middle, till the 👍 finger(idk how do we call it sorry), are numb. When i finished, i realised that a part of my pawm was numb too. So i thought maybe it's normal, cuz it's a new job and we had so many ppl, i thought it will go, but oh boy it stayed, and it doesn't come and go, no, the numbness is present all the time. Last Tuesday i went to my doctor and he told me it's probably carpal tunnel syndrome. And he told me it's ok it will go, ur young ( 18 ) and the thing that caused it wasn't something that you do occasionally. It was a one day thing. He gave me ibuprofen teva and naproxen. A'd he told to wait for 2 weeks, and it doesn't go then i should visit a neurologist.
I saw that if you have pain in your Forearm then you probably have a severe CTS. Well i do have Pain in my forearm and in my elbow. So I feel I'm fucked. The numbness in my middle finger is a bit less than before, and at night the numbness doesn't get worse.
So any advices? Do you think I'm cooked? I feel I'll end up getting a surgery, but it has some terrible risks. I'm really panicking and i feel so stupid, cuz now i have this just so that i could pay uni, that's not fair. Sorry for the long text and thanks in advance.

Hand Size: 7x4 inches or 17.8x10 centimeters.
Grip Style: Mix between Pincer claw and fingertip grip (Situational grip style)
Mousepad: Skypad 3.0 XL White
Mouse Skates: x4 TJ Exclusive “PlastiX Skates” on 4 corners of the G303 SE skate area (These skates are game changing and deserver their own post)
Let me just start off by saying I have mained the original G303 for over 7 years playing Counter-Strike in my youth. When I began attempting to switch to other mice I didn’t realize how much of a struggle and challenge it would introduce in my gaming time. This is what began my mousereview journey in investigating, testing, and continuous use of different shapes…spilling money, regretting purchases and finding inspiration and newfound reasoning why the G303 and G303 SE shape are so special.
The G303 and G303 SE are so unique that there is literally no alternative. Even if you fingertip grip the G303 there are considered alternatives but none of them feel similar in the slightest. Some users with bigger hands from what I understand have switched to the Endgame Gear XM1 and some users with smaller hands have found themselves stuck with the original G303 because they couldn’t get a comfortable grip on the new G303 SE in practice.
Let’s get one fact out of the way; Fact: The G303 and G303 SE are not comfortable shapes BUT that’s to the users benefit. I’ve found this uncomfortable diamond shape to be super beneficial for aiming scenarios. There are freedom of movement downsides but the positives outweigh the negatives in my use of this shape.
After long term use of forcing myself to use the G303 SE, I’m thankful for the slightly enlarged shape that Shroud inspired Logitech to produce. Once you’re eventually somewhat comfortable with this shape you begin to realize this is the best claw grip mouse you can perform a somewhat natural baseball grip on while still feeling there is an arrow in your hand pointing you toward your opponents.
If you own a G303 SE and find yourself disappointed with the shape in comparison to your beloved OG G303, I want to inspire you to try to main the G303 SE for two months. See if the shape really is a downgrade and let others know your thoughts. Sometimes it just takes using a mouse for a while to eventually click with the shape. Our minds learn to adapt to new shapes and given the G303 SE is the closest thing to the original G303 I think we can all learn to adapt and aim just as well if not better with a slightly increased mass of the G303 SE. If you’re still not sold on the G303 SE then continue to keep your eye out for the upcoming ARYE FCC-1.
In the past 2 weeks I decided to do a 150mah battery swap on my G303 SE. The improved weight has been significant enough in use that I recommend others to perform the mod if you’re comfortable, but don’t expect the mod to be massively game changing. The battery lasts around a week in heavy use now which is more than fine. I was using a HSK Pro 4k @ 4k hz polling rate and the battery was only lasting a day and a half or two so I understand bad battery life and doing this battery swap isn't giving me any problems. The G303 SE charges so fast I can basically go cook an egg on a pan or take a restroom break and it would be near if not already 100% to last another week anyway. It’s nice having a battery that lasts over a month+ but it’s super unnecessary in practice especially sense it sacrifices weight and can hinder your aim performance if ever so slightly.
I want to add that I received the TJ Exclusive PlastiX Skates a couple of days ago and in combination with my Skypad 3.0 they are actually the best skates I've ever used and possibly the best on every glass or ceramic surfaces currently. PTFE still feels slightly better on softer cloth surfaces to me, and I have a hunch that the PlastiX wouldn’t be fantastic for a plastic mousepad surface. They do however preform amazingly on harder surfaces so if you use for example a MID Artisan mousepad, they could be fantastic in those use cases.
The G303 SE sides angle inward a bit more aggressively than the OG G303. This one change essentially forces a claw grip in most scenarios which is either a good or bad thing for stability and movement situations. This change has been the most significant to me in comparison to rear hump change.. It's made the G303 SE more aggressive in practice and depending on how you look at it can be a positive or a negative change for your grip.
I'm going to continue using the G303 SE for the foreseeable future. Till something releases that competes and is of higher quality for an affordable price. The soon to be releasing ARYA FCC-1 is a bit pricey for me @ $220... It's a (maybe) mouse depending on how bad I want to try it and if it's in stock for me to try in the future.
I'm going to continue using the OG G303 at work as a reminder of what the G303 SE could have been.. I think both shapes have there pros and cons and as I keep saying the G303 SE has more pros than cons over the original G303 that it's enough for me to keep using it as my main gaming mouse.
I can't wait for the G303 inspired shape uprising! It's going to happen and it's only a matter of time!
Thanks for reading!

The tag isn't correct but at least it is close to a story.
So, here i am.
My story with Tinnitus.
When i was in my late 20s, i went to a new years party and all exited because free alcohol, people and fun.
Though it went somewhat downhill as i drank too much and kind of everything. So i was really drunk when we went outside and watched others to the fireworks.
Big booms here and there and sometime after i went to bed.
Next day, i think i was sleeping really long. Did i skipped a day? Maybe. I don't remember but what i remember was that i woke up with sound in my ear.
It was scary. It wouldn't stop.Since it was far away from any doctor, i waited until i could drive home.
This is when i realized that i wouldn't go away.And it is the start when i went from doctor to doctor and i was told, there isn't anything that could be done.Again that was over 35 years ago.
I got some pills that were of herbal nature. Didn't work.Sleeping was a challenge. One ear made a sound like water rushing through a pipe, the other was more faint but both with high frequency.I did the next best thing. I drank wine. It helped to find sleep but i realized i couldn't drink myself to sleep every night but at the same time it was part of my pattern.
The first two years where the roughest i had until i made peace with it.Having an illness no one can see, is hard. Not everyone believes you but i managed to live on. I learned that others had it much worst.
At one point i seen my file at the doctors office with the word suicidal danger or something similar.
I realized that others may taken their lives because of that condition. How blessed i was if there is any form of blessing.I read a lot at that time and found out that there are a lot of famous people that got struck by the same illness.
It made me realize that it isn't the end but that you can live your life somehow and function in the world.When i was at places that were really silent at night, i was frightened because all of the sudden it was something i couldn't process anymore. Silence but my beeping that never turned off.
So i had a radio play at night. Or something else that makes some noise.
30 or so years later, i am still here but the hope that there would be a cure has fated.
There isn't, maybe never will be.
So i had to always try to go on somehow.There were some instances that i should mention.One was, when i showered to hot. No pun.
For some reason, after that, i was hearing my pulse very intensely. I went to the hospital but they couldn't find anything. It went eventually away but since then i don't shower too hot anymore.
The other was, when i went to a doctor that specializes on ears and was told i need an operation of my ear channel. I didn't do it because i didn't want to lose my hearing and i didn't understand why that was needed.
Time passed quick. The worst for me personally is, that i got more of a loner. The joy of life went always because of always hearing this shitty sound.
I married wrong, looking at a divorce at the moment and feel my life is kind of over. Ok, very dramatic but i feel my life is not as i was hoping for.
Through all that time i kept smoking and i know, not healthy but it helped me to cope.I am not an alcoholic but like to drink a glass.
It made me value time and concentrate on things that are to me important. I still love music and i pop in the head-buds. Though more moderately.
Today, i have always some sound when i go to sleep. But there are time i can also sleep without a sound.
I think looking back insomnia was one issue because finding sleep was not easy. I just hope it won't get worst.
One thing i have to cope sometimes is stress which makes it louder and the fact that i can't do some things like concerts. Though i was told by a person to consider singers ears when going out. I haven't bought it yet but will give it a try.
Well, thats my story. Maybe you see yourself in it or just like to hear how it was for someone else.I hope your journey will be better.
I like to read your story.
One more thing i forgot to mention.
My hearing is worst now. In my left ear, i don't hear high frequencies anymore.
So i am going to be losing my hearing eventually perhaps.
I had a problem once with the fire alarm in my flat. It went always off. So once i tried to reset it but since i didn't had ear protection it damaged my ears. It felt like a broken speaker if that makes sense.
Nowadays i have one of the construction headsets just to protect what is left of my ears.

Throwaway account because I need advice before I go mentally insane. There's a guy that I started to talk to in high school. I didn’t know him but he seemed like my type (same religion/spirituality, same ethnicity, tall, good vibes) and so we started to talk because I wanted to get to know him better.
Fast forward to a couple weeks after we start talking, he tells me he loves this other girl that we both know (we all go to the same school). He tells me all of his issues with her and how he’s depressed about her not liking him back and I'm like oh. I never knew he felt this way about her. He said that he would always love her and he just has a feeling that they will end up together.
In my head, I was friendzoned and honestly I was okay with it because we only talked for like 2 weeks before he told me about his past situationship with that girl. We kept texting though and we ended up getting really close (he wasn’t in a situationship during this, he was just grieving the fact that she didn’t like him back).
Fast forward 5 months, we're super close now. But then he completely disappears, no calls, no texts and right before he disappeared he told me he doesn't want to talk to me anymore. That broke me. Then a month later he comes back out of nowhere and apologizes about what he did and says he was in a bad mental state and he just needed to be alone. I was so hesitant to let him back in because I still felt broken from that last conversation. But he apologized so much so I caved and said I guess we can be friends. We went to the same school too, so I'd see him every day regardless, including when he completely stopped talking to me. He also has mental health issues and has been told by doctors to get properly diagnosed but he hasn’t done it.
Then we start talking again and 6 months later he tells me he loves me. I was shocked, because remember he spent the first couple weeks of us talking telling me about how he'd always love that other girl and they were destined to end up together. So in my head I'm like "uhh...are you sure about this?"
We had our big final exams coming up too, so I wasn't trying to start anything romantic that could mess with my studying. I already knew he was capable of sending me on an emotional rollercoaster, and I didn't need that affecting my academics. So I told him I didn’t feel the same way about him, leaving him heartbroken. We still saw each other every day for the next 2 years at school and would text on and off. He told me he would be willing to wait till we were older, but I didn't want to give him false hope and told him I cannot guarantee him anything.
We ended up both graduating and are now at university and at this point, I thought he had moved on. We spoke 4 or 5 times during our freshman year and they were 8+ hour long calls or full days of texting. Now we are in our sophomore year and he tells me he still loves me. I don’t know what to do. I legitimately thought he was over me and moved on. I feel like I'm just shattering his heart into a million pieces at this point, because sometimes when we talk he seems so emotionless, like he's just numb from the pain. Now we speak occasionally every few months and sometimes every few weeks. He just texts me out of the blue or calls me.
But he thinks I don't love him back. The thing is I don't want to let myself love him back, because he has never given me a sense of stability. Since I met him he has always acted on very strong emotions, gets very upset and very angry and that has rubbed onto me. Whenever he would get sad, I would get sad and I felt like I had no control over my own emotions when I was around him. If I was in a happy mood and he was upset about something, he would get angry at me for being happy while he was upset. I also feel like he has no goals in life. He's just cruising along whereas I want someone who's very goal oriented and has a stable job because I am very goal oriented. I have done a lot better than him academically speaking as well. Sometimes I think it is my fault for him not trying because I broke his heart by saying I didn't love him back, but I think that’s a stupid thought and I'm not responsible for him acting the way he does and slacking off.
I also realized that despite him being the same ethnicity, he isn't in touch with his background at all which is very different to me. And due to this, I 100% know that my family will not be fond of his family and my family will not be happy with me dating him. They are aware of him though and know that we used to be close friends. He is also not religious/spiritual. I would say I'm 100 times more religious/spiritual than him. I have met other guys who do align with my goals in terms of stable careers and hardworking, enjoys traveling, and has the same religion/spirituality. But I just have not known these guys as long as I have known him. I feel like we both either have attachment issues or a trauma bond or we are just some dysfunctional soulmates.
A part of me wants to give him a shot, but I don't want to end up trying to mold him into who I want him to be. I don't want to nag him about studying harder at university or tell him to travel just because that's what I'm into. If I do that, he may grow to resent me down the line because he would have only made those changes because I pushed him, not because it's what he genuinely wanted for himself. The truth is, he just doesn't seem to have any goals of his own right now.
Another part of me thinks that if we try to make it romantic, it could completely ruin the relationship we've built over all these years. We're still at a point where we can reach out to each other for help when we really need it. I don't want to risk damaging that bond by giving a romantic relationship a shot, only for it to backfire and make us end up resenting or even hating each other.
I also feel like I'd be doing myself a disservice by giving him a chance. There are certain non-negotiable qualities I need in a partner, and he just doesn't display those. I feel like I'd be settling if I committed to him. I don't want to spend my life having to constantly manage his emotions and push him to take action. I don't want to mother him - I already felt that way when we were very close before.
After all these years, I still have an emotional bond with him though. And he still says he loves me. I have tried no contact multiple times, the longest being around a year. But it just hasn’t worked. The other girl he mentioned in the first two weeks of us talking many years ago is long gone by the way. It's been just me and him in that sense for a long time now. And we have so many mutuals and know the same people, which makes fully separating impossible. But I don’t know if taking the risk and giving him a shot is the way to go or if leaving things as they currently are is the better option.

Hi fellow Singaporeans (little side joke, we just changed PM),
A little context, I'm currently learning at a CDC outpost location. My assigned car has 2 instructors (Instructor A & B), rotating every week.
Instructor A, has been great. Often, if not always, punctual. When I arrived at the pick-up point minutes before the starting time, I often see him chilling in the vehicle waiting. And we will start the lesson early. In addition, he will occasionally teach me things that are "only" supposed to be taught after finishing more lessons into the modules. For example, when I'm in Module 2, our usual change over (ending of lesson) at the bus stop was occupied, he will take this opportunity and instruct me to drive ahead near the pick up point and teach me (vaguely) on how to do a vertical park. Ending the lesson a little early, but never end 10 minutes earlier that the allocated time to end. That is about an average of 90-95 minutes of lesson and 85-90 minutes of me actually driving the car. Which is great, utilizing majority of the full 100 minutes that I'm am supposed to have.
Now, Instructor B is kinda opposite in terms on punctuality. Most of the time, never on time, 5 minutes late while I see the other CDC cars drive off from the pick-up point on time. (Okay lah, 5 mins not that extreme. Close 1 eye). When teaching, kinda by the book. See progress, last lesson cleared S Course, this lesson will do Crank Course and ONLY Crank Course (which is not bad nor wrong either).
But here comes the issue, during his lessons in CDC Circuit at Ubi, I notice he will always instruct me to exit the circuit thru the side gate more than 30 minutes before the lesson supposed to end. Then, a change over before heading back to the pick up point, ending the lesson more than 10 minutes before the end of lesson timing. Even more so, recently, the lessons have been ending earlier and earlier, while being late at the start. At first, 9 then 10, then 12 and more recently 15 minutes before the time the lesson should end. Which means that my lesson is only 80 minutes long and about 75 minutes of me driving the vehicle. If my maths didn't fail me, that's only 3/4 of the full lesson duration for me to drive and only 4/5 of the lesson utilized...
For the record, I'm not being (very) calculative. But when I'm paying close to $100 for every practical lesson, I at least expect that the instructor should maximize as much of the lesson time as possible. In fact, I have been driving slower than usual on the way back to the pick-up point in order to lengthen the duration of my lesson. The recent lesson ended 15 minutes early, and who knows, maybe the next one might end 20 minutes early, and so on...
Is this normal and common with other CDC outpost cars?

(Only Europe, Please) - short note - If you're not into reading or receiving long messages,don't read any further + Please If you don't want to read everything because of my post being too long for you & instead of reading It all - ..skip some parts - find another person to talk to.Let's respect each other and our free time. All people criticizing/making fun of me & other people - will be blocked.Pretty much as people questioning my post and giving me unsolicited advice.I'm not here for any conflicts and I know I can't please everyone - I know I never will.. However It's me who should feel comfortable in my new potential friendship & obviously someone who wants to be my friend - not the whole world.. which is why I don't need any advice from people who don't even want to be a part of my life. The amount of rude people on Reddit always criticizing others and making fun of them is unbelievably high but let me tell you something - NEVER let anyone make choices for you and criticize you only because you're different! Always fight for your dreams and never let anyone make you think you're worthless! It's your life and you're the one deciding what's best for you - If you want to judge me despite not even wanting to talk to me or give me advice better block me! I'm an adult woman and I make all decisions on my own.I'm not trying to "fit in" and be like everyone else - just to get more attention.Accept me for who I am or let go - is my motto.
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Hello guys! 🙂 (read everything before you decide to send me a message) Please send me a message ONLY If you're in the same situation and If your expectations are the same as mine.I want to find like minded people from Europe (Why Europe? Read my post to find out) I'm looking for something permanent (remember - you can feel lonely even If you're surrounded by others - If there's no emotional bond) I'm fed up of meeting people who never make time for me & only text me once or twice a week to ask me "what are you up to?" Out of boredom.I don't want to meet people asking others a million of questions like "what's your favorite movie?" Just to give them one word answer and ask them another question "and music? Your favorite song?" I'm looking for something "deeper" & different 🙂
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What kind of friend would I like to find? Someone to talk to on a daily basis - Someone who needs It & wants It just as much as me
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What are my expectations? I would like to meet someone in a similar situation – why? Because I honestly feel like only a person with the same expectations and a similar outlook on life would get along with me & because I feel more comfortable talking to people like me..Friendless people who need a strong bond - people without friends and partners.. Don't get me wrong…Most people deserve to be happy and It's good to have friends but people who have friends or families in real life are usually more focused on them (which is completely understandable) & have less time for others + I simply don't want to be replaced by anyone..I kind of envy people who can call others , true friends given I don't have an emotional bond with any of my acquaintances. Please send me a message only If you're not In a relationship and don't have friends for the same reasons I've already mentioned before
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Whenever I hear that others have friends I simply get sad because (believe it or not) If I had to choose between 20 people to talk to (acquaintances) and one special person - I'd choose that one special person without any hesitation .
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I also want to talk to others every day because..I want to see someone’s effort & be someone's first choice - not another person to have random conversations with..some people ask me "Why do you want to talk to people from Europe?" Well..Because I would like to see someone I'd get along with - In the far future - face to face :) + I don't want to wait any longer than 6 hours to receive a message - waiting 6 hours to receive a message is more than enough
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I'm by no means criticizing people who don't want to talk to others often / People who really are super busy & People who want to find someone to have unimportant conversations with - I'm aware that not everyone has the same expectations which is why everything you're reading now - is here for a reason :) All I'm suggesting is - I don't want anything temporary and I don't want to be the one always giving more than receiving.Listen people - I used to ignore being..ignored by others..always being just an option to talk to during tough times or moments of boredom.I was too young to realize that I was never important enough for most people that were a part of my life. I don't know who needs to hear this but..No one is too busy to make time for you! People make excuses to avoid others because they prioritize everything and (maybe) everyone..over them. It's true that most people are busy - but It takes only a few seconds to start a conversation (If you're into short messages) and a few minutes (1-10/15) to type a long message . Don't let anyone lie to you.
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Truth is that most people either don't like you enough to make time for you or just simply - feel no need to talk to others often but are they too busy? No..You don't need to send me a message just to ask me and tell me "Do you really want to talk every day? I like long messages but I can't promise to contact you often" If you really are unsure please don't send me a message.I don't need more acquaintances aka people to talk to - occasionally.
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I'm not trying to sound rude but conversations once or twice a week wouldn't be enough for me and I don't need them... Let me tell you one thing – A true friend would never just give up on you for no reason :) It’s always possible to find someone to have a random conversation with – someone willing to send you one message once or twice a week..but..It’s almost impossible to find people willing to make more time for you.
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I’m not asking a busy person to make time for me by changing some plans! Absolutely not! I’m here to find someone who wants to talk daily (throughout the day or maybe even night) of one’s own will.Someone looking for the same kind of connection.Strong friendships are based on mutual support. One of the best things you can do for a friend in need, is just to be there for them when they want to talk.I often see posts from people who always say how friendless they are because they don't feel loved or appreciated by their "friends" remember! A true friend - someone who truly likes you or someone who wants to get to know you - will always find time for you.
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I'm not interested in small talk/short messages - I love long and meaningful conversations. It's so easy to find someone who loves abbreviations and questions like "How are you?" How was your day? Or what are you interested in? But so hard/almost impossible to find a person who knows how to keep a conversation going & show others some effort.Building and maintaining friendships takes time and effort.Never allow pursuits or possessions to become bigger priorities than your relations with other people.Close friendships are so important to us because they are so difficult to form + Having friends can help you feel as if you belong to something that brings purpose and connection to your life
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• I do NOT respond to any „Hey,hmu” or „u want to talk?” type of messages (super short messages or messages full of abbreviations – I literally can’t stand abbreviations and acronyms in text messages) ALL messages full of abbreviations will immediately be ignored.I also don't like it when people ignore everything I say in private messages just to focus on a random question or? When they start talking only about themselves and don't ever ask me anything. I love conversations with people referring to everything I say...I want everything I say and do - to be reciprocated
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• No NSFW profiles (checking mental health subreddits NOT included as I'm a huge empath and always try to understand others) - Please! I'm not looking for anyone to flirt with and I'm not looking for a partner either. I always check people's profiles (even comment history) - To avoid guys, trying to get inappropriate pictures from adult women or? flirt with them + I don't want to see you with no clothes on so If you're on Reddit only because you want others to see what's underneath your clothes - I'm not for you! I just simply don't want to see any s e x related activity on your profile If you want to talk to me.
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• If both of us (you and I) are from the same country (I live in a non-English speaking country) - I want to communicate with you in our first language! No - Not because I don't understand English - because as you see - I do. Why then? English is simply overrated and people don't appreciate other languages as much as they should. So.. If we're from the same country and you want to talk only in English (which is quite common on reddit) - Talk to someone else. I just don't want to talk to a person from the same country as mine - in a foreign language as It's just something I don't understand even If all you want is to improve your language skills
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• Please only adult people 18-36 (age range) It doesn't matter to me If you're younger or older than me (as long as you're not underage) So.. don't worry! I just want to have discussions with emotionally mature people :)
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• I don’t respond to messages I don’t find interesting even If they're long - If after receiving and reading your message I don't feel comfortable or think "I wouldn't get along with him/her" I simply do not respond (what I’m suggesting is that I don’t always respond to someone’s first or second message because..sometimes you just know If you’d get along with someone or not- I’d never ignore anyone after days or weeks of daily conversations though) just because I don’t want to do anything forcefully & because I don’t want to lead anyone on. I read all messages but I definitely don't respond to all of them! I want to make it clear because I don't want to be accused of not responding and not reading people's messages! - Some people don't message me back as well and even If It's a bit disappointing I'm ok with that! - as long as there's no emotional bond - Not responding to someone's first or second message Is completely OK! If people think they wouldn't get along with a stranger - is there a reason to start a conversation? I don't think so. I can't stand being ignored after days or weeks of daily conversations and seeing people changing priorities over time.. but that's something different - something I don't want to go through ever again for real. If I'm really interested in someone's message it's impossible to hear from me "I'm too busy" because I know myself and If I had no time for others - I wouldn't be here. I don't want to pretend someone I'm not and always try to find some cheap excuses to avoid others. (unlike most people who don't want to talk to others)
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• It would be better If you guys were into emojis - like me - to describe your emotions In text messages. Two emojis - 🙂 and 🙁 are completely enough! I just don't like emotionless conversations.I also don't like it when people say "yeah" or yea"as it sounds dismissively. First impression Is everything to me! I want to see your kindness even in a text message - Emojis are very helpful to express your emotions.I don't want to meet people who say "crying Is a weakness" - It's OK to cry even If you're a guy!
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• I want to talk on reddit first (just to make sure If I'd get along with you) before moving to Discord or some other app
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• I would rather talk to a homebody - not another person who always has something to do as people who are very busy don't even have time for daily conversations
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• If you're another person interested only in "childish conversations" such as "HEYOOO! I'M BORED! Ya like Pizza or cheese? xDDDD 🤣" I'm begging you! Don't send me a message.I'm not a child anymore and such messages don't make me smile or laugh.I'm looking for someone interested In serious discussions - not another person just seeking some entertainment out of boredom . Conversations with sarcastic undertones (even when It comes to some emojis such as 🤣😂) are not for me. Your typing style matters to me! Why? when It comes to online conversations with someone new - It's not always possible to know If someone Is laughing at you.. or with you. Let me tell you something else! Jokes about cancer, disabilities and death are UNACCEPTABLE to me. If you find joy In someone else's misfortune you are not a person I want to know.
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• Time response matters to me a lot! I would never ask anyone to be online all day long and I'm NOT asking any of you for any instant messaging as I'm someone who would rather wait an hour or two to receive a proper response instead of some short and pointless messages but I'm interested only in daily conversations and I don't want to wait any longer than 6 hours to get a message from you.I don't need unbelievably long messages either! Messages as long as the second paragraph of my post - are completely enough. If you like longer messages? you can send me a longer message, but If you want to send me one word or one sentence as a response to my post - don't expect a reaction from me. I don't want to come across as rude - I just don't want to waste your time
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• I'm strongly AGAINST picking on people you don't even want to chat with - and making fun of them! I can't stand people who criticize others publicly or make fun of them! (only because they disagree with someone they don't even know) There's no place In my life for someone using Reddit, to hurt other people
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Why can’t you see any of my hobbies listed down below? Because what really matters to me is..who you are (If you’re honest, talkative ,understanding, caring and trustworthy – for example) just simply – It matters to me what you’re like! not what you like.Don’t get me wrong – you can tell me what your hobbies are but from my point of view - people's hobbies are important - If you want to find a gaming buddy or If you want to meet someone to hang out with in real life and..go bowling for example.What most people seem to care about are other people's passions – I don’t. I get along with other people despite having completely different hobbies but I absolutely don’t get along with people way different than me (different expectations and outlook on life – way different sense of humor or personality traits – It’s just an example) It doesn't make ANY DIFFERENCE to me If you're a gamer or? Someone interested in photography! It doesn't make any difference - > as long as you're talkative and kind and If you also want to find someone willing to stay in your life..for good - But If you're into small talk and all you want is to...type and receive super short messages or If you're here only because you're bored and don't know what to do + If you're a very sarcastic person - I'm definitely not for you! I don't get along with overly sarcastic people turning everything into a joke. Friendships should be natural – not forced. I wouldn't get along with people who laugh at everything.. In my opinion most people are way too sarcastic.. It's quite sad... Sarcasm can also be another form of passive-aggressive behavior.
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People who want to be to friends should feel comfortable and have something in common. No - not necessarily a similar taste in music or movies but something else..Most friendships don't fizzle out because of people not having the same hobbies but..because they just simply have different expectations when It comes to something important.I'm not here out of boredom and trust me - I'm not here to meet as many people as possible.I choose quality over quantity.I highly value myself and my time & Sometimes one person but a person who makes you feel comfortable and understood - is more than enough :) We ALL can choose what kind of people we’d like to talk to and maybe even become really good friends with and I? I don’t want anyone to be disappointed.We all have some expectations after all.I know that people don't have to talk as often as possible in order to become friends but I'm interested only in daily conversations. If you really need someone to talk to due to loneliness and If you have time to talk to me daily (throughout the day and maybe even night) I always make time for others.I'm literally always available.I could even stay up all night long only to talk to someone important to me. I’m ready to commit but only If there’s some chemistry between me and someone else.I don’t do anything forcefully.
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If you want to talk to me tell me your story - tell me why you're here, what kind of friend would you like to meet :) Et cetera.Such messages are way more interesting to me than...someone's long list of hobbies. I know! It's unusual on reddit but I don't make friends based on hobbies..I want to meet someone with the same mindset as mine to finally feel understood and get close to someone new. You can share your problems with me - I absolutely don't mind "complaining" as I've been through a lot in my life.What do people usually tell you when you tell them that something's wrong? "Don't complain" or "Life's not over yet - one day you'll be happy" or "There are worse situations than yours" and..obviously "Find a therapist" Life's not a fairytale and sometimes things don't go as planned.Emotions shouldn't be bottled up.I'm sick of people always telling others "everything's gonna be ok" move on " & more..Trust me people - not everyone wants to hear "Just believe in yourself and everything's gonna be ok" Some people take it as reassurance - but others? They would rather hear something different 🙁Imagine being told that things will be okay, only for them to get worse..Do you guys know why telling someone "everything's gonna be ok" Is wrong? Because you can't see the future.
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You can't guarantee others that one day they'll finally be happy + when It comes to social interactions - We're responsible only for ourselves - not others & as you guys know people let us down quite often (sometimes even when there's no reason) so instead of telling people how they should move on, forget everything and be happy or asking them to find a therapist - be there for them! Always be willing to listen to them If you really like them or want to get to know them & don't suggest everyone in a tough situation to find a therapist because even the best therapist won't ever replace a true friend + It's quite normal to be disappointed If people always do something to hurt you. Sharing your hardships with other people in a very similar situation or exactly the same one - is VERY helpful If the other person understands you & wants to start all over by just letting it all out! Feeling emotional support instead of always hearing some "positive quotes" or someone saying "Stop complaining let's talk about something else - Is very important! "Everyone needs a shoulder to cry on. I appreciate sensitive people who always try to understand others. If after hearing a sad story all you want to say is "forget the past and move on" you're not for me. It's important to be a good listener and provide emotional support to others
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Please - If you're a completely different person than the described type of person I'm looking for (If you love abbreviations,If you don't need a stable friendship, If you're sarcastic and quiet) or If you simply disagree with my post - don't force yourself to send me a message.I want my new potential friendship to be natural which is why I want you to contact me only If your needs are the same - I don't want you to pretend someone you're not - only to please me - Pretending to be someone you're not - is the worst.I want to finally be happy again & find someone "always" wanting to talk - sending me random pictures throughout the day - food pictures or pictures of some animals. What is the most important to me? I want to find people who value online friendships as much as they would value real life ones as there's another human being on the other side
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I know It's possible to meet people with exactly the same expectations as mine but It's just not easy because most people are Interested In temporary and entertaining conversations. People like me are just "different" I really want to finally find someone who loves emojis as much as I do.. someone who loves sweet, warm and serious discussions at the same time. Emojis really do - change conversations 😊

Throwaway account because I need advice before I go mentally insane. There's a guy that I started to talk to in high school. I didn’t know him but he seemed like my type (same religion/spirituality, same ethnicity, tall, good vibes) and so we started to talk because I wanted to get to know him better.
Fast forward to a couple weeks after we start talking, he tells me he loves this other girl that we both know (we all go to the same school). He tells me all of his issues with her and how he’s depressed about her not liking him back and I'm like oh. I never knew he felt this way about her. He said that he would always love her and he just has a feeling that they will end up together.
In my head, I was friendzoned and honestly I was okay with it because we only talked for like 2 weeks before he told me about his past situationship with that girl. We kept texting though and we ended up getting really close (he wasn’t in a situationship during this, he was just grieving the fact that she didn’t like him back).
Fast forward 5 months, we're super close now. But then he completely disappears, no calls, no texts and right before he disappeared he told me he doesn't want to talk to me anymore. That broke me. Then a month later he comes back out of nowhere and apologizes about what he did and says he was in a bad mental state and he just needed to be alone. I was so hesitant to let him back in because I still felt broken from that last conversation. But he apologized so much so I caved and said I guess we can be friends. We went to the same school too, so I'd see him every day regardless, including when he completely stopped talking to me. He also has mental health issues and has been told by doctors to get properly diagnosed but he hasn’t done it.
Then we start talking again and 6 months later he tells me he loves me. I was shocked, because remember he spent the first couple weeks of us talking telling me about how he'd always love that other girl and they were destined to end up together. So in my head I'm like "uhh...are you sure about this?"
We had our big final exams coming up too, so I wasn't trying to start anything romantic that could mess with my studying. I already knew he was capable of sending me on an emotional rollercoaster, and I didn't need that affecting my academics. So I told him I didn’t feel the same way about him, leaving him heartbroken. We still saw each other every day for the next 2 years at school and would text on and off. He told me he would be willing to wait till we were older, but I didn't want to give him false hope and told him I cannot guarantee him anything.
We ended up both graduating and are now at university and at this point, I thought he had moved on. We spoke 4 or 5 times during our freshman year and they were 8+ hour long calls or full days of texting. Now we are in our sophomore year and he tells me he still loves me. I don’t know what to do. I legitimately thought he was over me and moved on. I feel like I'm just shattering his heart into a million pieces at this point, because sometimes when we talk he seems so emotionless, like he's just numb from the pain. Now we speak occasionally every few months and sometimes every few weeks. He just texts me out of the blue or calls me.
But he thinks I don't love him back. The thing is I don't want to let myself love him back, because he has never given me a sense of stability. Since I met him he has always acted on very strong emotions, gets very upset and very angry and that has rubbed onto me. Whenever he would get sad, I would get sad and I felt like I had no control over my own emotions when I was around him. If I was in a happy mood and he was upset about something, he would get angry at me for being happy while he was upset. I also feel like he has no goals in life. He's just cruising along whereas I want someone who's very goal oriented and has a stable job because I am very goal oriented. I have done a lot better than him academically speaking as well. Sometimes I think it is my fault for him not trying because I broke his heart by saying I didn't love him back, but I think that’s a stupid thought and I'm not responsible for him acting the way he does and slacking off.
I also realized that despite him being the same ethnicity, he isn't in touch with his background at all which is very different to me. And due to this, I 100% know that my family will not be fond of his family and my family will not be happy with me dating him. They are aware of him though and know that we used to be close friends. He is also not religious/spiritual. I would say I'm 100 times more religious/spiritual than him. I have met other guys who do align with my goals in terms of stable careers and hardworking, enjoys traveling, and has the same religion/spirituality. But I just have not known these guys as long as I have known him. I feel like we both either have attachment issues or a trauma bond or we are just some dysfunctional soulmates.
A part of me wants to give him a shot, but I don't want to end up trying to mold him into who I want him to be. I don't want to nag him about studying harder at university or tell him to travel just because that's what I'm into. If I do that, he may grow to resent me down the line because he would have only made those changes because I pushed him, not because it's what he genuinely wanted for himself. The truth is, he just doesn't seem to have any goals of his own right now.
Another part of me thinks that if we try to make it romantic, it could completely ruin the relationship we've built over all these years. We're still at a point where we can reach out to each other for help when we really need it. I don't want to risk damaging that bond by giving a romantic relationship a shot, only for it to backfire and make us end up resenting or even hating each other.
I also feel like I'd be doing myself a disservice by giving him a chance. There are certain non-negotiable qualities I need in a partner, and he just doesn't display those. I feel like I'd be settling if I committed to him. I don't want to spend my life having to constantly manage his emotions and push him to take action. I don't want to mother him - I already felt that way when we were very close before.
After all these years, I still have an emotional bond with him though. And he still says he loves me. I have tried no contact multiple times, the longest being around a year. But it just hasn’t worked. The other girl he mentioned in the first two weeks of us talking many years ago is long gone by the way. It's been just me and him in that sense for a long time now. And we have so many mutuals and know the same people, which makes fully separating impossible. But I don’t know if taking the risk and giving him a shot is the way to go or if leaving things as they currently are is the better option.

My husband loves me, and he loves Sadie. But mainly, he's tired. And so eventually Sadie got her rat. Honey lived happily in Sadie's room in his 3-tiered Rat Palace, and every day I would take time out from soothing the infant and wrestling with the 3-year-old to play with the rat, something the pet store warned I had to do if I wanted to socialize him. 

(Only Europe, Please) - short note - If you're not into reading or receiving long messages,don't read any further + Please If you don't want to read everything because of my post being too long for you & instead of reading It all - ..skip some parts - find another person to talk to.Let's respect each other and our free time. All people criticizing/making fun of me & other people - will be blocked.Pretty much as people questioning my post and giving me unsolicited advice.I'm not here for any conflicts and I know I can't please everyone - I know I never will.. However It's me who should feel comfortable in my new potential friendship & obviously someone who wants to be my friend - not the whole world.. which is why I don't need any advice from people who don't even want to be a part of my life. The amount of rude people on Reddit always criticizing others and making fun of them is unbelievably high but let me tell you something - NEVER let anyone make choices for you and criticize you only because you're different! Always fight for your dreams and never let anyone make you think you're worthless! It's your life and you're the one deciding what's best for you - If you want to judge me despite not even wanting to talk to me or give me advice better block me! I'm an adult woman and I make all decisions on my own.I'm not trying to "fit in" and be like everyone else - just to get more attention.Accept me for who I am or let go - is my motto.
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Hello guys! 🙂 (read everything before you decide to send me a message) Please send me a message ONLY If you're in the same situation and If your expectations are the same as mine.I want to find like minded people from Europe (Why Europe? Read my post to find out) I'm looking for something permanent (remember - you can feel lonely even If you're surrounded by others - If there's no emotional bond) I'm fed up of meeting people who never make time for me & only text me once or twice a week to ask me "what are you up to?" Out of boredom.I don't want to meet people asking others a million of questions like "what's your favorite movie?" Just to give them one word answer and ask them another question "and music? Your favorite song?" I'm looking for something "deeper" & different 🙂
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What kind of friend would I like to find? Someone to talk to on a daily basis - Someone who needs It & wants It just as much as me
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Whenever I hear that others have friends I simply get sad because (believe it or not) If I had to choose between 20 people to talk to (acquaintances) and one special person - I'd choose that one special person without any hesitation .
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I'm by no means criticizing people who don't want to talk to others often / People who really are super busy & People who want to find someone to have unimportant conversations with - I'm aware that not everyone has the same expectations which is why everything you're reading now - is here for a reason :) All I'm suggesting is - I don't want anything temporary and I don't want to be the one always giving more than receiving.Listen people - I used to ignore being..ignored by others..always being just an option to talk to during tough times or moments of boredom.I was too young to realize that I was never important enough for most people that were a part of my life. I don't know who needs to hear this but..No one is too busy to make time for you! People make excuses to avoid others because they prioritize everything and (maybe) everyone..over them. It's true that most people are busy - but It takes only a few seconds to start a conversation (If you're into short messages) and a few minutes (1-10/15) to type a long message . Don't let anyone lie to you.
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Truth is that most people either don't like you enough to make time for you or just simply - feel no need to talk to others often but are they too busy? No..You don't need to send me a message just to ask me and tell me "Do you really want to talk every day? I like long messages but I can't promise to contact you often" If you really are unsure please don't send me a message.I don't need more acquaintances aka people to talk to - occasionally.
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I’m not asking a busy person to make time for me by changing some plans! Absolutely not! I’m here to find someone who wants to talk daily (throughout the day or maybe even night) of one’s own will.Someone looking for the same kind of connection.Strong friendships are based on mutual support. One of the best things you can do for a friend in need, is just to be there for them when they want to talk.I often see posts from people who always say how friendless they are because they don't feel loved or appreciated by their "friends" remember! A true friend - someone who truly likes you or someone who wants to get to know you - will always find time for you.
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I'm not interested in small talk/short messages - I love long and meaningful conversations. It's so easy to find someone who loves abbreviations and questions like "How are you?" How was your day? Or what are you interested in? But so hard/almost impossible to find a person who knows how to keep a conversation going & show others some effort.Building and maintaining friendships takes time and effort.Never allow pursuits or possessions to become bigger priorities than your relations with other people.Close friendships are so important to us because they are so difficult to form + Having friends can help you feel as if you belong to something that brings purpose and connection to your life
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• I do NOT respond to any „Hey,hmu” or „u want to talk?” type of messages (super short messages or messages full of abbreviations – I literally can’t stand abbreviations and acronyms in text messages) ALL messages full of abbreviations will immediately be ignored.I also don't like it when people ignore everything I say in private messages just to focus on a random question or? When they start talking only about themselves and don't ever ask me anything. I love conversations with people referring to everything I say...I want everything I say and do - to be reciprocated
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• No NSFW profiles (checking mental health subreddits NOT included as I'm a huge empath and always try to understand others) - Please! I'm not looking for anyone to flirt with and I'm not looking for a partner either. I always check people's profiles (even comment history) - To avoid guys, trying to get inappropriate pictures from adult women or? flirt with them + I don't want to see you with no clothes on so If you're on Reddit only because you want others to see what's underneath your clothes - I'm not for you! I just simply don't want to see any s e x related activity on your profile If you want to talk to me.
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• If both of us (you and I) are from the same country (I live in a non-English speaking country) - I want to communicate with you in our first language! No - Not because I don't understand English - because as you see - I do. Why then? English is simply overrated and people don't appreciate other languages as much as they should. So.. If we're from the same country and you want to talk only in English (which is quite common on reddit) - Talk to someone else. I just don't want to talk to a person from the same country as mine - in a foreign language as It's just something I don't understand even If all you want is to improve your language skills
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• Please only adult people 18-36 (age range) It doesn't matter to me If you're younger or older than me (as long as you're not underage) So.. don't worry! I just want to have discussions with emotionally mature people :)
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• I don’t respond to messages I don’t find interesting even If they're long - If after receiving and reading your message I don't feel comfortable or think "I wouldn't get along with him/her" I simply do not respond (what I’m suggesting is that I don’t always respond to someone’s first or second message because..sometimes you just know If you’d get along with someone or not- I’d never ignore anyone after days or weeks of daily conversations though) just because I don’t want to do anything forcefully & because I don’t want to lead anyone on. I read all messages but I definitely don't respond to all of them! I want to make it clear because I don't want to be accused of not responding and not reading people's messages! - Some people don't message me back as well and even If It's a bit disappointing I'm ok with that! - as long as there's no emotional bond - Not responding to someone's first or second message Is completely OK! If people think they wouldn't get along with a stranger - is there a reason to start a conversation? I don't think so. I can't stand being ignored after days or weeks of daily conversations and seeing people changing priorities over time.. but that's something different - something I don't want to go through ever again for real. If I'm really interested in someone's message it's impossible to hear from me "I'm too busy" because I know myself and If I had no time for others - I wouldn't be here. I don't want to pretend someone I'm not and always try to find some cheap excuses to avoid others. (unlike most people who don't want to talk to others)
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• It would be better If you guys were into emojis - like me - to describe your emotions In text messages. Two emojis - 🙂 and 🙁 are completely enough! I just don't like emotionless conversations.I also don't like it when people say "yeah" or yea"as it sounds dismissively. First impression Is everything to me! I want to see your kindness even in a text message - Emojis are very helpful to express your emotions.I don't want to meet people who say "crying Is a weakness" - It's OK to cry even If you're a guy!
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• I want to talk on reddit first (just to make sure If I'd get along with you) before moving to Discord or some other app
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• I would rather talk to a homebody - not another person who always has something to do as people who are very busy don't even have time for daily conversations
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• If you're another person interested only in "childish conversations" such as "HEYOOO! I'M BORED! Ya like Pizza or cheese? xDDDD 🤣" I'm begging you! Don't send me a message.I'm not a child anymore and such messages don't make me smile or laugh.I'm looking for someone interested In serious discussions - not another person just seeking some entertainment out of boredom . Conversations with sarcastic undertones (even when It comes to some emojis such as 🤣😂) are not for me. Your typing style matters to me! Why? when It comes to online conversations with someone new - It's not always possible to know If someone Is laughing at you.. or with you. Let me tell you something else! Jokes about cancer, disabilities and death are UNACCEPTABLE to me. If you find joy In someone else's misfortune you are not a person I want to know.
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• Time response matters to me a lot! I would never ask anyone to be online all day long and I'm NOT asking any of you for any instant messaging as I'm someone who would rather wait an hour or two to receive a proper response instead of some short and pointless messages but I'm interested only in daily conversations and I don't want to wait any longer than 6 hours to get a message from you.I don't need unbelievably long messages either! Messages as long as the second paragraph of my post - are completely enough. If you like longer messages? you can send me a longer message, but If you want to send me one word or one sentence as a response to my post - don't expect a reaction from me. I don't want to come across as rude - I just don't want to waste your time
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• I'm strongly AGAINST picking on people you don't even want to chat with - and making fun of them! I can't stand people who criticize others publicly or make fun of them! (only because they disagree with someone they don't even know) There's no place In my life for someone using Reddit, to hurt other people
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• I'm not into foul language and I definitely don't want to talk to people who swear a lot...
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• I want to meet someone willing to call me In the future, someone spontaneously sending me pictures of animals or food, et cetera. I want more than just text conversations.. 🌻
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Why can’t you see any of my hobbies listed down below? Because what really matters to me is..who you are (If you’re honest, talkative ,understanding, caring and trustworthy – for example) just simply – It matters to me what you’re like! not what you like.Don’t get me wrong – you can tell me what your hobbies are but from my point of view - people's hobbies are important - If you want to find a gaming buddy or If you want to meet someone to hang out with in real life and..go bowling for example.What most people seem to care about are other people's passions – I don’t. I get along with other people despite having completely different hobbies but I absolutely don’t get along with people way different than me (different expectations and outlook on life – way different sense of humor or personality traits – It’s just an example) It doesn't make ANY DIFFERENCE to me If you're a gamer or? Someone interested in photography! It doesn't make any difference - > as long as you're talkative and kind and If you also want to find someone willing to stay in your life..for good - But If you're into small talk and all you want is to...type and receive super short messages or If you're here only because you're bored and don't know what to do + If you're a very sarcastic person - I'm definitely not for you! I don't get along with overly sarcastic people turning everything into a joke. Friendships should be natural – not forced. I wouldn't get along with people who laugh at everything.. In my opinion most people are way too sarcastic.. It's quite sad... Sarcasm can also be another form of passive-aggressive behavior.
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People who want to be to friends should feel comfortable and have something in common. No - not necessarily a similar taste in music or movies but something else..Most friendships don't fizzle out because of people not having the same hobbies but..because they just simply have different expectations when It comes to something important.I'm not here out of boredom and trust me - I'm not here to meet as many people as possible.I choose quality over quantity.I highly value myself and my time & Sometimes one person but a person who makes you feel comfortable and understood - is more than enough :) We ALL can choose what kind of people we’d like to talk to and maybe even become really good friends with and I? I don’t want anyone to be disappointed.We all have some expectations after all.I know that people don't have to talk as often as possible in order to become friends but I'm interested only in daily conversations. If you really need someone to talk to due to loneliness and If you have time to talk to me daily (throughout the day and maybe even night) I always make time for others.I'm literally always available.I could even stay up all night long only to talk to someone important to me. I’m ready to commit but only If there’s some chemistry between me and someone else.I don’t do anything forcefully.
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If you want to talk to me tell me your story - tell me why you're here, what kind of friend would you like to meet :) Et cetera.Such messages are way more interesting to me than...someone's long list of hobbies. I know! It's unusual on reddit but I don't make friends based on hobbies..I want to meet someone with the same mindset as mine to finally feel understood and get close to someone new. You can share your problems with me - I absolutely don't mind "complaining" as I've been through a lot in my life.What do people usually tell you when you tell them that something's wrong? "Don't complain" or "Life's not over yet - one day you'll be happy" or "There are worse situations than yours" and..obviously "Find a therapist" Life's not a fairytale and sometimes things don't go as planned.Emotions shouldn't be bottled up.I'm sick of people always telling others "everything's gonna be ok" move on " & more..Trust me people - not everyone wants to hear "Just believe in yourself and everything's gonna be ok" Some people take it as reassurance - but others? They would rather hear something different 🙁Imagine being told that things will be okay, only for them to get worse..Do you guys know why telling someone "everything's gonna be ok" Is wrong? Because you can't see the future.
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You can't guarantee others that one day they'll finally be happy + when It comes to social interactions - We're responsible only for ourselves - not others & as you guys know people let us down quite often (sometimes even when there's no reason) so instead of telling people how they should move on, forget everything and be happy or asking them to find a therapist - be there for them! Always be willing to listen to them If you really like them or want to get to know them & don't suggest everyone in a tough situation to find a therapist because even the best therapist won't ever replace a true friend + It's quite normal to be disappointed If people always do something to hurt you. Sharing your hardships with other people in a very similar situation or exactly the same one - is VERY helpful If the other person understands you & wants to start all over by just letting it all out! Feeling emotional support instead of always hearing some "positive quotes" or someone saying "Stop complaining let's talk about something else - Is very important! "Everyone needs a shoulder to cry on. I appreciate sensitive people who always try to understand others. If after hearing a sad story all you want to say is "forget the past and move on" you're not for me. It's important to be a good listener and provide emotional support to others
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Please - If you're a completely different person than the described type of person I'm looking for (If you love abbreviations,If you don't need a stable friendship, If you're sarcastic and quiet) or If you simply disagree with my post - don't force yourself to send me a message.I want my new potential friendship to be natural which is why I want you to contact me only If your needs are the same - I don't want you to pretend someone you're not - only to please me - Pretending to be someone you're not - is the worst.I want to finally be happy again & find someone "always" wanting to talk - sending me random pictures throughout the day - food pictures or pictures of some animals. What is the most important to me? I want to find people who value online friendships as much as they would value real life ones as there's another human being on the other side
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I know It's possible to meet people with exactly the same expectations as mine but It's just not easy because most people are Interested In temporary and entertaining conversations. People like me are just "different" I really want to finally find someone who loves emojis as much as I do.. someone who loves sweet, warm and serious discussions at the same time. Emojis really do - change conversations 😊

Almost everything that’s been changed or added in the last 6 months has been designed to make the player feel like if they don’t make a purchase, they’ll likely have to wait months for that variant or card.
When I first started playing I was collecting cool variants indiscriminately. Obviously that’s a waste of currency, so I only focused on Peach, Venomized, Artgerm, Rian, and Inkpulp. Not only does it take forever for the variants you want to show up, but even focusing on a few doesn’t really help. Now I get Peach 90% of the time, and it still took like 5 months to finish a deck, ofc without the cosmetics I like.
Heck, before they added customization, I had no incentive to spend credits excessively, and got pretty smart about keeping a huge stockpile with minimal spending.
Most days I go to the shop and see like 2 overpriced bundles, claim my free credits, see some cool variants that aren’t worth my free gold, and skip over the rare reasonably priced bundle, since it just looks stupid next to the $99 bundle. As if I wouldn’t think I’d be equally/proportionally as screwed as a customer when I get my tokens and boosters.
The spotlight system just made me skip more cards I would’ve otherwise tried if Second Dinner didn’t make it painfully clear that if I spend my currency, there’s a high chance of regretting it within a month, which is why they even took efforts to impede datamined spotlight schedules. Wouldn’t want you skipping 3 weeks because week 4 is a smarter choice.
All of this FOMO has just conditioned me to stop expecting anything reasonable, spend less, scrutinize every bundle, etc. I have a greater fear of wasting my currency than I do of missing out on a card. Which is honestly how it should be I guess. It’s just funny since it’s not their intention.
Overall, I still enjoy the game, but I went from playing 3 hours a day to like 3 hours a week. A lot of these grievances could be reduced if FOMO wasn’t so deeply ingrained. All my friends are falling off this game because missing a few weeks now and then derails the experience.
This system works for Fortnite, which has secured their popularity with children and their economy AKA parents wallets, but the amount of money Snap is asking for, I’d wager it’s an adult demographic supporting the economy, and I don’t know how long they expect adults to keep up with FOMO. Everyone has jobs, emergencies, weddings, etc. You can hop on Fortnite after a year and at worst you’ll have to wait for a Spider-Gwen skin for 6 months, but Snap? Good luck. Sure, you can still have fun, but how many months are you willing to wait to get the cards you need? If you took a month off and missed 2 cards you really wanted on top of 2 you were already missing, is 2 months worth it? 4 months?
Idk. Just food for thought. I think eventually they’re going to start giving out a lot for free when the player base starts dwindling. If they want to practice FOMO, there’s still a way to be consumer friendly. I really wish they’d have digital exclusive variants from comics, in-theater movies, Disney+. That’d be a cool way to drum up hype and future sales, while making it achievable and rewarding.
Here’s hoping when Pokémon Snap—, I mean Pocket comes out, that they really embarrass Second Dinner.
tl;dr: Marvel Snap is an ice cream truck that circles the block 3 times a day, and when you go outside they want $15 for an ice cream every day except Monday. How badly do you want that ice cream?
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Are you a gamer? Want to take out on normies, sexhavers, and foids that infest what used to be OUR hobby? Those of us born in the 80's will remember a time when being a gamer was scorned. We were bullied, chastised, and shunned from our peer groups for enjoying video games. This would last up until the mid to late 90's when the media finally started pushing games to "dudebros" and eventually women in the early to mid 2000's. Finally in the past 10 years we've seen an infestation of shitskins and third worlders completely flooding everything. I refuse to lay down and die. I will stand and fight till the bitter end.
It's time to turn the tables and make them suffer as they made us suffer, both in life and the virtual world. (Legally and within the confines of the game, this is NOT a guide to IRL ruinate or anything of the sort.) Some of this stuff isn't allowed if you're an EU gamer.
First off, you're going to have to let go of playing video games to "win" or acquire virtual greed. You're going to need a new mindset. The mindset of a sadistic psychopath hellbent on extracting keks from anyone and everyone deemed not one of us. No more giving a fuck about your KDA, w/l ratio, or "following the rules" or the "meta" of what other players expect you to do. You are a gamer going your own way, regardless of what the groupthink expects or wants. If the game is F2P or you're a richfag or jewtuber who can get free games from devs then being banned is part of the fun, and is expected of you. If you cannot afford to buy back into games or are too technologically retarded to change your IP and spoof your hardware to get around bans in F2P games then you'll have to tread carefully.
Here's the part where I instruct you on how to fuck over these sexhavers for your own sadistic pleasure. After all they've denied us a life worth living in the real world and treat us like lepers. It's time they feel uncomfortable in OUR space. Feel free to add to any of these methods or pitch in ideas.
Foid infested "cozy" games
Shit like "Animal Crossing" or "Palia." Anything that lets you decorate and grow shit is a "cozy" game and women infest these games more than any other. It's literally a containment game of sorts to keep them out of other shit. To fuck with women in these games all you have to do is steal resources, build ugly and annoying things within the game world, be rude via emotes and text chat, and use emotes to make it look like your character is grabbing their tits or eating them out. I once did /eat to some slag girl gamer in WoW Vanilla 20 years ago and when I reverse searched my name she was bitching about it on reddit and remembered my characters exact name 4-5 years ago. She's STILL SEETHING about it 15 years later. This is what you want. Virtual RAPE. Many foids stream these types of games, and it's incredibly easy to get under their skin. Make the ugliest characters you possibly can and always stand in their camera. Stalk them in-game. Uglify the world around them. Spam emotes. The world is your oyster.
MMORPG's
World of Warcraft, or anything else really. Gank them. Corpse camp them. Dispel their world buffs. Emote spam sexually assault them. Use a high level or highly geared character to camp low level quest zones and steal mobs, resources, and kill low level players. Stream snipe them till they hide their screen with nothingness. Join their guilds and steal their resources after faking being a Chad. Get the entire guild wiped, blame it on the women healers. Play a vital role and underperform / disconnect at pivotal moments and blame a thunderstorm. Make everyone wait on your actions, but not enough to get gkicked. Openly challenge sex havers lifestyles in discord voice calls and call them out on their privileged bullshit. (Genetics, riches, went to a nice school, raised by good parents, etc.) Use every underbelly evil shithead tactic that these fuckers used towards us during our childhoods and young adult lives. Roleplay it up and lie about your IRL self to make them feel inferior. Exploit early and often, and cash out via RMT before you get banned or when you quit for some NEET bucks. If the game has a "random queue" system you can wipe endless groups or refuse to participate and hold entire game lobbies hostage.
FPS
Overwatch, Counter Strike, etc. Simply play terribly in ranked matches. Don't assist the team. Mic spam. Play vital roles like tank or healer then simply don't heal and tell them openly on the mic to beg if they want heals. Refuse to play at all if a woman is in voice chat. Verbally accost every white knight that defends her. Remember, they're most likely wagies who have to go to work tomorrow and you're most likely a NEET who has infinite free time. Remind them of this. (Even if it's not true.) In FPS with one life, openly tell the enemy team where your team mates are camping. Use aimbots, wall hacks, and other cheats to make both sides pissed off. If you're doing well gloat. If you're playing shittily, then call them a loser or a nerd. Flashbang your own team. Drop objective items as far as possible. Die with expensive guns (Auto sniper in CS triggers normies.) and make sure the enemy acquires them. Acquire or goad team mates into team killing you to 2 week ban them.
MOBA / RTS
League, Dota 2, Age of Empires, and other slop. Never go to the "meta" lane. (AD carry / support normally go bottom lane, but you're gonna always go middle, and steal your own teams jungle.) Never build the right items. Feed the enemy team, kill steal your own. Never push lanes or objectives. Ping spam. Keep text chats very "safe" to avoid bans. When a team mate dies, some ping spam and a "?" goes a long way. Never agree to surrender, unless your team is winning. Always report everyone who rages on you. Play characters that have statistically low win rates or are extra annoying. Use a lag switch to delay and hold entire lobbies hostage (RTS). Wall in your own team. Use retarded high risk low reward build orders. Be completely useless all of the time and never join team fights except after everyone's dead then schizo gaslight them that they were the ones not helping.
Survival, Crafting / Building Games
Minecraft, and shit like it. Become insanely super godlike good at the game. Learn all the metas, muscle memory, speed run tech, and master PvP. Join reddit servers and ruinate months of "cozy crafting" with max enchanted equipment and masterful grief tactics. Construct server destroying redstone machines. Completely ruin spawn and active players bases while they're offline. Destroy their VIP / pay 2 win "donation" special items. Join their discords and spam anti-vax, anti-pitbull, and black people violence webms from rekt threads on 4chan to get their servers shut down. Literally use modded hacked clients to ESP radar hack and dupe your way to victory, kicking down reddit twerps virtual sand castles and record the seethe in their discord voice chats while pretending you don't know what's going on. Abuse and exploit anything you can to the detriment of other players (Shittily coded cash shops and stores. RPG elements that are 100% broken, like a "health swap" spell that you can use on any god-geared player to swap your 1/2 heart health with their full HP then 1 shot them naked kinda shit.)
Indie slop
None of these games have any cheat protection. Cheat Engine even the most basic shit. I once played some slop card game and was able to set my opponents HP at the start of the game to 0 and win immediately. You can pretty much speed hack on all of this shit and most hack sites will have a few dedicated cheat bros that can do the wildest shit like gain access to admin panels and other destructive things. Even without cheats most basic exploits can really break these games. If a dupe method worked on one shitty survival Unreal 5 sloppa game, chances are it works on the other 7,000.
VR / Roleplay shit
Fondle titties. When the white knights run up and shout "back off" loudly point and laugh at them. Force feed slags coconut drinks. Put your arm around everyone and get really up close in their face. Make fun of their furfag outfits. Call them trannies. Take a right wing stance on everything. Use cheats to spam gore and porn everywhere. Use mod menus (Cheats) to force other players to emote or spawn giant laggy objects and explosions. Always talk shit in VOIP and spam soundboards. Be as annoying and as insufferable as possible.
Single Player Games
Okay, so this one's hard to "troll" but there's still ways to do it. You gotta share stuff in normie spaces that will offend and upset them. There was a guy that played Red Dead 2 and brutually murdered and tortured the "women have a right to vote" NPC to the point where he got banned off jewtube for it cause it pissed off so many redditors. You're gonna have to be real creative with this one. If you're a jewtuber you can intentionally kill off all the gay NPC's in Baldurs Gate 3 or something during your streams or playthroughs and watch the seethe roll in. Or make misleading and untrue guides or push a narrative you'd prefer to see and post them to normie sites to really stick it to 'em.
Please, feel free to share your ways of griefing and trolling foids and sexhavers within the confines of the video game. Since we can't be happy in real life, the least we can do is make their virtual lives closer to ours. Give them a taste of their own medicine. The only joy I have left in life is making others seethe in video games, because what the fuck else is there to do?

Hi all, long time viewer and appreciate how much the information here has helped me since getting a house with a pool back in 2019.
I just opened the pool for the season and had it running and balanced for a few days. I normally prime the pump through the main drain (closing the skimmer valve) and then once it's going I will slowly open the skimmer valve. I am usually on my way with everything flowing well.
After a couple days I noticed that at the pump (it's a Hayward Superpump) I could hear some air getting into the system at the skimmer suction line. I noticed this because after running the pump 24/7 for a couple days i wanted to switch my timer on so that it is no longer running 24/7. I could hear the air rushing in and the pump was definitely going to lose prime so I just flipped it back on to 24/7 mode a while I looked into how to address the problem.
I eventually needed to clear out the pump basket and figured if i got the pump primed and running once, it wouldn't be too hard to do it again - wrong lol. It has now been a few days where every once in a while i go back out to try and prime the thing and it just won't go so i put a call in to the pool company as a last resort. Of course, since it is pool opening season they are understandably very busy and can't make it over until next week some time. The water was balanced pretty well, but it is due for a shock (which i normally do weekly). I also have a pool robot that i've been using daily just to keep the bottom and walls as clean as possible.
My main question is while I wait for the pool guy to show up (ideally next week sometime), should I be worried about treating my water at all if it is not circulating? Some of the research I have done has indicated a few options:

• add some liquid chlorine
• use a submersible pump to circulate the pool water from one end of the pool to the other (no filter but at least the water is moving)
• the third option is "you're worrying too much, just leave it alone"

Sorry for the long post but I didn't want to submit another "my pump won't prime" post - I figure I've exhausted all my options for trying to get it to work lol
Thanks!

A week ago I got popped in the face while rolling, small cut over eye and had to get 4 stitches.
Was going to do a tournament this weekend, took stitches out last night after 1 week (they were very small stitches).
How long do you all typically wait to roll again after removing stitches? I have drilled a few days this week because wound is mostly healed but coach would not let me roll because he's popped his stitches open in the past and it was not pretty. I'd like to compete, was planning to compete but don't want it to open up again because that'll likely end the competition for me.