Can t open screw on lid

Here’s my theory: Tether is in fact (as Paolo says) cooperating with multinational law enforcement, and multiple large governments are supporting the ongoing printing of unbacked tethers with a goal of creating an entire monetary ecosystem for international criminal enterprises.
In the short term this is obviously bad as many people get scammed and lose a lot of money, and the crime lords thrive. However, in the long run if crime runs almost solely on tethers with minimal USD or Yuan or other currency exchanges for everyday operations, etc., the bad guys get complacent thinking Tether is the crime currency of the future, then there’s an opening to seriously damage their financial standing.
International governments, working together, can step in, prove that tether is unbacked, and crash the entire crypto ecosystem, simultaneously screwing over cryptobros, instantaneously depleting criminal war chests, and generally making the world a happier place to live in.
Sadly, I don’t think any of this is actually happening, but I would love to see this whole disaster have a noble purpose in the end.

Even though teeth don’t have skin so that’s really a meaningless phrase. Anyway… So I’m in the forge, getting ready to see Grym. I’ve got my Sorlock Durge, Lae’zel (Vengeance paladin), and then 2 hirelings, the Druid and the Wizard, planning on the old reliable Owlbear method. I enlarge the Owlbear with the wizard, start the fight, Owlbear uses the crashing jump, and for some reason Grym was only hit for about 120 health (out of like 450 or something- it was a big number of damage but like a quarter of his health bar. Anyway, I figure I can get out- I’ll just crash him with the forge! Well, turns out if the ore isn’t in the forge, it doesn’t damage Grym at all. I also had to smash the wizard in the forge to get him to stay under it, just to learn that. So my Druid is getting smoked, I got a dead wizard in my hands, he summons these lava mephits, and I still try to fight them. After all, we’re in the bottom of a pit with nowhere to run anyway. I’m getting absolutely wrecked, Lae’zel dies, and I have like 20 hp left. I sat looking at my action wheel and character sheet for like 15 minutes trying to accept that my run was going to end, when I realized I had given my Durge Misty step on the last level up. I wasn’t sure if I’d be able to step all the back up out of the pit, but sure enough, there’s a spot you can get to!
TLDR Misty step saves runs. Also idk why but the Owlbear technique didn’t work on Grym for me in HM. Perhaps I wasn’t high up enough to build up enough damage? Idk

I’m looking to sell some EDEN merch. Unfortunately I’m at the adult age where I realize money is important and just need to clear out my storage LOL
Payment via Paypal G&S and can ship next day. US shipping only please (sorry international fans!). If interested, please dm me!
Two (2) 18x24 Posters No Future Bundle - $35 + ship https://imgur.com/a/GfLirsl literally first time opening it lol, does have crease in “projector” poster. Otherwise in perfect condition
LARGE How To Sleep Shirt - $40 + ship https://imgur.com/a/f6fuTtd preloved. Used to wear a lot back in hs lol
No Future Cassette - $30 + ship https://imgur.com/a/7riELQm never played, just been sitting in my drawer.
I’m planning to sell my green vertigo world tour sweatshirt for $70, but I can’t find it. But will post again when I do!
Please note if you want to get the poster with something else, you will need to pay individual shipping for the poster as it’s being sent in a tube.

So we had some freight come into the FC last week that were single units with a pack of 5 inside. So it's one unit, but of course people were opening it and trying to receive the 5 units inside, which was a disaster.
After hundreds of these items got sent to my department to fix, we knew we needed a solution. To combat this we started placing "do not separate" stickers on the box. You can imagine my face when this showed up in my department.
THEY CUT THROUGH THE STICKER.

I’m want to make something abundantly clear: most of the people in this Reddit are rational and clear headed when making statements or challenging other viewpoints so this post isn’t directed at or criticizing you. This post is meant for the types that have an attacking mindset when dealing with religious people; you know who you are. The number of these types of people are in the minority when it comes to comment sections, posts and even in real life but it’s very disturbing to see these people claim that they have a rational mindset and then berate and disrespect religious people. I agree that religious people need to start evaluating empirical evidence when making decisions and that a lot of their religious views are irrational but that does not mean you can just be disrespectful or rude towards them. I understand that you have a right to free speech and how you talk with people is your business, I’m not opposing that. But what I am saying is that most atheists and humanists like me want people to make rational decisions devoid of religious beliefs but when you act extremely mean towards the people we oppose while carrying the title of atheist, it makes it way more difficult for us to get through to them. I’m making this post as a form of constructive criticism to help these people I’m talking about choose a better way to deal with religious people so that we can move towards a society that values science, critical thinking and respectful discourse. Here’s a few ways why your attitude harms atheism and other related movements and what alternative way can work better:

1. Your form of debating religious people doesn’t work. Plain and simple. Most of the Reddit and rational human beings on this planet would agree with me that being disrespectful, rude and down bullying people who disagree with you is an extremely ineffective tactic that accomplishes nothing except making the opposition bolster their views since they now view you as nothing more than irrational and mean. A better to way would be to have a clear mind, respectful attitude while having the ability to listen to the other side so that they feel more comfortable conversing with you. Not to mention the fact that there very unique circumstances in each case that led to a person to hold those religious views, so it doesn’t make sense to act shitty towards them since we don’t know why them came to that viewpoint in the first place. Here’s a video that gives an idea of what I’m talking about: https://youtu.be/AvMNaDDfrN0?si=TqdifO9Otcu8XYaR 

1. Your attitude acts as a tool for their religion to use for their influence. Christian’s, Islamists and many other religions use persecution and disrespect as fuel. They think of themselves as martyrs taking the beatings and insults in the name of their god which brings them sympathy. When you disrespect them, attack them or do anything to harm them, they subconsciously imagine themselves like Jesus or their hero being persecuted. Stop giving them that dynamic. Be kind, and have a loving attitude so that they will be much more likely to listen to and consider what you have to say.
   
2. You end up hurting the rest of atheists. This is pretty self explanatory. Every time you make a bad impression towards a religious person, you make the rest of us look bad and make it a lot harder to change their views since they will see us as mean or arrogant.
   

Ultimately how you conduct yourselves is up to you. But please think hard on what effect your actions have. There’s no need to hate the people we oppose. Like us they are human being as well. Treat people kindly, respect their views, listen to them and use rational arguments and empirical evidence to push them towards a better way of thinking. Thank you and have a wonderful day.

I just moved and I’m short on cash. I could use a spot of gas so I can get to and from my new job 🥲 I’m supposed to have a check coming in the mail, but my tank is low and the check still hasn’t arrived yet.
As far as the dog stuff goes, it’s not too urgent. A retractable leash would be helpful so she won’t keep getting tangled in the regular leash I have, and the brush would help a lot because she has a few mild knots I need to detangle.

He cheated on me. I am very much over him as I don’t feel emotionally connected/dependent onto him any way. I don’t miss him anymore at all.. maybe I miss the friendship a bit but nothing more. I don’t think about him as much as I used to anymore. But I cannot stop talking about him no matter what. If any topic about anything we both liked to do, a movie we watched, or a song we liked, I’d wanna talk about it with my friends and family. It’s been a year now since the breakup and I still can’t stop going over our relationship from the beginning till the end. Even when people ask about my experience I’d wanna start talking about everything that he did, the good and the bad. I just can’t stop talking about it.. and it feels so therapeutic. Is this toxic to myself? Will this affect my progress. I’m stumped. Please help. :(

Hey, it’s Ducks bro again. Recently, I won’t name names because I don’t want to get into any arguments with anyone, have been getting lots of hate from other subs (I can understand their point of me posting a lot on another teams sub, I get it!)
So, I don’t exactly feel very comfortable posting for a while. I don’t want to piss off anyone else’s fanbase. I may just stick to the Ducks subreddit for now. Just to let y’all know: I’m not just bandwagoning, I really love watching the Stars, and of course, the subreddit! It’s been a fun ride with y’all and I hope you guys can win! I will see you guys soon.
As for the game, I don’t have any worries! Just a phenomenal Avs team doing phenomenal things. You just KNEW they would make a pushback.
Have a great day everyone, and get that game 6 win! LFG!!!

I was bored so I was installing some apps to mess with.
Downloaded this "daily mood tracker" that Google play editors recommened to mess around with.
After installing and spending a moment using it I closed out the app and this got weird. Every time I tried clicking on the app my screen would go black for a min and then open up on my lock screen.
I tried uninstalling the app but clicking and holding caused the same issue. Eventually my phone must have crashed or somthing beacuse it randomly restarted.
I Uninstalled the app immediately thru settings and haven't had the issue for a few minutes. Only other thing I thin could've caused issues was this fluid simulation app that you can set as your Live wallpaper (which I did) but I had already Uninstalled the app prior to this event.
Should I be concerned?

We talk about passwords a lot (common passwords and password strategies) but we don't talk about pins as much.
This week on his podcast Steve Gibson talked a little about pins. He cited a summary of 3.4 million real-world (leaked?) 4-digit pins plotted in graphic form with first 2 pin digits on horizontal axis (scaled 0 to 99) and 2nd 2 digits on the vertical axis (also scaled 0 to 99) as shown here: https://www.grc.com/miscfiles/pin.png
The bright colors are more frequent. You can see a bright diagonal line, which means people are prone to making the 3rd and 4th digits a repeat of the first and 2nd (for example 4747). And the brightest points on this line are things like 0000, 2222, 7777, 8888. And also 6969
There is also a bright horizontal line with vertical values 19 or 20 representing years (probably birth years) with the highest concentration being around 1965 to 1990.
But the real kicker, out of those 10,000 possible 4 digit pins, the top 20 most-common pins (0.2%) make up 27% of pins in the set. Those top 20 are: 1234 0000 7777 2000 2222 9999 5555 1122 8888 2001 1111 1212 1004 4444 6969 3333 6666 1313 4321 1010.
There are a variety of pin applications with different requirements. But using something like a birth year isn't a good idea. You could generate a randon numeric pin using the bitwarden password generator and unchecking everything except for digits. You may want it to be memorable though. People may have a variety of ways to come up with memorable numbers.///
I'll share one way to come up with memorable pin numbers.

1. Come up with a word that has the same number of letters as your desired pin.
2. Convert every letter to a number by its position in the alphabet (A=1, B=2... Z=26)
3. Multiply the number by 3 (*)
4. Take the last digit, that is your pin digit.
5. Put all the pin digits together

That procedure maps the letters to numbers as follows:

• A=3
• B=6
• C=9
• D=2
• E=5
• F=8
• G=1
• H=4
• I=7
• J=0
• K=3
• L=6
• M=9
• N=2
• O=5
• P=8
• Q=1
• R=4
• S=7
• T=0
• U=3
• V=6
• W=9
• X=2
• Y=5
• Z=8

As you can see it spreads the 26 letters out over the 10 digits pretty well (there are 4 digits assigned 2 characters each and 6 digits assigned 3 characters each).
As an example if my word is WARDEN, then my pin would be 934252
(*) You could use the same procedure multiplying by 7 (instead of 3), and the 26 letters would again spread out pretty well over the 10 digits... but the multiplication is a bit harder.
Take it or leave it, just a thought.

Hey! I’m a 25 year old girl and I have never been in a serious relationship. I’ve had non-committed flings and have experienced all the ups and downs with that. My parents also got divorced due to infidelity during my teens (maybe trauma?) But either way I work in sales, I constantly put myself out there and I go on Hinge dates frequently but have never been able to find someone. I feel left out and left behind compared to my friends and family. I have a great support system and cool hobbies but I just can’t seem to find love. I just want to experience and feel the things that come with a relationship and I can’t seem to shake how this has impacted my self worth and self esteem. Has anyone else been through this? Did you find someone someday?

Okay, So I have a relatively new windows 11 PC build, about 2 years old, except for about 9 months ago I replaced my motherboard and CPU (Will list current hardware below) replaced my 1080 with a new 4070 about 4-5 months ago. I felt like the performance was slightly better than my 1080 but hardly noticeable, so I tried to update my driver like.. 2 months ago, my PC kept crashing at that point, acting super weird... i didn't really have time to mess with it at the time, and realistically still don't...
Anyway, my game suggested that I update my graphics driver.. this time it did complete and reboot, however this time it came back up, but was super super laggy. i restarted the PC a couple times, and now if I am only really doing 1 thing at a time it can sort of run smoothly, however if I even try to open my calculator with a youtube video it lags super heavily. in the pics below, the first pic is my afterburner with just a youtube video up, the second one is if I open my game, a calculator, anything. single video
video+calculator

As the title states, this is a tale of two troubles.
Trouble 1: my anxiety and my anger issues have a fun time making my actions get a little quirky.
Trouble 2: there’s a girl involved in all of this and I want to be her boyfriend but I don’t want to scare her.
Here’s the background: I’m a plain and simple guy for the most part. I do a little bit of comedy, I’m a musician, and I’m very clingy when I find someone that I can boast of how they make me feel safe/happy. In more recent times, this girl and I have been avoiding each other after we had a few falling outs. It’s hard to think about, but it’s constantly on my mind. When we first met, it was because she was doing some work for me as a thumbnail artist. We go to the same school, so I’d pay her after classes. Eventually we fell for each other and she wanted me to take her out on a date. I prepared everything, I made sure to ask friends how they did things so I could compare and contrast how things could go for me.
A day or two goes by and then we’re in a situation where we are linking arms and being goofy (it’s in our natures), I felt confident enough to share some candy with her, and so I did. She appreciated the gesture, but then later she texted me saying she didn’t want to move forward with things and so she was going to take a few days to process. She didn’t say she wanted to move backwards, but in my head and in my heart; it felt like she wanted to be as far from me as possible (I suppose that was my anxiety?). I couldn’t bear it and so I was profusely trying to revive things when I kept kicking myself about it.
Eventually, time passes and she reaches out again to try and test the waters. Things go well at first; but then something happened to my grandfather and I was constantly sitting down at random places trying to hold myself together. I guess it looked different to her because she told me one day that she felt uncomfortable with how I was acting, so I did my best to hide myself away from her. I tried being better, but my frustrations and my fears got the best of me, and so we stopped talking all together. I texted her an apology twice and even sent her an invite to go see something that I was performing in to let her know how I felt. She must’ve felt panicked and so she removed me from her contact lists and the like.
Next year, I became rather peculiar and always brought sweet treats to school. I would hand them out to all the kids, but I was very hesitant to share with her, and eventually she texted me again to say thanks, and we had a little conversation from there. I didn’t know why she bothered texting me if she didn’t feel comfortable being in contact with me, but she did and later she told me why. We had a falling out. We had two or three more falling outs, I gave out more candy and included her in the mix… to this day, she’s the first person I think of when I give out candy (my priest told me to do this as an act of penance), but we don’t talk so much… and I want to make things right between us.
TL;DR:
There’s a girl who has seriously affected my anxiety and anger issues, and I’ve been horrible too; but I want to make things right.

All names have been changed to protect everyone’s info. When this happened I was 21.
Long one so buckle up! So I (21f at the time) met this girl we’ll call Amy. I met Amy volunteering at a library where she just ordered people on what to do, despite only being a volunteer herself, not a librarian. Anyway… only after 7 months of knowing her she dates this guy, (we’ll call him Ben) and gets engaged within two months because she was pregnant. I kid you not, she married this guy 3 months after meeting him. I thought that was a questionable choice, but was not confrontational.
When my then fiancé and I went on a double date with Amy and Ben, Ben was nice. My fiancé loved hanging out with him due to similarities in hobbies. After dinner in bed, my fiancé is on his computer and trying to add Ben on Facebook. After searching his name up and trying nicknames and full names, we find a FRICKIN ARTICLE about how this dude slly a*ted women. I was shocked and sent the link to my Amy, worried for her. She replies with “Don’t worry, I know! He’s a changed man!! I can’t have my baby with no daddy!” Literally that, with some other stuff. Keep in mind he was only charged 2 years ago with barely any punishment. (It didn’t say exactly on the article) I, decided to leave it at that but told Amy that if she needs me, she can text or call anytime and I can help.
Fast forward to when Amy becomes a bridezilla…
Amy asks me to be her MOH! Not a BM, (not baby mamas auntie charlotte 🤭) a MOH!! And my fiancé was asked to be a best man. I accepted because Amy and I were pretty close. As soon as I accept, Amy clicks a switch. She informed me as a MOH I should be paying for the catering, BM dresses, and HER dress. As well as the Air BNB for a resort area in Hawaii! I told her that I would be willing to pay for catering and the BM dress, as well as mine (my fiancé and I were pretty well off, he said it would fine to do so.) just the total of those things would have been almost 3,000 dollars. (1,500 for dresses and 1,500 for food) she tells me that she needs help because she’s pregnant and can’t work. Amy was 2 months pregnant and worked part time at a desk. I tell her I’m sorry, but 10k quite a bit. She huffs and puffs but gets over it.
ONE DAY before the wedding we are rehearsing. It’s going well, until Amy tells me I need to change the menu for food and the BM dresses. I was shocked and asked why to which she said the menu we had now was not trendy enough and she liked a new color for the dresses. I inform her that I can’t make that happen with adjustments with the dresses and we already had the food in a freezer. Amy gets LIVID. Saying how she’s done soo much for me by being my friend and she can’t afford to change the menu. Like okay then don’t do it girl. Her fiancé took her home. I got a text from her saying how she sooo pregnant (as in 2-3 months) and she just gets cranky sometimes. More like delusional (not even delulu).
Day of the wedding comes and I see the cream white BM dresses an olive/baby poop green.I was shocked and asked Amy what happened. She said she dyed them the color she wanted them! I was surprised but didn’t bother her about it because it was her wedding. 20 minutes later, she asks if I can do her and her BMs makeup. I asked where the makeup artist was and she said she cancelled them to save herself some money. I told her I don’t do very good make up and I only do simple make up and she’s like oh OK sure do it good though. So I do 5 full faces of makeup including mine. By the time that’s done I’m exhausted mentally and we have 2 hours until the ceremony. I go to find Amy’s dress and can’t so I ask her where it is. This MF tells me I was to buy it!! I tell her I bought mine and the BMs dresses. Amy starts freaking out and lashing out on me. I tell her to calm down and I can get a white party dress if mine (looks like it could be for a wedding) and it will still look great in her. She goes “Ooh nice I don’t have to charge anyone for me renting a dress” and I’m like gurl.
Ceremony comes without too much trouble… until.
I have this teenage cousin (15-16f) of Amy who tells me Ben has been trying to get him and her alone. This poor girl we’ll call Carla was having a panic attack so my fiancé (he’s a psychologist) calms her down quickly and has her explain the situation to Amy hoping Amy will know what to do. What does Amy decide to do? To tell Carla she is a liar and Ben is too perfect to want a DISGUSTING LITTLE GIRL LIKE HER. This is when I had enough and tell Amy that that was horrible of her and I will be leaving with Carla and her accompanying people. Amy scoffs at me and just goes back to the crowd to look like the perfect wife and person in front of everyone.
I eventually was able to completely cut off ties with Amy and her family. Ben is now in jail or was and Amy now has a drug addiction (probably from the help of Ben) with her parents raising her kid to keep him safe.
That is my tea. (Sorry it’s so long and if there are spelling mistakes)

To make a very long story short, I used to be a working student, got burnt out, took a 4 month break from riding, and am now a once a week lesson “kid” (I’ve yet to accept I’m an adult ammy). I cannot even begin to put into words how wonderful my new trainer is. She treats me like a person and is so kind to me. When I say I can’t put it into words, I really mean there is no apt way to describe how comforting and safe of an environment she has created while also being educational and not a pushover. I’ve had 5 lessons with her so far and have fallen off in 2 of them which is so embarrassing, and is something I expressed in my previous lesson which was my last fall. First time, I was on an unfit horse and literally just slid off as they ran into the canter which was stupid more than anything. The recent fall, I jumped a small cross rail, the horse cantered after the jump as she’s trained to do and rather than bringing her back, I froze as she continued speeding up until she threw a buck which is what got me off. She then started running around the arena, all hopped up, as I sat in the footing sobbing. I wasn’t hurt, just embarrassed. When I expressed this, we were able to talk through it, me giving my opinion/experience on the matter and her giving advice. I got back on, wtc and ended on a great note. I feel like I’m able to express myself freely and safely with absolutely zero fear of judgement. She’s just a person who I can really trust and I’m super grateful for this, so I want to show it by giving her something (as the title suggests). My worry is that I’m a “fixer”, tend to over-gift, and am very emotional, so I worry that I’d be overstepping boundaries by giving her something. I don’t want to be inappropriate in any way but also want to adequately express how grateful I am for her coaching and for how wonderful she’s been to me. I really don’t want to ruin anything here. So TYIA for any advice or ideas you guys come up with!

I picked my 4 groomsmen in the beginning of 2023. After brainstorming, we all decided that a bachelor trip to Dominican was going to the plan.
Near the end of 2023, my best man (I am also best man for his wedding) took me out to dinner and ultimately told me he was not going to make it to my bachelor for personal reasons that weren’t financial. Although I understood it, I felt like it was way too early to have given a straight answer of no when this trip wasn’t going to happen till between June and August. I let it be and just asked that he leave the door open once the time comes, which he agreed. I do believe that his girlfriend/fiance just told him he would not be able to go. The reason I say that is because as time went on, the reasons for not going were changing, which made the whole situation fishy.
Early 2024, my other groomsman called me out of the blue and ultimately told me his other buddy was getting married this year in October and that it was going to be a destination wedding, that he was going to be the best man to. He stated that financially he wasn’t going to have the funds to do both and opted for his destination wedding over the bachelor party. If you had to choose one or the other, I get it. I let it be.
All that is left is my other 2 groomsmen. 1 of them was 100% committed the entire time. I was his best man for his wedding, where we did him, myself and 2 of his buddies to Dominican. He’s genuinely a very nice guy and wanted to return the favour. The other one was also very committed but once we actually started to look, set up a cap on what he could spend, the trip was going to be over his budget. Traditionally for these types of bachelor trips, the cost of the groom would be split up evenly through the groomsmen. Things got chippy within the group chat as they were saying stuff like “I cant believe youd rather go on a trip without 1/2 your group instead of doing something here with everyone” i clapped back (which I shouldn’t have) and said stuff along the lines of “But this is what I wanted from the beginning” and “when I went for said friends bachelor party, the whole process was so easy, where here I feel like here people are flaking or setting caps”. I ultimately told then to scrap the planning and just do a dinner.
Now this doesn’t make me hate them or dislike them, because they are my boys, but I do feel sour knowing I likely won’t have a moment like this as after our wedding we’re going to try for kids, and my priorities are going to be my fiance during her pregnancy and the children when they do pop out.
What do you think?

Decided to wear flip flops for the first time in a long time and of course stepped in sidewalk water. On top of that I have a little raw skin on a toenail, which isn’t helping my anxiety.
Got home three minutes after and immediately washed my feet with soap and water. Anyone else step in nyc water barefoot and doing okay? Would really like some reassurance so I can go to sleep for the next few days 😅

I really don’t know why I’m writing this. Part of me wants to be told I’m overreacting I guess
My childhood and 20s were rough, but I have managed to claw my way to some kind of normal life. After burning out and getting fired from a hospitality job, I decided to make a career change, take a 2 years off and pursue my masters - finishing at the height of Covid.
I did really well in my program, enjoyed the research, and was encouraged to continue for a doctorate thru the same school that was only supposed to add an extra 2 years to my studies. I was struggling to find a job and dealing with some family issues back home so I thought it was a great idea. I figured I would try to find a full time job in my field in the meantime and could always finish my doctorate later in life if needed. The summer before I started, I started dating my bf at this time.
Unfortunately, due to some setbacks with my school (not on my part ) things are taking longer than expected to finish the program. I’m okay with this, despite everything, I enjoy my work and feel like I’m finally thriving in life. At the beginning of my program I was working a somewhat full time job unrelated to my field and found it difficult to manage everything. I decided instead to pursue internships that allowed for flexibility in my studying, would bring in some finances as needed while helping me gain needed experience in the field. I have been fully transparent with him about everything and he has repeatedly said he was supportive of my decisions. Since then, I have been surviving financially on a combo of student loans (taking out the bare minimum required to pay for school + little more to help cover emergencies), internship paychecks, and a meager stipend (good for 2 years and is enough to cover my portion of rent).
My boyfriend however, finds himself constantly getting worked up every so often over how my life is going. We find ourselves having the same argument every few weeks and I’m exhausted trying to navigate things with him. He feels that my school is stringing me along for whatever reason and they’ll only push my expected graduation further down the road. (He’s right that they are annoying at times but things like my advisor’s spouse suddenly dying can’t be helped). We are both in our early 30s but he seems to feel that I am wasting my time doing my studies and internships. I just completed an internship at a very prestigious organization and returned to finish up what I hope will be the last year of my doctorate. At the same time I started this internship, I received another internship offer at another prestigious organization that was due to start when the first one ended. However, I’m unable to start until they finish a working clearance for me that was delayed due to a mix up in my paper work. The offer is still on the table and they are flexible with my start date once I receive my clearance. I took this as a sign to focus on school and try to get as much done as possible before this new internship starts and hopefully be on my way to graduation and a new job by the end of the year.
In the meantime, I’ve been applying for full time positions, acting as if this internship won’t work out, but I’ve been picky in the positions I’m applying to for my own sanity and because this internship is literally my dream position and I’m remaining optimistic that things will fall into place and they’ll keep me on. I’m still being realistic and planning for every possible outcome!
My boyfriend finds himself constantly getting worked up over this. He works a well paying full time job and despite me not making as much as him, we have been able to enjoy ourselves pretty well over the two years or so vacation and gift wise. We split everything 50/50, with myself (I feel) contributing more to household expenses because I am home more and want to ensure things are nice and well taken care of. I’ve never complained because I really don’t care, in the end, I’m able to save money because we live together and I would be spending the same amount on everything even if I was single. I’m also extremely cautious with my finances and make sure to budget well so that I can afford all my necessities/bills, add some money to my savings, and have a little extra left over to enjoy life when I can. I have only mentioned once how I wish we could contribute proportionally based on our “incomes” or at least he would be willing to accommodate when we go out to eat or whatever. (he really enjoys food and will try everything on the menu. I mentioned it’s difficult for me to pay sometimes because I don’t always budget that high for restaurant outings.) This of course started a huge argument and him nearly accusing me of asking him to pay entirely for my expenses at all times… I felt like I was losing my mind.
I understand it’s frustrating for him to be living a little bit less well off than he expects. He wants a bigger apartment and to start a family. I tell him I’m not holding him back from having these things. Im not holding him hostage, my life will not fall apart if we break up. It will be difficult of course but I can always return back to my family until I get back on my feet. I have told him I’m more than willing to find a part time job if it makes him feel better, but he has repeatedly told me I need to focus on my career. But! For whatever reason, he doesn’t see internships as work… which is confusing and! He is adamant that he won’t support me unless we’re married, but he feels he can’t marry me until I’m more “stable”. That’s fine with me, I understand from his perspective he’s got some family issues and finds himself supporting his mom in her older age. I honestly think he has a fear I’ll end up like his mother.
I love him deeply but this is my life right now and it’s not like I don’t want these things too. I do, I think about them daily and it pushes me to keep working even when things feel impossible. I told him us living together was great because I’m able to save money and get a head start on life before my new career takes off. But he feels like I’m not taking life seriously and that one day I’m just gonna decide to drop out and either (a) do nothing with my life and expect him to pay for everything or (b) change my mind about my career “again” and keep going to school. It almost feels like he doesn’t believe I’m in school for good reason. I could NEVER bring myself to do either of those things, I’ve struggled enough and I’ve watched women in my family rely on men and I REFUSE to let that happen to me. In his culture it’s unheard of to change your career field and it’s even weirder that someone in their 30s is doing internships. Pursuing a PhD is also weird to him because in his field it’s only if you want to become a professor, in my field, academia is an option but also a lot of jobs often require a PhD! For the most part it’s not crazy for people in my field to have done multiple internships before their first job.
Explaining this every month is tiring and our argument today I found myself speechless for the first time. I’m so done fighting with him about this and I want to leave but I just don’t want to feel like I’m overreacting in what is probably just a season in our relationship. I also feel it’s unfair that I would have to uproot my entire life if we were to break up. He is incredibly loving and supportive otherwise. During our arguments it’s like he comes back to his senses halfway thru and suddenly realizes he was being unfair and we make up and go back to normal. It’s just these random bouts were he gets too in his head and starts overthinking and it’s hard to bring him back to where we were before in that moment.
I feel like I’m going crazy and talking to a brick wall when we get into our arguments. And now that I’ve typed everything out I know I probably sound crazy. If I were a friend of mine I would’ve told me to dump him a long time ago.

About a year ago I injured my groin at work (hard manual labor job) and have been on workers comp ever since because I have no work capacity.
I was stuck in bed for the first month in the worst pain of my life. I later somewhat recovered and up until about a month ago I was almost back to 100% with minimal pain or issues.
About a month and a half ago I re-injured my groin injury by overworking myself at home and have been bed-ridden from the pain ever since.
I am currently pursuing a settlement with workers comp and will be having a hearing for it soon. I’m concerned though because what if I never fully recover and I am forced to baby my injury and just be careful for the rest of my life? Because if I settle, there’s no going back.
My lawyer basically told me that because I didn’t get documentation stating I have no work capacity to work anywhere else (like a desk job) that there is nothing they can do and I just have to accept the settlement.
I want to know if this re-injuring of my previous injury is the employers responsibility in some way? I’m not saying it’s their fault, I just don’t want to accept the settlement if I’m going to be crippled the rest of my life. What happens if I keep re-injuring it?
Should I just accept the settlement or try and get documentation from my doctor that says I can’t work at all and do something about it?
If you need any additional info just let me know.