My (28F) boyfriend (31M) and I have been together 5.5 years, lived together for almost four of those years.
Bf is not a romantic type. He likes to get people gifts whenever he feels like or finds something for them and dislikes/ignores societal constructs for gift giving like birthdays and holidays.
He’s never planned a date or a vacation for us. Around the house he does zero cleaning or cooking; his chores are to take out the trash and cut the grass, both of which he waits as long as he possibly can to do (sometimes longer). He often makes plans with his friends on the weekends without telling me and is gone for half the day or more. He hates cell phones so he doesn’t charge his regularly and it happens more often than not that his phone will die while he’s with his friends and doesn’t come home until 1-2 am.
I’ve tried expressing to him for about six months that I feel unsupported and unloved and that I need more quality time, communication, and help around the house. He says he’ll try to do better but then never does. He’s got some serious depression and anxiety which I try to be aware of — I can’t start an emotional conversation the night before he works or he’ll not go into work and sleep all day.
About a month ago I started feeling very distant from him. He came home one night (about four hours after he said he’d be home and his phone had been dead so I wasn’t able to reach him) and I asked him where he’d been and if there was any reason he could think of why I’ve been feeling this distance. After a lot of arguing, I asked to look through his phone. He denied, which of course made me more suspicious. Eventually he agreed and I found deleted text messages between him and a female friend/ex of his. They had hung out at her house around the time I started feeling distant. On that night he lied to me saying he was with his male friend and turned off his phone so I couldn’t see his location, claiming it died.
He’s known this girl since grade school and they briefly dated right before we got together. He’s lied about hanging out with her in the past and I forgave him but made very clear rules that he has to tell me they’re hanging out BEFORE they hang out and they can’t hang out alone at her place.
When I found out he lied I wanted to break up. I’ve given him so many chances and been very clear in my expectations. I still am not sure if I can forgive the deception. I gave him the option of breaking up or following strict rules and making changes for our relationship moving forward, including that he is supposed to help around the house, download Life360 so we can track each other, and block the girl and not hang out with her at all. We’re also supposed to have a weekly check in to talk about our feelings.
This was two and a half weeks ago and nothing has changed. He blocked her and downloaded the app after I reminded him multiple times (still hasn’t logged into the app so it’s useless) but has not lifted a finger or done anything to attempt to make me feel loved or supported. He even had a perfect opportunity when my car was having issues and it was two easy things he’s more than capable of doing but he acted like it was a huge inconvenience for him to fix and I ended up going to a mechanic.
Is it worth continuing to try to get him to see my needs? Or has he shown me what he thinks of me and this relationship and I just need to get out now before I waste any more time?

Hi guys, I'm just another work form home introvert who misses the brief social interaction I got in the office. Not enough to go back in, of course, but enough to see some friends remotely elsewhere =)
I log in, setup my show to stream and trudge away on my keyboard, but somethings missing. It was fun to have a snarky work friend to talk crap with about management and co workers alike. Sometimes I enjoy hopping on meetings and other days I just dread them.
So what shows do you put on in the background to stay sane while working? What ways have you found to stay productive at home but also enjoy your space to relax? I'm new to wfh, so I feel like I'm behind compared to a lot of people who got to figure it out before when the world was shut down.
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I am NOT OOP. Original post by u/ThrowRA-DNA in AmITheAsshole and Relationship_Advice
Long post, I have provided comments from original threads, these provide extra information however are not vital for understanding the post and can be skipped. Though, I recommend reading them as they provide more context. Your choice though.
WIBTA if I told my parents I know I’m adopted? - 22 April 2024
Hey people.
This is a long story, but I’m going to try and condense it as much as possible. Basically about 9 weeks ago my maternal cousin and I both completed an Ancestral/DNA test through one of the popular brands.
My parents are very against these DNA tests (I thought) because they don’t like the idea of giving your DNA to these companies and so have forbidden me from doing them in the past when I brought up the idea. Though, I now know the real reason they were against me doing it.
My cousin (James) got his results first and matched with loads of people saying my mother’s maiden name, as well as other names known within my mother’s family line.
I got my results about a week later and not only did I not match with my cousin, I didn’t match with any of my cousins matches nor did anyone share my mothers maiden name. My dad (and I) have an extremely common surname in my country -think “smith”- and I did match with a few people who shared that name but none were close matches, 3rd-4th cousins being the closest. So I’m just assuming it was because it’s a common surname.
James’ family know he’s done the DNA test and he’s shared the results however I have asked him to keep what he knows about mine between us for a while.
I learnt this about 2 weeks ago and have since come to the conclusion that I am adopted. At first this made me feel really upset, and I thought maybe the DNA tests were faulty but after researching, no I don’t think they are. I think I am just adopted. I have two younger brothers who are 11 and 9 who aren’t adopted because I remember my mom being pregnant with them. So I can’t understand why I was adopted.
I want to know tell my parents know about being adopted, I want to in some ways confront them and ask why they’ve lied to me for so long. But I also want to say I still consider them my only family. James thinks it’s a really bad idea, he says I should just keep it to myself because if I tell my parents I know I’m adopted it could have negative consequences on my relationship with my parents and also could get him into trouble with his parents because he bought me the DNA test and he is very close to my parents.
I’ve said I’ll just tell them I bought the test myself but he says they’ll know because he got his test so recently.
WIBTA if I ignored my cousin and confronted my parents about me being adopted anyway?
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No verdict flare, not sure why, but most comments seem to be NTA.

Some relevant comments:

Comment thread 1
Commenter:

I can't imagine what you must be going through, realising that you may well be adopted, through a DNA test.

OOP:

I’m 18, but I still live with my parents part time and I live at Uni halls the other time.

Comment Thread 2
Commenter 1:

Have the DNA test done with a different company to double-check results so that your parents can't claim that the first one is in error.

OOP

Yeah, honestly this is a good idea

Commenter 2:

It might be better to tell them about the existing results before you know what the real story is. Right now you're in a gray area, where you have some possibly mixed up information and you're genuinely just asking questions rather than confronting anyone. This gives them a chance to (very belatedly) do the right thing ... or not, which would also be illuminating in a way. You can always seek confirmation and drama later if necessary or desired.

Comment Thread 3:
Commenter

You matched with distant cousins, perhaps a family member fell pregnant at a young age and your parents stepped up as a young couple who were ready to have children?

OOP:

The thing is I don't 100% know they're related to my dad because of how common our last name is. It's likely (imo) that it's just some other people I've matched with that share our name.

Update

I (M18) found out I’m adopted through one of those at home DNA kits. I’ve matched with my biological mom (F33), but now I don’t know what to do. Do I message her or just pretend that this never happened? What do I say? - 4 May 2024
TL;DR at the bottom.
This is a long story, I’m going to try and condense it. I’ve spoken about it before on a different post on my profile if you want more details.
In the past I’ve spoken about wanting to do one of those Ancestry and DNA at home tests, but my parents (or who I thought were my parents) were always against them. They told me because they don’t trust those companies with your DNA, but I obviously know the real reason now.
A while ago my cousin and I decided to buy a test each and I completed mine in secret. I was shocked when not only did I not match with him when we got the results, I didn’t match with anyone who shared a surname with any of my family (except for some matches that shared my dad’s surname, but this is an extremely common surname in my country. Think “Smith” for the USA).
I thought perhaps the test was faulty or wrong, but after some researching I had my doubts that the test was faulty. But just in case I decided to do a second test, with a different company, just in case the first one was somehow wrong. This time I bought three tests, one I gave to my paternal uncle (he’s actually only a few years older than me despite being my uncle) and one I gave to my maternal cousin, and the last one I did myself.
We sent them all off and we got our results surprisingly quickly, about 10 days after we sent them off (yesterday night). But these tests confirmed my suspicions, I’m not related to my family.
And even more, I matched with a woman “49.8% DNA match, predicted parent/child”. Looked on her profile and she was born in 1991 meaning she would have been 15/16ish when I was born. She hasn’t been active on the app for over 6 months.
I’ve written out messages to her to send and then deleted them, I’ve contemplated just saying “hello” but haven’t had the courage to actually send it off. I also could just turn off matches and make my profile invisible, that way she wouldn’t see me if she logged back in again. I could pretend she doesn’t exist and that I never found this out. I have another mom out there that I know nothing about, it makes me feel so anxiously curious.
My parents never told me I was adopted, I feel utterly betrayed by them. I’ve resisted the urge to confront them about it since I got the results back from the first test, but now I know for certain I just want to smash my fists into a wall. I want to scream at them. I hate that they’ve kept this from me for my entire life.
Now the only people who know I know is my uncle and my cousin. I trust that they won’t say anything to anyone until I’ve spoken to people about it.
I feel so lost and confused. Should I message my biological mom? Or pretend she doesn’t exist and turn my profile invisible from her?
TL;DR:
Discovered I'm adopted via DNA kit. Matched with biological mom, unsure whether to message or ignore. Feeling betrayed by adoptive parents. Uncertain about confronting them. Feeling lost and conflicted.
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Some relevant comments

Comment Thread 1
Commenter:

I'm wondering if there is a possibility she did the DNA test as a vague hope that maybe one day you would use it as a tool to find her and reach out to her. Whether or not she did, the ball is in your court and I think it should stay that way until you are ready to deal with it. Reach out when you are ready. There is no real reason to rush right now, you have time.

OOP:

Yeah, I’m guessing that she did it with hopes that I would also do one one day. I mean, that makes sense. Otherwise you wouldn’t have made your profile public.

Commenter:

There are probably other factors as well, but I would bet you being able to find her was one of them, if not the only one.

Comment Thread 2
Commenter:

I gave a child up for adoption at around same age your bio mum was. Your parents are your parents. They shouldn’t have kept this secret from you, and I’m sorry you’re having to deal with that.

OOP:

My parents aren’t infertile because I have younger siblings and I remember my mom being pregnant with them.

Comment Thread 3
Commenter:

You've said that you can make your profile invisible to her temporarily? Then change that later? If so, I would do that.

OOP:

Yes, I’ve done this. I don’t want her to see my profile and thinks it’s an invitation to reach out. Or to get her hopes up that I’m actively searching for her so better she just doesn’t see it. Until I’ve decided what I want to do.

Update 2

Update: I (M18) found out I’m adopted through one of those at home DNA kits. I’ve matched with my biological mom (F33), but now I don’t know what to do. Do I message her or just pretend that this never happened? What do I say? - 8 May 2024
Hey people,
A lot has happened to me since my last post here, and before I start to explain I just wanted to say thank you to everyone who commented/replied to my OP. It was really helpful and I truly appreciate it. For full context read the other posts on my profile which discuss this situation further.
First things first, I decided to turn my profile private/invisible. I didn't want my biological mom (BM) to see that I had done a DNA test as an invitation to message me. I looked at her profile one last time and it still said "last online 6 months ago" or something like that, so she obviously doesn't check the app regularly. I wrote down information about her (first and last name, birth year, 'past' family names) in case in the future I lose access to the account or if I want to try to track her down and her account disappeared. Though I am hoping that if I do decide to have contact with her in the future, I will just be able to message her on the app. But just in case.
I "confronted" my parents about what I had found out, there was a lot of crying. Especially from my mom, but also from me. I told them how hurt I was that they never told me, and how much it has caused pain and anxiety to find this out on my own and feeling like I was unable to ask them about it.
They apologised to me, they explained to me that they wanted to tell me. They planned on doing it when I turned 8, but they 'couldn't go through with it' because they 'didn't want to hurt me'. They said every year they planned to tell me and every year they put it off. They told me they did it out of love for me, but also out of anxiety that it would change our relationship for the worse.
I explained to them that even if them telling me that I was adopted did hurt me as a child I would have had them there to support me through it. And that now I had found out on my own and felt like I didn't have anyone there to understand what I was going through. They took responsibility for not telling me and for the hurt it caused when I was now.
We hugged, we cried and we forgave each other. Even though I don't agree with them not telling me, I can understand their feelings and why they found it so difficult when I was younger.
After we had finished talking about it they asked me what I wanted moving forward, if I wanted to tell my brothers that I was adopted or just carrying on like nothing happened. I said I no longer wanted it to be a secret and that I wanted them to tell my brothers what they should have told me. I didn't want it to seem like a 'dirty' secret, but simply a fact of who I am and where I came from. I want it to be something celebrated, not feared to be talked about. I wasn't born into this family, but this is my family. And I feel so blessed that I was given the opportunity to become part of this family.
I asked what they knew about my BM, they said not much. They know that she was in foster care when she fell pregnant with me, and that she would have only been 14/15 at the time. She decided she didn't want to keep me but didn't want to have a termination and so I was put up for adoption and that she requested 'no contact' with me. I hope that the situation around my birth wasn't traumatic for her. I know this is a weird thought, but I hope she just got pregnant with me from another person her own age and that I wasn't a product of any abuse. That makes me sad to think about.
Sorry for the long post. Again thank you all for the help and advice you all gave me. I appreciate everything.
TL;DR: Made profile private to avoid contact from biological mom. Confronted parents about adoption, led to tears and apologies. They planned to tell me but couldn't. Agreed to tell brothers, no longer want adoption to be a secret. Grateful for my family. Biological mom was in foster care, gave me up for adoption at 14/15, requested no contact. Hopeful for her well-being. Grateful for support and advice.
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Reminder, I am NOT OOP, please do NOT comment on original threads or contact OOP.

Hi, I upgraded to the passport membership but am unable to book at other clubs (not destination clubs in NY or LA). If I try on the app, it tells me I have no credits. If I try on the website, it tells me that I need to log in to the other club with a "continue" or "cancel" option. If I hit continue, it takes me to the other club to create a log in. If I hit cancel, it leaves me on a payment screen expecting me to pay for a single class at the other club.
I've been a member of club A for one month and just upgraded to passport. My account shows I am a passport member. I have previously signed up for Club B and taken two classes there (I was traveling). I have also signed up for Club C during this effort to book at another club.
I have had home club A change my password, I have logged out and back in, I have talked with Club B and Club C to see if there were any issues there, had Club C walk me through the process to no avail and then had Club B and Club C delete my accounts. I have tried booking at multiple other clubs in case the ones I chose happened to be destination clubs to no avail. I have talked with the owner of my home club and they cannot figure this out yet. I have asked about "amenities" and have been told that is not a thing now (something changed about that in the last year I believe). I have deleted the app and redownloaded and re-logged in to no avail. I have tried logging in to an incognito window to no avail. I have tried calling corporate, but they are pretty well shielded from franchise members.
Any advice? Please trust me when I say this is not user error in the typical booking process. I can log in to my home club, select a different location to book a class and see what is available in other locations, but just cannot book. Owner is trying to resolve and is also checking with a corporate resource to see what they can do.
thanks!

I am not a shill. But I believe in the company. So much so that I am a repeat customer and a shareholder. No, I am not brokering deals for family...my wife and I purchased these ourselves. I've had a major medical event and decided that some of our life savings was better used improving the lives of our loved ones. So the kids and parents got new (to them) cars courtesy of Carvana. My sister in law started a home daycare and we got her an 8-passenger highlander for school pickup. The wife and I picked up a 1400 mile 2021 Miata this past March because....why not? I sold a car to them in that same transaction.
Everyone is sharing their experience, so I will share mine. My Carvana experience started with an emergency need to replace a car for my brother in Texas late 2022. I didn't want to go pound the pavement all over the Austin area. This netted us a 2013 Scion xB with 51,000 miles. The vending machine was broken that day. That was sad.
The thing for me is that I am not running all over town often dealing with sleazeball salespeople. My selections aren't limited to what is on lots in the radius I want to drive to see it. I am not arm wrestling dealers for carfaxes to analyze on the spot, haggling, or trying to get them to think I am serious wearing jeans and sandals. Yes, this was a thing at a luxury make dealer a few years ago. I bought a Ford Maverick in April for my son. For those of you that know these are hard to come by and every dealer seems to think they are entitled to 5 grand over MSRP (or more on used). This was by far the best experience because I paid less than what they were going for on the lots here and didn't have to strong arm local dealers about it. I paid the $1990 shipping and still came out ahead of what I would have paid locally.
To date:
2 cash picked up from Austin, Texas and Daly City, CA vending machines.
5 Bridgecrest financed machines delivered to my door.
Sold them my 2019 Mustang GT when I did the aforementioned Daly City pickup.
Bought 200 shares of CVNA stock in December 2022 at 3.80/share.
Delays seemed to happen in 3 places: When things were left in my court (i.e. trying to push delivery out a month so I can get on a plane to receive the car or doing the manual ACH funds verification thing versus linking my bank or calling them on the phone), when the windshield is chipped or needs replacement, and when the vehicle had open recalls. Certain US states make dealers fix the recalls before they can be resold. Carvana is kind of cagey about this. Example: Our 2023 Highlander had a recall for the front bumper. Carvana replaced the front bumper (delayed it a week)( but didn't re-drill the holes for the front license plate.
One word of advice: If you are thinking about selling your car and your registration expiresin the next 60 days you will need to go renew it. I am not talking about going online and paying it. They need the actual legit DMV registration renewed and DMV receipt. I learned this the hard way and had to go stand in line to get it.
I became a Progressive customer with the first one. For each subsequent ones I logged into progressive once I finalized the order, snagged insurance and had it uploaded in 30 minutes.
Bridgecrest is right up there with Toyota Financial in terms of ease of working with.
Anyway - long rant. Here for support. Enjoy your rides!

This isn't in defense of CB in any way regarding the nightmares I see here...
None of this should matter as long as you log in and authenticate etc etc right?
Loggin in from new device or several devices? Have you moved? New bank accounts? Accessing from other states or countries? High volume of trades? Moving coins to several different wallets? Does using a VPN on a home laptop then accessing from your phone while not at home matter?
Just wondering if the above has anything to do with it so I can avoid any issues.
Are there automatic triggers?

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Sorry for the length but there’s a lot of background to this one. We have been friends since high school. Always maintained the same type of friendship even though he moved away for school and has not moved back ‘home’ since. Everything has always been great between us and our long distance friendship. Until one yr I went to visit him and his girlfriend of 10 yrs. I showed up and was told his other best friend was coming as well when he arrived home from work the next day. I didn’t think much of this because I had met multiple friends of his and never had an issue. The next morning his gf went to work. I hung out at their apartment waiting on his arrival. When he showed up, his work ‘friend’ was with him, wearing part of his uniform flirting with him while walking into his apartment that he shared with his long term girlfriend. He’s always had an overly friendly and welcoming personality so I tried to not think much of it. As the weekend went on I saw how she demanded his attention and if she wasn’t getting it, all of a sudden had ‘health issues’ and he would stay be her asking what he could do trying to comfort her halting any further activities. If he was with his gf, and I was the only one to to talk to (for example they went inside a grocery store or bed together) she would sit there and complain about how they were always fighting and how annoying and tiring it was. I was utterly confused and I would ask what fight? You mean them conversating about plans?! I thought she was insane and I couldn’t fathom how he didn’t see it and allowed her to behave this way. The weekend ended, we all went our separate ways. Just for me to come back 9 months later to find out, she moved from the top of the US, to the bottom, to be in the same city as him. On this trip, the same behaviors continued. My friend allowed it. Even with it being a weekend to celebrate HIS GIRLFRIENDS BIRTHDAY, he managed to prioritize his ‘friend’. I was appalled and shocked. I didn’t recognize him as my best friend anymore. He’s always been goofy and welcoming and was always able to manage friendships and people being around without prioritizing one person. His gf and him always made sure to be inclusive and never make anyone feel like the third wheel, yet when this ‘friend’ was around, it was uncomfortable for anyone who knew him before her. On this trip she confronted me, stating that she gets the feeling that I don’t like her. I laughed and said well yeah, that’s because I don’t. I continued to explain that everyone compares her to me as ‘his best friend’ which I felt insulted by because I was his best friend. If he’s happy, I’m happy. I love and adore his gf. I had always supported his relationship. Because he chose it and continues to choose it and they had been building a life together. I was happy with his success in his career and him living a life that he genuinely enjoyed. But she seemed to not support his relationship and from my perspective, seemed to be planting issues and negative thoughts of his relationship. I never heard her speak positive about it. She knew she was driving a wedge and instead of backing off and letting them sort it out, she dug in deeper. She loved the control she had and refused to stop. I told her I couldn’t remotely respect anyone like that. She said that he started the flirting, he admitted to liking the attention and it was his fault. She said she would stop it and be better. Fast forward a few months, I came back to visit. Same type of behavior. At this point I’m overly annoyed. I’m taking time off of work, and money to travel just to go and get put on a back burner for a ‘friend’ who lives in the same city, works with (and changes her work schedule to spend more time with him). I would think that since I’m a 9 hr drive away, maybe I’d be just equal to the friends that live there and you see all of the time? No. She was treated and accommodated for more again. At this point, I’ve decided I’m done wasting my time and money to travel to see him. Luckily on all of the trips, I got to hang out with his girlfriend who I love and adore. Since it’s not my relationship and I wasn’t in the situations I will not say anything other than, this ‘friend’ caused them serious issues. While all relationships have issues, they always seemed to work them out. This issue persisted and the ‘friend’, from the what I can tell dug in deeper and latched on more the worse it got. I found out the ‘friend’ had done this to another couple but they cut her out and worked on their relationship. Which is what I thought my best friend would do. Instead, he allowed their issues with and without the ‘friend’ destroy their 10+yr relationship. He called me to ask me if I thought his ‘friend’ had anything to do with it. I laid it ALL out there. How I thought she had a huge part in it, their so called friendship was very toxic and how it was even driving a wedge into it our friendship. I told him about every trip how uncomfortable I was I told him about her confronting me and what I told her. I told him best friends aren’t madly in love and want to fuck each other. He said he wasn’t madly in love with her and that he didn’t want to fuck her and that they would never be together. He took what I said and acknowledged that I do not ever want to be around he. Him and his ex girlfriend came to visit me a few times after their break up. Oddly enough when they did, his ‘friend’ felt inclined to call me to complain about it. ‘Why would you let them come together?!’she asked. So I calmly said, well his ex was just going to come but then HE asked to come with. They were both fine with it in fact they still live together and are fine around each other so I’m not sure what the issue is? We got into a deep conversation and she admitted that she viewed what she was doing with him, while in a relationship, was at the very least emotionally cheating. I told her there’s no way she can remotely view herself as a ‘best friend’ if she’s assisting, knowingly helping him emotionally cheat. I told her she should consider getting a lot of space between them and counseling. (Also in some time frame from my last visit to now, less than a yr, she moved into his apartment complex because living in the same city wasn’t close enough) A few months later he was having a ‘milestone’ birthday so there were plans to rent a cabin in his state with his friends. I was told I was invited but had to ‘be nice’ to the ‘friend’ who was also going. I know that everyone except him was dreading the fact she was going. So I decided why should I waste time off, and money, to go to the middle of the woods to be pissed off? I had always been civil with her. Never mean, but him telling me to be nice and her knowing that she caused issues and not stopping, I don’t think I could hold my tongue around her anymore. I didn’t go which I would have killed to go and celebrate my best friend but I couldn’t because I can’t be around her. My best friend and I got in a very big fight about this. My other best friend who went, told me he was glad I didn’t go because nothing had changed and I would have gone off on her and called the bad guy for calling her out on her shitty actions. Still my best friend doesn’t feel comfortable letting me come to visit because he would feel like he had to put one person above the other while I was there (for one weekend a yr) instead he feels it is best that I let him find the time to come visit me… even though coming back home, he has family and other old friends to make time for and visit so typically we get maybe 2-3 hrs together. I think that this is absolutely ridiculous and that he’s prioritizing his ‘friend’ who lives a short walk away from him. So am I the asshole for wanting to end our friendship?

If anyone is interested - I wrote a trip report from a recent trip a buddy and I did earlier this week. I highly recommend this trip if you’re in the area, it was well worth the 4 hour drive for us.
A co-worker and I from an outfitter down in Southeast PA decided to plan a trip to Ansonia, PA to Paddle Pine Creek. We planned the trip mostly out of the Keystone Canoeing book by Edward Gertler and information on the PA DCNR website. We originally planned to do a 2 night, 3 day trip. Pine Creek runs through a beautiful section of PA’s Grand Canyon, and is known for its beautiful views, good water, and amazing trout fishing. We met at our local outfitter at 6am to pick up our boats and get in the same car. By 6:30 we had our boats strapped down and our gear loaded and we hit the road. We stopped at wawa for sizzlis, energy drinks, nerd gummy clusters, and jolly ranchers which would serve as our road trip sustenance (we decided to eat super healthy this trip ;)). We had a 4 hour drive ahead of us which actually took a little bit longer since we stopped about halfway through for gas and a shit break. Aphex twin was the soundtrack of this road trip. At about 11am we rolled into the parking lot of Pine Creek Outfitters (PCO). Inside we were met with very helpful and knowledgeable staff, we also purchased a map there which ended up being super helpful as the maps we had from Keystone Canoeing weren't quite as detailed. The employees at PCO said the creek is pretty self explanatory but there's only one section we should be worried about which was Owassee rapid, they told us to just keep left and hug the bank. PCO directed us to a public canoe access no more than a quarter mile down the road where we would start our trip. We were on the water by noon and the views were not great at this point, as there was a large overcast and we were not quite in the depths of the . We had a quick flat paddle for about a mile or two until the water got going, and at about 12:30 we stopped to check the map. At this point we knew Owassee was coming up and we wanted to make sure we weren't surprised by it. The map noted that Owassee was preceded by a cabin with notable arches which we passed probably around 12:45. We pulled off towards the right side of the island at Owassee as PCO noted that the left side is known to have some killer strainers. We scouted Owassee for the next 15 minutes or so and crapped our pants. We were super nervous, this was the biggest water that either of us had run in a canoe before, let alone with all of our camping gear in our boat. The most daunting section of Owassee was a set of massive boulders to the right side of the channel which all of the water pushes you towards. Immediately following Owassee is a massive set of wave trains that I would (totally unprofessionally) eyeball to be 3-4 foot standing waves. Immediately preceding Owassee are a couple of flat boulders which are hard to see from the water so we were happy to scout and get a good look at it. I’d guess that at this water level Owassee was easily a Class 2+ or 3. We decided to take a line which stayed left pretty much the entire way until the big wave trains following Owassee where we could cut over to the right. At this point we headed back up to our boats to run it. It was a little sketchy, but not as bad as we thought it would be, a couple back paddles and keeping your bow pointed toward the island and you will be okay. The wave trains following Owassee were a little hectic, and we ended up taking on some water, especially me in my Heavy Old Town Discovery 168. We pulled off to the right after the Wave Trains to bail our boats and have a celebratory Miller Lite and Croissant (godly combo). We were in front of this awesome cabin called “Tiadaghton Lodge”, the cabin had a sweet foot bridge that crossed the river to allow for access to the cabin from the rail trail. At this point the sun had come out and we were officially in the heart of the PA Grand Canyon, the views were spectacular and it was just an overall phenomenal day outside. Once we were back on the water, we were super pleased with the flow. It was consistent Class 1’s with sprinkled Class 2’s pretty much for the rest of the day, it was a super enjoyable paddle and a pleasant challenge from the barely Class 1 water we were used to. We were now in the heart of the canyon and the views were just breathtaking, the vast canyon extending on either side of the creek really makes you feel small, and it was insane to think that this wildly different terrain was still in PA. The canyon was lined with awesome waterfalls that were really pleasing to see and hear along the way. Around probably 2 or 3 we stopped for a bathroom break and lunch. Up to this point we had only seen about 4 other people and none of them were on the river, 2 were riding horses and the rest were just hikers along the rail trail. By around 4pm we took a smaller channell to the right side of an island which turned out to be a good choice as we found an awesome little campsite here. We finished up clocking about 10 miles that day. There were two fire rings and a weird but cool table made by balancing a rock on top of a cut down tree stump, pretty cool. We spent the next hour or so setting up camp and then we relaxed in our hammocks until around 6 when we decided to make a fire and get dinner started. We struggled with starting a fire because of the rain that morning and the day before, but we got it started just enough to cook our food. I made Bombay Potatoes with Rice and some canned chicken and Owen (My coworker) made turkey sausages and canned tamales. We also made some warm fresh bread with some dough I had made when we got to camp. After eating we went into a food coma for a little until we decided to really make the fire big. We got it going probably for about an hour when we finished off all the miller lites we had brought. At this point we went to bed. I slept super well and was definitely warm enough despite only having a 50 degree bag, which is something I was worried about. I’m used to hammock camping, so having a tent was a super nice luxury to have. We woke up at about 7 or 8 am and took our morning nice and easy. We had planned to do an easy 15 miles this day and camp out at a campground in Cedar Run where we would try and figure out a ride back to our car. We took it easy, and ate instant oatmeal, scrambled eggs, and bacon spam along with instant coffee. It was an awesome breakfast although I could almost feel the heart attack from the spam. I definitely recommend Starbucks Via instant blonde roast for anyone looking for a good camping coffee option. I've been loving it so far, especially given that it's instant coffee. After breakfast we chilled in our hammocks by the water for about 15 minutes before we packed up camp and were back on the water by 10am. It was another beautiful day, atleast to start and the views were still just as stellar in the heart of the gorge. We had another nice stretch of river to start. We passed an awesome waterfall which I can’t remember the name of almost right after we left camp. We pulled over at about 11am to pee, make coffee and filter some more water. We pulled off next to this awesome waterfall that I used to wash some of my dishes from earlier and collect water that I could filter later on. We paddled for another 30 minutes or so until we saw a bald eagle chilling in a tree overhanging the creek. We stopped paddling and took out our phones to get some awesome videos of it. The eagle took off and flew around us and then up river with the crows in tail. It was an awesome experience. At this point the water chilled out for the most part, besides one more notable rapid called thread the needle, it was a super fun little bend and reminded me of a rapid back home. About an hour after this, the overcast came back and the wind really started to pick up. At this point the grand views from the gorge really seem to chill out as we started to enter civilization again. We passed the town of Blackwell and a nice little campground on our left side, there was a nice little canoe access there with some people hanging out and fishing. This would have been a good spot to end the trip if you just wanted to see the gorge. After Blackwell we passed Rattlesnake Rock where we saw some Mennonites hanging out and we asked them for some of the lore on the rock. They said that it was named by loggers back in the day when they found a ton of Rattlesnakes on it. The rest of the way was pretty mediocre water and we really ended up fighting the wind. We also passed a kayaker here who said that slate run (where we planned to get out) was only about an hour away. He ended up being wrong as it was about two hours but we paddled on, deciding to end the trip a day early and drive home that night. There were two more notable rapids before getting to slate run, one which must've been a Class 3 was notable due to the MASSIVE wave trains and a huge boulder hidden behind a standing wave, it must’ve been 4 foot standing waves we paddled through. The second was right before slate run, right next to a campground. Massive wave trains which swept you towards these massive undercut rocks which were super sketchy. These rapids were fairly easy to navigate as you can kind of avoid them altogether and were most likely larger than usual due to the rain the days before. We pulled into Slate Run at about 2pm. A local informed us that Slate Run is one of the best spots for trout fishing in the entire country, there was even a hotel basically just for trout fishermen across the creek from the We had no plan for a ride back to our care so we talked to some people at the Slate Run access asking for a ride. We also went up to the general store to ask some employees there. We got ice cream which was fantastic and then called PCO for a ride back. They weren't too happy with us as they usually require a reservation for their shuttle service and were getting ready to head home for the day, but they nonetheless gave us a ride. We made some coffee and instant ramen while waiting for the shuttle to arrive. Our shuttle driver was super nice and helpful and even took us the long way back to show us this cute little town of Wellsboro. She even offered us jobs in exchange for cheap NRS gear after seeing how easily we threw our boats around. She also showed us the way to get to an awesome lookout over the whole canyon. Overall I highly recommend PCO for any trips and if we ever come back will definitely be using them again, awesome people. After getting the car and boats loaded up, we headed up the canyon to checkout the canyon from the top. It was breathtaking, and a super cool and different perspective from what we saw from the water. After leaving the overlook we headed home. Stopping at Mcdonalds for some food along the way, and we rolled into the parking lot at about 11pm. Overall this was an awesome trip and highly recommended for anyone looking for awesome water, amazing views, or great camping. We will definitely be coming back.

At home I have Optimum 1G/1G and they provided their own modem/router which I had them put on Bridge mode. I do not have Plex subscription yet.
I have my own Router UMD pro and I created the Port forwarding rule for port 32400. In the Plex settings under remote access, I click Apply w/ manual specific public port 32400. It takes about a minute and then I get "Fully accessible outside your network".

Great! now I can see my movies outside my network. This only works for one day and in the morning (every morning) I log into plex check out the Remote access and its always off.

I have looked up the issue and all I came up with was that it's a double nat issue. I have my modem on bridge mode why would that be the issue. Any advice would be greatly appreciated!

For years, I've been putting an exhaust fan in one window and opening windows on the other side of the house to cool it at night. I've been thinking of upgrading to a whole house fan so got someone out for a quote. I was told they'd have to cut a hole in a wall to install a "damper" (?) that opens automatically when the fan is on to prevent negative pressure per code. Is this a thing? If I turn it on I'm going to open windows. Has a house ever imploded from a vacuum because someone didn't have a window open?
Ok, more clarification received. Apparently it's due to having gas appliances. Fine. Now he's saying the damper has to be 24"x36" and bigger vents added to the attic. I see attic fans from home depot much smaller but he says it has to be that size to accommodate the amount of air being moved. I don't need a 30mph wind blowing through.
Does anybody know a good company that won't try to screw me?

I'm running into issues managing the cutover between Folder Redirection between our file server and then applying the OneDrive KFM Intune policy so they don't conflict and cause issues.
Currently we have a User Configuration GPO set up applying to all users to redirect the Documents folder to their home drive location on a file share. I can turn off the policy and have the files stay on the file share. But since it's a User Configuration policy it only applies when they log in, correct? We have shared workstations that have 10+ users and also part time users that only log in maybe once a month.
If I apply the Intune policy to the computers before one of those user logs in and removes the redirection I think there will be a conflict and it won't work from them.
Has anyone migrated from a GPO Redirection Policy to OneDrive KFM?
Edit - Should I just nuke local profiles from these shared computers?

Recently switched to Quantum Fiber 360 home system.
Everything is great, but my 2.4 Ghz only devices are not connecting to the 360 pod system.
I have tried IOT onboarding which does not help as that only sends 2.4 Ghzto my phone and not the device I'm trying to connect, in my case a light switch and cameras.
Is there a way to set a specific pod to 2.4 only.
I've logged into the Admin Config, but I do not see an option to makea 2.4 only SSID.
Thanks.

So today I got swinddled a bit by someone. Basically i decided it's the right time to move on from the Thrustmaster ecosystem and give fanatec dd a go. I mostly play gt7 and am not super dedicated, which made paying full price + uk customs, postage etc a bit over the top. Had a look at how much I can sell my current setup (t300 rs gt, tlcm) for, made a rough budget and started looking for used fanatec stuff online. Most stuff was 650-700 for ps and found an add for a csl dd with rally wheel, pedals, clutch kit for 450, which I found a bit suspicious.
Got in touch with the seller and he told me he used it on both pc and ps and that everything worked fine so i went and picked it up and paid the man his money.
Sure enough, when I got home, i realised i hadn't done my homework and I in fact bought the xbox pc version.
I am now torn between: a) trying to speak to the guy, try to convince him to reverse the exchange, pay for another couple of ubers , and keep looking for a dd pro (yes, i know now...) maybe with lc pedals and selling my whole thrustmaster setup
b) biting the bullet and buying a drivehub, selling the original t300 gt rs, and the fanatec pedals and clutch kit, and using tlcm with the base
What would you do?

Good day to everyone,
I‘m 24 years old and I love to travel lots. I am from central Europe and I only visit Canada occasionally. When I was in Canada in march to visit a friend, I got a Bell prepaid sim card in my AirCanada flight. I had to enter all my details and my credit card information.
After five days, I went back home again and got rid of the card.
Thinking I paid my 60 Dollar bill through my credit card, I didn‘t think about that anymore for a month until I got a Bill from Bell for my Simcard.
I want to pay my bill but I just simply can‘t find a way how to.
I need to sign up for a Bell account which I can‘t because I don‘t have this sim card or phone number anymore and the log in screen doesn‘t recognise my E-Mail adress I used to acquire the sim card.
So I can‘t sign up for a Bell Account in any way and thus also can‘t see my E-Bill.
I tried contacting Bell but the guy from the support never picks up at the times he told me to and is often out of office for weeks.
I also wrote that guy an E-Mail but he never answered.
I got ghosted by Bell and I just desperately want to pay my bill. Now I have to pay double the amount because I am not paying for two months now.
Can anyone help me in any way or give me some advice please? Thank you so much.

Hey, I just went and got all the wood I’d need from Home Depot. Maybe unpopular, but I just got Douglas Fir for it all, and I’m curious what the best way to help preserve it. I know Cedar is more common for planter boxes, but this is my first time doing something like this and wanted to go the cheapest route.
Any suggestions for treating the wood for preservation purposes?