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2024.05.16 17:24 Profie02 i feel like i am not mature enough for college.
for reference, i am 16 years old, doing a finance and econometrics major. I genuinely feel like as if i am the most hardworking i have ever been, even back in high school i was a worse student but with better grades. i love the subjects i am taking, but my marks are just super low. For the past year, i have been mostly getting Cs, maybe an occasional B and if i don't do stellar for one of my finals this term, a D and i would probably have to repeat the unit.
It feels like as if for my 2nd semester in college i am hitting a brick wall and i can't do anything about it. it may be due to natural intelligence, or am i simply not working hard enough? i usually give about 2-3 hours worth of revision everyday, and never really subscribed to the 8-12 hour studying days. There's also other assignments and part-time jobs i have to do in the meantime too to keep myself afloat.
i came into college with a few scholarships, but those were gone by the time i hit my second semester. Thankfully money's not too big of an issue (my parents were smart with their money so i had a college fund) but i dont want to waste any of that money if i am not getitng anything from it in the first place. What should i do?
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It feels like as if for my 2nd semester in college i am hitting a brick wall and i can't do anything about it. it may be due to natural intelligence, or am i simply not working hard enough? i usually give about 2-3 hours worth of revision everyday, and never really subscribed to the 8-12 hour studying days. There's also other assignments and part-time jobs i have to do in the meantime too to keep myself afloat.
i came into college with a few scholarships, but those were gone by the time i hit my second semester. Thankfully money's not too big of an issue (my parents were smart with their money so i had a college fund) but i dont want to waste any of that money if i am not getitng anything from it in the first place. What should i do?
2024.05.16 17:23 Appropriate-Taro-824 Feeling Discouraged About the Process: Is Law School Even For Me? From Terrible Test Taker
After my high school graduation, my father made me start studying for the LSAT. I would just do practice problems, untimed, and take full-length tests, untimed, to just strive for accuracy. I think the peak I hit was 160, but this was five years ago. I took an online course with videos, etc. for it but I never could get the pattern for the LSAT logic (not logic games, just how the logic is used overall).
I continued to study in bits and pieces through my first year of college (UC Berkeley) until I decided late into my first year I'll double-major in Economics, and potentially triple-major in Chinese (which I was on the track to do until I was going to get a B in a ridiculous Mongolian class; after that point I could no longer triple-major because I had to drop the class and downgraded Chinese to a minor). I ended up having to take several 20+ units, including 16 unit semesters. I think if it wasn't for COVID-19, that would've been physically impossible. Hence, I stopped studying for the LSAT.
I wanted to work full-time to stand out more than the extracurriculars I already had. Frankly, I did very little in anything legal. Then I heard about the GRE, and how many law schools are now taking the GRE in lieu of an LSAT score if you so chose. I thought if I could ace the GRE (I would have to get near-perfect, probably around a 335 to even consider not taking the LSAT), then it would be over. I also was interested in potentially joining my JD with an MPP or MBA, which is why I chose the GRE route.
However, my GRE results have been far from ideal. There's absolutely no way I'm going to get a 335+. My test is in two weeks, it's my second exam, and while I probably will improve from my first sitting, I probably won't be improving to even the level of the MPP or MBA averages I need to be hitting. I would be BARELY at an "maybe competitive" score.
The reason I'm posting about this here is because: if I can't even excel on the GRE, how can I even expect to have a shot at the LSAT? All the GRE is supposed to be is a slightly harder version of the SAT. If my score was low because of the GRE's Quantitative score, that's one issue. But it's because of Verbal, which is more reflective of the LSAT compared to Quantitative. The Verbal section, apart from Vocab, is like traces of the LSAT (there's reading comprehension similar to the LSAT and even arguments/logical reasoning).
I think with the addition of my work experience, everything else about my application components gives me a chance (LSAC GPA: 3.935). It's the test, and unfortunately, the most important factor (with very few exceptions, but even then, a significant factor). I am considering giving up on my dream of going to law school and becoming a lawyer — perhaps my test-taking skills, or the lack thereof, is the sign that maybe law wasn't meant for me, and I wasn't meant for law. I've joined this subreddit a few weeks ago, and I'm seeing the general consensus that if you're not even hitting 170, honestly don't even bother applying until you do (unless you're a URM, which I'm not -- I'm an ORM with a URM parent, though). Even schools we never saw coming rising fast up in the ranks (like Minnesota) or even low T-50's (UC Irvine) are seeing at or near 170-averages, which means I'll need to be above that to really be competitive or at least around there (maybe -1 point at max) to be even moderately competitive.
I grew up in Korea until the first grade when my mother got sick and sent me to live in America while she was dealt with health issues. I know some people may say where you go to law school doesn't matter as much as we think it does, but the reality is that's just not true. Opportunities are SEALED SHUT if you don't go to a reputable enough school in many cases, and that will be indicative based on my admissions, which is indicative on my test scores. Moreover, my mother literally sent me away and gave up custody so I could have a better life than she could give me. It would literally be dishonoring that sacrifice if I just go to some rink-a-dink school --- mind as well just not apply at all.
I guess I'm writing to a) vent; b) trying to get some encouragement or reassurance from ppl who have been through the process or going through it; c) legitimately consider if law school is something that's viable for me -- and not just any law school -- a good one (goal is minimum T-14 or higher). I'd rather just save myself the trouble if I'm not and just turn my attention to a different direction.
Thanks.
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I continued to study in bits and pieces through my first year of college (UC Berkeley) until I decided late into my first year I'll double-major in Economics, and potentially triple-major in Chinese (which I was on the track to do until I was going to get a B in a ridiculous Mongolian class; after that point I could no longer triple-major because I had to drop the class and downgraded Chinese to a minor). I ended up having to take several 20+ units, including 16 unit semesters. I think if it wasn't for COVID-19, that would've been physically impossible. Hence, I stopped studying for the LSAT.
I wanted to work full-time to stand out more than the extracurriculars I already had. Frankly, I did very little in anything legal. Then I heard about the GRE, and how many law schools are now taking the GRE in lieu of an LSAT score if you so chose. I thought if I could ace the GRE (I would have to get near-perfect, probably around a 335 to even consider not taking the LSAT), then it would be over. I also was interested in potentially joining my JD with an MPP or MBA, which is why I chose the GRE route.
However, my GRE results have been far from ideal. There's absolutely no way I'm going to get a 335+. My test is in two weeks, it's my second exam, and while I probably will improve from my first sitting, I probably won't be improving to even the level of the MPP or MBA averages I need to be hitting. I would be BARELY at an "maybe competitive" score.
The reason I'm posting about this here is because: if I can't even excel on the GRE, how can I even expect to have a shot at the LSAT? All the GRE is supposed to be is a slightly harder version of the SAT. If my score was low because of the GRE's Quantitative score, that's one issue. But it's because of Verbal, which is more reflective of the LSAT compared to Quantitative. The Verbal section, apart from Vocab, is like traces of the LSAT (there's reading comprehension similar to the LSAT and even arguments/logical reasoning).
I think with the addition of my work experience, everything else about my application components gives me a chance (LSAC GPA: 3.935). It's the test, and unfortunately, the most important factor (with very few exceptions, but even then, a significant factor). I am considering giving up on my dream of going to law school and becoming a lawyer — perhaps my test-taking skills, or the lack thereof, is the sign that maybe law wasn't meant for me, and I wasn't meant for law. I've joined this subreddit a few weeks ago, and I'm seeing the general consensus that if you're not even hitting 170, honestly don't even bother applying until you do (unless you're a URM, which I'm not -- I'm an ORM with a URM parent, though). Even schools we never saw coming rising fast up in the ranks (like Minnesota) or even low T-50's (UC Irvine) are seeing at or near 170-averages, which means I'll need to be above that to really be competitive or at least around there (maybe -1 point at max) to be even moderately competitive.
I grew up in Korea until the first grade when my mother got sick and sent me to live in America while she was dealt with health issues. I know some people may say where you go to law school doesn't matter as much as we think it does, but the reality is that's just not true. Opportunities are SEALED SHUT if you don't go to a reputable enough school in many cases, and that will be indicative based on my admissions, which is indicative on my test scores. Moreover, my mother literally sent me away and gave up custody so I could have a better life than she could give me. It would literally be dishonoring that sacrifice if I just go to some rink-a-dink school --- mind as well just not apply at all.
I guess I'm writing to a) vent; b) trying to get some encouragement or reassurance from ppl who have been through the process or going through it; c) legitimately consider if law school is something that's viable for me -- and not just any law school -- a good one (goal is minimum T-14 or higher). I'd rather just save myself the trouble if I'm not and just turn my attention to a different direction.
Thanks.
2024.05.16 17:20 An_elfy_man Way too close to home
 | Last night I had an episode of hurting myself and depression. I have had depression for a very long time, since the first grade. I woke today and started to play ACNH and I got this letter. Thanks Snake. submitted by An_elfy_man to AnimalCrossingNewHor [link] [comments] |
2024.05.16 17:19 KaitheKat First dose of ADHD medication
Hi all!! I just have a quick question. I finally got my first dose of Adderall today and after taking it I felt my brain calm and become less caotic. Usually i feel like i have 55 tabs open all playing some different sounds and i can never collect myself and think or anything its miserable. After taking my 15 mg pill about an hour in I started to feel so calm. I felt calm and my brain felt at peace. Not only that but i felt like I had the energy and ability to begin tasks that I previously had been frozen and too overwhelmed to do. Is this normal? I have never taken anything like this before. I also tend to doubt myself.
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2024.05.16 17:19 pwnr_bonr A glimmer in the darkness.
The odds get more and more slim with each passing day.
My hope tank is on empty and I need a win.
On the outside, I carry on each day. On the inside the little boy loses hope, one day it will run out.
I don't know how much longer I can endure NC from you.
I am expecting some kind of response, even if you text me and tell me to forget about you - it would hurt, but if you're happier without me, then I would have no choice...at least then I would have some kind of information from you. To take a more positive direction in my love life than waiting for my lost love to utter any words to my anxious ears.
My confidence in you has been shaken and the thoughts of future us hang by a thread of hope.
My rational side is telling me I have no time to sit and be sad, no time to wait for some contact from you. No time to wait for eternity for your returned love because that's what I am willing to do.
I don't want to isolate your voice to the smallest part of my heart again because I know how much damage it did to you the first time...I'm not willing to put anyone I love through pain like that ever again..such a shifty way to learn the hardest lesson of love.......loss.
In order for me to succeed in my studies, I cannot have distractions of this magnitude...though, once I am finished. I will return to the place I left you, chances are you won't be there - that's so long from now.
I want to buy a plane ticket today and see you, befriend you again, court you in the proper fashion because it's what we chose to skip in the last life we shared. We didn't get to have the small moments in person that build the trust, that allow us to get to know each other's mannerisms and love styles. We didn't really have that option because we were separated by such large distances...besides, we were in love. We overcame for a while, but I messed it up from the start...and I know that. I'm not willing to do it that way again.
I want to do it the right way, so you can see the effort...so you can begin to trust me again as you once did. We may have been naive, for sure, but it felt so good and so right once we were together.
If I have the opportunity, if I see you in town somewhere...I will start from scratch, like we've never met before...like we've never been one before...it would be beautiful.
I know I still have a ton to learn about myself, about love, about relationships, about you. The time that has elapsed has made us strangers and that does hurt, but it would be such a great way for us to get to know each other before diving into a life of commitment we thought we wanted.
This time I want to be sure that's what we want. I want you to see that I haven't stopped loving you for one second while we've been apart. I loved you with all my heart but I wasn't able to express it in a way that made you feel my love for you.
It may have been my job...it may have been the alcoholic traits I carry...
This time there will be no excuses as I will learn the new you inside and out..
I need to make this happen...maybe I'm going to school in the wrong state. Maybe I need to show some monumental effort that will let you know without one ounce of doubt that I mean every single word I write to you in this space.
I have research to do..it hasn't occurred to me that I don't have to go to school in this godforsaken state..fml!
If you utter one thing to me...tell me you are still living where I think you are. If you are, you should have received my written words by now.
I won't stand by and let you go again, I can't...and if I think about it...I left you and I should be the one to seek you out. I think my intuition is correct about where you are.
I don't want to make you promises I cannot keep, but know this, I will give this the energy it requires.
I've never taken any risk...you took all the risk the first time....and now it's my turn.
I love you will all my heart - you will know very soon what I have decided.
I already feel like I'm leaning that way...I only need information, that's the easy part.
I will come back to you and if we meet, I will make sure that you are the most loved woman on this fucking planet!
Always,
T
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My hope tank is on empty and I need a win.
On the outside, I carry on each day. On the inside the little boy loses hope, one day it will run out.
I don't know how much longer I can endure NC from you.
I am expecting some kind of response, even if you text me and tell me to forget about you - it would hurt, but if you're happier without me, then I would have no choice...at least then I would have some kind of information from you. To take a more positive direction in my love life than waiting for my lost love to utter any words to my anxious ears.
My confidence in you has been shaken and the thoughts of future us hang by a thread of hope.
My rational side is telling me I have no time to sit and be sad, no time to wait for some contact from you. No time to wait for eternity for your returned love because that's what I am willing to do.
I don't want to isolate your voice to the smallest part of my heart again because I know how much damage it did to you the first time...I'm not willing to put anyone I love through pain like that ever again..such a shifty way to learn the hardest lesson of love.......loss.
In order for me to succeed in my studies, I cannot have distractions of this magnitude...though, once I am finished. I will return to the place I left you, chances are you won't be there - that's so long from now.
I want to buy a plane ticket today and see you, befriend you again, court you in the proper fashion because it's what we chose to skip in the last life we shared. We didn't get to have the small moments in person that build the trust, that allow us to get to know each other's mannerisms and love styles. We didn't really have that option because we were separated by such large distances...besides, we were in love. We overcame for a while, but I messed it up from the start...and I know that. I'm not willing to do it that way again.
I want to do it the right way, so you can see the effort...so you can begin to trust me again as you once did. We may have been naive, for sure, but it felt so good and so right once we were together.
If I have the opportunity, if I see you in town somewhere...I will start from scratch, like we've never met before...like we've never been one before...it would be beautiful.
I know I still have a ton to learn about myself, about love, about relationships, about you. The time that has elapsed has made us strangers and that does hurt, but it would be such a great way for us to get to know each other before diving into a life of commitment we thought we wanted.
This time I want to be sure that's what we want. I want you to see that I haven't stopped loving you for one second while we've been apart. I loved you with all my heart but I wasn't able to express it in a way that made you feel my love for you.
It may have been my job...it may have been the alcoholic traits I carry...
This time there will be no excuses as I will learn the new you inside and out..
I need to make this happen...maybe I'm going to school in the wrong state. Maybe I need to show some monumental effort that will let you know without one ounce of doubt that I mean every single word I write to you in this space.
I have research to do..it hasn't occurred to me that I don't have to go to school in this godforsaken state..fml!
If you utter one thing to me...tell me you are still living where I think you are. If you are, you should have received my written words by now.
I won't stand by and let you go again, I can't...and if I think about it...I left you and I should be the one to seek you out. I think my intuition is correct about where you are.
I don't want to make you promises I cannot keep, but know this, I will give this the energy it requires.
I've never taken any risk...you took all the risk the first time....and now it's my turn.
I love you will all my heart - you will know very soon what I have decided.
I already feel like I'm leaning that way...I only need information, that's the easy part.
I will come back to you and if we meet, I will make sure that you are the most loved woman on this fucking planet!
Always,
T
2024.05.16 17:19 goutking Sayulita met expectations 💩
This is not my first time in Mexico or Sayulita. I spent a few weeks in the PVR area before heading to Sayulita for the final few days of my trip. I was only in Sayulita for 3 days and by day 2 my stomach was destroyed. I cant tell if its food poisoning or something else. After reading other comments its worth mentioning, I did not go into the water on the main beach at all. I ate fairly conservatively. No idea what could have caused this.
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2024.05.16 17:19 lawfullytired Got a letter saying I have been withdrawn from my college for low GPA… what are my next steps?
Apologies if this seems sporadic but usually I just come to reddit for advice/crises and this is a big one. This afternoon I got a text from a random number that I didn’t recognize. The text just had my name and a link, nothing else. I didn’t receive any emails prior to this, which I think is important to note.
The link required me to input my college ID number, which I did, and it was a pdf. In the lettepdf it says that due to poor academic performance this semester I have been academically withdrawn from my college. It also noted that I can appeal this, as well as reapply (if I don’t appeal) after a semester.
for context, i knew my grades were going to be pretty bad this semester. i had a health crisis early on that wound up in me almost being sent to the hospital but my friend made a care report to the dean’s office. Ever since february, I have been meeting with them weekly. I was missing a lot of work from early in the semester, which I was able to make up, but I still performed poorly on exams which was why I still failed most of my classes. My case manager as well as the dean for academic engagement advised me to get a letter from my psychiatrist to say I was getting treatment and to allow me to have accommodations next semester. They said if I get this letter I would more than likely be able to retroactively medically withdrawal, in which case all the grades from this semester would be wiped.
So definitely my next step would be to get that letter ASAP, but what else can I do? I am taking summer classes to fulfill the requirements from the classes I failed this semester as well as to help me be on track to graduate on time (I’m an incoming senior), so I’m just trying to totally unfuck myself out of the situation I got myself into. My parents tore into me (rightfully so), and my whole support system of friends and family are disappointed in me (also rightfully so). I have been crying for hours just because I’ve let everyone down, and I know it is up to me to make them proud of me again. But also, the biggest reason how I got in this mess was focusing on everyone except myself- focusing on my friends and hanging out with them instead of doing my work which will allow me to graduate alongside them… I know it was a terrible decision. A lot of it was my mental state (I only got diagnosed/medicated for OCD after the crisis happened, and the first medication I was on made it worse), but just as much as it is that it is also just as much my fault. I really need to spend this summer working hard for MYSELF and no one else.
I was wondering if anyone had some words of advice for this situation. I can also answer any questions. I was never on academic probation or anything of the sort before this, it has only happened this semester. I am a computer science major if that provides any information. I really don’t want to be kicked out for one fucked up semester. I want to prove to myself and everyone else that I CAN do this, and I know every step of the way from here on out will be hard as hell. What else can I do to dig myself out of this hole?
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The link required me to input my college ID number, which I did, and it was a pdf. In the lettepdf it says that due to poor academic performance this semester I have been academically withdrawn from my college. It also noted that I can appeal this, as well as reapply (if I don’t appeal) after a semester.
for context, i knew my grades were going to be pretty bad this semester. i had a health crisis early on that wound up in me almost being sent to the hospital but my friend made a care report to the dean’s office. Ever since february, I have been meeting with them weekly. I was missing a lot of work from early in the semester, which I was able to make up, but I still performed poorly on exams which was why I still failed most of my classes. My case manager as well as the dean for academic engagement advised me to get a letter from my psychiatrist to say I was getting treatment and to allow me to have accommodations next semester. They said if I get this letter I would more than likely be able to retroactively medically withdrawal, in which case all the grades from this semester would be wiped.
So definitely my next step would be to get that letter ASAP, but what else can I do? I am taking summer classes to fulfill the requirements from the classes I failed this semester as well as to help me be on track to graduate on time (I’m an incoming senior), so I’m just trying to totally unfuck myself out of the situation I got myself into. My parents tore into me (rightfully so), and my whole support system of friends and family are disappointed in me (also rightfully so). I have been crying for hours just because I’ve let everyone down, and I know it is up to me to make them proud of me again. But also, the biggest reason how I got in this mess was focusing on everyone except myself- focusing on my friends and hanging out with them instead of doing my work which will allow me to graduate alongside them… I know it was a terrible decision. A lot of it was my mental state (I only got diagnosed/medicated for OCD after the crisis happened, and the first medication I was on made it worse), but just as much as it is that it is also just as much my fault. I really need to spend this summer working hard for MYSELF and no one else.
I was wondering if anyone had some words of advice for this situation. I can also answer any questions. I was never on academic probation or anything of the sort before this, it has only happened this semester. I am a computer science major if that provides any information. I really don’t want to be kicked out for one fucked up semester. I want to prove to myself and everyone else that I CAN do this, and I know every step of the way from here on out will be hard as hell. What else can I do to dig myself out of this hole?
2024.05.16 17:16 Patient-Wrongdoer711 Type me (questionnaire)
link to google doc for the questionnaire, but this post will have some simpler info if you don't want to read through all of that. Just let me know if you used the doc for your evaluation or not, please!
recent sociotype test result: https://sociotype.xyz/i=8c0ZY6vJW2Olr9
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recent sociotype test result: https://sociotype.xyz/i=8c0ZY6vJW2Olr9
- I consider myself hyper-empathetic. I tend to feel emotions very strongly and it took me a very long time to understand why I would feel things that I didn't have a reason to feel! When I'm physically around others I can get overwhelmed with different emotions, it creates a very physical reaction in my body... I usually get goosebumps or shivers down my back! Thankfully I have learned how to ground myself as I've gotten older.
- My friends and family say I'm really good at reading others! One of my friend's says it's "eerie" though... I try to keep my revelations to myself as I learned to associate my deduction skills with unnecessary intrusion/invasion of privacy.
- When typing myself, I found myself molding around anything I read. I could find myself relating 100% to... EVERYTHING??? I had to take a break from evaluating my typology because of the constant state of confusion I found myself in
- I have typed myself as ENFP (age 14), INFP (ages 15-17), INTP (ages 18-19), ENTP (age 19), ISTP (age 19), and INFJ (in that order)
- I've been typed by others as ESFP (age 15), ENFJ (ages 15-16), INFJ (age 16), and ENTP (ages 18-19) (in that order).
- as for ennea types, I have been typed as sp7/sx7, sx5, e6, and so4.
- I have a very strong relationship with my siblings, who are both Fe dominant (ESFJ and ENFJ). I especially spend a lot of time with my brother (ESFJ), who is a little over a year younger than me. I tend to be a listener more than anything, but I do my best to engage every once in a while to make sure he doesn't feel like he's talking to a brick wall!
- I hate today's politics. I find most debates quite meaningless and solutions so easy to implement, but nothing is being solved. However, my brother really enjoys politics, so I just try to remain calm when heated topics are brought up
- I love music. I place a lot of power on it as I believe it has the ability to bring differing individuals together; to initiate mutual understanding/basic empathy.
- I love analyzing lyrics and possible themes the most. Because of this, I am able to enjoy various genres.
- Recently I've been craving physical activity more, I've never been big on working out, sports, or being out in nature. But something about it is really intriguing to me now?
- I was a very social child, I attempted to make friends with everyone/anyone I could. I craved connection and understanding... I was often picked on/bullied due to this. I was seen as overly eager, gullible, and just plain "weird" for trying to chime in. This led to a very isolating adolescence. I learned that being invisible was safer than to be rejected or hurt...
- I do not have any "childhood friends", my first real friend was made in 6th grade. They were sitting alone with a sketchbook, I decided to give them company for some reason. I'm glad I did though because are still friends to this day :]
2024.05.16 17:15 Suspicious_Finger590 "Boundaries," Hot Marriage and Really Long, runon sentences ...
DISCLAIMER: I did not transcribe this myself, though I could. I had a machine do it, and then the machine threw up afterwards -- but I did go through and add some bullety points while Jamie shot off her mouth. It's a total word salad, but one has only to skim through and see the number of ways she yawns and yawps and contradicts herself ... and does not take a breath, so there is very little punctuation. Again it's a run-on slog and the AI program chose to only use periods to end 70-some sentences because of all the run-on "like ... you know ... and ... but" instances as she ran with it -- with NO BOUNDARIES WHATSOVER. I did take out the kids' names, and I did search-and-replace all instances of "to" with "tuh" because that IS how they talk!
ENJOY -- and I use that word lightly:
AND SO IT BEGINS WITH Doug wishing Happy Mother's Day … and immediately Jamie corrects him, "Well, not really Mother's Day …" since they are recording after Mother's Day. Got get those Doug corrections in toot sweet, lest he thinks he has a mind of his own.
They note they tend to be "a little late on things," but they are "trying to get better about that." Doug says they had a fantastic Mother's Day, and he asked her if she had a good time. She said she had a great time. Doug wrote Happy Mother's Day on some cards and the kids drew on them. He gave her an eyelash waxing and noted probably a bad idea. She said it wasn't that she wasn't thrilled as she did mention that pregnancy makes her eyebrows bushy, but she was scared, maybe just mentioned she'd need to tweeze, but oh, well, yes, she likes his gift.
Jamie noted that it was "just the four of us" and of course, the babies in her belly, and that was fine with her – until her son's birthday of course, when she noted that their entire families suck!
So onto her son's birthdays and THESE GEMS AND THOUGHTS: I think it's just pregnancy hormones, but honestly, like, I just, I just can't, like, I don't know why, like, I guess, like, you know, ever since I was little, I've always really, really wanted family, like, so badly, like, I wanted just, like, deep connections with people who truly love me, and I truly love them, and we just really, truly support each other, and just, I don't know, I think, like, just pregnancy hormones made me think about it, but, like, yesterday for Son's birthday, and just family members who just completely forgot, and they just don't care, and I'm like, is it me? Is it him?
Like, and I don't want my son tuh grow, like, he doesn't know, and he'll never know, because I'll make sure, I mean, I spent every second, that boy had no second tuh think yesterday, like, I picked him up from school, and I took him tuh the library, because that's where he wanted tuh go, and then we, like, you know, we really love surprises in this family, if that's not clear by now, and so Daughter and I surprised him with a splash pad, like, we went tuh the splash pad for the first time, and we never do things like that on a school night, and so, and then he got tuh go pick out a cake that he wanted, and then Doug had dinner already at home, and then also we had decorations in his bedroom, which I was, like, hoping tuh have for the morning, but then Doug was, like, at, like, midnight, when we're, like, thinking about starting tuh blow up the balloons, Doug is like, Jamie, let's just surprise him tomorrow after school.
(Notice she takes no breath … and also they were super-last minute when it came tuh getting ready for his birthday, versus, what we have all mentioned, that isn't so when it's a gender reveal or a party or pickleball or something FOR HER.)
HERE, DOUG ASKS … "WHY, ARE WE GONNA DO THIS NOW?" AND THIS WAS PRETTY MUCH THE LAST EFFORT HE MADE tuh STOP HER BECAUSE SHE WENT ON WITH: Yeah, because it was so late, but I was like, I just have, like, this vision that I just wanted for him, because, you know, I'm just trying tuh give them the childhood that, like, I would have wanted, that any little kid would want, and really all that involves is truly just two loving parents who are there, and, like, that's really all that really involves, but if I can go a little extra, you know, and surprise him, and I, then I want to, you know, and so, you know.
DOUG NOTES THAT HE DOESN'T THINK THEY KNOW ANY DIFFERENT, AND HE CONTINUES WITH: I don't think they really know any different, you know, and I know, I know it's, it's tough, and I think, especially with, like, little kids, you know, they, they won't necessarily feel the impact and that want, you know, and, and I know that you do, and it, it hurts me that, you know, you would, you would want people tuh care enough to, tuh reach out, and I think, you know, for, for me, I, that's, I don't really set my expectations or, or give those expectations tuh son and daughter.
JAMIE BLASTS BACK, SUPER-DEFENSIVELY: Oh, I do not either, though. I do not at all. I don't say a thing tuh them about anything, because, you know, sometimes people miss their – you know, and that happens sometimes, but when it's, like, over, and over, and over again, and, like, it's just so obvious, and, and people ask us why we moved tuh Florida, and don't we want tuh be near family, and, you know, tuh be very honest, this is why.
Like, we, you know, I, we would fly up there tuh try tuh prove, like, hey, listen, we're not just trying tuh leave, though. Like, we, we, I want that family connection so badly with your family, with my family, and it's just, you know, unfortunately, it's, people are in different stages of life. I try tuh make excuses, like, for them, and, you know, for us, and it's probably not personal, but the point of the matter is, is that whether it's not personal, and people are busy, and whatever the case may be, we don't have that family connection.
We just don't, and I'm, I try tuh nurture it, and, um, you know, and we do with some family members, and then just others, you know, you just, it's just. Well, you can't help but be disappointed. Yeah, and, like, I guess my heart hurts, because I want our son, and our daughter, and our children tuh have just so many people who love them, and want tuh be around them, and who will encourage them, and support them, and.
DOUG NOTES THAT HE THINKS FAMILY KNOW ALL OF THIS AND THAT THEY, THE KIDS KNOW HOW MUCH LOVE THEY HAVE FOR THEM, AND ALL THE EFFORTS THEY PUT FORTH, AND HERE HE SAYS, "Especially you," AND THAT ALL OF THIS IS WHAT MATTERS MOST.
JAMIE'S REBUTTAL: Yeah, I know, but Doug, what I'm trying tuh say is that, like, what I would want for them is them tuh have many people who love them, and, like, you know, like, I always wanted, you know, it's not even a secret, like, way back, I'm married at first, like, the one thing I wanted was tuh marry into a family, like, a big loving family that would welcome me as their own, and, and I'm really thankful for your family, and, yeah, but, like, I just feel like, like, I want that for our kids. Like, I wanted them tuh have people who loved them, who wanted tuh come around them.
Like, my, my siblings and I really didn't have many aunts or uncles or grandparents who, I mean, you know, it's kind of, it's so long, because, like, there are some people who were there, but it was, like, toxic, and aye, aye, aye, it's just, you know, it's just, at the end of the day, I'm pregnant, and it's just hormones, and I know our kids feel nothing but loved, but it's just really evident, like, on a birthday or holidays, like, people who, who actually, like, family who actually truly cares for us, and, like, all I've ever wanted was just our, like, I, I don't know why I care about these people caring about me, when, like, they don't care, and it's okay, and that's, that's, it's okay.
Like, it, I'm trying so hard tuh just be, like, accept it, girl. Like, you know, you can't force family tuh love you.
JAMIE TRIES TO DIFFUSE THE TIMEBOMB SITUATION THAT IS HIS WIFE, CLEARLY GOING OFF ON EVERYBODY BY SAYING HE KNOWS THAT SHE DOESN'T WANT THIS FOR THEM BUT THAT THEY, THE KIDS, DON'T EVEN NOW ABOUT ALL OF THIS RIGHT NOW.
JAMIE'S REBUTTAL: Well, I know they don't, and so, at the end of the day, I was, like, sitting in bed crying earlier, and I was, like, what is wrong with me, because I know my son had a great birthday yesterday. Like, I made sure of it.
DOUG NOTES SHE "KILLED IT, YESTERDAY."
JAMIE BLASTS ON: At the end of the day, I think, like, it's a personal thing, because it's, like, they don't care about me, and therefore, they don't care about my son, and that hurts, you know? Like, it's just hurtful, and not, because I care about them, and I love them, and I've tried so hard tuh be part of them, and, and try to, like, I've tried changing my ways. I've tried tuh adapt tuh be more like them.
I've tried all these different things. At the end of the day, nothing I do, like, I may as well just be myself, and, and, because if I have tried tuh be like them, they don't like me. If I try tuh be myself, they don't like me.
Like, no matter what, like, I don't feel like, I feel like they're, I'm just kind of judged by them in the way that I live my life, and anyways, it's fine, but.
DOUG COUNTERS IT WITH THE FACT THAT JAMIE GOES "ABOVE AND BEYOND FOR EVERYBODY," AND THAT IT'S TOUGH THAT SHE "WANTS OR EXPECTS THAT IN RETURN," BUT NOTES THAT THIS IS ALSO MAYBE WHERE THE "BOUNDARIES" LIE … cool, they now have a title for the podcast!
JAMIE CONTINUES tuh BLAST: Well, no, of course, and this is exactly why I'm also crying happy tears, because for so long, I just really tried tuh nurture, like, a true, like, true family, and deep connection, and like, try tuh be, like, really close, and, and it's like, well, if you're the only person nurturing that, you're bound tuh get hurt. It's bound, it's not going tuh happen ever, because it has tuh be a two-way street, and so, unfortunately, like, I started putting up boundaries, and I knew it was going tuh hurt, and like, here it is. It's, it's hurting, you know, like, and then inevitably, they'll be like, you know, you moved tuh Florida, but even when we didn't live in Florida, let's be honest, like, we didn't see family very often, unless, like, it was, it just, unless it was us going places, and then even when we moved here, I would fly up there.
I flew up, we were flying up there, like, once a month. It was so expensive. It was so taxing, but I just wanted to, tuh kind of prove, hey, listen, like, but, you know, I'm so glad we moved here, because at the end of the day, you know, even if we never even find our own people, like, our focus is on our core family, like, we had zero distractions for Son yesterday, like, his birthday was the hundred, like, and it's just, that feels good, because normally, we wouldn't have that. Yeah, normally, I would be cleaning the house, trying tuh prep for people tuh come over, who I would have called 10 times, make sure they remember that he's coming, and it's like, or that his birthday is coming, and it's like, it's just, you know, this is such a vulnerable, I don't even know if I want tuh share any of this, because it's just so personal, but.
DOUG NOTES THAT ALL REFLECTS MORE ABOUT OTHERS AND NOT AN ATTACK ON JAMIE.
AND YET JAMIE CONTINUES TO DEFLECT AND ATTACK: No, I don't think it is either, but it's just very evident where people, like, if people care about us and our family, I don't think they actually, that's the thing, is they don't, like, and so, they're not thinking about it one way or the other, it doesn't even matter tuh them, and that's what hurts, because I wish that they cared about us the way that we cared about them, but they don't, and so, that's why I'm trying tuh have the boundaries tuh be like, find people who will care about you then, or just focus on your own family, and if people wonder why I want so many kids, well, there you go. People constantly say, why don't you love the two you have?
Oh, of course I do, and I'll tell you what, I want tuh have 10 more, because I want tuh raise them in a way where we love each other, we're always there for each other, we don't forget. It's just silly little milestones, it's not about presents, it's not about anything other than just love, and remembrance, and just, like, celebrating each other, and I am going tuh raise my kids tuh just really love each other, and tuh know that their parents love them, but God forbid, one of us are taken, and then, then it's like, I think about things like that, and I'm like, who do they have if they don't have us? Like, seriously, and that scares the crap out of me, because there are very few people who even remember, like, and tuh me, it's just a birthday, I know, it doesn't really matter, but like, that's of significance tuh that child, and people just don't care, like, they just, our fam, so many of our family members just don't care. Well, we make, we make it, and then I'm like, am I making a mountain out of a molehill, but like, and am I?
DOUG ALSO THINKS ABOUT THEM "DEPARTING EARLY" AND WHAT HAPPENS tuh THEM.
JAMIE BUSTS BACK IN, AND STARTS tuh TALK ABOUT "ESTATE PLANNING," WHICH SORT OF MADE ME SIDEYE BECAUSE SHE GOES ON tuh TALK ABOUT THE KIDS AND WHAT WOULD HAPPEN TO THEM, AS IF THEY WERE PART OF THE "ESTATE," BUT I GUESS SINCE THEY ARE THE MONEYMAKERS SHE THINKS OF IT MORE IN THAT WAY THAN GUARDIANSHIP PAPERWORK … AND SO SHE CONTINUES: Well, when you think about estate planning, and then who you're leaving your kids to, and I'm like, who can I leave my kids to, who are really going tuh love them, and the people right now didn't even call tuh wish him happy birthday, they didn't even call tuh wish him a happy birthday, they didn't send a gift, and it's not even about the gift, but it's about the thought, who do we have in our life, Doug? I don't think it's, you know, I ask if I think I'm making a mountain out of a molehill, but then I, like, I almost, like, talk, like, convince myself that, no, I'm not, like, I'm really trying tuh make sure that our kids are taken, like, loved and taken care of, and sure, we've got it out, down pat, but what happens, like, then what?
And like, I'm not gonna go down that rabbit hole, and I'm sure this is all pregnancy hormones, and I'm just exhausted and tired, so, but I just think about these things, and then, and then people wonder why I am so thankful for our followers, for those of you listening tuh the podcast, and those of you who follow us on Instagram and YouTube, and who are just excited for us, because a lot of our own family members aren't, like, it's just wild, and so, yeah, and so thank you for those of you listening, and for those of you who comment, and just, you know, just are excited to, like, like, tuh be part of our family, like, because we have forever been looking for that, and, like, our family's just not that interested, and we could try, and try, and try.
DOUG: Out of sight, out of mind.
JAMIE BINGOS!!!!! THAT THOUGHT AND CONTINUES: Yeah, it's, and it's fine, but I'll tell you what, I genuinely do appreciate every single five-star review, every single, like, nudge that you just, every single moment that you take out of your life just tuh be like, hey, what's up with Jamie, you know, and that's why I try tuh do giveaways, and I try to, you know, like, read your five-star reviews, and I try tuh show you that I genuinely care about you, too, because I really think that it is a two-way street with everything in life, like, so whether it's, you know, family, it's friends, it's working, it's, we're colleagues, like, if someone is showing you a lot of, you know, any support, or encouragement, or care, like, then that's the person that you should then go show love, support, and encouragement, and care to, whether they're family or not, and unfortunately, if family doesn't seem tuh show you that, well, then you do have tuh set up boundaries, and it hurts, like, h-e-l-l, because then you'll start to, when you stop reaching out as much, well, then you'll start seeing that your relationship becomes even more distant, but you can't constantly break your back tuh try tuh make relationships.
DOUG NOTES THAT THEY EITHER STEP UP OR DON'T, AND THAT’S WHERE IT LANDS.
JAMIE CONTINUES: Yeah, but from what, from my experience, from what we've experienced, you know, no one really steps up, and it's pretty evident when you start, when you realize you have tuh make a boundary with a person, like, just know in your heart that it's gonna hurt, like, you know, and I'm sure that we're, I'm not the only person going through this, and that's, I think, why it's important tuh share, is that, you know, because it's hard tuh share these things.
It's embarrassing. It's, I feel, it's almost, like, belittling. It's like, like, you know, it's like you're, you're sharing that you're rejected, essentially.
Who wants tuh share that? Like, who wants tuh admit that? But the truth is, is that we all have been there, and so I think that the biggest way tuh heal, and what I've learned is, of course, tuh find, to, like, lean in on the people who don't, like, desert you, betray you, talk behind your back.
I mean, that's the thing, is people who also, who are there, but they're really, like, kind of a snake in disguise, and, like, it's, like, like, they, it seems like they're there for you, but then behind, but you're walking on eggshells around them, because you know that they're saying things behind your back, and that's not, that's not healthy either, and so what I've really tried tuh do is really just focus on people that have really just been loving and nurturing, and the more people are loving and nurturing tuh me, whether they're family or not, the more I will lead, like, reach into them, and...
DOUG BUSTS IN TO TAKE A "QUICK PAUSE" FOR AN AD, IRONICALLY ABOUT INVESTING AND GOOD FINANCIAL HYGEINE.
JAMIE GETS RIGHT BACK TO IT: Of course, holidays and birthdays are tough because like you want like my mom like I mean forget it but like I love her and she's doing the best she can but like you know it's like I don't know I guess it's because I'm pregnant and then like when you become a mom and you just think about this relationship and it's like I just have always wanted that relationship with my mom and of course I know real like logically it's not gonna happen but anyways it's um it's just hard but anyways what I was trying tuh say tuh you though listening is like if you're going through this type of situation like just know that you're doing the right thing by kind of putting the boundaries up and then kind of you know you got tuh focus on gratitude more than anything else and so I consistently try tuh remind myself tuh be thankful that I am alive I'm able tuh be there for my kids my son has no idea who remembered and who forgot his birthday but of course he knows who he talked tuh but like you know I, I know that he had the most spectacular day yesterday and I made darn well sure of it and it literally cost me like zero dollars tuh it's not like it has tuh be expensive it wasn't extravagant we went tuh the library which is free and then we went tuh a free splash pad that's in our city and slash playground yeah, yeah and he had a great time so it's like people it's because the other thing people say well if you can afford tuh give them that it's like it doesn't you can find ways tuh live tuh like really bless your family and your kids without having tuh spend boatloads of money um but the biggest message and takeaway of this all and I guess of like I we never planned on sharing any of this we were planning on sharing about mother's day and
DOUG DOESN'T EVEN KNOW WHAT tuh SAY, BUT SHE NEEDS tuh KNOW HOW PROUD HE IS OF HER, BLAH, BLAH, BLAH …
SHE THANKS HIM QUICKLY AND THEN GETS ON WITH HIS always getting by my side and like when I'm thankful for you when I started you know going tuh therapy and, and I mean forever ago I'm telling you forever ago when we were first married and I first started going tuh a therapist outside of married at first sight she told me she looked me in the eyes and she said Jamie like they might be family but they're not your people and you gotta go find your people and I didn't want tuh believe her I didn't want I literally just said you know thanks but no thanks essentially and I'm gonna try my best tuh turn this family into mine because I want this connection and I want this and I wish I could have saved myself all those years by just listening tuh her and you know finding my own people who, who do love and support me for who I am who I don't have tuh like I can just don't have tuh walk on eggshells I don't have tuh try tuh be anybody else I can just be myself and they'll see like the good in that and they'll like it you know and, and not everyone's for everyone and that's okay and I just try tuh remind myself that but anyways um yeah you've always stood by my side so thank you I see you I'll always be by your side I just like sometimes doubt like if like you know like, like, like what have I done like am I a bad person like did I like what have I done this has nothing
DOUG NOTES THAT THEY'D FIND PEOPLE "DOWN HERE" IN FLORIDA, AND THAT THEY BOTH KNEW IT WOULD NOT HAPPEN OVERNIGHT, THAT REALLY MEANINGFUL BONDS TAKE TIME, BUT THEY ARE IN THE BEST POSSIBLE POSITION TO BUILD A COMMUNITY AND MAKE STRONG FRIENDS THEY CONSIDER TO BE FAMILY, AMAZING PEOPLE, AND THERE ARE KIDS TOO, AND THEY CAN WATCH EVERYONE GROW UP TOGETHER … AND HE THINKS, "That's kind of the point of, of moving tuh Florida find community find our people and also find out you know who would be there with us and for us and …"
JAMIE BLASTS BACK: It has nothing tuh do with you or who you are well the truth is, is obviously it does because these people don't enjoy being around me so then therefore they don't enjoy remembering our kids and or me whatever I guess I think I'm just really hormonal and emotional but I guess I just feel incredibly rejected and like I've done something wrong but I also know at the same exact breath that this has been happening for years and years and years where I've really
DOUG NOTES JAMIE HAS "TRIED SO HARD" AND THAT IT'S NOTHING THAT SHE DID.
JAMIE BLATHERS BACK THAT IT'S NOT REALLY THAT THEY'VE DONE ANYTHING WRONG, BUT … we just don't jive and I guess you know we have different we're different people and we can't force it yeah and so there's very little control that we have over it other than us being us yeah and so but you know but I guess this is like the healing part that everyone talks about with boundaries that's so painful like it's so painful because when you want something so bad and like I think it's like wired in me because it's family and like I really want tuh support family and love family and be there for them and but then it's like but it's just not there in return and you could just spend your whole life searching for it and or you could kind of put up a boundary and, and stop allowing that tuh continue tuh hurt you and find people who are genuinely happy tuh be around you and so needless tuh say for those of you listening if - if you're in this boat with someone whether it's parents siblings aunts uncles cousins I don't know or even long-time friends who you think are quote-unquote friends but you know things change or who knows I mean it's so darn hurtful but I really believe at the end of the day that I mean I was I spent years and years and years trying my darnedest and now I'm like if I, If I could give like an inkling of that effort tuh someone who gives an inkling of the effort back tuh me like the just the joy and happiness that could come from that or just like the stability and also like I did try changing myself tuh kind of be more like them tuh have more in common with them and it just I can tell you right now if you're trying tuh do that that's not gonna work either like it's hard unfortunately you just gotta be yourself in this world you gotta love with your whole heart and, and be selfless you know you can't expect people tuh just care about you if you don't care about them of course you gotta show up for people you gotta really like put yourself out there for them but if you consistently do that and you're not getting any of it in return you gotta change your path and it's the hardest thing in the world tuh do but you know tuh be very, very honest like going tuh bed with Doug last night after Son's birthday and like just everything that went down and whatnot I was just like and this is why we live in Florida this is why we moved here because this this served our core family more so than trying tuh fit a round peg into a square everyone else's schedule and everybody else's lives it's just you know and it's and I'm incredibly thankful tuh your sister and tuh your mom and your dad of course because they did reach out and that's just really, really kind like they called and they just show that they really care and that really means the whole wide world tuh me and like regardless of what they think of me like they love our kids and that's really all that
DOUG NOTES WHAT MATTERS IS-AND MAYBE THEY NEED TO BELIEVE IN SOME KIND OF "HIGHER PURPOSE," BUT HE DOESN'T CONSIDER IT ALL "WASTED TIME OR ENERGY," AND THAT IT MAYBE HAPPENED THE WAY IT'S SUPPOSED TO HAPPEN AND FOR JAMIE TO GIVE …
AND SHE CUTS HIM OFF TO SAY THAT THIS MESSAGE CAN help others. I've really kind of like avoided being this vulnerable lately because I feel like there are some people who just really don't like me and it's been brought tuh my attention and just no matter what I do they really don't like me and I guess like everybody has quote-unquote haters but it hurts my heart a little bit and I don't know but, but the truth is, is like just like I said before what I learned in this the certain boundaries that I've talked about before is that you really can't change who you are in the hopes that people will start tuh approve of you because they're never like the people who just choose that they don't like you and they just choose tuh find your faults will always like they will always see your faults and they will always yeah there's no convincing them otherwise and that's and if you're listening tuh this like this is the truth for all of us is that when you're looking for the good in life you're gonna find the good and you can focus on that and try tuh get like more of that and garner more of that but if you're focused on the negative whether it's in life or with your spouse or with a friend or at the workplace you're gonna find that and so if so sometimes if you've you know if you see that you're consistently feeling like you have quote-unquote bad luck or that this person's being wrong tuh you or they're not caring about you will try tuh think about the good that they do and, and, and so truly like for me with these whole boundary things like I've tried just I tried tuh kind of I've already tried that with some of these family members that just don't seem tuh care and um and, and so that's and then that's when the hurt comes is you know when you realize oh yeah you're actually all right and you are onto something and for whatever reason their life isn't aligning with yours and it's and that's okay but it doesn't mean it's not gonna hurt a little bit for the person who like wants it tuh be there but that's when you go out and find someone who wants tuh align their life with you or maybe their life already aligns and they just and you can serve each other you can love each other you can be there for each other and whether it's blood related or not like that will serve you better in life and so that's kind of where I think Doug and I are right now um but also for, for you listening if, if you're just finding yourself in this situation too just try tuh make sure you're not just trying tuh find the fault in someone because you don't want tuh get caught in that rabbit hole and there are people out there who just want tuh find the negative and then there are people out there who cut that down like don't allow that tuh happen tuh yourself because you will be miserable your whole life hating on someone else and just constantly finding their faults and constantly complaining about them is never going tuh bring you true happiness it really isn't and so think about you know yourself and like what you can do differently and try tuh bring the positive and so yeah I haven't been as vulnerable lately because it's been hard tuh be very honest tuh just share like my heart and then people are just going tuh attack me for it you know I'm sure but um but my goal in sharing this if we end up sharing this is that it helps the one person out there or I'm sure several really who are in the same exact boat who are you know trying tuh keep a friend that they've had forever but that friend's just not there or trying tuh maintain a relationship with one of your parents or your siblings or it shouldn't be hard it shouldn't be and you shouldn't have tuh change who you are and if you do then that's really just not the right person for you and, and you can talk tuh them about it of course and then if they're just combative, at the end of the day, I just say the best advice is find a therapist, and this book called Boundaries, and it's a little religious, and also a little kind of like, whoa, but I'm telling you, Chapter One, just give it – if you don’t' like it after that, don't even try, but like Chapter One, I was like, wow, I can see so much of myself in this, and I can see how could change, and I've got tuh promise you that it's been hurt along the way, but I have – we have, and our family has more positive days now than stressful, trying tuh like pull people in who don't really want tuh be there, trying tuh help them remember because they're gonna forget, like it's just – like yesterday was like the least stressful day ever, and we didn't have one person coming tuh our – or even Mother's Day, it was just us four, and you know, before I had kids, and I think – I saw someone else write this, but like before I had kids, I looked at the world as like everyone I encountered, and how can I be helpful tuh them, and that – like, but now it's like my world is my husband and my children. My world is within my four walls, and how do I love them and support them the best that I possible can, tuh help them become good – eventually like good husbands, a good wife, good mothers, good fathers, and good, good family members, and so …
DOUG IS SO PROUD OF HER AND THINKS SHE SHOULD ALSO BE PROUD OF HERSELF BECAUSE OF "HOW MUCH YOU HAVE GROWN FROM PEOPLE STARTING TO COMMENT ON SOCIAL MEDIA, AND YOU TRYING TO BRING THEM BACK OVER TO YOUR SIDE TO RECOGNIZING THE TOXICITY OF IT, AND SETTING BOUNDARIES." HE HAS TO TELL HER THAT IN THE PAST COUPLE OF YEARS, SHE HAS "SPREAD MORE POSITIVITY, IN MY MIND, THAN ANYBODY, FOCUSING ON BEING THANKFUL AND GRATEFUL," AND A MESSAGE SHE IS PASSING ONTO THE KIDS WHO ARE REALLY STARTING tuh THINK ABOUT IT AND FOCUS ON IT, AND IT'S "DRIVEN BY YOU."
MORE RASPY WHINY TEARY VOICE: Oh, Gosh, Doug's that's the nicest comment that I could have ever received because I really want that for them … yeah, because I – because we could all fall into that where you see the negative and you just kind of focus on that, and I'm trying so hard not to, and tuh just – you know, pray more, and even meditate, and that has nothing tuh do with prayer, but like just rewire my brain tuh like the positive things and finding the positive and helping others, also because – honestly, and I want tuh raise my kid where they are not seeing the negative, they're seeing the positive in situations because life, regardless of who loves you, how much money you have, what home you live in, what car you drive, life is so much better when you're able tuh see the positive and you're able to, like lean into that more, and you're able tuh then attract people who are like that, and the Negative Nellies are just going tuh always be there talking their smack about you, and that's fine, but like, if you can find the positive, you can focus on that, and you're going tuh have such a happier life, and the Negative Nellies, unfortunately, like I still pray for them, I still hope for them, because it's sad – like they're not living a happy life. You can't be a hater tuh all these people and be happy. It's sad.
DOUG THINKS THEY ARE "living proof of it, because once we started tuh focus on happy, once we started focusing on being thankful and grateful, the people that we attracted are the people that we would want tuh be with … didn't happen overnight, but as soon as we started tuh rethink that, and really try tuh be positive and do positive things, and our prayers and with the kids and being thankful and finding good, and gratitude, you know, we attracted people into our lives that, you know, are going tuh be there – I mean, I feel these are now lifelong friends, and you know, all of that was attracted, and there has got tuh be something tuh that."
THE END, THEY MUST GO PICK UP THEIR DAUGHTER BUT ONLY AFTER THE FIVE-STAR REVIEW AND THEN "SEE YOU NEXT WEEK!"
DELUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUSIONAL – THE BOTH OF THEM! And according to the AI program Jamie talks more than 90 percent of the time, and Dud, hardly ever.
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ENJOY -- and I use that word lightly:
AND SO IT BEGINS WITH Doug wishing Happy Mother's Day … and immediately Jamie corrects him, "Well, not really Mother's Day …" since they are recording after Mother's Day. Got get those Doug corrections in toot sweet, lest he thinks he has a mind of his own.
They note they tend to be "a little late on things," but they are "trying to get better about that." Doug says they had a fantastic Mother's Day, and he asked her if she had a good time. She said she had a great time. Doug wrote Happy Mother's Day on some cards and the kids drew on them. He gave her an eyelash waxing and noted probably a bad idea. She said it wasn't that she wasn't thrilled as she did mention that pregnancy makes her eyebrows bushy, but she was scared, maybe just mentioned she'd need to tweeze, but oh, well, yes, she likes his gift.
Jamie noted that it was "just the four of us" and of course, the babies in her belly, and that was fine with her – until her son's birthday of course, when she noted that their entire families suck!
So onto her son's birthdays and THESE GEMS AND THOUGHTS: I think it's just pregnancy hormones, but honestly, like, I just, I just can't, like, I don't know why, like, I guess, like, you know, ever since I was little, I've always really, really wanted family, like, so badly, like, I wanted just, like, deep connections with people who truly love me, and I truly love them, and we just really, truly support each other, and just, I don't know, I think, like, just pregnancy hormones made me think about it, but, like, yesterday for Son's birthday, and just family members who just completely forgot, and they just don't care, and I'm like, is it me? Is it him?
Like, and I don't want my son tuh grow, like, he doesn't know, and he'll never know, because I'll make sure, I mean, I spent every second, that boy had no second tuh think yesterday, like, I picked him up from school, and I took him tuh the library, because that's where he wanted tuh go, and then we, like, you know, we really love surprises in this family, if that's not clear by now, and so Daughter and I surprised him with a splash pad, like, we went tuh the splash pad for the first time, and we never do things like that on a school night, and so, and then he got tuh go pick out a cake that he wanted, and then Doug had dinner already at home, and then also we had decorations in his bedroom, which I was, like, hoping tuh have for the morning, but then Doug was, like, at, like, midnight, when we're, like, thinking about starting tuh blow up the balloons, Doug is like, Jamie, let's just surprise him tomorrow after school.
(Notice she takes no breath … and also they were super-last minute when it came tuh getting ready for his birthday, versus, what we have all mentioned, that isn't so when it's a gender reveal or a party or pickleball or something FOR HER.)
HERE, DOUG ASKS … "WHY, ARE WE GONNA DO THIS NOW?" AND THIS WAS PRETTY MUCH THE LAST EFFORT HE MADE tuh STOP HER BECAUSE SHE WENT ON WITH: Yeah, because it was so late, but I was like, I just have, like, this vision that I just wanted for him, because, you know, I'm just trying tuh give them the childhood that, like, I would have wanted, that any little kid would want, and really all that involves is truly just two loving parents who are there, and, like, that's really all that really involves, but if I can go a little extra, you know, and surprise him, and I, then I want to, you know, and so, you know.
DOUG NOTES THAT HE DOESN'T THINK THEY KNOW ANY DIFFERENT, AND HE CONTINUES WITH: I don't think they really know any different, you know, and I know, I know it's, it's tough, and I think, especially with, like, little kids, you know, they, they won't necessarily feel the impact and that want, you know, and, and I know that you do, and it, it hurts me that, you know, you would, you would want people tuh care enough to, tuh reach out, and I think, you know, for, for me, I, that's, I don't really set my expectations or, or give those expectations tuh son and daughter.
JAMIE BLASTS BACK, SUPER-DEFENSIVELY: Oh, I do not either, though. I do not at all. I don't say a thing tuh them about anything, because, you know, sometimes people miss their – you know, and that happens sometimes, but when it's, like, over, and over, and over again, and, like, it's just so obvious, and, and people ask us why we moved tuh Florida, and don't we want tuh be near family, and, you know, tuh be very honest, this is why.
Like, we, you know, I, we would fly up there tuh try tuh prove, like, hey, listen, we're not just trying tuh leave, though. Like, we, we, I want that family connection so badly with your family, with my family, and it's just, you know, unfortunately, it's, people are in different stages of life. I try tuh make excuses, like, for them, and, you know, for us, and it's probably not personal, but the point of the matter is, is that whether it's not personal, and people are busy, and whatever the case may be, we don't have that family connection.
We just don't, and I'm, I try tuh nurture it, and, um, you know, and we do with some family members, and then just others, you know, you just, it's just. Well, you can't help but be disappointed. Yeah, and, like, I guess my heart hurts, because I want our son, and our daughter, and our children tuh have just so many people who love them, and want tuh be around them, and who will encourage them, and support them, and.
DOUG NOTES THAT HE THINKS FAMILY KNOW ALL OF THIS AND THAT THEY, THE KIDS KNOW HOW MUCH LOVE THEY HAVE FOR THEM, AND ALL THE EFFORTS THEY PUT FORTH, AND HERE HE SAYS, "Especially you," AND THAT ALL OF THIS IS WHAT MATTERS MOST.
JAMIE'S REBUTTAL: Yeah, I know, but Doug, what I'm trying tuh say is that, like, what I would want for them is them tuh have many people who love them, and, like, you know, like, I always wanted, you know, it's not even a secret, like, way back, I'm married at first, like, the one thing I wanted was tuh marry into a family, like, a big loving family that would welcome me as their own, and, and I'm really thankful for your family, and, yeah, but, like, I just feel like, like, I want that for our kids. Like, I wanted them tuh have people who loved them, who wanted tuh come around them.
Like, my, my siblings and I really didn't have many aunts or uncles or grandparents who, I mean, you know, it's kind of, it's so long, because, like, there are some people who were there, but it was, like, toxic, and aye, aye, aye, it's just, you know, it's just, at the end of the day, I'm pregnant, and it's just hormones, and I know our kids feel nothing but loved, but it's just really evident, like, on a birthday or holidays, like, people who, who actually, like, family who actually truly cares for us, and, like, all I've ever wanted was just our, like, I, I don't know why I care about these people caring about me, when, like, they don't care, and it's okay, and that's, that's, it's okay.
Like, it, I'm trying so hard tuh just be, like, accept it, girl. Like, you know, you can't force family tuh love you.
JAMIE TRIES TO DIFFUSE THE TIMEBOMB SITUATION THAT IS HIS WIFE, CLEARLY GOING OFF ON EVERYBODY BY SAYING HE KNOWS THAT SHE DOESN'T WANT THIS FOR THEM BUT THAT THEY, THE KIDS, DON'T EVEN NOW ABOUT ALL OF THIS RIGHT NOW.
JAMIE'S REBUTTAL: Well, I know they don't, and so, at the end of the day, I was, like, sitting in bed crying earlier, and I was, like, what is wrong with me, because I know my son had a great birthday yesterday. Like, I made sure of it.
DOUG NOTES SHE "KILLED IT, YESTERDAY."
JAMIE BLASTS ON: At the end of the day, I think, like, it's a personal thing, because it's, like, they don't care about me, and therefore, they don't care about my son, and that hurts, you know? Like, it's just hurtful, and not, because I care about them, and I love them, and I've tried so hard tuh be part of them, and, and try to, like, I've tried changing my ways. I've tried tuh adapt tuh be more like them.
I've tried all these different things. At the end of the day, nothing I do, like, I may as well just be myself, and, and, because if I have tried tuh be like them, they don't like me. If I try tuh be myself, they don't like me.
Like, no matter what, like, I don't feel like, I feel like they're, I'm just kind of judged by them in the way that I live my life, and anyways, it's fine, but.
DOUG COUNTERS IT WITH THE FACT THAT JAMIE GOES "ABOVE AND BEYOND FOR EVERYBODY," AND THAT IT'S TOUGH THAT SHE "WANTS OR EXPECTS THAT IN RETURN," BUT NOTES THAT THIS IS ALSO MAYBE WHERE THE "BOUNDARIES" LIE … cool, they now have a title for the podcast!
JAMIE CONTINUES tuh BLAST: Well, no, of course, and this is exactly why I'm also crying happy tears, because for so long, I just really tried tuh nurture, like, a true, like, true family, and deep connection, and like, try tuh be, like, really close, and, and it's like, well, if you're the only person nurturing that, you're bound tuh get hurt. It's bound, it's not going tuh happen ever, because it has tuh be a two-way street, and so, unfortunately, like, I started putting up boundaries, and I knew it was going tuh hurt, and like, here it is. It's, it's hurting, you know, like, and then inevitably, they'll be like, you know, you moved tuh Florida, but even when we didn't live in Florida, let's be honest, like, we didn't see family very often, unless, like, it was, it just, unless it was us going places, and then even when we moved here, I would fly up there.
I flew up, we were flying up there, like, once a month. It was so expensive. It was so taxing, but I just wanted to, tuh kind of prove, hey, listen, like, but, you know, I'm so glad we moved here, because at the end of the day, you know, even if we never even find our own people, like, our focus is on our core family, like, we had zero distractions for Son yesterday, like, his birthday was the hundred, like, and it's just, that feels good, because normally, we wouldn't have that. Yeah, normally, I would be cleaning the house, trying tuh prep for people tuh come over, who I would have called 10 times, make sure they remember that he's coming, and it's like, or that his birthday is coming, and it's like, it's just, you know, this is such a vulnerable, I don't even know if I want tuh share any of this, because it's just so personal, but.
DOUG NOTES THAT ALL REFLECTS MORE ABOUT OTHERS AND NOT AN ATTACK ON JAMIE.
AND YET JAMIE CONTINUES TO DEFLECT AND ATTACK: No, I don't think it is either, but it's just very evident where people, like, if people care about us and our family, I don't think they actually, that's the thing, is they don't, like, and so, they're not thinking about it one way or the other, it doesn't even matter tuh them, and that's what hurts, because I wish that they cared about us the way that we cared about them, but they don't, and so, that's why I'm trying tuh have the boundaries tuh be like, find people who will care about you then, or just focus on your own family, and if people wonder why I want so many kids, well, there you go. People constantly say, why don't you love the two you have?
Oh, of course I do, and I'll tell you what, I want tuh have 10 more, because I want tuh raise them in a way where we love each other, we're always there for each other, we don't forget. It's just silly little milestones, it's not about presents, it's not about anything other than just love, and remembrance, and just, like, celebrating each other, and I am going tuh raise my kids tuh just really love each other, and tuh know that their parents love them, but God forbid, one of us are taken, and then, then it's like, I think about things like that, and I'm like, who do they have if they don't have us? Like, seriously, and that scares the crap out of me, because there are very few people who even remember, like, and tuh me, it's just a birthday, I know, it doesn't really matter, but like, that's of significance tuh that child, and people just don't care, like, they just, our fam, so many of our family members just don't care. Well, we make, we make it, and then I'm like, am I making a mountain out of a molehill, but like, and am I?
DOUG ALSO THINKS ABOUT THEM "DEPARTING EARLY" AND WHAT HAPPENS tuh THEM.
JAMIE BUSTS BACK IN, AND STARTS tuh TALK ABOUT "ESTATE PLANNING," WHICH SORT OF MADE ME SIDEYE BECAUSE SHE GOES ON tuh TALK ABOUT THE KIDS AND WHAT WOULD HAPPEN TO THEM, AS IF THEY WERE PART OF THE "ESTATE," BUT I GUESS SINCE THEY ARE THE MONEYMAKERS SHE THINKS OF IT MORE IN THAT WAY THAN GUARDIANSHIP PAPERWORK … AND SO SHE CONTINUES: Well, when you think about estate planning, and then who you're leaving your kids to, and I'm like, who can I leave my kids to, who are really going tuh love them, and the people right now didn't even call tuh wish him happy birthday, they didn't even call tuh wish him a happy birthday, they didn't send a gift, and it's not even about the gift, but it's about the thought, who do we have in our life, Doug? I don't think it's, you know, I ask if I think I'm making a mountain out of a molehill, but then I, like, I almost, like, talk, like, convince myself that, no, I'm not, like, I'm really trying tuh make sure that our kids are taken, like, loved and taken care of, and sure, we've got it out, down pat, but what happens, like, then what?
And like, I'm not gonna go down that rabbit hole, and I'm sure this is all pregnancy hormones, and I'm just exhausted and tired, so, but I just think about these things, and then, and then people wonder why I am so thankful for our followers, for those of you listening tuh the podcast, and those of you who follow us on Instagram and YouTube, and who are just excited for us, because a lot of our own family members aren't, like, it's just wild, and so, yeah, and so thank you for those of you listening, and for those of you who comment, and just, you know, just are excited to, like, like, tuh be part of our family, like, because we have forever been looking for that, and, like, our family's just not that interested, and we could try, and try, and try.
DOUG: Out of sight, out of mind.
JAMIE BINGOS!!!!! THAT THOUGHT AND CONTINUES: Yeah, it's, and it's fine, but I'll tell you what, I genuinely do appreciate every single five-star review, every single, like, nudge that you just, every single moment that you take out of your life just tuh be like, hey, what's up with Jamie, you know, and that's why I try tuh do giveaways, and I try to, you know, like, read your five-star reviews, and I try tuh show you that I genuinely care about you, too, because I really think that it is a two-way street with everything in life, like, so whether it's, you know, family, it's friends, it's working, it's, we're colleagues, like, if someone is showing you a lot of, you know, any support, or encouragement, or care, like, then that's the person that you should then go show love, support, and encouragement, and care to, whether they're family or not, and unfortunately, if family doesn't seem tuh show you that, well, then you do have tuh set up boundaries, and it hurts, like, h-e-l-l, because then you'll start to, when you stop reaching out as much, well, then you'll start seeing that your relationship becomes even more distant, but you can't constantly break your back tuh try tuh make relationships.
DOUG NOTES THAT THEY EITHER STEP UP OR DON'T, AND THAT’S WHERE IT LANDS.
JAMIE CONTINUES: Yeah, but from what, from my experience, from what we've experienced, you know, no one really steps up, and it's pretty evident when you start, when you realize you have tuh make a boundary with a person, like, just know in your heart that it's gonna hurt, like, you know, and I'm sure that we're, I'm not the only person going through this, and that's, I think, why it's important tuh share, is that, you know, because it's hard tuh share these things.
It's embarrassing. It's, I feel, it's almost, like, belittling. It's like, like, you know, it's like you're, you're sharing that you're rejected, essentially.
Who wants tuh share that? Like, who wants tuh admit that? But the truth is, is that we all have been there, and so I think that the biggest way tuh heal, and what I've learned is, of course, tuh find, to, like, lean in on the people who don't, like, desert you, betray you, talk behind your back.
I mean, that's the thing, is people who also, who are there, but they're really, like, kind of a snake in disguise, and, like, it's, like, like, they, it seems like they're there for you, but then behind, but you're walking on eggshells around them, because you know that they're saying things behind your back, and that's not, that's not healthy either, and so what I've really tried tuh do is really just focus on people that have really just been loving and nurturing, and the more people are loving and nurturing tuh me, whether they're family or not, the more I will lead, like, reach into them, and...
DOUG BUSTS IN TO TAKE A "QUICK PAUSE" FOR AN AD, IRONICALLY ABOUT INVESTING AND GOOD FINANCIAL HYGEINE.
JAMIE GETS RIGHT BACK TO IT: Of course, holidays and birthdays are tough because like you want like my mom like I mean forget it but like I love her and she's doing the best she can but like you know it's like I don't know I guess it's because I'm pregnant and then like when you become a mom and you just think about this relationship and it's like I just have always wanted that relationship with my mom and of course I know real like logically it's not gonna happen but anyways it's um it's just hard but anyways what I was trying tuh say tuh you though listening is like if you're going through this type of situation like just know that you're doing the right thing by kind of putting the boundaries up and then kind of you know you got tuh focus on gratitude more than anything else and so I consistently try tuh remind myself tuh be thankful that I am alive I'm able tuh be there for my kids my son has no idea who remembered and who forgot his birthday but of course he knows who he talked tuh but like you know I, I know that he had the most spectacular day yesterday and I made darn well sure of it and it literally cost me like zero dollars tuh it's not like it has tuh be expensive it wasn't extravagant we went tuh the library which is free and then we went tuh a free splash pad that's in our city and slash playground yeah, yeah and he had a great time so it's like people it's because the other thing people say well if you can afford tuh give them that it's like it doesn't you can find ways tuh live tuh like really bless your family and your kids without having tuh spend boatloads of money um but the biggest message and takeaway of this all and I guess of like I we never planned on sharing any of this we were planning on sharing about mother's day and
DOUG DOESN'T EVEN KNOW WHAT tuh SAY, BUT SHE NEEDS tuh KNOW HOW PROUD HE IS OF HER, BLAH, BLAH, BLAH …
SHE THANKS HIM QUICKLY AND THEN GETS ON WITH HIS always getting by my side and like when I'm thankful for you when I started you know going tuh therapy and, and I mean forever ago I'm telling you forever ago when we were first married and I first started going tuh a therapist outside of married at first sight she told me she looked me in the eyes and she said Jamie like they might be family but they're not your people and you gotta go find your people and I didn't want tuh believe her I didn't want I literally just said you know thanks but no thanks essentially and I'm gonna try my best tuh turn this family into mine because I want this connection and I want this and I wish I could have saved myself all those years by just listening tuh her and you know finding my own people who, who do love and support me for who I am who I don't have tuh like I can just don't have tuh walk on eggshells I don't have tuh try tuh be anybody else I can just be myself and they'll see like the good in that and they'll like it you know and, and not everyone's for everyone and that's okay and I just try tuh remind myself that but anyways um yeah you've always stood by my side so thank you I see you I'll always be by your side I just like sometimes doubt like if like you know like, like, like what have I done like am I a bad person like did I like what have I done this has nothing
DOUG NOTES THAT THEY'D FIND PEOPLE "DOWN HERE" IN FLORIDA, AND THAT THEY BOTH KNEW IT WOULD NOT HAPPEN OVERNIGHT, THAT REALLY MEANINGFUL BONDS TAKE TIME, BUT THEY ARE IN THE BEST POSSIBLE POSITION TO BUILD A COMMUNITY AND MAKE STRONG FRIENDS THEY CONSIDER TO BE FAMILY, AMAZING PEOPLE, AND THERE ARE KIDS TOO, AND THEY CAN WATCH EVERYONE GROW UP TOGETHER … AND HE THINKS, "That's kind of the point of, of moving tuh Florida find community find our people and also find out you know who would be there with us and for us and …"
JAMIE BLASTS BACK: It has nothing tuh do with you or who you are well the truth is, is obviously it does because these people don't enjoy being around me so then therefore they don't enjoy remembering our kids and or me whatever I guess I think I'm just really hormonal and emotional but I guess I just feel incredibly rejected and like I've done something wrong but I also know at the same exact breath that this has been happening for years and years and years where I've really
DOUG NOTES JAMIE HAS "TRIED SO HARD" AND THAT IT'S NOTHING THAT SHE DID.
JAMIE BLATHERS BACK THAT IT'S NOT REALLY THAT THEY'VE DONE ANYTHING WRONG, BUT … we just don't jive and I guess you know we have different we're different people and we can't force it yeah and so there's very little control that we have over it other than us being us yeah and so but you know but I guess this is like the healing part that everyone talks about with boundaries that's so painful like it's so painful because when you want something so bad and like I think it's like wired in me because it's family and like I really want tuh support family and love family and be there for them and but then it's like but it's just not there in return and you could just spend your whole life searching for it and or you could kind of put up a boundary and, and stop allowing that tuh continue tuh hurt you and find people who are genuinely happy tuh be around you and so needless tuh say for those of you listening if - if you're in this boat with someone whether it's parents siblings aunts uncles cousins I don't know or even long-time friends who you think are quote-unquote friends but you know things change or who knows I mean it's so darn hurtful but I really believe at the end of the day that I mean I was I spent years and years and years trying my darnedest and now I'm like if I, If I could give like an inkling of that effort tuh someone who gives an inkling of the effort back tuh me like the just the joy and happiness that could come from that or just like the stability and also like I did try changing myself tuh kind of be more like them tuh have more in common with them and it just I can tell you right now if you're trying tuh do that that's not gonna work either like it's hard unfortunately you just gotta be yourself in this world you gotta love with your whole heart and, and be selfless you know you can't expect people tuh just care about you if you don't care about them of course you gotta show up for people you gotta really like put yourself out there for them but if you consistently do that and you're not getting any of it in return you gotta change your path and it's the hardest thing in the world tuh do but you know tuh be very, very honest like going tuh bed with Doug last night after Son's birthday and like just everything that went down and whatnot I was just like and this is why we live in Florida this is why we moved here because this this served our core family more so than trying tuh fit a round peg into a square everyone else's schedule and everybody else's lives it's just you know and it's and I'm incredibly thankful tuh your sister and tuh your mom and your dad of course because they did reach out and that's just really, really kind like they called and they just show that they really care and that really means the whole wide world tuh me and like regardless of what they think of me like they love our kids and that's really all that
DOUG NOTES WHAT MATTERS IS-AND MAYBE THEY NEED TO BELIEVE IN SOME KIND OF "HIGHER PURPOSE," BUT HE DOESN'T CONSIDER IT ALL "WASTED TIME OR ENERGY," AND THAT IT MAYBE HAPPENED THE WAY IT'S SUPPOSED TO HAPPEN AND FOR JAMIE TO GIVE …
AND SHE CUTS HIM OFF TO SAY THAT THIS MESSAGE CAN help others. I've really kind of like avoided being this vulnerable lately because I feel like there are some people who just really don't like me and it's been brought tuh my attention and just no matter what I do they really don't like me and I guess like everybody has quote-unquote haters but it hurts my heart a little bit and I don't know but, but the truth is, is like just like I said before what I learned in this the certain boundaries that I've talked about before is that you really can't change who you are in the hopes that people will start tuh approve of you because they're never like the people who just choose that they don't like you and they just choose tuh find your faults will always like they will always see your faults and they will always yeah there's no convincing them otherwise and that's and if you're listening tuh this like this is the truth for all of us is that when you're looking for the good in life you're gonna find the good and you can focus on that and try tuh get like more of that and garner more of that but if you're focused on the negative whether it's in life or with your spouse or with a friend or at the workplace you're gonna find that and so if so sometimes if you've you know if you see that you're consistently feeling like you have quote-unquote bad luck or that this person's being wrong tuh you or they're not caring about you will try tuh think about the good that they do and, and, and so truly like for me with these whole boundary things like I've tried just I tried tuh kind of I've already tried that with some of these family members that just don't seem tuh care and um and, and so that's and then that's when the hurt comes is you know when you realize oh yeah you're actually all right and you are onto something and for whatever reason their life isn't aligning with yours and it's and that's okay but it doesn't mean it's not gonna hurt a little bit for the person who like wants it tuh be there but that's when you go out and find someone who wants tuh align their life with you or maybe their life already aligns and they just and you can serve each other you can love each other you can be there for each other and whether it's blood related or not like that will serve you better in life and so that's kind of where I think Doug and I are right now um but also for, for you listening if, if you're just finding yourself in this situation too just try tuh make sure you're not just trying tuh find the fault in someone because you don't want tuh get caught in that rabbit hole and there are people out there who just want tuh find the negative and then there are people out there who cut that down like don't allow that tuh happen tuh yourself because you will be miserable your whole life hating on someone else and just constantly finding their faults and constantly complaining about them is never going tuh bring you true happiness it really isn't and so think about you know yourself and like what you can do differently and try tuh bring the positive and so yeah I haven't been as vulnerable lately because it's been hard tuh be very honest tuh just share like my heart and then people are just going tuh attack me for it you know I'm sure but um but my goal in sharing this if we end up sharing this is that it helps the one person out there or I'm sure several really who are in the same exact boat who are you know trying tuh keep a friend that they've had forever but that friend's just not there or trying tuh maintain a relationship with one of your parents or your siblings or it shouldn't be hard it shouldn't be and you shouldn't have tuh change who you are and if you do then that's really just not the right person for you and, and you can talk tuh them about it of course and then if they're just combative, at the end of the day, I just say the best advice is find a therapist, and this book called Boundaries, and it's a little religious, and also a little kind of like, whoa, but I'm telling you, Chapter One, just give it – if you don’t' like it after that, don't even try, but like Chapter One, I was like, wow, I can see so much of myself in this, and I can see how could change, and I've got tuh promise you that it's been hurt along the way, but I have – we have, and our family has more positive days now than stressful, trying tuh like pull people in who don't really want tuh be there, trying tuh help them remember because they're gonna forget, like it's just – like yesterday was like the least stressful day ever, and we didn't have one person coming tuh our – or even Mother's Day, it was just us four, and you know, before I had kids, and I think – I saw someone else write this, but like before I had kids, I looked at the world as like everyone I encountered, and how can I be helpful tuh them, and that – like, but now it's like my world is my husband and my children. My world is within my four walls, and how do I love them and support them the best that I possible can, tuh help them become good – eventually like good husbands, a good wife, good mothers, good fathers, and good, good family members, and so …
DOUG IS SO PROUD OF HER AND THINKS SHE SHOULD ALSO BE PROUD OF HERSELF BECAUSE OF "HOW MUCH YOU HAVE GROWN FROM PEOPLE STARTING TO COMMENT ON SOCIAL MEDIA, AND YOU TRYING TO BRING THEM BACK OVER TO YOUR SIDE TO RECOGNIZING THE TOXICITY OF IT, AND SETTING BOUNDARIES." HE HAS TO TELL HER THAT IN THE PAST COUPLE OF YEARS, SHE HAS "SPREAD MORE POSITIVITY, IN MY MIND, THAN ANYBODY, FOCUSING ON BEING THANKFUL AND GRATEFUL," AND A MESSAGE SHE IS PASSING ONTO THE KIDS WHO ARE REALLY STARTING tuh THINK ABOUT IT AND FOCUS ON IT, AND IT'S "DRIVEN BY YOU."
MORE RASPY WHINY TEARY VOICE: Oh, Gosh, Doug's that's the nicest comment that I could have ever received because I really want that for them … yeah, because I – because we could all fall into that where you see the negative and you just kind of focus on that, and I'm trying so hard not to, and tuh just – you know, pray more, and even meditate, and that has nothing tuh do with prayer, but like just rewire my brain tuh like the positive things and finding the positive and helping others, also because – honestly, and I want tuh raise my kid where they are not seeing the negative, they're seeing the positive in situations because life, regardless of who loves you, how much money you have, what home you live in, what car you drive, life is so much better when you're able tuh see the positive and you're able to, like lean into that more, and you're able tuh then attract people who are like that, and the Negative Nellies are just going tuh always be there talking their smack about you, and that's fine, but like, if you can find the positive, you can focus on that, and you're going tuh have such a happier life, and the Negative Nellies, unfortunately, like I still pray for them, I still hope for them, because it's sad – like they're not living a happy life. You can't be a hater tuh all these people and be happy. It's sad.
DOUG THINKS THEY ARE "living proof of it, because once we started tuh focus on happy, once we started focusing on being thankful and grateful, the people that we attracted are the people that we would want tuh be with … didn't happen overnight, but as soon as we started tuh rethink that, and really try tuh be positive and do positive things, and our prayers and with the kids and being thankful and finding good, and gratitude, you know, we attracted people into our lives that, you know, are going tuh be there – I mean, I feel these are now lifelong friends, and you know, all of that was attracted, and there has got tuh be something tuh that."
THE END, THEY MUST GO PICK UP THEIR DAUGHTER BUT ONLY AFTER THE FIVE-STAR REVIEW AND THEN "SEE YOU NEXT WEEK!"
DELUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUSIONAL – THE BOTH OF THEM! And according to the AI program Jamie talks more than 90 percent of the time, and Dud, hardly ever.
2024.05.16 17:15 No-Web-372 Prospect Profile: Miguel Marques
It’s not often that the Lethbridge Hurricanes produce a prospect exciting enough to garner top three round buzz, in fact the Hurricanes itself only had one drafted player on its roster this season in Toronto’s Noah Chadwick. That is until Miguel Marques decided to put the team on his back and carry the Hurricanes to a playoff spot this season- a performance so well that the Prince George native’s stock continued to rise to the point that EPRinkside has him ranked at the end of the first.
After a very ok first season in the WHL, the formerly high touted Bantam Draft pick started to put his skills together this year and popped 74 points in 67 games- including 28 goals.
A triple threat offensively, Marques can beat opposing teams with his shot, his incredibly creative playmaking abilities or his fast deceptive hands. Using his high levels of patience, Marques never seems to rush a play in fact he almost always baits the defender in before burning the poke check wide and creating a new passing lane to attack from.
He uses body positioning and deception constantly in game, juking one way before going the other allowing the 5’11 forward to create lanes new passing lanes even if he himself gets caught by the defender.
Always plays at a high energy tempo as well, he’s engaged off the puck- crashing in on defenders and battling hard for body position to win board battles. Opposing skaters don’t seem to be ready for often for the miniature freight train that Marques can be as he laid a few solid open ice hits, and a few times was able to knock large defenders looking to hit him off balance with sturdy strong reverse hits.
There’s things that will make a GM hesitate slightly is that Marques is not a powerful skater and his stride needs a ton of work, he doesn’t get straight line speed or turn on a dime like some of his similar counterparts. As well he continues to struggle on his decision making; whether that be the team he is on forcing him to make plays that aren’t there or taking creative risks and killing a play where a simple play could’ve been used that would’ve been safer.
EPRinkside isn’t worried as players that take creative risks, experiment with plays and keep a high tempo play tend to project well to a pro game
Has a 16% star probability and a 48% NHLer probability in Bader’s model with his closest trajectory being Conor Garland so far.
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After a very ok first season in the WHL, the formerly high touted Bantam Draft pick started to put his skills together this year and popped 74 points in 67 games- including 28 goals.
A triple threat offensively, Marques can beat opposing teams with his shot, his incredibly creative playmaking abilities or his fast deceptive hands. Using his high levels of patience, Marques never seems to rush a play in fact he almost always baits the defender in before burning the poke check wide and creating a new passing lane to attack from.
He uses body positioning and deception constantly in game, juking one way before going the other allowing the 5’11 forward to create lanes new passing lanes even if he himself gets caught by the defender.
Always plays at a high energy tempo as well, he’s engaged off the puck- crashing in on defenders and battling hard for body position to win board battles. Opposing skaters don’t seem to be ready for often for the miniature freight train that Marques can be as he laid a few solid open ice hits, and a few times was able to knock large defenders looking to hit him off balance with sturdy strong reverse hits.
There’s things that will make a GM hesitate slightly is that Marques is not a powerful skater and his stride needs a ton of work, he doesn’t get straight line speed or turn on a dime like some of his similar counterparts. As well he continues to struggle on his decision making; whether that be the team he is on forcing him to make plays that aren’t there or taking creative risks and killing a play where a simple play could’ve been used that would’ve been safer.
EPRinkside isn’t worried as players that take creative risks, experiment with plays and keep a high tempo play tend to project well to a pro game
Has a 16% star probability and a 48% NHLer probability in Bader’s model with his closest trajectory being Conor Garland so far.
2024.05.16 17:15 altilly Help shaping an open-ended, diving-focused trip to the Philippines and Indonesia!
Hi all,
I'm in the early stages of planning an extended trip to both the Philippines and Indonesia, with diving being the primary focus of my travels. I've done a good amount of research to understand the wide range of desirable diving locations, but my trip is open-ended (no timeline restrictions) and I could use some help in putting together a plan that makes the most sense.
About me:
Only 2 known factors about my trip:
A couple of my broad ideas/thoughts:
My areas of concern are:
Thanks for any and all input!
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I'm in the early stages of planning an extended trip to both the Philippines and Indonesia, with diving being the primary focus of my travels. I've done a good amount of research to understand the wide range of desirable diving locations, but my trip is open-ended (no timeline restrictions) and I could use some help in putting together a plan that makes the most sense.
About me:
- 29M, American
- AOW certified
- 35 dives split between Thailand, Mexico, and Honduras
- Broadly interested in most/all areas of rec diving (macro, pelagics, wrecks)
Only 2 known factors about my trip:
- I want to arrive in the region towards the end of September, say September 24th
- I have a deposit on a 10D/11N liveboard in Raja Ampat on November 2nd
A couple of my broad ideas/thoughts:
- Start off in the Philippines and spend 1 month there (end of Sept to end of Oct)
- Spend first 2 weeks in Cebu region where diving is easier and get my dive numbers up. Malapascua, Moalboal, Alona Beach in Bohol, Apo Island
- Spend third week in Puerto Galera
- Spend fourth week in Coron
- Head to Indonesia around October 24th, spend a week in Bali with some diving, then be in Sorong by November 2nd for the RA liveaboard
- After RA liveaboard, my plan is really open-ended… Ambon, Alor, Komodo, Nusa Penida, back to Bali?
My areas of concern are:
- Difficulty / experience level - with only 35 dives going into the trip, my idea is to get that number up significantly ahead of the more difficult locations. Namely Puerto Galera, Coron, and Raja Ampat. Guessing roughly, I'll conservatively have ~50 dives by PG, ~60 dives by Coron, and ~75 dives by Raja Ampat. Does this sound appropriate?
- Seasonality - is there any major concerns about diving in the Philippines in late Sept/October? I understand it is the end of rainy season / Typhoon season, so just looking for personal input.
- Time spent in each country / various locations - I am putting a hard cap at 30 days in the Philippines by going there first while having the Nov 2nd RA liveboard, would I regret this? I could supposedly do Indonesia first.
- Internal domestic travel - I understand internal travel can be difficult in these countries and I have not done much research into logistics yet. I of course understand there will be travel days in between locations, and that I should research carefully the timing/reliability of transport. But are there any special concerns I should have given these locations?
- Any other thoughts or advice is welcome!
Thanks for any and all input!
2024.05.16 17:14 Sweetcreems [Hellper] Man this series has to be one of the most disappointing comics I’ve ever read (minor spoilers)
This shit was a 10/10 up until after the dream arc where the plot started going batshit crazy and then didn’t end.
This webcomic finished its first season almost a decade ago and now I learn that instead of a sequel you get a prequel that doesn’t continue the plot at all wth?!! To make matters worse I find that the sequel has controversy, is still ongoing, and only like 89 chapters are published in English right now???????
Like I know this is coming off a bit rant-ish, and it is, but I’m just so taken aback because, just a few hours ago, I’d call Hellper the best manwha I ever read but then the plot threads just go all, like, nowhere?
Like I get that not all seasons end with the plot resolved, but barring finding out who killed the MC and discovering the lore of Sheville and the arc angels quite literally not a single major plot line that was introduced got resolved at all by the end of the first season.
Normally, I wouldn’t be so mad but the fact that the sequel to a series that finished almost a decade ago doesn’t even continue the plot seems like it’s in super bad taste imo. Like we already saw most of the major points of the MCs life in the first season, why would I want to read a second season that doesn’t even remotely continue or at least address any of the 10000000 characteplot threads that were introduced in the first one? Like the only major one I can think of that actually got a full arc was the first drunk reaper but that doesn’t really count cause he just spent 90% of the series under a rock, fought like two people, and then just got eaten with no full development.
Like I know it’s a rant, and I know this is gonna be looked down on poorly and for that I apologize, but, man, I gotta say I’m on some grade A copium right now.
It was just so good; the action, characters, dynamics, art, everything was right on track up until straight up nothing gets resolved.
I’ll still say the series is good but, man, now that I’ve finished it in one sitting I don’t think I could recommend it in good faith considering that there’s a very good chance that the main plot will never be resolved within the next two decades. The whiplash I got from how many people told me to read this without mentioning that this old comic doesn’t even close almost any of the threads just made me so destroyed.
Sadge
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This webcomic finished its first season almost a decade ago and now I learn that instead of a sequel you get a prequel that doesn’t continue the plot at all wth?!! To make matters worse I find that the sequel has controversy, is still ongoing, and only like 89 chapters are published in English right now???????
Like I know this is coming off a bit rant-ish, and it is, but I’m just so taken aback because, just a few hours ago, I’d call Hellper the best manwha I ever read but then the plot threads just go all, like, nowhere?
Like I get that not all seasons end with the plot resolved, but barring finding out who killed the MC and discovering the lore of Sheville and the arc angels quite literally not a single major plot line that was introduced got resolved at all by the end of the first season.
Normally, I wouldn’t be so mad but the fact that the sequel to a series that finished almost a decade ago doesn’t even continue the plot seems like it’s in super bad taste imo. Like we already saw most of the major points of the MCs life in the first season, why would I want to read a second season that doesn’t even remotely continue or at least address any of the 10000000 characteplot threads that were introduced in the first one? Like the only major one I can think of that actually got a full arc was the first drunk reaper but that doesn’t really count cause he just spent 90% of the series under a rock, fought like two people, and then just got eaten with no full development.
Like I know it’s a rant, and I know this is gonna be looked down on poorly and for that I apologize, but, man, I gotta say I’m on some grade A copium right now.
It was just so good; the action, characters, dynamics, art, everything was right on track up until straight up nothing gets resolved.
I’ll still say the series is good but, man, now that I’ve finished it in one sitting I don’t think I could recommend it in good faith considering that there’s a very good chance that the main plot will never be resolved within the next two decades. The whiplash I got from how many people told me to read this without mentioning that this old comic doesn’t even close almost any of the threads just made me so destroyed.
Sadge
2024.05.16 17:13 TideRuglia Marvelsnapcomp Card of the Week: Cyclops
Sorry for the very long delay. Life has been hectic and I haven't always been in the mood to write and when I do, I want to make sure the analysis is op to snuff. So here's our continuation on card discussions -
Name: Cyclops
Name: (HE) Cyclops
HE Cyke though is where we can actually have some discussion regarding strengths and weaknesses. Because instead of it being all bad, HE Cyke is actually largely good. In fact, of the 7 HE modified cards, Cyke is probably amongst the strongest, in the running for probably THE best HE card. Some basics first to get out of the way. To use this version of Cyclops, you must dedicate one of your card slots to adding High Evolutionary to your deck. Hence why this version is often denoted with HE in the front. Once you do so, Cyclops will change to this modified version (or “evolved”), where he gains a new, power passive ability.
HE Cyke’s strength is two-fold. The first is his theoretical stat line. Yes, his base is still the crummy 3-4. But assuming you can proc his ability every turn and you play him as soon as possible, HE Cyke is a 3-10. That’s obviously very good. Remember how Bishop last week required a ton of cards to be played AND needing to be played early to get there? Cyke does that relatively effortlessly. You just need to play him, then float at least 1 Energy a turn to benefit. His second strength is how he is able to synergize with a lot of cards that share similar archetypes. There is the HE toxic line of course, where you play a lot of negative debuffs to cheat out a cheap Abomination while nerfing the power of your opponent’s field, but likewise, Scott is excellent with cards that want to float since you can then make 1 point of energy do a ton of work. If you play Sunspot, HE Misty Knight and have HE Hulk, that 1 point of unspent energy adds an additional 4 power on top of Cyclops’ own -2 debuff. So in contrast to his abilitless form, HE Cyke actually feels like a team leader in that he is able to slot into and work with a lot of cards. Due to his continuing threat of slapping -1s once he is played, he’s also ends up working great in lane control decks as he actively discourages your opponent from competing with his theoretical power.
As far as weaknesses go, HE Cyclops has a few. The first being one that he shares with all HE cards, which is the need to slot HE into the deck. HE is what veteran card players refer to as “a garnet”. In simple terms, this means he is a card you include due to a combo or enabling some sort of play but feels terrible when you actually draw him. You never want to draw HE because HE himself is an ability-less 4-4. Yes, he doesn’t even hit par. His “ability” is powering up the other cards, so as such when draw, he does nothing. Losing one of your deck slots to put in a card that does zilch when you pick it up is obviously terrible. To mitigate, you might consider playing multiple HE powered cards so that he feels less egregious. And to his credit as noted, Cyclops works with a good number them, so it doesn’t always feel as oppressive as you’re making HE enhance multiple cards usually alongside Scott himself.
HE Cyke’s second weakness is that he is limited by his window and loses effectiveness if he is the only card that takes advantage of float. If you play Cyke late (like Turn 5), that diminishes the amount damage he is able to do. So in that regard, he wants to come on to the field ASAP. But worse yet, like other cards that operate with float, the later you draw and play him, the worse it feels to actively have float. Imagine a scenario, where the only card that can take advantage of float you end up playing is Scott. In this scenario, Cyke may “feel” like a 3-10. But if you are actively sacrificing 1 energy for him, is he really? It would probably be more accurate to say in this case, he is a 6-10. That doesn’t seem so impressive anymore now, does it? The reason why we usually discount this is because you often have many of the other play makers already on field (or in HE Hulk’s case, in hand). When your 1 point of float is adding to 4-5 different cards, the float doesn’t feel bad. But when your float is only powering up 1 card, then it feels grossly inefficient and Scott is unfortunately a victim of this. In short, Scott’s effectiveness also depends on your other float absorbers. You should not expect him to perform any last minute miracle turnarounds.
HE’s release was great for Scott in general. Sure, it basically killed off his base form, but his evolved form is very strong and possibly the strongest HE card in the game. It turned him from a card that was going to die eventually to power creeping to a very often picked inclusion in certain achetypes – sometimes Best-in-Slot (BiS) for your deck if you’re playing something like She-naut or Toxic HE. You still see him today hanging out with other folks that make up those decks – Sunspot, Magik, HE Hulk – and he’s gained some new friends as he remains a staple on those lists. And while these decks are not currently being on top of the meta-lists, it’s always something to keep in mind as you play.
HE Cyke is another story and the main meat of this section for obvious reasons. Unlike his base version, here, there’s an actual ability with actual threat behind it. So if you don’t check it, it typically means giving up the lane since Scott can just stack a bunch of -1 Power effects onto your board. The key to dealing with HE Cyke if you don’t carry the typical tech cards is to keep in mind his float efficiency. Decks with HE will typically want float and play other float synergistic cards such as Sunspot. If you can eliminate those cards from play or use, then that will weaken HE Cyke as well. Having 1 float power up HE Cyke, HE MK and Sunspot means your opponent gets a lot of mileage by being energy efficient. It is a completely different story if he’s giving up 1 energy just to add 2x -1 Power. For this reason, some more unusual counters include stuff like Elektra and Killmonger who can snipe out HE Cyke’s early supports.
Another tactic you can try is to forcing your opponent into not having any float at all. This is typically harder to do because there aren’t many ways to mess with your opponent’s costs. You might be tempted to play Mobius but most HE Cyclops’ decks won’t run stuff like Sera. And now that Zabu has basically been neutered, there’s even less reason for them to carry cost discounters. Iceman can work but is typically too random and you have no way of knowing what it hit. The Bounce variants that can replay him are going to be best for this since you can then slap a bunch of +1 cost modifiers, forcing the HE Cyke player into position where he is less likely to have float.
You can also choose to avoid playing in HE Cyke’s lane entirely. Indeed, HE Cyke’s ability only works if there are other cards in the lane. Specifically – he only gets full value if you have TWO cards on YOUR side of the lane. If you don’t have other cards there, then he’s fundamentally no different than his vanilla form. For this reason, the Goblins, White Widow and Viper can be good soft counters. Viper especially can be mean since you end up throwing back a debuffed card back to your opponent’s board. This isn’t always an option though due to the location effects but something to keep in mind.
If you do have his checks, then you’re in a good position. HE Cyke gets dumpstered pretty hard by certain tech cards – most notably Luke Cage. Now that Cage is back in his old form (albeit +1 cost, +2 power), he’s the premier choice for countering toxic debuff strategies. HE Cyke is of course no exception to this rule. Simply play him on a late turn and undo a bunch of your opponent’s work. If they are floating on 5 in preparation of playing a big boi like HE Hulk or Infinaut and She-Hulk, slapping Luke down undoes the previous 2 turns of work and puts you into position of nailing their big boi too. Otherwise, both Shadow King and Valkyrie deserve honorable mentions but are not as good as Luke. SK resets all the previous’ turns power debuffs, which can be big but you’ll still be at the mercy of the current round’s effect. Valkyrie is similar except she will set everything to 3 power. If you have a way to break parity with at least +3 power, then you’re in a good position to take the lane.
Being 3 cost means Cyke is also vulnerable to Magneto. But Magneto doesn’t really counter Scott because by the time old Magnetman hits the field, Cyke’s effect would have already proc’d twice. Sure, you can then move him to another location but by then the damage is done. There are times when Magneto can be the game winner (such as an opponent having a weak lane and another lane that has been Flooded and they are using Cyke + Storm to hold it), but like the locations, he’s definitely more situational.
Apart from the HE family of cards, HE Cyke shares similar abilities as Man-Thing. Both cards represent an establisher that aims to hold the lane by applying debuffs to other cards in the lane. Both cards aim to hit your opponent’s cards with a max of -8 power. The main difference here is that Man-Thing only hits cards that cost 1-3, whereas Scott can hit any card as long as you give him float. Man-Thing is also Ongoing so certain soft counters that work against Scott don’t work on Man-Thing.
What are your best Cyclops plays?
What has been Cyclops’ best deck?
Did I miss anything in my assessment?
Let's discuss in the comments.
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Card of the Week: Cyclops
Card stats and textName: Cyclops
- Energy: 3
- Power: 4
- No ability
Name: (HE) Cyclops
- Energy: 3
- Power: 4
- Passive: Whenever you end a turn with at least 1 unspent Energy, apply -1 Power to a maximum of two of your opponent’s cards in this lane.
Mechanically speaking, what are the card's distinctive strengths and weaknesses?
It probably isn’t even worth much of a discussion as you would think to talk about basic Cyclops. He’s a vanilla 3-4 and sets the base line of what you’d expect for a 3 cost card to perform. It is worth pointing out that of all the cost to expected power ratios, 3 costs have the worst at just x1.33 times versus every other cost. So on an energy efficiency basis, 3 cost par value cards are pretty terrible to begin with. Nowadays, it’s probably even more underpowered as there is a growing trend of “3-5 is the new 3-4”. There is definitely some element of truth to that given most of the new 3-5s, even if they are specific to one particular archetype (such as Black Swan), often times don’t have an ability that actively hurts you. So base Cyclops still being 3-4 makes him more or less unplayable as there is always a better option. Surprisingly, this wasn’t always the case. I definitely remember roughly a year ago when people were still using basic Cyclops in decks such as Patriot where he represented an ability to go tall. You definitely don’t see that in modern SNAP; partially due to power creep and partially due to new cards introducing new abilities that change the base line.HE Cyke though is where we can actually have some discussion regarding strengths and weaknesses. Because instead of it being all bad, HE Cyke is actually largely good. In fact, of the 7 HE modified cards, Cyke is probably amongst the strongest, in the running for probably THE best HE card. Some basics first to get out of the way. To use this version of Cyclops, you must dedicate one of your card slots to adding High Evolutionary to your deck. Hence why this version is often denoted with HE in the front. Once you do so, Cyclops will change to this modified version (or “evolved”), where he gains a new, power passive ability.
HE Cyke’s strength is two-fold. The first is his theoretical stat line. Yes, his base is still the crummy 3-4. But assuming you can proc his ability every turn and you play him as soon as possible, HE Cyke is a 3-10. That’s obviously very good. Remember how Bishop last week required a ton of cards to be played AND needing to be played early to get there? Cyke does that relatively effortlessly. You just need to play him, then float at least 1 Energy a turn to benefit. His second strength is how he is able to synergize with a lot of cards that share similar archetypes. There is the HE toxic line of course, where you play a lot of negative debuffs to cheat out a cheap Abomination while nerfing the power of your opponent’s field, but likewise, Scott is excellent with cards that want to float since you can then make 1 point of energy do a ton of work. If you play Sunspot, HE Misty Knight and have HE Hulk, that 1 point of unspent energy adds an additional 4 power on top of Cyclops’ own -2 debuff. So in contrast to his abilitless form, HE Cyke actually feels like a team leader in that he is able to slot into and work with a lot of cards. Due to his continuing threat of slapping -1s once he is played, he’s also ends up working great in lane control decks as he actively discourages your opponent from competing with his theoretical power.
As far as weaknesses go, HE Cyclops has a few. The first being one that he shares with all HE cards, which is the need to slot HE into the deck. HE is what veteran card players refer to as “a garnet”. In simple terms, this means he is a card you include due to a combo or enabling some sort of play but feels terrible when you actually draw him. You never want to draw HE because HE himself is an ability-less 4-4. Yes, he doesn’t even hit par. His “ability” is powering up the other cards, so as such when draw, he does nothing. Losing one of your deck slots to put in a card that does zilch when you pick it up is obviously terrible. To mitigate, you might consider playing multiple HE powered cards so that he feels less egregious. And to his credit as noted, Cyclops works with a good number them, so it doesn’t always feel as oppressive as you’re making HE enhance multiple cards usually alongside Scott himself.
HE Cyke’s second weakness is that he is limited by his window and loses effectiveness if he is the only card that takes advantage of float. If you play Cyke late (like Turn 5), that diminishes the amount damage he is able to do. So in that regard, he wants to come on to the field ASAP. But worse yet, like other cards that operate with float, the later you draw and play him, the worse it feels to actively have float. Imagine a scenario, where the only card that can take advantage of float you end up playing is Scott. In this scenario, Cyke may “feel” like a 3-10. But if you are actively sacrificing 1 energy for him, is he really? It would probably be more accurate to say in this case, he is a 6-10. That doesn’t seem so impressive anymore now, does it? The reason why we usually discount this is because you often have many of the other play makers already on field (or in HE Hulk’s case, in hand). When your 1 point of float is adding to 4-5 different cards, the float doesn’t feel bad. But when your float is only powering up 1 card, then it feels grossly inefficient and Scott is unfortunately a victim of this. In short, Scott’s effectiveness also depends on your other float absorbers. You should not expect him to perform any last minute miracle turnarounds.
Where does the card fit in the metagame (past or present)? What archetypes should it work with?
Cyclops has had a pretty interesting run within the game’s meta. Before HE came around, his ability-less form was still used in certain decks (Patriot / Surfer) as a means to build tall in one lane. He was, at the time, pretty much the only 3 cost that could put out decent power with little set up. Even though there were other options within that field, power creep was lower a year ago so base Cyke still saw some use in selective cases.HE’s release was great for Scott in general. Sure, it basically killed off his base form, but his evolved form is very strong and possibly the strongest HE card in the game. It turned him from a card that was going to die eventually to power creeping to a very often picked inclusion in certain achetypes – sometimes Best-in-Slot (BiS) for your deck if you’re playing something like She-naut or Toxic HE. You still see him today hanging out with other folks that make up those decks – Sunspot, Magik, HE Hulk – and he’s gained some new friends as he remains a staple on those lists. And while these decks are not currently being on top of the meta-lists, it’s always something to keep in mind as you play.
Which cards have noteworthy interactions with it?
Cyclops has a decent number of cards that he can combo off of, which has helped Scott stay relevant even in today’s landscape:- High-Evolutionary: He’s useless in game but his inclusion is what gives Scott his evolved form. So if you plan on using that, you literally have no choice but to add him.
- HE Abomination / She-Hulk: Both cards are often cost-discounted with Cyclops. Float reduces She-Hulk’s cost, then Cyke’s -1 Power x 2 helps reduce HE Abom’s Cost by 2 if he hits 2 cards.
- Sunspot / HE Misty Knight: As with above, Cyke synergies with other cards that like float and Sunspot / HE Misty Knight do exactly that. Extra float gets converted straight to power for Sunspot while HE MK provides +1 power to a random card as long as you have float.
- Nebula: Often times when you place HE Cyke down in a lane, opponent’s will focus on the other lanes unless they have a good counter play since Cyke can be a big threat on his own. Adding Nebula to the same lane asks your opponent to pick their poison. Either give Nebula free boosts, or force them into the lane to be blasted.
- Storm: Not only does Storm lock the lane down, meaning any future cards played into her lane become Scott’s targets, but the added urgency she creates means an opponent will feel pressured to put something there or be forced to give up the lane for cheap.
- Jean Grey: Jean is an awkward card, but she combos well with HE Cyke. She holds an opponent’s play into the lane and he shoots them. I like how 2 of Cyke’s better partners are other classic ‘97ers.
- Silver Surfer: The OG but not really relevant anymore. Back then Surfer + Cyke was a way to build a lane tall in Surfer decks. But things have changed quite a bit so this combination has lost a lot of luster. Still if you are early in SNAP, it’s something that you can play around with.
What cards or strategies counter it? Are there other downsides to keep in mind?
Ability-less Cyclops doesn’t need much of a counter because he’s typically out-stated and power crept in today’s landscape. If your opponent plays ability-less Cyclops, you know he/she is probably early in their SNAP career and are probably running some old Patriot or Surfer variant. In which case, counters to those decks typically work.HE Cyke is another story and the main meat of this section for obvious reasons. Unlike his base version, here, there’s an actual ability with actual threat behind it. So if you don’t check it, it typically means giving up the lane since Scott can just stack a bunch of -1 Power effects onto your board. The key to dealing with HE Cyke if you don’t carry the typical tech cards is to keep in mind his float efficiency. Decks with HE will typically want float and play other float synergistic cards such as Sunspot. If you can eliminate those cards from play or use, then that will weaken HE Cyke as well. Having 1 float power up HE Cyke, HE MK and Sunspot means your opponent gets a lot of mileage by being energy efficient. It is a completely different story if he’s giving up 1 energy just to add 2x -1 Power. For this reason, some more unusual counters include stuff like Elektra and Killmonger who can snipe out HE Cyke’s early supports.
Another tactic you can try is to forcing your opponent into not having any float at all. This is typically harder to do because there aren’t many ways to mess with your opponent’s costs. You might be tempted to play Mobius but most HE Cyclops’ decks won’t run stuff like Sera. And now that Zabu has basically been neutered, there’s even less reason for them to carry cost discounters. Iceman can work but is typically too random and you have no way of knowing what it hit. The Bounce variants that can replay him are going to be best for this since you can then slap a bunch of +1 cost modifiers, forcing the HE Cyke player into position where he is less likely to have float.
You can also choose to avoid playing in HE Cyke’s lane entirely. Indeed, HE Cyke’s ability only works if there are other cards in the lane. Specifically – he only gets full value if you have TWO cards on YOUR side of the lane. If you don’t have other cards there, then he’s fundamentally no different than his vanilla form. For this reason, the Goblins, White Widow and Viper can be good soft counters. Viper especially can be mean since you end up throwing back a debuffed card back to your opponent’s board. This isn’t always an option though due to the location effects but something to keep in mind.
If you do have his checks, then you’re in a good position. HE Cyke gets dumpstered pretty hard by certain tech cards – most notably Luke Cage. Now that Cage is back in his old form (albeit +1 cost, +2 power), he’s the premier choice for countering toxic debuff strategies. HE Cyke is of course no exception to this rule. Simply play him on a late turn and undo a bunch of your opponent’s work. If they are floating on 5 in preparation of playing a big boi like HE Hulk or Infinaut and She-Hulk, slapping Luke down undoes the previous 2 turns of work and puts you into position of nailing their big boi too. Otherwise, both Shadow King and Valkyrie deserve honorable mentions but are not as good as Luke. SK resets all the previous’ turns power debuffs, which can be big but you’ll still be at the mercy of the current round’s effect. Valkyrie is similar except she will set everything to 3 power. If you have a way to break parity with at least +3 power, then you’re in a good position to take the lane.
Being 3 cost means Cyke is also vulnerable to Magneto. But Magneto doesn’t really counter Scott because by the time old Magnetman hits the field, Cyke’s effect would have already proc’d twice. Sure, you can then move him to another location but by then the damage is done. There are times when Magneto can be the game winner (such as an opponent having a weak lane and another lane that has been Flooded and they are using Cyke + Storm to hold it), but like the locations, he’s definitely more situational.
What other cards may serve a similar role, for either replacement or redundancy?
From the HE family, HE Cyke’s closest comparison is his 4 cost companion HE Thing. Both cards slam -1 power effects to different cards in the lane. However, in Ben’s case, he’s an On Reveal and thus only triggers once and doesn’t scale with float. Otherwise, HE Misty Knight is also similar AND synergistic. In this case, you add +1 power for every additional point of float, just like how HE Cyke adds 2x -1 Power debuffs. This +1 is random though so care must be placed into deciding what you’re playing since the more cards there are, the extra float can hit cards you don’t really want.Apart from the HE family of cards, HE Cyke shares similar abilities as Man-Thing. Both cards represent an establisher that aims to hold the lane by applying debuffs to other cards in the lane. Both cards aim to hit your opponent’s cards with a max of -8 power. The main difference here is that Man-Thing only hits cards that cost 1-3, whereas Scott can hit any card as long as you give him float. Man-Thing is also Ongoing so certain soft counters that work against Scott don’t work on Man-Thing.
Conclusion
Cyclops has come a long way. He went from being an ability-less, identity-less generic 3 cost to now a staple consideration in one of the game’s more competitive archetypes. Not bad for the field commander.What are your best Cyclops plays?
What has been Cyclops’ best deck?
Did I miss anything in my assessment?
Let's discuss in the comments.
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2024.05.16 17:13 branconay [M4A] [F4A] [A4A] your yandere find out the truth [yandere] [scary to sweet] [comfort] [possessive] [forgive] [kidnapped listener] mentions of [violence] [abuse] [threats] [murder] [blood] [A LOT of bruises] [drug]
hello my dears, Today I come here with a new story, as always and completely free for monetization, and if necessary some parts can be changed since English is not my first language XD, I just ask you to put the link in the comments so I can appreciate your wonderful work (and for the few who like my fallout series, don't worry, it's only on hiatus due to lack of creativity) shall we begin ?
*dripping sounds*
*voice in the distance* sweeeeetie, wake up my sugar bunny, God, how you loved it when I called you that - no you WILL love it when I call you that again *the voice starts to become clearer* oh? sweetie! you woke up! you don't know how worried I was, I know what a sleepyhead you are end-
*sounds of chains*
hey hey hey stop it, stop struggling,These chains are very very tight, and I don't want to see my sweetie marked by chains *speaker's voice becomes serious* I'm the only one who can mark you, I'm the only one who can touch you *speaker gets close* I'm the only one who can feel you, your soft skin, your scent, I'm the only one who can feel your soul
*deep breath*
yes yes yes YES!, this is the stuff, Do you know how difficult it was to steal your hoodies? I had to wait for you to go to physical education and then sneak into the men's locker room, ugh all this just to have something that is already mine
...
oh? sweetie you were always so stupid, how am I going to listen to you with that gag on ?
*sounds of chains*
stop it, stop it now I TOLD YOU TO STOP
*slap*
look at me *heavy breathing* LOOK AT ME, LOOK WHAT YOU MAKE ME DO SWEETIE, ha ha ha ha ha ha, YOU KNOW HOW TO AWAKEN THE WORST IN ME, DON'T YOU? SUGAR RABBIT
*speaker comes back to himself*
no no no no, don't cry please don't cry, you know I never meant you harm bunny boy,here let me just
*kiss*
there go, everything is fine, everything is fine, shiiiii, I'm a bunny, but none of this would be happening if you hadn't made the worst mistake of your life *litle slaps* *drawing knife* was the mistake of breaking up with me
*sounds of chains increases*
no no no, without struggling, you dug the grave, now you will be buried in it
*speaker runs the knife through the listener's clothes*
strange, you've never been one to wear long-sleeved shirts, hoodies yes, but never long-sleeved shirts,Did THE OTHER one say you looked good in these? ha I knew it, that's why you left me, for a slut
...
I ALREADY TOLD YOU, STOP CRYING, DO YOU HAVE ANY IDEA HOW I FELT?
*speaker starts crying*
I GAVE YOU EVERYTHING, MY UNCONDITIONAL LOVE, MONEY, POPULARITY, AND ONE DAY OUT OF NOWHERE YOU JUST DECIDE TO BREAK UP WITH ME? THAT'S NOT FAIR
THAT'S NOT FAIR THAT'S NOT FAIR THAT'S NOT FAIR, YOU SAID YOU LOVED ME, THAT I WAS YOUR WORLD
*speaker continues to struggle*
I SAID STOP IT *fabric tearing sounds* NEXT TIME THE KNIFE WILL CUT YOur- *speaker takes the listener's arm* bunny,your arm, why does he have this bruise
*listner starts crying heavily*
bunny... what happened ?, bunny why are you crying? I won't hurt you here
*speaker throws the knife away*
Bunny, I'm going to take off your shirt, okay?
*fabric sounds*
my... God, *The speaker's eyes begin to water* Bunny, what happened to you? You're all covered in bruises, IS THAT A SCAR? ok I'm going to take off the gag ok? but please bunny don't scream
*speaker takes off the gag*
hey, please calm down, I can't understand anything, bunny breathe, just breathe, calmer? Now please my love, tell me what happened to you, don't tell me that... Bunny, did you do this to yourself?
...
no? ok that's a huge relief, I don't know what I would do if you even thought about that kind of thing, but bunny, so WHO did this to you, I swear I'll hang them with their own intestines ,here let me just, *sounds of chains* Here we go, free from these chains, you're safe I won't hurt you uff
*listner hugs the speaker crying*
It's okay bunny, just please tell me what happened
...
so that was the reason, they surround you, corner you and then they threaten you, all out of envy, *the speaker starts to cry*, and I thought you just wanted to play with my feelings, but of course not, a bunny like you would never be capable of harming anyone.
...
I know, but can you say it one more time?
...
one more time
...
That's right, you love ME, only me
bunny, this experience just showed how you can't live without me, understand
...
Nooooo you can't, do you remember that time you saw an injured bird and you tried to bring it into your house? And what happened ? You let him loose and he ended up hitting the glass door and hurting himself even more.
I won't make that mistake, you'll be safe with me, it'll take a while for the dust to settle, so you'll have to stay here for a while, but I won't let you get hurt anymore my bunny
...
Of course we can get snuggle, all to see you happy, and later you will tell me the name of everyone who did this to you.
...
I know, I must have scared you, your little heart felt like it was going to jump out of your chest But you have to understand that you are everything to me, and that if you ever think about leaving me, all of this is just the tip of the iceberg of what I am capable of doing.
...
I love you too my sugary fluffy bunny, now I'm going to get you some water, and your favorite snacks
...
Oh, that bottle of water? let's just say that it's not water ha ha ha, and that's all you need to know *sound of water moving inside a bottle* ...
what is it then ? come on, let's say it would be the "last resort" to make you fall on your knees for me
...
You know how the energy of a bunny like you is, this was just to make *clears throat* you looser with that energy, that's all
...
No I wouldn't drug you, again, I would just, you know, make you more suggestive of some actions ha ha ha, but let's leave that aside, I'll be right back ok my cutie.
love you, just make yourself comfortable sit wherever you want, and you can use the covers to keep warm, and a cold night outside
...
Yea it's already night, like I said you were out for a looooooooong time, my eepy bunny boy well out I go.
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*dripping sounds*
*voice in the distance* sweeeeetie, wake up my sugar bunny, God, how you loved it when I called you that - no you WILL love it when I call you that again *the voice starts to become clearer* oh? sweetie! you woke up! you don't know how worried I was, I know what a sleepyhead you are end-
*sounds of chains*
hey hey hey stop it, stop struggling,These chains are very very tight, and I don't want to see my sweetie marked by chains *speaker's voice becomes serious* I'm the only one who can mark you, I'm the only one who can touch you *speaker gets close* I'm the only one who can feel you, your soft skin, your scent, I'm the only one who can feel your soul
*deep breath*
yes yes yes YES!, this is the stuff, Do you know how difficult it was to steal your hoodies? I had to wait for you to go to physical education and then sneak into the men's locker room, ugh all this just to have something that is already mine
...
oh? sweetie you were always so stupid, how am I going to listen to you with that gag on ?
*sounds of chains*
stop it, stop it now I TOLD YOU TO STOP
*slap*
look at me *heavy breathing* LOOK AT ME, LOOK WHAT YOU MAKE ME DO SWEETIE, ha ha ha ha ha ha, YOU KNOW HOW TO AWAKEN THE WORST IN ME, DON'T YOU? SUGAR RABBIT
*speaker comes back to himself*
no no no no, don't cry please don't cry, you know I never meant you harm bunny boy,here let me just
*kiss*
there go, everything is fine, everything is fine, shiiiii, I'm a bunny, but none of this would be happening if you hadn't made the worst mistake of your life *litle slaps* *drawing knife* was the mistake of breaking up with me
*sounds of chains increases*
no no no, without struggling, you dug the grave, now you will be buried in it
*speaker runs the knife through the listener's clothes*
strange, you've never been one to wear long-sleeved shirts, hoodies yes, but never long-sleeved shirts,Did THE OTHER one say you looked good in these? ha I knew it, that's why you left me, for a slut
...
I ALREADY TOLD YOU, STOP CRYING, DO YOU HAVE ANY IDEA HOW I FELT?
*speaker starts crying*
I GAVE YOU EVERYTHING, MY UNCONDITIONAL LOVE, MONEY, POPULARITY, AND ONE DAY OUT OF NOWHERE YOU JUST DECIDE TO BREAK UP WITH ME? THAT'S NOT FAIR
THAT'S NOT FAIR THAT'S NOT FAIR THAT'S NOT FAIR, YOU SAID YOU LOVED ME, THAT I WAS YOUR WORLD
*speaker continues to struggle*
I SAID STOP IT *fabric tearing sounds* NEXT TIME THE KNIFE WILL CUT YOur- *speaker takes the listener's arm* bunny,your arm, why does he have this bruise
*listner starts crying heavily*
bunny... what happened ?, bunny why are you crying? I won't hurt you here
*speaker throws the knife away*
Bunny, I'm going to take off your shirt, okay?
*fabric sounds*
my... God, *The speaker's eyes begin to water* Bunny, what happened to you? You're all covered in bruises, IS THAT A SCAR? ok I'm going to take off the gag ok? but please bunny don't scream
*speaker takes off the gag*
hey, please calm down, I can't understand anything, bunny breathe, just breathe, calmer? Now please my love, tell me what happened to you, don't tell me that... Bunny, did you do this to yourself?
...
no? ok that's a huge relief, I don't know what I would do if you even thought about that kind of thing, but bunny, so WHO did this to you, I swear I'll hang them with their own intestines ,here let me just, *sounds of chains* Here we go, free from these chains, you're safe I won't hurt you uff
*listner hugs the speaker crying*
It's okay bunny, just please tell me what happened
...
so that was the reason, they surround you, corner you and then they threaten you, all out of envy, *the speaker starts to cry*, and I thought you just wanted to play with my feelings, but of course not, a bunny like you would never be capable of harming anyone.
...
I know, but can you say it one more time?
...
one more time
...
That's right, you love ME, only me
bunny, this experience just showed how you can't live without me, understand
...
Nooooo you can't, do you remember that time you saw an injured bird and you tried to bring it into your house? And what happened ? You let him loose and he ended up hitting the glass door and hurting himself even more.
I won't make that mistake, you'll be safe with me, it'll take a while for the dust to settle, so you'll have to stay here for a while, but I won't let you get hurt anymore my bunny
...
Of course we can get snuggle, all to see you happy, and later you will tell me the name of everyone who did this to you.
...
I know, I must have scared you, your little heart felt like it was going to jump out of your chest But you have to understand that you are everything to me, and that if you ever think about leaving me, all of this is just the tip of the iceberg of what I am capable of doing.
...
I love you too my sugary fluffy bunny, now I'm going to get you some water, and your favorite snacks
...
Oh, that bottle of water? let's just say that it's not water ha ha ha, and that's all you need to know *sound of water moving inside a bottle* ...
what is it then ? come on, let's say it would be the "last resort" to make you fall on your knees for me
...
You know how the energy of a bunny like you is, this was just to make *clears throat* you looser with that energy, that's all
...
No I wouldn't drug you, again, I would just, you know, make you more suggestive of some actions ha ha ha, but let's leave that aside, I'll be right back ok my cutie.
love you, just make yourself comfortable sit wherever you want, and you can use the covers to keep warm, and a cold night outside
...
Yea it's already night, like I said you were out for a looooooooong time, my eepy bunny boy well out I go.
2024.05.16 17:11 aurelgheata I was curious and wanted to continue now I am facing sleep paralysis and nightmares
I've never had sleep paralysis, but since listening to these binaural beats the gateway ones, I've started to "feel bad", as I say in my dreams, because first it happens while I'm dreaming and I'm talking about paralysis, vibrations and waves of energy accompanied by blue lights in the shape of a tunnel so to speak and then continues even after I wake up.
It all starts with a bad dream. These are the parts I remember from the three dreams, the distance being several months.
Is this normal or am I more sensitive, will it become even worse ? WTF ?
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It all starts with a bad dream. These are the parts I remember from the three dreams, the distance being several months.
- A female being was hugging me while we were spinning in the air, kissing me and at the same time living me breathless and sucking my soul out of my mouth that was like a steam.
- There was a cat in a room and when I looked it smiled at me with a human face and said "I am Satan, you could see that because you looked more closely"
- A dog had three newly born puppies, they were dark brown in color, their mouth was not like a dog's, rather it looked like a human and with three small eyes like the ones of a snail. The dog climbed on a table next to me at my level and blew air in my mouth and I blew air into his mouth, then he started to repeat what I say, from simple words to sentences, next to us was an electronic device with a measuring level that indicates how much he has learned to speak. When the lights of the device reached the maximum level, I heard "In this dog is the spirit of a murderer" and then I saw pictures on a screen of that murderer when he was alive.
Is this normal or am I more sensitive, will it become even worse ? WTF ?
2024.05.16 17:11 aurelgheata I was curious and wanted to continue now I am facing sleep paralysis and nightmares
I've never had sleep paralysis, but since listening to these binaural beats the gateway ones, I've started to "feel bad", as I say in my dreams, because first it happens while I'm dreaming and I'm talking about paralysis, vibrations and waves of energy accompanied by blue lights in the shape of a tunnel so to speak and then continues even after I wake up.
It all starts with a bad dream. These are the parts I remember from the three dreams, the distance being several months.
Is this normal or am I more sensitive, will it become even worse ? WTF ?
submitted by aurelgheata to AstralProjection [link] [comments]
It all starts with a bad dream. These are the parts I remember from the three dreams, the distance being several months.
- A female being was hugging me while we were spinning in the air, kissing me and at the same time living me breathless and sucking my soul out of my mouth that was like a steam.
- There was a cat in a room and when I looked it smiled at me with a human face and said "I am Satan, you could see that because you looked more closely"
- A dog that three newly born puppies, they were dark brown in color, their mouth was not like a dog's, rather it looked like a human and with three small eyes like the ones of a snail. The dog climbed on a table next to me at my level and blew air in my mouth and I blew air into his mouth, then he started to repeat what I say, from simple words to sentences, next to us was an electronic device with a measuring level that indicates how much he has learned to speak. When the lights of the device reached the maximum level, I heard "In this dog is the spirit of a murderer" and then I saw pictures on a screen of that murderer when he was alive.
Is this normal or am I more sensitive, will it become even worse ? WTF ?
2024.05.16 17:10 zepporamone [For Sale] New Pull: Alice Cooper, Arctic Monkeys, Karen Dalton, Father John Misty, Flamin' Groovies, Francoise Hardy, Howlin' Wolf (Cancelled Press), Jellyfish, Kreator (Signed), Pixies, Promo-Only Lou Reed Flexi, U-Roy, Crown Jewels Com
Hi,
More new stuff, well below Discogs. Still digging through a large buy and trying to make some floor space. Everything ships from Boston/Cambridge and is a flat $5 to CONUS no matter how much you order. All vinyl is visually graded (media/sleeve) unless otherwise noted. Next mail run happens tomorrow (Friday, May 17th). Pickup available in Cambridge, MA if you're local. If you're interested in anything, please contact me via CHAT ONLY, please. No rainchecks, holds, etc.
Alice Cooper Killer (Red/Black) (VG+/VG+) Vinyl is being graded conservatively and is very clean. Sleeve has a bit of wear, particularly along the edges and corners but it's largely very clean. $23
Arctic Monkeys AM (Mispress) (VG+/VG+) Y'know how there was that mispressed version of AM that slipped out a year or so back with two Side Bs? Well, this mispress has two Side As. The correct labels are on both sides but the matrix on each reads Side A and, well, that's what you get. I actually also have copies of the mispress with Side B on both so, y'know, if you'd like to combine those two mispresses, you'll have a complete version of the album (...) I have two copies of this double A-side. The vinyl on both is VG+. One of the sleeves, however, has a hype sticker affixed directly to the sleeve, so I'm knocking that one down to VG. VG sleeved version is $15. VG+ sleeved version is $20. If you'd like to combine either of these with a VG+/VG+ version of the double B-side version, I'll do it for $40 shipped.
Karen Dalton In My Own Time (CleaBlack Swirl) (NM/VG+) Vinyl is near pristine. Jacket has minimal shelfwear. $30
Father John Misty I Love You, Honeybear (Tricolored, Diorama) (VG/VG) So, this is the original release featuring the diorama fold-out (no midi-player with this version and this one doesn't include the cassette) on tricolored vinyl. The sleeve is largely sharp and I'm grading it somewhat conservatively. Knocking it down because there's a bit of wear along the bottom edge and a teeny, tiny little ding/split (1cm) on the top. As was common with this release, however, the vinyl has a strong warp. They were originally packaged inside the sleeve the weight of the diorama just bowled them. It was a common enough issue that they later re-released this version with the platters outside the sleeve. I gave it a test and it did play through but my needle was certainly riding the waves. If someone wants to take the time to flattened those platters, you'll have a really nice copy. $25
Flamin' Groovies Shake Some Action (180G) (VG/VG+) Grading this one conservatively. Plays and looks much closer to VG+ but there are a few light hairlines and a couple of divots from manufacturing on both sides. When played, there's perhaps a brief, audible whoosh or drop-out in those spots but nothing ever dominates the music or skips. Sleeve is sharp. Classic, classic album at a low price. $12
Francoise Hardy Tous Les Garcons Et Les Filles (LITA) (VG/VG+) Grading very conservatively. Vinyl would be NM if not for a scuff toward the end of B1/beginning of B2 that creates a bit of noise (but nothing that dominates the music) for about 30 seconds. Otherwise a beautiful copy. Obi included. I also have copies of other Hardy LPs in stock if you check my recent posts. $17
Howlin' Wolf His Greatest Sides Volume 1 (Starburst, Cancelled Edition) So, this one is almost one of a kind. It's an advance copy (essentially used as a test pressing) of what was going to be an exclusive variant of His Greatest Sides Vol. 1 on starburst vinyl for an indie retailer. There were a number of issues with the press, however, and the entire run was cancelled. This is one of a handful that exist. There are a variety of little issues that I noticed upon testing it - the run-in to A1 shoots the needle about halfway across the track, there are odd bits of crackle or noise in the mix, etc. It's got a share of defects but largely plays through without those issues dominating the music (except, y'know, that first track that ultimately starts about halfway in. Cute little collectable. $20
Jellyfish Live At Bogart's (Blue, etched) (VG/VG+) Most of the vinyl looks great but there are a few spots with issues. There's a mechanical scuff on the exact same spot on sides C & D. It runs across the entirety of the first track and into the second on both sides. It looks bad and I assumed it would cause a skip but, upon testing, it just produces some noise and the occasional pop. There's also another scuff on Side D running from tracks 1-3. It's lighter but does produce a bit of noise. Jacket is largely clean but has a half-inch seam split. $22
Kreator Hate Uber Alles (Transparent Red, SIGNED) (VG+/VG+) So, I don't think the vinyl has ever actually been played. It's very clean. The sleeve has been signed by the members of the band (two in black sharpie, two in silver sharpie). Super nice copy. $50
Pixies Doolittle (Bronze/Green Swirl) (VG/VG+) A Side is very clean. B side has a number of scuffs that produces varying degrees of noise (but no skips). There's a faint hairline or two running the length of the side that don't produce much in the way of noise. There's also, however, a bad scratch that affects bits of the last three tracks (the worst of it on Gouge Away). Those sections have some routine noise, pops, etc. It doesn't overpower the music but it's noticeable. Sleeve stored in shrink. $30
Lou Reed I'm Waiting For The Man (May 1965 Demo) (Yellow, Promo-Only Flexidisc) (NM/Generic) Unplayed flexi comes complete with letter from the label. $7.50
U-Roy Version Galore (G+/G+) Here's a well-loved copy of U-Roy's Version Galore. I'm grading a little conservatively but, y'know, it's an old Treasure Isle press that was never going to be the quietest thing even when it was brand new - and it certainly isn't brand new anymore. There's a little bed of noise throughout and sections that have some pops and clicks (first 30 seconds of A1 and B1 for example), a few scuffs and hairlines, one or two scratches that are a bit worse. Nothing causes a skip but you're going to get the occasional snap, crackle, and pop. Cover is all in tact and the art looks pretty good but there are warn edges, corners, bit of scuffing, etc. If you like your reggae with a bit of a warm, fire-side ambiance, you could do a lot worse than this classic at $10.
Various Crown Jewels Vol. 1 (Fool's Gold) (VG+/VG+) Solid label comp from Big Crown featuring Lee Fields, Lady Wray, El Michels Affair, etc. $7.50
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More new stuff, well below Discogs. Still digging through a large buy and trying to make some floor space. Everything ships from Boston/Cambridge and is a flat $5 to CONUS no matter how much you order. All vinyl is visually graded (media/sleeve) unless otherwise noted. Next mail run happens tomorrow (Friday, May 17th). Pickup available in Cambridge, MA if you're local. If you're interested in anything, please contact me via CHAT ONLY, please. No rainchecks, holds, etc.
Alice Cooper Killer (Red/Black) (VG+/VG+) Vinyl is being graded conservatively and is very clean. Sleeve has a bit of wear, particularly along the edges and corners but it's largely very clean. $23
Arctic Monkeys AM (Mispress) (VG+/VG+) Y'know how there was that mispressed version of AM that slipped out a year or so back with two Side Bs? Well, this mispress has two Side As. The correct labels are on both sides but the matrix on each reads Side A and, well, that's what you get. I actually also have copies of the mispress with Side B on both so, y'know, if you'd like to combine those two mispresses, you'll have a complete version of the album (...) I have two copies of this double A-side. The vinyl on both is VG+. One of the sleeves, however, has a hype sticker affixed directly to the sleeve, so I'm knocking that one down to VG. VG sleeved version is $15. VG+ sleeved version is $20. If you'd like to combine either of these with a VG+/VG+ version of the double B-side version, I'll do it for $40 shipped.
Karen Dalton In My Own Time (CleaBlack Swirl) (NM/VG+) Vinyl is near pristine. Jacket has minimal shelfwear. $30
Father John Misty I Love You, Honeybear (Tricolored, Diorama) (VG/VG) So, this is the original release featuring the diorama fold-out (no midi-player with this version and this one doesn't include the cassette) on tricolored vinyl. The sleeve is largely sharp and I'm grading it somewhat conservatively. Knocking it down because there's a bit of wear along the bottom edge and a teeny, tiny little ding/split (1cm) on the top. As was common with this release, however, the vinyl has a strong warp. They were originally packaged inside the sleeve the weight of the diorama just bowled them. It was a common enough issue that they later re-released this version with the platters outside the sleeve. I gave it a test and it did play through but my needle was certainly riding the waves. If someone wants to take the time to flattened those platters, you'll have a really nice copy. $25
Flamin' Groovies Shake Some Action (180G) (VG/VG+) Grading this one conservatively. Plays and looks much closer to VG+ but there are a few light hairlines and a couple of divots from manufacturing on both sides. When played, there's perhaps a brief, audible whoosh or drop-out in those spots but nothing ever dominates the music or skips. Sleeve is sharp. Classic, classic album at a low price. $12
Francoise Hardy Tous Les Garcons Et Les Filles (LITA) (VG/VG+) Grading very conservatively. Vinyl would be NM if not for a scuff toward the end of B1/beginning of B2 that creates a bit of noise (but nothing that dominates the music) for about 30 seconds. Otherwise a beautiful copy. Obi included. I also have copies of other Hardy LPs in stock if you check my recent posts. $17
Howlin' Wolf His Greatest Sides Volume 1 (Starburst, Cancelled Edition) So, this one is almost one of a kind. It's an advance copy (essentially used as a test pressing) of what was going to be an exclusive variant of His Greatest Sides Vol. 1 on starburst vinyl for an indie retailer. There were a number of issues with the press, however, and the entire run was cancelled. This is one of a handful that exist. There are a variety of little issues that I noticed upon testing it - the run-in to A1 shoots the needle about halfway across the track, there are odd bits of crackle or noise in the mix, etc. It's got a share of defects but largely plays through without those issues dominating the music (except, y'know, that first track that ultimately starts about halfway in. Cute little collectable. $20
Jellyfish Live At Bogart's (Blue, etched) (VG/VG+) Most of the vinyl looks great but there are a few spots with issues. There's a mechanical scuff on the exact same spot on sides C & D. It runs across the entirety of the first track and into the second on both sides. It looks bad and I assumed it would cause a skip but, upon testing, it just produces some noise and the occasional pop. There's also another scuff on Side D running from tracks 1-3. It's lighter but does produce a bit of noise. Jacket is largely clean but has a half-inch seam split. $22
Kreator Hate Uber Alles (Transparent Red, SIGNED) (VG+/VG+) So, I don't think the vinyl has ever actually been played. It's very clean. The sleeve has been signed by the members of the band (two in black sharpie, two in silver sharpie). Super nice copy. $50
Pixies Doolittle (Bronze/Green Swirl) (VG/VG+) A Side is very clean. B side has a number of scuffs that produces varying degrees of noise (but no skips). There's a faint hairline or two running the length of the side that don't produce much in the way of noise. There's also, however, a bad scratch that affects bits of the last three tracks (the worst of it on Gouge Away). Those sections have some routine noise, pops, etc. It doesn't overpower the music but it's noticeable. Sleeve stored in shrink. $30
Lou Reed I'm Waiting For The Man (May 1965 Demo) (Yellow, Promo-Only Flexidisc) (NM/Generic) Unplayed flexi comes complete with letter from the label. $7.50
U-Roy Version Galore (G+/G+) Here's a well-loved copy of U-Roy's Version Galore. I'm grading a little conservatively but, y'know, it's an old Treasure Isle press that was never going to be the quietest thing even when it was brand new - and it certainly isn't brand new anymore. There's a little bed of noise throughout and sections that have some pops and clicks (first 30 seconds of A1 and B1 for example), a few scuffs and hairlines, one or two scratches that are a bit worse. Nothing causes a skip but you're going to get the occasional snap, crackle, and pop. Cover is all in tact and the art looks pretty good but there are warn edges, corners, bit of scuffing, etc. If you like your reggae with a bit of a warm, fire-side ambiance, you could do a lot worse than this classic at $10.
Various Crown Jewels Vol. 1 (Fool's Gold) (VG+/VG+) Solid label comp from Big Crown featuring Lee Fields, Lady Wray, El Michels Affair, etc. $7.50
2024.05.16 17:08 Specialist_Sort_4248 AITAH for asking my wife not to hang out with her friend who has a different lifestyle than us because I'm afraid of losing her?
(Throwaway account, because I mostly use reddit for work-related topics).
Me (37M) and my wife (35F) have been married for 14 years. We met when we were both in college, she studied literature, I studied engineering and was getting into tech. We were dating for two years when she got pregnant and we decided to get married and start a family. We decided together that I would work and she would be a SAHM because it would be difficult for her to find a well-paying job with her major, and I was already starting to earn quite well. I've also always had a fairly conservative approach to family life and I was happy to be a sole provider. She always wanted to be a mom and was looking forward to being a SAHM.
Right now our children are 14 and 12 years old, I have a good job and my wife stays home taking care of the house. This arrangement has always suited her, but recently she has begun to mention that she feels a bit lonely and lacks friends, especially now that the children are older and she has more time to herself. Indeed, our social life mostly consisted of meetings with my work colleagues and their wives whom my wife can hardly call "friends." That's why I was happy at first when my wife ran into her best friend from college, let’s call her Anna. According to my wife they got along so well as if they didn’t have an almost 14-year old break in contact (when my wife got pregnant she drifted apart from her college friends). They started meeting for coffee quite often. When my wife returned from these meetings she was overjoyed and excited and told me a lot about Anna. It was then that I began to worry.
During the time my wife had no contact with her, Anna got her PhD in literature, started teaching at the university, and became the editor of one of the most important cultural magazines in our country. Her husband is an award-winning writer, apparently very well recognized (it's hard for me to say anything about this, as I have no idea about literature). They earn well, do not have and do not want children, and basically lead a carefree lifestyle completely different from ours: they have lots of friends from their literary-academic circle, consider these friends "family" and go several times a week to various author meetings, galas, gallery openings, and god knows what else. From what I've gathered, they are also much more progressive and liberal than I am, for example, they divide all their chores and bills 50/50 and they have a mixed-gender group of friends - Anna is friends with men and her husband with women, which I always considered inappropriate in a serious relationship.
My wife invited Anna and her husband for dinner because she really wanted me to meet them - she hoped we would both start going to all these cultural events with them. They were very polite and respectful, and didn't comment in any way on the differences in our lifestyles, but dinner was nevertheless quite tiresome for me, as I didn't have any common topics with them. My wife knows that I don't share her passion for literature (just as she doesn't share my interest in technology), but this has never been an issue in our marriage - we traveled together, went on bike trips, went to our favorite restaurants and movies, etc. I didn't understand why she suddenly wants this to change.
Anna started taking my wife to some of the literary events organized by her magazine and also invited her to write a couple of reviews for a column she is running (she apparently sees great potential in my wife and appreciates her insight) - which my wife accepted with great joy. I was torn: on the one hand, I was happy that my wife didn't feel alone and that she had something to do when the kids are at school or with their friends. On the other hand, I was afraid that I was losing my wife - that she would turn into someone else under Anna's influence. I was also afraid that other men will hit on her at the events Anna invites her to (even though my wife repeats that all of Anna's friends know that she is married and a mother, they never cross any boundaries and always speak of her family with respect).
I finally told my wife that I was uncomfortable with her friendship with Anna, that I was afraid this relationship would change her for the worse and that she would no longer care about our marriage and children. I said that I can’t forbid her to do antyhing, but that I would feel much better if she didn't go to all these events with Anna and if she didn't accept an offer to write reviews for her magazine. My wife said that the friendship with Anna is very important to her, that she had been feeling depressed lately spending most of the day at home all alone, and that contact with people with whom she can talk about things she’s passionate about has made her feel significantly better. I promised to her that I will work less and that I will spend more time with her. I also repeated that I cannot forbid her to see Anna and her friends but that this friendship really makes me uncomfortable. She was sad but understood me and said that she will stop spending time with Anna.
Yesterday, I talked to my older brother (whose advice I always appreciate) about this situation. He said that me and my wife married really young and that it’s understandable that she might feel like she’s missing out on things outside family life. He also said that the only way to make sure that my wife is with me because she really loves me and not because she’s just stuck with me and has no other options, is to give her freedom to spend time with other people, even though it makes me uncomfortable. It really made me think and question my own behavior. I really don’t want to be a person who limits my wife’s freedom, but I also don’t want to be tempting fate in order to see if she really loves me. It would break my heart to lose her and maybe deep inside I feel like she would leave me if she had any other options, so I don’t want her to have these options. I feel like shit. AITAH?
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Me (37M) and my wife (35F) have been married for 14 years. We met when we were both in college, she studied literature, I studied engineering and was getting into tech. We were dating for two years when she got pregnant and we decided to get married and start a family. We decided together that I would work and she would be a SAHM because it would be difficult for her to find a well-paying job with her major, and I was already starting to earn quite well. I've also always had a fairly conservative approach to family life and I was happy to be a sole provider. She always wanted to be a mom and was looking forward to being a SAHM.
Right now our children are 14 and 12 years old, I have a good job and my wife stays home taking care of the house. This arrangement has always suited her, but recently she has begun to mention that she feels a bit lonely and lacks friends, especially now that the children are older and she has more time to herself. Indeed, our social life mostly consisted of meetings with my work colleagues and their wives whom my wife can hardly call "friends." That's why I was happy at first when my wife ran into her best friend from college, let’s call her Anna. According to my wife they got along so well as if they didn’t have an almost 14-year old break in contact (when my wife got pregnant she drifted apart from her college friends). They started meeting for coffee quite often. When my wife returned from these meetings she was overjoyed and excited and told me a lot about Anna. It was then that I began to worry.
During the time my wife had no contact with her, Anna got her PhD in literature, started teaching at the university, and became the editor of one of the most important cultural magazines in our country. Her husband is an award-winning writer, apparently very well recognized (it's hard for me to say anything about this, as I have no idea about literature). They earn well, do not have and do not want children, and basically lead a carefree lifestyle completely different from ours: they have lots of friends from their literary-academic circle, consider these friends "family" and go several times a week to various author meetings, galas, gallery openings, and god knows what else. From what I've gathered, they are also much more progressive and liberal than I am, for example, they divide all their chores and bills 50/50 and they have a mixed-gender group of friends - Anna is friends with men and her husband with women, which I always considered inappropriate in a serious relationship.
My wife invited Anna and her husband for dinner because she really wanted me to meet them - she hoped we would both start going to all these cultural events with them. They were very polite and respectful, and didn't comment in any way on the differences in our lifestyles, but dinner was nevertheless quite tiresome for me, as I didn't have any common topics with them. My wife knows that I don't share her passion for literature (just as she doesn't share my interest in technology), but this has never been an issue in our marriage - we traveled together, went on bike trips, went to our favorite restaurants and movies, etc. I didn't understand why she suddenly wants this to change.
Anna started taking my wife to some of the literary events organized by her magazine and also invited her to write a couple of reviews for a column she is running (she apparently sees great potential in my wife and appreciates her insight) - which my wife accepted with great joy. I was torn: on the one hand, I was happy that my wife didn't feel alone and that she had something to do when the kids are at school or with their friends. On the other hand, I was afraid that I was losing my wife - that she would turn into someone else under Anna's influence. I was also afraid that other men will hit on her at the events Anna invites her to (even though my wife repeats that all of Anna's friends know that she is married and a mother, they never cross any boundaries and always speak of her family with respect).
I finally told my wife that I was uncomfortable with her friendship with Anna, that I was afraid this relationship would change her for the worse and that she would no longer care about our marriage and children. I said that I can’t forbid her to do antyhing, but that I would feel much better if she didn't go to all these events with Anna and if she didn't accept an offer to write reviews for her magazine. My wife said that the friendship with Anna is very important to her, that she had been feeling depressed lately spending most of the day at home all alone, and that contact with people with whom she can talk about things she’s passionate about has made her feel significantly better. I promised to her that I will work less and that I will spend more time with her. I also repeated that I cannot forbid her to see Anna and her friends but that this friendship really makes me uncomfortable. She was sad but understood me and said that she will stop spending time with Anna.
Yesterday, I talked to my older brother (whose advice I always appreciate) about this situation. He said that me and my wife married really young and that it’s understandable that she might feel like she’s missing out on things outside family life. He also said that the only way to make sure that my wife is with me because she really loves me and not because she’s just stuck with me and has no other options, is to give her freedom to spend time with other people, even though it makes me uncomfortable. It really made me think and question my own behavior. I really don’t want to be a person who limits my wife’s freedom, but I also don’t want to be tempting fate in order to see if she really loves me. It would break my heart to lose her and maybe deep inside I feel like she would leave me if she had any other options, so I don’t want her to have these options. I feel like shit. AITAH?
2024.05.16 17:08 JadedBarber5363 [WTS] [WTT] Slabs, 1/10 Gold Phil, Proof Sets, Ike’s, 10 oz Bars, 1 oz Bars, 1 oz Rounds/Coins, Kooks, Geigers, Fractional, Foreign, Goldbacks, Casino Tokens, Collectables, and more.
*Chat Preferred. Only accepting trades for items under “COLLECTABLES”. Items are verified using SIGMA Investor (thru and gravity), Pocket Pinger, Weight, and magnet.
PROOF
GOLD
1/10 Philharmonic 1998- $255
ROUNDS AND COINS:
20x 1 oz Buffalos- $600
4x Casino Tokens- $88 For All
5 oz Sealed Bar- $152
Cale Yarborough 1 oz Round- $45
1978 Cien Pesos- $19 (Melt)
4 Standing Liberty Quartahhhs- $25
1974 1 oz Liberty Medallion- $35
20x 1 oz Tokelau 2024 Proof Mustang- $35 EA or all for $33 EA
$6.25 Face 90% Lot (Mix of JFK, Wash, Rosevelt’s all with dates and some are higher grades) And Most Are Kennedys- $131
5x 1962 Proof Sets (Some missing random pieces like cardboard or paper)- $26 EA
Blue Ike (1x 1971, 2x 1972, 3x 1974)- $12 Ea
10 oz Bar- $305
1/2 oz Round- $15
1 oz Peace Dollar Round- $40
2x 2021 African Wildlife Elephant 1 oz- $36 EA
5x 2023 Kookaburra (W/Capsule)- $35 EA
5x 2024 Kookaburra (W/Capsule)- $35 EA
1 oz Germania Mint Allegories (W/COA)- $45
1 oz 2024 BU T2 ASE- $35
1 oz 2015 Reverse Proof E=MC Privy Maple- $40
500 Gram The Holy Mint Bar- $520
10oz Engelhard Bar- $320
6x Vintage Bars (Engelhard, JM, and Silver Towne) Lot- $210
1964 Accented Hair Proof Set (Complete)- $70
24x 2024 1/10 Silver Brittanias- $10 EA or all for $9 EA
1x 1 oz Geiger In Assay (Toned)- $40 EA
2001 S Proof JFK Half- $12
Foreign lot In Flips (31 Coins)- $25
Foreign lot Loose (21 Coins and most are Canadian)- $15
1 New Penny (26 coins dates all in the 1970s), 1/2 New Penny (16 coins dates all in the 1970s), and 2 New Pence Lot (26 coins dates all in the 1970s)- $40
1970 1 Piso Pope Paul VI (Non PM)- $5
1966 Jamaican Commonwealth Games Coin- $4
1983 Netherland Coin Set (Cracked Open Case)- $7
RANDOMS:
25 2023 New Hampshire Goldback- $110 (Best Price on find bullion is $114.40)
Silver 1975 Philippines Proof Set (complete)- $90
10 Oz “The Wedge” DHF Silver Bar- $360
SLABS:
SLABS: (Whale deal is buy all slabs get the 1900 Morgan for $60)
2022 1oz Serbia Nikola Tesla Natural Healing NGC MS70- $115
1950 S Booker T Washington PCGS MS65- $65
1944 Winged Liberty Dime PCGS MS66- $40
1964 Washington Quarter NGC PF67 (Crack on slab)- $15
1946 Walking Liberty Half PCI MS65- $95
2017 S ASE NGC PF70 Ultra Cameo San Fransico Slab- $120
1922 D Peace NGC MS63- $85
1923 Peace PCGS MS64- $70
1900 Morgan PCGS MS63 (Toned)- $115
1889 Morgan NGC MS63- $70
1883 Morgan NGC “Fattie” MS64 (Toned)- $125
2023 Morgan CAC First Delivery MS69 Slab- $100
2016 ASE ANACS MS70- $45
Bradford Exchange 2023 T2 BU ASE- $40
1855 Germany 1 S Hamburg MS63 NGC (Toner)- $80 L8)
2007-S PCGS PR70DCAM John Adams- $11
COLLECTABLES: Will trade for low premium Silver and Gold. [WTT] [WTS]
1x 2021 Mongolian HedgeHog Coins- $110 EA
2x 2021 Cameroon Crucifix Coin- $120 EA
6x Fiji 2022 Snowflake Coin W/Crystals (Sealed)- $85 EA
3x Fiji 2023 Wonders Of Nature Great Barrier Reef Coin- $145 EA
2021 Star Wars IG-11 NIUE Coin- $105
2021 Samoa Splash Of Colour (Color 🇺🇸) New York City Coin- $175
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🚛*Shipping- is $5 for 1-8 oz (Ground Advantage), $6 for 9-12 oz (Ground Advantage) and $10 for over 12 oz (Priority Mail) both with tracking numbers. American shipping only 🇺🇸 (prices are for lower 48). I am shipping out of Oklahoma, if you are close I may be able to ship cheaper ground than priority on higher weights. Be sure to inquire if you expect that to be the case.
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PROOF
GOLD
1/10 Philharmonic 1998- $255
ROUNDS AND COINS:
20x 1 oz Buffalos- $600
4x Casino Tokens- $88 For All
5 oz Sealed Bar- $152
Cale Yarborough 1 oz Round- $45
1978 Cien Pesos- $19 (Melt)
4 Standing Liberty Quartahhhs- $25
1974 1 oz Liberty Medallion- $35
20x 1 oz Tokelau 2024 Proof Mustang- $35 EA or all for $33 EA
$6.25 Face 90% Lot (Mix of JFK, Wash, Rosevelt’s all with dates and some are higher grades) And Most Are Kennedys- $131
5x 1962 Proof Sets (Some missing random pieces like cardboard or paper)- $26 EA
Blue Ike (1x 1971, 2x 1972, 3x 1974)- $12 Ea
10 oz Bar- $305
1/2 oz Round- $15
1 oz Peace Dollar Round- $40
2x 2021 African Wildlife Elephant 1 oz- $36 EA
5x 2023 Kookaburra (W/Capsule)- $35 EA
5x 2024 Kookaburra (W/Capsule)- $35 EA
1 oz Germania Mint Allegories (W/COA)- $45
1 oz 2024 BU T2 ASE- $35
1 oz 2015 Reverse Proof E=MC Privy Maple- $40
500 Gram The Holy Mint Bar- $520
10oz Engelhard Bar- $320
6x Vintage Bars (Engelhard, JM, and Silver Towne) Lot- $210
1964 Accented Hair Proof Set (Complete)- $70
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2024.05.16 17:07 innovationCanada101 Revolutionizing Agriculture: Inside the Net Zero, Zero-Mile Berry Farm at Western University
Hey Reddit! I recently stumbled upon a project at Western University that's truly awe-inspiring. Led by Professor Joshua Pearce and the Free Appropriate Sustainable Technology (FAST) research group, this initiative is changing the game for berry production in Canada.
They've developed a net zero energy farm that extends the growing season of berries and greatly exceeds average Canadian yields. How? By combining an Agrotunnel, an indoor growing system with high-density vertical aeroponic and hydroponic hybrid systems, with a photovoltaic shielded outdoor farm.
What's really cool is their use of adjustable partially transparent solar photovoltaic arrays. These not only provide electricity to run the farm but also shield the outdoor plants from extreme weather, creating a microclimate that conserves water. Plus, the system is modular, scalable, and adaptable to various locations and extreme climate conditions.
This project isn't just about growing more berries; it's about empowering communities to grow their own food locally, year-round, regardless of climate or location. I think it's a fantastic example of how innovation and collaboration can tackle complex challenges like food security.
What are your thoughts? Do you see projects like this as the future of sustainable agriculture? Let's discuss! Here is the link to the article if you would like to give it a read yourself https://news.westernu.ca/2024/05/agrivoltaic-tunnel-farm/
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They've developed a net zero energy farm that extends the growing season of berries and greatly exceeds average Canadian yields. How? By combining an Agrotunnel, an indoor growing system with high-density vertical aeroponic and hydroponic hybrid systems, with a photovoltaic shielded outdoor farm.
What's really cool is their use of adjustable partially transparent solar photovoltaic arrays. These not only provide electricity to run the farm but also shield the outdoor plants from extreme weather, creating a microclimate that conserves water. Plus, the system is modular, scalable, and adaptable to various locations and extreme climate conditions.
This project isn't just about growing more berries; it's about empowering communities to grow their own food locally, year-round, regardless of climate or location. I think it's a fantastic example of how innovation and collaboration can tackle complex challenges like food security.
What are your thoughts? Do you see projects like this as the future of sustainable agriculture? Let's discuss! Here is the link to the article if you would like to give it a read yourself https://news.westernu.ca/2024/05/agrivoltaic-tunnel-farm/
2024.05.16 17:06 Accurate-Ask1581 Help with my SAP appeal please! Any tips?
Dear Financial Aid Appeal Committee,
Thank you for this opportunity to explain my disappointing semester as it does not reflect my true character. I faced difficulties during the Fall 2023 and Spring 2024 semesters that greatly impacted by academic standing.
In the Fall 2023 semester, I went through an intense family crisis, starting with my grandpa ernan whom I am very close with. He came to live in our home for some time and was very ill and battled with early stages of what we realized was dementia. I found myself taking care of my grandpa while my parents worked as he would have trouble doing things on his own and was sick all the time which was disheartening to see because I would worry, I had to deal with the fact that it was not going to get better and we would have to send him to his home country honduras soon in which we did and he is still sick and stable but not any better as we hoped.
Coping with the sickness and care for my grandpa, Shortly after, my brother, went through a tough time mentally that led him into alcoholism. In which we saw him changing erratically like we never seen before. I found myself growing increasingly sad and worried every day, it was all I could think about and it impacted my psychological well being because I felt hopeless and useless seeing that he refused professional help. I grew even more pressured being that this was my older brother and my parents looked at their younger daughter, me, like I was their only hope because I was in school and trying to get better but this would only make me worse. Being very close to my brother and grandpa, I prioritized supporting and caring for them over getting help for my mental health which resulted in my neglect of my academic responsibilities.
Despite still dealing with my mental health during spring semester i still held my determination to pass my classes with better grades and get off academic probation and prevailed. I take full accountability for my academic decline and I have taken positive steps to ensure my academic success moving forward. I took a learning strategies class spring semester and it helped me tremendously with studying tips. I am already in contact with someone who goes to my university to help me with tutoring when I go back in the fall, specifically with math which is what I have most trouble in. I joined a biology club which also is helping me gain more knowledge and stay on track with my major which is biology. Additionally, I have already contacted my advisor to register me to take a summer course to boost my grades up and we have came up with an academic plan for the upcoming fall semester. On a personal note, I will learn to not feel ashamed to reach out for help if I am going through a hardship whether it’s a campus counselor or an online therapist.
My drive for continuing and completing my education are far stronger as a first generation student than the struggles i may face. I am committed to regaining good academic standing and in completing my degree. However, neither of these goals will be possible for me without the assistance and opportunity financial aid provides because I am a first generation student and my family and I don’t have the full means to pay out of pocket.
All in all, I appreciate your time and opportunity to continue pursuing my education with your support.
Sincerely,
END OF APPEAL LETTER.
I didn’t seek professional help for my mental health - didn’t go to a therapist. So I don’t have documentation to add.. what can I do about that?
I was told I can have a colleague that I worked with in the past write a letter as a 3rd party sign off because they were aware of what I was struggling with.
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Thank you for this opportunity to explain my disappointing semester as it does not reflect my true character. I faced difficulties during the Fall 2023 and Spring 2024 semesters that greatly impacted by academic standing.
In the Fall 2023 semester, I went through an intense family crisis, starting with my grandpa ernan whom I am very close with. He came to live in our home for some time and was very ill and battled with early stages of what we realized was dementia. I found myself taking care of my grandpa while my parents worked as he would have trouble doing things on his own and was sick all the time which was disheartening to see because I would worry, I had to deal with the fact that it was not going to get better and we would have to send him to his home country honduras soon in which we did and he is still sick and stable but not any better as we hoped.
Coping with the sickness and care for my grandpa, Shortly after, my brother, went through a tough time mentally that led him into alcoholism. In which we saw him changing erratically like we never seen before. I found myself growing increasingly sad and worried every day, it was all I could think about and it impacted my psychological well being because I felt hopeless and useless seeing that he refused professional help. I grew even more pressured being that this was my older brother and my parents looked at their younger daughter, me, like I was their only hope because I was in school and trying to get better but this would only make me worse. Being very close to my brother and grandpa, I prioritized supporting and caring for them over getting help for my mental health which resulted in my neglect of my academic responsibilities.
Despite still dealing with my mental health during spring semester i still held my determination to pass my classes with better grades and get off academic probation and prevailed. I take full accountability for my academic decline and I have taken positive steps to ensure my academic success moving forward. I took a learning strategies class spring semester and it helped me tremendously with studying tips. I am already in contact with someone who goes to my university to help me with tutoring when I go back in the fall, specifically with math which is what I have most trouble in. I joined a biology club which also is helping me gain more knowledge and stay on track with my major which is biology. Additionally, I have already contacted my advisor to register me to take a summer course to boost my grades up and we have came up with an academic plan for the upcoming fall semester. On a personal note, I will learn to not feel ashamed to reach out for help if I am going through a hardship whether it’s a campus counselor or an online therapist.
My drive for continuing and completing my education are far stronger as a first generation student than the struggles i may face. I am committed to regaining good academic standing and in completing my degree. However, neither of these goals will be possible for me without the assistance and opportunity financial aid provides because I am a first generation student and my family and I don’t have the full means to pay out of pocket.
All in all, I appreciate your time and opportunity to continue pursuing my education with your support.
Sincerely,
END OF APPEAL LETTER.
I didn’t seek professional help for my mental health - didn’t go to a therapist. So I don’t have documentation to add.. what can I do about that?
I was told I can have a colleague that I worked with in the past write a letter as a 3rd party sign off because they were aware of what I was struggling with.
2024.05.16 17:05 SingleAcanthisitta75 25f trying to understand her bf 28m?
My (25f) bf (28M) of soon three years can only get off from oral or handjobs, and he cant keep it hard for piv. He is the second man I have been with. Our relationship is turbulent but we are deeply in love, somewhat codependent. A few months before we met I had been SA’d by a man with a large member, it was traumatising and I had suppressed much of it. In the early days of our relationship, my bf asked me if he was big and I wasn’t able to answer the question to his satisfaction. He then asked if I was bigger than the previous guy (who he had met once), and I answered “I think so”. This angered him as he has previously been complimented immediately by other girls for his size. I have had a conservative religious upbringing with a lot of shame around sex and sexuality, as well as only 1 previous sexual male partner, and multiple SAs, I am openly bi but generally not very experienced especially with men and am several years behind my age in maturity when it comes to navigating hetero relationships). he believes my hesitation and my lack of sincere validation about his size is a sign that he is not enough for me or that I think he is small. My only other PIV experience was with a man significantly smaller. This has been a recurring argument for 2 years and it even reached a point where he suggested I ask the guy who SA’d me for his nudes because to my bf my words were clearly not consistent and I was not being believable. I did it out of desperation to reassure my bf so I could prove the size difference was negligible and finish the discussion. Upon seeing the pics I realised actually my bf is a lot bigger. He disagrees based on the pictures but I know the truth based on memory (that I have been forced to relive again and again). So he is still is convinced that I have been lying all along, that I am consistently coming up with new lies to keep his ego safe, and that my reality is that I secretly want bigger. He has developed body dismorphia because of this. He does not understand how the initial context of my life at the time could have led me to not being able to validate him. In the two years I have learned that yes I definitely have been brainwashed by society to not know what is average and what is big and have a warped view through porn and media. But ultimately I only want to be with him, he is everything to me, and I have never been occupied about the size and I am not a size queen. I feel bad but now it is two years of the same recurring argument, all stemming from me not doing what other girls did and my failure of saying “wow so big” at first. He has taught me and made me aware that objectively that he is in the 95th percentile+, but he still thinks I do not validate him in a believeable way. he is in therapy for this and on medication for OCD thoughts and he has since then just asked that I do not bring it up and just leave him to deal with it, but when I told him I want him to understand that this has been difficult for me to relieve the original SA and not be believed, he says that it doesn’t compare to the anxiety I have created in his life as I have destroyed his relationship to his body. We have broken up once before but reconciled after a few months because he said he loves me more than anything and only wants to be with me. But now he puts a lot of pressure on the both of us during sex, both in terms of frequency and in quality , I can see he is stressing to perform and thinking about this issue and struggles to stay hard (unless I use my hands or mouth). Despite it being clear he is stressing, I am not allowed to bring it up since he just wants to deal with it alone. He has had experience with men, and women, and has enjoyed gay porn more than straight - although now we both do not watch porn. I am objectively a very very attractive woman, but due to little experience I do not know if it is “normal” for a bi/straight man to consistently only be able to get off to completion via hand or mouth, and that PIV is basically never enough to sustain an erection. I feel like I am missing the bigger picture, and am somewhat blinded by love. I think maybe all this is connected or relevant - I just do not know. He also does not take me out on dates because he says it is not how he shows love and this his sacrifice of moving to another country to be with me after we got back together, and working a temporary job way below his education level is enough of a sign of what he is sacrificing for me to be his woman. I am a ride or die wifey type so I can understand that logic, and I don’t necessarily want dates but maybe there is something I am not seeing?
TLDR: my (25f) bf (28m) can’t sustain erection or finish unless it’s oral or hand. he has developed body dysmorphia about his penis (very large) because of comments I made (read for context). he is therapy and on meds for ocd. i am bi and he has experimented with me. before, not sure if related. but now we are not able to discuss this, despite me hoping he will understand how my past SA is related to my comments. has toxic masculinity robbed men of being able to share their emotions, is trauma of penis size expectations this serious on men, and how can men learn to be emotionally vulnerable?
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TLDR: my (25f) bf (28m) can’t sustain erection or finish unless it’s oral or hand. he has developed body dysmorphia about his penis (very large) because of comments I made (read for context). he is therapy and on meds for ocd. i am bi and he has experimented with me. before, not sure if related. but now we are not able to discuss this, despite me hoping he will understand how my past SA is related to my comments. has toxic masculinity robbed men of being able to share their emotions, is trauma of penis size expectations this serious on men, and how can men learn to be emotionally vulnerable?