23 yo Somali guy living in the US Looking to find a wife halal way only. Not on any games and never been on the apps but they seem a mess tbh so i’d rather not even try. And the muslim marriage sub is dominated by one ethnic community lol
People always say its probably “so easy” for me to get married but I feel like the options presented to me arent always the best.
So here is a little about me:
Doing good for myself alhamdulilah, I have a bachelors degree in I.T. and work full time now. Live in the DMV. 6’1, I go to the gym so pretty good physique, Curly hair, hairline fully intact, full beard Brown/Darkskin. No deformities or disabilities Alhamdulilah.
On my deen Alhamdulilah, frequent the masjid, always seeking knowledge on the side.
My life right now pretty much consists of me being at 4 places: work, the masjid, the gym, and home.
So heres what I am looking for:
age 19-23, Somali, located in US
On Deen: (proper) Hijab,
no freemixing,
has above average knowledge on deen, salah 5x, etc
Has something going for yourself, whether you’re in school, or you have a business etc. something that shows you have some type of drive in your life
I dont want to get too specific about looks because I wouldnt say i have one “type” But I do want someone who is attractive as i myself have been told Im a good looking guy. And physical attraction is obviously important in marriage.
Green Flags: Memorized Quran
Can speak Somali and or Arabic
Niqab
Little social media presence
Good relationship with parents
Good friend group of muslims
Red flags: Too focused on qabil
Previous haram relationships
Excessive media consumption
Doesn’t want kids ever
1k+ followers on instagram
Anyways, id rather not gonna go into too many details on here. But if you think you’re a match, or know someone who is, Hit me up. If you don’t, just make dua for me
Not expecting any crazy results bc it’s reddit but who knows this sub has actually been pretty active recently.

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I am a born Muslim in a muslim family. But unlike the orthodox muslim families, my father was a leftist person and so there was so scope of religion in my home. My mother prays and my younger brother has also learnt it. But since there was no pressure on me. I haven't learnt anything about it. I know how prayer is made but I don't know the dua. I don't know the important duas of islam.
Can someone tell me a proper resource for me to start this journey.
Edit : I am an Indian. I don't know Arabic.

Dear brothers and sisters,
I am writing to seek your dua and advice as I am really afraid for my safety. For months, I have been living in a shared apartment with three girls, one of whom is undocumented and very rude (we are all arabs and we all live in Paris but she is the only one who is undocumented, very rude, much older than us, and does very inappropriate things at the apartment such as smoking, bringing guests including men every day, and noise at night). Due to several issues caused by her, I have often spoken to the landlord asking for intervention, as whenever we tried talking to her, she never listened. Recently, she started bringing a friend of hers who is very rude, suspected of stealing from our apartment, and has begun to look at me very badly and even insult me, calling me a traitor to my race given we are all arab girls, just because every time there was a problem (theft, mess, lack of respect for the rules of the apartment, noise disturbances, etc.), it was always me who spoke to the landlord about it. So, I spoke to the landlord who banned this roommate from bringing her problematic friend. I hadn't seen her for 5 months.
Last night, I came home and saw her in the living room with this problematic friend, and I immediately felt uncomfortable and really unsafe in my own home. So today, I called the landlord and told him that I saw her, despite his prohibition, and that I really don't feel safe in her presence considering her past insults towards me.
Now my roommate (my friend, who is very nice) informs me that the landlord came today (I spend the weekend elsewhere), found out she was still there with the roommate since yesterday, and he yelled at her and asked her to leave.
And my roommate friend called me now to tell me to be careful because the problematic friend of the problematic roommate came out into the living room yelling, cursing me, and promising to get revenge on me.
Right now, as I write to you, I am trembling and a little scared to go back tomorrow, because I am younger than these people, much smaller and frailer, and I really don't know what to do because I'm afraid something might happen to me... that she might send someone to hurt me, or that something might happen to me.
Please please pray for my physical and emotional safety from this situation which is taking a toll on me, especially that I am amidst final exams. Please pray that this gets solved without any harm being done.
Thank you so so much.

Salamoualeykoum warahmatulAllahi wabaraktu dear sisters,
lately I am kind of struggling a bit with my iman and mental health in general. I always thought that by my graduation I would be married, but it looks like it is not going to happen. Everyone around me is getting married or engaged. Some of my friends are already mothers or expecting their first child mashAllah.
Dont get me wrong I am really happy for them but still it is hurting me deeply whenever I hear such news and I start questioning myself why I have not been able to find someone.
I never wanted to be successful in work, rather I always my purpose in being a wife and a mother raising my children under the morals of islam. I am craving strongly a partner with whom I can go through this dunya. I know that our main purpose is worshipping Allah swt but all the prayers, the quran nothing can fill this deep void in me. I have been making a lot of dua alhamdulilAllah but by now I am really struggling with my motivation to do any kind of ibadah. It just feels extremely difficult because I am feeling very down and sad all the time and absolutely hopeless.
On the other side I do know of some sisters who are 30+ and not married. No one cares about them, tries to find a match or connect them. One is even the daughter of an imam and almost 35 and still living at home. Even the only halal matchmaking service in this area costs 300,- just to attend once, not knowing how many people there will be and a very low chance of even finding someone. I know that not everyone is supposed to get married but how am I going to live this life? How am I going to deal with my void? How am I going to accept this life style of living alone, working full time to support myself instead of being a wife and a mom?
It feels impossible for me to continue such a life. If I could I would pause everything right now until I find a suitable partner. I am even thinking of a phd because it feels like I can gain more time until I find a husband.
No one in this area feels responsible to help the youth getting married. Even the doors in the mosque are segregated which means that no one can see and ask about you. How am I going to find a righteous husband? All the girls that had limited contact with the opposite gender, including me, are single by now. All of my friends that were in haram relationships are looking for apartments and bridal dresses.
Im not regretting anything, rather I am intending (if I ever get married, which is difficult with no contact to muslim men) to start my own match making events to help the unmarried men and women.
(My dad asked the local imam, but never heard again from him. And the other mosque said that they cannot help because everyone wants to marry a wife from the same ethnicity and we are from a minority, although I am arab)
I would be really happy if you keep us in your duas🥹💗

Salam Aleykom everyone.
I have recently seen many Sunni brothers having a hard time understanding tawassul and they think its a Shia thing only. so I thought I share some information concerning this with reference from hadiths from nobel figures in Alhul-sunnah like Umar ibn al-khatab, Imam Malek, Abu-Hanifa, etc here, insha-allah this comes handy for everyone when researching and debating:
This is a two part thing, the first one I use a question asked form a sunni brother and the answer from a sunni scholar, then after that I provided the different hadiths about tawassul and how the nobel figures of ahulyl-sunnah did tawasul/narrated about it from sahih hadiths, I added the link to the actual page for each of these parts:
Part 1:
What is the Aqeedah of Ahle Sunnah Wal Jummah regarding Tawasul. It is our belief that prophet (S.A.W.) is alive in his grave, but should/can we take his name while asking Allah (S.W.T), Can he do any help or interced for us in this world?
Answer
Tawassul and Waseelah literally means to make a request or supplicate through a means. It is permissible for one to request Allah Ta’ala to accept his du’aa through the medium of some deeds or the rank of certain individuals as this may be closer to acceptance.
There are various forms of Tawassul and Waseela:

The only type of Tawassul that is disputed is number3, where one makes Tawassul through individuals that are alive or deceased by saying, ‘O Allah, I besech you to accept my Du’aa due to the status that Rasulullah [Sallallaahu Alayhi Wasallam] (or some other pious person) hold in Your eyes.’ The first opposition against this form of Tawassul was in the 7th century of Islam. (shifaa-u-siqaam)
There are numerous proofs that support the permissibility of Tawassul through individuals. The following are some substantiations:

Hereunder follows a list of some of the many illustrious Ulama of the past who had practised upon Tawassul through the rank of the pious, deceased or alive:

These are ten Different types of Ulama (i.e. some are Fuqahaa, some Muhadditheen and some are Qurraa). All have either practised on Tawassul or at least permitted it. And the list could go on….(refer to Maqaalatul Kawthari pg.378-397). After contemplating on all that was mentioned above, any person with sound intelligence would believe without a shadow of doubt in the permissibility of this form of Tawassul.
More so when one realizes that this remained the practise of the Ummah for centuries. Allamah Taqee-ud-Deen Al-Subki(RA) and other Muhadditheen have stated that Haafiz Ibn-Taimiyyah(RA) – who passed away in the year 728 Hijri – was the first to refute the permissibility of this form of Tawassul (Shifaa-us-Siqaam pg.293) In fact, Abu-Abdillah Al-Tilmisani Al-Maaliki(RA) (a renown scholar of the 7th century) has written a book concerning how this remained the practise of the entire Ummah since its existence. (Refer Maqaalatul Kawthari pg.397)
Lastly, we would like to draw your attention to the fact that the above permissibility is in regard to one who asks Allah Ta’ala for a particular need and in doing so, he uses some honourable personality as his Waseela (means) without thinking or believing that the person is being supplicated to or that he will fulfil his need. Yes, if one asks directly from the deceased and he believes that the Anbiyaa [alayhimus salaam] and the pious [rahimahumullah] independently possess the power to provide, then this would be Shirk (polytheism) because he is now ascribing partners to Allah in the quality of ‘Providing’.
Many contemporaries have mixed both these forms up; a) asking directly from the deceased and, b) asking Allah Alone, through the medium of some deceased) and have passed one ruling of Shirk for both forms. This is clearly a gross oversight on their path.
and Allah Ta’ala Knows Best
Ml. Muhammad ibn Moulana Haroon Abasoomar FACULTY OF SPECIALTY IN HADITH SCIENCES
CHECKED & APPROVED: Mufti Ebrahim Desai (Fatwa Dept.)
link ref: https://islamqa.org/hanafi/askimam/16516/1-what-is-the-aqeedah-of-ahle-sunnah-wal-jummah-regarding-tawasul/
PART 2:
And here is the second round of hadiths (sahih) and sunnah concerning this from alshafi, abu hanifa, imam malik, Imam Ahmad ibn Hanbal concerning their tawassul and how they did ziarah to prophets saww grave e.g. and more etc :
Uthman ibn Hunaif, one of the companions of the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him), reported: A blind man came to the Prophet (Sallallahu Alayhi wa Sallam) and said:
"O beloved Prophet, pray to Allah to heal me." He said: "If you want, I will pray for you, but if you are patient, it is better for you. (for this is Allah's test for you)" He said: "Ya Rasulallah I am blind; I cannot wear it please pray for me." The Prophet ordered him to perform a good ablution, this is to clean himself thoroughly and then ask Allah in his prayer with the following words: "Ya Allah, I ask you and I turn me with your Prophet Muhammad as mediator [Wasila], the Prophet of Mercy. Ya Muhammad! I have turned to my Lord through you so that he can fulfill what I need. O Allah, make him my intercessor." And when he said these prayers, immediately his eyes were healed."
[Ibn Majah, Ikamat:189, No. 1385, 1/441, Tirmidhi, Daawat:119, No. 3578, 5/569, Ahmad ibn Hanbal, Musnad: 17240-41, 6/106, Tabarani, Mujamul Kabir, No. 8311, 9/30, al-Hakim, Mustadrak:1180, 1/458, No.1909, 1 /700; Nasā'ī, 'Amal-ul-yawm wal-laylah No. 658-9, p. 417; Ibn Khuzaymah, as-Sahīh, No.1219, 2/225-6; Bayhaqī, Dalā'il-un-nubuwwah, 6/166; Subkī, Shifā'-us-siqām fī ziyārat khayr-il-anām, p. 123; Nawawī, al-Adhkār p. 83; Ibn-ul-Athīr, Asad-ul-ghābah, 3/571; Yūsuf Mizzī, Tuhfat-ul-ashrāf bi-ma'rifat-il-atrāf, No. 9760, 7/236; Ibn Kathīr, al-Bidāyah wan-nihāyah, 4/558; Ibn Hajar Haythamī, al-Jawhar-ul-munazzam, p. 61; Shawkānī in Tuhfat-udh-dhākirīn, pp. 194-5; Suyūtī, al-Khasā'is-ul-kubrā, 2/201; Qastalānī, al-Mawāhib-ul-laduniyyah 4/594; Zurqānī, Explanation, 12/221-2; Buhari, at-Tārīkh-ul-kabīr, 6/209-10; Ibn-us-Sunnī, 'Amal-ul-yawm wal-laylah, p. 202, no. 622; Mundhirī, at-Targhīb wat-tarhīb, 1/473-4]
“And We have not sent a Messenger unless he was obeyed by Allah's permission. And if they had come to you after they had committed an offense against themselves, and if they had prayed to Allah for forgiveness, and if the Messenger had asked for forgiveness on their behalf, they would have found Allah Most Forgiving and Merciful." (Sura 4:64 )
وَمَا أَرْسَلْنَا مِن رَّسُولٍ إِلاَّ لِيُطَاعَ بِإِذْنِ اللّهِ وَلَوْ أَنَّهُمْ إِذ ظَّلَمُواْ أَنفُسَهُمْ جَآؤُوكَ فَاسْتَغْفَرُواْ اللّهَ وَاسْتَغْفَرَ لَهُمُ الرَّسُولُ لَوَجَدُواْ اللّهَ تَوَّابًا رَّحِيمًا
. Wa law annahum idh dhalamû anfusahum jâûka fastagfarûllâha wastagfara lahumur rasûlu la wajadûllâha tawwâben rahîmâ(rahîman).
Ibn Kathir says the following about this ayat in his Tafseer:
{يُرْشِدُ تَعَالَى الْعُصَاةَ وَالْمُذْنِبِينَ إِذَا وَقَعَ مِنْهُمُ الْخَطَأُ وَالْعِصْيَانُ أَنْ يَأْتُوا إِلَى الرَّسُولِ صَلَّى اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ فَيَسْتَغْفِرُوا اللَّهَ عِنْدَهُ، وَيَسْأَلُوهُ أَنْ يَسْتَغْفِرَ لَهُمْ، فَإِنَّهُمْ إِذَا فَعَلُوا ذَلِكَ تَابَ اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِمْ وَرَحِمَهُمْ وَغَفَرَ لَهُمْ، وَلِهَذَا قَالَ: {لَوَجَدُوا اللَّهَ تَوَّابًا رَحِيمًا
"Allah admonishes (in this verse) the sinners and wrongdoers on the right path , that if they commit sins and mistakes , then he should go to the Messenger of Allah and seek forgiveness from Allah, and his Messenger will grant forgiveness to him ask. If they do this, Allahu Ta'ala will accept their repentance and have mercy on them and forgive them. That's why he says: "If they had found Allah Most Forgiving and Merciful"
[Ibn Kathīr, Tafsīrul Qur`ān al 'Aẓīm, Volume 1, page 347]
وقد ذكر جماعة منهم الشيخ أبو منصور الصباغ في كتابه الشامل الحكاية المشهورة عن العتبي قال : كنت جالسا عند قبر النبي صلى الله عليه وسلم فجاء أعرابي فقال : السلام عليك يا رسول الله سمعت الله يقول “ ولو أنهم إذ ظلموا أنفسهم جاءوك فاستغفروا الله واستغفر لهم الرسول لوجدوا الله توابا رحيما “ وقد جئتك مستغفرا لذنبي مستشفعا بك إلى ربي ثم أنشأ يقول : يا خير من دفنت بالقاع أعظمه فطاب من طيبهن القاع والأكم نفسي الفداء لقبر أنت ساكنه فيه العفاف وفيه الجود والكرم ثم انصرف الأعرابي فغلبتني عيني فرأيت النبي صلى الله عليه وآله وسلم في النوم فقال : يا عتبي الحق الأعرابي فبشره أن الله قد غفر له
A group of ulama have named this famous story. One of them is Abū Mansūr as-Sabbagh, who writes about 'Utbi in his book " ash-Shamil al-Hikayat al-Mashhurah " .
Utbi (Rahimahullah) narrates the following: Once when I was next to the grave of
Rasulallah (Sallallahu Alayhi wa Sallam) a Bedouin came in and said: "As Salāmu 'alaika ya Rasūlullāh ". I heard that Allahu Ta'ala says: And if they came to you and asked Allah for forgiveness after they had turned against themselves (4:64) I have come to you to ask for forgiveness for my sins and to accept you as an intermediary before myLord , I have come to you with this intention." Then he recited the following lines of poetry, "O you most honored among the buried, who improved the value of the plains and hills, may I sacrifice my life for this grave which has been illuminated by you! of the one who is an embodiment of mercy and forgiveness." Then the Bedouin went away and I fell asleep in the dream I saw the Prophet (Sallallahu Alayhi wa Sallam) saying: "O Utbi! Go to the Bedouin and give him good news that Allah has forgiven him of his sins.”
[ Ibn Kathīr, Tafsīrul Qur`ān al 'Aẓīm, Volume 4, page 140, under verse 4:64 regarding the ayat; Imam Nawawi, Adhkar, pp. 253-254; Ibn Hajar al-Haythami, al Jawhar al-munazzam; Imam Qurtubi, Ahkamul al-Quran regarding Ayat; Samhudi, Khulasat al-Wafa p. 121; Imam Nawawi, Khulasat al-Kalam 2:247; Ibn Kathir al-Bidāyah wan-nihāyah 1:180; Abu Muhammad ibn Qudama, al-Mughni 3:556; Abu al-Fajar ibn Qudama, al-Sharh al Kabir 3:495; Al-Bahūtī al Hanbali, Kashshaf al-qina 5:30; Taqiuddin Subki, Shifa al-siqam p. 52; Ibn al-Jawzi, Muthir al-gharam al-sakin ila ashraf al amakin; Bayhaqi, Shu`ab al-iman No. 4169]
I heard Al-Shafi'i say:
“I swear that I will seek the blessings of Abu Hanifa (inni la'atabarraku bi-Abi Hanifa) and go to his grave every day (as a visitor). Whenever I need a certain help, I pray 2 rak'ah, go to his grave and ask Allah, the Most High, about my request at his grave and only a little time passes until my request is fulfilled."

[Al-Khatib, Tarikh Baghdad, 1/123; Ibn Abi al-Wafa', Tabaqat al-Hanafiyya, p. 519; Imam al-Haytami, Al-Khayrat al-Hisan, Chapter 34; Al-Kawthari, Maqalat p. 453]
Imam Malik accompanied the Khalif Mansur on the pilgrimage. When they visited the Prophet's grave together, the Khalif asked:
"O father of 'Abdullah, should I face the Qibla and make supplication or should I turn towards the Prophet?" Imam Malik said: "Do not turn your face away from the Prophet, for he is your Wasila and your intercessor Father Adam 'alayhissalam to Allah. But turn to the Prophet and seek intercession from him and Allah will grant him intercession.", and then recited the following ayat: "And if they had come to you after they had committed an offense against themselves , and if they had prayed to Allah for forgiveness, and if the Messenger had asked for forgiveness on their behalf, they would certainly have found Allah Most Forgiving, Merciful."

[Qādī 'Iyād, ash-Shifā, 2/596 with a Sahih chain of narration. Subkī, Shifā'-us-siqām fī ziyārat khayr-il-anām; Samhūdī, Khulāsat-ul-wafā; Qastallānī, al-Mawāhib-ul-laduniyyah 8/313; Ibn Jamā'ah, Hidāyat-us-sālik; Ibn Hajar al-Haythamī, al-Jawhar-ul-munazzam]
The Hanafi Imam, whom some have called a mujtahid, Imam Ibn Hummam, mentioned by Imam Abu Hanifa in his Fath al-Qadir (Sharh al-Hidaya) that he said :
أن زيارة النبي صلى الله عليه وسلم قريبة من الوجوب ولما زار الإمام أبو حنيفة المدينة المنورة وقف أمام قبره الشريف وقال يا أكرم الثقلين يا كنز الورى *** جد لي بجودك وأرضني برضاك أنا طامع في الجود منك ولم يكن *** لأبي حنيفة في الأنام سواك
When Imam Abu Hanifa visited Madina, he stood before the honored grave [of the Prophet] and said: O most honorable of the two weighty ones! [Humans and Jinn] O treasure of humanity! Pour your generosity on me and satisfy me with your satisfaction! I long for your generosity and there is no one in the world for Abu Hanifa but you!"
Imam Ahmad ibn Hanbal: (المرداوي في الإنصاف ( 2:456 “… يجوز التوسل بالرجل الصالح على الصحيح من المذهب، وقيل: يُستحب. قال الإمام أحمد للمروذي : يتوسل بالنبي صلى اله عليه وسلم في دعائه وجزم به في المستوعب وغيره..” Imam al-Mardawi says :
“The correct view of the Hanbali Madhab is that it is permissible in the Du'a to take a pious one (saalih) as an intermediary [wasila], and it has been said that this is desirable [mustahab]. Imam Ahmad said to Abu Bakr al-Marwazi: "Let him use the Prophet sallallahu 'alayhi wa sallam as an intermediary [wasila] in his du'as to Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala."
[Al-Insaf 2:456) Also quoted by Ibn Taymiyyah in Majmu' Al-Fatawa 1:140]
The Imam Qurtubi (on whom the misguided groups rely) and the Imam Nasa'i narrate the following story in their tafsirs: It is narrated by Abu Sadiq (Radiyallahu Anh) that the Imam Ali (Karamallahu Wajahu) “Three days after we buried Rasulallah (Sallallahu Alayhi wa Sallam), an Arab came to us and threw himself on the grave of Rasulallah (Sallallahu Alayhi wa Sallam) and threw the dust on his hair and said: “Ya Rasulallah! You have spoken and we have heard, you have memorized from Allah and we from you. Between what Allah has revealed to you there is the following ayat: “And if they came to you and asked Allah for forgiveness, after they have sinned against themselves, and if the Messenger asked for forgiveness on their behalf, then they would find Allah Forgiving and Merciful. "It is I who have sinned against themselves, and I have come that you may ask for forgiveness." Thereupon came an exclamation from the grave: "Without a doubt, you have been forgiven"
[Qurtubi Tafsir, 5/172; Nasa'i, 2/108]
Umar ibn al-Khattab, according to his tradition, Rasulullah (Sallallahu Alayhi wa Sallam) said the following:
“When Adam (Alayhissalam) committed his mistake and said “Ya Rabb! I want you to forgive me for the respect you hold of Muhammad! Allah asked him: “O Adam! How do you know him, even though I haven't created him yet? Then Adam Alayhissalam said, “Ya Rabb! When you created me with your power and breathed your Ruh (soul) into me, I raised my head and saw written on the supports of the Arsh "la ilahe illa'llah, muhammadur rasûlullah" and I knew that you only the name the one you love the most sits next to you. Then Allah said: “O Adam! No doubt you have spoken the truth, he is truly the one I love most among my servants. Pray to me with his respect, without a doubt I have forgiven you. If it weren't for Muhammad, I wouldn't have created you either.
[Imam Ahmad, Musnad Hâkim, al-Mustadrak, No. 4228, 2/672; Bayhaqî, Dalâilü'n-nubuwwa: 5/489; Imam Suyûtî, ad-Durru'l-mansûr: 1/142; İbn Asâkir, T arikh Madinat Dimashq : 7/437; Tabarânî al-Mu'jamu's-saghir, No. 994, p. 412]
Abdullah ibn Masud (Radiyallahu Anh) narrated that the Messenger of Allah (Sallallahu Alayhi wa Sallam) said:
"If anyone's animal flees from you in the desert, let him say: 'O servants of Allah! Capture him! O servants of Allah, stop him!' For on earth there are servants of Allah who stand ready and will catch him."
[Abu Ya'la, Musnad, No. 5269, 9/177, Ibn Hajar, Al-Matâlibu'l Aliya, No. 3375, 3/ 239, Tabarani, al-Mujamul Kâbir, No. 10518, 10/217, Daylami, Musnadi Firdauws, No. 1311, 1/330; Haytami, Majma'-uz-zawa'id 10/132]
Sheikhul Islam Imam an-Nawawi (Rahimahullah) said: "Some of our great ones, who have great share of knowledge, have narrated to us that when one of them the animal got away , they acted according to this hadith and demanded help from the servants of Allah, and at that moment they found their animals. Once in a community where I was also, the animal started running away when the people could not stop him This Isti'ana (request for help) was exclaimed while no other visible reason could be seen from me other than these words, the animal stopped at that moment."
[Ibn Allan, Futuhat al-Rabbaniyya, 5/150-151]
One day one of the Shafi Ijtihad scholars Allam Shihab al-Ramli (Rahimahullah) was asked:
"According to Islam, is it right that some people, when they get into trouble, demand help from the Prophets, Awliyah, Salihs and scholars with words like: 'Ya Rasulallah!, Ya following Sheikh'? Do these people even have such help after their death a way to help?" He replied: "The Rasuls, the Nabis and Walis, still have the opportunity to help after their demise. Because the miracles of the Prophets and the Karamat of the Walis do not stop after their death. Anyway, many solid hadiths tell us that the Prophets live in their graves, perform their prayers, go to Hajj and their help is also counted among their miracles. This is also how the Shahids live, it has often been seen with the naked eye in broad daylight that they openly fought against the Kuffars . The help of the Walis is with their Karamats."
[Fatawa Ramli, fi Hamishil al-Fatawa al-Kubra, Ibn Hajar al-Haytami, 4/382, al-Fatawa'' Hayriyya, fi Hamishil Ukudid Durriyye fi Tanhikil Hamidiyye, 2/279280. Tahanawi, Ahkamul Kuran, 3/67, Nabhani, Shawahidul Hakk, p. 141]
The great Muhaddith, Abdulhaq al-Dâhlawi mentions the legitimacy of mediation through the graves: 1- The person who makes dua asks Allah swt. alone for help with his problems. The one who has sunk into problems uses the grave as a means of communication with Allah swt. because of its high rank and importance. One says: "O Allah! For the pleasure of this person or the respect of this person on whom you have showered your mercy, ease my distress for you are the only one who is all-forgiving and all-giving.
2- The person who is from one If a person is hit by a visitation, he can also call a Wali (holy man) directly and ask him for help so that he can make dua to Allah and ease his problems. In both forms of Tawassul (mediation), one does not place hope in the pious, but in Allah , since He is the center of hope and the one who will solve the problems, help in times of need and has the authority to change, the Creator of everything."
[Asat al-Lumat sharh Mishqat 3:401, Fatawa Aziziyah 2:108]
Abdurrahman ibn Sad (Radiyallahu Anh) narrates the following:
"One day Abdullah Ibn Umar's foot fell asleep and they said to him: "Name the name of the one you love most." He then said: "Ya Muhammad" and his foot was healed.

[Sahih Buhari, Adab'ul mufrad: 437, No. 964; Imam Nawawi, Kitab al-Adhkar, No. 387; Ibn as-Sunni, Amal al-Yawm wal-Laylah, 1/319 (167), 1/321 (169); Shawkani] [Ibn Taymiyya, Al-Kalim al-Tayyib "The Beautiful Words" in Khadirat Rijluhu]
“Tasawwuf includes realities and states of experience that they speak about in their teaching. Some of these are that the Sufi is the one who purifies himself from everything that distracts him from the remembrance of Allah and who is so filled with the knowledge of the heart and the knowledge of the mind that the value of gold and stones is the same to him appears. And Tasawwuf preserves the precious meanings and leaves the call to fame and self-importance to reach the stage of truthfulness, because the best people after the Prophets are those whom Allah also mentions in the verse:
فَأُوْلَـئِكَ مَعَ الَّذِينَ أَنْعَمَ اللّهُ عَلَيْهِم مِّنَ النَّبِيِّينَ وَالصِّدِّيقِينَ وَالشُّهَدَاء وَالصَّالِحِينَ وَحَسُنَ أُولَـئِكَ رَفِيقًا
“(He who obeys Allah and the Messenger) shall be among those to whom Allah has bestowed His bounty, namely the Prophets, the truthful, the martyrs and the righteous; and these are the best companions." (Surah 4:69) "
...some people criticized Sufiyya and Tasawwuf and they said that they are innovators outside the Sunnah, but the truth is that they are striving in obedience to Allah [mujtahidin fi ta 'at-illahi], just as others of Allah's people exerted themselves in Allah's obedience. Therefore, because of their efforts, you will find them among the foremost of those who strive for closeness [as-saabiq ul-muqarrab bi hasab ijtihadihi]. And some of them are from the people of the right hand [Ahl al-Yameen are mentioned in the Qur'an in Surah Waqi'ah], but slower in their progress…. And this is the origin of Tasawwuf. And after this origin, it was spread and [tasha'abat wa tanawa'at] has its main lines and its branches.
[Majmu'a Fatawa Ibn Taymiyya al-Kubra: Volume 11, Book of Tasawwuf, page 497]
“The miracles of the saints are absolutely true and correct through the acceptance of all Muslim scholars. And the Qur'an has indicated this in various places, and the Hadith of the Prophet صلى الله عليه وسلم has mentioned it, and whoever denies the supernatural powers of the saints are only people who are innovators and their followers." [al-Mukhtasar al -Fatawa, page 603]

Ibn Taymiyya says, “What is considered a miracle for a saint is that sometimes the saint hears something that others do not hear, and they see something that others do not see, not during a sleeping state but in a waking state of seeing. And he can know what others cannot know, through revelation or inspiration."
[Majmu'a Fatawi Ibn Taymiyya: Volume 11, page 314]
Allah says in the Quran (Surat 5:35) : Yâ ayyuhâlladhîna âmanûttaqûllâha wabtagû ilayhil wasîlata wa jâhidû fî sabîlihi la'allakum tuflihûn(tuflihûna).
يَا أَيُّهَا الَّذِينَ آمَنُواْ اتَّقُواْ اللّهَ وَابْتَغُواْ إِلَيهِ الْوَسِيلَةَ وَجَاهِدُواْ فِي سَبِيلِهِ لَعَلَّكُمْ تُفْلِحُونَ
O you who believe! Fear Allah and seek a mediator [Wasila] who will bring you closer to Allah. And do jihad in the way of Allah, that you may succeed.
Yakup (alayhi salam's) sons and their Tawassul (Surah 12:97-98) : They said: «O our Father, ask for forgiveness for our sins; for we have indeed been guilty." He said: "I will ask forgiveness for you from my Lord. Verily He is the Most Forgiving, the Most Merciful."
Imam Suyuti said about this about Tawassul:
Find a mediator [wasila] that will bring you closer to Allah.
[ad-Dûrr'ul-Mansûr, volume.2, p. 280]
According to Hanafites and Malikites, it is more Khayr to visit a grave on Thursdays, Fridays and Saturdays. For the Shafiites from Thursday afternoon to Saturday morning. And among Hanbalites there are no specific times for visiting. Even if there is more Khayr on Friday, it is not wrong (bad) to visit the other days too.
[Abdurrahman al-Jaziri, al-Fiqh 'ala al-Madhahib al-Arba'ah, Volume 1, p.540]

Is the intercession of the Prophet ﷺ to be sought Shirk!?
Imām Shams ud-Dīn Abū Abdillah Muhammad ibn Ahmad ibn Uthmān adh-Dhahabī ad-Dimashqī ad-Diyārbakrī at-Turkmānī [rahimahullāh (died February 3, 1348, Damascus, Syria)] narrates about Bahā ud-Dīn al-Madiqs ī the following from Imam ibn Shātīl:

وابن شاتيل ، وكان لَهُ ابنٌ شيخٌ إذا جَلَسنا تبيَّنَ كأنَّه الأبُ ، وعَمِيَ على كِبَرٍ ، وبقيَ سبعين يومًا أعمى ، ثمّ برئَ وعادَ بصرُهُ يعني الابن فسألنا الشيخَ عن السبب فذكر لنا أنَّه ذهب به إلى قبر الإِمام أحمد وأنّه دَعا وابتهلَ ، وقلتُ : يا إمام أحمد أسألُكَ إلّا شفعت فيه إلى ربِّك ، يا ربِّ شَفِّعه في وَلَدي ، وولدي يُؤمِّن ، ثمّ مضينا فلمّا كَانَ اللّيلُ استيقظ ، وَقَد أبْصَر

“And ibn Shātīl, and he had an old son, when we sat with him it looked as if he was the father. He became blind with age and remained blind for 70 days, after which he was healed again, thus the son. I asked the Shaykh the reason and he told us that he had taken him to the grave of Imam Ahmad and made supplications [to Allah] there. He [the Shaykh] said: “O Imām Ahmad, I beseech you, intercede with your Lord [so that he may be healed]. O my Lord, please let him intercede for my son, and my son said Amin. We then left and when night came he woke up and had his sight back.”

[Dhahabī, Tārīkh al-Islām, No. 7975]

If this act is supposed to be idolatry, then the question arises: why did Imām Dhahabī narrate something like that without pointing out the shirk? Then there are still the ultra-philosophers who then come and say: “How do you know whether Imām Dhahabī did not still see the perpetrator as a mushrik? Just because he reports it doesn’t mean that the perpetrator wasn’t still an idol worshiper.”

If it were so, then Imām Dhahabī would be the apologizer of an idol worshiper and therefore also an idol worshiper because he excuses the idol worshiper.
Then they reply again: “Yes, but it is not clear from this that Imām Dhahabī sees the perpetrator as a Muslim.”

But praise be to Allah, the Lord of ink, who made ink subservient to man, so that guidance comes through ink.
The same Imām Dhahabī [rahimahullāh] writes in his famous “Siyar a'lām an-Nubalā” in the biography of the “perpetrator” Imām Shātīl [rahimahullāh]:

.الشَّيْخُ الْجَلِيلُ ، الْمُسْنِدُ ، الْمُعَمَّرُ أَبُو الْفَتْحِ عُبَيْدُ اللَّهِ بْنُ عَبْدِ اللَّهِ بْنِ مُحَمَّدِ بْنِ نَجَا بْنِ شَاتِيلَ ، الْبَغْدَادِيُّ ، الدَّبَّاسُ

“The noble Shaykh [!!!], al-Musnid, al-Mu'ammar, Abū al-Fath Ubaydullāh ibn Abdillah ibn Muhammad ibn Najā ibn Shātīl, al-Baghdādī, ad-Dabās…”

[Dhahabī, Siyār a'lām an-Nubalā]
reference link : https://www.ahlul-sunnah.de/tasawwuf-sufis/tawassul/
Thats it, hope it comes handy for everyone especially our sunni brothers that are researching or having questions about shia.
May allah swt guide us All to the right path.

Salam Im half slavic and half arabic so I have always struggled with finding whats my path. Its a long journey and a long story. For instance, my slavic family encouraged me to be christian catholic - which I once was but it didnt really resonate with me. Then I struggled with atheism and was SO lost, my soul literally cried for help but didnt know where to find peace.
I always felt like my arabic background is much stronger, my family from Egypt is much more supportive and loving, caring, they really are Allah servants in every way. I always admired this about them.
I know some arabic basics, can do the accent well (I love it haha, the most beautiful language to ever exist in my opinion).
Recently I started learning how to pray properly and I know it will take me some time(I only know Surah Al Fatiha).
I still dont know much about Islam but Im willing to learn more. I have issue with recognizing the meaning of some islamic words like Dua, Adhkar, and so on, I think you get what Im saying. My arabic father is kind of guiding me so Im not alone but I need some sort of wise community because my country is mostly atheist/catholic and I dont really meet muslims here.
There is one thing Im really confused about - sins are punished, yeah right. So Im going through a really hard time (final exams, people leaving me, feeling like Im doing too little progress in Islam)
I try to listen ONLY to Quran lately and somewhere between my islamic content I watch on instagram there was this girl that popped up. She made a song, with a really strong demonic energy sang with beautiful deceiving voice. I started listening to it on loop and Im afraid of whats happened. Something whispered to me to keep listening to it. Now I have like red eyes, dilated pupils, I feel anger and disgust, rage. It feels like I’ve received something bad from this music. The thing is, I did this consciously but I feel like addicted to this one song. I really dont want to use Islam as an excuse to commit such sins, what to pray in order to strengthen the bond with Allah? I need to get out of this state. I still know very little about how it all works and mostly rely on what I feel in my heart. Thanks for any kind of responses.

Salam Alykum, something urgent has come up, and I need all the duas from all my fellow brothers and sisters!
Long story short, me and my family first came to America from Iraq back in 2009, for my father to get his Bachelor's degree, so me and my siblings basically grew up in America, and we are more proficient in English, and we also made alot of friends. However, we were forced to come back to Iraq back in 2016 after my dad received his degree, and it was hard for me and my brothers/sisters to integrate back to Iraqi society, especially, since now we were less proficient in Arabic.
In 2022, my father's contract with the Iraqi Government ended (since they paid for him to go to America in the first place), so he sold our property and retired from his Professor Job, and we were finally able to return to the US under a J1/J2 Visa. As of now, we tried to renew our Status, but suddenly, we have been denied, and we are in danger of going back to Iraq yet again.
I know this is desperate, but we cannot afford to return to Iraq, we have nothing there except our extended family, but there is no income or home to return to. لو سمحت , this is my time of need, please make your best duas for my family and I to find a Solution, Inshallah. And if you have any Muslim friends and family (be they Sunni or Shia), kindly request for them to make dua for us as well.
Jazkallah Khair

Selam,
Imaan and Yaqeen are important factors in our lives—from which I suffer tremendously—but I can‘t help myself finding ambiguity in it, if I‘m right.
Let‘s say, someone from religion A says:
A: „I cannot question my belief too much!“
Muslim: „No, you have the right to question it“ (saying this in order to make him convert, eventually)
A: “But no! I found comfort and peace in my prayer! And everything I prayed for is there!“
Muslim: „Are these necessarily factors of Truth? One thing can give peace and comfort but it could be false? Also, there might be other reason you received these things?
Just to be clear, I know that the foundational beliefs of Islam is what makes it logical (although there is yet ambiguity in that, again) but I personally I came to a point where I make similar arguments like person „A“. I constantly feel like a hypocrite who cannot argue for his religion and is too depended on other people‘ opinion because I do not know any better; and when I make a point in my head, I switch to a skeptics viewpoint, questioning everything according to famous philosophical/atheist arguments.
I ask myself „Ibless puts these thoughts in your head“ (Which I honestly LIKE to believe but my LIKE isn’t reality) but wouldn‘t be this the same thing as „A“? We wouldn‘t count this as a good reason, the opposite, we would want him to change beliefs! Then I tell myself „Well, if Islam is true, then I could go with this argument“ but this is special pleading, making Islam an exception to my logical approach!
I must admit, this week I spent circa 40 hours on things like these and my Imaan/ Yaqeen crumbled … My heart got really heavy (Just as Allah says), and as soon as I prayed, TRYING TO ACTUALLY FEEL SOMETHING, it got better, JUST A BIT. But this, again, looking at someone like A, could mean nothing, right? I seriously could burst, is appeal to emotion everything I have? But then it is the same thing, I could tell an atheist, „Just because your dua wasn‘t answered, must not mean Allah does not exists, it not being answered also just fits your narrative of not believing“ … and then everything falls together again.
I know, some will suggest Qur‘anic miracles and all but this is the same thing, I cannot know any better. Some arab says „No! This is a scientific miracle, because look at this and this word!“ and then some other (not necessarily Ex-Muslim) could say „Well, no, it means THIS and you just try to fit this into your narrative“. Every argument can easily be debunked, and that‘s what’s actually disturbing me.
Which brings me to the point of the sunken cost fallacy. I have investigated Islam, know Islam, love Islam, but on this level, I feel kind of … two-faced! I tell myself, „I could not possibly leave this religion because it is so familiar …“ but this isn‘t a good reason!
I guess I need more investigation but then … are Ahadith reliable? ( academic Islam says something, Joshua Little, etc.) is the Seerah reliable? (Muslim critics, etc.) Qur‘an and Ahruf/ Qira‘at? (Van Putten, Dr. Ali Ataie etc.)
Then comes famous apologetic … some have also been criticized and debunked - how I‘m going to take them seriously when I know that there is this and this.
I feel so ignorant, really, and perhaps I‘am! I need to read more, learn more, talk more, but at the same time … where is my conviction in all of this? (Some converts looked into Islam 4 years or something!)
I‘m just a laymen … *sad Muslim noises*

Just jotted this down after dhuhr… it was just one of the many thoughts 💭 I hope you enjoy In Sha Allah. ….
Standing on my prayer mat at work. My head is swollen with thoughts like heavy, dark clouds. Bismillah… In the name of Allah… (I am not native to Arabic, so my mind is already multitasking). Gush… Like hail the thoughts pour, end of rakat & my mind plagues with guilt, where is my focus?
Next rakat, another opportunity. “Allahu Akbar” washes away that particular thought. Rabbighifirli My lord please forgive me, but the hail is bouncing away from the floor, Shaytan is trying to keep me from the worship of Allah.
I could hardly pay attention, I am on third rakat & for a brief moment I remember how my thoughts cloud my mind yet I would rather wash it all away to be with Allah alone. My head hits the floor but it’s as if the hail melts on impact & I feel reconnected with worship of Allah.
Last rakat, & while I still struggled to keep focus, the hail storm is still coming down upon me but every time my head hits the floor I remember Allah & why we rely on him to wash it all away. The sweetness of prayer is purification & remembrance of Allah.
So no matter how clouded our thoughts are, Allah calls us to prayer to interrupt our day so we do not need to sit alone with our heavy thoughts & only he can lighten the load & cast away the clouds.
He can transform the heaviest hail back into something quite fruitful, watering our garden & bringing to life our deepest duas if we just trust & turn to him despite how lost we are in thoughts. How sweet is salah even when we feel dread hanging over our heads, like a plant putting down its roots & then reaching for the noor in the sky, only then can we reap the fruits of the labor. May Allah guide us to pray even on our darkest days.

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salam everyone , i’m kind of confused about a matter and i’d appreciate some enlightenment. i came across a tiktok vid about how you are the closest to Allah swt when you’re in sujood, and so you should talk to him while youre in prostration.
however, ive also read somewhere that if you make dua while in sujood during salah, you can only say it in arabic, and if you would like to say it in your own language you’d have to wait till after your salah to make that dua or else your salah is invalidated.
i can read arabic fluently (for the Quran) but i’m not arabic-speaking so obvsly i dont know how to speak my thoughts in arabic.
so my question is, can we make dua in our own language when we sujood or we have to wait till the end of the salah?
thank you 🤲🏼

I’m probably just being a stupid lazy teenager but lately I’ve been feeling extremely unmotivated in regards to Islam. I do believe in Allah SWT 100% and I pray 5x a day bc I fear going to hell but I’m not a good Muslim at all. I had a Quran teacher as a kid but with my parents constantly moving i wasn’t able to learn Arabic properly, so I only know what is necessary for salah and maybe a couple extra surahs. In the past I tried to learn through transliterations but then I found out that using transliterations is haram so I kind of gave up. I try to learn through listening to videos but it’s like nothing ever sticks in my head. In the end I get very frustrated and even more unmotivated than before. I don’t know how to do anything at all, like making proper dua, asking for forgiveness, etc. Everyday I learn new rules of Islam and things I have been unknowingly doing that are sins, and following Islam just feels harder and harder. I’m not saying I want to leave Islam or anything, I just don’t know what to do anymore. I live in America and Alhamdulillah I have some very nice Muslim friends but the others often influence me in the wrong ways. They’ll say things like “Stop being so serious, we’re so young! Just do whatever you want now and ask for forgiveness later” in regards to things like dressing immodestly, backbiting, etc. Idk I just feel like a terrible Muslim and nothing is helping these days. Obviously I suck it up and I will still pray whether I want to or not bc I don’t want to go to hell, but in regards to everything else I am at a standstill. I struggle severely with my mental health for reasons I will not disclose and if suicide was not haram I probably would have done it ages ago. Sorry for the long paragraph I didn’t know I’d end up typing so much, please let me know if anyone has any advice for me to get out of this stupid slump.

As-salamu alaikum,
First, I apologise if this is quite long. I (27,f) feel just completely lost. I really can't explain how or why, I suppose. There's just a lot on my mind and it's taking a toll on me now.
I work in a warehouse. It's not a bad job, not amazing either but not awful. The upside is I don't deal with customers, which I hated at my last job. I just do what I have to do, usually working by myself, and get on with it. I enjoyed it at first, but now it's starting to annoy me. The management and organisation when it's busy isn't always good, and can be very stressful. Even when it's not busy, we often find ourselves standing waiting for work. We occasionally get early finishes when it's really not busy, but not recently. Anyways, yesterday my shifts had changed. I wanted a holiday in for Tuesday and when I went online to put it in, I saw my shifts were completely different. I saw a manager to explain, and he said something about there had been reviews and something about cost changes, I don't really know, but maybe there was a misunderstanding between us and my shifts hadn't changed but online there was a change of something and they managed to mess up my shifts, and I was supposed to check it was fine, I really don't know what happened. But it said I was off yesterday, so I didn't go into work. Nobody called me to ask where I was for pretty much the full day so I figured it was fine, until about half an hour before the shift I was working was due to end, then my manager called to ask where I was. I explained, online my schedule has completely changed. She said it's a mistake, my shifts should be the same, nothing should have changed and I should have been in today. I couldn't tell if she was angry or not, she's one of those people who are very hard to read, but that's made me feel more stressed because, yes it's just a mistake, but I feel like I did wrong and am in trouble. I did have a paper copy of my schedule, but I've put it away and we're online now so I just follow my schedule online and my schedule said I was off. I will discuss it tomorrow, but that's a worry on my mind, which is so stupid because it's just a little thing. But it's just how quickly things can affect me. I also feel a bit bad because I had bad anxiety as a teenager and in my early 20s. I went to university but left due to this anxiety, but I wish I had stayed because I wanted to be a teacher. It's too late now, I can't get the funding for university and I'm in a different place in life to go to university, but I often think how things could have been. I especially feel bad when I see old school friends who have accomplished so much and I'm just in a warehouse.
I've been married for 3 years and alhamdulilah I have such a lovely husband. We have our disagreements sometimes and can argue, but we fix it usually quickly. If I ask him to help me with something he will help me. If I ask to get something he'll tell me no problem (so long as it's reasonable, of course, even if it's not he will consider it). If I want to go somewhere and he doesn't, we'll still go. Alhamdulilah, I am lucky with him. He works the same hours as me. He works in a factory with car production, he makes the car doors. It's part of a bigger company, and every so often the bigger company advertises for workers and the salary is a lot better there, so we're waiting for them to advertise so he can apply. He's always thinking of ways to make extra money, but for everything he wants to do he needs a car, which we don't have yet. We've been saving a long time and we finally have enough money for a decent car, but we haven't the money for the insurance. Not just that, we live in a small apartment and want to move into a house, which will cost us a lot more money per month, and we're saving for a family. My husband is also a foreign national so we like to have money spare so he can go visit family, and we also need to pay to renew his visa next year, although we do have most of this saved up and kept with his family.
So money makes me feel a bit stressed. I want to reduce my hours at work down from 40 a week to 30, but we just can't really afford to at the moment. I earn a bit more than him, so if I reduced my hours it would take us a lot longer to save up for everything. My husband's fine with me going part time, but he wants me to wait until we have a car, which will probably be in a few months time. Honestly, I've been feeling so stressed and down I've been tempted to go off on the sick for a little while to get my head straight. Again I'm lucky that my workplace offers us 3 months off sick paid as long as we have a doctor's note, but I've only been at this job for little over a year and I've already been off a few times due to COVID twice and a minor infection with something else. If I'm off again so quickly, I get disciplinary action which would just make everything worse. I could go on the sick at the end of May, and I'm really mulling it over if things don't improve.
My husband and I have been trying for a baby for half a year now and have had no luck yet. He has iron deficiency anemia, not sure why, the doctors have done a few tests and can't find a reason behind it, but whether this affects his fertility or not we're not sure. He is taking supplements. Otherwise we're both quite healthy, I'm a bit overweight but not major. We're waiting a while longer then we'll get checked, make sure everything's working as it should, but that's been making me feel a bit stressed too. I know it takes some people longer than others, but it is disheartening every time I see we've not managed it again.
I am a revert, have been for 4 years now. My family weren't too keen on the idea at first, but they seem a lot better now. They've accepted my head scarf, they didn't at first, and they'll actually be seen out in public with me, but I still feel like they don't like it too much. For example, when they plan family outings, it's always out at a bar or somewhere where my husband and I won't go to. If they do make a plan to go out to a restaurant, for example for my grandmother's birthday we were going to go out, they suddenly change it to a small gathering in the house. Probably they do this to save money and just because it's easier, but in the back of my mind I think it's because they still don't like me to come covered. My mother's getting married soon, and we were all going to go to a restaurant (quick note, my family is very small, just 7 members in total me included) but my mother changed this to going out to a few bars and clubs in town. Of course myself and my husband won't be going. Every time they come to drop something off at mine or if I want them to visit, they'll always say they can't stay they're busy etc. It just seems there's always something. I love my family, but we're not very close due to how different we are and so I feel a little lonely sometimes.
I don't have any friends. I struggle to keep friendships. I don't always mind this, I often find it easier to keep to myself, but I can feel a little lonely sometimes. I suffered badly with anxiety in the past and only really had one friend, but it was man and after I reverted we kind of went out separate ways. From what I know, he lives abroad now. I have one friend from my old job, but we don't keep in touch much, she lives quite a while away and we only message now and then on social media and the conversation doesn't last long. Honestly, at this point it's just my husband and our cat.
What makes me feel worse, is all these things aren't even problems. I'm just complaining. I look at everything going on in the world, what's happening to our brothers and sisters, and then I just feel guilt. I feel guilty for feeling badly for myself when these people are going through actual problems, and then that makes me feel worse. I kind of feel like oh woe is me, like my life is awful when it's not I'm just whining.
I really don't know what to do. My husband tells me everything is in Allah's hands, when we die will be asked how nice our house was how well we worked? No, we'll be asked how we were as Muslims. I know this is true, and I try to remember this and think like this. I pray all prayers alhamdulilah, I can be a bit lazy in other parts such as reading the Qur'an and I'm still learning the Arabic, but I do try my best to follow the Deen best I can. But I can't help how I feel, I can't just change the way my mind works, no matter how much I want to. I pray and make dua and try to think good, but it doesn't always help me. I just feel constantly tired. When I'm off work, I just want to sit and do nothing. I want to read the Qur'an I want to learn the Arabic, I really do want to, but I just feel so exhausted.
I'm sorry this is long and I'm sorry this is just like me feeling sorry for myself. In a way, I just wanted to get things off my chest, but if anyone has any advice or duas or verses I can read that might help I would appreciate it. Jazakkallahu Khairan

I’m a western white atheist man but I’ve recently been interested in Islam (mostly through seeing Muslims on TikTok talking about their faith) but can anyone be a Muslim? How would I go about learning more about Islam and Allah? Do I have to first learn Arabic to become a Muslim? I don’t know how to even covert if I wanted, there’s so many scholars online that talk about so many different things it’s confusing to learn about (like what is haram, swt, dua, etc)?
I’ve also done some very minor Googling about what’s considered sinful deeds and by Islam’s standards I’m a very sinful person. Does Allah grant forgiveness for sins like Jesus would?