Cute goodnight texts to send to your girlfriend

Rules:

1. must be from top 100 (I do have a non billbored pass for hornable metions to give to one song)
   
2. One song per artist on main list (2 max for hornable mentions)
   
3. I have trash tastes
   

10: Chasing cars: Get your grays anatomy joke out of your system because this is one of the most bittersweet songs in the world, a genuanly amazing love song
9: What I've done: the live actions transformers might not be good but what a way to end them, rip chester
8: Hey there Deiliah: Im with Todd on this one, I think about my crush singing it to me, yall just haters and I hope drake's cover makes u remeber that this song is good
7: Shut up and drive: One of Rihanna's best and is crimanly underrated, go check out the one she did at the 2007 VMA's with FOB (its awesome)
6: Paralizer: This song will always be stuck in my head and we need more emo-ish dance songs

1. Face Down: Todd went deeper then I can but the best song by the band and shockingly dark for a hit song

4: Girlfriend: Its a childhood favorite for me, sue me
3: Cupids Chokehold: Such a cute and fun song, Patrick and Travie bounce off eachother so well (Much better then Travie and Adam levine)
2: This aint a scene (its an arms race): as the subs resident Fall Out Boy fangirl, This is a super good song and deserves to be there biggest charter
1: Welcome to the Black Perade: While not MCR's best (in my opion) no song has left an impact like black perade, making it number 1
Hornable mentions:
Thnk's fr th Mrms: It's just a good song, need I say more
Lips of an angel: This is only here cause of that one drawfee video
Sexyback: Guilty plessure (speaking of a guilty plessure)
IM USING THE PASS FORRRRR
Guilty Plessure (Cobra Starship): One of the most fun songs to come out of emo/pop punk and with an oddly romantic vibe, so worth a listen

My husband has a best friends let’s call them Derek and Logan. Derek who moved out of state a month before we met with his girlfriend let’s call her Abby in 2016. When my (29f) husband (34m) started getting serious I became friends with her through social media, not like great friends, we were still getting to know each other but the goal was to all be a friend group.
My husbands friend Logan has a girlfriend let’s call her Lauren for years and at this point me and Lauren are best friends for a few years and Lauren always tells me how she secretly hates Abby because she’s a bitch but she has to be her friend for the sake of the friend group.
Abby and Derek ended up getting engaged and then later on we got engaged. Me and her were both talking about our wedding planning together as girls do, we were going to fly there for theirs and they were going to fly here for ours, the colors we like and flowers, ya know that sort of thing. My husbands parents have a beautiful back yard and they have weddings back there so we decided to do that too. I talked to his mom and we were going to work all summer getting the yard pretty with flowers I like for a September wedding.
A month later Abby texts me and asks if they can get married a week before us in my in-laws back yard then they will go on their honeymoon and be back by the next weekend to attend ours so they don’t have to take off so much at work. I talked to my husbands mom and she said absolutely not. Everyone wearing heels and will ruin the grass for our wedding, kids might step all over the flowers that I will spend all summer weeding and watering. So I told Abby no but she can the weekend after us. (I did not say mother in law is the one to say a no too) I took the blame for the no. Well Abby hated me after this.
My husband and I started having a rocky relationship and canceled the wedding (we were drinking a lot- me barely 21, and arguing a lot while drunk) so he was venting to Derek (Derek’s never met me or had a convo with me) so now Derek is hearing what his wife is saying and now what my husband is venting about and they hate me.
Fast forward 2 years , we stop drinking get better and wedding is back on, Derek and Abby has came to visit their family and friends over the 2 years and I tried 5 times to be her friend and get them to like me and get to know me. They act nice to my face but Lauren lets me know that they talk shit about me every time and that they still hate me. So I broke down and told my husband this is exhausting and I don’t want them around anymore. (My husband never saw them being mean to me and he can’t imagine his friend doing this so he never stuck up for me cuz he doesn’t know what he’s sticking up for) it was probably the hardest thing my husband ever did but he stopped talking to Derek.
Fast forward 6 ish years, I’m older more mature ,we have 3 kids, I don’t give a crap about little kids drama from the past. My husband broke down recently about how he misses Derek and it’s breaking his heart. I was like omg go talk to him I just forgot about him I didn’t know this was so heavy on your heart, I’m over it. So they are friends again but Lauren tells me Abby has always been this way and she’s just rude. Really no one likes Abby but everyone pretends to for the sake of the group, my husband doesn’t even care for her. But it’s different if she likes and is nice to everyone but me. What do I do?
Back in the day I tried to have a heart to heart with her and she pretended to my face but then talked crap about me to Lauren. I told Lauren never to stick up for me, no need for more drama although Lauren has put her in her place a few times. I feel like I look like a monster (maybe I am) for keeping my husband from Derek for so many years so now they have even more reason to hate me- I’m older I would never make my husband stop being friends with someone that was me being insecure and immature. I do feel like it’s more her and not derek, but he’s always going to take his wife’s side. I know they are going to take trips here and I have to see them. What do I do? What would you do?

My Gf and I (33 and 32 respectively) haven't had the best day. This is all over WhatsApp btw.
Instantly this morning I could tell her tone was off, but I thought I'd give it a few hours to see if maybe she'd get back to her usual self since she's not a morning person at all. She says to me she's stressed since she's going through her mountains of clothes to get rid off and I put it down to that since she can get overwhelmed easily and kind of closes off a little emotionally when she does.
The day goes by with her sending sometimes one or two words replies and I'm trying my best to keep the conversation happy with lots of pet names, I double text once to let her know I still want her attention and I send her a nice tiktok (I know, I know) video. However I tend to subconsciously match the energy of the person I'm talking to to a degree so I'm not exactly sending paragraphs either.
This evening I ask her if anything else is bothering her but she's evasive, eventually she says “I don't feel close to you”
No shit!
I explain that I could tell something was up but tell her the reasons why I hadn't asked earlier. She goes silent. After a short while I call her and try to get to the bottom of it but she says she doesn't know why. Fan-fucking-tastic. What am I supposed to do? I can't try and sort something when I don't know the cause.
The call ends on a somewhat awkward note.
Then she messages and explains that I wasn't very talkative and that she seemed like an inconvenience to me yesterday, partly also because of my tone when we video called.
I look through our messages and see that I wasn't as chatty as usual, and that I can't remember the video call but I tell her I'll take her word for it and I apologise and tell her “I was having a bad day of communicating, I don't really have a reason why but she wasn't and isn't an inconvenience”. I also tell her I wish she'd said something earlier.
She then proceeds to say that I haven't talked much today either and it doesn't seem like I've tried! Some people would have called her out for sounding miserable if they were getting the messages I was getting from her but what I did was call her nice things and send a cute video but hey that's cool thanks
Then she says:
“Silence after me saying "I don't feel close to you" which is really saying I'm not feeling loved was horrendous, I'd rather have not had a phone call”
Like I'm a mind reader now? As far as I could tell she was the one with the problem. Everything was fine on my end apart from being concerned as to why she felt like that. Bear in mind that message came through and the subsequent phone calls BEFORE the much needed explanation and context as to why she said she doesn't feel close to me.
Also bear in mind that I responded right away to that message and she went silent and didn't responded to my message for just under an hour before I called her and I was met with practically silence when asking why she felt like it.
This really should have been a quick message yesterday from her asking why I wasn't being so talkative (I hadn't realised at the time I wasn't) and I could've given her reassurance and sorted my act out but instead it turned in to a very sour day and a worse night

TL;DR at the bottom
Met at a party 2 months ago, spoke for 7 hours, fell asleep together, when we made out he *trembled* severely(he was the one who very nervously initiated the first kiss, with a shaky voice). He said he was very intimidated by me (I've been recruited by modeling scouts, and go to an Ivy league school w/ a STEM major, about to go to med school), he got my number the next day and we were texting non stop.
He told me multiple times that he’s very insecure, has a big fragile ego, didn’t get girls until he was 17, has body dysmorphia and feels fat, that he was "fugly" until last year only got hot a year ago (he is very attractive now and in great shape), bad fear of rejection (told me he never would have made the first move with me), got dumped by his first girlfriend last year and was heartbroken, had a rebound last summer, walked around without a shirt on last summer just so he could get stared at (clearly has a lot of issues). He said he was depressed most of last summer bc he thought he no longer had a positive impact on people's lives and said it's important to him to feel like he brightens the day of everyone who crosses his path.
A few days after we met, he reached out to me from the hospital after being in a bad accident and being severely injured (went on his mom's phone to DM his friend to have him DM my friend so she can text me and let me know he was hospitalized and not ghosting me) (just to give you an idea of how much he was into me) just so I didn't think I was being ghosted. He was asking the nurses for me bc he thought I worked in the hospital. A mutual friend was there and he said this guy just kept repeating "I have a date with a 24 y/o med student". He was concussed and had a fractured spine.
Five days after we met he said "tell me what I need to do to make you happy, it's the entire job description" (implying he'd be my boyfriend). When I asked why he was trembling the second time we made out he said "I'm nervous and I don't know what you like".
The next day he came to a pregame at his friends' place for a party that he wasn't invited to (but he had my name put on the list) just so he could walk me to the party. Initially, he was shy and avoiding eye contact, and was talking to my friend instead of me (she told me later that he was looking at me when I wasn't looking). He introduced me to a bunch of his friends. I had to be the one who initiated hand holding and kisses, and he eventually warmed up a lot more and got comfortable. On the walk to the party he was bragging to his friend about me going to an Ivy and going to med school and sounded SO genuinely excited about it, like he was pumping his fist, almost giggling about it, and there as a skip in his step (like he seemed in awe of this).
Next day, after the sex after the first date, he said "you're so fucking hot and I just want to do a good job". Next day he texted me and said the date was "AMAZING" and "I hope you had anywhere as much fun as I did"
He said "I'm supposed to be good at this" when he couldn't get me off during the second time we had sex (after the second date), but I did a bad job as well (had an anxiety attack) and did not match his rhythm when I was on top (I was counter thrusting, we had to pause and restart a few times, but he still got off within a couple minutes, I didn't) I was quiet too (mentally checked out from the anxiety attack) and he nervously said "why are you being so quiet"?, I moved my hands awkwardly, and he asked "what are you doing?" twice lol
However, before the sex and on the way home from the second date, He was holding my hand, playing his favorite music for me on the ride back to his place, laughing and calling me so cute when I was hiccuping right before the sex. We had that awkward sex (he slipped out twice, couldn’t find the cl**, he got off, I didn't, he said "I had fun" right after, I said nothing (or might've said "uhuh"), he got very quiet (he hates silence and normally never shuts up, complete yapper), avoided eye contact with me next morning, looked taken aback/uncomfortable when I kissed him goodbye. Was not nearly as affectionate overnight as he was after the first time we had sex. All he said the next morning was "do you have your earrings".
I will say on the second date (this was in the midst of finals), he did seem more intent on sex and focused on making out with me/having sex with me and was different from the first date (trying to get to know me more). He made a lot of effort to keep in touch with me and was highly engaged and enthusiastic in text between date 1 and 2 during a very stressful time for him finals (texted me from therapy). Over text over the past weeks he was making a lot of effort to get to know me and to keep the convo going.
Next day he texted me thanking me for the night before and said he had a lot of fun, but from then on, his texts were not at all as engaging as they used to be. He used to put a lot of effort into keeping the convo going, but he stopped doing that, was just replying to my texts. He did tell me on the second date that when he loses interest in someone he will respond politely but not ghost and not initiate any texts, which is what he started doing after that night, but he was oscillating between being engaged and withdrawn over text too.
He texted "Hopefully I'll see you some other time" after I cancelled our previously scheduled third date/party invite (for a legit reason and he knew that too) and I just hearted it but did not respond to it and asked when I could drop off his sunglasses. From then on, mixed signals and delayed responses from both sides. I did text him a week later explaining I had an anxiety attack that night and to apologize for being checked out that night, but he already pulled away by then and his tone turned from playful and silly to more distant and formal. A week after that I asked him to ice cream and he said he really wanted to, but again sounded dismissive and avoidant and just said "i'll let you know" and didn't pick a date.
He was replying to my texts promptly until I asked to have a talk, and he left me on delivered 14 days ago. 7 days ago I sent him a very vulnerable and open message saying I felt self-conscious about what happened that night and if we could address the shift in our dynamic since that night (at my therapist's recommendation) and he left me on read.
I really don’t know what happened here. This guy was SO into me, and only switched immediately and withdrew after the sex on the second date. I’ve never experienced this before and I do feel surprised because of how quickly he pulled away but mostly confused by what happened. Did he lose interest in me because of the sex or was it about his own insecurities? I keep getting conflicting advice. I'm okay with brutal honesty.
TL;DR:

• Met at a party 2 months ago, spoke for 7 hours, fell asleep together, when we made out he *trembled* severely.
• He said he was very intimidated by me. I've been recruited by modeling scouts, and go to an Ivy league school w/ a STEM major, about to go to med school
• He told me multiple times that he’s very insecure, has a big fragile ego, didn’t get girls until he was 17, has body dysmorphia and feels fat, that he was "fugly" until last year only got hot a year ago (he is very attractive now and in great shape), bad fear of rejection, got dumped by his first girlfriend last year and was heartbroken, had a rebound last summer, walked around without a shirt on last summer just so he could get stared at (clearly has a lot of issues). He said he was depressed most of last summer bc he thought he no longer had a positive impact on people's lives and said it's important to him to feel like he brightens the day of everyone who crosses his path.
• Went on his mom's phone to DM his friend to have him DM my friend, so she could text me and let me know he was hospitalized and not just ghosting me (he got hit by a car 5 days after we met). He was concussed and repeating "I have a date w/ a 24 y/o med student" (my friend was there and saw this).
• Made several comments about wanting to please me. a week after we met, he texted "tell me what I need to do to please you, it's the entire job description." (implying he'd be my boyfriend), the second time we made out (1.5 weeks after we met) he trembled badly again and when I asked why he said "I'm nervous and I don't know what you like"
• Was bragging to his friend when we were walking together about how I went to an ivy and am going to med school, sounded so excited and was almost giggly and was pumping his fist when he said it? (When friend asked me where I went to school). Like he sounded almost in awe.
• After the first time we had sex (he got off, I didn't) he said "You're so fucking hot and I just want to do a good job". Was just as enthusiastic and engaged over text between date one and date 2.
• Sex after date 2 went poorly. He slipped out twice (looked embarrassed when I told him), missed the cl**, said "I'm supposed to be good at this" when he couldn't get me off. I was quiet (he said "why are you being so quiet"?), I moved my hands awkwardly and he said "what are you doing?". Then I got on top and did a bad job too (had an anxiety attack from getting high for the first time). I counter-thrusted, couldn't match his rhythm, we had to pause and restart, but he still got off within minutes, I didn't. He said "I had fun" (which he also said after the first time), I said nothing (or maybe "uhuh"). He got completely quiet (and hes never quiet, he hates silence). Next morning he looked awkward, uncomfortable, avoided eye contact, looked taken aback and like he really unprepared for me to kiss him goodbye and he wouldn't even look at me when I got close to him and before/after I kissed him goodbye?
• Texts completely changed after that. He started to withdraw. No longer making an effort to keep the convo going but was polite and friendly. We kept texting for about three weeks, and he ghosted after I asked if we could address the shift in our dynamic that night (this was 1 week ago).

TL;DR at the bottom
Met at a party 2 months ago, spoke for 7 hours, fell asleep together, when we made out he *trembled* severely(he was the one who very nervously initiated the first kiss, with a shaky voice). He said he was very intimidated by me (I've been recruited by modeling scouts, and go to an Ivy league school w/ a STEM major, about to go to med school), he got my number the next day and we were texting non stop.
He told me multiple times that he’s very insecure, has a big fragile ego, didn’t get girls until he was 17, has body dysmorphia and feels fat, that he was "fugly" until last year only got hot a year ago (he is very attractive now and in great shape), bad fear of rejection (told me he never would have made the first move with me), got dumped by his first girlfriend last year and was heartbroken, had a rebound last summer, walked around without a shirt on last summer just so he could get stared at (clearly has a lot of issues). He said he was depressed most of last summer bc he thought he no longer had a positive impact on people's lives and said it's important to him to feel like he brightens the day of everyone who crosses his path.
A few days after we met, he reached out to me from the hospital after being in a bad accident and being severely injured (went on his mom's phone to DM his friend to have him DM my friend so she can text me and let me know he was hospitalized and not ghosting me) (just to give you an idea of how much he was into me) just so I didn't think I was being ghosted. He was asking the nurses for me bc he thought I worked in the hospital. A mutual friend was there and he said this guy just kept repeating "I have a date with a 24 y/o med student". He was concussed and had a fractured spine.
Five days after we met he said "tell me what I need to do to make you happy, it's the entire job description" (implying he'd be my boyfriend). When I asked why he was trembling the second time we made out he said "I'm nervous and I don't know what you like".
The next day he came to a pregame at his friends' place for a party that he wasn't invited to (but he had my name put on the list) just so he could walk me to the party. Initially, he was shy and avoiding eye contact, and was talking to my friend instead of me (she told me later that he was looking at me when I wasn't looking). He introduced me to a bunch of his friends. I had to be the one who initiated hand holding and kisses, and he eventually warmed up a lot more and got comfortable. On the walk to the party he was bragging to his friend about me going to an Ivy and going to med school and sounded SO genuinely excited about it, like he was pumping his fist, almost giggling about it, and there as a skip in his step (like he seemed in awe of this).
Next day, after the sex after the first date, he said "you're so fucking hot and I just want to do a good job". Next day he texted me and said the date was "AMAZING" and "I hope you had anywhere as much fun as I did"
He said "I'm supposed to be good at this" when he couldn't get me off during the second time we had sex (after the second date), but I did a bad job as well (had an anxiety attack) and did not match his rhythm when I was on top (I was counter thrusting, we had to pause and restart a few times, but he still got off within a couple minutes, I didn't) I was quiet too (mentally checked out from the anxiety attack) and he nervously said "why are you being so quiet"?, I moved my hands awkwardly, and he asked "what are you doing?" twice lol
However, before the sex and on the way home from the second date, He was holding my hand, playing his favorite music for me on the ride back to his place, laughing and calling me so cute when I was hiccuping right before the sex. We had that awkward sex (he slipped out twice, couldn’t find the cl**, he got off, I didn't, he said "I had fun" right after, I said nothing (or might've said "uhuh"), he got very quiet (he hates silence and normally never shuts up, complete yapper), avoided eye contact with me next morning, looked taken aback/uncomfortable when I kissed him goodbye. Was not nearly as affectionate overnight as he was after the first time we had sex. All he said the next morning was "do you have your earrings".
I will say on the second date (this was in the midst of finals), he did seem more intent on sex and focused on making out with me/having sex with me and was different from the first date (trying to get to know me more). He made a lot of effort to keep in touch with me and was highly engaged and enthusiastic in text between date 1 and 2 during a very stressful time for him finals (texted me from therapy). Over text over the past weeks he was making a lot of effort to get to know me and to keep the convo going.
Next day he texted me thanking me for the night before and said he had a lot of fun, but from then on, his texts were not at all as engaging as they used to be. He used to put a lot of effort into keeping the convo going, but he stopped doing that, was just replying to my texts. He did tell me on the second date that when he loses interest in someone he will respond politely but not ghost and not initiate any texts, which is what he started doing after that night, but he was oscillating between being engaged and withdrawn over text too.
He texted "Hopefully I'll see you some other time" after I cancelled our previously scheduled third date/party invite (for a legit reason and he knew that too) and I just hearted it but did not respond to it and asked when I could drop off his sunglasses. From then on, mixed signals and delayed responses from both sides. I did text him a week later explaining I had an anxiety attack that night and to apologize for being checked out that night, but he already pulled away by then and his tone turned from playful and silly to more distant and formal. A week after that I asked him to ice cream and he said he really wanted to, but again sounded dismissive and avoidant and just said "i'll let you know" and didn't pick a date.
He was replying to my texts promptly until I asked to have a talk, and he left me on delivered 14 days ago. 7 days ago I sent him a very vulnerable and open message saying I felt self-conscious about what happened that night and if we could address the shift in our dynamic since that night (at my therapist's recommendation) and he left me on read.
I really don’t know what happened here. This guy was SO into me, and only switched immediately and withdrew after the sex on the second date. I’ve never experienced this before and I do feel like surprised because of how quickly he pulled away but mostly confused by what happened. Did he lose interest in me because of the sex or was it about his own insecurities? I keep getting conflicting advice. I'm okay with brutal honesty.
TL;DR:

• Met at a party 2 months ago, spoke for 7 hours, fell asleep together, when we made out he *trembled* severely.
• He said he was very intimidated by me. I've been recruited by modeling scouts, and go to an Ivy league school w/ a STEM major, about to go to med school
• He told me multiple times that he’s very insecure, has a big fragile ego, didn’t get girls until he was 17, has body dysmorphia and feels fat, that he was "fugly" until last year only got hot a year ago (he is very attractive now and in great shape), bad fear of rejection, got dumped by his first girlfriend last year and was heartbroken, had a rebound last summer, walked around without a shirt on last summer just so he could get stared at (clearly has a lot of issues). He said he was depressed most of last summer bc he thought he no longer had a positive impact on people's lives and said it's important to him to feel like he brightens the day of everyone who crosses his path.
• Went on his mom's phone to DM his friend to have him DM my friend, so she could text me and let me know he was hospitalized and not just ghosting me (he got hit by a car 5 days after we met). He was concussed and repeating "I have a date w/ a 24 y/o med student" (my friend was there and saw this).
• Made several comments about wanting to please me. a week after we met, he texted "tell me what I need to do to please you, it's the entire job description." (implying he'd be my boyfriend), the second time we made out (1.5 weeks after we met) he trembled badly again and when I asked why he said "I'm nervous and I don't know what you like"
• Was bragging to his friend when we were walking together about how I went to an ivy and am going to med school, sounded so excited and was almost giggly and was pumping his fist when he said it? (When friend asked me where I went to school). Like he sounded almost in awe.
• After the first time we had sex (he got off, I didn't) he said "You're so fucking hot and I just want to do a good job". Was just as enthusiastic and engaged over text between date one and date 2.
• Sex after date 2 went poorly. He slipped out twice (looked embarrassed when I told him), missed the cl**, said "I'm supposed to be good at this" when he couldn't get me off. I was quiet (he said "why are you being so quiet"?), I moved my hands awkwardly and he said "what are you doing?". Then I got on top and did a bad job too (had an anxiety attack from getting high for the first time). I counter-thrusted, couldn't match his rhythm, we had to pause and restart, but he still got off within minutes, I didn't. He said "I had fun" (which he also said after the first time), I said nothing (or maybe "uhuh"). He got completely quiet (and hes never quiet, he hates silence). Next morning he looked awkward, uncomfortable, avoided eye contact, looked taken aback and like he really unprepared for me to kiss him goodbye and he wouldn't even look at me when I got close to him and before/after I kissed him goodbye?
• Texts completely changed after that. He started to withdraw. No longer making an effort to keep the convo going but was polite and friendly. We kept texting for about three weeks, and he ghosted after I asked if we could address the shift in our dynamic that night (this was 1 week ago).

Long story! TW: death
TLDR: In 2021 my mom died, then in 2023, my closest friend died. Between then, I fell in love with my closest high school friend, it didn't work out. Now my high school best friend wants me to be the maid of honor to her wedding but my deceased best friend hated her because of how she treated me. She hid a relationship from me the year before. Looking for perspective/advice on how to best move forward.
So I'm a 27 yr old female, currently wrapping up my degree, all while recently coming out of the top 2 tragic events of my life. In late 2020, my Mother got diagnosed with terminal illness. I took off grad school and went home to be her primary caretaker. These were the most profound 6 months of my life. Her and I always got along, but she raised me to be independent, I left home at 18. This time brought us together closer than I thought possible, and for that I'm forever grateful.
My Dad cheated on her during the last months of her life. I still haven't fully forgiven my father for abandoning us during that time. He was completely absent, emotionally and physically. Never in my life did i have so much stress on my shoulders, but knowing that I was able to provide her the environment to pass in peace means everything to me. As crazy as it was, it has also made me more grateful than ever for my close friends since my family is dysfunctional.
During that time I basically lost contact with everyone except my closest friends. My high school best friend, Liz, was one of them. We always kept in touch throughout the years. Looking back, it was always me who was reaching out, always me who was going to visit her place, and I didn't mind the amount of one sided effort because she was always glad to see me and we always enjoy our time together. Liz lost her sister when we were 16. So, during the time I was taking care of my mom, she offered me some pieces of advice that I took to heart immensely. Her words are what kept me together during some of the toughest moments of that time, and although I had always looked up to her, since those moments I value her deeply. She's also one of the only friends I have who even met my mom.
I made a great friend in my first year of grad school, Ali. We clicked as besties immediately. He had lost his father early on in graduate school, and so when I lost my mother, he one of the few people I felt really understood me. Before and after I came back to graduate school, he was my anchor.ll
Over dinner with Ali in spring of 2022, I said I think I'm in love with Liz, and it wasn't the first time I'd had those thoughts over the years. Ali gave me practical advice: asking if I'm sure, what I'm going to do about it if anything, telling me I plan as if I'm expecting her to say no, and I totally agreed. I told him I wasn't even sure if I was making it all up in my head or not. Liz and I saw each other about once a year since high school, and maybe I was overhyping our perceived chemistry.
I ended up going home for a cousin's wedding and stayed at Liz's apartmemt for most of it. Liz has pretty much always been in back to back relationships since high school. It'd been a few months since Ali and I started talking about my feelings towards her. I told him everything about her, and by the end of the summer I had also told all my local friends, who supported me throughout all this.
Prior to that week, in a previous conversation, Liz said she wanted to end her then current relationship soon. But during that week, I just wanted to get my head straight so I just focused on having fun. I felt more sure of my feelings for her after our time together. At one point we talked about what we're looking for in long term partners, and I even felt like I fit the bill of what she was describing. On the last day before going to back to grad school though, she called me drunk and told me she wanted to confess something. I felt my heart stop, but then she said she wanted to marry her other best friend/roommate, Emily, in some years. I asked her for more info, but she just said she's drunk and hung up.
Emily and Liz had grown up together but Emily had moved out the area during high school and that's when I originally met Liz. Point being, I only know Emily through Liz. They had been living together since college, Emily also came out later in life, and I guess I thought that if something were to happen between them it would have already happened as they've been single under the same roof before. I also felt like me and Liz had a type of chemistry in our interactions that I never saw between her and Emily. After that week, I go back and tell Ali about the phone conversation. He tells me that it sounds like one of those "if we're both single by x age let's get married" type deals. After all, Liz was still dating someone else still, so I really just put it in the back of my mind.
Come Fall of 2023, around October, Liz and her previous partner split up. I asked Emily if her and Liz were getting married after all. Emily said that she didnt know if any that was serious, but, that if anything happens, that I'd be "the first to know".
We're all into cosplay. It's a hobby I got into through Liz. There is one convention that happens around valentines day every year. Liz asked me if I would go with her & her friend group, and I knew right away I wanted to use the oppertunity to confess to her. I figured until she tells me otherwise, I have a shot.
For context, anytime I would call Liz between the previous summer until I confessed, I would make an effort to pask her if she was interested in anyone else, even asking if she had lingering feelings for any exes from time to time. She never indicated even the slightest interest towards anyone (other than the drunk call). I have a side hustle in astrology, so a month or two after Liz's initial break up I told on our mutual friends I'd give them a free reading if they told me anything they know about Liz's love life. They said they didn't know anything, but that she always speaks highly of me, and rooted me on when I told her I'm confessing to Liz. I also told another one of our mutual friends, who spends more time with Liz, and they also cheered me on when I informed them of my intentions.
I took this confession very seriously. I thought my chances were looking good when not even a minute after new years, she called me. We went on about how much we mean to each other & how long we've known each other. Unfortunately, she forgot all about my birthday less thab 3 weeks later and that crushed me. It was really embarassing for me, becuase I always make sure to remember her birthday and have been sending her cards and gifts for years.
I started worrying that I had been putting this all in my head. In the weeks leading up to the convention, I asked her straight up what was going on: if her and Emily are dating. She told me "it's complicated" and said it's easier to talk about it person. I knew at that moment that my odds of her liking me were not good. She wouldn't tell me any more about it. I decided I was going through with the confession anyways, just for my own closure. I had been gearing up to this all year.
I made her a personalized valentines day gift box. I put things I knew she'd like in it, and 2 necklaces. One was one of those "besties" necklaces that comes in 2 peices for if she rejected me, and the other was a nice one with the first letter of her name on it. I had picked out a really beautiful card I thought she'd like when I visited Japan earlier that year, a country she wants to visit someday, and I wrote a heartfelt note telling her I love her, and we should talk about it. The convention happens the weekend after valentines day. I was going to fly in on thr 15th. I wanted to get the package to her on the holiday and then talk with her the next day, ideally.
Well... the weekend was really something. Her and Emily recently moved to a new apartment building so my package was left at the bottom of the stairs in the complex. The 1st night, I quietly snuck downstairs and moved the package into the apartment. The next day she sees it, and she yells "Hey Emily! OP got us something for valentines day!" I panicked and told her "its really just for you, you shouldn't open it now'". She took my panicking as me being bashful, insisted that its fine, her and Emily sat down in the living room to open it. I immediately took the card from her and threw it into her room, telling her not to read it.
Emily was visibly upset. She was apologizing for not getting Liz anything for valentines day. Liz loved everything I got her, which was sweet, and I think the bff necklace made the gift pass as nothing too suspicious in the moment. Emily kept saying how she needed to get Liz something now, and I just started texting my friend Ali figuring out what to do. He told me to talk to Emily one on one and find out what's up. So Emily and I go to run an errand together, and while at the car wash, I ask her if they are dating. She pauses and says "I don't know, I hope so" to which I almost screamed in frustration. I asked what she meant but did not get any more of a clear answer.
During the weekend, one of Liz's closest exes & I ended up talking. I asked them if they knew if anything was going on between Liz and Emily. They told me "no way" and laughed. When I told them that I wanted to confess to Liz, they said that they see me bring out the best in her, and that they're rooting for me. Liz, Emily & I shared a bed, with Liz in the middle. I usually hug my cat or a pillow at night and reflexively woke up having my hand on her waist. She teased me for it in the morning and I felt terrible/think I pushed a boundary too far.
We get back to Liz & Emily's apartment on Sunday. Liz finally reads the letter I wrote her while Emily is out and we have a talk. Liz tells me that she's sorry, that her and Emily are dating, but thanked me while apologizing. I was hurt and sort of pissed off by the whole thing because I dont understand what was so hard about telling me that over text weeks ago. I went outside to walk it off, Ali was the first person I called and cried to. It was a long night. The next day Liz had to work, so Emily took me to the airport. Emily seemed oblivious to my feelings for Liz she actually thanked me for being such a good friend and bringing them (Liz & Emily) together. I guess all my meddling got them to make it official. I told her I'm happy for them and said our goodbyes.
I had a lot of pent up emotions towards Liz following the trip. I typed out a timeline of events into a Google doc, because my confession clearly caught her off guard but I wanted her to know how much thought I had put into it.
She told me she'd call me to talk things over more, but then I didn't hear from her for an entire week. No text or anything. When I reached out, she told me she had simply forgot. I was hurt, but I appreciated the honesty. All that came out of this conversation was that we both value our friendship above all else. I told her I'd need time to get over this. She said she understood, but she then said that she was mad at me for "invading her privacy" by asking our mutual friends about her love life. I told her I find it weirder that she didnt tell anyone in her life about her feelings/relationship with Emily. I think it's normal to talk to your friends about personal things like that, she thinks otherwise. Talking with Ali and all my other friends after, they all told me they think she was crazy for not telling me or anyone else about their relationship. I told them I'm definitely taking a step back from our friendship. I was upset that she didnt feel like sharing any thoughts on of her situation with Emily to me over the past year. I probably called her once a month and check in with her, so I felt blindsided overall.
Fast forward to the end of the summer in 2023. One of Liz's exes, the one I spoke to during the convention, and I start casually flirting back and forth for a few weeks. This is Liz's ex from 2017, from over 4 relationships ago, for context. This is not a recent ex, and they're still good friends with each other so I didn't see a problem with it.
My sister was getting married over the summer. I had originally asked Liz to by my plus one before I confessed to her. She agreed, but I formally invited her and Emily to come since Liz does mean a lot to me and I wanted her there after it all.
When I looked out at the crowd during the wedding I didn't see them there. They showed up late, missed the ceremony, and when I walked them back to their car at the end of the night her ex's name came up organically in conversation. I told her I find them attractive, and I asked her for insight on them.
Liz flipped out. She said we wouldn't be a good match, but wouldn't elaborate why, and even Emily was joining in saying it's a bad idea without further reasoning. I just let it go, but I ended up staying with them later in the week for 2 nights. One night 1, Emily informed me that her and Liz were going to take a shower together and they did. I dont know why she felt the need to announce it to me, but I just took a long walk to ignore it. I dont know any couple that does that when having company over. The next day I asked Liz about her ex again, and told her it's nothing serious but wanted to know why she wouldnt tell me anything. Again, Liz was dodgy, she still seemed mad about the whole thing and said she didn't want to talk about it.
Here's where things take a turn. I get a phone call from her about a week later. She says that i was being "inconsiderate" of "her feelings" by talking to her ex, that I should know how bad that looks, and espeically considering "where I started" the year I "should know better". I was pissed off, becuase I don't think she considered my feelings at all that year. I something slong the lines of "What? You mean when I confessed to you 6 months ago? What do you want me to do! I've been dating around all summer, I've been trying to move on, and your ex knows that, so no one is left in the dark here. We're just casually talking it's not that serious." She called me back some days later, apparently after talking to her Dad she realized she was being jealous, and apologized. I said its alright, and I didn't ask for any clarification on what she meant. But by the end of it, she said that I really am her closest friend. She also said she wants to do better about opening up about her life.
Fast forward to December 3rd 2023. Ali dies, my whole world is flipped upside down... again. He was the closest friend I had.
All of my close friends were reaching out to offer me their condolences and support. I hear nothing from Liz all month. I was very hurt, because she definitely heard the news, liking a post I made about it. But she never reached out. I figured she must be going through her own thing, and tried not to think about it too hard. Well around the 19th she called me and we started catching up like normal. Key word: normal. She didn't indicate that anything big was happening in her life, at all (spoilers: there was!). When I brought up Ali passing, she apologized for not reaching out sooner and admitted that she forgot to, but meant to. I told he it's fine, I understand. Honestly though, that hurt. We talk for a grand total of 10 minutes. I asked her what's new, how things are going, how Emily is doing, all the usual. She says everything is buisness as usual.
Now 3 days later I get a text from her. She sent me a zoomed in picture of a ring in a box. No context, no follow up text, her hand/face is not in the photo, it looks like a Google stock image for all I, or anyone I've shown the photo to, can tell. It was the middle of the day and I just assumed she didn't mean to send it to me. Well around 5pm I open up Twitter and I see Emily posting that they're ENGAGED! I felt my heart drop. I didn't know what to think. Why wouldn't she bring this up when we talked 3 days ago? Why didn't she call today? Why was I finding out through social media?
I texted her congratulations, and threw in a 'why didn't you tell me!' She said she was waiting "for me to reply to the pic" that she sent. She then texts me "You're the maid of honor, just so you know". I was hurt beyond words. Espeically as her 'best friend', I don't understand why she wouldn't have said something to me earlier. I still had lingering feelings for her, but I support their relationship and want her to be happy in all.
However, I couldn't believe she would think that I would be OK with any of this. Considering that less than a year ago she didn't even know if she was dating her fiancé. I can't imagine proposing to someone without consulting my best friend. If any other friend told me they're getting engaged to someone they only dated for ~10 months at our age I'd be concerned. I get that they have lived together for a while, but romantic relationships are a whole different world in my view. My friends were even more pissed on my behalf, asking me if I even want to go to the wedding, or keep being her friend, considering the way she's been treating me.
I told her I wanted to call and talk about detials. She said she would call me the next day, but she never did. So I end up calling her a few days later on Christmas eve. After initial congrats, I started grilling her on why she wouldn't say anything to me as nicely as I could.
She said it's not her fault, that it was a spontaneous, spur of the moment decision. I told her you don't just a ring from nowhere. She said she was walking in the mall and saw this gorgeous ring on sale and just had to get it. She proposed to Emily while they were making dinner. I honestly felt mad on Emily's behalf, because if I knew my fiance got a ring on sale and proposed to me without much thought, I would be upset. She said that she was going to wait, but then decided it'd be better to ask before Emily went home for the holiday. I told her I needed to have a serious word with her, because none of this was OK with me.
I said that while I want to support her and be there on her wedding day, I can't believe she'd ask me (or tell me, really) to be the maid of honor considering I confessed my undying love for her less than a year ago. She said it's because I'm her best friend and that just pissed me off more. I told her that considering she didn't give me an inch of thought regarding Ali's death, forgot my birthday,, and didn't tell me she was going to propose, on what grounds are we best friends? I said I can't be the maid of honor, at least not right now, I told her I need a break away from all this. This sucked to hear right before the holiday. She said she understands and "not to worry" about it. I laughed and told her I'm still not 100% over her how, could she say something like that? But I told her it'll be fine.
She slowly got more upset as she realized how shitty of a friend she's been. Liz said she didn't think about it, she doesn't know why she didn't reach out to me sooner, that she's sorry for not telling me things and that she's so sorry.
When I asked her when they were looking to get married, she also said that they're not getting married for another 3 to 4 years. That hurt me badly too, because if that's true then why the hell did she have to propose now? I just felt like this was just a very raw wound to get carelessly re opened by my 'best friend', and to know that she has never been considerate enough to ever think about me made it that much worse.
It's been 6 months since. She called me on my birthday this year, with Emily on the phone too, and told me how she threw out the valentines day box I initially gave her. I don't think I expected her to keep it, but I don't know why she'd tell me this. They both said happy birthday and I got off the phone as quick as possible.
Since then it's been silent. I'm looking for advice on how to move forward from here. I'm not really sure where to put her in my life. She called me her best friend but has no regard for me, and although I miss her badly I'm starting to think that I have to let this friendship go. Her birthday is coming up soon, I usually call her but I don't know what I'd say to her right now. Since Ali passed I've been struggling to connect with people, and I'm lonlier than I ever thought possible. I could use a best friend again, but I think she'll hurt me again. Ali hated her after hearing about how she showered with Emily when I stayed over, and said I should forget about her until she apologizes/changes. I'm struggling to find peace on everything.
Do I even go to this eventual wedding? Her parents love me and know me well. Her Mom joked about us getting married when we were younger & says things like 'You're the favorite' when I'm talking to them. I'm scared they'll ask me why I'm not the maid of honor if I go. I doubt she's told them anything. I don't even know what she's told Emily. There is no date set yet, so I'm really just fretting and thinking in circles. Thank you to anyone who bothered to read the whole thing. It's taken me months just to be able to coherently journal it all out, lol. Saving up money for therapy.

TL;DR at the bottom
Met at a party 2 months ago, spoke for 7 hours, fell asleep together, when we made out he *trembled* severely(he was the one who very nervously initiated the first kiss, with a shaky voice). He said he was very intimidated by me (I've been recruited by modeling scouts, and go to an Ivy league school w/ a STEM major, about to go to med school), he got my number the next day and we were texting non stop.
He told me multiple times that he’s very insecure, has a big fragile ego, didn’t get girls until he was 17, has body dysmorphia and feels fat, that he was "fugly" until last year only got hot a year ago (he is very attractive now and in great shape), bad fear of rejection (told me he never would have made the first move with me), got dumped by his first girlfriend last year and was heartbroken, had a rebound last summer, walked around without a shirt on last summer just so he could get stared at (clearly has a lot of issues). He said he was depressed most of last summer bc he thought he no longer had a positive impact on people's lives and said it's important to him to feel like he brightens the day of everyone who crosses his path.
A few days after we met, he reached out to me from the hospital after being in a bad accident and being severely injured (went on his mom's phone to DM his friend to have him DM my friend so she can text me and let me know he was hospitalized and not ghosting me) (just to give you an idea of how much he was into me) just so I didn't think I was being ghosted. He was asking the nurses for me bc he thought I worked in the hospital. A mutual friend was there and he said this guy just kept repeating "I have a date with a 24 y/o med student". He was concussed and had a fractured spine.
Five days after we met he said "tell me what I need to do to make you happy, it's the entire job description" (implying he'd be my boyfriend). When I asked why he was trembling the second time we made out he said "I'm nervous and I don't know what you like".
The next day he came to a pregame at his friends' place for a party that he wasn't invited to (but he had my name put on the list) just so he could walk me to the party. Initially, he was shy and avoiding eye contact, and was talking to my friend instead of me (she told me later that he was looking at me when I wasn't looking). He introduced me to a bunch of his friends. I had to be the one who initiated hand holding and kisses, and he eventually warmed up a lot more and got comfortable. On the walk to the party he was bragging to his friend about me going to an Ivy and going to med school and sounded SO genuinely excited about it, like he was pumping his fist, almost giggling about it, and there as a skip in his step (like he seemed in awe of this).
Next day, after the sex after the first date, he said "you're so fucking hot and I just want to do a good job". Next day he texted me and said the date was "AMAZING" and "I hope you had anywhere as much fun as I did"
He said "I'm supposed to be good at this" when he couldn't get me off during the second time we had sex (after the second date), but I did a bad job as well (had an anxiety attack) and did not match his rhythm when I was on top (I was counter thrusting, we had to pause and restart a few times, but he still got off within a couple minutes, I didn't) I was quiet too (mentally checked out from the anxiety attack) and he nervously said "why are you being so quiet"?, I moved my hands awkwardly, and he asked "what are you doing?" twice lol
However, before the sex and on the way home from the second date, He was holding my hand, playing his favorite music for me on the ride back to his place, laughing and calling me so cute when I was hiccuping right before the sex. We had that awkward sex (he slipped out twice, couldn’t find the cl**, he got off, I didn't, he said "I had fun" right after, I said nothing (or might've said "uhuh"), he got very quiet (he hates silence and normally never shuts up, complete yapper), avoided eye contact with me next morning, looked taken aback/uncomfortable when I kissed him goodbye. Was not nearly as affectionate overnight as he was after the first time we had sex. All he said the next morning was "do you have your earrings".
I will say on the second date (this was in the midst of finals), he did seem more intent on sex and focused on making out with me/having sex with me and was different from the first date (trying to get to know me more). He made a lot of effort to keep in touch with me and was highly engaged and enthusiastic in text between date 1 and 2 during a very stressful time for him finals (texted me from therapy). Over text over the past weeks he was making a lot of effort to get to know me and to keep the convo going.
Next day he texted me thanking me for the night before and said he had a lot of fun, but from then on, his texts were not at all as engaging as they used to be. He used to put a lot of effort into keeping the convo going, but he stopped doing that, was just replying to my texts. He did tell me on the second date that when he loses interest in someone he will respond politely but not ghost and not initiate any texts, which is what he started doing after that night, but he was oscillating between being engaged and withdrawn over text too.
He texted "Hopefully I'll see you some other time" after I cancelled our previously scheduled third date/party invite (for a legit reason and he knew that too) and I just hearted it but did not respond to it and asked when I could drop off his sunglasses. From then on, mixed signals and delayed responses from both sides. I did text him a week later explaining I had an anxiety attack that night and to apologize for being checked out that night, but he already pulled away by then and his tone turned from playful and silly to more distant and formal. A week after that I asked him to ice cream and he said he really wanted to, but again sounded dismissive and avoidant and just said "i'll let you know" and didn't pick a date.
He was replying to my texts promptly until I asked to have a talk, and he left me on delivered 14 days ago. 7 days ago I sent him a very vulnerable and open message saying I felt self-conscious about what happened that night and if we could address the shift in our dynamic since that night (at my therapist's recommendation) and he left me on read.
I really don’t know what happened here. This guy was SO into me, and only switched immediately and withdrew after the sex on the second date. I’ve never experienced this before and I do feel like surprised because of how quickly he pulled away but mostly confused by what happened. Did he lose interest in me because of the sex or was it about his own insecurities? I keep getting conflicting advice. I'm okay with brutal honesty.
TL;DR:

• Met at a party 2 months ago, spoke for 7 hours, fell asleep together, when we made out he *trembled* severely.
• He said he was very intimidated by me. I've been recruited by modeling scouts, and go to an Ivy league school w/ a STEM major, about to go to med school
• He told me multiple times that he’s very insecure, has a big fragile ego, didn’t get girls until he was 17, has body dysmorphia and feels fat, that he was "fugly" until last year only got hot a year ago (he is very attractive now and in great shape), bad fear of rejection, got dumped by his first girlfriend last year and was heartbroken, had a rebound last summer, walked around without a shirt on last summer just so he could get stared at (clearly has a lot of issues). He said he was depressed most of last summer bc he thought he no longer had a positive impact on people's lives and said it's important to him to feel like he brightens the day of everyone who crosses his path.
• Went on his mom's phone to DM his friend to have him DM my friend, so she could text me and let me know he was hospitalized and not just ghosting me (he got hit by a car 5 days after we met). He was concussed and repeating "I have a date w/ a 24 y/o med student" (my friend was there and saw this).
• Made several comments about wanting to please me. a week after we met, he texted "tell me what I need to do to please you, it's the entire job description." (implying he'd be my boyfriend), the second time we made out (1.5 weeks after we met) he trembled badly again and when I asked why he said "I'm nervous and I don't know what you like"
• Was bragging to his friend when we were walking together about how I went to an ivy and am going to med school, sounded so excited and was almost giggly and was pumping his fist when he said it? (When friend asked me where I went to school). Like he sounded almost in awe.
• After the first time we had sex (he got off, I didn't) he said "You're so fucking hot and I just want to do a good job". Was just as enthusiastic and engaged over text between date one and date 2.
• Sex after date 2 went poorly. He slipped out twice (looked embarrassed when I told him), missed the cl**, said "I'm supposed to be good at this" when he couldn't get me off. I was quiet (he said "why are you being so quiet"?), I moved my hands awkwardly and he said "what are you doing?". Then I got on top and did a bad job too (had an anxiety attack from getting high for the first time). I counter-thrusted, couldn't match his rhythm, we had to pause and restart, but he still got off within minutes, I didn't. He said "I had fun" (which he also said after the first time), I said nothing (or maybe "uhuh"). He got completely quiet (and hes never quiet, he hates silence). Next morning he looked awkward, uncomfortable, avoided eye contact, looked taken aback and like he really unprepared for me to kiss him goodbye and he wouldn't even look at me when I got close to him and before/after I kissed him goodbye?
• Texts completely changed after that. He started to withdraw. No longer making an effort to keep the convo going but was polite and friendly. We kept texting for about three weeks, and he ghosted after I asked if we could address the shift in our dynamic that night (this was 1 week ago).

Nice to meet you :)
I recently graduated from university with a bachelor's degree in computer science, and now that my life is finally starting, I feel like meeting new people and seeing where things go. I'm a hopeless romantic, but I also believe true love grows organically from friendship, so I'd like to take things slow and get to know you first. If we do vibe though, get ready to be showered in love, as I can be quite clingy <3
Before you continue reading, I would like to disclose some dealbreakers, just to save you time.

• I'm using this as an alternative to dating apps (cuz they suck and they're literally designed to keep people lonely), and I don't feel comfortable talking to people whose face I can't see. Physical attraction matters to me, so if you're interested, please send a selfie in your reply, and I'll do the same. If you're not comfortable with that (which is completely understandable), then I may not be interested.
• I'm only attracted to people of a similar body weight as mine (I'm slim). This is not a judgment, I simply can't help what I'm attracted to. If you identify as above average weight, then we'll probably not be a good match, but I wish you the best.
• My preferred age range is 19-24, but I could go slightly higher.

Looks: I'm white and have pale skin, green eyes, and dark brown hair. I'm skinny to slightly muscular, and I've been told that I'm decently attractive (wish my self-esteem could agree tho). I also have an accent, which girls I've been with have liked a lot ;)
Interests: * Videogames: I've been playing games my entire life! The main games I play lately are Age of Empires 4, Dead by Daylight, League, Apex, Minecraft, and Stardew. I would love to play with you, as I think videogame dates are pretty cute :) My absolute favorite franchises are Resident Evil and Silent Hill, alongside other survival horror games such as Signalis which I'm obsessed with. * Shows/Anime/Movies: my favorites for the first include Stranger Things, Breaking Bad, and Better Call Saul. My favorites for the second include Death Note, Attack on Titan, Monster, Cowboy Bebop, and Madoka Magica. My favorites for the third include La La Land, Whiplash, Perfect Blue, and The Last Samurai. I'm always open to watching new things, as there's sooooo much stuff out there. * Music: I've played the piano here and there throughout my life, and have taken classes on music theory. My secret dream is to be in a band, and I love to sing when nobody's listening ;) * Exercise: would you be my gym partner? <3 I mainly do calisthenics such as pushups, squats, crunches, and planks, as I like being in shape and it feels good. * Languages: I speak Spanish, English, and lately I've been mastering Japanese! After that I probably wanna learn German or French. * Nerdy shit: I love going on youtube binges and taking online courses on random stuff, lately I've been interested in artificial intelligence. * Psychology: I'm neurodivergent, and it helps me understand myself and be my best self :) * Goth culture: I never tell anyone this, but I'm actually huge into goth music, fashion, and art. I'd love to meet people who are into it!
Personality: I'm an ISTP and Cancer sign. While on the outside I may seem like an analytical and strong guy, on the inside I'm very empathetic and emotional, to the point I tend to feel things way too strongly. I've always been a hopeless romantic, and love is my #1 pursuit in life, as I believe there's nothing more beautiful. I've been in relationships before, and have learned to give and receive love and be the best boyfriend I can be. I'm neurodivergent (ADHD and possibly a bit of the tism among other things) and it's an important part of me. I'm also an atheist and don't want kids, although I may be open to them.
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Hello, I(29f) was never very close to my father(77m at time of passing) after I was 6 when my father got together with his girlfriend (not sure what her age is but close to his). We’ll call the girlfriend G. My parents never married and had me from a drunken night at the bar (mom’s words). They were so not in to each other that my dad didn’t sign my birth certificate. So I guess technically he’s not proven to be my dad? Which may pose a problem.
It was something that really bothered me. And he was in and out of my live until I was 6 when G would be around and I didn’t want to see her when I visited him anymore so my mom never made me go back and he never tried to see me again.
My father died in 2022 when I was 27 and had lived in New York with G while I’ve lived in another state hours away. I found out he was in the hospital when his G called me through Facebook hysterically. I had not talked to her in a very long time so I was hesitant to answer at first. She said my dad was in the hospital in critical condition as he suffered another heart attack (which I then at that moment found out he’s had multiple).
G said the hospital would not allow her to make any decisions as they were not married and I was next of kin. The doctors called me from the hospital asking if I was estranged and sorry that they were putting me through all of this. Will all the grief, sadness, anger, and other emotions I was feeling, it was very overwhelming. The doctors said he wasn’t going to make it and that I needed to make a decision whether to keep him on life support or not. It was all happening so quickly. G was there with him and was waiting for her daughter (f39-from a previous marriage) while I was very far away. I called G back and asked her what she thought he would want, as I didn’t want to make the decision for her, since she knew him better than I did. She asked to take him off as she said he wouldn’t want to be like this. So that is what I asked the doctors to do. I asked the doctors and hospital to add me as a point of contact so I can be informed of what was going on and when. So I could help out. That night, G started drunk texting me telling me how I should have been a better daughter but at least I was doing something now. And went on a tirade of bashing me, my paternal grandmother (passed 12 years before my father) and my mother. I was so angry but held my tongue as I knew she was grieving. After that phone call I never heard back from the hospital. I called the hospital the next day to get any updates about what was happening and how he was doing- they asked who I was and I reiterated that I was his daughter and how I was calling because I hadn’t heard any updates at all. The nurse said that they already updated his wife and daughter and thought that I was calling the wrong hospital… turns out, G’s daughter works at that hospital… I can only assume that she told them she was the daughter and not me… It was a mess, I was not able to get up to that hospital before he passed as I was in a really bad position at work and couldn’t afford to lose my job. G told me she wanted him cremated because “no one would attend his funeral anyways”. I offered to help pay for it and asked when they get a death certificate to send me a copy and I’ll pay for that too. She said thank you and she would appreciate that. She even said she would send me some of his ashes as well, which I thought was kind of her seeing as she let me know the other night what she thought about me lol I never got a certificate nor ashes. I wasn’t sure if I should fight her on it as I knew she was going through a lot and I honestly didn’t know if I had a right to ask since even as I got older I never tried to reach out to him other than once or twice. So I let it be. Over the last 2 years I let her be, once in awhile I would get a message from her that seemed to start sincerely, and than always ended in her asking me for my address or asking if I could call some place so she could get documents for something for my dad that they wouldn’t give to her. At one point she asked for a copy for my birth certificate and thankfully I was smart enough to “forget to send it” and she didn’t push for it after.
Now brings us to this passed Friday. I got a message from G asking if I could call a certain dmv to get a title for one of my dads card that he had registered in Florida apparently and they wouldn’t let her get it, they apparently told her that I needed to request it. One of the reasons why she needs it is because she already sold the car to someone and didn’t realize she didn’t have it.
It just seemed so suspicious to me. She keeps asking if I’ve called yet and I told her I would just forgot to. I’m not sure what to do or what I can do. I really feel like I need a lawyer or something. When I asked her for the death certificate she said she would send one but that the Florida state already has one she sent to them…
Is there a way I can request a death certificate from NY and would him not being on my birth certificate hinder me at all?
I’m sorry if none of this makes any sense. It really doesn’t make sense to me either. I appreciate any advice. Thank you!

I (16f) Had one of the worst friendship breaks with my family friend(16f) let’s call her G. Its been almost 3 months and its still affecting me I want to move past this but i cant does anyone have any advice
here is what happened
Me and G were playing a game together, and she got into an argument with someone in the game. I poking fun. like (Haha her name is Roach) that was the name of the girl she was arguing with. G was getting annoyed and said “ Like bitch it’s not funny shut up “ I was stunned and a bit hurt because I thought she called me a bitch, I ended up hanging up and closing the game because I thought I would be best and then come back later.She started texting me on Snapchat saying she was sorry for yelling and taking her anger out on me. I wasn’t mad that she was annoyed by me just about how she called me a bitch, I didn’t appreciate it and I texted her and said that. I just wanted an apology for her calling me that but as we were texting it seem like she didn’t want to take accountability for calling me a bitch but saying it wasn’t directed to you I just said it cause I wanted to and also G trying to put the blame on me like saying “ I wouldn’t have said that if you were supporting me and not disrespecting me and being a bully. The “fights” with have are usual jokes and we often jokingly insult each other and I tell her if I do or say anything that hurt her to tell me so I won’t do it againThis was when things started to escalate And We started arguing I was trying my best to keep calm the only thing I wanted was an apology for the bitch comment and we would have probably started playing again but she kept escalating it bringing up things from before and saying that I’m not supportive of her when I do my best to listen and talk to her when she’s having problems I openly listen to what she has to say because I know that just having someone to listen helps. So it stung when she said that.That’s in itself brought me back to a few weeks ago when she was upset because we couldn’t go to the mall together and we were playing Roblox, G usually the one to pick the games and for once I wanted to pick a game. When I picked she was saying how the games were not good and we already played before but we didn’t and I was saying “Why can't I pick a game “ I was talking when all of a sudden she hung up the call and BLOCKED me on everything I was confused but I remember thinking ill give her some time because her blocking me as this has happened 2 times before. 4 DAYS went by and I was concerned, thinking I had done something wrong, or maybe I was being a bad friend. My mind was spiraling does days. So I called my mom asked what happened and asked her to talk to her mom to find out what was going on. Later that night we called and talked because I wanted to know what was going on and know why she blocked me. G Said that I wasn’t being supportive of her but all I wanted was to pick a game for once and if she needed a break she could have told me she said my mom said some mean things about her and I apologized I just wanted to know what was going on.Back to the Snapchat conversation things are heated right now Then G calls me a Bitch. I was made and said to her “This shows what kind of person you are ass” I was very mad all I wanted was an apology and I would have apologized to her for the unpleasant nagging. I end up blocking her on Snapchat. At This point, I’m crying because this did not need to get to this point when I get a message from Instagram From G saying “I CALLED YOU OUT FOR BEING A BAD PERSON AND YOU CRY BECAUSE UR BITCH ASS CANT TAKE THAT UR A BAD FRIEND” I was Mad and told her Fuck you she said “IF YOU THINK FOR ONE SECOND UR SAD DEPRESSED ASS IS BETTER THAN ME THINK AGAIN” This message right here Made me rethink Everything about our friendship things For almost a year now I have been battling depression seeing my doctor, social workers even my guidance counsellor to help me get through the school year. I trusted her with something like this, she knows what I have been going through and she used it against me, it makes me even more upset because she also has depression she has also been going through things she knows how it feels to be in a state were it seem like everything is hopeless and she used it against me. even saying she does not want to be here anymore after talking to me.Somehow were calmed down and called I don’t remember much but I do remember telling her that bringing up my depression was hurtful and unacceptable. What made me more upset was that she said she was sorry and that she wanted to say more hurtful like this. At that moment I thought “I don’t want to be friends anymore “Before we ended the call we decided to take a break from each other. FOR A WEEK STRAIGHT I was debating whether or not to stay friends I talked to my support group at school my sister and my mom Before I made a decision What sealed it for me was when my older sister said “If she can escalate it quickly something like this will happen again and maybe even worse. so I made my conclusion and Blocked her on everything even deleting the Instagram chat Even my mom said I should block her thought that was the end of that 2:00 am in morning, I got a notification from her alt account and someone else called me a hypocrite because I blocked her without saying anything. My account was not private at the time. I think I should have told her that I wanted a break but I felt like my reason was much clearer than she. I started crying like I just wanted to be left alone and not have to deal with her toxic energy.I go to school the morning of and at the end of the day WHILE In a meeting with the school social worker I'm getting notifications from comments under my post from her and the same person. I blocked the other person and told her I would talk with her later when getting on the bus she was arguing in the comment section of one of my posts I do have a screenshot of the conversations coming up but not of the Instagram or Snapchat because I did not think I would have needed them but il summary here: G is saying that I'm a hypocrite and a bullied telling me about all the time I made her feel bad or hurt her. (quick note I know I have stuff that has hurt her and when they happen tell her I'm sorry and do all that I can to make sure it does not happen again I even tell her when I do something that hurts tell me so I can change)and how I was still friends with another family friend she did get along with. I knew about that and because of that I limited my contact with her and tried my best to make sure they were not around each other. we ended up calling later I was at the mall at the time I don't remember much from it but I do know this is where I started to get angry. I was yelling in the comer of the mall where nobody was around but I was still getting looks, to begin with, the only people that were involved were people, adults that I trusted, I was not going to get any of our friends involved until she said oh I was blocked by some of our other friends so you may have told me the themWhen I ended the call I'm "You think I'm talking shit NOW I am "I call up my other family friend Let's call her MM is the girl G does not like even going as far as to shit-talk her to me sometimes. I Call M, at this point, I need to get some steam off my chest I tell her about how Fake G is and she's like " thought so "She even asks if G was talking shit about her and I confirmed all of that to her. The whole walk home I was cussing G out because I was done trying to be friendly and at the end M like you should warn R . She is another one of my family friends. I agreed because R is a super sweet person I did not want her to do something like this to her so we made a group chat with R and I recap her and M even my older sister on it. When I told them about the time she blocked me for 4 days and the other times they both were like "She's Done this before multiple times "something I wish I picked up early on. R told Us that the last night of me blocking her G went straight to her and when she talking she was leaving out a lot of details. While I was talking to them I was getting messages from her telling me to admit that I'm a bully and a bad person but I told her I WILL NOT ADMIT TO YOUR DELUSION OF ME. Like I was not hearing her out and I did not want to. even messages from other people telling ME to apologize LIKE NO.Later on, I GET a message from some random 18 year old CALLING ME NAMES LIKE PUSSY FUCKGLY BITCH, MANIPULATIVE FUCK ETC and in my head, I'm like WHO THE ACTUAL FUCK DO YOU THINK YOU ARE, YOU DON'T NOW SHIT NOT ENOUGH to be IN MY DMS. I'm texting back in Fort with her and she tells me I'm an embarrassment and that I should OFF MYSELF IM AN EMBARRASEMENT AND THAT I SHOULD OFF myself and yet I'M THE BULLYI GET YET ANOTHER MESSAGE FROM SOMEONE ELSE A 17-YEAR-OLD CALLING ME NAME AND TELLING ME TO ACT LIKE AN ADULT MIND YOU BOTH OF THEM ARE OLDER THAN ME AND YET IM IMMATURE IM THE FUCKING BULLY IM THE BAD PERSONI take screenshots and send them to R and M, saying this is what she's doing now and yet she is still convinced I'm a bully. I showed it to my sister, and when I did that I should take this to Mom and I did show it to her she called G's mom, and I told g's mom about everything up to this point. About the messages and harassment online the insults FROM OTHER PEOPLE and even when she said she did want to be here when she was talking to me. she was NOT happy at all with what her daughter was doing while on the phone I'm hearing G yet again trying to blame me and even LYING about her wanting to off herself. I was pretty clear G's mom was NOT on her side.after I had one final chat with her in a group chat with R and M so everyone could see and she couldn't twist my words anymore. I told her about the threats and showed her the screenshots and she's like "Oh I'm sorry I didn't think they would do that " like she was not the one to give them my iG in the first place. even calling me immature for how I responded to them TF YOU EXPECT ME TO BE RESPECTFUL TO THEM AFTER SEEING those MESSAGES? She pissed me off here but it did not appear until later that night. Even after all this she still thinks I'm this horrible bully of hers saying I was lying about when she said she wanted to OFF herself. why would I lie about that not gaining shit from it. while we are talking M is talking to supporting me and saying things I should have said to her and not be as passive as I was. Finally, in the end, G gave me an ACTUALLY APOLOGY for the one thing I wanted from the beginning the the half-baked one she was giving me. I accept this one cause this is what I was waiting for. I said my apologies cause I realized I did things wrong too but I wanted to take back my apologies when she was like "Now you're not ignoring my apology because people can see and call you out for ignoring it. At the end I said if we can take a break and come back maybe and she's like " oh you told my mom I wanted to off myself I'm never talking to you again. LIKE DID YOU NOT SAY THAT TO ME, DID YOU NOT GET PEOPLE SO INSULT AND TREATIN' MY LIFE? we agreed to be decent but now looking a this I do want TO BE DECENT NOT WITH YOU The gravity of the situation did not hit me till about 2 am the morning with me on the phone crying to people from the crisis line, even scared I was going to wake up to New messages from other people It’s been almost 3 Months and I’m still affected by this thinking of how I lost yet another friend. I thought FINALLY I have friends to rely on and then she stabbed me in the back like this I would rather now be alone than deal with something like THIS AGAIN To make things WORSE I wanted to off myself For a bit during the end of April I went BACK doe’s message telling me to off myself and thinking maybe there’s were right maybe I should and maybe I am a bad person. I EVEN WAS THINKING OF MESSAGING HER Because I was lonely. Thank god I didn’t
sorry for the long rant I needed to get this out of my system

Hii☺Looking for a bf but would wanna start off as good friends. I'm looking for someone around my age who is cute and loves cats, books, shows/movies that we can watch together and is very artsy. Also looking for someone whos available a lot to txt and call I prefer calls more. Met a lot of ppl who can never really text which makes me sad. Send me dm of ASL some things abt u and a pic of u. I won't respond if u just say hi. Bonus if u have a cute voice lol I admire nice voices. Hope to see u there.

So to give a bit of background: I met my (23F) boyfriend (23M) more than 4 years ago. We were neighbors and became friends then fell in love and started dating. We used to stay up everyday talking, dancing at the park, and going on runs. I whole heartedly believe he’s my soulmate and he does too. We’re nearing our 4 year anniversary and it’s been great. We’re both very much in love, he makes me feel like I’m home and removes all of my anxiety. However 2 years ago he moved to a different country that’s 2 h away by plane to do his masters. So we’ve survived 2 years of long distance. The plan was that he’d move back after graduating but the past few months I kept getting the feeling that hes not moving back. Whenever I brought it up he’d get mad at me for pressuring him although I’d just ask questions like “how’s the job hunt going”. He finally said he doesn’t see many jobs here related to the career paths he wants but he is still going to apply to a few for me. He suggested we do long distance without an end date.
Let me start by saying that I am career oriented too and I completely understand that he wants to pursue his dreams. The issue is that I feel like he’s been taking me for granted and I don’t know if I can do long distance without an end date if he doesn’t show me that he cares.
There are a few reasons that make me think he’s taking me for granted: 1. When we started dating, he went into a phase where we didn’t spend much quality time and he’d be focused on studies and work. When I brought it up he said that’s just who he is. We got into a fight then he promised that he’d do better. It was confusing because he’s the type to surprise me with romantic little things. But it seems like he goes through these phases every now and then and id have to remind him. 2. During long distance, we almost broke up in the beginning because he didn’t know how to text, call much, and express his love through the distance. I felt very unloved and was so incredibly hurt over a few months. I kept asking for love and feeling like he doesn’t really love me. We worked through it and had a pretty healthy long distance where I lowered my standards of how much love I need and he worked on showing love. That lasted for a year ish 3. Now he’s graduating, for the past 6 months I felt like he was taking me for granted again and I just feel so exhausted from asking for love given how many times I did it before: he forgot Valentine’s Day, he stopped putting small notes in my phone when I travel back home (he used to do that), he forgot a celebration we do (once a year Id do a day filled with his fav things and he’d do one for me) even though I did it for him. After I mentioned that he forgot it he said sorry. I didn’t wanna make a big deal of it so I said it’s ok. He still didn’t make it up with planning something else. So I confronted him again and he said he didn’t think it was a big deal and still didn’t make it up to me. 4. He was on exchange in the US during my own graduation so he couldn’t make it but he didn’t get me a gift. I’m not big on expensive gifts, I absolutely love just a letter to show that you thought of me and express your feelings. Whereas now I’m getting him an expensive watch with his parents for his graduation 5. I mentioned 7 months ago that it’d be nice to exchange postcards or letters he said he’s gonna send me a letter. I opened my mailbox everyday for 3 months and reminded him like every week the first month then I mentioned it every month or so but never received anything.
All of this I didn’t say a word or get mad. But when he forgot the celebration day recently I blew up and mentioned all of these examples which happened over the past 6 months and I was so angry. I initially wanted to wait and see if he would do something by himself without me asking for love but that clearly wasn’t happening. His argument is that he gets busy and I get pushed to the back of his mind. He says that he still shows me a lot of love when we’re together in person and he still does cute things every now and then (which I agree). For example when I visited him during women’s day, he got me flowers and had heart shaped cutouts on the table. This example with how many things he forgot makes me confused on whether I’m asking for too much or is he really taking me for granted. We agreed that he’d prove to me that he cares until the end of the summer because that’s when he’ll be applying to jobs and decide where he’ll be
I’ve communicated so many times what makes me feel loved. I find it irrational to not be able to put a calendar alert to remember things like that. I just feel so lost and I can’t decide whether I can do indefinite long distance. I really don’t want to get played but I also don’t want to lose someone I love and loves me so much. Not sure if I’m overreacting or I’m being taken for granted.

Hey guys. Hope everyone is having a good week! Open to chat to anyone above 18+
Sooooo.. I’ve had such a rough, horrid and stressful week at work.. and it’ll restart tomorrow… however, the rain is quite soothing
Anyways, I thought id post on here and see if anyone would be down for a chat whether it be via text or voice call - I’ve been told I have a very calm, soothing voice! We can talk about our days, interests or just even vent! 😂 I’m pretty much open to talk about anything and everything! Though, I can be quite the chatterbox so be warned… it would be nice to find someone who’d genuinely want a good conversation that blossoms & yes wouldn’t mind flirting and having some spicy fun haha
I have many interests so hopefully this could appeal to you… I enjoy gaming when I get the chance since work consumes my life.. and I also love to write but that too is on the back burner due to work commitments! I love to cook, and I have to say I’m actually very very good! Let’s have a cook off? Haha. I love a good documentary especially if it’s historical or wildlife. I can bore you to death about history because I fricking love it… nerd? Yes I am! hahaha. I really enjoy puzzles especially jigsaws… hmmm what else… I guess you’re going to have to message and find out 😂
Ideally looking for someone who actually won’t ghost and will genuinely want to talk long term… who knows what could happen!!
Please do send a chat over if interested…. Ice breaker: What would your last meal be and why??

I was pretty naive and oblivious getting into this relationship l, I didn't know any better , let alone know any attachment styles.
He was very persistent and loved bombed me a lot in the beginning. He made me feel loved and wanted. So I let my guard down and was more respective. 4 months later, he sends me a break up text. Blocks me. Rejected my calls.
I know why he broke up with me, his mom forced him to bc she saw we were getting serious and doesn't like the fact that I come from a Muslim background.
I'm hoping he would come back. I've never experience love before until him. He's currently in his relief phase, partying every night and has trips booked back to back. I know he is not only suppressing but is also trying to have fun.
As a dismissive avoidant, have you ever went back to your ex? If so how often?
I've been told they don't process their feelings until 6 months after the breakup.
I know I'm not going to wait around for him, I'm going to work on myself but while I work on myself , deep down I want him back. I'm willing to be a better version of myself. I've been going to therapy to become more secure than anxious.
We are 1 month and 17 days no contact. I'm afraid it's going to be a lifetime ☹️

Hello! 😊👋🏼
If you're looking for your new best friend and your biggest cheerleader sprinkled with a little bit of Golden Retriever energy, you've come to the right post! 🐶
I’m somebody who loves to chat the day away, getting to know all there is to know about a person (I actually kinda do this for a job!) and forming lovely connections.
A little about me - I’m an introverted extrovert. I love my home comforts, but in the comfort of my own home and with people I love, I’m a bit of an oddball. I love to read, watch horror & comedy movies, listen to metal and country music, get way too invested in WWE, collect Funko Pops, bake, laugh at bad jokes and great memes, and send unsolicited videos of me lip syncing to my friends. I’m a fiancé and a mum to my cute pup and my three lovely cats (crazy cat lady who?). Happy to exploit them for my own personal gain by sharing pictures of them without their consent should you wish. Also, I have watched Always Sunny more times than I can count and will quote this at you regularly ☀️
I like to be upfront and let people know that I’m pierced and rather chonky because if that bothers you then we probably aren’t gonna make great friends ❤️
If you think we’d get along, or simply that you can lip sync better than me, then get in touch! Looking forward to meeting some lovely new people 🌻

I am a 33 year old guy from the west coast looking for a chill and kind platonic friend with similar interests. I am married and have two kids and two pups. I'd like to meet someone who is also looking for a friend to chat with long term if it works out.
I am definitely on the more artsy creative side of things. I play a few instruments and I really enjoy painting and doing random digital art projects. I listen to a lot of music and I love finding new obscure and international stuff.
I am not too serious most of the time and love telling stupid jokes. I am a big fan of Tim and Eric and other weird surreal comedy. I also like podcasts like MBMBAM and Hollywood handbook. I enjoy youtube documentaries about internet mysteries,true crime,paranormal,occult stuff. I also enjoy of analog horror.
I really love learning and studying languages. I only speak English but I can read and understand several different languages, especially Germanic and Romance based.
I like people who are open and accepting and I am always willing to listen to others.
I am on the West coast and prefer a friend on the same or a similar time zone especially any time zone in North America, I am more available during the night but if we get along well then I am pretty good at keeping up with chats during the day too. It's really fun to text about my day and hear about yours, especially funny anecdotes.
Send me a chat request! Looking forward to meeting ya!

This is a long story. My boyfriend broke up with me (both 23) out of nowhere and I keep thinking I maybe wasn’t enough. We were together for 1 year and a half, two months ago we had time off college and spent those months practically every single day together, went to the beach just the two of us and he invited me to his family vacation, I was extremely happy and things were great between us, seeing how we worked together and solved conflict while being alone was so nice, he said he could actually see ourselves living together since we worked so great and had so much fun. During these months I had been struggling with pain during sex due to an infection, so we would still have sex but not penetrative, this had me insecure but he would tell me I would get better when I got better and that he was there for me, that was such a calming thought and. I was also working on getting better with doctor appointments and a diet.
When we got back to college everything seemed fine, we tried as always to see each other as much as possible while also having our lives, seeing friends and study, we would also study together if we had to. He had always struggled with stress and feeling badly about himself, specially with things about college or how good he was when playing basketball and I always tried to make sure he knew I was there for him. As it had happened last year, he would have problems when turning in assignments on time, he procrastinated a lot and also liked doing many things so he would always have that problem.
During the last month he had plenty of bad days, he would lose things, get bad grades, said he was playing bad, etc. The thing is during our whole relationship whenever this things happened ( often once every week or at least every two weeks ), he would become distant and indifferent towards me and it hurt. If he had bad a day he wouldn’t say good morning, he wouldn’t ask about my day, would ignore any text I send him if it was not related to what was happening to him and wouldn’t say I love you at night. I got used to it and used to get really sad but still tried to make sure he knew he could count on me, I used to tell myself his behavior had nothing to do with me and tried to be supportive but it was complicated. Through the time we were together whenever I tried to be there for him, it rarely worked. He would say horrible things about himself, that he was an asshole, loser, someone without a future, piece of sh*t and literally every curse word you can imagine, he would also constantly repeat he wanted to die and if he was dead things would be so much better. This reaction happened almost every time something bad happened to him from losing a crewneck or missing an exit on a high way to failing a class, there really wasn’t a difference in the reaction he would have, there wasn’t a filter. He would hit things and break them or even hurt himself on occasions.I have anxiety and all of this made me feel really uneasy, I used to cry a lot and think I should be more tough to be able to support him so I went to therapy.
Therapy helped me deal with my anxiety and put boundaries, I wanted to be there for him so when he started to say these things or felt bad I would tell him I loved him, said things I liked about him, asked him if he wanted his favorite food, watch a movie, go on a walk, talk or be in silence, but when I did all of this he would say I was lying, that it wasn’t true, that he didn’t understand why i loved him, that I just said the things I said cause I was in love with him, that if he was gone I wouldn’t notice, etc. It made me feel horrible so I stopped talking to him in that way when he felt bad cause it really didn’t help. I started to ask if there was anything I could do but his answer would always be no, i kept on telling him I was there for him and helped him when he let me, I would go see him and hang out but many times I would go home crying cause he ignored me or said he wanted to die and no girlfriend wants to hear that.
The months previous to the break up I had talked with him about the fact that it really hurt me when he ignored me during the day, it wasn’t like he didn’t talk to me but he would only talk to me about how much he hated himself, when I gave him solutions he would tell me It wouldn’t work and that sort of thing. We had had this conversation before, many times, every time we had it I would tell him it was okay that he felt badly that that wasn’t what bother me, it was the way he treated me what made me sad, he would apologize and then everything was kind of fine.
Two weeks before our breakup he became distant, it kind of happened from one day to another, he couldn’t really look at me or even touch me, I told myself i was crazy and when I asked he said he was fine. I felt so rejected so one day I asked him if he wanted me there, what was going on, told him I wanted a little bit more reassurance to what he Said He had been feeling bad for a while and he couldn’t be what I needed him to be, he couldn’t be a boyfriend that it was best if we broke up. I was shocked and when I asked why he felt badly he said the sex life of our relationship bothered him that he knew it wasn’t my fault cause i was sick and he felt guilty since I was too good to him, the thing is during all the time I was sick he said it was fine like he never told me Anything and I feel like if he had said something to me, I would have understood cause I think It’s a matter of couple, but he never asked me anything about the matter, it felt like he was giving up on me, like I was broken. Then he said he also felt like I couldn’t be there for him like he was for me, that when he felt badly I couldn’t help him.
I’m heartbroken, I feel like I did everything I thought was right, I really tried my best and it wasn’t enough. He never talked to me about these things that bothered him so I had no chance in fixing or at least knowing about these issues. I always tried to make sure he knew I was there for him, how could he say I couldn’t when all I did was try, I feel like all I asked in that area to not be hurt. When I asked him to change in the past he would say that was just the way he was. I feel so confused as if I had done something wrong, one month ago he was saying how he could see himself marrying me, he would alway say I was his dream girl. I don’t really understand how he changed so much, I feel so sad about the sex part cause that really isn’t my fault and I thought I was more than that, I was getting better and working really hard to do so. I think I was a pretty good girlfriend, said always good morning to him, have his favorite soda always as in my house, cooked his favorite meals, invite him to all family and friends plans, would go to all his plans too and was happy to, had a good relationship with his family and even gave his parents presents or I would show up to his house with sweet treats for the whole family , I apologized when necessary and was always willing to talk not fight. I don’t know what else I could’ve done, my goal was alway that we were both happy and I hate this feeling that I wasn’t enough. I love myself and life, even if there were things that bothered me like the ones I described, always felt like feeling badly was my fault and that it was worth it since the rest of time he was wonderful, the rest of the time I felt like the luckiest girl, I wonder if I could’ve done anything differen, I always felt like he appreciated me, why did he stopped?

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Should I confront my ghoster?
I went on a few dates with this guy. The first two dates were amazing and I felt that we really had a connection. He is 36, I am 27. He told me that he is looking for a serious relationship (so am I) and characterized himself as loyal. He said one of the most important values in relationships for him is fairness. Our third date was then a sleepover with intimacy. Afterwards, he didn't text me and I ended up asking whether he wants to hang out on the weekend. He said his whole weekend was booked but maybe after the weekend. The next days I obviously didn't hear from him. To bring this to an end I texted 'Hey, where's your head at'. He didn't respond. I do not want him back, but would like to call him out, since I am quite disappointed how this went down. I drafted the following message:
Would’ve been very easy to send a quick ‘I am not interested’ message. You and I both know that’s a dick move, especially after intimacy. I would be embarrassed, bye and be better!
should I send this? I know it won't change the outcome, but I am pissed and feel like I want to put him in a bit of discomfort.
Let me know your thoughts, thanks!

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He has called Maryland home for the last 10 years and is open to relocation.
He's got his life together and is ready to share it with someone special.
The TL:DR version: Best described as a gamer who enjoys nature, exploring, and living life. Looking for something serious.
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The product is currently traveling across the United States via Airbnb. The journey started in January 2024 and has been West Coast focused so far. Currently, the product is in the Portland area for the summer. He then plans to head East slowly to Pennslyvania to spend time with the family for the Thanksgiving and Christmas holidays.
NotGatling is a down-to-earth, semi-nerdy, sarcastic, witty human with semi-dark humor. It is hard to pinpoint his personality as it can jump from goofy and playful to serious, depending on the event/occasion.
NotGatling's interests and hobbies range from gaming/geek things to exploring nature and cities, whether it's hiking, kayaking, backpacking/camping, or going to pop-up shops/events, concerts, new food places, or museums. When he isn't exploring, he can usually be found gaming, watching his comfort shows(Bobs Burger, Community, Parks N Rec), or watching Hockey. He is a Capitals fan but is rooting for the Oilers.
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Education

Level of Education	Details
Bachelors	Network and Cybersecurity
Future Plans	Wants to acquire a Masters or begin a Bachelor program in the science field.

Work Experience

Job	Details
Army	2011 - 2017
IT Engineer / System Administrator	2017 - Current
Dream Job?	He thinks its teaching. But with IT pay. One can dream.

Customer Questions & Answers
Question: Why is he trying out the digital nomad lifestyle?
Answer: His work is implementing hybrid work next year. He is taking advantage of his last year fully remote to explore.
Question: What is he looking for in a potential prospect?
Answer: He is seeking someone who shares his interests. He usually vibes best with people who like playing video games and exploring nature, cities, or new food spots.
Question: Does he want kids and to have a family?
Answer: He had a vasectomy back in 2022 once Roe vs Wade was overturned. He doesn't want to 100% rule out the possibility of a family but leans heavily towards the DINK life.
Question: What does a breakdown of his day look like?
Answer: He lives the early birdlife and finishes work just after lunchtime. After work, he can be found exploring a nature spot, going to the gym, or checking out a local attraction. When he isn't out and about, he is usually gaming or researching what's next.
Customer Reviews
☆☆☆☆☆ The best son I've ever had. - A text from Mother
A blessing from god. You're down to earth and never ask for anything in return. You could stop by and visit more often, but I understand you're living your life.
☆☆☆☆☆ Truly an amazing person. - An old Army friend.
Thank you very much for taking this trip with me. I truly appreciate you and all you have done with me and for me since I first met you at WLC 2 years ago. Stay wonderful and beautiful you! Try your best to find joy in everything you do.
☆☆☆ Why don't you visit more often? By the rest of his family. *^{When he lived in Maryland}
You live 2 hours away?! Why don't you drive up here every day and visit us?!
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32-year-old male finding his way through life, ready to begin the next chapter in life! ^{Soon 33}
☆☆☆☆ 3 Customer Reviews 4 Answered Questions
Price: Varies ✔ Small chance he is eligible for Amazon Prime.
Stats: 6' tall / 195lbs Hazel Eyes INFJ
Appearance: https://imgur.com/a/L9Nf9Ej *^{Hair will return 2025. Bald by choice.}
Only 1 In Stock. Images show minimal wear or tear and may include a lifetime warranty.
He has called Maryland home for the last 10 years and is open to relocation.
He's got his life together and is ready to share it with someone special.
The TL:DR version: Best described as a gamer who enjoys nature, exploring, and living life. Looking for something serious.
Product Description
The product is currently traveling across the United States via Airbnb. The journey started in January 2024 and has been West Coast focused so far. Currently, the product is in the Portland area for the summer. He then plans to head East slowly to Pennslyvania to spend time with the family for the Thanksgiving and Christmas holidays.
NotGatling is a down-to-earth, semi-nerdy, sarcastic, witty human with semi-dark humor. It is hard to pinpoint his personality as it can jump from goofy and playful to serious, depending on the event/occasion.
NotGatling's interests and hobbies range from gaming/geek things to exploring nature and cities, whether it's hiking, kayaking, backpacking/camping, or going to pop-up shops/events, concerts, new food places, or museums. When he isn't exploring, he can usually be found gaming, watching his comfort shows(Bobs Burger, Community, Parks N Rec), or watching Hockey. He is a Capitals fan but is rooting for the Oilers.
Product Information
Education

Level of Education	Details
Bachelors	Network and Cybersecurity
Future Plans	Wants to acquire a Masters or begin a Bachelor program in the science field.

Work Experience

Job	Details
Army	2011 - 2017
IT Engineer / System Administrator	2017 - Current
Dream Job?	He thinks its teaching. But with IT pay. One can dream.

Customer Questions & Answers
Question: Why is he trying out the digital nomad lifestyle?
Answer: His work is implementing hybrid work next year. He is taking advantage of his last year fully remote to explore.
Question: What is he looking for in a potential prospect?
Answer: He is seeking someone who shares his interests. He usually vibes best with people who like playing video games and exploring nature, cities, or new food spots.
Question: Does he want kids and to have a family?
Answer: He had a vasectomy back in 2022 once Roe vs Wade was overturned. He doesn't want to 100% rule out the possibility of a family but leans heavily towards the DINK life.
Question: What does a breakdown of his day look like?
Answer: He lives the early birdlife and finishes work just after lunchtime. After work, he can be found exploring a nature spot, going to the gym, or checking out a local attraction. When he isn't out and about, he is usually gaming or researching what's next.
Customer Reviews
☆☆☆☆☆ The best son I've ever had. - A text from Mother
A blessing from god. You're down to earth and never ask for anything in return. You could stop by and visit more often, but I understand you're living your life.
☆☆☆☆☆ Truly an amazing person. - An old Army friend.
Thank you very much for taking this trip with me. I truly appreciate you and all you have done with me and for me since I first met you at WLC 2 years ago. Stay wonderful and beautiful you! Try your best to find joy in everything you do.
☆☆☆ Why don't you visit more often? By the rest of his family. *^{When he lived in Maryland}
You live 2 hours away?! Why don't you drive up here every day and visit us?!
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