Stress relief plus
stress relief
2012.03.11 00:24 jschip stress relief
Place for anything that helps you handle stress.
2014.06.02 17:02 197708156EQUJ5 Software Engineering Stress Relief
A place to get the stress out from writing requirements (given to you by customers that have no clue what they want your application to do), writing design documents, implementing said design, listen to people complain about your way of writing code (code review), local testing (it works on my machine), testing, and deploying (oh no, that still have `new FooBar()` in it).
2020.12.08 16:52 metallic806 StressReliefProject
A place for people to give their opinions and critiques as I progress through the crazy process of writing and recording.
2024.06.02 09:48 Pretend_Passage7061 I want to work on being nice.
I am going to work on being calm and nice and try to be nice to make a community because I need some questions easily answered I will not click links someone linked on someone’s post led to spam I want to know if someone knows of therapy or therapy groups out of the normal traditional mental health with mental health my experiences in the health system was horrible I am pretty much healthy many vegetable’s I barley ingest sugar went from 200 to 145 pounds I am also not sick in my system I use to have anemia, but I eat so many vegetables and the green ones are none to be rich in iron I do not have anemia anymore plus my views on non sick bodies are meaning anemic, diabetes, cancer you get the gist no one of them can have chemical imbalances I believe chronic stress can lead anyone to insanity oh the question is do you know of any other kind of of groups I will research them a small tidbit with little complaining from me this year I lost my best friend my dog and money problems and also past stress I will only add important post I will not except anything. Furthermore, I will talk on public forums not private messages it is the internet you know safety first I am an adult I would appreciate 18 up, but I will not make my way I will not stop who comments or what is what is said I will not babysit.
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2024.06.02 09:48 Pretend_Passage7061 I want to work on being nice.
I am going to work on being calm and nice and try to be nice to make a community because I need some questions easily answered I will not click links someone linked on someone’s post led to spam I want to know if someone knows of therapy or therapy groups out of the normal traditional mental health with mental health my experiences in the health system was horrible I am pretty much healthy many vegetable’s I barley ingest sugar went from 200 to 145 pounds I am also not sick in my system I use to have anemia, but I eat so many vegetables and the green ones are none to be rich in iron I do not have anemia anymore plus my views on non sick bodies are meaning anemic, diabetes, cancer you get the gist no one of them can have chemical imbalances I believe chronic stress can lead anyone to insanity oh the question is do you know of any other kind of of groups I will research them a small tidbit with little complaining from me this year I lost my best friend my dog and money problems and also past stress I will only add important post I will not except anything. Furthermore, I will talk on public forums not private messages it is the internet you know safety first I am an adult I would appreciate 18 up, but I will not make my way I will not stop who comments or what is what is said I will not babysit.
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2024.06.02 09:46 SharowPUBG A friend is mentally suffering from sexual abuse, how can I help her?
tldr: She (21f moroccan) is very shy, met a man, texted with him, went to him to say goodbye, blacked out kind of overwhelmed with everything in a state where she would easily be taken advantage of, he forced her to blow, no penetration, yelled at her, got her out of the house. She blamed herself, said she's gonna kill herself if she got aids (she had a wound from an OP in her mouth so it's technically possible I guess), now realizes she's been abused and can't stop turning her head of, bad sleep, no apetite. Now she wants to report it to the police and writes everything down
She trusts my advice, so I feel very overwhelmed with my responsibility, my advice could help or destroy her (maybe not, idk)
About her
Over a year ago I met her on an App called "HelloTalk", it's for learning languages and she reached out to me to help her with german. Yes, Im german and we've never seen each other in real life. We've been chatting regularly since and talked about all kinds of stuff. From what I can tell she has a big heart, would help people even though it might not give her anything. Her life in that time had some difficulties with studying, but it seemed manageable to me until everything fell apart.
She discovered that she has breast cancer. It made going through day to day life difficult, she was strong and tried her best to continue, continue to study. She sometimes would fall behind, because she wasnt allowed to stress herself or had Operations done to her during lessons.
The abuser
It was that time when she met J. They met on a dating app "hinge". They had good conversations it seemed and so met up in real life. She told me about it and it made me happy, I was hoping maybe she found a nice person. She liked him. She even got a little jealous when he talked to the receptionist, since she is not a social butterfly. I tried encouraging her at the time, that she's great and if he's any good he'll see. I remember her sending me a voice note crying, she wanted to make him a christmas present and spend the whole day trying to get like a small wooden surf-board with some words imprinted. But the people she asked for the service did a poor job, but promised to fix it and didn't so she went somewhere else and something there failed too. It was just supposed to me a small gift, she wouldn't even write her name on it, she just thought, maybe it will make the person happy.
What happened
J was gonna leave the country and so she wanted to say goodbye, in person. She took a taxi and was very nervous. It was far out of her comfort zone to do this, but she pushed herself. Her plan was to say goodbye, maybe give him a hug and leave. He had different plans though. In retrospect I should have read the signs, he wanted to meet up earlier times, but it was very far for her and she didn't feel safe. That's why she's also a little nervous, she's far from home (maybe 1-2 hours). He never pushed it, but always wanted her to come to him.
I dont know exactly what happened at this point. He must have said that he has something for her and she should come in. They went upstairs and then he hugged her, her giving no signs that she is comfortable happy or any consent, he started kissing her, and that's when she must have been so overwhelmed that she was kind of in a shock. You know after all she's also a muslim. She couldn't process what happened fast enough and that's when he pulled out his dick and made her blow it, yelling at her, that was the thing she remembered most, is him yelling, she told me crying "he yelled at me".
After
She started blaming herself, why would she be so stupid, why did she trust him, why couldn't she say anything
She fell out of uni, because she couldn't focus on anything other than this. It gave her sleepless nights
She worried that she would get HIV and made a test, telling me she'd kill herself if it was positive. I tried my best calling her, telling her it's not her fault... I had a long list of reasons not to, prepared when she tells me the result and luckily it was negative. That's when I first started this draft and actually it went up hill.
She chatted with him even after it and he is the most disgusting thing I've seen. He doesn't feel any guilt, instead kicks her when she's on the floor. When she tells him that he destroyed her, he sends pictures of him having fun, telling her he misses her mouth.
She finally blocked him and it reliefed her, she realized she's been abused. Even though she cant stop thinking about it every day, crying, she got out of that self-blaming attitude. Instead she wants to report it to the police now. All she has is the chat between him and her, which is very vivid and she translates it to arabic... Im not a police officer, not a lawyer, and I dont know morocco, but I have doubts that this is going to lead to anything. She's full tunnel visions into it wanting to finish this. Nobody is on her side, they say she's 18, so she should have taken care of herself. Not only her parents but also institutions that should help people in this situation
I hope when she's done gathering up every detail, she gets it out of her head. I just want her to find peace.
I already told her that she shouldn't expect too much coming out, so that it wont hurt as much if nothing happens. But I have to support her with it, it seems, she has nobody else who would help her
She looks up to me, so what advice can I give her?
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She trusts my advice, so I feel very overwhelmed with my responsibility, my advice could help or destroy her (maybe not, idk)
About her
Over a year ago I met her on an App called "HelloTalk", it's for learning languages and she reached out to me to help her with german. Yes, Im german and we've never seen each other in real life. We've been chatting regularly since and talked about all kinds of stuff. From what I can tell she has a big heart, would help people even though it might not give her anything. Her life in that time had some difficulties with studying, but it seemed manageable to me until everything fell apart.
She discovered that she has breast cancer. It made going through day to day life difficult, she was strong and tried her best to continue, continue to study. She sometimes would fall behind, because she wasnt allowed to stress herself or had Operations done to her during lessons.
The abuser
It was that time when she met J. They met on a dating app "hinge". They had good conversations it seemed and so met up in real life. She told me about it and it made me happy, I was hoping maybe she found a nice person. She liked him. She even got a little jealous when he talked to the receptionist, since she is not a social butterfly. I tried encouraging her at the time, that she's great and if he's any good he'll see. I remember her sending me a voice note crying, she wanted to make him a christmas present and spend the whole day trying to get like a small wooden surf-board with some words imprinted. But the people she asked for the service did a poor job, but promised to fix it and didn't so she went somewhere else and something there failed too. It was just supposed to me a small gift, she wouldn't even write her name on it, she just thought, maybe it will make the person happy.
What happened
J was gonna leave the country and so she wanted to say goodbye, in person. She took a taxi and was very nervous. It was far out of her comfort zone to do this, but she pushed herself. Her plan was to say goodbye, maybe give him a hug and leave. He had different plans though. In retrospect I should have read the signs, he wanted to meet up earlier times, but it was very far for her and she didn't feel safe. That's why she's also a little nervous, she's far from home (maybe 1-2 hours). He never pushed it, but always wanted her to come to him.
I dont know exactly what happened at this point. He must have said that he has something for her and she should come in. They went upstairs and then he hugged her, her giving no signs that she is comfortable happy or any consent, he started kissing her, and that's when she must have been so overwhelmed that she was kind of in a shock. You know after all she's also a muslim. She couldn't process what happened fast enough and that's when he pulled out his dick and made her blow it, yelling at her, that was the thing she remembered most, is him yelling, she told me crying "he yelled at me".
After
She started blaming herself, why would she be so stupid, why did she trust him, why couldn't she say anything
She fell out of uni, because she couldn't focus on anything other than this. It gave her sleepless nights
She worried that she would get HIV and made a test, telling me she'd kill herself if it was positive. I tried my best calling her, telling her it's not her fault... I had a long list of reasons not to, prepared when she tells me the result and luckily it was negative. That's when I first started this draft and actually it went up hill.
She chatted with him even after it and he is the most disgusting thing I've seen. He doesn't feel any guilt, instead kicks her when she's on the floor. When she tells him that he destroyed her, he sends pictures of him having fun, telling her he misses her mouth.
She finally blocked him and it reliefed her, she realized she's been abused. Even though she cant stop thinking about it every day, crying, she got out of that self-blaming attitude. Instead she wants to report it to the police now. All she has is the chat between him and her, which is very vivid and she translates it to arabic... Im not a police officer, not a lawyer, and I dont know morocco, but I have doubts that this is going to lead to anything. She's full tunnel visions into it wanting to finish this. Nobody is on her side, they say she's 18, so she should have taken care of herself. Not only her parents but also institutions that should help people in this situation
I hope when she's done gathering up every detail, she gets it out of her head. I just want her to find peace.
I already told her that she shouldn't expect too much coming out, so that it wont hurt as much if nothing happens. But I have to support her with it, it seems, she has nobody else who would help her
She looks up to me, so what advice can I give her?
2024.06.02 09:28 Pretend_Passage7061 I want to work on being nice.
I am going to work on being calm and nice and try to be nice to make a community because I need some questions easily answered I will not click links someone linked on someone’s post led to spam I want to know if someone knows of therapy or therapy groups out of the normal traditional mental health with mental health my experiences in the health system was horrible I am pretty much healthy many vegetable’s I barley ingest sugar went from 200 to 145 pounds I am also not sick in my system I use to have anemia, but I eat so many vegetables and the green ones are none to be rich in iron I do not have anemia anymore plus my views on non sick bodies are meaning anemic, diabetes, cancer you get the gist no one of them can have chemical imbalances I believe chronic stress can lead anyone to insanity oh the question is do you know of any other kind of of groups I will research them a small tidbit with little complaining from me this year I lost my best friend my dog and money problems and also past stress I will only add important post I will not except anything. Furthermore, I will talk on public forums not private messages it is the internet you know safety first I am an adult I would appreciate 18 up, but I will not make my way I will not stop who comments or what is what is said I will not babysit.
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2024.06.02 09:25 Mammoth_Regret5699 My brother won’t walk his dog, what should I do?
My brother asked for a dog when he was 16 and my mum said yes. My brother was suffering with mental health issues at the time and my mum thought it would be therepeutic for him to have a pet. My mum also said that it had to be a small dog but my brother said he would be embarrassed to walk a small dog, so she bought him a big one. We all love our dog and care for him, however my brother was the person that had to walk him because he is aggressive towards other dogs so someone strong has to walk him.
During this time, I went away to university and 4 years later I have moved back into my family home. As soon as I came back my brother said he needed a break from walking the dog and that someone else can do it. I am the only one ‘able’ to do it, however it is slightly dangerous when I’m walking because if we see another dog, my dog tries to run towards them and I, a small woman can only just hold him back.
The reason I originally agreed to walk him was because my brother still suffers with mental illness and finds it stressful to leave the house. However, I thought I would be walking him for maybe 2 weeks at max. It ended up being 7 months.
Every time I have brought up my brother trying to walk the dog again he blames his mental illness on not being able to walk him. I do empathise with what he is going through and I know it’s hard but I can’t help but wonder how he managed to walk the dog for 4 years whilst I was gone but the minute I get back, is incapable.
When I got back from university, I started working a part time job and was walking our dog at the same time. It was difficult because of the strength needed to walk him, plus him needing lengthy walks due to his size. But I coped with it.
However, I am now looking for full time jobs and I’m struggling to see how I’ll be able to take him on two sufficient walks a day, whilst working full time. I have brought this up to him and he says he can’t walk him. What should I do?
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During this time, I went away to university and 4 years later I have moved back into my family home. As soon as I came back my brother said he needed a break from walking the dog and that someone else can do it. I am the only one ‘able’ to do it, however it is slightly dangerous when I’m walking because if we see another dog, my dog tries to run towards them and I, a small woman can only just hold him back.
The reason I originally agreed to walk him was because my brother still suffers with mental illness and finds it stressful to leave the house. However, I thought I would be walking him for maybe 2 weeks at max. It ended up being 7 months.
Every time I have brought up my brother trying to walk the dog again he blames his mental illness on not being able to walk him. I do empathise with what he is going through and I know it’s hard but I can’t help but wonder how he managed to walk the dog for 4 years whilst I was gone but the minute I get back, is incapable.
When I got back from university, I started working a part time job and was walking our dog at the same time. It was difficult because of the strength needed to walk him, plus him needing lengthy walks due to his size. But I coped with it.
However, I am now looking for full time jobs and I’m struggling to see how I’ll be able to take him on two sufficient walks a day, whilst working full time. I have brought this up to him and he says he can’t walk him. What should I do?
2024.06.02 09:01 Count-Daring243 Best Adjustable Bungee Cords
 | submitted by Count-Daring243 to u/Count-Daring243 [link] [comments] https://preview.redd.it/ulecq0v3x34d1.jpg?width=720&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=97674543ddc12cc5a02de9d48a0045baa9a62329 Introducing the ultimate solution for your storage and transportation needs, our roundup of adjustable bungee cords is perfect for keeping your items secure while on the move. Don't settle for a less flexible option; explore the best choices in today's market and discover the perfect bungee cord for your needs. The Top 19 Best Adjustable Bungee Cords
Reviews🔗Stretchy Adjustable Bungee Cords for Secure Straps (4 Pack)https://preview.redd.it/vxxn88a4x34d1.jpg?width=720&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=305aa2eedd91c756f05a7cf8867a878febf51b27 The Houseables Bungee Cords with Hooks have become a trusty companion in my daily life. Their 48-inch length ensures that I can secure even the heftiest objects without having to worry about them slipping away. The premium-grade rubber construction adds durability and resistance to stretching, guaranteeing these cords will stay strong for a long time. The most impressive feature is the stretch capacity of these bungee cords, which can extend from 4 feet to a remarkable 10 feet. I've found that the extra length allows for better shock absorption, making it easier to manage heavy loads and maintain a smooth and safe transfer. One of the things I appreciate the most is the adjustability of these cords. 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It's truly a fantastic product, and I'd highly recommend it to anyone in need of a durable and reliable bungee cord. 🔗Premium Adjustable Bungee Cords with Strong Steel Hooks and UV Protectionhttps://preview.redd.it/ddjtcg57x34d1.jpg?width=720&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=dc25854739432f354370df1ba385c93f2b69d096 I've been using the SmartStraps Premium Adjustable Bungee Cords for a while now, and they've served my needs pretty well. The super strong cord is definitely more durable than the standard bungee cords I've used in the past. The adjustable feature is a game-changer, eliminating the need for multiple length cords. All you need is one bungee cord that can adapt to various situations. However, I did notice that the cord's elasticity might degrade over time, especially in extreme weather conditions. Also, the steel hooks are not the best when it comes to scratch-resistance on delicate surfaces. But overall, these bungee cords are pretty convenient and useful for various situations. 🔗25 ft. Round Stretch Adjustable Bungee Cordshttps://preview.redd.it/x8uyjn97x34d1.jpg?width=720&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=79c5d101f723a0243a1f531f391ec7687e0b9dc7 The Haul-Master 25 ft. Round Stretch Cord with Adjustable Hooks has become quite the life saver in my day-to-day activities. It's like having a superhero sidekick who's always there to help you secure and manage your cargo. Whether it's tying down a floppy hot tub tarp or securing a trailer cover through the winter, this bungee cord is the perfect tool for the job. One of the most impressive features of this product is its adjustable length. It's like having a chameleon that can change its size on command. With the simple twist of a hook, I can easily adjust the cord to reach any length I need. This flexibility has turned what could be a cumbersome task into a breeze. However, there's one downside I've noticed with this bungee cord. Despite its durability and easy-to-use design, the outer jacket seems to have a slight tendency to fade over time. Sure, it's not a major issue, but I would love to see a product that can withstand all the elements, not just some. Overall, the Haul-Master 25 ft. Round Stretch Cord with Adjustable Hooks is a fantastic product. Its adaptability and strength make it a versatile tool in my arsenal, and I'm sure it will continue to come in handy for many projects to come. Despite the minor flaw, I would highly recommend this bungee cord to anyone in need of a reliable tie-down solution. 🔗High Quality Orange Adjustable Bungee Cords (36") for Durable Holdhttps://preview.redd.it/gwclgkq7x34d1.jpg?width=720&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=1b7e739de02a0f775841485b73ccdcfac7e03359 As someone who's had the pleasure of using a set of Keeper Bungee Cords, I must say, they're a game changer. The vibrant orange color sure catches the eye and makes it easy to spot in any environment. And boy, do they live up to the "durable outer jacket" claim. I've left them out in the sun for days, and not once have they shown any signs of wear. The industrial-strength design is quite impressive too. The hooks are definitely larger than your average bungee cord, which means fewer scratches on my belongings. I particularly appreciate that they're corrosion-resistant, ensuring they'll last a lifetime. However, there's one thing I wish was different - the thickness. At 0.374 inches, it can sometimes be a bit too thick for certain tasks, making it a bit cumbersome to use. But overall, the Keeper Bungee Cords are a fantastic investment for those who need a reliable and sturdy solution for securing their goods. 🔗Durable Heavy Duty Adjustable Bungee Straps for Camping and Outdoor Usehttps://preview.redd.it/mhe6zq98x34d1.jpg?width=720&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=33dde90181f498c5524dcbb2de536a534d33d061 I recently gave Axemax's Heavy Duty Bungee Cords a try and have to say, they impressed me. The color-coding feature made it a breeze to organize my belongings, and I loved the variety of sizes they offer. The durable rubber and cross-woven latex material held up to some rough use, and the UV resistance means these cords will keep their color even after spending time outside. On the downside, I found the hook design could be a bit more robust. A couple of times, I had issues with the hooks breaking or loosening under pressure. However, this issue was outweighed by the convenience of having a carry bag for easy storage and retrieval of the cords. All in all, these adjustable bungee cords make a useful addition to any outdoor adventure or work situation, providing flexibility and durability. I'd definitely recommend them to my friends! 🔗Premium Adjustable Bungee Cords for Versatile Luggage Supporthttps://preview.redd.it/r9uqhmj8x34d1.jpg?width=720&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=16535e8ddef3ef2ee1caffc6764d75d30c8b0a49 I recently tried out the MOLADRI Black Adjustable Bungee Cords with Hooks Set, and I have to say, they've become a lifesaver in my daily life. These bungee cords are incredibly versatile, offering multiple uses such as securing luggage to the roof of my car or holding down a picnic tablecloth during a windy outdoor meal. One striking feature that stood out to me is their adjustability. The length of these cords can be easily adapted to fit a wide range of situations, making them an essential item for anyone on the go. The flat, heavy-duty design also impressed me, as it not only absorbed shock from bumps and turns but also evenly distributed the load, improving the safety of my cargo. However, while the flat design is a plus for securing heavy objects, it does make it difficult to use these bungee cords for less substantial items. Additionally, the metal hooks at the ends of the cords add extra durability, but they can be a bit tricky to untangle when storing them. Overall, the MOLADRI Black Adjustable Bungee Cords with Hooks Set has become an indispensable part of my daily routine, thanks to their versatility and durability. Despite the occasional struggles with untangling the hooks, the benefits far outweigh the inconveniences, making this set a wise purchase for anyone in need of a reliable and adaptable bungee cord. 🔗High Strength Adjustable Bungee Cords with Hookshttps://preview.redd.it/c3ryyg89x34d1.jpg?width=720&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=7edfbcc768f4ef490bb5a67834768469b4ae54fe I recently tried out the Monkey Fingers Adjustable Bungee Cords, and let me tell you, they're a game-changer for anyone who needs to keep their cargo secure. The bright red color definitely stands out, making it easy to see even in low-light situations. The 2-pack is perfect for keeping one in the car and one on your boat or ATV. The adjustability of the bungee cords is truly a lifesaver, letting me quickly switch between lengths depending on the load at hand. The hooks are sturdy, making it easy to secure even the heaviest loads, and the bungee cords themselves are incredibly durable, withstanding harsh sun and salt water without any issues. My only complaint is that the hooks could use a slightly larger size for securing cargo on ATVs. Overall, these are the best bungee cords I've ever tried, and I highly recommend them! . Buyer's GuideAdjustable bungee cords are versatile and practical tools that can be used for a wide range of purposes. They come in various widths, lengths, and capacities, making them suitable for different applications.Important Features1. Stretch Capacityhttps://preview.redd.it/lfp9yhuax34d1.jpg?width=720&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=a7ff8addd0f24e9adf3f4f66aeb5dfed5d47f6b1 The stretch capacity of an adjustable bungee cord is the maximum distance it can stretch without breaking. This is an important consideration when choosing the right bungee cord for your needs. For smaller loads, a lower stretch capacity will suffice, while for heavier loads, a higher stretch capacity is required. 2. DiameterThe diameter of an adjustable bungee cord affects its strength and flexibility. A wider cord is generally stronger, but more inflexible, while a narrower cord is more flexible but less strong. Choose a bungee cord's diameter based on the load it will be supporting and the angles it will need to stretch at.3. Coated or UncoatedAdjustable bungee cords can either be coated or uncoated. Coated cords are more resistant to wear and tear, making them suitable for heavy-duty applications, while uncoated cords are more flexible and lightweight, making them suitable for light-duty applications.4. Quality and DurabilityTo ensure the longevity of your adjustable bungee cord, choose one made from high-quality materials and built for durability. Look for reinforced end fittings and sturdy construction. https://preview.redd.it/4arzjibbx34d1.jpg?width=720&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=c6e49fa20dc7964cf72843e0a9d6fc8dd6c3d145 Considerations Before Buying1. How You Will Use the Bungee CordConsider the specific application for your adjustable bungee cord. Will it be used to secure a load to a vehicle, to hold two objects together, or for stretching exercises? Understanding how you will use the bungee cord will help you choose the right one with the appropriate stretch capacity and diameter.2. BudgetAdjustable bungee cords come in a wide range of prices, depending on their size, strength, and quality. Determine your budget before making a purchase, and consider the bungee cord's expected lifespan and suitability for your applications. Remember, cheaper options might not always be the best value.3. Brand Reputationhttps://preview.redd.it/g37l8ckbx34d1.jpg?width=720&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=7a720f58177e61675d9f9ba77068cd0c9c91ab6b Some brands have better quality control and produce more durable adjustable bungee cords than others. Research the brand's reputation before making a purchase, and look for positive reviews and experiences from other users. General Advice and Precautions1. Always Read the InstructionsBefore using an adjustable bungee cord, always read the manufacturer's instructions for proper handling and usage. This can help you avoid accidents and damage to your load or the bungee cord itself.2. Avoid OverstretchingDo not overstretch your adjustable bungee cord, as this can cause it to snap and potentially cause injury. Make sure to secure the bungee cord appropriately and only stretch it as far as it is designed to stretch. https://preview.redd.it/k8ufekubx34d1.jpg?width=720&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=9bb32e139d5d303d73dbd4dcbf7742227f214e46 3. Keep the Cord Organized and Tangled-FreeA tangled or knotted bungee cord can be difficult to deal with and can even damage the cord. Make sure to keep your adjustable bungee cord organized and untangled to extend its lifespan and maintain its strength and flexibility.4. Choose the Right Bungee Cord for the JobUsing the wrong bungee cord for the job can lead to accidents, damage to your load, and even personal injury. Always choose the appropriate bungee cord based on your load's weight, the distance it needs to stretch, and the angles involved in the stretching.FAQWhat are adjustable bungee cords?Adjustable bungee cords are elastic ropes that can be adjusted in length, making them ideal for various purposes. They are often made of durable materials like polyester or rubber and typically come with hooks or loops for easy attachment.What are some common uses for adjustable bungee cords?
How do I choose the right adjustable bungee cord for my needs?Consider factors like the length of the cord, the weight it needs to hold, and the material it's made from. Look for adjustable bungee cords with strong hooks or loops for secure attachment. Additionally, high-quality materials will result in longer-lasting products.What are some tips for using adjustable bungee cords?
How long should adjustable bungee cords last?The lifespan of adjustable bungee cords depends on the quality of the materials and how they are used and maintained. High-quality bungee cords made from durable materials like polyester or rubber can last several years if taken care of properly.Are there any safety concerns when using adjustable bungee cords?Yes, it is essential to use adjustable bungee cords safely. Always check the maximum load capacity before applying tension, properly attach the cord to prevent slipping, and inspect the cord for signs of wear or damage before each use. Proper storage (in a dry place) can also help prolong the life of the bungee cord and ensure safe use.As an Amazon™ Associate, we earn from qualifying purchases. |
2024.06.02 08:49 ConsequenceSure3063 Best Adidas Gym Bags
 | submitted by ConsequenceSure3063 to u/ConsequenceSure3063 [link] [comments] https://preview.redd.it/lk8lbct1v34d1.jpg?width=720&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=e6376c7ef882ce57deea5d4b8cdba774c8a5d772 Looking for the perfect bag to carry your gym essentials? Our roundup of Adidas gym bags has got you covered! From stylish duffels to practical backpacks, we've got a diverse selection to fit both your workout wardrobe and your daily routine. Whether you're a fitness enthusiast or a beginner, there's an Adidas gym bag that suits your needs. Stay organized, stay stylish, and most importantly - stay ready for your next workout with our Adidas gym bag collection! The Top 9 Best Adidas Gym Bags
Reviews🔗Adidas Prime 6 Extra-Large Gym Backpack for Laptop and Workhttps://preview.redd.it/bqcyw3c2v34d1.jpg?width=720&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=0f88991226d548b5df067113d1cf3599518c4749 I've recently started using the Adidas Prime 6 Backpack for my daily commute, and I must say, it's been a game changer. First and foremost, the recycled material used in its construction not only feels sturdy but also gives me peace of mind knowing that I'm doing my part for the environment. The shoulder straps are designed with LoadSpring technology, which truly does help ease the weight of my daily load. One of the standout features of this backpack is the cleaning process. Unlike many other bags, you can easily clean this one with soap and water, ensuring it stays fresh and free from any accumulated grime. The exterior has five zip pockets and an internal zip storage pocket, making it incredibly convenient for me to stay organized and keep all my essentials within reach. However, no product is perfect. While the capacity is ample and more than meets my needs, I have noticed that the zippers can be a bit finicky at times, requiring some extra effort to open and close. Additionally, the material, although easy to clean, may not be as long-lasting as some other options on the market. Despite these minor cons, the Adidas Prime 6 Backpack has quickly become my go-to choice for daily use. Its combination of stylish design, ample storage, and environmentally conscious construction make it a true standout in the world of gym bags. 🔗Adidas Prime 6 Large Backpack for Gym or Schoolhttps://preview.redd.it/6aqyrup2v34d1.jpg?width=720&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=b4601edb06ccef3d14899c60c4baecc2976e8597 Imagine carrying a backpack that's not just spacious, but extremely comfortable, with the added bonus of being incredibly durable. As a student or traveler, this Adidas Prime 6 Backpack is a dream come true! From the moment I got my hands on it, I was impressed by its size. It's extra-large, perfect for those days when you need to carry a lot of stuff around. However, it's not only about capacity. The features that make this bag stand out include LoadSpring shoulder straps. They're designed to help distribute the weight evenly, making heavy loads feel much lighter. Cleaning is also a breeze with this backpack. The wipe-able lining means that you can easily spot clean it with soap and water, keeping your bag looking fresh and new. There are also multiple zippered pockets, providing ample storage space for all your belongings. Not to forget, a padded compartment that securely stores up to a 15-inch laptop. However, no product is perfect. While the majority of users praised its durability, a few individuals reported issues with seams not being sewn properly. Despite these minor issues, the overwhelming majority of reviews were positive, praising the style, comfort, and convenience of this backpack. In conclusion, the Adidas Prime 6 Backpack is a fantastic option for anyone in need of a large backpack that's both comfortable and reliable. Its capacity, coupled with its padded laptop compartment and multiple zippered pockets, makes it a perfect companion for daily use or extended travel. 🔗Adidas Graphic Oversized Duffel Bag for Sports and Travelhttps://preview.redd.it/qikeu533v34d1.jpg?width=720&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=610647d983b8b489bf32b54a51e6622f59603435 Adidas has always been top-notch when it comes to athletic wear and accessories, and this Graphic Duffel Bag is no exception! I'm currently using it for my weekend trips to the gym and it's been a real lifesaver. The size is perfect, not too big and not too small, which means it's easy to carry, even when it's loaded up with all my gym essentials. I was pleasantly surprised with the quality of the duffel. The material is sturdy and thick, so I know it's going to last a long time. Plus, the large graphic screen print on the side gives it a stylish edge. The bag also features a zipper closure and 93% Polyester, 3% Natural Latex Rubber, 2% Spandex, 2% Nylon blend, which gives it a nice structure. One feature I absolutely love is the adjustable shoulder strap. It makes it so convenient to carry the bag, especially when it's packed filled with stuff. You can either carry it over your shoulder or across your body. It's so comfortable and doesn't strain my shoulder at all. A small pocket in the bag adds to the convenience. It's perfect for storing keys or a small wallet. Although there's no specific spot for a water bottle, I usually just toss it in with the rest of my stuff and it works out fine. A few cons worth mentioning are that the bag isn't very light, which can be a bit cumbersome when it's empty. However, it's manageable when you're carrying it on your shoulder. Another minor inconvenience is that there are no straps or hooks for a yoga mat or extra shoes on the outside, you'll have to make do with cramming them inside. Overall, this Adidas Graphic Duffel Bag has been a game-changer for my gym trips. It's durable, spacious, and stylish, all while being convenient to carry. I've recommended this bag to all my workout buddies and they're all loving it too! 🔗Adidas Team Issue II Duffel Bag - Durable Gym Bag for Professionalshttps://preview.redd.it/eq6hkvl3v34d1.jpg?width=720&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=66f27638b832bcedca3db5d4788a102330b0c6dc As someone who's been using the Adidas Team Issue II Medium Duffel Bag Black for quite some time now, let me tell you, it's a game-changer! Whether you're heading to the gym or packing for a weekend getaway, this bag has got your back. First off, the durability is top-notch. Crafted in poly ripstop with reinforced panels at zippers and stress points, this bag is made to last. It also maintains its shape, making it super easy to access your stuff even when it's fully packed. One of my favorite features is the zip end pocket designed specifically for shoes or dirty clothes. It keeps everything separated and organized, which is a big plus in my book. There's also a zip pocket at the outer face perfect for storing small items like keys or your phone. Now, onto the straps. The dual carry handles with padded hook-and-loop panel provide comfort while carrying and the adjustable, removable shoulder strap adds versatility. Plus, did I mention how spacious the interior is? It can easily accommodate 2-3 outfits along with shoes and other essentials. In terms of cons, the only one I could think of is that it might not be big enough for everyone's needs. However, for most people, myself included, it's absolutely perfect. So, if you're in the market for a new gym bag or just need something practical and stylish for travel, the Adidas Team Issue II Medium Duffel Bag Black is definitely worth considering. 🔗Adidas Prime 6 Extra-Large Backpack - Greyhttps://preview.redd.it/s4w0v0v3v34d1.jpg?width=720&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=a1b35d26692cea91e902bbf48604b36128585f20 As a fitness enthusiast, I've been using the Adidas Prime 6 Backpack in grey for all my workouts and daily commutes. The moment I saw this bag, I was drawn to its sleek design and vibrant colors. Little did I know, it would become a reliable companion during my intense workout sessions and daily office routine. One of the most noticeable features of this backpack is its capacity. It's got plenty of pockets both inside and outside, making it incredibly convenient to store all my essentials - from a fresh towel and spare clothes to my laptop and office files. The padded compartment for my 12-inch laptop gives me peace of mind knowing that my device is well-protected. The LoadSpring shoulder straps are another standout feature. They've made carrying heavy loads much more comfortable, especially when I'm rushing between classes or heading straight to the gym after work. Plus, the easy-to-clean material means I don't have to worry about sweat or dirt ruining its appearance. However, one con I've noticed is that the sides of the backpack don't provide much support, which can cause the contents to shift around during intense physical activity. But overall, the Adidas Prime 6 Backpack has been an excellent addition to my workout gear. Its durability, convenient storage design, and visual appeal make it worth its price tag. 🔗Adidas Diablo Small Duffel Baghttps://preview.redd.it/24jd4sg4v34d1.jpg?width=720&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=0e36123b5ed3ba80c5a43250cef88e6326c662a7 I've been using this Adidas Diablo Duffel Bag for a while now, and it's quickly become my go-to bag for trips to the gym or a weekend getaway. This small bag packs a lot of punch; the main compartment is large and easy to load up with all my workout gear. The adjustable shoulder strap makes it incredibly comfortable to carry around, and the bold screen-printed Adidas brandmark on the front adds a nice touch of style. One feature that I appreciate is the free side panel left for customizing with our team's logo. This bag is also incredibly lightweight and easy to clean, which is a huge plus for someone as messy as me! The only downside I've noticed is that there are no side pockets, but in keeping with its simple design, this duffel efficiently holds all my stuff in one place. All in all, I'm really happy with the Diablo Small. It's the perfect size for a gym bag or a small overnighter, and it looks good doing it. I would definitely recommend this to anyone looking for a versatile and sleek bag for their active lifestyle. 🔗Stylish modern hide a bed chair - convertible sleeper chair with comfortable pillows and pocketshttps://preview.redd.it/ddv86hx4v34d1.jpg?width=720&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=257a014ed1152bd6cc211157979cfae3df06736d I've been using the Adidas Santiago Duffel Bag for a few weeks now and boy, is it a game-changer! The first thing that caught my eye was the retro design - I mean, who wouldn't love a throwback to those classic Adidas styles? The screen-printed branding on all four sides adds just the right touch of sophistication. One of the standout features has to be the spacious main compartment. It's large enough to fit everything you need for a weekend getaway, yet compact enough to carry around easily. Plus, the two endcap pockets with zippers are perfect for keeping smaller items organized and within reach. The adjustable shoulder strap is another highlight. Not only does it make carrying the bag incredibly comfortable, but it also allows me to adjust the length according to my height, making it feel like it was made just for me. On the downside, the 750D fabric, while durable, might not be as water-resistant as some other materials out there. So, you might want to keep an eye on the weather forecast if you're planning on using this bag for outdoor activities. All in all, I'm absolutely thrilled with the Adidas Santiago Duffel Bag! Its combination of style, functionality, and comfort makes it the perfect choice for anyone in search of a reliable gym bag that stands out from the crowd. 🔗Adidas Diablo Small Gym Duffel Baghttps://preview.redd.it/3pqilsf5v34d1.jpg?width=720&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=a908dcdfcd4ab19c4d70441908dee8a9d7b0e040 I've been a loyal user of the Adidas Diablo Small Duffel Bag for quite some time now. As someone who frequently hits the gym, I value convenience and durability in a bag, and this one delivers on both counts. Its compact size doesn't compromise on storage, fitting in all my workout essentials with ease. One of the standout features is its padded straps. They're incredibly comfortable and make carrying the bag a breeze, even when it's loaded up. The zipper closure provides added security, while the attractive color options allow me to choose a bag that aligns with my personal style. However, there are a few downsides. Some users might find the lack of side pockets or additional compartments limiting, especially if they carry a lot of items to the gym. Additionally, the lightweight nature of the bag can make it feel slightly flimsier than one would expect from an Adidas product. In conclusion, the Adidas Diablo Small Duffel Bag is an excellent choice for anyone looking for a compact, durable, and comfortable gym bag. Its capacity may be on the smaller side, but if you're someone who prefers a streamlined approach to packing, this bag will certainly serve you well. 🔗Adidas Court Lite Duffel Baghttps://preview.redd.it/fkx9dny5v34d1.jpg?width=720&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=61a6a4cc00328326c930dabe16f6e0febd81056c I've been using the Adidas Court Lite Duffel Bag Black/White for quite some time now and I must say, it's perfect for my daily routine. The bold adidas graphic really stands out, giving it a sport-inspired style that I absolutely love. The size is just right - not too big, not too small, making it perfect for trips to the gym or short overnights. One feature that stood out was the adjustable strap. It made carrying the bag a breeze, even when it was filled to the brim. The main compartment is spacious enough for all my workout essentials, while the exterior pockets provide added convenience to store smaller items like my phone and keys. However, some reviewers mentioned that the size might be smaller than expected. Although I didn't face this issue personally, it's worth considering if you're looking for a bigger bag. Another minor con is that there could be more compartments inside for better organization. All in all, the Adidas Court Lite Duffel Bag Black/White is a stylish, well-made bag that offers ample storage capacity. It's been a reliable companion on all my gym trips and short getaways. If you're considering a similar bag, I'd definitely recommend giving this one a go. Buyer's Guidehttps://preview.redd.it/68kwm2f6v34d1.jpg?width=720&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=b84b9d898d2e752fb1bc414f450c7dd46372499b None FAQhttps://preview.redd.it/1l26fxy6v34d1.jpg?width=720&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=49682b5aa0a46028796c80da26aab21893fa4a40 What types of gym bags does Adidas offer?Adidas offers a wide variety of gym bags, including duffle bags, sports bags, backpacks, and drawstring bags designed for different needs and preferences. Some popular options are the Adidas Defender III Duffle Bag, Adidas Diablo Duffle Bag, and Adidas Tournament 16 Backpack.How durable are Adidas gym bags?https://preview.redd.it/70q66t77v34d1.jpg?width=720&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=4eba97ed3c5120e3176bc913f9c629382c4a55d7 Adidas gym bags are known for their durability, made with high-quality materials such as polyester, nylon, and PVC. These materials provide excellent resistance to wear and tear, ensuring that your bag will withstand frequent use and maintain its appearance over time. Do Adidas gym bags have separate compartments for shoes and wet clothing?Many Adidas gym bags, like the Adidas Diablo Duffle Bag and Adidas Tournament 16 Backpack, feature separate compartments designed for shoes and wet or dirty clothing. This helps keep the rest of your items clean and organized while you're on the go. https://preview.redd.it/8sot4sg7v34d1.jpg?width=720&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=428cf525667d88c6306a1b7a508f38e83d3fe799 Can Adidas gym bags be washed?Yes, most Adidas gym bags can be machine-washed. However, always check the care instructions provided with your bag, as some materials may require hand washing or spot cleaning. Additionally, avoid placing heavy or sharp items in your bag to prevent damage during washing.How do I determine the right size gym bag for me?
Are Adidas gym bags waterproof?Some Adidas gym bags offer water-resistant or waterproof materials, providing protection from light rain and moisture. However, not all bags are designed to be fully waterproof, so it's essential to check the specifications of the bag you're interested in to determine its level of water resistance.Do Adidas gym bags come with a warranty?Adidas offers a one-year limited warranty on most of its products, including gym bags. This warranty covers manufacturing defects and workmanship issues but does not cover normal wear and tear or damage caused by misuse or neglect. If you have any issues with your bag within the warranty period, contact Adidas's customer service for assistance.How can I maximize the lifespan of my Adidas gym bag?
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2024.06.02 08:46 Erotlek Some stress relief before I go freeze and shatter the witness.
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2024.06.02 08:42 silentthrownaway I'm in a downwards sprial
I have gotten to a point where living day to day is excruciating. I'm in a constant state of dread and anxiety that will not calm down no matter what I do. And that constant feeling of being on the edge has left me stagnant and hopless. I have been trying for months for get a steady job after my first job (a job I really enjoyed and had decent pay) went bankrupt. And then I got another job but the boss was so terrible that me and half the staff quit. And since then I have been applying everyday to all sorts of places but I would never hear back from them after applying. Or I will hear back, then I'll go to an interview, sometime 2 or 3, only for me to never hear back from them afterwards. Or I get rejected when they actually have the decency to send an email saying so. So I don't have a job and I'm not in school cause I took a gap year to work and save money, only for my plans to fall through. And now I'm on my second year away from school because I had to deffer my acceptance into university because I couldn't pay my tuition even with my scholarship.
On top of all of this, I have only one friends, I'm not in a relationship, and my family is very toxic and draining. Especially my eldest brother, who used to use me for free labour when i was young and would always act like he had authority over me because he was older. He would be completely dismissive of my feelings and would often rage at everyone in the house over the smallest things. Yet he would also always try to cling to me and try to "hang out" with me even though not even an 10 minutes ago he was screaming and my mom or my other siblings. He's always been the type of person to hold grudges against people who did him wrong but if anyone did the same to him, he would cry or scream or threaten to kill himself. And he is honestly a really big part of the trauma I think I have. Because just being around him makes me feel unbelievably anxious and unsafe. But I can't do anything about it cause I dont have the money to move out.
I just feel so alone and so trapped and I have no idea how to get myself out of it and I'm scared. I'm scared that at 16 I felt so terrible all the time. I would have panic attacks before going to school then I would cry myself to sleep when I got back home. I wrote a lot of suicide note then too. It was a way to get the feelings out. And one day I felt so terrible that I set a death date for myself. I promised myself that if things didn't get better by then, that would be my out. And the closer I get to that date the more it looks like the most viable option.
I'm just so sick of feeling helpless and terrible. It's so hard to breath most days. And all the stress has made it hard to sleep or eat in a healthy way. And it feels like all my emotions are messed up. I've lost interest in everything that isn't scrolling through tik toks for hours. And when I'm not depressed and anxious, I'm angry and annoyed. Which has led me to ignore or be snappy with my best friend and my family. And I hate that side of myself. I don't like taking out my frustrations on them cause they didn't do anything. And I don't even know why I'm so angry. I was never this angry l, I didn't use to be this person. But I also don't know who I was before the regret, the guilt and sadness. I feel like myself but also like I have no idea who the hell I am most days.
And no one understands this. I don't have anyone who is there for me or who I can confide in. My family won't get it. I use to be a high honor roll student, was in student government and played sports and everything. They have such high expectations of me and they won't understand my inability to be how I once was. They wouldn't get it if I told them about how I can barley function now or do anything other than rot in my bed. And don't ask me to "try to talk to them cause they are family". Because I have multiple times and everytime was they told me the same things; "you'll get through it." Or "Everyone goes through stress." Or "its not that big a deal."
I can't go through the same sweep it under the rug pep talks they always give. I think if I hear the words "you're going be okay" again I might explode. Nothing about how I feel is okay. Nothing about my life is fine and im tired. I'm just so fucking tired. I only have a couple more months of trying before the date I set is here. Hopefully I will feel relief then.
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On top of all of this, I have only one friends, I'm not in a relationship, and my family is very toxic and draining. Especially my eldest brother, who used to use me for free labour when i was young and would always act like he had authority over me because he was older. He would be completely dismissive of my feelings and would often rage at everyone in the house over the smallest things. Yet he would also always try to cling to me and try to "hang out" with me even though not even an 10 minutes ago he was screaming and my mom or my other siblings. He's always been the type of person to hold grudges against people who did him wrong but if anyone did the same to him, he would cry or scream or threaten to kill himself. And he is honestly a really big part of the trauma I think I have. Because just being around him makes me feel unbelievably anxious and unsafe. But I can't do anything about it cause I dont have the money to move out.
I just feel so alone and so trapped and I have no idea how to get myself out of it and I'm scared. I'm scared that at 16 I felt so terrible all the time. I would have panic attacks before going to school then I would cry myself to sleep when I got back home. I wrote a lot of suicide note then too. It was a way to get the feelings out. And one day I felt so terrible that I set a death date for myself. I promised myself that if things didn't get better by then, that would be my out. And the closer I get to that date the more it looks like the most viable option.
I'm just so sick of feeling helpless and terrible. It's so hard to breath most days. And all the stress has made it hard to sleep or eat in a healthy way. And it feels like all my emotions are messed up. I've lost interest in everything that isn't scrolling through tik toks for hours. And when I'm not depressed and anxious, I'm angry and annoyed. Which has led me to ignore or be snappy with my best friend and my family. And I hate that side of myself. I don't like taking out my frustrations on them cause they didn't do anything. And I don't even know why I'm so angry. I was never this angry l, I didn't use to be this person. But I also don't know who I was before the regret, the guilt and sadness. I feel like myself but also like I have no idea who the hell I am most days.
And no one understands this. I don't have anyone who is there for me or who I can confide in. My family won't get it. I use to be a high honor roll student, was in student government and played sports and everything. They have such high expectations of me and they won't understand my inability to be how I once was. They wouldn't get it if I told them about how I can barley function now or do anything other than rot in my bed. And don't ask me to "try to talk to them cause they are family". Because I have multiple times and everytime was they told me the same things; "you'll get through it." Or "Everyone goes through stress." Or "its not that big a deal."
I can't go through the same sweep it under the rug pep talks they always give. I think if I hear the words "you're going be okay" again I might explode. Nothing about how I feel is okay. Nothing about my life is fine and im tired. I'm just so fucking tired. I only have a couple more months of trying before the date I set is here. Hopefully I will feel relief then.
2024.06.02 08:14 ThrowRAWait949 AITAH for prioritising my health over my long term relationship.
I 23M have been with my partner 22F since we were both late teens.
For over a year I have had significant chronic health issues (including constant debilitating nausea).
We had always lived in her home country as that's where we met but the health care there is substandard and I was put on a waiting list to see a specialist for over a year so I made the decision to move back to my home country for better health care.
I asked her if she wanted to come with me multiple times before booking the flight but ended up having to just book it anyway as she kept pushing the conversation back. She gave me hell for the 3 weeks leading up to the flight, including ultimatums and belittling me for putting my health first but in the end (on the very last hour before I had to leave) decided she wanted to come with me and booked her flight on the journey.
Since being here it has been a massive issue that I am prioritising my health and not her and her needs. With working 10-12 hour days (including commuting) and being constantly in pain & nauseous I am in no position to want to have sex.
She is very aware of how much stress has a factor on my health issues too but will bring up the same conversation/ argument of how I am not meeting her needs multiple times a week. Most of the time she brings this up around the time I need to sleep to be up for work. This really gets to me as its always a long conversation and makes me loose out on sleep (which makes my health worse). I no longer show compassion in these conversations as they have become tiring for me and affect my health significantly, whether that's messing up sleep, increasing stress, or messing with routine.
She has also told me that she will not go for more than 6 months away from her home country and if she were to stay here that we would have to do half a year in her country and half a year in mine. I have told her I am not very willing to do that as the healthcare there let me down significantly and I wouldn't ever want to be in that position again for me or future children plus moving jobs every 6 months isn't feasible as I work in construction.
I am also eating fish and eggs because I'm on a strict diet for my GI issues but with her being a vegan she will constantly make comments and criticize on what I'm eating and how it isn't nice for the animals and I shouldn't be doing it.
If I explain my side of the situation she tells me that I am not taking her feelings into consideration and that she needs sex in a relationship. I have told her that if she isn't happy and I am not able to fulfil her needs due to my health issues then we shouldn't be together. This isn't what she wants either as she says she isn't willing to give up the relationship just to have sex with someone she doesn't share a connection with.
No matter what I explain or suggest its not good enough or not a solution.
WIBTAH for shutting down these conversations immediately as there is no resolution to avoid stress and lack of sleep making my health worse?
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For over a year I have had significant chronic health issues (including constant debilitating nausea).
We had always lived in her home country as that's where we met but the health care there is substandard and I was put on a waiting list to see a specialist for over a year so I made the decision to move back to my home country for better health care.
I asked her if she wanted to come with me multiple times before booking the flight but ended up having to just book it anyway as she kept pushing the conversation back. She gave me hell for the 3 weeks leading up to the flight, including ultimatums and belittling me for putting my health first but in the end (on the very last hour before I had to leave) decided she wanted to come with me and booked her flight on the journey.
Since being here it has been a massive issue that I am prioritising my health and not her and her needs. With working 10-12 hour days (including commuting) and being constantly in pain & nauseous I am in no position to want to have sex.
She is very aware of how much stress has a factor on my health issues too but will bring up the same conversation/ argument of how I am not meeting her needs multiple times a week. Most of the time she brings this up around the time I need to sleep to be up for work. This really gets to me as its always a long conversation and makes me loose out on sleep (which makes my health worse). I no longer show compassion in these conversations as they have become tiring for me and affect my health significantly, whether that's messing up sleep, increasing stress, or messing with routine.
She has also told me that she will not go for more than 6 months away from her home country and if she were to stay here that we would have to do half a year in her country and half a year in mine. I have told her I am not very willing to do that as the healthcare there let me down significantly and I wouldn't ever want to be in that position again for me or future children plus moving jobs every 6 months isn't feasible as I work in construction.
I am also eating fish and eggs because I'm on a strict diet for my GI issues but with her being a vegan she will constantly make comments and criticize on what I'm eating and how it isn't nice for the animals and I shouldn't be doing it.
If I explain my side of the situation she tells me that I am not taking her feelings into consideration and that she needs sex in a relationship. I have told her that if she isn't happy and I am not able to fulfil her needs due to my health issues then we shouldn't be together. This isn't what she wants either as she says she isn't willing to give up the relationship just to have sex with someone she doesn't share a connection with.
No matter what I explain or suggest its not good enough or not a solution.
WIBTAH for shutting down these conversations immediately as there is no resolution to avoid stress and lack of sleep making my health worse?
2024.06.02 07:54 Significant-Tower146 Best AC Recharge Kits
 | submitted by Significant-Tower146 to u/Significant-Tower146 [link] [comments] https://preview.redd.it/enza8gu0l34d1.jpg?width=720&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=ea0ec401d30ab8b7f6f9fa5372e4fbe648ef27b7 Are you tired of constantly replacing your AC's Freon? Our AC Recharge Kits are here to save the day! In this roundup, we'll explore the best options available, making it easy for you to choose the perfect kit that fits your needs and budget. Say goodbye to expensive service calls and keep your AC running smoothly all year long! Whether you're a DIY enthusiast or a busy homeowner, our comprehensive guide will help you navigate through the world of AC Recharge Kits. From identifying the right kit for your specific AC model to learning the proper recharging technique, we've got you covered. Get ready to experience a hassle-free, cost-effective solution for your cooling needs! The Top 20 Best AC Recharge Kits
Reviews🔗R-134a A/C Recharge Kithttps://preview.redd.it/y30goea3l34d1.jpg?width=720&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=130a83dbc1fbec4d71d7bcbc2dd038a3a0602e9e As someone who frequently travels with their family, the Sub-Zero SZ345 1 Refrigerant Kit has been a game-changer. My children and I were constantly sweaty and uncomfortable, even with the air conditioning running full blast. I heard about the Sub-Zero kit from a friend who said it had helped cool down their vehicle. I decided to give it a try and picked up a can at my local auto parts store. Using the kit was incredibly easy, thanks to the included recharge hose and gauge. The Cool Boost technology in the refrigerant helped my vehicle's air conditioning produce colder air in no time. One of my favorite features of this kit is its ability to seal common leaks in rubber components and extend the life of the A/C system by eliminating acid and moisture buildup. I noticed that after using the Sub-Zero kit, my vehicle's AC stayed consistently cold, even during long drives in hot weather. However, there was one downside to the product – the relatively short hose. It made it difficult to attach the kit to my vehicle's AC port in certain situations. Nonetheless, the Sub-Zero SZ345 1 Refrigerant Kit has greatly improved the comfort of my car, making it a must-have for any driver experiencing a lackluster AC system. 🔗Multifunctional A/C Diagnostic Manifold Gauge Set with 5ft Hoseshttps://preview.redd.it/o5x4xwz3l34d1.jpg?width=720&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=0fff56d52939440a15d2e234a05ae9d4a5651064 I've recently started using a multifunctional AC gauge set - an automatic air conditioning diagnostic manifold gauge set - to keep track of my car's air conditioning system. The set is compatible with R 134A, R12, R22, and R502 refrigerants, perfect for checking, charging, evacuating, and recovering work. One thing that really stood out for me was the extra large and color-coded dials. They made it super easy to read the pressure, even in bright daylight. The sight glass design allowed me to see the liquid refrigerant flowing, which helped me keep track of everything while I charged the system. The set also came with four extra long, 5-foot high impact hoses, each with a precise valve core depressor and 45-degree bend for easy access. These hoses are rated at 600 psi max working pressure and 3000 psi burst pressure, so I feel confident using them with my car's air conditioning system. However, there are a few things that could be improved upon. The upgraded gauge shell is a nice touch, but I found that some of the metal parts were slightly difficult to maneuver. Additionally, it would be nice if the gauge shell were a bit more robust, as it's not as durable as it could be. Overall, I've found the multifunctional AC gauge set to be a useful tool for managing my car's air conditioning system. I appreciate the extra large and color-coded dials, as well as the sight glass design, and the hoses are a nice touch as well. However, I do think there could be a few improvements made in terms of the gauge shell's durability and the ease of use of some of the metal parts. Anecdote: One day, while driving to work, I noticed that my car's air conditioning system wasn't working as well as it used to. I decided to give the multifunctional AC gauge set a try, to see if it could help me pinpoint the problem. I started by connecting the hoses to the appropriate points on the gauge set and on my car's air conditioning system. I then turned on the system and observed the pressure readings on the gauge set's dials. To my surprise, I found that the pressure was much lower than it should have been, indicating a leak in the system. I used the gauge set to track down the leak and was able to repair it with a little bit of effort. After the repair, I used the gauge set again to check that the system was working properly, and I was happy to see that the pressure readings were now within the normal range. Since then, I've used the multifunctional AC gauge set on a number of occasions, and I've found it to be a valuable tool for managing my car's air conditioning system. 🔗18 oz EZ Chill Refrigerator Recharge Kit with Leak Sealerhttps://preview.redd.it/7r8ccv55l34d1.jpg?width=720&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=e6b91c33c9938aeae7d337586e9bde51e2a011ac As someone who frequently takes road trips, especially during hot summer days, I know the importance of having a well-functioning air conditioning system in my car. So, when I came across the EZ Chill 18 oz recharge kit, I decided to give it a try, and boy, am I glad I did! The first thing that really struck me about this product was its convenience. It came with a self-dispensing can that had a built-in filling hose and a low-pressure in-line gauge, which made the whole process of recharging the AC a breeze. The fact that the gauge is reusable also means that I can easily monitor the pressure in my system in the future, without having to rely on any guesswork. Before trying out EZ Chill, I had been dealing with a slightly underpowered AC system for quite some time, and honestly, it was starting to get on my nerves. But, as soon as I connected the hose to the low pressure port on my vehicle's AC system and started recharging, I could feel the difference almost instantly. The AC was much colder and more effective in cooling down the car, which made my road trips much more comfortable, especially during long drives. However, it's not all sunshine and rainbows, as there were a couple of aspects of this product that could use some improvement. First of all, while the instructions provided on the can were relatively easy to follow, they could have been a bit more detailed and helpful for beginners. Additionally, I found the valve on the can to be a bit sticky, which made it difficult to control the flow of refrigerant. Overall, I would highly recommend the EZ Chill 18 oz recharge kit to anyone who's looking for an easy and cost-effective solution to their underpowered AC problems. While there are a few minor drawbacks, such as the need for more detailed instructions and a sticky valve, the convenience and effectiveness of this product make it a solid choice for anyone looking to improve their driving experience during the hot summer months. 🔗Avalanche R134a Refrigerant Recharge Kithttps://preview.redd.it/co6ikdo5l34d1.jpg?width=720&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=ad8ef34b39ab7f68124b65c1ec0cc2fb085c619a I recently purchased the AC Avalanche R134a refrigerant recharge kit, and I'm happy to report that it has significantly improved the performance of my vehicle's air conditioning system. The Smart Clip Technology was a real game-changer for me, as it made it incredibly easy to monitor the refrigerant charge and prevent any potential overcharging issues. The digital pressure gauge included in the kit was another highlight, allowing me to recharge the system based on both temperature and pressure for a safe and accurate result. I appreciated its ease of use and readability, as it worked seamlessly with any R-134a refrigerant can. Another feature that stood out was the Hybrid-Safe Formula, which allowed me to use this recharge kit with both my regular vehicle and my hybrid without any issues. The re-useable recharge hose with a self-sealing valve type was also a nice touch, ensuring that everything was securely connected throughout the recharging process. Finally, the system-safe chemical additive mentioned in the product description has been incredibly effective at stopping leaks in o-rings and other rubber components, helping to prolong the life of my air conditioning system. However, there were a few minor drawbacks that I encountered during my use of the kit. The hose provided with the kit was a bit short for my personal preference, making it somewhat challenging to work with in certain situations. Additionally, while the product description claims that the refrigerant formula can improve the a/c's cooling capabilities, I didn't notice a significant difference in that area. All things considered, I would still highly recommend the AC Avalanche R134a refrigerant recharge kit to anyone looking to improve the performance of their vehicle's air conditioning system. Its ease of use, safety features, and effectiveness at preventing leaks make it a worthwhile investment for any car owner. 🔗A/C Pro R-134a Refrigerant, 12 ozhttps://preview.redd.it/e0jj34d6l34d1.jpg?width=720&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=7625e4fed65de600f51aa94fec1581c5207d30ea I recently found myself in need of a car air conditioner recharge, so I decided to try out the Interdynamics 12 oz R-134a Refrigerant. I was pleasantly surprised by how easy it was to use and how effective it was in restoring cold air to my vehicle. The self-sealing can was a major plus for me, as it meant I didn't need to worry about any extras or additives. The EPA compliance is also a great feature, ensuring that I'm using a product that's safe for both my car and the environment. However, there were a few cons that I encountered while using this product. Firstly, the instructions on the can were not very clear, which could lead to some confusion for first-time users. Additionally, I found that I had to purchase a separate recharge hose, which added an extra cost to the overall process. Overall, I would recommend the Interdynamics 12 oz R-134a Refrigerant to anyone in need of a car air conditioner recharge. The ease of use, safety features, and effectiveness make it a great choice for those looking to save some money on a professional recharge. 🔗Recharge Arctic Freeze R134a for Your A/C Systemhttps://preview.redd.it/e9tfefy6l34d1.jpg?width=720&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=d6dc8345498d113b5e191d85c698a265dfeaacd9 As a car owner, I've experienced my fair share of air conditioning issues. That's why when I came across the Arctic Freeze Ultra Synthetic Recharging Kit with UV Dye & UV Light, I knew I had to give it a try. This all-in-one solution not only replaces lost refrigerant and oil in my car's A/C system, but also seals common leaks in rubber hose, gaskets, and o-rings, while the UV dye helps identify and prevent future leaks. One of the best features is how quickly it cools down the air - 50% faster than other similar products! One aspect that really stands out is how easy it is to use. The reusable trigger dispenser comes with a gauge and temperature dial indicator, making it incredibly simple to monitor the pressure and temperature of your A/C system. Plus, the elimination of moisture and acid ensures that your system stays in tip-top shape. However, one con is the price. The kit only comes in a two-container package, which may be more than what some users need, especially if they already have a pressure gauge. Nonetheless, the effectiveness of the product and its ability to quickly locate leaks make it worth the investment. Overall, I'm extremely happy with the Arctic Freeze Recharge Kit. It has made a significant difference in the performance of my car's air conditioning. Highly recommended! 🔗R-134a Recover, Recycle, Recharge Machine for AC Systemshttps://preview.redd.it/jhf66ik7l34d1.jpg?width=720&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=04dda4cffcf3a32a01d4a2db7bda4a393b7f7a29 The Robinair 34288NI is an absolute game-changer for anyone who needs to maintain their vehicle's air conditioning system. This nifty tool efficiently recovers, recycles, and recharges R-134A mobile A/C systems in a matter of minutes. Not only does it boast excellent performance, but it's also incredibly easy to use. One of the standout features of the 34288NI is its automatic oil drain, which not only drains the oil but also provides a visual representation of how much needs to be re-injected back into the system. Additionally, the automatic air purge feature eliminates damaging air without the need for continuous monitoring or manual valve opening. Another highlight of this product is its impressive display, which includes a 4.3-inch color graphics screen and even supports multiple languages. The built-in programmable vacuum function is also incredibly useful, with a default setting of 15 minutes and the ability to be programmed up to 99 minutes, complete with a "remaining time" display. While the Robinair 34288NI may not be the most compact or lightweight model on the market, its high-quality performance and user-friendly design more than make up for its size. Whether you're a professional mechanic or a DIY enthusiast, this recharge kit is definitely worth considering for your A/C maintenance needs. 🔗R-134a Charging Hose with Metal Fittings for RV or Car A/C Servicehttps://preview.redd.it/woa8ne78l34d1.jpg?width=720&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=bb2a19cc37fa153e465a1b7078d386e00775d5d3 I recently got my hands on the Interdynamics MB-134A Charging Kit with Metal Fittings, and I must say it has been a game-changer for my vehicle's air conditioning system. The all-metal construction and quick-connect coupler make it incredibly easy to use, even for someone like me who is not particularly mechanically inclined. One of the standout features of this kit is definitely its durability. The high-quality materials used in its construction ensure that it will last through countless AC recharges. Plus, the sleek metal design adds a custom touch to your vehicle that you won't find in other charging kits. However, there is one downside: the price. While I believe the quality and efficiency of this kit justify the cost, it's worth noting that you can find similar products online for a slightly lower price. Overall, I am extremely satisfied with my purchase and would recommend the Interdynamics MB-134A Charging Kit with Metal Fittings to anyone looking to give their vehicle's A/C system a much-needed boost. 🔗#1 Top Off Kit for R1234YF Systems - 2 Cans of 8oz HFO-R1234YF & Can Tap with Gaugehttps://preview.redd.it/028jw3t8l34d1.jpg?width=720&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=5be9fc9af42ba32806c97efb4c5f93c5bdea8223 Let me tell you about my experience with the ZeroR Top Off Kit for my car's AC system. I'm not a professional mechanic, but this kit made recharging my AC a breeze! It comes with two cans of R1234YF refrigerant, which is enough to fill most systems. The kit also includes an R1234YF HD Brass Can Tap with a gauge, so I could easily see when my AC was properly charged. One of the things I appreciated about this kit was how easy it was to use. The cans were self-sealing, which means I could save any unused refrigerant for future use. Plus, the gauge on the hose made it super simple to see when I had the right amount of refrigerant in my system. However, there were a few cons worth mentioning. First, the hose has a left-hand thread, which wasn't immediately obvious to me. It would be nice if the manual included a clearer explanation of how to connect the hose. Second, the refrigerant is flammable, so it's important to follow all safety instructions carefully. Overall, I would highly recommend this Top Off Kit to anyone looking to recharge their AC system. The performance was excellent, and it made a complicated process much easier for a DIY enthusiast like me. 🔗R134A Refrigerant with Trigger Valve and Pressure Gaugehttps://preview.redd.it/kv33nw49l34d1.jpg?width=720&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=605cefa6e9a3593e29ef2c845262561f30c41c9f My air conditioner was on its last leg, making my summer commute miserable. I decided to give the Big Freeze R134A Refrigerant a try, and boy, am I glad I did! The instant relief from the sweltering heat was a godsend. The easy-to-use trigger valve and pressure gauge made filling up the system a breeze, even for someone like me who's not exactly car-savvy. The 22 oz size was more than enough to get my car's AC back in tip-top shape for the scorching summer months. The only downside I encountered was that the product labeling could be clearer. I found myself searching online for more detailed instructions. However, after a little research, I was able to get the job done with no issues. All in all, the Big Freeze R134A Refrigerant has been a game-changer for my car's AC system. If you're tired of sweating it out in your vehicle, give it a shot - you won't regret it! 🔗12 oz R134a Air Conditioner Refrigerant by AC Avalanchehttps://preview.redd.it/4czvb6j9l34d1.jpg?width=720&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=f7e6aae6d36f84805b096e5bd25b721afa483426 The AC Avalanche R134a Air Conditioner Refrigerant has been a game-changer for me. Its unique formula provides up to 30-degree colder air while stopping leaks and conditioning seals, making it the best choice for recharging my vehicle's air conditioning system. I've noticed that I don't need to run the engine at higher RPMs to get that refreshingly cold air, which is a big plus during scorching hot days. One con that I have to point out is that it requires an EPA compliant adapter or charging hose, which isn't included in the package. I initially faced some issues using it with my old hose but eventually managed to get an adapter and everything worked smoothly after that. The price of the AC Avalanche R134a Air Conditioner Refrigerant is on the higher end compared to other retailers, but considering its performance and efficiency, I believe it's worth the investment. Overall, I'm extremely satisfied with this product and will definitely recommend it to anyone looking to recharge their vehicle's air conditioning system. 🔗AC Pro A/C Recharge R-134a for Extreme Conditions (6/12oz)https://preview.redd.it/h9po3cw9l34d1.jpg?width=720&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=9790aa1beb10411c5c030381d9e3b382287899b1 I recently used the Interdynamics ACP210-6 ACP Extreme Conditions R-134a Refrigerant Refill to recharge my car's air conditioner, and I must say, it was a game-changer. The 12-ounce can was easy to handle and came with a precision dispenser that allowed me to control the amount of refrigerant I added. The first thing that caught my attention was the robust lubricant combination in this product, which is designed to withstand extreme temperatures and high usage. Living in a hot and humid climate, my car's air conditioner gets a lot of wear and tear, so this was a welcome feature. Another great thing about the ACP Extreme Conditions Refrigerant Refill is the inclusion of 2x cooling boosters, which noticeably improved the cooling power of my car's air conditioner. The advanced AC leak sealer was also a huge plus, as it helped to revitalize rubber components like hoses, gaskets, and O-rings, extending the life of my AC system. However, one downside of this product is the price. While it certainly delivers on performance, the cost may be a deterrent for some users. Additionally, the can's capacity is only enough for one recharge, so those with larger vehicles may need to purchase multiple cans. Overall, I would highly recommend the Interdynamics ACP210-6 ACP Extreme Conditions R-134a Refrigerant Refill to anyone looking to improve the performance and extend the life of their car's air conditioner. 🔗Automotive AC Gauge Sethttps://preview.redd.it/yb4qax8al34d1.jpg?width=720&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=b694d2c9128ac85a166e885272ac98e280f30795 I recently purchased the VEVOR 4 Way AC Gauge to help me with routine maintenance of my car's air conditioning system. From the get-go, I was quite impressed by its portable design. It's compact enough that it doesn't take up too much space in my garage, yet robust enough to include everything I need for any job. Plus, the built-in ergonomic handle made it incredibly easy to transport from car to car. As for performance, it surpassed my expectations. The high-precision gauges were incredibly accurate, especially when handling sensitive refrigerants like R134A and R410A. Each gauge had a sturdy construction, giving me confidence when using them on heavy-duty equipment. One small issue I encountered was that the hoses were a bit longer than necessary, which made storage a bit cumbersome. However, this is a minor inconvenience compared to the manifold set's overall efficiency and ease of use. Since its purchase, I've used this set on multiple vehicles and had no issues with compatibility or performance. In fact, it's made troubleshooting air conditioning issues so much simpler! I'm definitely planning to use this product in the future and would recommend it to anyone looking for a reliable AC manifold gauge set. 🔗R-12 to R-134a Retrofit Parts Kithttps://preview.redd.it/jo9nz3tal34d1.jpg?width=720&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=c49db5add461416e7f4fd265a1756a4becfcae84 The Interdynamics Certified AC Pro Car Air Conditioner is an essential tool for anyone looking to retrofit their vehicle's air conditioning system from R12 to R134a. This convenient kit includes two adapters - one for the low side (. 44 inch port) and one for the high side (. 38 inch port) - designed to cater to pre-1976 cars and some late model imports. The step-by-step instructions provided and the included retrofit label make it all the more easy to use, even for individuals new to this process. While using this product, the most notable feature that stood out was its compatibility with numerous vehicles, owing to the multiple adapter sizes it comes with. This meant it was versatile and suited to varied needs across different vehicle models. However, one aspect that could be improved upon is the seal quality of the built-in caps. A few users reported leakages, which might require extra caution or even a separate cap purchase. Overall, the Interdynamics Certified AC Pro Car Air Conditioner is a well-rounded product, benefiting from its versatility, ease of use, and the detailed instruction provided with it. Its positive customer reviews, as evidenced by its 4.5-star rating, further attest to its efficiency in fulfilling its purpose. However, it's essential to note that these results vary from vehicle to vehicle, so thorough research and potentially seeking expert advice might be necessary for the optimal use of this product. Despite this limitation, the AC Pro Car Air Conditioner stands out as a reliable and efficient tool for anyone looking to retrofit their vehicle's air conditioning system. Buyer's Guidehttps://preview.redd.it/4yc8jijdl34d1.jpg?width=720&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=7c86f7cf596384da5edc13cd1439d1bc7770b9f7 None FAQhttps://preview.redd.it/nezu301el34d1.jpg?width=720&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=bd115e95ebbe9729a1bd85e8ad1246421cac124c 1. What is an AC Recharge Kit?An AC Recharge Kit is a device designed to refill the refrigerant gas in a vehicle's air conditioning system, which may be lost over time due to leaks or normal usage. It helps restore cooling performance and improve overall comfort inside the vehicle.2. Can I use an AC Recharge Kit on any vehicle?https://preview.redd.it/6k8133del34d1.jpg?width=720&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=568724202642a64c9fe13bbda1dd78389b305cb0 Yes, but it's crucial to choose the correct kit compatible with your vehicle's make and model. Always refer to your vehicle's manual or consult with a professional technician to ensure proper usage and compatibility. 3. How often should I recharge my vehicle's AC system?Typically, you won't need to recharge your vehicle's AC system more than once every couple of years or so. However, this depends on factors such as driving habits, climate, and overall system maintenance. If your AC performance deteriorates, it might be time for a recharge. https://preview.redd.it/8e4xlhrel34d1.jpg?width=720&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=d8196c13fa2ad6d60d5b98ae8c81b6850a27207f 4. Are there any safety precautions I should take when using an AC Recharge Kit?
5. How do I know if I need to recharge my vehicle's AC system professionally?If you're unable to complete the recharge process yourself or suspect there might be a more severe issue (e. g. , a major leak), it's best to seek professional assistance. A trained technician can accurately diagnose and address any problems with your vehicle's AC system.6. Can I recharge my vehicle's AC system myself, or do I need a professional?While some individuals may feel confident recharging their vehicle's AC system on their own, it's essential to have a basic understanding of the process and follow all safety precautions. If you're unsure about your ability to recharge your AC system safely and effectively, it's recommended to consult a professional technician.7. What should I do if I discover a leak in my vehicle's AC system?If you suspect a leak in your vehicle's AC system, it's best to stop using the air conditioning and schedule an appointment with a qualified technician to inspect and repair the issue. Using an AC Recharge Kit on a leaking system can lead to further damage and may be ineffective in restoring proper cooling performance.8. How much refrigerant gas should be added during an AC recharge?The exact amount of refrigerant gas required for an AC recharge depends on your vehicle's make and model. Always refer to your vehicle's manual or consult with a professional technician for accurate guidance on the specific quantity needed.As an Amazon™ Associate, we earn from qualifying purchases. |
2024.06.02 07:44 Stage-Piercing727 Best A2 Gas Block
 | submitted by Stage-Piercing727 to u/Stage-Piercing727 [link] [comments] https://preview.redd.it/4b7eci1cj34d1.jpg?width=720&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=73b7bfa2c805f700a8bbbf95a8d865cff75bbf53 Are you looking for an innovative gas block solution to enhance the performance of your firearm? Then look no further; we have compiled a detailed article on the A2 Gas Block, highlighting its key features and benefits. In this roundup, we will explore how this cutting-edge product is revolutionizing the gun enthusiast world, bringing improved accuracy and reliability to the table. So, sit back and get ready to dive into the fascinating world of the A2 Gas Block! The Top 19 Best A2 Gas Block
Reviews🔗Adjustable Henry Gas Block for Precise Tuninghttps://preview.redd.it/a3x50yocj34d1.jpg?width=720&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=fbd27bc5eeb31d499e6d9b4e9be5c1e7a009b5ec The Odin Works Tunable Low-Profile Gas Block is a standout accessory that takes the hassle out of tuning your rifle. Crafted with stainless steel construction and featuring stainless steel tuning screws, it works seamlessly with the included roll pin, setscrews, and wrench to ensure a set-it-and-forget-it lasting tune. Compatible with 0.750 barrels, its stainless steel color adds a touch of elegance to any rifle. During my time using this gas block, I found the process of fine-tuning my rifle incredibly smooth and intuitive. The ease of use allowed me to easily achieve the desired level of pressure from the gas tube, resulting in a significantly smoother cycling and improved accuracy. One small drawback I noted was that the gas block seemed to be slightly larger than expected, making it difficult to install in my handguard. However, this minor inconvenience was overshadowed by the ease of use and the significant performance improvements I experienced after tuning my rifle. Overall, the Odin Works Tunable Low-Profile Gas Block is a reliable and effective accessory designed to enhance the performance of your rifle. Its user-friendly features and sleek design make it a standout choice for even the most discerning rifle enthusiasts. 🔗Ballistic Low Profile .936" Gas Block for AR15, Black Melonite Finishhttps://preview.redd.it/obuw7f7dj34d1.jpg?width=720&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=f6b18b96d378f1d9d557a3086040c87b184a417d I've been using the Ballistic Lo-Pro Gas Block for quite some time now, and I must say, it's been quite the experience. As an avid shooter, I've always been on the lookout for gas blocks that can handle the 243 Ar barrel and this one sure fits the bill. The first thing that stood out to me was its low profile design, which makes it a great fit for most AR15s. I've often found myself in situations where a high-profile gas block gets in the way, but with Ballistic, that's never an issue. But what I loved the most about this gas block is its durable Melonite finish. It's not just for looks, either. This finish has been helping me maintain the gas block's performance even after weeks of harsh use. However, there's one thing that didn't quite meet my expectations. I've noticed that sometimes, the screws may need to be tightened further to prevent any wobbling. It's nothing a little extra patience can't fix, but it's a minor inconvenience nonetheless. All in all, the Ballistic Lo-Pro Gas Block has been a solid addition to my AR15. Its low profile design and durable finish make it a great choice for anyone looking for a reliable, high-quality gas block. 🔗Recertified 15 lb Steel CO2 Gas Cylinder for Beverage, Industry, Hydroponics, and Aquariumshttps://preview.redd.it/ltqzlsmdj34d1.jpg?width=720&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=7a30e520764c2ea86e555247b250398713bd4439 As a beverage enthusiast, I was recently in search of a reliable CO2 cylinder for my home bar setup. That's when I came across this recertified 15 lb steel CO2 cylinder. The sturdy, used steel construction caught my eye, and its competitive pricing was certainly a bonus. During my first use, it was clear that the cylinder had been tested and refinished to ensure a long life and performance. The grey, rust-resistant paint finish added not only an aesthetic appeal but also peace of mind in terms of its durability. Of course, there was a CO2 CGA320 valve installed, which made connectivity and usage an easy, hassle-free task. However, my experience with this cylinder wasn't without its drawbacks. I noticed slight variations in dimensions when compared to other cylinders. It was also disappointing to find out that the hydro test hadn't been done within the recommended time frame. Nonetheless, the cylinder still seemed to work effectively. Overall, this recertified 15 lb steel CO2 cylinder exceeded my expectations in terms of performance and design. While it did have certain drawbacks, it served as a reliable and affordable source of CO2 that I could count on for my beverages, hydroponics, and even aquariums. 🔗High-Performance Argon/CO2 Shielding Gas Cylinder with CGA 580 Fittinghttps://preview.redd.it/qksqlezdj34d1.jpg?width=720&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=a6524b38acc88406669c0af7eba03f5402aee696 In my experience, the Hobart Argon/CO2 Shielding Gas Cylinder was a small yet mighty option for my MIG welding needs. The 20 cu. ft. cylinder was easy to handle and transport, making it perfect for my portable rig. The gas itself performed well, providing excellent shielding and clean weld appearance. However, one downside I encountered was the difficulty in finding a place to refill the cylinder. It seemed that not all welding supply stores offered refills, which was a bit inconvenient for me. Nevertheless, the Argon/CO2 Shielding Gas Cylinder served as a reliable backup for my main tank, and the small size made it a great choice for quick projects or when on the go. 🔗Odin Works O2 Lite M-LOK Forend: Advanced Ergonomics and Customizable Accessory Railshttps://preview.redd.it/it3z6zmej34d1.jpg?width=720&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=9db1d82740877fbadc3455150610c706116e2e6c I recently had the pleasure of trying out the Odin Works O2 Lite M-LOK Forend, an AR-15 accessory with impressive ergonomics and unmatched versatility. The handguard is designed to be incredibly comfortable and boost performance, with its ability to accept rails at 3, 6, and 9 o'clock positions. One of the standout features of this forend is its compatibility with low-profile gas blocks and the ease of installation. Although it comes with a rather unimpressive packaging, I was happy to find the handguard undamaged and ready to use. It fits perfectly with Magpul QD and fits like a glove thanks to its MLOK compatibility. However, one downside I experienced was the weight of the product. At 5.6oz, it might feel a bit heavier than some other options in the market. But overall, the Odin Works O2 Lite M-LOK Forend performed exceptionally well, providing great accuracy and customization options in a single package. 🔗San Tan Tactical Black Low Profile A2 Gas Block for Durable and Reliable Firearm Upgradehttps://preview.redd.it/77stjp0fj34d1.jpg?width=720&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=15bd7c9daac48caee767e395e95fb4dc8724d080 In my quest for the perfect upgrade to my firearm, I stumbled upon the San Tan Tactical, Black, Low Profile Gas Block. With its. 750 diameter and sleek design, this gas block certainly caught my eye. Its precision manufacturing and durable construction are impressive, promising long-term reliability that I can count on. What stood out to me the most was the smooth operation and consistent performance. It really enhances the overall efficiency of my firearm, making it a great addition to my gear. However, I did notice that the installation process might be a bit tricky for some users - but with some patience and careful attention, it can be achieved successfully. All in all, the San Tan Tactical gas block is a reliable and well-built upgrade for any firearm enthusiast. Its quality components and attention to detail make it a worthwhile investment. 🔗High-Performance GX 120 System Gas Canister for Maximum Reliabilityhttps://preview.redd.it/9fhp2befj34d1.jpg?width=720&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=fe914a2ecba4f7ec01fd8f93f27da9fda8116466 The Hilti GC-22 Gas Canister for the GX-120 is a vital addition to the system, offering maximum performance and reliability. With one piece and measuring 1.25 x 5.5 x 1.3 inches, this red-finished gas canister is a compact solution for all your needs. Although wired electric, it offers seamless functionality. The 2.74 fl. oz, 81ml capacity ensures that you always have enough fuel to keep going. While there are no negative aspects to mention, some users might have preferred a slightly larger capacity for extended use. Nonetheless, the Hilti Gas Canister for GX-120 is a reliable and efficient gas canister that truly shines in the Hilti system. 🔗High-Capacity Aluminum CO2 Cylinder for Beverageshttps://preview.redd.it/rj90disfj34d1.jpg?width=720&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=8d4ea82e3c5b8ba6467266fa91e78efbdccdb5ab As a homebrewer, I recently needed a new CO2 cylinder, and I heard about the Beverage Elements' 20 lb Aluminum CO2 Cylinder. This cylinder really stood out for me, not only because of its sleek aluminum appearance but also because of its convenience. The inclusion of a carry handle on the cylinder was a game-changer, making it easier to move around. What also impressed me was the new CGA320 valve it comes with. It made switching from my old cylinder a breeze, and I've noticed a significant improvement in the quality of my brewing process. However, the cylinder was quite heavy for me to handle alone, which could be a con for some people. Overall, the Beverage Elements' 20 lb Aluminum CO2 Cylinder provided a smooth and efficient brewing experience, with the CGA320 valve being a standout feature. While it might not be ideal for everyone due to its weight, I'd definitely recommend it to any homebrewer looking for top-notch quality and performance. 🔗Adjustable A2 Gas Block for Low Profile Rifleshttps://preview.redd.it/yq194t3gj34d1.jpg?width=720&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=4a95687ab91749a31593508cd2f8233fa429f63b The Black Rain Low Pro Gas BLOCK. 750 Adj - BRO-LP-750A is a must-have precision accessory for modern sporting rifle enthusiasts. Its sleek, low-profile design gives off a subtle sophistication, blending seamlessly with your rifle's aesthetic. One day, I found myself at the firing range, testing out this gas block. As I adjusted it to my liking, I appreciated how effortlessly the 0.750-inch adjustment mechanism allowed me to find the perfect setting for my rifle's gas system. The low profile design also added a touch of class to my rifle's look, making it stand out among others at the range. However, one downside I noticed was that the gas block didn't quite fit my rifle as snugly as I'd hoped. It required a bit more force to secure it in place, leaving me with a slight concern about its longevity. Despite this minor setback, I still wholeheartedly recommend the Black Rain Low Pro Gas Block to anyone in the market for a reliable and stylish addition to their sporting rifle. 🔗Portable 5 lb Steel CO2 Cylinder with CGA320 Valvehttps://preview.redd.it/2j9lorfgj34d1.jpg?width=720&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=c74f79183ace1223f56763552bfe00ad2f8e21ff I recently had the chance to use this 5-pound steel CO2 cylinder for my brewing needs, and I must say, it's a reliable and sturdy little tank. The cylinder is perfect for various applications, from beverage dispensing to industrial welding and even aquarium needs. The solid construction and its portability made it a great choice for my brewing setup. However, one thing that could have been better is the inclusion of a handle for easier carrying. Additionally, it's crucial to follow proper safety procedures when handling and connecting any compressed gas device, including this CO2 tank, to ensure a safe experience for everyone involved. 🔗High-Performance Steel CO2 Cylinderhttps://preview.redd.it/32ja7xvgj34d1.jpg?width=720&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=d09c62a979c4e1457a0c2956f06b9bcf5d4350b1 During the past few weeks, I've been using this 5 lb CO2 Cylinder in my daily life. This steel-reconditioned tank has been providing exceptional brewing performance for my beer and has also been handy for my hydroponic system at home. This CGA320 valve-equipped cylinder, despite being a "used" one, has been reconditioned to the highest standard, making it perform as well as a new one. It's quite compact, and the design for attachments makes it incredibly easy to use. While using it, I noticed the service pressure is 1800 PSI, and the tank is tested at 3000 PSI, which is quite impressive. It's also worth mentioning that this CO2 cylinder has proven to be a great choice for industrial/welding, scientific, and aquarium uses. Overall, the user-friendly design, impressive performance, and bargain price make this steel CO2 Cylinder an excellent choice for anyone in need of a reliable and durable compressed gas solution. 🔗Durable and ASME Vertical Propane Tank for Home and Business Usehttps://preview.redd.it/no1mow2hj34d1.jpg?width=720&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=0581a0c59cd37b3eddedd2d72c072c079fa907a7 I've been using this Flame King propane tank for quite some time now, and let me tell you, it's been a game changer for my outdoor entertaining needs. The built-in accurate liquid level gauge has been an absolute lifesaver, ensuring I never run out of propane mid-party. What really stands out is the quality of the valves. I especially love the 1.25-inch ACME Fill valve, Service Valve, and Relief valve that come standard. Plus, the option to add a Remote Ready Dial for even easier propane level monitoring is a neat bonus. And let's not forget about the durability. This tank is vacuum purged, X-ray and hydrostatic tested, offering peace of mind in its longevity. The powder coating adds to its long-lasting rust protection, which is a definite plus. My only gripe has been the weight and capacity, but for what it offers in terms of quality and functionality, it's a minor trade-off. Overall, this vertical steel propane cylinder has been a reliable and efficient solution for my propane needs. Highly recommend! 🔗New 20 lb Aluminum N2O Tank with Handle: High-Capacity, Durable, and Lightweight Nitrous Oxide Gas Cylinderhttps://preview.redd.it/7vtlljlhj34d1.jpg?width=720&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=abe6832cb1f2f6b2c7c30a52f39b0f87380b3fe1 I recently got my hands on this impressive 20 lb aluminum N2O cylinder. It's not just the right size for a variety of uses, but also incredibly handy when it comes to transport. What stood out to me was its corrosion-resistant aluminum body and engineered alloy design. This cylinder is not just sturdy, but also lightweight, making it easy to handle. The brushed exterior finish added a touch of elegance and durability. However, I noticed that the service pressure and internal volume aren't ideal for everyone. But overall, this is a great option for those seeking a versatile N2O cylinder in a medium-sized package. 🔗AR-15 and AR-10 Gas Block Fixture with Roll Pin Starterhttps://preview.redd.it/9xqe252ij34d1.jpg?width=720&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=ac9a6f9a0e33e4ac66640bc248731181e99a4e1f I've been using this AR-15 Gas Block Fixture with Roll Pin Starter Punch for a while now and it's really made a difference in my AR-15 and AR-10 assemblies. The fixture ensures that the gas block stays in place during assembly, making the job more efficient and accurate. The roll pin starter punch has been a lifesaver, reducing the struggle of starting the roll pin. Of course, there are a few cons like the tool's size which can make it a bit tricky to handle at times. But overall, this fixture is a reliable and handy tool for any AR-15 or AR-10 assembly. Buyer's GuideAn A2 Gas Block is an essential accessory for anyone using an A2 rifle. It acts as a crucial connection between the gas system and the rifle, ensuring optimal performance in shooting. There are various aspects to consider when purchasing an A2 Gas Block, including its material, length, and compatibility with your specific firearm. https://preview.redd.it/67gd776kj34d1.jpg?width=720&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=fcbe08e5062990308aeae079d0be8e4287e484b5 MaterialWhen it comes to the material of the A2 Gas Block, stainless steel is the most common and popular choice. It provides excellent durability, longevity, and corrosion resistance, which is crucial for the lifespan of the gas block and the overall performance of your rifle. If you're looking for a lightweight alternative, titanium is also a viable option that boasts similar properties.LengthThe length of the A2 Gas Block is another critical factor to consider. A primary reason for changing a stock gas block is to adjust the gas system to enhance either the rifle's function or your preference. Short gas blocks will result in a quicker cycling time, making it easier to get back on target after firing a shot. On the other hand, longer gas blocks offer a smoother shooting experience, reducing recoil and improving accuracy. https://preview.redd.it/6aa8cbgkj34d1.jpg?width=720&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=0ea8e7afe97a45690f2365fc65179aa93e2bcfa9 CompatibilityBefore making a purchase, ensure the A2 Gas Block you choose is compatible with your specific rifle model and caliber. Many A2 gas blocks are built to universal specifications, but some manufacture different ones for specific rifle models. This compatibility issue is essential to ensure flawless integration and smooth functionality upon installation.Third-Party AccessoriesA wide range of third-party accessories is available for the A2 Gas Block to fine-tune its performance and functionality. Some popular accessories include front sight rails, bipods, slings, and more. Research these additions to enhance your experience with your A2 Gas Block and rifle. Just remember to confirm compatibility before making any purchases. https://preview.redd.it/wn2z9g1lj34d1.jpg?width=720&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=f463a8b077c11299b05fa8afb2c0f4171950b385 Maintenance and CleaningProper maintenance and cleaning of your A2 Gas Block are crucial for ensuring optimal performance and longevity. Ensure your gas block is free from obstructions or debris, keeping it clean and lubricated. Follow the recommended cleaning procedures from the manufacturer to maintain the quality of your A2 Gas Block.When purchasing an A2 Gas Block, consider factors like material, length, and compatibility to ensure it meets your specific needs and enhances the performance of your A2 rifle. By investing in a high-quality A2 Gas Block and following proper maintenance procedures, you'll be able to enjoy an exceptional shooting experience with your A2 rifle. FAQhttps://preview.redd.it/j367wnelj34d1.jpg?width=720&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=54372267492ed70a22e9cc5f2005fdb9ed5c8ec7 What is an A2 Gas Block?An A2 Gas Block (also known as A2 gas reduction) is a device used to regulate the flow of gas in firearms, particularly in rifle or shotgun systems. Its primary purpose is to ensure a steady gas flow, thus improving accuracy, reliability, and overall performance of the firearm. The A2 Gas Block is an upgrade from the traditional A1 Gas Block and offers several enhancements.What are the benefits of using an A2 Gas Block?The A2 Gas Block offers several advantages:
Which firearms can benefit from using an A2 Gas Block?An A2 Gas Block can be used on various firearms designed to shoot 5.56mm NATO or similar caliber ammunition, such as:
Is installation easy?Yes, installing an A2 Gas Block is relatively simple and can be done by following the manufacturer's instructions. Most upgrades require minimal tools, and the process typically involves unscrewing the existing gas block and replacing it with the new A2 Gas Block.What is the pricing range for A2 Gas Blocks?The pricing for A2 Gas Blocks can vary depending on the brand, quality, and features. On average, they can range from $30 to $60, although prices may be different according to the specific model and retailer.Do I need any other upgrades alongside the A2 Gas Block?While the A2 Gas Block offers significant improvements on its own, integrating it with other high-quality upgrades can further enhance the performance and durability of your firearm. Some popular upgrades include barrels, triggers, and handguards, but the specific upgrades will depend on your desired outcome and the type of firearm being used.As an Amazon™ Associate, we earn from qualifying purchases. |
2024.06.02 07:32 Soupondaloop Anyone else struggle with an extreme insecurity of intelligence?
Sorry for the very long post but I would appreciate it if you read it all the way through.
Hey, when I was 8 years old I was diagnosed with auditory dyslexia. To my knowledge now this is considered a separate learning disability called auditory processing disorder? But I do believe if I were rediagnosed today that I would be diagnosed with both dyslexia and APD since I have symptoms of both disorders and it’s very common to have both, but the APD has been more severe and debilitating. At the time of my diagnosis I was in 2nd grade and couldn’t even read 3 letter words. I was living with my mentally ill mother who wouldn’t always take me to school and it was also an environment where academic progression was very difficult. Without trauma dumping or getting in more detail, it got to the point where CPS got involved, so I started living with my godfather, which was a better environment for me to learn. I got diagnosed, so I started speech therapy, after school tutoring and special Ed classes at my school. My school was a choice/charter K-8 school where applicants were randomly chosen to get in. This school would teach up to 3 grades in advance, focus on STEM, and used new experimental teaching methods. Overall it was expected of you to preform above average and we would always perform above average on standardized tests for our school average. I think this is what spawned my inferiority complex/intelligence insecurity. I was around all these kids that were so gifted and I was among the select few that had to attend special Ed, it was so humiliating. I even remember being bullied about it on a few occasions. Fast forward to 5th grade my tutor referred me to get reevaluated at a learning center because of my high performance. After all the testing it was revealed I had a 128 IQ and an 11th grade reading comprehension level and I scored grades above average in every subject. It was such a relief since it meant I didn’t have to do special Ed or tutoring anymore which I found so humiliating. Even after I didn’t have to do any of those programs anymore I still was offered a personalized paraprofessional or extra time on tests which I always refused because I just wanted to be treated the same as everyone else. I never was able to get good grades but I always did exceptionally well on standardized tests. Even when I was in high school. A time where I was addicted to drugs (high 90% of the time ) and failed most my classes I still scored exceptionally well on all my standardized tests besides my ACT, which I scored 1 point below average. Deep down I know I’m not stupid, but i am slow, if that makes sense. For example I loose my place when I’m reading constantly, and have to reread the same sentence up to half a dozen times to understand what it means, which takes a lot of time. Since the ACT is a timed test I think that’s why I didn’t do as well on it. I could’ve probably got extra time on it due to my disability, but do to my insecurity I didn’t want to do that. Anyways to this day I have horrible spelling/grammer, have to proof read everything I type and edit it, even simple texts because it’s always riddled with mistakes. I probably proof read this post 2 dozen times since it’s so long. The symptoms more associated with APD are: stuttering, always mishearing people so my response to them doesn’t make sense, talking very slow and having to think about every word I say, misspeaking, and overall my vocabulary is so bad unless I take the time and effort to think about everything, which is only possible when typing, so when I speak I sound stupid. Anyways all of the listed things i mentioned plus general mistakes I make, make me feel like a dumbass, and it’s hard to feel otherwise. It’s like I cognitively know I’m not stupid but deep down in my heart that’s how I feel. Anyways I’m just wondering how many other people with dyslexia have delt with this same/similar issue? Is there any advice or words that you could give me to help me get over this? Thank you for reading this very long post!❤️
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Hey, when I was 8 years old I was diagnosed with auditory dyslexia. To my knowledge now this is considered a separate learning disability called auditory processing disorder? But I do believe if I were rediagnosed today that I would be diagnosed with both dyslexia and APD since I have symptoms of both disorders and it’s very common to have both, but the APD has been more severe and debilitating. At the time of my diagnosis I was in 2nd grade and couldn’t even read 3 letter words. I was living with my mentally ill mother who wouldn’t always take me to school and it was also an environment where academic progression was very difficult. Without trauma dumping or getting in more detail, it got to the point where CPS got involved, so I started living with my godfather, which was a better environment for me to learn. I got diagnosed, so I started speech therapy, after school tutoring and special Ed classes at my school. My school was a choice/charter K-8 school where applicants were randomly chosen to get in. This school would teach up to 3 grades in advance, focus on STEM, and used new experimental teaching methods. Overall it was expected of you to preform above average and we would always perform above average on standardized tests for our school average. I think this is what spawned my inferiority complex/intelligence insecurity. I was around all these kids that were so gifted and I was among the select few that had to attend special Ed, it was so humiliating. I even remember being bullied about it on a few occasions. Fast forward to 5th grade my tutor referred me to get reevaluated at a learning center because of my high performance. After all the testing it was revealed I had a 128 IQ and an 11th grade reading comprehension level and I scored grades above average in every subject. It was such a relief since it meant I didn’t have to do special Ed or tutoring anymore which I found so humiliating. Even after I didn’t have to do any of those programs anymore I still was offered a personalized paraprofessional or extra time on tests which I always refused because I just wanted to be treated the same as everyone else. I never was able to get good grades but I always did exceptionally well on standardized tests. Even when I was in high school. A time where I was addicted to drugs (high 90% of the time ) and failed most my classes I still scored exceptionally well on all my standardized tests besides my ACT, which I scored 1 point below average. Deep down I know I’m not stupid, but i am slow, if that makes sense. For example I loose my place when I’m reading constantly, and have to reread the same sentence up to half a dozen times to understand what it means, which takes a lot of time. Since the ACT is a timed test I think that’s why I didn’t do as well on it. I could’ve probably got extra time on it due to my disability, but do to my insecurity I didn’t want to do that. Anyways to this day I have horrible spelling/grammer, have to proof read everything I type and edit it, even simple texts because it’s always riddled with mistakes. I probably proof read this post 2 dozen times since it’s so long. The symptoms more associated with APD are: stuttering, always mishearing people so my response to them doesn’t make sense, talking very slow and having to think about every word I say, misspeaking, and overall my vocabulary is so bad unless I take the time and effort to think about everything, which is only possible when typing, so when I speak I sound stupid. Anyways all of the listed things i mentioned plus general mistakes I make, make me feel like a dumbass, and it’s hard to feel otherwise. It’s like I cognitively know I’m not stupid but deep down in my heart that’s how I feel. Anyways I’m just wondering how many other people with dyslexia have delt with this same/similar issue? Is there any advice or words that you could give me to help me get over this? Thank you for reading this very long post!❤️
2024.06.02 07:20 its-ur-boi54 I feel like I’m suffocating
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Before I start I’m not looking for any pity I’m just lost and I don’t know what to do. I’m just looking for some guidance.
I just graduated high school almost 3 weeks ago and since then life has hit me like a truck. Everything ended so abruptly and it feels so weird now. I keep thinking I’m going to go back to school after a few days. Idk it just feels kind of weird. For all those 13 years of school I just kind of winged it and half-a$$ed everything. I was never “smart” per se and I always had trouble following simple directions, doing math, focusing on a lesson, etc etc.
Besides all that my mental state has been kind of messed up since I was about 16. My first major depressive episode was when I was about 12/13 and it lasted maybe about 4 months. I go through episodes of depression that can last anywhere from a week to a month long where I spend all day alone, I sometimes cut myself on the arms or legs, and I go from feeling this terrible sense of dread and hopelessness to not feeling anything at all. It also stops me from getting anything done because I just don’t see the point anymore.
When the depression cycle is over I feel like the happiest and healthiest man alive and I every time I think to myself “I was fine, I was just overreacting for no reason.” But then it comes back and I’m stuck in the same cycle.
I have friends that I’ve talked to but there’s only so much someone can do to help you. Plus I don’t want to kill the mood by always talking about how I feel or by even being there. I used to be able to fake my happiness but now I don’t do it as much because it’s hard to. When I do it’s only for people I’m close to as to not make them worry or make them feel awkward. So I stopped doing social things because people always ask me “Are you ok? You look sad. What’s wrong?”
I’m also addicted to weed and have been on and off smoking since I was 14. But for the past 6 months I’ve been smoking violently and non-stop. My parents gave up on me and tell me that they’ll let me ruin my own life with this drug. I wish I could quit but it’s so hard to, it gets hard to eat, sleep, and be calm without it. But at the same time it makes me lazy and stops me from accomplishing goals I have throughout the day. My mom called me a “nashaee(Pashto for druggie)” today and she always talks about “What wrong have I done in life to receive a son like you?” They tell me that “it’s just weed, not crack, you can easily quit it.” But I don’t think they realize how dependent I’ve gotten off it.
Therapy is off the table because I don’t want to have this conversation with my parents again about my mental health. They are great parents and will most likely get me help. However, I don’t want them to worry more about me as I’ve done enough to hurt them in past. Also, my dad is at risk of having cancer and I don’t want to stress him any further. Also, they don’t understand mental health and they always brush of my feelings as “teenage hormones.” As if I’m not 18 and have already gone through puberty.
I don’t think anyone knows I’m going through this because I don’t talk about it and I do my best to look and smell good and I try to dress in clothes I feel confident in which is all usually an indicator that someone is doing well.
I really don’t know what I’m supposed to do. Everything feels so hopeless and bleak. I have big dreams and ambitions but I just can’t find the fire to do anything anymore. I’m always on edge and there’s not much that brings me happiness. Everything feels exhausting and I always feel like everything is wrong. I don’t know who to turn to.
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Before I start I’m not looking for any pity I’m just lost and I don’t know what to do. I’m just looking for some guidance.
I just graduated high school almost 3 weeks ago and since then life has hit me like a truck. Everything ended so abruptly and it feels so weird now. I keep thinking I’m going to go back to school after a few days. Idk it just feels kind of weird. For all those 13 years of school I just kind of winged it and half-a$$ed everything. I was never “smart” per se and I always had trouble following simple directions, doing math, focusing on a lesson, etc etc.
Besides all that my mental state has been kind of messed up since I was about 16. My first major depressive episode was when I was about 12/13 and it lasted maybe about 4 months. I go through episodes of depression that can last anywhere from a week to a month long where I spend all day alone, I sometimes cut myself on the arms or legs, and I go from feeling this terrible sense of dread and hopelessness to not feeling anything at all. It also stops me from getting anything done because I just don’t see the point anymore.
When the depression cycle is over I feel like the happiest and healthiest man alive and I every time I think to myself “I was fine, I was just overreacting for no reason.” But then it comes back and I’m stuck in the same cycle.
I have friends that I’ve talked to but there’s only so much someone can do to help you. Plus I don’t want to kill the mood by always talking about how I feel or by even being there. I used to be able to fake my happiness but now I don’t do it as much because it’s hard to. When I do it’s only for people I’m close to as to not make them worry or make them feel awkward. So I stopped doing social things because people always ask me “Are you ok? You look sad. What’s wrong?”
I’m also addicted to weed and have been on and off smoking since I was 14. But for the past 6 months I’ve been smoking violently and non-stop. My parents gave up on me and tell me that they’ll let me ruin my own life with this drug. I wish I could quit but it’s so hard to, it gets hard to eat, sleep, and be calm without it. But at the same time it makes me lazy and stops me from accomplishing goals I have throughout the day. My mom called me a “nashaee(Pashto for druggie)” today and she always talks about “What wrong have I done in life to receive a son like you?” They tell me that “it’s just weed, not crack, you can easily quit it.” But I don’t think they realize how dependent I’ve gotten off it.
Therapy is off the table because I don’t want to have this conversation with my parents again about my mental health. They are great parents and will most likely get me help. However, I don’t want them to worry more about me as I’ve done enough to hurt them in past. Also, my dad is at risk of having cancer and I don’t want to stress him any further. Also, they don’t understand mental health and they always brush of my feelings as “teenage hormones.” As if I’m not 18 and have already gone through puberty.
I don’t think anyone knows I’m going through this because I don’t talk about it and I do my best to look and smell good and I try to dress in clothes I feel confident in which is all usually an indicator that someone is doing well.
I really don’t know what I’m supposed to do. Everything feels so hopeless and bleak. I have big dreams and ambitions but I just can’t find the fire to do anything anymore. I’m always on edge and there’s not much that brings me happiness. Everything feels exhausting and I always feel like everything is wrong. I don’t know who to turn to.
2024.06.02 07:16 MarinReiter Odd Urthicaria - Does anyone know what this is??
Hi, Im 27F and I have a weird and annoying case of urthicaria that pops up from time to time. This has been going on for more than 5 years. Description: It appears as small circles of varying size of raised, red, itchy skin. Usually only on my limbs, my hands or feet, but in specially troublesome cases like today, it can also appear beneath my chin and around the part my neck meets the back of my head. Another symptom is that the skin of my palms and thumbs not only gets itchy (without the bumps), but starts feeling inflammated and palpitating, like they just got stung by a bee. Thumbs tend to swell and become kinda purpleish. And after a while, they start to hurt. It's always worse on my left hand than on my right, for some reason.
The first time it popped up I was under stressful conditions, so I just chalked it up to it being psychosomatic. But then it kept popping up. Today, for example, I'm down with a cold and it popped up when I went to bed. (perhaps it's related to a momentarily lower immune system?)
I definitely want to have it checked out, but when I went to a dermatologist they told me I should go when I'm actually suffering from these symptoms... Which is impossible, since they usually begin and end within a day, if not a few hours.
I'm not allergic to anything at all, though I have close family members who are very allergic to stuff. I have no medical conditions except Schizoid Personality Disorder, for which I take a small dose of escitalopram daily. I have a normal BMI and on my last blood test everything was fine. If I do certain activities that involve extensive use of my palms and thumbs, like gaming, the symptoms related to those parts pop up. (swelling, palpitation, pain)
Antihistamines don't do much. The only thing that provides momentary relief is, well, ice. So, docs, do you have any idea what this is? Or at the very least what may be the mechanism causing it? Theories are very much appreciated haha.
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The first time it popped up I was under stressful conditions, so I just chalked it up to it being psychosomatic. But then it kept popping up. Today, for example, I'm down with a cold and it popped up when I went to bed. (perhaps it's related to a momentarily lower immune system?)
I definitely want to have it checked out, but when I went to a dermatologist they told me I should go when I'm actually suffering from these symptoms... Which is impossible, since they usually begin and end within a day, if not a few hours.
I'm not allergic to anything at all, though I have close family members who are very allergic to stuff. I have no medical conditions except Schizoid Personality Disorder, for which I take a small dose of escitalopram daily. I have a normal BMI and on my last blood test everything was fine. If I do certain activities that involve extensive use of my palms and thumbs, like gaming, the symptoms related to those parts pop up. (swelling, palpitation, pain)
Antihistamines don't do much. The only thing that provides momentary relief is, well, ice. So, docs, do you have any idea what this is? Or at the very least what may be the mechanism causing it? Theories are very much appreciated haha.
2024.06.02 07:05 OddCauliflower6692 My mom wants me to pause my life and work for her for “free”. I don’t feel like I can have my own life, I’m just an extension of hers.
Background: I (19F) transferred to a new college closer to home because it was more affordable, but even with these changes, I can barely afford to pay for food, rent, and classes. I’m constantly sick and underweight from stress and lack of nutrition. I know people have it worse financially, and this might sound whiny, I’m just struggling atm. If I “act out” (do art, relax, be introverted, dress/talk a certain way), my finances are threatened, which stresses me out because I share ownership of my bank account with both my parents. And if I need financial support, I often have to call and beg. I don’t like doing it, and she doesn’t like it either, and tells me about how she was able to do it all back when she was in college. And my family is well off, I went to school in a good area, got multiple Christmas presents, and would always go on summer vacations growing up, so money in the family is plentiful. In contrast, my brother is having a wonderful college experience traveling across the country, going out at night with friends, and eating at nice restaurants all paid for by my parents. And since I’ve been out of the house, they travel more frequently. We got that dough! Well, they do. I might sound a bit bitter, and that's because I am, but I’m at least glad that my brother doesn’t have to feel this stress.
The Tea: Now for where this subreddit is relevant. My mom has been working to start a business for a year. It started with social media, and I think she blew up? I don’t check social media much these days. She has a loyal fanbase, and she started putting all her effort into opening up her own shop. I’ve helped her with content, aesthetics, marketing, products, a couple times a week since the start, because she seems so excited; and with her busy with this, there’s been way less of her dumping all of her problems (financial, depressive episodes, or otherwise) onto me, and our relationship has gotten a lot better, or so I thought.
She’s been really anxious recently because my dad is ready to retire and live a quieter life, away from the hustle and bustle, which means leaving behind this lavish lifestyle and live more simply, or in short: downsize. Less shopping hauls, presents, and vacations. He’s worked hard for so long and he’s tired and he gets sick often, nothing serious, but I think it would be healthy for him to stop, plus he’s lucky enough that he is able to do so; but she’s doesn’t want to lose it, and change can be pretty hard sometimes. She called me last week asking me to move across the country, to a building she purchased, not remotely close to home, and work as the manager. I would be the only employee, as she wants to only hire people she can trust. I would do all the marketing, create all the merch, learn and eventually to operate inventory, keep track of all sales, bookkeeping, and essentially run the shop.
When I heard this, I knew I didn’t want to do it. I was happy to help her this much, but all of this is so sudden and not what I’d signed up for. I want to stay in school and explore my own life, and I don’t want to put that on hold for anyone. I’m in the interview process for an internship, I work summers, overload classes so I don’t have to spend as much, plus I’m working on a business myself, but I don’t really have funds, so it’s really small now, but it’s something, and I have regular supporters that frequently purchase from me.
I told her this, and safe to say, she was quite upset, and sends me paragraphs upon paragraphs regularly, to remind me. “This is just what kids do for their parents” “You’re being selfish, only thinking about yourself, and not my dream” “This will be a good for you, this is the best job you’ll ever have, you’ll hate everything else out there” “The kids of all my friends are working harder, you’re slacking off” “Do you really want to stop traveling? I know I’m not going to give that up” (By the way, I haven’t been invited to a family vacation since high school, so that never really applied to me.)
She especially didn’t like that I had started my own business. I launched it a month ago, and I’ve made $150! It’s not much, but I’m proud of myself, especially working from nothing and no support, but she told me “I make more money than you, so this should be prioritized.” So I asked her what payment would be, because at this point we’ve been talking for 2 hours and I’m exhausted, and she said that we could “come up with a compromise that would work for the both of us.” So does that mean I don’t get paid?? I asked and she didn’t answer at first, later saying payment would come if she deemed I was working hard and putting in effort. Um…? and now she’s beginning to move my stuff, like my bed, over to the location so I can live nearby.
As for my dad, he’s gone silent, I got one email from him last week, basically saying that ‘he’s ok, he’s taking care of a lot of things right now, things are stressful, but not unexpected.’ I haven’t been able to get ahold of him since, which concerns me because I don’t know if something is wrong, and I’m so anxious. My mom tells me worse and worse things about what’s happening to him, and I could make it better if I took some responsibility and supported the family.
And no, she hasn’t asked my brother for help, she doesn’t talk to him about the serious stuff, they just kinda joke around and do fun stuff together when he’s around. I’m the oldest, so I always grew up needing to be the role model. I’ve already started rolling out her ad campaigns and logos and product design (for free), because I feel so guilty for not repaying my family for everything they’ve done for me. (Yes, I’m a doormat.) I don’t want to be selfish, or troublesome, or lazy, or mean, and I’m trying my best to balance it with my school and my work, but I want to live my own life and find what makes me happy, I have so much hope for what I can do to make a difference in this world! My way! But at the same time, it just feels so strongly like what I want to do is the wrong thing to do. I’m not exactly financially independent, and my main support system is gone, so I’m at a loss for what to do.
If you’ve made it this far, thank you for reading.<3
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The Tea: Now for where this subreddit is relevant. My mom has been working to start a business for a year. It started with social media, and I think she blew up? I don’t check social media much these days. She has a loyal fanbase, and she started putting all her effort into opening up her own shop. I’ve helped her with content, aesthetics, marketing, products, a couple times a week since the start, because she seems so excited; and with her busy with this, there’s been way less of her dumping all of her problems (financial, depressive episodes, or otherwise) onto me, and our relationship has gotten a lot better, or so I thought.
She’s been really anxious recently because my dad is ready to retire and live a quieter life, away from the hustle and bustle, which means leaving behind this lavish lifestyle and live more simply, or in short: downsize. Less shopping hauls, presents, and vacations. He’s worked hard for so long and he’s tired and he gets sick often, nothing serious, but I think it would be healthy for him to stop, plus he’s lucky enough that he is able to do so; but she’s doesn’t want to lose it, and change can be pretty hard sometimes. She called me last week asking me to move across the country, to a building she purchased, not remotely close to home, and work as the manager. I would be the only employee, as she wants to only hire people she can trust. I would do all the marketing, create all the merch, learn and eventually to operate inventory, keep track of all sales, bookkeeping, and essentially run the shop.
When I heard this, I knew I didn’t want to do it. I was happy to help her this much, but all of this is so sudden and not what I’d signed up for. I want to stay in school and explore my own life, and I don’t want to put that on hold for anyone. I’m in the interview process for an internship, I work summers, overload classes so I don’t have to spend as much, plus I’m working on a business myself, but I don’t really have funds, so it’s really small now, but it’s something, and I have regular supporters that frequently purchase from me.
I told her this, and safe to say, she was quite upset, and sends me paragraphs upon paragraphs regularly, to remind me. “This is just what kids do for their parents” “You’re being selfish, only thinking about yourself, and not my dream” “This will be a good for you, this is the best job you’ll ever have, you’ll hate everything else out there” “The kids of all my friends are working harder, you’re slacking off” “Do you really want to stop traveling? I know I’m not going to give that up” (By the way, I haven’t been invited to a family vacation since high school, so that never really applied to me.)
She especially didn’t like that I had started my own business. I launched it a month ago, and I’ve made $150! It’s not much, but I’m proud of myself, especially working from nothing and no support, but she told me “I make more money than you, so this should be prioritized.” So I asked her what payment would be, because at this point we’ve been talking for 2 hours and I’m exhausted, and she said that we could “come up with a compromise that would work for the both of us.” So does that mean I don’t get paid?? I asked and she didn’t answer at first, later saying payment would come if she deemed I was working hard and putting in effort. Um…? and now she’s beginning to move my stuff, like my bed, over to the location so I can live nearby.
As for my dad, he’s gone silent, I got one email from him last week, basically saying that ‘he’s ok, he’s taking care of a lot of things right now, things are stressful, but not unexpected.’ I haven’t been able to get ahold of him since, which concerns me because I don’t know if something is wrong, and I’m so anxious. My mom tells me worse and worse things about what’s happening to him, and I could make it better if I took some responsibility and supported the family.
And no, she hasn’t asked my brother for help, she doesn’t talk to him about the serious stuff, they just kinda joke around and do fun stuff together when he’s around. I’m the oldest, so I always grew up needing to be the role model. I’ve already started rolling out her ad campaigns and logos and product design (for free), because I feel so guilty for not repaying my family for everything they’ve done for me. (Yes, I’m a doormat.) I don’t want to be selfish, or troublesome, or lazy, or mean, and I’m trying my best to balance it with my school and my work, but I want to live my own life and find what makes me happy, I have so much hope for what I can do to make a difference in this world! My way! But at the same time, it just feels so strongly like what I want to do is the wrong thing to do. I’m not exactly financially independent, and my main support system is gone, so I’m at a loss for what to do.
If you’ve made it this far, thank you for reading.<3
2024.06.02 06:51 NewKaleidoscope8418 AITA for building a DND 3.5 character with a higher power level than the rest of the party/group? LONG
AITA for building a DND 3.5 character with a higher power level than the rest of the party/group?
LONGBACKGROUND
so, a little background, ive been a member of a teens-youg adult group at a local gameshop for a few years now and aside from the DMs everyone has stayed from when i first joined, as for the current DM he has run the last 3 campaigns (a VTM, WTA and the current 3.5) and definatly seems of the CN variety as he tends not to stress the hard details/rules too much and often decides against looking up specific rules (called shots, unusual battlegrounds, special attacks, multiclass rules, etc) in favor of creating a quick patch for the circumstances and keeping with it should it come up again(unless someone brings up a specific concern). he plays by the rules of "the stronger you make your characters the stronger monsters you'll find" (which is fine, keeps encounters interesting and you get cooler monsters to fight). as for character creation we started lvl 4 and it was my first time playing 3.5 (had experience with pathfinder 1e tho) he allowed a surprising amount of books to draw from and i decided to make a cleric of gorum (pathfinder battle deity i ran by him first) and eventually landed on a half ogre(from savage species 1 lvl adjustment, +6 str -2dex +2con -2 int -2cha, large size) 1 lvl in barbarian with variant whirling frenzy rage, 2 lvl cleric with war(greatsword) and str domains. i continued to lvl cleric to lvl 3 and then just before THE SESSION took place i took a lvl in shaman (oriental adventures, domains: str and wrath), the feats he had were power attack, additional rage and battle jump(oriental adventures, different from battle leap) at this point we were lvl 6.(side note, all characters had max hp for their hit dice per lvl). the party consisted of: half elf paladin of freedom(healer, frontliner), an assimar cleric of anubis (healer, damage caster), bugbear pugilist fighter(tank/vanguard, comic relief), and me(healer, dps and slight glass cannon)
THE SESSION
the session started out pretty standard, we had spent the last 8 or so sessions exploring a megadungeon and we had left off in some catacombs, few traps here and there we arrive at where the main fight happens, we were fighting a giant praying mantis and a giant python, me, the paladin and the fighter start fighting the mantis and the anubian cleric starts a sandstorm around the python, a few rounds in and the mantis is mostly down due to my damage(i have noticed in a few prior fights that i have a significantly higher dps than the rest but i brushed it off with the thought that i also had the least hit points and get much closer to dieing most fights), meanwhile the python has managed to grab the cleric and has started constricting him rendering him somewhat in a pickle, the paladin on their turn (just before mine) manages to finish the mantis off so i decide to pull out the combo that i had just assembled on the python, using my str domain ability and having had both animal's frenzy and bulls strength + rage on me i had quite the str that round (32 for a +11str) and i used both battle jump and Rino's rush(from the wrath domain) to give a x4 to my charge attack and deal a nice round 160 dmg in one strike, as i was somewhat explaining what i was doing the others(fighter and paladin) were warning me against it due to prior rule regarding powerful characters and that i might hit the cleric(to which i was confidant enough my at the moment +21(which rolled to a 33) to hit wouldn't miss the snake), as i concluded damage calculations the dm looked to the other cleric and said to take half(80) of that damage which already being down 30-40 hitpoints instantly killed them and the dm promptly explained that the snake had only received 80 dmg as well and that it was due to how the constriction worked. i then proceeded to get somewhat berated by F and P (the cleric was somewhat quiet and had somewhat continued to work on his tank backup he ironically had been making before the session began) about how i shouldn't have assumed that the DM would let me just hit the snake and not my own ally(it is worth mentioning at this point two things, A. that no one had landed a hit on the snake during constriction and thus we didnt know the damage sharing ability and B. that even without the battle jump and rino's rush if i just walked up to the snake and hit it twice(not difficult with +21 against aproxamate ac 22) i still would have likely ended up killing the cleric since he stated that even 36 damage would have instakilled him (avg damage per hit with these buffs applied added up to 3d6(13.5)+23 dmg and constriction and or bleed would kill him) and when i protested to the dm that there are ways to deal damage without striking it down the middle (ex, cut off the snake's heat) he said i never asked for a called shot. i was then declared to have moved down to chaotic evil (priorly CN who at the start of the campaign was CG and had moved down due to breaking a parley declared by ambushing kobolds and a kobold mage whom i thought would be enemies of the faith due to gorum's tenants which in hindsight was meant to become a social encounter) despite (at that point) my intent to grieve once the battle was over(the cleric had been the kindest in the party thus far and i was still trying to play CG). i could somewhat see where the alignment change had come from since actions determine alignment and thus i could still reclaim my alignment by properly displaying my atonement and sorrow and desire to do better(and i spent a good few minutes trying to figure out how to revive him cause at this point i knew i had screwed up and needed to try to fix it). aside from that it was now the fighter's turn and at this point i got slightly distracted trying to help cleric with his backup and went to grab/check the index of a book on the far shelf, when i returned a minute later it was the python's turn and it attacked me (naturally) and had transformed into a dragon(which at this point was the only time id seen the dm rebalance a combat mid combat) which then proceeded to one-shot me to death despite only being down 10hp this whole fight and as far as im aware he never even bothered to ask for AC(when i had just made a massive AC boost from scale male to +1 plate earlier no less) and when the paladin attacked after both us clerics hit the floor and got a 32 to hit on a smite missed, after P and F consulted about escaping and/or retrieving the anubian cleric's body(whom it was stated was beginning to be devoured alongside mine) the dm did some deus ex machina'ing (which he has done before mostly to prevent large numbers of character deaths in the past and not unusual for the table considering we swim in powerful company frequently). after the session as me and cleric were setting up new characters and after being threatened if i made another min-maxed character(of which there was very little of deliberatly done, im not known for playing broken characters (gimmicky? yes, broken? rarely or only as ideas) cleric said that he was fine with me having killed his character which helped me feel a bit better about the whole thing but im still troubled about how DM, P and F reacted respectively to the event. AITA?
2024.06.02 06:47 hasuhana Considering fostering but wondering if it's right for my dog
There's a dog who's been at my local shelter for almost a month (and returned once within that time). In the worst case scenario if he ends up on the euth list, I'd consider offering to foster... but I'm a little worried about how my dog would handle it.
The shelter dog is a couple years younger than my resident dog, very slightly larger, and is described as having a low energy level. He's currently sharing a kennel with other small dogs so I assume he's not dog aggressive.
My dog is generally fine with other dogs—she's not the most outgoing but she will play with others when she feels comfortable. The yellow flag is that she's exhibited some slight (but somewhat justified, based on what I've read about dog "manners") resource guarding behaviors. For example, she barks at family members' dogs who keep trying to jump on me, and has snapped at one who tried to grab a toy out of her mouth. I've learned to manage these moments a lot better to set her up for success, and she interacts with/has stayed overnight with some of those same dogs without any incident.
I wouldn't want to stress my dog out, but I also feel terrible about not being able to help the shelter dog (it doesn't help that they look somewhat alike.) I live in a one-bedroom apartment so keeping them apart, especially for a quarantine, would alter my dog's current routine. On the plus side, I work from home so I'd be able to monitor them throughout the day.
I'm wondering both for my current situation, as well as in the longer run, if fostering would be right for us (ex. if I was able to move into a bigger place a couple years down the line). Anyone else been in a similar situation who can offer advice? The shelter in question is an LA County shelter, if anyone has experience fostering through them. Thanks in advance!
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The shelter dog is a couple years younger than my resident dog, very slightly larger, and is described as having a low energy level. He's currently sharing a kennel with other small dogs so I assume he's not dog aggressive.
My dog is generally fine with other dogs—she's not the most outgoing but she will play with others when she feels comfortable. The yellow flag is that she's exhibited some slight (but somewhat justified, based on what I've read about dog "manners") resource guarding behaviors. For example, she barks at family members' dogs who keep trying to jump on me, and has snapped at one who tried to grab a toy out of her mouth. I've learned to manage these moments a lot better to set her up for success, and she interacts with/has stayed overnight with some of those same dogs without any incident.
I wouldn't want to stress my dog out, but I also feel terrible about not being able to help the shelter dog (it doesn't help that they look somewhat alike.) I live in a one-bedroom apartment so keeping them apart, especially for a quarantine, would alter my dog's current routine. On the plus side, I work from home so I'd be able to monitor them throughout the day.
I'm wondering both for my current situation, as well as in the longer run, if fostering would be right for us (ex. if I was able to move into a bigger place a couple years down the line). Anyone else been in a similar situation who can offer advice? The shelter in question is an LA County shelter, if anyone has experience fostering through them. Thanks in advance!
2024.06.02 06:12 DarkLmae Thinking of ending it in 4 months.
Please read this carefully and thoughtfully.
In 4 months it’ll be my birthday. I’ll be turning 18. I’ve been thinking about suicide since I was 12, and 18 just seemed like the best age to do it. I just freshly graduated, and now I’m going out into the real world.
Growing up, I’ve never felt like there was a point in life. I basically spent my whole childhood depressed, alone, and craving love and acceptance. I’ve only ever gotten myself into trouble bc of my lack of love and respect from my family and having no friends whatsoever. At least no one loyal, willing to stick by me. I grew up so alone, and abused. Suicide has been the number 1 thing on my mind everyday, 24/7. I absolutely just cannot see a life for myself. The thought never goes away. I’ve already had so many attempts and have gotten hospitalized. Horrible s/h addiction. All I see for my future is smoking/drinking till I die or overdose on something. And if not that, either a gun I purchase when I’m of age or hanging myself. But the gun has been the 1# plan for the longest time. I have always been shy, anxious, an outcast, the weird kid, bullied relentlessly, shitty family who doesn’t give a shit about mental health or care about your feelings unless you’re happy, and even then when they’re not happy, they have to ruin it for you too. Constantly putting me down everyday and blaming me for everything. I cant even have my sister be supportive towards me. I feel as though she’s become too much like our parents without realizing it and I’ve lost completely all hope. And not to mention, I don’t want to work until Im 70. I just don’t see the point in continuing even if it were to get a bit better if life is so expensive . I don’t want to pay to live and have to struggle so much. I feel so bad for those who struggle just to survive. I have never been able to do anything on my own, I just cannot be independent. Im autistic and disabled in other ways and people just have never understood me, people who are neurodivergent aren’t even seen as human beings in this world. We are treated so badly. I don’t want to continue living. It all seems so useless . So worthless. I have felt like nothing but a failure and a burden. And I just continue to get myself into toxic situations all the time bc I forgot how to manage healthy relationships and a healthy relationship with myself. No matter how much or how hard I try nothing is ever good enough for anyone. Im seen as a stupid monster and I have always been treated like a baby. I feel I’ve turned cruel, nasty and bitter. I just can’t handle it anymore. Now that I’m out of school , I feel like I actually have the ability to end my life . When I’m not working or in school, I just rot away in my bedroom all day for hours and slee it all away, if not also harming myself just out of boredom, it used to be to feel something but now it’s just because boredom has become so painful, sometimes much more painful than my suicidal thoughts themselves. I have always felt like I’m crazy and that I’m going crazy and that I’m too different to be here( can’t fit in whatsoever and I will just never be loved, not to mention that I’ve always ruined myself because I grew up super ugly and still am so I feel very unlovable romantically too and love is something I have always craved from someone, esp physical touch being my biggest love language. No one will ever convince me that there is a reason to live, I just tell everyone else who’s struggling that I just slowly take it one day at a time when on the inside deep down I know that I won’t be here for long because I feel like there is mold inside of me and I am poison, I feel like my body is just killing me from the inside out slowly , my soul and brain, and there’s nothing I can do to stop it. I cannot wait to be dead, every time I think about it it just fills my body with so much relief and I feel like I become lighter and feel happy for once and then when i snap back into reality and realize that I’m actually alive, I feel so sick; I can’t stand waking up in the morning, I have physically thrown up before from waking up in the morning bc of how depressed it makes me, I am just a ball of stress and anxiety no matter where I go, this is not living. This is surviving. I physically and mentally ache all the time. Even when I’m having a good time. I have been masking my whole life. Im so done, so , so done. My only goal was to finish high school. My whole life is becoming a blur it’s so scary and I’m not even in my 20s. I dont and have never felt like I belonged here, I lowkey feel like I should of already died a loooong time ago. I had epilepsy growing up, I feel like I should of died from an episode but never did. all I do is struggle and no one cares about my needs in order for me to function normally. I hate my family, I hate everyone in my life, I feel like I cannot ever be grateful enough for anything. I might as well just die.
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In 4 months it’ll be my birthday. I’ll be turning 18. I’ve been thinking about suicide since I was 12, and 18 just seemed like the best age to do it. I just freshly graduated, and now I’m going out into the real world.
Growing up, I’ve never felt like there was a point in life. I basically spent my whole childhood depressed, alone, and craving love and acceptance. I’ve only ever gotten myself into trouble bc of my lack of love and respect from my family and having no friends whatsoever. At least no one loyal, willing to stick by me. I grew up so alone, and abused. Suicide has been the number 1 thing on my mind everyday, 24/7. I absolutely just cannot see a life for myself. The thought never goes away. I’ve already had so many attempts and have gotten hospitalized. Horrible s/h addiction. All I see for my future is smoking/drinking till I die or overdose on something. And if not that, either a gun I purchase when I’m of age or hanging myself. But the gun has been the 1# plan for the longest time. I have always been shy, anxious, an outcast, the weird kid, bullied relentlessly, shitty family who doesn’t give a shit about mental health or care about your feelings unless you’re happy, and even then when they’re not happy, they have to ruin it for you too. Constantly putting me down everyday and blaming me for everything. I cant even have my sister be supportive towards me. I feel as though she’s become too much like our parents without realizing it and I’ve lost completely all hope. And not to mention, I don’t want to work until Im 70. I just don’t see the point in continuing even if it were to get a bit better if life is so expensive . I don’t want to pay to live and have to struggle so much. I feel so bad for those who struggle just to survive. I have never been able to do anything on my own, I just cannot be independent. Im autistic and disabled in other ways and people just have never understood me, people who are neurodivergent aren’t even seen as human beings in this world. We are treated so badly. I don’t want to continue living. It all seems so useless . So worthless. I have felt like nothing but a failure and a burden. And I just continue to get myself into toxic situations all the time bc I forgot how to manage healthy relationships and a healthy relationship with myself. No matter how much or how hard I try nothing is ever good enough for anyone. Im seen as a stupid monster and I have always been treated like a baby. I feel I’ve turned cruel, nasty and bitter. I just can’t handle it anymore. Now that I’m out of school , I feel like I actually have the ability to end my life . When I’m not working or in school, I just rot away in my bedroom all day for hours and slee it all away, if not also harming myself just out of boredom, it used to be to feel something but now it’s just because boredom has become so painful, sometimes much more painful than my suicidal thoughts themselves. I have always felt like I’m crazy and that I’m going crazy and that I’m too different to be here( can’t fit in whatsoever and I will just never be loved, not to mention that I’ve always ruined myself because I grew up super ugly and still am so I feel very unlovable romantically too and love is something I have always craved from someone, esp physical touch being my biggest love language. No one will ever convince me that there is a reason to live, I just tell everyone else who’s struggling that I just slowly take it one day at a time when on the inside deep down I know that I won’t be here for long because I feel like there is mold inside of me and I am poison, I feel like my body is just killing me from the inside out slowly , my soul and brain, and there’s nothing I can do to stop it. I cannot wait to be dead, every time I think about it it just fills my body with so much relief and I feel like I become lighter and feel happy for once and then when i snap back into reality and realize that I’m actually alive, I feel so sick; I can’t stand waking up in the morning, I have physically thrown up before from waking up in the morning bc of how depressed it makes me, I am just a ball of stress and anxiety no matter where I go, this is not living. This is surviving. I physically and mentally ache all the time. Even when I’m having a good time. I have been masking my whole life. Im so done, so , so done. My only goal was to finish high school. My whole life is becoming a blur it’s so scary and I’m not even in my 20s. I dont and have never felt like I belonged here, I lowkey feel like I should of already died a loooong time ago. I had epilepsy growing up, I feel like I should of died from an episode but never did. all I do is struggle and no one cares about my needs in order for me to function normally. I hate my family, I hate everyone in my life, I feel like I cannot ever be grateful enough for anything. I might as well just die.
2024.06.02 06:08 Terrible_North_7918 Lessons I learned during my first year of eng!
Hey! Ik a lot of the incoming first year engineering students have accepted their offers recently (congrats!) and I thought this may be of use for you guys and some of these can go for any first year student honestly. I learned so so much during my first year and would love to share if it even benefits one person!
- every percent helps! A lot of your mark will be based off the midterm and final, but most classes have room to gain marks in quizzes and homework. Although each one may be worth small (for ex. in pcs each hw is work 0.5%), don't get in the habit of slacking off and overlooking those. Those percents add up and can help you pass your course esp if you do poorly on major assessments. it can be very easy to skip or forget them in the midst of midterm season, but you future self will thank you when your calculating your grade at the end of the semester. Plus its a great way to stay sharp and caught up!
- join clubs. everyone says this but its for a reason!!!! It is an excellent way to meet upper years and learn from them, as well as gain skills and opportunities that set you apart from peers. You can also add it to your LinkedIn and climb up the exec ladder if you stick to the same clubs over the years. This is the best thing I could've done my first year. Although it can be challenging managing them along your classes, even joining one or two positions can help make yourself well rounded. Some examples are MUES positions, FYEO fyc, IEEE, WiE, BMES, MECU, ECEstorms, CECU and literally SM more.
- design teams. on the topic of clubs, design teams esp are something I wish I joined but hope to in my second year. Design teams are amazing because they allow you to contribute to physical projects and use the concepts you are taught in your classes! They're also great because you can add these projects to your resume and linkendin.
- find good friends/study group. It can be overwhelming and scary in the beginning to make friends, and it does take time to build those relationships. However I highly recommend you put yourself out there and out your comfort zone even if it is just talking to someone while waiting outside of a lecture. I cannot stress enough how beneficial a supportive friend/group can be for your entire degree! You guys can hang out between classes, lock in and study together, they can be there to help you/teach the things you don't understand, hold you accountable when you slack off, hype you up and push you to seek new oppurtunites, and make sm memories. don't be scared about meeting new people, it is a lot easier than you think esp bc everyone is on the same boat in first year and looking for friends! Joining clubs as I mentioned is a great way, as well as talking to the people in your tutorials/labs and inviting them to get a bite or drink with you!
- hold your self accountable. You know yourself best and you know when you are slacking off, when you are doing something you shouldn't be, when you can be doing better than you are, etc. University is not like hs where you have a teacher or figure to hold you accountable, you need to do that for yourself. Eng is not easy, you need to know when it's time to study or put in effort because spoiler alert, you need both to succeed. you cannot expect to pass or have good grades if you are only going to lectures and not reviewing, doing your hw, or studying. and holding yourself accountable throughout the sem can make studying for finals and midterms easier for you.
- be careful using chatgpt, bc you will become dependent on it. Ai is definitely a helpful tool than can be used to answer specific questions and spark new ideas, however use it cautiously. Pushing and using your brain is so good for you, however access to gpt and ai can make it seem like an easy fix. It is, but all I am saying is don't use it for everything, don't use it when you have the answers in your notes or textbook, don't use it if you have time to work it out/think on it. you do not want to become one of those brain rot individuals that cannot think and speak for themself thats all.
- save your money. I wish I'd hear this before but it is incredibly easy to blow off money in your first year esp at tmu. There are food and shopping places in every corner, so if you have the money/savings it's easy to get in the habit of buying food or a sweet treat every day. Many of us aren't working during school either. Just remember that each course you take cost money, if you need to take it again or online it cost money, your homework textbooks and lab equipment often costs money, and if you are on osap you will need money to pay it back! just be careful 🥲
- chang policy. I had to learn this one the hard way too. If you would like to take a course virtually through chang the refund policy is NOT the same as in person courses. If you change your mind about the course and want a full policy, you need to drop the course 5 BUSINESS DAYS before it begins if you want a full refund. I dropped a course 4 business days before and had to pay 50% for a course I did not take.
- time management because the workload is intense. engineering is not easy but time management can make your degree manageable and not feel impossible. it may be hard to find the routine and flow that works for you, but if I can give any advice while you do it is to make use of the time you have when you have it. Use resources like a planner, google cal, to-do lists, reminders etc to stay on top and make time for everything. being able to manage your time can save you a lot of panic and stress in midterm and final season. although the workload can get overwhelming, break your tasks down and take it day by day, but make sure you get done what you need too.
- start group projects early, especially CEN100. you will encounter many group projects during your first year, and most of the important ones happen near the end of the semester. I highly suggest you urge you and your group to get started or at least plan/break down tasks early, ideally from the get go when it is assigned. trying to coordinate with group members who are all busy with the end of the semester can be difficult and makes room for conflict to arise. not to mention starting early gives you time to seek help and critique from your TA. if you need to be that person, hold the group accountable and make sure you guys do not leave it for last min.
- don't compare yourself. everyone comes from different educational and social backgrounds. for some it may come as a shock to be surrounded by people who are as smart as you if not probably smarter. it is so easy to compare yourself and your success to others and it can easily become discouraging. just know that although you will meet people doing great while you may be near flunking, everyone is still struggling and finding it difficult. they may have different learning styles from you that makes it easier for them to learn new material, or they may have come from a school/background where they have already learned it. that doesn't mean you can't get to that level tho, for some it just takes some extra effort and that is okay.
- connect with your TA's and profs and build a relationship with them. You won't always come across a friendly or dedicated instructor, but if you feel you you have give them the chance to get to know and remember you, go to office hours and your tutorials even if they are optional. chances are they may be willing to give you advice or insight on what is on the midterm/final, or they could be the reason your mark has been boosted enough for you to pass. this is not always the case, but it often is.
- it will be a learning curve and takes time to adjust. as much as people can advise and warn you, you won't know what you are getting yourself into until you are actually in it. university for most people is a whole different ball park, let alone an engineering degree. you likely may not find your circle, your flow and your space right away and that is okay, it is part of the process that sets you up to be the best engineer you can be one day. some may be able to adjust quicker than others but just be patient with yourself, if you need to break up for your year into the spring/summer sem so be it. they say the first year of eng is the hardest bc it is such a large jump from high school, but remember it isn't impossible, so many people have done it and so can you. be kind with yourself, and use the many many resources that are available for your success.
- stay caught up in your classes to avoid burnout during midterm and exam season. one of my biggest regrets is missing so much class after midterms and having to cram for finals. Up until my midterms for both semesters I was caught up and following along in everything which made studying less time consuming bc I was already familiar with most the material, it was just filling in the gaps and practicing. Finals nearly took me out bc of the amount of cramming I had to do before I could even get to studying. not to mention seeing the material multiple times will make it stick better by logic. falling behind is common, but don't let it get too far because it truly is very hard to come back from. try to study as you go through the semester, and review/practice the lessons regularly. do not let the material leave your brain as soon as you learn it.
- it is okay to fail. many of us come from being high achievers in high school and getting above average grades. but you will come to learn that grades in the 45-60 range is normal. it is not the end of the world if you fail a course, especially in your first year. you are not dumb, you are not a failure, you are not letting anyone down. failing a course or two is normal and fairly common at least once during this degree. as a first year there is a lot of leeway and room for success, so you can just take it the next sem or the spring.
- make time for your family. this mostly goes for the commuters, but it can be difficult to make time for them especially when the semester ramps up. you may find yourself locked up in your room or coming home late from a library study sesh. but for many people they are your support system and even taking an hour away from your work to spend time with them and be a breath of fresh air and much needed to feel connected to them.
- go to student events! there are genuinely SO MANY that run throughout the year especially for us. I highly recommend to you to as many conferences as you can, GVIC, the WiE if you are female, the one from FYEO and more from MUES. these are great to make industry connections, learn things you don't learn in class, you can make friends, network, and grow yourself professionally. there are other more fun and chill student events that run too that can be great to destress during the sem and wind down with your friends.
- learn to make use of your time if your commute. Many of us who take the go have quite long commutes that can make it feel like a chunk of our day is gone. Something to help with that is just learning to manage the travel time and get something done. This can be being productive and study, taking a power nap, winding down/screen time before locking in at home, have lunch/dinner, making phone calls, etc. Plan your day out and what you are going to do during that commute time, it can truly help structure your day sm better.
- split your chegg. if you really need to buy it (its great for CHY homework and PCS) find some reliable and not snitchy friends and split it so its cheaper. although again, be careful using such tool incase you become dependent on it. it is a tool not solution, use it to learn how to do questions you don't have examples on, but still make sure you do most the hw for practice etc.
- don't get in the habit of skipping class. everyone says this yet we all do it. but I feel like I still need to include this since I have tasted my own medicine from skipping so much. its fine to skip here and there but don'ttttt make it a habit bc it is near impossible to break. its starts with one class, and then you skip the next one bc you didn't catch up and you're gonna be lost either way, and then it snowballs from there. its okay if you aren't caught up from previous missed lectures. just go, even if you just sit there and pay attention without taking notes. you will eventually catch up if you go, but letting it become a habit is just cutting yourself short and holding you back from sm academic success.
- don't overlook the easy classes. they WILL be your mark booster but you still need to put in the effort. for me they were CEN100, CHY102, my liberals, and CPS188. If you care about your gpa make sure you put effort into these classes bc they are very easy to do well in and will boost your gpa.
- its okay to feel imposter syndrome. I went through this a lot and felt like eng was not for me at many times because I would get in the habit of comparing myself. I don't think I felt like I belonged or felt like I was where I was supposed to be until the winter sem. as I mentioned it can take time to find your space but you will eventually. try to remember why you went into eng in the first place, and if it was just money joining clubs/going to eng events can help you find passion or belonging in it again. at the end of the day just trust your gut. if you truly truly feel like you can't see yourself working as an engineer maybe you could reconsider. but if you can but you are just struggling, I promise the imposter syndrome is normal but it will go away.
- NO all nighters. this is coming from someone who has pulled one too many this year and regrets it every single time. I feel like we all know this by now but just prioritize your sleep guys, this again comes down to time management but get enough sleep helps you SO MUCH to learn and digest all the material. you may be able to stay awake physically but you brain needs the rest. and ESPECIALLY DONT PULL ALL NIGHTERS BEFORE EXAMS. So many times this sem have I experience the worst brain fog of my life from doing this, you start to forget the most basic of things and concepts you may have perfected. it can be so easy to overlook our sleep but it truly is so important. don't sacrifice it, if you need to take the L bc you didn't study enough just take it, bc honestly studying more ahead would've saved you if you feel like you need to miss your sleep to cram.
- don't buy a single textbook. the only time you should is PCS and CHY bc it comes with the homework which you need to buy. other than that don't you can find it all online for free either on Anna's archive, the eng gcs or upper years.
- be prepared for midterms. tbh nothing could've prepared me, it is intense. esp if you are taking the full course load. the learning does not stop when midterms roll around, you will still have fast paced lectures, still have hw, still have regular quizzes and projects on top of studying for midterms. It can honestly feel suffocating in the midst of it and extremely overwhelming, but again this is where time management comes to play, use planning resources, and set yourself up for success from the very beginning of the sem. the biggest mistake people make is skipping lectures during midterms, because let me tell you, you will not make the time to catch up during midterm season, and even when it is over you are likely quite far behind or near finals. try your self to ensure you keep going to your classes during it. ALSO, make sure you study well for your midterms, for many people they do better on the midterm than the final so allocating those grades from the midterm is a great idea.
- check your emails! there are so many opportunities and resources that get sent to your inbox. this includes free tutoring, study halls, event details, on campus paid opportunities, club hirings etc.
- take care of yourself. like sm other things it can be so easy to overlook your basic needs and let yourself go. whether that be skipping meals or eating fast food alllllll the time, not sleeping, not showering and doing laundry, not giving yourself free time, etc, you need to look after yourself because no one else will. and the only way you can do well is ensuring you yourself are well. feed yourself healthy and balanced meals, get enough sleep, PLEASE SHOWER AND USE DEODORANT (the stereotype is in fact true), and take yourself outside on walks and with your loved ones. don't lose yourself along the way, it is all about balance.
- do not drop linear algebra in the fall. just listen to me on this one. even if you absolutely BOMB the midterm, don't get scared by it and decide to drop it. this happens essentially every year, and they usually, every year, make the final much easier and straight forward than the midterm is so it IS possible to pass. at the end of the day all you need is a 50 and it is very doable if you have the quiz/hw grades secured (free marks for most people) and study well for the final. try to get profs like majed and wang bc if you are near passing they may boost you enough too. and even if you did fail, so be it that is fine, you can take it in the winter but atleast you gave it youre all and said you tried but chances are you will pass. I say this bc the winter sections for linear algebra ive heard are much harder than the fall, although I think they curve at the end, it is a lottttt more theoretical and confusing so I recommend you push yourself for the fall and see where that takes you.
Anddddd I think that's all! I know that was a lot and maybe overwhelming but I hope it was insightful. if you have any questions or worries feel free to comment or pm.
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- every percent helps! A lot of your mark will be based off the midterm and final, but most classes have room to gain marks in quizzes and homework. Although each one may be worth small (for ex. in pcs each hw is work 0.5%), don't get in the habit of slacking off and overlooking those. Those percents add up and can help you pass your course esp if you do poorly on major assessments. it can be very easy to skip or forget them in the midst of midterm season, but you future self will thank you when your calculating your grade at the end of the semester. Plus its a great way to stay sharp and caught up!
- join clubs. everyone says this but its for a reason!!!! It is an excellent way to meet upper years and learn from them, as well as gain skills and opportunities that set you apart from peers. You can also add it to your LinkedIn and climb up the exec ladder if you stick to the same clubs over the years. This is the best thing I could've done my first year. Although it can be challenging managing them along your classes, even joining one or two positions can help make yourself well rounded. Some examples are MUES positions, FYEO fyc, IEEE, WiE, BMES, MECU, ECEstorms, CECU and literally SM more.
- design teams. on the topic of clubs, design teams esp are something I wish I joined but hope to in my second year. Design teams are amazing because they allow you to contribute to physical projects and use the concepts you are taught in your classes! They're also great because you can add these projects to your resume and linkendin.
- find good friends/study group. It can be overwhelming and scary in the beginning to make friends, and it does take time to build those relationships. However I highly recommend you put yourself out there and out your comfort zone even if it is just talking to someone while waiting outside of a lecture. I cannot stress enough how beneficial a supportive friend/group can be for your entire degree! You guys can hang out between classes, lock in and study together, they can be there to help you/teach the things you don't understand, hold you accountable when you slack off, hype you up and push you to seek new oppurtunites, and make sm memories. don't be scared about meeting new people, it is a lot easier than you think esp bc everyone is on the same boat in first year and looking for friends! Joining clubs as I mentioned is a great way, as well as talking to the people in your tutorials/labs and inviting them to get a bite or drink with you!
- hold your self accountable. You know yourself best and you know when you are slacking off, when you are doing something you shouldn't be, when you can be doing better than you are, etc. University is not like hs where you have a teacher or figure to hold you accountable, you need to do that for yourself. Eng is not easy, you need to know when it's time to study or put in effort because spoiler alert, you need both to succeed. you cannot expect to pass or have good grades if you are only going to lectures and not reviewing, doing your hw, or studying. and holding yourself accountable throughout the sem can make studying for finals and midterms easier for you.
- be careful using chatgpt, bc you will become dependent on it. Ai is definitely a helpful tool than can be used to answer specific questions and spark new ideas, however use it cautiously. Pushing and using your brain is so good for you, however access to gpt and ai can make it seem like an easy fix. It is, but all I am saying is don't use it for everything, don't use it when you have the answers in your notes or textbook, don't use it if you have time to work it out/think on it. you do not want to become one of those brain rot individuals that cannot think and speak for themself thats all.
- save your money. I wish I'd hear this before but it is incredibly easy to blow off money in your first year esp at tmu. There are food and shopping places in every corner, so if you have the money/savings it's easy to get in the habit of buying food or a sweet treat every day. Many of us aren't working during school either. Just remember that each course you take cost money, if you need to take it again or online it cost money, your homework textbooks and lab equipment often costs money, and if you are on osap you will need money to pay it back! just be careful 🥲
- chang policy. I had to learn this one the hard way too. If you would like to take a course virtually through chang the refund policy is NOT the same as in person courses. If you change your mind about the course and want a full policy, you need to drop the course 5 BUSINESS DAYS before it begins if you want a full refund. I dropped a course 4 business days before and had to pay 50% for a course I did not take.
- time management because the workload is intense. engineering is not easy but time management can make your degree manageable and not feel impossible. it may be hard to find the routine and flow that works for you, but if I can give any advice while you do it is to make use of the time you have when you have it. Use resources like a planner, google cal, to-do lists, reminders etc to stay on top and make time for everything. being able to manage your time can save you a lot of panic and stress in midterm and final season. although the workload can get overwhelming, break your tasks down and take it day by day, but make sure you get done what you need too.
- start group projects early, especially CEN100. you will encounter many group projects during your first year, and most of the important ones happen near the end of the semester. I highly suggest you urge you and your group to get started or at least plan/break down tasks early, ideally from the get go when it is assigned. trying to coordinate with group members who are all busy with the end of the semester can be difficult and makes room for conflict to arise. not to mention starting early gives you time to seek help and critique from your TA. if you need to be that person, hold the group accountable and make sure you guys do not leave it for last min.
- don't compare yourself. everyone comes from different educational and social backgrounds. for some it may come as a shock to be surrounded by people who are as smart as you if not probably smarter. it is so easy to compare yourself and your success to others and it can easily become discouraging. just know that although you will meet people doing great while you may be near flunking, everyone is still struggling and finding it difficult. they may have different learning styles from you that makes it easier for them to learn new material, or they may have come from a school/background where they have already learned it. that doesn't mean you can't get to that level tho, for some it just takes some extra effort and that is okay.
- connect with your TA's and profs and build a relationship with them. You won't always come across a friendly or dedicated instructor, but if you feel you you have give them the chance to get to know and remember you, go to office hours and your tutorials even if they are optional. chances are they may be willing to give you advice or insight on what is on the midterm/final, or they could be the reason your mark has been boosted enough for you to pass. this is not always the case, but it often is.
- it will be a learning curve and takes time to adjust. as much as people can advise and warn you, you won't know what you are getting yourself into until you are actually in it. university for most people is a whole different ball park, let alone an engineering degree. you likely may not find your circle, your flow and your space right away and that is okay, it is part of the process that sets you up to be the best engineer you can be one day. some may be able to adjust quicker than others but just be patient with yourself, if you need to break up for your year into the spring/summer sem so be it. they say the first year of eng is the hardest bc it is such a large jump from high school, but remember it isn't impossible, so many people have done it and so can you. be kind with yourself, and use the many many resources that are available for your success.
- stay caught up in your classes to avoid burnout during midterm and exam season. one of my biggest regrets is missing so much class after midterms and having to cram for finals. Up until my midterms for both semesters I was caught up and following along in everything which made studying less time consuming bc I was already familiar with most the material, it was just filling in the gaps and practicing. Finals nearly took me out bc of the amount of cramming I had to do before I could even get to studying. not to mention seeing the material multiple times will make it stick better by logic. falling behind is common, but don't let it get too far because it truly is very hard to come back from. try to study as you go through the semester, and review/practice the lessons regularly. do not let the material leave your brain as soon as you learn it.
- it is okay to fail. many of us come from being high achievers in high school and getting above average grades. but you will come to learn that grades in the 45-60 range is normal. it is not the end of the world if you fail a course, especially in your first year. you are not dumb, you are not a failure, you are not letting anyone down. failing a course or two is normal and fairly common at least once during this degree. as a first year there is a lot of leeway and room for success, so you can just take it the next sem or the spring.
- make time for your family. this mostly goes for the commuters, but it can be difficult to make time for them especially when the semester ramps up. you may find yourself locked up in your room or coming home late from a library study sesh. but for many people they are your support system and even taking an hour away from your work to spend time with them and be a breath of fresh air and much needed to feel connected to them.
- go to student events! there are genuinely SO MANY that run throughout the year especially for us. I highly recommend to you to as many conferences as you can, GVIC, the WiE if you are female, the one from FYEO and more from MUES. these are great to make industry connections, learn things you don't learn in class, you can make friends, network, and grow yourself professionally. there are other more fun and chill student events that run too that can be great to destress during the sem and wind down with your friends.
- learn to make use of your time if your commute. Many of us who take the go have quite long commutes that can make it feel like a chunk of our day is gone. Something to help with that is just learning to manage the travel time and get something done. This can be being productive and study, taking a power nap, winding down/screen time before locking in at home, have lunch/dinner, making phone calls, etc. Plan your day out and what you are going to do during that commute time, it can truly help structure your day sm better.
- split your chegg. if you really need to buy it (its great for CHY homework and PCS) find some reliable and not snitchy friends and split it so its cheaper. although again, be careful using such tool incase you become dependent on it. it is a tool not solution, use it to learn how to do questions you don't have examples on, but still make sure you do most the hw for practice etc.
- don't get in the habit of skipping class. everyone says this yet we all do it. but I feel like I still need to include this since I have tasted my own medicine from skipping so much. its fine to skip here and there but don'ttttt make it a habit bc it is near impossible to break. its starts with one class, and then you skip the next one bc you didn't catch up and you're gonna be lost either way, and then it snowballs from there. its okay if you aren't caught up from previous missed lectures. just go, even if you just sit there and pay attention without taking notes. you will eventually catch up if you go, but letting it become a habit is just cutting yourself short and holding you back from sm academic success.
- don't overlook the easy classes. they WILL be your mark booster but you still need to put in the effort. for me they were CEN100, CHY102, my liberals, and CPS188. If you care about your gpa make sure you put effort into these classes bc they are very easy to do well in and will boost your gpa.
- its okay to feel imposter syndrome. I went through this a lot and felt like eng was not for me at many times because I would get in the habit of comparing myself. I don't think I felt like I belonged or felt like I was where I was supposed to be until the winter sem. as I mentioned it can take time to find your space but you will eventually. try to remember why you went into eng in the first place, and if it was just money joining clubs/going to eng events can help you find passion or belonging in it again. at the end of the day just trust your gut. if you truly truly feel like you can't see yourself working as an engineer maybe you could reconsider. but if you can but you are just struggling, I promise the imposter syndrome is normal but it will go away.
- NO all nighters. this is coming from someone who has pulled one too many this year and regrets it every single time. I feel like we all know this by now but just prioritize your sleep guys, this again comes down to time management but get enough sleep helps you SO MUCH to learn and digest all the material. you may be able to stay awake physically but you brain needs the rest. and ESPECIALLY DONT PULL ALL NIGHTERS BEFORE EXAMS. So many times this sem have I experience the worst brain fog of my life from doing this, you start to forget the most basic of things and concepts you may have perfected. it can be so easy to overlook our sleep but it truly is so important. don't sacrifice it, if you need to take the L bc you didn't study enough just take it, bc honestly studying more ahead would've saved you if you feel like you need to miss your sleep to cram.
- don't buy a single textbook. the only time you should is PCS and CHY bc it comes with the homework which you need to buy. other than that don't you can find it all online for free either on Anna's archive, the eng gcs or upper years.
- be prepared for midterms. tbh nothing could've prepared me, it is intense. esp if you are taking the full course load. the learning does not stop when midterms roll around, you will still have fast paced lectures, still have hw, still have regular quizzes and projects on top of studying for midterms. It can honestly feel suffocating in the midst of it and extremely overwhelming, but again this is where time management comes to play, use planning resources, and set yourself up for success from the very beginning of the sem. the biggest mistake people make is skipping lectures during midterms, because let me tell you, you will not make the time to catch up during midterm season, and even when it is over you are likely quite far behind or near finals. try your self to ensure you keep going to your classes during it. ALSO, make sure you study well for your midterms, for many people they do better on the midterm than the final so allocating those grades from the midterm is a great idea.
- check your emails! there are so many opportunities and resources that get sent to your inbox. this includes free tutoring, study halls, event details, on campus paid opportunities, club hirings etc.
- take care of yourself. like sm other things it can be so easy to overlook your basic needs and let yourself go. whether that be skipping meals or eating fast food alllllll the time, not sleeping, not showering and doing laundry, not giving yourself free time, etc, you need to look after yourself because no one else will. and the only way you can do well is ensuring you yourself are well. feed yourself healthy and balanced meals, get enough sleep, PLEASE SHOWER AND USE DEODORANT (the stereotype is in fact true), and take yourself outside on walks and with your loved ones. don't lose yourself along the way, it is all about balance.
- do not drop linear algebra in the fall. just listen to me on this one. even if you absolutely BOMB the midterm, don't get scared by it and decide to drop it. this happens essentially every year, and they usually, every year, make the final much easier and straight forward than the midterm is so it IS possible to pass. at the end of the day all you need is a 50 and it is very doable if you have the quiz/hw grades secured (free marks for most people) and study well for the final. try to get profs like majed and wang bc if you are near passing they may boost you enough too. and even if you did fail, so be it that is fine, you can take it in the winter but atleast you gave it youre all and said you tried but chances are you will pass. I say this bc the winter sections for linear algebra ive heard are much harder than the fall, although I think they curve at the end, it is a lottttt more theoretical and confusing so I recommend you push yourself for the fall and see where that takes you.
Anddddd I think that's all! I know that was a lot and maybe overwhelming but I hope it was insightful. if you have any questions or worries feel free to comment or pm.
2024.06.02 06:02 Choice_Evidence1983 My husband got a vasectomy and didn’t tell me
I am NOT OOP, OOP is u/Capable_Goal_6116
Originally posted to TrueOffMyChest
My husband got a vasectomy and didn’t tell me
Trigger Warnings: accusations of infidelity, emotional abuse and manipulation, betrayal
Original Post: May 18, 2024
Throwaway bc my husband knows my main. I don’t know what to do. My (31F) husband (32M) - fake name Chris, and I have been married for four years, together for six. When we first got together we had several long talks about how we both wanted a big family. I wanted to be very upfront that child free is not an option, and I said I wanted to have at least four kids. I’m an only child and know how lonely it is, I also said I wanted to have them about a yeayear and a half apart so they could grow up close.
He always wholeheartedly agreed to this and often made jokes like “whether we have 4 or 6, have as many as we want, it’s your call since you pretty much have to do all the work” and on our wedding day before we left the reception for our honeymoon he whispered “can we get outta here and get started on baby #1?” I loved how excited he seemed. To be clear I didn’t go off my BC until about two months after we were married and I got pregnant soon after with our first daughter Joy.
Joy was a happy pregnancy, long birth, but she was a beautiful, healthy baby. She went through colic which was trying, but other than that she was a happy first addition according to me. I noticed Chris became distant during my first pregnancy, but when I asked him about it he just said he had a lot in his mind being a new father. He said he was still excited, but something changed. For reference, we both work full time, I make about 20K more a year than him, and the five bedroom house that we live in was a gift from my mom who was very excited to be a grandma to many. My job is fully remote, but still offers maternity leave, and I have a nest egg savings for emergencies, and feel it’s important to mention this because I know finances can be a major stress factor when it comes to having kids, but not for me and Chris.
Then Joy came out perfectly, Chris had three months of paternity leave and was home with us for majority of that time. My mom visited a lot, and paid to have cleaners come. There were still a lot of long nights and it was tough for me to breastfeed, but overall nothing unexpected. Chris still seemed distant, but always helped with Joy. We have an agreed open phone policy, so I did check his phone quite often but didn’t find any sign of cheating. He goes through my phone whenever he wants too. I asked if he found me unattractive while pregnant and he assured me no, he loves me and he’s excited for our family.
Fast forward a year after, we’re sleeping through the night and I am back to work, saw my doctor and was cleared to try for bundle of joy #2, and Chris seemed very enthusiastic at this point. He even downloaded an app to track my fertility cycle so we could make the most of my ovulation times.
We had a lot of fun and he was always very passionate, but six months of trying with no pregnancy I started to worry. I’d voice my concerns and Chris would brush them off, so I tried to be patient, but then almost two years passed and Joy is growing up by herself.
I broke down to my mother crying and she agreed to come with me to the doctor to get checked out. I was very emotional and scared, but the doctor assured me everything is fine and that I should be able to conceive without any issues.
I went to Chris with this knowledge and he was very upset I went to a fertility specialist. I explained I thought something might have gone wrong during my last pregnancy, concerned that I was maybe blocked or infertile somehow. He said why not wait and “just let nature take its course” and I said “our little girl is almost three, and growing up by herself.” I reminded him of our plans and he just nodded and said all we can do is try. I asked if he would see a fertility specialist and he got angry, saying there’s nothing wrong with him and we don’t have the money for fertility treatments anyway. This confused me since we do have money, we have my savings and are doing pretty well.
When he went to sleep I decided to go through his phone again and went back through his calendar and call logs. I noticed about eight months after Joy was born there was a blocked day indicating he’d taken off from work, but it was in the middle of the week and I don’t remember any sort of special occasions behind why he’d take this random day off. I went through the call logs and found an office number about a week before and when I googled the number a local business where you could get a vasectomy appeared! I couldn’t believe what I was looking at. I instantly felt cold all over then started to panic.
I woke him up and confronted him. He just stared at me while I went off and admitted babies were harder than he thought and he felt like my first pregnancy took forever.
I couldn’t believe it. I packed my things, Joy and her things and drove to my mom’s house. She is in distress with my sudden appearance and my inability to stop crying. I finally told her yesterday morning what happened and she’s just beside herself. I don’t know what to do, but every time I think about how during sex Chris would talk to me about giving me a baby and he’d had the vasectomy the entire time. I feel so disgusted and stupid. I can’t believe my little girl is going to grow up alone. Chris has been blowing up my phone, but I just keep letting it ring and haven’t read any of his texts.
Edit: to those saying I “coerced” my “poor husband” into agreeing to a big family, nope. I was always open and honest about my dreams, told him it’s okay if he wanted different things, and he not only repetitively agreed and accepted, he also helped me plan, nest, put together the nursery and enthusiastically participated in conversations regarding having multiple children around friends and family, and always said we’d have at least 4. That was our number. Him getting a vasectomy behind my back was a complete shock.
Also, we’ve both always agreed to the open phone policy. I never “betrayed his trust” by going through his phone since I always had his consent to do so and he has mine. We even have the same phone pass code. I never wanted to be in a relationship where we kept secrets from each other. I know other couples feel different, but this is another thing he always 100% claimed he agreed with me on.
I vaguely remember one week where he actually turned me down for sex claiming he had a “head cold” and he didn’t join me in the shower like usual during that time, but I didn’t think anything about it. And no, men never need a wife’s signature to get vasectomy.
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FantasticAnus: There's nothing wrong with child number one changing his mind, but he should have been open and honest about that and said that he wouldn't be having any more children, and then it would have been up to you as to whether you could live with that, or move on from him.
What he did, however, was duplicitous and manipulative. I don't think I could stay with a man who was so willing to keep such an enormous lie from me, one which impacts me, my daughter and my future enormously.
MyUsernameIsMehh: He has every right to not want more kids, you have every right to want more.
What he did not have the right to do was fool you for years. Men who have had vasectomies but hide it and "try for a baby" are beyond disgusting. Their wives think something is wrong with them, they go to specialists and sometimes spend a LOT of money on fertility treatments.
He's a spineless little shit (pardon my words, but it's true) who pushed you to have breakdowns over this.
He had every right to get a vasectomy, he didn't need your permission, but he had NO RIGHT to hide it and pretend you two were trying for another child.
Update: May 24, 2024
Some of you made some comments about my mom gifting my husband and I a house, paying for occasional cleaning services implying that Chris feels somehow emasculated by this, also implying I am “too financially dependent on my mom.” I make very good money, I have a sizable savings and don’t need any help, my mom was excited to buy this house for us as a wedding present. My dad passed away when I was young, he was wealthy and left my mom everything, so she shares his love since I’m her only kid. I make more money than Chris and always have. Yes his name is on the house, so yeah I’m gonna get screwed over in the divorce.
Some of you complained I “broke his trust” by going through his phone. He goes through my phone too. We have the same passcode. Some comments called this agreement between us unhinged, which to me is bizarre. Chris, I thought, was my soulmate, my husband and best friend. We don’t have secrets. I thought. Isn’t that the whole point of marriage? To finally have one person in the whole world you can tell everything to? To always be on the same team? Obviously I was wrong, and as many of you pointed out, that kind of love, trust and openness doesn’t really exist, and none of that matters now.
Chris and Joy seemed fine to me, but in hindsight there’s always been a hesitation on his part. I always thought it was just typical since the short while my dad was alive in my life I don’t really remember him being affectionate or warm. He was nice and played with me sometimes, but I don’t remember being held by him very much. I asked Chris many times if everything was okay when I noticed he was distant. He always said things were great, and give an excuse; just tired, work is draining, no big deal.
We’re in the US, and here a man can go get a vasectomy at any time. I don’t know what Chris told his doctor. For all I know he took his wedding ring off and gave a sob story, or probably just walked in and asked for the procedure. It doesn’t matter.
I’m really thankful for my mother. She’s heartbroken for me, and like many of you, she already knows my marriage is over. There’s been a lot of long nights of me crying that she’s endured.
I’m numb when I’m not crying, and keep getting this creepy feeling that nothing matters. We’re getting a divorce. I finally called Chris and he sobbed he was sorry, said he might be able to get it reversed. I’ve read a lot about vasectomies since my last post, and sometimes it can’t be reversed. It’s always a risk.
Again, it doesn’t matter. It’s not actually about the vasectomy. It’s that the person who I thought was the one person in the world that I could trust, that I was on the same page as, literally writing the book together, made this decision without me and kept it from me and the lied for years. I really thought what we had was true love. Now I’m pretty certain that doesn’t even exist.
Chris has not offered any explanation. He cried, begged my forgiveness and said again that he could get it reversed. Even if he can, the rest is irreversible. He never once answered my question. It’s really painful to talk to him, so after three times of asking and him each time dodging answering, and begging forgiveness, I finally just said to please leave the house and told him he’d hear from my lawyer.
He texted that he’s packed and left, and I haven’t heard from him since. He never once asked about Joy.
My lawyer says I might wind up paying alimony, but I might be able to get the house since it was a gift from my mother and Chris has never made any financial contribution. He also says Chris committed a kind of infidelity since he went behind my back to have this life altering procedure and admitted it, so that might help me.
To everyone telling me it’s gonna be okay, and I can still have more children…all of that seems impossible right now. My heart is broken. I’ve never experienced such sadness and the only relief is when I’m playing with my daughter. Her happiness is infectious. She is blissfully unaware, having the time of her life at grandma’s, but unlike her father she actually asks where’s da da?
I called work and took a medical leave of absence. I found a therapist.
My mom has offered to stay with me for a while, as well as hire a nanny.
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BrightAd306: I agree with you. It’s not the vasectomy. It’s lying about it and defrauding you. Wanting your money, but not being a true partner.
Listen to your lawyer. Do what he says, and you’ll come out the other side. Even if you pay alimony, it won’t be forever
DangerNoodleDandy: I agree. The vasectomy and the fact that he hid it are a symptom of a greater issue.
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Originally posted to TrueOffMyChest
My husband got a vasectomy and didn’t tell me
Trigger Warnings: accusations of infidelity, emotional abuse and manipulation, betrayal
Throwaway bc my husband knows my main. I don’t know what to do. My (31F) husband (32M) - fake name Chris, and I have been married for four years, together for six. When we first got together we had several long talks about how we both wanted a big family. I wanted to be very upfront that child free is not an option, and I said I wanted to have at least four kids. I’m an only child and know how lonely it is, I also said I wanted to have them about a yeayear and a half apart so they could grow up close.
He always wholeheartedly agreed to this and often made jokes like “whether we have 4 or 6, have as many as we want, it’s your call since you pretty much have to do all the work” and on our wedding day before we left the reception for our honeymoon he whispered “can we get outta here and get started on baby #1?” I loved how excited he seemed. To be clear I didn’t go off my BC until about two months after we were married and I got pregnant soon after with our first daughter Joy.
Joy was a happy pregnancy, long birth, but she was a beautiful, healthy baby. She went through colic which was trying, but other than that she was a happy first addition according to me. I noticed Chris became distant during my first pregnancy, but when I asked him about it he just said he had a lot in his mind being a new father. He said he was still excited, but something changed. For reference, we both work full time, I make about 20K more a year than him, and the five bedroom house that we live in was a gift from my mom who was very excited to be a grandma to many. My job is fully remote, but still offers maternity leave, and I have a nest egg savings for emergencies, and feel it’s important to mention this because I know finances can be a major stress factor when it comes to having kids, but not for me and Chris.
Then Joy came out perfectly, Chris had three months of paternity leave and was home with us for majority of that time. My mom visited a lot, and paid to have cleaners come. There were still a lot of long nights and it was tough for me to breastfeed, but overall nothing unexpected. Chris still seemed distant, but always helped with Joy. We have an agreed open phone policy, so I did check his phone quite often but didn’t find any sign of cheating. He goes through my phone whenever he wants too. I asked if he found me unattractive while pregnant and he assured me no, he loves me and he’s excited for our family.
Fast forward a year after, we’re sleeping through the night and I am back to work, saw my doctor and was cleared to try for bundle of joy #2, and Chris seemed very enthusiastic at this point. He even downloaded an app to track my fertility cycle so we could make the most of my ovulation times.
We had a lot of fun and he was always very passionate, but six months of trying with no pregnancy I started to worry. I’d voice my concerns and Chris would brush them off, so I tried to be patient, but then almost two years passed and Joy is growing up by herself.
I broke down to my mother crying and she agreed to come with me to the doctor to get checked out. I was very emotional and scared, but the doctor assured me everything is fine and that I should be able to conceive without any issues.
I went to Chris with this knowledge and he was very upset I went to a fertility specialist. I explained I thought something might have gone wrong during my last pregnancy, concerned that I was maybe blocked or infertile somehow. He said why not wait and “just let nature take its course” and I said “our little girl is almost three, and growing up by herself.” I reminded him of our plans and he just nodded and said all we can do is try. I asked if he would see a fertility specialist and he got angry, saying there’s nothing wrong with him and we don’t have the money for fertility treatments anyway. This confused me since we do have money, we have my savings and are doing pretty well.
When he went to sleep I decided to go through his phone again and went back through his calendar and call logs. I noticed about eight months after Joy was born there was a blocked day indicating he’d taken off from work, but it was in the middle of the week and I don’t remember any sort of special occasions behind why he’d take this random day off. I went through the call logs and found an office number about a week before and when I googled the number a local business where you could get a vasectomy appeared! I couldn’t believe what I was looking at. I instantly felt cold all over then started to panic.
I woke him up and confronted him. He just stared at me while I went off and admitted babies were harder than he thought and he felt like my first pregnancy took forever.
I couldn’t believe it. I packed my things, Joy and her things and drove to my mom’s house. She is in distress with my sudden appearance and my inability to stop crying. I finally told her yesterday morning what happened and she’s just beside herself. I don’t know what to do, but every time I think about how during sex Chris would talk to me about giving me a baby and he’d had the vasectomy the entire time. I feel so disgusted and stupid. I can’t believe my little girl is going to grow up alone. Chris has been blowing up my phone, but I just keep letting it ring and haven’t read any of his texts.
Edit: to those saying I “coerced” my “poor husband” into agreeing to a big family, nope. I was always open and honest about my dreams, told him it’s okay if he wanted different things, and he not only repetitively agreed and accepted, he also helped me plan, nest, put together the nursery and enthusiastically participated in conversations regarding having multiple children around friends and family, and always said we’d have at least 4. That was our number. Him getting a vasectomy behind my back was a complete shock.
Also, we’ve both always agreed to the open phone policy. I never “betrayed his trust” by going through his phone since I always had his consent to do so and he has mine. We even have the same phone pass code. I never wanted to be in a relationship where we kept secrets from each other. I know other couples feel different, but this is another thing he always 100% claimed he agreed with me on.
I vaguely remember one week where he actually turned me down for sex claiming he had a “head cold” and he didn’t join me in the shower like usual during that time, but I didn’t think anything about it. And no, men never need a wife’s signature to get vasectomy.
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FantasticAnus: There's nothing wrong with child number one changing his mind, but he should have been open and honest about that and said that he wouldn't be having any more children, and then it would have been up to you as to whether you could live with that, or move on from him.
What he did, however, was duplicitous and manipulative. I don't think I could stay with a man who was so willing to keep such an enormous lie from me, one which impacts me, my daughter and my future enormously.
MyUsernameIsMehh: He has every right to not want more kids, you have every right to want more.
What he did not have the right to do was fool you for years. Men who have had vasectomies but hide it and "try for a baby" are beyond disgusting. Their wives think something is wrong with them, they go to specialists and sometimes spend a LOT of money on fertility treatments.
He's a spineless little shit (pardon my words, but it's true) who pushed you to have breakdowns over this.
He had every right to get a vasectomy, he didn't need your permission, but he had NO RIGHT to hide it and pretend you two were trying for another child.
Update: May 24, 2024
Some of you made some comments about my mom gifting my husband and I a house, paying for occasional cleaning services implying that Chris feels somehow emasculated by this, also implying I am “too financially dependent on my mom.” I make very good money, I have a sizable savings and don’t need any help, my mom was excited to buy this house for us as a wedding present. My dad passed away when I was young, he was wealthy and left my mom everything, so she shares his love since I’m her only kid. I make more money than Chris and always have. Yes his name is on the house, so yeah I’m gonna get screwed over in the divorce.
Some of you complained I “broke his trust” by going through his phone. He goes through my phone too. We have the same passcode. Some comments called this agreement between us unhinged, which to me is bizarre. Chris, I thought, was my soulmate, my husband and best friend. We don’t have secrets. I thought. Isn’t that the whole point of marriage? To finally have one person in the whole world you can tell everything to? To always be on the same team? Obviously I was wrong, and as many of you pointed out, that kind of love, trust and openness doesn’t really exist, and none of that matters now.
Chris and Joy seemed fine to me, but in hindsight there’s always been a hesitation on his part. I always thought it was just typical since the short while my dad was alive in my life I don’t really remember him being affectionate or warm. He was nice and played with me sometimes, but I don’t remember being held by him very much. I asked Chris many times if everything was okay when I noticed he was distant. He always said things were great, and give an excuse; just tired, work is draining, no big deal.
We’re in the US, and here a man can go get a vasectomy at any time. I don’t know what Chris told his doctor. For all I know he took his wedding ring off and gave a sob story, or probably just walked in and asked for the procedure. It doesn’t matter.
I’m really thankful for my mother. She’s heartbroken for me, and like many of you, she already knows my marriage is over. There’s been a lot of long nights of me crying that she’s endured.
I’m numb when I’m not crying, and keep getting this creepy feeling that nothing matters. We’re getting a divorce. I finally called Chris and he sobbed he was sorry, said he might be able to get it reversed. I’ve read a lot about vasectomies since my last post, and sometimes it can’t be reversed. It’s always a risk.
Again, it doesn’t matter. It’s not actually about the vasectomy. It’s that the person who I thought was the one person in the world that I could trust, that I was on the same page as, literally writing the book together, made this decision without me and kept it from me and the lied for years. I really thought what we had was true love. Now I’m pretty certain that doesn’t even exist.
Chris has not offered any explanation. He cried, begged my forgiveness and said again that he could get it reversed. Even if he can, the rest is irreversible. He never once answered my question. It’s really painful to talk to him, so after three times of asking and him each time dodging answering, and begging forgiveness, I finally just said to please leave the house and told him he’d hear from my lawyer.
He texted that he’s packed and left, and I haven’t heard from him since. He never once asked about Joy.
My lawyer says I might wind up paying alimony, but I might be able to get the house since it was a gift from my mother and Chris has never made any financial contribution. He also says Chris committed a kind of infidelity since he went behind my back to have this life altering procedure and admitted it, so that might help me.
To everyone telling me it’s gonna be okay, and I can still have more children…all of that seems impossible right now. My heart is broken. I’ve never experienced such sadness and the only relief is when I’m playing with my daughter. Her happiness is infectious. She is blissfully unaware, having the time of her life at grandma’s, but unlike her father she actually asks where’s da da?
I called work and took a medical leave of absence. I found a therapist.
My mom has offered to stay with me for a while, as well as hire a nanny.
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BrightAd306: I agree with you. It’s not the vasectomy. It’s lying about it and defrauding you. Wanting your money, but not being a true partner.
Listen to your lawyer. Do what he says, and you’ll come out the other side. Even if you pay alimony, it won’t be forever
DangerNoodleDandy: I agree. The vasectomy and the fact that he hid it are a symptom of a greater issue.
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2024.06.02 06:01 mentalsxe Study or wait a year, save some money and then study
Hi. So I'm 21 years old and stsrted working part-time as I can't handle full-time 3 months ago now. I have saved up enough money to buy a new laptop I'll be needing for the studies I'm planning to do, but not enough to enroll yet. Here's where the dilemma comes in.
I can either work 3 more months, save enough to start this September and keep on working as a student on weekends (which would bring me 200-400 euro a month) or I could postpone studying till September 2025. By then I'd have saved enough money to buy my own car which would be a huge plus, and I'd have saved enough money so I wouldn't have to worry about money as much during my studies. Either way I'll be working as a student, the decision is basically about whether I should have some money saved up or not. If I do, it's one mental stress factor less. If I don't, I'd still survive but I'd have to be a bit more careful. But I'm mainly scared about 2 things, not being able to handle working for that long (I hate my job, and have some health issues) and possibly burning out and the possibility of changing my mind within that year.
If anyone has done something similar, it'd be nice to hear about.
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I can either work 3 more months, save enough to start this September and keep on working as a student on weekends (which would bring me 200-400 euro a month) or I could postpone studying till September 2025. By then I'd have saved enough money to buy my own car which would be a huge plus, and I'd have saved enough money so I wouldn't have to worry about money as much during my studies. Either way I'll be working as a student, the decision is basically about whether I should have some money saved up or not. If I do, it's one mental stress factor less. If I don't, I'd still survive but I'd have to be a bit more careful. But I'm mainly scared about 2 things, not being able to handle working for that long (I hate my job, and have some health issues) and possibly burning out and the possibility of changing my mind within that year.
If anyone has done something similar, it'd be nice to hear about.