Nickname best friend who is a girl

Hey reddit. I'm at the lowest point in my life and I think I just need to let it out. My life could be a massive arch for a soap opera right now. I'm(39m) in a toxic marriage that has ran it's course. Wife (38f): has a lot of mental health issues she refuses to do anything about. These issues have lead to us dealing with the states welfare system for years. She tried sleeping with my best friend, he told his wife who in turn confronted mine and issued her an ultimatum. Wife's response was to mention something about a dream she had about my friend, blocked his wife, his wife accidently outed my wife. You live, you love I opted to move past. Her insecurities led to her and her mother accusing me of being unfaithful with a younger woman I considered family. We will call her shygirl. She Shygirl had been through a lot of trauma and abuse over the years. Well after Shygirl helping me care for my children (wife's issues led her to be very lacking in the motherly department) withstanding accusations and abuses from my wife, she confessed feelings, I made an exit strategy. I know how people look at age gap relationships, I thought long and hard of my choice. I saw how she was my bestfriend, my children loved and adored her, and the help of a friends advice made me resolute in my decision. Life happens as it does and slowed progress on plan, helping this friend lead to my termination, making my income significantly smaller, wife and I had open cases still and in my experience separation of the family before closing a case always lead to more trouble in the end. My kids have been through enough I thought. Well shygirl(24f) and my friend, traitor (32m) had been getting closer as friends. I have no problem with this, enduring what we were a friend was a nessessity. However I should of done as shygirl requested just before then and told him he needed to leave. He was struggling and wanting to relapse she was concerned for me with my own past. I told her that abandoning him then would almost insure a relapse or worst. Well a week ago it camebout that feelings had been developed on both sides. As well as traitor telling me he had used with a coworker. I made it very clear that I could not have that around my kids abs if staying around my children would not be tolerated. I through him out, her opting that if I saw this through she would leave with him but insisted rather she simply needed time saying "I may love him but I'm in love with you. " I told her I wish i could but since he had used as well that I couldn't. After her promising me not to hurt him he was given 48 hours. In which they left. My kids devastated, me heart broken. Them living out of a car his boss is selling him on payments. I just can't win. He and I have had many talks. I told him out right him being my best friend and doing this being the most painful part. Her reason for all this is my in activity and the abuse the wife kept issuing. I failed her and I see that but she's almost always mad at me when we talk. I'm still doing what I feel is best for the kids. Wife is love bombing me, saying she will get help but I can't just believe it won't be like every time before. I've nuked my own life and the only thing other then the kids getting me through this is the possibility she will see I meant every promise. I'm scared with his track record that he will drag her into some horrible situations. I'll heal I know I'm just so lost right now. Go ahead cut me down I know, I'm no saint I know I've done all this to myself. But my heart still broken.

Sorry this will be long and is a rant/ asking for advice - I just need help :/
I (24F) and my mom (50F) have always had a complicated relationship. She has been a hoarder for as long as I can remember (i would say she’s a level 4). We had pathways going through the house to cut through the piles mounting on either side in every room of the house. In bedrooms the only carpet you would see if the area where the door opened, the basement was practically taped off because it was full to the brim, the kitchen sink was always full of dishes and sludge.. you get the picture.
At the same time, i was the only person in the house to actually care. I was the only one who would fight my mom on it and would just get shut down and told “i have a headache I don’t want to talk about this now.” (This was a common theme even to now, a few months ago I called her and this got brought up and I told her how much it hurt me and she turned it around about how it was basically my fault because I made her feel like she was never enough, the guilt was never ending). I tried cleaning and it never mattered. We’d clean for holidays and it would just go right back. It even seeped to the outside. I was embarrassed to have people drop me off outside the house - I could obviously never have friends over. I actually walked home from school in the rain one time instead of accepting a ride because I didn’t want me friends to see my house.
To add onto this, I was treated like a maid. I did my laundry, my mothers, my fathers, and my 2 younger brothers. When holidays came I was the only one who HAD to help clean - forced to clean the horrible kitchen the living room etc. it kept going until the summer before I went to college, our internet went out that summer and no one could come into the house to fix it so I spent that summer watching Netflix on my laptop with a hotspot from my phone. At this point I decided I couldn’t do college from here. I was going to be commuting and I just couldn’t do it, so I moved in with my grandmother who only lived a block away and it was the best decision I’ve made (even though my parents were incredibly angry that I did)
Now, both of my brothers have moved in with my grandmother (15M and 17M) and as much as I’m happy for them part of me is hurt that they get to live the life I wish I had (my parents were also incredibly strict with me blaming the fact I was the first child and a girl - I’m talking 1 minute past curfew and I was grounded for the next week)
It also doesn’t help that 10 years ago she started a travel agency which has taken off (and good for her) but now she’s gone traveling for “work” 50% of the time when no one else is allowed to touch her mess, so everyone just has to suffer while she gets to escape (she still does this - she also rented an office space for her company and filled it with stuff too and even worse has 3 cats there, I took our family cats because I couldn’t watch them live there)
I’ve now moved in with my husband (23M) but we live in the same town as my family (grandma has a condo she’s renting to us for CHEAP) but I still struggle with my relationship with my mother. I don’t know what to do. I probably need therapy but I don’t know what they’re going to tell me I haven’t already thought of. The problem is my mom has her good qualities she is always very supportive and in your corner no matter what but the resentment I have is still there and I feel stuck. I feel so guilty like whatever choice I make is wrong. I don’t know if I can cut her out, I just don’t know what to do
Sorry this is so long, if you’ve read this far I hope both sides of your pillow are cold and you only get green lights <3

Hi I am a long term Reddit reader and I don’t know what else to do or who else to turn to I am getting married to the love of my life and I couldn’t be happier!! I am very sorry for the long post but I’m just gonna hop right in. It all started last year when my fiance was planning to propose to me unlike regular proposing I had known and we talked about it and doing it on our 2 year mark together and I was super excited my whole family new and it was all planned out but about 1 months before our anniversary my brother told me he was going to propose to his girlfriend and being a long Reddit reader I know people are going to ask they hadn’t even been together for a year i am all for if you know it’s true love go for it no matter the time but their relationship hadn’t been the best one but it’s what he wanted to do what upset me was he didn’t want to propose yet and he had told me so as me and him are very very close and it got me very upset last year because the whole family new of our plans and he didn’t even want to propose why do it right before ours I had a hard upbringing and wanted a day to myself to feel loved and have the spot light but now it would be shared as now you are proposing to her even though it’s 1 months it still greatly affected me and our parents had felt I’m over reacting and it’s just a engagement in there words “ it’s just a engagement it’s not your actual wedding I don’t understand why you are upset” and I was like what ever and my brother did understand why I was so upset and he changed the plan even though his plan was but the ring and do it that day which was many months before where we could have our separate moments it still upset me. Now there has been other instances where either our nails became the same color or our date plans our jewelry or quote on quote advice about people little things but the one of the now is. My brother and my mom had come down to visit me for my birthday last month and my fiance told them that we are getting married this year a simple family only day and next year would be our big one for everyone else and to save up money for plane tickets and stuff as it would be in November I told my dad and my sister so immediate family knows who are the only ones coming and that’s brings us to today where my brother now text me saying him and his fiance are getting married this year in September and want to know if me and my fiance would make it and I instantly broke down crying I called my fiance at work and told her everything she is very mad as well because she doesn’t understand why all of this is happening she noticed my sister in law in many little ways copying me ( how childish that sounds) but now it’s becoming into our big events and I really don’t know what to do I talked to my brother and he understood how I felt and I am the one in the family who lives 1600 miles away and is the one over reacting and don’t see what goes on there and everyone feels I am over reacting and can just drop everything to go visit when I can’t I have bills dogs and me and my fiance don’t have friends here who can walk and feed them and that’s just a whole other story I just I really hope all this made sense and people can give me advice and understand where I’m coming from! This is really taking a toll on my mental health and I need to stand up to my family it’s just I don’t know how and I don’t want to lose my brother but I don’t wanna sound like a asshole but I can’t keep doing this and I don’t want to upset him when I know he has his own issues and add more to his plate you know?

Okay, so this is going to be a long one, sorry.
TL;DR
Despite a six-year relationship filled with ups and downs, long-distance struggles, and personal insecurities, my partner and I shared a deep bond. However, misunderstandings and miscommunications led to an abrupt, painful and aribitrary breakup from her end. When I discovered my partner seeing someone new, it left me questioning the sincerity of our past love and struggling with unanswered questions. Now, I'm torn between seeking closure and wondering if there's any hope for us to reconnect or if it's time to let go and move forward. Given that in matter of weeks that we were really good now she is in love with somebody else. Is she acting out of anger, revenge or is this real and sincere?
Ful context:
I had a relationship with this person for almost 6 years. So first, it was like a year we were friends, and then best friends. She had a boyfriend; she is older than me by almost 8 years (F31 and M24) . She didn't love this guy and wanted to break up with him. I already had feelings for her but didn't think it was possible. It happened; we were together in a long-distance relationship for about a year. A year later, we were great but had some fights due to inconsistency and the distance - nothing serious, really. We reconnected for 3 months before I came back to continue my studies. This time she would move to the same country as me to pursue her master's. We decided to have some time off to think about stuff. I forgot and broke up with her 2 days prior to her arrival. Why? I still don't know why I did that... I guess it was the desire of getting to explore more things and see if I could find someone else, given we were struggling because of some differences in her circle's acceptance. I still kept in touch with her because I knew how hard it would be in a new country with no support. I took some time for myself and realized I still loved her and I was sorry. We got back together formally.
Then during a couple of months, we entered a blurred line; we both loved each other, and we had a relationship, but I started to create barriers because I felt I was hurting her, as I think I didn't love her that much - I did love her more than I can imagine, but I felt insecure. Then we didn't really break things off; we just were friends, but we would occasionally see each other and would have conflicts when we were away. When she came close, I pushed her away, and vice versa. But when we were together, whether intimacy was involved or not, there were no fights, only depth and honesty and vulnerability. We fought every time over chat when we were not in the same place. A year ago, I decided to apply NC after she proved to me I was no longer really important to her. So I decided to cut her off without much explanation, which I regret now. Then 3 months later, I reached out again because I missed her and wanted her to come back. During that time, my intention was to see if I could continue my life without her and if I could avoid being dependent on her. She told me she worked on herself, she had some barriers. But it didn't last long. We again were cool with each other, comfortable. She now said that she had her mindset that this was "physical" and stuff like that, but we both knew it wasn't; it was never physical. Sometime later, we spent NYE morning together; it was delightful. Throughout this time, we did not have any major issues other than the fact that we knew we loved each other but we put up this wall for some reason. During the time I applied NC, she reached out to me several times; I never responded. She thought I was with somebody else; then I responded, said I wasn't and some other things. She told me that it was hard for her if I were to move on too quickly, which I wasn't really doing. We even worked together; it didn't quite help. Now, it has been a while. Since January this year, I knew I wanted to get back with her, but I wasn't sure she would take me. We saw each other every other week quite regularly, and we would talk every day; it's like we've been (we were) best friends. In February, we were on the same page finally; we both agreed but didn't do anything really. Then we went to the movies, saw "Past Lives" together, it made us really sad but connected us deeply. We were closer than ever. Then in March during my birthday, I didn't prioritize her because I was insecure about what my friends would say (I know, it's childish) that resented her a bit, but we fixed it. We hung out 2 more times; it was deep, nice, and we were connected to each other. Then I thought maybe it was time for me to move on but didn't want to act without her knowing the picture and doing the right things so I asked her if "it would be okay if I start seeing other people?". She agreed at first, then it was reluctant. I dug in deep, and that didn't help. I think this made her feel like she was my second plate or that I was already fucking sombeody else or sorts. She in that moment recently moved out on her own and started a new phase. At that initial phase, we got close again about the things we could do at her apartment; we could be free, how much we wanted to see each other and be okay. Then I put up a wall saying that we should stop seeing each other. She got mad and said she did not want to pretend we never knew each other, and it was unfair for me to decide for both when she still loved me and I loved her too. Why did I ask her that? Because I didn't want to date anyone else unless she was okay with that and that wouldn't hurt her because I loved her.
Some weeks later, she was really distant and started treating me poorly, worse than a dog. I knew something was off; I started to pursue her. I was ignored. I told her it's not okay what she is doing, that she knew my emotional wellbeing, and I wouldn't do that to her. She told me I did exactly the same a year ago when I cut her off. It was not true; I still replied to her because I know how bad her anxiety can get. Then I asked, "are you with somebody else?". I insisted; she said yes and not only that but she compared me to him and made me feel like shit. I was frustrated and acted out of desperation; I texted her, saying I'm sorry. But she said I was only using her as an object of pleasure (which as you can tell from the text is far from the truth). She told me all of this was over when I broke up with her years ago, like she was resentful and mad but never really told me. Then I tried talking to her to at least give me closure and let me ask for forgiveness for my negligence and wrongdoing, which was repetitive but never came out of wrongness but from insecurity. She said she didn't believe I love her but was acting out of desperation and then I demonstrated to her it was not the case. Anyways she told me to give her some days to think about talking again. She didn't say a word for about 10-12 days; unintentionally I ran into her 2 times because we live close to each other. Then, I sent her some emails saying since she has not told me anything I will leave a letter at her apartment and gonna continue with my life. She didn't reply. When I went to leave the letters we both saw each other and didn't say a word; I left the letter at reception and left. Next day, her father called me telling he was worried and that I should stop reaching out to her or looking out for her. Ever since, I don't know anything about her other than she is already sleeping with this guy (which she never used to have casual sex before) so I guess they are super serious in a matter of 4 weeks.
Then I found out during our time she made out with some guys, and then I came across some news that confirmed she was sleeping with this new guy. This makes me think really horrible things and most importantly that she is in love with him so fast. Like our relationship an didn't mean anything.
Right now it really hurts because it makes me think she never meant any of the words she said to me. Literally a month or two months ago max, she almost begged to not cut her off out of the blue, that I was the love of her life, she still loved me, and that she would never want to hurt me.
And she did all of that. Also, important to note when I asked her "why don't you at least give me the closure that I deserve If I did nothing wrong and your exes who were assholes you gave them your time?" to which she responded "because I am not strong enough to see you yet. when I saw them I knew it wouldn't affect me, but with you, it would still affect me seeing you." But my frustration is that it seems like she is not over me; she still has feelings for me, and yet she is in a serious relationship with another guy and treated me like shit. Why???
Another aspect which is important. Her previous relationships she has never been alone since she has been 18 uintil now she has never been single for real. Yes, maybe this last 5 years we were not fomally but we were together in a way... She had a boyfriend he was abusive and he had another friend who protected her. So whenever she needed something she would move from one to another. Until she broke off with the absuive guy ended up with the other guy (who she didn't rally love but stick with him as a safe choice). Adn then when she broke up with this other guy, I got into a relationship with her. Although in this time she literally had no feelings with this guy and wanted to break up with him for months.
My question is, is she serious about this person? Why did she behave in such a heartless way? Is there any chance she is coming back, or did I mess up by breaking NC? Or she didn't love me anymore? I really doubt the last one because I would have noticed that because how expressive she is and cmfrotable she was with me even the las time we sa each other.

I am a 26 years old male, and when I was at university (ages 18 to 21), I had a friend who was the stereotypical chad in terms of looks. He had a square jaw, robust chin, etc. All the girls went crazy for him, they kept talking about how good looking he was, how he is beautiful etc.
I envied him a lot. I was told I looked decent but nowhere near him. I had to try a lot harder to get laid, but I did fine.
But I always wanted to be that guy who walked in a room and all eyes were on me.
Through extensive research, I have learned what surgeries I’ll need to look like a chad. I’ll need surgeries on my eyelids to get rid of my negative canthal tilt, I’ll need mandible angle implants, a chin implant and some other. I’ve worked this out to £20,000+ needed
Since I finished university at age 21, I ended up working for my parents to help them out. But not really getting paid
For the last 2 years, I’ve had a job of my own and am saving. I told my parents that I’m saving up to 20k plus so I can spend on surgery. They said I’m being an AH for wasting so much, and that I shouldn’t be doing this to get girls as I’ve already had nice girl friends
The thing is, it’s not about girls. It’s about being that chad who everyone stares at. I want to feel that.
When I get the surgeries, I’ll look even better than my friend did. I’ll get to experience what I missed out on at university
AITA?

Hello everyone,
I currently work at Whole Foods as an order writer, and I have been in the organic food industry for 15 years.
My education history:

• I dropped out of high school and took my HSED (GED) 2001. I am open to answering questions about my life, but to keep it short here, my childhood was all over the map. My father died early, I moved often, had a few step-fathers, lived in an 18-child foster home at one point, etc. The point is that while I had bouts of doing well in school, I would eventually be displaced from moving, and by high school, I reached a point where I wanted it over and tested out.
• Graduated as a trained therapeutic massage therapist in 2002. I practiced this profession part-time for about ten years after graduating
• In 2008, I decided to return to school, at a community college, for nursing. This required close to 2 years of taking prerequisites, which I did do. I graduated with an Associate in Science and a 3.5 GPA, in 2012. I did not attend that nursing school (a long story related to my city).
• In 2014, I finished a 200-hour yoga teacher training and was certified with the Yoga Alliance. However, I have never become a yoga teacher. A fear of failure in front of others and some stage fright are contributing factors here, not a lack of passion for yoga or learning about it.

Throughout all those educational endeavors, I have worked at a food COOP or Whole Foods, where I have worked for six years.
Now, believe me when I say I could easily look at all this and consider myself a directionless screwup who never capitalized on a few opportunities I set up for myself. Again, I am more than willing to provide some context from my personal life to explain some of this, but I don't want to focus so much on the why, but rather what I can do from this point going forward.
A year and a half ago, I reached out to CSU Global and currently am enrolled in their Computer Science program. So far, I have finished nine credits with a 4.0 but am stuck trying to get through the College Algebra class and I am worried about my ability to finish this degree I a reasonable time to where I can start to transition out of Whole Foods.
All of this is to say that I have very few people to get advice from and would like this sub's perspective on what I should put my time and energy into going forward. One thing I have going for me is good time-managment around my full-time job and few commitments in my life outside of what I set for myself (no kids and single).
Careers and degrees I am considering:

• Computer Science, though honestly, I am not sure this is the best fit currently
• Accounting
• Human Resources
• Radiology. A friend studying to become a doctor advised me that I would be a better radiologist than a nurse based on my personality. I have already done a lot of prep for nursing, so I am thinking hard about this.
• An MBA to augment my career in retail since I at least have that job going for me at the moment.

I considering getting a CDL license and doing truck driving but I think that would be a mistake given that I am 6'8" and already have a few physical issues from the amount of driving I have done in previous careers. I am good at driving but I don't think my body can take it full time being this tall.
With all that said, I think I will leave it here as there are a lot of details already. At the end of the day, I want to put myself into education while being able to work full-time and realistically upgrade my career in the next two years. Making $75,000-$100,000 would be a significant step up for me and allow me to further invest in myself instead of just getting by. A lot of times I have had to pull back from investing time into getting into jobs because I just have not had enough money without keeping myself employed with jobs like Whole Foods.
Thank you to anyone who is willing to give me some advice here!

Today, we’re building Kamen Rider Ghost, AKA Tenkuji Takeru. This is my 4th entry on building Kamen Riders in D&D.
Let’s start off with our goals for this build. First, we need to be immortal, or at least have ways to be better at avoiding death. Second, we need to be good at punching and being slippery and elusive like a spirit. Lastly, we need to make sure we can help enrich the lives and spirits of our friends.
For stats, we’ll be using Point Buy. Roll for stats if you want, just keep your Dexterity and Wisdom high.
15 Dexterity, as you are pretty quick and acrobatic as a Rider
15 Wisdom, as you are very insightful and know how people are feeling
13 Constitution, as Riders need to be tough
10 Charisma, you are pretty persuasive and very kind, we’ll get some skills to help out.
10 Strength, as while Riders are very strong, you’re still a young man.
And 8 Intelligence, you do know a lot about spirits, but you spent most of your life in a temple, not a university.
For Race, Takeru was a human killed by a Ganma on his 18th birthday and brought back to life, so we’ll make him a Reborn Human. You either get +2 to one stat and +1 to another, or +1 to three stats. We’ll actually go with +1 to three stats, rounding out our Wisdom, Dexterity, and Constitution. You get Ancestral Legacy, giving you proficiency in 2 skills of your choice. Persuasion and Animal Handling would be my picks. You also get Deathless Nature, giving you advantage on saving throws against poison and disease, resistance to poison damage, advantage on death saving throws, you no longer need to eat, drink, breathe, or sleep, magic can’t put you to sleep, and you can finish a long rest in only 4 hours instead of 8. Lastly, you get Knowledge from a Past Life, letting you add a d6 to any Skill check you make an amount of times equal to your proficiency bonus per long rest. Take the Acolyte Background for Insight and Religion as you are the heir to a Shinto Temple.
We’ll kick things off as a Monk, as you were trained in martial arts by your father. 1st Level Monks get 2 skills from the Monk List. Acrobatics and History would be my picks. You also get proficiency in a set of Artisan’s tools. Go for Calligrapher’s Tools as they’re the best ones. You get Unarmored Defense, making your AC 10 plus your Dexterity and Wisdom modifiers when you’re not wearing armor, and you get Martial Arts, letting you use Dexterity instead of Strength for your unarmed attacks or Monk weapons, and they use a d4. You can also make an extra unarmed attack as a bonus action.
2nd Level Monks get Ki, letting you start tapping into your Rider powers. You get Ki points equal to your Monk level that recharge on a short or long rest to augment your abilities. Flurry of Blows lets you spend a ki point to make 2 unarmed strikes as a bonus action after you attack instead of just one. Patient Defense lets you spend a ki point to Dodge as a bonus action, and Step of the Wind lets you spend a Ki point to Dash or Disengage as a bonus action, along with doubling your jump distance for a turn. You also get Unarmored Movement, giving you 10 extra feet of movement speed while unarmored. You also get the option of Quickened Healing, letting you use your action to spend 2 ki points to heal yourself equal to your Martial Arts die plus your proficiency bonus. Lastly, you get the option of Dedicated Weapon, which allows you to make any weapon that isn’t heavy that you’re proficient with into a Monk weapon, in case you wanna wield the GanGun Saber.
3rd Level Monks can pick a Monastic Tradition, and Way of the Long Death is fitting for one who’s experienced death. You get Touch of Death, letting you gain Temporary Hit Points equal to your Wisdom Modifier plus your Monk level whenever you reduce a creature to 0 HP.
3rd level Monks also get Deflect Missiles, letting you use your reaction to reduce the damage taken from a ranged weapon attack equal to 1d10 plus your Dexterity Modifier and Monk level. If this damage is reduced to 0, then you can spend a ki point to throw it back at the enemy.
Bouncing over to Cleric for a few levels, as you are of the Shinto faith. We’ll go with Grave Cleric, as it deals with life, death, and easing spirits, and is much more morally sound than Death Cleric. You get Circle of Mortality, letting you heal the maximum amount whenever you cast a healing spell to restore someone from 0 HP, and you learn the Spare the Dying Cantrip, which you can cast as a bonus action and has a 30 foot range. You also get Eyes of the Grave, letting you detect undead such as the Ganma within 60 feet of you as an action an amount of times per long rest equal to your Wisdom modifier.
For your Cantrips, Guidance and Resistance are excellent for helping out your friends, giving them a d4 to add to Ability Checks and Saving Throws, respectively, and Thaumaturgy is useful to give your attacks and transformations special effects. For your spells, you can prepare an amount of spells equal to your Cleric level plus your Wisdom modifier, so 4. Take Protection from Evil and Good, Cure Wounds, Shield of Faith, and Sanctuary. You also get the spells Bane and False Life from the Grave Domain List.
2nd Level Clerics get Channel Divinity once per short or long rest that you can use for 3 different effects. Turn Undead lets you use your action to force Wisdom saves on Undead creatures within 30 feet of you, and on a failure, they’re forced to run away from you. Harness Divine Power lets you use a bonus action to regain a spell slot of a level equal to half your proficiency bonus. Lastly, as a Grave Cleric, you can use Channel Divinity for Path to the Grave, letting you use an Action to mark a creature within 30 feet of you, and having them take twice as much damage from any attack they receive, perfect for setting up a finisher. For your spell at this Level, take Healing Word.
Back to Monk, 4th Level Monks get an Ability Score Improvement or a Feat. Take the Eldritch Adept Feat for the Mask of Many Faces Eldritch Invocation, letting you cast Disguise Self at will so you can transform. Alternatively, if you have an item like the Hat of Disguise that already lets you do that, then take the Weapon Master feat for +1 to Strength and proficiency in 4 Martial Weapons of your choice to better represent the GanGun Saber and its other forms.
5th Level Monks get a pretty big power spike. First, you get Extra Attack, letting you Attack twice in one turn, or 4 with Flurry of Blows. Second, you get Stunning Strike, letting you spend a Ki point when you attack to force a Constitution saving throw of 8 plus your Proficiency bonus and Wisdom modifier. On a failure, they are stunned until the end of your next turn, giving advantage on all attack rolls against them. Third, you get the option of Focused Aim, letting you spend 1-3 ki points when you miss an attack roll, adding +2 to the roll for every point spent to better guarantee your punches land. Lastly, your Martial Arts die increases to a d6 for slightly stronger hits.
6th Level Monks get Ki-Empowered Strikes, making your unarmed attacks Magical. 6th Level Long Death Monks get Hour of Reaping, letting you use your action to force Wisdom saving throws on creatures within 30 feet of you. On a failure, they are frightened of you until your next turn.
7th Level Monks get Evasion, meaning when you make a Dexterity Saving throw to avoid taking damage, you take no damage on a success, and only half as much on a failure. You also get Stillness of Mind, letting you use your action to end an effect of Charmed or Frightened on yourself.
8th Level Monks get another Ability Score Improvement. Bump your Dexterity for better AC and damage.
9th Level Monks get Unarmored Movement Improvement, letting you run up walls and on water as long as you end your turn on stable ground.
10th Level Monks get Purity of Body, making you immune to poison and disease. Your Unarmored Movement also increases to 20 feet.
11th Level Long Death Monks obtain Mastery of Death, letting you spend a Ki point whenever you drop to 0 HP to instead drop to 1 HP. This has no limitations as long as you have Ki points to spend, so while you may have died many times throughout the show, your plot armor and will to live will constantly keep you up. Your martial Arts die also increases to a D8.
12th Level Monks get another Ability Score Improvement. Cap your Dexterity for better AC and the hardest punches.
13th Level Monks get Tongue of the Sun and Moon, letting you understand and speak all languages. The power of friendship and kindness transcends all linguistic barriers.
14th Level Monks get Diamond Soul, giving you proficiency with all saving throws, as your power becomes great enough to excel in almost all situations. Your Unarmored Movement also increases to 25 feet.
15th Level Monks get Timeless Body, meaning you no longer suffer the frailty of old age. Your resurrection basically kept you forever 18.
16th Level Monks get our last Ability Score Improvement. Bump up your Wisdom for better AC and Ki save DC, as well as another Cleric spell you can prepare. Take the spell Command.
17th Level Long Death Monks get Touch of the Long Death, letting you use an action to touch a creature and spend anywhere from 1-10 ki points. That creature must make a Constitution saving throw or take 2d10 Necrotic damage per ki point spent on a failure, half as much on a success. Combine this with Channel Divinity and watch the numbers go up. Your Martial Arts die also increases one more time to a d10.
Our Capstone is the 18th Level of Monk, and you can now have your Mugen Damashii with Empty Body, letting you spend 4 Ki points as an action to turn invisible and giving you resistance to all but Force damage for 1 minute. Keep in mind that being Invisible gives you advantage on attack rolls and enemies disadvantage on attacks against you. You can also spend 8 ki points to cast the Astral Projection spell on yourself to truly venture into the spirit realm. Lastly, your Unarmored Movement increases one more time to 30 feet.
Now that we’ve hit Level 20, let’s go over the strengths of this build. First, you are slippery and hard to take down with 19 AC, Evasion, proficiency in all saving throws, and Empty Body, with Mastery of Death keeping you up in the fight. You also can dish out a crazy amount of damage with Path to the Grave and Touch of the Long Death, dealing upwards of 220 average damage with 10 ki points spent. Lastly, you have some good low-level Cleric spells to help support your team.
For weaknesses, you can burn through your Ki Points very quickly, especially as a Long Death Monk. Between Flurry of Blows, Mastery of Death, Focused Aim, Empty Body, and Touch of the Long Death, 18 can easily become 0 before you know it. You also have below-average HP for a frontline fighter at around 143 average, meaning that despite your resistances and evasion, enough damage can still bring you down. In addition, you also have only three 1st level spell slots and 1 use of Channel Divinity per day, so you need to use them wisely. Last, but not least, you're playing a fairly barebones build. Outside of your subclass features, you’re basically playing a standard Monk with a few spells and immortality tricks, which I guess is poetic given that Ghost is a fairly barebones season. It’s not terrible by any means, just not as feature-heavy as other builds.

This is a long one so I don’t know if it’ll stay but I hope it does.
When I was 14 I met an 18 year old online. At the time I had little to no friends in real life and spent all of my time on the internet. We started dating shortly after I turned 15 and he 19. I feel disgusted from even writing all of this down, but I stayed in a relationship with him for 3 and a half years until I graduated high school. I have ASD, so I had grown extremely attached to him as he gaslit me into telling my parents were hating me and I should come to Canada to visit him instead of vice versa (22 year old adult saying this to an 18 year old btw.) I was so obsessed and blinded I couldn’t leave him and kept trying to contact him despite him telling me no.
In between this, he tried to pursue my in real life best friend and told me to back off because they were “made for each other and she comforted him better than I ever did in our relationship”. She blocked him later on and felt creeped out by him.
After I sent a long angry message to him last year, he broke the no contact out of guilt for what he did to me but wanted to keep our relationship purely distant and only use me for 18+ pictures (yes he did ask for these ever since I was 15 and still did) because “it was the only thing I was good at”. He called me a stalker to his other friend for me struggling to let him go, and when we did stop talking last year it was because he got scared my parents would call the cops on him.
I’ve turned 20 recently and although it’s been almost a year, I still feel disappointment, anger, frustration and all these emotions. I went to a therapist, made amends with my family after being a terrible daughter and learned my lesson. I even have a wonderful boyfriend who’s the same age as me and helps me out with everything.
But I still want revenge on him and I still feel so wronged. He’s just out there roaming free, maybe even hurting other girls.
I’m sorry to anyone who had to read my terrible life, and I’m sorry if this has happened to anyone else. Every day I wish I could turn back time and block him for good. But I was a naive young teen who thought he was the one.

I (19F) and my ex-friend aimee (17F) knew each other on a school trip almost two years ago. We were seatmates and we easily got along, and seeing that the trip was really long, we ended up talking about a lot of things and even shared with each other who our crushes were lol. Since that day, we've been talking daily non-stop, and i even felt comfortable to send her voice messages all the time (for context, i'm autistic so i find it hard to get that comfortable with ppl, so this shows how comfortable i was around her). Ever since we became friends we always planned to go to the beach together during summer (we live in a place were there aren't any beaches nearby) and we always talked about it. She had this other friend laura, 16F, whom she usually went out with, but always bragged to me about how this friend of hers would go out with her as an excuse to meet her boyfriend secretly, and to even bring her other friends along who weren't close with aimee, so it got really annoying fer her. And even on her last birthday, (we weren't friends at the time) aimee made plans with laura and she stood her up last minute, for no serious reason. She just woke up and didn't feel like going out with aimee, didn't even tell her that the plans were canceled and just didn't reply to her texts/calls when it came around the time of their plans. That was all for context, now for the real story. During the first summer we were friends, we couldn't find a chance to actually go to the beach like we planned, as i worked from 2pm to 1am and only got home around 4am (it took 3h to get home every night, but that's another story). Mind you we still talked every night and i'd even reply to her sometimes during my shift when my boss wasn't looking. Now for last summer, i was working too for the same hours. However, i collected the money i needed for buying the things i was saving for, so i was quitting around mid july, which meant we could go to the beach around that time. I still live with my parents so i was working just to get extra money i could spend on myself. Anyway, i told aimee about that, and she was really excited about it, and told she'd ask her parents and tell me when she's allowed to go. I on the other hand, my parents agreed and i was literally just waiting for her to update me. Long story short, she never did. But first of all, there's another detail you should know about. I caught her lying to me about being single, and as i said, crushes were literally the first subject we talked about, and we always talk about boys. She was a flirty pretty girl, and i had guys flirting with me too, so we always had something to talk about. I noticed that we haven't talked about such subjects for almost 2 months but whenever i brought it up she would dismiss me and tell me that she just didn't like anyone at the time, and i wouldn't push it because i was at work. However, once we were talking and she slipped and told me that her mother likes her boyfriend and that she approves of their relationship and i was like- huh? What boyfriend? She tried to change the subject but eventually told me that she's been dating this guy online since may, and now he was coming to her house so they could meet after being together for three monthes.i was shocked to say the least, and that made me lose interest of the whole situation. I didn't even ask for his name, how they met, or anything that i used to ask about. And she didn't even tell me herself. That night was awkward. So i just changed the subject and asked if she got approval from her parents to go to the beach, and she said that she was working on it. About a week later, i went to the mall and spent the day there with my mom, i got new clothes and we had lunch and dinned out,, it was a lovely day. But for some reason, aimee wasn't replying to my texts all day, but i shrugged it off thinking she was busy. When i got home around 9pm, i sent her a lot of voice messages telling her about my day, describing what i baught, ect. Then i saw that she had a story posted. And when i opened it, it was a boomerang of her and laura in bikinis, and i thought they went to the pool nearby, aimee always went there. And so i replied to her story asking about her day and made jokes and stuff, normal best friend behaviour. But to my surprise, she said that it wasn't the pool, they went to the beach together. And that hit me like a brick wall. I pointed out how it was always OUR plan to go there together, her excuse was, that her parents woke her up early that day around 6am, and told her that she can go to the beach. She didn't find me online so instead of waking me up or smthng, (we live close to each other) she decided to text laura and invite her instead. That honestly broke me, because for me going to the beach was like a special promise in our friendship. I asked her why didn't she try waking me up instead? She did that in the last so why didn't she do it this time? Plus, i went to the mall around 10am, and it wasn't planned in advance i just woke up and felt like going, so i asked my mom to come with me and help me with picking out clothes, to spend some quality time with her. I was talking calmly at first, but aimee had the audacity to tell me that she forgot about our plan, and didn't think much of it. So at that point i was practically yelling at her, telling her that she's lying, and that if she didn't wanna gp out with me she could've just told me and i'd be okay with it, there was no need to hide that from me. And to make it even worse, she stopped replying and went offline. I couldn't believe it. She didn't even apologise for what she did. I'm not saying that i should be her only friend, and if she told me i would've gone to the mall another day. But talking shit to me about laura all the time and then going with her to the destination we always planned to go to together?? That was it for me. I decided to cut her off. Oh and the next morning, she didn't even reply to my texts, and just sent "good morning" as if everything was over, she thought i'd let it slide. I never replied, and she unsent it a few hours later, and blocked me after a week lol. Anyway, AITA for cutting her off because she hid stuff from me and going out with someone else to the place we always talked about?

Me M29 and her F29 were together for 13yrs has seem to have lost herself in our relationship. We've had some issues along the way but we have mostly had lovely times together. I'm going to be honest and start from the beginning.
We was teenagers when we got together and close pretty quickly. We moved in together at 18yrs and been together ever since. I had some suspicions she cheated on me when we was 18yrs and i finally found out 4 years later and it was evidence she couldn't deny this time and she admitted it.
It seriously damaged me as I had kind of knew she had done and was lying to me making me out to be going crazy for them years I ended up on depression medication, I couldn't sleep as was having the worst of nightmares nearly every night. I lost certain friends and family because they thought I was going crazy and coming across as controlling when in fact I was just worrying and it turned out I was right to have been.
I never controlled her she lived as freely as she wanted to, I never harassed her but would often question things or where she was. Once I found out I had begged her to leave me and get out of my home. She refused to leave she had no where to go and was begging me to not break up.
Some days passed and I didn't forgive her but I gave it another chance not realizing the damage it had caused me and how it would affect my life in the future. I am the more of the initiator in the relationship she is very laid back and takes the back seat in romance, choices and decisions. At this time I gave her another chance out of pure love which some may say I'm stupid but I seriously love this girl with all my heart, life seems unbearable without her.
Once I have her another chance I started to realize the damage it caused me when I couldn't socialize properly, lost my job and struggled to gain the confidence to find another. I avoided family gatherings funerals, outings, and I soon found myself in a hole because I couldn't trust her enough to go out on my own without her but loved her to much to get her removed from my home. She went out to her family gatherings and I never once stopped her doing anything on her own. I had her family and my family and our friends blame me for this as none of them knew anything and thought I was uncaring towards them, controlling and all the rest of it. As I chose to protect her image over mine by hiding the truth of what happened to me.
So over the coming years things got worse for me. I went to the doctors and got put on 3 different types of medication over the years as well as counseling. As I thought I was going crazy but deep down I knew she was lying. The 4 years of lying to my face and watching me deteriorate as a person from her lies, losing our family members and friends respect my sleepless nights and bad dreams, looking me dead in the eye and swearing on anything she could that she was telling the truth damaged me more than the cheating did itself.
I felt like I weren't a good enough man for her or for anyone. Why would she cheat on me I asked myself a lot. She never admitted why to me just said she don't know why. I tried killing myself I didn't want to live I couldn't sleep I lost loads of weight self respect my career and my ambitions everything.
She didn't even try to show she was sorry or try to take control and make me feel special in any way. Even after what she did she never changed a thing. My problems and pain intensifies over the years and I started to lose self respect and my limits and some arguments became toxic to the point we was shouting at each other calling names etc. And because of this I became a very depressed man. And to deal with this over the years I smoked a lot of cannabis and hideaway at home.
During our whole relationship even through the pain and lies I was romantic, affectionate and caring and very thoughtful. Treat her like a princess everyday, gave her the best to everything I ever could from the small things to the big things made sure she came before me.
After a few years of battling my demons and pain and depression things slowly started to get better and I was able to sleep, eat and socialize again not perfect but was getting a lot better. And out of nowhere she became pregnant with our first child. Very unexpected as we used contraception but It changed our lives and we both quit smoking cold turkied on the spot turned out lives around. And I got another job and leanrt to fully trust my partner again and felt like I had meaning to live again once more and things became near enough perfect the day we found out.
Life felt great everything felt normal I stopped worrying completely. Quit smoking and was sleeping and generally felt a lot better in myself and felt like finally forgave her. We ended up with another child and then another one and we ended up with 3 Children. Which our youngest is now a toddler And believe it or not all three of our children were conceived on 3 different types of contraception.
Over a year ago I started running my own business, learned to drive while she was a stay at home mum. I'd leave for work at 06:45 in the morning I came home from work every day at 14:00. The minute I got in I'd take care of the kids, playing with them, collect from school, cooking, cleaning, bathing, nappy changing, absolutely everything 50/50 until they go to bed then I'd help tidy up and wouldn't sit down to myself until around 21:00
I always said to her I wouldn't be able to provide for you all if you didn't spend all day looking after our children while I worked. We shared the money not one thing wasn't both of ours.
A lot of things weren't getting done around the home while I was out working and It didn't bother me most of the time and I don't expect nothing to be done for me and also don't ask for anything to be done for me. But sometimes I'd mention things. She would react badly to this and I'd soon feel bad for saying anything. For example one of our children was sick on the bedroom floor And it hadn't been cleaned up in 2 days. Rooms wouldn't get cleaned for weeks on end until I cleaned them. Clothes built up to a mountain on our bedroom floor until I had enough and done them myself while she would be sat there watching TV in the evening.
We started to argue because of these issues and iv felt like I'm too scared to mention absolutely anything that bothers me or she would just turn and push me to the point I swore or called her a name and that is what it would all then be about and then my original issue wouldnt get spoke about after that point.
And then out of the blue she recently broke up with me at 6 in the morning, claiming we argue too much and she has had enough. Which I think we hardly argued few times a year maybe. And it was never in front of the kids and was only verbal and nasty stuff would get said.
So I spent over a week trying to get her to not break up with me until she said things will be okay let's move home and start a fresh, so I sold my business and prepared to move our family for a fresh start.
Over the next week she has since gone back on her word and gone back and forth saying she never getting back with me to we will sort things. It's been a month now she sleeps downstairs hasn't kissed me since the break up. Iv been in a right state because of this iv felt my heart has been turned inside out multiple times one minute I think it's okay to the next my heart's in my stomach thinking my life's ended.
I'm unsure what to do about it as this family is absolutely everything to me and my boys future really matters to me as I broke up in a split family and hated it. Should I leave her with the children or should I try kick her out or do I do what I want to do and is to keep begging her to sort this out. I'm slowly deteriorating and going mentally numb. I'm losing myself and I don't feel like I'm connected to life anymore and worried I'm going to
Was I wrong for staying with her? Was I right for putting it all behind me for our babies sake when she was pregnant? Was I wrong for mentioning the issues I had with the home? Was I right for selling my business. Am I wrong for wanting to stay and beg for this family to work out of love? I just don't know anymore.

Okay, before you judge the title, my husband, 30M and I 25F have been married for 3 years. We don’t have anything in common, we don’t get along, our intimacy is mid and our personalities are complete opposites and not in a good way. In the way that we agitate one another on a daily basis, but it’s more me getting frustrated than him. I made the mistake of marrying him 3 months after he proposed and after only dating him for 6 months. It all happened so fast, I was young and felt pressured with the community I’m surrounded by. I know now that the love I had for him wasn’t fully me being in love, but me loving the idea of our love. He’s an amazing guy & truly deserves the best. He’s head over heels for me and treats me like a queen, but there are just fundamentals that we cannot align on & honestly my feelings are valid… I love him so much, but like a friend would love a friend. Not a husband love a wife. I know his feelings are going to be hurt, feel betrayed and he will hate me. I’m prepared for that, and I know I am the one who is in the wrong because I said yes in the first place, but how can I approach the conversation where I’m not being aggressive, or come off being hateful? I need to make this process as painless as possible for him. Help.

"Sammy!" Gus's voice cut through the chatter of the dimly lit bar.
The tall, sharply dressed man swiftly made his way to Gus's table. "Gus?"
"You got any smokes?" Gus's request was direct.
Sammy reached into his pants pocket, retrieving a carton of cigarettes. With a deft movement, he opened the lid and offered one to Gus.
"Thanks." Gus accepted the cigarette, placing it between his lips.
"You're welcome, Gus," Sammy replied before heading back to the bar.
"Wait, Sammy..."
Sammy paused a few steps away, turning to face Gus.
"You got a light?"
"Sure, Gus." Sammy returned to the table, producing a lighter from his pocket and igniting Gus's cigarette.
"Thanks." Gus took a drag, the tip glowing orange in the dimness.
"You're welcome, Gus." Sammy retreated to the bar once more.
"Where the hell is Vinny?" Gus turned to Tony, who was meticulously counting cash at the table.
"He said he had to deal with something for Mikey Sacks."
"Since when does he cozy up to Mikey S?" Gus questioned, exhaling smoke.
"I don't know," Tony replied, still engrossed in counting. "He said it was urgent and-"
"Joey!" Gus's face lit up as a young man entered the bar. He rose from the table, arms outstretched.
"Get over here, kid."
Joey approached, reciprocating Gus's embrace. Gus planted a paternal kiss on Joey's head before gesturing for him to sit.
"How you been?"
"I'm alright, Uncle Gus," Joey replied, taking a seat.
"I thought you ditched us, kid?" Tony extended his hand to Joey.
"Aw, c'mon, Uncle Tony," Joey grinned, shaking Tony's hand. "How could I forget about you guys?" His gaze turned to Vinny's empty seat. "Where's Uncle V?"
"That's the question of the hour, kid," Gus remarked.
"That's a lot of dough, Uncle Tony. Who'd you shake down?" Joey's eyes flicked to the piles of cash on the table.
"Hey, watch it, kid," Gus retorted with a smirk. "I'm a legitimate businessman here. No shaking down involved."
"Yeah, sure, Uncle G," Joey chuckled, a playful glint in his eyes.
"What brings you to the world-famous Pinucci's Pizzeria?" Gus inquired with a grin. "Don't tell me you need money," he added playfully.
"Nah, I was actually looking for some advice," Joey replied.
"If advice is what you're after, then you've come to the right place," Tony chimed in, taking a brief break from counting cash.
"Uhm..." Joey hesitated, glancing at Tony. "I was kinda hoping Uncle G could help me this time."
Gus let out a hearty laugh. "Keep counting, Tony," he said, waving off Tony's offer of assistance, who chuckled to himself and resumed counting.
"What's the matter, Joe?" Gus inquired, attempting to take a drag from his already extinguished cigarette before discarding it on the floor.
"Well..." Joey began, "I met this girl..."
"Wait," Gus interrupted, his attention drawn to a commotion outside the window.
"Is that Vinny?" Gus pointed towards the window.
"Shit," Tony muttered as he swiftly rose from the table and headed to the door.
"Marty, Lefty," Gus called out to two men sitting at the bar, who immediately turned their attention towards him.
Gus gestured towards the disturbance outside as he followed Tony out the door.
The two men from the bar swiftly rose and followed Gus and Tony outside. As they emerged onto the street, they were met with a grim sight—Vinny on the ground, being assaulted by a group of attackers. At the sight of Gus and his companions, the assailants scattered in the opposite direction down the street. Marty and Lefty chased after them briefly before returning to the scene.
"Oh my God, Vinny," Gus exclaimed, rushing to his friend's side. "Can you hear me?"
Vinny, conscious but unable to speak, laid on the ground, his clothes stained with blood and his usually impeccable hair now disheveled and dirtied.
"Tony, get the car!" Gus ordered urgently.
Tony dashed off to retrieve the vehicle.
"Joey, help me lift him," Gus instructed.
Together, Gus and Joey carefully lifted Vinny from the ground.
"Marty, Lefty!" Gus called out to the men who were returning. "Hurry up!"
The two men quickened their pace, jogging back to join Gus and the others.
Soon, Tony pulled up to the curb in the car. One of the men opened the rear door, while the other assisted in getting Vinny into the vehicle.

I (21f) live in a house off campus with several other women. One of them has a ESA dog, a pretty big girl, and is completely neglecting and mistreating it, which is awful to see, and damaging the property by not caring for the dog. The housemate lives in the smallest room in the house and is gone pretty much all day, coming back maybe once in the afternoon to take the dog on a quick walk or in our backyard for ten mins. Otherwise she leaves at 6 in the morning and gets back at 10 at night, and showers for a half hour immediately when she gets home before going to see the dog. She gives it no affection, and we even have a pretty big backyard and she only lets her into a small area of it. The worst thing is that the dog has accidents in the room (both pee and poop) and the owner will let it sit for literal days. It’s fucking disgusting. The only reason I found out is because I convinced the owner (after weeks of asking) to let me take her outside while she’s gone, and I’ve seen this. I immediately called my landlord and animal control. Animal control deemed it not a drastic enough case to do anything except have the owner call them, which she won’t do. The landlord told her guarantor that they will be responsible for any damages that come from animal waste soaking through her floor into the subfloor. She’s impossible to communicate with, literally refuses to talk unless I can accost her in the house.
I’m doing the best I can to give this pup a comfortable life while I’m still in the same house with her. I have her outside multiple hours a day, play fetch, give her water, give her plenty of love, and even some treats. She is such a sweet dog with sooo much energy (the owner is a runner and doesn’t even take the dog with her!!!) and idk how she isn’t more scared of people but she’s so lovely and would make a great family dog.
I want to find a new home for her so badly but there aren’t any shelters that could pick her up or I could drop her off at. I also don’t know is she’s chipped. This is absolutely breaking my heart, especially as someone who’s had dogs growing up.
A lesson to you all, especially those starting to look at housing. Don’t live with anyone with an indoor dog unless you really know them and know it’ll be a good enough living situation for it. This especially sucks for me and my housemates who have to live with it. This is also the reason why places have no pet policies, people are abusing the ESA title and it’s tarnishing the concept for anyone who really needs an animal.

I (20f) became friends with J (20f) back in high school, drifted apart (though we kinda sorta stayed in touch) and then reunited.
For context —: We drifted apart because my mental health went wibbly wobbly, and I talked about it to her and then she kinda started not picking up my calls, she would say she was busy or sleeping, I took the hint, it's fair she didn't want to hear about it, she didn't really reach out, she texted and I replied whenever she did, though those texts were few, and after I stopped initiating she did too and yeah.
We reconnected, I knew she was in a relationship with this guy T(27M), their relationship is toxic at least from what I've been told by her and what I've seen, she met him when she was fifteen or sixteen? He gave mixed signals to her, rejected her but still stayed in contact, she stopped talking to him for a bit, throughout our friendship she wasn't in contact with him, after we reconnected, they were together, they got together after he realised he won't get a girl who loves him like she does, his words apparently. She started telling stuff about their relationship like fights that they had, and to surmise he has anger issues, she has a short temper too, he bangs his head or hand on wall, she throws stuff in anger, he has raised his hand on his sis once, she told me that, after his sis kept badmouthing J and he was on an important call.
After all that when they had a fight, and she asked for my advice I told her that this doesn't seem healthy and his anger makes me worried for her, what if he raised his hand on her? She's adamant he would never. Also, after she told me about the sis thing, she sorta said something that sounded like she was defending what he did, she said she would have reacted the same if it happened to her, that's not what she would have said, the girl I knew wouldn't have.
Recently, she told me she kissed her guy best friend (20M), well at first she told me he tried to kiss her, I've told her not to talk to him after she told me he has feelings for her, she stops talking to him for a bit then starts again, feels guilty as he doesn't have friends, after she told me he tried to kiss her many times, I got worried, telling her it's harrasment to kiss her even after she said no, she felt guilty and told me they'd kissed, many times, but she hasn't done that again, I told her she should tell T, she said she can't because he would explode and drag everyone as well as cops and it sounded scary enough that her safety is threatened, so I told her she shouldn't stay with a guy like that, and breakup for other reasons, she said she can't because she loves him and that they've finally sorted everything out. She's still in contact with the guy friend.
I've also noticed that her texts when she's fighting with T or guy friend are more compared to when she's not fighting and stuff, I feel like she only talks to me when she wants to vent, which is fine, but I feel exhausted, she asks for advice then discards it after, and all that stuff is making me think she's not who she was before. We used to talk about anything back then, and I also feel weird about her still being with T and staying friends with her guy friend.
I've also noticed that her texts when she's fighting with T or guy friend are more compared to when she's not fighting and stuff, I feel like she only talks to me when she wants to vent, which is fine, but I feel exhausted, she asks for advice then discards it after, and all that stuff is making me think she's not who she was before. We used to talk about anything back then, and I also feel weird about her still being with T and staying friends with her guy friend.
Wibta if I go low contact? I don't want to stop talking to her because I worry for her because of T. I'm not going to say anything to her now because her tests are coming and I don't want her to feel bad or overthink, but after her exams should I tell her how I feel?
Edit —: I know more can be added in there, but it would make the post too long, I'll try to answer questions you guys might have, I just want to see more opinions then I'll delete this account. Thankyou.

Forgive me for the initial ambiguity. I am not certain how to proceed, I just know that I have been given the green light to share this initial post. Take it for what it is:
Far too many are spending too much time and energy trying to solve a problem they don’t even have the right set of integers. It is quite literally impossible. Have you not ever wondered why great researchers who spend thousands of hours cannot land on anything concrete ?
Men and women have dedicated their life to figuring out the connections between the anomalous, to ultimately give up, or they ran out of time on this mortal coil. God forbid someone stumble onto the truth, and then conveniently get suicided. All of this connected, and really that is the point: Connection.
Currently, our government has spent trillions to solve this problem and to figure out who they are in bed with, and still they are in the dark. But many of them are okay with that as long as their pockets keep filling. See, for the Problem, existing in the shadows is their identity. The Problem excels in confusion and chaos. In drawing someone in just enough to keep them digging, but then driving them mad by having them feel around in the dark.
It is like Humanity is in a dark room. A big room, like a warehouse. And we are in the pitch black trying to find the light switch. Only, when someone gets too close, they either get turned the other direction, get tripped up, get locked up, or get gone. All the while, a few have on night vision goggles and orchestrate all the aimless wondering. Every once in a while, the searcher will stumble across a technology that pushes them towards the light switch, to then be thrown off course and continue to walk around aimlessly. In the pitch black, when someone “discovers” something, the others wondering around will begin to flock to that glimmer, to then be sidelined once again because the Problem loves to move large numbers of people towards an objective. It is a frustrating process and one that will continue until the lights are turned on.
However, many of our best and brightest have been co-opted to keep anyone and everyone from knowing the truth. They have falsely believed that those who desire to bring them to ruin are their allies. Over the years, many have woken up to the idea that maybe these NHI ‘friendlies’ aren’t friendly after all. Others have been so enthralled with the ‘gifts’ given to humanity, that they dismiss the possibility of these NHI’s are anything but benevolent.
Many of these “gifts” are found. In fact, all of the originals were found. How does that make sense? Pretend you are having an Easter egg hunt (not religiously speaking), and it is a grand ole time. Fast forward 5 days and you are out in the yard cutting the grass and you see a glimmer in the grass. Turns out, even though 5 days have passed, that egg is sitting where you left it. This is a very simple way of looking at it, but this is how the retrieval process began.
Many days (or ages) ago, objects were lost. Today, because of they know where the eggs are hidden, they can lead people to discover. Once discovered, the craft were studied and used to further our existence. Nowadays, the craft could be old that we discover, or it could be craft that are actually man-made, under the tutelage of NHI. The NHI can not easily manufacture in our dimension, so they tap the humans that best serve their purpose.
This can happen within an entity like the Armed Forces or a part of the Military Industrial Complex. This can also be done through organizations that we don’t readily know the name of, for example, have you ever heard of the Sonora Aero Club? Most have not, however, in the United States, this group was one of the first to be co-opted for a mission that they had no clue they were on. It makes me nervous to even write this, but we must try to find some semblance of light if we are going to make it out of this warehouse in one piece.
Men like David Grusch are diligent in their search, however, they will never be able to put the pieces together until they back up enough to see the Problem. Until it is diagnosed, we will look at pieces of a puzzle without having the box as a reference picture. The pieces of the puzzle: UAP, NHI, cattle mutilations, paranormal, etc etc, can’t be looked at as different problems—— they are the Problem.
There are entirely too many components for us to break down each in one post, but please just suspend skepticism for a minute and read this last part as if it were true:
There is an underlying glue to all things. A thread that ties us all together. In other dimensions (for lack of a better word), this thread can be woven together by groups of people having a similar idea, ideology intention, hope, fear, or sadness. Each individual thread, being part of the whole, is assembled into whatever dominates that person’s mind at that juncture. I know this sounds wild, but just imagine. Therefore, a group can be woven into a blanket that provides warmth and safety, or into a noose which could spell the end to all things. The Problem’s agenda is the latter. However, the people that are part of the Problem believe that they are making a blanket. This is why it is so hard to get people to see it for what it is: because it would mean humbling yourself and realizing that you have actually been working in the noose factory. Few people can admit their folly. Even fewer people can see they are part of the Problem because their pockets are stuffed or their power is enormous. The Problem is not stupid nor lazy, it will give you anything and everything it can to reel you in, because when the day comes, you will be tapped to do something you don’t want to do, but you must. That is part of being in bed with them, they control you.
That is all I have in me currently to share. I know that people will roll eyes, scratch heads, or dismiss completely. I am okay with that. I am not trying to sell you anything, just report on what I know to be true. I may share again, but I will answer questions best I know how. I leave you with 2 quotes:
“We’ll know our disinformation program is complete when everything the US public believes is false” -CIA Director, William J Casey, 1981
“The last card is the alien card. They will build space-based weapons against aliens, and it is all a lie.” -Werner Von Braun, 1974-1977
PS- if you ask about specific anomalies, ie. crop circles, I may only have a theory as to "why" because I don't have information on everything. But it is ALL part of ONE problem.

I [24M] started this new job at the beginning of the year, and so far it's been an absolute blast. I can't go into detail, but it's safety critical, and I'm consistently interacting with people of all ages. Everyone who works with me is super awesome, and I've made a lot of really good friends so far.
One of my coworkers, I'll call her C [22F], started around when I did. C and I got to know each other a bit, and even spent a little time outside of work together. It was 100% platonic. After a couple months, I got a bit of a work crush on her. I tried to push it away because 1. we had religious/personal differences that simply wouldn't make a relationship work, 2. I didn't want to mess up the friendship, and 3. I heard her mention in passing that workplace relationships were off the table for her.
Long story short, I tried to spend more time with C outside of work and she got more and more distant until we had a talk and she admitted to knowing about my thoughts, and she let me down easy. She said she's been "talking" with someone outside of work, and that she didn't want to "emotionally cheat." Since then, things have been extremely weird between us, and it's been devastating since it feels like 4 months of friendship is just gone because I got some feelings.
During that time, I was talking with another coworker, I'll refer to her as B [25F] about the situation. B listened and gave some good insights on the situation. Ultimately she was even there for me when I got let down, and all the aftermath that followed. And now since C and I haven't spent much time together, I've been talking with and hanging out with B more. It's now been a month since the conversation with C, and while things haven't really improved between us, B and I have definitely gotten closer.
Unfortunately, one of my top "love languages" or whatever is "Quality Time" , so there's just something in my brain that when a girl spends time with me, I start to develop a crush. I am already starting to see one develop with B, and the LAST thing I want is to have another situation where I lose a friend because my brain chemicals can't keep things straight. I would really like some advice on how to navigate this situation, whether that be how to gauge whether it would actually be healthy to pursue a further relationship with B, or if there's some way to adjust my mindset so I can keep the friendship I have.
TLDR - I [24M] developed feelings for a friend/coworker [22F] and it went poorly. Other friend/coworker [25F] helped me through that, and I'm starting to getting feelings for her, but I don't want to lose another friendship by making the same mistake and need advice on what my next step should be, and if I even should take one.

I work for a very reputable company and I owe it to my manager, who had to fight hard to get me in her team. It was an internal move from one country to another. I've been there for a year now and I'm considered as a top performer within my department. When I joined, my team consisted of my manager, a senior associate & 2 associates (myself & another girl). The girl left 4 months after I joined as she was never fit for the role.
In the same month, my manager hired another girl from abroad after she apparently got good feedback about her and also due to the fact that she was readily available. However, she has been a disaster. Initially the senior analyst & myself thought she was gonna catch up as she struggled with English (which is not her first language). But after nearly a year now and English lessons sponsored by the company, she understands absolutely nothing about the business. English does not seem to be the problem as for someone who holds a double-major and is a finance person, she does not understand simple financial terms like financial year, budgeting, forecasting etc.
The thing is that she just wants to get the job done and has no interest in learning about what it is she is doing. Everything she just does mechanically and by watching handover videos and once something new comes up, she won't use her brain to try to understand the query but instead she'll just ask me or the senior analyst. Every month she asks us the same questions. There are certain things that are so easy that I know for a fact if I had taught the peon at work how to do that, after a few months he'd do it right by himself.
She has probably a quarter or less of the workload that the senior analyst and myself do and she spends a minimum of 2 working hours on her phone everyday. Sometimes she'd even spend 4-5 hours. Unfortunately the seating arrangement is such that the manager doesn't see her, even when she isn't at her desk.
Coming to my manager now, she is really someone I look up to. She's the best manager I've ever had and I'm truly growing a lot more under her. She's somebody who's always been factual and like to listen to both side of a story. She believes that people don't make mistake on purpose and whenever somebody messes up, depending how big the mistake is she might get annoyed and say some mean things but once it's fixed, she forgets about it and moves on. However, she's really really showing signs of poor decision-making by how she's handling that girl. Even though the senior analyst & myself firmly believe that she knows about the incompetency of our colleague, it seems like she's trying to turn a blind eye to it. It seems like she's accepted the fact that this girl can't do much and she's giving the big responsibilities to the 2 of us only.
This girl acts like a child and somehow I feel like my manager is convinced that she is one when in reality we are all the same age (29). She's so childish/stupid, that recently we were in a meeting and the director was telling her that for the rest of year she won't have to send a particular report and she got so excited and started clapping her hands saying "Today is my day". For something that we would take 15-30mins to do, she'd take a whole day to do and most of the time it still wouldn't be completed or be done with mistakes.
But again, it seems like my manager is encouraging all of this is because rather than giving her a reality check, she's doing things that encouraging her to be even lazier. For example, yesterday she gave her a particular report to do. This would have taken the senior analyst or myself max 20mins to do. She took the whole day and did it wrong. So the manager told the senior analyst to check what's wrong. The latter worked out the whole thing from scratch and showed our colleague what she did wrong. She just attached the file and sent the email to the manager to inform her that the report is now correct. Even though the manager is very well aware that the senior analyst did everything, she responded on the email saying " Thank you Sarah, WELL DONE!"
Today my manager told me that from the start of the next financial year, which is in 2 months, she'd like me to take over one of her "complex" markets and give her one of my easiest. It wouldn't really be complex for me but again this is leading to a situation of unfairness where somebody with already less work is getting lesser work and someone with lots of work is getting additional work load.
We really don't know why our manager is being so lenient towards her, especially when she did give the previous girl who was also incompetent (but a 100 times better than the current one) quite a hard time. All of this is starting to build up to frustration. There's also this anger that we both feel when we're striving hard to deliver our tasks everyday and there she is, away from her desk or on the phone for hours.
I'd like to hear some advice from you people. Should we bring this up to the manager or not? And if yes, what's the best way to approach this?
Thanks

I moved across the country from a really bad home to live with my friends who’s a trans man and his mom. I’m so grateful for them helping me get on my feet. I got a boyfriend recently and it’s been utterly wonderful to finally start rebuilding myself a bit and finding outlets of joy but recently my best friend has started being SO snarky and dismissive of my bf and has been going to his mom to talk to her about him and me in a negative way. Reposting things online about how he hates hearing about a bf and he doesn’t want his friends bringing their bfs around him and it’s tacky.
For context I’m F20 my best friend is M18, I see my bf M22 about once a week. I’m sometimes on my phone texting around my best friend because my bf has a time consuming job so we do try and talk at nights or mornings which happens to be when my best friend is asleep but sometimes I do text my bf throughout the day for check ins.
While on the other hand my best friend is in a long distance relationship and is non stop on the phone or calls or anything actively ignoring me in the room. Just always on his phone non stop. I’ve let it slide because I know his partner brings him so much joy even though trying to speak to him it’s always about a fight they had or whatever.
The complaining started right after we spent 4 days (only during the day for a few hours) with my bf and my best friends other friends, at a convention.
When I say I’m going to see him I get eye rolls and overhear him complaining to his part er on the phone, his mom tells me to be basically more mindful of my friend, ect. This caused me to get defensive with his mom and ask why they make it sound like I’m bringing my bf over every day, blowing off plans, and constantly ignoring my best friend and his mom just said that’s between me and my friend. When asking him he just literally ignored me point blank and I’ve been quietly stewing about it.
I’ve spent a lot of time going out of my way to make my best friend know I’m there and caring and present when we hang out. I’m there for all his relationships issues and actively ask about his relationship because I know his partner makes him happy. I’m wondering what I can change to make him feel more seen and in touch with our friendship but it honestly hurts seeing him start reposting things online talking about leave your man at home no one wants him around and other things like that.
AITA for getting defensive over something I don’t think I’m in the wrong for? Am i unintentionally neglecting my closest friend?

Or is there any other age group/demographic that seems to have more beef with you than others? Sorry if this seems very generalizing, I’m just frustrated but I don’t judge all older women like this!
Idk if it’s something I do/don’t do, my mannerisms, the way I talk or whatever, but women around 45-60 very often seem to hate my guts like immediately after meeting me. I always assumed they maybe just felt that way about all young women, I think there are lots of older ladies who never grew out of the catty phase or are jealous of younger women for some reason. But I was thinking about this more and noticed that the ones who dislike me in particular almost band up with younger women who they approve of in a very mean girl, catty way. I’ve even felt like this with a therapist before, it’s hard to explain but she seemed to have a lot of ideas of what young women should be interested in and just seemed disappointed with the way I complained about “things that don’t actually effect” me.
It’s been an issue at work before at a company that fired me (this place also fires people regularly for being “not a good culture fit”). It’s weird because a lot of my supervisors and managers have been women in their 50’s and I’ve genuinely never had so many problems with any other age group. What kind of cultural values do they have that I could be offending? I don’t really know how to describe what causes them the conflict with me because it’s like an automatic dislike sometimes. I try to be friendly, ask only “good” questions and be respectful. It just seems like some women get offended and judgmental over the smallest things, but tolerate so much worse from other people they happen to like. I guess I’m also disappointed because I expect older women to be past pettiness, especially in a professional setting.

I (26M) and my fiancée (33M) are getting married next month. We’re both very excited and he’s been wonderfully supportive through all of this familial drama on my side of the family.
The wedding is in Nevada because that’s where my fiancés Dad lives and we love to go visit. We’re both in my fiancés home state of Michigan, however, I grew up in Arizona and moved after college. The remainder of my family has also migrated back to the Midwest and settled down in the past few years. Only my older brother still lives in Arizona.
For some context, I grew up in a fundie, homeschool family who were militantly pro-life/anti-gay kinda people growing up (think the Duggar’s, but with half as many kids). As we’ve gotten older, they’ve relaxed into the “Love the Sinner Hate the Sin” passive aggressive variety of Protestants. (My mother loudly referred to herself as an LGBTQ+ ally once, which is completely untrue based on an analysis of her Facebook wall).
My fiancé grew up in a much more kind and loving family who is awesome and completely loving and accepting of both of us.
We decided to ask one brother and one sister from each side to be our wedding party. My fiancé asked his older sister and brother who are awesome and kind people!
I asked my older sister and my older brother (not my oldest brother). I have an amazing relationship with my older sister (she is the most amazing human I know and is the one family member who I have no complicated feelings towards other than that she’s a badass). My older brother is closest to me I n age and our relationship has often been hot and cold, he’s recently leaned more into his conservative upbringing beliefs which has led to a prolonged cold period.
I mentioned it to him a while ago, but forgot to follow up with him until the end of last month. He did call me once on a Sunday morning a few months when I was busy, but didn’t leave a message or follow up with what he needed and I forgot to return the call. He also never reached out to our older sister who is my maid of honor and is helping me to plan/communicate information.
When I followed up with my older brother at the end of last month, he said that he’s already bought plane tickets and will be traveling with my oldest brother and his wife (they live 1000 miles away from each other) and arriving after the rehearsal, attending the ceremony and brunch in the morning and then flying out before the pool party in the evening (the highlight of the day for me, other than being married to my soon to be husband of course). All in all, they won’t even be in the city I’m married in for even 24 hours.
I’m upset with him because it feels as if he and my oldest brother are attending the wedding because they have to, not because they want to. When our oldest brother and sister had their respective (heterosexual) weddings the whole family was there for almost a whole week. I get that people have to work and times have changed, but he received a save the date over a year ago. When our younger sister recently graduated from high school earlier this month, he flew out to visit for an entire week even though she and my youngest sister were still in school. I offered to pay for him to get haircut/styling consultation as a grooms gift so he can know what styles look best on him and are low maintenance before he flies to the wedding, but he declined siting “not wanting to add to my stress”. It has nothing to do with not having money (he loaned our parents money recently) and having time off from work.
While I admit I have dropped the ball with communication/follow up, I did mention that he was a groomsmen to him way earlier and never accepted or declined and spent minimal energy trying to follow up (he never sent a text about it even though my older sister talked with him about it). He never even sent a text about it until after he purchased his plane tickets.
My sister and I talked about things and based on that I have decided to ask him to step down and have my closest male friend take his place citing to his inability to be at the rehearsal or the evening party. I’m going to offer him to escort my mother down the aisle instead.
Am I the asshole in this situation?

I’m 26 and I noticed that I liked Gemini women more when I was younger. My best friend was a Gemini up until 2-3 years ago because I could no longer tolerate/put up with her BS. I work with another Capricorn who’s 18 and I can tell she’s enamored by our Gemini coworker, follows her around like a puppy and the Gemini girl loves it. Thats why I don’t like Gemini women anymore, it’s so clear to me that they just want a string of people looking up to them/validating them. They’re so arrogant and self absorbed and think they’re the hottest/coolest/most interesting girl in the room, and they convince others of that too. It’s not a secret that most people like/are attracted to Gemini’s on a surface level. Gemini women are definitely man eater types too, because they only care about themselves, they don’t get attached to other people. They can also just be huge bitches, and love to intimidate others and I’m just not with it.
Wonder if yall feel the same or differently