Swelling right side of roof of mouth

My husband and I were shopping and i was looking at some spices.
A woman came up to me and pointed her cart right at me, stared at me, said “EXCUSE ME!”
I moved a bit closer to the things i was looking at so she can get by. I didn’t understand how I was in her way because there was plenty of room to pass.
She was still pointing her cart directly at me and repeated “EXCUSE ME!” she was shouting at me rudely.
I put my back up against the isle and sucked in my gut so she can get by but she’s still pointing her cart directly at me, so I go to the other side of the isle, and she goes by. I hear her say “racist” under her breath as she goes by.
I noticed everyone is looking at me and shaking their heads. I have no idea why. Also have no idea why I’m racist for just standing there.
My husband says this is where lower class people shop and just be extra gentle in dealing with them and not to disturb them, I should have moved before she even got near me. So that means I am the one who is wrong. He thinks I’m the one who’s wrong and everyone staring at me shaking their heads and giving me dirty looks thinks I’m wrong too, but I had no idea such rules existed.
edit: this happened at Walmart, we are not from the US originally, we are University Professors on Work Visa.

The truth is, I’ve never experienced a relationship. I’ve never kissed someone, I’ve never been with someone sensually and I never had a deep conversation with someone. I never had that chance to have a connection with someone and I feel like there aren’t people out there who truly understand what I’m dealing with. I’m not perfect and unfortunately people strive for perfection. I've pretty confidence when it comes to looks face wise but I'm not confident when it comes to my body. I’ve always put in the effort and truly want to experience loving someone. I’ve always wanted to experience silly moments. I’ve always wanted to enjoy company with someone where I can put overthinking aside. I've always wanted someone that I can grow with sensually. I’m someone who enjoys moments of quiet without expecting someone to talk to me. I believe being comfortable is key to having good communication. I know saying all of this is meaningless for some because preferences are key but that’s just how I’ve been thinking lately. I don’t mind any culture or race and I wish people judged based on personality.
My life a years ago while suffering through depression and anxiety affected me greatly. I’ve been dealing with negative energy which caused me to be unestablished with life with no type of motivational goals. I was extremely overweight lying in bed all day doing nothing but playing games. My family had put a lot of their problems on me, and I was usually the scapegoat for their narcissistic traits. Regardless, I am still grateful because my life could have been worse. While my parent’s gave me a hard time, I am still able to pursue life goals and bettering myself with a roof over my head, which is why I will always be grateful for them. While my life now has changed a lot. I am still in the process of self improvement. Currently I’m finishing up my first year in college studying for a technology degree. I’ve always wanted to experience college and I also wanted to have a good future with a degree that can open multiple opportunities for me. I’ve also lost a significant amount of weight. I don’t have the “ideal” body that most look for, but I’ve been feeling better for myself recently which is all I need. Self care plays a major role in changing my wellbeing. I picked up some new hobbies along the way. I’ve been fascinated with aquariums and aqua scaping. I’ve been in love with nature and everything to do with it. I’ve also started watching more shows and movies.
If you’ve reached the end, I appreciate you giving me the time to even read this. I don’t like sharing my name randomly, but you can call me Ken for now. I’m willing to show my picture so don’t be afraid to ask. My height is 5’9, I’m a black American with a light skin complexion. I wear glasses, I don’t have any tattoos, I don’t have any piercings, I don’t smoke or do drugs, I drink on special occasions but would be nice to finally have someone to casually drink with, I normally dress presentable, I smile a lot and tend to be silly, I don’t mind any humor. I lean more to be extremely introverted which gave me my shy and awkward traits, I am respectful and treat people how I want to be treated. I love to game, especially on PC. I’m always down to trying a variety but my favorites so far have been anything from Tom Clancy or a game to vibe to whether it’s Mine Craft or some old 2d games like maple story. I love watching streams especially GTA RP, I love watching YouTube, I love watching anime and reading manga. When I’m not too focused on college I tend to do them more. I don’t mind going out, which is something I would love to get more comfortable with. I’m always willing to try new hobbies.
All that I can ask from you is to be patient with me. Most importantly, JUST BE YOU. Besides interest being the most important thing when it comes to connecting, I would appreciate someone closer to me in NYC or train distance. I will consider another distance if the connection is right. My personality and hobbies are very important when it comes to connecting so I would appreciate it if you’re similar in thar regards. I tend to stick to one person than multiple people at one time. I want to be able to understand you how you would understand me. Before you talk to me, understand that I’m in the process of improving my life. That means, don’t expect a 27 year old to be established with everything. I’m working on it. So please, to avoid certain spams, can you tell me about yourself just like how I did in this post of mine. Thank you.

Anything over 120 yards, realistically the 150-200 yd shots I seem to always always push the ball 10-20 yards right of the green. Like if there’s a bunker on right side of green it’s guaranteed falling in it. One would think just aim to left of the green but that doesn’t cut it. Just can’t seem to turn my hand over.
Give me a shot down a fairway as a lay up and it’s going straight as an arrow
Mental game or try something else ?

While Aldo was dealing with his situation, in another world a gentleman named Fluffy was lamenting the shutdown of the servers of his favourite video game “Another Eden”. Every day on his way home from work he had to walk just beside the highway. This could be dangerous but he did it so often and nothing ever happened so it was probably fine. Fluffy pulled out his phone and attempted to log into Another Eden as he always used to, however he was stuck at the title screen. Tears began welling up in his eyes because he couldn’t see his beloved Hozuki again. Hozuki was his favourite character for her fluffy tail and sensual demeanour. With a sigh he was about to close the app, when a truck came barreling off the highway after losing control! Fluffy looked up just in time to have his face just inches from the front grill of the truck, both headlights shinning bright on each side of Fluffy. “Maybe” fluffy thought to himself. “Maybe, this is how reincarnation happens” and then everything went black.
Fluffy opened his eyes and found himself in some kind of swampland. Looking at the foliage and enemies around him, he immediately realized where he was. This was Karek Swampland!!! As he was about to scream for joy he noticed a Lizzy eating something. He noticed it was the arm of some unfortunate villager. “Oh” Fluffy thought. “I never met a goddess or anything like that, so i have no power here….” This realization caused him to quickly reevaluate his situation. He searched his brain for information and knew that Baruoki was on one side of Karek Swampland, and on the other was Unigan. Fluffy could hear the hustle and bustle of some big city so he quietly but swiftly left in that direction. When he made it to the castle gates, he remembered that in the game the gates always just open for the player. So he walked right towards the gates and met with a face full of steel. Fluffy fell to the ground clutching his face as the two guards who stood there watched while trying not to laugh. “Who goes there?” shouted one of the guards. Fluffy got up and said “my name is Fluffy and i’ve learnt that Karek swampland is very dangerous. Please let me in to Unigan so i can be safe” the guards looked at each other. “Fluffy?” They asked “that a rather odd name. You don’t look like you’re from around here either”. Realizing that he didn’t belong in this world and that the village guards of Baruoki would likely refuse his entering as well, he began to panic. With tears welling up in his eyes “please let me in, i’m fat and alone, i’m of no harm to anyone”. The guards started to feel bad and decided to open the gates to let him in. Fluffy said a quick thank you and began looking around this vast city that was much larger than it felt in the game. With his pride in tatters he began his search for a back alley tavern that was likely to be Hozuki’s. But instead of searching he just asked someone.
This led him right to the front door of Hozuki’s tavern. His Idol, the one and sadly only fox girl in Another Eden. He had one shot to make her fall for him. Breathing in deep he opened the door and…..
To be continued….

Hello this is my first time posting on this sub and I just had a few questions I’m hoping somebody could try to answer or give advice on , I have been having pain in my mid back for sometime now I would probably say 9 months some days a lot worse then others , today is one of the bad days . The pain is in middle back and sometimes it’s on right side or left I did have a X-ray done a few months ago and my doctors assistant called me and told me it said mild arthritis… could this be causing me this much discomfort? It’s a burning sensation sitting up and a sharp stabbing sensation when I took my walk at lunch time . It does not bother me when I sleep or for the first few hours when I wake up , seems like it starts to flair once I have been sitting for awhile . I’m just wondering if it’s the mild arthritis or if there could be something else going on . Thanks

Hey all, so I got an interesting/distressing situation at the moment, and thought you could shed some light. I'll try to be brief but include everything.
So in January 2023 I started seeing a psychiatrist for the first time. This was after a handful of hospitalizations due to suicidal idealization/attempts, and other mental health concerns like depression/anxiety/paranoia/isolation/etc. I would have telehealth sessions with her regularly throughout 2023, maybe once every few weeks on average. We worked together trying different medications, seeing how I reacted to them, their side effects, etc. I had lots of ups and downs and was unfortunately re-hospitalized a few more times later in the year for suicidal idealizations and an attempt, going to rehab to cap it all off in September of 2023 . Since completing that program, her and I continued working together trying to keep myself heading in the right direction, again seeing her telehealth once every few weeks. Well fast forward to the beginning of this month (May 3rd, 2024 to be exact), we had a session discussing some reoccurring negative symptoms of my mental health. She put me on a new medication to take in conjunction with two other meds I take. The new med is called Lamictal, and she prescribed it to me for possible bipolar. I said cool, works for me, let's see if it helps. Well about a week into taking this new med plus my normal two, not saying the new med is to blame, but I began experiencing frequent severe panic attacks, to the point of pain and uncontrollable shaking. I reached out once on the 6th, and again on the 14th describing in detail what was happening and my concerns. I set up an appointment somewhere around then whihc she did not attend, so after 15minutes I left. Well today I call in to see about getting scheduled so we can discuss what's been happening this whole month since she started me on this new med, and guess what? I was fucking told that I was able to reschedule with her because of too many no-shows. And while I have missed a few, and I literally mean a few, sessions over the past year and half, I was startled to the point of experiencing another panic attack that's still hurting. I've had thoughts of dropping taking all of my meds. And at this point I'm cornered for my own safety, and feel that this provider has had to have broken laws regarding her care responsibilities for me under all of the aforementioned circumstances.
I really need help navigating this situation. Because it's so fucked up for this to happen, and I'm disgusted. Thanks ya'll

When I came home from college last year, I knew it was important to keep up a step routine. I’d implemented a daily 2 mile walk up and down a slight hill near my house, and planned to up the distance as I got used to it. Not 2 months after getting out of college, I sprained my ankle and was off the walks for 4 months. It’s been 6 months since I was given the a-ok to walk again, and after ramping things slowly from .5 miles back to 2 miles, things haven’t gotten better. In fact, they’ve gotten worse! My left leg starts to hurt not even a quarter mile into the walk, and by the end of it my whole left side feels like it’s on pins and needles. The closest feeling I can compare it to is like my whole leg is asleep. My right leg is fine, and if it weren’t for my left leg not behaving I feel like I could keep going for a third mile. Is this a result of my walking being up and downhill?

Ok I haven't ever had a horror experience before.. but something unexplainable happened with me recently. So I was out on a Trip to Kashmir. N the first hotel we were in me, my bro and my cousin sis were staying at together.. n we were staying there for 3 days.. we didn't experience anything unusual first 2 days but on the 3rd day(night before we left) the door was a bit open n we were all sitting on the bed chatting n using our phns.. when suddenly we heard a knock so I said "come in the door is open" but no one answered or came in. So I was like "someone's probably trying to scare us" (our other cousins) so I opened the door. No one in front of it, no one my right side, but my sis in law n my cousin bro were chatting in the hallway on the left side so I asked them if they knocked. They said no. N I didn't suspect them as they were standing far away. So I thought my other cousin who's room was right in front of ours has pulled a ding dong ditch. But my sis in law said they didn't see anyone knocking so I thought maybe they are all lying. But today it hit me. We didn't even hear running footsteps or anything. N there was no one else banging on anyone else's room so idk what happened. We only heard the knock once n very clearly but still don't know what happened that day.

Starting Off With The PROS!
1 - PROOF! A lot of these self proclaimed "hackers" dont really have shit to show for, besides lousy ass screenshots that were stolen by the next bloke. This was a bit different though, they had original work (reverse image searched to prove it) & had PLENTY of it. Any proof published were from members of their group, as well as people who participate in their community. I even spoke to a few folks before making my decision - some good / some not so great replies but I'll give points for transparency. You can see their work in their group ( ill add in the social link)
2 - TIME! So speaking to a few different "hackers" the time it takes to complete something like a my eyes only pull, would usually take from a range of 30 minutes to a few HOURS depending on who i spoke with. In "naequalityy's case , they stated upwards to an hour - shortest being 25 min. which isnt too bad if you're in a rush to get one in "ifywim". So bare in mind - its not like how movies potray where you hit some buttons & get right in. Seeing them do it shows its not just running some software / plug - ins and hoping it turns up anything. So patience is a must before going though with it.
3 - PRICES! Last but definielty not least - Is How much does all this cost? So there's an entire menu , with different options & multiple things to choose from. We went with a MEO pull, sent them in our target - & since we had a vouch from a member - our order was discounted. There's plenty ways to get your price knocked down from promotions, knowing staff , being active in their community m & more. Just beware if they dont have any slots available for the time being. Pricing IS flexible however
Now , it wouldn't be fair if i didn't add what CONS they had.
1 - Response Times - If its your first time, you maybe drowned out or pushed back if you're not messaging them consistently you maybe left on delivered. We had to punch through a few times before finally getting a slot reserved. So be aware of that before going in.
2 - No Vouch , No Order - So being a random , barging in trying to get something done doesnt really pan out to well. its not exactly some open shop for anyone to throw money at. We had to message around but you can try your luck, we messaged them at a pretty good time so we got ours in. Not exactly a bad thing but if its busy ive heard they only work within their group.
3 - Prices (Flip Side) - Can Be EXPENSIVE Depending on if you're not apart of their membership / group / community. Its not too bad if they offer deals on multiple but the average joe , might not be comfortable especially during their first time. Id recommend asking for any deals because risk DO matter!
So in conclusion, id rank their group a 7.3 / 10 > Not really open im guessing because of cat-fish, scammers , & content theifs they like to be reserved - but makes it a pain in the ass to order when you're ready to just go! Be aware of wait times / ordering times because they can change BUT they do AMAZING work - got my content in a swift even though we had to fight for our spot. neat little group not like arguing with the "hacker" that doesn't have much proof. So check out "naequalityy" on tele!

The truth is, I’ve never experienced a relationship. I’ve never kissed someone; I’ve never been with someone sexually and I never had a deep conversation with someone. I never had that chance to have a connection with someone and I feel like there aren’t people out there who truly understand what I’m dealing with. I’m not perfect and unfortunately people strive for perfection. I've pretty confidence when it comes to looks face wise but I'm not confident when it comes to my body. I’ve always put in the effort and truly want to experience loving someone. I’ve always wanted to experience silly moments. I’ve always wanted to enjoy company with someone where I can put overthinking aside. I've always wanted someone that I can grow with sexually. I’m someone who enjoys moments of quiet without expecting someone to talk to me. I believe being comfortable is key to having good communication. I know saying all of this is meaningless for some because preferences are key but that’s just how I’ve been thinking lately. I don’t mind any culture or race and I wish people judged based on personality.
My life a years ago while suffering through depression and anxiety affected me greatly. I’ve been dealing with negative energy which caused me to be unestablished with life with no type of motivational goals. I was extremely overweight lying in bed all day doing nothing but playing games. My family had put a lot of their problems on me, and I was usually the scapegoat for their narcissistic traits. Regardless, I am still grateful because my life could have been worse. While my parent’s gave me a hard time, I am still able to pursue life goals and bettering myself with a roof over my head, which is why I will always be grateful for them. While my life now has changed a lot. I am still in the process of self improvement. Currently I’m finishing up my first year in college studying for a technology degree. I’ve always wanted to experience college and I also wanted to have a good future with a degree that can open multiple opportunities for me. I’ve also lost a significant amount of weight. I don’t have the “ideal” body that most look for, but I’ve been feeling better for myself recently which is all I need. Self care plays a major role in changing my wellbeing. I picked up some new hobbies along the way. I’ve been fascinated with aquariums and aqua scaping. I’ve been in love with nature and everything to do with it. I’ve also started watching more shows and movies.
If you’ve reached the end, I appreciate you giving me the time to even read this. I don’t like sharing my name randomly, but you can call me Ken for now. I’m willing to show my picture so don’t be afraid to ask. My height is 5’9, I’m a black American with a light skin complexion. I wear glasses, I don’t have any tattoos, I don’t have any piercings, I don’t smoke or do drugs, I drink on special occasions but would be nice to finally have someone to casually drink with, I normally dress presentable, I smile a lot and tend to be silly, I don’t mind any humor. I lean more to be extremely introverted which gave me my shy and awkward traits, I am respectful and treat people how I want to be treated. I love to game, especially on PC. I’m always down to trying a variety but my favorites so far have been anything from Tom Clancy or a game to vibe to whether it’s Mine Craft or some old 2d games like maple story. I love watching streams especially GTA RP, I love watching YouTube, I love watching anime and reading manga. When I’m not too focused on college I tend to do them more. I don’t mind going out, which is something I would love to get more comfortable with. I’m always willing to try new hobbies.
All that I can ask from you is to be patient with me. Most importantly, JUST BE YOU. Besides interest being the most important thing when it comes to connecting, I would appreciate someone closer to me in NYC or train distance. I will consider another distance if the connection is right. My personality and hobbies are very important when it comes to connecting so I would appreciate it if you’re similar in thar regards. I tend to stick to one person than multiple people at one time. I want to be able to understand you how you would understand me. Before you talk to me, understand that I’m in the process of improving my life. That means, don’t expect a 27 year old to be established with everything. I’m working on it. So please, to avoid certain spams, can you tell me about yourself just like how I did in this post of mine. Thank you.

I (27M) and her (24F) have broken up and it's been more than 5 months now and we were in LDR for 3 years. 3 months before the break up, we went for a trip. We were in LDR and this meet was after 3 months and we both were pretty excited. The place we went was pretty touristic, beaches, aesthetics, vibes, chill etc.
My male friend (27M) lives in the same place where we planned our trip. Me and him know each other since 6 years through same college. At the end of the college we grew closer. He has met my girlfriend once when I made her meet my friends once 2 years ago. Since then they both are familiar with each other, follow each other on social media.
When we started planning the trip, we 3 we're involved in it. We thoroughly planned a 4 day trip, though mostly it was me who planned most of it. I was bearing all my girlfriend's expense as she hasn't started earning yet and still a student.
The trip happened. Throughout the trip, I observed that my girlfriend was hanging out more with him than me, talking more with him than me, was wearing short dresses whenever we 3 were there. I didn't really liked her attitude. According to the plan we were supposed to have drinks on beach side and I love that. But these two said they didn't want to go beach side and we ended up having drinks inside which I didn't really liked. Then the next day, i wanted to do water sports but these two were so drunk that they were not willing to wake up early in the morning. They both firmly said no when I told them we'll go for water sports early in the morning and I was so angry about it, I went to bed angrily. My gf, lying beside me on the bed, asked what's wrong and i sulked. She said are you gonna be okay and I just ignored. She fell asleep. Morning she had woken up early and I was asleep and I found them both talking, having fun conversations and i really felt left out.
My male friend asked her to wake me up and I was so angry about her behaviour I ended up throwing tantrums. And then when I confronted them both about how I badly wanted to do water sports, she told me if I wanted so badly you should have stated that at night so that we could have gone in the morning. After some talks, I let it go.
Then again the next day i found her showing more interest whenever he was involved compared to times when only two of us were there. We two were planning to go somewhere and she was so disinterested but then when I said we'll meet him there, she showed excitement.
Later on once the trip was over, when we talked about it, she told she was finding his vibes good and so she was hanging out more with him and didn't wanted him to make him feel left out by us being lovey dovey couple.
Really? Since when she started caring about his feelings more than mine? Later on she ended up cheating on me by showing interest in some guy in her college and we broke up.
Now am I the asshole for reacting the way I did? Boys, how close is your girlfriend with your guy friends? Do you get insecure or feel left out? I wanna talk about it so that I can have reality check on myself and the situation but we don't talk anymore. even though I can contact her on call, i don't trust her anymore and whatever she says, she'll make it look like she was the right person in all the situations.
So please help me. What do I do if any of my future partners do this again? Feel free to analyse the situation and guide me. Thank you in advance
Some things about my ex: 1. She cheated on me with her ex (basically she went for closure sex and made me believe it was him who tried to force on her the entire time) 2. She wanted an open relationship 3. She went out with a guy once but later dropped because I said I didn't like open relationship 4. I found some shady texts with guys on WhatsApp and snap during the same trip

i know everything is going badly. that you feel hopeless, lost in the dark. i know it's hard to breathe. that your chest aches and your heart hurts. i know you're crying and begging for it all to end. i know you sit alone and go numb after a while. why is this happening? why does the pain never stop? what have i done to deserve this? i was a good person, why did they ruin me, ruin me so bad that i want to die? why is MY life like this? why not his? why not hers? i know the questions are exhausting to the point of losing sleep.
i feel the same. i also want to cut my fucking wrist, put this fucking rope around my neck, blow my fucking brains out with a gun. everything has been so wrong for me from the beginning that i can't stand it anymore. i can't stand my mental illnesses, but most of all i can't stand being forced to live with it forever. because it was never my choice.
i understand you. if there's one thing i know it's that my heart will understand everyone. it's full of love after all. it's as if i'm both the dark and the light side of hope. i can help everyone but myself. i realize this is a big problem. but if i'm still here now, it's because i believe that humans are created in pairs. i can't be the only one in the world with a big heart, right? that's why i want to tell you that i'm here. i'll always be here for you. i'm young, i'm 19 years old. even though there are times when i feel like my soul is 40, i promise i'll talk to you. i've had experienced almost every shitty thing in the world. i'm going to empathize with you. please, please get the idea of killing yourself out of your head and talk to me instead.
i love you.

Anyone know any good resources for gaslighting and like nitpicking from pwBPD?
I empathize with a lot of stories on here, but mine is more death by a thousand cuts. Just got into another spat and it escalated because my answers weren’t satisfactory.
I can understand their point (they asked for something and I rolled my eyes, totally get it). But I explained that I assumed something in my reaction. They asked me why and I told them I don’t know (because I don’t and would have to to look into myself further to figure out why that’s where I went automatically)
It ended with them saying that it made them feel bad that I didn’t express a plan/ideas for how it wouldn’t happen in the future.
I just…like for one: they make faces and get upset at things then say it’s fine almost everyday. Like it’s so common I don’t even get mad cause I’m legit on their side now of understanding “yeah I felt like that in the moment but I’d need to sit down with myself to figure out why that’s where I went”
So it’s upsetting because I feel like they should understand. Also, it just felt like they were trying to paint it so it was clearly jusadeathrowaway2 = wrong and hurtful and them = right and just trying to talk.
This time the complaint was that I didn’t also give an explanation as to why I didn’t have an answer for how to prevent it moving forward.
This is the main behavior that’s a stressor of our relationship. Honestly they’re fine with most of the other symptoms except for the “my FP said X but I heard Y” thing. Only problem is now I’m the one who’s question if I’m distorting things because they’re telling me I’m not hearing them.
Idk. Any resources on BPD communication? Words, phrases, voice tones, etc.

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Is it cannibalism if I swallow the pieces of flesh that I nibble off the sides of my cheek? Also how can I stop this, I hate that I do it and I hate even more how it makes the inside of my mouth feels. But I cannot stop. Probably a bite guard might help with the fixation?

Hi all! After a crazy, but incredibly fun and rewarding year earning my pilot certs, I wanted to make a write-up of my experience in hopes that it’ll be helpful for any other aspiring or current pilots. To summarize, I went from zero aviation experience to CFII in 13 months, Part 61, paying as I go and on the pretty cheap side. I do want to emphasize that I was ~incredibly~ lucky and had some very generous people who helped me out, and I could not have done this as efficiently and cheaply if it weren’t for them. I’m going to list all my takeaways below, but I think my biggest piece of advice is to network as much as you can because there are some amazing, generous people in this community that want to see us all succeed.
Background:
For context, I’m in my mid to late twenties and have been in the workforce for about 5 years. Through a combination of factors I decided to make a career switch to professional pilot but was hesitant because I did not want to take on debt. I have a family member who is an airline pilot who helped me devise a plan. I moved home and kept working my job remotely so I was able to put all my paychecks towards flying.
Private Pilot – 3 months, 75 hours TT, $12k
I did my private in a Piper Archer owned by my local FBO. The owner allowed my family member to be my instructor and gave me a small discount for pre-paying hours. We flew almost daily. I also took ground school at another local FBO in-person, and that was much more helpful than having to learn everything on my own because I was brand new to aviation. I took the private written exam as soon as my ground school concluded which was also the week of my checkride (bad idea in hindsight, but it worked out).
I solo’d around 25 hours and took my checkride with about 60 hours in the Archer (15 additional hours were in a friend’s airplane). The checkride was challenging, but straightforward and I was well prepared. The DPE said good things about me afterward and I was officially a private pilot! I’d be happy to answer questions or do a writeup in a separate post on any of my checkrides but for the sake of brevity I’ll skip that for now.
~Key takeaways from private:~
Fly as often as possible and make sure your instructor is aligned with that. Also stay on top of ground school. Also, don’t rush to take the checkride before you’re ready, it’s okay to have a lot of practice first. Lastly, I know DPE availability is a big issue in lots of areas and can cause people to have to wait on a checkride even though they’ve been ready for months. In my experience, if you try hard enough and call around, you will find someone. However, it might mean you have to travel a little bit which I know is not possible for everyone.
Instrument – 2 months, 150 hours TT, $14k
I was feeling a little fatigued after private so I was slow to start studying for instrument. I started by doing a lot of flying for fun, mainly flying in the Archer by myself on little cross countries to check off some of the requirements (in hindsight I should have found someone to split time with).
I did my instrument at a flight school in one of the adjacent states. This particular school specializes in accelerated programs, but they do not have a formalized instrument course. I went in-person and spoke with the director of flight operations to discuss my options. Since I had to take PTO to do this, the goal was to finish my instrument in one week with the checkride at the end. I paid a flat rate for the airplane and instructor time. I also stayed over there during that week so I had to pay for housing as well.
Before I went over there, I did some prep in the Archer that I did my private in and took the written exam (Sheppard air). I also purchased Sporty’s Instrument course and used that to prep and for the endorsement needed to take the written. The week I spent at the flight school was honestly a blast, and I was able to take my checkride on day 7 with 20 hours in the plane and about 4 hours of sim time. Again, happy to discuss the checkride in the comments or another post.
~Key takeaways from instrument:~
TAKE THE IRA, FII, AND IGI EXAMS AT THE SAME TIME. You only have to purchase the IRA Sheppard course and can take all 3 exams back to back. Also, again stay on top of ground school because instrument flying requires a lot of technical knowledge. But it honestly is really fun!
Commercial – 3 months, 263 hours TT, $8k
The biggest challenge for commercial was time building, of course. This is where networking saved me. I made friends with another instructor who frequented my local FBO who also owns a plane. He needed the time as well so we flew together a lot and I paid for the fuel. I also had another friend at the airport who owns a plane that he doesn’t fly often and offered to let me time build in that (again, I’ve been so lucky to come across some very generous people).
I did my checkride in the Archer that I learned in with my family member signing me off, and with the same DPE who did my private. Commercial was probably the easiest one I had done so far, but it still was no joke! I will say I was amazed with how much easier things came to me by this point versus when I first started, which was a great feeling.
~Key takeaways from commercial:~
Network, network, network. Spend as much time as you can at your local FBO or flight school and make friends with everyone. Like I’ve said, there are some very generous people out there who love to help out new pilots, and I could not have made it this far without them.
Also, in retrospect, it would have been a really good idea to have done commercial from the right seat. I’ve heard of a lot of people doing that and if I had, I would have been able to knock out CFI a lot sooner and cheaper.
Multi-engine add-on – 1 week, 298 hours TT, $4.3k
Shortly after getting my CPL, I had a week of PTO and decided to knock out my multi add-on. I found a flight school with a Seminole and got ahold of their MEI, and we figured we could knock it out during that week. I contacted the DPE who did my private and commercial and we scheduled my checkride for the end of the week. This flight school was about 2 hours driving from home, and I was able to stay with friends while I was there.
This one was a little challenging because this was in January in the midwest and we were seeing a lot of low IFR days. We ended up getting weathered out the first half of the week, but luckily the Seminole was an easy transition for me and we got me trained up in 3 days, 8 hours of flying. I took the checkride as scheduled and passed (I will say I have had extremely good luck with weather for all of my checkride days so far).
Sidenote: Prior to this checkride, I also took the AGI and IGI exams and asked the DPE who did my multi checkride to sign off on the ground instructor certificate at the same time. I did this because I’ve heard it helps when applying to CFI jobs (shows a little extra effort) and it was easier to do it this way versus having a FSDO issue the cert. Cost me $50 to the DPE.
~Key takeaways from multi:~
Do your research to find an airplane at a good rate. I paid $395 per hour which included the instructor, but I’ve seen some schools charging a lot more. Also, I looked into schools with accelerated courses that you pay as a package, and based on my experience I would not recommend because I was able to do it much cheaper my way.
My instructor did a good job of making sure I knew all the aircraft systems well enough to teach them in case I go for my MEI (which I would like to do soon). Since the MEL is light on material, I highly recommend this. Also, when I was doing research I was told to look for a Seminole or DA-42 because they’re easy trainers, which I would agree with based on my limited experience.
CFI – 1 month (on top of all my experience thus far), 316 hours TT, $5k
This was the scariest one for me. I had heard all along that CFI is the hardest and longest checkride and for the most part I would agree. I originally was planning on going to a school with an accelerated program for this, but after asking around I decided to do it on my own (with my family member signing me off).
This one was heavy on ground school. I got some lesson plans from various people as I heard that’s what everyone has prepared for the checkride, but I hardly ended up using them. I also had a friend send me PowerPoints he made for the technical subject areas. I edited them/made them my own and these are what I ended up using for the checkride along with a couple props.
As far as studying goes, the thing I found most helpful was watching random YouTube videos before bed every night. Although it was all review, I picked up a lot of tidbits that weren’t quite drilled into my brain as I still feel new to aviation overall. As the DPE described it, to be a good CFI you basically need to be a nerd about everything aviation and that’s what I tried to do. I would guess that I studied a few hours a day for a month and a half or so. As for the flying part, I had a little bit of right seat experience prior to buckling down for CFI (probably under 5 hours), so I’d guess it took me about 5 more hours to feel comfortable in the right seat. I took the checkride with the same DPE who did my private, commercial, and multi and passed! The checkride was 8 hours total so definitely a long day. As we were debriefing, I went ahead and scheduled CFII with him as well.
~Key takeaways from CFI:~
Start nerding out now (if you aren’t already). Keep a running collection of links and videos that explain concepts well or teach you something interesting, they will be useful for the checkride. Also, don’t buy lesson plans. As my DPE put it, there are really only like 5 lesson plans for any given topic and we all steal them from each other, so no need to reinvent the wheel or pay for them if someone else can give them to you. I’d also recommend really getting to know the PTS, because it lays out very clearly what you are required to do on the checkride (for example you know you’re going to need to teach runway incursions so it’s a good opportunity to be really prepared). I’m sure my last point is most applicable to those doing CFI on their own since you won’t have a school telling you exactly what to expect.
CFII – 1 month, 368 hours TT, $1.3k
CFII was possibly the easiest checkride to prepare for. I did this one in a friend’s airplane – a Mooney with a G750 and GFC 500 autopilot. It probably took about 10 hours of flying (I already have lots of time in this plane) to be ready. For studying, I reviewed Pilot Cafe, YouTube videos, and obtained some lesson plans from a friend. I did not use PowerPoints or anything for this one. I also had already completed the written exam back when I did my instrument rating. I’m not sure what else to say about this one, but I did it with the same DPE again and passed. It feels amazing to be done with checkrides for a while!
~Key takeaways from CFII:~
Select an airplane with a good autopilot. This made the flying portion of the checkride super easy. For the oral, I highly recommend working with instructors who send students for a lot of instrument checkrides. I feel like there are so many very specific questions that DPEs like to ask on instrument/CFII checkrides, so it helps if you have someone who knows what those questions are going to be. Also, FlightInsight on YouTube and Boldmethod were my favorite resources for this one. Lastly, make sure you know your avionics and autopilot really well, including reading and being able to teach all of the limitations that are in the user manuals.
Notes regarding cost:
I did a decent job of tracking all my expenses throughout this process. I noted in the title that the total cost to me was about $50k, which consists of the ~$45k that I discussed above plus some additional expenses. I also did my commercial ASES rating at Jack Brown’s seaplane base which cost me about $2.5K total (of course this was just for fun). The remaining amount consists of things like buying a headset, books, random accessories, and even some things I called “unnecessary expenses”. I temporarily paid for a membership at a flight school that I barely ended up using, so I put that in that category. While I did everything pretty cheap, I was definitely not perfect!
Here is a further breakdown of my expenses:
Airplane rentals/fuel - $36.9k
Instructor fees - $2.5k (bear in mind I got a lot of free instruction from friends & family)
Ground school - $1.3k (includes actual ground school and books)
Flight accessories - $1.2k
Written exam fees - $1.2k (8 exams total)
DPE fees - $5.8k (7 checkrides; this includes seaplane)
Medical fees - $290
Housing - $900
Misc/unnecessary expenses - $1.2k
Total: $51.7k
Overall Takeaways:
- For those doing Part 61/pay as you go, I highly recommend finding an independent instructor with a flexible schedule. This was key for me because I had a work schedule to work around.
- NETWORKING/MAKING FRIENDS. Go to every fly-in you can, always stop into the FBO to say hi to people, etc. etc. Having friends in aviation was monumentally helpful for me and saved me SO much money. Cannot stress this enough!
- If you are on a timeline, make sure you set specific milestones and when you are going to hit them. Make sure your instructor is on board too.
- Do your research! Reddit has been a fantastic resource for me throughout this process. Talk to people who have achieved the things you want to achieve. I really cannot thank you all enough for all your help and insights on your experiences!
Again, I am more than happy to answer any and all questions. I also apologize if anything is jumbled or confusing; this took a long time to write and I’m sure I missed things. I will also disclaim that while I did a good job of tracking all my expenses, I was not perfect and YMMV for sure. I just hope this gave a somewhat helpful picture for those hoping to do something similar to what I did.
As for next steps, I am aiming for the airlines one of these days! I have a couple interviews at flight schools coming up so I am planning to quit my job and finally start flying full-time soon. I want to do my MEI sometime soon as well but I haven’t figured out how I’m going to pay for the PIC time yet.
I also want to say that I absolutely love general aviation and hope to always be involved in it. I have made so many friends, had some incredible experiences, and learned way more than I could have ever imagined in the past year. For anyone thinking about flying, hopefully this is your sign to just do it! Feel free to comment with questions!

I never know what polls to believe. We should see how the real people of Wisconsin feel. I’m super curious if this will match the national polls or if it will be different here in the Reddit community. One thing I don’t know about Reddit is if it leans more left, right, or it’s representative of both sides. I‘m pretty new here.
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So the intro is from J Cole obviously.
Couple of side notes.
Im not a native English speaker so bare with me on the grammer and stuff.
I will try to be as clear as i can be but that probably gonna be hard
Not sure what i wanna get out of this post but here it goes...
Im a 34 year old dude who probably has everything in life to be happy. Got loving parents and family, got a couple of good friends, pretty sportive and tall, nice job, no debts other than student loans which isnt that much.
So last year my EX gf broke up with me, but to put things into perspective i will start in january 2022. In january 2022 i had some issues(cardiac arrhythmia) with my heart, nothing that could kill me but still unpleasent. It made me introvert and not a very lovely person to be around. Not that i would get mad just always low on energy. 2 weeks prior to this we bought our first house and moved to the city my ex gf grew up in. It was cool with me, i liked her family and it was only 30k from where we lived the past 6 years.
So we moved in, on april 2022. Everything was going well i just couldnt handle everything since the cardiac arrhythmia wasnt fixed. My boss knew of the issues and the company was pretty helpfull. But on may 2022 my colleague announced he was gonna quit and leave the company. That made me responsible for everyting on the department. I had a hard time with this.
In june 2022 they finally fixed my heart and it felt like i could move forward again. It would take a little time to get back in shape and stuff but that shouldnt be a big deal because i like sports.
Then my ex gf and i had a discussion about a puppy. I wasnt the biggest fan but since she really wanted one i could put my personal opinion aside and just go with it. BIG MISTAKE. A puppy is pretty hard work, we were prepared but i guess that wasnt enough.
When the puppy came in august i just totally couldnt handle everthing. New city, just got back from the heart stuff, lots of stress on the job and a cute but ffing crazy puppy running around. So at the end of august i called in sick at work, i was facing a burn out and couldnt get out of this.
On the other side my ex gf was happy because she made a promotion, moved closer to her family and got her puppy. From august 2022 to december 2022 we lived together but werent really a couple anymore. It hurt me but i was pretty much waiting for me to feel better and start life again. At the end of december i was getting better bit by bit.
We went to the christmas market in Cologne and i hoped this was the turning point. We were gonna be there for 2 nights. Couple days before we left my ex gf asked if it was okay to just go one night because the was an event at here work on the second day. I was like, sure if you really wanna go.
So she went to the event and i went home. She didnt came home that night, at the time i didnt think anything about it. The next day i picked her up and she looked sooo hungover, this was december 23rd. We went to her family the 24th and the plan was to go to mine the 25th. The puppy had some stressfull days so we decided it was best for the puppy to not come to my family. My ex ''voluntered'' to watch him. I wasnt to pleased with that but i was a little mad at how she acted the last couple of days so i just went alone.
The following weeks things werent going very smooth. We didnt talk much and when one was taking care of the puppy the other was going to friends or going to the gym or something. Again, no red flags for me, boy was i wrong. In the middle of january she dropped the bomb and said she needed some time alone. After one week we got back together and she said she needed another week. After two weeks she said the same thing. But i wasnt having that, so i didnt go along. Thats when she broke up with me. At that time i saw it coming a little because if you wanna live apart for 3 weeks after living together for 7 years that says enought.
2 minutes after she broke up with me i asked what had happend that night when she didnt came home. She admitted she cheater with a colleague. So i was thinking all these crazy thing like how she had been cheating for months and stuff(a couple months later i believe that was the only cheating thing she did)
The aftermath. I left the house and went back to the city we lived in for 10+ years. She got to keep the house with a crazy good mortgage. I lost some money, couple of 1000 euro. We had to deal with the paperwork. I was going to play it cool untill i found out she slept with that colleague again 2 weeks after breaking up but still living in the same house. Thats when something snapped in my mental. From february 2023 till june 2023 i was really struggling mentally. In june i started dating again just to have some hookups and boost my confidence.
In september 2023 i had this date with an awesome girl. I really liked her and things went great from the start. She is my current girlfriend who i really like and i know she really loves me too. The hard part is that i ran away from my ex gf and never got a decent closure. I wasnt thinking much about it untill yesterday when i had sort of an argument with my gf. It wasnt about anything important but it hit me emotionally.
When we got home she asked if i still saw the future like how i saw it with my ex. That i hold on to too many thing from that relationship. I mean sure, i like some things i did with my ex. We played the same sport and i like to introduce my current girlfriend to the sport and visit a pro game every once in a while. But my gf said she had the feeling she had to act like my ex and also had to like the game.
Also i kind of hate my ex, she cheated, she dumped me when i wasnt doint to well and she got the benefit of the house. The last year i thought alot about it but i wasnt seeing how much it still affected my day to day mental. I think my gf just started my process that i should have started last february when my ex broke up with me. I didnt give myself any time to grief over it.
SO basically this post is the start to get over my ex of maybe to see that life is awesome and that all the shit went down just led me to this awesome girl who can read my like a book and want to help me get back on the saddle and have an awesome life with here.
Also, this maybe sound crazy to you guys. But i shouldnt be mad anymore. It sounds so simple but the last year and a bit i was just a bitter dude who got dumped. Its time to look forward and to live again.
I you read this far. You are awesome, if not, you can also read the TL;DR below.
TL;DR My ex dumped me after i got a hard time with heart problems, a burn out and moving to the city she grew up in. After we broke up she got to keep the house which is benicifial and i lost a couple grand. Now i have a new girlfriend and she feels like im not over that situation yet because i still spreak bad about my ex and i feel like she betrayed me. But i realised, maybe 1 year to late i should just let it go and enjoy life right here and right now.