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2024.05.21 16:48 1sadgrl Confused & still having pelvic pain
I have read the bible and I’m still a little confused and am hoping to get some help here.
At the end of March, I was having horrendous lower abdominal pain. Standing, sitting laying down, it was incredibly painful. The pain was in the center. A few inches below my belly button and then moved to my right lower side. By the first week of April, the pain was still in my right lower abdomen, but it also mowed to my right lower back, and center back. Here’s a total list of my symptoms:
•4/2/24: Went to OB, was told it was a UTI. Urinalysis completed, elevated white blood cells found. Urine culture completed, no findings.
•4/14/24: Went to OB again, had a trans-vaginal ultrasound. 8mm cyst located on my left ovary. (LEFT ovary. My pain has been on my right side this entire time) I go back in July for monitoring of the cyst. During this appointment (before test results came back) I was told that I should get back on birth control, and that all of my pain would then go away. I was prescribed: TRANEXAMIC ACID 650 MG, MEFENAMIC ACID 250 MG and NITROFURANTOIN MONO-MCR 100 MG(MACROBID). I did not fill the first two prescriptions, as they were geared towards my painful periods, which weren’t of my concern at that time. I took macrobid for 24 hours and had really bad side effects. I
•4/17/24: Went to my primary care physician. He was immediately concerned for my health, as both my mother and grandmother had appendectomies, and I was exhibiting signs of appendicitis. He pressed down on my lower right abdomen and my body just about folded in half due to the pain. He ordered a CT scan to be done within 24 hours. CT scan came back to no findings. I told him my issues with macrobid, he then put me on CIPROFLOXACIN 500mg.
•4/24/24: Results from 4/14/24 testing: Urine culture, Gardnerella, Candida, Trich, Cediaydia and Gonohrrea tests were all negative. “U. PARVUM DNA” was found. My bf and I were both prescribed doxycycline 100mg twice a day for 7 days & no sex during that time.
We both took and completed the medication. To my surprise, I did find some relief! My issue is, is that I do still have lower-right abdominal pain & still have a minor issue with urine still coming out after sitting on the toilet. The pain isn’t anywhere as near severe.. it’s more of a pressure at this point. It is painful after I have intercourse/orgasm though.
Any recommendations for what I should do at this point? I’m overwhelmed and would love any guidance.
ETA: I know pelvic floor therapy is a thing, but I don’t think it’s the right time for that.
I’m also want to note that my OB is over an hour away and it’s hard to get appointments.
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At the end of March, I was having horrendous lower abdominal pain. Standing, sitting laying down, it was incredibly painful. The pain was in the center. A few inches below my belly button and then moved to my right lower side. By the first week of April, the pain was still in my right lower abdomen, but it also mowed to my right lower back, and center back. Here’s a total list of my symptoms:
- Lower abdominal pain, that moved from center to the right side.
- Not being able to hold pee in. I would go to the bathroom, be finished peeing, wipe, and once I stood up, more pee would flow out.
- Bloating. I felt so bloated all of the time.
- Urine frequency, every 10 minutes I felt like I had to pee
- Unsure if related or not, but, since January, my periods have been excruciating on the first day. (Extremely abnormal for me) on the first day, there will be extreme cramps for about an hour, and within a hour after that there is so much blood that comes out. Bleeding usually lasts a few hours and then I’m back to my normal light bleeding for 3 days.
•4/2/24: Went to OB, was told it was a UTI. Urinalysis completed, elevated white blood cells found. Urine culture completed, no findings.
•4/14/24: Went to OB again, had a trans-vaginal ultrasound. 8mm cyst located on my left ovary. (LEFT ovary. My pain has been on my right side this entire time) I go back in July for monitoring of the cyst. During this appointment (before test results came back) I was told that I should get back on birth control, and that all of my pain would then go away. I was prescribed: TRANEXAMIC ACID 650 MG, MEFENAMIC ACID 250 MG and NITROFURANTOIN MONO-MCR 100 MG(MACROBID). I did not fill the first two prescriptions, as they were geared towards my painful periods, which weren’t of my concern at that time. I took macrobid for 24 hours and had really bad side effects. I
•4/17/24: Went to my primary care physician. He was immediately concerned for my health, as both my mother and grandmother had appendectomies, and I was exhibiting signs of appendicitis. He pressed down on my lower right abdomen and my body just about folded in half due to the pain. He ordered a CT scan to be done within 24 hours. CT scan came back to no findings. I told him my issues with macrobid, he then put me on CIPROFLOXACIN 500mg.
•4/24/24: Results from 4/14/24 testing: Urine culture, Gardnerella, Candida, Trich, Cediaydia and Gonohrrea tests were all negative. “U. PARVUM DNA” was found. My bf and I were both prescribed doxycycline 100mg twice a day for 7 days & no sex during that time.
We both took and completed the medication. To my surprise, I did find some relief! My issue is, is that I do still have lower-right abdominal pain & still have a minor issue with urine still coming out after sitting on the toilet. The pain isn’t anywhere as near severe.. it’s more of a pressure at this point. It is painful after I have intercourse/orgasm though.
Any recommendations for what I should do at this point? I’m overwhelmed and would love any guidance.
ETA: I know pelvic floor therapy is a thing, but I don’t think it’s the right time for that.
I’m also want to note that my OB is over an hour away and it’s hard to get appointments.
2024.05.21 16:48 zak-bagans-stan-acct The Lantern Game
When I was 16 (in 2004), my family visited my Aunt and Uncle with their kids in Buffalo, NY. After a few days, we headed to Eden, NY, where my grandfather had a cottage. Even though he passed away when I was young, we always called it Grandpa's cottage because he built it with his own hands. My Aunt inherited it because she lived close by, while we were from New Jersey. My grandma had died from lung cancer before I was born, and both of my grandparents had their ashes spread on the cottage property. The cottage was nestled on about 80 acres of woods, dotted with small fish ponds and open fields. It was a place filled with memories of swimming in Eighteenmile Creek, exploring the woods, bbq'n, having bonfires, and fishing.
At night, my three cousins and my sisters would camp in tents outside the cottage in one of the open fields. We played a game called the Lantern Game, invented by my cousin, let's call him Timmy. We used a battery-powered lantern that we kept outside our tents for bathroom trips. The game was simple: 1 person would take the lantern into the deep woods, place it on the ground, and then return. The next person would go into the woods, find the lantern, and carry it further before returning. The last one brave enough to fetch the lantern and bring it back won the game. We had a few flashlights at the treeline, and the distant sound of voices was our guide back.
Being one of the younger cousins, I usually quit after my 1st or 2nd turn, but that year, at 16, I was determined to prove myself, especially to my two older sisters. Timmy and his older brother, Jimmy, were legends at the Lantern Game. They would disappear into the woods for 15 or 20 minutes before returning, and Timmy or Jimmy always won.
One night, it came down to me, my oldest sister, and Timmy and Jimmy. Just before my turn, Jimmy warned me to watch out for Grandma and Grandpa. I brushed it off, trying to act cool, but once I was in the woods, fear gripped me. My heart pounded as I thought of my grandpa, who I remembered as a kind man, but now as a dead rotting body lurching behind me. My grandma was just a name and a face in an old photograph to me.
I was about 3 football fields deep into the woods, struggling to find the lantern. I kept hearing noises, my mind racing. Suddenly, goosebumps covered my body, and I felt an electric charge. I couldn't hear my family anymore. Instead, I saw a small shack with a dim light inside about 30 feet away, something I had never seen before. I froze, thinking I might have wandered onto someone else's property, but it didn't make sense since this was my Grandpa's property. The shack looked run-down, like something from a horror story. Time seemed to stop. I saw a wooden chair in front of the door. I told myself not to move. I didn’t see or hear any movement from inside, but the light being on told me someone was there.
After what felt like a long time, I gathered the courage to run. I bolted back to the treeline, my senses heightened. I ran as fast as I could, dodging trees until I saw the flashlights of my cousins and sisters. I told them about the shack. We decided to go back together to find it, but it wasn't there. Even in the daylight, with my Uncle leading the search, we found nothing. To this day, I have no idea what happened. We've walk this way to get to Eighteen Mile Creek so we know the land pretty well. I saw the shack, clear as day, with that dim light on. My best guess is that my mind conjured it up, a memory born of panic of my dead grandfather while playing that stupid game. Though, I have no idea why it was a shack.
I've only shared this story in intimate settings. It still unsettles me (I’m in my 30’s) because I know I saw that shack. Now, it's part of our family's folklore about Grandpa's cottage.
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At night, my three cousins and my sisters would camp in tents outside the cottage in one of the open fields. We played a game called the Lantern Game, invented by my cousin, let's call him Timmy. We used a battery-powered lantern that we kept outside our tents for bathroom trips. The game was simple: 1 person would take the lantern into the deep woods, place it on the ground, and then return. The next person would go into the woods, find the lantern, and carry it further before returning. The last one brave enough to fetch the lantern and bring it back won the game. We had a few flashlights at the treeline, and the distant sound of voices was our guide back.
Being one of the younger cousins, I usually quit after my 1st or 2nd turn, but that year, at 16, I was determined to prove myself, especially to my two older sisters. Timmy and his older brother, Jimmy, were legends at the Lantern Game. They would disappear into the woods for 15 or 20 minutes before returning, and Timmy or Jimmy always won.
One night, it came down to me, my oldest sister, and Timmy and Jimmy. Just before my turn, Jimmy warned me to watch out for Grandma and Grandpa. I brushed it off, trying to act cool, but once I was in the woods, fear gripped me. My heart pounded as I thought of my grandpa, who I remembered as a kind man, but now as a dead rotting body lurching behind me. My grandma was just a name and a face in an old photograph to me.
I was about 3 football fields deep into the woods, struggling to find the lantern. I kept hearing noises, my mind racing. Suddenly, goosebumps covered my body, and I felt an electric charge. I couldn't hear my family anymore. Instead, I saw a small shack with a dim light inside about 30 feet away, something I had never seen before. I froze, thinking I might have wandered onto someone else's property, but it didn't make sense since this was my Grandpa's property. The shack looked run-down, like something from a horror story. Time seemed to stop. I saw a wooden chair in front of the door. I told myself not to move. I didn’t see or hear any movement from inside, but the light being on told me someone was there.
After what felt like a long time, I gathered the courage to run. I bolted back to the treeline, my senses heightened. I ran as fast as I could, dodging trees until I saw the flashlights of my cousins and sisters. I told them about the shack. We decided to go back together to find it, but it wasn't there. Even in the daylight, with my Uncle leading the search, we found nothing. To this day, I have no idea what happened. We've walk this way to get to Eighteen Mile Creek so we know the land pretty well. I saw the shack, clear as day, with that dim light on. My best guess is that my mind conjured it up, a memory born of panic of my dead grandfather while playing that stupid game. Though, I have no idea why it was a shack.
I've only shared this story in intimate settings. It still unsettles me (I’m in my 30’s) because I know I saw that shack. Now, it's part of our family's folklore about Grandpa's cottage.
2024.05.21 16:47 dragonwolfcat Blueberry zone 6a
 | Hello! This is a blueberry bonus plant. I am worried about the reddish coloration on the stems and am wondering if this is due to fungi or some other issue. One of the branches became wood like (pruned it off later). The majority of the leaves look fine, with only one having it's tip being brown. The pot has drainage, and I try to water a bit daily when it looks like the soil is dry. I just keep the plant outside for full sunlight. Moved it away from my other two blueberry plants, which look pretty fine and healthy with no reddish coloration on the stems. submitted by dragonwolfcat to plantclinic [link] [comments] |
2024.05.21 16:46 The_Wyzard How do I remove the top from this desk?
 | I have an ancient desk for my law practice. The top is a single piece, seven feet by 44 inches. Obviously that's awkward to move while the desk is put together. I need to remove it and put it back together in my new space, and, uhh, I can't get to the last four screws holding it on. submitted by The_Wyzard to furniturerestoration [link] [comments] The bars that hold the drawers in place don't seem to be removable. I stuffed my child into the left column, which has one double sized drawer, and she got the screws out on that side. But these spaces are too narrow. I can't reach back that far. Is there a tool I need or am I missing some secret of the trade? Note: I am irrationally attached to this desk, and so obvious solutions like "sell it to someone who will haul it away and use the money to buy something more sensible" are not viable. This is certainly something my family has repeatedly suggested. |
2024.05.21 16:45 Cdv3 Looking On The Bright Side
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2024.05.21 16:45 SOYBOYPILLED This is a real tweet
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2024.05.21 16:44 TeaAndCozy Nocturne Alchemy Summer is coming this Friday! 4 reviews from last year's
Here's the news we've all been waiting for: "Summer '24 Limited arrives Friday May 24th @ 8 AM Pacific"!
For those less familiar with Nocturne Alchemy, this release will include a "Resurgence" of (most of) last year's Summer 2023 scents, as well as this year's new releases, which will themselves then Resurge next year. You can find the complete list of last year's Summer 2023 scents HERE, with the caveat that the Crystalline #s won't be returning since they already came back in a Thoth's Archive, and the Musks don't Resurge either.
One of the nice things about this Resurgence thing is that you can buy decants in the first year to see how you like them, then full-size them the following year. Arae Decantery, Crypta Obscura, and Ajevie all do Nocturne Alchemy decants. And for those scents that won't Resurge (like the seasonal Musks), collections are around for long enough that there's still generally time to try decants before FSing. With only rare exceptions - looking at you, Lait! - things don't typically sell out right away, and collections stay up for several months.
I thought it might be helpful if I shared my thoughts on the Summer 2023 scents I've tried. We'd all love to hear your own thoughts on these or any other Summer 2023 perfumes, if you have any reviews to share! Drop thoughts into a comment if you feel so moved, or even put up your own review post. It's always great fun to read reviews - and really helpful for making our wishlists, especially for newer folks who weren't around or who weren't paying attention to this house last summer, so all the Resurgence scents will be new to them.
Amber Cotton Candy & Honey Bee [Fossilized Amber accord, Bastet’s Amber absolute, Labdanum, Patchouli, Sandalwood, Cedar Chips, Cotton Candy accord, Vanilla-sugar, Whipped Orange Blossom Honey accord, Languid Amber Cordial accord (rich PC Ozymandias amber absolute), French Vanilla, Caramel and Raspberry Essence] - I don't buy NAVA's Bees because their honey doesn't work on me - their orange blossom honey is quite cloying, sickly sweet, and a bit urinous on me. This was a freebie sniffie bottle from Ajevie, which I still tried because it's always fun to try new things, and because (having experienced the orange blossom honey before) I figured I could overlook the honey to evaluate the other notes. This amber definitely has a thick, syrupy quality to it - I get almost a whiff of their limestone accord - and it's heavy on the labdanum. The pink spun-sugar cotton candy note amps the already quite sweet honey note. I also, to my surprise, actually can make out a touch of tart juicy raspbery - but not any patchouli.
Peach Vanilla Crème Tea [Peach skin, Peach pit, Ripened Peach accord, Black Tea, Bastet’s Amber absolute, Vanilla Bean Cordial, and Vanilla-Sugar] - It's peach iced tea, sweet and refreshing, much like Poesie Peach Tiara [Peach iced tea, honeysuckle, sun warmed skin, and crisp white petticoats], but without the cotton note, and with both the black tea and the peach more assertive. This peach is a bit candy-ish (possibly that sweetness is amped by the vanilla sugar), and the tea is suprisingly cinnamon-y, which pairs beautifully with the peach and makes it more a transitional scent, summer into fall, than purely a hot-weather scent for me.
Crystalline #11 [Sandalwood Milk accord, Santalum extract, Australian Sandalwood, Sandalwood Chips in Oudh blend, Golden Indian Sandalwood, Kobalt (Studio Limited Originals) Vanilla, Jasmine, Cedarwood, Red Sandalwood and Crystalline (Studio Limited Originals)] - A woodsy-creamy sandalwood and NAVA's lovely vanilla, this one recognizably a mix of Kobalt and Crystalline. It's difficult to say which of the sandalwood or vanilla are stronger because each of them seems the star on alternate sniffs! This is woodsier, more milky, and a little less addictive to my nose than Snowy Woolly [Vanilla essence, Indian Sandalwood, French Vanilla, Coconut Husk, Bastet’s Musk absolute and White Sandalwood], but it's a reasonable alternative if you're looking for the unctuous, gorgeous simplicity of vanilla + sandalwood. A touch of smoky oud comes out in the drydown, which is a welcome addition that makes this scent just a touch more complex.
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For those less familiar with Nocturne Alchemy, this release will include a "Resurgence" of (most of) last year's Summer 2023 scents, as well as this year's new releases, which will themselves then Resurge next year. You can find the complete list of last year's Summer 2023 scents HERE, with the caveat that the Crystalline #s won't be returning since they already came back in a Thoth's Archive, and the Musks don't Resurge either.
One of the nice things about this Resurgence thing is that you can buy decants in the first year to see how you like them, then full-size them the following year. Arae Decantery, Crypta Obscura, and Ajevie all do Nocturne Alchemy decants. And for those scents that won't Resurge (like the seasonal Musks), collections are around for long enough that there's still generally time to try decants before FSing. With only rare exceptions - looking at you, Lait! - things don't typically sell out right away, and collections stay up for several months.
I thought it might be helpful if I shared my thoughts on the Summer 2023 scents I've tried. We'd all love to hear your own thoughts on these or any other Summer 2023 perfumes, if you have any reviews to share! Drop thoughts into a comment if you feel so moved, or even put up your own review post. It's always great fun to read reviews - and really helpful for making our wishlists, especially for newer folks who weren't around or who weren't paying attention to this house last summer, so all the Resurgence scents will be new to them.
Amber Cotton Candy & Honey Bee [Fossilized Amber accord, Bastet’s Amber absolute, Labdanum, Patchouli, Sandalwood, Cedar Chips, Cotton Candy accord, Vanilla-sugar, Whipped Orange Blossom Honey accord, Languid Amber Cordial accord (rich PC Ozymandias amber absolute), French Vanilla, Caramel and Raspberry Essence] - I don't buy NAVA's Bees because their honey doesn't work on me - their orange blossom honey is quite cloying, sickly sweet, and a bit urinous on me. This was a freebie sniffie bottle from Ajevie, which I still tried because it's always fun to try new things, and because (having experienced the orange blossom honey before) I figured I could overlook the honey to evaluate the other notes. This amber definitely has a thick, syrupy quality to it - I get almost a whiff of their limestone accord - and it's heavy on the labdanum. The pink spun-sugar cotton candy note amps the already quite sweet honey note. I also, to my surprise, actually can make out a touch of tart juicy raspbery - but not any patchouli.
Peach Vanilla Crème Tea [Peach skin, Peach pit, Ripened Peach accord, Black Tea, Bastet’s Amber absolute, Vanilla Bean Cordial, and Vanilla-Sugar] - It's peach iced tea, sweet and refreshing, much like Poesie Peach Tiara [Peach iced tea, honeysuckle, sun warmed skin, and crisp white petticoats], but without the cotton note, and with both the black tea and the peach more assertive. This peach is a bit candy-ish (possibly that sweetness is amped by the vanilla sugar), and the tea is suprisingly cinnamon-y, which pairs beautifully with the peach and makes it more a transitional scent, summer into fall, than purely a hot-weather scent for me.
And on the off-chance that the Crystalline #s do return (with NA you never know for sure...)
Crystalline #10 [Toasted Coconut, Coconut Pulp, Caramelized Sugar, Tonka, Coconut Milk, Bastet’s Musk, eNVie saphir, Crystalline (Studio Limited Originals)] - Sweetened coconut. It's simple yet gorgeous. The sugary note helps it avoid sunscreen status, and there's something really light and refreshing about this one. Longevity is not great though.Crystalline #11 [Sandalwood Milk accord, Santalum extract, Australian Sandalwood, Sandalwood Chips in Oudh blend, Golden Indian Sandalwood, Kobalt (Studio Limited Originals) Vanilla, Jasmine, Cedarwood, Red Sandalwood and Crystalline (Studio Limited Originals)] - A woodsy-creamy sandalwood and NAVA's lovely vanilla, this one recognizably a mix of Kobalt and Crystalline. It's difficult to say which of the sandalwood or vanilla are stronger because each of them seems the star on alternate sniffs! This is woodsier, more milky, and a little less addictive to my nose than Snowy Woolly [Vanilla essence, Indian Sandalwood, French Vanilla, Coconut Husk, Bastet’s Musk absolute and White Sandalwood], but it's a reasonable alternative if you're looking for the unctuous, gorgeous simplicity of vanilla + sandalwood. A touch of smoky oud comes out in the drydown, which is a welcome addition that makes this scent just a touch more complex.
2024.05.21 16:44 Egg_57 My mom is pressuring me to come out to my dad, my mom only knows half the story and I’m feeling conflicted
I'm 19 mtf and currently live with my parents, I'm out to my gf, friends, and brother. They all support me, my brother a bit less and my mom knows some of the details but not that I'm trans, she's been iffy about it. I haven't really transitioned in anyway but I came to terms with myself about being trans when I was 17 though I had feelings since I was 12.
For some context some serious personal stuff has happened in me and my family's life that I rather not share which has greatly affected my father. I love my father I always have but overtime I had grown distant during my high school/college years but the most damaging thing in our relationship was his comments about the LGBT. Now he hasn't said the worst things about us but it was still negative. My family especially my parents are close more traditional values. My dad believes in the whole being a man and masculinity thing, he's always tried to push it onto me but the older I got the more I fought back. Based off on this though I already know my father would most likely not be pleased to hear about me being trans. I don’t think he’d act horribly cause he’s a very civil person. My mom has wanted to me to get closer to my father and help him with what’s going on emotionally but I told her I can’t. I mean how am I supposed to emotionally support someone when I’m positive they won’t return the favor and might even see me as an “it” or treat me like his child if I came out.
Here’s the thing though, I told my mom about how I can’t because he isn’t aware of my queerness. He’s reacted negatively to me growing out my hair when I was younger he use to almost buzz me when it got to a certain length as a child, though now it’s been growing out since I was 16 ( it’s a bit below my armpits). My dad has reacted very negatively to me bringing nail Polish home, guess he found it. He woke me up at 12 am on a school day to give me a lecture about how men don’t wear make up and how I need to become more of a man/macho. He almost banned me from seeing my female friends because he didn’t want me to do anything girly but I was able to convince him not to. From previous reactions which compared to telling him I’m trans I’m VERY positive he won’t take it well.
Good news is though I feel like I can tell them and get on hormones/transition soon. My friend who is non-binary asked me less than a month ago if I wanted to move in with them during the fall semester of college far away from where we live rn, I said I’ll think about it and as of now it’s pretty dead set in my mind.
So overall I don’t feel comfortable really not do I think it’ll go well if I come out to my dad, my mom knows a lot of it but not me wanting to get onto hormones, I think she’ll be fine with it especially overtime. Im just being pressured by my mom to come out to my dad :/ so I can help him out emotionally with what’s going on rn. I want to help him I do show him love and before my feelings for my dad became a mess but like I said I can’t if he doesn’t continue to love and support me through my journey. Though part of me feels I should wait when I move out and come out. I have a place to crash if I get kicked out, one of my friends offered if it ever happens but if I can prevent it then that’s what I want to do.
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For some context some serious personal stuff has happened in me and my family's life that I rather not share which has greatly affected my father. I love my father I always have but overtime I had grown distant during my high school/college years but the most damaging thing in our relationship was his comments about the LGBT. Now he hasn't said the worst things about us but it was still negative. My family especially my parents are close more traditional values. My dad believes in the whole being a man and masculinity thing, he's always tried to push it onto me but the older I got the more I fought back. Based off on this though I already know my father would most likely not be pleased to hear about me being trans. I don’t think he’d act horribly cause he’s a very civil person. My mom has wanted to me to get closer to my father and help him with what’s going on emotionally but I told her I can’t. I mean how am I supposed to emotionally support someone when I’m positive they won’t return the favor and might even see me as an “it” or treat me like his child if I came out.
Here’s the thing though, I told my mom about how I can’t because he isn’t aware of my queerness. He’s reacted negatively to me growing out my hair when I was younger he use to almost buzz me when it got to a certain length as a child, though now it’s been growing out since I was 16 ( it’s a bit below my armpits). My dad has reacted very negatively to me bringing nail Polish home, guess he found it. He woke me up at 12 am on a school day to give me a lecture about how men don’t wear make up and how I need to become more of a man/macho. He almost banned me from seeing my female friends because he didn’t want me to do anything girly but I was able to convince him not to. From previous reactions which compared to telling him I’m trans I’m VERY positive he won’t take it well.
Good news is though I feel like I can tell them and get on hormones/transition soon. My friend who is non-binary asked me less than a month ago if I wanted to move in with them during the fall semester of college far away from where we live rn, I said I’ll think about it and as of now it’s pretty dead set in my mind.
So overall I don’t feel comfortable really not do I think it’ll go well if I come out to my dad, my mom knows a lot of it but not me wanting to get onto hormones, I think she’ll be fine with it especially overtime. Im just being pressured by my mom to come out to my dad :/ so I can help him out emotionally with what’s going on rn. I want to help him I do show him love and before my feelings for my dad became a mess but like I said I can’t if he doesn’t continue to love and support me through my journey. Though part of me feels I should wait when I move out and come out. I have a place to crash if I get kicked out, one of my friends offered if it ever happens but if I can prevent it then that’s what I want to do.
2024.05.21 16:44 The4thPower M/27/6’0” [214-200] (1 year)
![M/27/6’0” [214-200] (1 year)](https://b.thumbs.redditmedia.com/oSTlUg-mfdcyn9IxR9HZTraz40vgTiW_mABuxSVv5iM.jpg "M/27/6’0” [214-200] (1 year)") | 1 year ago I decided to get serious about my fitness again. First pic is last June with a side by side with a digital from a recent photoshoot - after I started training again i applied for modeling as a “fuck it why not?” Sort of deal. Looking to model athletic wear or underwear submitted by The4thPower to Brogress [link] [comments] Second slide is my progression throughout the year. 198>214> ~200lbs (tbh I haven’t stepped on a scale in a bit) I do a variety of training - from calisthenics, Olympic lifting, rugby and general strength training. Usually 4x a week with maybe a day for stretching and minimal cardio Reflection : I spent this past year focusing mostly physical ability - acclimating myself to dips for the first time, teaching myself progressions on the rings, and sprinting mid distance. When I was composing the side by side, I was expecting to be blown away by a massive transformation. In all honesty, I was underwhelmed and thought “dam I really don’t look THAT different” and proceeded to have a really good laugh. This past year has brought me so many changes. Ended a long relationship, moved, new job(s), new friends, and a new, more capable me - and all I could think about was to see if I got biggeleaner. After training for ~10 years, this was a refreshing realization. Physical change is SLOW and that’s important - your mind and habits must change for a big period of time to make a lasting impact. The important part is I’m a happier, more capable person than I was 1 year ago - the more muscle is just a nice touch |
2024.05.21 16:43 TheBitterLocal Need relationship advice, I’m in a tricky situation.
Hello,
This awesome girl and I started seeing each other in February. Things moved really fast and we were both super invested into each other really quickly. It felt like I met my soul mate. She lived 4-5 hours away and we thought it would be cool if she moved in and became a river guide in the mountain town I live in. She has some sexual trauma that she hadn't dealt with that put some strain on our relationship. We talked about it and both agreed that it was a good idea for her to get a therapist. She got 2. One for her PTSD and sexual trauma and one for her day to day life. This is good and I'm fully supportive of her while she is going through this. Once she started seeing her therapist for PTSD and started to unpack her trauma she began to go distant from me. This talk was about a month ago. She has an avoidant attachment style.
We talked and decided it was best to move in as friends and roommates first then reintroduce the romance later once we have lived with each other for sometime. A restart if you will. She was too overwhelmed to move in as romantic partners and I respect that. I actually think it was a great idea to reset. Probably for the best and seems like the healthiest way to do this.
She moved in a few days ago. We're still sorta flirty and are having lots of fun which is good. Things are not that weird.
My current plan is to just be a good roommate and friend to her and continue doing my own thing. Then once/if she is ready to try the romance stuff again let her own time. I think we both still have some romantic feelings for each other. I believe mine are stronger though unfortunately.
She left her friends, her job and her old living situation & she definitely needs to settle in with out me around all the time. I don't want to pressure her at all and I think she needs to have worked out most of the things that were troubling her before dating effectively anyways.
Is this the right way to go about this? The situation isn't what I thought it'd be but this restart period might be a healthier way to go about this. How do I prevent us from fizzling out and just being friends? Is there a way I can balance what I want with what she wants so I don't become totally friend zoned?
I'd be okay with just being friends if that was the outcome but it sure would be a bummer because we work really well together and she's very cool/into the same stuff I am. Any tips, advice or insight is appreciated.
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This awesome girl and I started seeing each other in February. Things moved really fast and we were both super invested into each other really quickly. It felt like I met my soul mate. She lived 4-5 hours away and we thought it would be cool if she moved in and became a river guide in the mountain town I live in. She has some sexual trauma that she hadn't dealt with that put some strain on our relationship. We talked about it and both agreed that it was a good idea for her to get a therapist. She got 2. One for her PTSD and sexual trauma and one for her day to day life. This is good and I'm fully supportive of her while she is going through this. Once she started seeing her therapist for PTSD and started to unpack her trauma she began to go distant from me. This talk was about a month ago. She has an avoidant attachment style.
We talked and decided it was best to move in as friends and roommates first then reintroduce the romance later once we have lived with each other for sometime. A restart if you will. She was too overwhelmed to move in as romantic partners and I respect that. I actually think it was a great idea to reset. Probably for the best and seems like the healthiest way to do this.
She moved in a few days ago. We're still sorta flirty and are having lots of fun which is good. Things are not that weird.
My current plan is to just be a good roommate and friend to her and continue doing my own thing. Then once/if she is ready to try the romance stuff again let her own time. I think we both still have some romantic feelings for each other. I believe mine are stronger though unfortunately.
She left her friends, her job and her old living situation & she definitely needs to settle in with out me around all the time. I don't want to pressure her at all and I think she needs to have worked out most of the things that were troubling her before dating effectively anyways.
Is this the right way to go about this? The situation isn't what I thought it'd be but this restart period might be a healthier way to go about this. How do I prevent us from fizzling out and just being friends? Is there a way I can balance what I want with what she wants so I don't become totally friend zoned?
I'd be okay with just being friends if that was the outcome but it sure would be a bummer because we work really well together and she's very cool/into the same stuff I am. Any tips, advice or insight is appreciated.
2024.05.21 16:43 BuckeyeBelieverOSU [USA] Looking for Builder / Painter - Dark Angels Army Commission
Hello, I’m starting a Dark Angels army and am looking for someone to build and paint for me. I’m looking for an above average tabletop(+) standard with box art color schemes. It is imperative that the models be clean, detailed and uniform in the color scheme. I’m not looking for display quality, just a professionally painted army.. I am on a budget so the entire army will be done in a couple waves, if the experience goes well I would be looking to move all my projects to one painter for consistency. I am only interested in USA or (Canadian?) painters at this time.
Please submit photos of Space Marines (preferably Dark Angels) or equivalent for review. Please itemize out your quote in case I need to make changes to what gets prioritized. I’m not in a rush but would also like to know your plans for a timeline.
I would also like a quote for basing if not included in the painting price.
The first wave will consist of the following models: Lion el’ Jonson
Azrael
Asmodai
Deathwing Knights
Inner Circle Companions (x2)
Deathwing Terminators (x2)
Thank You for your consideration!
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Please submit photos of Space Marines (preferably Dark Angels) or equivalent for review. Please itemize out your quote in case I need to make changes to what gets prioritized. I’m not in a rush but would also like to know your plans for a timeline.
I would also like a quote for basing if not included in the painting price.
The first wave will consist of the following models: Lion el’ Jonson
Azrael
Asmodai
Deathwing Knights
Inner Circle Companions (x2)
Deathwing Terminators (x2)
Thank You for your consideration!
2024.05.21 16:42 JustABoy75 M
It’s time. I know I won’t hear from you again unless I initiate contact. Thank you for that, message received. I know I have asked you to do something that you don’t want to do, to decide what you want and communicate it to me. I’m sorry for that. I know you will put it off and try to ignore it as you no longer owe me anything. So the easiest thing is just to move on.
I’m fairly dense and need time to come to my own conclusion, and that I have. I would love nothing more than to have you in my life, but I cannot step back. Maybe in time, but probably not.
I will forever cherish our time together and all that you shared with me. I wish we could try again with new boundaries and expectations, but I will always want more. And, just like every relationship I have ever had, what I want just doesn’t matter to anyone. It’s always the last considered and the first sacrificed.
Now, it’s time for me to start putting myself first. I know what I want, to build an incredible friendship that builds into someone I can spend the rest of my life with. Maybe marriage, maybe not, that part is not important to me. I am only looking for someone that I can share my life with, have constant companionship and be close to.
Three times now, you have pushed me away. Now, I’m walking before you can do it again. 3:1, I’m sorry I ruined your perfect score.
It’s time I let you go. Let go of the hope, the closeness, the companionship, and the friendship. From here on out, we will be strangers. If we pass in the street, I won’t wave. I won’t acknowledge. I won’t react. But I will see you, and remember.
As hard as this is for me, it has to happen. It has to be this way. For me to heal.
GoodByE
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I’m fairly dense and need time to come to my own conclusion, and that I have. I would love nothing more than to have you in my life, but I cannot step back. Maybe in time, but probably not.
I will forever cherish our time together and all that you shared with me. I wish we could try again with new boundaries and expectations, but I will always want more. And, just like every relationship I have ever had, what I want just doesn’t matter to anyone. It’s always the last considered and the first sacrificed.
Now, it’s time for me to start putting myself first. I know what I want, to build an incredible friendship that builds into someone I can spend the rest of my life with. Maybe marriage, maybe not, that part is not important to me. I am only looking for someone that I can share my life with, have constant companionship and be close to.
Three times now, you have pushed me away. Now, I’m walking before you can do it again. 3:1, I’m sorry I ruined your perfect score.
It’s time I let you go. Let go of the hope, the closeness, the companionship, and the friendship. From here on out, we will be strangers. If we pass in the street, I won’t wave. I won’t acknowledge. I won’t react. But I will see you, and remember.
As hard as this is for me, it has to happen. It has to be this way. For me to heal.
GoodByE
2024.05.21 16:42 Gontzal81 Mild Ale (I)
Mild ale is a type of ale. Modern milds are mostly dark-coloured, with an alcohol by volume (ABV) of 3% to 3.6%, although there are lighter-hued as well as stronger milds, reaching 6% abv and higher. Mild originated in Britain in the 17th century or earlier, and originally meant a young ale, as opposed to a "stale" aged or old ale.
Mild experienced a sharp decline in popularity in the 1960s, and was in danger of completely disappearing, but the increase of microbreweries has led to a modest renaissance and an increasing number of milds (sometimes labelled "dark") being brewed.
The Campaign for Real Ale has designated May as Mild Month. In the United States, a group of beer bloggers organised the first American Mild Month for May 2015, with forty-five participating breweries across the country.
"Mild" was originally used to designate any beer which was young, fresh or unaged and did not refer to a specific style of beer. Thus there was Mild Ale but also Mild Porter and even Mild Bitter Beer. These young beers were often blended with aged "stale" beer to improve their flavour. As the 19th century progressed public taste moved away from the aged taste; unblended young beer, mostly in the form of Mild Ale or Light Bitter Beer, began to dominate the market.
In the 19th century a typical brewery produced three or four mild ales, usually designated by a number of X marks, the weakest being X, the strongest XXXX. They were considerably stronger than the milds of today, with the gravity ranging from around 1.055 to 1.072 (about 5.5% to 7% abv). Gravities dropped throughout the late 19th century and by 1914 the weakest milds were down to about 1.045, still considerably stronger than modern versions.
The draconian measures applied to the brewing industry during the First World War had a particularly dramatic effect upon mild. As the biggest-selling beer, it suffered the largest cut in gravity when breweries had to limit the average OG of their beer to 1.030. In order to be able to produce some stronger beer - which was exempt from price controls and thus more profitable - mild was reduced to 1.025 or lower.
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Mild experienced a sharp decline in popularity in the 1960s, and was in danger of completely disappearing, but the increase of microbreweries has led to a modest renaissance and an increasing number of milds (sometimes labelled "dark") being brewed.
The Campaign for Real Ale has designated May as Mild Month. In the United States, a group of beer bloggers organised the first American Mild Month for May 2015, with forty-five participating breweries across the country.
"Mild" was originally used to designate any beer which was young, fresh or unaged and did not refer to a specific style of beer. Thus there was Mild Ale but also Mild Porter and even Mild Bitter Beer. These young beers were often blended with aged "stale" beer to improve their flavour. As the 19th century progressed public taste moved away from the aged taste; unblended young beer, mostly in the form of Mild Ale or Light Bitter Beer, began to dominate the market.
In the 19th century a typical brewery produced three or four mild ales, usually designated by a number of X marks, the weakest being X, the strongest XXXX. They were considerably stronger than the milds of today, with the gravity ranging from around 1.055 to 1.072 (about 5.5% to 7% abv). Gravities dropped throughout the late 19th century and by 1914 the weakest milds were down to about 1.045, still considerably stronger than modern versions.
The draconian measures applied to the brewing industry during the First World War had a particularly dramatic effect upon mild. As the biggest-selling beer, it suffered the largest cut in gravity when breweries had to limit the average OG of their beer to 1.030. In order to be able to produce some stronger beer - which was exempt from price controls and thus more profitable - mild was reduced to 1.025 or lower.
2024.05.21 16:41 goalkeeper16 Toxic Parents
Toxic parents (neither Catholic)...what do I do? How do I navigate this in a Catholic way while still protecting my son and marriage? (Sorry in advance for the long post...)
So I (26F) have, what I have been realizing for the past few years, very toxic parents (both 50). For background, I am an only child, which I hate bc I feel so alone in dealing with this. I was relatively close with them in my childhood, but when they fought I was ALWAYS their buffer. They would do things like say to me "can you believe they said/did XYZ?” or "don't tell them this but..." or "your dad/mom used to do..."and then say something horrible about the other. Growing up I didn't think much of it, as a defense mechanism I would just go along with it and agree with whoever was talking with me, but my mom was worse about doing this than my dad (dad still did it, just not as often).
I lived with them while in college to save some money, but started to grow more distant while in college due to major life events that happened. While in college we had big deaths in the family, within 2 years both of their moms (both of my grandma's who I was very close with) passed away unexpectedly. When my dad's mom passed he started drinking...a lot, which was terrible to be around, so I tried to avoid being home when at all possible. When my mom's mom passed, her dad went manic and had other health issues so my mom moved in with her dad to care for him for about 6 months. She also was not well, very depressed while still caring for her dad.
After graduating college when I moved out it broke my mom, she literally had a mental break. She moved out of their house, went to live with her sister 1hr away, lived there for 6 months while being suicidal and we FINALLY convinced her to go to a mental facility to get the help she needed.
After she got out she moved back in with my dad, but still had suicidal tendencies and would rely on me and her sister (my aunt) to help stabilize. My aunt, her sister, was her best friend...she passed away from COVID at the end of '21. My mom surprisingly handled it ok, but she is very lonely. Without her she just has me. She has no friends and doesn't try to make friends. I have tried inviting her to things to get her to meet people, but she seems to always have an excuse and never comes.
After all of these terrible things happened, I found God and became Catholic. I know I wouldn't have survived any of this without Him and the Church. I am very firm in my faith which I think makes my parents uncomfortable bc they're not religious (but they think they are). When I became Catholic they, especially my mom, made it known they were not ok with it.
My mom also has a lot of physical illnesses, she has extreme back pain from an unknown cause, lupus, rheumatoid arthritis, fibromyalgia, blood pressure problems...the list goes on, but essentially she is not in great health at all, is in a lot of pain basically all the time....but also seemingly doesn't do anything to really help herself.
Fast forward to now and 8 months ago I had my rainbow baby and my mom absolutely loves him. She says all the time how she wants them to watch the baby so we can go out, but I'm just not comfortable with either of them caring for the baby without my husband or I there with all of their history and a few months ago my mom told me that when I was a kid my dad would hit her. I had no idea, don't remember this at all and was obviously very distraught when I learned of this. I tell her I'm not comfortable with either of them watching the baby alone and she takes it extremely personal and is then very passive aggressive. Which of course makes me feel terrible. SOOO....what do I do? How do I navigate this in a Catholic way while still protecting my son and marriage?
Thanks if you made it this far!
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So I (26F) have, what I have been realizing for the past few years, very toxic parents (both 50). For background, I am an only child, which I hate bc I feel so alone in dealing with this. I was relatively close with them in my childhood, but when they fought I was ALWAYS their buffer. They would do things like say to me "can you believe they said/did XYZ?” or "don't tell them this but..." or "your dad/mom used to do..."and then say something horrible about the other. Growing up I didn't think much of it, as a defense mechanism I would just go along with it and agree with whoever was talking with me, but my mom was worse about doing this than my dad (dad still did it, just not as often).
I lived with them while in college to save some money, but started to grow more distant while in college due to major life events that happened. While in college we had big deaths in the family, within 2 years both of their moms (both of my grandma's who I was very close with) passed away unexpectedly. When my dad's mom passed he started drinking...a lot, which was terrible to be around, so I tried to avoid being home when at all possible. When my mom's mom passed, her dad went manic and had other health issues so my mom moved in with her dad to care for him for about 6 months. She also was not well, very depressed while still caring for her dad.
After graduating college when I moved out it broke my mom, she literally had a mental break. She moved out of their house, went to live with her sister 1hr away, lived there for 6 months while being suicidal and we FINALLY convinced her to go to a mental facility to get the help she needed.
After she got out she moved back in with my dad, but still had suicidal tendencies and would rely on me and her sister (my aunt) to help stabilize. My aunt, her sister, was her best friend...she passed away from COVID at the end of '21. My mom surprisingly handled it ok, but she is very lonely. Without her she just has me. She has no friends and doesn't try to make friends. I have tried inviting her to things to get her to meet people, but she seems to always have an excuse and never comes.
After all of these terrible things happened, I found God and became Catholic. I know I wouldn't have survived any of this without Him and the Church. I am very firm in my faith which I think makes my parents uncomfortable bc they're not religious (but they think they are). When I became Catholic they, especially my mom, made it known they were not ok with it.
My mom also has a lot of physical illnesses, she has extreme back pain from an unknown cause, lupus, rheumatoid arthritis, fibromyalgia, blood pressure problems...the list goes on, but essentially she is not in great health at all, is in a lot of pain basically all the time....but also seemingly doesn't do anything to really help herself.
Fast forward to now and 8 months ago I had my rainbow baby and my mom absolutely loves him. She says all the time how she wants them to watch the baby so we can go out, but I'm just not comfortable with either of them caring for the baby without my husband or I there with all of their history and a few months ago my mom told me that when I was a kid my dad would hit her. I had no idea, don't remember this at all and was obviously very distraught when I learned of this. I tell her I'm not comfortable with either of them watching the baby alone and she takes it extremely personal and is then very passive aggressive. Which of course makes me feel terrible. SOOO....what do I do? How do I navigate this in a Catholic way while still protecting my son and marriage?
Thanks if you made it this far!
2024.05.21 16:41 Special-Opinion9108 The Strokes "The New Abnormal", and what it meant for us
We loved listening to The Strokes together. "The New Abnormal" was released at the height of the pandemic, when nobody else was releasing new music. That album became forever cemented in my mind as a memory of those times with you and the years that followed. It's the one album that I can't listen to without being flooded with thoughts of you.
Today is the first time since you left me that I listened to it in its entirety. It was really hard to get through, in a way, because it felt like a time machine transporting me back to all the happiness of our years and moments together. I was reminded of how I felt when we were still together, when I was still whole, complete, happy and content. I saw the vivid images of us sneaking away to make love in your mom van because we were all supposed to be home in quarantine. Of us lounging together in and by the pool in the summertime, talking, laughing, making lunch together, dancing in the kitchen, then heading to the bedroom for some afternoon delight. The way it felt to be best friends and lovers. How we went to the Strokes show last August and had such a beautiful evening together. It was one of our last happy times with one another, one of my last happy times at all. I miss you so, so much.
I wonder if you still listen to it. Are you able to? Or is it just another thing you've thrown away because it reminds you of all that was so good between us? I hope you still do listen to it, and the memories and happiness of our magic come back to your heart and mind, if only for a little while.
Times like this are really hard. People tell me to just move on, but I can't. There's a very deep part of me that is painfully aware that what has come to pass is not what was meant to be, and I'm unable to escape from that. Things got really bad in the end, but I always knew that the things said were just because of superficial damage that had been caused by the pain and rejection of losing you slowly over the course of a year. That it was like a coating of dried mud, that when cracked off and wiped away would reveal the shining gem of our love for each other underneath. That if you could only see that, see me, the man you said you'd love until the end of time, instead of only that outer coating of mud, that we could repair all the damage, discard all the harsh words, and finally be free to grow together and love each other for who we really are, who we always were. That we could have so easily started fresh and been so happy with each other again, instead of throwing it all away and allowing what's happened instead to happen. But for some reason, you were never able to do that. You didn't know how to scrape away and see through the mud, which I'll never understand because you're otherwise so brilliantly intelligent. But nonetheless, you were unable to see this simple path to peace and happiness and chose the opposite instead.
I wish there was some way, any way to get through to you, but you've closed all the pathways. I want so very much to just sit and talk with you, like two good people with good intentions who wish each other only good things. Really, I'd do anything for that, even if it was only one more time. After all the time that's passed, I'd hope that you'd be able to finally let go of the resentment and just have an open and kind conversation for each other's best benefit. I wish there was some way to make you see that.
If we could only sit together and listen to "The New Abnormal" together just one more time, such a simple thing could have enough magical power to bring us back together again.
I miss you, T, more than words can ever say,
M
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Today is the first time since you left me that I listened to it in its entirety. It was really hard to get through, in a way, because it felt like a time machine transporting me back to all the happiness of our years and moments together. I was reminded of how I felt when we were still together, when I was still whole, complete, happy and content. I saw the vivid images of us sneaking away to make love in your mom van because we were all supposed to be home in quarantine. Of us lounging together in and by the pool in the summertime, talking, laughing, making lunch together, dancing in the kitchen, then heading to the bedroom for some afternoon delight. The way it felt to be best friends and lovers. How we went to the Strokes show last August and had such a beautiful evening together. It was one of our last happy times with one another, one of my last happy times at all. I miss you so, so much.
I wonder if you still listen to it. Are you able to? Or is it just another thing you've thrown away because it reminds you of all that was so good between us? I hope you still do listen to it, and the memories and happiness of our magic come back to your heart and mind, if only for a little while.
Times like this are really hard. People tell me to just move on, but I can't. There's a very deep part of me that is painfully aware that what has come to pass is not what was meant to be, and I'm unable to escape from that. Things got really bad in the end, but I always knew that the things said were just because of superficial damage that had been caused by the pain and rejection of losing you slowly over the course of a year. That it was like a coating of dried mud, that when cracked off and wiped away would reveal the shining gem of our love for each other underneath. That if you could only see that, see me, the man you said you'd love until the end of time, instead of only that outer coating of mud, that we could repair all the damage, discard all the harsh words, and finally be free to grow together and love each other for who we really are, who we always were. That we could have so easily started fresh and been so happy with each other again, instead of throwing it all away and allowing what's happened instead to happen. But for some reason, you were never able to do that. You didn't know how to scrape away and see through the mud, which I'll never understand because you're otherwise so brilliantly intelligent. But nonetheless, you were unable to see this simple path to peace and happiness and chose the opposite instead.
I wish there was some way, any way to get through to you, but you've closed all the pathways. I want so very much to just sit and talk with you, like two good people with good intentions who wish each other only good things. Really, I'd do anything for that, even if it was only one more time. After all the time that's passed, I'd hope that you'd be able to finally let go of the resentment and just have an open and kind conversation for each other's best benefit. I wish there was some way to make you see that.
If we could only sit together and listen to "The New Abnormal" together just one more time, such a simple thing could have enough magical power to bring us back together again.
I miss you, T, more than words can ever say,
M
2024.05.21 16:41 Special-Opinion9108 The Strokes "The New Abnormal", and what it meant for us
We loved listening to The Strokes together. "The New Abnormal" was released at the height of the pandemic, when nobody else was releasing new music. That album became forever cemented in my mind as a memory of those times with you and the years that followed. It's the one album that I can't listen to without being flooded with thoughts of you.
Today is the first time since you left me that I listened to it in its entirety. It was really hard to get through, in a way, because it felt like a time machine transporting me back to all the happiness of our years and moments together. I was reminded of how I felt when we were still together, when I was still whole, complete, happy and content. I saw the vivid images of us sneaking away to make love in your mom van because we were all supposed to be home in quarantine. Of us lounging together in and by the pool in the summertime, talking, laughing, making lunch together, dancing in the kitchen, then heading to the bedroom for some afternoon delight. The way it felt to be best friends and lovers. How we went to the Strokes show last August and had such a beautiful evening together. It was one of our last happy times with one another, one of my last happy times at all. I miss you so, so much.
I wonder if you still listen to it. Are you able to? Or is it just another thing you've thrown away because it reminds you of all that was so good between us? I hope you still do listen to it, and the memories and happiness of our magic come back to your heart and mind, if only for a little while.
Times like this are really hard. People tell me to just move on, but I can't. There's a very deep part of me that is painfully aware that what has come to pass is not what was meant to be, and I'm unable to escape from that. Things got really bad in the end, but I always knew that the things said were just because of superficial damage that had been caused by the pain and rejection of losing you slowly over the course of a year. That it was like a coating of dried mud, that when cracked off and wiped away would reveal the shining gem of our love for each other underneath. That if you could only see that, see me, the man you said you'd love until the end of time, instead of only that outer coating of mud, that we could repair all the damage, discard all the harsh words, and finally be free to grow together and love each other for who we really are, who we always were. That we could have so easily started fresh and been so happy with each other again, instead of throwing it all away and allowing what's happened instead to happen. But for some reason, you were never able to do that. You didn't know how to scrape away and see through the mud, which I'll never understand because you're otherwise so brilliantly intelligent. But nonetheless, you were unable to see this simple path to peace and happiness and chose the opposite instead.
I wish there was some way, any way to get through to you, but you've closed all the pathways. I want so very much to just sit and talk with you, like two good people with good intentions who wish each other only good things. Really, I'd do anything for that, even if it was only one more time. After all the time that's passed, I'd hope that you'd be able to finally let go of the resentment and just have an open and kind conversation for each other's best benefit. I wish there was some way to make you see that.
If we could only sit together and listen to "The New Abnormal" together just one more time, such a simple thing could have enough magical power to bring us back together again.
I miss you, T, more than words can ever say,
M
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Today is the first time since you left me that I listened to it in its entirety. It was really hard to get through, in a way, because it felt like a time machine transporting me back to all the happiness of our years and moments together. I was reminded of how I felt when we were still together, when I was still whole, complete, happy and content. I saw the vivid images of us sneaking away to make love in your mom van because we were all supposed to be home in quarantine. Of us lounging together in and by the pool in the summertime, talking, laughing, making lunch together, dancing in the kitchen, then heading to the bedroom for some afternoon delight. The way it felt to be best friends and lovers. How we went to the Strokes show last August and had such a beautiful evening together. It was one of our last happy times with one another, one of my last happy times at all. I miss you so, so much.
I wonder if you still listen to it. Are you able to? Or is it just another thing you've thrown away because it reminds you of all that was so good between us? I hope you still do listen to it, and the memories and happiness of our magic come back to your heart and mind, if only for a little while.
Times like this are really hard. People tell me to just move on, but I can't. There's a very deep part of me that is painfully aware that what has come to pass is not what was meant to be, and I'm unable to escape from that. Things got really bad in the end, but I always knew that the things said were just because of superficial damage that had been caused by the pain and rejection of losing you slowly over the course of a year. That it was like a coating of dried mud, that when cracked off and wiped away would reveal the shining gem of our love for each other underneath. That if you could only see that, see me, the man you said you'd love until the end of time, instead of only that outer coating of mud, that we could repair all the damage, discard all the harsh words, and finally be free to grow together and love each other for who we really are, who we always were. That we could have so easily started fresh and been so happy with each other again, instead of throwing it all away and allowing what's happened instead to happen. But for some reason, you were never able to do that. You didn't know how to scrape away and see through the mud, which I'll never understand because you're otherwise so brilliantly intelligent. But nonetheless, you were unable to see this simple path to peace and happiness and chose the opposite instead.
I wish there was some way, any way to get through to you, but you've closed all the pathways. I want so very much to just sit and talk with you, like two good people with good intentions who wish each other only good things. Really, I'd do anything for that, even if it was only one more time. After all the time that's passed, I'd hope that you'd be able to finally let go of the resentment and just have an open and kind conversation for each other's best benefit. I wish there was some way to make you see that.
If we could only sit together and listen to "The New Abnormal" together just one more time, such a simple thing could have enough magical power to bring us back together again.
I miss you, T, more than words can ever say,
M
2024.05.21 16:41 smolbean304 Aunt wants to host my bridal shower and mom is upset
Here’s some background. My parents split when I was 3 and I was raised by both who split custody 60/40 mom/dad. When I was in high school my dad moved several thousands of miles away to be closer to my step mom’s family, so I’ve grown up primarily with my mom and she and I are extremely close. On my dads side of the family, I am quite close with my aunt (his brothers wife). I lived with her and my uncle for a few years while I was in grad school and they were the first people in my family to meet and get to know my fiancé, so they’re very special to both of us.
Fast forward to today, my aunt told me she wants to host my bridal shower and throw it here in the city where we both live. She offered to have everyone come to her apartment (it’s very large - she and my uncle are quite wealthy). I’m having a small wedding here where we are just renting out a restaurant for a night and hadn’t considered doing any other events, so I was open to the idea of doing this because it seemed to make her happy and gave her a role in my wedding. She also wants to essentially co-host it with my mom / have my mom help her throw it.
My mom and fiancé’s family all live a few hours outside the city but it’s a doable distance for a day trip or one overnight, but when I brought up this shower to my mom she seemed hesitant. She blamed her hesitancy on making my family (her, my sisters in law on her side, fiancé’s mom, sister and grandma) travel to the city for another event outside the wedding but I needled her a bit this past weekend and she admitted that this shower makes her uncomfortable. She has met my aunt before (she married my uncle years after my parents split) and they get along but my mom just doesn’t like interacting with my dads side of the family and said she feels weird doing this event with my aunt, and doing it in my uncles house. I told her we could table it since the wedding isn’t until this winter but I’m not sure what to do. I do honestly want to let my aunt host this, as having it here would make it easier for all my friends to attend, and my fiancés mom already said she’s happy to come here for the event.
Has anyone dealt with something similar and have any advice?
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Fast forward to today, my aunt told me she wants to host my bridal shower and throw it here in the city where we both live. She offered to have everyone come to her apartment (it’s very large - she and my uncle are quite wealthy). I’m having a small wedding here where we are just renting out a restaurant for a night and hadn’t considered doing any other events, so I was open to the idea of doing this because it seemed to make her happy and gave her a role in my wedding. She also wants to essentially co-host it with my mom / have my mom help her throw it.
My mom and fiancé’s family all live a few hours outside the city but it’s a doable distance for a day trip or one overnight, but when I brought up this shower to my mom she seemed hesitant. She blamed her hesitancy on making my family (her, my sisters in law on her side, fiancé’s mom, sister and grandma) travel to the city for another event outside the wedding but I needled her a bit this past weekend and she admitted that this shower makes her uncomfortable. She has met my aunt before (she married my uncle years after my parents split) and they get along but my mom just doesn’t like interacting with my dads side of the family and said she feels weird doing this event with my aunt, and doing it in my uncles house. I told her we could table it since the wedding isn’t until this winter but I’m not sure what to do. I do honestly want to let my aunt host this, as having it here would make it easier for all my friends to attend, and my fiancés mom already said she’s happy to come here for the event.
Has anyone dealt with something similar and have any advice?
2024.05.21 16:40 Revanx22 Buying a house versus jump starting retirement
I'm 34, and have nothing in retirement. I had a drug problem, got clean, and then worked on paying off my debt that goes along with all that. A few years ago I started my own business, and have been hesitant to put anything away while getting the business off the ground and making sure it would work out. I finally feel like in a place to start saving for retirement, but broke up with my girlfriend last week so now I need to factor housing into my situation as well.
Currently I'm 100% debt free, although I will need to buy a new car in the next year or so. I have around 30k in a high yields saving account. My plan was to max out an ira for the year, and then figure out a decent 401k I could do while self employed. Needing to find a new place to live threw a wrench in this.
I'm thinking no matter what I should max out the ira for the year, which will leave me about 22k left. Should I put a lot of that towards a down payment on a house, or would I be better renting for awhile and throwing more towards retirement?
My income varies, but I think I should be able to make at least 60k a year moving forward although I'm hoping for 70k. I pay 600 a month in child support, and renting in my area is around 1200 or so plus utilities for places with the space I need. I also pay into my own Healthcare and vacation days, so I need to factor that in.
I'm feeling very overwhelmed and any advice would be greatly appreciated.
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Currently I'm 100% debt free, although I will need to buy a new car in the next year or so. I have around 30k in a high yields saving account. My plan was to max out an ira for the year, and then figure out a decent 401k I could do while self employed. Needing to find a new place to live threw a wrench in this.
I'm thinking no matter what I should max out the ira for the year, which will leave me about 22k left. Should I put a lot of that towards a down payment on a house, or would I be better renting for awhile and throwing more towards retirement?
My income varies, but I think I should be able to make at least 60k a year moving forward although I'm hoping for 70k. I pay 600 a month in child support, and renting in my area is around 1200 or so plus utilities for places with the space I need. I also pay into my own Healthcare and vacation days, so I need to factor that in.
I'm feeling very overwhelmed and any advice would be greatly appreciated.
2024.05.21 16:40 Special-Opinion9108 The Strokes "The New Abnormal", and what it meant for us
We loved listening to The Strokes together. "The New Abnormal" was released at the height of the pandemic, when nobody else was releasing new music. That album became forever cemented in my mind as a memory of those times with you and the years that followed. It's the one album that I can't listen to without being flooded with thoughts of you.
Today is the first time since you left me that I listened to it in its entirety. It was really hard to get through, in a way, because it felt like a time machine transporting me back to all the happiness of our years and moments together. I was reminded of how I felt when we were still together, when I was still whole, complete, happy and content. I saw the vivid images of us sneaking away to make love in your mom van because we were all supposed to be home in quarantine. Of us lounging together in and by the pool in the summertime, talking, laughing, making lunch together, dancing in the kitchen, then heading to the bedroom for some afternoon delight. The way it felt to be best friends and lovers. How we went to the Strokes show last August and had such a beautiful evening together. It was one of our last happy times with one another, one of my last happy times at all. I miss you so, so much.
I wonder if you still listen to it. Are you able to? Or is it just another thing you've thrown away because it reminds you of all that was so good between us? I hope you still do listen to it, and the memories and happiness of our magic come back to your heart and mind, if only for a little while.
Times like this are really hard. People tell me to just move on, but I can't. There's a very deep part of me that is painfully aware that what has come to pass is not what was meant to be, and I'm unable to escape from that. Things got really bad in the end, but I always knew that the things said were just because of superficial damage that had been caused by the pain and rejection of losing you slowly over the course of a year. That it was like a coating of dried mud, that when cracked off and wiped away would reveal the shining gem of our love for each other underneath. That if you could only see that, see me, the man you said you'd love until the end of time, instead of only that outer coating of mud, that we could repair all the damage, discard all the harsh words, and finally be free to grow together and love each other for who we really are, who we always were. That we could have so easily started fresh and been so happy with each other again, instead of throwing it all away and allowing what's happened instead to happen. But for some reason, you were never able to do that. You didn't know how to scrape away and see through the mud, which I'll never understand because you're otherwise so brilliantly intelligent. But nonetheless, you were unable to see this simple path to peace and happiness and chose the opposite instead.
I wish there was some way, any way to get through to you, but you've closed all the pathways. I want so very much to just sit and talk with you, like two good people with good intentions who wish each other only good things. Really, I'd do anything for that, even if it was only one more time. After all the time that's passed, I'd hope that you'd be able to finally let go of the resentment and just have an open and kind conversation for each other's best benefit. I wish there was some way to make you see that.
If we could only sit together and listen to "The New Abnormal" together just one more time, such a simple thing could have enough magical power to bring us back together again.
I miss you, T, more than words can ever say,
M
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Today is the first time since you left me that I listened to it in its entirety. It was really hard to get through, in a way, because it felt like a time machine transporting me back to all the happiness of our years and moments together. I was reminded of how I felt when we were still together, when I was still whole, complete, happy and content. I saw the vivid images of us sneaking away to make love in your mom van because we were all supposed to be home in quarantine. Of us lounging together in and by the pool in the summertime, talking, laughing, making lunch together, dancing in the kitchen, then heading to the bedroom for some afternoon delight. The way it felt to be best friends and lovers. How we went to the Strokes show last August and had such a beautiful evening together. It was one of our last happy times with one another, one of my last happy times at all. I miss you so, so much.
I wonder if you still listen to it. Are you able to? Or is it just another thing you've thrown away because it reminds you of all that was so good between us? I hope you still do listen to it, and the memories and happiness of our magic come back to your heart and mind, if only for a little while.
Times like this are really hard. People tell me to just move on, but I can't. There's a very deep part of me that is painfully aware that what has come to pass is not what was meant to be, and I'm unable to escape from that. Things got really bad in the end, but I always knew that the things said were just because of superficial damage that had been caused by the pain and rejection of losing you slowly over the course of a year. That it was like a coating of dried mud, that when cracked off and wiped away would reveal the shining gem of our love for each other underneath. That if you could only see that, see me, the man you said you'd love until the end of time, instead of only that outer coating of mud, that we could repair all the damage, discard all the harsh words, and finally be free to grow together and love each other for who we really are, who we always were. That we could have so easily started fresh and been so happy with each other again, instead of throwing it all away and allowing what's happened instead to happen. But for some reason, you were never able to do that. You didn't know how to scrape away and see through the mud, which I'll never understand because you're otherwise so brilliantly intelligent. But nonetheless, you were unable to see this simple path to peace and happiness and chose the opposite instead.
I wish there was some way, any way to get through to you, but you've closed all the pathways. I want so very much to just sit and talk with you, like two good people with good intentions who wish each other only good things. Really, I'd do anything for that, even if it was only one more time. After all the time that's passed, I'd hope that you'd be able to finally let go of the resentment and just have an open and kind conversation for each other's best benefit. I wish there was some way to make you see that.
If we could only sit together and listen to "The New Abnormal" together just one more time, such a simple thing could have enough magical power to bring us back together again.
I miss you, T, more than words can ever say,
M
2024.05.21 16:40 swisherswish Move away from Platinum Cashback?
I have the £25 a year card which I spend about £1k a month on.
Wondering whether I should switch to a new card, perhaps with avios.
I don't always fly BA but would consider it if I could get a 2for1 deal or free flights.
Which cards can I still get the welcome bonus on?
Thanks
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Wondering whether I should switch to a new card, perhaps with avios.
I don't always fly BA but would consider it if I could get a 2for1 deal or free flights.
Which cards can I still get the welcome bonus on?
Thanks
2024.05.21 16:39 Adventurous_Trade555 Ralsei ruined my life forever
I felt a sharp pain in my chest as I heard the words that shattered my world. You betrayed me. You looked at me with a smirk and said, "Yeah, I did. What are you gonna do about it?" I couldn't believe it. How could you do this to me? How could you turn your back on me after everything we've been through? A single tear fell from my eye, and you noticed. "Oh... oh, don't cry..." You said, but not with kindness. With mockery. You reached for my face, but I flinched away. You grabbed my arm and pulled me closer. I saw an old photo of us on the table, smiling and happy. We looked so innocent and pure. I cried harder, remembering the good times we had. You snatched the photo from my hands and tore it up. You threw the pieces in my face and said, "It's over! Our friendship has ended!" I sobbed, feeling the pieces of my heart breaking along with the photo. I did nothing but trust you…. I cried, trying to find some explanation for your actions. You laughed and said, "And I did nothing but break that trust. And I don't regret a damn thing." You looked at me with contempt and I said, "... you are not the Ralsei I know and love! You're just an impostor pretending to be him." You wiped your mouth and said, "Hey, hey, no need to cry over something that's over. I'm the Dark Prince now. And if you think I still have a heart..." You slapped me across the face, hard. I felt a sting and a bruise forming. "I hate you." You spat. "Do you think that hurts me? The only thing that hurts are your tears. You disgust me." You turned around and walked away. "Ugh, whatever. If you can't handle a betrayal, why did you trust me in the first place?" You said over your shoulder. I looked down, feeling numb and empty. You sighed and said, "...look, you were just so loyal. You were trusting me unconditionally, like I couldn't possibly hurt you. That's the only thing that makes me feel bad." You sounded almost sincere, but I knew it was a lie. "Ugh." You said, annoyed. I let out a whimper, and more tears fell. You shouted, "Dammit, I told you to stop crying!" You sighed again and said, "Look. Just... forget about me. I don't wanna see you again. I don't want anything to do with you." You started walking away, leaving me alone and broken. I just stood there, unable to move or speak. You sighed one last time and turned around. You looked at me with pity and said, "You're so sensitive, and I just hate seeing you like this. Just... please stop crying." You said softly, as if you cared. But I knew you didn't. You turned away and walked out of my life. I whispered, "I just miss the old you, that's all." But you didn't hear me. You didn't care. You were gone. And I was left with nothing but pain and tears.
I'll always treasure the memories we made, even though you're gone now. I may never fully recover from losing you, but I'll never forget you. Goodbye, Ralsei.
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I'll always treasure the memories we made, even though you're gone now. I may never fully recover from losing you, but I'll never forget you. Goodbye, Ralsei.
2024.05.21 16:39 DinnerNo7998 [FL] establishing residency ??
I moved from NC to FL in December. I signed my lease here 12/08/2023, got utilities in my name that week, changed my license the week after and I enrolled the kids in school here first week of Jan 2024.
My ex is very abusive and rarely iniates contact with the kids except to control me so I don’t think he will contact or file anything in the next couple of months. He is a violent convicted felon, state and federal, has 6 warrants, well two misdemeanor warrants and 4 orders for arrest for failure to pay child support to the kids he had while cheating on me. The other warrants are for driving 105 on 30mph zone without ever having a license and having fraudulent license plates. He’s still the main suspect in a local shooting. So all of that together is why I don’t believe he’d be in a hurry to file anything in our home state/county where we left. I have a clean record and have cared for the kids since birth so I just don’t think he’ll do it that quickly but..
When does our residency officially begin here? Like when is the children’s 6 months here for family court venue and which of those documents do I use to prove it? The school enrollment?
Also slightly unrelated but I recorded him apologizing for holding me at gun point and saying he’d sign away rights to the kids rather than let “the white man” tell him to take a parenting class. Which is a part of his safety plan for beating his other child at school in front of a camera and mandated reporters. However I don’t think he’ll actually give me custody because he uses the children to control me but I recorded him saying he’d never see them again and meet me downtown to “sign away rights”.
I know FL is a two party consent state but I recorded those when we were both in NC, a one party state. Can I use them in family court in FL?
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My ex is very abusive and rarely iniates contact with the kids except to control me so I don’t think he will contact or file anything in the next couple of months. He is a violent convicted felon, state and federal, has 6 warrants, well two misdemeanor warrants and 4 orders for arrest for failure to pay child support to the kids he had while cheating on me. The other warrants are for driving 105 on 30mph zone without ever having a license and having fraudulent license plates. He’s still the main suspect in a local shooting. So all of that together is why I don’t believe he’d be in a hurry to file anything in our home state/county where we left. I have a clean record and have cared for the kids since birth so I just don’t think he’ll do it that quickly but..
When does our residency officially begin here? Like when is the children’s 6 months here for family court venue and which of those documents do I use to prove it? The school enrollment?
Also slightly unrelated but I recorded him apologizing for holding me at gun point and saying he’d sign away rights to the kids rather than let “the white man” tell him to take a parenting class. Which is a part of his safety plan for beating his other child at school in front of a camera and mandated reporters. However I don’t think he’ll actually give me custody because he uses the children to control me but I recorded him saying he’d never see them again and meet me downtown to “sign away rights”.
I know FL is a two party consent state but I recorded those when we were both in NC, a one party state. Can I use them in family court in FL?