Living in the middle of #puremichigan affords us the opportunity to journey to several of the Great Lakes, some on the west side, some on the east side of the state. The hubby's family lives on the west side of the state, so we're often making the two hour trek there to visit and to get our feet wet. I used to joke that I preferred the west coast for the amazing sunsets over Lake Michigan. Of course, this was often fueled by a day spent drinking in the sun on the beach, and then continuing the drinking as the sun went down. We were with our buddies who have a cabin in Canada on Lake Huron and I said (most likely drunk) that “no one gets up to drink and watch the sun come up” and pointed to the sunset happening at Oval Beach in Saugatuck, MI (Google it, it's amazing!).
My how times have changed. I do actually get up to watch the sun come up now, and instead of drinking wine/beer, I’m drinking coffee or tea and enjoying the quiet time to think/meditate or just relax before the day starts. We recently added a sunroom/three seasons room off the back of our house, and it faces east and affords a great view of the sun coming up each morning. I may not be on a beach, but I can sit by my pool and pretend.
Being off booze is a game-changer for sure, on many levels. Our perception of what is important and what is valuable changes over time and we begin to see the world with clearer, sober eyes. That’s a gift that never gets old.
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My first best friend, who I'll call Melissa, and I met in kindergarten and were both 5 at the time. We both looked and smiled at each other. That was the day we became friends and it was the most happiest day of my childhood. I sat next to her and we were hanging out with each other every day.
We would do so many things at school with each other. We would sit on the carpet to play with the items the teacher put out for the class each morning. We would always do fun activities in the gym. We would sit at lunch, laugh about funny things we told each other, and hang out at recess every day. My favorite moment was when we were on the swings to see who would go the highest and just look at each other and smile. We did go to other parts of the playground but the swings was our favorite.
When we weren't in a classroom together with our teachers due to them having a different assigned classroom, we would still hang out in lunch and in recess because they released everyone at a certain time by grade level. For example, if we were in 1st grade and students were in a different classroom, the 1st graders would all be released at the same time while the other students in different grades remained in the same classroom. So even if Melissa and I were in different classrooms, we would always meet up and have a great time.
In 3rd grade, I found this girl who I'll call Leah. Leah and I would do pretty fun things together since we were in the same classroom and were hanging out with each other, but I'd still go and hang out with Melissa sometimes. I introduced Melissa to Leah and we basically became a friend group, or at least I thought it was a friend group.
During this time I was constantly having to pick sides with some of our things we were making up as kids. First, it was who I was to sit with at lunch. (Sometimes I wasn't lucky enough to sit with either of them because of a rule where we had to sit in a boy-girl pattern to apparently make everyone quieter during lunch time.) Then it was with some group or clan we made up during recess, Melissa was in "unicorn squad" and Leah was in "girl squad" (I made up the name of girl squad.) I would try to bring them both together but Melissa's friends and Leah's friends didn't get along too well. I had no other best friends besides the both of them and it kinda broke my heart to see them not get along as well as I was with them. Then on a very traumatic day in fourth grade that I still regret for the rest of my life, Melissa and Leah both came up to me and said "You have to pick one best friend." I said I wanted them both to be my best friends but Leah kept pushing that I only pick one. Then we made up a stupid contest to see who would win (my idea) and I was a little tired of it and made Leah win. I have never seen such a sad look on Melissa's face when we were about to leave for home. I ran after her and apologized, I tried to comfort her and I think it worked since we stopped the argument.
Later on in the year of 4th grade, Melissa and Leah had some new friends they were hanging out with. I was fine with it at first, but seeing as their friends were experiencing many joyful moments with my best friends without me, I grew hatred towards their friends. I became jealous of what they were doing. I tried everything as a 9 year old girl could possibly do to keep the relationship going between me and my best friends. I still sat with both of them at lunch and joined them in recess. When they were busy hanging out with their friends, I was left alone, wandering around the playground, doing the things my best friends and I used to do but alone this time. It became depressing just thinking about memories of me and my friends playing together in the past and having fun. Now I had to have fun but alone as I watch my best friends have fun with theirs instead of me. I became even more depressed and angry seeing other random friendships because they were having fun and not me. I felt so alone, hurt, betrayed, so much emotion. This grew into more extreme hate towards the friends of my best friends.
In 5th grade, I did everything I could to have fun with them, but for some reason, something felt off. We hung out less. We didn't sit at lunch every day. Then I found out something shocking. Leah was hanging out with other girls who would give her lunch money, (I gave her lunch money for quite a long time now so we would get snacks with my money I gave her) and was making videos with these girls. I then hated the girls because apparently in my mind, they were controlling and possessing my friend. They stole her away from me. Leah and I still hung out and I considered her my friend because I didn't understand the concept of being used for money. Leah would always invite me to make videos but I wasn't comfortable. I realized how much of a fake friend she was but I still gave her a chance to change but never happened. I went to hang out with Melissa more after this but this felt a bit off too. She was hanging out with this one girl a lot. She seems pretty happy to be with her instead of me more. Melissa was into anime and I wasn't, so that drifted us apart but I didn't see it. I wasn't really into any of my best friend's interests because I was still depressed and full of rage against these girls. I grew to hate everyone and everything and I only wanted to be with Melissa.
It was near the end of the year when I went to go with Melissa in the playground where we always used to go, the swings. She constantly kept moving away, switching swings of just walking away from me. This hurt a lot coming from a close friend like her. I went to hang out with Leah because I still had no friends besides the two of them. Leah as well, left me behind and I was there alone again. All this just fueled my anger against everything. I hated other people, I hated activities, I hated everything, including myself. I thought this was weird since I didn't express my hate that badly towards these other girls, although I did want them to through horrible and horrendous things because in my mind, they were stealing my friends. They took away the people who made me happy. I was getting worse from my mental health because I wanted nothing but my happiness and my best friends back. I had a few thoughts of kidnapping my best friends so they could be with me forever. I would be happy and experience all the happy moments we would share together again. It was pointless anyway because I was just a 10 year old and couldn't do anything.
During these final months before everyone was all homeschooled for a year, I noticed whenever I tried to be with Melissa, she moved away from me again. I tried many times to catch up with her but she continued moving away. I thought absolutely nothing of it because of a funny joke by the teachers saying we hung out too much and we should be separated. I found it funny because at the time, our friendship was strong and I thought nothing would ever separate us from having fun. So I just thought about it as if she was playing around with that joke. I gave up catching up after Melissa because I was tired and I thought she was playing the joke on me. It turns out, I overheard something she said and she said I was too clingy. I didn't know what it meant and I thought she said a funny word and thought nothing of it. Later on she asked me for a break. I said that it was fine and I thought she meant a break for one day (I thought breaks were meant to be short at the time) and we left each other alone.
It came a few days later where she said she didn't want to be my friend anymore. I then went to hang out with Leah, who I didn't hang out with for a long while, said she also didn't want to be friends with me anymore. I was broken by their words but I just thought it was all a joke to me, because I thought it was dumb to unfriend someone for hanging out with them every day.
Fast forward to 6th grade where we were homeschooled for a year, I was full of hope that I was going to be friends with Melissa again after a long time. Then came 7th grade where I was 12 and I continued to sit with her at lunch again, but this time I felt nothing. There were no fun conversations like we usually had back in elementary. I just felt like I wasn't meant to be there. I still felt the same loneliness, rage, and sadness back like I was in 5th grade. That's when I finally realized I was no longer her friend, and I had so much hate in myself for taking a year to realize I had been blind to all of this. I never felt so much sadness like that in my life. The two friends I had left me, I was really depressed by this reason, and now I constantly question myself wondering what I did wrong. I still grovel over them both. It's been a few years now. Did I do something wrong?

I experienced my first inventory. Been an employee for 3 weeks. I drove an hour away to a different store to do it—and was told by MY store manager that no matter what, the shift goes until 3am. Ok great!
Well 2:20 rolls around and a manager of the store I’m at approaches me and says some things that give me the impression there’s a LOT more work to do.
I asked the girl working next to me if some people have to stay past 3. She says yes. Alarms are going off in my head now. 3am had been my salvation!! I also live over an hour away from that store. So I had a long drive ahead of me.
2:51 now: I get put on another “team” doing a different task because we finished ours. So I walk up to a lead in that area. And tell them I’m leaving very soon but ready to help with literally anything for my last 10 minutes.
She rolled her eyes and laughed in my face before making me just F off basically. So I scanned a few more small fixtures and kept working.
2:59am: I make my way up to the little makeshift headquarters where a lot of the managers are hanging out. I inform them that I was told my shift ends at 3. They all looked at each other and made a face like, “are you fcking kidding”. Some exasperated noises.
They said “umm…well…ok..I GUESS that’s fine.” Like I wasn’t asking. Lol. I was telling you guys I’m done working my shift so you can let me out of the building. Then one of them says, “What store are you from?!” Like she wants to tattle on me to my manager for wanting to leave??? That’s what it seemed like at least.
It was a very strange experience. I was under the impression that everyone would be done by 3. Wasn’t sure how it worked. But that’s what I was lead to believe and what I came prepared for. The negative reaction when actually trying to leave was unexpected.
Seems like there is a disconnect there somewhere. Don’t tell employees their shift ends at a set time, then get pissy when they leave at that time!!
One guy literally made fun of an employee for leaving. Poor fella has to work tomorrow afternoon and he was getting shit on for not staying to do inventory past 3 am.
If I was told that the shift could possibly go later, I would have been mentally prepared for that.
I guess I’m just sharing my experience and wondering what everyone’s thoughts are.
—— TLDR: I helped another store with inventory and they got frustrated when I told them I was only scheduled until 3am so I had to leave at 3am.

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Abortion rights mods especially, you mods must hate females and work for the mob, you censors and moderators and Idaho conservatives! You're rapists, aren't you?
Anyways, for those who aren't pigs:
Imagine being a minor female that is from a rich conservative family that can bribe the authorities! Those who try to help her are risking getting a felony and it's easier for the police to pursue them if they flee by vehicle to a state where the female can get an abortion!
https://www.kirklandreporter.com/northwest/legislature-oks-initiatives-on-police-pursuits-income-tax-parental-rights/
Facebook is also blocking my account from web search results since you can get more information there. Mark Zuckerberg must be a rapist or something to be an Adolf Hitler!
Check out my YouTube channel for more information.
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You say you're better than you know who? Are you copping out?
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It's all in good fun but it can get very annoying at times when I feel inferior.
I was born with a cleft palate and it's not that they tease me about that (sometimes); but growing up with one and being bullied, I had to train my young self to smile and laugh it off.
Today, I am always smiling. You can be a recognizable face walking towards me and I'll just start smiling. Sometimes I will be smiling and I won't even know I'm smiling.
I get that they want to see me smile and love how I react to it, but it can often make me feel less than.
I enjoy the attention but I'm tired of feeling like I'm everyone's entertainment for the day.
If it's not my co workers during the week, it's my family when I see them on the weekends.

I’ve recently just moved to the UK from North America and currently looking for jobs. I work in a very unique field that my current city doesn’t have much to offer in terms of available jobs. That being said, I’ve recently just discovered a position at a company that I would be perfect for. I sent my application in early April, as soon as the listing went up, and worked really hard on my resume, portfolio to coincide with their company, and a cover letter. The job listing doesn’t have an end date of when they will close to applications, but I didn’t think much of this.
Fast forward to the beginning of May (two weeks later after sending my application in) and I sent a follow up email stating my continued interest in the position and asking for an update. The HR person replied saying they are still reviewing applications and that they will contact me when there is an update. Now that we’re nearing close to June (two weeks since I sent follow up email) I’m wondering if I should email again to ask the status even though they have said they will give me an update. I don’t want to be annoying but I know I would be a perfect fit for this role and really want to get an interview as I’m confident that I could make a good impression.
The job listing is currently still up on indeed and their website but again I don’t want to be annoying by contacting them again after they said they will give me an update when they have one. Or if it’s progressive and will be seen in a good light contacting them for a second time two weeks after the first follow up.
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The Context:

/Barcelona is the main sub for the second largest city in Spain and the capital of Catalonia. Long a tourist hotspot, much of the local economy is driven by tourism.
OOP posts a picture of graffiti in a park with the message: “Tourist: your luxury trip my daily misery.” [sic]
Users begin debating if this is a fair take, the effect of tourism on the city, and vomiting memes.
For ease of readability to a majority English-speaking audience, I’ve translated some comments from Catalan, poorly.

The Drama:

Is the graffiti expressing a selfish sentiment?

What a selfish, shitty thing to say to someone trying to live their best lives and share a bit of the magic you enjoy everyday.

Love this comment! Not all tourists are bad.

Tourism is unsustainable.

So we should all just stick to the respective cities we’re born in? What a lovely, thriving, multi-cultural society that’ll end up in /s

Not all the cities have the same problems. Responsible tourism is a thing

[Continued:]

Then why don't you vote for politicians that want to improve the situation?
Tourism tax, restrictions on how many people can visit a park/attraction per day, etc pp.
Instead you get nonstop whining on reddit. Or shared bicycles that can only be rented by Barcelona residents. Wow, good job! The tourism tax is at only 4-5€ per night in Barcelona. Compare that to Berlin where it's a whopping 7% soon (which is usually way higher than 5€).

Who did tell you who I vote for or what I do? [If you want we can talk face to face when you want clown]

Oh no, we got a badass over here. [I didn't say anything like that, of course you tourists are the problem if your head lacks intelligence...]

[It's very good to learn Catalan (good luck with what you have left to reach a decent level, I'm really telling you this with love) but don't put words in other people's mouths without knowing. There are many of us here who are fed up with the borderline situation that the city is living in and if you are a privileged person who doesn't get the slightest bit, I would at least ask you to have the decency to keep quiet when it's time to keep quiet]

[…]

No. We should stop travelling at the expense of the plane, the cities and the people's suffering. And locals should resist what makes their lives more difficult. In this case, a tourist model that hikes rents, contaminates and destroys the social fabric of the community displacing people and creating precarious jobs that provide no stability or value. Barcelona can be a great and fun place if you are staying here for a week, or if you are a remote worker that gets paid by a large firm with headquarters in Amsterdam. But that fun can be, and is, disastrous for other people. That search for sun and beach, of parties and stories uploaded to social media causes many problems for others. That's a fact. Non-sustainable tourism is what it is. Tourists and expats (high earning migrants) can be, individually, very nice and conscious folks. But the dynamics they are participating in are the cause of many problems for the city and its inhabitants.
[It's the market, friend.]

[…]

The problem isn't the singular tourist. The problem is suffocating hordes of tourists that treat your home like an amusement park or museum.
Tourism can be a real economic win for a city, but it also has externalities that can kill the very thing that made it special if not kept in check. Barcelona is a great example of this.
I say this both as someone who loves to travel and who lives in a tourist hotspot.

I mean, there is not too much you can do about it besides a ridiculous tax, and that would be a little hypocritical if you love to travel, because traveling should be accessible to the majority of people.
It makes sense to me if you defend the free market, and you put the price on your city or whatever you want to do like a libertarian, but again,it is hypocritical when we see that the political party that won the elections do not like the free market or libertarian politics.
You can't have all.

Woooosh!
That's the sound of everything going over your head

Lmao, it is the definition of being a logical thinker and not being a hypocrite.

Oh sorry, it went so over your head, that you didn't even hear the whoosh.
You're talking politics when I was talking social and economic. So, not much of a logical thinker.
But it doesn't surprise me that Barcelona would vote that way. It's called the resource curse, and by now tourism will have all but killed all other industries. So yeah, they have no choice now. Which is exactly what I was talking about in my second paragraph.

Who are the users of the sub anyway?

Because 90% of the people answering are expats. They don't fucking care about locals, they mostly despise or ignore them. Most of them live in their own English ghettos, not even bothering about anything else that themselves.

Biggest load of horseshit I’ve read all day.
You live in fantasy land and it’s really, really sad to see. I hope you open your eyes one day.

[How is your Catalan?]

[my Catalan is good. not that it matters]
Nobody “despises” Catalans. Every single person I know that has moved here is desperate to get involved with local culture, history and activities. They try their hardest to learn the language. They try their hardest to make more catalan friends.
Classic Reddit perpetual victim.

Is Barcelona dying?

Barcelona is dying. Soon it will be an empty city, a shiny shell of what had once been alive and authentic. The locals can't face the rent prices, the gentrified shops and bars, we are forced to leave our neighborhoods and give up decent housing.

Looking at rent availability and prices - it is very far from dying.

Are you looking at the prices as a foreigner or as a local? Because wages in Spain for most of us are quite poor, so yes, it's really difficult to find decent housing with those prices

And yet people don't do anything like moving away meaning situation is still not that bad.
When things like that happened in my country - a lot of people emigrated for better work and things normalised at home too.
Economy has a way of fixing itself. No workers to serve tourists - higher wages or fewer tourists.

It will only be expats and tourists here and the 10% rich Catalans in the end. Look at the most common local salary from locals in the city.

You're so close to understanding the root of the issue. Yet so far...

Yeah, it's all the fault of the 10% of evil Catalans. OK. Nobody else is responsable or can do anything.

[Continued:]

Think a little bit harder. You can do it.

[You're enlightening, kid.]

I give you the answer because you're obviously struggling. It's the wages. Your salary is shit, and there's no excuse for that because you live in a rich region, of a rich country, part of a rich continent.
And once again, one of the greatest success of those profiteering is to turn people like you into the useful idiots by pointing the finger to people from your own social class: in this case, the Ryanair flying middle to low income tourists (yeah, far from luxury holidays), who are the majority of the people visiting this city. And with whom you have much more in common than you realize.
While prices have increased, as it did everywhere around the globe, Barcelona remains a cheap city. And that's exactly the reason why it is such a popular destination across the spectrum of tourists, and especially with low income ones.
So, if you really want to change something, start asking yourself why wages are so low in such a rich region. And at an individual level, negotiate (like I did) an income worth your efforts. And if it's still not enough, keep in mind that 80% of the properties are owned by locals.

You don't know shit about how I fight, or any people like me for a more fair society. Probably way more than you. But this post is about overtourism and touristification. I can care about multiple things and fight multiple fights.

Then this conversation is over, you don't have the intellectual bandwidth to understand something as simple as how low wages are linked to the problem you blame "the tourists" for. Also, if me, an immigrant from a poor Caribbean country, is able to live significantly better than you in a place where I arrived few years ago without speaking the language, ask yourself the right questions about your fighting abilities, and probably your life choices.

[Continued:]

Lol you know shit about who I am, my life choices, or the money I earn. Your comment is funny.
I'm a socialist. I care about my family and friends, about people who had less oportunities than me. I despise people who only think about themselves, or fight only for themselves. The last part of your comment says a lot about you. Bye.

Sure, keep telling yourself that you're a socialist while defending a xenophobic agenda benefiting the ruling class. Like I said, useful idiots like you are what's keeping the system on its feet. Great work 👍

A user is crowned king:

When your own city becomes overcrowded all the time and you can’t afford to live in the center because it’s so expensive due to tourist/expats money inflating the market, it doesn’t matter how much money “the city” makes from tourism, your individual life is affected very negatively and you live worst off than with less tourism. I’m not even a local, but this is not hard to understand.

can’t really blame tourists for systemic issues

Erm, says who, you, the king?
If local wages are lower than abroad (not ideal but would be ok in its own, it’s still better than my own country) but due to how attractive the weather and culture is, people from other countries with much higher wages flock here and destroy the market, either by paying much higher (making it impossible for locals) or buying properties to rent (know many who do this, buy something, live in it 3 months of the year, and rent to other expats the rest of the year) - who’s fault is? The locals? lol

then fight for wages, not tourists.

This is why the locals hate you lol

[Continued:]

This is why I don't care bro.
[Photo of a beach]

What are you trying to prove? I’m not even a local, I just have more than a brain cell and understand why the locals blame the tourists, which is what was being discussed.

Nothing mate, I just really don't care who hates me. That is my day everyday at 11 am.

You care enough to have made now 3 comments that are totally irrelevant to what was being discussed.
“I don’t care. I swear. I promise! Let me show you that I don’t care. I really don’t care I swear”.

[…]

People working in tourism related jobs mostly work part-time, have no indefinido contracts and earn minimum wage. You can google that.
Some people are getting rich by tourism, most people are just surviving in it.
But of course 'expats' and tourists who represent most of the sub members and not local or immigrant workers are going to upvote your out of touch comment.

Some of these people need it to survive though

Not the Airbnb owners obviously

I have an Airbnb and I need it to survive.

Get a job.

What is misery?

Misery is that your old neighborhood is full of souvenir shops and none of your friends even live there anymore.

Shut the fuck up, Spain has one of the highest living standards in the world. You’re mad because other people want to visit and have a bit of it in their shitty lives? Spain has it so damn good, the thing youre complaining about is literally a problem around the entire developed world and isn’t necessarily any worse or unique to Barcelona. Stop being so damn dramatic and accept that your ‘misery’ is just you disliking seeing foreigners happy.

If you can afford spending hundreds of euros in partying and Airbnbs, why is their life so shitty? Leave your jobs and come work here as a server, try to rent anything with the minimum salary. Barcelona can be a paradise, but the tourist model is making it a hell for the majority.
Yeah, the market is being a problem for everyone everywhere. Now, people in Barcelona have to fight against the effects of the market in the city. As everybody should do in their home cities. A Barcelona for those who build their lives there, not for those who wish to consume and toss it.

Something tells me, me, a guiri, leaving my job and working in Barcelona makes Catalans even more mad than if I were just visiting.

And that something is in the room, here with us?
in fact if you live and work in Catalonia you are a Catalan. so this comment makes 0 sense at all.

Who’s to blame anyway?

Classic losers playing the victim card. Without tourism beautiful Barcelona's economy would be destroyed. But please keep blaming your shortcomings on others.

Barcelona was beautiful before tourism.

If you live in Barcelona, enjoy it. It is and will always be beautiful, and if you truly believe otherwise you are wasting the time you have in one of the world’s greatest cities. Times are tough, yes, but remember that people are also having tough times in the middle of nowhere, without any cultural outlets or ability to find likeminded people. Real estate greed is running rampant the world over, and hopefully it will not last.
Be a part of the solution, never travel again please. Just spend the rest of your life in Barcelona like a hermit. Otherwise you're a fucking hypocrite.

Hypocrite is thinking that tourism is good for the locals.

Ok great. Then be a part of the solution and never travel again. It hurts the locals. Been to London? Been to Berlin? Been to Italy? Greece? Cairo? Are you going to stop travelling and seeing the world? Everyone here knows perfectly well that you won't. It's just childish whining

The Flairs:

• “But I don't eat and vomit memes like you…”
  
• “Stop getting your news from memes”
  
• “You don't know shit about how I fight”
  

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that is it. anyquestions you can comment😄
（i really used GPT to translate for me , thank GPT！）

~rant/vent~
🔍I had pretyped this just ranting then I realized i can post it anonymously here bc i’m really struggling and would like some outside advice human to human feels like i’m gaslighting myself lol. They have supported me and given me everything I need materialistically and do what they are supposed to as parents in that aspect I am very grateful and appreciative of that. in no way shape or form will I ever complain ab them giving me food, shelter, clothes etc. I’m not seeking to be coddled or get sympathy either i just need to know if it really is that bad or am I tripping.
🔬emotionally manipulative & guilt tripping parents will be their own demise. lol. finally dropping that mask you have with them, making them look at themselves and see the torment i had to mentally internalize & take on over the years > sitting back & letting them continue their behavior and control to keep destroying your identity & self continuing to deal with immense shame, guilt, sadness, and anger because you know how they are and you think theres no point in opening up to them or telling them what they do wrong bc they always do the same shit & continue to blame you for everything. note this though when I finally released all my years of internalized emotions on them and started texting them very knowledgeable shit about themselves, how they treated me, my mom trying to control and ruin me and my girlfriends relationship when we first got together (+ we have continued to be together for 1yr and 3 months still going strong she ain’t ruin shiiiit) & shit talked my gf for no reason at all. When I started texting paragraph after paragraph (+ texting them back and forth.) I was met with my mom thinking something isn’t right regarding my mental health and telling my dad and brother she thinks something is wrong with me again (she was surprised how I could speak so knowledgeable bc I barely even interact with them anymore) them texting my phone asking if everything is okay and they are worried ab me (she’s also made many comments before this situation like “you seem like you need to get back on ur medication you’re being irritable” etc when clearly that was the correct response to some fucked up comment she made i’m sick of that shit.) (sorry that was lowkey irrelevant but holy shit). them throwing what they do for me as PARENTS in my face, blame shifting, manipulation, lying, her saying she has no acknowledgment of ever treating me like that over the years, trying to ruin our relationship, or saying any of the vile shit she said about my gf. OH and how she thought It couldn’t possibly be me that’s writing these exceptional level paragraphs and she thought my gf was controlling me and making me send all of that to my parents(me texting her ab this shit went on for like 3 days, 3 days of her not taking accountability for anything, lying, trying to manipulate by making me feel bad as well and she had the nerve to say “it feels like i’m being abused” GIRLLL STOPPP HUH im still confused ab that one) it’s honestly sickening and baffling knowing ppl can think & say shit like that. i’ve been so detached from them since I was little (never knew why at the time) but THIS makes that detachment 100x worse and I feel like that’s a GOOD thing for me even though the outcome wasn’t what I wanted, bc i’m feeling free, released, not pint-up, etc most importantly more like I can finally be MYSELF!!! i’m way more comfortable in who I am and my Identity now at 19 could you imagine that like damn (just hoping it’s not temporary)!!! just putting this out there in hopes that someone else going through the same thing or similar will see and maybe help them a little. now i just gotta move out.
⚛️ she can’t see how what she says to people effects them drastically and takes 0 responsibility and acknowledgement of doing so and passes it off as “you don’t know me” “i’m a good person” “i have a good heart i love everybody” etc or blame everything on me for examples “we do everything for you” “you’re going to treat us like that when we sacrificed so much for you” etc um .. yeah they signed up for that when they decided to have a child so it’s fucked up to throw that in my face. THEN she loves to do this the most playing the victim card “you’re abusing me” “it feels like you are abusing me” “we feel like we can’t say anything right we are always walking on eggshells around you it’s exhausting” she knows damn well I’m not abusing her in any way shape or form that’s disrespectful to many people who actually had to go through and endure actual abuse. “do you want to hurt us? is that your goal” “you’re destroying the family” “you’re destroying our marriage” etc literally used to be all the timmmme when i was going through sh and stuff too. i didn’t do anything wronggggg all I did was speak up for myself FOR ONCE (bc it’s been YEARS) ab the shit she does and how i’m not okay with it i internalize literally everything (that’s y it took years. just sick of their shit idk what to do). low and behold after all that expressing I get met with all that blame shifting and lying. the reason why i never open up to her is bc when I do ever since i was little she always blamed me and made it seem like this whole other thing so hell yeah i’d rather internalize then talk to her that’s a way better option than getting met with guilt tripping and shit what else could I do but internalize n doing that fucked my head up BAD. there are MANY more examples of what else she would say and my dad too but i really think he’s brainwashed by her so idk that’s just off the top of my head .. lmao. she makes me feel so insaneee i even feel like i’m exaggerating and making a big deal n being too sensitive writing all this😵‍💫. there’s SO MUCH more context but fuck all that i typed enough. thx for coming to my ted talk🕷️.
🤢they are both closeted RACIST and openly HOMOPHOBIC so you can imagine what they say/have said to me and about other ppl. shit makes me so AHHH. anyways.

For those who haven't tried out master modes in a Merlin, Fury or other snub craft, you may be in for a bit of disappointment. I discovered today that my Fury when in nav mode goes exactly the same speed as when in scm mode. It appears that without a qt drive snubs are artificially limited to slow boat status. I found this thread on Spectrum:
https://robertsspaceindustries.com/spectrum/community/SC/forum/3/thread/snub-navigation/6889045
If you are a lover of the Merlin, Archimedes and Furies like I am, Please go updoot the post, so maybe we can get some traction on the issue. I imagine that there might be some implications for racing, but frankly the majority of snub craft are combat first, racing second (if at all), and other racing ships like the M50 aren't similarly hindered by this lack of go-fast capability.
All the best,
Cele

Hi everyone,
My wife (40) and I (35) are in a bad spot in our relationship. She has always shown signs of abusive behavior, but unfortunately, I didn't break it off when I should have. Now we have a 1-year-old son, and I try to stay stable for his sake, but it's getting harder and harder.
I suggested marriage counseling, and we will try it as a last hope. I would like to hear your opinion on my wife's behavior and whether our relationship is actually salvageable. Has anyone successfully turned around a relationship that was this troubled?
Here are some examples of my wife's behavior:

• She yells at me because it was normal in her home; that's how they communicated.
  
• She constantly interrupts me during conversations and discussions, never letting me finish my thoughts, because that's how they talk at home, and I have to fight for a chance to speak.
  
• She insults me because that's normal for her (e.g., she called me a "damn idiot, a stupid piece of shit," and she said I was "a pathetic wimp").
  
• She talks a lot, mostly about herself (her illnesses, how hard her life is, and how much work she has) or about our son.
  
• She complains daily about how hard her life is, saying she's a full-time mom while I "just" work and don't understand how difficult it is for her. She doesn't work.
  
• She always complains about not getting enough sleep and waking up multiple times at night (even before we had a child), and she always wakes up in a bad mood. She regularly goes to bed after midnight.
  
• She doesn't like when I listen to music, and if she allows it, it can only be foreign music and not the same genre for too long (hip-hop and local music are out of the question, as is radio because of the talking).
  
• She gets annoyed when I whistle, sing, or when she hears the sound of my toothbrush or nail clippers.
  
• She is obsessed with bacteria and hygiene.
  
• She tells me I lack social intelligence and empathy and that I have a big ego.
  
• She thinks she knows more about our child than anyone else because she studied it and feels the need to emphasize it constantly.
  
• She always says that everyone knows what I'm like and that multiple people (friends, family) have told her they see I'm bad.
  
• She says I'm a psychopath and a manipulator and that only she knows my true face.
  
• Every day she tells me I'm incompetent, immature, indecisive, and childish.
  
• She doesn't allow anyone to visit me (not even my parents). When I spend time with my family, she says I'm clinging to my mother's apron strings.
  
• She has physically assaulted me multiple times (she admitted to hitting me on purpose because i deserve it and said my parents should have beaten me more(they never did)).
  
• She acknowledges her flaws but makes no effort to change. She says I accept other people's flaws but not hers (but I'm not with others 24/7).
  
• She says I'm a bad father and know nothing about our son.
  
• She falsely accused me of attacking her and screamed for help in the hallway (luckily no one called the police) and wouldn't let me leave the apartment.
  
• She won't let anyone else take care of our son.
  
• She said I am just a sperm donor, that she won't let me see our son, and that she will make me forget about him.
  
• She says I'm abnormal for wanting to socialize and that I don't know how to be alone. As an self proclaimed introvert, she regularly refuses social invitations and complains for days before having to go somewhere, always saying she won't stay long.
  
• She criticizes everything I do if it's not according to her instructions, and if I do nothing, she complains that I'm always on the TV or phone. When I ask what she wants me to do, she says I should know on my own.
  
• She shows no interest in me or my daily activities, only talks about herself. When I got a raise at work, she wasn't happy because she was jealous (since it wasn't her).
  
• Being with her feels like I always have to watch what I do and say because she gets angry at everything.
  
• When I tell her how I feel, she says I'm being dramatic and that I'm a drama queen , that I'm acting and exaggerating.
  
• She says she knows who she is and won't change and won't let anyone dictate her life (but she regularly attacks me).
  
• She says that if we break up, she will remarry and change our son's surname so he won't be my son anymore.
  
• She lied about not knowing how to turn on the voice recorder on her phone, but secretly recorded me.
  
• She says I'm the one who needs to change and that everything starts with me, and that's why she's bad because I'm bad.
  

Tldr: wife abuses me, can this behaviour be fixed?

Yeah... Just like the title says. So, two incidents I'd like to document so others can be mindful of when this occurs.
The first one took place about two weeks ago. I go to bed around 7/8 pm as I start work at 4 am. I laid down and was "put" to sleep immediately entering a dream state where I was already in a heightened state of anger. Only to be woken up enraged. The emotion I embodied in that dream state carried over into my awake state of mind within a matter of two minutes. I just laid in bed and repeatedly told them to, "fuck off," and "you're not going to get a reaction out of me."
Then last night, the same thing. Only a little different. The dream state of me being angry and anxious actually intertwined with my awake state this morning around 3:30am. While awake, I could still see the overlaying of an agitated dream version of myself wanting to flip out and scream while the voices where saying, "we're punching you in the face right now." But I said nothing until on my way to work. Then I let out a big grunty scream.
I don't wan't to scare my girlfriend and sleeping 14 month old daughter in the bed with me. It's 4:34 am now and everything is quiet. It's like they can't get to me anymore with words alone, so they run and abrasively operate within ever occurring dream sequences only to have me experience the emotion of that once dropped into it.
It was getting better for awhile. The past few weeks, I've been attempting to ignore them and move on in silence. This is either a test of some kind to see how I respond to anger or an act of disgust with me. Either way, I absolutely refuse to take medication or succumb to the temptation of relapsing. Fuck that. There's not a damn thing that anyone can do that will make ruin the life I've created with my family. They can astrally suck my nut sack. And in the end, I'm thankful. I'm thankful I'm strong enough to not respond in the moment. I'm thankful the words of others have no effect on me.

I am faced with a problem and I need an expert's opinion.
Lenovo IdeaPad Gaming 3 16ARH7 - Type 82SC
My computer has 8 GB DDR5 4800 MHz Ram. There is also one free ram slot.
Lenovo manual shows a limit of up to 16 GB for this computer.
However; "wmic memphysical get maxcapacity"
The command prompt query shows this as 64GB. Moreover;
https://www.crucial.com/compatible-upgrade-folenovo/ideapad-gaming-3-15arh7
Tests also show the same results.
Will there be any problems if I install 16x2 GB RAM on this computer?
Thanks for your help.

My qualifications are below:
Did 10th in 2015
Joined Diploma in 2021 , B-Tech(24 Batch) : Computer Science & Engineering. You can see i have 3 years gap. after 10th. That's cus i failed 12th twice. Got selected in 3/4 companies but they didn't gave offer letter
Now i am looking for jobs since January and haven't got any interviews. Should i just go for MBA? thinking there i might get a good job? My main focus is to get back on my feet.
I don't go to family functions, attend calls from cousins. Fearing they will ask me about job status.
All of my friends of same age are very well placed. I am from Delhi/NCR. Life has been very poor, Girlfriend too dumped me when she got placed (later she didnt got job offer too). But please someone guide me: 1. Should i pursue MBA? I am General and don't think i can get 90+ % to attain a set in top IIMs

1. Should i just join any job (i am getting a recruiting agency job) for 25k per month.
   
2. Should i just keep looking for more jobs and keep upskilling??
   

The thing is i do not want to waste my time as i am old already. Neither i wanna stick myself into a job where there is no future growth. I can understand in childhood i have made very terrible mistakes.

I (20M) feel like i got pretty lucky with alot of things that men say women want. Im 6"5, im semi muscular (ill get into this one l8r), i got good hair, and half desent facial hair, i have a LOT of money for ppl my age (around 100k at 20 due to a legal suit involving a death of a close relitive), and above average sized thing (not to be crass but i think its important for what im talking about).
Now thats all great, like every alpha male guy would say thats all that matters to get women but my insecurity comes from my face. I HATE the way my face looks. Like i cant put into words how disgusting my face is. My nose is down turned and pruyrdes too far from my face, my eyes are too deep set into my skull and have these disgusting genetic under eye bags that are always shadowed, my cheeks are fat and puffy and i have a aweful jaw that shoots way too high up to early on my face, as well as one side of my face is round and 1 side is sharp. I hate seeing myself. But so much of life is just seeing yourself, i dont want photos of me, i dont want to be seen in public, i dont want to go on dates, etc all because i hate the way i look. Ive gone through soo much in my life but ive really gotten through it all, abusive parents as a kid, dead parent as a teen, all my grandparents are dead, no real connections, a disease that hospitialized me for most of highschool, and so many other struggles in my life and yet the only thing that consitantly weighs on my mind and makes me suididal is my face.
I hate it so much i cant put it into words. Ive done ALOT of reflecting on why i hate how i look because im probaly objectivly speeking barely below average or maybe even average levels of attractivness. I think it comes from bad experinces with women in the past and a sense of inadequicy caused by having abusive parents. I know i mentioned alpha male shit at thr begining of this post but im actually not into any of that bullshit at all. Im a pretty big feminist and ive always kind of prided myself on not being that cringe women hating andrew tate fan, but what im realizing is i just internilized all that hatred instead of putting it onto women.
I constantly look at myself, i check myself in every reflection to confirm im still ugly, if there isnt a mirror i take a photo or look at myself in my phones reflection. I do this because i want to know what i look like in the moment. Even when im alone i constantly check. I have over 6k selfies on my phone if just that. Sometimes i feel confident and i feel like a 8 or a 9 out of 10 and then i see myself in normal/natural lighting and i feel like a 3/10. Its so paralalyzing. I would do anything to just feel comfterable in my own skin. I miss out on so many great things because im paranoid about how i look. When i walk to the store i spend the entire time obbsesivly freaking out about my aprarejce, when i hang out with friends i try and consuously position myself in ways they see my good side or me in good lighting because i dont want them to THINK im ugly. Its so miserable i want it to be over. Im genuinly suisidal over my facial apearnece which feels so pathetic when you consider what other people are going through or even what I have experinced in the past, its wierd THIS small thing is so deteimental to my life.
I feel my body is fine but i do have a eating disorder specifically in a attempt to reduce facial fat. I do sooo much to try and inprove my aperace but at this point its just genetics. Like i have a massive skin care routine, i work out frequently, and so much more but it just doesnt help.
One of my friends told me he though i was ugly when he first met me but now he things im average and it destroyed me. Idk why he said it honeslty i think he was drunk and ment it as a compliment and for a normal person they would just move on but for me its lingered in my mind 24/7 for the last 3 months. It doesnt even matter what he thinks because im straight and its not like im trying to date him but I think becuase of the way i obssess over what others think of my apearjwce it like confirmed my already negitive thoufhrs about my apernece. I dont voice these kind of things to ppl so its not like any1 knows not to say things like that but if i did ask him not to it would honeslty make ut worse because then it would feel like he was silently judging me.
I desprutially want to be loved, i think it has to do with being phyically and emotionally abused by both my parents as a kid because i feel this deep sinkinh feeling in my chest all the time and it feeld like the only way i could fix it would be love. Sometimes i get a glimse of it, like i fall in love and we go on a few dates and then it doesnt work out but for that short few weeks it felt like everything was fine fir the first rime ever. I want to just experince basic love like hugging and spending time together with someone in a romantic sense SOO deeply and it feels like it i was more attractive maybe those dates where i was in love but it wasnt mutual would work out.
I social media stalk one girl in particular and evey new boyfriend she gets is like 500x more attractive than me and it just makes me feel hopeless but i litterally cant get over her. 2 years and the feelings never went away. Every time i think im over her i dream about her or something big happens involving her or a friend mentions her in passing and its like all these dormant feeling reawaken and i just feel so inadiqet. Like i dont even want any1 else. Its wierd and it fucking sucks.
I feel like the only real options left are get cosmetic surgery and hope that fixes everything, or die and never have to worry about it again but i genuinly think all the time about all the bad photos thsg would be used at my funeral. If i got cosmetic survery i would move to the other side of the country and start a new life and just pretend it never happened and not talk to any1 who new me from before until they A forgot what i looked like, or B enough time passed its reasonable i looked diffrent.
What should i do? Is this fixable?

I’m worried because the hospital I’m interviewing with is already a headache. I honestly only really applied to them because it was close by.
My issues so far with them are:
They didn’t specify the exact hours they are looking to hire for like the other hospitals I saw who are a little farther than I would like.
When I called them for a follow up on my application status they told me they don’t do phone calls for application updates because there’s so many people applying for the same position usually. So I asked them how long should I expect to get a response from them by email or text? They said they were unsure maybe a week or two.
They emailed me over the weekend to ask to set up an interview. Again instead of telling what days and time THEY are available they told me to tell them when I’m available within the next two weeks.
I choose a date and time but then they said their leader isn’t available during that time because they have a full schedule so I need to choose another date and that I needed to give them 2 whole weeks of times where I am available to do an interview.
I’m wondering if they have a disorganized management or maybe a high turnover rate. Both my mother and brother told me it’s a low quality hospital with a lot of crime and someone even brought a gun in recently.
I’m really turned off by the poor communication but I really want a job soon. I got bills to pay.
Do you have any advice? Should I try other hospitals?