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2024.05.21 21:56 Left-Butterscotch342 Weird noise coming from my dog
Hi I'm not sure if this is the right sub reddit for this but I have a concern for my dog. He's a 4 year old rescue. Sometimes when he rubs his face with his paws while laying down a weird noise comes from his face. It's fairly loud and just sort of makes me uncomfortable.
It sounds like bubble wrap popping I guess is the best way to describe it, kind of like clacking mixed with popping.
It doesn't seem to cause him any pain and he doesn't react any different from normal when it happens. But I was just wondering if anyone else has had this happen to them before. I'm curious of what it means and if I should look into it.
Thank you
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It sounds like bubble wrap popping I guess is the best way to describe it, kind of like clacking mixed with popping.
It doesn't seem to cause him any pain and he doesn't react any different from normal when it happens. But I was just wondering if anyone else has had this happen to them before. I'm curious of what it means and if I should look into it.
Thank you
2024.05.21 21:56 aereha Has anyone ever had something similar happen when trying to interview with Allied Universal?
Firstly, I know that I am supposed to beware this place, but money is money and I need a new job because my current position is being dissolved. I’m trying to get my food in the door to eventually get my lvl3 licensing.
The entire scheduling process was a mess. I got multiple texts and emails from a bot. Some emails and texts would say it was a phone call or video call only to be followed up by an email and text that said it was an on site interview. I decided to just go in person because it made the most sense and if anything I can just take the call in my car if it was in fact a phone call.
We recently had a bad storm in my city so I left my home two hours before my interview because I knew the traffic was going to be bad despite whatever gps says. I made it to the supposed location twenty minutes before my start time. I wanted to check in early so I went in only to find that there are no way finding signs or maps for where offices were located in the building. The only signs were just laminated pieces of papers taped to the doors. Because of the storm the elevators were down I had to walk up the stairs and walk the each floor to find the company. Except it turns out that there are two building with the same street number and name half a mile apart.
Apparently when you search up that street address without the apartment/office number it reroutes it to the building I was in because the street was renamed or divided. I had to put Allied Universal directly into the gps search instead of the address I received via email. Because all the numbers I was given were bots who wouldn’t help me or redirect my call and no one would respond to my emails. I was told by the secretary when I got there that she also got lost when she first applied because the street numbers all are the same and you have to put in an office number to find the correct building.
By now I am 10 minutes late for my interview. I showed the secretary all the emails and texts that are giving me different instructions and locations. She apologizes and sends a message to my interviewer. They don’t respond. She asked if I emailed them. I told her I sent multiple emails and show her the email address I used. Thats when I realized that the email that the bot gave me had a typo in it. She makes me wait another 40 minutes just to say send an email to the correct address and text the number they were contacting me from, and a different number she gave me, to reschedule.
I don’t think I want to reschedule. Should I try again since now I know how to find the building or will this incident count against me? I feel like I was set up to fail.
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The entire scheduling process was a mess. I got multiple texts and emails from a bot. Some emails and texts would say it was a phone call or video call only to be followed up by an email and text that said it was an on site interview. I decided to just go in person because it made the most sense and if anything I can just take the call in my car if it was in fact a phone call.
We recently had a bad storm in my city so I left my home two hours before my interview because I knew the traffic was going to be bad despite whatever gps says. I made it to the supposed location twenty minutes before my start time. I wanted to check in early so I went in only to find that there are no way finding signs or maps for where offices were located in the building. The only signs were just laminated pieces of papers taped to the doors. Because of the storm the elevators were down I had to walk up the stairs and walk the each floor to find the company. Except it turns out that there are two building with the same street number and name half a mile apart.
Apparently when you search up that street address without the apartment/office number it reroutes it to the building I was in because the street was renamed or divided. I had to put Allied Universal directly into the gps search instead of the address I received via email. Because all the numbers I was given were bots who wouldn’t help me or redirect my call and no one would respond to my emails. I was told by the secretary when I got there that she also got lost when she first applied because the street numbers all are the same and you have to put in an office number to find the correct building.
By now I am 10 minutes late for my interview. I showed the secretary all the emails and texts that are giving me different instructions and locations. She apologizes and sends a message to my interviewer. They don’t respond. She asked if I emailed them. I told her I sent multiple emails and show her the email address I used. Thats when I realized that the email that the bot gave me had a typo in it. She makes me wait another 40 minutes just to say send an email to the correct address and text the number they were contacting me from, and a different number she gave me, to reschedule.
I don’t think I want to reschedule. Should I try again since now I know how to find the building or will this incident count against me? I feel like I was set up to fail.
2024.05.21 21:55 ladylastyear Struggling between frugal or making life easy
My husband and I used to be very frugal when we were younger and had less kids.
Now our income is very high, and we have four kids. We are spending $20k/month (sometimes more). That’s what it all adds up to when you factor in private school, child care, vacations, etc. We still save 30% of our income, we do not own anything “luxury” but we are certainly not living a frugal life.
I have been trying to convince him we need to slim down, but he says he likes making our life easier using the resources he is working so hard to earn. We are in our 40s and we do have it much less stressful than others in our age/position. But I worry we should be more prudent.
For numbers, we have $1M saved in stocks/retirement, $2M in real estate, $500k in college savings. No car loans, mortgages or any debt at all. Our income the last few years has been $1M, but before that was $500k for a few years, and before that was $250k for a long time. We in a VHCOL area.
How do you balance making life easy with being more financially independent?
Edit: I double checked our numbers and we are saving only 30%, not 50%.
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Now our income is very high, and we have four kids. We are spending $20k/month (sometimes more). That’s what it all adds up to when you factor in private school, child care, vacations, etc. We still save 30% of our income, we do not own anything “luxury” but we are certainly not living a frugal life.
I have been trying to convince him we need to slim down, but he says he likes making our life easier using the resources he is working so hard to earn. We are in our 40s and we do have it much less stressful than others in our age/position. But I worry we should be more prudent.
For numbers, we have $1M saved in stocks/retirement, $2M in real estate, $500k in college savings. No car loans, mortgages or any debt at all. Our income the last few years has been $1M, but before that was $500k for a few years, and before that was $250k for a long time. We in a VHCOL area.
How do you balance making life easy with being more financially independent?
Edit: I double checked our numbers and we are saving only 30%, not 50%.
2024.05.21 21:55 Jermainedexter Corsa Sri 2021
Just picked up my new car. Corsa sri 2021 plate there’s a slight rattling noise coming from it can only hear it when standing outside of the car. Has anyone else had this problem?
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2024.05.21 21:55 ABAFBAASD Foam or no foam replacement for damaged tire only
Foam or no foam replacement for damaged tire only
Wondering if anyone has gone with the a single non-oem, no foam tire when replacing a damaged one. I understand from other forums that the oem tires have a layer of acoustical foam on the inside that us supposed to reduce road noise. But I've also learned the foam makes it harder to patch and most people say there is no difference in road noise between foam and non-foam on a full car replacement and of course the non foam are cheaper. So everything points to non-foam when replacing all 4 tires. But in my situation I am just replacing one damaged tire.
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Wondering if anyone has gone with the a single non-oem, no foam tire when replacing a damaged one. I understand from other forums that the oem tires have a layer of acoustical foam on the inside that us supposed to reduce road noise. But I've also learned the foam makes it harder to patch and most people say there is no difference in road noise between foam and non-foam on a full car replacement and of course the non foam are cheaper. So everything points to non-foam when replacing all 4 tires. But in my situation I am just replacing one damaged tire.
2024.05.21 21:55 Particular_Speed_975 Thinking of independence from family?
For some background information, I am 19F Indian student going to my junior year of college. I moved to the United States, Pennsylvania for my college. I’ve been here two years now.
My family, my stepmom, my dad and my stepsister have since also moved to the United States, Chicago last year, one year ago, quoting “they want to be closer to me to help me.”
I’ve believed my family to be abusive, specifically my dad. I have since coming to college, tried to minimize contact with them, to no real avail. They get upset if I don’t call them everyday at least once, if I don’t visit on every break for the full duration of the break.
They have finance everything for me so far. I’ve worked campus jobs and have managed to save almost 7k USD.
My dad has been admitted to the hospital for cancer and has been undergoing treatment since November 2023, last 7 months.
I was forced to fly to help with whatever my they needed for all this time, while also forcing me to fly over to Chicago every other week during my semester for additional help.
For more details: when I say they force me, I mean that my stepmom states everything that is currently going on being stressful, which I’m sure it is, and using that as a reasoning to beat herself up and to not treat herself better until I come visit. I love my stepmom just as much as I do my biological mom and I don’t want to burden her, she also states my stepsister as wanting to see me and missing me as additional reasons for me to visit.
This last time that I intended to visit, I had told my stepmom that I’m visiting for only 10 days as I have an internship during the summer. She lashed out at me, saying that I’m selfish, don’t care about her or my sister and much less, my father. I was upset and had enough and said that I’d no longer be visiting for said 10 days.
After that, my stepmom made a series of calls to me and went back and forth, in which she listed all the sacrifices she and my dad made to pay for my college in the United states. Which made me feel guilty for being mad at them and hence, I flew to Chicago.
Now that I’m back at Chicago, my stepmom brought over my biological mom and my maternal grandmother. She yelled at me for overthinking all the times my father yelled and beat me, saying that it’s normal for an Indian family and that I should be grateful for them supporting me to study in the United States. (Which I am, but I also earned a majority of my college paid for by scholarships. My family can afford to send me to college as they have assets that are worth 2million USD now after they’ve sold a house worth 120k usd to send me to college. They have so far spent a maximum of 60k usd on my college so far)
My biological mother supported these statements and also told me a couple of things that my father did for me.
She also yelled at me for not understanding that my father was only frustrated with his life and that he was never happy about yelling at me or beating me. And further told me to transfer schools so I can form a new social circle who won’t “pollute my mind with stupid ideas like not coming back.”
My stepmom has also said she’ll contribute to the down payment of a car I’m planning to buy as I mentioned it earlier to make me stay with them for longer as “being with family is always a support. You cannot abandon or cut off your family”
I also have a fiance, 19M, that is in the United States and knows about this. My stepmom basically also said that I shouldn’t trust my fiance as he grew up in the United States and only after marriage can I trust anyone.
I just want to be financially independent so I don’t have to put up with my stepmom and my father yelling at me constantly and that I can’t trust my significant other and how they yell at me for talking to anyone but them.
I want to cut them off but it’s trust that it’s more financially beneficial to stay with them and to put up with everything.
What do I do?
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My family, my stepmom, my dad and my stepsister have since also moved to the United States, Chicago last year, one year ago, quoting “they want to be closer to me to help me.”
I’ve believed my family to be abusive, specifically my dad. I have since coming to college, tried to minimize contact with them, to no real avail. They get upset if I don’t call them everyday at least once, if I don’t visit on every break for the full duration of the break.
They have finance everything for me so far. I’ve worked campus jobs and have managed to save almost 7k USD.
My dad has been admitted to the hospital for cancer and has been undergoing treatment since November 2023, last 7 months.
I was forced to fly to help with whatever my they needed for all this time, while also forcing me to fly over to Chicago every other week during my semester for additional help.
For more details: when I say they force me, I mean that my stepmom states everything that is currently going on being stressful, which I’m sure it is, and using that as a reasoning to beat herself up and to not treat herself better until I come visit. I love my stepmom just as much as I do my biological mom and I don’t want to burden her, she also states my stepsister as wanting to see me and missing me as additional reasons for me to visit.
This last time that I intended to visit, I had told my stepmom that I’m visiting for only 10 days as I have an internship during the summer. She lashed out at me, saying that I’m selfish, don’t care about her or my sister and much less, my father. I was upset and had enough and said that I’d no longer be visiting for said 10 days.
After that, my stepmom made a series of calls to me and went back and forth, in which she listed all the sacrifices she and my dad made to pay for my college in the United states. Which made me feel guilty for being mad at them and hence, I flew to Chicago.
Now that I’m back at Chicago, my stepmom brought over my biological mom and my maternal grandmother. She yelled at me for overthinking all the times my father yelled and beat me, saying that it’s normal for an Indian family and that I should be grateful for them supporting me to study in the United States. (Which I am, but I also earned a majority of my college paid for by scholarships. My family can afford to send me to college as they have assets that are worth 2million USD now after they’ve sold a house worth 120k usd to send me to college. They have so far spent a maximum of 60k usd on my college so far)
My biological mother supported these statements and also told me a couple of things that my father did for me.
She also yelled at me for not understanding that my father was only frustrated with his life and that he was never happy about yelling at me or beating me. And further told me to transfer schools so I can form a new social circle who won’t “pollute my mind with stupid ideas like not coming back.”
My stepmom has also said she’ll contribute to the down payment of a car I’m planning to buy as I mentioned it earlier to make me stay with them for longer as “being with family is always a support. You cannot abandon or cut off your family”
I also have a fiance, 19M, that is in the United States and knows about this. My stepmom basically also said that I shouldn’t trust my fiance as he grew up in the United States and only after marriage can I trust anyone.
I just want to be financially independent so I don’t have to put up with my stepmom and my father yelling at me constantly and that I can’t trust my significant other and how they yell at me for talking to anyone but them.
I want to cut them off but it’s trust that it’s more financially beneficial to stay with them and to put up with everything.
What do I do?
2024.05.21 21:54 soccerg4000 Need tech help advice for revenge plan on cheaters
Does anyone know if a way I can set someone up to make it look like they’re tracking someone else’s location?
For example, to somehow setup a brand new AirTag to lead back to someone and then leave it in someone else’s car so that when they’re alerted it looks like the person was tracking them?
This also can’t be tracked back to me in any way.
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For example, to somehow setup a brand new AirTag to lead back to someone and then leave it in someone else’s car so that when they’re alerted it looks like the person was tracking them?
This also can’t be tracked back to me in any way.
2024.05.21 21:54 Fameii Is this sound normal???
 | So I have the r12 just got it 2 weeks ago and it’s been making a lot of noises this first dd base so I don’t really know how it’s supposed to sound. It would get loud when I turn the noise would be really high pitched and super noticeable. submitted by Fameii to moza [link] [comments] |
2024.05.21 21:54 ConsistentHouse1261 My review of Ruffwear Cooling Neck Gaiter vs Canada Pooch Cooling Bandana
So I thought I’d leave my review since it’s summer and I’m sure others are wondering what to try. I live in Michigan and the summers here are pretty humid. I know the cooling vests/accessories are not generally recommended for humid weather so I thought I’d first try the accessory items before the vest and see how it goes.
Items:
https://canadapooch.com/collections/dog-cooling/products/wet-reveal-dog-cooling-bandana-scarf?variant=39961894158421
https://ruffwear.com/products/swamp-cooler-neck-gaiter
I personally like the Ruffwear cooling neck gaiter more.
The one cool feature I liked about the Canada pooch bandana was that they had an option to buy a kind that changes from being a solid color when dry, to happy faces appearing when wet. This is a nice feature so you know when the bandana needs to be resoaked or just taken off if it’s dry and there’s no more water.
Only issue is, i think i ordered a size too large. I ordered a medium for my Maltese mix dog who is 20 pounds. Should have stuck with a small. No matter how much i tied it, it fell off. I think it was too long for my dog so it bothered him when he walked. But I’m not even bothering to exchange it and the reason for that is, i don’t think a size small would have been useful anyway. Even if it stuck on to him, i don’t like the concept of the bandana as much as the gaiter. It doesn’t stick around him/his neck or chest enough to make a difference anyway. What’s nice about the Ruffwear gaiter is that it wraps around his neck so it stays in place against his skin and isn’t hanging out like a bandana typically does. If i wanted to cover the chest and back area that’s where a harness would come in handy. Neck gaiter i purchased in a size x-small by the way. Fits perfect. Their sizing runs differently since it’s a gaiter, not a bandana, so there’s more size options.
Now the neck gaiter i think made an actual difference. Yesterday when i took my dog out in 82-85 degree weather, he wanted to go back inside within 5 minutes and ran for his life for water, understandably so. Today i put on the Ruffwear neck gaiter for the first time and he was able to have a typical 15-20 minute quick walk around our condo complex. He was way more relaxed coming back compared to yesterday’s walk. And both days have been just as humid/sunny at around the same time both days.
Now don’t get me wrong, i don’t think this gaiter would have been as useful in humid weather for long walks/walking long trails. Unless you had a ton of water to constantly re-soak the gaiter with, but that sounds too heavy to carry on such long walks. In dry heat I’m sure it’s more manageable.
But this helped me decide to just go ahead and get my dog a cooling harness. I would be using it for shorter walks so I’m not worried about it drying up and making him hotter in the humidity. I don’t give my dog long walks if it’s that hot outside anyways, not worth risking it. He’s sensitive to heat as most dogs are.
Hope this helped anyone who’s going back and forth about the humidity issue with cooling wear. As a bonus review, i got my dog one of the cooling toys from Canada pooch, specifically the dolphin. I believe there’s 4 different animal cooling toys. He’s obsessed with it and i haven’t even soaked it yet lol!!!
I didn’t bother with the hat because i know he will get it off. Same with pavement boots. He would never allow me to get those on. I just avoid walks on pavement if it’s that hot. Luckily for me it’s easy to avoid since grass is right by my garage and door.
I’m not interested in cooling vests since my dog is always leashed when outside (unless at dog park but still needs a harness between going in and out of park and car. He’s a puller so can’t use leash with his collar.
I see that both Ruffwear and Canada pooch have a cooling harness but i think I’m gonna go with Ruffwear just because i know their material on the neck gaiter worked on my dog. That doesn’t mean Canada pooch material wouldn’t work, but i wasn’t able to test it out since the bandana design is flawed in my opinion. I’ll edit my review of the Ruffwear cooling harness once i have it. Hopefully it’s just as affective as their neck gaiter was for short walks.
TLDR: get the Ruffwear cooling neck gaiter over the Canada pooch cooling bandana in my opinion. Neck gaiter is a better design over a bandana. These items work fine in humid heat as long as it’s for short walks. Haven’t and wouldn’t try for long walks. I avoid long walks in high heat anyways, especially since it’s humid by me. Will try Ruffwear cooling harness next for the same purposes and edit this post with my review!
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Items:
https://canadapooch.com/collections/dog-cooling/products/wet-reveal-dog-cooling-bandana-scarf?variant=39961894158421
https://ruffwear.com/products/swamp-cooler-neck-gaiter
I personally like the Ruffwear cooling neck gaiter more.
The one cool feature I liked about the Canada pooch bandana was that they had an option to buy a kind that changes from being a solid color when dry, to happy faces appearing when wet. This is a nice feature so you know when the bandana needs to be resoaked or just taken off if it’s dry and there’s no more water.
Only issue is, i think i ordered a size too large. I ordered a medium for my Maltese mix dog who is 20 pounds. Should have stuck with a small. No matter how much i tied it, it fell off. I think it was too long for my dog so it bothered him when he walked. But I’m not even bothering to exchange it and the reason for that is, i don’t think a size small would have been useful anyway. Even if it stuck on to him, i don’t like the concept of the bandana as much as the gaiter. It doesn’t stick around him/his neck or chest enough to make a difference anyway. What’s nice about the Ruffwear gaiter is that it wraps around his neck so it stays in place against his skin and isn’t hanging out like a bandana typically does. If i wanted to cover the chest and back area that’s where a harness would come in handy. Neck gaiter i purchased in a size x-small by the way. Fits perfect. Their sizing runs differently since it’s a gaiter, not a bandana, so there’s more size options.
Now the neck gaiter i think made an actual difference. Yesterday when i took my dog out in 82-85 degree weather, he wanted to go back inside within 5 minutes and ran for his life for water, understandably so. Today i put on the Ruffwear neck gaiter for the first time and he was able to have a typical 15-20 minute quick walk around our condo complex. He was way more relaxed coming back compared to yesterday’s walk. And both days have been just as humid/sunny at around the same time both days.
Now don’t get me wrong, i don’t think this gaiter would have been as useful in humid weather for long walks/walking long trails. Unless you had a ton of water to constantly re-soak the gaiter with, but that sounds too heavy to carry on such long walks. In dry heat I’m sure it’s more manageable.
But this helped me decide to just go ahead and get my dog a cooling harness. I would be using it for shorter walks so I’m not worried about it drying up and making him hotter in the humidity. I don’t give my dog long walks if it’s that hot outside anyways, not worth risking it. He’s sensitive to heat as most dogs are.
Hope this helped anyone who’s going back and forth about the humidity issue with cooling wear. As a bonus review, i got my dog one of the cooling toys from Canada pooch, specifically the dolphin. I believe there’s 4 different animal cooling toys. He’s obsessed with it and i haven’t even soaked it yet lol!!!
I didn’t bother with the hat because i know he will get it off. Same with pavement boots. He would never allow me to get those on. I just avoid walks on pavement if it’s that hot. Luckily for me it’s easy to avoid since grass is right by my garage and door.
I’m not interested in cooling vests since my dog is always leashed when outside (unless at dog park but still needs a harness between going in and out of park and car. He’s a puller so can’t use leash with his collar.
I see that both Ruffwear and Canada pooch have a cooling harness but i think I’m gonna go with Ruffwear just because i know their material on the neck gaiter worked on my dog. That doesn’t mean Canada pooch material wouldn’t work, but i wasn’t able to test it out since the bandana design is flawed in my opinion. I’ll edit my review of the Ruffwear cooling harness once i have it. Hopefully it’s just as affective as their neck gaiter was for short walks.
TLDR: get the Ruffwear cooling neck gaiter over the Canada pooch cooling bandana in my opinion. Neck gaiter is a better design over a bandana. These items work fine in humid heat as long as it’s for short walks. Haven’t and wouldn’t try for long walks. I avoid long walks in high heat anyways, especially since it’s humid by me. Will try Ruffwear cooling harness next for the same purposes and edit this post with my review!
2024.05.21 21:53 cinnaelf 2013 Mini randomly unable to accelerate
Hi all! First time posting here.
I bought a used 2013 Mini Hard top a couple years ago from carmax. It’s been great the entire time I’ve had it, no issues, until recently.
I was driving in a residential area and stopped at a red light. When I tried to press the gas when the light turned green, I could feel my car struggling. The gas wasn’t gassin. My bf got out and pushed my car into the nearby gas station. Turned the car off and couldn’t get the engine to start. Sat there for 10 mins or so, then I tried again and the car started and I drove it home.
I originally thought it could be due to me accidentally putting too much oil in. I went and got an oil change and things have been fine for about two weeks.
Just now I was driving and the same unable to accelerate randomly happened again. Turned the car off, let it chill for a few mins, turned it back on and drove home.
Check engine light isn’t on. Car only has about 66k miles.
Not sure what this could be, any help would be great. And if anyone knows any mechanics who work on Minis near the 90503 CA area code pls let me know 😭 I’ve been having a hard time finding someone, might just have to take it to the dealer.
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I bought a used 2013 Mini Hard top a couple years ago from carmax. It’s been great the entire time I’ve had it, no issues, until recently.
I was driving in a residential area and stopped at a red light. When I tried to press the gas when the light turned green, I could feel my car struggling. The gas wasn’t gassin. My bf got out and pushed my car into the nearby gas station. Turned the car off and couldn’t get the engine to start. Sat there for 10 mins or so, then I tried again and the car started and I drove it home.
I originally thought it could be due to me accidentally putting too much oil in. I went and got an oil change and things have been fine for about two weeks.
Just now I was driving and the same unable to accelerate randomly happened again. Turned the car off, let it chill for a few mins, turned it back on and drove home.
Check engine light isn’t on. Car only has about 66k miles.
Not sure what this could be, any help would be great. And if anyone knows any mechanics who work on Minis near the 90503 CA area code pls let me know 😭 I’ve been having a hard time finding someone, might just have to take it to the dealer.
2024.05.21 21:51 swiftlybagel How much should I be putting into 401k and Roth IRA and credit card? 22yo, no rent, ~$300/wk take home pay
A bit about me: 22 years old, currently living with family so no rent, but I do want to eventually move out once I'm ready. I'm at part-time making about $300 per week, but I'm hoping within 6 months I can become full-time. Currently have fair credit but I want to grow it for when I need to rent an apartment or buy a car.
Accounts I have: 401k (50% match on first 6%), Roth IRA, savings with 4.40% APY, savings account I contribute to for my parents' retirement (4.20% APY), checking account with 1% cashback/debit card, and a chase freedom unlimited cashback credit card ($3900 limit).
How much should I be putting into my 401k, Roth IRA, and savings account? My paycheck direct deposits to my checking account.
How much should I be using my credit card vs debit card to grow my credit? I noticed somewhere that I've been using my credit card too much compared to my spending limit, so what percent of my spending limit should I be reaching?
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Accounts I have: 401k (50% match on first 6%), Roth IRA, savings with 4.40% APY, savings account I contribute to for my parents' retirement (4.20% APY), checking account with 1% cashback/debit card, and a chase freedom unlimited cashback credit card ($3900 limit).
How much should I be putting into my 401k, Roth IRA, and savings account? My paycheck direct deposits to my checking account.
How much should I be using my credit card vs debit card to grow my credit? I noticed somewhere that I've been using my credit card too much compared to my spending limit, so what percent of my spending limit should I be reaching?
2024.05.21 21:51 Atlas-Rising-Up AITA for not wanting to be friends with my new coworker?
I am so sorry for how long this is, but there's quite a bit to cover.
I am a 28F mechanic who works for a rather large dealership in my city. I love my job, I love working on cars, and I love the men that I work with. It's like having an army of brothers that would do anything for me, and I have genuinely never had such a wonderful and supportive workplace environment.
Until "Collin" (26M) started about 6 weeks ago.
Before I start with him, I want to tell you about my "superpower." When I was very, very young, my mother noticed that I had this uncanny ability to detect "bad" people. Even as a toddler, there were certain people I didn't want near me or holding me for seemingly no reason. If they tried, I would scream until they left me alone. If said people tried to pick me up anyway, she'd snatch me away from them and tell them that I said no and to leave me alone. When they'd ask why or push that I "didn't know what [I] wanted," she'd shut them down and say that me not wanting that was reason enough. She's never, ever questioned my "ability" and instead leaned into it and helped me nurture it (especially after certain charges came out about a previous church member that I was uncomfortable around).
Back to Collin. Obviously, that's not his real name, but what is real about him is how... creepy he is. It was evident to me the moment I first met him, but I didn't want to come off as judgemental. My "superpower" has never been wrong, but I have a problem setting boundaries when I'm on the clock because I never want to be the "problem child" for a company. As the only female mechanic, I'm even more aware of that, so I tend to walk on eggshells out of fear of being treated differently.
With Collin, it's a little hard to explain, but to start, he's got personal space issues. As in, I have an issue with how little he respects my personal space. An example: I keep snacks in one of my toolbox drawers for when I and my teammates are too busy to stop and eat a proper lunch. A few days ago, I was bent over and fishing around for a protein bar when I felt him walk up behind me. Of all the angles he could've approached me from, he picked directly behind me and got so close that I felt him brush up against my butt. I immediately shot up and told him to back the fuck up. He tried to play it off as an accident, but I told him, quite loudly, that it's not an accident to sneak up on someone like that and touch them. When he saw a few of my coworkers looking over at us, he quietly made a comment about me overreacting, and walked away.
A few days before that, as I was working on a car, he came up to my toolbox and just took an impact gun. It wasn't mine; I was borrowing someone else's because mine was being repaired. So I stopped him and told him to put it back. He asked me why. This was weird to me because, as far as he knew, it was mine and if I said no, he should've just left it at that. So, I said, "Because it's not yours and I said no. Please put it back." "It's not yours either," is what he said. He tried to walk away with it. At this point, I physically stepped in front of him and said "All the more reason for you not to take it. It isn't mine to lend out. Please put it back." He then asked me if he had a problem sharing. I asked him if he had a problem with respecting boundaries.
Y'all... the look Collin gave me sent chills down my spine. At that moment, he glared at me like my ex did right before he put my head through a wall, and I was actually scared. I swallowed that fear and stood my ground, even though I just wanted to curl up and disappear. He must not be used to people standing up to him because he just sighed in annoyance and slammed the impact down on my bench, then walked away. He, thankfully, avoided me for the rest of the day.
Since those two situations have happened, I've asked for my friend/coworker, "Evan," to make a new group chat for that handful of us that hangout after work because I wasn't comfortable with Collin having access to my phone number. Evan had added him, without asking the rest of us, when they'd gone to a theme park together a few weeks prior. I'd opted out because I didn't want to hang out with Collin, but they used the group chat to communicate plans and such. Evan agreed to make a new group chat so that I feel safer.
Now, finally , the reason I am writing this post is because of what happened yesterday. I may have overreacted? My fiancé thinks I acted well within reason, but sometimes my anxiety makes me believe that I go overboard, even if I'm being perfectly rational. I'm not sure if that's the case here or not.
I caught Collin fishing around in my toolbox. Except, this time, it was the drawer that I keep my purse in. It's not a secret that it's there; every morning when I walk in, my coworkers see me put it in that specific drawer. I used to keep it with the snacks, but the men I work with are a little more old fashioned and won't even go near my purse, so they'd get hesitant when they saw it near the snacks. I moved drawers so they could freely grab food when I was too preoccupied to personally hand them something in order to avoid my purse. It was no bother to do so, but boy did it bother me when I saw Collin huddling over that drawer with my purse in it.
I shouted with my whole chest, "What the fuck do you think you're doing?" He immediately stood up and started mumbling about needing a certain tool, to which I bombarded him with questions like, "And you were just going to take it? That's not even where any of them are! Why were you going through my purse, you creep?" He couldn't keep up to answer any of my questions, but as far as I was concerned, he wouldn't have been able to come up with a good enough excuse because it's quite well known that that's the place where I keep my personal belongings. It got to the point where I was just yelling at him, and other coworkers had to come pull me away from Collin because I was getting increasingly aggressive. I was so mad, in fact, that I didn't even realize that he was getting aggressive too, and the reason why Evan and "Peter" had to pull me away is because Collin was getting in my face and calling me names. When I try to think about it now, I don't remember hearing that. I was so angry, that all I could really hear was the blood pumping in my body.
I had to sign a write up this morning. Absolutely fair, seeing as how I lost my shit and all professionalism in the workplace. I'm annoyed because this is my first write up, but management needs something to prove they "punished" me in some way for my behavior. What I'm not okay with is Collin telling people that I flew off the handle for no reason. Then this guy has the nerve to approach me today and tell me he forgave me for the way I treated him yesterday and that he hopes we can be friends in the future. I might be the asshole because I told him, calmly, that "I never want to be friends with someone who is so apathetic and disrespectful when it comes to boundaries and personal space" and that I'd appreciate it if he left me alone in the future. Now he's moping and saying I didn't even give him a chance before being a bitch to him.
Am I the asshole? Did I overreact?
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I am a 28F mechanic who works for a rather large dealership in my city. I love my job, I love working on cars, and I love the men that I work with. It's like having an army of brothers that would do anything for me, and I have genuinely never had such a wonderful and supportive workplace environment.
Until "Collin" (26M) started about 6 weeks ago.
Before I start with him, I want to tell you about my "superpower." When I was very, very young, my mother noticed that I had this uncanny ability to detect "bad" people. Even as a toddler, there were certain people I didn't want near me or holding me for seemingly no reason. If they tried, I would scream until they left me alone. If said people tried to pick me up anyway, she'd snatch me away from them and tell them that I said no and to leave me alone. When they'd ask why or push that I "didn't know what [I] wanted," she'd shut them down and say that me not wanting that was reason enough. She's never, ever questioned my "ability" and instead leaned into it and helped me nurture it (especially after certain charges came out about a previous church member that I was uncomfortable around).
Back to Collin. Obviously, that's not his real name, but what is real about him is how... creepy he is. It was evident to me the moment I first met him, but I didn't want to come off as judgemental. My "superpower" has never been wrong, but I have a problem setting boundaries when I'm on the clock because I never want to be the "problem child" for a company. As the only female mechanic, I'm even more aware of that, so I tend to walk on eggshells out of fear of being treated differently.
With Collin, it's a little hard to explain, but to start, he's got personal space issues. As in, I have an issue with how little he respects my personal space. An example: I keep snacks in one of my toolbox drawers for when I and my teammates are too busy to stop and eat a proper lunch. A few days ago, I was bent over and fishing around for a protein bar when I felt him walk up behind me. Of all the angles he could've approached me from, he picked directly behind me and got so close that I felt him brush up against my butt. I immediately shot up and told him to back the fuck up. He tried to play it off as an accident, but I told him, quite loudly, that it's not an accident to sneak up on someone like that and touch them. When he saw a few of my coworkers looking over at us, he quietly made a comment about me overreacting, and walked away.
A few days before that, as I was working on a car, he came up to my toolbox and just took an impact gun. It wasn't mine; I was borrowing someone else's because mine was being repaired. So I stopped him and told him to put it back. He asked me why. This was weird to me because, as far as he knew, it was mine and if I said no, he should've just left it at that. So, I said, "Because it's not yours and I said no. Please put it back." "It's not yours either," is what he said. He tried to walk away with it. At this point, I physically stepped in front of him and said "All the more reason for you not to take it. It isn't mine to lend out. Please put it back." He then asked me if he had a problem sharing. I asked him if he had a problem with respecting boundaries.
Y'all... the look Collin gave me sent chills down my spine. At that moment, he glared at me like my ex did right before he put my head through a wall, and I was actually scared. I swallowed that fear and stood my ground, even though I just wanted to curl up and disappear. He must not be used to people standing up to him because he just sighed in annoyance and slammed the impact down on my bench, then walked away. He, thankfully, avoided me for the rest of the day.
Since those two situations have happened, I've asked for my friend/coworker, "Evan," to make a new group chat for that handful of us that hangout after work because I wasn't comfortable with Collin having access to my phone number. Evan had added him, without asking the rest of us, when they'd gone to a theme park together a few weeks prior. I'd opted out because I didn't want to hang out with Collin, but they used the group chat to communicate plans and such. Evan agreed to make a new group chat so that I feel safer.
Now, finally , the reason I am writing this post is because of what happened yesterday. I may have overreacted? My fiancé thinks I acted well within reason, but sometimes my anxiety makes me believe that I go overboard, even if I'm being perfectly rational. I'm not sure if that's the case here or not.
I caught Collin fishing around in my toolbox. Except, this time, it was the drawer that I keep my purse in. It's not a secret that it's there; every morning when I walk in, my coworkers see me put it in that specific drawer. I used to keep it with the snacks, but the men I work with are a little more old fashioned and won't even go near my purse, so they'd get hesitant when they saw it near the snacks. I moved drawers so they could freely grab food when I was too preoccupied to personally hand them something in order to avoid my purse. It was no bother to do so, but boy did it bother me when I saw Collin huddling over that drawer with my purse in it.
I shouted with my whole chest, "What the fuck do you think you're doing?" He immediately stood up and started mumbling about needing a certain tool, to which I bombarded him with questions like, "And you were just going to take it? That's not even where any of them are! Why were you going through my purse, you creep?" He couldn't keep up to answer any of my questions, but as far as I was concerned, he wouldn't have been able to come up with a good enough excuse because it's quite well known that that's the place where I keep my personal belongings. It got to the point where I was just yelling at him, and other coworkers had to come pull me away from Collin because I was getting increasingly aggressive. I was so mad, in fact, that I didn't even realize that he was getting aggressive too, and the reason why Evan and "Peter" had to pull me away is because Collin was getting in my face and calling me names. When I try to think about it now, I don't remember hearing that. I was so angry, that all I could really hear was the blood pumping in my body.
I had to sign a write up this morning. Absolutely fair, seeing as how I lost my shit and all professionalism in the workplace. I'm annoyed because this is my first write up, but management needs something to prove they "punished" me in some way for my behavior. What I'm not okay with is Collin telling people that I flew off the handle for no reason. Then this guy has the nerve to approach me today and tell me he forgave me for the way I treated him yesterday and that he hopes we can be friends in the future. I might be the asshole because I told him, calmly, that "I never want to be friends with someone who is so apathetic and disrespectful when it comes to boundaries and personal space" and that I'd appreciate it if he left me alone in the future. Now he's moping and saying I didn't even give him a chance before being a bitch to him.
Am I the asshole? Did I overreact?
2024.05.21 21:51 cake_swindler From a past Madeline
This is a little off subject and I usually don't talk about this (other than in therapy). I know a lot of people don't understand how a mother could possibly leave their child with a predator and honestly I'm glad they don't understand. It's something that should never happen. But it does and has for a long time. Giving birth doesn't make a mother no more than than them DNA makes a dad. Here's my story.
My mother met a man when I was 2 who she absolutely loved (I believe she still does) when I was 4 they got married. From the moment I can remember I listened to my mother describe in detail about being violently raped by her stepfather. How ALL men were sick in the head except her husband. I was just so happy that she was finally happy that I ignored the uncomfortable feelings I had when he would repeatedly expose himself, sometimes with her in the room. It was always an accident they said even though as an adult it's not difficult to think maybe he should wear sweatpants instead of just underwear around the house. Then I caught him looking in the bathroom windows while I was showering and he claimed he heard a loud noise and thought I fell. Eventually he got a camcorder (this was late 80s, early 90s) and I found that turned on in the bathroom. He claimed it wasn't on even though it was a green light for on and a red light for off. My mother also had a no underwear at bed rule, still not sure why. But she had us all sleeping in the same bed, me in the middle, sometimes she would be working and it would be just be the two of us. And I was supposed to call him dad because mine was "a no good drunk". She would even send me on trips with him and I got so many presents. I don't remember most of my childhood, I think it's my brains way of protecting me. One thing I never understood was why his family wouldn't talk to him. I found out when I was 20 that when my mother and ex-stepfather started dating his sisters all went to my mother and told her that he was caught raping his five year old niece. Apparently, she didn't mind.
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My mother met a man when I was 2 who she absolutely loved (I believe she still does) when I was 4 they got married. From the moment I can remember I listened to my mother describe in detail about being violently raped by her stepfather. How ALL men were sick in the head except her husband. I was just so happy that she was finally happy that I ignored the uncomfortable feelings I had when he would repeatedly expose himself, sometimes with her in the room. It was always an accident they said even though as an adult it's not difficult to think maybe he should wear sweatpants instead of just underwear around the house. Then I caught him looking in the bathroom windows while I was showering and he claimed he heard a loud noise and thought I fell. Eventually he got a camcorder (this was late 80s, early 90s) and I found that turned on in the bathroom. He claimed it wasn't on even though it was a green light for on and a red light for off. My mother also had a no underwear at bed rule, still not sure why. But she had us all sleeping in the same bed, me in the middle, sometimes she would be working and it would be just be the two of us. And I was supposed to call him dad because mine was "a no good drunk". She would even send me on trips with him and I got so many presents. I don't remember most of my childhood, I think it's my brains way of protecting me. One thing I never understood was why his family wouldn't talk to him. I found out when I was 20 that when my mother and ex-stepfather started dating his sisters all went to my mother and told her that he was caught raping his five year old niece. Apparently, she didn't mind.
2024.05.21 21:49 pilotslashCPA Write-Up: Zero to CFII in 13 months, Part 61, $52K
Hi all! After a crazy, but incredibly fun and rewarding year earning my pilot certs, I wanted to make a write-up of my experience in hopes that it’ll be helpful for any other aspiring or current pilots. To summarize, I went from zero aviation experience to CFII in 13 months, Part 61, paying as I go and on the pretty cheap side. I do want to emphasize that I was ~incredibly~ lucky and had some very generous people who helped me out, and I could not have done this as efficiently and cheaply if it weren’t for them. I’m going to list all my takeaways below, but I think my biggest piece of advice is to network as much as you can because there are some amazing, generous people in this community that want to see us all succeed.
Background:
For context, I’m in my mid to late twenties and have been in the workforce for about 5 years. Through a combination of factors I decided to make a career switch to professional pilot but was hesitant because I did not want to take on debt. I have a family member who is an airline pilot who helped me devise a plan. I moved home and kept working my job remotely so I was able to put all my paychecks towards flying.
Private Pilot – 3 months, 75 hours TT, $12k
I did my private in a Piper Archer owned by my local FBO. The owner allowed my family member to be my instructor and gave me a small discount for pre-paying hours. We flew almost daily. I also took ground school at another local FBO in-person, and that was much more helpful than having to learn everything on my own because I was brand new to aviation. I took the private written exam as soon as my ground school concluded which was also the week of my checkride (bad idea in hindsight, but it worked out).
I solo’d around 25 hours and took my checkride with about 60 hours in the Archer (15 additional hours were in a friend’s airplane). The checkride was challenging, but straightforward and I was well prepared. The DPE said good things about me afterward and I was officially a private pilot! I’d be happy to answer questions or do a writeup in a separate post on any of my checkrides but for the sake of brevity I’ll skip that for now.
~Key takeaways from private:~
Fly as often as possible and make sure your instructor is aligned with that. Also stay on top of ground school. Also, don’t rush to take the checkride before you’re ready, it’s okay to have a lot of practice first. Lastly, I know DPE availability is a big issue in lots of areas and can cause people to have to wait on a checkride even though they’ve been ready for months. In my experience, if you try hard enough and call around, you will find someone. However, it might mean you have to travel a little bit which I know is not possible for everyone.
Instrument – 2 months, 150 hours TT, $14k
I was feeling a little fatigued after private so I was slow to start studying for instrument. I started by doing a lot of flying for fun, mainly flying in the Archer by myself on little cross countries to check off some of the requirements (in hindsight I should have found someone to split time with).
I did my instrument at a flight school in one of the adjacent states. This particular school specializes in accelerated programs, but they do not have a formalized instrument course. I went in-person and spoke with the director of flight operations to discuss my options. Since I had to take PTO to do this, the goal was to finish my instrument in one week with the checkride at the end. I paid a flat rate for the airplane and instructor time. I also stayed over there during that week so I had to pay for housing as well.
Before I went over there, I did some prep in the Archer that I did my private in and took the written exam (Sheppard air). I also purchased Sporty’s Instrument course and used that to prep and for the endorsement needed to take the written. The week I spent at the flight school was honestly a blast, and I was able to take my checkride on day 7 with 20 hours in the plane and about 4 hours of sim time. Again, happy to discuss the checkride in the comments or another post.
~Key takeaways from instrument:~
TAKE THE IRA, FII, AND IGI EXAMS AT THE SAME TIME. You only have to purchase the IRA Sheppard course and can take all 3 exams back to back. Also, again stay on top of ground school because instrument flying requires a lot of technical knowledge. But it honestly is really fun!
Commercial – 3 months, 263 hours TT, $8k
The biggest challenge for commercial was time building, of course. This is where networking saved me. I made friends with another instructor who frequented my local FBO who also owns a plane. He needed the time as well so we flew together a lot and I paid for the fuel. I also had another friend at the airport who owns a plane that he doesn’t fly often and offered to let me time build in that (again, I’ve been so lucky to come across some very generous people).
I did my checkride in the Archer that I learned in with my family member signing me off, and with the same DPE who did my private. Commercial was probably the easiest one I had done so far, but it still was no joke! I will say I was amazed with how much easier things came to me by this point versus when I first started, which was a great feeling.
~Key takeaways from commercial:~
Network, network, network. Spend as much time as you can at your local FBO or flight school and make friends with everyone. Like I’ve said, there are some very generous people out there who love to help out new pilots, and I could not have made it this far without them.
Also, in retrospect, it would have been a really good idea to have done commercial from the right seat. I’ve heard of a lot of people doing that and if I had, I would have been able to knock out CFI a lot sooner and cheaper.
Multi-engine add-on – 1 week, 298 hours TT, $4.3k
Shortly after getting my CPL, I had a week of PTO and decided to knock out my multi add-on. I found a flight school with a Seminole and got ahold of their MEI, and we figured we could knock it out during that week. I contacted the DPE who did my private and commercial and we scheduled my checkride for the end of the week. This flight school was about 2 hours driving from home, and I was able to stay with friends while I was there.
This one was a little challenging because this was in January in the midwest and we were seeing a lot of low IFR days. We ended up getting weathered out the first half of the week, but luckily the Seminole was an easy transition for me and we got me trained up in 3 days, 8 hours of flying. I took the checkride as scheduled and passed (I will say I have had extremely good luck with weather for all of my checkride days so far).
Sidenote: Prior to this checkride, I also took the AGI and IGI exams and asked the DPE who did my multi checkride to sign off on the ground instructor certificate at the same time. I did this because I’ve heard it helps when applying to CFI jobs (shows a little extra effort) and it was easier to do it this way versus having a FSDO issue the cert. Cost me $50 to the DPE.
~Key takeaways from multi:~
Do your research to find an airplane at a good rate. I paid $395 per hour which included the instructor, but I’ve seen some schools charging a lot more. Also, I looked into schools with accelerated courses that you pay as a package, and based on my experience I would not recommend because I was able to do it much cheaper my way.
My instructor did a good job of making sure I knew all the aircraft systems well enough to teach them in case I go for my MEI (which I would like to do soon). Since the MEL is light on material, I highly recommend this. Also, when I was doing research I was told to look for a Seminole or DA-42 because they’re easy trainers, which I would agree with based on my limited experience.
CFI – 1 month (on top of all my experience thus far), 316 hours TT, $5k
This was the scariest one for me. I had heard all along that CFI is the hardest and longest checkride and for the most part I would agree. I originally was planning on going to a school with an accelerated program for this, but after asking around I decided to do it on my own (with my family member signing me off).
This one was heavy on ground school. I got some lesson plans from various people as I heard that’s what everyone has prepared for the checkride, but I hardly ended up using them. I also had a friend send me PowerPoints he made for the technical subject areas. I edited them/made them my own and these are what I ended up using for the checkride along with a couple props.
As far as studying goes, the thing I found most helpful was watching random YouTube videos before bed every night. Although it was all review, I picked up a lot of tidbits that weren’t quite drilled into my brain as I still feel new to aviation overall. As the DPE described it, to be a good CFI you basically need to be a nerd about everything aviation and that’s what I tried to do. I would guess that I studied a few hours a day for a month and a half or so. As for the flying part, I had a little bit of right seat experience prior to buckling down for CFI (probably under 5 hours), so I’d guess it took me about 5 more hours to feel comfortable in the right seat. I took the checkride with the same DPE who did my private, commercial, and multi and passed! The checkride was 8 hours total so definitely a long day. As we were debriefing, I went ahead and scheduled CFII with him as well.
~Key takeaways from CFI:~
Start nerding out now (if you aren’t already). Keep a running collection of links and videos that explain concepts well or teach you something interesting, they will be useful for the checkride. Also, don’t buy lesson plans. As my DPE put it, there are really only like 5 lesson plans for any given topic and we all steal them from each other, so no need to reinvent the wheel or pay for them if someone else can give them to you. I’d also recommend really getting to know the PTS, because it lays out very clearly what you are required to do on the checkride (for example you know you’re going to need to teach runway incursions so it’s a good opportunity to be really prepared). I’m sure my last point is most applicable to those doing CFI on their own since you won’t have a school telling you exactly what to expect.
CFII – 1 month, 368 hours TT, $1.3k
CFII was possibly the easiest checkride to prepare for. I did this one in a friend’s airplane – a Mooney with a G750 and GFC 500 autopilot. It probably took about 10 hours of flying (I already have lots of time in this plane) to be ready. For studying, I reviewed Pilot Cafe, YouTube videos, and obtained some lesson plans from a friend. I did not use PowerPoints or anything for this one. I also had already completed the written exam back when I did my instrument rating. I’m not sure what else to say about this one, but I did it with the same DPE again and passed. It feels amazing to be done with checkrides for a while!
~Key takeaways from CFII:~
Select an airplane with a good autopilot. This made the flying portion of the checkride super easy. For the oral, I highly recommend working with instructors who send students for a lot of instrument checkrides. I feel like there are so many very specific questions that DPEs like to ask on instrument/CFII checkrides, so it helps if you have someone who knows what those questions are going to be. Also, FlightInsight on YouTube and Boldmethod were my favorite resources for this one. Lastly, make sure you know your avionics and autopilot really well, including reading and being able to teach all of the limitations that are in the user manuals.
Notes regarding cost:
I did a decent job of tracking all my expenses throughout this process. I noted in the title that the total cost to me was about $50k, which consists of the ~$45k that I discussed above plus some additional expenses. I also did my commercial ASES rating at Jack Brown’s seaplane base which cost me about $2.5K total (of course this was just for fun). The remaining amount consists of things like buying a headset, books, random accessories, and even some things I called “unnecessary expenses”. I temporarily paid for a membership at a flight school that I barely ended up using, so I put that in that category. While I did everything pretty cheap, I was definitely not perfect!
Here is a further breakdown of my expenses:
Airplane rentals/fuel - $36.9k
Instructor fees - $2.5k (bear in mind I got a lot of free instruction from friends & family)
Ground school - $1.3k (includes actual ground school and books)
Flight accessories - $1.2k
Written exam fees - $1.2k (8 exams total)
DPE fees - $5.8k (7 checkrides; this includes seaplane)
Medical fees - $290
Housing - $900
Misc/unnecessary expenses - $1.2k
Total: $51.7k
Overall Takeaways:
- For those doing Part 61/pay as you go, I highly recommend finding an independent instructor with a flexible schedule. This was key for me because I had a work schedule to work around.
- NETWORKING/MAKING FRIENDS. Go to every fly-in you can, always stop into the FBO to say hi to people, etc. etc. Having friends in aviation was monumentally helpful for me and saved me SO much money. Cannot stress this enough!
- If you are on a timeline, make sure you set specific milestones and when you are going to hit them. Make sure your instructor is on board too.
- Do your research! Reddit has been a fantastic resource for me throughout this process. Talk to people who have achieved the things you want to achieve. I really cannot thank you all enough for all your help and insights on your experiences!
Again, I am more than happy to answer any and all questions. I also apologize if anything is jumbled or confusing; this took a long time to write and I’m sure I missed things. I will also disclaim that while I did a good job of tracking all my expenses, I was not perfect and YMMV for sure. I just hope this gave a somewhat helpful picture for those hoping to do something similar to what I did.
As for next steps, I am aiming for the airlines one of these days! I have a couple interviews at flight schools coming up so I am planning to quit my job and finally start flying full-time soon. I want to do my MEI sometime soon as well but I haven’t figured out how I’m going to pay for the PIC time yet.
I also want to say that I absolutely love general aviation and hope to always be involved in it. I have made so many friends, had some incredible experiences, and learned way more than I could have ever imagined in the past year. For anyone thinking about flying, hopefully this is your sign to just do it! Feel free to comment with questions!
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Background:
For context, I’m in my mid to late twenties and have been in the workforce for about 5 years. Through a combination of factors I decided to make a career switch to professional pilot but was hesitant because I did not want to take on debt. I have a family member who is an airline pilot who helped me devise a plan. I moved home and kept working my job remotely so I was able to put all my paychecks towards flying.
Private Pilot – 3 months, 75 hours TT, $12k
I did my private in a Piper Archer owned by my local FBO. The owner allowed my family member to be my instructor and gave me a small discount for pre-paying hours. We flew almost daily. I also took ground school at another local FBO in-person, and that was much more helpful than having to learn everything on my own because I was brand new to aviation. I took the private written exam as soon as my ground school concluded which was also the week of my checkride (bad idea in hindsight, but it worked out).
I solo’d around 25 hours and took my checkride with about 60 hours in the Archer (15 additional hours were in a friend’s airplane). The checkride was challenging, but straightforward and I was well prepared. The DPE said good things about me afterward and I was officially a private pilot! I’d be happy to answer questions or do a writeup in a separate post on any of my checkrides but for the sake of brevity I’ll skip that for now.
~Key takeaways from private:~
Fly as often as possible and make sure your instructor is aligned with that. Also stay on top of ground school. Also, don’t rush to take the checkride before you’re ready, it’s okay to have a lot of practice first. Lastly, I know DPE availability is a big issue in lots of areas and can cause people to have to wait on a checkride even though they’ve been ready for months. In my experience, if you try hard enough and call around, you will find someone. However, it might mean you have to travel a little bit which I know is not possible for everyone.
Instrument – 2 months, 150 hours TT, $14k
I was feeling a little fatigued after private so I was slow to start studying for instrument. I started by doing a lot of flying for fun, mainly flying in the Archer by myself on little cross countries to check off some of the requirements (in hindsight I should have found someone to split time with).
I did my instrument at a flight school in one of the adjacent states. This particular school specializes in accelerated programs, but they do not have a formalized instrument course. I went in-person and spoke with the director of flight operations to discuss my options. Since I had to take PTO to do this, the goal was to finish my instrument in one week with the checkride at the end. I paid a flat rate for the airplane and instructor time. I also stayed over there during that week so I had to pay for housing as well.
Before I went over there, I did some prep in the Archer that I did my private in and took the written exam (Sheppard air). I also purchased Sporty’s Instrument course and used that to prep and for the endorsement needed to take the written. The week I spent at the flight school was honestly a blast, and I was able to take my checkride on day 7 with 20 hours in the plane and about 4 hours of sim time. Again, happy to discuss the checkride in the comments or another post.
~Key takeaways from instrument:~
TAKE THE IRA, FII, AND IGI EXAMS AT THE SAME TIME. You only have to purchase the IRA Sheppard course and can take all 3 exams back to back. Also, again stay on top of ground school because instrument flying requires a lot of technical knowledge. But it honestly is really fun!
Commercial – 3 months, 263 hours TT, $8k
The biggest challenge for commercial was time building, of course. This is where networking saved me. I made friends with another instructor who frequented my local FBO who also owns a plane. He needed the time as well so we flew together a lot and I paid for the fuel. I also had another friend at the airport who owns a plane that he doesn’t fly often and offered to let me time build in that (again, I’ve been so lucky to come across some very generous people).
I did my checkride in the Archer that I learned in with my family member signing me off, and with the same DPE who did my private. Commercial was probably the easiest one I had done so far, but it still was no joke! I will say I was amazed with how much easier things came to me by this point versus when I first started, which was a great feeling.
~Key takeaways from commercial:~
Network, network, network. Spend as much time as you can at your local FBO or flight school and make friends with everyone. Like I’ve said, there are some very generous people out there who love to help out new pilots, and I could not have made it this far without them.
Also, in retrospect, it would have been a really good idea to have done commercial from the right seat. I’ve heard of a lot of people doing that and if I had, I would have been able to knock out CFI a lot sooner and cheaper.
Multi-engine add-on – 1 week, 298 hours TT, $4.3k
Shortly after getting my CPL, I had a week of PTO and decided to knock out my multi add-on. I found a flight school with a Seminole and got ahold of their MEI, and we figured we could knock it out during that week. I contacted the DPE who did my private and commercial and we scheduled my checkride for the end of the week. This flight school was about 2 hours driving from home, and I was able to stay with friends while I was there.
This one was a little challenging because this was in January in the midwest and we were seeing a lot of low IFR days. We ended up getting weathered out the first half of the week, but luckily the Seminole was an easy transition for me and we got me trained up in 3 days, 8 hours of flying. I took the checkride as scheduled and passed (I will say I have had extremely good luck with weather for all of my checkride days so far).
Sidenote: Prior to this checkride, I also took the AGI and IGI exams and asked the DPE who did my multi checkride to sign off on the ground instructor certificate at the same time. I did this because I’ve heard it helps when applying to CFI jobs (shows a little extra effort) and it was easier to do it this way versus having a FSDO issue the cert. Cost me $50 to the DPE.
~Key takeaways from multi:~
Do your research to find an airplane at a good rate. I paid $395 per hour which included the instructor, but I’ve seen some schools charging a lot more. Also, I looked into schools with accelerated courses that you pay as a package, and based on my experience I would not recommend because I was able to do it much cheaper my way.
My instructor did a good job of making sure I knew all the aircraft systems well enough to teach them in case I go for my MEI (which I would like to do soon). Since the MEL is light on material, I highly recommend this. Also, when I was doing research I was told to look for a Seminole or DA-42 because they’re easy trainers, which I would agree with based on my limited experience.
CFI – 1 month (on top of all my experience thus far), 316 hours TT, $5k
This was the scariest one for me. I had heard all along that CFI is the hardest and longest checkride and for the most part I would agree. I originally was planning on going to a school with an accelerated program for this, but after asking around I decided to do it on my own (with my family member signing me off).
This one was heavy on ground school. I got some lesson plans from various people as I heard that’s what everyone has prepared for the checkride, but I hardly ended up using them. I also had a friend send me PowerPoints he made for the technical subject areas. I edited them/made them my own and these are what I ended up using for the checkride along with a couple props.
As far as studying goes, the thing I found most helpful was watching random YouTube videos before bed every night. Although it was all review, I picked up a lot of tidbits that weren’t quite drilled into my brain as I still feel new to aviation overall. As the DPE described it, to be a good CFI you basically need to be a nerd about everything aviation and that’s what I tried to do. I would guess that I studied a few hours a day for a month and a half or so. As for the flying part, I had a little bit of right seat experience prior to buckling down for CFI (probably under 5 hours), so I’d guess it took me about 5 more hours to feel comfortable in the right seat. I took the checkride with the same DPE who did my private, commercial, and multi and passed! The checkride was 8 hours total so definitely a long day. As we were debriefing, I went ahead and scheduled CFII with him as well.
~Key takeaways from CFI:~
Start nerding out now (if you aren’t already). Keep a running collection of links and videos that explain concepts well or teach you something interesting, they will be useful for the checkride. Also, don’t buy lesson plans. As my DPE put it, there are really only like 5 lesson plans for any given topic and we all steal them from each other, so no need to reinvent the wheel or pay for them if someone else can give them to you. I’d also recommend really getting to know the PTS, because it lays out very clearly what you are required to do on the checkride (for example you know you’re going to need to teach runway incursions so it’s a good opportunity to be really prepared). I’m sure my last point is most applicable to those doing CFI on their own since you won’t have a school telling you exactly what to expect.
CFII – 1 month, 368 hours TT, $1.3k
CFII was possibly the easiest checkride to prepare for. I did this one in a friend’s airplane – a Mooney with a G750 and GFC 500 autopilot. It probably took about 10 hours of flying (I already have lots of time in this plane) to be ready. For studying, I reviewed Pilot Cafe, YouTube videos, and obtained some lesson plans from a friend. I did not use PowerPoints or anything for this one. I also had already completed the written exam back when I did my instrument rating. I’m not sure what else to say about this one, but I did it with the same DPE again and passed. It feels amazing to be done with checkrides for a while!
~Key takeaways from CFII:~
Select an airplane with a good autopilot. This made the flying portion of the checkride super easy. For the oral, I highly recommend working with instructors who send students for a lot of instrument checkrides. I feel like there are so many very specific questions that DPEs like to ask on instrument/CFII checkrides, so it helps if you have someone who knows what those questions are going to be. Also, FlightInsight on YouTube and Boldmethod were my favorite resources for this one. Lastly, make sure you know your avionics and autopilot really well, including reading and being able to teach all of the limitations that are in the user manuals.
Notes regarding cost:
I did a decent job of tracking all my expenses throughout this process. I noted in the title that the total cost to me was about $50k, which consists of the ~$45k that I discussed above plus some additional expenses. I also did my commercial ASES rating at Jack Brown’s seaplane base which cost me about $2.5K total (of course this was just for fun). The remaining amount consists of things like buying a headset, books, random accessories, and even some things I called “unnecessary expenses”. I temporarily paid for a membership at a flight school that I barely ended up using, so I put that in that category. While I did everything pretty cheap, I was definitely not perfect!
Here is a further breakdown of my expenses:
Airplane rentals/fuel - $36.9k
Instructor fees - $2.5k (bear in mind I got a lot of free instruction from friends & family)
Ground school - $1.3k (includes actual ground school and books)
Flight accessories - $1.2k
Written exam fees - $1.2k (8 exams total)
DPE fees - $5.8k (7 checkrides; this includes seaplane)
Medical fees - $290
Housing - $900
Misc/unnecessary expenses - $1.2k
Total: $51.7k
Overall Takeaways:
- For those doing Part 61/pay as you go, I highly recommend finding an independent instructor with a flexible schedule. This was key for me because I had a work schedule to work around.
- NETWORKING/MAKING FRIENDS. Go to every fly-in you can, always stop into the FBO to say hi to people, etc. etc. Having friends in aviation was monumentally helpful for me and saved me SO much money. Cannot stress this enough!
- If you are on a timeline, make sure you set specific milestones and when you are going to hit them. Make sure your instructor is on board too.
- Do your research! Reddit has been a fantastic resource for me throughout this process. Talk to people who have achieved the things you want to achieve. I really cannot thank you all enough for all your help and insights on your experiences!
Again, I am more than happy to answer any and all questions. I also apologize if anything is jumbled or confusing; this took a long time to write and I’m sure I missed things. I will also disclaim that while I did a good job of tracking all my expenses, I was not perfect and YMMV for sure. I just hope this gave a somewhat helpful picture for those hoping to do something similar to what I did.
As for next steps, I am aiming for the airlines one of these days! I have a couple interviews at flight schools coming up so I am planning to quit my job and finally start flying full-time soon. I want to do my MEI sometime soon as well but I haven’t figured out how I’m going to pay for the PIC time yet.
I also want to say that I absolutely love general aviation and hope to always be involved in it. I have made so many friends, had some incredible experiences, and learned way more than I could have ever imagined in the past year. For anyone thinking about flying, hopefully this is your sign to just do it! Feel free to comment with questions!
2024.05.21 21:49 Aggressive_Rice_2084 I have a riddle for you Greatmasters
Hi path all my hardware went south:
Recently I started putting together my AM5 build 7600x Biostar B 650 And my trusty dark power pro 1200w RAM was Prp how the cascade started bc I used a SO DIMM to DIMM adapter (ik ik) Ltt tested those and it worked sooo... SO DIMM Samsung 4800mhz
I am not surprised that this system doesn't work
Thing is when I put back the ssd I booted on AM5 in my old lga 2011 system it went from working fine to No signal output No bios No windows No option to reinstall from USB stick It turns on like it should fans fast then slow But with diffrent working gpus (RX 6800 & Quadro K2200) no signal The screen knows the pc is turned on tho No LED on but "system running"
Did all that stuff here: https://forums.tomshardware.com/threads/no-post-system-wont-boot-and-no-video-output-troubleshooting-checklist.1285536/
Tested: Different PSU different cables (hdmi, DP, vga blue)
Ssd works fine in laptop and boots (2 of them)
The internal speaker does NOT make noises That's sus Otherwise it starts all other hardware
And it ran fine before swapping a Damm drive
Old sys specs are Supermicro x9dai Mainboard Ballistix ddr3 RAM 8gb Xeon 2620 v2
Any last ideas would be appreciated!
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Recently I started putting together my AM5 build 7600x Biostar B 650 And my trusty dark power pro 1200w RAM was Prp how the cascade started bc I used a SO DIMM to DIMM adapter (ik ik) Ltt tested those and it worked sooo... SO DIMM Samsung 4800mhz
I am not surprised that this system doesn't work
Thing is when I put back the ssd I booted on AM5 in my old lga 2011 system it went from working fine to No signal output No bios No windows No option to reinstall from USB stick It turns on like it should fans fast then slow But with diffrent working gpus (RX 6800 & Quadro K2200) no signal The screen knows the pc is turned on tho No LED on but "system running"
Did all that stuff here: https://forums.tomshardware.com/threads/no-post-system-wont-boot-and-no-video-output-troubleshooting-checklist.1285536/
Tested: Different PSU different cables (hdmi, DP, vga blue)
Ssd works fine in laptop and boots (2 of them)
The internal speaker does NOT make noises That's sus Otherwise it starts all other hardware
And it ran fine before swapping a Damm drive
Old sys specs are Supermicro x9dai Mainboard Ballistix ddr3 RAM 8gb Xeon 2620 v2
Any last ideas would be appreciated!
2024.05.21 21:48 BGodInspired Embracing the Chaos: Discovering Hidden Joys Through Life's Disorder
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Consider keeping a journal of these discoveries. When you find something unexpected or a new blessing in the chaos, jot it down. Over time, you may find that the disorder you once resented becomes a source of joy and gratitude.
Remember, God is with us in both the order and the chaos, using every moment to guide us closer to Him.
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The Unexpected Joys of a Disorderly Life
Embracing the Chaos
Have you ever misplaced your car keys only to find a long-lost sentimental keepsake instead? While the initial frustration of disorder can seem overwhelming, there are surprising joys hidden in the chaos. Even A. A. Milne, the beloved author of Winnie the Pooh, reminds us, “One of the advantages of being disorderly is that one is constantly making exciting discoveries.” How can we, as children of God, find deeper meaning in these moments of disorder?From Chaos to Discovery
Consider the story of Mary and Martha in the Bible (Luke 10:38-42). Martha was busy and somewhat overwhelmed by the disorder of hospitality, while Mary chose to sit at Jesus’ feet, discovering the joy of His presence. Jesus affirmed Mary’s choice, saying, “Mary has chosen what is better, and it will not be taken away from her.” This powerful lesson shows us that sometimes, in stepping away from strict order, we find opportunities for deeper connection and spiritual discovery.The Benefits of Disorder
Here are some ways in which a bit of disorder can be beneficial in our Christian walk:- It encourages us to be more flexible and adaptable, traits that are valuable in navigating life’s many uncertainties.
- It opens our eyes to hidden blessings and the surprises God places in our path. When we are not rigidly following a plan, we are more open to God’s leading.
- It teaches us to trust God’s timing rather than our own. Proverbs 16:9 says, “In their hearts humans plan their course, but the Lord establishes their steps.”
Reflection and Interaction
Take a moment to reflect on your own life. Can you think of a time when a moment of disorder led to a joyful discovery or a blessing from God? How can you open yourself up to these moments more often?Consider keeping a journal of these discoveries. When you find something unexpected or a new blessing in the chaos, jot it down. Over time, you may find that the disorder you once resented becomes a source of joy and gratitude.
Call to Action
Embrace the unexpected and look for the hidden blessings in your daily life. Share your thoughts or experiences in the comments below. How has a bit of disorder brought joy or a valuable lesson to your day? Your stories could be a source of encouragement for someone else.Remember, God is with us in both the order and the chaos, using every moment to guide us closer to Him.
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2024.05.21 21:46 challenger2404 Hissing/deflating ball type sound, rpms drop and engine looses power
 | Hello ive been having this issues for a few days and can't figure out what it is. The car sometimes makes this hissing/deflating ball type of sound every now and then no matter if its stop idling or in the freeway. When this happens the car looses power significant power and when idling is visible the rpms dropping like in the video and very rarely they drop to the point of stalling the car if i don't press the accelerator a bit this has happened about 2 times in the span of like 5 days but the whole hissing and lost of power happens consistenly while driving and it's more prominent when is hotter outside and I've also noticeable an increase in gas consumption. If I try to turn on the ac the problem happens much much more frequently throughout the trip and the ac blows cool very intermittently. submitted by challenger2404 to Acura_RSX [link] [comments] |
2024.05.21 21:46 Go_Rammieboy Vibration in transmission. W210 2001 e320 CDI
Hello. About 30 minutes ago, i accelerated a tiny amount and my mercedes started vibrating quite a lot. It vibrates in every gear, including park. It’s quite an aggresive vibration. It seems to go away a little bit when driving, but i am scared to drive it incase something breaks even more. It sort of felt like something broke and then startet vibrating. I have also had i clunking noise prior to this incident. Maybe they are connected some how? I was thinking either transmission mounts or tourqeconverter?
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2024.05.21 21:45 Awastedspacer AITAH for thinking of breaking up with my gf cause she kissed her cousin
Sorry it’s my first time on Reddit Me (23M) and my gf (22F have been together for 2 1/2 years. For context, my girlfriend we will call her Amy does a lot of hunting, fishing etc. Amy’s family goes out to the woods every year and does a big fishing event with the whole family. Lots of her family I have not fully met, like her aunt and her cousin who I will call John. Now for the story; I was at Amy’s house and we had a disagreement, we do not argue much but we figured everything out together. This disagreement was about her not wanting to do stuff for me like a back massage or something along those lines. She used the term “manipulation,” to describe how showing I was in pain instead of just asking her for a massage, we discussed it all and she eventually apologized. I was about to leave her house when she asked to come with to my house to stay the night. On the way back she seemed off, I asked her what was wrong and she told me about last Summer when she was at camp. She said that she had been intoxicated and sat in John’s car (her cousin). They talked and overtime he began to pressure her into kissing him, they kissed and she got very uncomfortable and left the car. After that I kept asking her questions about it and the story began to change. First, it was she got out of the car right after it happened, next she froze and didn’t know what to do then left and eventually it ended at her waiting until he fell asleep to leave the car. All of these changes made me insanely suspicious that there was more to this story. I still had her over to stay the night, while here I said I would text John to get his side of the story if something did not align with what Amy told me I told her we would have to to break up because she lied more than once. I asked her what she thought he would say. She replied “ I don’t know how he will see it, it seemed different to him I don’t think he got the message I was uncomfortable very well,” again I had more concerns. If she had made it abundantly clear that what he did was not okay, why did he not leave her alone? I also asked why he was still on all her socials, she answered, “ we are family it would be weird,” I’m sitting in my room completely shaken, I have been with this woman for over two years and we had our ups and downs but I have done everything I can to make her feel as special and treasured as I could. Am I the asshole for thinking maybe I should still break up with her?
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2024.05.21 21:44 Ipvp4fun Advice
Hey everyone.
I'm 17 years old, turning 18 in July.
I feel kind of lost right now. I get that it's hard for 99% of the people that just turn " 18 " and are " just " entering life and learning the hardships, I've always been aware of these and prepared. I love working, like genuinely love it and spend 24/7 wanting to work.
I just don't know what or where.
So, a little " picture " of me. I was hit by a car back in 8th grade, I don't remember exactly what age that is. In result I was in the hospital for 4 months, had to " re-learn " how to walk since my body had technically forgotten it since I hadn't walked for so long. And this affected what I could do for a couple of years, and I kind of sometimes find it hard to "memorize" stuff. I had broken my left leg, spine, nose and my skull. Worst part was the skull, had to get a VERY risky operation, which thank God it went great and now I've got a very " cool " big ol' scar on my head lol. I was very sporty, I loved sports and wanted to pursue " fighting " sports such as mma and grappling as I got older, so like the age that I am now. But since this happened, Sports & MOSTLY those sports came out of the picture. I used to be a really good b'bal player, I was always put up with people 4-5 years older than me, but stupidly I was " shy " of how skinny I was. Anyways, I was SUPER skinny, and I hated that so much. And I'm basically an ectomorph, no matter HOW much I eat I genuinely don't get fat. So, I put my mind to it, ignoring what the doctors said and started working my ass out. And now, I'm much better, don't feel anything related to the accident. My head just feels a little overwhelmed when let's say I run constantly for like 5+ mins. Anyways, now I'm very very very pleased with my body. It's quite the " dream " body for my age.
I know you might be thinking what in the fuckery does this have to do with me asking for advice about " work ", I'm basically trying to tell you that if I put my mind to something nothing stops me. I don't need "motivation" to pursue something, all I need is the " start " and I just chase till finish. And That is how it is for me, 99% of the time the start is hard for me.
I guess I'm good with languages. I speak Armenian, Persian, English and a little Russian // Spanish (Can get them both to an advanced level if I find the " need " for it) & I started learning French, because I'm going to go to a French UNI and I wanted a HeadStart compared to the other students, but my mom kind of shut me down and said why are you wasting your time learning a "language" when they're going to teach you that from scratch. Instead learn something actual (she was referring to programming). I mean yeah, I guess I agree with her, since I don't know anything for the "future" to work. But anyways in no way do I want a job in anything related to languages (Like a translator etc...)
I was 15-16, I worked as a logistics operator and was able to make $1600 in a month. But the market kind of died, so did the office, so I stopped, then I focused on my exams for UNI and I'm accepted now. I will be studying Marketing, but probs will switch to Business on my 2-nd year. I have plans to get a Master's degree as-well. Either the opposite of what I study (so If I get a bachelor's in marketing, I'll go for a master's in business or if I have enough finances to pay for it myself, I'll go for CS).
So now, after I've finished everything, School exams done, UNI has been applied // accepted to and I'm just " getting " into life I'm worried day and night about work. I feel like I genuinely don't know anything to find a work for or just in general don't know anything. And I know people say there is so so much time ahead of you, you're still young and you'll find it. But I don't want to waste a single second, since each second can be spent studying or even better working.
I am decent at forex trading; I am able to make decent profit (demo account obviously) and have general knowledge of the market and know how it works basically. Of course there is still much to learn, like anyone in any field. My dad works as a trader as-well. See this is something that I enjoy, but I can't have this as a " main " job. It will be something on the side, and I need to have another MAIN source of income to be able to grow my account and get decent profit. Anyways as I mentioned that 1.6k I've got saved, I'm going to be opening an account at like $300 and I can see me making decent money from it, but still as I said that's not going to be a main " field" or "job" I don't know the word.
That's basically all that I "know" or am good at.
I talk to my mom, asking her to help // guide me. She keeps on saying programming, go become a programmer (saying this person makes tons, that person pays for her whole family and has tons of money for himself etc...). I know programming is an amazing job, mostly pay-wise, but I just don't enjoy it. I ask her to give me an idea for something else, I don't enjoy this and sarcastically she says go become a barber or a server or something. It's quite irritating because my sister has just finished her master's degree (she's 22) and makes good money, and she looks " down " at me, treats me like she's "higher?", ha-ha.
So currently, for the past week I've been studying programming (Python to be exact), and I guess I can see me finding a junior position during August or September probably. But as I mentioned, I don't really enjoy this. It's just not my thing I guess, writing stuff on and on and on all day is eh... to me.
I'm a person who genuinely loves working, just need guidance. Also, another reason why I'm so EAGER to just " jump" into life and start ACTUAL work, is because I want to get myself a car (fully paid by me) and much more stuff on my bucket list.
Sorry if this is stupidly long and half of this is just " pointless " but I guess I'm ranting and trying to get advice.
Thank you if you read all of this,
Kindly put down thoughts!
Best Regards.
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I'm 17 years old, turning 18 in July.
I feel kind of lost right now. I get that it's hard for 99% of the people that just turn " 18 " and are " just " entering life and learning the hardships, I've always been aware of these and prepared. I love working, like genuinely love it and spend 24/7 wanting to work.
I just don't know what or where.
So, a little " picture " of me. I was hit by a car back in 8th grade, I don't remember exactly what age that is. In result I was in the hospital for 4 months, had to " re-learn " how to walk since my body had technically forgotten it since I hadn't walked for so long. And this affected what I could do for a couple of years, and I kind of sometimes find it hard to "memorize" stuff. I had broken my left leg, spine, nose and my skull. Worst part was the skull, had to get a VERY risky operation, which thank God it went great and now I've got a very " cool " big ol' scar on my head lol. I was very sporty, I loved sports and wanted to pursue " fighting " sports such as mma and grappling as I got older, so like the age that I am now. But since this happened, Sports & MOSTLY those sports came out of the picture. I used to be a really good b'bal player, I was always put up with people 4-5 years older than me, but stupidly I was " shy " of how skinny I was. Anyways, I was SUPER skinny, and I hated that so much. And I'm basically an ectomorph, no matter HOW much I eat I genuinely don't get fat. So, I put my mind to it, ignoring what the doctors said and started working my ass out. And now, I'm much better, don't feel anything related to the accident. My head just feels a little overwhelmed when let's say I run constantly for like 5+ mins. Anyways, now I'm very very very pleased with my body. It's quite the " dream " body for my age.
I know you might be thinking what in the fuckery does this have to do with me asking for advice about " work ", I'm basically trying to tell you that if I put my mind to something nothing stops me. I don't need "motivation" to pursue something, all I need is the " start " and I just chase till finish. And That is how it is for me, 99% of the time the start is hard for me.
I guess I'm good with languages. I speak Armenian, Persian, English and a little Russian // Spanish (Can get them both to an advanced level if I find the " need " for it) & I started learning French, because I'm going to go to a French UNI and I wanted a HeadStart compared to the other students, but my mom kind of shut me down and said why are you wasting your time learning a "language" when they're going to teach you that from scratch. Instead learn something actual (she was referring to programming). I mean yeah, I guess I agree with her, since I don't know anything for the "future" to work. But anyways in no way do I want a job in anything related to languages (Like a translator etc...)
I was 15-16, I worked as a logistics operator and was able to make $1600 in a month. But the market kind of died, so did the office, so I stopped, then I focused on my exams for UNI and I'm accepted now. I will be studying Marketing, but probs will switch to Business on my 2-nd year. I have plans to get a Master's degree as-well. Either the opposite of what I study (so If I get a bachelor's in marketing, I'll go for a master's in business or if I have enough finances to pay for it myself, I'll go for CS).
So now, after I've finished everything, School exams done, UNI has been applied // accepted to and I'm just " getting " into life I'm worried day and night about work. I feel like I genuinely don't know anything to find a work for or just in general don't know anything. And I know people say there is so so much time ahead of you, you're still young and you'll find it. But I don't want to waste a single second, since each second can be spent studying or even better working.
I am decent at forex trading; I am able to make decent profit (demo account obviously) and have general knowledge of the market and know how it works basically. Of course there is still much to learn, like anyone in any field. My dad works as a trader as-well. See this is something that I enjoy, but I can't have this as a " main " job. It will be something on the side, and I need to have another MAIN source of income to be able to grow my account and get decent profit. Anyways as I mentioned that 1.6k I've got saved, I'm going to be opening an account at like $300 and I can see me making decent money from it, but still as I said that's not going to be a main " field" or "job" I don't know the word.
That's basically all that I "know" or am good at.
I talk to my mom, asking her to help // guide me. She keeps on saying programming, go become a programmer (saying this person makes tons, that person pays for her whole family and has tons of money for himself etc...). I know programming is an amazing job, mostly pay-wise, but I just don't enjoy it. I ask her to give me an idea for something else, I don't enjoy this and sarcastically she says go become a barber or a server or something. It's quite irritating because my sister has just finished her master's degree (she's 22) and makes good money, and she looks " down " at me, treats me like she's "higher?", ha-ha.
So currently, for the past week I've been studying programming (Python to be exact), and I guess I can see me finding a junior position during August or September probably. But as I mentioned, I don't really enjoy this. It's just not my thing I guess, writing stuff on and on and on all day is eh... to me.
I'm a person who genuinely loves working, just need guidance. Also, another reason why I'm so EAGER to just " jump" into life and start ACTUAL work, is because I want to get myself a car (fully paid by me) and much more stuff on my bucket list.
Sorry if this is stupidly long and half of this is just " pointless " but I guess I'm ranting and trying to get advice.
Thank you if you read all of this,
Kindly put down thoughts!
Best Regards.
2024.05.21 21:44 Awastedspacer AITAH for thinking of breaking up with my girlfriend because she kissed her cousin
Sorry it’s my first time on Reddit Me (23M) and my gf (22F have been together for 2 1/2 years. For context, my girlfriend we will call her Amy does a lot of hunting, fishing etc. Amy’s family goes out to the woods every year and does a big fishing event with the whole family. Lots of her family I have not fully met, like her aunt and her cousin who I will call John. Now for the story; I was at Amy’s house and we had a disagreement, we do not argue much but we figured everything out together. This disagreement was about her not wanting to do stuff for me like a back massage or something along those lines. She used the term “manipulation,” to describe how showing I was in pain instead of just asking her for a massage, we discussed it all and she eventually apologized. I was about to leave her house when she asked to come with to my house to stay the night. On the way back she seemed off, I asked her what was wrong and she told me about last Summer when she was at camp. She said that she had been intoxicated and sat in John’s car (her cousin). They talked and overtime he began to pressure her into kissing him, they kissed and she got very uncomfortable and left the car. After that I kept asking her questions about it and the story began to change. First, it was she got out of the car right after it happened, next she froze and didn’t know what to do then left and eventually it ended at her waiting until he fell asleep to leave the car. All of these changes made me insanely suspicious that there was more to this story. I still had her over to stay the night, while here I said I would text John to get his side of the story if something did not align with what Amy told me I told her we would have to to break up because she lied more than once. I asked her what she thought he would say. She replied “ I don’t know how he will see it, it seemed different to him I don’t think he got the message I was uncomfortable very well,” again I had more concerns. If she had made it abundantly clear that what he did was not okay, why did he not leave her alone? I also asked why he was still on all her socials, she answered, “ we are family it would be weird,” I’m sitting in my room completely shaken, I have been with this woman for over two years and we had our ups and downs but I have done everything I can to make her feel as special and treasured as I could. Am I the asshole for thinking maybe I should still break up with her?
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2024.05.21 21:43 Gneiss_Rock_Bro Raptor Lining an 00?
I'm considering Raptor Lining my 2000 SE, but don't know if its worth it at this point.
Reasons in favor:
-This is a 24 year old car with 280k miles. It has a pile of minor-moderate issues, and although I plan to do a maintenance spree this summer and also despite how much I love this car, realistically, I don't know how much longer it's even gonna last.
-This is also my daily car (I don't have space or money for a whole second vehicle ok?) and although I dont drive too much, I don't want to do anything that would make my gas mileage too much worse than it already is, which I wonder if the bumpy texture would affect my aerodynamics noticeably.
So taking all that into consideration, is it even really WORTH doing anything so 'fancy' to this car? I mean, mostly will it even live long enough to justify spending money on a new paint job at all?
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Reasons in favor:
- Practically, the paint needs repairing anyway. Had Lots of chips and peeling down to the primebare metal when I got it. I patched some of it but not all of it.
- Visually, My patching is not too pretty because it's done with grey primer (original paint is silver) it's actually not nearly as noticeable as you would assume but it's not ideal still.
- I go offroading in the bush and even before my ownership, the sides were already pinstriped to the hell. It would be nice to have something that doesn't scratch and I am 100% NOT spending probably the price of the damn car just to repaint with normal paint that's just gonna get fucked right away again. So it's kinda raptor or nothing (except patches)
- I want a green paint color, (My car is silver) and like I said I am not bothering to pay to repaint this whole thing with normal paint. Paint color obviously isn't a deal breaker but having a color I like would be sweet, I can't lie. and I kinda like the unique and matte look of raptor liner more than gloss paint
-This is a 24 year old car with 280k miles. It has a pile of minor-moderate issues, and although I plan to do a maintenance spree this summer and also despite how much I love this car, realistically, I don't know how much longer it's even gonna last.
- It's Not a very fancy or saught after car in the first place and it cost me just $1,300 when I got it. Raptor lining a car costs over $400.
-This is also my daily car (I don't have space or money for a whole second vehicle ok?) and although I dont drive too much, I don't want to do anything that would make my gas mileage too much worse than it already is, which I wonder if the bumpy texture would affect my aerodynamics noticeably.
So taking all that into consideration, is it even really WORTH doing anything so 'fancy' to this car? I mean, mostly will it even live long enough to justify spending money on a new paint job at all?