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2024.05.21 15:25 utopian_potential DFV Meme'd us his story: here is my interpretation of it - Pt 4/7
2024.05.21 15:18 Isanakoona How two people that were once in love could end up hating each other?
I loved him so fucking much it hurt. I know he did too, at some point of time, he did, maybe, I want to think he did.
He fucked my head real bad though.
Over time things started to go downhill. He told lies that were initially harmless but in the long run did more damage to me than I ever admitted to him. I kept forgiving him. I just, just wanted him to be himself around me. I loved him. I wanted his honesty, his truths. I had opened up and told things I had never voiced to anyone before. He had my confidence. He never gave me his confidence. I realized he judged me, inside his head I was a fucked up bitch. Inside my head, he was a adorable shy guy. I never, never thought bad of him, never thought of him the way he did about me.
He never really opened up to me. That hurt a lot. I was never enough. I hated waiting for him to drop some messages or reply. One of his way was silent treatment, keeping his words to himself, I hated it. He didn't like being denied. If I did, he was a pouty kid at the corner. He kept me at an arm's length. Like, after 6 months of roller coaster and me opening up so much the only thing I got was nothing. He loved making up shits. I never thought lying can be so fucking ingrained in a person, he would confess later on about things he lied about.
I realized if I needed to continue with him, I had to accept his time and again filthy remarks, lies, silent treatment, passive aggressiveness, fake accounts everywhere, habit of withdrawals, terming me as a distraction from his studies.
I went back and forth. On and off. I was tired. I loved him. I would miss him and hit him off with a text again, it was annoying. I was annoyed by my own refusal to go back to my life without him.
I finally did.
He thinks I got some guy, someone better than him. He thinks I can't live without having any guy in my life. Maybe its more consoling to him than to admit that I went back to having no one in my life. I have no intentions of getting involved with anyone, at least not right now. My time is mine.
As for his perspective, I think he hated how unstable I was, that I walked in and out a lot. He hated how I denied him. Hated how I wanted his attention. Hated how many times I wanted more of him. Hated that I loved him. Probably. He hates now that I hate him.
I left because it became obvious to me that I can't put up more.
I used to think I'll never be able to have feelings other than love for him. I hate him now but not even nearly as much as passionately as I loved him. I hate myself more for allowing to be treated the way he did. I hate myself more for craving for his affection, his presence in my life, craving to hear his voice, craving to see him. I hate myself more.
I am taking my time, trust, soul and putting my efforts on myself.
The most power to fuck you up is with people you bare yourself vulnerable to. He ended up doing it without ever realising it. Maybe, even though he didn't open up much, maybe, I too have fucked him up. Sometimes, I feel if I hadn't told him of my traumas, maybe he wouldn't have been that way, maybe he couldn't handle me. Maybe. I don't know. He never really told me anything at all. I hate you for that.
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He fucked my head real bad though.
Over time things started to go downhill. He told lies that were initially harmless but in the long run did more damage to me than I ever admitted to him. I kept forgiving him. I just, just wanted him to be himself around me. I loved him. I wanted his honesty, his truths. I had opened up and told things I had never voiced to anyone before. He had my confidence. He never gave me his confidence. I realized he judged me, inside his head I was a fucked up bitch. Inside my head, he was a adorable shy guy. I never, never thought bad of him, never thought of him the way he did about me.
He never really opened up to me. That hurt a lot. I was never enough. I hated waiting for him to drop some messages or reply. One of his way was silent treatment, keeping his words to himself, I hated it. He didn't like being denied. If I did, he was a pouty kid at the corner. He kept me at an arm's length. Like, after 6 months of roller coaster and me opening up so much the only thing I got was nothing. He loved making up shits. I never thought lying can be so fucking ingrained in a person, he would confess later on about things he lied about.
I realized if I needed to continue with him, I had to accept his time and again filthy remarks, lies, silent treatment, passive aggressiveness, fake accounts everywhere, habit of withdrawals, terming me as a distraction from his studies.
I went back and forth. On and off. I was tired. I loved him. I would miss him and hit him off with a text again, it was annoying. I was annoyed by my own refusal to go back to my life without him.
I finally did.
He thinks I got some guy, someone better than him. He thinks I can't live without having any guy in my life. Maybe its more consoling to him than to admit that I went back to having no one in my life. I have no intentions of getting involved with anyone, at least not right now. My time is mine.
As for his perspective, I think he hated how unstable I was, that I walked in and out a lot. He hated how I denied him. Hated how I wanted his attention. Hated how many times I wanted more of him. Hated that I loved him. Probably. He hates now that I hate him.
I left because it became obvious to me that I can't put up more.
I used to think I'll never be able to have feelings other than love for him. I hate him now but not even nearly as much as passionately as I loved him. I hate myself more for allowing to be treated the way he did. I hate myself more for craving for his affection, his presence in my life, craving to hear his voice, craving to see him. I hate myself more.
I am taking my time, trust, soul and putting my efforts on myself.
The most power to fuck you up is with people you bare yourself vulnerable to. He ended up doing it without ever realising it. Maybe, even though he didn't open up much, maybe, I too have fucked him up. Sometimes, I feel if I hadn't told him of my traumas, maybe he wouldn't have been that way, maybe he couldn't handle me. Maybe. I don't know. He never really told me anything at all. I hate you for that.
2024.05.21 14:17 Timtimsonn I'm sick of all the coping and gaslighting around the topic of does dick size matter
So I'm going to let off some steam by ranting about the Dickpill, aka that size does matter
Here's some essential Dickpill facts:
1: The "average dick size" isn't enough to satisfy most women with just intercourse. There's a reason why most dlidos are so big, and there's a reason why our culture is so full of dick size jokes, insults, and puns, big dick energy good, smol dick energy bad. And there's a reason for the massive overrepresentation of big dicks in porn, and no it isn't just because it's easier to see a big dick, it's because seeing guy fucking with an average sized dick brakes the immersion that the women is actually enjoying it. Try and find even an amiture porn video with a guy with a qoute "average dick", you'll have a hard time finding anything below 6.5 inches.
2: Skill with penetrative sex is a fallacy, it is all just about length and girth, there's no special thrusting motion or rhythm that can make up for you not being able to put pressure on the vaginal channel due to insufficient girth and fill the the women up and reach areas like the cervix due to insufficient length. Look up cervical orgasms. They are real and not uncomfortable to women providing their aroused during the intercourse. If you here people talk about how cervical stimulation is this thing that all women. hate they are simply trying to gaslight you.
https://www.medicalnewstoday.com/articles/ 321574
https://www.womenshealthmag.com/sex-and-love/ a19898911/how-to-have-a-cervical-orgasm/
https://www.allohealth care/healthfeed/sex -education/cervix-orgasm
3: Our media and general culture puts great emphasis on a mans dick size being indicator of hie masculinity and sexual prowess. If dick size did matter then such an importance wouldn't be placed on dick size.
4: The average dick size for younger guys is a lot bigger than 5.5. The average dick size statistics take into account all the adult males within the population. New studies show that the worldwide average is 6 inches, this obviously includes older guys and men from certain ethnic backgrounds who will bring down the overall average. So the average for white and black guys between the ages of 18 to 30 is probably 6.5 inches. But wight it gets worse, the average size of the average reguler sex haver is probably a lot bigger. Around 30% of guys report not having sex in over a year, and the rest that do can be divided into the guys who have a relstonship but they aren't pleasing their partner, a very common occurrence. And the guys who are having lots of sex and pleasing women with intercourse. So the average dick size for the average regular sex haver could well be about 7.5 inches well above cope statistic of 5.5
https://www.everydayhealth.com/sexual-health/ penises-have-gotten-surprisingly-longer-over-past -29-years-study-finds/#:~:text=The%20results%2C %20published%20February%2014,an%20average %20of%206%20inches.
https://scopeblog.stanford.edu/2023/02/14/is-an -increase-in-penile-length-cause-for-concern/
https://www.cosmopolitan.com/uk/body/health/ a43211439/average-penis-size/
5: Girth and length are almost always connected, so don't give me this oh girth is more important nonsense, because saying girth is impotent might as well be a synonym for saying having a big dick is Impotent.
6: Oral cannot compensate fully for not being able to preform with intercourse. While it is good advice to say do oral if you're not well endowed, it isn't going to compensate for for your lack of endowedment. You see most women do actually want penetrative sex and to feel something when it's happening. Best advice for non well endowed guys is to man yo bitch ass up and fuck your potential girlfriend with a strap on now and then.
7: Your dick size EFFECTS YOUR ENJOYMENT OF SEX. Just think about it, a small dick means less girth and length, less grith means less pressure will be applied to your dick during sex, which will mean that you won't feel as much, and a shorter dick will mean that there's less area to be effected, meaning that you won't feel much. Also a women's lack of enjoyment during sex, even if she's putting on an act fake moaning etc etc, will effect the energy that's released meaning that something will feel off and you won't enjoy it like you would if you were actually satisfying her.
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Here's some essential Dickpill facts:
1: The "average dick size" isn't enough to satisfy most women with just intercourse. There's a reason why most dlidos are so big, and there's a reason why our culture is so full of dick size jokes, insults, and puns, big dick energy good, smol dick energy bad. And there's a reason for the massive overrepresentation of big dicks in porn, and no it isn't just because it's easier to see a big dick, it's because seeing guy fucking with an average sized dick brakes the immersion that the women is actually enjoying it. Try and find even an amiture porn video with a guy with a qoute "average dick", you'll have a hard time finding anything below 6.5 inches.
2: Skill with penetrative sex is a fallacy, it is all just about length and girth, there's no special thrusting motion or rhythm that can make up for you not being able to put pressure on the vaginal channel due to insufficient girth and fill the the women up and reach areas like the cervix due to insufficient length. Look up cervical orgasms. They are real and not uncomfortable to women providing their aroused during the intercourse. If you here people talk about how cervical stimulation is this thing that all women. hate they are simply trying to gaslight you.
https://www.medicalnewstoday.com/articles/ 321574
https://www.womenshealthmag.com/sex-and-love/ a19898911/how-to-have-a-cervical-orgasm/
https://www.allohealth care/healthfeed/sex -education/cervix-orgasm
3: Our media and general culture puts great emphasis on a mans dick size being indicator of hie masculinity and sexual prowess. If dick size did matter then such an importance wouldn't be placed on dick size.
4: The average dick size for younger guys is a lot bigger than 5.5. The average dick size statistics take into account all the adult males within the population. New studies show that the worldwide average is 6 inches, this obviously includes older guys and men from certain ethnic backgrounds who will bring down the overall average. So the average for white and black guys between the ages of 18 to 30 is probably 6.5 inches. But wight it gets worse, the average size of the average reguler sex haver is probably a lot bigger. Around 30% of guys report not having sex in over a year, and the rest that do can be divided into the guys who have a relstonship but they aren't pleasing their partner, a very common occurrence. And the guys who are having lots of sex and pleasing women with intercourse. So the average dick size for the average regular sex haver could well be about 7.5 inches well above cope statistic of 5.5
https://www.everydayhealth.com/sexual-health/ penises-have-gotten-surprisingly-longer-over-past -29-years-study-finds/#:~:text=The%20results%2C %20published%20February%2014,an%20average %20of%206%20inches.
https://scopeblog.stanford.edu/2023/02/14/is-an -increase-in-penile-length-cause-for-concern/
https://www.cosmopolitan.com/uk/body/health/ a43211439/average-penis-size/
5: Girth and length are almost always connected, so don't give me this oh girth is more important nonsense, because saying girth is impotent might as well be a synonym for saying having a big dick is Impotent.
6: Oral cannot compensate fully for not being able to preform with intercourse. While it is good advice to say do oral if you're not well endowed, it isn't going to compensate for for your lack of endowedment. You see most women do actually want penetrative sex and to feel something when it's happening. Best advice for non well endowed guys is to man yo bitch ass up and fuck your potential girlfriend with a strap on now and then.
7: Your dick size EFFECTS YOUR ENJOYMENT OF SEX. Just think about it, a small dick means less girth and length, less grith means less pressure will be applied to your dick during sex, which will mean that you won't feel as much, and a shorter dick will mean that there's less area to be effected, meaning that you won't feel much. Also a women's lack of enjoyment during sex, even if she's putting on an act fake moaning etc etc, will effect the energy that's released meaning that something will feel off and you won't enjoy it like you would if you were actually satisfying her.
2024.05.21 13:41 brianiceisnice I’m so mad, heartbroken, sad… I NEED to type this somewhere. IDGAF this my main Reddit account that I do EVERYTHING on… I just need to share this somewhere or my head’ll CAVE IN.. so i’m sharing this on two subreddits so i can BREATHE
TL;DR - selfish asshole of an older brother scams me and my parents out of $200.
Okay, so I’m not doing too well financially, but I live with my Mom and Pops so we try to make ends meet. A couple weeks back we were in such rough shape financially, that I had to juggle three day jobs just to cover rent and suppress the collector’s from knocking on the door regarding our collective debts. We so broke I literally can’t even afford to sleep because in the night=I can get freelance work done. “I can sleep when I’m dead,” has become my full-time motto (unfortunately). Anyways, to try to bring some income in my household I offer services as a freelance video editor.
A while back, my older brother (who’s a career criminal and has flee’d multiple countries when authorities were after him for violent offences) hit me up and asked if I’d be down to edit for him. I was hesitant at first, being as last time I heard from him was after he beat our Mum to a pulp when I was only 12. For context bro or sis, whoever you are that is reading this: if I was only three years older I wouldn’t have let that slide—I would have mobbed his ass right then and there, pinned him down and done him so fucking dirty… IDGAF if my 15 year old ass had gone to juvie for it, I would do anything for my mother, including take a life. But instead, all that’s been imprinted in my brain is how much of a bitch I was at 12–cowering under the dining table as he took multiple shots with a shoe, at our crying helpless mother on the ground.
Anyways it’s been a few years, I’m 24 now and he gave me a big sob story how he has changed. I bought it up like the good little sheeple I am… started editing for him under the guise that he’d pay me $200 per video: SCORE! That’s a lot of money!!!
I got to know his business (shady as fuck) and got to find out he now dreams of being a finance influencer (double shady) but alas, he’s my big bro and no matter what wrong-doing he’s doing, he convinced me that he was a good man. Ight, bet, I’ma edit for him and make some money for the fam! In between his ‘takes’ of videos he sends me, I piece together that his “wife” films the videos, and he’s still an extremely abusive person. He tries not to let it show on camera, but I’m really good with people, emotions and hidden trauma so I can feel the sickening ‘abuser-of-people’ energy SEEPING off of him, still, to this day. I feel sick to my stomach editing for him, but shit, he’s promised me $200 per video. Over the course of a few weeks I can see why he never told us about his wife, it seems he keeps her pent up somewhere in Georgia, Batumi, and forces her to do whatever he wants. He once referred to her as “his slave” which I originally thought was A JOKE, but now in the grand scheme of things… I don’t think it was a joke. I pray that authorities get to them before he does something to her, but idek where to begin to put a ‘concerned citizen tip’ in a foreign country.
Some context as to why I put up with all the red flags: Mom’s not working as she has to take care of the house and she’s also trying to make money online, any ways possible. She’s starting to sell her favourite clothes. It fucking breaks my heart that I can’t do shit about it… at 24 years old, with all the social media influencing and advertising, I feel like garbage that I can’t fully support my parents… at least not yet! Dad is constantly depressed because he’s almost 80 years old and can’t retire ‘cuz my parent’s are in too much debt.
Okay, anyways, three BIG videos done for him (by big, I mean I spent +8 hours on each vid) and brother’s paid me for ONE via PayPal… no worries, he keeps leading me on saying the money will come, the money will come. And PayPal says I got $200 coming my way from him! Uhh ight, bet? Mind you, I start PLANNING my life around this $200 notification because that’s a hot stack for me and my family!!! Takes PayPal about 20 days to actually let me use the money… ridiculous because we NEEDED it… but that’s okay, I work around the problems in life, much like we all have to.
Here comes the turning point: I’m a little overworked and a little coo-coo sometimes, and one night I start telling him personal shit, kinda pouring out my heart to him, venting almost. I don’t really remember about what, just life I guess, nothing negative towards him. Somehow he misconstrues it, gets upset with me, and ‘tells me off.’ I get upset with him, tell him his business is a sham and I’ma change the rules that we agreed upon. Since his fake-ass can’t pay me what was agreed upon, (maybe $200 is a lot for him, as well) so I ask him if we can do $10 per hour instead. I pitch to him that moving forward, anytime I edit more than five hours ($50), I will refuse to edit until the money gets sent. The conversation turns hostile, QUICK. He calls me a ton of bad names with an underlying message that I’m the biggest loser on earth for pursuing a dream in working in Entertainment & he ends it with a sweet “you’ll never be anything.” LOL WHAT? Completely out of pocket and out of left field, so naturally, I tell him to eat shit, I won’t be doing anymore free work and he can pay me a mere $30 (yes, thirty dollars) for the entire portfolio of audios, texts/scripts, videos, and clips I’ve taken from the internet that ‘match’ the vibe he wants in his videos.
Context: at this point I’ve completed SIX FULL VIDEOS FOR THIS DUDE and he’s only paid me the one payment of $200. Not good at maths? Me neither, lemme help you out. He owes me $1,200 from our original agreement because I’ve spent more than 48 collective hours working on his videos, and he’s only paid me $200. But I tell him: I’ll let it all slide if he pays me $30 for the portfolio of about 50 gigabytes, and then moving forward, he’d pay me the $10 per hour if he wanted more content from me. He already has the six full videos in his possession. The ‘portfolio’ is stuff I’ve found that’s free-use on the internet, stuff that I’ve compiled, and even some scripts that I’ve written out! ALL MINE that I did for HIS business. So it seems logical for me to give this portfolio as an option, just incase he wants to say nah moving forward on me editing for him, and just take the material & go our separate ways…
In response, my (35 year old) brother files a complaint on PayPal claiming he only hired me for a channel encompassing trailer that I did not provide and that I’m attempting to extort him for more money. LOL, WHAT? PayPal’s like BET and automatically attempts to deduct from MY chequing account, without even getting to the bottom of it. Obviously doesn’t work, my account (not PayPal account, my fucking bank account. these mf so overzealous that they reached right into my mf pocket!!!!) gets put in the negatives and I attempt to appeal, with no sweat on my brow ‘cuz I’m like no way PayPal finna let this slide. I then proceed to message my terrible relative multiple times, with texts, videos and audio recordings and I’m in a hysterical mess. I begin threatening him, I begin begging to him, pleading with him, saying anything under the sun just for the hope that he has some heart and would send back the $200 if PayPal does end up taking it from me. Already my chequing was fricked but I could do some damage control… I was cocky, thinking PayPal would obviously side with me once they heard the whole story, so I also told him since he’s caused such pain for me out of absolutely nothing, like completely unprovoked, then shit: I want the original $200 PLUS an extra $200 for all this trauma. He responds by blocking me on everything. It’s 4 A.M. and I’m shaking as I’m typing this…
Somehow after all the information I provided, PayPal sides with him. Wow, wait, what? PayPal has since tried to deduct my PERSONAL CHEQUING ACCOUNT multiple times in order to fish back the $200 which I ALREADY HAD TO USE!!! Idk if you ever had a payment tried to be taken out of an account which already has a negative balance, but the payment doesn’t go (it does a minus then a plus) but usually the bank is like WTF and charges you fees. Multiple times = Multiple fees…
Before, I was in the negatives on my ONE chequing account I own… now I’m in the NEGATIVE-NEGATIVES… no clue how tf I’ma get out of it, but we all persevere eventually! I’ve reached out to PayPal but I’m almost sure nothing will come of it.. I’m considering taking PayPal to small claims court to somehow try to fix all this mess, but I fear it’ll break me off more trouble than repair anything. If you want to DM me, I’ll gladly give you my brother’s socials to send a report to his accounts on Instagram or TikTok, or even leave him a not-so-nice comment if you’d like. Also let me know if you know how I can get in contact with the authorities in the country of ‘Georgia.’
I have absolutely no issues posting his socials, address, doxxxing his ass to the fullest extent, all to do whatever’s necessary: because I fear he will one day gain notoriety and scam a shit ton of people. Praying that never happens.
Let me know what y’all think!!!
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Okay, so I’m not doing too well financially, but I live with my Mom and Pops so we try to make ends meet. A couple weeks back we were in such rough shape financially, that I had to juggle three day jobs just to cover rent and suppress the collector’s from knocking on the door regarding our collective debts. We so broke I literally can’t even afford to sleep because in the night=I can get freelance work done. “I can sleep when I’m dead,” has become my full-time motto (unfortunately). Anyways, to try to bring some income in my household I offer services as a freelance video editor.
A while back, my older brother (who’s a career criminal and has flee’d multiple countries when authorities were after him for violent offences) hit me up and asked if I’d be down to edit for him. I was hesitant at first, being as last time I heard from him was after he beat our Mum to a pulp when I was only 12. For context bro or sis, whoever you are that is reading this: if I was only three years older I wouldn’t have let that slide—I would have mobbed his ass right then and there, pinned him down and done him so fucking dirty… IDGAF if my 15 year old ass had gone to juvie for it, I would do anything for my mother, including take a life. But instead, all that’s been imprinted in my brain is how much of a bitch I was at 12–cowering under the dining table as he took multiple shots with a shoe, at our crying helpless mother on the ground.
Anyways it’s been a few years, I’m 24 now and he gave me a big sob story how he has changed. I bought it up like the good little sheeple I am… started editing for him under the guise that he’d pay me $200 per video: SCORE! That’s a lot of money!!!
I got to know his business (shady as fuck) and got to find out he now dreams of being a finance influencer (double shady) but alas, he’s my big bro and no matter what wrong-doing he’s doing, he convinced me that he was a good man. Ight, bet, I’ma edit for him and make some money for the fam! In between his ‘takes’ of videos he sends me, I piece together that his “wife” films the videos, and he’s still an extremely abusive person. He tries not to let it show on camera, but I’m really good with people, emotions and hidden trauma so I can feel the sickening ‘abuser-of-people’ energy SEEPING off of him, still, to this day. I feel sick to my stomach editing for him, but shit, he’s promised me $200 per video. Over the course of a few weeks I can see why he never told us about his wife, it seems he keeps her pent up somewhere in Georgia, Batumi, and forces her to do whatever he wants. He once referred to her as “his slave” which I originally thought was A JOKE, but now in the grand scheme of things… I don’t think it was a joke. I pray that authorities get to them before he does something to her, but idek where to begin to put a ‘concerned citizen tip’ in a foreign country.
Some context as to why I put up with all the red flags: Mom’s not working as she has to take care of the house and she’s also trying to make money online, any ways possible. She’s starting to sell her favourite clothes. It fucking breaks my heart that I can’t do shit about it… at 24 years old, with all the social media influencing and advertising, I feel like garbage that I can’t fully support my parents… at least not yet! Dad is constantly depressed because he’s almost 80 years old and can’t retire ‘cuz my parent’s are in too much debt.
Okay, anyways, three BIG videos done for him (by big, I mean I spent +8 hours on each vid) and brother’s paid me for ONE via PayPal… no worries, he keeps leading me on saying the money will come, the money will come. And PayPal says I got $200 coming my way from him! Uhh ight, bet? Mind you, I start PLANNING my life around this $200 notification because that’s a hot stack for me and my family!!! Takes PayPal about 20 days to actually let me use the money… ridiculous because we NEEDED it… but that’s okay, I work around the problems in life, much like we all have to.
Here comes the turning point: I’m a little overworked and a little coo-coo sometimes, and one night I start telling him personal shit, kinda pouring out my heart to him, venting almost. I don’t really remember about what, just life I guess, nothing negative towards him. Somehow he misconstrues it, gets upset with me, and ‘tells me off.’ I get upset with him, tell him his business is a sham and I’ma change the rules that we agreed upon. Since his fake-ass can’t pay me what was agreed upon, (maybe $200 is a lot for him, as well) so I ask him if we can do $10 per hour instead. I pitch to him that moving forward, anytime I edit more than five hours ($50), I will refuse to edit until the money gets sent. The conversation turns hostile, QUICK. He calls me a ton of bad names with an underlying message that I’m the biggest loser on earth for pursuing a dream in working in Entertainment & he ends it with a sweet “you’ll never be anything.” LOL WHAT? Completely out of pocket and out of left field, so naturally, I tell him to eat shit, I won’t be doing anymore free work and he can pay me a mere $30 (yes, thirty dollars) for the entire portfolio of audios, texts/scripts, videos, and clips I’ve taken from the internet that ‘match’ the vibe he wants in his videos.
Context: at this point I’ve completed SIX FULL VIDEOS FOR THIS DUDE and he’s only paid me the one payment of $200. Not good at maths? Me neither, lemme help you out. He owes me $1,200 from our original agreement because I’ve spent more than 48 collective hours working on his videos, and he’s only paid me $200. But I tell him: I’ll let it all slide if he pays me $30 for the portfolio of about 50 gigabytes, and then moving forward, he’d pay me the $10 per hour if he wanted more content from me. He already has the six full videos in his possession. The ‘portfolio’ is stuff I’ve found that’s free-use on the internet, stuff that I’ve compiled, and even some scripts that I’ve written out! ALL MINE that I did for HIS business. So it seems logical for me to give this portfolio as an option, just incase he wants to say nah moving forward on me editing for him, and just take the material & go our separate ways…
In response, my (35 year old) brother files a complaint on PayPal claiming he only hired me for a channel encompassing trailer that I did not provide and that I’m attempting to extort him for more money. LOL, WHAT? PayPal’s like BET and automatically attempts to deduct from MY chequing account, without even getting to the bottom of it. Obviously doesn’t work, my account (not PayPal account, my fucking bank account. these mf so overzealous that they reached right into my mf pocket!!!!) gets put in the negatives and I attempt to appeal, with no sweat on my brow ‘cuz I’m like no way PayPal finna let this slide. I then proceed to message my terrible relative multiple times, with texts, videos and audio recordings and I’m in a hysterical mess. I begin threatening him, I begin begging to him, pleading with him, saying anything under the sun just for the hope that he has some heart and would send back the $200 if PayPal does end up taking it from me. Already my chequing was fricked but I could do some damage control… I was cocky, thinking PayPal would obviously side with me once they heard the whole story, so I also told him since he’s caused such pain for me out of absolutely nothing, like completely unprovoked, then shit: I want the original $200 PLUS an extra $200 for all this trauma. He responds by blocking me on everything. It’s 4 A.M. and I’m shaking as I’m typing this…
Somehow after all the information I provided, PayPal sides with him. Wow, wait, what? PayPal has since tried to deduct my PERSONAL CHEQUING ACCOUNT multiple times in order to fish back the $200 which I ALREADY HAD TO USE!!! Idk if you ever had a payment tried to be taken out of an account which already has a negative balance, but the payment doesn’t go (it does a minus then a plus) but usually the bank is like WTF and charges you fees. Multiple times = Multiple fees…
Before, I was in the negatives on my ONE chequing account I own… now I’m in the NEGATIVE-NEGATIVES… no clue how tf I’ma get out of it, but we all persevere eventually! I’ve reached out to PayPal but I’m almost sure nothing will come of it.. I’m considering taking PayPal to small claims court to somehow try to fix all this mess, but I fear it’ll break me off more trouble than repair anything. If you want to DM me, I’ll gladly give you my brother’s socials to send a report to his accounts on Instagram or TikTok, or even leave him a not-so-nice comment if you’d like. Also let me know if you know how I can get in contact with the authorities in the country of ‘Georgia.’
I have absolutely no issues posting his socials, address, doxxxing his ass to the fullest extent, all to do whatever’s necessary: because I fear he will one day gain notoriety and scam a shit ton of people. Praying that never happens.
Let me know what y’all think!!!
2024.05.21 13:30 brianiceisnice I’m so mad, heartbroken, sad… I NEED to type this somewhere. IDGAF this my main Reddit account that I do EVERYTHING on… I just need to share this somewhere or my head’ll CAVE IN.
TL;DR - selfish asshole of an older brother scams me and my parents out of $200.
Okay, so I’m not doing too well financially, but I live with my Mom and Pops so we try to make ends meet. A couple weeks back we were in such rough shape financially, that I had to juggle three day jobs just to cover rent and suppress the collector’s from knocking on the door regarding our collective debts. We so broke I literally can’t even afford to sleep because in the night=I can get freelance work done. “I can sleep when I’m dead,” has become my full-time motto (unfortunately). Anyways, to try to bring some income in my household I offer services as a freelance video editor.
A while back, my older brother (who’s a career criminal and has flee’d multiple countries when authorities were after him for violent offences) hit me up and asked if I’d be down to edit for him. I was hesitant at first, being as last time I heard from him was after he beat our Mum to a pulp when I was only 12. For context bro or sis, whoever you are that is reading this: if I was only three years older I wouldn’t have let that slide—I would have mobbed his ass right then and there, pinned him down and done him so fucking dirty… IDGAF if my 15 year old ass had gone to juvie for it, I would do anything for my mother, including take a life. But instead, all that’s been imprinted in my brain is how much of a bitch I was at 12–cowering under the dining table as he took multiple shots with a shoe, at our crying helpless mother on the ground.
Anyways it’s been a few years, I’m 24 now and he gave me a big sob story how he has changed. I bought it up like the good little sheeple I am… started editing for him under the guise that he’d pay me $200 per video: SCORE! That’s a lot of money!!!
I got to know his business (shady as fuck) and got to find out he now dreams of being a finance influencer (double shady) but alas, he’s my big bro and no matter what wrong-doing he’s doing, he convinced me that he was a good man. Ight, bet, I’ma edit for him and make some money for the fam! In between his ‘takes’ of videos he sends me, I piece together that his “wife” films the videos, and he’s still an extremely abusive person. He tries not to let it show on camera, but I’m really good with people, emotions and hidden trauma so I can feel the sickening ‘abuser-of-people’ energy SEEPING off of him, still, to this day. I feel sick to my stomach editing for him, but shit, he’s promised me $200 per video. Over the course of a few weeks I can see why he never told us about his wife, it seems he keeps her pent up somewhere in Georgia, Batumi, and forces her to do whatever he wants. He once referred to her as “his slave” which I originally thought was A JOKE, but now in the grand scheme of things… I don’t think it was a joke. I pray that authorities get to them before he does something to her, but idek where to begin to put a ‘concerned citizen tip’ in a foreign country.
Some context as to why I put up with all the red flags: Mom’s not working as she has to take care of the house and she’s also trying to make money online, any ways possible. She’s starting to sell her favourite clothes. It fucking breaks my heart that I can’t do shit about it… at 24 years old, with all the social media influencing and advertising, I feel like garbage that I can’t fully support my parents… at least not yet! Dad is constantly depressed because he’s almost 80 years old and can’t retire ‘cuz my parent’s are in too much debt.
Okay, anyways, three BIG videos done for him (by big, I mean I spent +8 hours on each vid) and brother’s paid me for ONE via PayPal… no worries, he keeps leading me on saying the money will come, the money will come. And PayPal says I got $200 coming my way from him! Uhh ight, bet? Mind you, I start PLANNING my life around this $200 notification because that’s a hot stack for me and my family!!! Takes PayPal about 20 days to actually let me use the money… ridiculous because we NEEDED it… but that’s okay, I work around the problems in life, much like we all have to.
Here comes the turning point: I’m a little overworked and a little coo-coo sometimes, and one night I start telling him personal shit, kinda pouring out my heart to him, venting almost. I don’t really remember about what, just life I guess, nothing negative towards him. Somehow he misconstrues it, gets upset with me, and ‘tells me off.’ I get upset with him, tell him his business is a sham and I’ma change the rules that we agreed upon. Since his fake-ass can’t pay me what was agreed upon, (maybe $200 is a lot for him, as well) so I ask him if we can do $10 per hour instead. I pitch to him that moving forward, anytime I edit more than five hours ($50), I will refuse to edit until the money gets sent. The conversation turns hostile, QUICK. He calls me a ton of bad names with an underlying message that I’m the biggest loser on earth for pursuing a dream in working in Entertainment & he ends it with a sweet “you’ll never be anything.” LOL WHAT? Completely out of pocket and out of left field, so naturally, I tell him to eat shit, I won’t be doing anymore free work and he can pay me a mere $30 (yes, thirty dollars) for the entire portfolio of audios, texts/scripts, videos, and clips I’ve taken from the internet that ‘match’ the vibe he wants in his videos.
Context: at this point I’ve completed SIX FULL VIDEOS FOR THIS DUDE and he’s only paid me the one payment of $200. Not good at maths? Me neither, lemme help you out. He owes me $1,200 from our original agreement because I’ve spent more than 48 collective hours working on his videos, and he’s only paid me $200. But I tell him: I’ll let it all slide if he pays me $30 for the portfolio of about 50 gigabytes, and then moving forward, he’d pay me the $10 per hour if he wanted more content from me. He already has the six full videos in his possession. The ‘portfolio’ is stuff I’ve found that’s free-use on the internet, stuff that I’ve compiled, and even some scripts that I’ve written out! ALL MINE that I did for HIS business. So it seems logical for me to give this portfolio as an option, just incase he wants to say nah moving forward on me editing for him, and just take the material & go our separate ways…
In response, my (35 year old) brother files a complaint on PayPal claiming he only hired me for a channel encompassing trailer that I did not provide and that I’m attempting to extort him for more money. LOL, WHAT? PayPal’s like BET and automatically attempts to deduct from MY chequing account, without even getting to the bottom of it. Obviously doesn’t work, my account (not PayPal account, my fucking bank account. these mf so overzealous that they reached right into my mf pocket!!!!) gets put in the negatives and I attempt to appeal, with no sweat on my brow ‘cuz I’m like no way PayPal finna let this slide. I then proceed to message my terrible relative multiple times, with texts, videos and audio recordings and I’m in a hysterical mess. I begin threatening him, I begin begging to him, pleading with him, saying anything under the sun just for the hope that he has some heart and would send back the $200 if PayPal does end up taking it from me. Already my chequing was fricked but I could do some damage control… I was cocky, thinking PayPal would obviously side with me once they heard the whole story, so I also told him since he’s caused such pain for me out of absolutely nothing, like completely unprovoked, then shit: I want the original $200 PLUS an extra $200 for all this trauma. He responds by blocking me on everything. It’s 4 A.M. and I’m shaking as I’m typing this…
Somehow after all the information I provided, PayPal sides with him. Wow, wait, what? PayPal has since tried to deduct my PERSONAL CHEQUING ACCOUNT multiple times in order to fish back the $200 which I ALREADY HAD TO USE!!! Idk if you ever had a payment tried to be taken out of an account which already has a negative balance, but the payment doesn’t go (it does a minus then a plus) but usually the bank is like WTF and charges you fees. Multiple times = Multiple fees…
Before, I was in the negatives on my ONE chequing account I own… now I’m in the NEGATIVE-NEGATIVES… no clue how tf I’ma get out of it, but we all persevere eventually! I’ve reached out to PayPal but I’m almost sure nothing will come of it.. I’m considering taking PayPal to small claims court to somehow try to fix all this mess, but I fear it’ll break me off more trouble than repair anything. If you want to DM me, I’ll gladly give you my brother’s socials to send a report to his accounts on Instagram or TikTok, or even leave him a not-so-nice comment if you’d like. Also let me know if you know how I can get in contact with the authorities in the country of ‘Georgia.’
I have absolutely no issues posting his socials, address, doxxxing his ass to the fullest extent, all to do whatever’s necessary: because I fear he will one day gain notoriety and scam a shit ton of people. Praying that never happens.
Let me know what y’all think!!!
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Okay, so I’m not doing too well financially, but I live with my Mom and Pops so we try to make ends meet. A couple weeks back we were in such rough shape financially, that I had to juggle three day jobs just to cover rent and suppress the collector’s from knocking on the door regarding our collective debts. We so broke I literally can’t even afford to sleep because in the night=I can get freelance work done. “I can sleep when I’m dead,” has become my full-time motto (unfortunately). Anyways, to try to bring some income in my household I offer services as a freelance video editor.
A while back, my older brother (who’s a career criminal and has flee’d multiple countries when authorities were after him for violent offences) hit me up and asked if I’d be down to edit for him. I was hesitant at first, being as last time I heard from him was after he beat our Mum to a pulp when I was only 12. For context bro or sis, whoever you are that is reading this: if I was only three years older I wouldn’t have let that slide—I would have mobbed his ass right then and there, pinned him down and done him so fucking dirty… IDGAF if my 15 year old ass had gone to juvie for it, I would do anything for my mother, including take a life. But instead, all that’s been imprinted in my brain is how much of a bitch I was at 12–cowering under the dining table as he took multiple shots with a shoe, at our crying helpless mother on the ground.
Anyways it’s been a few years, I’m 24 now and he gave me a big sob story how he has changed. I bought it up like the good little sheeple I am… started editing for him under the guise that he’d pay me $200 per video: SCORE! That’s a lot of money!!!
I got to know his business (shady as fuck) and got to find out he now dreams of being a finance influencer (double shady) but alas, he’s my big bro and no matter what wrong-doing he’s doing, he convinced me that he was a good man. Ight, bet, I’ma edit for him and make some money for the fam! In between his ‘takes’ of videos he sends me, I piece together that his “wife” films the videos, and he’s still an extremely abusive person. He tries not to let it show on camera, but I’m really good with people, emotions and hidden trauma so I can feel the sickening ‘abuser-of-people’ energy SEEPING off of him, still, to this day. I feel sick to my stomach editing for him, but shit, he’s promised me $200 per video. Over the course of a few weeks I can see why he never told us about his wife, it seems he keeps her pent up somewhere in Georgia, Batumi, and forces her to do whatever he wants. He once referred to her as “his slave” which I originally thought was A JOKE, but now in the grand scheme of things… I don’t think it was a joke. I pray that authorities get to them before he does something to her, but idek where to begin to put a ‘concerned citizen tip’ in a foreign country.
Some context as to why I put up with all the red flags: Mom’s not working as she has to take care of the house and she’s also trying to make money online, any ways possible. She’s starting to sell her favourite clothes. It fucking breaks my heart that I can’t do shit about it… at 24 years old, with all the social media influencing and advertising, I feel like garbage that I can’t fully support my parents… at least not yet! Dad is constantly depressed because he’s almost 80 years old and can’t retire ‘cuz my parent’s are in too much debt.
Okay, anyways, three BIG videos done for him (by big, I mean I spent +8 hours on each vid) and brother’s paid me for ONE via PayPal… no worries, he keeps leading me on saying the money will come, the money will come. And PayPal says I got $200 coming my way from him! Uhh ight, bet? Mind you, I start PLANNING my life around this $200 notification because that’s a hot stack for me and my family!!! Takes PayPal about 20 days to actually let me use the money… ridiculous because we NEEDED it… but that’s okay, I work around the problems in life, much like we all have to.
Here comes the turning point: I’m a little overworked and a little coo-coo sometimes, and one night I start telling him personal shit, kinda pouring out my heart to him, venting almost. I don’t really remember about what, just life I guess, nothing negative towards him. Somehow he misconstrues it, gets upset with me, and ‘tells me off.’ I get upset with him, tell him his business is a sham and I’ma change the rules that we agreed upon. Since his fake-ass can’t pay me what was agreed upon, (maybe $200 is a lot for him, as well) so I ask him if we can do $10 per hour instead. I pitch to him that moving forward, anytime I edit more than five hours ($50), I will refuse to edit until the money gets sent. The conversation turns hostile, QUICK. He calls me a ton of bad names with an underlying message that I’m the biggest loser on earth for pursuing a dream in working in Entertainment & he ends it with a sweet “you’ll never be anything.” LOL WHAT? Completely out of pocket and out of left field, so naturally, I tell him to eat shit, I won’t be doing anymore free work and he can pay me a mere $30 (yes, thirty dollars) for the entire portfolio of audios, texts/scripts, videos, and clips I’ve taken from the internet that ‘match’ the vibe he wants in his videos.
Context: at this point I’ve completed SIX FULL VIDEOS FOR THIS DUDE and he’s only paid me the one payment of $200. Not good at maths? Me neither, lemme help you out. He owes me $1,200 from our original agreement because I’ve spent more than 48 collective hours working on his videos, and he’s only paid me $200. But I tell him: I’ll let it all slide if he pays me $30 for the portfolio of about 50 gigabytes, and then moving forward, he’d pay me the $10 per hour if he wanted more content from me. He already has the six full videos in his possession. The ‘portfolio’ is stuff I’ve found that’s free-use on the internet, stuff that I’ve compiled, and even some scripts that I’ve written out! ALL MINE that I did for HIS business. So it seems logical for me to give this portfolio as an option, just incase he wants to say nah moving forward on me editing for him, and just take the material & go our separate ways…
In response, my (35 year old) brother files a complaint on PayPal claiming he only hired me for a channel encompassing trailer that I did not provide and that I’m attempting to extort him for more money. LOL, WHAT? PayPal’s like BET and automatically attempts to deduct from MY chequing account, without even getting to the bottom of it. Obviously doesn’t work, my account (not PayPal account, my fucking bank account. these mf so overzealous that they reached right into my mf pocket!!!!) gets put in the negatives and I attempt to appeal, with no sweat on my brow ‘cuz I’m like no way PayPal finna let this slide. I then proceed to message my terrible relative multiple times, with texts, videos and audio recordings and I’m in a hysterical mess. I begin threatening him, I begin begging to him, pleading with him, saying anything under the sun just for the hope that he has some heart and would send back the $200 if PayPal does end up taking it from me. Already my chequing was fricked but I could do some damage control… I was cocky, thinking PayPal would obviously side with me once they heard the whole story, so I also told him since he’s caused such pain for me out of absolutely nothing, like completely unprovoked, then shit: I want the original $200 PLUS an extra $200 for all this trauma. He responds by blocking me on everything. It’s 4 A.M. and I’m shaking as I’m typing this…
Somehow after all the information I provided, PayPal sides with him. Wow, wait, what? PayPal has since tried to deduct my PERSONAL CHEQUING ACCOUNT multiple times in order to fish back the $200 which I ALREADY HAD TO USE!!! Idk if you ever had a payment tried to be taken out of an account which already has a negative balance, but the payment doesn’t go (it does a minus then a plus) but usually the bank is like WTF and charges you fees. Multiple times = Multiple fees…
Before, I was in the negatives on my ONE chequing account I own… now I’m in the NEGATIVE-NEGATIVES… no clue how tf I’ma get out of it, but we all persevere eventually! I’ve reached out to PayPal but I’m almost sure nothing will come of it.. I’m considering taking PayPal to small claims court to somehow try to fix all this mess, but I fear it’ll break me off more trouble than repair anything. If you want to DM me, I’ll gladly give you my brother’s socials to send a report to his accounts on Instagram or TikTok, or even leave him a not-so-nice comment if you’d like. Also let me know if you know how I can get in contact with the authorities in the country of ‘Georgia.’
I have absolutely no issues posting his socials, address, doxxxing his ass to the fullest extent, all to do whatever’s necessary: because I fear he will one day gain notoriety and scam a shit ton of people. Praying that never happens.
Let me know what y’all think!!!
2024.05.21 12:29 JessEGames777 How do i change my face?
For context i got in trouble at work for 2 conflicting things. First i was told i talk to much about my personal life and it makes my coworkers uncomfortable. And i was super confused because i dont talk to my coworkers. But then like, 3 days later my boss had another conversation with me and said im a negative person and not a team player cuz i don't talk to my coworkers and i "look miserable all the time" and was asked if i even wanted to work there. And this isnt the first time i was told i look sad or miserable all the time. Im not though. It's literally just my face. Some people have resting bitch face; i have resting sad face. I can't help it. If you talk to me you'll see im not sad or anything. Im a generally positive person and i try to be kind and helpful to everyone and customers love me. I've been told by several customers that im their favorite person there. My customer review scores are positive. Even customers that are "problem customers" that everyone hates dealing with like me. And i go out of my way constantly to help my coworkers whenever i have time. So to be told im not a team player pisses me off so badly when its completely not true and only even thought because my face just looks sad. Wtf am i supposed to do? Cuz i tried just keeping a smile/positive expression on my face constantly but then people were saying i look fake and its disturbing/off putting to them.
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2024.05.21 11:54 messiah_six9 Stalkingly profound
 | It' really seems to be a great number of so called developers doing the most dissatisfied shit to people for shits and gigs. To seek out and maliciously attack someone who may not know how to defend themselves. These fucking cowards do these things and come on here to laugh and joke about how they destroyed someones life. Immature fucks so we banning together to catch you fuckers and put your face on it! No hiding behind your encryptions and algorithms, and deceiving people wit AI. This a new breed of Wolves. You pussies it's time to come from out the shadows. Bring some reality back into all these fake narratives and hiding like a bitch. We coming to pull your teeth out. Be seeing you soon. submitted by messiah_six9 to stalkingdead [link] [comments] |
2024.05.21 10:19 indepen-variable Tech nine before anyone
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2024.05.21 08:31 PlasticAnxious2100 Mariah and her friend
 | I don’t get why Mariah just don’t stop fw her friend. I feel like now she gone bring Mariah into a bunch of extra drama that we don’t really need or care for this season 🤷🏽♀️ her friend is definitely giving clout chaser submitted by PlasticAnxious2100 to BaddiesSouth [link] [comments] |
2024.05.21 07:27 Illustrious_Recipe27 [TOMT][videos] fake old spice commercial
Hi everyone I’m trying to find this video I seen 6 years ago. It was a fake old spice commercial I remember certain things from the video were, Yelling power slide getting into bed Complaining that he has to many bitches The spray was called bitch get the fuck out my bed spray The spray was a fire extinguisher that he then sprays at the women and tells her “I told you bitch I got shit to do”
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2024.05.21 07:20 XxxxRoboCopxxxx Popcorn is an extra charge?! Popcorn?
We were in line at a comedy show on Harmony of the Seas and saw a guy popping popcorn with the fake butter near the entrance to the comedy show Turns out, it's not included and is an extra charge. How the heck is popcorn an extra charge? I guess because people were paying for it, a couple of the people in line for popcorn were bitching at the guy because he was popping the corn too slow. Hardcore berating the poor guy. It wasn't a commercial quality popper that you see at the theater. It's one of those small party size poppers, and these people were upset because they wanted popcorn and they were missing their show. Then another guy in line asked if the popcorn was included, to which the employee guy says no, it's extra. You could hear people getting indignant. Things got heated enough that a manager had to come over and calm things down.
Popcorn?!
The comedy show was ok. It's a cruise ship, so you aren't going to get A-list comedians, but it was fun entertainment for 45 minutes.
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Popcorn?!
The comedy show was ok. It's a cruise ship, so you aren't going to get A-list comedians, but it was fun entertainment for 45 minutes.
2024.05.21 05:53 freemaxbwaves The Secret Subliminal War Between Kendrick Lamar and Drake
 | I don’t think people realize that Drake and Kendrick have been having a back and forth in their songs since before "First Person Shooter." Yes, we all know they’ve been sending subliminals to each other for over a decade and have been beefing for a while now, but since "DAMN.," no one has really paid attention to the subliminals in their music, and they’ve been directly responding to each other in songs for a while now. submitted by freemaxbwaves to KendrickLamar [link] [comments] Here’s some backstory on where I think this modern beef started. On March 5, 2021, Drake released the song "What’s Next." The song was originally supposed to have Baby Keem on it, but his verse was left off, and it was just Drake on the song. I’m just going to leave this information here because it might play into the later disses. Family Ties August 27, 2021 Where I think the disses really start is on "Family Ties" with Kendrick Lamar. This song is the first official collaboration between Keem and Kendrick. It comes five months after What’s Next. In Kendrick’s verse, he states that he’s: "Smokin' on your top five tonight, tonight Yeah, I'm smokin' on your, what's his name, tonight, tonight." This could be aimed at anybody in the game, but I think it’s directly targeted towards Drake based on the “what’s his name,” since Drake and Rihanna have a song called “What’s My Name.” Kendrick is saying he’s smoking on Drake. Throughout Kendrick’s verse, he starts calling himself the GOAT and explains why he’s been absent in the game before this. At the end of the track, Baby Keem says: "Number two DM'ing my bitch That's cool, I don't ask why." "Number two" here refers to Drake, as number one would be Kendrick Lamar. Drake is known for DMing people’s girls and stuff like that; Baby Keem says Drake is DMing his girl and is confused. Mr. Morale & The Big Steppers https://preview.redd.it/f8c3x1uhbp1d1.png?width=300&format=png&auto=webp&s=042914e480929880962297dff8e7f1c585752c02 It’s been about a year since "Family Ties," and Kendrick releases his next studio album in five years. The album is supposed to address his demons and is about his growth and maturity through therapy. I think there are some subliminal on here towards Drake. Father Time This entire track is Kendrick addressing the issue of parenthood, specifically fatherhood, and the toxic nature of present and absent fathers due to the toxic masculinity that is passed through generations. It’s interesting that this is the track where Kendrick directly mentions Drake's name since we know later on Kendrick would call Drake a bad/absent father and call his father absent as well. "When Kanye got back with Drake, I was slightly confused Guess I'm not mature as I think, got some healin' to do." Kanye and Drake got back together for the Larry Hoover concert, and here Kendrick is confused about why Kanye “made up” with Drake. He realized he’s not as mature as he thinks and has some healing to do because he wouldn’t get back with Drake like Kanye did. Rich Spirit I think "Rich Spirit" might be the real warning shot towards Drake. I also think this is a direct reply to "Toosie Slide." The entire "Rich Spirit" video is him alone in his house, away from fame and society. There are a lot of lines here that, in retrospect, seem to be Kendrick telling Drake what a real “Rich Spirit” is. For example: "Takin' my baby to school, then I pray for her." This is something Kendrick directly attacks Drake for in his diss tracks. "And celebrity do not mean integrity, you fool." Kendrick is saying that celebrity does not equal integrity. He also uses this same angle in his diss tracks later on. "Stop playin' with me 'fore I turn you to a song (Yeah) Stop playin' with me 'fore I turn you to a song (Ooh)." This is pretty obvious. Kendrick is telling Drake to stop playing with him before he turns him into a song (diss track) like he did with "Not Like Us." Here’s where I think it gets even more obvious: "Ayy, clout chasing hell of a disease, brother I'm fasting four days out the week, brother I pray to God that you realize the entourage is dead I pray to God that you not lackin' when you off the meds I pray to God she knows them Cabo trips don't last forever Bet she argues with her momma, go and get them kids." Everything Kendrick says here is exactly what he says to Drake in his diss tracks. He mentions meds, his entourage is against him, calls him out for his trips to islands, and calls him a clout chaser. This is clearly referencing Drake. These lines directly reference J Prince, like he does in "Euphoria": "I pray to God you actually pray when somebody dies Thoughts and prayers, way better off timelines False claimin' not cute, I'm mortified The new Earth in hot pursuit, two-hundred lives." He says the exact same thing to J Prince in "Euphoria." He also says: “I would never live my life on the computer IG'll get you life for a chikabooya More power to ya, love 'em from a distance Why you always in the mirror more than the bitches?” Drake is known for his antics online and Instagram captions/Internet culture. This one’s also pretty obvious. Honestly, Nevermind https://preview.redd.it/hhptm12nbp1d1.png?width=300&format=png&auto=webp&s=87ccec540b1538faa76f59c155994690808250cc Drake responds to Kendrick on his album "Honestly, Nevermind." What’s important to realize here is that this album dropped on Kendrick’s birthday. The entire album is club-inspired music and was something people did not expect, and he dropped it on Kendrick’s birthday on purpose. It was to showcase to Kendrick that he can make music that Kendrick couldn’t. The entire album is club-inspired music except for the last track “Sticky” with 21 Savage. On this track, Drake states: "Couple hits, now you brave, boy You n**** better behave (What) All that pumpin' up your chest (What) All that talk about the best (What) You know how sticky it gets." He’s telling Kendrick to behave and stop talking about how he’s the best like he did on "Family Ties." Now what’s very interesting is that Kendrick & Baby Keem directly respond to this track on "The Hillbillies." I don’t think people realize that "The Hillbillies" is a direct response to this. But before The Hillbillies was the "America Has a Problem" remix with Beyoncé. This entire verse is clearly a Drake diss. America Has a Problem Remix https://preview.redd.it/41ncfnysbp1d1.png?width=300&format=png&auto=webp&s=4f1ba1948e5a70de84ac6b88fea298655a8ab95f "Geeked up, choosy love, well, they chose violence Universal, please don't play possum I'm a businessman doin' as follows Truthfully, I be lyin' in my rap song 'Cause I always fail to mention I'd slap homie His career didn't come with no life insurance Hope his day-one fans got some facts on him." He calls out Universal (UMG), saying he’s just a businessman doing as he chooses. He states that he’s lying in songs because he fails to mention he’ll slap somebody. He states that this person's career didn’t come with life insurance and hopes his day-one fans have some facts on him. He’s clearly referring to Drake here. "Them diamonds don't be fly, they all CGI You better get it off your chest like breast reduction If she stressed over you, she stressed for nothin'." In these lines, he calls Drake's diamonds fake and states that Drake should get it off his chest like breast reduction. He’s mocking his surgery yet again. Then the “if she stressed over you, she stressed for nothing” is a subliminal towards Drake’s latest album before this track, "Her Loss," stating that it’s not her loss since if she’s stressed over Drake, she isn’t stressed for anything. Next, he says: "Even AI gotta practice clonin' Kendrick The double entendre, the encore remnants I bop like ten men, the opps need ten men." During the time when this track came out, there was AI Drake music blowing up. Kendrick is saying that even AI needs to practice to clone him, using a double entendre to imply he’s unmatched. He is saying the opps “need ten men” aka the ghostwriters, he is calling Drake easily replaceable. Now onto The Hillbillies. The Hillbillies https://preview.redd.it/5ugsqc2wbp1d1.png?width=300&format=png&auto=webp&s=fac50b242aec856fea19f304ff08264c94d460c9 "The Hillbillies" was released on May 30, 2023. The entire track is completely different from the music that Kendrick normally makes. It’s a track where he’s flexing, and it’s over a club-inspired beat and flow. Baby Keem even called it a “Sticky” remix. So this track is basically Kendrick saying that he can do what Drake did on "Honestly, Nevermind," but better. First, let’s look at the title of the track. It is called “The Hillbillies.” On "Sticky," Drake says that he’s: "King of the hill, you know it's a steep one." Drake calls himself the king of the hill, Kendrick & Keem call themselves the Hillbillies, you get it. Now let’s look at some lines in the track: "Messi, get them girls off the stage, 'cause somebody's gonna get taken Somebody's gonna invade on a one-on-one conversation I'm ducked off from the world, I'm immersed in the PlayStation." This is a direct response to "Sticky" when Drake says: "Ayo Eric, bring them girls to the stage 'Cause somebody's getting paid." Throughout this entire track, Kendrick and Keem are mocking Drake and his flow on "Sticky," showcasing they can do anything he can do and better. They’re rapping about the things he’ll rap about. Also what I find interesting about the music video is that they have Tyler in it and announce that they will be headlining Camp Flog Gnaw in the video, where Drake famously got booed off stage. Could be a reach but still. In July a month after this track, Drake on stage during his tour said “he is not like those rappers who disappear for 4 or 5 years”. So another subliminal towards Kendrick. Meltdown https://preview.redd.it/spcuz8zybp1d1.png?width=300&format=png&auto=webp&s=8d636950b1706368297a514c110e1a4351f06ded Drake responds to the disses on "Meltdown," which was released two months later on Travis Scott’s album. While this verse is mainly about Kanye/Pusha, I also think it can relate to Kendrick as well. "I love to fuck on a regular bitch Famous hoes lame, but they stay on my dick Heard your new joint, it's embarrassing, shit." On "Hillbillies," Kendrick/Keem rap about wanting a regular girl instead of a famous girl, and on "Meltdown," Drake says the same thing, also calling their new stuff embarrassing. "Your bodyguard put in some work on a fluke Now you wanna go and inherit that shit Don't talk to the boy 'bout comparisons, shit Or come to the boy on some arrogant shit." More bodyguards talk, and he’s telling people not to compare him to anybody. We all know who he really means. “I melt down the chains that I bought from yo' boss Give a fuck about all of that heritage shit.” Kendrick directly responds to this, saying he inherited the beef from Pharrell since Drake was disrespecting him. Now here’s where I think it gets obvious. On the second verse, Travis says: "The boy going Lionel Messi, I go Tom Brady (Woo)." In the track "The Hillbillies," Keem is calling Kendrick Messi and himself Neymar. Now in this track, which comes out two months later, Drake is comparing himself to Messi. Also he says in this song "You act like you love this American shit, but really the truth is you scared of the 6" which could be a response to the title "America Has a Problem", this might be a reach though. First Person Shooter https://preview.redd.it/emn9lgd2cp1d1.png?width=300&format=png&auto=webp&s=fc52eeee5b1834f392c657c306dff32dab17746a After "Meltdown," we get "First Person Shooter," which we all know ignited this beef even further. I have a theory about this track, though. I believe that Drake originally sent Kendrick the track to hop on, but Kendrick denied the feature request. I think the original "First Person Shooter" was going to feature Drake, Cole, and Kendrick rapping over the first beat of the song. I believe the beat switch was made after Kendrick denied the feature request, and Drake added it later. This is why Kendrick says on his diss tracks: "Surprised you sent that feature request, you know we got some shit to address" and "Did Cole foul, I don’t know why you still pretending." Drake wanted to squash the subliminal beef he had with Kendrick with the feature request, and when Kendrick denied it, he thought it was real beef. Look at the second half of "FPS": "My youngins richer than you rappers and they all stream I really hate that you been sellin' them some false dreams Man, if your pub was up for sale, I buy the whole thing Will they ever give me flowers? Well, of course not They don't wanna have that talk, 'cause it's a sore spot They know The Boy, the one they gotta boycott I told Jimmy Jam I use a GRAMMY as a door stop." Drake gets way more aggressive in the second half of the track and states that Kendrick is selling people false dreams, he is broke, they won't give him his flowers, he is at the top, and that he doesn't care about GRAMMYs (which is what Drake mocks Kendrick for in "Family Matters"). Then he says: "What the fuck, bro? I'm one away from Michael N***, beat it, n****, beat it, what?" He compares himself to Michael Jackson and even says he will beat his record, which Kendrick directly responds to in "Like That." At the end of the track, Drake says: "Don't even pay me back on none of them favors, I don't need it." We know that Drake feels like he put on Kendrick and that Kendrick would be nowhere without him, so he rubs that in his face. This verse is where I think Kendrick really took it as a threat rather than just the big three line. That was a part of it, but I think this is what really set Kendrick off. Also interestingly in this video Drake recreates the Messi/Ronaldo picture with J. Cole and compares himself to Messi AGAIN. Another thing, in the second verse Drake says: “I click the trigger on the stick like a high beam” So in Like That when Kendrick says “if he walk around with that stick, it ain’t Andre 3k” it could be reffering to this line as well since that track is a direct response to this song. At first most people thought the stick line was about Cole but we know Kendrick calls out Drake for acting tough later on, so it could be a response to this line as well. Red Button https://preview.redd.it/y8zhrmr5cp1d1.png?width=300&format=png&auto=webp&s=6d40f3c901c2afecd20743066c736c3f29e2a6ba A month after this track, Drake releases “Red Button” on "Scary Hours 3," and I also think this is about Kendrick Lamar (and Kanye, but we are focusing on Dot here). This entire track, Drake is warning people that if he presses his red button, it will be over for certain people. This red button thing obviously refers to Kendrick since during their diss tracks, Drake was constantly talking about pushing the red button and posting images of red buttons. “N**** think it's sweet, but I am not a diabetic patient No, I will start blackin' over here like it's segregation I will fuckin' double-cross you n**** like it's meditation I'll give you a hard pill to swallow, this your medication I will fuckin' pop up on your ass like a revelation I could tell you better than I show you, this a demonstration I will fuckin' leave you in the dirt like some vegetation Chemicals is mixin' in my brain and killin' hesitation I will fuckin' force a few shots like a vaccination I'll get to you ten years from now like procrastination I'll fuckin' find out wherever y'all are celebratin' Pull up, park my Phantom on the curb like I'm Larry David And then we'll see who's really crazy” I have a feeling this is about Kendrick specifically based on the words he’s choosing to talk about, like segregation and procrastination. Things that he makes fun of Kendrick for in his latest disses. After this we know what happens, Kendrick responds on Like That and the beef really ignites with the diss tracks coming out. |
2024.05.21 03:13 Beautiful-Strategy88 Was I right to cut off my mom's sisters for being verbally abusive?
I stopped speaking to my aunts. Is it worth repairing the relationship?
My (23F) mother (59F) has been sick with a chronic illness since I was 12 years old. Her sickness has caused a lot of tension with me and her two older sisters, (not sure of their ages but definitely 60's). Even before her diagnosis, my mom's oldest sister took me out to lunch when I was 13 and called me a bitch because she told me my father (my parents are divorced) brainwashed me into hating her (they never got along). I know it sounds pretty one sided, that's because it is. I've been nothing short of kind, friendly, and welcoming at every family event. They truly believe my father has completely brainwashed me into hating them. News flash, he didn't, but now I hate them on my own terms.
After college, I moved back in with my mom while I tried to find a job. It took me several months, but I ended up getting a job in the same field that my mother used to work in. In the months of my job search, they used to call my mom and tell her how lazy I was and ask her if it bothered her that I didn't have a job. It's consistently been small jabs like that that have led me to making the decision to cut them off.
I'm an only child. My mother and I bicker sometimes, but we love each other very much. Think Lorelai and Rory Gilmore. Because of her sickness when I lived at home with her, I cooked and cleaned and helped her dress on the days where she struggled.
One day she and I began to bicker, and I decided to take a step back from the situation and spend the night at my boyfriend house. I came back and my mom called her sister, and told me to speak to her. Her sister told me that I was a horrible person who deserved every horrible thing that ever happened to me, and that I abuse my mother when we bicker. Then proceeded to tell me that I had 24 hours to stop behaving like that or I would be kicked out of my own home. I was so shocked that she spoke to me that way that I bit my tongue and said I understood. I have never ever been spoken to like that and to be called an abuser to the person I love most in the world absolutely shattered me. I still haven't fully comeback from that.
I decided in that moment, I didn't deserve that kind of treatment anymore and that I would be cutting them off. My mother would be moving into a nursing home, and they would be financially supporting her move. I knew this would make my situation more complicated considering I'm very involved in my mother's life, and so are they. I just can't take anymore of verbal abuse. I am so tired of crying and feeling worthless because of the ways they've torn me down over the years. I spoke with my therapist and talked to my friends, and I feel like cutting them off is the best decision that I could make for my own mental sanity at this point.
I've moved into my own apartment that I pay for with no ties to them. I intended for them to have my address, but my mom told them where I live. My mom also believes that I can reconcile with them and that cutting them off is dramatic. Today, I logged into my streaming services on my TV to find that they had intentionally deleted my profiles off of all of my mother's streaming services. It feels so petty to me that these 60 year old women are going out of their way to delete my profiles just because I'm not speaking to them. I know that this makes family events more complicated. I feel horrible. I just can't take any more of their behavior towards me anymore. I don't feel like I can win. I can either speak with them and fake smile and endorse their name calling tendencies, or I can keep them cut off and make family gatherings difficult. I have no siblings, so the weight of this feels really heavy on me.
Do you think I should continue to keep them cut off? Do I try to reconcile?
TLDR: my mom's older sisters hate me and have been calling me names, so I cut them off. Should I try to reconcile?
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My (23F) mother (59F) has been sick with a chronic illness since I was 12 years old. Her sickness has caused a lot of tension with me and her two older sisters, (not sure of their ages but definitely 60's). Even before her diagnosis, my mom's oldest sister took me out to lunch when I was 13 and called me a bitch because she told me my father (my parents are divorced) brainwashed me into hating her (they never got along). I know it sounds pretty one sided, that's because it is. I've been nothing short of kind, friendly, and welcoming at every family event. They truly believe my father has completely brainwashed me into hating them. News flash, he didn't, but now I hate them on my own terms.
After college, I moved back in with my mom while I tried to find a job. It took me several months, but I ended up getting a job in the same field that my mother used to work in. In the months of my job search, they used to call my mom and tell her how lazy I was and ask her if it bothered her that I didn't have a job. It's consistently been small jabs like that that have led me to making the decision to cut them off.
I'm an only child. My mother and I bicker sometimes, but we love each other very much. Think Lorelai and Rory Gilmore. Because of her sickness when I lived at home with her, I cooked and cleaned and helped her dress on the days where she struggled.
One day she and I began to bicker, and I decided to take a step back from the situation and spend the night at my boyfriend house. I came back and my mom called her sister, and told me to speak to her. Her sister told me that I was a horrible person who deserved every horrible thing that ever happened to me, and that I abuse my mother when we bicker. Then proceeded to tell me that I had 24 hours to stop behaving like that or I would be kicked out of my own home. I was so shocked that she spoke to me that way that I bit my tongue and said I understood. I have never ever been spoken to like that and to be called an abuser to the person I love most in the world absolutely shattered me. I still haven't fully comeback from that.
I decided in that moment, I didn't deserve that kind of treatment anymore and that I would be cutting them off. My mother would be moving into a nursing home, and they would be financially supporting her move. I knew this would make my situation more complicated considering I'm very involved in my mother's life, and so are they. I just can't take anymore of verbal abuse. I am so tired of crying and feeling worthless because of the ways they've torn me down over the years. I spoke with my therapist and talked to my friends, and I feel like cutting them off is the best decision that I could make for my own mental sanity at this point.
I've moved into my own apartment that I pay for with no ties to them. I intended for them to have my address, but my mom told them where I live. My mom also believes that I can reconcile with them and that cutting them off is dramatic. Today, I logged into my streaming services on my TV to find that they had intentionally deleted my profiles off of all of my mother's streaming services. It feels so petty to me that these 60 year old women are going out of their way to delete my profiles just because I'm not speaking to them. I know that this makes family events more complicated. I feel horrible. I just can't take any more of their behavior towards me anymore. I don't feel like I can win. I can either speak with them and fake smile and endorse their name calling tendencies, or I can keep them cut off and make family gatherings difficult. I have no siblings, so the weight of this feels really heavy on me.
Do you think I should continue to keep them cut off? Do I try to reconcile?
TLDR: my mom's older sisters hate me and have been calling me names, so I cut them off. Should I try to reconcile?
2024.05.21 03:08 Beautiful-Strategy88 Was I right to cut off my mom's sisters for being verbally abusive?
I stopped speaking to my aunts. Is it worth repairing the relationship?
My (23F) mother (59F) has been sick with a chronic illness since I was 12 years old. Her sickness has caused a lot of tension with me and her two older sisters, (not sure of their ages but definitely 60's). Even before her diagnosis, my mom's oldest sister took me out to lunch when I was 13 and called me a bitch because she told me my father (my parents are divorced) brainwashed me into hating her (they never got along). I know it sounds pretty one sided, that's because it is. I've been nothing short of kind, friendly, and welcoming at every family event. They truly believe my father has completely brainwashed me into hating them. News flash, he didn't, but now I hate them on my own terms.
After college, I moved back in with my mom while I tried to find a job. It took me several months, but I ended up getting a job in the same field that my mother used to work in. In the months of my job search, they used to call my mom and tell her how lazy I was and ask her if it bothered her that I didn't have a job. It's consistently been small jabs like that that have led me to making the decision to cut them off.
I'm an only child. My mother and I bicker sometimes, but we love each other very much. Think Lorelai and Rory Gilmore. Because of her sickness when I lived at home with her, I cooked and cleaned and helped her dress on the days where she struggled.
One day she and I began to bicker, and I decided to take a step back from the situation and spend the night at my boyfriend house. I came back and my mom called her sister, and told me to speak to her. Her sister told me that I was a horrible person who deserved every horrible thing that ever happened to me, and that I abuse my mother when we bicker. Then proceeded to tell me that I had 24 hours to stop behaving like that or I would be kicked out of my own home. I was so shocked that she spoke to me that way that I bit my tongue and said I understood. I have never ever been spoken to like that and to be called an abuser to the person I love most in the world absolutely shattered me. I still haven't fully comeback from that.
I decided in that moment, I didn't deserve that kind of treatment anymore and that I would be cutting them off. My mother would be moving into a nursing home, and they would be financially supporting her move. I knew this would make my situation more complicated considering I'm very involved in my mother's life, and so are they. I just can't take anymore of verbal abuse. I am so tired of crying and feeling worthless because of the ways they've torn me down over the years. I spoke with my therapist and talked to my friends, and I feel like cutting them off is the best decision that I could make for my own mental sanity at this point.
I've moved into my own apartment that I pay for with no ties to them. I intended for them to have my address, but my mom told them where I live. My mom also believes that I can reconcile with them and that cutting them off is dramatic. Today, I logged into my streaming services on my TV to find that they had intentionally deleted my profiles off of all of my mother's streaming services. It feels so petty to me that these 60 year old women are going out of their way to delete my profiles just because I'm not speaking to them. I know that this makes family events, more complicated. I feel horrible, but it stresses my mother out. I just can't take any more of their behavior towards me anymore. I don't feel like I can win. I can either speak with them and fake smile and endorse their name calling tendencies, or I can keep them cut off and make family gatherings difficult. I have no siblings, so the weight of this feels really heavy on me.
Do you think I should continue to keep them cut off? Do I try to reconcile?
TLDR: my mom's older sisters hate me and have been calling me names, so I cut them off. Should I try to reconcile?
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My (23F) mother (59F) has been sick with a chronic illness since I was 12 years old. Her sickness has caused a lot of tension with me and her two older sisters, (not sure of their ages but definitely 60's). Even before her diagnosis, my mom's oldest sister took me out to lunch when I was 13 and called me a bitch because she told me my father (my parents are divorced) brainwashed me into hating her (they never got along). I know it sounds pretty one sided, that's because it is. I've been nothing short of kind, friendly, and welcoming at every family event. They truly believe my father has completely brainwashed me into hating them. News flash, he didn't, but now I hate them on my own terms.
After college, I moved back in with my mom while I tried to find a job. It took me several months, but I ended up getting a job in the same field that my mother used to work in. In the months of my job search, they used to call my mom and tell her how lazy I was and ask her if it bothered her that I didn't have a job. It's consistently been small jabs like that that have led me to making the decision to cut them off.
I'm an only child. My mother and I bicker sometimes, but we love each other very much. Think Lorelai and Rory Gilmore. Because of her sickness when I lived at home with her, I cooked and cleaned and helped her dress on the days where she struggled.
One day she and I began to bicker, and I decided to take a step back from the situation and spend the night at my boyfriend house. I came back and my mom called her sister, and told me to speak to her. Her sister told me that I was a horrible person who deserved every horrible thing that ever happened to me, and that I abuse my mother when we bicker. Then proceeded to tell me that I had 24 hours to stop behaving like that or I would be kicked out of my own home. I was so shocked that she spoke to me that way that I bit my tongue and said I understood. I have never ever been spoken to like that and to be called an abuser to the person I love most in the world absolutely shattered me. I still haven't fully comeback from that.
I decided in that moment, I didn't deserve that kind of treatment anymore and that I would be cutting them off. My mother would be moving into a nursing home, and they would be financially supporting her move. I knew this would make my situation more complicated considering I'm very involved in my mother's life, and so are they. I just can't take anymore of verbal abuse. I am so tired of crying and feeling worthless because of the ways they've torn me down over the years. I spoke with my therapist and talked to my friends, and I feel like cutting them off is the best decision that I could make for my own mental sanity at this point.
I've moved into my own apartment that I pay for with no ties to them. I intended for them to have my address, but my mom told them where I live. My mom also believes that I can reconcile with them and that cutting them off is dramatic. Today, I logged into my streaming services on my TV to find that they had intentionally deleted my profiles off of all of my mother's streaming services. It feels so petty to me that these 60 year old women are going out of their way to delete my profiles just because I'm not speaking to them. I know that this makes family events, more complicated. I feel horrible, but it stresses my mother out. I just can't take any more of their behavior towards me anymore. I don't feel like I can win. I can either speak with them and fake smile and endorse their name calling tendencies, or I can keep them cut off and make family gatherings difficult. I have no siblings, so the weight of this feels really heavy on me.
Do you think I should continue to keep them cut off? Do I try to reconcile?
TLDR: my mom's older sisters hate me and have been calling me names, so I cut them off. Should I try to reconcile?
2024.05.21 02:52 Beautiful-Strategy88 I stopped speaking to my aunts. Is it worth repairing the relationship?
My (23F) mother (59F) has been sick with a chronic illness since I was 12 years old. Her sickness has caused a lot of tension with me and her two older sisters, (not sure of their ages but definitely 60's). Even before her diagnosis, my mom's oldest sister took me out to lunch when I was 13 and called me a bitch because she told me my father (my parents are divorced) brainwashed me into hating her (they never got along). I know it sounds pretty one sided, that's because it is. I've been nothing short of kind, friendly, and welcoming at every family event. They truly believe my father has completely brainwashed me into hating them. News flash, he didn't, but now I hate them on my own terms.
After college, I moved back in with my mom while I tried to find a job. It took me several months, but I ended up getting a job in the same field that my mother used to work in. In the months of my job search, they used to call my mom and tell her how lazy I was and ask her if it bothered her that I didn't have a job. It's consistently been small jabs like that that have led me to making the decision to cut them off.
I'm an only child. My mother and I bicker sometimes, but we love each other very much. Think Lorelai and Rory Gilmore. Because of her sickness when I lived at home with her, I cooked and cleaned and helped her dress on the days where she struggled.
One day she and I began to bicker, and I decided to take a step back from the situation and spend the night at my boyfriend house. I came back and my mom called her sister, and told me to speak to her. Her sister told me that I was a horrible person who deserved every horrible thing that ever happened to me, and that I abuse my mother when we bicker. Then proceeded to tell me that I had 24 hours to stop behaving like that or I would be kicked out of my own home. I was so shocked that she spoke to me that way that I bit my tongue and said I understood. I have never ever been spoken to like that and to be called an abuser to the person I love most in the world absolutely shattered me. I still haven't fully comeback from that.
I decided in that moment, I didn't deserve that kind of treatment anymore and that I would be cutting them off. My mother would be moving into a nursing home, and they would be financially supporting her move. I knew this would make my situation more complicated considering I'm very involved in my mother's life, and so are they. I just can't take anymore of verbal abuse. I am so tired of crying and feeling worthless because of the ways they've torn me down over the years. I spoke with my therapist and talked to my friends, and I feel like cutting them off is the best decision that I could make for my own mental sanity at this point.
I've moved into my own apartment that I pay for with no ties to them. I intended for them not to have my address, but my mom told them where I live. My mom also believes that I can reconcile with them and that cutting them off is dramatic. Today, I logged into my streaming services on my TV to find that they had intentionally deleted my profiles off of all of my mother's streaming services. It feels so petty to me that these 60 year old women are going out of their way to delete my profiles just because I'm not speaking to them. I know that this makes family events more complicated. I feel horrible. I just can't take any more of their behavior towards me anymore. I don't feel like I can win. I can either speak with them and fake smile and endorse their name calling tendencies, or I can keep them cut off and make family gatherings difficult. I have no siblings, so the weight of this feels really heavy on me.
Do you think I should continue to keep them cut off? Do I try to reconcile?
TLDR: my mom's older sisters hate me and have been calling me names, so I cut them off. Should I try to reconcile?
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After college, I moved back in with my mom while I tried to find a job. It took me several months, but I ended up getting a job in the same field that my mother used to work in. In the months of my job search, they used to call my mom and tell her how lazy I was and ask her if it bothered her that I didn't have a job. It's consistently been small jabs like that that have led me to making the decision to cut them off.
I'm an only child. My mother and I bicker sometimes, but we love each other very much. Think Lorelai and Rory Gilmore. Because of her sickness when I lived at home with her, I cooked and cleaned and helped her dress on the days where she struggled.
One day she and I began to bicker, and I decided to take a step back from the situation and spend the night at my boyfriend house. I came back and my mom called her sister, and told me to speak to her. Her sister told me that I was a horrible person who deserved every horrible thing that ever happened to me, and that I abuse my mother when we bicker. Then proceeded to tell me that I had 24 hours to stop behaving like that or I would be kicked out of my own home. I was so shocked that she spoke to me that way that I bit my tongue and said I understood. I have never ever been spoken to like that and to be called an abuser to the person I love most in the world absolutely shattered me. I still haven't fully comeback from that.
I decided in that moment, I didn't deserve that kind of treatment anymore and that I would be cutting them off. My mother would be moving into a nursing home, and they would be financially supporting her move. I knew this would make my situation more complicated considering I'm very involved in my mother's life, and so are they. I just can't take anymore of verbal abuse. I am so tired of crying and feeling worthless because of the ways they've torn me down over the years. I spoke with my therapist and talked to my friends, and I feel like cutting them off is the best decision that I could make for my own mental sanity at this point.
I've moved into my own apartment that I pay for with no ties to them. I intended for them not to have my address, but my mom told them where I live. My mom also believes that I can reconcile with them and that cutting them off is dramatic. Today, I logged into my streaming services on my TV to find that they had intentionally deleted my profiles off of all of my mother's streaming services. It feels so petty to me that these 60 year old women are going out of their way to delete my profiles just because I'm not speaking to them. I know that this makes family events more complicated. I feel horrible. I just can't take any more of their behavior towards me anymore. I don't feel like I can win. I can either speak with them and fake smile and endorse their name calling tendencies, or I can keep them cut off and make family gatherings difficult. I have no siblings, so the weight of this feels really heavy on me.
Do you think I should continue to keep them cut off? Do I try to reconcile?
TLDR: my mom's older sisters hate me and have been calling me names, so I cut them off. Should I try to reconcile?
2024.05.21 01:44 Oswald612 anyone see this?
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2024.05.21 01:16 abjinternational Fans speculate that JoJo Siwa is faking being drunk at Disney World after turning 21, despite accusations.
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2024.05.21 01:03 Anoldenglishchurch I Fear It Will Never End!!!
The big bad just won’t stop being a C U Next Tuesday! He just wants to drag this on and on and all he wants is the confrontation and it makes me sick! I feel like I will never be rid of him and that thought makes me want to die- he still makes me want to die!
There was a single typo in our documents which basically changed the meaning to our whole document- it made it seem like we were saying our whole claim was irrelevant- which is absolutely not what we were saying and he knows it- and if he had actual legal representation and wasn't trying to pull a Ted Bundy and have his five minutes of narcissistic fame infront of a judge and jury- his solicitor would have said "Yep no problem just send over the amended version" AS IT WAS LITERALLY A TWO WORD TYPO! TWO WORDS!!!!!
BUT NO, the bastard is like- "Ha good luck with that one- make an application with the court as I'm not accepting it!"
It honestly just all feels like one big waste of time- not that I care he's only incurring more costs for himself but the longer this drags on the more I just want to cliff jump onto some nice soft rocks. the Judge who ordered this is just postponing the inevitable and only did this because the dick has no legal representation and refuses to find any.
Anyway- we've made are case as to why his 98 page spiel is irrelevant to the case and now he has to respond and say why it IS relevant... but me, my mum and our solicitor know thats not what he'll do- rather he will just go on long rants in response to every single one of our comments and just slander me and my mum further saying "Oh well this just shows what kind of people they are if they don't think this is relevant-" LIKE NO DICK HEAD- YOU CLAIMED 10K FOR 'LOSS OF LIBERTY & PAIN & SUFFERING' BECAUSE YOU GOT ARRESTED BECAUSE YOUR A C**T!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
It's at time like this my brain starts playing 'The Rains of Castamere' and me, my mum, my friends and lawyers are all stood atop a podium while a squad of archers pull back their bows and take aim at the stupid fourth born son of a bitch whos folly had led him to this- the point of his execution while all his accomplices are stood chained in wait for their turn on the block- its a sadistic thought but its how my brain copes with things like this- it starts dreaming up all the ways in which they could die in the vast variations of reality as of course I can't and obviously wouldn't be able to do anything in this reality.
God I just realised how incriminating this seems- I promise I am at least 80% normal- this is just how my brain processes these things. I'd rather imagine this and chuckle to myself in bed at night before sleeping peacefully than stay up all night thinking about how differently things could have been to the point I spiral and cry... So yeah I'll take the fake execution.
"A Lannister Always Pays Their Debts"
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There was a single typo in our documents which basically changed the meaning to our whole document- it made it seem like we were saying our whole claim was irrelevant- which is absolutely not what we were saying and he knows it- and if he had actual legal representation and wasn't trying to pull a Ted Bundy and have his five minutes of narcissistic fame infront of a judge and jury- his solicitor would have said "Yep no problem just send over the amended version" AS IT WAS LITERALLY A TWO WORD TYPO! TWO WORDS!!!!!
BUT NO, the bastard is like- "Ha good luck with that one- make an application with the court as I'm not accepting it!"
It honestly just all feels like one big waste of time- not that I care he's only incurring more costs for himself but the longer this drags on the more I just want to cliff jump onto some nice soft rocks. the Judge who ordered this is just postponing the inevitable and only did this because the dick has no legal representation and refuses to find any.
Anyway- we've made are case as to why his 98 page spiel is irrelevant to the case and now he has to respond and say why it IS relevant... but me, my mum and our solicitor know thats not what he'll do- rather he will just go on long rants in response to every single one of our comments and just slander me and my mum further saying "Oh well this just shows what kind of people they are if they don't think this is relevant-" LIKE NO DICK HEAD- YOU CLAIMED 10K FOR 'LOSS OF LIBERTY & PAIN & SUFFERING' BECAUSE YOU GOT ARRESTED BECAUSE YOUR A C**T!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
It's at time like this my brain starts playing 'The Rains of Castamere' and me, my mum, my friends and lawyers are all stood atop a podium while a squad of archers pull back their bows and take aim at the stupid fourth born son of a bitch whos folly had led him to this- the point of his execution while all his accomplices are stood chained in wait for their turn on the block- its a sadistic thought but its how my brain copes with things like this- it starts dreaming up all the ways in which they could die in the vast variations of reality as of course I can't and obviously wouldn't be able to do anything in this reality.
God I just realised how incriminating this seems- I promise I am at least 80% normal- this is just how my brain processes these things. I'd rather imagine this and chuckle to myself in bed at night before sleeping peacefully than stay up all night thinking about how differently things could have been to the point I spiral and cry... So yeah I'll take the fake execution.
"A Lannister Always Pays Their Debts"
2024.05.21 01:02 Head-Supermarket-278 Trying to get the Strength to leave
Some background, my husband and I have been married for a little over a year - together for longer. He has a son who is 4 and a half, I’ve been around since he was basically born. His son was the product of a casual relationship prior to us meeting. Together we have a child who is a year old. We also bought a house within the last year. A lot going on obviously.
I was very hands off with SK prior to us buying the house and moving in together. visitation was at my husbands parents house and I didn’t agree with some of what was happening as far SK went so I nacho’d even before we were married. It was just easier. My husband has never had an effective co-parenting relationship but it’s taken me a while to realize this. He is always the victim. Nothing is his fault. He is never wrong or to blame, his ex did this and that to him, his ex keeps the child from him, his ex is the problem etc. It’s a non stop competition of trying to buy SKs favor with gifts and adventures so he is growing up to be a very spoiled child who says things like “what else did you buy me” “when will you buy me something else”. My husband also has over the top expectations for anyone interacting with his child that they will put on a Disney level fake performance at all times, something I cannot maintain. My husband has gotten mad at his father for trying to “discipline” SS (aka tell him no once or twice) so I knew to tread lightly there. I am NOT allowed to discipline my SS.
The world revolves around my SS. Everything is about him, every conversation is geared back to being about him. Any time HCBM does something he worries about her motives for DAYS. When I got pregnant (accidentally) I started to have major concerns that my child would be second place to his first born and everyone basically said I was crazy well now she is here and this last year all we do is fight because sure enough she is second place. I realize he probably didn’t want to have a child with me and I also realize I should have probably ended it a long time ago but I was really trying to make it work for her. I didn’t want her growing up like my SS.
Let me explain my problem
My SS lives about 40 min away. My husband has his son every other weekend and twice through the week for dinner. On the days he has dinner with SS he manages to leave work on time to make it to these visits (those visits are not at our home they are just two hour visits). On dinner visit days obviously I am home alone with our daughter for dinner bath and bed. he gets home after our child is in bed. On the non dinner visit days he sometimes stays late so I am home alone with our child again and frequently he is home after she is asleep.
Every other weekend his son is here during which time he basically ignores our child. Every minute must be spent tending to SS, entertaining him, going on outings, etc. My child will literally be crying begging her father for a shred of attention. SS will push her out of the way, takes her toys from her etc. It is hard for me to watch. I am sure this is somewhat age related behavior but my husband doesn’t correct it and it sets me insane. So basically on my step son’s weekend my daughter is largely invisible. Occasionally they let her join in but rarely. I try to keep her out of the way as much as possible. During these weekends we also aren’t allowed to do any chores or projects around the house as that is not fun.
On the weekends my husband does not have my SS he has to work at least one of the two days. This means nothing gets done around the house and my child rarely sees her father. When he is around she clings to him.
Tonight we got into a huge fight because he decided to use his one free weekend day to take SS to a party. I tried to remind him he has two children and they both want to see him and he flipped out on me. I asked him if he can really say he spends equal time with them and he just lost it on me. Went on about how I told him months ago I don’t want to be nice to SS and it made him feel a certain way about me (literally never recall saying this, I give endlessly to SS but cannot but on the ridiculous performance my husband requires of people). Redditors does it sound like he spends equal time with them? I am basically a married single mother. I pay for everything for her. Do everything for her. I need the strength to leave but the thought of sharing custody of my daughter is too much for me. I know this won’t be good for her to see growing up. Someone please give me some advice or at least tell me im not crazy. If you read this thank you.
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I was very hands off with SK prior to us buying the house and moving in together. visitation was at my husbands parents house and I didn’t agree with some of what was happening as far SK went so I nacho’d even before we were married. It was just easier. My husband has never had an effective co-parenting relationship but it’s taken me a while to realize this. He is always the victim. Nothing is his fault. He is never wrong or to blame, his ex did this and that to him, his ex keeps the child from him, his ex is the problem etc. It’s a non stop competition of trying to buy SKs favor with gifts and adventures so he is growing up to be a very spoiled child who says things like “what else did you buy me” “when will you buy me something else”. My husband also has over the top expectations for anyone interacting with his child that they will put on a Disney level fake performance at all times, something I cannot maintain. My husband has gotten mad at his father for trying to “discipline” SS (aka tell him no once or twice) so I knew to tread lightly there. I am NOT allowed to discipline my SS.
The world revolves around my SS. Everything is about him, every conversation is geared back to being about him. Any time HCBM does something he worries about her motives for DAYS. When I got pregnant (accidentally) I started to have major concerns that my child would be second place to his first born and everyone basically said I was crazy well now she is here and this last year all we do is fight because sure enough she is second place. I realize he probably didn’t want to have a child with me and I also realize I should have probably ended it a long time ago but I was really trying to make it work for her. I didn’t want her growing up like my SS.
Let me explain my problem
My SS lives about 40 min away. My husband has his son every other weekend and twice through the week for dinner. On the days he has dinner with SS he manages to leave work on time to make it to these visits (those visits are not at our home they are just two hour visits). On dinner visit days obviously I am home alone with our daughter for dinner bath and bed. he gets home after our child is in bed. On the non dinner visit days he sometimes stays late so I am home alone with our child again and frequently he is home after she is asleep.
Every other weekend his son is here during which time he basically ignores our child. Every minute must be spent tending to SS, entertaining him, going on outings, etc. My child will literally be crying begging her father for a shred of attention. SS will push her out of the way, takes her toys from her etc. It is hard for me to watch. I am sure this is somewhat age related behavior but my husband doesn’t correct it and it sets me insane. So basically on my step son’s weekend my daughter is largely invisible. Occasionally they let her join in but rarely. I try to keep her out of the way as much as possible. During these weekends we also aren’t allowed to do any chores or projects around the house as that is not fun.
On the weekends my husband does not have my SS he has to work at least one of the two days. This means nothing gets done around the house and my child rarely sees her father. When he is around she clings to him.
Tonight we got into a huge fight because he decided to use his one free weekend day to take SS to a party. I tried to remind him he has two children and they both want to see him and he flipped out on me. I asked him if he can really say he spends equal time with them and he just lost it on me. Went on about how I told him months ago I don’t want to be nice to SS and it made him feel a certain way about me (literally never recall saying this, I give endlessly to SS but cannot but on the ridiculous performance my husband requires of people). Redditors does it sound like he spends equal time with them? I am basically a married single mother. I pay for everything for her. Do everything for her. I need the strength to leave but the thought of sharing custody of my daughter is too much for me. I know this won’t be good for her to see growing up. Someone please give me some advice or at least tell me im not crazy. If you read this thank you.
2024.05.21 00:51 l0stinsid3u Dad and I in OHIO for NIN
So the one thing dad and I always had in common was music. It was the only way we could see eye to eye sometimes. We’ve gotten better over the years, I was a bit of a raging bitch but make no mistake just bc I love him
This man is an ASSHOLE
HE KNOWS IT
And he knows I post about it lol
As I started to get older into my party phase he hit his midlife crisis at the same time so
This man started calling the radio station somehow befriended everyone
He was in the know in all the times and whatever I’m like who are you
He was gonna be famous I guess? Idk he had a brief stint with fame known locally as the “loratab zombie”
Anyways we went to see NIN a second time, this time in Ohio. My uncle couldn’t go so I had the extra ticket and I invited a friend we’ll call Doug *fake name
Doug s an old friend, married now great guy. Nothing weird with us but some of our best stories. Anyways he tagged along and we drove separately from my parents in a. Volvo I rented from work because Edward Cullen drove a Volvo
We get to the hotel and my dad’s already there with six rolling papers out and a huge ass bag of refer.
Doug looks at me and was like ur dads a legend and I’m like just wait it’s fun but also stressful
So from the hotel we rode with my parents.
My dad insists on driving while smoking a blunt even tho my mom Doug and I are all sober licensed drivers
He runs a left on red and my mom yelled at him and his responses was
“It’s okay I can do that I’m stoned”
So we get there and this motherfucker thinks he gonna just walk in with the remaining blunts
Fortunately for him I stepped in and I’m like listen you can’t just do this shit like the 80s
So I put them in my box of tampons and we had a fantastic evening
Afterwards we went for food I went outside for a smoke, doug had gone out a few minutes before me and I couldn’t find him
I go back to my parents and I’m like idk he probablly talking to strangers he does that
All of a sudden he comes running into the restaurant and he’s like
We have to go, I was talking to that chick and didn’t realize her husband was getting her a drink and he is fuckin pissed we have to go it’s not good
So we left the Mexican food and got pizza
Thanks doug you fucking douchebag
This is the same dude who crashed into a girls car and also got a date from her while exchanging information.
Fuckin wild night lmaoooo
So we all crash on the floor of one hotel room and leave early the next day
Doug slept and I was bored on the long drive so I was thinking about twilight in the Volvo and next thing I know I’m getting pulled over going 115 in a 55
That was a fucked up fine and driving school
Anyways that’s the story about how I went to see nine inch nails with my parents and a friend and we snuck in blunts and had a fucking crazy night
With my adult parents
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This man is an ASSHOLE
HE KNOWS IT
And he knows I post about it lol
As I started to get older into my party phase he hit his midlife crisis at the same time so
This man started calling the radio station somehow befriended everyone
He was in the know in all the times and whatever I’m like who are you
He was gonna be famous I guess? Idk he had a brief stint with fame known locally as the “loratab zombie”
Anyways we went to see NIN a second time, this time in Ohio. My uncle couldn’t go so I had the extra ticket and I invited a friend we’ll call Doug *fake name
Doug s an old friend, married now great guy. Nothing weird with us but some of our best stories. Anyways he tagged along and we drove separately from my parents in a. Volvo I rented from work because Edward Cullen drove a Volvo
We get to the hotel and my dad’s already there with six rolling papers out and a huge ass bag of refer.
Doug looks at me and was like ur dads a legend and I’m like just wait it’s fun but also stressful
So from the hotel we rode with my parents.
My dad insists on driving while smoking a blunt even tho my mom Doug and I are all sober licensed drivers
He runs a left on red and my mom yelled at him and his responses was
“It’s okay I can do that I’m stoned”
So we get there and this motherfucker thinks he gonna just walk in with the remaining blunts
Fortunately for him I stepped in and I’m like listen you can’t just do this shit like the 80s
So I put them in my box of tampons and we had a fantastic evening
Afterwards we went for food I went outside for a smoke, doug had gone out a few minutes before me and I couldn’t find him
I go back to my parents and I’m like idk he probablly talking to strangers he does that
All of a sudden he comes running into the restaurant and he’s like
We have to go, I was talking to that chick and didn’t realize her husband was getting her a drink and he is fuckin pissed we have to go it’s not good
So we left the Mexican food and got pizza
Thanks doug you fucking douchebag
This is the same dude who crashed into a girls car and also got a date from her while exchanging information.
Fuckin wild night lmaoooo
So we all crash on the floor of one hotel room and leave early the next day
Doug slept and I was bored on the long drive so I was thinking about twilight in the Volvo and next thing I know I’m getting pulled over going 115 in a 55
That was a fucked up fine and driving school
Anyways that’s the story about how I went to see nine inch nails with my parents and a friend and we snuck in blunts and had a fucking crazy night
With my adult parents
2024.05.21 00:13 InverseNexarus 60+ Year Old DM does not charge his friends in Pay-to-Play campaign, insults the party for his amusement, and is probably a misogynist. Spoilers for Curse of Strahd.
 | Last Monday I posted a quick and dirty RPG horror story about a pay-to-play campaign. This will be a proper attempt at telling the whole story, from the alluring start to my bitter resignation. Spoilers ahead for the beginning portions of Curse of Strahd. Trigger Warning for bullying and mentions of self-harm. submitted by InverseNexarus to rpghorrorstories [link] [comments] Mondays and Tuesdays are my guaranteed days off, so that is when I am available to enjoy my TTRPG hobby. Typically I am involved in three or four campaigns a week as either a DM or a player. A year-long campaign I was running reached its finale in the middle of March. When that ended and the time slot opened up, I wanted to be a player for a while. So I started looking in all the usual places; Discord servers I am a part of, StartPlaying ads, LFG threads, and the Roll20 boards. I indiscriminately applied for free-to-play and pay-to-play games at 1 PM on Mondays and ultimately got invited to join a Curse of Strahd campaign. I’ve experienced good and bad games in both camps, so this story is not about bashing pay-to-play games. Being a DM requires time, effort, and availability; and I am willing to pay since free games are not typically hosted during that time slot. The DM hosting this Curse of Strahd campaign presented himself as a knowledgeable Grognard from the Gygaxian era. A retired man who ran D&D games to have fun and get a bit of spending money as a side hustle. He made promises that this campaign was going to be more than just an out-of-the-box 5th edition game. It would run the gambit of Ravenloft’s rich history taking elements from older editions and novels like ‘I Strahd: The Memoirs of a Vampire’. The game would be going from level 1 to 20, as defeating Strahd and escaping Barovia was just the beginning. He planned on the party visiting other domains of dread and dark places within the shadowfel. During a voice call interview, we spoke about table conduct, civility, respect, lines and veils, and all the things that sold me the idea he was a professional DM and cared about the integrity of his campaign. At no point did this grown-ass old man proclaim anything along the lines of, “This will be like playing D&D with two friends in a basement, and you’re the third wheel who buys our snacks”. If he had, I would not have signed up. We shall call him the Bantering DM for the rest of the story. Two weeks go by and the game fills with four players: My half-goblin moon druid named Olivia; an elf bladesinger wizard named Cayden; a purple tiefling lore bard named Eternal Cake; lastly the problem player Jormungandr the fallen-aasimar giant barbarian. We have session zero with everyone in the Discord voice channel. The Bantering DM goes over the same points from the interview and has us go around the table so that we can introduce ourselves, our characters, and the lines/veils we’d like to avoid. I don’t like witnessing instances of child abuse, Cayden does not like descriptions of spiders, Eternal Cake does not want the party to torture NPCs, and Jormungandr asks that we be patient with him as he has ADHD. I go above and beyond by making high-resolution character tokens for everyone. As we are chatting and filling out our character sheets, it is revealed that Eternal Cake and Jormungandr are longtime friends of the Bantering DM and are not paying for the sessions like Cayden and myself. Personally, I’d feel more comfortable if all the players either paid a fee or played for free, but I let it slide because everyone seemed nice at the time. https://preview.redd.it/er4ul1kgmn1d1.png?width=1129&format=png&auto=webp&s=e9a8df11e4c27d1a3f89f7fab8de05985bae6667 In session one, unfortunately, Eternal Cake was not able to join us so we had to puppet his purple tiefling. The Bantering DM uses the Creeping Mists introduction. Each of our characters was spirited to Barovia with whatever equipment we had on our person. Cayden and Jormungandr sounded mildly inconvenienced upon discovering that they were kidnapped by magical mist and then plopped into a dark forest. Meanwhile, Olivia was scared out of her mind and avoided the three strange men. She decided to climb a tree to find a road or landmarks. Survival checks were made, she discovered a road not too far away and heard the howling of wolves in the distance. Even though she did not trust these men, she motioned for them to follow her, hopefully, they’d be safe together. We were ambushed by three wolves on the road. During the surprise round, both Cayden and Eternal Cake were rendered unconscious. Pack tactics caused a critical hit on Cayden, the wolf’s bite attack damage was 13, meaning his wizard with 7 hit points was a single point away from instantly dying. Thankfully, I prepared healing spells for just such an occasion. It was at this point that I got to experience the Bantering DM and Jormungandr’s dynamic. DM: “At advantage from pack tactics, that is a 17 to hit.” Barb: “No that does not hit me.” DM: “Your token is linked to your sheet. You have 15 AC, my guy.” Barb: “What about with a shield? Ever think about that?” DM: “Even if you had a shield, that's 17, it meets it beats. But you're using a maul.” Barb: “Does Cake have silvery barbs? I demand a reroll.” DM: “Cake is unconscious.” Me: “Um, I will get him up when it is my turn. Can you drop it?” Barb: “Fine.” DM: “That is 7 piercing damage.” Barb: “7 bullshit damage! I have not even had a turn. I’m not raging so it is FULL!” Olivia played cautiously, healing the downed party members and using ranged cantrips. Jormungandr did big damage with his maul but complained and argued with the Bantering DM, extending each of his turns longer than they needed to be. Injured, but grateful to be alive, we travel down the muddy road. The party makes it to the village of Barovia. We wander the streets and eventually find the Blood of the Vine tavern. Cayden and Jormungandr do the majority of the talking, as Olivia is unsure if the villagers will be hostile or welcoming to a goblin like her. The Bantering DM laced the expositional dialog with a lot of profanity, personal attacks, and spitting on the floor. The barkeep explained that spitting was a Barovian custom, that if an evil thing is expressed one must spit quickly otherwise demons will possess the soul. The insults were primarily based on our characters' appearances. Cayden was called a knife-ear, short, girly man, hairless, and physically weak. Jormungandr was mocked for being stupid, a savage brute, and likely to get struck by lightning as he had a metal pauldron. Eternal Cake was spared as he was not at the session, though I imagine the Bantering DM had plenty to say about a purple devil man. The barkeep called Olivia an ugly greenskin, asked where the rest of her clothes were, if she was like goblins in fairytales that hide under children's beds to eat their toes, and that I may as well “get it over with as it will happen sooner or later”, implying that I should kill myself. When he said that, Olivia spat and glared at the man. Through that abuse, we learned the leader of the town recently died. His son Ismark was now in charge, but no one liked him. There was a cursed child with red hair named Ireena, taken in by the prior burgomaster. The ruler of this valley is called The Devil and he’s been sending monsters to torment the village recently. The priest of the local church had gone mad when his son died in a recent attack. Finally, there is a town further down the road called Vallaki. We rent a room and end the session with a milestone level up. After the game wrapped up, we were still in the voice call and I expressed a couple of concerns I had about the banter during combat. Saying that it made the fight drag on for longer. I also said that I could handle rude or unlikeable NPCs and that I understand Barovia is a bleak atmosphere, but I felt the barkeep overstepped into abusive language with his comments. The Bantering DM apologized, said that it was all just in character, and excused the innkeeper by saying he is scared, small-minded, and considered us a bad omen on top of recent terrible events. I chalked it up to adjusting to a new group. This will be the only time that the Bantering DM will apologize or engage with my concerns and criticisms. After this, he would ignore what I had to say. For session two Eternal Cake is unable to play again. The party woke up and left the inn. Immediately we are confronted by Ismark, he puffs himself up and banishes us from the town. Yelling for us to get out, that we were harming his people, we were unwelcome, and no merchant was legally allowed to trade with us. Then he stomped off unwilling to talk about whether or not we could help his people. Now, I’ve run Curse of Strahd before, I have meta-knowledge about things we can do in this village. There is content to explore, stuff to do, and ways to better the village. Some of which was hinted at by the barkeep last session. However, in character, Olivia was told to kill herself and a few hours later got banished. She does not belong here, she is not wanted, so the true neutral thing to do is leave. But in-character and out-of-character are very different beasts because I know that leaving would mean abandoning the story's most pivotal character Ireena. Jormungandr and Cayden both agree, well screw this town if everyone is going to be a jerk. I’m panicking, internally screaming, trying to come up with an in-character reason to force us to meet Ireena, but drawing a blank. Then as we are about one hundred paces outside of town, we hear a young woman calling out after us. It is Ireena. She is running after us, short of breath and begging us to stop for a second. She explains that we are the heroes of prophecy. Asking if she could travel with us to Vallaki. The way that Bantering DM is playing Ireena, makes me mad, as he is putting on a stereotypical airhead voice and making her sound dumb. Cayden and Jormungandr pick up on this and ask a few questions. Ireena explains that she was never allowed out of the house and that this is the furthest she’s been outside of the village. She found her dad's old breastplate and rapier, but she’d never used them before. That she’s never been in a fight. Later on, the Bantering DM would show this by having her routinely make dexterity saving throws in combat to not trip and fall prone. Describing her as swinging wildly and whenever she did hit an enemy made it sound like an accident. Nor does she seem to have any bonds with her village, or care to say goodbye to her brother. The biggest problem is never mentioned out loud, but through meta-knowledge I know that her father has not been buried yet. This means that the Bantering DM chose to cut the funeral from the module, or that it still needs to be done but Ireena does not care about laying her father to rest. We travel down the road and come to the gallows at the crossroads. It just so happens that Olivia sees the apparition of her own body dangling from the noose. She expresses sorrow and I hint at backstory trauma, calling the event “probably a bad memory of the last time I had a rope around my neck”. Then the Bantering DM performs the final part of Ireena’s character assassination. Ireena kneels down, looks Olivia in the eye, and says, “You must have gone mad”, then laughs at her. This is not Ireena, this is a careless fool with no empathy. I don’t know why the Bantering DM made these changes. Because he is sexist? To be funny? Is it because he considers the village portion of Barovia boring? Is he ignorant or malicious? I cannot answer these questions, nor will I pretend to be a mind reader. I am just laying out what he did. We continued to travel down the road, eventually meeting an old woman with a cart headed toward the village. Ireena seemed to know this woman, calling her Granny, and spoke louder to imply the older woman was hard of hearing. She greeted us and offered pies for sale. With meta-knowledge I know that this is Morgantha, a night hag who kills people and grinds their bones at her windmill aptly named Bonegrinder. But I would never act on this knowledge nor spoil the surprise for anyone else. Jormungandr then asked, “Are the pies made of people?”, without any suspicious behavior or provocation. Granny said ‘no, of course not’. But then Jormungandr started to question the old lady intensely. Why are you traveling all by yourself? Are you not scared of wolves? How big is this woman DM? Does she look like she has an arcane focus? Is there anything weird about her cart? Can I do an insight check to sense her motivations? He hardly even let the DM answer the damn question before firing off another one. So I break character and say. “Stop meta-gaming! Knock it off!” Confronting Jormungandr seemed to get him to stop, but this should be the job of the DM, especially one who laid out a list of table etiquette during session zero. Once we resumed, in character I ran defense for the hag. Saying that as a druid I could talk to animals and giving them food often lets them know you are friendly. Just because she is an old woman, does not mean she was incapable of taking care of herself. To which the hag agreed and gave me a free pie. After that, we got to the Vistani camp and Madame Eva’s fortune-telling. The cards we got were the best pulls I’ve ever seen, super thematic, and a great fated ally. The Sunsword would be at the beacon of Agronvostholt after we light it. The Tome is hidden in Baba Lysaga’s hut, makes sense that she’d keep her darling son's diary safe. The Holy Symbol is behind the sun at St. Markovia, so we have to confront a fallen angel to retrieve an amulet of faith. And we got the G.O.A.T. - Ezmerelda d'Avenir, we could run into her at a bunch of different places. All of this was meta-knowledge, of course, and unlike Jormungandr I did not intend to start demanding we go to these places to speedrun win D&D. We ended the session at that point, and once again we got a milestone level up. I left the voice call, took a few days to cool off, and then carefully wrote out a respectful message detailing my frustrations to the Bantering DM. Both about Jormungandr’s meta-gaming outburst during the hag interaction and how he chose to portray Ireena Kolyana. I explained that she was coming across as an unempathetic ditz. The way she was acting made it difficult for my character to like or trust her. Hammering on the points about the funeral as well as her mocking Olivia at the gallows. I wrote that I understand there are many ways the community around Curse of Strahd has characterized Ireena. Ranging from Palidoozy’s disney princess version to Dragnacarta’s complete rework of her character into an arc to recover her memories. Sometimes she is a damsel in distress, other times the light that Barovia desperately needs. I never got a response to my criticisms. Perhaps I was out of line? I did not want my comments to come across as backseat DMing. I never interrupted the flow of the session, waiting until afterward to try and communicate my concerns. I felt like my issues were tangible and explainable. I did consider leaving the game if things did not improve. In hindsight, I think that it was the insane fortune pulls that got me to stay. In the third session, Eternal Cake could play with us, but Cayden could not. Also, we got a new player added to the roster. A paladin named Paul. The party travels down the road until they come across a kidnapping in progress. Several men were tying up a young woman and stuffing her into a burlap sack. We charged in, and the DM puppeted Cayden. Paul was introduced in this fight. He emerged from the bushes and went after the bandits, ready to smite evil and save a damsel. Eternal Cake passed out inspiration like candy and used spells like bless and command. Jormungandr became a big angry boy and smashed his way through the bandits. Olivia got to show off her higher AC from taking a level dip into monk. Blowing everyone’s mind when I explained how these features stacked with wildshape. However, once again this combat brought out the worst in Bantering DM and Jormungandr. DM: “The bandit disengages and runs over here. Then he fires a crossbow at George-Munger.” Barb: “Jormungandr.” DM: “That is what I said, Gorge-Gander.” Barb: “Say my name right. Jormungandr.” DM: “Your Muh Ganger.” Barb: “George is my cat. He is a milk puddle. But I am not George.” Me: “Can we please keep combat going?” Barb: “No one asked you.” Me: “Whatever…” DM: “Anyway, a 13 misses your AC. Then it is this bandit’s turn. And he kills Jormungandr instantly.” Barb: “You haven't even rolled yet.” We manage to win the fight and have one enemy restrained in my entangle spell. During combat, we decided as a group to spare one of the kidnappers so that we could question him. Untying the young woman and pulling her from the sack. Then the girl casts produce flame and murders the bandit. Everyone is miffed, as it felt like the Bantering DM took away our opportunity to gain information. The girl explained that she was a Vistana named Arabella. Asking for us to guide her back to her camp, it is not far from Vallaki. We do so, and I don’t remember much of what happened during this session. I was upset about the bantering and that our group agency was taken away. I disassociated from the conversations but got the gist of it Like with Ismark and the barkeep, the Vistani people insulted us. They gave the party a cloak of protection as a reward for saving Arabella. The Bantering DM said that we should argue over who gets to wear it. The Vistani name-dropped Strahd and called themselves his allies. Telling us that we may as well give up any hope of escaping. He briefly mentions dusk elves also being in the camp. At one point, the Bantering DM realized I was not contributing to the conversation. So Arrigal asked if Olivia was for sale. I flatly said, “I am free, don’t ever say something like that to me again!” The lines between in and out-of-character blurred. When it was about ten minutes till, I wanted to do something else. I said that I would be interested in speaking with the dusk elves. The Bantering DM said, “They are prisoners and the Vistani told you to not bother them”. I asked if I could make a stealth check. He said, “There are like 300 Vistani in this camp and someone will spot you.” On the one hand, he did not make me roll for something I could not succeed in, but it still felt shitty to be told no it is impossible. We ended the session with a milestone level-up. I did not write the Bantering DM between sessions. I should not have returned for another game. Fourth session, Eternal Cake is once again missing in action. I had hoped that in this session everyone would be able to play and we could finally all get on the same page. We were also supposed to go into the town of Vallaki. However, once we started walking down the path a dusk elf appeared. She, yes a female dusk elf named Kassy-Mira no less, asked us to go to a haunted fort to find one of her sisters named Savida. My meta-knowledge goes into overload wondering what in the hell did this Bantering DM do. For those of you in the know, I am looking forward to responses and speculations in the comments section. Kassy-Mira explains that Savida is the keeper of their lore and history, an elven leader who must be recovered. I ask a couple of clarifying questions because at this point I have no idea what is going on. The elves are prisoners of the Vistani, yet a leader was able to escape? Why did no one else escape? Where is this fort? If the fort is haunted why would they flee there? Why are the dusk elves prisoners anyway? Did you escape Miss Kassy-Mira? Do the elves want to revolt against the Vistani? But I only got answers that the fort was to the west and that returning their leader was paramount. Then she rushed back to voluntarily go back into dusk elf prison, I guess. So instead of going to Vallaki like I was hoping, I guess we are going to the house of the silver dragon. My only theory is that the Bantering DM wanted us to get started on the questline to retrieve the skull, so he shoe-horned in a way for us to redirect to Argonvostholt. But in doing so he also revealed whatever he did to the dusk elf lore. I’m guessing he reversed the gender of the events before the campaign started. Which makes me wonder, did he gender-bend Rahadin too? We wander down the road and find the haunted mansion atop the muddy hill. Seeing the statue and for whatever reason we decide to check out the collapsed stables first. The rest of the session was a combat encounter against a dozen giant spiders. Two of the three hours were dedicated to this, mostly because the Bantering DM and Jormungandr took forever to keep the turns moving along. And they were particularly toxic during this combat because Jormungandr hated that his rage did not resist poison. I knew that once the session was over, I’d be writing up my farewell message. Every time it was my turn, I simply stated what actions I took and quickly did it. Elaborating if questioned on my abilities. DM: "Make a Con save against poison". Barb: "No, make me." DM: "Do it bitch." Barb: "Fine. 21." DM: "You failed." Barb: "It says DC 11 for spider DM." DM: "Yeah, well, fuck you." Me: “I use multiattack, bite, claw, bonus action unarmed strike. 21 to hit, for 7 piercing damage. 18 to hit, for 15 slashing damage. 24 to hit, for 5 bludgeoning damage.” Barb: “You can do three attacks? That is bullshit.” Me: “Brown Bear has multiattack, monk grants martial arts.” After the fight, we had just enough time to enter the mansion and find Savida. Olivia still had some spell slots, so I tended to her injuries. The Bantering DM said that the party would question her at the start of the next session. Once we ended the call, I wrote up a few things. First I left a message in the general chat thanking the players and wishing them well. I learned from Cayden later on that my farewell message was deleted by the DM. Then I wrote my final criticisms and sent them to the Bantering DM privately, letting him know I would not be returning. https://preview.redd.it/q3vodfhvln1d1.png?width=823&format=png&auto=webp&s=d9518097a06761bceec649228aa34b8d8b786165 https://preview.redd.it/kvj7l4u3mn1d1.png?width=1225&format=png&auto=webp&s=865388fc0d5c65ff64776196f6725de01c228049 The punchline to this joke of a campaign. A week later, today, Cayden tells me that the Bantering DM canceled the session because neither of his buddies showed up to play. Eternal Flake, Geogreinanger, and the Bantering DM, despite all my complaints I hope they continue to have fun. Maybe next time though, don’t play favorites and charge people for a “fun time in Grandpa’s basement”. https://preview.redd.it/vycv0uqsln1d1.png?width=1229&format=png&auto=webp&s=2c241b09728ebc29653e384dea90a24d770e7a0b |
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- --break-system-packages
- sudo rm a specific file as detailed in the stack overflow answer
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