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A porn addiction and compulsive sexual behavior recovery peer support forum. Masturbation in moderation is generally healthy, but excessive porn use can have serious adverse effects. We also host challenges in which participants ("Fapstronauts") avoid porn & sometimes masturbation for a period of time, generally 7-30 days. Whether your goal is casual participation as a test of self-control or if porn use has become a serious problem in your life, you will find a supportive community here.
2024.05.21 22:09 MarilynMonheaux The Narc Is The Poison
Today I’ve read quite a lot of posts about your pain. Your sadness. Your depression. You cannot sleep, you cannot think, your mind is flooded with rumination. You can’t focus on school, work, or anything that matters to you.
I understand your pain intimately. It brings tears to my eyes as I remember my own pain and endure the phantom pangs that still linger.
A bit of support and advice:
It’s the narcissist.
It is your love and your trauma bond that fuel the pain that you have right now.
The narcissist is the sickness in your body. The affection and love in your heart is breaking it over. And over. The more tightly you cling to the shared fantasy, the more you will hurt. It’s like you kissing a jellyfish. You picked it up because it’s pretty and squishy.
Now put it down because by nature it is literally killing you.
The narcissist IS spiritual death.
By wishing to get back with the narc, you’re killing yourself.
As you wait for that call, that text, that email, you are aging yourself.
As you boil and bubble up in low vibrations like jealousy and rage, the higher version of yourself is spiritually beating the lower version of yourself.
To love a narcissist is to squeeze on a Japanese double edged sword.
Don’t go out like a samurai.
Live for the future version of you.
When you go no contact AND let go of the hope of you and the narc finally and completely,
Those terrible symptoms will begin to fade.
The further away you get from the narc,
The more of your heart you reclaim For yourself,
The less pain will be there.
All your pain, anxiety, and despair comes from loving the narc.
The narc is poisonous.
You are the antidote.
Your precious supply fueled the narc and kept the narc from spiritual destruction.
You are the key. You are the energy source. You are the light.
When you realize it, you’ll find the freedom from the pain you’re in.
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I understand your pain intimately. It brings tears to my eyes as I remember my own pain and endure the phantom pangs that still linger.
A bit of support and advice:
It’s the narcissist.
It is your love and your trauma bond that fuel the pain that you have right now.
The narcissist is the sickness in your body. The affection and love in your heart is breaking it over. And over. The more tightly you cling to the shared fantasy, the more you will hurt. It’s like you kissing a jellyfish. You picked it up because it’s pretty and squishy.
Now put it down because by nature it is literally killing you.
The narcissist IS spiritual death.
By wishing to get back with the narc, you’re killing yourself.
As you wait for that call, that text, that email, you are aging yourself.
As you boil and bubble up in low vibrations like jealousy and rage, the higher version of yourself is spiritually beating the lower version of yourself.
To love a narcissist is to squeeze on a Japanese double edged sword.
Don’t go out like a samurai.
Live for the future version of you.
When you go no contact AND let go of the hope of you and the narc finally and completely,
Those terrible symptoms will begin to fade.
The further away you get from the narc,
The more of your heart you reclaim For yourself,
The less pain will be there.
All your pain, anxiety, and despair comes from loving the narc.
The narc is poisonous.
You are the antidote.
Your precious supply fueled the narc and kept the narc from spiritual destruction.
You are the key. You are the energy source. You are the light.
When you realize it, you’ll find the freedom from the pain you’re in.
2024.05.21 22:09 MrBackBreaker586 GameStop (GME) Deep Dive (DD)
I'll update this as I go. Please check back when you can and point out errors if you can find any.
Let's dive into a comprehensive analysis of GameStop (GME), covering key factors that could influence the stock price, technical analysis, potential catalysts, market sentiment, and important dates. This DD aims to provide a well-rounded understanding of what might impact GME in the near future.
Debt-to-Equity Ratio = Total Debt / Total Equity Debt-to-Equity Ratio = 34.6 million / 1,267.2 million Debt-to-Equity Ratio = 0.027
Adjusted Float Calculation: 306.19 million (Outstanding Shares) - 75.5 million (DRS) - 87.17 million (Institutional Holdings) - (61.46 million + 36.847 million) (Insider Holdings including Cohen's) = 45.213 million
Short Interest Percentage: (64.37 million / 45.213 million) * 100 ≈ 142.3%
Preferred Shares: - Concept: Issuing preferred shares can offer fixed dividends and have priority over common shares in liquidation. - Impact: Preferred shares require board approval and SEC filings, potentially affecting the market and short sellers by reducing the float of common shares.
Stay strong, apes! 🚀🦍💎🙌
Sources: - MarketBeat: www.marketbeat.com - Yahoo Finance: uk.finance.yahoo.com - TradingView: www.tradingview.com - Investing.com: www.investing.com
GameStop recently authorized the issuance of up to 45 million new shares. Here's the potential impact on the stock and short interest:
Volume Trends: - High trading volumes during the January 2021 short squeeze indicate strong market interest. Monitoring volume can help gauge the strength of price movements.
Technical Patterns: - Descending Triangle: The recent chart shows a descending triangle pattern, which is typically bearish. However, a breakout above the resistance line could signal a reversal and potential price increase.
Upcoming Catalysts: - Earnings Report on June 5, 2024: Positive earnings or strategic announcements could boost investor confidence and drive the stock price higher. - Regulatory Deadlines on May 24 and May 31, 2024: Increased transparency and regulatory compliance could impact market dynamics. Nice one, but you forgot one hype date:
investor.gamestop.com
2024 Annual Meeting of Stockholders (“annual meeting”) on Thursday, June 13, 2024 at 10:00 a.m., CDT
Preferred Shares and Warrants: - Issuance of Preferred Shares or Warrants: GME could issue preferred shares or warrants to shareholders, creating additional buying pressure as these instruments are exercised.
Naked Short Selling and Regulatory Compliance: - May 24, 2024: Deadline for resolving all outstanding material inconsistencies for FINRA CAT reporting, increasing market transparency and potentially impacting short selling practices. - January 2, 2025: Implementation of new SEC rules, which could further enhance market transparency and impact short interest reporting.
Outstanding Shares: 306.19 million Minus DRS: 75.5 million Minus Institutional Holdings: Approximately 87.17 million Minus Insider Holdings: Approximately 61.46 million + Ryan Cohen's Holdings (36.847 million)
Adjusted Float Calculation: 306.19 million (Outstanding Shares) - 75.5 million (DRS) - 87.17 million (Institutional Holdings) - (61.46 million + 36.847 million) (Insider Holdings including Cohen's) = 45.213 million
Short Interest: 64.37 million shares
Stay strong, apes! TO THE MOON! 🚀🦍💎🙌
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GameStop (GME) Deep Dive (DD)
Hey Apes! 🦍🚀Let's dive into a comprehensive analysis of GameStop (GME), covering key factors that could influence the stock price, technical analysis, potential catalysts, market sentiment, and important dates. This DD aims to provide a well-rounded understanding of what might impact GME in the near future.
Potential Failure of the LULD Mechanism and Its Impact on a MOASS
The Limit Up-Limit Down (LULD) mechanism is designed to prevent extreme volatility by setting upper and lower price bands for stocks. However, in certain scenarios, this mechanism can fail, potentially leading to the Mother of All Short Squeezes (MOASS). Here’s how this could happen, along with the mathematical implications.How the LULD Mechanism Can Fail
- Extreme Market Volatility:
- Rapid Successive Halts: During periods of extreme volatility, the price of a stock like GME can hit the upper limit repeatedly, causing successive trading halts. This can exacerbate panic and volatility rather than calming the market.
- Example: If GME’s price rapidly moves from $100 to $150 within a short period, hitting multiple LULD halts, it can create a feedback loop of volatility.
- Algorithmic Trading and High-Frequency Trading (HFT):
- Algorithmic Pressure: High-frequency trading algorithms can push prices rapidly, triggering the LULD bands frequently. If these algorithms continue to trade aggressively, they can cause more volatility.
- Market Manipulation: There’s a theoretical risk that traders could manipulate prices by coordinating trades to trigger LULD bands, although such actions are illegal.
- Technical Glitches:
- System Failures: Technical issues or outages can disrupt the LULD mechanism. If trading systems fail during high volatility, it could lead to unmanaged price spikes.
- Market Fragmentation:
- Inconsistent Application: With trading occurring across multiple venues, discrepancies in how LULD bands are applied can lead to inconsistent trading halts and market confusion.
Impact on MOASS
- Short Covering and Buy Pressure:
- Short Interest: If GME has a high short interest (e.g., 64.37 million shares shorted), a rapid price increase can trigger margin calls for short sellers. They will be forced to buy back shares to cover their positions, adding to the buying pressure.
- Example Calculation:
- Initial Price: $20
- Short Interest: 64.37 million shares
- Price Increase: If the price increases to $100, short sellers might need to cover, buying back 64.37 million shares.
- Buying Pressure Dynamics:
- Mathematics of Covering:
- If short sellers need to cover 64.37 million shares and the average daily trading volume is 10 million shares, it would take 6.437 trading days to cover without additional buying pressure.
- However, in a MOASS scenario, buying pressure can skyrocket, reducing the time frame significantly.
- Mathematics of Covering:
- Example Scenario:
- Price Movement and Halts:
- Day 1: Price moves from $20 to $50, triggering multiple LULD halts.
- Day 2: Price moves from $50 to $100 due to continued buying pressure and short covering.
- Mathematical Implication:
- Short sellers covering 64.37 million shares at an average price of $75 would need $4.828 billion.
- If the price moves to $200 due to continued pressure, the required funds double to $12.874 billion for covering the same short interest.
- Price Movement and Halts:
Potential for Exponential Price Increase
- Feedback Loop: As the price increases, more short sellers are forced to cover, leading to further price increases. This feedback loop can cause exponential growth in the stock price.
- Limitations of LULD: If the LULD mechanism fails to contain the volatility, the price can move rapidly, triggering more short covering and buy pressure.
Conclusion
The failure of the LULD mechanism during periods of extreme volatility, driven by high-frequency trading and market manipulation, can lead to a significant short squeeze. The mathematical implications show how rapid price increases and forced short covering can create a feedback loop, potentially leading to a MOASS. Understanding these dynamics helps investors anticipate potential market movements and the limitations of volatility contols.Sources:
Key Factors Influencing GME's Stock Price
- Fundamental Analysis
- Earnings Reports: GME's quarterly earnings can significantly impact the stock price. The next earnings report on June 5, 2024, is crucial. Strong financial performance or strategic announcements can boost investor confidence.
- Revenue and Profitability: GME has reported $5.27 billion in revenue over the past 12 months with a net income of $6.70 million. Monitoring these indicators is essential for long-term valuation.
- Debt Levels: ### Debt-to-Equity Ratio Calculation
- Short-term debt: $11 million
- Long-term debt: $23.6 million
- Total Debt: $34.6 million
- Total Equity: $1,267.2 million
Debt-to-Equity Ratio = Total Debt / Total Equity Debt-to-Equity Ratio = 34.6 million / 1,267.2 million Debt-to-Equity Ratio = 0.027
Summary
- Total Debt: $34.6 million
- Total Equity: $1,267.2 million
- Debt-to-Equity Ratio: 0.027
Explanation
The debt-to-equity ratio decreased from 0.045 to 0.027 due to GameStop's efforts to reduce its debt while maintaining its equity base. This lower ratio indicates a stronger equity position and less reliance on debt.Current Creditors
GameStop's current debt includes a French term loan, part of their short-term and long-term debt obligations.- Technical Analysis
- Support and Resistance Levels: Key support levels are around $20, while resistance levels are between $50 and $60. Breaking through these levels can indicate potential price movements.
- Volume: High trading volumes can signal strong investor interest. Monitor volume spikes for potential price actions.
- Patterns: Watch for technical patterns like the descending triangle, which is typically bearish. However, a breakout above resistance could indicate a bullish reversal.
Adjusted Float and Short Interest
Outstanding Shares: 306.19 million Minus DRS: 75.5 million Minus Institutional Holdings: Approximately 87.17 million Minus Insider Holdings: Approximately 61.46 million + Ryan Cohen's Holdings (36.847 million)Adjusted Float Calculation: 306.19 million (Outstanding Shares) - 75.5 million (DRS) - 87.17 million (Institutional Holdings) - (61.46 million + 36.847 million) (Insider Holdings including Cohen's) = 45.213 million
Short Interest Percentage: (64.37 million / 45.213 million) * 100 ≈ 142.3%
Potential Use of Warrants and Preferred Stock
Issuing Warrants: - Concept: GameStop could issue warrants to shareholders as a dividend, e.g., 1 warrant per 7 shares owned. - Benefit: This incentivizes shareholders and provides potential to buy shares at a favorable price, creating scarcity in common stock.Preferred Shares: - Concept: Issuing preferred shares can offer fixed dividends and have priority over common shares in liquidation. - Impact: Preferred shares require board approval and SEC filings, potentially affecting the market and short sellers by reducing the float of common shares.
Impact of 45 Million New Shares
Response to the Theory on GME's Recent S-3 Filing:
What’s Happening:
- S-3 Filing History:
- GameStop filed a Form S-3 to potentially issue up to 1 billion shares, with 300 million currently outstanding. This is similar to a move they made in December 2020 before the January 2021 short squeeze. The S-3 allows GameStop to register securities quickly and respond swiftly to market conditions.
- Source: www.investing.com
Why This Matters:
- Two Possible Outcomes for Shorts:
- Accept the Offer: Shorts could buy the offered shares, admitting their positions and potentially converting to longs.
- Decline the Offer: If shorts don’t accept, it exposes the extent of their naked short positions, revealing potential fraud.
Strategic Implications:
- Regulator Signal:
- This filing signals to the SEC that GameStop is willing to resolve the situation constructively, placing the onus on shorts to reveal their positions. This strategic move puts pressure on shorts and highlights the transparency and compliance of GameStop’s management.
Relevant Data and Comparisons:
- Historical Context and Data:
- December 2020 Example: Before the January 2021 short squeeze, GameStop made a similar filing. The shorts didn’t cover, leading to a massive price surge. For instance, the stock price skyrocketed from around $20 to an intraday high of $483 on January 28, 2021.
- Current Short Interest: As of May 2024, GME’s short interest remains high, with 64,373,343 shares short, representing 20.55% of the float. This high short interest indicates a significant potential for another short squeeze if the shorts are forced to cover.
- Sources: www.tradingview.com, www.investing.com
- Market Reactions and Patterns:
- Volume and Price Data: Recent high trading volumes and price surges, such as GME’s rise to $80 in pre-market trading, suggest strong market reactions to strategic filings and movements. This pattern mirrors past events and indicates potential future volatility.
- Source: www.tradingview.com
Comparisons to Other Companies:
- Tesla (TSLA):
- Similar Scenario: Tesla faced significant short interest and skepticism but managed to drive its stock price up through strong financial performance and strategic moves. Retail investor support played a crucial role, forcing shorts to cover and leading to a massive short squeeze. For instance, Tesla's stock price increased from around $50 in 2019 to over $800 in 2021.
- Result: Tesla's market cap increased substantially, showcasing the power of strategic corporate actions combined with retail investor momentum.
- Volkswagen (VW) 2008:
- Historical Short Squeeze: Volkswagen became the world’s most valuable company briefly in 2008 during a short squeeze when Porsche revealed it had a majority stake in VW. This forced short sellers to cover their positions at significantly higher prices, causing the stock price to soar from around €210 to over €1,000 within a few days.
- Impact: The stock price soared, illustrating the potential power of strategic moves and market reactions, similar to what could happen with GameStop if shorts are forced to cover.
Conclusion:
This isn’t about diluting shares but offering shorts a way out and proving to regulators that GameStop is handling this responsibly. Whether shorts accept or decline, their actions will reveal the extent of their positions, potentially leading to a significant market impact.Stay strong, apes! 🚀🦍💎🙌
Sources: - MarketBeat: www.marketbeat.com - Yahoo Finance: uk.finance.yahoo.com - TradingView: www.tradingview.com - Investing.com: www.investing.com
GameStop recently authorized the issuance of up to 45 million new shares. Here's the potential impact on the stock and short interest:
- Dilution Effect:
- Outstanding Shares Increase: The total outstanding shares would increase from 306.19 million to 351.19 million if all 45 million shares are issued.
- Adjusted Float Calculation: ``` 351.19 million (New Outstanding Shares)
- 75.5 million (DRS)
- 87.17 million (Institutional Holdings)
- (61.46 million + 36.847 million) (Insider Holdings including Cohen's) = 90.213 million ```
- Revised Short Interest Percentage: (64.37 million / 90.213 million) * 100 ≈ 71.37%
Upcoming Key Dates
- May 24, 2024: FINRA CAT Reporting - Ensuring all material inconsistencies are resolved.
- May 31, 2024: FINRA CAT Full CAIS Compliance Go-Live - Enhancing market transparency.
- June 5, 2024: GME Q1 2024 Earnings Report - Potential for strategic announcements.
- June 21, 2024: LEAPS expiration date - Options with significant open interest can create volatility as market makers hedge their positions.
- September 5, 2024: GME Q2 2024 Earnings Report.
- December 5, 2024: GME Q3 2024 Earnings Report.
- January 2, 2025: SEC Rule Implementation - Increased transparency in short selling.
Recent Technical Analysis Insights
Support and Resistance Levels: - Support: Key support levels for GME appear around $20. These levels provide a base where the stock has historically found buying interest. - Resistance: Significant resistance levels are around $50-$60. Breaking through these levels could indicate further upward momentum.Volume Trends: - High trading volumes during the January 2021 short squeeze indicate strong market interest. Monitoring volume can help gauge the strength of price movements.
Technical Patterns: - Descending Triangle: The recent chart shows a descending triangle pattern, which is typically bearish. However, a breakout above the resistance line could signal a reversal and potential price increase.
Projected Movements
Short Squeeze Potential: - High Short Interest: With 64.37 million shares shorted, any significant buying pressure could trigger a short squeeze, driving the price up dramatically.Upcoming Catalysts: - Earnings Report on June 5, 2024: Positive earnings or strategic announcements could boost investor confidence and drive the stock price higher. - Regulatory Deadlines on May 24 and May 31, 2024: Increased transparency and regulatory compliance could impact market dynamics. Nice one, but you forgot one hype date:
investor.gamestop.com
2024 Annual Meeting of Stockholders (“annual meeting”) on Thursday, June 13, 2024 at 10:00 a.m., CDT
LEAPS and Other MOASS Theories
LEAPS (Long-Term Equity Anticipation Securities): - Concept: LEAPS are options with expiration dates longer than one year. They can be used by investors to gain leveraged exposure to GME's price movements over a longer period. - Impact: If retail investors continue to buy LEAPS, it can create significant upward pressure on the stock price as market makers hedge their positions by buying the underlying stock.Preferred Shares and Warrants: - Issuance of Preferred Shares or Warrants: GME could issue preferred shares or warrants to shareholders, creating additional buying pressure as these instruments are exercised.
Naked Short Selling and Regulatory Compliance: - May 24, 2024: Deadline for resolving all outstanding material inconsistencies for FINRA CAT reporting, increasing market transparency and potentially impacting short selling practices. - January 2, 2025: Implementation of new SEC rules, which could further enhance market transparency and impact short interest reporting.
New Data: Ryan Cohen's Insider Transactions
Insider Transactions: - Ryan Cohen: Recent Form 4 from 2023 filing shows Cohen acquired 253,204 shares at $22.2485 and 190,638 shares at $22.9075. Total shares beneficially owned after transactions are 36,657,204 and 36,847,842 respectively.Conclusion
While predicting GME's exact price movements is challenging, several factors suggest potential for upward movement: - High Short Interest: Potential for a short squeeze. - Technical Indicators: Key support levels and potential breakout patterns. - Market Sentiment: Positive retail investor activity and upcoming catalysts. - LEAPS and Other MOASS Theories: Additional strategies like LEAPS and preferred shares could contribute to upward pressure.Verified Sources
- Fintel: fintel.io
- MarketBeat: marketbeat.com
- Stock Analysis: stockanalysis.com
- FINRA: finra.org
- SEC: sec.gov
Theoretical MOASS (Mother of All Short Squeezes) and Potential Prices for GME
Understanding the potential outcomes of a MOASS for GameStop (GME) involves several key factors and calculations. Here, we'll break down some of the critical components that could influence the theoretical prices during a MOASS.Key Factors
- Short Interest and Float: The higher the short interest relative to the float, the more pressure on short sellers to cover their positions, potentially driving the price up.
- Buy-In Pressure: Retail investors holding and buying more shares can create scarcity, driving the price higher as shorts scramble to cover.
- Market Dynamics and Liquidity: As the price rises, liquidity becomes a significant factor. Higher prices may lead to increased volatility and rapid price swings.
Short Interest and Float Calculation
Using the current data:Outstanding Shares: 306.19 million Minus DRS: 75.5 million Minus Institutional Holdings: Approximately 87.17 million Minus Insider Holdings: Approximately 61.46 million + Ryan Cohen's Holdings (36.847 million)
Adjusted Float Calculation: 306.19 million (Outstanding Shares) - 75.5 million (DRS) - 87.17 million (Institutional Holdings) - (61.46 million + 36.847 million) (Insider Holdings including Cohen's) = 45.213 million
Short Interest: 64.37 million shares
Theoretical MOASS Price Calculation
The theoretical price during a MOASS can vary widely based on the demand for shares and the willingness of retail investors to hold their positions. Here are a few scenarios to consider:Scenario 1: Moderate Short Covering
- Assumption: Shorts begin covering at higher prices but still face resistance from retail holders.
- Estimated Price Range: $200 to $1,000 per share
Scenario 2: High Short Covering Pressure
- Assumption: Increased buying pressure as shorts are forced to cover more aggressively.
- Estimated Price Range: $1,000 to $5,000 per share
Scenario 3: Extreme MOASS Scenario
- Assumption: Significant short covering with extremely limited float due to strong retail holding.
- Estimated Price Range: $5,000 to $50,000+ per share
Important Considerations
- Regulatory Impact: Changes in regulations, such as those from the SEC or FINRA, could impact the dynamics of short selling and buying pressure.
- Market Sentiment: Market sentiment and external factors like news, earnings reports, and strategic announcements can significantly impact the stock price.
- Psychological Factors: The psychological impact on both retail investors and institutional players can lead to irrational price movements, either upwards or downwards.
Conclusion
Predicting the exact price during a MOASS is challenging due to the many variables involved. However, understanding the key factors and potential scenarios can provide a framework for what might happen. Stay informed, and always be cautious with your investments.Stay strong, apes! TO THE MOON! 🚀🦍💎🙌
2024.05.21 22:09 R3novati0 Another perspective..
As someone new to writing and promoting my work, I’ve noticed that many of you feel disheartened by the perceived failures of r4r, or the stagnation of views and other metrics.
My advice is simple: don’t have expectations. Live in your story as you write it. Immerse yourself in the world you create and enjoy every moment of the journey. If you choose to help a fellow writer, do it out of genuine passion and without expecting anything in return. What I can assure you is that this approach will leave you feeling lighter, less stressed, and more inspired.
Remember, it’s impossible to pour your soul into something and not achieve success. But success shouldn’t be measured by numbers. True success is found in the fulfillment you feel from your creative process.
I wish you all good health, and may you always be surrounded by people you love and who love you in return. This is the most important thing of all.
Best wishes.
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My advice is simple: don’t have expectations. Live in your story as you write it. Immerse yourself in the world you create and enjoy every moment of the journey. If you choose to help a fellow writer, do it out of genuine passion and without expecting anything in return. What I can assure you is that this approach will leave you feeling lighter, less stressed, and more inspired.
Remember, it’s impossible to pour your soul into something and not achieve success. But success shouldn’t be measured by numbers. True success is found in the fulfillment you feel from your creative process.
I wish you all good health, and may you always be surrounded by people you love and who love you in return. This is the most important thing of all.
Best wishes.
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2024.05.21 22:09 ActiveTour8592 Got drunk & angry after 9 months of sobriety. Need advice.
On may 25th of 2023, I stopped drinking completely. Cold turkey. Im not a good drunk. Im an angry drunk. Not an angry tipsy, if I get like DRUNK DRUNK, I get angry at the littlest things. Last time, in may of 2023, I lied about drinking and how drunk I was. This is what triggered me deciding to stop.
so I stopped 100%.
from may 25th, 2023 - March 2, 2024.
My wife and I have been married for about two years. She has her son through a previous marriage. I have my son through a previous marriage and then together we have our daughter.
during this time, my wife never stopped drinking. She can be an angry drunk, but it is not inherently in her nature.
She would order drinks when we went out to dinner, she would drink white claws at the house. For a while, she was not asking me to go to the store to buy her alcohol, but rather having it DoorDashed to the house. I genuinely thought this was a huge waste of money, so I offered a handful of times to go and do that for her. It didn’t bother me.
I stayed sober for roughly 9 months, that is, until my wife and I went on a date night. I planned it, booked a reservation, all that stuff. Real nice.
Anyway, we are at dinner and my wife asked me, “so, do you see yourself just going without alcohol for like your entire life? Like forever?”
And I said, “I don’t know I thought about it a little bit, but honestly not too much. I do have this image, though in my head, of me as like a 50-year-old man wearing my hair is all gray and my beard is gray and me and you are at some family event, maybe Christmas, maybe Thanksgiving or something. And all the kids are running around and doing their thing and I am just kind of looking out at all of the activity and really feeling proud of what we have built and the family we have built in the relationships. And in my hand is a glass of really really nice whiskey with a big ol ice cube, right in the middle. Like… That’s the idea that I have in my head for like… Satisfaction? I guess? Comfort? Security?”
So we talked a little bit more about that, but it ended up with her, offering me a glass of wine. And I said sure. It’s date night. It’s been like nine months. I have no intention, nor desire to seriously begin drinking again. Like I have absolutely zero desire to drink to get drunk.
Anyway, I had a glass of wine. Had one glass of wine. Enjoyed it. It was very nice. We had a great night. Went home. That’s it.
But then, like… Fast forward like a week or two or some thing… And one of the things I drink a lot is lemonade… So she comes home and she’s got two really tall Mike’s hard lemonade. And she’s like I got these for you to try. and I was like OK. And I drink them and we hung out and had a great night I didn’t get like wasted or even remotely close, and no issues. Cool.
So, then, like one night, I’m by myself, like I do every Sunday and and then, the urge just hit me to like have a claw. And I was like I mean, sure, why not? Like my whole mentality around drinking has changed over the course of this past 9 to 10 months , so I’m not worried about it in the least. I know my brain.
So I have a claw. I have two of them.
And then, the next day, she asked me, “hey, did you drink my claws?” and I was like, “yeah I had some.” and then she’s like, “I didn’t know we were like getting back into it like that.” And I was like what do you mean? And she was like well you were just by yourself, and you felt like you needed a claw. And I was like I didn’t feel like I NEEDED a claw, I just like felt like having one, and she was like that really scares me.
and i GET THAT.
But I’m also really fucking confused. And I feel like I’m being yanked around a little bit.
And then she just went on this spiel about how this is starting to really make her nervous in really scare her and shit.
and I just feel really annoyed. And confused.
Like I’ve made so much fucking progress in the thing is dude… I think alcohol had a massive role to play in me making bad choices, but I do believe it was the bad choices that led to the climax of me and my wife’s bullshit.
I thought my brain had changed and developed and I just think my view on alcohol and like a drinking socially has completely and 100% changed.
And I think my wife like SOMETIMES wants her old drinking buddy back or something… I don’t know. But it’s like she’s only cool with it when she gives it to me? Or when she wants me to have it?
so then like the whole month of May. I mean, it’s like… back to the old days of drinking in the house. Im not getting obliterated by any means, but like im coming home, cracking open a claw, etc. she’s cracking open claws, etc. and we’re drinking and having a blast and its all fine, staying up WAY later than we should have. We’re not getting in fights tho. Its all fine.
then, rewind to this past sunday. It was my morning to get up with the kids. I do. At about 12:30 PM, I crack open my first claw. That was my first mistake.
everything, is mostly fine throughout the day, no big deal. But then I go to start my start my hobby @ 5:00 PM, where i will be by myself until about 11:00 PM.
while im doing my hobby, im drinking, my wife and I are texting about a friend of ours and how they’ve been acting like not so cool lately. And its been bothering me.
by 11:00 PM im pretty drunk. Likkkeee pretttyyy fuckin drunk.
i call my friend up, we have a great conversation about the shit thats been on my mind. All good.
but then, I get off the phone, I go into our bedroom, i lay down on the bed and I begin telling my wife that I spoke to our friend and before I can even get through the story, wife can tell that im like 3 sheets to the wind. And starts yelling at me. Getting upset at how drunk I am. Understandable. I was not in a place to like… have that conversation. Like I was GONE. And then this fuckin angry version of me comes out. and we start arguing. I slam doors. I say NASTY shit. She locks me out of the bedroom. That pisses me off. I try to get in by just whiteknucling the door handle. Doesn’t work. I leave. I kick a laundry basket. I grab a blanket. I go up stairs to the couch and pass out.
the next morning, wife gets up with the kids, takes em to school, I try to talk to her in the morning. We get into another fight.
i spend all day upstairs. I work all day from the up stairs loft.
our daughter gets home. I make her dinner. We go about our regular shit.
i was scheduled to do my hobby again last night. I was not in the mood. I hung out with my wife in our bedroom all night just scrolling through my phone as she worked on her computer.
she realizes that im tired and gets upset saying, “its like if youre not doing your hobby, everything else bores you and you’re tired.”
i tell her, “I honestly didn’t think you wanted anything to do with me today.”
i stay up, scrolling through my phone.
she had conversation with me about certain things. About the gift we bought my son (her stepson) and where we were going to set it up and how to take care of it.
she talks to me about these two songs she’s heard that seem to have the exact same beat.
we talk about how we need to re-do our budget bc we just got new bank accounts.
we laugh a few times.
eventually, she climbs into bed, we watch an episode of last week with Jon Oliver, and she rolls over to go to sleep.
before she falls asleep, I tell her how sorry I am,. How ashamed and stupid I feel. I tell her im so sorry for overdoing it. I dont know what got into me. I dont know why I decided to drink so heavily. I tell her that isn’t the type of husband I want to be. I tell her it’s not the type of father I want to be. I scared her with how drunk and angry I was. And its like all the hard work I did over the past year, it’s completely went away and was tarnished bc of the decision I made in one night to drink so heavily. I tell her I dont know how she could ever forgive me and I understand that. I tell her if I were to lose her, it would be considered my greatest failure. I tell her a lot more before I say, “and thats about it really.”
she says, “I dont know if I can respond to that right now, but thank you for sharing.”
she falls asleep. I fall asleep. I toss and turn all night. Dreading this morning to come.
i wake up, I get the kids ready, get daughter breakfast, get myself ready, I take daughter in to say bye bye. She is as sweet as ever with daughter. As if nothing happened.
i leave, take daughter to daycare, I go to work.
we havent spoken. ———
I don’t know what to do.
I thought that I was different. And I thought that after spending so much time not drinking any alcohol, I had formed a sort of new relationship with it and now had control. I don’t know why I made that stupid fucking decision to crack open that white claw at 12:30 PM.
I’m now thinking that I’m going to lose my wife and kids. And I have never been so scared in my life.
The obvious answer is, “you have to stop. Not even a few drinks and getting tipsy and being able to handle it is even remotely worth risking losing my wife and kids.”
I could give a fuck about drinking alcohol ever again.
I don’t know how I let it weasel its way back into my life. But it is the definition of a slippery slope. It just keeps going. And I got too comfortable and too confident in my ability to maintain. Until I got obliterated and lost all sense of dignity and respect.
I don’t know what the fuck I could even begin to possibly say for her to give me another shot at this. Of course, I think if we both stopped drinking, that would be the most ideal reality, but I don’t think that she should have to pay for my bullshit.
If there’s anyone out there, who read this whole thing, I really do appreciate it.
i’m just looking for some sort of advice as to what to do next
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so I stopped 100%.
from may 25th, 2023 - March 2, 2024.
My wife and I have been married for about two years. She has her son through a previous marriage. I have my son through a previous marriage and then together we have our daughter.
during this time, my wife never stopped drinking. She can be an angry drunk, but it is not inherently in her nature.
She would order drinks when we went out to dinner, she would drink white claws at the house. For a while, she was not asking me to go to the store to buy her alcohol, but rather having it DoorDashed to the house. I genuinely thought this was a huge waste of money, so I offered a handful of times to go and do that for her. It didn’t bother me.
I stayed sober for roughly 9 months, that is, until my wife and I went on a date night. I planned it, booked a reservation, all that stuff. Real nice.
Anyway, we are at dinner and my wife asked me, “so, do you see yourself just going without alcohol for like your entire life? Like forever?”
And I said, “I don’t know I thought about it a little bit, but honestly not too much. I do have this image, though in my head, of me as like a 50-year-old man wearing my hair is all gray and my beard is gray and me and you are at some family event, maybe Christmas, maybe Thanksgiving or something. And all the kids are running around and doing their thing and I am just kind of looking out at all of the activity and really feeling proud of what we have built and the family we have built in the relationships. And in my hand is a glass of really really nice whiskey with a big ol ice cube, right in the middle. Like… That’s the idea that I have in my head for like… Satisfaction? I guess? Comfort? Security?”
So we talked a little bit more about that, but it ended up with her, offering me a glass of wine. And I said sure. It’s date night. It’s been like nine months. I have no intention, nor desire to seriously begin drinking again. Like I have absolutely zero desire to drink to get drunk.
Anyway, I had a glass of wine. Had one glass of wine. Enjoyed it. It was very nice. We had a great night. Went home. That’s it.
But then, like… Fast forward like a week or two or some thing… And one of the things I drink a lot is lemonade… So she comes home and she’s got two really tall Mike’s hard lemonade. And she’s like I got these for you to try. and I was like OK. And I drink them and we hung out and had a great night I didn’t get like wasted or even remotely close, and no issues. Cool.
So, then, like one night, I’m by myself, like I do every Sunday and and then, the urge just hit me to like have a claw. And I was like I mean, sure, why not? Like my whole mentality around drinking has changed over the course of this past 9 to 10 months , so I’m not worried about it in the least. I know my brain.
So I have a claw. I have two of them.
And then, the next day, she asked me, “hey, did you drink my claws?” and I was like, “yeah I had some.” and then she’s like, “I didn’t know we were like getting back into it like that.” And I was like what do you mean? And she was like well you were just by yourself, and you felt like you needed a claw. And I was like I didn’t feel like I NEEDED a claw, I just like felt like having one, and she was like that really scares me.
and i GET THAT.
But I’m also really fucking confused. And I feel like I’m being yanked around a little bit.
And then she just went on this spiel about how this is starting to really make her nervous in really scare her and shit.
and I just feel really annoyed. And confused.
Like I’ve made so much fucking progress in the thing is dude… I think alcohol had a massive role to play in me making bad choices, but I do believe it was the bad choices that led to the climax of me and my wife’s bullshit.
I thought my brain had changed and developed and I just think my view on alcohol and like a drinking socially has completely and 100% changed.
And I think my wife like SOMETIMES wants her old drinking buddy back or something… I don’t know. But it’s like she’s only cool with it when she gives it to me? Or when she wants me to have it?
so then like the whole month of May. I mean, it’s like… back to the old days of drinking in the house. Im not getting obliterated by any means, but like im coming home, cracking open a claw, etc. she’s cracking open claws, etc. and we’re drinking and having a blast and its all fine, staying up WAY later than we should have. We’re not getting in fights tho. Its all fine.
then, rewind to this past sunday. It was my morning to get up with the kids. I do. At about 12:30 PM, I crack open my first claw. That was my first mistake.
everything, is mostly fine throughout the day, no big deal. But then I go to start my start my hobby @ 5:00 PM, where i will be by myself until about 11:00 PM.
while im doing my hobby, im drinking, my wife and I are texting about a friend of ours and how they’ve been acting like not so cool lately. And its been bothering me.
by 11:00 PM im pretty drunk. Likkkeee pretttyyy fuckin drunk.
i call my friend up, we have a great conversation about the shit thats been on my mind. All good.
but then, I get off the phone, I go into our bedroom, i lay down on the bed and I begin telling my wife that I spoke to our friend and before I can even get through the story, wife can tell that im like 3 sheets to the wind. And starts yelling at me. Getting upset at how drunk I am. Understandable. I was not in a place to like… have that conversation. Like I was GONE. And then this fuckin angry version of me comes out. and we start arguing. I slam doors. I say NASTY shit. She locks me out of the bedroom. That pisses me off. I try to get in by just whiteknucling the door handle. Doesn’t work. I leave. I kick a laundry basket. I grab a blanket. I go up stairs to the couch and pass out.
the next morning, wife gets up with the kids, takes em to school, I try to talk to her in the morning. We get into another fight.
i spend all day upstairs. I work all day from the up stairs loft.
our daughter gets home. I make her dinner. We go about our regular shit.
i was scheduled to do my hobby again last night. I was not in the mood. I hung out with my wife in our bedroom all night just scrolling through my phone as she worked on her computer.
she realizes that im tired and gets upset saying, “its like if youre not doing your hobby, everything else bores you and you’re tired.”
i tell her, “I honestly didn’t think you wanted anything to do with me today.”
i stay up, scrolling through my phone.
she had conversation with me about certain things. About the gift we bought my son (her stepson) and where we were going to set it up and how to take care of it.
she talks to me about these two songs she’s heard that seem to have the exact same beat.
we talk about how we need to re-do our budget bc we just got new bank accounts.
we laugh a few times.
eventually, she climbs into bed, we watch an episode of last week with Jon Oliver, and she rolls over to go to sleep.
before she falls asleep, I tell her how sorry I am,. How ashamed and stupid I feel. I tell her im so sorry for overdoing it. I dont know what got into me. I dont know why I decided to drink so heavily. I tell her that isn’t the type of husband I want to be. I tell her it’s not the type of father I want to be. I scared her with how drunk and angry I was. And its like all the hard work I did over the past year, it’s completely went away and was tarnished bc of the decision I made in one night to drink so heavily. I tell her I dont know how she could ever forgive me and I understand that. I tell her if I were to lose her, it would be considered my greatest failure. I tell her a lot more before I say, “and thats about it really.”
she says, “I dont know if I can respond to that right now, but thank you for sharing.”
she falls asleep. I fall asleep. I toss and turn all night. Dreading this morning to come.
i wake up, I get the kids ready, get daughter breakfast, get myself ready, I take daughter in to say bye bye. She is as sweet as ever with daughter. As if nothing happened.
i leave, take daughter to daycare, I go to work.
we havent spoken. ———
I don’t know what to do.
I thought that I was different. And I thought that after spending so much time not drinking any alcohol, I had formed a sort of new relationship with it and now had control. I don’t know why I made that stupid fucking decision to crack open that white claw at 12:30 PM.
I’m now thinking that I’m going to lose my wife and kids. And I have never been so scared in my life.
The obvious answer is, “you have to stop. Not even a few drinks and getting tipsy and being able to handle it is even remotely worth risking losing my wife and kids.”
I could give a fuck about drinking alcohol ever again.
I don’t know how I let it weasel its way back into my life. But it is the definition of a slippery slope. It just keeps going. And I got too comfortable and too confident in my ability to maintain. Until I got obliterated and lost all sense of dignity and respect.
I don’t know what the fuck I could even begin to possibly say for her to give me another shot at this. Of course, I think if we both stopped drinking, that would be the most ideal reality, but I don’t think that she should have to pay for my bullshit.
If there’s anyone out there, who read this whole thing, I really do appreciate it.
i’m just looking for some sort of advice as to what to do next
2024.05.21 22:09 R3novati0 Another perspective..
As someone new to writing and promoting my work, I’ve noticed that many of you feel disheartened by the perceived failures of r4r, or the stagnation of views and other metrics.
My advice is simple: don’t have expectations. Live in your story as you write it. Immerse yourself in the world you create and enjoy every moment of the journey. If you choose to help a fellow writer, do it out of genuine passion and without expecting anything in return. What I can assure you is that this approach will leave you feeling lighter, less stressed, and more inspired.
Remember, it’s impossible to pour your soul into something and not achieve success. But success shouldn’t be measured by numbers. True success is found in the fulfillment you feel from your creative process.
I wish you all good health, and may you always be surrounded by people you love and who love you in return. This is the most important thing of all.
Best wishes.
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My advice is simple: don’t have expectations. Live in your story as you write it. Immerse yourself in the world you create and enjoy every moment of the journey. If you choose to help a fellow writer, do it out of genuine passion and without expecting anything in return. What I can assure you is that this approach will leave you feeling lighter, less stressed, and more inspired.
Remember, it’s impossible to pour your soul into something and not achieve success. But success shouldn’t be measured by numbers. True success is found in the fulfillment you feel from your creative process.
I wish you all good health, and may you always be surrounded by people you love and who love you in return. This is the most important thing of all.
Best wishes.
2024.05.21 22:09 Fvck1ife 33M 30M not in love but love him while also loving a 22M
🤦♂️🤦♂️🤦♂️I hate my life wit a passion idk where my life went wrong. 1st off I have been married to my husband for 7 years now and it was not all good we had our good times and alot of bad times. Now fast forward a few years of our marriage I met a guy who was 19 at the time and I was 31 at the time we work together found out we have alot in common with each other and we would hang out after work a few hours like once a week he had a flex schedule so he didn't always work a full week like me. It started to bother me that we would only see each other only once a week cuz like I said we had alot of common and I wanted to keep talking and get to know him more everything start off platonic and somewhere along the way I start to fall for him. I'm bisexual and he straight and I told him that in a perfect world I would want to be with him and maybe we could be made for each other so basically at least close enough to be each other soulmates. Now the reason I'm writing all of this is just to vent and rant out my feelings of how life can just suck not to be judge of how awful person I am so before you judge me I'm sorry we don't live a perfect world where no one does anything awful to one another. Now I have told my husband that if we live in a perfect world I would be with him and not my husband only because me and him have alot more in common then I have with my husband. My husband purpose a question then why not go be with him since he make me happy and have more common things. I reply to my husband that life doesn't work that way one he 19 [at the time we had this conversation] he too young he just starting his life he need to figure out what the fuck he wants in life ( he wanted to be firefighter but now he want to be a paramedic so he in shcool for that) plus he still stay wit his parents (even still now) and they are homophobic or at the very least his dad so there that and plus he doesn't see me in that way he only see me as a friend and nothing more (he say I'm consider to be his best friend now but not as close as his actual best friends) we would never be more then that and even IF by some miracle that he return the feeling the very strong feelings that I have for him onto me I told both him and my husband (telling them separately they have never met) that even tho I love you and would very much like to be wit him my answer would be no because you have a whole life to try to explore and live the best life that you can without being held back. I am too old for you (hate fuckin saying that) I'm at the point of my life where I need a better job to have money and to start a family of 3 kids at least (I really want triplets but since we don't live in a perfect world I would settled like everything else in my life for wit 2 or 3 kids) and your too young to be suck up into my world if I was at least closer to his age then I would most definitely be wit him til this day. Now that my bday keep getting closer by the day I have just been depressed every single fuckin day even seeing him doesn't even bring me happiness I just keep getting more depressed and fighting wit my husband not helping because he doesn't get that I'm chosing my husband to be wit even tho yes I do love of both him and my husband and im trying to move on forward wit my husband of trying. To start family and live our lives.
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2024.05.21 22:08 R3novati0 Another perspective..
As someone new to writing and promoting my work, I’ve noticed that many of you feel disheartened by the perceived failures of r4r, or the stagnation of views and other metrics.
My advice is simple: don’t have expectations. Live in your story as you write it. Immerse yourself in the world you create and enjoy every moment of the journey. If you choose to help a fellow writer, do it out of genuine passion and without expecting anything in return. What I can assure you is that this approach will leave you feeling lighter, less stressed, and more inspired.
Remember, it’s impossible to pour your soul into something and not achieve success. But success shouldn’t be measured by numbers. True success is found in the fulfillment you feel from your creative process.
I wish you all good health, and may you always be surrounded by people you love and who love you in return. This is the most important thing of all.
Best wishes.
submitted by R3novati0 to Wattpad [link] [comments]
My advice is simple: don’t have expectations. Live in your story as you write it. Immerse yourself in the world you create and enjoy every moment of the journey. If you choose to help a fellow writer, do it out of genuine passion and without expecting anything in return. What I can assure you is that this approach will leave you feeling lighter, less stressed, and more inspired.
Remember, it’s impossible to pour your soul into something and not achieve success. But success shouldn’t be measured by numbers. True success is found in the fulfillment you feel from your creative process.
I wish you all good health, and may you always be surrounded by people you love and who love you in return. This is the most important thing of all.
Best wishes.
2024.05.21 22:08 Embarrassed-Ebb3373 Did you work during school?
I’m using GI Bill and living at my mom’s place. It sucks sometimes since I’m 25. I am saving money, I have 15k saved and growing. About to have an associates in EE from community college this fall. Would it be possible or worth trying to get some sort of tech related job that’s entry level with this? I understand “Engineering technology” Is different, a 2 year program and is more hands on. Can I land any sort of job similar to this with a regular EE associates? If so, would it be a good idea to get a job and potentially delay graduation a year or so to gain work experience?
If that’s not possible, I’m assuming its get internships/do projects etc. I want to start working but I get it if it’s better to just do projects etc and keep pumping out classes. I’ve been working part-time as a math tutor but not much, mainly been taking classes full-time and during summers.
Thanks
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If that’s not possible, I’m assuming its get internships/do projects etc. I want to start working but I get it if it’s better to just do projects etc and keep pumping out classes. I’ve been working part-time as a math tutor but not much, mainly been taking classes full-time and during summers.
Thanks
2024.05.21 22:08 No_Guest1023 Broken up with after 8 years
It's been over a year now since. Highschool sweethearts, love of my life since I was 16 and he was 18. Even then I knew there were red flags, but he was an 18 year old and I told him exactly what I wanted and he agreed. We were good for the most part, at least I thought so. He always had his inconsiderate moments but Wes work it out - or rather I'd just move by because I wanted to nurture the relationship.
He broke up with me several times before. Once because of health thing I couldn't control. Another because he was supposedly having job and money issues he wanted to figure out alone. Another because I moved in with him and his grandma after a house fire and he got tired of me being in the same room as him when I didn't move out quick enough because my family struggled to find a home. There were a couple other occasions I know I missed. Each time I let him go with love and wished him the best, but told him I was sure he was my person. He always came back. Despite the fact that for years he wanted to sow his oats, explore, see what was out there. I encouraged him to do what he needed but he assured me that he wanted to be with me.
I knew when he was having doubts. He'd get hot and cold, grow distant at odd times. He liked sexy pictures of girls online - and when I saw him doing it I worked up the courage to say that it made me uncomfortable and he was defensive at first before apologizing. He did it again a year later and had no remorse. And used the opportunity to tell me he'd been thinking about breaking up with me around my birthday. He admitted that to me on other occasions too. He pushed me to take a job in another state because he knew it would be an excuse to leave me. And he always discussed doubts about our relationship with other people, one of those people being one of my best friends since I was in middle school.
He broke up with me this last time a month before our 8 year anniversary. He said he didn't want to live together and struggled to see a future. He wanted to get numbers and show up his friends with no game. He said he didn't know who could satisfy him emotionally, mentally, sexually (except maybe a threesome ((his words))). But he wanted to be single. Unlike the last time he announced it to our friend group in a prewritten message, changed his status, removed our pictures, and went out to the bar two days later and asked for a mutual friend's number.
He did a lot to continue to hurt me. Including trying to come back out of jealousy.
Sorry this was so long. I left out so many things. Just feeling really anxious today and wanted to get it out.
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He broke up with me several times before. Once because of health thing I couldn't control. Another because he was supposedly having job and money issues he wanted to figure out alone. Another because I moved in with him and his grandma after a house fire and he got tired of me being in the same room as him when I didn't move out quick enough because my family struggled to find a home. There were a couple other occasions I know I missed. Each time I let him go with love and wished him the best, but told him I was sure he was my person. He always came back. Despite the fact that for years he wanted to sow his oats, explore, see what was out there. I encouraged him to do what he needed but he assured me that he wanted to be with me.
I knew when he was having doubts. He'd get hot and cold, grow distant at odd times. He liked sexy pictures of girls online - and when I saw him doing it I worked up the courage to say that it made me uncomfortable and he was defensive at first before apologizing. He did it again a year later and had no remorse. And used the opportunity to tell me he'd been thinking about breaking up with me around my birthday. He admitted that to me on other occasions too. He pushed me to take a job in another state because he knew it would be an excuse to leave me. And he always discussed doubts about our relationship with other people, one of those people being one of my best friends since I was in middle school.
He broke up with me this last time a month before our 8 year anniversary. He said he didn't want to live together and struggled to see a future. He wanted to get numbers and show up his friends with no game. He said he didn't know who could satisfy him emotionally, mentally, sexually (except maybe a threesome ((his words))). But he wanted to be single. Unlike the last time he announced it to our friend group in a prewritten message, changed his status, removed our pictures, and went out to the bar two days later and asked for a mutual friend's number.
He did a lot to continue to hurt me. Including trying to come back out of jealousy.
- asked for the mutual friends number
- liked my mom's provocative pictures on Instagram
- he didn't remember the year I was born
- he only treated me like a friend in group settings
- he never knew how to comfort me
- didn't defend me to his grandma who called me a gold digger even though I never asked him for a penny
- always used me to gauge his feelings
- got a 21 year old girlfriend
- called me crying to say he could only envision a future with me, but then said he actually wanted to be with the new girlfriend and that he actually didn't feel anything romantic for me despite all he said during our 6 hour in person talk
- hit on his "best friends" ex and got nudes from another one
Sorry this was so long. I left out so many things. Just feeling really anxious today and wanted to get it out.
2024.05.21 22:08 Few_Caterpillar_4256 F*ck your Habits!: The strategy to reach your goals and live a happy life.
https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0CHFSC92V
We are obsessed with new and better habits to live a happy life and achieve our goals. However, most of us feel guilty about being able to maintain these “awesome” habits that internet gurus say we need to have for a week at most. Meditating for hours, writing a diary, planning every second of our day, and many others. They all lead us to believe that habits are the guide to a happy life when they are not. Fuck your habits! Habits are just a tool to live a happy life and achieve our goals. However, our habits are just a consequence of our environment. How many times have you tried to start reading, going to the gym, waking up early, or being more productive at work? Now think about how many of those habits you've kept. You give up or convince yourself that those habits are not for you because your environment is not conducive for those habits to be maintained. Saying 'Fuck your habits' is not an innovative strategy on how to have more habits, but on how to live a happy, guilt-free life and achieve your goals through changing environments.
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We are obsessed with new and better habits to live a happy life and achieve our goals. However, most of us feel guilty about being able to maintain these “awesome” habits that internet gurus say we need to have for a week at most. Meditating for hours, writing a diary, planning every second of our day, and many others. They all lead us to believe that habits are the guide to a happy life when they are not. Fuck your habits! Habits are just a tool to live a happy life and achieve our goals. However, our habits are just a consequence of our environment. How many times have you tried to start reading, going to the gym, waking up early, or being more productive at work? Now think about how many of those habits you've kept. You give up or convince yourself that those habits are not for you because your environment is not conducive for those habits to be maintained. Saying 'Fuck your habits' is not an innovative strategy on how to have more habits, but on how to live a happy, guilt-free life and achieve your goals through changing environments.
2024.05.21 22:08 HistrionicSlut My friends are leaving and my RSD is triggered, I feel abandoned.
TW: abuse, animal abuse
I need some support here.
(I want to preface this by saying I would never tell my friends this, I know what they are going through is much harder than what I am going through, this is why I came to y'all!)
Background (you can skip if you want): When I first moved to my city I didn't know anyone. I had an abusive (soon to be ex) husband and was having some major issues with my disability (I could barely walk). I spent a year only hanging out with my stbx. Well, he abused me, and threatened to kill my cat and me, so I kicked him out. I started over on my own (I had no family or IRL friends at this point), and I moved into my own place and discovered I CAN take care of myself despite my disabilities. That I am capable and I don't NEED anyone.
Then I met my boyfriend who I now I live with and our friends. I met them at work and then we became fast friends, they then introduced us to their larger friend group. It was the first time that I'd felt like I belonged. They didn't judge me for being ND. There are 4 ND kids in their families and at least one other person is ND. And we all get along so great. I have NEVER had a community before and now I do. 😭😭😭😭 I'm sobbing as I write this.
Well, the initial 2 people we met have to leave for work. They are moving across the globe. I'm devastated. My autism doesn't know what to do and keeps trying to pull away. My ADHD can only think of a million crafts to start for them, which I have, and then I remember (again) that they don't have room and asked for no gifts.
I don't know what to do now. I know they aren't picking to move away, and that they love me, but I also feel abandoned a little bit.
I'm very worried our friendship will fizzle out too. They usually do ☹️
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I need some support here.
(I want to preface this by saying I would never tell my friends this, I know what they are going through is much harder than what I am going through, this is why I came to y'all!)
Background (you can skip if you want): When I first moved to my city I didn't know anyone. I had an abusive (soon to be ex) husband and was having some major issues with my disability (I could barely walk). I spent a year only hanging out with my stbx. Well, he abused me, and threatened to kill my cat and me, so I kicked him out. I started over on my own (I had no family or IRL friends at this point), and I moved into my own place and discovered I CAN take care of myself despite my disabilities. That I am capable and I don't NEED anyone.
Then I met my boyfriend who I now I live with and our friends. I met them at work and then we became fast friends, they then introduced us to their larger friend group. It was the first time that I'd felt like I belonged. They didn't judge me for being ND. There are 4 ND kids in their families and at least one other person is ND. And we all get along so great. I have NEVER had a community before and now I do. 😭😭😭😭 I'm sobbing as I write this.
Well, the initial 2 people we met have to leave for work. They are moving across the globe. I'm devastated. My autism doesn't know what to do and keeps trying to pull away. My ADHD can only think of a million crafts to start for them, which I have, and then I remember (again) that they don't have room and asked for no gifts.
I don't know what to do now. I know they aren't picking to move away, and that they love me, but I also feel abandoned a little bit.
I'm very worried our friendship will fizzle out too. They usually do ☹️
2024.05.21 22:08 lulu232410 Finally started losing weight and I have anxious thoughts
Hey all, I’m 5’1 CW:133 lbs, SW: 143 and GW: 123lbs. In the beginning of March I started calorie counting with an app (I aimed at 1200 calories and at 1400 on more active days). In the middle of April I was 4.5 pounds down and since the end of April I feel like I started losing weight at a faster pace (at the same time I stopped a medication for hormone imbalance). There are several days that I am at the same weight and then next week I lose 1-2 pounds in the matter of 2-3 days. I’ve read posts where people say that they lose faster in the beginning and after a while it is a more slow paced progress. As a person with health anxiety issues that was overweight during the last 10 years I just feel somehow weird and anxious that finally I am losing weight and that it happens so effortlessly this time since I had countless weight loss attempts (not with calorie counting) during the years and I didn’t stick to any of them for a longer period than one month. It just feels surreal that something is working. I even started thinking that I may have some health issue that aids my weight loss and similar counterproductive thoughts such as underestimating how much I was eating before starting calorie counting and forgetting that I was eating junk food several times a week.
I am aware that I sound overly anxious and weird, I was just wondering if any of you had similar thoughts and anxiety when they finally started losing weight, people noticed the weight loss and getting used to their new lifestyle, etc. I guess I never expected that I would feel that way when now I’m closer to my goal weight.
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I am aware that I sound overly anxious and weird, I was just wondering if any of you had similar thoughts and anxiety when they finally started losing weight, people noticed the weight loss and getting used to their new lifestyle, etc. I guess I never expected that I would feel that way when now I’m closer to my goal weight.
2024.05.21 22:07 Electronic-Arm-7685 enjoying my last 2 months
im 20 F , about to be 21 in about 5 months (about to join the under 21 club) & since the age of 5 ive had ocd. It came in stages , starting when in preschool and calming down for a few weeks until it found something else to obsess over. it took everything away from me but my final straw was when i was 17 and about to do my a levels that the years of constant back and fourth , always having to live like it was life or death caused me to have a break down.
because of that breakdown everything spiraled and i became practically bed ridden. I couldn't shower myself, i couldn't eat on my own , I couldn't do anything anymore and no amount of therapy or medication could fix it. Due to the stress , or well i assume it was because of the stress my cognitive ability hasnt been the same. My thoughts arent the same , everything has been fucking taken away from me.
After months of sleeping in my own piss because i was afraid of having my calves touch the toilet , having my mother feed me because i was too afriad to touch a fork and scrubbing the skin off my body i finally gave up and made a rather lazy attempt to od
Im grateful for my od though because it made me realize that i didnt want to live this way anymore and i started to expose myself to what i was afraid of.
fast foward a year and a half later. i am able to do things again, some would argue that im basically back to normal but that isnt the case.
it never disappeared, it never left , it took away my second chance and i dont have it in me to do this anymore.
my life is over , it'll always be over.
no matter how hard i try it'll never work out for me, i wish i died the first time.
ive made up my mind , i dont want to try anymore , im afraid even writing this because of the thoughts im having about all this. Im sick of it. Ive tried and im fucking done trying.
before I go , there's still things i want to do , i want to visit all the places nostalgic to my childhood, i want to watch all the movies that felt as if they meant the world to me when i first saw them , i want to take long drives and listen to my old playlists , i want to cultivate as much of good i can from what few things brought me peace
i dont expect anyone to read this but i had to say it somewhere
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because of that breakdown everything spiraled and i became practically bed ridden. I couldn't shower myself, i couldn't eat on my own , I couldn't do anything anymore and no amount of therapy or medication could fix it. Due to the stress , or well i assume it was because of the stress my cognitive ability hasnt been the same. My thoughts arent the same , everything has been fucking taken away from me.
After months of sleeping in my own piss because i was afraid of having my calves touch the toilet , having my mother feed me because i was too afriad to touch a fork and scrubbing the skin off my body i finally gave up and made a rather lazy attempt to od
Im grateful for my od though because it made me realize that i didnt want to live this way anymore and i started to expose myself to what i was afraid of.
fast foward a year and a half later. i am able to do things again, some would argue that im basically back to normal but that isnt the case.
it never disappeared, it never left , it took away my second chance and i dont have it in me to do this anymore.
my life is over , it'll always be over.
no matter how hard i try it'll never work out for me, i wish i died the first time.
ive made up my mind , i dont want to try anymore , im afraid even writing this because of the thoughts im having about all this. Im sick of it. Ive tried and im fucking done trying.
before I go , there's still things i want to do , i want to visit all the places nostalgic to my childhood, i want to watch all the movies that felt as if they meant the world to me when i first saw them , i want to take long drives and listen to my old playlists , i want to cultivate as much of good i can from what few things brought me peace
i dont expect anyone to read this but i had to say it somewhere
2024.05.21 22:07 ThrowRA45678920 My (30 F) husband (30 M) only loves me when I am sick. What should I do?
For some context, I got married to my husband B, over 1 year ago and I cannot help but wonder if my husband loves me or not? So, back 2 years ago, I got married to B, over arranged marriage because in my culture it's a good option and culturally appropriate since my pervious boyfriend's were all jerks. So, during initial interactions, B was very calm and mature with me and seemed a genuinely nice guy. It also really added to his good looks and high income that I could not refuse the offer and also after a few interaction we decided to get married. But as soon, as we got married, he started interacting less and less with me, I mean he did not even spent the first night with me, and over 3 months our bedroom life was quite dry.
He was still a good partner to have, if I asked for some moeny he will give me no questions asked, he was not jealous or abusive, but it was just like living with a roommate, I did try to spice up things, but he would always reject me or turn me down, in fits, I would also curse him or try to argue with him but he just ignored me most of these times. In between all this, my job got the better of me and I got sick due to overworking. I could not care less about telling him as I thought it would just anger him so I just took a leave and spent the whole day in the bed, but to my surprise when B got home and saw me sick, he started to be really caring and asked me why did I not tell him earlier or how bad was it etc. During the 4 days which my fever remained, he quitely took all over the house chores got me breakfast, lunch and dinner, and regularly took care of me, he even slept close to me while regularly using ice strips. It was during those days that I first saw him actually show me a warm smile and while serving me breakfast. Even before leaving for work, he would cook meals for me and left me special notes in case of emergency. At first I was skeptical as to how much can a person change so I did not respond much to him as he did to me usually.
After I got well, he reverted back to the old pattern. And this situation happened two more times, around the third time I asked him why he is he being so nice to me all this time and not to me usually when I am more healthy, I mentioned that at the start of our marriage I literally begged for some of his attention and now he is literally taking days off of work to acre for me? After patiently listening to all this, he got really flustered and embarrased and just left my room. I felt bad for saying all this to him and the next day when he brought me breakfast as usual, I apologized to him and he said it's okay and water under the bridge. But what happened yesterday really shook me, see until yesterday I thought he did not really love and was forced in this marriage by his parents which is what usually happens in arranged marriages.
But yesterday, when I was trying to sleep, he opened my door and brought a glass of warm water and kept it beside and after a few seconds, he literally whispered "I love you.", and I felt a soft kiss on my forehead. He left while giggling and I was so excited and confused, I just could not sleep all night. I am writing this today all sleep deprived and confused, what to do now? Is he just manipulating me, gaslighting me or does he actually care?
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He was still a good partner to have, if I asked for some moeny he will give me no questions asked, he was not jealous or abusive, but it was just like living with a roommate, I did try to spice up things, but he would always reject me or turn me down, in fits, I would also curse him or try to argue with him but he just ignored me most of these times. In between all this, my job got the better of me and I got sick due to overworking. I could not care less about telling him as I thought it would just anger him so I just took a leave and spent the whole day in the bed, but to my surprise when B got home and saw me sick, he started to be really caring and asked me why did I not tell him earlier or how bad was it etc. During the 4 days which my fever remained, he quitely took all over the house chores got me breakfast, lunch and dinner, and regularly took care of me, he even slept close to me while regularly using ice strips. It was during those days that I first saw him actually show me a warm smile and while serving me breakfast. Even before leaving for work, he would cook meals for me and left me special notes in case of emergency. At first I was skeptical as to how much can a person change so I did not respond much to him as he did to me usually.
After I got well, he reverted back to the old pattern. And this situation happened two more times, around the third time I asked him why he is he being so nice to me all this time and not to me usually when I am more healthy, I mentioned that at the start of our marriage I literally begged for some of his attention and now he is literally taking days off of work to acre for me? After patiently listening to all this, he got really flustered and embarrased and just left my room. I felt bad for saying all this to him and the next day when he brought me breakfast as usual, I apologized to him and he said it's okay and water under the bridge. But what happened yesterday really shook me, see until yesterday I thought he did not really love and was forced in this marriage by his parents which is what usually happens in arranged marriages.
But yesterday, when I was trying to sleep, he opened my door and brought a glass of warm water and kept it beside and after a few seconds, he literally whispered "I love you.", and I felt a soft kiss on my forehead. He left while giggling and I was so excited and confused, I just could not sleep all night. I am writing this today all sleep deprived and confused, what to do now? Is he just manipulating me, gaslighting me or does he actually care?
2024.05.21 22:07 Stefankx1 Sweden doesn’t have that low NET salaries
I read a lot about that everyone thinks that Sweden has such low salaries. But I don’t agree, I don’t think Sweden has low salaries when talking about the median NET pay. I don’t compare to countries outside of Europe. Not everyone is an engineer, programmer or working in finance. I’m talking about the average person on the street. I am not saying Sweden has the one of the best salaries but definitely not the worst. Different countries have different tax and insurance systems and we need to compare net pay here. The money in your hand after tax and insurance to use for consumption.
Let’s take me for example. I work as a project manager and planning architect in the local government in Stockholm and I have 40k gross and 32k NET. All taxes and insurances are already paid when I get my 32k SEK. The payroll tax is paid by my employer and that includes insurances and other stuffs. I’m 31 years old and have 4 years of experience. So with 32k SEK I can do whatever I want with it. This salary has allowed me to afford to buy a newly constructed studio in Täby park which is considered one of the better areas to live in the Stockholm area. I travel every month and I wear a 5000 SEK suit. I often have fika 2-3 times a week and maybe have a dinner somewhere once a week. I don’t drink alcohol. I spend around 310 SEK for great sushi for two. That’s 26,7€. My life is comfortable and I have Friday as a weekend. I don’t feel poor when I travel and I’ve been to NYC, LA, and Switzerland recent year. So I don’t think that my salary is that low in an international context. Converted to euro it’s around 2726€ net, and with that money I pay my mortgage and living costs. My mortgage and housing costs including utilities are around 7500 SEK which isn’t expensive I think, that’s like 647€. My gym is around 1499 SEK a year after the friskvårdsbidrag. After traveling to over 100 countries I don’t find Sweden more expensive than other western European countries. I am not including alcohol here. The housing is definitely cheaper than other Western European countries. Buying an apartment seems to be very difficult in other Western European countries.
From my research only Denmark, Norway, Luxembourg, and Switzerland have significantly higher salaries than Sweden. London is also a bit higher but that’s a special case. The Netherlands, Germany, Austria, Ireland, UK, Belgium, Finland are give and take similar levels as Sweden depending on the job. I am talking about NET pay now. After all deductions, taxes, and insurances are paid. Some jobs better some worse. Sweden does good on average jobs and worse in the top level ones. But I do find Sweden competitive still. Yes engineers make more money in Germany. But how about cashier workers?
Nominal gross national income per capita in $ of some countries:
Norway 95,510 Luxembourg 91,200 Switzerland 89,145 USA 76,370 Denmark 73,200
Sweden 62,990 Netherlands 57,430 Austria 56,140 Finland 54,360 Germany 53,390 UK 48,890 Belgium 48,700 France 45,860
Source: World Bank
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/List_of_countries_by_GNI_(nominal)_per_capita?wprov=sfti1#Methodology
As you can see Sweden is doing okay. So please don’t call Sweden poor. I don’t compare to countries outside of Europe as they have a different environment all together. USA shouldn’t be mentioned in an European context. So my conclusion is that Sweden isn’t bad when it comes to money compared to European countries, rather decent. Yes it’s not the top 5. Yes it’s not great compared to USA.
TL;DR: People say that salaries are so low in Sweden but I actually think they are okay. Yes Sweden isn’t one of the best but it’s not worst either. I’m talking about median NET pay for normal average jobs. Not talking about engineering and IT. Sweden isn’t that bad what everyone claims it to be. I’m not comparing to USA. For 2726€ NET you will afford a decent life in Stockholm as I do.
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Let’s take me for example. I work as a project manager and planning architect in the local government in Stockholm and I have 40k gross and 32k NET. All taxes and insurances are already paid when I get my 32k SEK. The payroll tax is paid by my employer and that includes insurances and other stuffs. I’m 31 years old and have 4 years of experience. So with 32k SEK I can do whatever I want with it. This salary has allowed me to afford to buy a newly constructed studio in Täby park which is considered one of the better areas to live in the Stockholm area. I travel every month and I wear a 5000 SEK suit. I often have fika 2-3 times a week and maybe have a dinner somewhere once a week. I don’t drink alcohol. I spend around 310 SEK for great sushi for two. That’s 26,7€. My life is comfortable and I have Friday as a weekend. I don’t feel poor when I travel and I’ve been to NYC, LA, and Switzerland recent year. So I don’t think that my salary is that low in an international context. Converted to euro it’s around 2726€ net, and with that money I pay my mortgage and living costs. My mortgage and housing costs including utilities are around 7500 SEK which isn’t expensive I think, that’s like 647€. My gym is around 1499 SEK a year after the friskvårdsbidrag. After traveling to over 100 countries I don’t find Sweden more expensive than other western European countries. I am not including alcohol here. The housing is definitely cheaper than other Western European countries. Buying an apartment seems to be very difficult in other Western European countries.
From my research only Denmark, Norway, Luxembourg, and Switzerland have significantly higher salaries than Sweden. London is also a bit higher but that’s a special case. The Netherlands, Germany, Austria, Ireland, UK, Belgium, Finland are give and take similar levels as Sweden depending on the job. I am talking about NET pay now. After all deductions, taxes, and insurances are paid. Some jobs better some worse. Sweden does good on average jobs and worse in the top level ones. But I do find Sweden competitive still. Yes engineers make more money in Germany. But how about cashier workers?
Nominal gross national income per capita in $ of some countries:
Norway 95,510 Luxembourg 91,200 Switzerland 89,145 USA 76,370 Denmark 73,200
Sweden 62,990 Netherlands 57,430 Austria 56,140 Finland 54,360 Germany 53,390 UK 48,890 Belgium 48,700 France 45,860
Source: World Bank
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/List_of_countries_by_GNI_(nominal)_per_capita?wprov=sfti1#Methodology
As you can see Sweden is doing okay. So please don’t call Sweden poor. I don’t compare to countries outside of Europe as they have a different environment all together. USA shouldn’t be mentioned in an European context. So my conclusion is that Sweden isn’t bad when it comes to money compared to European countries, rather decent. Yes it’s not the top 5. Yes it’s not great compared to USA.
TL;DR: People say that salaries are so low in Sweden but I actually think they are okay. Yes Sweden isn’t one of the best but it’s not worst either. I’m talking about median NET pay for normal average jobs. Not talking about engineering and IT. Sweden isn’t that bad what everyone claims it to be. I’m not comparing to USA. For 2726€ NET you will afford a decent life in Stockholm as I do.
2024.05.21 22:07 nonamebrand0 Sick of everything costing so much money
Just venting. After 7 months of no work and scrambling for literally pennies for bus fare, I finally got a job. But if course it's costs tons of money!
Bus fare is gonna be like $80 for the first few weeks til a check comes in.
Then they need a first aid course. Of course I have to pay for it. I do not have money for this . I had to grovel to my narcissist mother for help. After hours of unbearable communication with her, I eventually got signed up for it.
Only to find out they do not supply the mandatory pocket mask...fml! So again I'm scrambling to find one. Do they have it in store at Walmart or LD? Of course not. Now I've gotta pay to ride the bus for 2 hrs to go to a local supply store to find one.
I'm just exhausted.
Every single job is like this.im already underwater with all my bills it's gonna be like a month and a half to come out from under that, but these costs keep dinging me non stop.
Other jobs it's always something, like steel toe shoes or a fancy shirt for server, or some kind of specific uniform or something...
Ok end rant.
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Bus fare is gonna be like $80 for the first few weeks til a check comes in.
Then they need a first aid course. Of course I have to pay for it. I do not have money for this . I had to grovel to my narcissist mother for help. After hours of unbearable communication with her, I eventually got signed up for it.
Only to find out they do not supply the mandatory pocket mask...fml! So again I'm scrambling to find one. Do they have it in store at Walmart or LD? Of course not. Now I've gotta pay to ride the bus for 2 hrs to go to a local supply store to find one.
I'm just exhausted.
Every single job is like this.im already underwater with all my bills it's gonna be like a month and a half to come out from under that, but these costs keep dinging me non stop.
Other jobs it's always something, like steel toe shoes or a fancy shirt for server, or some kind of specific uniform or something...
Ok end rant.
2024.05.21 22:07 WonderbreadCrackhead Could this be a dream sent from god?
(To preface I am religious. If you are not it’s all good haha just want some opinions on the timing of this dream) Yesterday I was having a really bad day, I have experienced a lot of trauma in my life (26m) and was beating myself up particularly hard yesterday. The devil was winning, I was calling myself a failure, feeling a sense that I really needed help mentally. I prayed last night that god could give me a sign to stop being afraid and live in the present moment more. I then had the absolute craziest sequence of dreams I’ve ever had in my life. These were complete lucid dreams where I was completely aware I was in the dream, and I was a 100% healthy fit version of myself. It was set in Lake Tahoe (where I live) and in the dream I saw a colorful and intricate version of life to say the least. I was able to jump super high and not get injured, I was able to control what I did in that reality. I was having conversations with people about how I was in a dream. I saw detailed versions of my self that I have never seen with my own eyes. I was incredibly confident. It’s hard to explain dreams but it was just beautiful. I woke up this morning convinced that there are other realities (provided by god) beyond this earth, and that through that dream god is telling me that everything will be ok, because beyond this earth there is something much bigger. I now feel so much better, aware, and in the present moment. I feel like I’m absolutely done living with anxiety after what was revealed in that dream. Could god have sent me this because I was down so bad yesterday? So happy I got a sign. God Bless. I cannot stop thinking about how amazing it was.
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2024.05.21 22:07 Chris1858 Life direction feels daunting
Hi y'all. I'm making this post honestly because I don't know what else to do. I'm male 29years old in california. I've had quite a few different jobs and paths in my life by now but lately I'm really struggling on where to go with my life and how to make money to support myself. I've worked in restaurants, been a freelance photographer for years, a freelance dancer, and some other random fun things, but I don't feel like I have anything under my belt that is a high value skill in todays job marketplace. I'm also a college dropout.
My ideal life and job has me outside and in the world a lot, not particularly always with people but sometimes I am with people. I'm not at a desk 100% of the time for SURE. I want to feel like I'm either inspiring others, adding joyful value to their lives, or being of service in a positive and impactful way. Many jobs out there right now do not feel like that, which leads to me burnout extremely fast because I can't stand spending my time on arbitrary things just to make someone else more money. I'm really personable and friendly and I have been praised for my intelligence and competence which has made me more confident in knowing my value, but I just can't quite figure out how to translate that to a job.
I guess I'm just here to see if anyone else feels like this or if anyone has any suggestions for where a person like me would thrive. I'm not tied down to anyone or anything so I'm free to chase what feels right in my life. I'd love to move out of the US at some point too.
I've been hustling since I was 16 and I'm honestly getting so spiritually and mentally exhausted by the rat race and I just want to make enough money to finally feel a sense of stability and to mitigate the uncertainty. Since middle school I've been seeking guidance to help me with my direction to no avail. I'm reaching the end of my rope and feel like I'm going to mentally break. Just seeking some help I guess. Thanks in advance🙏
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My ideal life and job has me outside and in the world a lot, not particularly always with people but sometimes I am with people. I'm not at a desk 100% of the time for SURE. I want to feel like I'm either inspiring others, adding joyful value to their lives, or being of service in a positive and impactful way. Many jobs out there right now do not feel like that, which leads to me burnout extremely fast because I can't stand spending my time on arbitrary things just to make someone else more money. I'm really personable and friendly and I have been praised for my intelligence and competence which has made me more confident in knowing my value, but I just can't quite figure out how to translate that to a job.
I guess I'm just here to see if anyone else feels like this or if anyone has any suggestions for where a person like me would thrive. I'm not tied down to anyone or anything so I'm free to chase what feels right in my life. I'd love to move out of the US at some point too.
I've been hustling since I was 16 and I'm honestly getting so spiritually and mentally exhausted by the rat race and I just want to make enough money to finally feel a sense of stability and to mitigate the uncertainty. Since middle school I've been seeking guidance to help me with my direction to no avail. I'm reaching the end of my rope and feel like I'm going to mentally break. Just seeking some help I guess. Thanks in advance🙏
2024.05.21 22:07 nburlock Bleeding Tumor
 | My female dachshund is 16 years old. She developed this little tumor on the side of her head years ago. It has been aggressively growing as of late and bleeding non-stop. The amount of blood can be concerning and it is sometimes clotty. We have an appointment with our vet coming up. submitted by nburlock to PetAdvice [link] [comments] In the meantime, does anyone have advice on how to get it to stop bleeding? It’s on the side of her neck, closer to her face. We’ve tried bandaids, wraps with gauze, and a cone, but nothing works or it gets irritated even more due to the location. Could this be cancerous? Last exam they said it was benign, but the rate of growth has me thinking otherwise. |
2024.05.21 22:07 Objective_Coconut822 Too soon for reconciliation?
Several years ago, my BP cheated on me, physically with one person (a drunken one night stand) and an emotional affair with person (a "friend" I always had bad feelings about - texting inappropriate pics, sharing loving feelings with each other and talking badly about me). This was only a few months into us dating, but I didnt find out until 2 and a half years and moving in together. They were extremely remorseful, claimed they were planning on telling me, and ultimately did everything right as far as helping me heal and reconcile. I felt like it took about 2-3 months for me to decide I was ready to forgive and move on. But I did. I mean, I never really forgot it, and still would look at the both of the AP's social media accts and would compare myself to them constantly. But overall, I felt like we were in a good place after a few months and really did come out stronger. My trust in them was restored and we were good. We got engaged, got married, bought a new house. We were truly happy.
About 2 and a half months ago I had an emotional affair, texting and talking on the phone, with an old friend who lives in another state, that lasted a little under two weeks. This friend and I did share a history of hooking up, but this was years ago when we were teens/early 20's. They had reached out kind of out of nowhere, to tell me their marriage was on the rocks. I expressed sympathy and offered support. Then they went on to tell me they have always been in love with me, for 22 years. I was taken aback. In hindsight, I wish so badly I had just shown my spouse this text right away. But I stupidly thought I could just handle it on my own and avoid making them uncomfortable (again...huge regret). Anyway, I told them that I cared deeply for them, but that I was happily married and boundaries needed to be respected. They agreed. We continued to text, at first just innocent things about what we had been up to over the past few years since we last saw each other. Then they told me they had made a suicide attempt recently. This scared and upset me, so I went on to tell them how much I loved them. They then told me I "saved their life" by telling them this, because they had been in such a bad place. The texts just got out of control after that. I am not saying that to act like I had no control. I know I did. But I started to feel feelings for them (or I thought I did) and honestly, was eating up the ego boost they were giving me. Messed up, I know. I have serious insecurities and vulnerability when it comes to people from my past. Again, no excuse. Anyway, eventually it lead to us being really inappropriate, talking about our past sexual moments with each other, how much we wanted to see eachother, how great it would be, etc. I sent them a picture of me, no nudity, but definitely suggestive.
Shortly after that, the guilt consumed me, I blocked their number, and I confessed to my spouse. I admittedly trickle truthed at first, saying it was all the AP, but as the conversation went on, I admitted I also reciprocated, told them I loved them, talked about sex, and sent them a photo of me. Spouse was of course pissed and devastated.
The NEXT day, AP's spouse texted me. They said they knew all along. AP had been deleting our texts, but they still saw everything on their phone records. Shockingly, they werent flipping out on me. They actually said that their marriage was terrible for years, that this was mild compared to other things AP had done, and this was finally their "out". They actually even thanked me. But of course, also said this was real disgusting of both of us. They said that they could have reached out to my spouse several times but didn't. They said they had possession of Ap's phone (including the picture), and that everything they had would be destroyed after their divorce was final. They also told me that AP manipulated me (that they use threats of suicide all the time), and that even though I was wrong too, it was AP "who sunk their claws into me". They told me to show my spouse what they were saying so that maybe it would help. I did, and it did help a little bit. They also said they believe I am a good person. All of this was a relief to hear, even though I didnt feel deserving of such grace. They said that I could give my spouse their number if they ever needed to vent, but that they wouldnt pull up the facts they had because that is not helpful or healthy. Spouse didnt want to do that. All of my texts with them had already been deleted on my phone, which I had done in state of panic before confessing. So my spouse hasnt actually seen anything that was said and has only my words to go off of.
After about three days of talking and crying, and me telling BP how remorseful I was and that I would do anything to save us, BP said they wanted to work through this and stay with me. I was relieved of course, but still felt so awful, and honestly, still scared that they will leave. At one point, they even said they felt like they deserved this because of their cheating. And that what they did was worse because they actually physically slept with someone else. I told them that I didnt feel that way at all.
Flash forward, Dday was almost three months ago. We are in MC and our own IC weekly. I am still a wreck and consumed with guilt, shame, and fear for our future. BP, at least on the outisde, is seemingly doing fine. They said they already forgiven me (they are still "mad" but they are ready to move on). They believe me when I say I would never do this again. I know for a fact I would never. They dont talk about the infidelity, only if I bring it up (saying how sorry I am and asking if they are okay). Recently they said that they are tired of worrying about how i am doing (fair!). They are tired of the heavy conversations. They just want us to be "normal" again. I want that too, but... is this rugsweeping? Is their past cheating possibly the reason they seem so quick to forgive?
In everythig I am reading about affairs, it says reconcillation can take 3-5 years. Is it realistic that some people really do move on after just 3 months? I just dont want them to surpess their feelings. I want to be their for them and work through this together. But they are tired of talking about it. Again, this is totally fair. I just worry it isnt healthy. Then again, l felt ready to move on after just a few months.
I would really love to hear from successful reconcillors who maybe were the exception to the 3-5 year rule. Everyone is different, and of course as strangers, you dont know my spouse personally so you cant say for sure, but given what I have told you about our story, what are your thoughts?
I am looking for those who have direct experiences with this. Please refrain from negativity such as "No one gets over it that soon, things will be never be the same, etc" I promise I am aware of the harsh reality that not all marriages survive infidelity and that the road to recovery is long and really hard. I am willing to do the work, I am working on changing, and I will do anything to reconcille this and rebuild BP's trust in me (I know that also means forgiving myself, which is proving very difficult, but I am trying!) Thanks in advance!!
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About 2 and a half months ago I had an emotional affair, texting and talking on the phone, with an old friend who lives in another state, that lasted a little under two weeks. This friend and I did share a history of hooking up, but this was years ago when we were teens/early 20's. They had reached out kind of out of nowhere, to tell me their marriage was on the rocks. I expressed sympathy and offered support. Then they went on to tell me they have always been in love with me, for 22 years. I was taken aback. In hindsight, I wish so badly I had just shown my spouse this text right away. But I stupidly thought I could just handle it on my own and avoid making them uncomfortable (again...huge regret). Anyway, I told them that I cared deeply for them, but that I was happily married and boundaries needed to be respected. They agreed. We continued to text, at first just innocent things about what we had been up to over the past few years since we last saw each other. Then they told me they had made a suicide attempt recently. This scared and upset me, so I went on to tell them how much I loved them. They then told me I "saved their life" by telling them this, because they had been in such a bad place. The texts just got out of control after that. I am not saying that to act like I had no control. I know I did. But I started to feel feelings for them (or I thought I did) and honestly, was eating up the ego boost they were giving me. Messed up, I know. I have serious insecurities and vulnerability when it comes to people from my past. Again, no excuse. Anyway, eventually it lead to us being really inappropriate, talking about our past sexual moments with each other, how much we wanted to see eachother, how great it would be, etc. I sent them a picture of me, no nudity, but definitely suggestive.
Shortly after that, the guilt consumed me, I blocked their number, and I confessed to my spouse. I admittedly trickle truthed at first, saying it was all the AP, but as the conversation went on, I admitted I also reciprocated, told them I loved them, talked about sex, and sent them a photo of me. Spouse was of course pissed and devastated.
The NEXT day, AP's spouse texted me. They said they knew all along. AP had been deleting our texts, but they still saw everything on their phone records. Shockingly, they werent flipping out on me. They actually said that their marriage was terrible for years, that this was mild compared to other things AP had done, and this was finally their "out". They actually even thanked me. But of course, also said this was real disgusting of both of us. They said that they could have reached out to my spouse several times but didn't. They said they had possession of Ap's phone (including the picture), and that everything they had would be destroyed after their divorce was final. They also told me that AP manipulated me (that they use threats of suicide all the time), and that even though I was wrong too, it was AP "who sunk their claws into me". They told me to show my spouse what they were saying so that maybe it would help. I did, and it did help a little bit. They also said they believe I am a good person. All of this was a relief to hear, even though I didnt feel deserving of such grace. They said that I could give my spouse their number if they ever needed to vent, but that they wouldnt pull up the facts they had because that is not helpful or healthy. Spouse didnt want to do that. All of my texts with them had already been deleted on my phone, which I had done in state of panic before confessing. So my spouse hasnt actually seen anything that was said and has only my words to go off of.
After about three days of talking and crying, and me telling BP how remorseful I was and that I would do anything to save us, BP said they wanted to work through this and stay with me. I was relieved of course, but still felt so awful, and honestly, still scared that they will leave. At one point, they even said they felt like they deserved this because of their cheating. And that what they did was worse because they actually physically slept with someone else. I told them that I didnt feel that way at all.
Flash forward, Dday was almost three months ago. We are in MC and our own IC weekly. I am still a wreck and consumed with guilt, shame, and fear for our future. BP, at least on the outisde, is seemingly doing fine. They said they already forgiven me (they are still "mad" but they are ready to move on). They believe me when I say I would never do this again. I know for a fact I would never. They dont talk about the infidelity, only if I bring it up (saying how sorry I am and asking if they are okay). Recently they said that they are tired of worrying about how i am doing (fair!). They are tired of the heavy conversations. They just want us to be "normal" again. I want that too, but... is this rugsweeping? Is their past cheating possibly the reason they seem so quick to forgive?
In everythig I am reading about affairs, it says reconcillation can take 3-5 years. Is it realistic that some people really do move on after just 3 months? I just dont want them to surpess their feelings. I want to be their for them and work through this together. But they are tired of talking about it. Again, this is totally fair. I just worry it isnt healthy. Then again, l felt ready to move on after just a few months.
I would really love to hear from successful reconcillors who maybe were the exception to the 3-5 year rule. Everyone is different, and of course as strangers, you dont know my spouse personally so you cant say for sure, but given what I have told you about our story, what are your thoughts?
I am looking for those who have direct experiences with this. Please refrain from negativity such as "No one gets over it that soon, things will be never be the same, etc" I promise I am aware of the harsh reality that not all marriages survive infidelity and that the road to recovery is long and really hard. I am willing to do the work, I am working on changing, and I will do anything to reconcille this and rebuild BP's trust in me (I know that also means forgiving myself, which is proving very difficult, but I am trying!) Thanks in advance!!
2024.05.21 22:07 BigfanofGeese Where is the line on SA with a very drunk girl and a kinda high man?
Is it SA if I was blacking out and he was kinda high? (Help)
Hi! Last night I (19f) got incredibly intoxicated while with a group of teenagers at work. The older man there (31m) had apparently had a few hits of his dab pen, and maybe 3-4 shots of alcohol. I was about 10-14 shots in, and could not properly stand by myself, requiring support from others to walk without falling. He invited me back to his house to see some cool posters he has (we all live right by each other, it’s seasonal work) and when we got there (which I do not actually remember walking all the way to) he took his clothes off. I wanted to leave but could not find my phone to text or call for help so I stayed and he had sex with me. I never said yes or no, and I was ‘browning’ out (idk that’s what my friend says it is) I do remember telling him no sex without protection and he said he didn’t have any so I thought it would be over but then he started with head and I don’t remember how but he ended up having sex with me without protection for a long time. My question is how high or fucked up could he have been for it to be ok to invite a girl who’s 12 years younger to his place, ignore her condition and her one verbal boundary? I need to decide whether to report this to management because we all live in the same place and I don’t know if that was a mistake on his part or if he was also equally impaired, or if it was him taking advantage of a young girl. Should I get him fired and removed from property? Or just ignore the whole thing?
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Hi! Last night I (19f) got incredibly intoxicated while with a group of teenagers at work. The older man there (31m) had apparently had a few hits of his dab pen, and maybe 3-4 shots of alcohol. I was about 10-14 shots in, and could not properly stand by myself, requiring support from others to walk without falling. He invited me back to his house to see some cool posters he has (we all live right by each other, it’s seasonal work) and when we got there (which I do not actually remember walking all the way to) he took his clothes off. I wanted to leave but could not find my phone to text or call for help so I stayed and he had sex with me. I never said yes or no, and I was ‘browning’ out (idk that’s what my friend says it is) I do remember telling him no sex without protection and he said he didn’t have any so I thought it would be over but then he started with head and I don’t remember how but he ended up having sex with me without protection for a long time. My question is how high or fucked up could he have been for it to be ok to invite a girl who’s 12 years younger to his place, ignore her condition and her one verbal boundary? I need to decide whether to report this to management because we all live in the same place and I don’t know if that was a mistake on his part or if he was also equally impaired, or if it was him taking advantage of a young girl. Should I get him fired and removed from property? Or just ignore the whole thing?