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2024.05.21 15:49 DAWs0nnn Trans Friendly Jobs? (Knoxville, TN)
Trans-Friendly Jobs?
So I've been without a job on and off for a decent while now. I'm tired of working in kitchens and I'm tired of corporations for that matter. I have a lot of experience in customer service and I have a servsafe certification, but I'd rather not work for a big corporation...
My past 2 jobs I was bullied out of. This had nothing to do with my skill set and efficiency, but discrimination against me because I'm a trans woman. The first time I was almost kinda numb to bec of the surrounding issues at the time, but the 2nd one was more direct and in my face serious. I haven't gone back to work since due to mental health issues.
I just want somewhere to work where I can feel safe and welcomed and just go in day in and day out and be at least somewhat proud of my own work. I would also prefer a decent pay and hours
If anyone has any places or ideas, please don't hesitate to drop them below.
Thank you all and I hope you're having a good day!!!!
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So I've been without a job on and off for a decent while now. I'm tired of working in kitchens and I'm tired of corporations for that matter. I have a lot of experience in customer service and I have a servsafe certification, but I'd rather not work for a big corporation...
My past 2 jobs I was bullied out of. This had nothing to do with my skill set and efficiency, but discrimination against me because I'm a trans woman. The first time I was almost kinda numb to bec of the surrounding issues at the time, but the 2nd one was more direct and in my face serious. I haven't gone back to work since due to mental health issues.
I just want somewhere to work where I can feel safe and welcomed and just go in day in and day out and be at least somewhat proud of my own work. I would also prefer a decent pay and hours
If anyone has any places or ideas, please don't hesitate to drop them below.
Thank you all and I hope you're having a good day!!!!
2024.05.21 15:47 landlocked_throwaway The Sadness is On Me
As the child of middle-American white people, the kind of family that forgot who they were and where they came from once they got here, almost my entire life has been a search for identity. Not in the angsty teenage sense that found so many of us stoned in suburban basements trading minor, unoriginal insights as glorious revelations from barely dipping our toes in the real world. I've never been able to find much out about my paternal lineage, but the past decade or so I'd thrown myself hard into the Irish identity of my mother's family. They aren't overtly or openly Irish, but at least the lineage is apparent and traceable. At times, that identity has given perspective, purpose, and meaning, like the uncomfortable "White Privilege" political discourses at Thanksgiving. Y'know, fun shit like that.
Like a lot of people, I grew up in some fucked up things. I don't think it's of any particular use to itemize or describe those circumstances but I've known much of violence, violation, and a variance of heartbreak. These things are not unique to me.
I've struggled relentlessly with self-worth for most of my life. Since my early childhood. I cannot say it's entirely bad, but I suppose the wonderful times (which have truly been wonderful; I've been afforded some experiences lots of people haven't in life) are still outweighed by the negative. The dark parts are markedly dark and abundant. In the midst of this self-discovery journey, I held out hope for a long time that I would make it back home. Back to see Ireland, the Small Sea...visit the East End of Glasgow to see where my family fled, before they made the trans-Atlantic journey to lose themselves in American identity. Venture to Northern Ireland to see the H-Block, where James Sands starved himself in protest against English occupation. Purpose and dignity in the harsh Atlantic seaboard, where it can be said that there's no sadness quite like a Celtic sadness.
I think of this often when I think about the English word 'home' and the layers of meaning it conjures. How we tie it not just to a building, but to family. Warmth, comfort, safety and security. Those sentiments can all come sprawling forth from those four letters. In Irish Gaelic, there are probably four or five different words for this based on context, and I remember how difficult I found Irish at first because there is no possessive verb meaning 'to have'; things are either at, on, or with you. In English, the word 'sorry' comes from 'sorrow', or more specifically being full of sorrow on account of oneself. Colloquialism and the evolution of language brought us a more direct way to apologize in both menial day-to-day interaction and times we genuinely must feel awful for what we've done. English is like that, full of matter-of-fact efficiency.
To say "I'm sorry" in Irish now, you would say "tá brón orm", which I guess most literally translates to say "sadness is on me". To say you were sad at the moment, you would say "tá mé brónach", more literally "I am sadness".
I think a lot about Ireland lately. You cannot run away from your problems entirely, no, but I do think you can change your environment. I think about history, of people repeatedly forced into economic exile for centuries, losing their language and constantly occupied by foreign rule. There's been a melancholy in how I exist that probably owes a great deal to this lineage but I've failed to see it, much less harness it. I wish I'd taken a more particular and driven interest in the language before it was too late, especially as I don't think there's a more accurate description of what I feel but for how the Irish say 'sorry'.
The sadness is on me.
In Scottish Gaelic, the word 'cianalas' is one of nostalgia, of profound longing and homesickness...in Welsh, 'hiraeth'. In English, the sappy and sentimental of whom I find myself amongst often liken the word 'home' to people. We find a home in someone, in a person who purposefully made a space for us in the last place we expect to find it. There was a time when I had found this. I was too cocky, too smart for my own good, too sure I'd outgrown the fucked up that I'd come from. I thought I fell too far from it to let the wood rot of my family tree creep in.
I didn't just lose my home. There were no tragic circumstances. I acted poorly, disgracefully, selfishly and in bathed in a darkness inside me I never knew I was capable of. I didn't just lose my home, I set it aflame and burned it to nothing, kicking about in the ashes after and I've still got the nerve to live each day tinged with a deeper grief and sadness than I never knew existed. In this life, I am both the Irish and the English.
The sadness is on me.
It's no longer a profound sadness that longs for the fogged beauty of inland bog or rocky sea shore, or the beautiful person who rivaled such wonder. It's a sadness that aches, that has outpaced time to settle deep in my bones before father time could take my joints. It taunts me to look at what I've done, what I've become, in a dark home with dusty mirrors. Stalks me while I walk my dog. It tells me that everything in the world is a loaded gun in my hands and to use it on myself before hurt someone else again. It tells me that I still have potential and that I will waste it all.
I have been a liar, a cheater, a disgrace. I have acted in direct defiance of everything I thought I believed and I never knew I was capable. I don't know of any other way to fix this.
The sadness is on me.
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Like a lot of people, I grew up in some fucked up things. I don't think it's of any particular use to itemize or describe those circumstances but I've known much of violence, violation, and a variance of heartbreak. These things are not unique to me.
I've struggled relentlessly with self-worth for most of my life. Since my early childhood. I cannot say it's entirely bad, but I suppose the wonderful times (which have truly been wonderful; I've been afforded some experiences lots of people haven't in life) are still outweighed by the negative. The dark parts are markedly dark and abundant. In the midst of this self-discovery journey, I held out hope for a long time that I would make it back home. Back to see Ireland, the Small Sea...visit the East End of Glasgow to see where my family fled, before they made the trans-Atlantic journey to lose themselves in American identity. Venture to Northern Ireland to see the H-Block, where James Sands starved himself in protest against English occupation. Purpose and dignity in the harsh Atlantic seaboard, where it can be said that there's no sadness quite like a Celtic sadness.
I think of this often when I think about the English word 'home' and the layers of meaning it conjures. How we tie it not just to a building, but to family. Warmth, comfort, safety and security. Those sentiments can all come sprawling forth from those four letters. In Irish Gaelic, there are probably four or five different words for this based on context, and I remember how difficult I found Irish at first because there is no possessive verb meaning 'to have'; things are either at, on, or with you. In English, the word 'sorry' comes from 'sorrow', or more specifically being full of sorrow on account of oneself. Colloquialism and the evolution of language brought us a more direct way to apologize in both menial day-to-day interaction and times we genuinely must feel awful for what we've done. English is like that, full of matter-of-fact efficiency.
To say "I'm sorry" in Irish now, you would say "tá brón orm", which I guess most literally translates to say "sadness is on me". To say you were sad at the moment, you would say "tá mé brónach", more literally "I am sadness".
I think a lot about Ireland lately. You cannot run away from your problems entirely, no, but I do think you can change your environment. I think about history, of people repeatedly forced into economic exile for centuries, losing their language and constantly occupied by foreign rule. There's been a melancholy in how I exist that probably owes a great deal to this lineage but I've failed to see it, much less harness it. I wish I'd taken a more particular and driven interest in the language before it was too late, especially as I don't think there's a more accurate description of what I feel but for how the Irish say 'sorry'.
The sadness is on me.
In Scottish Gaelic, the word 'cianalas' is one of nostalgia, of profound longing and homesickness...in Welsh, 'hiraeth'. In English, the sappy and sentimental of whom I find myself amongst often liken the word 'home' to people. We find a home in someone, in a person who purposefully made a space for us in the last place we expect to find it. There was a time when I had found this. I was too cocky, too smart for my own good, too sure I'd outgrown the fucked up that I'd come from. I thought I fell too far from it to let the wood rot of my family tree creep in.
I didn't just lose my home. There were no tragic circumstances. I acted poorly, disgracefully, selfishly and in bathed in a darkness inside me I never knew I was capable of. I didn't just lose my home, I set it aflame and burned it to nothing, kicking about in the ashes after and I've still got the nerve to live each day tinged with a deeper grief and sadness than I never knew existed. In this life, I am both the Irish and the English.
The sadness is on me.
It's no longer a profound sadness that longs for the fogged beauty of inland bog or rocky sea shore, or the beautiful person who rivaled such wonder. It's a sadness that aches, that has outpaced time to settle deep in my bones before father time could take my joints. It taunts me to look at what I've done, what I've become, in a dark home with dusty mirrors. Stalks me while I walk my dog. It tells me that everything in the world is a loaded gun in my hands and to use it on myself before hurt someone else again. It tells me that I still have potential and that I will waste it all.
I have been a liar, a cheater, a disgrace. I have acted in direct defiance of everything I thought I believed and I never knew I was capable. I don't know of any other way to fix this.
The sadness is on me.
2024.05.21 15:47 OldMotherDemdikeV2 Should I turn down the job?
I'd be grateful if people could help me decide.
I'm due to start a new job in a month. I've also been asked to leave my house as my landlord wants to sell, although I think he can be flexible when I should be out. It's proving impossible to find somewhere appropriate to live that I can afford and know I won't hate. Therefore, I decided to move in with my dad for a while, which I would then be able to pay off my debts, save some real money, pay for my post grad course.
I didn't initially ask my new job about remote working as I simply assumed it would be, as most jobs in my area are, so it was my fault. They never mentioned this either. When I finally asked, they explained it's 3 days in office. Unfortunately, that's just not going to be feasible as the commute will be approximately 4 hours a day. I asked if any accommodations can be made but I got a response that actually, on paper, it's a full time in office job, they expect me to attend full time for the first 2 months, and from then onwards I could work from home but I may have to come in more than 3 days if there are meetings. I'm not sure why I'm just being informed of this at the 11th hour. I simply can't do that commute every day.
I could potentially stay in my current job and as it's fully remote, still move to my family house.
I could potentially take the new role and stay in my current house whilst I have to work from my office full time however, my landlord is making this an uncomfortable and hostile environment because I think he wants me out asap. It's hard to live here. However, after the full time period is over, I could move to my family house, and suck up the commute. I'm conscious my landlord can ask me to leave at any point though.
I'm concerned my new role seem to be moving the goalposts and just not informing me and it's generally not flexible whatsoever. The new role pays £7k more but it's a significant step back career wise and will harm future opportunities. I love my current job but I needed the money, but now I'm being asked to leave my house, obviously my whole circumstances have changed and I will no longer need to pay living costs.
Anyone can give some wise advice?
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I'm due to start a new job in a month. I've also been asked to leave my house as my landlord wants to sell, although I think he can be flexible when I should be out. It's proving impossible to find somewhere appropriate to live that I can afford and know I won't hate. Therefore, I decided to move in with my dad for a while, which I would then be able to pay off my debts, save some real money, pay for my post grad course.
I didn't initially ask my new job about remote working as I simply assumed it would be, as most jobs in my area are, so it was my fault. They never mentioned this either. When I finally asked, they explained it's 3 days in office. Unfortunately, that's just not going to be feasible as the commute will be approximately 4 hours a day. I asked if any accommodations can be made but I got a response that actually, on paper, it's a full time in office job, they expect me to attend full time for the first 2 months, and from then onwards I could work from home but I may have to come in more than 3 days if there are meetings. I'm not sure why I'm just being informed of this at the 11th hour. I simply can't do that commute every day.
I could potentially stay in my current job and as it's fully remote, still move to my family house.
I could potentially take the new role and stay in my current house whilst I have to work from my office full time however, my landlord is making this an uncomfortable and hostile environment because I think he wants me out asap. It's hard to live here. However, after the full time period is over, I could move to my family house, and suck up the commute. I'm conscious my landlord can ask me to leave at any point though.
I'm concerned my new role seem to be moving the goalposts and just not informing me and it's generally not flexible whatsoever. The new role pays £7k more but it's a significant step back career wise and will harm future opportunities. I love my current job but I needed the money, but now I'm being asked to leave my house, obviously my whole circumstances have changed and I will no longer need to pay living costs.
Anyone can give some wise advice?
2024.05.21 15:47 Extreme-Lavishness57 Is it me pero most lowball clients are either bastos or ipe-pressure ka to do other stuff outside ng role mo or both?
Hi! So I started finding job since last year tas noong January 2024 lang ako nakahanap. Medyo di ko kasi priority last year maghanap dahil may online business ako.
First client na ko noong January eh SMM niya ako. Then long story short pina-SEO ako tas wala pang 2 months of working with her eh hinahanapan ako ng sale. Red flag na talaga noong pinipilit niya ako na dumiretso content creation ng wala man lang research like audit or analysis. Ang pay is $4/ hour tapos 10 hours a week pero iyong results na dinedemand niya eh halos pang-full time na. Pero maybe it's taking me a really long time to do the task kasi first client ko and nagja-juggle ako between SEO tas content creation.
THIS ONE IS LONG
Then ito recently nirefer ako ng current client ko sa parner niya last week. Within the first hours of communicating with him eh he is very rude. Like ganto gist ng conversation namin:
Me: Sorry, I'll fix it. Him: It's common sense, it should be quick and easy. But it's taking you a long time.
Ang mistake ko diyan is nagkamali lang ako name ng file. Hindi niya ako tinatawag na stupid or anything naman. Pero the way na makipag usap siya eh very sarcastic. Then after non sinabihan ko siya na hindi ako kumportable someone watching me work kasi pinapanood niya paano ako gumawa etc. tapos sinabi ko talaga na kulang kami pareho sa tulog kaya I understand kung bakit siya maa-attitude. Then after non di niya na ako pinapanood tas nagawa ko naman task ng mabilisan. Natuwa naman siya tas nag-offer ng pang snacks eneme pero sabi ko saka na.
Then ngayon-ngayon lang tinutulugan ko siya hanapan ng another partner sa work niya. Then naghanap ako tas finorward ko contact niya sa mga nahanap ko para makausap niya. Then sabi niya wala pa raw nagco-contact sa kanya (feeling ko most ng nag-apply eh taga-US eh madalimg araw pa lang kanina sa kanila) tas sabi ko gagawa ako ng another job post ulit tas sabihan ko siya tomorrow.
Then sabi niya bigla "what did you today" then sinabi ko ginawa ko including na pag-work ng 3 hours kanina kasi plan ko mag continue maya-maya after namin mag-usap. Then sabi niya akala niya nagwowork ako 8-10 hours a day. From there it proceeded na wala raw akong time sa job na to and maghanap raw ako kapalit ko.
For the record, he told me from the beginning na I can work for 24 hours and flexible as long na nagagawa ko trabaho ko. Ang tanging job description ko lang is gumawa invoice. Yes yun lang then bigla niya na lang ako pinahanap ng ka-partner niya. So ako naman si tanga naghanap eh ang task ko lang naman is gumawa invoice. More like a data entry job.
I feel really angry and frustrated. Not because of them, pero dahil sa akin. Lagi akong nakaka-attract ng mga gantong clients na laging nampe-pressure to do other things outside my role tapos lowball pa. I feel like I do not communicate myself clearly and establish boundaries early on kaya nate-take advantage ako.
A quick update writing this: Iyong current client naghahanap ng kapalit niya para di na siguro siya magwork doon sa rude niyang partner.
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First client na ko noong January eh SMM niya ako. Then long story short pina-SEO ako tas wala pang 2 months of working with her eh hinahanapan ako ng sale. Red flag na talaga noong pinipilit niya ako na dumiretso content creation ng wala man lang research like audit or analysis. Ang pay is $4/ hour tapos 10 hours a week pero iyong results na dinedemand niya eh halos pang-full time na. Pero maybe it's taking me a really long time to do the task kasi first client ko and nagja-juggle ako between SEO tas content creation.
THIS ONE IS LONG
Then ito recently nirefer ako ng current client ko sa parner niya last week. Within the first hours of communicating with him eh he is very rude. Like ganto gist ng conversation namin:
Me: Sorry, I'll fix it. Him: It's common sense, it should be quick and easy. But it's taking you a long time.
Ang mistake ko diyan is nagkamali lang ako name ng file. Hindi niya ako tinatawag na stupid or anything naman. Pero the way na makipag usap siya eh very sarcastic. Then after non sinabihan ko siya na hindi ako kumportable someone watching me work kasi pinapanood niya paano ako gumawa etc. tapos sinabi ko talaga na kulang kami pareho sa tulog kaya I understand kung bakit siya maa-attitude. Then after non di niya na ako pinapanood tas nagawa ko naman task ng mabilisan. Natuwa naman siya tas nag-offer ng pang snacks eneme pero sabi ko saka na.
Then ngayon-ngayon lang tinutulugan ko siya hanapan ng another partner sa work niya. Then naghanap ako tas finorward ko contact niya sa mga nahanap ko para makausap niya. Then sabi niya wala pa raw nagco-contact sa kanya (feeling ko most ng nag-apply eh taga-US eh madalimg araw pa lang kanina sa kanila) tas sabi ko gagawa ako ng another job post ulit tas sabihan ko siya tomorrow.
Then sabi niya bigla "what did you today" then sinabi ko ginawa ko including na pag-work ng 3 hours kanina kasi plan ko mag continue maya-maya after namin mag-usap. Then sabi niya akala niya nagwowork ako 8-10 hours a day. From there it proceeded na wala raw akong time sa job na to and maghanap raw ako kapalit ko.
For the record, he told me from the beginning na I can work for 24 hours and flexible as long na nagagawa ko trabaho ko. Ang tanging job description ko lang is gumawa invoice. Yes yun lang then bigla niya na lang ako pinahanap ng ka-partner niya. So ako naman si tanga naghanap eh ang task ko lang naman is gumawa invoice. More like a data entry job.
I feel really angry and frustrated. Not because of them, pero dahil sa akin. Lagi akong nakaka-attract ng mga gantong clients na laging nampe-pressure to do other things outside my role tapos lowball pa. I feel like I do not communicate myself clearly and establish boundaries early on kaya nate-take advantage ako.
A quick update writing this: Iyong current client naghahanap ng kapalit niya para di na siguro siya magwork doon sa rude niyang partner.
2024.05.21 15:47 thedrakeequator Rent From Friend, Or Try My Luck with a Property Management Company?
Hi Everyone
I finished an IT degree in 2023 and I just started my first IT job 3 months ago. It doesn't pay well, and I have debt from some unemployed spurts over the last 12 months. But overall I'm in a good career place.
I stayed with my family for most of school, but moved out in 2022 and have been renting a room from a guy I met on Reddit for 2 years. Its cheep, college student type housing, not very fancy. But the guy is trustworthy, stable, reasonable and easy to get along with. I rent a bedroom and the homeowner has the top floor of the house.
Anyway my roommate just got an amazing job where is managing services on a state level, meaning he will have to move to the State Capitol in July. I have 2 options.
Option 1 Pros: I trust the guy, I have known him for 2 years and I know his family. The house I'm living in will eventually appreciate a lot due to its proximity to a college stadium, and the owner is conflict adverse. So he is incentivized to just keep a stable tenant in as long as possible, meaning rent hikes or sellouts are low probability. This is likely the cheaper option, as I should be able to get each of the college students to pay $650.
Option 2 Cons: I have to deal with 1-2 college students. We live next to a prestigious university, and If I'm lucky I can get some stable, boring international grad students who just want to study all day. But everyone knows bringing in college kids is rolling the dice.
Option 2 Pros: Independence and simplicity, no roommates, shorter commute to my job (on the side of town opposite the university.)
Option 2 Cons: I have to deal with a for-profit corporation being my landlord. I'm scared of annual rent increases. The People charge a $30 application fee and a $50 lease fee. I haven't played the rental game in a while, but right off the bat that makes me nervous. I also don't really know how much electricity/wateInternet will cost. Where as I know the exact amount at the other house.
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I finished an IT degree in 2023 and I just started my first IT job 3 months ago. It doesn't pay well, and I have debt from some unemployed spurts over the last 12 months. But overall I'm in a good career place.
I stayed with my family for most of school, but moved out in 2022 and have been renting a room from a guy I met on Reddit for 2 years. Its cheep, college student type housing, not very fancy. But the guy is trustworthy, stable, reasonable and easy to get along with. I rent a bedroom and the homeowner has the top floor of the house.
Anyway my roommate just got an amazing job where is managing services on a state level, meaning he will have to move to the State Capitol in July. I have 2 options.
- Take over house, rent a year long lease and try to get 1 or 2 college student roommates. The overall cost is about $1800/month.
- Move into my own apartment, rent is around $700 (I work in a very poor neighborhood) Cover bills myself, and deal with a property management company.
Option 1 Pros: I trust the guy, I have known him for 2 years and I know his family. The house I'm living in will eventually appreciate a lot due to its proximity to a college stadium, and the owner is conflict adverse. So he is incentivized to just keep a stable tenant in as long as possible, meaning rent hikes or sellouts are low probability. This is likely the cheaper option, as I should be able to get each of the college students to pay $650.
Option 2 Cons: I have to deal with 1-2 college students. We live next to a prestigious university, and If I'm lucky I can get some stable, boring international grad students who just want to study all day. But everyone knows bringing in college kids is rolling the dice.
Option 2 Pros: Independence and simplicity, no roommates, shorter commute to my job (on the side of town opposite the university.)
Option 2 Cons: I have to deal with a for-profit corporation being my landlord. I'm scared of annual rent increases. The People charge a $30 application fee and a $50 lease fee. I haven't played the rental game in a while, but right off the bat that makes me nervous. I also don't really know how much electricity/wateInternet will cost. Where as I know the exact amount at the other house.
2024.05.21 15:46 Tygress23 Am I the cloaca for showing restraint?
Hello, frens! I am Dexter, 12yo goodest boy. Things have been very confusing for a lot of days and weeks and I do not know how to make sense. Yesterday Mommy called me a cloaca and so I must ask if she is right.
First, you must know that Mommy is the most important person ever. She gives cuddles and snuggles and I must always do protecc no matter what. But since the year changed, Mommy has been sad and crying a lot, she cannot stand or do walkies and I get food late because she cannot reach the bowl place. She says OW all the time. I try to figure out if maybe I step on her tail or something but she says OW when I am not even in same room as her so I don’t think it’s my fault.
A bunch of days ago - about 14 - Mommy had stopped going to bed upstairs and was sleeping on the couch. This was great because I could look outside and snuggle Mommy at the same time. She tried to stand up to go for potty and made a very big OW and didn’t get to the potty, she wound up laying on the floor! I stayed right next to her to help. Daddy had to come in and he made me go outside. Then a bunch of strangers came and took her away. I didn’t know where she went. Daddy’s friend Anthony and Mommy’s friend Auntie Lelah came to visit at the same time and stayed with Daddy to help with me and other things.
But Mommy stayed gone. I didn’t know if she would come back. It was a really big OW. Daddy would leave every day and come back with some Mom smell on him. But also weird other smells too.
Anyway, yesterday Auntie Lelah told me Mommy was coming home! I didn’t believe her. She told me mom had SURJERY on her back and it was all better but would take time for Mommy to be strong again for walkies. (That’s ok, I have a fence and make a patrol every day.) She said I had to be careful and not hurt Mommy. No big or little OWs.
So here is where I don’t know if I am a cloaca. Mommy did actually come home! I hadn’t seen her in a long time and I sniffed her and it was really her! But I didn’t let her pet me and I didn’t sit on her and I only leaned on her leg for a few seconds before running away so I wouldn’t hurt her like Auntie Lelah said. But Mommy said, “TWO WEEKS I haven’t seen you and you won’t let me pet you!” Then I jumped on Daddy more.
I did cuddle last night so I think she forgives but I just don’t want to make Mommy mad. Am I the cloaca for ignoring Mommy after she spent 2 weeks away due to big OW in back?
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First, you must know that Mommy is the most important person ever. She gives cuddles and snuggles and I must always do protecc no matter what. But since the year changed, Mommy has been sad and crying a lot, she cannot stand or do walkies and I get food late because she cannot reach the bowl place. She says OW all the time. I try to figure out if maybe I step on her tail or something but she says OW when I am not even in same room as her so I don’t think it’s my fault.
A bunch of days ago - about 14 - Mommy had stopped going to bed upstairs and was sleeping on the couch. This was great because I could look outside and snuggle Mommy at the same time. She tried to stand up to go for potty and made a very big OW and didn’t get to the potty, she wound up laying on the floor! I stayed right next to her to help. Daddy had to come in and he made me go outside. Then a bunch of strangers came and took her away. I didn’t know where she went. Daddy’s friend Anthony and Mommy’s friend Auntie Lelah came to visit at the same time and stayed with Daddy to help with me and other things.
But Mommy stayed gone. I didn’t know if she would come back. It was a really big OW. Daddy would leave every day and come back with some Mom smell on him. But also weird other smells too.
Anyway, yesterday Auntie Lelah told me Mommy was coming home! I didn’t believe her. She told me mom had SURJERY on her back and it was all better but would take time for Mommy to be strong again for walkies. (That’s ok, I have a fence and make a patrol every day.) She said I had to be careful and not hurt Mommy. No big or little OWs.
So here is where I don’t know if I am a cloaca. Mommy did actually come home! I hadn’t seen her in a long time and I sniffed her and it was really her! But I didn’t let her pet me and I didn’t sit on her and I only leaned on her leg for a few seconds before running away so I wouldn’t hurt her like Auntie Lelah said. But Mommy said, “TWO WEEKS I haven’t seen you and you won’t let me pet you!” Then I jumped on Daddy more.
I did cuddle last night so I think she forgives but I just don’t want to make Mommy mad. Am I the cloaca for ignoring Mommy after she spent 2 weeks away due to big OW in back?
2024.05.21 15:46 Eastern-Birthday2644 Discussion/Questions on Bugs
 | Okay, so I've made a lot of posts here about various bugs I've had, but I kinda wanted to condense it and see if anything isn't a bug, and what I am confusing for a bug, just trying to get some input on what is actually wrong with my game so I know. So I'll just give a list of things that I'm trying to figure out, in order from my most annoying bugs to mildest bugs. If you want, please put some bugs you guys have had in the comments, just so we can pile in all of the games issues here, and have a discussion. submitted by Eastern-Birthday2644 to SoloLevelingArise [link] [comments]
TLDR: ranting about bugs, and wanting input, also, feel free to comment about your bugs here as well, we can have a discussion if you feel like it. |
2024.05.21 15:46 Difficult-Advance-11 Open cyst in lake/Wound care
Hi guys! I have an open boil for the first time in years. It’s already popped, hasn’t filled back up, and is basically a gaping wound in my bikini line. Currently taking Spiro, two weeks of Doxy, washing with hibiclens, and applying clindamycin. I’m planning to go to a lake this weekend and need opinions on wound dressings! I think I’m going to do this tagiderm: https://www.walgreens.com/store/c/nexcare-pad-transparent-dressing,-2-3/8-in-x-4-in/ID=prod392539-product Not gonna keep it on for multiple days, will probably change every day and wash with hibiclens.
Need opinions on if I need to keep it moist? Like a neosporin type situation (I know that’s not good to use, I just mean if anyone has alternatives)
Any advice is welcome, thanks!
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Need opinions on if I need to keep it moist? Like a neosporin type situation (I know that’s not good to use, I just mean if anyone has alternatives)
Any advice is welcome, thanks!
2024.05.21 15:46 Zestycorgi1962 Dizzy, lightheaded, weak
I 61f am 5 weeks in doing IF with keto 18/6 without much problems with cravings. I’ve embraced the morning hunger and try to keep busy to keep my mind off it, but the past couple days have noticed new symptoms upon starting my day with dizzy, lightheaded weakness where it’s exhausting showering and dressing. I take Dr Berg electrolyte powder for one of my glasses of water but usually take it after opening my window. Is it ok to take it first thing in the morning without breaking my fast, and do you think it would help with my symptoms?
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2024.05.21 15:46 frannyorzooeyjds How do I (24F) navigate going forward after a conversation I had with my boyfriend (22M) about us moving in together?
TLDR: My boyfriend denied remembering asking me to move in with him but says he still wants to. I don't like how he chose to approach this and I don't know how to go forward. How do I navigate this?
PSA English isn't my first language
Setting the scene: I (24F) had a bad fight with my mother (F59) yesterday afternoon and my boyfriend (M22) came over to my apartment to console me. A little background on my mother - she has suffered narcissistic abuse and sometimes uses damaging tactics to win small argument. She gets defensive and says things she doesn't mean and always apologises (she is getting help) but yesterday she had a particularly nasty episode that really hurt me and left me crying once I got home. I called my boyfriend to vent and he came over to console me. I had stopped crying by the time he got there and we went back to his place where I curled up in his bed, scrolled through social media to distract myself while he worked on his laptop at his desk.
We didn't really talk about anything other than his work, his day, his plans for the week and my fight with my mother until we fell asleep. Just after I fell asleep he woke me up to tell me that I shouldn't be upset if we don't end up moving in together at the end of the year like we had discussed. I asked what he meant thinking that the place we wanted might not be available anymore or he was having financial issues, but he told me no he just hadn't made up his mind about moving in together yet. I said something along the lines of "Why did you ask me to move in with you if you hadn't made up your mind yet?" to which he responded that he doesn't remember ever asking me and that according to him we had only ever discussed it as a possibility.
Background: We hadn't talked about moving in before he had asked me casually over dinner two months ago if I would move in with him when his roommate moved back to his home county come end 2024. This is all many months away and I said yes thinking it gave us lots of time to adjust to the idea making the whole transition easier.
At this point I was tired, drained from my argument with my mother, suddenly felt like I was being rejected and like this just came out of nowhere so couldn't stop myself from letting a tear or two slip (not real crying though) while talking. He said I was being overly emotional, that the only reason he said anything was so that I wouldn't get upset and he didn't want to discuss it further. I told him I was just caught off guard and wanted to understand where he was coming from. We talked it through and he said that while he still wanted to move in with me he wasn't sure he would be ready at the end of the year. I said I understood and I never wanted him to feel pressured and would never want to move in with a partner who didn't want to be there. We just went to sleep after that.
Last night I told myself I'd just let it go and wait for him to decide what he wanted but now I'm confused, sad and thinking I should probably take this more seriously. It felt like he had a late-night spiral and spoke without really considering the state I was in, the effect it would have on me or what he really wanted out of the conversation as he has since gone back to saying that he definitely wants to live with me he's just intimidated by taking such a big step in a relationship.
Basically I want to navigate this so that he's not pressured into anything, but he still understands that I don't have as much confidence in our future as I had before. How do I bring this up with him without pushing him too hard?
Relevant information:
I'm his first serious adult relationship
we have been officially dating for more than a year
we both have very good relationships with each other's friends and families
his parents have just recently had a messy divorce
he mentioned his mother doesn't seem keen on us moving in together though they haven't directly discussed it
neither of us are particularly religious
we have only had two serious disagreements and both times were caused by him drinking too much and subsequently getting hurt but we quickly moved past all that
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PSA English isn't my first language
Setting the scene: I (24F) had a bad fight with my mother (F59) yesterday afternoon and my boyfriend (M22) came over to my apartment to console me. A little background on my mother - she has suffered narcissistic abuse and sometimes uses damaging tactics to win small argument. She gets defensive and says things she doesn't mean and always apologises (she is getting help) but yesterday she had a particularly nasty episode that really hurt me and left me crying once I got home. I called my boyfriend to vent and he came over to console me. I had stopped crying by the time he got there and we went back to his place where I curled up in his bed, scrolled through social media to distract myself while he worked on his laptop at his desk.
We didn't really talk about anything other than his work, his day, his plans for the week and my fight with my mother until we fell asleep. Just after I fell asleep he woke me up to tell me that I shouldn't be upset if we don't end up moving in together at the end of the year like we had discussed. I asked what he meant thinking that the place we wanted might not be available anymore or he was having financial issues, but he told me no he just hadn't made up his mind about moving in together yet. I said something along the lines of "Why did you ask me to move in with you if you hadn't made up your mind yet?" to which he responded that he doesn't remember ever asking me and that according to him we had only ever discussed it as a possibility.
Background: We hadn't talked about moving in before he had asked me casually over dinner two months ago if I would move in with him when his roommate moved back to his home county come end 2024. This is all many months away and I said yes thinking it gave us lots of time to adjust to the idea making the whole transition easier.
At this point I was tired, drained from my argument with my mother, suddenly felt like I was being rejected and like this just came out of nowhere so couldn't stop myself from letting a tear or two slip (not real crying though) while talking. He said I was being overly emotional, that the only reason he said anything was so that I wouldn't get upset and he didn't want to discuss it further. I told him I was just caught off guard and wanted to understand where he was coming from. We talked it through and he said that while he still wanted to move in with me he wasn't sure he would be ready at the end of the year. I said I understood and I never wanted him to feel pressured and would never want to move in with a partner who didn't want to be there. We just went to sleep after that.
Last night I told myself I'd just let it go and wait for him to decide what he wanted but now I'm confused, sad and thinking I should probably take this more seriously. It felt like he had a late-night spiral and spoke without really considering the state I was in, the effect it would have on me or what he really wanted out of the conversation as he has since gone back to saying that he definitely wants to live with me he's just intimidated by taking such a big step in a relationship.
Basically I want to navigate this so that he's not pressured into anything, but he still understands that I don't have as much confidence in our future as I had before. How do I bring this up with him without pushing him too hard?
Relevant information:
I'm his first serious adult relationship
we have been officially dating for more than a year
we both have very good relationships with each other's friends and families
his parents have just recently had a messy divorce
he mentioned his mother doesn't seem keen on us moving in together though they haven't directly discussed it
neither of us are particularly religious
we have only had two serious disagreements and both times were caused by him drinking too much and subsequently getting hurt but we quickly moved past all that
2024.05.21 15:45 Dizzy-Squirrel9610 Still here :)
I'm the lady who thought she got a bat bite in the backyard while throwing my daughter a birthday party. Cant remember the account name I used to post here at that time. I thought I'd hop on here because today I got a sore throat and my immediate thought was "It's probably rabies."
That's how OCD works. This thought will plague me until my sore throat goes away. My brain will do mental gymnastics to try to calm itself and it won't work. Now, I could make it a million times worst by checking to make sure I can still swallow every few minutes, checking my temperature, investigating the site of my non existent bite to see if it tingles or is itchy, googling for reassurance, asking for reassurance on this sub etc etc. But then the OCD would only stay longer. And after eight months I say f*** that.
I''d rather put up with these scary thoughts for a day or two. Just sit with them and feel afraid, than fuel the OCD. OCD is a monster and when you perform those compulsions you just feed it and it grows bigger and scarier.
If you are on this sub today seeking reassurance, try to stop yourself. You know it won't help you because nobody can tell you with 100% certainty that you don't have rabies. That's what you are asking for and no one can give that to you.
Try to immerse yourself in an activity. Mine was slow cooking. I cooked complicated recipes, my family ate like royalty. I had a silly little dance that I did when the thoughts got so bad I thought I was gonna explode.
I had setbacks. Stupid rabies OCD kept flaring up, so I would repeat the process. I even started having nerve issues in my foot which was the site of the "bat bite." Those were tough days. My Dad had a brain injury, my daughter was in a car accident and I dealt with both. I was there with my family, showed up for my kids. You can't do that when you're online compulsively asking, searching, pleading for certainty that can't be had.
Pick a hobby. Immerse yourself. Notice the thoughts. This fear will lessen. It will be more than tolerable. Some days you will even laugh at yourself and the thoughts. The whole thing will become a joke even while it's still sometimes scary. You can do it.
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That's how OCD works. This thought will plague me until my sore throat goes away. My brain will do mental gymnastics to try to calm itself and it won't work. Now, I could make it a million times worst by checking to make sure I can still swallow every few minutes, checking my temperature, investigating the site of my non existent bite to see if it tingles or is itchy, googling for reassurance, asking for reassurance on this sub etc etc. But then the OCD would only stay longer. And after eight months I say f*** that.
I''d rather put up with these scary thoughts for a day or two. Just sit with them and feel afraid, than fuel the OCD. OCD is a monster and when you perform those compulsions you just feed it and it grows bigger and scarier.
If you are on this sub today seeking reassurance, try to stop yourself. You know it won't help you because nobody can tell you with 100% certainty that you don't have rabies. That's what you are asking for and no one can give that to you.
Try to immerse yourself in an activity. Mine was slow cooking. I cooked complicated recipes, my family ate like royalty. I had a silly little dance that I did when the thoughts got so bad I thought I was gonna explode.
I had setbacks. Stupid rabies OCD kept flaring up, so I would repeat the process. I even started having nerve issues in my foot which was the site of the "bat bite." Those were tough days. My Dad had a brain injury, my daughter was in a car accident and I dealt with both. I was there with my family, showed up for my kids. You can't do that when you're online compulsively asking, searching, pleading for certainty that can't be had.
Pick a hobby. Immerse yourself. Notice the thoughts. This fear will lessen. It will be more than tolerable. Some days you will even laugh at yourself and the thoughts. The whole thing will become a joke even while it's still sometimes scary. You can do it.
2024.05.21 15:45 feelingbr0ken I think I ruined my partners life even though he said I havent.
So. I 18F got my with my 18M partner nearly 2 years ago.
Now for a little background my partners mother is incredibly toxic. Ignored her sons mental health, blamed others for his problems and multiple times tried to ruin her sons father's image to me when we started dating.
I'm a very open and out there person, and was taught by my family to express my feelings and not hide. So when I saw my partner hiding his feelings and hiding his issues I told him to stop. To start seeking help and confide in me. Which in turn then turned into him snapping and shouting his true fears and anger at his family when they bugged him.
They then blamed me for his mental health being in the ground and tried to make him leave me, but he chose to stay. Further down the line I had to save him from suicide a couple times or harm. This made them hate me more as I asked them many times to help him and said things like he was faking it to it wasn't my business.
Eventually things died down a little. They still told him to leave me but it never worked.
Then last year my mother passed away very abruptly, my partner is a first aider but also someone I need, so I called him to come support me. His mother then told him and his step dad I was FAKING until she was outside and saw ambulances.
This made a huge wall between our families.
Things were still tense but died down, later in the year around September time, he moved in with me to escape his family and so we could see each other more and see his family whenever plans where made. Now my fiance is a very introverted person, and rarely makes plans and if he does he usually forgets or cancels. Which often ment he didn't see his family. (They also made no effort to see him) So since Nov ’23 up until yesterday they fought with him.
Telling people I was controlling him and never let him out. When I was actively trying to do the opposite even taking him to my own family outings to include him.
How the issue that's made me make this post.
On our 18th birthday in April we had a small fight as I'm very off with alcohol and don't really like it. He however likes to drink on occasion. We had plans but he went behind my back and planned a small get together when we got home from our plans with his family. Without me. I was upset but understood. I asked him not to drink much as I have a fear of vomiting and couldn't help him if he was drunk. He made a promise to me to be home by 10 and not be drunk. After ignoring me on both and coming home at midnight we fought but sorted the issue. However his mother hated I was messaging him for info. Called me a liar and controlling, saying he wasn't drinking and why does it matter where he is. I struggle with anxiety to an extent my partner made me get life360 so if I was worried I could check. And I had proof he was at a bar and he even showed me he was. Which I showed her and told her as his partner I'm not wrong to want to know he is ok. As I said we as a couple had already sorted the issue, she hadn't.
Over the past few days she's been telling him your coming home ECT ECT.
After the birthday issue I chose to go no contact with her, and if she's was adamant about speaking to me it would have to be in the presence of my father as she's made threats to hit and choke me. Well yesterday she called to say he's coming home now if buts or maybes and that she wanted to speak to me. As I said I didn't want to speak with her. So she threatened to come to our house. We told her no but she still came.
She shouted at my partner for nearly an hour to come down, to drag me to her to chat, even going as far to say I abuse him, speak for him and control him, threading to call the police and say I was abusing him.
As 18 year olds home alone I was scared, I called my father for advice and was told "either you call the police or I will and I won't hold my tongue" (references the threats she's made to me) so I did, the police came and took a statement and left.
Now this morning his mother basically said you have chosen to cut me off. (My family have said it was just a blackmail message) Saying she won't be there and how there relationship is over.
He was upset but told me it wasn't my fault but he did wish I just spoke to her.
His best friend who also doesn't like me for the "controlling" reasons. Has now told his gf who was also my friend that I've ruined him ECT ECT and she's now dropped me.
I've tried for almost 5months to avoid fights and I still ruined his mother, best friend and my friend. By not speaking.
I don't really know what to do I just wanted this off my chest.
It's highly likely any of the people from the story may find this.
Apologies for formatting and errors , on mobile and dyslexic. + Stressed fast typing.
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Now for a little background my partners mother is incredibly toxic. Ignored her sons mental health, blamed others for his problems and multiple times tried to ruin her sons father's image to me when we started dating.
I'm a very open and out there person, and was taught by my family to express my feelings and not hide. So when I saw my partner hiding his feelings and hiding his issues I told him to stop. To start seeking help and confide in me. Which in turn then turned into him snapping and shouting his true fears and anger at his family when they bugged him.
They then blamed me for his mental health being in the ground and tried to make him leave me, but he chose to stay. Further down the line I had to save him from suicide a couple times or harm. This made them hate me more as I asked them many times to help him and said things like he was faking it to it wasn't my business.
Eventually things died down a little. They still told him to leave me but it never worked.
Then last year my mother passed away very abruptly, my partner is a first aider but also someone I need, so I called him to come support me. His mother then told him and his step dad I was FAKING until she was outside and saw ambulances.
This made a huge wall between our families.
Things were still tense but died down, later in the year around September time, he moved in with me to escape his family and so we could see each other more and see his family whenever plans where made. Now my fiance is a very introverted person, and rarely makes plans and if he does he usually forgets or cancels. Which often ment he didn't see his family. (They also made no effort to see him) So since Nov ’23 up until yesterday they fought with him.
Telling people I was controlling him and never let him out. When I was actively trying to do the opposite even taking him to my own family outings to include him.
How the issue that's made me make this post.
On our 18th birthday in April we had a small fight as I'm very off with alcohol and don't really like it. He however likes to drink on occasion. We had plans but he went behind my back and planned a small get together when we got home from our plans with his family. Without me. I was upset but understood. I asked him not to drink much as I have a fear of vomiting and couldn't help him if he was drunk. He made a promise to me to be home by 10 and not be drunk. After ignoring me on both and coming home at midnight we fought but sorted the issue. However his mother hated I was messaging him for info. Called me a liar and controlling, saying he wasn't drinking and why does it matter where he is. I struggle with anxiety to an extent my partner made me get life360 so if I was worried I could check. And I had proof he was at a bar and he even showed me he was. Which I showed her and told her as his partner I'm not wrong to want to know he is ok. As I said we as a couple had already sorted the issue, she hadn't.
Over the past few days she's been telling him your coming home ECT ECT.
After the birthday issue I chose to go no contact with her, and if she's was adamant about speaking to me it would have to be in the presence of my father as she's made threats to hit and choke me. Well yesterday she called to say he's coming home now if buts or maybes and that she wanted to speak to me. As I said I didn't want to speak with her. So she threatened to come to our house. We told her no but she still came.
She shouted at my partner for nearly an hour to come down, to drag me to her to chat, even going as far to say I abuse him, speak for him and control him, threading to call the police and say I was abusing him.
As 18 year olds home alone I was scared, I called my father for advice and was told "either you call the police or I will and I won't hold my tongue" (references the threats she's made to me) so I did, the police came and took a statement and left.
Now this morning his mother basically said you have chosen to cut me off. (My family have said it was just a blackmail message) Saying she won't be there and how there relationship is over.
He was upset but told me it wasn't my fault but he did wish I just spoke to her.
His best friend who also doesn't like me for the "controlling" reasons. Has now told his gf who was also my friend that I've ruined him ECT ECT and she's now dropped me.
I've tried for almost 5months to avoid fights and I still ruined his mother, best friend and my friend. By not speaking.
I don't really know what to do I just wanted this off my chest.
It's highly likely any of the people from the story may find this.
Apologies for formatting and errors , on mobile and dyslexic. + Stressed fast typing.
2024.05.21 15:45 Akio_Cuki Beginner, not sure what to study
I started to learn to draw maybe 2 months ago and so far have actually drawn something on about half of those days. So I am 30 days in which maybe isnt very much but I feel like I have not progressed at all. I understand a few super basic things about body construction, vanishing points, lighting etc from watching YT videos.
Most of what I have done so far is find a random photo I like the look of and try draw it. I do initial construction first and build it up to draw the same thing, rather than just like trying to draw lines in the same place as the picture and copy it exactly.
What more can I do to practice? I see a lot of people saying drawing from reference is good, but so far that is all I have done and defo have not improved at all. Or is it just that 30 days is not long enough to see results? I usually pick things up much faster than this, but I have never tried to learn a creative skill before so I dont really know!
I feel like maybe I need some serious basics and fundementals as well. Are there any book recommendations that could be suitable for me as a beginner that can really walk me through what I should be doing? Some books I have seen mentioned in other posts, and some I have checked out from my local library, havent found anything yet that goes through steps from the very start.
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Most of what I have done so far is find a random photo I like the look of and try draw it. I do initial construction first and build it up to draw the same thing, rather than just like trying to draw lines in the same place as the picture and copy it exactly.
What more can I do to practice? I see a lot of people saying drawing from reference is good, but so far that is all I have done and defo have not improved at all. Or is it just that 30 days is not long enough to see results? I usually pick things up much faster than this, but I have never tried to learn a creative skill before so I dont really know!
I feel like maybe I need some serious basics and fundementals as well. Are there any book recommendations that could be suitable for me as a beginner that can really walk me through what I should be doing? Some books I have seen mentioned in other posts, and some I have checked out from my local library, havent found anything yet that goes through steps from the very start.
2024.05.21 15:45 curiouscreature99 Armaan - YRKKH
Want to understand the character Armaan towards the women in his life...He is not bad or villian or toxic...Just a complex character..
Vidya: He is son of Madhav's first wife whom Poddars didn't accepted. After his mother demise when he was a kid entered Poddar house and Vidya accepted his as her son. Dadi never failed to remind this to him and making him guilty about how his entry ruptured Vidya Madhav relationship. With guilty he is trying not to cause any problem to her because of him...What need to understand is Vidya and Madhav's relationship had gap when he hid his first marriage and married Vidya...He didn't do any mistake. Also, he is the rightful son of Poddars
Dadi: He always yearns for her acceptance. He want Dadi to feel him as her own heir. But she will never fail to differentiate between her choice and out of hers...Vidya is her choice and Madhav's first wife is not...So Rohit is outcome of choice while Armaan is not..She wanted Armaan on her tips. Now she is scared that he is Slipping like Madhav if he realize his feelings for Abhir which only she can see it...She want the control on him...what she donno is he will give his life for her, abhira tho kya
Ruhi : He liked her first time when he saw her May be he felt the instant connection with her. the intial sweet time didn't even lasted for few days..Ruhi just accepted another alliance just because he didn't show up on a date and didn't attend her call. When he came to engagement , he was shattered seeing Ruhi as his brother's fiance. What will anyone will do in this situation ..he is someone who don't want even unintentionally to hurt his family...Do you think he will go and say to family that I love the girl you chose for my brother? Ruhi still had the choice to reject but she married Rohit so that she can stay close to Armaan. Unfortunately Rohkt left after marriage , now Ruhi became his new responsibility. He thinks he ruined Ruhi's life just like Vidya's...He don't want to hurt her anyway..If only Ruhi tried to understand him for even 1% then she will know what Armaan wants actually
Abhira : Here come the lady who stirred his well planned robotic life like a tornado. She made him do all the things which he won't do even in dream..He stood for her infront of his family. He even willing to leave the house for her. He will running when something happens to her.He is ready to take bullet for her. He opposes all her fights at start but will stand with her like wall whether it is during her joining college plan or Charu internship or Krish dream fight. But divorce request from his Dadi shattered him...He can't say no to his dadi/family...He subconsciously wanted Abhira to fight on his behalf for their them for their relationship. But Abhira's silence made him feel that she also didn't accepted him fully like his family members. When she lied in court it his final hope . He did all the things he can for her to react but Abhira gave up. And he blames Abhira for it...He is not trying to see where he went wrong...He thinks Abhira want to leave him...whether he loves or not, we are not sure yet but if he loves her then he should stop leading on Ruhi and tell Abhira what he exactly feel
I am not his fan at all..Just wanted to give a chance to his character....He is not outright black character like other MLs of startplus
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Vidya: He is son of Madhav's first wife whom Poddars didn't accepted. After his mother demise when he was a kid entered Poddar house and Vidya accepted his as her son. Dadi never failed to remind this to him and making him guilty about how his entry ruptured Vidya Madhav relationship. With guilty he is trying not to cause any problem to her because of him...What need to understand is Vidya and Madhav's relationship had gap when he hid his first marriage and married Vidya...He didn't do any mistake. Also, he is the rightful son of Poddars
Dadi: He always yearns for her acceptance. He want Dadi to feel him as her own heir. But she will never fail to differentiate between her choice and out of hers...Vidya is her choice and Madhav's first wife is not...So Rohit is outcome of choice while Armaan is not..She wanted Armaan on her tips. Now she is scared that he is Slipping like Madhav if he realize his feelings for Abhir which only she can see it...She want the control on him...what she donno is he will give his life for her, abhira tho kya
Ruhi : He liked her first time when he saw her May be he felt the instant connection with her. the intial sweet time didn't even lasted for few days..Ruhi just accepted another alliance just because he didn't show up on a date and didn't attend her call. When he came to engagement , he was shattered seeing Ruhi as his brother's fiance. What will anyone will do in this situation ..he is someone who don't want even unintentionally to hurt his family...Do you think he will go and say to family that I love the girl you chose for my brother? Ruhi still had the choice to reject but she married Rohit so that she can stay close to Armaan. Unfortunately Rohkt left after marriage , now Ruhi became his new responsibility. He thinks he ruined Ruhi's life just like Vidya's...He don't want to hurt her anyway..If only Ruhi tried to understand him for even 1% then she will know what Armaan wants actually
Abhira : Here come the lady who stirred his well planned robotic life like a tornado. She made him do all the things which he won't do even in dream..He stood for her infront of his family. He even willing to leave the house for her. He will running when something happens to her.He is ready to take bullet for her. He opposes all her fights at start but will stand with her like wall whether it is during her joining college plan or Charu internship or Krish dream fight. But divorce request from his Dadi shattered him...He can't say no to his dadi/family...He subconsciously wanted Abhira to fight on his behalf for their them for their relationship. But Abhira's silence made him feel that she also didn't accepted him fully like his family members. When she lied in court it his final hope . He did all the things he can for her to react but Abhira gave up. And he blames Abhira for it...He is not trying to see where he went wrong...He thinks Abhira want to leave him...whether he loves or not, we are not sure yet but if he loves her then he should stop leading on Ruhi and tell Abhira what he exactly feel
I am not his fan at all..Just wanted to give a chance to his character....He is not outright black character like other MLs of startplus
2024.05.21 15:44 ashma_head Bike travel box storage help
Hi,
I am going to be bikepacking King Alfreds way next week. I'm looking for a place to store my bike travel box for the 5 days of riding, I am planning (25-30 May).
Normally I would reach out to local Bike shops and pay to keep the box there. However, when researching, I saw that all the shops are closed on the Sunday, when I was hoping to start.
Does anyone have any suggestions of other stores that might accommodating I could reach out to. I am happy to pay a decent amount!
I am really looking forward to the trip, It'll be my first time in the UK!
Cheers,
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I am going to be bikepacking King Alfreds way next week. I'm looking for a place to store my bike travel box for the 5 days of riding, I am planning (25-30 May).
Normally I would reach out to local Bike shops and pay to keep the box there. However, when researching, I saw that all the shops are closed on the Sunday, when I was hoping to start.
Does anyone have any suggestions of other stores that might accommodating I could reach out to. I am happy to pay a decent amount!
I am really looking forward to the trip, It'll be my first time in the UK!
Cheers,
2024.05.21 15:44 rikginge Any way to get a package in transit expedited?
Me my wife and daughter are going on vacation at the end of the week, I ordered 3 pairs of Nike shoes for us to take, requested Nike speed up the process to make it on time (Thursday) two pairs got here early, the other pair were supposed to be delivered Thursday but now ups changed the day to Friday?
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2024.05.21 15:44 Mammoth_2049 finished reading for the first time (spoiler review)
Embarrassingly enough this is actually the first time in a VERY long while that I have read and finished an entire book on my own. But I can say now that reading PHM was very fun and honestly may have reignited an interest in reading for me.
That being said I finished the book about a day ago and I’m kinda bored right now so here’s my review and some thoughts.
Things I liked: - I thought it was really cool how weir structured this story with the amnesia flashbacks. It was a very clever way of explaining what was going on, the totality of the situation, and gave the story a lot more depth. - Rocky was obviously awesome. I know this was probably the main thing Weir wanted to do but it really was cool to see how different the Eridians were from humans while also being intelligent and reasonable. Really interesting how their technology developed compared to humans. Like where they exceed in material science they lack in physics and computers, and vice versa with humans. But in the end neither of them could have finished the mission without the other. - As a character Grace was pretty fun too. It was interesting to see how he solved all these complicated problems while also handling the huge stakes. - Astrophage as a concept is really cool too. It’s not an eldritch godlike space monster - it’s just like a mindless parasite that grows into an infestation.
Things I didn’t like:
I guess that could’ve been a bit cliche, but that ending just makes more sense in my opinion. It would just tie up a lot of loose ends with those characters shown in the flashbacks.
that is all, may everyone reading this have a wonderful day.
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That being said I finished the book about a day ago and I’m kinda bored right now so here’s my review and some thoughts.
Things I liked: - I thought it was really cool how weir structured this story with the amnesia flashbacks. It was a very clever way of explaining what was going on, the totality of the situation, and gave the story a lot more depth. - Rocky was obviously awesome. I know this was probably the main thing Weir wanted to do but it really was cool to see how different the Eridians were from humans while also being intelligent and reasonable. Really interesting how their technology developed compared to humans. Like where they exceed in material science they lack in physics and computers, and vice versa with humans. But in the end neither of them could have finished the mission without the other. - As a character Grace was pretty fun too. It was interesting to see how he solved all these complicated problems while also handling the huge stakes. - Astrophage as a concept is really cool too. It’s not an eldritch godlike space monster - it’s just like a mindless parasite that grows into an infestation.
Things I didn’t like:
- I feel like there were a lot of moments where interesting plot developments were taking place and situations were pretty tense, but then in the middle of them Weir decides to make Grace explain some scientific thing that is only sometimes helpful or interesting. It’s not a massive problem but it definitely threw me off at least a few times.
- I feel like Yao and Ilyukhina didn’t really get as much development as they should’ve. Like there’s moments where Grace talks about how devastated he is that they died, but there’s not much in the flashbacks that really suggests that they were great friends. Obviously he respected them but I don’t recall any moments that fleshed out their relationships with one another.
I guess that could’ve been a bit cliche, but that ending just makes more sense in my opinion. It would just tie up a lot of loose ends with those characters shown in the flashbacks.
that is all, may everyone reading this have a wonderful day.
2024.05.21 15:44 soupgirlsz Second Time Quitting, Vent + More Health Issues - Styes??
Hello everyone
I messed up and started taking FF again after I had quit for the first time. I originally started taking FF soon after I quit drinking as a means to replace that social lubrication function of alcohol, so of course it snowballed from there. I had no idea what I was getting myself into and very quickly fell into drinking 3-5 a day for a few months until I got a litany of health issues and an insane amount of credit card debt. I ended up quitting because it was destroying my relationships (moody, acting insane), my eyes looked so sunken in, my skin looked awful, and I was getting near constant UTIs and horrible urinary retention which I attributed to the kratom. It nearly destroyed my relationship in another way because my boyfriend had his own stint with kratom before I knew him and warned me about it, so something I felt like I had a handle on soon got out of control and I was hiding it from him and so reasonably he was very upset with me. I fucked around and found out. He forgave me, and I spent a week being dope sick and feeling like death and afterwards I never felt better.
Fast forward to now...
I was going through a major episode and felt like my relationship was over and I decided fuck it, I'd rather drink one of these guys instead of having a drink. I just wanted to feel better and I felt so so guilty about it. Obviously I couldn't have just one, it's so habitual, and I'm back in the thick of it. I haven't had the pee problems this time, but I have been hanging out at a kava bar almost every day and got a bad bout of kava dermopathy (crocodile skin) and have had to slow down on that but obviously can't stop FF cold turkey and still be able to go to work, do daily tasks, etc. I need 3-4 days blocked off in order to overcome this and away from my boyfriend to be able to handle the withdrawals on my own without raising any red flags. I feel so guilty.
I mention the dermopathy because my newest condition that I suspect is related to these little shits is styes, which I suspect is kava related this time rather than kratom related based on the limited research I've done. Something about the kavalactones. I've never had a stye in my life, and now all of the sudden after my dermopathy had begun to clear up, I got like 5 styes stacked on top of each other on my left eyelid. My boyfriend popped them despite my pleas to let them be and sort themselves out but I am glad he did, because the relief was unimaginable. My eyelashes were getting caught in it too, making me wonder if it was even an ingrown eyelash, but I dunno anymore... because just as I thought this awful week and a half of having a painful, swollen eyelid was over, I began to get them in my other eye, and another one is cropping up on my under eye of the original eyelid. I feel so depressed and ugly and frustrated and in pain.
I really suspect that it's these fucking FFs, but wondering about y'all's experience and if this has happened to anyone else. Thanks for letting me vent. I know what to do, I just have to find the right timing. Looking for support and others' experiences. Thank you <3
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I messed up and started taking FF again after I had quit for the first time. I originally started taking FF soon after I quit drinking as a means to replace that social lubrication function of alcohol, so of course it snowballed from there. I had no idea what I was getting myself into and very quickly fell into drinking 3-5 a day for a few months until I got a litany of health issues and an insane amount of credit card debt. I ended up quitting because it was destroying my relationships (moody, acting insane), my eyes looked so sunken in, my skin looked awful, and I was getting near constant UTIs and horrible urinary retention which I attributed to the kratom. It nearly destroyed my relationship in another way because my boyfriend had his own stint with kratom before I knew him and warned me about it, so something I felt like I had a handle on soon got out of control and I was hiding it from him and so reasonably he was very upset with me. I fucked around and found out. He forgave me, and I spent a week being dope sick and feeling like death and afterwards I never felt better.
Fast forward to now...
I was going through a major episode and felt like my relationship was over and I decided fuck it, I'd rather drink one of these guys instead of having a drink. I just wanted to feel better and I felt so so guilty about it. Obviously I couldn't have just one, it's so habitual, and I'm back in the thick of it. I haven't had the pee problems this time, but I have been hanging out at a kava bar almost every day and got a bad bout of kava dermopathy (crocodile skin) and have had to slow down on that but obviously can't stop FF cold turkey and still be able to go to work, do daily tasks, etc. I need 3-4 days blocked off in order to overcome this and away from my boyfriend to be able to handle the withdrawals on my own without raising any red flags. I feel so guilty.
I mention the dermopathy because my newest condition that I suspect is related to these little shits is styes, which I suspect is kava related this time rather than kratom related based on the limited research I've done. Something about the kavalactones. I've never had a stye in my life, and now all of the sudden after my dermopathy had begun to clear up, I got like 5 styes stacked on top of each other on my left eyelid. My boyfriend popped them despite my pleas to let them be and sort themselves out but I am glad he did, because the relief was unimaginable. My eyelashes were getting caught in it too, making me wonder if it was even an ingrown eyelash, but I dunno anymore... because just as I thought this awful week and a half of having a painful, swollen eyelid was over, I began to get them in my other eye, and another one is cropping up on my under eye of the original eyelid. I feel so depressed and ugly and frustrated and in pain.
I really suspect that it's these fucking FFs, but wondering about y'all's experience and if this has happened to anyone else. Thanks for letting me vent. I know what to do, I just have to find the right timing. Looking for support and others' experiences. Thank you <3
2024.05.21 15:44 bpoftheoilspills Solo-"preneurs": What software do you use to manage your workflow? [US]
I run a pretty small-scale (at the moment) concert booking business and I've recently made a foray into attempting to do it full time and standardize/streamline my process, knowing that in order to make a living doing it I'll have to pass off at least some of the reins to someone else at some point. I've been scouring the internet for tools/software to manage the workflow of each show that I put together but everything I run into either doesn't do what I want it to do or is built for companies of 100+ people working on big-budget projects. I really want something in between those systems and a standard "to-do" list, so I came here hoping someone could point me in the direction of what I'm looking for.
Basically, I want to create a template "to-do" list where once certain things are completed it automatically creates the next "step" as a task with the appropriate deadline - some tasks will need to give an option once they're "due" to either re-do them or mark them as completed, and some things will only need to be done once. I can use this template and create it every time I get a request for a show, and then just follow what needs to be done for all of my shows on that particular day, regardless of what stage they're in.
I'm at the point where I might just build what I want in excel, but I am not underestimating the automation and "looking nice" part of it in how likely it is to work long term, so I figured I'd look here first.
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Basically, I want to create a template "to-do" list where once certain things are completed it automatically creates the next "step" as a task with the appropriate deadline - some tasks will need to give an option once they're "due" to either re-do them or mark them as completed, and some things will only need to be done once. I can use this template and create it every time I get a request for a show, and then just follow what needs to be done for all of my shows on that particular day, regardless of what stage they're in.
I'm at the point where I might just build what I want in excel, but I am not underestimating the automation and "looking nice" part of it in how likely it is to work long term, so I figured I'd look here first.
2024.05.21 15:43 fightingham 30 [F4A] Looking for a tribe
Before I go on, I have to confess, I feel embarassed for posting this. It feels like I'm weird for not having anyone to call friends, but it's the truth.
Never really had a friend group, due to being overly sheltered and socially anxious growing up (yeah, even up to my mid-20s) but I did my best to fix my life. It's gotten much better now, but it would be even better with a safe group of people I can grow and learn with.
Strictly SFW. I already have a partner, and we are very, very happy and content with our bond. She has tried to introduce me to some of her friends, but their bonds are already strong (many inside jokes and old stories I can't relate to, etc.) and I would like to have my own circle for independence and so I can also have people to introduce to her. Yes, she knows my situation and she's tried to help! I just also want to help myself :)
If nothing else, at least it's a good way to practice social skills :) I'm not too proud to admit I need the practice.
About me: - Introverted, but will do my best to contribute to the conversation - Interested in many things, but I will admit I know next to nothing about sports. Happy to be educated tho! Always wanted to learn more about soccer. - Relatively fit, but not a gym-goer (work outs at home) - Not much time to play anymore, but I game sometimes - Nagtatagalog rin naman po ako haha :) - A member of the alphabet mafia (LGBT+) so if this offends you, just scroll away - Working, but would rather the conversation not just be about our jobs / professional lives - I have a dog, but also enjoy cats
About you: - Around late 20s to early 30s, as I think we'd have more in common - Honest about your intentions (SFW only please!) - Willing to have an actual conversation (not just random hi's or hello's) - Just be a decent person, I guess?
We can chat on Discord first, then if we jive, we can grab a chill coffee, snack or a drink within the QC, Manda, or BGC area.
Thanks for reading! I hope you have a great day ahead.
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Never really had a friend group, due to being overly sheltered and socially anxious growing up (yeah, even up to my mid-20s) but I did my best to fix my life. It's gotten much better now, but it would be even better with a safe group of people I can grow and learn with.
Strictly SFW. I already have a partner, and we are very, very happy and content with our bond. She has tried to introduce me to some of her friends, but their bonds are already strong (many inside jokes and old stories I can't relate to, etc.) and I would like to have my own circle for independence and so I can also have people to introduce to her. Yes, she knows my situation and she's tried to help! I just also want to help myself :)
If nothing else, at least it's a good way to practice social skills :) I'm not too proud to admit I need the practice.
About me: - Introverted, but will do my best to contribute to the conversation - Interested in many things, but I will admit I know next to nothing about sports. Happy to be educated tho! Always wanted to learn more about soccer. - Relatively fit, but not a gym-goer (work outs at home) - Not much time to play anymore, but I game sometimes - Nagtatagalog rin naman po ako haha :) - A member of the alphabet mafia (LGBT+) so if this offends you, just scroll away - Working, but would rather the conversation not just be about our jobs / professional lives - I have a dog, but also enjoy cats
About you: - Around late 20s to early 30s, as I think we'd have more in common - Honest about your intentions (SFW only please!) - Willing to have an actual conversation (not just random hi's or hello's) - Just be a decent person, I guess?
We can chat on Discord first, then if we jive, we can grab a chill coffee, snack or a drink within the QC, Manda, or BGC area.
Thanks for reading! I hope you have a great day ahead.
2024.05.21 15:43 babygorgeous1 My Colonoscopy Experience at 26 Years Old (Female)
Hi everyone - I’m making this post to help anyone preparing for a colonoscopy and ease anxiety, as I was incredibly nervous prior to mine. In the past year, I was noticing a lot of blood occasionally after having a bowel movement - even if the stool was soft. It recently got to the point where I got scared, because there was about a quarter size of blood on my soft stool. I’d never experienced that before, and have suffered from severe bloating and cramping for a long time. Fortunately, my doctor recommended we do a colonoscopy. I was glad she didn’t dismiss it as potential hemorrhoids. She said she would rather I get the colonoscopy and not find anything, than to ignore and find something years later.
I was able to get in rather quickly, they called me Wednesday, and said there was an appointment available Friday. I was so nervous as I had to pick up the prep, figure out what I’ll have on my liquid diet, and mentally prepare within 24 hours. I told the scheduler I had some seeds and granola days prior, she assured me it wasn’t a big deal and to drink a ton of water. I was prescribed Nulytely and Gas X tablets. For my liquid diet, I drank spindrift, sparkling apple juice, bone broth, and had some mango sorbet push pops. I had to check in at 7:30 AM Friday, so I had to start drinking the first half at 5:00 PM on Thursday. The toilet show didn’t start until about 7:30 PM. At 8:00PM, I took 2 tablets of Extra Strength Gas-X (As prescribed), and another 2 tablets at 9:00 PM (Also as prescribed). It’s 1:30AM (6 hours prior to arrival at the center) I started drinking the second half of prep. It was kind of gross, but not as bad as I imagined. Kind of like drinking thick water. About an hour after starting second half of prep, I had clear / lemonade “bowel” movements. It took many trips to the toilet. Overall, I was so thankful I didn’t feel sick. It just felt like a true flushing of my system. Make sure to drink water all day before you start prep. Staying hydrated is key.
The nurses and doc were very nice. The anesthesia put me out - it was a super nap. Was so happy to be awake one it was over. Thankfully, they didn’t find anything, not even hemorrhoids. The doc said the tissue on anus can tear and was most likely what was happening. It was a good experience and I hope this calms nerves of whoever needs it.
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I was able to get in rather quickly, they called me Wednesday, and said there was an appointment available Friday. I was so nervous as I had to pick up the prep, figure out what I’ll have on my liquid diet, and mentally prepare within 24 hours. I told the scheduler I had some seeds and granola days prior, she assured me it wasn’t a big deal and to drink a ton of water. I was prescribed Nulytely and Gas X tablets. For my liquid diet, I drank spindrift, sparkling apple juice, bone broth, and had some mango sorbet push pops. I had to check in at 7:30 AM Friday, so I had to start drinking the first half at 5:00 PM on Thursday. The toilet show didn’t start until about 7:30 PM. At 8:00PM, I took 2 tablets of Extra Strength Gas-X (As prescribed), and another 2 tablets at 9:00 PM (Also as prescribed). It’s 1:30AM (6 hours prior to arrival at the center) I started drinking the second half of prep. It was kind of gross, but not as bad as I imagined. Kind of like drinking thick water. About an hour after starting second half of prep, I had clear / lemonade “bowel” movements. It took many trips to the toilet. Overall, I was so thankful I didn’t feel sick. It just felt like a true flushing of my system. Make sure to drink water all day before you start prep. Staying hydrated is key.
The nurses and doc were very nice. The anesthesia put me out - it was a super nap. Was so happy to be awake one it was over. Thankfully, they didn’t find anything, not even hemorrhoids. The doc said the tissue on anus can tear and was most likely what was happening. It was a good experience and I hope this calms nerves of whoever needs it.
2024.05.21 15:43 JasonBetter10 SUMMER CAMPS FOR 2-5 YEAR OLD KIDS IN CUPERTINO, CA: A COMPREHENSIVE GUIDE
 | https://preview.redd.it/u0shat0x9s1d1.jpg?width=640&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=b6ad55bf444470e86daea53b3201d651bc0f1f47 submitted by JasonBetter10 to u/JasonBetter10 [link] [comments] Summer vacation is around the corner, and parents are looking for fun and engaging activities to keep their young children entertained and occupied during the break. Summer camps can be an excellent option for parents who want to expose their children to new experiences, build social skills, and keep them active and engaged. But what about summer camps for very young children, aged 2-5? In this blog post, we will explore the various types of summer camps available for toddlers and preschoolers and provide a comprehensive guide to choosing the best summer camp for your little ones. Benefits of Summer Camps for 2-5 Year Old Summer camps can be a valuable experience for young children, providing benefits beyond entertainment and socialization. Some of the key benefits of summer camps for 2-5 years old include:
There are many different types of summer camps available for young children, each offering a unique experience. Here are some of the most common types of summer camps for 2-5year old: Day Camps Day camps are the most common type of summer camp for young children, offering a daily schedule of activities that typically run from morning to mid-afternoon. Day camps may be offered by a variety of organizations, such as community centers, churches, schools, and private companies. Some day camps may specialize in a particular type of activity, such as sports, arts and crafts, or nature exploration, while others offer a mix of activities. Preschool Camps Many Preschools offer summer programs of camps for young children, providing a familiar environment for children who may not be ready for a full summer camp experience. These camps usually offer a mix of indoor and outdoor activities. and may focus on a particular them or skills area, such as science, readiness, or socialization. Nature Camps Sports camps are an excellent option for energetic and active young children who enjoy physical activity and sports. These camps may focus on a specific sports, such as soccer or basketball, or offer a mix of sports activities. Arts and Crafts Camps Arts and crafts camps provide opportunities for young children to express their creativity and explore different artistic mediums. These camps may include activities such as painting, drawing, sculpture, and other crafts. Choosing the Right Summer Camp for Your Child Choosing the right summer camp for your child can be a dauting task, but by considering your child's interests, needs, and temperament, you can find a camp that will be a great fit. Here some factors to consider when choosing a summer camp for your 2-5year old:
Summer camps can be a fantastic experience for young children, providing opportunities for socialization, learning, and fun. By considering the types of camps available and your child’s needs and interests, you can find a summer camp that will be a great fit for your family. With a little research and planning, you can give your child a memorable and enriching summer camp experience. |