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2024.05.14 13:02 lifeisace Going on second date! Texting & outfit help needed please.
I had a first date with someone I met on Hinge on Sunday, it went really really well. It was quite casual, went to a pub garden then played pool. Setting a second date was mentioned a few times before the date was even over, less than 24 hours after the first date the second date plans were in place, which is great.
So second date is on Friday, we're going to dinner but it's at one of those fancy pubs where it's a bit classier, but it's still a pub, so I'm not sure how to dress accordingly. I want to make a good impression but I'll feel foolish if I'm overdressed.
I have an idea in mind but not sure if it's too casual, was thinking of black boots, black skinny jeans, a cute top, style it with some accessories, I guess that's what I would consider smart casual. I think it would be slightly more elevated that the first date, but not too over the top for the venue.
Also texting... I know this is very subjective, but it would be particularly helpful to get a guys perspective. I'm a texter for sure, but aware of how you can build up more of a relationship through text which is actually best done in person, I think it's easy to move too quickly talking too much via text. So far I've left the ball in his court and let him text first, but I don't want him to think I'm not interested by not initiating conversation.
I could happily text all day everyday, but I'm very conscious of finding a good balance, just haven't quite figured out what that is, maybe just after work perhaps for now, so it's regular but not all day.
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So second date is on Friday, we're going to dinner but it's at one of those fancy pubs where it's a bit classier, but it's still a pub, so I'm not sure how to dress accordingly. I want to make a good impression but I'll feel foolish if I'm overdressed.
I have an idea in mind but not sure if it's too casual, was thinking of black boots, black skinny jeans, a cute top, style it with some accessories, I guess that's what I would consider smart casual. I think it would be slightly more elevated that the first date, but not too over the top for the venue.
Also texting... I know this is very subjective, but it would be particularly helpful to get a guys perspective. I'm a texter for sure, but aware of how you can build up more of a relationship through text which is actually best done in person, I think it's easy to move too quickly talking too much via text. So far I've left the ball in his court and let him text first, but I don't want him to think I'm not interested by not initiating conversation.
I could happily text all day everyday, but I'm very conscious of finding a good balance, just haven't quite figured out what that is, maybe just after work perhaps for now, so it's regular but not all day.
2024.05.14 13:01 digital_wiz How We Scaled a Hair Extension Brand using Facebook Ads and SEO to give $80,000 ROI in 6 Months (Detailed Breakdown)
Hello Redditors,
This is an incredible success story of how we helped a client achieve incredible results in just four months, generating an $80,000 return on investment (ROI) with a combination of SEO and Facebook Ads. We have completed many successful projects and there's a certain satisfaction in seeing our strategies translate to such tangible growth. I have tried to keep this post extremely detailed so that it can be beneficial for experienced marketers and newcomers alike.
The Client: Hair Extension E-commerce Brand
Revenue Split Between SEO and Fb ads: 3:2
Average Order Value: $350
Facebook Ads Spend(For 6 Months): $10,000
Total Revenue(6 months): $140,000
Other Expenses(6 months): Product Cost + Delivery cost + Team + Agency Fees + Website Optimization + Packaging: $50000
Basic Company Background:
The brand was being run by a Mother-Daughter duo for the past 3 months. They had a shopify website with average structure and were struggling with facebook ads themselves. Although they made few physical sales due to friends and relatives but were unable to utilize the digital potential of their business as such. After trying facebook ads for some time they wanted a reliable digital marketing team to work with and they were recommended to us by one of our other customers who has a service based business. Initially we connected majorly for facebook ads but after the initial discussion when were doing research from our side, we found that there is huge potential in SEO for this niche so we suggested that we should prepare a proper website on wordpress and focus on both SEO and Ads parallelly as, although Ads will give an initial boost to the business but SEO will bring some stability and help in building a sustainable business.
Facebook Ads Campaign Structure:
It's important to note that after deep research we could find that a major share our hair extensions customers are females aged between 21-45 so we did not actively position our brand as solving problems of low hair volume, but instead we focused on how the products ads style, gives a much better look and you can try new hairstyles and hair colors daily. Also since almost all the demographics in this age group are working, we tested a professional look angle as well which gave us decent results. In ad creatives as well as on the website we made the daughter as the face of the product as we want to slowly grow her instagram as well which can add another organic and sustainable stream of revenue. She shoots before and after transition videos, general product application videos and other videos for ads according to the target audience and brand positioning strategy we discussed earlier. Instead of making long videos focused on product details a lot, we made short but captivating videos which can appeal to the young audience’s fashion sense.
Key Takeaways from FB Ads:
Mostly Meta Ads or Any other marketing tactic is just a traffic source but conversion will basically happen by how well you are able to communicate your product to the audience through your website. Its is necessary to have a smooth user journey, attractive offers, crisp information and right brand positioning on the website.
It is extremely important to make data driven decisions and track customer journeys meticulously. Always rely on your own tracking or google analytics to avoid the potential unreliability of Facebook Ads Manager.
Seo Strategy
If you don’t already know this, SEO is all about how effectively you can strategize your content and technical efforts keeping a bigger picture in mind. After our initial keyword research we could find that the average Kd of the important keywords was low when it comes to commercial keywords which were directly related to the business.
It's important to note that since the website was being built after our onboarding only so it was easy for us to structure the website according to the SEO strategy that we prepared.
At every stage we had meetings with the developer to ensure that there are no technical issues that will hinder the SEO growth and future and also we structured the website to be SEO friendly. We built separate pages for all the product categories and after through keyword research we added content to those pages so that the pages itself can rank for commercial keywords.
After the website was ready we audited it for technical issues(Like mobile friendliness, H1 tags, canonical tags, etc) we started focusing on the content. We wanted to establish our website as a trusted authority in the hair extensions and hair care industry in general.
Since the website was completely new, initially we created blogs(2-3 times per week) around informational keywords with low KD purely for increasing our website authority and bringing the initial traffic on the website. We have seen that usually people start stressing about approaching big websites for guest postings since the first day itself but if your keyword research and content is solid, that is not required in the beginning. Initially we focused on profile creations, image submissions, pdf submissions, internal linking in the content, web 2.0 backlinks etc and this was more than enough for us to rank for low difficulty keywords and increase our DA to a decent level so that our category pages can rank for low difficulty keywords.
Here I would like to include a tip, many times people are worried that what if the backlink that they have created doesn't get indexed. In the initial phase we work really hard when it comes to what we call as maturing our backlinks as this is the major factor for ranking on low difficulty keywords. So basically what we do is, we make backlinks of our web 2.0 backlinks itself which helps the primary backlink in getting indexed which ultimately helps with our website DA.
Also many people have been asking us in our previous posts how we structure our blog since I talk a lot about content quality, see it's not as hard and it doesn't involve a lot of research at least in the initial phase when you just have to rank on low difficulty keywords. In this phase usually what we do is study the top 5 ranking blogs on the particular keyword and make sure that we include more content and more subheadings then them. Also we try to find opportunities to include tables or charts wherever possible, we include good quality images(original if possible) and at this stage internal linking is very very important so we focus on that as well. In later stages although the basic strategy for framing the blogs remains same, overall content strategy varies a lot from business to business and requires a lot of strategizing depending on the brand positioning goals.
So after we were able to rank for low difficulty informational keywords and our Website DA reached a decent level due to our backlinking efforts, we started writing content around the fashion advice and common problems which people face related to hair in general. But as discussed earlier, we wanted to keep our brand positioning fashion centric, so even while writing about common problems we applied a positive and solution centric approach. We strategically placed internal links to our product pages in the content and tested popups with offers as well. Apart from this, we started guest posting as well at this stage. For finding websites for guest posting we used SEMrush’s backlink gap analysis tool and created a segregated list of blogs that we can reach out to based on their content quality and DA. By this time the store started generating decent revenue from ads and SEO so the client was completely onboard with reaching out to blogs for guest posting. Guest posting and overall strategic SEO application started generating a good amount of traffic for us and in 3-4 months the revenue generated due to SEO surpassed our Ads revenue as well.
Advantages of Combining SEO and Paid Ads
While Facebook Ads played a crucial role in launching the brand and driving initial traffic, SEO has emerged as the primary driver of sustainable growth. This approach allowed us to:
Thankyou For Reading!
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This is an incredible success story of how we helped a client achieve incredible results in just four months, generating an $80,000 return on investment (ROI) with a combination of SEO and Facebook Ads. We have completed many successful projects and there's a certain satisfaction in seeing our strategies translate to such tangible growth. I have tried to keep this post extremely detailed so that it can be beneficial for experienced marketers and newcomers alike.
The Client: Hair Extension E-commerce Brand
Revenue Split Between SEO and Fb ads: 3:2
Average Order Value: $350
Facebook Ads Spend(For 6 Months): $10,000
Total Revenue(6 months): $140,000
Other Expenses(6 months): Product Cost + Delivery cost + Team + Agency Fees + Website Optimization + Packaging: $50000
Basic Company Background:
The brand was being run by a Mother-Daughter duo for the past 3 months. They had a shopify website with average structure and were struggling with facebook ads themselves. Although they made few physical sales due to friends and relatives but were unable to utilize the digital potential of their business as such. After trying facebook ads for some time they wanted a reliable digital marketing team to work with and they were recommended to us by one of our other customers who has a service based business. Initially we connected majorly for facebook ads but after the initial discussion when were doing research from our side, we found that there is huge potential in SEO for this niche so we suggested that we should prepare a proper website on wordpress and focus on both SEO and Ads parallelly as, although Ads will give an initial boost to the business but SEO will bring some stability and help in building a sustainable business.
Facebook Ads Campaign Structure:
- Our campaign housed multiple ad sets targeting users who are interested in fashion products and we also targeted audiences of some big and costly fashion companies. We were mostly targeting females aged 25-45 with good income source to have optimal conversions in the beginning, with our Seo efforts we planned to target a slightly younger audience as well which is going steadily as of now.
- We ran occasional promotions like "Buy x get x free" to boost AOV.
- Due to the high AOV and especially the product niche sometimes it is necessary to build trust so we used retargeting to build trust and showcase benefits, not just push for immediate conversions. Ads focused on comparison(Before & Afters), Customer Reviews, Hassle free product application and natural look, stylish look.
It's important to note that after deep research we could find that a major share our hair extensions customers are females aged between 21-45 so we did not actively position our brand as solving problems of low hair volume, but instead we focused on how the products ads style, gives a much better look and you can try new hairstyles and hair colors daily. Also since almost all the demographics in this age group are working, we tested a professional look angle as well which gave us decent results. In ad creatives as well as on the website we made the daughter as the face of the product as we want to slowly grow her instagram as well which can add another organic and sustainable stream of revenue. She shoots before and after transition videos, general product application videos and other videos for ads according to the target audience and brand positioning strategy we discussed earlier. Instead of making long videos focused on product details a lot, we made short but captivating videos which can appeal to the young audience’s fashion sense.
Key Takeaways from FB Ads:
Mostly Meta Ads or Any other marketing tactic is just a traffic source but conversion will basically happen by how well you are able to communicate your product to the audience through your website. Its is necessary to have a smooth user journey, attractive offers, crisp information and right brand positioning on the website.
It is extremely important to make data driven decisions and track customer journeys meticulously. Always rely on your own tracking or google analytics to avoid the potential unreliability of Facebook Ads Manager.
Seo Strategy
If you don’t already know this, SEO is all about how effectively you can strategize your content and technical efforts keeping a bigger picture in mind. After our initial keyword research we could find that the average Kd of the important keywords was low when it comes to commercial keywords which were directly related to the business.
It's important to note that since the website was being built after our onboarding only so it was easy for us to structure the website according to the SEO strategy that we prepared.
At every stage we had meetings with the developer to ensure that there are no technical issues that will hinder the SEO growth and future and also we structured the website to be SEO friendly. We built separate pages for all the product categories and after through keyword research we added content to those pages so that the pages itself can rank for commercial keywords.
After the website was ready we audited it for technical issues(Like mobile friendliness, H1 tags, canonical tags, etc) we started focusing on the content. We wanted to establish our website as a trusted authority in the hair extensions and hair care industry in general.
Since the website was completely new, initially we created blogs(2-3 times per week) around informational keywords with low KD purely for increasing our website authority and bringing the initial traffic on the website. We have seen that usually people start stressing about approaching big websites for guest postings since the first day itself but if your keyword research and content is solid, that is not required in the beginning. Initially we focused on profile creations, image submissions, pdf submissions, internal linking in the content, web 2.0 backlinks etc and this was more than enough for us to rank for low difficulty keywords and increase our DA to a decent level so that our category pages can rank for low difficulty keywords.
Here I would like to include a tip, many times people are worried that what if the backlink that they have created doesn't get indexed. In the initial phase we work really hard when it comes to what we call as maturing our backlinks as this is the major factor for ranking on low difficulty keywords. So basically what we do is, we make backlinks of our web 2.0 backlinks itself which helps the primary backlink in getting indexed which ultimately helps with our website DA.
Also many people have been asking us in our previous posts how we structure our blog since I talk a lot about content quality, see it's not as hard and it doesn't involve a lot of research at least in the initial phase when you just have to rank on low difficulty keywords. In this phase usually what we do is study the top 5 ranking blogs on the particular keyword and make sure that we include more content and more subheadings then them. Also we try to find opportunities to include tables or charts wherever possible, we include good quality images(original if possible) and at this stage internal linking is very very important so we focus on that as well. In later stages although the basic strategy for framing the blogs remains same, overall content strategy varies a lot from business to business and requires a lot of strategizing depending on the brand positioning goals.
So after we were able to rank for low difficulty informational keywords and our Website DA reached a decent level due to our backlinking efforts, we started writing content around the fashion advice and common problems which people face related to hair in general. But as discussed earlier, we wanted to keep our brand positioning fashion centric, so even while writing about common problems we applied a positive and solution centric approach. We strategically placed internal links to our product pages in the content and tested popups with offers as well. Apart from this, we started guest posting as well at this stage. For finding websites for guest posting we used SEMrush’s backlink gap analysis tool and created a segregated list of blogs that we can reach out to based on their content quality and DA. By this time the store started generating decent revenue from ads and SEO so the client was completely onboard with reaching out to blogs for guest posting. Guest posting and overall strategic SEO application started generating a good amount of traffic for us and in 3-4 months the revenue generated due to SEO surpassed our Ads revenue as well.
Advantages of Combining SEO and Paid Ads
While Facebook Ads played a crucial role in launching the brand and driving initial traffic, SEO has emerged as the primary driver of sustainable growth. This approach allowed us to:
- Reduce Reliance on Paid Advertising: As our SEO efforts matured, we were able to gradually decrease our Facebook ad spend, resulting in cost savings and improved return on investment.
- Build Brand Authority: Our SEO strategy has positioned our website as a trusted authority in the hair extensions industry. This fosters brand recognition and trust, leading to organic customer acquisition.
- Scale Traffic and Revenue: Organic traffic growth has been exponential, leading to a significant and sustainable increase in website revenue generated through SEO.
Thankyou For Reading!
2024.05.14 13:01 42woba Where do I change a password for e-mail/leads?
Hi,
we have a mailbox set on our domain and that is set to have an alias for @company.odoo.com which shows up in leads. In the past, there was a one time scenario where we changed the password for the email on our domain, and then the mails didn't go through in Odoo, we had to go in Odoo and change the password for this mailbox/alias also. Where exactly is this, I can't find it...
Thanks.
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we have a mailbox set on our domain and that is set to have an alias for @company.odoo.com which shows up in leads. In the past, there was a one time scenario where we changed the password for the email on our domain, and then the mails didn't go through in Odoo, we had to go in Odoo and change the password for this mailbox/alias also. Where exactly is this, I can't find it...
Thanks.
2024.05.14 13:00 saltandpeppertofu Cat hissing at me when it’s inside time
My cat is an indoor cat who we take outside for walks on a leash everyday to give some supervised stimulation. She loves it outside, so much so that when it’s time to bring her in she hisses, growls, and snaps at me when I go to pick her up because she knows I’ll be taking her in. She has no other health issues and no other issues with being handled - she only does this to protest being taken inside (how dare I)! Apart from this behaviour she’s super sweet and affectionate.
I’m a bit worried about getting bitten and clawed in the face if I persist with picking her up to take her in, but I’m mainly worried about damaging our relationship!
Does anyone have any advice around managing my cat’s behaviour when it’s time to come in from her outside time?
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I’m a bit worried about getting bitten and clawed in the face if I persist with picking her up to take her in, but I’m mainly worried about damaging our relationship!
Does anyone have any advice around managing my cat’s behaviour when it’s time to come in from her outside time?
2024.05.14 13:00 PrincessArcher How do I (29f) manage my best friend (29f) feeling sidelined and also being stuck in a bad way without losing her completely?
Not sure if this should be in relationship_advice, so will post here for now and move it if needs be. ——— I love my best friend like she is my sister and have always stood by her side.
But recently I’ve been struggling with my relationship with her. I suppose the cracks started years ago when she got into her first serious relationship which wound up abusive. We had many conversations about her leaving him but it wound up pointless. She still speaks to said him and though I’ve tried to encourage her & she’s done therapy etc, she still refuses to cut ties with him.
During these years, I went through my own relationships, breaking up with an ex who used to be both of our good friend and then finding my current bf who, in no small terms, I consider the love of my life. But we haven’t had the smoothest relationship and whilst we were going through our issues, he spoke to his loved ones, and I spoke to my best friend for advice and to let out our emotions. We broke up for several months and during that time I went through utter heartbreak and my best friend was by my side through all of it. She’d also cut off her ex and said me and her can stay strong together.
A few months later me and my bf had a serious conversation and decided to forgive and move on as we genuinely like one another and share similar values and it seemed we were letting lots of miscommunication ruin things. My best friend wasn’t happy, and I’ve always felt like she thinks I betrayed her. She said she thinks my bf is stringing me along and his “true colours” will eventually come out. I think she’s projecting. I also find it maddening as I know if I spoke about her ex that way she’d jump to defend his “good parts”.
My bf and I have been happily dating since, we’ve both worked on our communication and have been putting in a lot of work. My best friend is still speaking on/off with her abusive ex and whenever she tells me about him, it’s always horrible things.
Recently my bf and I had a big break up, as I felt our cultural differences would be too difficult to overcome, was terrified of losing my community by sticking by him and thought it best to let him go for both of us. Heartbroken, I sought out my best friend for comfort who told me I’d done the right thing. However, I wasn’t convinced I had and spoke to other loved ones who told me that I should focus on my own happiness and not worry what others thought for “going against” my culture. I apologised profusely to my bf for my bad judgement, we once again spoke about everything and reiterated our love for each other and we have agreed to stand together against the potential difficulties we might face and I feel truly grateful and appreciative of him. I love him more than ever.
However, when I told my best friend this she was furious. She thinks I am using her as a back up plan (as she is who I thought of first when upset) and that I cancel on her for him. She thinks I am abandoning my culture and compromising who I am and what I believe for someone who she thinks will let me down, hurt me or eventually cause me a lot of pain. She says she is always there for me but the second I’m with my bf I forget about her.
I understand why she feels the way she does. But I also have lots of married friends/friends in serious relationships and though I don’t see them often my friendships with them have never suffered. With my best friend, I feel like if I don’t see her once per week or every two weeks, consistently, she thinks I’ve dropped her for a guy.
She’s amazing. She’s bright and beautiful but since knowing this guy she’s rejected an offer to get a postgrad, is working a min wage job despite having an excellent degree, doesn’t have any hobbies besides occasionally seeing friends for food and struggles with severe anxiety and depression. And I know she will never go anywhere as long as she keeps letting him pull her down.
I don’t know what to do or say anymore. I don’t want to say the harsh truth because I love her so much. But I don’t know how to say these things where she’ll listen. She’s convinced I’m blind about my bf and I’m certain it’s because she thinks my bf is like her abusive ex and we’re in the same situation. When it objectively speaking, isn’t the same at all. She keeps saying she doesn’t know what to do about her life or her ex but when I give suggestions just says “I will” and doesn’t do them.
I also think she misses when I was with my ex as she was his good friend too so the three of us often hung out together. But with my bf, she has decided he sucks without having ever met him and no damage control on my part about all his positives will change her mind. (She also thinks I’m covering up for his bad bits or that I’m saying good things about him as digs at her ex. It’s exhausting). I want to invite her to go along and do things with my bf and I and he has said the same, because they’d probably get along, but she won’t ever agree.
I don’t want to cut her off. But I’m worried she’ll drag me down. I’m worried this is going to be her life, and how can I share my happiness with her when she’s so angry and convinced I’m betraying her and myself for it?
Oh and we plan to go on holiday together just us two soon. I want to use it as a way for us to reconnect and let everything out. I hope I can find a way to do it without becoming the AH and be that bitch that left her friend for a man. Because right now it feels like that’s exactly what she thinks I’m doing.
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But recently I’ve been struggling with my relationship with her. I suppose the cracks started years ago when she got into her first serious relationship which wound up abusive. We had many conversations about her leaving him but it wound up pointless. She still speaks to said him and though I’ve tried to encourage her & she’s done therapy etc, she still refuses to cut ties with him.
During these years, I went through my own relationships, breaking up with an ex who used to be both of our good friend and then finding my current bf who, in no small terms, I consider the love of my life. But we haven’t had the smoothest relationship and whilst we were going through our issues, he spoke to his loved ones, and I spoke to my best friend for advice and to let out our emotions. We broke up for several months and during that time I went through utter heartbreak and my best friend was by my side through all of it. She’d also cut off her ex and said me and her can stay strong together.
A few months later me and my bf had a serious conversation and decided to forgive and move on as we genuinely like one another and share similar values and it seemed we were letting lots of miscommunication ruin things. My best friend wasn’t happy, and I’ve always felt like she thinks I betrayed her. She said she thinks my bf is stringing me along and his “true colours” will eventually come out. I think she’s projecting. I also find it maddening as I know if I spoke about her ex that way she’d jump to defend his “good parts”.
My bf and I have been happily dating since, we’ve both worked on our communication and have been putting in a lot of work. My best friend is still speaking on/off with her abusive ex and whenever she tells me about him, it’s always horrible things.
Recently my bf and I had a big break up, as I felt our cultural differences would be too difficult to overcome, was terrified of losing my community by sticking by him and thought it best to let him go for both of us. Heartbroken, I sought out my best friend for comfort who told me I’d done the right thing. However, I wasn’t convinced I had and spoke to other loved ones who told me that I should focus on my own happiness and not worry what others thought for “going against” my culture. I apologised profusely to my bf for my bad judgement, we once again spoke about everything and reiterated our love for each other and we have agreed to stand together against the potential difficulties we might face and I feel truly grateful and appreciative of him. I love him more than ever.
However, when I told my best friend this she was furious. She thinks I am using her as a back up plan (as she is who I thought of first when upset) and that I cancel on her for him. She thinks I am abandoning my culture and compromising who I am and what I believe for someone who she thinks will let me down, hurt me or eventually cause me a lot of pain. She says she is always there for me but the second I’m with my bf I forget about her.
I understand why she feels the way she does. But I also have lots of married friends/friends in serious relationships and though I don’t see them often my friendships with them have never suffered. With my best friend, I feel like if I don’t see her once per week or every two weeks, consistently, she thinks I’ve dropped her for a guy.
She’s amazing. She’s bright and beautiful but since knowing this guy she’s rejected an offer to get a postgrad, is working a min wage job despite having an excellent degree, doesn’t have any hobbies besides occasionally seeing friends for food and struggles with severe anxiety and depression. And I know she will never go anywhere as long as she keeps letting him pull her down.
I don’t know what to do or say anymore. I don’t want to say the harsh truth because I love her so much. But I don’t know how to say these things where she’ll listen. She’s convinced I’m blind about my bf and I’m certain it’s because she thinks my bf is like her abusive ex and we’re in the same situation. When it objectively speaking, isn’t the same at all. She keeps saying she doesn’t know what to do about her life or her ex but when I give suggestions just says “I will” and doesn’t do them.
I also think she misses when I was with my ex as she was his good friend too so the three of us often hung out together. But with my bf, she has decided he sucks without having ever met him and no damage control on my part about all his positives will change her mind. (She also thinks I’m covering up for his bad bits or that I’m saying good things about him as digs at her ex. It’s exhausting). I want to invite her to go along and do things with my bf and I and he has said the same, because they’d probably get along, but she won’t ever agree.
I don’t want to cut her off. But I’m worried she’ll drag me down. I’m worried this is going to be her life, and how can I share my happiness with her when she’s so angry and convinced I’m betraying her and myself for it?
Oh and we plan to go on holiday together just us two soon. I want to use it as a way for us to reconnect and let everything out. I hope I can find a way to do it without becoming the AH and be that bitch that left her friend for a man. Because right now it feels like that’s exactly what she thinks I’m doing.
2024.05.14 13:00 DeanOnEverything Why is Superman the World's Greatest Superhero?
Superman is my favourite superhero not just because of his incredible powers, but because of what he represents. He is a symbol of hope, a paragon of virtue, and an inspiration to many. His stories remind us of the best of humanity and the potential for greatness within us all. In a world that often feels chaotic and uncertain, Superman stands as a timeless beacon of hope and moral integrity.
Superman's unwavering commitment to his ideals, combined with his relatable struggles and incredible powers, make him a hero for the ages. He reminds us that we all have the capacity for greatness, and that with hope, we can overcome any obstacle. His character serves as a reminder that strength is not just about physical prowess, but also about moral fortitude and the courage to stand up for what is right, even when it's difficult.
Beyond his fictional universe, Superman's influence extends into our real world. He has inspired countless individuals to pursue justice, exhibit kindness, and believe in the power of good. From activists fighting for social justice to everyday people showing acts of kindness, Superman's ethos of "truth, justice, and the American way" has permeated society, encouraging us all to aspire to higher standards of behaviour and empathy.
Moreover, Superman's dual identity as Clark Kent teaches us about the importance of humility and empathy. Despite his god-like abilities, he chooses to live among humans, understanding their struggles and sharing in their joys and sorrows. This aspect of his character underscores the value of staying connected to our roots and remaining humble, no matter how successful or powerful we become.
Superman's legacy also includes his ability to unite others. Within the DC universe, he is often the glue that holds the Justice League together, not just because of his strength, but because of his ability to inspire and lead by example. He shows that true leadership comes from a place of compassion, vision, and unwavering dedication to the greater good. His interactions with other heroes highlight the importance of teamwork and the idea that together, we can achieve much more than we can alone.
In addition, Superman's resilience in the face of adversity is a powerful lesson for us all. Whether facing formidable foes like Lex Luthor or Doomsday, or dealing with personal losses and challenges, Superman's ability to keep going, to keep fighting for what is right, resonates deeply. He embodies the spirit of never giving up, even when the odds are stacked against you.
Superman's stories often explore deep philosophical questions about power, responsibility, and the human condition. They challenge us to think about what it means to be truly good, and how we can apply those lessons in our own lives. Through his adventures, we are invited to reflect on our own values and the impact we want to have on the world.
In summary, Superman is more than just a superhero; he is a symbol of the enduring qualities that we, as a society, hold dear. His tales of heroism and humanity inspire us to look beyond our limitations and strive for a better, more just world. Superman's timeless appeal lies in his ability to encapsulate the essence of what it means to be a hero—not just in terms of extraordinary abilities, but in the strength of character and the unwavering hope he brings to the world. His legacy will undoubtedly continue to inspire future generations to dream, to believe, and to act with courage and compassion.
Superman is, and always will be, a timeless beacon of hope and moral integrity, reminding us that with great power comes great responsibility, and that even in the darkest times, there is always light to guide the way.
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Superman's unwavering commitment to his ideals, combined with his relatable struggles and incredible powers, make him a hero for the ages. He reminds us that we all have the capacity for greatness, and that with hope, we can overcome any obstacle. His character serves as a reminder that strength is not just about physical prowess, but also about moral fortitude and the courage to stand up for what is right, even when it's difficult.
Beyond his fictional universe, Superman's influence extends into our real world. He has inspired countless individuals to pursue justice, exhibit kindness, and believe in the power of good. From activists fighting for social justice to everyday people showing acts of kindness, Superman's ethos of "truth, justice, and the American way" has permeated society, encouraging us all to aspire to higher standards of behaviour and empathy.
Moreover, Superman's dual identity as Clark Kent teaches us about the importance of humility and empathy. Despite his god-like abilities, he chooses to live among humans, understanding their struggles and sharing in their joys and sorrows. This aspect of his character underscores the value of staying connected to our roots and remaining humble, no matter how successful or powerful we become.
Superman's legacy also includes his ability to unite others. Within the DC universe, he is often the glue that holds the Justice League together, not just because of his strength, but because of his ability to inspire and lead by example. He shows that true leadership comes from a place of compassion, vision, and unwavering dedication to the greater good. His interactions with other heroes highlight the importance of teamwork and the idea that together, we can achieve much more than we can alone.
In addition, Superman's resilience in the face of adversity is a powerful lesson for us all. Whether facing formidable foes like Lex Luthor or Doomsday, or dealing with personal losses and challenges, Superman's ability to keep going, to keep fighting for what is right, resonates deeply. He embodies the spirit of never giving up, even when the odds are stacked against you.
Superman's stories often explore deep philosophical questions about power, responsibility, and the human condition. They challenge us to think about what it means to be truly good, and how we can apply those lessons in our own lives. Through his adventures, we are invited to reflect on our own values and the impact we want to have on the world.
In summary, Superman is more than just a superhero; he is a symbol of the enduring qualities that we, as a society, hold dear. His tales of heroism and humanity inspire us to look beyond our limitations and strive for a better, more just world. Superman's timeless appeal lies in his ability to encapsulate the essence of what it means to be a hero—not just in terms of extraordinary abilities, but in the strength of character and the unwavering hope he brings to the world. His legacy will undoubtedly continue to inspire future generations to dream, to believe, and to act with courage and compassion.
Superman is, and always will be, a timeless beacon of hope and moral integrity, reminding us that with great power comes great responsibility, and that even in the darkest times, there is always light to guide the way.
2024.05.14 13:00 digital_wiz How We Scaled a Hair Extension Brand using Facebook Ads and SEO to give $80,000 ROI in 6 Months (Detailed Breakdown)
Hello Redditors,
This is an incredible success story of how we helped a client achieve incredible results in just four months, generating an $80,000 return on investment (ROI) with a combination of SEO and Facebook Ads. We have completed many successful projects and there's a certain satisfaction in seeing our strategies translate to such tangible growth. I have tried to keep this post extremely detailed so that it can be beneficial for experienced marketers and newcomers alike.
The Client: Hair Extension E-commerce Brand
Revenue Split Between SEO and Fb ads: 3:2
Average Order Value: $350
Facebook Ads Spend(For 6 Months): $10,000
Total Revenue(6 months): $140,000
Other Expenses(6 months): Product Cost + Delivery cost + Team + Agency Fees + Website Optimization + Packaging: $50000
Basic Company Background:
The brand was being run by a Mother-Daughter duo for the past 3 months. They had a shopify website with average structure and were struggling with facebook ads themselves. Although they made few physical sales due to friends and relatives but were unable to utilize the digital potential of their business as such. After trying facebook ads for some time they wanted a reliable digital marketing team to work with and they were recommended to us by one of our other customers who has a service based business. Initially we connected majorly for facebook ads but after the initial discussion when were doing research from our side, we found that there is huge potential in SEO for this niche so we suggested that we should prepare a proper website on wordpress and focus on both SEO and Ads parallelly as, although Ads will give an initial boost to the business but SEO will bring some stability and help in building a sustainable business.
Facebook Ads Campaign Structure:
It's important to note that after deep research we could find that a major share our hair extensions customers are females aged between 21-45 so we did not actively position our brand as solving problems of low hair volume, but instead we focused on how the products ads style, gives a much better look and you can try new hairstyles and hair colors daily. Also since almost all the demographics in this age group are working, we tested a professional look angle as well which gave us decent results. In ad creatives as well as on the website we made the daughter as the face of the product as we want to slowly grow her instagram as well which can add another organic and sustainable stream of revenue. She shoots before and after transition videos, general product application videos and other videos for ads according to the target audience and brand positioning strategy we discussed earlier. Instead of making long videos focused on product details a lot, we made short but captivating videos which can appeal to the young audience’s fashion sense.
Key Takeaways from FB Ads:
Mostly Meta Ads or Any other marketing tactic is just a traffic source but conversion will basically happen by how well you are able to communicate your product to the audience through your website. Its is necessary to have a smooth user journey, attractive offers, crisp information and right brand positioning on the website.
It is extremely important to make data driven decisions and track customer journeys meticulously. Always rely on your own tracking or google analytics to avoid the potential unreliability of Facebook Ads Manager.
Seo Strategy
If you don’t already know this, SEO is all about how effectively you can strategize your content and technical efforts keeping a bigger picture in mind. After our initial keyword research we could find that the average Kd of the important keywords was low when it comes to commercial keywords which were directly related to the business.
It's important to note that since the website was being built after our onboarding only so it was easy for us to structure the website according to the SEO strategy that we prepared.
At every stage we had meetings with the developer to ensure that there are no technical issues that will hinder the SEO growth and future and also we structured the website to be SEO friendly. We built separate pages for all the product categories and after through keyword research we added content to those pages so that the pages itself can rank for commercial keywords.
After the website was ready we audited it for technical issues(Like mobile friendliness, H1 tags, canonical tags, etc) we started focusing on the content. We wanted to establish our website as a trusted authority in the hair extensions and hair care industry in general.
Since the website was completely new, initially we created blogs(2-3 times per week) around informational keywords with low KD purely for increasing our website authority and bringing the initial traffic on the website. We have seen that usually people start stressing about approaching big websites for guest postings since the first day itself but if your keyword research and content is solid, that is not required in the beginning. Initially we focused on profile creations, image submissions, pdf submissions, internal linking in the content, web 2.0 backlinks etc and this was more than enough for us to rank for low difficulty keywords and increase our DA to a decent level so that our category pages can rank for low difficulty keywords.
Here I would like to include a tip, many times people are worried that what if the backlink that they have created doesn't get indexed. In the initial phase we work really hard when it comes to what we call as maturing our backlinks as this is the major factor for ranking on low difficulty keywords. So basically what we do is, we make backlinks of our web 2.0 backlinks itself which helps the primary backlink in getting indexed which ultimately helps with our website DA.
Also many people have been asking us in our previous posts how we structure our blog since I talk a lot about content quality, see it's not as hard and it doesn't involve a lot of research at least in the initial phase when you just have to rank on low difficulty keywords. In this phase usually what we do is study the top 5 ranking blogs on the particular keyword and make sure that we include more content and more subheadings then them. Also we try to find opportunities to include tables or charts wherever possible, we include good quality images(original if possible) and at this stage internal linking is very very important so we focus on that as well. In later stages although the basic strategy for framing the blogs remains same, overall content strategy varies a lot from business to business and requires a lot of strategizing depending on the brand positioning goals.
So after we were able to rank for low difficulty informational keywords and our Website DA reached a decent level due to our backlinking efforts, we started writing content around the fashion advice and common problems which people face related to hair in general. But as discussed earlier, we wanted to keep our brand positioning fashion centric, so even while writing about common problems we applied a positive and solution centric approach. We strategically placed internal links to our product pages in the content and tested popups with offers as well. Apart from this, we started guest posting as well at this stage. For finding websites for guest posting we used SEMrush’s backlink gap analysis tool and created a segregated list of blogs that we can reach out to based on their content quality and DA. By this time the store started generating decent revenue from ads and SEO so the client was completely onboard with reaching out to blogs for guest posting. Guest posting and overall strategic SEO application started generating a good amount of traffic for us and in 3-4 months the revenue generated due to SEO surpassed our Ads revenue as well.
Advantages of Combining SEO and Paid Ads
While Facebook Ads played a crucial role in launching the brand and driving initial traffic, SEO has emerged as the primary driver of sustainable growth. This approach allowed us to:
Thankyou For Reading!
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This is an incredible success story of how we helped a client achieve incredible results in just four months, generating an $80,000 return on investment (ROI) with a combination of SEO and Facebook Ads. We have completed many successful projects and there's a certain satisfaction in seeing our strategies translate to such tangible growth. I have tried to keep this post extremely detailed so that it can be beneficial for experienced marketers and newcomers alike.
The Client: Hair Extension E-commerce Brand
Revenue Split Between SEO and Fb ads: 3:2
Average Order Value: $350
Facebook Ads Spend(For 6 Months): $10,000
Total Revenue(6 months): $140,000
Other Expenses(6 months): Product Cost + Delivery cost + Team + Agency Fees + Website Optimization + Packaging: $50000
Basic Company Background:
The brand was being run by a Mother-Daughter duo for the past 3 months. They had a shopify website with average structure and were struggling with facebook ads themselves. Although they made few physical sales due to friends and relatives but were unable to utilize the digital potential of their business as such. After trying facebook ads for some time they wanted a reliable digital marketing team to work with and they were recommended to us by one of our other customers who has a service based business. Initially we connected majorly for facebook ads but after the initial discussion when were doing research from our side, we found that there is huge potential in SEO for this niche so we suggested that we should prepare a proper website on wordpress and focus on both SEO and Ads parallelly as, although Ads will give an initial boost to the business but SEO will bring some stability and help in building a sustainable business.
Facebook Ads Campaign Structure:
- Our campaign housed multiple ad sets targeting users who are interested in fashion products and we also targeted audiences of some big and costly fashion companies. We were mostly targeting females aged 25-45 with good income source to have optimal conversions in the beginning, with our Seo efforts we planned to target a slightly younger audience as well which is going steadily as of now.
- We ran occasional promotions like "Buy x get x free" to boost AOV.
- Due to the high AOV and especially the product niche sometimes it is necessary to build trust so we used retargeting to build trust and showcase benefits, not just push for immediate conversions. Ads focused on comparison(Before & Afters), Customer Reviews, Hassle free product application and natural look, stylish look.
It's important to note that after deep research we could find that a major share our hair extensions customers are females aged between 21-45 so we did not actively position our brand as solving problems of low hair volume, but instead we focused on how the products ads style, gives a much better look and you can try new hairstyles and hair colors daily. Also since almost all the demographics in this age group are working, we tested a professional look angle as well which gave us decent results. In ad creatives as well as on the website we made the daughter as the face of the product as we want to slowly grow her instagram as well which can add another organic and sustainable stream of revenue. She shoots before and after transition videos, general product application videos and other videos for ads according to the target audience and brand positioning strategy we discussed earlier. Instead of making long videos focused on product details a lot, we made short but captivating videos which can appeal to the young audience’s fashion sense.
Key Takeaways from FB Ads:
Mostly Meta Ads or Any other marketing tactic is just a traffic source but conversion will basically happen by how well you are able to communicate your product to the audience through your website. Its is necessary to have a smooth user journey, attractive offers, crisp information and right brand positioning on the website.
It is extremely important to make data driven decisions and track customer journeys meticulously. Always rely on your own tracking or google analytics to avoid the potential unreliability of Facebook Ads Manager.
Seo Strategy
If you don’t already know this, SEO is all about how effectively you can strategize your content and technical efforts keeping a bigger picture in mind. After our initial keyword research we could find that the average Kd of the important keywords was low when it comes to commercial keywords which were directly related to the business.
It's important to note that since the website was being built after our onboarding only so it was easy for us to structure the website according to the SEO strategy that we prepared.
At every stage we had meetings with the developer to ensure that there are no technical issues that will hinder the SEO growth and future and also we structured the website to be SEO friendly. We built separate pages for all the product categories and after through keyword research we added content to those pages so that the pages itself can rank for commercial keywords.
After the website was ready we audited it for technical issues(Like mobile friendliness, H1 tags, canonical tags, etc) we started focusing on the content. We wanted to establish our website as a trusted authority in the hair extensions and hair care industry in general.
Since the website was completely new, initially we created blogs(2-3 times per week) around informational keywords with low KD purely for increasing our website authority and bringing the initial traffic on the website. We have seen that usually people start stressing about approaching big websites for guest postings since the first day itself but if your keyword research and content is solid, that is not required in the beginning. Initially we focused on profile creations, image submissions, pdf submissions, internal linking in the content, web 2.0 backlinks etc and this was more than enough for us to rank for low difficulty keywords and increase our DA to a decent level so that our category pages can rank for low difficulty keywords.
Here I would like to include a tip, many times people are worried that what if the backlink that they have created doesn't get indexed. In the initial phase we work really hard when it comes to what we call as maturing our backlinks as this is the major factor for ranking on low difficulty keywords. So basically what we do is, we make backlinks of our web 2.0 backlinks itself which helps the primary backlink in getting indexed which ultimately helps with our website DA.
Also many people have been asking us in our previous posts how we structure our blog since I talk a lot about content quality, see it's not as hard and it doesn't involve a lot of research at least in the initial phase when you just have to rank on low difficulty keywords. In this phase usually what we do is study the top 5 ranking blogs on the particular keyword and make sure that we include more content and more subheadings then them. Also we try to find opportunities to include tables or charts wherever possible, we include good quality images(original if possible) and at this stage internal linking is very very important so we focus on that as well. In later stages although the basic strategy for framing the blogs remains same, overall content strategy varies a lot from business to business and requires a lot of strategizing depending on the brand positioning goals.
So after we were able to rank for low difficulty informational keywords and our Website DA reached a decent level due to our backlinking efforts, we started writing content around the fashion advice and common problems which people face related to hair in general. But as discussed earlier, we wanted to keep our brand positioning fashion centric, so even while writing about common problems we applied a positive and solution centric approach. We strategically placed internal links to our product pages in the content and tested popups with offers as well. Apart from this, we started guest posting as well at this stage. For finding websites for guest posting we used SEMrush’s backlink gap analysis tool and created a segregated list of blogs that we can reach out to based on their content quality and DA. By this time the store started generating decent revenue from ads and SEO so the client was completely onboard with reaching out to blogs for guest posting. Guest posting and overall strategic SEO application started generating a good amount of traffic for us and in 3-4 months the revenue generated due to SEO surpassed our Ads revenue as well.
Advantages of Combining SEO and Paid Ads
While Facebook Ads played a crucial role in launching the brand and driving initial traffic, SEO has emerged as the primary driver of sustainable growth. This approach allowed us to:
- Reduce Reliance on Paid Advertising: As our SEO efforts matured, we were able to gradually decrease our Facebook ad spend, resulting in cost savings and improved return on investment.
- Build Brand Authority: Our SEO strategy has positioned our website as a trusted authority in the hair extensions industry. This fosters brand recognition and trust, leading to organic customer acquisition.
- Scale Traffic and Revenue: Organic traffic growth has been exponential, leading to a significant and sustainable increase in website revenue generated through SEO.
Thankyou For Reading!
2024.05.14 13:00 ginger0114 Laptop upgrades - what to get?
I hope this is allowed here.
Posted elsewhere but didn't get much traction.
Apologies if this is a tad long, I'm just trying to figure out what to do. If anything. So I'll add a TL;DR at the bottom.
Although I'm comfortable and confident in sourcing and changing all these components, I'm still a noob at deciding what and when to get stuff. So any assistance is appreciated.
I posted the other day about reapplying thermal paste due to slightly high temps and it got me thinking about other potential upgrades I can get/do, so hoping, if at all possible, you guys might have some ideas, recommendations or other tips and tricks (i.e. BIOS/other software) to help me get the most out of it. I also a few questions!
I have;
MSI Raider GE66 12UGS - 2yrs old
Light work - GPU ~40-45 Celsius/ CPU (fluctuates heavily ) ~40-60 Celsius
Under load - GPU ~75-85 Celsius/ CPU ~85-90 Celsius
So, as stated, I'm looking at trying to do a few upgrades to my laptop. I have been thinking about it for a while but still unsure on how to go about it. Firstly, would it be worth it? I'm aware that this isn't exactly bottom of the barrel, however I believe it could be better.
My 1st point of call would be to add an extra TB or 2 of storage, as although I have an external hard drive, i've had to occasionally keep removing games in order to fit others on.
Q1 - Like RAM, would i have to get an SSD that is the same speed, or is it not necessary and can add whatever I like?
Second point will be to upgrade the RAM, As mentioned, currently at 16gb, thinking of going up to 32gb.
Q2 - Is this necessary? Will I gain much (any) more performance by doing so or will it be negligible?
Third point of call, would be to re-apply thermal paste and putty. Yes i have just done paste, however I have since been made aware of a better quality paste, plus my putty was a little dry anyway so makes sense to kill 2 birds with one stone. Trying to keep temps as low as possible.
Q3 - Any recommendations for putty?
Fifth Point would be to upgrade the fans, because recently I've started to get what I believe to be coil whine. I have dusted off the fans and yet it is still occuring so for the sake you a few £, it gives me piece of mind...And stops setting off my tinnitus...
Right, I think that's all that possible, but if not the please let me know! Once again, I appreciate if you read this far, and any help would be grand.
TL;DR - Looking at upgrading laptop - current components above. Is it worth it? If so, any recommendations for both hardware and software changes?
I am very well aware that most of these may be completely unnecessary, and if so please do say so. This is just the thinking stage at the moment, so open to anything and everything!
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Posted elsewhere but didn't get much traction.
Apologies if this is a tad long, I'm just trying to figure out what to do. If anything. So I'll add a TL;DR at the bottom.
Although I'm comfortable and confident in sourcing and changing all these components, I'm still a noob at deciding what and when to get stuff. So any assistance is appreciated.
I posted the other day about reapplying thermal paste due to slightly high temps and it got me thinking about other potential upgrades I can get/do, so hoping, if at all possible, you guys might have some ideas, recommendations or other tips and tricks (i.e. BIOS/other software) to help me get the most out of it. I also a few questions!
I have;
MSI Raider GE66 12UGS - 2yrs old
- Intel I7-12700H (12th gen) - Integrated Iris Xe graphics
- 16gb Ram (2x8)- DDR5-4800 SODIMM - Max is 64gb
- NVIDIA RTX 3070 Ti
- Samsung 1TB M.2 NVMe SSD (2 banks available 1x in use)
- 99.9mWh battery @ ~20% wear
Light work - GPU ~40-45 Celsius/ CPU (fluctuates heavily ) ~40-60 Celsius
Under load - GPU ~75-85 Celsius/ CPU ~85-90 Celsius
So, as stated, I'm looking at trying to do a few upgrades to my laptop. I have been thinking about it for a while but still unsure on how to go about it. Firstly, would it be worth it? I'm aware that this isn't exactly bottom of the barrel, however I believe it could be better.
My 1st point of call would be to add an extra TB or 2 of storage, as although I have an external hard drive, i've had to occasionally keep removing games in order to fit others on.
Q1 - Like RAM, would i have to get an SSD that is the same speed, or is it not necessary and can add whatever I like?
Second point will be to upgrade the RAM, As mentioned, currently at 16gb, thinking of going up to 32gb.
Q2 - Is this necessary? Will I gain much (any) more performance by doing so or will it be negligible?
Third point of call, would be to re-apply thermal paste and putty. Yes i have just done paste, however I have since been made aware of a better quality paste, plus my putty was a little dry anyway so makes sense to kill 2 birds with one stone. Trying to keep temps as low as possible.
Q3 - Any recommendations for putty?
- Battery. Im plugged in 95% of the time currently, so could probably take a miss on this. but am open to changing as the battery is not too expensive.
Fifth Point would be to upgrade the fans, because recently I've started to get what I believe to be coil whine. I have dusted off the fans and yet it is still occuring so for the sake you a few £, it gives me piece of mind...And stops setting off my tinnitus...
Right, I think that's all that possible, but if not the please let me know! Once again, I appreciate if you read this far, and any help would be grand.
TL;DR - Looking at upgrading laptop - current components above. Is it worth it? If so, any recommendations for both hardware and software changes?
I am very well aware that most of these may be completely unnecessary, and if so please do say so. This is just the thinking stage at the moment, so open to anything and everything!
2024.05.14 12:59 Maleficent_Carrot242 How do a recovering golden child find who they are instead of pretending to be what everyone else need?
I grew up the golden child out of 7. I was the only one she had as a newborn so naturally she felt closer to me. We were raised by our adoptive mom and grandma. My mom was very manipulative, emotionally not there and unstable. She and my grandmother would say nasty things to my sisters and make them feel less valued. As I started to age, I realized the dynamic and began to speak up about the abuse, and soon, I became apart of the group being talked about, even tho I still had some “incentives”. My mom and I had an odd relationship, it got to a point where I feel I became the parent or the person she’d come to to reassure on her bad behavior. Everyone left her home at age 17/18 and she was hurt about it. I’m no longer living with her and barely in contact but I’m the only one out of my sisters who is having a hard time finding who I am, my purpose in life, and to make healthy , balanced relationships/friendships. I’ve been house hopping from families and friends house, can’t keep a stable job due to my mental health and anxiety and it’s just a revolving cycle. I have started to die research on my own from the internet and YouTube but I’m still having a hard time. Please help
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2024.05.14 12:59 mokie2332 My grandma comes to me in my dreams
I am almost 19 and ever since my grandma dried about 2 years ago she has been coming to me in my dreams. It’s not very often but when it happens my whole family is standing around a hospital bed (she died in her apartment not a hospital) I have no idea who’s in the hospital bed but from what I can see it’s a smaller sized human maybe a child? I don’t really know. Anyways, my whole family is standing around this hospital bed and I’m always at the foot of the bed holding the rail. My grandma comes in walking with her walker and says to me a variation of “everything is gonna be alright honey. You are my 7th grand baby and I’ll always be there watching. You’ll get through it you always do.” The thing is she looks how she looked before the Alzheimer’s dementia thing. She looked like she was happy and healthy and completely mindful of the situation. And Everytime I’m the only one who can see her. Towards the end of the dream I ask “can everyone else see grandma?” And everyone looks at me weird and then I wake up. Honestly I didn’t even know there where 7 grandchildren for her my siblings and my aunts kids I’ve never really sat there and counted until the first time she came to my dream and said it. The thing for me is that she wasn’t a very active grandma if that’s the right word. She never came to grandparents day at school never really was there besides major holidays (even though she lived about 15 minutes away) and never took the time to get to know me. So I never really had a relationship with her the way she had with my other siblings and cousins. But she came to me in a dream? It doesn’t make a lot of sense. I didn’t even really cry when she died I just kinda stood there and watched as hospice gave her morphine for the pain. Idk. Maybe in the back of my subconscious mind I wanted a relationship with her so bad that I have to dream about her regretting not being there in my life. Or maybe she does truly regret not being there and is trying to tell me that she’s sorry. I’ve had a total of about 4 dreams about her and had one last night. Anyways thanks for listening.
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2024.05.14 12:59 newsu1 Positive Self-Talk: The Secret Weapon for Building Resilience and Confidence
 | "Yes I Can, I Got This" - The Power of Positive Self-TalkToo often we are our own harshest critics, quick to doubt our abilities and dismiss our accomplishments. But giving yourself credit where it's due, celebrating your wins, and using positive self-talk is so important for building self-confidence, resilience, and a mindset for success.Patting Yourself on the Back Patting yourself on the back, uttering affirmations like "I got this," or simply telling yourself "well done" after a challenge are all forms of positive self-talk. This inner voice cheering you on provides motivation, lifts your spirit, and reinforces the belief that you are capable of overcoming obstacles. Empowering Examples Other empowering examples of positive self-talk include:
Recognizing and giving yourself credit for your efforts, small wins, and personal growth is so important. It builds self-esteem and an empowering narrative of capability. It keeps you going during difficult times. It quiets the voice of self-doubt. Celebrating Accomplishments When you give yourself that hard-earned pat on the back, you're acknowledging your strength, your persistence, and your ability to achieve your goals through perseverance. You're validating your self-worth and potential. This positive internal dialogue becomes the fuel for bigger dreams and greater challenges. Embrace Positive Self-Talk So don't hold back in celebrating your accomplishments. Embrace positive self-talk as a potent tool for self-motivation. Let "You've got this!" become your personal mantra, a battle cry that propels you forward with courage and conviction. You are unstoppable when you believe in yourself. Yes you can, because you've got this! Newsu |
2024.05.14 12:58 saturnian-sketchbook I am lost as to what to do for my younger brother
My (29F) brother (26M) has no clear direction in life. He has blown through 4 college programs and has not completed any of them. If he lived in any other family, he would have racked up so much debt for education he is not using.
My brother works at a coffee shop making minimum wage, under 40 hours per week. He has been there for nearly 10 years. He has ADHD and is likely on the spectrum. Since childhood, he has always exhibited social difficulties, challenges with relationships, social awkwardness, social anxiety and vocal/body stimming. If he is not working, he is in his room gaming. It has been like this for years. He has no social life, no friends, no desire to get his driver’s licence, and no goals for himself. He is oblivious to his future and what it looks like. I have tried writing him a resume so he can look for an entry level jobs that only require a high school education. Getting relevant information is like pulling teeth. I keep asking him about some community work he did in his early twenties and he keeps saying he’ll send it over to me but he doesn’t.
My parents, who have been divorced since I was 10, should have sat down to talk about my brother years ago. But now shit is hitting the fan. My mom and stepdad are currently working with a contracting company to build a house that they will retire in. My stepdad does not want his stepson, my brother, to move in with them. He believes that if he moves in with them, my brother will never leave. This has brought up fights and talks about them breaking up. They have been together for over a decade.
We don’t see much of my dad, maybe birthdays and holidays, and I’m usually the one to reach out to him. He drives to our area all the time for his extracurriculars, but doesn’t really ask to see us. I don’t think he sees the gravity of my brother’s situation because he hardly asks how we’re doing. He cares much for the fun things in his life, and I guess considering my brother does the same, the apple doesn’t fall far from the tree.
I’m planning on moving out in early September with my boyfriend, at least that is the goal. I have already lived on my own for most of the pandemic. I moved back in late September 2023 because my ex left and I was in financial constraints due to a family member needing to borrow money.
I hate writing all this, but I am at an utter loss. I’ve watched both parents, with their own families, take on the burden of being the glue that holds everything together. I feel like that cycle is moving onto me as I overheard my stepdad suggest that my brother lives with me. I don’t know what he expects me to do. I have made suggestions to my dad about how to handle things, and it doesn’t get taken seriously. I feel like I have to be the bad guy and give them a harsh, overdue reality check.
I made a similar post about a year ago and had to delete it. So many people called my brother useless. Despite my frustrations, I still love my brother dearly. But I lose sleep over this. Is there even anything I can do?
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My brother works at a coffee shop making minimum wage, under 40 hours per week. He has been there for nearly 10 years. He has ADHD and is likely on the spectrum. Since childhood, he has always exhibited social difficulties, challenges with relationships, social awkwardness, social anxiety and vocal/body stimming. If he is not working, he is in his room gaming. It has been like this for years. He has no social life, no friends, no desire to get his driver’s licence, and no goals for himself. He is oblivious to his future and what it looks like. I have tried writing him a resume so he can look for an entry level jobs that only require a high school education. Getting relevant information is like pulling teeth. I keep asking him about some community work he did in his early twenties and he keeps saying he’ll send it over to me but he doesn’t.
My parents, who have been divorced since I was 10, should have sat down to talk about my brother years ago. But now shit is hitting the fan. My mom and stepdad are currently working with a contracting company to build a house that they will retire in. My stepdad does not want his stepson, my brother, to move in with them. He believes that if he moves in with them, my brother will never leave. This has brought up fights and talks about them breaking up. They have been together for over a decade.
We don’t see much of my dad, maybe birthdays and holidays, and I’m usually the one to reach out to him. He drives to our area all the time for his extracurriculars, but doesn’t really ask to see us. I don’t think he sees the gravity of my brother’s situation because he hardly asks how we’re doing. He cares much for the fun things in his life, and I guess considering my brother does the same, the apple doesn’t fall far from the tree.
I’m planning on moving out in early September with my boyfriend, at least that is the goal. I have already lived on my own for most of the pandemic. I moved back in late September 2023 because my ex left and I was in financial constraints due to a family member needing to borrow money.
I hate writing all this, but I am at an utter loss. I’ve watched both parents, with their own families, take on the burden of being the glue that holds everything together. I feel like that cycle is moving onto me as I overheard my stepdad suggest that my brother lives with me. I don’t know what he expects me to do. I have made suggestions to my dad about how to handle things, and it doesn’t get taken seriously. I feel like I have to be the bad guy and give them a harsh, overdue reality check.
I made a similar post about a year ago and had to delete it. So many people called my brother useless. Despite my frustrations, I still love my brother dearly. But I lose sleep over this. Is there even anything I can do?
2024.05.14 12:58 Material-Explorer138 Messy sugar attempt
https://www.reddit.com/sugarlifestyleforum/s/AIkX0trKxX
Not sharing this for any specific reason, just a funny story that I have no one to share with
Tl;dr met with a POT we had amazing personal chemistry, but horrible sexual chemistry. Ended up with a friend rather than a SB
Story time: I posted about this POT a week ago, saying that its very annoying how after we moved to whatsapp she became fully unresponsive. A few days later she texts me that her phone wasn’t working which is why she wasn’t replying. I initially called BS but rolled with it anyway because she had become responsive so it was fine. We try to setup a date but it didn’t work out initially
A few days later I went on a solo wellness retreat in a resort an hour outside the city, spent the first night alone, then out of boredom decided to ask her if she’d join, fully expecting her to say no. Surprisingly she was totally game (later I kept joking about how she has zero regards for her own safety and she admitted that in retrospect it was dumb of her to do that)
I book her a separate room and send her uber money to come, then pick her up off the closest spot since its a private compound and ubers have no access. Right off the bat we hit it off amazingly and were really enjoying each other’s company. We check her in, she goes to her room to freshen up and get ready while I go lounge by the pool for a bit. She texts me “sorry its taking me long, just getting ready for you” accompanied by one of the sexiest spicy pics Ive ever received which got me really excited. We lounge by the pool, have dinner and hang out for a bit, and the conversation is flowing amazingly.
Then we head to my room, we start playing around for a bit nothing too serious, then she says shes kinda sleepy so she’ll rest a bit so we can have fun later. So we turn on a movie and just cuddle and she falls asleep.
A bit of backstory, we’re in a conservative middle eastern country where pre martial sex is kinda prohibited in resorts. A lot of places turn a blind eye, and I got the vibe from this place that they were chill, but boy was I wrong. 10 mins after she falls asleep someone bangs on the door, asking me to accompany them to the lobby. They say the cameras saw her stepping into my room 50 minutes ago and someone heard us fooling around, and we have to check out rn or theyll get the cops involved ( the legal side of this is a bit hazy, but I didnt want to cause I scene). Mind you, its 10 pm and were an hour outside the city in the middle of nowhere. I try to rationalize with the manager for a bit including hinting at money but he wasnt having it and he said we have to check out right now and that we’re both blacklisted from coming back (shame, I really liked the place before they turned out to be cockblocks)
Anyway we leave, try to find a last minute airbnb, drive for an hour till its ready, we have to enter separately (again conservative state) so a lot of drama was involved. We finally get to the room and we can’t wait any longer, we start going at each other instantly. Midway through I realize.. this is not doing anything.. for either of us. We tried different things, different positions, everything, the sex was just not sexing.. We rest a bit try again but by then we had already lost it and neither of us was really into it. We cuddle and sleep (the cuddling was great tbh but not really looking for a cuddle buddy). We wake up the next day, head to the shower, try to get it on a bit, again nothing. So we finally talk about it (I tried to get her to talk about it the previous night but she didnt want to), I end up giving her oral for a bit (I told her that Ive been told I give good head, but she said she didnt enjoy, the next day she asked me to). She seemed to enjoy it, or fake it, not entirely sure. Then we hang out for a bit then I drive her home, we stop for coffee on the way and again the conversation is amazing like constant laughing and relating to each other etc
We had agreed on PPM as a concept but she was too shy to name a number, so on my drive back home she says that even though the night was rocky she would still appreciate if I could help her out. I reply I was definitely gonna send her and asked again if she had a number in mind. She says no and I go with a mid range number to which she says is more than enough and shes really pleased with. We agreed that we would like to see each other again but definitely outside the bedroom. So no go on the SR but at least i made a friend
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Not sharing this for any specific reason, just a funny story that I have no one to share with
Tl;dr met with a POT we had amazing personal chemistry, but horrible sexual chemistry. Ended up with a friend rather than a SB
Story time: I posted about this POT a week ago, saying that its very annoying how after we moved to whatsapp she became fully unresponsive. A few days later she texts me that her phone wasn’t working which is why she wasn’t replying. I initially called BS but rolled with it anyway because she had become responsive so it was fine. We try to setup a date but it didn’t work out initially
A few days later I went on a solo wellness retreat in a resort an hour outside the city, spent the first night alone, then out of boredom decided to ask her if she’d join, fully expecting her to say no. Surprisingly she was totally game (later I kept joking about how she has zero regards for her own safety and she admitted that in retrospect it was dumb of her to do that)
I book her a separate room and send her uber money to come, then pick her up off the closest spot since its a private compound and ubers have no access. Right off the bat we hit it off amazingly and were really enjoying each other’s company. We check her in, she goes to her room to freshen up and get ready while I go lounge by the pool for a bit. She texts me “sorry its taking me long, just getting ready for you” accompanied by one of the sexiest spicy pics Ive ever received which got me really excited. We lounge by the pool, have dinner and hang out for a bit, and the conversation is flowing amazingly.
Then we head to my room, we start playing around for a bit nothing too serious, then she says shes kinda sleepy so she’ll rest a bit so we can have fun later. So we turn on a movie and just cuddle and she falls asleep.
A bit of backstory, we’re in a conservative middle eastern country where pre martial sex is kinda prohibited in resorts. A lot of places turn a blind eye, and I got the vibe from this place that they were chill, but boy was I wrong. 10 mins after she falls asleep someone bangs on the door, asking me to accompany them to the lobby. They say the cameras saw her stepping into my room 50 minutes ago and someone heard us fooling around, and we have to check out rn or theyll get the cops involved ( the legal side of this is a bit hazy, but I didnt want to cause I scene). Mind you, its 10 pm and were an hour outside the city in the middle of nowhere. I try to rationalize with the manager for a bit including hinting at money but he wasnt having it and he said we have to check out right now and that we’re both blacklisted from coming back (shame, I really liked the place before they turned out to be cockblocks)
Anyway we leave, try to find a last minute airbnb, drive for an hour till its ready, we have to enter separately (again conservative state) so a lot of drama was involved. We finally get to the room and we can’t wait any longer, we start going at each other instantly. Midway through I realize.. this is not doing anything.. for either of us. We tried different things, different positions, everything, the sex was just not sexing.. We rest a bit try again but by then we had already lost it and neither of us was really into it. We cuddle and sleep (the cuddling was great tbh but not really looking for a cuddle buddy). We wake up the next day, head to the shower, try to get it on a bit, again nothing. So we finally talk about it (I tried to get her to talk about it the previous night but she didnt want to), I end up giving her oral for a bit (I told her that Ive been told I give good head, but she said she didnt enjoy, the next day she asked me to). She seemed to enjoy it, or fake it, not entirely sure. Then we hang out for a bit then I drive her home, we stop for coffee on the way and again the conversation is amazing like constant laughing and relating to each other etc
We had agreed on PPM as a concept but she was too shy to name a number, so on my drive back home she says that even though the night was rocky she would still appreciate if I could help her out. I reply I was definitely gonna send her and asked again if she had a number in mind. She says no and I go with a mid range number to which she says is more than enough and shes really pleased with. We agreed that we would like to see each other again but definitely outside the bedroom. So no go on the SR but at least i made a friend
2024.05.14 12:58 ofmyvoicee Second FET Implantation Today
Going in for my second FET implantation today. Last month we did a medicated cycle that didn’t work, trying natural this time. PIO 1X a day (was going to do suppositories but they were irritating).
I got on antibiotics for a UTI yesterday and am worried that could mess with things. My doctor doesn’t seem worried, the antibiotics are pregnancy safe, and it’s good that I’m getting treated, but after already having a loss, it’s hard not to worry about another one.
Any positive thoughts you can send my way would be so appreciated. We just so, so want this baby to stick. 🤞🏻🤞🏻🤞🏻
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I got on antibiotics for a UTI yesterday and am worried that could mess with things. My doctor doesn’t seem worried, the antibiotics are pregnancy safe, and it’s good that I’m getting treated, but after already having a loss, it’s hard not to worry about another one.
Any positive thoughts you can send my way would be so appreciated. We just so, so want this baby to stick. 🤞🏻🤞🏻🤞🏻
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2024.05.14 12:57 rohitsuri_ 25M in LDR with my girlfriend 25F for last 3 years
Hey folks,
I’m (25M) in a relationship with my girlfriend (25F) for last 3 years. I live in Delhi and she lives in Bangalore, We both are software engineers. We have told about each other to our families.
Things started going downhill 2 months back when I told her that i showed her pics to my mother. She started asking what were here reviews and all, my mother actually found her not good looks wise, and I told her the same ( in a sugar coated way). Fights started and continued for days. She has too much anger from the beginning. Even though this topic was closed, we still had lot of arguments. We are now at a stage that after every fight we think whether to continue or not.
I gave very deep thoughts about my relationship. She has given a deadline that we should marry at max by 2025 end. Post marriage, I’ll have to shift to BLR as she had recently joined her new job, and I have a remote job. But I don’t want to leave my family nor Delhi at all. Every time I think about marrying her, this thought pops up. When I discuss this with her, it ends up in fight.
Now I have started feeling whether i should be in this relationship or not, since this was my first relationship and I don’t think I’m ready for marriage at this age, and nor I have explored anything yet. She warns me that she’ll marry anyone but would get married in 2025 only.
On the other hand I think, i have deep emotional connect with her, should I keep on trying? If yes, it is still so long time to be in long distance, and these fights are not ending. I don't have any solution, neither for current situation nor for post marriage moving to Bangalore thing. All this is eating me constantly.
Breaking up and separating may lead to regret that I should have invested efforts and fixed things.
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I’m (25M) in a relationship with my girlfriend (25F) for last 3 years. I live in Delhi and she lives in Bangalore, We both are software engineers. We have told about each other to our families.
Things started going downhill 2 months back when I told her that i showed her pics to my mother. She started asking what were here reviews and all, my mother actually found her not good looks wise, and I told her the same ( in a sugar coated way). Fights started and continued for days. She has too much anger from the beginning. Even though this topic was closed, we still had lot of arguments. We are now at a stage that after every fight we think whether to continue or not.
I gave very deep thoughts about my relationship. She has given a deadline that we should marry at max by 2025 end. Post marriage, I’ll have to shift to BLR as she had recently joined her new job, and I have a remote job. But I don’t want to leave my family nor Delhi at all. Every time I think about marrying her, this thought pops up. When I discuss this with her, it ends up in fight.
Now I have started feeling whether i should be in this relationship or not, since this was my first relationship and I don’t think I’m ready for marriage at this age, and nor I have explored anything yet. She warns me that she’ll marry anyone but would get married in 2025 only.
On the other hand I think, i have deep emotional connect with her, should I keep on trying? If yes, it is still so long time to be in long distance, and these fights are not ending. I don't have any solution, neither for current situation nor for post marriage moving to Bangalore thing. All this is eating me constantly.
Breaking up and separating may lead to regret that I should have invested efforts and fixed things.
2024.05.14 12:56 Purple-Salary9861 AITAH for last minute cancelling on going to my (30F) boyfriend’s (33M) friend’s (35M) birthday party last minute?
TL;DR: BF (33M) and I (30F) said we were going to try to make it BF’s friend’s (35M) birthday party, but we ended up staying in my hometown longer to spend time with my mom for Mother’s Day weekend. Boyfriend’s friend was not happy we weren’t coming anymore to his birthday party because I wanted to spend more time with my mom and family.
My (30F) relationship with my bf (33M): Been dating for almost 2 years. Currently living together in a home he bought. He’s a great boyfriend and we fight maybe once a month.
So I’ve been seeing my boyfriend’s friends every weekend for over the past month including my own 30th birthday party a few weeks ago that they all attended.
It’s Mother’s Day weekend and his friend ‘Y’ (35M) threw a birthday party at his parents house over the weekend (Saturday) that Y and his parents paid for the day before Mother’s Day. My family lives 2 hours away and we said we were already planning to go see my family for early afternoon to celebrate Mother’s Day with my mom and bonus moms and that we would try to come to the pool party at night. It’s about 4PM and my family arrived late and I really wanted to spend more time with family since I don’t see them as much. I haven’t seen them since January so I asked my boyfriend to text Y that we won’t be able to make it to his party and that we’ll be happy to make it up to him. Y replied with “Wow. Don’t bother”.
We spent time at Y’s home for his Kentucky Derby get together last week (only 6 people were there, including my bf and I) where my boyfriend and I ended up spending the night at his home since he lives by himself now and isn’t in a relationship (hasn’t been in a relationship for 4 years since he broke up with his boyfriend so he’s rather lonely and gets drunk alone in his house), I didn’t want him to be alone since we’ve all been drinking and I knew he drinks alone often. After my boyfriend went to bed, I even stayed up to watch little shop of horrors with Y until 3AM and talked about life… it was honestly really nice.
I told my boyfriend all this and that if this is the case with his friends, that I would rather not be around them. That he’s welcome to still hangout with them, but that I may not be joining. My childhood friends would never say anything like that to me or my boyfriend so it’s just super surprising to see that someone would even say that. I guess I’m just not used to it and tbh I don’t want to be. Friendships outside a relationship are insanely important and for significant others to put in effort to get to know your partners loved ones, but I am having trouble with what to do and if I need to create a boundary.
I even booked an airbnb for the summer for us all to drive to for the weekend (10 people in the friend group) and contemplating cancelling it to not be around any of them. They’re not all bad and I honestly enjoy most of them, but I will say, the friend group is similar to an exhausting friend group I had in my early 20s and it’s tiring. His friend group in general is toxic to each other and a different friend was also rude to my childhood friends and even my older sister at last year’s Christmas party I hosted in my home.
I’ve reached out to Y to share how hurtful his comment was considering how much time we’ve spent together for the past month and that I simply wanted more time with my mom and family. Shortly after that the other 8 people started to blow up our group chat that I’m in with them sharing how amazing his parents were and how incredible his pool party was. Took Y a day to respond back while he was texting in the group chat still but he eventually in summary said that he understood I was celebrating Mother’s Day, but he doesn’t understand why that realization happened of us not being able to go happened an hour into his party starting. They all began to be extra chatty the day after his party. Y texting me a day later (yesterday) and said him and his parents spent a lot of money and time preparing for his birthday party - catering from a local store for subs and chicken tenders. I also shared with him that we would cover for loss costs for us not being able to be there.
Any advice on how to handle a significant other’s friend group like this? AITAH? Everyone is in their 30s and it feels toxic. I’m all for growing if I’m the asshole here and I have apologized to him for us not attending. I also have not received an apology from his end.
If I should cancel the airbnb since it’s under my name, how should I go about this with all my bf’s friends? I’m feeling pretty hurt on how all of this is unfolding with his friends all because I wanted to spend more time with my mom on Mother’s Day. I don’t want my boyfriend to resent me…
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My (30F) relationship with my bf (33M): Been dating for almost 2 years. Currently living together in a home he bought. He’s a great boyfriend and we fight maybe once a month.
So I’ve been seeing my boyfriend’s friends every weekend for over the past month including my own 30th birthday party a few weeks ago that they all attended.
It’s Mother’s Day weekend and his friend ‘Y’ (35M) threw a birthday party at his parents house over the weekend (Saturday) that Y and his parents paid for the day before Mother’s Day. My family lives 2 hours away and we said we were already planning to go see my family for early afternoon to celebrate Mother’s Day with my mom and bonus moms and that we would try to come to the pool party at night. It’s about 4PM and my family arrived late and I really wanted to spend more time with family since I don’t see them as much. I haven’t seen them since January so I asked my boyfriend to text Y that we won’t be able to make it to his party and that we’ll be happy to make it up to him. Y replied with “Wow. Don’t bother”.
We spent time at Y’s home for his Kentucky Derby get together last week (only 6 people were there, including my bf and I) where my boyfriend and I ended up spending the night at his home since he lives by himself now and isn’t in a relationship (hasn’t been in a relationship for 4 years since he broke up with his boyfriend so he’s rather lonely and gets drunk alone in his house), I didn’t want him to be alone since we’ve all been drinking and I knew he drinks alone often. After my boyfriend went to bed, I even stayed up to watch little shop of horrors with Y until 3AM and talked about life… it was honestly really nice.
I told my boyfriend all this and that if this is the case with his friends, that I would rather not be around them. That he’s welcome to still hangout with them, but that I may not be joining. My childhood friends would never say anything like that to me or my boyfriend so it’s just super surprising to see that someone would even say that. I guess I’m just not used to it and tbh I don’t want to be. Friendships outside a relationship are insanely important and for significant others to put in effort to get to know your partners loved ones, but I am having trouble with what to do and if I need to create a boundary.
I even booked an airbnb for the summer for us all to drive to for the weekend (10 people in the friend group) and contemplating cancelling it to not be around any of them. They’re not all bad and I honestly enjoy most of them, but I will say, the friend group is similar to an exhausting friend group I had in my early 20s and it’s tiring. His friend group in general is toxic to each other and a different friend was also rude to my childhood friends and even my older sister at last year’s Christmas party I hosted in my home.
I’ve reached out to Y to share how hurtful his comment was considering how much time we’ve spent together for the past month and that I simply wanted more time with my mom and family. Shortly after that the other 8 people started to blow up our group chat that I’m in with them sharing how amazing his parents were and how incredible his pool party was. Took Y a day to respond back while he was texting in the group chat still but he eventually in summary said that he understood I was celebrating Mother’s Day, but he doesn’t understand why that realization happened of us not being able to go happened an hour into his party starting. They all began to be extra chatty the day after his party. Y texting me a day later (yesterday) and said him and his parents spent a lot of money and time preparing for his birthday party - catering from a local store for subs and chicken tenders. I also shared with him that we would cover for loss costs for us not being able to be there.
Any advice on how to handle a significant other’s friend group like this? AITAH? Everyone is in their 30s and it feels toxic. I’m all for growing if I’m the asshole here and I have apologized to him for us not attending. I also have not received an apology from his end.
If I should cancel the airbnb since it’s under my name, how should I go about this with all my bf’s friends? I’m feeling pretty hurt on how all of this is unfolding with his friends all because I wanted to spend more time with my mom on Mother’s Day. I don’t want my boyfriend to resent me…
2024.05.14 12:56 UpsetAppeal2154 I regret leaving my wife.
I'm using a throwaway account as I don't really people currently in my life to know this.
I (30MtF) left my wife (27F, let's call her D) two years ago. The divorce was finalized about two months ago, and I wish I could go back.
I met D eight years ago, while I was homeless. She and her family helped me get a job and my first apartment, she always showed me an incredible amount of love and support, and she was absolutely wonderful in so many ways. But D was also an evangelical Christian and incredibly transphobic and homophobic. I found this out shortly after we met. At the time, I knew I was trans, bisexual, and I was a pagan. I probably should have walked away then.
Unfortunately, due to an incredible amount of trauma in my childhood and adolescence, I have a tendency to develop new versions of myself for those I'm around. The "me" that took over my life during this time decided "he" was a cisgender, bisexual man who refused to "act on" his "sinful" desires after becoming a Christian. Still, early on that "me" didn't have as strong of a hold.
Once, when we'd been dating for a few months, we were hanging out with a friend who showed us Rocky Horror Picture Show for the first time. Neither of us really had any idea what it was about. We watched it, and we were both incredibly uncomfortable for entirely different reasons. She brought me to work (I worked overnights at this time) and then while I was at work we fought over text and nearly broke up because of this damn movie. I didn't like it because it seemed fairly transphobic to me, especially when Dr. Frank-N-Furter raped the guests. (I now recognize this movie has a big place in queer culture but I still can't help but see it as kind of offensive.) D thought it was disgusting that the movie even included a trans character.
Eventually the "me" that had formed to be who she wanted me to be took over full-time and committed to stay with her and fight the "urge to sin." We dated for a few years and then got married. And honestly, this feels like one of the best times in my life sometimes, even though I know I was miserable.
I've always looked fairly feminine, and had fairly long hair and a pretty alternative style that often included makeup. I'd get "mistaken" for a girl pretty frequently when we were out, which only increased when she got me a super cute coffin-shaped purse for an anniversary. She'd always get super upset and defensive on my behalf, which hurt but she couldn't know it.
Sometimes during our marriage, she was reading an article about some state or another not accepting the "trans panic defense" and started ranting about it. I knew what she was talking about but on the off chance I was wrong I asked her to elaborate. She said it was when a trans person comes into the bathroom or hits on you and you assault or kill them because you panic. I tried to calmly explain that I thought it was good that wasn't being accepted because you shouldn't be assaulting or killing people regardless of whether they're trans or not, and it sounded like just a way to hurt trans people and get away with it. She came up with this wild argument and I just let her "win" because I didn't want to lose her. But I never felt fully safe with her again.
She liked it when I wore makeup, and once her sister told me she liked how I was a "man who was secure in his femininity but didn't feel like I needed to be a woman." (This was literally a month before I left to transition.) D agreed with her sister.
Around four years ago made a new friend at work, a nonbinary person I'll call S, who invited me to play DnD with them and their husband (a trans man) when they quit that job. By the time we'd bee playing for about six months, being around other trans people had reawakened the other parts of me, the parts that were closer to who I really am. I re-realized I was trans through our time together, and they started encouraging me to leave her and be my authentic self.
I left D about four months before our five-year wedding anniversary. She had gone through my phone, found messages between me and S about plans for me leaving and my being trans, and confronted me while I was in the shower. I quickly finished my shower and got out, had a six hour long conversation with her about this and tried to get her to understand. Eventually she just said "But you're not a woman and you never will be!" Without a word, I gathered up some essentials and left for S's house. S and I went back to that house while she was at church on Sunday and grabbed everything I owned, and then went to her mom's house to do the same. D and her whole family were there so I was trying to avoid questions and begging and pleading and crying from not only D, but her mom, sister, and brother to stay and give this trans thing up. I told D that if she wanted me to stay, I'd be staying as her wife and she'd have to accept that. She couldn't. I left.
Over the next couple months we spent a lot of time talking. D was trying to convince me to come back, to fall in love with her again. But I hadn't stopped loving her, I'd just gotten sick of hating myself. I told her that. I told her I wanted nothing more than to come back, but I couldn't do it if it meant going back to wanting to die every time I saw myself in the mirror and hating her briefly every time she "corrected" someone on my gender. I told her if she wanted me back, she'd need to support me in my transition. She still couldn't do it.
The last straw was when Michael Knowles called for the eradication of "transgenderism" (trans people). With that and the hundreds of anti-trans bills being introduced, I was scared. I texted D for comfort and instead got into a whole big argument with her. She kept trying to say the anti-trans bills were a good thing, and when I brought up the Michael Knowles thing she said she'd watched that speech and agreed with him. She said eradicating "transgenderism" would be a good thing. I sent her back a long text about the definition of genocide and how you can't separate "transgenderism" from transgender people, and eradicating "transgenderism" would require eradicating transgender people. We never talked again except about our divorce.
The thing that gets me though is that she's always been very anti-racist and speaks out against prejudice of most other kinds. She just never got it through her head that the same reasons she felt so strongly about that are why she should accept LGBTQIA+ people.
Now, it's been about two years since I left her. I have been on hormones for over a year, and I've never been happier with myself. These two years have been absolute hell in other ways. I have no stability, I lost my job, I've lost friends and family and all kinds of other traumatizing events that would make this post a literal novel. I've been suicidal in the past over stuff a lot smaller than this, but now, in the face of almost overwhelming and crushing despair, I'm still nowhere near that point again. I love myself. I am, for the first time in my life, living for myself.
I now have three wonderful partners (polyamory, they are all fully aware and consent, one of them has four other partners of their own) who love and accept me for who I am, and I love them all so much.
And yet. Despite all of that. Despite the pain D caused me, I still love her. I think I always will. And lately, it seems like all I can think of is the good times. And there were so many good times... I wish I could go back. I want her to love me again. And if she texted me tonight and told me she accepted me, I don't know if I could stay away. And this love I still feel... It's the most painful thing of all.
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I (30MtF) left my wife (27F, let's call her D) two years ago. The divorce was finalized about two months ago, and I wish I could go back.
I met D eight years ago, while I was homeless. She and her family helped me get a job and my first apartment, she always showed me an incredible amount of love and support, and she was absolutely wonderful in so many ways. But D was also an evangelical Christian and incredibly transphobic and homophobic. I found this out shortly after we met. At the time, I knew I was trans, bisexual, and I was a pagan. I probably should have walked away then.
Unfortunately, due to an incredible amount of trauma in my childhood and adolescence, I have a tendency to develop new versions of myself for those I'm around. The "me" that took over my life during this time decided "he" was a cisgender, bisexual man who refused to "act on" his "sinful" desires after becoming a Christian. Still, early on that "me" didn't have as strong of a hold.
Once, when we'd been dating for a few months, we were hanging out with a friend who showed us Rocky Horror Picture Show for the first time. Neither of us really had any idea what it was about. We watched it, and we were both incredibly uncomfortable for entirely different reasons. She brought me to work (I worked overnights at this time) and then while I was at work we fought over text and nearly broke up because of this damn movie. I didn't like it because it seemed fairly transphobic to me, especially when Dr. Frank-N-Furter raped the guests. (I now recognize this movie has a big place in queer culture but I still can't help but see it as kind of offensive.) D thought it was disgusting that the movie even included a trans character.
Eventually the "me" that had formed to be who she wanted me to be took over full-time and committed to stay with her and fight the "urge to sin." We dated for a few years and then got married. And honestly, this feels like one of the best times in my life sometimes, even though I know I was miserable.
I've always looked fairly feminine, and had fairly long hair and a pretty alternative style that often included makeup. I'd get "mistaken" for a girl pretty frequently when we were out, which only increased when she got me a super cute coffin-shaped purse for an anniversary. She'd always get super upset and defensive on my behalf, which hurt but she couldn't know it.
Sometimes during our marriage, she was reading an article about some state or another not accepting the "trans panic defense" and started ranting about it. I knew what she was talking about but on the off chance I was wrong I asked her to elaborate. She said it was when a trans person comes into the bathroom or hits on you and you assault or kill them because you panic. I tried to calmly explain that I thought it was good that wasn't being accepted because you shouldn't be assaulting or killing people regardless of whether they're trans or not, and it sounded like just a way to hurt trans people and get away with it. She came up with this wild argument and I just let her "win" because I didn't want to lose her. But I never felt fully safe with her again.
She liked it when I wore makeup, and once her sister told me she liked how I was a "man who was secure in his femininity but didn't feel like I needed to be a woman." (This was literally a month before I left to transition.) D agreed with her sister.
Around four years ago made a new friend at work, a nonbinary person I'll call S, who invited me to play DnD with them and their husband (a trans man) when they quit that job. By the time we'd bee playing for about six months, being around other trans people had reawakened the other parts of me, the parts that were closer to who I really am. I re-realized I was trans through our time together, and they started encouraging me to leave her and be my authentic self.
I left D about four months before our five-year wedding anniversary. She had gone through my phone, found messages between me and S about plans for me leaving and my being trans, and confronted me while I was in the shower. I quickly finished my shower and got out, had a six hour long conversation with her about this and tried to get her to understand. Eventually she just said "But you're not a woman and you never will be!" Without a word, I gathered up some essentials and left for S's house. S and I went back to that house while she was at church on Sunday and grabbed everything I owned, and then went to her mom's house to do the same. D and her whole family were there so I was trying to avoid questions and begging and pleading and crying from not only D, but her mom, sister, and brother to stay and give this trans thing up. I told D that if she wanted me to stay, I'd be staying as her wife and she'd have to accept that. She couldn't. I left.
Over the next couple months we spent a lot of time talking. D was trying to convince me to come back, to fall in love with her again. But I hadn't stopped loving her, I'd just gotten sick of hating myself. I told her that. I told her I wanted nothing more than to come back, but I couldn't do it if it meant going back to wanting to die every time I saw myself in the mirror and hating her briefly every time she "corrected" someone on my gender. I told her if she wanted me back, she'd need to support me in my transition. She still couldn't do it.
The last straw was when Michael Knowles called for the eradication of "transgenderism" (trans people). With that and the hundreds of anti-trans bills being introduced, I was scared. I texted D for comfort and instead got into a whole big argument with her. She kept trying to say the anti-trans bills were a good thing, and when I brought up the Michael Knowles thing she said she'd watched that speech and agreed with him. She said eradicating "transgenderism" would be a good thing. I sent her back a long text about the definition of genocide and how you can't separate "transgenderism" from transgender people, and eradicating "transgenderism" would require eradicating transgender people. We never talked again except about our divorce.
The thing that gets me though is that she's always been very anti-racist and speaks out against prejudice of most other kinds. She just never got it through her head that the same reasons she felt so strongly about that are why she should accept LGBTQIA+ people.
Now, it's been about two years since I left her. I have been on hormones for over a year, and I've never been happier with myself. These two years have been absolute hell in other ways. I have no stability, I lost my job, I've lost friends and family and all kinds of other traumatizing events that would make this post a literal novel. I've been suicidal in the past over stuff a lot smaller than this, but now, in the face of almost overwhelming and crushing despair, I'm still nowhere near that point again. I love myself. I am, for the first time in my life, living for myself.
I now have three wonderful partners (polyamory, they are all fully aware and consent, one of them has four other partners of their own) who love and accept me for who I am, and I love them all so much.
And yet. Despite all of that. Despite the pain D caused me, I still love her. I think I always will. And lately, it seems like all I can think of is the good times. And there were so many good times... I wish I could go back. I want her to love me again. And if she texted me tonight and told me she accepted me, I don't know if I could stay away. And this love I still feel... It's the most painful thing of all.
2024.05.14 12:55 applebottom999 What does remission actually feel like?
I’ve said this as a joke my whole life - “I haven’t had a solid shit since 2014” - but coming to my ten year anniversary of having ulcerative colitis, it’s starting to freak me out a little.
I’ve been alienated since I was diagnosed at 14: never travelled without excess plans, scared to work, scared to be in a relationship or make new friends. I have an unhealthy relationship with pentasa, as in no matter how hard I try I can’t take it, because of drug addicted parents (psychology stuff, I wish I could overcome it) and so the only remission I’ve ever really had has been a week of less frequent bathroom breaks while on entocort. Usually once a week I have an accident, my stomach hurts almost all the time and I’m just so tired of being the poo person.
I have a gastroenterologist appointment next week, my first since I was 16, and I’m hoping it goes well and I can be in a state of remission, but I just want to know what that feels like, what it is? Will my poop be solid? Will my stomach still hurt? Will I still have a countdown until detonation? Can I travel or make plans in places that don’t have easily accessible bathrooms?
Thank you for everything in advance xx
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I’ve been alienated since I was diagnosed at 14: never travelled without excess plans, scared to work, scared to be in a relationship or make new friends. I have an unhealthy relationship with pentasa, as in no matter how hard I try I can’t take it, because of drug addicted parents (psychology stuff, I wish I could overcome it) and so the only remission I’ve ever really had has been a week of less frequent bathroom breaks while on entocort. Usually once a week I have an accident, my stomach hurts almost all the time and I’m just so tired of being the poo person.
I have a gastroenterologist appointment next week, my first since I was 16, and I’m hoping it goes well and I can be in a state of remission, but I just want to know what that feels like, what it is? Will my poop be solid? Will my stomach still hurt? Will I still have a countdown until detonation? Can I travel or make plans in places that don’t have easily accessible bathrooms?
Thank you for everything in advance xx
2024.05.14 12:55 TheWatchToddler So now I gotta give you money and still tell my new boss that I need to work less hours??
I’ll try to keep it short. Even during school elders and brothers were discouraging me from attending university. After years of zero to fake support I finally graduated. Had a rough time finding a job. During those months someone told me „see that’s why should listen to God“ saying this because he told me before to do a simple window cleaning job. Few months ago I started working and I already got the question how much I earn. That brother was surprised how much I earn, even tho that what I earn rn is very little amount of money to survive alone. But still for the mediocre jw it’s a lot. Now I got a big offer from another company. Earning about 20k more yearly. Even 5 hours less per week. I live in a PIMI household that’s why they still get all this information unfortunately.
And guess what? I got told that i should tell my boss to work less so I can spend more time in theocratical activities. And even the question or better the request that I can spend more money to the borg 😭😂😂😂
After two of them said this. I replied with „hey I suffered too much to risk this great opportunity for me and my family just to please anyone with theocratical activism, anyway I thought everyone needs to decide for themselves what they do. First I gotta focus on getting financial stable and then we can see. One of them got angry and told me that he was always relying trust in God and always had a job being able to feed his family. I should listen to what the WT tells me. I replied „well yes in the past 9-10 years you changed about 20 times your window/car washing lowearning workplace. That’s something I don’t want / need to go through. And you work about 40-50 hours a week. Why don’t earn more for less time. Then he freaked out and insulted me for chasing money 💰 the other elder had to calm the situation. I was calm, wish I had a cigarette in my mouth just to show my apathetic standpoint to this discussion
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And guess what? I got told that i should tell my boss to work less so I can spend more time in theocratical activities. And even the question or better the request that I can spend more money to the borg 😭😂😂😂
After two of them said this. I replied with „hey I suffered too much to risk this great opportunity for me and my family just to please anyone with theocratical activism, anyway I thought everyone needs to decide for themselves what they do. First I gotta focus on getting financial stable and then we can see. One of them got angry and told me that he was always relying trust in God and always had a job being able to feed his family. I should listen to what the WT tells me. I replied „well yes in the past 9-10 years you changed about 20 times your window/car washing lowearning workplace. That’s something I don’t want / need to go through. And you work about 40-50 hours a week. Why don’t earn more for less time. Then he freaked out and insulted me for chasing money 💰 the other elder had to calm the situation. I was calm, wish I had a cigarette in my mouth just to show my apathetic standpoint to this discussion
2024.05.14 12:55 Hot_Bandicoot_3839 How to Convert RAW to NTFS Format Without Losing Data?
 | https://preview.redd.it/eks0x6cjgd0d1.png?width=1920&format=png&auto=webp&s=1308983c2fa17502e258f3f11a75aaf0fe71a6b7 submitted by Hot_Bandicoot_3839 to datarevivalsquad [link] [comments] When you try to copy or view a file from a memory card you put into your computer, have you ever discovered it's unreadable? Any file system on memory cards, USB drives, external HDD drives, storage devices, and even internal drives might experience this regrettable circumstance. Your circumstances may make this inability to obtain that info disastrous. When a partition becomes RAW, for whatever reason, you cannot access the data on your drive and it won't be useful until you format it. For you to obtain that data, you must therefore act. Using a data recovery program on Windows or macOS is one such way to succeed. RAW partitionIt's critical to know what a RAW partition is before we discuss recovering lost data. Said another way, a RAW partition is one that has not been formatted using the file system that the computer is using.It's never really out of the box with removable USB devices and memory cards. If you put an SD card into one computer and it reads it correctly, the next computer may not be able to comprehend the file system structure and may destroy the partition layout, making that device inaccessible. Almost always, you've just taken out that USB device or memory card without first letting the operating system securely remove it. “ The file systems most Windows computers use, for instance, are FAT12, FAT16, FAT32, NTFS, or NTFS5. Conversely, macOS supports NTFS solely in read-only mode and uses APFS, HFS+, FAT32, and exFAT. Linux systems use XFS, BTRFS, reiser, ext3, ext4, and more. Sometimes the file system type of a device formatted in one platform can be read by another. Regretfully, there is no assurance here. You will therefore likely be told the disk was unreadable by the computer when you try to read, say, an SD card formatted with the ext4 file system on a MacBook Pro. The important thing is that Initialize option. It is telling us, in other words, that the card is not formatted so that the computer can read it. While clicking Initialize will undoubtedly remove all of the data on the device, it is still an option. Can I Get My Data Back from a RAW Partition?The excellent news is that data lost or unavailable from a RAW partition can be recovered. Occasionally all that has to be done is plug the disk (or SD card) in issue into the computer that was originally used to generate the files and folders on the device. After that, you can format the card to a file system the target computer can read, copy the data back, and insert the card into the target machine.You will have to fix the damage and retrieve the data on the disk if you can no longer access the original machine (or one with a comparable file system) or if the reason isn't incompatibility between your operating system and the current file system. What Use Is Converting RAW to NTFS?Said another way, if your data is kept on a RAW partition, you cannot access it. NTFS and other file systems serve the purpose of logically storing your data for simple retrieval when needed. Your data without a file system is just a disjointed mess that is almost impossible to discover anything.Computers locate and access your data through file systems, hence a RAW disk will not be accessible. Its contents might still be there, but without a functional file system, it will be unusable. Converting RAW to NTFS Without Data LossConverting a RAW partition to NTFS without losing the data on it is possible in just one way. You need CheckDisk for that.The Windows utility CheckDisk looks for logical and physical problems in the volumes of your drive. If you need to convert RAW to NTFS without losing data, it can even fix any issues it finds with extra settings. Because CheckDisk might be able to identify and fix the damage keeping the volume from reading properly, we're utilizing it. Using CheckDisk's Command Prompt, convert a RAW drive to NTFS as follows:
Recovery of Data from a RAW PartitionSometimes the RAW partition cannot be fixed by CheckDisk or Disk Utility without causing data loss. Before manually converting the RAW partition back to NTFS, you should recover your data in such a situation.You can recover your data using the following techniques before fixing the malfunctioning drive. Method 1 :- Recover With BLR ToolsA few fast clicks using BLR BitLocker Partition Data Recovery Tool can allow you to recover data from a RAW partition. And you can find the files you need fast with BLR Tools's useful features like file filters. Furthermore, something the command line cannot achieve, BLR Tools adds Guaranteed Recovery and Recovery Vault data protection techniques to the mix.Proceed as follows to recover files from a RAW partition:
Method 2 :- Try TestDisk to RecoverUse TestDisk to recover the whole partition. Restoring missing or lost partitions is the goal of the open-source recovery program TestDisk. Not to mention totally free. Its absence of a graphical user interface makes it difficult for novices to utilize. Still, you may quickly recover your lost partition by following the detailed methods.This is a little video demonstrating how TestDisk can recover a lost partition:
Method 3 :- Recovering with a Data Recovery CentreSometimes data recovery is still not possible with even sophisticated recovery software. Alternatively, you could merely feel uneasy trying to retrieve the info on your own. Still, there is the choice to use a data recovery facility.To complete the task, a data recovery center hires data recovery experts with sophisticated knowledge of file recovery and equipment of the highest calibre. The most successful approach to recovery is frequently to use a data recovery facility, but it is also the most expensive. What to anticipate generally if you decide to use a data recovery service to recover your data is as follows:
Techniques for NTFS Conversion of RAWIt is now time to consider drive repair after data recovery. Generally speaking, once you are not concerned about losing your data, repairing a RAW partition is really simple. It only means replacing the broken or incompatible file system with a fresh one during formatting.These solutions will walk you through configuring a disk and converting a RAW hard drive to NTFS. Method 1:- Method with File ExplorerOne of the simplest methods, formatting a drive with File Explorer just requires a few clicks. As you are ready to complete the format, just click Restore device defaults if you are not sure what values to use.
Method 2:- Format using Disk ManagementA Windows program called Disk Management lets you examine and modify the storage disks on your computer. It provides an overview of the data allocations and general health of your disks. One can format their drives with it as well.
Method 3:- Presentation with DiskPartThough it manages the storage drives on your computer through a command-line interface, DiskPart is a potent command interpreter. Should File Explorer and Disk Management prove ineffective for you, this is a helpful alternative.
By now you're undoubtedly thinking, "How can I keep a partition from going RAW?" That raises a really interesting issue. Ultimately, you want to avoid having to perform RAW partition recovery each time you plug in an external HDD, USB flash drive, or SD card into your computer. Thankfully, you have a few options to lessen the likelihood of this happening. Never take out a USB drive or SD card without first "Safely removing" it with the built-in feature on your computer. A RAW partition is likely if you just remove the drive without letting your operating system safely unmount or eject the device. As widely used a file system as you can, format your drives with. Almost all operating systems can read the file systems FAT32 and NTFS, hence those are excellent options. NTFS is read-only on macOS, which is one issue; FAT32 is always your better choice. Choosing one of these file systems should leave you with no issues with your platform of choice needing to start a drive or just not being able to read it. Put your machine to a proper shutdown. Processes on your computer may be interrupted by sudden power outage. The corruption of your file system may follow from this. Avoid forcing a shutdown of your computer whenever possible. See how your disk is doing. You can get early warning of any possible problems your drive may run into by using a disk monitoring program that can read the SMART data on your drive. You can stop additional damage by acting right away as problems arise. Naturally, a drive can still turn RAW at any time even with all of this done. Thus, you should regularly backup your data so that a secure duplicate is always accessible if you want to really protect it from such an occurrence. Easy to configure and maintain snapshot copies of your data so you can even restore to a prior version if necessary, built-in Windows backup solutions like File History are a fantastic option. ConclusionA RAW partition or drive can be avoided really easily. Know, nevertheless, that you have the resources to handle the situation if it should come up. Data recovery from RAW drive or partition is highly likely with BLR Tools. If in doubt, run BLR Tools's free Basic edition through your RAW drive or partition. Get the Pro license and safely restore your inaccessible data if BLR Tools can locate it. |
2024.05.14 12:55 com-ou-sem-suing help i think
Hey, this is the first time I'm openly discussing this with others who might be like me, and I'd really appreciate anyone who could chime in. I just realized I'm asexual about a week ago, thanks to therapy. Here's my story:
I'm 25 now, been dating since I was 15, had relationships with 4 different guys (I'm a cis-hetero woman) and had sex in all those relationships. But in therapy, I'm realizing that I never really wanted to; I just did it because I thought it would make me more interesting if I were sexually active, I did it because I wanted to be loved and desired, and also to keep the relationship healthy. Now that I've been single for a year, I'm starting to notice and remember that I never truly felt the desire. I've never had orgasms with other people, but I do masturbate. I don't think I've ever felt sexual attraction to anyone, you know, that tingling sensation, feeling hot, etc. But, I do get really lubricated before sexual activities. Since I was young, I've never had this thing of 'wow, that person's so sexy, I wanna have sex with them' and I felt weird about it, so I pretended to desire people. Am I really asexual? I'm so confused... Has anyone been through something similar? And how was it? I wonder if the fact that I get lubricated changes anything. But I've never had such a impactful moment in my life as now that I'm discovering my sexual orientation...
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I'm 25 now, been dating since I was 15, had relationships with 4 different guys (I'm a cis-hetero woman) and had sex in all those relationships. But in therapy, I'm realizing that I never really wanted to; I just did it because I thought it would make me more interesting if I were sexually active, I did it because I wanted to be loved and desired, and also to keep the relationship healthy. Now that I've been single for a year, I'm starting to notice and remember that I never truly felt the desire. I've never had orgasms with other people, but I do masturbate. I don't think I've ever felt sexual attraction to anyone, you know, that tingling sensation, feeling hot, etc. But, I do get really lubricated before sexual activities. Since I was young, I've never had this thing of 'wow, that person's so sexy, I wanna have sex with them' and I felt weird about it, so I pretended to desire people. Am I really asexual? I'm so confused... Has anyone been through something similar? And how was it? I wonder if the fact that I get lubricated changes anything. But I've never had such a impactful moment in my life as now that I'm discovering my sexual orientation...