Altered growth and development care plans

I'll start on a positive note. I like the world-building in this series. The author has crafted a compelling world and system, with a well-done setup and a strong connection between Gods and lies. However, one recurring issue is the lackluster significance of the side characters. Aside from Sift, most other characters seem somewhat useless. When I say useless, I don't mean they lack value, but in terms of the plot, they don't have meaningful roles beyond being companions. Even as companions, their value to Ruwen is mostly superficial. There are moments when Hamma or Lylan contribute, but it's usually due to Ruwen's plan and often a one-time thing.
The Uru's Champions are particularly frustrating. In book 2, they do absolutely NOTHING. They add no value to the story other than flavor. I understand that in the spirit realm, everyone but Ruwen is locked out of their main modes of combat, but it's just dumb. These champions have survived for 400 years in this harsh land, yet they have no meaningful way of fighting the monsters they encounter? Sift is more helpful than these champions. After they escape the spirit realm, Ruwen has this big quest, but the champions don't help? I get that from a story perspective, Ruwen can't rely on powerful support, but the way it's written feels sloppy to me.
The focus on the main character feels like a crutch that prevents the development of a three-dimensional story. Because everything is built around Ruwen, everyone else simply exists to support his development rather than integrating with this interesting world.

I'm going to try my best to lay out the facts of the situation as best as I can. I started a small business about 11-12 years ago, in the beginning it was more of a hobby that I was able to make a little extra money with while also working a full time job. After 3-4 years it had grown into something that was able to fully support me and I've "been my own boss" ever since. I feel really proud of what I've been able to accomplish and I'm also very grateful for the flexibility it provides for me and my family.
in 2018 I started dating my current husband, because of his job he has moved several times across the country, and I knew that if we were going to continue dating/get married that it would also mean moving every few years. Because of the nature of my business it didn't seem logical to try to take it on the road with us. I was able to do 75% of the work for the business myself at the time, and also had a part time employee (30F), we will call her Katie, that would help during busy seasons. My sister (39F) (we'll call her Ashley) at the time was looking for flexible work and I liked the idea of having someone I could trust take over and run the in-person operations of the business in my absence, while I take care of everything that could be done remotely. Initially this was offered to Katie, but she turned it down, and Ashley was very interested in the opportunity. As much as I didn't want to get involved working with family I went ahead with the plan and we came to a verbal agreement on pay and expectations.
Well shortly after I moved away and Ashley took over, Covid hit and we got significantly busier than we had ever been before, to the point that Ashley was not able to complete everything by herself. Katie agreed to come back full time and the business was able to support all 3 of us. Since then it has grown slowly still and we now have 4 full time employees (including my sister and myself) as well as some seasonal staff.
About a year into this new working arrangement, Ashley and her family decided to buy a house about 45 minutes away from where the business is based. At this point Katie was managing most of the daily operations anyway, and Ashley has transitioned to helping more with online customer service and a few things that can be done remotely. Katie took over the permanent position of production manager and Ashley has kind of phased out of any of the daily hands on tasks.
Now a little about our personalities! I am a pretty straight forward laid back person. I'm admittedly not very good at managing people because I just don't want to be bothered with the drama. As long as things are working and moving, that's all I really care about. now IF I need to get involved or address an issue, I will. But I prefer if I don't have to micro manage and be up in people's business. I prefer direct communication, I can probably come off a bit dry and possibly rude if you don't know me.
Ashley is very Type-A. She likes to be in control of all situations and she is very opinionated. She has a hard time seeing other people's perspectives and she can get very stuck on the little things that I generally would just let roll off my back. Her stress and anxiety levels can get rather high.
Since she is my sister, I've known this about her my whole life and I generally am able to ignore the majority of it and everything works out. Every once in a while I need to vent to my husband about something she said, but mostly our working relationship is fine. I think if our roles were reversed and she was the "boss" things would go very differently, but because I maintain 100% ownership and control over the business, ultimately things have worked.
Now, because of our original financial agreement, which is commissioned based/percentage of the profits, I feel that she is significantly over paid for the tasks that her job description has slowly turned into. It's been this way for a few years but because she's family, because I'm not able to be located where the business is, and because we can ultimately afford it, I've kept her employed and paid her according to our original agreement.
Because of her "personality" The other girls sometimes have a hard time working with her and I often hear complaints from them about her micro managing them or her rubbing them the wrong way. She will sometimes come into the office and try to change their systems around, or be involved in processes that really have nothing to do with her and it frustrates everyone. A lot of the time she thinks her way of doing things is going to be better and tends to overstep a lot. When I address these issues with her often she'll get emotional and/or lash out at me in what I consider to be childish behavior.
She's not all bad, a lot of what she's done is good, and I know that she always MEANS well... even if she can come off strong. She is constantly looking for ways to expand and grow and I appreciate that about her. She comes to me with ideas regularly, and although many of them I consider bad ideas and I do turn down at least half of them, there are several that I say yes to, or give her the green light on. I know this frustrates her but I see it as my prerogative as the business owner to say no. I like that she can be another set of eyes for me and can also help me address issues with the other employees as they are not perfect either and I am a remote boss so I don't get to always be there in person.
Lately I find myself getting more and more frustrated with her, I have heard her in the past say to people that she "owns the company with me" which is false but I've never corrected her because really it doesn't matter that much to me. I know I maintain 100% control of all business matters and finances. However, her attitude lately seems to portray more and more that she actually believes what she says. She'll change settings that I have set intentionally, and do things without permission or even a heads up to me. Ultimately it came to a head yesterday when we were having a conversation, not seeing eye to eye, and I had to set a boundary with her. She then proceeds to send me an incredibly passive aggressive email. I sent her a screen shot of said email via text message and said I will not tolerate her being passive aggressive towards me. There was no response from her until this morning when she sent me a text about how I also have things I need to change and that I only ever fault her for things and that I am rude, and that she doesn't know what I want from her. I think because I'm the only one that can stand up to her and I find myself trying to bridge the gap with her and others a lot I end up being the "mean one" in her eyes. Admittedly I am not perfect, however I do try my best to speak to her respectfully even if it may be a bit dry and direct.
I know that letting her go will mean a little bit of fall out from my family and make things a bit awkward when I come home to visit. I think ultimately most of my family understands how she can be and won't completely fault me for not being able to put up with her anymore. I don't want to take the income away from her and her family, as I know they rely on it and are trying to build a new house and have children. I also know that letting her go will mean more work for me in the long run, and I would have to hire and train a new person as customer service/account manager. I am also expecting a new baby later this year and not having her to run things while I take a few weeks off will be hard as well. However I just find myself struggling more and more with wanting to put up with her.
How should I go about addressing and navigating this issue?
TL;DR: My sister and I have very different personalities, she works for me and I've made the relationship work for several years. I think she's overpaid but also she's my sister so I've made it work. But the emotions are getting to be too much and the bad might be outweighing the good at this point.

Hello, I had a vit d deficiency of level 6 in March 2023
I went to a doctor and requested the right dose of vit d as my deficiency was severe and I was constantly shaking and felt like I would die. The doctor prescribed me 1 injection of 6L arachitol twice a week for 4 weeks.
Then also take 8 supplements of 60k iu vitamin d
I started taking it and by the end of the injections, 1 month had passed and I developed debilitating vertigo
I went back to her and she told me continue taking vitamin d supplements and quit my job and go relax in Another country. I quit my job as I was very worried about my health at this point and the doctor scared me into it. I had a very good wfh job.
I took 4 supplements as instructed but all my bones started to hurt and I was having severe heart palpitations, night sweats and shivers at the same time. I also developed s in my neck, shoulder, above ankle and below wrist, all on he right side of my body as it's the side I took all the injections.
I googled about the dosage worrying about my symptoms and it suggested Vit d toxicity so I got the levels checked and it indeed was 109 toxicity.
So I stopped supplements and restricted calcium and decided to check it next month.
But the next month it was 127 toxicity.
Anything above 100 is toxicity as per the reports.
I developed severe body pain and my upper back cramped straight for 2 weeks and I couldn't move my upper body.
My uric acid levels were Normal, calcium was in range cause I kept avoiding it.
I went to a doctor and I was suggested to walk 1 hour a day and avoid calcium and vit d
I did so but my vertigo remained and I developed tingling and numbness all over my body and burning near all my joints and my entire head tingling and numbing.
I got several infections of the ears nose and eyes due to extreme dehydration from the overdose. The ENT I visited just treated me with multiple antibiotics and loaded me up on anti vertigo medicines. Which still didn't stop my vertigo
I visited a neuro and they suggested an mri "only to calm me down" cause I was over reacting and it was a brain mri and it showed a c5-c6 annular fissure and nerve indentation.
I was advised to wear a collar which I did from sept to January 2024.
My vit d was now at 36 and finally low enough but none of my swellings subsided. I haven't been able to walk properly since months or do ANYTHING as even chewing triggers the swellings.
Vertigo is mild now but still persists.
Doctors are very dismissive of everything I say and will not provide any solution for the awellings
I've been to physiotherapy as suggested by them and do exercises but my swellings only get worse by even doing the minimum
January I visited an orthopaedic again and he told me to stay home for a year and ignore myself and that I would be fine. It makes me want to off myself that they don't provide any solutions.
My family never cared about me and thinks Im over reacting but I can't look down or move, I can't draw and pursue my hobbies cause it's making my neck swell up to the point I can barely d have difficulty swallowing because of the swelling. I am severely depressed..
Ive gained weight too and they have been body shaming me. I am 5'3, I used to be petite and I think in my 40s-early 50s in kg, I am 64-66 kgs now and doctors have said it's fine but ik I'm overweight by a few kgs. I'm meant to be 57 and everyone blames my weight but I literally can't walk more than 400 steps without debilitating pain, I have walked despite the horrible pain 4000 steps a day minimum it causes a visual issue where everything around me starts moving backwards... Idk what it is but I think it's like vertigo, atleast that's what I assume. Same when I work out..
Ive been doing back pain yoga for 20 mins everyday.
It has also effected my eye sight, I had 0.5-0. 7 vision in both eyes since I was in 5th grade and it never increased and before the overdose this is what is was. But I got it checked last sep and it is now, 1.75 in each eye and I have double vision if I look at a certain angle.. And the muscles around my right eye hurt.. My eyes take time to line up together as well and focus.. I have blurry vision often..
I did some research and online via reddit it suggested that Vit d depletes vit k2 and magnesium and may help break down calcium if they're in the wrong places.
I ate blueberries for the first time in April 2024 and my neck swelling seemed less and I really thought it may all go away cause they're rich In k2 and mag.
I did all the blood tests suggested by a doctor and all of them came back normal, including arthritis tests and bone density tests.
I also requested more mris as my back and neck still hurt massively and I found out I have c4-c6 protrusions and L5-S1 bulge.. I am at a loss on what to do with myself.
I showed the ortho all the reports and requested supplements for k2 and mag and was provided a 30 day prescription for calcimax k2. I was suggested to only walk for the disc issues..
I have been taking it and the first 3 days the swellings seemed down and I experienced much less pain but it's the 5th day and my swellings are back full fledged and it's painful enough to have a panic attack..
I am at a loss and I don't know what to do, I did approach a lawyer to sue the doctor and I have been told I cannot lose in court if I do file and then the lawyer dipped and he also wants 15% and I don't have the funds cause I've been unemployed for a year
I've been working since I was 16 cause my lifes always been hell and I've had a nail fungus issue since the past 14 years and I haven't lived normally as I can't dip my hands in water as it lifts the nails off the nail bed and it's extremely painful.
Idk what to do anymore and I can't keep being strong and keep getting through this and I feel trapped.. If any one at all, a doctor or medical professional can comment on this and assist me I would really really appreciate it.

For context i’m 17m Graduating HS in a month. I have good grades to get into university and will receive my diploma in June. University is somewhat daunting and feels impossible as my parents have no money to spare and burned through my college fund after they divorced in 2018(this divorce is still ongoing to date and is not yet settled) and they still continue to dish out thousands to courts and lawyers. I have no idea where to even start for trades and if I am not in school by the time i’m 18(Oct 20th 2024) I will be kicked out of both houses as I no longer am considered a child and therefore not a factor regarding child support which is what my parents seem to prioritize. I have developed a fairly serious addiction to dexedrine(adhd stimulant) and have abused it to get high fairly frequently at least twice a week usually in doses of 65mg and sometimes snorting the dexedrine. I don’t know what to do I feel like a lost soul I see all my friends with their plans and girlfriends with happy family’s who are paying and supporting them for whatever they choose to do school or trades, and I have no one, a broken family that will not support me, no girlfriend, no plans for after HS, and I just feel like i’m drifting and am a lost soul. I have been debating joining the CAF(Canadian Army) and finding out what I want to do weather it’s trade school or college as they pay for my living, food, and school while making money at the same time so would this be a good idea? Also regarding my addiction, should I get clean before the army if so how rehab, my own willingness, therapist? Finally is a career in the Army and good route?

Hello guys I need advice if I’m doing wrong or just go with your gut instinct!!! Anyway long story short I’m having to deal with ex husbands new baby mother and let’s just say I avoid her because anything that comes out her mouth is just pure bs and the fact my ex husband lets her is more annoying anyway yes I’m not going to say I was prefect because I had a downtime where yes my kids should’ve been taken care and I should’ve had the peace of mind that they were okay if only communication with this people was there but no I have to be hinting and looking for him anyway had a arrest that had me getting involved with my kids , mind you my kids have not suffered any psychological trauma or any other trauma they might have developed some but because of the atmosphere and who they are around but that’s for another time , so I got the charges dropped to misdemeanor and while on bond couldn’t contact them it killed me because I had to miss they birthday and this was the first year ever . Anyhow went to court I’m on the right path I’m doing everything that I can to avoid . Find out last march he moved without notifying me and he has my boyfriend number and never reached out I didn’t reached out because I know they’ll make it look like it was me who can’t be civilized.. ok so now this girl it just giving the run around that the judge they saw put a hold on me due to my supposed felony charge but she didn’t know what I know and she refuses to let me see them until I supposed get her that paper …. They think I don’t know where they are but I found out by a person on Facebook asking me for my ex husband number because that Girls men is cheating on her with my ex new girl 🤣🤣🤣🤣 …. Anyway I’m done with her yet I don’t know what to do at this point I feel like I’m just going to show up call cops and all that because I’m not economically stable but I can’t go like this without seen my girls :( advice

I am 16F and have spent half a year in a mental hospital for multiple disorders. First hospitalization was involuntary, but I voluntarily agreed to treatment in a mental hospital. My doctor thought my state hadn't improved during my voluntary care, and doctor made a decision to put me in involuntary care, restricting my freedom to do things that brought me joy, such as going outside on walks.
My involuntary care lasts for a maximum of 6 months, and I will miss out on the plans that I was dedicated to, like a summerjob and attending church. Coming in terms with the likely having to hold back a school year feels dreadful, as it's only the fault of my doctors decision, and not the fact that I'd have difficulties in studying. I was hoping to get in shape, but it's impossible to exercise here. Improving my appearance with new clothes and meeting up with people. These small goals and things that bring me closer to personal success were exactly what kept me going; now I no have no control over my plans or the future. I do not even enjoy my time in the hospital. Sounds ridiculous for someone my age to say this, but it truly seems to me that I have lost in life now, and I have hard time deciding whether if to try in life anymore. Knowing I am capable of a lot in terms of studies, hobbies and self-improvement, but being held back from accomplishing makes me miserable.

Yes, I’ve used YouTube but I’m looking for more updated or relevant information regarding the care, feeding and space for male adult or female hog noses. Thank you very much and I’m planning pretty well on these ones.
P. S. I’ve got a 29 gallon tall if that’s alright as it’s the maximum size on the largest stand I have in my house and I can afford most forms of whatever needed equipment is required for one.

My daughter (9) joined a gym in western Washington two years ago. She began in a developmental team, then was accepted into the competitive team in Level 2 last year. Shortly after, she was moved to Level 3, and she just completed her first competitive season, attending regional meets and competitions in Idaho and Arizona.
Overall she did well, especially with bars, beam and vault, but still needs improvement with floor. She started out the season well, but suffered a broken arm and had to work her way back. She still did well enough to quality for state, and her overall results were 34.55.
Anyway, I'm wondering if other parents can share insight on how gyms typically communicate about development, progression and training plans.
Her Level 2 coach occasionally sent emails about her progress, but was inconsistent. And at the end of a season, we would only receive a one-sheet report card, but without any context. Most recently, her Level 3 coach only spoke with her to give her some info on what she's done well and where she needs more improvement, ultimately telling her that she would need to remain in Level 3 next season.
Overall, we place a lot of trust in the coaches, especially as we've seen our daughter progress rapidly in since she began, and we only reach out when we have occasional questions about how to support her at home, or how she can improve in areas she needs more work in. But as our daughter has expressed interest in being a competitive gymnast in high school and college, we are really wanting to know how she is doing, whether she is showing that she can compete at that level, and what she needs to do to reach her goals. Also, whether she is in the right place and getting the proper instruction.
Is this common where coaches only communicate with the kids directly, or do other gyms communicate and even provide developmental plans for parents? Should we be engaging the coaches more?

For a large part of my life I’ve felt sort of alone. I could have fun with my classmates, with my group mates, my colleagues, but I feel like there have never been someone that I can call a friend, someone that I talk to in person consistently, someone that I trust, someone that I discuss personal things with, etc. and for who I reciprocate with these things.
My quality of life improved greatly when I graduated and got my first job, but for half a year I barely socialised. Then I found an amazing community with people of my age, we play board games, go to some active events, we even travel sometimes. I have fun with them, but still no friends.
There are some people that I like more than others, and it seems to be mutual, but we don’t hang out outside of the community. But I’ve found some people that I actually spent some time with outside of the community. I know some of them since July, some since December, we started to occasionally hang out in February.
We played board games on our own twice, we traveled once to do some skiing, we went to the club twice, and there were somewhat personal conversations with one guy(let’s call him A) on our way home, but there were also some moments that upset me.

1. it’s the smallest of these things, but in the context of the other things, I also included this one. We had our own chat for our trip. Then it sort of died. One day, after an event in the original community, one guy(let’s call him B) from that group invited me to play board games. I went with them and had a great fun. Soon I realized that after the trip, they had a group chat that I wasn’t invited to. The best thing I could hope for is that it was created on the day when they decided to go to a club, and I was invited, but I had other plans, so maybe that’s why they didn’t invite me then, which is not a problem since I went to play board games with them on the next day. It annoyed me a bit that when I texted another guy(let him be C), he seemed to reply quickly, but when I asked if he could add me to the chat, he took some time to read and reply.
   
2. They planned to go travel abroad, I heard them talking in person how they should schedule their trips to hang for some time, they wanted to mostly go on their own trips but meet for a day or two (in our group there are also couples, B and C have girlfriends, so they wanted to mostly have time to themselves and then A traveled abroad too). When I later asked in the chat, who goes there when, so I could meet you travel and meet you there too, they were at first very vague (« Oh we don’t know, we all depart at different dates »), but then at least B had the honesty to kind of reject me, and tell me that they needed to travel in their group, and then once we’re closer to each other, maybe I could go with them some other time. This really puzzled and annoyed me, because I didn’t want to be a liability and I wanted to travel on my own and then meet them like A did and also, there’s another guy in the group, D, who seemed to join them at the last minute, I was with them when we heard the news, they were surprised because from what we know about him he probably couldn’t afford it. And to be honest, I can’t either without saving some money in advance, although I could’ve used my credit card, but I wouldn’t have gone anyway since I probably couldn’t have gotten the days off at my job, which kind of makes the rejection feel pointless. One day, when they were still abroad, I for the first time did NOT have fun at the board game that I love the most, expecially when I play it with these guys, then when I returned home I saw them having fun abroad in Instagram stories and in my bad mood that really hurt me for a night.
   
3. Recently C celebrated his birthday, I kind of heard about planning it a few times that I hang out with them. I wasn’t invited to the party.
   

We really enjoy our time together, we joke a lot, I joke a lot, I guess I had developed a decent sense of humour out of loneliness and desire for attention in high school. When I play that game with these guys I become the most unhinged in a good way, sometimes my jokes are cringe, actually mostly with them, when I filter less the jokes that come to my mind, sometimes they are hilarious, sometimes they actually analyze them and tell that with a different delivery some of them would be funny. In any case, I never insult anyone, or maybe I just think this way, who knows.
We may be different, A and B work(ed) in sales, C seems to have started his own business, when we don’t joke around, they talk about economy, business, geopolitics, investments a lot, I am a software developer and I don’t know much about these things, I guess I read the Big Short and wasted 200$ in sum over the few times I tried forex trading and I read a lot about it. But then D, who kind of worked in sales but not really to the same scale and knows nothing about those topics either seems to be closer to the group, he was invited to the party and he traveled abroad with them too. So it’s not exactly the difference in interests and level of some success.
I don’t know how to become closer to them, how to finally have somebody I can call friends and actually should I? Maybe if they were my people, it wouldn’t be this complicated, but then who do I have left if they are the closest thing to my friends?
Maybe someday I could get a chance to talk with A about all of that, or maybe even specifically text him to hang out and talk in a bar or something to find out what is wrong. If that’s the right thing to do then how do I do it to not seem weak, or to not make them feel guilty? Or can I just text him about it?

The situation:
Me and my ex-fiance broke up a month before she gave birth to our child. Initially we agreed that I was going to be at the birth. However, after we broke up, she did not want me there. I came to terms with this and was okay with it as this was her right/choice. We were still in communication during this time (after we broke up), and we were civil, even flirtatious. Leading up to the birth she got paranoid that I was cheating on her or sleeping with other women as my location was not at my house but on the street behind me, i explained to her that iPhone geolocation isn't always accurate, and i even offered to face time her to prove that I am where I am but she did not respond to my requsts. My ex's phone stopped working so i had no contact with her for 1 weeks straight out of concern i called her mother to see if she was okay as they live together, and her mother started slandering me saying that i got her pregnant and now ive left her a month before she was due, the breakup was mutual and agreed on both sides, and for our child we planned on co parenting effectivly.She started calling me a bitch and slandering my religon (islam) and became racist even though her daughter is half white and half indian, she also threatened me with force and threatend the police on me even though i hadnt done anything. I let the abuse slide as i didnt want to winde up any tension or make the sitatuion/breakup worse. My friends advised me to apologise for the hurt the breakup caused which i did.
1 week later, My ex texted me the night before at like 1am she was induced into labour that she was going to be induced and i asked her if she needs anything or wants me there, she said there isnt anything she needs and she said not to come and said it can take days until our son is born. 4 hours after this text she had given birth, but i had not been told this, and i had missed my sons birth. I recieve a text from bitter mother the next day that "he is here now come and see him". I was the last person to be contacted, her friends and family were all notifed immediatley, but they willingly contacted me late knowing that i wanted to be there (not in delivery room but in the hospital). The friends and family all saw my son before me and i knew this because of social media posts. I travelled from birmingham to london imediatly to see our son. When i arrived at the hospital, I was bitter because i was notifed last so i decided not to speak to her family and friends and see my son as the nurses allowed me. Upon picking up my son, My exs grandmother, my sons great grand mother, said "he will not be raised muslim, this is england not india, we dont do that here", her mother then proceedes to say he will eat what his grandmother feeds him, knowing i want my son to be muslim and eat halal food. She says why werent you here earlier, why are you here hours later making out to seem that i was some neglectful father who didnt care, her grand mother then policed me on how to pick up my child, how to hold him and how to change nappies, and threatend to kick me out, the nurse overheard this and said to her that i have a right to be here and i have 24hrs viewing access. then there was silence.
. They kept sayiing you should have been in london already we told you to book an airbnb in london, but i planned on booking it the day she was going into labour as that is when my paternity leave was due to start, i could not afford to pay a 300-400 so i can be there a week early.
I couldnt speak to my ex when I was at the hospital as they were in seperate wards, my son was in a special care unit and she was in her ward. So i spent a few hours with him. After the day had finished, it was too late and she had gone to sleep so i didnt want to disturb her so i went to my the hotel i booked.
I sent my ex a nice text saying thank you for delivering our son .etc and send gifts and flowers. I told her that my friends and family are coming down the next day from birmingham to see him. I walk into the hospital, and my exs mother started swearing at me saying im so horrible for not speaking to my ex after she had just given birth, and kept portaying me to be a Horrible personnt, she said that the messages and gifts dont mean anything even though my intentions in my text were me being grateful and thankful for the delivery of our son. She said your family and friends arent allowed to come, they have no right to be here, and said that she is going to get me banned from seeing my son if they come. I didnt believe or take serious what she said so ignored her and went to see my ex who was now with our son. my ex didnt speak to me once even though i tried to speak. A few hours later i went to grab lunch, and my family had already set of at this time. I told my ex that they are coming down to see him, and she said no, they dont have her permission to our son, eventhough no one from her side asked for my permission to vist and take photos. I couldnt believe what she was saying, she said that I couldnt see him at this point. Her mother overheard this, and said they she will ban them from coming but i laughed saying how and why are they doing this? I then get told that they will raise a safeguarding claim so im not allowed in the hospital. after my lunch i call the the head nurse to see if he is okay and if i can come down, and i am told that there is a safe guarding claim, and i cannot see my son, and they cannot dicuss anything about him to me as i am not on the birth certficate/i am not married. Eventhough this safeguarding claim is absolutely fictiuous. My family arrive and i had to turn them away. Since that day (2nd day of son being born), I have not seen him or heard of him. My ex has gone no contact and is not replying to any of my texts even though has read them. Throughout this entire situation my friends advised me to "bite my tongue and keep a level head" and ignore the abuse as it isnt the time or the place to have such discussions.
In navigating this challenging situation, my main concern is ensuring my son's well-being and maintaining a meaningful presence in his life. Despite my efforts to communicate and explore mediation options, my ex-partner's lack of response has added to the complexity of the situation.
Given the circumstances, I'm seriously considering seeking either full custody of my son, shared custody if that is a thing in the UK. I don't have access to the birth certificate but I know that they have no disclosed me on it. I've gathered compelling evidence regarding my ex-partner's living situation and behaviors, including substance abuse and instability within her household. It's clear that my son's best interests are at stake, and I'm committed to providing him with a safe and nurturing environment.
In terms of my own situation, I'm fortunate to have stable housing, financial stability, and flexibility in my schedule due to being a full-time student with part-time work (1 year left until i am a full time teacher, she isnt working and does not plan to and live on social welfare for the foreseeable future). I'm prepared to provide the stability and support that my son needs.
As I weigh my options, I'm considering pursuing shared custody initially, with the possibility of addressing schooling arrangements in court later on. Alternatively, I'm contemplating seeking full custody from the outset, given the concerns about my ex-partner's ability to provide a suitable environment for our son's upbringing. I do not want to take my child away completely from his mother as this is not right/islamic at all, I want us to coparent effectively so our son is raised with both parents. but this no contact thing makes it seem impossible. she has rejected to showing me the birth certificate and refused medations, (the mediator called her)
Ultimately, my chances of winning full custody will depend on various factors, including the strength of the evidence I've gathered and the court's assessment of what is in my son's best interests. Seeking guidance from a legal expert who specialises in family law will be crucial as I navigate this process.
My primary focus remains on ensuring that my son receives the love, care, and stability he deserves, regardless of the legal complexities involved.
Update: I have also contacted the police about the abusive behaviours from the my ex's mother. Id like to also mention that my son has a serious heart defect, and my exs mother is a habitual smoker regularly smoking cannabis and cigarettes, which is not ideal and can worsen his heart. he is due for an operation but I don't know when this is but I know its within the coming months. but I do not want him in a household that will hurt his health due to innapproiate care.

My idea for the GxK sequel plot would begin with Godzilla waking up from his sleep in the Colosseum and returning to Tiamat's former layer to complete his evolution. Fast forward a few months later, and Godzilla emerges from the lair, completing his evolution and starting to look a little bit more like Tiamat.
Fast forward a few years, and Monarch detects two previously unknown Titans emerge from the Hollow Earth, Titanus Qalupalik, an ugly serpent-like fish or amphibian emerging from the Arctic Circle, and Titanus Dakuwaqa, a shark Titan emerging from a portal in the sea near Kadavu Island. Monarch figures they are here to take over the niches left by Scylla and Tiamat. Godzilla encounters Qalupalik first, who is combative, and they get into a quick one-sided fight which forces Qalupalik to submit. Godzilla gives her a pass and accepts her to take Tiamat's place. Then Godzilla meets up with Dakuwaqa, who begins a ritualistic dance of sorts to gain Godzilla's approval. After Godzilla inspects him and his demeanor, he accepts Dakuwaqa to take his new territory. Then, Godzilla moves to Madagascar to rest.
On the human side of the story, public outrage over the incompetence of both Monarch and world governments to prepare for these Titan attacks is at an all-time high. Governments are now arguing over how to deal with them. Some leaders want to eliminate Godzilla because they believe Godzilla is going to attack them anyway regardless of whether they provoke him or not and that he is too powerful to let alive. Others want to focus more on a Hollow Earth takeover and declare war on the Kongs because they fear that they can plan another attack on the surface world. Monarch tries to assure them that such an event would not happen again because of their change in leadership, but many are still unconvinced. The American government, along with other NATO countries, begin investing in developing a new type of military weapon to deal with Godzilla, the Super X. They also are trying to seal up the holes left in Hong Kong, Cairo, and Rio de Janeiro to ensure nothing from the Hollow Earth can use those portals to invade the surface world again. Monarch gets into heated conflicts over world governments over the portals, as they want to keep a few open for research purposes among other things. The governments relent and allow the portal in Barbados to remain open but require them to invest in extra security in case of an emergency.
Returning to Godzilla, he is suffering from irritating skin parasites (these parasites would be Shockirus, Endoswarmers, or an original kaiju). To deal with them, he begins trying to scrape them off by rubbing himself against the seafloor near the coast of Madagascar. He also tries reaching for some with his jaws and claws. The people on the beach are witnessing this as it is happening, and once Godzilla gets rid of most of the parasites, the beachgoers realize that some of them haven't been killed yet, and as they are aggressive and still larger than humans, they emerge from the shore to attack humans. But this terror is short lived as Godzilla quickly comes in to finish them off. Godzilla then returns back to the water but stays close enough to the island where people can clearly see him. He floats in the water, similarly to a crocodile, with his head and eyes above the water. He is staring at the people and the coasts intensely, which makes the beachgoers feel uncomfortable. Then, it transitions to some flashbacks where we see Madagascar 5 million years ago. These flashbacks would likely be of Godzilla's memories of his youth, from his birth to the other megafauna that used to exist on the island back in the day. Then, it would transition to another flashback where Godzilla encounters some indigenous people on Madagascar as a more mature individual. He curiously stares at the people and the chieftain looks back with great reverence. The people bow and begin to worship him, and Godzilla continues to look at them tenderly. Returning back to the present day, Godzilla lets out a deep low bellow, which gives off the impression of sadness. In reality, Godzilla is upset that he has become more disconnected to the world he protects and now feels like his life has become nothing but fighting to protect it without being able to take pleasure in its wonders.
Switching the attention to Kong, a fight sequence occurs between Kong and another Great Ape wielding a heavy machete. They are fighting in the battle arena as some apes watch the fight while others are busy doing other things. Kong prevails and the Great Ape falls to the ground. After the fight, Kong helps the Great Ape back up. It turns out the fight was nothing more than training; one of the things Kong has begun to do since his rise to power is to teach his people self-defense. As the audience gets a better look of what life is now like in their layer, it is revealed that Kong has recruited a group of Great Apes to assist him in pushing forward his policies. For example, there is a group of Great Apes that are tasked with keeping track of their inventory and rationing their food and water for the tribe. Another group was tasked to build a safe bridge replacing the giant skeleton, which was at this point completed. Others are taking care of the children and so on. Then there are apes that are farming fields of crops, which Mothra periodically visits to pollinate. Shimo, meanwhile, is just chilling with the apes and is not confined to her pit anymore. Kong has no generals or anyone with military roles as he has no interest in conquest and does not see the need for an army at the moment. Kong also does not allow anyone to gather food or water on their own except for him, because he does not want to put anyone else in danger. He meets up with Suko after his duel and is approached by Boots, who is also now a trusted advisor to him, and is alerting him of an approaching Titan. It turns out to be a squadron of Monarch HEAVs and Jet Jaguar, piloted by Trapper. After the fight in Rio, Monarch sent expedition crews to visit the Kong lair, and were horrified by the living conditions that Skar King created. So, they planned an initiative to deliver humanitarian aid to the apes, providing them with food or water, and also trying to make diplomatic measures with them and the Iwi tribe. They have developed a new type of bioengineered crop made from various Hollow Earth flora and Titan cells to feed the apes (which can be a set-up for Biollante in a future installment) and a new type of HEAV that can carry a heavier load to transport these resources. They also created a humanoid mech named Jet Jaguar, piloted by Trapper, which serves as both a diplomat and a vet, fully equipped with veterinary tools that allow it to treat pathologies for Titans, including the Great Apes. In addition, Monarch has rebuilt the Titan Hunter with some improvements as NATO voted to force them to reconstruct it as a self-defense weapon in case of another Titan attack. Since that has not happened yet since the Rio attack, the Titan Hunter has not yet been used. Jet Jaguar and the HEAVs are arriving at the lair with another shipment of resources, including more tools for the apes to plant their own crops. While the Great Apes begin to collect the shipments from the HEAVs, Kong greets Jet Jaguar, who is here to treat a Great Ape with severe physical ailments. This ape has torn tendons and ligaments from slave labor and requires casts for all of his limbs. The challenge with treating the apes is that they are still cautious of foreigners, so Monarch has had to learn patience when working with them. They also have only one mech to perform surgeries with, so they can only treat one ape at a time. Kong and Jet Jaguar meet up with the patient, an as they perform surgery, Kong has to be with the ape to soothe and comfort him as Jet Jaguar begins surgery. After a successful surgery is completed and the Monarch team departs, Kong sits back and looks at his tribe. He begins to have feelings of self-doubt, that he is not up for the task, despite trying his best. He also still feels Skar King's presence, as the pain and damage he has caused still greatly lingers even after death. Kong begins to suffer from insomnia and nightmares from Skar King, showing his presence is still strong and relentless even after death.
Then, the Monarch team visits the Iwi city and delivers the rest of their resources which were designated for them. Here, in this scene, while the audience gets a better glimpse of what life for the Iwi is like, they also get to see Phosphera, another guardian Titan (The best explanation I can come up for why Phosphera did not show up to fight Skar King in the previous movie here would be that she was in a metamorphosing stage during the events of GxK and was too immature to safely break out of her cocoon until after the events of the movie.)
Back on the surface world, in a lab somewhere in the U.S, scientists are experimenting with a genetically modified colony of Shinomura, which would be the main antagonist(s) of the first half. These scientists work closely with the federal government. They believe that it would be more effective to genetically engineer a kaiju superbug that can quickly evolve, spread and annihilate the Hollow Earth ecosystem at much lower costs than constructing mechs which take much longer to do and a lot more money. The cells are dormant and can only be activated by exposure to radiation, which is why Godzilla does not detect them or see them as a threat. The cells are transported by a ship to North Carolina where another portal to the Hollow Earth has been opened. The military plans to release them into the Hollow Earth and then quickly seal it, but it is backfired by a group of mercenaries who attack the ship and want to take the cells for themselves. Unfortunately, the cells are released, and they are not far from a nuclear power plant which also happens to be using the pink super charged radiation gathered from the Hollow Earth, so the cells multiply and grow, turning into a swarm. The cells combine into arthropod like monsters that are too small to be Titans but large enough to attack humans. They begin attacking nuclear plants and surrounding cities while others retreat into the Hollow Earth, which catches Godzilla's attention. Mothra gains wind of it too and emerges onto the surface world to aid Godzilla. By the time Godzilla gets to North Carolina, the swarm has absorbed enough energy to combine into a singular, massive, supercharged form that rivals Godzilla in size. They begin to fight, while the military decides to resort to Plan B and send the Super X against Godzilla. The first battle is fairly even until the Super X begins to attack both Shinomura and Godzilla, blasting chunks of Shinomura away. It becomes a three-way battle until Shinomura escapes and retreats into the ocean while Godzilla is distracted fighting the Super X. Mothra eventually arrives and Godzilla and Mothra destroy the Super X. Then Godzilla pursues the main Shinomura heading for Japan while a few other smaller colonies move to other locations.
Back in the Hollow Earth, the Shinomuras that escaped there quickly grow and begin running amok on the planet. Kong is travelling with Shimo and Suko. They are gathering more food and water to bring back to the tribe, but their trip is quickly interrupted by a squadron of Shinomuras that have combined into their arthropod like forms but now rival Kong in size. Kong leaves Suko with Shimo and takes them on himself. He has no problem ripping the Shinomuras apart with his axe and bare hands. He overpowers them individually, but as the Shinomuras recombine and reshape themselves, they begin to overwhelm him. He notices Shimo and Suko are prompted to do something about it, even though he doesn't want them to, but eventually relents and retreats into a nearby body of water to shake them off of him. Kong quickly jumps out of the water and Shimo freezes and traps the Shinomuras in the water. The trio realize that even more Shinomuras are on the way and transforming into something deadlier. The three immediately turn back and run straight for the lair. As they are running, Kong gets flashbacks of being pursued by Skar King's goons; the Shinomuras remind him of the destruction and chaos that was left behind in Skar King's advance. Kong calls out to the apes farming as he makes it back to the lair and motions them to get inside immediately. He closes up the entrance and warns everyone of the emergency. He has everyone gather all of the resources they have and take refuge in Shimo's former lair, which they now use as an emergency bunker. Boots signs Kong what are they going to do next, and Kong admits he doesn't know, but he intends to be the one to check when it is safe to leave again. Meanwhile, the Iwi are in a similar predicament and Phosphera swoops in to defend the barrier against the invading Shinomuras.
In response to all of this, Monarch sends militaristic HEAVs to neutralize the Shinomuras and has Trapper (or some other character) tasked to pilot Titan Hunter to pursue the main Shinomura on the surface and kill it. Kashiwazaki is evacuated before Shinomura arrives on the scene. Shinomura begins to attack the Kashiwazaki nuclear plant when Godzilla and Mothra arrive to fight it once again. As this is happening, the other colonies arrive to other regions of the world, gaining more strength and attacking other major cities. Godzilla notices this and is conflicted on how to deal with the threats as he is fighting, but Jet Jaguar arrives in Kashiwazaki to fight Shinomura. Godzilla charges up to attack Titan Hunter, thinking he is a threat to him just like the Super X, but Trapper notices this and bows to Godzilla before he can attack. Godzilla accepts this surrender, but quickly shifts his attention back to the Shinomura. Eventually, Titan Hunter, Godzilla, and Mothra defeat the Shinomura, but soon after, several Shinomura supercolonies that supercharged themselves on Hollow Earth energy have reemerged on the surface world to the point where there is at least one attacking each continent of the world. The largest and most powerful colony is in the Yucca Mountain Nuclear West Repository in Nevada. Godzilla is forced to send his alpha call and awaken all of the surface Titans to attack the Shinomuras, so battles begin breaking out across the world. But Godzilla realizes it is not enough and ventures into the Hollow Earth to get more help. Mothra and the Titan Hunter stay behind to hold the line while Godzilla is away and Mothra moves on to Nevada to tackle the Shinomura there, and the Titan Hunter follows her.
Most of the Titans appear to be holding their ground for the most part, but not outright winning either. However, they start to have more problems as some Titans take advantage of the chaos to pursue ulterior motives. Amhuluk wants to fight to claim his desired territory in the Amazon again and travels to the Amazon to fight Behemoth over it and causing a three-way fight between them and the Shinomura colony attacking the region. Meanwhile, in the Hollow Earth, Camazotz reemerges and sends his minions out to devour everything in their path, including the smaller Shinomuras. So Amhuluk and Camazotz become the main antagonists during the second half. Some of the hell swarm attacks the ape lair, and Kong leaves to confront them before they break through. He is able to kill a large number of them, but there are too many for him to handle, forcing him to retreat back into the lair. Several escape into the lair, which Kong is able to kill. When he reunites with his people, he gets more flashbacks of his memories of both Camazotz and Skar King. The attack of the hell swarm reminds him of the invasion Skar King launched against the Hollow Earth and surface world a few years back.
Godzilla travels through oceanic Hollow Earth portals and passes through various ruins of extinct Hollow Earth civilizations along the way. He detects Amhuluk's movements and realizes what he is doing. Godzilla gets really mad, but reluctantly continues on his current path as going back to confront Amhuluk would take up too much time and energy. He makes it into the Hollow Earth and heads over to the ape lair and finishes off the rest of the hell swarm that was still attacking the lair. Afterwards, he charges up his breath and blasts the entrance open again, startling all of the apes. Kong grabs his axe and gets in a defensive position, but after hearing a roar realizes it is Godzilla. He calmly walks into the ape lair, but the other great apes become angry and leave the bunker to mob, surround and harass Godzilla. Godzilla does his best not to escalate tensions, but snaps his jaws, hisses, and sometimes pushes the apes away. Kong roars at the apes and directs them to move away from him. The apes follow his orders and Kong approaches Godzilla. He realizes that he has called on him for help against the Shinomuras. Kong decides to go with Godzilla but does not want to bring Shimo or any of the apes with him. The apes beg for him not to go, and even Shimo seems to cry out for Kong to stay, but he rejects allowing any of his people to put themselves in danger, and he puts Boots in charge while he is away. He says one final goodbye to Suko and leaves with Godzilla.
They have to fight off many smaller Shinomuras while travelling to the surface world while heading for Nevada. Meanwhile, Mothra and the Titan Hunter are already there fighting with the super Shinomura colony. The fight is rather even, but Trapper feels like the fight is going to quicky turn against their favor if they do not get backup soon. Some drones and fighter jets arrive to strike the Shinomura. Eventually, Godzilla and Kong arrive to fight the Shinomura, but Kong notices the Titan Hunter, and has a vision of Skar King, seeing both the Titan Hunter and Skar King as the embodiment of cruelty, destruction, and conquest. Kong attacks the Titan Hunter out of anger, forcing Godzilla to be the one to shove Kong away and break it up. Kong takes a closer look at the Titan Hunter and realizes that it is not the same pilot as the one that hunted Hollow Earth fauna. The Titan Hunter bows to Kong to show he is on the same side and they resume fighting the Shinomura. So, a large portion of the movie would be showing scenes of the Titans fighting the Shinomuras at random intervals, giving a glimpse of what is going on in all of the areas where fights are happening.
Shifting back to Godzilla and Kong's fight, things begin to look grim as more Shinomuras arrive from the Hollow Earth and combine with the supercolony, and Godzilla, Kong, Mothra, and the Titan Hunter begin to struggle against it. Godzilla is still capable of holding some of his ground, while Kong and Mothra are forced to step back as close-range combat is no longer viable. The Titan Hunter gets beaten up really bad and seems to be done for until an ice blast hits the Shinomura. It is Boots, who is riding Shimo, and has gathered the strongest and physically capable apes to help their leader (A fairly large number of fit apes were left behind to care for the elderly and the children). Kong does not know whether to feel happy that his people have his back or mad that they disobeyed his orders but regroups with them regardless and regain their edge against the Shinomura. Then we see more scenes of the other fights going on around the world before Kong's army, Shimo, Godzilla, Mothra, and the Titan Hunter defeat the super Shinomura. While the organic Titans return to the Hollow Earth to finish off the Shinomuras still running around in there, the Titan Hunter lags behind from all of the damage it has sustained, but the pilot persists with helping the Titans.
Back in the Hollow Earth, Godzilla, Mothra, Kong's army, and Shimo run through the Hollow Earth, assisting the local fauna in fighting off the Shinomuras. The Titan Hunter tries its best to follow them and fight off the Shinomuras, but they eventually overwhelm them, forcing the pilot to eject himself. Luckily, a HEAV is nearby and is able to rescue him. Then, a good chunk of the plot would then focus on shifting back between the Hollow Earth fight and the rest of the fights happening on the surface. Kong directs a portion of his army to join Phosphera in defending the Iwi city, which is now under attack by both Shinomuras and Camazotz's minions. Phosphera is close to dying (and eventually does), but the apes are able to kill most of the enemies while the rest retreat. Godzilla and Kong split up, with Kong pursuing Camazotz and Godzilla returning to the surface to confront Amhuluk. Kong leaves Boots in charge of his army and takes a few other trusted friends of his to confront Camazotz, but Shimo follows them, wanting to accompany them. Kong gets more flashbacks of Skar King when he used Shimo to try to execute him, and Kong was unwilling to let Shimo go with them since he did not want to use her for fighting his enemies. Shimo persists and eventually Kong reluctantly lets her join them.
Back on the surface world, Behemoth is not faring well against Amhuluk. The Shinomura colonies in the eastern hemisphere begin to lose the fight and as some of them are killed, the victor Titans travel to regions of the world where they still persist. In South America, however, the Shinomura colonies are still giving the defending Titans a hard time. Behemoth and Amhuluk killed the Shinomura colony, but to Behemoth's dismay, Amhuluk absorbs the remains of the Shinomura colony. It is close to killing Behemoth until Rodan shows up to fight Amhuluk. Rodan quickly gets the upper hand over Amhuluk with his airborne abilities and greater agility. But Amhuluk is not affected that much by Rodan's fiery attacks, as he reinforced his body with fire resistant plants like redwoods. The tables turn on Rodan until Godzilla emerges to fight Amhuluk. So Rodan and Godzilla tag team Amhuluk while Behemoth tries to get the strength to get back up.
Meanwhile, back in the Hollow Earth, Kong, his few trustees, and Shimo are looking for Camazotz and travel through a dark, stormy stretch of rough, mountainous terrain. They find Camazotz in a plateau surrounded by a supercell. They see that Camazotz's minions are feeding him, and he is gaining strength from the radiation that his minions got from hunting Shinomuras. So, Kong, his trustees, and Shimo fight the hell swarm and Camazotz. At this point, the Shinomuras are losing out on the fight with a few large colonies remaining, and Amhuluk and Camazotz become the main threats now. The plot then moves on to showcase some of the final remaining fights between defending Titans and the last Shinomura colonies and see the fights end with the Shinomuras killed. So, the main focus turns to Godzilla's fight, Kong's fight, the fight at the Iwi city barrier, and Boots' crusade to kill the last Shinomuras, which is coming to an end. The fight between Kong and his allies and Camazotz eventually breaks through onto the surface in Canada. Camazotz creates a supercell storm and begins getting an upper hand against Kong and his allies with his new power up. Back in Brazil, Godzilla eventually kills Amhuluk and Rodan and Godzilla both head to Canada. Behemoth gets the strength to get back up.
Back in Canada, Kong and the apes come up with a new strategy to cover their ears with dirt as protection against Camazotz's sonic screams. Kong then tries to do the same with Shimo, but when he does, Shimo does not like the sensation and pushes Kong away. He does not bother trying again and tries to kill all of the minions which are biting him and the apes and causing too much blood loss. Shimo does not fare well against Camazotz despite her size as his cyclone and sonic scream overwhelm her ice breath. Eventually, Mothra emerges to fight him after dealing with the last of the Shinomuras and blasts him with her god rays. Highly stunned and weakened, Kong grabs ahold of Camazotz and notices Rodan approaching to help. He throws him at Rodan's direction, who grabs him with his talons and starts burning him. He holds him in place for Mothra to shoot Camazotz with her webbing. Then Rodan drops Camazotz and Kong finishes him off.
Godzilla arrives onto the scene not long after and shoots his atomic breath to eliminate Camazotz's storm. With all of the hostile Titans dead, Godzilla almost sends the Titans back to sleep, but Mothra approaches him and begins to communicate. The plot then ends with Godzilla returning to Madagascar to take a rest at the coast and watch life as it happens on the island. Kong returns to his people in victory, and they are finally able to leave their lair safely. And Mothra takes over Godzilla's role of balancer, allowing Godzilla to take his well-deserved vacation. This idea of a plotline would mean the movie would be 2 hr 30 min or even 3 hrs so we get the most fighting sequences out of it. I know I glossed over a lot of the human aspects and that I left a lot of the specifics of how a lot of the fights between most of the unseen KOTM Titans would look like, so let me know what your thoughts on this are.

Hello, I'm struggling with something. Lately i've really been worrying about being immortal. I'd constantly think of myself as a special entity and the only consciousness to ever exist. I've struggled with horrible derealization in the past and i'm worried that it'll come back. No technique of "Bringing myself back" has worked. Not to mention that whenever i look at my mother i can't belive that she is real. I forget that i am a kid and then feel ashamed for being young. Nothing really matters to me anymore either, i still get stressed out over things but i just seem not to care after all. It's worrying me a lot.
I dont know if it really matters, but i have ASD and possibly depression (though im just suspecting depression). I dont know if that's the source of my problems, something that helped in developing those problems or is it unrelated.

Just a little backstory here. From the get-go, my mother never had an easy life. She had to help her mom take care of her siblings when her father passed away, and it seems she was cursed with a horrible husband, who emotionally abused her and left her to raise four kids alone, while taking all the glory as a patriarch of the family.
When I was a child, my mother was a strongest person I knew, and I admired her a lot. I did what I could to support her and help her the best way I could. But as I got older, I realized that I started feeling like an emotional dumpster for her. It started to affect my mental health, because it felt like all she wanted to tell me was about something negative, happening to her, or my siblings. I stopped feeling like her child, and started feeling like another parent, because she stopped tracing me like a because she stopped treating me like her child. It felt like I couldn’t even hear any form of good news from her. Something negative was always happening It felt like I couldn’t even hear any form of good news from her. Something negative was always happening always. Always. I had to suffer and deal with my depression about it alone.
When we migrated to the US, I thought she was going to get better. I thought she would be happier to be closer to her family. Boy was I wrong. Being an immigrant has its struggles, or probably it’s because I got older and I realize that it is not OK for me to be an emotional dumpster. I couldn’t always be taking in the bad stuff. I didn’t like the person I was becoming, and I knew my mom had a hand in it. I tried talking to her, to make her see things from my point of view and understand how her words have been affecting me for years, but she blew up on me, I guess when you have become so dependent on someone you don’t like when they talk back.
Over the years, our relationship has become really strained. Since trying to reason with her was not working, I started distancing myself and trying to create a personality that was not negative. And it worked. But I could not shake away my mother, because according to her, she had no one but me to talk to. I am not kidding when I say that every single phone call or visit I have with her always comes with a bad news come. She is the most depressing person. I am not kidding when I say that every single phone call or visit I have with her always comes with bad news. She is the most depressing person I know. She never has anything good to tell me.
It’s like when something negative happens to her, which happens to everyone because that’s how life works, she hyper fixate on it and makes that all her day. Recently, she was so tired from work that she accidentally walked out of the store with an item, and now the store is suing her for a class B misdismeanor. Her job told her not to come back until the case is over, and now she feels like her life is over.
Every single day, I call her and I try to cheer her up, but it feels like my own energy gets sapped instead and I leave the call drained. I have tried everything, from spending time with her to giving her little presents that she likes, but it feels like she refuses to get better, and it’s getting harder for me to cheer myself up after spending time with her. I can’t help her, because this is her pattern. It’s like she loves the misery she is putting herself through and the court date isn’t till July. I plan on distancing myself, because going down the depression path is not on my calendar for this year.

Fuck a big 3 it’s just a big 2, that’s Ye and Juice, they’re better than you. I said what I said, I remember waking up in bed, opened up my phone and read, that Juice was dead, thinkin damn wish it was Drake instead.
They say fuck P Diddy, I say fuck P Drizzy. When you are around minors you shouldn’t be getting rizzy. I don’t keep up with celebrity information, so unlike Kendrick this is my first time hearing about this situation.
Yeah don’t think you are off the hook midget man, you knew about this shit for a decade and kept your mouth shut and ran, If you really cared you wouldn’t have waited for some beef shit to put the world on slam, but you just wanted clout so that wasn’t your plan.
All you are doing is using Drake’s name just for sales, stop acting like some moral voice, you are just as bad as what the rest of the industry entails.
Both of y’all need to pipe the fuck down, you are pushing 40 it’s getting embarrassing now. Acting like some highschool teenage drama Queen, made it too easy for me to kill you and keep my record clean.

I’m not anti gun. I legally have a licensed firearm. Now that’s out of the way my sister, and her husband weren’t/aren’t, they own multiple firearms, and are Colorado residents.
In a mere few months my sister went from a happy wife, loving mother of two, with a phd in psychology working with special needs children - to insane.
She has gone from being sweet natured the first 35 years on this planet to so manic and delusional and full of rage the only thing I can compare it to is how actors in movies behave when they are possessed by a demon, and the priest is trying to pull it out. Not hyperbolic.
What’s very bad here is she’s convinced her husband wants to kill her. All guns were removed from their home weeks back. Things have continued to escalate - my brother in law, and nieces are living with my parents who moved to Colorado to be near the grandkids.
She’s so manic/paranoid/delusional she did $12,300 in damages to their home. Not factored into that insurance estimate, she threw away everything wardrobe wise tied to her daughters from bows to shoes - she was meticulous. Put it all in the trash, and poured gasoline over everything. Thankfully, whatever reason she didn’t light it - probably, lack of lighter. Then took off in a car with no wallet or ID. Her car was found abandoned in New Mexico with the keys in the ignition. She was picked up by the police 48 hrs later on some random highway, and a seven day psy hold was done.
She is now out.
You all have ZERO idea how hard it is to force psychiatric care - we even found an ad she typed for Craigslist (but didn’t post) looking for a hitman. Police said because it wasn’t posted with a monetary amount it’s not enough of a sign of “grave risk of violence”.
I’ll skip the other insane things she’s done.
She is a threat to others - that’s reality.
She has no psychiatric record in Colorado as the 1001 things she’s done aren’t enough for forced evaluation - you must have solid proof someone is “grave threat of suicide or homicide”.
In Ohio it is very easy to get a gun via private buyer. Out there, Colorado, it’s private sellers have to start background checking in 2025 correct? Currently, private sales can/do take place. Regardless, everything is vague on psychiatric history… a judge has to rule an individual unable to purchase a gun?
My sister is beautiful, poised (well was), and can appear sane long enough to buy a gun. Odds are if this occurs, and she’d have to have cash hidden somewhere she hasn’t used - she will end up in prison for attempted murder or murder.
I sound hyperbolic. Again, I’m not.
Her husband is consumed with emergency full custody/restraining order that states she can’t be anywhere near her daughters.
My 75 year old father asked me to look up Colorado gun laws, but you just had all this stuff hit the floor for a vote. The law doesn’t mean it’s followed. I can’t find what Colorado considers mental health illegibility - and this entire thing is upsetting to even be doing.
Turns out bi polar can develop at any age and turn a loved one into an unrecognizable monster. Pretend this is your sister, and like you she’s in Colorado. How easy will it be for her to get a firearm? Cash. As easy as Ohio?
Appreciate your time.
Also, she does have a conceal carry permit.

So I graduated in December (a semester early) with a Bachelor of Science in Biology. The plan was to spend my extra semester getting clinical/shadowing hours and studying for the MCAT. Long story short, that did not go as planned. I gained plenty of shadowing hours but have been struggling to find direct patient care experience/jobs. Also I have not been dedicated to my MCAT studying like I should have been. (3.4 cGPA, not sure about sGPA and 488 MCAT last year and was hoping to do way better this year). I am 21 so I was excited to have this extra time to figure everything out but since I messed up I am lowkey starting to panic because I dont know what to do. I went into this whole process sort of blindly with no mentor or peers that have been through medical school admissions process.
I knowwww I know its my fault but when I say life happened I mean LIFE HAPPENED. But now that brings us to today: AAMCAS/ACOMAS are now open and I do not feel prepared to apply this cycle at all, so I wont. Instead, I pivoted and decided to start looking into SMPs and master's programs but it is pretty late in the cycle.
Questions: Anybody else in this predicament? Which programs would you all recommend? Any job recommendations to get patient care experience? I will take any advice I can get.

The situation:
Me and my ex-fiance broke up a month before she gave birth to our child. Initially we agreed that I was going to be at the birth. However, after we broke up, she did not want me there. I came to terms with this and was okay with it as this was her right/choice. We were still in communication during this time (after we broke up), and we were civil, even flirtatious. Leading up to the birth she got paranoid that I was cheating on her or sleeping with other women as my location was not at my house but on the street behind me, i explained to her that iPhone geolocation isn't always accurate, and i even offered to face time her to prove that I am where I am but she did not respond to my requsts. My ex's phone stopped working so i had no contact with her for 1 weeks straight out of concern i called her mother to see if she was okay as they live together, and her mother started slandering me saying that i got her pregnant and now ive left her a month before she was due, the breakup was mutual and agreed on both sides, and for our child we planned on co parenting effectivly.She started calling me a bitch and slandering my religon (islam) and became racist even though her daughter is half white and half indian, she also threatened me with force and threatend the police on me even though i hadnt done anything. I let the abuse slide as i didnt want to winde up any tension or make the sitatuion/breakup worse. My friends advised me to apologise for the hurt the breakup caused which i did.
1 week later, My ex texted me the night before at like 1am she was induced into labour that she was going to be induced and i asked her if she needs anything or wants me there, she said there isnt anything she needs and she said not to come and said it can take days until our son is born. 4 hours after this text she had given birth, but i had not been told this, and i had missed my sons birth. I recieve a text from bitter mother the next day that "he is here now come and see him". I was the last person to be contacted, her friends and family were all notifed immediatley, but they willingly contacted me late knowing that i wanted to be there (not in delivery room but in the hospital). The friends and family all saw my son before me and i knew this because of social media posts. I travelled from birmingham to london imediatly to see our son. When i arrived at the hospital, I was bitter because i was notifed last so i decided not to speak to her family and friends and see my son as the nurses allowed me. Upon picking up my son, My exs grandmother, my sons great grand mother, said "he will not be raised muslim, this is england not india, we dont do that here", her mother then proceedes to say he will eat what his grandmother feeds him, knowing i want my son to be muslim and eat halal food. She says why werent you here earlier, why are you here hours later making out to seem that i was some neglectful father who didnt care, her grand mother then policed me on how to pick up my child, how to hold him and how to change nappies, and threatend to kick me out, the nurse overheard this and said to her that i have a right to be here and i have 24hrs viewing access. then there was silence.
. They kept sayiing you should have been in london already we told you to book an airbnb in london, but i planned on booking it the day she was going into labour as that is when my paternity leave was due to start, i could not afford to pay a 300-400 so i can be there a week early.
I couldnt speak to my ex when I was at the hospital as they were in seperate wards, my son was in a special care unit and she was in her ward. So i spent a few hours with him. After the day had finished, it was too late and she had gone to sleep so i didnt want to disturb her so i went to my the hotel i booked.
I sent my ex a nice text saying thank you for delivering our son .etc and send gifts and flowers. I told her that my friends and family are coming down the next day from birmingham to see him. I walk into the hospital, and my exs mother started swearing at me saying im so horrible for not speaking to my ex after she had just given birth, and kept portaying me to be a Horrible, she said that the messages and gifts dont mean anything even though my intentions in my text were me being grateful and thankful for the delivery of our son. She said your family and friends arent allowed to come, they have no right to be here, and said that she is going to get me banned from seeing my son if they come. I didnt believe or take serious what she said so ignored her and went to see my ex who was now with our son. my ex didnt speak to me once even though i tried to speak. A few hours later i went to grab lunch, and my family had already set of at this time. I told my ex that they are coming down to see him, and she said no, they dont have her permission to our son, eventhough no one from her side asked for my permission to vist and take photos. I couldnt believe what she was saying, she said that I couldnt see him at this point. Her mother overheard this, and said they she will ban them from coming but i laughed saying how and why are they doing this? I then get told that they will raise a safeguarding claim so im not allowed in the hospital. after my lunch i call the the head nurse to see if he is okay and if i can come down, and i am told that there is a safe guarding claim, and i cannot see my son, and they cannot dicuss anything about him to me as i am not on the birth certficate/i am not married. Eventhough this safeguarding claim is absolutely fictiuous. My family arrive and i had to turn them away. Since that day (2nd day of son being born), I have not seen him or heard of him. My ex has gone no contact and is not replying to any of my texts even though has read them. Throughout this entire situation my friends advised me to "bite my tongue and keep a level head" and ignore the abuse as it isnt the time or the place to have such discussions.
In navigating this challenging situation, my main concern is ensuring my son's well-being and maintaining a meaningful presence in his life. Despite my efforts to communicate and explore mediation options, my ex-partner's lack of response has added to the complexity of the situation.
Given the circumstances, I'm seriously considering seeking either full custody of my son, shared custody if that is a thing in the UK. I don't have access to the birth certificate but I know that they have no disclosed me on it. I've gathered compelling evidence regarding my ex-partner's living situation and behaviors, including substance abuse and instability within her household. It's clear that my son's best interests are at stake, and I'm committed to providing him with a safe and nurturing environment.
In terms of my own situation, I'm fortunate to have stable housing, financial stability, and flexibility in my schedule due to being a full-time student with part-time work (1 year left until i am a full time teacher, she isnt working and does not plan to and live on social welfare for the foreseeable future). I'm prepared to provide the stability and support that my son needs.
As I weigh my options, I'm considering pursuing shared custody initially, with the possibility of addressing schooling arrangements in court later on. Alternatively, I'm contemplating seeking full custody from the outset, given the concerns about my ex-partner's ability to provide a suitable environment for our son's upbringing. I do not want to take my child away completely from his mother as this is not right/islamic at all, I want us to coparent effectively so our son is raised with both parents. but this no contact thing makes it seem impossible. she has rejected to showing me the birth certificate and refused medations, (the mediator called her)
Ultimately, my chances of winning full custody will depend on various factors, including the strength of the evidence I've gathered and the court's assessment of what is in my son's best interests. Seeking guidance from a legal expert who specialises in family law will be crucial as I navigate this process.
My primary focus remains on ensuring that my son receives the love, care, and stability he deserves, regardless of the legal complexities involved.
Update: I have also contacted the police about the abusive behaviours from the my ex's mother. Id like to also mention that my son has a serious heart defect, and my exs mother is a habitual smoker regularly smoking cannabis and cigarettes, which is not ideal and can worsen his heart. he is due for an operation but I don't know when this is but I know its within the coming months. but I do not want him in a household that will hurt his health due to innapproiate care.

It may have been a long time coming, but I still feel kind of awful about it.
We were together for 10 months, and it was the best and worst relationship I’ve ever been in, but it was really just doomed from the start. When I first met him I was in a loveless marriage, and he was in a loveless relationship with someone he had a kid with. In my marriage we were together for 6 years, but the love had been gone for the last years. His relationship with his bm had been 3 years, but she had been continuously cheating. So, we ended up running away together. But his bm still lives at his parents house with his kid because she has no where else to go…?
The relationship started out intensely both physically and emotionally and neither of us were looking back.. at first, I guess. Until after about 3 months when she told him that she was 6 months pregnant, and he started being insecure about me being friends with mostly guys, and being a generally friendly person. I told him we can work through it together and I started changing how I interacted with people and who I interacted with that made him uncomfortable, and he started being in closer contact with her. It wasn’t long until he broke up with me the first time(1) and kicked me out of the apartment we lived in. We get back together within a couple of days. Only for him to leave me again (2) after about a month when I started noticing he was messaging her more and more while he was at work. We ended up getting back together the next night. But then I started getting anxieties. And I started to spiral asking for reassurance that he isn’t going to get back together with his ex and that it wasn’t something had to worry about with the new baby coming soon - and instead of reassurance he made me seem like I was being crazy for even questioning it and breaking up with me again (3). We ended up playing games together after 2 days and began talking about getting back together again, but he tells me he slept with her and is still in love with her, but in love with me too and convinces me to allow him to date both of us. Then I would live back at our apartment, and he would only be living at his parents with her for a bit to help take care of the newborn.
So he started staying there while I would stay back alone. He would see me every couple of days or so for a few hours, but never more than that. Then he started cancelling plans left and right, sometimes because he just didn’t feel like it… After the 3rd day or so of him cancelling plans last second I started losing it. I was getting ready to see him, excited. He said that he needed a minute because he was arguing with his bm then he just stopped replying. I called about 37 times then everything started going straight to voicemail, green text, and no replies on SC or Discord. After 6 hours I was fully convinced he left me for good. So I was going to cope for a night and be gone in the morning, but I did something bad. I went on tinder and sent each of my matches the same copy and paste “let’s hook up” messages. These back and forth messages went on for about 2 hours when he suddenly texted me saying he fell asleep. Then he suddenly showed up at the apartment happy and giddy. That’s when he saw me put my phone down and asked me for it. I said no at first then eventually confessed and gave him the phone. He was really upset.. and told me he was coming over to tell me that she was making him choose between me and her, and that he was choosing me. He then decided to forgive me and take me to get my things from my ex-husbands house and told me that things are going to be different this time.
Unfortunately they were different in the worst kind of way. Neither of us trusted each other anymore and he began crossing every boundary I had. Sleeping in the same bed as her still and being overly too friendly, and I sat by quietly thinking it was what I deserved. Eventually that blew up to him leaving me once again (4) time. I started packing, but I needed more boxes so he came by with them. We ended up hooking up and he ended up telling me he slept with her again. We were back together and moved back in within a day. But the issues still remained that he was crossing my boundaries. Eventually I ended up pregnant after 3 months. After a month I began to miscarry, and during it instead of being with me through it he went to his parents house and told me she needed his car, but didn’t come home until late. And then once again, someone I used to have a crush with messaged me out of the blue and I didn’t really reject him when he started hitting on me.
He then broke up with me the second day of the miscarriage, and then found out about the guy who was hitting on me a day or so later after the breakup. Unfortunately, we still had to live together.
Valentine’s Day he brings me flowers and balloons and cookies, but goes to his parents to spend the night with her. And on the weekend he takes me out for Valentine’s Day and I go through his phone for the first time in months. Turns out he’s been trying to get back together with her and getting rejected from before I was even pregnant. I decided to forgive him I guess like he forgave me. Eventually it turned into him leaving me (5) saying he can’t stand me and has always wanted to be back with her. So he moved back to his parents. A week later he comes back saying he resents her. And we got back together again. After about a month we both moved out. I went back home and so did he at his parent’s house, sleeping in the guest room. Things were good for about two weeks until he left me again (6).
He told he’s been trying to get back with her but she’s been with someone else for the last 5 months. We end up talking again and seeing each other again, but this time he keeps me blocked on everything but our cell and Snapchat. And of course after 2 weeks he stops talking to him again (7). And within a few days we’re talking again. He comes over and spends the night and everything is good until the weekend. We make plans for a hotel and for the weekend, but when Friday comes along im stuck waiting for him to show up. And then 9:45 pm I still get no reply. (8) And I just snap… I message his bm. And I tell her everything. That we slept together in her truck, the shit he’s talked, that he told me we were soulmates 3 days ago, and that he showed me their sex videos.
And we never spoke again. He just blocked me and it’s been 4 days (the longest we’ve gone without talking) and honestly the guilt is eating me alive. My friends tell me that he deserved to be exposed, but I feel awful about it.

DMX last Thursday. Friday took baby dog to vet. Yesterday had to euthanize him. This morning one of my other dogs was attacked by coyotes. He is currently in the vet hospital getting scans. They will do surgery as soon as they come up with a plan. Every day I’ve had to go to the vet since I came home. Between my copay and my vet bills I have drained almost all of my rainy day money in the span of a week. With all the movement one side keeps bleeding through my drain and that side is swollen/painful. I have finally broken down and taken a hydrocodone which I thought I would not need. AND my sister is flaking on me, meaning my mother with dementia will have to come home this week for me to take care of. I have been hiding this cancer from her. How can I hide the drains coming out of my body or keep her from trying to make me soup (and burning down my kitchen)?
Normally I can find perspective and stay calm but this week has just been a LOT. I am feeling rage at the universe and just want to give it a big FU. Sorry to dump all of this. I just need this little vent session. Dog number 3 (all chihuahuas) is looking at me and telling me we need lunch. Once again, this universe can kiss my butt. For others going through a lot right now, know I am down here with you. We might not have the same struggles but I feel solidarity nonetheless.

My boyfriend complains constantly about work. Backstory: he went to college and got a degree he can’t do anything with (for the experience because his family is loaded) and planned to just join the military we met and he never went. Now he works for his family as a mechanic he complains every single day about doing manual labor, his commute, and honestly just the fact that he has to work. He wants to stream, play video games, and get into app development or something like that. I get annoyed because 1. We all have to work and everyone hates their job most of the time 2. He complains day in and day out yet makes no effort towards having a different career 3. Doesn’t see how lucky he is to work for his parents. (Can inherit their successful business, shows up whenever he feels like, benefits, leaves whenever he needs to for doctors appts. unlimited days off) I get so frustrated when he complains because it’s the same shit without change and I don’t see his situation as that bad. Meanwhile, I’m a hairstylist I have no benefits no time off and I don’t make a ton of money. And he works for his family makes more than I do and his dad bought him an e class Mercedes (I’ll be paying off my car for years) so yes with all of that I’m jealous and tired of the complaining.

38M with 37F. We've been together 6 years, and between verbal altercations we actually share a lot of laughs and loving moments, quality time and physical affection are both of our top 2 love languages. There's no lack of bedroom intimacy. That said, there's been several times where I've wanted to leave, but I love her and I'm stubborn and feel like a relationship isn't worth having if effort isn't made to work through inevitable problems, but now I'm beyond frustrated and ready to give up.
She had a year of therapy in 2022 for crippling emotional anxiety and executive dysfunction, and some success with emotional outbursts for a time, but Medicaid stopped covering her after she went back to work.
She tells me I say and do things that trigger her, and in the next breath says she knows I'm not actually saying or doing anything wrong or have any ill intent, but in the moment she feels like that's the case, so she spirals emotionally and gets mad that I'm not apologizing for something I didn't do. She will outright accuse me of something that on it's face isn't true, and when I call it out and calmly and rationally try to discuss it, she feels that I'm not apologetic and I'm only focused on being defensive when I'm actually trying to assure her of my supportiveness and good intentions while simultaneously guarding my own emotions from the gaslighting.

• says she doesn't feel like she can talk about her feelings with me because she feels emotionally unsafe because of emotional PTSD from her mother and past lovers abusing her. Trauma is her favorite word.
  
• says that her emotions need to come first and foremost and I need to put mine in the back seat, and that I should get therapy to understand how to be emotionally intelligent for her.
  
• says I need to ask her what she needs from me or if there's anything I can do to help her when she's feeling anxious/emotionally unstable, and then when I do, she says that I'm making it her responsibility to figure out how to take care of her rather than me just intuitively understanding how to be an emotionally intelligent partner.
  

Most recent example: I'm in between jobs so I'm around the house a lot, which is new for her. She feels like she has no space now. Last night she says I need to get out and do things, but doing things outside the house costs money that I'm trying to save. So I go to the bedroom to do my own thing for a few hours and she's in another room. Now it's time for bed and she comes in to lay down. I ask if she wants me to sleep on couch so she can have space. She says no because she likes to snuggle with me. This morning, she wakes me up with kisses and such, and I ask about her plans for the day. She says she's going out in a couple hours with a friend who has to take their cat to the vet. So everything seems fine at this point, and I ask (what I thought was playfully), quote "would you like to help me start the day with some exercise?" She hesitates and says she wants coffee first, so I respond with, quote "ok could you bring me a cup too?" She doesn't respond but comes back a few minutes later with the coffee while I'm getting up to brush my teeth, and the conversation goes like this:
(Her) it sucks that you wake up demanding that I put out for you and treating me like a servant by asking for the coffee. I wasn't in the mood for sex.
(Me) ok sorry, I just felt like you were being affectionate and would enjoy the intimacy having woken me up like that, so I initiated (because she usually wants me to initiate, and we do it often). It's ok if you're not feeling like it.
(Her)well it didn't come across that way! You were being demanding, as if I'm responsible for helping you wake up
(me confused, knowing the true tone I used, but admittedly not the sexiest words to ask with) I respond with a calm and apologetic tone with "I was just being playful, I wasn't demanding anything".
(Her) This is what I'm always complaining about, you say insensitive things and don't care about how I feel! You never apologize for how you treat me and instead just defend yourself, you need to just take accountability for hurting my feelings, this is why I don't feel emotionally safe with you. My intrusive thoughts tell me you're going to just get aggressive like the guys in the past for not giving into their demands. This is why I say you need therapy so you know how to talk to someone who has trauma!
Now this whole time, as is the case with every time we get into these misunderstandings, she's been using a loud and accusatory voice. She's always had emotional outbursts like this, they've just become more frequent the past several years and are often intense where she yells and slams doors and goes into fits of sobbing. These have always been verbal encounters and have never become even remotely physical, and I am very attuned to remaining calm and collected so I don't trigger PTSD, very rarely do I even raise my voice. That said, yes there are times where I make snappy comments out of frustration, and sometimes I am at fault and am the cause of arguments with things I've said or done, and I do make apologies when warranted.
But I don't feel like I was the cause this morning, and she got over her period a week ago. She completely blindsided me with this as usual, and after 15 minutes of back and forth with her yelling and me staying calm, I walk out of the room and she gets ready to leave, then comes out and after a few minutes of silence she asks "are you mad at me?"
I say yes, and explain "I understand that you jump to conclusions and that brings up bad memories but I've never done anything to suggest that I would treat you that way, you're safe with me and I love you. The issue I have is you taking out of context something I say and then not allowing me to clear the air, because that is construed as not caring about your feelings being hurt by what I didn't say. You think the issue is that I don't understand or care about your emotions and I only care about facts and logic, when actually the problem is that I am expected to allow you to continue believing a misconstrued perception, which only serves to perpetuate your emotional tirade." A couple more minutes of her chastising me and I told her she needs to leave because I can't talk to her anymore about it.
For the most part it feels very one-sided with how these situations are instigated, and I just try to communicate rationally and be understanding, but I always try to maintain my self-esteem by not accepting blame for how she perceives things because I can't control her perception, I can only control my attitude. Is this wrong? Is there a better way to handle this so that we both can feel vindicated?