Dear love,
I hope you are doing well..
I don't cry anymore. I don't feel anything anymore.
Last time I saw you was a week ago and yet you did not text me or call me.
Yesterday I was tempted to call you and ask you how you medical appointment was gone and tell you all about my day but then I remembered you choose this. You did not want me any longer. You said you did not love me and did not see a future together and I respected you choice and I left.
I left what we had. I left our home. I left our life together and I miss every single things.
I miss to pretend to sleep on the sofa when you would come back home from work. I miss cooking for you. I miss giving you a massage on you shoulders because you were in pain every night.
I miss looking at you while you play games. I miss making sure you had clean clothes every day. I miss worrying about you. I miss your smile and your face. I miss YOU.
I wish things were different but I respect your choice and I am letting you go to find the person of your dreams...
I will always love you. Z.C

USA By: David K?

C4C Game List	Code
🎁 Free Gifts	229514788
🎩 Hat Trick	229115516

Please tell me-

1. Temu Game you used my code on.
2. Temu Game your code is on.
3. Your username inside Temu.

Click Map	-
Available	✅
Unavailable	❌
Unlimited	♾️

Click Availability	-
🐠 Fish Land	✅
🌾 Farm Land	✅
🎩 Hat Trick	✅
🎁 Free Gifts	✅
🌴 Temu Tree	♾️?
🍵 Free Coffee	♾️?
🍀Lucky Flip	❌

Easter Eggs	Ineligible C4C	Note
🎩 Trick	234806837	5/20
🎩 Trick	229115516	0/5
🎁 Gifts	229514788	blank
🎁 Gifts	233463494	blank
🎁 Gifts	blank	blank

Game Name	Non-C4C Code	Information
📦 Daily	dailybox777	Daily Gift Box
🐠 Land	204281763	Friends
🌾 Land	203390830	Friends
🌴 Tree	temutree0326228	Plant real trees
🍵 Coffee	cof0996693	Free coffee
🍀Flip	N/A	N/A

Notes:

1. For Hat Trick and Free Gifts you can do both eligible and ineligible clicks to help get either of us easter eggs. But please let me know which ones you gave it to and give me your codes.
2. For new users, you can only do one click a day per game. One click a week per game of someone you've already given a click to. I will check records to make sure you have given one. Hat Trick is also known as Freebies.

Reddit Post Explaining Clicks Search for: TemuThings - "Code Exchanging (Clicks)"

After going through ratemyserver at least 1 time/day and getting disappointed with almost 95% of the servers there, and after searching endlessly for a non-p2w pre-renewal SA server without success, I ended up trying Rise of Legends aka evolve-ro, and I must tell you, this server is GOOD.
Here are some reasons for you to consider playing in this server. 1 - Great Community, staff and players are a bunch of sweethearts 2 - Proxys that really works, no lag at all for SA players 3 - Great Systems for solo players (Monster and DG of the day), for monster of the day, you get a fixed amount of exp as bonus which scales with your level, for dungeon of the day, every mob on the listed DG will give you %bonus exp. On both cases players have a chance to drop grape juice, potions, and a hunting coin. Lots of things that other servers have on their cash shop can be bought with those coins. 4 - No P2W (at least for now) 5 - Lots of zenny sink for economy 6 - Random OPTS are not exaggerated, but you can also feel a difference of an item with and without it 7 - Great rates and bonus at weekends 8 - the staff is always on, and do a ton of events.
9 - Hat quests are doable to complete, different from other servers that make it impossible for you to buy it on the cash shop 10 - Sitting regen increase
Again, if you're a solo player, I HIGHLY recommend this server, tons of fun, and there is much more than what I listed.

My (27F) husband (28M) and I currently have one child. She is 19 months old and is truly the light of our lives. I have always wanted 2-3 children, and have always wanted them close in age, ideally about 2 years apart. Around January I got the strong urge to start trying for another baby. I talked to my husband about it and he was also on board. I would have began trying immediately, however I had an IUD and couldn’t get an appointment to get it removed until March. We planned to start trying then once I got it removed. Well, March rolled around and I finally got my IUD removed. Ever since then, however, I have felt so nervous about having another. There have been no happy jitters or exciting thoughts, and instead only fear. I love our lives right now. Our daughter is a wonderful sleeper and is very easy all things considered. She was NOT an easy newborn though, and has colic for about 3 months. The newborn/infant stage was extremely difficult for us and really took a toll on our marriage. I feel like we are finally at a good place again and life is finally getting back to normal and we’re loving it. I keep finding myself wondering why in the world would I mess up what we have and throw our lives back into chaos. I love our daughter and feel so content with her, but part of me feels like it would be wrong not to give her a sibling. I also don’t feel like I’m completely fine having kids, but I just don’t have that desire right now. I don’t know what changed from January to March, but my entire perspective on trying for a second has shifted now. Has anyone dealt with anything like this? How do you know whether or not you wanted another?

Hello everyone,
I have been out of town visiting my parents for a few days. These kind of out of town times are really helpful not only for me but also for my partner because it is Refreshing spending some time for ourselves every once in a while, so when we get back together we have missed each other more and tends to bond us more and more together. This time its been different. I come back and he has been cold as ice and acting very weirdly, at first I have been like, ok, maybe just a coincidence, he is just having one of those cold moments we all could have, where you aint feeling much "romantic" lets say? But time has been passing and he is still acting weirdly to me, at first i never related this to cheating, I have always trusted him, but I asked: Hey, is everything ok with you? I think you are a little off these days? He blamed it on the stress at work, I reassured him that Im here for anything he needs and just gave him more time. Yesterday, while he was at gym I decided to do a little of a cleaning up, to my surprise I found this black thin hair tie underneath his side of the bed. Im sure, and when I mean sure it cant be mine, the ones i use are brown coloured, not black, and not this thin. But he is actually making me doubt about this
When he came back home I asked him about this, and I somehow, implied that he has been banging someone else while I was out. He is trying to convince me that hair tie is mine, that he dont know how it got there, that it could be for very long ago and we hadnt seen it, that it could not be a hair tie and be something else...
The thing is that he got mad crazy when I implied the cheating scenario "you dont trust me, you never have, how would i do that to you".
Im staying at a friends in the meantime i decide what the hell to do. In a hypothetical non cheating scenario, AITAH for jumping right into that conclusions? Could he be telling the truth? Am I "selfish"?

Hi all! Looking for advice on how to finance a Pickleball facility. The aim is to do so while giving up as little equity as possible. We have an investor with 300K (no deal inked yet, but he’s committed to being involved), but our resource needs to kick off are between 800K & 1.2M. Would it make sense to use the 300K as collateral for an SBA or LOC and then pay back that 300K with a specified return? Hoping to hear any and all thoughts on options to structure this. For context, my partner and I have very little personal capital, so this makes things more difficult when targeting a loan on our own.

I saw him in the logo for BL4 so I thought might talk about what I was hoping
It would be cool if he came back as an NPC but It'd be cool if they brought axton back in BL4 as a playable character, but better. In BL2 people said he was the worst character, but it would be cool for him to come back as over powered
Give him more synergy with his turret, make them work more as a team
Give him grenade, splash damage, and explosive damage bonuses
Bring back grit
Give him a Legendary rifleman classmod and make him the legendary cat of assault rifles
Like krieg he should have a build for his kill skills since those were pretty important for him and give him a classmod for his kill skills to boost them and make them last longer and be more powerful
And maybe a few other things, he will have a lot more diversity especially if they bring back the 4th skill tree

I kept seeing it mentioned in great terms.
Then I see there's an anime watch group discussion for the show!
Perfect! I thought, Ill start watching then Watched half an EP and got stuck.. Then I learn they're watching it daily haha. Guessing I missed it by now?
Keep wanting to get caught up. I used to binge shows and now I'm stuck researching and doing EP discussions more than actually watching the shows!
Kinda frustrating. I've never watched a magical girls genre before, but from what I hear how it changed I think I'll like it. I like giving new things a try.
I thought Steins;Gate wouldn't be up my alley many years ago after the first few slow episodes and it turned out to be my favorite.
So I'm assuming this will be similar tbh. Even NGE (or TTGL imo lol) starts off slow and end up ground-breaking.
So would love someone to kick my ass into gear! I could be episodes deep already.
Kinda bummed I'm missing out on the current daily EP discussion tbh, sounds like an amazing way to enjoy it for me. It was perfect timing and now I've failed. Typical me.

I'll give you guys the best possible run down I can because not one person I know has been able to figure this out so I hope someone here can help. Basically when I try to message my gf on messages via iMessage or even SMS it doesn't go through same thing goes for her when she tries to message me (this only happens with our messages, I can message everyone else perfectly). our iMessage and everything was working perfectly fine until last week. I have a feeling it has something to do with my MacBook but I'm not sure. and it's not like always. It went away for a while and we could message but even now we can't message and I'm usually good with these issues but I have no clue how to fix this. there was one time it fixed as we were trying to sort it out but now we can't do anything about it. any help or just ideas on what's causing this would be very appreciated thank you

I am 30 weeks pregnant living with my boyfriend and his grandma, which is his mother figure in his life. They moved into this new house about 2 years ago because it was given to them after a family member passed, the two of them made an agreement that this house would be for him to put a mortgage down, set him up for the future , and that she would have a tiny home or trailer moved out onto the property or just completely move away. This was their plan before I ever came along.
I moved in a year ago after me and him got really serious, we want to really make this house a home and have a future together. I got off my birth control, however I was told it would take a good amount of time to get my cycle back in line and normal, but I got pregnant so fast. Which we are not unhappy about at all.
But it is now the end of the world for Gigi, his grandma. For months it has been nothing but a living hell. She has done everything in the book you can think of when it comes to in-laws from hell. My entire pregnancy she has ignored me, given me zero advice, fights with me over every small thing I do in the house trying to make this a baby safe space. It is only a 2 bedroom house, she has the master bedroom. Our plan has been to switch rooms because we have ZERO baby space in this other room, we didn't want to rush her into moving out because times are rough now of days, so to give her extra time I have been okay with sharing the master bedroom with our baby until that time comes. For months that has been the plan and she always seemed on board. But now. She refuses to finish cleaning her room and tells everyone that we are forcing her out, destroying her home, and getting rid of her stuff, when have done nothing but try to make it fair for her. Every time I clean any room in the house, she will go behind me and make a mess or undo shit I have done reorganizing. If I am alone with her, she whispers smart remarks about everything and anything, like about how she isn't allowed to do anything, for example she will grab a water bottle out of the fridge and ask if it is allowed to drink water in this house or she will just completely ignore my existence. She makes a fight about every small thing I do. If I close a curtain, she will come behind me and slam it open. If I move a dish in the cabinet, she will slam the cabinet doors and throw dishes around. She has woken me up many times slamming doors. Also she will hide the bills from us, lie about paying them, we have had a late fee charge so many times because of her. Even had the lights and water cut off. She will buy 2 of everything for only her and him. She has even stolen my makeup and clothes. She will pull my laundry out and throw it around. She will never clean up after herself, I am ALWAYS cleaning EVERYTHING, if I do not, it will not get done. And worse of worse she made my gender reveal all about her. Thats a long story but she ruined my party. And still till this day she hasn't asked me anything about the baby or shows that she even cares about me or my baby.
There is so much more, I could just go on forever. However when my boyfriend gets off work, she acts PERFECT. She never speaks to me directly still but she will act like she is the sweetest person around, acts like she could never do wrong and plays it off when he confronts her about the stuff I tell him.
My problem is, before I got pregnant, we all lived in harmony. Everything I do now was okay before. I'm a very shy, non confrontational person, and I dont have any family myself, so I'm not family understanding and for these 7 months, I've just stuck to myself and done my best to not stress out for my baby's sake. My health hasn't been great and I was ordered to be on leave for work at 5 months. We even have had a defect scare on our baby as well. I've just had faith and hope in my boyfriend to set things right with her, but now at 30 weeks, with no progress from her, her room still so dirty, while I have our room all packed up ready to switch, I'm losing hope. I am to the point of not wanting her around me or my baby at all. I stress so much having to do everything last minute, I just didn't want to not lose faith in my man , he takes care of me so well but now I'm lost. He loves this land and house, he wants to raise our family here and doesn't want to move, he loves his grandma and doesn't want to just kick her out with no where to go, but Gigi just shows to not care at all about my health or this baby and it breaks my heart. No matter how many sit down talks we have she manipulates the situation. I'm worried that I will go into labor early because of her honestly. My man hears my cries and tells her about all the health issues and everything but she will not stop. I try my best to ignore her and do what is best for me, but its SO hard now of days. I am now feeling distant from my man because he asks me what he can do, but in reality it seems like we either have to move out or really kick her out. But i dont want to put that onto him at all. But then again I feel I have been so understanding and supportive for these 7-8 months trying my hardest to ignore her, all I asked is that we dont have everything be done last minute and we just switch rooms. And now it feels as if Its all too late and I worry about the future when the baby comes.
Everyday I overthink and regret everything. I cry so much and I feel as if no one cares enough, I know my boyfriend cares so much. But how can he see it be like this? I dont know what I expect him to do... but there has to be more right? He tells me there are other pregnant moms out there dealing with much worse and I understand that SO much, but idk... I am just so tired of being unhappy and uncomfortable. I have a baby on the way, it should be a happy experience but its just not anymore and I hate it.
Any advice? Please share your thoughts or tips. Sorry its a book to read.

For many, Guerlain’s Habit Rouge represents a high watermark in perfumery. Since its original release in 1965, the composition has been beloved by gentlemen (and ladies) across the world. It is also a well known favourite of many of the most well regarded perfume historians and reviewers out there and, because of that, one could well argue that there is precious little further useful opinion that can be added to the existing cannon (and they may well be right!).
Still, Jean-Paul Guerlain’s multi-faceted composition has been no stranger to a remix over the years and, since Delphine Jelk took over from Thierry Wasser as in-house perfumer at the historic French house, she has managed to deliver a staggering three new takes on the fragrance in as many years. What better opportunity could there be, therefore, to undertake both a reappraisal of the original release and, in doing so, compare it to some of the new kids on the block? Note: I have not sampled the first of Jelk’s flankers, 2022’s Habit Rouge L'Instinct but, given the almost unanimous negativity surrounding it, it’s not high on my hit list! We’ll be looking at Rouge Prive and the Parfum today.
Habit Rouge EDT (1965)
The concept behind Habit Rouge (or ‘Red Coat’, if translated in to English from its native language) was to create a perfume that brought to mind the jackets worn by the landed gentry when they went hunting. In the UK, we’re no stranger to this nefarious practice - our own fox hunting aristocrats also wore red coats and, despite now being banned, the idea of chasing helpless creatures to their deaths is still a subject of debate in our national politics (with right wing politicians often promising to offer a ‘free vote’ to MPs on the issue to energise their base).
As an animal lover myself, this is perhaps the only element of Habit Rouge I find somewhat jarring. There is nothing within this perfume which brings to mind sport, adrenaline, blood, or violence. I find it somewhat curious, consequently, that Guerlain sought to relate it to hunting. The only thing wearers of Habit Rouge were likely to be chasing on its release were sexual partners!
That statement isn’t made wholly in jest either. Habit Rouge is a gentleman’s fragrance, but it carries within its structure not only aspects of formality and traditional masculinity, but also sensuality and sensitivity. It is, as such, a fragrance well suited to old fashioned romantics. Indeed, if it didn’t have these traits, I’d argue that it wouldn’t have survived for the almost 60 years that it has. When you think about it, it’s almost incredible that, despite how radically concepts of masculinity have changed over the years, Habit Rouge has still been a regular seller for Guerlain, with devotees now spanning across 5 generations.
Created to be the younger brother to the company’s 1925 release, Shalimar it, like its sibling, contains a citrus top note, which descends into a floral heart, before culminating in a vanillic leather and amber base. Habit Rouge is not simply a three card trick, however, and its complete run of notes can be summarised as follows (as per Basenotes):
Top Notes: bergamot, lemon, rosewood, basil, pimento
Heart Notes: sandalwood, carnation, patchouli, cedar, rose, cinnamon
Base Notes: vanilla, amber, moss, leather, benzoin, labdanum, olibanum
When it comes to the head of the perfume, the real star of the show is the bergamot, which radiates wonderfully off the skin when first sprayed. Whilst it is effervescent, though, it is also a powdery affair. In fact, it can most accurately be described as being akin to orange sherbet - fizzing whilst maintaining a chalkiness. It is warm and reassuring as opposed to enthusiastic. It also maintains a cologne like structure, however, by incorporating herbal and spicy notes through the use of basil and rosewood.
This accord is then joined to a rose and carnation-dominant middle phase, through which the powdered facets of the fragrance continue to run, and through which the fragrance begins to show its romantic side.
Finally, the dry down of the fragrance provides a semi-sweet backdrop with the vanilla taking the edge away from the traditionally masculine moss and leather accords and combining with the rest of the ingredients to produce a soft, light amber.
It is not hard to see, in this context, why Habit Rouge has continued to be successful over the years - it, essentially, captures hearts and minds because it resonates with the personality of its wearer in a way that other traditional masculine fragrances can sometimes struggle to do (as they were often, like their owners of the period, more buttoned up).
Habit Rouge - Rouge Prive (2023)
That doesn’t mean that the EdT of Habit Rouge smells like it was composed yesterday, however. It just means that it has aged like a fine wine as opposed to being the perfume equivalent of a kipper tie. In fact, if it were any item of clothing, I’d compare it to a 1960s slim lapelled suit - of its time, but still stylish today.
Still, as the years have gone by, the term ‘legibility’ has become more and more important in the perfume industry, and there now seems to be a distinct trend towards the creation of perfumes whose formulas are more streamlined than Habit Rouge. Or to put it another way, perfumers are being encouraged to reduce the number of notes in a perfume’s composition, with the aim of producing a more direct product. For lovers of vintage fragrances, legibility can be an anathema but, personally, I have no issue with the principle behind the concept. Nor it appears, does Delphine Jelk. Enter Habit Rouge Rouge Prive.
Top Notes:Bergamot, Ginger
Middle Notes: Orange Blossom, Iris
Base Notes: Leather, Patchouli, Vanilla
As can be seen from the notes list, Rouge Prive maintains the structure of Habit Rouge (bergamot, floral, vanillic leather), but switches out or culls a number of the traditional accords that were contained within the original. Gone are the cologne-esque elements. Gone too are the powdery rose and carnation. The leather, meanwhile, has been amped up and modernised - more akin to Tom Ford’s Tuscan Leather than Knize 10. Whisper it quietly, but it also seems that Jelk has snuck an oud accord in to the base too.
Given the number of changes, you could be forgiven for thinking that Rouge Prive would end up smelling completely different to the EdT, but fans of the OG need not worry - this is still unmistakably Habit Rouge. To paraphrase Persolaise (my favourite reviewer of perfumes), it’s like the whole perfume has simply been redrawn with clean bold lines. The bergamot continues to shimmer and, in spite of the florals being listed as Orange Blossom and Iris, the ultimate accord generated is still interpreted by my nose as being a rose. It is very much a rouge perfume as opposed to an orange or purple one (which is, incidentally, roughly what you get if you combine an iris hue and orange on a colour wheel…).
Where Rouge Prive differs to the EdT is in its brute strength. The leather note really does have a serious kick to it and, given that, the perfume is pulled from the bottom up, as opposed to the top diffusing off the skin to reveal the heart.
Whilst I’ve always found the EdT to perform quite well, the longevity of the Prive is genuinely outstanding, again due to the material in the base. Pleasingly though, the dry down still does maintain the powdered amber facets contained within the original. It’s a superb flanker that updates Habit Rouge without necessarily ripping up the original composition.
Habit Rouge Parfum (2024)
Not to rest on their laurels, Guerlain have now revisited Habit Rouge again in 2024, introducing a parfum version to go alongside new stablemates Vetiver Parfum and L’Homme Ideal Parfum.
I’ll say in advance that I’m a little sceptical of the allure of parfums myself, as I often find that the actual performance difference between fragrance concentrations can be completely counter-intuitive (I have EdTs that vastly out-perform EDPs and Parfums, both in terms of silage and longevity). In addition, given that Rouge Prive was already quite beastly, the necessity for a parfum to be made only a year later seems curious to me.
Parking those views for the moment though, the theme across these three new releases appears to be alcohol. In the case of Habit Rouge, the drink of choice is listed as rum, although there seems to be confusion in that regard, with Jelk being quoted in the marketing as saying:
For Habit Rouge Le Parfum, I Created a leathery vanilla liqueur with plenty of bold bourbon-inspired intensity
Perhaps Guerlain are suggesting that the perfume has been matured in bourbon casks? Hmm. In any event, the notes list for this one is as follows:
Bergamot, Vanilla, Rum, Patchouli
Well, I did say perfumers were streamlining their notes list, didn’t I!
What’s most striking to me about the Parfum is, firstly, how base heavy it is (we’re talking sub-woofer level) but, secondly, how patchouli dominant it is - there’s a definite chocolate element in that respect, but my nose also detects something slightly medicinal, smoked, and perhaps even burnt (think coffee beans). When combined with the vanilla, the result is a perfume that very much lies within the domain of the gourmand.
This is somewhat a blessing and a curse - if you’re not a particular fan of the EdT or Prive’s floral elements, you’re likely to get along a lot better with the Parfum. At the same time though, I’d argue that the floral heart of Habit Rouge is, to a large extent, key to its DNA, and vastly reducing the components that make this element ‘sing’ lead to a very different fragrance profile.
My second critique is that the perfume, generally, feels less balanced than Rouge Prive. I have no issue with the concept of a Habit Rouge that focuses on patchouli - readers of my previous pieces will know that I’m a huge fan of the note - I just wished that, on a technical level, the Parfum still maintained a decent top end. As it is, the whole thing sits very deep against the skin, with any radiance from the bergamot being buried by the heavier materials. This ultimately leads to a fragrance that, rather than being a sparkling rouge, comes across as a heavy-set chocolate and beige. Because of that, I can’t decide whether or not I’ve truly fallen for the Parfum.
That being said, you honestly couldn’t go wrong with any one of these three and I’ve no doubt they’ll appeal to different elements of the fragrance market. I look forward to Jelk’s next flanker in 2025, even if these variations are becoming a little bit akin to Marge Simpson’s Chanel jacket…!

I have a problem - I am lazy! But I want to do something about it. To do so, I am looking for an accountability buddy/coach that makes sure that I stay on track and do my work properly.
Goals: Mostly "career", but also personal development. I am actually blessed by the fact that I am completely financially independent (early Bitcoin investment gave me the opportunity to retire at the age of 30). However, I am still doing unpaid, voluntary work as a programmer. I am maintaining multiple open source projects that are used all around the world, getting integrated into all sorts of infrastructure. As such I feel like my work is important and that I can always do "yet a bit more" to help society as a whole. But sometimes I am getting lazy. And don't get me wrong here, I am not talking about "taking a break" or having a free time at the end of the day - those things would be totally fine! I am talking about pretty much doing nothing for multiple weeks, sometimes months. These times are ... problematic. Not only for my work, but also for my mental health. So I am looking for someone that is basically a safe guard for when that happens, reminding me of getting back on track.
Level of accountability: I am aware that I'd be asking for much here, but luckily I do have the budget to finance it, so I'd be looking for daily check ins and motivational guidance. It is especially important that you can be there for me at some time between 9-5 in CET. How much you are there is up to you, could be 1 hour, could be all 8 hours. I do have further ideas that would become a bit invasive, as such they would need to be discussed well, when the time comes. I wouldn't start with those in the beginning either, but once I get used to be around you I might feel more and more comfortable to open up to you and give you more and more access to my life. Pretty much to survail me.
Requirements: I am very open to discuss pretty much every aspect of this job, almost nothing is set in stone yet. There are only two hard requirements from my side:

1. You are able to understand and express yourself in english. If you were able to understand this job application this far, without help, then you have already passed on this requirement.
2. Communication is through Discord. Nothing else. I am pretty much constantly on Discord because of my workflow anyway, having any other form of communication isn't possible.

Payment: Around $15/hr, also negotiable.
If you find this job interesting, then please do not hesitate to hit me up via DMs here on Reddit.

I’m a colder person in general, it takes a lot for me to feel hot. However recently I’ve been playing a lot more live gigs where I’m doing super fast stuff where I need every ounce of dexterity. However, now with summer coming around, everywhere has cold ass ac blasting. I’m not too worried about the outside shows, but I also live in the south so it’s humid, so if I’m outside my hands are just super wet feeling.
Obviously this is a part of live music, there are way more variables than in the comfort of your own home. I’m just struggling though, one of the regular gigs I do is sort of a experimental prog metal thing where I’m doing nothing but synth arpeggios the whole time. Clammy and/or oily hands just give me a really hard time. My keyboards are clean and so are my hands. I always rinse with water before I play.
Recently I’ve started putting my hands in ice water for like 3 min and then going through whatever set I’m playing. And it usually takes 30 min to go completely back to normal and not slow motion. I figure if I can’t escape slow motion, clammy hands I might as well get good at having them. But is there a way to mitigate the clamminess?

I think that we need some upgrades to this game

1. ET should give us new elite force Bismarck/Yamato with perk: +15 or 30% damage to other ships. It strange for me that we have tanks with similar perk but no ships. We know very well that naval battles in the game are long and imo those elite units like Yamato or bismarck can help us with this issue.
2. We need also new biography to F2P navy general: it could be for example Nimitz, Donitz or Reader and finally Yamamoto bc he would be very good on Akagi. Why ET doesn’t want to give us those things???

Maybe I should write to them😂. What do you think?
(Sorry for my English, it’s not my mother language)

I have a problem - I am lazy! But I want to do something about it. To do so, I am looking for an accountability buddy/coach that makes sure that I stay on track and do my work properly.
Goals: Mostly "career", but also personal development. I am actually blessed by the fact that I am completely financially independent (early Bitcoin investment gave me the opportunity to retire at the age of 30). However, I am still doing unpaid, voluntary work as a programmer. I am maintaining multiple open source projects that are used all around the world, getting integrated into all sorts of infrastructure. As such I feel like my work is important and that I can always do "yet a bit more" to help society as a whole. But sometimes I am getting lazy. And don't get me wrong here, I am not talking about "taking a break" or having a free time at the end of the day - those things would be totally fine! I am talking about pretty much doing nothing for multiple weeks, sometimes months. These times are ... problematic. Not only for my work, but also for my mental health. So I am looking for someone that is basically a safe guard for when that happens, reminding me of getting back on track.
Level of accountability: I am aware that I'd be asking for much here, but luckily I do have the budget to finance it, so I'd be looking for daily check ins and motivational guidance. It is especially important that you can be there for me at some time between 9-5 in CET. How much you are there is up to you, could be 1 hour, could be all 8 hours. I do have further ideas that would become a bit invasive, as such they would need to be discussed well, when the time comes. I wouldn't start with those in the beginning either, but once I get used to be around you I might feel more and more comfortable to open up to you and give you more and more access to my life. Pretty much to survail me.
Requirements: I am very open to discuss pretty much every aspect of this job, almost nothing is set in stone yet. There are only two hard requirements from my side:

1. You are able to understand and express yourself in english. If you were able to understand this job application this far, without help, then you have already passed on this requirement.
2. Communication is through Discord. Nothing else. I am pretty much constantly on Discord because of my workflow anyway, having any other form of communication isn't possible.

Payment: Around $15/hr, also negotiable.
If you find this job interesting, then please do not hesitate to hit me up via DMs here on Reddit.

Should I be worried that my GF (19f) is going to leave me (18m)?
This is a really long story so please bare with me.
Ok so first of all, you're all going to see that I'm not innocent in this but I just couldn't help myself as you'll see.
So for context, my gf and I have been dating for 3 months now at long-distance. I've visited her every 2 weeks since we met and I feel we really do like/love eachother.
However, there has been some road bombs since we started dating but this story only concerns one of them.
And it's important to note that my GF has had a few "crushes" and 1 or 2 short "relationships" in highschool before me. One of those includes a crush on a guy who we'll call Frank. This was at most just the 2 of them having a deep interest in eachother and they both knew. All of this being around 2 years ago.
In early April, my GF's older cousin got an invitation from one of her friends, who we'll call Oliver, to go to his Birthday Party. And he told my GF's cousin to invite all of her cousins if she wanted to. Including my GF.
And lord and behold, guess who was also going to the party? Frank.
And when Frank got word that my GF was going, my GF, who at the time told me all of this btw, said that Frank let out a joyful "yes" in response to her going.
Now, I obviously HATED hearing this, but I appreciated the fact that my GF told me when she didn't have to if she didn't want to.
So a week goes by and the party is coming up...
Everything is going well between us until...the night of the party. On the day of the party, we were both good as usual. We talked, called, she went to work just before the party and she sent me cute pics of her and all that stuff until after her shift.
After she finished work, she was immediately taking the bus to the party and that's when things went south. We called whilst she was on the bus and she suddenly became so cold to me. I can't explain it but she just became cold and her tone sounded mad at me. I kept trying to talk to her until she cut the call and texted me: "we're done".
I called her back and texted but she was still cold. I to talked her about all the things we've said and done and what they meant to her and she basically said "I don't care". I was depressed but after trying too much, I stopped texting.
2 hours later, at around 1am, I get a text from her calling my name:
"Toby?"
I answer:
"Yes?"
To which she replies "I'm sorry". It kept going a bit like that until she started telling me about why she ended it. And the first reason was because we were so far apart. And I'm like, ok sure, I understand that, but why not talk to me about it rather than making me feel so shit about myself?
That kept going for a bit and a few other things happened but aren't important. Let's skip to when she arrived back home.
As she was back home, in her bed, we continued texting. And this is when she told me the second reason as to why she ended it. Which was the fact that, a week earlier, I brought up how she's going to uni soon and that I was concerned about her meeting new people there and potentially leaving me. And I guess this kinda backfired because it apparently put doubts in her head about whether or not I'd leave her. So essentially, she ended it before I could, so she wouldn't have to endure that pain.
So we talked we talked we talked, and in the end, about 4 hours of reassuring her later, we got back together.
So the next day, we started talking about the party. And that's when she opened up about something. So apparently, Frank, had approached her during the end of the party when she wanted to go home and started talking to her about how he left his old gf and blah blah blah, obviously trying to show an opening but my gf didn't show any interest, allegedly. I didn't think much of this, even though once again, I HATED it.
Now let's skip to today.
So this is where I also become an AH in this. A week ago, when I was visiting her, she logged into her Instagram on my phone because her phone died. And when I left, she didn't log out.
So curiousity got the best of me. I snooped around in her DMS. First of all, there are absolutely zero guys in her DMS. Cool. But the main reason I was snooping was actually precisely because I wanted to see what she was gossiping to her close friends about, especially on the night of the party.
And as I scroll, I see something.
In one of her DMS with her friend, she talked about the moment Frank got word that she was going to the party.
And to cut it simple, she talked about how he was excited she was coming and all that until I see:
"I feel bad"
Her friend replies:
"About what?"
To which my gf replies:
"About thinking for a second about leaving Toby for Frank".
When I read this, my heart, dropped.
The next messages were her friend saying I'm better, my gf agreeing and all that stuff.
But then my gf says "put me back on the right path please". Like what?
She then went on to say that she knew Frank wasn't worth it regardless of what she felt and that she was just flattered in that situation. "As all girls are".
Needless to say, regardless of the fact that they said I was better, that hurt me like a mf.
And then in another DM with another friend, they talked about the moment Frank approached her at the party. And essentially, they said what I said earlier but in no way did my GF say anything like "No I'm not interested" or "I have a BF". In fact, she was talking about how bad his flirting skills were with her.
I feel so down rn after having seen all of that.
But it's worth noting that my GF expressed many times before that she doesn't support cheating in any way. She HAS good values (doesn't like exposing herself, partying often all that stuff) and she is a good person overall. And she has expressed recently as well, to her friends via DMS, about how much I make her happy and that I have no red flags or whatever. And that she loves me a lot.
So I just don't know what to think or do.

I’ve been with my partner for 10years. He was my first. I wish I had never said yes to when he asked me out. I came from a strict background where marriages are approved and vetted through the family. I wanted to choose my own path. To be free and find someone that fit me. Not fit with the social acceptability of my family and society. I guess I was wrong to do that. I love my partner, but our relationship has had issues that I never thought I would find myself in. Verbal abuse, physical and sexual. He puts me in a small place, where the writing on the wall are only what he tells me I am. I feel so lost. And so alone. The biggest chance I took in my life, has turned out to be the biggest risk that has taken so much of me. I know I haven’t given much details. But I just wanted to say the things lurking in my head. There is no answers or solution that Reddit can give me. I know I have to find this for myself. But I feel like I’m being pulled in to a dark pit that only holds regret, sadness and pain. That’s just where I’m at. I guess…the more I chose to love him, the more I ended up with self hatred and disgust of myself. I just wish I could have taken a different turn. I wish to feel light inside myself. I wish I was okay. I wish I was happy. I wish I was safe. I wish I had someone that loved me enough to never hurt me.

If you deal with frequent small messes, or if you hate lugging out your full-size, plug-in vacuum cleaner, a cordless stick vacuum could be your dream cleaning partner. Using a cordless stick vacuum requires you to make some compromises. I’ve analyzed dozens of them, and created a list of some best choices out there.

1. Dyson V12 Detect Slim (best overall)
2. Tineco Pure One S11 (runner up)
3. Kenmore Elite CSV Max DS4095 (best budget)

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Dyson V12 Detect Slim - $540

The Dyson V12 Detect Slim comes closer to an ideal stick vac than any other model available. It’s light and nimble around furniture and on stairs, and it even works on shelves, walls, and ceilings.
The V12 Detect Slim rivals more expensive vacuums (such as the Dyson V15) in suction, airflow, and cleaning power, and it comes with multiple brushes and attachments, including a motorized brush for pet hair. It runs for 45 minutes on a single charge, longer than most of the other vacuums.
It has high-tech features that make it almost fun to use, including a sensor that automatically adjusts suction, a laser headlight that illuminates dust in dim corners, and an LCD screen with a battery countdown and other information. It’s also one of the quietest models.
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Tineco Pure One S11 - $300

The Pure One S11 comes with a variety of useful cleaning attachments, and it shrinks down into a handheld vacuum that you can use to give your furniture or the inside of your car a quick clean too. It features four-stage HEPA filtration to help keep your home's air quality in check, and we were also intrigued by the subtle ring of color-changing lights on the top of the canister that glows red whenever the vacuum detects dirt, then change to blue as it sucks everything up. When cleaning is finished, you can stash the thing away on its wall-mounted charging dock.
The Pure One S11's black-and-white build is perhaps a bit bland, and I wish that it offered a bit more than 40 minutes of runtime under optimal conditions. Still, those are fair trade-offs at this price, especially considering how well it cleans.
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Kenmore Elite CSV Max DS4095 - $150

Most cordless stick vacuums that cost less than $200 are terrible. The Kenmore Elite CSV Max Cordless Stick Vacuum DS4095 is a rare exception, but it still makes major trade-offs.
It’s a superb cleaner on both rugs and bare floors, picking up fur and debris almost as effectively as our top picks. This lightweight model cleverly folds in half for easier cleaning under furniture, and it has an extra-large, 33-ounce dustbin. It offers a solid 38-minute run time and recharges in four hours, similar to the Dyson V12 Detect Slim.

I’m reaching out to share a cautionary tale about my recent experience with orthodontic treatment gone wrong. I want to shed light on my situation, and seek advice on how to navigate this current situation.
Background:
I received orthodontic treatment from Dr. Nancy Phan in San Jose CA. During our initial consultation, she was pressed for time and sped through the explanation of my treatment plan. All I understood from her rapid explanation was that she recommended a palatal expander to widen my upper & lower jaw. However, what followed was a nightmare that left me with damaged teeth and a mountain of dental bills.
Dr. Nancy Phan has a practice called Care Orthodontics, where she has a bunch of watered down assistants doing her job for her. It's literally a pump and dump orthodontist place where they try to manage as many patients as possible. As a result, Dr. Nancy Phan doesn't have any assistants helping her while she's treating you. She literally holds the vacuum, water spray, and drill all at the same time... To me, this is the equivalent of a nurse giving you surgery, or the surgeon is performing surgery without any assistants nearby.
The Problem:
During the installation of the palatal expander, my orthodontist failed to properly assess the condition of my molars. One of these molars had a pre-existing fracture, which my orthodontist was aware of but chose to ignore. As a result, the appliance was placed in a way that directly impacted the roots of two of my molars.
The Consequences:
Within weeks of having the palatal expander installed, I started experiencing excruciating pain in the affected molars. A visit to my dentist confirmed the worst: both molars had sustained significant damage to their roots and required immediate intervention. I underwent root canal treatments followed by the placement of crowns on both molars, not to mention the emotional and physical toll of dealing with such dental trauma.
Legal Considerations:
Now, here’s where things get tricky. It’s clear that my orthodontist’s negligence led to the damage to my teeth. They failed to obtain clearance from my dentist before proceeding with the treatment, and they disregarded crucial information about the condition of my teeth. This raises serious questions about the standard of care provided by the orthodontist.
How to Proceed:
This experience has been extremely traumatic and sad for me. Has anyone faced a similar situation? Seeking advice on navigating the denial and addressing the dental damage.

One of my good friends recently passed. I was sad and grieving his death he was a good friend and was very fond of me. He would tell Others how much he thought of me. He did have a big heart and would give u any thing he could. 2 days after he died I was grieving him one night and mad a small memorial in his name to remember him. I told him he was a better friend to me than I was to him. And I felt guilty of time when I would not get back to him for a few days. The next morning I woke up and I felt very cold towards him Like I didn’t hate him but I felt like he betrayed me And not for passing away on me. I bet that’s an important issue with grieving I totally understand that but that is not the case here. He was very hard on him self and it really didn’t surprise me that he passed But still I felt different towards him. It didn’t make sense. Then I started thinking back to 8 years ago. My ex was using drugs and she also kinda knew him. He sold drugs don’t get the wrong picture of him tho. He had his good and bads everyone does these days. But I remember thinking back then it may b possible she contacted him to get some behind my back. She would hide her usage from me all the time. I had blocked that out thinking she would not take the chance and that he would tell me but who knows. I really don’t care she was toxic for me anyway and glad we split. But one thing I noticed is I could not post public on his wall after his death and others could. I did find this very strange but thought he may of had that set when we first met or did it accedentley. Now I should mention I noticed this stuff the day after he passed befor I made the memorial that night so is it my subconscious fucking with me or is he trying to confess threw spirit. I’m 100% for communication with spirits and it runs in my family i won’t get in to that but it’s not the first time I felt someone’s presence. I really hope im wrong and even if not I would probably still forgive him. I can see him regretting and feeling guilty about it. Maybe there is even more like hooking up with her. I don’t know my mind hasn’t stopped wondering and his celebration is next week. Please help

I have a problem - I am lazy! But I want to do something about it. To do so, I am looking for an accountability buddy/coach that makes sure that I stay on track and do my work properly.
Goals: Mostly "career", but also personal development. I am actually blessed by the fact that I am completely financially independent (early Bitcoin investment gave me the opportunity to retire at the age of 30). However, I am still doing unpaid, voluntary work as a programmer. I am maintaining multiple open source projects that are used all around the world, getting integrated into all sorts of infrastructure. As such I feel like my work is important and that I can always do "yet a bit more" to help society as a whole. But sometimes I am getting lazy. And don't get me wrong here, I am not talking about "taking a break" or having a free time at the end of the day - those things would be totally fine! I am talking about pretty much doing nothing for multiple weeks, sometimes months. These times are ... problematic. Not only for my work, but also for my mental health. So I am looking for someone that is basically a safe guard for when that happens, reminding me of getting back on track.
Level of accountability: I am aware that I'd be asking for much here, but luckily I do have the budget to finance it, so I'd be looking for daily check ins and motivational guidance. It is especially important that you can be there for me at some time between 9-5 in CET. How much you are there is up to you, could be 1 hour, could be all 8 hours. I do have further ideas that would become a bit invasive, as such they would need to be discussed well, when the time comes. I wouldn't start with those in the beginning either, but once I get used to be around you I might feel more and more comfortable to open up to you and give you more and more access to my life. Pretty much to survail me.
Requirements: I am very open to discuss pretty much every aspect of this job, almost nothing is set in stone yet. There are only two hard requirements from my side:

1. You are able to understand and express yourself in english. If you were able to understand this job application this far, without help, then you have already passed on this requirement.
2. Communication is through Discord. Nothing else. I am pretty much constantly on Discord because of my workflow anyway, having any other form of communication isn't possible.

Payment: Around $15/hr, also negotiable.
If you find this job interesting, then please do not hesitate to hit me up via DMs here on Reddit.

In conclusion to revisiting Cole's 2014 FHD, Anthony Fantano maintained his 6/10 stance, which, as internet normality would have it, triggered a flood of detractors in his comment section. I listlessly scrolled through, but still, as previous times, sensed something lurking beneath the derision directed at Fantano; something about his music opinions that stirs dramatic reactions, that even Fantano occasionally has to remind his viewers that his reviews are just opinions. Yet, people react to his opinions as if they transcend opinion-ness, as if his opinions were objective facts. There's a psychological elevation of Fantano-like opinions beyond mere opinions, and towards objectivity.
My goal in this not so rambly essay is to identify what feature Fantano-like opinions—any opinion that psychologically transcends opinions—possess that makes them like that. We start with the psychological elevation's end point; Objective facts.
Objective facts exist with or without a perceiver; they don't need permission from the perceiver to exist. This entails that objective facts impose themselves upon the consciousness, whether allowed or not — they require no permission. To elucidate this: A unicorn is within the permission of your consciousness; you can permit it to be in your mind or not. Q table, on the other hand, doesn't require your permission to be perceived. You create the unicorn in your mind, while the table creates itself in your mind.— ** An imposition upon the perceiver is the essence of Objectivity.**. Now, if that's true, then any psychologically imposing thing, even if subjective, would cause an engagement on the part of the imposed upon that is the same as how the imposed upon would engage with an objective thing.
Without perceptual permission, Fantano creates "FHD is a 6/10" in one's mind; he imposes "FHD is a 6/10" upon one's consciousness—His opinions become "objective". Note that this differs from a friend giving their opinion on FHD when one asks for it—even if one takes offense to "FHD is 6/10, they'd react to the opinion as a bad opinion, but an opinion still. In Fantano's case, however, the opinion identifier is repressed.
Humanity's interaction with objectivity—its imposition upon our consciousness—has been so instinctually deepened that anything which imposes itself upon our consciousness causes us to react as if it were objective.
Positive reactions are no exception. The scientist, the philosopher, the surgeon, the politician, all exist in powerful positions that make it possible to psychologically impose their opinions. Whilst some may react to it with dramatic derision, others accept it the same way they'd accept “The Sun is hot.” (Kinda unrelated, but I think this is why ‘intrusive thoughts’ are a thing; thoughts that have their own agency independent of your perception, kinda like an objective fact.).
All opinions are opinions, but in my own opinion, some opinions are less opinion-like than others—including this essay, which you either reacted to with dramatic derision or dramatic delight, as it’s psychologically imposed upon you—the essence of objectivity.