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Jenna Lynn Meowri
2018.01.18 04:23 Jenna Lynn Meowri
A place to share pictures, memes, fanart, and gifs/videos of Jenna Lynn Meowri.
2018.03.23 05:49 specfreader From cute to majestic
For before and after pictures of kittens as they grow up.
2017.03.02 06:20 SpareLiver Beans In Things That Beans Shouldn't Be In
Post pictures of beans in things that beans shouldn't be in. Inspired by, but no direct connection to the [Facebook group](https://www.facebook.com/BeansInThingsThatBeansShouldntBeIn/)
2024.05.15 16:48 Illustrious_Post_519 Cheap DIY Update
 | 1.) place granite salad and boulders where I wanted and left for 2 weeks. submitted by Illustrious_Post_519 to landscaping [link] [comments] 2.) Removed granite slab and boulders to rake and till the dead grass underneath identified area. 3.) level low and uneven areas with topsoil to compact. Place salad over topsoil and make sure it is level. 4.) Apply crushed gravel over ground area and compact. Place slab over compacted crushed gravel to make sure it is level. 5.) Place boulders and drainage rock as pictured and viola! Total costs: $10 for one 4ft x 3ft granite slab off of Facebook market place (slab was scrap piece from a local granite company) Approximately 20 boulders I used were from my previous residence but market price is about $5-$10 per boulder. $18 for three bags of crushed gravel $5 for drainage rock $7 for two bags of topsoil Note, the big granite slab can cost between $30-$90 per square feet so look for deals! Gl! |
2024.05.15 16:41 morishaone Tips to grow your personal branding on social media and in real life
Here are 21 top tips to grow your personal branding on social media and in real life:
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Social Media
- Define Your Brand: Clearly identify what you stand for, your values, and your unique selling points. This should be consistent across all platforms.
- Consistent Visual Identity: Use the same profile picture, color scheme, and style across your social media profiles to create a cohesive visual brand.
- Quality Content: Share high-quality content that provides value to your audience. This can include informative posts, high-resolution images, and well-produced videos.
- Engage with Your Audience: Respond to comments, messages, and engage with your followers’ content. Build relationships and a sense of community.
- Regular Posting Schedule: Maintain a consistent posting schedule. Use tools like Hootsuite or Buffer to schedule posts in advance.
- Use Hashtags Strategically: Use relevant hashtags to increase the visibility of your posts. Research trending and industry-specific hashtags.
- Collaborate with Influencers: Partner with influencers or other brands to expand your reach and gain credibility.
- Utilize Stories and Live Features: Use Instagram Stories, Facebook Stories, and live streaming to connect with your audience in real-time and showcase your authentic self.
- Analytics and Adjustments: Regularly review your social media analytics to understand what works and what doesn’t. Adjust your strategy based on these insights.
- Personal Touch: Share personal stories, behind-the-scenes content, and humanize your brand. Authenticity resonates well with audiences.
- Professional Networking Sites: Optimize your LinkedIn profile with a professional photo, compelling headline, and detailed work experience. Share industry insights and connect with professionals.
- Content Diversification: Diversify your content with a mix of blog posts, videos, infographics, and podcasts to keep your audience engaged.
In Real Life
- Elevator Pitch: Develop a clear and concise elevator pitch that succinctly communicates who you are and what you do.
- Networking: Attend industry events, conferences, and meetups. Engage with people, exchange business cards, and follow up with new contacts.
- Public Speaking: Seek opportunities to speak at events or conferences. Public speaking can establish you as an authority in your field.
- Professional Development: Continuously improve your skills and knowledge through courses, workshops, and seminars. Stay current with industry trends.
- Personal Branding Materials: Have professional business cards, a personal website, and a portfolio that reflects your brand.
- Mentorship and Volunteering: Offer mentorship to others and volunteer for causes that align with your values. This builds your reputation and expands your network.
- Dress the Part: Dress appropriately for your industry and occasions. Your appearance should align with your personal brand.
- Authenticity and Integrity: Be authentic and maintain integrity in all your interactions. Trust and reliability are critical components of a strong personal brand.
- Feedback and Improvement: Seek feedback from peers, mentors, and your audience. Use this feedback to continually refine and improve your personal brand.
2024.05.15 16:29 Throwra12312345678 Is my WH being rediculous or did i spiral things out of control?
I’m reposting because for some reason my post from last night isn’t even showing up on my profile and I’m desperate to get some opinions. I’ll try to keep it as short as possible.
Only 4 weeks from dday2. More context in my Post history. Things has been going really well I thought, especially leading up to Saturday. we went out to celebrate our 16 year wedding anniversary. The day was amazing we had a lot of fun, but later that night I went to show him a picture on Facebook and he saw his AP in my search history. He gave me a face and we moved on with the night nothing terrible happened.
Things were good Sunday, he was gone at work all night and then on his day off Monday he was in a weird mood. Pretty negative and being inconsistent with what his plans for the day were. He said he didn’t think he had time to hand out with me(we don’t currently live together but I was hoping to try to move back home soon). So I made other plans that was fine. I wanted to respect his space but all the sudden a couple hours later he wanted me to go out to lunch with him. I was a little annoyed and we talked about it on the way to get food but never really got anywhere. So at the restaurant I apologized for being emotional and we ended up going to his place later and spending the night cuddling and watching movies and having a great night.
Yesterday things were good still. We talked when he woke up for an hour while I was on my lunch break and things were seeming good. Then just an 1.5 hour later he sent me a whole Message saying he’s been feeling off and he’s sorry that he doesn’t want to bottles it up since we’re supposed to be honest and communicate. He said he didn’t like that I had AP on my search history and that he thinks I’m not happy and just “putting on a brave face” and that also the Monday situation had him scared we would slip back to old habits and attitudes. That he felt like the unhappy old is and that we salvaged the night but he was scared it would be that way often. Which by the way these are the things he often said concerned him while he was engaging in a false R. He would often say he was afraid that I WOULDNT CHANGE and we would go back to being unhappy, with the undertone that my attitude is the cause of his A and why he was so unhappy. So it felt a little triggering. He said That he’s trying to be happy but things are piling up on him.
I responded by saying it’s ok and I appreciate him letting me know. I want him to be able to tell me stuff. I told him it wasn’t just a brave face and that I am happy with him but I admired I do look up AP sometimes and I still struggle with how pretty she is and how it was so hard for him to leave her. But that I know it’s not right and I’m sorry. I told him some things that scare me as well such as thinking things are going well when they aren’t and that dday2 really messed me up like that because during that I thought we were healing and doing well then too.
His response? “I’m not sure what to don’t fix myself that’s why I’m going to start counseling and I’m also going to take a solo trip somewhere and really focus on myself. I feel so bad when I need space because it hurts you “
This is where I start to spiral. I told him I want to respect he needs space but he’ll tell me he loves me and wants to be with me then turn around and have this arrive toward us the very next day. It’s inconsistent. . I also told him that the whole attitude thing Monday was him too. That he was being really negative and it’s not all just me and that we’re not going to feel happy all the time and that we handled it well by not letting it ruin our night. He’s at work at this point and says he doesn’t know what to say and he’s trying to read through it at work. That it seems like I’m mad looking through my Messages. I told him I’m definitely not and he doesn’t have to respond right now. He then said he was just trying to express some feelings and he feels like he’s getting grilled because of it.
I told him I’m sorry if I was getting defensive, that to me it seemed like I ruined Saturday and now he’s struggling and wants to do his own thing and it’s all my fault. He said again he was just trying to express some feelings. I said I’m sorry I and I don’t like being this way (spiraling).
Next thing I know he says “do you think we need to take some time? I know I need to get away for a weekend and really deep dive my personal issue and I’m trying to get into therapy. Is that the fix though, actually separating and being happy by ourselves? I just don’t know”
That’s when I really lost it said sure. Do what you need to do. I can’t keep doing this back and forth and I don’t what’s driving him to go from acting to in love and adoring me to this. I can only guess.
Now he’s like “woah was just asking” and “this is what I get for talking” “I should just bottle this stuff up” etc.
He’s acting like I’m blowing this out of proportion and he can’t understand how I spiraled so hard off this exchange.
Am I being unreasonable?? I go back and forth about maybe I was too much but he’s also not being very compassionate given how much hell he’s put me through. And to say he can’t understand? I sent walls of texts explaining myself and I’m tired. I feel like maybe I did take his concerns and turn it into something crazy but I initially Tried to validate him and apologize. I don’t know I feel crazy right now. Maybe I am Oo mich.
How would all this make you feel?
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Only 4 weeks from dday2. More context in my Post history. Things has been going really well I thought, especially leading up to Saturday. we went out to celebrate our 16 year wedding anniversary. The day was amazing we had a lot of fun, but later that night I went to show him a picture on Facebook and he saw his AP in my search history. He gave me a face and we moved on with the night nothing terrible happened.
Things were good Sunday, he was gone at work all night and then on his day off Monday he was in a weird mood. Pretty negative and being inconsistent with what his plans for the day were. He said he didn’t think he had time to hand out with me(we don’t currently live together but I was hoping to try to move back home soon). So I made other plans that was fine. I wanted to respect his space but all the sudden a couple hours later he wanted me to go out to lunch with him. I was a little annoyed and we talked about it on the way to get food but never really got anywhere. So at the restaurant I apologized for being emotional and we ended up going to his place later and spending the night cuddling and watching movies and having a great night.
Yesterday things were good still. We talked when he woke up for an hour while I was on my lunch break and things were seeming good. Then just an 1.5 hour later he sent me a whole Message saying he’s been feeling off and he’s sorry that he doesn’t want to bottles it up since we’re supposed to be honest and communicate. He said he didn’t like that I had AP on my search history and that he thinks I’m not happy and just “putting on a brave face” and that also the Monday situation had him scared we would slip back to old habits and attitudes. That he felt like the unhappy old is and that we salvaged the night but he was scared it would be that way often. Which by the way these are the things he often said concerned him while he was engaging in a false R. He would often say he was afraid that I WOULDNT CHANGE and we would go back to being unhappy, with the undertone that my attitude is the cause of his A and why he was so unhappy. So it felt a little triggering. He said That he’s trying to be happy but things are piling up on him.
I responded by saying it’s ok and I appreciate him letting me know. I want him to be able to tell me stuff. I told him it wasn’t just a brave face and that I am happy with him but I admired I do look up AP sometimes and I still struggle with how pretty she is and how it was so hard for him to leave her. But that I know it’s not right and I’m sorry. I told him some things that scare me as well such as thinking things are going well when they aren’t and that dday2 really messed me up like that because during that I thought we were healing and doing well then too.
His response? “I’m not sure what to don’t fix myself that’s why I’m going to start counseling and I’m also going to take a solo trip somewhere and really focus on myself. I feel so bad when I need space because it hurts you “
This is where I start to spiral. I told him I want to respect he needs space but he’ll tell me he loves me and wants to be with me then turn around and have this arrive toward us the very next day. It’s inconsistent. . I also told him that the whole attitude thing Monday was him too. That he was being really negative and it’s not all just me and that we’re not going to feel happy all the time and that we handled it well by not letting it ruin our night. He’s at work at this point and says he doesn’t know what to say and he’s trying to read through it at work. That it seems like I’m mad looking through my Messages. I told him I’m definitely not and he doesn’t have to respond right now. He then said he was just trying to express some feelings and he feels like he’s getting grilled because of it.
I told him I’m sorry if I was getting defensive, that to me it seemed like I ruined Saturday and now he’s struggling and wants to do his own thing and it’s all my fault. He said again he was just trying to express some feelings. I said I’m sorry I and I don’t like being this way (spiraling).
Next thing I know he says “do you think we need to take some time? I know I need to get away for a weekend and really deep dive my personal issue and I’m trying to get into therapy. Is that the fix though, actually separating and being happy by ourselves? I just don’t know”
That’s when I really lost it said sure. Do what you need to do. I can’t keep doing this back and forth and I don’t what’s driving him to go from acting to in love and adoring me to this. I can only guess.
Now he’s like “woah was just asking” and “this is what I get for talking” “I should just bottle this stuff up” etc.
He’s acting like I’m blowing this out of proportion and he can’t understand how I spiraled so hard off this exchange.
Am I being unreasonable?? I go back and forth about maybe I was too much but he’s also not being very compassionate given how much hell he’s put me through. And to say he can’t understand? I sent walls of texts explaining myself and I’m tired. I feel like maybe I did take his concerns and turn it into something crazy but I initially Tried to validate him and apologize. I don’t know I feel crazy right now. Maybe I am Oo mich.
How would all this make you feel?
2024.05.15 16:18 throwawaypbjelly AITAH for calling off the wedding?
I have been through so much and I am exhausted.
Since November of last year, I have been dealing with a conflict with my in-laws:
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Since November of last year, I have been dealing with a conflict with my in-laws:
- A group picture of my parents, my fiancé’s parents, my fiancé, and I was posted by my MIL on a Facebook story post. Let’s call my fiancé, Jerry (fake name). There was a caption on the photo and the caption only covered my face and my parents. When pointed out, Jerry blamed it on her tech incompetence.
- Following this incident above, an argument ensues between me and Jerry (I talked about my feelings regarding his family, how I was treated, etc.) to the point that he started a group chat on Facebook messenger the next day out of anger. He threw me, his sister, and his mom into the group to "sort this out" and threw me under the bus. I quickly left the group.
- I went to my parent’s house to clear my head for a few days and told Jerry that I need to rethink this relationship. He had an emotional breakdown because of this.
- This incident snowballed with questions from his family as they were “blindsided”. I mentioned all the things said and done by his mom over the past 5 years (when I first met his mother, she said that our relationship would not work out due to cultural differences and few other offensive comments in the years ahead)
- I was met with "I am sorry if I offended you". His mother sent another attempt at an apology that was a potential apology. However, I could not respond as I was blocked. Then a letter was sent to me from her that was a rug sweep "I am sorry that this has all happened. Can't we move past this".
- In December of last year, I informed Jerry that I needed to heal from everything and for that, I do not wish to go with him on Christmas. Every year, his family meet on Christmas. I asked him if he would like to spend it with me. If not, that is totally okay. I also said that he should go because I knew I would be blamed for it. Well, I was blamed for it. I was called manipulative and on a power trip.
- His family further tells questioned him for spending Christmas with me because according to them, I don’t celebrate Christmas. He’s white and I am not. I stated to him that his family does not go to Church nor are they practicing Christians. I celebrate Christmas (gift exchanges and dinners) the same way as they do. They did not apologize for their comment.
- From December to March, my fiancé has had numerous conversations with his father and mother to resolve the conflict which now involved the entire family. During this span of time and in their absence, I started to heal and focused on my relationship with my fiancé.
- Then come March; his father was still stuck in his anger. Did not reflect for the last three months and informed my fiancé that they are not coming to our wedding. I admit that I was so angry that I threatened to divorce him should they not come to our wedding and that he continues a relationship with them. I apologized for what I said afterwards.
- We were about to meet up in person to resolve this however, his father decided to send a group text in advance of our meet up and informed us that he is not interested in extending an olive branch. He was bullying us into submission (please see my past posts), blamed me for how I handled things and boldly stated that if I wasn’t his son’s fiancé, he would have nothing to do with me. When called out for his rude texts, his father stated that he needed to get it off his chest to heal.
- For days after the texts, Jerry stood up for me and fought with his dad. Eventually, his dad agreed to come to town to “talk”. I was so incredibly hurt from his dad’s actions and I bluntly stated to Jerry that if he continues to berate me in person when we meet up, I will get up and leave the conversation. Jerry immediately got upset, raised his voice at me and left the apartment. I had no idea that he got up to go kill himself, I thought he just left to cool off like he usually does. I later learned that he felt unsupported by me.
- Couple days later; Jerry had another meltdown. His parents and all his friends drove down to meet with him to provide support. Before they reached, I got to his place early and his friend was there. Jerry had too much to drink and was at his lowest point. I tried to calm him down, but he was angry to the point that I left the apartment in tears. He humiliated me when he yelled at me in front of his friend. Then at the end of the night, I brought up the issues with his parents to try to resolve. I was later told that I made it about me when I confronted his parents.
- Weeks later; his parents met up with Jerry and my parents for their wedding clothing shopping. I decided not to show up.
- Jerry and I moved into our new place, with furniture shipped in and it needed to be put together. His dad offered to drive down to help Jerry put the furniture together. I appreciated the fact that the furniture was put together. Jerry was practically upset that I am not recognizing his dad’s efforts when I said it does not erase everything he has done. His father did not even apologize to me once and I should be okay because of the furniture? An argument ensues and it escalated to a point where I could not take it anymore and I went to take my life. Even at my lowest point, Jerry still got mad at me.
- And now he is profusely apologizing for betraying me and hurting me. I feel that I don’t even know who he is anymore.
2024.05.15 16:02 BodySolidFit Hey r/HomeGym, let's chat about 35 years of Body-Solid, Home Gyms, and help you win a free fully-loaded GPR400 Power Rack — AMA!
 | https://preview.redd.it/z3r9sqw4il0d1.jpg?width=1000&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=83e9ba29187cff75bd3923d566044b80ad4476aa submitted by BodySolidFit to homegym [link] [comments] Let's chat about 35 years of Body-Solid, Home Gyms, and you can win a fully-loaded GPR400 Power Rack! We are honored to be here with you once again for an AMA. We've done two in the past (2019 / 2022), but a lot has changed in our company and the fitness industry since then, so we're excited to do this again. Who We AreWe are Body-Solid, a fitness company located in Forest Park, Illinois, just a few minutes west of Chicago. Since 1989, we have been designing and manufacturing top-of-the-line fitness equipment that stands the test of time.Over those 35 years, we have built an extensive selection of home and commercial fitness equipment, offering over 900 product SKUs covering all facets of fitness. At Body-Solid, we cater to everyone's fitness needs with our wide range of products, including home and garage gym equipment and commercial products. We take immense pride in our award-winning service team, backed by our lifetime in-home product warranty. This warranty is available on most Body-Solid branded products, and we stand by it as a testament to the quality of our equipment. Over our 35 years in the industry, we have aggressively pursued new product development and continue designing and releasing between 10 and 20 new products yearly. We frequently check HomeGym to gauge what customers want in their home gym equipment, and we truly appreciate everyone who has shared pictures of their gyms or Body-Solid equipment in HomeGym. Seeing our products enjoyed by so many people worldwide always makes us immensely proud. Where Can I Find Body-Solid Equipment?Body-Solid does not sell directly to consumers but through a network of local dealers, retailers, and small businesses in the United States, Canada, and over 100 other countries worldwide.The Dealer Locator tool on our website will give you a complete listing of local Body-Solid dealers in your area. If you would prefer to purchase Body-Solid products online, we have numerous online retailers that carry our products, including many of the leading online marketplaces. When Will We Be Available?We will be available to answer your questions during the following hours: Wednesday, May 15, from 10:00 am to 6:00 pm EST and Thursday, May 16, from 10:00 am to 1:00 pm EST.If you are unable to ask a question during those hours, please do not worry! We will answer your question as soon as possible, including after the AMA (Ask Me Anything) concludes. Body-Solid CEO Scott McDonald and technical expert and West Coast Sales Manager Duane Abbott will answer all questions in this thread. Giveaways!Now, the part you guys have been waiting for!As part of our participation in this AMA, we are giving away a FREE fully-loaded GPR400 Power Rack with numerous attachments and accessories plus our brand-new GPRFT Functional Trainer Attachment. We're excited to bring this phenomenal power rack to one of your gyms, and here's how you can win!
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2024.05.15 15:55 Current-Quantity6518 How do I approach my [24F] boyfriend's [26M] different perspectives?
I'm not used to Reddit or really how any of this works so I will try to be as clear as possible and hope everyone has patience with me as I try to figure this situation out. My boyfriend [26M] and I [24F] have recently had some conflicts about small or less impactful topics that aren't a huge issue. However, the quantity and consistency of them is starting to confuse me on how I should approach the situation as a whole. My boyfriend will make certain comments or hold strong perspectives regarding highly specific things people do. This has been a behavior of his that has slowly become more and more present the longer we have been together [4 years]. These are things that don't necessarily matter on a deeper level, but tend to make me confused in general whenever they come up. They aren't perspectives that we will hold really strong feelings for if we talk about them but the general idea of them has been coming up more and more often. For example, I was looking at trading in my car for a newer used one since I've had my old one for awhile and now make enough money at my new job to afford a higher payment. When I showed my boyfriend a car that I liked he explicitly said, "I think it's more acceptable for women to drive SUV's. Cars just don't work for them." This puzzled me because I couldn't really connect the dots on where this perspective came from. When I asked him what he meant he just kind of reached for me to agree with him and said cars were more of a guy thing to have.
The same sentiment for what is suitable for specific groups of people has come up more and more often and has had more and more unique standings that are hard for me to relate to. When I try to meet him in the middle with certain things or go even as far as to disagree with his perspective the conversation becomes a bit more elevated and is less of a conversation and more a debate of morals. An example of this is when my boyfriend saw a woman's Facebook profile and was confused that she didn't include her kids in her pfp. He said that women who have children should have them in their profile picture because if she has kids and they aren't in her profile picture she is seeking male attention or is likely less faithful. He did not mention this same criteria for men, just for women. I know I have only given examples of him talking about women's behavior, but these are the most recent incidents that come to mind that I remember the most clearly. There have also been instances when talking about men and highly specific things they must also do or not do. I don't want to paint a reality that I'm not certain is going on because I really want some advice on how to approach this.
I know his last relationship was pretty rough with his ex being a serial cheater, but he has also confessed to me that he was not the best boyfriend when it came to how he treated her. I don't know if this has anything to do with how he discerns these really specific things he has strong feelings for, but it is something that has caused some conflict in the past on topics related to the ones I have mentioned.
While this situation may make it look like my boyfriend is a bad guy, he truly isn't. He is very attentive and supportive to me and my goals. He's always there to be a level head when I become overwhelmed or unsure of myself. He consistently tries to better himself and the type of partner he is to me through us navigating our differences over the past few years. Coming from a cheating situation myself before meeting him I can't say that I don't understand some of the feelings he has or even the anxiety he may have attached to it. He's put a lot of work into our relationship, we both do. I love him and I want us to be together. It's just this weird plane of not knowing how to approach him with this without hurting him or accusing him of something that isn't really there that I don't know what to do with. So what should I do to help diffuse some of the weird holdings he has on how people should behave or should I not try to approach the situation at all? Am I overstepping by even wanting to change his thoughts on these things? Thanks to any future advice.
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The same sentiment for what is suitable for specific groups of people has come up more and more often and has had more and more unique standings that are hard for me to relate to. When I try to meet him in the middle with certain things or go even as far as to disagree with his perspective the conversation becomes a bit more elevated and is less of a conversation and more a debate of morals. An example of this is when my boyfriend saw a woman's Facebook profile and was confused that she didn't include her kids in her pfp. He said that women who have children should have them in their profile picture because if she has kids and they aren't in her profile picture she is seeking male attention or is likely less faithful. He did not mention this same criteria for men, just for women. I know I have only given examples of him talking about women's behavior, but these are the most recent incidents that come to mind that I remember the most clearly. There have also been instances when talking about men and highly specific things they must also do or not do. I don't want to paint a reality that I'm not certain is going on because I really want some advice on how to approach this.
I know his last relationship was pretty rough with his ex being a serial cheater, but he has also confessed to me that he was not the best boyfriend when it came to how he treated her. I don't know if this has anything to do with how he discerns these really specific things he has strong feelings for, but it is something that has caused some conflict in the past on topics related to the ones I have mentioned.
While this situation may make it look like my boyfriend is a bad guy, he truly isn't. He is very attentive and supportive to me and my goals. He's always there to be a level head when I become overwhelmed or unsure of myself. He consistently tries to better himself and the type of partner he is to me through us navigating our differences over the past few years. Coming from a cheating situation myself before meeting him I can't say that I don't understand some of the feelings he has or even the anxiety he may have attached to it. He's put a lot of work into our relationship, we both do. I love him and I want us to be together. It's just this weird plane of not knowing how to approach him with this without hurting him or accusing him of something that isn't really there that I don't know what to do with. So what should I do to help diffuse some of the weird holdings he has on how people should behave or should I not try to approach the situation at all? Am I overstepping by even wanting to change his thoughts on these things? Thanks to any future advice.
2024.05.15 15:02 Rangersop I got scammed $11,270 over a period of 4 months (long story).
This story starts with me being unemployed and having about $6-7,000 in savings while living with my parents, to getting employed, earning more than I ever had before, and yet being almost never so broke. Him requesting money is done through SMS unless otherwise stated. I don't think I'll be putting a TLDR in, it's sort of a lot regardless.
Why am I telling you this story? There's a strange phenomenon that concealing guilt or shame, or something, isn't good for you. That isn't necessarily what I'm feeling, I am only trying to move on as expediently as I can think of ways to do so. Rather than have my inner circle in the know, as I have had before, I have decided to post into the void.
*Not every transaction is detailed, some are recurring with the most noteworthy ones being bolded in chapter form. There are 82 transactions and this is sort of a long story, so I cut some fluff out by excluding a lot of them. *Note, for all the amounts borrowed and offered to pay back eventually, I repeatedly told them not to worry about it and that I didn't consider them my debtors, this is true to the end of the story, and I will not be seeking financial remuneration. After 4 months of working with nothing to show for it I am simply going to just enjoy knowing that I now get to keep the money I make.
The beginning:
It all started with picking up a tall young man walking by the side of the road in QLD (where I live). The man had been walking for hours in broad daylight and was all sweaty, trying to get to the nearest large rural town some 40 minutes away from where I live, which is also where I was going. We do the usual thing and try to make small talk to break the ice, sharing some personal information like if either of us is studying or working our age difference (which isn't that much, me being slightly older). he told me he was walking to see a mate in town about his car, if his friend had repaired it yet. Because he wasn't sure whether it would be fixed, we made an arrangement that I would also pick him up on my way out of town back home.
So, I do, and we do more small talk to the point of having an actual conversation, he also tells me he has a 2-year-old daughter. This is a significant detail because it is what drives a lot of the sympathy I had for his situation. There is also one thing about that conversation that stands out to me, and that was the impression that this guy was not very good with money because he said he frequently wants to buy something and then wants something else so he sells the first thing he bought to pay for the second, sort of like he couldn't help it or something. I couldn't relate. On the way home together I point out where my place was and drove past to drop him off at his. It was at this point or when I dropped him off in town that I gave him my phone number and said to text me if he needed a ride sometime.
Some days later he texts me asking me to lend him $50 for fuel because his place has no power (I would later learn that his property is not hooked up to the electrical grid and his family uses a generator for power). He wanted me to send it to his PayID number, which is something I had never used before. The next day he and his missus want a ride into town and back to check out a bus(?), he also wanted to borrow $100 which he said he would pay back in a couple of weeks. Before I left town, I got a call from a place I had sent my resume in to and they offered to start me on their employment process, to which I agreed. Yay! They stay in town overnight and made it to a pub, he called me later asking for something like $180+ for drinks and asked me to pick them up the next day, thanked me for funding their (apparently very fun) night out and informed me that the bus is very nice and will be getting delivered to their property in a few days (neither of them had the appropriate license to drive the bus, his father did except he did not come with us and I never met the man). He also asks for $200 to pay off a debt to his brother-in-law, would also pay that back to me as $300 in two weeks.
The next day, near dusk, he asks me for a lift into town to do some grocery shopping at a servo. I show up at his place and his mother wants to tag along, and she has an empty jerry can for fuel to use in the generator. So away we went, for a 90+ minute drive for the third day in a row, except near dark this time. I was beginning to get a little tired of the lack of forward thinking (why didn't you go shopping before I had to pick you up from town yesterday?), but there is so much more to come... I also gave him another $300 that night for some reason and $50 the next day to renew his Spotify subscription.
Two days later he asks me how much I'm actually willing to lend him, I said $500 but pleaded that he has to make it last a while, he agreed. He also informed me that he would now have to pay for the transportation of the bus to the property, and two days later told me that he was $300 short ($800) total to bring it 80kms. That's borrowing nearly $1,000 in two days, he also said this would be the last time he'd borrow.
It's at this point that he asks me what total he owes me, I was getting back to work at the time and told him to check his bank transactions, but I definitely took this as a sign of goodwill that he was keeping track to reimburse me even though I was telling him that he owes me nothing.
The worker's compensation claim:
A couple of days later he asks me for $170 to take his missus out for the night, winds up at the Gold Coast needing $500 for accommodation because he "didn't think things through". Good news is that his missus' car is now registered so I won't have to give them rides anymore, and more good news is that he's getting worker's comp in two weeks to the tune of $3,000 for his hand getting crushed on his last job (he stated this had left him unable to bend 2 or more fingers), he lastly states this money could pay back the $1,650 he owes me (his calculation). Next day $200 for fuel home, then $500, and he asks me to deny him any further transfer. He sends me a picture of the bus, a 1979 Albion Viking. I couldn't find the picture he sent me on Google, so I guess there really was a bus and I really did pay for the pricey transportation of a 55-year-old vehicle that had depreciated to nothing. He said he would send pics when he cleans up the inside, but they never came.
The very next day, he claims my very final $500 transfer did not go through (this may have actually been the case because I transferred the money between accounts for a faster transfer and then to him in less than a minute, so I suppose I just did it too fast or he was lying, but it was definitely gone from the account), to which I said give it a few days. Every day for the next 3 days he would tell me it still hasn't come through.
The nephew:
On day 4 of the final transfer, he stopped telling me it hadn't come through, however he stated that his missus had a nephew (14-15) who was going through some things and was about to be kicked out of his home, needed $200 for fuel to pick him up and bring him back to their place. Okay, well if I can prevent a minor (14-15) from being on the streets by lending a little more, so be it. I went over to physically hand him the money for fuel and he informed me in more detail what was going on, and it sounded believable. A couple days later and he's asking $150 for fuel to return the nephew to his parents, and his missus is requesting $200-$300 for accommodation to stay for a few days to resolve the situation. They stay a few more days down there for a total of about $1,410, spent on food, rent, and trying to calm the boy down.
He also got an update regarding his worker's comp, said it'd be payed out within 6 weeks for approximately $10k, then he asked me for a loan of $1,000 with an interest rate of 40% so I'd get $1,400 back. I, at this point, questioned why in the world would he need a loan of $1,000 after all I'd given him, and his response is... "car" - I asked him to elaborate further and he said there was a car he could buy down there for himself at that price. I informed him that money was actually getting very tight for me despite working now. He didn't get the car. I was also thinking that I would only have to go without having money while still working just until he got his worker's comp, my hope was that I could save and be content knowing his family would be looked after for a while.
I eventually called the bank to ask them if that final* $500 transfer had actually gone through on their end and they said it had, but to trace the transaction would incur a fee of $20, now knowing this and not really wanting to pay it I decided I would triple check if, after all these days, he had gotten that final* transaction: "Yeah, just came through today bro"
Considering this disregard for my time and neglecting to keep me updated on things to be just a quirk of my new friend, not wanting to claim he had been lying, I pressed on in good faith that this could just be water under the bridge.
His missus contacts me and says she needs $290 because she found accommodation for her nephew, and that he had forgot to pack anything including food. Another $100. Then fuel back while the nephew stays at this new place for a week. $70. I had concerns with leaving a minor renting alone so far away and his schooling, but they were met with it was "just for a week" until they could find some place to put him closer to them, their new primary caregivers, that apparently could not be at their house. I was, at this time, under the impression that the nephew was living alone, yet it would later be revealed that he was not.
The tyres:
3 days later after setting the nephew up somewhere close enough to his school, the missus went to visit him and got two tyres slashed, $190 to replace. She goes to the tyre place and is told that all of the tyres need to be replaced otherwise it is not legal, so it's actually $390 for all 4 (I was skeptical about this and was on a work break at the time, still have not looked into the validity of the claim). Some more time passes and general purpose transfers take place. I am informed that the nephew has sorted out an Aus Study payment from Centrelink, but that I would need to transfer $200 for the nephew's necessities until it's actually worked out, and I would no longer need to pay his rent. Cool. At this point in time, I was working but not keeping what I made. I paid board at home, but the rest minus my fuel between work and home is what I refer to as the 'x tax' ('x' being a stand-in for the name of the person who scammed me). The requests would mostly happen around the day I got paid, with a believable frequent expense of fuel for the generator being at least $160 a week, not to mention fuel for their car and the infrequent requests from his mother to "pay back her friends"
Sometime later, the missus got another flat tyre from driving over a piece of metal on the highway, $75 to replace and they managed to get towed to the tyre place (I did inform them that they would have a spare tyre in the back of the car, but they claimed it had already been used "the other day when we had another one slashed"). They got another spare but used that as well.
The funeral:
I get a text at work from the man saying that his grandfather was in palliative care with only one or two weeks left, and that his cousin was requesting he and his mother go down to see him, so he asks me if I can help. I decided I should be setting a weekly limit or something so this new friend doesn't drain my bank account each pay day, so I gave him $100 and let him know that it's a hard limit. 4 days later, he tells me that his grandfather had passed 2 days prior, needed $100 to get down to his funeral. I could only give him $85 and told him I would be unable to fund his return trip, to which he agreed would be fine. 2 days later, after the funeral, he tells me that he and his mother need $200+ to get home, get food & drinks on the way back and that the rest of their family would not help them and that they "have no other way back". Getting tired of the lack of forward thinking in this family's affairs, I reluctantly agreed to save them once again.
5 days later I ask him when he gets his worker's comp payout so I can begin to save up money from work knowing he and his family is taken care of for a while, he tells me "next week hopefully". This was in late March. Queue more travelling and fuel costs to now go and cremate the grandfather as his wishes were for him and his mother to be there when it happens. Now, I thought the funeral had already happened and that was the end of it, but it turns out that was just the funeral service, which is something I was not aware was a thing. Due to this misunderstanding, I was very suspicious at this point and exclaimed in a text "You already had the funeral!" while thinking "you can't bury someone twice, is this evidence you are scamming me?".
They also needed accommodation, except I was so suspicious of this man that I requested he find and tell me the name of the hotel they'll be staying at, just so I can verify that is the actual price per head. Also, his mum blew another tyre, but they happened to be right outside a tyre place... again. He claims to not be having very good luck anyway. A request is made for money to take his missus out for her Birthday. I tell him in a lengthy text I had been working for 2 months with nothing to show for it and that I am much more inclined to assist him only with essential spending like fuel or food, and he claimed to understand that, then stated he would use a bit of the money for a small cheap present anyway. The present turned out to be $200 on layby and he needed another $60 to fully acquire it. I was telling him to tone down his spending to emphasis that he needs to live at or below his own means and that he wouldn't need my help if he had just bought a much cheaper present.
It'd been about 9 weeks since he told me it would take 2 weeks for the worker's comp (which was later changed to 6 weeks) to be paid and I was wondering if he had heard back or followed up. He said he did and that they would "get back to him" about it. So, now that hope I had that this was just a temporary situation wasn't holding up so well. Despite all the money I was giving him he had bills "piling up" and one urgent one was for a storage unit where he claimed to have a shipping container's worth of stuff and the owner was threatening to throw it all out if they didn't pay his 6 weeks overdue fee. Apparently, if he had paid just most of the fee he would get to keep his stuff there, which is what happened.
There was a wedding for his brother-in-law and on the way back he asked me if I could help him buy phone data, except the amount he ended up paying wasn't an option for renewal, it was about $5-$10 off from the options available (this just fueled my suspicion even further that something just wasn't right). Thinking that a scammer wouldn't voluntarily give money back, I tested him by asking him for $40 back when I overpaid him and well, that's where it went to, that mobile plan. When they returned home from the wedding they found that their generator had not been fueled like he reminded his parents to do and so they lost all the food they had in the fridge. I questioned why his parents didn't notice the power had gone out and all of a sudden there was a second generator that was for them(?).
Their landlord had apparently stated he would be requiring $200 in rent a week early because he has bills and rates to pay. He informs me that he hasn't got a proper contract to even be on the property and could be kicked out at any moment and that he "needed to keep his landlord happy". I couldn't help him pay that much (nor did I really want to give in to his landlord's outrageous demand) so I sent him a link to QSTARS where he could learn his tenancy rights, except it was Saturday which means he wouldn't be able to call them. Then I suggested that he may be able to get a faster response over the weekend to his situation by making a Reddit account (he asked me what that was) and posting on the shitrentals sub.
A few days later he tells me he has been posting there and learning some things, meanwhile I had been intentionally avoiding the sub so as not to invade his personal privacy, however some days go by and I am suuuuper suspicious by this point I look around for some thread or comment relating to his situation in the timeframe it would have been possible for him to make one. I figured if the situation was so urgent that he would at least try to seek advice over the weekend, but I didn't see any evidence of that, he also never told me if he called the tenant's advisory and I never heard anything about his rental situation again.
6 Days from when he refreshed his mobile data, he had apparently used the 30GB limit. I was astounded at this and knew it was going to continue to be my problem if I didn't find this man a better subscription plan with his provider, so I did, for $10 more he could double his data. Only, I told him that he could have the 6-month plan for more money if he wasn't going to use so much data and because it would have been cheaper for me in the long run too, he agreed. I also thought that if he were really scamming me he would choose the option that makes me transfer more money, which is what happened. I guess that's test #2.
The ending:
Which brings me to today. The nephew was brought back into the story because he had apparently been kicked out of his mates place he was staying at(?) and they needed fuel to go and get him. Kicked out of 2 places? Okay. So I do the transfer and I decided that the only way I could subtly (that is, without compromising friendship or alerting this man that I don't trust him) find out the truth is to visit him face-to-face much further up his property. I wanted to confirm if A: the nephew was real or not B: if there was really a bus and C: if there was a second generator. The best way to do this, I thought, was to just show up and not ask if I could come over because if he was lying about the nephew's existence he would probably say a lot of things to make sure I'd not be able to visit him while the nephew is there. I bring a 6-pack to his gate and realise that he isn't home. Okay. I go home but there's a request in my phone for money for school uniforms and supplies for the nephew to transfer to a local school that I'm intentionally ignoring.
Queue the next day and I get prepared to go again, but I get a text saying that they're out again in town, still waiting for me to transfer money for these school supplies. I had done a bit of research and found that it was either unlikely or impossible for a student to transfer schools within one or two days, or to start in the middle of a term, so I felt pretty confident that this was a situation that didn't need addressing urgently. Also, remember when the nephew sorted something with Centrelink to get Aus Study payments, the one where I no longer had to pay some or all of his rent? Well, that was no longer the case. now he is too young to get them, casually forgotten about maybe? Oh yeah, and he had to start school that day. Anyway, I tell the man that it may be possible to get a uniform from the school's uniform storeroom as that is an option for families with financial difficulty, he says that due to Covid they are out of them and that they tried that already...
Right, so now I ask him how the nephew got kicked out (not important), I just wanted to know if it was planned or sudden, if there was enough time to start the process of transferring from his current school to the local one in town. There wasn't! SO, I called him out, told him what he was saying wasn't possible and that his story sounded like a scheme to get money out of me. I asked him for an easy proof, simply take a picture of yourself with the nephew in the car to prove he's real. He denied trying to scam me and said the nephew and the missus are in the school trying to resolve the situation and that he couldn't take the picture. Instead, he sent me a different picture on Facebook of him and his mates being pulled over for something by the police(?) which he claimed just happened before. I could barely identify anyone in that photo, but it looked like he was the one driving the car(?). I said that I've given him too many passes and the benefit of the doubt, but not this time and that whenever he wants to provide a picture with his nephew, like when he simply comes out of the school(?), to send it my way. Somewhat quickly they got out of the school and the excuse for not taking a picture became "We are driving in the car now"
He says that the picture before is the only one he's got, I said take another when you can, then he goes on about this being the last time he needs fuel money and to do it and then he'll send the picture. I told him no transfer would be happening and I would be blocking his number in a few hours if he doesn't do it (I really do like to give people the benefit of the doubt, it's almost certainly what has led to this going on for so long). He sends me another picture on Facebook except this time it's him upfront (passenger side), his missus behind him, and a child in the backseat.
This photo looked a lot more like what I was asking for, except neither him nor his missus looked the slightest bit worried about losing my charity and the child in the back didn't look 14-15 like the nephew is supposed to be aged. Rejecting this photo for these reasons and stating it was an old photo he had, he kept asking for fuel money just so he would be able to get home and so I told him that if he asks again, I would be blocking his number. I also told him his lack of forward thinking does not constitute an emergency for me and that there are at least 4 adults in his household and surely someone has thought that if they left to go to town, that they would be able to return home. He said that if I didn't provide the fuel money, they would be stuck. I said if his mum (the driver) had to pull over anyway, it would be a good time to take that picture (which I changed to him standing outside the car with his nephew).
He said providing another photo wouldn't do any good as he claims the two he sent were proof enough... the first one really isn't related to the second, it's strange he thought that would constitute the proof I was requesting, really it just raises further questions for me... and that's about when I block his number (after previously blocking him on Facebook).
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Why am I telling you this story? There's a strange phenomenon that concealing guilt or shame, or something, isn't good for you. That isn't necessarily what I'm feeling, I am only trying to move on as expediently as I can think of ways to do so. Rather than have my inner circle in the know, as I have had before, I have decided to post into the void.
*Not every transaction is detailed, some are recurring with the most noteworthy ones being bolded in chapter form. There are 82 transactions and this is sort of a long story, so I cut some fluff out by excluding a lot of them. *Note, for all the amounts borrowed and offered to pay back eventually, I repeatedly told them not to worry about it and that I didn't consider them my debtors, this is true to the end of the story, and I will not be seeking financial remuneration. After 4 months of working with nothing to show for it I am simply going to just enjoy knowing that I now get to keep the money I make.
The beginning:
It all started with picking up a tall young man walking by the side of the road in QLD (where I live). The man had been walking for hours in broad daylight and was all sweaty, trying to get to the nearest large rural town some 40 minutes away from where I live, which is also where I was going. We do the usual thing and try to make small talk to break the ice, sharing some personal information like if either of us is studying or working our age difference (which isn't that much, me being slightly older). he told me he was walking to see a mate in town about his car, if his friend had repaired it yet. Because he wasn't sure whether it would be fixed, we made an arrangement that I would also pick him up on my way out of town back home.
So, I do, and we do more small talk to the point of having an actual conversation, he also tells me he has a 2-year-old daughter. This is a significant detail because it is what drives a lot of the sympathy I had for his situation. There is also one thing about that conversation that stands out to me, and that was the impression that this guy was not very good with money because he said he frequently wants to buy something and then wants something else so he sells the first thing he bought to pay for the second, sort of like he couldn't help it or something. I couldn't relate. On the way home together I point out where my place was and drove past to drop him off at his. It was at this point or when I dropped him off in town that I gave him my phone number and said to text me if he needed a ride sometime.
Some days later he texts me asking me to lend him $50 for fuel because his place has no power (I would later learn that his property is not hooked up to the electrical grid and his family uses a generator for power). He wanted me to send it to his PayID number, which is something I had never used before. The next day he and his missus want a ride into town and back to check out a bus(?), he also wanted to borrow $100 which he said he would pay back in a couple of weeks. Before I left town, I got a call from a place I had sent my resume in to and they offered to start me on their employment process, to which I agreed. Yay! They stay in town overnight and made it to a pub, he called me later asking for something like $180+ for drinks and asked me to pick them up the next day, thanked me for funding their (apparently very fun) night out and informed me that the bus is very nice and will be getting delivered to their property in a few days (neither of them had the appropriate license to drive the bus, his father did except he did not come with us and I never met the man). He also asks for $200 to pay off a debt to his brother-in-law, would also pay that back to me as $300 in two weeks.
The next day, near dusk, he asks me for a lift into town to do some grocery shopping at a servo. I show up at his place and his mother wants to tag along, and she has an empty jerry can for fuel to use in the generator. So away we went, for a 90+ minute drive for the third day in a row, except near dark this time. I was beginning to get a little tired of the lack of forward thinking (why didn't you go shopping before I had to pick you up from town yesterday?), but there is so much more to come... I also gave him another $300 that night for some reason and $50 the next day to renew his Spotify subscription.
Two days later he asks me how much I'm actually willing to lend him, I said $500 but pleaded that he has to make it last a while, he agreed. He also informed me that he would now have to pay for the transportation of the bus to the property, and two days later told me that he was $300 short ($800) total to bring it 80kms. That's borrowing nearly $1,000 in two days, he also said this would be the last time he'd borrow.
It's at this point that he asks me what total he owes me, I was getting back to work at the time and told him to check his bank transactions, but I definitely took this as a sign of goodwill that he was keeping track to reimburse me even though I was telling him that he owes me nothing.
The worker's compensation claim:
A couple of days later he asks me for $170 to take his missus out for the night, winds up at the Gold Coast needing $500 for accommodation because he "didn't think things through". Good news is that his missus' car is now registered so I won't have to give them rides anymore, and more good news is that he's getting worker's comp in two weeks to the tune of $3,000 for his hand getting crushed on his last job (he stated this had left him unable to bend 2 or more fingers), he lastly states this money could pay back the $1,650 he owes me (his calculation). Next day $200 for fuel home, then $500, and he asks me to deny him any further transfer. He sends me a picture of the bus, a 1979 Albion Viking. I couldn't find the picture he sent me on Google, so I guess there really was a bus and I really did pay for the pricey transportation of a 55-year-old vehicle that had depreciated to nothing. He said he would send pics when he cleans up the inside, but they never came.
The very next day, he claims my very final $500 transfer did not go through (this may have actually been the case because I transferred the money between accounts for a faster transfer and then to him in less than a minute, so I suppose I just did it too fast or he was lying, but it was definitely gone from the account), to which I said give it a few days. Every day for the next 3 days he would tell me it still hasn't come through.
The nephew:
On day 4 of the final transfer, he stopped telling me it hadn't come through, however he stated that his missus had a nephew (14-15) who was going through some things and was about to be kicked out of his home, needed $200 for fuel to pick him up and bring him back to their place. Okay, well if I can prevent a minor (14-15) from being on the streets by lending a little more, so be it. I went over to physically hand him the money for fuel and he informed me in more detail what was going on, and it sounded believable. A couple days later and he's asking $150 for fuel to return the nephew to his parents, and his missus is requesting $200-$300 for accommodation to stay for a few days to resolve the situation. They stay a few more days down there for a total of about $1,410, spent on food, rent, and trying to calm the boy down.
He also got an update regarding his worker's comp, said it'd be payed out within 6 weeks for approximately $10k, then he asked me for a loan of $1,000 with an interest rate of 40% so I'd get $1,400 back. I, at this point, questioned why in the world would he need a loan of $1,000 after all I'd given him, and his response is... "car" - I asked him to elaborate further and he said there was a car he could buy down there for himself at that price. I informed him that money was actually getting very tight for me despite working now. He didn't get the car. I was also thinking that I would only have to go without having money while still working just until he got his worker's comp, my hope was that I could save and be content knowing his family would be looked after for a while.
I eventually called the bank to ask them if that final* $500 transfer had actually gone through on their end and they said it had, but to trace the transaction would incur a fee of $20, now knowing this and not really wanting to pay it I decided I would triple check if, after all these days, he had gotten that final* transaction: "Yeah, just came through today bro"
Considering this disregard for my time and neglecting to keep me updated on things to be just a quirk of my new friend, not wanting to claim he had been lying, I pressed on in good faith that this could just be water under the bridge.
His missus contacts me and says she needs $290 because she found accommodation for her nephew, and that he had forgot to pack anything including food. Another $100. Then fuel back while the nephew stays at this new place for a week. $70. I had concerns with leaving a minor renting alone so far away and his schooling, but they were met with it was "just for a week" until they could find some place to put him closer to them, their new primary caregivers, that apparently could not be at their house. I was, at this time, under the impression that the nephew was living alone, yet it would later be revealed that he was not.
The tyres:
3 days later after setting the nephew up somewhere close enough to his school, the missus went to visit him and got two tyres slashed, $190 to replace. She goes to the tyre place and is told that all of the tyres need to be replaced otherwise it is not legal, so it's actually $390 for all 4 (I was skeptical about this and was on a work break at the time, still have not looked into the validity of the claim). Some more time passes and general purpose transfers take place. I am informed that the nephew has sorted out an Aus Study payment from Centrelink, but that I would need to transfer $200 for the nephew's necessities until it's actually worked out, and I would no longer need to pay his rent. Cool. At this point in time, I was working but not keeping what I made. I paid board at home, but the rest minus my fuel between work and home is what I refer to as the 'x tax' ('x' being a stand-in for the name of the person who scammed me). The requests would mostly happen around the day I got paid, with a believable frequent expense of fuel for the generator being at least $160 a week, not to mention fuel for their car and the infrequent requests from his mother to "pay back her friends"
Sometime later, the missus got another flat tyre from driving over a piece of metal on the highway, $75 to replace and they managed to get towed to the tyre place (I did inform them that they would have a spare tyre in the back of the car, but they claimed it had already been used "the other day when we had another one slashed"). They got another spare but used that as well.
The funeral:
I get a text at work from the man saying that his grandfather was in palliative care with only one or two weeks left, and that his cousin was requesting he and his mother go down to see him, so he asks me if I can help. I decided I should be setting a weekly limit or something so this new friend doesn't drain my bank account each pay day, so I gave him $100 and let him know that it's a hard limit. 4 days later, he tells me that his grandfather had passed 2 days prior, needed $100 to get down to his funeral. I could only give him $85 and told him I would be unable to fund his return trip, to which he agreed would be fine. 2 days later, after the funeral, he tells me that he and his mother need $200+ to get home, get food & drinks on the way back and that the rest of their family would not help them and that they "have no other way back". Getting tired of the lack of forward thinking in this family's affairs, I reluctantly agreed to save them once again.
5 days later I ask him when he gets his worker's comp payout so I can begin to save up money from work knowing he and his family is taken care of for a while, he tells me "next week hopefully". This was in late March. Queue more travelling and fuel costs to now go and cremate the grandfather as his wishes were for him and his mother to be there when it happens. Now, I thought the funeral had already happened and that was the end of it, but it turns out that was just the funeral service, which is something I was not aware was a thing. Due to this misunderstanding, I was very suspicious at this point and exclaimed in a text "You already had the funeral!" while thinking "you can't bury someone twice, is this evidence you are scamming me?".
They also needed accommodation, except I was so suspicious of this man that I requested he find and tell me the name of the hotel they'll be staying at, just so I can verify that is the actual price per head. Also, his mum blew another tyre, but they happened to be right outside a tyre place... again. He claims to not be having very good luck anyway. A request is made for money to take his missus out for her Birthday. I tell him in a lengthy text I had been working for 2 months with nothing to show for it and that I am much more inclined to assist him only with essential spending like fuel or food, and he claimed to understand that, then stated he would use a bit of the money for a small cheap present anyway. The present turned out to be $200 on layby and he needed another $60 to fully acquire it. I was telling him to tone down his spending to emphasis that he needs to live at or below his own means and that he wouldn't need my help if he had just bought a much cheaper present.
It'd been about 9 weeks since he told me it would take 2 weeks for the worker's comp (which was later changed to 6 weeks) to be paid and I was wondering if he had heard back or followed up. He said he did and that they would "get back to him" about it. So, now that hope I had that this was just a temporary situation wasn't holding up so well. Despite all the money I was giving him he had bills "piling up" and one urgent one was for a storage unit where he claimed to have a shipping container's worth of stuff and the owner was threatening to throw it all out if they didn't pay his 6 weeks overdue fee. Apparently, if he had paid just most of the fee he would get to keep his stuff there, which is what happened.
There was a wedding for his brother-in-law and on the way back he asked me if I could help him buy phone data, except the amount he ended up paying wasn't an option for renewal, it was about $5-$10 off from the options available (this just fueled my suspicion even further that something just wasn't right). Thinking that a scammer wouldn't voluntarily give money back, I tested him by asking him for $40 back when I overpaid him and well, that's where it went to, that mobile plan. When they returned home from the wedding they found that their generator had not been fueled like he reminded his parents to do and so they lost all the food they had in the fridge. I questioned why his parents didn't notice the power had gone out and all of a sudden there was a second generator that was for them(?).
Their landlord had apparently stated he would be requiring $200 in rent a week early because he has bills and rates to pay. He informs me that he hasn't got a proper contract to even be on the property and could be kicked out at any moment and that he "needed to keep his landlord happy". I couldn't help him pay that much (nor did I really want to give in to his landlord's outrageous demand) so I sent him a link to QSTARS where he could learn his tenancy rights, except it was Saturday which means he wouldn't be able to call them. Then I suggested that he may be able to get a faster response over the weekend to his situation by making a Reddit account (he asked me what that was) and posting on the shitrentals sub.
A few days later he tells me he has been posting there and learning some things, meanwhile I had been intentionally avoiding the sub so as not to invade his personal privacy, however some days go by and I am suuuuper suspicious by this point I look around for some thread or comment relating to his situation in the timeframe it would have been possible for him to make one. I figured if the situation was so urgent that he would at least try to seek advice over the weekend, but I didn't see any evidence of that, he also never told me if he called the tenant's advisory and I never heard anything about his rental situation again.
6 Days from when he refreshed his mobile data, he had apparently used the 30GB limit. I was astounded at this and knew it was going to continue to be my problem if I didn't find this man a better subscription plan with his provider, so I did, for $10 more he could double his data. Only, I told him that he could have the 6-month plan for more money if he wasn't going to use so much data and because it would have been cheaper for me in the long run too, he agreed. I also thought that if he were really scamming me he would choose the option that makes me transfer more money, which is what happened. I guess that's test #2.
The ending:
Which brings me to today. The nephew was brought back into the story because he had apparently been kicked out of his mates place he was staying at(?) and they needed fuel to go and get him. Kicked out of 2 places? Okay. So I do the transfer and I decided that the only way I could subtly (that is, without compromising friendship or alerting this man that I don't trust him) find out the truth is to visit him face-to-face much further up his property. I wanted to confirm if A: the nephew was real or not B: if there was really a bus and C: if there was a second generator. The best way to do this, I thought, was to just show up and not ask if I could come over because if he was lying about the nephew's existence he would probably say a lot of things to make sure I'd not be able to visit him while the nephew is there. I bring a 6-pack to his gate and realise that he isn't home. Okay. I go home but there's a request in my phone for money for school uniforms and supplies for the nephew to transfer to a local school that I'm intentionally ignoring.
Queue the next day and I get prepared to go again, but I get a text saying that they're out again in town, still waiting for me to transfer money for these school supplies. I had done a bit of research and found that it was either unlikely or impossible for a student to transfer schools within one or two days, or to start in the middle of a term, so I felt pretty confident that this was a situation that didn't need addressing urgently. Also, remember when the nephew sorted something with Centrelink to get Aus Study payments, the one where I no longer had to pay some or all of his rent? Well, that was no longer the case. now he is too young to get them, casually forgotten about maybe? Oh yeah, and he had to start school that day. Anyway, I tell the man that it may be possible to get a uniform from the school's uniform storeroom as that is an option for families with financial difficulty, he says that due to Covid they are out of them and that they tried that already...
Right, so now I ask him how the nephew got kicked out (not important), I just wanted to know if it was planned or sudden, if there was enough time to start the process of transferring from his current school to the local one in town. There wasn't! SO, I called him out, told him what he was saying wasn't possible and that his story sounded like a scheme to get money out of me. I asked him for an easy proof, simply take a picture of yourself with the nephew in the car to prove he's real. He denied trying to scam me and said the nephew and the missus are in the school trying to resolve the situation and that he couldn't take the picture. Instead, he sent me a different picture on Facebook of him and his mates being pulled over for something by the police(?) which he claimed just happened before. I could barely identify anyone in that photo, but it looked like he was the one driving the car(?). I said that I've given him too many passes and the benefit of the doubt, but not this time and that whenever he wants to provide a picture with his nephew, like when he simply comes out of the school(?), to send it my way. Somewhat quickly they got out of the school and the excuse for not taking a picture became "We are driving in the car now"
He says that the picture before is the only one he's got, I said take another when you can, then he goes on about this being the last time he needs fuel money and to do it and then he'll send the picture. I told him no transfer would be happening and I would be blocking his number in a few hours if he doesn't do it (I really do like to give people the benefit of the doubt, it's almost certainly what has led to this going on for so long). He sends me another picture on Facebook except this time it's him upfront (passenger side), his missus behind him, and a child in the backseat.
This photo looked a lot more like what I was asking for, except neither him nor his missus looked the slightest bit worried about losing my charity and the child in the back didn't look 14-15 like the nephew is supposed to be aged. Rejecting this photo for these reasons and stating it was an old photo he had, he kept asking for fuel money just so he would be able to get home and so I told him that if he asks again, I would be blocking his number. I also told him his lack of forward thinking does not constitute an emergency for me and that there are at least 4 adults in his household and surely someone has thought that if they left to go to town, that they would be able to return home. He said that if I didn't provide the fuel money, they would be stuck. I said if his mum (the driver) had to pull over anyway, it would be a good time to take that picture (which I changed to him standing outside the car with his nephew).
He said providing another photo wouldn't do any good as he claims the two he sent were proof enough... the first one really isn't related to the second, it's strange he thought that would constitute the proof I was requesting, really it just raises further questions for me... and that's about when I block his number (after previously blocking him on Facebook).
2024.05.15 14:37 tori42201 I slept with a man and it went south.
So I was on this friendship app. And I met this guy who was 45 years old. I'm 23 and just move to this big city. My intention of using the app was to meet friends who could show me around the city, and that's what I put in my profile. I'm also struggling with my finances as this is the first time i've ever moved out and my parents aren't helping as much as I would like them too. So we start chatting. And he says that he is a single man who has a daughter and he is a realtor and so I look up his name and He is legit. He has been in business for over 20 years. So a few weeks go by And the conversation gets sexual. We are sending dirty pictures and dirty text messages. A few days ago before we met in person, I looked his name up on facebook and I found out that he was married with a new born baby. So I confront him asking him why he lied about it, and he said that he didn't think that I would have sex with him if I knew he was married. And I told him no, I'm not gonna have sex with you because you're married. He then goes to say that in his 15 years of marriage him and his wife had have have had sex a handful of times and that he has never cheated on his wife, but he's thinking about cheating on his wife because he just can't go without sex any longer. He says he will give me a large sum of money if I had sex with him. So I agreed. He takes me to one of the homes that he's showing and shows me around. And then we start doing the deed. About 20 minutes later I hear a door open as the door's opening, he let's out a loud moan. I hear someone say hello, "anybody in here". So we both scramble to get our clothes back on. And the lady(another realtor)comes into the room, as we're getting our clothes back on and then she leaves abruptly. As we are leaving the house, he gives me a kiss and gives me my money. I get in my car and I look up through the window and I see that the lady saw the exchange of money and the kiss. It's been a few days since that has happened and I as well as he are still shaken up about it. He says he doesn't think that the realtor that came in would say anything or do anything, but he doesn't know for sure. In essence, I'm not risking anything, but he is risking everything. Losing his 15 year marriage to a woman that he claims to love. If this gets out the worst that would happen to me is I would be exposed. But the worst that would happen to him is his entire life would essentially be ruined. He could potentially lose clients, never gain clients in the future, etc. He recently text me saying that he wants to meet again, but either at my house or a hotel. I'm not sure what I'm going to do because the money was great. It was enough to pay for my expensive rent and groceries for the next 2 weeks. He said he's willing to give me the same amount which would then go to pay for medical bills. His reasoning for giving me the money was because he knows that i'm struggling and that he's the only one really willing to help me. Well that's it... That's my confession. I guess leave in the comments what you think do you think. Do you guys think I should meet him again? Or should I just cut it off while I still can and while virtually, nobody knows....
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2024.05.15 14:28 Il_nintendaro Opening a new "store" on Reverb is a terrible user experience
Yesterday I opened a store on Reverb to sell a few pedals I don’t want anymore. I went through the verification process uploading my data, the ID card and credit card details. In just a few hours I received 3 replies, but they all looked quite shady to be honest. I would like to use this thread to highlight the kind of environment that Reverb represents for new users. Actually, after less than 24 hours I’m wondering whether I should just close my account and sell my gear elsewhere. I sold stuff on many platforms over the past years. I've occasionally dealt with scammy buyers and sellers at some point, but this is the first time that I receive so many suspicious messages in such a short time and this really makes me wonder - as a new user to the platform - whether Reverb is a good place to be. I’m talking about 3 different users, all mostly trying to look like an automatic message from Reverb that’s asking me to provide all sorts of information (e-mail address, credit card details, etc.) all over again shortly after I published my first listing. One was particularly shady. Actually, they were all kinda shady in different ways. For starters, it’s just odd to receive this kind of “automatic” requests as a reply to my listings instead of receiving an email directly from Reverb. Anyway, here are the messages.
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This one was empty and I received it moments after publishing my first listing. The timing was so good that I really thought that it was a system generated message at first. It just contained an official-looking flier (very well put together) with the Reverb logo, some information and a QR code for the verification of my credit card. The name of the user was “Clients Centre” and it had as a picture a confirmation mark similar to the ones that verified users have on certain platforms (I realized only later that this was just the profile picture). This account was now disabled, but it definitely looked the part for a moment
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So this is it. Now, I know that Reverb will not contact me like this and I do understand that stopping these people preventively isn't an easy task. At the same time, after my first day on Reverb, the scammer to user ratio seems surprisingly high in the worst possible way. Luckily for me, most of them were pretty bad at their job. I'm sure that there are a ton of honest people on the platform. I'm not trying to generalize here. Nevertheless, I pretty much experienced more phishing attempts in a few hours on Reverb than in 10 years of casual sales on eBay, Facebook and a variety of national platforms. I’m genuinely surprised by the amount of shady messages that a new store has to face on Reverb in the first 2-3 hours of activity. I don't do this very often, but I really felt the need to say these things publicly. Anyway, thank you for reading and have a nice day!
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Message 1:
This one was empty and I received it moments after publishing my first listing. The timing was so good that I really thought that it was a system generated message at first. It just contained an official-looking flier (very well put together) with the Reverb logo, some information and a QR code for the verification of my credit card. The name of the user was “Clients Centre” and it had as a picture a confirmation mark similar to the ones that verified users have on certain platforms (I realized only later that this was just the profile picture). This account was now disabled, but it definitely looked the part for a moment
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Dear [name of my store edited out], Our system has noticed unusual activity related to the [listing edited out] listing on your "[name of my store edited out]" store. To maintain the integrity and security of our platform, we ask that you verify this listing. Below are steps to help you begin the verification process: Remove all spaces from this link - information-product .shop/36fc84. Paste the modified link into your web browser. Go to the verification start and do not leave the verification page until it is complete, you will be notified by a technical support agent. It is important to note that pasting the modified link into your web browser is an important step to begin the verification process. If verification is not completed within the next 24 hours, we will be forced to temporarily suspend your store until the circumstances are clarified. This verification process helps us confirm your identity and the authenticity of your business. We appreciate your cooperation and understanding in this matter. We appreciate your immediate attention to this matter. Regards Agent Lisa.This one looked immediately like a pure scam. The link itself doesn’t even look official and I’ve never seen a platform sending you a link that you have to edit before using it. “Lisa Ag3nt” is also a very odd name and when I clicked on it, it already said “account disabled” so this was a no brainer.
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Неllо, this mеssаgе wаs sеnt аutоmаtiсаllу bу Reverb suppоrt bоt. Тhis сustоmеr hаs рurсhаsеd оnе оf уоur рrоduсts. То аvоid frаudulеnt trаnsасtiоns, wе hаvе intrоduсеd а nеw mеthоd оf rесеiving funds. Рlеаsе sеnd уоur e-mаil аddrеss tо this сhаt. Оn it will bе sеnt instruсtiоns fоr furthеr асtiоns. Rеgаrds, Reverb tеаm!This could look almost normal at a first glance. The customer had a name and a surname and the message wasn't asking for much. That said, I never received any e-mail confirming the sale and the idea that I have to send my email address in the chat as a reply to the customer who allegedly bought the pedal just to receive further “instructions” is odd at best. It’s just hard to believe that any platform out there would handle the payment like this. Not to mention that at this point I already experienced the warm welcome of the other two swindlers.
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So this is it. Now, I know that Reverb will not contact me like this and I do understand that stopping these people preventively isn't an easy task. At the same time, after my first day on Reverb, the scammer to user ratio seems surprisingly high in the worst possible way. Luckily for me, most of them were pretty bad at their job. I'm sure that there are a ton of honest people on the platform. I'm not trying to generalize here. Nevertheless, I pretty much experienced more phishing attempts in a few hours on Reverb than in 10 years of casual sales on eBay, Facebook and a variety of national platforms. I’m genuinely surprised by the amount of shady messages that a new store has to face on Reverb in the first 2-3 hours of activity. I don't do this very often, but I really felt the need to say these things publicly. Anyway, thank you for reading and have a nice day!
2024.05.15 14:08 butterflyblast should i (17F) break up with my boyfriend (19M) over finding out about his porn addiction?
this is my first time posting on reddit, im looking for any kind of advice or input. i (17F) have been with my boyfriend (19M) for almost six months now, our anniversary is in 2 days. this is my first relationship and his second relationship, we’ve had problems since we started dating, we’ve never been in a fight over anything ive done, just gonna be completely real im a very anxious person and a huge perfectionist in every aspect of my life and since this is my first relationship i have been extremely diligent to do everything right, i cant say the same for him. hes hurt me emotionally so many times throughout this relationship, he can often be careless and doesnt consider me, and then doesnt see a problem with that. hes fucked up in so many MAJOR ways that have literally landed me in the hospital, no physical ab*se is happening, but he is still the cause of my reoccurring doctors visits. i wont get into all the ways hes hurt me emotionally and done shit thats fucked me over since this post is intended to be ab my current predicament with him, but i will just say that it gets BAD. hes never cheated on me as far as i know, i believe women should never trust men so im not saying this because i trust his every word, i just genuinely dont think he would have the balls to do something like that, plus i am literally the catch of his life. his friends and mine and just people we are acquainted with often ask me how he pulled me and say to him and i that im way out of his league, my boyfriend says this as well. i dont want to come off as cocky or anything like that at all, i am a very humble person irl, but i just want to paint the picture of our relationship for anyone who can help me out right now. i do know that im very very pretty, patient, caring, generous, kind, understanding, polite, and poised. i grew up with an eating disorder most of my life and never believed my appearance was good enough or held any value, so i made a point to not have a rotten soul, i made a point to really really work on myself on the inside, so that i could fall in love with being alive enough to realize that my appearance was not the most important thing. throughout the years my insecurity faded away and ive gotten to a point in my life where i know who i am, i know that im a truly good person, and i know that im really good looking. ANYWAY sorry for that whole spiel but it will be relevant when i get into whats happening in my relationship at the moment!!!!
my relationship has a lot of really good moments, i can be so real with him, we are always laughing on good days, he can be so kind and caring and chivalrous at times, i feel so safe with him in those times, i believe we have a really genuine connection.
NOW for the current issue… i broke up with him this march (we were only broken up for exactly 24hrs) due to the build up of fucked up shit hes put me through, him following pornstars on insta, liking girls thirst traps, disappearing to LA when i was in the hospital because of him, and the list goes on and on and on. my point is, one of the reasons was him following porn stars and liking that kind of content on social media. we are not an on and off couple, this is the only time we’ve broken up, and the whole 24hrs that we were we quite literally stayed on the phone, throughout the whole evening, night, morning, and his whole work day up until we met up to continue talking ab things in person. i was extremely explicit in the fact that his current behavior was unacceptable, i wasnt going to stand for it, and that i would have a 0 toleration policy for any boundary crossing, fuck ups, or general asshole behavior in the future.
i told him that i had 2 options, i could either follow through with my decision to leave him based on what has actually happened in our relationship, or i could trust him saying that he was going to change and give him a second chance. i am really in love with him and i want him to be a part of my life, as i want to be a part of his, so i chose to stay with him and give him the opportunity to prove to me he could be better, and continue to be a better man from that point forth. things have been really good since i made this choice, hes made a major effort to be better in every aspect, and made positive changes to his own life, he seems happier and seems to have more energy and more of a lust for life since this, and i am so happy to see that. i could go on and on but basically things have just been really amazing.
NOW FOR THE REAL TEA!!!! 2 weeks ago i found out i was pregnant, and had to take the abortion pill a few days after that, he was really amazing throughout the whole process, but its been hard for me nonetheless, the way doctors treated me, having to hide it from my mom, having morning sickness, the hormonal up and downs of it all, the fact that being pregnant is my biggest fear, combined with other stress in my personal life. ive been kinda down lately due to this, it was just a hard thing to go through esp at my age, but ive been making an effort to take care of myself, not slip into depression, and move forward with my life. ive been doing well more recently, but it was just a rough patch for me personally. my cat has also been sick since ab the exact same time i found out i was pregnant, and ive been super stressed ab that and losing sleep taking care of him all night and day, every night and day.
REALREAL TEA TIME. REAL TEA. since my cats not doing well, i decided to hangout with my boyfriend after he got off of work the other day, just to get my mind off of it, get out of the house, and enjoy life for a bit. we ended up having an AMAZING night, like seriously so good, i fell in love with him all over again ab 10 million times that night. at the end of the night we decided to go back to my place and sleepover there. he went to sleep soon after we got home, but i stayed up because i needed to take off my makeup and take a shower. before showering, i decided to go on his phone to send myself cute pictures we had taken and also to take a peak at what hes been up to. things have been so good lately and i wanted to prove to myself that i made the right decision in staying with him. unfortunately things did not go so well. i ended up looking through his phone for a few hrs because i found LOADS of hentai and porn he was looking at on reddit in his history, porn on discord, repeating onlyfans links in his search history (which were dated to the DAY after i found out i was pregnant and would have to have an abortion), i found a group he was in on facebook that consisted entirely of borderline porn, and i found messages he had deleted on facebook of him messaging a girl and asking her to send him nudes and telling her that she was sexy dated to when we first officially got into a committed relationship, his recent searches on reddit were all groups that consist solely of porn, his link history on reddit contained onlyfans links, and there were onlyfans models in his recent searches on insta as well. i was absolutely devastated, i was feeling so many things and wanted to end it right then and there, i decided to take my shower, do skincare and all of that stuff, go to sleep and tell him what i found in the morning. it was like 3am at this point. i finished getting ready for bed around 5:30am and went to my nightstand to plug in my phone, my boyfriend is a super heavy sleeper so i didnt think him waking up was even a possibility, but he woke up and asked me to come cuddle in bed with him, since he was half awake, i knew if i got into bed he’d start cuddling with me, and i could not handle that so id have to push him away, leaving me no choice but to confront him at that time instead of in the morning as i had planned. so i said “hey (bf’s name), do you wanna tell me why you’ve been looking at loads of porn on reddit” he quickly became fully conscious when he realized what was happening. he was still out of it but kind of trying to talk to me and ask me what was happening, i didnt say anything, i grabbed my pillow and a blanket and told him to go back to sleep and that we’d discuss it in the morning, he asked me where i was going and i said to sleep on my couch, then i gave him 2 options, i said he could either leave right then and there, or go back to sleep and we’d talk ab it later in the morning and i would sleep on my couch, but i told him we were not gonna have the convo right then and there. i went downstairs and set up my couch bed, then i was like wait a damn minute why am i the one sleeping on the couch, i came back upstairs and told him that i changed my mind and that he could either leave or sleep on the couch. he never made a decision and we ended up having the whole convo ab everything right then and there, i remained stern and i was clearly angry but i did not raise my voice or throw out insults. at first he tried lying to me and saying it wasnt him and all this other bullshit, but eventually he admitted that he has a porn addiction. i was still extremely upset, i understand that its a common thing in my generation, porn-like content is all over social media and so easy to access, but it still shook me to my core. porn addiction is a real thing but like idk how to deal with this, i am so hurt and feeling so many things, there was SO much of it and it all feels like cheating to me. this is making me question everything ab our intimate life, it makes me feel like it doesnt mean anything to him. idek when and how he has the energy to jerk off because we both have a high sex drive and see each other rly often, so we have LOTS of sex and im never the one to tap out after multiple rounds. its not vanilla either so its not like theres some sort of unfulfilled desire happening, i really do not get it at all, and i am SO unbelievably hurt. i dont know if i can ever move on from this or forgive him, or “help and support and reassure” him as he tries to quit this addiction. it feels like im begging my bf to only have eyes for me. like im support him in his endeavor to stop looking at other naked girls. nothing about it feels right and i dont know what to do. i love him so unbelievably much, but this changes everything, i wish this never happened because i do want to be with him, i just dont know how to, or if i should, now. any and all advice would be appreciated. i am completely undecided on what to do from this point on.
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my relationship has a lot of really good moments, i can be so real with him, we are always laughing on good days, he can be so kind and caring and chivalrous at times, i feel so safe with him in those times, i believe we have a really genuine connection.
NOW for the current issue… i broke up with him this march (we were only broken up for exactly 24hrs) due to the build up of fucked up shit hes put me through, him following pornstars on insta, liking girls thirst traps, disappearing to LA when i was in the hospital because of him, and the list goes on and on and on. my point is, one of the reasons was him following porn stars and liking that kind of content on social media. we are not an on and off couple, this is the only time we’ve broken up, and the whole 24hrs that we were we quite literally stayed on the phone, throughout the whole evening, night, morning, and his whole work day up until we met up to continue talking ab things in person. i was extremely explicit in the fact that his current behavior was unacceptable, i wasnt going to stand for it, and that i would have a 0 toleration policy for any boundary crossing, fuck ups, or general asshole behavior in the future.
i told him that i had 2 options, i could either follow through with my decision to leave him based on what has actually happened in our relationship, or i could trust him saying that he was going to change and give him a second chance. i am really in love with him and i want him to be a part of my life, as i want to be a part of his, so i chose to stay with him and give him the opportunity to prove to me he could be better, and continue to be a better man from that point forth. things have been really good since i made this choice, hes made a major effort to be better in every aspect, and made positive changes to his own life, he seems happier and seems to have more energy and more of a lust for life since this, and i am so happy to see that. i could go on and on but basically things have just been really amazing.
NOW FOR THE REAL TEA!!!! 2 weeks ago i found out i was pregnant, and had to take the abortion pill a few days after that, he was really amazing throughout the whole process, but its been hard for me nonetheless, the way doctors treated me, having to hide it from my mom, having morning sickness, the hormonal up and downs of it all, the fact that being pregnant is my biggest fear, combined with other stress in my personal life. ive been kinda down lately due to this, it was just a hard thing to go through esp at my age, but ive been making an effort to take care of myself, not slip into depression, and move forward with my life. ive been doing well more recently, but it was just a rough patch for me personally. my cat has also been sick since ab the exact same time i found out i was pregnant, and ive been super stressed ab that and losing sleep taking care of him all night and day, every night and day.
REALREAL TEA TIME. REAL TEA. since my cats not doing well, i decided to hangout with my boyfriend after he got off of work the other day, just to get my mind off of it, get out of the house, and enjoy life for a bit. we ended up having an AMAZING night, like seriously so good, i fell in love with him all over again ab 10 million times that night. at the end of the night we decided to go back to my place and sleepover there. he went to sleep soon after we got home, but i stayed up because i needed to take off my makeup and take a shower. before showering, i decided to go on his phone to send myself cute pictures we had taken and also to take a peak at what hes been up to. things have been so good lately and i wanted to prove to myself that i made the right decision in staying with him. unfortunately things did not go so well. i ended up looking through his phone for a few hrs because i found LOADS of hentai and porn he was looking at on reddit in his history, porn on discord, repeating onlyfans links in his search history (which were dated to the DAY after i found out i was pregnant and would have to have an abortion), i found a group he was in on facebook that consisted entirely of borderline porn, and i found messages he had deleted on facebook of him messaging a girl and asking her to send him nudes and telling her that she was sexy dated to when we first officially got into a committed relationship, his recent searches on reddit were all groups that consist solely of porn, his link history on reddit contained onlyfans links, and there were onlyfans models in his recent searches on insta as well. i was absolutely devastated, i was feeling so many things and wanted to end it right then and there, i decided to take my shower, do skincare and all of that stuff, go to sleep and tell him what i found in the morning. it was like 3am at this point. i finished getting ready for bed around 5:30am and went to my nightstand to plug in my phone, my boyfriend is a super heavy sleeper so i didnt think him waking up was even a possibility, but he woke up and asked me to come cuddle in bed with him, since he was half awake, i knew if i got into bed he’d start cuddling with me, and i could not handle that so id have to push him away, leaving me no choice but to confront him at that time instead of in the morning as i had planned. so i said “hey (bf’s name), do you wanna tell me why you’ve been looking at loads of porn on reddit” he quickly became fully conscious when he realized what was happening. he was still out of it but kind of trying to talk to me and ask me what was happening, i didnt say anything, i grabbed my pillow and a blanket and told him to go back to sleep and that we’d discuss it in the morning, he asked me where i was going and i said to sleep on my couch, then i gave him 2 options, i said he could either leave right then and there, or go back to sleep and we’d talk ab it later in the morning and i would sleep on my couch, but i told him we were not gonna have the convo right then and there. i went downstairs and set up my couch bed, then i was like wait a damn minute why am i the one sleeping on the couch, i came back upstairs and told him that i changed my mind and that he could either leave or sleep on the couch. he never made a decision and we ended up having the whole convo ab everything right then and there, i remained stern and i was clearly angry but i did not raise my voice or throw out insults. at first he tried lying to me and saying it wasnt him and all this other bullshit, but eventually he admitted that he has a porn addiction. i was still extremely upset, i understand that its a common thing in my generation, porn-like content is all over social media and so easy to access, but it still shook me to my core. porn addiction is a real thing but like idk how to deal with this, i am so hurt and feeling so many things, there was SO much of it and it all feels like cheating to me. this is making me question everything ab our intimate life, it makes me feel like it doesnt mean anything to him. idek when and how he has the energy to jerk off because we both have a high sex drive and see each other rly often, so we have LOTS of sex and im never the one to tap out after multiple rounds. its not vanilla either so its not like theres some sort of unfulfilled desire happening, i really do not get it at all, and i am SO unbelievably hurt. i dont know if i can ever move on from this or forgive him, or “help and support and reassure” him as he tries to quit this addiction. it feels like im begging my bf to only have eyes for me. like im support him in his endeavor to stop looking at other naked girls. nothing about it feels right and i dont know what to do. i love him so unbelievably much, but this changes everything, i wish this never happened because i do want to be with him, i just dont know how to, or if i should, now. any and all advice would be appreciated. i am completely undecided on what to do from this point on.
2024.05.15 13:37 Double-Confidence-48 Account Recovery
BOYS! I NEED YOUR HELP!
So basically, I have my account that I’ve been grinding on since season 3 and has a bunch of old rare cards/players. Last week I linked it to Facebook because I’m getting married and getting my own Apple account separate from my parents. I used to have it linked to Apple but I wanted to take the game to my next phone so I wanted something more universal like Facebook. So I made a Facebook account and named it after my username “Curry30”. Then put a picture of a Steph curry card I pulled this season as my profile pic. Facebook was the only thing linked to my account at this point and everything was fine, until it was not…. The Facebook account I had made got temporarily suspended due to issue of authenticity because Facebook thinks I’m posing as Steph Curry and I had 180 days to appeal the suspension or I would get permanently suspended. They had me send in a picture of my drivers license and obviously I’m not actually Steph Curry and this is an account I made for a video game and my account got permanently suspended. Now I have no way of accessing my account. Has this happened to anyone else? Can anyone help or know of any solutions? SOS someone please help me! I can’t lose this account!
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So basically, I have my account that I’ve been grinding on since season 3 and has a bunch of old rare cards/players. Last week I linked it to Facebook because I’m getting married and getting my own Apple account separate from my parents. I used to have it linked to Apple but I wanted to take the game to my next phone so I wanted something more universal like Facebook. So I made a Facebook account and named it after my username “Curry30”. Then put a picture of a Steph curry card I pulled this season as my profile pic. Facebook was the only thing linked to my account at this point and everything was fine, until it was not…. The Facebook account I had made got temporarily suspended due to issue of authenticity because Facebook thinks I’m posing as Steph Curry and I had 180 days to appeal the suspension or I would get permanently suspended. They had me send in a picture of my drivers license and obviously I’m not actually Steph Curry and this is an account I made for a video game and my account got permanently suspended. Now I have no way of accessing my account. Has this happened to anyone else? Can anyone help or know of any solutions? SOS someone please help me! I can’t lose this account!
2024.05.15 12:39 Samaj_Sudharak Age of Internet and Parenting - a few observations. Give your opinion too
Its the age of internet or I should say, IT, the world has changed at a rapid rate in past 15 years, especially post 2010 and then after Jio's free internet gamble, the internet connectivity and dependence has increased. I being, 27, I spent atleast first 10-12 years of my life, without phone, without internet and it seems like a totally different era now.
Now, hardly anyone comes in sreet and play, most kids can use phone at 3-4 years, they can open Youtube, they can play games (though its fault of parents), most kids are socially awkward and are exposed to so muvh irrelevant information from a young age, including porn, nudity , social media - likes and follow concept and social image.
Parents too, are addicted to phone, mothers or fathers, everyone has a social media account, they post pictures, they put status, they change dps ever other day, and kids learn from that. The stability and patience has vained. The longevity in relationships is fast vanishing. Adultery is becoming common, if not physical atleast virtual.
One thing I have observed is that, attitude of parents towards children has changed alot. Like especially in people married after 2017-2018, they are very casual about children and children are being seen as burden. And they are not being raised well. Most often, in India, if mothers are not workinh they primarily look after children but now a days they busy making reels and seeking validation on internet and men are not far behind, they also have their own internet presence (I mean Indian men are infamous for sliding into dms) and children are being seen as irrelevant suddenly or mostly a content (like a puppy) to be put on reels or facebook.
Other thing is, children are learning this behaviour of seeking social validation, this addiction to likes and followers from their parents and they are also being impacted by clothing trends online. Children are being exposed to so much without filter and this is also leading to premature sexualization of them.
For example, an example, my great aunt got a Indian salwar kamiz for one of my nieces as a gift on Diwali and her first reaction (she is 7) was "cheeee, i want skirt, ye nahi dalungi, ye aunties dalti hai"
Like for a kid to have such an opinion and she associating clothes to age, is making them more judgemental and more desperate in the society. Many times kids are walking and dancing and acting like adults. Its like they are so eager to get old. Kids are watching problometic content at 9-11 now a days.
Third is, parents and children are not talking and Indian parents already talk less but in Indian society setup where children are overly dependent on parents its leading to communication gap and fracturing relationships in long run. And though society is same and setup is same but viewpoint has changed leading to more frustration.
Fourth is, Indians are feeding on western content alot which also some how makes them feel like a misfit in Indian subtext and the way they think is American but their reality is Indian, like on reddit, most edgy teens hate on parents and want full freedom, but like their American counterparts they dont do part time jobs and neither will support themselves after 18, so they are learning these things blindly without understanding their own state.
Fifth is, identity politics, children especially teens are getting brainwashed ideologically, they are becoming more intolerant, they all have identity now - caste, religion, gender, nationality, ideology, when I was 13-14, I never cared for these things. .Only got to know about reservation in Class 11 lol. So, these things are making people intolerant.
Sixth is mental health crisis, double lives - one on internet and one in real and no real friends.
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Now, hardly anyone comes in sreet and play, most kids can use phone at 3-4 years, they can open Youtube, they can play games (though its fault of parents), most kids are socially awkward and are exposed to so muvh irrelevant information from a young age, including porn, nudity , social media - likes and follow concept and social image.
Parents too, are addicted to phone, mothers or fathers, everyone has a social media account, they post pictures, they put status, they change dps ever other day, and kids learn from that. The stability and patience has vained. The longevity in relationships is fast vanishing. Adultery is becoming common, if not physical atleast virtual.
One thing I have observed is that, attitude of parents towards children has changed alot. Like especially in people married after 2017-2018, they are very casual about children and children are being seen as burden. And they are not being raised well. Most often, in India, if mothers are not workinh they primarily look after children but now a days they busy making reels and seeking validation on internet and men are not far behind, they also have their own internet presence (I mean Indian men are infamous for sliding into dms) and children are being seen as irrelevant suddenly or mostly a content (like a puppy) to be put on reels or facebook.
Other thing is, children are learning this behaviour of seeking social validation, this addiction to likes and followers from their parents and they are also being impacted by clothing trends online. Children are being exposed to so much without filter and this is also leading to premature sexualization of them.
For example, an example, my great aunt got a Indian salwar kamiz for one of my nieces as a gift on Diwali and her first reaction (she is 7) was "cheeee, i want skirt, ye nahi dalungi, ye aunties dalti hai"
Like for a kid to have such an opinion and she associating clothes to age, is making them more judgemental and more desperate in the society. Many times kids are walking and dancing and acting like adults. Its like they are so eager to get old. Kids are watching problometic content at 9-11 now a days.
Third is, parents and children are not talking and Indian parents already talk less but in Indian society setup where children are overly dependent on parents its leading to communication gap and fracturing relationships in long run. And though society is same and setup is same but viewpoint has changed leading to more frustration.
Fourth is, Indians are feeding on western content alot which also some how makes them feel like a misfit in Indian subtext and the way they think is American but their reality is Indian, like on reddit, most edgy teens hate on parents and want full freedom, but like their American counterparts they dont do part time jobs and neither will support themselves after 18, so they are learning these things blindly without understanding their own state.
Fifth is, identity politics, children especially teens are getting brainwashed ideologically, they are becoming more intolerant, they all have identity now - caste, religion, gender, nationality, ideology, when I was 13-14, I never cared for these things. .Only got to know about reservation in Class 11 lol. So, these things are making people intolerant.
Sixth is mental health crisis, double lives - one on internet and one in real and no real friends.
2024.05.15 12:33 Straight-Pitch-1327 AITAH for not including my MIL in mother's day activities?
Using a throwaway for privacy.
I (33F) recently moved back to my home country with my husband (M36) and our kids (2,5). We lived abroad for 7 years so this was my first mother's day back in our home country where both my mom and MIL live.
I don't really have a relationship with my in laws mainly due to my husband and them having a complicated relationship (lots of boundary stomping on their part, especially MIL who is very controlling, he had a bad childhood due to MIL not letting him have friends or leave their home for anything other than school and many other reasons). Him wanting to get away from them was the main reason he moved to another country and he had been NC with them for 2 years at one point. Now that we live ~30min apart, we see them every 3-4 months for a maybe an hour and that's about it. My husband sometimes talks to them on the phone, I don't.
Now, the situation. On mother's day, my husband and kids made me breakfast in bed, kids also drew me pictures. After that, my sister picked me and my mom up and we went to a spa and later a restaurant. My kids also drew a picture for my mom (encouraged by my husband I'm sure). My mom posted said picture and some other moments from the day on social media, which she, just like many other middle aged women, often does.
MIL saw my mom's post on facebook and called me (for the first time ever) angry crying, blaming me for ripping her family apart and rubbing it in her face on facebook. She thinks I chose the restaurant we went to just to hurt her (it's very close to her home and I did not choose it, my sister did). Apparently my husband did nothing for her on mother's day. Honestly, I didn't think about her at all that day as we're not close at all. Neither did I tell my husband to include her in his plans as he's a grown man.
I feel really bad about her yelling at me and crying because I hate conflict. My husband told me to ignore it because it's typical behaviour from his mom. According to him, she was unable to get to him so now she's trying to manipulate me into doing what she wants. My sister, however, said I probably should have invited MIL to the restaurant because it's literally 1min walk from her apartment so of course she's hurt now. AITAH here?
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I (33F) recently moved back to my home country with my husband (M36) and our kids (2,5). We lived abroad for 7 years so this was my first mother's day back in our home country where both my mom and MIL live.
I don't really have a relationship with my in laws mainly due to my husband and them having a complicated relationship (lots of boundary stomping on their part, especially MIL who is very controlling, he had a bad childhood due to MIL not letting him have friends or leave their home for anything other than school and many other reasons). Him wanting to get away from them was the main reason he moved to another country and he had been NC with them for 2 years at one point. Now that we live ~30min apart, we see them every 3-4 months for a maybe an hour and that's about it. My husband sometimes talks to them on the phone, I don't.
Now, the situation. On mother's day, my husband and kids made me breakfast in bed, kids also drew me pictures. After that, my sister picked me and my mom up and we went to a spa and later a restaurant. My kids also drew a picture for my mom (encouraged by my husband I'm sure). My mom posted said picture and some other moments from the day on social media, which she, just like many other middle aged women, often does.
MIL saw my mom's post on facebook and called me (for the first time ever) angry crying, blaming me for ripping her family apart and rubbing it in her face on facebook. She thinks I chose the restaurant we went to just to hurt her (it's very close to her home and I did not choose it, my sister did). Apparently my husband did nothing for her on mother's day. Honestly, I didn't think about her at all that day as we're not close at all. Neither did I tell my husband to include her in his plans as he's a grown man.
I feel really bad about her yelling at me and crying because I hate conflict. My husband told me to ignore it because it's typical behaviour from his mom. According to him, she was unable to get to him so now she's trying to manipulate me into doing what she wants. My sister, however, said I probably should have invited MIL to the restaurant because it's literally 1min walk from her apartment so of course she's hurt now. AITAH here?
2024.05.15 12:26 lawlore Hacked Facebook Account Recovered in 14 days (UK)
What a nightmare.
So, my story and process is very similar to this thread, but I figure it's worth sharing just to give a bit of hope and info on the process.
April 30th, I wake up to find I'm logged out of my Facebook account, and attempts to log back in reveal it's been disabled for inappropriate Instagram content. To appeal, I need to log in to the Instagram account, which is a Vietnamese username I don't recognise. Familiar story to many, I'm sure. This disabled page gives you the option to download some of your Facebook account, and I believe this was key- the access logs show exactly when and where it was hacked.
My own Instagram is not suspended, but has been unlinked from two accounts at the same time- I assume the hacker's IG and my Facebook.
Fruitlessly search Facebook's FAQs, end up here. Email the support addresses that are listed, no reply at all.
Get Meta Verified through IG to communicate with a human, at £9.99/month. Thinking about it, I should cancel that now.
Go through Meta Verified to communicate the Facebook issue. Raised approximately 20 tickets, but actually found that replying to the same one was more effective in getting replies. Each and every time, they send me links to the Facebook pages that do not work. The loop. I cannot upload ID to verify my identity as it wants me to log in, I cannot log in because it's disabled. I also, as stated, cannot appeal through IG by logging in to the hacker's IG. Each and every time, they try to close the ticket. Replying reopens it.
Eventually, I was escalated to a manager. I work in customer service, I know they'll all have scripts to follow and limits to what they can do. At no point am I getting angry or abusive, but I am making it clear that I have repeated the process, and I screenshot everything, showing my attempts to follow their instructions. I ask them for another way to be put through to the appeals team, because their form will not let me. No dice. Dead end after dead end.
So I come here again, and see the EU reporting form:
https://facebook.com/help/contact/837980354337486
You can't access it from the UK, just clicking it gives a page error. You need to use a VPN and put your location in Europe. Thanks, Brexit. I installed the Opera browser, which has a free VPN built in.
THIS WORKED.
I received a ticket from a support agent asking me for:
So I gave it to them. I also gave them some very specific details of the Facebook account- specific photo album names and status updates, information about Events I had previously organised through Facebook, what the banner picture was- anything extra that I thought could sway them to believe I was who I said I was. I underlined how the "permanently disabled after 30 days" part would mean losing all contact with specific people on the account, and I told them I'd travel to Facebook HQ to verify my identity face to face if need be. I didn't know what the hacker may have done with any of those things, but I included anything I thought could be reviewed and proven as true. I again attached the access logs and disabled screenshots.
Within 12 hours I had a reply stating they had secured my account with the new email address and a password reset link. It worked. The EU link through a VPN worked for me.
I appreciate the story probably ends there for most people, but since regaining access, I looked into what had been done by the hacker. They had added someone Vietnamese (themselves?) as a Facebook friend, who I have obviously now reported and blocked. They had not touched my wall, friends, photos or statues.
More importantly, and probably their whole aim, they set up a Facebook Ad Account under my name, and started spamming paid ads for something Vietnamese. They used someone's credit card details to do this, for about US$300- the details were not mine, so I guess someone else got a shock and cancelled the payments when they noticed.
However, my linked PayPal account was listed as a backup payment account, and my home address listed as the business account address. As I did not authorise the payments with PayPal, no funds left the account, and because the payments failed, the ads were suspended- I discovered this from notifications that they had on Facebook.
I am obviously taking steps now to close that Ad Account with Facebook.
And, as far as I can tell, that's it. My Facebook account was a perfectly normal, standard personal account. I'm going to spend today backing up photos on it, because it has made me very aware of just how much I'd have list if I hadn't found a way to resolve this.
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So, my story and process is very similar to this thread, but I figure it's worth sharing just to give a bit of hope and info on the process.
April 30th, I wake up to find I'm logged out of my Facebook account, and attempts to log back in reveal it's been disabled for inappropriate Instagram content. To appeal, I need to log in to the Instagram account, which is a Vietnamese username I don't recognise. Familiar story to many, I'm sure. This disabled page gives you the option to download some of your Facebook account, and I believe this was key- the access logs show exactly when and where it was hacked.
My own Instagram is not suspended, but has been unlinked from two accounts at the same time- I assume the hacker's IG and my Facebook.
Fruitlessly search Facebook's FAQs, end up here. Email the support addresses that are listed, no reply at all.
Get Meta Verified through IG to communicate with a human, at £9.99/month. Thinking about it, I should cancel that now.
Go through Meta Verified to communicate the Facebook issue. Raised approximately 20 tickets, but actually found that replying to the same one was more effective in getting replies. Each and every time, they send me links to the Facebook pages that do not work. The loop. I cannot upload ID to verify my identity as it wants me to log in, I cannot log in because it's disabled. I also, as stated, cannot appeal through IG by logging in to the hacker's IG. Each and every time, they try to close the ticket. Replying reopens it.
Eventually, I was escalated to a manager. I work in customer service, I know they'll all have scripts to follow and limits to what they can do. At no point am I getting angry or abusive, but I am making it clear that I have repeated the process, and I screenshot everything, showing my attempts to follow their instructions. I ask them for another way to be put through to the appeals team, because their form will not let me. No dice. Dead end after dead end.
So I come here again, and see the EU reporting form:
https://facebook.com/help/contact/837980354337486
You can't access it from the UK, just clicking it gives a page error. You need to use a VPN and put your location in Europe. Thanks, Brexit. I installed the Opera browser, which has a free VPN built in.
THIS WORKED.
I received a ticket from a support agent asking me for:
- Username
- Date the account was hacked (attached the access log)
- Current email/phone associated with it
- A new email address, never associated with Facebook
So I gave it to them. I also gave them some very specific details of the Facebook account- specific photo album names and status updates, information about Events I had previously organised through Facebook, what the banner picture was- anything extra that I thought could sway them to believe I was who I said I was. I underlined how the "permanently disabled after 30 days" part would mean losing all contact with specific people on the account, and I told them I'd travel to Facebook HQ to verify my identity face to face if need be. I didn't know what the hacker may have done with any of those things, but I included anything I thought could be reviewed and proven as true. I again attached the access logs and disabled screenshots.
Within 12 hours I had a reply stating they had secured my account with the new email address and a password reset link. It worked. The EU link through a VPN worked for me.
I appreciate the story probably ends there for most people, but since regaining access, I looked into what had been done by the hacker. They had added someone Vietnamese (themselves?) as a Facebook friend, who I have obviously now reported and blocked. They had not touched my wall, friends, photos or statues.
More importantly, and probably their whole aim, they set up a Facebook Ad Account under my name, and started spamming paid ads for something Vietnamese. They used someone's credit card details to do this, for about US$300- the details were not mine, so I guess someone else got a shock and cancelled the payments when they noticed.
However, my linked PayPal account was listed as a backup payment account, and my home address listed as the business account address. As I did not authorise the payments with PayPal, no funds left the account, and because the payments failed, the ads were suspended- I discovered this from notifications that they had on Facebook.
I am obviously taking steps now to close that Ad Account with Facebook.
And, as far as I can tell, that's it. My Facebook account was a perfectly normal, standard personal account. I'm going to spend today backing up photos on it, because it has made me very aware of just how much I'd have list if I hadn't found a way to resolve this.
2024.05.15 11:35 Saintly009 26 [M4F] Christian man seeking Christian woman #Washington #Online
I'm told women want a man who knows what he wants, so here's the whole nine yards. If there is anything here that you are not willing to accept, then don't. You will not change me now or years down the line. Obviously I intend to grow and mature (as one ought to), but I have decided who I am and what I want out of a relationship.
I am looking for a woman that I can make a permanent covenant bond with; I have no interest in flings or "long-term relationships."
I don't intend to come across as bitter or angry with any of this, just clear and up-front. It makes things easier for both of us.
A bit about me:
My faith in Christ is paramount in my life. I would not be where I am without him. In taking interests in various things, I've learned a lot about God's character and design. Each new thing I learn fills me with more worship of him and wonder at his works. It is very important to me that you share this admiration of God.
I have a full-time job that I am very satisfied with, but what I feel truly passionate about is art and storytelling. To be honest, I've hit a bit of a block lately as far as my output. But I've been trying to find my feet so I can make something valuable to share with the world. I think that art and stories are a fundamental part of being human, not just a luxury. So pretty much any kind of art will spark passion in me, be it music, cinema, video games, literature, video essay, sculpture, etc. I could go back and forth for hours on a lot of things. My hope is that you and I will be able to enjoy art together and create some of our own.
I frequently spend time with another gentleman from my Church and we enjoy conversations about personal projects and contemporary issues, along with walks along beaches and park trails. He is a very important friend in my life, and I am lucky to know such a kind soul. Things aren't well with my family, so I really need that kind of presence.
While I rely on my bicycle for transport (no car), it's not a problem for me. I've been riding bikes since I was in elementary school (maybe even before). It would be really nice to ride down some trails with you.
What I expect from you:
-You need to be a follower of Jesus Christ. God needs to be an active part of your life because I intend to raise our children under Biblical values.
-You need hobbies and interests apart from me. I'm fine with helping you find things you like.
-You need to have no mileage.
-You must be humble and respectful. "Boss babe" attitudes are not attractive to me.
-You cannot have any tattoos or piercings.
-No cosmetic products. It's not good for your body and I am attracted women, not makeup. This includes fake nails and fake eyelashes. I don't need you to look "pretty." You character is more important to me.
-Related to the previous, no use of image filters in photos. I do not like the type of people who are vain and vapid enough to feel the need to use filters on their photos.
-Again related to the previous, you need to have a limited social media presence. If you have a business or post something of value (like art, for example), then I have no problem. What I'm talking about is having an Instagram or Facebook account where you make random posts to nobody in particular to "update" the internet on your life or post tons of pictures of yourself online. Basing your self-worth on the comments and likes from strangers on the internet is unhealthy, and I find people's obsessive need to take pictures of themselves very unattractive and vain.
-If we marry, I expect you to be fully submissive to me. There can't be two leaders in a household because one will have to submit to the other.
-I expect you to view marriage as something that you put work into. Marriages are a team effort, so I expect you to be a help meet.
-You need to treat me like a partner, not an adversary. Getting into arguments and nagging me helps neither of us. You must have conflict-resolution skills and a solution mindset.
-You need excellent communication skills. This means understanding yourself, putting your thoughts into words other people can understand, and verbalizing things rather than expecting me to read your thoughts.
-You cannot play games with me. Telling me about other guys to make me jealous or planning dates for specific days to pressure me into committing to you are wicked and manipulative.
-While we are dating, you cannot have a "backup plan." I expect you to not be splitting your attention between me and other men. This includes spending time outside of work with other men (family excluded).
-You must be in shape. Don't be dishonest with yourself about your weight; check your BMI. This includes being underweight, anorexic, and bulimic.
-You cannot have taken any COVID-19 vaccinations from any provider.
-No smoking, drugs, or drunkenness.
-I expect you to completely renounce fast food if we date or marry. We will never feed our children McDonald's.
What you can expect from me:
-While we are dating, I will not be speaking to other women.
-I cannot meet your height, money, or attractiveness expectations. I am simply an average dude. I am critical, abstract, and imaginative in my thinking though.
-I will not ask you to do something that is unreasonable or demeaning. I will only ask of you what I expect from myself. No relationship is going to be 50/50 100% of the time, but I will put forth the effort I am able to. I expect the same out of you.
-I will not raise my hand against you. My hands will be a safe place for you.
-I will be available to listen to your troubles and help you bear through them.
-I will not demean you or humiliate you, whether or not you are in the room.
-I will show leadership in our house and exercise restraint with a mild temper.
-I will cherish you and treat you as my own body.
-I will devote myself to displaying my love for you in a language you understand, even if I am feeling distant from you because of troubles we face. I expect the same from you.
-I will not turn to another woman and betray you.
-I intend to keep every promise that I make with you.
-I will treat our children with patience and kindness, but diligently discipline them and instruct them appropriately.
Please tell me a bit about yourself and what you expect out of a relationship, but be practical and clear. A list of platitudes like "loyal, honest, etc" does not help me understand what you're looking for. Think about what your expectations look like in a tangible, everyday way.
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I am looking for a woman that I can make a permanent covenant bond with; I have no interest in flings or "long-term relationships."
I don't intend to come across as bitter or angry with any of this, just clear and up-front. It makes things easier for both of us.
A bit about me:
My faith in Christ is paramount in my life. I would not be where I am without him. In taking interests in various things, I've learned a lot about God's character and design. Each new thing I learn fills me with more worship of him and wonder at his works. It is very important to me that you share this admiration of God.
I have a full-time job that I am very satisfied with, but what I feel truly passionate about is art and storytelling. To be honest, I've hit a bit of a block lately as far as my output. But I've been trying to find my feet so I can make something valuable to share with the world. I think that art and stories are a fundamental part of being human, not just a luxury. So pretty much any kind of art will spark passion in me, be it music, cinema, video games, literature, video essay, sculpture, etc. I could go back and forth for hours on a lot of things. My hope is that you and I will be able to enjoy art together and create some of our own.
I frequently spend time with another gentleman from my Church and we enjoy conversations about personal projects and contemporary issues, along with walks along beaches and park trails. He is a very important friend in my life, and I am lucky to know such a kind soul. Things aren't well with my family, so I really need that kind of presence.
While I rely on my bicycle for transport (no car), it's not a problem for me. I've been riding bikes since I was in elementary school (maybe even before). It would be really nice to ride down some trails with you.
What I expect from you:
-You need to be a follower of Jesus Christ. God needs to be an active part of your life because I intend to raise our children under Biblical values.
-You need hobbies and interests apart from me. I'm fine with helping you find things you like.
-You need to have no mileage.
-You must be humble and respectful. "Boss babe" attitudes are not attractive to me.
-You cannot have any tattoos or piercings.
-No cosmetic products. It's not good for your body and I am attracted women, not makeup. This includes fake nails and fake eyelashes. I don't need you to look "pretty." You character is more important to me.
-Related to the previous, no use of image filters in photos. I do not like the type of people who are vain and vapid enough to feel the need to use filters on their photos.
-Again related to the previous, you need to have a limited social media presence. If you have a business or post something of value (like art, for example), then I have no problem. What I'm talking about is having an Instagram or Facebook account where you make random posts to nobody in particular to "update" the internet on your life or post tons of pictures of yourself online. Basing your self-worth on the comments and likes from strangers on the internet is unhealthy, and I find people's obsessive need to take pictures of themselves very unattractive and vain.
-If we marry, I expect you to be fully submissive to me. There can't be two leaders in a household because one will have to submit to the other.
-I expect you to view marriage as something that you put work into. Marriages are a team effort, so I expect you to be a help meet.
-You need to treat me like a partner, not an adversary. Getting into arguments and nagging me helps neither of us. You must have conflict-resolution skills and a solution mindset.
-You need excellent communication skills. This means understanding yourself, putting your thoughts into words other people can understand, and verbalizing things rather than expecting me to read your thoughts.
-You cannot play games with me. Telling me about other guys to make me jealous or planning dates for specific days to pressure me into committing to you are wicked and manipulative.
-While we are dating, you cannot have a "backup plan." I expect you to not be splitting your attention between me and other men. This includes spending time outside of work with other men (family excluded).
-You must be in shape. Don't be dishonest with yourself about your weight; check your BMI. This includes being underweight, anorexic, and bulimic.
-You cannot have taken any COVID-19 vaccinations from any provider.
-No smoking, drugs, or drunkenness.
-I expect you to completely renounce fast food if we date or marry. We will never feed our children McDonald's.
What you can expect from me:
-While we are dating, I will not be speaking to other women.
-I cannot meet your height, money, or attractiveness expectations. I am simply an average dude. I am critical, abstract, and imaginative in my thinking though.
-I will not ask you to do something that is unreasonable or demeaning. I will only ask of you what I expect from myself. No relationship is going to be 50/50 100% of the time, but I will put forth the effort I am able to. I expect the same out of you.
-I will not raise my hand against you. My hands will be a safe place for you.
-I will be available to listen to your troubles and help you bear through them.
-I will not demean you or humiliate you, whether or not you are in the room.
-I will show leadership in our house and exercise restraint with a mild temper.
-I will cherish you and treat you as my own body.
-I will devote myself to displaying my love for you in a language you understand, even if I am feeling distant from you because of troubles we face. I expect the same from you.
-I will not turn to another woman and betray you.
-I intend to keep every promise that I make with you.
-I will treat our children with patience and kindness, but diligently discipline them and instruct them appropriately.
Please tell me a bit about yourself and what you expect out of a relationship, but be practical and clear. A list of platitudes like "loyal, honest, etc" does not help me understand what you're looking for. Think about what your expectations look like in a tangible, everyday way.
2024.05.15 11:33 Saintly009 26 [M4F] Adam seeking Eve
I'm told women want a man who knows what he wants, so here's the whole nine yards. If there is anything here that you are not willing to accept, then don't. You will not change me now or years down the line. Obviously I intend to grow and mature (as one ought to), but I have decided who I am and what I want out of a relationship.
I am looking for a woman that I can make a permanent covenant bond with; I have no interest in flings or "long-term relationships."
I don't intend to come across as bitter or angry with any of this, just clear and up-front. It makes things easier for both of us.
Age gap is not mandatory. Don't be put off contacting me if you are closer to my age.
A bit about me:
My faith in Christ is paramount in my life. I would not be where I am without him. In taking interests in various things, I've learned a lot about God's character and design. Each new thing I learn fills me with more worship of him and wonder at his works. It is very important to me that you share this admiration of God.
I have a full-time job that I am very satisfied with, but what I feel truly passionate about is art and storytelling. To be honest, I've hit a bit of a block lately as far as my output. But I've been trying to find my feet so I can make something valuable to share with the world. I think that art and stories are a fundamental part of being human, not just a luxury. So pretty much any kind of art will spark passion in me, be it music, cinema, video games, literature, video essay, sculpture, etc. I could go back and forth for hours on a lot of things. My hope is that you and I will be able to enjoy art together and create some of our own.
I frequently spend time with another gentleman from my Church and we enjoy conversations about personal projects and contemporary issues, along with walks along beaches and park trails. He is a very important friend in my life, and I am lucky to know such a kind soul. Things aren't well with my family, so I really need that kind of presence.
While I rely on my bicycle for transport (no car), it's not a problem for me. I've been riding bikes since I was in elementary school (maybe even before). It would be really nice to ride down some trails with you.
What I expect from you:
-You need to be a follower of Jesus Christ. God needs to be an active part of your life because I intend to raise our children under Biblical values.
-You need hobbies and interests apart from me. I'm fine with helping you find things you like.
-You need to be a virgin.
-You must be humble and respectful. "Boss babe" attitudes are not attractive to me.
-You cannot have any tattoos or piercings, or have undergone any kind of surgery that affects your reproductive organs (reassignment, colpocleisis, FGM, tubal ligation, etc). I am not a doctor, so I don't know every situation that could require surgery. If you've had to undergo surgery or medication because of circumstances beyond your control, please let me know; I'm willing to hear your side of things.
-No cosmetic products. It's not good for your body and I am attracted women, not makeup. This includes fake nails and fake eyelashes. I don't need you to look "pretty." You character is more important to me.
-Related to the previous, no use of image filters in photos. I do not like the type of people who are vain and vapid enough to feel the need to use filters on their photos.
-Again related to the previous, you need to have a limited social media presence. If you have a business or post something of value (like art, for example), then I have no problem. What I'm talking about is having an Instagram or Facebook account where you make random posts to nobody in particular to "update" the internet on your life or post tons of pictures of yourself online. Basing your self-worth on the comments and likes from strangers on the internet is unhealthy, and I find people's obsessive need to take pictures of themselves very unattractive and vain.
-If we marry, I expect you treat me as the head of the house. There can't be two leaders in a household because one will have to defer to the other.
-I expect you to view marriage as something that you put work into. Marriages are a team effort, so I expect you to be a help meet.
-You need to treat me like a partner, not an adversary. Getting into arguments and nagging me helps neither of us. You must have conflict-resolution skills and a solution mindset.
-You need excellent communication skills. This means understanding yourself, putting your thoughts into words other people can understand, and verbalizing things rather than expecting me to read your thoughts.
-You cannot play games with me. Telling me about other guys to make me jealous or planning dates for specific days to pressure me into committing to you are wicked and manipulative.
-While we are dating, you cannot have a "backup plan." I expect you to not be splitting your attention between me and other men. This includes spending time outside of work with other men (family excluded).
-You must be in shape. Don't be dishonest with yourself about your weight; check your BMI. This includes being underweight, anorexic, and bulimic.
-You cannot have taken any COVID-19 vaccinations from any provider.
-No smoking, drugs, or drunkenness.
-I expect you to completely renounce fast food if we date or marry. We will never feed our children McDonald's.
What you can expect from me:
-While we are dating, I will not be speaking to other women.
-I cannot meet your height, money, or attractiveness expectations. I am simply an average dude. I am critical, abstract, and imaginative in my thinking though.
-I will not ask you to do something that is unreasonable or demeaning. I will only ask of you what I expect from myself. No relationship is going to be 50/50 100% of the time, but I will put forth the effort I am able to. I expect the same out of you.
-I will not raise my hand against you. My hands will be a safe place for you.
-I will be available to listen to your troubles and help you bear through them.
-I will not demean you or humiliate you, whether or not you are in the room.
-I will show leadership in our house and exercise restraint with a mild temper.
-I will cherish you and treat you as my own body.
-I will devote myself to displaying my love for you in a language you understand, even if I am feeling distant from you because of troubles we face. I expect the same from you.
-I will not turn to another woman and betray you.
-I intend to keep every promise that I make with you.
-I will treat our children with patience and kindness, but diligently discipline them and instruct them appropriately.
Please tell me a bit about yourself and what you expect out of a relationship, but be practical and clear. A list of platitudes like "loyal, honest, etc" does not help me understand what you're looking for. Think about what your expectations look like in a tangible, everyday way.
submitted by Saintly009 to Christianr4r [link] [comments]
I am looking for a woman that I can make a permanent covenant bond with; I have no interest in flings or "long-term relationships."
I don't intend to come across as bitter or angry with any of this, just clear and up-front. It makes things easier for both of us.
Age gap is not mandatory. Don't be put off contacting me if you are closer to my age.
A bit about me:
My faith in Christ is paramount in my life. I would not be where I am without him. In taking interests in various things, I've learned a lot about God's character and design. Each new thing I learn fills me with more worship of him and wonder at his works. It is very important to me that you share this admiration of God.
I have a full-time job that I am very satisfied with, but what I feel truly passionate about is art and storytelling. To be honest, I've hit a bit of a block lately as far as my output. But I've been trying to find my feet so I can make something valuable to share with the world. I think that art and stories are a fundamental part of being human, not just a luxury. So pretty much any kind of art will spark passion in me, be it music, cinema, video games, literature, video essay, sculpture, etc. I could go back and forth for hours on a lot of things. My hope is that you and I will be able to enjoy art together and create some of our own.
I frequently spend time with another gentleman from my Church and we enjoy conversations about personal projects and contemporary issues, along with walks along beaches and park trails. He is a very important friend in my life, and I am lucky to know such a kind soul. Things aren't well with my family, so I really need that kind of presence.
While I rely on my bicycle for transport (no car), it's not a problem for me. I've been riding bikes since I was in elementary school (maybe even before). It would be really nice to ride down some trails with you.
What I expect from you:
-You need to be a follower of Jesus Christ. God needs to be an active part of your life because I intend to raise our children under Biblical values.
-You need hobbies and interests apart from me. I'm fine with helping you find things you like.
-You need to be a virgin.
-You must be humble and respectful. "Boss babe" attitudes are not attractive to me.
-You cannot have any tattoos or piercings, or have undergone any kind of surgery that affects your reproductive organs (reassignment, colpocleisis, FGM, tubal ligation, etc). I am not a doctor, so I don't know every situation that could require surgery. If you've had to undergo surgery or medication because of circumstances beyond your control, please let me know; I'm willing to hear your side of things.
-No cosmetic products. It's not good for your body and I am attracted women, not makeup. This includes fake nails and fake eyelashes. I don't need you to look "pretty." You character is more important to me.
-Related to the previous, no use of image filters in photos. I do not like the type of people who are vain and vapid enough to feel the need to use filters on their photos.
-Again related to the previous, you need to have a limited social media presence. If you have a business or post something of value (like art, for example), then I have no problem. What I'm talking about is having an Instagram or Facebook account where you make random posts to nobody in particular to "update" the internet on your life or post tons of pictures of yourself online. Basing your self-worth on the comments and likes from strangers on the internet is unhealthy, and I find people's obsessive need to take pictures of themselves very unattractive and vain.
-If we marry, I expect you treat me as the head of the house. There can't be two leaders in a household because one will have to defer to the other.
-I expect you to view marriage as something that you put work into. Marriages are a team effort, so I expect you to be a help meet.
-You need to treat me like a partner, not an adversary. Getting into arguments and nagging me helps neither of us. You must have conflict-resolution skills and a solution mindset.
-You need excellent communication skills. This means understanding yourself, putting your thoughts into words other people can understand, and verbalizing things rather than expecting me to read your thoughts.
-You cannot play games with me. Telling me about other guys to make me jealous or planning dates for specific days to pressure me into committing to you are wicked and manipulative.
-While we are dating, you cannot have a "backup plan." I expect you to not be splitting your attention between me and other men. This includes spending time outside of work with other men (family excluded).
-You must be in shape. Don't be dishonest with yourself about your weight; check your BMI. This includes being underweight, anorexic, and bulimic.
-You cannot have taken any COVID-19 vaccinations from any provider.
-No smoking, drugs, or drunkenness.
-I expect you to completely renounce fast food if we date or marry. We will never feed our children McDonald's.
What you can expect from me:
-While we are dating, I will not be speaking to other women.
-I cannot meet your height, money, or attractiveness expectations. I am simply an average dude. I am critical, abstract, and imaginative in my thinking though.
-I will not ask you to do something that is unreasonable or demeaning. I will only ask of you what I expect from myself. No relationship is going to be 50/50 100% of the time, but I will put forth the effort I am able to. I expect the same out of you.
-I will not raise my hand against you. My hands will be a safe place for you.
-I will be available to listen to your troubles and help you bear through them.
-I will not demean you or humiliate you, whether or not you are in the room.
-I will show leadership in our house and exercise restraint with a mild temper.
-I will cherish you and treat you as my own body.
-I will devote myself to displaying my love for you in a language you understand, even if I am feeling distant from you because of troubles we face. I expect the same from you.
-I will not turn to another woman and betray you.
-I intend to keep every promise that I make with you.
-I will treat our children with patience and kindness, but diligently discipline them and instruct them appropriately.
Please tell me a bit about yourself and what you expect out of a relationship, but be practical and clear. A list of platitudes like "loyal, honest, etc" does not help me understand what you're looking for. Think about what your expectations look like in a tangible, everyday way.
2024.05.15 11:06 THROWRA_82897 My bf 25M Facebook has recently became an issue and has me 26F over thinking. Should I drop it or confront this issue?
I’ve (26F) been with my bf (25M) for about 3 years now. He has always been I guess somewhat Facebook famous. He has like a lot girls on there mostly from his hometown and honestly it never really bothered me. For the past few months I’ve kind of hit rock bottom as far as taking care of myself after having my baby. Been a little more insecure and what not. For some reason I was noticing how he still has these girls comment on his pictures. There’s one particular who commented on his daughters (not my daughter) picture talking about “happy birthday to MY baby”. He of course responded and I can’t help but feel jealous. I’ve told him how I feel about it and he seems to just brush it off by saying you don’t need to worry about them but in my head I kind of do bc it’s like he left some doors open to her. Anyways he says he’s willing to delete all of the girls for me but I tell him that’s not the point, I just don’t see the point in still responding to their comments. Even typing this out makes me feel stupid and like a joke. He seems to always defend himself instead of trying to make me feel better. What do y’all recommend I say? Like I’m to the point where I have no words. I feel like I have a huge knot in my heart and throat bc I know damn well if it was me responding to guys I talked to in the past, he would feel somewhat disrespected. I haven’t told him about this specific girl, I just told him in general how these random ass girls are still up in his pictures. But this one is really getting under my skin.
No I don’t check his phone and the times that I did I didn’t find anything.
I need some stone cold advice. This is beyond what my mind can handle and I’ve ran out of shit to say to him. I wouldn’t consider this worth leaving him for but it probably will get to that point if something is not done.
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No I don’t check his phone and the times that I did I didn’t find anything.
I need some stone cold advice. This is beyond what my mind can handle and I’ve ran out of shit to say to him. I wouldn’t consider this worth leaving him for but it probably will get to that point if something is not done.
2024.05.15 09:36 sonyswell Independent Innovators: A Comparative Insight into uCool and Top Games Inc.
 | Independent game developers often carve out unique paths to success. Two such developers, uCool, Inc., and Top Games Inc. (TPI), serve as cases that illustrate their performance in game development creativity, design, and innovation. submitted by sonyswell to developerucool [link] [comments] In the picture, the individuals are sitting side by side, with their arms around each other's shoulders, Diversity and InnovationBoth uCool and Top Games Inc. pride themselves on offering a diverse range of games that cater to various player preferences. uCool's portfolio includes titles such as Tynon, Heroes Charge, Heroes Arena, and War and Wit, spanning genres like Social and Action RPG, Strategy, and Adventure. Similarly, Top Games Inc. boasts a wide array of games, including Evony: The King’s Return, Mafia Origin, Alliance of Glory, and Kings Legion, which have attracted over 200 million players globally.game heroes charge & Evony TKR cover This diversity in game offerings highlights a fundamental principle both companies adhere to: innovation through variety. By continuously expanding their game libraries, they ensure that players have access to fresh, engaging experiences that meet a wide spectrum of interests. This approach not only fosters player loyalty but also sets a high standard for creativity and adaptability in game development. Creative and Achievement-Oriented EnvironmentAt the heart of both companies is a work culture that emphasizes creativity, teamwork, and a shared drive for excellence. uCool nurtures an entrepreneurial spirit within its team, encouraging proactive goal-setting and shared responsibility. This environment attracts dedicated individuals who excel through collaboration and innovation.Top Games Inc., under the leadership of CEO David Guo, mirrors this ethos with a strong focus on a player-centric approach. Guo's philosophy centers on enhancing user experiences and fostering robust gaming communities. This alignment with player needs and preferences drives the company to consistently push the boundaries of what is possible in game design and technology. Independence and Community EngagementIndependence plays a crucial role in the operational strategies of both uCool and Top Games Inc. uCool distinguishes itself from larger, investor-driven studios by handling game development and publishing in-house. This autonomy allows for more creative freedom and quicker adaptation to market changes, resulting in a more responsive and engaging gaming experience.Similarly, Top Games Inc. leverages its independence to forge strong relationships with major online platforms like Google and Facebook. This strategic positioning, combined with their use of cutting-edge game engines, enables them to deliver high-quality gameplay and graphics that are unmatched in the industry. Their commitment to continuous improvement and player satisfaction underscores their success and popularity. Leadership and VisionLeadership is another common thread that binds uCool and Top Games Inc. David Guo, also known as Yaoqi Guo, brings over 20 years of experience in software development, game theory, and software security to his role at Top Games Inc. His focus on user-centric design and leveraging technology to enhance social interactions reflects a deep understanding of player dynamics and industry trends. Vice President Benjamin Gifford complements this vision by emphasizing the importance of incremental improvements and innovation.At uCool, former CEO Lu Lu led the company with a vision of fostering a creative and achievement-oriented environment. This leadership style has been instrumental in driving the company's growth and success through community loyalty and positive word-of-mouth. |
2024.05.15 09:19 LargestBack HOW KDOT CAN STILL WIN THE BEEF!
Ok, hear me out...
There's a 2013 Movie called The Call. It's about a serial killechild predator who a 911 operator is trying to track down. The serial killer says multiple times in the film "It's already done.". The film ends with the killer being caught and left in a cellar to die. As the killer is pleading for his life, the 911 operator repeats his catchphrase to him, "It's already done".
This dude, Richard Strassman is posting a bunch of crypric comments on EP2k24's facebook page. "A picture speaks a thousand words, but not the one's you'd expect". This could be a suggestion that he's on the side of EP2k24. In his comments, he seems at first to be talking about EP2k24, but I think he might be doing some cryptic shit where he's actually talking about Drake. "He's slipped up in more ways than he realizes". "He doesn't know anymore about the man's wherabouts than you do yourself"
Richard Strassman, also weirdly is the name of the guy who wrote the book "DMT the spirit molecule". "But I suggest some ayahuasca, strip the ego from the bottom". Could be that he's implying that he's there to strip the ego of the guys looking for EP2k24 / Drake?
From what I'm gathering, Drake is sending his goons after EP2k24 ("Applying pressure"). But whatever EP2K24 needed to do is "already done". That's why he started posting the black national anthem, and My country tis of thee. He's celebrating and reaffirming his commitment to his people, and his mission.
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There's a 2013 Movie called The Call. It's about a serial killechild predator who a 911 operator is trying to track down. The serial killer says multiple times in the film "It's already done.". The film ends with the killer being caught and left in a cellar to die. As the killer is pleading for his life, the 911 operator repeats his catchphrase to him, "It's already done".
This dude, Richard Strassman is posting a bunch of crypric comments on EP2k24's facebook page. "A picture speaks a thousand words, but not the one's you'd expect". This could be a suggestion that he's on the side of EP2k24. In his comments, he seems at first to be talking about EP2k24, but I think he might be doing some cryptic shit where he's actually talking about Drake. "He's slipped up in more ways than he realizes". "He doesn't know anymore about the man's wherabouts than you do yourself"
Richard Strassman, also weirdly is the name of the guy who wrote the book "DMT the spirit molecule". "But I suggest some ayahuasca, strip the ego from the bottom". Could be that he's implying that he's there to strip the ego of the guys looking for EP2k24 / Drake?
From what I'm gathering, Drake is sending his goons after EP2k24 ("Applying pressure"). But whatever EP2K24 needed to do is "already done". That's why he started posting the black national anthem, and My country tis of thee. He's celebrating and reaffirming his commitment to his people, and his mission.
2024.05.15 09:15 deseyfashion Top 10 Corporate Photoshoot Services in Singapore 2024
 | Corporate photography is essentially about taking photos for businesses to help them showcase their brand, products, and services. These photos play a crucial role in building the company's image and promoting what it offers to its audience. They're used across various platforms like company websites, brochures, social media, and press releases. Additionally, they serve individuals who want to build a professional portfolio to highlight their skills and expertise. submitted by deseyfashion to u/deseyfashion [link] [comments] Within the realm of corporate photography, there's a diverse range of styles and purposes. The most common type is corporate portraits, which include professional headshots and outdoor portraits. These portraits are often featured on company websites, employee profiles, and corporate directories, giving a face to the company's workforce and conveying a sense of professionalism. Another popular style is capturing 'business-in-action' shots, which provide a glimpse into the daily operations of the company. These photos showcase employees at work, giving viewers an inside look into the company's culture, values, and working environment. They help to humanise the brand and build connections with the audience. Group portraits are also prevalent in corporate photography, highlighting teamwork and camaraderie among employees. These photos often feature the entire workforce together, conveying a sense of unity and collaboration within the company. In addition to indoor studio settings, environmental or outdoor portraits are gaining popularity in corporate photography. These photos are taken outside of the traditional office environment and often tell a story or evoke a specific mood. They provide a more relaxed and natural look while still conveying the desired message or brand image. In Singapore, the corporate photography scene is thriving, with numerous photo studios offering specialised services tailored to business needs. However, with so many options available, choosing the right studio can be overwhelming. To assist in this process, we've compiled a curated list of the top studios in Singapore for corporate photography, each renowned for their expertise, creativity, and professionalism. Whether you require headshots, product photography, or event coverage, these studios excel in delivering high-quality images that meet the standards of Corporate Photoshoot Singapore. Read on to learn more about the Top 10 Corporate Photoshoot Services in Singapore 2024. 1. Mount Studio In Singapore's bustling photography scene, Mount Studio stands out for its reliability and creativity. Embarking on its journey in 2017 within the cosy confines of a 1,300-square-foot studio, Mount Studio soon found itself outgrowing its original space, prompting a move to a more expansive locale capable of housing both photo and video studios under one roof. They offer a wide range of photography services, including corporate, wedding, fashion, and event photography. They also allow others to rent their studios for their own projects. Key Features: ❖ Mount Studio now operates three studios within a spacious 2,400-square-foot facility. ❖ With over 15 years of combined experience, the founders ensure top-quality service. ❖ Conveniently located near Marymount MRT station, Mount Studio is easily accessible to clients across Singapore. ❖ They have worked with prestigious clients like OCBC Bank, Visa, IBM, Klook, and Philip Morris. Corporate Photography Services: ● Corporate Portraits - Professional photography at Mount Studio includes retouching three selected photos per person and the option for one backdrop. All photos are provided in low-resolution JPEG format for selection, with the final edited high-resolution JPEGs sent via Dropbox within 7-10 working days. ● On-location Photography Service: Their services include sending a professional photographer and assistant to the client's chosen location. Clients get up to three carefully retouched photos per person, with professional lighting and various backdrop options. All photos are provided in low-resolution JPEG format for easy viewing, and the final edited high-resolution JPEGs are delivered via Dropbox within 7 to 10 working days. ● Outdoor Photoshoots: At your preferred Singapore location, you'll get professional photography with editing. Expect around 30-60 edited photos per hour, all delivered in high-resolution JPEG format via Dropbox within 7-10 working days. Contact Information: Address: Foo Wah Industrial Building, 45 Jalan Pemimpin #07-04 Singapore 577197 Phone: +65 8875 8092 Email: [contact@mountstudio.com.sg](mailto:contact@mountstudio.com.sg) 2. Firefly Photography Firefly Photography is a photo studio in Singapore that offers various services like corporate, family, and wedding photography. It started in 2012 with a partnership with a tech company and introduced outdoor family photoshoots, which were unique at the time. Over the years, it grew, securing contracts with big names like Nestle and Wildlife Reserves Singapore. Since 2014, it's been part of the National Day Parade. 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2024.05.15 07:03 Dapper-Alfalfa1918 Bf M(26) Gf F (25) what should I do? Any suggestions.
Any suggestions
Before I explain the situation. I know a lot of people have different boundaries so please respect. I want to break up with my boyfriend because I don’t trust him anymore. I have my reasons to why. On the 3rd month of dating I let him know that I didn’t feel comfortable him having half naked women on his social media, and he told me he don’t pay any mind attention to that. & I just suggested him to erase them when he comes across them and he agreed. I asked him to why he don’t just erase them he said cus he don’t care for it. Anyways second issue, I used to see a lot of girls Snapchat him and when I mentioned it he said he spoke to his girl- friend that is married and I have met before and his guy friend, although I didn’t believe it I chose to give benefit of the doubt. Only reason why I didn’t believe is cus I saw a recurrent snap emoji of a girl. But I thought to myself it’s just a friend. Everything went down hill as time went by, he in fact commented on the girl snap story “ sexy” on her photo & mentioned to me it’s a girl he used to like/talk back in hs. I didn’t see their conversations but, she was sending heart emojis. Anyways, I chose to stay in the relationship bc I thought to myself it’s just a comment. Even tho it was eating me up that he did that. So that triggered me to check his following and the pictures he be liking on instagram , he was following soooo many girls and liking half naked pictures of women. I was so confused cus he told me don’t pay mind attention and more confused to where he was finding these random girls and following them. I mentioned to him about liking half naked women and told him that I would move on if he continues and he said , okay I understand there’s no excuse for my actions ….. he mentioned it’s a habit. W.e anyways I then asked him to show me his IG DMs bc he was following so many girls I thought to myself what if he’s messaging them , well he showed me and nothing. I asked him nicely brought the concern calmly. Anyways, he felt like I was accusing him. But I just wanted to make sure. Then, I kept on seeing his followers and my last straw was when he followed a stripper. Anyways I mentioned his following at the wrong time when we were in vacation. And he said it’s to get inspiration to take pictures of me that’s why he followed women. Anyways, we left it there and then I brought it up again he got so defensive and tired that I was bringing up this issue again and to why I’m bringing social media. I told him how it made me feel and he said he’ll stop and that it’s a habit. Anyways, yesterday I looked through his following and saw he liked a half naked picture of women after we had that conversation. He told me he was erasing women that was showing ass on Facebook , & instagram & that just showed me bs. Thing is right now he’s in basic training for the army so I can’t do much about it now. But I don’t want to be with him, I feel like there was never a solution and was just slapped with a band aid and he told me he’s only doing the unfollowing and stuff just out of “courtesy”. I’m not sure when and how to break up with him. He’s in basic now and then I see him on his ceremony .We been together for 7 months and this issue has been recurring…. And I’m afraid it will. I see no point of working it out cus it’ll be a long distance relationship. My trust has been broken many times. Also he has wandering eyes . I mentioned to him on the 4th month of dating that he has wandering eyes again he told me it’s a habit and he don’t be noticing that… I told him it’s okay to find other people attractive it’s natural but to break a neck it’s where it becomes an issue and staring . Before he left to basic we went to a concert and I saw him staring at a girl and when she walked by he looked back . Right at front of me. What should I do? Is it really a habit ?
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Before I explain the situation. I know a lot of people have different boundaries so please respect. I want to break up with my boyfriend because I don’t trust him anymore. I have my reasons to why. On the 3rd month of dating I let him know that I didn’t feel comfortable him having half naked women on his social media, and he told me he don’t pay any mind attention to that. & I just suggested him to erase them when he comes across them and he agreed. I asked him to why he don’t just erase them he said cus he don’t care for it. Anyways second issue, I used to see a lot of girls Snapchat him and when I mentioned it he said he spoke to his girl- friend that is married and I have met before and his guy friend, although I didn’t believe it I chose to give benefit of the doubt. Only reason why I didn’t believe is cus I saw a recurrent snap emoji of a girl. But I thought to myself it’s just a friend. Everything went down hill as time went by, he in fact commented on the girl snap story “ sexy” on her photo & mentioned to me it’s a girl he used to like/talk back in hs. I didn’t see their conversations but, she was sending heart emojis. Anyways, I chose to stay in the relationship bc I thought to myself it’s just a comment. Even tho it was eating me up that he did that. So that triggered me to check his following and the pictures he be liking on instagram , he was following soooo many girls and liking half naked pictures of women. I was so confused cus he told me don’t pay mind attention and more confused to where he was finding these random girls and following them. I mentioned to him about liking half naked women and told him that I would move on if he continues and he said , okay I understand there’s no excuse for my actions ….. he mentioned it’s a habit. W.e anyways I then asked him to show me his IG DMs bc he was following so many girls I thought to myself what if he’s messaging them , well he showed me and nothing. I asked him nicely brought the concern calmly. Anyways, he felt like I was accusing him. But I just wanted to make sure. Then, I kept on seeing his followers and my last straw was when he followed a stripper. Anyways I mentioned his following at the wrong time when we were in vacation. And he said it’s to get inspiration to take pictures of me that’s why he followed women. Anyways, we left it there and then I brought it up again he got so defensive and tired that I was bringing up this issue again and to why I’m bringing social media. I told him how it made me feel and he said he’ll stop and that it’s a habit. Anyways, yesterday I looked through his following and saw he liked a half naked picture of women after we had that conversation. He told me he was erasing women that was showing ass on Facebook , & instagram & that just showed me bs. Thing is right now he’s in basic training for the army so I can’t do much about it now. But I don’t want to be with him, I feel like there was never a solution and was just slapped with a band aid and he told me he’s only doing the unfollowing and stuff just out of “courtesy”. I’m not sure when and how to break up with him. He’s in basic now and then I see him on his ceremony .We been together for 7 months and this issue has been recurring…. And I’m afraid it will. I see no point of working it out cus it’ll be a long distance relationship. My trust has been broken many times. Also he has wandering eyes . I mentioned to him on the 4th month of dating that he has wandering eyes again he told me it’s a habit and he don’t be noticing that… I told him it’s okay to find other people attractive it’s natural but to break a neck it’s where it becomes an issue and staring . Before he left to basic we went to a concert and I saw him staring at a girl and when she walked by he looked back . Right at front of me. What should I do? Is it really a habit ?
2024.05.15 06:35 Throwra12312345678 Does your WS from time to time talk about struggling and bring up needing space and possibly separating even when R has seemingly been going well?
Or is that kind of off the wall and counterproductive to R?
I’ll try to make this as short as possible, I had a while post typed out but it was rejected because I copied a couple of my WH messages. We’re only about 4 weeks in from dday2.. after a false R that was about 2.5 months of which He went back to seeing his AP multiple times a week after only a month. It’s been difficult but he’s been a little more committed to R this time. Saturday we went out to celebrate our 16 year wedding anniversary. Everything was great including the weeks leading up to this night. However at one point I was trying to show him a picture on Facebook and he saw that his AP was on my search history. He gave me a face and we moved on with the night things were good. Then yesterday he was in a mood and really kind of projecting onto everyone. He was being inconsistent with me too about how he wanted to spend his days off. Told me he wasn’t sure we could hang out (we aren’t living together currently) so I made plans for myself. Then he abruptly decided he now did want to hang out and I was a little annoyed. When he asked what was wrong I told him that but that conversation really went nowhere sometime go. He finally ate and felt better and we ended up staying at his place and had a great night I thought. We cuddled, Watched a movie Was very loving etc. Today everything was fine again, we talked on the phone during my lunch break For an hour. Suddenly 1.5 hours later he send me A long message about he’s Struggling because of the Facebook thing And my attitude yesterday and how that’s where he’s at and just wanted to let me Know. I told him I appreciate him Communicating that to me and explained I was sorry I and I admitted I do look up AP sometimes and I struggle still with insecurities about it all. I was just explaining myself a little and his response was
“I’m not sure what to do to fix me that’s why I’m going to start counseling and take a solo trip somewhere and really focus on myself. I feel bad when i need space because it hurts you.”
So now this is triggering some sort of abandonment wounds in me. Why is he talking like we’re splitting and doing our own things for a while I told him if he needs space I’ll give him far and I’m proud of him for getting counseling but then I go on about how I just don’t understand how we got here from Being loving before and telling me how much loves me all the time to now he Striggles and needs space.
He’s now at work and says he doesn’t k know how to respond but he feels like he’s getting grilled because he told me how he felt and i tell him its fine he doesn’t have to now and That I’m not upset.
Next thing I know he says “do you think we need to take some time? I know I need to get away for a weekend deep dive my personal issues and I’m trying to get into therapy. Is that the fix though actually separating and being happy by ourselves ? I just don’t know”
Now I’m full on panicking and telling you go take space if he needs just stop making me thinking we’re okay when we’re not. If that’s what he wants just do it. And I can’t keep doing this feeling like I’m about to be abandoned again.
He then turns it into “woah I was just asking” and”this is why I don’t express my feelings” “this is what I get for sharing my feelings”. And acting like I just went crazy because he just esp expressesd two little things that bothered him.
How would all this make you feel and did I overreact? Sometime I question if I did but this wasn’t about just his expressing the two things its more about the sudden need for space and mentioning of essentially splitting that take.
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I’ll try to make this as short as possible, I had a while post typed out but it was rejected because I copied a couple of my WH messages. We’re only about 4 weeks in from dday2.. after a false R that was about 2.5 months of which He went back to seeing his AP multiple times a week after only a month. It’s been difficult but he’s been a little more committed to R this time. Saturday we went out to celebrate our 16 year wedding anniversary. Everything was great including the weeks leading up to this night. However at one point I was trying to show him a picture on Facebook and he saw that his AP was on my search history. He gave me a face and we moved on with the night things were good. Then yesterday he was in a mood and really kind of projecting onto everyone. He was being inconsistent with me too about how he wanted to spend his days off. Told me he wasn’t sure we could hang out (we aren’t living together currently) so I made plans for myself. Then he abruptly decided he now did want to hang out and I was a little annoyed. When he asked what was wrong I told him that but that conversation really went nowhere sometime go. He finally ate and felt better and we ended up staying at his place and had a great night I thought. We cuddled, Watched a movie Was very loving etc. Today everything was fine again, we talked on the phone during my lunch break For an hour. Suddenly 1.5 hours later he send me A long message about he’s Struggling because of the Facebook thing And my attitude yesterday and how that’s where he’s at and just wanted to let me Know. I told him I appreciate him Communicating that to me and explained I was sorry I and I admitted I do look up AP sometimes and I struggle still with insecurities about it all. I was just explaining myself a little and his response was
“I’m not sure what to do to fix me that’s why I’m going to start counseling and take a solo trip somewhere and really focus on myself. I feel bad when i need space because it hurts you.”
So now this is triggering some sort of abandonment wounds in me. Why is he talking like we’re splitting and doing our own things for a while I told him if he needs space I’ll give him far and I’m proud of him for getting counseling but then I go on about how I just don’t understand how we got here from Being loving before and telling me how much loves me all the time to now he Striggles and needs space.
He’s now at work and says he doesn’t k know how to respond but he feels like he’s getting grilled because he told me how he felt and i tell him its fine he doesn’t have to now and That I’m not upset.
Next thing I know he says “do you think we need to take some time? I know I need to get away for a weekend deep dive my personal issues and I’m trying to get into therapy. Is that the fix though actually separating and being happy by ourselves ? I just don’t know”
Now I’m full on panicking and telling you go take space if he needs just stop making me thinking we’re okay when we’re not. If that’s what he wants just do it. And I can’t keep doing this feeling like I’m about to be abandoned again.
He then turns it into “woah I was just asking” and”this is why I don’t express my feelings” “this is what I get for sharing my feelings”. And acting like I just went crazy because he just esp expressesd two little things that bothered him.
How would all this make you feel and did I overreact? Sometime I question if I did but this wasn’t about just his expressing the two things its more about the sudden need for space and mentioning of essentially splitting that take.