My gf (24F) broke up with me (25M)a few days ago and I’ve been crying my eyes out. We still talk on the phone but not for long and she doesn’t say I love you back. She hasn’t told anyone we broke up. I know she needs space and she hasn’t said to stop contacting her. I can feel her love, she still loves me but doesn’t have the heart to completely stop all communications.
I know I’m not the best bf I can’t remember things but I also know I’m not the worst, I listen to her, spend so much time with her(i genuinely want to), support her, push her, hold her, feed her and just be present. My memory is not good I have to write down my passwords for anything on my phone(that’s how bad it is) and I write a lot but may have forgotten a few things in the conversation that lead to our break up. With all that I still do very much believe this can work, we communicate so well and we have the drive but sometimes we need a separation for a bit. Some little alone time may be good but too much of it and ppl just get comfortable with it.
She brought so much colour in my life and I will not lose someone who I know is really one of a kind. I have been giving her some space and allow her to be alone. But I think showing her how much im willing to fight for us also makes someone feel that love comfort her about us and our future.
I just need ideas on how to win her back, sending messages every now and then saying “how much I think of her, have a good day, eat something” sounds pretty lazy for me after all I would give her the world. I don’t have much time i have to leave for work for a few weeks and I’m worried that may be too late. I need ideas something to do, something to show how much I love her. Please help I can’t do this.

I (32m) broke up with my ex (42m) 5 years ago. He was a thief, a drug abuser, a habitual liar, and a cheater.
It was a horrible break up, and he has basically kept the mentality that we were still in a relationship, even though I kept reminding him we were not. I tried to go no-contact, but I was basically scared of him, what he would do, how he would make me feel, because he’s manipulative, so I maintained contact and a sort of FWB relationship. I had no interest in dating anyone so it was an acceptable situation for me.
Earlier this year, I fell in love out of nowhere with a man (50M) 600 miles away. It’s a long distance relationship, but we’ve already met and everything has went so incredibly smooth until last night. I absolutely adore this man, he adores me, and he has been nothing but amazing. And I’ve tried my best to be the best boyfriend I can be.
My ex has had cancer for awhile, so I’ve also tried my best to be supportive while also setting boundaries because I am in a committed relationship. Apparently my support was not enough, my distance too great, and he attempted suicide a few days ago.
Yesterday, he asked me to block him from everything, so he could remove me from his life. I complied, sent him a short message about hoping his mental health gets better, and that I will be blocking him on very possible platform, exactly as he wanted.
He went ballistic, and started spamming my boyfriend with lies about how me and him (my ex) still hook up, how I called my boyfriend short, how I basically called him a loser in many ways, and sent him a graphic video I had sent (to my ex last year) saying I send him little videos like this all the time. He said he has HIV and that he knowingly gave it to me. I don’t think this is possible, but I will be getting checked regardless.
For more context, before my boyfriend and I were “official”, I was at my ex’s house for support because he got some really bad news regarding his cancer. I got a little drunk and blabbed about my boyfriend because he kept asking questions, and it’s hard not to gush about someone you’re falling in love with. My mistake. I should have never said anything to my ex about him. At this stage in our relationship (between me and my ex where things seemed okay), I guess I thought I could confide in him about my life.
He took everything I said and twisted them into negatives.
I have not said a single negative thing about my boyfriend to my ex, or anyone, because he’s been nothing but perfect. He is literally the most amazing man I have ever met.
So last night, my boyfriend and I had our nightly call, and I, through many tears and panic attacks, tried to explain everything my ex said. I felt almost too defensive, but I’ve never had someone lie about me to such a degree, and it was horrifying.
My boyfriend was very calm and understanding, as he knows who my ex is and how unstable he is, but I fear a seed has been planted and our relationship may be tainted. He didn’t say anything like this, in fact, he was mostly worried about my safety regarding this maniac.
My ex is still finding ways to contact me, and basically said he has the power to have me and my sister fired from our jobs, and while he “would never do that”, to know what he’s capable of.
I’m getting a restraining order as soon as I can.
I feel so fucking bad for my boyfriend, that he has to experience these emotions, read all those lies, and still figure out a way to go forward with trust, and I don’t know what to do or say.
Can I recover from this? I’m losing my mind.
Tl;dr: Ex is mentally unstable and told me to go no-contact with him for his own sake. I complied. He then went and started spamming my boyfriend with lies about how I’m unfaithful and have HIV. I explained myself, and my boyfriend was understanding, and is mostly worried about my safety, but I can’t shake the feeling I’m going to lose him over this.

Guys, a few months ago I got really close to a girl at work, we talked a lot about everything, we had lunch together, we created considerable intimacy, so we enjoyed each other's company. As time went by, I became attached, liking her emotionally, in addition to the great physical attraction I feel for her, and she certainly knew/realized that. Some time passed and I ended up changing shifts at the company, and we didn't see each other again. After a period of almost a month without interaction with her, which I decided not to have so as not to feed this affection, I found out from a mutual friend that she had commented on my disappearance. After that, I decided to send a message to her and be honest, I was open, I said that I avoided seeing her so as not to collaborate with this feeling and not create expectations, being even more sincere when saying that I was in love with her, and that I would move away to not to interfere with her relationship, since she is dating. I explained my point well. Was I an asshole or a fool for telling the truth and then walk away guys? I ask because in the “age of mess” in which we live, I think this type of attitude is unusual, and I was kind of worried about what she thinks of me now, because I don't think she's very mature. Ladies, what would you think if you were in her shoes? Would the person lose credibility with you?
TL;DR: I fell in love, but she's dating, I know that doesn't happen, so I was honest/open about what I felt and then I walked away. Now confused, thinking I ended up doing wrong, and worried about what she thinks.

I live in IL. My boyfriend’s ex-girlfriend had been asking around about where I live, and I presume she found out because the other day I woke up to find that a can of clam chowder had been dumped on my car and later that day the transmission appeared to be having problems (I haven’t taken it in yet to know for sure. I know these things could be unrelated, but it’s a heck of a coincidence). Additionally, my coworker just told me she’s been messaging him and actually asked him to poison my drink (he sent me a picture of this message). She also left threatening graffiti in my boyfriend’s house before she left. Is there any legal recourse available here, or do I just need to “watch my back” (her words)?

Hello
Been self-isolating a bit too much, so let's give this a try. I'll tell you a bit about myself to start. I have 3 cats who u love to death. They are my angels. If you're nice to me, you might get some pictures of them ;) I like playing games and watching movies and series. Tell me your fav movies /series. :) I have been going through a rough patch lately when it comes to my mental health, so I'm trying to build my life up again.
I also have autism, so sorry if I'm a bit weird. 🫠
Anyway, if you think you would get along with me, please send me a message.

I am writing this review to share my experience and to let others know about what happened in this apartment. With it being a private landlord, it is not possible to leave reviews on a website or google, so I thought reddit is the next best thing. Let me start by saying - some of this is my fault for not sussing things out. I was in a bad situation before and was on a quick time crunch, so i said yes to this apartment quickly and without thinking.
This is a review of the Southside House on the corner of 14th St. S. Right next to dreamland. I lived in one of the bottom floor units. This apartment is owned by Fred Nasser.
I began renting here in April 2023 I was taking over a couple sublease. Let me say the first red flag should have been that the bedroom was EMPTY when I toured. I asked them why they are keeping it empty and not using it as the bedroom and they said they were using it for “storage” when there are literally 6 weird closets in this house. However, I just let that slide because to each their own? But I do think, in my opinion, they experienced the same thing that happened to me.
Sometime in the summer of 2023, I saw some house flies in the bedroom. Maybe like 3 of them? I thought “no big deal. maybe they just snuck in.” I come back from the gym, and there are literally at minimum 60 flies. All in the bedroom. Just on the bedroom window. They are not in the kitchen or anywhere else. I called Fred. He came out and sprayed the next day and yay he also caulked the windows completely shut and caulked dead flies into the window sill! But whatever I thought this was an old house.
Other experiences in the house - roaches. Not a full blown infestation but definitely concerning to have small baby roaches in the bathroom. Also neighbors in the upstairs who, and I am sorry to whoever is up there going through this, are in a toxic domestic situation. I would often hear someone in that apartment screaming “get the fuck out. I am going to K*ll myself” and banging so loud on one of the doors that my apartment would shake. I saw mold in the bathroom when i first moved in, and the next day it was “fixed.” Also can’t do laundry and bath at the same time because the water will be crazy. The shower frame (?) connector to the ceiling broke off due to so much water and steam eroding it away due to there not being a fan in the bathroom asked fred to come fix it…. he did not. I had to end up getting some wood to drill to the ceiling to then drill the shower frame into.
Fast forward to March 2024. The flies in the bedroom are BACK. Once again, just in the bedroom. However, this time there is a smell of rotting meat. I reach out to fred on Wednesday, and he says he will be out FRIDAY. But whatever, I will be patient. The flies continue to get worse and the smell becomes unbearable. I moved EVERYTHING out of the bedroom and into the living room. There is nothing in the actual bedroom that was causing this smell. I am updating Fred about the condition. He comes out on Friday and I text him later, as I was not in the apartment due to the flies and smell, asking him how it went. He says “Good. nothing dead.” I come back Friday evening and the flies are dead but the smell is still there. It was getting more and more pungent over the next week. I was running an ionizer to eliminate the smell, which would work for a few hours and then the smell would come back. I sent Fred a text on Friday, one on Saturday, and one on Sunday. All saying something like“Hey! I just want to let you know the flies are coming back and the smell is getting worse.” The flies were starting to come back on Saturday and continuously got worse. On Sunday…. my text did not deliver. I thought maybe he turned his phone off for the weekend. I wait till Monday. I send a text explaining how it is getting worse and there has to be something dead. My message does not deliver. I get a friend to send him a text, and it immediately delivers. I realized I got BLOCKED, or this is my opinion of what happened. This is my landlords only contact and he is also the maintenance.
I download Google Voice and text him that I need this to be taken care of as it is not livable and I will have to break the lease if not. He lets me out of the lease with it written that this will not affect my rental history or my credit. He also sends me back my full security deposit.
I am writing this to warn other people about my experience. I am concerned that someone so quickly has moved in after I moved out only 2 weeks ago. I really hope the smell and fly problem was fixed.

Am I too much?
My boyfriend and I are new. We’ve been “official” for two months now and are quite serious. We’ve discussed the word love, but haven’t really put it out there. He has stated several times that he believes I’m in love with him but that he believes I’m holding it back to protect myself. He says I should let them out. I’ve repeatedly told him I’m nervous to do so because I’m not trying to rush this already fast paced relationship and that I don’t want my feelings to be vocalized and he not feel the same way. I told him I want to make sure my feelings are safe first, and he insists that they are with him. Just this weekend, he said “what if something happened to me and you never told me?” That statement stayed in my head during the entire scenario I’m writing about.
His wife passed almost a year ago, and since we met, he insists he’s ready to move forward in life. We talk about the future, but I’ve been a bit wary because I know this is all new to him. He is an amazing man and treats me wonderfully.
He’s 56 and I’m 45 but we live about 50ish miles from one another. We make a point to see each other as much as possible. We also make a point to communicate with one another every. Single. Day. We talk every morning before work, text throughout our day, and stay on the phone several hours at night. The only time we break this routine is when one of us is out of town or away visiting family, but we discuss that ahead of time.
This weekend, he came to my hometown, and we spent an amazing weekend together. We had the best time. At the end of the weekend, we both went home, (this was maybe 10am) but I never heard of he made it home safely. I texted him around 1 just to ask. Never heard a word. Then texted around 5pm to let him know I was going to a friend’s house and would call him when I got back home. Told him I hope his day was going well. We usually do check in texts when we know we will be unavailable.
I get home that night around 10pm and ask him to just please let me know if he’s ok. I then call but it goes straight to voicemail. Then again around 12am to let him know I’m worried. I go to bed.
I wake up around 6 am and see no missing calls or messages, so I call him. Straight to voicemail again, so now I’m worried. I go to work and still hear nothing from him, so around 9:30am (24 hours later), I call back. Same thing. This is very unlike him, and I start to panic.
What would you do at this point? I really hesitate doing everything else next, but I’m worried. I call his job to give him a message to contact me. I’m ready to leave it at that and wait. I don’t have his number memorized, so I’m sure with a dead phone that he doesn’t know mine. His job calls me back around 11am and says “ma’am. You called early to deliver a message to ———. Well, I’m calling you back to let you know that ——— isn’t here for us to deliver the message. I definitely was not expecting that and my fear sets in. That was a strange phone call to me.
I’m worried he’s hurt, and especially with not hearing a peep from him for over 24 hours, I leave work early around 12pm and head his way. I get to his house, and he’s not there. I go to his job next, but I don’t go in. Instead, I call a second time. I speak with the same person, and she asks my relation. I tell him I’m her girlfriend. She pauses and says “I’m not supposed to say anything, but I’ll just say this. His family knows what’s going on with him.” I tell her thank you then hang up.
To me, that means something happened. So I go to his mom’s house. Again, I am doubting all of my actions, but at this point, I’m thinking he’s hurt. We are new and haven’t introduced one another to family other than one person. Outside of our own information and the names of our jobs, we don’t have contact info for one another, so I’m unsure what to do during all of this. I decide I’d rather be the crazy lady that did too much than sit back and not know what happened.
So, I’ve been to his mom’s house but never inside. The one time I went, it was late at night and he had to pick something up, and I didn’t want to meet her for the first time in that manner. I have met his sister briefly before. So, I’m at his mom’s house and knock on the door. I explain what’s happening and she invites me in. She does not know who I am, but that’s not unusual. If the situation were reversed, my parents would not know who he is either. She tells me he is in the hospital and that she was there earlier and he should be home later. She told me what happened which is concerning but fits with what he’s told me about his medical history.
She gives me a different phone number for him. She says he had to get another phone the day before because he cracked the one with the number I have. I call it and it just rings. Then I ask the hospital number. She doesn’t give it to me (again, I don’t blame her) but tells me the hospital name and that the system at the hospital is down.
I go to the hospital. The system is down. I ask information, and they say something about ransomeware. After a while of asking, I leave and go sit somewhere to wait. I’m praying he will call me. I text the number his mom gave me and later the number calls back, rings once then hangs up. I call it back, rings then voicemail.
After about 3 hours after getting that number from his mom, the number calls me back. It’s him, and he’s pissed. He says I did too much. He’s mad I called his job because he doesn’t want them in his business. He says he could see if it was two or three days but not one. I told him something felt off and it turns out I was right. He was in the hospital. He asked why I did it all and I told him because he went all outside of our routine in a big way. He told me we don’t have a pattern and not to look for one. We definitely have a pattern. We even talked about it this weekend and I told him how much I love his consistency. I apologized if I overstepped and said I thought we were serious enough for our actions. He said we are that serious but proceeds to say I did too much. He wouldn’t let me come to the hospital to see him and said he needed some uninterrupted time to himself so I went home. I didn’t even respond and I don’t plan to. I feel like I should just step alllllllll the way back. I also think he’s panicking because he’s only used to being loved by his late wife.
I do love this man, but it feels like he took all that love he said he saw and wanted and threw it back in my face. I’ve made it clear that I’m intense. I would have done the same had it been my parents, my kids, siblings, friends, etc. when we talk again, I know I won’t be the same. I don’t trust him with my feelings anymore.
We haven’t talked since. I’m sure he’s doubting me because I’m surely doubting him. Not once did he acknowledge what I went through to check on him. And he wasn’t trying to listen. I told him I’m happy he’s ok but I listened to my intuition which said he wasn’t and it was right. He said don’t listen to that. I told him that had I heard from him just once that he was ok, none of this would have ever happened. Are my intentions even important here?
I know my actions are a lot and this is a lot to read, so if you’ve made it this far, thank you.
Am I crazy? What would you have done? What should I have done? Do you think this is salvageable?

Understanding Django's Email Sending Issues

Email integration in Django applications is a common feature, allowing for a range of functionalities from sending notifications to users to password resets. However, developers often encounter SMTP authentication errors when setting up their Django projects to send emails. This issue can stem from a variety of reasons such as incorrect SMTP server settings, the use of less secure apps being blocked by the email provider, or even the Django configuration itself not being properly set up to handle email sending.
Diagnosing and resolving SMTP authentication errors requires a deep dive into the Django settings.py file, understanding the SMTP protocol, and possibly adjusting security settings on the email account being used. This can involve ensuring that the correct host, port, and encryption method are used, as well as configuring Django to use the appropriate authentication credentials. Additionally, understanding the common pitfalls and how to securely manage sensitive information within a Django project is crucial to both the functionality and security of the application.

Command/Setting	Description
EMAIL_BACKEND	Specifies the backend to use for sending emails. For SMTP, Django uses 'django.core.mail.backends.smtp.EmailBackend'.
EMAIL_HOST	The host to use for sending email. For example, 'smtp.gmail.com' for Gmail.
EMAIL_USE_TLS	Whether to use a TLS (secure) connection when talking to the SMTP server. This is usually set to True.
EMAIL_PORT	The port to use for the SMTP server. Typically, this is 587 when using TLS.
EMAIL_HOST_USER	Your email account you wish to send emails from.
EMAIL_HOST_PASSWORD	Password for your email account. It's recommended to use app-specific passwords if your email provider supports them.

Exploring SMTP Authentication Errors in Django

SMTP authentication errors in Django can be a significant hurdle in the development process, especially when integrating email functionalities into a web application. These errors typically occur when the Django application attempts to connect to an SMTP server to send an email, but the server rejects the connection due to authentication issues. The root causes of these errors are often multifaceted, involving misconfigured email settings in Django's settings.py file, incorrect SMTP server details, or even the use of an email account with insufficient security settings for external applications. Understanding these errors is crucial for developers, as email sending capabilities are essential for tasks such as user registration, password resets, and notifications.
To effectively resolve SMTP authentication errors, developers need to ensure that their Django settings are correctly configured with the right email backend, host, port, and security settings. It's also important to verify that the email account used for sending emails permits connections from external applications. Some email providers require setting up an app-specific password or enabling less secure app access for such connections. Additionally, debugging these issues may involve consulting the SMTP server's logs to identify the exact nature of the authentication error. By addressing these aspects, developers can establish a reliable email sending setup in their Django applications, enhancing the functionality and user experience of their web applications.

Configuring Django for SMTP Email Sending

Python/Django setup

Unraveling SMTP Authentication Challenges in Django

SMTP authentication errors in Django can perplex developers, particularly when their web applications fail to send emails as expected. These errors often stem from incorrect configurations within the Django settings, specifically within the EMAIL_BACKEND, EMAIL_HOST, EMAIL_PORT, EMAIL_USE_TLS, and EMAIL_HOST_USER settings. Additionally, such issues may arise due to the email service provider's security protocols, which may block login attempts from what it deems unsecure apps. This necessitates a thorough review of both Django's email configuration and the email account's security settings. Understanding the intricacies of these configurations is essential for developers to ensure their applications can reliably send emails, which are crucial for functions like user authentication, notifications, and system alerts.
Beyond configuration, developers must also be mindful of the SMTP server's requirements and the need for accurate credentials, including the correct use of app-specific passwords for services like Gmail. The complexity increases when deploying Django applications to production environments, where differences in network configurations can further complicate SMTP connections. Debugging these errors requires a methodical approach, including checking for typos in environment variables, ensuring that firewalls or network policies do not block SMTP traffic, and sometimes liaising with email service providers to understand their security measures and requirements. By tackling these challenges, developers can enhance the robustness and reliability of their Django applications' email functionalities.

Common SMTP Authentication Queries in Django

1. Question: Why am I getting SMTP authentication errors in Django?
2. Answer: This could be due to incorrect email settings in Django, such as the EMAIL_HOST, EMAIL_PORT, or EMAIL_HOST_USER, or because your email provider is blocking the connection.
3. Question: How do I configure Django to send emails?
4. Answer: Configure the EMAIL_BACKEND, EMAIL_HOST, EMAIL_PORT, EMAIL_USE_TLS/EMAIL_USE_SSL, EMAIL_HOST_USER, and EMAIL_HOST_PASSWORD in your settings.py file.
5. Question: What are app-specific passwords and do I need one for Django email sending?
6. Answer: App-specific passwords are unique passwords for accessing your email account from third-party apps. Yes, you might need one if your email provider requires it for added security.
7. Question: How can I troubleshoot SMTP authentication errors in Django?
8. Answer: Check your Django email configuration settings, ensure your email account allows less secure apps (if applicable), and verify your internet connection and SMTP server details.
9. Question: Can firewall or VPN settings affect Django's ability to send emails?
10. Answer: Yes, firewall or VPN settings can block SMTP ports, preventing Django from sending emails. Ensure that your network allows traffic on the necessary ports.
11. Question: Is it necessary to use EMAIL_USE_TLS or EMAIL_USE_SSL in Django?
12. Answer: Yes, these settings enable encryption for email communications, which is essential for security, especially if you are sending sensitive information.
13. Question: How do I know if my email provider is blocking Django from sending emails?
14. Answer: Check your email account for any security alerts or messages about blocked sign-in attempts, and consult your provider's documentation on allowing access to less secure apps or setting up app-specific passwords.
15. Question: Can incorrect EMAIL_PORT settings prevent Django from sending emails?
16. Answer: Yes, using the wrong port can prevent your application from connecting to the SMTP server. Common ports are 25, 465 (for SSL), and 587 (for TLS).
17. Question: How does using a third-party email service like SendGrid or Mailgun compare to configuring Django's SMTP for email sending?
18. Answer: Third-party services often provide more robust delivery infrastructure, analytics, and easier configuration but require integrating their API into your Django project.
19. Question: What should I do if my emails are sent from Django but not received?
20. Answer: Check your spam folder, verify email addresses for typos, and confirm that your email server isn't on any blacklists. Additionally, consult SMTP server logs for clues.

Final Thoughts on SMTP Authentication in Django

Addressing SMTP authentication errors in Django is a pivotal task for developers, ensuring that their web applications maintain crucial email functionalities. These errors, often rooted in configuration mishaps or stringent email provider security measures, can hinder the application's ability to communicate with users effectively. The key to overcoming these challenges lies in meticulous configuration of Django's email settings, understanding the nuances of SMTP protocols, and adhering to email providers' security requirements. Additionally, exploring third-party email services can offer alternative solutions with added benefits such as improved deliverability and analytics. Ultimately, the ability to diagnose and resolve SMTP authentication issues will significantly enhance the robustness and reliability of email communications within Django applications, thereby enriching the user experience and supporting essential application features like notifications, password resets, and user verification processes.
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dear bean
yknow i know you definitely will not care about this and you will probably tell your friends and say how desperate or annoying or needy or shitty I am, and its fine - say what you want. because honestly I couldn't care less about how you think about me but I just want to be heard from your end one final time. and yea I did say that a couple times, I've tried reaching out a couple times, I've tried being a mature person even though I was actually breaking inside. so yea, I'm sorry I lied, sorry I said it would be my last time contacting you but breaking that promise every time, but this time it really will be the last time.
honestly, I think we had a good run for the what, 4 months we were friends? i have nothing bad to say about you, and even though it was hell after whatever you would call that, I still don't dislike you or hate you or feel negative feelings towards you, cause at the end of the day, we're all humans living life and we can decide when someone isn't worth being in our life anymore (that might sound passive aggressive, it wasn't supposed to sound like that, just read it like I understand the feeling). if you're annoyed by this email - don't keep reading, I'll just go on and on and I guess this email (that I will never send) is just a way for me to reflect and understand my feelings while also giving you, the bean that I knew, a chance to come out one last time before shutting me down once and for all. yea so if you're gonna go beserk from this email, dob me out to all your friends, then I suggest you leave before I pour my heart and soul out.
you were actually really cool in my eyes, talented and smart, it was hard not to admire the determination you had and the willingness to do things. and I hate admitting it, and I know my friends hate hearing me talk about it, but I miss you and your presence. yes, sue me, no I'm not in love with you, yes you made that big of and impact on me. i was scared of you when you first joined honk, you had very sharp and cool eyes. and again - you were talented which intimidated me. but overtime, I understood that you weren't scary, you were actually so sweet and funny and really silly. i liked how you pushed yourself to try harder and new things, like clarinet 1 in honk. i don't even know how we started chatting, I think you were looking for some sheet music or something. honestly it was nice talking to you, even from the beginning. it was fresh talking to someone new, I didn't have high expectations of where this friendship would go but I was happy enough to enjoy the moment while it lasted.
and well, that moment lasted a while. we talked for a week and I could already tell that my crappy feelings would complicate things - I just never met someone so like me before. even though I didn't have strong feelings, I knew they were there, but I still chose to talk to you. how foolish right? i mean we had the same interests, music (clarinet!!), txt, twisted tales, it was a coincidence meeting someone who was like a mini me. and of course, when we started talking about crushes, I felt adrenaline and just kept going until I just puked my feelings over you. I'm not sure how you felt then when I admitted I liked you, but if it was hard for you or if it made you uncomfortable, I'm sorry. putting you in that position must have been hard so i'msorry. you said you weren't ready for anything serious, but I was just excited, too happy to find someone finally, that it didn;t occur to me how fast i might be going.
we had our issues, but i thought that we loved each other. i loved you so i thought that even though i had issues, talking it out with you was always the best way to work things out. communication is key, that's what i told myself. i guess it wasn't key, unless it's the key to making friendships break apart. i guess i just tricked myself into thinking you loved me just as much as i loved you, so i thought you had the same idea of communication as i did. and honestly i think a part of me was right, because you did try. but it was my fault, i kept bringing in other little small things that affected me and you had to put me back together. and i guess that must've been annoying cause at some point you just stopped trying. I'm not saying that that's an issue or that it was your problem, I'm under the impression it was all my doing.
looking past that, i seriously loved you so much. i neglected a lot for you - again not blaming you, i did it because i really really loved you so much and i wanted the best for you in every circumstance (even if it didn't seem like it). i left my friends a lot, my mum noticed i was getting more distant and well, after things ended i got into touch with my loved ones again, so I'm in a way grateful for you for doing that.
love is hard to describe. but i knew i had love for you. i said i loved my other crushes, Nathan, louis. but they were absolutely nothing compared to what i had for you. i had love for you that was comparable to evangeline (don't tell her that). mayve you can tell but words could not describe how or what i felt after things ended. not sure what your breaking point was, but it must have been a big point. i have 3 main points regarding this end of whatever we had:

1. what is it we even had? you said we were just friends - i accept that - but i feel like it was definitely not what i saw. and yes, maybe this is subjective BUT i don't think friends hold hands (well they do but they're not afraid to), they don't celebrate "months of friendship" (recalling every month we were "together" we would celebrate) and friends don't kiss each other's foreheads like that (and if they didn't like it, they'd stop each other). honestly, I'm cringing recalling the fucking embarrassing things i did but it needs to be addressed. i have to ask you - and there's no shame in being truthful because i don't care anymore - what did you see us as? was i a one time fling? was i seriously just your friend? did you have feelings for me then realise i was too high maintenance to handle and dropped me? or maybe there was another factor. that brings me to my next point.
2. was there another person who you realised was better? again, while an average person might see this as morally incorrect - i do not care - you're human and you can feel whatever you want for whoever you want. But i’m genuinely asking, did you? Was it the guy you liked in year 6? The one who bullied you? Call me a detective but, i remember seqc calling one night after things ended, i was back from vietnam and had slightly accepted the idea of the situation. you pulled out some messages from a boy on discord, it was of him admitting he liked you back in year 6. i looked at the date, it was the 6th of january 2023, 9 days before you had the courage to break it off with me. Did he maybe have a part in this? Did you maybe feel things weren’t working out with me and realised you had a chance with someone else so you took it? AGAIN NO SHAME - you do whatever you want to do in life, i’m not shaming you or judging you I just genuinely want to know. I also saw you posting about a boy on your story - not sure if its the same boy but if it was, i hope it went well for you. Sorry these were all the conspiracy theories i made up to cope - crazy right? Imagine what a person can do to you.
3. why did we stop being friends? Even though things didn;t work out romantically (or what i thought was romantic, you thought of as friendship), i don’t know what happened to us. You told me you wanted to be friends. I also wanted to be friends. The only reason that kept me alright was the idea that even though you don’t think of me more, i could still keep you as a friend - someone i could share my passions with and geek out over txt music with. Thats why i tried to stay friends with you. I really and truly did try to make ‘friends’ work with you. But the more i tried - the more annoyed you got. Or i think you were getting annoyed. I wouldn’t know because you didn’t tell me how you felt afterwards. I tried to make it work because you said we could be friends but you gave up on me. I think that’s what hurt me the most - breaking your word. I keep saying it, but you’re entitled to do whatever you want, but it left an emotional scar on me. I don’t want to admit it, but on the days you started at (bean's new school name), i woke up early just to talk to you, to keep you company on the bus on your first few days. Yea cringey i know, bare with me please. I thought I owed you that, i thought that being friends with you after you ended ‘things’, i had to earn my right so i tried, i really tried to be my best for you, so you felt that maybe it was worth keeping me around. And maybe, maybe i was still in love with you then. But i think you saw talking to me for three days straight at 7am was annoying and you were probably uncomfortable because it was me. I feel like you saw me as a creep - almost like a pedo. But i tried and you gave up on me, and there was a time a couple months later where we were perfectly fine, but then things just went again.

you might think I just had silly little feelings for you. but I didn't. i really had feelings for you. and I don't know if you genuinely didn't see me that way, or you didn't have feelings for me, if you just thought it was a silly little thing we had going on or if you're hiding the fact you did like me at some point. I just know that losing you as a friend really crushed me to pieces. and yes you told people you never want to talk to me or talk about me - which is fine you're entitled to your own rights - but I just wanted to get this off my chest. one last time - I promise.
I don’t know if this will get to you. It probably won’t, theres a bit too much that i wrote in here. Do you care about this still? Definitely not (I’m assuming). It’s embarrassing how much I think about this and how much i regret not letting my feelings out before you removed me as a friend on instagram and discord (or even blocking me on spotify, not sure how spotify was a way for me to get to you but whatever works i guess). This issue has been taking up my mind for the last few years, and it really does suck. But I’m gonna let it out, so im sorry if you got up to here.
Not sure how much this means to you, but you can contact me anytime if you want to let out your feelings (of life, not about this or me), i want to support you as much as i can. I can also help you with coping with school - again i don’t think you’d take me up on that but it’s always an option if you need it. I won’t make it weird, i wont bring this up again, i’ll talk to you like you’re one of my friends.
I haven’t heard much about your feelings in this - feelings of anger, regret, sadness. If you do want to share (you most definitely don’t have to), email me, text me, contact me and we can talk about how you felt too. This email was for me to finally write down what i wanted to let out and finally let go of what happened (even if you think it was miniscule, it wasn’t for me).
Life is hard, and I learnt that through you and the experience of you. So thank you for teaching me this. Thank you for showing me what love felt like, and thank you for being my first love. You made it very hard for other people because i only compared them to what I had with you. But in saying that - I made life long friends who helped me cope. And I hope you found some life long friends as well.
I hope you have a good life (in saying that, i am assuming we will never meet each other ever again - but if we do meet again disregard this).
Thanks for everything (and nothing as well) (while that sounds bitter, its more like a thank you for what you taught me - life lessons and all - but also thanks for the pain i had to feel afterwards, while that pain was not enjoyable, it was what taught me).
kind regards,
toad
to readers: i censored the names for privacy, but i called her bean (as a nickname - it really suited her), and i was known as her 'toad', hence the names.

Married, 2 kids, homeowner (with mortgage) and financially stable. Here are the main issues constantly on my mind.
Work - I'm good at what I do but easily find myself getting bored and/or frustrated. Happens everywhere I go; I'll be there for a year or two and just become disinterested. Despite having a family to support, I find myself not doing things which may eventually lead to me getting let go.
Health - I'm 35 and since the age of 10 or so, I've just felt like shit physically. Even when I was slim and quite strong (easily do 20 pull ups for example), I've felt terrible. As I've got older and had less times I've put on weight but my fatigue sometimes leaves me bed bound for a day.
Relationships - Mostly good with my wife but I have to admit, I'm a bit bored. She started following a new religion and therfore doesn't do anything Friday evenings or Saturday until sundown (Sabbath). Mainly means that when it comes to doing anything recreational, it's manly just me and the kids. We also don't do any project work like house DIY etc. Don't even watch films anymore because something may have a witch reference, refer to a "pagan" religion etc. and she would stop watching.
So, my overall feeling is life is just ticking along. Same shit every day and I pretty much just count down to pay day so I can afford to do something (mainly house improvements) that will bring so. E joy. Today, I'm at work and it's just very mundane. No one speaks with each other and everyone just had their head down working. Even having lunch as their desk.
My boss, as he does, sends me a message to do something they can easily just do themselves over our work Slack. I just got up (around 1pm), left work, came home and started typing this a couple hours later.

Hi,
i have a big issue with my new phone which i use for business. The most notifications dont work with hyperos, the monitoring app dont show the pushs, my email app also dont show notifications. No red dot, no push...i send a push debug over my own app and it comes an ok but it is not on the phone:
Starting debug: sendPush_fcm Pushing to: ["fev8ytz-QQCmQTutf8K1ud:APA91bEVSkJlnXMauXdCH3_4-AcgU5_F-5u3dMERv05lDNZ6W4ms9hOvzGz2o_rCdS5SvyjOouH94vR6x4f-yZnmoedF08RJ4fo2vZxX914CohgVn-PJLGh9fBQOSpPPZF67Qrp3N_Fl","efn9EItFT9KSMx6SxmCqJy:APA91bGFK3z4bqJhcSBxBNM-L8M0pykGlgRGxk_kgK1RVkOylsUk4e8APulyz_UAklC6Z0sZOTqTadzHECFULxEWZDbwAJdTw5xKuZu3gaGDA7uL-N0AE4uvLYEsK6DAfnAwKp072DpD"] result: {"multicast_id":3153025213461240587,"success":2,"failure":0,"canonical_ids":0,"results":[{"message_id":"0:1715698481988340%c758cb9e1938a382"},{"message_id":"0:1715698481986198%c758cb9e1938a382"}]}
On Gmail it was easy there was just the sync but i need a sync for all apps, where can i do this, i come from a Mi11 Ultra there were no prbs

Hi!
Most of my customers are heavy users of WhatsApp and i use shopfiy to allow them to place orders. I would like to give them order status and updates directly using WA and not just email or sms.
Are there any 3rd party apps which can help me do this or can I do this my self?
I am just looking to send them WA message updates on orders and pickup details when available.

A bit of context is required I (24,M) met (We'll call her Sam) on tinder in early 2021. We chatted for a bit and I ended up getting her instagram and that's where we chatted from that point forwards. Initially we were talking everyday, if not back and forth, then maybe at the start and end of the day as we were both working. Eventually I asked Sam to grab a coffee, she declined (specifically she actually ignored it the first time i asked, I'm not sure whether out shyness, or distrust or whatever, but she made it clear that she didn't have a lot of free time due to study and work when i asked why she ignored it) we continued talking anyway, a few months later, I asked again, I got the same old tune of "i'm soo busy im sorry" kinda vibe and eventually I gave up asking but we remained talking, I still very much liked her and found her pretty.
The talking dwindled, sometimes she'd take 1 or 2 days to get back to me, days became weeks, then there were periods inbetween of hearing from her more freqeuntly, then back to a week, or a day, or several weeks, it fluctuated a lot. I had just accepted that, she probably saw me as an overseas friend (shes an international student) and wouldn't ever be interested in meeting. But still we remained talking, eventually it normalised to talking to each other about once a week, this continued for almost a year I'd say, we'd share occasional funny videos, respond to each others stories and just talk about life.
Fast forward to early 2023, I asked her if she wanted to finally meet up as we'd been talking more recently, and we did. We went to a bar, had some drinks, grabbed dinner and then walked around the city, it was a great night, I felt excited because we finally met each other in person and she was lovely, soft spoken, smart and pretty, she even asked me if I wanted to grab lunch with her the next day during her lunch, and we did, and i thought this is where things would take off, but after that day, things slowly drifted back to the way things were, it would be a year before I saw her again (just this last week) and before that, we had gone months without talking at times (I had an interesting year and a lot of distractions, I'm sure Sam did too) but we still remained talking somewhat, even talking about meeting up again eventually.
Fast forward to last week, we meet up (we tried to earlier but I was going through some heavy stuff for the last 5 months that left me disinterested in taking care of myself, let alone trying to "date") we grabbed dinner, and the night was just great, conversation flowed, we were buying rounds for each other, whilst we were eating she at times would just plonk stuff from her bowl into mine and would tell me "try this", "try that" etc, we then went to get some cocktails at some different bars, we were chatting about music, cars, our lives and stuff, I was smitten by her, we then went and got ice cream and we were sharing them with spoons and then I walked her back to her apartment, hugged, said goodbye (we also promised we'd see each other soon). I was sold that I really liked this girl, shes gorgeous, I love her energy, her sweetness, she is quite literally a breath of fresh air in an unfortunate dating history of mine where I've been strung along/lied to. I LIKE this girl a lot. I can't get her out of my head, we talked a bit the next day, and now the talking is starting to diminish again, for example we spoke on sunday, then she didnt respond to me til yesterday, which was just a video (she didn't actually reply to anything I said, which isn't totally unusual she has done that before) and I'm just stuck wondering what she thinks of me, everyone I've spoken to said that was a date.
I was going to send her a message the night of that basically would have said that I have feelings for her, and I would want to know if im barking up the wrong tree looking for a relationship with her but was talked out of it by a friend, but eventually I'll have to say something, whether that results in her not wanting any kind of serious relationship or not, I just need to get this off my chest. Any tips for me? Feel free to ask any questions, this is a rather layered story. I know some of you are probably thinking, 'the fuck is wrong with this guy? shes clearly not interested' or 'shes using you' but like man the date/catch up was genuinley so good, that's why im so fucking confused. Is it me? is it her? What should I do?
btw we have agreed to see a movie sometime in the next two weeks. aswell go out to dinner w some of her friends eventually too

I withdrawed £110 it had been 5 business days. I told Vinted I have not received the money. They told me to wait a bit more. I did then they told me to send me all my bank statements I did and then they told me to get assi business days. I told Vinted I have not received the money. They told me to wait a bit more. I did then they told me to send me all my bank statements I did and then they told me to get a signed letter from the bank and they said it’s not a signed letter so I asked them what type of letter do you need? A bank statement or what and then vinted messaged me back saying if you’re not satisfied, we can’t do anything about it and we cannot give you a refund and this is final what a joke

Grabbed a handful of cars recently. When I got home & took them out to see what I got, I found this lovely surprise. You can cleary tell iys a piece of bloody BANDAID! I called Matel & their solution is they want me mail them the car & bloody band-aid, then when they get car back they'll send me 5 random cards from the current line. Idk about you, but 5 random cars (prob all fantasy with my luck) is not going to make me forget I found a dirty bandaid, INSIDE the blister pack.

Without going into too much detail, my girlfriend [22F] and I [26M] have been in a happy and loving relationship for about 2 years. Since about three months ago, things have been getting kind of rocky and we've had arguments over simple things. Most of the time its something I have done or said that unintentionally hurt her. Its gotten to a point where we have a fight at least once a week now. She loves me so much but I'm afraid that love is slowly fading because of things I am saying that hurt her. She's a very emotional person so things I wouldn't think would hurt her sometimes do and that's something I have to learn.
We had a small fight yesterday and today she suggested we take a small break of one week to focus on ourselves. At first I thought it was a good idea but the more I read on it the more people say its terrible and only delays the inevitable. To be clear, this break isn't one where we see other people. Its just a self-healing break where in the end we hope to have the same love for each other that we did at the beginning of our relationship. We are limiting our messages to just good morning and good night and we won't see each other for a week.
Is this a bad idea? I can't see my life without her and I know she feels the same with me so I want to do what ever it takes to make this successful. Does anyone have any advice?
TLDR
Girlfriend and I have been getting into a lot of fights recently and we decided to take a one week break to heal and understand. Is this a good idea? How can we make it successful?

My ex was a narcissist and his ex harassed me for years while we were together. He cheated on me with her multiple times and she was cruel to me sending me evidence to hurt me. I will not be responding. I don’t even feel this was true accountability she’s just blaming him.
“(My name) I don’t want to cause you any further emotional turmoil. I’m just really glad that you got out and I’m sorry that I let my own insecurities rule their ugly head and allow him to continue to use me for his own narcissistic needs. He has major trauma and mommy issues that went untreated for too long. I just hope his new girlfriend has a more healed version of (his name). I really relate to your poetry and I never meant to hurt you was just stuck in an addicting cycle of breadcrumbs for so long. The voice in my head was tainted by his own self worth making me feel like i wasn’t worthy and it caused me to need his stupid fucking validation. I’m happy for you and your new life, I hope you truly believe it all happened for a reason. There’s so much life to live but it took (his name) destroying me to realize I don’t need a catalyst to finding my own self esteem. When people treat us as worthless they become our teachers in finding our own innate worth outside of a man or society. I speak from my heart and soul I am sorry for what you have been through and I am sorry for what I have been through. Please know I wish you no ill will 🫶🏼”

Hi guys. I was muted multiple times for trading. Now im in mute for 11 days. Last mute was after i messaged in global with information of loot from Heist grind. like "ive got x divines x chaos x stackdecks from 27 blueprints" and haters in chat reported me for nothing. And GGG support side of toxic hate-reporters. I think im not guilty.
Sended a lot of emails and PM to support with screenshots and nothing. They just dont understand my language and cant read chat and make sure that im not guilty.
i think this new Mute system is unfair and crazy. 11 days not a big like 1400 days for Toucans but anyway. Im dissapointed and wanna go delve for a two weeks(

One year ago my husband(34m) and I(27f) were at marriage counseling and it came out that my husband was finding random girls on Facebook and instagram and sending them compliments and leaving comments on their posts regarding their looks. And had been doing this over our entire relationship, even while I was depressed and contemplating suicide he was messaging other girls (with no answers)
With the suggestion of the marriage counselor and my own personal counselor it was recommended that social media be deactivated while we try to better the marriage, his counselor also co-signed on this. After a while and a lot of arguing he did it.
A couple of months later, while at a store together my husband stopped a girl to compliment and ask her about her jacket, she looked uncomfortable but answered and walked away. I was annoyed but went about my day. A few days later he does something similar while complimenting a girls glasses.
I took that to my therapist and she encouraged me to talk to him about why I didn’t like it, specifically because he does not talk to me or compliment me in that manner and it was bringing back social media vibes.
A month later my sisters baby father accused my husband and sister of sleeping together, called me and told me they were actively fucking as we were on the phone. This was false as my husband was in bed sleeping with me in that moment, baby daddy later apologized for the accusation.
April. He asks for Facebook back, says it’s for networking for his business and to connect with people to find a better job. I told him I wasn’t comfortable. Over the course of the same conversation multiple times I eventually got fed up and told him he’s clearly going to do what he wants despite my discomfort so do whatever. A week later his now active account pops up and we argue because he didn’t inform me that he had reactivated it.
Mind you in all of this, no actual progress has been made in rebuilding trust, I say all of this^ because I’m explaining that every time I tried to bring my guard down something else happened.
Now flash forward to three days ago. I wake up and open instagram. First thing that pops is people you may know with a user name similar to my husbands. I open it. It’s got 8 followers and is only following one person a female with a private account. But the private account is following my husbands main account which is alive and well.
Idk if you know but instagrams deletes deactivated accounts after 30 days… it’s been like eight months since he got off of social media. But here is the account alive and well. I confronted him with this. He claims that he told me he was reactivating it because there’s a Japanese distributor that prefers contact via instagram and he swears he told me about this.
I told him I want him off social media because I feel disrespected. He says no. He says go ahead and file then when I say I’m done. He proceeds to bring divorce up again after this conversation after I kicked him out of the room to go sleep in the guest room.
Since divorce was brought up I told him he has a choice to make deactivated social media and we can find a new therapist to aggressively work on our marriage or he can file for divorce.
He refuses to deactivate.
Am I wrong to then go ahead and file?

Yo, thanks for clicking on!
I'll try and keep this pretty simple. So like the title says, I am currently looking for a roleplay partner or two to write for X-Men with! I've been really into the franchise lately, and I thought I'd try my luck here!
Just a few things before I get into the meat of this post;
I by Skulk online, I am twenty years old, and I use she/her and he/him pronouns. I am open to all genders, sexualities, and identities when it comes to both my writing partners and the characters involved in roleplay. However, I am NOT interested in roleplaying with anyone who is under the age of 20. If you are younger than 20, this ad is not for you.
I write in the third person and I write several paragraphs per response. This can range from a shorter reply of one or two paragraphs to an upwards of ten defending on the scene and how much set-up is needed. While I do not want every reply to be a novel, I would rather write with a partner who can write a few paragraphs each response and give me something to work with. I also only roleplay over on Discord!
I am very OOC friendly and having an open line of communication is a must for me. I cannot get invested in a story if I don't at least have some rapport with my roleplay partner. Adding onto that, if you are patient with me then I will be patient with you! Life comes first, always; I am more than happy to give you the time that you need.
With that out of the way, let's get into the actual roleplaying part of this post;
Like I said above, I am currently looking for someone to indulge in an X-Men roleplay with. I am looking to explore all sorts of dynamics; familial, platonic, romantic, rivalry, antagonistic- if you can name it, I'd be willing to give it a shot! Just below are listed the shows I know best and would be interested in roleplaying with, along with some canon characters I would like to write for!
X-Men '97: Morph, Storm, Madelyne, Nightcrawler, Rogue.
Wolverine and The X-Men: Storm, Nightcrawler, Rogue, X-23, Emma Frost, Angel/Archangel.
I would also be down with brainstorming our own timeline, so if that's something you'd be interested in, feel free to ask!
In terms of romantic dynamics, I'm down for Canon x Canon, Canon x OC, and OC x OC. I am a bit picky when it comes to romance, though don't be afraid to ask if there's a specific pairing you'd like to try out!
Thank you all for reading! Feel free to send me a message if you see something that interests you, and have a good rest of your day!

Alright, so long time member of reddit since the good old days, first time posting. So this morning, while attempting to unlock a phone linked to my live in girlfriend, ended up in one of what looked like many message threads that involved what most would describe as a honeypot(not sure if this is the correct terminology) essentially what looked to me like ~10 different threads with men going back and forth flirting very sexually, with the first one finding the most explicit of the content, full nudes of her, as well as plenty of non naked pictures sent to these males, most of which I have to assume that she has indeed met in person, due to the fact that she often will disappear with my vehicle to go to the casino(she never tells me this, always excuses that she is actually not at the casino, generally lying pretty badly as I am not stupid and have been in a relationship with a frequent cheater before.)
Full disclosure, it is not like I completely made a real stand against this type of thing, and in fact before at one point I was complicit and gave her a picture that I had received from a female that was essentially an ass shot with lace panties on. This fact had made me I guess just assume that the boundary was set that I would most likely not be ok with this type of thing happening with real pictures of her, although that conversation was not really ever had. So now while I am a firm believer of the fact where if you feel the need to go through your significant others phone at all, the two of you should not be together in the first place. Therefore in the multiple years we have been together (admittedly, the relationship was fairly casual at some points, and some people had referred to her as my dog watcher in the past. Even I was someone who made some comments in this vein but this was many years ago now.)
Generally it would go in a cycle of becoming more serious, then her doing something such as taking the car to get groceries, but disappearing for days. This fact being a serious red flag and not to mention that I basically have PTSD from my previous ex taking my vehicle to go have sex with and seemingly short(?) relationships with other dudes, which I had most definitely disclosed to her many, many times, which was a fact that was most definitely ignored, and had zero effect on her actions. It would seem a lot of the time that when things would get more serious between us, shortly after there would be something in which I would feel as a betrayal, and once again things would become more casual.
That being said, I am certainly guilty of talking to other females, such as my ex, during these times. So, all of these facts, leads me to today, where I am feeling like this should be the much needed end to a series of events filled with a lack of honesty, and a general disregard on her side for my boundaries, that I have made sure to communicate. She is of course taking the stance that since I knew that she got money from guys, that I should have basically known and put two and two together. While I had definitely kept that thought in my mind, I was basically just trying to trust her and thinking that maybe she is just really good at talking, or maybe using other girls pics like the time I gave her the pic to get money from the one guy.
Now, as for physical interactions, it is up in the air as I was pretty disgusted by what I saw and didn't feel like reading every word in every thread in order to see if anything physical had actually happened. There had been a recent attempt by an old acquaintance of mine to basically come onto her in I assume his car at the casino and she said she denied him completely, and that was at least corroborated by a mutual friend that I had ask the guy in a way that he wouldn't lie.
On top of all of this, she has been without a job for ~6 months now and money is very tight. The money she got from these guys has in no way been disclosed to me or shared with me, while as I am currently a full time student (wasted 7 years of my life homeless and using drugs, currently recovering addict, same as her, except when we started living together she was still using.) . I was wanting to kick her out and move on when she began disappearing with my vehicle, just due to the fact that I communicated so many times what my ex had done, and how this would affect me. Basically to this day I have to more or less physically keep the car keys from her, or else she will disappear to the casino. So, my fellow redditors, is this a dumpster fire that should have ended years ago like I truly believe, or was the fact that she had gotten money from guys in the past and I was "ok" with it (with her definitely knowing that I would never be okay with her doing anything with them, just never specifically talked about the sending of explicit pics that are actually her.) She says the pics are like 5 years old and is taking the stance that that makes it better in some way and that she has never cheated on me. Sorry about the long and complicated backstory, and we have been more or less together for 4 years now.
TL:DR Girlfriend who I knew received money from males, turns out was sending nudes and overall going way further than I know for a fact that she knew I would not be okay with this, at all, this also being proven by the fact that in a similar past situation, I gave her a picture I had received in the past of a different girl, to satiate the guy, to receive money.
Also sorry about the formatting and kind of just vomit of text, my headspace is not great right now as I have also been up all night working on homework, to then now find this all in the early morning. Thanks in advance reddit. As a user of this site since its infancy, I decided that you scholarly gentlemen would be able to diagnose this situation much better than I would. Should this be over, as I truly believe, or have I just been naive and have too high of expectations?
Edit: There is one more aspect of this whole situation. She would essentially be homeless (again) if I were to kick her out. Wondering about opinions on how I should navigate that part of things. Much love to those putting in their two cents, this is what makes this site so great.

Heya! These posts/introduction messages always feel awkward and forced for me 😅 so buckle up 🤪…
Let’s get what I’m looking for out of the way, as no sense in taking up more of your time if it’s obvious that we aren’t a fit.
What I’m seeking:
As of current, my primary interests align most with a FWB situation, but I am open to any form of connection that develops organically between us (including simple friendship). I’m relatively open with regard to availability, though in an ideal world you would be open to seeing each other 1-2+ times a week. I’m attracted to a wide range of personalities and body types, so it can be hard to relay my interests there and is usually best just to connect and see if we click or not. I guess in the end, I’m pretty flexible in my interest and desires.
It’s also important to note that I do not smoke or drink at all. I don’t judge if you do either, but I will say that being around cigarette smoke is likely to be a dealbreaker for me. As for weed, I hate the smell, so I just ask that you please avoid smoking it around me. Vapes are fine, just please don’t blow them in my direction as I personally don’t care to breath that in. Alcohol I have no problem being around in all capacities lol get plastered for all I care.
A bit about myself:
It’s always hard to gauge what to share to the world in “bios” like this..I’ll try to highlight some of my most prominent characteristics and details 🤷‍♂️.
Let’s start physical. I’m 6’7”, definitely a dad bod with a bit of a stomach, 33 years young, long brown curly-ish/wavy hair (admittedly facing some male pattern baldness at my forehead hairline, so doing what I can with what I’ve got while I can 🤷‍♂️), brown eyes, wear glasses (if that matters to you at all), maintain a beard at all times (take the hair where I can, right? 🤪🤷‍♂️), and wear a size 19 shoe (putting that out there as it’s always a shocker 😆). No, I never played basketball for any teams growing up, but did play pickup games often after high school. The weather is just fine “up here” 🤪. As for style, or lack thereof 😆, you’ll likely always see me in some form of graphic or plain T-shirt with likely some form of shorts (I love the cold and hate being hot) year round, though every now and then I’ll change it up with pants and/or pollos 🤷‍♂️. I want to be more stylish tbh, but I don’t have the eye for good style, I’m colorblind, and often don’t feel other styles would suit my looks 🤷‍♂️. Speaking of looks, standard bearded Caucasian nerd looking dude lol, though when people see me, they might be quick to assume I’m the standard white conservative Christian type, when in reality I’m far from such (curse the genetics and looks I was born into 😭).
Kink friendly, so any questions or curiosity around such please feel free to bring up and discuss with me further.
I think that’s a good start on physical attributes, let’s move on to the internal ish…
Gah this section is much tougher to fill out 😅. Look, I just love just about everybody, will generally give everybody the time of day and benefit of doubt, can strike up a convo with just about anyone (though sometimes I need the other person to engage the start of that convo 😅), and would do my best to help and protect anyone around. I just want the best for everyone, ya know? I’d say i lean more extroverted, but do battle a moderate amount of social anxiety that im sure you’ve picked up on by now..you’d likely think im more introverted with how often I stay home and how little I randomly reach out to friends/others. It’s not that I don’t love getting out and about and don’t care to talk to my friends, I just get so caught up in my day to day life that it just doesn’t cross my mind, OR I get social anxiety (especially if I haven’t spoken to someone in a long time, I always worry they think I don’t care about them and our friendship).
Beyond this, it’s hard to list my other qualities, so I’ll just move on to interests and maybe that’ll help highlight more?
My Interests:
Can’t help but feel kind of boring and basic when filling out this section 😅. I feel like it’s a lot of what most people list as their interests and that my list is small/limited/boring. Travel Culture/language Food Music (very large and eclectic taste in music) Gaming of any form (video, board, etc) Puzzles/challenges/sports (I love a good challenge, so huge kudos if you are competitive) Technology (always fascinating what we are making in this world) I’d like to learn to dance but right now I’m very self conscious about my terrible dancing (I feel awkward 😔)
Disinterests: Low hanging ceiling fans and light fixtures 🤪
Details regarding my current Poly configuration:
I’m happily married with one child. If I do take on any new partners I never expect you to take on any form of relationship or responsibility for the rest of my family beyond just maintaining a safe space through proxy. My wife and I practice kitchen table Poly, so we are completely open to everyone happily interacting together, but if you aren’t comfortable interacting with the rest of my family no problem! Ask if you have any further questions on how we Poly ethically, happy to answer any questions!
Anyways, I’ve made this long enough…if you’ve made it this far, thank you so much for taking the time to read my post to entirety! Even if we aren’t meant to connect, you and your time are greatly appreciated! Sending my warmest regards and a friendly virtual hug ❤️.