Achy back headache fatigue

I know this isn’t a relationship forum, but I would love to get some validation from my fellow brides.
Since planning our wedding, my fiancé and I have been going through hard times. To put it in perspective, I am going through graduate school, working full time, and planning my wedding all at once.
I’ve been rife with anxiety, decision fatigue, and stress which means I have grown a bit distant from my fiancé. He is worried about the position we are in and the fact that I have little time or patience with him at the moment. In effect, I’ve been very exhausted and in my own head about things, which is disrupting communication and romance between the two of us.
Do you all have any ideas on how I can destress or grow closer with him during this tough time. (Before you suggest, we are looking to jump back into couples therapy since his schedule is allowing it at the moment.)

Alright, so after playing around 50 games on CoH3 with all 4 factions and all game modes, here's my verdict based on a comparison to CoH2:
Positive aspects of CoH3:

Visually pleasing graphics
More realistic squad size mostly
Qol improvements (auto reinforce, autovaulting, tank riding)
More units variety and a pleasing light vehicle play
In game currency easier to reach
Includes never seen before units
Every faction has access to an ambulance and can tow weapons and recrew on front

Now, what's to be improved by priority:
1)High priority:

The sound effects, has been said a lot but man...where to start ? Well first of all the units being attacked cues should be given priority over everything else, the problem is that the battles, especially team battles are a sound-fest, the "our point is being captured" shout gave me a serious headache (literally lol), it should be down toned or selective to only the points you personally defend, or you could have the player have the option to select which point he wishes to know about constantly. The voice line could be replace by a sound cue maybe. The explosions are loud but they don't seem really well made too.
The vehicles movement! Man.. the "you always have to press reverse command" thing just doesn't want to stick with me. Maybe it's a me thing, but come on, at least on short distances we should be able to move backwards without extra micro. It's just a habit from Coh2 maybe.
Certain call ins are waaaaaay too oppressive, so much they make the game end (yes I'm looking at you Carpet Bombing) they definitely need to be toned down, call ins are supposed to be a bonus to swing the pendulum of a balanced fight your way, not a goddamn supernova that falls on your army.
Balance and game flow : so much to say here it could warrant it's own post.

2)Low priority (opinion) : I'm not gonna pretend that my opinion here should be THE opinion, but I've noticed a few things :

indirect fire takes a lot of place in the game, which forces everyone to play it and get mobile infantry only besides the fact that mobile infantry is already more useful and powerful than line static infantry due to the fact it can push, decrew team weapons or force retreats more easily, the new high health based system of combat makes them not drop models when approaching enemy defensive troops in their cover. It is a bit too much.
Faction balance in the current meta forces players into repetitive play styles : USF ranger blobs, ukf double Australian triple infantry, Dak just stalls until their late game vehicle play and has to play like pussy, wehr just spams team weapons until they can unleash a mass of pz4 or panthers. It reminds me of the funny days of coh1 back when the series was trying to find its way, the lessons from CoH2 final patches should be duly copied, the str genre is a delicate flower to balance and find a consistent pleasure in each game without it being a chore or boring or frustratingly unfair, I rq'd two times already due to a ranger blob and a carpet bombing, while I never rq'd in Coh2 ever.

TL;DR : just read the damn thing come on.
Thanks.

I brokeup with him because he dosent respect me at all he is completely narcissistic has anger issues. he always says something in the heat of the moment that makes me cry and then he regrets it later. he has even physically hurt me a couple of times. But he apologised immediately.
its been 2 years since we are in a relationship and I brokeup with him like a two months ago. I don't know if i should call it a breakup bcoz we are still in touch its just we don't live together anymore. he has been begging me to come back. he promised he will change.
he even joined anger management classes and therapy. I just found from his brother that since we brokeup he has starting consuming sleeping pills he can't sleep at night. he is suffering from headaches . he is always in his room he has totally isolated himself .he dosent eat at all. he is laying in his bed 24/7. he has completely cut off his friends. he has gone all quiet. I'm really worried. I cant see him like this I feel like he is suffering from depression.also I have seen some improvements like his anger reduced he dosent yell anymore. I just dont want him to suffer i want him to be okay. should I go back to him?? I don't know what should I do.

25M, 125lbs, 5’9, moderately active, don’t smoke/drink, 2-4 cups of coffee daily Medications: Flovent, abuterol, Allegra most days, Benadryl occasionally Medical HX: silent asthma (for dust allergies), reguka, allergies (mostly dust mites for severe symptoms), Fam history: DAD- psoriasis, acid reflux Mom- Idiopathic ventricular arrhythmia (went into cardiac arrest once), small stroke from unknown cause (heart healthy, potentially the irregular contractions)
Okay, so I went to an urgent care because I was having asthma problems and ran out of my rescue inhaler, and I have to wait till mid June for my allergy appointment. I also noticed my right lymph node was swollen and frankly it might be considered “hard” lol. Anyways I had my medicine but I started getting chest pain while breathing in and hiccuping. I went back for that in the last week, and it had been 2-3 weeks since my last appointment at least. The last doctor told me I probably just had a viral infection, but when I went back this time the lymph node softer but still pretty swollen and firm. My left lymph node was bigger before my last appointment but it went down and it’s still down. Now the doctor gave me medicine for heartburn and I think that’s what it is, after the feeling has moved a couple days and it’s always cured by drinking water and gets worse when doing things that make acid reflux worse. My problem is that it has been nearly 3/4 of the time burning, and even after taking a PPI it still burns some while laying on my back (I tried differently). I have a doctors appointment in a week, but I was concerned due to the persistence and how often the reflux has been happening. It’s pretty painful but not like unbearable. I wanted to know what level of consistency or severity should I just go to the ER for? I don’t want to wait until I’m bleeding out honestly. I searched it up some and it seems like I definitely need to get help, but I’m not sure whether to wait for doctor or just go to ER now. The weird part is the pain started 3 days ago and I’d never had it that bad or for that long before. Idk why all of a sudden it’s long and persistent. I didn’t think it happened that way for my family, and I was concerned that the frequency might cause serious damage if it doesn’t have time to heal or rest. Can someone help me get an idea of when I should go to he ER? The urgent care already did what they could, but they weren’t sure if acid reflux was the problem. Should I go back there in the meantime?
I’ve also been having episodic allergy and immune problems. Achy and stuff fingers in morning, dry mouth in morning, red spots on knuckles, stomach ache/slowing of stomach, stuffy nose, loss of smell, occasionally skin burn feeling, and asthma. The thing is usually those things were correlated with the amount of dust allergens I had in my apartment, but now they seem to be just happening. The asthma is relatively controlled now but I was using my inhaler a few times a day a week or two ago. But usually the asthma happens first and then other symptoms come on. This feels like the inflammation is just doing separate from the dust allergens. Also I’ve gotten those falling asleep jerks that wake me before I completely sleep, and I believe sometimes they make me move and sometimes I don’t move that much but I feel like I did. Recently my prostate has also been twitching during those and sometimes before being partially asleep, and it’s hard to pee so I thin t might be swollen. I’ll feel an urge to bee but then I have to push super hard to get it out. Then sometimes I just have to pee super duper fast. You can Dm me for advice too, I just really don’t want to have anything happen to me. I personally wouldn’t care that much, but I just couldn’t imagine leaving my partner alone. So I just want to take it seriously, I could never imagine leaving my partner behind. That woulf be one of the most painful things I could ever ezpwrience.

Basically when I say "exploit", I'm talking about when the designers end up creating a card or a stragety that becomes too powerful inadvertedly because they didn't see (Or underestimated) the interactivity with other cards. They eventually have to nerf one or two other cards to make them more fair when competing (And that's when they actually get around to it if ever). Here's the ones I think:
1: Mana cheating. This is when players figure a way to give themselves nearly unlimited mana to use all the cards they want in one turn. Often is combined with another exploit. This could be done by lowering mana cost to 0 for all their cards and/or finding ways to restore their mana over and over.
2: Infinite Card generation. This is when players figure out how to keep respawning the same cards over and over to exploit their effects, like stacking abilities, powerful battlecries, etc. This is often made problematic with the above exploit of mana-cheating so they never run out, often potentially sealing the game for them if not in one turn.
3: Battlecry spamming. Let's face it: Battlecries are some of the most powerful card effects in the game. They can often swing the game completely around. The problem is when players figure out how to use infinite card generation (often combined with mana cheating) to get the same extremely powerful battlecries back into their hand so they can use them over and over again. This is often the fault of rogues and priests, though mages and shamans have been guilty of this too. Its why the Deepminer Brann card was such a problem and had to be nerfed twice.
4: Fatigue protection. Fatigue is supposed to be set up so games don't run forever. However, sometimes players can cheat their way to outliving their opponent by making sure they never run out of cards (like jade druid) or make themselves immune to fatigue damage (Fatigue warlock). This isn't as bad as the above three, since this can be a lot trickier to pull off than others.
5: Too much armor. A rare exploit, but I've found it sometimes that players can finds ways to get armor not just above 100, but even close to a thousand. At that point, they can just wait out the other player and win by fatigue alone. Though rare, it can be hard to beat down your opponent if they have too much armor from an exploit (and don't say Platebreaker, because almost no one carries it because again, this exploit is rare). My only suggestions are either create a new anti-armor ability (say like Piercing where damage bypasses armor and attacks health) and/or put a hard cap on armor like 100.
6: Double down. Referring back to DMB, when effects are doubled, they can be completely devastating. An effect that is bad enough just being hit by once can completely seal the opponent's fate happening twice in the same turn. Combine that with the other mentioned exploits, such as Battlecry spamming, and you get a game that feels no longer fun.
So why do these happen? Because the card designers are human and can't account for everything. We may not like it, but we can only deal with it as it happens and hope for the best they correct their mistakes and learn from it.

hello! i’m 19F and have had HS since a little after puberty(5-6 years). in november of 2024, I decided to see a specialist for it and she prescribed me 50mg Spironolactone for it. I have mild HS but I still get flares and the scarring is brutal.
anyway, I went on spironolactone and it was fine, I didn’t feel any side effects so we upped my dosage to 100mg. around january, I began having headaches almost daily and it was horrible. i hadn’t realized that it was probably the drug so I stayed on it until april. the headaches were probably also in part due to low water consumption (ik that you need to drink tons, but even on days where I did, I would always get headaches). so I took myself off it and didn’t tell my derm because i was afraid of what she’d say and it was finals month and I couldn’t get through that with a constant headache.
i’ve been off it since, but now i’ve noticed pimples in the area and overall redness appearing. it makes me want to get back on spiro but at a 50mg dose. i’m worried that maybe taking myself off spiro so suddenly maybe caused my HS to worsen/ come back?? when I was on it, I didn’t have any active flaring so now I kind of regret coming off it just for it to start back up. I don’t want it to keep worsening and don’t know what to do. is it because I took myself off?? do I get back on it at a lower dose and stay on it?
also, I’ve noticed a lot more blackheads in my groin area and wonder if anyone knows how to prevent/ treat them. i’ve tried popping them but the skin is so sensitive I can’t get a good grip lol. any tips? i’m desperate

so I've have have so much pain through my head spreading through my arms and back. At first thought it was my carpel tunnel in my left arm but i think that's something different but my blood pressure has been getting very high. My anxiety does raise the blood pressure up but here lately it's been raising it up high and im only 24. I'm getting bad headaches and random pains my head is sensitive all that. ANYWAYSSSSS I am scared to death, i am already i hypocondriac where i obsess over my health and just my thought alone have been raising the BP very high. i have read that ON can cause extremely high blood pressure. I'm wondering if im going to die bc idk how long i have already had it, and last night my bp was the highest its been but i see my doc Monday and I'm scared something is going to happen between that time like a heart attack. ik ON causes stores when it spreads out through the body which the pain has already spread though my body.... is there a cure and will i die... I'm scared bc my blood pressure is high rn and my heart hurts from last night bc of how high it was i think i may have had a mini heart attack without knowing and ut damaged my heart idk why it feels weak n damaged but just need some reassurance also what tests do i need to take to be diagnosed with it and can they do that in the ER

My husband (30m) and I (30f) have been together for 8 years, and have a 6 year old. I home school our child. I work as a makeup model part time. I don't have a 9-5 job like my husband does. He works from home full-time in a customer service job. We also have cats and dogs, so naturally we both care for them. I care for them throughout the day, and at the end of the night, my husband will go around and feed whoever needs fed and scoop the litter boxes one last time. I do the dishes everyday and laundry as well as picking up random things throughout the day, like all moms do. I'm usually the one who does any bathing of the animals because my husband gets really anxious bathing the cats and dogs. Obviously, with a child, dogs and cats, it gets messy fast.
I've been sitting and reading the past couple days, except when my daughter needs something, because I have PMDD, which is basically severe PMS. Which means I get really bad cramps, back pain and fatigue leading up to my period. I also get dizzy a lot when my period starts because I have POTS syndrome and mild anemia, which makes me dizzy a lot of the time in general. So, when I start to feel badly leading up to my period, I HAVE to take it easy.
A couple of days ago, my husband got angry with me because I hadn't been able to do many chores the past couple days, and he said that it wasn't too much to ask for help. I told him to chill out, that it's just been the past couple days. I hadn't been feeling well. Then he said I shouldn't act like he's mean and I'm a victim. That made it impossible to defend myself and say anything.
When my husband started complaining, I tried to talk it out at first. I tried to come up with suggestions to lessen any messes. But he started telling me that every time he comes down, all I'm doing is sitting and I haven't moved, and it wasn't too much to ask to ask for help. I told him that I didn't think it was too much to ask for, but that I didn't think he was speaking kindly to me, and this is the worst day for pain I'd had in a while. He just said, "everyday is the worst day for you," and he repeated it again a few minutes later.
Him saying this made me feel badly, and he didn't seem like he was going to calm down about it, so I eventually just stopped talking and left the room. The last two days, I've been feeling really poorly physically. I don't even feel comfortable talking about it around him. It'll just annoy him, even if he doesn't say so. My husband has went back to normal and has been trying to be loving, but I'm not feeling it. I'm still hurt.
Would it be best to talk about his earlier statements, or better to just keep it moving and not mention it?
TL;DR My (30f) husband (30m) said rude things about my health when he was complaining about the state of our house. Should I talk to him about what he said, or not mention it?

Please don’t take your loved pets here. I took my two Havanese here for a 7 day stay.They normally stay at another location but they were on vacation during this time. At firstyou would think it was a great place.However it’s a complete horror show. We paid for a suite with a television and camera that you can monitor your pets 24/7. We brought our dogs kennel for them to feel more comfortable sleeping in.We asked the staff to feed them in the kennel, that has a divider, with the door closed then let them out after because there can be some food arguments. We also asked them to lay out potty pad that we provided bc our dogs are pad and outdoor trained.First night they were locked in their kennel no access to the potty, or water.Then second night locked out of the kennel without food and had to sleep on their potty pad. Third, locked back in. So we called from our international trip. Explaining again what we wanted bc typing it out was not good enough. We also saw one of our dogs wasn’t eating. We asked for them to put green beans in his food we provided.They told us they did. We noticed our dogs were brought in early one day from play both completely exhausted. Finally door was left open and had food. Kennel dirty. We pick the dogs up and they are acting so strange. Fatigued and when they get home one just begins snarfing food. He had lost three pounds while there. I unpack their bags and five days of food had not been give to him.They literally didn’t feed my 11 pound dog.They both had upper respiratory infections they were so sick. We did get a refund back but bc of the dogs illness we had to cancel our next trip that was memorial weekend.The people who look after your dogs there are young, they don’t care, clean, or take anything seriously.They sit on their phones during outdoor playtime when there is 35 dogs in a group. They lie to you.They never put green bean in my dogs food.I would advise against going to this facility. They almost killed one of my dogs.

hey guys. i'm 25f and like 145lbs-ish. family history of degenerative disc disease. no scoliosis. i also work a desk job.
some backstory; on 5/5, i went to a family celebration with my boyfriend. while i was there, i was playing with his 6 month old nephew who is a CHUNKY boy. i was carrying him a lot and within the next two days, i started to notice this nagging pain in one spot in my right-mid back, along with my lower ribs being sore from the front all the way back around, almost in a band where the bottom of a bra would sit. i thought i just wore myself out from carrying around the baby but it didn't improve. it also hurts at rest in a very localized spot and is tender to the touch. my spine itself feels fine and is not tender, it's just around it. (photo of pain location. the localized spots are in blue/purple and the other achiness i'm feeling is in green, which wraps around the front following the bottom of my ribs.)
i went to urgent care on 5/9 and incidentally tested positive for strep and started antibiotics for it. they sent me for a chest x-ray due to the back pain thinking it could be related but it came back completely normal (clear lungs, "visualized osseus structures are unremarkable"). over the last week and a half, the pain has persisted. i went to an orthopedic urgent care on 5/13 and was prescribed muscle relaxers and a steroid and was recommended to do PT. i wound up in the er on 5/15 due to the pain quickly getting worse, but all they did was run bloodwork (everything was normal) and give me fluids and some toradol for the pain. the pain radiates up to my neck now and my neck and traps are very tight and achey (probably due to stress tbh) but the localized pain in my mid-back has persisted and is even getting worse. i've tried the muscle relaxers (500mg methocarbamol twice daily) which barely help, and the steroids haven't helped either. heat and ice don't seem to do much. massage helps briefly but is quite painful in the moment and the pain always comes back. my boyfriend said he can feel how tight the muscles are near that localized spot and that there are "a few knots" in that area. laying on my stomach seems to take some of the pressure off and help a tiny bit, but it doesn't last. but i'm worried it's maybe not muscular in origin as it continues at rest. i have a ct scan of my abdomen and pelvis with contrast on 5/21 as i have ongoing gi issues, but this doesn't seem related as i haven't had any pain like this with my gi issues in the past.
has anyone experienced any pain like this? if you have, what wound up helping you? should i push for an mri? my anxiety is quite high about this entire situation and i'm having a hard time not catastrophizing and thinking the worst. thank you in advance!!!

This is a newer symptom since i started to push myself more curios if anyone gets this sore upper back issue starts around noon

Protein and Calorie dense prep on a restricted diet
Hey everyone, coming to this community hoping for some good ideas on some easy/healthy but somewhat dense meals that I can incorporate.
The restrictions: -I generally avoid gluten and dairy on a daily basis. I am not severely allergic, indeed I haven’t even been diagnosed with anything. That being said, I have personally noted a clear correlation over the past several years of being fatigued and experiencing poor digestion after consuming food with these ingredients. I don’t know why and I hate it, but that’s how it is.
-I try to eat about 200g protein a day. This is a bit over the scientifically backed recommendation for my bodyweight (~215lbs) but I struggle enough with gaining muscle that every extra bit is worth it.
-The primary reason I meal prep is to save myself time. I try to have all of my meals/methods as efficient as possible.
What I’m currently doing: -Ground beef and Banza pasta in the AM. This is the meal I most want ideas for, because it’s such a voluminous meal I struggle when I’m pressed for time to put it all down.
-Chicken thigh (I air fry this daily since I haven’t felt like marinating lately) with rice, roasted veggies and beans or potatoes
-Smoothie with PB, fruits, veggies, honey, almond milk
-Lately supplemented days I might miss a meal with chocolate egg whites
-Snack on vegan cookie dough, gf Oreos, tortilla chips w/ meals, etc when I’m not worried about calories
(Rough quantity estimates for every 4 days: 3lbs ground beef, 6lbs chicken thigh, 16oz raw Banza, 8oz dry rice, 3lbs potatoes, 4 bananas, 4tbsp pb, 4 smoothie packs, 2 cups almond milk, 3lb frozen veg, some other assorted ingredients)
I don’t really mind eating the same thing day in/day out for months, I’m just looking for some ideas to make things easier prep-wise that are relatively tasty, and don’t take me 30 minutes to sit down and eat a big bowl of.
Thanks in advance!

Hey everyone, coming to this community hoping for some good ideas on some easy/healthy but somewhat dense meals that I can incorporate.
The restrictions: -I generally avoid gluten and dairy on a daily basis. I am not severely allergic, indeed I haven’t even been diagnosed with anything. That being said, I have personally noted a clear correlation over the past several years of being fatigued and experiencing poor digestion after consuming food with these ingredients. I don’t know why and I hate it, but that’s how it is. -I try to eat about 200g protein a day. This is a bit over the scientifically backed recommendation for my bodyweight (~215lbs) but I struggle enough with gaining muscle that every extra bit is worth it. -The primary reason I meal prep is to save myself time. I try to have all of my meals/methods as efficient as possible.
What I’m currently doing: -Ground beef and Banza pasta in the AM. This is the meal I most want ideas for, because it’s such a voluminous meal I struggle when I’m pressed for time to put it all down. -Chicken thigh (I air fry this daily since I haven’t felt like marinating lately) with rice, roasted veggies and beans or potatoes -Smoothie with PB, fruits, veggies, honey, almond milk -Lately supplemented days I might miss a meal with chocolate egg whites -Snack on vegan cookie dough, gf Oreos, tortilla chips w/ meals, etc when I’m not worried about calories (Rough quantity estimates for every 4 days: 3lbs ground beef, 6lbs chicken thigh, 16oz raw Banza, 8oz dry rice, 3lbs potatoes, 4 bananas, 4tbsp pb, 4 smoothie packs, 2 cups almond milk, 3lb frozen veg, some other assorted ingredients)
I don’t really mind eating the same thing day in/day out for months, I’m just looking for some ideas to make things easier prep-wise that are relatively tasty, and don’t take me 30 minutes to sit down and eat a big bowl of.
Thanks in advance!

basically i have had chronic back pain for a few years now and i have been to the doctor and had xrays taken of my lower back and everything seemed fine. After that i was referred for physiotherapy which helped for a bit but the back pain always comes back. My parents refuse to spend more money on it and blame me sitting and studying for long hours which does not make sense to me since i know nobody else with that issue. I have also been going to the gym and been active in sports. I feel like I should be very concerned about something that may have been missed but idk what to do. Also to add i have been EXTREMELY fatigued despite having sufficient hours of sleep. Any advice?

I guess this is a rant/vent post as well as wanting advice, i just had a really bad conversation with my GP and i kind of have no idea what to do.
I've been suspecting hEDS/HSD for a few months now and a few weeks ago I had a GP appointment with this guy with an interest in musculoskeletal and hypermobility.
Without any prompting he told me he suspected EDS based on my symptoms and family history, he said there wasn't much more he could do for me at that level so he referred me to rheumatology!! i was so happy, i thought i could really get help.
Unfortunately i just got a call from him today that apparently from the symptoms he told them they do suspected I have HSD. and ?? apparently they've decided not to see me ? I'm baffled, i have no idea how they can suspect HSD or hEDS and then refuse to see me but also not give me a diagnosis.
My GP then refused to prescribe me stronger pain medication, directly after telling me that i'd have chronic pain for the rest of my life ??? Ibuprofen and paracetamol, at their maximum safe doses, barely even dampen my pain?! i don't understand how i'm supposed to live, he told me he wouldn't prescribe the stronger ones (they aren't even opiods) to me because they had side effects of drymouth and dizziness . I don't know what to do, the pain is so goddamn bad every day and i was kind of clinging to the idea of being given pain meds that actually worked. I think he doesn't take me seriously because i'm 18 but man, my life is falling apart. i went from pretty much fully abled with manageable pain to disabled and insanely struggling to leave the house even with my mobility aids (crutches + cane) in about 6 months. why on earth would i care about dry mouth and drowsiness when it would help with this inescapably bad pain every day.
I asked him how i was supposed to get disability accommodations for uni (but also EVERYWHERE??!?) with no diagnosis as proof (as places really often require the proof of diagnosis) and he told me really confusedly: "but this doesn't affect your studies ???" ?? what ?? yes it does . i can't be in any position other than lying down flat on my back without my shoulders trying to rip themselves out. i can't stand for more than a few minutes because of my knees. i have constant fatigue and pain. and this absolute numpty thought that it didn't effect my studies ?!? I want to be able to ask for a goddamn shower stool if by some miracle i get into uni, i want to be able to request an accommodation with a lift or on the ground floor. I want to be able to have more flexible deadlines and a shorter commute and ground floor or elevator connected classes. I can't get these accommodations without a diagnosis.
I don't understand !!! he told me that rheumatology highly suspect i have HSD (i don't even care that they're trying to ignore the hEDS possibility without even seeing me i just Need one of them) but that they won't see me and they won't diagnose me . They're just giving up on me ?!? i'm so upset, what am i supposed to do ?? i feel like i can't go on, my old school kept just penalising me for being disabled and struggling since i had no proof. i can't go through that again, i really can't, i thought when i got my referral that this could be my chance but now i feel like i'm drowning.
what do i do. i need a diagnosis to live and they literally do think i have it !!! suspected HSD is now on my goddamn medical records from Rheumatology but they ?!?? won't see me and won't diagnose me ?? i'm so hurt and upset, they're just giving up on me but i swear to god i cannot live without being able to request accommodations and i can't do that without proof. I live in england, this is the NHS to clarify. i need advice. they suspect HSD but won't diagnose but also won't see me to clarify. I don't know what to do. i cannot live without accommodations, i'm not even able to cope right now. I'm so upset. they just gave up on me. i'm heartbroken. i'd really love some advice on how to get a diagnosis after this, if i even can.
thank you

So I have been suffering with gastroparesis since 2015 and many neurological symptoms since 2017 including problems with vision, headaches, mental health issues, pain, fatigue, sinus issues, brain fog, etc. Does anyone know the best way to test for lyme and other possible infections? I am relentlessly searching until I figure out the root of my symptoms. I have tested positive for candida overgrowth in the past, didn't clear it out fully I don't think, so it's still here. I am really struggling here. Thank you.

Hey all,
Just found this groups today. I’ve been dealing with health problems for a long time now (since high school) and I’m just realizing that it may be an allergy to food.
I was hoping to explain what happens here and take any feedback, experience, advice you guys are kind enough to give.
The thing that mostly throws me is that it doesn’t happen immediately. And I’m on some strong antihistamines and inflammation blockers because it’s been such an issue so that may be hiding the issue.
I found out long back that I can’t eat wheat, although I got the skin test and it was negative. But eating wheat knocked me out for 4-8 days with brain fog, exhaustion beyond words, etc, so I obviously stopped eating it.
What’s going on now is that unpredictably, I’ll suddenly feel all my sinuses swell shut and it makes me utterly exhausted - like “go ahead and let the house burn down, the exhaustion isn’t worth fighting just for my life” levels of tired. I cannot emphasize enough how hard it is to stay upright and conscious.
I have lots of GI issues all the time - bloated, upset tummy, cramps, diarrhea or constipation.
If it gets bad enough, I start coughing continuously. I’ve read that it keeps my heart beating and that may be why I cough even with nothing in my throat.
When it happens, I suddenly can’t speak think well - like I’m dyslexic or something. I add simple math wrong. I make idiotic mistakes. I can’t think or function.
I’m told my face gets really red sometimes but I never get hives or anything.
I’ve been taking Zyrtec because I used to itch all the time. I never had a rash but I just itches crazy, especially hands and feet/ankles.
And I’m now taking singulair too. I always feel so bad, like I got hit by a truck. Achy like the worst flu you ever had. The singulair helps with the pain / ache some and also, when I take it, I don’t get those sudden attacks nearly as bad. Like I don’t pass out immediately and do that continuous cough thing.
I have gotten inhalers from friends (because I text negative for asthma and the symptoms are delayed and I don’t know the cause, so the docs don’t see the reaction and dont think I have any real issue, I guess?) and it helps more than most things. It sometimes stops me from coughing like crazy and it helps when I go into the cold funk.
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Hi, so I have severe anxiety and am working thru that with my doctor and therapist. But back in 2019 I was diagnosed with TMJ. I’ve been having some weird symptoms recently and am wondering if these are TMJ or anxiety related. Wondering if anyone else has has symptoms??
I did go to my dentist last week and he did adjust my splint.
Symptoms: Sudden headaches on one side of top of head. Shock like sensations up the back of my neck and on top of head. Burning sensations on top of head.

Hi all, so I’m in a frustrating situation after getting into a small accident earlier this month. I was driving my soon to be MIL’s truck, which is under her insurance and I am not listed as a driver on her policy. There were things of hers in the back of the vehicle that blocked my vision out of the back window completely due to its height. I was slightly past the line in a turning lane while stopped at a light after it turned red before I got to turn, and I went to back up slightly to make room for incoming turning traffic coming from my right. Out of my side mirror I saw only one car pull up behind me and I mistakenly thought it was the only one. I reversed and tapped a car’s front fender with my trailer hitch, leaving a couple scuffs and minor indentation at the point of contact. No damage to our truck.
Now we were debating whether or not to go through insurance to get this covered because after getting the driver of that vehicles info, they just today contacted me saying that her shop gave an estimate of close to $900. I’m assuming they’re just replacing the entire fender. In the text that driver said that their shop said it would be in our best interest to go through insurance because of no out of pocket costs, and it won’t raise the rate harshly. However, I’m not entirely sure if this is the case due to multiple factors. I have been in an accident within the last 5 years in 2021, I was not listed as a driver of this vehicle when the accident happened. Future MIL completely lost her mind when this happened and was shouting at my partner over how high her insurance was going to go up over this. We had decided to pay out of pocket civilly to the other driver to avoid having to deal with the headache of it all. Now that it’s turned out to be the amount that it is, and other driver’s suggestion, I just want to make sure I’m making the right call here. Thanks for the help!

Hi all, I have pretty severe anxiety. With the help of my therapist, doctor, and husband I am getting back on my citalopram tonight. But I was wondering about physical symptoms. These ones are new for me and I’ve wondering if anyone’s experienced them? I have been to my doctor to ask about them and he ruled them out as probably anxiety. I also do have TMJ so didn’t know if that also was a factor.
Symptoms: Severe random headaches on one side of my head. Pressure in my head (sides and on top.) Sudden shocks of pain up my neck and scalp. Sudden burning sensation inside my scalp (on top of head and feels like in brain). Sudden hot flash like symptoms in random parts of body (could be thigh or chest).

Last week I made a post about sleeping on the floor and my experience with the first night. Well it's been very positive so I kept it going for a week so far. Here's my findings:
DISCLAIMER I AM NOT TELLING ANYONE TO GET RID OF THEIR BED. This is just a choice I've made that I have found positive for my own personal situation. I acknowledge my definition of minimalism is different than yours. I respect that. You should too. If you don't just scroll on.
After my first night I felt pretty good. I had some initial stiffness but that was to be expected. What I did not expect was how awake and alert I was right out of bed. Typically, I am not a morning person. I'm groggy and stiff and achy and it takes me a decent amount of time and caffeine before I can really start to be a functioning human.
That has not been the case this week. I wake up alert and ready to go. I do my morning mobility work and I get in the gym and get to work. Every day this week I have woken up on time when up until this point I have been a habitual snoozer. I've cut my caffeine intake substantially as I just don't need it. My wife and son have appreciated the extra time I have with them in the mornings, as my need to sleep in hasn't been an issue. And I really enjoy the quiet time I get to myself when they sleep long.
I have a Fitbit that tracks my sleep, and it might surprise you to know that my quality of sleep has not worsened. My sleep score has actually remained consistent with when I sleep in the bed. So concerns over my quality of sleep have been appreciated but so far not an issue.
Now here's something interesting I wanted to bring up. After 4 days of sleeping on the floor I opted to sleep in bed just to compare and contrast. This proved to be my undoing as I woke up feeling absolutely exhausted. I was immediately back to feeling groggy and sluggish and snoozing. I skipped my workout, and felt tired the entire day. Now this could be explained by saying I hadn't gotten good sleep all week and now was sleep deprived, but again my quality of sleep has remained consistent. I slept on the floor again the next night and went right back to feeling good. I've slept on the floor since with no issues.
Quick note, for those confused I should specify I am not sleeping directly on my rug, I have a semi cushy blanket that I fold in half and sleep on top of with another blanket on top of me. Not sure who thought I was sleeping on hardwood but even I have my limits.
Overall my experience has been really great. I'm looking into a 3" futon to replace the blanket with and I intend to keep doing it as long as I keep having positive effects towards my life and performance. AGAIN I know this isn't for everybody and under no circumstances am I advocating for anyone to toss out their bed for the sake of minimalism, but personally for me I'll be doing it until I can convince the lady of the house to buy a firmer mattress.
TLDR: I like it. Sleep great. No issues.