Happy brithday to a guy friend

I (F23) have been dating my boyfriend (M25) for close to 3 years. I want to preface all this by saying that except the following problem, I truly love this man and he treats me well in every other aspect of our relationship. He’s empathetic, caring, and I do feel he loves me.
We moved in together a little under the 1 year mark. When we first moved in together, it was into my apartment, so he was always very careful and considerate about leaving things dirty or slacking on house chores, even though he was paying rent. I think he considered it “my space” so was cautious about letting himself go. A year and a half into our relationship, we moved into a house. I was very excited about this as it felt like we were starting to build something together. However, one of his childhood best friends (and previous roommate), let’s call him “Adam” was going through some apartment issues at the time and had to either find a place to stay ASAP or leave the state we were in. My boyfriend initially was against taking him in as he said Adam was irresponsible and erratic, but knowing he was his best friend I encouraged my boyfriend to let him stay with us for a few months, especially considering Adam was going through a rough breakup and other tumultuous life events. Well, that was a horrible decision. The next year Adam stayed with us till the lease was up. That house turned into me being the housekeeper because instead of my boyfriend having a good influence on Adam, it was the other way around. My every morning consisted of me picking up beer bottles and wiping down counters, clearing out the fridge of rotting fast food, etc. Now I will say to my boyfriends defense, 3 months into the new house I quit a very toxic job (which he had been encouraging me to for years) and struggled to find a equally paying job till the day we moved out. This meant that my boyfriend had to work 80 hour weeks to pick up my financial slack. Therefore, at that time, I didn’t mind doing the house chores because I understood I had more time and less stress on my hands than he did, and that was my way of showing appreciation.
Move on to now, my boyfriend and I moved into an apartment of our own. I got a job where I contribute equally to our finances, if not more so, but I still find myself doing 90% of the housework. And I say 90% because the 10% he does do only came after me being upset multiple times that I’m so overwhelmed having all the house work on my shoulders while also working a 60 hour job. It was one thing when I was working 30 hours, but to hold down a full time + job and still feel like I am the only one expected to do housework is exhausting. I’ve tried to express this to him, but it feels like he only does things for a few days and then “forgets”. Literally all I am asking him to do is not leave clothes on the floor, put them in the hamper, and I’ll do the laundry. Don’t leave dirty dishes lying around, put them in the dishwasher or sink and I’ll take care of them when I get home. If you’ve been working from home all day and I haven’t, ATLEAST make the bed.
I am the type of person who gets home after work and can’t relax until the house is clean, so all I ask is he makes that process easier for me by having me skip steps like collecting dirty dishes or clothes.
The reason this is turning to a head today is because: after weeks of expressing how neglected I feel when he doesn’t pick up after himself, knowing how stressed it makes me feel, the following happened:
He decided on a whim to buzz his hair at 10:00pm. I had work the next morning at 6AM. He asked me to help him buzz his hair and I said yes, but PLEASE, PLEASE clean the bathroom before you go to bed because hair gets everyyywhere. He said he will and don’t worry.
Next day I come home from working 7:30am - 7PM, and he has been home from work since 3pm. I arrive to dishes in the sink, bed is unmade. Whatever, I clean everything up and my only console in to take a long hot shower. I walk in the bathroom and there is hair everywhere. On the sink, the floor, the toilet, the towels. Imagine getting a haircut in a tiny bathroom and imagine the mess. So, I spent another hour cleaning it, because no way I’m taking a shower in that. He notices I’m cleaning it, sheepishly takes out the garbage (as though that makes up for it?) and never apologizes or mentions it all.
Am I crazy and being unfair? Is this reason to break off a relationship that is otherwise very happy? Someone please give me direction because I love this man, and I don’t know what to work through and what is a dealbreaker.

INTJ male I’m talking to said he is impressed with me because I know the right words to say and he said it seems like I’m getting points for being charming. He said he enjoys talking to me. He even likes my recent updates on my socmedia.
I’ve had guys like me before and when I try to recall this guy has been the only guy who didn’t come to me to say,”You’re beautiful.” “I know you’ve been told many times but you’re beautiful.” So it made me more comfortable to talk to him. This guy came to me in a friendly way, very casual. So it was not easy to see if he likes me. was surprised when he said it seems I’m earning more points. I never knew an INTJ can be funny. Been talking for a couple of weeks now.
I’m an INFJ btw

Before I get started I wanted to say there was no cheating or emotional manipulation (I hope?) involved. I'm relatively new to dating casually as I had always imagined marrying the person I was dating and thought it would take 1, maybe 2 tries max. After a few bad relationships I realized maybe I wasn't ready to be in one and decided I'd focus on myself and maybe casually date at most (hookups, occasional romantic dates, etc.).
The girl in question (I'll call her Jen) that I was with for a short amount of time is a coworker to both me and my partner (I'll call her Lisa). We all work for the same company, but they are closer as friends because they work on the same team. I had spent time with Jen for about a month or two and thought I might have liked her despite a lot of differences in our interests and personalities. But she ended up turning down my suggestion of possibly being more than just friends, and I was okay with it because I was having fun being single anyways and we had continued being friends and I don't believe there was any awkwardness in our relationship moving forward and there hasn't been any lingering feelings for each other because it was so casual. Also, we never had sex, but we did kiss so I'm bringing this up for my question later.
At one point we had a group outing involving me, Jen, Lisa, and another friend. This created a friend group that I still occasionally hang out with and have done fun outings including some of my other friends, and this is how I started hanging out with Lisa. We had a shared interest event that I invited the group to individually and none of them could make it, but Lisa did end up saying yes to another unrelated outing and we really clicked. Lisa and I had begun hanging out around 2 months after Jen and I decided we would just remain friends. I started spending time with Lisa almost every day because she ended up having a ton of things in common with me to the point where we were basically the same person when we would share details of our lives. It took a couple months to realize we had differences, all this being a silly exaggerated joke to simply explain that this girl is my soulmate and I have been loving everything about her since dating her.
It's only been about 6 months but now things are getting more serious and us dating has been the best relationship I've ever been in, so I wanted to make sure I do things right and be completely open and honest with her. Honesty has never been an issue with me because I'm a very open book, but when it comes to my feelings I've had trouble being open in the past and don't want to make that mistake in my current relationship. I just wanted to know the best way to bring up the past fling with Jen to make sure I'm not lying to her by omission by not disclosing a past situationship(?) with her closest coworker friend. I hadn't thought it was worth bringing up because I hadn't previously thought about anybody my partners had been dating before me because it didn't seem relevant because she was happy with me and that's all that mattered. But another Reddit post made me wonder if this is something Lisa should be made aware of sooner rather than later, especially since she and Jen are pretty close.
So to recap: Jen and I had hung out casually for ~2 months. Near the end of this time, group chat is created including Jen, Lisa, and I. 1 month later Lisa and I start hanging out just us two. 1 month after that, we officially start dating. 6 months later, today happened.
So Reddit, am I overthinking this? Do I just let Lisa know that before we had started dating, Jen and I had hung out a couple times even if there was never any romantic feelings, or is there a more nuanced way to go about it because being too direct may come off as a bit too strong? Is this even worth bringing up? I'd like to know how maybe you'd like to be told this if you were in this situation. I appreciate the time it took for you to read this far and hope you're having a good day.

Playing some Stumble Guys with a friend. Trying to get the platinum trophy too so we’ll be playing for a while. We’re starting right now.
Message me your PSN or post it here.

So, as a child, I always used to pace around in circles or wander everywhere around in my front yard for hours little almost everyday, even in most rainy days, I could not hold it in and just decide to go outside in the rain and day dream there. I did this while just being in my own 'little' world. Imagining my OCs (Original Characters) in different scenarios or even entire episodes. Also because of this, I did not feel like I needed friends. I was WAY more comfortable doing my own stuff than being with others. I remember once when I literally acted out an entire frickin movie with a scary OC of mine at age 11. I kept doing it till like at age 14 because I did not want to be exposed outside doing some weird childish stuff as a high schooler. My high school is very judgemental. Right now, I am 17 still at it but in closed spaces and I don't do it as often as I did before, maybe because I live in an apartment now 2nd story. But I atleast try to get my energy out and just delve into my own worlds. Like the potatoman one I made at 16 inspired after I saw a family Guy skit of Hanker the Cheeseguy. It is not a lighthearted lore though... Not even in school would I stop thinking about potatoman. Am I good in this sub?

A few days ago I posted about choosing between SB and UCLA, but last night I finally committed to Santa Barbara! Now, I’m trying to apply for housing, so I was wondering what dorm buildings yall think are the best, keeping in mind location (distance to beach/main campus/iv), dining halls nearby/quality of said dining halls, how nice the rooms/facilities are, and most importantly how fun the dorm building itself is. I’m trying to be super active with friends and stuff on my dorm floor.
Also, would you guys recommend doubles or triples, or suites if they’re worth it? I can’t find the rates for suites, nor where they are on the campus.
Thanks!

last year when I moved into a new house there was this orange cat outside who would frequen my backyard. I started feeding him and he was very friendly. It was clearly apparent by his situation and the conditions he would come back to me in that he was either stray or had a home and was mistreated. Either way I nursed him to health and took him from a malnourished homeless cat to a big happy orange fluffball that seems to be able to communicate verbally with me literally. Anyway, our lease ended this week and we are relocating to a new home around 10 minutes away from the old house. I was able to give him some calming medicine and put him In the car and get him to the new house. He seemed more timid than usual for the first two days but when he finally came back outside he went under the fence and I just wanna see y’all’s opinion about his ability to remember his way back. I love this cat so much and I couldn’t bare losing him because of me being stupid and not knowing how to ease him into a new house.
TLDR: domesticated an outside cat from house I moved into. We fell in love. I had to move. Took cat with me. He got out. Scared about him being able to remmeber his way to new home.

I'm tired of sitting around and meandering on what I need to do with my AGP. I've been trying to have a romantic relationship with a girl for forever, until the past three years I've just given up. I realized that I really don't get much out of relationships. Theres also no desire or want to be intimate and they can tell... I just come off as a friend. It makes things weird. Just to be clear, I'm not an intelligent. Ive essentially been offered sex multiple times, even walked a girl to her dorm one late night. Subsequently left her at her door. I always put it up to nerves, but at some point...
What kinda sucks is that everything else in my life generally works for me. Ive got a good job, I mean everyone kinda thinks I'm gay, but I do fit in as a guy. And I've got a few good friends and hobbies.
At this rate though, I'm going to die alone and the only thing that gets me excited about relationships is being in one as a women. I actually like the thought of being someone's wife someday and taking care of kids, but I'm actively missing out on this huge part of my life... Its really been getting to me lately.
I really feel the need to do something.

Just went through the demo after deciding to finally take a break from Cove (my beloved) after a crazy 50 hour record on OL:B&A.
I love the new game so far! The art is so warm, and honestly a massive improvement and cute change of style from the last game's (which makes sense, given the theme!), it's sort of crazy to see how much the art has evolved, actually. The color scheme's really nice, and most of all, I love the amount of customization. The nickname system feels so personal, I love the new icon as well, and don't even get me started on the amount of drama you can stir up with the jealousy meter and the three-level dynamic settings, omg.
Playing through all of that made me realize how much work is being put into this next game... the amount of branching out and writing for every type of dynamic and specific situation based on previous actions... that's crazy, and has got to be even more work needed compared to the previous game. It's amazing to see and witness, idk how else to put it!
Lots of respect for the devs for going out of their way to make this such a personal experience. Only played the demo so far and I already know I'm going to be attached to this town and to these characters... naturally, I've already set up my savefile tabs as labels of the tropes I'd like to try :P (childhood friends to lovers slow burn, childhood sweethearts, etc.) It feels like a lot of content will be waiting for us, and I can't wait to follow this game's development ^-^
What are you guys' favorite part of the demo so far, and what are you excited for the most?

Hey guys! I'm looking for suggestions for lightweight, budget-friendly tablets or laptops for a newbie writer on-the-go. I am constantly on the go, and pen and paper can be frustrating for me. Though I love the feel and look of handwritten pages, when I'm traveling, they easily become disorganized or damaged. Google is a bit overwhelming and most suggestions are in the $1k+ range. That's currently out of my price range, particularly when I only want to use it for WIP.

I don’t wanna make this long but I think it’s better if I rant. I need help. My girlfriend was raped a long time ago, but she has never been the same. We kinda have a long distance relationship, if you could call it that, but we only live around 2 hours apart. I won’t explain how it all happened but I can explain that she has never been the same. She trusts me to an extent, to a really healthy extent. She trusted me with the information regarding her past and how it all went down. I love her so much, I really do. She is so beautiful and so pretty. She is so god damn sweet and all I’ve ever wanted was someone like her. I’ve never felt true love until I found her. She is the only person who makes me feel cared about. I had an ex before but she never cared about me, she cheated on me and treated me like garbage. She made me feel like I was garbage. On top of all that I never really received real love whether it was from my neighborhood, which I live in a pretty ghetto neighborhood, and I never received love from my family. Whatever I got from my abusive family, was the polar opposite of love. Abuse, trust issues, mental scars, physical scars, all of that stuff. So now you guys know why I never really knew what love was, until I found her. But this rant isn’t about me, it’s about my perfect, precious, gorgeous, and lovely girlfriend. The thing is, sometimes she feels so down about herself all the time. She feels like she doesn’t do enough for me sometimes. I tell her, she does, because she truly does. She doesn’t understand how much her love truly means to me. I would do anything, and I mean anything to get her love. Her love means so god damn much to me. But she always feels all over the place. Sometimes she feels so depressed that she lets everyone down. Sometimes she doesn’t wanna call, because she is either nervous, or doesn’t know why she can’t call. I tell her it’s always alright. I just want her to feel important and that everything she says, is always valid, and that whatever she does, I’ll always support it. Before I talk about all of her problems and issues that she has, I need to explain briefly about her past. Not only was she sexually assaulted, the thing about it, was that it was her close childhood family friend who did that to her, in fact he was a bit older and he was one of her brothers friends as well. I won’t go in too much depth of it, but she felt so nervous and shaken up. He made her act like everything was normal and she would break down every time she was alone. My poor baby had to go through so much. Prior to all of that, her father had died few years back. She was always constantly depressed. She felt like she let her father down when she was assaulted. I know she still feels like that. After all of that, she always felt so depressed and suicidal, I’ve seen the scars she brought up onto herself and the scars that her assaulter gave her. He was always yelling at her and was pretty abusive. So ever since that happened she felt so useless. She had tried many times to burn herself with a lighter and tried slitting herself with a knife. Even after all that she is still standing. My baby is so strong, and I just want her to know that. She says she trusts me more than she trusts any man alive. I love her so much. Sometimes she feels so sad and she feels like she can’t do nothing for me, when she doesn’t know that she has done more than what I could’ve ever asked for. I love her and I need her to know that she is perfect and that her past doesn’t define her. I just love her so god damn much. I want her to feel important and that she deserves the universe, because she really does. I want her to be comfortable around me and trust me. I want her to feel safe and secure around me. I want her to always rant to me about every single little thing. I want her to come to me whenever she feels down. I just want her and only her. I want all of her love. Her love is so precious. If anyone saw her I swear everyone would swoon over her. She is so gorgeous and so pretty and so cute, I can’t ever imagine why someone would abuse her prettiness and her love and her trust. I need her to be the best of herself, I’d love to see her like that. I know it takes time, all good things take time and I truly understand what she has gone through and how she can be helped. I just really wanna help her and fix her. We have so many plans for the future. She wants to get married and I do too. I can’t wait till I see her beauty walking in her beautiful dress down the aisle. I love her so much and I’m so obsessed, addicted, and mesmerized by her. She wants to have a family and have kids. She loves and cares about me so much which shows how much she trusts me. I love her and she got rid of my problems, so I really wanna truly do the same for her. She deserves the best and only the best. If only she knew how much her worth is in my eyes. I love her. I know all women always have problem, I’m not trying to be sexist or rude. But I know how the world works. I just want her to feel better around me, if anything. I love everything about her. I love her eyes, I love her body, every detail about her body is so sexy. I love her personality. I love how she cares so much about me. I love her touch and how she always makes me feel loved whenever I’m in her arms. I love the feelings she makes me feel. I love her and I just want the best for her. The best, and only the best. I wish I could explain and express my love for her, but I can’t because it’s indescribable. I Need all the help I can get so I can help her get better and feel better about herself. I’ll take any advice. I love her so much. Baby, if you ever find this, just know, I mean every single thing, and I love you so much. So so so much. And I’ll always be here for you and I’ll always pick you up when you’re down. I’ll always respect u and ur body. I’ll always love and care for you. I’ll always treat u the best and do the most for you. I love you baby. Don’t be sad and don’t feel bad. I’ll always love you.
ill take any help from anyone. Please I need help. I know we are just maturing as a couple, and I’ll always be patient with her. I promise her a lot. I promised her everything. I love her
Mods please don’t take this post down, please, I really really need help. I hope everyone can understand.

Trying to help a friend explore any possible avenues here -
She paid a "contractor" $14K for a new HVAC system. The system stopped working after a week and now she has been without any HVAC for months. She tried giving this man many opportunities to fix it, but finally had an HVAC professional come out for an estimate. They were shocked by the level of incompetence in the install - the guy had even installed the minisplit backwards. Told her it wasn't fixable and they would have to tear out the whole system and start from scratch. (I know a little about HVAC and even I could see the install was not even remotely professional)
So she hired a lawyer to sue the contractor - $2,000 to start. The lawyer told her not to do anything - don't do any repairs, don't try to chargeback the credit card, nothing. He told her he would send a demand letter as a first step and then start looking into the contractor's assets or possible liability insurance. The lawyer stated the man's address and she advised the lawyer that address was incorrect.
Weeks go by and the lawyer just keeps saying "We're waiting for a reply, these things take time, he has 30 business days to reply" - finally, after more than two months the lawyer says "Oh, that letter came back as undeliverable, nothing more we can do, too bad." They had sent it to the address she told them was wrong, and also took a ridiculous amount of time to tell her it wasn't delivered (when they would have known that within a week or two)
So she asks for her $2,000 back, and is told they are dissolving the law firm and maybe they can refund her a tiny bit of what she paid. She contacted the credit card company to see about a chargeback for the contractor's $14K (which the lawyer had told her to wait on) and finds out it's too late for a chargeback.
On top of all that, she spends 20 minutes online and is able to find the contractor's actual address, as well as his long trail of lawsuits and bankruptcies. That's how long it would have taken this lawyer to do their job correctly.
I know it's a longshot, but any chance she has a case for malpractice for the lawyer advising her not to pursue other remedies but then not doing their job?

Ok,you guys can call me loser or wharever,i'll accept It,but i just cant finish FFVII Rebirth,i am person that gets really attached to characters from games and anime since my childhood,having played the OG Aerith's death was already a hard memory for me,i wasnt going to play the Remake,neither Rebirth because i was waiting for the whole package,but with how much praise Rebirth was getting i thought it was time to go through these games.
So i finished Remake for the first time last month,and got attached to Aerith all over again,but even worse this time because she is such a great character,lively,positive,fun,she is a very common trope in anime and JRPGs,thats not a bad thing because this kind of characters are really charismatic,one such character is Estelle Bright from the Trails series.
The more i played Rebirth,the more i felt bad having to say goodbye to her,my breaking point was one side quest during Cosmo Canyon where you have to take pictures from shooting stars,you can also take photos of her and she will react to it,all while her theme keeps playing,i couldnt hold myself and started crying.
I was going for Tifa during Gold Saucer date,then o stopped that and did Aerith instead,now i stopped playing during chapter 13,i really dont wanna finish this game anymore.
Those guys that said the ending didnt had impact or were robbed,either didnt played it or played it blindfolded.
Having said that i probably wont play part 3 when It comes around,seeing the party without her will be really hard,i would like for SE being her back seeing how Rebirth ending was strange and the producer saying that he want the trilogy to have a happy ending,really wish for her and Zack to have a happy ending

So i asked god if this one guy was truly meant to be with me to send me a bright turquoise car any model and the very next day i park by a bright turquoise colored fiat 500 without noticing until i parked then i was so shocked because i wasn't expecting anything to really happen thinking my prayer may have just been silly but ever since that day i keep encountering blue cars blues like a lot and i was thinking maybe I'm just noticing them more or was just a coincidence to see the blue cars so out of pure curiosity i prayed to god again and i asked him if the bright turquoise cars I've been seeing is you show me a bubblegum pink car and nothing happened for a few days i was kind of giving up on it but i felt so close to god one day and happy with whatever would happen and whatever is in his will i made peace with that and so im in the car with my mom one day on the way to my grandparents on a Friday morning we are on the freeway and im in the passenger side just listening to my music and just decided to look to the side and in the side mirror i see a bubblegum pink car sports car challenger i was so stunned and even now after i keep seeing blue cars constantly i will turn my eye and there's another one i have never seen so many in my life I'm still putting my full trust in god too what he has answered was just amazing and a rush of excitement but still curious on what my future will bring now with god leading my way.

And I'm not just a cute nerd because I'm serious and sudden onset! badum tiss
I'm also a 5'7'' sorta thin white dude with long black hair, and I think that's kinda neat. I'm big into PC gaming, not that you have to be, but if you are, it's something that I'd love to do together! My interests also extend to things like Pokemon, anime, a couple books (Kingkiller Chronicles is GREAT), and I have a peace lily named Alphinaud! I am quite introverted, so I've always found it hard to make friends, even over the internet. Still, I have a lot of love to give, storing it all inside this rock I've been living under, and just looking for the right person to give it all to.
The kind of person I'm looking for is mostly just someone that genuinely enjoys my company. I want someone that will laugh at all of my stupid jokes, or at least the funny ones. Body type isn't super important to me either, bodybuilder, BBW, or anything in between, its always been more about the person inside, to me. I want someone super affectionate, caring, and gentle with me. Someone who can take the lead, too! I once spent five minutes in the breakfast aisle paralyzed about what cereal to get. I want someone I can fall in love with, to say "good morning" and "good night" to every day, someone I am excited to wake up and see next to me, give me that fairy tale love that everyone craves but few people find!
• Could be talked into DMing for you and your friends
• I still have not seen the Lord of the Rings movies
• I am absolutely full of dumb, awful jokes
• Once, I built a forge out of an old bbq grill and give hobby blacksmithing a try!
• I know how to solve a rubik's cube! Not particularly fast, mind you, but I can!
So yeah, I guess that's it? If any of this has interested you, any of it at all, don't hesitate to drop me a message or PM! I'm happy to move to discord whenever, and I'm also okay with exchanging pics once we've chatted a little. Thanks for reading, and have a great evening!

So basically I like this guy in my class, and so like any girl I add him on snap but that was like three months ago. So maybe like 2 weeks ago my friends had told him that I like him and he was like “No she doesn’t” and “Stop lying, you’re not funny” and he was giggling. So the following Monday my friend walked up to him and was like “No she really does like you” and he just kinda looked around the hallway and walks to class. Then 3 days later, one of his friends find out and tells him and he is like “ Oh that girl, I already know” and that was when I first started to get mixed signals from him and I was really confused if he liked me. So fast forward to Monday May 13th I said I would ask him out and well it turns out he still hasn’t added me back and I thought nothing of it. So then today I was talking to my mom about him and how he still hasn’t added me back and she said “Well if he hasn’t added you back, then isn’t that a sign that he doesn’t like you?” And now I am really thinking about it and I am confused if he does or doesn’t. Like Sometimes I catch him in class looking at me but what my mom said is really getting to me. Is him not adding me back a sign that he doesn’t like me?

Writing this super high so, if its bitchy I am so sorry.
Ive been dating this guy for almost a year now. He's almost 30 at this point. I'm 22. Its been great so far. He's met my friends, they love him. I've met his friends, we get along. I've met some of his family. We've been on like 4 or 5 little weekend trips or week trips together. Our relationship has been great for me. I met him last year, as I was going through an awful breakup. He didn't start as a boyfriend, just somebody I met, but he was there when I needed someone to listen, he was kind to me when I needed it and after my ex moved out, he came over and told me he had developed feelings for me and he asked me on our first date. That went spectacularly well and now we're here.
He treats me better than any man I've ever been with before. Hands down. This relationship has brought out sides of me that I didn't know I had. Now I'm into like going out and having fun and I'm into traveling and sports and shit. Like, even sexually this relationship has pulled me out of a rut from my last relationship and has like brought out the dominant sides in me and has gotten me into topping. Like the fact me and him can fuck twice in a day and both cum at the same times?? Never experienced anything like that before.
The problem for me at this point is how well its going. We're almost a year in. At this point he's aggressively talking about and brining up moving in together. Feels like healthy/natural progression of a relationship. But omg i am SCARED about this. Feel like this is going too well. I walk around feeling like i'm in a fairytale with him. This feels like too peaceful of an ending for me to have this early. Part of me feels like its too good to be true and its all going to blow up. Like this is shit that happens to pretty people on facebook, I'm not even that pretty.
Then the toxic part of me steps in and says, dont let it blow up. Bring it all to a stop before it can blow up, that way you're not the one whose hurt this time.
It just sucks because every time he holds me and I look in his eyes, I see my ex. and that terrifies me because he was an awful experience for me that i would rather live the rest of my life alone than go through again :( anybody else going through any shit (to be more descriptive - anxiety, about things suddenly going south or a relationship suddenly going to shit after someone shows their true colors) like this or been through it?

Im just curious cuz I did lmao.
Middle school - girl threatened to kill herself everytime I did something she didn’t like. Also called me and her friends bakas AND HAD A CRUSH ON ME? She described me when she asked me to guess her crush I was so tired. A girl below my grade spammed the yarichin bitch club opening in zoom no teacher did anything. Same girl stole a ton of anime art for our art showcase. Another girl submitted paint by numbers 🙄 I called her out on it and she HATED ME, roleplayed killing me in chats.
High school - Couple always flirted in chat and came up with code names for people, and got angry when someone asked wtf they were talking about. U guys r a couple just text each other 💀 . They always got chat disabled SMH. Some pretentious guy in creative writing ALWAYS unmuted himself he was INSUFFERABLE. Got pissed off at every assignment and went on rants about how they were unnecessary. He tried to start arguments all the time, a girl said she had a tattoo to remember her dog and he said “I don’t get why some people think it’s smart to stain their skin” STFU! There’s more but I can’t get recognized on here 😭
I blocked every single person from this school on insta, I left this hellhole and felt like sharing. I thought it was normal to have falling outs with everyone u talk to in school 😭 this school legit made me a misanthrope in 7th grade because I literally could not befriend anyone here. If a parent is reading this do NOT make ur kids do K12 I swear there’s like 10 other virtual schools u can consider. There’s so many alternatives

Hello,
I recently completed my own copy of Yakuza 7 after years of watching my friends play and I was wondering if any of yall could help me understand Aoki's rant at the end.
It's at the part where Ichiban and Aoki meet at the lockers and Aoki talks about meeting Yumeno and Horinouchi again after reinventing himself. He then talks about how neither of them recognize him and how Yumeno even compliments him for being so sophisticated for his age, and this causes Aoki to let out a laugh incredulously as if he couldn't believe such a thing was said to him. Can anyone explain to me why he found it so unbelievable?
Another thing is Aoki's feelings towards the Yakuza. Why does he hate them so much? Weren't they part of his family? Was it because the Yakuza were viewed as lesser than average citizens and how being part of the Yakuza was tied with his hatred of being "at the bottom"? When Ichiban tries to stop him from doing something rash, Aoki retorts "Everything that comes out of your mouth doubts exactly like my father and I fucking hate it!" Like...dude that was your dad! The guy who stuck by you even when you were flung through with the 3K plan! I mean sure he was the one who gave the order for his dad's...y'know but still, I'm having trouble completely putting the pieces together. Hopefully it's not a cutscene I missed on my playthrough but it's not really coming together for me.
Hoping you seasoned vets on here could give me some further insight.
Thanks yall.

I have had feelings for him for the longest time, we got really close and i told him recently i dont know how he feels about me so i need to take a step back . We would call for hours, and in bed every night. I came back recently and he told me he did have feelings for me but was scared to go foreward with them incase things went badly and ruined things for us, and i re assured him. It seemed to work because we met up since and had a really great time, we've been flirting and making excuses for little games to touch eachothers hands and playfight. It all felt like it was falling into place, but just now he told me everything in his life (some friend drama, family drama, uni work) is getting in the way and he sometimes feels like he should go away from all of his friends forever so he can deal with it alone and so they dont have to worry about him. I told him i wouldnt like that and it would hurt them if he left, and practically begged him to stay. I dont know what came over me, wether its my recent birth control change making me emotional or because its almost 3 am when this conversation took place. I told him i wish things were as simple as when i lost feelings for him when we both took a temporary step back because it means i wouldnt care as much about this. He said if thats what would help i could do it again, but this seems odd because he just said he had feelings for me and is so clearly showing he does. He has a past of liking people romantically but leaving because life gets in the way and then regretting it, so i think maybe he does like me but perhaps wants to step away from everyone and maybe doesnt want to leave his feelings behind for me like he did with people before but feels like he has to,. He told me now he knows people would be upset if he left it helps with him not wanting to as much. I told him im sorry for begging him to stay, and that if he wants to stay it should be because he wants to stay and not give up what we have and not just because i want him to. Things finally felt good and i can feel he really doesnt want to give up what we have but based on his past that hes told me he naturally just kinda runs. I told him i dont want him to regret what he'll miss out on and the connections he has. He seemed finally happy. I wanted to say he has run before and talks about how he misses them and he wish he never did and that now could be the turning point for that, but it didnt feel like my place to say especially through message where it felt like it could be taken the wrong way. I asked to call tomorrow to talk about it, im planning to say it then and i also said through message that i only want people who want me and im unsure why i begged him to stay, and that i do want him to stay but if he leaves then thats his choice. I plan to say in call that i only want people who want me as much as i want them and wont just leave what we had behind, because them leaving tells me what i needed to know and is the closure i need. I dont know if thats too harsh and will make me seem mad at him, but i really dont know what to do. Things were going so well and i guess the idea he could just up and leave it really hurts and does make me a bit mad. But i worry if i say that stuff that he will think im mad at him and leave anyway. But i want him to know that leaving is serious, i dont wanna just beg him to stay, its not like me. I dont want to play the victim, i never have and i usually think if someone can leave me im happy they did because i dont want someone who can just leave but this feels un justified because i know he wouldnt feel happy about leaving and he would miss what we had. I really dont know how to go about this one. If i tell him its quite upsetting and that i feel like hes made this mistake before, i feel like the asshole. AITAH?

Hi all, I had two older dogs and my one passed away about a month ago, they were together for the last 10 years. My dog seems depressed, I’ve been keeping her busy with tons of walks, kongs and calming music, however she’s become very clingy when I leave for work, sleeps more and cries often. I was debating getting her a friend, hopeful for a playful cat that can give her companionship. Does this seem like a good idea? I really hate to see her so sad, she’s normally a very happy dog. (She has gotten along well with cats in the past).

Okay I really like this one boy at school (we’re both seniors in HS). We have no classes together and we haven’t talked since last year (jr year we sat together and had a good time). We’re still friends?!?!?(sort of like i said we haven’t talked in a while). And whenever i see him i don’t say hi or wave or even smile. I act like he doesn’t exist to me. Sometimes i feel like i catch him looking(but i could very much just be delusional)I really like him and i really want to talk to him but idk what to say. Especially since we haven’t talked and he’s a pretty reserved and quiet guy ( I am not. I’m very chatty, maybe too chatty) I don’t know if he likes me( even as a friend) and i don’t want to ask for him number because i’m scared ( i already have his IG he followed me back) but like i said i rlly like him. We are both graduating soon and i was thinking he wait until then, but i want to do it now?!!? I guess i just don’t know what to say to even be friends when we haven’t talked all year and i’ve acted like he doesn’t exist( because he makes me nervous and i’m scared) somebody help, pleaseeee. Write me a script or something and tell me how to deal with rejection. I’m not ugly i think if i were to be honest with myself i’m prettier than average but not pretty enough to be gorgeous. He’s a skinner guy and ima thicker girl(wear a M-Xl depending on the shirt) My body isn’t the best i know that, it’s been through a lot because of some medical issues i’ve had since childhood. I feel like i’m not his type either and if i were to date him i’d be an experiment. I’ve seen his type and his type isn’t me but he’s never lasted with any of them so….. idk. maybe it means something. I just need some advice. Everyone tells me to just go for it but i’m scared of rejection because of past experiences.