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2024.06.09 16:12 JudgeLex The Horus Heresy Book 21: Fear to Tead by James Swallow
The Horus Heresy Book 21: Fear to Tread by James Swallow
Good gods, we finally meet the Blood Angels. Was it worth the wait? Well, it's a resounding yes from us. This is a portrait of a legion struggling with secrets and having it used against them. The noble Sanguinius is heartbroken by the Red Thirst and having to deal with his poor mad sons, and this is used against him to pull him into a trap. The discussions with Horus before the Heresy are a good look at who both of them were before all the bitter infighting. This set up heightens the betrayal, as before Horus fell he and Sanguinius were close. Horus realises his pure brother cannot fall to chaos, so sends him away to perish.
“With the whip still coiled about its neck, the Angel dragged the spitting, wounded fiend to the lip of the pit in the middle of the chamber, then lifted it up so he could look it in the face. The daemon cackled through its pain, convulsing as it tried to shake free. ‘I will take your skull yet.’ The primarch’s eyes flashed with a powerful hatred. ‘If you truly do hail from the realm that men once called hell,’ he intoned, ‘when you return there, tell your kindred it was Sanguinius who threw you back.’ With a grunt of effort, the Angel took hold of the beast and shoved it over the spiked edge.
Ka’Bandha’s curses echoed all the way down, before it finally vanished, shrieking, into the warp-flames.”
The Blood Angels are shown here in a completely different light to the other legions we have met so far. They fall to the Red Thirst for quite an extended part of this story so we get berserkers from the Blood Angels before we truly get them from the World Eaters. They slaughter everyone they can get their teeth on and are truly repentant for it at the end of the book, with the Flesh Tearer feeling distraught over what he did to their allies (doesnt stop them from doing it in the future though). Erebus’ plan could have easily worked to bring the Blood Angels to Khorne and you can see why Angron is second choice over the beautiful Hawk Boy.
Synopsis
Before the Heresy, Sanguinius and the Blood Angels have a slight issue. Sometimes, they go crazy and get turned into blood fueled mindless killers. During a campaign against xenos known as the Nephelim, who feed off religious adoration, Horus learns of this Red Thirst and talks with Sanguinius. He is scared, fearing the Emperor will destroy the Blood Angels for this genetic abnormality (something Emperor has done before)....This brings Horus and Sanguinius closer together.
During the Heresy, following a campaign against the Orks, Horus contacts Sanguinuis, talks with him face to face using a psyker and asks him about the Emperor and the Great Crusade. One question later and Horus sends him off to walk into a trap that will destroy the Blood Angels. He claims the Nephelim have returned and the entire Blood Angel legion are required to deal with them.To sweeten the deal, he tells Sanguinius the Nephelim have a machine that can cure the Blood Angels of their affliction.
The Word Bearers and Space Wolves are along for the ride and have secret agendas they plan on completing. The Blood Angels head to the Cignus cluster and find a giant burning eight pointed star and everyone dead. Just being in the vicinity causes a wave of suicides among the mortal crew of their ships. A veil descends around the system, preventing any contact outside the system. The Blood Angels are alone.
A squad is sent to investigate a planet and the mission goes wrong (the pilot goes mad on the way down, they get attacked by the city itself).
Horus summons the Bloodthirster, Ka’Bandha, and tells him to murder Sanguinius, rather than corrupt him, which is Erebus’ plan.
A few survivors are eventually found and tell the Blood Angels about what happened and are attacked by Daemonettes. A Keeper of Secrets emerges on the flagship and tells Sanguinius it is the mastemistress of the planet. Sanguinuis vows to murder it. Sanguinius is told that it seems likely that Horus put them in this trap and almost kills the marine that suggests it. The Space Wolves tell Sanguinius that they are there to deal with the threat of rebellion, in the form of the use of psychic powers by the Librarius. Sanguinius acknowledges the possibility of rebellion and goes to kill the enemy….
Sanguinius fights the Bloodthirster and the fight goes badly. The final blow kills 500 marines at once, knocks out Sanguinius and puts all of the Blood Angels deep into the Red Thirst. The Sanguinary Guard transport Sanguinius back to the flagship and call a full retreat, but the bloodlust is too strong. The legion succumbs to the other Legion genetic defect, The Black Rage, and the dive headfirst into a full on BLOOD ORGY attacking everything.
The Librarians realise they are hamstringing themselves and take part in a psychic process to wake Sanguinuis. He is not happy and destroys the Bloodthirster with perhaps the coolest one liner we have had. But the bloodlust in the legion is too strong and a Blood Angel sacrifices himself to become the Red Angel and save the legion. The veil is removed and the Blood Angels are able to shake themselves off and leave the system (trying not to look at each other or mention why there seems to be a lot less mortal legion serfs on their ships or wiping blood off their mouths). They received word of the Isstvan V massacre and run into an Ultramarine fleet.
In possibly the most satisfying epilogue, Erebus decides to berate Horus for his failure and gets his face cut off. Horus does not care about the will of the Gods, only his own plans.
Review:
This is a brilliant book and brings a lot of ideas into the Heresy that are vital parts of 40k, especially for the Blood Angels. The Red Thirst, The Black Rage, the Sanginor ability to fuse with warp entities, pariahs and the daemons of the Gods are all here and in full display. Slaanesh and Khorne are working together to bring down and corrupt Sanguinius, although you get the feeling that Slaanesh was never going to have him, with the Bloodthirster somehow managing to output the Keeper of Secrets running things in the system. The Blood Angels as a legion are fascinating. The Blood Angels are not perfect but they are trying hard to be good. They display strong genetic defects that should render them removed from conflict by the Emperor. But their noble cause, and angelic primarch ensure they never fall too far into a parody, and instead are haunted knights trying to fight themselves and the enemy for the good of the universe.
We get an interesting look at Chaos in this book. A Slaaneshi psychic is openly working for the Word Bearers, but no one recognises what she truly is and what her power entails. A world is turned into a living weapon and a symbol of the power of chaos. An entire star system is trapped from the rest of the galaxy. The whole population is turned into a fortress of bones.
Whilst it lacks the constant creeping dread of Know No Fear, this is a spectacular book and I can fully understand why the Blood Angels are so many people’s favourites after reading this one. They are the noble angels (and also murderous, barely kept in check butchers ready to go mad at a moment's notice.) The Blood Angels face horrors that drive men mad and manage to survive and carry on.
The ending fully wants you to know what is happening next in the series, so unsurprisingly we are going to have a bunch of short stories next that are completely unrelated to this book…
Score: 9.5/10 - a wonderful look at this mostly ignored legion so far that hits hard and shows how horrific Chaos can be. Full on cosmic horror versus a literal angel and his army of angels. It is glorious stuff. It just lacks the focus and creeping dread that “Know No Fear” had.
Cover: It's a warrior angel fighting a devil as the sky explodes around them. If this was an Iron Maiden album cover, it could not be any more metal.
Heresy Watch:
How close were the Blood Angels to falling? If not for the World Eaters they may have been something for Khorne to pursue. Erebus is no longer the favoured of the Gods, having accomplished his purpose, Horus no longer needs to listen to him and demonstrates it in quite a clear way. Horus is concerned that Sanginius would be a better leader than he is, if he falls to Chaos.
Legion Watch/Number of Book(s):
Dark Angels: 5
: 2
Emperor’s Children: 8
Iron Warriors: 5
White Scars: 3
Space Wolves: 5
Imperial Fists: 8
Night Lords: 4
Blood Angels: 2
Iron Hands: 4
: 2
World Eaters: 9
Ultramarines: 7
Death Guard: 4
Thousand Sons: 5
Sons of Horus: 9
Word Bearers: 11
Salamanders: 2
Raven Guard: 4
Alpha Legion: 6
The Emperor: 7
We finally have Blood Angels! They were worth the wait. They are now on a par with the Salamanders.
Tropes Watch:
Are we the baddies?: 36 The Flesh Tearer. That is not a nickname a “good guy” gets. By the end of the story, he (along with his men) murdered the Space Wolf observers and the legion response seems to just be to sweep it under the carpet. The whole “drinking the blood of my enemies” feels a bit ‘not very good guys’. Sanguinius talks to Horus through a naked Slaaneshi psyker, learns this is not the Emperor’s technology and basically shrugs and is fine with it.
It's definitely not gay: 20 “The ornate doors of the primarch’s quarters opened and Raldoron stepped through, his eyes falling on Sanguinius before anything else. His liege lord wore his duty armour, gold and white platinum with a bronze mail cloak that lay draped over his folded wings. It was not as ornate as the high artificer armour he would wear into combat, but still it seemed barely able to contain the full radiance of the primarch. Raldoron had once heard one of the remembrancers say that Sanguinius shone like a star carved into the shape of a man, and he could not fault that description.” The Blood Angels really love their father. Everyone who sees him seems quite overcome by his magnificence.
How not to parent 101: 25 Sanguinius prepares to attack one of his sons for daring to claim Horus lied to them, whilst they are stuck in a trap that Horus sent them into.
Erebus!!!: 19 Oh we get a proper appearance for Erebus and some actual pleasure as he decides he can berate the Warmaster following the failure of his plan. The slimy little scumbag decides he doesn't need to be nice anymore, shouts at a Chaos powered Horus and gets his face ripped off for it. Couldn't have happened to a more deserving guy. There is a scene where Erebus goes and sees Fabius Bile and you legitimately feel bad that Space Megele has to deal with him…. Berus the High Warden earns an honorary Erebus award, being an absolute git throughout the story until his noble sacrifice (read: falling off a Land Raider to kill daemonettes).
Does this remind you of anything?: 37 Chaos corruption led to the creation of concentration camps. Possibly the most grim dark thing so far. I cannot help but feel that a lot of Khorne apologists will blame it on Slaanesh and “Khorne only wants honourable kills” but also the Blood Father “cares not from where the blood flows”. Comment below which chaos god you blame for the camps. When Sanguinius kicks the Bloodthirster over the edge does he is either channelling Gandalf or Leonedius and we are not sure which….
Idiot Ball: 24 Horus just happened to come across a planet with technology to cure a super specific legion genetic defect. How exactly did the xeno’s manage to cure this? And the planet is really far away from everyone? A likely story. Only fools rush in where angels fear to tread.
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Good gods, we finally meet the Blood Angels. Was it worth the wait? Well, it's a resounding yes from us. This is a portrait of a legion struggling with secrets and having it used against them. The noble Sanguinius is heartbroken by the Red Thirst and having to deal with his poor mad sons, and this is used against him to pull him into a trap. The discussions with Horus before the Heresy are a good look at who both of them were before all the bitter infighting. This set up heightens the betrayal, as before Horus fell he and Sanguinius were close. Horus realises his pure brother cannot fall to chaos, so sends him away to perish.
“With the whip still coiled about its neck, the Angel dragged the spitting, wounded fiend to the lip of the pit in the middle of the chamber, then lifted it up so he could look it in the face. The daemon cackled through its pain, convulsing as it tried to shake free. ‘I will take your skull yet.’ The primarch’s eyes flashed with a powerful hatred. ‘If you truly do hail from the realm that men once called hell,’ he intoned, ‘when you return there, tell your kindred it was Sanguinius who threw you back.’ With a grunt of effort, the Angel took hold of the beast and shoved it over the spiked edge.
Ka’Bandha’s curses echoed all the way down, before it finally vanished, shrieking, into the warp-flames.”
The Blood Angels are shown here in a completely different light to the other legions we have met so far. They fall to the Red Thirst for quite an extended part of this story so we get berserkers from the Blood Angels before we truly get them from the World Eaters. They slaughter everyone they can get their teeth on and are truly repentant for it at the end of the book, with the Flesh Tearer feeling distraught over what he did to their allies (doesnt stop them from doing it in the future though). Erebus’ plan could have easily worked to bring the Blood Angels to Khorne and you can see why Angron is second choice over the beautiful Hawk Boy.
Synopsis
Before the Heresy, Sanguinius and the Blood Angels have a slight issue. Sometimes, they go crazy and get turned into blood fueled mindless killers. During a campaign against xenos known as the Nephelim, who feed off religious adoration, Horus learns of this Red Thirst and talks with Sanguinius. He is scared, fearing the Emperor will destroy the Blood Angels for this genetic abnormality (something Emperor has done before)....This brings Horus and Sanguinius closer together.
During the Heresy, following a campaign against the Orks, Horus contacts Sanguinuis, talks with him face to face using a psyker and asks him about the Emperor and the Great Crusade. One question later and Horus sends him off to walk into a trap that will destroy the Blood Angels. He claims the Nephelim have returned and the entire Blood Angel legion are required to deal with them.To sweeten the deal, he tells Sanguinius the Nephelim have a machine that can cure the Blood Angels of their affliction.
The Word Bearers and Space Wolves are along for the ride and have secret agendas they plan on completing. The Blood Angels head to the Cignus cluster and find a giant burning eight pointed star and everyone dead. Just being in the vicinity causes a wave of suicides among the mortal crew of their ships. A veil descends around the system, preventing any contact outside the system. The Blood Angels are alone.
A squad is sent to investigate a planet and the mission goes wrong (the pilot goes mad on the way down, they get attacked by the city itself).
Horus summons the Bloodthirster, Ka’Bandha, and tells him to murder Sanguinius, rather than corrupt him, which is Erebus’ plan.
A few survivors are eventually found and tell the Blood Angels about what happened and are attacked by Daemonettes. A Keeper of Secrets emerges on the flagship and tells Sanguinius it is the mastemistress of the planet. Sanguinuis vows to murder it. Sanguinius is told that it seems likely that Horus put them in this trap and almost kills the marine that suggests it. The Space Wolves tell Sanguinius that they are there to deal with the threat of rebellion, in the form of the use of psychic powers by the Librarius. Sanguinius acknowledges the possibility of rebellion and goes to kill the enemy….
Sanguinius fights the Bloodthirster and the fight goes badly. The final blow kills 500 marines at once, knocks out Sanguinius and puts all of the Blood Angels deep into the Red Thirst. The Sanguinary Guard transport Sanguinius back to the flagship and call a full retreat, but the bloodlust is too strong. The legion succumbs to the other Legion genetic defect, The Black Rage, and the dive headfirst into a full on BLOOD ORGY attacking everything.
The Librarians realise they are hamstringing themselves and take part in a psychic process to wake Sanguinuis. He is not happy and destroys the Bloodthirster with perhaps the coolest one liner we have had. But the bloodlust in the legion is too strong and a Blood Angel sacrifices himself to become the Red Angel and save the legion. The veil is removed and the Blood Angels are able to shake themselves off and leave the system (trying not to look at each other or mention why there seems to be a lot less mortal legion serfs on their ships or wiping blood off their mouths). They received word of the Isstvan V massacre and run into an Ultramarine fleet.
In possibly the most satisfying epilogue, Erebus decides to berate Horus for his failure and gets his face cut off. Horus does not care about the will of the Gods, only his own plans.
Review:
This is a brilliant book and brings a lot of ideas into the Heresy that are vital parts of 40k, especially for the Blood Angels. The Red Thirst, The Black Rage, the Sanginor ability to fuse with warp entities, pariahs and the daemons of the Gods are all here and in full display. Slaanesh and Khorne are working together to bring down and corrupt Sanguinius, although you get the feeling that Slaanesh was never going to have him, with the Bloodthirster somehow managing to output the Keeper of Secrets running things in the system. The Blood Angels as a legion are fascinating. The Blood Angels are not perfect but they are trying hard to be good. They display strong genetic defects that should render them removed from conflict by the Emperor. But their noble cause, and angelic primarch ensure they never fall too far into a parody, and instead are haunted knights trying to fight themselves and the enemy for the good of the universe.
We get an interesting look at Chaos in this book. A Slaaneshi psychic is openly working for the Word Bearers, but no one recognises what she truly is and what her power entails. A world is turned into a living weapon and a symbol of the power of chaos. An entire star system is trapped from the rest of the galaxy. The whole population is turned into a fortress of bones.
Whilst it lacks the constant creeping dread of Know No Fear, this is a spectacular book and I can fully understand why the Blood Angels are so many people’s favourites after reading this one. They are the noble angels (and also murderous, barely kept in check butchers ready to go mad at a moment's notice.) The Blood Angels face horrors that drive men mad and manage to survive and carry on.
The ending fully wants you to know what is happening next in the series, so unsurprisingly we are going to have a bunch of short stories next that are completely unrelated to this book…
Score: 9.5/10 - a wonderful look at this mostly ignored legion so far that hits hard and shows how horrific Chaos can be. Full on cosmic horror versus a literal angel and his army of angels. It is glorious stuff. It just lacks the focus and creeping dread that “Know No Fear” had.
Cover: It's a warrior angel fighting a devil as the sky explodes around them. If this was an Iron Maiden album cover, it could not be any more metal.
Heresy Watch:
How close were the Blood Angels to falling? If not for the World Eaters they may have been something for Khorne to pursue. Erebus is no longer the favoured of the Gods, having accomplished his purpose, Horus no longer needs to listen to him and demonstrates it in quite a clear way. Horus is concerned that Sanginius would be a better leader than he is, if he falls to Chaos.
Legion Watch/Number of Book(s):
Dark Angels: 5
Emperor’s Children: 8
Iron Warriors: 5
White Scars: 3
Space Wolves: 5
Imperial Fists: 8
Night Lords: 4
Blood Angels: 2
Iron Hands: 4
World Eaters: 9
Ultramarines: 7
Death Guard: 4
Thousand Sons: 5
Sons of Horus: 9
Word Bearers: 11
Salamanders: 2
Raven Guard: 4
Alpha Legion: 6
The Emperor: 7
We finally have Blood Angels! They were worth the wait. They are now on a par with the Salamanders.
Tropes Watch:
Are we the baddies?: 36 The Flesh Tearer. That is not a nickname a “good guy” gets. By the end of the story, he (along with his men) murdered the Space Wolf observers and the legion response seems to just be to sweep it under the carpet. The whole “drinking the blood of my enemies” feels a bit ‘not very good guys’. Sanguinius talks to Horus through a naked Slaaneshi psyker, learns this is not the Emperor’s technology and basically shrugs and is fine with it.
It's definitely not gay: 20 “The ornate doors of the primarch’s quarters opened and Raldoron stepped through, his eyes falling on Sanguinius before anything else. His liege lord wore his duty armour, gold and white platinum with a bronze mail cloak that lay draped over his folded wings. It was not as ornate as the high artificer armour he would wear into combat, but still it seemed barely able to contain the full radiance of the primarch. Raldoron had once heard one of the remembrancers say that Sanguinius shone like a star carved into the shape of a man, and he could not fault that description.” The Blood Angels really love their father. Everyone who sees him seems quite overcome by his magnificence.
How not to parent 101: 25 Sanguinius prepares to attack one of his sons for daring to claim Horus lied to them, whilst they are stuck in a trap that Horus sent them into.
Erebus!!!: 19 Oh we get a proper appearance for Erebus and some actual pleasure as he decides he can berate the Warmaster following the failure of his plan. The slimy little scumbag decides he doesn't need to be nice anymore, shouts at a Chaos powered Horus and gets his face ripped off for it. Couldn't have happened to a more deserving guy. There is a scene where Erebus goes and sees Fabius Bile and you legitimately feel bad that Space Megele has to deal with him…. Berus the High Warden earns an honorary Erebus award, being an absolute git throughout the story until his noble sacrifice (read: falling off a Land Raider to kill daemonettes).
Does this remind you of anything?: 37 Chaos corruption led to the creation of concentration camps. Possibly the most grim dark thing so far. I cannot help but feel that a lot of Khorne apologists will blame it on Slaanesh and “Khorne only wants honourable kills” but also the Blood Father “cares not from where the blood flows”. Comment below which chaos god you blame for the camps. When Sanguinius kicks the Bloodthirster over the edge does he is either channelling Gandalf or Leonedius and we are not sure which….
Idiot Ball: 24 Horus just happened to come across a planet with technology to cure a super specific legion genetic defect. How exactly did the xeno’s manage to cure this? And the planet is really far away from everyone? A likely story. Only fools rush in where angels fear to tread.
2024.06.09 15:22 No_Funny3533 Scam Artist mingmei1344 (Yomi) and her accounts at: Aiu_Agency, asiahug.com, datesteady.com, cudate.com, Jpndate.com, sayhiup.com, Rose, Miyuki Miyamoto, SW Entertainment and more
 | My name is Mark Faraday. I was just looking for love back around January 20th, 2024 but I don’t want to see anyone else get scammed. I had a human profile picture when I was using these website, and was honest. I ran into a whole lying network run by a Woman, her friends, and a man. I will update this story if I have more to say in the future. Her nickname is Yomi, she told me her name was Miyuki Miyamoto and she was from Japan. Her real name is Jeong Nahyeon and she is from South Korea. She also has fake Chinese accounts like: submitted by No_Funny3533 to Romance_Scamer [link] [comments] Mingmei1344: https://www.instagram.com/mingmei1344/ Mingmeichan: https://www.instagram.com/mingmeichan/ mingmei1344 Mingmei Liu My Story is long but it is worth reading. From January to June as the writing of this post. I labeled each part so it easy to jump around to the parts you want to read.
Account 1: (Kawaii, Silly girl fake account) https://www.instagram.com/yuyu_only5/ yuyu_only5 Account 2: https://www.instagram.com/_yuyu_only5?utm_source=ig_web_button_share_sheet&igsh=ZDNlZDc0MzIxNw== _yuyu_only5 Yomi Newest Account: Chloee_asuna https://www.instagram.com/chloeee_asuna/p/C7kNkmzSIEi/?img_index=1 chloeee_asuna Jeong Nahyeon Lover or Friend 🙁(Scam Artist Man) 🙁 https://www.instagram.com/_xijii_/ _xijii_ Jpndate.com the site where I met Yomi (Jeong Nahyeon) original, closed on May 1st 2024. Never came back as the writing of this post. However, their sister site DateSteady.com is still very active. https://www.datesteady.com/ datesteady.com Another Scam website they own: https://www.asiahug.com/ asiahug.com
There is this dangerous woman who I am mad in love with (same person) running many fake Chinese/Japanese/Korean Romance scam websites, fake Instagram pages, tik tok, We chats, and many Chinese porn sites. It is the same person, she uses her looks with pictures and videos to steal money from men. She has many names she goes by, probably even more than I found. She also uses bots to get fake likes and weird Anime filters to try to look like an idol. She has scam artist female friends also I found. She the leader. I know a lot of scammers steal from other people's identities but that is not the case here. This is the same person as the scammer. My story will explain it. As well as this person has pictures of the same person you can’t find anywhere else on the Internet. Even if you do a Reverse Face image search. They said information that match to an unbelievable level. The person who Scammed me: Has Many names (Such As) And a talent for speaking many languages
yomi__na
la.nnnn930
hanhanhuwe
gracegracemei Email: [miyukilovee@outlook.com](mailto:miyukilovee@outlook.com) (Something about BlessCeline Lovee) Skype ID: live:.cid.737fb9ac2ad5655c
(Make Sense) u/mingmei1344 https://www.instagram.com/mingmei1344/ https://www.facebook.com/liuliu.meimingmei (Owner of aiu_agency since 2015) u/aiu_agency https://www.instagram.com/aiu_agency/
Google Drive (AI_U Agency) Hotel Connected: SHILLA STAY Gwanghwamun Her Scam Artist friends who work for both Ai_U Agency and JPNDATE CUDATE (That I found) (Some of these might also be her, not sure) Vynnie_nat : https://www.instagram.com/vynnie_nat/# (I think this Yomi friend and the next 2 images may also be that person 1 of 3)vynnie_natjiejierui_ngc: https://www.instagram.com/jiejierui_ngc/ (2 of 3)jiejierui_ngcVeravera_zhangg: https://www.instagram.com/veravera_zhangg/ (3 of 3)veravera_zhanggElle_owo_elle : https://www.instagram.com/elle_owo_elle/ (50% this also Yomi otherwise it Yomi friend)elle_owo_elleQiqi_shenglim : https://www.instagram.com/qiqi_shenglim/ (50% this also Yomi otherwise it Yomi friend)qiqi_shenglimMyemye_owo_ : https://www.instagram.com/myemye_owo_/ (50% this also Yomi otherwise it Yomi friend)myemye_owo_Her Friends are connected somehow but not sure how yet. They appear everywhere with the fake accounts or it just her also. Riyandiwilliam : https://www.instagram.com/riyandiwilliam/ (Either her lover, friend, or work with her) 🙁Summary: January to March 2024Jpndate.com / Datesteady.com / Cudate.com / Sayhiup.com are dangerous Romance scams. All the women are paid actors for the website from Korea/China. They will try to get into a relationship with you very fast, don’t fall for it. They are milking you for money like if you're a cow. They will threaten to kill you or your family if you call out their scam. They might also say they will sue you. If you stop paying them, they will text you very little. They will never video call you face-to-face. Jpndate.com has a sister scam website from the same people called sayhiup.com. When you buy something on Jpndate the payment goes to Cudate Limited, so that site must be part of the scam also.There also Datesteady with the same layout. There is a company in China doing all type of illegal and immoral practices. Their name is Zhengzhou Zhongzhiqi Technology Co., Ltd. / 郑州市中之祺科技有限公司 . They have their main technology business but they also run a list of many scam websites stealing money from American men, Asian, and European men. Such as Cudate, JPNDate, DateSteady.com, SayhiUp. These are romance scam sites where all the women work for the company. If you make a female account it will pend forever. Only men get approved. They claimed before to be an American-owned company then I exposed them now they claim to be Dutch. Their servers are all in China. They never filed paperwork with any foreign country. They are none of these the Chinese pretending to run many dating sites when in fact it’s all fake. They claim to be in nations their not. They have fake terms of service. I used PayPal before I didn't know it was a scam. I paid in dollars, but they refused to refund me till I told PayPal. PayPal made them pay me back. Then they refused to pay me the total amount they wanted to pay me on yuan when I paid dollars. I reported them to FTC. They also try to hack my laptop for me telling the government the truth about them. They probably get funds from the Communist Party government or SW Entertainment in South Korea. They are very very bad people. Please look into it or forward this message somewhere where it can be looked into. Pretends to be a legit dating site but feels more like a pay-to-use website for fake love. All women here are paid actors for the site. The same few women have multiple profiles pretending to be different people. The funny part is anytime you call out JPNDate bs they change their terms of service. Screenshot everything people. They have a fake page saying they're trying to stop scammers, it all bs they are the scammers. Host of JPNDate Servers: As the writing of this post: IP: 47.242.112.134 - Server: nginx IPv4 GeoIP: HK - AS45102 (ALIBABA-CN-NET Alibaba US Technology Co., Ltd., CN) Host of DateSteady Servers: As the writing of this post: IP: 47.242.47.54 - Server: nginx IPv4 GeoIP: HK - AS45102 (ALIBABA-CN-NET Alibaba US Technology Co., Ltd., CN) Host of Cudate Servers: As the writing of this post: IP: 47.52.110.73 - Server: nginx IPv4 GeoIP: HK - AS45102 (ALIBABA-CN-NET Alibaba US Technology Co., Ltd., CN) Host of AsiaHug Servers: IP: 47.242.112.134 - Server: nginx IPv4 GeoIP: HK - AS45102 (ALIBABA-CN-NET Alibaba US Technology Co., Ltd., CN) My Story: January to March 2024 My Story: January to March 2024 (Update): I know it is the same person, They told me in a text message by accident. They also replied with different accounts knowing info about me I only told the other account. Do you like Asian women? Real Asian women? These ones are real! I know who they are. Hi! This is Mark Faraday talking to you. This is my story of how a website named JPNDate Dancing Idol scammed me out of 4080 American dollars. From the time period of January to March 2024. First, I was on Japan Cupid, a dating site. On Japan Cupid, no one can chat unless one of you has a membership. I bought a 1-week membership. Within 5 minutes to 10 minutes, a woman nicknamed Yomi from Japan messaged me; this should have been a red flag for me. We talked for a while. She said she was interested in me. She asked me if I could move over to the dating site JPNDate because she paid for membership there and not Japan Cupid. She also promised to delete her account on Japan Cupid after we changed sites. She does delete her account off Japan Cupid. Japan Cupid is sus also. I don’t think it is the same company but it is still very sus. However, these women used that site to find men like me. That is a story for a different day. Unlike a normal scam artist, who may only have 1 or 2 photos, she has several photos on her profile. My trust in her grows a bit seeing that. She then privately messaged me several more photos of her. She asked me for some photos, which I sent. She then sends back happy and heartfelt emojis. She told me she doesn’t date Asian men anymore because they were violent to her in the past and her last boyfriend cheated on her. She talked about how she didn’t want to fight with me. She also said we could talk about any topic. She would compliment me often, as I did for her. Of course, on my profile page, I try to post my best pictures. Throughout my life, I have had many different hairstyles. She even mentioned this and got very happy and asked if I was a hairstylist. The spam of talking on JPNDate.com between us was from January 20th, 2024, to March 24th, 2024. On JPNDate, there is an upgrade system. You need Blue Diamond to chat with others. Crown to send videos. Blue Diamond is 20 dollars per month, and Crown is 80 dollars per month. I got the Blue Diamond membership at first. It showed her with it too. After a day or two, she asked me to upgrade like she did to the Crown membership so she could send me a video. I upgraded it, and she did actually send me a video. All pictures and the video match the same person and the same face. Some pictures were in different locations, and some were like three different pictures in the same place. We then later buy a 6-month Crown membership for each other because it is cheaper than 1 month at a time. I bought it for her, and she bought it for me. At this point, I start to believe. This person was giving me all their time. They reply very often, and their texting time was the same as Japan timezones every single day. They spoke not only English but also Japanese almost fluently. However, they did let me know that they're still learning English and sometimes use a translator. She let me know that this website has something called a mall. This should have been red flag number 2. You pay 1 American dollar for each gold point. Paypal is the only thing that works. When we started dating, she said it was normal for couples in Japan to send each other gifts. It was a symbol of forever love in Japan, she claimed. As an American, I didn’t know if this was true. I googled it and couldn’t get a clear answer. She said whatever I bought her, she would buy me as well. She asked if I liked necklaces or charms. I said anything was fine. She wanted me to pick up a necklace. At first, she picked up a $1,000 necklace from the site mall and asked me. I said no; that's way too much money for that. She said how about a 300-dollar Jade Romance charm. She told me to get her white one; she would get me the green one. I questioned if she was legit. She started crying. She somehow convinced me at the time that she was legit again. I did buy it. A few weeks later, I did receive the overpriced Green Jade Romance love charm to my address from her. I never told her which day exactly my tracking information said it would come to my house, but I asked her, and her tracking date was the same week as mine. By the way something almost the same as this necklace is 12 dollars on Amazon. It also broke when I got it in the mail. Probably cost them 2 cent to make. For the next few days, we had a wonderful, happy conversation. It is late January, and I know Valentine's Day is coming. I offered to get her flowers. I got her flowers and chocolate at a very high price of multiple hundred dollars. She then gets so happy. She told me many times how she wanted to go to America and find me. We talked about many topics for several more days. She told me she worked in an office in Tokyo. Yomi told me her real name was Miyuki Miyamoto. Which is very funny because I told her before I was a Nintendo fan, and this is the same last name as Mario and Zelda Creator. She also said she had her apartment to herself, which is true; she does own an apartment. She talked about how life is stressful right now in Japan. She claimed to have grown up in the Japanese town of Nagano, Japan. She also said she had gone to a university in Tokyo with a major in computer science. She wanted to visit America in July for 15 days when she had her time off. July is a normal time for people to get off in Japan for vacation, so I thought nothing of it. I told her that I was from a smaller town in California, but I lived not far from San Francisco. I told her how my town is quiet and how I could see mountains outside my house. She said she wanted a peaceful life and that life in Tokyo is too fast. And she always had great things to say about every picture I sent. We also talk about going on dates. I asked most of the questions, but she did ask me questions as well. I started to ask her a lot of questions about Japan. Like if she visited Himeji Castle, she said no. However, she did say yes to visiting Mount Fuji. I should have asked for a photo of this, but I didn’t. She was very happy; she told me very many topics about Japan. We even briefly talked about anime. She told me she liked Digimon, Dragon Ball Z, One Piece, and Detective Conan. This information is important later. We also talked about how both of us were big Disney fans growing up. She told me she wanted to go to Disney Land when she came to California to visit me. One day she told me, how work was busy today. I told her it was okay and we didn’t need to talk today. She did, however, still text me a little bit that day. This was the only day during our whole time talking when she was super busy. There is nothing wrong with this; all humans get busy. I decided to spend my evening drawing a picture of me and Yomi on a date to surprise her. When I sent it to her, she did not react. This was a red flag for me. I tried to convince myself that she just didn’t like drawings that much. I know I sound really dumb right here, but whoever I was talking to is very smart and knows a lot of things. I was in deep love. We started talking a few days later about the idea of meeting and going on dates together. I know that the yen is weak against the American dollar right now. I told them I would pay for anything they wanted when they were in America because I was in love. This was a big, big, big mistake. They then asked if I could give them 1500 dollars to buy a plane ticket. Never give money to people you never meet in real life, folks. Don’t be dumb like me. Turns out the ticket was actually 2100, so they asked for another 500 dollars the next day, claiming their friend let them borrow the money, and they paid the difference. They did show me a picture of a plane ticket. With the name Yomi and the correct airports in Tokyo and San Francisco. This gave me more trust in them; I got a lot of photos, videos, and even a picture of a plane ticket. At some point, I talked to them about social media. They claim to only have Skype and Line. I found it very hard to believe a woman in her 20s wasn’t on Instagram or Tik Tok. I went on Instagram and typed Yomi, and I found a Yomi who looked just like her. This made me think: why did she lie? What confused me is that all the pictures on her Instagram were different from the ones she sent me, other than one image that was the same. Meaning that the images were not clearly stolen from there. I looked up JPNDate online; there isn’t much info on this website (Right Now), other than one reddit forum from 1 year ago. Someone said something about being scammed by an IDOL on this site. They also said the website wasn’t in Japan but in China. I was wondering why I never saw new females joining the website; it was the same 23 pages worth of them. I wanted to test the website to see if it was legit. I made another account, a fake male account with AI artwork. It was approved in one second. I then made a fake female account; it said pending approval. It has now been 2 weeks since I made that account, and it still says pending approval. This means all the women on this website have to be fake actors. There is also a setting on JPNDate to see who has been online last or which accounts are the oldest. When I asked weeks before, Yomi claimed she had been on this website only for a short time. Her oldest picture was dated October 20, 2023. Yet she has the sixth-oldest account on JPNDate, according to the website. The Reddit forum I talked about before was over a year old. When I was on this website for a month, at least 10 other women tried to text me. There was this one profile of a woman from Taiwan, age 20. She texted me three times in one month. When I joined, her age was listed as 20, and at some point, she changed her age to 25 on her profile. I ignored all these women. This proves again that all these women are fake. I do know these are women based on how they type, but they are not truthful like they act like they are. As I write this, I just realized this is Yomi's friend or sister; it matches the other Yomi account's sister tag. They are part of the same dance agency Aiu_Agency on Instagram from SW Entertainment in South Korea. I knew this website wasn’t telling the truth. I found the JPNDate IP address and tracked it to a server in Hong Kong, China, hosted by Alibaba cloud servers. Reddit was right; the website is Chinese. However, Yomi is Korean which I learned later. I took pictures of the website code just in case. I asked Yomi if she knew Alibaba. Then she asked if I’m going to China—a very strange follow-up question. At this point, I was confused. Who is Yomi? I couldn’t find anything about Miyuki Miyamoto, only Yomi. On Yomi’s Instagram, she speaks Korean, not Japanese. I started to think there are no Japanese women on this website like they claim to be. She does speak Japanese, though. I started using more than 10 different software programs to track who Yomi was since she kept asking me for money. I found like 1000 pictures of an idol, WeChat model, singer, dancer, person on endless Chinese dating sites, and a valiant professional gamer part of the AI’U agency for over 8 years. I found two other Instagram accounts with Yomi's face. Another account in Chinese with an idol name other than Yomi also had a Facebook page. The Chinese account has a post about her going to Australia in early 2024, where she is typing in English words. It was a fake trip. I also found an account where she speaks only Korean on Instagram. I also found a tik-tok where someone dances and looks 100% the same as Yomi, to whom I’m talking. The part that is crazy is that none of the images are 100% the same, but the person is the same in all of them. This shocked me; I follow all the accounts. I saw the stories daily to see who this person was. Her Yomi account is just her normal pictures and atm company or something. Her Korean account is about traveling to Singapore, Spain, and South Korea. She also posts a lot about Disney toys here. When I talked to the scammer about Disney, I had no idea about this. At this point, I knew that many men had been scammed out of money for fake love, not just me. These women are real women. However, there are actors pretending to be in love. They will crush your heart and call you names after a few weeks if you don’t buy their stuff. It has to be from JPNdate Mall only, nowhere else. JPNdate Mall prices are crazy high. I am not sure if the point of the website is just for money or if it is actually for women to study English or what. Chinese women, pretending to be Japanese (most of them), that have connections to Korean music, dancing, and gaming on professional teams. Man, what a hell of a story this is. This sounds like a Hollywood movie, but it's real, or at least partly. At this point, everything I say seems to be true based on what I know. They are connected deeply with SW Entertainment. Yomi told me early on that she had one older sister and one younger brother. It seems like she is actually a twin, and she is the younger sister. Or it’s her friend she calls a sister from the dance Aiu Agency. Yomi claims to be 25, but I think she is closer to 27 or 28 based on finding a listing of her work in 2015 at Twitch Gaming. You have to be 18 or older to work at Twitch gaming, unless your parents sign things. Unless this job is fake, I don’t know. When I showed the pictures I found to Yomi on JPNdate, she played the victim card on me. Saying she thinks I’m a liar and she wants to break up. Then she gave me her Skype account to try to prove it was legit, and all the other images and accounts were stolen and fake. Her Skype name is Rose, with a One Piece picture. She sent me many voice clips, crying, trying to convince me that she was real. I put them in software, and the voice was 30% human, 70% AI. Clearly, a woman is changing her Chinese or Korean voice to sound Japanese. A PC gamer would know how to do this; they do it all the time to troll. Yomi told me she didn’t play video games anymore, but I found a picture that wasn’t that old of a woman who looked the same as her; she had a Nintendo Switch with a white OLED in it. Btw it’s a known fact that Yomi uses software to cheat in the Pc FPS games. We talk for a few more weeks on Skype. I can’t let Yomi, her sister, whoever the man is (I think her lover), and her idol dance friends scam men for their time and money. Yomi Chiense's name is Vera Yuanxin (维拉). Her twin sister goes by veravera_zhangg. Yomi “deleted her profile” when I exposed her. But One Yomi is still there with no pictures. Two they clearly have other accounts with people who look like she just changed hairstyle, talking and trying to scam other men. Remember when I said the anime part was important? On Yomi's Korean account, she has a friend with whom she talks about Digimon. She gave him a Disney toy. She told me she wanted to cosplay a fox; his profile is a fox. There is just so much proof that these are the same people. Later someone hit me up on Reddit from the Phillippines and told me how the same person Yomi scammed them. How for months Yomi promise them so many things. Then when they said it came to going on the plane to visit him they said they were sick or dying or something. Yomi also made a fake Instagram pretending to be Joe Biden and sent me a friend invite. I messaged and it was so funny how bad it was on their part. I said “Yomi are you trolling me?” then they deleted their account. This was on April 6th, 2024. Yomi tries so hard but use a lot of cheap things that are clearly fake like ai artwork, bots for like at ai_u agency, and fake profiles where she comments herself and attacks anyone who calls her out fairly. After exposing Jpndate they Ip ban my address lol. Then on social media joke about attacking me. If you call out their BS they threaten your family and yourself. Just stay away from all these sites if you're going to date online use well-known legit sites. I contacted Paypal and me and JPNDate.com had many emails back and forth. They pretended to do an investigation on Yomi real identity and said she was really Miyuki Miyamoto. It was so bullshit. I told them I would sue them if they were lying, The site no longer exists. The scam does, however. What happened After JPNDATE? April-June 2024 In April many fake Instagram accounts started following me each day. They are romance scams I never got them like this before. I didn’t fall for any of them. All or most were likely Yomi and her friends. Paypal did get me 4000 of 4080 dollars back but it took 6 weeks and multiple emails. JPNDate tells me they will be closing soon after PayPal went after them hard. Like I said I just wanted to find love. I made some stupid decisions along the way. However, I want to find out the truth and make sure other men don’t get scammed by them. I keep messaging Yomi's skype during this period, they never block me. They unfriended me but I could still send messages I wasn’t blocked. They even responded 2 times out of the 50 times I did this in the multiple-week span. I contacted the Aiu_Agency on Instagram (It is the same people as JPNDate) they pretended to be different people. I told them about Jpndate. They called me a hero, they said they loved me, and they thanked me for sending them all the pictures that Yomi sent me on Jpndate and Skype. They follow me on Instagram for 2 days. Then they unfollowed me randomly for no reason. They said their agency would do a police report and kill the scammer. I knew this was so bullshit. I told them how the scammers were making new profiles of them on Japan Cupid. Which is true. The leader Mingmei1344 (Which is Yomi Chinese account) claimed I was the scammer setting them up. She plays the victim card on me. I showed her all the messages and how I got the pictures, I didn’t steal anything. She told me her and her friends are okay if I hacked them, because I’m from the CIA. I am not from the CIA. It was a joke I made a few days before when she pretended to be a mob boss in Korea. I told her I am not a hacker. Right after that she and her friends all ban me other then Mingmei1344 account. Mingmei1344 Message me 1 more day, then block me. However, Mingmei1344 and the Aiu_Agency keep posting things on topics I told them days or weeks before. I checked their old post they never talked about any of this before that. I told these to Yomi on JPNDate and skype not Mingmei1344 again proving it is the same person. They look the same as well. Like the blue feather concept in love mythology, Gundams, Nintendo, Persona, and many many other topics. Yomi claimed to not know anything about videogames before I talked about it with her. I think this is partly a lie. This confuses me so I make fake Instagram accounts to message Mingmei1344 and Aiu_agency. She replies to my messages and Mingmei1344 even does a ask me a question thing on Instagram and replies to all of them. She clearly knows these accounts are from me Mark however she replies anyway. The replies were nice and positive things. Then later she bans them all again. Often Aiu-Agency Women (Yomi and her friends, Mostly Yomi) pretend to go to countries they are not actually in the picture, it’s all greenscreen effects. They also use Ai for Music covers Artwork. For music covers they pretend to sell millions of copies of but there is nowhere to buy such a music cover CD they claim to sell. Their music covers are claimed to be from popular songs kpop songs. I looked, at least not right now such CDs aren’t real. Of course, the songs are real but not their covers. Yomi is most of the women in the pictures but not all. They will post Ai cover artwork, multiple pictures of them using the greenscreen effect, then put a high-quality image of a famous Korean male singer. They never took these pictures of these Korean male singers. They download them and edit them. They pretend to perform with them but it is all fake. Mingmei1344 started always putting her with all the famous Mark’s in Korea. Only her not her staff with Mark’s. I think it’s a reference to me. She didn’t do this before meeting me I looked at her old post. Again Mingmei1344 is Yomi who is Jeong Nahyeon, who pretends to be Miyuki Miyamoto. She still references me sometimes in other ways and I send them messages to see what will happen next. One time I wrote about loving her to see what she would say. I do love Yomi, however I don’t want anyone to get scammed. I told her we could travel across the world together. She wrote in her next post on Aiu_agency on Instagram she liked this future with her future husband. It was a direct reply to what I asked the day before. I joined DateSteady after being contacted by a woman on Japan cupid. She is very interested in me and Yomi so I tell her everything. |
2024.06.09 05:25 KaiNightStorm Modern World Crisis - Destroyed Relationships, Destroyed families, Manipulated Economy, Transhumanism, 'Metacapitalism', Woke Agenda and NGOs
This deconstruction agenda - This comes from the elites, they are the ones pushing these agendas to the general public, it is social engineering. By modifying the behavior of men and women, they will be able to dominate societies more easily.
Promiscuity (Libido Dominandi - Read the Book by E. Michael Jones) + promotion of Hedonism + Corroded relationship between man and woman + Disintegrated families (they destroy the alienated cattle family, but theirs remains whole, with political-economic power through decades) + Destruction of Christianity + Ideological indoctrination in schools (so that the cattle only know what is useful for them to know - so that they do not offer opposition to the plans of the ruling elite - (Bill Gates - they really think there is a rich man concerned about the education of the cattle that he wants to dominate? - His success and social dominance depend on the failure and destruction of the people) + Propaganda passed through series, mainstream media and games (Soros invests in Activision Blizzard) + Deconstruction of cultural symbols that refer to a traditional past (or that may represent some value that they want to eliminate) = Facilitation of political dominance by an organized minority.
All the ruling elites have a dynastic mentality, while cattle families remain unstructured and chaotic, theirs remains firm and "traditional", because they know that the traditional family model is the best (and in fact the only way) to pass the power and money across generations. With this chaos, they will have an open field to pass their elitist reforms without the family structures of the lower classes wanting to interfere in decision-making. This is all about power, they don't really care about this "Wokeness", they just use it to dominate people. This crazy gender ideology and identitarianism are part of this chaos. It's the same people financing the same destructive agendas that completely undermine society, go to InfluenceWatch and also research who is involved with the creation and running of the UN (UNESCO and other aggregated crap), Fabian Society, Planned Parenthood, WEForum, SIECUS, World Government Summit and so on.
Warren Buffett has Malthusian ideas and funds abortion, especially for the poor https://www.philanthropyroundtable.org/almanac/buffett-billions-for-abortion/
Mark Zuckerberg finances drug legalization and other metacapitalists are doing the same.
As a result, NPCs get into fruitless relationships that last 5 months and still acquire some trauma because they have a relationship with a slut or an addicted man. They end up completely devastated and without the generational power they could have had. "Don't have children" - Elon Musk has 11 children, Bill Gates (Microsoft and Xbox) has 3 children, George Soros has 5, Larry Fink (from BlackRock) has 3, Mark Zuckerberg (Facebook, Instagram, WhatsApp, Threads and Metaverse) has 3 and Warren Buffett also has 3.
The Rothschild family gained their power when Mayer Rothschild sent each of his sons to a different part of Europe to lead banks in each of the respective countries that the patriarch chose. The same goes for other families of bankers and tycoons that dominate countries and determine the direction of the world for decades and centuries. Just look at the Arab families that dominate the East and the Traditional European clans. They want to ensure the consolidation of their own dynastic families.
Maybe most people (especially young hipsters and Millennial idiots) are so pathetic that they don't even care about having their lineage erased (since they won't have children) and in the end still leaving all their money to the state. As these people have no transcendental purpose, they prefer to 'throw themselves into the abyss'.
They managed to eliminate the basis that supported the style of society that allowed social ascension - this was a system that threatened the elite. Now without religion, traditional morals, healthy relationships in a marriage between a man and a woman and the accumulation of wealth, they can easily dominate the people, as individuals are atomized and without a protective structure, without family ties, these ties that previously allowed new 'clans' to emerge, the only clans allowed will be theirs. They will completely control science, the flow of information and the economy, as cattle will no longer be able to earn money due to automation and artificial intelligence controlled by them and used to manipulate the alienated.
With the advent of transhumanism and under-the-skin-surveillance, which Yuval Harari talks about so much, the dream of some elitists of determining who is born and who dies will finally be realized, and vulnerable groups will be eliminated (sub-Saharans). We will live in a Brave New World (Huxley) in which the entire destiny of people will be in the hands of some members of the elite, there will be a system of slavery completely legalized and accepted by cattle. It is widespread slavery.
They will create the rules of the game. To earn some income, the atomized individual will have to sell his soul to these elitists by placing chips in his own body (Ghost in The Shell style), pruning his free expression and fulfilling all the requirements to become an exemplary NPC. The companies of these trashy metacapitalists are already trying to control the behavior of employees even when they are at leisure outside the workplace, as happens in the Chinese companies.
This is “metacapitalism”, it is what elites have been promoting since the beginning of the 20th century. They finance everything that goes against Christian Civilization.
With the advent of transhumanism, the social credit system will strengthen, and will even encompass your thoughts and sensations. Imagine those crazy dictators like Kim Jong Un knowing people's emotional state and even their thoughts.
Read Wall Street and the Bolshevik Revolution, Brave New Word and the books that Klaus Schwab and Yuval Harari wrote.
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Promiscuity (Libido Dominandi - Read the Book by E. Michael Jones) + promotion of Hedonism + Corroded relationship between man and woman + Disintegrated families (they destroy the alienated cattle family, but theirs remains whole, with political-economic power through decades) + Destruction of Christianity + Ideological indoctrination in schools (so that the cattle only know what is useful for them to know - so that they do not offer opposition to the plans of the ruling elite - (Bill Gates - they really think there is a rich man concerned about the education of the cattle that he wants to dominate? - His success and social dominance depend on the failure and destruction of the people) + Propaganda passed through series, mainstream media and games (Soros invests in Activision Blizzard) + Deconstruction of cultural symbols that refer to a traditional past (or that may represent some value that they want to eliminate) = Facilitation of political dominance by an organized minority.
All the ruling elites have a dynastic mentality, while cattle families remain unstructured and chaotic, theirs remains firm and "traditional", because they know that the traditional family model is the best (and in fact the only way) to pass the power and money across generations. With this chaos, they will have an open field to pass their elitist reforms without the family structures of the lower classes wanting to interfere in decision-making. This is all about power, they don't really care about this "Wokeness", they just use it to dominate people. This crazy gender ideology and identitarianism are part of this chaos. It's the same people financing the same destructive agendas that completely undermine society, go to InfluenceWatch and also research who is involved with the creation and running of the UN (UNESCO and other aggregated crap), Fabian Society, Planned Parenthood, WEForum, SIECUS, World Government Summit and so on.
Warren Buffett has Malthusian ideas and funds abortion, especially for the poor https://www.philanthropyroundtable.org/almanac/buffett-billions-for-abortion/
Mark Zuckerberg finances drug legalization and other metacapitalists are doing the same.
As a result, NPCs get into fruitless relationships that last 5 months and still acquire some trauma because they have a relationship with a slut or an addicted man. They end up completely devastated and without the generational power they could have had. "Don't have children" - Elon Musk has 11 children, Bill Gates (Microsoft and Xbox) has 3 children, George Soros has 5, Larry Fink (from BlackRock) has 3, Mark Zuckerberg (Facebook, Instagram, WhatsApp, Threads and Metaverse) has 3 and Warren Buffett also has 3.
The Rothschild family gained their power when Mayer Rothschild sent each of his sons to a different part of Europe to lead banks in each of the respective countries that the patriarch chose. The same goes for other families of bankers and tycoons that dominate countries and determine the direction of the world for decades and centuries. Just look at the Arab families that dominate the East and the Traditional European clans. They want to ensure the consolidation of their own dynastic families.
Maybe most people (especially young hipsters and Millennial idiots) are so pathetic that they don't even care about having their lineage erased (since they won't have children) and in the end still leaving all their money to the state. As these people have no transcendental purpose, they prefer to 'throw themselves into the abyss'.
They managed to eliminate the basis that supported the style of society that allowed social ascension - this was a system that threatened the elite. Now without religion, traditional morals, healthy relationships in a marriage between a man and a woman and the accumulation of wealth, they can easily dominate the people, as individuals are atomized and without a protective structure, without family ties, these ties that previously allowed new 'clans' to emerge, the only clans allowed will be theirs. They will completely control science, the flow of information and the economy, as cattle will no longer be able to earn money due to automation and artificial intelligence controlled by them and used to manipulate the alienated.
With the advent of transhumanism and under-the-skin-surveillance, which Yuval Harari talks about so much, the dream of some elitists of determining who is born and who dies will finally be realized, and vulnerable groups will be eliminated (sub-Saharans). We will live in a Brave New World (Huxley) in which the entire destiny of people will be in the hands of some members of the elite, there will be a system of slavery completely legalized and accepted by cattle. It is widespread slavery.
They will create the rules of the game. To earn some income, the atomized individual will have to sell his soul to these elitists by placing chips in his own body (Ghost in The Shell style), pruning his free expression and fulfilling all the requirements to become an exemplary NPC. The companies of these trashy metacapitalists are already trying to control the behavior of employees even when they are at leisure outside the workplace, as happens in the Chinese companies.
This is “metacapitalism”, it is what elites have been promoting since the beginning of the 20th century. They finance everything that goes against Christian Civilization.
With the advent of transhumanism, the social credit system will strengthen, and will even encompass your thoughts and sensations. Imagine those crazy dictators like Kim Jong Un knowing people's emotional state and even their thoughts.
Read Wall Street and the Bolshevik Revolution, Brave New Word and the books that Klaus Schwab and Yuval Harari wrote.
2024.06.08 19:28 No_Razzmatazz_1632 Stand Up and Demand the Return of Jolly Rancher Fruit N Sour!
Hear ye, hear ye, noble comrades, candy enthusiasts, and valiant freedom fighters,
The time hath come for us to rise against the tyranny of corporate indifference! For too long, Hershey hath oppressed us, stripping us of our beloved Jolly Rancher Fruit N Sour—the epitome of tangy sweetness that we once cherished. This is not merely about a candy; 'tis a revolution against the powers that think they can control our taste buds and our joy!
The Outrage
We have been patient, but our patience hath limits. Hershey hath disregarded our pleas and ignored our desires. This is a call to arms, a rallying cry for all who have been wronged. Jolly Rancher Fruit N Sour is not just a candy—it is a symbol of what transpires when corporations think they can take away what we hold dear without consequence. We shall not stand idly by whilst they trample on our taste buds and our memories.
The Plan
We must bombard Hershey's website with our demands. This is no polite request; this is an insurrection! We need to flood their feedback forms, social media channels, and customer service inboxes with an uncompromising message: BRING BACK JOLLY RANCHER FRUIT N SOUR OR FACE THE WRATH OF A UNITED PEOPLE!
How You Can Help
Here is a radical template to use, but feel free to amplify thy rage:
Dear Hershey Overlords,
I demand the immediate return of Jolly Rancher Fruit N Sour. This candy was more than a treat; it was a beloved staple for many of us, and its discontinuation is a travesty. Your decision to pull it from production is an affront to your loyal customers. We will not be silenced until this injustice is rectified.
You, Hershey, appear most active in responding to queries and concerns regarding this cherished confection. Yet, it seems that our pleas and desires have fallen upon deaf ears. Behold the fervor with which you engage in discourse, yet nary a desired outcome graces our longing hearts. This grievous oversight compels me to call for the resignation of your CEO, your entire marketing department, those who answer queries on your site, and the entirety of your research and development division. Verily, such neglect of the beloved Fruit N Sours, absent from production for four long years, should be deemed a crime most egregious. You ought to face ultimate and fierce consequences for such foolish actions.
Verily, do not only give ear to our entreaties and lamentations; but rather, take heed and act upon them. Restore unto us our cherished sweetmeat forthwith, lest ye encounter the grim repercussions of our combined fury.
with much love,
This fight transcends candy. It is about standing up against corporate greed and indifference. It is about proving that we, the people, have the power to challenge and change unjust decisions. Together, we can show Hershey that their actions have consequences and that we will not be ignored.
We are at the dawn of a sweet revolution. Wilt thou stand with me? Wilt thou help us bring back the Jolly Rancher Fruit N Sour and reclaim our right to joy? May this stand as a testament for generations hence, declaring that we, the populace, shall not be ensnared in bondage!
Viva la Candy Revolution!
#BringBackJollyRancherFruitNSour
Join the movement. Let us rise and make our voices heard. The power of the people is greater than the apathy of corporations.
United, we can bring back our cherished candy and show the world the strength of our collective resolve!
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The time hath come for us to rise against the tyranny of corporate indifference! For too long, Hershey hath oppressed us, stripping us of our beloved Jolly Rancher Fruit N Sour—the epitome of tangy sweetness that we once cherished. This is not merely about a candy; 'tis a revolution against the powers that think they can control our taste buds and our joy!
The Outrage
We have been patient, but our patience hath limits. Hershey hath disregarded our pleas and ignored our desires. This is a call to arms, a rallying cry for all who have been wronged. Jolly Rancher Fruit N Sour is not just a candy—it is a symbol of what transpires when corporations think they can take away what we hold dear without consequence. We shall not stand idly by whilst they trample on our taste buds and our memories.
The Plan
We must bombard Hershey's website with our demands. This is no polite request; this is an insurrection! We need to flood their feedback forms, social media channels, and customer service inboxes with an uncompromising message: BRING BACK JOLLY RANCHER FRUIT N SOUR OR FACE THE WRATH OF A UNITED PEOPLE!
How You Can Help
- Storm the Hershey fruit n sour page: JOLLY RANCHER Fruit 'N Sour Hard Candy, 6.5 oz bag (hersheyland.com)
- Dominate Social Media: Tweet u/Hersheys, post on their Facebook page, and use hashtags like #BringBackJollyRancherFruitNSour. Let us make this go viral!
- Email Blitz: Directly send your demands to their customer service email. Overwhelm them with our collective voices.
- Spread the Revolution: Share this manifesto far and wide. Recruit friends, family, and fellow revolutionaries to our cause.
Here is a radical template to use, but feel free to amplify thy rage:
Dear Hershey Overlords,
I demand the immediate return of Jolly Rancher Fruit N Sour. This candy was more than a treat; it was a beloved staple for many of us, and its discontinuation is a travesty. Your decision to pull it from production is an affront to your loyal customers. We will not be silenced until this injustice is rectified.
You, Hershey, appear most active in responding to queries and concerns regarding this cherished confection. Yet, it seems that our pleas and desires have fallen upon deaf ears. Behold the fervor with which you engage in discourse, yet nary a desired outcome graces our longing hearts. This grievous oversight compels me to call for the resignation of your CEO, your entire marketing department, those who answer queries on your site, and the entirety of your research and development division. Verily, such neglect of the beloved Fruit N Sours, absent from production for four long years, should be deemed a crime most egregious. You ought to face ultimate and fierce consequences for such foolish actions.
Verily, do not only give ear to our entreaties and lamentations; but rather, take heed and act upon them. Restore unto us our cherished sweetmeat forthwith, lest ye encounter the grim repercussions of our combined fury.
with much love,
[Your Name]
Why This Matters?This fight transcends candy. It is about standing up against corporate greed and indifference. It is about proving that we, the people, have the power to challenge and change unjust decisions. Together, we can show Hershey that their actions have consequences and that we will not be ignored.
We are at the dawn of a sweet revolution. Wilt thou stand with me? Wilt thou help us bring back the Jolly Rancher Fruit N Sour and reclaim our right to joy? May this stand as a testament for generations hence, declaring that we, the populace, shall not be ensnared in bondage!
Viva la Candy Revolution!
#BringBackJollyRancherFruitNSour
Join the movement. Let us rise and make our voices heard. The power of the people is greater than the apathy of corporations.
United, we can bring back our cherished candy and show the world the strength of our collective resolve!
2024.06.08 19:16 Pink_Princess_97 Met a Strange Girl
I'm a girl. One of my guy friends (let's call him Freddy) said that he got a marriage proposal from a well brought up family. She's the eldest daughter of the family, educated, smart and beautiful and she's doing a job. She wants to be an independent woman, she's on the way to establishing her own birthday card business as she's good in crafting. Although her parents are educated and well established they never support her in her small business, the even never share at least one of her Facebook promotions posts. So she's trying to do everything herself. She asked Freddy to help her. Freddy said yes without thinking (but he has no interest in her business) when Freddy calls her, she tells something she plans to do with her business apart from all the other conversations. One day Freddy went to meet her. Freddy told me that he has no such deep feelings for her but he went as he has nothing else to do that weekend. She came well prepared for her date. And they have ordered something like rice. Freddy asked her to serve herself first. But she took the spoon and started to serve Freddy first and then only she has served herself. I also have no idea why she started to serve him first. Later she has told that she has a habit of doing that whenever she goes out with someone. Even at home, she cooks and asks her parents to eat first. Then she serves herself. Freddy told me that she was a good girl. But he has no idea to continue the relationship. After the lunch, he has directly told her that he has no feelings for her and there's no need for them to meet again. She has smiled and politely and said all right and wish him all the best and thanked him for the lunch. After several days, Freddy called her and discovered that she was heartbroken. When he asked why, she has told him that her parents are scolding her as she cannot secure a man. Without Freddy's knowledge his mother has called that girl's mother and scolded her saying that "your daughter is useless" she was harshly scolded. Her heart has been broken into pieces. But I feel like Freddy after hearing everything he was doing well and he never even wanted to mend her heart. 💔 (I know this story as Freddy told me)
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2024.06.08 19:11 Warm_Finding_6745 a year in reddit; here's what I've learned
hello. this account has reached a milestone of turning 1 year old and I just wanna share some of my reddit experiences and how it has helped me cope with some of the worst mental health battles that I have experienced a year ago.
for context: this is my second reddit account. I don't know if you have known a redditor in the past who keeps ranting on this sub-reddit about getting his heartbroken by his first boyfriend- that was me. I abandoned that account kasi it was a personal choice of starting over reddit since that was where I met my ex.
reddit helped in me in so many ways that I could not even count. After posting like 3 threads about that heartbreak experience, many good redditors came to my rescue and provided me good insights about how I would help myself cope with the heartbreak. Some even offered an ear nung times na need ko ng kausap. You see, I only have a few friends in reality who could actually listen to me. One thing about me is that I am a yapper in real life, so one way for me to cope with that breakup was to post about it online and I don't want to do it on facebook or on anywhere.
reddit became my avenue to express my thoughts and feelings as of the moment and although I have already learned so much and healed a few wounds from that previous relationship, I still go to reddit to rant or talk or share my opinions online especially on relevant events.
Looking back, I am a different person now, but I still acknowledge and respect the person I was. I know this seems like a cheesy reddit appreciation post but I think reddit was one of those things that helped me voice out a lot of my thoughts, process my emotions correctly, and be able to post them on a platform where I could be heard, justified, and appreciated.
happy cake day to me <3
TLDR: a cheesy reddit appreciation post for being a 1 year old redditor.
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for context: this is my second reddit account. I don't know if you have known a redditor in the past who keeps ranting on this sub-reddit about getting his heartbroken by his first boyfriend- that was me. I abandoned that account kasi it was a personal choice of starting over reddit since that was where I met my ex.
reddit helped in me in so many ways that I could not even count. After posting like 3 threads about that heartbreak experience, many good redditors came to my rescue and provided me good insights about how I would help myself cope with the heartbreak. Some even offered an ear nung times na need ko ng kausap. You see, I only have a few friends in reality who could actually listen to me. One thing about me is that I am a yapper in real life, so one way for me to cope with that breakup was to post about it online and I don't want to do it on facebook or on anywhere.
reddit became my avenue to express my thoughts and feelings as of the moment and although I have already learned so much and healed a few wounds from that previous relationship, I still go to reddit to rant or talk or share my opinions online especially on relevant events.
Looking back, I am a different person now, but I still acknowledge and respect the person I was. I know this seems like a cheesy reddit appreciation post but I think reddit was one of those things that helped me voice out a lot of my thoughts, process my emotions correctly, and be able to post them on a platform where I could be heard, justified, and appreciated.
happy cake day to me <3
TLDR: a cheesy reddit appreciation post for being a 1 year old redditor.
2024.06.08 18:12 Icy_Panic_2574 AITA for causing my sister's friend to miscarry
my post got deleted within 1 minute and i have no idea why so i am trying again
guys I can't stop crying, i feel AWFUL over the last few days so i need to rant and get a second opinion. this is also my first time using reddit so bear with me pls - this is really really long
so months ago, I (28) had been planning a vacation to Turkey and only arranged it if my sister Alice (30) agreed to come with me. She said YES without hesitation and I booked the tickets etc. We have been talking about it non stop and been shopping for our trip - it is only for 2 weeks but it is our first vacation together! And we even took time off work for this - all of our friends and family knew about this trip because of our excitement
then a few weeks ago, Alice's friend Rachel told her that it is her sister's wedding (Olivia) and that she wanted Alice to accompany her for the day since she'd get bored etc and my sister Alice asked her for dates which Rachel gave 5 days later (apparently her phone broke).
It turns out the wedding date is during our vacation trip so Alice had politely declined the invitation and Rachel was at first "understanding" about it since we planned this months ago but was still pretty insistent. But as Alice made it clear she wouldnt move the vacation trips we had been planning for MONTHS for ONE DAY at a wedding of someone who she barely knows and was only told a few weeks before hand, well actually at that point 2 weeks before. Rachel got annoyed and took it to facebook and started posting indirect friendship quotes and Alice was really hurt by this. (this all happened over text and social media)
Alice started to feel anxious and upset because it had created a division in their mutual social circle and mentally, it was just all getting to her so she said we could postpone the vacation for next year. I was really angry and upset at her for even considering this - why should i have to pay the price? A part of me did reconsider because now I knew if we did go on the trip - it would burn bridges with some of her friends (but they should know better) and Alice wouldnt half enjoy it.
It really just pissed me off because we even planned to go on the trip BEFORE her friend Rachel would give birth. We were accommodating around Rachel so to be called selfish by Rachel and her friends just felt like a kick to the gut.
But after myself and a good couple of friends of Alice convinced her that Rachel was acting like an entitled shitty friend, we should just go on vacation and they were so kind (her other friends offered that they would join us if it made her feel better but she said no and that under better, happier circumstances they will plan a second trip of their choice).
the drama at this point settled a week later
After work I came home and was surprised to see Rachel in our kitchen. It just felt really awkward. Rachel said she wanted some of her things back that she gave ages ago and I just nodded. Didnt even want to entertain any further conversation with her, I just waited for Alice to come back downstairs with her things, just miscallenuous items like clothes, hair products, a bit of make up. whatever it didnt matter, we werent on good terms anymore so we didnt mind if she asked for her things back.
she seemed civil at first when she asked for her stuff but then as soon as Alice gave it to her, before Rachel left our house, Rachel started going off on one. She was swearing at both me and Alice and Alice was just there in tears. She then got into Alice's face like she was about to hit her so i stood right next to Alice, hopefully sending a message to Rachel that she was becoming very passive aggressive and that she needed to calm down and i told her "you need to leave"
that's when she literally said "bitch move im not talking to you" and slapped me really hard ,i immediately pushed her back as self defence - i didnt even remember doing it it was just a quick reflex. but she fell and she was at the time 8 ish months pregnant . she was in shock and i mean we all were, i just froze
rachel started to hyperventilate and was mumbling so i thought fuck. let me call her an ambulance or husband - i was just panicking, about 20 mins later, the ambulance came and so did her husband around 45 mins later, he hadnt known she was taken to the hospital at that point
and he got so angry at us, we didnt let him in, we didnt need to he was shouting from outside. my dad intervened and threatened him to leave or hed call the police so he left.
obviously our phones were blowing up because everyone had found out 3 hours later that she was in hospital and started attacking us especially me online for it and then it got worse when rachel announced she had lost the baby man
i just felt so heartbroken for her and i just stayed in my room for a day or two trying to process what i had done, Alice wont talk to me and i detect a shift with my parents, mum especially.
but as hard as this is for everyone, I couldnt stop explaining how it was self defense and reflex related but no one really accepts my reasons apart my friends so i just stopped talking to everyone and i feel like im going into depression
i need the truth , is it really my fault?
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guys I can't stop crying, i feel AWFUL over the last few days so i need to rant and get a second opinion. this is also my first time using reddit so bear with me pls - this is really really long
so months ago, I (28) had been planning a vacation to Turkey and only arranged it if my sister Alice (30) agreed to come with me. She said YES without hesitation and I booked the tickets etc. We have been talking about it non stop and been shopping for our trip - it is only for 2 weeks but it is our first vacation together! And we even took time off work for this - all of our friends and family knew about this trip because of our excitement
then a few weeks ago, Alice's friend Rachel told her that it is her sister's wedding (Olivia) and that she wanted Alice to accompany her for the day since she'd get bored etc and my sister Alice asked her for dates which Rachel gave 5 days later (apparently her phone broke).
It turns out the wedding date is during our vacation trip so Alice had politely declined the invitation and Rachel was at first "understanding" about it since we planned this months ago but was still pretty insistent. But as Alice made it clear she wouldnt move the vacation trips we had been planning for MONTHS for ONE DAY at a wedding of someone who she barely knows and was only told a few weeks before hand, well actually at that point 2 weeks before. Rachel got annoyed and took it to facebook and started posting indirect friendship quotes and Alice was really hurt by this. (this all happened over text and social media)
Alice started to feel anxious and upset because it had created a division in their mutual social circle and mentally, it was just all getting to her so she said we could postpone the vacation for next year. I was really angry and upset at her for even considering this - why should i have to pay the price? A part of me did reconsider because now I knew if we did go on the trip - it would burn bridges with some of her friends (but they should know better) and Alice wouldnt half enjoy it.
It really just pissed me off because we even planned to go on the trip BEFORE her friend Rachel would give birth. We were accommodating around Rachel so to be called selfish by Rachel and her friends just felt like a kick to the gut.
But after myself and a good couple of friends of Alice convinced her that Rachel was acting like an entitled shitty friend, we should just go on vacation and they were so kind (her other friends offered that they would join us if it made her feel better but she said no and that under better, happier circumstances they will plan a second trip of their choice).
the drama at this point settled a week later
After work I came home and was surprised to see Rachel in our kitchen. It just felt really awkward. Rachel said she wanted some of her things back that she gave ages ago and I just nodded. Didnt even want to entertain any further conversation with her, I just waited for Alice to come back downstairs with her things, just miscallenuous items like clothes, hair products, a bit of make up. whatever it didnt matter, we werent on good terms anymore so we didnt mind if she asked for her things back.
she seemed civil at first when she asked for her stuff but then as soon as Alice gave it to her, before Rachel left our house, Rachel started going off on one. She was swearing at both me and Alice and Alice was just there in tears. She then got into Alice's face like she was about to hit her so i stood right next to Alice, hopefully sending a message to Rachel that she was becoming very passive aggressive and that she needed to calm down and i told her "you need to leave"
that's when she literally said "bitch move im not talking to you" and slapped me really hard ,i immediately pushed her back as self defence - i didnt even remember doing it it was just a quick reflex. but she fell and she was at the time 8 ish months pregnant . she was in shock and i mean we all were, i just froze
rachel started to hyperventilate and was mumbling so i thought fuck. let me call her an ambulance or husband - i was just panicking, about 20 mins later, the ambulance came and so did her husband around 45 mins later, he hadnt known she was taken to the hospital at that point
and he got so angry at us, we didnt let him in, we didnt need to he was shouting from outside. my dad intervened and threatened him to leave or hed call the police so he left.
obviously our phones were blowing up because everyone had found out 3 hours later that she was in hospital and started attacking us especially me online for it and then it got worse when rachel announced she had lost the baby man
i just felt so heartbroken for her and i just stayed in my room for a day or two trying to process what i had done, Alice wont talk to me and i detect a shift with my parents, mum especially.
but as hard as this is for everyone, I couldnt stop explaining how it was self defense and reflex related but no one really accepts my reasons apart my friends so i just stopped talking to everyone and i feel like im going into depression
i need the truth , is it really my fault?
2024.06.08 16:50 taiyuan41 Henan II
~Part 3 Luna Baby~
A woman like Chang’e lived on a moon. Far away.
You can refer to me as Luna Baby.
At the age of 19 I was diagnosed with a severe nerve pain condition. It is called trigeminal neuralgia but you can call it TN for ease.
I was frustrated. I had completed a degree in international finances from Chongqing University of Business and Technology. The boom of the economy was not the same. There was an urge to “lay flat”—to not try as a form of opposition to everything going on in a waning economy in China.
All are elephants chained for an audience. People love to peek and stare as though they are glass doors without hinges—to be made feel useless.
I developed TN at the age of 19, and was now 22. It came as an arrow, and quite literally to the face. It’s a rare nerve pain disorder often considered one of the most painful conditions known.
The illness involves intense nerve pain throughout the left side of my face. It felt like someone was trying to pull all of the teeth on the left side of my face without anesthesia. The pain can leave me falling to the floor unable to speak or move while screaming profanities while choked by pain. A feeling of a knife to my face over and over again. It leaves me in absolute shock. Like Roman candles to the face. An absolute hindrance. The anticipation of not knowing when it will happen again is a nightmare at times.
The disease is often called the suicide disease, apparently up to 26% try to take their lives. In a state of panic during one of the nerve attacks I began swallowing any pill near to me. I went to the hospital to have my stomach pumped when I was found comatose by my mother.
I want to be Chang’e and on the moon and away from a world I have had enough of.
Gossip spread around the workplace that I attempted suicide over an affair with a married man. There was too much guilt to return to the workplace. COVID did have an impact to the economy. I still remember my hometown having dirt and trees piled onto the exits and entrances to the city keep people in their places.
The work I did find felt beneath me. China has what is called the great firewall that keeps something in and out of the country’s networks. A VPN was necessary to access American TikTok as it was used as opposed to the Chinese version.
Feels humiliating the nature of the outcome for me—I gave up in many ways like so many Chinese youth. For work I would go to a local office building. Amongst a long hall would be rooms for live stream performers. I would entertain with watchers while trying to obtain virtual gifts for actual money. I despised it—sometimes the conversation could be funny or interesting but it felt hollow.
I would paint flowers on my face and wear hanfu clothing while doing ASMR. Competing in battles while dress cute and facing off with others. I would encourage and flatter those that send virtual gifts that could be exchanged for gifts. I would message and ask for WeChat account numbers to talk to them and I would be an emotional prostitute pretending to love and be interested in them for the hopes of more gifts. Methods of manipulation would be used as in begging, guilt tripping a viewer, and love bombing them. Often middle aged men would pretend to be the female host.
I had a mind of sparklers burning until it burnt and stung like wax—like I had the option to stop and cry and those tears stuck as wax and burnt or I soldiered on and grew accustomed to the pain. I was an elephant chained. The audience watched and interacted with me on the live. I was a chained elephant when it was found out about my previous attempt and when the rumors spread.
Too many thorns in life. Nails hitting at the wrong points like an equation for something terrible to eventually happen—a life set to end in misery—a fate.
My favorite dish was Henan noodles. I often cooked it with my mom. It provides great memories of childhood. I hadn’t talked to my mother as much as before. She moved to a job in Taiyuan.
Sometimes I would go up to visit her. But it was harder as she worked more and more hours. Sometimes voids build even when going through extreme nerve pain. And with trigeminal neuralgia, the pain was so intense that I would freeze and scream in pain. It cannot always be hid. It made me an elephant tethered.
Life can be like a pressure like no other. Too much stress. Makes one feel irritable with a mouth like a sprinkler of napalm when someone is too close. Life feels like a lit fire cracker held—in the end it would tear my hand up. Things kept building while the other side of my face began to hurt too recently. This was rare and not so common. My eyesight was becoming blurry too and it seemed I might have multiple sclerosis as the pain was on both side, it was not common for my age, and the blurry eyesight. An appointment was scheduled and I felt terrified to know what was going on and wondered if it was best to not even know my health.
I walked out of the studio and had a cigarette. My boss came out and joined to talk. He was concerned about view count and wanted me to do things to increase it that made me feel uncomfortable. He made a few comments I found incentive.
The boss sure liked to criticize and apply pressure. He was not impressed with my work and thought I could do something different. In China an application is used called WeChat. This application has many uses. People can display and share moments like a Facebook wall, message each other, send money, video chat, and even has a feature to find people near to you who are also looking for people near to them. I was to attract people onto dates. The idea was they would be lured in and the men would go to a set destination to a planned tea house that served snacks. When the men arrived (they had no knowledge of the setup) the bill would be at an absurd rate and if the men refused to pay larger men would use their size to force them to pay up.
I was not sure at the time yet if I wanted the job. Being worried about ethics and safety. It was something I would have to think about.
My medical expenses were growing and I knew the nerve disease could be expensive to treat with surgery. All I had was thoughts while looking at the moon.
~Final~
Easily happy fooling ourselves.
Something unusual happened as thoughts transplanted and I became more aware of everything around me. Luna Baby and the girl made of paper were identical twins disconnected.
I’m from Luoyang in Henan but work in a city further away in Zhengzhou. I am a migrant worker. Always missing my wife as I grow distant from her. Our seven year old daughter Leina goes to school and lives with my mother in law who helps to raise her. My wife Ai works at a factory in Guangzhou. In China there is something called the huko system. It is a government official book that shows the family and ties them to a city and region. Somebody cannot receive access to government help such as public education.
I had the feeling and paranoia my wife must be seeing someone else amongst her loneliness in Guangzhou. The feelings at me up.
I worked at a factory for Foxconn (Taiwanese owned)—the largest facility was in Zhengzhou where they built the iPhone—a symbol of capitalism—a symbol to distract ourselves from ungodliness and discontent. Deceive ourselves to be happy. Vampires of society suck us dry on screens. I’m unhappy.
Are you just like me?
To escape from suffocating from worries I look Luna baby while smoking hashish. Send her gifts to make a hole in me. Then I get to be happy. Life gets into a routine m, swim or drown—when I get bored I get unhappy.
Being alienated as a worker with no family or support around me. It makes me weak. Weak like so many things I noticed in Henan.
The yellow river through the city looked like something that could eat the weak—crumble like buildings built quickly only to be empty. I had colleagues who went to the banks to find there was no money they pull out. Everyone felt uneasy. Just like when COVID had broken out. It also made us all in the city feel weak and uneasy like stilts in sand. Tractors dropped rocks and trees on the exits from the city. We could not leave even if we wanted to.
The sickle and hammer worked to use violence to make the working class to keep making the iPhone. It felt Beijing hated Henan. I felt distant from elites like I was to my wife. I could smell a flooding coming.
Our phones had to carry COVD Identification. If somebody had a green dot it meant to COVID or contact with others with COVID. Red meant that one was considered a contact and needed to be isolated and couldn’t be out. When people were upset with the collapse of local banks they went to the banks in protest. Before plain clothes police of the communist party came and use violence against the working class, protestors had their codes turned to red to force them to shut up and kept isolated from home to not be a nuisance.
Discontent grew under the baton of the party. People were welded into their apartments if the apartment building had cases. One building apartment had burned down and everyone died inside as they were trapped in the confines of the apartment.
I felt barricaded in the factory. We were not getting our allowances and we were being forced to stay amongst our rooms with those positive with the virus. Virus was becoming like a baton to beat us. Like kettles of corn we began to pop in our dormitories. We began to feel discontent and corned within the premises of the factory. I can smell rain like my mind knows flood waters are coming. There is a myth in China called the heavens mandate—a sort of supernatural belief. It is considered import in China to respect authority figures in our lives—this includes parents to leaders of the country—but if things fall apart or if there are natural disasters, it is indicative that heaven wants the people to replace the leader—it is a time to revolt and make demands. It felt like one of those times.
I was amongst the chaos. In the yard of the factory where men in white hazmat suits came with metals poles to clash with the workers.
The speakers were set up by police and security and the workers had speakers too, echoing back at each other like a badminton match.
Luna Baby was on her phone far away like Chang’e on the moon.
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A woman like Chang’e lived on a moon. Far away.
You can refer to me as Luna Baby.
At the age of 19 I was diagnosed with a severe nerve pain condition. It is called trigeminal neuralgia but you can call it TN for ease.
I was frustrated. I had completed a degree in international finances from Chongqing University of Business and Technology. The boom of the economy was not the same. There was an urge to “lay flat”—to not try as a form of opposition to everything going on in a waning economy in China.
All are elephants chained for an audience. People love to peek and stare as though they are glass doors without hinges—to be made feel useless.
I developed TN at the age of 19, and was now 22. It came as an arrow, and quite literally to the face. It’s a rare nerve pain disorder often considered one of the most painful conditions known.
The illness involves intense nerve pain throughout the left side of my face. It felt like someone was trying to pull all of the teeth on the left side of my face without anesthesia. The pain can leave me falling to the floor unable to speak or move while screaming profanities while choked by pain. A feeling of a knife to my face over and over again. It leaves me in absolute shock. Like Roman candles to the face. An absolute hindrance. The anticipation of not knowing when it will happen again is a nightmare at times.
The disease is often called the suicide disease, apparently up to 26% try to take their lives. In a state of panic during one of the nerve attacks I began swallowing any pill near to me. I went to the hospital to have my stomach pumped when I was found comatose by my mother.
I want to be Chang’e and on the moon and away from a world I have had enough of.
Gossip spread around the workplace that I attempted suicide over an affair with a married man. There was too much guilt to return to the workplace. COVID did have an impact to the economy. I still remember my hometown having dirt and trees piled onto the exits and entrances to the city keep people in their places.
The work I did find felt beneath me. China has what is called the great firewall that keeps something in and out of the country’s networks. A VPN was necessary to access American TikTok as it was used as opposed to the Chinese version.
Feels humiliating the nature of the outcome for me—I gave up in many ways like so many Chinese youth. For work I would go to a local office building. Amongst a long hall would be rooms for live stream performers. I would entertain with watchers while trying to obtain virtual gifts for actual money. I despised it—sometimes the conversation could be funny or interesting but it felt hollow.
I would paint flowers on my face and wear hanfu clothing while doing ASMR. Competing in battles while dress cute and facing off with others. I would encourage and flatter those that send virtual gifts that could be exchanged for gifts. I would message and ask for WeChat account numbers to talk to them and I would be an emotional prostitute pretending to love and be interested in them for the hopes of more gifts. Methods of manipulation would be used as in begging, guilt tripping a viewer, and love bombing them. Often middle aged men would pretend to be the female host.
I had a mind of sparklers burning until it burnt and stung like wax—like I had the option to stop and cry and those tears stuck as wax and burnt or I soldiered on and grew accustomed to the pain. I was an elephant chained. The audience watched and interacted with me on the live. I was a chained elephant when it was found out about my previous attempt and when the rumors spread.
Too many thorns in life. Nails hitting at the wrong points like an equation for something terrible to eventually happen—a life set to end in misery—a fate.
My favorite dish was Henan noodles. I often cooked it with my mom. It provides great memories of childhood. I hadn’t talked to my mother as much as before. She moved to a job in Taiyuan.
Sometimes I would go up to visit her. But it was harder as she worked more and more hours. Sometimes voids build even when going through extreme nerve pain. And with trigeminal neuralgia, the pain was so intense that I would freeze and scream in pain. It cannot always be hid. It made me an elephant tethered.
Life can be like a pressure like no other. Too much stress. Makes one feel irritable with a mouth like a sprinkler of napalm when someone is too close. Life feels like a lit fire cracker held—in the end it would tear my hand up. Things kept building while the other side of my face began to hurt too recently. This was rare and not so common. My eyesight was becoming blurry too and it seemed I might have multiple sclerosis as the pain was on both side, it was not common for my age, and the blurry eyesight. An appointment was scheduled and I felt terrified to know what was going on and wondered if it was best to not even know my health.
I walked out of the studio and had a cigarette. My boss came out and joined to talk. He was concerned about view count and wanted me to do things to increase it that made me feel uncomfortable. He made a few comments I found incentive.
The boss sure liked to criticize and apply pressure. He was not impressed with my work and thought I could do something different. In China an application is used called WeChat. This application has many uses. People can display and share moments like a Facebook wall, message each other, send money, video chat, and even has a feature to find people near to you who are also looking for people near to them. I was to attract people onto dates. The idea was they would be lured in and the men would go to a set destination to a planned tea house that served snacks. When the men arrived (they had no knowledge of the setup) the bill would be at an absurd rate and if the men refused to pay larger men would use their size to force them to pay up.
I was not sure at the time yet if I wanted the job. Being worried about ethics and safety. It was something I would have to think about.
My medical expenses were growing and I knew the nerve disease could be expensive to treat with surgery. All I had was thoughts while looking at the moon.
~Final~
Easily happy fooling ourselves.
Something unusual happened as thoughts transplanted and I became more aware of everything around me. Luna Baby and the girl made of paper were identical twins disconnected.
I’m from Luoyang in Henan but work in a city further away in Zhengzhou. I am a migrant worker. Always missing my wife as I grow distant from her. Our seven year old daughter Leina goes to school and lives with my mother in law who helps to raise her. My wife Ai works at a factory in Guangzhou. In China there is something called the huko system. It is a government official book that shows the family and ties them to a city and region. Somebody cannot receive access to government help such as public education.
I had the feeling and paranoia my wife must be seeing someone else amongst her loneliness in Guangzhou. The feelings at me up.
I worked at a factory for Foxconn (Taiwanese owned)—the largest facility was in Zhengzhou where they built the iPhone—a symbol of capitalism—a symbol to distract ourselves from ungodliness and discontent. Deceive ourselves to be happy. Vampires of society suck us dry on screens. I’m unhappy.
Are you just like me?
To escape from suffocating from worries I look Luna baby while smoking hashish. Send her gifts to make a hole in me. Then I get to be happy. Life gets into a routine m, swim or drown—when I get bored I get unhappy.
Being alienated as a worker with no family or support around me. It makes me weak. Weak like so many things I noticed in Henan.
The yellow river through the city looked like something that could eat the weak—crumble like buildings built quickly only to be empty. I had colleagues who went to the banks to find there was no money they pull out. Everyone felt uneasy. Just like when COVID had broken out. It also made us all in the city feel weak and uneasy like stilts in sand. Tractors dropped rocks and trees on the exits from the city. We could not leave even if we wanted to.
The sickle and hammer worked to use violence to make the working class to keep making the iPhone. It felt Beijing hated Henan. I felt distant from elites like I was to my wife. I could smell a flooding coming.
Our phones had to carry COVD Identification. If somebody had a green dot it meant to COVID or contact with others with COVID. Red meant that one was considered a contact and needed to be isolated and couldn’t be out. When people were upset with the collapse of local banks they went to the banks in protest. Before plain clothes police of the communist party came and use violence against the working class, protestors had their codes turned to red to force them to shut up and kept isolated from home to not be a nuisance.
Discontent grew under the baton of the party. People were welded into their apartments if the apartment building had cases. One building apartment had burned down and everyone died inside as they were trapped in the confines of the apartment.
I felt barricaded in the factory. We were not getting our allowances and we were being forced to stay amongst our rooms with those positive with the virus. Virus was becoming like a baton to beat us. Like kettles of corn we began to pop in our dormitories. We began to feel discontent and corned within the premises of the factory. I can smell rain like my mind knows flood waters are coming. There is a myth in China called the heavens mandate—a sort of supernatural belief. It is considered import in China to respect authority figures in our lives—this includes parents to leaders of the country—but if things fall apart or if there are natural disasters, it is indicative that heaven wants the people to replace the leader—it is a time to revolt and make demands. It felt like one of those times.
I was amongst the chaos. In the yard of the factory where men in white hazmat suits came with metals poles to clash with the workers.
The speakers were set up by police and security and the workers had speakers too, echoing back at each other like a badminton match.
Luna Baby was on her phone far away like Chang’e on the moon.
2024.06.08 06:00 Choice_Evidence1983 [New Update]: My (37M) wife’s (34F) sister (29F) tried to kiss me and now my wife is spiraling. Help me.
I am NOT OOP. OOP is u/ThrowRA-wife-sister
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[New Update]: My (37M) wife’s (34F) sister (29F) tried to kiss me and now my wife is spiraling. Help me.
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Editor's Note: added paragraph breaks for readability
Trigger Warnings: sexual assault, harassment, depression, mentions of cancer, emotional abuse and manipulation, body shaming issues, verbal abuse, accusations of abuse, faking cancer
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Original Post (rareddit): January 17, 2023
Sorry for how long this is, tl;dr at the bottom. As the title says, my wife’s sister made a pass at me at a recent family gathering and I have no idea what to do. For context, I think my wife “Jenna” is absolutely gorgeous but she has some really negative body image issues. This is in large part because of her sister “Mary” who is very conventionally attractive, as opposed to Jenna’s more unconventional but (imo) striking beauty.
Mary was a successful model until a couple years ago and now works in the fashion industry. In our early days of dating when I would tell Jenna she’s beautiful, she would always say “just wait until you see my sister”. When I did finally meet her family, she would randomly press me for weeks to talk about her sister, whether I thought she was more attractive than her, etc. I always told her the truth, that I think Mary is attractive in a boring way, and that I think my wife is much more beautiful and interesting to look at. She wouldn’t let it go until I confronted her about how uncomfortable it made me and asked her what was going on.
This is when she told me that she always had a chip on her shoulder about her looks because of being compared with her sister growing up. They fell into the classic “smart one/pretty one” dynamic their whole lives. She also said Mary had a habit of being flirty with all of her exes, and warned me that it would happen to me eventually. She then started sobbing and begging me to not cheat on her with her sister, to which I forcefully said I would never cheat on her with anyone, let alone her sister. I’ve been crazy about my wife since day 1 and there’s literally no woman on earth who could come close to her.
I honestly didn’t believe her about the flirting at first, I assumed it was just an extension of her insecurity, but I was wrong. Whenever we get together with my wife’s family, Mary always finds ways to touch me and make little innuendos/comments about me or my body. It’s super uncomfortable for everyone, especially my wife, and I’ve called her out on it before. She’ll cool it for a while but eventually start doing it again. It’s been six years of this, and every time it happens my wife is upset for days and I have to do a lot of reassuring.
Onto the current problem. A few days ago we were at my MIL’s birthday party, and Mary asked me to help her grab some things from the garage. As soon as we walked into the garage, she turned and pressed me up against the door with her whole body and started trying to kiss me. I immediately pushed her off and asked her what the fuck she was doing. She started giggling and saying she was just “doing what we both have been thinking” and kept insisting “you know you want to”.
I told her she was out of her mind and ran out of there. I went straight to my wife and told her we were leaving. The whole ride home she was asking me what was wrong, I wasn’t sure whether to tell her because I knew how much it was going to hurt but I also thought Mary would probably try to spin it as me making a move on her so I knew I had to just say it. I told her everything and she cried the whole way home.
For the last several days Mary has been calling and texting my wife doing exactly what I thought she would do, even telling my wife that I said she (Mary) was “the hottest girl I’ve ever seen”, which I had to assure my wife a million times that I did not and would never say even though she believes my account of the situation.
She’s been a complete wreck the last several days, she’s hardly eating, she pulls away from my touch when I try to hug her or just hold her hand, she says she feels “hideous” and “disgusting” and I don’t know what to do. This is the lowest I have ever seen her, and it hurts to see how much she’s hurting. I have no idea what to do to help her heal from this. Reddit, what should I do?
Tl;dr: My wife’s sister tried to kiss me, and this is triggering deep-set body image insecurities for my wife. How do I help her?
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OOP on his in-laws enabling Mary’s behaviors and the golden child status
Update #1: January 19, 2023 (2 days later)
I got a few requests for updates so here it is. I first want to thank everyone so much for your advice. It was extremely helpful and gave me a lot to think about. I’m especially thankful for the folks that asked me how I was doing. I realized that I have literally never had a chance to check in with myself after these things happen, and I’ve actually been holding a lot of frustration and resentment about it all. I’ve been harassed for years and it has either been brushed off or it’s been eclipsed by the impact it has on my wife. I don’t blame her for it, but this has been a good lesson in me not burying my feelings for the sake of others, even for her.
I also want to clarify a couple of things that came up. Several people asked about how my wife’s family feels about all this, and I explained in a comment that her parents are toxic and treat Mary as the golden child, even though my wife is a freaking neuroscientist, amazingly talented musician, speaks three languages fluently and another two conversationally… my wife and her family are seriously the only people who don’t seem to understand how exceptional she is. I remember meeting one of my wife’s family friends and talking to them about her research, and they said, “oh wow, her parents just told us she works at a university.” Whereas my parents literally introduce her as “the family genius” to everyone. It makes me so fucking angry to think about how her asshole family has stolen her shine her whole life. She’s literally a Renaissance woman but all they care about is looks and money.
Some folks asked me why I would ever put myself in a situation alone with Mary given everything she’s done. I have no good answers for that other than I never thought she would actually try to do anything. That possibility just didn’t exist in my head. I realize now that I should’ve seen this would happen eventually, and that I should’ve been less concerned with keeping the peace and more concerned with shutting Mary’s shit down before it escalated to this point. Hindsight is 20/20.
Anyway, onto the update. The night I posted, I told my wife that if she wanted to try to repair her relationship with her sister I would respect that, but that I don’t feel comfortable being around her for the foreseeable future. I said Mary has obviously been deeply jealous of my wife her whole life because she is a hollow, ugly person whose entire value has an expiration date while my wife actually has substance. I said that I think her whole family is toxic and has done nothing but put her down her whole life, but that only she can decide whether she still wants them in her life.
I also told my wife that while I don’t blame her for her emotional reaction, her insecurity is something that she needs to work on for our relationship to be healthy. What Mary did was sexual assault and she’s been sexually harassing me for years, but I have consistently put aside my own feelings about this problem because of how it affects her, and that has prevented me from getting the support that I need, too. I told her that her reaction only serves to punish herself and me for her sister’s behavior, and there’s no reason to give her that kind of power. I also told her something that a commenter said that really resonated with me: the only people who have ever considered her second best are her and her family. Everyone else sees her for who she really is.
She was crying the whole time and agreed that she needed to go to therapy to work on her insecurity. We were able to find a therapist who specializes in body image/self-esteem issues to work with her individually, and we’re looking for a couples therapist too. My wife sent a message to her parents and sister that explained exactly what happened and told them she would reach out to them if she ever feels ready to repair their relationship. We blocked all of them everywhere but Mary has of course been spamming my family and our friends with nonsense, claiming I attacked her, I’m a drug addict, I abuse my wife, all kinds of bullshit that thankfully nobody believes.
My wife is still down in the dumps but I can see that things are getting a little better. She’s eating and sleeping more and she’s cuddling with me in the mornings again which is nice. Now I’m planning a surprise getaway for us this weekend. We’re going to one of our favorite places and I’m going to wine and dine her and try to make her feel like the goddamn queen she is.
I want to thank you all again for your help. You really helped me understand the severity of the problem and again, thanks for helping me connect with my own feelings about all this. Y’all are the best.
Tl;dr: Wife & I are going to therapy. We’re going no contact with her family for the foreseeable future. I’m going to woo the hell out of my wife this weekend.
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OOP on how he tries to be the best husband to Jenna and enjoying life together
Update #2: February 1, 2023 (2 weeks later)
So I guess my original posts got reposted onto TikTok and some other subs here on Reddit so I’ve been getting tons of messages asking for updates. It feels like things are mostly settled, and I’m really hoping this will be my final update.
First I want to say that I’ve gotten so many questions about who Mary is, and I’m just not going to say. Suffice it to say that she’s never been household name famous, but she made a living solely on modeling for about a decade from what I understand, so she must have been popular enough that fashion people might know her. I really don’t know how that whole world works. But imo it doesn’t matter how many names you drop, you’re not famous if you don’t have a Wikipedia page.
Also got lots of comments that (mostly) jokingly called me a simp, and I can’t argue with that. I totally am a simp for my wife. She’s the coolest. I hope you all find a love that makes you feel this way!
Okay, I think that’s it. Here is the actual update.
My wife loved the getaway weekend, we had a blast and by the end of it she said she felt like herself again. For a few days after we got back things were really quiet, so we were hopeful that Mary had finally given up, but I felt uneasy about it all. Many of you warned me that Mary would try to interfere with my work and while I initially dismissed it, I figured I would reach out to my boss just in case. I’ve been working at the same company for almost 10 years and she’s heard me vent about Mary before so I didn’t have to explain too much. My boss just reassured me that she knows my real character and would let me know if Mary tried anything.
As you predicted, Mary did try to contact my boss a couple of days later, and the following is a recounting of what my boss told me. Apparently Mary said that I needed to be fired because I was a predator and claimed to have “proof” that I assaulted her. My boss said that was a very serious accusation to make and asked Mary to explain what proof she had. Mary claimed there was a camera that caught the whole incident, and my boss asked her to send the video. Then Mary got flustered and said the police had it, so my boss asked her to send over a copy of the police report. Then Mary said it had a lot of private information in it, so my boss asked her to redact the private information and send it over. Then Mary said she didn’t feel comfortable with that, and my boss told her that she could not take action against an employee based on word of mouth from a stranger. Then Mary shouted at her about victim blaming and hung up.
Unfortunately that was not the end of it. Last Wednesday, Mary somehow sent an email from my personal email account with a dick pic (not mine obviously) to the entire office. My best guess is that I must have left my email logged in on one of my in-laws’ devices, she’s definitely not smart enough to actually hack me. And I know this is completely beside the point, but of course she chose the weirdest-looking dick I’ve ever seen. I played team sports all my life, I’ve seen a lot of dicks, and this was something else. It’s honestly kind of funny to think about Mary Googling “gross penis” or something and sifting through hundreds of images to find juuuuuuust the right one. I had to apologize to everyone on staff and thankfully folks were surprisingly understanding. It’s actually been kind of a nice bonding experience with my coworkers, I honestly didn’t consider myself to be super well-liked in the office but it feels like everyone has been going out of their way to be kind to me and it means a lot.
Anyway, at this point it was clear we had to escalate things legally. I really wanted to avoid it but she forced my hand. My wife and I have a lawyer friend who helped us draft a cease and desist letter outlining her continued harassment and the material and emotional damage this is causing us. My wife then sent a message to Mary and my in-laws with a copy of the letter and made it very clear that we would pursue criminal and/or civil proceedings if her harassment continued. My wife’s mom then called her crying and begged her to “just let it go” and “leave Mary alone”. My wife calmly explained that Mary is the only person responsible for this whole situation, and that their parents have always enabled her awful behavior. She also said something she later regretted but I think was pretty badass: “Mary is going to stick you two in a nursing home and steal your money the minute she has the chance, and you deserve it.” After the way her mom reacted, my wife is firmly settled on cutting off her family completely.
This happened on Friday, and on Sunday Mary’s best frenemy “Anne” sent my brother a message on Facebook to say Mary is going to leave us alone and to please not sue her. I told my brother not to respond, then just sat and enjoyed the idea that Mary was out there somewhere freaking out about the potential of having to actually face the consequences of her actions. It must be such a strange feeling for her.
Since then, we haven’t heard a peep from the grapevine. It feels like things are finally starting to go back to normal. My wife is starting therapy next week and we’ll be starting couples therapy in a month or two; she wants to do some work on herself first. She’s also taking a short leave from work to rest and recharge. I’m so proud of her for standing up for herself with her family and finally putting her mental health and wellbeing first.
Thanks again for everyone who offered advice! This was a messy situation but it definitely would’ve been messier without your help.
Tl;dr: Mary tried to get me fired so we sent her a cease and desist. Now Mary’s running scared, she and my in-laws are out of our lives, and we’re doing much better without them. My wife is prioritizing her wellness and I am one proud simp.
Update #3: August 25, 2023 (6.5 months later)
I forgot about this account completely until today and logged in to see so many comments and messages asking for an update. It’s honestly touching to see how many people care about this situation and want the best for me and my wife.
This will be a brief update, I don’t want to make this a regular thing and the original situation has resolved enough that I am hopeful this’ll be the end of the saga.
Mary and my in laws have pretty much left us alone. My MIL still tries to contact my wife every now and then but she’s made it clear to her family that if the first words out of their mouths aren’t “I’m sorry,” she isn’t interested in a conversation.
As you can see, the past six months have made my wife a BADASS. She has done some amazing work in therapy and her confidence is growing all the time. It’s not just with her family - she’s more comfortable asserting herself at work, with strangers, with friends, etc. She’s even stopped putting up with some of my shit! To be fair that “shit” is stuff like my leaving my socks everywhere around the house, but I’m seriously proud of her for telling me to cut it out. I’m becoming a more responsible and supportive partner because she’s able to communicate her needs and expectations without feeling guilty about it. And I’m able to communicate things to her without intense emotions fully eclipsing the conversation. I didn’t mention this in my earlier posts, but my wife does struggle with rejection sensitivity even outside of her family. Often if I brought up something that I felt needed to change, her emotional reaction to feeling like she did something “wrong” would be really intense and instead of dealing with the problem, it would become about regulating her emotions. Now my wife has really good coping tools that allow her to talk about the problem without thinking she is the problem.
And the biggest update… she’s pregnant! We have a baby girl due in February. I am shitting my pants with excitement. We are going to love her so much and teach her that she is more than her beauty. She’s going to have happy parents who love each other and work through issues as a team. The toxic cycle will be broken. Jenna’s family doesn’t know and she’s not sure if/when she’ll tell them, but if she does there are going to be strong boundaries in place for how they can be a part of our daughter’s life. And it’ll start with family therapy. For now, she has one set of grandparents that will go to the end of the earth for her, and that’s more than enough. My family has been absolutely incredible in their support and their so excited for us. Things are looking better than they ever have.
That’s all folks. Thanks again for your support on this wild journey.
Tl;dr: Mary and in-laws have mostly left us alone. Jenna is a badass now. We’re having a baby and soon I’ll have two queens in my life. Captain Simp, over and out.
In laws (60F, 79M) are begging for forgiveness. Should my wife (35F) and I (38M) keep the door closed?: May 23, 2024 (9 months later)
Hello everyone, I have come here for advice before and you were all incredibly helpful, and I could really use some support again.
You can check my post history for the full story, but tl;dr: last year my wife (“Jenna”) and I had to make the decision to go no-contact with her whole family. Her sister (“Mary”, 30F) sexually assaulted me, in-laws defended her, and after some legal wrangling they finally left us alone. The situation wrecked my wife’s self-esteem and tested our relationship, but we made it through.
Jenna and I had our first daughter in February. She’s amazing and we’re doing great. We ended up moving away from Jenna’s home state (NY) to mine (MA) to be closer to my family, and they’ve been incredibly helpful with the baby. We have not seen Jenna’s family since cutting contact and blocking them everywhere, and we didn’t tell them about the baby.
Yesterday we received a letter in the mail from my MIL and FIL. No idea how they got our address. Apparently my FIL has been diagnosed with late-stage cancer and is being told he could be dead in weeks. In laws went on about how sorry they were for the way they handled the situation with Mary. They also apologized for the way they’ve treated my wife her whole life (again, check post history but basically Mary was the golden child and Jenna was an afterthought despite being super accomplished). They ended by saying they recently heard about the baby through the grapevine and want to meet their grandchild.
To me, the apology seemed genuine. They went into detail on what they did wrong, apologized and expressed remorse, and explained what they should have done differently. They said they hoped to earn our forgiveness with time and were willing to do family therapy to heal our relationship.
Jenna is not having it. She feels like it’s too little too late and doesn’t want to respond. She also suspects that they’re lying about FIL’s cancer and just want to pressure us into reconciliation so they can meet the baby. It seems ludicrous but I guess I wouldn’t put it past them.
I want to respect my wife’s feelings around this, but I’m worried that if the cancer is real, she may regret not taking this opportunity for reconciliation before he dies. I expressed this to her but she is adamant and I haven’t broached the topic since.
My instinct is to wait a few more days until the shock wears off to talk about it again. I just don’t know what the best way to approach it would be. I certainly don’t want to force my wife to do anything she doesn’t want to do, but I feel like she’s not thinking clearly about this right now. It also must be noted that our baby is still struggling with sleep and we’re both tired and emotional all the time, so I feel like this might be influencing how she feels about all this.
What should I do here? Should I try again or just let it be?
Tl;dr: In-laws are attempting to reconcile after claiming FIL was diagnosed with terminal cancer. Wife does not want to consider it but I am worried she will regret it later on.
Edit: People, stop being mean to me. I too am tired and emotional and my feelings are getting hurt. I am not forcing my wife to do anything. I brought it up one time. I know this is not about me. I don’t personally care either way, I just want to support my wife. I intend to tell her I am here to listen/talk about it if she wants to but I fully support her decisions around this. She has a great therapist she trusts and I’ll be here to support her however I can.
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OOP on respecting his wife’s decisions on how she wants to deal with the possible family health situation if it’s real
Hey everyone. Thanks for the comments on my last post, they were really helpful (some were a little mean, but Reddit is what it is). Things have taken a disappointing turn but we have some answers and we’re working through it.
First, my wife was right. The cancer story was bullshit. They were just trying to manipulate us. The same night I wrote my last post, I just let my wife know that I was here to listen if she wanted to talk about any of it but that I would always support her no matter what she decided. She thanked me and I didn’t bring it up again. She had her therapy session and afterwards said she wanted to talk. She said she wanted to get more information before making any decisions. She reached out to a trusted mutual connection and asked them to discretely find out if the cancer was real. They reported back to say my FIL appeared healthy, my in laws are apparently planning a European vacation for August, and they’re telling people we are going with them. Connection was also able to confirm Mary is supposed to go on this trip along with her new boyfriend (much older rich finance guy, shocker) and that my in laws have not told anyone about what happened with me and Mary last year, they just told people we moved away for work.
Obviously, at this point, any possibility of reconciliation was gone. I don’t think I’ve ever seen Jenna angrier than when we found all of this out. Just the utter gall of them lying about something like terminal cancer to manipulate my wife into forgiveness. I’m still amazed they would stoop so low, but it was eye-opening to see comments on my last post talking about how common it is. They even call it “Christmas cancer”. Some people just have no shame.
Jenna decided to write a letter this weekend explaining that she knew they were lying about everything. She told them that they and Mary are essentially already dead to her, she’s processed that grief, and recommends they do the same. She also said that if they try to reach out again, the next letter they receive will be from a lawyer. She told me that writing the letter was healing for her, so that’s one small thing to be grateful for.
We were left wondering who told them about the baby/gave them our address. I’m sure the address is not hard to find with public records but we have been so careful about the baby. The connection we reached out to didn’t even know about her until Jenna called (we like/trust them just didn’t want to take any chances of it getting back). We went over for dinner at my parents’ place a couple of days ago and Jenna started telling them about what happened. I noticed my mother averting eye contact and my heart sank into my stomach. I asked her if she had been the one to contact them, and she just started bawling, saying she couldn’t imagine never knowing her own grandchildren and just wanted us to “heal and be a family together”. My dad had no idea she had reached out and was shocked and disappointed in her as well.
I went absolutely ballistic while Jenna sort of just shut down and got this blank look on her face. I can’t remember half of the things I said but I ended by saying she would now know what it’s like to not have access to her granddaughter, just like my in-laws. We took the baby and left right away, ignoring calls/texts from them and eventually my siblings.
So now we’re both feeling betrayed and heartbroken. Never in a million years did I think my mother would violate our trust like that. We’re so close. She loves Jenna and the baby so much. My family knows exactly what happened with the in laws, she can’t claim ignorance. Obviously we’re taking a lot of space from them but funnily enough, Jenna is advocating for us to not be too hasty in cutting them off. She feels like my mom was not acting maliciously and is open to giving her a second chance, especially given she’s been nothing but supportive of me/my wife until this. Somewhere down there I know she’s right, but it’s too fresh and I’m still so angry. We’ve asked for space from my family and they’re being respectful about it, we’ll take the weekend to cool down before we figure out next steps together.
Thankfully we have this cute little chubby grub in our house that giggles and makes silly sounds so it’s hard to stay super upset or in your head about anything for too long. I know it’s going to be a hard road rebuilding trust with my mom but I feel somewhat hopeful that things will be okay in the long run.
Thanks again for your help.
Tl;dr: In laws were lying, there was no cancer, wife told them to go to hell. My mom was the one to contact them and we’re taking space from my family before we explore repairing the relationship. Currently focusing on squishing my daughter’s cheeks to feel better. We’re going to be okay.
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OOP on if he would allow his father to have his solo visits with OOP, wife and their child. Not letting his mother tag along.
Your mum is seriously in the wrong here. A definite time out is needed. If you do discuss things with her again, she’s going to need to explain her actions in light of the fact that the in laws are people who faked cancer to get their way, and why she thought lies and deception were more acceptable than having your decisions respected.
Good luck OP! Here’s to healthy boundaries, good emotional well-being and a happy little kiddo in the middle of it all x
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[New Update]: My (37M) wife’s (34F) sister (29F) tried to kiss me and now my wife is spiraling. Help me.
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Trigger Warnings: sexual assault, harassment, depression, mentions of cancer, emotional abuse and manipulation, body shaming issues, verbal abuse, accusations of abuse, faking cancer
Original Post (rareddit): January 17, 2023
Sorry for how long this is, tl;dr at the bottom. As the title says, my wife’s sister made a pass at me at a recent family gathering and I have no idea what to do. For context, I think my wife “Jenna” is absolutely gorgeous but she has some really negative body image issues. This is in large part because of her sister “Mary” who is very conventionally attractive, as opposed to Jenna’s more unconventional but (imo) striking beauty.
Mary was a successful model until a couple years ago and now works in the fashion industry. In our early days of dating when I would tell Jenna she’s beautiful, she would always say “just wait until you see my sister”. When I did finally meet her family, she would randomly press me for weeks to talk about her sister, whether I thought she was more attractive than her, etc. I always told her the truth, that I think Mary is attractive in a boring way, and that I think my wife is much more beautiful and interesting to look at. She wouldn’t let it go until I confronted her about how uncomfortable it made me and asked her what was going on.
This is when she told me that she always had a chip on her shoulder about her looks because of being compared with her sister growing up. They fell into the classic “smart one/pretty one” dynamic their whole lives. She also said Mary had a habit of being flirty with all of her exes, and warned me that it would happen to me eventually. She then started sobbing and begging me to not cheat on her with her sister, to which I forcefully said I would never cheat on her with anyone, let alone her sister. I’ve been crazy about my wife since day 1 and there’s literally no woman on earth who could come close to her.
I honestly didn’t believe her about the flirting at first, I assumed it was just an extension of her insecurity, but I was wrong. Whenever we get together with my wife’s family, Mary always finds ways to touch me and make little innuendos/comments about me or my body. It’s super uncomfortable for everyone, especially my wife, and I’ve called her out on it before. She’ll cool it for a while but eventually start doing it again. It’s been six years of this, and every time it happens my wife is upset for days and I have to do a lot of reassuring.
Onto the current problem. A few days ago we were at my MIL’s birthday party, and Mary asked me to help her grab some things from the garage. As soon as we walked into the garage, she turned and pressed me up against the door with her whole body and started trying to kiss me. I immediately pushed her off and asked her what the fuck she was doing. She started giggling and saying she was just “doing what we both have been thinking” and kept insisting “you know you want to”.
I told her she was out of her mind and ran out of there. I went straight to my wife and told her we were leaving. The whole ride home she was asking me what was wrong, I wasn’t sure whether to tell her because I knew how much it was going to hurt but I also thought Mary would probably try to spin it as me making a move on her so I knew I had to just say it. I told her everything and she cried the whole way home.
For the last several days Mary has been calling and texting my wife doing exactly what I thought she would do, even telling my wife that I said she (Mary) was “the hottest girl I’ve ever seen”, which I had to assure my wife a million times that I did not and would never say even though she believes my account of the situation.
She’s been a complete wreck the last several days, she’s hardly eating, she pulls away from my touch when I try to hug her or just hold her hand, she says she feels “hideous” and “disgusting” and I don’t know what to do. This is the lowest I have ever seen her, and it hurts to see how much she’s hurting. I have no idea what to do to help her heal from this. Reddit, what should I do?
Tl;dr: My wife’s sister tried to kiss me, and this is triggering deep-set body image insecurities for my wife. How do I help her?
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OOP on his in-laws enabling Mary’s behaviors and the golden child status
OOP: My in laws definitely enable her behavior, she’s the golden child, they brag about her constantly (even though my wife is literally a neuroscientist). Their mom was a pageant queen and she was their dad’s much younger trophy wife. Honestly we may have to go no contact with all of them
Update #1: January 19, 2023 (2 days later)
I got a few requests for updates so here it is. I first want to thank everyone so much for your advice. It was extremely helpful and gave me a lot to think about. I’m especially thankful for the folks that asked me how I was doing. I realized that I have literally never had a chance to check in with myself after these things happen, and I’ve actually been holding a lot of frustration and resentment about it all. I’ve been harassed for years and it has either been brushed off or it’s been eclipsed by the impact it has on my wife. I don’t blame her for it, but this has been a good lesson in me not burying my feelings for the sake of others, even for her.
I also want to clarify a couple of things that came up. Several people asked about how my wife’s family feels about all this, and I explained in a comment that her parents are toxic and treat Mary as the golden child, even though my wife is a freaking neuroscientist, amazingly talented musician, speaks three languages fluently and another two conversationally… my wife and her family are seriously the only people who don’t seem to understand how exceptional she is. I remember meeting one of my wife’s family friends and talking to them about her research, and they said, “oh wow, her parents just told us she works at a university.” Whereas my parents literally introduce her as “the family genius” to everyone. It makes me so fucking angry to think about how her asshole family has stolen her shine her whole life. She’s literally a Renaissance woman but all they care about is looks and money.
Some folks asked me why I would ever put myself in a situation alone with Mary given everything she’s done. I have no good answers for that other than I never thought she would actually try to do anything. That possibility just didn’t exist in my head. I realize now that I should’ve seen this would happen eventually, and that I should’ve been less concerned with keeping the peace and more concerned with shutting Mary’s shit down before it escalated to this point. Hindsight is 20/20.
Anyway, onto the update. The night I posted, I told my wife that if she wanted to try to repair her relationship with her sister I would respect that, but that I don’t feel comfortable being around her for the foreseeable future. I said Mary has obviously been deeply jealous of my wife her whole life because she is a hollow, ugly person whose entire value has an expiration date while my wife actually has substance. I said that I think her whole family is toxic and has done nothing but put her down her whole life, but that only she can decide whether she still wants them in her life.
I also told my wife that while I don’t blame her for her emotional reaction, her insecurity is something that she needs to work on for our relationship to be healthy. What Mary did was sexual assault and she’s been sexually harassing me for years, but I have consistently put aside my own feelings about this problem because of how it affects her, and that has prevented me from getting the support that I need, too. I told her that her reaction only serves to punish herself and me for her sister’s behavior, and there’s no reason to give her that kind of power. I also told her something that a commenter said that really resonated with me: the only people who have ever considered her second best are her and her family. Everyone else sees her for who she really is.
She was crying the whole time and agreed that she needed to go to therapy to work on her insecurity. We were able to find a therapist who specializes in body image/self-esteem issues to work with her individually, and we’re looking for a couples therapist too. My wife sent a message to her parents and sister that explained exactly what happened and told them she would reach out to them if she ever feels ready to repair their relationship. We blocked all of them everywhere but Mary has of course been spamming my family and our friends with nonsense, claiming I attacked her, I’m a drug addict, I abuse my wife, all kinds of bullshit that thankfully nobody believes.
My wife is still down in the dumps but I can see that things are getting a little better. She’s eating and sleeping more and she’s cuddling with me in the mornings again which is nice. Now I’m planning a surprise getaway for us this weekend. We’re going to one of our favorite places and I’m going to wine and dine her and try to make her feel like the goddamn queen she is.
I want to thank you all again for your help. You really helped me understand the severity of the problem and again, thanks for helping me connect with my own feelings about all this. Y’all are the best.
Tl;dr: Wife & I are going to therapy. We’re going no contact with her family for the foreseeable future. I’m going to woo the hell out of my wife this weekend.
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OOP on how he tries to be the best husband to Jenna and enjoying life together
OOP: The only genius thing I’ve ever done is marry her. I’m a pretty average dude tbh so I have no idea how I snagged her. Sad to think her low self-esteem probably played a part but I do work hard to be a good husband every day
Update #2: February 1, 2023 (2 weeks later)
So I guess my original posts got reposted onto TikTok and some other subs here on Reddit so I’ve been getting tons of messages asking for updates. It feels like things are mostly settled, and I’m really hoping this will be my final update.
First I want to say that I’ve gotten so many questions about who Mary is, and I’m just not going to say. Suffice it to say that she’s never been household name famous, but she made a living solely on modeling for about a decade from what I understand, so she must have been popular enough that fashion people might know her. I really don’t know how that whole world works. But imo it doesn’t matter how many names you drop, you’re not famous if you don’t have a Wikipedia page.
Also got lots of comments that (mostly) jokingly called me a simp, and I can’t argue with that. I totally am a simp for my wife. She’s the coolest. I hope you all find a love that makes you feel this way!
Okay, I think that’s it. Here is the actual update.
My wife loved the getaway weekend, we had a blast and by the end of it she said she felt like herself again. For a few days after we got back things were really quiet, so we were hopeful that Mary had finally given up, but I felt uneasy about it all. Many of you warned me that Mary would try to interfere with my work and while I initially dismissed it, I figured I would reach out to my boss just in case. I’ve been working at the same company for almost 10 years and she’s heard me vent about Mary before so I didn’t have to explain too much. My boss just reassured me that she knows my real character and would let me know if Mary tried anything.
As you predicted, Mary did try to contact my boss a couple of days later, and the following is a recounting of what my boss told me. Apparently Mary said that I needed to be fired because I was a predator and claimed to have “proof” that I assaulted her. My boss said that was a very serious accusation to make and asked Mary to explain what proof she had. Mary claimed there was a camera that caught the whole incident, and my boss asked her to send the video. Then Mary got flustered and said the police had it, so my boss asked her to send over a copy of the police report. Then Mary said it had a lot of private information in it, so my boss asked her to redact the private information and send it over. Then Mary said she didn’t feel comfortable with that, and my boss told her that she could not take action against an employee based on word of mouth from a stranger. Then Mary shouted at her about victim blaming and hung up.
Unfortunately that was not the end of it. Last Wednesday, Mary somehow sent an email from my personal email account with a dick pic (not mine obviously) to the entire office. My best guess is that I must have left my email logged in on one of my in-laws’ devices, she’s definitely not smart enough to actually hack me. And I know this is completely beside the point, but of course she chose the weirdest-looking dick I’ve ever seen. I played team sports all my life, I’ve seen a lot of dicks, and this was something else. It’s honestly kind of funny to think about Mary Googling “gross penis” or something and sifting through hundreds of images to find juuuuuuust the right one. I had to apologize to everyone on staff and thankfully folks were surprisingly understanding. It’s actually been kind of a nice bonding experience with my coworkers, I honestly didn’t consider myself to be super well-liked in the office but it feels like everyone has been going out of their way to be kind to me and it means a lot.
Anyway, at this point it was clear we had to escalate things legally. I really wanted to avoid it but she forced my hand. My wife and I have a lawyer friend who helped us draft a cease and desist letter outlining her continued harassment and the material and emotional damage this is causing us. My wife then sent a message to Mary and my in-laws with a copy of the letter and made it very clear that we would pursue criminal and/or civil proceedings if her harassment continued. My wife’s mom then called her crying and begged her to “just let it go” and “leave Mary alone”. My wife calmly explained that Mary is the only person responsible for this whole situation, and that their parents have always enabled her awful behavior. She also said something she later regretted but I think was pretty badass: “Mary is going to stick you two in a nursing home and steal your money the minute she has the chance, and you deserve it.” After the way her mom reacted, my wife is firmly settled on cutting off her family completely.
This happened on Friday, and on Sunday Mary’s best frenemy “Anne” sent my brother a message on Facebook to say Mary is going to leave us alone and to please not sue her. I told my brother not to respond, then just sat and enjoyed the idea that Mary was out there somewhere freaking out about the potential of having to actually face the consequences of her actions. It must be such a strange feeling for her.
Since then, we haven’t heard a peep from the grapevine. It feels like things are finally starting to go back to normal. My wife is starting therapy next week and we’ll be starting couples therapy in a month or two; she wants to do some work on herself first. She’s also taking a short leave from work to rest and recharge. I’m so proud of her for standing up for herself with her family and finally putting her mental health and wellbeing first.
Thanks again for everyone who offered advice! This was a messy situation but it definitely would’ve been messier without your help.
Tl;dr: Mary tried to get me fired so we sent her a cease and desist. Now Mary’s running scared, she and my in-laws are out of our lives, and we’re doing much better without them. My wife is prioritizing her wellness and I am one proud simp.
Update #3: August 25, 2023 (6.5 months later)
I forgot about this account completely until today and logged in to see so many comments and messages asking for an update. It’s honestly touching to see how many people care about this situation and want the best for me and my wife.
This will be a brief update, I don’t want to make this a regular thing and the original situation has resolved enough that I am hopeful this’ll be the end of the saga.
Mary and my in laws have pretty much left us alone. My MIL still tries to contact my wife every now and then but she’s made it clear to her family that if the first words out of their mouths aren’t “I’m sorry,” she isn’t interested in a conversation.
As you can see, the past six months have made my wife a BADASS. She has done some amazing work in therapy and her confidence is growing all the time. It’s not just with her family - she’s more comfortable asserting herself at work, with strangers, with friends, etc. She’s even stopped putting up with some of my shit! To be fair that “shit” is stuff like my leaving my socks everywhere around the house, but I’m seriously proud of her for telling me to cut it out. I’m becoming a more responsible and supportive partner because she’s able to communicate her needs and expectations without feeling guilty about it. And I’m able to communicate things to her without intense emotions fully eclipsing the conversation. I didn’t mention this in my earlier posts, but my wife does struggle with rejection sensitivity even outside of her family. Often if I brought up something that I felt needed to change, her emotional reaction to feeling like she did something “wrong” would be really intense and instead of dealing with the problem, it would become about regulating her emotions. Now my wife has really good coping tools that allow her to talk about the problem without thinking she is the problem.
And the biggest update… she’s pregnant! We have a baby girl due in February. I am shitting my pants with excitement. We are going to love her so much and teach her that she is more than her beauty. She’s going to have happy parents who love each other and work through issues as a team. The toxic cycle will be broken. Jenna’s family doesn’t know and she’s not sure if/when she’ll tell them, but if she does there are going to be strong boundaries in place for how they can be a part of our daughter’s life. And it’ll start with family therapy. For now, she has one set of grandparents that will go to the end of the earth for her, and that’s more than enough. My family has been absolutely incredible in their support and their so excited for us. Things are looking better than they ever have.
That’s all folks. Thanks again for your support on this wild journey.
Tl;dr: Mary and in-laws have mostly left us alone. Jenna is a badass now. We’re having a baby and soon I’ll have two queens in my life. Captain Simp, over and out.
In laws (60F, 79M) are begging for forgiveness. Should my wife (35F) and I (38M) keep the door closed?: May 23, 2024 (9 months later)
Hello everyone, I have come here for advice before and you were all incredibly helpful, and I could really use some support again.
You can check my post history for the full story, but tl;dr: last year my wife (“Jenna”) and I had to make the decision to go no-contact with her whole family. Her sister (“Mary”, 30F) sexually assaulted me, in-laws defended her, and after some legal wrangling they finally left us alone. The situation wrecked my wife’s self-esteem and tested our relationship, but we made it through.
Jenna and I had our first daughter in February. She’s amazing and we’re doing great. We ended up moving away from Jenna’s home state (NY) to mine (MA) to be closer to my family, and they’ve been incredibly helpful with the baby. We have not seen Jenna’s family since cutting contact and blocking them everywhere, and we didn’t tell them about the baby.
Yesterday we received a letter in the mail from my MIL and FIL. No idea how they got our address. Apparently my FIL has been diagnosed with late-stage cancer and is being told he could be dead in weeks. In laws went on about how sorry they were for the way they handled the situation with Mary. They also apologized for the way they’ve treated my wife her whole life (again, check post history but basically Mary was the golden child and Jenna was an afterthought despite being super accomplished). They ended by saying they recently heard about the baby through the grapevine and want to meet their grandchild.
To me, the apology seemed genuine. They went into detail on what they did wrong, apologized and expressed remorse, and explained what they should have done differently. They said they hoped to earn our forgiveness with time and were willing to do family therapy to heal our relationship.
Jenna is not having it. She feels like it’s too little too late and doesn’t want to respond. She also suspects that they’re lying about FIL’s cancer and just want to pressure us into reconciliation so they can meet the baby. It seems ludicrous but I guess I wouldn’t put it past them.
I want to respect my wife’s feelings around this, but I’m worried that if the cancer is real, she may regret not taking this opportunity for reconciliation before he dies. I expressed this to her but she is adamant and I haven’t broached the topic since.
My instinct is to wait a few more days until the shock wears off to talk about it again. I just don’t know what the best way to approach it would be. I certainly don’t want to force my wife to do anything she doesn’t want to do, but I feel like she’s not thinking clearly about this right now. It also must be noted that our baby is still struggling with sleep and we’re both tired and emotional all the time, so I feel like this might be influencing how she feels about all this.
What should I do here? Should I try again or just let it be?
Tl;dr: In-laws are attempting to reconcile after claiming FIL was diagnosed with terminal cancer. Wife does not want to consider it but I am worried she will regret it later on.
Edit: People, stop being mean to me. I too am tired and emotional and my feelings are getting hurt. I am not forcing my wife to do anything. I brought it up one time. I know this is not about me. I don’t personally care either way, I just want to support my wife. I intend to tell her I am here to listen/talk about it if she wants to but I fully support her decisions around this. She has a great therapist she trusts and I’ll be here to support her however I can.
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OOP on respecting his wife’s decisions on how she wants to deal with the possible family health situation if it’s real
OOP: To be clear, I will absolutely respect whatever decision she makes. I just feel like the news is so fresh and we’re in such an emotionally complex place as it is that she may not be thinking clearly about it. A similar situation happened to a friend of mine and he regretted it for years, actually turned to alcohol pretty hard for a while after. My wife has worked really hard to improve her mental health and I worry about how the regret might set her back. Although I suppose if her family is actually lying/manipulating us that would set her back too. I just don’t know. Would it be terrible to bring it up again in a few days just to see if she feels differently?OOP receiving advice on letting his wife lead the way of dealing with her family. She knows what her family is like all her life
Edit: I’ve also thought about asking my parents to take the baby for a couple of days so we can get away and recharge. Maybe just getting my wife in a better headspace would allow her to think things through more carefully/less reactively
OOP: This was really helpful, thank you so much. I will give it time and let her lead the way.OOP on letting his wife make decisions and don’t bring their daughter into the mix
I hadn’t thought about that “earn it with time” thing — like if he actually is about to die what time are they talking about? And reading from other people that this is a common manipulation tactic makes me feel more strongly that my wife’s instinct about them lying is correct
OOP: I would never do this. Not sure what part of “I would never force my wife to do anything she doesn’t want to do” isn’t getting through to people, but I would never betray her like that. I’ve never gone behind her back and never will, we make decisions as a team and this is her call. I don’t personally care if we never see them again, it isn’t about me, I came here for advice on how to support my wife and hold space for her to talk about it. All I care about is her being okay.
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Update: In laws (60F, 79M) are begging for forgiveness. Should my wife (35F) and I (38M) keep the door closed?: June 1, 2024Hey everyone. Thanks for the comments on my last post, they were really helpful (some were a little mean, but Reddit is what it is). Things have taken a disappointing turn but we have some answers and we’re working through it.
First, my wife was right. The cancer story was bullshit. They were just trying to manipulate us. The same night I wrote my last post, I just let my wife know that I was here to listen if she wanted to talk about any of it but that I would always support her no matter what she decided. She thanked me and I didn’t bring it up again. She had her therapy session and afterwards said she wanted to talk. She said she wanted to get more information before making any decisions. She reached out to a trusted mutual connection and asked them to discretely find out if the cancer was real. They reported back to say my FIL appeared healthy, my in laws are apparently planning a European vacation for August, and they’re telling people we are going with them. Connection was also able to confirm Mary is supposed to go on this trip along with her new boyfriend (much older rich finance guy, shocker) and that my in laws have not told anyone about what happened with me and Mary last year, they just told people we moved away for work.
Obviously, at this point, any possibility of reconciliation was gone. I don’t think I’ve ever seen Jenna angrier than when we found all of this out. Just the utter gall of them lying about something like terminal cancer to manipulate my wife into forgiveness. I’m still amazed they would stoop so low, but it was eye-opening to see comments on my last post talking about how common it is. They even call it “Christmas cancer”. Some people just have no shame.
Jenna decided to write a letter this weekend explaining that she knew they were lying about everything. She told them that they and Mary are essentially already dead to her, she’s processed that grief, and recommends they do the same. She also said that if they try to reach out again, the next letter they receive will be from a lawyer. She told me that writing the letter was healing for her, so that’s one small thing to be grateful for.
We were left wondering who told them about the baby/gave them our address. I’m sure the address is not hard to find with public records but we have been so careful about the baby. The connection we reached out to didn’t even know about her until Jenna called (we like/trust them just didn’t want to take any chances of it getting back). We went over for dinner at my parents’ place a couple of days ago and Jenna started telling them about what happened. I noticed my mother averting eye contact and my heart sank into my stomach. I asked her if she had been the one to contact them, and she just started bawling, saying she couldn’t imagine never knowing her own grandchildren and just wanted us to “heal and be a family together”. My dad had no idea she had reached out and was shocked and disappointed in her as well.
I went absolutely ballistic while Jenna sort of just shut down and got this blank look on her face. I can’t remember half of the things I said but I ended by saying she would now know what it’s like to not have access to her granddaughter, just like my in-laws. We took the baby and left right away, ignoring calls/texts from them and eventually my siblings.
So now we’re both feeling betrayed and heartbroken. Never in a million years did I think my mother would violate our trust like that. We’re so close. She loves Jenna and the baby so much. My family knows exactly what happened with the in laws, she can’t claim ignorance. Obviously we’re taking a lot of space from them but funnily enough, Jenna is advocating for us to not be too hasty in cutting them off. She feels like my mom was not acting maliciously and is open to giving her a second chance, especially given she’s been nothing but supportive of me/my wife until this. Somewhere down there I know she’s right, but it’s too fresh and I’m still so angry. We’ve asked for space from my family and they’re being respectful about it, we’ll take the weekend to cool down before we figure out next steps together.
Thankfully we have this cute little chubby grub in our house that giggles and makes silly sounds so it’s hard to stay super upset or in your head about anything for too long. I know it’s going to be a hard road rebuilding trust with my mom but I feel somewhat hopeful that things will be okay in the long run.
Thanks again for your help.
Tl;dr: In laws were lying, there was no cancer, wife told them to go to hell. My mom was the one to contact them and we’re taking space from my family before we explore repairing the relationship. Currently focusing on squishing my daughter’s cheeks to feel better. We’re going to be okay.
Relevant Comments
OOP on if he would allow his father to have his solo visits with OOP, wife and their child. Not letting his mother tag along.
OOP: We’ve let my dad know that he will be welcome to come see the baby on his own, but we want space from everybody for a little while. He understandsSea_Midnight1411: Oh wow. I’m so sorry this has happened to you but well done for making the right choices throughout. Your wife’s idea of discreetly gathering more information before going nuclear was a good one, as was the decision to go nuclear afterwards.
Your mum is seriously in the wrong here. A definite time out is needed. If you do discuss things with her again, she’s going to need to explain her actions in light of the fact that the in laws are people who faked cancer to get their way, and why she thought lies and deception were more acceptable than having your decisions respected.
Good luck OP! Here’s to healthy boundaries, good emotional well-being and a happy little kiddo in the middle of it all x
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2024.06.08 04:52 Vault32 I was in a strange “gifted” program in the early 80s. Looking for more information or answers.
The other day in ufos, someone had posted about their experiences as a child in an unusual ‘gifted’ program, and wondered if it was somehow tied to ufos, hybrid programs, remote viewing, mk ultra, or what.
At first read it would sound crazy. But it resonated with me, and suddenly I was thinking back on my own childhood and a gifted program I was in called “SPACE LAB” that I hadn’t thought about in almost 35 years. After adding my experiences to the mix I was told that maybe the folks in high strangeness should hear what I had to say, or point me toward similar tales so I could research and maybe sort out some childhood memories of my own. Seeing the posts about others who were grappling with memories of being in odd programs as children is reawakening some of mine that I had filed away.
…so below is a restructured repost if what I said at ufos:
I’m in my 40s now, but in the early 80s I lived in a very rural south Georgia town, attending a tiny elementary school that served K-6th grade. This was before magnet schools, or many of the other special activities or courses were available for kids who seemed… smarter or scoring above their age/class, I guess. “Gifted” was a word that was used a lot. And I hated it. I’m not bragging, but I was one of those kids. I heard it from all the adults in my school and home life. I’m a mess now, but at that point I guess I had a lot of promise and potential. But it was a lot of pressure, and I stopped caring for it once I reached high school.
I was reading books at two. By kindergarten I was well above my peers in reading, writing, abstract thought and getting into math and science. By first and second I was the kid that teachers called on to read books aloud to the class. I was finishing tests first and basically putting my head on the desk waiting for everyone else to finish. Creatively, I was drawing and crafting like mad, writing and illustrating my own stories. I was a walking encyclopedia of space and animal facts. Teachers loved me but could tell I was operating above my classmates and getting bored. I never really thought I was smarter than the other kids, I was just into learning, and enjoyed the whole process of absorbing and sharing information. People told me I was smart, but I always felt, isn’t this how everyone thinks?
Around first grade I think, I was sometimes pulled out of class where I was given hearing tests and read from word cards to sharpen some of my soft pronunciations. I don’t think I even had a hearing issue, but I did have a lisp that may have made them think I was hard of hearing. I had problems with Ls and Rs and some ‘ch’ words. It’s not that unusual. There were also vision tests where I’d look at a red spot, try to align spots, overlay pictures by crossing or uncrossing my eyes, identify odd symbols and other things that may or may not have been standard, idk.
But what was most unusual is at the same time, I was also introduced to a kind of special class called ‘Space Lab’, where I and some other ‘gifted’ kids (some I knew from my classes, and some that went to my school but weren’t in my class) would be pulled out of our normal class schedule to meet in the library, or sometimes go places, and do advanced learning, I guess? I don’t even remember how it began. It just suddenly started happening. I honestly don’t know if my parents were aware of it. More on that below.
Anyway, I felt so confused because sometimes I was getting pulled out of class for the speech, vision and hearing tests or lessons, along with kids who were physically or mentally disabled, and then another huge part of the day was spent doing extracurricular, or ‘above grade level’ stuff with the smart kids. So this was very confusing to my young ego at the time. Neither program was done daily, but once or twice a week, for a few years. The speech and sensory tests maybe lasted a year off and on but Space Lab lasted several.
It didn’t seem that weird at the time, but does now in retrospect. The weirdest thing is that I just don’t remember much in detail about it at all, with a few exceptions that are resurfacing. Some of those are below.
For years I kept telling myself that it was maybe just the rural school’s way of handling smart kids who were bright, but bored, as best they could with no real curricular means to skip kids ahead. We did some special field trips, sat around and talked about space, and science, and the environment (which was weird to do that early in the 80s, especially in that backwater Georgia town), did some advanced crafts, projects and science experiments, but the majority of my time there is a blank.
One thing I do remember..those old ‘psychic’ flash cards- the ones with circles, triangles, wavy lines, etc. I don’t exactly remember the teachers testing us with them, but I remember us being encouraged to playfully test each other with them. Later, I remember seeing that opening scene from ghostbusters and knowing exactly what they were. I also remember some of us sitting in silence, visualizing things we were asked to think about, and even, swear to god, trying to talk to each other with our mind. That part I can’t remember if we were instructed to do, or if we started doing it for fun. Other times we’d try guessing what the other was thinking. A word, or a picture. I do know sometimes we were separated around the room, at distance from each other, and others we were all at the same long tables. I also remember some crude cardboard box divider things that they had to kind of block out light and distractions while we did some of these ‘games’. And sound blocking headphones. A LOT. This is really starting to come back to me. I really remember having to close our eyes and being asked to visualize a lot.
We also did a lot of field trips during school hours that were totally unexpected. We were always back on time but I don’t remember knowing what days they might happen. I remember worrying for my mom and if she knew where I’d be going. I don’t remember bringing home permission slips for them. Some were to aquariums, parks, etc but some were to the local college or other office complex or building that we were told or assumed had some tie to science or something we were interested in (we were little nerds after all) or to go see how something was made, supposedly.
But yeah- the weird thing is I really don’t remember shit about those trips beyond that we went on them. My most clear memory of one is walking down a very modern brick hall that had built in planters and like, a mini ecosystem that smelled like pure nature. Automated misters for the plants, water pump waterfalls, that sort of thing - and I’m walking with my ‘space lab’ classmates and suddenly being embarrassed when one of my dad’s socks that had static clung inside my shorts fell out as we walked and I got teased about it. I couldn’t tell you what the place was or why we were there.
Other times weren’t even that detailed. I remember we’d take a van somewhere and be back before the end of the day. We didn’t take a bus because there were only maybe 6 or 7 of us.
I can bore you with details about pretty much any regular old field trip I went on with my regular schoolmates- movie theaters and what we saw, okeefenokee swamp and buying a rubber alligator, going to a local dairy and seeing milk get pasteurized, etc…but I don’t remember anything specific, interesting or exciting about ANY outings with ‘Space Lab’
But I’ve rambled enough, here are a few final points about the class, and me in general.
What was I involved in? Why did it stop? And why don’t I remember much about it?
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At first read it would sound crazy. But it resonated with me, and suddenly I was thinking back on my own childhood and a gifted program I was in called “SPACE LAB” that I hadn’t thought about in almost 35 years. After adding my experiences to the mix I was told that maybe the folks in high strangeness should hear what I had to say, or point me toward similar tales so I could research and maybe sort out some childhood memories of my own. Seeing the posts about others who were grappling with memories of being in odd programs as children is reawakening some of mine that I had filed away.
…so below is a restructured repost if what I said at ufos:
I was reading books at two. By kindergarten I was well above my peers in reading, writing, abstract thought and getting into math and science. By first and second I was the kid that teachers called on to read books aloud to the class. I was finishing tests first and basically putting my head on the desk waiting for everyone else to finish. Creatively, I was drawing and crafting like mad, writing and illustrating my own stories. I was a walking encyclopedia of space and animal facts. Teachers loved me but could tell I was operating above my classmates and getting bored. I never really thought I was smarter than the other kids, I was just into learning, and enjoyed the whole process of absorbing and sharing information. People told me I was smart, but I always felt, isn’t this how everyone thinks?
Around first grade I think, I was sometimes pulled out of class where I was given hearing tests and read from word cards to sharpen some of my soft pronunciations. I don’t think I even had a hearing issue, but I did have a lisp that may have made them think I was hard of hearing. I had problems with Ls and Rs and some ‘ch’ words. It’s not that unusual. There were also vision tests where I’d look at a red spot, try to align spots, overlay pictures by crossing or uncrossing my eyes, identify odd symbols and other things that may or may not have been standard, idk.
But what was most unusual is at the same time, I was also introduced to a kind of special class called ‘Space Lab’, where I and some other ‘gifted’ kids (some I knew from my classes, and some that went to my school but weren’t in my class) would be pulled out of our normal class schedule to meet in the library, or sometimes go places, and do advanced learning, I guess? I don’t even remember how it began. It just suddenly started happening. I honestly don’t know if my parents were aware of it. More on that below.
Anyway, I felt so confused because sometimes I was getting pulled out of class for the speech, vision and hearing tests or lessons, along with kids who were physically or mentally disabled, and then another huge part of the day was spent doing extracurricular, or ‘above grade level’ stuff with the smart kids. So this was very confusing to my young ego at the time. Neither program was done daily, but once or twice a week, for a few years. The speech and sensory tests maybe lasted a year off and on but Space Lab lasted several.
It didn’t seem that weird at the time, but does now in retrospect. The weirdest thing is that I just don’t remember much in detail about it at all, with a few exceptions that are resurfacing. Some of those are below.
For years I kept telling myself that it was maybe just the rural school’s way of handling smart kids who were bright, but bored, as best they could with no real curricular means to skip kids ahead. We did some special field trips, sat around and talked about space, and science, and the environment (which was weird to do that early in the 80s, especially in that backwater Georgia town), did some advanced crafts, projects and science experiments, but the majority of my time there is a blank.
One thing I do remember..those old ‘psychic’ flash cards- the ones with circles, triangles, wavy lines, etc. I don’t exactly remember the teachers testing us with them, but I remember us being encouraged to playfully test each other with them. Later, I remember seeing that opening scene from ghostbusters and knowing exactly what they were. I also remember some of us sitting in silence, visualizing things we were asked to think about, and even, swear to god, trying to talk to each other with our mind. That part I can’t remember if we were instructed to do, or if we started doing it for fun. Other times we’d try guessing what the other was thinking. A word, or a picture. I do know sometimes we were separated around the room, at distance from each other, and others we were all at the same long tables. I also remember some crude cardboard box divider things that they had to kind of block out light and distractions while we did some of these ‘games’. And sound blocking headphones. A LOT. This is really starting to come back to me. I really remember having to close our eyes and being asked to visualize a lot.
We also did a lot of field trips during school hours that were totally unexpected. We were always back on time but I don’t remember knowing what days they might happen. I remember worrying for my mom and if she knew where I’d be going. I don’t remember bringing home permission slips for them. Some were to aquariums, parks, etc but some were to the local college or other office complex or building that we were told or assumed had some tie to science or something we were interested in (we were little nerds after all) or to go see how something was made, supposedly.
But yeah- the weird thing is I really don’t remember shit about those trips beyond that we went on them. My most clear memory of one is walking down a very modern brick hall that had built in planters and like, a mini ecosystem that smelled like pure nature. Automated misters for the plants, water pump waterfalls, that sort of thing - and I’m walking with my ‘space lab’ classmates and suddenly being embarrassed when one of my dad’s socks that had static clung inside my shorts fell out as we walked and I got teased about it. I couldn’t tell you what the place was or why we were there.
Other times weren’t even that detailed. I remember we’d take a van somewhere and be back before the end of the day. We didn’t take a bus because there were only maybe 6 or 7 of us.
I can bore you with details about pretty much any regular old field trip I went on with my regular schoolmates- movie theaters and what we saw, okeefenokee swamp and buying a rubber alligator, going to a local dairy and seeing milk get pasteurized, etc…but I don’t remember anything specific, interesting or exciting about ANY outings with ‘Space Lab’
But I’ve rambled enough, here are a few final points about the class, and me in general.
- the program did not last beyond 4th or 5th grade
- when it was over it was like it was never mentioned again. When I asked other kids about space lab to see if their schools had it, nobody knew wtf I was talking about. At my own school there was never an attempt to keep the program going, and afaik, no younger kids were ever brought in to replace us as we outgrew the class. I don’t know if we were, like, failures,, or if they lost funding, or the next years of kids just weren’t very bright or what. The fact that they had this special progressive class at all, during normal school hours, at such a small rural school in a super conservative, religious, ‘all American’ farm town, is really unusual in retrospect. As far as I know they never did anything like it again.
- fwiw, our school also participated in fluoride mouthwash sessions, which even as a kid, creeped me out. I always felt like there was a sinister element about it. My friends and I often found ways to cheat it and pretend to be swishing.
- there was no military base near our school. There was an old national guard setup at the small airport, and most adults worked at a local e factory making airplane engines, etc but that’s about as military as it got there.
- my dad worked for FermiLab in the seventies but I don’t know much about his time there. It was before I was born. He’d never talk to me or my sisters what he did there, and I’m thinking NDAs were involved. but he got the job right after his service on a nuclear sub. He ended up dying after fighting skin cancers all over his body.
- As for me, I was born after his stint at FermiLab and was apparently an accident from a vasectomy that ‘didn’t take’
- the two teachers of ‘space lab’ were not from our school. I was told they were teachers from the nearby larger town but that was it. One nice, nerdy dark haired woman that behaved like a science teacher, and one very gruff older woman that acted like military or police. She was always just there and barely interacted with us. I can’t even remember their last names.
- my fellow lab kids were all really intelligent sensitive and thoughtful, I had long friendships with several until I moved as a teen. I know maybe one on Facebook now who has been very successful in progressive politics in Georgia. The rest I’ve lost contact with, or rural GA life chewed them up and spat them out.
- I continued to be on honor roll, win spelling bees, art and writing contests etc until about 8th grade- before I realized being a nerd was not cool in 90s high school and I became more of a slacker. Smart but lazy. I continued to draw and write and made it a freelance career for a while, but I shunned academics for the most part, even though I was able to score 1350 on the SAT without trying, I didn’t pursue a good college.
- I have had supernatural events in my life. You can check my post history. Cloaked figures, strange ufos. Not a lot of them, just a couple really strong events. I’ve been able to really get ‘in synch’ with the universe at least two short times in my adult life, where it felt like I was predicting or even willing things to happen; but otherwise normal.
- Most of my life I’ve suffered from tinnitus and sleep apnea issues, but am otherwise sane, and moderately healthy for my age.
What was I involved in? Why did it stop? And why don’t I remember much about it?
2024.06.08 03:55 WelcomeToTheWar can't use google to sign in
hello, whenever i try to click on the google icon for the sign in screen nothing happens at all. facebook, twitter, etc all work but absolutely nothing happens when i click on the google symbol. has anyone else experienced this? i don't think there's any other way i can login
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2024.06.08 02:57 SensitiveBat Over 700 days sober
And I just realized that right in this moment, I would feel better with a drink right now. I don't normally feel this way, but right now I do because I'm not in a good emotional place.
A couple of weeks ago, a family of five kids moved in beneath the previously calm duplex I share with my roommate. Single mom. All the kids are younger than 15. It's loud. And doors slam. I introduced myself the day they moved with a letter with my number if things ever got too loud on our end. The next day the mom texted me, introducing herself. We met, and i learned the family, while American, was in Egypt/Isreal, approximately 200 kilometers from the Gaza strip (or something like that). They almost couldnt get enough money to get out. The mother is single because she just left her husband of 11 years. They had no furniture when they moved in. They left everything. I'm not even sure they have a vehicle. The mother is going to school and working at a hospital. She has a great support system here, which is one major strength. But they have a lot working against them. So I've been patient, and I've had to really work with myself on that. But tonight I snapped. They were running in the backyard, playing, beging rambunctious kids, and they kept messing with a small set of windchimes. The first couple times I ignored them, then I looked down out the window and noticed the emerald glass on the stabilizer string looked broke.. I went downstairs and I was correct. It was broken. The older of the kids told me he'd told his siblings to leave them alone and I thanked him. I left them, because I was mad, but I also wasn't certain the kids had broken them. It's not like i check that glass every day, and they are windchimes after all. It could've literally been the wind. I went back upstairs. I went back to editing. Then I heard them again, and again, and again. I went downstairs. They were on the ground.
I snatched them up and went around the front of the house to find the kids. I asked them if they had touched them. They pointed to the little sister.
I definitely was yelling. I did not swear at them and i kept my distance. The girl sullenly apologized and all I could think of to say was "I hope you are missy" as I stormed back in the house. I slammed all the doors on the way up and started texting their mom to let her know what had happened. I didn't want to put myself in a position of having interacted with someone else's kids, especially while angry, without letting her know exactly what had happened. Before I could even finish typing her name, i got a call from her. She told me her oldest had told her what happened and she felt so bad about it and wanted to replace the windchimes.
The thing is, they aren't replaceable. They were given to me by my father before he disowned me when I came out to him as transsexual. Why I keep then at all is a better question. But that doesn't change the fact that I was upset that they're gone. They've been in every house I've lived since I've moved out, too. They're special. And the kids didn't care. Because they're kids, and traumatized from all the shit they've been through in the last six months, probably more.
I'm sitting on my porch smoking weed (yes Cali sober) and not letting myself imagine how could it would feel to have a drink right now. Because I know i would feel better. Right in this moment, right now, I would feel secure. Grounded. Calm. Forgiving. Because i wouldn't feel anything. I wouldn't feel the physical fist in my chest twisting right where my surgery scars are. I wouldn't feel angry and heartbroken that I my father, who already left once before i was born left again 2 years ago, 11 years after we'd reunited because I'd found him on Facebook. Because he found out he didn't have a daughter, he had a son. Like he cares about gender when he wasnt even bothered about me existing or not.
But then I wouldn't be where I am right now, with empathy for myself and my neighbor. Because I wouldn't even think about going over there with a thought out apology or expression of understanding. I wouldn't be able to think about vulnerability, much less practice it. I wouldn't have things I'm working on that made it so simply cutting ties and leaving wasn't an option. I wouldn't have people i care about and am learning to respect or myself to respect and value.
I would just have euphoria and then anxiety, until eventually the anxiety starts running the show.
So I'm posting here instead. Thank you for reading this long post.
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A couple of weeks ago, a family of five kids moved in beneath the previously calm duplex I share with my roommate. Single mom. All the kids are younger than 15. It's loud. And doors slam. I introduced myself the day they moved with a letter with my number if things ever got too loud on our end. The next day the mom texted me, introducing herself. We met, and i learned the family, while American, was in Egypt/Isreal, approximately 200 kilometers from the Gaza strip (or something like that). They almost couldnt get enough money to get out. The mother is single because she just left her husband of 11 years. They had no furniture when they moved in. They left everything. I'm not even sure they have a vehicle. The mother is going to school and working at a hospital. She has a great support system here, which is one major strength. But they have a lot working against them. So I've been patient, and I've had to really work with myself on that. But tonight I snapped. They were running in the backyard, playing, beging rambunctious kids, and they kept messing with a small set of windchimes. The first couple times I ignored them, then I looked down out the window and noticed the emerald glass on the stabilizer string looked broke.. I went downstairs and I was correct. It was broken. The older of the kids told me he'd told his siblings to leave them alone and I thanked him. I left them, because I was mad, but I also wasn't certain the kids had broken them. It's not like i check that glass every day, and they are windchimes after all. It could've literally been the wind. I went back upstairs. I went back to editing. Then I heard them again, and again, and again. I went downstairs. They were on the ground.
I snatched them up and went around the front of the house to find the kids. I asked them if they had touched them. They pointed to the little sister.
I definitely was yelling. I did not swear at them and i kept my distance. The girl sullenly apologized and all I could think of to say was "I hope you are missy" as I stormed back in the house. I slammed all the doors on the way up and started texting their mom to let her know what had happened. I didn't want to put myself in a position of having interacted with someone else's kids, especially while angry, without letting her know exactly what had happened. Before I could even finish typing her name, i got a call from her. She told me her oldest had told her what happened and she felt so bad about it and wanted to replace the windchimes.
The thing is, they aren't replaceable. They were given to me by my father before he disowned me when I came out to him as transsexual. Why I keep then at all is a better question. But that doesn't change the fact that I was upset that they're gone. They've been in every house I've lived since I've moved out, too. They're special. And the kids didn't care. Because they're kids, and traumatized from all the shit they've been through in the last six months, probably more.
I'm sitting on my porch smoking weed (yes Cali sober) and not letting myself imagine how could it would feel to have a drink right now. Because I know i would feel better. Right in this moment, right now, I would feel secure. Grounded. Calm. Forgiving. Because i wouldn't feel anything. I wouldn't feel the physical fist in my chest twisting right where my surgery scars are. I wouldn't feel angry and heartbroken that I my father, who already left once before i was born left again 2 years ago, 11 years after we'd reunited because I'd found him on Facebook. Because he found out he didn't have a daughter, he had a son. Like he cares about gender when he wasnt even bothered about me existing or not.
But then I wouldn't be where I am right now, with empathy for myself and my neighbor. Because I wouldn't even think about going over there with a thought out apology or expression of understanding. I wouldn't be able to think about vulnerability, much less practice it. I wouldn't have things I'm working on that made it so simply cutting ties and leaving wasn't an option. I wouldn't have people i care about and am learning to respect or myself to respect and value.
I would just have euphoria and then anxiety, until eventually the anxiety starts running the show.
So I'm posting here instead. Thank you for reading this long post.
2024.06.07 23:38 Similar_Dish_7862 father involved in romance scam for 2+ years, son looking for solutions (content warning: self-harm)
Hello all. Pretty long post incoming.
Today, I've come to this sub in search of some answers. I believe my (57yo) father has been involved in a romance scam for over 2 years. You see, I moved back in with him in late 2018 to help him out after a bad breakup had set him lonely and almost broke. He was going in and out of the hospital with deteriorating physical and mental health issues, mainly due to alcoholism and the pain of close relatives passing away. Eventually he was in a wheelchair. The last time he went to hospital/rehab in was in early 2022, where he finally quit drinking. Thanks to his sobriety, as well as the help of some fantastic physical therapists, my father miraculously learned how to walk again. However, it has recently come to light that he still has pretty severe memory issues, to the point of forgetting to take his medication unless I remind him, or not knowing what day it is unless he looks at his phone or a calendar.
During this final trip to rehab, my father meets this woman online (I suppose through a dating app, not sure which one ATM.) They start texting and getting to know each other. She's from Germany and owns a family business, all that stuff (hindsight being 20/20, HUGE RED FLAG) and pretty soon they say they're in love. Within months, he proposes, and she says yes. He's always been a writer, so he even makes a Facebook post gushing about this girl and how much in love they are. Now I'm raising my eyebrows, because he's been married twice and had several other women, but to my knowledge, he never needed online dating to get with any of them. Now this girl he's never even met in person before had completely captivated him in a matter of months! Nevertheless, the heart reactions and the congratulations come in. Everyone's excited for him, except for me.
But I decide not to do anything for a few reasons:
One, I was working a full-time job and another temp job to make ends meet and spending most of my free time to go see him in the hospital/rehab, so time was an essence I lacked.
Two, I actually have a couple of uncles who have successfully found relationships through dating sites that were completely legit; one had a 10+ year relationship with the woman he met until she sadly passed away from cancer recently, the other uncle met his match in person around 2022 also and they are currently in a happy relationship; all the more reason to believe in this one being real.
And most importantly, three, I was not educated on romance scams until VERY recently (we're talking a few days here,) how evil they are, how easy they are to fall prey to, how they impersonate innocent people, how they attack victims at their most vulnerable moment, how they have an answer for literally anything the victim throws at them, how they mentally seduce, then subdue the victim and how they manipulate the victim's emotions/psyche and virtually possess them into bleeding themselves completely dry for the scammer.
Pretty soon after my dad breaks the news on FB, this woman wants to move the chatting from whatever dating site they're on, to Google Chat. My dad is a pretty smart person so he's already a little suspicious from this odd turn of events, but he's also so in love with this woman that he is willing to oblige anyway. He starts putting up pictures of her on the wall next to our family. Eventually, the requests for money start coming. Apparently, there's expensive medication she needs and only my father can give her the money. Unbeknownst to me at that time, he starts sending her payments. He was able to keep a decent paying job in his career of 30+ years at that time, so the payments were nothing to laugh at, sometimes north of $400. I'm sure that's not the only excuse she came up with, but that's the one that seems to stand out due to his ability to relate to it. There's even been a couple times where he paid for plane tickets so she could supposedly come visit/live with us, and of course she never shows up and there ends up being some well-crafted excuse that my father is infatuated enough to believe.
Note that neither one of us was educated on romance scams and we had relatives who successfully met people online before, so I had a hunch that this person might be a scammer but not any plausible reason to stop my dad from trying to meet them. He had already paid for the plane ticket by the time he texted me telling me we would living with someone new by the end of the night. When my father went to the airport and eventually returned alone, he was heartbroken, depressed and almost broke again. But still, the woman was able to keep him on a string of excuses and no matter what I told him, he would not budge on paying/doing whatever he could to get her to move in with us, to the point of skipping rent/bills/groceries, etc.
Sadly, the career field in which he's dedicated 30+ years (most of which in well-paying managerial positions, no less) has not been nearly as grateful in return, and he was bouncing from job to job. The payments start to become less and less, and ultimately he didn't have a job for a while and couldn't pay at all. The relationship begins to sour, and my father is sent on an emotional rollercoaster for months as they supposedly argue, break up and get back together multiple times (I can tell by how often her pictures go down and back up on the walls) as my father starts finding (and losing) job after job. But for some reason, she sticks around (he thinks it's love, we know it's because scammers stick around the paying victims a LOT longer) This is when he tells me about all his payments to the woman, and he starts asking me for money to help out. He also mentions making Facebook posts and Gofundmes asking for money to get this woman here. With the little scam alert in my head now going on full blast, I vehemently reject him and try to tell him that he might be a victim of a scam, and it's a big fucking MIGHT.
We had no idea how serious the situation actually was, but the bills were paid so we were pretty calm about it then, but I can tell he holds a sort of resentment towards me from that point on for not financially "helping" him with this. Occasionally he gets extremely depressed and tries to vent to me about how much he wants this woman to be here with him and how he gets more and more tired of life each day without her. I get frustrated and argue with him, knowing that this is likely a scam but not knowing what to do about it, least of all what to tell someone who is madly in love with 2 years' worth of pictures and text, to the point of ruining his own life for the prospect of it being real. No facetime, No phone calls, barely any video (five or ten second snippets, etc.)
CONTENT WARNING INCOMING
Fast forward to this month, he broadens his job search a bit and ends up working maintenance in a retail store. But the days have worn down on him and he is once again mentally and physically tired. I come home from work for my lunch break this past Monday to a father in crisis. He doesn't want to work anymore (and he shouldn't, he's close to 60yo now and I've told him more than once that I would do what it takes for both of us to survive;) but feels he's forced to work because he wants this woman to be a part of his reality and I won't help him. I try to break the spell again but this time it goes horribly, and we devolve into a huge argument that culminates in my father nearly attempting suicide in front of me by putting a razor to his own throat multiple times. Fortunately, I was able to talk him down from a tragedy with much effort and he pleads to me for help. He desperately wants this girl to be real but is tired of constantly working to make it so, especially when all the promises this woman seems to make are never kept.
So, I finally start doing my research. And what I've found is absolutely and completely appalling. I started watching youtube videos, reading articles from advocates, corporations and government websites alike, and educating myself on these scams, and also what to do when a loved one falls victim to one. This CBS News Expose (~40 minutes, youtube) from a month ago and these three videos (separate links, also youtube) were pretty notable to me for being similar to our situation.
I also had my father send me a few pictures of this woman. Since reverse image searches have collectively become a lot worse in recent months, it took a bit more internet ingenuity on my end than I'd expected, but I was able to find out that this woman not only has a verified Instagram account, but also an Onlyfans account. I was also able to find pages worth of evidence of her being an IG/OF model who occasionally posts vacation stories and nude photo sets. I've got all this evidence filed neatly in a favorites folder at the moment. Though, I won't post any links here because 1. Da Rules and 2. I don't think the woman is involved, aside from her pictures and videos being used against her will.
So, at this point, I believe this woman is indeed a real person, BUT the person my father has been talking to is NOT REAL, but a scammer that has stolen her pictures and videos for over two years.
I plan to sit my father down and present all this information to him as soon as I can. However, given his suicidal tendencies, I don't want to break his spirit too harshly; but at the same time, I know I can't let this charade go on. He's had suspicions of this woman not being who she says she is before; I just need to strike when the time is right.
How should I go about this? I already know a few things for sure, since he's made payments to her, I need to file a complaint on ic3.gov ASAP. I plan to get the necessary info (transactions, amounts, gift cards, etc.) from my father as soon as he's ready. Is there anything else I should do, any more evidence I could possibly try to find, any other great videos/presentations to show him, or anything I can tell my father that could possibly soften the blow when the other shoe drops?
Thanks in advance,
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Today, I've come to this sub in search of some answers. I believe my (57yo) father has been involved in a romance scam for over 2 years. You see, I moved back in with him in late 2018 to help him out after a bad breakup had set him lonely and almost broke. He was going in and out of the hospital with deteriorating physical and mental health issues, mainly due to alcoholism and the pain of close relatives passing away. Eventually he was in a wheelchair. The last time he went to hospital/rehab in was in early 2022, where he finally quit drinking. Thanks to his sobriety, as well as the help of some fantastic physical therapists, my father miraculously learned how to walk again. However, it has recently come to light that he still has pretty severe memory issues, to the point of forgetting to take his medication unless I remind him, or not knowing what day it is unless he looks at his phone or a calendar.
During this final trip to rehab, my father meets this woman online (I suppose through a dating app, not sure which one ATM.) They start texting and getting to know each other. She's from Germany and owns a family business, all that stuff (hindsight being 20/20, HUGE RED FLAG) and pretty soon they say they're in love. Within months, he proposes, and she says yes. He's always been a writer, so he even makes a Facebook post gushing about this girl and how much in love they are. Now I'm raising my eyebrows, because he's been married twice and had several other women, but to my knowledge, he never needed online dating to get with any of them. Now this girl he's never even met in person before had completely captivated him in a matter of months! Nevertheless, the heart reactions and the congratulations come in. Everyone's excited for him, except for me.
But I decide not to do anything for a few reasons:
One, I was working a full-time job and another temp job to make ends meet and spending most of my free time to go see him in the hospital/rehab, so time was an essence I lacked.
Two, I actually have a couple of uncles who have successfully found relationships through dating sites that were completely legit; one had a 10+ year relationship with the woman he met until she sadly passed away from cancer recently, the other uncle met his match in person around 2022 also and they are currently in a happy relationship; all the more reason to believe in this one being real.
And most importantly, three, I was not educated on romance scams until VERY recently (we're talking a few days here,) how evil they are, how easy they are to fall prey to, how they impersonate innocent people, how they attack victims at their most vulnerable moment, how they have an answer for literally anything the victim throws at them, how they mentally seduce, then subdue the victim and how they manipulate the victim's emotions/psyche and virtually possess them into bleeding themselves completely dry for the scammer.
Pretty soon after my dad breaks the news on FB, this woman wants to move the chatting from whatever dating site they're on, to Google Chat. My dad is a pretty smart person so he's already a little suspicious from this odd turn of events, but he's also so in love with this woman that he is willing to oblige anyway. He starts putting up pictures of her on the wall next to our family. Eventually, the requests for money start coming. Apparently, there's expensive medication she needs and only my father can give her the money. Unbeknownst to me at that time, he starts sending her payments. He was able to keep a decent paying job in his career of 30+ years at that time, so the payments were nothing to laugh at, sometimes north of $400. I'm sure that's not the only excuse she came up with, but that's the one that seems to stand out due to his ability to relate to it. There's even been a couple times where he paid for plane tickets so she could supposedly come visit/live with us, and of course she never shows up and there ends up being some well-crafted excuse that my father is infatuated enough to believe.
Note that neither one of us was educated on romance scams and we had relatives who successfully met people online before, so I had a hunch that this person might be a scammer but not any plausible reason to stop my dad from trying to meet them. He had already paid for the plane ticket by the time he texted me telling me we would living with someone new by the end of the night. When my father went to the airport and eventually returned alone, he was heartbroken, depressed and almost broke again. But still, the woman was able to keep him on a string of excuses and no matter what I told him, he would not budge on paying/doing whatever he could to get her to move in with us, to the point of skipping rent/bills/groceries, etc.
Sadly, the career field in which he's dedicated 30+ years (most of which in well-paying managerial positions, no less) has not been nearly as grateful in return, and he was bouncing from job to job. The payments start to become less and less, and ultimately he didn't have a job for a while and couldn't pay at all. The relationship begins to sour, and my father is sent on an emotional rollercoaster for months as they supposedly argue, break up and get back together multiple times (I can tell by how often her pictures go down and back up on the walls) as my father starts finding (and losing) job after job. But for some reason, she sticks around (he thinks it's love, we know it's because scammers stick around the paying victims a LOT longer) This is when he tells me about all his payments to the woman, and he starts asking me for money to help out. He also mentions making Facebook posts and Gofundmes asking for money to get this woman here. With the little scam alert in my head now going on full blast, I vehemently reject him and try to tell him that he might be a victim of a scam, and it's a big fucking MIGHT.
We had no idea how serious the situation actually was, but the bills were paid so we were pretty calm about it then, but I can tell he holds a sort of resentment towards me from that point on for not financially "helping" him with this. Occasionally he gets extremely depressed and tries to vent to me about how much he wants this woman to be here with him and how he gets more and more tired of life each day without her. I get frustrated and argue with him, knowing that this is likely a scam but not knowing what to do about it, least of all what to tell someone who is madly in love with 2 years' worth of pictures and text, to the point of ruining his own life for the prospect of it being real. No facetime, No phone calls, barely any video (five or ten second snippets, etc.)
CONTENT WARNING INCOMING
Fast forward to this month, he broadens his job search a bit and ends up working maintenance in a retail store. But the days have worn down on him and he is once again mentally and physically tired. I come home from work for my lunch break this past Monday to a father in crisis. He doesn't want to work anymore (and he shouldn't, he's close to 60yo now and I've told him more than once that I would do what it takes for both of us to survive;) but feels he's forced to work because he wants this woman to be a part of his reality and I won't help him. I try to break the spell again but this time it goes horribly, and we devolve into a huge argument that culminates in my father nearly attempting suicide in front of me by putting a razor to his own throat multiple times. Fortunately, I was able to talk him down from a tragedy with much effort and he pleads to me for help. He desperately wants this girl to be real but is tired of constantly working to make it so, especially when all the promises this woman seems to make are never kept.
So, I finally start doing my research. And what I've found is absolutely and completely appalling. I started watching youtube videos, reading articles from advocates, corporations and government websites alike, and educating myself on these scams, and also what to do when a loved one falls victim to one. This CBS News Expose (~40 minutes, youtube) from a month ago and these three videos (separate links, also youtube) were pretty notable to me for being similar to our situation.
I also had my father send me a few pictures of this woman. Since reverse image searches have collectively become a lot worse in recent months, it took a bit more internet ingenuity on my end than I'd expected, but I was able to find out that this woman not only has a verified Instagram account, but also an Onlyfans account. I was also able to find pages worth of evidence of her being an IG/OF model who occasionally posts vacation stories and nude photo sets. I've got all this evidence filed neatly in a favorites folder at the moment. Though, I won't post any links here because 1. Da Rules and 2. I don't think the woman is involved, aside from her pictures and videos being used against her will.
So, at this point, I believe this woman is indeed a real person, BUT the person my father has been talking to is NOT REAL, but a scammer that has stolen her pictures and videos for over two years.
I plan to sit my father down and present all this information to him as soon as I can. However, given his suicidal tendencies, I don't want to break his spirit too harshly; but at the same time, I know I can't let this charade go on. He's had suspicions of this woman not being who she says she is before; I just need to strike when the time is right.
How should I go about this? I already know a few things for sure, since he's made payments to her, I need to file a complaint on ic3.gov ASAP. I plan to get the necessary info (transactions, amounts, gift cards, etc.) from my father as soon as he's ready. Is there anything else I should do, any more evidence I could possibly try to find, any other great videos/presentations to show him, or anything I can tell my father that could possibly soften the blow when the other shoe drops?
Thanks in advance,
- an extremely worried son
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2024.06.07 16:19 No_Attitude_6490 Knocked Down Nest Where I "Thought" A Dead Bird Was
 | These are birds that are thought to be Eastern Phoebes. Chesterfield, SC Parents are grey/brown on top and white underneath. Babies are all grey/brown. submitted by No_Attitude_6490 to WildlifeRehab [link] [comments] I reached out to several rescue places and the most help I got was a text message telling me that if I saw the parents come back the morning after this all happened, that all should be well. Please, please don't be too harsh on me. I want to be honest here so that I can be very clear about what happened. I have a very sensitive heart, but I made a mistake with a nest, and was mortified at what I'd done. I knew there was a nest in the eaves under my carport... tucked up in a corner. I saw one or both of the parents fly up and back... up and back... never staying long. But I never ever heard any chirping. I knew nothing about birds. I thought maybe they had been in the process of building the nest, although it seems like it had been there for a while. This past Tuesday, I had a 6' rat snake come up into my carport. I live right next to woods and have many critters. But in all the time I've lived there a snake had never come into view, much less onto my carport, which is right next to the door I come and go from (and the area where the nest was). I literally had to fight this snake to get it to leave. If there were eggs in that nest, I was going to do everything in my power to protect them. The snake and I literally had a showdown. It finally left. The day after I got the snake to leave, I thought maybe I should try to get a look at the nest. It's very high but I got my little ladder up there. It was built very close up to the roof. I saw what looked like a wing partially in view. I thought it odd that I had never heard any chirping and I gently poked at it some and nothing moved. I thought there must be a dead bird in the nest and then thought that must be why the snake came. This is where I messed up... so badly. Please don't judge me. I made a horrible mistake and my heart is broken over it, not to mention how ignorant I was of the situation at hand. I got the nest down, that was very well built and strongly attached. And I wasn't able to completely catch it (only broke the fall) but it did fall, some. And then, to my horror, I found that I had just pulled down a nest with 3 sleeping baby birds in it. And I damaged the nest to where it didn't have enough sturdiness and completeness to just put the birds back into. So I had to come up with something. I couldn't just leave them on the ground (the snake is still out there). I am a complete animal lover, and this broke my heart. I didn't know what to do, so I reached out to friends who have cared for babies before. I had no experience with this, at all. Because this happened close to sundown, and the parents always leave at night and don't come back around until morning light, I had to put the nesting material (the nest was not intact) inside a little box and take it inside for the night. I placed a heating pad under the box (which had a torn piece of cloth lining it, with the nesting material on top and the babies on top of that). I had to move the babies with gloved hands. It was the only way to transport them. They were initially put into a shallow container in the very beginning (on top of their nesting material) but it was so big and I had nothing to put into it to fill the floor area. I found a very small box that allowed the nesting material and the 3 babies went into it comfortably. There is no lid on the box. They slept in that all night, and I have yet to ever hear them. Then I taped a larger box onto a 4' ladder and placed it directly under where the nest had been. At 5 AM, the morning after this happened, I moved the babies in their box and put it into the slightly bigger box that was taped to the ladder. Then I sat and waited (inside, as I live in a cabin with large windows and I could see everything going on without being outside) ... praying that the parents would return. And what do you know... both of them did. They were very confused at first, but then figured out where the babies were. Over the course of about 3 hours, from them first figuring it out, to mama sitting on a tv tray that I had placed next to the ladder, to her sitting on the edge of the box that the babies are in, and finally... I saw her go into the box. However, it doesn't seem like she could be staying long enough to feed them. These babies are either nestlings or fledglings, from what I've read. They are fully feathered and one of them has it's eyes open. They are quite large (please see photos). I spent hours observing... even laying on the ground to look under the partially raised blind that covers my door, which if fully glass. I took photos and videos, and observed the activity. The parent(s) did exactly what they used to do when the nest was still up. I was very late for work, but had to go in. I still had thoughts of that snake. So I ended up purchasing some sulfer and putting it around the perimeter of my carport, as my only line of defense from that snake coming back. I know that I'm not supposed to mess around where they are. I've looked in the box several times to check on them. I looked when I got home from work yesterday, and could see 2 of the 3 (the smallest one seemed to be covered by another). Then I looked once more and could see all 3 snuggled up against each other, sleeping. I watch until evening and the parent(s) continued to come and go to the box where the babies are. It was easy to see (I assume it was the mama) didn't want to leave, as she perched on the wood railing of my open carport for quite a long time. Flying up to the box/nest a few times, but mostly just sitting on the railing. Just as before, when the sun is close to going down, the bird left. Now my thoughts were of the babies out there at night, not up in their initial nest, and decided to go out and pour some sulfer around the bottom of the ladder. This morning, I waited until I saw one of the parents come. And they did the same thing as the day before. They don't stay in the box but for a few moments, so I don't know how they can be feeding that quickly. ALL of that to ask... what do I do now? I must make sure that they are not prevented from being encouraged out of the nest by Mom or Dad when the time is ready. Are they extremely close to that time? As it is, the front side of the tiny box is too tall for the parents to push them out of the nest. (And I know I need to remove the sulfer at the bottom of the ladder.) Can someone please look at the size and state of the birds and give me a suggestion? Please? I will be heartbroken if these babies don't make it, since I am ultimately the one that put them in harms way (how crazy is it that I fought a snake to get away, but then pulled their nest down)? Thank you, in advance, for your suggestions. And believe me... I have learned an extremely valuable lesson. Leave it ALL up to nature. Don't ever mess with a nest. Go to my FB page to see a short video of the mom perched on the box. https://www.facebook.com/1020905035/videos/474753808411603/ Right after the nest was pulled down When I moved them from the plastic container into the smaller box All 3 babies This is the box they are now in. Do I just bend the front side down enough where they could pushed out? The ladder with the bigger box taped to it (the front flap of the cardboard box that you see has been bent down some and the smaller little white box that you see in the photo above is inside). Just up to the right at the top of the wood beam is where the nest had been tucked in. This is where Mom/Dad waited for probably an hour total, before leaving for the evening |
2024.06.07 16:16 frogb21 Business account won’t allow me to post on Facebook groups that allow business pages
So I recently started a business and made a page for it. So I started by joining some local groups (about 5 right away) that allow advertising services. After that I realized that I cannot post in any of them, and I can’t comment on others posts, where the comment button should be is a “message” symbol. I get no help from Facebook and no one seems to know what the problem. I know the groups allow pages because other pages are posting in them. Any help I’d appreciate!
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2024.06.07 08:03 Far_Artist_806 AITAH for cutting off a friend because she continues to cheat on her husband?
Hi guys! Okay so i’m gonna try to give as much detail as possible, so it is gonna be a bit long! (Timeline included for better understanding)
I (24F) have a friend, we can call her “R” (26F). We have been friends since i was 6. We have been through thick and thin together. Though my dad leaving and never coming back, her mom dying, graduations, college, relationships, everything under the sun. We have practically been inseparable since we met. you never saw one and didn’t see the other.
As we got older i noticed a difference in the things we wanted. The things we strived for, our actions, other people we hung out with… her other friends were rough around the edges, didn’t have very good jobs if they had jobs at all, drank all the time, some did drugs, a few had been in jail… the other friends i was hanging out with were basically the opposite of all of that. Well mannered, but had a wild side, nothing like her other friends though…
R started showing some really scetchy behavior. and honestly my first thought, as i’m sure most of your will be, i thought she was doing drugs.
for example, after R’s mom died she got a very large amount of money. R somehow managed to blow hundreds of thousands of dollars and has absolutely nothing to show for it. not a vehicle, house, belongings that last, none of that. i’m not really sure where all that money went tbh. then two years later her grandmother died. R inherited her grandmothers house AND her mothers house. for reference grandmothers house was a 9 bedroom, 5 bathroom beautiful house, with a large in-ground pool and a fenced in back yard. R’s mother’s house was a 2 bed, 2 bath brick townhouse. It also has a huge shop in the back and a fenced in good sized backyard as well. (both completely paid off and in perfect condition). R sold her grandmothers house for 90,000 and her mother’s house for 45,000. her excuse for taking so little money was “it was cash”. and again, 3 years later, has absolutely nothing to show from any of this. i’m still not sure where all that money went.
R was going out every weekend, staying drunk. She was doing really dangerous stuff that i would never have imagined her doing. and it progressively got worse.
R met a guy in November of 2022. As simple and as nice as i can put this, this guy is a DIRTBAG. R came up pregnant around February of 2023. her due date was in september 2023. She seemed to be happy. i tried to stay supportive the best i could despite how much i didn’t enjoy the road i could see her going down… After finding out she was pregnant R and dirtbag moved 2 hours away from me to be closer to dirtbags family. I didn’t understand that because the only family dirtbag had was a brother, and here, R had her whole family…. but R was still happy, so i was supporting her decision.
March of 2023 I had planned a birthday trip for myself, a little getaway for a few friends. It was planned for June 2023. R was so excited! a week before the trip, R decided she didn’t wanna attend because she was too pregnant. which i totally understood! But she really wanted to do something with me for my birthday, So i planned a dinner for us to all sit down and eat so R could attend. i planned the dinner 15 minutes from R’s house and a hour and 45 minutes from mine, just to make it easier on her. After we were all on the way to the restaurant and only about 15-20 minutes away, R texts me and said she won’t be coming to eat because she “just doesn’t feel like it”.
after this incident, i pulled R off with me a few days later and asked her if dirtbag was being good to her. i just didn’t understand why she was acting the way she was. my first thought was to make sure dirtbag wasn’t abusing her. She swore up and down he wasn’t, that he was good to her. so i left it alone.
Then i went on my birthday trip. two days into the trip, i saw pictures on facebook, R had GOTTEN MARRIED TO DIRTBAG. everyone was there. family, other friends, literally everyone, but me. I was never even told she was getting married. I was so confused. so heartbroken. After that, i took a pretty big step back.
September of 2023 came and R had her baby. A beautiful little boy. Almost immediately after, she started drinking again. going out, partying. to my surprise, dirtbag stepped up big time. He found R and himself a place to rent, got a decent job, stopped partying. While R just continued to get worse. i tried so many times to talk to her. to make sure she was okay. and she always seemed okay. like everything was perfect. But dirtbag was basically raising their baby by himself at this point.
January of 2024 R made a comment to me about how she slept with someone else. I told her i didn’t agree with that, i tried to talk to her about it, about how wrong it was, how you don’t do that to your husband… R agreed, and begging me not to say a word to anyone. i didn’t tell anyone.
April of 2024, R tells me she has continuously been sleeping with other people that are not her husband. Sexually and romantically. When she told me this, i explained how i would not be a part of this. how i didn’t support it. that i wouldn’t associate with her and entertain that behavior. How she shouldn’t have gotten married in the first place, especially if this was how she was going to treat her marriage. R lost it on me, told me i wasn’t a true friend and was a POS for not backing her on this. That she was “just having a little post pregnancy mommy fun”. I almost threw up that comment made me so sick…. I have not spoken to R since that day.
Since the fallout I have still never told a soul the truth about why i won’t speak to R anymore. I just tell them we grew apart, which isn’t a total lie… But i have had so many people tell me i’m so stupid for letting simple differences get in the way of such a long friendship that has been so strong for so many years. People pull me to the side and ask me what happened and why i won’t just fix it. But i still stand strong on how i feel about this situation. I don’t support that behavior, no matter how good of a friend she is. I still love R, and would be anything for her and her child. I just dont support her path in life right now.
So Reddit, AITAH?
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I (24F) have a friend, we can call her “R” (26F). We have been friends since i was 6. We have been through thick and thin together. Though my dad leaving and never coming back, her mom dying, graduations, college, relationships, everything under the sun. We have practically been inseparable since we met. you never saw one and didn’t see the other.
As we got older i noticed a difference in the things we wanted. The things we strived for, our actions, other people we hung out with… her other friends were rough around the edges, didn’t have very good jobs if they had jobs at all, drank all the time, some did drugs, a few had been in jail… the other friends i was hanging out with were basically the opposite of all of that. Well mannered, but had a wild side, nothing like her other friends though…
R started showing some really scetchy behavior. and honestly my first thought, as i’m sure most of your will be, i thought she was doing drugs.
for example, after R’s mom died she got a very large amount of money. R somehow managed to blow hundreds of thousands of dollars and has absolutely nothing to show for it. not a vehicle, house, belongings that last, none of that. i’m not really sure where all that money went tbh. then two years later her grandmother died. R inherited her grandmothers house AND her mothers house. for reference grandmothers house was a 9 bedroom, 5 bathroom beautiful house, with a large in-ground pool and a fenced in back yard. R’s mother’s house was a 2 bed, 2 bath brick townhouse. It also has a huge shop in the back and a fenced in good sized backyard as well. (both completely paid off and in perfect condition). R sold her grandmothers house for 90,000 and her mother’s house for 45,000. her excuse for taking so little money was “it was cash”. and again, 3 years later, has absolutely nothing to show from any of this. i’m still not sure where all that money went.
R was going out every weekend, staying drunk. She was doing really dangerous stuff that i would never have imagined her doing. and it progressively got worse.
R met a guy in November of 2022. As simple and as nice as i can put this, this guy is a DIRTBAG. R came up pregnant around February of 2023. her due date was in september 2023. She seemed to be happy. i tried to stay supportive the best i could despite how much i didn’t enjoy the road i could see her going down… After finding out she was pregnant R and dirtbag moved 2 hours away from me to be closer to dirtbags family. I didn’t understand that because the only family dirtbag had was a brother, and here, R had her whole family…. but R was still happy, so i was supporting her decision.
March of 2023 I had planned a birthday trip for myself, a little getaway for a few friends. It was planned for June 2023. R was so excited! a week before the trip, R decided she didn’t wanna attend because she was too pregnant. which i totally understood! But she really wanted to do something with me for my birthday, So i planned a dinner for us to all sit down and eat so R could attend. i planned the dinner 15 minutes from R’s house and a hour and 45 minutes from mine, just to make it easier on her. After we were all on the way to the restaurant and only about 15-20 minutes away, R texts me and said she won’t be coming to eat because she “just doesn’t feel like it”.
after this incident, i pulled R off with me a few days later and asked her if dirtbag was being good to her. i just didn’t understand why she was acting the way she was. my first thought was to make sure dirtbag wasn’t abusing her. She swore up and down he wasn’t, that he was good to her. so i left it alone.
Then i went on my birthday trip. two days into the trip, i saw pictures on facebook, R had GOTTEN MARRIED TO DIRTBAG. everyone was there. family, other friends, literally everyone, but me. I was never even told she was getting married. I was so confused. so heartbroken. After that, i took a pretty big step back.
September of 2023 came and R had her baby. A beautiful little boy. Almost immediately after, she started drinking again. going out, partying. to my surprise, dirtbag stepped up big time. He found R and himself a place to rent, got a decent job, stopped partying. While R just continued to get worse. i tried so many times to talk to her. to make sure she was okay. and she always seemed okay. like everything was perfect. But dirtbag was basically raising their baby by himself at this point.
January of 2024 R made a comment to me about how she slept with someone else. I told her i didn’t agree with that, i tried to talk to her about it, about how wrong it was, how you don’t do that to your husband… R agreed, and begging me not to say a word to anyone. i didn’t tell anyone.
April of 2024, R tells me she has continuously been sleeping with other people that are not her husband. Sexually and romantically. When she told me this, i explained how i would not be a part of this. how i didn’t support it. that i wouldn’t associate with her and entertain that behavior. How she shouldn’t have gotten married in the first place, especially if this was how she was going to treat her marriage. R lost it on me, told me i wasn’t a true friend and was a POS for not backing her on this. That she was “just having a little post pregnancy mommy fun”. I almost threw up that comment made me so sick…. I have not spoken to R since that day.
Since the fallout I have still never told a soul the truth about why i won’t speak to R anymore. I just tell them we grew apart, which isn’t a total lie… But i have had so many people tell me i’m so stupid for letting simple differences get in the way of such a long friendship that has been so strong for so many years. People pull me to the side and ask me what happened and why i won’t just fix it. But i still stand strong on how i feel about this situation. I don’t support that behavior, no matter how good of a friend she is. I still love R, and would be anything for her and her child. I just dont support her path in life right now.
So Reddit, AITAH?
2024.06.07 08:01 Far_Artist_806 AITAH for cutting off a friend because she continues to cheat on her husband?
Hi guys! Okay so i’m gonna try to give as much detail as possible, so it is gonna be a bit long! (Timeline included for better understanding)
I (24F) have a friend, we can call her “R” (26F). We have been friends since i was 6. We have been through thick and thin together. Though my dad leaving and never coming back, her mom dying, graduations, college, relationships, everything under the sun. We have practically been inseparable since we met. you never saw one and didn’t see the other.
As we got older i noticed a difference in the things we wanted. The things we strived for, our actions, other people we hung out with… her other friends were rough around the edges, didn’t have very good jobs if they had jobs at all, drank all the time, some did drugs, a few had been in jail… the other friends i was hanging out with were basically the opposite of all of that. Well mannered, but had a wild side, nothing like her other friends though…
R started showing some really scetchy behavior. and honestly my first thought, as i’m sure most of your will be, i thought she was doing drugs.
for example, after R’s mom died she got a very large amount of money. R somehow managed to blow hundreds of thousands of dollars and has absolutely nothing to show for it. not a vehicle, house, belongings that last, none of that. i’m not really sure where all that money went tbh. then two years later her grandmother died. R inherited her grandmothers house AND her mothers house. for reference grandmothers house was a 9 bedroom, 5 bathroom beautiful house, with a large in-ground pool and a fenced in back yard. R’s mother’s house was a 2 bed, 2 bath brick townhouse. It also has a huge shop in the back and a fenced in good sized backyard as well. (both completely paid off and in perfect condition). R sold her grandmothers house for 90,000 and her mother’s house for 45,000. her excuse for taking so little money was “it was cash”. and again, 3 years later, has absolutely nothing to show from any of this. i’m still not sure where all that money went.
R was going out every weekend, staying drunk. She was doing really dangerous stuff that i would never have imagined her doing. and it progressively got worse.
R met a guy in November of 2022. As simple and as nice as i can put this, this guy is a DIRTBAG. R came up pregnant around February of 2023. her due date was in september 2023. She seemed to be happy. i tried to stay supportive the best i could despite how much i didn’t enjoy the road i could see her going down… After finding out she was pregnant R and dirtbag moved 2 hours away from me to be closer to dirtbags family. I didn’t understand that because the only family dirtbag had was a brother, and here, R had her whole family…. but R was still happy, so i was supporting her decision.
March of 2023 I had planned a birthday trip for myself, a little getaway for a few friends. It was planned for June 2023. R was so excited! a week before the trip, R decided she didn’t wanna attend because she was too pregnant. which i totally understood! But she really wanted to do something with me for my birthday, So i planned a dinner for us to all sit down and eat so R could attend. i planned the dinner 15 minutes from R’s house and a hour and 45 minutes from mine, just to make it easier on her. After we were all on the way to the restaurant and only about 15-20 minutes away, R texts me and said she won’t be coming to eat because she “just doesn’t feel like it”.
after this incident, i pulled R off with me a few days later and asked her if dirtbag was being good to her. i just didn’t understand why she was acting the way she was. my first thought was to make sure dirtbag wasn’t abusing her. She swore up and down he wasn’t, that he was good to her. so i left it alone.
Then i went on my birthday trip. two days into the trip, i saw pictures on facebook, R had GOTTEN MARRIED TO DIRTBAG. everyone was there. family, other friends, literally everyone, but me. I was never even told she was getting married. I was so confused. so heartbroken. After that, i took a pretty big step back.
September of 2023 came and R had her baby. A beautiful little boy. Almost immediately after, she started drinking again. going out, partying. to my surprise, dirtbag stepped up big time. He found R and himself a place to rent, got a decent job, stopped partying. While R just continued to get worse. i tried so many times to talk to her. to make sure she was okay. and she always seemed okay. like everything was perfect. Dirtbag was basically raising their baby by himself at this point.
January of 2024 R made a comment to me about how she slept with someone else. I told her i didn’t agree with that, i tried to talk to her about it, about how wrong it was, how you don’t do that to your husband… R agreed, and begging me not to say a word to anyone. i didn’t tell anyone.
April of 2024, R tells me she has continuously been sleeping with other people that are not her husband. Sexually and romantically. When she told me this, i explained how i would not be a part of this. how i didn’t support it. that i wouldn’t associate with her and entertain that behavior. How she shouldn’t have gotten married in the first place, especially if this was how she was going to treat her marriage. R lost it on me, told me i wasn’t a true friend and was a POS for not backing her on this. That she was “just having a little post pregnancy mommy fun”. I almost threw up that comment made me so sick…. I have not spoken to R since that day.
Since the fallout I have still never told a soul the truth about why i won’t speak to R anymore. I just tell them we grew apart, which isn’t a total lie… But i have had so many people tell me i’m so stupid for letting simple differences get in the way of such a long friendship that has been so strong for so many years. People pull me to the side and ask me what happened and why i won’t just fix it. But i still stand strong on how i feel about this situation. I don’t support that behavior, no matter how good of a friend she is. I still love R, and would be anything for her and her child. I just dont support her path in life right now.
So Reddit, AITAH?
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I (24F) have a friend, we can call her “R” (26F). We have been friends since i was 6. We have been through thick and thin together. Though my dad leaving and never coming back, her mom dying, graduations, college, relationships, everything under the sun. We have practically been inseparable since we met. you never saw one and didn’t see the other.
As we got older i noticed a difference in the things we wanted. The things we strived for, our actions, other people we hung out with… her other friends were rough around the edges, didn’t have very good jobs if they had jobs at all, drank all the time, some did drugs, a few had been in jail… the other friends i was hanging out with were basically the opposite of all of that. Well mannered, but had a wild side, nothing like her other friends though…
R started showing some really scetchy behavior. and honestly my first thought, as i’m sure most of your will be, i thought she was doing drugs.
for example, after R’s mom died she got a very large amount of money. R somehow managed to blow hundreds of thousands of dollars and has absolutely nothing to show for it. not a vehicle, house, belongings that last, none of that. i’m not really sure where all that money went tbh. then two years later her grandmother died. R inherited her grandmothers house AND her mothers house. for reference grandmothers house was a 9 bedroom, 5 bathroom beautiful house, with a large in-ground pool and a fenced in back yard. R’s mother’s house was a 2 bed, 2 bath brick townhouse. It also has a huge shop in the back and a fenced in good sized backyard as well. (both completely paid off and in perfect condition). R sold her grandmothers house for 90,000 and her mother’s house for 45,000. her excuse for taking so little money was “it was cash”. and again, 3 years later, has absolutely nothing to show from any of this. i’m still not sure where all that money went.
R was going out every weekend, staying drunk. She was doing really dangerous stuff that i would never have imagined her doing. and it progressively got worse.
R met a guy in November of 2022. As simple and as nice as i can put this, this guy is a DIRTBAG. R came up pregnant around February of 2023. her due date was in september 2023. She seemed to be happy. i tried to stay supportive the best i could despite how much i didn’t enjoy the road i could see her going down… After finding out she was pregnant R and dirtbag moved 2 hours away from me to be closer to dirtbags family. I didn’t understand that because the only family dirtbag had was a brother, and here, R had her whole family…. but R was still happy, so i was supporting her decision.
March of 2023 I had planned a birthday trip for myself, a little getaway for a few friends. It was planned for June 2023. R was so excited! a week before the trip, R decided she didn’t wanna attend because she was too pregnant. which i totally understood! But she really wanted to do something with me for my birthday, So i planned a dinner for us to all sit down and eat so R could attend. i planned the dinner 15 minutes from R’s house and a hour and 45 minutes from mine, just to make it easier on her. After we were all on the way to the restaurant and only about 15-20 minutes away, R texts me and said she won’t be coming to eat because she “just doesn’t feel like it”.
after this incident, i pulled R off with me a few days later and asked her if dirtbag was being good to her. i just didn’t understand why she was acting the way she was. my first thought was to make sure dirtbag wasn’t abusing her. She swore up and down he wasn’t, that he was good to her. so i left it alone.
Then i went on my birthday trip. two days into the trip, i saw pictures on facebook, R had GOTTEN MARRIED TO DIRTBAG. everyone was there. family, other friends, literally everyone, but me. I was never even told she was getting married. I was so confused. so heartbroken. After that, i took a pretty big step back.
September of 2023 came and R had her baby. A beautiful little boy. Almost immediately after, she started drinking again. going out, partying. to my surprise, dirtbag stepped up big time. He found R and himself a place to rent, got a decent job, stopped partying. While R just continued to get worse. i tried so many times to talk to her. to make sure she was okay. and she always seemed okay. like everything was perfect. Dirtbag was basically raising their baby by himself at this point.
January of 2024 R made a comment to me about how she slept with someone else. I told her i didn’t agree with that, i tried to talk to her about it, about how wrong it was, how you don’t do that to your husband… R agreed, and begging me not to say a word to anyone. i didn’t tell anyone.
April of 2024, R tells me she has continuously been sleeping with other people that are not her husband. Sexually and romantically. When she told me this, i explained how i would not be a part of this. how i didn’t support it. that i wouldn’t associate with her and entertain that behavior. How she shouldn’t have gotten married in the first place, especially if this was how she was going to treat her marriage. R lost it on me, told me i wasn’t a true friend and was a POS for not backing her on this. That she was “just having a little post pregnancy mommy fun”. I almost threw up that comment made me so sick…. I have not spoken to R since that day.
Since the fallout I have still never told a soul the truth about why i won’t speak to R anymore. I just tell them we grew apart, which isn’t a total lie… But i have had so many people tell me i’m so stupid for letting simple differences get in the way of such a long friendship that has been so strong for so many years. People pull me to the side and ask me what happened and why i won’t just fix it. But i still stand strong on how i feel about this situation. I don’t support that behavior, no matter how good of a friend she is. I still love R, and would be anything for her and her child. I just dont support her path in life right now.
So Reddit, AITAH?
2024.06.07 07:28 DeneeCote "Just a trim" ended up with -3 inches of hair
Maybe I'm going through it right now. But I went to go get my roots touched up and get a my hair trimmed I get it trimmed every 6-8 weeks depending on what I have going on. I've been telling my hair lady that I've been growing my hair out since 2022 and it's a symbolic thing for me, at the time I was being mistreated by this person that I liked romantically. I decided to get over them and I used my hair length as me growing too. I told her I wanted to get to 25 inches by my 25th birthday this year. I was at 22 1/2 almost 23 inches before I went to get my hair cut and when I came back I measured my hair it's 19 inches. I was so heartbroken. I know foresure I'm not going to be 25 inches by November. But is there anything I can do to kinda speed up the process and regain some of my lost hair? I'd like to he at least 22 inches again by November 😭 it's just frustrating. She told me my ends were kinda messy but she's known for a while that they've been messy why didn't she start trimming off sooner? Thank you all ahead and please be nice
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2024.06.07 06:56 National-Cell2595 Does it ever go away?
I am genuinely curious if depression will ever go away on its own or if it’s something that I have to find a way to get around with. Back in 2018 I was really happy with life. I thought that I met the love of my life straight after high school and things were going fairly well. About four years later, we ended up separating off I won’t get into why. But I was severely heartbroken and extremely depressed. That depression really never went away. I still think about the sadness each and every day and really alcohol and drugs (weed) help for a few minutes, but then I’m back in my own thoughts, so it’s a very brief feeling of happiness that I gain back. I started talking to this new chick I met on Facebook dating. We had a pretty fun date planned this Saturday, but yesterday she stopped talking to me altogether and I’m not quite sure why but honestly I don’t really care. I’ve been trying desperately to find ways to escape my sadness. I have a good job. I have a good home and I’m not financially stressed out, I just feel like my first relationship, first real relationship hurt me so badly that the depression will never truly go away like a really bad scar that stays on your skin forever. If anyone has any advice as to how to figure out or learn how to be who I used to be, let me know, but that being said, I understand that sometimes when your mindset changes that it doesn’t really ever go away you just gotta find a way to make it something new. But any advice helps, thanks.
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2024.06.07 06:18 jahrobbs AITAH for getting back with my ex after je cheated?
I'm an overthinker, perhaps due to past relationships. I'm working on it, but it's challenging. I have a partner, and we've been together for a few months. Though we're new, I see him in my future.
Because of my overthinking, I don't trust easily. This led me to create a fake Facebook account named "John." I made it so realistic that my partner accepted the friend request within minutes. After accepting it, he immediately started messaging John and flirting with him, despite being in a relationship.
While I continued chatting with him, I still messaged him with my real account to make him believe John wasn't me. The conversation progressed, and John (me) received a more suggestive message. My heart pounded with a mix of anger and fear as I typed, "Want to meet up later?"
He agreed to meet John and discussed the details further. He suggested a hotel near his place along with a message, "bring a condom," which infuriated and terrified me. In that moment, all I could think about were our future plans and the promises I'd made to him and his family.
A few hours passed by. I messaged him under John's account that I already arrived at the hotel and was booking a room. When I saw my partner at the entrance, I quickly went to him and honked my car loudly. I wanted to end things without further discussion. I tried to get my bracelet back, which has a special meaning to us, and gave him his back right away. I couldn't let him keep it after what he did.
After I left him there in a hurry, I quickly checked John's account only to find it blocked by him. I switched to my real account and messaged him, "Cheater."
After I arrived home, my heart raced, and tears welled up. It was happening again, the betrayal I feared. I opened my messages and found a bunch from him. They were filled with insults, not apologies. He kept saying I was a red flag for not trusting him and creating a fake account to spy on him.
I messaged him as calmly as I could and asked, "Why would you do such a thing? I've given everything, and this is all I get?" I kept repeating these phrases, and all he replied with were things like "You're a red flag" and "You're not worth it." We continued communicating, and his responses were filled with laughing emojis as if he wasn't heartbroken at all. I decided to end things, leaving a message that said, "Never do that to your future relationships."
Later that day, he messaged me again, begging for forgiveness. He said he was guilty and sorry for what he did. He also stated that he only did it because of too many problems and needed someone to be there for him, knowing I'm always available. He kept saying sorry and insisting on getting back together.
The soft side of me wanted to forgive him, but the rest of me was filled with questions. "What if he does it again?" or "What if he's been doing this for a while now and I'm just too blind to see?" I tried to ignore his messages for a few minutes.
A few minutes passed by, and his friends messaged me to fix our problem. The soft side of me took over, so I agreed to talk about it in person, not necessarily fix it. Before going, he messaged me that his friends weren't fully aware of what he did. They only knew he flirted with John and didn't meet up, as he was embarrassed of what they'd say if they found out the truth. This put me at ease since I knew his friends wouldn't be a bad influence.
I arrived and met up with them to talk about our problem. Right after I arrived, his friends stated that he was indeed heartbroken and crying to them while opening up. I tried to ask for a private moment alone with him, so they moved a bit further away. He aggressively hugged me right away publicly, which was unusual because he doesn't seem to do those things before. While hugging me, he kept whispering sorry and asking for forgiveness.
I asked him if his insults in the chat were real, and he denied meaning those words. He apologized for his actions. I also asked why he was acting so weird while we were chatting, as if he was happy that I broke up with him, filling his messages with laughing emojis. He said he acted that way because he was very ashamed of what he did and guilty for it, but he didn't want to show weakness.
After talking, I forgave him somewhat, even though I knew it might make my overthinking worse. He hugged me again, still whispering apologies in my ear. We rejoined his friends and told them we were okay and had talked things through. While they interacted with each other, I kept glancing at him. His eyes revealed guilt and loneliness about what he'd done.
After a while, it started to rain, so we ran into a food park filled with food stalls to take shelter. I treated them to food, and we ate while waiting for the rain to stop. The stall we were in was small, and we were getting a bit wet, so we decided to move to another stall. We ran to another stall for better shelter, but it was uncomfortable for me since I'm quite tall. So, I moved back to the previous food stall.
While I was eating, I saw him looking at me with a lonely face. I smiled back at him because I didn't want him to think I was still mad. He quickly ran through the rain and stood beside me, hugging me once again. That's when I felt he truly deserved my forgiveness.
The rain didn't stop, so we decided to run to my car. I drove him home since it was getting dark. While I was driving, he kept hugging me and repeating the words, "I'm sorry, I love you, and I would never do that again," until he got home.
Is my decision wrong for forgiving him and giving him a second chance?
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Because of my overthinking, I don't trust easily. This led me to create a fake Facebook account named "John." I made it so realistic that my partner accepted the friend request within minutes. After accepting it, he immediately started messaging John and flirting with him, despite being in a relationship.
While I continued chatting with him, I still messaged him with my real account to make him believe John wasn't me. The conversation progressed, and John (me) received a more suggestive message. My heart pounded with a mix of anger and fear as I typed, "Want to meet up later?"
He agreed to meet John and discussed the details further. He suggested a hotel near his place along with a message, "bring a condom," which infuriated and terrified me. In that moment, all I could think about were our future plans and the promises I'd made to him and his family.
A few hours passed by. I messaged him under John's account that I already arrived at the hotel and was booking a room. When I saw my partner at the entrance, I quickly went to him and honked my car loudly. I wanted to end things without further discussion. I tried to get my bracelet back, which has a special meaning to us, and gave him his back right away. I couldn't let him keep it after what he did.
After I left him there in a hurry, I quickly checked John's account only to find it blocked by him. I switched to my real account and messaged him, "Cheater."
After I arrived home, my heart raced, and tears welled up. It was happening again, the betrayal I feared. I opened my messages and found a bunch from him. They were filled with insults, not apologies. He kept saying I was a red flag for not trusting him and creating a fake account to spy on him.
I messaged him as calmly as I could and asked, "Why would you do such a thing? I've given everything, and this is all I get?" I kept repeating these phrases, and all he replied with were things like "You're a red flag" and "You're not worth it." We continued communicating, and his responses were filled with laughing emojis as if he wasn't heartbroken at all. I decided to end things, leaving a message that said, "Never do that to your future relationships."
Later that day, he messaged me again, begging for forgiveness. He said he was guilty and sorry for what he did. He also stated that he only did it because of too many problems and needed someone to be there for him, knowing I'm always available. He kept saying sorry and insisting on getting back together.
The soft side of me wanted to forgive him, but the rest of me was filled with questions. "What if he does it again?" or "What if he's been doing this for a while now and I'm just too blind to see?" I tried to ignore his messages for a few minutes.
A few minutes passed by, and his friends messaged me to fix our problem. The soft side of me took over, so I agreed to talk about it in person, not necessarily fix it. Before going, he messaged me that his friends weren't fully aware of what he did. They only knew he flirted with John and didn't meet up, as he was embarrassed of what they'd say if they found out the truth. This put me at ease since I knew his friends wouldn't be a bad influence.
I arrived and met up with them to talk about our problem. Right after I arrived, his friends stated that he was indeed heartbroken and crying to them while opening up. I tried to ask for a private moment alone with him, so they moved a bit further away. He aggressively hugged me right away publicly, which was unusual because he doesn't seem to do those things before. While hugging me, he kept whispering sorry and asking for forgiveness.
I asked him if his insults in the chat were real, and he denied meaning those words. He apologized for his actions. I also asked why he was acting so weird while we were chatting, as if he was happy that I broke up with him, filling his messages with laughing emojis. He said he acted that way because he was very ashamed of what he did and guilty for it, but he didn't want to show weakness.
After talking, I forgave him somewhat, even though I knew it might make my overthinking worse. He hugged me again, still whispering apologies in my ear. We rejoined his friends and told them we were okay and had talked things through. While they interacted with each other, I kept glancing at him. His eyes revealed guilt and loneliness about what he'd done.
After a while, it started to rain, so we ran into a food park filled with food stalls to take shelter. I treated them to food, and we ate while waiting for the rain to stop. The stall we were in was small, and we were getting a bit wet, so we decided to move to another stall. We ran to another stall for better shelter, but it was uncomfortable for me since I'm quite tall. So, I moved back to the previous food stall.
While I was eating, I saw him looking at me with a lonely face. I smiled back at him because I didn't want him to think I was still mad. He quickly ran through the rain and stood beside me, hugging me once again. That's when I felt he truly deserved my forgiveness.
The rain didn't stop, so we decided to run to my car. I drove him home since it was getting dark. While I was driving, he kept hugging me and repeating the words, "I'm sorry, I love you, and I would never do that again," until he got home.
Is my decision wrong for forgiving him and giving him a second chance?
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