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2024.06.09 19:28 volgensmij520 My experience so far getting Botox in my armpits
TLDR: loving the Botox right now. 40ish year old female.
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I got Botox in my armpits about 2 weeks ago for hyperhidrosis. First time treatment. So far, this is my experience. I'll break it down by my treatment experience first. Then I'll break it down on how the outcomes affect my life.
Treatment Experience
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I got Botox in my armpits about 2 weeks ago for hyperhidrosis. First time treatment. So far, this is my experience. I'll break it down by my treatment experience first. Then I'll break it down on how the outcomes affect my life.
Treatment Experience
- I have never had the worst hyperhidrosis, but enough that it affected my life (more on that later). It only really affects me in my armpits.
- I have visited GPs (GP = general practitioner) about this many times in the past, and they just prescribe me medical strength aluminum that I have to put on once a week. I have tried this a number of times during my life, and it was never effective. When I was 19 years old and tried this, I actually got red burns in my armpits that made me cry they were so painful. Reflecting back, I was probably putting it on too frequently.
- I am originally from the US, and have lived in 5 other countries. I moved to Italy about 1.5 years ago. I visited my GP and asked for a Botox prescription and he happily gave it to me after I described my experience. Though I have access to the public health care system in Italy, the wait times are very long. Like most people, I carry private health insurance as a result. I wanted my treatment before summer started, otherwise I would have had to wait until November for an appointment in the public system.
- My appointment was with a neurologist in Milan. The procedure took about 15 minutes. There were around 20 pokes in each armpit. I have a high pain tolerance. I would rate this a 2 or 3 out of 10. Very pokey. I just took some very measured breathing to calm myself through it.
- The cost was €340 without insurance. My insurance covers the procedure. I have Googled other procedures in other cities and at cosmetic clinics I can see it ranging from 700 to 1,000 for a treatment.
- My neurologist told me that I would feel the effects within 4 to 10 days, and that they should last anywhere between 4 to 9 months. Some people report the effects are gone by 2 months, but he cannot treat me again before 3 months otherwise I can develop antibodies to the procedure.
- I already felt the effects on days 2 and 3, and everything was definitely in full swing by day 4. More on the effects/outcomes next.
- My neurologist did tell me that hands are more painful but all of his patients come back for their repeat treatments because the outcomes are worth the pain. He also offered that if I get underboob sweat that he can treat me there too (I declined this first time).
- I would say that my sweating has dropped by 90-95%.
- If I do sweat, it just has a more "normal" acceptable odor to it rather than being gagging rancid.
- I am still wearing deoderant for the 5-10% but I only need to apply once a day. And some days I forget to apply.
- Even if my insurance didn't cover this treatment, I would pay for it out of pocket. I would not visit a cosmetic clinic though because their prices are higher, I would simply visit a neurologist and pay out of pocket for the treatment there (which is what I do anyway, run the credit card and get reimbursed by my insurance company).
- I have not noticed any increased sweating anywhere else on my body, however summer really only just started so will be monitoring/journaling that one closely.
- Ghost Sweat/Smell and Anxiety/Panic: It's going to take me a long time to lose the sweating/smelling panic and anxiety. I have this almost phantom sweating now. I go about my day, I think I feel that I'm starting to sweat, then I panic about "oh gosh, now I'm out in public and I'm going to smell bad and my shirt will be ruined and I will have to change before I go to dinner later and darnit I should have brought my deoderant with me and yuck I hope no one can smell me right now and I'll just keep my arms squished down to tightly pack the smell in there until I get home". And then I do a sweat and smell check - and there is nothing. No wet stains. I smell absolutely fine.
- Wardrobe Options Unlocked: Pre-Botox I would say that I was very limited in wardrobe options. I bought/wore maybe 10% of the possible outfits that I would actually like to wear. Shopping freaking sucked. I would not buy any clothing tops or dresses that touched my armpits. Period. So all of my clothes were either tank tops with a kimono or other cover top I could easily swap out when it got too sweaty/stinky, or very loose t-shirts. Nothing form fitting, ever (except swimsuits and tank tops). Even tank tops I was very particular that the lower portion needed to dip as low as possible, I could not wear any tank tops where the arm pit was tight/touching. It's crazy to think of the wardrobe styles and colors that have been unlocked now.
- One story I tell my friends was a few years ago I was speaking at a conference of around 100-150 attendees. This is a normal part of my job, I love public speaking and thrive on it. Even so, I will of course get a bit anxious in the 1 hour before I go on. For this specific conference, I had worked with my executive coach to buy a new top that had a pop of color - something memorable - in bright blue silk. Luckily I was staying at an Airbnb about a 10 minute walk away from the facility. After arriving in the morning, within 30 minutes I looked down and I was soaking wet through this bright blue silk blouse, with wide water marks. I was horrified at my rookie mistake. I immediately ran back to my Airbnb, changed into my dull frumpy black top and black sweater, and then ran back to do my speech/panel.
- Travel Packing: Holy heck now I realize how people can travel so light with just a backpack. They can re-wear most of their clothing. I have always needed to bring a lot of change of clothes. Not necessarily bottoms, but tops yes. Because even though I might have the ability to at least hand wash, it may take too long for them to dry before I need to wear them again. So I just pack a little bit more clothes to be safe. Just this last week I never had to do laundry and I was on a 10 day trip, and I re-wore every top I put on at least 2-3 times. Some clothes I never even wore because I didn't need to. I have unlocked so much more possibility for traveling light.
- Cute Airport Looks: I am a person that believes you should look nice when you travel, and since you never know who you are going to meet then you should look your best to be ready for such random encounters. But, I never got to be that person because of my sweating. "Travel Day" (arrival and departure) was always just planned around the outfit that would make me sweat/smell the least. I wouldn't even bother putting on makeup because I felt gross and wet and stinky anyway so why bother? Usually by the time I got to the airport, I was already wet and smelly from going up and down stairs and taking public transportation, just trying to hide it for my flight until I could change and reapply deoderant. But now? I can look cute when I travel. Today I hauled my suitcase to the airport, flew home to Italy from the Netherlands, with no sweat and no smell. I'm really looking forward to finally being able to "dress cute" at the airport and feel confident in myself.
- Intimacy: Pre-Botox I would make my outfit and dating choices around my sweating. I would have to really analyze the situation, the weather, whether we would be sitting outdoors or indoors or in air conditioning or not, if he had air conditioning at his home or not, all to determine whether or not I would go home with him. All of that anxiety about sweating/smelling meant that intimacy was never spontaneous, always planned, which I hate. Additionally, if the stars did align for something spontaneous (perfect outfit choices for the setting) then if I got to his home and realized I didn't have any deoderant with me I would check his bathroom cabinet for spray deoderant. If I found spray deoderant that I could use to top up before getting sexy and to top up again in the morning, then I would stay over. If not, I would leave and go home. Another example of one my crutches: I would always stink in the morning so I would try my best to wake up before him, run to the bathroom and apply deoderant, and then come back to bed before any morning intimacy began.
2024.06.09 19:28 calypsos_heart Help? Michigan
Here goes, so in 2000 my mom died and then my little brother died suddenly three months later. My mom died without a will. At first, my sibling and I decided to let the house go. We didn't care. At that point, we had no idea what the future would hold if anything at all. I was busy working as a nurse, stressed to the absolute maximum
Fast forward to September of 2021. I thought maybe we should give another thought to the house. It was then placed into pandemic forbearance. I obtained an attorney to push forward with probate. There was no will.
For a long time, nothing happened. In April of 2023, on the recommendation from the servicer, I completed paperwork for a loan modification. I was denied, based on missing paperwork, and never notified. When I got a hold of the servicer, they said I would have to apply again. I did so 3 more times. I was denied on my fourth and final attempt.
The home is still in foreclosure status, with a sheriff sale as of the 24th of this month. It has not been posted on the house and my attorney cannot see it in the paper (or wherever they look to see this information as an attorney.)
Not that it matters, but I've made my peace with this. I thought at one time saving the house was a viable option. I now realize it was a stupid thought.
The home is in awful condition, however; I realize that whoever purchases likely will have their own contractors and they will easily restore and flip.
I met with a real estate person today. She offered me $5,000 over what is owed on the house. The amount owed is $95,000 less than what the servicer is saying it is worth.
I have no idea what to do. Quite frankly, I'm ready to give up.
If anyone has any words of advice, they would be appreciated.
As for any negative comments, I get it. No one hates me more than me right now. I am woefully inadequate and I know that my stupidity is what got me into this in the first place. I should have researched options and I didn't. There is nothing you can say that is worse than what I tell myself, Every.Single.Day.Of.My.Life.
I just don't know what to do. I have no one to talk to about this. My sibling is uninterested and I have no knowledge outside of the medical field. It is now in the 11th hour and perhaps the sheriffs sale is the best and only option.
Thanks for reading.
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Fast forward to September of 2021. I thought maybe we should give another thought to the house. It was then placed into pandemic forbearance. I obtained an attorney to push forward with probate. There was no will.
For a long time, nothing happened. In April of 2023, on the recommendation from the servicer, I completed paperwork for a loan modification. I was denied, based on missing paperwork, and never notified. When I got a hold of the servicer, they said I would have to apply again. I did so 3 more times. I was denied on my fourth and final attempt.
The home is still in foreclosure status, with a sheriff sale as of the 24th of this month. It has not been posted on the house and my attorney cannot see it in the paper (or wherever they look to see this information as an attorney.)
Not that it matters, but I've made my peace with this. I thought at one time saving the house was a viable option. I now realize it was a stupid thought.
The home is in awful condition, however; I realize that whoever purchases likely will have their own contractors and they will easily restore and flip.
I met with a real estate person today. She offered me $5,000 over what is owed on the house. The amount owed is $95,000 less than what the servicer is saying it is worth.
I have no idea what to do. Quite frankly, I'm ready to give up.
If anyone has any words of advice, they would be appreciated.
As for any negative comments, I get it. No one hates me more than me right now. I am woefully inadequate and I know that my stupidity is what got me into this in the first place. I should have researched options and I didn't. There is nothing you can say that is worse than what I tell myself, Every.Single.Day.Of.My.Life.
I just don't know what to do. I have no one to talk to about this. My sibling is uninterested and I have no knowledge outside of the medical field. It is now in the 11th hour and perhaps the sheriffs sale is the best and only option.
Thanks for reading.
2024.06.09 19:26 SentientCartoon Do you leave every social interaction feeling like you've done something wrong?
Because I do. It has always been this way but never this bad. Every time I talk to anyone I feel like I have said something wrong or made a fool of myself or worse. I feel incredibly anxious before, during and after every single social interaction.
I want to see the people I care about but it's starting to become too much for me to bear. If I make plans to hangout then I dread the lead up, I feel like a monster while there and over analyse every single conversation after the fact.
It's all way too painful. I want to be alone but I'm so goddamn lonely.
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I want to see the people I care about but it's starting to become too much for me to bear. If I make plans to hangout then I dread the lead up, I feel like a monster while there and over analyse every single conversation after the fact.
It's all way too painful. I want to be alone but I'm so goddamn lonely.
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2024.06.09 19:25 partyforslugs course planning and credit tracking has been a nightmare even before pathways. might take me 3 years to get this associates.
let me just start out by saying they do promise that you'll be able to finish an associates by taking 2 courses a term. i've been doing this and choosing the recommended classes each time out of fear of taking the wrong ones. i've been careful about planning my classes out and i've been keeping a list each term to make sure. what they don't specify to you is that the degree audit automatically puts a class's credits towards whichever area "it" thinks it will count most towards. now i've got one term left and my elective credits aren't being counted. the window for late registration is two days long, and if they don't offer me 2 more available electives, i can't put a request in because it takes "3 days to process." i've emailed twice about this and asked flat out, will i be able to gradute on time? and received the same suggestion to keep checking the degree audit. the fact that i will most likely have to start a third year because the credits i EARNED aren't being distributed correctly is so frustrating, especially because i've been trying to find a way to figure it out or at least get a straightforward answer but the communication is nearly nonexistent.
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2024.06.09 19:23 Effective_Group_4250 I am torn but think I should leave relationship for my child
I’ll keep things vague as just honestly need to make sure I’m doing the right thing.
I’ve been with my SO for 3.5 years . Not married we planned on it but now I’m just fed up.
We got together and she had bad trauma from a relationship and it really scarred her from last relationship. It’s caused a lot of problems in our relationship. I’ve always tried to be understanding , and caring. At the start everything was decent but once we found we were having a kid it crumbled her world and we spent the last two years trying to make our relationship make sense. She was cold, having intimacy was near impossible without causing fights and I felt like I was alone. She is a good mom when she has the mental capacity but she just can stay stable long term without getting angry constantly , insanely anxious or just losing it in general. I do all I can to help. I watch my child while l im at work in the morning while she sleeps. I cook dinner and bath her regularly. Fast forward to this year things finally started to seem go right for us and then something reignited the trauma. She attempted suicide twice in the last month and I walked in on her with a weapon in her hand and I’m losing my mind . She refuses to get help, It’s made me feel completely different and makes me feel that I need to walk and try to get primary custody of my child and remove my child from this situation.
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I’ve been with my SO for 3.5 years . Not married we planned on it but now I’m just fed up.
We got together and she had bad trauma from a relationship and it really scarred her from last relationship. It’s caused a lot of problems in our relationship. I’ve always tried to be understanding , and caring. At the start everything was decent but once we found we were having a kid it crumbled her world and we spent the last two years trying to make our relationship make sense. She was cold, having intimacy was near impossible without causing fights and I felt like I was alone. She is a good mom when she has the mental capacity but she just can stay stable long term without getting angry constantly , insanely anxious or just losing it in general. I do all I can to help. I watch my child while l im at work in the morning while she sleeps. I cook dinner and bath her regularly. Fast forward to this year things finally started to seem go right for us and then something reignited the trauma. She attempted suicide twice in the last month and I walked in on her with a weapon in her hand and I’m losing my mind . She refuses to get help, It’s made me feel completely different and makes me feel that I need to walk and try to get primary custody of my child and remove my child from this situation.
2024.06.09 19:23 chicken_mini93 ULPT - Bought a car with no title
So, I found a pretty great deal on FB marketplace for a car that came with no title nor bill of sale (latter was my fault for forgetting, it's my first time buying one like this). It was 90 out and I wanted to get home after also having to buy it a new battery, so I didn't think to ask if she would work with me on a bonded title. I want to get one though so I can insure it. I also didn't realize I had options for this, I was thinking I'd do some fixing and flip it and still sell with no title to someone else who didn't care.
The process for getting a bonded title in Colorado is relatively straightforward: VIN inspection, title search to locate previous owner, sending a letter to them via certified mail requesting title transfer, getting a dealership appraisal, then purchasing the bond and getting the title. The owner has 3 years to claim the vehicle before the bonded branding falls off the title and it becomes clean and in your own name permanently. If I understand everything correctly.
The part I'm curious about is the letter, I cannot find any specific verbiage about what must be said, other than "requesting title transfer". It seems like all the DMV cares about is getting the green stub as proof of contact. Wondering if I could literally just send a blank letter so that person has no idea this is being done. I really don't want to put some cash into it to get it in better shape only for them to randomly claim it within the 3-year period because of course, they wouldn't have to pay a dime to get it back except maybe to have it towed home. I don't know how they'd locate me though especially if I put an old address on the envelope. I guess even if I had to provide a copy of the letter, I could just print one that looks like a legitimate request, but send the blank one out?
It's likely the lady I bought it from is the legitimate last owner. She clarified no title in the description and said she hasn't touched the car in 6 months and wanted it gone fast and did not want to go through the replacement process and the waiting period. But I can't trust she wouldn't try and claim it back if so.
Or should I do some minimal cost repairs and sell it with no title still? Just curious if anyone has been in a similar situation. If I can guarantee myself the bonded title, my plan may change to sell my current car to get rid of a car payment and drive this one until it becomes clear title.
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The process for getting a bonded title in Colorado is relatively straightforward: VIN inspection, title search to locate previous owner, sending a letter to them via certified mail requesting title transfer, getting a dealership appraisal, then purchasing the bond and getting the title. The owner has 3 years to claim the vehicle before the bonded branding falls off the title and it becomes clean and in your own name permanently. If I understand everything correctly.
The part I'm curious about is the letter, I cannot find any specific verbiage about what must be said, other than "requesting title transfer". It seems like all the DMV cares about is getting the green stub as proof of contact. Wondering if I could literally just send a blank letter so that person has no idea this is being done. I really don't want to put some cash into it to get it in better shape only for them to randomly claim it within the 3-year period because of course, they wouldn't have to pay a dime to get it back except maybe to have it towed home. I don't know how they'd locate me though especially if I put an old address on the envelope. I guess even if I had to provide a copy of the letter, I could just print one that looks like a legitimate request, but send the blank one out?
It's likely the lady I bought it from is the legitimate last owner. She clarified no title in the description and said she hasn't touched the car in 6 months and wanted it gone fast and did not want to go through the replacement process and the waiting period. But I can't trust she wouldn't try and claim it back if so.
Or should I do some minimal cost repairs and sell it with no title still? Just curious if anyone has been in a similar situation. If I can guarantee myself the bonded title, my plan may change to sell my current car to get rid of a car payment and drive this one until it becomes clear title.
2024.06.09 19:23 theseawoof Strategies to negotiate with Spectrum once they have monopolized your region and keep increasing your bill?
My bill keeps getting increased from "introductory rates" to "standard rates". They tell me that I've reached standard rates and that we will see no more increases, then it gets increased again and I'm told the same crap. They don't seem to care if I plan to cancel. At&t will lower my bill when I used to do that but at&t only offers 50mbps when Spectrum offers 1gb, no other Internet available at my complex yet but FiOS is in the adjacent neighborhoos. I'm currently paying $24 more than advertised rates, it's wack. All I can do is complain and ask them crap like "why do we get punished for being a loyal customer?' 😭 technically the service is under my wife's name, if she were to "move out" I can grab a year introductory rate once she does, and hope FiOS hits my location soon. Is there anything else to be done?
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2024.06.09 19:20 ShineFamiliar3741 turn the Page my recovery from abuse and inheritance theft
A lot happened before my father passed my sisters both demanded accounts and signed on the way they owned our father and her to the lot of large amount of money before he retired one sister had full control to put one account and because her husband had knowledge of how to control people with these accounts and how to sign them to where you own them and could walk away with all that one dollar unless my dad wanted to press charges felony and he did not he lived with that for several years the thing was my brother-in-law demanded I didn't no help and no cash from my father who bought me a vehicle and he also demanded who bought from him so he could have his own cash that started a bad thing but on the other note my other sister and brother planned a long time ago to steal all on the end and one sister her whole name go in life was to still everything in the end to work as a librarian in order to mingle with authorities with a plan of cutting me out because mother made her hate me when we were children she told her she was a real oldest daughter I was adopted by my father in the state of Missouri because I had no father my mother was abusive to me and she got her words she cut me out she got threw me out of the family they had me abused I had a death threat at one time when my memories came back I have an appointment to talk to a trusted her recovery attorney next week but it's well down to now it's a dirty stuff but they're still a very large amount of money missing that was too preachers one being a bad lawyer who was elected to prosecutor because of his name the state of Missouri couldn't help me with that because he was elected. There's no protection for heirs even though there's laws in Missouri. And when did in-laws with hating their heart and greed they come errors assets were never reported I never got anything from my dad as far as I had property stored there I finally got my camper but it cost me a lot my brother forced me to sign titles and soon tops and my sister would use them on something I told her it would be fraud because they couldn't Court can tell immediately that the paper was added to after the signature landlords can't get away with that anymore unless the person can't take them to court then they do cuz it happened to me before my thoughts are I was abused my life was certain all this Northwest Missouri it's very corrupt a bank account was moved when I was dying in another state and the prosecutor won't even let me look because it's been a few years back I need prosecutor the bank was concerned like there was a criminal and that prosecutor said get a lawyer well that's all I was told by a person well when they have more money and they've used pictures to launder money they use the prosecutor to get their way to not probate a larger state and they turn their back on me that goes to me like I am a disease because I know what they did my life was in dangerous I still don't feel safe I'm in this town I'm working on getting away from here so I can take care of the rest of this but my children didn't deserve to be cut out my father did not do this they did what they wanted for very large amount of money who got a very large attack right before he died and then I don't know who got the money I'm not money doesn't drive me but the fact that they did what they did has me irritated because my children did not deserve this my brother was supposed to probate and help me get all this done so my sister's got their way so far but my mother was in the background she was the first ex-wife and he was single but my one sister control freak controlled dad never move after his last divorce and he couldn't trust her she stole tooth imagine that grave sold them a year later without telling him to make banked on that but she did that because my other sister would find onto his largest inheritance account and controlling him with it he didn't press start his own either one but he did turn him in before he died after he got that last check he was bullied that's why they wanted my memory is gone I hired somebody to come into my life I found Love with a narcissist who was there for hire St Joe Missouri is very corrupt Andrew county was where the prosecutor fake probate attorney was they're still a fake casing at the judge refused to move it off but my brother is no longer represented who paid it to get it stopped to get those two titles back my father bought way more local than that my brother and said he was doing his own probate he bullied me to sign in 15 titles two were property I can't find out where those went except for I know they were laundered through his church his Titan picture who greedy preacher but also was involved and getting money off the top that's I'm in the assets it's all a mess it's a very big mess I'm talking to Tony next week another one thing is only have one chance that they got more money than they're counting you know I they laundered money they did it's on public 300 vehicles cars and trucks at dad bought for probate my brother promised to do with me that sisters pays him to do with that program that month is already had the prosecuting attorney as a lawyer he's not even a probate lawyer and now he's not a prosecutor attorney who knows he did wrong he's also a preacher but he's one of those tithing pictures like the other one putting printers lying their own pockets with other people's money they don't give it to the floor they're legal things in my eyes but I'm opinionated
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2024.06.09 19:18 OpalMagnus Not sure if my dad is a narcissist but I'm also not sure if he'll ever change either. Need advice.
I've been neglecting to really ask for this advice because I'm pretty sure I just don't want to face a lot of the answers, including my role and responsibility in all this.
Context: I (29F) live with my dad and have lived with him basically since I was born (I briefly lived away from my family for 4 years while I was in college). I came back to help my ill mother. Unfortunately, she passed away 5 years ago. My now-husband moved in about 3 years go so it's been us 3 ever since.
A lot of cutesy words have been used to talk about my father (stubborn, hard-to-deal with, challenging, bizarre). It's really hard to pin down who he is and I never know if my perception of him is accurate, but I'll try to describe him as best as I can.
It feels like he feels entitled to my time and energy despite any boundaries I place with him. He always asks for help with things at the last minute or without any planning. For example, a few weekends ago, he needed a haircut and asked me to do it. I reminded him that my back was killing me so standing was painful. He said he has back pain everyday to which I reminded him that he usually rests on days where his back is bad. I offered to give him money and call to make him an appointment (not that he needs the money or anyone to call but usually if I take away his excuses he gives up on asking me). Now, I should've picked up the phone and made an appointment just to make my point clear, but I was getting anxious from his constant complaining and bothering me even when I went back upstairs to rest. The pain was just getting so much worse with the anxiety so I caved and did it.
That's just one example, but there's times that feel a little more subtle than this. Like he'll bring projects home (a new desk, gardening stuff, etc.) and even if he doesn't ask for help, he'll tear rooms apart, slam things loudly: basicially makes it not only clear that he's struggling but also inconveniences people from using the space until the task is done. I notice this also suspiciously occurs around times where people would be hungry or tired.
Now, my dad has ADHD and I can see some of my struggles in him. Sometimes I start projects thinking they'll be easy and end up taking up an entire space. But I usually do it when no one is around and at least clear the space before meal times or before bed.
I also notice he gets very angry and starts blaming others if people ignore him. Suddenly, we're all lazy, nobody helps him, we're the reason he can't finish any of the other stuff he has to do, etc. Now, that could be just generally venting (I know I've irrationally blamed others for my shortcomings), but he never apologizes nor feels that he was in the wrong after. I apologize immediately and feel awful if I act like that even if I had a point (but you know saying things like that in the heat of the moment doesn't solve anything).
I guess it's really difficult to tell if the things he does are intentional or result from a lack of awareness of his own emotions, needs, etc. We've had honest conversations a few times about how he struggles to acheive the things he wants to do, feels overwhelmed, and feels self-concious about getting old and not being able to the same things he was able to. We've even talked about how we were both feeling and he actually cried and seemed remourseful.
But, I'm not going to lie, and this is just a gut feeling I have, I sometimes feel like those displays of emotions are planned out. It just seems like we only have those talks when he's been drinking (and he'll say he doesn't remember or laugh about how alcohol can make you say crazy stuff) and when I've been doing well with maintaining boundaries. I don't know, I feel like I sound crazy when I say it like that.
I guess, it's hard to make decisions about leaving or staying and keeping or maintaining a relationship with him without knowing if he really cares about me. If he's just a narcissist, then I know that all I could ever be is a pawn to him and his ego (which hurts in a different way and is still hard). But if all of this could be a combination of stress, ADHD, PTSD, and anxiety, then I'd feel like abandoning him would be like abandoning myself. At my lowest point, I was a violent asshole too and it took a lot of therapy to figure my shit out. At the same time, I know I have a tendency to try to emphathize and see the best in people, and I'm afraid that maybe I'm just doing what my mom did and making excuses.
Do you think he's a lost cause? Should I bother trying to help him change or should I be running for the hills? Is this what you all experienced? For the stories here, narcissistic parents sound so much worse and obvious, but maybe it just looks that way to an outside perspective.
I don't know. A part of me just also doesn't want to have the only parent I have left be an unavailable narcissist. Or to realize that maybe I've been just stupid and enabling him. Or I worry that maybe I'm just a narcissist myself.
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Context: I (29F) live with my dad and have lived with him basically since I was born (I briefly lived away from my family for 4 years while I was in college). I came back to help my ill mother. Unfortunately, she passed away 5 years ago. My now-husband moved in about 3 years go so it's been us 3 ever since.
A lot of cutesy words have been used to talk about my father (stubborn, hard-to-deal with, challenging, bizarre). It's really hard to pin down who he is and I never know if my perception of him is accurate, but I'll try to describe him as best as I can.
It feels like he feels entitled to my time and energy despite any boundaries I place with him. He always asks for help with things at the last minute or without any planning. For example, a few weekends ago, he needed a haircut and asked me to do it. I reminded him that my back was killing me so standing was painful. He said he has back pain everyday to which I reminded him that he usually rests on days where his back is bad. I offered to give him money and call to make him an appointment (not that he needs the money or anyone to call but usually if I take away his excuses he gives up on asking me). Now, I should've picked up the phone and made an appointment just to make my point clear, but I was getting anxious from his constant complaining and bothering me even when I went back upstairs to rest. The pain was just getting so much worse with the anxiety so I caved and did it.
That's just one example, but there's times that feel a little more subtle than this. Like he'll bring projects home (a new desk, gardening stuff, etc.) and even if he doesn't ask for help, he'll tear rooms apart, slam things loudly: basicially makes it not only clear that he's struggling but also inconveniences people from using the space until the task is done. I notice this also suspiciously occurs around times where people would be hungry or tired.
Now, my dad has ADHD and I can see some of my struggles in him. Sometimes I start projects thinking they'll be easy and end up taking up an entire space. But I usually do it when no one is around and at least clear the space before meal times or before bed.
I also notice he gets very angry and starts blaming others if people ignore him. Suddenly, we're all lazy, nobody helps him, we're the reason he can't finish any of the other stuff he has to do, etc. Now, that could be just generally venting (I know I've irrationally blamed others for my shortcomings), but he never apologizes nor feels that he was in the wrong after. I apologize immediately and feel awful if I act like that even if I had a point (but you know saying things like that in the heat of the moment doesn't solve anything).
I guess it's really difficult to tell if the things he does are intentional or result from a lack of awareness of his own emotions, needs, etc. We've had honest conversations a few times about how he struggles to acheive the things he wants to do, feels overwhelmed, and feels self-concious about getting old and not being able to the same things he was able to. We've even talked about how we were both feeling and he actually cried and seemed remourseful.
But, I'm not going to lie, and this is just a gut feeling I have, I sometimes feel like those displays of emotions are planned out. It just seems like we only have those talks when he's been drinking (and he'll say he doesn't remember or laugh about how alcohol can make you say crazy stuff) and when I've been doing well with maintaining boundaries. I don't know, I feel like I sound crazy when I say it like that.
I guess, it's hard to make decisions about leaving or staying and keeping or maintaining a relationship with him without knowing if he really cares about me. If he's just a narcissist, then I know that all I could ever be is a pawn to him and his ego (which hurts in a different way and is still hard). But if all of this could be a combination of stress, ADHD, PTSD, and anxiety, then I'd feel like abandoning him would be like abandoning myself. At my lowest point, I was a violent asshole too and it took a lot of therapy to figure my shit out. At the same time, I know I have a tendency to try to emphathize and see the best in people, and I'm afraid that maybe I'm just doing what my mom did and making excuses.
Do you think he's a lost cause? Should I bother trying to help him change or should I be running for the hills? Is this what you all experienced? For the stories here, narcissistic parents sound so much worse and obvious, but maybe it just looks that way to an outside perspective.
I don't know. A part of me just also doesn't want to have the only parent I have left be an unavailable narcissist. Or to realize that maybe I've been just stupid and enabling him. Or I worry that maybe I'm just a narcissist myself.
2024.06.09 19:17 Dishusamba The Last Resort technique I've discovered
So I have been dealing with a mother who doesn't care about my feelings or the toll she takes for years. She cares more about her abusive alcoholic husband than me.
I have decided to go no contact, but I can't do that for an extended time. While I'm planning for my escape, yes it feels like that, I have decided to try one last thing that would NEVER come naturally to me and that I'm only doing because I'm backed into a corner: I use her own logic against her.
I'm gaslighting when I say something that upsets her, being dismissive for positivity's sake, and using her own expectations against her.
"What? I didn't say that, that's crazy. You must have assumed something, because I've never had a problem with you! You're a great mother!"
"Yeah that sucks, but its important that you focus on the good things in your life"
Or "well, like you said, we should just focus on peace and let this go"
It's so clearly dismissive and hurtful to me, but the crazy part is, at least so far, she is responding extremely well to this?? There's been zero friction, and she seems happier. I couldn't believe it. She WANTS to be lied to. She WANTS a fake world where no one is ever offended or accountable for their actions.
One key note: I don't think my mom is a clinical narcissist, so she's not as malicious, she is just so preoccupied with her false narrative of peace, anything can be collateral, including her kids. If it were my dad, who could possibly have NPD, I would do something similar if I HAD to but I wouldn't say anything disparaging, it'd have to be twisted even further to stroke his ego.
"What? No, I'm not mad. I'm so sorry. You know me, I'm not very bright and suck at communicating".
I can not stress enough how unhealthy and disgusting this sort of communication style is, but if you need some peace and need some time before you can cut contact, I have found it a highly useful survival tool. I think it's essential you also don't enjoy it or want to do harm to the narcissistic parent, it's only for survival. I wish I could be honest with my parents and I wish they could heal. They can not. Once I have moved far away and am completely dependent, I will limit contact and go back to superficial, but honest communication.
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I have decided to go no contact, but I can't do that for an extended time. While I'm planning for my escape, yes it feels like that, I have decided to try one last thing that would NEVER come naturally to me and that I'm only doing because I'm backed into a corner: I use her own logic against her.
I'm gaslighting when I say something that upsets her, being dismissive for positivity's sake, and using her own expectations against her.
"What? I didn't say that, that's crazy. You must have assumed something, because I've never had a problem with you! You're a great mother!"
"Yeah that sucks, but its important that you focus on the good things in your life"
Or "well, like you said, we should just focus on peace and let this go"
It's so clearly dismissive and hurtful to me, but the crazy part is, at least so far, she is responding extremely well to this?? There's been zero friction, and she seems happier. I couldn't believe it. She WANTS to be lied to. She WANTS a fake world where no one is ever offended or accountable for their actions.
One key note: I don't think my mom is a clinical narcissist, so she's not as malicious, she is just so preoccupied with her false narrative of peace, anything can be collateral, including her kids. If it were my dad, who could possibly have NPD, I would do something similar if I HAD to but I wouldn't say anything disparaging, it'd have to be twisted even further to stroke his ego.
"What? No, I'm not mad. I'm so sorry. You know me, I'm not very bright and suck at communicating".
I can not stress enough how unhealthy and disgusting this sort of communication style is, but if you need some peace and need some time before you can cut contact, I have found it a highly useful survival tool. I think it's essential you also don't enjoy it or want to do harm to the narcissistic parent, it's only for survival. I wish I could be honest with my parents and I wish they could heal. They can not. Once I have moved far away and am completely dependent, I will limit contact and go back to superficial, but honest communication.
2024.06.09 19:17 Radiant_Idea_651 Ugh how is that fair to the boys- MIL comment
Made the mistake of telling my MIL that I need to change my kids name and gender with their new school. My MIL said "You can't change genders with a school! What are you going to say NB?" Me- " no, male" "What??? Is she going to use the boys bathroom??" "I have no idea how this is going to work"- me "How is this fair to the boys??"- MIL "I have to worry about my kid first. They have a lot of dismorphia and it makes them suicidal. I just need to care about them. At the doctors they came back with mild/severe depression." "Yeah but she is so excited and happy it came back with depression. She was so excited to tell me."- MIL "So that doesn't mean anything." "What is your guy's plan? Her body is changing"- MIL "What do you mean? I don't have any plans that far. First just therapy and socially changing. I need to make small steps first. I am not thinking that far ahead yet. They haven't mentioned any of that yet."
(Me shaking with anxiety, overwhelm, regret mentioning it). Yep definitely need a therapist.
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(Me shaking with anxiety, overwhelm, regret mentioning it). Yep definitely need a therapist.
2024.06.09 19:16 rakkycze Last page of the captain's log. Forgive me.
 | Hello there strangers and explorers I have a story to tell... submitted by rakkycze to NoMansSkyTheGame [link] [comments] ( CHAT GPT version of my story in proper english because english is not my native language so I type like a dumdum xD ) Yesterday, I booted up No Man's Sky and saw that there was a community event ending in six weeks. So, I began my journey. I spawned on a moon, though I can't remember much of what happened or where exactly I was. But I knew one thing for sure: I had a task to do. Someone or something had left me a note with quests on how to set sail into space. I was very confused, and my head hurt badly. I said to myself, "I don't have time to try to remember what happened. I need to survive." I withdrew my binoculars and looked around. I was on a dead moon... or planet? I couldn't tell. It definitely lacked an atmosphere. My radar showed the temperature was 10 degrees Celsius. At least something positive. For now, I didn’t need to deal with cold, radiation, heat, or a toxic environment. While scouting, I scanned local minerals, curious if they had anything useful. Every single mineral contained only ferrite dust. I scooped up a few rocks with my multi-tool and then noticed a shipwreck 1000 units away. "This must be my ship," I said to myself. I put away my binoculars and ran towards the ship. When I climbed a nearby mountain, I spotted a structure—a house? A warehouse? It was definitely built by humans. So, I decided to take a quick look. It was only 200 units away, so why not? When I entered, it was clearly a warehouse. Small storage units, a portal, oxygen harvesters, and planters with carbon were inside. I'm not proud of what I did, but I can assure you, that carbon could be a life-changer, especially since I had no resources. I stole every single piece of carbon I found, got outside, and took a bike that was parked in front. When I arrived at my ship, I was right—it was a wreck. I quickly examined the ship and assessed the damage. The launch thrusters were shot, the pulse engine was fried, and a few other components blocked my ship from functioning fully. I checked my deployable technology and realized I needed hydrogen and pure ferrite dust to repair it. Then came the first shock: I didn't know how to craft a refinery. Did I forget it? Did I lose the blueprint? I must have. So, without hesitation, I drove the bike back to the warehouse. At the warehouse, I stole carbon again (something I’m not proud of) and looked for a refinery. There was none. So, I had a bright idea: there was a teleporter. What if I just teleported to another base and tried to find a refinery? So, I stepped into it. At first, I was surprised. It took me to a planet with extreme storms and hurricanes. That didn't matter to me since I stayed indoors at this new base I had trespassed upon. Oh boy, how wrong I was. After searching for about two solid minutes, I conceded and entered the teleporter again. This is where my tragic end begins. I appeared on the same extreme weather planet. Radiation was at 9.3. Since I didn't have any sodium, I quickly ran into a small 1x1 shelter built by some Chinese player. When I peeked out, I noticed the teleporter didn’t have power. I panicked, jumped outside, and tried to fix the power by adding carbon to the engine. Well, it didn’t help. There was no connection between the battery and the teleporter. I went back to the 1x1, totally defeated. I wondered what I should do now. Is this my new life file? Living in someone’s shelter for the rest of my life? Should I dedicate my life to exploring this strange place? No. I refused to be defeated. I pulled out my binoculars again and looked around. I saw only local edible flora, organic minerals, storm crystals that weren’t accessible at the moment since there wasn’t a storm, and settlements owned by other players. While thinking about a plan to escape this hell, I opened my tasks. I realized that for certain tasks, you can get care packages to continue progressing. One of these tasks asked me to install an advanced mining tool. If I was able to do that, I would be able to get a refinery in the care package. I quickly installed that on my multi-tool. But guess what? I needed copper to fully install it. That was an issue for this planet. There was no copper, only magnetized ferrite, uranium, and activated copper. When I checked what the first planet had to offer, of course, it had copper. I was mad, but I already had a plan to leave this place at once. While scouting around, I noticed a few settlements on the planet. That would come in handy since all settlements have teleporters to get back to the planet where I regained consciousness. The only issue was I didn't have sodium or oxygen, which I critically needed to survive. While trying to install the advanced mining tool, I realized I had a scanner and a terrain-modifying tool. That would come in handy as well. I scanned the area around the 1x1 shelter for any sodium and oxygen flowers. Bingo! More than a few—hundreds. I spent a few minutes running around, gathering sodium and oxygen. When my radiation protection got low, I ran back to the shelter to avoid wasting any sodium. When I was ready, I began my journey on foot. The nearest settlement was 4-5 hours away. I was determined to survive. I ran and picked up every flower and supply I needed along the way. It didn’t take long before I found myself in a planetary storm. And not just one—there were hurricanes and extreme radiation at the same time! I was lucky to be right in front of a shelter left by a Korvax scientist. While waiting for the storm to pass, I learned a Korvax word and got some nanites, including two encrypted data units. When the storm passed, I resumed exploring. Next time, I promised myself I would try to brave the storm. So I did. After just two storms, I realized bad weather approached approximately every 15 to 20 minutes. So I needed to travel quickly. After 30 minutes of traveling, I had over 1000 sodium. I was confident that storms wouldn’t be an issue anymore. But when the storm approached, I was caught by the first tornado that formed right next to me. It sent me flying hundreds of meters. I didn’t panic. I saved my jetpack fuel and, when it tossed me all the way up, I slowly descended back to the ground. I dug a hole and waited a few minutes for the storm to pass. It was dangerous as hell to travel during a storm. After a few hours of battling storms, I scavenged for eggs, sold goodies like storm crystals and artifacts to trade terminals, and eventually, I died. That’s right. I was pulled out of a cave in the middle of nowhere by a tornado. I panicked and used up my fuel. When I woke up, I was next to the trading terminal. It would take me 51 minutes to recover my corpse. Well, what choice did I have? None. I had to go for it. After a solid hour and ten minutes, I reached my corpse, collecting storm crystals, ancient data structures, and radon from bio plants along the way. Just a few meters further, I realized it was the ocean part of my travel now. What did this mean for me? There was slightly higher radiation in the water, but that was fine. I already had over 2000 sodium. But what about oxygen? I had around 400. Mathematically, I wouldn’t be able to cross the ocean if it took more than 30 minutes to swim. I risked it. I ran out of life support really fast. I swam and swam. When I had only 60 oxygen left, I spotted land! I was saved! Finally, I would be able to get some oxygen. As a trophy, I took a shiny Hadal Core from an underwater structure. Then something snapped at me. My health was down to 40%. It was an angler fish! I fell for the oldest trick in the book—a shiny piece of light underwater. I got so scared I even forgot I had a gun with around 1200 bullets. I just swam to the piece of land in front of me. I waited for the fish to swim away. I didn’t want to harm any local fauna. I just wanted to leave this hellish place. After exiting the ocean, I was just an hour away from the settlement. My inventory was full. I couldn’t waste a single minute, but I couldn’t find any oxygen. So I just ran and hid from storms, especially since my last save was over an hour and thirty minutes ago. When I finally reached the place where the settlement was supposed to be, I wasn’t saved. I had traveled for six and a half hours for nothing. The settlement wasn’t there. It seemed like the settlers had never been there. I'm broken. Even though my sodium can keep me alive for a few more days, I don’t think I can make it anywhere. Most of the "promised" settlements are eight hours away. Thank you, monsalve4547, for being a beacon of hope. Avera.Novaa out. ___________________________________________________________________________________________________ My version of the story that i typed and put it to chat: Yesterday I boot up No Man's Sky. I saw that there is a community event or something like that... that ends in 6 weeks. So... I began my journey. I spawned on the moon, cant really remember what happened... cant really tell where exactly am I... But i know certain thing. I have a task to do. Someone, or something letf me a note with quests, how to set a sail to the space. I was very confused my head hurts really bad. I said to myself: "I dont have a time, trying to to remember what happened. I need to survive." I withdraw my binoculars and take a look around. I was on the dead moon... or planet? I cant tell. it was deff without atmosfere. Radar was measuring temperature 10 celsium. At least something positive. For now I dont need to deal with cold, radiation, heat or toxic envirement. While i was scouting around, i scanned local minerals. I was curious if they have something that i could use in the future. Every single mineral had only ferrite dust. I scoop up few rocks with my multi-tool, then I noticed.... a ship wrack 1000u away from me. "This must be my ship" said to myself. I put away my binoculars and run towards the ship. When I climb local mountain I spoted a house? warehouse? structure? It was build by a human, I could deff tell. So I decided to quickly take a look. It was like 200u from me, so why not. When I entere this house, it was deff a warehouse. Small storage units, portal, oxygen harvesters and planters with carbon. Im not prout about what have I done. But I can assure you, that carbon could be life changer. Especially when I dont have single resource. I stole every single piece of carbon i find and got outside of the building and took a bike that was right in front of it. When I arrived at the location of my ship... I was right... It was just a wreck. I quickly examine the ship and exact damage done on it. Launch thrusters were cooked... Pulse engine was cooked... and couple more things that blocked my ship from fully functionaling. I take a look in my deployable technology. I quickly realised I need hydrogen and Pure ferrite dust to repair it. Then the first shock came... I dont know how to craft a rafiner. Did I forget it? Did I lost the blueprint? I must have... So without hesitation I took that bike and drive it back to that warehouse I saw earlier. In the warehouse, I stole carbon again ( something im not proud of ). And looked for the refinery. Yea... there was none. So... I had bright idea... There was a teleporter. What If I just teleport to another base and try to find rafinery. So I... stepped into it... At first I was suprised... It took me to the planet with extreme storms and huricanes. That kinda doesnt matter to me since stayed indoors of this new base that I just tresspased. Oh boy how wrong I was. After looking for like 2 solid minutes. I conseded and again entered teleporter. And this is, where my tragic end begins. I appear on the same extreme weather planet. Radiation was 9.3. And since I didnt have single piece of sodium. I quickly run in the 1x1 that was build here, by some chinese guy. When I peaked out... I noticed that teleporter didnt have power. I panicked, jumped outside and tried to fix power by adding carbon to the engine. Well... it didnt help. There was no connection between batery and teleporter. I got back to the 1x1 ... totally defeated. I was wondering what should i do now... If this my new file? Living i someones shelter for the rest of my life? Should I deducate my life to the explore of this strange place? No... I refused defeat... I pulled out binoculars again and took a look around. I saw only local eatable flora, organic minerals, storm crystals that were not available at this moment since there wasnt a storm... and settlements owned by other people. While thinking about the plan how to escape this hell I opened my tasks. I realised for certain tasks, you can get carepackage to continue progressing. One of these tasks asked me to instal advanced mining tool. If I was able to do that, I would be able to get rafinery in the carepackage. I quickly instaled that to my multi-tool. But guess what... I needed copper to be able to fully instal it. Yea that was an issue for this planet. There was no such thing as copper. Only magnetised ferrite, uranium and activated copper. When I checked what that first planet has to offer. Ofc it was copper. I was mad. But already I had a plan how toleave this place at once. So while I was scouting around, I noticed couple of settlements that were of the planet. That would come handy since all settlements have teleports to get back on the planet where I gather my consciousness. Only issue was I didnt had, was sodium and oxygen, that I critically needed to survive. While I was trying to instal advanced mining tool, I realised I had scanner ... and terrain modifying tool. That would come handy aswell. I scanned the place around 1x1, if there are any sodium and oxygen flowers. BINGO! More than couple, it was hundreds and hundrends. I spend couple of minutes runnig around the area, gathering little bit of sodium, oxygen and when my radiation protection got low I run back to shelter to not waste a single sodium. And when I was ready. I began my tour on feet. Nearest settlement was 4-5 hours from my location. I was determent to survive. I ran and on the way I picked up every flower and suppliest i would need on my way to the settlement. It didnt take long and I found myself in the planetery storm... and not just single one. Hurricane and extreme radiation happened at once! I was lucky because I was right infront of the shelter that were left here by korvax scientist. While I was waiting for the storm to pass. I learned Korvax word and get some nanites that were left behind, inculing 2 encripted data. When storm passed, I get back to wondering the world. Next time I promised to myself, I will try to go through the storm. So I did. After just 2 storms I realised... bad weather aproaching aprx. between 15 to 20 minutes. So I needed to travel quickly. After 30 minutes of traveling i had over 1000 sodium. I was confident that storm wouldnt be an issue when I travel. But when storm approached... I was caught by the first tornado that formed right next to me. It set me flying hundreds meters. I didnt panic. I just saved my jetpack fuel. And when it tosse me all the way up. I slowly descent back to the ground. I dug a hole and waited couple of minutes so the storm can pass me again. Save to say it was dangerous as fuck to travel during a storm. After couple of the hours I went throught the storms, I battled swarm, steal their eggs and sell goodies like storm crystals and artifact to trade terminal that I found in the wild. I died. Thats right, I got pulled out of the cave in the middle of nowhere by tornado. I sorta panicked and used my fuel. When i wake up. I was next to the trading terminal. It would take me 51 minutes to recover my corpse. Well... what should I do? Do I have a choice? No... I had to go for it. After solid hour and 10 minutes I get to the corpse, mainly cause I was collecting storm crystals, ancient data structures and radon from bio plants. And just after few meters I realised. Now its the ocean part of my travel. What does it mean for me? Well, there was slightly bigger radiation in the water. But its fine by me. I already gathered over 2000 sodium. But what about oxygen? Well. I had around 400. Mathematically, I wouldnt be able to cross that ocean if it was bigger than 30 minutes swimm. Well I risked it. I was running out of life support really fast. I swim and swim. When I had only like 60 oxygen left. I spotted a land! I was saved! Finally i will be able to get some oxygen. As a trophy I took one shiny hadal core from underwater structure. Then something snaps me. My health was on 40%. It was an angler fish! I lost to oldest trick in the book... a shiny peace of light under the water. I got so scared i even forgot that I have a gun with around 1200 bullets. I just swim to the piece of land that was right infront of me.I waited for that fish to swim away. I didnt want to harm any local fauna. I just wanted to go out of this hellish place. After I just exited the ocean, I was just hour away from the settlement. My inventory was full. And I couldnt waste a single minute, I couldnt find any oxygen. So I just ran and hide and ran and hide from storms. Especially when my last safe was like 1 hour and 30 minutes away. Then I entered the place. where was the settlement, was I finally saved? No... Not really. I traveled for 6 hours and 30 minutes. For nothing. Settlement wasnt here. Place even seems like, the settlers wasnt even here. I'm broken. Even my sodium can hold me alive for another couple of days. I dont think I can make it anywhere. Since most of the "promised" settlements are 8 hours ago. Thank you monsalve4547 for being a beacon of hope. Avera.Novaa out. ________________________________________________________________________________________________________ Planet Rilotte Fauna discovered: L. Toddririmae - Rare / Underwater / Always Active / Found in South W. Musilesarii - Common / Underwater / Always Active N. Corpsaborigima - Common / Underwater / Always Active C. Elderagkisima - Uncommon / Underground / Always Active R. Stonsaiae - Rare / Ground / Always Active T. Ratsweeum - Rare / Flying / Diurnal S. Coloiagia - Uncommon / Flying / Diurnal E. Telenibasium - Rare / Ground / Always Active Z. Ethopiorium - Rare / Ground / Always Active Q. Waterudusium - Rare / Ground / Always Active Flora discovered: O. Honeyyaproe - Oxygen Plant T. Lichxakipum - Underwater O. Beltweareum - Underwater P. Feronplumosa - Hazard E. Dewnaulae - Boost Plant Q. Sawciboe - Underwater W. Yortliretosa - Underwater Z. Frogoskhium - Underwater M. Peasuburium - Underwater Oxygen L. Salutchrae - Underwater V. Frogpeytera - Underground O. Honeyyaproe - Underground Q. Dreaddesencis - Ground Minerals discovered: Dashiite Inebacite Pibachite Ekanoite Loystice Tamunite Matokentine Cakmanite Navinite Redstewiite Evadaite Ukspoite Igmannite Autovite Tamunite Eftetime Oonesite Tirandite https://preview.redd.it/e5t00a4xqk5d1.png?width=1920&format=png&auto=webp&s=e92b2fabc03f0a79e3717c170d2cfc1dbcf9f583 |
2024.06.09 19:16 CovidCareGroup Long COVID and Suicide
 | POST COVID SUICIDAL IDEATION COVID is tricky, and post COVID condition (aka long COVID or neuro COVID) is trickier. submitted by CovidCareGroup to u/CovidCareGroup [link] [comments] Many followers report suicidal ideation even though they have never been depressed. This is related to neural inflammation which disrupts mood regulating (and other) hormone production and absorption. This is also what is causing the commonly reported symptoms of depression, anxiety, paranoia, insomnia and getting us stuck in chronic fight or flight. To add to the issue, our inhibitions come from the frontal lobe of the brain which can also be affected by neural inflammation. There are solutions, so don’t lose hope. I am writing this on the 51st anniversary of my father’s suicide when I was just 9 years old. I can share with you that when there is a suicide, more is list than one life. Families fall apart as they grieve and ask themselves why you didn’t say anything. Children, especially male children, become more vulnerable to suicide risks because their number one role model chose that route, and the other parent and grandparents are lost in their grief unable to support the children in getting through this. First and foremost, a safety plan is essential. If you or someone you know is at risk, talk about it! Don’t dismiss comments about suicide as manipulation or attention seeking. It’s a cry for help. If you are suicidal get to a Hopital or doctor, call 911, or get yourself to a place where there are others around you. But don’t give up! Talk to a doctor about medication. There is evidence that antidepressants that help to rebalance hormones also help reduce neural inflammation. Think of this as a tool that you may need temporarily. A natural option that has been clinically proven to reduce Long COVID symptoms including depression and anxiety isFormula C, available in some ling COVID clinics and select doctors, or to the public through Promedview. Other option include counseling and some herbs like Saint John’s Wort and SAM•E. You are not alone in this! Millions of people are going through similar challenges. Our community is here to help you get through this. I am adding resources that can help you understand what is happening and help you figure out a plan. -Nurse Laney NEED SUPPORT? Promedview coaches and advocates can help you navigate your recovery. Learn more at https://www.promedview.com/ longcovidawareness #suicdeprevention #longcovidsuicide #neuralinflammationhttps://www.covidcaregroup.org/blog/long-covid-syndrome-and-treatment-optionshttps://www.covidcaregroup.org/blog/cranial-nerve-inflammation-and-long-covid https://www.covidcaregroup.org/blog/the-science-behind-formula-c https://www.covidcaregroup.org/blog/long-covid-syndrome-and-treatment-options |
2024.06.09 19:16 Federal_Apricot_8365 In all honesty, is a law career worth it?
Hey, everyone. I just graduated high school and I'm not 100% sure of what career I want to pursue. As of now, law is neaat the top of my list.
I like the idea of law for several reasons. Primarily, because I want a career that helps people/communities in need (helps to promote justice, along those lines)
I like to talk (a lot), communicate, problem-solve, work with others, and I think on my feet. I think those are good qualities for law, correct?
I also like to read and write (sometimes), and I know law involves a lot of reading and writing.
However, I have heard that law is a very time-consuming and stressful career.
I would like to have adequate free time to travel, spend time with family, etc.
I don't want my job to get in the way of my life.
I also know that there are different types of law that I could go into. Here are some of my interests:
I plan to major in business general studies as undergrad. maybe do a pre-law track (speaking of which, is pre-law a good track?) no degree is required for law school, but i think business is a good foundation, and i've always wanted to study it.
How similadifferent is the Netflix show "Suits" to law in the real world?
Thank you for reading this! I know that these are a lot of questions. Even if you don't respond to all of them, I greatly appreciate your time!
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I like the idea of law for several reasons. Primarily, because I want a career that helps people/communities in need (helps to promote justice, along those lines)
I like to talk (a lot), communicate, problem-solve, work with others, and I think on my feet. I think those are good qualities for law, correct?
I also like to read and write (sometimes), and I know law involves a lot of reading and writing.
However, I have heard that law is a very time-consuming and stressful career.
I would like to have adequate free time to travel, spend time with family, etc.
I don't want my job to get in the way of my life.
I also know that there are different types of law that I could go into. Here are some of my interests:
- sports (specifically soccer. being a lawyer for top soccer teams sounds very cool)
- nature/the environment
- technology/inventions
- business/finance
- community service/ volunteerism / non-profits
I plan to major in business general studies as undergrad. maybe do a pre-law track (speaking of which, is pre-law a good track?) no degree is required for law school, but i think business is a good foundation, and i've always wanted to study it.
How similadifferent is the Netflix show "Suits" to law in the real world?
Thank you for reading this! I know that these are a lot of questions. Even if you don't respond to all of them, I greatly appreciate your time!
2024.06.09 19:16 Low-Organization1563 I (27M) ,Need Advice and Suggestions regarding my gf breaking up
Hi All, I am M(27), I am currently in Banglore and my girl ( 24 ) is in Allahabad, We were in a long-distance relationship
We had been dating for last 9 months and it was going great as well but in January end my family members started looking for a girl for me in an AM setup and I used to refuse every girl as I wanted to marry her and she was also kinda ready but never told me directly. Initially, my girl only initiated the idea of getting married as my Family members had started looking for someone and they were quite active. She told me she wanted to marry me and asked me to talk to my parents first as my parents are a bit strict about these things .
During Holi time we had a fight and it got sorted as well, After Holi, she went to her Mausi's Home for a couple of weeks with her Mummy, And she shared about me with her mausi in the hope that once the time comes she will help her to convince her family specially her mummy and papa about me as we both are from different castes ( She is OBC & I am ST ) .
I also shared about her with My Family members (Bhaiya, Didi, Jija & Bhabhi ) except Papa & Mummy ( as their thinking is still a bit old about all these especially Papa ), as they will understand and help to convince Papa, Mummy for our weddings.
But Once she came from Mausis Home She started behaving differently and things started turning bad , she starts ignoring me my texts and call I had to convince her then she told me that Mausi is saying your papa won't agree for all these and all , Intially the girl only said to me that caste won't be an issue at her home , everyone one is chill and multiple people have gone through Love Marriage setup and also she said if you are such a good guy earning enough and from a Tier-1 Enginnering college , then it would be easy to convince her family not an issue , After listening to all these , then I only got into a relationship with her then only I became serious as I never wanted anything short term or anything.
But after coming from Mausis home, after every 2 days, she was getting changed her behavior and all and she starts ignoring me and every day saying breakup again and again.
I used to do a lot of things her, I am Literally in love with her, This is the first time I fell for someone before that I was focused on my career and family responsibilities so I always avoided dating anyone. Once our family got stable then only I started dating so basically last year only I started dating and she is my first Love, She had a relationship in past for 3 or 4 years.
She was trying to break up with me again and again and I was convincing her again and again
Last month she broke up with me and cut me off fully, The Last time I cried in front of anyone was when I was in class 3 or 4th after that I never cried in front of anyone, even my grandfather whom I loved so much when he died ( I was in class 10th ), I didn't cry, I stopped my tears coming down, now after all these years I cried for her I cried in front of her on phone multiple times to not leave me alone, I was shattered, I was crying all night alone in my room no one was there to tell me or stop me, I live here in Banglore alone in a flat with my flatmates, I was in my room for 3 days straight, didn't drink water for 2 days and hadn't food for straight 3 days, I was shaking and shivering and I was getting sudden panic attacks and sudden burst of emotions, I never cried this much in my life, I was getting suicidal. after 3 or 4 days I got up and went to her hometown to convince her.
Reaching Allahabad was also painful, I wasn't getting any direct flight to Allahabad so booked for Varanasi flight from there took a bus to Allahabad and stayed there for 2 days to convince her. It was such a harsh weather that I puked multiple times in Allahabad in such a hot and sunny weather, as a person who hadn't had food for 3 or 4 days it was hard for me.
I gave her a handwritten note and a flower bouquet we had dinner and she got convinced as well and that night I accompanied her to home and I was happy, but deep down I was afraid, as again coming to Allahabad when you are not mentally and stable and a bit ill as well and you hadn't had food, sleep and all and coming all alone In hope that I will convince her, I even didn't know how to find her as she had blocked me and whether she will reply me on insta or not ? But I was happy that she was okay after meeting me and she was happy and things will be okay, next day I gave her chocolates that I had bought specially for her during my trip to Bali and we talked and had lunch together and things were fine I had plan to go on Monday but since I was not feeling well so I left on Sunday only and left for my Hometown ( Varanasi ) instead of going to banglore .
But after few days she again started behaving the same and within few days it was again came back to normal and 3 days before I came back to banlgore , she totally ignored me like I never existed at all because of that I lost my senses like I couldn't believe and had an minor accident as well because while riding the bike I was so in grief that I couldnt' control my self on a highway I almost had a near to death experience , nothing happened to me just got a minor injury nothing . I stayed for 10 days at home that time , and in last 3 days she totally cut me off and I was shattered and since I am home I couldn't cry as well 24*7 everyone used to be with me only as I was home after a long time ..
I thought before going to banglore Ill go and meet her once again but I had one important project going on so I had to leave for banglore, I was holding my tears for so long that the day I again came back , the moment I sat in the cab for my flat I started crying in the cab I was crying for straight 1.5 hours while way back to my flat , this is also a kind of first time for me crying in front of a random guy . this time I couldn't control my self I cried like a baby in front the driver , I was trying hard to hold my tears and hiding my face, the cab guy understood and he was also behaving like he is not seeing me. once I reached home I cried and cried whole night , I called here msged her she didn't picked my call didn't reply .
So for 7 days I didn't call or text her I was trying my best to be first a stable person , one day one of my friend , she said , jab itna mehant kiye hi ho to ek bar last time try kar hi lo, So I tried again and called her msgd her and but rat ko bat huyi us din to but she was same like earlier stone cold and , she is saying she lost interest in me , ab wo vibes nahi aati we are different and all , also why should I settle for less If I can get better ( her mausi's world I guess ) , she saying mummy bol rahi this kuch Acche riste hai don't worry and all and blah blah , and she in past while breaking up time also said once I was trying and I thinks its not working anymore .
that day I got devasted more, as earlier I thought because of family pressure and caste issue she is backing but this time I got her different side , I still couldn't believe I thought these are her Mummy or Mausi's word not her because the girl whom I know cannot do all these to me she is open minded and a good person and she was the one who iniated the idea for marriage and opening up to our family.
that time meri didi ka ek bat mujhe yad aaya , Didi ne mujhse bola that, ki tum usse pyar karte ho aur Shaadi karna chahte ho , kya wo bhi tumse pyaar karti hai na ?
that night again I cried and again started getting headache and panic attacks and started shivering and again suicidal thoughts started coming.
Now last week one of my friends she told me about one new caffe in Banglore to try out , so we went and we did shopping together , while coming from there she was forcing me hard to go to her flat and was saying she is alone at her place her flatmate she is not there and she was trying hard to convince me for watching Netflix series together and she was breaking the touch barrier again and again I can sense what she was implying so I kept denying not in mood and all so that I can go to my place.
so I came back to my place, and became emotional and sad as I never ever even thought of touching a girl other than her , Since the day I meet her It became so different for me, I lost interest in every girl except her I stopped talking to all other girls from my circle so that she never feel insecure and also I lost interest as well, She is the only girl whom I can think of spending my life or anything . So next day I again tried to contact her , maine call ya msg nahi kiya hota but I coudln't control this time, I cannot think of another girl anymore except her.
I wanted to talk to her , msged her in morning on Whatsapp did some texting but we couldn't talk on phone as she was busy , then again I tried to call in afternoon but no luck then again in evening and again at night time , this time I also lost my patience and maine bhi bhala bura keh diya aur gusse me as a slang gali nikal gaya ( gali uske liye nahi that wo as a slang hi nikla tha ) within a seconds we cut the call she blocked me again and I texted her use bhala bura bola and all usne bola, aaj tumne gali dekar dikha diya and I am proud of my decision and all I also said you used me to get over your ex. and blah blah some random things like you were depressed I helped you overcome this and I also don't want jo har 2 din me palat jata ho apni bat se.
the line that she said na ki, I am proud of my decision , it hurt me , sari rat yahi line meri dimag me chalta raha, I am a overthinker guy, so ye thoda jyad hi hurt kar gaya. Agle din subah maine use snapchat me msg kiya ki mere sath kuch hua tha I felt bad I thought only you would understand isliye tumko ping kiya tha convince karne nahi aaya tha. and sorry for my kal ke behaviour ke liye. bye take care. its been a week and she hasn't read that msg and and I guess unfriend bhi kar diya hai ( waise snapachat usi ke wajah se hi install kiya tha warna I hate snap )
In Past I used to write shayari and poems for her and used to tel her the lines that I used to write for her. I also used practice her favourite songs and used to sing and record and send her. In past she used to to say to me you are a perfect package, anyone would be lucky to have you , she used to say tum gym bhi jate ho , daru waru, ciggrete wagairah kuch nahi karte ho ghumne phirne ka shauk hai family responsibilities handle karte ha , itna kamane ke bad bhi attitude nahi hai , tumse aadha kamane wale ladke bhi udane lagte hai , tum perfect ho and all she used to be very happy with me , rat bhar bat karna and other plannings and everything , I was happy being single but once she came to my life I became more focussed, I still cannot belive she got changed yahi sab sochta hu to lagta hai ki ek bar phir try karu.. I love her.
Now today while talking to my sister she again asked me about her, I told her ki Didi aisa kuch nahi hai bhool jao , Did bolne lagi ki Papa mummy ko humlog mana lenge bas tum ready ho to bata do. maine saf mana to kar diya
but after that I got emotional, I thought I will write a letter and post it and will try to convince again I wrote a long 5 page letter lying right now on my bed but I don't know what to do. Please help me what should I do ?
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We had been dating for last 9 months and it was going great as well but in January end my family members started looking for a girl for me in an AM setup and I used to refuse every girl as I wanted to marry her and she was also kinda ready but never told me directly. Initially, my girl only initiated the idea of getting married as my Family members had started looking for someone and they were quite active. She told me she wanted to marry me and asked me to talk to my parents first as my parents are a bit strict about these things .
During Holi time we had a fight and it got sorted as well, After Holi, she went to her Mausi's Home for a couple of weeks with her Mummy, And she shared about me with her mausi in the hope that once the time comes she will help her to convince her family specially her mummy and papa about me as we both are from different castes ( She is OBC & I am ST ) .
I also shared about her with My Family members (Bhaiya, Didi, Jija & Bhabhi ) except Papa & Mummy ( as their thinking is still a bit old about all these especially Papa ), as they will understand and help to convince Papa, Mummy for our weddings.
But Once she came from Mausis Home She started behaving differently and things started turning bad , she starts ignoring me my texts and call I had to convince her then she told me that Mausi is saying your papa won't agree for all these and all , Intially the girl only said to me that caste won't be an issue at her home , everyone one is chill and multiple people have gone through Love Marriage setup and also she said if you are such a good guy earning enough and from a Tier-1 Enginnering college , then it would be easy to convince her family not an issue , After listening to all these , then I only got into a relationship with her then only I became serious as I never wanted anything short term or anything.
But after coming from Mausis home, after every 2 days, she was getting changed her behavior and all and she starts ignoring me and every day saying breakup again and again.
I used to do a lot of things her, I am Literally in love with her, This is the first time I fell for someone before that I was focused on my career and family responsibilities so I always avoided dating anyone. Once our family got stable then only I started dating so basically last year only I started dating and she is my first Love, She had a relationship in past for 3 or 4 years.
She was trying to break up with me again and again and I was convincing her again and again
Last month she broke up with me and cut me off fully, The Last time I cried in front of anyone was when I was in class 3 or 4th after that I never cried in front of anyone, even my grandfather whom I loved so much when he died ( I was in class 10th ), I didn't cry, I stopped my tears coming down, now after all these years I cried for her I cried in front of her on phone multiple times to not leave me alone, I was shattered, I was crying all night alone in my room no one was there to tell me or stop me, I live here in Banglore alone in a flat with my flatmates, I was in my room for 3 days straight, didn't drink water for 2 days and hadn't food for straight 3 days, I was shaking and shivering and I was getting sudden panic attacks and sudden burst of emotions, I never cried this much in my life, I was getting suicidal. after 3 or 4 days I got up and went to her hometown to convince her.
Reaching Allahabad was also painful, I wasn't getting any direct flight to Allahabad so booked for Varanasi flight from there took a bus to Allahabad and stayed there for 2 days to convince her. It was such a harsh weather that I puked multiple times in Allahabad in such a hot and sunny weather, as a person who hadn't had food for 3 or 4 days it was hard for me.
I gave her a handwritten note and a flower bouquet we had dinner and she got convinced as well and that night I accompanied her to home and I was happy, but deep down I was afraid, as again coming to Allahabad when you are not mentally and stable and a bit ill as well and you hadn't had food, sleep and all and coming all alone In hope that I will convince her, I even didn't know how to find her as she had blocked me and whether she will reply me on insta or not ? But I was happy that she was okay after meeting me and she was happy and things will be okay, next day I gave her chocolates that I had bought specially for her during my trip to Bali and we talked and had lunch together and things were fine I had plan to go on Monday but since I was not feeling well so I left on Sunday only and left for my Hometown ( Varanasi ) instead of going to banglore .
But after few days she again started behaving the same and within few days it was again came back to normal and 3 days before I came back to banlgore , she totally ignored me like I never existed at all because of that I lost my senses like I couldn't believe and had an minor accident as well because while riding the bike I was so in grief that I couldnt' control my self on a highway I almost had a near to death experience , nothing happened to me just got a minor injury nothing . I stayed for 10 days at home that time , and in last 3 days she totally cut me off and I was shattered and since I am home I couldn't cry as well 24*7 everyone used to be with me only as I was home after a long time ..
I thought before going to banglore Ill go and meet her once again but I had one important project going on so I had to leave for banglore, I was holding my tears for so long that the day I again came back , the moment I sat in the cab for my flat I started crying in the cab I was crying for straight 1.5 hours while way back to my flat , this is also a kind of first time for me crying in front of a random guy . this time I couldn't control my self I cried like a baby in front the driver , I was trying hard to hold my tears and hiding my face, the cab guy understood and he was also behaving like he is not seeing me. once I reached home I cried and cried whole night , I called here msged her she didn't picked my call didn't reply .
So for 7 days I didn't call or text her I was trying my best to be first a stable person , one day one of my friend , she said , jab itna mehant kiye hi ho to ek bar last time try kar hi lo, So I tried again and called her msgd her and but rat ko bat huyi us din to but she was same like earlier stone cold and , she is saying she lost interest in me , ab wo vibes nahi aati we are different and all , also why should I settle for less If I can get better ( her mausi's world I guess ) , she saying mummy bol rahi this kuch Acche riste hai don't worry and all and blah blah , and she in past while breaking up time also said once I was trying and I thinks its not working anymore .
that day I got devasted more, as earlier I thought because of family pressure and caste issue she is backing but this time I got her different side , I still couldn't believe I thought these are her Mummy or Mausi's word not her because the girl whom I know cannot do all these to me she is open minded and a good person and she was the one who iniated the idea for marriage and opening up to our family.
that time meri didi ka ek bat mujhe yad aaya , Didi ne mujhse bola that, ki tum usse pyar karte ho aur Shaadi karna chahte ho , kya wo bhi tumse pyaar karti hai na ?
that night again I cried and again started getting headache and panic attacks and started shivering and again suicidal thoughts started coming.
Now last week one of my friends she told me about one new caffe in Banglore to try out , so we went and we did shopping together , while coming from there she was forcing me hard to go to her flat and was saying she is alone at her place her flatmate she is not there and she was trying hard to convince me for watching Netflix series together and she was breaking the touch barrier again and again I can sense what she was implying so I kept denying not in mood and all so that I can go to my place.
so I came back to my place, and became emotional and sad as I never ever even thought of touching a girl other than her , Since the day I meet her It became so different for me, I lost interest in every girl except her I stopped talking to all other girls from my circle so that she never feel insecure and also I lost interest as well, She is the only girl whom I can think of spending my life or anything . So next day I again tried to contact her , maine call ya msg nahi kiya hota but I coudln't control this time, I cannot think of another girl anymore except her.
I wanted to talk to her , msged her in morning on Whatsapp did some texting but we couldn't talk on phone as she was busy , then again I tried to call in afternoon but no luck then again in evening and again at night time , this time I also lost my patience and maine bhi bhala bura keh diya aur gusse me as a slang gali nikal gaya ( gali uske liye nahi that wo as a slang hi nikla tha ) within a seconds we cut the call she blocked me again and I texted her use bhala bura bola and all usne bola, aaj tumne gali dekar dikha diya and I am proud of my decision and all I also said you used me to get over your ex. and blah blah some random things like you were depressed I helped you overcome this and I also don't want jo har 2 din me palat jata ho apni bat se.
the line that she said na ki, I am proud of my decision , it hurt me , sari rat yahi line meri dimag me chalta raha, I am a overthinker guy, so ye thoda jyad hi hurt kar gaya. Agle din subah maine use snapchat me msg kiya ki mere sath kuch hua tha I felt bad I thought only you would understand isliye tumko ping kiya tha convince karne nahi aaya tha. and sorry for my kal ke behaviour ke liye. bye take care. its been a week and she hasn't read that msg and and I guess unfriend bhi kar diya hai ( waise snapachat usi ke wajah se hi install kiya tha warna I hate snap )
In Past I used to write shayari and poems for her and used to tel her the lines that I used to write for her. I also used practice her favourite songs and used to sing and record and send her. In past she used to to say to me you are a perfect package, anyone would be lucky to have you , she used to say tum gym bhi jate ho , daru waru, ciggrete wagairah kuch nahi karte ho ghumne phirne ka shauk hai family responsibilities handle karte ha , itna kamane ke bad bhi attitude nahi hai , tumse aadha kamane wale ladke bhi udane lagte hai , tum perfect ho and all she used to be very happy with me , rat bhar bat karna and other plannings and everything , I was happy being single but once she came to my life I became more focussed, I still cannot belive she got changed yahi sab sochta hu to lagta hai ki ek bar phir try karu.. I love her.
Now today while talking to my sister she again asked me about her, I told her ki Didi aisa kuch nahi hai bhool jao , Did bolne lagi ki Papa mummy ko humlog mana lenge bas tum ready ho to bata do. maine saf mana to kar diya
but after that I got emotional, I thought I will write a letter and post it and will try to convince again I wrote a long 5 page letter lying right now on my bed but I don't know what to do. Please help me what should I do ?
2024.06.09 19:14 turtle_el Thanks to this sub for making me realize hoarding boxes is cringe
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2024.06.09 19:14 No-Preparation1021 Baby was up on his stomach to sleep
Some context, wife’s mom is a retired nurse, yesterday she wanted to help take care of our NB because we had some things to take care of, we were gone for a couple of hours and when we came back she said “he sleeps better on his stomach” and I immediately flipped him over because I read that babies have a higher chance of SIDS when sleeping on their stomach, fast forward to today they come over again and I go and check on him and he’s once again laying in his stomach and I told her please don’t lay him in his stomach he has a high chance of SIDS if he’s sleeping on his stomach shes very old school she retired LOOOONG ago so practices have definitely changed, so my question is how long or how often does being laid down on his stomach start becoming a problem?
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2024.06.09 19:14 ProbablyNotAThing How to Integrated Tumble Dryer in Uk?
Integrating a tumble dryer in your UK kitchen can create a sleek and organized look. However, the installation process can be a bit more complex than a freestanding model. Here's a guide to help you navigate integrating a tumble dryer in the UK:
Before You Begin:
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Before You Begin:
- Measure Up: Ensure you have the proper space for an integrated tumble dryer. Standard integrated models in the UK typically have a width of 60cm. Measure the designated under-counter space in your kitchen cabinetry to ensure a perfect fit.
- Ventilation: integrated tumble dryer require proper ventilation to expel hot, moist air. Check if your chosen location has an existing ventilation hole or plan to create one near an external wall (consult a professional if needed). Some dryers might have a recirculation function, eliminating the need for external venting, but check their efficiency ratings.
- DIY Installation (For Experienced DIYers):
- Gather the Tools: You'll need screwdrivers, a spirit level, possibly a drill depending on ventilation needs, and tools specific to your chosen model (check the manual).
- Follow the Manual: The integrated dryer should come with detailed instructions for installation. Carefully follow each step, ensuring proper electrical connection, ventilation setup (if needed), and secure fixing within the cabinetry.
- Safety First: If you're unsure about any aspect of the installation, especially electrical connections or ventilation, prioritize safety and seek professional help.
- Professional Installation:
- Currys and some appliance retailers might offer installation services for integrated appliances, including tumble dryers. This ensures a safe and proper installation according to manufacturer's guidelines.
- Independent appliance installation services are also readily available in the UK. Research reputable companies in your area for quotes and scheduling.
- Plan the Placement: Consider ease of access and ergonomic use when positioning the dryer within your cabinetry.
- Power Supply: Ensure a dedicated electrical outlet with the appropriate voltage (typically 230V in the UK) is readily available near the installation location.
- Building Regulations: Consult a qualified professional if your installation involves structural changes or requires modifications to external walls for ventilation.
- Electrical Safety: Double-check all electrical connections for tightness and proper grounding to avoid potential hazards.
- Ventilation Safety: Ensure proper ventilation to prevent moisture buildup and potential mold growth within your cabinetry.
2024.06.09 19:13 InevitableWash8509 i dont know what to do about my breakup (please help)
sorry if this is disorganised. i would just like some advice. throwaway.
me (18f) and my bf (18m) have been dating for just under a year and a half. we have ‘broken up’ before (twice), but it never lasted more than 48 hours. this is both of our first proper relationship, so at first the communication was severely lacking (once i broke up with him, the other him with me). I’ve said both times that it could have been solved with a conversation rather than an entire breakup. he had been more distant lately, and i was getting worried. id told him in the past that if he ever wanted to talk he HAD to do it in person. he asked if we could go for a walk and i agreed. i asked if he wanted to break up, he told me he didn’t plan on it but he did want to talk. when we met we were like normal, laughing and joking. i mentioned towards the end of the walk (he was supposed to stay at mine later) that him mentioning breaking up a lot made me insecure, he responded with “is it not better for you to be prepared, what if one day either of us wake up and decide we don’t want to be in a relationship anymore?”i asked him if he wanted to go home rather than stay at hime, he said he wanted to talk.
we went to a place where he have had similar conversations that ended positively. i laid my head in his lap and we evaluated everything that had gone on recently (him and his best friend fell out) so i asked if that was maybe a cause. he said he loved me and wants to be with me but at the moment he dosen’t want to care about anything, and said it was right person, wrong time, and that he wanted to break up and still be friends in hopes we could reconnect in future. in short, we broke up. i think (and from what he’s said) that this isn’t the end of everything, more of a break.
i think he is struggling with mental health to be honest, he dosen’t have many friends that he hangs out with, and his family has been a bit messy over the years, he’s moved around a bit.
i really love him with my whole heart. its been a day and a half since the conversation and i really just want to talk to him, he’s very in on the toxic masculinity though so i think he is trying to push everything down. we cried together a lot and he was still very caring to me, i don’t know how to help him.
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me (18f) and my bf (18m) have been dating for just under a year and a half. we have ‘broken up’ before (twice), but it never lasted more than 48 hours. this is both of our first proper relationship, so at first the communication was severely lacking (once i broke up with him, the other him with me). I’ve said both times that it could have been solved with a conversation rather than an entire breakup. he had been more distant lately, and i was getting worried. id told him in the past that if he ever wanted to talk he HAD to do it in person. he asked if we could go for a walk and i agreed. i asked if he wanted to break up, he told me he didn’t plan on it but he did want to talk. when we met we were like normal, laughing and joking. i mentioned towards the end of the walk (he was supposed to stay at mine later) that him mentioning breaking up a lot made me insecure, he responded with “is it not better for you to be prepared, what if one day either of us wake up and decide we don’t want to be in a relationship anymore?”i asked him if he wanted to go home rather than stay at hime, he said he wanted to talk.
we went to a place where he have had similar conversations that ended positively. i laid my head in his lap and we evaluated everything that had gone on recently (him and his best friend fell out) so i asked if that was maybe a cause. he said he loved me and wants to be with me but at the moment he dosen’t want to care about anything, and said it was right person, wrong time, and that he wanted to break up and still be friends in hopes we could reconnect in future. in short, we broke up. i think (and from what he’s said) that this isn’t the end of everything, more of a break.
i think he is struggling with mental health to be honest, he dosen’t have many friends that he hangs out with, and his family has been a bit messy over the years, he’s moved around a bit.
i really love him with my whole heart. its been a day and a half since the conversation and i really just want to talk to him, he’s very in on the toxic masculinity though so i think he is trying to push everything down. we cried together a lot and he was still very caring to me, i don’t know how to help him.
2024.06.09 19:12 Automatic-Match-6895 My talking stage ditched on me when I got ready for him, cancelled all my plans for him and waited for him for 5 HOURS!
I have been talking to this guy for almost a month now we met up two times so far and he lives one hour away from me in another city so that’s why we don’t see each other on a daily but he came to my city two times just to see me and we had a good time every time we saw each other but before yesterday we were supposed to see each other. He was already drinking before I was going to go to him so he apparently kept sleeping and I was waiting for him until the time we were going to see each other so I got ready for him because I was confident about seeing him since every time he says we’re gonna see each other it happens so I got ready for him. I canceled all my plans for him because I don’t usually get to see him on a daily. I was video calling my friends to waste some time waiting for him, so I was waiting waiting waiting for four hours. I was still on a video call with my friends and I was like where the f is this guy and then two more hours I’m like you know what I’m gonna sleep so the next day he’s like oh I was asleep but he’s been saying that three times and the first time I was waiting for him answer he apparently fell asleep and then as soon as he texted me, I straight away answered, and then he ignored me for another four hours and then he’s like sorry babe I slept again and I was a bit suspicious but the next day I decided to forgive him because I give people two chances, So the next day he said “I’m probably gonna stay in your city for another night, can you please see me” and I was like if you’re not gonna do the same thing again then I will and then he called me so many times that day and then he kept saying I promised you 1000% I’m gonna see you blah blah blah and then I believed that I was like OK whatever I didn’t believe it but I did believe it I don’t really trust people, but I was like OK maybe this time and I can’t be assuming because I don’t like assuming so I got ready and before I got ready. I was like OK so we’re hundred percent seeing each other and then he was like yeah and then I asked him should I get ready then he said yeah get ready for now then when i was getting ready and all I went on another video call with my friends to waste time and then two hours went by I was like I hope this guy is not doing this thing again so I was like let me just give it an hour and an hour passes by nothing so I decided to call him and he didn’t answer me. he just texted me. He was like listen, I’m going to sort out some things and go to this place before I see you. and then I said OK I’m waiting then another hour passes, NO CONTACT AT ALL and then I told him listen. I’m calling you again because I’m about to fall asleep. It is getting so late and it was 4 AM like can you imagine that? he was like yeah it’s because I’m in another city that’s why the I was like what why didn’t you tell me then he said because I couldn’t stay on the call with you for longer I’ll tell you what I was doing later and I just like said all right whatever I don’t care I actually don’t give a fuck, like this shit didn’t rlly hurt me but at the same time I feel disrespected because I love myself, I cannot let anyone disrespect me like this so of course I am going to get mad a little bit but at the same time it’s his loss. I’m gonna move on. I blocked him, but I just wanted to rant about this disgusting behavior and the final thing that happened was that he ended up ghosting me until now he didn’t text me not a single text so I blocked him but I saw him online on another app like eight hours ago while I was waiting for him to text me. but yeah, anyways I don’t think anyone is stupid enough to believe that someone would be sleeping three times in a span of 12 hours in their vacation. but I just decided to give him another chance to see what’s gonna happen and he ended up doing worse.
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2024.06.09 19:11 shanis26 My husb is currently on his way to the second set of church.
This post is mainly to vent. I don’t have anyone I can vent to about my church grievances. So first, a back story. When my husband and I first got married, we decided that if any of our children have any activities/birthday parties/sports, that fall on a Sunday, they’ll be able to go as long as it’s not during church times. So for example, if church is from 11-1 but party starts at 1130, they’ll show up late or not go.
It’s been working out fine. But as they have gotten older and social life outside of the church is everything to them, the rule has changed; go to another ward and participate there. (This is what actually broke my shelf.) If my husband feels so guilty, bad or whatever it is that he can’t miss church here and there, what is that saying about the church?
About a year ago, my youngest tried out and made the traveling bball time in our city. Some games were during our church. At this point, I was PIMO. So any opportunity to miss out on church, I was ECSTATIC. However, my husband had other plans; go to the BG2 ward. And then go straight from church to the game. Both of my daughters HATED this idea. I was trying to support my husband and still cling to this idea of going to church as a family when I decided nope. It’s not worth it. My daughters are pissed. My husband is angry that they’re pissed and I’m stuck in the middle. So I told him, “the next game that falls on a Sunday during church, the girls and I will just meet home at the game .” This ruffled him a little bit but I didn’t care and of course this lead me to stop going completely.
Fast forward to today. My youngest has a birthday party at 1130-2. Our church time is 12-2. She, of course, decided to go the 9am ward. So my hubs took the youngest at 9. My oldest daughter didn’t want to go at that time. So now my husband is taking her to our actual ward.
I’m very frustrated because I KNOW he doesn’t want to do this. When I confirmed with him that he’ll be doing two sets of church, his response was, “well, it’s what Sundays are for.”
I can see it I his body language that he’d rather stay home and rest and relax. But I feel like he is just do all of this extra work to prove to me how important it is to him. I wish I could find the one thing that’ll help him get to where I am. I actually found myself saying a prayer that he’d sleep in a little longer and miss the 9 am church 😜
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It’s been working out fine. But as they have gotten older and social life outside of the church is everything to them, the rule has changed; go to another ward and participate there. (This is what actually broke my shelf.) If my husband feels so guilty, bad or whatever it is that he can’t miss church here and there, what is that saying about the church?
About a year ago, my youngest tried out and made the traveling bball time in our city. Some games were during our church. At this point, I was PIMO. So any opportunity to miss out on church, I was ECSTATIC. However, my husband had other plans; go to the BG2 ward. And then go straight from church to the game. Both of my daughters HATED this idea. I was trying to support my husband and still cling to this idea of going to church as a family when I decided nope. It’s not worth it. My daughters are pissed. My husband is angry that they’re pissed and I’m stuck in the middle. So I told him, “the next game that falls on a Sunday during church, the girls and I will just meet home at the game .” This ruffled him a little bit but I didn’t care and of course this lead me to stop going completely.
Fast forward to today. My youngest has a birthday party at 1130-2. Our church time is 12-2. She, of course, decided to go the 9am ward. So my hubs took the youngest at 9. My oldest daughter didn’t want to go at that time. So now my husband is taking her to our actual ward.
I’m very frustrated because I KNOW he doesn’t want to do this. When I confirmed with him that he’ll be doing two sets of church, his response was, “well, it’s what Sundays are for.”
I can see it I his body language that he’d rather stay home and rest and relax. But I feel like he is just do all of this extra work to prove to me how important it is to him. I wish I could find the one thing that’ll help him get to where I am. I actually found myself saying a prayer that he’d sleep in a little longer and miss the 9 am church 😜