Graduation thank you letter for the parents

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2011.03.30 16:39 HotDinnerBatman Unsent Letters

A place for the letter you never sent.
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2010.09.04 04:29 flailcookie Mommit - Come for the support, stay for the details.

We are moms mucking through the ickier parts of child raising. It may not always be pretty, fun and awesome, but we do it. We want to be here for other moms who are going through the same experiences and offer a helping hand.
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2014.05.22 01:49 crankasaurus-rex Wax Sealers Anonymous

If you haven't lost the love for letter writing and LOVE to seal them with a wax seal, this is the place for you!
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2024.05.16 10:34 Throwaway-12280 Just a lifetime of depression, but things will work out.

Just want to point out the flairs for this also include violence and sexual assault, but couldn't figure out how to have more than the one Content Warning flair.
I'm a late-ish millennial, and I knew from about the age of 4 that something was off about me. I just didn't seem to define myself the same as other boys, or didn't like how other people defined me. It wasn't until I was about 8 or 9 that I nailed down what it was: something I learned in a Jerry Springer episode of all things - I was transgender. Technically transexual; transgender wasn't a common term back in the mid-90's. And it wasn't until I was 12 years old that I became brave enough to come out to my mother - with whom I had a much better relationship compared to my dad.
But allow me to back up and say that, without getting into too much detail, that I had a really rough childhood. When I was 6½, an older teenager boy that lived down the street from me fixated and basically molested me for about a year and a half. Any kink he wanted to try, and the list was extensive, he tried on me. I didn't tell anyone until I was about 24, but not because he threatened me or anything.. he just made me promise not to and for some stupid reason I didn't. I'll always wonder if I became transgender through this traumatic experience and I just created memories of times before that happened thinking I felt wrong in my body, or if those memories were authentic.
In any case, my plan to come out to my mom: we were the type of family to go camping a couple of times a year, and whenever we did my parents would get absolutely shitfaced, trashed, blackout drunk. My plan was to wait for my parents to get wasted, pull my mom aside, and come out to her so that I could gauge what her reaction would be sans filter, and then hope she didn't remember anything the next morning so that I could do so while she and my dad were sober.. and hopefully at least she would be on my side about it.
The plan worked perfectly - in a way. Her reaction was belligerent and violent. I told her "I don't feel like I should have been a boy. I'm a girl." and she at first dismissed it. When I pressed the issue, she smacked me rather hard and before I could get away she punched me in the chest which knocked us both over. That memory, at least, will forever be crystal clear to me; and by "the plan worked perfectly", she didn't remember anything about it the next morning, and I knew enough to not bring it up.
I feel like that's really when the gender dysphoria really spiraled my depression and anxiety out of control. I attempted suicide twice that year. I learned it's difficult to OD on ibuprofen, and when that didn't work I tried Advil, but my body rejected it and I puked it all up into a toilet. I'm pretty sure I fucked up my liver enough though because I can't drink alcohol.
After that I guess I just buried everything as deep inside of me as I could and just.. forgot about it. I grew up as just a normal boy, albeit depressed behind a facade of suave confidence. I was my high school's mascot until I graduated, joined the military, got out of the military, got engaged to a wonderful woman with the full intentions of starting a family. All of this is apparently very common for transwomen before their eggs crack - like we're so deep in denial that we do the things that society would expect us to do as men to continue the facade.
I attempted suicide again at 17: I tried cutting my wrists, but I'm a pansy when it comes to pain and didn't cut deep enough.. I took to wearing wristbands to cover the scar. And again when I was 22: I tried hanging myself in my closet and broken my clothes rack. Let me just say.. having a low enough self-esteem to completely override one's most basic instinct of self-preservation, and then FAIL at that as well, is the lowest.. like you hit rock bottom and still manage to dig deeper. And I was in denial during this time so I didn't know why I was depressed, but really, does anybody when they are? It's just a dark empty pit of apathy.
When I hit 23 years old, I met the woman that would become my wife. Things were going pretty good for a couple years - we had a healthy sex life, we genuinely enjoyed each other's company, we rarely if ever fought, and when we did we knew that communication was the key. We were swingers and enjoyed being young adults. Then sometime when I was 25.. everything started unburying itself. For such a stupid event, too. We had neglected laundry at some point and I didn't have any clean underwear, so as a joke she said to just wear some of hers.. so I did.
Something about putting on a pair of panties just.. felt right. Something so mundane, so seemingly meaningless to everyday life, struck me like a bolt of lightning and the trauma that was my childhood started coming back to the surface. I came out to my wife and.. well she wasn't thrilled. It almost ended the relationship, but honestly I was just excited she didn't automatically leave me that I was full steam ahead on researching all I could about transitioning. I was apparently going too fast for her, because she came up with a plan.. to offer me as much sex as she could to try and remind me just how awesome being a guy was. Turns out.. when you have a lot of sex without birth control.. you end up getting pregnant! Who'd have thought?! Well, she freaked out, but I sort of settled down with the transitioning thing and we communicated.
While she was pregnant with our first child, before she started showing, we got married. She was an only child, which she hated, and I have an older sibling, which sort of turned out okay, so after about a year or so we tried for a second child and it stuck. I didn't want to start HRT and my transition while she was pregnant with our second - the additional stress aside, but what if something also happened to the pregnancy? So I waited until our second child was born.
It didn't seem enough that I now knew why I was depressed, because regardless of that knowledge, I was still depressed. I tried another attempt when I was 27: I didn't want to fail again, and shooting yourself in the head seemed pretty final and fast, but my wife came in before I could go through with it, and she made an appointment with a psychologist that day.
My psychologist was a pretty cool person. I had heard horror stories of being made to wait like 6 months up to a year or more before being given a referral to an endocrinologist to start HRT, but after relating pretty much this whole story to her, she seemed pretty convinced that the sooner the better. I mean I was in my late 20's, and she could tell I wasn't talking to her just on a whim.
I started hormones early 2017 and have been on them ever since. My wife and I are doing well. Despite being on testosterone blockers murdering my sex drive at first, it's come back by now and we're doing kind of spectacular. My eldest child is almost a preteen and .. things are actually going really really good in my life. My parents and sibling are kinda weirded out about it, but I beat my sibling in giving them grandkids, so as messed up as that seems I think that's why they really tolerate(more than accept) me in their lives. And as far as I know, they're not aware of any of the suicide attempts.
Anyway.. figured I'd get that off my chest.
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2024.05.16 10:32 anaphylaxsis BWT, what are some good ideas to do for a birthday instead of just dinner?

Hey all my NYC BWT!!!, my birthday is coming up right around the corner (less than a week), and i would love to know all of your favorite recommendations that are truly out of the norm and typical cut and dry restaurant and go home type of night. For context, i’m turning 26 and from wednesday to friday i’ll be having back to back dinners with my parents, boyfriend, and boyfriend and best friends! So, a lot of food to be consumed lol. What are different things you all did for your birthday, or some different restaurants with great ambiance? I’m open to a lot of suggestions!
I’m not too into ba lounge scenes, and don’t mind a good view of the city which i’m a ham for. Manhattan/ brooklyn are good for me! It doesn’t have to be too upscale but a few restaurants i’ve been to have included The Robert and Cathedrale in the city. I was looking at Hunt and Fish Club if any BWT have been there; the ambiance is exactly what i want to go for but i’m put off because of the dress code. Thanks so much!!! 🩷
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2024.05.16 10:31 omegaMKXIII 31 [M4F] Austria/Europe - Looking for my forever lady

I am looking for a lady between 25 and 35 years old, for a committed monogamous childfree relationship. My goal is to become a true team, supporting each other, caring for each other, nurturing each other and helping each other grow and realise our goals and dreams as much as possible. I'm hoping to find someone that values a relationship as much as I do and takes it seriously. It's not the only thing my life revolves around, but it's also not just something 'nice to have' for me.
I am 186cm tall, slim/fit built, dark brown hair, brown eyes. Both my arms are tattooed (full sleeve), as are my calves and the areas above my ankles. Regarding pictures see below. I am a runner, training multiple times a week. I'm also vegan. My love languages are physical touch and words of affirmation. While I am mostly securely attached, withdrawing from me triggers anxiety and I have made a horrible experience with an avoidant partner in the past, so that is something I fear I cannot deal with again.
I am also an atheist.
I am a very warm, soft and sensitive person, I think I am humorous, I am self reflecting a lot and I can also be really passionate and romantic. Those are traits that also are really important to me in a woman.
I can be quite social, I am a good talker, but also love to listen to really get to know someone on a deeper level. I can enjoy an evening out with friends just as much as the silence of sitting at the shores of the river and watching the sunset in solitude (although I've been craving to watch it together with a partner for a really long time now). I can be out in a pub, at a rave, a metal show or at a football game and have the time of my life, but I cannot do these things every day; I need recharge time (on the sofa, in the woods for a run, a lazy Sunday staying in bed etc.). This should give you an idea; basically, I am a homebody that thoroughly enjoys going out in moderation.
I won't say too much about hobbies; suffice it to say I am into the dark, the obscure, the macabre, the occult, the mysterious, the erotic. It won't surprise you that I had a gothic phase in my youth, bonus points if you did too!
What I'm looking for
Although similar hobbies and interests are a plus, emotional and intimate compatibility are more important to me. I am a very sensitive and emotional person (I do cry easily and by this point I don't think I'll ever be able to change that, sorry), so if you're too, we will definitely understand each other. I need someone who I can open up to (which I do rather quickly, anyway), be myself, bare my soul to and I need these things from you, too. I've had my share of emotionally unavailable women who were afraid of intimacy so I know I can't deal with that again because of the way how those things affect me. I am always emotionally invested with the woman I pursue and in those cases that was to my detriment. But my ability to feel so deep is also something I wouldn't want to change because as of yet, although it's getting harder, I haven't given up on finding someone.
With those emotional needs come two requirements that I found to be vital over the years: First, being able to be silly and cutesy together and to accept each other's inner child and care for it. I am not talking about having to deal with another person's immaturity or inability to perform basic adult skills, rather with the way sadness, hurt, anxiety and being overwhelmed manifests for me (and maybe for you, too?). I need someone who is able to comfort me, to hold me, to allow me to be weak and needy for a while until I've calmed down, and I'm more than ready to offer the same. Your inner child can come out for a while, no problem (: Also in a positive way: Thankfully, today everyone seems to be understanding of the cuteness overload cats (or any animal baby, really) can cause; I need that with a partner. I also still have plushies as comfort animals and ideally, you do too.
Apparently in every relationship, one person is the stronger one. In the past, I have been with women who obviously were stronger than me, but that doesn't mean they always had to be strong, far from it. I certainly need to be able to feel protected, but it's not like I'm a particularly needy partner, like everyone, I have my ups and downs, but I can pull my weight and have been told by past partners that I am very caring and that they felt safe and understood with me, and providing that for my partner is really important for me as well.
Second, intimate compatibility. I am rather insatiable and love to experiment when it comes to the bedroom, so you should, too, in order that we can explore and enjoy together. I found out how fulfilling living out those fantasies can be after years of never being able to try and in a relationship, this kind of fulfillment for both partners is a must for me. I found the term 'filthy best friends and partners' to be a perfect description.
I'm looking for a balance between healthy independence and being emotionally present. A relationship where we 'get' each other; we're both each other's number one and treat each other like royalty. Where a disagreement leads to more intimacy between us as we understand better, not to resentment. Where we're comfortable baring our souls to each other, becoming a safe haven and secure base for each other. I don't like the modern notion that you 'should never feel too safe in a relationship' because that sounds like running from the mafia (and believe me, I love mafia movies); you should always put in effort, yes, but safety is one of the things I always want to experience and provide in a relationship. We shouldn't fear that a disagreement leads straight to breakup. I know ‘self-sufficiency’ is trending right now, but I feel like as partners, we’re partly responsible for each other and not our own but also each other’s happiness. Being dependant and dependable at the same time is important; making each other’s wellbeing a priority. If you’re not able to healthily depend on someone and their support while you’re having a hard time, look elsewhere. If I have to be afraid you’ll run at the first major problem that surfaces, even if it’s a ‘you’-problem, it’s not going to work. I think that all things can and need to be talked about. If you think ignoring someone for days is a form of communication, please look elsewhere.
I am looking for someone real. We all have our problems, I don't want or need a 'perfect' person. You don't have everything figured out or 'all your shit' together. Be imperfect. Admit when you feel sad and angry, lonely, hopeless or even helpless – it's all relatable. Don't hide it. Be quirky, be dorky, be witchy, opinionated, be yourself. Don't pretend.
I'm looking for someone to share romance with. Not great gestures, but small, meaningful ones. Poems for each other, expressing our feelings; cards with heartfelt messages that we put our perfume/cologne on, and a symbol that means something to us only, the print of your lips with lipstick, the way I sign and seal my letters for you.
Just as important to me is agreeing on living a healthy life, staying in shape both for ourselves and for each other, regularly working out and eating healthy. I am drug and disease-free and expect the same of you. I do drink as I love a good beer or glass of wine, rum or whiskey, but I've never really been drinking much and especially during the past year have further reduced it. One vice I have is that I enjoy a couple of cigars a year, but I can definitely accommodate you in this regard.
Another important point is aligned life goals: I value safety more than adventure. I want to build a home together with my partner, a safespace for the both of us, where we always feel loved and protected, a place that we create together, make it cozy together so we just love to get back home there wherever we might have been, a home we decorate together for Halloween (my favourite holiday) or Christmas or Springtime, as we live in tune with the seasons, enjoying nature on a walk or the rain outside, reading in our cozy home. I value stability and harmony.
Appearance-wise, I am into ladies on the smaller side), so I'm looking for someone petite/slim/skinny/healthy-fit. Likewise, I am not really muscular and don't have visible abs; like I said, I'm a runner, so if you're more into the gym-type, I'm not a good fit.
I’d prefer to move from text to voice calls, videochat and then meeting up, all of that rather sooner than later. Not that there’s a need to rush anything, but I’d rather see earlier if we’re compatible or not; as someone who catches feelings fast I need to protect myself.
Caveats
If you're interested, feel free to message me and include some pictures of yourself and I will reply with my own. Have a nice day (:
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2024.05.16 10:31 iosonohala Gofundme help me finish my bachelors

https://www.gofundme.com/f/help-me-pay-tuition-and-graduate
Hello, I am a 23 year old senior at the University of Houston who needs your help to finish my bachelor's degree. I have one semester left however, the tuition i owe from my previous semester is preventing me for registering and finishing it. I have tried my best to work hard to earn it: taking dual credit and AP classes and when in college, taking as many hours as I could. However, during and after covid left me burnt out one reason being family which you can read more about here, https://www.reddit.com/QAnonCasualties/comments/rte190/how_do_you_guys_cope_living_with_antivaxxe. To make a long story short my GPA started to slip and I lost the scholarship I was depending on. Also, since I have taken so many classes with all the credit I had earned before classes and all the hours I took fulltime, usually around 18 credit hours, I received a message from financial aid that I exceeded credit hours and I wouldn't be able to get the grant anymore. I am currently taking a break from school and have been working a full-time job as a teaching assistant but it's not enough to pay what I owe. I really want to finish because its something I always wanted. Please, I need your help, I'll post updates here on to let you know how it's going. Please, getting this degree would help me so much in life and to take the next steps in life. Thank you for reading this and I hope you have a lovely day. <3
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2024.05.16 10:30 Academic-Feature7235 Is my relationship dead?

Hi, This is my first time write in, a throw away account and english is not my first language.
I‘ve never done this before, but I really need advice on a current issue in my life.
I‘ve been in a relationship with my boyfriend for almost 8 years, we became a couple, when we where 16 - living together for almost 4 years.
The main issue for me is, that we barely talk anymore… I‘ve tried to talk with my boyfriend over this topic, but he says to me, that this is normal, because we have been together for this long. Don‘t get me wrong, we talk every now and then, we laugh and have fun, but I‘m getting the impression, that he likes it more to be on the phone or playing video games, with his friends, than spending time with me. I try to talk to him after work, but he answers in monosyllables and sometimes he says, that he doesn‘t wanna talk after a long day of work, because he talked all day long. Date nights are happening now and then, but not very often and when we go out, we don‘t really have anything to talk about. We do things with friends, which is nice, but afterwards, it‘s silence.. I can always talk to him, when I‘m having issues and he‘s always there for me, but in the mean time, I‘m really unsure, what this is all about. I have the feeling, that I‘m giving more, than I‘m receiving and I really don‘t want to be one of those couples, that has nothing to say and the sad thing is, we‘ve only been together for 8 years, how does it look when it would be 30 years down the road?
In the evenings we watch Tv together or he plays video games with his friends and I‘m doing my things…
I‘m an emotional person and I think that I‘m having a fear of being abandoned (I guess from my father leaving me, when my parents got divorced). I‘m really in love with him, but I‘m not sure if I‘m holding onto something broken, that cannot be fixed. I want this to work, he is a great guy, with good qualities, but I‘m sick of always giving more, than I‘m receiving. I also think that if I couldn‘t do this anymore, I would have trouble breaking up, because I love him and I want to have him in my life. He is my bestfriend and I don‘t want to lose him. Maybe it could also be the fear of being alone.. I really don‘t know what I should do… I don‘t know how to continue..
I feel like I‘m seeking for advice, personal experience and just some help here, feeling so lost right know… is all this normal? This is my first relationship.
Thank you for taking your time to read this.
So reddit.. what should I do?
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2024.05.16 10:29 Odd-Hand-2026 My dad gave me his mother’s middle name to one switch order.. of a Man in the third angle.. making him a baphomet.. and to align himself with something told no.. by enoch and was tempted by God if they come up to make war Ahab .. Americans BS dreams and My dad holding on to Canaan to include all ..

By holding to Canaan we never graduate or marry 🌌 Celestial he literally Asmodeus like i been telling you .. Im sent to my enemies not people on my side.. its to destroy you from WITHIN .. like they did me.. so that you will fall.. and Put seed on the ground like Onan.. he align himself with a Id not his because he know he not going nowhere. The why that bs of honouring parents in Asia doesn’t work for the church or earthen. Jesus gave instructions to get his chosen out of that.. he essentially made himself Canaan (he do not love Africans nor his wife or children but in black flips colors between parents to accuse oppa) and gave me his mother middle name (hijacking just like they tried claim me not long ago on their taxes. I said no) by stating he Canaan it’s a spiritual destroy and destroy from the physical body as many Asian major already mixed with them theeee Most forbidden..Not authorised yeast big time.. And you crazy if you think no bloodshed coming to korea or japan.. they will have to shed blood or curses because they didn’t close the gates.. only a matter of time because its two different seed.. 🌱 and Eurasia was not supposed to do that with the gates open.. those NU eurasian children a portion of them defective they have autism and mild Down syndrome.. i watch.. some married but knew not to have children.. thank God!!
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2024.05.16 10:27 omegaMKXIII 31 [M4F] Austria/Europe - Looking for my forever lady

General
I am looking for a lady between 28 and 35 years old, for a committed monogamous childfree relationship. My goal is to become a true team, supporting each other, caring for each other, nurturing each other and helping each other grow and realise our goals and dreams as much as possible. I'm hoping to find someone that values a relationship as much as I do and takes it seriously. It's not the only thing my life revolves around, but it's also not just something 'nice to have' for me.
I tried to be as concise as possible while still providing what details I think are crucial to know; I realise this post turned out very long, but I prefer those because I can get as good an idea as possible with detailed descriptions, bar actually talking to the person, and find that very valuable, so if that also applies to you, that would be awesome.
Basics
I am 186cm tall, slim/fit built, dark brown hair, brown eyes. Both my arms are tattooed (full sleeve), as are my calves and the areas above my ankles. Regarding pictures see below. I am a runner (ranging from 5k to full marathon), training multiple times a week. I'm also vegan. My love languages are physical touch and words of affirmation. While I am mostly securely attached, withdrawing from me triggers anxiety and I have made a horrible experience with a fearful avoidant partner in the past, so that is something I fear I cannot deal with again.
I am also an atheist.
I am a very warm, soft and sensitive person, I think I am humorous, I am self reflecting a lot and I can also be really passionate and romantic. Those are traits that also are really important to me in a woman.
I can be quite social, I am a good talker, but also love to listen to really get to know someone on a deeper level. I can enjoy an evening out with friends just as much as the silence of sitting at the shores of the river and watching the sunset in solitude (although I've been craving to watch it together with a partner for a really long time now). I can be out in a pub, at a rave, a metal show or in the stadium watching football and have the time of my life, but I cannot do these things every day; I need recharge time (on the sofa, in the woods for a run, a lazy Sunday staying in bed etc.). This should give you an idea; basically, I am a homebody that thoroughly enjoys going out in moderation.
I won't say too much about hobbies; suffice it to say I am into the dark, the obscure, the macabre, the occult, the mysterious, the erotic. It won't surprise you that I had a gothic phase in my youth, bonus points if you did too!
What I am looking for
Although similar hobbies and interests are a plus (and there have to be at least a couple things we have in common), emotional and sexual compatibility are more important to me. I am a very sensitive and emotional person (I do cry easily and by this point I don't think I'll ever be able to change that, sorry), so if you're too, we will definitely understand each other. I need someone who I can open up to (which I do rather quickly, anyway), be myself, bare my soul to and I need these things from you, too. I've had my share of emotionally unavailable women who were afraid of intimacy so I know I can't deal with that again because of the way how those things affect me. I am always emotionally invested with the woman I pursue and in those cases that was to my detriment. But my ability to feel so deep is also something I wouldn't want to change because as of yet, although it's getting harder, I haven't given up on finding someone.
With those emotional needs come two requirements that I found to be vital over the years: First, being able to be silly and cutesy together and to accept each other's inner child and care for it. I am not talking about having to deal with another person's immaturity or inability to perform basic adult skills, rather with the way sadness, hurt, anxiety and being overwhelmed manifests for me (and maybe for you, too?). I need someone who is able to comfort me, to hold me, to allow me to be weak and needy for a while until I've calmed down, and I'm more than ready to offer the same. Your inner child can come out for a while, no problem (: Also in a positive way: Thankfully, today everyone seems to be understanding of the cuteness overload cats (or any animal baby, really) can cause; I need that with a partner. I also still have plushies as comfort animals (some of which in quite a litteral sense as they make for really amazing pillows) and ideally, you do too.
There is a saying that in every relationship, one person is the stronger one. In the past, I have been with women who obviously were stronger than me, but that doesn't mean they always had to be strong, far from it. I certainly, like I said, need to be able to feel protected, but it's not like I'm a particularly needy partner, like everyone, I have my ups and downs, but I can pull my weight and have been told by past partners that I am very caring and that they felt safe and understood with me, and providing that for my partner is really important for me as well – this just to put the picture I'm (somewhat haphazardly) trying to paint into perspective.
Second, sexual compatibility. I have a high libido and I have kinks, so you should, too, in order that we can explore and enjoy them together. I found out how fulfilling living out those fantasies can be after years of never being able to try and in a relationship, sexual fulfillment for both partners is a must for me. Someone on here has coined the term 'filthy best friends and partners' which I have no shame to be stealing because it's such an apt description.
I'm looking for a balance between healthy independence and being emotionally present. A relationship where we 'get' each other; we're both each other's number one and treat each other like royalty. Where a disagreement leads to more intimacy between us as we understand better, not to resentment. Where we're comfortable baring our souls to each other, becoming a safe haven and secure base for each other. I don't like the modern notion that you 'should never feel too safe in a relationship' because that sounds like running from the mafia (and believe me, I love mafia movies); you should always put in effort, yes, but safety is one of the things I always want to experience and provide in a relationship. We shouldn't fear that a disagreement leads straight to breakup. I know ‘self-sufficiency’ is trending right now, but I feel like as partners, we’re partly responsible for each other and not our own but also each other’s happiness. Being dependant and dependable at the same time is important; making each other’s wellbeing a priority. I love the relationship model outlined in Stan Tatkin’s ‘Wired for Love’ and you should, too. If you’re not able to healthily depend on someone and their support while you’re having a hard time, look elsewhere. I know codependency is the latest thing everyone’s afraid of, but experiencing someone you’ve grown very attached to just bailing because they’re counterdependent and can’t stand working on themselves while simultaneously letting you in is something I’d rather not go through again. If I have to be afraid you’ll run at the first major problem that surfaces, even if it’s a ‘you’-problem, it’s not going to work. I think that all things can and need to be talked about. If you think ignoring someone for days is a form of communication, please look elsewhere. If you think’s it’s okay to lovebomb someone and then leave after a couple of months with the minimum amount of information and no proper conversation because you’re not ready to own up to what’s happening to you emotionally, please look elsewhere.
I am looking for someone real. We all have our problems, I don't want or need a 'perfect' person. You don't have everything figured out or 'all your shit' together. Be imperfect. Admit when you feel sad and angry, lonely, hopeless or even helpless – it's all relatable. Don't hide it. Be quirky, be dorky, be witchy, be opinionated, be yourself. Don't pretend.
I'm looking for someone to share romance with. Not great gestures, but small, meaningful ones. Poems for each other, expressing our feelings; cards with heartfelt messages that we put our perfume/cologne on, and a symbol that means something to us only, the print of your lips with lipstick, the way I sign and seal my letters for you.
Just as important to me is agreeing on living a healthy life, staying in shape both for ourselves and for each other, regularly working out and eating healthy. I am drug and disease-free and expect the same of you. I do drink as I love a good beer or glass of wine, rum or whiskey, but I've never really been drinking much and especially during the past year have further reduced it. One vice I have is that I enjoy a couple of cigars a year, but I can definitely accommodate you in this regard.
Another important point is aligned life goals: many childfree people seem to be adventurous, but that is a trait I don't associate with myself at all. I value safety more than adventure. I want to build a home together with my partner, a safespace for the both of us, where we always feel loved and protected, a place that we create together, make it cozy together so we just love to get back home there wherever we might have been, a home we decorate together for Halloween (my favourite holiday) or Christmas or Springtime, as we live in tune with the seasons, seeing them change around us, enjoying nature on a walk or the rain outside, reading in our cozy home. I value stability and harmony.
Appearance-wise, I am into ladies on the smaller side (albeit not regarding height), so I'm looking for someone petite/slim/skinny/healthy-fit. Likewise, I am not really muscular and don't have visible abs; like I said, I'm a runner, so if you're more into the gym-type, I'm not a good fit.
The natural progression for me would be to move from text to voice calls, videochat and then meeting up, all of that rather sooner than later. Not that there’s a need to rush anything, but having my heart broken because I already developed feelings due to a longer timeframe and then everything unexpectedly turning to shit is not something I want to have to live through again. I’d rather see earlier if we’re compatible or not; as someone who catches feelings fast I need to protect myself, I unfortunately had to learn that
Caveats/Possible red flags
If you're interested, feel free to message me and include some pictures of yourself and I will reply with my own. Have a nice day (:
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2024.05.16 10:25 MidRunner7 Medical Rejection - Eyesight/Prism

Applied to join the RNR and have been declared PMU with the reasoning as follows:
"This is due to your history of headaches which you have required glasses with prisms in addition to the prescription documented within your opticians reports. The Surgeon Commander states that the requirement for prisms to correct your vision is of concern and is indicative of an underlying condition that would be a bar to service."
For context - I have worn glasses with prisms since I was a teenager (now 25) but my vision is well inside the required standard (-0.75 in one eye and -1.75 in the other). In March 2023 I had some headaches/eye strain at work as a result of my glasses prescription needing updating. Though the headaches went away once I got new glasses (and haven't returned since), my optician had suggested I see a GP as a precaution to rule out anything more serious (which they did but this meant it was on my record). Note - I have no history of migraines.
Is there any point in me trying to appeal this (particularly given the case has already been discussed with the RN SMO)? Prisms aren't mentioned in the JSP950 and rejecting me on the basis that it may indicate something else seems a bit strange?
If it is worth appealing, any ideas on how I best to go about it? Letter from my optician? GP? Both? Thanks in advance.
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2024.05.16 10:24 William_Liao Georgia Tech vs UMich in Mechanical Engineering

Hello, I am an international student from Taiwan and am about to study grad school in the United States.
I have applied for master's degree in Mechanical Engineering and my specialized research area is Fluid Mechanics. I really fancy Fluid Mechanics and have decided to do research master's degree (or maybe thesis option), instead of just coursework master's degree.
Luckily, I recently got offers from University of Michigan and Georgia Institute of Technology, I have difficulty choosing which school to attend and thus hope you can give me some useful pieces of advice, I will be truly grateful. I am unable to visit the campuses in person and financial issue is not a problem to me, so we can just neglect the tuition aspect.
Here are some Pros and Cons I've analyzed for both of them. Since I am not an expert to this, please correct me if my understanding is wrong.
Georgia Institute of Technology
Pros:
  1. The ranking of Mechanical Engineering (or simply Engineering) of GT is slightly higher than UM.
  2. In terms of Fluid Mechanics, GT has more research resources and faculties. The overall intensity of Fluid Mechanics research is much better at GT than at UM. Plus, there are more Fluid Mechanics labs that align with my interest in GT.
  3. GT does better in job opportunities, such as the Co-op, Graduate Internship Program and their career fairs, which allow their graduate students to find a suitable job more easily upon graduation.
  4. Labs are generally supported by some tech giants or have joint research projects with corporations. This help me learn more about those companies and thus help me find jobs more smoothly after graduation.
  5. GT really boast with their Engineering and STEM programs, which will probably give me more resources toward my research.
  6. I want to apply my knowledge of Fluid Mechanics and work in aerodynamic industries in the future, GT is more connected to them, including NASA, SpaceX and Lockheed Martin.
  7. Less Asian students than that in UM, this do good to me since I want to step out of my comfort zone and interact with different ethnicity.
  8. Atlanta is a metropolitan city where I can have a bunch of places to unwind and chill out.
Cons:
  1. The campus size is only 373 acres, insignificant in comparison to UM. I personally prefer large campus.
  2. The student group is consisted mostly of engineering students, which is monotonous (less diverse) and somewhat boring. Also there are less female students.
  3. It is kinda scorching and wet during summer in Atlanta, I hate humid weather !!
Among all the merits mentioned for GT, 2. & 3. matter most for me. They are the main points to consider.
University of Michigan Ann Arbor
Pros:
  1. UM is a mighty traditional public with long history (founded in 1817), their buildings are quaint and picturesque. Their overall reputation is phenomenal in the states, and there are other prestigious programs than Engineering in UM such as Law, Nuclear, Medicine and Dentistry.
  2. UM has strong school spirit (go blue, wolverine), diverse student groups and fantastic social life. I will have the sense of belonging and recognition here.
  3. Many multidisciplinary programs which I can gain non-engineering ideas to nourish my mindset. Also their alumni network is world class.
  4. Large campus size (3203 acres). Plus, Ann Arbor is a fabulous college town where I can enjoy some fancy shops and restaurants, the environment around UM is undoubtedly satisfying.
  5. Strong alumni network. This helps me become more connected and provides more opportunities at workplace.
Cons:
  1. Even UM's Mechanical Engineering is reputable, the Fluid Mechanics research is deficient, there is limited resources and faculties in Fluid Mechanics. It will be hard to find a lab there that fit with me.
  2. It is freezing during winter in Michigan. This will discourage me from going out and study.
  3. I think their Mechanical Engineering department receive less funds and grants than that in GT, because GT focuses on Engineering and STEM subjects so they probably allocate their budget mostly in Engineering.
Conclusion:
GT and UM are both prestigious, if I want to focus my graduate time in studying, doing research and seeking internships, I will pick GT. On the other hand, if I want to enjoy the campus, develop social life and experience the diverse community, I should pick UM.
Since I am just an undergraduate student in Taiwan, I haven't been to either of these schools and are less familiar to these schools than you guys. If you can provide me with useful advice and suggestion, I will be sincerely appreciated. Thank you very much.
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2024.05.16 10:21 mrpeapeanutbutter Sometimes, I wish these blessings had come a bit sooner.

There are times my brain tends to not know how it wants to feel. You want to be happy for those blessings, but there's a lingering sadness in the back of my mind knowing that I can never share them with my Mom, who has been my greatest supporter.
My Mom's absence leaves a void that makes it difficult to fully embrace the joy of my achievements. Despite the happiness surrounding me, there's an underlying current of longing and deep sadness, a constant reminder of her irreplaceable presence in my life.
All she wanted for me was to see me succeed in life, and for me to share those blessings with her. It's hard not to think about it from time to time especially when special moments tend to happen.
I'm thankful for the gifts, but I really wish she was still here with me to see them.
If you're fortunate enough to still have your loving parents by your side, cherish every moment with them. Because they too deserve to witness the joys and milestones of our lives, to offer their wisdom, love, and support every step of the way.
Love you Mom, I'll figure things out sooner or later..
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2024.05.16 10:19 llewellynnz Terminated for gross negligence

Brace yourself, it's a long one.
We have had a bit of a horror week and hope the information may be useful to others. I guess this is also a bit of a cathartic AITA for us as well.
We hired our 18-year-old German au pair privately through an NZ Facebook group. She was in the last month of a long trip here, but her last family could not afford to pay her any more. We put her straight on a salary with our company, gave her a near-new nice car to drive, and even allowed her boyfriend to stay and fed him for over a week.
When we hired her, we insisted on a contract and included an instant dismissal clause for 'gross negligence' - we were glad we did.
She did an okay job. Looking after one four-year-old for around three to four hours a day and a few extra days by arrangement, she would turn up at the exact minute expected and stop working the minute scheduled. She didn't assist with things like cooking, other than one night, or with dishes after she or her boyfriend ate with us. But it's hard to complain about that as it was not like we enforced that as part of the remit.
Anyway, we get to the last week and allow her time off (after having spent the weekend away) to drop her boyfriend at the airport. She arrives back at the absolute last minute and bundles our daughter out the door quickly to go to the park via a local book-sharing room. A bit over an hour later, they rush back in, with the au pair upset and my daughter a bit concerned that a lady had been mean to the au pair. From this point, the stories start changing.
First version: The au pair says she got a call from her mum with some bad news and went to the car, parked around 10 meters away and in complete view of the playground, to take the call so our daughter wouldn't see her upset. She says she was there for three minutes before an angry mum comes up with Maeve, telling her off for leaving her alone, and taking a picture of the car. Having been told the 'bad news', I jump in my vehicle with the au pair to find the woman to give her a telling-off for being so mean to a young lady in a bad situation. Thankfully, we don't find her.
Through the wonder of social media, the mother does, however, find us and her story is rather different from the au pair's:
Second version: The mother tells us our daughter was on her own for 'quite some time', estimated to be at least ten minutes. This park is next door to a competition-standard skate park with some pretty hard skating and big drops, and she wandered all the way over there. There are some details I will skip, but she slowly made her way back to the playground (thankfully not the other way to the major highway) and played more (unfortunately including peeing herself on the slide), approaching other children and parents, and finally latching on to another mother trying to deal with her three kids.
That is when she asked our daughter where her parents were. Our daughter said she was there with her au pair, and after a while, the mother managed to find her where she explained to her the situation just wasn't right. The au pair's biggest concern - that she didn't want the mother to tell us as it would 'ruin her last few days in NZ'.
On this news, we confronted the au pair again who did not deny it.
Third version: The au pair now says she went back to the car as she was cold and wanted to put on more clothes. Our daughter had told her she wasn't cold and wanted to keep playing, so she left her as it was only for a few minutes. But indicated she stayed in the car to warm up and her mother called and following this she lost track of time. We checked phone records later and she had made an outgoing call, she wasn't the one called.
At this stage, my wife is incredibly upset, both from the lies, the fears around our daughter being alone, and that this was somehow her failure. I send the au pair back to her quarters, of a mind that if that is it, there will be no more out-of-home trips but she can see out the week.
But it still feels fishy to me, the au pair doesn't seem upset enough for the news she shared. So I contact a representative of the park to check their CCTV. They promise to do so in the morning. And here comes the kicker...
Fourth version: The park management tracked our daughter around the park, separate from our au pair, for AT LEAST 25 minutes. They can't say it wasn't less than that due to blind spots. The woman there is extremely disturbed that it happened considering the nature of the park, and suggests the au pair needs to be gone immediately. I agree.
At this point it is not just the negligence, it is the lies.
I confront the au pair - managing somehow to stay calm - and immediately dismiss her under the gross negligence clause. I tell her to pack, head back to the living area and book secure accommodation (but the cheapest I would send an 18-year-old daughter to) in the city for the six nights till she flies out, a bus ticket, and a taxi to the bus. I pay for it all, not wanting any comeback and still treating her as human and someone's daughter, even if she didn't extend us the same courtesy.
No apologies, no arguments, but there is a postscript.
The car she was using is, like most new cars, surrounded by cameras. There is even one that records on a small rolling memory in case of accidents, but when the car is off it is off. Her and her boyfriend clearly had panicked, thinking the video evidence we got the timeline from was from the car, and she was upset she didn't know the cameras were recording (they weren't, and can't) as they took the car camping on the weekend. I wonder if the concern came down to the condom wrapper we found in the back seat where my daughter sits, lol!
Anyway, our new, older, more mature Japanese au pair arrives on the weekend. We haven't let this deter us from what should be a great process. Just make sure you can terminate contracts and have an exit plan in place. And don't rush off to confront Karens without all the details.
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2024.05.16 10:19 Potential-Pea3208 I got cheated during my review days for my board exam.

I was in a relationship for 4 years yes "was" kasi hiwalay na kami ngayon thankfully.
It was the worst 4 months of my life because during sa review nang board exam ko ay nagloko jowa ko and take note, same kami ng course, sabay kami nag review, same kami ng nirentahang boarding house but with my two male and female friends. Unang dating namin sa place kung saan kami mag re-review since malayo siya sa province namin everything is okay pa naman our relationship is still okay we read our review materials, attend classes and gala din sa place since bago kami dun if may vacant time to relax.
One time nasa bed ko lang ako and I was reading some notes since may pa quiz kami kinabukasan, nagtaka ako kasi lumabas siya and nanibago ako kasi ang porma niya yung suot niya is panglakad na tshirt, shorts and medyas tapos slippers and nagpabango siya. Like??? ano boy ingame sa papogian?? Tinanong namin siya kasi lahat kami na weirdohan kasi wala naman kaming lakad and hapon na yun, tinanong namin siya "saan punta mo" sabi niya "sa labas lang papahangin" natawa ako na nagtaka kasi papahangin pero naka porma hahahaha yun palaaaa bet niya yung babae na nagrerenta sa kabilang kwarto, nalaman ko lang yun through tiktok kasi nakita ko post nung best friend nang bet niya grabe yung mga comment niya dun haha.
Another one is kukuha kami ng TOR namin at magpapafile na rin for board exam so along with my friends umuwi kami sa province namin so 6 or 7 hours na byahe yun, so since hindi na ako makakauwi sa bahay namin since gabi na kami dumating, doon nalang ako natulog sa bahay nang friend ko and since siya is malayo rin inaya ko siya na doon nalang din siya matulog pero ang sabi niya "ay sa bahay nalang ako ng uncle ko kasi na miss ko yung motor ko" sabi ko nalang "ah okay, kita nalang tayo bukas sa school" nung gabi na yun is tumawag siya pero hindi ko nasagot kasi nakain ako and sabi ko call siya ulit pero sabi niya tulog na daw uncle niya and naka off na daw yung mga ilaw, yun pala tulog na side chick niya kakatapos lang nila mag seggs. (that night hindi ko pa nalaman lahat he acts as if walang nangyari)
Fast forward, pagdating namin sa school dumating yung TOR nila and sa akin lang wala, nakapag file sila ng board exam and ako that time wala so bumalik ako sa place kung saan kami nag review na walang napala but after ilang weeks dumating yung TOR ko and need kung umuwi ALONE kasi aabot pa naman ako sa last day nang filing. To cut the story short nakapagfile ako thankfully and that days na nasa bahay ako is doon ko lang din nalaman na my boyfriend is cheating on me kasi nag chat sakin yung babae niya tinanong if kami pa ba daw kasi may nangyari daw sa kanila ng ex ko and sinabi daw nang ex ko na pagkatapos nang review magsasama daw sila sa iisang boarding house. It happened nung unang uwi namin, that's why ayaw niya matulog sa bahay nang friend ko kasi kukunin niya pala yung babae niya sa workplace neto at mag checheck in sila, during the time na tumawag siya is kasama niya pala babae niya, that time na kinuha niya ko sa bahay nang friend ko kasama niya pala babae niya at hinatid sa workplace niya. I was so devastated and nagdalawang isip ako if mag tetake pa ba ako ng board exam kasi parang lahat nang pinag-aralan ko nawala napalitan nang kababoyan nila. Ayaw ko na sana bumalik sa place kung saan kami nag review since nandun siya but i need to, need kung ipagpatuloy for my parents. Bumalik ako at hindi siya kinausap since malapit naman kami umuwi at patapos na yung review namin, iniusad ko nalang talaga but gabi gabi ako umiyak and wala talagang pumapasok sa isip ko na mga lesson. I broke up with him, ayaw niyang pumayag (ang kapal ng mukha). After matapos yung review namin umuwi ako and i tried to focus or magbasa again para sa upcoming board exam pero wala talagang pumapasok, everytime may e memorize ako yung ginawa niya yung maaalala ko, cried every night, tinatanong kung saan ba ako nagkulang, i questioned my worth and everything. I tried to focus but sobrang hirap talaga. During the board exam days, nasa isip ko na hindi ako papasa kasi even during the board exam gusto kung umiyak. But, thankfully nakapasa po ako and I was so proud of myself kasi despite sa ganun ang nangyari hindi pa rin ako pinabayaan ni lord.
I am working now, happy and blessed. Naka moved on na rin, thank you.
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2024.05.16 10:18 cckkmw Mother has wrong mother and father's name in PSA

I am planning to get my mom a passport however ang pangalan ng parents'' name na naka indicate is wrong. This was way back in the 60s and my mom was left in the province while my lola went to the city. So doon (province) na siya pinabinyag and register, ngayon, ang nakalagay na info in her PSA is yung kapatid ng lola ko. Basically, wrong parents. This has not been an issue for so long since wala namang plano mag out of the country. Now a retiree, she wants to try na.
I want to ask if this will be an issue when getting a passport? Wala namang issue with her other documents (bank, sss, etc.) ito lang since we are required to put all the details when making an appointment and during the checking process. Also, my lola and my other relatives are dead years ago.
Thank you so much!
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2024.05.16 10:17 InterestingCry3209 Did i do something wrong?

So i made a confession letter for a person who has the same gender as me. Ive been attracted to for 6 years and we are going to graduate in a while so i just decided to pull myself together and confess. I placed all my thoughts and feelings and i placed one line where it said "Unlike the others, you stood out to me and you did everything attractively." and i wrote it in a sketchbook paper and decorated everything then i left it on his table. 8 mins later he picks it up then reads it multiple times. Then a bunch of other girls see it and then i didnt hear what they said since i only got a glimpse of them when i left. The next day i waited for him the whole day on the confession area which was a quiet and perfect place to confess. He never came. Then the next day he seemed normal and the day after. It was like he didnt even see the letter. I wanted him to just tell his thoughts and feelings about the letter and even rejecting me was fine, at least he cared about the letter. But that unfortunately not happen. I just want to know what i did wrong or what i did bad because its been stuck on my mind and i cant say it to anyone because my whole family is highly religious.
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2024.05.16 10:15 SandDependent_ For wanting to report a case that includes children

Someone I'm very close to is in a dilemma. They just found out their niece (14) was touched inappropriately by her mom's friend (a grown man that's in his early 30s) while she was in her bed asleep and her mom was in the shower. Btw, the kids all have no bedroom doors, just open doorframes, and there is no functioning bathroom down the hall of the kids rooms. TRIGGER WARNING He went in her room and put his hand in her underwear. The dude chilled afterwards and left without incident.
Two days later the daughter texted her teen brother (who lives with his grandpa) and the brother told his grandpa, who then called and told the child's mother what happened. The Mother tells the daughter "Sorry that happened to you but you have to just live your life and not let it bring you down.", and she gave the daughter ZERO support. She then told both of her siblings (1 being my friend) the "event" will no longer be discussed. She just wants everyone to go on as if it never happened.
She's living in a fixer upper with 4 kids and she hasn't been fixing it up, it's just degraded over time because she really let's her kids do whatever they want, including just walk down the street at night to someone's house even though those kids are like 7 years old. She currently has people living in her backyard in a tent (she only met them sometime last year and one is a felon) and she gave them permission to be in the house whenever they want, around the kids.
My friend said to kick those people out TODAY and wants to take action for their niece and do whatever is needed to incriminate the guy, but the child's mother raised hell on earth upon hearing the suggestions because the people in the tent are "leaving on the 1st" and "she doesn't want cps involved with her kids because it will be her 15th case with them and she just had a case closed earlier this year." Also my friend's parents are well off in a 4 bedroom, 2 full bath home which is where the daughters would go if they had to and the sons will go with the Mother's other sibling, so no cps won't put them in the system just like they didn't the other 14 times, if they say the kids have to leave the fixer upper house.
This woman has nodded off intoxicated while my friend (who was dozing off soberly) had to jump up and do the heimlich maneuver on her daughter because she swallowed a freaking penny and was fanning her neck and couldn't make a sound and the Mother hasn't given thanks not even once all these years! My friend does NOT like his sibling as a person at all and says she has been spoiled all her life so she doesn't take accountability for her actions. She told a child (probably 10yrs old) to walk down the street alone at night to go get her even younger brother and bring him back home. My friend wants to just go ahead and take the proper steps to report what has happened the authorities. The Mother says HELL NO to that and to hush up about what happened to her daughter, she was also screaming at my friend like she was taking out her fear of accountability on him (I heard it, she was screaming looooudd in his face), completely disrespecting him for telling her to DO SOMETHING. If my friend calls authorities without the Mother (his sister) knowing, is he the AH?
Tldr Friend's niece was touched in her sleep by her mom's "friend" while mom was showering. Mom doesn't want to do anything about it, my friend wants to tell the police, is he the AH?
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2024.05.16 10:10 Caraal I got a referral!!!

This morning I (23F) went to my GP to ask for a referral to get sterilised. I was so extremely nervous, my heartrate was sitting at 150 in the waiting room. I prepared a whole list of why I want to get sterilised, which sterilisation, good answers to bingo questions, etc. My parents even wrote a formal letter for me stating I never wanted children!
My GP is a lovely woman, so I was kind of hopeful I would not get bingoed. But you never know.. I brought up sterilisation and at first she was a bit apprehensive due to my age. After I explained she took me very seriously and I did not even hear a single bingo!
The hardest part was the referral itself though. A lot of clinics and hospital only sterilise women above the age of 30. We found a hospital that doesn't require a certain age. I need to do an intake at the hospital in a few weeks. There is still a chance they will deny my request there, so not all is certain.. But I am just glad I got over the first hurdle!
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2024.05.16 10:08 Wonkabar03 [Windows ME][Mid 90's - Early 00's] Educational Geography Game

Platform(s): Windows ME (could have been 95/98, don't remember playing it on XP) Genre: Educational Software Estimated year of release: Mid 90's to Early 00's Graphics/art style: Early Primitive Polygonal 3D Renders, Mostly Gray Notable characters: A "How do you do fellow kids"-type character with a pitched up voice, always getting put in jail for riding his skateboard. Notable gameplay mechanics: Player controlled plane flies to specified locations on a world map to find keys to free the skateboarding character.
Other details: DevelopePublisher name is green text on a black background. Game opens with skateboarding character getting caught and jailed. He then asks the player to find keys around the world to free him. An adult male voice clearly tells the player where to go: "Find the key in... Portugal." Player then moves a plane over the target country and presses an action key to decend. Upon finding a key, the male voice will speak again: "You found the key in... Portugal" A jingle will then play. Upon finding four keys, the bars to the jail cell open and the skateboarding character leaves while saying: "Woo-hoo(Woo-wee?), I'm outta here!" A short animation will play that implies the skateboarder gets caught again.
If I recall correctly, it is NOT one of the big educational software publishers: The Learning Comapany, MECC, Broderbund, Knowledge Adventure, DK.
Trying to find this game so I can find the developepublisher name. My tech-illiterate parents somehow got a bunch of educational software- presumably for homeschooling- and this is my best remembered example of one of the publishers. This one might be a toughie: likely region-specific (Southern/Midwest USA), MIGHT be shareware, super niche target audience, unlikely someone uploaded an ISO, developer seemed VERY small/might not have been around for long.
Any help would be appreciated! If you remember any educational games from that technological era that the internet fails to mention, please feel free to shout them out in the replies. I'm trying to find as much as I can.
Thank you so much for your time. 🙏
Rough mock-up of main game screen.
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2024.05.16 10:03 -d3xterity- Here's some specific advice on how to recover your sense of self worth

My story is in my post and comment history if you want to know the particulars, but here is the summary:
7 years together, I'm male and my pwBPD is female. We share a 5 year old together, and its been a year and a half since she filed for divorce and about 4 months since it finalized. I struggled with a desire not to live anymore, with feeling like it was all my fault, like I lost everything, and that my life was destroyed. I have since recovered and I am moving on with my life and happy.
This is not going to solve every problem you have but hopefully this will help you get your feet on the path. You may struggle to get started but once you manage to uncork the bottle on this you'll find it easier to do. Once I started doing these things, it helped me significantly to reach acceptance.
There are two activities that I used that both relate to the same action, and doing this action was a big difference maker. It may not feel like it at first, but keep doing it. It works.
I spent a lot of time in thought, reflecting, ruminating, stuck in the same mental loop over and over, thinking the same thoughts, spiraling deeper and deeper into depression, constantly feeling like it was my fault.
Now for the advice.
Eventually I forced myself to write out how I felt like I was wronged. Then I took that and wrote a letter to my pwBPD expressing how I felt about it, how it upset me, hurt me, what I wanted from her, what I wanted in our life, how I tried, everything I did to try to make things work, and how she tried to make me feel like it was my fault. I wrote about the things she did to sabotage our relationship, about the ways she refused to work with me, and how she prepped a back up and monkey branched. All my grievances that I wasn't telling her because I was so focused on figuring out how to fix things.
Okay, great. Writing it didn't really do a whole lot to move the needle for me. But then I started reading it out loud to myself, making edits to the letter as I went, refining my thoughts, changing how I expressed my thoughts to be more clear and impactful.
I read it out loud over and over, improving the draft to really represent how I felt and what I thought. Turns out, saying how you feel out loud transforms nebulous thoughts and feelings into something very specific which you then hear yourself saying. And the more you hear yourself saying it, the more you are able to not only work through what you've experienced, but to solidify your point of view and opinion on it. You process it into specifics which you then hear your own voice reinforcing to yourself.
I wrote 3 letters like this, and each time I did it, I took a huge leap forward not only in acceptance that the relationship was over, but more importantly, what sort of relationship I wanted. It made me change from "I want her back and I will do whatever it takes" to "now I know why I can't be with her without meaningful change on her end." and knowing that, knowing that I wasn't the only one that needed to grow and change, knowing that she shared the responsibility and that she did terrible things that weren't my fault and weren't justified helped me let go and move on.
The second thing I did, which is more or less the same principal as the first, is to speak to myself out loud as though I was having a conversation with her. Usually on the topic of reconciliation because in my case, my pwBPD was making noises in that direction.
Again, hearing my own voice saying specifically why I would not take her back, what her problems were, how she needed to grow and change helped me to solidify my path to acceptance and pushed me over the threshold.
Before I graduated therapy, I spoke to my psychologist about it. I told him it might sound a little crazy, but that I talked to myself as if she were there while driving around. He told me its an effective technique that is used in therapy.
If you are struggling, depressed, feeling like its your fault, feeling like you are stuck and can't move on, feeling guilty, try this. It will feel silly at first, but if you write it out and read it back to yourself, it won't feel so silly because you're just editing a letter. Write as many as you need. And once you are comfortable with it, have those conversations as if your pwBPD is there. If you are like me, it will help.
I genuinely hope this helps you all and I hope you find healing and acceptance of what happened to you. I try to post to help people but as I have come to be healed and gain acceptance I find I spend less and less time here.
Still, this community is very important to me. You all helped me so much when I needed it, and I want to help you all too. None of us are alone here.
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2024.05.16 10:01 Bark0z [7 YoE] Looking for jobs in data analytics / quant / financial analysis. Need advice

[7 YoE] Looking for jobs in data analytics / quant / financial analysis. Need advice
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Hello,
I have read the wiki and made changes to my resume accordingly.
I've been on the job hunt since November last year, seeking roles in quantitative analysis, data science, software engineering, and financial analysis across the US. I'm open to relocating anywhere as I'm a citizen. I've been unemployed since August 2023.
It's been rough. Despite applying to over 100 positions (I don't keep exact count), I haven't landed a single technical interview yet. I did have one interview that got far, but the company seemed like a red flag, so I decided not to proceed.
My background is in chemical engineering, and after graduation, I ran the family manufacturing business. Since 2020, I've been working towards becoming a quant. I spent two years working remotely with a company in Boston, developing models for real estate feasibility studies. So, my experience is diverse, but I'm not having luck no matter what kind of job I apply for.
I even tried applying as a financial analyst at a manufacturing company, where I have direct 5 years of experience, but still no luck.
I've tried everything, from changing up my resume format, job positions, and projects numerous times. I've consulted with recruiters and industry professionals, and they all like my resume, but I'm still not getting results.
Networking hasn't helped either so far. I'm open to any advice or suggestions you might have.
Thank you for your help.
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2024.05.16 09:59 MiserableLie5976 What are your expenditure raising alternatives to the gym?

What are your expenditure raising alternatives to the gym?
Feel free to skip to the last paragraph to see a tl;dr
If you couldn’t already tell from the title i am not a big fan of the gym, like i don’t like the environment, the sweat, the busyness, the heat when i train or the idea of the place in general. When i used to go back in the day it was with friends which made it more bearable (i treated it more like a social activity) but that is no longer an option as we are all graduating this summer.
I also do like food, i was obese for a huge part of my life, from the time i was a child till 16-17 (now 21). Thankfully i am no longer obese but the love for food is still strong and i crave a lot of things and in many cases unable to control said cravings.
tl;dr Recently my expenditure has been going down, and to continue losing weight from all the cravings i have indulged in i either need to eat less (which i find very hard nowadays) or increase my expenditure. I am looking at the latter and i know gym is great for expenditure increase as you build muscles which burn more energy even while you are sitting down, but again i really don’t like it. So are there any alternatives you can think of? Or Will I have to bite the bullet on one of them? Current expenditure is 2055, age is 21, height 185cm (6’1) and weight has increased since start of the year from 83kg (182 pounds) to almost 90kg (198 pounds). My best weight was around 77kg (160-170 pounds)
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2024.05.16 09:56 shwoopypadawan Needing urgent advice (Study abroad program gone wrong, ~1day to being on the streets)

I'm currently in Berlin, Germany, and about to be homeless for 2 weeks on the streets. I signed up for a study abroad program from my university, which I just graduated from last semester. I paid the application fee, got picked, paid for my own flight here and back, and then got a scholarship from an alumni couple in the department I got my degree in, and that scholarship paid for the rest of the trip.
I worked my ass off doing research and selling a bunch of my stuff to get the plane tickets because I'm pretty broke. I was excited for this trip because I was accepted into a German university for graduate school and figured I'd get a good introduction to living in Germany, and to be honest, Berlin itself has been great, all the locals I've met have been very nice to me, but my professors and everyone working from my university have been really unprofessional and tricky and now I'm in an unsafe position.** EDIT to add that when I say Friday I mean tomorrow, so I have about 1 day until getting kicked out of the hotel.
Long explanation, skip to the bottom for a TLDR:
Before I even got on a single plane, I found out customer service for my phone carrier and I had a misunderstanding a month ago when I bought my international plan and found out about 3 days in advance that my phone would be a brick here. I told the professor immediately and she said worse case scenario she would help me get a working phone when I landed, since it's kind of needed for basic safety. Just half a day before the first flight, I got bitten by a few deer ticks and said I might also need help scheduling a doctors appointment when I land, because our travel insurance required a working phone number and it was too late for me to make an appointment before my flight. The professor said that was fine and I would be helped with that as well, so I got on the first plane in full confidence.
When I landed, a day passed without either thing being handled, and that was fine by me, but then multiple days passed and the professor kind of just waved it off. I'd started to feel a little unwell and asked the professor to help me find a doctor and she said it was just jetlag.
One of the first days of the program we went to a restaurant, and the seating was a very small reserved room with our entire 20+ cohort in it. I have CPTSD and am claustrophobic and knew immediately that I did not want to sit there, so I asked the professor if she could help me ask the staff request a seat for me in the outside dining area, or, if one wasn't available, that I could just sit outside on a nearby bench and skip dinner. She told me the room was reserved for us and this was on the itinerary so I HAD to sit there, and when I again said I didn't think I could, she demanded I sit there again and condescendingly asked me if I really couldn't or just didn't want to. I started to cry as quietly as possible and then that suddenly made her understand, so we went outside and I explained that, in my opinion, trying to force any adult to do something they're uncomfortable with and have said "No" to is bad enough to me normally, but since I have a disability, it's also ableist. I tried to frame that sentiment in a "I'm sure you didn't mean it this way" kind of way but she still took offence to the criticism and I think that led to the rest of this.
After that happened I was feeling more ill and the professor said, "Oh, do you think it's lyme? Because if it was lyme you'd have a rash. It's probably still jetlag". At this point I said again that I needed some help getting a working phone number and medical advice from a doctor and she told me to take responsibility for myself. I'd bought myself a SIM card but it needed some unexpected trouble shooting and everything was in German (I know some German but only around A2 level and absolutely none is required for this program), so I'd already tried to help myself, and again could not schedule myself an appointment without a working phone.
I asked the professor if she could put her phone number in just to let the appointment scheduling process complete and she said no. I asked if she had any other ideas and she again told me to figure it out. I wound up walking 20 minutes through Berlin alone with no working phone to a doctor's office unannounced, barely able to fill half the sign in sheet and navigate the language barrier, and successfully got the antibiotics I needed and a lyme diagnosis. The nurse even asked why I came alone. Thankfully for me everyone in the doctors office including the doctor was very very nice to me despite the curveball I through them.
Not long after all that the professor sent an email with me cc'd in to the office of international affairs at the university, and the email said, in effect, "This student said they have a disability and can't stick to the itinerary and therefore I think they're not a good fit for this program and should go home." I immediately responded that that wasn't accurate, that I just could not sit inside a restaurant or other very cramped space, etc. Then I figured while I was at it I'd tell them about the total lack of care for my safety or wellbeing here. After sending that email the professor confronted me and tried to pretty much intimidate me into admitting everything was all my fault or something, I honestly have no clue, I think she was just upset and trying to make me feel better somehow. I think my criticism really got to her and made her kind of just hate me and that she wanted to make me make her feelings make sense. No clue honestly.
Anyway, after that the office of international affairs reached back out to me and were acting way nicer than they were when I first enrolled in this program, which felt sus, but I was haggard and miserable and wanted to be able to trust them so I did. They told me if I was considering coming home early for my own health and safety, that I could unenroll that night to make sure the alum who gave me a scholarship would at least be refunded, but that I had to do it that night since it was the last day to drop for a refund. I said I wasn't sure if I wanted to leave the program, and they said if you're considering it unenroll and if you want to stay after further discussion then we can probably just go ahead and re enroll you.
So I did it. The next day I'm scheduled to meet with someone who told me the day or so before that she would be my advocate and that she was there to listen to and represent me, and when I join the zoom meeting, it's her, but also two other people from the international affairs office. They're telling me my return flight has already been scheduled and everything and that they were sending out a person to chaperone me on the flight, because, though it was totally ignored on my flights here, I'd mentioned at the very start of the application process that I'd been a human trafficking victim before and ideally wanted to fly with someone instead of alone. All of this had less than a 24 hour turnaround from me unenrolling.
I realized hours after unenrolling that I don't want to leave the program, I just want to actually be allowed to engage in the program as it was advertised and as it was promised, and that leaving the program, to me, feels like capitulating to the professor being an asshole to me and like removing liability from the university. In short I think I pretty much got tricked into unenrolling. I told them I didn't want to leave early and they told me they already scheduled everything and got a refund for my hotel room, so if I don't take the flight back Friday, I will be homeless on the streets for 2 weeks until the flight that I personally purchased for the 31st, and that since I hit the unenroll button, my housing, health, or safety will no longer be the universities problem after Friday.
So, the fuck do I do with this, ya'll got any advice? I could really use some. Or even just some support haha.
TLDR: Got tricked into hitting unenroll button after damaging professors ego, most likely purposely tricked to absolve the university of responsibility because how the profs were treating me and everything I described probably did make me a liability even if not my fault, but I'm mad and I'm enjoying Berlin and don't want to leave or let the university get away with risking my health and safety multiple times with no apologies.
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