I was at the Marina Bay mall, in line at Watsons pharmacy, waiting to purchase my items. There were just 3 of us in line. I was second in line when I noticed my long hair being touched from behind (I'm a woman). I turned around to notice how close a stranger was to me. This woman was very close to me, almost glued to me. When I turned slightly to check, she had her phone pointed very close to my face as if I was being recorded or photographed, as if to provoke me. She was tiny and Asian but the phone covered her face so I could not see this person very clearly.
There was no one else in line and it was a spacious line. There would have been no reason for this stranger to stand so close to me. She continued to stand close to me until the moment I finished my payment at the cashier.
This happened about 1.5 weeks ago. I had been in Singapore for 5 days at that point and I knew that this was not common behaviour. Although I knew this was odd behaviour, I had never experienced it before and did not know how to react. I was hoping the cashier would pick up on it but he acted normally and in turn, so did I. I made my purchase and left. I didn't say anything and I didn't look back, I just moved onto my next destination.
In retrospect though, I am still processing it and trying to understand why someone would act this way. Were they trying to provoke me? Trying to steal from me? I even thought, is there a new scam where they can steal your credit card tap if they get really close to a person? Was this person being racist? I have a darker complexion (Mediterranean olive skin).
Just wondering if this has ever happened to anyone before?

(M,25)
Perhaps this will increase if Hinge’s new “your turn” limit…
I’m conscious women are inundated with matches / likes… But I was curious what causes men / women to unmatch especially midway during a conversation / out of the blue?
(i.e. I matched with someone yesterday, she asked for my best pun / pick up line and then unmatched straight after :/)

I truly think this is the reason why men and women have such a hard time understanding eachother.
Men try to optimize for survival. If its a 90% vs a 10% survival, we choose 90%. Women care about how it makes them feel. Will they be listened to if they pick the 10%? Will they know the motive of the 10% choice better than 90%? Will it make people think shes brave by picking the 10%?
Every women defending the bear vs man has said something along the line of "atleast we will be believed when a bear attacks us :)" or "I know what a bear wants so it wont be a surprise".
Its never about the result for women. Its about the emotion.

Looking for feedback/sharing of personal experience if comfortable.
I (29 non-binary/bi) came out to my husband (41M) two days ago. For context, we’ve been together 8 years and married 7. I come from a far-right fundamentalist Christian background. My husband was United Church of Christ — raised in a traditional family set up, but doctrinally much more fluid with an emphasis on extending love. But his parents are very homophobic — both in their 80s raised in rural areas, one room school house, the works. When we met, I was very straightforward that I’m a strong supporter of LGBTQ+ as many of my friends have been out for over a decade. His mindset is just live and let live.
Since having our son 3y ago, the traditionalism that he walked away from came back with a force. The exact opposite desires for our life compared to what we mutually agreed upon when we met and married. It’s gotten worse over the last two years with media influence. He’s now openly homophobic and misogynistic in ways I’ve never seen before. But I’ve enforced that I will not stop working and expect a fair division of labor. We’re still working on the latter part…
Coming out went better than expected in some ways. My biggest fear was instant rejection and him wanting to immediately divorce. That didn’t happen and he remained calm during the conversation. BUT he told me my sexuality and non-binary orientations are a mental illness. I’m already in therapy — he’s wanting me to “work out of this rebellious phase” with my therapist. He’s angry that I keep my hair in a very short “boy cut” — states I should have the desire to please his preferences for long hair as that’s my duty as a spouse. I discussed basic information points about it not being choice, body autonomy, my expectations and love for him are related to his inner person not outer presentation. He couldn’t understand any of it.
I’m willing to keep working on things. I want to give him time to process and see if he can truly love every part of me instead of just acknowledge this part of me but ultimately wanting to ignore it. I know we need to talk about how he’s processing his masculinity with my coming out. And I want us to have open discourse. I need to know his true feelings and the likelihood of him being able to partner with me as an ally. I know I can’t stay in a relationship where my partner finds me mentally ill/making a choice as the sadness and depression of that rejection is not healthy.
Anyone have experience of coming out to those who are traditional? What happened? Any success stories? If things didn’t improve, what was your experience in moving on?
Sorry for the long post — lots going on.
Side note — my husband has been chronically ill for over a decade. I do a lot for him with caretaking during flares of his disease. We’re at the cusp of a secondary diagnoses. It is likely Multiple Sclerosis. If this is the case, I don’t know if I could leave him. I truly want to be his supporter and offer him comfort/care if this gets diagnosed. Just adding to my inner turmoil processing things.

You should avoid having sex until your treatment is complete and the infection is cured. If you’re diagnosed with chlamydia, your health care provider will probably prescribe an antibiotic. It’s important to make sure that you take the antibiotic exactly as directed for as long as it’s prescribed, even if your symptoms go away. It’s also important to let your sex partner(s) know that you have chlamydia so they can get tested and treated, too.
Chlamydia is a sexually transmitted infection that’s caused by a type of bacteria called chlamydia trachomatis. Both women and men can get it by having unprotected vaginal or anal sex with an infected partner. It can also be spread from a woman to her fetus during birth, and rarely, from the hand to the eye and, less likely, during unprotected oral sex. Each year, more than three million people of all ages become infected with chlamydia.
You can avoid getting chlamydia the same way that you reduce your risk of getting other sexually transmitted infections — by abstaining from the things that transmit infections, or by practicing safer sex if you’re sexually active. Condoms greatly reduce the risk of chlamydia during vaginal and anal sex. For safer oral sex, use a condom to cover the penis or a Glyde dam, cut-open condom, or plastic wrap to cover the vulva.

So, I saw a post where someone asked if making a promise to God was a sin if broken and many have said that it is (I'm not sure if it's a mortal sin or genial) but I realized that I do this quite often in my nightly prayers. For example when I end off my prayer I tell God that "I promise I will try to be a better person/christain" something along those lines but I never mean like to make a covenant with God. I just mean like I'll try to do better and I know that I will like break this promise because it's not easy to change your ways. Another question is whether making sly remarks to try to be funny or even talking about someone's appearance whether there hair looks funny but not in a mean way or anything like I'm just stating what I see truthfully and make a little laugh if I think it's funny. I'm not trying to be mean because I am someone who comes off as mean of harsh (so I have been told by my parents and siblings) like the way I say thing are direct and a bit abrasive like straight to the point and many would think I am being disrespectful but I don't mean anything by it and my family knows I don't mean anything by it, and it's not something I can really change it's just how I grew up my whole life and I was kinda surrounded by people like this an In public I try to be as nice as possible. Do you think I am overthinking things (I have been told by many people on this forum that I am a scruplous person) or should I go to confession (the problem is I really don't know what to say to confess it) I also plan on going to confession this week because it's been a month since my last one.

The Characteristics Of Al-Mu’tasim
Foolishness
Al-Mu’tasim was foolish. Historians described him that when he became angry, he did not care whom he killed or what he did.
Dislike Of Knowledge
Al-Mu’tasim disliked knowledge and hated learned people. There was a servant with him who read with him in the book. The servant died and ar-Rasheed said to al-Mu'tasim, ‘O Muhammad, your servant died.’ Al-Mu'tasim said, ‘O yes, my master! He died and rested from the book.’ Ar-Rasheed said, ‘The book will rest from you. (to his men) Leave him! Do not teach him!’ Al-Mu'tasim remained illiterate. When he became the caliph, he did not know reading and writing and his vizier was unlearned. Ahmed bin Aamir described him by saying, ‘An illiterate caliph and an unlearned vizier.’3 He was divested of knowledge, virtue, and any good quality, by which he was supposed to deserve the caliphate in Islam that was the highest and most important position on which justice and equity among people depended. Al-Mu'tasim’s heart was full of spite and malice against Imam al- Jawad (a.s). He burst with rage whenever he heard the virtues and exploits of Imam al-Jawad (a.s) being mentioned. His envy towards him had led him to assassinate him as we shall explain later on.
Bringing Imam Al-Jawad To Baghdad
Al-Mu'tasim had ordered Imam al-Jawad (a.s) to come to Baghdad and he arrived in it in Muharram, 220 AH.9 When Imam al-Jawad (a.s) came to Baghdad, al-Mu'tasim house- arrested him to know all his affairs and activities. He ordered his men to watch him and he prevented him from connecting with his followers and those who believed in his imamate. Mu'tasim ordered Umm al-Fadhl to poison the Imam, and her brother Ja'far ibn Ma'mun, the accursed one, also helped and provoked her. she poisonedn bunch of grapes, and placed it in front of him. When the Imam had eaten from it, she regretted and went on to cry. He-asws said: ‘What makes you cry? By Allah-azwj! May Allah-azwj Strike you with sterility not to be restored, and affliction which cannot be veiled!’ She died in an illness, a hole appeared in the most covered of places of her body parts (private part). She spent her wealth and entirety of what she had owned, upon that illness, to the extent that she became needy to be nourished. And it is reported that the hole was in her private part. The accursed Umm al-Fadhl also contracted leprosy and descended into Hell in disgrace in the desert, and the dogs tore her body apart.
hemlock poison, whose characteristic was that it made the blessed feet of the Imam so heavy that he could no longer walk, and it made the Imam extremely thirsty, such that like his forefather Imam al Husayn a.s he said: 'Al-Atash, al-Atash' (The thirst, the thirst)... The wicked Umm al-Fadhl ordered the maids to beat drums and tambourines and dance so that his voice would not reach anyone's ears. Finally, Imam Jawad, peace be upon him, was martyred in loneliness on the dirt of his room while in exile. For three days, his blessed body remained on the rooftop of the house, and after that, Umm al-Fadhl threw the pure body down from the roof to the ground. The Shias took the blessed corpse and buried it on the 2nd of Dhu al-Hijjah in the presence of Imam al Hadi, peace be upon him.
‘When allegiance was pledged to Al-Mutasim, he went on to check his situation. He wrote to Abdul Malik Al-Zayyat to dispatch to him Al-Taqi-asws and Umm Fazl. Al-Zayyat dispatched Ali Bin Yaqteen to him-asws. He-asws prepared and went out to Baghdad. He honoured him-asws, and revered him-asws, and sent Ashnas bearing the gifts to him-asws and to Umm Al-Fazl Then he sent a drink of citron juice to him-asws under his seal upon the hands of Ashnas. He said, ‘Commander of the faithful has got Ahmad Bin Abu Dawood, and Saeed Bin Al-Khaeyb, and a group from the well-known people to taste it, and he orders you-asws to drink from it with the water of snow, and he has made it just now, and he says, ‘Drink it at night’. He-asws said: ‘It is beneficial (when) cold, and the snow has melted’. And he insisted upon that, so he-asws drank it knowing of their deeds. (The book) ‘Al Manaqib’ of Ibn Shehr Ashub –V4 p 416
وَ لَمَّا بُويِعَ الْمُعْتَصِمُ جَعَلَ يَتَفَقَّدُ أَحْوَالَهُ فَكَتَبَ إِلَى عَبْدِ الْمَلِكِ الزَّيَّاتِ أَنْ يُنْفِذَ إِلَيْهِ التَّقِيَّ وَ أُمَّ الْفَضْلِ فَأَنْفَذَ ابْنُ الزَّيَّاتِ عَلِيَّ بْنَ يَقْطِينٍ إِلَيْهِ فَتَجَهَّزَ وَ خَرَجَ إِلَى بَغْدَادَ فَأَكْرَمَهُ وَ عَظَّمَهُ وَ أَنْفَذَ أُشْنَاسَ بِالتُّحَفِ إِلَيْهِ وَ إِلَى أُمِّ الْفَضْلِ ثُمَّ أَنْفَذَ إِلَيْهِ شَرَابَ حُمَّاضِ الْأُتْرُجِّ تَحْتَ خَتْمِهِ عَلَى يَدَيِ أُشْنَاسٍ وَ قَالَ إِنَّ أَمِيرَ الْمُؤْمِنِينَ ذَاقَهُ قِبَلَ أَحْمَدَ بْنِ أَبِي دَاوُدَ وَ سَعْدِ بْنِ الْخَصِيبِ وَ جَمَاعَةٍ مِنَ الْمَعْرُوفِينَ وَ يَأْمُرُكَ أَنْ تَشْرَبَ مِنْهَا بِمَاءِ الثَّلْجِ وَ صَنَعَ فِي الْحَالِ فَقَالَ اشْرَبْهَا بِاللَّيْلِ قَالَ إِنَّهَا يَنْفَعُ بَارِداً وَ قَدْ ذَابَ الثَّلْجُ وَ أَصَرَّ عَلَى ذَلِكَ فَشَرِبَهَا عَالِماً بِفِعْلِهِم « مناقب آل ابیطالب ج ۴ ص ۴۱۶، بحار الانوار ج ۵۰ ص ۸، منتهی الآمال ص ۱۸۰۵»
(The book) ‘Uyoon Al Mojizaat’ – ‘When Abu Ja’far-asws and his-asws wife, the daughter of Al-Mamoun went out as pilgrims, and Abu Al-Hassan-asws brought out his-asws son Ali-asws, and he-asws was young, he-asws left him-asws behind in Al-Medina, and submitted to him-asws the inheritances, and the weapons, and texted upon him-asws in the witnessing of his-asws trusted ones and his-asws companions, and he-asws left to go to Al-Iraq, and with him-asws was his-asws wife, daughter of Al-Mamoun. And Al-Mamoun had gone out to a city of Rome, and he died at Al-Badeyroun during Rajab of the year two hundred and eighteen, and that was during the sixteenth year from the Imamate of Abu Ja’far-asws. And Al-Mutasim Abu Is’haq Muhammad Bin Haroun was pledge allegiance to during Shaman of the year two hundred and eighteen. Then Al-Mutasim went on to plot in killing Abu Ja’far-asws, and indicated to his-asws wife, the daughter of Al-Mamoun, that she should poison him, because he was aware of her turning away from Abu Ja’far-asws, and the intensity of her jealousy upon him-azwj due to his-asws preferring the mother-as of his-asws son-asws Abu Al-Hassan-asws over her, and because she was not graced with any child from him-asws. She answer him to that and went on to poison in a bunch of grapes, and she placed it in front of him. When he-asws had eaten from it, she regretted and went on to cry. He-asws said: ‘What makes you cry? By Allah-azwj! May Allah-azwj Strike you with sterility not to be restored, and affliction which cannot be veiled!’ She died in an illness, a hole appeared in the most covered of places of her body parts (private part). She spent her wealth and entirety of what she had owned, upon that illness, to the extent that she became needy to be nourished. And it is reported that the hole was in her private part. And he-asws passed away during the year two hundred and twenty from the Hijrah during the day of Tuesday of the fifth (day) vacant from Zil Hijjah, and for him-asws were twenty-four years and some months, because heasws was blessed (to his-asws parents-asws) in the year one hundred and ninety-five
Bihar Al Anwaar – V 50, The book of History – Muhammad Bin Ali-asws, Ch 1 H 26
لَمَّا خَرَجَ أَبُو جَعْفَرٍ عليهالسلام وَ زَوْجَتُهُ ابْنَةُ الْمَأْمُونِ حَاجّاً وَ خَرَجَ أَبُو الْحَسَنِ عَلِيٌّ ابْنُهُ عليهالسلام وَ هُوَ صَغِيرٌ فَخَلَّفَهُ فِي الْمَدِينَةِ وَ سَلَّمَ إِلَيْهِ الْمَوَارِيثَ وَ السِّلَاحَ وَ نَصَّ عَلَيْهِ بِمَشْهَدِ ثِقَاتِهِ وَ أَصْحَابِهِ وَ انْصَرَفَ إِلَى الْعِرَاقِ وَ مَعَهُ زَوْجَتُهُ ابْنَةُ الْمَأْمُونِ وَ كَانَ خَرَجَ الْمَأْمُونُ إِلَى بِلَادِ الرُّومِ فَمَاتَ بالبديرون فِي رَجَبٍ سَنَةَ ثَمَانَ عَشْرَةَ وَ مِائَتَيْنِ وَ ذَلِكَ فِي سِتَّ عَشْرَةَ سَنَةً مِنْ إِمَامَةِ أَبِي جَعْفَرٍعليهالسلام وَ بُويِعَ الْمُعْتَصِمُ أَبُو إِسْحَاقَ مُحَمَّدُ بْنُ هَارُونَ فِي شَعْبَانَ مِنْ سَنَةِ ثَمَانَ عَشْرَةَ وَ مِائَتَيْنِ ثُمَّ إِنَّ الْمُعْتَصِمَ جَعَلَ يَعْمَلُ الْحِيلَةَ فِي قَتْلِ أَبِي جَعْفَرٍعليهالسلام وَ أَشَارَ عَلَى ابْنَةِ الْمَأْمُونِ زَوْجَتِهِ بِأَنْ تَسُمَّهُ لِأَنَّهُ وَقَفَ عَلَى انْحِرَافِهَا عَنْ أَبِي جَعْفَرٍعليهالسلام وَ شِدَّةِ غَيْرَتِهَا عَلَيْهِ لِتَفْضِيلِهِ أُمَّ أَبِي الْحَسَنِ ابْنِهِ عَلَيْهَا وَ لِأَنَّهُ لَمْ يُرْزَقْ مِنْهَا وَلَدٌ فَأَجَابَتْهُ إِلَى ذَلِكَ وَ جَعَلَتْ سَمّاً فِي عِنَبٍ رَازِقِيٍّ وَ وَضَعَتْهُ بَيْنَ يَدَيْهِ فَلَمَّا أَكَلَ مِنْهُ نَدِمَتْ وَ جَعَلَتْ تَبْكِي فَقَالَ مَا بُكَاؤُكِ وَ اللَّهِ لَيَضْرِبَنَّكِ اللَّهُ بِعَقْرٍ لَا يَنْجَبِرُ وَ بَلَاءٍ لَا يَنْسَتِرُ فَمَاتَتْ بِعِلَّةٍ فِي أَغْمَضِ الْمَوَاضِعِ مِنْ جَوَارِحِهَا صَارَتْ نَاصُوراً فَأَنْفَقَتْ مَالَهَا وَ جَمِيعَ مَا مَلَكَتْهُ عَلَى تِلْكَ الْعِلَّةِ حَتَّى احْتَاجَتْ إِلَى الِاسْتِرْفَادِ وَ رُوِيَ أَنَّ النَّاصُورَ كَانَ فِي فَرْجِهَا وَ قُبِضَ عليهالسلام فِي سَنَةِ عِشْرِينَ وَ مِائَتَيْنِ مِنَ الْهِجْرَةِ فِي يَوْمِ الثَّلَاثَاءِ لِخَمْسٍ خَلَوْنَ مِنْ ذِي الْحِجَّةِ وَ لَهُ أَرْبَعٌ وَ عِشْرُونَ سَنَةً وَ شُهُورٌ لِأَنَّ مَوْلِدَهُ كَانَ فِي سَنَةِ خَمْسٍ وَ تِسْعِينَ وَ مِائَةٍ.. «
عيون المعجزات، ص ۱۲۹، اثبات الوصیه ۲۱۹، دلائل الامامیه ص ۳۹۵، بحار الانوار ج ۵۰ ص ۱۶؛ جلاءالعیون ص ۹۶۷، منتهی الآمال ص ۱۸۰۴»
Cause of Imam’s martyrdom
It is mentioned in Tafsir Ayyashi that a man named Zarqan was a close friend of Qadi Ibne Abi Dawud. He narrates: One day when Qadi Ibne Abi Dawud came to me, he was highly distraught. I asked him what the matter was and he told me in a plaintive tone, “Alas! If I had only passed away twenty years ago instead of being humiliated!” When I asked him to explain, he said, “Today, Abu Ja’far Muhammad Ibne Ali humiliated me in the presence of the chief of believers, Mutasim.” “What happened exactly?” I asked. “A thief came to the chief of believers and said: I am a thief. Please issue the Islamic penalty to me and purify from my sin.” Mutasim summoned all the jurists including Abu Ja’far Muhammad Taqi and asked us from where the hand should be chopped. I told him from the wrist. When the Caliph asked me for the proof, I said that the Quran has mentioned cutting off the hand of the thief and the word of ‘yad’ implies the hand from the wrist as mentioned in the verse of Tayammum: “…then wipe your faces and your hands…”Surah Nisa 4:43 And the whole nation has consensus that here the word of ‘yad’ implies the hand from the wrist. So it similarly applies for the thief as well and his hand must be cut from the wrist. For some time there was dispute among the jurists with regard to my verdict and some suggested that his hand should be cut off from the elbow relying on the verse of ablution: “…and your hands as far as the elbows…”Surah Maidah 5:6 After that Caliph Mutasim glanced at Imam Muhammad Taqi (a) and said, “Abu Ja’far, what is your opinion regarding this issue?” “The jurists of the community have mentioned their views; now what is the need of my opinion?” Inspite of his reluctance, the Caliphate insisted. He said, “If you are insisting so much; then listen: all the jurists have erred and issued a verdict that is opposed to the Sunnah. The Islamic legal penalty for the thief is that his four fingers must be cut off from the root leaving his palm intact.” “What is your reasoning for that? Mutasim asked. “It is the statement of Messenger of Allah (s) that during prostration (Sajdah) comprises placing the following seven parts of the body on the floor: forehead, both hands, both knees and toes of both feet. If the hand is amputed from the wrist how that person would perform Sajdah? Whereas Almighty Allah has mentioned in Surah Jinn: “And the places of prostration are Allah’s…”Surah Jinn 72:18 It implies the parts placed in Sajdah. “…therefore call not upon any one with Allah.”Surah Jinn 72:18 That is along with those places of prostration do not include anyone else with Allah. Hence whatever comes into the ownership of Allah cannot be cut off.” Mutasim was highly impressed at this reasoning and he ruled that the fingers of that thief be cut off. I was shattered by this verdict and I wished that I had died before issuing such a judgment and facing such humiliation. Zarqan says: That same Qadi visited Mutasim after two days and said: I am here because of my concern for you and I also know that as a result of that my abode shall in Hell. “What do you mean?” asked Mutasim. Qadi said, “O chief of believers, when you gather the scholars and jurists in your court and inquire about their legal verdicts, at that time not only scholars are present, on the contrary, your family members, ministers and your scribes etc are also present and later on these reports are circulated all over the country. But last time you really did something extraordinary! Ignoring the views of all the scholars and jurists of the Ummah, you adopted the verdict of Abu Ja’far. Whereas you should have taken into consideration the fact that from before also a large number of people from the nation believe in his Imamate and they imagine that you have usurped power that was rightfully Abu Ja’far’s. In spite of that you overlooked the verdicts of all the jurists and applied his opinion. This would weaken the foundations of your rule.” Mutasim’s became terribly infuriated and he said, “You have rendered a good advice; may God give you a good reward.” After that the Caliph ordered his minister to invite Abu Ja’far for dinner and poison the food. So that minister invited the Imam for dinner, but the Imam excused himself. The minister said, “We have only invited you for dinner, so that your presence would bring auspiciousness from God and so and so ministers of the Caliph would also like to meet you.” Finally the Imam attended the dinner and then realized that the food was poisoned. He asked them for the mount in order to return, but the host said, “Why the haste? Please stay some more.” Imam said, “It is better that I leave your place and go home.” After that he was in severe pain for a day and then finally passed away Tafsir Ayyashi, Vol. 1, Pg. 319; Biharul Anwar, Vol. 50, Pg. 5.
: الشيخ محمد بن مسعود العيّاشي في تفسيره:
باسناده عن زرقان صاحب ابن أبي داود و صديقه بشدّة قال: رجع ابن أبي داود ذات يوم من عند المعتصم و هو مغتمّ، فقلت له في ذلك، فقال:
وددت اليوم أنّي قدمت منذ عشرين سنة! قال: قلت له: و لم ذاك؟ قال:
لما كان هذا من الأسود! أبي جعفر محمّد بن عليّ بن موسى- (عليهم السلام)- اليوم بين يدي أمير المؤمنين [المعتصم] .
قال: قلت له: و كيف كان ذلك؟
قال: إنّ سارقا أقرّ على نفسه بالسرقة، و سأل الخليفة تطهيره بإقامة الحدّ عليه، فجمع لذلك الفقهاء في مجلسه، و قد أحضر محمد بن عليّ- (عليهما السلام)-، فسألنا عن القطع في أيّ موضع يجب أن يقطع؟ قال:
فقلت: من الكرسوع، قال: و ما الحجّة في ذلك؟ قال: قلت: لأنّ اليد هي الأصابع و الكفّ إلى الكرسوع، لقول اللّه في التيمّم: فَامْسَحُوا بِوُجُوهِكُمْ وَ أَيْدِيكُمْ [ النساء: 43.]، و اتّفق معي على ذلك قوم.
و قال آخرون: بل يجب القطع من المرفق، قال: و ما الدليل على ذلك؟ قالوا: لأنّ اللّه لمّا قال: وَ أَيْدِيَكُمْ إِلَى الْمَرافِقِ [المائدة: 6] في الغسل دلّ ذلك أنّ حدّ اليد هو المرفق، قال: فالتفت الي محمد بن عليّ- (عليه السلام)- فقال: ما تقول في هذا يا أبا جعفر؟ فقال: قد تكلّم القوم فيه يا أمير المؤمنين [قال: دعني ممّا تكلّموا به، أيّ شيء عندك؟ قال: اعفني عن هذا يا أمير المؤمنين] قال: أقسمت عليك باللّه [لما أخبرت بما عندك فيه، فقال- (عليه السلام)-: أمّا إذا أقسمت عليّ باللّه] إنّي أقول: إنّهم أخطئوا فيه السنّة، فانّ القطع يجب أن يكون من مفصل اصول الأصابع، فيترك الكفّ، قال: و ما الحجّة في ذلك؟
قال: قول رسول اللّه- (صلّى اللّه عليه و آله)-: «السجود على سبعة أعضاء الوجه و اليدين و الركبتين و الرجلين»، فإذا قطعت يده من الكرسوع أو المرفق لم يبق له يد يسجد عليها، و قد قال اللّه تعالى: وَ أَنَّ الْمَساجِدَ لِلَّهِ- يعني به هذه الأعضاء السبعة التي يسجد عليها- فَلا تَدْعُوا مَعَ اللَّهِ أَحَداً الجنّ: 18. و ما كان للّه لم يقطع، قال: فأعجب المعتصم ذلك، و أمر بقطع يد السارق من مفصل الأصابع دون الكفّ.
قال ابن أبي داود: قامت قيامتي و تمنّيت أنّي لم أك [حيّا] قال زرقان: إنّ ابن أبي داود قال: صرت إلى المعتصم بعد ثالثة ، فقلت: إنّ نصيحة أمير المؤمنين عليّ واجبة، و أنا اكلّمه بما أعلم أنّي أدخل به النار، قال: و ما هو؟ قلت: إذا جمع أمير المؤمنين في مجلسه فقهاء رعيّته و علمائهم لأمر واقع من امور الدين، فسألهم عن الحكم فيه فأخبروه بما عندهم من الحكم في ذلك، و قد حضر مجلسه [أهل بيته] و قوّاده و وزرائه و كتّابه، و قد تسامع الناس بذلك من وراء بابه، ثمّ يترك أقاويلهم كلّهم لقول رجل يقول شطر هذه الامّة بإمامته، و يزعمون أنّه أولى منه بمقامه، ثمّ يحكم بحكمه دون حكم الفقهاء؟!
قال: فتغيّر لونه و انتبه لما نبّهته له و قال: جزاك اللّه عن نصيحتك خيرا، قال: فأمر اليوم الرابع الامراء من كتّابه و وزرائه [4] بأن يدعوه إلى منزله، فدعاه فأبى أن يجيبه و قال: قد علمت أنّي لا أحضر مجالسكم.
فقال: إنّي إنّما أدعوك إلى الطعام، و احبّ أن تطأ ببابي و تدخل منزلي فأتبرّك بذلك، و قد أحبّ فلان بن فلان من وزراء الخليفة [لقائك] ، فصار إليه.
فلمّا طعم منها أحسّ السمّ، فدعا بدابّته فسأله ربّ المنزل أن يقيم، قال: خروجي من دارك خير لك، فلم يزل يومه ذلك و ليله في حلقه [في المصدر: في خلفه، و قال محقّق البحار: إنّ الصحيح في خلفة و هو بالكسر: الهيضة، و هي انطلاق البطن و القيء.] حتّى قبض- (عليه السلام)- تفسير العيّاشي: 1: 319 ح 109 و عنه البحار: 50/ 5 ح 7 و ج 79/ 190 ح 33 و ج 85/ 128 و الوسائل: 18/ 490 ح 5 و حلية الأبرار: 4/ 580 ح 2.
ـ أَحْمَدُ بْنُ إِدْرِيسَ عَنْ مُحَمَّدِ بْنِ حَسَّانَ عَنْ أَبِي هَاشِمٍ الْجَعْفَرِيِّ قَالَ صَلَّيْتُ مَعَ ابي جعفر (عَلَيْهِ السَّلام) فِي مَسْجِدِ الْمُسَيَّبِ وَصَلَّى بِنَا فِي مَوْضِعِ الْقِبْلَةِ سَوَاءً وَذُكِرَ أَنَّ السِّدْرَةَ الَّتِي فِي الْمَسْجِدِ كَانَتْ يَابِسَةً لَيْسَ عَلَيْهَا وَرَقٌ فَدَعَا بِمَاءٍ وَتَهَيَّأَ تَحْتَ السِّدْرَةِ فَعَاشَتِ السِّدْرَةُ وَأَوْرَقَتْ وَحَمَلَتْ مِنْ عَامِهَا.

1. Ahmad ibn Idris has narrated from from Muhammad ibn Hassa’n from abu Hashim Ali-Ja‘fari who has said the following. “Once I prayed with abu Ja‘far (a.s.) in the Mosque of Ali-Musayyib. He lead the prayer with us and as to the direction of Makka he stood up facing straight. He also has said that a berry tree that was in the Mosque had dried up and had no leaves. The Imam (a.s.) asked for water and prepared himself under that tree for prayer. The berry tree came alive with leaves and fruits in that year.”

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ـ الْحُسَيْنُ بْنُ مُحَمَّدٍ عَنْ مُعَلَّى بْنِ مُحَمَّدٍ عَنْ أَحْمَدَ بْنِ مُحَمَّدِ بْنِ عَبْدِ الله عَنْ مُحَمَّدِ بْنِ سِنَانٍ قَالَ دَخَلْتُ عَلَى أَبِي الْحَسَنِ (عَلَيْهِ السَّلام) فَقَالَ يَا مُحَمَّدُ حَدَثَ بِآلِ فَرَجٍ حَدَثٌ فَقُلْتُ مَاتَ عُمَرُ فَقَالَ الْحَمْدُ لله حَتَّى أَحْصَيْتُ لَهُ أَرْبَعاً وَعِشْرِينَ مَرَّةً فَقُلْتُ يَا سَيِّدِي لَوْ عَلِمْتُ أَنَّ هَذَا يَسُرُّكَ لَجِئْتُ حَافِياً أَعْدُو إِلَيْكَ قَالَ يَا مُحَمَّدُ أَ وَلا تَدْرِي مَا قَالَ لَعَنَهُ الله لِمُحَمَّدِ بْنِ عَلِيٍّ أَبِي قَالَ قُلْتُ لا قَالَ خَاطَبَهُ فِي شَيْءٍ فَقَالَ أَظُنُّكَ سَكْرَانَ فَقَالَ أَبِي اللهمَّ إِنْ كُنْتَ تَعْلَمُ أَنِّي أَمْسَيْتُ لَكَ صَائِماً فَأَذِقْهُ طَعْمَ الْحَرْبِ وَذُلَّ الاسْرِ فَوَ الله إِنْ ذَهَبَتِ الايَّامُ حَتَّى حُرِبَ مَالُهُ وَمَا كَانَ لَهُ ثُمَّ أُخِذَ أَسِيراً وَهُوَ ذَا قَدْ مَاتَ لا رَحِمَهُ الله وَقَدْ أَدَالَ الله عَزَّ وَجَلَّ مِنْهُ وَمَا زَالَ يُدِيلُ أَوْلِيَاءَهُ مِنْ أَعْدَائِهِ.
. Al-Husayn ibn Muhammad has narrated from Mu‘alla ibn Muhammad from Ahmad ibn Muhammad ibn ‘Abdallah from Muhammad ibn Sinan who has said the following. “Once I went to see abu al-Hassan (a.s.). He said, “O Muhammad, has something happened to the family of al-Faraj (the governor of al-Madina )?” I said, “Yes, ‘Umar (a member of al-Faraj family) has died.” The Imam (a.s.) said, “All thanks and praise belongs to Allah.” He said it twenty four times. I then said, “My master, had known it would make you this happy I would have come to running and bare foot with the news (to congratulate you).” The Imam (a.s.) said, “Do you not know what he –may Allah condemn him- once had said to Muhammad ibn Ali, my father?” The narrator has said that I said, “No, I do not know it.” The Imam (a.s.) said, “He spoke to my father about an issue and then said to him, “I think you are drunk.” My father then had said, “O Lord, if you know that I have been fasting this day, then make him test the taste of al-A ‘war, and the humiliation of captivity.” By Allah, in just a few days his belongings were looted and he was captured and know he is dead-may Allah deprive him of His mercy. Allah, the Most Majestic, the Most gracious, has exacted revenge from him and He continues to exact revenge for His friends from His enemies.
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ـ عَلِيُّ بْنُ إِبْرَاهِيمَ عَنْ أَبِيهِ قَالَ اسْتَأْذَنَ عَلَى ابي جعفر (عَلَيْهِ السَّلام) قَوْمٌ مِنْ أَهْلِ النَّوَاحِي مِنَ الشِّيعَةِ فَأَذِنَ لَهُمْ فَدَخَلُوا فَسَأَلُوهُ فِي مَجْلِسٍ وَاحِدٍ عَنْ ثَلاثِينَ أَلْفَ مَسْأَلَةٍ فَأَجَابَ (عَلَيْهِ السَّلام) وَلَهُ عَشْرُ سِنِينَ.

1. Ali ibn Ibrahim has narrated from his father who has said the following. “Once a group of Shi‘a from the suburbs asked permission to meet abu Ja‘far (a.s.). He granted them permission and they came in his presence. In one meeting they asked him thirty thousand questions. He answered them all and at that time he was ten years old.”

Al-Kāfi - Volume 1, The Birth of Abu Ja‘far, Muhammad ibn Ali, the Second (a.s.), Hadith 7
ـ عَلِيُّ بْنُ مُحَمَّدٍ عَنْ سَهْلِ بْنِ زِيَادٍ عَنْ دَاوُدَ بْنِ الْقَاسِمِ الْجَعْفَرِيِّ قَالَ دَخَلْتُ عَلَى ابي جعفر (عَلَيْهِ السَّلام) وَمَعِي ثَلاثُ رِقَاعٍ غَيْرُ مُعَنْوَنَةٍ وَاشْتَبَهَتْ عَلَيَّ فَاغْتَمَمْتُ فَتَنَاوَلَ إِحْدَاهُمَا وَقَالَ هَذِهِ رُقْعَةُ زِيَادِ بْنِ شَبِيبٍ ثُمَّ تَنَاوَلَ الثَّانِيَةَ فَقَالَ هَذِهِ رُقْعَةُ فُلانٍ فَبُهِتُّ أَنَا فَنَظَرَ إِلَيَّ فَتَبَسَّمَ قَالَ وَأَعْطَانِي ثَلاثَمِائَةِ دِينَارٍ وَأَمَرَنِي أَنْ أَحْمِلَهَا إِلَى بَعْضِ بَنِي عَمِّهِ وَقَالَ أَمَا إِنَّهُ سَيَقُولُ لَكَ دُلَّنِي عَلَى حَرِيفٍ يَشْتَرِي لِي بِهَا مَتَاعاً فَدُلَّهُ عَلَيْهِ قَالَ فَأَتَيْتُهُ بِالدَّنَانِيرِ فَقَالَ لِي يَا أَبَا هَاشِمٍ دُلَّنِي عَلَى حَرِيفٍ يَشْتَرِي لِي بِهَا مَتَاعاً فَقُلْتُ نَعَمْ قَالَ وَكَلَّمَنِي جَمَّالٌ أَنْ أُكَلِّمَهُ لَهُ يُدْخِلُهُ فِي بَعْضِ أُمُورِهِ فَدَخَلْتُ عَلَيْهِ لاكَلِّمَهُ لَهُ فَوَجَدْتُهُ يَأْكُلُ وَمَعَهُ جَمَاعَةٌ وَلَمْ يُمْكِنِّي كَلامَهُ فَقَالَ يَا أَبَا هَاشِمٍ كُلْ وَوَضَعَ بَيْنَ يَدَيَّ ثُمَّ قَالَ ابْتِدَاءً مِنْهُ مِنْ غَيْرِ مَسْأَلَةٍ يَا غُلامُ انْظُرْ إِلَى الْجَمَّالِ الَّذِي أَتَانَا بِهِ أَبُو هَاشِمٍ فَضُمَّهُ إِلَيْكَ قَالَ وَدَخَلْتُ مَعَهُ ذَاتَ يَوْمٍ بُسْتَاناً فَقُلْتُ لَهُ جُعِلْتُ فِدَاكَ إِنِّي لَمُولَعٌ بِأَكْلِ الطِّينِ فَادْعُ الله لِي فَسَكَتَ ثُمَّ قَالَ لِي بَعْدَ ثَلاثَةِ أَيَّامٍ ابْتِدَاءً مِنْهُ يَا أَبَا هَاشِمٍ قَدْ أَذْهَبَ الله عَنْكَ أَكْلَ الطِّينِ قَالَ أَبُو هَاشِمٍ فَمَا شَيْءٌ أَبْغَضَ إِلَيَّ مِنْهُ الْيَوْمَ.

1. Ali ibn Muhammad has narrated from Sahl ibn zd from Dawud ibn al-Qasim al-Ja‘fari who has said the following “Once I went to see abu Ja‘far (a.s.) and I had a few questions on three pieces of materials with proper markings and they were mixed as such that I could not distinguish. I felt sad. He picked one and said, “This is the letter of Ziyad ibn Shabib.” Then he picked up the other one and said, “.This is the letter of so and so.” I became awe struck. He looked at me and smiled.” The narrator has said that the Imam (a.s.) then gave me three hundred Dinars and asked me to deliver them to the certain persons of the sons of his uncle and said, “He will ask you to show him a professional person who would help him to buy goods, help show him one.” The narrator has said that I then went to him and gave him the Dinars and asked me, “O abu Hashim, can you show me a professional person who would help me to buy goods.” I said, “Yes, I can do so.” The narrator has said that a camel man asked me to speak on his behalf to abu Ja‘far (a.s.) to take part in certain matters of his affairs. I went to see him (abu Ja‘far (a.s.) to speak to him but he was having meal with a group of people and I did not get a chance to speak to him. He (abu Ja‘far (a.s.) said, “O abu Hashim, eat. He placed food before me. Then he said, initiating and without any question from me, “O slave, take good care of the camel-man that abu Hashim has brought for us. Keep him with you.” The narrator has said that one day I entered a garden along with him and said, “May Allah take my soul in service for your cause, I am addicted to eating fig. Pray to Allah for me.” He was quite and then after three day on his own initiation he said, “O abu Hashim, “Allah has removed your addiction.” Ever since it is the thing that I hate most.”

Al-Kāfi - Volume 1, The Birth of Abu Ja‘far, Muhammad ibn Ali, the Second (a.s.), Hadith : 4
ـ عَلِيُّ بْنُ مُحَمَّدٍ عَنْ بَعْضِ أَصْحَابِنَا عَنْ مُحَمَّدِ بْنِ الرَّيَّانِ قَالَ احْتَالَ الْمَأْمُونُ عَلَى ابي جعفر (عَلَيْهِ السَّلام) بِكُلِّ حِيلَةٍ فَلَمْ يُمْكِنْهُ فِيهِ شَيْءٌ فَلَمَّا اعْتَلَّ وَأَرَادَ أَنْ يَبْنِيَ عَلَيْهِ ابْنَتَهُ دَفَعَ إِلَى مِائَتَيْ وَصِيفَةٍ مِنْ أَجْمَلِ مَا يَكُونُ إِلَى كُلِّ وَاحِدَةٍ مِنْهُنَّ جَاماً فِيهِ جَوْهَرٌ يَسْتَقْبِلْنَ أَبَا جَعْفَرٍ (عَلَيْهِ السَّلام) إِذَا قَعَدَ فِي مَوْضِعِ الاخْيَارِ فَلَمْ يَلْتَفِتْ إِلَيْهِنَّ وَكَانَ رَجُلٌ يُقَالُ لَهُ مُخَارِقٌ صَاحِبُ صَوْتٍ وَعُودٍ وَضَرْبٍ طَوِيلُ اللِّحْيَةِ فَدَعَاهُ الْمَأْمُونُ فَقَالَ يَا أَمِيرَ الْمُؤْمِنِينَ إِنْ كَانَ فِي شَيْءٍ مِنْ أَمْرِ الدُّنْيَا فَأَنَا أَكْفِيكَ أَمْرَهُ فَقَعَدَ بَيْنَ يَدَيْ ابي جعفر (عَلَيْهِ السَّلام) فَشَهِقَ مُخَارِقٌ شَهْقَةً اجْتَمَعَ عَلَيْهِ أَهْلُ الدَّارِ وَجَعَلَ يَضْرِبُ بِعُودِهِ وَيُغَنِّي فَلَمَّا فَعَلَ سَاعَةً وَإِذَا أَبُو جَعْفَرٍ لا يَلْتَفِتُ إِلَيْهِ لا يَمِيناً وَلا شِمَالاً ثُمَّ رَفَعَ إِلَيْهِ رَأْسَهُ وَقَالَ اتَّقِ الله يَا ذَا الْعُثْنُونِ قَالَ فَسَقَطَ الْمِضْرَابُ مِنْ يَدِهِ وَالْعُودُ فَلَمْ يَنْتَفِعْ بِيَدَيْهِ إِلَى أَنْ مَاتَ قَالَ فَسَأَلَهُ الْمَأْمُونُ عَنْ حَالِهِ قَالَ لَمَّا صَاحَ بِي أَبُو جَعْفَرٍ فَزِعْتُ فَزْعَةً لا أُفِيقُ مِنْهَا أَبَداً.

1. Ali ibn Muhammad has narrated from certain persons of our people from Muhammad ibn al-Rayyan who has said the following “Al-Ma’mun did all he could to prove that abu Ja‘far, Muhammad ibn Ali al-Rida (a.s.) was only a young man of worldly desires. However Al-Ma’mun could not succeed. When he became frustrated he gave his daughter in marriage to abu Ja‘far, Muhammad ibn Ali al-Rida (a.s.). For the ceremony he sent two hundred most beautiful entertaining girls each with a bowl in her hand with a precious pearl in it to well come abu Ja‘far, Muhammad ibn Ali al-Rida (a.s.) when he would sit on the special seat prepared for him. They, however, were not of any attraction to the Imam (a.s.) to disturb him. There was a man called Mukhariq who had a voice, musical skills, a guitar and a tall beard. Al-Ma’mun called him and he said, “O Amir al-Mu’minin, if he is a worldly man I will prove myself as dealing him deadly blows on your behalf.” He sat in front of abu Ja‘far, Muhammad ibn Ali al-Rida (a.s.) and began to bray a hee-haw that made all the people of the house gather around him. He began to play his guitar and sing. He did it for an hour but abu Ja‘far (a.s.) did not pay any attention to the right or left. Then he (a.s.) raised his head and said, “O you, tall bearded one, be pious before Allah.” The narrator has said that the musical instrument and guitar fell off his hand and he could not use his hands thereafter until he died. When Al-Ma’mun asked him about his condition he said, “When abu Ja‘far (a.s.) expressed his disappointment at me it struck me with a huge degree of fear from which I have not been able to relieve myself ever since.”

Al-Kāfi - Volume 1, The Birth of Abu Ja‘far, Muhammad ibn Ali, the Second (a.s.), Hadith 4
ـ الْحُسَيْنُ بْنُ مُحَمَّدٍ عَنْ مُعَلَّى بْنِ مُحَمَّدٍ عَنْ مُحَمَّدِ بْنِ جُمْهُورٍ عَنْ مُعَمَّرِ بْنِ خَلادٍ قَالَ سَمِعْتُ إِسْمَاعِيلَ بْنَ إِبْرَاهِيمَ يَقُولُ لِلرِّضَا (عَلَيْهِ السَّلام) إِنَّ ابْنِي فِي لِسَانِهِ ثِقْلٌ فَأَنَا أَبْعَثُ بِهِ إِلَيْكَ غَداً تَمْسَحُ عَلَى رَأْسِهِ وَتَدْعُو لَهُ فَإِنَّهُ مَوْلاكَ فَقَالَ هُوَ مَوْلَى أَبِي جَعْفَرٍ فَابْعَثْ بِهِ غَداً إِلَيْهِ.

1. Al-Husayn ibn Muhammad has narrated from Mu‘alla ibn Muhammad from Muhammad ibn Jumhur from Mu‘mmar ibn Khallad who has said the following. “I heard ’Isma‘il ibn Ibrahim say to al-rida (a.s.), ‘My son feels heaviness in his tongue. I intend to sent him tomorrow to you. Pass you your hand over his head and pray for him. He is your Mawla (slave).’” The Imam (a.s.) said, “He is a Mawla (slave) of abu Ja’far (a.s.). send him tomorrow to him (abu Ja‘far (a.s.).”

Al-Kāfi - Volume 1, Tacit and Explicit Testimony as proof of abu Ja‘far al-Thani’s (the second) (a.s.) Divine Authority over the people after abu al-Hassan al-Rida (a.s.), Hadith 11
ـ بَعْضُ أَصْحَابِنَا عَنْ مُحَمَّدِ بْنِ عَلِيٍّ عَنْ مُعَاوِيَةَ بْنِ حُكَيْمٍ عَنِ ابْنِ أَبِي نَصْرٍ قَالَ قَالَ لِيَ ابْنُ النَّجَاشِيِّ مَنِ الامَامُ بَعْدَ صَاحِبِكَ فَأَشْتَهِي أَنْ تَسْأَلَهُ حَتَّى أَعْلَمَ فَدَخَلْتُ عَلَى الرِّضَا (عَلَيْهِ السَّلام) فَأَخْبَرْتُهُ قَالَ فَقَالَ لِي الامَامُ ابْنِي ثُمَّ قَالَ هَلْ يَتَجَرَّأُ أَحَدٌ أَنْ يَقُولَ ابْنِي وَلَيْسَ لَهُ وَلَدٌ.

One of our people has narrated from Muhammad ibn Ali from Mu‘awiya ibn Hakim from ibn abu Basir who has said the following. “Al-Najashi once asked me, “Who will be the Imam after your master? I wish you ask him so I will know.” I then went to see Ali al-Rida (a.s.) and informed him (of al-Najashi’s wish).” The narrator has said that the Imam said, “The Imam will be my son.” Then he said, “Can any one say that my son will be the Imam when he has no son?”
Al-Kāfi - Volume 1, Tacit and Explicit Testimony as proof of abu Ja‘far al-Thani’s (the second) (a.s.) Divine Authority over the people after abu al-Hassan al-Rida (a.s.), Hadith 5
ـ عِدَّةٌ مِنْ أَصْحَابِنَا عَنْ أَحْمَدَ بْنِ مُحَمَّدٍ عَنْ جَعْفَرِ بْنِ يَحْيَى عَنْ مَالِكِ بْنِ أَشْيَمَ عَنِ الْحُسَيْنِ بْنِ بَشَّارٍ قَالَ كَتَبَ ابْنُ قِيَامَا إِلَى أَبِي الْحَسَنِ (عَلَيْهِ السَّلام) كِتَاباً يَقُولُ فِيهِ كَيْفَ تَكُونُ إِمَاماً وَلَيْسَ لَكَ وَلَدٌ فَأَجَابَهُ أَبُو الْحَسَنِ الرِّضَا (عَلَيْهِ السَّلام) شِبْهَ الْمُغْضَبِ وَمَا عَلَّمَكَ أَنَّهُ لا يَكُونُ لِي وَلَدٌ وَالله لا تَمْضِي الايَّامُ وَاللَّيَالِي حَتَّى يَرْزُقَنِيَ الله وَلَداً ذَكَراً يَفْرُقُ بِهِ بَيْنَ الْحَقِّ وَالْبَاطِلِ.

1. A number of our people has narrated from Ahmad ibn Muhammad from Ja’far ibn Yahya from Malik ibn Ashyam from al-Husayn ibn Bashshar who has said the following. “Ibn Qiyaman wrote a letter to abu al-Hassan (a.s.) in which he had said the following. ‘How can you be an Imam when you do not have a son?” Abu al-Hassan al-Rida (a.s.) replied him with signs of anger, “How do you know that I will not have a son? By Allah, not many days and nights will pass before Allah will grant me a male child through who He will make the truth distinct from falsehood.”

Al-Kāfi - Volume 1, Tacit and Explicit Testimony as proof of abu Ja‘far al-Thani’s (the second) (a.s.) Divine Authority over the people after abu al-Hassan al-Rida (a.s.), Hadith 4
Ali ibn Ibrahim has narrated from his father that ’Isma‘il ibn Mihran who has said the following. “When abu Ja‘far left Madina for Baghdad the first time of his two journeys on his leaving I said to him, “May Allah take my souls in service for your cause, I am afraid about you in this condition. To who, after you, will belong the task (Leadership with Divine Authority)?” He turned to me laughing and said, “The disappearance, as have thought, will not take place this year. When he was about to be taken to al-Mu‘tasam (179/795 —became caliph 218/833 — 227/841), for the second time I went to him and said, “May Allah take my souls in service for your cause. You are leaving. To who, after you, will go this task Leadership with Divine Authority)?” He wept until his beard become soaked. He then turned to me and said, “This time you should be afraid about my life. The task (Leadership with Divine Authority) after me will go to my son Ali Al-Kāfi - Volume 1 p323
عَلِيُّ بْنُ إِبْرَاهِيمَ عَنْ أَبِيهِ عَنْ إِسْمَاعِيلَ بْنِ مِهْرَانَ قَالَ: لَمَّا خَرَجَ أَبُو جَعْفَرٍ ع مِنَ الْمَدِينَةِ إِلَى بَغْدَادَ فِي الدَّفْعَةِ الْأُولَى مِنْ خَرْجَتَيْهِ قُلْتُ لَهُ عِنْدَ خُرُوجِهِ جُعِلْتُ فِدَاكَ إِنِّي أَخَافُ عَلَيْكَ فِي هَذَا الْوَجْهِ فَإِلَى مَنِ الْأَمْرُ بَعْدَكَ فَكَرَّ بِوَجْهِهِ إِلَيَّ ضَاحِكاً وَ قَالَ لَيْسَ الْغَيْبَةُ حَيْثُ ظَنَنْتَ فِي هَذِهِ السَّنَةِ فَلَمَّا أُخْرِجَ بِهِ الثَّانِيَةَ إِلَى الْمُعْتَصِمِ صِرْتُ إِلَيْهِ فَقُلْتُ لَهُ جُعِلْتُ فِدَاكَ أَنْتَ خَارِجٌ فَإِلَى مَنْ هَذَا الْأَمْرُ مِنْ بَعْدِكَ فَبَكَى حَتَّى اخْضَلَّتْ لِحْيَتُهُ ثُمَّ الْتَفَتَ إِلَيَّ فَقَالَ عِنْدَ هَذِهِ يُخَافُ عَلَيَّ الْأَمْرُ مِنْ بَعْدِي إِلَى ابْنِي عَلِيٍّ. کافی ج۱ ص ۳۲۳

hi reddit. i posted this on a different server already but figured maybe it belonged under hear as well. long time lurker, first time poster. I don’t really know what i’m looking to accomplish by posting this. Maybe i need advice or maybe this is just so i can vent. tw for the following (suicide, sh, addiction, ab0rtion) All the names in this story are fake for privacy.
I, (22F) have a long , overwhelming, complicated relationship with my mom (44F). for some context: my mom and dad (48M) were never married, they were more of a fling. they had known each other only about a month and were casually dating…then my dad ended things to continue his career in a different state. they found out they were pregnant with me (they were 21 and 24) and my dad stayed in our home state to raise me. they never got back together but they remained friendly. fast forward to now my mother has a son Derek (Fake name, 17M) with derek’s dad, her now fiancé. We’ll call him Sal. My father, we’ll call him Roger, had 3 more children (F,F,M 10-14) with his ex wife. my mother kind of tossed me with my dad, and i saw her on weekends and the summertime. my mother was never really a mother to me…she did the bare minimum. to her defense, maybe the bare minimum to me, was the best she could offer. My mother will never admit it, but she resents having me. from the moment my brother was born, i felt it, i saw it, i endured it. my brother is my mother’s whole world, her everything. Her straight A, complient, high achieving baby boy who holds the key to her heart. her life began when my brother was born. And i am nothing. I am the problem child, the underachiever, the one who could always be a little bit more like my baby brother. My brother’s dad, my step dad (39F), is a great guy. my mom and him have an extensive history. They met when i was 4. They were off an on for many years. He was 22 when he had my brother..he was broke, immature, a “player”. My mom was 27 when she had my brother Derek. She was head over heels for sal. and i think he just wanted a booty call. That changed when my brother was born. he was not always kind to my mother, but he loves the shit out of derek. he stepped up and became a very respectable man and a very important person in my life. They were so in love with each other but neither of them could get their shit together enough for one another. Sal was engaged to someone for 9 years, my mother was in a serious relationship with someone else for about 6 years. Both of them eventually broke it off. And about 4 years ago, sal and my mother got back together, and last year he proposed. I struggled a lot mentally once i turned 12. I suffered from severe depression, anxiety, and (at the time) undiagnosed schizo-obsessive disorder. My father was/is my rock. He dropped everything to help me, to fix whatever was wrong with me. He is my bird, he holds me up, and protects me when i cannot do anything to help myself. He would wash my hair, help brush my teeth, and sleep on the floor next to my bed, when i was afraid i would do something awful to myself if i was left alone. He would sit me and help me eat when I would force myself to go hungry. He is my footprints in the sand (if you know that poem). I owe my life to him. My mother, was not like that. I was struggling with severe depression and temptations of suicide and she refused to help me or help with therapy, and was convinced i was making it up. my mom found out i was sh, and she beat me. and told me if i did it again, to make sure i cut deeper next time. i was 12. My mother at one point told me that i should end my life bc “she didn’t play that shit”. i was 13 when I attempted to fulfill her wishes for the first time. thankfully, i was unsuccessful, but i think,subconsciously, my mom wishes i was. What a horrible thing it is to look into your mother's eyes and see her love for you vanish. I'm sorry you had to raise a kid that you didn't want. i continued to silently struggle with self harm n suicide until i was 20. when i was 18 i eventually told my dad. he held me and cried with me. he bought self help books and took me on regular dad/daughter dates to remind me im loved. he did everything he could to protect me from my own brain. My issues with mental health continued, I wanted to die and i would have done anything and everything to make it happen. i think, if she could, my mother would have done it for me. i was 20 when i found out i was pregnant, with my current boyfriend. i was terrified. i was not afraid of being a mother. i was afraid of being MY mother, of trying so hard to not be like her, that somehow without knowing, it would be like looking in a mirror and seeing her. i regretfully, had an abortion. It’s been two years now, and i think of it every day. i relive my grief everyday. i was quickly filled with this maternal warmth i had never known. and just at fast as it appeared, it was gone. I was told it gets easier, but it doesn't... This pain DOES NOT go away. I told my mother about it. she was gentle and loving. she was a painted image of what i had always needed. and within an instant it was gone. she told me id be a terrible mother anyways, that i was not ready. maybe she was right. i moved out shortly after, and she turned my room into her dogs room. i was 21 years old finally getting diagnosed with OCD and schizo-obsessive disorder, and trial and erroring medications. being in the worst mental pit of my life, struggling to stay alive. with only help from dad and bf for anything because she didn’t think any of it was real or as bad as i “was making it seem”. the second derek showed an ounce of an anxiety- she started taking him to therapy regularly, got him on medication, and prioritized it. mom is pushing and helping him find universities like princeton and other areas..i went to 13 different schools before HS because no one could agree on anything. he’s only ever been to private school. im paying for college all by myself. she takes him on trips to disney world for his birthday, after promising me every year to take me from 2-14. and lets him bring a friend fully paid, but makes me stay home to watch her dogs. i’ve still never been. I try not to think about it. i love my mother. i am very close with my brother. sometimes i wish he would stand up for me. but he is only 17..i will not hold that on him. this is all he has known. a loving mother and father who would give anything for him. i feel very out of place on her side of the family. i don’t feel like my mom knows me at all and she makes me feel small because im not who she wants me to be. and i can’t tell her any of this and it’s building a lot of resentment. i don’t want to hate my mom my mother had her baby with the man she wanted and created her own little family where i am the outcast. I am not her daughter, i am a constant reminder of what her life could have been and what her life is. for as much she doesn’t like her mother, she is a product of her environment. the way my grandmother treated her and my aunt …i see a lot of similarities of that with me and derek. i don’t think she’ll ever admit it, but i think she’s embarrassed of me. i didn’t have that push or encouragement from her like she’s gives derek. i feel like she’s wishes i was more like him. and it’s hard not to resent derek sometimes because he has a version of mom that im never going to get. i want my mother to love me. i want derek’s mother. that daughterhood feeling of wanting to blame your mother for how you turned out, wanting to be angry at her for how you've inherited her pain and her insecurities, but at the same time wanting to keep coming home to her, out of everyone else in the universe, because you know that if there's anyone who might be anything like you-if there's anyone who might even have a clue of what it's like to be you-it could only be her. and no matter how many times you've hurt each other, no matter how difficult it might be to get her to truly see you, you still just want her to love you as you are, to tell you that this isn't your fault, and to show you that she would keep letting you come home to her. i want her to be proud of me. but i am all you could have been and you are all i might be.
i know this was long. i needed to get it out i guess. i’m so lonely. i just want my mom.

I have a medical condition that has caused facial abnormalities. Because of this, I’ve encountered a particular “situation” all throughout my life… both online and in person. Where a person, in particular a guy will not call me pretty or God forbid beautiful. Instead they will say something along the lines of, “You don’t look that bad.”, “You make it sound like you look like Quesimodo.”, “I thought you were going to look worse.”, “I thought you were going to look like Quesimodo or The Sloth”. Or they will compliment something else entirely, like… “Oh, that’s a really nice shirt.” So, they’re basically avoiding saying anything about my face.
Why it is so hard to just call me pretty and leave it at that? I don’t think people realize how insulting and dismissive these responses are. Better yet, if you can’t compliment my looks… why even bring it up in the first place? It almost feels like they feel obligated to say something when I never outright asked for them to say something regarding my looks. For example, I might look extra made up that day. And instead of them just saying, “You look pretty today” or not say anything at all, they’ll say something like what I described above.
I have asked this question to some guys that have said things like this to me. Normally I get answers like, “Why do you need my validation? You should love yourself.” I’ve even had a guy tell me something along the lines of, “If I call you beautiful, you will fall in love. You shouldn’t fall in love with someone that just calls you beautiful.” But, I feel like all those “answers” is a lousy attempt at gaslighting. Making me out to be the problem. When I never said that I don’t love myself. I never said that I’m seeking validation through others. Not that I think that’s always a bad thing. And I definitely will not fall in love with someone just because they called me beautiful. So, I have no idea where that assumption came from. I just feel like those “answers” is not the real reason I keep encountering this issue. I think there is more to it.
I understand that it’s harder for men to compliment women, because it might come off as creepy or disingenuous. But, I know plenty of men that simply have complimented a woman’s looks, without expecting or looking for anything in return. So, I know they’re quite capable of doing this. They just don’t do it with me. Which is weird because women compliment women all the time. True, I’ve had plenty of people tell me something like, “You know she is just being nice. She doesn’t actually think you’re pretty.” But, that’s not the point. It’s just a nice gesture. Especially if that day I actually was trying to look good. It’s just nice to be called pretty or beautiful. It has very little to do with intent or the motive behind it. I’m not going to drop everything or drop my panties, get on my hands and knees, and worship someone who just called me pretty.
I just don’t understand why it’s so difficult to call someone that looks like me pretty or beautiful. Or don’t say anything at all, if it really is such a big deal to do this.
By the way, I’m not referring to a partner calling a woman pretty or beautiful. I think that’s a requirement for both parties.

Basically, a brick joke is where the actual punch line comes way later than the joke itself. So, what're some of your favorites.
Kung Fu Panda does this a couple of times. In the first movie, Mantis states that Po can't be given accupuncture due to his fat. This ends up completely nullifying Tai Lung's nerve strike. And Shifu says that the Wuxi Finger Hold leaves quite the mess. Well, the 3rd movie reveals that it creates a giant cloud of lotus petals whenever it's used.
A running gag throughout Toy Story was that of the Little Green Men who worship "The Claaw". And in the 2nd movie, Mr and Mrs. Potatohead adopt 3 LGM, who are eternally grateful to them. Come the 3rd movie, those 3 end up saving everyone from the incinerator with a giant claw.
The Incredibles has a particularly dark example. Early on, Edna Mode gives a montage of reasons as to why her costumes don't have capes. Specifically, the danger of them getting caught on something and killing you. Well, one of the supers who died, Stratogale, got sucked into a jet engine due to her cape getting stuck. Well, Syndrome has a cape, so you could take a wild guess as to how he meets his end.

Inspired by my flippant comment on wellychick’s thread for dating alternatives (didn’t want to derail her post) I realised something (and then the brain got involved). Warning, this got long, contains satire and mass generalisations, find something else if that scares you.
Bunnings/Mitre 10 (hereafter referred to as BM) should have a singles desk (obviously near the door, coz men ain’t walking all the way to the back). When singles walk in, they can register at the desk (men can list which aisle/2 aisles they’re going to be in), and then if women are in the store at the same time, they can track them down (no point asking men to wander the entire store obviously, plus security for the women, you can decide if you want to approach). When men leave, they sign out, the opportunity has been missed…
Bonus points if the store layout allows for the desk to be located between the doors and the café, then women can just snipe the men from over a book/coffee before they disappear into the aisles (more business for the café if it ends up extending to a date).
Now, obviously, with their conveniently longer opening hours and number of stores, the sheer odds of getting compatibility like this is probably low, so, tool nights! Lure in those single men with demos of tools. What better way to find the next tool you didn’t know you always needed! It would be like moths to a flame. Obviously this would be restricted to singles, coz the attached men are at home helping with the kids (you are doing that right??). My local Bunnings is already open in the evening for this to work. Who doesn't like an evening run for some hardware and then when you put it away, you find the exact same blister pack you bought several years ago.
In the safety of a public space, women can come along and assess the prowess of the men for their suitability (or laugh at their ineptitude and give them a pity pass). They could even bring along their flat pack furniture for assembly in couples challenges (wasn’t there a show that used flat pack to analyse couples and their ability to work together?). Bonus if it actually gets assembled correctly (although alcohol and tools probably shouldn’t be mixed), but maybe one of the shy or quiet men offers to help you out. Just use your intuition to make sure he isn’t dodgy first, of course.
You could have categories for compatibility, those that didn’t use any instructions or planning in assembly would be the gamblers, then you’ve got the organisers that don’t even open anything before reading the instructions cover to cover (usually more than once). Men will get to show off their manliness by loading assembled furniture into your vehicle, and in the inevitable case where it doesn’t fit (who needs measurements eh women?), well, he’ll load it into his, and drop it off for you (and then you’ll have him cornered). Apologies to those that aren’t compensating and drive shopping carts. Maybe she bought something small, or did use the measurements? Hahahah
Why would BM do this? Well asides from the obvious direct sales already highlighted, when couples are matched up, and the list of projects comes out (coz it always does, doesn’t it?) where else are they going to go, but their favourite store where they met, to get supplies! You now have a long-term captive customer, coz those projects are gonna keep coming!
Down the line once you have couples, then you’ll need a range of wedding supplies (don’t worry, the women will advise what they want)… and you guessed it, more shopping trips!
Post your own ideas :)

Tw: Assault
Throwaway because yeah... sorry for weird formatting, I'm on mobile
I was assaulted a few years back. Context, I'm a trans guy, he said he was gay. We tried dating and it didn't work. We had done stuff but I was only 15 and wasn't ready for anything serious. He was. He chose. I told friends after it happened, before it fully set it what had happened. I slowly told them more details but they decided I was lying. I had been friends with these 3 girls for about 5 years at that point. I was having ptsd episodes during class and they always offered to step into the hall with me.
After a few months it got worse. I decided that I was fine and tried to talk to him about it. I wasn't and the episodes got more frequent. My friends never once told me I was bothering them with my episodes, I never made them go into the halls with me, they always offered.
One day something was off with them, they were super closed off and standoffish. I was talking to them about something that had just happened with a different friend and they all stood up and went and sat with him, they ignored me.
I eventually texted them asking what was off and only one responded. I don't remember the text perfectly by it was super long along the lines of
"You are an awful friend, we know you are lying about the assault. We know he's gay, you still look like a girl so why should he be attracted to you. Let's be honest, you deserved it if it did happen. On top of that you infantalize us, disrupt our learning, and break our boundaries. We hate when you make us leave class for you. We've never liked you, just felt bad for you. You can't be autistic(I'm diagnosed ADHD and Autistic) and have ADHD, as well as have depression, anxiety and PTSD, no one has that many mental illnesses."
It was longer and she said I deserved it again, said I probably assaulted him, and I'm just a whore looking for attention.
I moved schools in less then a week, I met some of my favorite people, I met my current fiancée, I got a great job after graduating.Im scared of certain hair colors, and people fascinated with geography, Im scared of a type of name, I'm scared to go to my brother's because I have to pass one of their homes. I'm scared of Walmart because that's where I saw them last.
2 years ago, he started dating one of them. He was a straight guy and has since admitted to saying he was gay to sleep with me and when I refused he did it anyways. They still hate me.
A few weeks ago I ran into assaulter and his gf, my ex best friend, at Walmart.I was stuck in the middle of the isle with people behind me and them turning in so I had to walk past them, I got into the next isle over and had a full on ptsd episode. I was able to pull it together long enough to go pay for my items and go get into my car. I sat in my car for nearly an hour having an episode. Probably my most vivid one in 2 years. By the time I could breathe enough to calm down, the people in the car next to me were packing their car and going to leave. It was the gfs transphobic brother. Of course. Thankfully they weren't together, just shopping at the same time.
I know he knows I heard he admitted it. I saw the color drain from his face. I saw the falter in his step. I know he's scared of me because if I went to court I would win. He's scared of me. She isnt. She knew most of my thoughts for 5 years, she knew how I thought and how I acted. She knew me. She thinks she still does, the look she gave me, I know that one. I changed the day they threw me out. I changed so drastically my parents told me the didn't recognize me, I wasn't acting right. They haven't changed a bit.
I reached out to the 3 friends at one point to apologize for how I treated them because I wasn't the best friend to them, but I was mimicking them and I didn't to them what they did to me so idk how they were allowed to infantalize me and pick on me and ask me to leave class for their anxiety attacks, but I can't do it back to them, I asked them to leave class for me once and I made sure they knew they could go back to class if they wanted, but I couldn't walk on my own and needed to get out of the classroom.
They mocked me, they told told me every negative thing out there, they said that I was a whore for sleeping around. I'd only willingly slept with 1 person at that point and they didn't even know about them. They told people at my old school I'd killed myself.
I could go on about this little group for 4 for ever, how when one changed their name but hadn't told me yet I got yelled at for deadnaming them, but I had been going by a different name for YEARS and they still couldn't get it. I'm done ranting, I just needed to say it somewhere.
Putting this at the bottom, so less people see it. I'm using Assault instead of rope
TLDR: Guy pretends to be gay to rope a trans guy, friends decide trans guy is lying, trans guy leaves school, ex bestie dates ropist.

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Normal Saturday with work on Authority Portion which I slept through. I felt really good on waking up then I began drinking the regular water I suspected was part of what's making me sick. And, true to my suspicion, my condition took a dive before noon was over.
I needed to be sure I'm having a water problem. So how I did that was to put a control in place by returning to table water and before midnight, my condition became better, if not normal. Now I'm condemned to drinking table water…in prison. How the heck am I supposed to be able to sustain that?
It I wanted to answer that, my answer would be: “fuck if I know!” Lol.
During the day, precisely in the afternoon, a CO came into our cell, to my corner to see Pa Lai. He sat, was given food by Lai, he ate and they had a long ass chat.
There have been difficulties with smuggling CB inside lately. Several things Lai bought for himself and others have gotten stuck where we keep them before they're picked up for crossing. We're not sure whether the COs are just scared due to the change in leadership or it's just that the way isn't clear.
In line with this, this CO came to see Lai. He's among the newly employed ones and his reason for approaching us is that he wants to do business with us. Meaning he came forward to offer to be crossing things inside for us for a price.
Lai is very cool with it but me, not so much. My reason is that a new man has just come to take over the yard (we're yet to see him), and while this is happening, a new CO came to offer to smuggle contraband inside for us. Doesn't look genuine to me but that's just me. What do I really know? Besides, I've been sick of fever lately.
Magneto in X-Men said never to trust a beautiful woman, especially one interested in you. This is not the same since we're not dealing with a woman situation here but still, it's odd to me that he'd just come forward like that at this sensitive time when other COs are laying low. Lai has asked him to bring in the stuck stuff. We'll see how it goes from there.
Tomorrow is Sunday. So long I haven't been to church that I've begun to miss it so bad.
Goodnight Diary!

We were sent a Hub 4 on Thursday and have been having intermittent internet outages since then, occurring around every 2-3 hours and lasting for 10-15 mins each.
So far, I've tried:

• Checking all the cables are connected correctly (e.g. tightening using the supplied plastic spanner thing)
• Rebooting the box, both from the switch and from the settings
• Factory resetting the box, both from the button and from the settings

The only thing that I haven't tried yet is removing the Forward Path Equaliser; it was installed on the previous Hub so thought that it was probably best to install it on the new Hub, but not sure if maybe it might not be necessary if the Hub is an upgraded Hub and so might be causing issues?
I was gonna try calling Virgin Media but, because the phone lines are now digital, I am anticipating getting cut off when the internet cuts out while holding, so thought I'd try here first. 🤞
If there's any other info I can supply that might help then let me know. 👍