Birthday poems for a loved one that passes away

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2020.07.10 01:29 dredgehayt InheritanceDrama

Tales of drama that ensues (usually between family) after a loved one (or not) passes away.
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2011.12.03 14:53 reallyjay Breast Cancer Support and Information

breastcancer is a support and information group for people who have been diagnosed with breast cancer.
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2018.12.30 05:52 derawin07 A celebration of our pets with bits missing or other special needs!

A celebration of our pets with bits missing or special needs! Share pictures or videos of your one-eyed, three-legged pets or those with invisible differences that make them extra special!
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2024.05.15 09:26 umadbro69x420 I lost what I think is my soulmate, how do you move on from that?

I am going to apologize ahead of time this is going to be a long post because there is a lot to unpack.
So I (25m) got dumped by my ex (24f) a year ago now. Our relationship had its ups and downs over the 6 years we were together, but that didn’t change how much we loved each other.
Our relationship slowly started to go downhill after my mother passed away in 2018. I lost myself completely, I was a shell of person that I once was. The years following my mothers passing I had lost my job and became completely withdrawn. Since I didn’t have a job I also couldn’t pay my half of the rent and I refused to get a job because I barely wanted to be on this earth. I didn’t reach out to my friends or family. My ex was pretty much the only person I would talk to. But around Covid time I got really bad. I spiraled into the worst depression I’ve experienced in my 25 years on this earth. I would stay up until 9 or 10 am and sleep until around midnight. I stopped talking to my ex almost completely and we stopped hanging out. About 4 or 5 months before my ex dumped me I was severely suicidal. I would leave the house and walk around town in the middle of the night. Mind you I wouldn’t tell my ex where or what I was doing but I think she knew. I would find myself at the bridge we lived near almost every night contemplating jumping but I never did. Side note I was smoking A LOT of weed at this point that she was paying for most of the time. But then the day came.
I was sitting at home while she was at work and I got a text. It said “we need to talk”. She wanted to talk when she got home but I pushed her to just tell me. Then she said she couldn’t do this anymore. My entire world came crashing down. I never thought she would say those words. Later when she got home I did the typical begging. The only thing I really remember from that was her telling me she didn’t love me anymore. I started packing my things the next few days and moved into my friends house.
In the months that followed I had gotten a job and started to really work on my mental health. Somehow my ex and I started talking again and hanging out again. It was looking pretty good for us. I was spending some nights with her and she was looking at me how she used to again. Then out of the blue she cut it off again. Saying something along the lines of “I don’t want to be in a relationship with anyone right now” adding that we could still be friends.
From then until now I have been paying her back the 20 grand that I owed her and we had been off and on friends for awhile. Mainly because I would tell her I couldn’t be friends with her (because I still loved her) and to not text me unless it was about money or if she wanted to try again. She would then text me a week or month later asking me how I’m doing. My dumbass would think she wanted to get back together because she texted me. It always ended up her just wanting to be friends. Until a couple weeks ago when I laid it all out and set the boundaries firm. She got upset with me and a little rude tbh. Still don’t understand that.
Throughout the break up though she said she still loved me but wasn’t in love with me anymore. She would say she still cared about me which her actions showed she did. I asked her the one day if there was any hope we could get back together which she responded with “in the future maybe we can but not right now”. From the times we hung out after the break up I could tell she was still attracted to me. Our conversations were pretty damn good and it seemed like the spark may still have been there.
So I have a couple of questions. Do you think there is any chance we can be together again? If so what can I do that may help in doing so? If not how can I recover from absolutely fucking up our relationship and losing my soulmate (this girl was truly the one for me)? Was I right to not want to be friends with her or was that her way of rekindling our relationship? Is this even salvageable after the damage I have done? It has been a year and I’m still not over her and I just want the pain to go away.
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2024.05.15 09:25 OhIFuckedUpGood My first pet ever will pass away soon… only 5 years…

My cute dog (American Cocker Spaniel) will pass soon. He already had a bad start when he was still with his mom (inexperienced breeder). He spend the first few weeks in the hospital. Some of his brothers and sisters didn’t make it, but he did. When we had our first check up the vet told us that his lungs are not in a very good shape. The rest of his body was fine with the exception of his teeth which were close together and had some plague already.
During the years we encountered some problems. After weeks of searching what is happening we found he has an severe longterm allergy for beef. We eliminated everything which contains beef, they are everywhere even in Salmon Biscuits… after the elimination it went ok and we even got a second dog.
Everything was going well. He had some problems with teeth (bad shape, due to bad start and medicine there) and his temper like food protection or barking at cars / bikes, but it was fine and he got a good checkup every year including titer tests which were always ok. His health started to decline in the summer of 2023. He started limping on his front feed and was eating worse. We also noticed 2-3 weird spots on his skin which seems like hotspots. The vet told he was a bit heavy, he had a stiff neck and his intestines were a bit puzzled. A few sessions of acupuncture, good washing and balanced diet could help him, and it did help him for a few weeks.
In the winter his health suddenly declined and the weird spots on his skin increased and expanded over his entire body with crusts. He was losing a lot of hair. After a few vet visits, some medicine and some tests we discovered that he was highly allergy for almost everything you could imagine. This was a big message for me and my wife as it would mean we should change in the house a lot while we also have a other dog who lived the same life in perfect health. We switched to special hypoallergenic dog food of Hills so he does not react on that food and keep the other dog on his current food. We had to lock both pets apart and clean up where the other pet and also where we ate so he can’t get any other food in his stomach.
This worked for a few weeks. He remained happy when someone is home, we went to the forest or beach regularly and if I leave the house I always wants to be back as soon as possible to see my family again. I mainly work from home, so the two pets are always around and I have a deep emotional connection with them.
Unfortunately, the spots came back rapidly and he was shaking a lot. His teeth’s were also declining rapidly and his movement worsened that he could jump on the couch anymore and the stairs are done step for each step. We shifted from dexamethasone to Prednisone to see any difference, but recently we came to the conclusion that this and other treatments are not giving the results we and the vet wants. I was still looking for possible solutions, but my wife (had dogs in the past) and vet intervened that he is sick and everything we are doing could at the best only suppress symptoms, we were not making him better. The vet said we were doing everything right on food, health etc. But basically his immune system is failing and not doing what it is supposed to do.
This week we decided to put him down. He will get his final rest next Saturday, on his fifth birthday. I’m devastated and keep crying that it is going to happen. Never had a pet during my youth and I’m just worried about the gap of the unconditional love he will leave. I’m also worried about my second dog who never has been alone and plays a lot with him and what this change will do with him.
While I’m writing this, my dog is sitting next to me and shaking, but he has a lot of moments where it all looks good (with exception of the skin/fur) and he seems enjoying life now. I find it very difficult he is passing at such a young age and weird thoughts are going through my mind if i could have prevented this, do things differently or anything to expand his time here with us. I feel defeated that I couldn’t help him anymore. During the good times I keep on thinking to call off the euthanasia, but then what… wait until he has a very bad or very painful day?
No matter what, I love him and keep carrying the awesome memories and the times he dragged me and my wife through really hard times in my heart. But the grief that he will be gone soon…This is the worst I’ve ever felt in my life…
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2024.05.15 09:24 Sacrifice_a_lamb Ky Slime Review (good and bad) with Pics

Ky Slime Review (good and bad) with Pics
I actually have been waiting to review a few shops, since I think it might be nice to live with the slime for a while instead of writing a review that's just based on what the slime was like when I first got it. But today I got an order from Ky and I've got things to say about it lol!
Rambling preamble (skip to review) First off, I had heard rumblings of discontent about this shop, but also had heard aspersions cast about Sonria and I found her slimes to be pretty good. So, I was open to Ky, especially since she clearly is a master at designing DIY slimes. Her IG is a go-to ASMR source for me and her posts make the slime look irresistible! Seriously, for all you stores out there--make your slimes look good on the internet. You'll have so many more buyers.
While it's definitely obvious that the slimes that are played with on the IG are of larger quantities than what you will be getting when you order, her representation of the product otherwise looks pretty legit and she still has kind of a small, hand-made store vibe, which makes it easier to pay 16$ for a toy that may only last for a few months, right? She also has my dream slime--a neon space unicorns and rainbows sundae-themed slime tribute to Lisa Frank. This thing just looks so incredible. She really nailed the concept.
So, I made a big order because, shipping. there was a 10% discount and the prices didn't seem terrible, even with shipping. I placed my order on the 4th and it arrived today, on the 14th, which ten days feels acceptable for a small business in Hawaii. They didn't go crazy on the packaging, which at first made me glad (I do not feel good about all the bubblewrap so many folks use!) but then I saw that one of the clay containers had gotten smashed and the clay pieces inside were totally flattened. Honestly, nothing else had any damage and the clay was always going to get smooshed, anyway, so I'm not bothered, BUT, I dunno. Use bunched up newspaper or something.
It included a gift of two free "small" slimes. Really, they are like 3-4 ounces. Definitely a decent size for a sample and both slimes were pretty awesome, but I still have complaints...
My rating system is pretty "strict"--I'm stingy about perfect scores, but anything with a score over 15/20 is something I'd consider buying again.

Taro Milk Tea Cheesecake 10/20

Someone else reviewed this recently and loved it. I do not. I had initially hesitated to buy this because I like taro, but sometimes find the smell of taro-flavored things like mass-produced ice-cream disgustingly sweet, and I worried that this slime might smell this way. It does not. To me, it smells like boiled white potatoes with an undertone of glue. Not great.
The DIY kit came in a sealed bag and everything looked in good condition and matched the website photos perfectly. The boba balls slime, however, was so unactivated it was straight-up glue and I ended up having to SCRUB my hands in hot water to remove it. Even so, the assembly experience was fun and mixing was fun, as well. But the result is a mid slime. It is quite tough--so dense, but not terribly stretchy--and isn't much for bubble pops or other ASMR. The bobas are soft and squishy and that's cool.
I'd like it better if it didn't smell weird, OR I'd be fine with smell if I liked the texture of the slime more.
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Tangulu 14/20

This came with giant, detailed charms and the giant fimos are beautiful and fun, but the clear slime was quite cloudy and yellow and for the price, that just seems like kind of a bummer. There's a fruity smell but the scent of the glue and maybe the add-ins overwhelms it. By itself, the smell isn't enough to deter me from playing with it. It is a stiff slime that tears easily, but it does stretch quite well if played with slowly. The slime is thick, so there isn't much noise from crunching, but it makes decent bubble pops.
Mainly, I just think there are other folks out there making what is basically this same slime, but I suspect that their versions smell better and maybe the quality of the slime is a little better, too.
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Slimereo Mug Cake 16/20

Super fun concept that was realized as a wonderfully detailed DIY kit. The clay oreo was in perfect condition and so detailed! This was a lot of fun to set up and then mix. Initially the oreo smell was spot on, but since I've played with it a couple of times, the chocolate smell has weakened somewhat and, again, there's just a strong glue smell.
The mixed slime is not bad. It is still pretty tough, but it doesn't rip when pulled fast and it gets pretty soft and fluffy with inflation. It's just still a little more dense than I prefer. It has a nice sizzle to it and even makes some pretty nice bubble pops with a bit of effort. It is moderately tacky, but not too bad and I certainly wouldn't add activator for fear of making it too tough.
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Boba Creme Donut 15/20

Another DIY kit that came in great shape. The clay donut was soft and everything assembled to make a beautiful, fun and interesting slime. Mixing was fun. The resulting slime is pretty close to that of slimereo Mug Cake, but instead of slakes of snow there are the tiniest mico-floam beads and some squishy bobas. I really like the way both feel and they seem to make this slime more pop-y than Slimereo. No sizzles, though. Bonus: this one doesn't smell bad! It smells like a caramel tea boba drink--lots of brown sugar and sweetened milk tea smells and then that sweet potato smell of boba.
but it's still a tougher slime that doesn't make a ton of noise.
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Slime-Brite (jury's still out for me on this one)

This seemed like Ky's answer to Slime OG's steel wool-themed slime and Ky's having it honestly kind of tipped the scales for me buying from Ky instead of OG. Again, the presentation is fabulous--fun charms, great concept that is rendered in a fun, visually-striking way, cool label. The smell is definitely a convincing imitation of, like, Dawn dishsoap, which I like. I also realize that I just really like bingsu in slimes so I'm into this one, but it is still very sticky (I'm too afraid to add activator lest it become tough like other slimes in this order) and it is much tougher than the bingsu slimes I have from Seoul Gage. It's not tough by what I think are American standards, I'm just not used to it. It still makes great, bingsu crackles and I love how it looks and smells. If it gets a little less sticky without turning more tough, I might really love this one.
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Which brings me to my next purchase:

My diet starts tomorrow 8/20

Again, super fun concept and so much detail! Everything was similar to the IG photos and in good condition except the clay pieces were a little hard, but it was fun to assemble and the slime components all seemed totally good to go. The smell is fine. The problem was mixing this produced a hard, rubbery slime--no stretch. I guess it was overactivated? I was ready to throw it out, but I had glycerine on hand so added maybe a tablespoon and that helped it, but it is still very tough. It does crinkle and crackle with the bingsu, but my hands hurt after just a couple of minutes of playing with it. Super not worth it, even with the amazing DIY element.
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Sandy Beach 15/20

This was the one that had the damaged clay pieces. Honestly, it didn't spoil the assembly experience. In fact, I pulled off the clear slime from the sand crust and first mixed the clay into that and what an awesome expeirence! I really love how it looks to mix colorful clay into a clear slime base. This has a moderate "beachy" smell that isn't bad. I think I just don't like sand in slime. I was expecting something like a pumice slime, but instead it just seems to kill any ASMR effect: no bubble pops, no clicks, no sizzles. The clay pieces were dried out in places so there's also some un-mixed goobers in the slime and the slime is also quite tough.
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Birthday Cake Pop 18/20

This one kind of saved the order (and maybe slime-bright) and it was totally one I almost didn't get it. It smells like how it looks--like a super bright, artificial birthday cake smell, which is actually pretty great. I love how it looks--such a loud, happy pink and love the sprinkles and the look of the different-sized floam balls. I'm not sure this is it, but I believe the floam balls being different sizes gives this slime extra bubble pops. This is a shiny slime that I expected to be tough, and it is--but somehow now I like that quality? Maybe it's because there's such a huge ASMR pay-off. Like, I' even getting some whistles when I stretch it.
I'd give this guy a higher score but, again, I have perfect and near perfect (to me) slimes in my collection and this doesn't feel quite at the level. But it's also unlike any other slime I have and I suspect it will end up being a favorite. I whole-heartedly recommend this one!
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Free slimes were Lemon Loaf (with no clay piece, which maybe makes it better?) and Java Chip Frappe, also just the base. Again, these were large samples. I'm just grading them out of 10 because...I don't know? they were free and also they aren't, like, the version of the slimes you would be able to buy?

Java Chip Frappe (Jury is still out)

This is supposed to be a "jelly cream bingsu". It seems like a pretty thick, dense jelly with a tiny bit of bingsu. The bingsu are enough to produce some soft cracks and sizzles, so I really want to be abl to play with it, but it is way to sticky. It is already pretty thick, so I've only added a little activator so far, which hasn't helped much. Hoping this stops being so sticky without also turning into rubber. Smells is listed as chocolate chip cookie, but it smells more like khalua to me. At any rate, I like the smell.
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Lemon Loaf 10/10

This is my favorite slime of the whole darn order. It is a highly resistant bingsu slime, but it really softens with inflation. Smells like a cake with a lot of artificial lemon flavor added to it, which sounds bad but it actually quite delicious. It looks great: a bright and cheery yellow that is broken up by specks of iridescence from the bingsu. Also, I love the lemon fimos! But, the cherry on top is the micro-floams! I love these tiny micro-floams that she uses. It may be psychosomatic, but I think they actually change the bingsu texture somehow? At any rate, this is a great, stretchy, inflating, crackling, squeezeable bingsu slime and I love it.
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Conclusion:

I really don't know what to make of this store, guys. I mean, I have only 3 clear "would buy agains" (one of which I didn't even pay for) out of a total of ten slimes, so, objectively, I should not buy from them again, but... I don't know. I definitely would not have spent all this money at this store if I'd seen some of the reviews I've seen since making the order. The complaints seem to be the same as my own: hard clay, tought slime, not great smells.
On the other hand, the Birthday Cake Pops and the Lemon Loaf are so good that I might be persuaded to try Ky again.
I guess, part of me wonders if the slime is this way because she's cutting corners on ingredients or doesn't know how to make slimes well? But then the amount of work and care that goes into designing the slime just makes me think there's no way this person doesn't know what they are doing, so then I guess this is the way the slime is meant to be (not for the Diet one, though--that was straight up bad slime) and it just isn't for me, but who is it for? who likes tough slime that doesn't make much noise?
Would be curious to hear others' thoughts.
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2024.05.15 09:22 SusieSlaughter Feeling guilty about rehoming my dad’s cats

Feeling guilty about rehoming my dad’s cats
My dad passed away on Easter. I know he loved his two cats more than anything in the world. Peanut is 9 and Red is about 10. My dad was very sick and started developing dementia towards the end. He was placed in an assisted living facility and passed 4 days later.
I am a long time cat lover. I have a Maine Coon that I love more than anything in the world. Part of the reason I love cats so much is because of my dad. He’s the definition of the cat distribution system. Both of his cats showed up one day and never left.
Unfortunately, I can’t keep his cats. I live with my boyfriend and his family. We already have two cats and three dogs. The house is pretty loud/over stimulating, and my dad’s cats need peace and quiet. I don’t even know if they’ve ever seen a dog.
It’s also important to mention that since my dad passed, I’m totally orphaned. I have no other family that can help out and take the kitties.
After making multiple social media posts, sending emails, and reaching out to multiple rescues, I finally found one that I can surrender Red and Peanut too. I got the email this morning and a phone call shortly after. The shelter is a non-profit and a no-kill. My appointment to surrender them is next week.
After I got off the phone, I was super happy and relieved. About a minute later, I started crying.
Since I didn’t live with my dad, I’ve been going over to the house 1-2x a day to make sure they have food, clean litter boxes, and know they aren’t forgotten about. I leave bird videos on for them so there’s some noise in the house.
I know this is the right thing to do but I feel terrible. I cried pretty hard when I was at the house earlier this afternoon. They’ve been through a lot and they’re mourning my dad’s death, especially Red. I feel like surrendering them to a shelter is the best chance they’ll have at finding families that will love them and give them the attention they deserve. I’m just feeling super emotional, incredibly overwhelmed, and very sad.
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2024.05.15 09:22 Ill-Water3660 Not gonna lie uber and dasher why you stole food from customers:”)

Not gonna lie uber and dasher why you stole food from customers:”)
Damn bro it happened twice in a day. And RESTAURANTS CHECK THE PHONE THAT THEY DID CONFIRM!!!!!!!!!!. I picked up food from panda express for the first trip and they said someone is already picked up and I don’t believe that someone got my order so I contacted with customer and she said no one else has msg or pick up yet. So I called to uber and talk about that. And then they said they will call to restaurant and please hold on the line(dude I just found out that they never call to restaurant. they will said restaurant didn’t pick up their phone so WE WILL GIVE YOU A REFUND BACK FOR CUSTOMER AND inconvenience 3$FOR YOU) NO i want to give that order u bish uber I don’t want freakin 3$ you feel me. Anyway, they did refund for this and I passed with 3$. And then I got order at burger king. As ou see in the picture, it was 29$ so I want it. But same thing happened again. So I contacted customer again(it’s shown in the picture) but uber they said they will call burger king and hold the line(I knew that they will say they didn’t pick up the phone and gave refund) and yes they did. NOT THIS TIME I SAID”I’M AT BURGER KING YOU WANNA TALK WITH THEM HUH?????” And the uber guy freaked out😭😭😭his voice shaking and he said oh sure sir I can do that. So I made them talk. After a few talk burger king said they will remake the food and do the police report to the dasher who cancelled the customer. That’s what i thought. So I delivered that trip and got 29$. also customer appreciated for my action and gave his work’s card and said he will help with my car which is not good. Isn’t it lovely? Also during this shit happen, I forgot that I accepted delivery at doordash so customer called me after an hour. And he complained about he didn’t get that food yet😭😭 but hey…… after I delivered that late trip, customer give me 2$+ tip for no reason. Karma is no joke you knowxD
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2024.05.15 09:21 zombifiedsquid New Twist Season

New Twist Season
So instead of adding these heroes to Duels where you can use your collection to build a small deck and as you win games you can add more cards to your collection built deck they deleted Duels and throw it into Twist and you can’t even construct your own deck with the cards in your collection and you need to craft or already own a lot of these legendary cards which most are not worth the resources for a mode that had its “own expansion” that people put money into and then lock it down for months on end? This is outrageous. People wanted new heroes added to duels after the initial launch hype wore off and they did do that, but only two were even original excluding Lich King and the rest were just rehashed from solo adventures. Duels had so much potential, a lot of people enjoyed the dungeon runs of old in PVE, people love Bob from those PVE’s, one thing that always seemed like a missed opportunity was not incorporating him into Duels like the old PVE’s. Every single game mode they try they can’t nail the delivery, Battlegrounds popped off and remains so popular because it’s a “free” mode and it’s not even an original idea, auto battlers existed before it, they just added a few extra things, Hearthstone used to be one of my favorite pass times, I started playing with the launch of Naxxramas, I have played on and off for years, I try to not dust my cards aside from useless legendaries with the worst effects that they printed and man did they make a lot of those back in the day, I try to hang on to some of the more interesting and niche ones though, and the same goes for the epic cards, however I always tried to keep at least one copy of them. I enjoyed Duels a lot to be honest, but it got staler and staler because it was in “beta”. I like playing standard, but I don’t like dumping money into sets for preorders anymore, I’ve been burned to many times in the past doing so, yes a lot of cards have been power-crept over the years, but there’s also been some looks good on paper sets over the years that most of the cards saw zero play, not to mention they try and make like a little lot of cards for classes that are synergistic in each set and have been on the trend for awhile now, however they are effects that aren’t evergreen and they tend to print like 6-7 of these cards give or take and if you’re lucky and find one you enjoy then maybe just maybe they give it 2 or 3 more support pieces a month and a half later in the mini sets. Mini sets are neat, they shake up the meta because people want to try new things, but give it 2 weeks max and it’s back to the same exact meta just with 1-3 new cards from the mini sets added to the same copy paste meta deck it was before. I miss adventures so much, it was enjoyable playing through them, ran the same pricing as mini sets just about, but you got to experience lore, story, you had to experiment when it came to deck building to bet certain bosses, also each wing was released one week at a time which kept the meta feeling fresh and was constantly evolving until a few weeks after every wing had launched. Old Hearthstone had shitty cards by todays standards, it also had ones that were shitty then too, but I feel like there used to be a lot more tender and care put into the game as a whole. With all that said I’d like to end on this note, Wild needs more adjustments, power-creep is real and I thought there was a glimmer of hope with Taverns in Time because they did buff a handful of the older cards, are they playable in wild though, no. I feel like cards that have rotated to wild in the past and in the future need to be looked at individually and have their cost, stats, and in some rare cases even their effects adjusted, especially from like the first handful of expansions, wild will never have a significant shake up in its meta unless cards of old are brought down to be even at least the bare minimum of today’s cards power level. People complain about Wild constantly how it’s just a mode where your cards of old have gone to die in your collection until you dust them and there’s essentially never a chance for anything new to shine, it’s a digital card game, Taverns in Time was just a glimmer of hope, gave me that hope that cards of old could see life again, Duels did that too in its own way, I just wish there was more care put into the game like their what’d been in the past even with poorly designed cards, there was still more care put into it, adventures, dungeon runs, just more personality. I want to launch up the game and feel that sense of excitement and joy I once had and I doubt I am alone on that. Don’t even get me started on the amount of time and budget they sunk into Mercenaries for it to flop like it did, yet it’s still in the game simply because it has its own purchasable content. I wish they’d take a page out of Magic the Gathering’s book and add another format similar to MTG’s “modern” format and still retain the standard and wild format however as I said above I feel like the wild format needs an overhaul. I also think a format like MTG’s “commander” format would be interesting where deck building sizes are increased, starting health totals are higher, but you can only one a single copy of each card you put in your deck legendary or not with the added bonus that all the Highlander cards that have been printed old and knew were available in that format. I still play Hearthstone and I have on and off for years, but I just miss the feeling the game once gave me, I have had a lot of enjoyment over the years playing, I still do from time to time even now, but it just doesn’t feel the same like it used to. To whoever reads this thanks, best wishes to you.
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2024.05.15 09:18 CoffeeNerd58129 How to get Koda 12 temp up?

I’m seeing around 700f/370c in the center of the stone after 30 mins of heating at max.
This oven has always performed like this. It’s a 2019 era Ooni Koda 12 (before there was a 16 even; I think I might have been one of the first Ooni customers vs Uuni), and back then I was so blown away by what it was able to do for me I wasn’t too worried about the lower-than-spec temp, so I never bothered reaching out to the company about this.
I’m using this oven again after taking a break for a couple years. In this time I’ve upleveled in so many other aspects of cooking that my standards are much more exacting and I now want to see what it’s like to bake a Neapolitan pizza in a properly heated Ooni.
I’m guessing this is fundamentally an issue with the hardware where a propane passing orifice is just a bit too small or something like that. Any known issues like this? Anyone have advice for what I can do to get the temp up?
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2024.05.15 09:18 Boring-Rutabaga5319 What You Should Know About Bebika Dhurve

Bebika Dhurve is a Mumbai model, singer, and social media star. She became famous in the showbiz business after being born in Mumbai in June 1993. Fame came to Bebika when she played Devika Oberoi in Zee’s Bhagya Lakshmi. The show showed how good an actress she was. In the second season of Bigg Boss OTT, bebika dhurve and Avinash Sachdeva took part. Voot, a streaming service, was the first to show this digital version of India’s popular reality show. Bebika attended a nearby high school, but little is known about her education. We are still determining what she did after she finished high school. Bebika Dhurve is well-known in the entertainment industry thanks to her talent, charm, and rising popularity. Her career as a model, actor, and social media star is set to get much better. Most of the followers want to know the age of Bebika Dhurve. Keep reading to know about her.

Family

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Career

In 2019, bebika dhurve made a big splash when she got her first job playing on the TV show Bhagya Lakshmi. Many people gave her praise for how well she played Devika Oberoi. Awards and honors showed how dedicated and talented she was. Being on the second season of the famous reality show Bigg Boss OTT in 2023 was the next big thing in Bebika Dhurve’s path in show business. She quickly became one of the most loved contestants on the show as people got excited about her. Bebika showed her toughness and charm by making it to the show’s end, where she came in third place.

Bebika Dhurve Husband or Boyfriend

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Medical Career And Beauty Pageants

Bebika Dhurve‘s job is unique because she is talented and promising at many things and has worked in many fields. Her first job was as a dentist after getting her Bachelor of Dental Surgery from the Rajiv Gandhi University of Health Sciences in Bengaluru, Karnataka. On top of having a background in medicine, Bebika is also a qualified fellow of the American Academy of Implant Dentistry at Roseman University in the US. Putting away her clothes, Bebika chose to try something new in 2020: beauty pageants. Her college teacher pushed her into the world of beauty, which made her decide to do this. She entered The International Glamour Project Miss India pageant, which helped her learn more about new things.

Bebika Dhurve in Bhagya Lakshmi

Bebika Dhurve
The Indian actress bebika dhurve is well-known in the TV business thanks to her part in the famous show “Bhagya Lakshmi.” As the figure “Devika Oberoi,” Dhurve has captivated viewers with her unique screen image. Dhurve plays the “Devika Oberoi” role in the famous Hindi TV show “Bhagya Lakshmi.” In the serial, she showed how good an actress she is by being believable. Many people liked her performance because she could show strong emotions and make her character come to life. In her playing career, the part of “Devika Oberoi” has set a high bar.

Bebika Dhurve in Bigg Boss OTT

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Interesting Facts

Conclusion

By the end, bebika dhurve has shown herself a complex person with many skills and achievements. Her hard work, determination, and love for what she does have helped her succeed in many areas, inspiring others. Bebika Dhurve is an excellent example of greatness and drive because she keeps working towards her goals and making a difference in her community. Hopefully, you will know who is bebika dhurve.Family
Her family moved to Mumbai. When she’s working hard, her five sisters have always supported her. Her mother is a homemaker, and bebika dhurve father, Pandit Janardhan Dhurve, is a prominent Mumbai astrologer. Bebika demonstrates her affection for her family on social media.

Career

In 2019, bebika dhurve made a big splash when she got her first job playing on the TV show Bhagya Lakshmi. Many people gave her praise for how well she played Devika Oberoi. Awards and honors showed how dedicated and talented she was. Being on the second season of the famous reality show Bigg Boss OTT in 2023 was the next big thing in Bebika Dhurve’s path in show business. She quickly became one of the most loved contestants on the show as people got excited about her. Bebika showed her toughness and charm by making it to the show’s end, where she came in third place.

Bebika Dhurve Husband or Boyfriend

Are you curious to know, who bebika dhurve husband is? Bebika Dhurve is not married and is single. She is very dedicated to her playing job, so she hasn’t thought about getting married and having kids. The people in her family are critical of her and always back her in her work. Bebika said in an interview with TellyChakkar that she is not hurrying to get married. Her main goal is to focus on her work and reach her goals before she starts the process of having a family. She stressed the importance of finding a partner who understands and supports her work goals and busy schedule.

Medical Career And Beauty Pageants

Bebika Dhurve‘s job is unique because she is talented and promising at many things and has worked in many fields. Her first job was as a dentist after getting her Bachelor of Dental Surgery from the Rajiv Gandhi University of Health Sciences in Bengaluru, Karnataka. On top of having a background in medicine, Bebika is also a qualified fellow of the American Academy of Implant Dentistry at Roseman University in the US. Putting away her clothes, Bebika chose to try something new in 2020: beauty pageants. Her college teacher pushed her into the world of beauty, which made her decide to do this. She entered The International Glamour Project Miss India pageant, which helped her learn more about new things.

Bebika Dhurve in Bhagya Lakshmi

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2024.05.15 09:17 Specialist-Fuel-5776 I don’t wanna do this,Feeling so much guilt and resentment.

My husband left for about a month and a half for exercise,I’ve moved home since. He was able to take leave for two week before he actually deploys for the rest of the year. I feel so disconnected to him and can’t imagine how our relationship will pan over the rest of this year. I just don’t want this,I don’t him to miss every holiday,my birthday and family gatherings,I just don’t want it but have no say in the reality.I love my husband to death and would do anything for him but I just hate this,I’m tired of saying goodbye,I’m tired of being away from him,I’m tired of living a separate life from him,I feel like our first years married have been so off and on and although we’ve been fortunate to spend most holidays and birthdays I’m just exhausted. I haven’t had a solid job or been able to finish school in one place,I feel like I’ve missed out on so much and he’s just not there and I know he can’t help it but god do I hate it so much,and I hate how angry and resentful it makes me.I just don’t want this,it feels so unfair.
I know how chaotic this rant is I’m just really upset and feel like I’m at a dead end.
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2024.05.15 09:16 Exact-Anybody1734 My brother has turned into a pretentious jerk

Hi Reddit, so I’ll try to keep this as concise as possible while still giving you all the facts. Let us start from the beginning, my at the time 21 y.o. step-brother, was going through his first big break up. Instead of confiding in others or taking time to understand his emotions he instead picked up a book about the stages of love. Let me also explain that my brother has never been the smartest guy and mainly gets by on his good looks and charm in his life. Anyway this book gave the usual “love requires fighting to work it shows that you care about the other” you know stuff everyone already knows. I’m guessing because it came from a book ,or because it was plainly saying what he was too naive to understand about what he was feeling, he became infatuated with every line. Anytime I would have relationship problems he would quote the self help books he had read since and recommend me ones to read. This went on for while but eventually I finished nursing school and moved out of my family’s house (which is my mother’s house, this is important for later) to start working.
Now fast forward to four years later. I’m living on my own with my the love of my life, working the night shift in the hospital like I’ve always wanted. On my way home on night I called my mom to catch up on my drive home. We started talking and eventually I asked about my step-brother. She explained that he was still living at home and had no plans on getting a job or moving out (for context my brother graduated with a master’s degree a year ago). I found that odd and asked what he is doing now. My mom explained that he just makes music and does podcasts with his friends. He apparently says he wants to be an entrepreneur. Which is fine everyone wants to make it big doing what they love doing however. My mother also explained that he constantly invites people she doesn’t know to her house to hangout and when she gets off of work she comes home to strangers that expect her to cook for them. My mother then started tearing up saying “I don’t feel like it’s my house anymore”. That’s when I got upset. I asked her why doesn’t she kick him out or at least start asking for rent so he has to get a job. She explained that she wanted to do that but my step father wouldn’t allow it. My mother and step father have a wonderful marriage and never fight, but because my stepbrother is his son he has attachment to him. My mom recently had to kick her daughter (my blood related sister) into the camper as well since my step sister (19 y.o.) lets her boyfriend stay on weekends in what used to be the girls room. My mother keeps explaining that all of these situations are putting stress on their marriage and by kicking out her daughter she feels like she betrayed her just so my stepfather’s kids can get their way in her house.
After this phone call I was livid so I called my step brother to confront him. After asking the normal “hi how are you” I asked if he has started looking for a job and he said “why would I?”. I responded “so you can work and move out”. Then he said “im in my 20s this is the time you are supposed to chase your dreams” he then pointed out that I always wanted to be a YouTuber or streamer and I should go for it. I then said you know I have a job now and I have to give that job a lot of my time in order to afford the life I live. He basically laughed and explained that there is always enough time. Not much important was said after that.
Now fast forward a few weeks later I see posts from his Instagram talking about how “social media is poison, take back your life, put down your phone, etc.” (Crazy to post that on social media btw). I have also come across his podcast which are just him and his friend who both have the combined IQ of a beheaded chicken explain that the universe is big and has like billions of stars and stuff. 0.0 his entire personality now is saying basic facts at the surface level and then acting like it’s deep as fuck. Furthermore the constant insistence on following your passion mixed with the complete ineptitude of being able to comprehend how smug and pretentious he is during any interaction has breed some real distain from anyone who can see through his act.
All of these posts about self help combined with the complete ignorance of how his actions putting a negative effect on our family has really put a barrier between us. I really don’t think I can take it anymore and I want to either try to explain that he has become a pretentious douche who only keeps around yes men who all think a fact for 5th graders they learn at the zoo makes them better than everyone else, but I honestly think he will just say I don’t understand or maybe I should read this book about stress. I’ve went over the situation with friends of mine and they all laugh when they see his posts and hear him talk now. For God sake he held his 25th birthday party recently and said for everyone to bring a book to exchange knowledge to one another and wear business casual.
I just want my mom to feel like the home she worked tirelessly as a single mother all those years to afford for our family is hers. I have always been so close to my brother and I want him back as a friend. I want my sister to be able to live in the house she was raised in instead of in a camper.
Well that’s everything as of now left out a lot of stories about him being directly wrong about facts he tells us or times he got called out and embarrassed about shit but I think I’ll just leave it here. I plan on confronting him soon I just don’t know what to say. Thank you for your time.
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2024.05.15 09:16 Jerry-And-Tom Never feeling alone in apartment

I live alone, in a converted 1880's victorian, on a private 2nd floor, located in suburban Philadelphia. My landlord was a sweet old woman that passed away just over 1 year ago. The family that owns the home, her daughter and immediate fam, have extended my lease to allow me to continue living here. Since she has passed, I have stopped social drinking entirely, cut back dramatically on my THC consumption, and have never used anything else. (Important for question.) My question is, why do I always feel that one room is always occupied by someone. It's a really ill-defined feeling, mainly that sense that you have when you know someone is in the next room over. Not by sound, scent, or seeing them, you just 'know' there is someone there. I could be in the bedroom, and feel that someone is in the living room. Walk in the entry downstairs, and "know" someone is in the kitchen. When sitting at my computer systems for work, the feeling someone is behind me is always intense. Don't get me wrong, this house makes noises, it's going on 140+ years old. But there is no weird noise, occurrences, or other things going on. Nothing moves, no flickering lights, no moaning and groaning, etc. I work from home, so, I am in all day and night, and, for the past year, I haven't felt alone, ever. I wake up in the middle of the night, either to start my shift, or eat, or something, and that feeling is there. I know/feel/sense someone. Does anyone else feel this 'feeling'? (Please no talk of someone is watching over me, I have a specteghoul/poltergeist/spirit.) That is NOT what I am looking for. I'm honestly asking if there is a reason, or even condition, be it physical or psychological that causes this feeling.
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2024.05.15 09:14 Ok_Lemon1144 Me against the world

Currently and before, does it feel like the whole world is against you. Like snide remarks, strange looks, horrible coworkers who email you job listings to another state, coworkers who go out to eat without you. Family who blame you for everything. Parent will only love you if you buy them things, expensive things. Family who rationalize everything to the point of making excuses for your parent’s behavior. It’s never anyone else’s fault. You’re the one who did it wrong. You did everything wrong. You’re trapped at home because you’re a loser. You’re too ugly and fat for anyone to love you. You’re too weird. Oh and you’re too autistic to be taken seriously. Stop lying about things that actually happened to you. Stop lying about me telling you, to stop lying about you almost getting SA’d long ago.
It was only a pat on the shoulder the second time around.
Nobody ever apologizes.
It keeps happening again. Then you lose a friend group because they chose him over you.
Friends who care, but how much can you pull your heart out for them before they push you away. Where is the line I can’t cross. If I do then it’s my fault too.
Not everything is that serious, they say. You’re too sensitive. Grow thicker skin and deal with it.
Learn from your mistakes.
But I’m tired.
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2024.05.15 09:14 Nineteencats AITA for not going to my step brothers wedding?

I (19f) have been asked by my father (45m) to go to my step brothers wedding, technically I’m “invited” but my step brother hasn’t said a word to me the only person who’s mentioned it is my dad.
For some backstory my parents are divorced and my mom got custody of me when I was 6, my dad is in the military so he never really lived close to me and I would be inconsolable whenever I had to go visit him because I hated being away from home, this only got worse when he married my step mom and moved states away.
Since he was so far away I would see my dad once a year maybe twice but the one time I would see him each year was in the summer for 2-3 months which is also when my step brother would visit my step mom, but for the 3 summers I spent there I talked to my step brother a handful of times, there’s no particular reason for this we just didn’t really get along I guess.
So basically I never talk to my step brother and I barely know him and I definitely don’t know his fiancé. I’ve “met” her twice but we didn’t talk to each other and no one even introduced us.
So today my dad texts my mom and asks her if I’m going to the wedding which is super weird considering that I’m an adult and he could just ask me but whatever, I tell my mom I’ll call my dad so that she doesn’t have to deal with this. When he answers the phone I get an annoyed “hey” which is out of character for him because he usually answers with something fun like “whaddup kiddo” so I instantly knew he was mad. He asks if I’m going, I say that I’m busy that week (which isn’t fully true but it kinda is) and then he says it would be nice if I went because I could see my grandparents who I haven’t seen in a while.
Now my grandparents are a whole different story but basically they never really made an effort to see me and the only communication I have with them is a “happy birthday” text from my grandma every year and i didn’t even get one for my last birthday and the birthday before that she forgot my birthday and sent it the day after (lol)
Back to the phone call with my dad I tell him that I’m going to be in the state that my grandparents live in soon and maybe we can arrange something then, he doesn’t really say much about that and then he says “alright I’ll talk to you later” and we hang up. I start crying because I could just tell he was mad at me but I go on with my day until around 15 minutes later he calls me back and tells me that he’s very disappointed that I can’t take 3 days to go to a family event, I’m feeling emotional at that point so I just tell him that I feel like a stranger around his family and all he has to say about that is “you wouldn’t feel like a stranger if you went to family events”
I really truly do not understand this because it’s not like my entire family is going to be at this wedding it’s going to mostly be my step brothers family and I’m just not comfortable being around people I don’t really know, especially at a wedding.
But in any case my dad is super pissed so…AITA?
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2024.05.15 09:14 Kooky-Bookkeeper2240 Why did God let me mess my life up so bad

Things in my life will get good then I do something to mess it all up. Like I’ll start going down a good path then I’ll make the worst decisions of my life or my luck is just so bad I’ll end up in horrible situations. At one point I found a good medium and then I’ll screw things up end up in Jail, homeless etc. like when I feel God has been answering my prays and things get better I’ll lose it all and then some. I find myself wishing I could go back in time and change it. Idk what to do. My health is so bad and I’m only 24. I make so many bad decisions. God please help me I’m lost I’m destroying my life I have no motivation. There has been times where I experienced miracles but I think I ran out of them. There isn’t anyway I can see my life improving. I’m just barely holding on. I wake up wishing I didn’t wake up. I never achieved any of my passions. I don’t have anyone close no significant other. My life is just going down the drain. I believe in our Lord Jesus but I feel he doesn’t believe in me. Idk I’m so confused I don’t understand why I exist why would he make me. It doesn’t seem I have any purpose for the kingdom of God. I feel I belong in hell. I’m an evil person. I can’t change my ways. I don’t get why God would make me. I serve no purpose to him. I find myself angry at times to Him. I miss my friend that passed away at 21. I’m so lonely I have no woman in my life. I’m just a waste. I can’t preach the Gospel my crippling anxiety won’t let me. If anything I’m a testimony of nothing. God hasn’t changed my life for the better at all. I have addictions i can’t kick. I believe in Jesus but I feel he wants nothing to do with me. He won’t change me. Free will is like a curse because I’ll make horrible decisions. I’m a lost cause. The End
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2024.05.15 09:13 sexyredpanderp I belong here

I woke up in my usual setting. A mostly dark room with a single bulb at the top. The walls were cushioned with what looked to be firm pillows. The only way out was a rusted, steel door with no knob. There was an opening in the middle of the door that would sometimes open to give me food with a male voice that would ask me occasionally, “How are you feeling Emma?”
I generally answer with a sarcastic retort like “Fine and dandy!”
I don’t remember why I was put here. Seems like something terrible if I’m in some padded mental hospital room. I remember watching shows like Mindhunters where the serial killer always came out of this scary, dark room like this one. Rooms like these are reserved for the worst of the worst. Usually for those not fit for regular societal norms.
I can never really remember what I did that was so horrible. I would briefly see flashes of me, my husband, and my two daughters doing fun family things. I remember going to Disneyland and doing long road trips to Yosemite. I loved them with all my heart.
Is all this because I hurt them?....What could I possibly have done to them?
I hear the usual screams from the other rooms at the ward. Screams of agony. Then there’s me, just quietly, slowly sinking my teeth into my fingernails just so I can feel something. The blood dripping down to my forearms.
It was the next day. I think?
The same voice alerted me as a hand came through with a tray of food. The usual chicken strips, beans, and apple juice.
“You alright Emma?”
“Yes sir” I said.
Time passes as I bang my head against the cushiony wall.
I suddenly remembered a courtroom. An argument between me and my husband.
He told me “How could you do this?”
Jesus….What did I do? I remember my kids crying as he pulled them away from me.
“4 years for domestic violence.” the judge ruled in court.
I lean on a dark corner of the room, dozing off. I remember being in the kitchen with a knife on my right hand and having blood on my left. I hear screams. Glass crashing to the floor.
And then a flash. That must have been when I got arrested…
I woke up from a nightmarish slumber, a tear going down my face. I just wanted to die.
I hear the attendant coming back.
“You okay Emma?”
“I deserve to be here don’t I?” as I burst out crying.
“It’s okay Emma. It’s better this way. I can’t let you tell on me again Emma. This way we’ll be together forever. Selena and Lana are just next door. See? We’ve never been so close. I’ll take good care of you all.”
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2024.05.15 09:13 Timely-Worldliness-3 I just needed a little compromise

I know it was your first relationship. At 28, you had already been through so much, having been on your own for 13 years. You were forced to grow up too fast, and had to prioritize yourself, building a life from nothing. I get it. It was your fierce independence that made me fall for you in the first place.
I always knew that trying to build a life with you was going to be a struggle. I thought it would be worth it, for both of us. You deserve to have someone in your corner, that always has your back. You shouldn’t have to be alone. I don’t know if you believed the same.
I think I gave up too much of myself for you. Was that my mistake or yours? Did you really ask for too much, or did I give too freely without expectation for anything in return? Maybe both. Probably more on me. I’m not perfect by a long shot.
Compromise. It really does all come down to that. I tried to show you its importance, but in the process I ended up being the only one willing to do it. Me getting to pick what movie we watched or getting to plan a date became something I only got to do on special occasions. You said you felt like you didn’t know me, but so many times in so many ways I offered up little pieces of me to you. I share myself by sharing the things I love with the people I love. But more and more towards the end, all you’d say was “no”. Ignoring any context. Ignoring those pieces of me.
I know you don’t like movies about kids. I know asking to watch Home Alone during Christmas was a big ask. But it was a tradition that I shared with my dad, who I lost just over a year before. I know you think that traditions are pointless, but it was important to me. My earliest memories are of that. I needed to continue on, but I couldn’t bring myself to do it alone. I needed you there, your support. It was such a small gesture I was asking of you, but all I got was “no”. Instead we watched a movie you picked: Harry Potter and the Sorcerer’s Stone. A movie made by the exact same people that made Home Alone, and with even more kids.
We wanted to go to Ireland. Personally I’ve been wanting to go for years, but couldn’t because of my dad’s illness along with everything else going on. You knew that in the last 3 years I lost all of my grandparents, two uncles, my dad. I couldn’t risk going so far away for so long while everyone was sick. My mom saw me giving up the latter half of my 20s for my family, when she was hoping I would be enjoying life and seeing the world. That’s why she was happy to give us the money to have the trip of our dreams. I explained all of this to you while you were struggling to find a way to save for the trip. All my mom wanted in return was a single nice photo of us. That wasn’t even a requirement for the money. She just wanted to see me with the person that I love making our dreams come true. I know you hate having your picture taken. The only attention your dad ever gave you was when he wanted to test a new camera. It’s a trauma trigger. But I was only asking for one picture. You’d compromise for your friends, you’d compromise for your sister. You’d take pictures with them. Why wouldn’t you compromise for your partner, and the other most important person in your partners life? After a year, we have 3 pictures together, none of which are very good. I know that I was asking for a lot, but I felt so less important than everyone else in your life. Maybe you felt that as your partner, I was to be held to a higher standard? I honestly don’t know. All you said was “no”.
You admitted yourself I was so supportive. I always prioritized you. From always making your tea before mine, to giving you the better looking plate at dinner, to planting all of your favorite flowers in my garden. I always complemented you, how smart you are, how beautiful you are, how driven and independent you are. Your friend needed a ride to a 5k and someone to cheer them on? I was there. You needed someone to drive you around while your car was in the shop for 2 months? No problem. Accidentally overdrew your account again, and you couldn’t afford the late fees? Here’s $50. Need to move on short notice? I’m the guy tearing apart and moving your furniture. You have a migraine so bad you can’t eat? I’m bringing you pedialyte and sleeping on your couch, even though I didn’t actually get any sleep. I learned all your rituals so not to trigger your OCD. There are countless other examples. I never said no. I never complained. You rarely said so much as “thank you”.
The big one. The thing that ended us. You’re right, we did sit down like adults time and time again and talked things out. You said you needed me to anticipate your needs. You’d get overwhelmed, and couldn’t articulate what you needed from me. You couldn’t stand being asked what you needed. You just needed me to start helping. “Mental loads” and all that. I took that to heart. But I’m not perfect. Sometimes I’d miss the mark. Tried to support you, but in the wrong way. Even in my failures I showed effort, but you never seemed to see that. You only focused on how I failed.
We recognized that this was a problem caused by both of us. The communication wasn’t getting through. But I had already adapted to your communication style as much as I could. My exited, rambling, almost impulsive way of generating ideas became slow, methodical, thoughtful. I put intention behind everything so not to overwhelm you. I learned not to jump at the obvious solution.
Yes, we sat down like adults and talked things over time and time again. You told me what you needed from me, but I also told you what I needed from you. If I was missing the mark, please just guide me to what you needed. I’m not a mind reader. I did it for you all the time. You were honestly awful at anticipating my needs too. If I was venting, had a bad day, all you’d say was “I’m sorry”, and pat me on the back like a puppy. No effort to dig deeper. No words of support or encouragement. So I had to show you how I needed support. I just needed you to do the same for me. “No”. Again.
One final time, I sent you words of support when you were having a bad day. It wasn’t enough, you wanted more. A phone call? For me to come over so you could vent in person? Did you actually want me to directly help for once? I don’t know. You never told me. Instead of guiding me to what you needed, you immediately shut down. Full silent treatment. I’ve been in abusive relationships where the silent treatment was welded as a weapon. I know you didn’t mean it in an abusive way, you were just overwhelmed again. But I never expected it from you. I didn’t see it for what it was. I only ever asked one thing from you to save us. I put in the work, got us 80% of the way there. I knew I couldn’t bridge the gap on my own. I wasn’t even asking you to put in effort on my behalf, it was for your benefit. I begged you time and time again for help. To communicate. Not to put it all on me, because I couldn’t do it on my own. But instead, you did the opposite.
You said that you felt like you were putting more effort into the relationship than I was. I’m sorry, but I can’t see that effort. I’m trying to give you the benefit of the doubt, but I can’t. Maybe you mean you put effort into forgiving me every time I messed up? Maybe you mean that you were always planning dates, always picking what we watched, where we went, what we ate, what we drank? Again, mental loads and such. But I had things that I wanted to do and share with you that you always turned down. You only had to plan everything after my plans were rejected. It would have been more efficient for you to show love, patience, and compromise. Maybe we would have worked out then.
But then you left.
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2024.05.15 09:13 otherwise_billa Need help / advice

Me 31M and my girl 33F We love each other a lot It's been 10 months. We've had our ups and downs.
She's elder. Earns more. Is the sole bread winner of her house. Takes care of her mum and overall is an amazing person.
The whole thing about our relationship is lack of respect and trust.
I doubt she sees me as the man she'd have liked to end up with because I've always sensed that she underestimates me and doesn't see me as an equal.
In the early days of the relationship I used to walk away thinking this is to good to be true. And in the recent months, she's been willing to walk away as my belief in making this work has grown stronger.
I'll address a few problems here - she has her DMs open and constantly gets approached by men. Some she cuts of. Some she allows (for professional reasons apparently). Some of those conversations seem more than friendly and she actively engages with some men that are obviously hitting on her. - she's compared me to multiple people in the past (including calling me a 2.0 of an ex-fuckbuddy she was madly in love with) - Once, after one breakup that I initiated. She came to my terrace to make up. We did. I took her home cause I had to wear pants before I dropped her home. My cousin was there and she didn't hesitate to make it obvious she was being overly friendly with him. "Accidently" flashed her panites his way. - she's slapped me in public during a heated fight. Just to come back home and try having sex like nothing happened. - she fights with me about her way of dressing . As a boyfriend, I just highlight that revealing clothes attract the wrong attention, which I don't like if it's my girlfriend. Never stopped her from wearing anything, anywhere, anytime. She still seems to think I want her behind a curtain. - most recently, at a party together she called a male friend of mine 'baby' (accidently) right in front me. Just to justify it in front of him by saying she calls other men baby too. Post this party, there wass an outburst in front of my mother where we both misbehaved.
She has a tendency to at times bring up being a 'crazy' 'badass' chick and also at times says her misbehaviour is due to her 'daddy issues'.
Currently due to our last fight, she's going to stay mad at me for the next few days cause I responded to a statement she mad in a very wrong way I want to trust her blindly, and be with her confidently, but situations arise and make it difficult. Speaking to her about it usually makes it worse for me.
I'm reaching out to the reddit community to get an opinion on whether, from an outsiders perspective, I'm being played or, just misunderstanding her. There's ofcourse two sides of the story, but.. I need you guys to give me perspective. Tell me how much of a pathetic simp I'm being? I used to be okay with letting go of this love stuff. I'm suddenly finding it hard in this situation.
I love her and want this to work, but maybe I/we are not seeing something. What should I do here?
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2024.05.15 09:12 Dry-Muffin-7974 My father and I

My father and I have a lot of communication gap, i try to communicate to him but all he does it ignore and keep giving his opinion which i do appreciate but he never really considers my words.
I got my results day before yesterday and I knew i wouldn't be able to do much good because of the problems i had been facing during my exams but i was glad that i did pass.
I have to select colleges and my father keeps showing me that he has to search for 2nd and 3rd tier colleges just because I didn't do well.( although never spoke directly) but his actions does hurt me, rn I was trying to tell him what i really want to do and what college i really want to go but he kept scrolling on college advertisement and kept ignoring my words as if they meant nothing.
I know its my fault that i didn't get good grades to get a 1st tier college but trust me when i say I cried in my exam centre because of severe panic attack (my parents don't know about it because the reason of these attacks have another traumatic experience of mine and they hate talking about that experience)
fast forward now, after my result day before yesterday, my relatives call to my dad and ask about it and he hesitates and just tell them the truth in front of me say, "she didn't do that well" and not for my sake tell them how much i have suffered to even get that, well not that he ever cared to ask if i am even suffering.
I told him yesterday crying loud that i am frustrated from entrance exams and I don't want to do it anymore but all he did was to sleep right after that and wake up in evening saying "my child can not give up that easy"( it may sound like motivation) but let me tell you, I have given more than 10 entrance exams and feel terrible cause for studying exams, i am reminded of the day i cried in my centre and how i sucked my exam, It horrifies me every time i pick up the book and get headache thinking about it. But he really doesn't care and i can prove u how, 2yrs before exams of 1st tier college started he was like "focus on your goal" (which he meant to get into that college) once those exams ended and i said i couldn't get any he said "get this- that (2nd tier) college" And i know its okay for parents to say that but he never. NEVER asked me if i even wanted to go in that college or if i even have any dream college or not, it was always his favourites.
My father have always showed himself as the most supportive father and let me tell you I feel like i am caged in this house and the only way to free myself is to get a college far away from my house in another state or something and uk i can guarantee I'll be in my best productive phase once i get out of this house.
Ik my father has done a lot for me and is still struggling to provide the necessity me and brother needs but I have started feeling as if he is wanting things from me in return and if i am unable to he starts showing how much of a burden i am to him( i can see through his actions every time i disappoint him through my marks).
TLDR :I don't know if i am the toxic one to think so bad about my father or he's like every other parent who creates cold environment if their child doesn't perform ( and trust me i HATE myself thinking so bad about my father but i couldn't stop but feel anxious every time his actions shows me how worthless i am) I so badly want you to tell me i am taking my father's behaviour in wrong sense cause am exhausted crying last two nights about my situation
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2024.05.15 09:12 AintDatRightCuh Withdrawing from inherited IRAs

This is an update to a previous post; I spoke to my father's financial advisor, which didn't really help, so of course I've come to Reddit...
Background: My (42) father (82) passed away last week. He had three IRAs that now have a total of $301,000 remaining.
I had been withdrawing money to pay for his care and I also recently received a death benefit of $62,000 from when my mother passed away six months ago. (Yes, it's been a tough year).
So, I'm now left with $100,000 in an account that has my name on it (taxes have been paid) and his IRAs.
Today, I spoke to my father's financial planner, who said we should consolidate the IRAs into one to make life simpler. She also said that while federal law requires inherited IRAs and 401ks to be liquidated withing 10 years, it doesn't necessarily have to be accomplished by withdrawing 10% each year (theoretically, I suppose I could withdraw it all in year 10).
The thing is, I don't need the money. In addition to the $100,000 liquid, my wife and I make a good living. We earn approximately $198,000 a year and we're a sneeze away from the top of our income tax bracket (we will more than likely go above it next year with simple cost of living increases).
So, it begs the question: what should we do, first with the $100,000 (we were thinking half in CDs and half in a HYSA), and then with the $300,000?
We live a very simple life in a relatively low cost of living city. We don't have a car, we don't want to be a landlords. We live within our means and we don't want for anything.
I know these are good problems to have. I'm grateful to be in this position.
Thanks for any knowledge you can drop.
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2024.05.15 09:12 Fluffy_Object_6032 My cat wants to be outside all the time

I think I made a mistake by getting my 1.5 year old cat (male, castrated) used to being outside every day.
I started slowly by leash-training him, he was okay with the harness but this didn't really work out since he was too terrified every time someone passed by (he is really afraid of people) and a few times he even managed to escape, despite wearing the harness. I bought him a GPS tracker and let him roam outside on his own, which seems to work fine. I live in the city , but in my area there are mostly parks and hardly any roads.
The problem is, that now his outside trips are getting longer and longer (currently around 7 hours a day) and he is getting further and further away, closer to big roads. Now he also started bringing animals into my flat (mice, birds), sometimes even alive while releasing them in my living room.
I'm leaning towards not letting him out anymore (at least not without a leash) since every time he goes out I have to wait for him to return before I leave the house myself. I also feel bad for the animals he kills (he ripped off a birds head in front of my eyes which was very traumatic to watch). I also feel like being outside really shifts his behaviour from being a cuddly cat into a really aggressive predator. Additionally, I will move out of this flat in a year into a place where it will be even more dangerous for him to be outside, so his outside trips will have to end soon anyway.
The problem is, well, now he is used to being outside most of the day, and when I don't let him out he cries for hours, and starts destroying the flat. I work from home, and it is very difficult to deal with.
I would have loved to try to reduce his outside time incrementally, but since I can't really control the time he decides to return this is not really practical.
I can't bring a second cat at the moment, I play with him quite a lot (at least 20 min in the morning, afternoon and evenings) and I don't really know what else I can do to distract him from going outside and ruining everything in my flat.

Any advice would be highly appreciated.
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2024.05.15 09:11 No-Upstairs7333 ABYG kung nagdesisyon na agad ako at hindi na ayusin?

Long post ahead
Hello, my gf and I broke up days ago. This is the first time I’m starting to lose interest in everything, I always tried to escape in games but this time I get tired of it too so I want to let this out.
She tried ghosting me, I was lucky I followed my instinct to kinda hack my way in to her messenger and found out about it (read a chat with one of her friends) even if it meant I invaded her privacy.
I’m not perfect, we had our ups and downs, I had red flags and she did too. The reason I read why she was leaving me was because she said she deserves peace of mind, I was not respecting her anymore, rude words whenever we had argument and the silent treatment that she wanted me to change and she said that I did not change, she gave me a chance and she is done and she is spent. Yes, that is true I am guilty of it, I am trying to change, but it is still not enough or she saw too little of it, definitely my fault.
But then I also found out that she was talking to her guy friend she met at the same dating app that she met me in. (I was not able to see the messages and no sign of it because of the new encryption of messenger).
I don’t know how long they have been chatting, I have no access to her social media account. As to how I found is that I only saw a few in her email and this is not accurate idk how or why meta sends this email and not all messages she receives in messenger are emailed to notify, only a few. There was 5 emails in different dates this month that notifies she received a message in her messenger from this guy.
I thought we were still okay this past month, although I noticed some changes that she doesn’t want me to hug her anymore for long when sleeping or cuddling, saying that it is hot. She is getting cold in the chat, I always tried to be lively in the chat but it was not as it was how it supposed to be. I ignored this knowing she is busy with her work.
Days before our break up, she met with the guy she was talking to after work. She did ask for permission from me and the reason is it was all just about catching up with one another and “Kaibigan niya lang”. I agreed even if I did not really want to because I was complacent we had an app that is called life360 and I can check up on her wherever she is going. This did not go well for me, as I was monitoring the app from time to time, I thought it was cancelled as her location never moved from her house. Later that day I asked her about it and she told me it was not cancelled and that she left her phone at home and only brought her sister’s phone. I was kinda mad and it resulted to me ignoring her.
I did not know that this was the start of her ghosting me, she also ignored me and let it pass, I messaged her asking for something like to start a conversation again and make it up again. But she still ignored me. And this was when I did it, going through her messenger and email. I also tried checking on some of her social media platform, I found out she has a threads account which I did not know that she had one. I saw there her 2 posts that caught my attention. It says “You are one of a kind”, and the other “In another life, maybe we met each other earlier then I would love you” posted this month, one that is days ago and one that is weeks ago. It was definitely not for me.
I felt angry with all that I found out. As she was ignoring me in social medias, I emailed her to confront her and tell that I found out that she was ghosting me and all the other things, some insults as to how the guy is just a friend despite all the things I learned of, and if it was me in her place and did it, I bet her reaction would be worse. I also said that it is the last time she will hear from me whatever she says.
She did replied saying that there is no need to explain to me and it is okay if I think that she is cheating and the post on her threads were not meant for that guy.
So it was meant for someone else? Another guy I do not know of? A quick thought that popped in my mind.
I ignored her, blocked her on everything, I did not try to fix it anymore. Did I do the right thing, I wanted to fix it but with all that I learned of, it was too much for me.
With everything that I found out there is still a question in my mind.
The question now in my mind is if that I’m the real reason or did she really cheated or maybe both…. Now my emotions are being mixed with anger whenever I think about it.
ABYG na hindi ko na inayos at hinayaan nalang at iniwan na din siya? O mali ako at nag overthink lang ako at ako talaga ang rason kung bakit niya ako iiwan nang walang pasabi.
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