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Jagex, Please discuss Sailing Integration with the rest of the game
2024.05.16 18:20 Anon_Trill Jagex, Please discuss Sailing Integration with the rest of the game
WARNING: This post is long and there is a TLDR at the bottom.
I just read the watched the newest Sailing Development Update, so far I would say it looks great for being so early on in development. I also read some of the comments here on reddit, and I think there is a lot of negativity. Sailing does seem like it will be hard to design and implement correctly, but I don't think it is impossible.
I believe that the skill needs to be integrated very well into the rest of the game for it to feel like it belongs. This post talks about integration of content into the game and how to potentially do it.
One thing that I noticed right away was the training methods and the loot.
I think that this trend is okay for some smaller activities (like the ones listed above), but is really just a quick band-aid fix for not having other engaging reward space. I don't think this idea would be enough for an entire skill to ride on.
For example:
To further make this point, I want to talk about a few skills that are normally regarded as lacking.
Firemaking Firemaking as it currently stands is a skill I think most people would agree is not too great. It is not fulfilling to train because it lives in a vacuum. Firemaking was always trained for training's sake. Burning higher tiered logs has no benefit and the skill itself provides nothing to the play experience other than forced requirements.
This skill was so horrifying to train that it required a new mini game (or "boss") to simply allow players to power level through it just to get it over with. Similar to temperos, wintertodt needed to give a bunch of raw materials for other skills to make it worth while.
The point is that this skill feels like a black sheep because it is not integrated into the game like the others are. It doesn't cross pollinate with other skills and does not impact the player's gameplay experience.
Hunter Hunter is also a skill that feels like it doesn't belong. Why? Well because it is not integrated well into the rest of the game. Most of the materials you get from hunter do not have a use case, so training it feels like the player is mostly doing it for the sake of training.
I do want to say though that I acknowledge the recent hunter changes and they were definitely an improvement, but my point still stands. If the furs from hunter were used in crafting, or the bones in fletching, or the salamanders were relevant, etc. The skill would feel more rewarding to train.
Dungeoneering While dungeoneering is not a skill in OSRS, we can learn a lot from it. I always loved dungeoneering, but it seemed to feel more like a good mini-game that had its own skill and experience attached to it.
It was a rewarding skill to train, the skill gameplay itself was fun and engaging, and it did utilize almost every other skill in the dungeon floors, yet it still felt like a mini-game.
I believe this is because the only thing to gain from the skill was combat weapons. Training the skill itself didn't cross pollinate into the others. High dungeoneering didn't unlock anything or contribute to any other parts of the game at all.
I do have a few ideas on things that could be included. These ideas were just shallowly thought of on the spot to make my point and spark discussion. Further refinement would of course need to be made and new ideas are necessary as well.
New Farming Patch: Maybe sailing could introduce a new type of farming patch (or multiple). With this new patch new herb like items could be farmed and then integrated into Herblore with a few new potions. This new patch type might just be found on islands that the player must sail to. The seeds for this new patch could be added to non-sailing monster drops (normal slayer creatures).
New Hunter Animals: There could potentially be new hunter animals added to the game and/or just new spots to do existing hunter.
New PoH Room(s): Maybe there is a new room in the PoH that the player can build to not only effect the sailing skill itself, but provide utility benefit to other activities (like the utility of the portal room). Maybe some of the higher tier furniture needs rare loot that is obtained from Sailing (or a boss that is only accessed through sailing).
Deep Sea Fishing: Sailing seems to naturally fit with fishing thematically. Maybe the player could find fishing spots on some islands that were inaccessible before. This could provide integration with both fishing and cooking.
Item Storage: It seemed to me from the dev-blog video that the player received loot through crates because they wouldn't have enough inventory space to carry rewards throughout a larger voyage. The necessity to bank would heavily impede on the skill and break emersion. The crate like loot system really gave me mini game vibes and honestly came off as a bit lazy (no offense Jagex).
If this is true, I believe it could potentially be solved with storage units in the hull of the ship. Allow players to have a large bank-like storage in the ship's hull that could hold items obtained when out at sea. Then, simply force them to empty the storage when they return to port so that it can't be used as a permanent alternative to bank space. Further design would be necessary for UIM considerations.
Maybe the ships could include multiple different storage options that were upgradable. We could even utilize the current brewing mechanics (from things like making wines) to make certain sea loot spoil over time. For example: if the deep sea fishing idea from above was implemented, some of the fish from that activity could start to spoil over time (one by one) if the the voyage was too long and the food was left in the ship's hull. Upgrades could reduce how often the items spoil.
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I think you get the point. All of the above ideas might suck in actuality when putting real effort into to them and actually designing real content, but I think they do well communicating what I am trying to say.
Any feedback or comments on this post are welcome and appreciated. I might be wrong, but I want what is best for the game's longevity.
TLDR: Sailing needs to not only utilize other skills, but also contribute things to those skills to feel integrated into the game. Slapping XP on a mini game and giving the player a lot of alchs and raw materials as rewards does not make it feel engaging and like it belongs.
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I just read the watched the newest Sailing Development Update, so far I would say it looks great for being so early on in development. I also read some of the comments here on reddit, and I think there is a lot of negativity. Sailing does seem like it will be hard to design and implement correctly, but I don't think it is impossible.
I believe that the skill needs to be integrated very well into the rest of the game for it to feel like it belongs. This post talks about integration of content into the game and how to potentially do it.
One thing that I noticed right away was the training methods and the loot.
Loot:
The loot seemed to just be a bunch of random base materials. Please do not make sailing rewards similar to temperos or wilderness agility course. Both of these activities just give the player a bunch of loot that doesn't really fit the activity (mostly in the form of alchs) so that the GP/H goes up and the activity becomes economically viable in the game.I think that this trend is okay for some smaller activities (like the ones listed above), but is really just a quick band-aid fix for not having other engaging reward space. I don't think this idea would be enough for an entire skill to ride on.
Integration:
A big reason other skills feel like they fit into the game well is because the rewards you get from performing those activities are applicable (and integrated) throughout the rest of the game.For example:
- Herblore makes potions that are used to boost your stats, which in turn is used everywhere throughout the game. People use potions in combat, for skilling boosts, and to restore things like run-energy, prayer points, and even curing poison / venom.
- Farming is used to gain herbs (and other produce) which feeds Herblore and subsequently feels like it then gives the player access to the benefits of potions through Herblore.
- Prayer affects the player's combat drastically and is therefore very rewarding to train. Also, it is interwoven tightly with Herblore for Prayer pots and Super Restores, thus giving more value to Herblore. Bones are mainly gained through slayer, etc.
- Mining & Smithing are used to make gear that is then used in combat. The same applies to Woodcutting & Fletching. Crafting also uses a combination of materials from other skills.
- Fishing & Cooking are the main sources of food into the game for combat.
To further make this point, I want to talk about a few skills that are normally regarded as lacking.
Firemaking Firemaking as it currently stands is a skill I think most people would agree is not too great. It is not fulfilling to train because it lives in a vacuum. Firemaking was always trained for training's sake. Burning higher tiered logs has no benefit and the skill itself provides nothing to the play experience other than forced requirements.
This skill was so horrifying to train that it required a new mini game (or "boss") to simply allow players to power level through it just to get it over with. Similar to temperos, wintertodt needed to give a bunch of raw materials for other skills to make it worth while.
The point is that this skill feels like a black sheep because it is not integrated into the game like the others are. It doesn't cross pollinate with other skills and does not impact the player's gameplay experience.
Hunter Hunter is also a skill that feels like it doesn't belong. Why? Well because it is not integrated well into the rest of the game. Most of the materials you get from hunter do not have a use case, so training it feels like the player is mostly doing it for the sake of training.
I do want to say though that I acknowledge the recent hunter changes and they were definitely an improvement, but my point still stands. If the furs from hunter were used in crafting, or the bones in fletching, or the salamanders were relevant, etc. The skill would feel more rewarding to train.
Dungeoneering While dungeoneering is not a skill in OSRS, we can learn a lot from it. I always loved dungeoneering, but it seemed to feel more like a good mini-game that had its own skill and experience attached to it.
It was a rewarding skill to train, the skill gameplay itself was fun and engaging, and it did utilize almost every other skill in the dungeon floors, yet it still felt like a mini-game.
I believe this is because the only thing to gain from the skill was combat weapons. Training the skill itself didn't cross pollinate into the others. High dungeoneering didn't unlock anything or contribute to any other parts of the game at all.
Conclusion & Ideas
Please talk about how Sailing will be integrated into the game. I believe that unless it is integrated into the rest of the game like described in this post, it will feel off. The latest dev-blog does show potential, but I received very mini-game esq vibes from it.I do have a few ideas on things that could be included. These ideas were just shallowly thought of on the spot to make my point and spark discussion. Further refinement would of course need to be made and new ideas are necessary as well.
New Farming Patch: Maybe sailing could introduce a new type of farming patch (or multiple). With this new patch new herb like items could be farmed and then integrated into Herblore with a few new potions. This new patch type might just be found on islands that the player must sail to. The seeds for this new patch could be added to non-sailing monster drops (normal slayer creatures).
New Hunter Animals: There could potentially be new hunter animals added to the game and/or just new spots to do existing hunter.
New PoH Room(s): Maybe there is a new room in the PoH that the player can build to not only effect the sailing skill itself, but provide utility benefit to other activities (like the utility of the portal room). Maybe some of the higher tier furniture needs rare loot that is obtained from Sailing (or a boss that is only accessed through sailing).
Deep Sea Fishing: Sailing seems to naturally fit with fishing thematically. Maybe the player could find fishing spots on some islands that were inaccessible before. This could provide integration with both fishing and cooking.
Item Storage: It seemed to me from the dev-blog video that the player received loot through crates because they wouldn't have enough inventory space to carry rewards throughout a larger voyage. The necessity to bank would heavily impede on the skill and break emersion. The crate like loot system really gave me mini game vibes and honestly came off as a bit lazy (no offense Jagex).
If this is true, I believe it could potentially be solved with storage units in the hull of the ship. Allow players to have a large bank-like storage in the ship's hull that could hold items obtained when out at sea. Then, simply force them to empty the storage when they return to port so that it can't be used as a permanent alternative to bank space. Further design would be necessary for UIM considerations.
Maybe the ships could include multiple different storage options that were upgradable. We could even utilize the current brewing mechanics (from things like making wines) to make certain sea loot spoil over time. For example: if the deep sea fishing idea from above was implemented, some of the fish from that activity could start to spoil over time (one by one) if the the voyage was too long and the food was left in the ship's hull. Upgrades could reduce how often the items spoil.
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I think you get the point. All of the above ideas might suck in actuality when putting real effort into to them and actually designing real content, but I think they do well communicating what I am trying to say.
Any feedback or comments on this post are welcome and appreciated. I might be wrong, but I want what is best for the game's longevity.
TLDR: Sailing needs to not only utilize other skills, but also contribute things to those skills to feel integrated into the game. Slapping XP on a mini game and giving the player a lot of alchs and raw materials as rewards does not make it feel engaging and like it belongs.
2024.05.16 18:19 The_Curious_Creator Ultimate Pro Home Painting Setup
As a general contractor, painting is one of the tasks we tackle among many others. However, it’s the job I dislike the most. It's tedious, time-consuming, and it seems like no matter who I hire, aside from myself, they end up making a mess and getting paint everywhere! Over time, I’ve found that having quality equipment makes painting much more tolerable. So, let’s create a list of the best possible paint equipment that makes the job easier and saves time.
When I started, I used a makeshift pole that came with my rectangle sander for my paint roller (basically a broomstick), a cheap generic roller cage from Home Depot with a 1/2" nap roller sleeve, a pack of value brushes, a plastic drop cloth, and a cheap roller pan. I've since upgraded my equipment, and here's my current setup:
What are your recommendations for the ultimate painting setup? Any specific brands or tools that have made a significant difference for you? Thanks in advance for your advice!
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When I started, I used a makeshift pole that came with my rectangle sander for my paint roller (basically a broomstick), a cheap generic roller cage from Home Depot with a 1/2" nap roller sleeve, a pack of value brushes, a plastic drop cloth, and a cheap roller pan. I've since upgraded my equipment, and here's my current setup:
My Current Equipment List:
- (2) Wooster Roller Cages
- (1) Wooster Sherlock Pole (4')
- (1) Wooster Sherlock Pole (8')
- (1) HP 1 Gallon Paint Tray + Liners
- (6) Canvas Drop Cloths
- (1) 9" Round Drywall Sander
- (1) Rectangle Sander
- (1) Pack of Sanding Blocks (Various Grits)
- (2) 6" Mini Roller Frames
- (1) Purdy Pail
- (1) Pelican Pail
- (1) Brush and Roller Spinner
- (10+) "Contractor Grade" Brushes (Various Sizes) from SW (Looking to upgrade these for specific use cases such as cutting, trim, etc. )
- (1) Large Container of Pink Stuff Putty
- (2) Sets of Plastic Scrapers for Drywall Patches
- (1) Set of Liners for Pails
- (1) Set of Liners for Paint Tray
- (2) 5 Gallon Bucket Roller Screens
- (8) 9" Microfiber Rollers 3/8" nap
What are your recommendations for the ultimate painting setup? Any specific brands or tools that have made a significant difference for you? Thanks in advance for your advice!
2024.05.16 18:07 shad0wqueenxx The Last of Quotes, Day 21: Dr. Jerry Anderson
 | Three weeks into The Last of Quotes! We've had some real doozys so far, but what's been your favourite? Congrats to serial winner u/WhispyFLX for another quote W for Maria on day 20. Her dumbass husband did indeed come home, whether or not he was in one piece is another matter. submitted by shad0wqueenxx to thelastofus [link] [comments] Today, we move on to a cartoon man who shares his name with a cartoon mouse and a cartoon idiotic dad, Dr. Jerry Anderson! Most famous for being the father of a certain golf afficionado, Jerry was also Mel and Nora's mentor and a key figure among the Fireflies based out of St Mary's Hospital in Salt Lake City. Jerry was tasked with finding a cure for the cordyceps infection that destroyed the world of The Last of Us, and he could have done it too if it weren't for that meddling smuggler! An animal lover with an obsession with collecting antique coins (antique being the 70s in this universe), Jerry advocated heavily for the development of a cordyceps vaccine, even at the cost of Ellie's life. With the fate of the world at stake, he chose to sacrifice her, without her consent. A decision that would later lead to his own death, the disbanding of the Fireflies and the formation of the Salt Lake Crew. Their mission? To hunt down the man who killed seemingly the only person capable of finding the cure for mankind. A controversial character in many ways, Jerry's actions have been hotly debated among gamers for several years now. But today we begin another debate: what is the quote that best sums up Jerry Anderson? 24 hours to decide, make your votes count as the most upvoted shall win! Time, starts, now!!! |
2024.05.16 17:58 Nice_Carrot_3740 Consulted
The anxiety, the low mood and sleeplessness was affecting my studies now.....I couldn't even sit on a chair and the pages had started appearing foggy....I could read but never register.....there were higher stakes this time.....so I gathered courage and texted a known doctor about my condition since a month....I had texted him earlier as well during such episodes and he had adviced me to take some medication but I never did....this time he asked me to consult a psychiatrist....and because I was not even able to function normally and do basic tasks, I decided to consult. I didn't tell my parents about it because I was unsure of how they would react....so one day I booked an online appointment, the doctor heard me for like an hour, did a provisional diagnosis and prescribed me meds that would help me with my sleep and anxiety. She also insisted on consulting a therapist.....she made it very clear that meds alone will never cure you and the symptoms would return....therapy would work on the root cause and meds would help the body to calm down so it can be reciptient of therapy.....I told my parents and though their first reaction wasn't ideal, they understood the gravity the very next day when I couldn't move...it was decided....I would take meds, stop my studies for a while and search for a therapist.
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2024.05.16 17:54 melizerd Intex pump to non-Intex pool skimmer.
I’ve read through posts but can’t figure out what I’m missing.
I have an 18 foot round above ground pool. 4 1/2 feet deep. Permanent pool. I was running a nice Hayward pump and filter system but a ball bearing is bad and I can’t afford the $1000 to replace that whole thing this year. So I bought
Intex 28633EG 2500 GPH Krystal Clear Cartridge Filter Pump System with 1,900 GPH Flow Rate, 110-120V GFCI, and Automatic Timer for Above Ground Pools
And ordered the adapter
GAME 4550 Filter hose Conversion Kit (For Intex & Bestway Pools)
So I could connect my non-threaded hoses to the Intex pump. But I am still having leaks and can’t figure out if I picked the wrong option or I’m missing something. I did get new metal clamps as well. It’s leaking from the adapter portion to the hose on the outlet from the pump. Can I use some kind of plumbing putty to fill a gap? I tried a small o-ring but it won’t stay put. That could be my user error though too. If an o-ring is the answer I’ll keep trying.
Would I be better off getting an adapter from my non-threaded skimmer to the Intex hoses? And if so what is it? I’m frustrated at this point of course. I’d FaceTime for help at this point 😂
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I have an 18 foot round above ground pool. 4 1/2 feet deep. Permanent pool. I was running a nice Hayward pump and filter system but a ball bearing is bad and I can’t afford the $1000 to replace that whole thing this year. So I bought
Intex 28633EG 2500 GPH Krystal Clear Cartridge Filter Pump System with 1,900 GPH Flow Rate, 110-120V GFCI, and Automatic Timer for Above Ground Pools
And ordered the adapter
GAME 4550 Filter hose Conversion Kit (For Intex & Bestway Pools)
So I could connect my non-threaded hoses to the Intex pump. But I am still having leaks and can’t figure out if I picked the wrong option or I’m missing something. I did get new metal clamps as well. It’s leaking from the adapter portion to the hose on the outlet from the pump. Can I use some kind of plumbing putty to fill a gap? I tried a small o-ring but it won’t stay put. That could be my user error though too. If an o-ring is the answer I’ll keep trying.
Would I be better off getting an adapter from my non-threaded skimmer to the Intex hoses? And if so what is it? I’m frustrated at this point of course. I’d FaceTime for help at this point 😂
2024.05.16 17:52 Littl3mata Ellie never wanted to join the Fireflies, and never will.
It's a big misconception I've seen a lot, despite the games and comics telling us otherwise. There's only one reason Ellie wants to get (not join) to the Fireflies in part I, it's to save her loved ones, so that what happenned with Riley then Tess never happens again.
Before the events of part I, in the comics American Daughters, Ellie told Riley who is a fresh recruit to basically fuck them all and that they should run away together and find a place to live far away from the QZ. Ellie shows no interests whatsoever in joining the cause while Riley truly believe bringing back democracy will give them freedom. Once again, in Left Behind, Ellie repeat her plea to Riley, with success this time, Riley finally accept to leave the Fireflies and they're going to run away. But before they could, they got bitten.
During part I, she's more hopefull and wants to believe in the cause of making a cure, because that way Riley and Tess's death would have meant something. They would have been the last to die this way in Ellie's world : " It can't be for nothing ".
Throughtout part II, it is indicated that Ellie totally changed her opinion about them and their cause. First in the Wyoming Museeum, with all the writings on the walls of the disillusioned Firefly who ended his life. The "LIARS" also has a double meaning, the lost of trust in Joel, but also in the cause of the Fireflies. Ellie is unconsciously starting to integrate that their values and morals were not that pure and innocent.
And finally, the indisputable proof that Ellie's view of the Fireflies really changed towards the end of part II can be found in her journal, during Santa Barbara. Ellie drew the logos of the Rattlers, and underneath, wrote : " Scars. Wolves. Fireflies. Fuck all these groups ". Ellie is grouping them with a bunch of cultists, brutal militias and slavers, and tells them a big " fuck y'all ", clearly indicating she does no longer believe at all in their cause. In many ways, Ellie is much more closer to Joel's mindset on this subject in the end of the game, he never truly trusted the Fireflies...
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Before the events of part I, in the comics American Daughters, Ellie told Riley who is a fresh recruit to basically fuck them all and that they should run away together and find a place to live far away from the QZ. Ellie shows no interests whatsoever in joining the cause while Riley truly believe bringing back democracy will give them freedom. Once again, in Left Behind, Ellie repeat her plea to Riley, with success this time, Riley finally accept to leave the Fireflies and they're going to run away. But before they could, they got bitten.
During part I, she's more hopefull and wants to believe in the cause of making a cure, because that way Riley and Tess's death would have meant something. They would have been the last to die this way in Ellie's world : " It can't be for nothing ".
Throughtout part II, it is indicated that Ellie totally changed her opinion about them and their cause. First in the Wyoming Museeum, with all the writings on the walls of the disillusioned Firefly who ended his life. The "LIARS" also has a double meaning, the lost of trust in Joel, but also in the cause of the Fireflies. Ellie is unconsciously starting to integrate that their values and morals were not that pure and innocent.
And finally, the indisputable proof that Ellie's view of the Fireflies really changed towards the end of part II can be found in her journal, during Santa Barbara. Ellie drew the logos of the Rattlers, and underneath, wrote : " Scars. Wolves. Fireflies. Fuck all these groups ". Ellie is grouping them with a bunch of cultists, brutal militias and slavers, and tells them a big " fuck y'all ", clearly indicating she does no longer believe at all in their cause. In many ways, Ellie is much more closer to Joel's mindset on this subject in the end of the game, he never truly trusted the Fireflies...
2024.05.16 17:48 Candid-Progress-1184 Common Wu W: bro was dying of rapid age and knew where the cure exactly was but didnt want to get it (or tell kai or nya to get it) because the hands of time would eventually steal the cure which is the reversal blade.
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2024.05.16 17:43 cptsdthrowaway2222 I (21M) am really scared I am not enough for my close friend (21F)
Hey everybody, I hope you all are doing well and staying safe!
First off, I wanted to say I'm so sorry for how long this post is going to be, but thank you so much to everyone who reads this through and thank you to everyone who provides advice. I deeply appreciate it.
My close friend (21F) and I (21F) met when we were both 18 during our first year of college. While we weren't close friends then, we got along really well and would hang out together from time to time. I ended up transferring universities after the first year, and we kinda went our own ways. However, we started growing close last summer, especially after she transferred universities as well later down the line.
Eventually, I started catching feelings for her, and this past winter, I told her how I felt. She was flattered but told me that she would like to get to know me better first because she felt like I held myself back sometimes. She honestly wasn't wrong because it's kinda true. I'm always hesitant to let people in because of the past trauma I've been through and my irrational fear that I will get hurt or betrayed by others.
I ended up taking her advice, and it's brought us a lot closer. She's also one of the first people I told about my trauma who has been really accepting and gracious about it, which I'm eternally grateful for.
However, I'm also terrified all the time that I'm not enough for her. She has also been through trauma like I have, and she has especially been going through hard times this past year. Given the distance and that we're over 500 miles apart from each other, I realize there may be a lot of things I can't do, but I really want to try to do as much as I can to support her, and I'm not sure if I'm doing it correctly.
I hope I am because I want to help her be happy, but it's hard to tell. It's possible a lot of this problem is simply due to our distance since it's hard to express emotions or talk about difficult topics without being together in-person. We're closing the distance gap in a few months because I'm starting grad school close to where she lives so maybe this will be less of a problem soon.
I also struggle deeply with my mental health because of my trauma and have a lifelong physical illness that has caused me to have hole looking scars all over my body. There's no known cure for it, and it's possible that at some point in my 20s, the symptoms will get worse and that it could put both her and me in a lot of difficult positions. She doesn't know about it yet, but I'm terrified she'd leave me if she discovered this. I also feel ashamed for struggling with this because I know my mental and physical health are my responsibility and I don't want to burden her with my problems, especially when she already has so many to take care of. I want to be able to help her be happier or improve her life not cause more issues.
All in all, I'm just really scared I'm not enough for her. I wanna cook her favorite foods, go see the world with her, talk about the most random thing ever that's on our minds, and enjoy time with her, but I'm scared that she wouldn't be happy with me and that I'm not enough for her, and I honestly don't know how to fix this problem.
I'm sorry for how long this is again and how woey this is, but thank you so much everyone for reading, I hope you all have a great day or night!
TL;DR: My close friend and I both have been through really traumatic stuff in our pasts, and she's going through a hard time right now. I am deeply afraid that I'm not doing enough to help her be happy, and I'm also scared that if we were to become a couple someday that I wouldn't be the person she's looking for.
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First off, I wanted to say I'm so sorry for how long this post is going to be, but thank you so much to everyone who reads this through and thank you to everyone who provides advice. I deeply appreciate it.
My close friend (21F) and I (21F) met when we were both 18 during our first year of college. While we weren't close friends then, we got along really well and would hang out together from time to time. I ended up transferring universities after the first year, and we kinda went our own ways. However, we started growing close last summer, especially after she transferred universities as well later down the line.
Eventually, I started catching feelings for her, and this past winter, I told her how I felt. She was flattered but told me that she would like to get to know me better first because she felt like I held myself back sometimes. She honestly wasn't wrong because it's kinda true. I'm always hesitant to let people in because of the past trauma I've been through and my irrational fear that I will get hurt or betrayed by others.
I ended up taking her advice, and it's brought us a lot closer. She's also one of the first people I told about my trauma who has been really accepting and gracious about it, which I'm eternally grateful for.
However, I'm also terrified all the time that I'm not enough for her. She has also been through trauma like I have, and she has especially been going through hard times this past year. Given the distance and that we're over 500 miles apart from each other, I realize there may be a lot of things I can't do, but I really want to try to do as much as I can to support her, and I'm not sure if I'm doing it correctly.
I hope I am because I want to help her be happy, but it's hard to tell. It's possible a lot of this problem is simply due to our distance since it's hard to express emotions or talk about difficult topics without being together in-person. We're closing the distance gap in a few months because I'm starting grad school close to where she lives so maybe this will be less of a problem soon.
I also struggle deeply with my mental health because of my trauma and have a lifelong physical illness that has caused me to have hole looking scars all over my body. There's no known cure for it, and it's possible that at some point in my 20s, the symptoms will get worse and that it could put both her and me in a lot of difficult positions. She doesn't know about it yet, but I'm terrified she'd leave me if she discovered this. I also feel ashamed for struggling with this because I know my mental and physical health are my responsibility and I don't want to burden her with my problems, especially when she already has so many to take care of. I want to be able to help her be happier or improve her life not cause more issues.
All in all, I'm just really scared I'm not enough for her. I wanna cook her favorite foods, go see the world with her, talk about the most random thing ever that's on our minds, and enjoy time with her, but I'm scared that she wouldn't be happy with me and that I'm not enough for her, and I honestly don't know how to fix this problem.
I'm sorry for how long this is again and how woey this is, but thank you so much everyone for reading, I hope you all have a great day or night!
TL;DR: My close friend and I both have been through really traumatic stuff in our pasts, and she's going through a hard time right now. I am deeply afraid that I'm not doing enough to help her be happy, and I'm also scared that if we were to become a couple someday that I wouldn't be the person she's looking for.
2024.05.16 17:43 Roman_Hephaestus On the Fulfillment of Needs
If we go by Maslow's famous hierarchy, human needs can be distilled into four categories: Physiological (Food, Shelter, Warmth), Safety, Love and Belonging, Esteem, and self-actualization, or the fulfillment of one's true potential. Maslow's theory itself may not be entirely correct, but these categories give us a good jumping off point for the topic.
I don't think it's controversial to say that both Sam and Dean's needs were not adequately met as children. Even at the most basic level (physiological needs), we see a few times that things like food and shelter were not necessarily a given, sometimes they had to go without. Sometimes they resorted to the five finger discount. Never did they have a permanent home that wasn't on wheels. Neither was their safety something they could depend on. Even when they weren't fighting monsters at risk of life and limb, they were left to fend for themselves without a protector. Neither has very high self-esteem or confidence. Without all of these things, it's extremely unlikely anyone will ever be able to reach their full potential.
It can be argued that the only thing they had in abundance, the only need that was met, was that of love, and even then only from each other. The question is: was it enough? is the sibling-trauma-bond-caretaker-brothers-in-arms-partners bond enough to make all others unnecessary?
perhaps we can start by looking at the only semi-long term relationships we know either of them to have. For Sam, it's Jessica. For Dean, Lisa.
Jessica and Sam's relationship (or what we see of it) seems to be a good one, seemingly healthy (at least on the surface). We're not told directly, but it seems safe to assume that they'd been together for a year or more - long enough to become serious, find off-campus housing together, and for Sam to consider proposing. Dig just a little, though, and we can see it isn't as healthy as it seems. Sam has clearly never told Jessica about his upbringing, and plans on withholding the information from her, apparently forever. Not exactly the best foundation for future bliss. It also wouldn't appear to be "enough" to completely satisfy the need for deep connection that all humans have. How can it be, with secrets like that?
Dean's relationship with Lisa, on the other hand (and somewhat ironically) does not have the secretive element to it. Lisa knows what he does, and what he has done. He doesn't keep the specifics of this life secret, but neither does it seem is he an open book. As soon as he believes there is a danger in their midst, he becomes secretive. Researching late into the night and then trying to cover his tracks by claiming he was setting up a poker game. Sending Lisa and Ben out on the town without really giving her a specific reason. Forbidding Ben to handle (or even look at) his shotgun/baby's trunk. Never letting her know about becoming a vampire or being cured. Though perhaps more in-the-know than Jessica, Lisa nonetheless is kept very much in the dark.
Perhaps it is their relationship with each other that precludes the possibility of a healthy romantic attachment. Hell, probably. But does that mean that those attachments would not have been good for them, and necessary for healthy development from youth into middle age? I'd argue they were necessary and Sam and Dean were both injured by the lack of such a relationship.
For better or for worse (I'd say worse), men in our culture (that being the USA, where the show is set) are often admonished not to share their feelings with each other, not to be vulnerable.
The show actually subverts that expectation many times. However, not every time. It is not immune from the prevalent attitude towards masculinity. There are many times when much could have been avoided if the brothers had been totally honest with each other. Perhaps if they had another relationship in which it was more socially acceptable, and maybe less threatening, to share their emotions then their lives would have been improved. Instead of being an island, they would have some feedback from someone who loved them. As it was, many times, when the other brother was physically or emotionally unavailable, they had only themselves to rely on.
It could be said that is more true of Sam than of Dean, because while Dean had a best friend apart from Sam (Castiel), Sam had only Dean. In later seasons, Rowena partially fills that role, but never to the same extent that Castiel (or at times, even Crowley) does for Dean.
All in all, I don't believe the lack of a romantic relationship did either brother any favors.
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I don't think it's controversial to say that both Sam and Dean's needs were not adequately met as children. Even at the most basic level (physiological needs), we see a few times that things like food and shelter were not necessarily a given, sometimes they had to go without. Sometimes they resorted to the five finger discount. Never did they have a permanent home that wasn't on wheels. Neither was their safety something they could depend on. Even when they weren't fighting monsters at risk of life and limb, they were left to fend for themselves without a protector. Neither has very high self-esteem or confidence. Without all of these things, it's extremely unlikely anyone will ever be able to reach their full potential.
It can be argued that the only thing they had in abundance, the only need that was met, was that of love, and even then only from each other. The question is: was it enough? is the sibling-trauma-bond-caretaker-brothers-in-arms-partners bond enough to make all others unnecessary?
perhaps we can start by looking at the only semi-long term relationships we know either of them to have. For Sam, it's Jessica. For Dean, Lisa.
Jessica and Sam's relationship (or what we see of it) seems to be a good one, seemingly healthy (at least on the surface). We're not told directly, but it seems safe to assume that they'd been together for a year or more - long enough to become serious, find off-campus housing together, and for Sam to consider proposing. Dig just a little, though, and we can see it isn't as healthy as it seems. Sam has clearly never told Jessica about his upbringing, and plans on withholding the information from her, apparently forever. Not exactly the best foundation for future bliss. It also wouldn't appear to be "enough" to completely satisfy the need for deep connection that all humans have. How can it be, with secrets like that?
Dean's relationship with Lisa, on the other hand (and somewhat ironically) does not have the secretive element to it. Lisa knows what he does, and what he has done. He doesn't keep the specifics of this life secret, but neither does it seem is he an open book. As soon as he believes there is a danger in their midst, he becomes secretive. Researching late into the night and then trying to cover his tracks by claiming he was setting up a poker game. Sending Lisa and Ben out on the town without really giving her a specific reason. Forbidding Ben to handle (or even look at) his shotgun/baby's trunk. Never letting her know about becoming a vampire or being cured. Though perhaps more in-the-know than Jessica, Lisa nonetheless is kept very much in the dark.
Perhaps it is their relationship with each other that precludes the possibility of a healthy romantic attachment. Hell, probably. But does that mean that those attachments would not have been good for them, and necessary for healthy development from youth into middle age? I'd argue they were necessary and Sam and Dean were both injured by the lack of such a relationship.
For better or for worse (I'd say worse), men in our culture (that being the USA, where the show is set) are often admonished not to share their feelings with each other, not to be vulnerable.
The show actually subverts that expectation many times. However, not every time. It is not immune from the prevalent attitude towards masculinity. There are many times when much could have been avoided if the brothers had been totally honest with each other. Perhaps if they had another relationship in which it was more socially acceptable, and maybe less threatening, to share their emotions then their lives would have been improved. Instead of being an island, they would have some feedback from someone who loved them. As it was, many times, when the other brother was physically or emotionally unavailable, they had only themselves to rely on.
It could be said that is more true of Sam than of Dean, because while Dean had a best friend apart from Sam (Castiel), Sam had only Dean. In later seasons, Rowena partially fills that role, but never to the same extent that Castiel (or at times, even Crowley) does for Dean.
All in all, I don't believe the lack of a romantic relationship did either brother any favors.
2024.05.16 17:38 MountainOk2410 Does this sound like ureaplasma?
Hello! So I’ve (29f) had ureaplasma before, about three years ago. I cured it and went on to be fine. I started sleeping with a new man (32m) about a year ago and we haven’t had any issues. Now all of the sudden, after the last two times we had sex (about two months apart) I’ve gotten a uti. Both times I did a culture and it came back positive for e. Coli. Took the antibiotics and was fine. I remember thinking I had a UTI when I actually had ureaplasma and it coming back negative for any bacteria in my urine until I actually got tested for the plasmas. So do you think this is just a random occurrence or could this be ureaplasma? I just don’t understand how now, after almost a year of no issues, I’m getting back to back utis. Please help!!
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2024.05.16 17:16 YungSmitty313 Thinking about becoming a plumber but not sure where to start.
When I look online it says you can start as a trainee plumber or you can complete a program and then start as a Journeyman in training. Is it recommended you go to school first or should I start as a trainee plumber and go to school at the same time? Just wondering what people on here did, also I live in Maine if that makes a difference.
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2024.05.16 17:11 Rambooctpuss Album Bucket List Favorite Albums By Genre: What's Your Favorite TV Soundtrack?
70's Alt Rock -King Crimson-Lark's Tongue In Aspic
80's Alt Rock - Talking Heads-Remain In Light
90's Alt Rock- Nirvana- Never mind
2000's Alt Rock-The Strokes-Is This It
2010's Alt Rock Tame Impala-Lonerism
Alt Country -Wilco-Summerteeth
Alt Hip Hop-MF Doom- Mad villainy
Art Rock-Dark Side Of The Moon-Pink Floyd
Brit Rock- The Clash- London Calling
College Rock-REM-Murmur
Emo Rock-My Chemical Romance-Welcome To The Black Parade
Experimental Rock-Swans-To Be Kind
Goth-The Cure Disintegration
Grunge- Soundgarden-Superunknown
Hardcore Punk- Black Flag- Damaged
Heavy Metal-Black Sabbath-Paranoid
60's Hard Rock-Led Zeppelin I
70's Hard rock-Led Zeppelin-Physical Graffiti
80's Hard Rock- AC/DC-Back In Black
90's Hard Rock-Nirvana-In Utero
2000's Hard Rock-Queens Of The Stone Age-Songs For The Deaf
2010's ˙Hard Rock- Tool-Fear Inoculum
Indie Rock-Joy Division-Unknown Pleasures
Indie Folk-Big Thief-Dragon New Warm Mountain I Believe In You
Lo-Fi-Neutral Milk Hotel-In The Aeroplane Over The Sea
New Wave-Elvis Costello-This Year's Model
Progressive Rock- Tool- Lateralus
Punk- Ramones-Rocket To Russia
pop punk-Green Day-Dookie
Post Punk- Wire- Pink Flag
Shoegaze-My Bloody Valentine-Loveless
Blues-Nina Simone-Sings The Blues
Blues Rock-The Rolling Stones-Sticky Fingers
Avant Garde- Captain Beefheart & His Magic Band-Trout Mask Replica
Baroque Pop-The Beach Boys-Pet Sounds
Symphonic Rock-Moody Blues-Days Of Future Past
Comedy/Novelty album-Adam Sandler-They're All Gonna Laugh At You
Stand Up Comedy-George Carlin-Back In Town
Americana-The Band-The Band
Bakersfield Sound-Buck Owens-Best Of Buck Owens
Bluegrass-Old & In The Way-That High Lonesome Sound
Outlaw Country-Willie Nelson-Redheaded Stranger
Classic Country-Johnny Cash-Live At Folsom Prison
Country Rock- The Flying Burrito Brothers-The Gilded Palace Of Sin
Dance/Club-LCD Soundsystem- This Is Happening
Christmas /Holiday Album-Vince Gauralidi-A Charlie Brown Christmas
EMD/Techno-Burial-Untrue
Ambient-Brian Eno-Music For Airports
Electronic Rock-Radiohead-Kid A
Space Rock- Spiritualized- Ladies And Gentlemen We Are Floating In Space
Synthpop-Depeche Mode-Violator
Synthrock- New Order-Power, Corruption and Lies
Industrial-Nine Inch Nails-The Downward Spiral
Krautrock- Can-Tago Mago
Folk-Bob Dylan-The Freewillin' Bob Dylan
Folk Rock-Bob Dylan-Blood On The Tracks
Southern Rock-The Allman Brothers Band-At Fillmore East
80's Hip Hop-The Beastie Boys-Paul's Boutique
90's- Hip Hop Wu-Tang Clan-Enter The Wu-Tang (36 Chambers)
2000's Hip Hop-Outkast- Stankonia
2010's Hip Hop-Kendrick Lamar-To Pimp A Butterfly
2020's Hip Hop-Run The Jewels-RTJ 4
East Coast Hip Hop- Nas- Illmatic
West Coast Hip Hop-NWA-Straight Outta Compton
Southern Hip Hop-Outkast -Aquemini
Midwest Album-Kanye West-My Dark Twisted Fantasy
Trap-Travis Sott-Rodeo
Instrumental Hip Hop- DJ Shadow- Endtroducing....
Indie Pop-Belle And Sebastian-If You're Feeling Sinister
Noise Rock-Sonic Youth-Daydream Nation
Post-rock- Godspeed! You Black Emperor-Lift Your Skinny Fist Like Antennas To Heaven
Acid Jazz- Medeski ,Martin, and Wood -Shack-Man
Trip Hop -Portishead- Dummy
Gospel -Aretha Franklin-Amazing Grace
Christian- Sufjan Stevens -Illnoise
Jazz-Miles Davis-Kind Of Blue
Avant Garde Jazz-Ornette Coleman-Shape To Jazz To Come
Swing/Bebop-Art Blakey & The Jazz Messengers-Art Blakey's Jazz Messengers w/Thelonious Monk
Jazz/Fusion-Miles Davis-In A Silent Way
Jazz Rock-Miles Davis-Bitches Brew
Jazz/Funk-Herbie Hancock-Head Hunters
Jazz/Rap-A tribe Called Quest-The Low End Theory
Latin- Los Lobos-Kiko
Speed Metal/Thrash- Metallica- Master Of Puppets
Black/Death Metal-Deafheaven-Sunbather
Symphonic Metal-Haken-The Mountain
Glam Rock -T.Rex-Electric Warrior
Hair Metal-Guns N Roses-Appetite For Destruction
New Wave Of British Heavy Metal-Iron Maiden- Number Of The Beast
Sludge-Electric Wizard- Dopethron
Nu Metal-Korn-Korn
New Age-Popol Vuh - Hosianna Mantra
Pop-Prince-Sign O' The Times
60's Pop- The Beatles-Revolver
70's Pop- Carole King-Tapestry
80's Pop- Peter Gabriel-So
90's Pop-Madonna-Ray Of Light
2000's Pop-Madonna-Confessions On A Dance Floor
2010's pop-Robyn-Body Talk
2020's Pop- Perfume Genius-Set My Heart On Fire
Adult Contemporary- Billy Joel-The Stranger
Europop- ABBA- Arrival
Latin Pop-Ruben Y Seis Del Solar-Buscando America
Dance Pop-Dee-Lite-World Clique
Dream Pop- Mazzy Star-So Tonight I Might See
Power Pop- Weezer-Blue Album
R&B- Marvin Gaye-What's Going On
60's R&B-Aretha Franklin-I Never Loved A Man The Way I Loved You
70's R&B- Stevie Wonder- Songs In The Key Of Life
80's R&B- Janet Jackson- Control
90's R&B Album- Lauryn Hill-The Miseducation Of Lauryn Hill
2000's R&B- D'Angelo-Voodoo
2010's-R&B-Beyonce-Lemonade
2020's R&B- SZA-SOS
Disco-Donna Summers-Bad Girls
Doo Wop- The Chantels- We Are The Chantels
Funk-Funkadelic-Maggot Brain
Motown- Marvin Gaye-Let's Get It On
Neo-Soul-Erykah Badu-Baduizm
Psychedelic Soul- Curtis Mayfield-Curtis
Soul-Aretha Franklin-Lady Soul
Reggae-Bob Marley- Exodus
Ska-The Specials-The Specials
Swing Revival-Big Bad Voodoo Daddy-Big Bad Voodoo Daddy
Rock N Roll-The Rolling Stones-Exile On Main Street
Acid Rock- Jimi Hendrix- Are You Experienced
Arena Rock-Boston-Boston
Cock Rock-Van Halen I
Math Rock-Slint-Spiderland
Stoner Rock-Kyuss-Welcome To Sky Valley
Jam Band- Grateful Dead-American Beauty
SingeSongwriter- Neil Young-Harvest
Surf Rock-The Beach Boys-Shut Down Vol II
Soft Rock/Yacht Rock-Steely Dan-Aja
Movie Soundtrack-Singles
Movie Score-The Good, The Bad, And The Ugly
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80's Alt Rock - Talking Heads-Remain In Light
90's Alt Rock- Nirvana- Never mind
2000's Alt Rock-The Strokes-Is This It
2010's Alt Rock Tame Impala-Lonerism
Alt Country -Wilco-Summerteeth
Alt Hip Hop-MF Doom- Mad villainy
Art Rock-Dark Side Of The Moon-Pink Floyd
Brit Rock- The Clash- London Calling
College Rock-REM-Murmur
Emo Rock-My Chemical Romance-Welcome To The Black Parade
Experimental Rock-Swans-To Be Kind
Goth-The Cure Disintegration
Grunge- Soundgarden-Superunknown
Hardcore Punk- Black Flag- Damaged
Heavy Metal-Black Sabbath-Paranoid
60's Hard Rock-Led Zeppelin I
70's Hard rock-Led Zeppelin-Physical Graffiti
80's Hard Rock- AC/DC-Back In Black
90's Hard Rock-Nirvana-In Utero
2000's Hard Rock-Queens Of The Stone Age-Songs For The Deaf
2010's ˙Hard Rock- Tool-Fear Inoculum
Indie Rock-Joy Division-Unknown Pleasures
Indie Folk-Big Thief-Dragon New Warm Mountain I Believe In You
Lo-Fi-Neutral Milk Hotel-In The Aeroplane Over The Sea
New Wave-Elvis Costello-This Year's Model
Progressive Rock- Tool- Lateralus
Punk- Ramones-Rocket To Russia
pop punk-Green Day-Dookie
Post Punk- Wire- Pink Flag
Shoegaze-My Bloody Valentine-Loveless
Blues-Nina Simone-Sings The Blues
Blues Rock-The Rolling Stones-Sticky Fingers
Avant Garde- Captain Beefheart & His Magic Band-Trout Mask Replica
Baroque Pop-The Beach Boys-Pet Sounds
Symphonic Rock-Moody Blues-Days Of Future Past
Comedy/Novelty album-Adam Sandler-They're All Gonna Laugh At You
Stand Up Comedy-George Carlin-Back In Town
Americana-The Band-The Band
Bakersfield Sound-Buck Owens-Best Of Buck Owens
Bluegrass-Old & In The Way-That High Lonesome Sound
Outlaw Country-Willie Nelson-Redheaded Stranger
Classic Country-Johnny Cash-Live At Folsom Prison
Country Rock- The Flying Burrito Brothers-The Gilded Palace Of Sin
Dance/Club-LCD Soundsystem- This Is Happening
Christmas /Holiday Album-Vince Gauralidi-A Charlie Brown Christmas
EMD/Techno-Burial-Untrue
Ambient-Brian Eno-Music For Airports
Electronic Rock-Radiohead-Kid A
Space Rock- Spiritualized- Ladies And Gentlemen We Are Floating In Space
Synthpop-Depeche Mode-Violator
Synthrock- New Order-Power, Corruption and Lies
Industrial-Nine Inch Nails-The Downward Spiral
Krautrock- Can-Tago Mago
Folk-Bob Dylan-The Freewillin' Bob Dylan
Folk Rock-Bob Dylan-Blood On The Tracks
Southern Rock-The Allman Brothers Band-At Fillmore East
80's Hip Hop-The Beastie Boys-Paul's Boutique
90's- Hip Hop Wu-Tang Clan-Enter The Wu-Tang (36 Chambers)
2000's Hip Hop-Outkast- Stankonia
2010's Hip Hop-Kendrick Lamar-To Pimp A Butterfly
2020's Hip Hop-Run The Jewels-RTJ 4
East Coast Hip Hop- Nas- Illmatic
West Coast Hip Hop-NWA-Straight Outta Compton
Southern Hip Hop-Outkast -Aquemini
Midwest Album-Kanye West-My Dark Twisted Fantasy
Trap-Travis Sott-Rodeo
Instrumental Hip Hop- DJ Shadow- Endtroducing....
Indie Pop-Belle And Sebastian-If You're Feeling Sinister
Noise Rock-Sonic Youth-Daydream Nation
Post-rock- Godspeed! You Black Emperor-Lift Your Skinny Fist Like Antennas To Heaven
Acid Jazz- Medeski ,Martin, and Wood -Shack-Man
Trip Hop -Portishead- Dummy
Gospel -Aretha Franklin-Amazing Grace
Christian- Sufjan Stevens -Illnoise
Jazz-Miles Davis-Kind Of Blue
Avant Garde Jazz-Ornette Coleman-Shape To Jazz To Come
Swing/Bebop-Art Blakey & The Jazz Messengers-Art Blakey's Jazz Messengers w/Thelonious Monk
Jazz/Fusion-Miles Davis-In A Silent Way
Jazz Rock-Miles Davis-Bitches Brew
Jazz/Funk-Herbie Hancock-Head Hunters
Jazz/Rap-A tribe Called Quest-The Low End Theory
Latin- Los Lobos-Kiko
Speed Metal/Thrash- Metallica- Master Of Puppets
Black/Death Metal-Deafheaven-Sunbather
Symphonic Metal-Haken-The Mountain
Glam Rock -T.Rex-Electric Warrior
Hair Metal-Guns N Roses-Appetite For Destruction
New Wave Of British Heavy Metal-Iron Maiden- Number Of The Beast
Sludge-Electric Wizard- Dopethron
Nu Metal-Korn-Korn
New Age-Popol Vuh - Hosianna Mantra
Pop-Prince-Sign O' The Times
60's Pop- The Beatles-Revolver
70's Pop- Carole King-Tapestry
80's Pop- Peter Gabriel-So
90's Pop-Madonna-Ray Of Light
2000's Pop-Madonna-Confessions On A Dance Floor
2010's pop-Robyn-Body Talk
2020's Pop- Perfume Genius-Set My Heart On Fire
Adult Contemporary- Billy Joel-The Stranger
Europop- ABBA- Arrival
Latin Pop-Ruben Y Seis Del Solar-Buscando America
Dance Pop-Dee-Lite-World Clique
Dream Pop- Mazzy Star-So Tonight I Might See
Power Pop- Weezer-Blue Album
R&B- Marvin Gaye-What's Going On
60's R&B-Aretha Franklin-I Never Loved A Man The Way I Loved You
70's R&B- Stevie Wonder- Songs In The Key Of Life
80's R&B- Janet Jackson- Control
90's R&B Album- Lauryn Hill-The Miseducation Of Lauryn Hill
2000's R&B- D'Angelo-Voodoo
2010's-R&B-Beyonce-Lemonade
2020's R&B- SZA-SOS
Disco-Donna Summers-Bad Girls
Doo Wop- The Chantels- We Are The Chantels
Funk-Funkadelic-Maggot Brain
Motown- Marvin Gaye-Let's Get It On
Neo-Soul-Erykah Badu-Baduizm
Psychedelic Soul- Curtis Mayfield-Curtis
Soul-Aretha Franklin-Lady Soul
Reggae-Bob Marley- Exodus
Ska-The Specials-The Specials
Swing Revival-Big Bad Voodoo Daddy-Big Bad Voodoo Daddy
Rock N Roll-The Rolling Stones-Exile On Main Street
Acid Rock- Jimi Hendrix- Are You Experienced
Arena Rock-Boston-Boston
Cock Rock-Van Halen I
Math Rock-Slint-Spiderland
Stoner Rock-Kyuss-Welcome To Sky Valley
Jam Band- Grateful Dead-American Beauty
SingeSongwriter- Neil Young-Harvest
Surf Rock-The Beach Boys-Shut Down Vol II
Soft Rock/Yacht Rock-Steely Dan-Aja
Movie Soundtrack-Singles
Movie Score-The Good, The Bad, And The Ugly
2024.05.16 17:05 Nice_Carrot_3740 Consulted
The anxiety, the low mood and sleeplessness was affecting my studies now.....I couldn't even sit on a chair and the pages had started appearing foggy....I could read but never register.....there were higher stakes this time.....so I gathered courage and texted a known doctor about my condition since a month....I had texted him earlier as well during such episodes and he had adviced me to take some medication but I never did....this time he asked me to consult a psychiatrist....and because I was not even able to function normally and do basic tasks, I decided to consult. I didn't tell my parents about it because I was unsure of how they would react....so one day I booked an online appointment, the doctor heard me for like an hour, did a provisional diagnosis and prescribed me meds that would help me with my sleep and anxiety. She also insisted on consulting a therapist.....she made it very clear that meds alone will never cure you and the symptoms would return....therapy would work on the root cause and meds would help the body to calm down so it can be reciptient of therapy.....I told my parents and though their first reaction wasn't ideal, they understood the gravity the very next day when I couldn't move...it was decided....I would take meds, stop my studies for a while and search for a therapist.
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2024.05.16 17:01 beardlesshipster Daily Song Discussion #137: Play
This is the second and final B-side from the 12” release of The Cure’s “High” single. How do you feel about this song? What are some of your favorite lyrics? How would you rank it among the rest of the band’s discography? How would you rate it out of 10 (decimals allowed)?
Studio version
SUGGESTED SCALE: 1-4: Not good. Regularly skip. 5: It’s okay, but I might have to be in the right mood to listen to it. 6: Slightly better than average. I won’t skip it, but I wouldn’t choose to put it on. 7: This is a good song. I enjoy it quite a bit. 8-9: Really enjoyable songs. I rank them pretty high overall. 10: Masterpiece, magnum opus, or similar terminology.
Rating Results 1. Open: 9.58/10 2. High: 8.84/10 3. Apart: 8.29/10 4. From the Edge of the Deep Green Sea: 9.67/10 5. Wendy Time: 5.81/10 6. Doing the Unstuck: 8.18/10 7. Friday I’m in Love: 7.71/10 8. Trust: 8.26/10 9. A Letter to Elise: 8.86/10 10. Cut: 8.69/10 11. To Wish Impossible Things: 12. End: — 13. This Twilight Garden: 14. Play:
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Studio version
SUGGESTED SCALE: 1-4: Not good. Regularly skip. 5: It’s okay, but I might have to be in the right mood to listen to it. 6: Slightly better than average. I won’t skip it, but I wouldn’t choose to put it on. 7: This is a good song. I enjoy it quite a bit. 8-9: Really enjoyable songs. I rank them pretty high overall. 10: Masterpiece, magnum opus, or similar terminology.
Rating Results 1. Open: 9.58/10 2. High: 8.84/10 3. Apart: 8.29/10 4. From the Edge of the Deep Green Sea: 9.67/10 5. Wendy Time: 5.81/10 6. Doing the Unstuck: 8.18/10 7. Friday I’m in Love: 7.71/10 8. Trust: 8.26/10 9. A Letter to Elise: 8.86/10 10. Cut: 8.69/10 11. To Wish Impossible Things: 12. End: — 13. This Twilight Garden: 14. Play:
2024.05.16 16:57 Armchairie Dear vegans…
I am new here (to reddit) and I am kinda very quickly realising how outrageously cruel and ridiculous people are when it comes to discussing veganism.
Prior to this post I have made one post so far where I came to the defence of veganism. I listen to ‘armchair expert’ because I genuinely find it entertaining and I learn a lot from the guests however Dax Shepard has a particular penchant for quite aggressively out of no context having something to say about vegans every single time the word vegan is mentioned on the show.
Now I will say I am not vegan however, hearing this every time has started to annoy me so I mentioned something in the Reddit thread for the show and I quickly got downloaded on every single comment and response where I’m coming to defend vegans.
I cannot get over how much and how fast people are willing to vote down something without even listening or reading what I’ve written they simply don’t want to hear a bar of it.
Anyway, like I said I am new here to read it and all of a sudden I have a negative karma score. I didn’t know what the Karma system was here and now it’s saying I can’t even comment or post in the Threads because I my karma isn’t good.
So I really do sympathise with you all. I’m not NOT into looking at veganism as a lifestyle for myself, and I barely eat meat as it is, but I do find it shocking that I just brought up in passing how he always has something to say when he really doesn’t need to say anything at all in most instances.
He recently argued with Tiffany Haddish on her episode about veganism being good for you and how she basically was saying we’re not supposed to eat meat. He really went all in on her and then in this newest episode he has a Doctor who he is interviewing who is talking about the benefits of veganism in regards to treating dementia and curing certain aspects of it and Dax immediately said I’m triggered by the vegan part of it and then goes onto talk about veganism as a religion and having a religious aspect.
I called this out and then I’m getting all of these negative comments and getting voted and now I can’t even post in the thread anymore. What a great welcome to Reddit. Also what an eye-opening view into what your world must look like? I apologise on behalf of all of the awful humans out there.
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Prior to this post I have made one post so far where I came to the defence of veganism. I listen to ‘armchair expert’ because I genuinely find it entertaining and I learn a lot from the guests however Dax Shepard has a particular penchant for quite aggressively out of no context having something to say about vegans every single time the word vegan is mentioned on the show.
Now I will say I am not vegan however, hearing this every time has started to annoy me so I mentioned something in the Reddit thread for the show and I quickly got downloaded on every single comment and response where I’m coming to defend vegans.
I cannot get over how much and how fast people are willing to vote down something without even listening or reading what I’ve written they simply don’t want to hear a bar of it.
Anyway, like I said I am new here to read it and all of a sudden I have a negative karma score. I didn’t know what the Karma system was here and now it’s saying I can’t even comment or post in the Threads because I my karma isn’t good.
So I really do sympathise with you all. I’m not NOT into looking at veganism as a lifestyle for myself, and I barely eat meat as it is, but I do find it shocking that I just brought up in passing how he always has something to say when he really doesn’t need to say anything at all in most instances.
He recently argued with Tiffany Haddish on her episode about veganism being good for you and how she basically was saying we’re not supposed to eat meat. He really went all in on her and then in this newest episode he has a Doctor who he is interviewing who is talking about the benefits of veganism in regards to treating dementia and curing certain aspects of it and Dax immediately said I’m triggered by the vegan part of it and then goes onto talk about veganism as a religion and having a religious aspect.
I called this out and then I’m getting all of these negative comments and getting voted and now I can’t even post in the thread anymore. What a great welcome to Reddit. Also what an eye-opening view into what your world must look like? I apologise on behalf of all of the awful humans out there.
2024.05.16 16:44 sweetylife Perspectives on euthanasia for mental suffering?
Long time lurker and currently procrastinating psychotherapist here. I just saw this article: https://www.google.com/amp/s/amp.theguardian.com/society/article/2024/may/16/dutch-woman-euthanasia-approval-grounds-of-mental-suffering
and found it an incredibly disturbing read.
I wondered what people's ideas are from a psychoanalytic perspective? Right to die stuff aside, to me it seems to demonstrate a real marginalisation of psychoanaltic perspectives. That someone so young would have this sense of being completely unfixable, would be laden with so many diagnostic labels that have clustered symptoms together without any of the actual relief of real self-insight. It says she tried many types of cures including talking therapy, but did no one suggest that open ended, in depth work, not quick fixes, might be worth engaging in??? Maybe they did. Maybe i have too much faith in psychoanalysis!
But for doctors to take this wish to die at face value, to say nothing more can be done for her, feels very colluding. What are others thoughts ?
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and found it an incredibly disturbing read.
I wondered what people's ideas are from a psychoanalytic perspective? Right to die stuff aside, to me it seems to demonstrate a real marginalisation of psychoanaltic perspectives. That someone so young would have this sense of being completely unfixable, would be laden with so many diagnostic labels that have clustered symptoms together without any of the actual relief of real self-insight. It says she tried many types of cures including talking therapy, but did no one suggest that open ended, in depth work, not quick fixes, might be worth engaging in??? Maybe they did. Maybe i have too much faith in psychoanalysis!
But for doctors to take this wish to die at face value, to say nothing more can be done for her, feels very colluding. What are others thoughts ?
2024.05.16 16:37 apurpleglittergalaxy I'm really struggling atm
So I'm 33 and I've been revenge evicted from my 2 bedroom house, my landlord wanted to raise the rent last year but I said I'd agree a certain figure sum until he dealt with damp in the wetroom and a silverfish infestation (there was also a woodlice infestation) but then he got back to me barely an hour after this proposal saying he wanted to sell the house. A few months prior to that we lost a pet. We had koi fish we had to sell because we didn't know if the place we were moving to would have a garden (we had a koi pond)
I have BPD, Asperges, and depression, I think I have PTSD as well I had a shit childhood, lost a parent to suicide at 10, bullied and ostracised in 3 schools, my family are narcissists and alcoholics etc my boyfriend has ADHD and depression. Because of impulse spending (it's a symptom of BPD) I've fucked up my credit and so has my boyfriend because the council won't help and no landlords accept people with CCJS we've had to move into a chalet which is near 2 motorways and is noisy at night because of traffic, we've also had to keep our cat in for 2 weeks as is standard for when you move to a new home and he's struggled to deal with it so I've felt awful for this the other night I cried when he was ripping curtains at 1am/2am, my bf has been in and out of work with depression (hes a plumber and gas engineer) so money has been tight, my family think I've "downsized" by living in a static caravan (no pisstakers please) and that I've idk chosen to live here?? If I didn't live here I'd be on the streets. I'm lucky to have this place but at the same time I don't know how to describe what I'm feeling about what I've lost and gone through, I've been crying on and off for months since i was served notice by the landlord back in November. Nobody in my family knew about this apart from my sister.
I have moments where i think I enjoy living here with my boyfriend and I've made it nice inside but then there are moments where I hate the noise of the motorways (I sleep with ear plugs) the woman who lives near me is ALWAYS doing DIY of some sort outside, there's noise from other people doing DIY it's like a fucking construction site, the people seem off (mostly tradesmen live here) I can hear everyone walking around outside and talking, there's no private garden, my appliances are outside so I have to go outside to do the washing and drying but I have to keep my cat in, it's in the middle of nowhere and has beautiful country scenery and wildlife but even just to get shopping is nearly a 20 min drive and costs a fortune in petrol. I have no friends only my boyfriend and me and my sister talk but we argue a lot because we're trauma bonded and I suspect she has quiet BPD.
Her and my aunt came round just now and I felt idk almost embarrassed that our bed is in our front room and it's basically a bedsit of sorts, I felt on edge even though my aunt said nothing but nice things, I can't see us being able to leave for another couple of years until we sort our credit out but I've been blaming myself relentlessly for landing us here and so has my sister because I let my credit get that bad I let my debt spiral even though I tried desperately to sort it out but I needed her help (she's my carer on paper) and she promised she'd help me sort my debts out but she never did. I got myself into a debt management plan over Christmas despite suffering a crippling depression but it took weeks to do. It's my birthday today and I feel idk..weird, I'm living somewhere I keep on/off liking/am on the fence about/sort of hate, I don't want people coming to see me and I can't figure out why idk if it's because I'm ashamed even though I'm not but I can't make sense of it, the only reason my family know I've moved is because my 6 year old niece let it slip when me and my sister went for a viewing at the chalet.
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I have BPD, Asperges, and depression, I think I have PTSD as well I had a shit childhood, lost a parent to suicide at 10, bullied and ostracised in 3 schools, my family are narcissists and alcoholics etc my boyfriend has ADHD and depression. Because of impulse spending (it's a symptom of BPD) I've fucked up my credit and so has my boyfriend because the council won't help and no landlords accept people with CCJS we've had to move into a chalet which is near 2 motorways and is noisy at night because of traffic, we've also had to keep our cat in for 2 weeks as is standard for when you move to a new home and he's struggled to deal with it so I've felt awful for this the other night I cried when he was ripping curtains at 1am/2am, my bf has been in and out of work with depression (hes a plumber and gas engineer) so money has been tight, my family think I've "downsized" by living in a static caravan (no pisstakers please) and that I've idk chosen to live here?? If I didn't live here I'd be on the streets. I'm lucky to have this place but at the same time I don't know how to describe what I'm feeling about what I've lost and gone through, I've been crying on and off for months since i was served notice by the landlord back in November. Nobody in my family knew about this apart from my sister.
I have moments where i think I enjoy living here with my boyfriend and I've made it nice inside but then there are moments where I hate the noise of the motorways (I sleep with ear plugs) the woman who lives near me is ALWAYS doing DIY of some sort outside, there's noise from other people doing DIY it's like a fucking construction site, the people seem off (mostly tradesmen live here) I can hear everyone walking around outside and talking, there's no private garden, my appliances are outside so I have to go outside to do the washing and drying but I have to keep my cat in, it's in the middle of nowhere and has beautiful country scenery and wildlife but even just to get shopping is nearly a 20 min drive and costs a fortune in petrol. I have no friends only my boyfriend and me and my sister talk but we argue a lot because we're trauma bonded and I suspect she has quiet BPD.
Her and my aunt came round just now and I felt idk almost embarrassed that our bed is in our front room and it's basically a bedsit of sorts, I felt on edge even though my aunt said nothing but nice things, I can't see us being able to leave for another couple of years until we sort our credit out but I've been blaming myself relentlessly for landing us here and so has my sister because I let my credit get that bad I let my debt spiral even though I tried desperately to sort it out but I needed her help (she's my carer on paper) and she promised she'd help me sort my debts out but she never did. I got myself into a debt management plan over Christmas despite suffering a crippling depression but it took weeks to do. It's my birthday today and I feel idk..weird, I'm living somewhere I keep on/off liking/am on the fence about/sort of hate, I don't want people coming to see me and I can't figure out why idk if it's because I'm ashamed even though I'm not but I can't make sense of it, the only reason my family know I've moved is because my 6 year old niece let it slip when me and my sister went for a viewing at the chalet.
2024.05.16 16:37 Juinxx Three Years of Learning Japanese Every Day
This is a follow-up post to my Two Year Update and One Year Update. For those who haven’t read it here’s a short summary of my first 2 Years
In terms of Anki usage, my daily time has tapered off to around 10-15 minutes, primarily because I don’t find many new words anymore. Nowadays, around 90% of my new cards come from reading. When I’m reading challenging books, this number can jump up to around ~20 new cards, but on average, it hovers around 6.
Very recently I’ve also added about 5-10 mins of Minimal Pairs Pitch Training on the コツ Site to my Routine. I’ve only been doing this for about 2 Weeks, and I’m already noticing a big improvement in my Pitch perception. I still don’t have any ambitions regarding Output, but feel like being able to recognize Pitch unlocks a new way of perceiving the language, which I find fascinating.
I also started using more Audiobooks, in combination with SubsPlease and Jidoujisho to get a synced Subtitle file with the Audiobook. I read along while listening, and my comprehension got fast enough that I generally can just let it play, only occasionally needing to relisten to a line. Even for more difficult books, like 鹿の王 which I recently read. I also read a physical Book this year. If the book is not too hard, I’m now comfortable reading it without a dictionary. The one I read had about 20 words I didn't know, but I only felt the need to look up 2-3. I was able to get the meaning from the others based on context and kanji.
But it doesn’t feel like learning anymore; it’s more about enjoying the exploration of a new culture through its media. I still love learning new things, which is why I started focusing more on pitch, even though I still have no plans for output.
Adding to my Closing Thoughts from my 2 Year Update, I still feel like this hobby has been the most enriching thing I’ve ever done. Being able to get better at something, feeling the progress gradually, while exploring new ways of thinking, not just through the language itself, but also the vastly different media compared to western media, really broadened my horizon. I feel like learning to appreciate and understand what the media is trying to say is also in a way like learning a language. It got me to read books or try out new genres I probably would have never considered otherwise. For example the Metal Gear Series got me interested in history, which I didn't think I liked before. I also learned a lot about learning new things. I think I can apply all the techniques I discovered learning Japanese to any other skill I want to learn in the future. Being consistent on a daily basis and always practising the same way you would in a real scenario would be the biggest factors for me. (For example, no JLPT grammar questions, rather seeing, looking up and understanding the grammar in native content)
I very much look forward to how my Journey will continue in my 4th year. Thank you for reading!
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- First Month: Learning Kana with Apps like Duolingo and some basic vocab/grammar and figuring out if I actually like learning Japanese
- Month 2-3: Doing RRTK and watching Cure Dolly for Grammar on the Side
- Month 3-4: Core Anki Decks for Basic Vocab (Tango N5, Core Anime Deck)
- Month 4-6: Reading and Sentence Mining Satori Reader with extra cards from Anime via Morphman
- Month 6-9: Finished Satori Reader and moved on to Anime with Japanese Subtitles + Sentence Mining
- Month 9-12: Added Reading Novels to my Routine for about 1h a day. Continued with Anime for the rest of the time
- Month 13-24: Continued my Routine of reading books + watching Anime and doing Sentence Mining with Anki. I increased my reading to about 2-3h a day for a while and cut back on Anime
Stats
- 2646 Anime Episodes Watched (Year 1: 715, Year 2: 1428, Year 3: 503)
- 68 Movies Watched (Year 1: 19, Year 2: 28, Year 3: 21)
- 115 Novels Read (Year 1: 6, Year 2: 64, Year 3: 45)
- 20000 Anki Vocab Cards (Year 1: 6517 , Year 2: 8664, Year 3: 4819)
- 27520 Morphs (Year 1: 8204 , Year 2: 13650, Year 3: 5666)
Current Daily Routine
My Routine has not changed much from my second year, but I tried exploring more genres and media. With better comprehension and less reliance on lookups (thanks to Anki), I am able to enjoy media without subtitles or games where lookups are a bit more annoying, much more than before. I still aim for 2-3 hours of immersion daily, with books remaining the backbone of my immersion since I enjoy them the most. Recently, I’ve replaced my before-bed anime watching with reading books accompanied by audiobooks, thanks to tools like Jidoujisho and Kanjieaters’s SubsPlease tool for syncing audiobooks with books. I’ve also played more games in Japanese, a big highlight being the Metal Gear Solid Series. I’ve also watched more Youtube and Variety Shows as filler content.In terms of Anki usage, my daily time has tapered off to around 10-15 minutes, primarily because I don’t find many new words anymore. Nowadays, around 90% of my new cards come from reading. When I’m reading challenging books, this number can jump up to around ~20 new cards, but on average, it hovers around 6.
Very recently I’ve also added about 5-10 mins of Minimal Pairs Pitch Training on the コツ Site to my Routine. I’ve only been doing this for about 2 Weeks, and I’m already noticing a big improvement in my Pitch perception. I still don’t have any ambitions regarding Output, but feel like being able to recognize Pitch unlocks a new way of perceiving the language, which I find fascinating.
What my Comprehension feels like
Reading Books
While my reading speed hasn't changed drastically, improving from about 12k chars/hour to around 13-14k chars/hour, the range of variation has decreased significantly. A year ago, my speed could drop to 9k chars/hour with difficult books; now, 12k chars/hour is more of a baseline for me. But my comprehension is where I feel the most improvement, I don’t need to check DeepL at all anymore, if I don’t understand a sentence, I can most of the time understand it when I read it again. And there are a lot more nuances, I now notice which I didn’t before. I noticed this the most in my reread of また同じ夢を見ていた which was my first book I read in Japanese, after rereading it, ~100 books later, I noticed a lot of new nuances, subtext and word play.I also started using more Audiobooks, in combination with SubsPlease and Jidoujisho to get a synced Subtitle file with the Audiobook. I read along while listening, and my comprehension got fast enough that I generally can just let it play, only occasionally needing to relisten to a line. Even for more difficult books, like 鹿の王 which I recently read. I also read a physical Book this year. If the book is not too hard, I’m now comfortable reading it without a dictionary. The one I read had about 20 words I didn't know, but I only felt the need to look up 2-3. I was able to get the meaning from the others based on context and kanji.
Watching Content with Japanese Subtitles
I felt pretty strong in this area a year ago already, but it has definitely improved a lot also. I noticed this the most when I played the Metal Gear Solid Series. All dialogue does have subtitles, but the content is quite difficult both on a vocabulary level and also on a meaning level, since they are dealing with deep themes a lot of the time. But I was able to play it mostly free flow, only needing to look up a word here or there, getting most of the meaning from the kanji if I didn’t know a word.Watching Content without Japanese Subtitles
Ironically even though I never intentionally did pure listening practice, always using Japanese subtitles if they were available, I’m noticing the most progress in this area. A year ago, I was not comfortable with most non-subtitled content. Nowadays I would say, easier content like most youtube videos or variety shows, I’m quite comfortable with, although I definitely still miss much more compared to using subtitles. But with Anime or Movies in general, where I’m also much more picky in my comprehension, since I don’t want to miss anything, I’m still not comfortable watching without subtitles I feel like in scripted content people are more likely to use rare words, and even if I technically “know” them, it's still often hard for me to recall them without seeing the characters. But as with all things, that will work itself out with more input. I’m glad my theory from my 1 Year Update, that doing pure listening practice is not needed and using subtitles does not impede progress in listening, turned out true for me.Closing Thoughts
Although I was able to do all the things I can do now a year ago, I feel like I can do them much more effortlessly. Consuming Japanese is now much closer to English or my native language German, although it’s still not quite there. Both in terms of listening, I usually listen to Youtube videos in English at 2.5x speed, that's not possible for me in Japanese at the moment. Similarly, despite doing a lot of reading, there’s still a lot of room to improve to reach native-level speed.But it doesn’t feel like learning anymore; it’s more about enjoying the exploration of a new culture through its media. I still love learning new things, which is why I started focusing more on pitch, even though I still have no plans for output.
Adding to my Closing Thoughts from my 2 Year Update, I still feel like this hobby has been the most enriching thing I’ve ever done. Being able to get better at something, feeling the progress gradually, while exploring new ways of thinking, not just through the language itself, but also the vastly different media compared to western media, really broadened my horizon. I feel like learning to appreciate and understand what the media is trying to say is also in a way like learning a language. It got me to read books or try out new genres I probably would have never considered otherwise. For example the Metal Gear Series got me interested in history, which I didn't think I liked before. I also learned a lot about learning new things. I think I can apply all the techniques I discovered learning Japanese to any other skill I want to learn in the future. Being consistent on a daily basis and always practising the same way you would in a real scenario would be the biggest factors for me. (For example, no JLPT grammar questions, rather seeing, looking up and understanding the grammar in native content)
I very much look forward to how my Journey will continue in my 4th year. Thank you for reading!
2024.05.16 16:33 clearliquidclearjar TALLAHASSEE WEEKLY EVENTS, 5/16 – 5/22
Y’all, I’m really not sure what’s still around. This list is somewhat edited, but please still make sure to check on all the regular events before you make big plans – I may have missed something.
Events are listed by the day. Events that happen every week appear first, one time stuff after that. If you have anything you’d like people to know about, comment here or message me and I’ll add it in. If you’d like further info about any of the events, look it up! I usually don’t have any extra to add.
Large Scale, Ongoing, and Multi-Day Events
Guided Paddling Outings all around the area: https://www.facebook.com/hsmithoutdoors
Tallahassee Film Society Showings: https://www.tallahasseefilms.com/tickets/
Book Clubs for all tastes: https://www.facebook.com/midtownreadeevents
Live Theater:
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Events are listed by the day. Events that happen every week appear first, one time stuff after that. If you have anything you’d like people to know about, comment here or message me and I’ll add it in. If you’d like further info about any of the events, look it up! I usually don’t have any extra to add.
Large Scale, Ongoing, and Multi-Day Events
Guided Paddling Outings all around the area: https://www.facebook.com/hsmithoutdoors
Tallahassee Film Society Showings: https://www.tallahasseefilms.com/tickets/
Book Clubs for all tastes: https://www.facebook.com/midtownreadeevents
Live Theater:
- Making Light Productions: https://www.makinglightproductions.org/
- Theatre Tallahassee: https://theatretallahassee.org/
- Mickee Faust Club: https://www.mickeefaust.com/
- Monticello Opera House: https://www.monticellooperahouse.org/
- FSU School of Theatre: https://theatre.fsu.edu/productions/
- Young Actors Theatre: https://www.youngactorstheatre.com/
- Quincy Music Theatre: https://quincymusictheatre.com/
- Tallahassee Hispanic Theater: https://tallahasseehispanictheater.wordpress.com/
- Lake Ella Grower's Market: Wednesday and Saturday, 11am-2pm. You can always find organic vendors, and foragers: The Holistic Cannabis Community, Artzi Farms, Hickory Nut Gifts, and others. Including Pita Queen! Farmer's Market Nutrition Program Coupons gladly accepted!
- Tallahassee Downtown Market: Saturdays, 10am-2pm, Park Ave Parks. Vendors display their arts and fine crafts, jewelry, handmade soap, pottery, Fresh from Florida produce, hand-raised beef and pork, fresh baked bread, jams and jellies, and honey. Live music from different local musicians every Saturday.
- Frenchtown Heritage Market: 524 N MLK Jr Blvd. Third Saturday of the month 10am to 2pm. Come grow community and support your local farmers and makers, while you get your groceries for the week! Don’t forget! We match SNAP/EBT, so you DOUBLE your money to go towards locally grown fresh fruits and vegetables! If the guy with the pineapple is there, get it. This is currently only happening on the third Saturday of the month for the next few months while road work is completed.
- Tallahassee Farmers Market: 2904 Kerry Forest Pkwy, Saturdays, 8am to Noon. Come see us at Tallahassee's longest-running farmers market! We are a year-round market, featuring local farms and vendors that provide the best seasonal produce, meats, baked goods, and more. We welcome you and your whole family (leashed pets included) to come out and meet your local farmers! Ample parking is available between our lot and the shopping center lot next door (by Red Elephant). Come early for the best selection.
- The Hub at Feather Oaks: Bingo. 6pm
- Dreamland BBQ: Weekly Open Blues Jam. If you'd like to sing, please bring your own mic. 6pm
- Honest Living Vape: Chess-Master Thursdays . Beginners and experts, join us every Thursday from 6-9 for Chess-Master Thursdays. All ages. Bring your board or play ours! Tournaments coming soon! 6pm
- Lake Tribe: Trivia. 7pm
- Takko Market Square: Bingo Night. 7pm
- The Getaway Grille and Bar: Karaoke with Jared Walker. 7pm
- Amicus Brewing: Trivia. 7pm
- Smitty's Taphouse: Trivia Lab Thursdays. Teams of 6 or fewer players can compete for $30 / $20 / $10 Prizes + The Golden MacGuffin prize table! New format! Interactive smartphone answering for your comfort and safety! 6 Fun Rounds - 42 Total Questions. 7:30pm
- Studio D: Bachata Fever. We always have a bachata workshop at 8 pm before Bachata Fever. We dance afterwards to the sounds of DJ Bacharod. The class is at 8 pm and Bachata Fever will start at 930 pm. Many times people are learning in class and may feel uncomfortable social dancing while they are still learning moves. We have a welcoming environment so stay and have fun and dance with everyone. That is how we learn. 8pm/Class $5/Bachata Fever $5.
- The Sound Bar: Comedy Night. 8pm
- Finnegans Wake: Open Mic. 8:30pm
- Brass Tap in Midtown: Karaoke with DJ Rah. 9pm
- 926: Karaoke. 9pm
- Bird’s: Karaoke with Nathan. 9pm
- Fire Bettys: Slasher Bash. This week we'll be showing: "Zombeavers". Prepare for an evening of horrific hilarity with comedy narration and devilish drinking games!🍻 Hosted by local comedians. 8pm/21+
- Blue Tavern: Seep's Gumbo Nation ft. Shanice Richards. 8pm
- Blue Tavern: Happy Hour with Steve Malono. 5pm
- Lake Tribe Brewing: Flannel Fridays with Live Music. 6pm
- Hobbit West: Friday Night Dart Tournament. Anyone can Enter! Sign ups at 7:30, Darts fly at 8:00/$10 entry fee
- Ouzts Too: Karaoke with DJ Nathan. Best karaoke DJ in town. 8pm
- Just One More: Karaoke with DJ Rah. 9pm-11pm/21+
- 926: The Hot Friday Night Party and Drag Show. 9pm/$5/18+
- The Hub at Feather Oaks: Rachel Hillman. 5:30pm
- Lake Tribe: Ben Wentworth. 5:30pm
- Amicus Brewing: The Tanglers. 6pm
- The Getaway Grille and Bar: One Year Anniversary Celebration Featuring Queen of Hearts Band. 6pm
- Southwood Golf Club: The Rhythm Remedy. 6:30pm
- Goodwood: The Big Bash Havana Nights presented by Brent Hartsfield. The Big Bash is Big Brothers Big Sisters of the Big Bend's signature fundraising gala of the year and directly supports the agency's youth mentoring programs. Guests will enjoy Cuban Cuisine, champagne mojitos, cigars, flights, classic cars, photo opportunities, silent auction vacation packages, LIVE music and dancing, and an exciting LIVE salsa dance performance from 12 community volunteers! The event is a tremendous networking opportunity for Tallahassee's top business professionals, local community leaders and philanthropists to come together to enjoy an evening to celebrate the achievements of Big Brothers Big Sisters. 7pm
- Blue Tavern: Wil Fulkerson Jazz Night. 8pm
- House of Music: Belly Dancing: Journey From The Nile To The Tigris. Habibi, join us on a groovy carpet ride across ancient deserts: Disco Iskandar embarks on a voyage of belly dance, folklore, cinema, and history in a theatrical dance production, JOURNEY FROM THE NILE TO THE TIGRIS. Highlighting the prominence of belly dance in films of the Middle East from the 1940s through the 1970s, we present a live showcase exhibiting dances from Egypt, Turkey, Iraq, and beyond. It goes so much deeper than you think. Hookahs! Swords! Rhinestones, literally everywhere! This cross section of entertainment and education is the culmination of years of obsessive learning, two national tours, and travels to Egypt & Lebanon. JOURNEY FROM THE NILE TO THE TIGRIS is a trip unlike any other-- where the Middle East meets Vegas. This show’s cast is Gabi Corazon, Gia Bee, Liz Azi, Olya Clark, Vania Ojeda, director Veronica Lynn, and special guest star Omaris! 8pm/$15/21+
- The Sound Bar: The Old Schoolers. 8pm
- Vino Beano: Your Scumbag Neighbors. 8pm
- The Bark: Medians, No Yeah, Sleep John B, and Cloud Storage. 8pm
- Brinkley Glen Park: Invasive Plant Removal. Join Master Gardener Volunteers at this weekly invasive plant removal event. This is a great way to learn to ID our invasive plant species and how to remove them. We recommend wearing long pants and sleeves, closed-toed shoes, gloves, a hat and mosquito spray. Bring gardening tools such as hand clippers, loppers, trowels, etc. if you have them. We are removing coral ardisia bushes and berries, nandina, tung trees, Tradescantia flumenensis, cat's claw vine, winged yam, Japanese climbing fern, skunkvine and more. Directions: The best way to get there is to take Meridian Rd to Waverly Rd, go to the next intersection and turn left onto Abbotsford Way, then turn left at the next road called Woodside Dr. At the stop sign turn left onto Lothian. Lothian ends in a cul-de-sac and there is a sign that says Brinkley Glen Park. 8:30am-11:30am
- Gamescape: Saturday Gaming. Gamescape has relocated from Railroad Square to the Huntington Oaks Plaza (Suite 302, next to the Library) at N Monroe St and Fred George Rd. Open gaming tables are available. Noon-6pm
- Duke’s and Dottie’s: Line Dancing Plus Lessons. 7pm/21+
- Bird’s Oyster Shack: Laughterday Night Fever. * Join us every Saturday at Bird's Aphrodisiac Oyster Shack for a free comedy show!* 8:30pm
- 926: Latin Night. Dance to the irresistible beats of Zeus and prepare to be dazzled by a spectacular drag show at midnight. It's more than a party, it's an experience. 9:30pm/$10 21+, $15 under 21
- Crawfordville: Big Bend Biodiversity Tour. See why our area is so ecologically incredible! Get up close and personal with creatures and plants galore. Join expert guide and outdoor educator, Ryan Means for this limited opportunity to tour the Apalachicola Lowlands Preserve. The day-long trip stops at points along the way to the privately-owned preserve nestled deep in the Apalachicola National Forest near Sumatra, FL. Explore the longleaf pine ecosystem, pitcher plant bogs, ephemeral wetlands, and blackwater streams - home to some threatened and endangered species. Learn what makes the Florida Panhandle one of the five richest biodiversity hotspots in North America. Perfect tour for photographers, outdoor enthusiasts and ecologists. $75 tour fee includes round-trip transportation (from 46 Kinsey Rd, Crawfordville, FL) , complimentary beverages, and supports efforts to preserve the incredible biodiversity of the Southeastern Coastal Plain. Spaces limited. Register here: https://coastalplains.networkforgood.com/events/71083-big-bend-biodiversity-tour for full details. 8am
- Dreamland BBQ: Rock Type One to None. Let's rock to find a cure for Type 1 Diabetes! The Unicorn Wranglers are back on Saturday, May 18th at Dreamland BBQ in Tallahassee, Florida for the 2024 "Rock One to None" show. This show is benefiting the Juvenile Diabetes Research Fund (JDRF) and will feature musical guests Midnight Caravan, Fallen Timber, and the Unicorn Wranglers. The show starts at 4 pm and runs until 7 pm at Dreamland BBQ in Music Alley, and is open to all ages. While the show is free, we encourage all rockers attending to donate to the cause. You can contribute at the show by visiting our donation station or by heading over to our online Unicorn Wranglers team page. Together, as one big mosh pit, we can help cure Type 1 Diabetes. 3pm
- The Hub at Feather Oaks: Ethan Kyllonen. 4pm
- Amicus Brewing: Beza Alford and Rev. Dr. Sheldon Steen. 5pm
- Lake Tribe: Flamingo Party. 6pm
- The Getaway Grille and Bar: Billy Rigsby Band. 6pm
- Vino Beano: Brett & "Dangerous" Dave. 6pm
- Salty Dawg: Hot Mess. 6:30pm
- La Tiendita: Rhys Bennett & the Gringos as Vontade. Join us for an energetic evening filled with the vibrant sounds of Latin music, Brazilian beats, and jazz rhythms. Our local band, Rhys Bennett & the Gringos, will transform into the versatile ensemble Vontade, treating you to a delightful mix of rancheras, bossa nova, and more! Whether you're a seasoned dancer or a newcomer to the dance floor, you're in for a fantastic time at one of Tallahassee's hidden gems. Immerse yourself in a night of cultural fusion and musical celebration that is sure to create lasting memories! 6:30pm
- The Sound Bar: Tillman & Taff. 7pm
- Island Wings: Midnight Caravan. 7pm
- The Bark: Saturnalia, Brass Wizard, Van Season, and Psycho Tropical. 8pm
- Fire Bettys: 80's Video Dance Party. 8pm
- Just One More: One Eyed JAK. 9pm
- Bicycle House: Sunday Ride. Ride at 10:30 AM from Bicycle House. We will ride the Cascades trail to the St Marks trail and down to Wakulla station and return, about 31 miles. Ride speed is 12 to 14 mph, with periodic regroups. Vernon Bailey is the ride leader. Vernon is a new CCC member who’s been biking for 50 years enjoys riding with small groups and weekend touring. 10am
- E Peck Greene Park (Behind the LeRoy Collins Library): Food Not Bombs Free Mealshare. We offer free vegetarian/vegan food, water, coffee, personal care & hygiene products, bus passes, and clothing when we have some available to those in need. Contact foodnotbombstally@gmail.com to find out about getting involved. Noon-2pm
- LeRoy Collins Library: Tallahassee Go Club Meetings. Come play the captivating ancient game of Go, also known as Baduk, with some friendly games and discussions. Beginners welcome. Visit https://www.tallahasseegoclub.com for more information. 1pm
- Gamescape: Pokémon League. Come learn, play, and trade with the Pokémon Trading Card Game and the Pokémon video games! We LOVE seeing new players, so come learn how to play! We play both the Trading Card Game and the Video Game casually and competitively. The store offers lots of different seating arrangements to meet our group's needs, as well as food, drinks, and Pokémon products for purchase. We are also hold regular, officially sanctioned tournaments for Pokémon Trading Card Game and Video Game Competitions! 2-4pm
- The Plant: Open Jam. All instruments, all players welcome. 4pm-9pm
- Pedro’s: Mariachi Clasico. 6pm
- Fermentation Lounge: Open Mic Night Hosted by Conor Churchill. 7pm
- Ology Powermill: Marauders Market. Noon
- The Hub at Feather Oaks: The Barber Bros. 1pm-4pm
- Goodwood: Ice Cream Social. Get ready for a spectacular day of family fun at Goodwood Museum & Gardens! Treat your taste buds to a family fun day of FREE ice cream, FREE crafts for the kids, FREE activities, and more, all on the beautiful Goodwood grounds. Family-friendly musical entertainment will be provided by The Safari Man, who will have everyone tapping their feet and dancing along to his whimsical tunes. 1pm
- Common Ground Books: Contemporary Queer Poetry Book Club: Time is a Mother. This month, we’ll be reading “Time is a Mother” by Ocean Vuong. “In this deeply intimate second poetry collection, Ocean Vuong searches for life among the aftershocks of his mother's death, embodying the paradox of sitting within grief while being determined to survive beyond it. Vivid, brave and propulsive, Vuong's poems contend with personal loss, the meaning of family, and the value of joy in a perennially fractured American spirit. The author of the critically acclaimed poetry collection Night Sky with Exit Wounds, winner of the 2016 Whiting Award, the 2017 T. S. Eliot Prize and a 2019 MacArthur fellow, Vuong writes directly to our humanity without losing sight of the current moment. Bold and prescient, and a testament to tenderness in the face of violence, Time is a Mother is a return and a forging-forth all at once.” 6pm
- Just One More: Bingo. 5pm-6:30pm
- The Getaway Grille and Bar: Margarita Monday, Open-Mic Night hosted by The Saltwater Cowboy. 5:30pm-8pm
- American Legion Hall: Cha Cha - Weekly Lessons. 6:15pm/$5
- Hangar 38: Bingo. 6:45pm
- Vino Beano: Tipsy Trivia. 7pm
- Blue Tavern: Happy Hour. 5pm
- The Getaway Grille: Tuesday Night Bikes and Trikes. 6pm
- Crafty Crab: BOOMIN' Karaoke. 7pm
- Gamescape: Hobby Night. Slay the grey together! Join your fellow gamers and turn your pile of grey miniatures into a battle ready army. Need some painting tips? Feel free to ask at hobby night. You can bring any miniature for any game to paint. 7pm
- Ology Midtown: Jazz Jam Sessions. 7pm
- Island Wings: Trivia. 7pm
- Brass Tap in Midtown: Trivia. 1st Tuesday of the month is General Knowledge with rotating themes the rest of the month. 7pm
- House of Music: Tuesday Trivia & Karaoke. 7pm
- American Legion Hall: Tallahassee Swing Band Tuesday Night Dance. 7:30pm
- Fire Bettys: Comedy Night. 8pm
- Poor Pauls: Trivia. 8pm/21+
- Blue Tavern: Bluesday Tuesday with Bill Ricci. Every Tuesday is Blues Day @ the Blue Tavern and Blues Meets Girl is a Tallahassee favorite. This perfect, intimate venue provides just what you need for both a mid-week break and authentic blues music experience. 8pm/$5
- 4th Quarter: Professor Jim's Tuesday Night Trivia. Popular for a reason! 8pm
- Argonaut Coffee: Trivia Tuesday. 8pm
- The Sound Bar: Karaoke. 8pm
- Fire Betty’s: Open Mic Comedy Night. 8pm/21+
- 926: Tacos and Trivia. 9pm
- Tallahassee Junior Museum: Basic Blacksmith Skills Program. Light your curiosity at our upcoming Basic Blacksmith Skills Program! Join our resident blacksmith, Michael Murphy, as he shares his history of being a Smitty. Participants will be able to keep the fire going, sling a hammer, and throw knives during this two hour lecture program. This is an outdoor event. Must preregister online at tallahasseemuseum.org/events. This program is free for members and regular admission price for non-members. 10am
- Sugar and Spice Tally: Game Night. Join us every Wednesday Night for community game night. Bring your own or use ours! Let me know if you need to reserve space for a large group. Free to attend! 5pm
- Goodwood: Wonderful Wednesday. 6pm/$5
- Level 8 Rooftop Lounge: Trivia. 6pm
- La Florida Coffee & Wine: Trivia Night. 6pm
- The Great Games Library: Open Game Night. 6pm/free
- American Legion Hall: Sue Boyd Country Western and More Dance Class. Session 2 - Beginner 6:30 to 7:45 pm What: East Coast Swing and Waltz. Cost: $8.00 per person. Wear comfortable shoes you can turn in. 7:45 to 8:15 - Practice dance with paid admission. 8:15 to 9:30: Intermediate - 2 Step and WCS. $8.00 per person or $13.00 for both classes. Vaccines are required. Face masks are optional. Changing partners is optional. 6:30pm
- Perry Lynn’s Smokehouse in Quincy: Wed Night Open Mic w/ Steven Ritter and Friends. 6:30pm
- Hangar 38: Trivia. 6:45pm
- Proof: Trivia. 7pm
- Vino Beano: Wine Bingo. 7pm
- Fermentation Lounge: Trivia. 7pm
- Blue Tavern: Wednesday Open Mic with Doc Russell. The open mic night that has run continuously for almost 20 years, once housed at the Warehouse, lives on at the Blue Tavern. Doc Russell continues as the host with the most. Sign up starts at 7:45pm/free to attend
- House of Music: Bar Bingo! Free to Play & Late Night Karaoke. 7pm
- Fire Betty’s: Karaoke! 8pm/21+/free
- Dukes and Dotties: College Night and Line Dancing Lessons. 8pm
- Finnegans Wake: Trivia. 8pm
- The Sound Bar: Open Mic Night. 8pm
- The Bark: Karaoke with DJ Nathan. Best karaoke DJ in town. 9pm
- Peppers: Karaoke. 9pm
- 926: Dragged Out Wednesday. 10pm
2024.05.16 16:32 Schwloeb Histamine intolerance after COVID-19 infection.
I had COVID about 10 weeks ago. It was a mild infection.
However, a week later the 'long haul' symptoms started:
So first, does this sound familiar to anyone? Second, what is the best way forward now? Keep taking the antihistamine? Does it 'mask' the heart symptoms or is it actually helping to cure / heal it? My intestines are still messed up. Lots of gas. Multiple trips to the toilet per day. It's not real diarrhea, but close to it if that makes sense. And this is going on for 8 weeks now so it's time to 'fix' that.
What else can or should I take? I don't want to take anything which can mess with my heart, as the palpitations / skipped beats make me feel very uncomfortable, especially mentally. I am thinking of adding ginger tea to my regime and exclude foods known to be high in histamine.
What else can you add? Thanks so much.
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However, a week later the 'long haul' symptoms started:
- Upset intestines
- Skipped heartbeats (PVC's + PAC's)
- Hot flushes
- Increased anxiety + depression
So first, does this sound familiar to anyone? Second, what is the best way forward now? Keep taking the antihistamine? Does it 'mask' the heart symptoms or is it actually helping to cure / heal it? My intestines are still messed up. Lots of gas. Multiple trips to the toilet per day. It's not real diarrhea, but close to it if that makes sense. And this is going on for 8 weeks now so it's time to 'fix' that.
What else can or should I take? I don't want to take anything which can mess with my heart, as the palpitations / skipped beats make me feel very uncomfortable, especially mentally. I am thinking of adding ginger tea to my regime and exclude foods known to be high in histamine.
What else can you add? Thanks so much.
2024.05.16 16:16 AutumnFanatic 22 [M4F] #Online - Good morning! Nerdy guy who lately has had zero social interaction looking for a female interested in forming an intimate connection/relationship
Why did the farmer visit the pharmacy? To speak with the farm-assist.
Hi and welcome to my post! Wanted to start off with a funny to me dad joke.
Nice to meet you, I'm Dylan! To put it simple, I am a single 22 year old man who has been pretty lonely in life and lacking in female connection and interaction. And part of what comes with that is the desire to be intimate with a person. I am very mature for my age and will always be respectful of your boundaries and feelings, especially with anything sexual. Lately all I have is myself when it comes to sexual desires, so I would like to have someone to keep company with in that regard too.
I'm just relaxing in bed before work and burning a woodwick candle. Perfect for when there's a storm outside. I love candles! 🕯️ Sometimes a campfire outside on a fall night or a crackling WoodWick candle is a relaxing constant among our busy and hectic world. It's nice to just disconnect, feel grounded and happy in your own little cozy space. Feeling calm and collected and at peace. Something that fewer people take the time to do these days.
I am seeking a woman around my age or older to build a close connection with that could possibly lead to a relationship and something intimate which includes the possibility of teasing/sharing pics etc. but only when we were comfortable. Figured I would be open in my Intentions as that's the best way to be.
You:
Kind, respectful, and easy going.
Comfortable with the idea of eventually sharing intimate things together.
Willing to eventually move off of Reddit.
Want something genuine and fun!
Are honest in your intentions and a good person to be around!
That's about it, we will get along great I know it.
I've been feeling a little bummed out lately. I always try and stay happy and see the best in things. But.. I've just been so alone. Most of my whole childhood and adult years have been spent feeling lonely. I grew up surrounded by cornfields which was peaceful but also has a lonely aspect to it. My family never really were close and never did anything as a family really. And part of it too is the fact that I never had any neighbors my age to interact with. But aside from that, my adult life has been very lonely. I'm just always by myself. I barely have any meaningful adult relationships or experiences, or even any friends.
I work a 3-11 job in building maintenance at my company world headquarters building which I love, but again it's very lonely. I work the off shift so the building is always empty. I don't get normal social interaction with people my age or a chance to build relationships. I only have 3 older men as co-workers and we are mostly in the basement away from any people on the floors from knowing our existence. I always walk the floors and see office people laughing and chatting with their coworkers and I just don't have that kind of experience. And just.. no one knows I exist really. Everyone probably assumes I have a lot of friends, but I'm struggling inside with being so alone and trying to meet people and get past the "hi how are you?" "I'm good thanks" stage. Most people don't seem to want to talk beyond that. And most women are already in relationships and thus it would seem weird to approach them in an office setting trying to get to know them deeper. But man those "hi how are yous" are the only real interactions I get during my day.. so thus I decided to come here lol. Rant over, sorry! I promise I'm not a downer. 😅
Now for some things about me!
As you can tell, I am very mature for my age and am polite and have good grammar which unfortunately not everyone my age does anymore lol. I am not active at all on social media/internet culture really and don't know much about all the slang the younger people these days use. I feel like I'm 50. 🤣
I am left handed which is pretty cool. I'm not much of a party person or a drinker, I much prefer a quiet night at home and maybe a beer or two on a weekend but that's about it. I am simple and stay out of drama and trouble and don't get much into politics or other things that cause drama with people. I much prefer a relaxing campfire and a night at home and to just let the world keep on turning haha. I consider myself pretty intelligent and mature, especially for my age which is why I'm open to older ladies.
Physically I'm 180 pounds, have brown hair, green eyes, and a typical build. There's a few pictures on my profile.
Some of my hobbies are:
• Photography
I have a Nikon D200 and D5500 that I love to shoot with. I love nature scenes, abstract, black and white/goth kinda photography, sunsets, etc. it's so fun to just let your mind explore. It's not about what camera you have, but those who are behind the camera! I'm gonna try and photograph the northern lights tonight!
• Cooking and baking
I loveeee to cook and bake! I enjoy making various meals but also love to just have a frozen pizza once in awhile or something like that. I recently made homemade chili which turned out great. I love to bake, especially in the fall! I love pies, cakes, pastries, cookies, etc. I restored a vintage KitchenAid mixer that needed tbe gearbox rebuilt. Eventually I would love to practice home canning my own food.
• Music
Oh my gosh, I like so much!! Alternative rock, punk, post punk, electronic, synth pop, psychedelic rock, hard rock, etc. I am very non judgemental and open when it comes to music. My three current favorite bands are Type O Negative, Joy Division, and the Cure.
• Nature walks and camping
I really enjoy camping, making fires, and relaxing by a campfire. I love to take walks outside and just enjoy the beauty and simplicity of nature. It's wonderful, especially in a world so focused on everything digital.
• Repairing things
I'm a maintenance guy and one of my hobbies is electronics repair so I am good with my hands and just all around good at troubleshooting and fixing all sorts of things around the house. Last week I helped my elderly neighbor get his tractor started, it needed a new component in the starting circuit. So I'm pretty handy which... Comes in handy! 😂
• Autumn 🍁
This isn't a hobby per say, but man do I love the fall!!! It's my absolute favorite time of the year. Oh my gosh. The beautiful colors, crisp cool air, misty and foggy days, rain, lack of bugs, being cuddled up with a candle or by the fire drinking a tea, etc. I love it! There's only two seasons for me. Fall, and waiting for fall! Haha.
• Scented Candles and incense
Going along with my love for fall, I absolutely love candles! I have like 30 something lol. 😂 Currently my favorite are WoodWick, which are owned by Yankee candle. They have such a soothing crackle and the scents are great! I also love to burn incense from time to time as well. I have cottagecore hippie vibes.
• Old houses and architecture
I love old houses! Especially 1900s and Victorian era homes. Old homes have so much character to them and are just so beautiful from a time when people took pride in their craft. I strongly dislike the modern cookie cutter cheap construction of homes today. I would love to live in an old home one day. I also love their architecture and uniqueness, as well as architecture of old cathedrals and other buildings.
• Relaxing
Basic I know, but sometimes on the weekend I just love to get cozy in bed and relax and put on a YouTube video or an album! 😊
That's about it for me, I'm a pretty laid back and simple person. My ideal person is someone who is respectful and honest! I am very straightforward and open minded and would hope that you are as well.
If I seem interesting to you at all I would love to hear from you!
Thank you so much for reading.
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Hi and welcome to my post! Wanted to start off with a funny to me dad joke.
Nice to meet you, I'm Dylan! To put it simple, I am a single 22 year old man who has been pretty lonely in life and lacking in female connection and interaction. And part of what comes with that is the desire to be intimate with a person. I am very mature for my age and will always be respectful of your boundaries and feelings, especially with anything sexual. Lately all I have is myself when it comes to sexual desires, so I would like to have someone to keep company with in that regard too.
I'm just relaxing in bed before work and burning a woodwick candle. Perfect for when there's a storm outside. I love candles! 🕯️ Sometimes a campfire outside on a fall night or a crackling WoodWick candle is a relaxing constant among our busy and hectic world. It's nice to just disconnect, feel grounded and happy in your own little cozy space. Feeling calm and collected and at peace. Something that fewer people take the time to do these days.
I am seeking a woman around my age or older to build a close connection with that could possibly lead to a relationship and something intimate which includes the possibility of teasing/sharing pics etc. but only when we were comfortable. Figured I would be open in my Intentions as that's the best way to be.
You:
Kind, respectful, and easy going.
Comfortable with the idea of eventually sharing intimate things together.
Willing to eventually move off of Reddit.
Want something genuine and fun!
Are honest in your intentions and a good person to be around!
That's about it, we will get along great I know it.
I've been feeling a little bummed out lately. I always try and stay happy and see the best in things. But.. I've just been so alone. Most of my whole childhood and adult years have been spent feeling lonely. I grew up surrounded by cornfields which was peaceful but also has a lonely aspect to it. My family never really were close and never did anything as a family really. And part of it too is the fact that I never had any neighbors my age to interact with. But aside from that, my adult life has been very lonely. I'm just always by myself. I barely have any meaningful adult relationships or experiences, or even any friends.
I work a 3-11 job in building maintenance at my company world headquarters building which I love, but again it's very lonely. I work the off shift so the building is always empty. I don't get normal social interaction with people my age or a chance to build relationships. I only have 3 older men as co-workers and we are mostly in the basement away from any people on the floors from knowing our existence. I always walk the floors and see office people laughing and chatting with their coworkers and I just don't have that kind of experience. And just.. no one knows I exist really. Everyone probably assumes I have a lot of friends, but I'm struggling inside with being so alone and trying to meet people and get past the "hi how are you?" "I'm good thanks" stage. Most people don't seem to want to talk beyond that. And most women are already in relationships and thus it would seem weird to approach them in an office setting trying to get to know them deeper. But man those "hi how are yous" are the only real interactions I get during my day.. so thus I decided to come here lol. Rant over, sorry! I promise I'm not a downer. 😅
Now for some things about me!
As you can tell, I am very mature for my age and am polite and have good grammar which unfortunately not everyone my age does anymore lol. I am not active at all on social media/internet culture really and don't know much about all the slang the younger people these days use. I feel like I'm 50. 🤣
I am left handed which is pretty cool. I'm not much of a party person or a drinker, I much prefer a quiet night at home and maybe a beer or two on a weekend but that's about it. I am simple and stay out of drama and trouble and don't get much into politics or other things that cause drama with people. I much prefer a relaxing campfire and a night at home and to just let the world keep on turning haha. I consider myself pretty intelligent and mature, especially for my age which is why I'm open to older ladies.
Physically I'm 180 pounds, have brown hair, green eyes, and a typical build. There's a few pictures on my profile.
Some of my hobbies are:
• Photography
I have a Nikon D200 and D5500 that I love to shoot with. I love nature scenes, abstract, black and white/goth kinda photography, sunsets, etc. it's so fun to just let your mind explore. It's not about what camera you have, but those who are behind the camera! I'm gonna try and photograph the northern lights tonight!
• Cooking and baking
I loveeee to cook and bake! I enjoy making various meals but also love to just have a frozen pizza once in awhile or something like that. I recently made homemade chili which turned out great. I love to bake, especially in the fall! I love pies, cakes, pastries, cookies, etc. I restored a vintage KitchenAid mixer that needed tbe gearbox rebuilt. Eventually I would love to practice home canning my own food.
• Music
Oh my gosh, I like so much!! Alternative rock, punk, post punk, electronic, synth pop, psychedelic rock, hard rock, etc. I am very non judgemental and open when it comes to music. My three current favorite bands are Type O Negative, Joy Division, and the Cure.
• Nature walks and camping
I really enjoy camping, making fires, and relaxing by a campfire. I love to take walks outside and just enjoy the beauty and simplicity of nature. It's wonderful, especially in a world so focused on everything digital.
• Repairing things
I'm a maintenance guy and one of my hobbies is electronics repair so I am good with my hands and just all around good at troubleshooting and fixing all sorts of things around the house. Last week I helped my elderly neighbor get his tractor started, it needed a new component in the starting circuit. So I'm pretty handy which... Comes in handy! 😂
• Autumn 🍁
This isn't a hobby per say, but man do I love the fall!!! It's my absolute favorite time of the year. Oh my gosh. The beautiful colors, crisp cool air, misty and foggy days, rain, lack of bugs, being cuddled up with a candle or by the fire drinking a tea, etc. I love it! There's only two seasons for me. Fall, and waiting for fall! Haha.
• Scented Candles and incense
Going along with my love for fall, I absolutely love candles! I have like 30 something lol. 😂 Currently my favorite are WoodWick, which are owned by Yankee candle. They have such a soothing crackle and the scents are great! I also love to burn incense from time to time as well. I have cottagecore hippie vibes.
• Old houses and architecture
I love old houses! Especially 1900s and Victorian era homes. Old homes have so much character to them and are just so beautiful from a time when people took pride in their craft. I strongly dislike the modern cookie cutter cheap construction of homes today. I would love to live in an old home one day. I also love their architecture and uniqueness, as well as architecture of old cathedrals and other buildings.
• Relaxing
Basic I know, but sometimes on the weekend I just love to get cozy in bed and relax and put on a YouTube video or an album! 😊
That's about it for me, I'm a pretty laid back and simple person. My ideal person is someone who is respectful and honest! I am very straightforward and open minded and would hope that you are as well.
If I seem interesting to you at all I would love to hear from you!
Thank you so much for reading.
2024.05.16 16:01 spiritual_bypass Experience with going full heat pump and oil furnace leaking once shut off
So, I have a 21 year old house. It uses peerless cast iron oil boiler. I have been using for backup heat, and indirect hot water heater usage. Mainly I heat with two heatpumps. I want to get a heat pump water heater installed. The plumbers who I trust said that I have a warm start coil boiler, and if I turn off the boiler except when needed , seals could recede or crack and leak. I really don’t want to replace the boiler, and not sure running it all the time when it’s not needed is economical either. I expect the indirect water heater will fail sooner than later. I know this is a heat pump forum, but figured others have been through this conversation could advise.
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