Dating info

What will you be doing with this PC? Be as specific as possible, and include specific games or programs you will be using.
-for a friend
-Looking for purely gaming maybe movies, running games (fallout 4, cs2, star wars battlefront 2) at 1080p with resolution/FPS as cheap but effective as possible within the budget.
What is your maximum budget before rebates/shipping/taxes?
£600
When do you plan on building/buying the PC? Note: beyond a week or two from today means any build you receive will be out of date when you want to buy.
any time
What, exactly, do you need included in the budget? (ToweOS/monitokeyboard/mouse/etc)
everything
Which country (and state/province) will you be purchasing the parts in? If you're in US, do you have access to a Microcenter location?
UK, no microcenter
If reusing any parts (including monitor(s)/keyboard/mouse/etc), what parts will you be reusing? Brands and models are appreciated.
no
Will you be overclocking? If yes, are you interested in overclocking right away, or down the line? CPU and/or GPU?
Not interested right away.
Are there any specific features or items you want/need in the build? (ex: SSD, large amount of storage or a RAID setup, CUDA or OpenCL support, etc)
I want 1 SSD for everything maybe a HDD too
What type of network connectivity do you need? (Wired and/or WiFi) If WiFi is needed and you would like to find the fastest match for your wireless router, please list any specifics.
I need wifi and bluetooth no ethernet
Do you have any specific case preferences (Size like ITX/microATX/mid-towefull-tower, styles, colors, window or not, LED lighting, etc), or a particular color theme preference for the components?
No preferences. No RGB needed, just good quality and cheap but effective, black or white case (i dont care which)
Do you need a copy of Windows included in the budget? If you do need one included, do you have a preference?
Preferably windows 10.
Extra info or particulars:
No interest in the slightest making the PC look good, so RGB can be skipped, as I say I’m just looking for pure performance.

Long story short i ( 21F) made a bad decision, dated someone (20M) for approximately 9 months, chalked up the manipulative behaviors to trauma and stayed longer than i shouldve
Context that may matter, he lives in another province, has visited, knows my adress
When i left he started blowing up on me and when i didnt respond how he wanted it escalated, he started being aggressive berating me and calling me a narcissit, he has been calling my phone multiple times a day, when I change number he makes new ones, started messaging my loved ones, posting About me non-stop, lies, calling me crazy and delusional, text messages with whatever context he wants, stalking accounts ive blocked him on with other accounts, I have blocked him every where, its been a week of this
i unblocked him asking him to stop messaging my friends/ people i know and to just believe everything bad he believes of me and just let me be, he replied a long text saying he was "speaking to people i know that agreed with him" and that he wanted to show everyone who I "really am" a bunch of the same stuff just scary
He is using a situation that happened between my two best friends in 2018 involving infidelity in between them, im not directly involved apart from me knowing about it and at the time not knowing what to do with the information and feeling hurt over it which is why i told him He messaged one of the friend involved after his initial freakout Full transparency i did back track on that, i felt didnt really have a choice to when he started messaging her about it when he first started freaking out on me after the breakup, at the end of the day i didnt owe him the truth anymore at that point he had alreadycrossed a line about something that doesnt involve him with the intent to hurt me and the people i care about , but that doesn't matter rlly hes sticking to the fact i lied and backtracked on that to prove the things he says about me and now hes saying how hell download his facebook data to expose the situation and what I've said about it previously Its just mental torture, there is no real point to any of this, he wants a response out of me hes trying to hurt me and he is
More info that might matter, his ex has a restraining order against him (that he disregards however he sees fit) because he essentially did the same thing hes doing right now to her but worst, he threatened to kill her and himself, his entire friend group at the time sided with his ex, he told me its because she had abused him and pushed him this far and i believed it at the time but now being in the exact situation she was minus the threats on my life i can see him for what he is
I called a domestic violence hotline, they told me to file a police report for harrasment
Im scared to not be taken seriously and bring more trouble by making him angry, i know harassment is illegal but he genuinely threatened his ex and walked off with a restraining order only, he lives in another province so although hes unpredictable enough to show up here if he wants im not directly accessible for him to hurt me physically and i know that despite the restraining order he still harasses his ex and genuinely believes that she still cares about him and wants to he in his life, he has thoughts like that a lot, he has cyber stalked other girls before bc he belived she was sending him indirect message to keep going even after she blocked him, a friend of hers had to tell him to stop Im just worried that it wont really stop him ? Or might make it worst
Will i be taken seriously considering he has a record of that? Has he been harrasing me long enough for the law to care? I just need all the info i can get
I need advice im really desperate, im scared i feel trapped

I'm waiting for the release, maybe somebody out there has more info about the expected date?

Long story short i ( 21F) made a bad decision, dated someone (20M) for approximately 9 months, chalked up the manipulative behaviors to trauma and stayed longer than i shouldve
Context that may matter, he lives in another province, has visited, knows my adress
When i left he started blowing up on me and when i didnt respond how he wanted it escalated, he started being aggressive berating me and calling me a narcissit, he has been calling my phone multiple times a day, when I change number he makes new ones, started messaging my loved ones, posting About me non-stop, lies, calling me crazy and delusional, text messages with whatever context he wants, stalking accounts ive blocked him on with other accounts, I have blocked him every where, its been a week of this
i unblocked him asking him to stop messaging my friends/ people i know and to just believe everything bad he believes of me and just let me be, he replied a long text saying he was "speaking to people i know that agreed with him" and that he wanted to show everyone who I "really am" a bunch of the same stuff just scary
He is using a situation that happened between my two best friends in 2018 involving infidelity in between them, im not directly involved apart from me knowing about it and at the time not knowing what to do with the information and feeling hurt over it which is why i told him He messaged one of the friend involved after his initial freakout Full transparency i did back track on that, i felt didnt really have a choice to when he started messaging her about it when he first started freaking out on me after the breakup, at the end of the day i didnt owe him the truth anymore at that point he had alreadycrossed a line about something that doesnt involve him with the intent to hurt me and the people i care about , but that doesn't matter rlly hes sticking to the fact i lied and backtracked on that to prove the things he says about me and now hes saying how hell download his facebook data to expose the situation and what I've said about it previously Its just mental torture, there is no real point to any of this, he wants a response out of me hes trying to hurt me and he is
More info that might matter, his ex has a restraining order against him (that he disregards however he sees fit) because he essentially did the same thing hes doing right now to her but worst, he threatened to kill her and himself, his entire friend group at the time sided with his ex, he told me its because she had abused him and pushed him this far and i believed it at the time but now being in the exact situation she was minus the threats on my life i can see him for what he is
I called a domestic violence hotline, they told me to file a police report for harrasment
Im scared to not be taken seriously and bring more trouble by making him angry, i know harassment is illegal but he genuinely threatened his ex and walked off with a restraining order only, he lives in another province so although hes unpredictable enough to show up here if he wants im not directly accessible for him to hurt me physically and i know that despite the restraining order he still harasses his ex and genuinely believes that she still cares about him and wants to he in his life, he has thoughts like this a lot, he has cyber stalked other girls before bc he belived she was sending him indirect message to keep going even after she blocked him, a friend of hers had to tell him to stop Im just worried that it wont really stop him ? Or might make it worst
Will i be taken seriously considering he has a record of that? Has he been harrasing me long enough for the law to care? I just need all the info i can get
I need advice im really desperate, im scared i feel trapped

I was and still am planning to open a Smart Store on Naver but I'm quite worried about the taxes report I would be required to provide. One of the documents i needed was a business license (사업자등록증) e-commerce type. After I got it at the local tax office I was told to learn about the taxes system and they provided the guide with dates. There're 3 different types of taxes 1. 일반과세자 2. 간이과세자 3.면세사업자 and I don't know which is applicable to my case. Another question I got is do i still have to submit the report even if I do not have any icome and even haven't set up the store?
Any info would be appreciated 🙏

Does anyone knows for how long beta will be available? I enrolled(got access) at 9th of May but I cannot find any info till which date the beta will be opened. Do we have any official statement about dates for CBT of Abi?

So I rebuild our PVE Testing/Training Cluster Nodes(2 nodes + qdevice) with local zfs config. More or less used this with host backup files vom pbs server. Proxmox VE 4.x Cluster - Proxmox VE
Everything went well mostly.
Only issue now is I cant get qdevice to work again and I somehow managed to have the cluster nodes in different subnets.
Did i screw it up completely? Any suggestions are greatly appreciated.
Thanks
pvecm cluster status
Cluster information
Name: pve
Config Version: 9
Transport: knet
Secure auth: on
Quorum information
Date: Thu May 16 10:09:26 2024
Quorum provider: corosync_votequorum
Nodes: 2
Node ID: 0x00000001
Ring ID: 1.2c9
Quorate: Yes
Votequorum information
Expected votes: 2
Highest expected: 2
Total votes: 2
Quorum: 2
Flags: Quorate
Membership information
Nodeid Votes Qdevice Name
0x00000001 1 NR 172.22.254.101 (local)
0x00000002 1 NA,NV,NMW 192.168.41.102
0x00000000 0 Qdevice (votes 0)
trying to re-add qdevice (nodes and qdevice can ssh to each other without pw)
pvecm qdevice setup 192.168.41.105 -f
/bin/ssh-copy-id: INFO: Source of key(s) to be installed: "/root/.ssh/id_rsa.pub"
/bin/ssh-copy-id: INFO: attempting to log in with the new key(s), to filter out any that are already installed
/bin/ssh-copy-id: WARNING: All keys were skipped because they already exist on the remote system.
(if you think this is a mistake, you may want to use -f option)
INFO: initializing qnetd server
Certificate database (/etc/corosync/qnetd/nssdb) already exists. Delete it to initialize new db
INFO: copying CA cert and initializing on all nodes
Host key verification failed.
Certificate database already exists. Delete it to continue
INFO: generating cert request
Certificate database doesn't exists. Use /sbin/corosync-qdevice-net-certutil -i to create it
command 'corosync-qdevice-net-certutil -r -n pve' failed: exit code 1

Hello,
Do we know the official release date for ABI? I know the beta ends on the 22th and I've seen some info pointing to 14th of July, but I am not sure.
Thanks <3

Hi, I ship out next week and was curious about deployment, I read something earlier on one of these posts that said FL, MD, CA, HI, GA, and VA were the usual spots CWTs go after A school, and was curious as to how up to date that was.
Also I was wondering if I get to choose where I'm stationed or if its more of a 'you get what you get' situation because I also plan on moving my family with me once I get settled. As well as when i learn where i'm going in general, my recruiter hasnt proven very forthcoming with info unfortunately so most of my questions have been coming here.

So I’ve been browsing steam today and found some great deals, there’s the “tomb raider survivor trilogy bundle” where I’m not able to understand what the F I get from that bundle like there’s 20 items in it and shadow of tomb raider is 5 of em so I literally have no clue what it’s about and if someone had any knowledge over this, I would love to know and I’ve always wanted to play the tomb raider series so if I’m gonna buy this your info will surely be helpful in the purchase
On the other hand theres AC odyssey & origins so I did a lil bit of digging bout these two and the games are not really that dated and look visually and aesthetically pretty good looks like I would def enjoy my time playing, but during my digging I saw a lot of hate around Ubisoft, not owning and all that stuff, this left me really confused on whether I should just go for the purchase or get creative with other ways
If you have any knowledge on both of these things I’d be glad to know and make a wiser purchase Thanks 🙂

So I'm 18M, and at work a coworker was seemingly coming onto me, sticking by me almost hip to hip, even though we're both working in different spots from each other. Even other co workers, including a few female coworkers were taking notice and asking what was going on between us, cause it wasn't exactly seeming like just a normal friendship.
I guess you could chalk it up to boredom, but she would be pretty playful with me, like slow mo punching me and poking me, and putting quite a few stickers on me, and complimenting my hair. I eventually get her info and we start texting outside of work.
Where I bring up possibly hanging out, outside of work where she quickly asks what my plans are hanging out with her and what my intentions are. I simply say "I think you're pretty, kind girl and I'd be interested in getting to know you." Which I know is a pretty bad response. But she hits me with a hard fast rejection saying "I'm not interested in dating anyone right now, and I'm talking to someone atm, and I thought you were gay" I kind of just say "Oh, I've read the room wrong, I apologize." and she kind of goes on to apologize and saying "Oh I just have a flirty personality"
But yea just wanna hear some other peoples opinions, and some advice where I should go from here I guess. I ended up unadding her cause I wanted to keep the friendship within the workplace and didn't really know where to even go to try and save that sinking friendship.

Hello! I am a 24M based in London looking for easy ways to find good places to meet dates. To help solve this problem I am building a 2-way Google maps app to help Londoners spend less time travelling on the tube to meet friends and am looking for some initial feedback.
The app finds the location with the least travel time for both individuals and works by one user inputting their and their friends locations.
It is very early stage at the moment but I am keen to get some initial feedback to help guide the development of the app, so please let me know your thoughts!
Please also let me know if you would like to learn more - can follow up with more info!

I was lurking in /Terraform on Reddit as I tend to do when I discovered someone commenting about the Terraform Console I had not heard of that previously so I started digging in. It comes bundled with the Terraform cli by default. And allows you to browse the current state of your various resources and modules.

aws_api_gateway_rest_api.api_gateway { "api_key_source" = "HEADER" "arn" = "arn:aws:apigateway:us-east-1::/restapis/psnflsr6ha" "binary_media_types" = tolist([]) "body" = "{\"info\":{\"title\":\"example\",\"version\":\"1.0\"},\"openapi\":\"3.0.1\",\"paths\":{}}" "created_date" = "2023-06-12T15:07:34Z" "description" = "" "disable_execute_api_endpoint" = false "endpoint_configuration" = tolist([ { "types" = tolist([ "REGIONAL", ]) "vpc_endpoint_ids" = toset([]) }, ]) "execution_arn" = "arn:aws:execute-api:us-east-1:368590945923:psnflsr6ha" "fail_on_warnings" = tobool(null) "id" = "psnflsr6ha" "minimum_compression_size" = "" "name" = "schematical-terraform-v1" "parameters" = tomap(null) /* of string */ "policy" = "" "put_rest_api_mode" = tostring(null) "root_resource_id" = "q3jlr1ea55" "tags" = tomap({}) "tags_all" = tomap({}) }

Interesting enough when I go to get the state of an entire module it prints out just the variables passed to it. Probably more valuable than trying to print out all the sub resources included in that module:

module.dev_env { "api_gateway_base_path_mapping" = "dev-v1-us-east-1-api.schematical.com/" "api_gateway_stage_id" = "ags-psnflsr6ha-dev" "api_gateway_stage_name" = "dev" "cloudfront_domain_name" = "d3s18d4v1p58tw.cloudfront.net" "cloudfront_zone_id" = "Z2FDTNDATAQYW2" }

Not life changing by any means but a nice little tool to keep in your arsenal.
https://schematical.com/posts/terraform-console_2024-05-09

I don't know if I'm too much of a worrier. I've been on Facebook dating around 3/4 weeks. I have massive trust issues from past trauma so it's going to take me a while to trust someone... and I keep getting asked for either Facebook, number, Instagram etc. Now sometimes it's after a day or so and that's a straight no. But some guys I've been chatting to for a couple of weeks have asked twice even after the first time they said they were happy to wait till I was ready. I feel uncomfortable giving out my info as even though we've talked almost every day for 3 weeks....we haven't met. I always heard people talk on dating sites for months before meeting up when they were comfy. Not sure if I'm being overcautious or not. And after everything I've been through saying they are happy to wait but then still asking....it makes me feel they are pushing boundaries....but again is that me being too cautious again? Any help please thank you :)

I (35f) have found evidence that my mother who has been missing 20 years is still alive and is out and about. I have 4 siblings, Jane 37, Ann 33, Fran, 33, and Crystal 30. We were all raised together, even though some of us our half siblings. Jane and I are full siblings. I never really separated any of us because we all share the same my mom and were raised together so I just call every sister; sister. When I was 12 years old, my mother asked me a question “if you had to choose with being with me or your sisters, who would you rather be with?”. I remember telling my mom I would rather be with her, then a month later, she woke me up in the middle of the night and told me we were leaving. A bit a background, we were extremely poor, living in shelters or government assistance. There were many times we went to bed hungry, but sometime my mom would wake me up and take “us” (me and her) to get food. My mom was my everything from a very young age. Anything she believed in, thought or taught me, I retained over the years and found them to be important. Like “join the military, if you don’t know what you want to do” “treat every relationship like it will be you last (i.e. do everything to take care of your man). I did 4 years in the army, and every relationship, I put way more into than I should’ve. But in my eyes, these were things I was supposed to retained and respect. When I hit 13.5 years old, everything changed. In 2002, the state, government, DCS, CPS, DCFS, whatever it is in your state found me. They found me at school and took me away to live with my sisters and Grandfather (someone I was always told was dead). I finally saw my sisters again, I was happy about that. But it also came with its own set of problems. “Where have you been? What happened? Why did you?”, Ect, etc. Of course, I had no answers, the choice to pick my mom or them, I couldn’t say how it all went down in the beginning, keep in mind I was 12 to 14 in this whole process. After a while my sisters and I were able to get passed that decision I made. We ended up having “visitation” with my mother. She came to two visits, promised we would see her again and then disappeared. She reached out one other time after the 2nd visitation to tell ME, she was in the hospital for trying to kill herself, literally my last conversation with her. This happened in 2002/03, it all blurs this point in 2024. So they found out me with my sisters and grandfather (someone I remember my mother saying was dead already when I was with her). So my mother raised me until I was 13, and my grandfather took care of me from 14 to 24. Over the years, I would always try to look for her, I would used reverse address sites, stuff like “BeenVerified” “Truthfinder” and other reversed address websites. Anything I could afford to find her, never had enough money for a private investigator. But thought all the websites I never found substantial information. And I did this at least once every other year for about 14 years. It was devastating nothing ever panning out, but life goes on. May 2016, her father my grandfather passed away. He left $100,000, to each of his children. At the time I definitely thought, this is when I’ll see her again, this is when I’ll know what happened, because of course she will show up to get her inheritance…. Wrong… so wrong, she never popped up and just continued to be gone. Our original state is California. In Cali, if someone is missing for 5 years you can you can have the courts declare them deceased, it’s paperwork and exhausting, but also totally doable. I waited 8 years to start the process of trying to get the inheritance (it was never about the money, but in my mind, if it’s just there with the State, forget all that, give it to her struggling kids). So in January 2024 I started the process so me and all my sisters can get the inheritance. I was preparing documentation for the next court date and stumbled across a copy of my mother’s ID and birth certificate. I found it through the court because she was trying to get her inheritance exactly at the 5 year mark. I feel awkward. I prayed and hope for a long time that I would see her again, but after 20 years, I figured she must have died, People don’t just leave 5 children behind and forget about them…. Now that I was trying to better the lives of me and my sisters, now I find her information…. (It’s all too weird) I know life isn’t fair, and people have it better and worse than me. But I’m also like, what type of bullshit is this, I was finally ready to move on, now’s there’s a small glimmer of hope that I’ll see her again… you have got to be shitting me… I found her info a 2 days before Mother’s Day, just another slap in the face. So all that is the background to the AITA post. So now after explaining to 3 of my sisters that “she” found and I have an address for her, this is where the disconnect starts. Jane and Ann, wants nothing to do with her, they’re hurt, she left us, I get it, atleast to a certain extent. There’s so much hate because she disappeared. But myself and Fran, wants any and all information to understand what happened. It’s not normal to go AWOL so we want to know wtf happened. Unfortunately Crystal died in 2022, but she has explained her feelings before and she would definitely be on Jane and Ann side. Once again, I get it, we were all abandoned for over 20 years. I’m just a person that needs/ wants closure. And Fran is with me on that. Jane and Ann don’t want me to “poke the bear” there are completely over the situation, so when I mentioned reaching out, they both want absolutely nothing to do with it. And Jane doesn’t want me to reach out at all. But in my mind, I’ve been searching for years, so I want some contact if possible. So earlier today, I wrote a letter and sent that along of a copy of my youngest sister obituary to beg, super beg for my mom to respond me to try to have a relationship with her against my sisters wishes. I asked Jane and Ann for permission to send the letter, and the answer was pretty much “don’t do it”. I usually try to be super mindful of other peoples feelings and what they have been through ( I’m a Social Worker). But I felt like I couldn’t deny my feelings and I had to reach out. I’d be lying if I said I hated her, or didn’t want a real relationship with her. Over the years I started to say the same things as Jane and Ann, but I know part of that is believing I would never have the chance to see her again. But as of right now, that’s no longer the case. So AITA for reaching out to my estranged mother against my Sisters wishes?

So this afternoon I suddenly get all these messages in my inbox. An account has been created at [site]. Your profile at [site] has been updated (x3). Your purchase (of perfume for all of $113) from [site] has been confirmed. You have subscribed to dnscap-users (with a request to click to confirm or click elsewhere to report malicious adding to a list).
I immediately called my bank and shut down my card, and I called [site] to tell them to suspend the order. My bank discovered an additional charge, for all of $24 at Bath & Bodyworks. Needless to say I also changed my password at various places for good measure (though I have two-step verification pretty much everywhere and definitely anywhere important, so it was really out of an abundance of caution). But I'm not understanding a few things, here:

1. How the hell did whoever it is get my name, my home address, my card info (including the 3-digit security code on the back, presumably), my email address, and my phone number (they appear to have switched out the last digit on purpose)? Either they don't have my birthdate or they are making one up just for fun; at least they put me down at [site] as over a decade younger than I am, I guess. They also mis-gendered me; which given my clearly gendered name was mildly amusing. God only knows where they signed in from; they don't appear to have actually accessed my email, and though there are two devices listed underneath cell phones in my Google account that I don't recognize, the first sign-in date is two years ago for those, so it's probably somehow me after all. To answer an obvious question, no, I don't have any malware; I routinely run scans and I ran one after this for good measure.
   
2. Most importantly, what even is the point, here? Order some crappy perfume and have it sent to an address (that is presumably not actually theirs, given that it is located in an incredibly ritzy subdivision somewhere on the other side of the continent). Order cheap bath products somewhere. And sign up for a single mailing list...why? Why use my actual email address (instead of a random burner account) to set up an account at the site (thereby instantly alerting me to the fraud, before any money can actually be stolen)? Why only attempt spend a grand total of $134 (well, okay, it's not a felony at that level, I guess)?
   

In short, it's a mildly annoying but also pretty creepy but ultimately really mysterious hack. Please help me to understand what they were actually trying to do here (or maybe they succeeded? Was the entire goal just to annoy and confuse me?).

Hey, I’m new to the watch world. I’ve been looking at a few brands and popped into the local Tag shop while I’m at the mall.
Does anyone know much about or have any info on the new Aquaracer?
I’m not the biggest fan of the dial, but he said the movement is a lot better than the Caliber 5.
I’m also looking at the Carrera Day Date… so one sports watch and one classic watch.
I’m not particularly sold on the brand, but I like these two aesthetically.
Thanks in advance.

I wanna start off and say i absolutely LOVE Sabaton. Seen them live for 32 times, been a fan since early 2008, having all albums and a LOT of merch etc But this celebration feels a bit lackluster.
Celebrating an album each month is cool but thats about it. They listen to an album, release some merch and give us some background story about it. But is that really how you wanna celeberate the 25th anniversary of the band? I had hoped for a BIG tour and some cool new stuff.
No new info on the new album, no news about the recording of the Amsterdam show that was shot last year, beside the USA tour dates no touring that we know off in 2024.
In general is pretty quiet on the Sabaton front about whats to come. Besides the Sabaton cruise and shot tour in the USA, they guys havent toured in a year, which is so weird given they toured so much in the past.
So i wanna hear if its just me or if you guys and girls have any other view on all this.

So, I have recently run into this issue, and I wanted to hear other's thoughts on it. I don't use Abnb incredibly frequently, but I would say somewhere on average around once a month, and I have been an active use with a full profile, 100% positive reviews, picture, etc. for about 8-9 years now. Only very recently for me, meaning just the last booking I made and completed, has my ID been requested to be verified. I thought it odd, and quite honestly, I was uncomfortable with it, but went through the process so I could complete the booking process at the time. It was only after that I found out that they store your ID on their servers indefinitely. This is a huge risk to me. There are so many data breaches these days (the most recent that I have heard is Dell having 24 million accounts with them breached) that the risk of storing an ID like the type the Abnb requires on their servers indefinitely is extremely high and unsafe. If their servers are breached, millions of people will be at risk of having their identities stolen. This says nothing of the risk that the company opens themselves up to with it.
With that in mind, I went looking for a way to remove my ID as required I be able to do by law. And sure enough, I found it, and was able to remove it. Okay, fine, sort of. During the process of removal, I am essentially told that by removing it, I will have to verify my identity AGAIN if I ever book again. Come on, Abnb, did you just verify me, or not? Am I as a person and my association with my account, and my CC info, etc. all going to change completely all the sudden that you need to verify me with an ID again? It is completely illogical, but that's besides the point here.
So, I recently go to book again, and sure enough, I am requested to submit my ID AGAIN. I contact them to see if there is any other alternative method of verification offered. Nope, there is not. Okay, so I guess I go through it again, and just remove my ID after submitting like before. However, when I try to do that, they have changed their policy (in what I believe to be a violation of Federal law) to where they won't let me remove it for 90 days after the last reservation has ended. I am absolutely not comfortable with that for reasons outlined, so I cancelled the reservation. But now they are still refusing to remove my ID even though I don't have a reservation any longer putting me at risk for nothing.
Their ID policy is a huge identity theft risk for everyone. It is also illogical. I wouldn't have an issue with it if the verification process checked an ID once for an account (or even on a yearly basis or with the ID's expiration date), and then deleted it from their servers. There is no real reason or need to hold onto.
Anyone else stop using Abnb because of this? Or sees it as the risk that I do? Curious to hear other's thoughts on this.

Hello, asking as it's own post in case my comment in the monthly thread is too buried.
I was recently laid off (role eliminated) in April and am in my redeployment phase before my final date of June 15. Assuming I don't find another role in the same company by that date, I am looking into doing some freelance/1099 contractor work. I am trying to figure out if/how that may affect my ability to claim unemployment. Can anyone give me a quick summary of if it would be wiser to not do the 1099 work in order to maximize unemployment while i continue the search for another full time W2 job?
Second to all that, I am also expecting a baby, due end of June but may come sooner. Would doing 1099 work affect my PFL benefits at all?
Thanks for any info :)

I’ve been with my husband for 2 years now, married 6 months. I caught him out in a lie last weekend and it’s unravelled so many things. So many times that I thought that what he was saying was strange, or seemed far-fetched all make sense now. The lies aren’t even big or to hide something that would hurt someone’s feelings, it’s just small stuff but the lie is what makes it huge for me.

It’s clear now that he’s a compulsive liar and I don’t know if I want to go forward with the marriage, or if there’s even any point. Can a compulsive liar ever really change?

I’ll give a couple of examples to provide a bit of context:

EXAMPLE 1
May 2022 - When we met he in May 2022, he told me he had tried to kill himself in a car crash when he was 19, that it was a split second decision and to never tell his parents because it would crush them. I dutifully kept his secret.
11 May 2024 - I found out that there was someone else in the car from an offhand comment made by one of his parents. When I asked him later why he had lied about it, he said that he didn’t remember the crash, has no memories before or for a while after. I asked why he would try to kill himself with someone else in the car. He maintained that “it was a bit about killing myself”, before restating that he had no memory and “I don’t know what to tell you”. Very defensive, yelling and crying.
14 May 2024 - I asked him again, saying that either he has lied to me since we met, or he tried to take someone else out with him. He said he didn’t remember but that he thought it was suicide because he was so deeply unhappy at that time in his life. I said “so you tried to take your girlfriend out with you? Because that’s murder”. He then said he didnt know the real reason. I then asked why he would definitively tell me it was a suicide attempt if he didn’t know the real reason. He couldn’t tell me. I then asked why he seemed to remember specifics when I asked him at the start of the relationship (“I was driving home from dads after dinner, it was a split second decision”) but now couldn’t even tell me if it was an accident or suicide. Admitted that it was silly to claim suicide attempt, but still didnt admit to lying.

EXAMPLE 2
December 2023, - I received a black sapphire bracelet from my mum for Christmas. Boxing Day, he told me that “oh black sapphire! it’s just like the ring mum got you”. I asked him what he was talking about, and he said he didn't know. I said “no, your mum got me emerald earrings”. He said “ah yes that’s what I must have been thinking about”. I knew something was up but I left it at that because we were at family's house.
Later I asked him directly if his mum had given a black sapphire ring to his ex. He said no, he was just confused about the earrings. I said I wouldn’t care, but that I don't want to be lied to. He said no, he was just confused.
Two weeks later his mum was on the phone on speaker (she didn't realise she was on speaker) and she said “I’ve asked for that sapphire ring back from [ex] and given it to [sisterin law]”. I told him “I fucking knew it, why did you lie to me?” He said he didn't remember and that he genuinely got confused, and that he was “an idiot” for not remembering. I told him I’d be far more upset about being lied to than I would about a gift your mum gave to someone before we met. He said “I know, and that’s why I’m not lying to you!”
14 May 2024, I brought this issue up again in the context of the other lies. The conversation went like this:
Me: Why did you lie to me about that, even when your mum mentioned it?
Him: I already told you, I got confused, I totally forgot
Me: How did you forget when I asked you directly, with specifics? I asked you “Did your mum give a black sapphire ring to [ex’s name]” and you told me no.
Him: I got my wires crossed, I was talking about the earrings
Me: but you specifically mentioned a black sapphire ring, which was exactly what it was.
Him: I don’t remember who she gave it to.
Me: So you do remember there was a ring… then why didn’t it jog your memory when I asked you directly?
Him: I already apologised for this, we’ve been through this
Me: What? No, after your mum got off the phone, you told me again that you’d forgot about it and you couldn’t remember anything about it.
Him: Yeah, after the phone call with mum - we had a conversation the next day which I vividly remember where I told you I lied so as not to hurt your feelings.
I have no recollection of this conversation, but it would directly contradict claims he made seconds prior about ‘getting his wires crossed’, thinking it was about my earrings, and having no memory of it. When I asked why he had contradicted himself, he said he didn’t understand.

There are actually many more examples like this, and I can provide them if more info is needed. But over and over again, I’ve told him that I can handle the truth, but begged him not to lie to me. I caught him out in a lie in the first couple of months of us dating. When he said it was to protect my feelings, I told him that I would rather the truth than a lie from him. He promised never to lie to me again.

Over the last couple of years, he has sent me texts like:
“I felt absolutely stupid and embarrassed when I lied to you ages ago. And I told you it will not happen again. And it hasn’t.”
“I don’t lie to you”
“I’m so glad I have you. I can be my true self with you. I love the complete openness and honesty in our relationship. All we want is the best for one another”
”I asked myself something last night about us. Just in quiet reflection. Would I tell you everything and anything even if it would upset you? Like would I even make up little white lies to avoid anything crappy and I was like nah. I am cellophane with you. But frosted glass with everyone else”
“I love you so much. I promise to tell you everything and always devote myself to you”
He has repeatedly told me that he would never lie to me as “you know everything anyway, do you think I could lie to you?”

When faced with all of the above, he admits that he's got a problem with lying and says he’s turned a new leaf, that he knows what he needs to do, and that from now on it will be complete honesty. But in light of everything, how do I know that this is the truth, and not another lie?? All of my trust in him has gone, along with any respect I had for him. Everything he's saying to me just feels like lip service.

Tl;dr – husband is a compulsive liar. Can I believe him when he says he will change?