Hello all,
I hope this is allowed. I did read the rules, so I’m hoping we all good.
Basically I’ve got a mate on the spectrum who’s getting married. She’s made me a bridesmaid and therefore I’m organizing her kitchen tea and bachelorette.
I’m going to do an activity based kitchen tea (probably like pottery painting or candle making) as she hates being the centre of attention. I’m still figuring out how to arrange seating as I know she gets overwhelmed by noise.
I wanted to ask for some game suggestions where she is maybe not the central focus but it’s still fun? Typically people film the husband answering questions and make the bride to be guess his answers and give her shots when she gets one wrong, but like I said she’s not one that enjoys the limelight.
So perhaps specifically for the ladies (but gents welcome too), what kind of things would you enjoy? I obviously know that that people on the spectrum are not a uniform group, and she’s very easy going, but I know she masks her discomfort a lot and I reeeeallly want to make this special for her. Basically I just want to be conscious of things people on the spectrum typically find uncomfortable.
Also if anyone has any ideas on how to bring her in to her own kitchen tea. Typically the bride to be arrives later but I know the thought of everyone watching her enter is deeply uncomfortable for her. Do I just bring her in from the get go?
Looking for any and all ideas. Thanks!

My brother owns a restaurant here and I am helping him screen applications. I cannot believe how terrible they are! Considering how badly people need work, you’d think there would be some effort put into the application process.
The job posting was for two positions- server and dishwasher, both $19/hr. Two different skill sets. Hardly anyone has specified which role they are interested in - are we supposed to guess?!
Because this whole process has flabbergasted me, I will share what the first 50 applications looked like.
First, the posting requested a cover letter and a resume. 3 people sent both. 15 sent just a resume. And 32 SENT NEITHER. Literally just an email with a sentence or two. Some of my favourites (I’ve left original spelling and grammar):
“Hello I am looking for job.”
“Hi Gud morning Dear Hiring Manager Hope u r doing well”
“Dear sima’am I am international student right now I am full time available. Can you please hire me.”
One literally just had a phone number, nothing else.
I am blown away by the poor grammar, spelling, lack of capitalization and punctuation, use of “texting” language, etc. My (female) name was in the job posting. Multiple people called me “sir” or “to whom it may concern.”
Out of the 50 applicants, 39 mentioned being international students (all from India or Nepal). One specifically asked to be paid in cash only.
I just wanted to share this partly because I had no idea it would be this bad but also to tell people who are looking for jobs that you need to actually put in some effort. These 50 applications were received in the first 36 hours of posting. I expect there will be hundreds to look through.
If you take the time to follow the instructions in the posting, specify the job you’re applying for, make it clear how your experience is relevant, and ensure that your communication is free of grammatical and spelling errors, you will be ahead of 99% of applicants.

I was in a relationship with my ex-boyfriend for almost two years. It was a healthy relationship, or at least from my side; we never fought and I always respected his space. I prioritized communication to prevent any potential issues, and always gave him the chance to talk to me if he needed something more, so we could have worked it together during the relationship to solve any issues.. I was loyal, letting him know when I was going out and where to make him feel safe, giving him the password of my socials WITHOUT asking him the same even if he did it happily. I was loving, caring, but never NEEDY. He consistently appeared happy with me, was loving in person, and attentive in his messages even if he WAS NOT inclined towards physical displays of affection such as kissing, hugging, or cuddling. he told me he never liked physical contact in his PREVIOUS relationships, and he told me many times I was the first person he allowed to hug him or take his hand.... things he told me he never did it before. He told me he never felt love in the past and it was the first time with me.. And then, unexpectedly, after two years, he abruptly ended our relationship without ever communicating any issues or concerns along the way. However, I'll delve deeper into this aspect later on.
I started to think that he could have had an AVOIDANT ATTACHEMENT for several reasons, which I will now explain.
He had been involved in several long-term relationships in the past, all of which were consistently toxic., full of fights and drama, and this was the first healthy relationship for him. He confessed to me that he never considered the women of the past as his girlfriends, despite relationships of years or months, and claimed he had never truly loved anyone in his life. These prior relationships were characterized by a lack of affection, no gestures like kissing and hugging. Instead, they primarily revolved around sex, alcohol, and nocturnal enjoyment, with no meaningful discussions about the future. It was more of a routine to pass the weekend, engage in physical intimacy, and socialize, even though his previous partners considered him their boyfriend, he was not considering them as girlfriends.. Its also true that he has always been broke, without a job, and these women had their own house, and independence...
He mentioned that I was the first person he held hands with or allowed to hug him, he never did this in all his life. He didn't enjoy physical contact much and particularly disliked kissing, which he informed me about from the very beginning. SO yeah he was hugging me, taking my hand but kissing was very rare, if I dont start, he will never do it..
Another weird thing.. he had a very extroverted personality and would talk to everyone in the street or every place. He often said that he did this as if he was wearing a mask to show a perfect image of himself to people. However, the great contradiction was that despite being someone who talked to everyone, he didn't have any deep friendships or connections. Instead, he had many superficial, momentary acquaintances. Not a best friend, nobody to talk to a deeper level. Just people he knows and he calls them when he needs soething... same was for his family members..
He possessed a significant ego too and used to view himself as the most attractive man, admiring himself in the mirror. 24 h on 24 telling me he could cum just by looking at himself in the mirror.. He was looking himself all the time but never looked at me...
At the beginning of our relationship, he engaged in significant love bombing and appeared very happy, displaying a lot of emotion., and trying to be seductive However, he would only MEET ME ON WEEKENDS, despite he having no job or doing nothing during the week. He never tried to change this pattern or suggest anything different, as he preferred sticking to his routine to meet me in the weekend, and since he had no job, I was the one paying for our dinner or dates, clothes,,,he knew I am not rich, and he told me it was okay for him and he didnt care,
He was someone always trying to please people, the same he was doing it for me.. someone who always said yes, and never no. Whenever I asked if I could do something to improve myself or our relationship, he would always say that everything was perfect. He often told me that he was someone who kept his emotions bottled up and struggled with communication, despite my frequent efforts to encourage him to open up. Whenever I brought up topics like living together or our future, he would simply agree or mirror my words, making me feel like he was telling me what I wanted to hear, but without genuine conviction in his responses. Same for when I was telling him I love him in real life or messages, he was replying to me, but sometimes I felt he was not genuine, just mirroring my behavior because THIS is what a boyfriend should do...
Furthermore, he was someone who never talked about himself or his life, he was replying to my questions thats it. He would listen to me, but he never tried to talk about the future or express his feelings, it was always coming from my side.
From the very first day of our relationship even when sexual activity began, it was always initiated by him. There was never any initial physical affection, but rather he would tell me to go to the bedroom so we can start having sex, he was literally just pulling down his pantalon and thats it. No kisses, no hugs to start the sex just him going to the bedroom, and this since the first day of our relationship. When I attempted to engage in intimacy with him, he never let me start it and preferred looking the televison. In the sex there was not kissing, it was a more a hard violent sex, of domination and when he finished it there was absolutely no cuddling, he will go directly to take a shower or go to look himself in the mirror how handsome he is..
6 months before the end of our relationship, I changed my apartment, to be only 5 minutes close to him so we could have met more often or so some activity together, but he continued to see me only on weekends, without changing his habits.. and when I asked him to start to go to the gym together every day, he was clearly not happy of it, even if he tried to show me a sort of fake smile and telling me yeah we can do it...Everything with his was ... Yeah we can do it... but he never acted on it. I was always the one suggesting things for the future, making plans. He never talked about the future or anything else. He was simply said yes and continued meeting me only on weekends and never doing anything for me.
2-3 months before the end of the relationship, I wanted to finance with my money a project that we would undertake together, opening a business that would eventually lead us to live together and also a way for him to be economically independent. On his part, he always said Yes, also giving advices for the business. That project will have started soon and the project of living together it will have been far in the future, after 1 year. This business for obvious reason it will have never started because he dumped me before.
However, unexpectedly, after two years, he ended our relationship. He confessed that he had never truly been in love with me from the start. He admitted that while there was initial infatuation, it quickly faded after some weeks.. I was deeply shocked and asked why he had stayed with me for two years if he didn't love me. He explained that he initially tried to convince himself that he loved me because he wanted to believe it, but eventually realized he was just lying to himself. He said he realized he was not only lying to himself but also to me, he was faking to love me, and he was hurt to know he was making me waste time,, he said he stayed with me to avoid hurting me and because he lacked the courage to break my heart. The crazy thing in all of this its that he did a tatoo of my name in his body and he was the first one to tell me I love you for the first time in the relationship while he was crying... when I confronted him on all this incoherence..., how he did a tatoo, told me all the time he loved me.. came all the time at my house showing love... he told me he did this because wanted to believe it... Also he was talking often to my family all the time along and trying to create a relationship with them....
During the breakup, he exhibited behavior that was entirely unfamiliar to me. he was so cold, it was like he hated me for no reason, he told me things I didnt deserve and its not coherent with the idea that the stayed 2 years with me to avoid hurting me because during the breakup he literally destroyed me. He stated that he didn't find me physically attractive, that I didnt make him horny in the bed, that he didn't appreciate the time we spent together. He claimed when he was coming for our dates he was feel uncomfortable all the time and he just wanted to leave.. he told me that he attended our dates or sex out of a sense of obligation rather than genuine desire. He told me it was like a duty or job for him. He told me he didnt see a future with me, that the idea of going to live together it was making him sick, he told me that he also thought to kill hiself becasue he didnt have the courage to leave me. He was telling me horrible things, he had no empathy, and he told me he didnt even tried to find an excuse to leave me because I was the perfect loving girlfriend and he just simply didnt find. I asked him if in these 2 years together he experienced at least a happy moment together and he stayed silent, like to say NO.
He told me many times I am sorry, but he didnt mean it, I was perceving from him a zero empathy, zero care, he was completely deatched, and during 2 years of relationship he never discusses of issuses despite I always tried to ask how he was feeling...
Let me know what you think..

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My brother owns a restaurant here and I am helping him screen applications. I cannot believe how terrible they are! Considering how badly people need work, you’d think there would be some effort put into the application process.
The job posting was for two positions- server and dishwasher, both $19/hr. Two different skill sets. Hardly anyone has specified which role they are interested in - are we supposed to guess?!
Because this whole process has flabbergasted me, I will share what the first 50 applications looked like.
First, the posting requested a cover letter and a resume. 3 people sent both. 15 sent just a resume. And 32 SENT NEITHER. Literally just an email with a sentence or two. Some of my favourites (I’ve left original spelling and grammar):
“Hello I am looking for job.”
“Hi Gud morning Dear Hiring Manager Hope u r doing well”
“Dear sima’am I am international student right now I am full time available. Can you please hire me.”
One literally just had a phone number, nothing else.
I am blown away by the poor grammar, spelling, lack of capitalization and punctuation, use of “texting” language, etc. My (female) name was in the job posting. Multiple people called me “sir” or “to whom it may concern.”
Out of the 50 applicants, 39 mentioned being international students (all from India or Nepal). One specifically asked to be paid in cash only.
I just wanted to share this partly because I had no idea it would be this bad but also to tell people who are looking for jobs that you need to actually put in some effort. These 50 applications were received in the first 36 hours of posting. I expect there will be hundreds to look through.
If you take the time to follow the instructions in the posting, specify the job you’re applying for, make it clear how your experience is relevant, and ensure that your communication is free of grammatical and spelling errors, you will be ahead of 99% of applicants.

Context: he said hurtful things to me in Feb, we were no contact for 2 months, then went to group events together. However we don’t talk anymore and I still feel uncomfortable/hurt by what happened… I think I want closure and wish he could understand how much his words and actions hurt me, but idk if it’s a good idea to share my feelings since he may not care and he would feel shitty if he knew how much I was hurting.
Feel free to give feedback or edit suggestions:
“Hey how are you doing? You probably don’t care about this anymore but I honestly still think about what happened between us from time to time. I feel kinda sad not just bc of the situation but bc we aren’t close anymore. I wanted to talk things over w you, but I get the feeling that you didn’t really want to talk about it. Tbh I’m still kinda hurt, and I understand it wasn’t your intention. Idk I just wish things were different and that it never happened.”
I feel like my message sounds so depressing and there’s no “action request” besides asking how he is doing. Idk what the point of me sending this is but I just feel so hurt when I think about this situation and us no longer being friends. My friend was in the wrong before and I kind of wish it never happened, even though it did open my eyes about his character.. I think it just hurts to lose a friend and I never would’ve expected this to happen.

Deadlift stances can make a significant impact on your exercise performance, comfort, safety, and results. Choosing the proper stance for your body type and athletic level is essential for getting the most out of your deadlift.
But the question is, how wide should you stand, where should you place your feet, and which areas of your body will be most affected depending on your choice? Let’s find out.
What is impact of deadlift stances? Deadlift stances determine the type of exercise you’ll get. Wide stance deadlifts have a shorter range of motion (ROM) and hit different muscle groups than a typical narrow stance deadlift. Experimenting with different deadlift stances can diversify your workout and help you hit new goals.
What Is Deadlift Stance (Why Is Important, What Does It Affect)
Deadlift stances refer to the foot placement and leg position when performing a deadlift exercise and its variations. In general, we categorize them under narrow or wide stance deadlifts.
Even slightly altering between different deadlift stances can noticeably change the overall exercise dynamic. The deadlift stance width is an important point of consideration. This affects several exercise aspects, including the range of motion, the amount of weight you can lift, the primary muscle groups targeted, the distribution of forces throughout your body, your center of gravity, and even the risk of injury.
A wider stance typically has a shorter range of motion than a close stance deadlift. This can give you more leverage with your hips, but it also forces you to lean forward more during the initial portion of the exercise, which can impact your balance and stability. Meanwhile, a narrower deadlift has a longer range of motion, but it starts in a more upright position and will target your quads and posterior chain more.
Your deadlift feet position can change which muscles you’re working out, too. For example, if your toes are straight, such as with a conventional deadlift, you should feel more “burn” in your quads and hamstrings. Meanwhile, if you point out with your toes at a larger angle, such as with a Sumo deadlift, you will be using your hips and adductors more.
Finally, it’s important to note that a wider stance may put more stress on your hips and lower back, while a narrower stance puts more stress on the knees and quads. Keep this in mind so you can adjust your stance to better fit your workout goals and your physical health.
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Where Should You Feel Deadlifts?
Based on the targeted muscle groups, the area where you should feel deadlifts hit the most is your posterior chain. This primarily includes your lower back, glutes, and hamstrings. Additionally, you should also experience activation in your quadriceps, core muscles, and calves during various stages of the lift. Lastly, since grip strength is a crucial part of deadlifts, you can expect to feel robust muscle activation in the lower arm – particularly your forearms and fingers- especially during an olympic bar deadlift.
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What Is The Difference Between Common Deadlift Stances?

1. Conventional Deadlift Stance

The conventional or standard deadlift stance is the most fundamental and widely used variation of this exercise, making it a staple in many strength training programs. Beginner lifters typically start with this stance, so it should be familiar to you if you’ve done deadlifts before. Although this is considered the most basic variation of deadlift stances, it’s by no means easier than the others and requires practice to perform correctly and safely.
To assume a conventional deadlift stance, you first need to stand with your feet shoulder-width apart, although some athletes may opt for a slightly wider or narrower stance depending on their body shape and size. During this stance, your feet should be pointing forward under a slight outward angle of no more than 10-15 degrees, which you’re free to adjust based on your foot size and comfort.
How to Do A Conventional Deadlift Correctly
The conventional deadlift stance targets muscles in the lower body and posterior chain, including the glutes, hamstrings, and lower back. As you lift the barbell off the ground, you should feel the tension build in your hamstrings and glutes. As the bar passes your knee point and your upper body starts to rise, the tension should transfer over to your core and lower back. At the height of the exercise, also known as the lockout phase, you should feel weight distributed throughout the entire body.

1. Sumo Deadlift

The Sumo deadlift stance is a popular variation of the deadlift exercise. To assume the sumo deadlift stance width, you need to stand with your feet at or slightly wider than shoulder-width apart, with your toes pointing outward at an angle of roughly 45 degrees. This stance requires greater mobility in the hips, groin, and ankles, which can make it more challenging than a conventional stance depending on your mobility and flexibility.
The sumo deadlift stance targets many of the same muscles as the conventional deadlift, including the glutes, hamstrings, and lower back, but also puts more emphasis on the adductors and quadriceps. However, thanks to an overall shorter range of motion (ROM) compared to conventional deadlifts, it puts less stress on the back and more on the hips and knees, making it a preferred compound exercise for lower body development.
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As you lift the bar off the ground in a sumo stance, you should feel the tension build in your adductors and quads. As the bar passes your knee point and your upper body starts to rise, the tension should transfer over to your glutes, hamstrings, and lower back. At the lockout phase, the weight should feel evenly redistributed throughout the entire body, just like in the conventional deadlift stance.

1. Deficit Deadlift Stance

The Deficit deadlift is a variation of the conventional deadlift that requires standing on a raised platform, usually 2-4 inches high, to increase the range of motion for the exercise. This increased range of motion demands more force when lifting the barbell, making the exercise more challenging and recruiting additional muscle fibers in the legs and back.
Research indicates that deficit deadlifts can help improve strength and muscle activation in the lower body, particularly in the hamstrings, glutes, and erector spinae muscles. Additionally, the increased range of motion can help improve mobility and flexibility in the ankles, knees, and hips. However, this variation is better suited for experienced lifters who are well-versed in deadlift variations.
Deficit Deadlift
To perform a deficit deadlift, simply find a 2-4 inch elevated surface to stand on. Most lifters you see doing this variation either stand on the edge of their lifting platform or use a thick weight plate. Place the barbell on the floor below you and simply perform a regular olympic bar deadlift from this elevated position.

1. Squat Stance Deadlift

The last variation worth mentioning is the Squat stance deadlift. This is an emerging term for an exercise that’s not yet widely recognized, although it has its advocates in both coaching and physiotherapy. As the name suggests, the exercise requires you to perform a deadlift from a squat stance, which means standing with your feet shoulder-width apart, with toes pointing very slightly outward.
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The overall stance, including the exercise’s range of motion and impact on the body, is practically identical to the Sumo stance. However, due to the forward-pointing toes, the Squat stance deadlift requires a greater amount of mobility in the hips, knees, and ankles, increasing the overall risk of injury in these areas. This makes it difficult to recommend for most people over Sumo deadlifts. That said, it’s worth mentioning simply because anatomy varies from person to person, so it may be worth trying to see if it works better for you than a typical Sumo stance.
How To Choose The Deadlift Stance (Factors To Consider When Choosing The Stance For You)
The last variation worth mentioning is the Squat stance deadlift. This is an emerging term for an exercise that’s not yet widely recognized, although it has its advocates in both coaching and physiotherapy. As the name suggests, the exercise requires you to perform a deadlift from a squat stance, which means standing with your feet shoulder-width apart, with toes pointing very slightly outward.
The overall stance, including the exercise’s range of motion and impact on the body, is practically identical to the Sumo stance. However, due to the forward-pointing toes, the Squat stance deadlift requires a greater amount of mobility in the hips, knees, and ankles, increasing the overall risk of injury in these areas. This makes it difficult to recommend for most people over Sumo deadlifts. That said, it’s worth mentioning simply because anatomy varies from person to person, so it may be worth trying to see if it works better for you than a typical Sumo stance.
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How Much Can The Average Man And Woman Deadlift?

1. Muscle Engagement

Deadlifts tend to hit the same primary muscle groups regardless of the variation.
That said, altering between deadlift feet position and stances changes up the total ROM, letting you put more emphasis on certain muscle groups. As previously discussed, the longer ROM stances – such as the conventional or deficit deadlift – target the posterior chain to a greater degree. Meanwhile, shorter ROM stances, like the Sumo or Squat deadlift, are better at targeting the lower body, particularly the hips and adductors.

1. Athlete Size

Research suggests that one of the most important factors to consider when choosing your deadlift stance width is your shape and size. According to the study, athletes with larger body sizes and longer limbs tend to feel more comfortable with deadlift stance variations that have a larger range of motion, such as the conventional or deficit deadlift. On the other hand, athletes with shorter limbs and a shorter torso relative to their limb length find the shorter range of motion stances, like the Sumo or Squat stance, more comfortable.

1. Personal Health

The most comfortable deadlift feet position for you may depend on your personal health, such as your injury history and chronic pain. When selecting your stance, keep in mind that a wide leg deadlift generates more force from the hip and knee area and puts less stress on your back, while the opposite is true for narrow deadlifts. Based on your medical history, it should be easy to determine which is best for you, however, consulting a doctor or physical therapist is always a good idea.
WBCM Deadlift Workout

1. Fitness Level

Your overall fitness level may play a role in determining which deadlift stance is best suited for you. For beginners, it is recommended to start with a standard close stance deadlift to learn the proper exercise technique and familiarize themselves with their maximum weight.
Experienced athletes can experiment with various deadlift stances to find what works best for them. However, their joint mobility, particularly in the hips, knees, and ankles, can impact their ability to assume the correct starting position. If someone has limited mobility, they may need to adjust their stance to compensate.
Deadlift Stance Common Mistakes

1. Barbell Distance

In a proper deadlift stance, the barbell should be directly over the midfoot during the starting position, and even lightly touching or grazing your shins as you lift it up. Placing the bar too far from your legs during your initial stance will require greater power output from your lower back, which is a common reason for deadlift injury.

1. Back Arching

Another common mistake when lifting dead weight is not maintaining a straight spine. If you need to arch your back to reach the barbell when assuming the starting position, then the stance you are attempting may not be adequate for your current mobility and flexibility level.
WBCM Deadlifting Correct Stance

1. Hip Height

To assume a proper deadlift stance, it is essential to position your hips at the right height. If you place your hips too high, generating power from them will become challenging, and your back will bear most of the initial load. This can result in difficulty lifting the weight and may lead to injury. On the other hand, if you place your hips too low, you will create a longer range of motion, placing stress on your lower back and hamstrings, and making the lift more challenging.
Therefore, the ideal height level of your hips for your body size is slightly above your knees. This position helps keep your back straight while aligning your shoulders, palms, and feet correctly. Proper alignment will help ensure that you can generate power from your hips while maintaining good form, reducing the risk of injury and allowing for safely and effectively lifting dead weight.
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Should Your Deadlift Stance And Squat Stance Be The Same?
No, the deadlift and squat are two separate exercises with distinct objectives. In a regular squat, a wider stance is adopted to enable the hips to move downwards to or below knee level and then upwards again, all the while maintaining an upright torso position and keeping your balance. Conversely, in deadlifts, the hips remain at a relatively similar level and only flex forward and backward, while the torso sways back and forth.
That said, there is a hybrid exercise called the squat stance deadlift. However, this wide leg deadlift stance is unique and has its own purpose, as discussed above. In general, your standard deadlift and squat stances won’t be the same.
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FAQ
What Is Better Conventional VS Sumo Deadlift Stance?
The conventional and Sumo deadlift overlap in terms of strength development and health benefits. In terms of results, the sumo stance tends to be slightly better at lower body development, while the conventional narrow stance deadlift works your overall posterior chain, particularly the lower back.
More importantly, research suggests that athlete size can also determine the best type of deadlift on a person-to-person basis. According to the study, athletes with lengthier proportions performed better in the conventional deadlift. Conversely, those with shorter proportions showed increased performance in the sumo deadlift.
Where Should You Point Your Toes In Your Deadlift Stance?
During a typical close stance deadlift your toes should be slightly pointed out, no more than a 15-degree angle. This slightly angled toe position creates external rotation at the hips, which helps with stability and explosive power. Additionally, when you point your toes outward you should feel higher muscle activation in the glutes and hamstrings, which are two major muscle groups targeted by deadlift.
During Sumo deadlifts, the ideal toe spread is roughly 45 degrees. This wide leg deadlift stance points the knees and hips outward and allows them to stay in line with your feet and flex naturally, improving your balance, increasing your weight max, and preventing injury.
How Much Can An Average Person Deadlift?
Depending on the individual’s build, a man can typically deadlift anywhere from (77 kg – 131) 170 to 290 pounds when performing a traditional variation of the exercise. The typical average deadlift weight for female is around half of their body weight, while intermediate lifters are able to deadlift approximately 1.5 times their body weight.
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Conclusion
The deadlift stances you use will determine the type of exercise you will get. Your leg width and foot placement affect the range of motion, targeted muscle groups, maximum capacity, center of balance, force distribution, as well as injury risk. Trying out different deadlift stances can help you find the one most comfortable based on your physical health and preferences.
Wide stance deadlifts reduce the range of motion and increase lower body development, while also reducing stress on the back. Conversely, a narrow stance deadlift has a longer range of motion and puts more exercise focus on the posterior chain.
Do you practice deadlifts as part of your workout routine? If so, which stance do you prefer? Leave a comment to let us know and don’t forget to follow our social media pages where we post lots of valuable fitness content.

I've already made some posts featuring specific grammatical aspects of Kèilem, mainly focusing on locational and dispositional verbs, movement verbs, the anaphoric use of adjectives and light verbs and proverbs in Kèilem, alongside an article about the expressive usage of ideophones and noun incorporation featured in issue 12, Supra II of segments.
Inspired by this post by u/Fractal_fantasy I finally decided to complete the grammar section on Kèilem modality, of which I'm going to give an overview in this post.
As always, all the sentences are written in IPA with the only deviation from the usual conventions being the expression of geminated consonants as kk instead of k: for instance.
Participant-internal modality
Participant-internal ability is expressed through two different auxiliary verbs that get serialized with the main verb of the sentence Laci and Lawa, the first refers to the physical ability to perform a certain task, a certain action, while the second is used to express an ability that arises by virtue of having the time, authorization, knowledge to perform a certain task:

Laci zasti dali
Can fast run
I can run fast
Lawa boɗa lo fu
Can wait ABS 2SG
I can wait for you

As is usually the case in Kèilem when talking about the ability of someone else, one cannot simply use a sentence that expresses certainty but one has to either serialize some kind of dubitative modal or use an evidential that expresses whence the belief present in the sentence comes from, or with a seems/appear to kind of verb. Below there are some example of evidentials, some of them will appear again in the epistemic modality section.

• rum, To think (by experience), the thought is being informed by a previous experience, an acquaintance with the subject/the person that is being talked about
• sam, To think (by general inference), the thought is informed by a general experience, it can be achieved by anyone, given the common knowledge of Kèilem societal functioning or by knowledge of general facts about the world.
• kun, To think (neutral)/to feel that, the thought is not particularly informed by anything, it is more an hunch or a simple possibility that is being brought forward
• stin, To know (by means of direct experience)
  
• sLea, To know (by means of being told by someone, who has indirect knowledge or whose level of knowledge in undetermined)
  
• sve, To know by means of being told by a witness
  
• sta, To know by being told by a direct participant
  
• sain, To know (by study/by learning)
  
• stok, To know by common sense/knowledge, can also express the idea of “as you know…"
  

Participant-internal necessity is expressed through the verb kola, which can be either used serialized with another verb describing an action or a situation or can simply take the object of the need (a person, water, etc), this verb can be translated as need or as want, depending on the kind of, mainly ideophonic, modifiers it gets attached by.
By itself it is almost always translatable as want, the exceptions involves situations that are obviously outside the volitional capability of the subject/speaker e.g. kola negem (I need to sleep, in kèilem, feeling tired implies a non volitionality) kola kakin (i need to pee)
The main modifiers used to express varying degrees of necessity are korokon, buɻan buɻan and mitikin, with a decreasing level of necessity:
For instance with the verb to eat naje

mitikin kola naje lo tani
IDEO want eat ABS bread
I want a bit to eat some bread
buɻan buɻan kola naje lo tani
IDEO want eat ABS bread
I crave some bread
korokon kola naje lo tani IDEO want eat ABS bread
I’m starving for bread

The level of necessity can also be expressed through certain verbs with subject/object verbal incorporation and serialization:

zai kola lae kola naje lo tani
Cat want fish want eat ABS bread
I want to eat the bread as a cat wants a fish
zai ukal lae kola naje lo tani
Cat see fish want eat ABS bread
I want to eat the bread as a cat who looks at a fish (desires it)

Necessity that doesn’t arise from oneself (a desire/physical need) but that stems from some program or goal is handled by the same verb that handles participant-external necessity, the verb koɓe

maɻaa, koɓe dase zasre karem
Bye, need go_way_hearer go_towards place_name
Bye, I need to go away towards karem (obviously it is not an internal compulsion, but there is some kind of external reason/goal).

Participant-external modality
Goal-oriented participant-external modality is expressed through the same koɓe verb used to express goal oriented participant-internal needs, without a distinction between possibility (to do x, you can do y) and necessity (to do x, you have to do y).
The goal or the desired situation is usually introduced with the expression ɳulemakon (state/situation+things) that highlights that the following sentence is to be interpreted as a proposed/imagined/desired state of things.

ɳulemakon fu zasre ketel, koɓe maʈen lo nodoli ɓali
state.of.affairs: 2SG move.towards village_name, can/must enter ABS second street
If you want to go to Ketel/to go to Ketel, you can/have to take the second street

This distinction can nonetheless be explicited through the addition of other expressions to the sentence: by adding at the end of the sentence kerikerek, which derives from the expression ke ri ke rek (or this or that), the speaker conveys the idea that the action described is the only way to reach the goal

ɳulemakon fu zasre ketel, koɓe maʈen lo nodoli ɓali kerikerek
state.of.affairs: 2SG move.towards village_name, can/must enter ABS second street no.other.way
If you want to go to Ketel/to go to Ketel, you have to take the second street

by qualifying the sentence containing koɓe with the expression maɻamakon (best+thing) the speaker conveys the idea that that is the best, but not the only way to reach the goal.

ɳulemakon fu zasre ketel, maɻamakon koɓe maʈen lo nodoli ɓali
state.of.affairs: 2SG move.towards village_name, best.thing can enter ABS second street
If you want to go to Ketel/to go to Ketel, you can take the second street, and this is the best choice
Or with a more natural translation, “if you want to go to Ketel, I suggest you take the second street”

Deontic participant-external modality
Obligations are handled through the composite verb tafra kola (rule need/want), which uses the verb for person-internal needs and wants and changes its meaning to “need by virtue of the rules”

fu tafra kola maʈen lo nodoli ɓali
2SG rule need enter ABS second street
You must take the second street (according to the rules/laws)

There are several expressions used to convey the degree of the obligation’s forcefulness, the most used ones are the ideophonic adverbs: kokodok, which carries a vetative interpretation, e.g. kokodok maʈen (you absolutely musn’t enter), zeɦezen a really strong positive obligation verging on being an explicit order, zeɦezen maʈen (you must absolutely enter), makadak, tedeken etc. which are instead used to lenite the forcefulness and brusqueness of the expression.
Permissions are expressed using two different verbs: ɖami and ʟoʃa, the first expressing that something is permitted/not forbidden by rules/laws, while the second is used in situations where there are rules/laws that forbid the thing but in the situation at hand they don’t apply:

fu ɖami ukal maʈen lo ketenaki rane
you allowed see enter ABS imperial square
You can visit the imperial square (everyone can do it)
fu ʟoʃa ukal maʈen lo ketenaki ʈaloʃa
you allowed see enter ABS imperial palace
You can visit the imperial palace (you have authorization that others may lack)

Deontic necessity (should, ought to) is expressed in a similar way to suggestions of participant-external goal oriented modality, using maɻamakon at the beginning of the sentence

maɻamakon feledd mre lo ⱱua na fu
best.thing brush hit/put.in.contact ABS teeth POSS 2SG
You should brush your teeth

Epistemic modality
Kèilem epistemic modality is intertwined with the evidentiality system, its expression is realized by the serialization of an epistemic auxiliary to the main verb of the sentence, the most common ones are:

• rum, To think (by experience), the thought is being informed by a previous experience, an acquaintance with the subject/the person that is being talked about
• sam, To think (by general inference), the thought is informed by a general experience, it can be achieved by anyone, given the common knowledge of Kèilem societal functioning or by knowledge of general facts about the world.
• kun, To think (neutral)/to feel that, the thought is not particularly informed by anything, it is more an hunch or a simple possibility that is being brought forward, giving the best possible translations as the adverb possibly or might.
• stek, To think by common sense/knowledge, that in its modal usage has as best translation as the epistemic usage of must.

There are some ideophonic adverbs that can be used to qualify the degree of confidence, like matmat (certainly, almost certainly), paccinpaccin (probably), cikantikan (perhaps)

Hello. I hope this allowed- I know that pictures of big bites aren't usually useful for identification, but I'm hoping a description of the bite behavior is helpful/allowed?
Every year for the past few years, I start getting bug bites around June-August in central and coastal North Carolina . This usually occurs when I've been out on my porch/patio, and was particularly bad in one apartment when my bed was next to my porch door.
The bites tend to show up 2-3 days after I've been out on the porch and not right away (though I'm normally a bit slow to react to bites) and while they can occur alone, they're usually grouped together in a line of 2-3 with each one a few inches apart. They don't tend to go for the feet or ankles and really like the middle of my legs, around the front and backs of my knees. They'll also go for the back sometimes, and rarely the arms. Never my front or face.
That sounded very bed-buggy to me, and year after year I'd freak out, check my bed, have pest control out to check my bed, find nothing, and the bites would stop happening as soon as my porch was sprayed, though I've never actually seen any bugs. The one year I didn't get any, I had a screened in porch, so whatever it is is big enough to be kept out by a screen.
Does anyone have any idea what the bug could be?

For me I was like 9 or 10, and I was super obsessed with indie music. Interpol, The Strokes, Vampire Weekend, Silversun Pickups. I liked punk and ska too, I played bass guitar starting at age 8 and Matt Freeman from Rancid was my idol. Music was everything to me at that age, as it damn well should be.
I was in this GT class when I was in 4th and 5th grade. I still want to say “I don’t know why” but I think a better word is “unbeknownst to me”, my teacher would pick on me even tho I was just a normal kid. Looking back now, she should have been evaluated by someone who knew what was going on, or validating red flags I was seeing in how she treated me. BUT, as a kid you’re just like, ‘whatever it’s what everyone goes thru, right?’
So one day I showed up to class with a Killers Hot Fuss t-shirt on. It was my favorite shirt in the world, and it was even cooler because back than you had to order off of these catalogs, so my sister actually found the shirt and gave it to little me as a gift. So I stroll into class like normal, and I sit down and Mrs. Dufour (let’s just say that’s her name) gives me this hardened look and starts saying “no, no, no” and wagging her bony finger at me. Like I’m gonna know what tf she’s talking about, right? Just opening the conversation with a big ol’ empty disapproval. I just kind of look at her waiting for a follow up of some kind. She blabs out of no where “Oh you cannot be wearing that shirt to school.” I just kind of smile, cos to me, I mean, my family loves the Killers. Brandon Flowers was another idol of mine and I was just confused.
hen she’s like, “who is that anyways? A rap group?!” I gasped and stood up. “The Killers? It’s an indie band!” I released. “Well I’ve never heard of them.” She said back. “Don’t wear it again.”
The rest of the classed just giggled. ‘A RAP group.’ I indignantly questioned to myself. ‘Well I’ll take this all the way to where I need to. And I’ll be wearing it again next week.’ (I was a pretty secure kid, lol.)
She was the first racist person I ever encountered, actually. And the first time I guess I felt targeted all the time by someone like this.
Every time something happened to me in this class, this teacher would just treat me unfairly. One time I had pneumonia during Christmas break, but I had to miss the previous week because of it. When I came back after New Years she was just waiting for a moment where I might slip to yell or embarrass me. So when we get back from Christmas break, we were reading Rats of NIHM where the little baby mouse gets pneumonia. Upon reading it, I recalled the feelings the character was experiencing and I raised my hand in the middle of the class reading excitedly (cos kids are just excited to share things they know), and I was like “this character has pneumonia!” And she stopped the reading lesson, and went on this tirade on how I didn’t actually have this disease the month before, and I probably missed because of my parents and whatever else she said about her thoughts on my family who she doesn’t know, yada yada yada.
What finalized and validated this, was when my Nana died. A couple months after this, my Nana died suddenly and so we had to travel cross country for her funeral and more since my mom was her only child who could handle such a thing. We spent maybe 1 week, if that, out of school so not that long. When I came back, she was giving me this hard time in front of the class about “why I was gone for a week.” (Like, really lady. If you have a gripe take it with some adults, not a kid.) I was just kind of silently taking it and my best friend at the time chimes in and is like “His nana died.” And she looked at me and in defeat, I just started crying and she finally backed off.
At the end of the year, there was a swim party at her house in which I was the only one not invited. But she never said anything about me not being able to swim, but I felt she didn’t have to.
Just a child, experiencing this alone and only my best friend finally said something to help me in the end.

INITIAL POST: https://www.reddit.com/dlsu/comments/1dboy3y/incoming_id124_warning/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web3x&utm_name=web3xcss&utm_term=1&utm_content=share_button
There are currently 5 running "ID 124" servers (4 that I'm a part of) and other department specific servers that are active. The information on this post are voiced from DLSU SHS students who would like to clarify the situation to the public who read the initial post. Right after the day DCAT results released a group of DLSU SHS students made an ID 124 server for DLSU students who are staying in DLSU for college. Majority of the members in the 1st server were exclusively from DLSU SHS or DLSU branch schools, others were invited in. No verification system was implemented to confirm if students are actually incoming ID 124 since the majority already knew who each other were in person. Time passes and people from the 1st server found the 2nd server called "The unofficial ID124" which was open to students who were outside of DLSU schools. They were then redirected to the 2nd server since they were able to meet more people and in the beginning it was helpful. Multiple issues then started to surface during May which were not addressed properly as the admins/mods of the server were the ones insinuating or growing these issues as their behavior or practices foster them. In the 2nd server, verification was necessary where in you would have to send your offer letter to prove you were an incoming ID124 student which was initially a good idea. However, before the greening a mix of DLSU SHS students and others made a 3rd server called "ID124" where multiple students and incoming students voiced their concern regarding the issues around the 2nd server. Some complain that the server was just not their ideal environment to being uncomfortable with the concerning behavior practiced within the 2nd server. Time after that, multiple students came out in the 3rd server about what happened in the 2nd server which lead to even more people voicing out their shared negative experience in the 2nd server. Leading to the compilation of evidences (Screenshots and screen recordings) of issues that took place in the 2nd server ran by "iloveapex" and "thuria". 7+ students were victims of identity theft and inappropriate behavior along with multiple other issues that are private. A separate group of students then decided to make a 4th server called "DLSU ID 124" to be excluded from the controversies surrounding the previous servers. They were open to include people from the 1st server and others as they weren't completely aware of the situation until today. Immature comments were then directed towards the 4th server to the point 2 of their admins were sent D/H threats by members of the 900+ server. In the 4th server, 2 users were caught stealing identities from the verification system of the 2nd server which was then brought to the attention of DLSU SHS students from the 1st server. Compiling all issues, the admins of the 4th server were then informed of the 2nd server issue being discussed in the 3rd server. One of the identities stolen was a DLSU SHS student hence it was easy to spot since the 4th server crossed verified with a moderator from the 2nd server's data base. It was leaked in the 3rd server that the 2nd server collects and saves the information in their server's verification system. More than 50+ students were found in the document saved from the moderators/admins of the 2nd server as they were categorized with social media profiles, names and other information. The moderator who leaked the practices of the 2nd server claims that the document was apparently started as a "database" and that was it but it was shared to non-admins and their friends which was then used for malicious intentions. Which is why I was lead to make a post regarding the 2nd server's issue as it is genuinely a cause of concern.
If ever there will be a 5th server, the students requested that the admins of the server shouldn't be behind anonymity as this protects them from not just inappropriate behavior but other malicious actions. The owner should also be a DLSU SHS student who is willing to represent and take responsibility of the happenings within the server.

Hello! I'm not sure if this is the right place to post this but just wanted to see if anyone can help!
I volunteer to manage a website for a non-profit organization.. I don't have any formal web training but I can manage the basic stuff on a website builder. A couple years ago, when I took over, our domain was hosted (?? bought? serviced?) on GoDaddy and built on Wordpress.
Over the past few months, I've had volunteers from previous generations (2015/2016) reach out to ask if I can update a page because their contact information was posted there. So I try to find the page in Wordpress but it doesn't exist ...
I found the previous web admin who set up the old website and this is the conversation we had:
OLD GUY: "The only thing I can tell you is that the site was hosted by Westhost.com. To the best of my knowledge the account there was closed years ago, I don't have a clue where it is now. Maybe contact Westhost and see if they can assist, I'm not able to help other than that."
Me: "Were you the administrator of the Westhost account? If so, would you be able to assist with communicating to their support team? I'll forward you the reply they sent me- require some old account info that I do not know."
OLD GUY: "I called Westhost a few days ago, they said they would remove any files leftover from their version of the old site."
Now, six months later, another person contacted me to update the site. The best I could do was try report the search result and the page to Google because it contains private info (which won't work because MY name isn't on there... and not to go off in another direction, but I will ask the past volunteers to try do the same so at least it doesn't populate as a search result). I tried asking the old web admin again and he said it's on Westhost BUT I'VE ALREADY TRIED THAT AND THEY WON'T HELP ME BECAUSE MY NAME WAS NEVER ON THE ACCOUNT 😭😭😭
Anyway... Does anyone have any idea on what I can do to get this page (and another page I found with old contact info) taken down? I just want to take people's private info off the damn internet!

I don't have confirmation as to who it is exactly, but I have a pretty good idea who it is. I'm not going to name their name. But I just want them to know, that I still care about the two of them.

Hello fellow entrepreneurs,
I'm Nick, a passionate business owner with experience in both the food and construction industries. I currently run a couple of businesses: a pizza restaurant that started with food trucks, and a construction contracting business focusing on various services. I'm also working on creating a digital course to help others start their own food truck businesses.
I'm looking to form a mastermind group with like-minded entrepreneurs who are eager to push their businesses to the next level. The purpose of this group is to share insights, offer support, hold each other accountable, and brainstorm ideas to overcome challenges.
What I'm looking for:

• Entrepreneurs who are serious about growth and success.
• Individuals who are willing to share their experiences and provide constructive feedback.
• Members who can commit to regular virtual meetings and active participation.

What you can expect:

• A supportive and collaborative environment.
• Honest and valuable feedback on your business strategies.
• Networking opportunities and potential collaborations.
• Motivation and accountability to achieve your business goals.

If you're interested in joining this mastermind group, please comment below or send me a direct message with a brief introduction about yourself and your business. Let's work together to reach new heights!
Looking forward to connecting with you all!
Best, Nick

Humanity and Psychic Abilities
If the Warp is like an ocean, calling humanity psychic is like calling them aquatic. Ninety-nine percent of humans can't even use any psychic powers. The 1% who can’t even use them consciously and are at most just a bit luckier. Out of those, only one in a billion can do anything%20%2D%20Psykers%20of,Human%20births%20in%20the%20Imperium.) worthwhile.
Dim-souled races like the Tau or the Votann can ignore Chaos and play Stellaris instead of seven-dimensional chess with tarot cards for tiles. Psychic races like the Eldar have more powers can sense and are more resistant to Chaos. It’s only humans who have souls just strong enough to be food for demons but can’t do anything with them.
Only humanity has such a widespread problem with "cults and corruption"—Chaos or Genestealer. The Orks can sense unorkiness, Eldar can too with their psychic power, and the Kroot can just smell it. You can’t blame the Imperium for being stupidly paranoid when you could have three humans side by side: a normal one, one a Chaos spawn in waiting, and a Genestealer, and they all look the same.
There is a quote in End and the Death v1
There are no gods!’ scoffs Raja.
‘You’re a fool,’ Actae tells him. ‘Before the fall of the aeldari, there was no fourth power of Chaos. The gods of Chaos breed and multiply, propagating like storms through the empyrean. They are born in turn, though they have all existed forever. Time has no meaning for them. The fall of the aeldari did not cause the birth of She Who Thirsts, merely her occurrence. So too with all other gods, be they foul entities of Chaos, or divine forces of sentient power.’
‘She Who Thirsts was born out of the death of an entire sentient culture,’ says John.
‘Such is the inevitable fate of all advanced, psychic species,’ says Actae. ‘And the Dark King is our fate.
I haven’t read the books, but not counting that there are uncountable psychic races and only four Chaos gods, humanity is the one destined to birth the Dark King. But compared to the birth of Slaanesh, it becomes ridiculous.
The Eldar had an entire galaxy-spanning empire bigger and more numerous than the Imperium.
Ten Million Suns vs 1 Milion worlds
they easily outclassed the strongest psykers humanity can produce.
Being in a utopia where they could engage in murder orgies 24/7 with hyper drugs, and even more than their dark descendants, they could throw psychic powers into the mix. All that for thousands of years—yeah, it makes sense Slaanesh was born. But humanity has to meet its "end" before it was even born.
This was before 10.000 years of the " the cruelest and most bloody regime imaginable".

Hello! My name is Oleg Suptelya, and I'm the founder of the largest game development studio in Kyrgyzstan. I've been in the gaming industry for several years, starting from a group of enthusiasts dreaming of creating their own game to a full-fledged company with a team of 120 people. My journey has been challenging, but my love for games and determination kept me going. With the support of my friends, who walked this path with me, we eventually achieved success. Recently, I shared in detail the story of developing our first game, and if you're interested, I'd be glad if you took a look at it.
For over a year now, we've been working on two new games: a dynamic, multiplayer shooter with a close combat system and a card-based, turn-based roguelite with a nonlinear storyline. I'd love to hear your feedback and ideas. https://store.steampowered.com/app/2498600/Everwayne/ https://store.steampowered.com/app/2498610/Warcos_2/
Proof: https://4taleproduction.com/en/ and me https://www.instagram.com/p/Cx_G8q9I_iw/

I have a 1997 2.5 Bikini Pearl wrangler. Had it 2.5 years and I love it so much but I need more room, a boot, cheaper insurance payments and better miles per gallon.
No one around here really has them either, so you stick out like a sore thumb which as a 23 year old girl isn’t great and has caused a few issues.
As they’re a bit rarer in the UK, does anyone have any tips for selling: places they would post it other than just auto trader, groups etc?
I have a rough idea of the price I want to sell it for, and it does need a little work done to it but it has a soft top and hard top, brand new tyres etc.
Any help would be appreciated! I’m based in the south east of England!

I have a 1997 2.5 Bikini Pearl wrangler. Had it 2.5 years and I love it so much but I need more room, a boot, cheaper insurance payments and better miles per gallon.
No one around here really has them either, so you stick out like a sore thumb which as a 23 year old girl isn’t great and has caused a few issues.
As they’re a bit rarer in the UK, does anyone have any tips for selling: places they would post it other than just auto trader, groups etc?
I have a rough idea of the price I want to sell it for, and it does need a little work done to it but it has a soft top and hard top, brand new tyres etc.
Any help would be appreciated! I’m based in the south east of England!

Well, if you want to do a deep dive into PayPal/Venmo and their shady tactics, look no further than the PayPal and Venmo subreddits. It is an endless stream of people who opened small businesses, used these services within the scope of their TOS, and still managed to have their funds seized for an indeterminate amount of time. Alternatively, Google search results will also serve as an endless source of these claims.
I am a coin dealer. I've been doing it in a hobby capacity for the last 10 years and started getting serious about it in 2019. Even early on, I knew something was wrong with PayPal. Every now and again, some god-fearing Christian boomer who had used it for their coin business since their inception, would fly off the handle that their account got shutdown for no reason, their funds seized, and they struggled to get this money back to them. PayPal claims they only hold it for 180 days, but they almost never return this money to people.
Turns out, you can create obstacles for people trying to get their funds back. You simply toggle their account as fraudulent, or as running a money laundering scheme, or claim it is a national security issue or that it falls under some type of weapon, and you can even get the government involved to delay the return of funds even further.
In these high interest environments, these seized funds serve as 0% interest loans for PayPal.
Now I know what you're thinking. The government will surely step in. The problem is, most politicians who could change how PayPal operates own a sizeable amount of shares. Why would they ever go against their own best interests for a bunch of poor people?
Here's how the scheme works. You set up a legitimate small business on etsy or eBay and it takes off like a rocket. It doesn't make sense to pay fees listing on this platform anymore. You setup a private website and need a payment processor. PayPal has attractive fees so you sign up with them. You build a war chest of say, 10k, and wake up one morning to an email from PayPal that they're holding all your money for "180" days. You've somehow managed to fall into a terms of service violation by selling concert tees and handmade mugs.
You try to contact them but get automated AI prompts. If you ever reach a person, they have a loose grasp of the English language and can't help you anyway. In fact, they're not paid to help you at all. They're paid to frustrate you as much as possible so you give up and PayPal can keep the money.
You escalate and finally move it up a service level or two but get nobody helpful. They tell you that you can sue. However, it is expensive to get an attorney and sue someone, let alone a massive corporation with a warchest of everyone else's money. At the end of the day, they also crippled your source of income, so there's no recourse. You wait the 180 days, thinking PayPal will return your money.
Except they don't. I've met people who have been waiting a few years for their funds. PayPal can setup barriers every step of the way as an excuse to not refund them.
You're savvy so you think, you know, I'll just setup a Venmo account and take payments directly. Except, they're owned by the same company and all you've managed to do is jump from the frying pan into the fire. They collect your IP, name, address and social. You rebuild your business, build a 10k war chest, and "randomly out of the blue", your account gets banned and funds seized. You go through the same motions with them that you did with PayPal. You escalate up a level or two and finally get someone who can help. They inform you that they've cross referenced the data and discovered a banned PayPal account and they'll be keeping the funds for "180 days".
I know what you're thinking. Isn't this some type of fraud? Well, when you own the regulators and government and you're never held accountable, the chance of you ever seeing consequences for your actions is low. You toe the line of your terms of service and victim-blame every step of the way. In fact, you should take note the amount of victim blaming that goes on in subreddits and web forums when someone speaks out. Accusations of selling drugs, defrauding people, or working against America as some kind of terrorist come flying at you like a firehose until you delete your post and try to move on with your life.
And of course, nobody lives forever, so this money that is stuck in limbo sometimes belongs to people who pass away. It becomes part of their estate. Surviving family members (if there are any) would have no idea you even had this going on. PayPal pockets the money. It's pure profit.
I've been banned from web-based internet forums for pointing this out. I'm still banned or shadow banned from finance subs here on reddit. If you don't believe me you should go to some of them and start asking questions. Wallstreetbets will absolutely ban you. Turns out the moderators there have huge positions in PayPal.
Anyway, this is turning into a novel, but I think I've hit the nail on the head with this one. I hope I'm not banned here, too. It's really easy for these people to hide under the guise of money laundering, banking regulation, and foreign weapons sales while stealing your money legally and harvesting 0% interest loans from the working class. Baked into their money-grab is the side effect of killing small businesses. You can never have competitors if you kill every small business when it is still a babe in its cradle.
IMO, this is the largest bona fide, actual criminal conspiracy hiding in plain sight since FTX. Additionally, I think eBay got nervous about this in 2022, and is why they switched to eBay managed payments.
Thank you for coming to my TED talk.