Vietnamese invitations wedding

So just to be clear, everyone posts there links on here and then are most people just not bothering to return the favour or what?
I've posted mine several times and I've had about 50 comments saying the person has clicked my link. Ive returned every single one. But if you go on shein app into the game abd click on "invitations" I can see I've only had 3 people actually do it!!!
Such a shame because if people actually helped eachother out, we'd all be winning.
If anyone is actually interested in helping eachother win today...here's my link. I WILL click yours back, but also, I'm no longer clicking for anyone who doesn't bother with mine because it's not fair.
Let's see if we can actually make some winners today, yeh?! Code below too.
A great chance for both of us to get up to ￡300💵!! Accept my invitation by searching this code in the SHEIN APP : wqyq0w
Please Help me WIN ￡300 CREDIT! https://shein.top/amakq21

Everyone involved in this story is between 25 - 30 and living in different countries.
Me and a close friend lets call her Megan made this a clan with the aim to play on a high skill level. The clan has been around for 5 or so years and we managed to reach a professional level. We were also close with the group of people that joined over the years and even met them multiple times irl.
Over time naturally people would leave and new people join, but a year or so ago the friend I started the journey with retired. It was only me left to manage the clan. Even tho we managed to move on it just isn't what it once was. From our original first group barely anyone is left. We are about to lose our professional status and if I'm being honest Im burned out too.
Now with all that I decided to retire aswell and with that close the clan. We are around 40 players currently with maybe 20 being active. Here starts the drama.
A hand full of the active players are saying I should have just given the clan to one of them, while yes it is just some clan it still has a history and image, the name has a status and I feel like I owe it to everyone that was in on the journey to close the clan on a high note.
There is also a wedding in a few months, 2 of our clan members are getting married, they invited around 7 of our online group and they just so happen to be part of the hand full of people that wanted to continue the clan.
One of them lets call her Jenny joined us a year ago, her soon to be husband Kenny was with us for a year, then left for half a year or so and rejoined when Jenny joined us.
From their POV I "risked" ruining their wedding and should have just let them have the clan. But I already know that they realistically dont have the time (or standards) to keep the clan as is. Jenny is working all day and has maybe 3-4 free hours per day, which she has to spend with wedding preparations too. Kenny is never hanging around with the group and not really adding much to the community. We maybe see him every few days when Jenny, him and one more person, Alex, play a different game.
Right after I let them know of my decision, I have been disinvited from the wedding and got a whole bunch of accusations thrown at me, that our friendship was always onesided, that I never did anything for them, that I have failed as a friend, that I didnt care about them.
Should I have let them have the clan? I know that this was a selfish decision but every decision I made on this journey was for the "greater good" of the clan, even when I continued after Megan quit.
Everyonelse, even if they disagreed with my decision, were polite with me still. Almost all of the longterm clan members agree with my decision and even think I should have closed the clan earlier.
Ultimately I still lost two people I considered friends and after their message I feel hurt too and don't even know how to approach the situation, the message ended with "Don't even reply, I dont want to hear it"

My fiance (27F) and I (30M) have been engaged for about a year. Our wedding is in just over 2 weeks.
We’ve been preparing for this wedding for a good 6 months now. It’s been tolling on the both of us with all the things that need to be done before a wedding. Her parents have taken a supportive backseat if-you-need-anything-just-ask approach whilst mine have tried to be more hands-on with their support. Our getting married has been a big source of pride and happiness for my parents. My parents have an expectation that we’ll make decisions and do things together, give my fiance and I the final say on everything and don’t want to spare any expense. But they’re a bit slow with things as my brother got married last month overseas so it’s all catching up to them. My fiance is a bit more urgent and prefers that we just get what we need done in the most affordable way.
Recently we made invitations that are nice imo and we did them on a budget. I came home to show my parents to see if they like it and my father lost it saying “how could you just go ahead and do this without us” and “these look cheap and if you just talked to me I would have let you make them the way you want but in a much better way” etc. I didn’t really understand but I didn’t want to upset my father so I just told him it’s no big deal. They didn’t cost much in any case and I didn’t think much of it.
I told my fiance what happened and she was seething. She said “I’m not changing something I spent my time and energy on” and gave me an ultimatum - we either use the invitations or there’s no wedding. And that I’d have to tell my Dad no sorry this is what we’re doing. I got a bit upset. If my Dad’s offering something nicer and letting her design them, we haven’t lost much. I told her to think of the position it puts me in and to think about what’s more important to her. The invites themselves aren’t anything that special for me to defend. She doesn’t have the best opinion of my father. Initially she wanted this wedding to be in May instead of June, but at my Dad’s insistence it was pushed back as to not be so close to my brother’s wedding.
The discussion ended with her saying
“if we hadn’t done so much and weren’t so close to this wedding then I’d leave”.
It really hurt. I don’t know where we stand. If I go ahead with this wedding, I’m going to feel like I’m marrying somebody who doesn’t actually want to be with me. Things in our relationship have always been great and this is the first time she’s ever said something like this. What do I do?

ive been mindfucked since yesterday since i found out the truth about my whole family situation. my 'grandma' isnt even my real grandma. my grandpa fucked my 'grandmas' little sister (my actual real grandma) when they were married and had a child (my mum) so my real grandma has passed away now and i had a pseudo grandma for my whole life
my grandpa then went onto have 6 more kids with my 'grandma'. the thing is my grandparents raised my mum as if she was their own, so my mum is the oldest in the 'family'
i have a large extended family but i always felt like the black sheep. my cousins and aunties/uncles have been my half cousins and half aunties/uncles this whole time. apparently none of my cousins know but all the uncles and aunties know
to give some backstory, my oldest aunty hated my mum and was a nasty bitch to her since adolescence and my mum still detest her till this day. i never got along with my cousins from that aunty, even tho they had a son just 1 year younger than me. i felt like i got the same treatment my mum got from her sister. those cousins (2 girls and 2 boys) would social media stalk me and engage in malicious gossip and spread fucked up rumours about me. and at family gatherings they would make snide comments randomly at me. my mum assumes the reason for the hostility from my aunt towards her is coz she found out she comes from another mum (her aunt)
im 30 years old now and for the last 10 years i barely went to any of the social gatherings, but went to alot of them growing up as a kid and adolescent. my other cousin would also make nasty comments at me randomly when i did attend a gathering. like purposely trying to exclude me from the tribe. even tho they dont know about this secret its like deep down unconsciously they do. some of my uncles would also frequently try to belittle me whenever they saw fit. the aunty that was a bitch to my mum was kinda cold to me too, and it feels kinda 'fake' when i did interact with her
my grandpa passed away last year and my mum eventually found out the truth by confirmations from her uncles/aunties. the twisted thing is my mum had an inkling growing up coz she said my 'grandma' abused her and was very mean to her. she thought that my grandma didnt love her growing up. growing up my 'grandma' was never really that affectionate with me, but she was with my cousins. like cuddling them and doting/kissing so that added the suspicion for my mum. my mum had a cousin that was 9 years older, and she thought it was odd when my 'grandma' never took care of my mum as a baby/kid but her aunty (real grandma) would take care of my mum and be really affectionate
the fucked up thing is my mum confronted my grandpa when she was like 35 (55 years old now) about her suspicion that her aunty is her real mother and my aunts told my grandpa to put my mum in a mental institution coz they didnt want the secret out and he went through with it. so my mum was put into the psychiatric hospital for schizophrenia. they knew it would taint my grandpas image and wanted my cousins to believe in this happy little lie
so i grew up having a 'psychotic mum' but she they just gas lit the fuck out of her. my mum had multiple suicide attempts when i was growing up as a kid/teenger
my mum and her older cousin that knew had a meeting with 1 of my aunties to talk about it after confirmation that it was all true and my aunty just told them to promise not to tell any of the kids (cousins and me/my siblings) so they dont 'taint' the image of grandpa and the drama it could ensue. my mum is obviously going to break that promise and eventually tell my other siblings (im the first to know)
my mum barely ever sees them and doesn't attend any of the gatherings. everything is clicking now why i always felt like an outsider. my other siblings are the same that we dont go to the gatherings except 1 of my sisters since shes gets along with them. but my mum doesnt know if she should tell her the truth
at the funeral 1 of the cousins that was quite cold and nasty to me gave a eulogy, and you know how when u give a eulogy u 'gas' them up (like try to make them seem like such a great person) using phrases like how he was a gentle man etc (she literally said that lol) but the point is theres alot of pretentiousness in this family and i just thought that was amusing
ive met my grandma only twice in my life when i was a teenager and she came to visit and my sisters wedding but i dont remember it. when she passed away 5 years ago in vietnam my mum was the only one to attend the funeral. apparently everyone was shocked how similar my mum looked like her but everyone just said coz shes her niece
a part of me feels sad that ill never get to experience the warmth of my grandma. whats its like to be doted on as a kid. my interactions with my 'grandma' always felt kinda distant. it was actually the same with my grandpa. its like we reminded him of how he betrayed his wife. didnt help that they could barely speak english lol, i wonder how different everything would be if we could actually talk to each other since i cant speak Vietnamese and they never bothered to learn english when they migrated to australia
now looking at some of the family photos and its like a whole new lens has been added. dont know if its a fake smile coming from my 'grandma' or not and i swear i can see the rage and bitterness in her eyes
theres only like 1 cousin that i feel like i have a 'decent' bond with, and most of the others im amicable with. but for the specific family members that treated me harshly for whatever reason it showed me the truth that i was never truly part of the family. the next time i see them i wonder whats its going to feel like since i only just know the truth now. my mum said the aunties are being more distant with her since they now know that my mum also knows the truth
i feel pretty fucked in the head growing up in that family. still deal with mental health issues and poor self esteem and i attribute a lot to growing up with them. not to say there weren't ever any good or fun times but the negative just outweighs the positive by a landslide. i really wonder what life would be like if instead of my grandpa taking care of my mum she stayed back in Vietnam with my grandma and we never knew this family
just had to rant coz my mind is going haywire about all of this and how everything has played out in my life. i dunno if im just mindfucking myself but everything just makes sense now

We used to create a player each, then run a fantasy draft where we'd create a team around 'ourselves' and play out the season etc.
Still simple enough to do 'locally' however would be much more convenient to be able to play online, only thing is it doesn't seem possible...
The 'online' MyLeague made us each pick our own team and we could then only play for our respective teams, 'standard' MyLeague games don't have the option to invite friends
An I missing something or is this just not possible?

I (28M) recently married my fiancé (36F), and I'm feeling pretty conflicted. A few years ago, my wife made a terrible mistake—she drank and drove with my cousin's (46F) four kids in the car. Tragically, her husband took his own life because of the incident. I was never close with my cousin, but I love my wife, so I decided to forgive her.
Her parents are well-off and have connections to the DA, so they managed to get her bail, and she only received community service and had her license revoked for a year. This happened three years ago, and we've been dating for five years now. My wife apologized to my cousin, but she didn't forgive her. We invited my cousin to our wedding, but she didn't show up.
During the wedding, my dad (58M) gave a really bad speech. All he said was, "Congratulations to my son and his new wife. Hope it works out this time," and that was it. My wife looked so heartbroken. I know she made a terrible mistake, but she has tried to make amends, and I believe in second chances. Seeing her so hurt by my dad's words was painful for me.
Am I the asshole for forgiving my wife and being hurt by my dad's bad wedding speech?

They will be thrown out where there will be weeping and gnashing of teeth.

Yesterday, I shared a post asking for feedback on the most complex things when organizing a wedding ceremony. I've put it all together. I'd like to see if it's necessary to create a dedicated app. Can you think of anything else? I need your comments so I don't forget anything 🙏 👇
1) Inviting guests => App to send a grouped mail + postal letter in 1 click via the app
📍Feedback: Not very useful as it's better to do custom for each person 👎
2) Information & Live update push notification => App to send wedding information by e-mail (or phone text).
📍Feedback: Not everyone checks their email so it's a bit useless 👎
3) Photo & Video sharing => App to allow guests to send their photos & videos taken during the wedding.
📍Feedback: Interesting idea, but it shouldn't be mandatory but rather a bonus.
4) Collaborator management => App to manage the various people you'll be working with during the wedding, such as the caterer, musicians and venue owners...
📍Feedback: I hadn't imagined the problem but it's interesting
Any other ideas for complex things to manage during a wedding? Thanks!

Throw away account and on mobile My fiancé and I have been together for a year and a half. He’s absolutely everything I want in a relationship. When planning for the wedding, however, we can’t seem to agree on what to do. Neither one of us wants a big wedding. I would much rather just go to the courthouse and get married there and have a reception later on with family and friends. He wants to have a small ceremony with everyone and then a reception. My problem with an actual ceremony is my family. My parents are divorced and cannot get along for anything. My brothers are also no contact with my dad. I am no contact with my grandparents on my mom’s side and low contact with many family members on my dad’s side. I know there will be issues and unnecessary drama if I don’t invite my grandparents or those that I am low contact with. I know my mom and brothers will have issues with my dad being there. I don’t want a ceremony because I don’t want the complications that will be there concerning the guest list. My fiancé wants a ceremony because his family wants him to have one. It’d be the first time him or one of his siblings is getting married. He knows my concerns about my family, but he also doesn’t want to the unnecessary drama from his family if we were not to have an actual wedding. We’re kind of stuck and not really knowing how to move forward. It seems like someone is going to have an issue no matter what we do. I know the wedding is about us and what we want and our relationship. But it’s so difficult trying to find a happy medium.
TL;DR My fiancé wants a wedding ceremony because of potential drama with his family while I want a courthouse wedding because of potential drama with my family and we’re it sure how to handle this

So my (28F) partner(43M) was previously married. Now one of his kids (19M) from his first marriage is just getting engaged. The first thing out of his mouth when he tells me the news is that his son asked that I not be invited to the engagement party because he's worried about how his mom will react to seeing me there.
For context, I have a good relationship with both his kids (or do I thought until now) but I've never met the ex-wife. He was divorced by the time we met but the way their marriage ended was less than amicable. On top of that she has some mental health problems and is a bit of a drama queen from what they've all told me. I think the request came from a considerate place of the kid wanting as little drama as possible and for the focus to be on the engagement. Which is fair enough and while I was a little hurt I shrugged and said fine that's not a problem. I'm a doctor and very busy and am not particularly fussed about going to a party. But then my partner started to make a big deal about it and how he wanted me to be there and how he bet that Her new partner would be there and if that was the case he'd just leave. Which baffled me because I've never seen him act that petty (and it wasn't exactly like he was defending me - this was all about him). I told him to chill and that it really wasn't a big deal.
Fast forward a few days later and this is obviously still on his mind and he randomly brings it up that I should be mentally prepared to be seated somewhere away from him and his ex-wife and the family table for the actual wedding. Now I didn't want to be thinking about this particular non-issue right then. I'd just finished a long shift and was pretty ready to go to bed. So l was pretty short with him and said coldly that if that's the case then it's fine but I don't particularly feel like attending the wedding and being relegated to a table where I don't know anyone. I told him that if I'm going l'd really prefer to sit with him, cuz you know he's my partner. I said fine I don't need to go to the wedding either.
He then got upset at the thought of me not coming and has been trying to convince me to go but l've just said I don't want to cause any drama and to please not make a big deal about it and that we'll just say I have work stuff that I can't get out of and leave it at that. Partner is now super upset with me.
The whole thing is just upsetting because clearly the kids don't like me as much as I thought if his son has brought this up to him. Or it's all about the ex-wife's sensitivities.
I've been doing some self reflection and worry I'm the AH because it's the seating scenario that caused me to say I won’t go. Is it normal to seat second spouses somewhere far away from the rest of the family? Am I being unreasonable not wanting to deal with any of this drama?
TL;DR WIBTA for putting my foot down and saying I won't go to a stepkid's wedding when I'm clearly not wanted there?

My future MIL has said/done nasty things that can’t be forgotten. We went through 2 really rough patches and I realized what kind of person she is and how she truly feels about me. Attacking my character, saying I’m a bridezilla, I don’t know what it’s like to work hard and I’ve never had a big girl job (I’m in a doctoral program) and that I force my fiance to spend his $ on me. I was so shocked and hurt (been in the family for 7 years when this all started) that I deleted all of our pics together off my social media. Was it immature? Probably. But i didn’t do this to intentionally hurt her~ more of something I needed to do for me to be emotionally “done”. Fiancé understood and was supportive of my decision to do this. We got through our rough patches, and I decided to forgive (yet again) for the sake of my fiancé. I told FMIL it would take a long time for me to heal from this.
Months later, they came to visit us. Showed them my school, our fav restaurants & apartment. She threw a crying fit about us being out too long “this was my opportunity to relax from work and I wanted to go to the beach… I didn’t even want to go to lunch!” Just drama, no fun for anyone. Step dad tells my fiancé “just go apologize”. Fiancé said no, I did nothing wrong. Weeks later, I posted recent pics on FB but none of any photos of their visit. She got pissed & sent screenshots of my FB telling fiancé I’m “holding a grudge”. I didn’t feel comfortable posting photos of us after wha happened. Fiancé understood/respected that. She texted fiancé “I’m gonna need half the $ I offered for the rehearsal dinner since it’s gonna be expensive to get to the destination anyways”. She then realized I removed ALL our pics from my FB (the previous year). She told his step dad & he texted my fiancé saying they are convinced I’m the problem and “if we are not going to be in any photos or posted in any pics, you can go ahead and uninvite us from the wedding and we’ll relay to our side of the family that we don’t plan to attend”. We gave them what they asked for. This was the third time they used our wedding against us and threatened to not come.
We’ve been no contact since last July. Fiancé received a text from his gma saying “you are evil for treating your own mother this way and none of us will be at your wedding if your own mother is not invited”. Turns out she told everyone that we uninvited them on our own. She’s saying that we “misunderstood them” when we clearly have the text with their request.
It’s 6 months until wedding, fiance has been blocking flying monkeys left and right. She even texted his birth dad (they never speak) saying “I just want to share my side of the story”. He didn’t reply. Now that mostly everyone she can use is blocked, she texted his aunt saying “can you please just ask them to talk with me? I can’t not have my son and his family in my life. We’ve all along wanted to be there for their special day and they misunderstood our texts.” AITA if I put my foot down on them attending the wedding?
Fiancé and I are on the same page but he has said “of course I want my family there, I just wish they weren’t such a**holes cause we wouldn’t be in this mess in the first place”.

What the title reads basically. I(29M) and my ex-fiancee(29F) were together for 5 years. We should have been married now in the normal conditions but I broke up with her and cancelled the wedding 2 days before it because they invited male strippers to bachelorette party. I am personally not a fan of these parties but reluctantly agreed after both groom & bride side confirmed we would keep it simple. I told my ex-fiancee I am not comfortable with strippers or other kind of crazy things. She agreed. I also told my friends if they were to do a stupid thing without me knowing, we would have problems.
We stayed at my friends' summer house and chilled there by the pool, did some wow raids and played board games. My ex-fiancee and her friends went to a restaurant then rented an airbnb. There was no problem during the night and next day I asked how things went. She and her close friends said it was really chill and good. We returned to the city centre after that. I encountered another bridesmaid that day when I was shopping for a bracelet for my ex-fiancee for her upcoming birthday. I asked that girl how's everything as we were in the same department at the college but rarely talk now. She is closer with my fiancee than me. She said it's going good and last night was crazy with all the strippers. After saying that she looked uncomfortable. I asked her about the details but she was not willing to tell much. I think she realized she should not have talked about it. I laughed, said goodbye and left.
I confronted my fiancee and she seemed surprised about it. She was denying it first, then told me nothing crazy happened and one of the bridesmaids invited strippers. I reminded her that it was a strict boundary for me. I asked about the details but she said there was nothing much with strippers just solo dances and that's it. I told her I need some time to think. Almost all of the bridesmaids messaged me ensuring nothing happened when I was on my way back home(definitely not coordinated). Things happened after that but in the end I decided to break up and cancel the wedding. I lost some money since it was only 2 days before the wedding. Things are not cool right now. My head is messed up, I get criticism from everyone and no idea about what to do. My sister told me to see a therapist to process my thoughts and feelings. That is what I'll do next. Some mutuals suggested me that I should reconsider things and stop being so whiny about such a small thing. I do not think it's such a small thing especially when they all tried to hide it from me.
AITAH here?

Yesterday for the first time since the breakup in August 2022, I became so angry. My friend 27f was talking about howrny she is as it has been a couple of months for her and I kind told her ive not really had s*x except a couple of night stands last summer I regret and then how even in my relationship with my ex there sadly was not any s*x.
She looked at me confused as she explained its usual for couples, even at the beginning to do it all the time and want to see each other. My ex did not. I always had to go to his parents house where he was living at the time for sort of sleep over and this was usually Friday or Saturday night. He never wanted to see me more than 1 night in a row, no matter how many times I expressed to him I'd love a more than 1 night sleepover. I loved this man. I wanted to see him and be with him everyday ffs.
I have the Flo app to help me track my cycle to make sure all is ok. Have been doing it since 2021. We got together April 2022 (when we started talking) so I have all the data as I always updated it when we had s*x as well.
out of around 115 days that we were dating, we only had s*x 27 days. We banged a couple to three times when we saw each other on those days, but I count it as 1 as it was only 1 day. But this small number made me angry last night. I knew we hardly had s*x but did not realise how stupid low it was.
Now I always wanted to see him. I dont remember a day I did not want to know how he's doing or not want to see him, hang out, go on dates, smoke ganja with him ect.
I wanna add maybe 7 more days to the these s*x days when we saw each othewent on dates and there was no boom boom time after, which was nice, but trust me I was h*rny and wanted him so badly during those days too. I also wanna add another 20 days for when I had my period and couldn't/did not feel like it and 5 days when he was at a friends wedding in Barcelona.
Even with this, it comes to 69 days. Where was he the other 55+ days?
Every week without fail, he would go to is female best friends house to smoke weed. I am a stoner too, yet I was never invited, even though I wanted to meet this person.
I always trusted him but looking back after my conversation last night was he cheating on me?
He never wanted me to meet his family (I met his parents because he lived with them and his younger bro because he had to pick him up from a train station once) he never invited me to the family dinners where his brothers brought their gf or wife. I was always sad as I wanted so badly to meet everyone and be part of this family for real as I really loved my ex.
He did not want meet his friends either, never wanted to visit me or meet my friends. He forgot my birthday, never brought me flowers and always he never will. He kept making jokes about living with his female best friend, which makes me angry tbf looking back at it.
When we first got together his bumble notifications were going off so he deleted the app and tinder. But NOT the accounts.
Now I am overthinking because why did he not want to have s*x with me? Am I that bad?
The crazy thing is, when we were hanging out on the days we were together in person, everything was great, despite my really bad depression due to the abusive people I lived with at the time, we had a lot of fun. Why did he not want to see more?
I also counted that there would be 2-3 weeks where we did not do it in-between. Honestly I dont know I did not see it at the time. We banged so well and so much on the days we saw each other, so why did he not want me more?
I love s*x and I've never really had it as I just want to be 1 mans person and be the filthiest wife there is. I want to do so many naughty things but with the right person. I really believed my ex was it, like I wanted to try so many stuff with him but never got to.
I am 29 next month and honestly, I am tired of not being touched.
Sorry for this tmi so early in the morning. Just feel really shit. I loved my ex, a part of me still does. But now I can't stop thinking he was cheating.

I saw both the Lucas and Flint headcanon threads, so I'm doing one for Jeff Andonuts (and Tony)!
This will mostly be based on Earthbound, but I'll also mention some based on late-game or even as far as Mother 3, but I could only tag for one series. I'll try my best to block out what *would* be a spoiler, but let me know if I missed something. It's a long post, sorry.
Jeff Andonuts (beginning + middle of the game):

• Despite his name, he really likes cookies more (he TOOK Tony's birthday cookies)
• Jeff doesn't mind the cold of Winters.
• Jeff likes working alone, but he doesn't like to *BE* alone
• Jeff *did* call his father "dad" at one point, before he was left at the boarding school
  • He met Tony on said day
• Jeff isn't a robot, and he's not a clone either
• Not only is Jeff near-sighted, but he may be getting far-sighted as well - in other words his vision isn't great at all
• Jeff tolerates Maxwell Labs.
• He wasn't religious or spiritual at all initially, but after Giygas, he believes in some sort of higher power - not necessarily a specific religion, but definitely felt that *someone* or *something* saved them.
• He knows some Dalaam-ese, but isn't a fluent speaker.
• He did have some sort of "feud" with Poo regarding science vs belief, but then they become close friends
• Ness thought that Paula would be more interested in Jeff, as he's smart and somewhat of a gentleman
  • He took "finishing" classes at Snow Wood
• He doesn't understand why Ness and Paula stare when he mentions getting swatted at school
  • He got swatted often
• Jeff is confused with American Eagleland dialect. The same goes for Ness and Paula and Jeff's dialect from Winters. (ie. ground floor vs first floor, chips vs crisps, herbs vs **h**erbs)

Jeff Andonuts (endgame + post-game) - more spoilers here

• Dr. Andonuts took longer to put Jeff's consciousness into the robot body than the rest of the 3.
• >! Jeff repairs his relationship with his father, but it takes longer than he realizes!<
  • Until he is taken by Porky, which leads to his appearance in Mother 3.
  • Jeff falls into a deep sadness for a while because of this, but gets encouraged by Tony and uses an improved Phase Distorter to find him again.
• Jeff DOES fix Ness and Paula's appliances (including a toaster) after they get married
• Jeff accepts that not only does Tony like him, but the realization that he likes him back!They get serious about dating when they're older, and eventually marry as well!
  • Dr. Andonuts is indifferent to their relationship, and nearly forgets when the wedding is because he's a bit absent-minded when it comes to social functions

Tony (beginning + middle of the game)

• Tony has asthma, so he carries a rescue inhaler with him
• Tony is of Italian (whatever the equivalent is in Earthbound) heritage - he knows some words and talks with his hands but not as advanced as a native speaker
• Tony plays soccer (football) in the school's team
• Tony realized that he was gay fairly young, but he's not very open for his safety. Even Jeff doesn't know.
• Tony is more of the "sensitive" one of the two friends. Also more of a romantic, and more artistic than Jeff. He's good in school too, but not Jeff-level.
• Tony is popular in school - he was getting birthday gifts! The other kids don't understand why he'd be close friends with someone as reclusive and aloof as Jeff
• Tony likes Maxwell Labs, except when he's doing a prank
• Tony>! stood at the gates when Jeff jumped over and left, and stood long enough to get some frostbite!<
• When>! Tony calls you, he *wants* to tell Jeff that he loves him, but is terrified to do so!<
  • Even when he sees him again at Stonehenge Base.
• While Jeff is away, Tony prays every night. He is a practicing Catholic, so he uses a rosary.

Tony (endgame + postgame)

• When Paula>! is praying for help, Tony is not able to "hear" her, but he only can get a "feeling", since he doesn't have PSI!<
• When Jeff returns to Snow Wood, Tony admits to him that he is gay, and that he did like Jeff this whole time! He's scared, but Jeff accepts him, and also his feelings for him.
  • Dr. Andonuts thought for about a minute when Jeff brings Tony over to meet him, but he doesn't say anything negative about it - he only asked him to get a wrench for him. Jeff tells Tony that this is actually a positive response
  • Tony's family, on the other hand, accept Jeff - either immediately or eventually. Jeff doesn't know what to do regarding their family customs when he's invited over
• Jeff and Tony get married when they're older!

Bonus: Maxwell Labs

• Maxwell is known as the "cool teacher"
• Maxwell teaches science classes
• Maxwell get irritated by Jeff's behavior sometimes (basically when Jeff gets bored and starts building a bottle rocket or something)
• Maxwell is also a DM for the school's Dungeons and Dragons club, which both Jeff and Tony are members of
  • He laughs at the players' pain as he explains that the roll failed
• Maxwell comforts Tony when Jeff leaves, and encourages him to try calling or writing to him.
  • Tony wrote more in a journal than actually sending the letters
• He attends Jeff's and Tony's wedding. He bawls

This is what I'm able to remember for now, since ideas come and go. I would like to hear other people's theories, and if you want to comment on mine, go for it!

So I went to CBS and had an absolute blast. It was extremely fun, I actually participated in our famous Follies videos and had a great social life during the MBA. While I was never the "coolest," I felt I got along with a lot of people and had a core friend group where we'd invite each other to each others' birthdays, so social things like go to sports games, concerts, bar crawling, clubbing, and what not. I built some deep relationships through life challenges we were going through as well as similar recruiting goals. We all had similar hobbies like bicycling and skiing too.
Upon graduation, a large portion of the class decided to stay in NYC, including most of my MBA friends. And for the first say 5-6 months after our post-MBA summer vacation, we did try to meet up. But over time, I'd say a lot of my MBA friendships have faded away even though we live in the same city.
Over time, I noticed people were responding less and less to my texts asking to catch them for food or even coffee. When we saw each other at a mutual friend's birthday party or housewarming, they'd always be extremely friendly and lively - same if we bump into each other randomly on the street. But that 1:1 connection with a lot of my former MBA friends seems to have naturally faded away.
It's sad but out of maybe 20 MBA friends from CBS I had in the city immediately after graduation, I feel there's only a reciprocal relationship with only 4 at this point, three years out. And the other 16 are still in the city, they chose to just not respond to my texts to hang out anymore.
They'll still respond if I have a quick career question (they'll sometimes ask me that too) and will like my posts and stories on IG. I got engaged recently, and all the former friends who ghosted me texted me congrats. But the 1:1 genuine friendships have faded.
Some of them still hang out with each other though - I saw 8 of them went on a ski trip together without me. Nothing bad happened, there was no confrontation or any fight, but it just felt like things faded.
People say making friends as an adult is hard, but after moving into the city, I made some new friends through a running club I joined, through co-workers, and my brother's friends who went to a totally different MBA program (Ross). It's come to the point that my closest friends right now after 3 years post-MBA, the ones I hang out with the most, aren't even from CBS but are from Ross through my brother.
I do see some people from CBS still have almost all CBS alum friend groups, but I see others with more mixed friend groups that including MBA and non-MBAs as well.
Am I doing something wrong? Did I do something unintentionally to rub my former MBA friends the wrong way? Or are they just wanting to try a new life chapter and meet new people? They ARE being social, as evidenced by their Instagram stories, but they have chosen other people and not me. I have been told by multiple people I was reasonably well liked during the MBA and people thought I was kind, helpful, and fun.
I asked my MBA friend I'm close with who still hangs out with the ghosters, and he said he hasn't heard anything negative about me, so he doesn't know why they won't invite me to stuff or reciprocate my efforts,
Would love for some outside thoughts on this. When we graduated, I really did think this group of 20 would be lifelong friends of mine since we experienced so much during the MBA & all were staying in NYC (in Manhattan even), and planned to hang out regularly. The MBA was such a unique, all encompassing experience and I felt my friends and I went through thick and thin.
Yes, friendships have faded for me from like from high school to college, or college to the working world. But that was almost always the case because people moved away geographically, which was not the case with me and my CBS friends. For example, my friendships K-12 were pretty consistent growing up.

I’m getting married in a week and my fiancé and I have had our wedding planned for over a year now. We’re having our ceremony in our backyard because we wanted it small, only including immediate family (excluding our fathers for other reasons.)
Now my mom separated from her ex-fiancé a little over a year ago. My soon to be wife and I have been incredibly supportive of her decision even though her ex was never truly a bad person to her. Bought her a house, helped her pursue every endeavor she’s asked for, been there for her during the passing of relatives, etc. Bottom line, they just don’t get along but they function better as friends versus lovers.
Fast forward to this past January and we (my fiancé and I) are making final decisions on who to invite. My mom and her ex are friends at this point and we figured we could invite him to our reception, but not the ceremony. I ask my mom if she would be comfortable with that and she said, of course. Mind you, she has had nothing but terrible things to say about the guy, even since they became friends again. I feel sympathy for him because he’s done way more good for her than bad.
So, this past Sunday we took her out for mother’s day but the day before she told me that her and ex are back together and have been for a month. I don’t understand why, considering she says how much she hates him but okay, whatever. While we are all having a nice lunch though, I remind of our plans for our wedding ceremony (we’re literally only having 12 people.) But she chimes in and says 13, including her ex. I didn’t say anything at the time but it irked me that she would assume such a thing without asking me, especially considering our wedding is less than 2 weeks away. I didn’t want to shoot her down at the moment because I was trying to make her Mother’s Day a pleasant one, but I knew as soon as she said it, that wasn’t going to have it.
We’ve been very meticulously planning this day for a long time now and compromised on a lot of things, especially for my mom’s sake. I might add, we’re paying for, decorating, planning for all of this on our own. My soon to be wife and I have been through hell getting this all together, but it’s coming together and we want it to go according to OUR plan.
Told my mom and her ex in the most polite and respectful way I could that we’re sticking to our original plan and that I want him at our reception but not at our ceremony. And now she is telling me that I’m selfish and rude. So… am I the a-hole?
TL;DR: I want my mom’s ex to be at my wedding reception, but not my ceremony. Now she thinks I’m an a-hole.

Looking to borrow $200 and repay $225 on May 29th. I got an impromptu invite to be in a wedding, caveat being the suit rental is $400! I am able to pay back in 2 weeks via etransfer. Thanks!

I am not the OOP. The OOP is u/Ok-Firefighter602 posting in AmItheAsshole and his user account
Concluded as per OOP
1 update - Medium
Original - 29th April 2023
Update - 22nd May 2023
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AITA for breaking a promise and attending my stepdaughter's graduation?
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I’ll start by explaining some backstory. I (54M) lost my first wife when my son (25M) and daughter (22F) were ages 9 and 12, Both my kids took it as hard as you would expect and to this day have a poor relationship with both my current wife "Doreen (49F)" and my stepdaughter "Amy (18F)". I started dating Doreen about 4 months after my first wife passed, as such my kids believe I cheated on their mom. Amy was 5 when we got together and as such I see her as my own daughter.
On to the actual story, 4 years ago, two days before Kay's high school graduation, Amy got very ill while visiting her grandparents and ended up needing emergency surgery. My wife and I rushed to be with Amy and admittedly I did not communicate well with Kay. At the time Kay didn't pick up my calls, so I left her a voicemail and several text messages explaining what happened and telling Kay I was sorry but I would make it up to her. A few hours go by and I get a call from Kay, she is in hysterics telling me what a terrible father I am and stated that if I did not attend her graduation I would be dead to her. I chose to support Amy.
True to her words, Kay did not contact me on the day of her graduation. And when came home Kay's things had been moved out of the house with a note explaining that we were no longer family and to never contact her again.
Luckily Kay and I were able to reconcile, however, I promised her I would give her absolutely anything in the world to make her forgive me. She said that she would forgive me as long as I refused to attend Amy's graduation as this was the only way to make it fair. I agreed at the time thinking she was just joking or angry and would soon forget.
This leads me to now. Invitations for Amy's graduation went out, and despite all the hostility Amy wanted to make sure Kay got one. Kay called Amy later that day and said she would be unable to attend as she and I would be spending the day together per our agreement. Amy broke down into tears asking me why I was missing her graduation, I assured her I was not and that I would speak to Kay. Later I explained to Kay that I simply could not miss Amy's graduation. Kay launched into a tirade about how I was a liar and an asshole and how could I do this to her again. I told her that we would talk when she calmed down and she said we would never talk again.
My son, and several of our extended family have all taken Kay's side saying I didn't see how hurt she was at graduation. My wife believes I am the asshole for even promising that in the first place as I should have known it would only upset one or both girls. And Amy is just sad and confused wondering why Kay hates her. I know keeping my promise and not attending Amy's graduation is probably the only way to salvage my relationship with Kay, but no matter how I look at it I would feel like I'm punishing Amy for having a medical issue, so am I the asshole?
EDIT to add some relevant info.
I NEVER cheated on my first wife. your accusations are honestly tiring and disgusting.
Amy's Bio father was never in her life. I am NOT Amy's Biological father, that wasn't ever even in question as we are not the same race.
Amy had appendicitis, she was staying over 4 hours away at her grandparent's house. at the time that we left the only info Doreen's mother would give us was she passed out and wouldn't wake up.
My daughter was moved out of our house for about a month and a half after which we made up and she returned to live with us for another 2 years before going away to school.
I did not believe Kay when she said she wanted me to miss Amy's graduation as it seemed like a ridiculous request. despite what you all may believe our relationship was fine after this event we were in near-daily contact and she would frequently visit us.
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Angry-trans
YTA And have been for years. You are a bad father. Kay is correct. You are a liar. You've done nothing to prioritize Kay ever since your new family rolled in. Your relationship with your daughter is dead and the blood is on your hands.
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calliatom
Seriously though... you never should have promised Kay that, knowing full well that you had no intention of keeping your word. And now you're being a bad father to Amy too, by trying to use her tears and guilt to dig yourself out of the grave you dug yourself with Kay.
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CryptographerSuch753
Seems like all op cared about was getting his way in the moment. Seems like that may be a pattern
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victoria12345678909
YTA - you replaced your kids mom with a new family 4 months after she died! Your kids lost their mom so young and you don’t seem like you prioritized their feelings or helped them deal with things, instead you moved on fast. Kay didn’t have a mother to attend her graduation and she needed you there. Could you not have driven to the grad then back to the hospital?
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LadyDerri
Ten to One that Amy is his daughter. That's why he favors her.
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Comments from OOP

Amy ended up having to get an emergency appendectomy, but at the time was visiting her Grandparents about a 4 hour drive from where we lived. Her grandmother didn't give us too much relevant information before we left, just that she had passed out and wouldn't wake up. On the way there we didn't know her condition or anything because her grandmother is a non-native English speaker and didn't understand a lot of the medical terms. once we got there and signed off on the surgery she ended up needing an additional 2 days in the hospital and wanted both of us by her side. During this time I repeatedly called and texted both my mother and son who were planning to attend the ceremony. I had every intention of calling/ video calling so that I could still support her, but she told everyone she didn't want me to be a part of it.

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I didn't immediately move in Doreen and Amy once we started dating, we dated for over 2 years before we moved in together. My wife's death was not a sudden thing she battled cancer on and off for years before she passed. My children already knew/ were comfortable with Doreen as she was my late wife's best friend so I thought they would enjoy having her around more. I offered both children grief counseling, my son took me up on it, and I took Kay to a few sessions but she would kick/ scream/ cry every time I took her finally the counselor decided that forcing her before she was ready would only worsen her grief. I offered her therapy many times over the years, but she never took me up on it.

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first of all, I knew Doreen for years before I even met my late wife, in fact, Doreen introduced us. I thought my kids would like having Doreen around as before my wife passed they loved her like an aunt. I did not move her in or make her a permanent part of our daily lives until over 2 years into our relationship. four months after my wife passed we agreed to explore our romantic feelings I explained what was going on in age-appropriate terms so they wouldn't be blindsided if they caught their dad kissing their "aunt".

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**Judgement - YTA*\*
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Update - 1 month later
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I wasn't sure if I wanted to post an update after the reaction I got last time, I can stomach death threats against myself but directing such hatred toward my children was truly disturbing. But the graduation has come and gone and I thought I should share how it all went down. I'm sure most of you will be displeased.
Amy was mad at me for a few days, but we have a strong bond and she quickly got over it. The saint that she is said she would understand if I wanted to miss it to make it up to Kay. I told her I wouldn't do that to her and reassured her that she has done nothing wrong.
As for the elephant in the room, Kay, she and my son live in the same city and work in the same field so they're as close as ever. My son and his partner were giving her a lot of emotional support at this time. In the end, she decided not to attend Amy's graduation but sent flowers and a card with my son. There were a lot of nasty messages directed toward her, which I feel is completely unacceptable. She isn't mean or vindictive. She is a smart, very kind, very empathetic woman. She made a bizarre ultimatum as a confused and hurt teenager I certainly don't think that makes her a bad person.
I know all of you seem to think I hate my children, but the amount of pain I feel at the deterioration of my relationship with my daughter is unexplainable, I've been on and off anti-depressants since the death of my wife and at my therapist's suggestion will be going back on them. it's taking all of my willpower not to reach out to her again, but I've already disrespected her wishes enough. She can choose to reach out to me when and if she ever wants to again and I'll be waiting.
I know it's not the most impactful update and I'm sure most of you wanted to see me left miserable and alone, but I don't live my life for anyone else's entertainment. I can accept that I'm the asshole, maybe I'm an asshole in general, but I'm not some evil monster that you all want me to be. I'm a man that made the mistake of sharing his problems with the internet a mistake I won't be making again. I probably won't delete this account, but I'm not gonna be updating in the future. goodbye.
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YogurtclosetWeird789
Look OP I get that you're human, just a man.
But you can't get away with the I made mistakes because you make the same ones over and over again.
I don't understand trolls and stupid people with the death threats or nasty messages about your kids it's wrong and disgusting.
The only issue here is YOU! The fact that claim to love Kay and how it is breaking your heart that she wants nothing to do with you is your own fault, every 'mistake' you made and repeated always seems to be against her. I don't actually think you care about Kay all that much as you still have Amy.
Now you've decided oh well I've fucked up again and made so many mistakes I'll just leave her alone and not confront the fact you failed her as a supportive father. OWN IT, Change your damn ways.
Believe me, you're not the worst dad out there. but you are a shitty one to Kay.
When will you wake up and realise without the self-pity that YOU have to be the one to make amends. Why on earth would she contact you?
Do you not care that one day she will get married and you won't be invited to the wedding or even to walk her down the aisle? When she has her first child and you find out through the grapevine instead of being a Grandpa?
Maybe one day she will forgive you, but not if your solution is to just give her space! seems to me she had a lot of space from you already. All she wanted was your time and sole attention for a bit, and you've never been able to give her that. I feel for both your son and daughter because it seems you have a favourite and you don't care as long as Amy is ok.
Let me guess and say your wife thinks it's best to give her the space? Amy may be a nice girl but I bet your wife has encouraged your behaviour.
It's honestly sad.
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OOP: I'm giving Kay space because that's what she said she wants, I can't do anything other than that. No matter what I'm gonna still be there for her any way I can, but for the time being, I'm not going to pester her or beg for forgiveness because that's not what she wants. I HAVE made mistakes and at the top of that list is not listening to my children when they tell me exactly what they need from me.

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AAP_BH
Even in this follow up post the way you speak about Kay, the disgust you feel for her oozes out. You claim so many people spoke badly of her in your previous post but those comments were minimal compared to the people that spoke badly of YOU, YOUR WIFE AND SAINT AMY but you don’t mention that, you still want Kay to be the “bad” daughter. Saying her request was “sad and bizarre” no it wasn’t.
It’s so convenient that this is when all of a sudden you realize you need to and will listen to Kay, not when she was begging you to choose her for once since your dear saint Amy came into your life. All you had to do was not go to a High School graduation and you couldn’t even do that.
You’re a horrible father to Kay and you will continue to be one. The fact that you still made the decision to put Amy over your freaking daughter is so sad, the fact that you cared so much more over Amy being upset over letting Kay down again says a lot. Leave Kay alone, don’t ever contact her again unless it’s to say flat out to her face that you are stepping down as a father since you know you will never be able to giver her the love and attention you give your true daughter Amy, that Amy will always come first. I had peritonitis, I was in the hospital (at 8yrs old) for almost a year on and off and my mom would leave to work , she was a single mother, and I was fine. Amy was a teenager, had A MOTHER AND GRANDPARENTS, she had appendicitis a common procedure, 2 freaking days before your daughters graduation and you couldn’t leave just for a day bc “Amy wanted me by her side”. My heart aches for Kay, knowing she is pretty much an orphan. Ughh parents like you I don’t freaking understand, you should’ve given up your rights as a father the moment you decided that your new family was more important than your children. I don’t think I’ve ever had so much hate for a stranger on Reddit.
ETA— by the way you sad excuse of a man, you didn’t make a mistake you made various CHOICES and DECISIONS to deliberately hurt your daughter. You DECIDED TO PUT AMY FIRST. You’re no victim, the only victim here is your ex daughter, Kay and probably her brother as well
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Soft_Consequence2262
Oh Amy the Saint.... I got the same vibes. The Father is trying to paint Kay as the bad person that he needs to defend. Yet, can't go past without a shout out to how AMAZING Amy is... actually gives me the creeps. Feels like he has some weird obsession with her perfection.
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Yeah the Amy the Saint really rubbed me the wrong way. It’s sad that despite everything, OP is still so delusional. I wish Kay a life of happiness, even if it means she would go NC with OP for life.
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I (M36) have been living abroad, on a (different continent) for close to 10 years now. During the first years, I tried to keep in touch with many old friends. Every time I visited my home country I'd try to spend time with them.
Over the last couple of years I have realized that this feeling is probably not mutual in some instances. While I haven't moved on, they have.
Not being invited to (what I thought was) a close friend's wedding was an eye opener.
It was painful for me to see the photos of the wedding on Facebook. It wasn't a small wedding either with only close friends and family. There were around 100 people attending.
I had visited him in his home, probably six months before and thought how nice it was to have an old friendship like this.
Last time I travelled back home, I thought about contacting my buddy as usual. But then I felt a deep sense of shame about being such a fool: he was just spending time with me out of obligation, I wasn't important.
Of course, like most other people, he is busy with building a career and family – I can't blame him. But it hurt.
I also realize that if I take snubs like that too personal, then in the end I might have a very tiny circle of friends in my home country.
I'm very curious about what other people would do in this situation? Do you swallow your pride and do your best to stay in touch with old friends no matter what? Or do you just move on?

I had a crush with this guy he was for the perfect man. We never dated and I never asked him because deep down I knew he didn’t like me. Or he did but only as a friend. He started dating this girl she I not a friend but she is a nice girl. One day he gave me his invitation for his wedding. Now I’m in my room crying and I don’t know why I feel this way. I knew he doesn’t like me I told myself I don’t like that he will never de mine I need help advice.