Cute goodnight texts for your girlfriend

I know you're busy or bored, either way I don't want to waste your time with paragraphs of description that you might not even read so how about we do a lightning round.

• 33 years old.
  
• Own and live a house alone, with my dog.
  
• Well established in my career and have my life somewhat together ( who really does? )
  
• Looking for long term relationship.
  
• Love voice calls
  
• Has a deep voice (can prove it) https://voca.ro/15mGNM4dU4rp
  
• 6'2
  
• Will touch your butt
  
• Willing to trade pics if you are up to it as well.
  
• Huge nerd
  
• Loves to explore but also likes to stay inside
  

I'm looking for someone to connect with. Flirt with and have fun with. Someone to distract at work with. To voice chat and send goodmorning/goodnight texts. Talk to me about what you are passionate about. What you are looking for. I'm not just looking for local so feel free to stop by if I interested you!

This happened three years ago, on the very first day I arrived at university. I like to write about things that have happened to me. Usually I do poetry, but this is more in line with a short story.
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I drove into college and read the move-in instructions. They said that someone should remain in the car to keep the line moving while students went to the front to get their new student ID’s. My new roommate texted me, saying that she was at the front getting her ID and that I should come meet her. I rolled down my window and asked a girl in a baggy t-shirt what I should do with my car if I had come alone.
“Oh, your parents aren’t here?” She said, puzzled. “Well, I’m not sure. I’ll go ask.” I watched her ask several students, then some staff members. They all shrugged, looked around, scratched their heads.
“What a ridiculous system for move-in day,” I thought. “What an obvious oversight. I can’t believe they don’t have a solution for this ready. Surely I can’t be the only one whose parents didn’t come.”
Yet looking around, I seemed to be.

I sat with my new roommate in a huge auditorium to get an orientation speech.
“We know that going off to college is a new and scary experience for you!” Said the woman on the stage. “We want you to know that it’s okay to feel homesick. Everyone is feeling that way! Everyone is struggling with being away from their families for the first time.”
My new classmates nodded. I rolled my eyes.

I plopped my bags down in my room, then shook hands with my new roommate’s parents.
“Your parents grabbing the rest of your stuff?” Her dad asked.
“Nope, that’s everything!” I said, putting on a friendly smile and wondering if I missed some memo that everyone else in this ridiculous place seemed to get.
“Oh.” He said, looking at my two suitcases. “You pack awfully light! Not like this one.” He ruffled his daughter’s hair.
“I guess I do” I smiled, wishing everyone would stop making my normal seem so unbelievably strange.

That night, I laid in my new bed and smoothed out my blanket.
“Goodnight” said my new roommate from across the room.
“Goodnight” I replied, staring at the ceiling.
Then
I let out a breath that I seemed to have been holding for nineteen years.
And I smiled a wide, goofy smile,
And I closed my eyes.
And for the first time in my entire life
I slept all the way through the night until morning
Without being shaken awake by a single nightmare.

I know we only went out for two months, but our spark was something I’ve never seen before. I know it’s been 5 months but I still think of you daily. It was the happiest I ever was in my life. You helped me realize that there’s more to life. That you have to have fun in life. I miss texting you sending good morning and goodnight. I miss snapping you. I miss protecting you. I miss holding your hand. I miss dancing with you. I miss singing with you. I miss laughing with you. I miss kissing you after a great night together. I miss cuddling with you. I loved you and maybe I still do. I know that you discarded me like I was nothing to you. Little to no explanation. Just a long text. You couldn’t call. When I tried to check in on you, you couldn’t answer. When I saw you a month later and talked to you acted as if everything was fine. Like you missed me and wanted me back. Like you still wanted to keep a connection. Then days later you send me a nasty text cutting me out for good and removing me from snap. I hope you realize how much I cared for you and how you misinterpreted everything after that night. Idk if you lied to me or if you changed your mind or if you were just being nice. One day you will realize everything I did for you. You will realize that I cared for you soo much. I wanted you to be successful and I still hope you are. I just wish you could have communicated better with me. Maybe one day we will talk again and you will understand, but maybe not. One day I will find someone who loves me and won’t discard me out of the blue without talking through it with me. I know you’ve probably moved on and are searching for someone new as I have as well. But I will never forget about my first. The fun, the love, the pain, and the trauma.

So brief description of this situation:
I have been seeing this man for over a year and half now. He is currently a nurse practitioner, and I am an LPN in school right now to obtain my RN license (almost done!). I have been in a third party situation with him, where he originally lied about having another girlfriend. There was drama that occurred for months between me, and the other girl. I did do things (over a year ago!) that were not of sound mind; I sent multiple text messages to the guy I was seeing and blowing up his phone even when he asked me to stop. I made numbers from TextNow to reach out to him, and he would entertain it and text me back and forth, it was just a really dark time for me. I guess I was desperate for a relationship with him. I was arguing with the girl over texts for maybe a month, but I would initiate mostly. It got to a point where he threatened to do a restraining order on me, and I completely stopped. We did get back in contact about a couple weeks to a month after all of this went down. We were still sleeping with each other after this situation up until a year later which is now. Had no issues, I stopped blowing up his phone all crazy and never texted the other girl. So, those mass texts and calls were over a year ago. Fast forward to now, me and this guy have an altercation and he physically assaults me and strangulated me to the point where I thought I was going to die. I ran out of his place in fear for my life. I initially believed the neighbor called the police, later to find out it was the guy I was sleeping with who called the police! I'm not sure what he said to the police and I haven't had access yet to the police report. Apparently in the report it does say I "appeared to be intoxicated" which I was not, there were not breath test or any other test done to prove this, nor was it ever initiated. The report apparently also says that there were no findings of an assault from occurring. I did initially tell the police that it was just a verbal altercation and nothing happened, I did not want him to get in trouble and get arrested, as he has a license to lose. After seeing that he left the premises and watched the police put me in handcuffs to stop me from driving, it clicked what was happening so I then told the police the truth of what really happened. All of this is included in the report, per the detective on this case. I did contact him after the altercation because I was confused as to why he hurt me and I wanted answers and closure, and also my belonging was still at his place. My old tendencies of the text messages happened slightly where I was calling his phone quite a few times and text messages to get an answer, but I did stop a couple days after the incident and haven't contacted him in a week (this happened last Monday). He did contact me recently a couple days ago and said "kiss your license good bye, I am taking action." I am not sure what he could possibly do to me... I did send the detective picture and time stamp of the bruises I've acquired, and I went to a medical appointment the following week from the incident and have a note that I was seen. I emailed the detective this proof to at least clear that I was in fact assaulted, and I also notified her I was not intoxicated, I was just having an anxiety attack after the attack and very emotional. I just want to know if I am at risk for consequences towards my nursing license? I never physically harmed anyone. The drama between him and the other girl occurred over a year ago and I have not done anything to harm them, and in fact I believe he made a false police report on whatever reported! Because I did tell him I was going to call the police (dumb decision) and that led him to beating me more. Then I guess he called police. Please, any advice?? Should I really be worried about my nursing license? I just want a peace of mind... I worked so hard for this, and I've been ready to give everything up. I was not even in contact with this guy for weeks before the assault happened. Please be kind. Should I worry about potentially losing my nursing license?

I am 6 days postpartum now. For context I had endured 8 hours of back labour with no pain meds, was discharged the next day because everything was good with baby and I. Only for me to decline the day after then find out I had an infection that they couldn’t pinpoint. So I wasn’t able to walk,sleep,eat or drink comfortably up until day 5 of being postpartum. Did the whole thing without him because he was on a trip. So last night we were on the phone and he says “how’s your tummy?” And when I explained the pain I was in and how my body felt his reply was “shouldn’t you have been back to normal by now?” And when I explained everything he said “you’re so dramatic. You should be back to yourself before pregnancy now”….
I just went quiet and he said “did I hurt your feelings?” when I told him yes he said “it was a joke I didn’t mean it”. I’m having a hard time seeing where he expected me to laugh because the whole time he kept the same serious tone until he realized I was upset then tried to tell me it was a joke. Not only did he not apologize or try to even say any little bit of appreciation my body has been through he just said “well goodnight” then hung up. He didn’t send no text to apologize or acknowledgement on it, just pretended it didn’t happen the next morning.

heya, we're looking for another couple to play games with and become good friends. we take care of our friendships and if there's something wrong or something is making you upset, we can always talk it out. quality over quantity after all (not that our brains could even handle having more than like 4 friends lmao)
we'd be available irregularly - sometimes daily, sometimes every few days, sometimes once a week. i'm more available than my girlfriend is, she's way more busy than me. we usually plan our hangouts down to the hour and try not to miss them. even if we do miss a hangout, we reschedule.
as for the hours, well we tend to switch our sleep schedules every so often, usually we play during late hours (evening in europe) but now we've switched again and are hanging out at an earlier time. so i guess we'd be playing roughly 4-5 hours from now, as of making this post. that's what happens when you're in two separate timezones lmao.
we play co-op games like lethal company, risk of rain 2, deep rock galactic, terraria (recently started a modded playthrough again), rimworld (with multiplayer mods), don't starve together, palworld and a few other games. we're not fans of games like valorant, league or overwatch.
as for our individual interests, we're into film, horror, writing, gaming, anime, history and a lot moreeee.
sorry, we're not interested in joining large preestablished friend grups, our social anxiety could never lmao. we'd rather create a tightly knit friend circle, with just the 4 of us. we're also not befriending individual people (like not a couple, yk? no offense just not what we're looking for), we tried it in the past and it ended up with them trying to hit on one of us like 90% of the time lmao.
sorry for the wall of text, i just like writing stuff lmao can you tell i'm a writer? no, because my writing sucks ass? fair.
anyway, hit me up pal.

Hello, I guess the title summarizes most of it, but I will add more context.
Me and my girlfriend have been together for over 6 months, she is introverted and mostly a home body. She has one past relationship, her ex which she has told me she was with for around a year. At the start of the relationship certain things led me to think that she is still not over him, she still followed him everywhere, made somewhat constant remarks or stories that involved him etc. So I confronted her and straight up told her I don't think you're over him. She denied this and said she was which later she admitted was a lie. Moreover, she said she still had contact with him after I saw a WhatsApp notification from him on her phone. Which she said he was her only "friend." and that she would cut contact with him. She sent him a message saying she will but proceeded to message him two more times later. The most important part I guess is that while we were in a relationship at the time for a bit over 1 month, she was flirting with him still and she tries to justify it a bit by saying I didn't think we were going to be something serious. She speaking suggestively with him, and there was a conversation about his private part and she said "oh, so I still own it."
I am wondering what to do? She has sent me quite a few texts and phone calls that I have ignored, and I guess my soul is conflicted.

I know Sigewinne has had it rough (and Clorinde maybe even more so, peace to the ClorindeMains), I'll be honest, Sigewinne is a healer first, and she does a damn good job at it.
I'll be copy-pasting from my comment I made there.
With full Hp, Recurve Bow, double Hydro, 50k Hp is her baseline to max all her passives except that E buff one, not a single sub of Hp needed (just view it as Songs of Days past baked into her kit as an extra, it's not her main feature)
Her bubble now heals regardless of whether it hit or not, that's amazing, she heals 5k baseline per tick each 2 seconds across 10 seconds and only needs to cast hold E once, and heals herself by almost exactly 50% factoring in the BoL.
With a decent 50/100 ratio you can achieve 10k average dmg per tick with only Viridiscent, if you use Furina or Kazuha or other buffs, her dmg will go even higher, with just Furina at 100 stacks it's 10k as well, and her burst only takes 2.5 seconds at C0.
Her bubble applies hydro each 2 seconds in a small AoE where it bounces, so that's nice and it has amazing synergy with Clam, each 2 bounces you immediately max out a bubble at 30k heal, guaranteed, at C0 you get 3 maxed bubbles without doing anything, at C1 4 even.
With her signature you can start building Crit Dmg, making her personal Dmg skyrocket, her early constellation are really good, C1 grants full uptime on her heal and makes the imprisonment consistent for at least 3 bounces/ 6 seconds, her C2 makes her a good anchor with Furina in a mono hydro team, and bakes 35% Res shred directly into her burst.
Now you might say "but Kokomi and Baizhu already exist", well, Baizhu deals approximately 0% of a teams dps, his value lies in being dendro and his heal is a lot more finnicky, having only one team wide tick, and otherwise only single target heal. Kokomi on the other hand is extremely competitive with Sigewinne, her issue is… you need to deal with awkward uptime and specific timing to keep her heal and dmg going, both of which are tied to circle-impact^tm outside her burst mode. Now Xianyun is a good healer too, but she has a whole another issue: as the sole anemo on the team you somehow need to feed 80 energy to her.
Sigewinne is completely freed from all of these issues and her damage is still optional in the end, her main purpose is keeping your teams Hp effortlessly topped off, and as a cute extra, Sigewinne's special charged is adorable as heck!
I went through her numbers the moment her kit dropped, and all of her numbers were too clean when put inside a calculator to be a coincidence, I suppose Sigewinne was never supposed to change a lot, only her E changed greatly during her Beta, and it changed a lot for the better, high interruption res, decent hydro app, and most importantly, she can heal without needing to hit an enemy.
Needless to say I'm really excited for her!
Edit: I don't know how to format the text? Putting escapes doesn't do anything
Edit: nvm fixed it

There's 100s of applications GPT-4o enables. I'll cover a few of them (9 to be exact) below. Gotten them from Open AI's blog & various sources.

1. Language Learning

Duolingo Stock fell by $65 in the last 5 days. That should tell you the entire story.
Duolingo Stock
For context, Duolingo is a language-learning app. Now GPT-4o can easily translate terms in other languages by just pointing it to the ChatGPT's Camera.
This is massive if you want to travel globally as a nomad. You don't have to know a language now. You can just translate on the fly in any random country.
The accuracy won't be 100% but it would be close enough. And the AI keeps improving.

2. Solving School Problems For Students

I wish I had this in school. Learning could've been more efficient and faster.
Most students fear asking questions because they feel it might be dumb. Now you can ask ChatGPT any dumb question.
It even solves math problems for the Salman Khan's (founder of Khan Academy, not the actor) Kid.

3. Bed Time Stories For Kids

Since ChatGPT can talk now with a humourous and sultry voice, you can use it to tell stories to kids. It can be used in the voice of their parents or grandparents.
You can even use a Soft Toy that does the talking to the kid. Earlier, there used to be toys that did that but it only spoke the same sentence. Now it can do back and forth.
You can make special toys that teach kids letters and alphabets. Target it to 2-3 year olds.
Hat tip to Whyme-__- for the Bed Time idea.

4. Be My Eyes For The Blind

Best damn use-case for the blind. Now using a Phone is a bit too much for this but when smart glasses come, every blind person will have a walking companion.
The future is great for the blind.

5. Be My Friend

Too many people are lonely nowadays thanks to technology. It can be a boon for some but a con for others.
You can build a specialized app that gets you an AI Friend since you can talk to it now and it can talk back, it will be great.
I am 100% sure Therapy AI will be much better now with Audio/Video integration. In future, we will have fully featured Robots like Tesla's Optimus and Figure that will have such functionalities built-in.
I bet this comes in <2 years judging by the pace at which AI and Robotics are accelerating.

6. Comic Books

Now that text can be easily created with ChatGPT, why not create Comic Books easily.
Its a huge creative exercise for comic creators. Webtoons have exploded in popularity and many KDramas are made out of them like Death's Game and Marry My Husband.
This will increase the creativity exponentially.

7. Font Creations

Fonts are expensive. Like really expensive.
Funnily enough ChatGPT can create fonts easily now. Take the most popular fonts, tweak them a bit, and create entire new sets of fonts.
Look at the creations explode on Creative Market. Font directories like Typewolf can now create their own fonts easily as they already have distribution.
Open AI GPT-4o Text to Font

8. Brand Placements

It solved for Brand Placements too.
You can put your brand in places you never imagined without using too much effort.
Open AI GPT-4o Brand Placement

9. Poster Creation for Movies or TV Series

Posters are hard to get right but as you know there are only finite variations.
Open AI GPT-4o Movie Posters
You can fine-tune it on popular movie posters and solve Poster Creation once and for all.
Open AI GPT-4o Poster Creation
What use-cases can you come up with? Give me your best ones.
PS: If you'd like to read the full post with images, you can do so here.
PPS: You can find more AI-related posts here covering AI Girlfriends, AI Photo apps, Startups from 1st-wave of AI that made it big and more.

Episode=1,the creepy photo.The story starts with a golden high school in greeanville America where many children participate in the race.Ethan Parker.his parent name is James parker and Emily parker who is new in this city.ethan is a very good racer and his best friend Charlie Harris the one who always loses in the race and candy Addison who hates Ethan the most.the race begins. After a few minutes in the race, Candy tries to push Ethan again and again but Ethan does not give up and after a few seconds Ethan wins the race.After school Charlie goes to Ethan. Charlie said=hey Ethan you've done an amazing job, how do you run so fast! Ethan said=I have been practising racing since I was little! Charlie said=hey it's a good thing!.ethan said = let's go I am going home!.Charlie said = ok ethan we will meet online tonight!.ethan said = but for what!.Charlie said = what I have said is that I want to have a private talk with you it's a normal thing to get a laptop at night!.ethan said = ok we will meet at night! When ethan comes home, his grandfather and grandmother is there, ethan meets them and then goes to his room and does some school homework, after that he goes to meet his grandmother and grandfather, grandmother said – hey ethan we are waiting for you, ethan talks to his grandmother and grandfather, some time when he is going from there, ethen grandfather gives ethan his father's photo, ethan said=Who is he with dad? Grandfather said=ethan he is your dad's friend, he could have become a scientist, maybe he would have become one, but no one trusted him, so he got thrown out of many companies, only your dad supported him, tried to take him to his destination, but!etahan said=but what!grandfather said=it is a very long story, when your grandfather will come again then I will tell you the whole story!ethan said=I want to hear his story huh! Then those people are leaving.Charlie talks to Ethan at night. Charlie said = look at me Ethan..abh..aa! ethan said= what happened Charlie, everything is fine isn't it? Charlie said = everything is fine, what he did is that I have fallen in love! Then he becomes completely silent! Charlie said = what happened here, why are you not saying anything! Then he said = you called me online at night to tell me this I have called you! Charlie said = here look, you have to help me! Charlie said = now what should I do in this! Charlie said = here I will tell you what to do, look you are my best friend, won't you help your friend! ethan said=ok telk me what should i do!..Ethan helps Charlie! After talking to Charlie, Ethan goes to the kitchen to eat something Then he hears some strange sound, he tracks that sound and sees that the sound is coming from the basement ethan he searching that sound, that sound is coming from inside a bags, then he opens that bags, inside that bags there is a creepy face photo, that sound is coming from that photo, then he is going to put that photo in his ear, then suddenly his dad call him Ethan's dad asks him what he is doing in the basement so late at night. Ethan says, "Dad, a strange sound is coming from this creepy photo." Ethan's dad listens to the sound, but he can't hear any sound. Ethan says, "Dad, I am telling you the truth. There is a sound coming from this." Ethan's dad tells him to go to sleep.Ethan goes to his room and wonders what sound is coming out from that creepy photo.next day in school Charlie takes Ethan to the canteen. Ethan said, Charlie, which girlfriend do you have? Charlie said, look at her with long hair. Ethan said, you like her. Charlie said, look Ethan, no matter how she is, but she is cute for me. Ethan helps Charlie but he fails.Then suddenly there is a lightning strike, the weather starts getting bad and there is an announcement in the school to go home.Charlie said = The weather is a little weird today, it seems like something bad is going to happen. Ethan said = Why are you saying like this. Charlie said = I am telling you according to the weather. Ethan comes to his house he sees his parents going somewhere? Ethan said = mom, dad, where are you going? Ethan's dad said = my best friend his leg got fractured in an accident. Ethan said = should I also come? Mom said = no Ethan, you keep take cure of the house, it is important to look after the house as well.After a short while he eats food, then he sleep suddenly he hears a strange sound from the basement, and he goes to the basement again.and he opens that room, a sound is coming out from that creepy photo, ethan hears it from the other side, if someone wants to say something in that sound then ethan gets scared and keeps that photo in the pitAs Ethan turns back, a man with a strange face covered in blood comes in front of him, Ethan runs away through the door, closes the door of the basement and comes out of the house.After a few minutes, Ethan courageously goes inside the house, takes a weapon from the kitchen and goes to the basement but there is no one there, then the creepy man catches Ethan from behind and says=heyy .. Ethan, it is just starting now, soon everyone will die and first place is your dad's. Still the creepy man wants to eat Ethan.the end if u like then subscribe for upcoming episode 2!.

Hiiii! 28, female from North West, England. Not too sure what I'm looking looking for, other than someone to help combat the loneliness of life in general? I'm a very independent person and can appreciate my own company; however sometimes the silence can get me in my own head. Just someone to chat bubbles with, about anything, everything and all the inbetween. Someone who won't ghost, someone who's looking to be less lonely too! Those good morning and goodnight messages, that just make you feel like theres someone there for you 🤷‍♀️ I don't know.. maybe it's too much to ask for in this day and age? But I'll shoot my shot regardless!
A little about me to pad this out, so I can actually get a post approved! I'm a bookworm, read anything and everything - any recommendations? Hit me up with them! I particularly like romance and thrillers, but I'm down to read anything. I have cats! They're cute, so I always welcome seeing your pet photos! I'm what I'd call an 'experimental' chef, I see things to cook and try.. they always turn out bad.. or they set the smoke alarm off, soooooo any cooking tips would be much appreciated!
Looking for solely sfw chats, definitely not wanting to see your trouser snake, or looking to send you nudes or the likes. Innocence!
Hope to chat soon! If not, continue to have a fantastic end of the week & a fab weekend! 🧡

Hiiii! 28, female from North West, England. Not too sure what I'm looking looking for, other than someone to help combat the loneliness of life in general? I'm a very independent person and can appreciate my own company; however sometimes the silence can get me in my own head. Just someone to chat bubbles with, about anything, everything and all the inbetween. Someone who won't ghost, someone who's looking to be less lonely too! Those good morning and goodnight messages, that just make you feel like theres someone there for you 🤷‍♀️ I don't know.. maybe it's too much to ask for in this day and age? But I'll shoot my shot regardless!
A little about me to pad this out, so I can actually get a post approved! I'm a bookworm, read anything and everything - any recommendations? Hit me up with them! I particularly like romance and thrillers, but I'm down to read anything. I have cats! They're cute, so I always welcome seeing your pet photos! I'm what I'd call an 'experimental' chef, I see things to cook and try.. they always turn out bad.. or they set the smoke alarm off, soooooo any cooking tips would be much appreciated!
Looking for solely sfw chats, definitely not wanting to see your trouser snake, or looking to send you nudes or the likes. Innocence!
Hope to chat soon! If not, continue to have a fantastic end of the week & a fab weekend! 🧡

ik this is long, but i would really appreciate it if you do read this whole thing. this is hard for me to talk about, but i seriously do need advice on this. there’s a lot:
so a little background on me: i’ve been in a couple of serious relationships in the past and they’ve all ended poorly with me being taken advantage of and hurt both physically and emotionally. i have been cheated on numerous times and have been abused physically, emotionally, and sexually in numerous relationships. however, even with all of this, ive never broken off a relationship before. it has always been the other person.
onto my situation: my girlfriend and i often have disagreements about past relationships and friendships. we both have different views on it. she sees nothing wrong with continuing friendships with her past relationships or hookups, some of which have been abusive and hurt her a lot. she is a big believer in second chances and fears the thought of letting people go. she loves really hard and cares very deeply for people. she does, however, make it clear to these friends that she is in a relationship and does not have romantic feelings towards them, aside from admitting that she still had feelings for one of them to me. she believes that it shouldn’t matter who she hangs out with as long as they’re not doing anything they shouldn’t be. i, on the other hand, believe that holding onto past relationships and past hurt hinders your ability to move forward into better and healthier relationships. i’ve taken a lot of time to reflect on my past relationships and grow from the hurt to be the person that i am today. for clarity, i am not in contact with any of my past partners, whether it be a serious relationship or a hookup. and i truthfully am not entirely sure where i stand on it. i too believe in second chances, but i also believe that when some relationships end, they’re meant to end entirely and not continue or start up again a few months later as a friendship.
how im honestly feeling: i love this girl with everything and i really do want her to be the one. she means the world to me and our relationship is always my top priority. i am far from perfect and i know that there are times where i do make mistakes or hurt her. but all i want is for things to work out between us because she means so much to me. it would be my dream to spend the rest of my life with her. she has been hurt a lot in the past and i do see that shown at times, but she is a really good person. she says how much she is trying and i believe it. she says she never wants to hurt me and that she prioritizes me and our relationship and i believe it. what’s difficult is, because ive never broken off a serious relationship before, i don’t know where to draw the line or when to say that a certain amount of hurt is too much. there are decisions that she makes knowing that they will hurt me. for example, seeing her abusive ex that she still has feelings for. it was her first serious relationship and he is moving soon, so she wanted a final goodbye with him. they met up at a park and talked for about an hour before parting ways. however, in her words, it was not a final goodbye. while her seeing him hurt both of us, i will admit that i was not clear with her that it would hurt me. i am a people pleaser and, while i do often give my opinion in the form of saying “i think that’s a bad idea” or “i don’t think that’s what’s best for you”, i do struggle a lot with drawing a firm line and saying no to certain things. and “i think thats a bad idea” is exactly what i said this first time seeing him. she wanted to see him a second time in hopes that it would be different and would be a final goodbye. however, this time i was much more clear and said that it would hurt me and it would hurt our relationship and i told her no. a couple of nights later, she texted me saying that she was going to hang out with one of her friends who she often hangs out with (yes, someone she had romantic feelings for in the past). i said okay because they’ve hung out in the past and their relationship is friendly now. she came back and everything was fine, like normal. then, the following evening, she broke down crying to me, saying that she didn’t hang out with her friend, but instead lied to me and went to see this ex again. she said it still wasn’t a final goodbye and she was adamant that nothing had happened and they just went stargazing and talked, but, understandably, i was still very hurt. but the next morning, things went back to normal as if it had never happened. as i’ve said previously, i don’t like to dwell in the past and definitely don’t enjoy bringing up the past mistakes of others. but it did really hurt me and i told her it was going to. and she chose to do it anyways. this is one of numerous instances where this has happened in our relationship. and it is just so hard for me to understand why. i prioritize her and our relationship over any friendship because she is my best friend. and i easily prioritize her and our relationship over any past relationship. i would never do something or say something knowing that it would hurt her. and when i do hurt her, i feel awful and apologize. she does too, but i just can’t understand why she chooses to do things knowing that they’re going to hurt me and our relationship. from the way that i view it, that just doesn’t make sense to me. she says she loves me so much and never wants to hurt me, but her actions suggest otherwise at times. like if she really does prioritize our relationship and doesn’t want to hurt me, why does she choose to anyways? back to the example, the first time i can let go and see as a mistake or a miscommunication. i don’t blame her because it didn’t go as she had planned on it going. however, the second time was a choice in my eyes and that just really hurts. i often feel like i draw a line, but then keep pushing it and pushing it so that, in my mind, she doesn’t cross it. how can we best compromise on this. so that it doesn’t continue hurting me and our relationship? am i caring too much?
TLDR: often feel like i draw a line, but then keep pushing it and pushing it so that, in my mind, she doesn’t cross it. how can we best compromise on this so that it doesn’t continue hurting me and our relationship? am i caring too much?

I'm 18 yo guy in a 5 month relationship with an 18 yo girl

1. Before we started dating, she asked me to inform my mom to avoid future issues. Though my mom initially disagreed, she eventually accepted. My girlfriend was ecstatic when my mom talked to her. Now, my whole family knows about her, but her family doesn't, as she can't discuss it with them yet.
   
2. She's very popular in college, and though I trust her, I feel insecure because she's in a different batch and has a group with other boys who like her. She promised to end any friendship if a guy proposes to her. She has only ever dated me.
   
3. She wanted our relationship kept secret, but I mistakenly told a few friends. This breach caused a rift, and for the last three months, things haven't been the same. She used to call me daily and get upset if I replied late. Now, she rarely calls, and our interactions are dry. Despite my apologies, her behavior hasn't changed much.
   

She promised to marry me in the future and reassured me she still feels the same, but her actions are inconsistent. She says her behavior isn't hurting me, but my expectations are. She hasn't mentioned breaking up but has blocked me on Snapchat and was blocked on WhatsApp for three weeks.
I shared my family issues with her, and she showed care briefly but then reverted to being distant. She lives 23 km away, and though I can visit her, she doesn't want to go out. When I stopped texting her, she got upset, even though she was ignoring me.
(the first time when we go out, i asked her if I can drop her to her aunt's home and then she said no (but after few mins her brother like male friend told me that she wants me to drop her to her aunt's home, you can imagine how she's hiding her emotions and neglecting things but in real she wants it... At that time I was directly gonna drop her but she said she don't wanna go there directly she wanna spend some time with me, at that time I believed she has much to say and confession but always been hiding it... I know I'll sound illogical or dramatic but I wants to get back to my that gf behaviour as it was used to, like I was using my mobile to search something at that time and she said "don't use your mobile, just talk to me for now" and I really felt that love at that time but now...😔)
(She still have same feelings for me and wants to marry me in future)
Questions:- - How can I regain her trust? - Can we rebuild our bond through chatting alone? - What should I consider while texting her? - How can I convince her to go out with me? - How long might it take to restore her trust? - Should I keep apologizing and asking for her trust?
I'm looking for natural advice so that it can be helpful for me...

This is a WALL of text. Read it or ignore it if you'd like to. I like putting opinions out there, and listening to what others have to say.
“Arsenal watching city going 1 up after hate watching”
I feel like I've never seen more fans hate watching while 0 Arsenal supporters do so.Spurs fans consistently hate watching when we got into the champions league.
Arsenal, when they were down to Luton, had so many hate-watchers. So many shitty fans calling us hate watchers, then watching every single city and arsenal game to try and clown us.
But I’ve never really seen Arsenal fans as hate watchers… There may be a couple of examples I haven’t seen, but from what I've seen our “Hate watching” has come down to seeing how interesting games can be. When City goes up 1, I try to keep watching (from NZ, so time zones are a bitch) because I like football and I’m interested. I got to 3-0 city vs Fulham before I fell asleep.
Just funny going onto twitter and reading chelsea fans saying ”CITTTEHHHHHH” n such. A bit of a guilty pleasure is reading idiotic posts on twitter.
The Social Media Fans
Social media fans are rampant and are now seen as “The fans of the club” which is insane, because 90% of them have never been to England, let alone a game. And will look at a scoreline/highlights to determine what they think, And look at a team’s name to determine what the result should be.
Trust, I’ve watched full games back from time to time, and goddamn the picture is soooooooo different, from watching highlights, or reading a timeline.
Not sure about certain supporters who live within England, and It may be “banter” but it gets tiring hearing “We all hate Arsenal fans” when you actively have so many more Chelsea, and United fans screaming in your ears about every little thing, while supporting their rivals…
I hate the “pray for (insert team)” but the more of a meme it becomes the better, it’s just sad that they come with some of the most delusional takes ever, from people who don’t pay attention to how other teams are performing. And that they’re not just “food” for us to eat, it’s a competitive league for a reason.
Supporting the Dominant Team
I also find it insane that such a large group of people would rather see a team, with 115+ charges (who have been constantly avoiding them), while also spending billions to win the league for the 6th time in 7 years, over a team which is having a rise to glory. Just because “It’s arsenal”. While if you look back a couple months, everyone is complaining about city.
Also when did the fact where everyone hates the dominant team, and wants to see others rising not become a thing? F1 had it with Hamilton, now verstappen. NZ rugby has it with the crusaders (absolute cunts btw), and it happened with Golden State in the NBA, and now the nuggets.
Clubs who talk about history to prove they’re better now
It’s so common I see fans talk about trophies as if they mean “We’re the best team in the world”, Chelsea fans are great at this, bringing back a champions league where they only have 3 of those players, and a completely different management and ownership.
I just hope that this is banter, and not actual delulu. Hard for me to tell, or even certain teams talking about european trophies (cough cough west ham *cough cough*), where it is amazing they got it, but bring a top 4 / 5 team, who wants to win that competition, and they’ll win it almost every time.
What defines big clubs to me is, how good is your club now, and how many fans around the world do you have. Man United has the fans, but the team quality due to injuries wouldn’t help them to be the “biggest club”. The reason Barcelona vs Real was so big was because they were the best in the world, with the best players, and the most fans. Barcelona are a smaller club now (still huge), because the names aren’t as big, and they aren’t as competitive as they used to be. But still will have a ton of fans.
Teams Succeeding???
For me, I don’t like spurs, the mentality, the supporters, the scummy tactics. But I do want to see the team succeed in the competition (I Also like Ange and his story). I’m happy Aston Villa is doing well, I’m happy Liverpool had a bounce back season, and I'm happy Newcastle have started to find their footing.
And this is because you want a competitive league. We DON’T want a Bayern situation. Everyone always wanted Dortmund to win it, or at least another team, and look at the celebrations now that Leverkusen has done it. Bundesliga got 5 champions league spots, not only because of what happened in the Champion league, but you have Bayern, Dortmund, Leverkusen, Stuttgart, Frankfurt, RB Leipzig all becoming more and more competitive. (Even though the disparity between 1-8 and 9-18 is big) it’s a step in a good direction.
Winning the League?
I’ve supported Arsenal since I was 7, because playing Fifa 12 with my older brothers, I thought the cannon was cool. I’ve been on and off for a while, but Arteta brought me back (And my degen phase of 4 hours of sleep has kicked in)
These years have taught me to never expect our team to win anything, till the final whistle of the final game. Very fucking sad, but it’s true. I will celebrate every win, Look back at every loss, watch every minute I can despite being sleep deprived, and love every moment, because I fucking love this club. I don’t care if we win the Premier league this season or not, I have no hope, but that could be my bleak outlook. But it was the same last season. I wait for the final whistle of the final game, then having the trophy or not, might give me a little more happiness.
But by far the most important thing for a depressed, mentally ill, sleep deprived, University student. Is when I see posts about the players, the club, the staff and the fans. And it makes me smile. As simple as seeing Gabriel and Saliba partnership being praised and them being “future” of Arsenal, makes me smile now, and gives me the moments of happiness which sadly, fade quickly. But they’re there.
Lastly PLEASE for the love of this club, never stop talking about the small cute things our players do, the celebrities involved, the nicknames we give our players, the new chants created. That character is what makes this club fucking beautiful.

I’ve been with my husband for a couple of years now, married a few months. I caught him out in a pretty big lie last weekend and it’s unravelled so many things. So many times that I thought that what he was saying was strange, or seemed far-fetched all make sense now. The lies aren’t even big or to hide something that would hurt someone’s feelings, it’s just small stuff but the lie is what makes it huge for me. I’ll give a couple of examples to provide a bit of context:
EXAMPLE 1
When we met, he told me he had tried to kill himself in a car crash when he was 19, that it was a split second decision and to never tell his parents because it would crush them. I dutifully kept his secret.
A few days ago, I found out that there was someone else in the car from an offhand comment made by one of his parents. When I asked him later why he had lied about it, he said that he didn’t remember the crash, has no memories before or for a while after. I asked why he would try to kill himself with someone else in the car. He maintained that “it was a bit about killing myself”, before restating that he had no memory and “I don’t know what to tell you”. Very defensive, yelling and crying.
I asked him again a couple of days later (in one of our attempts to resolve the situation) saying that either he has lied to me since we met, or he tried to take someone else out with him. He said he didn’t remember but that he thought it was suicide because he was so deeply unhappy at that time in his life. I said “so you tried to take your girlfriend out with you? Because that’s murder”. He then said he didnt know the real reason. I then asked why he would definitively tell me it was a suicide attempt if he didn’t know the real reason. He couldn’t tell me. I then asked why he seemed to remember specifics when I asked him at the start of the relationship (“I was driving home from dads after dinner, it was a split second decision”) but now couldn’t even tell me if it was an accident or suicide. Admitted that it was silly to claim suicide attempt, but still didnt admit to lying.
EXAMPLE 2
I received a sapphire bracelet from my mum for Christmas last year. Boxing Day, he told me that “oh sapphire! it’s just like the ring my mum got you”. I asked him what he was talking about, and he said he didn't know. I said “no, your mum got me emerald earrings”. He said “ah yes that’s what I must have been thinking about”. I knew something was up but I left it at that because we were at family's house.
Later I asked him directly if his mum had given a sapphire ring to his ex. He said no, he was just confused about the earrings. I said I wouldn’t care, but that I don't want to be lied to. He said no, he was just confused.
Two weeks later his mum was on the phone on speaker (she didn't realise she was on speaker) and she said “I’ve asked for that sapphire ring back from [ex] and given it to [sister in law]”. I told him “I fucking knew it, why did you lie to me?” He said he didn't remember and that he genuinely got confused, and that he was “an idiot” for not remembering. I told him I’d be far more upset about being lied to than I would about a gift your mum gave to someone before we met. He said “I know, and that’s why I’m not lying to you!”
In all the other current issues going on, I brought this issue up again in the context of the other lies. The conversation went like this:
Me: Why did you lie to me about that, even when your mum mentioned it? Him: I already told you, I got confused, I totally forgot Me: How did you forget when I asked you directly, with specifics? I asked you “Did your mum give a sapphire ring to [ex’s name]” and you told me no. Him: I got my wires crossed, I was talking about the earrings Me: but you specifically mentioned a sapphire ring, which was exactly what it was. Him: I don’t remember who she gave it to. Me: So you do remember there was a ring… then why didn’t it jog your memory when I asked you directly? Him: I already apologised for this, we’ve been through this Me: What? No, after your mum got off the phone, you told me again that you’d forgot about it and you couldn’t remember anything about it. Him: Yeah, after the phone call with mum - we had a conversation the next day which I vividly remember where I told you I lied so as not to hurt your feelings.
I have no recollection of this conversation, but it would directly contradict claims he made seconds prior about ‘getting his wires crossed’, thinking it was about my earrings, and having no memory of it. When I asked why he had contradicted himself, he said he didn’t understand. It’s making me feel crazy.
There are actually many more examples like this, but over and over again, I’ve told him that I can handle the truth, but begged him not to lie to me. I caught him out in a lie in the first couple of months of us dating. When he said it was to protect my feelings, I told him that I would rather the truth than a lie from him. He promised never to lie to me again.
Over the last couple of years, he has sent me texts like:
“I felt absolutely stupid and embarrassed when I lied to you ages ago. And I told you it will not happen again. And it hasn’t.”
“I don’t lie to you”
“I’m so glad I have you. I can be my true self with you. I love the complete openness and honesty in our relationship. All we want is the best for one another”
”I asked myself something last night about us. Just in quiet reflection. Would I tell you everything and anything even if it would upset you? Like would I even make up little white lies to avoid anything crappy and I was like nah. I am cellophane with you. But frosted glass with everyone else”
“I love you so much. I promise to tell you everything and always devote myself to you”
He has repeatedly told me that he would never lie to me as “you know everything anyway, do you think I could lie to you?”
When faced with all of the above, he admits that he's got a problem with lying and says he’s turned a new leaf, that he knows what he needs to do, and that from now on it will be complete honesty.
In light of everything, how do I know that this is the truth, and not another lie?? All of my trust in him has gone, along with any respect I had for him. Everything he's saying to me just feels like lip service.
I know the above seems like a lot, but I’m only asking so many questions about these issues and others in the last couple of days because suddenly everything is making sense. A number of events that I went “huh, that’s weird” over the last two years but took him at face value and brushed off are all coming back into focus. I’m trying to get him to admit to lying for things that I know for a fact he has lied about. I’m trying to get him to understand that he can’t just give me something that doesn’t make sense and expect me to believe it.
HE is the one who asks me daily to talk about the issues we're facing, to tell how I'm feeling or what I'm thinking etc. He brings it up, so I explain to him what doesn't make sense to me or what I'm trying to process.
I ask him questions so that I can understand what his story is, and how that interacts with the facts that I know. When he’s defensive and contradicting himself instead of being honest and saying “yeah I made that up”. The fact that I’ve told him that I just want the truth and he still can’t admit to it indicates that there’s a problem - I even held a “safe space lie amnesty” a couple of days ago where I said I just wanted to know what he’s lied about so we can move forward. A lie you’ve gotten yourself tangled in is one thing. Repeated and continuous lying even in the face of contradictory facts is concerning. Despite my repeatedly telling him I can handle the truth, he maintains lies that have no value. Most of the lies he's told me couldn't even be considered to be for a reason - if it was to protect my feelings I'd get it, but some of them are just for attention.
These are not two isolated incidents, these are two of maybe ten events that I can recall from the last 2 years that have always been weird to me, but I kinda brushed them under the rug until recently when I realised there was something else going on.
I don’t think it’s too much to ask from a man who has repeatedly told me how much he values the honesty and openness in our relationship to show me those same values. He is not a man who has ever even indicated that he wanted to have his own space or privacy, in fact, he jumped into the relationship with "we should have each other's phone passcodes and be able to look at it whenever we want because we have absolutely nooooooo secrets". That was a bit of a shock to my system, but I thought 'hey, if this man wants full transparency and openness then let's go for it'.
Sometimes I’m furious and can’t stand the sight of him and other times I think it’s not such a big deal. I don’t know if I even really know how I feel about it. Sometimes merely annoyed, other times completely betrayed.
So…. AITAH for considering ending the marriage?

So one of my(20F) best friends (18F) like to go out partying together. She's single and I'm in a relationship with another woman. She wants to talk to guys but I personally get really uncomfortable when guys talk to me, I just want to be left alone to dance and enjoy my night. Of course I don't blame men for talking to me, since I'm here without a partner and for all they know I'm straight.
So to resolve this issue I decided to wear a certain bag. It's the Flying Tiger rainbow tote that I see everywhere. I liked the colours and design, and such a colourful bag looks amazing with the black outfits I often wear. So I got the bag, wore it to some clubs and there was no problem.
Until one day my friend says she has an issue with that bag. She said that she heard people yell "homo" at me. I'm usually one to notice sounds the others I'm with don't hear so I was surprised I never heard that being yelled at me. She's saying she's afraid to get hate crimed because I wear this rainbow flag and that makes her uncomfortable. I said to her "Are you sure it's not just because it ruins your game", cause if that was the case, no issue at all. She goes out to talk to guys and that bag ruins the whole point of going out. She said "I mean yeah that too haha". I let it be for a bit and just brought a black tote. But thinking about it made me feel a bit weird. I know it's not the most subtle rainbow, but she is getting in the way of me expressing my pride and partying comfortably. And it's based on an fear of getting hatecrimed, which is really rare in my country, especially in my city, where crime rates are incredibly low.
So the next day I texted her that I think it's really weird how I should hide my sexuality because she is uncomfortable of living through just a slither of the homophobia I face on a daily basis when I'm with my girlfriend. In response she said something along the lines of "but I'm uncomfortable and scared is that not reason enough" which is kinda fair I guess? Still, I feel like it's either homophobia lite or just what is in her eyes a better reason to not wear that bag to perserve her game.
And of course I could bring my girlfriend but that's not a good idea for two reasons: my girlfriend currently lives abroad for a while with her parents because of financial reasons, and my friend doesn't like my girlfriend (not without a reason might I add)
I'm not gonna wear that bag again because I think it's gonna cause unneeded problems in our friendship if I do, but I also just wanna know if I'm an asshole for giving her shit for not wanting me to wear it.
What do you all think?

Hi reddit!
2 months ago I met this girl in Korea and we instantly clicked. She is intelligent and passionate about many things. From the day we met we have pretty much been seeing each other almost every day and now we even stay together. It seems to be moving fast but we get along quite well and its the first time she has ever lived with someone like this.
I started to notice a few red flags that I tried to ignore at first. I noticed she would get several Instagram DM notifications from guys and they all tended to be foreigners like me. When I asked how she knows so many guys, she said they were just friends and that I shouldn't worry. I never want to be a paranoid controlling boyfriend so I just took her word for it and moved on.
Later, she casually mentioned that she cheated several times on her ex. I asked how she could feel okay with that and she said that she feels no guilt because he never found out and therefore never got hurt. She also mentioned how her best friend cheats on all her boyfriends and that she thinks there is nothing wrong with it as long as they never find out. I told her that this means she will probably cheat on me too but she said I was different and that I am the first guy who she feels in love with and wants to settle down with.
This tension came to a head when I noticed she was texting a guy on Instagram and agreeing to meet up with him for a drink. When she exited the message I saw a list of guys in her inbox and in one of them, she called the guy babe. I also saw she was still texting her ex and another guy who she intended to meet when she goes to London in August. I went to our room, packed my bags and was ready to leave right there and then until she noticed what I was doing and begged me to talk to her and tell her what was wrong. I told her everything and she explained that she had no intention of meeting anyone and that she calls everyone babe. She apparently only said those things just to gently decline men's invitations later on when she would just flake on them. She then said that those men had girlfriends so there was no way she could possibly date them and she even offered to show me her messages so that I could trust her. I said no because I didn't want to set a toxic precedent for this relationship.
She said that she's not used to being in a serious committed relationship and assumed we were in a situationship and that's why she still talked to those men. But earlier on in our relationship she said she hoped I wasn't still talking to girls I met online. So there's some hypocrisy at work too.
There was another incident when I wanted to show her my favorite film, A Clockwork Orange, and it did not go well. She said she was disgusted, which is fair because it is a dark film. But then she said that maybe I'm not the guy she thought I was because I like this film. She was upset and went to bed.
The other night we went to a club, which really isn't my thing. We met her friend and I told her to have fun while I go outside and chill. Things were fine until I saw her talking to a bunch of guys and I could see by the body language that she was talking and gazing at this one tall guy with keen interest. I ignored it until I saw them exchange each other's Instagram's. There is nothing wrong with that alone, but I could just feel that deep inside she was attracted to this one tall guy and I could see it in her eyes and posture. So I decided to leave. I was about to leave in my uber until she came running out and told me she can't believe I'm leaving without her. Turns out her friend saw me leaving and told her so she panicked and ran out the club.
I told her that I could just feel that she was liked the male attention and it felt like she was monkey branching. She told me she just wanted connections for when she went to England. Turns out these guys came from the UK. She then begged me to trust her and started posting me on her IG story to let people know she wasn't single.
She tells me how she praises me in front of her friends and family and that I'm the first guy she has ever truly felt something for. She says she is trying her best to make me feel secure by ghosting all her male Instagram buddies and promising that she will never cheat. She smothers me with affection and always tells me how much she adores me. Trust me, I feel like an idiot because these are huge red flags and yet I'm still with her. The only reason I am with her is because I'm just not that much invested into this relationship and I don't feel hurt that deeply by these red flags. I know that I can just find someone else if this relationship doesn't work out so I'm taking this casually.
My question to reddit is not whether I should leave or not (because I think we all know the answer to that), but what do you think will happen if I continue this relationship? I hope you guys can share your experiences so that I am more motivated to rip off the band aid and just end things here and now.
TL;DR: My 2 month girlfriend has a history of cheating and she loves to get male attention and I have seen her texting exes and calling a guy babe on instagram. She promised me that she will never do anything to break my trust again and that she really does see me as a potential husband. What will happen if I continue this relationship? Will things get worse the longer it continues? Thanks everyone.

I (26M) and gf (26F) has been together for over 4 years. We have no children and don’t live together. My mother is basically a single mother to me and my 3 sisters ages 18,11 &6. My mother currently unable to hold stable jobs because of some situations going on with her,so I sometimes help out. I live in Trinidad and all I’ve done for my mother and siblings since around Christmas was help out with about 350 USD (2700 in my currency). Which isn’t a crazy amount.
My girlfriend sent me this text months afterwards.THIS IS THE TEXT BELOW
A few times and both times on our anniversary you would’ve said that you would like to carry your mom out to the same place because she’d like it. I find it very unnatural and a bit uncomfortable that you taking an experience we had and transforming it into another experience that you either wish you had or that you want to have. You’ve done that on our both anniversaries or any other experience that we had really and I don’t really like the comparing thing it makes me feel like our experience was insignificant.
Also the thing with the pta meeting. That whole situation is unnatural to me. Ik that you are a good son and big brother but that whole acting like “them children” father is a bit too much. Ik you care and love them and I admire that really but you act like your only happiness comes from “fathering” them. It’s your mother’s responsibility and all you could do is help but the way you act as though you are their father. You also act like you trying to prove something and idk why you feel like that.
If you wondering why it feels unnatural to me it’s because when we had pregnancies scares or even when I talk about how everybody pregnant. You have such a bad reaction like that would be the worst situation. But you so happy to put your whole mental and financials on the line for them and if it’s me that would be so bad. Ik we not there yet it’s not about making no baby now it’s about your reaction and everything that comes after it. END OF TEXT
TL;DR:Girlfriend says the way I am with my family is unnatural and it seems like she’s jealous. It made me feel so confused as to where this came from.Its caused a rift between us and I can’t seem to let it go, even though she said it wasn’t an attack.

I'm a 28-year-old man who moved to a new city three years ago, ending my relationship with my long-term girlfriend. I've been dating frequently since then, initially casually, but more recently with the intention of finding a lasting relationship. I've been on dates with around 60 different women, most of them only once, and some for 5+ dates, but not many have sparked my interest enough to pursue further.
-LONG POST- A few weeks ago, I reinstalled Tinder and matched with a woman (A) of the same age. Her profile was managed by her best friend (B) as she couldn't be bothered. B and I chatted briefly before A took over. We discovered that we were going to the same club that weekend, so we decided to meet there. Both A and B are hilarious and we talk for maybe an hour or so outside. One of the things we talk about is dating and she tells me she came out of a 7 year long relationship last summer and has only been on 3 dates since, one of them which ended up being catastrophic but a fun story. I also met some more of A's friends who seemed to approve of me as they’d seen my profile too, they told me that they hoped they’d see me again. We all say goodbye and me and A keep talking through Tinder. Everything feels great and her friends have already met and veto:ed me! Next week me and B finally meet one-on-one and holy shit, everything feels so extremely natural. She’s funny, empathetic and easy-going. Coming from my own dating experiences I realized quite quickly that this is something special, I’d never felt things going this well before as she was so easy to talk to. Apparently she had turned 29 the day before. We grabbed some beers at different bars until late evening where we walked back to the metro. On the way we stopped at a viewing point with an amazing night view of the city and kissed for a bit there. I told her I had a really nice feeling about her and she said likewise. I had a smile on my face going back home. After saying goodbye I messaged her on Tinder and asked for her number which she was happy to give me and we continued on the convo there.
We had been talking clothes/fashion shortly during the first date and she asked me couple of days later if we were going to do the shopping date as a next date to which I responded “Sure! If you think that sounds fun. Or I could cook you some food?” to which she said something like “Yes let’s do it! Let’s save the dinner at home for another time, although it sounds amazing!”. We scheduled for Friday the same week and we kept talking throughout the whole week through text with good banter.
Friday comes and we meet up for some shopping. I had gotten her a nicer chocolate as a late birthday gift, something inexpensive but thoughtful. She loved it. We go to several stores and also a sports store as she needed to look at some cycling gear. It felt like we were really good friends and that we had known each other for longer that we actually had. After an hour or two she wanted to grab a beer as she was exhausted and I suggested a nearby bar but we ended up going to my office since it has a nice terrace to enjoy the sunset at. I grabbed us couple of beers and we just sat the rest of the evening talking about everything, getting to know each other further. At one point, she facetimed B and we all talked a bit. I asked B jokingly “When am I going to be seeing you again?” to which A asked me “What are you doing tomorrow? I’m hosting a late birthday celebration”. I responded that I was going to a dinner with a friend but then no further plans. She said “Let’s talk tomorrow and see”. Later during the evening we both opened up a bit more. She works as a nurse and did that during Covid and talked about the first time she saw people die and how hard it was on her. I felt like she was very comfortable sharing her thoughts, but that might've been because that's what she's used to in her earlier relationship? We kissed a lot too during the evening, which she seem to enjoy and also initiate. we even fondled each other a bit but it didn’t go further than that since we weren’t at home. I pointed out when we were talking that I felt it was nice that she was talking in a way that implicitly meant that she thought we were going to continue seeing each other. And she responded with that I do it too. At last, she said she was tired and we decided to call it quits and kissed goodbye.
Come Saturday, we text a bit and I ask her during the evening how the party’s going. She responds an hour later that she didn’t have her phone and she’s been busy but everything’s going great and she asks how we’re doing. I respond and also ask her if me and my friend could maybe come over? Another late respond and she tells us that tonight might not be a good time, wishing me a good night. A bit bummed but i realized it might’ve been early for me to join in on a party like that with her close friends even though I met most of them already at the club we met at.
Sunday and we text sporadically about our day, I ask her on Monday if she’d like to take a picnic in the sun after work on Wednesday and she responds that “She’s been thinking during the weekend and feels like she’s not emotionally ready to keep seeing me. Which sucks because I’m great in so many ways but she wanted to say it early to not drag me along.”
I was a bit surprised and saddened by this, but also confused. My female friends suggested that perhaps things were moving too fast and that my openness about my feelings might have scared her away. Like f.e me saying things like “I have a good feeling about you.”, “It feels like we’ve known each other for longer than we actually have” and generally formulating sentences in a way that indicates that I want to keep seeing her. I thought I was paying her compliments and showing my seriousness towards her. It’s hard for me to not overanalyze the final date, if it was something that I said or did (or did not do), but I know that doesn’t really help me. In hindsight, I probably liked her more (and showed that) than she did me, even though she liked my company.
I talked to my therapist briefly about it and she kind of confirmed my suspicions but also told me that she probably has a totally different reference frame when it comes to dating and that she might’ve gotten scared as she has barely seen what options are out there. She didn’t think it was impossible that A might reach out to me but advised me to lay low for a month or two and maybe then shoot her a text and ask how she’s doing in an attempt to rekindle things maybe.
What are your thoughts about all of this?

i have a friend of the opposite sex (21M) that i have a crush on but i can't perceive what his certain actions mean
he's always very teasing with me, makes it his life goal to annoy me / is always poking fun at me (examples: us going swimming together with some friends - only us left in the lane and i was talking to him and he starts flicking water towards me //
in the library i chastise him for coming but napping the entire time so he looks at me for five seconds and blinks rapidly and says "read your books!!" /
celebrating our mutual friend's birthday together and while everyone else was gathered around the cake making sure the candle wouldn't be put out by the wind before she blew it, we were standing back together and he takes out his lighter and is like "do you want to blow it out?" so he lights the lighter and i blow it out and he's like "okay now we don't have to go through all this fanfare for your birthday ;)"
and sideways complimenting me like when discussing going clubbing he would say stuff like "because you're quite pretty you'd attract a lot of attention" or "you'd be a hot commodity at the club" etc trying to warn me against going to the club or stuff like "you're so pale" (a compliment where we're from) "you're not short at all" "you don't need to lose weight at all" "you're the fastest girl i've ever shopped with"
or i'd say something like "oh i met a group of people from my country today" and he's like "guys?" and i'd have to correct him (the gender really wasn't the point of my text...)
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but sometimes he mentions other girls and it makes me confused on what he means by it
like when i joked he should turn on his location for me (because he wouldn't get to our planned location fast enough) he was like "if i turn on my location for you how am i supposed to get a girlfriend then?"
or "of course i don't like A (girl who's interested in him), she's been so upfront about it if i were interested it would have happened"
or when i asked him where he went since he was out at 4 AM he was like "i was just out eating mcdonalds and ramen w friends if i was out chasing a girl you guys would have know way earlier ;) "
so it just all makes me very confused - why does he keep on bringing up other girls? is he trying to keep me in the friendzone or sending a signal?

I’ve been dating my current girlfriend for 6 months, and things have gone great so far. We go on cute dates, do things for each other, and she challenges me to be a better version of myself.
For context, My previous relationship ended after almost 9 years due to being cheated on and it caused me to lose confidence in myself and my trust in others. I’ve been working on my mental health the past year and a half, and after a while I felt comfortable getting back out there and trying again. This is where I met my current girlfriend, after going on a few not so successful dates with some other people online.
From the start she’s been kind and someone I can easily talk to. However, she’s very stern about certain things and thinks very differently than I do. For instance she still messages one of her ex’s. They dated years ago and live in different states now. He has a fiancé and they seem happy from what’s she’s told me. I believe she shared that to reassure me, as this has been a point of contention for us. She says she brags about me to him and I shouldn’t worry.
For the most part I have accepted that they’re just friends, as she and I fought over this before. She said that she feels like she can’t share part of her life with me (her friends) because she doesn’t like the way I react. My face “changes” when she mentions her guy friends or this ex in particular. Or that’s what she tells me.
I really don’t mind that she has guy friends, but the ex thing seems weird at times. Like I was under the impression that he knew more about us since she brags about us, but she told me yesterday as she was laughing that he didn’t even know my name until that day..? When I brought this up she said it was because she didn’t want to share too much until it was more serious. But she said she’s already thinking about rings.
But I also haven’t ever seen her socials. Granted, I don’t really use them myself but she’s pretty active on hers. I’m afraid of the absolute worst at times. We don’t Snapchat (I actually have one of those), she doesn’t send me selfies.
Like for instance she got a Snapchat notification saying “so&so added you back!” But her telling me she doesn’t know who it was and she doesn’t remember adding them.
That last one is kinda close to how I kind out my ex was cheating on me last time… But I said maybe it’s from before we started dating. And she said that must be it.
My fear is that she wasn’t maybe fully committed to me for the first few months we dated or something? Maybe?
I know I’m still insecure and I still have things to work on but right now it’s very Late and I’m up thinking about everything.
I have recently started therapy so I know I still have work to do.
It’s only been six months and I really do love her. I feel differently for her than I ever did for my ex. I see a future with her and she has been so very patient with me so far these past 6 months but are these red flags? Posting here just for opinions and maybe some advice. I don’t want to talk to people I know IRL about this. I know I want to be with her, I’m certain there, I’m just maybe looking to see if my feelings are valid
TL;DR my gf texts her ex and other guys and sends them snapchats but not me. We’ve been dating for 6 months and her ex just now learned my name despite them talking often. Red flags?