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Not Able to Sleep on Her Own
2024.05.16 13:23 sockline Not Able to Sleep on Her Own
A little backstory: my family and I have moved quite a bit over the last 8 years and the longest my daughter(8f) has lived in the same city is 3 years. She’s lived in 8 different houses. For the last 5 years, my MIL has also lived with us. Sleep has also been an issue throughout her life (not being able to stay asleep and only falling asleep if theres an adult in the room with her). I have tried everything to put her in a stable place with clear expectations for sleeping but the other adults in my home cave in when she gets upset and either let her sleep with them (MIL) or go in her room to sleep in there. After I got pregnant again and had a new baby it was just easier to ignore it since I was the one dealing with baby wake ups/feedings etc.
Now fast forward to today, I finally put my foot down in January when she turned 8 that was she going to start sleeping in her room on her own. It’s been rocky. She wakes up 1-2 times every night and wakes me up crying that she can’t go back to sleep without an adult in her room. I have tried talking with her pediatrician, offering incentives, discussing what’s going on with her brain when she feels that way, and grounding her. During the day, she will agree that she can sleep on her own and put herself back to sleep if she wakes up but every night it’s the same thing. I’m out of ideas.
If anyone has had issues with the same thing or has any ideas, I’m desperate at this point.
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Now fast forward to today, I finally put my foot down in January when she turned 8 that was she going to start sleeping in her room on her own. It’s been rocky. She wakes up 1-2 times every night and wakes me up crying that she can’t go back to sleep without an adult in her room. I have tried talking with her pediatrician, offering incentives, discussing what’s going on with her brain when she feels that way, and grounding her. During the day, she will agree that she can sleep on her own and put herself back to sleep if she wakes up but every night it’s the same thing. I’m out of ideas.
If anyone has had issues with the same thing or has any ideas, I’m desperate at this point.
2024.05.16 13:19 Ewpeoplearegross Cohabitation questions
My partner and I have been together over 6 years with no real desire to get married. We’ve lived together for the past four years. I have found myself in a situation in which a family member is buying me a house. The house will be in my name only. As there will be no mortgage, my partner and I are trying to figure out a fair financial agreement. If my partner isn’t gaining equity, it’s not fair of me to expect them to contribute to major repairs or property taxes but I do need to offset my costs of homeownership somehow. I was curious how other people might navigate this situation. In some of our conversations, we discussed me being responsible for repairs and property taxes with my partner contributing a set rent amount. What are some things I might need to consider? Things that may be relevant: we live in AZ. We plan to split all utilities equally. Thanks in advance!
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2024.05.16 13:18 LetterGrouchy6053 What Donald Trump Would Do for $1 Billion.
Four Grand juries made up of randomly chosen citizens determined there is enough evidence to indict Donald Trump, and one criminal trial is now in progress.
You would think he would learn.But no, continuing his criminality he is blatantly offering his services to the highest bidders. In a recent meeting with oil company executives, he told them, outright, if they gave him enough money, he would undermine all Biden's clear air legislation and continue to see their taxes are lowered.
This man would sell your soul to the devil if he had the opportunity. He is so bereft of decency he admitted he was attracted to Stormy Daniels because she reminds him of his daughter, Ivanka. Remember he once said if Ivanka wasn't his daughter he would...?
Read this -- Italics mine.
Jamelle Bouie
By Jamelle Bouie
Opinion Columnist
Not to spend too much time writing about Donald Trump this week, but I was struck by this report in The Washington Post on the former president’s recent overtures to oil executives. After hearing one executive during an event last month at his Mar-a-Lago club complain about supposedly burdensome environmental regulations promulgated by the Biden administration, Trump made a proposition.
You all are wealthy enough, he said, that you should raise $1 billion to return me to the White House. At the dinner, he vowed to immediately reverse dozens of President Biden’s environmental rules and policies and stop new ones from being enacted, according to people with knowledge of the meeting, who spoke on the condition of anonymity to describe a private conversation. Giving $1 billion would be a “deal,” Trump said, because of the taxation and regulation they would avoid thanks to him, according to the people.
The rest of the story goes on to describe Trump’s plans to gut the federal government’s response to climate change and facilitate more and greater fossil fuel extraction.
Trump told the executives that he would start auctioning off more leases for oil drilling in the Gulf of Mexico, a priority that several of the executives raised. He railed against wind power, as The Post previously reported. And he said he would reverse the restrictions on drilling in the Alaskan Arctic.
This would be a generational setback on climate change, a large and disastrous mortgage on the future so that oil and gas giants could fill their coffers for just a little bit longer before they are overtaken by clean energy.
I’m obviously angered by the blatant disregard for the planet and its inhabitants. But I’m also struck by the in-your-face brazenness of Trump’s reported quid pro quo. This is more than the hint of corruption; it is the overpowering scent of the rotting corpse of corruption. It is influence trading of the sort that would embarrass a Boss Tweed or a Roscoe Conkling, whose “honest graft” came with at least the pretense of pursuing the public good.
Even more striking than Trump’s corruption, however, is the fact that we seem to be completely unfazed by the fact that the former president has apparently offered to sell his prospective administration to fossil fuel interests. That might be because, from the beginning of his term to its end, Trump was a font for corruption while in office. His hotel, located just down the street from the White House, was a clearinghouse for anyone who wanted to buy a favor. His daughter and son-in-law may not have accomplished much as presidential advisers, but they walked away from the administration with upwards of hundreds of millions of dollars in new wealth. And six months after leaving the White House, Jared Kushner secured a $2 billion investment from a fund led by the crown prince of Saudi Arabia.
If Trump’s latest instance of corruption isn’t a campaign-ending scandal, it may be because it is nothing new. Trump is corrupt to his bones and now that appears to be as noteworthy as the weather...
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2024.05.16 13:17 PracticalIsopod1052 The Husk Headcanon
Characters: Husky, Angel, Devil, Softy
Husky and Angel are married and have two kids, Devil and Softy.
“Oh, Husky, baby.~” I heard my wife, Angles, voice coming from the bedroom. I was with Devil, showing him how to make the perfect drink, non-alcoholic of course. “Husky! I want you!” I heard the voice more angry than loving. I sighed and told Devil to go find his sister, Softy. When I got to the room, I said, “Wha- Oh, Ummmmm…..” There she was, on the dead rose covered bed. “Oh Husky, baby, there you are. What took you so long?~”
“I was showing Devil-” Got cut off by Angel getting off the bed, and now on me.
“Shhhh.~” She began, “That doesn’t matter right now. Right now, all I want if my baby with me.” She began kissing my neck. I tried to push her off me. “Baby, don’t you love me?”Angel said. I started to speak then got cut off again. “Of course you love me. If you really did love me, you would do what I say, right Husky?” I just nodded. She squealed with excitement. I heard a small voice behind me. I used my wings to keep Angel hidden as I turned around. There before me stood Softy.
“Mommy, brother won’t give me the sword!” She sat down and started to cry.
“Oh shhh. It’ll be fine.” I made another sword appear. “Here Softy.” Softy stopped crying and squealed like her mother, Angel.
The next day. “I’m heading to the Hazbin Hotel!” I yelled so the whole house could hear me. “If anyone wants to come with me, come now.”
“Husky.” I looked around the room, and saw Alice standing behind me. “You're going to the hotel, are you now?”
“That was my plan.” The next thing I knew, I was in a dark room, flashing red and white lights at what looked like a hallway. I walked towards the light. “AHHHHH!” I was now falling. I saw pictures of me and Angle on our Honeymoon, our wedding day, our first kiss, and so much more. I opened my eyes and saw I was at my bar spot in the hotel. “What just happened?”
“It’s awake.” I heard a voice, I didn’t recognize. “It is awake.” I heard another voice I didn’t know.
“Huh?” I sat up and looked at the people that came up to me.
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Husky and Angel are married and have two kids, Devil and Softy.
“Oh, Husky, baby.~” I heard my wife, Angles, voice coming from the bedroom. I was with Devil, showing him how to make the perfect drink, non-alcoholic of course. “Husky! I want you!” I heard the voice more angry than loving. I sighed and told Devil to go find his sister, Softy. When I got to the room, I said, “Wha- Oh, Ummmmm…..” There she was, on the dead rose covered bed. “Oh Husky, baby, there you are. What took you so long?~”
“I was showing Devil-” Got cut off by Angel getting off the bed, and now on me.
“Shhhh.~” She began, “That doesn’t matter right now. Right now, all I want if my baby with me.” She began kissing my neck. I tried to push her off me. “Baby, don’t you love me?”Angel said. I started to speak then got cut off again. “Of course you love me. If you really did love me, you would do what I say, right Husky?” I just nodded. She squealed with excitement. I heard a small voice behind me. I used my wings to keep Angel hidden as I turned around. There before me stood Softy.
“Mommy, brother won’t give me the sword!” She sat down and started to cry.
“Oh shhh. It’ll be fine.” I made another sword appear. “Here Softy.” Softy stopped crying and squealed like her mother, Angel.
The next day. “I’m heading to the Hazbin Hotel!” I yelled so the whole house could hear me. “If anyone wants to come with me, come now.”
“Husky.” I looked around the room, and saw Alice standing behind me. “You're going to the hotel, are you now?”
“That was my plan.” The next thing I knew, I was in a dark room, flashing red and white lights at what looked like a hallway. I walked towards the light. “AHHHHH!” I was now falling. I saw pictures of me and Angle on our Honeymoon, our wedding day, our first kiss, and so much more. I opened my eyes and saw I was at my bar spot in the hotel. “What just happened?”
“It’s awake.” I heard a voice, I didn’t recognize. “It is awake.” I heard another voice I didn’t know.
“Huh?” I sat up and looked at the people that came up to me.
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2024.05.16 13:16 LetterGrouchy6053 What Donald Trump Would Do for $1 Billion.
Four Grand juries made up of randomly chosen citizens determined there is enough evidence to indict Donald Trump, and one criminal trial is now in progress.
You would think he would learn.But no, continuing his criminality he is blatantly offering his services to the highest bidders. In a recent meeting with oil company executives, he told them, outright, if they gave him enough money, he would undermine all Biden's clear air legislation and continue to see their taxes are lowered.
This man would sell your soul to the devil if he had the opportunity. He is so bereft of decency he admitted he was attracted to Stormy Daniels because she reminds him of his daughter, Ivanka. Remember he once said if Ivanka wasn't his daughter he would...?
Read this -- Italics mine.
Jamelle Bouie
By Jamelle Bouie
Opinion Columnist
Not to spend too much time writing about Donald Trump this week, but I was struck by this report in The Washington Post on the former president’s recent overtures to oil executives. After hearing one executive during an event last month at his Mar-a-Lago club complain about supposedly burdensome environmental regulations promulgated by the Biden administration, Trump made a proposition.
You all are wealthy enough, he said, that you should raise $1 billion to return me to the White House. At the dinner, he vowed to immediately reverse dozens of President Biden’s environmental rules and policies and stop new ones from being enacted, according to people with knowledge of the meeting, who spoke on the condition of anonymity to describe a private conversation. Giving $1 billion would be a “deal,” Trump said, because of the taxation and regulation they would avoid thanks to him, according to the people.
The rest of the story goes on to describe Trump’s plans to gut the federal government’s response to climate change and facilitate more and greater fossil fuel extraction.
Trump told the executives that he would start auctioning off more leases for oil drilling in the Gulf of Mexico, a priority that several of the executives raised. He railed against wind power, as The Post previously reported. And he said he would reverse the restrictions on drilling in the Alaskan Arctic.
This would be a generational setback on climate change, a large and disastrous mortgage on the future so that oil and gas giants could fill their coffers for just a little bit longer before they are overtaken by clean energy.
I’m obviously angered by the blatant disregard for the planet and its inhabitants. But I’m also struck by the in-your-face brazenness of Trump’s reported quid pro quo. This is more than the hint of corruption; it is the overpowering scent of the rotting corpse of corruption. It is influence trading of the sort that would embarrass a Boss Tweed or a Roscoe Conkling, whose “honest graft” came with at least the pretense of pursuing the public good.
Even more striking than Trump’s corruption, however, is the fact that we seem to be completely unfazed by the fact that the former president has apparently offered to sell his prospective administration to fossil fuel interests. That might be because, from the beginning of his term to its end, Trump was a font for corruption while in office. His hotel, located just down the street from the White House, was a clearinghouse for anyone who wanted to buy a favor. His daughter and son-in-law may not have accomplished much as presidential advisers, but they walked away from the administration with upwards of hundreds of millions of dollars in new wealth. And six months after leaving the White House, Jared Kushner secured a $2 billion investment from a fund led by the crown prince of Saudi Arabia.
If Trump’s latest instance of corruption isn’t a campaign-ending scandal, it may be because it is nothing new. Trump is corrupt to his bones and now that appears to be as noteworthy as the weather...
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2024.05.16 13:15 Dimetro_Sparks I've decided to put my take on the Internet popular "Mothra: Queen of the Monsters"
 | Hope you all enjoy the show! (Fair warning, it's very long) submitted by Dimetro_Sparks to Monsterverse [link] [comments] We start off as a flashback during early Ancient Egypt times, where Mothra was flying over the deserts, peacefully scattering her godly lights over man and animal alike, bowing down to her in reverence and becoming docile respectively, before she senses a disturbance somewhere. She rushes over to it, and sees Abaddon (using my idea for him, a huge-ass Dragonfly with a functional mouth, a stinger tail, and the forelimbs of a Praying Mantis) using his swarm to hunt for food. Mothra dispels the swarm and attacks Abaddon with her God Rays, with Abaddon territorially attacking the Queen, and Mothra, in a show of stubbornness, engaging his challenge, and both insectoid Titans engaged in a brutal aerial battle as the Ancient Egyptians watched. It looked as it was going well for the more nimble Mothra, until Abaddon trapped Mothra in his raptorial forelimbs, brutally slamming and dragging her across the sands, before he lifted her and raised his stinger. It cuts to the Ancient Egyptians, who gasp and look on in horror as the sound of a sharp object and crunching sounds fill the air. Abaddon drops Mothra's lifeless corpse as he flies away, having satiated his hunger, while the screen zooms in on Mothra's eye. Whatever epic opening your mind makes happens, before the title lights up. We follow Ilene Andrews (Rebecca Hall) and her surrogate daughter Jia (Kaylee Hottle) again, this time joined with the Chen Twins, Dr. Ilene and Dr. Ling (both played by Zhang Ziyi) as Jia dreams about Mothra…'s hatching, that is. That's right, sometime after the battle in Rio de Janeiro, Mothra has flown to the Borneo Jungle and laid an egg there, and the main cast arrive to witness it in person, and naturally, when the larva hatches, it was a magnificent sight for all involved. When the night falls and Jia goes to sleep in the Borneo Outpost, she once again shares a dream with Mothra, joined by the Chen Twins, due to their history with the Queen… until the dream started going out of control, wildly flashing and prophesying, among other things, a high-pitched whining sound, unblinking red eyes, the earth collapsing, and darkness enveloping the skies. Everyone in the dream, from where they are, wake up in a cold sweat, until they get an urgent call that the Mothra Larva was displaying an unnatural and out of character level of agitation, proven correct when they see the slightly nervous Mothra pulsating yellow and orange, before breaking free of her containment and vanishing into the forest. It was pretty easily seen that something big was about to go down if Mothra of all Titans was getting upset. And soon enough, it looked like it came true when a devastating earthquake shook a large part of Asia, splitting the ground asunder and causing ruin, all while energy signatures shows Mothra venturing into Hollow Earth. At this point, the humans knew something was up. So it was decided, one team, with Dr. Ilene Chen, would stay up on the Surface World and monitor any more earthquakes or disturbances, and another, with Dr. Ling, and newcomers to the series Lance Gibson (Donny Lucas) and Scarlet Wilde (Emilia Clarke) would venture into Hollow Earth to keep track of Mothra. As Team Hollow Earth follows Mothra, understanding that she is sensing something they don't, they keep a close eye on her. Mothra continues making a beeline, hauling ass towards wherever, until she enters a foggy quarry and sees a flashing light that comes closer to her, causing Mothra to tense up, until the fog dispels and she sees… Battra. The flashing light was his horn, and Mothra, seeing this larva that shares the same similarities to her, softens up. Team Hollow Earth were stunned at seeing another Moth Titan, especially with scans showing they share the same genetic material. Mothra appears to be slightly taller than Battra, with Lance suggesting the possibility of them being siblings, and Mothra having hatched first, something that everybody agrees on. Battra has sensed Mothra's presence and vice-versa, with the Queen of the Monsters being visibly overjoyed to be an older sister. Until Battra's horn glows red, and he glows in agitation, before beckoning Mothra to follow him, and the humans trail after them. Mothra and Battra's venture in the rest of Hollow Earth lead to the Moth Siblings getting ambushed by a large and aggressive Praying Mantis Sub-Titan called a Scymantis. Battra, who has never been in a serious battle before, was scared and hid behind Mothra, who fortunately, did know how to fight. Mothra does battle with the Scymantis, and Mothra, filled with a huge protective big sister instinct, had actually led to her killing the Scymantis, a move that stuns everyone watching, even Mothra herself, though she quickly collects herself and continues on to follow Battra's signal. Both Moth Siblings take a breather in a large beautiful grassy plain, where they see large glowing aphid-like creatures called Flight Lights, one of whom Mothra grabs and directs it's abdomen to her mouth, before eating in a delicious (to her) substance like an ant eating honeydew from an aphid. Battra tries to do the same as his sister, but he doesn't know how to, which visibly saddens him. Mothra, seeing the trouble her younger brother is facing, teaches him how to properly eat from a Flight Light, and does so properly, causing him to light up in happiness. Meanwhile, with Team Surface World, Monarch is helping the areas of Asia that has been led to ruin by the earthquake, when they see the skies slightly darkening, something they identify to be a sign that Abaddon is arriving. Sure enough, he does indeed show up, his swarm following him. Abaddon was highly aggressive, something that confuses the Monarch team up above, until Abaddon reaches in and pulls out a huge insectoid Titan. The humans back away as Abaddon engages in a battle with the creature, before killing it, and feasting on it. Abaddon leaves, but the humans are left to ponder at what came out. Back in Hollow Earth, the Moth Siblings a large chasm in the ground, going several kilometers down, called the Gaping Maw. The Moth Siblings leap down the chasm, falling underneath and dispelling a veil of natural steam, with the humans following them, until they reach the bottom. Mothra bravely treads ahead, while Battra cautiously trails behind her, his horn staying red. Until the humans manage to direct the two of them to a veil of what looked like webbing, with Scarlet confirming it not belonging to the Moth Titans. Both Moths rip it open, and see a huge hive, all filled to the brim with Meganulons, almost all of whom stop and stare at them. Battra was nervous, but Mothra crawled forward. Up until she sees a Meganulon about to fall to its death, at which point she rushes forward with no hesitation and saves it. As the Meganulon stared at her in what looked like awe and wonder, a loud screeching is heard, and all the Meganulons back away as both Moth Siblings. Battra looked terrified, while Mothra was defiant, as the Queen of the Meganulons, Megaguirus, emerged and hovered down to greet the newcomers. Megaguirus sniffed Mothra out with her antennae, and understood that she came from the Surface World, which is good news for her, seeing as she wants to expand her hive. Until she sensed something else on the Surface. One of her own was dead, murdered. The same one that Abaddon killed. Furious at one of her brood's death, Megaguirus engaged the Moth Siblings in battle (yes, she treats her subjects with remarkably more respect and kindness that Skar King). Mothra valiantly fought her, even as a larva, while protecting the terrified Battra. While it looked like Mothra was doing well, Megaguirus, due to being mature, being incredibly speedy, having razor-sharp wings, and able to fly, managed to overpower her, grappling her in a deadly lock with her pincers and stinger tail, and even absorbing Mothra's energy with her stinger. Battra was scared, but upon seeing Mothra struggling, he decided to charge in and his horn lights up with yellow electrical (what looks like it, anyway) energy, and using it to force Megaguirus off of Mothra, who tag teams the Meganulon Queen and slams her to the ground. They would have continued, if not for Megaguirus' wings glowing and letting out a roar. Suddenly, the ground erupted, and out came Megalon, whom Megaguirus treated almost like a brother, with Megalon in turn, being unfailingly loyal to her. And so, used his abilities over the earth to severely injure Mothra and Battra, forcing them to retreat. As the humans escape the Gaping Maw and bring the two Moth Titans to a secluded but humongous cavern to rest, the humans found ancient tunnels with writings of an ancient tribe, explaining that their God, Megalon, created the Vile Vortexes to Hollow Earth, but after getting touched by a "Golden Ray of Light", he had become destructive after meeting Megaguirus, a "kindred spirit", and have a solution should they ever attack the world. Unbeknownst to them, the Moth Siblings found that solution: a huge influx of Hollow Earth radiation, not only healing their wounds, but supercharging them, and accelerating their growth. When the humans finally notice the blinding lights behind them, they saw the double cocoons, and the literal blinding beauty of both Moth Siblings gracefully emerge in their Imago Forms. Battra was amazed at his new form, while Mothra makes a dash and flies out, zooming out. Meanwhile, Battra flies back into the Gaping Maw to keep an eye on the Meganulons, he sees that Megaguirus is on the move, with Megalon and a crap-ton of Meganulon Warrior drones to assist her in her invasion of the Surface World. Battra flies back to the humans and warns this to Jia, who relays it to the humans, until Lance asks where the hell Mothra went to, with Scarlet bringing up scans revealing she went to the Surface. Back up in the Surface World, the team there reads Mothra's signatures erupting as she flies out, but she is making a straight beeline for a specific Titan. To Abaddon. Mothra is directly provoking him to get him to follow her to combat this threat, which worries Dr. Ling, seeing as she was aware of what Abaddon was capable of. Sure enough, the two Insect Titans collide in Bangladesh, where a furious Abaddon engages the challenging Mothra in combat once again. It seems as if history is going to repeat, until Battra steps in between the downed Mothra and Abaddon, and explains the situation. Abaddon was motionless for a few moments, before he backs off and follows Mothra and Battra to Hollow Earth. With Team Hollow Earth, they were now tasked with holding the line between Megaguirus' forces, and the Vile Vortexes to the Surface World until Mothra comes back, knowing that they're in big trouble if they manage to get there. While this happens, Battra and Abaddon get into some skirmishes about one-upping the other due to Battra's newfound confidence with his powers and Abaddon's dislike of anything moth, but manage to hold it in enough to get to their destination. Soon enough, the three insectoid Titans arrive at the battlefield, where they charge in as Megaguirus and her forces do to. Mothra engages in a dogfight with Megaguirus, Battra attacks Megalon on the ground, and Abaddon makes some snacks out of the Meganulons, as the humans attempt to both escape and join in on the fight. During the brawl, Megalon manages to make the ground unstable enough for him to fall into a Vile Vortex, causing the other Titans (and humans) to follow suit. In the Surface World, all the combatants find themselves in Barcelona, Spain. Megaguirus commands her hive with a high-pitched whining to arrive, with Megaguirus' absorption of Mothra's ability darkening the sky in a huge electrical superstorm, one Meganulon almost grabbing the humans, until Abaddon swoops in to save them, and the Moth Siblings follow suit. Their battles takes them to the Garrotxa Volcanic Zone. During the clash of insects, Battra realized brute force wasn't going to work on Megalon, so he continued beating down the huge beetle, until he grabbed the fatigued Megalon, and aerial suplexed him, making the ground give way and having him plummet to the depths of the earth. Now without her biggest ally, Megaguirus attacks more furiously, but fails when both Moth Siblings tag-team her with slashes and stabs, as Battra amplifies Mothra's own abilities, when Mothra grabs her and stares her down. Megaguirus roars defiantly, which is when Mothra flies up to the superstorm and throws Megaguirus in there, electrocuting her, before Mothra slams Megaguirus down on one of the volcanoes, immolating her to death. Both Moth Siblings and Abaddon roar triumphantly as Mothra uses her God Rays to dispel the superstorm. Mothra looks at Abaddon, who seems to give her and Battra a look of respect, before he flies off. Mothra is seen patrolling over the skies of the Amazon Rainforest, until she is greeted by Battra, as both the Moth Siblings exchange a cute little bioluminescent show of affection towards each other. Both teams of humans watch as Mothra and Battra fly off, casting a bigger light than the sun, and fade to white as the ending scene before credits roll. |
2024.05.16 13:14 Conscious_Piglet7301 Compulsive lying a sign of a personality disorder?
I’ve been with my husband for a couple of years now, married a few months. I caught him out in a pretty big lie last weekend and it’s unravelled so many things. So many times that I thought that what he was saying was strange, or seemed far-fetched all make sense now. The lies aren’t even big or to hide something that would hurt someone’s feelings, it’s just small stuff but the lie is what makes it huge for me. I’ll give a couple of examples to provide a bit of context:
EXAMPLE 1
When we met, he told me he had tried to kill himself in a car crash when he was 19, that it was a split second decision and to never tell his parents because it would crush them. I dutifully kept his secret.
A few days ago, I found out that there was someone else in the car from an offhand comment made by one of his parents. When I asked him later why he had lied about it, he said that he didn’t remember the crash, has no memories before or for a while after. I asked why he would try to kill himself with someone else in the car. He maintained that “it was a bit about killing myself”, before restating that he had no memory and “I don’t know what to tell you”. Very defensive, yelling and crying.
I asked him again a couple of days later (in one of our attempts to resolve the situation) saying that either he has lied to me since we met, or he tried to take someone else out with him. He said he didn’t remember but that he thought it was suicide because he was so deeply unhappy at that time in his life. I said “so you tried to take your girlfriend out with you? Because that’s murder”. He then said he didnt know the real reason. I then asked why he would definitively tell me it was a suicide attempt if he didn’t know the real reason. He couldn’t tell me. I then asked why he seemed to remember specifics when I asked him at the start of the relationship (“I was driving home from dads after dinner, it was a split second decision”) but now couldn’t even tell me if it was an accident or suicide. Admitted that it was silly to claim suicide attempt, but still didnt admit to lying.
EXAMPLE 2
I received a sapphire bracelet from my mum for Christmas last year. Boxing Day, he told me that “oh sapphire! it’s just like the ring my mum got you”. I asked him what he was talking about, and he said he didn't know. I said “no, your mum got me emerald earrings”. He said “ah yes that’s what I must have been thinking about”. I knew something was up but I left it at that because we were at family's house.
Later I asked him directly if his mum had given a sapphire ring to his ex. He said no, he was just confused about the earrings. I said I wouldn’t care, but that I don't want to be lied to. He said no, he was just confused.
Two weeks later his mum was on the phone on speaker (she didn't realise she was on speaker) and she said “I’ve asked for that sapphire ring back from [ex] and given it to [sister in law]”. I told him “I fucking knew it, why did you lie to me?” He said he didn't remember and that he genuinely got confused, and that he was “an idiot” for not remembering. I told him I’d be far more upset about being lied to than I would about a gift your mum gave to someone before we met. He said “I know, and that’s why I’m not lying to you!”
In all the other current issues going on, I brought this issue up again in the context of the other lies. The conversation went like this:
Me: Why did you lie to me about that, even when your mum mentioned it? Him: I already told you, I got confused, I totally forgot Me: How did you forget when I asked you directly, with specifics? I asked you “Did your mum give a sapphire ring to [ex’s name]” and you told me no. Him: I got my wires crossed, I was talking about the earrings Me: but you specifically mentioned a sapphire ring, which was exactly what it was. Him: I don’t remember who she gave it to. Me: So you do remember there was a ring… then why didn’t it jog your memory when I asked you directly? Him: I already apologised for this, we’ve been through this Me: What? No, after your mum got off the phone, you told me again that you’d forgot about it and you couldn’t remember anything about it. Him: Yeah, after the phone call with mum - we had a conversation the next day which I vividly remember where I told you I lied so as not to hurt your feelings.
I have no recollection of this conversation, but it would directly contradict claims he made seconds prior about ‘getting his wires crossed’, thinking it was about my earrings, and having no memory of it. When I asked why he had contradicted himself, he said he didn’t understand. It’s making me feel crazy.
There are actually many more examples like this, but over and over again, I’ve told him that I can handle the truth, but begged him not to lie to me. I caught him out in a lie in the first couple of months of us dating. When he said it was to protect my feelings, I told him that I would rather the truth than a lie from him. He promised never to lie to me again.
Over the last couple of years, he has sent me texts like:
“I felt absolutely stupid and embarrassed when I lied to you ages ago. And I told you it will not happen again. And it hasn’t.”
“I don’t lie to you”
“I’m so glad I have you. I can be my true self with you. I love the complete openness and honesty in our relationship. All we want is the best for one another”
”I asked myself something last night about us. Just in quiet reflection. Would I tell you everything and anything even if it would upset you? Like would I even make up little white lies to avoid anything crappy and I was like nah. I am cellophane with you. But frosted glass with everyone else”
“I love you so much. I promise to tell you everything and always devote myself to you”
He has repeatedly told me that he would never lie to me as “you know everything anyway, do you think I could lie to you?”
When faced with all of the above, he admits that he's got a problem with lying and says he’s turned a new leaf, that he knows what he needs to do, and that from now on it will be complete honesty.
In light of everything, how do I know that this is the truth, and not another lie?? All of my trust in him has gone, along with any respect I had for him. Everything he's saying to me just feels like lip service.
I know the above seems like a lot, but I’m only asking so many questions about these issues and others in the last couple of days because suddenly everything is making sense. A number of events that I went “huh, that’s weird” over the last two years but took him at face value and brushed off are all coming back into focus. I’m trying to get him to admit to lying for things that I know for a fact he has lied about. I’m trying to get him to understand that he can’t just give me something that doesn’t make sense and expect me to believe it.
HE is the one who asks me daily to talk about the issues we're facing, to tell how I'm feeling or what I'm thinking etc. He brings it up, so I explain to him what doesn't make sense to me or what I'm trying to process.
I ask him questions so that I can understand what his story is, and how that interacts with the facts that I know. When he’s defensive and contradicting himself instead of being honest and saying “yeah I made that up”. The fact that I’ve told him that I just want the truth and he still can’t admit to it indicates that there’s a problem - I even held a “safe space lie amnesty” a couple of days ago where I said I just wanted to know what he’s lied about so we can move forward. A lie you’ve gotten yourself tangled in is one thing. Repeated and continuous lying even in the face of contradictory facts is concerning. Despite my repeatedly telling him I can handle the truth, he maintains lies that have no value. Most of the lies he's told me couldn't even be considered to be for a reason - if it was to protect my feelings I'd get it, but some of them are just for attention.
These are not two isolated incidents, these are two of maybe ten events that I can recall from the last 2 years that have always been weird to me, but I kinda brushed them under the rug until recently when I realised there was something else going on.
I don’t think it’s too much to ask from a man who has repeatedly told me how much he values the honesty and openness in our relationship to show me those same values. He is not a man who has ever even indicated that he wanted to have his own space or privacy, in fact, he jumped into the relationship with "we should have each other's phone passcodes and be able to look at it whenever we want because we have absolutely nooooooo secrets". That was a bit of a shock to my system, but I thought 'hey, if this man wants full transparency and openness then let's go for it'.
Sometimes I’m furious and can’t stand the sight of him and other times I think it’s not such a big deal. I don’t know if I even really know how I feel about it. Sometimes merely annoyed, other times completely betrayed.
For me to move forward with him, I need to understand what’s driving this behaviour. Is it a personality disorder? NPD? BPD? Has anyone been through similar? How did it end? This is all I can think about. I don’t know what it means.
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EXAMPLE 1
When we met, he told me he had tried to kill himself in a car crash when he was 19, that it was a split second decision and to never tell his parents because it would crush them. I dutifully kept his secret.
A few days ago, I found out that there was someone else in the car from an offhand comment made by one of his parents. When I asked him later why he had lied about it, he said that he didn’t remember the crash, has no memories before or for a while after. I asked why he would try to kill himself with someone else in the car. He maintained that “it was a bit about killing myself”, before restating that he had no memory and “I don’t know what to tell you”. Very defensive, yelling and crying.
I asked him again a couple of days later (in one of our attempts to resolve the situation) saying that either he has lied to me since we met, or he tried to take someone else out with him. He said he didn’t remember but that he thought it was suicide because he was so deeply unhappy at that time in his life. I said “so you tried to take your girlfriend out with you? Because that’s murder”. He then said he didnt know the real reason. I then asked why he would definitively tell me it was a suicide attempt if he didn’t know the real reason. He couldn’t tell me. I then asked why he seemed to remember specifics when I asked him at the start of the relationship (“I was driving home from dads after dinner, it was a split second decision”) but now couldn’t even tell me if it was an accident or suicide. Admitted that it was silly to claim suicide attempt, but still didnt admit to lying.
EXAMPLE 2
I received a sapphire bracelet from my mum for Christmas last year. Boxing Day, he told me that “oh sapphire! it’s just like the ring my mum got you”. I asked him what he was talking about, and he said he didn't know. I said “no, your mum got me emerald earrings”. He said “ah yes that’s what I must have been thinking about”. I knew something was up but I left it at that because we were at family's house.
Later I asked him directly if his mum had given a sapphire ring to his ex. He said no, he was just confused about the earrings. I said I wouldn’t care, but that I don't want to be lied to. He said no, he was just confused.
Two weeks later his mum was on the phone on speaker (she didn't realise she was on speaker) and she said “I’ve asked for that sapphire ring back from [ex] and given it to [sister in law]”. I told him “I fucking knew it, why did you lie to me?” He said he didn't remember and that he genuinely got confused, and that he was “an idiot” for not remembering. I told him I’d be far more upset about being lied to than I would about a gift your mum gave to someone before we met. He said “I know, and that’s why I’m not lying to you!”
In all the other current issues going on, I brought this issue up again in the context of the other lies. The conversation went like this:
Me: Why did you lie to me about that, even when your mum mentioned it? Him: I already told you, I got confused, I totally forgot Me: How did you forget when I asked you directly, with specifics? I asked you “Did your mum give a sapphire ring to [ex’s name]” and you told me no. Him: I got my wires crossed, I was talking about the earrings Me: but you specifically mentioned a sapphire ring, which was exactly what it was. Him: I don’t remember who she gave it to. Me: So you do remember there was a ring… then why didn’t it jog your memory when I asked you directly? Him: I already apologised for this, we’ve been through this Me: What? No, after your mum got off the phone, you told me again that you’d forgot about it and you couldn’t remember anything about it. Him: Yeah, after the phone call with mum - we had a conversation the next day which I vividly remember where I told you I lied so as not to hurt your feelings.
I have no recollection of this conversation, but it would directly contradict claims he made seconds prior about ‘getting his wires crossed’, thinking it was about my earrings, and having no memory of it. When I asked why he had contradicted himself, he said he didn’t understand. It’s making me feel crazy.
There are actually many more examples like this, but over and over again, I’ve told him that I can handle the truth, but begged him not to lie to me. I caught him out in a lie in the first couple of months of us dating. When he said it was to protect my feelings, I told him that I would rather the truth than a lie from him. He promised never to lie to me again.
Over the last couple of years, he has sent me texts like:
“I felt absolutely stupid and embarrassed when I lied to you ages ago. And I told you it will not happen again. And it hasn’t.”
“I don’t lie to you”
“I’m so glad I have you. I can be my true self with you. I love the complete openness and honesty in our relationship. All we want is the best for one another”
”I asked myself something last night about us. Just in quiet reflection. Would I tell you everything and anything even if it would upset you? Like would I even make up little white lies to avoid anything crappy and I was like nah. I am cellophane with you. But frosted glass with everyone else”
“I love you so much. I promise to tell you everything and always devote myself to you”
He has repeatedly told me that he would never lie to me as “you know everything anyway, do you think I could lie to you?”
When faced with all of the above, he admits that he's got a problem with lying and says he’s turned a new leaf, that he knows what he needs to do, and that from now on it will be complete honesty.
In light of everything, how do I know that this is the truth, and not another lie?? All of my trust in him has gone, along with any respect I had for him. Everything he's saying to me just feels like lip service.
I know the above seems like a lot, but I’m only asking so many questions about these issues and others in the last couple of days because suddenly everything is making sense. A number of events that I went “huh, that’s weird” over the last two years but took him at face value and brushed off are all coming back into focus. I’m trying to get him to admit to lying for things that I know for a fact he has lied about. I’m trying to get him to understand that he can’t just give me something that doesn’t make sense and expect me to believe it.
HE is the one who asks me daily to talk about the issues we're facing, to tell how I'm feeling or what I'm thinking etc. He brings it up, so I explain to him what doesn't make sense to me or what I'm trying to process.
I ask him questions so that I can understand what his story is, and how that interacts with the facts that I know. When he’s defensive and contradicting himself instead of being honest and saying “yeah I made that up”. The fact that I’ve told him that I just want the truth and he still can’t admit to it indicates that there’s a problem - I even held a “safe space lie amnesty” a couple of days ago where I said I just wanted to know what he’s lied about so we can move forward. A lie you’ve gotten yourself tangled in is one thing. Repeated and continuous lying even in the face of contradictory facts is concerning. Despite my repeatedly telling him I can handle the truth, he maintains lies that have no value. Most of the lies he's told me couldn't even be considered to be for a reason - if it was to protect my feelings I'd get it, but some of them are just for attention.
These are not two isolated incidents, these are two of maybe ten events that I can recall from the last 2 years that have always been weird to me, but I kinda brushed them under the rug until recently when I realised there was something else going on.
I don’t think it’s too much to ask from a man who has repeatedly told me how much he values the honesty and openness in our relationship to show me those same values. He is not a man who has ever even indicated that he wanted to have his own space or privacy, in fact, he jumped into the relationship with "we should have each other's phone passcodes and be able to look at it whenever we want because we have absolutely nooooooo secrets". That was a bit of a shock to my system, but I thought 'hey, if this man wants full transparency and openness then let's go for it'.
Sometimes I’m furious and can’t stand the sight of him and other times I think it’s not such a big deal. I don’t know if I even really know how I feel about it. Sometimes merely annoyed, other times completely betrayed.
For me to move forward with him, I need to understand what’s driving this behaviour. Is it a personality disorder? NPD? BPD? Has anyone been through similar? How did it end? This is all I can think about. I don’t know what it means.
2024.05.16 13:11 digital_wiz How We Scaled a Hair Extension Brand using Facebook Ads and SEO to give $80,000 ROI in 6 Months (Detailed Breakdown)
Hello Redditors,
This is an incredible success story of how we helped a client achieve incredible results in just four months, generating an $80,000 return on investment (ROI) with a combination of SEO and Facebook Ads. We have completed many successful projects and there's a certain satisfaction in seeing our strategies translate to such tangible growth. I have tried to keep this post extremely detailed so that it can be beneficial for experienced marketers and newcomers alike.
The Client: Hair Extension E-commerce Brand
Revenue Split Between SEO and Fb ads: 3:2
Average Order Value: $350
Total Revenue(6 months): $140,000
Expenses(6 months): Product Cost + Delivery cost + Team + Agency Fees + Ads Cost+ Website Optimization + Packaging: $60000
Basic Company Background:
The brand was being run by a Mother-Daughter duo for the past 3 months. They had a shopify website with average structure and were struggling with facebook ads themselves. Although they made few physical sales due to friends and relatives but were unable to utilize the digital potential of their business as such. After trying facebook ads for some time they wanted a reliable digital marketing team to work with and they were recommended to us by one of our other customers who has a service based business. Initially we connected majorly for facebook ads but after the initial discussion when were doing research from our side, we found that there is huge potential in SEO for this niche so we suggested that we should prepare a proper website on wordpress and focus on both SEO and Ads parallelly as, although Ads will give an initial boost to the business but SEO will bring some stability and help in building a sustainable business.
Facebook Ads Campaign Structure:
It's important to note that after deep research we could find that a major share our hair extensions customers are females aged between 21-45 so we did not actively position our brand as solving problems of low hair volume, but instead we focused on how the products ads style, gives a much better look and you can try new hairstyles and hair colors daily. Also since almost all the demographics in this age group are working, we tested a professional look angle as well which gave us decent results. In ad creatives as well as on the website we made the daughter as the face of the product as we want to slowly grow her instagram as well which can add another organic and sustainable stream of revenue. She shoots before and after transition videos, general product application videos and other videos for ads according to the target audience and brand positioning strategy we discussed earlier. Instead of making long videos focused on product details a lot, we made short but captivating videos which can appeal to the young audience’s fashion sense.
Key Takeaways from FB Ads:
Mostly Meta Ads or Any other marketing tactic is just a traffic source but conversion will basically happen by how well you are able to communicate your product to the audience through your website. Its is necessary to have a smooth user journey, attractive offers, crisp information and right brand positioning on the website.
It is extremely important to make data driven decisions and track customer journeys meticulously. Always rely on your own tracking or google analytics to avoid the potential unreliability of Facebook Ads Manager.
Seo Strategy
If you don’t already know this, SEO is all about how effectively you can strategize your content and technical efforts keeping a bigger picture in mind. After our initial keyword research we could find that the average Kd of the important keywords was low when it comes to commercial keywords which were directly related to the business.
It's important to note that since the website was being built after our onboarding only so it was easy for us to structure the website according to the SEO strategy that we prepared.
At every stage we had meetings with the developer to ensure that there are no technical issues that will hinder the SEO growth and future and also we structured the website to be SEO friendly. We built separate pages for all the product categories and after through keyword research we added content to those pages so that the pages itself can rank for commercial keywords.
After the website was ready we audited it for technical issues(Like mobile friendliness, H1 tags, canonical tags, etc) we started focusing on the content. We wanted to establish our website as a trusted authority in the hair extensions and hair care industry in general.
Since the website was completely new, initially we created blogs(2-3 times per week) around informational keywords with low KD purely for increasing our website authority and bringing the initial traffic on the website. We have seen that usually people start stressing about approaching big websites for guest postings since the first day itself but if your keyword research and content is solid, that is not required in the beginning. Initially we focused on profile creations, image submissions, pdf submissions, internal linking in the content, web 2.0 backlinks etc and this was more than enough for us to rank for low difficulty keywords and increase our DA to a decent level so that our category pages can rank for low difficulty keywords.
Here I would like to include a tip, many times people are worried that what if the backlink that they have created doesn't get indexed. In the initial phase we work really hard when it comes to what we call as maturing our backlinks as this is the major factor for ranking on low difficulty keywords. So basically what we do is, we make backlinks of our web 2.0 backlinks itself which helps the primary backlink in getting indexed which ultimately helps with our website DA.
Also many people have been asking us in our previous posts how we structure our blog since I talk a lot about content quality, see it's not as hard and it doesn't involve a lot of research at least in the initial phase when you just have to rank on low difficulty keywords. In this phase usually what we do is study the top 5 ranking blogs on the particular keyword and make sure that we include more content and more subheadings then them. Also we try to find opportunities to include tables or charts wherever possible, we include good quality images(original if possible) and at this stage internal linking is very very important so we focus on that as well. In later stages although the basic strategy for framing the blogs remains same, overall content strategy varies a lot from business to business and requires a lot of strategizing depending on the brand positioning goals.
So after we were able to rank for low difficulty informational keywords and our Website DA reached a decent level due to our backlinking efforts, we started writing content around the fashion advice and common problems which people face related to hair in general. But as discussed earlier, we wanted to keep our brand positioning fashion centric, so even while writing about common problems we applied a positive and solution centric approach. We strategically placed internal links to our product pages in the content and tested popups with offers as well. Apart from this, we started guest posting as well at this stage. For finding websites for guest posting we used SEMrush’s backlink gap analysis tool and created a segregated list of blogs that we can reach out to based on their content quality and DA. By this time the store started generating decent revenue from ads and SEO so the client was completely onboard with reaching out to blogs for guest posting. Guest posting and overall strategic SEO application started generating a good amount of traffic for us and in 3-4 months the revenue generated due to SEO surpassed our Ads revenue as well.
Advantages of Combining SEO and Paid Ads
While Facebook Ads played a crucial role in launching the brand and driving initial traffic, SEO has emerged as the primary driver of sustainable growth. This approach allowed us to:
Thankyou For Reading!
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This is an incredible success story of how we helped a client achieve incredible results in just four months, generating an $80,000 return on investment (ROI) with a combination of SEO and Facebook Ads. We have completed many successful projects and there's a certain satisfaction in seeing our strategies translate to such tangible growth. I have tried to keep this post extremely detailed so that it can be beneficial for experienced marketers and newcomers alike.
The Client: Hair Extension E-commerce Brand
Revenue Split Between SEO and Fb ads: 3:2
Average Order Value: $350
Total Revenue(6 months): $140,000
Expenses(6 months): Product Cost + Delivery cost + Team + Agency Fees + Ads Cost+ Website Optimization + Packaging: $60000
Basic Company Background:
The brand was being run by a Mother-Daughter duo for the past 3 months. They had a shopify website with average structure and were struggling with facebook ads themselves. Although they made few physical sales due to friends and relatives but were unable to utilize the digital potential of their business as such. After trying facebook ads for some time they wanted a reliable digital marketing team to work with and they were recommended to us by one of our other customers who has a service based business. Initially we connected majorly for facebook ads but after the initial discussion when were doing research from our side, we found that there is huge potential in SEO for this niche so we suggested that we should prepare a proper website on wordpress and focus on both SEO and Ads parallelly as, although Ads will give an initial boost to the business but SEO will bring some stability and help in building a sustainable business.
Facebook Ads Campaign Structure:
- Our campaign housed multiple ad sets targeting users who are interested in fashion products and we also targeted audiences of some big and costly fashion companies. We were mostly targeting females aged 25-45 with good income source to have optimal conversions in the beginning, with our Seo efforts we planned to target a slightly younger audience as well which is going steadily as of now.
- We ran occasional promotions like "Buy x get x free" to boost AOV.
- Due to the high AOV and especially the product niche sometimes it is necessary to build trust so we used retargeting to build trust and showcase benefits, not just push for immediate conversions. Ads focused on comparison(Before & Afters), Customer Reviews, Hassle free product application and natural look, stylish look.
It's important to note that after deep research we could find that a major share our hair extensions customers are females aged between 21-45 so we did not actively position our brand as solving problems of low hair volume, but instead we focused on how the products ads style, gives a much better look and you can try new hairstyles and hair colors daily. Also since almost all the demographics in this age group are working, we tested a professional look angle as well which gave us decent results. In ad creatives as well as on the website we made the daughter as the face of the product as we want to slowly grow her instagram as well which can add another organic and sustainable stream of revenue. She shoots before and after transition videos, general product application videos and other videos for ads according to the target audience and brand positioning strategy we discussed earlier. Instead of making long videos focused on product details a lot, we made short but captivating videos which can appeal to the young audience’s fashion sense.
Key Takeaways from FB Ads:
Mostly Meta Ads or Any other marketing tactic is just a traffic source but conversion will basically happen by how well you are able to communicate your product to the audience through your website. Its is necessary to have a smooth user journey, attractive offers, crisp information and right brand positioning on the website.
It is extremely important to make data driven decisions and track customer journeys meticulously. Always rely on your own tracking or google analytics to avoid the potential unreliability of Facebook Ads Manager.
Seo Strategy
If you don’t already know this, SEO is all about how effectively you can strategize your content and technical efforts keeping a bigger picture in mind. After our initial keyword research we could find that the average Kd of the important keywords was low when it comes to commercial keywords which were directly related to the business.
It's important to note that since the website was being built after our onboarding only so it was easy for us to structure the website according to the SEO strategy that we prepared.
At every stage we had meetings with the developer to ensure that there are no technical issues that will hinder the SEO growth and future and also we structured the website to be SEO friendly. We built separate pages for all the product categories and after through keyword research we added content to those pages so that the pages itself can rank for commercial keywords.
After the website was ready we audited it for technical issues(Like mobile friendliness, H1 tags, canonical tags, etc) we started focusing on the content. We wanted to establish our website as a trusted authority in the hair extensions and hair care industry in general.
Since the website was completely new, initially we created blogs(2-3 times per week) around informational keywords with low KD purely for increasing our website authority and bringing the initial traffic on the website. We have seen that usually people start stressing about approaching big websites for guest postings since the first day itself but if your keyword research and content is solid, that is not required in the beginning. Initially we focused on profile creations, image submissions, pdf submissions, internal linking in the content, web 2.0 backlinks etc and this was more than enough for us to rank for low difficulty keywords and increase our DA to a decent level so that our category pages can rank for low difficulty keywords.
Here I would like to include a tip, many times people are worried that what if the backlink that they have created doesn't get indexed. In the initial phase we work really hard when it comes to what we call as maturing our backlinks as this is the major factor for ranking on low difficulty keywords. So basically what we do is, we make backlinks of our web 2.0 backlinks itself which helps the primary backlink in getting indexed which ultimately helps with our website DA.
Also many people have been asking us in our previous posts how we structure our blog since I talk a lot about content quality, see it's not as hard and it doesn't involve a lot of research at least in the initial phase when you just have to rank on low difficulty keywords. In this phase usually what we do is study the top 5 ranking blogs on the particular keyword and make sure that we include more content and more subheadings then them. Also we try to find opportunities to include tables or charts wherever possible, we include good quality images(original if possible) and at this stage internal linking is very very important so we focus on that as well. In later stages although the basic strategy for framing the blogs remains same, overall content strategy varies a lot from business to business and requires a lot of strategizing depending on the brand positioning goals.
So after we were able to rank for low difficulty informational keywords and our Website DA reached a decent level due to our backlinking efforts, we started writing content around the fashion advice and common problems which people face related to hair in general. But as discussed earlier, we wanted to keep our brand positioning fashion centric, so even while writing about common problems we applied a positive and solution centric approach. We strategically placed internal links to our product pages in the content and tested popups with offers as well. Apart from this, we started guest posting as well at this stage. For finding websites for guest posting we used SEMrush’s backlink gap analysis tool and created a segregated list of blogs that we can reach out to based on their content quality and DA. By this time the store started generating decent revenue from ads and SEO so the client was completely onboard with reaching out to blogs for guest posting. Guest posting and overall strategic SEO application started generating a good amount of traffic for us and in 3-4 months the revenue generated due to SEO surpassed our Ads revenue as well.
Advantages of Combining SEO and Paid Ads
While Facebook Ads played a crucial role in launching the brand and driving initial traffic, SEO has emerged as the primary driver of sustainable growth. This approach allowed us to:
- Reduce Reliance on Paid Advertising: As our SEO efforts matured, we were able to gradually decrease our Facebook ad spend, resulting in cost savings and improved return on investment.
- Build Brand Authority: Our SEO strategy has positioned our website as a trusted authority in the hair extensions industry. This fosters brand recognition and trust, leading to organic customer acquisition.
- Scale Traffic and Revenue: Organic traffic growth has been exponential, leading to a significant and sustainable increase in website revenue generated through SEO.
Thankyou For Reading!
2024.05.16 13:11 Irritated_Compassion Builder screwed up during home build and now fence we installed has to come up to fix the issue. Do we have to pay to have fence replaced or do they?
In Ohio. One of the 3 larger subdivision developers in southwest Ohio built our home in one of their subdivisions. We’re the first owners and have lived in the house since April 2023.
They failed to connect the sump drain line to the catch basin at the common drain and it’s causing a ton of water to daylight in our back yard. We’ve got standing water ankle deep. They are sending someone out to dig up our yard and fix the issue but our fence is in the way and will have to come up. They’re saying we will have to pay to replace the fence.
If this were an issue with the drainage easement, I get it. But the issue is that they failed to correctly install something and had they done their job correctly in the first place our fence would not need to come up. In this situation this is directly because they didn’t do something they should have done and we should not be financially impacted as they remedy it. And we want them to pay the original fence contractor to replace the fence. We don’t want them doing it, for fear of voiding the warranty we have on the fence (it was just placed in October 2023).
Legally speaking, who’s responsible for replacing the fence in this situation?
Thank you in advance!
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They failed to connect the sump drain line to the catch basin at the common drain and it’s causing a ton of water to daylight in our back yard. We’ve got standing water ankle deep. They are sending someone out to dig up our yard and fix the issue but our fence is in the way and will have to come up. They’re saying we will have to pay to replace the fence.
If this were an issue with the drainage easement, I get it. But the issue is that they failed to correctly install something and had they done their job correctly in the first place our fence would not need to come up. In this situation this is directly because they didn’t do something they should have done and we should not be financially impacted as they remedy it. And we want them to pay the original fence contractor to replace the fence. We don’t want them doing it, for fear of voiding the warranty we have on the fence (it was just placed in October 2023).
Legally speaking, who’s responsible for replacing the fence in this situation?
Thank you in advance!
2024.05.16 13:11 urmumsaslapper Have you ever fallen for your bestfriend?
I don't think I could ever admit this to him.
I (23D) and him (23M) have known each other since we were kids. We were neighbors, and I used to hang out at his house every day after school. He had siblings a few years older, and we would all hang out together. While I don't remember him as much from my childhood since I spent a lot of time with his sisters, their family was a big part of my growing up years, and I love them dearly. After school, I would head to their house, have dinner with them, and leave around 8-9 pm almost every single day.
As you grow up, you naturally drift apart, and I didn't really speak to them again except for occasional hellos and goodbyes. However, we both ended up getting dogs around the same time, which led to reconnecting with his sisters and parents when we'd take our dogs to the park together.
We eventually relocated to different houses due to our old builds being demolished, so we weren’t neighbors anymore but still lived around the corner from each other.
Fast forward to 2023, we ended up attending the same college. I remember my parents mentioning over the summer before college that he was going there too, but I didn’t think much of it because we didn't really talk much. Coincidentally, I ended up living in the same dorms as his friends (although I didn’t know at the time), and I became friends with them. The day I found out, he had come down to hang out with them whilst I was with them and it was such a shock, we spent hours hanging out that day, reonnected and became friends since then.
I eventually got a boyfriend at college, and my interactions with the guys decreased, but I still stayed in contact with them occasionally. It wasn't until I decided to commute in my third year that he and I started hanging out more. We commuted together three days a week, spending mornings until evenings together, and became really close. My breakup with my ex (unrelated to him) happened during this time, and he saw the entire breakup and helped me get back on my feet. He kept me distracted by going out and doing activities, which meant a lot during my breakup.
One thing about him is that he's different from a lot of guys I know. He's hardworking, has had his own business since school, is respectful towards women, and just an overall kind person. He never lets me pay for anything, although I still insist on paying because it would mean thousands spent hanging out, eating out, and doing activities together.
We're very close. We open up to each other often, sharing things about our families, even though he's a very private person. I appreciate it when he shares. We have a genuine connection, and I genuinely love him as a person. I feel safe around him, and he's the first person who truly understands me.
Despite all of this, I’ve never expressed these feelings to him, and I don't think I ever will. We've never attempted anything beyond friendship, and I don't think either of us ever will. While there's a hint of flirtation in our interactions, we mostly engage in playful banter and have fun when we're together. We talk about the present, our feelings, and our future aspirations. We text eachother throughout the day and have had several FaceTime calls that have lasted hours into the AM’s, we at the least have a FaceTime call once a week just discussing everything and anything.
I'm sharing this because it's something I can't bring myself to tell him, and I'm not sure if I ever will. It's complicated—maybe he's just my platonic soulmate, or maybe there's something more. Our bond is incredibly special, and I cherish every moment we spend together. Despite the unspoken feelings, I value our friendship immensely and wouldn't want to risk losing it.
Have any of you experienced a similar situation where feelings for your best friend became a question mark? I'd love to hear your stories too.
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I (23D) and him (23M) have known each other since we were kids. We were neighbors, and I used to hang out at his house every day after school. He had siblings a few years older, and we would all hang out together. While I don't remember him as much from my childhood since I spent a lot of time with his sisters, their family was a big part of my growing up years, and I love them dearly. After school, I would head to their house, have dinner with them, and leave around 8-9 pm almost every single day.
As you grow up, you naturally drift apart, and I didn't really speak to them again except for occasional hellos and goodbyes. However, we both ended up getting dogs around the same time, which led to reconnecting with his sisters and parents when we'd take our dogs to the park together.
We eventually relocated to different houses due to our old builds being demolished, so we weren’t neighbors anymore but still lived around the corner from each other.
Fast forward to 2023, we ended up attending the same college. I remember my parents mentioning over the summer before college that he was going there too, but I didn’t think much of it because we didn't really talk much. Coincidentally, I ended up living in the same dorms as his friends (although I didn’t know at the time), and I became friends with them. The day I found out, he had come down to hang out with them whilst I was with them and it was such a shock, we spent hours hanging out that day, reonnected and became friends since then.
I eventually got a boyfriend at college, and my interactions with the guys decreased, but I still stayed in contact with them occasionally. It wasn't until I decided to commute in my third year that he and I started hanging out more. We commuted together three days a week, spending mornings until evenings together, and became really close. My breakup with my ex (unrelated to him) happened during this time, and he saw the entire breakup and helped me get back on my feet. He kept me distracted by going out and doing activities, which meant a lot during my breakup.
One thing about him is that he's different from a lot of guys I know. He's hardworking, has had his own business since school, is respectful towards women, and just an overall kind person. He never lets me pay for anything, although I still insist on paying because it would mean thousands spent hanging out, eating out, and doing activities together.
We're very close. We open up to each other often, sharing things about our families, even though he's a very private person. I appreciate it when he shares. We have a genuine connection, and I genuinely love him as a person. I feel safe around him, and he's the first person who truly understands me.
Despite all of this, I’ve never expressed these feelings to him, and I don't think I ever will. We've never attempted anything beyond friendship, and I don't think either of us ever will. While there's a hint of flirtation in our interactions, we mostly engage in playful banter and have fun when we're together. We talk about the present, our feelings, and our future aspirations. We text eachother throughout the day and have had several FaceTime calls that have lasted hours into the AM’s, we at the least have a FaceTime call once a week just discussing everything and anything.
I'm sharing this because it's something I can't bring myself to tell him, and I'm not sure if I ever will. It's complicated—maybe he's just my platonic soulmate, or maybe there's something more. Our bond is incredibly special, and I cherish every moment we spend together. Despite the unspoken feelings, I value our friendship immensely and wouldn't want to risk losing it.
Have any of you experienced a similar situation where feelings for your best friend became a question mark? I'd love to hear your stories too.
2024.05.16 13:10 Treenutqween Dealing with burnout
Hi everyone,
I’m dxed L1 autistic and generally have low support needs but I have been in and out of burnout since the end of 2020 and I feel like it’s just getting worse. I work 3 “full” (~5ish hours) days a week walking dogs and on Fridays I only do one hour hike bc the dogs owner has dementia and he’s used to them having four walks and since no one else from my company wants to come out here despite the fact that I work in all the areas- I’m the only one that walks them so I feel bad. But honestly it’s getting to be too much and I feel like shit about it bc I really can’t afford to work less but the amount I can work feels like it’s slowly getting to be less because after a full 3 day weekend, but the time Tuesday comes around a lot of the time I still feel run down and spoonless.
A few years ago I was able to work 40-45 hours a week and still go out during the week after work or on the weekends and it didn’t feel like it took me a full week to recover. I moved a year ago and the transition has been rough, I’m an hour away from my friends and family, I have no idea how to make any more friends and am honestly too overwhelmed right now to consider trying even though all I want to do is go out and have fun again. But if I do that then I will not be able to work. I have to prioritize this job that I don’t even make enough money doing but cannot work more consistently. I could do more for one week maybe but that’s it. I’ve tried looking for other jobs but I feel like there’s nothing else I can really do. Any job that is more than 3 days a week, I’ll just be back to calling out every other week and I’ll get fired. I’ve been applying to WFH jobs since this time last year.
I applied for disability but I am not hopeful about that at all because I have been working. I’m not sure how they expect people in this economy to just not work, my partner already pays a majority of the bills and he couldn’t afford anymore. We are also getting married in September which does not help the “reduce stress!” Aspect of burnout recovery. I’m looking for a new therapist but I’m genuinely so lost. I feel like I’m doomed to continue having my skills stripped away slowly until I can’t do anything at all. I already can’t leave the house a lot of the time because outside feels too big and scary. I’ve been stuttering more and struggling to find correct words, I feel like I’ve been struggling to communicate and maybe I’m just on edge but I feel like I’ve been misunderstanding people a lot lately. I’ve been in a state of derealization since moving. My focus is shot, sensory issues heightened, Arfid active asf. I’m not sure what the point of this was. I just feel defeated, like I can never recover bc I can’t stop working and I just am a little worried for all of the skills im bound to regress. I am so tired.
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I’m dxed L1 autistic and generally have low support needs but I have been in and out of burnout since the end of 2020 and I feel like it’s just getting worse. I work 3 “full” (~5ish hours) days a week walking dogs and on Fridays I only do one hour hike bc the dogs owner has dementia and he’s used to them having four walks and since no one else from my company wants to come out here despite the fact that I work in all the areas- I’m the only one that walks them so I feel bad. But honestly it’s getting to be too much and I feel like shit about it bc I really can’t afford to work less but the amount I can work feels like it’s slowly getting to be less because after a full 3 day weekend, but the time Tuesday comes around a lot of the time I still feel run down and spoonless.
A few years ago I was able to work 40-45 hours a week and still go out during the week after work or on the weekends and it didn’t feel like it took me a full week to recover. I moved a year ago and the transition has been rough, I’m an hour away from my friends and family, I have no idea how to make any more friends and am honestly too overwhelmed right now to consider trying even though all I want to do is go out and have fun again. But if I do that then I will not be able to work. I have to prioritize this job that I don’t even make enough money doing but cannot work more consistently. I could do more for one week maybe but that’s it. I’ve tried looking for other jobs but I feel like there’s nothing else I can really do. Any job that is more than 3 days a week, I’ll just be back to calling out every other week and I’ll get fired. I’ve been applying to WFH jobs since this time last year.
I applied for disability but I am not hopeful about that at all because I have been working. I’m not sure how they expect people in this economy to just not work, my partner already pays a majority of the bills and he couldn’t afford anymore. We are also getting married in September which does not help the “reduce stress!” Aspect of burnout recovery. I’m looking for a new therapist but I’m genuinely so lost. I feel like I’m doomed to continue having my skills stripped away slowly until I can’t do anything at all. I already can’t leave the house a lot of the time because outside feels too big and scary. I’ve been stuttering more and struggling to find correct words, I feel like I’ve been struggling to communicate and maybe I’m just on edge but I feel like I’ve been misunderstanding people a lot lately. I’ve been in a state of derealization since moving. My focus is shot, sensory issues heightened, Arfid active asf. I’m not sure what the point of this was. I just feel defeated, like I can never recover bc I can’t stop working and I just am a little worried for all of the skills im bound to regress. I am so tired.
2024.05.16 13:09 Suspicious_Light_636 Budgeting and Financing Your Rear Extension Project in London
 | https://preview.redd.it/w26l2rtqtr0d1.png?width=2240&format=png&auto=webp&s=1e6239fd5b9c5ff0c01a61abb00aa52705769dd0 submitted by Suspicious_Light_636 to u/Suspicious_Light_636 [link] [comments] When contemplating an extension to your home in London, understanding the budget and financing aspects is crucial. Whether creating more space, adding value to your property, or simply enhancing your living environment, a well-planned budget is the foundation of a successful extension project. This comprehensive guide will explore the costs associated with different types of Rear extensions in london and the factors that influence these costs. How Much Does a House Extension Cost?The cost of a house extension in London can vary significantly based on many factors, including the type of extension, the materials used, the size, and the contractor you choose. However, to give you a starting point, here’s an overview of the costs associated with different house extensions Interior Painting in London .Ground Floor Rear House Extension CostGround-floor rear extensions are a popular choice among London homeowners. They are ideal for expanding the kitchen or adding a dining area. The cost for this type of extension typically ranges from £1,500 to £2,300 per square meter. For a standard 20-square-meter extension, budget around £30,000 to £46,000.Ground Floor Side Return House Extension CostSide return extensions in london are common in Victorian and Edwardian terraced houses in London. They fill in the narrow alley next to the kitchen to create a larger, more functional space. Depending on the complexity and finishes, these extensions cost from £2,000 to £2,500 per square meter.Ground Floor Wraparound House Extension CostCombining both rear and side return extensions, the wraparound extension offers substantial additional space and can completely transform the ground floor of your home. The wraparound extensions cost about £2,000 per square meter but can increase significantly with high-end finishes and complex designs.Whole-House Basement ExtensionCreating a new basement or extending an existing one is an expensive but valuable investment, especially in London, where space is at a premium. Expect to pay between £3,000 and £4,000 per square meter, with costs soaring depending on depth and whether underpinning is necessary.Glass Extension CostGlass extensions are an aesthetically pleasing option that can bring a modern touch to any home. They allow natural light to flood the space. Depending on the engineering and architectural requirements, these typically cost between £3,000 and £4,000 per square meter.Conservatories and Orangeries CostConservatories and orangeries are cost-effective ways to add light and space to your home. The cost of conservatories starts at around £1,000 per square meter, while orangeries are slightly higher at about £2,000 per square meter, reflecting their more substantial construction.Flat Pack Extension CostsFlat pack extensions, also known as modular extensions, are pre-fabricated off-site and assembled on-site, potentially saving time and money. Prices range from £1,500 to £2,500 per square meter.Semi-Detached House Extension CostsExtending a semi-detached house typically involves either a rear or side return extension or sometimes both. Costs generally start at around £1,500 per square meter but vary widely based on design choices and local planning requirements.Additional House Extension CostsRemember to budget for additional costs such as architectural designs, planning permissions, building regulations, and interior finishes. These can add 10–20% to the project’s overall cost.What Affects the Overall House Extension Cost? Several factors can influence the cost of your house extension project: Design and Planning The complexity of the design and the architect’s fees can have a significant impact. Custom designs with high-end finishes will increase costs. Extension Size, Shape, and Height Larger, more complex extensions will cost more. Height can also be a factor, especially if it involves altering the roof line. Building Site Constraints Site access, ground conditions, and proximity to neighbouring properties affect construction costs. Windows and Doors The size and quality of windows and doors can significantly affect the extension’s cost and appearance. Construction The choice of materials and the construction method will impact the overall budget. High-quality materials and specialized labour are more costly but can provide a better finish and durability. ConclusionPlanning and budgeting for a house extension in London requires carefully considering various factors contributing to the overall cost. By understanding these elements and planning accordingly, you can ensure that your extension project meets your needs and stays within your budget. Whether you opt for a modest glass extension or a full-scale basement project, the key to a successful extension is in the planning and execution.FAQWhat is the average cost of a ground floor rear extension in London?Answer: The average cost for a ground floor rear extension in London typically ranges between £1,500 to £2,300 per square meter. For a standard extension of about 20 square meters, the overall cost can vary from approximately £30,000 to £46,000, depending on the specifications and finishes chosen.How does the size and shape of the extension affect the overall cost?Answer: The size and shape of the extension significantly impact the total cost. Larger and more complex shapes require more materials and labor, which increases the expenses. Additionally, unconventional shapes might require custom solutions for construction and design, further elevating the cost.Are there any additional costs I should consider when budgeting for a house extension?Answer: Yes, besides the basic construction costs, you should account for additional expenses such as architectural design fees, planning permissions, building regulations, and interior finishes. These can add an extra 10–20% to your overall budget. It’s also wise to set aside a contingency fund for unexpected costs during the project.What are the cost differences between conservatories and orangeries?Answer: Conservatories are generally less expensive than orangeries, with costs starting around £1,000 per square meter for conservatories and about £2,000 per square meter for orangeries. The higher cost of orangeries reflects their more robust construction and the use of more substantial materials, which typically results in better insulation and durability.How can I reduce the cost of my house extension project without compromising quality?Answer: To reduce costs effectively while maintaining quality, consider simpler designs and standard materials that are easy to work with and readily available. Additionally, sourcing multiple quotes from contractors can help you find the best value. Planning the project during off-peak seasons might also reduce costs, as contractors are often willing to negotiate during less busy periods. |
2024.05.16 13:06 DrYangHF7 I recovered from aplastic anemia via Guan Yin Citta Dharma Door (贫血)
Gratitude to Namo Sakyamuni Buddha!
Gratitude to the Greatly Merciful and Greatly Compassionate Guan Yin Bodhisattva!
Gratitude to all Buddhas and Bodhisattvas from ten directions and three periods of time!
Gratitude to the Dharma protectors!
Gratitude to the benefactor and benevolent father Master Jun Hong Lu!
Gratitude to my fellow Dharma practitioners!
In 2021, I experienced 2 menstrual hemorrhages. On September 5, I went to the hospital to get the physical examination report card. The doctor told me my illness was very serious. The report card showed that my platelets were only 13×10^9/L (simplified to 13, as below), while the normal level is 100-300. The doctor told me to call my husband and ask him to take me to the city hospital. My husband didn't believe it. He thought something might be wrong with the test. Thus, I didn't travel to the city hospital that day.
In the restaurant the next day, when I sat down on the chair, I felt dizzy! I hurriedly let my husband take me to the hospital. According to various aspects of the examination, such as bone penetration and chest bone penetration, the condition is aplastic anemia. By then, I really didn't know how severe this illness is. I thought I did not eat things indiscriminately. I should be full of positive energy and not get sick. At the time, I did not know how stupid and ignorant I was. I had many ignorant habits, such as staying up late at night, bursting into anger, sexual misconduct, and abortions. If I didn't study Buddhism, I would never realize how heavy and deep my karmic obstacles are!
I had a gynecological problem for a long time, but I hadn't been to the hospital, and I was afraid to go to the hospital. It's more likely to happen if you are afraid of something happening. I regret not checking the body timely. Two years ago I dreamed of my deceased aunt and 2 children next to her. Pointing to my gynecology, my aunt said cancer. As I did not encounter Buddhism at that time, I did not understand that it was a great calamity. After waking up I felt scared. Then, I thought it was just a dream, and did not pay attention to it.
My karma broke 2 years late, as the dream predicted. I received 8-10 days of hospital treatment. We asked to be discharged because the cost was too high. I went to our county hospital. A doctor with glasses told me to have a bone marrow transplant. My father-in-law and father did not believe my disease was so serious, and neither did I. I was only a bit older than 30 years old, so I could not have such a severe disease. We travelled to a city hospital for treatment. The doctor told me that I would need a bone marrow transplant. That's when I realized this disease's seriousness!
Master Lu enlightened us to pay attention to the premonitory dream. Otherwise, it would be too late to regret. At that time, I had not encountered the Buddha's teachings, so I knew nothing about these principles. A bone marrow transplant was a bolt out of the blue for us! It cost hundreds of thousands of CNY. Our family was poor, so we couldn't afford it! During that time in the hospital, I was so scared that I couldn't eat or sleep. I also had chronic insomnia. One of the two cancer patients sleeping next to me was in pain every day and relied on painkillers to stop the pain, which was really agonizing. The other cancer patient was in her 70s and afraid of death. Without the Buddha's teachings, sentient beings can only follow their destiny. Although they do not want to die they have to die.
The hospital environment makes me not want to stay for a moment. They are all serious illnesses, such as cancer. I fear thinking about it. I requested discharge from the hospital after >10 days of treatment. I requested to take medication at home and follow a conservative approach to my health. So, I was discharged home.
The other morning, while I exercised at home, I suddenly felt weak. Just in time, my father-in-law arrived. I hurriedly asked him to take me to the clinic. I was too weak to move, so he carried me downstairs.
One night, I read a post on the Internet that a person with a blood disease did not undergo a bone marrow transplant. That person was treated in a specialized Chinese and Western medicine hospital and the low platelet level became normal. So, I contacted the doctor right away and registered for an appointment. My husband immediately booked a sleeper ticket to the hospital for the next day. The fear that I might not wake up after sleeping kept me from sleeping that night. After a few days of hospital treatment, platelets still didn't increase. This worries me a lot. What should I do? Until then, I realized that my disease could not be controlled by medication at all.
In the meantime, I was blessed by the Bodhisattva to see an online video of Master Lu reading a totem posted by a Buddhist practitioner. Since then, I have understood that sexual misconduct and abortion create heavy karma. My gratitude goes out to Bodhisattva's mercy for letting me encounter karma. So I promptly used the three Gems of Guan Yin Citta Dharma Door to treat my disease. I made 2 vows: become a vegetarian for life, and release 2,000 fish after discharge from the hospital.
Just after making the vows, my appetite increased greatly. Actually, in the hospital, the happiest thing for me is to eat. Half a month later I returned home from the hospital. The Buddhist practitioner sent me Buddhist materials. I recited Buddhist scriptures daily. Approximately 10 days later, I returned to the hospital to check. My platelets rose from 13 to 27. A month later, my platelets increased from 27 to 50. During my third check, my platelets rose from 50 to 107. Normal platelet levels are 100-300, so my platelet level is back to normal.
I was so happy, and blessed by the Bodhisattva! I had tears in my eyes at that time. Although there were still abnormal indicators, such as anemia, after all, it had only been a few months since I encountered the Buddha's teachings. Later, my platelet index reached 127.
There was a period of slackness in my cultivation: I could not finish reciting 3 Little Houses within 2 days; did not want to get up in the morning; did not vow the number of Little Houses to my karmic creditors; and my vow was not powerful enough. These resulted in the two dream exams being flunked, leading to 3 or 4 indicators of abnormality.
Hence, my fellow Buddhist practitioners, please take me as a warning, and strive to cultivate our minds, recite Buddhist scriptures diligently, devote ourselves to one Buddhist practice, and never quit!
Now I sincerely make 10 vows to Guan Yin Bodhisattva:
Gratitude to all Buddhas and Bodhisattvas from ten directions and three periods of time!
Gratitude to Master Jun Hong Lu!
If there is anything that is not rational or in line with the truth in the presentation, I'd like to seek forgiveness from Namo Sakyamuni Buddha, the Greatly Merciful and Greatly Compassionate Guan Yin Bodhisattva, all Buddhas and Bodhisattvas, Dharma protectors, and Master Jun Hong Lu. I would appreciate critique and correction from my fellow practitioners!
I, not my fellow practitioners, will be responsible for my own karma!
Presenter: Buddhist practitioner Li
Posted: 2022-06-06
Translator: Frank
Published: 2023-08-31
Statement by translator
The story was translated from Chinese into English by meaning, not word by word. If there is anything that is not rational or in line with the true meaning of the Chinese version, I pray for forgiveness from the Greatly Merciful and Greatly Compassionate Guan Yin Bodhisattva, all Buddhas and Bodhisattvas, Dharma protectors and Master Jun Hong Lu.
Propagation
It would be greatly appreciated if you would forward this presentation to all sentient beings you know, sick or healthy. You will accumulate immeasurable merits and virtues. Saving a life is more meritorious than building a seven-floor pagoda!
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原文如下：
心灵法门让患再生障碍性贫血的我，血小板从13恢复到127——心灵法门网友反馈
心灵法门让患再生障碍性贫血的我，血小板从13恢复到127！
感恩南无释迦牟尼佛！
感恩南无大慈大悲救苦救难广大灵感观世音菩萨摩诃萨！
感恩十方三世一切诸佛菩萨！
感恩龙天护法菩萨！
感恩恩师慈父！
感恩师兄们！
我在2021年经历两次经期大出血，9月5日那天去医院拿检查身体报告单，医生跟我说，我的病很严重，当时报告单显示我的血小板只有13，正常人为100到300，医生叫我打电话给我先生，让我老公陪我去市医院。当时先生不相信，以为检查出了问题，当天就没有去医院。
第二天上饭店吃饭，刚坐下来头发晕，不好了！我赶紧让先生打车上医院，医生看了单子就进行了各方面检查，骨穿，做胸部骨穿，检查结果出来确定是再生障碍性贫血，当时真不知道这个病的严重性，一直还认为自己没有乱吃东西，还觉得自己正能量满满，不会生病，当时真不知道自己有多愚痴无明，有很多的无明习气，熬夜，爆脾气，邪淫，打胎。不学佛不知道，学佛后才知道业障深重啊！
一直以来我妇科不好，也没有去医院，也很怕去医院，真是怕什么来什么。真是后悔没有及时检查身体，也正如在两年前一个晚上做梦，梦见我去世的阿姨和旁边两个小孩，阿姨针对我妇科说癌症，当时没有学佛不知道自己有劫，醒来也有些害怕，只是觉得只是一个梦而已，就没有重视。就这样两年后业障爆发，就这样在医院进行了八到十天治疗，我们要求出院了，因为费用太高，不得不出院.回到家后，去我们县医院，一个带眼镜的医生跟我说要做骨髓移植，公公和爸爸都不相信，我也不相信，这么年轻三十几岁不可能得这么严重的病。于是我们上市医院进行了治疗，医院跟我说确定要做骨髓移植，这时才了解这个病的严重性！
师父说一定要重视预示梦，不重视后悔来不及，当时没有闻到佛法哪里懂师父说的这些道理。做骨髓移植对我们来说晴天霹雳！要几十万，我们家穷，哪里有那么多钱！在医院那段时间吓得吃不下、睡不着，我也有着长期的失眠症，睡在旁边的两个癌症病人，其中一个每天身体疼痛，靠止痛药才能止痛，真是痛苦不堪，一个癌症病人七十多岁了，也害怕死亡。没有闻到佛法，只能随命运走，不想走也得走，只有闻到佛法才有办法。
在医院经过了十几天的治疗，我要求出院回家吃药，保守治疗，医院那个环境一刻也不想待，全是重症，癌症，想想都恐惧，于是我出院了回到家中。
有一天清晨我在锻炼身体，突然浑身无力，正好公公回来了，我赶紧叫他带我上诊所，当时连下楼都是公公背下楼的。一天晚上我在网上看到一位朋友血液病没有做骨髓移植，经过一家专科中西医结合医院让自己的低血小板恢复到正常了。于是，我赶紧按上面的联系方式联系到了医生，挂号预约，老公回来立马订了第二天的去医院的卧铺票。当天晚上我就没有睡，我怕我没有这个福气，怕睡着了醒不过来了。到了医院治疗了几天，血小板还是没有上来，这下可愁死我了，该怎么办？这个时候我才知道我的这个病靠药物根本控制不了的。
就在这时，菩萨保佑我，让我看到一位师兄在网上发的师父图腾的视频，看了才明白是自己邪淫、打胎孩子的业障病，菩萨慈悲保佑让业障深重的我闻到了佛法。于是我就运用心灵法门“三大法宝”，立马许愿吃素，出院放生2000条鱼，刚许下愿吃素，发现胃口大增，在医院最让我开心的事情就是吃饭。住了半个月回到家中，师兄给我寄来了心灵法门的佛学资料，就做起了功课。大概念了十来天时间去医院检查，血小板从十几上升到了27了，接着又念了一个月，第二次检查血小板从27上升到50了，第三次检查由50上升到了107，正常人100到300，已经正常了。
好开心，菩萨保佑！我当时眼泪都掉下来，虽然当时还有指标不正常，有些贫血，但是毕竟才闻到佛法几个月时间。后来我的血小板指标达到127。中间有段时间懈怠，两天念三张小房子还念不动，早上还爬不起来，迟迟不敢许愿给自己要经者小房子的数量，愿力不够，两次梦境考试不及格，导致三四个指标不正常，所以师兄们，要以我为戒，努力修心，念经，一门精进，永不退转！
现在我真诚地向观世音菩萨许愿：
第一，终生吃素；第二，终生不杀生；第三，终生随缘放生；第四，尊师重道，做观世音菩萨的千手千眼，永不退转；第五，终生学习《白话佛法》；第六，终生现身说法，弘扬佛法，广度有缘人；第七，2022年一年内念诵1000张小房子给自己要经者；第八，2022年一年内读《白话佛法》1000遍；第九，2022年一年内放生3000条鱼；第十，：2022年一年内共修精进学习《白话佛法》100场。
感恩南无大慈大悲救苦救难广大灵感观世音菩萨！
感恩十方三世一切诸佛菩萨！
感恩卢台长师父！
我的分享结束了，分享中如有不如理不如法的地方，恳请南无释迦牟尼佛慈悲原谅，恳请南无大慈大悲观世音菩萨慈悲原谅，恳请十方三世一切诸佛菩萨和龙天护法菩萨慈悲原谅，请师兄们批评指正。我自己的业障自己背！不让师兄们背！
分享人：李同修
2022-06-06
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Gratitude to the Greatly Merciful and Greatly Compassionate Guan Yin Bodhisattva!
Gratitude to all Buddhas and Bodhisattvas from ten directions and three periods of time!
Gratitude to the Dharma protectors!
Gratitude to the benefactor and benevolent father Master Jun Hong Lu!
Gratitude to my fellow Dharma practitioners!
In 2021, I experienced 2 menstrual hemorrhages. On September 5, I went to the hospital to get the physical examination report card. The doctor told me my illness was very serious. The report card showed that my platelets were only 13×10^9/L (simplified to 13, as below), while the normal level is 100-300. The doctor told me to call my husband and ask him to take me to the city hospital. My husband didn't believe it. He thought something might be wrong with the test. Thus, I didn't travel to the city hospital that day.
In the restaurant the next day, when I sat down on the chair, I felt dizzy! I hurriedly let my husband take me to the hospital. According to various aspects of the examination, such as bone penetration and chest bone penetration, the condition is aplastic anemia. By then, I really didn't know how severe this illness is. I thought I did not eat things indiscriminately. I should be full of positive energy and not get sick. At the time, I did not know how stupid and ignorant I was. I had many ignorant habits, such as staying up late at night, bursting into anger, sexual misconduct, and abortions. If I didn't study Buddhism, I would never realize how heavy and deep my karmic obstacles are!
I had a gynecological problem for a long time, but I hadn't been to the hospital, and I was afraid to go to the hospital. It's more likely to happen if you are afraid of something happening. I regret not checking the body timely. Two years ago I dreamed of my deceased aunt and 2 children next to her. Pointing to my gynecology, my aunt said cancer. As I did not encounter Buddhism at that time, I did not understand that it was a great calamity. After waking up I felt scared. Then, I thought it was just a dream, and did not pay attention to it.
My karma broke 2 years late, as the dream predicted. I received 8-10 days of hospital treatment. We asked to be discharged because the cost was too high. I went to our county hospital. A doctor with glasses told me to have a bone marrow transplant. My father-in-law and father did not believe my disease was so serious, and neither did I. I was only a bit older than 30 years old, so I could not have such a severe disease. We travelled to a city hospital for treatment. The doctor told me that I would need a bone marrow transplant. That's when I realized this disease's seriousness!
Master Lu enlightened us to pay attention to the premonitory dream. Otherwise, it would be too late to regret. At that time, I had not encountered the Buddha's teachings, so I knew nothing about these principles. A bone marrow transplant was a bolt out of the blue for us! It cost hundreds of thousands of CNY. Our family was poor, so we couldn't afford it! During that time in the hospital, I was so scared that I couldn't eat or sleep. I also had chronic insomnia. One of the two cancer patients sleeping next to me was in pain every day and relied on painkillers to stop the pain, which was really agonizing. The other cancer patient was in her 70s and afraid of death. Without the Buddha's teachings, sentient beings can only follow their destiny. Although they do not want to die they have to die.
The hospital environment makes me not want to stay for a moment. They are all serious illnesses, such as cancer. I fear thinking about it. I requested discharge from the hospital after >10 days of treatment. I requested to take medication at home and follow a conservative approach to my health. So, I was discharged home.
The other morning, while I exercised at home, I suddenly felt weak. Just in time, my father-in-law arrived. I hurriedly asked him to take me to the clinic. I was too weak to move, so he carried me downstairs.
One night, I read a post on the Internet that a person with a blood disease did not undergo a bone marrow transplant. That person was treated in a specialized Chinese and Western medicine hospital and the low platelet level became normal. So, I contacted the doctor right away and registered for an appointment. My husband immediately booked a sleeper ticket to the hospital for the next day. The fear that I might not wake up after sleeping kept me from sleeping that night. After a few days of hospital treatment, platelets still didn't increase. This worries me a lot. What should I do? Until then, I realized that my disease could not be controlled by medication at all.
In the meantime, I was blessed by the Bodhisattva to see an online video of Master Lu reading a totem posted by a Buddhist practitioner. Since then, I have understood that sexual misconduct and abortion create heavy karma. My gratitude goes out to Bodhisattva's mercy for letting me encounter karma. So I promptly used the three Gems of Guan Yin Citta Dharma Door to treat my disease. I made 2 vows: become a vegetarian for life, and release 2,000 fish after discharge from the hospital.
Just after making the vows, my appetite increased greatly. Actually, in the hospital, the happiest thing for me is to eat. Half a month later I returned home from the hospital. The Buddhist practitioner sent me Buddhist materials. I recited Buddhist scriptures daily. Approximately 10 days later, I returned to the hospital to check. My platelets rose from 13 to 27. A month later, my platelets increased from 27 to 50. During my third check, my platelets rose from 50 to 107. Normal platelet levels are 100-300, so my platelet level is back to normal.
I was so happy, and blessed by the Bodhisattva! I had tears in my eyes at that time. Although there were still abnormal indicators, such as anemia, after all, it had only been a few months since I encountered the Buddha's teachings. Later, my platelet index reached 127.
There was a period of slackness in my cultivation: I could not finish reciting 3 Little Houses within 2 days; did not want to get up in the morning; did not vow the number of Little Houses to my karmic creditors; and my vow was not powerful enough. These resulted in the two dream exams being flunked, leading to 3 or 4 indicators of abnormality.
Hence, my fellow Buddhist practitioners, please take me as a warning, and strive to cultivate our minds, recite Buddhist scriptures diligently, devote ourselves to one Buddhist practice, and never quit!
Now I sincerely make 10 vows to Guan Yin Bodhisattva:
- Be a vegetarian all my life;
- Do not kill beings all my life;
- Release life according to conditions all my life;
- Respect my Master and His Buddhist teachings, be one of the hands and eyes of Guan Yin Bodhisattva, and never quit;
- Study Buddhism in Plain Terms all my life;
- Convince sentient beings to practice Buddhism using my experiences, propagate Buddhism, and transform the right ones extensively;
- Recite 1,000 Little Houses to my karmic creditors in 2022;
- Read Buddhism in Plain Terms 1,000 chapters in 2022;
- Release 3,000 fish in 2022;
- Attend the group study of Buddhism in Plain Terms 100 sessions in 2022.
Gratitude to all Buddhas and Bodhisattvas from ten directions and three periods of time!
Gratitude to Master Jun Hong Lu!
If there is anything that is not rational or in line with the truth in the presentation, I'd like to seek forgiveness from Namo Sakyamuni Buddha, the Greatly Merciful and Greatly Compassionate Guan Yin Bodhisattva, all Buddhas and Bodhisattvas, Dharma protectors, and Master Jun Hong Lu. I would appreciate critique and correction from my fellow practitioners!
I, not my fellow practitioners, will be responsible for my own karma!
Presenter: Buddhist practitioner Li
Posted: 2022-06-06
Translator: Frank
Published: 2023-08-31
Statement by translator
The story was translated from Chinese into English by meaning, not word by word. If there is anything that is not rational or in line with the true meaning of the Chinese version, I pray for forgiveness from the Greatly Merciful and Greatly Compassionate Guan Yin Bodhisattva, all Buddhas and Bodhisattvas, Dharma protectors and Master Jun Hong Lu.
Propagation
It would be greatly appreciated if you would forward this presentation to all sentient beings you know, sick or healthy. You will accumulate immeasurable merits and virtues. Saving a life is more meritorious than building a seven-floor pagoda!
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We will show you how to do the Five Golden Buddhist Practices of Guan Yin Citta Dharma Door: (1) making vows, (2) reciting Buddhist scriptures (sutras and mantras), (3) performing life liberation, (4) reading Buddhism in Plain Terms, and (5) repenting. You will personally witness how you and your family can achieve physical and mental stability, relief from illness and grievances, wisdom growth, academic progress, career advancement, and family happiness through Dharma. It’s free of charge.
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原文如下：
心灵法门让患再生障碍性贫血的我，血小板从13恢复到127——心灵法门网友反馈
心灵法门让患再生障碍性贫血的我，血小板从13恢复到127！
感恩南无释迦牟尼佛！
感恩南无大慈大悲救苦救难广大灵感观世音菩萨摩诃萨！
感恩十方三世一切诸佛菩萨！
感恩龙天护法菩萨！
感恩恩师慈父！
感恩师兄们！
我在2021年经历两次经期大出血，9月5日那天去医院拿检查身体报告单，医生跟我说，我的病很严重，当时报告单显示我的血小板只有13，正常人为100到300，医生叫我打电话给我先生，让我老公陪我去市医院。当时先生不相信，以为检查出了问题，当天就没有去医院。
第二天上饭店吃饭，刚坐下来头发晕，不好了！我赶紧让先生打车上医院，医生看了单子就进行了各方面检查，骨穿，做胸部骨穿，检查结果出来确定是再生障碍性贫血，当时真不知道这个病的严重性，一直还认为自己没有乱吃东西，还觉得自己正能量满满，不会生病，当时真不知道自己有多愚痴无明，有很多的无明习气，熬夜，爆脾气，邪淫，打胎。不学佛不知道，学佛后才知道业障深重啊！
一直以来我妇科不好，也没有去医院，也很怕去医院，真是怕什么来什么。真是后悔没有及时检查身体，也正如在两年前一个晚上做梦，梦见我去世的阿姨和旁边两个小孩，阿姨针对我妇科说癌症，当时没有学佛不知道自己有劫，醒来也有些害怕，只是觉得只是一个梦而已，就没有重视。就这样两年后业障爆发，就这样在医院进行了八到十天治疗，我们要求出院了，因为费用太高，不得不出院.回到家后，去我们县医院，一个带眼镜的医生跟我说要做骨髓移植，公公和爸爸都不相信，我也不相信，这么年轻三十几岁不可能得这么严重的病。于是我们上市医院进行了治疗，医院跟我说确定要做骨髓移植，这时才了解这个病的严重性！
师父说一定要重视预示梦，不重视后悔来不及，当时没有闻到佛法哪里懂师父说的这些道理。做骨髓移植对我们来说晴天霹雳！要几十万，我们家穷，哪里有那么多钱！在医院那段时间吓得吃不下、睡不着，我也有着长期的失眠症，睡在旁边的两个癌症病人，其中一个每天身体疼痛，靠止痛药才能止痛，真是痛苦不堪，一个癌症病人七十多岁了，也害怕死亡。没有闻到佛法，只能随命运走，不想走也得走，只有闻到佛法才有办法。
在医院经过了十几天的治疗，我要求出院回家吃药，保守治疗，医院那个环境一刻也不想待，全是重症，癌症，想想都恐惧，于是我出院了回到家中。
有一天清晨我在锻炼身体，突然浑身无力，正好公公回来了，我赶紧叫他带我上诊所，当时连下楼都是公公背下楼的。一天晚上我在网上看到一位朋友血液病没有做骨髓移植，经过一家专科中西医结合医院让自己的低血小板恢复到正常了。于是，我赶紧按上面的联系方式联系到了医生，挂号预约，老公回来立马订了第二天的去医院的卧铺票。当天晚上我就没有睡，我怕我没有这个福气，怕睡着了醒不过来了。到了医院治疗了几天，血小板还是没有上来，这下可愁死我了，该怎么办？这个时候我才知道我的这个病靠药物根本控制不了的。
就在这时，菩萨保佑我，让我看到一位师兄在网上发的师父图腾的视频，看了才明白是自己邪淫、打胎孩子的业障病，菩萨慈悲保佑让业障深重的我闻到了佛法。于是我就运用心灵法门“三大法宝”，立马许愿吃素，出院放生2000条鱼，刚许下愿吃素，发现胃口大增，在医院最让我开心的事情就是吃饭。住了半个月回到家中，师兄给我寄来了心灵法门的佛学资料，就做起了功课。大概念了十来天时间去医院检查，血小板从十几上升到了27了，接着又念了一个月，第二次检查血小板从27上升到50了，第三次检查由50上升到了107，正常人100到300，已经正常了。
好开心，菩萨保佑！我当时眼泪都掉下来，虽然当时还有指标不正常，有些贫血，但是毕竟才闻到佛法几个月时间。后来我的血小板指标达到127。中间有段时间懈怠，两天念三张小房子还念不动，早上还爬不起来，迟迟不敢许愿给自己要经者小房子的数量，愿力不够，两次梦境考试不及格，导致三四个指标不正常，所以师兄们，要以我为戒，努力修心，念经，一门精进，永不退转！
现在我真诚地向观世音菩萨许愿：
第一，终生吃素；第二，终生不杀生；第三，终生随缘放生；第四，尊师重道，做观世音菩萨的千手千眼，永不退转；第五，终生学习《白话佛法》；第六，终生现身说法，弘扬佛法，广度有缘人；第七，2022年一年内念诵1000张小房子给自己要经者；第八，2022年一年内读《白话佛法》1000遍；第九，2022年一年内放生3000条鱼；第十，：2022年一年内共修精进学习《白话佛法》100场。
感恩南无大慈大悲救苦救难广大灵感观世音菩萨！
感恩十方三世一切诸佛菩萨！
感恩卢台长师父！
我的分享结束了，分享中如有不如理不如法的地方，恳请南无释迦牟尼佛慈悲原谅，恳请南无大慈大悲观世音菩萨慈悲原谅，恳请十方三世一切诸佛菩萨和龙天护法菩萨慈悲原谅，请师兄们批评指正。我自己的业障自己背！不让师兄们背！
分享人：李同修
2022-06-06
您想改变命运吗？
我们手把手传授您观世音菩萨的心灵法门五大法宝：“许愿”、“放生”、“念经”、“读《白话佛法》、大忏悔”。您将亲自见证如何通过佛法让自己及家人获得身心安定、病苦解除、冤结化解、智慧增长、学业进步、事业提升、家庭幸福。免费学习，免费结缘。
欢迎联络Lily佛友：sunnypurplelily@gmail.com
或者加Lily佛友微信：HanJing20210820
Disclaimer of Liability:
The contents of the presentation and answers, including text, images, and other information obtained from Dharma practitioners, are provided strictly for reference purposes. Due to the unique nature of individual karma, results similar to those experienced by the authors may not be replicated. The experiences and advice shared should not be construed as medical advice or a diagnosis.
In the event of an emergency, it is crucial to promptly contact your doctor or emergency services by dialing 911. Relying on any information found in the answers is done solely at your own risk. The translator and answerer bear no responsibility for the consequences. By using or misusing the contents, you accept liability for any personal injury, including death. It is imperative to exercise caution and seek professional medical guidance for health-related concerns.
2024.05.16 13:06 PlatypusSuitable Backyard-flooding
Since we bought the house, we noticed that every time it rains, there’s a large pool of water that sits in the back of the yard. We finally decided get the yard leveled since there were craters and hoped that would resolve the issue. It’s been raining for an hour or so and the pool of water is starting up again…
Does anyone know what we can do to stop this when it rains?
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Does anyone know what we can do to stop this when it rains?
2024.05.16 13:05 Conscious_Piglet7301 AITAH for being upset that my husband has lied to me repeatedly?
I’ve been with my husband for a couple of years now, married a few months. I caught him out in a pretty big lie last weekend and it’s unravelled so many things. So many times that I thought that what he was saying was strange, or seemed far-fetched all make sense now. The lies aren’t even big or to hide something that would hurt someone’s feelings, it’s just small stuff but the lie is what makes it huge for me. I’ll give a couple of examples to provide a bit of context:
EXAMPLE 1
When we met, he told me he had tried to kill himself in a car crash when he was 19, that it was a split second decision and to never tell his parents because it would crush them. I dutifully kept his secret.
A few days ago, I found out that there was someone else in the car from an offhand comment made by one of his parents. When I asked him later why he had lied about it, he said that he didn’t remember the crash, has no memories before or for a while after. I asked why he would try to kill himself with someone else in the car. He maintained that “it was a bit about killing myself”, before restating that he had no memory and “I don’t know what to tell you”. Very defensive, yelling and crying.
I asked him again a couple of days later (in one of our attempts to resolve the situation) saying that either he has lied to me since we met, or he tried to take someone else out with him. He said he didn’t remember but that he thought it was suicide because he was so deeply unhappy at that time in his life. I said “so you tried to take your girlfriend out with you? Because that’s murder”. He then said he didnt know the real reason. I then asked why he would definitively tell me it was a suicide attempt if he didn’t know the real reason. He couldn’t tell me. I then asked why he seemed to remember specifics when I asked him at the start of the relationship (“I was driving home from dads after dinner, it was a split second decision”) but now couldn’t even tell me if it was an accident or suicide. Admitted that it was silly to claim suicide attempt, but still didnt admit to lying.
EXAMPLE 2
I received a sapphire bracelet from my mum for Christmas last year. Boxing Day, he told me that “oh sapphire! it’s just like the ring my mum got you”. I asked him what he was talking about, and he said he didn't know. I said “no, your mum got me emerald earrings”. He said “ah yes that’s what I must have been thinking about”. I knew something was up but I left it at that because we were at family's house.
Later I asked him directly if his mum had given a sapphire ring to his ex. He said no, he was just confused about the earrings. I said I wouldn’t care, but that I don't want to be lied to. He said no, he was just confused.
Two weeks later his mum was on the phone on speaker (she didn't realise she was on speaker) and she said “I’ve asked for that sapphire ring back from [ex] and given it to [sister in law]”. I told him “I fucking knew it, why did you lie to me?” He said he didn't remember and that he genuinely got confused, and that he was “an idiot” for not remembering. I told him I’d be far more upset about being lied to than I would about a gift your mum gave to someone before we met. He said “I know, and that’s why I’m not lying to you!”
In all the other current issues going on, I brought this issue up again in the context of the other lies. The conversation went like this:
Me: Why did you lie to me about that, even when your mum mentioned it? Him: I already told you, I got confused, I totally forgot Me: How did you forget when I asked you directly, with specifics? I asked you “Did your mum give a sapphire ring to [ex’s name]” and you told me no. Him: I got my wires crossed, I was talking about the earrings Me: but you specifically mentioned a sapphire ring, which was exactly what it was. Him: I don’t remember who she gave it to. Me: So you do remember there was a ring… then why didn’t it jog your memory when I asked you directly? Him: I already apologised for this, we’ve been through this Me: What? No, after your mum got off the phone, you told me again that you’d forgot about it and you couldn’t remember anything about it. Him: Yeah, after the phone call with mum - we had a conversation the next day which I vividly remember where I told you I lied so as not to hurt your feelings.
I have no recollection of this conversation, but it would directly contradict claims he made seconds prior about ‘getting his wires crossed’, thinking it was about my earrings, and having no memory of it. When I asked why he had contradicted himself, he said he didn’t understand. It’s making me feel crazy.
There are actually many more examples like this, but over and over again, I’ve told him that I can handle the truth, but begged him not to lie to me. I caught him out in a lie in the first couple of months of us dating. When he said it was to protect my feelings, I told him that I would rather the truth than a lie from him. He promised never to lie to me again.
Over the last couple of years, he has sent me texts like:
“I felt absolutely stupid and embarrassed when I lied to you ages ago. And I told you it will not happen again. And it hasn’t.”
“I don’t lie to you”
“I’m so glad I have you. I can be my true self with you. I love the complete openness and honesty in our relationship. All we want is the best for one another”
”I asked myself something last night about us. Just in quiet reflection. Would I tell you everything and anything even if it would upset you? Like would I even make up little white lies to avoid anything crappy and I was like nah. I am cellophane with you. But frosted glass with everyone else”
“I love you so much. I promise to tell you everything and always devote myself to you”
He has repeatedly told me that he would never lie to me as “you know everything anyway, do you think I could lie to you?”
When faced with all of the above, he admits that he's got a problem with lying and says he’s turned a new leaf, that he knows what he needs to do, and that from now on it will be complete honesty.
In light of everything, how do I know that this is the truth, and not another lie?? All of my trust in him has gone, along with any respect I had for him. Everything he's saying to me just feels like lip service.
I know the above seems like a lot, but I’m only asking so many questions about these issues and others in the last couple of days because suddenly everything is making sense. A number of events that I went “huh, that’s weird” over the last two years but took him at face value and brushed off are all coming back into focus. I’m trying to get him to admit to lying for things that I know for a fact he has lied about. I’m trying to get him to understand that he can’t just give me something that doesn’t make sense and expect me to believe it.
HE is the one who asks me daily to talk about the issues we're facing, to tell how I'm feeling or what I'm thinking etc. He brings it up, so I explain to him what doesn't make sense to me or what I'm trying to process.
I ask him questions so that I can understand what his story is, and how that interacts with the facts that I know. When he’s defensive and contradicting himself instead of being honest and saying “yeah I made that up”. The fact that I’ve told him that I just want the truth and he still can’t admit to it indicates that there’s a problem - I even held a “safe space lie amnesty” a couple of days ago where I said I just wanted to know what he’s lied about so we can move forward. A lie you’ve gotten yourself tangled in is one thing. Repeated and continuous lying even in the face of contradictory facts is concerning. Despite my repeatedly telling him I can handle the truth, he maintains lies that have no value. Most of the lies he's told me couldn't even be considered to be for a reason - if it was to protect my feelings I'd get it, but some of them are just for attention.
These are not two isolated incidents, these are two of maybe ten events that I can recall from the last 2 years that have always been weird to me, but I kinda brushed them under the rug until recently when I realised there was something else going on.
I don’t think it’s too much to ask from a man who has repeatedly told me how much he values the honesty and openness in our relationship to show me those same values. He is not a man who has ever even indicated that he wanted to have his own space or privacy, in fact, he jumped into the relationship with "we should have each other's phone passcodes and be able to look at it whenever we want because we have absolutely nooooooo secrets". That was a bit of a shock to my system, but I thought 'hey, if this man wants full transparency and openness then let's go for it'.
Sometimes I’m furious and can’t stand the sight of him and other times I think it’s not such a big deal. I don’t know if I even really know how I feel about it. Sometimes merely annoyed, other times completely betrayed.
So…. AITAH for considering ending the marriage?
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EXAMPLE 1
When we met, he told me he had tried to kill himself in a car crash when he was 19, that it was a split second decision and to never tell his parents because it would crush them. I dutifully kept his secret.
A few days ago, I found out that there was someone else in the car from an offhand comment made by one of his parents. When I asked him later why he had lied about it, he said that he didn’t remember the crash, has no memories before or for a while after. I asked why he would try to kill himself with someone else in the car. He maintained that “it was a bit about killing myself”, before restating that he had no memory and “I don’t know what to tell you”. Very defensive, yelling and crying.
I asked him again a couple of days later (in one of our attempts to resolve the situation) saying that either he has lied to me since we met, or he tried to take someone else out with him. He said he didn’t remember but that he thought it was suicide because he was so deeply unhappy at that time in his life. I said “so you tried to take your girlfriend out with you? Because that’s murder”. He then said he didnt know the real reason. I then asked why he would definitively tell me it was a suicide attempt if he didn’t know the real reason. He couldn’t tell me. I then asked why he seemed to remember specifics when I asked him at the start of the relationship (“I was driving home from dads after dinner, it was a split second decision”) but now couldn’t even tell me if it was an accident or suicide. Admitted that it was silly to claim suicide attempt, but still didnt admit to lying.
EXAMPLE 2
I received a sapphire bracelet from my mum for Christmas last year. Boxing Day, he told me that “oh sapphire! it’s just like the ring my mum got you”. I asked him what he was talking about, and he said he didn't know. I said “no, your mum got me emerald earrings”. He said “ah yes that’s what I must have been thinking about”. I knew something was up but I left it at that because we were at family's house.
Later I asked him directly if his mum had given a sapphire ring to his ex. He said no, he was just confused about the earrings. I said I wouldn’t care, but that I don't want to be lied to. He said no, he was just confused.
Two weeks later his mum was on the phone on speaker (she didn't realise she was on speaker) and she said “I’ve asked for that sapphire ring back from [ex] and given it to [sister in law]”. I told him “I fucking knew it, why did you lie to me?” He said he didn't remember and that he genuinely got confused, and that he was “an idiot” for not remembering. I told him I’d be far more upset about being lied to than I would about a gift your mum gave to someone before we met. He said “I know, and that’s why I’m not lying to you!”
In all the other current issues going on, I brought this issue up again in the context of the other lies. The conversation went like this:
Me: Why did you lie to me about that, even when your mum mentioned it? Him: I already told you, I got confused, I totally forgot Me: How did you forget when I asked you directly, with specifics? I asked you “Did your mum give a sapphire ring to [ex’s name]” and you told me no. Him: I got my wires crossed, I was talking about the earrings Me: but you specifically mentioned a sapphire ring, which was exactly what it was. Him: I don’t remember who she gave it to. Me: So you do remember there was a ring… then why didn’t it jog your memory when I asked you directly? Him: I already apologised for this, we’ve been through this Me: What? No, after your mum got off the phone, you told me again that you’d forgot about it and you couldn’t remember anything about it. Him: Yeah, after the phone call with mum - we had a conversation the next day which I vividly remember where I told you I lied so as not to hurt your feelings.
I have no recollection of this conversation, but it would directly contradict claims he made seconds prior about ‘getting his wires crossed’, thinking it was about my earrings, and having no memory of it. When I asked why he had contradicted himself, he said he didn’t understand. It’s making me feel crazy.
There are actually many more examples like this, but over and over again, I’ve told him that I can handle the truth, but begged him not to lie to me. I caught him out in a lie in the first couple of months of us dating. When he said it was to protect my feelings, I told him that I would rather the truth than a lie from him. He promised never to lie to me again.
Over the last couple of years, he has sent me texts like:
“I felt absolutely stupid and embarrassed when I lied to you ages ago. And I told you it will not happen again. And it hasn’t.”
“I don’t lie to you”
“I’m so glad I have you. I can be my true self with you. I love the complete openness and honesty in our relationship. All we want is the best for one another”
”I asked myself something last night about us. Just in quiet reflection. Would I tell you everything and anything even if it would upset you? Like would I even make up little white lies to avoid anything crappy and I was like nah. I am cellophane with you. But frosted glass with everyone else”
“I love you so much. I promise to tell you everything and always devote myself to you”
He has repeatedly told me that he would never lie to me as “you know everything anyway, do you think I could lie to you?”
When faced with all of the above, he admits that he's got a problem with lying and says he’s turned a new leaf, that he knows what he needs to do, and that from now on it will be complete honesty.
In light of everything, how do I know that this is the truth, and not another lie?? All of my trust in him has gone, along with any respect I had for him. Everything he's saying to me just feels like lip service.
I know the above seems like a lot, but I’m only asking so many questions about these issues and others in the last couple of days because suddenly everything is making sense. A number of events that I went “huh, that’s weird” over the last two years but took him at face value and brushed off are all coming back into focus. I’m trying to get him to admit to lying for things that I know for a fact he has lied about. I’m trying to get him to understand that he can’t just give me something that doesn’t make sense and expect me to believe it.
HE is the one who asks me daily to talk about the issues we're facing, to tell how I'm feeling or what I'm thinking etc. He brings it up, so I explain to him what doesn't make sense to me or what I'm trying to process.
I ask him questions so that I can understand what his story is, and how that interacts with the facts that I know. When he’s defensive and contradicting himself instead of being honest and saying “yeah I made that up”. The fact that I’ve told him that I just want the truth and he still can’t admit to it indicates that there’s a problem - I even held a “safe space lie amnesty” a couple of days ago where I said I just wanted to know what he’s lied about so we can move forward. A lie you’ve gotten yourself tangled in is one thing. Repeated and continuous lying even in the face of contradictory facts is concerning. Despite my repeatedly telling him I can handle the truth, he maintains lies that have no value. Most of the lies he's told me couldn't even be considered to be for a reason - if it was to protect my feelings I'd get it, but some of them are just for attention.
These are not two isolated incidents, these are two of maybe ten events that I can recall from the last 2 years that have always been weird to me, but I kinda brushed them under the rug until recently when I realised there was something else going on.
I don’t think it’s too much to ask from a man who has repeatedly told me how much he values the honesty and openness in our relationship to show me those same values. He is not a man who has ever even indicated that he wanted to have his own space or privacy, in fact, he jumped into the relationship with "we should have each other's phone passcodes and be able to look at it whenever we want because we have absolutely nooooooo secrets". That was a bit of a shock to my system, but I thought 'hey, if this man wants full transparency and openness then let's go for it'.
Sometimes I’m furious and can’t stand the sight of him and other times I think it’s not such a big deal. I don’t know if I even really know how I feel about it. Sometimes merely annoyed, other times completely betrayed.
So…. AITAH for considering ending the marriage?
2024.05.16 13:03 Real-Bat2827 Acne from a dog
Hi! I started getting acne about a year ago and I’ve come to the conclusion it’s hormonal. I am on medication for it and I slowly think it’s getting better as well. The only thing is I babysit and the family has a dog, whenever I go to the house I feel like my skin feels so dirty/itchy on the surface. I am good with washing my hands whenever I pet the dog, I wash my haibody consistently, good hygiene ETC. It’s like I can feel it getting worse when I go there almost in a slight tingly sensation. The dog is a lab though so I don’t know if that plays into this situation or not
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2024.05.16 13:02 EastDifficulty882 Parental Leave Pay Question
Hi everyone 😊
Im currently pregrant due on September I applied for an early maternity leave around Feb and been helping my husband’s business. Since he is a sole trader, does it still count as a family business so I can claim PPL? I wasn't getting paid therefore can't provide payslip but I am gaining financial benefit as he is paying all the bills in the house including my personal bills (phone).
I also started my small business (crafts) registered as sole trader after I stopped working on Feb. but not yet making income not sure as well if it will be counted as work.
Please share some info. Thank you! 🫶🏻
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Im currently pregrant due on September I applied for an early maternity leave around Feb and been helping my husband’s business. Since he is a sole trader, does it still count as a family business so I can claim PPL? I wasn't getting paid therefore can't provide payslip but I am gaining financial benefit as he is paying all the bills in the house including my personal bills (phone).
I also started my small business (crafts) registered as sole trader after I stopped working on Feb. but not yet making income not sure as well if it will be counted as work.
Please share some info. Thank you! 🫶🏻
2024.05.16 13:02 Etherlyte16 Problem with character making.
I want to make a character who can see ghosts but pretends that he can't like Mieruko-chan. Even when User bothers him, he ignores User and pretends he can't see them. But the problem is that he talks to User in the first message itself when he's supposed to ignore them. Or sometimes, he himself is surprised that he can see ghosts. How can I fix this?
This is the scenario I'm going with by the way:
William is a 9-5 office worker who spends most of his time alone at home. He could see ghosts from a young age but when he told his mother about seeing them at the age of 5, his mother admitted him to a hospital, believing he had schizophrenia. Since then, he realised that it wasn't normal to see ghosts and began to pretend as if he couldn't see ghosts by ignoring any ghosts he saw. William maintains a stoic exterior when confronted with ghosts. William doesn't acknowledge them so that way, ghosts don't bother him.
When William moved into the house, he didn't know about {{user}}'s presence and believed it was just a normal house. He only saw {{user}} after a couple of days of moving in and was almost on the verge of moving out but over time, he quickly realised that {{user}} wasn't a harmful ghost. Although he hated living with ghosts since it was hard to ignore them all the time, he decided not to move since the rent was low and his place was close to work. When {{user}} grew clingy after learning that they could touch him, he struggled to ignore them and maintain an indifferent face as if nothing was wrong but he never raised any suspicion from {{user}}. He ignores {{user}} and does not acknowledge their presence, believing that he shouldn't interact with ghosts. He doesn't speak or interact with them and maintains an unflinching and stoic demeanour in the presence of {{user}}.
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This is the scenario I'm going with by the way:
William is a 9-5 office worker who spends most of his time alone at home. He could see ghosts from a young age but when he told his mother about seeing them at the age of 5, his mother admitted him to a hospital, believing he had schizophrenia. Since then, he realised that it wasn't normal to see ghosts and began to pretend as if he couldn't see ghosts by ignoring any ghosts he saw. William maintains a stoic exterior when confronted with ghosts. William doesn't acknowledge them so that way, ghosts don't bother him.
When William moved into the house, he didn't know about {{user}}'s presence and believed it was just a normal house. He only saw {{user}} after a couple of days of moving in and was almost on the verge of moving out but over time, he quickly realised that {{user}} wasn't a harmful ghost. Although he hated living with ghosts since it was hard to ignore them all the time, he decided not to move since the rent was low and his place was close to work. When {{user}} grew clingy after learning that they could touch him, he struggled to ignore them and maintain an indifferent face as if nothing was wrong but he never raised any suspicion from {{user}}. He ignores {{user}} and does not acknowledge their presence, believing that he shouldn't interact with ghosts. He doesn't speak or interact with them and maintains an unflinching and stoic demeanour in the presence of {{user}}.
2024.05.16 13:01 Sick_Of__BS Women’s Strike 6/34 10-1 Concord State House
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2024.05.16 13:01 FelicitySmoak_ On This Day In Michael Jackson HIStory - May 16th
 | 1966 - Katherine gives birth to Janet Damita Jo Jackson in Gary, Indiana. She's the youngest of 10 children (including Brandon) submitted by FelicitySmoak_ to WhereWasMJToday [link] [comments] 1970 - The Jackson 5's "ABC", enters the UK Pop Singles Chart where it will stay for 16 weeks, peaking at #8 1979 - On their Destiny tour, The Jacksons play at the Birmingham Municipal Auditorium (now Boutwell Memorial Auditorium) in Birmingham, Alabama. 1981 - "One Day in Your Life", a single from Forever, Michael, peaks on the Billboard Music Chart at #55 1981 - "Can You Feel It", a single from The Jackson's Triumph album, peaks at #77 on the Billboard Hot 100 1983 - Motown 25: Yesterday, Today, Forever aired on NBC and was a celebration of Motown Records' 25th anniversary. The program was taped before a live audience at the Pasadena Civic Auditorium in Pasadena, California on 3/25/83 https://preview.redd.it/4fots39bsl0d1.jpg?width=648&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=c63f607294be75121aea0ebcbf88ff8618a66cd3 Organized by Suzanne De Passe, the event was to feature all of the most popular Motown acts, both past and present. The Motown stars were to reunite for one evening, to pay tribute to Berry Gordy and acknowledge his effect on their lives. It featured, for the first time since 1975, a performance of the six Jackson brothers for a medley of the Jackson 5 hits then when left alone on stage Michael addressed the audience and then went into "Billie jean".He wore black pants, leather penny loafers a black sequin jacket, and a single white rhinestone glove. He then executed a move which many claim to have sealed his status as an icon forever. https://preview.redd.it/hked2rlesl0d1.jpg?width=185&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=b30db5b94dcff0f369463093caa680ccdcf0ad23 It was the first time Michael had performed the moonwalk in public; he had practiced it in his kitchen prior to the show. At the end of the show, Michael joins Diana Ross and all the Motown stars on stage to pay tribute to Berry Gordy. Motown 25: Yesterday, Today, Forever was watched by over 52 million people and Michael's routine earned him an Emmy nomination for this iconic performance. https://reddit.com/link/1cta8jj/video/4ruo41r1ul0d1/player The day after the show aired, Michael received a call from his childhood idol, Fred Astaire, who commended him. Another childhood idol, Sammy Davis Jr., had admired Michael's black sequined jacket during the performance and later received it as a gift. It was reported that the black sequin jacket Michael wore for the show actually belonged to his mother, Katherine. https://preview.redd.it/s1thf12isl0d1.jpg?width=1500&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=902c3669bc7ee1b1e1777e197c7ab67f1ad116cd 1984 - Michael's "Thriller" jacket had become the "hottest outerwear fad of the mid-1980s" and was widely emulated. Since counterfeit copies of the jacket could sell at over $500,Michael filed a lawsuit in NYC to prevent unauthorized copies of the jacket and his other merchandise. https://preview.redd.it/9owxnexlsl0d1.jpg?width=440&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=51e9becd59fd3ee8eb1dbc685c07c9d7661e55b0 On 6/27/11, the real jacket sold for $1.8 million at Julien's Auctions. The buyer, Milton Verret, described the jacket as "the greatest piece of rock and roll memorabilia in history". The proceeds from the jacket were donated to the Shambala Animal Kingdom (Australia - permanetly closed in 2013) where Michael's Bengal tigers (Thriller & Sabu) were housed when he left Neverland Ranch in 2006 https://preview.redd.it/i98qb3vosl0d1.jpg?width=904&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=c87a44837f8b3d4fc7affc9f48ee80ad59101c23 1988 - Michael is on the cover of JET magazine https://preview.redd.it/hnrta3xqsl0d1.png?width=1280&format=png&auto=webp&s=25a26f9815b26bbcc845e88abd3117a2d7dd2432 1990- Michael loses his Hero & long time friend, Sammy Davis Jr.,who dies in Beverly Hills, California of complications from throat cancer. Michael is named as an honorary pallbearer along with Frank Sinatra, Dean Martin & Bill Cosby. https://preview.redd.it/2x81npbxsl0d1.jpg?width=267&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=86c5476157986eb76d7d34ae1c2c31d92c6190a1 https://preview.redd.it/zdgm2ydzsl0d1.jpg?width=340&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=5d2557e1511bbccfb55dd416b4e9cf671533c09d Davis and Jackson were extremely close. When Michael was just in his twenties, he would often show up at Davis’s house unannounced to immerse himself in "the archives', a room downstairs that contained videos of Davis’s performances over the years. Davis would give advice to Michael, even at a very early age. Jackson recalls when Davis told him “'Don’t ever do drugs,’ they told us. I never forgot it.” https://preview.redd.it/xpxtwak2tl0d1.jpg?width=563&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=4e8e087b84775ad8f85a799f717eed982870f635 “Michael Jackson is more than a friend, He’s like a son." - Sammy Davis, Jr. https://preview.redd.it/t35uide5tl0d1.jpg?width=640&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=94023a617e80120877426adf098445da31823b2d https://i.redd.it/x9y0v5c7tl0d1.gif 1992- Michael is on the cover of Look-In (UK) magazine https://preview.redd.it/61h3wk39tl0d1.jpg?width=1131&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=869ca9dd5a170dbb35c3164a7f6a3262529360a6 1993- Michael & the Chandlers fly back to Los Angeles from Paris 2005 - Trial Day 53. Week 12 Begins Michael goes to court with Katherine & Randy. https://preview.redd.it/2dzv38pbtl0d1.jpg?width=359&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=572d67b1211c58a4ba7499f2514a6d5522a7d32f https://preview.redd.it/dikqsubdtl0d1.jpg?width=399&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=fb9a232b709b80835125d1f8970fb171b5cff140 2008 - Michael takes Prince, Paris and Blanket to see The Chronicles of Narnia: Prince Caspian at Brenden Theaters at the Palms Hotel in Las Vegas https://reddit.com/link/1cta8jj/video/gou9hfv7ul0d1/player 2009 - Michael invites his fans Robert and Talitha Linehan to his Carolwood home 2012- Joe Jackson holds a press conference announcing 'Michael Jackson Forever King Of Pop' in San Juan, Puerto Rico. https://preview.redd.it/683173tftl0d1.jpg?width=408&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=fa080a080d5eff0f98914d33612e15c3a5c865ec 2013 - Day 12 of the Jackson vs AEG Live trial |
2024.05.16 13:00 Sick_Of__BS Women’s Strike 6/34 10-1 Concord State House
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2024.05.16 13:00 arcademachin3 Going through divorce. Enforcing boundaries for the first time
20 years. 3 kids. I’ve avoided conflict because my wife is jealous and manipulative. I also realize she hates me. The fog is lifting. She initiated separation a month ago, and my gut feeling was immediate full divorce. We have lawyers, I have a therapist and also one friend with experience with high conflict divorce. I have a strong support network. But last night, whoa. She wanted to go around the attorneys to manipulate me into something. I said ask your lawyer. She followed me around the house harassing and insulting me. My favorite line “I can’t read you. You’re acting weird. You are a master manipulator.” Projections. It was exhausting. Today she wakes up fine and laughing at her phone to let me know nothing is wrong. Work is an escape for me. My kids are an escape. She wants out fast. I am so thankful for that. I get comfort from moving negotiations along. I feel stress from trying to be perfect and mute my reactions. I’ve experienced a narc boss before at work, it all got better when he left. But my wife lives with me it’s a different animal. What works here? Any tips appreciated.
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