I am NOT OOP. OOP is u/Chemical-Scarcity964
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Trigger Warnings: emotional manipulation, deaths of loved ones, financial struggles, cancer
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Original Post: December 3, 2023
I (38F) have been married to my husband (43M) for almost 15 years. My FIL has never really accepted me as family. He referred to me as "my son's wife" for the first 5 years of my marriage & when he convinced us to go halves on a property insisted on only his & my husband's names on a survivors deed, "in case we divorced". In the last few years, he has struggled financially due mostly to poor choices he made. His wife, husband's step mom, is much older & has medical problems leading him to choose to work mostly from home. He has traded in vehicles numerous times in the last few years, supposedly trying to lower his payments, but is always upside-down on the loans that it doesn't work. He is paying close to $1000 a month on a minivan. Now here is my problem.
My FIL is currently trying to guilt trip my husband into giving him one of several vehicles I inherited. I had two uncles pass away 3 weeks apart during the holidays more than a year ago & I am still going through the probate process because they passed so close together. I do not have the court's permission to do anything with their vehicles yet.
He told my husband how much it would help him to have one of the vehicles so that he could let his car go back on repo & not have to make the payments. I may have considered it too, if he had waited more than a couple weeks after my both uncles passed away. I was, quite litterally, knee deep in a horders paradise, trying to clean out their apartment within the month to avoid having to pay rent because i couldnt afford it and had no access to their money (strike one). He picked out which vehicle he wanted, the most valuable of the 4, rather than asking if we had plans for them yet (strike two). Then he asked my husband to give him said vehicle (strike three). As a cherry on top, asked my husband again (still has never asked me) to give him a $10k vehicle after we pay for all the little repairs it needs, of course.
Here is where I might me the Asshole: Do I need the vehicle? No. Could I use the money from its sale? Yes, but I could live without it, too, as our finances are better now. Will I sign it over to him? Never. This is far from the first time that man has shown utter disrespect for me & he can pay for rides before I give him any vehicle. Yes, I am probably being a little childish. The only reason I hesitate, I actually like his wife & it would help her to some extent.
Edit to add: My husband has already told me that the vehicles are mine & I can do whatever I want with them.
Since it's been mentioned a few times: he has been bought out on the property & my name added.
Edit for clarity & to address the most common responses: My husband acts as a buffer against FIL for the sake of my sanity. He has told FIL multiple times that the vehicles are not his to do anything with, but the man is intentionally dense. His wife cannot legally own a car as it cannot be registered in her name (no license) I will not loan/rent him a vehicle as I can't trust that he will maintain it.
 
Relevant Comments
akhoneygirl: Offer him the worst for 3 or 4000!

OP: That's part of it. He wants us to fix & give him the vehicle. All of them need at least a few hundred in repairs. He has no interest in paying us for anything. He is just set on guilt tripping his son. My husband has told me everything from the start & said it's all up to me, my uncles, my vehicles, my decision.

SawwhetMA: So FIL set you up to lose out on a property if your SO passed away before FIL did? I'm glad to hear you bought him out and that's set now . If you find it in your heart to give him one of the vehicles then you may be a better person than I because I'm not sure if I could, given the history. What if (when probate is set and all) you offer to rent him one of the vehicles? Obviously that isn't what he wants, but you'd get some income but still own it to sell it when he was done with the vehicle?
Good luck!

OP: He would run it into the ground & I would end up having to go get it when he refused to pay. It's just frustrating because I like his wife & would consider doing it to help her, if he would just man up & ask. Instead, he tries to play the poor me card.

Dixieland_Insanity: INFO:
How does he know what you're inheriting from your uncles. Why does he think he's entitles to any of it?

OP: He knew my uncles fairly well since they were basically the last of my family. He doesn't really know what the full inheritance is, but the vehicles were the most obvious. He has told him no a couple of times. Everything FIL gets tight on funds he asks again.

Cdn_Giants_Fan: Not The A•H. But that said I would probably sell him one of the vehicles for its bluebook value and say pay 100 bucks a week. And if he says anything about it saybthat perhaps if you weren't such an asshat to me I would've just let you have it. Then if he starts being nice after it's partially paid off tell him hes good. He learns a lesson and you earn some money.

OP: I would never see a dime. He thinks that being "the father" means he is owed something from my husband and, by extension, me. Honestly, even if he offered me full value in cash, I would probably laugh at him & tell him to shove off.

VadersLoversLover: Gift it to your MIL with a lien on it so he can’t change to title.

OP: Due to a medical issue, she can't drive and had to surrender her license. That makes it impossible to register it in her name because she can't be insured as a driver.

 
Update #1: December 11, 2023
You guys asked for an update, so here you go. I have had a long talk with my husband about FIL & his "request" for one of the vehicles I had inherited. I showed him my original post & he got a good laugh out of some of the suggestions (especially the toy car). We have agreed that the only way to handle his constant hints & requests, is for me to draft an email to him. For reference: FIL loves to send me rude & demanding emails when he "feels unheard."
The email will not be sent until I know that probate is done & is as "polite & civil" as I can possibly write it. The jist of the email I typed up is this:
"I understand that you have been asking husband to gift you one of my uncles' vehicles. Unfortunately, you have chosen to speak to the wrong person. I have told you before that, in some things, his business is his & mine is mine. The vehicles that you keep asking about are mine. As such, I have decided that they will be sold at a fair market value. The funds will be split evenly into savings accounts for my daughters, as a seed for their futures. I already have buyers lined up for the vehicles & will be arranging times for them to be collected shortly. I hope you can understand my desire to ensure that my childrens' futures are secure, as my uncles would have wanted."
I am tempted to sign it as "husband's wife" but am undecided right now.
Thank you to everyone who commented on my previous post. Your thoughts & support helped me a lot. I was genuinely on the fence as to whether or not I was being too sensitive about everything. You were all amazing & supportive about the entire mess. I just hope that this email to him puts an end to his covert begging once & for all (at least about this). And yes, my husband is behind me 100% and has no issues with my approach.
 

----NEW UPDATE----

Final Update: May 22, 2024 (five months later)
A few people have reached out to ask so here it goes.
Everything is finally settled. The vehicles are sold, except one I decided to keep for my oldest to learn on when she gets her permit.
I didn't send my FIL the email, although I do still have it saved. Turns out I won't have to. As of a few weeks ago, I am getting a divorce. My, now stbx, husband decided that he no longer wants to play house. He moved out & I am in the process of packing his things. Since the vehicles and my house were all inherited, he has no claim to them or the money from their sale. Yes I double checked the law in my state. If he would have waited a few more weeks, I would have paid off every debt we had, but he didn't. So he saved me a bunch of money by telling me before I commingled my inheritance funds with joint assets.
I don't know how his family will act towards me & our kids when he finally tells them all. His brother has called to make sure he is still allowed to keep in touch but he is the only one I've heard from so far.
Oh and as a bonus: the week before I found out about my impending divorce, my mother (who I was never close to) was diagnosed with terminal cancer. She passed away a week later. She was 58 years old, the same age my uncles were. So, yeah, it's basically just me & my kids against the world now.
Anyway, that's the update.
Relevant Comments
OOP on moving forward with her life and personal issues going on in her family especially health issues

OOP: Thank you. Its kinda sad that your kind words are enough to make me want to cry because it's expected that I am the strong one for everyone else. I don't really get to give myself time to be weak. And you are right. If it were not for my kids, I probably would have been completely broken.
My uncles had other health problems, no cancer at all that I know of & most of our family lived into their 70s and 80s. I am definitely working on getting my little health concerns checked out, though.

 

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Hello women of Reddit,
I'm going through a very rough time emotionally and spiritually and have always found peace when I express my thoughts by writing them out so I figured I would find a Subreddit to express myself and see what strangers who are impartial to my situation will say. There's always two sides to a story, so I'll be mindful to not sit here like a narcissist trying to paint a holy picture of myself and an unholy one of her. I pledge to be completely honest, even if I am burned at the stake in the comments for any wrongdoings of mine. Please note there's a limit to how many characters I can type in here, so 20 years of history for important context will need to be summarized as much as possible. I'll do my best to keep it relevant and share the parts that matter.
In my first year of high school at age 13, a friend of mine was dating a girl from a different high school that he would bring around to hang out with us. She seemed like a nice girl as far as I could tell, but I couldn't help but notice how literally everyone who had something to say about her would always highlight and emphasize that she was a slut and they would tell stories about stuff she has done when she was drunk. I didn't think much of it at the time because why would I? It had nothing to do with me. Soon after, I moved to a different high school and cut ties with that friend.
A few years went by, and one day out of nowhere to my surprise, she called my house to say hi, and to see if I wanted to hang out. I decided to hang out with her because I learned from her that she was no longer dating the guy I met her through, and we were somewhat acquainted already so it felt ok. We started to hang out a lot and I started feeling those fuzzy feelings in my stomach where I knew I was beginning to develop feelings for her, and so much that I was finding myself "borrowing" my dads' car when I didn't yet have my license just to be able to go see her. People around me who knew her started to notice that her and I were getting close, and I started getting warnings from literally dozens of people to not bother with her because she's a slut, and she's just going to hurt me in the end. Despite all these warnings, the feelings I had inside of me for her at that time were too strong to ignore, so I ended up ignoring the warnings people were giving me and wanted to judge her from my experience with her rather than other people's words.
During the time I was hanging out with her, I soon learned that she was apparently seeing or casually dating someone new, which of course bothered me because I liked her and I could feel from her that she liked me too. I started noticing that certain times in evenings she would not answer her phone at all and because I was increasingly growing so in love with her, I literally would begin to sit outside her place down the street in a car just to see what the hell she was doing certain evenings that she wouldn't answer my calls. Of course, it soon became obvious to me that she was going to see this guy she was "seeing" because she would always jump in a taxi very late night and get dropped off at the same house. I'm ashamed when I look back and realize that I was somewhat stalking her and being creepy, but the intentions weren't bad but rather just a little too curious, and it was also killing me inside to see her casually seeing this older guy who I felt was probably just exploiting her for sex. I say that because it was weird to me that she never hung out with him during the day as friends like her and I did but only went to see him late at night, so my mind started messing with me a lot and all the rumours about her started coming in as intrusive thoughts. I'm already a person who has a very deep depth of conscious thoughts so I can sometimes get very deep into my imagination and that's not really a good thing when the mind goes into dark and negative places.
One day during an afternoon I dropped by her house unannounced and I knocked on her house door but no one answered even though I was sure she was home. I went to the side of the house and climbed up on a utility box below her bedroom window that she would always sneak out of, so I can look through the window and maybe get her attention, and I instantly couldn't believe my eyes. There she was butt naked having sex with her ex-boyfriend, the guy I was friends with in early high school. I felt sick to my stomach that I walked right into that so I quickly left to my car and immediately drove off. It was so disturbing to see this and also to realize she was fucking an older guy and also liked me, all three at the same time. I never brought that up to her during that time because it was just too foul to mention. One night, she called me and asked me if I can pick her up from a friend's house because she had too much to drink and couldn't get home safe, so I said okay. When we got to her house, she asked me to help her inside, and so I did and next thing you know when we are sitting on the couch her hands are in my pants, she pulled me into her bedroom, and we had sex for the first time. This was when I lost my virginity.
After this point her and I began to start sleeping with each other regularly and of course it made me love her more and more. I couldn't deal with the circumstance the way it was and so I got very serious with her and let her know I was not cool with what she's doing and that she would need to stop this madness. We got into a lot of arguments and fights about what she was doing and we fought and fought, until one day she suddenly out of nowhere came to me and said she "broke up" with the older guy. She told me she wanted to be official and be a real exclusive couple together with me. I felt this sigh of relief go through me, but also somehow it didn't feel as good as it could've or should've had I not known all these past issues about her.
Here we are suddenly an official couple, and I started realizing that I had this deep insecurity anytime she would say she wanted to go hang out with her girlfriends and "guy friends" to party. I wasn't into drinking and partying at that age and so I would always tell her no, especially if other guys are around, but she didn't care what I had to say and would do what she wanted anyway. When I would try to stop her, she would fight me and tell people that I was being controlling. I felt like I had no power and didn't know what to do because I always thought she will get drunk and do somethign with other guys and that scared the shit out of me.
Soon after I randomly met a girl at a friends house who took interest in me. One day just like that I decided to hang out with her and I ended up cheating on my GF with her. I regret that I did that but looking back on it, I feel like I did it because I was so insecure and upset deep inside at everything I was going through with my GF and her going out partying and drinking with other guys around that I just didn't care anymore and went with it. She eventually found out that I cheated, and demanded I end contact with that girl and I did. I saw that it actually hurt her and I apologized for it and luckily for me she forgave me despite showing serious displeasure. I explained to her that I messed up and I did it because I thought she was likely cheating on me anyways and I had a hard time getting over her past. We both agreed to move on from that. That was when I was 19 and it was the only time I ever cheated on her. I learned from that one mistake I made.
A few more years went by, and still she was giving me a very hard time when it came to going out drinking with her friends. I was working very long 16-hour days at that time, and it never sat well with me for her to go out and get drunk when I'm not present. We continued to fight and argue over this, and she simply never understood me on why I didn't want her to do this. I would do this because I knew that when she drinks, she's not herself at all. She becomes very flirty and inappropriate, and I didn't want that to happen if I'm not around to look after her and stop her from doing dumb shit. Either way, she would do it and ignore what I say. I got fed up with this and ended up breaking up with her. During this time of being broken up, I started trying to see other girls and despite meeting other women in platonic terms, my heart kept wanting her back. So after six months of being broken up, I went back to her and tried to talk to her to see if she wanted to get back together and try to have a fresh start. She immediately showed interest, but she said she had to let me know during the time broken up that she started seeing and having sex with someone else. Despite not offically being a couple at that time, it shattered me. Why? Because I couldn't believe that after everything we went through, she would just go and fuck another dude who was clearly exploiting her for sex. I know that because she dropped him in the snap of a finger to come back to me, so obviously there was nothing of substance there other than her avoiding being alone. I cried about it and ultimately accepted being together again.
Many years went by again and new problems came up, now she is comparing me and us to her friends and their boyfriends. Giving me a hard time that I don't buy her designer bags and spend money on expensive items for her. I would argue with her over this a lot because to me, it was just stupid to be buying junk like this when you don't have too much money to spare, especially at our age, but she didn't care. Every day was arguing and fighting and her putting me down simply for not buying her designer bags. This is when I began to notice that I was starting to get verbally abusive towards her with name calling, belittling and shaming for stuff she's done wrong. There were also many times where I would get physical with her too by grabbing her by the shoulders and shaking her out of frustration during arguments because she would drive me insane with her words. I didn't know how else to express my anger so it always translated mostly into insults about her promiscuity and history. Anyway, eventually I got so fed up with her that I ended up telling her to take a hike and that I don't want to be with her if this is the type of person she's going to be by disturbing the peace in our household with constant comparisons to others. I didn't actually literally mean it when I told her to take a hike and leave and this is something I would often say when we would fight because when I'm angry I feel like I mean it but whenever I would calm down I knew I didn't want her to actually leave. She of course eventually took it literally, and when she did leave this time she immediately started seeing another guy. How did I know? I used 'find my phone' on her iPhone at that time to track her very strange movements and pulled up on her one day while she was with another man. The man shit himself when he seen me, kicked her to the curb and drove off while texting her to forget him. Her reason for doing this was, "you kicked me out, we are not together, and I don't want to be with you". All that just because I didn't buy her chanel and louis vuitton designer bags that her friends boyfriends were buying for them. Me being the low self-esteem insecure loser, I ended up trying to once again work things out with her and reconcile our relationship because I was afraid to lose her and be alone. It's embarassing to admit this but that's the truth.
Again more years went by and I had noticed that a depression and anxiety struggle I had over the years was starting to get pretty bad. Luckily in 2018 I was able to cure my depression in the Amazon Jungle of Peru by participating in several Ayahuasca ceremonies but unfortunately it didn't do anything to help my crippling anxiety. After that trip when I came home from Peru and she was again beginning to show signs of discontent by comparing me to other peoples boyfriends and was giving me a hard time every single day about stupid shit. She was telling me I don't do anything for her, despite over the years sending her on so many vacations with her friends and giving her thousands of dollars of spending money, bankrolling her business she started and so much more. I was taking so much of this from her on a daily basis that it was driving me insane to where I told her once again during the heat of an argument to take a hike if she thinks I'm so bad and of course she did just that. She never stopped to think of all the things that I have done for her but only seemed to focus on what I wasn't doing for her.
After she moved out we still talked regularly and I started noticing she was acting a bit weird. One night I asked her to go out for dinner and drinks and when we got back to the house she passed out drunk and so I went through her phone. I immediately went to her texts and found out she was seeing someone and the texts indicated it was potentially and most likely physical and so of course I lost my shit. I woke her up and confronted her about the texts and I will never forget the smirk she had on her face. I couldn't believe that once again she would do this and especially after fighting over dumb shit like comparing me to others. Everything I learned about this guy she was now seeing indicated she got with him because he appeared to have money. I felt this because she ridiculously and shamelessly stated she liked his Mercedes G-Wagon and all the comparisons to other people and the bad influences she had around her was obvious to me. Sadly, I again let myself down and begged her like a little bitch to stop talking to him and she was not wanting to this time. I was so fucking pathetic that I paid her a very very large six figure sum of cash to come back to me and to leave this guy. Before the cash offer she wasn't showing interest to come back but once I mentioned the money and bought her some jewellery, she suddenly was warming up to wanting to come back to me. I did, however, throw some contingencies in there that she had to come with me to Peru to participate in Ayahausca ceremonies because I felt like she had some serious internal issues and traumas that she also needed to sort out to change for the better. I felt like the reason she was always behaving so reckless and so concerned with other peoples lives and all these comparisons was because of some deep rooted traumas. I say this because she grew up without a father and without money so this is something I always considered about her and kept in mind. Participating in Ayahuasca circles really opened my eyes to trauma and behavior issues we humans have from stuff in our childhood so I knew all these messed up things she's doing stems from a root cause of something in her early life experience. It was certainly the reason why I needed healing because I had my own traumas from my childhood that was affecting my life and behavioir as well. Anyway, she hesitantly agreed and we went to Peru together. When we were in the jungle I felt her energy during one particular Ayahuasca ceremony and she seemed very scared and showing a side of her that I didn't see before. I knew right then and there that she is suffering from something in her soul that that she wasn't even aware of. I always did notice and pickup on her very serious lack of self awareness that she still seems to struggle with to this very day.
We got back home and everything seemed alright. I started noticing she was different in a way I hadn't witnessed before. Different in terms of her energy and her aura. One day she suddenly out of no where told me "after ayahuasca, looking back on myself, I feel like I was possessed by something very dark considering how I used to behave" .. She was referrng to her reckless beahvior and essentially saying she can't even believe her own past behavior and feels like she wasnt herself and now she is waking up and snapping out of it. I swear to god I cried tears of relief when she said this to me and I felt like maybe, just maybe we can have a normal life now. She also at this same time made a promise to me that she would never ever repeat those same behaviors again and that even if we were fighting one day and separated temporarily on a break for whatever reason, that she would give me the respect of letting me know before she talks to or dates any other men. Sounded very good to me of course.
Well, unfortunately Ayahuasca isn't a one trick pony and often times it requires many many ceremonies to fully heal deep rooted subconscious traumas and if you don't go back and finish what you started, you can slip back into old habits especially if you don't put in the work to change from the lessons you learn. I can only speak for myself and can say that I was still not doing too well with my anxiety and I wanted to go back to Peru again to do more work on myself. This time I left to Peru in 2021 and when I came back she was again suddenly being so nasty and mean to me when I was in an energetically sensitive state. Once again every single day back to comparing me to other men who shower their women with money and saying I never do anything for her like the entire past 17 years of everything I did for her, giving her cash, jewellery, vacations and cars all was nothing. The past didnt matter, it only mattered what I was doing for her in the moment. She drove me so insane for six months straight that one day I blew up and told her to either stop or get out. She decided to pack up and move out on her own. I tried to stop her but she didn't and she went anwyay. Some months went by and we would talk on the phone and she would tell me she realizes she has a lot of work to do on herself and that she is trying to heal herself. I told her great, I'm happy to hear that and I really did feel like maybe she might need this time alone to heal and it could possibly be what she needs. Well, unfortunately for me, she once again revealed to me a little over a month ago that she is talking to another man AGAIN and despite promising me she wouldn't do so without talking to me first, she did anyway. Her reason for breaking her promise is "were not together and I owe you nothing". She went as far as showing me text messages between her and this man from the USA and I asked her why she would rub that in my face and she said "I showed you that text so you can see that there are real men out there who wont just give bread crumbs to their woman". According to her, all I ever gave her was bread crumbs despite spending hundreds of thousands of dollars of my own money on her over the years, I am now being measured up with random men she met on dating apps. Here's the kicker, we dont live in the USA and she's been talking about wanting to move there for the last couple of years. Interesting how she now suddenly is speaking to a man online from there. You can draw your own conclusion on the motive for that.
The sad part of this all is that despite the resentment, I still love her......
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Well, there you have it. That's the story of my pathetic life. I imagine I will be shamed and told how much of a loser I am and I probably deserve it. Either way, I want to hear what some of you think.

I know the point of this reddit page is to post drama, but I thought it'd be nice to shine some light and give something people can smile about.
I (f25) am engage to my (m30) fiance and our wedding is in July! I am american and my fiance is Kprean. We both live in South Korea together and I am so lucky to have him. Now let me set the scene for the proposal:
It was on our anniversary and we had already started planning the wedding despite him not proposing because we wanted to get the ball rolling. My fiance is a really sweet guy and he took me to a really fancy restaurant for our fifth anniversary.
When we were at the restaurant finishing up eating all the delicious foods (multiple course meals) and taking cute photos of each other across the table, the waiter suddenly came to us and game my fiance a coupon. He said that the restaurant was having an event for a free yacht ride (at this point I was also confused). So, we went to the Han River and found the yacht they were talking about.
One thing to note about Korea is that you can actually rent a yacht alone or in a group setting and it's not super expensive.
So we got on the boat and the yacht owner took us out to the Han River. We got a beautiful view of the city and the lit up bridges. Once we were in the middle of the river, the guy suddenly said he needed us to come watch a yacht safety video. At this point I am sure all of you reading this can agree that this sounds super cheesy, but it was actually really funny in the moment.
The video started and at this point I knew exactly what was happening. The video suddenly changed into a proposal video. My fiance isn't that good with words, so he instead made his proposal into a video with photos of us from the last 5 years. I was crying from the very beginning of the video 😭
Of course I said yes!! And the yacht owner gave me flowers and videos the whole thing for us. After the proposal, we went into the cabin of the yacht and there was cake and wine and a bunch of framed photos of us all over. Of course I cried again. 😭
My fiance is the sweetest guy ever. I hope this happy story made your day!

I (20F) was never one to crave a relationship growing up but eventually I dated someone for years then broke it off. From there on I had multiple situationships with men who liked to text and do couple-y things without the commitment. In the past year, I found myself starting to really crave affection and commitment from the right person. I’ve had guys express interest in me or ask me out on dates but I wasn’t into them. And the guys I was into did not seem interested enough in me. Yet I am too old school to go on dating apps. I know I am still young and love will probably find me eventually, but I cant deny the part of me that desires love and doing corny s shit. Esp because my first partner was emotionally mature and supportive, I realised having someone to talk to everyday and rely on was actually really nice. I know the conventional advice is to focus on myself and that was me for the most part of my life but now I can’t seem to do that. I guess I also feel like as humans it’s normal to crave love and a romantic relationship and one cannot just suppress that by “focusing on yourself”. And I know everyone says love finds you when you least expect it but I cant turn off that part of my brain.
Tldr: how do i stop wanting a relationship so badly

My boyfriend and I have been dating for 2.5 years at this point. We did briefly break up for about a month and a half earlier this year but we both realized we wanted to be with each other. The reason we broke up, was because he ended up losing his job, and he went a week without speaking a word to me. Prior to this, I have noticed communication issues with him. There were multiple occurrences of me trying to get ahold of him without being able to reach him. And usually on days we had plans. He also tends to shut down when he’s having a rough day and it takes me calling him/texting him multiple times just to get a response. I was slowly starting to grow resentful of this. So, when he went a week without speaking to me, I just couldn’t be with him. And, I broke up with him.
I missed him terribly but was also focusing on myself and trying to heal myself from the relationship. Then, he called me 1.5 months later and we talked on the phone for 3 hours. I’m not going to lie, the words got to me. He apologized for the way he handled things. For going that long without speaking to me. He told me we are a team and we can get through anything together. So, I decided to give it another shot. And it was great. For almost 2 months, we were in absolute bliss. Communication was great, we hardly argued, I wasn’t feeling anxious about not hearing from him.
Then, last week, we had an argument. We had made plans to meet up in the city, get lunch and take cute photos throughout the city. It was his idea but I was really looking forward to it because we have never done anything like this. He texted me that morning saying we need to reschedule the our time because he needed to take his sister to the ER. I didn’t know the reason why he had to take his sister so I wasn’t sure if it was serious or not. I responded saying “hope everything is okay, keep me updated”. And then I hadn’t heard from him all day. I called him, texted him and nothing asking for an update. He then updates me, 9 hours later that his sister fell and hit her head. I expressed my concern and wished for her speedy recovery. I then asked him to call me when he had chance. He calls, and we talked for about 10 minutes. He said sorry for not saying anything and that his phone was on silent and didn’t want to talk to anyone and that he couldn’t focus on anything else.
I’m not mad that he couldn’t meet up, obviously his sister is injured. It’s the communication. I had to take the day off of work so we could do this. Our work schedules never align because we work opposite schedules so this was the only option. When he was texting me later that night, I never brought up why I felt upset. I just asked him how his sister was doing, he said she’s doing better and I told him I was glad she was better. I’m not gonna lie, I was giving short responses and he sensed it and asked me if I was upset I could tell him. So, I did exactly what he asked. He apologized for wasting my day. Which I appreciated. And this is something I know I should have just let go because he was in an emergency situation. I think I was just so frustrated because this has happened numerous times in the past and he promised me communication would be the one thing he would work on. And, I specifically said this to him too because he asked me to tell him if I was upset. He took is as me being mad we couldn’t meet up and he basically said our plans matter more than his sister being in the hospital. Which, again was not the case.
We got into a pretty heated argument about this. So much miscommunication happened. He wasn’t understanding me and I wasn’t understanding him. I apologized to him about not being more understanding. He then said a few things that really bothered me. He said every time we have gotten into an argument before, he basically loses faith in our dating and his feelings for that person goes down. He also said it was up to me to keep the relationship going. That if I wanted to still date, that he has no problems with it but that our future is not guaranteed. I asked him what he meant by this and he basically said that looking back at the arguments we had, he doesn’t know if he would be able to take it to the next step (talking about marriage and whatnot).
We have gotten into arguments before and yes, it does get mentally draining. But, my feelings for him have never changed. And for him to basically leave it up to me to decide, to say our future isn’t guaranteed really upset me. He’s essentially telling me he will be okay if we break up. I can’t imagine not being with him. I feel afraid almost that if we get into another argument, he’ll say these things to me. I almost feel like I am walking on eggshells around him and I don’t want to live like that. And he’s telling me he can potentially take it to the next step only if we don’t argue or have disagreements and that’s an unrealistic expectation.
After this argument, we both took a few days to cool down. One of his friends from out of state came to visit and he asked me if I wanted to hang out with them both. So, we went out and had lunch and spent time in the city. And, he was being completely normal with me. He was being affectionate, holding my hand and hugging me and kissing me. Which is honestly not what I was expecting. I wasn’t expecting him to invite me out let alone be affectionate to me. I still wanted to talk to him about the situation. To be honest, I am not sure how to even talk to him and what to say. Sometimes I have a hard time articulating what I want to say which is why I want to get some advice. I also want to know if this is something worth saving, just based on what he said. I honestly don’t know what to do.

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[Walking sounds]
[Pouting] Mmm ... neither izuku nor ochako wanted me….. am I really that creepy like people always told me…. I try so hard, but they're more interested in each other…..
[Notices listener]
Well, who is this adorable cutie we have right here~ Maybe they'd be more interested in a girl like me I can tell just by looking at em~.
[Sneaking footsteps] I should plan carefully and once I can get the chance, I'll kidnap them and make them fall madly in love with me [laughing].
This conveniently placed bat shall do just nicely~ they're such a cutie. I really hope there quirkless it'll make it so much easier to break~.
[sneak up and bonk noise as voice fades out]
You should really watch your blind spot, my new toy~ it'll lead to some bad things [start laughing]
[Some time passes and a voice starts fading in]
There they are~ you have such beautiful eyes~ I'll let you keep them because I'd still like you to see me at least~.
[Listener struggles in the chains they're tied in.]
Oh, no need to panic. I'm not gonna hurt ya~ [Flirty] unless that's EXACTLY the kinda thing you enjoy, then I can hurt you all I want~.
[chains rattle more as listener panic]
[Laughs evilly] Oh calm down, I'm not gonna do anything like that. I just love you too much to ever hurt you like unless needed.
Oh~ seems that got your attention you heard correctly. I love you! Obsessed even! You're the cutest thing I've seen since izuku and ochako but….. they didn't have any interest in me it hurt….. finally realizing the truth.
[Happy] but that's when I saw you. I pledged to myself that nothing was gonna stop me this time from getting the one I love, so I kidnapped you!
I know you're quirkless. I tasted your blood myself. It was so exotic, the blood of a normal human~.
[Getting close to the listener speaking creepily, so are you gonna be my good little pet and love me, or do I need to break your innocent little mind first and make you love me? ~.
[laughing] you're still fighting against me, excellent choice! Breaking you it is! [Laughing more]
[Pull the listener even closer to you and there's a click sound]
There we go a perfect collar for my new pet~.
[Flirty Whispering in listener's ear] I'm gonna make you very obedient by the time I'm finished.
[Bite or lick listener] you taste sooooo amazing, almost better than your blood [Start kissing] just give in to my love, stop resisting.
I can see it on your face you want to admit but won't~ look into my eyes and you'll see how much I love you~.
[Happy] that's it you see it now don't you now let me hear those words~
[annoyed] man…. Why are you so stubborn? Fine, you asked for this but I was playing nice before but now to really break you~.
[Start kissing the listener over and over for as long as you want]
Mmmwah~ so how are you feeling now my pet~ anything you wanna say to me~?
[laughing] Yes yes! It worked. You finally said that you loved me! Plenty of kisses from a cute girl will always be enough to break cuties~.
Now that you see you're obeying me, let's see if it's not just an act. [Unlock the chains]
Good, you didn't try to attack or run from me~ let's get outta here. How about we try going on our first date?
Take my hand! I want people to see we love each other! Maybe we'll even run into izuku and ochako and they'll get jealous seeing us and regret rejecting me!
Oh hun, don't say that, of course. I love you, but making my old crushes jealous will be such a rush! It's not like we'll see them, anyway. Now come I have the perfect place for our date~.
[Walking together]
Hurry along now you're going too slow~ I know you hate being walked on a leash in public but you'll learn to love it just like you learned to love me~.
[yank the collar a bit and speak sternly] I said hurry up….. now we should be pretty close, just right around this corner.
Tada!! What do you think it's the UA training grounds~
Oh, don't look so scared. I choose this place because it will be much more exciting! Will we get caught? Won't we? The rush is exhilarating!
[Walk together in the forest for a while]
This place is actually where I first met izuku and ochako but I'm not gonna bother you with that now come here to me~
[Flirty] I want to see how your kisses feel~ show me how obsessed you are now~ [start making out with listener]
[Speaking between kisses] Mmff… you're amazing. I know you never kissed anyway before~ I'm glad to be your first~
Mmwah~ awww look how red you are~ all that delicious blood all in your face now [lick listener] mmmm~ let me have a taste of it~ pleeeeease~
[Laughing] goooood pet~ let me see your hand~ [lightly cut listener's hand and start sucking on it tasting their blood] hmmmmm~
Oh~ you like it~ seems you're a cute little freak yourself it seem I love it~
[Wrap their hand up] There wrapped up for later~ like fresh meat I mike to put it~
[Sighs a bit] Hey can I ask you something real quick? I know i….. broke or at least tried so admit to me~ how do you really feel?
[Gasp] that's how you really feel! [thrilled and start laughing] I love you. Love You!! I finally have the lover I always needed!
[start kissing them all over their face, claiming how much you love them, then they're interrupted by a noise]
We should go! [Rush out of the forest and sometime you're back home cuddling in bed]
I'm so tired after all that….. if it's ok I won't be around tomorrow. Got some villain stuff to take of tomorrow.
[Kiss and lick their neck a bit] but I promise once in done I'm gonna shower you in as much love as I can~
[End]

So..a few days ago I took my son to the splash pad near our house. I was so excited to show him the splash pad he loves water! I really wanted him to enjoy it so that this could be something new we could do together this summer so I swooped him up and ran through the water trying to make it seem very exciting and fun but it was too much excitement for him. He hated it. I selfishly ruined it for him and looking back I want to punch myself in the face. So today, we went again this time I let him walk up there himself while I sat back and just watched at first he would hide behind a tree and just watch the water from a distance but slowly he would take steps closer and closer until eventually he was running around it figuring out the patterns of the water, which one splashed out next, which one did what, then before I know it he wanted me to take his shoes off!! He started dipping his toes in this fountain and was really enjoying it!!🥹 I am just so so proud of my son I wanted to share this with y’all learn from my mistake! PATIENCE IS KEY!💕 (My son is 3 years old completely nonverbal at the moment!)

Howdy y'all.
I've been really struggling with reducing the time I spend gaming. The saddest part is that I'm not even truly enjoying it at the moment, but I feel obligated to show up due to people relying on me considering I'm a pretty crucial member of the team and I generally enjoy my time spent with these folks.
I've started to really think about it, and I realized these people don't truly value me as a friend rather they value that I'm a reliable person that shows up and knows how to follow directions. And if need be they could swap me out relatively quickly if they had to. So why am I still here? Showing up for 4+ hours MINIMUM every week doing something I'm not enjoying or getting any real fulfillment out of. These people are nice but they aren't my friends and this isn't how I want to spend my nights anymore.
I know what I need to do, it's just hard to break a routine I've followed for years and pairing that with FOMO has made it even harder to just pull the plug. Wish me luck.

Hey y’all so I’m currently renting a bedroom in a home and I have kitchen stuff such as pots and pans as well and my bathroom products, bedding, clothes shoes all the basics The way I’m leaving is that I’m paying rent at my old place and new place at the same time so I have a month to move, im having a hard time choosing what to start with because I’ll be at both places at once and I’m not sure what to move to the new place first……and how to really go about it I’d appreciate some advice! :(

[Walking sounds]
[Pouting] Mmm ... neither izuku nor ochako wanted me….. am I really that creepy like people always told me…. I try so hard, but they're more interested in each other…..
[Notices listener]
Well, who is this adorable cutie we have right here~ Maybe they'd be more interested in a girl like me I can tell just by looking at em~.
[Sneaking footsteps] I should plan carefully and once I can get the chance, I'll kidnap them and make them fall madly in love with me [laughing].
This conveniently placed bat shall do just nicely~ they're such a cutie. I really hope there quirkless it'll make it so much easier to break~.
[sneak up and bonk noise as voice fades out]
You should really watch your blind spot, my new toy~ it'll lead to some bad things [start laughing]
[Some time passes and a voice starts fading in]
There they are~ you have such beautiful eyes~ I'll let you keep them because I'd still like you to see me at least~.
[Listener struggles in the chains they're tied in.]
Oh, no need to panic. I'm not gonna hurt ya~ [Flirty] unless that's EXACTLY the kinda thing you enjoy, then I can hurt you all I want~.
[chains rattle more as listener panic]
[Laughs evilly] Oh calm down, I'm not gonna do anything like that. I just love you too much to ever hurt you like unless needed.
Oh~ seems that got your attention you heard correctly. I love you! Obsessed even! You're the cutest thing I've seen since izuku and ochako but….. they didn't have any interest in me it hurt….. finally realizing the truth.
[Happy] but that's when I saw you. I pledged to myself that nothing was gonna stop me this time from getting the one I love, so I kidnapped you!
I know you're quirkless. I tasted your blood myself. It was so exotic, the blood of a normal human~.
[Getting close to the listener speaking creepily, so are you gonna be my good little pet and love me, or do I need to break your innocent little mind first and make you love me? ~.
[laughing] you're still fighting against me, excellent choice! Breaking you it is! [Laughing more]
[Pull the listener even closer to you and there's a click sound]
There we go a perfect collar for my new pet~.
[Flirty Whispering in listener's ear] I'm gonna make you very obedient by the time I'm finished.
[Bite or lick listener] you taste sooooo amazing, almost better than your blood [Start kissing] just give in to my love, stop resisting.
I can see it on your face you want to admit but won't~ look into my eyes and you'll see how much I love you~.
[Happy] that's it you see it now don't you now let me hear those words~
[annoyed] man…. Why are you so stubborn? Fine, you asked for this but I was playing nice before but now to really break you~.
[Start kissing the listener over and over for as long as you want]
Mmmwah~ so how are you feeling now my pet~ anything you wanna say to me~?
[laughing] Yes yes! It worked. You finally said that you loved me! Plenty of kisses from a cute girl will always be enough to break cuties~.
Now that you see you're obeying me, let's see if it's not just an act. [Unlock the chains]
Good, you didn't try to attack or run from me~ let's get outta here. How about we try going on our first date?
Take my hand! I want people to see we love each other! Maybe we'll even run into izuku and ochako and they'll get jealous seeing us and regret rejecting me!
Oh hun, don't say that, of course. I love you, but making my old crushes jealous will be such a rush! It's not like we'll see them, anyway. Now come I have the perfect place for our date~.
[Walking together]
Hurry along now you're going too slow~ I know you hate being walked on a leash in public but you'll learn to love it just like you learned to love me~.
[yank the collar a bit and speak sternly] I said hurry up….. now we should be pretty close, just right around this corner.
Tada!! What do you think it's the UA training grounds~
Oh, don't look so scared. I choose this place because it will be much more exciting! Will we get caught? Won't we? The rush is exhilarating!
[Walk together in the forest for a while]
This place is actually where I first met izuku and ochako but I'm not gonna bother you with that now come here to me~
[Flirty] I want to see how your kisses feel~ show me how obsessed you are now~ [start making out with listener]
[Speaking between kisses] Mmff… you're amazing. I know you never kissed anyway before~ I'm glad to be your first~
Mmwah~ awww look how red you are~ all that delicious blood all in your face now [lick listener] mmmm~ let me have a taste of it~ pleeeeease~
[Laughing] goooood pet~ let me see your hand~ [lightly cut listener's hand and start sucking on it tasting their blood] hmmmmm~
Oh~ you like it~ seems you're a cute little freak yourself it seem I love it~
[Wrap their hand up] There wrapped up for later~ like fresh meat I mike to put it~
[Sighs a bit] Hey can I ask you something real quick? I know i….. broke or at least tried so admit to me~ how do you really feel?
[Gasp] that's how you really feel! [thrilled and start laughing] I love you. Love You!! I finally have the lover I always needed!
[start kissing them all over their face, claiming how much you love them, then they're interrupted by a noise]
We should go! [Rush out of the forest and sometime you're back home cuddling in bed]
I'm so tired after all that….. if it's ok I won't be around tomorrow. Got some villain stuff to take of tomorrow.
[Kiss and lick their neck a bit] but I promise once in done I'm gonna shower you in as much love as I can~
[End]

Hi everyone,
I'm a brand-new brokeinvestment adviser rep just starting out, and having gone through multiple exams and passing them all on the first try, I thought I'd give my 2 cents on how you can pass them, hopefully in a quicker time than me! I'll go through each test and my personal experience, then I'll explain the methods I actually used and how you can customize them to your needs.
SIE - I literally had zero experience in the securities industry when I started studying. I wasn't sure what to think after the first lesson, but I found it interesting! It took me a little over 2 months to prepare (I used Kaplan for all my tests). I studied for about 2.5 to 3 hours each day, and made sure to take plenty of notes. I found the real test was actually easier than the Final and Mastery Exams. Lots of questions of options, the primary/secondary markets, investment companies and the Acts; overall a good mix.
Series 6 - Immediately started prepping the day after passing the SIE; passed it about a month later. Suitability was the key point of emphasis; I memorized the suitability chart that they gave in the textbook and that helped a ton. Real test had a lot more scenario based questions asking you to pick the right type of investment for a customer. Tbh I was feeling a little nervous for this one since I had failed the second Mastery Exam, and this was three days before my test date. The key difference between this one and the SIE was that the latter had a broad amount of material, while the 6 asked you how products actually worked. I'd say this was the second hardest for me.
Series 63 - Again, started prepping the day after passing the 6. I'm being 100% honest here, it was almost pure memorization. I memorized the exempt transactions/securities, as well as the exemptions and exclusions for broker-dealers, agents, investment advisers, and investment adviser reps by writing them down over and over again (on my laptop to save trees lol). Also, knowing the legal terms was key, because this was a state law exam by NASAA (so don't confuse their rules with FINRA's). The Mastery Exams were a breeze, and the real test was definitely the easiest out of the bunch for me.
Series 26 - Here's where things start to get tougher. The info that I'd learned from the SIE and 6 (they're prerequisites for this one) came back to me, and I had to remember that it was important to look at it from a supervisor's POV, because a lot of questions were going to be based on this (i.e. "A rep commits X, what should the principal do to handle this situation?") The material itself was stuff that had already been drilled into me, but being a 110-question test, I had to time myself to keep pace on the practice tests. On the actual test, I was able to answer all the questions within 2 hours, and that gave me enough time to do a second-run through. Not too bad all in all; for me it was a tad bit easier than the SIE.
Series 65 - Oh boy. Let me tell you guys something that'll save you a ton of headaches later on: DO. NOT. TAKE. THIS. TEST. LIGHTLY. I just passed it last week, and if it hadn't been for the countless hours of studying I'd put in, I most likely would've failed. This literally had all of the material from the previous tests, including the entirety of the 63. On top of that, it also had federal laws that needed to be recognized from the state-level ones. The Kaplan course had 24 units to cover all the material, and a little over 4200 QBank questions. A huge mistake I made was not using all of them up. After taking the 2nd Mastery and all of the practice tests, I had answered around 3000 questions. After some debating on whether I should study some more or schedule, although I was still shaky in a few areas, I decided to go for it. The real test started out easy, and by questions 30-40, I was feeling like I might fail. But I stayed calm and focused on doing my best. I was super grateful for knowing those formulas, as a couple of questions didn't ask for calculations, but simply what they were. The ones that did ask to calculate tripped me up a bit, but I made my best picks/guesses. After answering all the questions with about 50 minutes left, I changed 2 answers; one because I didn't read the question properly and the other because I found another question that helped to answer. As you can imagine, this test was easily the toughest out of them all. I was more than thankful to see that "Pass" appear after clicking "Submit".
So there's my story! Sorry for the long paragraph on the 65; I actually cut out some more sentences to try and shorten it as much as possible. To cap everything off, I'll go through the main strategies I used, and how you can customize them to your will (Although I used Kaplan, they can probably work for other programs as well).
1) Do many practice tests. After each practice test, read the explanations throughly. Understand why you got the question right or wrong. The real test will almost certainly have different wording than the prep course you're using, so understanding the concept allows you to answer correctly regardless of how the question is asked. When I was using the QBank questions, I made sure to set the custom quiz to pull unused questions from the pool, so I didn't know what would appear next.
2) Make acronyms/phrases. They can be about absolutely anything (a movie, a life experience, etc). Anything that you can connect a group of bullet points or a concept to make it easier to remember is a good thing. For instance, I was having trouble with SEP IRAs, and it kept mentioning that only the employer contributes to this type of IRA. So to help me remember, I made the phrase "Solely Employer Puts In" (the first letter of each word makes SEP and I for IRA). Any silly way to hammer that point in means you won't forget come test time.
3) Record yourself saying concepts and phrases, and put it on loop. I started doing this a bit for the 26, and a LOT for the 65. Try to say what you want to say in a minute or less (absolute max of 1min30s). Once you put your recording on loop, you can listen to it over and over again, and this actually forces the info into your brain without you having to think or work too much. After listening to each recording however many times you like, try to write down what you heard. If you can't remember, just keep playing the recording until you've got it memorized.
4) Watch YouTube videos. Please be careful with this one, and make sure you use videos that are up to date (some videos were created years ago and thus pieces of info may not be current). Series7Guru with Dean and PassMasters with Suzy Rhoades are two excellent channels to look into. You never know, these videos may just help you snag an easy point or two on your real test ;)
If you're still here after getting through this humongous post, I wish you best of luck in not just your tests, but your future careers! Take care!

I've been with my fiance 4 years this August. We broke up due to his drinking 6 months into our relationship. I set it as a boundary that he can't drink. That lasted two weeks and he asked if he could drink for St Patrick's day and he promised beer only, no hard liquor.
This was our agreement and it worked. Until December 2023. Our 4 month old kitten passed away and it hit him hard. And he started drinking again. Then it got really bad in January, where he was lying to me about drinking. He was driving my car. He promised me 3 weeks in a row he was quitting. But I kept finding out he was lying.
He finally got sober in February. The first 30 days were amazing. I felt like I had my best friend back. But then he was getting angry easily and wanted to fight about everything. Which I looked up and was normal for where he was in his sobriety. But empty or almost empty bottles kept appearing and he said they were old bottles. I found a full bottle in the seat pouch of my car. It was unopened so he claimed he bought it but didn't drink it.
Then right after his 60 days I found another unopened bottle in his desk drawer(Friday night). Something told me to check the dumpster in the garage. There was an empty bottle in the big dumpster. I was up all night crying. I asked him about it in the morning. He said he bought it Tuesday. He said he wanted to see if he could just have a drink or two. He said he didn't enjoy it. But had drank the whole bottle.
He has lied to me multiple times. There are times he looks and sounds drunk. I can't explain to him how he just sounds intoxicated(not slurring but you can hear it in the voice). The last time we got into a fight about it he asked, "how can I get you to trust me?" So I decided to get a breathalyzer off Amazon. He seemed intoxicated today. So I asked him to do the test. He asked if I was serious. I said "yes, this is going to help me trust your word when you say you haven't been drinking". He refused to do it. I told him all that's doing is verifying my fears and worries.
He said I'm in the wrong for even asking him to do the test. I don't know if I'm wrong or is he really good at gaslighting me?

I am just feeling it hard right now. It is summer weather is great but I just ain't feeling it. I gained most of all the weight I lost a couple years ago but have lost about 10lbs since then but I haven't done any gym work since I came back home from college. The remaining friend group I had after high school pretty much fell apart. I have enough stuff to keep me energized and focused but I find myself endlessly looking at reddit and youtube or just listening to music. I have summer class to work on, I wished I would play instruments more/practice, and I frankly haven't done any hobbies outside my comfort zone.
It makes me unhappy and lonely to not even be able to pick up at least my guitar. It has been two weeks since spring semester and I just worry this will be the whole summer. I fucked up my sleep schedule already since I don't want to come to the next day. I am frustrated that at 21 I have not had a real relationship. Which in part is because of my weight even though I had lost 75lbs by the time I started college but like I said gained all of it back and only lost a little bit more. I have harsh family who accuse me of not helping my parents but I do but they are older than dirt and expect me to read my parents mind on what to do, when all they gotta do is tell me and i'll do it. I can't read minds.
I feel intelligent but at the same time incredibly stupid. I don't have that wet blanket feeling like I used to but more of that hole in the hurt and punch in the gut. I wish I could just wake up and do my homework first thing, do cardio and free body exercise, and do other hobbies like instruments. But I just do the bare minimum for myself, I feel so alone most of the day. I feel better when I am helping out the rents or grand rents but that only distracts me for so long.
I know I can't fix the longing for a relationship thing overnight since I wouldn't even have the faintest clue on how to even tackle that even if I was back to my "low" weight. I don't think I am depressed or anything but I just get lonely and wish I had someone or something to do shit with. I don't even hate myself anymore even with the weight gain, I got all that out of me a long while ago, sadly that therapist retired and I don't want to go to some other one. The guy was the only decent therapist out of the handful I had before him. Having one now would probably not make much of a difference, most of the advice and suggestions I already probably know but just don't implement them to help myself.
Like I said the remaining friend group pretty much disintegrated so I have nobody close to do stuff with. Even then a couple of them are busy with relationships or their own problems.
I don't even find that much joy from driving my camaro. It's like what's the point driving the same roads over and over, especially all by yourself it gets old.
I just want to be able to enjoy the weather and sun stress free, worry free, and lonely free.
If you read this, thanks, I think I just needed to vent out how I am feeling on paper. If anyone has any words of wisdom thanks.

Hey Reddit,
To start, thank you all for your kind words and support during this time. For the many of you that saw my last post and have been patiently waiting for an update wait no more. Please know that the part 2 really isn’t all that exciting.
After leaving my boyfriend in Florida while on vacation, he started blowing up my phone with insults and insane claims trying to get me to fund his trip back to California. He gave me various demands all circling around getting him on a flight that day back to California. I informed him that I don’t take demands from men that look like Benjamin Franklin.
He was very concerned with what I was going to be doing back in California without him and I replied “other people”. I told him that he should be happy now since he doesn’t have to worry about his ex girlfriend getting in the way of finding his hot Miami wife. He was shocked when I mentioned that I was now his ex. He went on a rant about how I can’t do anything on my own and that I need him to take care of me. I was confused by what he meant by that as I’m the one that has taken care of him.
After my lack of response for 2 hours, his mom started to call me multiple times, as fast as she was calling I was declining her calls even faster. She started texting insults letting me know how she really felt about me. I let her know that she failed her son by raising him in a way that would allow for him to lose his financial safety net by being ungrateful.
She let me know that she actually agreed with him. “If you tried to make yourself pretty for him, he wouldn’t have needed to start an argument”. I responded “if you didn’t try to put other women down your whole life, you wouldn’t be a washed up divorced trophy wife”. Then the real insults started coming in. I must have struck a nerve. I finally texted her back after her rapid firing of insults about my appearance that if she wanted him back in California, it’s her job to support her bastard son. She sent multiple more messages after that but I stopped reading them as I said my part.
I received multiple voicemails from my ex begging for forgiveness. All of a sudden, he wants to change, he finds me attractive, he doesn’t want to lose our relationship, etc. This is all too bad considering the great thing that he had going on prior to his negative outburst. He kept texting begging to come back and be able to make things right with me in person. Eventually he gave up texting.
His mom ultimately had to put him in a cheap motel for a couple of days so she could figure out how to get him home (to Ohio) so that she could take care of him the way that I apparently couldn’t. She got him back home this morning all while making multiple Facebook posts about me being a terrible person for leaving her sweet baby boy by himself in “an alligator infested swamp covered state”.
Anyways, I’m still curious AITAH?

I can't explain the dread I feel right now. I love him so much, I've drifted apart from basically all of my friends and he's the only person left right now that I actually enjoy hanging out with and put effort into seeing. He texts me daily, is so understanding of me and my anxiety issues - he's sat with me for hours upon end, rubbing my back, telling me everything is going to be okay. Granted, a lot of these anxiety causes were over stuff he did, but still. He showers me with compliments, and we get up to so much fun together. I can't recall the last time I had so much fun with someone just lying in their bed, going out for a walk, etc. I love him so much.
But, a more logical side of me is telling me we have to break up. I am extremely torn and it's causing me so much anxiety. There have been several incidents that have deeply hurt me and made me question our compatibility.
About a month or two after he and I became official, he sent me a picture of a girl he used to sleep with, intending for me to recreate it. He claims he “didn’t know” that it was her, frankly I was and continue to be insulted by the fact he thinks I’d believe he saw that picture and didn’t immediately know it was of his female friend and not some random girl he didn’t know, especially since he had cut her face out of the picture. Another thing related to this same girl - followed by an indulgence of my anxiety, I checked her instagram profile and I can see that he's liked a select number of pictures of hers whilst we were dating, all pretty provocative, which also makes me very insecure. What makes this different is that he’s told me they’re no longer friends, not by his choice but by her refusal since she ghosted him after they slept together, which makes it seem like he would be with her if he was given the choice. If I was her, I’d take a like to a picture like that to mean that he was still interested, especially since he told me she ignored his messages after they slept together, it changed the context a bit.
He also throughout our relationship for the first maybe 5 months demonstrated a very intimate knowledge about most of his female friends; I’ve heard him go into details about his female friends’ preferred masturbation techniques and relay that to me as advice, their favorite positions in bed, when I said I enjoyed it when he did something in bed, he could casually mention how “his friend told him she loved it as well”. For clarification, they never slept together, they had just deeply discussed things like this.
By happening to catch some notifications while we were on hisphone, I also was informed of his friend who sent him semi-regular updates about her sex life, describing certain sexual acts they did, how good the guy was, commenting on dicksize, etc. I made it clear I was not OK with this and he agreed that he found it too much. He claims he asked her to stop. But then, it happened again, and he blamed it on her forgetting. What hurt me here was also his lack of reaction when we both saw the text notification, he just noted on it and then continued watching the TikTok we were watching. He didn't seem to care about how it affected me or the breach of our set boundaries. That makes me suspect he either didn’t care or wasn’t surprised because, well, maybe he never set those boundaries in the first place.
When we spoke about it later, he did validate my feelings, but what also took place was him protecting her behavior. It made me feel so undervalued, and unheard. She has had sexual trauma, therefore she must message her friend who is in a relationship about who she had sex with, why, when and how. It was just such a shitty excuse, and I don’t know what’d make me feel worse; him genuinely believing that or him being so willing to lie to me. Regardless, we’ve now come to the decision to cut her off. So that problem should be “dealt with”, but my feelings of betrayal and distrust still linger.
I could never imagine doing these things in a relationship; it would make me feel like I was cheating. This is why I believe we're incompatible. While he may find this behavior acceptable, I don't. can't handle the anxiety and insecurity it causes me. I think I simply have a more conservative view of relationships, intimacy, and sex, and I believe it's essential that my partner shares this perspective.
Another major issue between us is our sex life. While I've enjoyed some aspects, I often feel my sexual needs aren't reciprocated. Despite discussing this before, improvements have been minimal. For instance, when I asked to use a condom for the first time, he put it on but then continued basically dry-humping me until he came. After that, I asked if he wanted to do something else - me still being horny - and he said he was too tired to continue. Next day, when I clarified “something else” meant intercourse, he was upset he missed out, indicating he did have energy but chose not to please me.
Another time, after we started kissing and moved to the couch, he requested I give him a blowjob, which I did, but then after he came he just left me on the couch, feeling used and alone. I feel this happens a lot, he is very focused on his own pleasure but not mine. What makes it worse, when I gathered courage to ask for reciprocation with a vibrator, which is hard for me being that forward, he responded unenthusiastically and then ignored it to first eat then play video games, then claiming he forgot. He later asked me “oh, did you want me to still do that?” maybe two hours later, but I was hurt and felt the way he asked seemed like it was more of an obligation to him than wanting to pleasure his girlfriend.
I've tried to communicate my needs and understand his, even considering factors like potential porn addiction (might be) or lack of attraction. Regardless, our sexual incompatibility persists. I need a partner as interested in my pleasure as I am in theirs.
All these reasons are, like I said, very logical reasons for a breakup, but my dread about it persists. I feel like I would rather take the insecurity and anxiety than feel this way. I’d miss him so much. It doesn’t help that I basically thought I was aromantic and asexual before I met him, I haven’t really been attracted to guys the way I am to him, on an emotional and physical level. I feel like I would never find someone who compares. I am an anxious wreck. Would apprechiate any advice on what you would do in my situation, how I could come to terms with breaking up. ANY insights, and I mean ANY, I would love, I am in dire need.
As a side-note, I was thinking of basically re-formatting this text a bit and sending it to him together with my break-up text, to explain it. He would require to know why, and I'd feel it'd be cathartic. Thoughts on that?
TL;DR: I'm torn about breaking up with my boyfriend, whom I love deeply and share a strong bond with. Despite his support and our fun times together, several incidents have hurt me and made me question our compatibility. He sent me a picture of a girl he used to sleep with, asking me to recreate it, and (IMO) lied about not recognizing it was her. He liked provocative pictures of her on Instagram, making me insecure. He shared intimate details about his female friends' sex lives, which made me uncomfortable. A friend of his sent explicit updates about her sex life, and despite agreeing to set boundaries, it happened again, with him showing little concern for my feelings. These actions have caused anxiety and insecurity, making me feel undervalued and unheard. Our sex life is also problematic; my needs often go unmet, and efforts to communicate haven't led to significant improvements. Despite these issues, the thought of breaking up fills me with dread, as I can't imagine finding someone who makes me feel the way he does. I need advice on how to come to terms with ending the relationship and moving on.

Hello everyone. This is my website; denimduke I just launched it, this is my second attempt at a store.
The first one was very niche and didn’t have a very large demand so my Facebook ads didn’t do very well. I didn’t have thousands of dollars to run ads everyday for a month so instead I was spending 50$ a day for about a week and while I did get some sales from the second day, the CPA was too high and I was losing money.
Since, I enjoy creating these stores, I made a new one. And now I’m not quite sure how to actually get customers. Before I start running ads I just wanted to ask y’all if you think the store above had real potential of making me money or if I need to change things.
Most importantly though, how should I run ads? I was considering doing advantage+catalog ads. Just one campaign with the ad being my product catalog, and add a cost cap of 15$ so that I just don’t burn all my money. Obviously I don’t really have a lot of experience so if anyone has advice please point me in the right direction. Also almost all my clients from my first store came from the UK, personally I live in Canada, do you have any recommendation as to where I should target starting out or if I should target several countries.
Thank you all.

it was a comedy slice of life kinda like lucky star but with a more chibi and simple style but not like kill me baby i think. and also more bizarre when it come to adventures. the mc was a pink haired girl or at least there was a pink haired girl in the main cast. i remember clearly part of an episode where the group of girls went to fishing, they used one of the girls to get more fishes throwing her in the water while the rest where on the boat. when they got the girl back she started vomiting water and a lot of fishes and then started turning into a fish but like, her arm where fishes, after that i don't remember a lot. here i drew something as reference!
i remember watch the anime on a random anime page that a cousin recommended me on like 2012-2015, i think it was called anime tv or sum basic name like that, i checked for anime pages with that name and i didnt found the one i was looking. idk if it helps but it was on a website that had anime with subtitles in spanish.
edit.
the same has something to do with the word 'sol' or maybe its my brain messing w me

Hey y’all, 25F here. I’m new to the club as I just received my test results a few hours ago, positive for genital HSV-1, and I just want to share my experience so far as I’m on around day (10?) of my first outbreak.
First of all, I’ve definitely cried a few times this last week along with frantically googling, dealing with these awful symptoms, pretending everything is okay at my day job followed by coming home and experiencing intense anxiety (which can be triggered by medical issues).
I suspected it was HSV, but just didn’t want to believe it especially because I’ve come out of a 5 year with an abusive alcoholic ex who cheated on me so I’m new to the dating world and dating is hard enough without having to disclose good ole genital herpes. Haven’t I been through enough? I’m not sure if I got it from my ex, new guy I’m seeing (said he’s clean that he’s aware of and I never saw a physical outbreak on him), or if it’s something I got from a previous partner and it laid dormant for so long. Who knows, who cares at this point I guess.
I started by feeling a small bump on my inner butt crack which I chalked up to a razor bump. Within a few days, 3-4 more sores popped up and these were all of my symptoms over the course of about a week after noticing the sores: swollen lymph node and slightly sore throat for first couple of days, chills, sweats, burning pee like razor blades, nerve pain throughout lower half of my body (especially my feet), a dull ache in my genitals/surrounding area, burning/itching sores, random tingling, and the worst constipation I’ve ever experienced which is now the main symptom I’m dealing with as I think I’m seeing the light at the end of the tunnel for this first outbreak. My doctor prescribed Valtrex as a precaution while I waited for test results and my sores are almost healed up.
Anyway, I’ve been seeing this man for close to two months now, officially dating and exclusive the last couple of weeks so this is VERY fresh. Everything is going damn near perfect with us and I know we both have very strong feelings for each other and are interested in a future together, but with all good has to come bad (aka disclosing my HSV-1 status). I absolutely dreaded this conversation but knew it had to be had since I was symptomatic, we recently had sex right before my outbreak, and I was awaiting test results.
Luckily, he was so incredibly understanding. Of course he said it was a lot to take in at first which I understood. I am so grateful that he responded by basically saying it’s a bump in the road that we’ll get through together, we’ll monitor my symptoms, and it would be silly to jeopardize what we have that’s so special over something like this that I couldn’t control. So sharing my experience to show that not all disclosing experiences are horrifying, and I hope you all find the person that chooses to love you through this. And if not, then fucking love yourself.
With that, I still am an anxious mess about how to move forward and about the effects long-term so if anyone has any good research on that I’d be more than interested since I know it affects the nervous system. Obviously having a script of anti-virals on hand if I start to suspect an outbreak is a good idea but any and all advice, tips for dealing with the above symptoms, etc. would be appreciated. Peace and love to everyone reading.
TLDR; Genital HSV-1 Positive, having a lot of random and shitty symptoms, disclosed to my partner with a good response, and asking for advice/tips/tricks to manage symptoms.

TW: mention of SA
I apologise for the long post but I just need to get this off my chest
I (21F) was talking to a guy (21M) for about two weeks, we clicked really well and we had so many amazing conversations. We would talk for hours on end, even staying up until 3-4am. He was an amazing listener and really wanted to know about me and we talked about our childhood and I opened up about my past.
We had plans to go on a date irl this week. Well, last night we were discussing how crazy we were in high school, and he proceeds to say “I’m so glad you were a dork and not one of those girls who slept around.”
I proceeded to respond with “that’s true but I definitely made some bad decisions as a teen.” I thought I could say this because he said he really liked me and would never judge me and wanted to know everything about me.
He says “wait- you’ve slept with different guys in high school?” And I said yes, why does that matter? I’m 21 now, I was 16-17 then.
He said “welp there it is” and refused to elaborate what he meant.
I kept politely asking him to elaborate and speak in sentences because he started giving only 1 worded responses when I said I was confused what he meant. He then randomly goes “do you think you would make a good girlfriend then?” and I was utterly confused as to how random that question was.
He then said he lost instant attraction to me because of what “I did as a teenager” and I said that was pretty strange, that he would by bothered by what I did as a literal child in the past. He admitted it was a personal problem he had to work on, and I expressed the fact that i understood that, but I wish he let me know earlier on or at least was kinder in reaction.
Here’s where it gets worse. He proceeds to imply that I was throwing myself at boys for attention back then, and I explained, uncomfortably that I did what I did because I was sexually assaulted more than once and it was sort of a coping mechanism because I didn’t want to feel anything anymore.
He says “oh my ex was raped so I know what it’s like.”
And then he says, “well it doesn’t matter what your reasons were, it’s a turn-off and your actions still have consequences. And you still chose to do it when you had choices.”
At this point I was just… shocked.
Lastly, he said “my ego was huge” because I was defending myself and telling him that he’s out of line and being really disrespectful and hurtful considering I never even met him in real life, refused to agree / understand him.
He just kept calling my ego massive when I kept saying he’s being inappropriate and I’m shocked he would say something like that about a very sensitive topic considering how kind and understanding he had been in the past few weeks.
I don’t even know what to think. I’m just really sad. This was my first “real” connection in over a year with a guy and I was very excited to meet him and it ended like this.

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The weasel story.May 28th 2024, 19:02, by 3drcomics
So ill explain this now, was hoping some one had a similar experience that might be able to help shed some light on this. This is my last direct experience with anything paranormal.
So my dad, was a good man, a great man. Never did any harm to anyone, amazing father, and good husband to my mom.
Now, i wont go into to much detail on what happened because i dont want to drag his name through the mud. Rip dad, we still love you and miss you.
But their was an incident in my late teens, that resulted in me calling the cops on my dad, and this wasnt a simple incident or something stupid, and resulted in him joing to jail for a few months, even when we all asked for him to be released, and gave him a criminal record, and when he got arrested, it was less then willingly, very scary incident, guns pulled on him and everything, and he just didnt seem to care.
This was something we never expected from him, and never saw again. My mom, sister, and i would discuss the event in length while he was in jail. And we all came to realize we all saw something in the house, started a few days before it happened.
We all would see what only could be described as a weasel, never directly, always out of the corner of ours eyes, runing from room to room, or up the stairs, etc.
We never really could explain it, but our best guess is some sort of demon, or something that attached to him somewhere.
Like i said, he never did anything like this again.. but we would still occasionally see this "weasel" and it was only when he was around, we never saw it when he wasnt home, and when i moved out, i never saw it, but when i, or my sister would visit, even after they moved to a new house, we would occasionally see it.
My sister and i havent seen it since he passed, and i live in his house now.
So, thats the weasel story, and my last paranormal story.
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Need help with some terms people are using please! I have ADHD and everytime I try to watch a video of people explaining one or two they ramble on making no sense and I feel like tearing my hair out.
I'm on Xbox btw. Not asking for someone to answer every single one of my questions but be great if you could answer ones you know if you have time :) thanks!
Pvp (player v player?) Sessions (like what constitutes as a session) Jump lobby (what is it, how do you do it) Lobby in general (what does it refer to I've seen people refer to it in so many contexts) Appearing offline (how do you do it, do you not get logged out?) Defensive (understand it now but how do you do it?) Also how can you check if someone is honourable? I always get shot by blue dots then they turn red.
Extra if interested - I've had the game for a while but only started REALLY playing 2 weeks ago-ish as I have time these days. Now rank 34 and maxed collector role now doing trader role. I'm 30 y/o female if anyone wants to team up etc. Even though I don't even know how that works lmao. Like do we do missions together, share money etc? I'm honourable and only had fights with other players one on one who started it and were just trying to be annoying but I think I'm pretty good in missions etc.