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2024.05.29 05:33 WatchElectronic4691 Confused and butthurt. Could use some clarity and a pep talk.
Tl;dr: Had a fantastic time with a potential FWB I'd known for years, and then she left me.on Read and unfriended. I'm at a loss.
So I worked with her for a couple years. Nothing happened, but we always got along along well. Eventually one of us left that job, and we traded info before saying bye. We got to messaging (I know, I know, but I wasn't even sure she wanted to get together, and she's a big messaging type, anyway) and pretty soon we talked our way into acknowledging we both wanted an ongoing casual thing with absolutely no strings. HHH, right? So we made very quick plans for her to come over and potentially stay over. She came over the next night, wine in hand, and it went just about perfect. Didn't even watch a movie as we planned since we were talking and laughing for hours. Naturally cuddled up midconversation. Casually kissed her at one point and went back to talking. Pretty soon, doing little talking. We took our time, too. Did almost everything, but we'd agreed on a red line of "No matter what, no full hooking up the first hangout." Fine with me. We enjoyed each other extensively, anyway. Had some similar semifreaky interests, too. When we finished, she stayed over, and we slept either with her on my shoulder or me spooning her, alternating all night. Morning, we had a little more fun, but she had to go quickly. Nothing was awkward. We still made time for some of that morning fun. We parted ways with some flirty words about how it went and about the future.
That night, I messaged her that it was great our interests meshed so well and I couldn't wait for next time. Left on Read.
Few days later, I sent the second and last message, about wanting to share some flirty thoughts I'd had along the lines of things we'd discussed. Left on Read.
Now, a couple weeks after our meet, I see she unfriended me.
I'm lost, confused, a bit butthurt, and man just a bit plain old hurt. We clicked well, really well, in conversation and in having our fun. We'd known each other for years. We had a lot in common. We had a great acquaintance (and once we got to talking possibilities, I was always casually clear we were not just friends and I didn't want that). And truly everything I can think of from our meet, start to finish, suggested we'd talk more often and meet again soon.
Instead, ghosted and unfriended. Someone I'd known for years.
Like I said, I'm lost, confused, and a bit butthurt. I know better than to reach out to her. But that's as far as I can make sense of it, so that's why I'm reaching out here.
Rather than telling me what to do from here (forget her and focus on yourself), can anyone offer any insight or similar experiences? I just have a million questions I'll neve ask, so making sense of those would help most of all.
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So I worked with her for a couple years. Nothing happened, but we always got along along well. Eventually one of us left that job, and we traded info before saying bye. We got to messaging (I know, I know, but I wasn't even sure she wanted to get together, and she's a big messaging type, anyway) and pretty soon we talked our way into acknowledging we both wanted an ongoing casual thing with absolutely no strings. HHH, right? So we made very quick plans for her to come over and potentially stay over. She came over the next night, wine in hand, and it went just about perfect. Didn't even watch a movie as we planned since we were talking and laughing for hours. Naturally cuddled up midconversation. Casually kissed her at one point and went back to talking. Pretty soon, doing little talking. We took our time, too. Did almost everything, but we'd agreed on a red line of "No matter what, no full hooking up the first hangout." Fine with me. We enjoyed each other extensively, anyway. Had some similar semifreaky interests, too. When we finished, she stayed over, and we slept either with her on my shoulder or me spooning her, alternating all night. Morning, we had a little more fun, but she had to go quickly. Nothing was awkward. We still made time for some of that morning fun. We parted ways with some flirty words about how it went and about the future.
That night, I messaged her that it was great our interests meshed so well and I couldn't wait for next time. Left on Read.
Few days later, I sent the second and last message, about wanting to share some flirty thoughts I'd had along the lines of things we'd discussed. Left on Read.
Now, a couple weeks after our meet, I see she unfriended me.
I'm lost, confused, a bit butthurt, and man just a bit plain old hurt. We clicked well, really well, in conversation and in having our fun. We'd known each other for years. We had a lot in common. We had a great acquaintance (and once we got to talking possibilities, I was always casually clear we were not just friends and I didn't want that). And truly everything I can think of from our meet, start to finish, suggested we'd talk more often and meet again soon.
Instead, ghosted and unfriended. Someone I'd known for years.
Like I said, I'm lost, confused, and a bit butthurt. I know better than to reach out to her. But that's as far as I can make sense of it, so that's why I'm reaching out here.
Rather than telling me what to do from here (forget her and focus on yourself), can anyone offer any insight or similar experiences? I just have a million questions I'll neve ask, so making sense of those would help most of all.
2024.05.29 05:31 QPRSA Looking for some guidance.
General supplements question.
Is there a Reddit community consensus as far as what supplements have the best bio value? I’m male, 46 have a job where I’m active and moving all day. Things are starting to hurt, my mind seems to be less sharp, joints feel like they’re grinding and my sleep sucks, rarely feeling rested. It’s all relatively new in the past couple of years. In short I feel like I’m rapidly aging and want to start taking some supplements to try and ease or delay the transition. I’ve started stretching and know I need to introduce cardio. Magnesium helps me stay asleep. I take Centrum multivitamins. I’d like to take this seriously. Reddit communities have been great so I’m hoping for some guidance before I start randomly searching for what to take and get overwhelmed. Sorry if there’s a lot of these kind of posts. Just joined. Thanks a lot.
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Is there a Reddit community consensus as far as what supplements have the best bio value? I’m male, 46 have a job where I’m active and moving all day. Things are starting to hurt, my mind seems to be less sharp, joints feel like they’re grinding and my sleep sucks, rarely feeling rested. It’s all relatively new in the past couple of years. In short I feel like I’m rapidly aging and want to start taking some supplements to try and ease or delay the transition. I’ve started stretching and know I need to introduce cardio. Magnesium helps me stay asleep. I take Centrum multivitamins. I’d like to take this seriously. Reddit communities have been great so I’m hoping for some guidance before I start randomly searching for what to take and get overwhelmed. Sorry if there’s a lot of these kind of posts. Just joined. Thanks a lot.
2024.05.29 05:29 Alextubro Character introductory and info
 | Oc info and lore (Royalty) submitted by Alextubro to GachaLife2 [link] [comments] Name: Princess Rasmussen Full name: Meredith Ellison Rasmussen Alias: The Regal Thorn Gender:Female Age:27 Homeland:(Obreado Dynasty, Cullin Palace in the capital city of Nordenend Height: 5 feet 3 inches (160 cm) Weight: 130-150 pounds (59-68 (Appearance) [Meredith's skin tone is naturally light brown, a result of her heritage and prolonged exposure to sunlight. Her hair is of medium length and platinum blonde, with a reflective quality. Due to her extended work hours and scheduling of royal duties, she often has bags under her eyes. Meredith is an athletic individual, with a toned physique and standing at a height of 160 cm. Her weight fluctuates between 130 to 150 kg (59 to 69 lbs). She has several birthmarks on her wrists, shoulders, and lower back, which she hides out of self-consciousness and insecurity.] (Attire) [Meredith, a member of the Royal House of Rasmussen, is often seen in gowns made of silk, satin, and velvet fabrics. Her fashion preferences are reflective of her character as a beckoning leader, with deep purple, royal blue, and emerald green in darker shades being her favorite colors. To complement her role, she wears jewelry such as tiaras, necklaces, and brooches adorned with precious gemstones, with topaz and amethyst being her favorites. For her hair, she prefers waves or updos held in place with jeweled combs or ornate hairpins. Makeup is not her forte, so she opts for natural products and a lavender-scented perfume.] Gemstone: Topaz Spirit animal: Eagle (Personality) [Positive] Intelligent: Possessing high intelligence, keen analytical skills, and academic dedication, she devotes most of her time to expanding her knowledge, demonstrating sharp critical thinking, and exhibiting a profound knack for problem-solving techniques. Loyal: She may not always show it, but she is committed to being loyal to those closest to her. Even though she may not always express it, she deeply values loyalty as a virtue in her culture. Compassion: Despite her reserved and composed demeanor, she prioritizes the well-being and security of her citizens and country with compassion. While she is cautious, she also shows a deep concern for public safety, particularly for young children, who hold a special place in her heart. Methodical: She approaches every challenge and task methodically, carefully analyzing each situation and considering potential outcomes, whether positive or negative. She also meticulously attends to details to avoid oversight. Determined: Once she determines to accomplish something, she persists until it is completed in an orderly manner, facing challenges with perseverance and endurance, even when the task becomes difficult to bear. [Neutral] Independent: She doesn't really accept help very much. She prefers to do things on her own because she feels more comfortable doing so. While she slightly shows appreciation for support and collaboration, she isn't afraid of asserting herself and doing things on her own. Detached: She has difficulty communicating her feelings and emotions due to her childhood experiences and upbringing, which makes her appear reserved and quiet most of the time. She keeps her distance from others and prefers to observe things from afar. Analytical: Due to her predominantly logical nature, she tends to handle situations in a rational rather than emotional manner. This approach serves her effectively but may come across as aloof and stoic to those who don't grasp her thinking process. Traditional: As a member of the royal House of Rasmussen, she embraces some of her cultural heritage, although she is not afraid to question certain traditions that have been passed down through generations in her nation's history. While she still upholds certain customs and cultural values, she does not adhere to all of them. Resilient: Throughout her life, she encountered numerous hardships and difficulties. However, instead of weakening her, these challenges only served to make her more persistent and stronger. As a result, she developed inner strength and fortitude, enabling her to gracefully and diligently endure tribulations. [Negative] Prideful: As a child of royalty, she grew up with a strong sense of self-esteem and took pride in her achievements, both in her role as a future queen and in her nation as a whole. However, this also led to feelings of arrogance and a reluctance to admit when she was wrong. Stubborn: Due to her strong willpower and unwavering sense of superiority, she can be quite resistant to persuasion or change. She is unlikely to alter her beliefs, values, or opinions. Emotionally Reserved: Since childhood, she has faced challenges in expressing her emotions and feelings due to her early training to prioritize her royal duties. As a result, she tends to be guarded and closed off, making it difficult for her to connect with others on a deeper level. Isolated:” With elegance and charm, her outward demeanor inadvertently created a barrier, leading to occasional feelings of loneliness and isolation due to her reluctance to trust others. Rigid: She is the kind of woman who does not change her way of thinking, resistant to altering her opinions and prefers being able to foresee things as they were, simpler for her to maintain stability, sometimes at the cost of creativity and impulsiveness. [Hobbies] (Organizing, reading, writing, painting, playing musical instruments…mostly her harp, exploring ancient ruins, stargazing.) [Favorites] Favorite Color: Deep Purple Favorite Flower: Lavender Favorite Food: Dark Chocolate Favorite Season: Autumn Favorite Place: A secluded forest clearing with a view of the mountains Favorite Activity: Stargazing Favorite Music: Classical Music, usually her harp Favorite Animal: Wolves Favorite Beverage: Earl grey Tea Favorite Pastime: Exploring ancient ruins and historical sites [Likes] Her harp, open and quiet spaces, being alone, writing and reading poetry, lavender scented candles, grape wine, tomes and book (mostly historical types), quietude, exploring historical sites, her pet owl Aurelia. [Dislikes]: arties or social events, being pressed to traditional values, her role as ruler, being unable to find relaxation, people who are loud and obnoxious, being in a position of burdensome conditions, those of high class status, especially her own parents. [Beliefs] [Duty Justice Independence Loyalty Integrity Fairness] [Skills and abilities] 1.Strategic Thinking: Ability to plan and execute complex strategies with foresight. 2. Diplomacy: Skilled in negotiation and fostering alliances with other kingdoms. 3. Leadership: Inspires loyalty and respect among subjects through strong leadership. 4. Communication: Eloquent in speech and writing, effectively conveying ideas. 5. Emotional Intelligence: Understands and empathizes with others' feelings and motivations. 6. Adaptability: Adjusts strategies to meet changing circumstances and challenges. 7. Cultural Appreciation: Values the arts and traditions, promoting cultural exchange. 8. Problem-Solving: Quickly finds solutions to complex issues, demonstrating resourcefulness. 9. Charisma: Commands attention and respect, influencing others positively. [Fun facts] 1. Secret Talent for Archery: Meredith has honed her archery skills in secret, finding solace and focus in the precise nature of the sport.
“Meredith Rasmussen grew up in the royal palace of the Obreado Dynasty, surrounded by wealth and privilege, but also by the weighty expectations of her royal lineage. Her mother, Queen Viviana Rasmussen, was strict and controlling, while her father, King Kristopher Collins, was stern and dismissive of her emotions. From an early age, Meredith was groomed for leadership, attending private tutors' sessions focused on politics, diplomacy, and court etiquette. Despite her intelligence and aptitude for learning, her childhood was devoid of warmth and emotional support.” “Meredith’s distrust of people began when she noticed the constant political maneuvering and backstabbing within the palace. The intrigue and gossip among high-class courtiers taught her that loyalty was often a facade, and betrayal was always a possibility. As she grew older, her exposure to the vanity and pretentiousness of the high class led to her disdain for their values and their willingness to exploit others for personal gain.” “Her relationship with her parents further fueled her skepticism and resentment. They expected her to adhere to strict traditional norms, dismissing her personal desires and individuality. This lack of genuine connection and understanding from her parents, coupled with the shallow and opportunistic behavior of the high class, led her to become emotionally guarded and mistrustful. As queen, she carries these scars from her past, struggling to balance her sense of duty with her desire for authentic relationships.” [Family] Mother: Queen Viviana Rasmussen * Skin: Fair complexion * Hair: Long, dark brown hair with streaks of silver * Eyes: Piercing blue * Height: Tall and statuesque * Build: Graceful and slender, with delicate features * Personality: Regal and dignified, strict and dominant, emotionally detached, and controlling. Father: King Kristopher Collins * Skin: Olive complexion * Hair: Short, dark hair with hints of gray * Eyes: Sharp, steely gray * Height: Tall and imposing * Build: Broad-shouldered and muscular, with a commanding presence * Personality Dismissive, demanding, traditionalist, stern, professional, quick-tempered and arrogant. Siblings: None (she is an only child) Relationship: Heavily strained and distant [Nation] Name: The Kingdom of Obreado Government: Constitutional Monarchy Capital: Lyraeth Ruling Family: The Obreado Royal Family Current Monarch: King Kristopher Collins Heir Apparent: Princess Meredith Rasmussen Official Language: Obrean Currency: Federal Coins Location: Centrally located within a vast and fertile valley, bordered by mountains to the north and a large river to the south. Geography: Obreado is characterized by diverse landscapes, ranging from lush forests and fertile plains to rugged mountains and pristine coastlines. The capital city, Elenoria, is a bustling metropolis that serves as the political and cultural heart of the kingdom. The kingdom's natural beauty includes notable landmarks such as the Crystal Lake and the ancient Elvenwood Forest. Climate: Temperate, with four distinct seasons, including mild winters and warm summers. Economy: The economy of Obreado is diverse and prosperous, with a strong emphasis on agriculture, trade, and artisan crafts. The fertile valley provides abundant crops, while the river facilitates trade routes with neighboring kingdoms. The kingdom is also known for its exquisite textiles and skilled metalwork. Culture: Obreado has a rich cultural heritage that values tradition, art, and intellectual pursuits. Festivals and ceremonies play a significant role in the social fabric, often featuring music, dance, and elaborate costumes. Education is highly valued, with numerous academies and libraries dedicated to learning and the arts. Military: The kingdom maintains a formidable military, known for its discipline and effectiveness. The Royal Guard, an elite unit tasked with protecting the royal family and key locations, exemplifies the kingdom's commitment to security and order. The military also plays a crucial role in defending the kingdom's borders and maintaining peace within the realm. Federal Coins, an elite unit sworn to protect the royal family, is renowned for their loyalty and skill. Society: Obrean society is structured but allows for social mobility through merit. The high class, including nobles and courtiers, often engage in political maneuvering, while the common folk are known for their hard work and community spirit. Despite the hierarchical structure, there is a strong emphasis on justice and fairness. History: Obreado has a long and storied history, marked by periods of both prosperity and conflict. The Obreado Dynasty has ruled for centuries, maintaining stability and fostering growth. The kingdom has faced invasions, internal strife, and political intrigue, but has always emerged resilient, largely due to the strong leadership of its monarchs. Symbol: The royal crest of Obreado features a majestic eagle soaring above a crown, symbolizing vision, power, and nobility. The kingdom’s colors are deep purple and gold, representing royalty and wealth. Notable Locations: * The Grand Palace of Lyraeth: The royal residence and the center of political power. * The Crystal Gardens: Famous for their rare and beautiful flora, often used for royal events. * The Obrean Library: One of the largest libraries in the region, housing ancient texts and scholarly works. * The Silver Market: A bustling hub of trade where artisans and merchants from across the kingdom and beyond display their wares. |
2024.05.29 05:25 ZanaZamora KLR story time! This is lengthy war story so TLDR months ago I posted having found something in oil screen, soon after engine blew , I replaced the motor and have just now opened the old one and have confirmed that it was a piston circlip from previous owners big bore kit
 | As title says, This isnt a cautionary tale so much as a war story for the sake of it and to add to the wealth of knowledge on these bikes a story of… a curious thing that happened. XD That’s to say this isn’t a thing many will ever encounter, nor something one should ever worry about, but something that might make you say “hmm… neat” 😂 submitted by ZanaZamora to klr650 [link] [comments] That being said this is a story of how I killed the unkillable, or I guess at least gave a KLR a heart transplant after complete cardiac arrest. The interesting journey of what happened, but I do not truly know how. So maybe some more seasoned KLR surgeons can offer additional insight into the how. I had considered breaking this up into the story and just the mechanical aspects for those not interested in the story, but the motivation here is the story and so that’s the read, enjoy 😀 About 8 months ago I bought a ‘09 KLR as my first bike. I’m an over the road truck driver and have always dreamed of putting a motorcycle on my rig, and decided at a fork in my life that it was time. It had 28k miles on it, amazing shape, very few mods, all ones that I considered valuable as I would have done them myself. Crash bars, metal skid plate, panniers with very nice Givi cases, Sargent seat, etc. The curious bit was a big bore up to 683. I did not ask what mileage it had been bored at or if it was done for maintenance reasons or just performance. In retrospect I would have asked these questions but that’s out of curiosity not because I believe to any degree the seller was misleading me. I do not believe they had any idea the events that followed would conspire and I accept them as just bad luck. What did follow is in the first 3 weeks I put nearly 900 miles on it and had only encountered a single issue which was the clutch slipping too easily under heavy acceleration. As one does with a KLR I had already ordered and done a slew of other personalization so I added new clutch plates and heavier springs to the list. Job went smoothly, the old clutch plates were worn but not to any degree that alone would warrant the slipping so the weak springs were the culprit as my research had strongly suggested. But new “performance” clutch plates sounded fun so I installed them as well 😀 This is where things get interesting. As some may know, on the right side of the engine there is an oil screen, a fine metal mesh that acts as a filter to catch larger particles. Definitely something to clean if you’re ever in there, as it’ll tend to have any gasket material and other manufacturing run off in it that over time could choke oil flow. In mine I found the expected gasket gunk, suggesting it had not been cleaned since birth but frighteningly I also found 2 mysterious metal pieces that appeared to be the greater part of a metal ring. Reference the 1st photo. They had been chewed up slightly suggesting they made their way through the engine less than smoothly but not catastrophically obviously as the motor ran fine with no signs of any problems. I spent the better part of the day digging through any and every resource I could find for an answer on what this ring could be and the further I dug the more and more confident I grew in my initial suspicions that it was a piston circlip… but this just didn’t make sense, how did it get there? How was it not more destroyed? How was the engine still running with zero indication of damage? The sun was setting and I had to be on the road in the morning so after weighing all the possibilities I decided to button it back up, hope for the best, and tell myself if it was fine before it’s fine now. As the alternative was tearing apart the engine which meant going back out on the road with no bike, and no idea where to even start weeks later when I returned. Of the many theories the one I convinced myself of was that this was indeed a piston circlip but not one from the current piston but from the original one. That the mechanic that had done the big bore had either snapped it when removing the original piston and it fell down in the engine to never be fished out, or maybe it had been the reason for the bore. 2 days later I get it out for the first time since the quick 5 mile test ride after putting it back together and my theory is proven wrong, violently. About 80 miles later I was enjoying the bite of the new clutch, accelerating hard through 50mph and bam instantly the rear wheel locks up. At this point I had just under 1000 miles under my belt on two wheels, no MSF completely self taught…. Holy shiet that was a bad thing nearly gone horrible. I don’t know how I had the muscle memory at that point to instinctively grab the clutch but I did fractions of a second before I went down, hard. As I coasted to a stop on what little shoulder there was my thoughts were “holyshitholyshitholyshitholyshit….Ohhhhhhhhh it was a piston circlip” before I even stopped 😂😂😂 Sure enough I look back to a trail of oil behind me, dismount and out of the front of the block I see a very displeased connnecting rod peeking out. Well, there’s your problem. I took a gamble and initially I was feeling like I had lost, but after not getting taken out with the engine, I was pretty okay with the situation. I rolled the bike into a church parking lot a couple blocks down the road and helplessly called for ride after ride on Uber to no avail. I was states away from anyone I knew and too far from any civilization to find luck with any ride share or cab service. As it started to get dark the 6 mile hike back to my truck in Mx Boots was not a great outlook but I was out of options. Just as I had buttoned up what I could on the bike getting ready to start walking I noticed an older couple sit down on their porch enjoying what was, to anyone else, admittedly a very pleasant evening. I’m shy as hell and absolutely terrified of being imposing, especially when it’s a true need… but these boots were brand new, zero flex, damn near knee high… just from standing there I was on the fence of what would be worse, boots or socks. So I mustered up the will power to make my way to their front yard and explain that my motorcycle had broken down and that I had no way to get back to my truck to come back and get it, if they’d be willing to give me a ride I’d happily pay for the trouble. They happily obliged and were the nicest folks you could have met, asked me about my travels and wished me luck in getting it back together, wouldn’t even accept my money. They drop me off, I get my rig back over there and load up the bike. They waved me off from their porch and that was that. I know that bit doesn’t pertain to the mechanical endeavor but I wanted to share it as well as an appreciation of just how much generosity can change the outlook in things. I had bought this bike at a critical moment in my life, during a separation, unsure what direction I was going, and it by all means was my coping mechanism. Sitting there stranded, the adrenaline started to wear off and the dread and hopelessness started to develop… the 6 mile walk back, nothing by my thoughts torturing myself for the dumb decisions I made would have left me feeling defeated and lost. But instead I got to share a tiny bit of my story, that it was still chaos but I was… proud of myself for chasing after my dreams not letting it consume me. And it was because of that moment of pride that I had the fuel to tuck tail and accept my circumstance, that I had indeed known this was a possibility and that it was not the end of my journey, just a different path. I believe without that I would have easily accepted the loss and dropped the bike off at home to gather dust and that would have been the end of my motorcycling experience. But I was determined. So I spent every minute of free time I had researching what I needed to rebuild it, what it’d cost, how hard it’d be, and if it was even something I could do over the road. As I added things up it was indeed doable but it’d leave the bike out of commission at best for well over a month… and I had a fire under me to get back on it… so I started digging through marketplace, eBay, Craigslist, etc searching for doner bikes or full engines. Scrounging up every penny I had, I booked a load and made my way all the way to Kansas City where I had found a salvager with a 2009 with just 1300 miles on it that was willing to take $1300 for the whole engine if I’d help him pull it. My determination was unwavering. I showed up at his house as early as I could after my delivery, about noon. My semi truck left on the street where it clearly did not belong 😂 It was a two lane and the right lane was conveniently closed, so I moved some cones and it worked out perfectly but was still a funny sight. He gathered bikes from auctions and had them scattered around his yard, and so while he gathered some stuff he pointed me to two other KLRs to see if there was anything I wanted from them. Ended up pulling a full yoshimura exhaust from one that he tossed in for cheap. Before I had gotten there he had already stripped the most of the bike with the doner engine down so it took us a little under an hour to pull it. Yet another really positive experience that I’ll never forget, really nice older guy who genuinely enjoyed wrenching on the bike with me, not just trying to get it done and get paid. Offered me any small bits like the rubber tank picks that would easily get lost for no charge. And even gave me an old Milwaukee battery charger he had laying around as I had lost my charger at some point and my last battery died while we were working on it. We had it out by 2pm and I heaved the enormous hunk of steel into my chest high passenger floor board of my semi truck to be on my way. And by on my way I mean 7 miles away to a Walmart parking lot where I then unloaded my bike and started the transplant. I gathered my tools while waiting for a Milwaukee battery to charge, caught my breath, and started the operation around 3pm. I was definitely a bit of a spectacle. Not everyday you see someone doing an engine swap in a Walmart parking lot. The semi truck parked alongside definitely added a layer that invoked enough curiosity for people to inquire about what they were looking at as they passed by. I enjoyed the conversation and that sense of pride grew ever stronger as I worked through it. Early on in the process another rider had briefly stopped by and asked if I needed help, I declined understanding he was inquiring if it was an emergency not if I needed a wrenching buddy haha. Over the course of the next 4 hours he passed by another 2 times, giving a nod of approval at my progress. I was fired up. So excited to get it all done, feeling like I’d be too tired to do anything else but driven just to know it was ready to ride whenever I was. All and all it took about 5 hours to get done, a few stuck bolts there, a few how the hell does this come out there, and a good bit of how does one finagle this thing back in here by themselves(ps lay it on its side right side and just set the engine down into the frame, stand up and then align it) and it was done. I had done some mechanical work on cars and what not in the past but honestly changing the clutch on the previous motor was the most invasive thing I had done prior to this. But my confidence was in the clouds, and rightfully so, because while it took some convincing with the starter this stagnant motor awoke with not a cough or a sputter, but with an immediate healthy growl! My excitement was immeasurable and my little KLR, now much more aggressively singing through the Yoshimura exhaust, seemed just as excited as me. The sun had set, I was exhausted and against my recommendation they had already booked me a load picking up early the next morning. But I couldn’t not sing through the streets with joy, so a quick ride I told myself…. I was gone for hours, returning well past midnight. Ripping around Kansas City, sobbing with joy, with what felt like the loudest exhaust I’d ever heard 😂😂😂 A true menace, she was alive and god damnit I was too. Exhaustion catching up with me I loaded my precious back on to the truck and realized I still had an entire engine to deal with. So I opened one of my side bins, at chest height just as the floor board was earlier in the day loading the new engine. If I didn’t look like a maniac riding around I certainly did trying to get that motor up and into the truck 😂 I was too happy to be upset or anything but it was just about all I could muster to get it up to that height after the day I had had. 2am and I’m screaming, crying, and laughing simultaneously as I blew out every single part of my body trying to get this absolute brick of an engine into the side bin. While I know at that point I was significantly more worn out I still find it very funny that my sheer will power made that new engine effortless to lift into the truck, but the old one was an inch shy of being impossible 😂 Over 7000 miles later and that new motor is still singing happily ❤️ So… the old motor… it rode around in my side bin for 7 months till last week I was at home and finally had the free time to unload it and crack it open. Motivated by the interest of pulling the new clutch plates and springs I had put in it that’d only have about 80 miles on them, and the curiosity of figuring out if the seemingly obvious cause for its demise was indeed due to the piston circlip… breaking? This is where any KLR surgeons may be able to chime in, if they made it this far xD Because I pulled the motor down to just about as many pieces as one could so I could take the bits that may be useful to have on the road with me and have the less likely to fail ones ready to go if I needed them at home, and all of the evidence seems to suggest that one of the circlips did indeed get ingested. The piston is definitely missing one of the circlips, and… the entire part that would house it lol. The broken pieces found in the oil screen visually match the remaining circlip, and I never found any parts of the circlip if those pieces in the oil screen were not it. So… I have full confidence the circlip did indeed end up in the oil screen. The fact that I found it was complete coincidence and had I not changed the clutch out it likely would have failed just as it did, meaning that circlip could have been there for… lord knows how long… which raises the questions, how did that happen? How long could it have feasibly been there? And was this just a ticking time bomb bound to happen without warning at any time or did maybe the stress of a more aggressive clutch bite upset it? And also just… how does this happen in the first place? Improper install or weak components? I know the kit they used is from Schnitz Racing and I was told 683 but I’ve never seen a 683 kit, only 685 so I would assume maybe that, regardless not cheap parts so, just a curiosity. Final notes, the new engine with 27k less miles absolutely feels more powerful than the bored out one did, that’s seat of the pants and inexperienced rider mixed with intense emotions but I still to this day think it’s more peppy. Have not installed the new clutch on the new motor yet but I’m curious as hell as I don’t think I had enough experience to really appreciate the difference for the 80 miles I got to use it lol. Oh and as a trinket to remember this entire experience and to show my KLR is on its second heart I polished up the blown piston and hung it on the tail ❤️ Thank you for coming to my TED talk, stay safe out there! |
2024.05.29 05:25 Forsaken_Finding4145 Biphobia?? (Contamination and men)
So, I'll start off by saying that I feel like a really shitty person because I know what I said was an objectively shitty thing. I also identity as lesbian.
In a random conversation with a friend, I got too in my head and started thinking about all the things people contaminate, specifically men, and started to feel my skin actually crawl thinking about how many people have touched dirty things (including touching men) and I said I get disgusted when I think about the times a man has touched me or thinking about how many people have touched a man and then I touch them. It's very irrational, I know. I don't hate men. I was just thinking, in that moment, about a specific man who traumatized me and just so happened to smell really bad and had bad hygiene, etc. The question I have is: does anyone else deal with generalizing with OCD? I logically know all men aren't dirty, of course, just like all women aren't clean, but I can't help but associate this man with men in general sometimes. Every time I think about him, it's like I can see the germs on my skin and will try and "clean" myself every.single.time. (This isn't my only contamination OCD trigger, btw. I pretty much have the same reaction when it comes to public transportation, bodily fluids, etc.)
Anyway, the conversation turned into me saying drinking from the same cup as someone who went down on a man is nasty. And I straight up asked if it was biphobic not to want to date someone who has went down on a man in the last month (because apparently my brain thinks after one month, everything is all good 🤡), and she said yes, it's biphobic, because I wouldn't care if the person went down on a woman a month earlier.
Long story short, my friend got upset because she felt that I was invalidating her identity as a person on the bisexual spectrum, saying she felt hurt because she thinks that's why every lesbian she's liked hasn't liked her back (because she's been with mostly men) and that I made her feel like her sexuality is inherently wrong. It seemed like I said any bisexual woman who's been with a man is, by default, contaminated. I apologized as best as I could and she said she was understanding. Everything has been fine since.
Nothing is a reflection of any queer woman who dates men. I know exactly why I feel the way I do and that isn't anyone else's burden or something for me to project. I want to think I'm not biphobic. I TRULY couldn't care less if someone has been with a man in the past. I have been with men in the past. Almost everyone I've been with has been with men in the past. The issue is when I think too much. I'm hoping there's someone that can relate. This disorder feels so isolating sometimes and it definitely doesn't help the ruminating thoughts that I'm actually a bad person.
I've been punishing myself for this for weeks because I feel like the worst person to have walked this earth, and I can't help but feel disgusted with myself for thinking this way.
Any advice is appreciated. Thanks.
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In a random conversation with a friend, I got too in my head and started thinking about all the things people contaminate, specifically men, and started to feel my skin actually crawl thinking about how many people have touched dirty things (including touching men) and I said I get disgusted when I think about the times a man has touched me or thinking about how many people have touched a man and then I touch them. It's very irrational, I know. I don't hate men. I was just thinking, in that moment, about a specific man who traumatized me and just so happened to smell really bad and had bad hygiene, etc. The question I have is: does anyone else deal with generalizing with OCD? I logically know all men aren't dirty, of course, just like all women aren't clean, but I can't help but associate this man with men in general sometimes. Every time I think about him, it's like I can see the germs on my skin and will try and "clean" myself every.single.time. (This isn't my only contamination OCD trigger, btw. I pretty much have the same reaction when it comes to public transportation, bodily fluids, etc.)
Anyway, the conversation turned into me saying drinking from the same cup as someone who went down on a man is nasty. And I straight up asked if it was biphobic not to want to date someone who has went down on a man in the last month (because apparently my brain thinks after one month, everything is all good 🤡), and she said yes, it's biphobic, because I wouldn't care if the person went down on a woman a month earlier.
Long story short, my friend got upset because she felt that I was invalidating her identity as a person on the bisexual spectrum, saying she felt hurt because she thinks that's why every lesbian she's liked hasn't liked her back (because she's been with mostly men) and that I made her feel like her sexuality is inherently wrong. It seemed like I said any bisexual woman who's been with a man is, by default, contaminated. I apologized as best as I could and she said she was understanding. Everything has been fine since.
Nothing is a reflection of any queer woman who dates men. I know exactly why I feel the way I do and that isn't anyone else's burden or something for me to project. I want to think I'm not biphobic. I TRULY couldn't care less if someone has been with a man in the past. I have been with men in the past. Almost everyone I've been with has been with men in the past. The issue is when I think too much. I'm hoping there's someone that can relate. This disorder feels so isolating sometimes and it definitely doesn't help the ruminating thoughts that I'm actually a bad person.
I've been punishing myself for this for weeks because I feel like the worst person to have walked this earth, and I can't help but feel disgusted with myself for thinking this way.
Any advice is appreciated. Thanks.
2024.05.29 05:25 BradyTheReclusive Matched betting arbitrage business — marketing dilemma
Hi friends
My partner and I started an LLC consulting in Matched Betting Arbitrage a couple months ago — essentially: taking outside funding from a funding agent then working with clients who have never done any online sports betting before, therefore having access to free bets through multiple apps as a new user. We then hedge these bets that are placed through multiple apps, and in a span of a few days everyone makes money — our client with the free bets made profit and only sacrificed their time, our funding agent did no work and just threw money in, then got his money back, and we do all the work and make our cut equally.
We cover potential tax problems clients may have, as companies will send you a 1099 if you’ve claimed a certain amount of money through the app; we send a Profit and Loss statement at the end of business to prove to the IRA that they didn’t take any more than their contracted share while working with us. Those clients are then in the position of being a Referral Agent in the future potentially, as they can refer people in their life to work with us and we pay them out a percentage for doing so.
My question is this: as our business has fully operated through word of mouth up to this point, and I’d like to market our services on the internet somehow, but I don’t want to draw in the wrong types of people. We have large sums of money in the hands of people we work with at times, and should they run off with the money in their temporary possession, they are liable to be litigated by the bounds of our contract. However, I’d like to mitigate this as it’s a true pain in the ass 😄
TLDR; I’m brainstorming a marketing idea for people who have never used sports betting apps before and would like to make quick, risk-free money, but am trying to avoid low-character people in doing so.
Thanks for reading
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My partner and I started an LLC consulting in Matched Betting Arbitrage a couple months ago — essentially: taking outside funding from a funding agent then working with clients who have never done any online sports betting before, therefore having access to free bets through multiple apps as a new user. We then hedge these bets that are placed through multiple apps, and in a span of a few days everyone makes money — our client with the free bets made profit and only sacrificed their time, our funding agent did no work and just threw money in, then got his money back, and we do all the work and make our cut equally.
We cover potential tax problems clients may have, as companies will send you a 1099 if you’ve claimed a certain amount of money through the app; we send a Profit and Loss statement at the end of business to prove to the IRA that they didn’t take any more than their contracted share while working with us. Those clients are then in the position of being a Referral Agent in the future potentially, as they can refer people in their life to work with us and we pay them out a percentage for doing so.
My question is this: as our business has fully operated through word of mouth up to this point, and I’d like to market our services on the internet somehow, but I don’t want to draw in the wrong types of people. We have large sums of money in the hands of people we work with at times, and should they run off with the money in their temporary possession, they are liable to be litigated by the bounds of our contract. However, I’d like to mitigate this as it’s a true pain in the ass 😄
TLDR; I’m brainstorming a marketing idea for people who have never used sports betting apps before and would like to make quick, risk-free money, but am trying to avoid low-character people in doing so.
Thanks for reading
2024.05.29 05:25 No-Tip-7471 Couple questions about LV
I recently reached LV, and I have a couple of questions and goals I want to reach, cause I think it'll be a lot easier of these questions are answered. First of all:
How do I organize myself? Currently I just store stuff randomly and put machines out in the open, but after watching youtubers like Threefold have everything organized and be able to everything efficiently I think I should start working on that but idk how.
Should I find Mica by randomly searching and digging holes, or by trying to find Cassiterite Ore and use the ore finder to find the Mica vein? I heard it's really hard to get.
How do I start getting into crops? For now I only plant a couple of basic crops like wheat, cotton potatoes and carrots but I want to get into the Pam's HarvestCraft crops to increase my hearts(currently at 15) and make the Healing Axe quest easier.
Is combat important at all? What materials should I use for my armor and stuff?
Anything else I should expect or know?
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How do I organize myself? Currently I just store stuff randomly and put machines out in the open, but after watching youtubers like Threefold have everything organized and be able to everything efficiently I think I should start working on that but idk how.
Should I find Mica by randomly searching and digging holes, or by trying to find Cassiterite Ore and use the ore finder to find the Mica vein? I heard it's really hard to get.
How do I start getting into crops? For now I only plant a couple of basic crops like wheat, cotton potatoes and carrots but I want to get into the Pam's HarvestCraft crops to increase my hearts(currently at 15) and make the Healing Axe quest easier.
Is combat important at all? What materials should I use for my armor and stuff?
Anything else I should expect or know?
2024.05.29 05:25 AmatoxinFantasies This is gonna sound dumb but how do you tag a game?
This is gonna sound like the dumbest question ever and I'm working on making my first actually published game so I want to tag it properly so like how do you tag a game? Like RPGs? It's a Role Playing Game but don't you play a role in every game? Or genres like horror but monsters don't appear until like a third of the way through? What makes something a visual novel VS. an interactive fiction game?
JRPGs are technically only made in Japan but I'd consider CrossCode a JRPG based on the style.
When does something stop being an adventure game?
Do I just base it off vibes? Am I just splitting hairs?
Like this is the basic premise of my game:
A small town is infested with parasitic monsters that take over people's bodies and completely controls them and one of the only signs is that they're really happy. You follow around a 17 year old girl trying to just survive in a town filled with controlled people. It's focused less on combat (though there are a couple battles) and monsters and more on the threat that anyone could have one of the parasites in them. Right now I'm planning on making it more like a 3d stylized comic book style in a black, white, and one other color style.
What tags do I put for that? Should I just wait until I have the prologue ready for people to play and then ask them what they think?
Right now on my itch page I have 'Monsters,' 'Narrative,' 'story rich', and 'horror,' but does it count as horror since I'm not completely in your face with the monsters? Would it count as psychological horror since besides like 3-4 monsters no others really appear it's just the threat of them? Is it action or just a story with action elements?
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JRPGs are technically only made in Japan but I'd consider CrossCode a JRPG based on the style.
When does something stop being an adventure game?
Do I just base it off vibes? Am I just splitting hairs?
Like this is the basic premise of my game:
A small town is infested with parasitic monsters that take over people's bodies and completely controls them and one of the only signs is that they're really happy. You follow around a 17 year old girl trying to just survive in a town filled with controlled people. It's focused less on combat (though there are a couple battles) and monsters and more on the threat that anyone could have one of the parasites in them. Right now I'm planning on making it more like a 3d stylized comic book style in a black, white, and one other color style.
What tags do I put for that? Should I just wait until I have the prologue ready for people to play and then ask them what they think?
Right now on my itch page I have 'Monsters,' 'Narrative,' 'story rich', and 'horror,' but does it count as horror since I'm not completely in your face with the monsters? Would it count as psychological horror since besides like 3-4 monsters no others really appear it's just the threat of them? Is it action or just a story with action elements?
2024.05.29 05:25 Mobile_Cheesecake535 Need your opinion for a fellow woman
This is my first time asking a question , don’t mind my bad English writing skills 😅 I am asking this for a friend who isn’t on Reddit , about her relationship.
She’s been with him for almost 5 years now , and she was the first one to approach him. After taking time of 4 whole months he said yes to her ( in a time where they were kissing /making out) . He isn’t a very romantic person but my friend is an absolute sweetheart who showers everyone around with love and kindness.
Things were okay until he said things demeaning her body about her strech marks , etc. He had also compared her with other friends of hers who were pretty/ hot / post thirst traps on insta. My friend, still being head over love with him chose to be with him , no matter what.
Then came a time in his life where he needed her help with his academic life , be it assignments , his thesis, everything and she was there. In fact , helped him score amazing on all his tests and help him complete his thesis. He used to never give her the love she requires and rather used to fights with her that she wasn’t able to complete everything on time. Mind you , she used to put her things and our college assignments and exams aside for his work.
Fast forward to now , she expects him to atleast be giving now , to understand her love language , to call back often , to message first , talk romantically or whatever and it still doesn’t work that way. And he hadn’t told his friends about her whereas she told all her friends about him. He likes to stay a mysterious man where he doesn’t where he is going / what he is doing from the start and my friend , not knowing how a two sided relationship should look like , still pours into him.
So rn she’s seen some couples in her friends where it is a two sided relationship and it’s awestruck and doubtful on him. However , please note that he has been loyal to her and she to him the past 5 years.
I want to hear your opinion on whether she’s right to love him this much without expecting anything in return ?
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She’s been with him for almost 5 years now , and she was the first one to approach him. After taking time of 4 whole months he said yes to her ( in a time where they were kissing /making out) . He isn’t a very romantic person but my friend is an absolute sweetheart who showers everyone around with love and kindness.
Things were okay until he said things demeaning her body about her strech marks , etc. He had also compared her with other friends of hers who were pretty/ hot / post thirst traps on insta. My friend, still being head over love with him chose to be with him , no matter what.
Then came a time in his life where he needed her help with his academic life , be it assignments , his thesis, everything and she was there. In fact , helped him score amazing on all his tests and help him complete his thesis. He used to never give her the love she requires and rather used to fights with her that she wasn’t able to complete everything on time. Mind you , she used to put her things and our college assignments and exams aside for his work.
Fast forward to now , she expects him to atleast be giving now , to understand her love language , to call back often , to message first , talk romantically or whatever and it still doesn’t work that way. And he hadn’t told his friends about her whereas she told all her friends about him. He likes to stay a mysterious man where he doesn’t where he is going / what he is doing from the start and my friend , not knowing how a two sided relationship should look like , still pours into him.
So rn she’s seen some couples in her friends where it is a two sided relationship and it’s awestruck and doubtful on him. However , please note that he has been loyal to her and she to him the past 5 years.
I want to hear your opinion on whether she’s right to love him this much without expecting anything in return ?
2024.05.29 05:22 Allthingsplants00 Time restricted feeding
Not sure if this is allowed but for whatever reason it’s not allowing me to post on the Huberman sub. Maybe someone here can answer my questions
I recently listened to the huberman episode featuring Dr. Casey Means talking about metabolic health and the benefits of time restricted feeding and it left me with a couple questions.
Or for breakfast I’ll do a protein smoothie and drink it on my way to work. It usually takes me 20-30 minutes to drink the whole thing. Is that still one eating event?
I’d appreciate any insight I can get! Thank you!
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I recently listened to the huberman episode featuring Dr. Casey Means talking about metabolic health and the benefits of time restricted feeding and it left me with a couple questions.
- She talks about “eating events” and said something along the lines of most people have like 11 separate eating events in a day.
Or for breakfast I’ll do a protein smoothie and drink it on my way to work. It usually takes me 20-30 minutes to drink the whole thing. Is that still one eating event?
- She talks about walking after meals to stimulate gastric emptying and lower blood glucose levels.
I’d appreciate any insight I can get! Thank you!
2024.05.29 05:21 istealsoupspoons Hot mess but I got bread 👍
 | Made this honey loaf tonight. First time making bread in a couple months seems to have come out ok. But I was ready for bed before even pulling the loaf out of the machine. I didn’t know what to do with it… I didn’t want to wait for it to cool down but it’s spring and we’re just clearing up some ants that made our home their home so I didn’t want to leave it out on the counter. So I put it in the oven 🤣 (plz don’t judge my dirty oven) and then I didn’t have any clean kitchen towels so I covered it with paper towels. Improvisation ftw and fresh bread with breakfast tomorrow 🍳 😋 submitted by istealsoupspoons to BreadMachines [link] [comments] |
2024.05.29 05:18 larrubcarran2815 AITA for refusing to continue a friendship/consider this person a friend, when they still think I do call them a friend? Tbh, this might just be a “Best Kind of Petty Revenge” story. Lmk!
Let me give some backstory because there were 3 main “events” that led me to eventually ghosting this person. (Please forgive me, this may end up a little lengthy. Also, this wasn’t written as well as the first draft but that one got deleted)
Event #1: In high school, there were 4 of us that were really close. We will call them each, Diana, Julia, and Jack. Julia worshiped Diana. Diana could do no wrong in Julia’s eyes. Diana and Jack were a couple. They dated the majority of high school. All the way up to the summer before our senior year. Obviously, it was hard on the couple, but it was also difficult for ALL of their friends because we were expected to pick a side. Julia took Diana’s side, no questions and no doubts. It felt like I was the only one that wanted to remain neutral because I considered both Diana and Jack really good friends. Not just the typical, Jack was a friend because he was Diana’s boyfriend. Anyways, trying to remain neutral I gave support to both of them, the best I could. Jack confided in me that the reason he broke off the relationship was he had become overwhelmed by the drama Diana created. This made sense to me because Diana CRAVED drama. She created drama All. The. Time. (Looking back, I have no idea how I was friends with either of them. These friendships were just those friendships that some how… became and existed) The break up launched a series of dramatic situations created by Diana that escalated. These situations ended with Diana sleeping with a random guy from our school, 2 maybe 3 weeks after breaking up, and she ended up pregnant. The school year started up and as more kids found out about her pregnancy, the more rumors started going around. The biggest one – Jack was the father. Pregnant teens were absolutely not common in my high school. And Jack was being blamed for the situation Diana was in. Feeling empathy for my friend, I continued to be Jacks friend because most of his other friends were isolating him and giving him the cold shoulder. (To make it completely clear – Jack and I only felt friendship for each other, nothing more.) Julia hated that I was continuing to be Jacks friend. Julia accused me of betraying Diana and yelling at me for even talking to him - Jack: the one that got Diana pregnant. Julia said that she knew I couldn’t be trusted and was a horrible friend. The kicker? Julia and I knew who got Diana pregnant. Diana told us. Julia fed the rumors about Jack being the father, even though she knew the truth! For the sake of keeping the peace and adhering to the “Girl Code” I had to let the friendship with Jack dwindle to an occasional friendly wave in the hallway. A rift between Diana & Julia and myself grew regardless. The way they treated me began to change – talking down to me and keeping me out of conversations. I can guarantee they had conversations behind my back (as teenage girls do.) I can also guarantee Julia was the mastermind because Diana was too busy with the drama/attention of her pregnancy to notice anything or anyone else. I was already dealing with things at home and on top of it, had to maneuver the drama with my so called best friends. Julia doing this hurt so much because friends don’t do that. On top of it, I had a similar situation happen in middle school with a previous group of friends.
Event #2: (my main reason I don’t consider them a friend) Through Jr and Sr High school I had a crush mostly on one guy. There were other little crushes, but he was always the main one. We will call him Mark. Mark and I were actually really good friends. He was in a different friend group than Diana, Jack, and Julia. He and his friend welcomed me into their group when the drama was happening our senior year. Mark actually knew I had a crush on him. He was as kind as possible when he turned me down. Mark said he was committed to his own crush (who turned him down, saying she didn’t want to date in high school) Mark believed she was “the one” and was trying to not date anyone else as a sign of loyalty to her. Realizing Mark wasn’t going to change his mind, I had a hard time pretending and convincing myself I shouldn’t and didn’t have a crush on him. Doing so actually opened a door for Mark and I to become even closer friends. I hung out with him and his two guy friends a lot. Especially after we graduated high school. In fact, the majority of that calendar year, I basically didn’t spend any time with Diana and Julia. At the end of that year, the holiday season, all of the sudden Mark wasn’t hanging out with us as much. Our two friends told me he had a girlfriend. I assumed it was the girl he had a crush on. Especially because our friends said things like “he is picking up his girlfriend from the high school.” (his crush was the year behind us) a few weeks went by and it was almost Christmas. One of my friends was throwing a Christmas party, a bunch of us were invited. While I was hanging out in the front room with others, Mark came in through the front door, his girlfriend behind him. I couldn’t help but look in disbelief. His girlfriend wasn’t his crush, but was none other than Julia. Julia was also in the year behind us and was still going to school. Julia noticed me looking and as Mark turned away from her, she grabbed him, turned him back toward her and kissed him. I was already trying to tell myself it wasn’t a big deal. But then Julia, mid-kiss, looked straight at me. The kiss wasn’t very long but still. Some of you may argue that she was “concerned” about my reaction. But it was her grin and wave afterwards that told me Julia was gloating. Gloating that she was now dating the guy I had a crush on for years. And despite trying to deny it, I still had a crush on him. I left that friend group as well because I knew Julia was going to be there more often, which would inevitably ruin that group for me as well. I didn’t want to deal with the drama and hurt so I cut my losses.
Event #3: (the reminder event) A couple years later, Diana and Julia were married with kids. They had moved out of town, Julia even moved out of state. I got a message from Julia, sent to both Diana and I, asking if we would like to meet for lunch the next week because she (Julia) was coming into town to see family. As best as I could tell, Diana and Julia went their separate ways after we all graduated high school. For the sake of the friendship we once had, I agreed to meet. The day came, we get our food and sit down. They immediately start talking about their husbands and kids. Which is totally understandable, we were there to catch up. Thing is, I was still single – no kids, no husband. So I couldn’t add much to the conversation to relate and there wasn’t much of an opportunity to even ask questions. I finished my lunch while listening to them talk. At this point, 30-45 minutes went by and no one asked me how my life was going beyond the initial “How are you?!” when we first met up and got in line to order our food. Feeling very much like a third wheel, I wanted a chance to talk with my old friends. Finding an opportunity to organically get involved, I did so. I don’t remember what the conversation was about but I do remember I added to the conversation by saying something as simple as “Have you seen that movie yet?” Julia looked me dead in the eyes, said something specifically in response to my question and added “You aren’t even married or have a kid yet, you wouldn’t understand.” Diana laughed a little and added, “Not yet” They then continued to talk about their kids till it was decided we had been there long enough (a total of nearly 2 hrs) Today, I am married and have a kid of my own. I could talk about my kid all day long. But I don’t, because I considered it a basic social skill to be able to talk about other things. Especially to keep others involved in conversation. After this last situation, I was reminded of the way she treated me. So, I committed to keeping both, specifically Julia at a distance. At first Julia would try to convince me to visit her where she lived. Even after getting married. It eventually dwindled down to maybe 1 or 2 messages from her a year. Through all this time I give very minimal responses if Julia Facebook messages me.
I never confronted either of them about everything because I knew it would cause more drama that wasn’t worth dealing with.
So AITA?
Some of you may be looking for the petty. Well, to keep it short, Mark and I started dating 5 years after graduating high school. We have been together for 9 ½ years, married 7 ½ years, and have a beautiful 3yr old girl.
If you guys want an update on his experience dating Julia (he says it was the worse relationship he had) and how Mark and I ended up together, lmk!
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Event #1: In high school, there were 4 of us that were really close. We will call them each, Diana, Julia, and Jack. Julia worshiped Diana. Diana could do no wrong in Julia’s eyes. Diana and Jack were a couple. They dated the majority of high school. All the way up to the summer before our senior year. Obviously, it was hard on the couple, but it was also difficult for ALL of their friends because we were expected to pick a side. Julia took Diana’s side, no questions and no doubts. It felt like I was the only one that wanted to remain neutral because I considered both Diana and Jack really good friends. Not just the typical, Jack was a friend because he was Diana’s boyfriend. Anyways, trying to remain neutral I gave support to both of them, the best I could. Jack confided in me that the reason he broke off the relationship was he had become overwhelmed by the drama Diana created. This made sense to me because Diana CRAVED drama. She created drama All. The. Time. (Looking back, I have no idea how I was friends with either of them. These friendships were just those friendships that some how… became and existed) The break up launched a series of dramatic situations created by Diana that escalated. These situations ended with Diana sleeping with a random guy from our school, 2 maybe 3 weeks after breaking up, and she ended up pregnant. The school year started up and as more kids found out about her pregnancy, the more rumors started going around. The biggest one – Jack was the father. Pregnant teens were absolutely not common in my high school. And Jack was being blamed for the situation Diana was in. Feeling empathy for my friend, I continued to be Jacks friend because most of his other friends were isolating him and giving him the cold shoulder. (To make it completely clear – Jack and I only felt friendship for each other, nothing more.) Julia hated that I was continuing to be Jacks friend. Julia accused me of betraying Diana and yelling at me for even talking to him - Jack: the one that got Diana pregnant. Julia said that she knew I couldn’t be trusted and was a horrible friend. The kicker? Julia and I knew who got Diana pregnant. Diana told us. Julia fed the rumors about Jack being the father, even though she knew the truth! For the sake of keeping the peace and adhering to the “Girl Code” I had to let the friendship with Jack dwindle to an occasional friendly wave in the hallway. A rift between Diana & Julia and myself grew regardless. The way they treated me began to change – talking down to me and keeping me out of conversations. I can guarantee they had conversations behind my back (as teenage girls do.) I can also guarantee Julia was the mastermind because Diana was too busy with the drama/attention of her pregnancy to notice anything or anyone else. I was already dealing with things at home and on top of it, had to maneuver the drama with my so called best friends. Julia doing this hurt so much because friends don’t do that. On top of it, I had a similar situation happen in middle school with a previous group of friends.
Event #2: (my main reason I don’t consider them a friend) Through Jr and Sr High school I had a crush mostly on one guy. There were other little crushes, but he was always the main one. We will call him Mark. Mark and I were actually really good friends. He was in a different friend group than Diana, Jack, and Julia. He and his friend welcomed me into their group when the drama was happening our senior year. Mark actually knew I had a crush on him. He was as kind as possible when he turned me down. Mark said he was committed to his own crush (who turned him down, saying she didn’t want to date in high school) Mark believed she was “the one” and was trying to not date anyone else as a sign of loyalty to her. Realizing Mark wasn’t going to change his mind, I had a hard time pretending and convincing myself I shouldn’t and didn’t have a crush on him. Doing so actually opened a door for Mark and I to become even closer friends. I hung out with him and his two guy friends a lot. Especially after we graduated high school. In fact, the majority of that calendar year, I basically didn’t spend any time with Diana and Julia. At the end of that year, the holiday season, all of the sudden Mark wasn’t hanging out with us as much. Our two friends told me he had a girlfriend. I assumed it was the girl he had a crush on. Especially because our friends said things like “he is picking up his girlfriend from the high school.” (his crush was the year behind us) a few weeks went by and it was almost Christmas. One of my friends was throwing a Christmas party, a bunch of us were invited. While I was hanging out in the front room with others, Mark came in through the front door, his girlfriend behind him. I couldn’t help but look in disbelief. His girlfriend wasn’t his crush, but was none other than Julia. Julia was also in the year behind us and was still going to school. Julia noticed me looking and as Mark turned away from her, she grabbed him, turned him back toward her and kissed him. I was already trying to tell myself it wasn’t a big deal. But then Julia, mid-kiss, looked straight at me. The kiss wasn’t very long but still. Some of you may argue that she was “concerned” about my reaction. But it was her grin and wave afterwards that told me Julia was gloating. Gloating that she was now dating the guy I had a crush on for years. And despite trying to deny it, I still had a crush on him. I left that friend group as well because I knew Julia was going to be there more often, which would inevitably ruin that group for me as well. I didn’t want to deal with the drama and hurt so I cut my losses.
Event #3: (the reminder event) A couple years later, Diana and Julia were married with kids. They had moved out of town, Julia even moved out of state. I got a message from Julia, sent to both Diana and I, asking if we would like to meet for lunch the next week because she (Julia) was coming into town to see family. As best as I could tell, Diana and Julia went their separate ways after we all graduated high school. For the sake of the friendship we once had, I agreed to meet. The day came, we get our food and sit down. They immediately start talking about their husbands and kids. Which is totally understandable, we were there to catch up. Thing is, I was still single – no kids, no husband. So I couldn’t add much to the conversation to relate and there wasn’t much of an opportunity to even ask questions. I finished my lunch while listening to them talk. At this point, 30-45 minutes went by and no one asked me how my life was going beyond the initial “How are you?!” when we first met up and got in line to order our food. Feeling very much like a third wheel, I wanted a chance to talk with my old friends. Finding an opportunity to organically get involved, I did so. I don’t remember what the conversation was about but I do remember I added to the conversation by saying something as simple as “Have you seen that movie yet?” Julia looked me dead in the eyes, said something specifically in response to my question and added “You aren’t even married or have a kid yet, you wouldn’t understand.” Diana laughed a little and added, “Not yet” They then continued to talk about their kids till it was decided we had been there long enough (a total of nearly 2 hrs) Today, I am married and have a kid of my own. I could talk about my kid all day long. But I don’t, because I considered it a basic social skill to be able to talk about other things. Especially to keep others involved in conversation. After this last situation, I was reminded of the way she treated me. So, I committed to keeping both, specifically Julia at a distance. At first Julia would try to convince me to visit her where she lived. Even after getting married. It eventually dwindled down to maybe 1 or 2 messages from her a year. Through all this time I give very minimal responses if Julia Facebook messages me.
I never confronted either of them about everything because I knew it would cause more drama that wasn’t worth dealing with.
So AITA?
Some of you may be looking for the petty. Well, to keep it short, Mark and I started dating 5 years after graduating high school. We have been together for 9 ½ years, married 7 ½ years, and have a beautiful 3yr old girl.
If you guys want an update on his experience dating Julia (he says it was the worse relationship he had) and how Mark and I ended up together, lmk!
2024.05.29 05:18 LoveScoutCEO AFA is not a scam. Suggesting it is shows complete misunderstanding of the reality of the dating and matchmaking industry, and wilful disregard for AFA's record. BUT DO NOT TRUST ME - CONSIDER THE EVIDENCE!
Last week, when I was on a very rare vacation from saving guys from lives of loneliness, someone posted a question asking if AFA is a scam.
I am just going to answer it here, because my answer is long and detailed.
Romance Is HARD!
First, the dating industry is simply impossible, because it is trying to help people, often deeply flawed people, find love. This is the most personal, most private, and most deeply emotional journey in someone's life and it is a challenging journey for everyone. Most first dates don't lead to second dates and most second dates don't lead to people becoming a couple, and most couples do not get married, and over 40% of American couples are not married ten years later.
But if at any point in this chain an AFA client ends up angry and disappointed - including decades later - he very well might rage that AFA is a scam.
And the Romance Industry Is HARDER Than Regular Romance!
AFA is not just an electronic introduction app like Tinder or other dating apps. They actually introduces thousands of men and women in person every single year.
They employee dozens of matchmakers and have scores of affiliated dating agencies in Ukraine, Thailand, Colombia, and roughly a dozen other countries. That is complicated. They have something like 30k women in the database. That is a huge logistical challenge.
In fact, if you really think about it is amazing how successful they have been.
But lets look closer at the overwhelming proof they are not a scam:
AFA Has Been In Business Almost Thirty Years.
If they were a scam they would have been sued out of existence long ago. They are based in Phoenix. They are not some mysterious site with an office in Malta. They can be sued or even prosecuted under US law.
AFA Is Almost The Only American International Matchmaker Left In Business
IMBRA has a whole slew of requirements, including inspections by the US State Department, and most other matchmakers either collapsed under the pressure or moved off-shore. AFA didn't. That alone speaks volumes for their integrity.
AFA Has Introduced Tens of Thousands of Happy Couples.
Take a look at the testimonials. They have hundreds of testimonials and on this sub they have numerous defenders who actually have used their service.
AFA Has Been Relentlessly Investigated By the Media Over and Over
Reporters love breaking big stories of crime, corruption and scandal. Most of the journalists who have looked at AFA over the last thirty years have thought they were going to break a big story because of the urban legends about international dating. But take a look at their media page. It is almost universally positive, and if its really a scam all of these people have to be in on it too.
AFA Has Been Studied By Academics In More Detail Than Any Dating Company
But my favorite source on AFA are the numerous academics who have studied them - often for years on end - over the years. These scholars were often certain they were going to uncover a worldwide criminal conspiracy. Instead, most of them become openly supportive.
You can read an entire article about academic research on international dating,but here is the conclusion of Dr. Julia Meszaros after studying the company for several years, attending numerous socials, and interviewing scores of participants. She wrote: “…AFA is a completely legal, legitimate marriage introduction agency....”
Are they all in on the scam? Well, I can assure you if they had discovered it was a worldwide criminal conspiracy they would have gotten tenure faster and sold more books.
Joking aside, the academics are in the best position to determine what AFA's operations and motives are, because they are intelligent, driven, and often spend years studying the company.
AFA Is NOT Perfect
AFA has problems. Their letter system is loaded with issues, but it also allows men to contact women they could never meet otherwise. I have discussed these issues in scores of posts.
And, unlike any of the large dating apps, AFA does vet its women. That is incredibly rare, because most dating apps are loaded with fake profiles and bots.
A few years ago Ashley Madison's female profiles were over 99% fake, and most studies find at least 10% of profiles on the big domestic apps are fake. The owner of one small app, Findmate, who spends a lot of time vetting profiles claims about 75-80% of profiles he receives from the main international dating countries are from sophisticated scammer gangs.
So, AFA does try to vet everyone, but it cannot see into a woman's heart. Yes, she could just lie to them throughout the process about her intentions, and guess what? Even the CIA and MI-5 have failed to catch every bad apple and they really vet their applicants. Some liars get through. That's life.
Evaluate The Evidence Yourself
I purposely leave up posts, because Reddit is FULL of power crazy mods who delete everyone who disagrees with them and bans many users regularly. I have been banned many times and I find it incredibly annoying, so I almost never ban anyone and rarely remove comments.
I am trying to encourage guys to do their own research and decide for themselves what is best. So, take a look at the evidence and decide for yourself what you believe is the best approach.
Best Wishes!
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I am just going to answer it here, because my answer is long and detailed.
Romance Is HARD!
First, the dating industry is simply impossible, because it is trying to help people, often deeply flawed people, find love. This is the most personal, most private, and most deeply emotional journey in someone's life and it is a challenging journey for everyone. Most first dates don't lead to second dates and most second dates don't lead to people becoming a couple, and most couples do not get married, and over 40% of American couples are not married ten years later.
But if at any point in this chain an AFA client ends up angry and disappointed - including decades later - he very well might rage that AFA is a scam.
And the Romance Industry Is HARDER Than Regular Romance!
AFA is not just an electronic introduction app like Tinder or other dating apps. They actually introduces thousands of men and women in person every single year.
They employee dozens of matchmakers and have scores of affiliated dating agencies in Ukraine, Thailand, Colombia, and roughly a dozen other countries. That is complicated. They have something like 30k women in the database. That is a huge logistical challenge.
In fact, if you really think about it is amazing how successful they have been.
But lets look closer at the overwhelming proof they are not a scam:
AFA Has Been In Business Almost Thirty Years.
If they were a scam they would have been sued out of existence long ago. They are based in Phoenix. They are not some mysterious site with an office in Malta. They can be sued or even prosecuted under US law.
AFA Is Almost The Only American International Matchmaker Left In Business
IMBRA has a whole slew of requirements, including inspections by the US State Department, and most other matchmakers either collapsed under the pressure or moved off-shore. AFA didn't. That alone speaks volumes for their integrity.
AFA Has Introduced Tens of Thousands of Happy Couples.
Take a look at the testimonials. They have hundreds of testimonials and on this sub they have numerous defenders who actually have used their service.
AFA Has Been Relentlessly Investigated By the Media Over and Over
Reporters love breaking big stories of crime, corruption and scandal. Most of the journalists who have looked at AFA over the last thirty years have thought they were going to break a big story because of the urban legends about international dating. But take a look at their media page. It is almost universally positive, and if its really a scam all of these people have to be in on it too.
AFA Has Been Studied By Academics In More Detail Than Any Dating Company
But my favorite source on AFA are the numerous academics who have studied them - often for years on end - over the years. These scholars were often certain they were going to uncover a worldwide criminal conspiracy. Instead, most of them become openly supportive.
You can read an entire article about academic research on international dating,but here is the conclusion of Dr. Julia Meszaros after studying the company for several years, attending numerous socials, and interviewing scores of participants. She wrote: “…AFA is a completely legal, legitimate marriage introduction agency....”
Are they all in on the scam? Well, I can assure you if they had discovered it was a worldwide criminal conspiracy they would have gotten tenure faster and sold more books.
Joking aside, the academics are in the best position to determine what AFA's operations and motives are, because they are intelligent, driven, and often spend years studying the company.
AFA Is NOT Perfect
AFA has problems. Their letter system is loaded with issues, but it also allows men to contact women they could never meet otherwise. I have discussed these issues in scores of posts.
And, unlike any of the large dating apps, AFA does vet its women. That is incredibly rare, because most dating apps are loaded with fake profiles and bots.
A few years ago Ashley Madison's female profiles were over 99% fake, and most studies find at least 10% of profiles on the big domestic apps are fake. The owner of one small app, Findmate, who spends a lot of time vetting profiles claims about 75-80% of profiles he receives from the main international dating countries are from sophisticated scammer gangs.
So, AFA does try to vet everyone, but it cannot see into a woman's heart. Yes, she could just lie to them throughout the process about her intentions, and guess what? Even the CIA and MI-5 have failed to catch every bad apple and they really vet their applicants. Some liars get through. That's life.
Evaluate The Evidence Yourself
I purposely leave up posts, because Reddit is FULL of power crazy mods who delete everyone who disagrees with them and bans many users regularly. I have been banned many times and I find it incredibly annoying, so I almost never ban anyone and rarely remove comments.
I am trying to encourage guys to do their own research and decide for themselves what is best. So, take a look at the evidence and decide for yourself what you believe is the best approach.
Best Wishes!
2024.05.29 05:17 OnRedditAtWorkRN Experienced web dev team is going down a road that I don't think I agree with but I'm seemingly the only one
I work with a team of 7 frontend engineers, 1 of them being our FE architect.
TLDR: the team wants to go frameworkless and just use the web platform and I have concerns that it'll actually mean we'll end up rolling our own framework. We already ship super slowly IMO because of the tech choices and this will make the problem worse.
The longer version is, I think the team made some tech choices based on incomplete information and chose to use a new framework vs some more battle tested ones. They leaned into some patterns to optimize for performance at the trade off of complexity and debugging.
A year later those trade offs don't appear to be worth it. We have a small user base and they all have high speed connections in offices using laptops or desktops. They've explicitly said they don't have any interest in a mobile application.
Now the team wants to drop this complexity since we're not getting the ROI from it. But they want to go frameworkless. This is where I get uncomfortable. As it is today, we ship features slow. I've worked at much larger company's with questionable infrastructures and we shipped comparable features in a 3rd of the time conservatively. A lot of our lack of velocity comes from using tech that isn't as battle tested as well known frameworks like React for example.
I've seen our devs push back on stuff like creating a drop-down box with a filterable list of items... Some form of this component has existed in every shop I've worked at, this is a solved problem. It can be challenging if we roll our own especially with respect to getting accessibility right... We're constantly compromising in areas that should be relatively trivial. I can't even imagine what the designers and product manager think sometimes.
Now they want to drop the framework, roll with web platform for everything. We have a few teams now that own vertical slices of the app these days. As we scale we're looking for deployment isolation. In this new world the leading suggestion is, we can roll our own module federation. And I mean roll our own. The only talk about solving for reactivity and binding app state to the Dom is we'll use lit which I don't think fully addresses the concern.
On the team, I'm seemingly the only one who doesn't think this is a great idea. But the way I see it, we're going to end up building custom solutions for all kinds of crap (that are already solved problems) and we won't call it a framework... Cuz that's a dirty word now. Then we'll end up having to maintain this collection of custom tooling instead of shipping business value
I feel like at some point the business is going call shenanigans on us and get an overseas team at half the cost to ship faster and the quality won't even suffer much because they won't be riding the newest tech trends where we're constantly hitting pitfalls.
Any of you been through something like this and if so how did it turn out?
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TLDR: the team wants to go frameworkless and just use the web platform and I have concerns that it'll actually mean we'll end up rolling our own framework. We already ship super slowly IMO because of the tech choices and this will make the problem worse.
The longer version is, I think the team made some tech choices based on incomplete information and chose to use a new framework vs some more battle tested ones. They leaned into some patterns to optimize for performance at the trade off of complexity and debugging.
A year later those trade offs don't appear to be worth it. We have a small user base and they all have high speed connections in offices using laptops or desktops. They've explicitly said they don't have any interest in a mobile application.
Now the team wants to drop this complexity since we're not getting the ROI from it. But they want to go frameworkless. This is where I get uncomfortable. As it is today, we ship features slow. I've worked at much larger company's with questionable infrastructures and we shipped comparable features in a 3rd of the time conservatively. A lot of our lack of velocity comes from using tech that isn't as battle tested as well known frameworks like React for example.
I've seen our devs push back on stuff like creating a drop-down box with a filterable list of items... Some form of this component has existed in every shop I've worked at, this is a solved problem. It can be challenging if we roll our own especially with respect to getting accessibility right... We're constantly compromising in areas that should be relatively trivial. I can't even imagine what the designers and product manager think sometimes.
Now they want to drop the framework, roll with web platform for everything. We have a few teams now that own vertical slices of the app these days. As we scale we're looking for deployment isolation. In this new world the leading suggestion is, we can roll our own module federation. And I mean roll our own. The only talk about solving for reactivity and binding app state to the Dom is we'll use lit which I don't think fully addresses the concern.
On the team, I'm seemingly the only one who doesn't think this is a great idea. But the way I see it, we're going to end up building custom solutions for all kinds of crap (that are already solved problems) and we won't call it a framework... Cuz that's a dirty word now. Then we'll end up having to maintain this collection of custom tooling instead of shipping business value
I feel like at some point the business is going call shenanigans on us and get an overseas team at half the cost to ship faster and the quality won't even suffer much because they won't be riding the newest tech trends where we're constantly hitting pitfalls.
Any of you been through something like this and if so how did it turn out?
2024.05.29 05:17 Brilliant_Focus_67 Testing 7/13/2024 (CONFUSED)
I'm testing this July first time and I am getting really worried. My FL scores are as follows:
Blueprint Diagnostic Exam (taken last January): 483 AAMC Full Length 1 (March 2024): 480 AAMC Full Length 2 (March 2024): 484 Blueprint Full Length 1 (May 2024): 490 Blueprint Full Length 2 (May 2024): 495
I still have a lot of AAMC Q pack and secrion bank questions to go through (and 2 more AAMC and 2 more BP FLs). Before getting to those, I decided to spend a couple of weeks revisiting content. Also, I have the 4000 BP Q pack w/ AI (came with exams).
I'm 67% through the Miledown deck.
I only got through about 24% of UWorld before it expired for me (school at the time). Don't know if I should spend another $300 to work through the rest. I've been studying for what feels like an eternity and I am feeling a little lost on how else to raise my score.
I'm not giving up on this test. I know I need to do better, and I WANT to do better. Thoughts anyone???
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Blueprint Diagnostic Exam (taken last January): 483 AAMC Full Length 1 (March 2024): 480 AAMC Full Length 2 (March 2024): 484 Blueprint Full Length 1 (May 2024): 490 Blueprint Full Length 2 (May 2024): 495
I still have a lot of AAMC Q pack and secrion bank questions to go through (and 2 more AAMC and 2 more BP FLs). Before getting to those, I decided to spend a couple of weeks revisiting content. Also, I have the 4000 BP Q pack w/ AI (came with exams).
I'm 67% through the Miledown deck.
I only got through about 24% of UWorld before it expired for me (school at the time). Don't know if I should spend another $300 to work through the rest. I've been studying for what feels like an eternity and I am feeling a little lost on how else to raise my score.
I'm not giving up on this test. I know I need to do better, and I WANT to do better. Thoughts anyone???
2024.05.29 05:16 deucesfresh91 Help me thin out this collection: Tons of cards FS
 | I’d like to sell these in lots except for the last three cards (Konerko rookie, Johnson gold label and maddux /100). I’d also listen to offers for singles or trades but would like to sell. submitted by deucesfresh91 to baseballcards [link] [comments] The last couple of pics are cards mostly sorted by team and by box. Just ask me what you’re looking for and I’ll share! Feel free to DM with any questions. Add a $1 for PWE or 3.50 for BWMT. Topps chrome 23 lot (pic 1)- $7 Bowman lot (pics 2 and 3)- $12 24 heritage (pics 4 and 5)- $16 Diamond Greats (pic 6)- $4 Konerko rookie (pic 7)- $5 Johnson Gold Label (pic 8)- $5 Greg Maddux /100 (pic 9)- $12 |
2024.05.29 05:16 Ordinary-Antelope420 Return newly bought car because it had issues help
So i purchased a new car everything was fine i test drove it everything looked good decided i wanted it and the paperwork was started. Finished everything all the financials. Sales guy comes back and says theres alittle issue as we were preparing the car and running all our tests it seems that the auxiliary battery has gone bad its dead right now and we dont have a new battery on hand to install in it. Okay np they said the battery will be here in couple days you can pick it up then. The day comes the put the battery in and uh oh the battery again is drained. So now they say they are troubleshooting because they dont know exactly what is wrong with it and admit they are not experts on this make they are infiniti dealership selling a jeep. So now they say well send it to jeep to fix the problem. They are giving me the option to get my money back ie down payment but my question is what happens to the finance loan that i just got for that car like can i go and get another car and transfer loan. Do i have to wait unitl this mess is cleared up also the hard inquiry on my credit now illl have that too with nothing to show for it. What to do should i just keep this car and let jeep fix the issue. The car is very nice everything seemed great it looks great has many mods and low miles ugh i need help
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2024.05.29 05:15 Throwaway_738292 My boyfriend emotionally cheated on me
My boyfriend emotionally cheated on me with a girl from a dating app, he took her out on a date and took her back to his apartment. They didn’t sleep together that’s why I called it emotional cheating. I took the girls Snapchat and asked her questions and she said she thought he had a girlfriend with all the stuff in his apartment, but she never reached out to me we have pictures up and he’s tagged. She said she blocked him and he has now permanently deleted all of his social media besides Facebook. Everyone says I need to break up with him, but I’m almost positive he is having a manic episode with how he is acting. He is not medicated or officially diagnosed, but ive been around people that has bi-polar and it’s not far off from what he is acting. It’s always an emotional roller coaster with him when he gets episodes he’s just never have done any of this. I figured he was cheating because he spends all of his days off with me and he was being weird about a certain day off he had and I told him I was gonna go through his phone and I still found the texts on Snapchat. It’s just the carelessness and the lack of any kind of emotions and the impulsiveness he randomly out of know where got a 2 month old kitten when he works 12 hour shifts he does 4 days on and 2 days off I had to take the last cat he got almost 9 months ago because we both decided that his schedule wasn’t working and having to care for a kitten just wasn’t working. He told me he feels like he’s in a fog and is depressed and has no emotions, he’s usually a pretty emotional person. He has autism, mostly with reading people he struggles with that. I’ve been with him since my freshman year in college and he’s had a couple episodes, but he’s never cheated. I’m just upset because i literally do not know if I should stay or leave. I don’t have trust for him and I literally only cry and stay in bed, I took off work because I’m so emotional, but I don’t have bi-polar so I have a hard time. he said he’s scheduling an appointment some time this week, but I can’t tell if he is in control of his actions when he is manic like this. Everyone keeps telling me he knows what he’s doing, but i or them don’t have bi-polar. He says we need to take a break because he needs to focus on getting help and building a relationship back up right now is not something he can do right now. which is hard, but it’s true. He at first said he is sick of hurting me and we need to break up, which I didn’t want to do because this isn’t him, or I don’t think it is. After talking I told him you don’t get to decide anything when you’re like this after getting an appointment set up with a therapist and a doctor we can talk after that and he agreed, but he wants to do it alone. It’s just so frustrating, because I literally don’t know anything anymore is this him or is this not him because I literally can’t tell.
Sorry for the long rant. This is a throw away account btw.
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Sorry for the long rant. This is a throw away account btw.
2024.05.29 05:12 RestNester The Problems With The MultiVersus Relaunch
Now that MultiVersus has returned, there is debate as to whether the game arrived with either positive or negative additions to the now fully finished, polished, and launched game. Many argue that the new mechanics have actually improved on the gameplay from the Open Beta alongside other neat additions, while others argue that the execution of the Beta versions gameplay amongst other details were remarkably better than the excuse for a finished game in these people's minds. In my opinion, the Open Beta beats the Official Games "quality" by a huge landslide, and here is why I believe that.
The coloring of the opponent and allies team color on the fighters looks atrocious and weird.
The game has crashed and disconnected over 20 times due to lag that will come at you even if you had the best Wi-Fi and/or Internet on the planet.
If they were trying to make the graphics better with Unreal Engine 5, they failed miserably! Everything looks shiny and gross compared to the Open Betas graphics. "Work Smarter Not Harder" I guess.
The new dash attacks feel very clunky most of the time.
The scrapped Guilds mode sounds a lot better than Rifts mode. They are more or less the same, but the details about Guilds sound much more interesting than what we got in Rifts.
You cannot play as characters you don't own in offline modes such as "The Lab." (They took out the Training map from the game too)
People are missing the characters they purchased with real money???
Hopefully everything gets fixed, as I do want the game to succeed and be in the greatest state it can be because right now, everything is a dumpsterfire compared to the very low lows of the Open Beta days. If you guys have your own problems with the game or have anything to say about the game, leave a comment and have a great day!
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- "The Camera Zoom And Slow Paced Gameplay:" A lot of people seem to be aware of the camera zoom system that was implemented in MultiVersus (Which by the way, cannot be modified to where it is completely gone), alongside the dramatically slower movement. It seems that a possible reason for why Player First Games included this monstrosity of an addition was because of players reporting the spam of attacks in matches alongside the seemingly way too swift gameplay, which of course lead to Player First Games including the previously mentioned implementations in the relaunch, thinking that players would "think outside the box" with attacks when playing. Back in the Open Beta days, there was a little something called "Attack Decay!" Sounds wonderful right? Well, my friend, here is a description of this glorious mechanic; Attack Decay basically made opponents attempts at spamming attacks utterly useless! This mechanic rewarded players who were already thinking creatively when utilizing their fighters moveset splendidly, but it seems that everyone at Player First Games thought that this aid for players who aren't spamming the same move forgot its existence to where it is M.I.A in the Official Game. About the fast-paced gameplay, let me present a question; Do you really prefer the new slow-paced gameplay, or the way the movement worked in the Open Beta? The movement was arguably floaty during the Beta days, but you would think that the gameplay that for the most part did not need any fixing whatsoever (in most peoples eyes) would be perfected by only editing the very small grievances and glitches in this way of playing the game, right? Nope; we would instead get gameplay that really shows the transparency of the playable characters not fitting in the new gameplay style at all (Iron Giants meets the Dexter's Laboratory Map for example) that seemingly only a small portion of players seem to be content with. I am willing to bet that if a dedicated fighting game enthusiast were to playtest both the Open Beta and Official Game versions of MultiVersus, the enthusiast would prefer the Open Beta's almost near perfect fluidity that was fun to participate in compared to the clunkiness of the Official Game that feels like a chore to play through after a couple of matches.
- "The Corporate Similarities To Other Free To Play Games:" From the removal of the beautifully drawn 2D renders in game to make way for the ugliest 3D renders, to the layout of the Fighters menu quite literally being the FTP Battle Royale Locker, to the exclusion of a proper fighting game character select screen, almost everything about the new UI for MultiVersus screams "Fortnite" and "Stumble Guys'" unoriginality instead of a celebration of a company's Intellectual Properties with colorful, vivid, and creative design that actually was in the Open Beta. When you launch a game like Super Smash Bros or any MARVEL VS. CAPCOM game besides Infinite, you can feel the authentic love and passion poured into every single aspect of the game. When you log on MultiVersus, you are bombarded with microtransactions that probably cost as much as a wedding ring when accumulated together. Adding to these problems, fighters who should be carefully selected and handpicked with the intent of being well thought-out inclusions to the roster are treated like the average skin that adds no value to the gameplay in the average FTP game. So many people are fine with the idea of MultiVersus having an infinite number of character slots and franchises one day that could give Fortnite's colossal library of franchises a run for its money, but has anyone thought about the example of not having every participant in a baseball game receiving the big trophy, as well as keeping the roster at a reasonable limit to avoid having the roster the same size as a MultiVersus fan roster on DeviantArt? We have characters like Banana Guard before Scooby Doo, Samurai Jack, and many other characters who are objectively better picks for a celebration of Warner Bros as a whole; and yes, every good fighting game has a good selection of joke characters, but MultiVersus has not even reached the excellence of other platform fighters with their current strategy (putting emphasis on the most laughable and unnecessary aspects of a game) to add a joke character in a roster that has missing combatants that are way more important to Warner Bros history. But hey, Warner Bros and Player First Games have to make that green paper somehow, and they more than likely don't care about the fact that adding a "Passion Project" like Banana Guard before Daffy Duck is a massive slap to the face to people who want beloved characters added to the game that are not treated as muses to sell rubbish.
- "Miscellaneous Stuff That Doesn't Need It's Own Category!!!:"
The coloring of the opponent and allies team color on the fighters looks atrocious and weird.
The game has crashed and disconnected over 20 times due to lag that will come at you even if you had the best Wi-Fi and/or Internet on the planet.
If they were trying to make the graphics better with Unreal Engine 5, they failed miserably! Everything looks shiny and gross compared to the Open Betas graphics. "Work Smarter Not Harder" I guess.
The new dash attacks feel very clunky most of the time.
The scrapped Guilds mode sounds a lot better than Rifts mode. They are more or less the same, but the details about Guilds sound much more interesting than what we got in Rifts.
You cannot play as characters you don't own in offline modes such as "The Lab." (They took out the Training map from the game too)
People are missing the characters they purchased with real money???
Hopefully everything gets fixed, as I do want the game to succeed and be in the greatest state it can be because right now, everything is a dumpsterfire compared to the very low lows of the Open Beta days. If you guys have your own problems with the game or have anything to say about the game, leave a comment and have a great day!
2024.05.29 05:11 natbaracy How will I ever know if getting close to an answer trigger me to denial?
I try to consume informative content on NPD but I can't stand it cuz I get annoyed and like "huh, that's just generic shit everybody does, stop looking for attention 🙄" I did answer the NPI and took 31 but I have an explanation to all the questions like "yes but not exactly like that"
I'm a really good person. Really, if I said I was a narcissist, nobody would agree. I mean, none of my friends, who've known me for six months cuz I tend to discard people. Not my therapist who've known me for a couple weeks cuz they always end up not being good enough. Not my partner who I'm being horrible to but somehow he still didn't notice I'm the problem. Maybe my ex but I'm pretty sure if I'm one he's one too.
I want to love my partner, really. That hot and chaotic (and awesome) feeling of meeting someone and being in love is fading and I want to actually love him. Actually stay. Not just move on to start it again with someone else and leave when it starts to became real, like always. But I can't. I'm terrified of vulnerability and love IS vulnerable. I want to be with him for the person he is and not for what he can give me but that would make me so fucking vulnerable and weak and I can't stand seeing myself that way but I also can't stant that I'm gonna be just one more asshole he's gonna have to get over he really deserves someone better and hes ghosting me and Idk why I don't wanna hate him I wanna make it right but how do I fucking do that I just wanna scream abt how much of an asshole he is I texted saying I saw something at a shop that I thought he would like cuz I wanted to know if he wanted it and he took a while to reply and I bought it but it's been HOURS already and I wanna set fire in that shit really I'm trying my fucking best y can't I just act normal and y can't I fucking study this diagnosis like I study ANY OTHER without getting irritated and annoyed and
well anyway, I'm not gonna edit this text
NPI: 31 Codependency: 13 OCD: 11
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I'm a really good person. Really, if I said I was a narcissist, nobody would agree. I mean, none of my friends, who've known me for six months cuz I tend to discard people. Not my therapist who've known me for a couple weeks cuz they always end up not being good enough. Not my partner who I'm being horrible to but somehow he still didn't notice I'm the problem. Maybe my ex but I'm pretty sure if I'm one he's one too.
I want to love my partner, really. That hot and chaotic (and awesome) feeling of meeting someone and being in love is fading and I want to actually love him. Actually stay. Not just move on to start it again with someone else and leave when it starts to became real, like always. But I can't. I'm terrified of vulnerability and love IS vulnerable. I want to be with him for the person he is and not for what he can give me but that would make me so fucking vulnerable and weak and I can't stand seeing myself that way but I also can't stant that I'm gonna be just one more asshole he's gonna have to get over he really deserves someone better and hes ghosting me and Idk why I don't wanna hate him I wanna make it right but how do I fucking do that I just wanna scream abt how much of an asshole he is I texted saying I saw something at a shop that I thought he would like cuz I wanted to know if he wanted it and he took a while to reply and I bought it but it's been HOURS already and I wanna set fire in that shit really I'm trying my fucking best y can't I just act normal and y can't I fucking study this diagnosis like I study ANY OTHER without getting irritated and annoyed and
well anyway, I'm not gonna edit this text
NPI: 31 Codependency: 13 OCD: 11
2024.05.29 05:11 necroh0e Lumryz: My Experience
Hello fellow narcoleptics!
I'm officially 2 months on Lumryz. For context, I was prescribed Xyrem in 2018, switched to Xywav in (I believe) 2020, and just began Lumryz 2 months ago. I'm going to try my best to be brief as I go over all of my thoughts on it and how it has affected me/how it compares. For reference I take 7.5g packets.
tldr: taste is fine, works faster and for longer, bedwetting biggest symptom, mental state on it improved.
The first week I took Lumryz was crazy. It made my body feel incredibly heavy and I also felt mildly dizzy but not in a nauseating way. The second night I had spilled juice on my floor and got down to wipe it up and fell asleep on the floor in what must have been minutes! I woke up a couple hours early in a crazy delirious state, for a couple seconds LITERALLY having no idea if I was at home or in my dorm room (which I was in). And I am not talking like forgetting for a couple seconds, I literally looked around and saw my dorm room but was convinced it was my bedroom at home and even that I could hear my parents talking down the hall. It was insane. I got into my bed though and went back to sleep and woke up fine.
Bedwetting
The worst side effect of the Lumryz for me (in the beginning) was the bedwetting. Even if I would pee right before taking it, it's like every other night my bladder would just empty (thank god for free laundry at my school...) I asked my doctor and he said that once my body was more used to the medication, I should stop bedwetting so frequently. He was right! After a month the bedwetting had stopped. Im sure that it will happen again someday, as I am sure other people on Xywav/Xyrem and Lumryz would agree with, but it isn't happening so frequently. To anyone switching to Lumryz, I would recommend going to sleep with a maxi pad on for the first couple of weeks.
Dreams
My dreaming has been so strange on Lumryz. It's too much to detail here in this already long post, so I think i'll do a separate post about this because there's a lot to break down.
Hunger and Nausea
My nausea has been about the same being on Lumryz vs Xywav. I have been prescribed Zofran for about as long as i've been on my narcolepsy meds. Next, the hunger. I know all of you Xywav takers know about how insatiably hungry you get on that medication, how you'll break into any nook and cranny, searching for any morsel of food. This was another main reason why I switched to Lumryz. The extreme hunger is definitely not the same as when I was on Xywav. It is not anywhere near as intense. I still get a bit hungry on it though, and this is probably heightened by the fact that I eat dinner at 6 PM and take my medication for sleep at 11 PM. I'm sure that anyone would get hungry after five hours. I would recommend eating a large snack about an hour before. If I'm going to bed with a more full belly, I usually don't get so hungry.
Staying asleep
Not only has Lumryz helped me fall asleep faster, but I also usually stay asleep for longer. For the past week or so, I've been waking up at anytime between 4 and 5 AM, but I'm able to fall asleep again within 30 minutes usually. I think this waking up is exacerbated by consuming food after taking Lumryz. I'm also more likely to fall asleep faster and stay asleep longer if I have gotten physical activity that day. I have MDD, so it's common for me to not do much other than sit around for a whole day. However, when I get exercise, my sleep is so much better.
Mental Health on Lumryz
Another huge negative side effect I would experience while on Xywav was a fucked up mental state. Xywav would amplify suicidal or depressive thoughts for me, and it would be really bad if I was already in a bad mood. Though Lumryz works similarly, I do usually fall asleep much faster so the thoughts don't have time to get too bad. Lumryz usually makes me more confused than suicidal though.
Okay, that's mostly it. Feels free to ask me any questions you want.
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I'm officially 2 months on Lumryz. For context, I was prescribed Xyrem in 2018, switched to Xywav in (I believe) 2020, and just began Lumryz 2 months ago. I'm going to try my best to be brief as I go over all of my thoughts on it and how it has affected me/how it compares. For reference I take 7.5g packets.
tldr: taste is fine, works faster and for longer, bedwetting biggest symptom, mental state on it improved.
- Taste
- Effectiveness
- Side effects (after taking)
The first week I took Lumryz was crazy. It made my body feel incredibly heavy and I also felt mildly dizzy but not in a nauseating way. The second night I had spilled juice on my floor and got down to wipe it up and fell asleep on the floor in what must have been minutes! I woke up a couple hours early in a crazy delirious state, for a couple seconds LITERALLY having no idea if I was at home or in my dorm room (which I was in). And I am not talking like forgetting for a couple seconds, I literally looked around and saw my dorm room but was convinced it was my bedroom at home and even that I could hear my parents talking down the hall. It was insane. I got into my bed though and went back to sleep and woke up fine.
Bedwetting
The worst side effect of the Lumryz for me (in the beginning) was the bedwetting. Even if I would pee right before taking it, it's like every other night my bladder would just empty (thank god for free laundry at my school...) I asked my doctor and he said that once my body was more used to the medication, I should stop bedwetting so frequently. He was right! After a month the bedwetting had stopped. Im sure that it will happen again someday, as I am sure other people on Xywav/Xyrem and Lumryz would agree with, but it isn't happening so frequently. To anyone switching to Lumryz, I would recommend going to sleep with a maxi pad on for the first couple of weeks.
Dreams
My dreaming has been so strange on Lumryz. It's too much to detail here in this already long post, so I think i'll do a separate post about this because there's a lot to break down.
Hunger and Nausea
My nausea has been about the same being on Lumryz vs Xywav. I have been prescribed Zofran for about as long as i've been on my narcolepsy meds. Next, the hunger. I know all of you Xywav takers know about how insatiably hungry you get on that medication, how you'll break into any nook and cranny, searching for any morsel of food. This was another main reason why I switched to Lumryz. The extreme hunger is definitely not the same as when I was on Xywav. It is not anywhere near as intense. I still get a bit hungry on it though, and this is probably heightened by the fact that I eat dinner at 6 PM and take my medication for sleep at 11 PM. I'm sure that anyone would get hungry after five hours. I would recommend eating a large snack about an hour before. If I'm going to bed with a more full belly, I usually don't get so hungry.
Staying asleep
Not only has Lumryz helped me fall asleep faster, but I also usually stay asleep for longer. For the past week or so, I've been waking up at anytime between 4 and 5 AM, but I'm able to fall asleep again within 30 minutes usually. I think this waking up is exacerbated by consuming food after taking Lumryz. I'm also more likely to fall asleep faster and stay asleep longer if I have gotten physical activity that day. I have MDD, so it's common for me to not do much other than sit around for a whole day. However, when I get exercise, my sleep is so much better.
Mental Health on Lumryz
Another huge negative side effect I would experience while on Xywav was a fucked up mental state. Xywav would amplify suicidal or depressive thoughts for me, and it would be really bad if I was already in a bad mood. Though Lumryz works similarly, I do usually fall asleep much faster so the thoughts don't have time to get too bad. Lumryz usually makes me more confused than suicidal though.
Okay, that's mostly it. Feels free to ask me any questions you want.
2024.05.29 05:10 sectum7 What exactly goes into opening weekend tracking?
Rookie question here.
I understand that pre-sales are one thing, and are easy to track. But I’m unclear on how that could translate to an overall estimate for how a movie will open.
I’m not an obsessive, but I would consider myself a cinephile - I go to the theatre at least a couple times a month, I watch trailers every week, I’m on Letterboxd, I listen to podcasts about movies. I have never, ever in my life been polled, online or in person, about whether I knew a movie was coming out or if I planned on seeing it.
Where does the data come from? I’ve noticed the media/trades never really cite a source when they mention tracking. Is there an algorithm aspect, based on clicks or social media buzz? Is it literally polling, and just extrapolated from a very small sample size? If anybody knows the ins and outs of box office tracking, please enlighten me.
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I understand that pre-sales are one thing, and are easy to track. But I’m unclear on how that could translate to an overall estimate for how a movie will open.
I’m not an obsessive, but I would consider myself a cinephile - I go to the theatre at least a couple times a month, I watch trailers every week, I’m on Letterboxd, I listen to podcasts about movies. I have never, ever in my life been polled, online or in person, about whether I knew a movie was coming out or if I planned on seeing it.
Where does the data come from? I’ve noticed the media/trades never really cite a source when they mention tracking. Is there an algorithm aspect, based on clicks or social media buzz? Is it literally polling, and just extrapolated from a very small sample size? If anybody knows the ins and outs of box office tracking, please enlighten me.