My partner M and I F just ended a LDR mutually. He's previously married with 2 kids.
Fundamentally he boiled it down to I disrespect him constantly, according to him by design. Anytime I tried to clarify with him what he thought was disrespectful he thought I was asking to "validate my ego" which never made sense to me.
I always chalked it up to him having narcissistic abusive ex who constantly torments and triggers him. And when he did share with me, long after the fact, things he found disrespectful I understood. Ending a phone call too abruptly, calling him from a party (once) when he considered our phone calls to be dates, playing games on my phone when we were talking sometimes. Texting him my feelings instead of calling but I always did that because it was extremely hard to get him to listen without interrupting most of the time. We did video calls and it was hard for me to always look at the same thing for 2-3 hours (I'm like this with everyone) but I was always listening. I never did it in person but I stopped when he finally told me it bothered him.
Whenever he felt disrespect he would yell at me. It took me almost breaking up with him to get him to stop raising his voice. I was in a four months depression from it before he took me seriously. I was in a PTSD headspin from other triggers in my life and being yelled at more than once a week rocked my nervous system completely.
It turns out he thought I was involved with a friend of his before we got together. We were never involved and he told me months later it didnt matter to him but it bothered me that I "lied" to him about it. I was always single this is my first LTR and I had a past (truly in the past) of a party and sexually active lifestyle which I had been done with for the better part of 5 years . I admitted this to him to lay my cards out on the table early on. It's not something I worried about ever being an issue again as I'm quite content with my calmer life and I've always been loyal even when I dated short term. But I feel like because I was honest with him about it made him afraid I would revert because his an ex was an alcoholic and cheated on him.
Eventually every time I tried to address an issue he was concerned with he would just start saying I was full of shit and I started having super strong reactions to this and screaming. But then he started telling me he thought me and his ex friend were talking behind his back, including my family who his friend has never met. He finally told me he thought people were talking about him at work and spreading information and I saw him start arguments with his family over nothing and I was like holy shit is he losing his mind? Like he is not ok.
Unfortunately by the time I realized he might be paranoid I was already exhausted and couldn't stay any longer. He would go from telling me I'm going to meet more of his family and what type of marriage proposal would I like to telling me he doesn't trust me one bit and I should stop stringing him along. And when he would talk like this, the distrusting crazy talk he looked like a completely different person. Then it would be over and he'd be back to himself.
At this point I started to believe he's breaking down and something is not right with him. But I was too exhausted and I said I need you to consider that learning what respect means to you is hard when you believe I disrespect you intentionally and don't tell me what I do that bothers you. People have different ideas of respect and I'm open to growing and learning and always have been. And that I need you to consider that I've always been honest with you and I can't handle that you don't believe anything I say.
I genuinely believe he needs help and I feel like a bad partner for leaving him if that's the case. But I lost 15 lbs, I started losing my hair and I had severe brain fog. I was supposed to move in with him but I couldn't even begin to make preparations to do that with all the stress.
I feel so guilty for leaving him. He made me feel so loved, but the contrast with the other behavior was so much. He supported me through my mental health crisis despite his outbursts and frustration with me. He wanted to support me and help me recover financially. But I did everything I could and I can't afford for this to make me sick any longer.

Written 5/8/2024- updates attached below

I tried posting this on kendrick almost a week ago and it got no response, I messaged the mods to ask about Karma restrictions or account age requirements and they never replied. I made a new account and it was the same issue, but I found out last night I wasn’t fully banned, so I figured I’d throw it up and see if anyone finds it valuable. It’s written for people who have no prior knowledge of the rap game/music business. I don’t have to go as hard on obscuring names this time. One of the influencers I mentioned in my last post is known for doxxing and threatening violence against people who mention the many contradictions in their stories. (Sorry for any typos/mistakes I want to go to bed.)
Origins
I believe the current Drake and Kendrick Lamar beef is either completely or partially fabricated by certain industry leaders or the parties involved in an effort to distract from something bigger going down behind the scenes. If you were an influential label owner facing major accusations, and you needed to deflect media attention from yourself, recreating one of the most defining moments in rap history during the social media era would be a way to do it. It also wouldn’t hurt that two of the biggest rappers in the world were already sending shots at each other in their music for years prior. The public consensus is they are simply two famous rappers who hate each other and fighting over the spot for the top like in the 90’s. Only people who were directly involved could paint a more cohesive picture of the whole story. Even when all the cards drop, there is a good chance the average person won’t be able to find direct sources on their own and will continue to support their favorite artists and dismiss any evidence of their crimes like the drizzy subreddit or Ak fans.

As I said the beef between Kendrick and Drake has been brewing in the background for years, with both rappers sending shots and sneak dissing each other over the course of at least 8 years. The most agreed upon origin story is the first diss was the 2016 Big Sean and Kendrick collaboration, “Control,” and Drake responded with, “The Language”. Things stayed relatively lighthearted for a while and both were intentionally vague for many years. Before I go deep into the Kendrick and Drake stuff, it’s really important to examine some of Drake’s prior beefs because they add a ton of context to my theory. In my opinion Kendrick and Co. started scheming all of this some time around Mid 2020-Mid 2022, well after the whole Pusha T beef had transitioned into the Kanye beef.

What exactly started the beef is debatable, but at the time many attributed it to rumors of Drake pursuing Ye’s ex Amber Rose. Unfortunately the timeline isn’t 100 percent clear, and if I included every detail this would be at least 200+ pages so I’ll stick with the important stuff. The ultimate outcome of the Pusha T battle in 2018 was the revelation of Drake’s son Adidon that he had previously been hiding from the world along with getting Ye directly involved in the beef.

Here are some more examples of Drake antagonizing Ye and of him trying to use women as pawns to get material for his diss tracks. The Drake line, “Yeah, I probably go link to Yeezy, I need me some Jesus, but as soon as I start confessin' my sins, he wouldn't believe us," could be a reference to sleeping with Kim Kardashian, trying to double down on his threats to harm him or his family, or it could be a double entendre. Another example is using the name Kiki in another song, which was apparently one of Kim’s nicknames. Some other possible examples include the theories he may have tried the same thing with Kendrick’s wife Whitney around 2020-2021 in an attempt to use as ammo against Kendrick, which I’ll go into later. I don’t listen to much of either artist's music, but there are probably many of other examples in Drake’s catalogue that I’m leaving out. There is also his song Omerta released in 2019, which I'll go into below.

“Your baby mother call me when she lonely My tailor see me twice a week, he like my homie Forever grateful, forever thankful Diamond necklace, but she wears it on her ankle”

(Probably referring to Kim Kardashian since she had a few pictures with her wearing diamond ankle bracelets and was trying to make it into a trend.

“I plan to buy your most personal belongings when they up for auction”

(There were various rumors floating around for a while that Drake was blackmailing Ye with something and he was fighting to keep it from the public. I thought about it and this line might be referencing a sex tape with Kim or her little sister who me was very touch before she turned 18. In 2022 there was a whole storyline on Kim’s show where Ye flies to LA to prevent her second sex tape from being released.)

West Hollywood, know my presence is menacing
Cosa Nostra, shady dealings
Racketeering, the syndicate got they hand in plenty things The things that we've done to protect the name are unsettling But no regrets, though, the name'll echo Years later, none greater
Death to a coward and a traitor, that's just in my nature, yeah
(Drake and Ye both frequented the Delilah Nightclub located in West Hollywood and lived closeby on the same street for a while.)
"I don't carry cash 'cause the money is digital
It's the American Expresser, the debt collector"

(Sounds a lot more like it could be crypto to launder or send large amounts of ill gotten gains. It started becoming mainstream around them)

"Last year, niggas really feel like they rode on me
Last year, niggas got hot 'cause they told on me
I'm 'bout to call the bluff of anybody the fold on me"

These lines stood out because they could be referring to Ye telling the public about Drake's alleged threats a couple months before the songs release. This happened not long after the release of Sicko mode which was towards the end of 2018 as well. Ye was discussing the incident on Twitter and reached out to Drake and Travis to talk to him in private. In the next set of tweets Kanye publicly accused Drake of threatening him and his family in a major way. Surprisingly Ye seemed genuinely scared and amongst his, “crazy rants,” some of the stuff he said makes a ton of sense in hindsight. This also the beginning of his second serious public struggles with Bipolar disorder after being committed in 2016 shortly after an on stage rant where he calls out Jay Z for selling out and says he's afraid he might kill him.. As someone who shares the same diagnosis, I have a pretty good understanding of mania and psychosis and firmly believe that it's important not to write people off right away due to their mental illness. Some of my most thoughtful, creative, and productive periods were inspired by mania. Industry bigwigs have also been using mental illness to discredit influential black celebrities and visionaries going back decades, but it really picked up in the 80’s.

Dave Chappelle has gone into this a lot in the past and claims he experienced something similar before he quit show business and dipped to Africa. Their stories have a lot of interesting parallels if you’re familiar or curious. I remember he actually visited Ye at his house in Wyoming after he was reported to have had a, "mental breakdown," during his presidential run in 2020 thus marking his third breakown in six years.. The reason I put it in quotes is because it happened right after he publicly accused Kim of cheating and delivered his legendary speech on abortion. Dave went as far as going on live tv and telling the public he wasn’t crazy, he was just really struggling because he was the only one at the time fighting against the narrative, which can often be a suicide mission or a ticket to obscurity. These are three examples of someone speaking up and being deemed crazy, two years later came the nazi stuff and I'm sure we'll have plenty in store for 2024.

This is just the tip of the iceberg when it comes to the very common pattern of artists dying or having their careers destroyed either after they try to leave their label or threaten to reveal industry secrets. A few more interesting industry connections I made in my research include the connections between:

T.U.G. records and J Cole's independent label Dreamville are both managed by Interscope Records, whose parent company is Universal Music Group.

Universal Music Group also hac Drake's label OvO label as well as Ye and Kendrick's old labels on their roster before they left to form their own independent labels in 2022 (around the same time the disses between Kendrick and Drake started escalating). Finally Bad Boy Records, which is owned by Diddy, and Motown Records who own Diddy's other R&B label Love Records, are also both owned by Universal. This means every label I mention is currently or was previously owned by Universal Music Group.

Ye tried for years to get out of his contract with Defjam, which happens to be ran by Jay Z who is known to be a close associate of Diddy. Jay would always used his money and power to fight against it. Ye even spoke out publicly on a few occasions, including when he said Jay Z was trying to kill him during one of his concerts. My theory is after years of getting nowhere and having his reputation skewered, in 2022 Ye finally said, "Fuck it," and dropped all the anti- Semetic stuff intentionally in a successful attempt to force his label to into using their morality clause, which requires labels to drop an artist if they're accused of any major controversy that could hurt the label’s profits. For the fourth time in four years the media reported he was having a breakdown. Even though they tried to punish him by cutting off all of his sources of income and freezing his accounts he still managed to bounce back pretty quickly. It was often reported how much he was losing, but it rarely discussed how he still was filthy rich in spite of the retrictions. His label wanted to discourage other artists from trying the same thing. My theory is he might have bought Kim or Kylie's alleged sex tape and used it for his own leverage. For Kendrick, his transition to his independent label ApLang went a lot smoother, but he had to split ownership of his new label with the previous manager owner Dave Free. Sadly it's still difficult for new or more niche artists to establish themselves without the some help.

He may be a lot of things but Ye isn’t dumb just because he has a mood disorder and the guys at the top know this, which is why I think he has really played up his diagnosis when it benefitted him. He’s still one of the most talented musicians in the game and I really think he sees his bipolar like a superpower as he says. It’s like his own invisibility cloak. He can go off his meds for a little, make an album after staying up for 72 hours, go on a “psychotic” twitter rant dropping facts throughout, then start up again once he makes enough news headlines. I think it’s worth noting the first divorce rumors in 2020 coincided with Ye’s abortion speech during his presidential run and the cheating accusations. that led to him dropping out and moving to Wyoming, and a couple months ago in February 2024 he was committed again.

The point I’m making is bipolar is complex, but pretty manageable especially if you have a ton of money to find meds that work for you and a good doctor and can keep substance abuse and stress at a manageable level. I think Ye is smart enough to know this, but it’s just safer for him to really play up the mental issues in the media. He’s proven he can literally say whatever he wants after getting cancelled and the average person is just going to write it off as psycho babble. While bias in health care is a sad fact of society, if you can use it to your advantage I say go for it. It might’ve just kept the microscope off of him long enough to plan his attack.

Ye v. Drake: Quotes of 2018
(Start of the beef, drake threats, and suspicion towards Kardashian family. )

“ It’s not about rap. It’s about family. We have to be close as a family and never let these people infiltrate just for radio spins”

“We need to show the world that people can talk without people ending up dead or in jail.”

”This is a man speaking to a man that has been placed in the program to fuck with Kanye West head and set me up“

”See when you care about your family you don’t let no man push you to do nothing that could risk your freedom“

These first four tweets by Ye were all in reference to perceived threats made by Drake after their beef escalated circa 2018. He began speaking on the industry and talking more about his psych hospital commitment two years prior and how he thought they were going to kill him. It's pretty obvious how the whole thing was planned by the sketchy doctor who called it in and his physical trainer who has a ton of connections to weird shit involving his celebrity clients.

I found interesting that Ye might not have been the first major league rapper whose life Drake threatened. During a similar period of mental illness the up and coming rapper XXXtentacion accused Drake of stealing his flow and dissed him a few times. Not long after he made a post online saying if he dies, it was Drake who did it. There are tons of conspiracies online, but none of the evidence is strong enough to draw a definitive connection. Also while it maybe be coincidental, Kendrick’s latest album Mr Morale also painted the picture that Kendrick was dealing with some serious personal issues. Some lines throughout the album may have been used to bait Drake into escalating, but it wasn’t until The Weekend, Future, and Metro Booming dropped, “We Don’t Trust You,” then Drake and J. Cole dropped, “First Person Shooter,” which was followed a couple days later with, “Like That,” where Kendrick started the chain of events that has led us to today.

Kanye vs. Drake: Quotes of 2020

Summary: Ye runs for president and gets suppressed for saying what very well could be the truth and was immediately deemed insane by the media. Kim did a couple interviews and everything he said was immediatly false. There is almost guarenteed to be some sketchy shit going down revolving her and her family. Ye was absolutely terrified of her keeping the kids away from him and it seems like there are still efforts being made to this day to paint a certain image of him for ulterior motives.

Below are six more quotes from a fan taking a deep dive into his 2020 tweets courtesy of u/ thehatstore42069 on Yeezy
”NORTHY I AM GOING TO WAR AND PUTTING MY LIFE ON THE LINE AND IF I AM MURDERED DON’T EVER LET WHITE MEDIA TELL YOU I WASNT A GOOD MAN,” West, 43, wrote in the tweet, adding, “WHEN PEOPLE THREATEN TO TAKE YOU OUT OF MY LIFE JUST KNOW I LOVE YOU”

"I need a public apology from J Cole and Drake to start with immediately... I'm Nat Turner... I'm fighting for us."

"the utmost respect for all brothers" and said "we need to link and respect each other... no more dissing each other on labels we don't own"

"Ye is constantly trying to tell people that his family does not have his or his kids best interests at heart. He goes on to list others, linking them together with the thinking emoji. These people include rap artist Drake and Larsa Pippen, wife of Scottie Pippe. Kim K is goddaughter to Pippen's daughter, showing how close the families actually are. All of these families that associate with Ye through Kardashian connections, as well as Drake, have been accused of the same thing Kris has. EVERY SINGLE ONE of these people have mixed race children that are groomed from a young age to fuck around with celebrities so the parents can remain famous. Drake on numerous occasions has been accused of grooming girls and then getting handsy on their 18th birthday.”

“These labels want their artists to make them money and they dont care about anything else. When Kanye says things like this in an attempt to expose him, the first thing they wanna do is drug him up and put him back in the studio.”
“Righteous indignation is typically a reactive emotion of anger over mistreatment, insult, or malice of another. It is akin to what is called the sense of injustice. This is how they keep the black man down. Keep people outraged about trivial things and distract them from the real issues in the world. The real problems in the industry. If you tell people enough times that they are unequal or discriminated against they start to believe it. Drug them when they step out of line and toss them aside when the checks run out. Ye is realizing he is pawn in a bigger game, and now that he has all these roots in the game such as Yeezy or the Gap or his music, too many people cant risk (Afford) a Ye who speaks his mind.”
(End of quotes)

Amongst the twitter rant, Ye warned about the predatory nature of record deals and discussed trying to get out of his own deal, and said again how his life may be in danger if it wasn’t already and was doing anything he could to protect his kids. The most fascinating part to me though is the public call to arms he made to Drake, J Cole, and Kendrick on twitter. After inviting them to all link up, he said, “It’s time to get free, we will not argue amongst each other while some guy we don’t know in Europe is getting paid and putting that money in a hedge fund.” I believe if Ye was able to pull off this meeting, there is an ever so slight chance that all four artists might be working together to take down a greater enemy. Weirdly there have been times throughout the last couple years where these supposed enemies were photographed together being friendly or praise each other in interviews, then out of no where the disses would start flying again.

To wrap things up I want to share my a few of my theories about the Drake/Kanye beef

A. Everything is exactly as it seems and the beef is over. Ye let his mental illness ruin his life and career so Drake simply picked another target after Ye stopped putting out disses. All of these connections are just a coincidence and all of this was choreographed to boost Drake and Kendrick’s music sales and possibly distract people from the Diddy trial and possibly the complicated geopolitical issues currently facing the U.S.

C. There is also the possibility that all four rappers are in cahoots and Drake’s dirt isn’t as extreme as people are theorizing, at least in comparison to the rest of the business. This could explain why everything has played out like a movie and how they were able to predict each other’s moves so well. This could either mean they’re all just trying to boost their sales or they’re all trying to take down the “slave masters,” as Ye calls them, and change the dynamic of the music industry in favor of the artist.

D. They may be trying to help their friends in the industry who are being abused or in shitty contracts. I know a lot of famous rappers have done a lot of collaborations with Jhene Aiko and Anderson Paak, who were both signed to T.U.G. records which I mentioned above in the connections to Universal Music Group. Considering they are both frequent collaborators with all of the artists involved on both sides, it’s not unlikely they may have played some part in influencing the takedown.

T.U.G was started by Chris Stokes with his partner Ketrina Askew. Back in the early to mid 90’s were gaining popularity attracting lots of young up and coming talent. They often collaborated with Diddy and his associates. In the 2000’s Raz B from the boy band B2K claimed he was molested by Stokes and his friend Marques Houston, then quickly retracted his claims. Years later he came forward again and said we was bribed into silence and that the rest of the victims were bribed with hush money and had another singer corroborate his story and they came forward together to level the accusations. After some of his former B2K members made fun of him for his claims and accused it of being a shakedown, Raz B revealed Stokes and Houston had preyed a lot of the children associated with the label including at least one of the former bandmates and paid them off.

I thought it was worth noting that the second whistleblower named Quindon Tarver died young in a car crash after mentioning his abuse again a few years prior. He seems to have left the industry not long after the incidents occurred and has few credits to his name. To this day Raz B is still trying to get his justice, while Stokes and his partner Askew, who was also involved in the abuse are still running the label to this day. Askew also has a ton of lawsuits, accusing her of using shady tactics to try to foreclose on houses. (Don’t quote me if a lawyer wants to take a look just google her full name), and has been tied to a ton of LLCs, similar to Drake. This is a good example of a shitty record deal, but I'm sure they have countless other friends in the industry who have even worse. While they were never convicted even Chris Stokes' wife confirmed it to be true.

E. The theory I personally think fits the narrative best and is the most realistic conspiracy is that Kendrick and possibly J. Cole went to the meeting, but not Drake due to his close relationship with Lucian Grange, the president of Drake’s label. Silence often speaks louder than words and this could explain why Kendrick was so ruthless and put so much effort into finding dirt on Drake. Ye, Cole, and Kendrick co-writing would be like the rap allstar team and if J. Cole wasn’t involved, it would also answer the question of whether or not he baited Drake into the battle by asking him to feature. I don’t think Drake is really their primary target though, which would explain letting him off easy. Compared to his bosses and their bosses he’s a small fish. If you take the big guys down you stand a better chance of landing a bigger blow on their operation.

Another really interesting connection is Kendrick and Ye were both signed under Universal Music Group and they both got out of their deals around couple months apart in 2022. As we speak U.M.G’s CEO Lucian Grange, who is often acccused of giving Drake special treatment, is facing charges related to sex trafficking by no other than P Diddy. This could very well explain the timing of it all. The craziest timeline would be Diddy masterminding all of this and using his connections to get it done and all the allegations are bullshit. The guy does seem pretty confident all things considered and constantly posts himself in his Batman costume which could mean he’s a vigilante.

It seems like there's a slight religious angle as well. (Ye and Diddy are both very vocal advocates of Christianity and Drake and Lucian Grange are both Jewish.) Obviously this is a reach, but they’ve been saying rap music was specifically promoted by mostly white label owners in the 80’s to help in the ongoing effort to expedite the systematic oppression of those living in black neighborhoods and the destruction of their family systems. Apparently it was an intentional decision to heavily promote rappers that promoted the very things that were destroying their neighborhoods. (So people know I'm and atheist and have zero agenda, I just thought it was interesting, please stay away from anything antisemitic. War is wrong on both sides.)

*** If my favorite theory is true, there is a possibility the Kendrick and Ye are going after Drake due to their mutual disdain for him and because he’s got a ton of power to dominate the charts and hog the radio airtime like Meek Mill and OG Maco claimed years ago. Even him dropping a record the same day as you could really fuck your album sales up. I’m also sure some of the many rumors throughout the years have had a least some truth and he will most likely snitch to avoid cell block one. I think that Drake could have been instructed to instigate this whole mess in order to draw attention away from the UMG charges brought about by Diddy. Or on the other hand it could be that Kendrick, Ye, and possibly Cole, may have had intel that Drake was going to be involved in the Diddy trial and are just gonna let the receipts show themselves. It might not have been the original plan, but they’ve already accomplished their mission of humiliating him, assuring he couldn’t use his influence to slide through the cracks, and taking over the throne.

Please take everything I say with a grain of salt I have no connection to this world or lifestyle. Regardless I believe all of the knowledge above does a pretty solid job at painting a picture of what may have let up to this and what may have been the source.
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More details found the last couple days…

Drake and Diddy Connections+Coincidences

Drake- In the P Diddy wig video from 2016 he talks about going to party with Drake, Cash, and The Weeknd in Toronto. Drake is also one of Birdman’s protégées who is known for being a predator and is rumored to have used label artists to lure young women.

Travis Scott- Interview where he comes out and says Diddy tried to lure him. Still has a long history of associating with him, video of him running from Diddy, his connection to Ruby Rose while underage.

Tim Westwood- Diddy had connections with sex offender Tim Westwood who also inspired the Drake song, “Westwood”. They also both were victims of drive by shootings along with The Weekend and they were all facing some type of allegations.

T.I.- Also has been associate with Diddy through the years, in 2021 his kid died and 11 women can forward at the same time to accuse him and his wife of drugging and assaulting them. Clearly someone wanted to fuck his life up. Possibly due to him getting arrested so many times for wild shit and people wondering how he continued to get away with it shining a light on how powerful industry lawyers are. He also had recently talked about having a gynecologist check to see if his daughter is still a Virgin, which sounds like it could have been an industrty secret. Could have been because he worried about someone trying to take advantage of her to get to him? Regardless that shit is fucking insane.

50 Cent- Has been saying pretty much the same thing as Travis Scott and has trolled Diddy for most of his career. It came out that his wife was a sex worker who was possibly recruited Diddy to help ruin his career. It sort of worked, which raises the question if 50 Cent is the only victim.

Ray J- Him and his sister worked with T.U.G. records when they were very young. Chris Stokes in the nineties who had connections with Diddy. He has been involved in a lot of sex scandals and allegedly may have played a part in Whitney Houston's death. (Which is also allegedly connected to Michael Jackson's death and both were deemed suspicious and happened during their final tours when their masters (song rights), became more valuable than their lives. Sony Records and Tommy Motolla, who also abused Mariah Carey when she was trying to start her career. These are just a few of the alleged examples of labels taking out musicians when they were worth more dead, another is the signing of high risk artists and requiring them to get life insurance so they can profit beyond releasing all their posthumous records. Also the ever so common story of the rising star artist that die at 21 after their first album or two.

He also partied with Diddy in Vegas with along Floyd Mayweather and a bunch of other famous industry people and athletes.

Tory Lanez- Tons of blackmail, also was signed by Interscope under UMG. got sent to prison for ten years after trying to leave his label. Also history of SA and and other allegations of violence towards women.

French Montana- On Diddy's label, close with Rick and Khaled, tons of drug and sexual assault allegations, also dated a Kardashian. Generally grimy.

DJ Khaled- Diddy said he could get anything in Miami, either referring to drugs or women, could explain his connections and lack of any notable talent. (New update, he was one of the first to promote Chris Alvarez’s instagram not long after he turned 18).

Rick Ross- Diddy said some weird shit about him and licked his lips and kissed him at a show. Ross is also signed to Bad Boy under Diddy. He ended up getting involved in the current feud and spamming social media nonstop dissing and threatening Drake.

A lot of the back and forth was both of them threatening to release dirt on each other. One strange coincidence I found was Drake recently trolled Ross about the 20 million dollar renovation to his home on Star island, where Diddy is currently residing. It’s rumored back in the day that P Diddy was caught in a room full of rich guys on ecstasy possibly at the beginning stages of a gay orgy. Drake also mentioned in the same tweets about Rick Ross that Birdman owned a house on the island and asked Rick Ross why he didn’t help him out.

Considering Ross is so sketchy and Drake claims the house isn’t that big, that’s a ridiculous amount of money. He may be covering up evidence, or creating tunnels in his house to escape if shit pops off and Drake might know what’s good. Interestingly enough Ross is very close with French Montana and also signed to Bad. He said his beef was related to something involving French, and Drake’s tweet popped up the same day the info came out concerning the Chris Alvarez stuff.

The famous line from U.O.E.N.O.

Meek Mill- “OG Maco called himself defending his friend Quentin Miller by substantiating the ghostwriting claims and agreeing with Meek. He hit up Twitter saying, "Some of us been knew. Meek just put it in the air. Sucks to have to compete with 6 n****s and get compared to”

Meek mill also had a short beef with Drake, some disses included lines referring to TI’s homie pissing on Drake at the movie theater, which is also interesting considering the current case against him. He also dropped a line saying Diddy almost got a domestic charge when he smacked Drake, which could either be saying that Drake is like a woman, or saying he was Drake’s boyfriend/sugar daddy.

I thought it was interesting how the beef just kind of disappeared and even Meek said it didn’t seem genuine. Considering the allegations against Meek in the Diddy trial, and his rumored affair with Kim contributing to ending Kanye’s marriage, Meek Mill definitely did some dirt on him.

“Niggas frauds I told the truth, don't ask me shit
All this industry fake enemy and rap shit”

“Money make a sucker that told look trill again”

One of the many chapters in Drake's history in which he is seen paying his way out of trouble and starting beefs randomly.
“Now when that shit went down with Chris, you wrote a check”
This line is referring to Chris brown beef, another beef that was lost to time. All I can remember off the top was someone throwing a champagne bottle at the other’s entourage.

Ty Dolla $ign- Huge feature artist, close with Ye. Grew up in the industry and talks about growing up on the road and being in the studio with his dad and Rick James who was should have already been in prison for life for dragging, torturing, and S assaulting multiple women and children throughout his career and was himself a victim of the industry. May be part of Ye's motivation, considering their recent close working relationship. (If you made it to the end comment with the number 8)
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Me and partner will be at Yale for an academic year while I undertake post-doctorate research. I'm on an Australian research scholarship so am not a paid employee of Yale - we are looking at Yale's Health Insurance, but are unsure that the university will subsidise the exorbitant fees if I'm not on their payroll.. still waiting to hear back from the department about this. Any J1 post-doc researchers out there with an alternative health insurer recommendation for visiting researchers? Provider can be based in the USA or Australia.

This year has probably been the worst year so far, and it just doesn't stop, it's like it wants to take me to my limit and beyond. Anyone else feeling like this?
I have been trying my best to recover these past two years from the burn out and exhaustion that came to me after finishing Uni. Last year I would get bursts of energy for like a week and then fall into 3 months of pure fatigue, but I pushed through, focusing on the positives and hoped that this year would be better. Of course, being poor and needing to sustain myself while also being Audhd and severely burnt out wasn't easy, but I moved back in with family and did my best to keep a simple job.
Well in January I got very sick, acute pancreatitis, gallbladder and liver issues as well. So that threw me off not only because of the pain and discomfort, but also because I can't afford healthcare with the little I make, and I already have an ER debt from a poisoning I went through in October so I didn't want to add to it. Still I changed up my whole diet and kept trying to get better and focus on the positives. That calmed down enough to where I could keep it under control with a good diet, but it's not gone and I could have another attack any day.
Then my partner started having flare ups for his liver and prostate issues, my mother's eyesight and hearing have been getting progressively worse due to age, and my father has to pass kidney stones about once a month. All things that are painful and very stressful in our lives. On top of that my dog has been having severe allergic reactions that she has never in her life had before causing her to lick her paws raw and breathe heavier. I got a loan to take her to a vet and they said there was nothing they could do except have me wipe her paws.
Through this I'm trying to find alternative means of income and failing constantly. I feel stuck, I can't afford anything, all my money goes to keeping my dog as healthy as I can. I can't move to a better place, I can't go to the doctor and my mental health is shot. Lately I've been having anxiety and panic attacks, feels like I'm freaking dying, heartbeat racing and anxious thoughts out of control. If that wasn't enough, I'm having issues with my nerves, knee pain, hip pain, and shoulder pain. I'm trying to do workouts with youtube physical therapists because I have no other options. And don't even get me started on the state of the world, the climate, the atrocities, and all the stress that comes with that.
I don't know what to do or where to go from here, it feels like all that my disorders do is bring me down. No matter how hard I try, I fail, things get harder, life gets more stressful, etc.. I see people with autism or adhd on social media in cute houses, with nice jobs, doing all the creative hobbies they want because they can afford it and I just wonder how in the world they're able to do it. Because I am legit drowning.
If you read all this, thank you, I just needed to vent and see if maybe I'm not alone in feeling like this is one of the hardest years so far.

Title, I mean I've been working on myself and doing everything right...Ive been going to the gym and eating healthy I've been going to a therapist and another mental health provider I dont think I'm ugly...I live in the south but that seriously can't be the reason I'm not getting many likes or March's :/ it destroys me and my self confidence it's easy to say "just move" but unless you can spare enough money to move then like idk what to do....I feel worthless, my inability to find a partner is murdering me and like I'm not ugly if I wanted I could easily get laid by a man I'm gay tho so yea...

Doesn’t need my permission PT2 UPDATE
For those who read my first thread on this situation and was waiting for an update, I have one for you.
My hubby spoke to his mom yesterday about the comment she made as well as why she doesn’t call me and only calls him. Let me tell you IMO I feel she manipulated the situation and played victim, and my hubby failed me and I’m just extremely sad about it.
She told him that, she didn’t explain herself properly when she said that comment. When she never took time to correct herself… she meant she doesn’t need my permission to hold my son.
She told him that, she doesn’t call me because she’s giving me space. When it was only after I ignored her messages after saying the permission comment to me, as well as I was extremely vulnerable about my feelings and feeling unsupported by her and she skipped over my emotions. Just said “The Lord will fix any miscommunication within the family” which is why I’m NC. No point in talking to someone who doesn’t care about how I feel in this chapter of my life when all I need is support.
She told him that she wants me to accept her, call her grandma or mom… and that she wants to have a better relationship with me then she does with her own son. She wants to be “super close”. When she had multiple opportunities to be, when I had been vulnerable and she did nothing, wasn’t there for me nothing. So I don’t believe this shit she’s telling him, because not once has she come to me with that kind of energy. It’s always been selfish energy and about her grandparent experience.
Sadly he fell for it, and he’s now telling me don’t bring anything up to rehash (when I’m someone who needs to talk things out to truly get over them, not roll over). He said how is his mom not showing she cares for me when she’s willing to pay for our plane tickets to go visit and let us stay with her…
I told him, because she’s telling you one thing and can’t take time to tell me any of this. If she truly felt that way she had multiple opportunities to tell me she wants to be close to me, not that I’m ungrateful, not respectful, I need to spend time with her to get to know her and that she doesn’t need my permission with my son… HELLO?!?
This turned into a huge argument between him and I because he can’t admit I’m actually right. He himself doesn’t believe if someone says they’re sorry, but not directly to the person it’s not genuine. Oh but the rules change because it’s his mom I see… you care for me only up to an extent then. And that reality has been hurting my heart I’ve been crying since yesterday. It makes me feel guilty to be so sad around my happy son.
I feel so betrayed by my partner. He’s like you need to move past it because we have to go down there in August. I said “I don’t function as your family does with sweeping things under the rug so I need time.” He said “That’s why I’m bringing it up early so by then you’ve had enough time.”
I couldn’t when he was saying this, and told me as well if I’m not willing to go in august we’re going to have a problem… Like he forgets what I’ve gone through for him, and also that I’m taking his shit because he might lose his job. Didn’t tell his mom that. But I’m horrible for holding a grudge against his mom for not being honest and coming to me about these things she’s telling him?? Like am I crazy?!
Like he tries to address our son as other people’s kid… and gets upset at me for being upset at that. Like I’m I crazy??
I told him I can be cordial with them, and he responded with “you being cordial isn’t talking and I’m carrying the conversations.” I told him what else is there to talk about then how she’s doing, how’s work, her health, and renovations in her home? I’m the new parent in motherhood. I don’t see what else I should be going out of my way talking to someone who’s a liar about honestly…
That’s the update you guys. My hubby sucks and I’m sad. I truly don’t matter.

I need to make a few extra bucks so my partner can take a career break (maybe just a job downsize, critical since I think they need to focus on their mental health).
I like people, but damn do I need to heal from some awful ones. If I keep my therapist, do you think I can make a decent people manager? I never thought I had the skillset, but I think I know how people work more intuitively.

That’s it! I love nerdy things. I love taking about them or things associating with them. I want to meet a woman who is excitable about some of the things I am or even partakes in some of the same hobbies. Of course, have your own life and interests but something like tabletop rpg's is such a big social thing for me, it would be nice to share for example some of the stuff I enjoy...
 
Dungeons and Dragons! I love it. I enjoy other tabletop rpg systems in general but it’s a big part of my life and it would be wonderful to meet someone who is into the hobby as well. I also try other systems as well like Cyberpunk Red and Call of Cthulhu. And so many more, I also really like showing people and teaching them.
 
I like reading. I’ve gotten back into reading since covid. It made it hard but I’m in a book club for less serious material. It’s once a month and I always look forward to it.
 
I LOVE Star Wars. Unfortunately i do, I can’t help it. I’m an Episode 8 defender but sadly most of the new shows aren’t kind of average. Andor is incredible nd I will love it for ever. Love the games, the TTRPG’s and everything about it. Someday I’ll go to Star Wars celebration. Video games! Naturally I play video games. Currently playing Helldivers and Cyberpunk 2077. I enjoy Halo infinite and other co-op stuff. I’m trying to stream on twitch now even but I still feel awkward.
 
More important stuff
 
Look, I am fat. Not chubby. Just fat. I’m not ashamed of it. I have no health issues but I am working on losing weight because damn, since quitting my career (yes I have quit) I realized I really wore myself out. I was mentally and physically exhausted from my career and it made me just well get up in weight. I like being with friends. I’m social but introverted. I like to call people. I like to hang out and watch movies. I like talking over a drink for hours. I have a great group of friends and we’re all a bunch of nerds.
 
And some more stuff central to me. I’m Latino, progressive/liberal, vaccinated, and just assume i support BLM, LGBTQ+, women’s rights, and Free Palestine. I love my city. While I don’t have plans to leave anytime soon I would for the right reasons such as a new career, partner, or Nintendo calls me up and asks me to advise on the next Zelda.
 

• I like animals.
• I prefer calling over texting but will text
• I enjoy music but I generally like it quiet near me if I am alone
• I am 420 friendly, I do like edibles and some other stuff but it's not really a habit I partake in regularly
• I'm mostly Child-Free, I am open to children but I am seriously considering getting snipped
• Love Languages: Spending time together and physical touch
• I generally don't like getting gifts (unless if the gift is food)...I just hate having too much stuff
• I am generally a homebody but if you are outdoorsy, like to be out, I will 90% of the time join you unless if I am feeling socialized out

Anyway, that’s me. If you message me, please actually say more than one sentence, give me your age, location, and a selfie and I will do the same!

I, (34F) have been trapped in the fence for about three years now. I have been married 5 years to my wonderful husband (34M) and we have been together for 6 years. When we got married we agreed that we would have a "little person" sometime in the future and go on with our lifes.
In 2021 I started to panic because I sensed that my husband was not so sure anymore but calmed myself because we were not ready, we would sort it later.
In 2022 I felt ready, I had a good job with reasonable hours, a healthy marriage, money would come, but he was not ready, he told me that we were not ready, that there were things that he would like to have first (the house, the income) and I had a crisis. I realized I was molding my life around a hypothetical child and he was not.
Then some other stuff exploded and I had a mayor menthal health crisis, it got me about 8 months to get out of there and I was exhausted. In 2023 I began to re-think my marriage, maybe he would never be ready and I was (am) not getting any younger. I was dreading the end of my marriage but I was not ready to let it go.
So it came 2024 and I decided that I am giving myself (and my husband) all this year to think, consider, fight, reconcile and work for what I really want in my life, so I am discovering myself, my wants and needs before anything else.
So, after all that context hete are the things I have discovered so far:
I. I do not consider being pregnant as the only way to motherhood. Actually what calls me to it is the raising a little person part, not the putting your body in the line part.
II. I needed to spend time around children. But my nephews live about two hours away, so I started volunteering in an orphanage and it has helped a lot with that need of connection with little humans.
III. I have had "bought" fears that were my husband's, and I am working hard to separate them. The goal is to acknowledge my fears and ways to work around them. For example, I had bought the idea that we were not financially ready to have a child but I think about minimum things that I want to give to a potential child of mine and I think things would work if we make compromises on lifestyle.
IV. After reading a very silly romance novel, I discovered that I don't want to do fertility treatments. If it happens, it will happen naturally or via adoption.
V. And the most important discovery is that I don't feel that I need to be a mother to be fulfilled. I think that it would be nice, and I embrace the idea that grief will come as soon as I make a decision for the other part. But I am confident that I will be happy and fulfilled either way.
This is the most important thing because what anguised me about being on the fence was the fact that my wonderful marriage was on the line.
It was very important for me to give myself time to consider this alone, as I do not believe it is fair to go either way for the sake of the partner. So, knowing that my marriage is safe has brought me great comfort and clarity to keep exploring my wants and needs and giving him space to do the same.
Sometimes I don't feel like I'm progressing in this process but then I think about the things I have discovered about myself and I'm really proud of the work to make "the most important decision of your life".
Anyway I thought I would share my process here, I have read other person's process and it has helped me, so I hope it could be helpful for someone out there. Thank you for reading me!

hi all, i’m 23f & i’m with my partner of 1 yr now. I’ve been battling with my sexuality and mental health severely for a minute now. I am gay, I’m with the best most dedicated man ever, super intelligent, educated, goal driven has money & is loyal. I mean he’s enamored with me completely. I’ve just been hyper aware of women & daily thoughts of yeah I’m gay the second i wake up.
I broke down& told him my worries that i might be gay a few months ago& things were good for a bit. He was happy for me and supportive. He said he would be sad and upset obviously but not like a psycho . He’s going to make more money now that he’s teaching , my rent is split between 4 people so it’s really really cheap right now. i just have a deep sorrow in my chest for him. he’s so kind & soft, but he’s not a woman…i avoid close contact and we agreed that we should wait til i initiate sex (if i want to) bc of past traumas with exes& the uncertainty with my sexual attraction.
Yes i’m happy with him, but not fully i just feel like a chunk is missing i long for women. i long for feminine energy& the difference type of intimacy. I obsess over certain people& look at pictures of women on pintresr or other aesthetic sites.
i’m obsessed with drawing the female form, photography, unique features, like all the time. I hung out with my cousin a couple weeks ago (gayest man to exist) i asked him ‘be for real, girl you’ve always been gay!’ my heart dropped but i was like yeah! my therapist is confused why i don’t tell my bf since he’s understanding. My thing is that he is so attached to me, he already had a gf leave him bc she was gay too. i know we would still be in contact, i just know im my soul at this point. i can’t keep faking kisses& i love yous bc it’s not fair and it kills me. I have bp2 & borderline tendencies. i’ve come out as gay multiple times in my life each time the feeling of wanting to be with a woman has overtaken my mind completely. I came out to my therapist, my dad my mom (kinda) and all was good. I love women I love them all, I shouldn’t be fantasizing about a girl i saw once at a tractor supply who helped me carry pellets to my car. I shouldn’t still be hung up on my ex following her on insta wishing i could have ended up with her (not a good idea, good friend but toxic) I feel like i’m running away from the inevitability of me coming out bc it’s not the “right time “
therapist told me to read some books on human sexuality n stuff but yeah if anyone can relate please help out, idk what to do i feel broken and lonely.

I have recently moved overseas with my partner of 3 years. It has been a rough start to our new location with no jobs and financial strain for the both of us. I have been trying to support him as much as I can but he is struggling a bit with his mental health because of the above. I am not able to pursue my career goals in the country we have moved to and my plan is to return home in about 2 years with the hope he will come with me. He has recently told me he intends to stay overseas for up to 10 years and might go to countries I will definitely not be able to live or work. We are completely financially independent of each other. Sometimes he does say things he doesn't mean and this may be one of those times but it has really upset me as I feel like I am the one making all the sacrifices to keep him happy. I love him dearly but do not want to follow him around forever without fulfilling my own goals and worry if I am doing the right thing for myself. I would be devastated to leave but am very unsure what I should do- please help

I (21f) was told pretty recently that I could have endometriosis. I’ve had the pain for years now, but this past year or two it’s been getting increasingly worse and my doctor is thinking it’s moved to my bowel, and I feel like it’s quite a bit of my bowel :/
I’ve been out of work for around 7? months now due to other issues (POTs, mental health problems, and now possible endo) and have been entirely reliant on my partner and parents, but I’ve racked up thousands of dollars in medical debt going to all of my appointments over the years for everything that’s been going on. I’m entirely responsible for any bills I get, and usually they’re quite a bit because my insurance isn’t the best.
I’m realistically going to need to get a laparoscopy because of how bad things are getting, but again I have no money whatsoever :/
Can I still get this surgery if I don’t have money? Has anybody done this and haven’t been able to pay for it? I’m desperately needing help the pain is getting worse every month now.

I'm not sure where to start for this post. I've struggled with mental health most of my life and for a while I'd been on a medication that made me horribly drowsy and due to this, I'd started taking showers at night, because waking up before work was difficult as is (horribly depressed and high dose of very sedative medication). I was with a serious partner at this time (no longer with them). I was also dealing with stress induced skin sensitivity. after showers I'd get horribly itchy, if I didn't scratch, the intensity of the itchiness would increase and become painful. This would last for an unknown amount of time before itd fade away. Because I was taking showers at night, I'd lay down in bed and scratch a lot before itd go away for the night. My ex partner would yell at me every night to stop itching because they couldn't fall asleep. If I adjusted too much before finding a comfortable spot I'd be told how inconsiderate I was for moving around so much when they're trying to go to sleep, that they hated sleeping next to me. I'd be told to get off them and to not touch them if I tried to cuddle them. Sometimes during the night I'd start moving around too much in my sleep, or my arm would accidentally hit them, their reaction to these would be to hit me and yell at me. They would always say that what I was doing (itching or moving around in my sleep) was being done to be rude or that I needed to be more aware while I was sleeping of not being so restless. This is kind of an am I the AH post.

Me and my partner got married on 1st of April and had a few major life events following our elopement. Such as my reproductive health problems, we had to move with short notice (no fault of our own) and financial issues. The atmosphere got negative for a little while there and we are now just recovering.
We have had a stressful couple or months and I was wondering your opinions on if the first year of marriage is the hardest ?

Hi! Long post ahead 😬
Recently got accepted to both universities' med program and I am skeptical to which school I'm going to enroll since both has different learning styles and environment. In light with this concern I'd like to ask for your opinion regarding some things that would reaaalllyyy help me compare and decide which school would best allow a student to cultivate one's potential 🥹

1. It's a fact that for a new institution UCSM has consistent and impressive PLE results. For CDU okay naman yung passing rate, but the thing is it's already a long-standing institution and I have known some successful Doctors who graduated from CDU na okay talaga sa field of practice nila (don't know anyone from UCSM tho so I could not tell). Would it be reliable ba to lean towards the one who has high passing rates even though bagong sch pa lang?
   
2. For the learning style naman I have read here on reddit USCM has a traditional type of learning (hindi ba masyadong draining?), and as per my int. with the assoc. Dean of CDU PBL yung sa kanila which is more on SGDs and only 1-2 lectures per module daw. As a crammer and procrastinator (pre-med yrs) i dont think the minimal lecture from profs would best benefit me 😭.
   
3. How is the prof-student relationship on both schools? Are they adherent to the concerns of their students? Also, is bullying a thing ba? (I'm not from CEB and I'm afraid that language barrier would be an issue although I could speak and understand naman but not much) How are the student dynamics (competitive ba or helpful ang each other? 😅) and is there a good student body council?
   
4. Anong set up ng weekly sched for both schools? Do they allow enough time for students to study on their own?
   
5. Which sch would allow me to at least achieve study and social life balance (possible ba for a med student tho 😆)?
   
6. How is the reward system on both schools? Are students' hard work are justly recognized?
   
7. How does the institution value the mental wellbeing of their students?
   
8. Extra-co activities/Programs for students to enjoy.
   
9. How are their training with partner hospitals? (Leaning towards practicing public health in the future)
   
10. Lastlyyy, any dorm recos around mandaue area near both schools? Lol!
    

Would greatly appreciate insights toward these inquiries!! Please do help me outtt huhu thank youuu in advance!!

Manhattan Project B Reactor Tours The B Reactor National Historic Landmark, Richland Daily, 8:30a-12:30p Free
My Rad Art Lab After School Program Art Your Way, Pasco 4p $29/class, $99/mo (4 classes)
Columbia Basin College Annual Juried Student Art Show CBC, Pasco Thru June 6 7:30a-5p
SageFen Maker Fest II Red Lion Hotel & Conference Center, Pasco May 17-19 10-4p
The Sound of Music Vibe Music and Performing Arts Center May 17-18 Times vary
Auditions for Equivocation By Bill Cain The Richland Players, Richland May 19-20 6-9p
Poker Richland Community Center May 16-17 1p

Wednesday May 15

Classes
Whimsy Apothecary Candle Class Goose Ridge Estates, Richland 5:30-7:30p $65/non-mem
Fresh Pasta Class Layered Cake Artistry, Kennewick 5-7p $85
Cooking Classes - Summer Grilling Series-Grilled Mahi Mahi w/Peach Mango, Cilantro Lime Jasmine Rice, and Grilled Asparagus Red Mountain Kitchen, Kitchen 6-8:30p $Unk
Puzzle club Andventures Underground, Richland 11a
Games and Comedy
Bingo at Summer's Hub, Kennewick 5-7p
Game Night Live at Two Bits and a Bite, Richland 7-9p
Open Mic Night Tumbleweeds West, West Richland 5-8p
Sporting
Tri-Cities Dust Devils vs Hillsboro Hops Gesa Stadium, Pasco 1:30-5:30p $8-46
Music
Isolation Big Band with Carmichael Middle School Jazz Band The Emerald of Siam, Richland 6p
Jazz Jams at The Emerald The Emerald of Siam, Richland 6p-8p

Thursday May 16

Classes
Beginning Brush Lettering Workshop Philocaly Lingerie Boutique, Kennewick 7-9p $Unk
Paint your own Planter! Chills Froyo and Custard, Kennewick 6-8p
Events
Back-To-School Immunization Clinic by BFHD Kennewick Health District Mothership 2-6p
Hat Burning Workshop + Fundraiser for Alzheimer's Research Chandler Reach Estate, Benton City $85pp
Albariño Master Class Barnard Griffin, Richland 6:30-8:30p $35 non-mem
They Want Our Rhythm, but Not Our Blues: African American Innovation through Pop Culture Lecture Museum at Keewaydin 7p-8p Free
LIGO Science & Art Showcase LIGO Hanford Observatory, Richland 5-8p Free
Thursday Afternoon Book Club Richland Public Library 1:30-2:30p
Grandma Niesie's Storytime Adventures Underground, Richland 11a-12p
Games and Comedy
Geeks Who Drink The Emerald of Siam 7p
Tri-Trivia Night Summers Hub, Kennewick 6p
Solar Spirits Trivia and Taco Truck Solar Spirits Distillery & Tasting Room, Richland 6-8p
Game Night Live Round Table Pizza, Kennewick 5-7p
Mah-Jongg Richland Community Center 1-3:30p
Sporting
Tri-Cities Dust Devils vs Hillsboro Hops Gesa Stadium, Pasco 6:30-10p $8-46

Friday May 17

Classes
Intro Into Gelli Printing Bristle Art Gallery, Kennewick 1p $45
Events and Games
CBC Health Sciences Information Sessions Health Sciences Center, Richland 8a-2p
3rd Friday Dance Richland Community Center 1-3:45p $10pp
Solar Spirits Trivia and Taco Truck Solar Spirits Distillery & Tasting Room 6-8p
Trivia! with Heat Entertainment Tumbleweeds West, West Richland 7-10p
Third Fridays Columbia Gardens Wine & Artisan Village, Kennewick 4-8p Free
Card Show Night Edition at Summer's HUB of Kennewick Summers Hub, Kennewick 4-9p Free
Vinyasa Flow With Susie Red Jasper Studops 4:30-5:30p $20
Twist Clothing Company 15th Anniversary Fashion Show and Fundraiser Twist Clothing Co, Kennewick 5-8p $20
Wine and Mushroom Tasting with Chesed Farms Barnard Griffin Winery, Richland 6:30p $75non-mem
Book Club Richland Community Center 1-3p
Potluck Dinner Richland Community Center 4:30-6p
Music and Comedy
Gabriel Knutzen Goose Ridge Winery 5-7p
Jack Rothwell Tumbleweeds West, Richland 7-10p
Key Lewis Comedy Show Jokers Comedy Club, Richland 7:30-9p $12
Fallout The Branding Iron, Kennewick 9p-1:30a $5
Baduku and Bahuru Columbia Gardens Night Market, Kennewick 5-7p
Lost Ox Emerald of Siam, Richland 9p $10 cover
Stephanie Steele Pop/Jazz Trio Emerald of Siam, Richland 5-8p
Sporting
Tri-Cities Dust Devils vs Hillsboro Hops Gesa Stadium, Pasco 6:30-10p $8-46
Outdoor Fitness Class- ALL AGES WELCOME Southridge Sports & Events Complex, Kennewick 9:45-10-45a $7pp

Saturday May 18

Events
Petting Zoo/Hobby Farm Jostens Petting Zoo 10a $8
Puppies & Posies by Pronto Puppy Rescue Mac's Garden Center, Pasco 12-4p
Pasco Farmers Market Downtown Pasco, Lewis St 9-1p
Spring Market Vino Yasa Hedges Estate, Benton City 10a-12p
25th Anniversary Barrel Room Dinner Goose Ridge Estates, Richland 6-9p $200/nonmem
Farmer's Market Tour and Cooking Demo Ciao Trattoria, Pasco 9:45a-12:30p
FCSC/4-H Joint AM -PM Schooling Show Franklin County Saddle Club, Pasco Starts at 8a
Connie Hampton Connally, Conversation and Book Signing Barnes & Noble, Kennewick 12p
2024 Gentleman's Ride Richland 4-5p
Pokemon May League Challenge Casters, Richland 11a registration
Metaphysical Market Uptown Shopping Center, Richland 10a-4p
Classes
Paint your Partner Night Honeycomb Studio, Kennewick 6-8p $50pair
Paint your Pet Art YOUR Way, Pasco 6-8p $70
Paint & Craft night Anything Grows, Richland 5:30-8:30p
Special Topics In Pelvic Health - Gender Affirming Care, Hypermobility, and Nocturia Therapy Solutions, Richland 9a-4p
Mosaic Dragonfly Workshop Allied Arts Association: Gallery at the Park 1-3:30p $80pp
Music/Comedy
Dysfunctional Society / Pazzi Pazzi The Emerald of Siam, Richland 9p
Guitar Gathering Blackthorne Neighbourhood Pub, Kennewick 1-3p
Mia Lenay Summers Hub, Kennewick 5:30-7:30p
Karaoke Night Wine Social, Richland 8-11p
Mid-Columbia Symphony Concert "Young Artists & Joyful Voices", Mid-Columbia Mastersingers KHS AUditorium, Kennewick 7:30-9:30p $15-70
Key Lewis Comedy Show Jokers Comedy Club, Richland 7:30-9p $12
Jeff Davis at The Underground Taphouse The Underground Taphouse, Pasco 8-10p
Fallout The Branding Iron, Kennewick 9p-1:30a $5
Live Music with Keith Scott Rattlesnake Mountain Brewing Company, Richland 7-10p
Elaine Eagle The Emerald of Siam, Richland 5-8p
Sport
Tri-Cities Dust Devils vs Hillsboro Hops Gesa Stadium, Pasco 6:30-10p $8-46
Midget Mayhem Wrestling & Brawling LIVE Pasco Eagles 5-7p and 8-10p $Unk, but can you really put a price on a show as this?
2nd Annual St. Joseph's Legacy Golf Tournament Canyon Lakes Golf Course, Kennewick 11a check-in, 1p gun start $160/pp $600 team/4
Plyometrics, Agility, & Speed Training- ALL ATHLETES WELCOME Southridge Sports & Events Complex, Kennewick 10:45-11:45a $7p
UKI Gamble fun match Fetch Sam, Pasco 1p
Lifted Ecstatic Dance - Flower Child Edition with Jennifer Lifted Lotus Yoga 2-3:30p $5 donation
PFLAGS Walk and Roll 3k Chiawana Park, Pasco 10a-1p
Better Together Spring 2024 5K Celebration Howard Amon Park, RIchland 8a

Sunday 19

Classes
Spring Fling Charcuterie Workshop Elk Haven Winery, Pasco 1-3p $Unk
Nutrition 101 Class Natural Grocers, Kennewick Sundays, 1p FREE
Chef's Wine Pairing Dinner Monterosso's Italian Restauraunt, Richland 5:30p $86pp
Goat Yoga with Bumper and Bliss The Studio Bespoke, Richland 1p $30pp
Events
Yu-Gi-Oh! Casual Play Caterpillar Cafe, Richland 12-4p
Adopt a Pet Day! Summer's Hub, Kennewick 11a-3p
Spring Blooms Floral Workshop Muret-Gaston Wine Bar, Kennewick 3-6p $65
Tumbleweed Pet Vaccine and Microchip Event Horse Heaven Hills Pet Urgent Care, Kennewick 8a-2p
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as in, i think it it sucks for everyone that there isn't a word to describe someone being lonely (and maybe even frustrated about it), which doesn't also have the baggage of being a mass shooter. i think that limitation in vocab itself leads to more polarization -- if you're a young guy who happens to be single, yet despite that feel like you're a decent person, what are you meant to think about yourself watching peers form relationships the way you learned to read? (for me i always turned the hatred entirely inward, don't worry)
i think it's especially confusing if you have autism -- society upholds it as a sign of virtue or success if you're in a relationship: you must've done something right, and if you're single you need to self-improve. YOU NEED to self improve, because all those NTs in relationships, they certainly don't have any flaws, they don't cheat or abuse, of course, clearly they're reached some moral or philosophical peak that enables them to find companionship.
and if you try to make that a goal, the way 'advice' about being single sort of suggests...isn't that then wrong and inherently a bit incel-leaning because you're viewing the relationship as an achievement or someone to gain possession of? despite, i think, the millions of normal people in history that have wanted someone and got them, and used that language, and turned out fine.
so it's like... it can't be a goal, because that's dehumanizing. but you also have to self improve to get there. but if you don't have someone, you're clearly deeply flawed and need to fix yourself. and i think it's possible to be in this situation, look at the work you've put into yourself, still not succeed, and be a bit pissed off, generally.
has anyone said the word 'bachelor' in the last 20 years? or 'unlucky in love' or 'spinster' or something? those words seem to have vanished. it's all polarized to hell (in a social-media-rots-your-brain sort of way) -- you've either sorted out all your problems, you have a partner, you have achieved the milestones, well done; OR ... what are you, some kinda incel sicko?
i think only the real real freaks genuinely think they are OWED anything, but i think it's perfectly reasonable for people to look at the vast majority of others in relationships, look at the fact that you have improved your life and self over the years, you don't hate women, etc, and think "well, what the fuck have i done wrong?"
and there doesn't seem to be any outlet for that thought besides deep dark alt-right shit or The Gym.
and that's a bit annoying.
these days, culturally, you're not really meant to interact with romantic motives with a stranger unless it's through a dating app, which are hell on earth for everyone, but i think especially us. (i have no idea how to approach 'small talk' on there -- why are we talking about coffee and baking and margaritas? why is that all anyone says on a profile?)
all that when added to the universal pressure of the economy getting shittier, rent and everything else growing grotesquely in price, and you don't even have someone to share the financial burden, let alone the emotional one.
it's a bit of a bummer, is what i'm saying. and it seems like....are you even allowed to be frustrated about it? the implication feels like: if you're upset, you're obviously blaming women instead of working on yourself. when i think:
a) there's only so much self improvement you can realistically do. people with massive flaws and issues get into relationships every day, as well. isn't that weird? from the way people talk about it, it seems like you have to be a paragon of virtue to find someone if you're single.
b) blaming people for not reciprocating interest is obviously asinine. it seems more like a broken societal promise, much like The American Dream generally. it seems like The Goal of being a person is to die retired in a house with a partner by your side. and if you're missing pieces of that....well, what the fuck do you do? especially if you're someone that isn't an alt-right sicko, has no bigoted hate in your heart, but is simply lonely due to shyness and Extremely Detrimental Disorders, but feel like you keep getting lumped in with the sickos just for being alone....is it not rough?

The past two years have been brutal. Between a tough time at a top-25 university, a partner who cheated (which led to suicidal thoughts last year), and a challenging health issue, things got really rough. On top of that, living in a townhouse with three roommates (one of whom was a real jerk) added to the stress. But there's finally some good news! I landed a job offer today. It might not be my dream role, but it pays well and is a great step forward.
I wish I had the strength to break up but I'm still with my partner and I'm trying to make this relationship work. But atleast, I now have a job in Finance and I'm moving to my dream city New York.

Hey there! I’m Kazoo! I've been searching for a long time and haven't had much luck, so I decided I'd try here! I’m hoping to meet someone soon, trying to find a partner has been tough... I'm not tied to any location for after college, but would like to stay on the East Coast!
For Hobbies, and probably to no one's surprise, I’m into gaming! I do all kinds including PC and such, but I really like Card and Board Games. One of my favorite parts of growing up was getting together with friends and getting together for all night D&D sessions, or just playing board and card games and sitting around the table with a ton of snacks and food, so I still love doing all that, just can't do it as much as I used to.
I'm also big into Keto, health and wellness, and improving myself! I needed to lose weight at one point and lost 50 pounds before doing heavy research and keeping up with nutrition and Keto, and I'm always happy to talk about that too. It's not for everyone, but I'm always happy to help others reach their fitness and diet goals if I can. Currently I'm back on Keto after stopping for a long time, but it's already going well!
Also I'm currently looking to get back into college and into a stable career! This Fall I'll be returning to college for a career in a brand new field that seems to be pretty lucrative and cutting edge, I'm more than happy to talk about that, but I'll save that for DMs!
I’m very much a work in progress but also knowing my future is bright! If you’re interested in being my partner, I’m looking for someone who:
-Doesn’t smoke anything
-Is okay with having dogs and/or cats
-Wants to have kids one day
-Is strictly monogamous
Looking forward to hearing from you!

I’m 34F and I feel like things have come to a head with my parents. I no longer want them in my life as they continue to damage me. My brother already cut them off years ago and I think I have felt guilty because I’m all they have. From a young age, they never nurtured me or cared about my needs. I was first hospitalized with mental health issues at 8 years old and they never got me help. When I had a suicide attempt at 13 years old they told me I was a selfish bitch and an attention seeker and grounded me. Numerous other things have happened where I was punished instead of cared for when I needed it.
As a result I have had life long issues with forming unhealthy relationships because I don’t have confidence and have never felt like my needs are important. I always end up with friends and partners that treat me terribly, because I let them.
I have just gone through the worst break up of my life and am completely broken. I held onto a relationship with someone who I loved dearly but they discarded me in the worst way. When I tried to get support from my parents they told me I had embarrassed myself and I must feel humiliated. I went no contact with my ex and they took it upon themselves to contact him without my permission. He owed me money but I was happy to let it go and just try to move on. I feel they took my last bit of dignity by sending him an embarrassing and threatening message. Now I have had to break no contact to apologise to him.
I don’t know if I’m overreacting but I feel like this is the last straw for me. Why couldn’t they just ask me before messaging him? I feel like they have no respect for me or my boundaries and it has really set me back in my healing. Should I cut them off over this?

I am NOT OOP, OOP is u/BedNormals, account suspended
Originally posted to AITAH
AITAH for not helping my ex wife who cheated on me?
Trigger Warnings: infidelity, psychological abuse, emotional abuse and manipulation
Original Post (rareddit): May 9, 2024
My ex wife (32F) and I (33M) finalized our divorce last year, and she had already moved in with her affair partner. We were married for 5 years and together for 10, and it hurt a lot.
Over the past year, it’s pretty clear that my ex wife’s new boyfriend has been psychologically and emotionally abusing her. It honestly makes me want to beat up the dude, and my ex wife’s mental health has completely tanked.
My ex wife has called me a few times over the last couple of months and it’s obvious she’s struggling. I’ve asked her multiple times to just cut it off with him and pack up her bags and move in with her parents, but she doesn’t want to because she feels isolated from her parents after our divorce. She is also a SAHM to her boyfriend's daughter, and so she feels even more trapped.
She asked me if I could pick her up and if she could stay with me for a while. I am not scared of that dude whatsoever, and if I wanted to, I could just drive over to their house and pick her up right now. But I told her I won’t do that, and she has to get the courage to just step out and go to her parents, or just ask her friends for help.
My ex wife is obviously struggling really bad, but I’m also not a humanitarian, there’s a lot of people in this world who are suffering. I’m not a superman who can save everyone, and I have to pick my own battles for my mental sanity.
AITAH for not helping my ex wife escape from her abusive boyfriend?
AITAH has no consensus bot, OOP was NTA
Comments
Least-Weather8703: Buddy, it's time to cut ties with your ex-wife permanently. She made her choices, and it's not your responsibility to save her from the consequences. Focus on your own well-being and let her figure things out on her own.
Pineapple-85: NTA - You need to cut contact. She is trying to drag you into a hot ass mess. It is not your job to fix her mistakes. Sadly, she made her bed, and now she needs to lay in it.
It is disrespectful as hell that she reaches out to you to complain about the life she left you for. She literally could not care less about your feelings.
If you feel you need to. Reach out to her parents. Let them know your concerns and that you do not plan on getting involved. And plan on not having contact with her any longer so they may want to check up on her.
Edit: Is it his responsibility to reach out to her parents? No but it isnt about responsibility.
It is about him being ablen to walk away with a clearer conscience. It gives him the peace of mind that she may not be fully alone and someone outside of him is aware of the situation. Because he obviously still cares. It is about alleviating the guilt he seems to be feeling for not picking her up.
OP posted an update blocked her but chose to not get involved further which is also ok. He needed to do what was best for him.
 
Update: AITAH for not helping my ex wife who cheated on me? (rareddit): May 9, 2024 (11 hours later)
Original Post: https://www.reddit.com/AITAH/comments/1cnozrb
Thanks for the advice.
I called my ex wife this morning before leaving for work, and told her I was going to cut off all contact with her after the call and block her number. I again told her to please just get out her relationship and just go home to her parents, yes she feels isolated from her parents, but they are her parents after all, and they will accept her in. She was crying really bad, but I told her there isn’t much I can do anymore. I then hung up the call and blocked her.
I think cutting off all contact with her is necessary to protect my mental sanity. I am not going to contact her parents, I am just going to remove myself from this situation entirely. Yes, I am really worried for her, but I can’t help or save everyone in the world, I wished I could, but I can’t. I need to look after myself and move on with my life.
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nylonvest: Good choice.
If you ever feel guilty, remind yourself that you already helped her a lot more than she deserved, just by being a sympathetic ear. She really had no right to ask for your sympathy over choices she made that caused you so much pain in the first place.
&nsbp;

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