Hii I apologize if this isn't quite the right sub for weight loss questions, but the community is so nice and I'm not sure where else would be safe to post as it does relate to my transition a little bit. Also it is a little lengthy so there is a quick TLDR at the bottom. Though the context of the full post may help with more useful answers. Either way, thank you for your time!
So Jan 1st of last year I weighed myself and saw I was 245lbs. I then made it my goal to work on myself physically and mentally that year. It was around this time that my egg started cracking and that spurred a desire to actually care about my body for the first time in my life and I actually made significant strides in losing weight. Between Jan and Oct of last year I lost about 85-90lbs by intermittent fasting(I only eat between 12pm-8pm except on rare occasions like parties), eating less (partially as a result of fasting), and eating healthier.
I completely cut out fast food, sodas, and highly processed snacks except on very rare occasions. I also rarely drink alcohol now, maybe once a month (if even) at a party. My dinners consist of a balance between a fish portion or half of a baked chicken breast - some baked, roasted, or sautéed veggies (lots of broccoli), and small portions of rice. Around noon I typically have some oatmeal and a fruit like a banana or blueberries/strawberries and sometimes some greek yogurt if I'm still hungry or after a workout (which I often have an apple after). I pretty much only snack on lightly salted popcorn, fruits, and trail mix (I have an omega-3 mix and a monster mix which is a bit sweeter to try and sate my sweet tooth).
I also exercise at least 4-5 times a week. I go out for a jog/walk for anywhere between 1-2 hours most days and then follow up with mostly lower body workouts, as well as some core. I tend to do 100 various squats, I do deadbugs for a minute, leg lifts, hip bridges, deadlifts, and a 2-minute plank. I tend to mostly rest every other day. Recently, due to a doctor recommendation, I picked up 5lb free weights and added some high rep-low weight upper body workouts to tone on opposite days of my lower body workouts, as my doctor advised this might help with the weight loss.
My doctor also advised that I might be stuck around this weight, as she noted that when a lot of people lose weight very quickly, they tend to hit a plateau. She said when our bodies are used to a high weight, there is a limit to how much we can lose in a shory period of time. I imagine this is due to the fact that (I read somewhere) working out doesn't destroy the lipids in our bodies, it simply shrinks them down. I've read that it can take a long time for those shrunken lipids to actually disappear, so there is a limit to how much you can lose in a given time period since the lipids aren't entirely gone. Not sure how accurate this is, but I'm hoping it just means over time I will slowly be able to lose the remaining fat.
Due to all of this I went from that 245lbs and now float around 155-160lbs. The problem is that I have been stuck here since around October and haven't been able to get below the 155lbs at all in all this time. My goal is to hit around 140-145lbs and aim for a more flat tummy, which seems to be the biggest holdout on my body. I want to lose upper torso mass and belly fat on the front and sides, but nothing seems to be working. For reference, I am 5'7". Once I start E I plan on adding a little weight over time to help put fat where I want it to be (but not get overweight lol).
I wanted to make this post to see if anyone has any suggestions on what I could change or add that might help me get further results. Or do people think I may have hit that plateau I mentioned above and it will just take a long time of continuous effort to get rid of those lipids? I'm starting hrt soon so hoping the change in fat distribution will make it so the remaining male fat will be easier to lose since new fat will go elsewhere.
TLDR: I lost 90lbs and have been stuck around 155 for roughly 7 months - looking for advice to burn more fat and get rid of belly fat on front and sides to hit my goal of aroind 140-145lbs. I am 5'7"
Thank you all for your time, I appreciate you!

Mine is that the weapon upgrade system in most From games is absolutely terrible.
Constantly wondering if you're 'locking yourself' into investing in the wrong weapon by having upgrade materials be limited, and particularly for later upgrades very hard to find, is a terrible feeling imo.
In Elden Ring, you can pretty much only have a handful of weapons levelled up to their maximum. This cripples your ability to respec, as you basically end up with subpar weapons unless you've set some materials aside for a planned build change.
Dismantling weapons should give back all of it's upgrade materials, or the upgrade system should be scrapped entirely to focus on level scaling.
The upgrade system also creates a level of unevenness to the difficulty spikes in games such as Bloodborne. I never know if my Threaded Cane actually sucks, or if it's just gimped by being stuck at a lower level because of investment choices I made 30 hours prior. The only option would be to restart a playthrough or level my character to absurdly high levels to offset the loss from upgrading, which would then lock me out of most PVP encounters.
Sekiro had it right in that most weapon upgrades were expansions to movesets rather than straight damage increases.

Hey everyone, don't even ask me why I decided this was a good idea, but I thought it'd be fun to do an AMA discussing my YouTube career. I'm the founder of Newscape Studios and the mind behind the many YouTube channels we've created and continue to run in-house. Some of the channels include GameToons (10M+ subs), Bronzo, Maxcraft, Princesshana, and all of the Newscapepro channels. We also ran several other channels for some time like SCP Animated.
My name's Cory Crater and I started my career on YouTube back in 2010 when I signed onboard with a company called Machinima (some of you have probably heard of them). I spent my high school years creating Halo, CoD, and Minecraft videos to varying success. I hit my first million view video back in 2010 -- it was called 100 Ways to Die in Modern Warfare 2.
I continued creating machinimas for Machinima and Machinima Realm (that's a whole lotta machinima) as well as very mediocre gameplay commentaries for Machinima Respawn that did much better than they should have. I went to college where I continued creating YouTube content on the side. I eventually dropped out in 2014 to go work at Sky Media (SkyDoesMinecraft). So I moved from New Hampshire to Seattle and it was really the beginning of a new phase of my life. About a year after working at Sky Media, I left and moved back to New Hampshire where I started the early phases of my company, Newscape Studios.
I had a lot of luck with my first channel, Newscapepro, which I had been slowly growing since I was just 12 years old. Minecraft roleplays were just popping off at the time and I wedged myself into that niche by creating machinima cutscenes for larger YouTubers and eventually creating my own full-length videos.
From there, I expanded out my content, opening up a a general gaming channel titled Newscapegames and a Minecraft PVP channel called Newscapedos (Both of those channels have since been rebranded and repurposed, though we did start a new Newscapegames several years back). At this point I was scheduling, shooting, the face on camera, editing and posting 20 videos a week. The workload was a bit overbearing.
So I brought on some help, hiring editors and renting out a small office at The Mills in Rollinsford, NH. Two of my first editors (K & Joe) are actually now my COO and CAO. We continued creating content for the various Newscape channels, but struggled with growth, as this was the time of the dreaded Adpocalypse, demonetization, and Minecraft was seemingly fading into obscurity. All of those factors tanked our revenue and we had trouble keeping the doors open on several occasions.
We finally found some stability when Fortnite came out and we launched a machinima channel -- Newscapepro Fortnite Shorts, Films & Skits. We ended up gaining a lot of traction. It was larger than anything we'd experienced before. and were not going to sit around and wait for the inevitable falling off of a new trend -- so my team (K, Joe, Ryan & my wife, Bri) packed up and moved down to Austin, Texas in hopes we could make some much-needed hires and strike while the iron's hot.
In Austin, we quickly grew from a team of 5 to 15 and then 25 in just over a year. We launched several new channels including a live action one, several more Fortnite channels, a Roblox channel, and a general gaming channel. We also had some failed attempts at channels like VRVS where we planned to go head to head in VR games.
Things changed when we started SCP Animated -- a channel where we animated stories from the SCP wiki. This was our first attempt at animation, and the channel had a great run. It also helped us establish the pipeline for GameToons, a channel where we animated parodies of the most popular videogames. GameToons ended up being our biggest channel ever. We started our Among Us Logic series right around the start of COVID and hit some wild view counts right from the start. Our first videos were 15M, 9M, 24M, and 50M views.
Last year, GameToons hit the milestone of 10 million subscribers and we received our first-ever Diamond Play Button. I took a photo with a note on it, hopefully giving me and this post some credibility. (linked below) We're now at a point where we have ten channels that have surpassed 1M subscribers. The success we've experienced is truly humbling and honestly still baffling. So with all of that out of the way, I'm here to answer questions -- whether they be technical, from aspiring creators or just general questions about myself or my company.
Looking forward to chatting with you all!
Also, here's a photo of me with my Diamond Play Button plaque, and a note for the AMA- https://imgur.com/9hpqS7G
Hopefully that's evidence enough that I am who I say I am, but if anyone wants further verification (within reason), I'm more than happy to oblige! Thanks!

I purchased a 2019 jeep wrangler. 2 door, hella yell, manual. My third jeep, but my first new jeep.
Fast forward to April/May ‘22. My auto start/stop light went on while I was on my way into get the car serviced. I asked them to check it out as the car was still under warranty for another month or two, and I was moving further away from the dealership I purchased the car from. I picked up the car later in the day and as soon as I drove it off the lot, the light came back on. I called the dealership, told them I was moving an hour or so away. They told me not to worry, they took notes.
Long story short, they didn’t take notes. I’m now enacting my corrosion warranty as I have some small spots on my hood, also have a clutch recall. Made an appointment to drop the car off. They told me they needed to keep the car for a week and there was nothing they could do about the auto stop as the warranty expired. I fought with them, they lied through their teeth the whole conversation. Didn’t even have my email or phone number on file(I bought the damn thing from them)
Fast forward a week, I dropped it off on Sunday. They called me this morning (Thursday) to tell me the auto body guy(they outsource their paint/auto body) is just getting to it and when they get it back they’ll start the clutch repair.
I called another dealership and they told me that they have to analyze the corrosion to see if another hood needs to be ordered (something my dealership never mentioned.)
Lots of different issues happening at once. I know it’s my bad waiting so long on the start/stop. I moved an hour and a half away. I just think they should work with me and split the cost as it’s a $1000 repair on something that I brought to their attention when it was under warranty. But again, they have no notes- they didn’t have my email and phone number until last week. Do I have any leg to stand on? I just want to call them back and cancel service and just bring this car to the other dealership to get the corrosion fixed (correctly) and the recall fixed.

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Manifesting our desires is the process of bringing our thoughts and desires into reality. It is the power of the mind that can turn our thoughts into reality. In simple terms, manifesting means making something happen in our lives by using the power of our thoughts, feelings, and intentions.
In this article, we will discuss a guide to manifest our desires.
Identify your desires The first step towards manifesting our desires is to identify what we want. We must be clear about what we want to manifest in our lives. We should write down our desires, goals, and dreams. It could be anything from a new job, a healthy relationship, financial abundance, or good health.
Believe in yourself Belief is a powerful force that can make our desires a reality. We should believe in ourselves and have faith that we can manifest our desires. We should let go of any doubts or limiting beliefs that may be holding us back.
Visualize your desires Visualization is a powerful tool that can help us manifest our desires. We should close our eyes and imagine our desires as if they have already come true. We should feel the emotions associated with our desires, such as happiness, gratitude, and excitement.
Use affirmations Affirmations are positive statements that we repeat to ourselves to reinforce our beliefs and intentions. We should create affirmations that align with our desires and repeat them regularly. For example, if we want to manifest financial abundance, we could repeat affirmations like "I am worthy of financial abundance" or "Money flows to me easily and effortlessly."
Take inspired action Manifesting our desires requires taking action towards our goals. We should take inspired action, which means taking action that feels good and aligned with our desires. We should take small steps towards our goals every day, even if they seem insignificant.
Gratitude Gratitude is a powerful emotion that can attract more of what we are grateful for into our lives. We should practice gratitude by being thankful for what we have in our lives. We should also be grateful for the things we are manifesting, as if they have already come true.
Let go of attachment Attachment to our desires can create resistance and block our manifestation. We should let go of any attachment to the outcome and trust that the universe will bring us what we desire in the perfect time and way. We should focus on feeling good in the present moment, regardless of whether our desires have manifested or not.
Trust the universe The universe is always working in our favor, even if we cannot see it. We should trust that the universe has our back and will bring us what we desire at the perfect time and in the perfect way. We should let go of any fear or doubt and trust that everything is working out for our highest good.
In conclusion, manifesting our desires is a powerful tool that can help us create the life we want. We should identify our desires, believe in ourselves, visualize our desires, use affirmations, take inspired action, practice gratitude, let go of attachment, and trust the universe. By following these steps, we can manifest our desires and create the life of our dreams. Remember, the power to manifest our desires is within us, and we can create anything we want in our lives.

From today's Pioneer Press:
The St. Paul City Council voted this week to support two zoning variances requested by the developer behind a proposed restaurant building within United Village, the development area around Allianz Field.
The single-story “Shops in the Green” building will be located west of Simpson Street, between Spruce Tree Avenue and Shields Avenue, north of a secondary restaurant building, both of which would open onto patios along the Great Lawn. Both zoning variances were previously denied by the city’s Board of Zoning Appeals.
The zoning code requires that 30% of the wall area along the ground floor on all new commercial buildings be covered in window or door openings, but Snelling-Midway Redevelopment LLC requested that requirement be lowered to 19.6% on the northern building’s northern façade along Spruce Tree Avenue.
The city code also requires a primary pedestrian entrance on street-facing facades such as Spruce Tree Avenue.
Mike Hahm, a consultant for the developer, noted that the building will already have two other entrances, making a third entrance redundant and difficult to monitor.

‘Unique circumstances’

Council Member Anika Bowie, who represents the neighborhood, said given the restaurant building’s general orientation toward the Great Lawn, as well as its sizable mural on the northern façade, “unique circumstances” made the added windows and entrance impractical.
“This plan is going to include a large scale art display, green space, and space for … small businesses,” Bowie said. “The architectural design within the Super Block is very comprehensive.”
Council President Mitra Jalali noted the extra 10% of door and window coverage would detract from the mural. The Union Park District Council had opposed the variance request pertaining to the window and door opening requirement, but supported the variance eliminating the primary pedestrian entrance on Spruce Tree Avenue.
The Board of Zoning Appeals had previously approved four other variance requests reducing the required door and window openings on the building’s southern and eastern façades, as well as on the southern restaurant building’s eastern façade.
The council voted 6-0 on Wednesday to support the developer’s appeals. Council Member Nelsie Yang is on maternity leave.

Hope someone can help.
So I was overpaid over several months by a previous employer in the last financial year. Before I left, I brought this to their attention, and after multiple recalculations as they kept getting the total overpayment wrong, we agreed on a total gross amount due. They began collecting small fractions of the gross overpayment from my subsequent gross monthly salaries (so that any excess tax/NI/deductions taken during the overpayment period would cancel out over time).
The deductions continued until I left the job recently. Before I left, I asked that they calculate the remaining overpayment in Net so I can pay out of pocket over several months. Didn’t hear back until I left, and now asking that I repay the remaining gross rather than net.
So spoke to them, after several confusions, they advised that I repay the gross and they’ll write to HMRC for a refund on any excess tax and NI. I spoke to HMRC to check that this was something HMRC could do, but they didn’t seem to understand and asked that I write them a letter with my payslips so they can investigate. This seems useless as the payslips and p45 would only show how much I was paid and not how much I should have been paid.
Considering I’m no longer an employee, sheer payroll incompetence and slowness to respond, I struggle to trust them to push HMRC for tax/NI refund if I repaid the gross.
After all this was their error in the first place, so I believe they should take on the responsibility of recuperating the tax and NI so I only pay back the Net.
If relevant, this was at a public institution.

Super long story short, I (25 F) think I might finally be losing weight, husband and I have been trying for a baby for two years with no luck. Finally got a referral to see an endocrinologist and after blood work, she wants to put me on Wegovy to lower my A1c and insulin that will help regulate my cycle and result in pregnancy. My cycles have been like 1-5 periods a year, after trying to get it for several weeks insurance has denied any and all request for any anything similar to Wegovy unless I have type 2 diabetes and need to get on ozempic. Finally having enough and being stressed, I started running again, I used to run in high school and it was such a good stress reliever. And the last 6 weeks I’m down over 10 pounds, started at 199 and down to 187 as of this morning. Trying to enjoy this really small win after yearrrrs of being stuck between 197-205lbs.

Is there a good place to hire a couple of people to help load and unload furniture when I move a few miles up the road? I can rent a truck, but my partner has a bad back so I just want a couple of folks who can put our living room, bedroom, office, and kitchen table furniture in a truck I'll rent and unload it at our new place. No packing the small stuff, drawers will be empty.
I know there are moving companies that will do this, but I would prefer to find a couple local people who need the work!

I will be buying a Shimoda action x50, for my camping "in country " needs, and general huffing it like activities.
But this will be way too massive to use in parks, zoos/museums, the beach and in the streets. On sporadic vacations/trips/daily outings in Norway and in Europe at large...
My family also agreed to do more family trips. my brother and his gf +kids, mom . Sister ND husband and kids and me , the designated picture taker
So im looking for something lighter and tighter for such occasions. (Than the x50 v2 shimoda)
My gear is: Ulanzi F38 travel tripod. Sony a6400 Sony 70-350mm Sigma 56 (Soon a ultra wide) .
Would be great to fit extra battery sd cards. Lenses. Powerbank. Cloth+lense blower thingy. Sunglasses/keys Maybe a bottle or snacks/small nicknacks*
I am almost allergic to stoping and dropping to grab my camera out of the bag, everytime i need it.. Or putting it away.
Wich is why shouldesling or belted seems appealing...
Issue i see come up here online, is ergonomics/strain. And as most older members in my family has back issues....
Some also say they aren't wearherproof/secure.
If not a "sling', then have a backpack with side access or a backpack i can snap a shoulder clip onto.
Been looking at: Shimoda E or Urban E. Think Tank Peak design.
I would greatly appreciate help finding a "everyday/family vacation-ey " bag/backpack.
Feel free to suggest anything.. All inputs and help are greatly appreciated.

First of all, I’m not sure if this is the right sub, if not, please point me in the right direction.
My wife and I have been married for almost 9 years now (hitting that milestone next week) and like all married couples, we’ve had our ups and downs - luckily mostly ups.
Some background information: my wife suffers from depression, anxiety and psychosis, on top of hyper mobility, overweight and arthritis (not what I need advice on, but might be pertinent to your judgement/advice). She has been dealing with most of this for over a decade. She’s in treatment for the mental part and I do the best I can to support her and give her space. As a result I handle most of the daily household chores and take the blunt of raising our son (the psychosis took a turn for the worse at her post partum depression, as if stuff weren’t bad enough already :/).
The actual issue I need your advice on: In the beginning of this year my wife had a small surgery, taking care of an abscess between her buttocks, a few inches from the actual butthole (sorry, English is a second language so I’m not sure if there’s a more innocent term for asshole). The abscess had been growing for a while but the surgeons got it cleaned out nicely. She was told it would heal in a few weeks (it didn’t) and we should keep the area clean.
Now, after the surgery we were both a bit apprehensive about having sex again, the fear being that we broke something, so my wife insisted I get off on my own twice a week, once we knew our son was asleep. I thought it a bit strange, but as she made it clear it was important to her, I obliged.
After a few months we tried having sex again and it went fine - no pain, no rupture, just pleasure. With this, I thought our sex life would go back to normal, but here’s the thing - she’ll still randomly insist I get off on my own, even if we had sex the day before.
I’ve tried explaining that I don’t have the need to do it that often, and if she really wants me to get off we could just have sex, but to no avail.
So, my question is, how do I handle this? Should I just lean into it and go along with her request and just take pleasure in her thinking of my pleasure? Or should I try to make her respect that I don’t need to get off that often?
Tldr: My wife wants me to get off on my own, even though our sex life is back to normal.

Quick run-down: I'm handy. Have a good knowledge base for construction and DIY. My family has 100acres of some relatively unused land in a small town that is just outside a major metropolitan area (its currently being leased to a cattle rancher for the ag-expemption). This once tiny town is now being bought-up en masse by retirees and people looking to leave the bustle of the cities. Tons and tons of new '5 acre ranch style homes' communities are popping up everywhere. Land value is sky-rocketing. So the people buying these new homes have generally deep-pockets. I have a full-sized truck, a 14ft trailer, a 24' x 10' storage container (with a door and AC) and a 30' x 30' barn to act as a defacto shop until i can expand to something more stable.
Business ideas: I've identified two markets that have little to no competition in within a 50-mile radius of this area. Lock-smithing companies. Iron/Gate companies.
Lock-smith: I have zero formal experience doing this. But I figure the start-up costs are mostly minimal. I can teach myself most of it on youtube and through trial and error. And i can do small auto/house calls out of my truck until i establish more clients. There is zero locksmiths anywhere nearby. However, the pay-scale is probably more modest with most contracts in the 3 figures, with some rarely exceeding 4 figures.
Iron/Gate Co: I have some experience welding, but i'm not proficient. But i know for a fact that every single one of these new 'suburban ranch' homes is going to have a long driveway and a gate, as well as servicing existing ranch gates. So i feel like the demand is there and will keep growing. It has way more start-up cost for equipment, and will probably require employees like an experienced welder for fabrication and and proficient installer. but each contract will be at minimum 4 figures and getting into 5 figures relatively easily. So the pay-scaling would be much higher.
I have a good savings, and about $60k i'd feel comfortable throwing into this. I just finished a long term contract and am looking to start my own thing. My wife brings in great money and is supportive. Told me to give it hell for a year or two and see how it goes.
Just looking for general advice, pitfalls, thoughts, comments, whatever! I've been going back and forth in my head for days and just looking for any feedback.
thanks!

Hello all. I (40M) have been married to my wife (37W) for 15 years but she recently gained a degree in psychiatry and now has her own practice. Before earning her degree she was very easy going; nothing was a big deal and we were as happy as can be together. Fast forward to the last couple years when she now has all these tools for communication and therapy and now it seems that every disagreement and every small nuance has to be discussed to see it from another perspective and my perspective is invalid. For the sake of the readers of this post I'm keeping this short, but here are some examples:
-everything ends up on her mental load. Example: me-"do we need to do xxx?" her-"you asking that puts it on my mental load. Is that something that needs to be asked?" (note that I have never said that to her and always provide her with an answer)
-my issues are my problems. We had an open marriage years ago and she decided to go to a hotel for a one night stand one night and told me that she was stuck working at the hospital waiting for a replacement worker, all while I couldn't sleep because I was concerned about her being out in a bad storm. It took me a couple years to get over the blatant lie, but a recent night out had me worried and I regressed back to that night. I got so uncomfortable that I asked if it were okay that we put on some GPS tracking on her phone so I know where she is late at night. Her response is that "it's been 8 years since then. You need to work through your emotions"
-she also tells me that I should be thankful that she wears gloves when she's working with me. I didn't think much of it, but my therapist said that is a veiled insult?
I guess I'm just wondering if a majority of therapists/psychiatrists behave this way with their spouse? I eventually had enough of the constant therapy and told her that it was all too much for me and that I was done. At this point, I intend to pursue discernment therapy to find the next steps. Does this sound like a normal therapist/psychiatrist marriage?
I value any and all input and am open to hearing if I'm definitely the asshole on this situation. Thank you.

https://pcpartpicker.com/list/mgHdQP
My budget is around $800 but I could go a little higher if I needed to, just hoping to buy parts on sale the next few months.
I am not a super pro gamer, I just need something better than my ASUS zenbook for multitasking, gaming, streaming, art programs, etc.
For now I'm thinking microATX (bc small desk space and cheaper) and ryzen 5 7600XT. I'm just a bit confused with the GPU and what's the best bang for my buck. I'm not particular about colors or RGB since this will be under my desk anyways.
Please be gentle with me, I only started learning about PC's 2 weeks ago! I'm still learning about specs. Thanks!
edit to add: my current monitor is 24in and only runs up to 1080p so i could probably go lower on the gpu. I intend to upgrade parts in the future though (...idk how that will work if I jump up to an ATX build but that's a problem for future me)

I have a female adult leapord gecko in a pretty small tank (I wakt to get a bigger one I just meed to find room and money) and I've had her on repto carpets sence we've had her, we were told that samd would be really back and bark mixes look really sharp for such a softbellyed lizard. So what works best/is the safest and is still easy to clean?

Hi all, Kansas resident here. This is a bit of a story, so here we go.
In February 2022, my engine crapped out in my Jeep. Nobody around would touch the 6.1L, and any who would were months out. I ended up calling the shop who worked on it before I bought it, and the owner said he could have it rebuilt in a couple of weeks. Obviously, that's very optimistic, but oh well. It was over there until June, at least. Myself, as well as my personal mechanic(the shop that took the block out and delivered to the shady mechanic in question), had made many attempts at contact, and were either ignored, or given the 'next week' run-around.
In August 2022, my mechanic gets it back, but it's not firing on all cylinders, so he trailers the Jeep over. Finally, in September or October, it comes back, running. I even told him to take the tune they had put on it off so it stays stock and lasts. This whole endeavor cost me about 8-9k. ~$6k for the installation/removal labor and replacement parts from my shop. ~$3.5k for the rebuild on the shady end.
In May 2023, it breaks a piston again. I had not cracked the engine open whatsoever, I had been exact on my engine break-in and oil changes. I had only gotten like 2 changes on it he initial 500-mile and then a 3k(synthetic too, so I was being very careful for warranty's sake). So, in June, it goes to my shop, then back to shady. It was there until October with even LESS response and even more run-around. My mechanic had even stopped by his shop, an hour away, to check on progress multiple times. In the last week of September, the lines for the shop were disconnected. A week later, I have the police at my door, saying my Jeep was found in a lot a mile away from the shop, stripped. Nobody could get a hold of him.
I ended up making a post in a local racing group, asking about his whereabouts. Had a person close to him make a veiled threating response, supposedly coming from him, but he wasn't commenting. In the first week of November, upon going to get my remaining belongings from the vehicle, I decided to stop by his shop and get my key, for insurance. Upon going to the shop, he threatened and assaulted me, I had my camera on in my pocket, so it didn't catch the assault, but I was mostly there for audio. I was very polite and he came right at me. I did pull out my phone and get his face in the video, however, and the audio is clear. He didn't even give me my key, for SOME reason.
I immediately got out of the vicinity and called the police and filed a report. I've been waiting for that case to go somewhere before I start a lawsuit, but the police have done absolutely nothing. Car was totaled and I received a good payout, so that part is taken care of. However, my insurance company still hasn't been able to get my deductible back.
So, with the backstory, here is where I'm at:
Kansas small claims has a maximum of $4k. That covers the amount directly paid to him. That would be the 'easiest' way, but I'm still out a LOAD of money here. I had to refinance the Jeep for the repair, and I paid for insurance, tags, and payments on a vehicle I couldn't even drive and ended up seeing NOTHING out of it. Getting a lawyer is also tough, because the situation he put us in hasn't really helped our financial situation. On his end alone, I'm out 3.5k. Because of the whole situation, I'm out well over 10k, with nothing to show.
What kind of case do I have to sue for the full amount? Should I just go small claims and get it over with? I appreciate ANY advice you can give me.

Quick run-down: I'm handy. Have a good knowledge base for construction and DIY. My family has 100acres of some relatively unused land in a small town that is just outside a major metropolitan area (its currently being leased to a cattle rancher for the ag-expemption). This once tiny town is now being bought-up en masse by retirees and people looking to leave the bustle of the cities. Tons and tons of new '5 acre ranch style homes' communities are popping up everywhere. Land value is sky-rocketing. So the people buying these new homes have generally deep-pockets. I have a full-sized truck, a 14ft trailer, a 24' x 10' storage container (with a door and AC) and a 30' x 30' barn to act as a defacto shop until i can expand to something more stable.
Business ideas: I've identified two markets that have little to no competition in within a 50-mile radius of this area. Lock-smithing companies. Iron/Gate companies.
Lock-smith: I have zero formal experience doing this. But I figure the start-up costs are mostly minimal. I can teach myself most of it on youtube and through trial and error. And i can do small auto/house calls out of my truck until i establish more clients. There is zero locksmiths anywhere nearby. However, the pay-scale is probably more modest with most contracts in the 3 figures, with some rarely exceeding 4 figures.
Iron/Gate Co: I have some experience welding, but i'm not proficient. But i know for a fact that every single one of these new 'suburban ranch' homes is going to have a long driveway and a gate, as well as servicing existing ranch gates. So i feel like the demand is there and will keep growing. It has way more start-up cost for equipment, and will probably require employees like an experienced welder for fabrication and and proficient installer. but each contract will be at minimum 4 figures and getting into 5 figures relatively easily. So the pay-scaling would be much higher.
I have a good savings, and about $60k i'd feel comfortable throwing into this. I just finished a long term contract and am looking to start my own thing. My wife brings in great money and is supportive. Told me to give it hell for a year or two and see how it goes.
Just looking for general advice, pitfalls, thoughts, comments, whatever! I've been going back and forth in my head for days and just looking for any feedback.
thanks!

Just found this group and first time reddit poster! I was prescribed Singulair back in January of 2020 to help with allergy symptoms. The day after I started this pill, my intense non-stop headache, dizziness, and light/sound sensitivity started. I stopped taking Singulair right away.
I have been a regular migraine sufferer ever since, usually controlled with Nortriptyline, but have been trying to lower my doses before trying to get pregnant next year.
Does anyone else have experience with Singulair like this? My first neurologist dismissed that as the cause, but my new neuro says it could have been the cause.

Hello everyone
I am male, 30 yo. I feel pain in my lower legs when I run or sprint, it comes faster on harder sprints, I usually push through the pain for few minutes, then it goes away and I continue running whitout anymore pain.
I though it was because I dont do proper warm up or stretchs.
Yesterday, it happened as usual, in both legs, but it was more painful and didnt ease away, especially on my left leg, i took a break as it eases the pain. While sitting I notices this bump, which I noticed before, but just then I thought that the pain and the bump might be connected, because I have pain on both legs and bumps also on both legs, same pain and same bumps on the exact same spot, only for the left leg the pain was more and the bump was bigger.
I noticed also that the pump disappears when I left my foot of the ground, and comes back when I put weight on it. Also it disappears when I pull my toes up (contracting the muscles on the front, opposite of the calves).
The bump got bigger with pain, and small when the pain goes away, but its there. The bumps are on the outer side of the legs.
The pain starts when running, then any movement of the foot causes pain, a few minutes of rest make the pain goes away. Then I can walk normally pain free, until the next time I run.
I saw a doctor, he said it shin splints, took an xray, nothing wrong with the bones. Told me to take it easy and start from zero, as in walking for 5 minutes, the 10 or so.
I workout 4 days a week, but no cardio other than playing padel. And I dont play regularly.
So it might be caused by too much too quick?!
Are the bump and the pain related? are they caused by one another? And how can I make it go away?

Let's explain the situation from the beginning. We are a group of 6 friends and little by little our friendship has deteriorated. I sent him a WhatsApp explaining that I would not take any more trips with him until his attitude changed. Now my friends are telling me to forgive him since we have a trip for the summer.
When we were 17 we always met up to get drunk and smoke. But years have passed and I'm turning 21. And I'm getting tired of this environment.
I think the turning point was when I bought my car on my own (when I was just 19 years old), I was working for months and once I bought it it was wonderful, everyone was super excited until the problems started to occur. Many responsibilities fell on me, organizing plans, taking home, always doing the shopping.
I mainly had a problem with a friend, let's call him House. House was always my closest friend and I knew him from school, in high school we hung out occasionally but when we created the group we became even closer.
We met every day and it was very cool, but I already realized that he sometimes had anger problems (once he broke the neighbor's air conditioning because they stood him up) as well as a childish attitude of always being right.
A few days before I quit a job that was exploitative and I was having a hard time, I promised House that I would pick him up and take him to a nightclub (after work) that is 4 km from his house (5 km from mine). . But I quit so I was happy to be able to drink and have a good time, until he reminded me of the "promise". By that time he had already resigned 1 week ago and we already bought the tickets 2 weeks ago. He didn't say anything to me until we were at the party and he made a passive-aggressive comment at me. I feel bad and I manipulate the rest so that they say that I had to keep my promise... Well, it's not that big of a deal but it was a wake-up call for me.
I had some friction with him, such as him falsely accusing me that he was stealing gas money from him after a trip for wanting to "overcharge him", something totally false. Or one time he got drunk and was on the beach on my birthday yelling at me and another friend to give him the bottle we were all drinking, we refused because he was 3 steps away and if he had wanted to be with us he could, Then he became aggressive and confronted me a few centimeters away, I pushed him and threatened to hit me. Afterwards we "reconciled" but I already mistrusted in a certain way because of what he had shown me.
His parents divorce, he starts drinking every day, he is dissatisfied with the studies he chose himself, no one forced him and he chose a higher degree with no way out because he was funny in front of others. He hasn't gotten his driver's license, he's not progressing in life, and so the months go by.
In my town there is a party and it is like the party that the entire region comes, including people, we are talking about tens of thousands of young people partying, well House meets us but informs us that first he should have a few beers with his friends, proceed not to be separated from them all day. The worst thing was that every time we told him to do something he followed them from one place to another like a dog, until I understood what was happening, he was with them all the time because they were taking cocaine. That disgusted me a lot since he knows that I don't like that and that if he had stayed with those friends of his I wouldn't have cared, but he had stayed with us.
A week later he organized a plan, as I always do, to go have a barbecue in the mountains, a beautiful place where House tells me that he has no money, I invite him to eat with another friend. When we arrive I see that we have forgotten the meat, so I have to call my aunt who lives 20 minutes away to go get it. I did the shopping alone, in the end I went down alone with my aunt, I bought them beer since House and another stayed upstairs drinking. When I arrive they criticize the meat I bought, I forgot to buy bread, and they criticize the coals I bought since they were very "small", in the end we cooked everything even on meat.
After 2 weeks I plan to go fishing, and that's when House openly tells me that the barbecue was "fucking shit", which seemed like very strong words to me. Mainly when they come from a person who has never driven to take me (he doesn't have a license...), I don't buy the meat, I don't cook and worse still he didn't even thank me for having invited him to eat, he has pay from his parents, they are officials. My parents are immigrants and I have earned my money by working. After that he reproaches me saying that since I am studying and he is "working", he is practicing sports. HE DOESN'T EVEN HAVE A FULL TIME!! Which is my obligation since I am freer than him, he doesn't know that lately I have been studying 9 hours a day, super stressed and bad. After that discussion, I didn't speak to him the entire trip back.
I don't want to see him, it's as if he had clicked on me * and no matter how much forgiveness he asks me and they tell me that "it was just a few words", it doesn't seem that way to me.
What do you think is pride or should I forgive him for the good of the group?

Like the title says, my (50f) significant other (44m) is currently living out if his car or with friends. We've been together 6 months and in the beginning, I had no idea about his living situation. He had recently left a live-in handyman type of position at a large rural compound to be closer to this side of the island where his sister lives. He stayed with her some, friends some, while I assumed he was looking for a place. His work is freelance; he's a skilled boat builder and repairman but takes minimal work. He could easily make a steady income with it if he'd manage his time well but has trouble getting along with authority and committing to schedules. The longer I'm with him, I suspect definitely suspect neurodivergence or some type of mental issue. But, he's fun, we get along, he's attractive and generally compatible with me. Problem is, I don't see how he's going to resolve his living situation. As we've gotten closer, he does sleepovers at my house sometimes. He's a stellar guest, cooks, cleans, buys things for the home, everything. BUT, the closer we get, the more he pressures me to let him stay like every night. If I don't offer, he gets verbally abusive calling me selfish and other worse names. I am a mom of 3 kids ages 22, 18, and 11 and they all live with me (oldest moving out to law school this summer). I just can't "move a guy in" like that, though they can tolerate him at times....and that's exactly what it feels like: tolerance. It's a small community and they're hip to the fact that he's currently without a home. AITAH for expecting him to figure out his own place to stay on the days he's not with me? I need my time and space. I told him no matter who he was or how much money a guy has, I'm in no way ready to live with someone full time. He says I'm heartless. But back when he was getting to know me, he hid all his frustration and acted just fine. Now I walk on eggshells to even call him during the day because it's usually going to turn into a drama/argument/guilt trip about where he's sleeping that night.