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2008.05.26 23:51 Freebies! :-)
We love free stuff! Free pointless fun stuff, free shirts, free food, free stickers, free events, free magazines, and anything else free. As long as it's 100% free, it belongs here. ----- https://sh.itjust.works/c/freebies
2012.02.15 22:59 Semen-Thrower eFreebies! :-)
We love links to digital freebies. Free pointless fun stuff, free iOS and Android apps, free games, music, video, eBooks, software, and anything else free. If it's a temporarily 100%-free giveaway with no purchases of anything needed, it belongs here!
2011.08.01 05:07 Exponential Mid-Century Modern - Architecture, Furniture, Art, & Culture
2024.05.16 21:08 MoonArt13 [FOR HIRE] Wordpress Website Developer [SSL certificate + LEMP stack] - $180
Hello! I'm a Wordpress web developer trying to build up my portfolio and would love to take care of a couple of website requests :)
The base package is a landing page + up to 3 pages like About Us / Services / Contact / Testimonials / Products etc. Anything beyond that we can discuss.
I will be providing an SSL certificate and for the LEMP stack I will be using Linux Ubuntu + Nginx + MariaDB + PHP.
You can either provide your own domain and hosting or I can set those up for you from scratch if you prefer so.
Feel free to message me if you have any questions!
Here's some website samples/mockups.
submitted by MoonArt13 to DoneDirtCheap [link] [comments]
The base package is a landing page + up to 3 pages like About Us / Services / Contact / Testimonials / Products etc. Anything beyond that we can discuss.
I will be providing an SSL certificate and for the LEMP stack I will be using Linux Ubuntu + Nginx + MariaDB + PHP.
You can either provide your own domain and hosting or I can set those up for you from scratch if you prefer so.
Feel free to message me if you have any questions!
Here's some website samples/mockups.
2024.05.16 21:08 AffectionateElk1480 My mom threatened to cut me out because I want to move in with my boyfriend and his family
I need help. Background: I (22 F) and my boyfriend (23M) have been dating for 5 years. He just graduated grad school and I am still in college wanting to go to medical school. I have not lived with my parents since I was 18 and he has been able to live with his parents because he has a great relationship with them. I have a great relationship with his family. My relationship with my family is very rocky, especially with my sister, but this is the first time my mother has threatened to cut me out. Recently he spoke with his mother about moving out to live with me, and she gave the idea that we should save our money and I could move in with them in their house. (He hates the idea of renting because of how expensive it is and how you lose money, he likes the idea of buying a house instead and having an investment.) I also loved this idea of living with his family, they have a very stable lifestyle, dinner every night, rent would be free, free laundry, a clean house, and I get to live with my amazing boyfriend. I went to my parents about this idea and my mother threatened to disown me, saying I was picking his family over mine, how to build a relationship I needed to financially struggle with him, how I would be living middle class and I would be influenced by his family constantly. Also a lot of mean words about their view on my relationship. Another background needed, all of my friends and my boyfriend hate my mother and how emotionally manipulative she is, so he doesn't come around my family for that very reason. They don't mind me living with him, they think it's a great idea but they hate the idea of me moving in with his family (they said if I was married it would be a different story.)
I want to move in with his family, but I am scared of how my mother is going to react, I don't want to break up my family when I just want to live with my boyfriend and not spend money on rent and food. Everyone is telling me to do what I want, but I am so scared.
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I want to move in with his family, but I am scared of how my mother is going to react, I don't want to break up my family when I just want to live with my boyfriend and not spend money on rent and food. Everyone is telling me to do what I want, but I am so scared.
2024.05.16 21:05 NefariousnessAny3310 One of my rentoids painted this wonderful portrait of my dear LandStacy free of charge (I threatened eviction if they didn’t) She’s a little on the skinny side but I love her as she is❤️💕
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2024.05.16 21:05 Main-Ad-5922 Looking for Roommates!
Hey there! 🌟
I'm a (m)24-year-old, looking for a roommate as I plan to move from Massachusetts to Providence in the next few months!(:
I've found some awesome 2-bedroom apartments in the $1,000-$1,400 range, which means we'd split the rent 50/50. It would only be around $500-$700 each per month!
If you're interested in learning more about each other and potentially teaming up to find our perfect home, feel free to send me a private message. I'd love to chat with you!
By the way, if you know any other subreddits that might be a better fit for posting this ad, please let me know in the comments. I appreciate you taking the time to read this! 😄
submitted by Main-Ad-5922 to RhodeIsland [link] [comments]
I'm a (m)24-year-old, looking for a roommate as I plan to move from Massachusetts to Providence in the next few months!(:
I've found some awesome 2-bedroom apartments in the $1,000-$1,400 range, which means we'd split the rent 50/50. It would only be around $500-$700 each per month!
If you're interested in learning more about each other and potentially teaming up to find our perfect home, feel free to send me a private message. I'd love to chat with you!
By the way, if you know any other subreddits that might be a better fit for posting this ad, please let me know in the comments. I appreciate you taking the time to read this! 😄
2024.05.16 21:05 Alexa__was__here Gardener
I met a traveller from an bountiful land,
Who said—“Two vast, green, and great forests
Stand out from the Plain. . . . Near them, on the ancient rocks,
Half standing a shattered memorial lies, whose writing,
And imperfect print, and mastery of defiance,
Tell that its sculptor well those passions read
Which yet survive, stamped on these immortal things,
The hand that mended them, and the heart that loved;
And on the rock, these words appear:
My name matters not, for I am but a gardener;
Look on my small saplings, ye children, and be free!
Nothing beside remains. Round the cracks
Of that colossal stone, but for the vines that erase it
The two forests stretch far away.
-Hopscotch
P.S. Quite obviously heavily inspired by Ozymandias.
submitted by Alexa__was__here to OCPoetryFree [link] [comments]
Who said—“Two vast, green, and great forests
Stand out from the Plain. . . . Near them, on the ancient rocks,
Half standing a shattered memorial lies, whose writing,
And imperfect print, and mastery of defiance,
Tell that its sculptor well those passions read
Which yet survive, stamped on these immortal things,
The hand that mended them, and the heart that loved;
And on the rock, these words appear:
My name matters not, for I am but a gardener;
Look on my small saplings, ye children, and be free!
Nothing beside remains. Round the cracks
Of that colossal stone, but for the vines that erase it
The two forests stretch far away.
-Hopscotch
P.S. Quite obviously heavily inspired by Ozymandias.
2024.05.16 21:04 Main-Ad-5922 In Search of Roomate!
Hey there! 🌟
I'm a (m)24-year-old, looking for a roommate as I plan to move from Massachusetts to Providence in the next few months!(:
I've found some awesome 2-bedroom apartments in the $1,000-$1,400 range, which means we'd split the rent 50/50. It would only be around $500-$700 each per month!
If you're interested in learning more about each other and potentially teaming up to find our perfect home, feel free to send me a private message. I'd love to chat with you!
By the way, if you know any other subreddits that might be a better fit for posting this ad, please let me know in the comments. I appreciate you taking the time to read this! 😄
submitted by Main-Ad-5922 to providence [link] [comments]
I'm a (m)24-year-old, looking for a roommate as I plan to move from Massachusetts to Providence in the next few months!(:
I've found some awesome 2-bedroom apartments in the $1,000-$1,400 range, which means we'd split the rent 50/50. It would only be around $500-$700 each per month!
If you're interested in learning more about each other and potentially teaming up to find our perfect home, feel free to send me a private message. I'd love to chat with you!
By the way, if you know any other subreddits that might be a better fit for posting this ad, please let me know in the comments. I appreciate you taking the time to read this! 😄
2024.05.16 21:04 memerminecraft Cynthia Larive Encampment Email Text
Office of the Chancellor May 16, 2024 Dear Campus Community,
Our campus has a long history of effectively balancing our mission of teaching, learning, and conducting research with the rights of free expression as seen through rallies, marches, and other demonstrations. All these activities can and do occur regularly at UC Santa Cruz.
We share in the profound grief and concern for the individuals and families who are being impacted by the staggering loss of life in Gaza and by the fate of the hostages still being held by Hamas. There is immense suffering by children, families, and other civilians. We continue to express our grief for the victims of violence and displacement. We also understand that many in our community feel a deep need to do all that they can, in their own spheres of influence, to halt that violence. We respect that intention. We are, however, a large and diverse community, and we have obligations to our fellow community members and the responsibility to support the rights of everyone in our community to access all aspects of their work and education.
On May 1, a group of students created an unlawful tent encampment in Quarry Plaza. Our response has been to prioritize and support the safety of the students in the encampment and everyone else in our campus community. The campus fire marshal inspects the encampment area daily, and we have appreciated that the student demonstrators have acted to address some of the safety concerns, such as keeping staircases unobstructed.
Still, the existence of the encampment is a violation of law and university policy, has ongoing safety hazards, and has impacted our community in various ways. Our campus store has been forced to close as well as several campus food options, our resource centers are providing services from alternate locations, and a number of events have been postponed or canceled, much to the disappointment of both organizers and those planning to attend. A number of employees and others who work on campus have had their work schedules disrupted. Last week, we also experienced three dining hall disruptions. Disrupting dining halls prevents students who rely on meal plans from accessing food, an outcome that is the opposite of the action's stated goals, but the actual outcome nonetheless. These disruptions reflect a lack of respect, even if unintentional, for many in the community who are trying to do their job and simply trying to serve the campus community.
Campus leaders met with students from the encampment throughout last week to see if we could reach a mutually agreeable resolution that would include the voluntary disbanding of the encampment. We were largely quiet during that time, mostly posting safety updates on the status website to respect the intentionality and earnestness of those discussions. We remained optimistic throughout those discussions. Unfortunately, student representatives rejected the proposal that campus leadership put forward Friday, then posted on social media that our discussions were over. We remain ready to resume our dialogue with student representatives, and the ideas that we put forth remain on the table. We have communicated that with the student representatives. We believe the student representatives saw in our discussions last week that our approach was both earnest and in good faith.
Yesterday, our campus community faced additional disruption. Students blocked Hagar Drive throughout the afternoon and evening, while another group disrupted several classes. These actions are not protected speech and violate the student code of conduct. This escalation of disruption was unprompted by any action by campus administration. The continued presence of the unlawful encampment itself is causing unease for many in our community, because of the loss of access to campus resources and the messaging that has been displayed or chanted at the Quarry Plaza encampment.
We continue to call for the unlawful encampment to voluntarily disband.
We are ardent defenders of free speech and of the right of our community members to express themselves within the rights and protections of the First Amendment. As an academic institution, we encourage and depend on the robust exchange of ideas. We also strive to maintain a campus environment that is welcoming, open, civil, and mutually respectful of everyone and their views. This means speaking out against speech that deeply harms our community. This balance–and responsibility–is something all of us must take seriously. Over the past two weeks, we have seen appalling antisemitic and anti-Israeli messages and graffiti at or near the encampment. These expressions of hate, like all expressions of hate, are despicable, damaging, and have no place in our community. Our campus has a webpage with support and reporting resources for students and employees.
Our campus is special because of the remarkable students, faculty, and staff who make up our community. It is a place of learning and robust discussion. As a publicly funded university, it is also a place of laws, rules, and policies that govern the education that our students receive and the work we do. We expect everyone to uphold their responsibilities as members of this community.
Sincerely,
Cindy and Lori
Cynthia Larive Chancellor
Lori Kletzer Campus Provost and Executive Vice Chancellor
submitted by memerminecraft to UCSC [link] [comments]
Our campus has a long history of effectively balancing our mission of teaching, learning, and conducting research with the rights of free expression as seen through rallies, marches, and other demonstrations. All these activities can and do occur regularly at UC Santa Cruz.
We share in the profound grief and concern for the individuals and families who are being impacted by the staggering loss of life in Gaza and by the fate of the hostages still being held by Hamas. There is immense suffering by children, families, and other civilians. We continue to express our grief for the victims of violence and displacement. We also understand that many in our community feel a deep need to do all that they can, in their own spheres of influence, to halt that violence. We respect that intention. We are, however, a large and diverse community, and we have obligations to our fellow community members and the responsibility to support the rights of everyone in our community to access all aspects of their work and education.
On May 1, a group of students created an unlawful tent encampment in Quarry Plaza. Our response has been to prioritize and support the safety of the students in the encampment and everyone else in our campus community. The campus fire marshal inspects the encampment area daily, and we have appreciated that the student demonstrators have acted to address some of the safety concerns, such as keeping staircases unobstructed.
Still, the existence of the encampment is a violation of law and university policy, has ongoing safety hazards, and has impacted our community in various ways. Our campus store has been forced to close as well as several campus food options, our resource centers are providing services from alternate locations, and a number of events have been postponed or canceled, much to the disappointment of both organizers and those planning to attend. A number of employees and others who work on campus have had their work schedules disrupted. Last week, we also experienced three dining hall disruptions. Disrupting dining halls prevents students who rely on meal plans from accessing food, an outcome that is the opposite of the action's stated goals, but the actual outcome nonetheless. These disruptions reflect a lack of respect, even if unintentional, for many in the community who are trying to do their job and simply trying to serve the campus community.
Campus leaders met with students from the encampment throughout last week to see if we could reach a mutually agreeable resolution that would include the voluntary disbanding of the encampment. We were largely quiet during that time, mostly posting safety updates on the status website to respect the intentionality and earnestness of those discussions. We remained optimistic throughout those discussions. Unfortunately, student representatives rejected the proposal that campus leadership put forward Friday, then posted on social media that our discussions were over. We remain ready to resume our dialogue with student representatives, and the ideas that we put forth remain on the table. We have communicated that with the student representatives. We believe the student representatives saw in our discussions last week that our approach was both earnest and in good faith.
Yesterday, our campus community faced additional disruption. Students blocked Hagar Drive throughout the afternoon and evening, while another group disrupted several classes. These actions are not protected speech and violate the student code of conduct. This escalation of disruption was unprompted by any action by campus administration. The continued presence of the unlawful encampment itself is causing unease for many in our community, because of the loss of access to campus resources and the messaging that has been displayed or chanted at the Quarry Plaza encampment.
We continue to call for the unlawful encampment to voluntarily disband.
We are ardent defenders of free speech and of the right of our community members to express themselves within the rights and protections of the First Amendment. As an academic institution, we encourage and depend on the robust exchange of ideas. We also strive to maintain a campus environment that is welcoming, open, civil, and mutually respectful of everyone and their views. This means speaking out against speech that deeply harms our community. This balance–and responsibility–is something all of us must take seriously. Over the past two weeks, we have seen appalling antisemitic and anti-Israeli messages and graffiti at or near the encampment. These expressions of hate, like all expressions of hate, are despicable, damaging, and have no place in our community. Our campus has a webpage with support and reporting resources for students and employees.
Our campus is special because of the remarkable students, faculty, and staff who make up our community. It is a place of learning and robust discussion. As a publicly funded university, it is also a place of laws, rules, and policies that govern the education that our students receive and the work we do. We expect everyone to uphold their responsibilities as members of this community.
Sincerely,
Cindy and Lori
Cynthia Larive Chancellor
Lori Kletzer Campus Provost and Executive Vice Chancellor
2024.05.16 21:03 NorthbyFjord 26[M4F] UK/Anywhere – Looking for the one
Hei, hi and hello!
I’m Onsie Onsfjord or Fjord feel free to call me whichever is not mind to me.
I’m a 26-year-old English Norwegian who’s mainly lived his whole life in the United Kingdom and graduated from university with a degree in Computer Networks and is now working as a DIE for the NHS (Digital Infrastructure Engineer).
Caught you off guard with that job title acronym huh? Yeah, trust me when I first started it had me in fits of laughter, but you get used to it after a while.
So a bit about me; - I’m an introvert and tend to avoid public crowds, events and such and just try to vibe with friends on a nice game of anything (which you’ll see below) - I’m an avid IT nerd and will most likely remain this way for my whole career as IT is my education and career at this point - On top of IT you guessed it I’m also a very big avid “gamer” I mainly play PC and PS5 games with my current interests being in Helldivers 2, Star Wars: The Fallen Order, and Jedi: Survivor amongst a few other things like WoW, CoD, SWTOR and so on. - I love learning, whether it be history, game lore, languages, cultures, etc. You name it, and I’ll probably be interested in it (Trust me, you give me a flag of any country, and I’ll be able to tell you the country’s name and political structure. - I’m also an avid book reader and you’ll most likely see my shelf full of different manga from all types of genres, I don’t particularly watch anime, I mainly read instead because I find it more “interesting” for better or not. (Not that I'm opposed to watching it) - I’m trying to learn to cook myself but not very good at it as my most recent attempt I ended up giving myself food poisoning so it’s sufficient to say you will have a big gamble if you’d like me to cook ha-ha. - I do watch football from time to time and do support a few clubs from around the world (mainly northern Europe, the UK, and the US) feel free to guess if you’d like! - I’m currently on a VLCD and have lost about 2 stone within 1 month which I’m super super happy about.
In terms of looks and such I’m what an average 26-year-old would look like who is 6’1/6’2 with a picture on request.
Please don’t judge too much as I’m still working on improving myself.
What am I about? I’ve always made it a goal to help, care for, and support those close to me, whether it be friends, old friends, or the equivalent of my family. They’ve been there for me, and I’ll go hell and back for them as they’ve stood by me through thick and thin, even through the loss of other close friends; they’ve picked me up and brushed me down and set me straight to which I will always forever be in their debt and have helped them being.
Whilst I’ve been shot and backstabbed by many of those who I thought were close to me I just try and see the positive and avoid the unnecessary drama and arguments as life is just way too generally short for that kind of stuff and we should all get along with each other in my mind.
What am I looking for? I apologize if this comes off as really picky - Someone in the realm of the US, Canada or Europe - Someone between the age of 20 to 28 years old - Someone who has an interest in IT, manga, gaming, and such (It’s easier to talk to people with the same interest I’ve found though you don’t need to work in IT at all) - Just be a kind honest individual who I can back and vice versa. Be there for each other.
I am looking for a monogamous and serious relationship and not a friendship, however, I’m fine with starting out as friends whilst getting to know each other etc.
The end? Well, I’d like to say that this was the short and sweet version of myself without giving much more away about me but hey hopefully you’ve stayed this far and if you have, I have a very small simple request for you!
If you do decide I’m someone you’d like to get to know and all of that stuff then when messaging me, please make a somewhat attempt of an introduction (I’m not asking for the mass of paragraphs or anything) just a hi, your name (doesn’t have to be your real name), where you’re from, how old are you, what you do, hobbies, etc and we’ll go from there!
Low-effort chats & messages will be removed also, so I know that you’ve made it this far please put your answers to this question (wrong answers don’t matter, it’s what is attempted counts)
“I was born in the winter on a remembrance day, which day was this?”
Take care and hope to see your message 😊
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I’m Onsie Onsfjord or Fjord feel free to call me whichever is not mind to me.
I’m a 26-year-old English Norwegian who’s mainly lived his whole life in the United Kingdom and graduated from university with a degree in Computer Networks and is now working as a DIE for the NHS (Digital Infrastructure Engineer).
Caught you off guard with that job title acronym huh? Yeah, trust me when I first started it had me in fits of laughter, but you get used to it after a while.
So a bit about me; - I’m an introvert and tend to avoid public crowds, events and such and just try to vibe with friends on a nice game of anything (which you’ll see below) - I’m an avid IT nerd and will most likely remain this way for my whole career as IT is my education and career at this point - On top of IT you guessed it I’m also a very big avid “gamer” I mainly play PC and PS5 games with my current interests being in Helldivers 2, Star Wars: The Fallen Order, and Jedi: Survivor amongst a few other things like WoW, CoD, SWTOR and so on. - I love learning, whether it be history, game lore, languages, cultures, etc. You name it, and I’ll probably be interested in it (Trust me, you give me a flag of any country, and I’ll be able to tell you the country’s name and political structure. - I’m also an avid book reader and you’ll most likely see my shelf full of different manga from all types of genres, I don’t particularly watch anime, I mainly read instead because I find it more “interesting” for better or not. (Not that I'm opposed to watching it) - I’m trying to learn to cook myself but not very good at it as my most recent attempt I ended up giving myself food poisoning so it’s sufficient to say you will have a big gamble if you’d like me to cook ha-ha. - I do watch football from time to time and do support a few clubs from around the world (mainly northern Europe, the UK, and the US) feel free to guess if you’d like! - I’m currently on a VLCD and have lost about 2 stone within 1 month which I’m super super happy about.
In terms of looks and such I’m what an average 26-year-old would look like who is 6’1/6’2 with a picture on request.
Please don’t judge too much as I’m still working on improving myself.
What am I about? I’ve always made it a goal to help, care for, and support those close to me, whether it be friends, old friends, or the equivalent of my family. They’ve been there for me, and I’ll go hell and back for them as they’ve stood by me through thick and thin, even through the loss of other close friends; they’ve picked me up and brushed me down and set me straight to which I will always forever be in their debt and have helped them being.
Whilst I’ve been shot and backstabbed by many of those who I thought were close to me I just try and see the positive and avoid the unnecessary drama and arguments as life is just way too generally short for that kind of stuff and we should all get along with each other in my mind.
What am I looking for? I apologize if this comes off as really picky - Someone in the realm of the US, Canada or Europe - Someone between the age of 20 to 28 years old - Someone who has an interest in IT, manga, gaming, and such (It’s easier to talk to people with the same interest I’ve found though you don’t need to work in IT at all) - Just be a kind honest individual who I can back and vice versa. Be there for each other.
I am looking for a monogamous and serious relationship and not a friendship, however, I’m fine with starting out as friends whilst getting to know each other etc.
The end? Well, I’d like to say that this was the short and sweet version of myself without giving much more away about me but hey hopefully you’ve stayed this far and if you have, I have a very small simple request for you!
If you do decide I’m someone you’d like to get to know and all of that stuff then when messaging me, please make a somewhat attempt of an introduction (I’m not asking for the mass of paragraphs or anything) just a hi, your name (doesn’t have to be your real name), where you’re from, how old are you, what you do, hobbies, etc and we’ll go from there!
Low-effort chats & messages will be removed also, so I know that you’ve made it this far please put your answers to this question (wrong answers don’t matter, it’s what is attempted counts)
“I was born in the winter on a remembrance day, which day was this?”
Take care and hope to see your message 😊
2024.05.16 21:03 NorthbyFjord 26[M4F] UK/Anywhere – Looking for the one
Hei, hi and hello!
I’m Onsie Onsfjord or Fjord feel free to call me whichever is not mind to me.
I’m a 26-year-old English Norwegian who’s mainly lived his whole life in the United Kingdom and graduated from university with a degree in Computer Networks and is now working as a DIE for the NHS (Digital Infrastructure Engineer).
Caught you off guard with that job title acronym huh? Yeah, trust me when I first started it had me in fits of laughter, but you get used to it after a while.
So a bit about me; - I’m an introvert and tend to avoid public crowds, events and such and just try to vibe with friends on a nice game of anything (which you’ll see below) - I’m an avid IT nerd and will most likely remain this way for my whole career as IT is my education and career at this point - On top of IT you guessed it I’m also a very big avid “gamer” I mainly play PC and PS5 games with my current interests being in Helldivers 2, Star Wars: The Fallen Order, and Jedi: Survivor amongst a few other things like WoW, CoD, SWTOR and so on. - I love learning, whether it be history, game lore, languages, cultures, etc. You name it, and I’ll probably be interested in it (Trust me, you give me a flag of any country, and I’ll be able to tell you the country’s name and political structure. - I’m also an avid book reader and you’ll most likely see my shelf full of different manga from all types of genres, I don’t particularly watch anime, I mainly read instead because I find it more “interesting” for better or not. (Not that I'm opposed to watching it) - I’m trying to learn to cook myself but not very good at it as my most recent attempt I ended up giving myself food poisoning so it’s sufficient to say you will have a big gamble if you’d like me to cook ha-ha. - I do watch football from time to time and do support a few clubs from around the world (mainly northern Europe, the UK, and the US) feel free to guess if you’d like! - I’m currently on a VLCD and have lost about 2 stone within 1 month which I’m super super happy about.
In terms of looks and such I’m what an average 26-year-old would look like who is 6’1/6’2 with a picture on request.
Please don’t judge too much as I’m still working on improving myself.
What am I about? I’ve always made it a goal to help, care for, and support those close to me, whether it be friends, old friends, or the equivalent of my family. They’ve been there for me, and I’ll go hell and back for them as they’ve stood by me through thick and thin, even through the loss of other close friends; they’ve picked me up and brushed me down and set me straight to which I will always forever be in their debt and have helped them being.
Whilst I’ve been shot and backstabbed by many of those who I thought were close to me I just try and see the positive and avoid the unnecessary drama and arguments as life is just way too generally short for that kind of stuff and we should all get along with each other in my mind.
What am I looking for? I apologize if this comes off as really picky - Someone in the realm of the US, Canada or Europe - Someone between the age of 20 to 28 years old - Someone who has an interest in IT, manga, gaming, and such (It’s easier to talk to people with the same interest I’ve found though you don’t need to work in IT at all) - Just be a kind honest individual who I can back and vice versa. Be there for each other.
I am looking for a monogamous and serious relationship and not a friendship, however, I’m fine with starting out as friends whilst getting to know each other etc.
The end? Well, I’d like to say that this was the short and sweet version of myself without giving much more away about me but hey hopefully you’ve stayed this far and if you have, I have a very small simple request for you!
If you do decide I’m someone you’d like to get to know and all of that stuff then when messaging me, please make a somewhat attempt of an introduction (I’m not asking for the mass of paragraphs or anything) just a hi, your name (doesn’t have to be your real name), where you’re from, how old are you, what you do, hobbies, etc and we’ll go from there!
Low-effort chats & messages will be removed also, so I know that you’ve made it this far please put your answers to this question (wrong answers don’t matter, it’s what is attempted counts)
“I was born in the winter on a remembrance day, which day was this?”
Take care and hope to see your message 😊
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I’m Onsie Onsfjord or Fjord feel free to call me whichever is not mind to me.
I’m a 26-year-old English Norwegian who’s mainly lived his whole life in the United Kingdom and graduated from university with a degree in Computer Networks and is now working as a DIE for the NHS (Digital Infrastructure Engineer).
Caught you off guard with that job title acronym huh? Yeah, trust me when I first started it had me in fits of laughter, but you get used to it after a while.
So a bit about me; - I’m an introvert and tend to avoid public crowds, events and such and just try to vibe with friends on a nice game of anything (which you’ll see below) - I’m an avid IT nerd and will most likely remain this way for my whole career as IT is my education and career at this point - On top of IT you guessed it I’m also a very big avid “gamer” I mainly play PC and PS5 games with my current interests being in Helldivers 2, Star Wars: The Fallen Order, and Jedi: Survivor amongst a few other things like WoW, CoD, SWTOR and so on. - I love learning, whether it be history, game lore, languages, cultures, etc. You name it, and I’ll probably be interested in it (Trust me, you give me a flag of any country, and I’ll be able to tell you the country’s name and political structure. - I’m also an avid book reader and you’ll most likely see my shelf full of different manga from all types of genres, I don’t particularly watch anime, I mainly read instead because I find it more “interesting” for better or not. (Not that I'm opposed to watching it) - I’m trying to learn to cook myself but not very good at it as my most recent attempt I ended up giving myself food poisoning so it’s sufficient to say you will have a big gamble if you’d like me to cook ha-ha. - I do watch football from time to time and do support a few clubs from around the world (mainly northern Europe, the UK, and the US) feel free to guess if you’d like! - I’m currently on a VLCD and have lost about 2 stone within 1 month which I’m super super happy about.
In terms of looks and such I’m what an average 26-year-old would look like who is 6’1/6’2 with a picture on request.
Please don’t judge too much as I’m still working on improving myself.
What am I about? I’ve always made it a goal to help, care for, and support those close to me, whether it be friends, old friends, or the equivalent of my family. They’ve been there for me, and I’ll go hell and back for them as they’ve stood by me through thick and thin, even through the loss of other close friends; they’ve picked me up and brushed me down and set me straight to which I will always forever be in their debt and have helped them being.
Whilst I’ve been shot and backstabbed by many of those who I thought were close to me I just try and see the positive and avoid the unnecessary drama and arguments as life is just way too generally short for that kind of stuff and we should all get along with each other in my mind.
What am I looking for? I apologize if this comes off as really picky - Someone in the realm of the US, Canada or Europe - Someone between the age of 20 to 28 years old - Someone who has an interest in IT, manga, gaming, and such (It’s easier to talk to people with the same interest I’ve found though you don’t need to work in IT at all) - Just be a kind honest individual who I can back and vice versa. Be there for each other.
I am looking for a monogamous and serious relationship and not a friendship, however, I’m fine with starting out as friends whilst getting to know each other etc.
The end? Well, I’d like to say that this was the short and sweet version of myself without giving much more away about me but hey hopefully you’ve stayed this far and if you have, I have a very small simple request for you!
If you do decide I’m someone you’d like to get to know and all of that stuff then when messaging me, please make a somewhat attempt of an introduction (I’m not asking for the mass of paragraphs or anything) just a hi, your name (doesn’t have to be your real name), where you’re from, how old are you, what you do, hobbies, etc and we’ll go from there!
Low-effort chats & messages will be removed also, so I know that you’ve made it this far please put your answers to this question (wrong answers don’t matter, it’s what is attempted counts)
“I was born in the winter on a remembrance day, which day was this?”
Take care and hope to see your message 😊
2024.05.16 21:03 gettingthroughlyfe 26f single mom looking for online or in person friends in Texas
Hey yall single mom due to my husbands accident. Busy raising two daughters so don’t get out to make friends. Would love some new friends to talk about life and what not. Feel free to reach out if interested.
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2024.05.16 21:02 moondustercat looking for gamer and anime friends
hello, hello! i am 29 and looking for others around my age (no one under 20) and my time zone is pst
league of legends and fortnite are my main hitters right now in terms of games i play. i of course have a ton more on steam that i can list off in private.
for league, i hard main support but would love to play with any role. my rank is around platish but i really dont mind what rank you might be. im a very positive person and will never flame you or anyone else. i have fun with the game and will be laughing rather then raging at the game. of course that means i dont want to play with anyone who is toxic to other players or me. being a jerk is not cool. i am not looking for a ranked partner, just someone who likes playing norms. no arams. i do enjoy a little tft but i suck hard at that one so be warned if we play together!
for fornite, i am a leaderly type. i like choosing where to go and leading the charge. if youre the type that likes following, then we'll have a good time. im deceive and ready to pick where to go so you dont need to worry about it. i am a cheerful person and dont mind if we lose or drop and die. im here to have fun, not be angry at the game. i wouldnt say im a great shot but i have decent enough aim.
so non game things im into,
i love reading books. im heavy into romance and fantasy type books. i love hearing about books other people read no matter the type they are into. im not great at taking recommendations but if you want romance recs, i have a few.
i do enjoy myself some anime. i dont watch it daily but i do watch a decent amount. i can relate to big hitters and some side stuff. if we get comfortable with each other, i would love watching anime together even!
i love art, i paint, draw and create characters and stories. i love to see art no matter the form.
quick facts about my personality:
i am kind, cheerful, playful, playfully flirty, lightly energetic and social.
feel free to toss me a message. im a sucker for space, bees and romance if you want to catch my attention fast!
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league of legends and fortnite are my main hitters right now in terms of games i play. i of course have a ton more on steam that i can list off in private.
for league, i hard main support but would love to play with any role. my rank is around platish but i really dont mind what rank you might be. im a very positive person and will never flame you or anyone else. i have fun with the game and will be laughing rather then raging at the game. of course that means i dont want to play with anyone who is toxic to other players or me. being a jerk is not cool. i am not looking for a ranked partner, just someone who likes playing norms. no arams. i do enjoy a little tft but i suck hard at that one so be warned if we play together!
for fornite, i am a leaderly type. i like choosing where to go and leading the charge. if youre the type that likes following, then we'll have a good time. im deceive and ready to pick where to go so you dont need to worry about it. i am a cheerful person and dont mind if we lose or drop and die. im here to have fun, not be angry at the game. i wouldnt say im a great shot but i have decent enough aim.
so non game things im into,
i love reading books. im heavy into romance and fantasy type books. i love hearing about books other people read no matter the type they are into. im not great at taking recommendations but if you want romance recs, i have a few.
i do enjoy myself some anime. i dont watch it daily but i do watch a decent amount. i can relate to big hitters and some side stuff. if we get comfortable with each other, i would love watching anime together even!
i love art, i paint, draw and create characters and stories. i love to see art no matter the form.
quick facts about my personality:
i am kind, cheerful, playful, playfully flirty, lightly energetic and social.
feel free to toss me a message. im a sucker for space, bees and romance if you want to catch my attention fast!
2024.05.16 21:02 icarebear2 i don’t think i want to be here anymore
multiple content warnings, i’m sorry, this will be long, this isn’t even everything and it’s a damn book i am 19. i was 11 when i had to grow up. my parents decided to divorce after months of fighting, letting us know a week before my 12th birthday. you know, the classic divorce story. my dad moved out and my mom started dating people. it moved so fast. we moved to a different area, even though we had just moved into a new house a year earlier, leaving my childhood hometown behind. my mom was trying to pursue school so we were living on student aid and stamps. (i have 3 siblings, so there were 5 of us) i started middle school in that area and was doing pretty well off. then my mom got pretty serious with someone i’m going to call SOB, he doesn’t deserve a name. my mom and SOB were dating for two months before that thing proposed to my mom. we met him once before he was labeled our step dad. my mom sat us down and told us we’d be moving to idaho to be closer to her family. come to find out, the whole reason for going there was because SOB is an ex convict and he couldn’t leave idaho because that’s were his parole was.
we were told at the time that he was framed for kidnapping and he had a whole story crafted to back it up. being a kid and needing my mom, i didn’t ask or dig about it. so we moved to idaho. i started school there and immediately got death threats. i got called a hoe relentlessly for seemingly being pretty. eventually things calmed down and i had friends, but that place was tiny and once people have formed an opinion of you, there’s no changing it, so it was hard to get around.
SOB was awful to my younger brother. we’ll call this brother zayn. zayn has bad adhd and has always struggled with school. he’s one of the smartest people i know, but getting assignments in is not his forte. so as a result he’s never had the highest grades. SOB hated the fact that my brother wasn’t doing great and would literally stand there and scream at him to get his work done. there was one time that i was in my room and i started to hear my brother screaming so immediately i’m upstairs to help him, SOB was literally chasing my brother around our house with a damn bat screaming at him like a demon was coming out. i yelled at him to leave my brother alone and things just got darker after that. me and my brother were scum to him and he ran our house like the hunger games. my other little brother and my older sister were prized jewels, they got everything they wanted and more, and SOB would rub it in our faces. he even gave my dog away, i went days worrying about her and looking because i thought she had ran away, to find out that some other person had my dog now and i wouldn’t ever get her back.
fasting forward a little, SOB violated his parole by going on a trip that wasn’t fully approved and got put back in jail right before christmas. my mom completely threw herself into trying to get him out. me and my sister noticed that my mom hadn’t gotten a single thing to be santa for my brothers, so we scraped up the money we had to get gifts so my brothers wouldn’t lose their christmas spirit seeing that santa didn’t come when things were already so bad as it was. i love that i was able to do this for them, the smiles on their faces, i will never forget that christmas.
after a long time of having a very absent mother, she was able to get SOB out of jail. he came back even worse of a monster then when he left. he sexually assaulted my mom, committed all kinds of fraud, basically stole all of my papa’s retirement money, the list goes on. my mom decided she wanted a divorce and when he found out, he went crazy. he locked all of us out of our house and threw our things on the lawn. it rained, i lost so many things, a one of a kind paper mache venitian mask i had gotten on a trip with my dad to italy included.
it’s 2020 by now and we went on a trip to Texas, to meet the person my dad was dating. on the trip, I very much learned that she was not for my dad. but, all reasoning was in vain. my dad proposed, and we had literally just met her. so that was that my dad was engaged now and focused on trying to move them out to him and getting a new house. my mom decided at that time that she wanted to move too so we had a choice, move to my dads and go back to the area i grew up in, or go with my mom to another ranch town in idaho. i chose my dads. my brothers came with, but my sister stayed with my grandparents where we lived in idaho so she could graduate.
things were fine for a bit. my mom was dating a lot and even got engaged. then she told us about this other guy she had been seeing, who had given her a 500 mile ride home from somewhere. immediately suspicious, especially because she wouldn’t drop a name. come to find out other guy was SOB. SOB proposes to her again and she’s got two engagement rings from two different people. everyone was like, what the actual shit are you doing. my mom was in a very cooky state of mind, broke things off with the other guy, and stayed with SOB. there was a weekend in september that my cousin had something going on so my extended family and everything was all there and we decided there needed to be some kind of intervention. to keep things short, it didn’t go well. my mom ended up leaving and she told me and my sister that she didn’t want to be our mom anymore. found out through facebook a couple days later that my mom and SOB were married.
then came the everlasting fun of a custody battle. my step mom had gotten into my dads head saying he needed to take full custody. now i wasn’t the biggest fan of my mom at the time, but that didn’t mean i never wanted to see her. my parents hated each other. there were a few times in exchanges that the cops ended up being called.
for a while my dad had pretty bad anger issues. low blood sugar, overstimulation, bad smells, anything could set him off. i just so happened to have a very large target on my back so i got the brunt of everything. i wouldn’t let him yell at my brothers and this resulted in me getting the lashings, but i would do it all again if that meant protecting my brothers. he wasn’t angry all the time, there were a lot of good days, but it was definitely pretty tortuous for a while. a lot of the problem, which i knew would happen to begin with, was my step mom. she is one of the laziest people i’ve ever known, which is the complete opposite of my dad. my dad likes to do things, he’s always active. so he was frustrated because he would want to do things with his wife there, and she would almost always refuse, so she could have a quiet day in bed. my step mom had also convinced herself that i was stealing from her. she ransacked my room multiple times, to no avail. she took my car keys ‘until she could prove i was taking things from her’ and i only got them back because they were sick of giving me rides places. she actually ended up stealing some of my things trying to claim they were hers, so she hid them and i haven’t seen them since.
so yeah i got yelled at a lot, accused of being a thief, and my relationship with my mom was shit + the joys of high school. i have been doing musical theater my whole life. when i first got to my new high school i was so excited because, although i wasn’t able to audition for the productions companies that year, the teacher told me i was a shoe in for the next year. she ended up leaving and we got a new teacher, if you can even call her that. so it’s my junior year, the first year with her, and it wasn’t bad, i got some good parts and did really well. i ended up getting nominated for an award for one of my performances and it was at this time, i don’t know what happened, but she did not like me anymore. she told me that she accepted the nomination for me, but i found out not too long later that she never accepted it and i was in favor to win so the judges were very puzzled by it. she accepted my friends nominations and kinda rubbed it in my face that i never got anything back. like’ awe are you sad because you didn’t hear anything from the judges? well so and so over here did😈’
the summer after that year i cut my hair pretty short. i wouldn’t say i’m not ‘girly’ but i definitely have a more masculine ‘bro’ persona comparatively. so now it’s my senior year, it matters a lot more at this point to try for good parts because it’s my last run. to keep it simple, my teacher wouldn’t cast me because i was too masculine, not even as a guy ?? idk make it make sense. i got one part my entire senior year, and i know it’s not because i’m bad. but i wrote and produced my own show that ended up being 100x the quality of the shows she produced, so i did get redemption. long story short, it really sucks to watch the peers your just as good as continue to succeed, while you get kicked out of the room for being distracting when you haven’t said a word. the reason they didn’t like me ? i’m good at improv, i kid you not i was told i was too creative and it bothered them. i know my presence scared the teachers there because i’m not a classic conformist theater kid that does anything and everything the teacher says.
anyways, so after years of trying to rekindle a relationship with my mom, fighting with an ass teacher and getting yelled at almost daily, a lot of worth questioning, and a flurry of weed later, i graduated.
both of my brothers in this time attempted to end their lives and were in facilities for a bit. i decided at that time to move in with my mom to hopefully help our relationship. it did a lot. me and my mom are best friends now. but it hasn’t been because of nothing. SOB had become the most controlling narcissistic asshole and my mom was just acting having any feelings for him so he wouldn’t take everything away from her. he monitored everything my mom did. he hit my mom in an intimate moment, and almost beat zayn, but i covered him and ended up slicing my arm open on our fireplace, once again i would do this 100 times over to protect my brother. i decided i wanted to dig everything up on him that i could. what i found was mortifying. i won’t go into too much detail, but there were a lot of charges, multiple of them being SA of a child. i vowed at that moment that i would do anything it takes to get him back behind bars. he’s actively on the offender list and he works across the street from a preschool, not on my fukin watch ass hat.
i will never forget the true terror on my moms face that that man caused. it got to the point where my mom would get really scared if she started crying because she knew he’d freak out at her if he noticed. i came back to my locked room, that i have the only key to, with holes in my walls in weird places, and in my bathroom too. a couple days before, my brother found a camera in his room, so i knew what it was and that SOB was spying on me. i taped them all up and came to stay at my bfs house and have been here since. after months of his treacherous cycle my mom had enough and left to a safe house, she’s there now. the divorce is going though but from some reason the stupid system denied my mom a protective order against him. he has full access to our house and things right now, and he’s trying to make 90,000 so he can baile his way out of the insurance fraud case against him that could get him back in jail in june. i’m so worried he’s selling my things because he so would. everything i have left is in that house and it’s all at his whim now.
when i moved in with my mom, i started a job at a fancy high end restaurant because i knew it would be good money. i’ve had problems with this my entire life, but ever since starting my job there, i have experienced countless creeps who have sexualized me in more ways then i thought possible. it’s made me feel so worthless. it’s people i work with and people who come in. drunk guys from the bar are the worst, and they’re all filthy rich so they don’t care about a thing in the world. i need to quit but i don’t know where else to go
my dad has now decided as of like two weeks ago, that he will be moving to florida. i never anticipated him moving across the country and leaving the last place i could call home. he also started therapy a couple months ago and his anger issues are pretty much nonexistent at this point. so i got my dad back but now he’s leaving again. i always hoped that as i got older, my family would always be pretty close, close enough that i could seem them once a week if i wanted. it’s really killing me because i was so close to that, to getting my family back. my sister has been in france the last couple years and she’s coming back in a couple weeks. my dad will be moving almost immediately after. we finally got to a point where my mom is free, my dad is happy, we’re all healing, and now my family will be broken up more then ever before by distance. my parents don’t hate each other anymore, my sister is coming home, we would all be able to spend time together again, never more.
so i’m at this point now, where i’ve been fighting for my family, taking every hit with hope in my heart for something i was so close to having, for 7 years i’ve been hoping. and just like that, the light at the end of this very long, cold and dark tunnel fades, and i’m left once again, in the cold dark nothingness that is hoping for a better day, that will never come.
so i’m left questioning, is overcoming another mountain worth it if there’s a whole range of painful climbing ahead of me? i’m so tired, my whole body hurts every day, my mind and soul are toiled with the pain of my lifetime, everyone in my family is moving on with their own paths and it’s only a matter of time before i’m only hearing from them every once in a while. i don’t want to do life, the world is so messed up right now and i don’t see it getting better. there’s too much pain and i can’t handle it. nothing seems worth hoping let alone living for anymore. i bid you adieu and wish you all the best 💗
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we were told at the time that he was framed for kidnapping and he had a whole story crafted to back it up. being a kid and needing my mom, i didn’t ask or dig about it. so we moved to idaho. i started school there and immediately got death threats. i got called a hoe relentlessly for seemingly being pretty. eventually things calmed down and i had friends, but that place was tiny and once people have formed an opinion of you, there’s no changing it, so it was hard to get around.
SOB was awful to my younger brother. we’ll call this brother zayn. zayn has bad adhd and has always struggled with school. he’s one of the smartest people i know, but getting assignments in is not his forte. so as a result he’s never had the highest grades. SOB hated the fact that my brother wasn’t doing great and would literally stand there and scream at him to get his work done. there was one time that i was in my room and i started to hear my brother screaming so immediately i’m upstairs to help him, SOB was literally chasing my brother around our house with a damn bat screaming at him like a demon was coming out. i yelled at him to leave my brother alone and things just got darker after that. me and my brother were scum to him and he ran our house like the hunger games. my other little brother and my older sister were prized jewels, they got everything they wanted and more, and SOB would rub it in our faces. he even gave my dog away, i went days worrying about her and looking because i thought she had ran away, to find out that some other person had my dog now and i wouldn’t ever get her back.
fasting forward a little, SOB violated his parole by going on a trip that wasn’t fully approved and got put back in jail right before christmas. my mom completely threw herself into trying to get him out. me and my sister noticed that my mom hadn’t gotten a single thing to be santa for my brothers, so we scraped up the money we had to get gifts so my brothers wouldn’t lose their christmas spirit seeing that santa didn’t come when things were already so bad as it was. i love that i was able to do this for them, the smiles on their faces, i will never forget that christmas.
after a long time of having a very absent mother, she was able to get SOB out of jail. he came back even worse of a monster then when he left. he sexually assaulted my mom, committed all kinds of fraud, basically stole all of my papa’s retirement money, the list goes on. my mom decided she wanted a divorce and when he found out, he went crazy. he locked all of us out of our house and threw our things on the lawn. it rained, i lost so many things, a one of a kind paper mache venitian mask i had gotten on a trip with my dad to italy included.
it’s 2020 by now and we went on a trip to Texas, to meet the person my dad was dating. on the trip, I very much learned that she was not for my dad. but, all reasoning was in vain. my dad proposed, and we had literally just met her. so that was that my dad was engaged now and focused on trying to move them out to him and getting a new house. my mom decided at that time that she wanted to move too so we had a choice, move to my dads and go back to the area i grew up in, or go with my mom to another ranch town in idaho. i chose my dads. my brothers came with, but my sister stayed with my grandparents where we lived in idaho so she could graduate.
things were fine for a bit. my mom was dating a lot and even got engaged. then she told us about this other guy she had been seeing, who had given her a 500 mile ride home from somewhere. immediately suspicious, especially because she wouldn’t drop a name. come to find out other guy was SOB. SOB proposes to her again and she’s got two engagement rings from two different people. everyone was like, what the actual shit are you doing. my mom was in a very cooky state of mind, broke things off with the other guy, and stayed with SOB. there was a weekend in september that my cousin had something going on so my extended family and everything was all there and we decided there needed to be some kind of intervention. to keep things short, it didn’t go well. my mom ended up leaving and she told me and my sister that she didn’t want to be our mom anymore. found out through facebook a couple days later that my mom and SOB were married.
then came the everlasting fun of a custody battle. my step mom had gotten into my dads head saying he needed to take full custody. now i wasn’t the biggest fan of my mom at the time, but that didn’t mean i never wanted to see her. my parents hated each other. there were a few times in exchanges that the cops ended up being called.
for a while my dad had pretty bad anger issues. low blood sugar, overstimulation, bad smells, anything could set him off. i just so happened to have a very large target on my back so i got the brunt of everything. i wouldn’t let him yell at my brothers and this resulted in me getting the lashings, but i would do it all again if that meant protecting my brothers. he wasn’t angry all the time, there were a lot of good days, but it was definitely pretty tortuous for a while. a lot of the problem, which i knew would happen to begin with, was my step mom. she is one of the laziest people i’ve ever known, which is the complete opposite of my dad. my dad likes to do things, he’s always active. so he was frustrated because he would want to do things with his wife there, and she would almost always refuse, so she could have a quiet day in bed. my step mom had also convinced herself that i was stealing from her. she ransacked my room multiple times, to no avail. she took my car keys ‘until she could prove i was taking things from her’ and i only got them back because they were sick of giving me rides places. she actually ended up stealing some of my things trying to claim they were hers, so she hid them and i haven’t seen them since.
so yeah i got yelled at a lot, accused of being a thief, and my relationship with my mom was shit + the joys of high school. i have been doing musical theater my whole life. when i first got to my new high school i was so excited because, although i wasn’t able to audition for the productions companies that year, the teacher told me i was a shoe in for the next year. she ended up leaving and we got a new teacher, if you can even call her that. so it’s my junior year, the first year with her, and it wasn’t bad, i got some good parts and did really well. i ended up getting nominated for an award for one of my performances and it was at this time, i don’t know what happened, but she did not like me anymore. she told me that she accepted the nomination for me, but i found out not too long later that she never accepted it and i was in favor to win so the judges were very puzzled by it. she accepted my friends nominations and kinda rubbed it in my face that i never got anything back. like’ awe are you sad because you didn’t hear anything from the judges? well so and so over here did😈’
the summer after that year i cut my hair pretty short. i wouldn’t say i’m not ‘girly’ but i definitely have a more masculine ‘bro’ persona comparatively. so now it’s my senior year, it matters a lot more at this point to try for good parts because it’s my last run. to keep it simple, my teacher wouldn’t cast me because i was too masculine, not even as a guy ?? idk make it make sense. i got one part my entire senior year, and i know it’s not because i’m bad. but i wrote and produced my own show that ended up being 100x the quality of the shows she produced, so i did get redemption. long story short, it really sucks to watch the peers your just as good as continue to succeed, while you get kicked out of the room for being distracting when you haven’t said a word. the reason they didn’t like me ? i’m good at improv, i kid you not i was told i was too creative and it bothered them. i know my presence scared the teachers there because i’m not a classic conformist theater kid that does anything and everything the teacher says.
anyways, so after years of trying to rekindle a relationship with my mom, fighting with an ass teacher and getting yelled at almost daily, a lot of worth questioning, and a flurry of weed later, i graduated.
both of my brothers in this time attempted to end their lives and were in facilities for a bit. i decided at that time to move in with my mom to hopefully help our relationship. it did a lot. me and my mom are best friends now. but it hasn’t been because of nothing. SOB had become the most controlling narcissistic asshole and my mom was just acting having any feelings for him so he wouldn’t take everything away from her. he monitored everything my mom did. he hit my mom in an intimate moment, and almost beat zayn, but i covered him and ended up slicing my arm open on our fireplace, once again i would do this 100 times over to protect my brother. i decided i wanted to dig everything up on him that i could. what i found was mortifying. i won’t go into too much detail, but there were a lot of charges, multiple of them being SA of a child. i vowed at that moment that i would do anything it takes to get him back behind bars. he’s actively on the offender list and he works across the street from a preschool, not on my fukin watch ass hat.
i will never forget the true terror on my moms face that that man caused. it got to the point where my mom would get really scared if she started crying because she knew he’d freak out at her if he noticed. i came back to my locked room, that i have the only key to, with holes in my walls in weird places, and in my bathroom too. a couple days before, my brother found a camera in his room, so i knew what it was and that SOB was spying on me. i taped them all up and came to stay at my bfs house and have been here since. after months of his treacherous cycle my mom had enough and left to a safe house, she’s there now. the divorce is going though but from some reason the stupid system denied my mom a protective order against him. he has full access to our house and things right now, and he’s trying to make 90,000 so he can baile his way out of the insurance fraud case against him that could get him back in jail in june. i’m so worried he’s selling my things because he so would. everything i have left is in that house and it’s all at his whim now.
when i moved in with my mom, i started a job at a fancy high end restaurant because i knew it would be good money. i’ve had problems with this my entire life, but ever since starting my job there, i have experienced countless creeps who have sexualized me in more ways then i thought possible. it’s made me feel so worthless. it’s people i work with and people who come in. drunk guys from the bar are the worst, and they’re all filthy rich so they don’t care about a thing in the world. i need to quit but i don’t know where else to go
my dad has now decided as of like two weeks ago, that he will be moving to florida. i never anticipated him moving across the country and leaving the last place i could call home. he also started therapy a couple months ago and his anger issues are pretty much nonexistent at this point. so i got my dad back but now he’s leaving again. i always hoped that as i got older, my family would always be pretty close, close enough that i could seem them once a week if i wanted. it’s really killing me because i was so close to that, to getting my family back. my sister has been in france the last couple years and she’s coming back in a couple weeks. my dad will be moving almost immediately after. we finally got to a point where my mom is free, my dad is happy, we’re all healing, and now my family will be broken up more then ever before by distance. my parents don’t hate each other anymore, my sister is coming home, we would all be able to spend time together again, never more.
so i’m at this point now, where i’ve been fighting for my family, taking every hit with hope in my heart for something i was so close to having, for 7 years i’ve been hoping. and just like that, the light at the end of this very long, cold and dark tunnel fades, and i’m left once again, in the cold dark nothingness that is hoping for a better day, that will never come.
so i’m left questioning, is overcoming another mountain worth it if there’s a whole range of painful climbing ahead of me? i’m so tired, my whole body hurts every day, my mind and soul are toiled with the pain of my lifetime, everyone in my family is moving on with their own paths and it’s only a matter of time before i’m only hearing from them every once in a while. i don’t want to do life, the world is so messed up right now and i don’t see it getting better. there’s too much pain and i can’t handle it. nothing seems worth hoping let alone living for anymore. i bid you adieu and wish you all the best 💗
2024.05.16 21:02 Accomplished-Map5007 I'm at my wit's end with my destructive kitty
I am at my wit's end with one of my cats. We have an almost 4 year old named Teddy and a 2 year old named Nala. For context, we got Teddy about 2+ years ago from a coworker of my gf's who was about to get in trouble with her apartment for having 6 pets when the max there is 2. He's a sweetheart but can be fairly destructive. After about 8-9 months, we decided to adopt Nala from a shelter, because we observed him becoming increasingly social and thought he might be lonely when he's at our apartment by himself for hours at a time. They love each other and get along great, apart from when one of them plays a bit rougher than the other would like to. Fast forward to recently, about 3 months ago my parents asked me if I would like their couches as they were moving out of the house I grew up in and downsizing.
I gladly accepted as the couches we owned were their last scruffy old hand-me-downs, and these couches held significant sentimental value to me. They are significantly nicer, faux-leather, pet-friendly, nice, heavy couches. Well when we got junkers into our apartment to take away the old ratty couch, we found out that Teddy had slashed a huge hole in the bottom fabric of the couch and was using it like a damn bird's nest. For obvious reasons, this greatly concerned me. When we received the new couches, I went out and bought a brand new vertical scratching pole, put it beside the new couch, and we littered our apartment floor with the horizontal scratcher pads so the kitties would have plenty of alternatives besides our brand new (to us) couches. We even gave them treats every time they utilized the vertical scratcher to further incentivize its use. This worked wonders for about 2-3 months. My goal was to eventually have the free time/bandwidth/funds to take him to a professional in order to get his little claws capped so it would be impossible to eviscerate my more precious belongings.
Well joke's on me, today I turned the new couch over and found the biggest hole he has already torn out of the bottom in order to hide inside the structure. To say I'm exhausted and over it is such an understatement. In my mind, I did every single conceivable thing I could to deter him from giving my nice couch the same treatment the last ratty one received. I accomplished nothing. I need help, I need advice. I don't have the free time nor the bandwidth to play Under-The-Couch Cop with this 4 year-old cat, and tbch, I shouldn't have to. Nala has never had this problem and she would never. I spent real money on the alternatives, real money on the treats to incentivize them to use them. In Nala's case, it was a huge success. In Teddy's, almost as bad a failure as if I did nothing at all to mitigate this risk. At this point, even though I love him dearly, I'm starting to consider getting rid of Teddy. I hate the idea of not being able to own anything I don't want to get torn to pieces for the next 10 years, and there being nothing I can do about it as this cat has made it clear none of my considerable efforts to appease him in other ways besides eviscerating my expensive couch were/are enough for him. I don't know what to do, and my patience is gone.
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I gladly accepted as the couches we owned were their last scruffy old hand-me-downs, and these couches held significant sentimental value to me. They are significantly nicer, faux-leather, pet-friendly, nice, heavy couches. Well when we got junkers into our apartment to take away the old ratty couch, we found out that Teddy had slashed a huge hole in the bottom fabric of the couch and was using it like a damn bird's nest. For obvious reasons, this greatly concerned me. When we received the new couches, I went out and bought a brand new vertical scratching pole, put it beside the new couch, and we littered our apartment floor with the horizontal scratcher pads so the kitties would have plenty of alternatives besides our brand new (to us) couches. We even gave them treats every time they utilized the vertical scratcher to further incentivize its use. This worked wonders for about 2-3 months. My goal was to eventually have the free time/bandwidth/funds to take him to a professional in order to get his little claws capped so it would be impossible to eviscerate my more precious belongings.
Well joke's on me, today I turned the new couch over and found the biggest hole he has already torn out of the bottom in order to hide inside the structure. To say I'm exhausted and over it is such an understatement. In my mind, I did every single conceivable thing I could to deter him from giving my nice couch the same treatment the last ratty one received. I accomplished nothing. I need help, I need advice. I don't have the free time nor the bandwidth to play Under-The-Couch Cop with this 4 year-old cat, and tbch, I shouldn't have to. Nala has never had this problem and she would never. I spent real money on the alternatives, real money on the treats to incentivize them to use them. In Nala's case, it was a huge success. In Teddy's, almost as bad a failure as if I did nothing at all to mitigate this risk. At this point, even though I love him dearly, I'm starting to consider getting rid of Teddy. I hate the idea of not being able to own anything I don't want to get torn to pieces for the next 10 years, and there being nothing I can do about it as this cat has made it clear none of my considerable efforts to appease him in other ways besides eviscerating my expensive couch were/are enough for him. I don't know what to do, and my patience is gone.
2024.05.16 21:02 ArtistsResist Gen AI in Music: Insights from a Year of Pro-Artist Advocacy
This is in response to a couple of posts from the past week regarding generative AI but long and late enough I figured a separate post makes sense.
I'm a songwritemusic producer who has been pretty deeply involved in these conversations for the past year. Below are insights I've gleaned. You can also join me at artistsresist.org where you will find my more or less monthly articles on generative AI and techsploitation. You can subscribe for free or (if you’re able to and want to support this work) support Artists Resisting Exploitation (ARE) at various tiers.
That said, we don’t actually need a single leader. The scope and reach of Big Tech is so great that no single person can seriously take this issue on and win. Moreover, elected officials like Senator Chuck Schumer have too much of a vested interest in our failure (including too many personal ties to Big Tech). Therefore, despite the fact that most people think stealing from artists to train generative AI on copyrighted work is wrong, the government continues to delay real regulation and to cater to Silicon Valley and Wall Street (fintech).
What’s working, nonetheless, are the efforts of and solidarity between many artists, including visual artists affiliated with the Concept Art Association and Create Don’t Scrape, writers with the Authors Guild, well-known musicians with the Artists Right Alliance, the Recording Academy, the Human Artistry Campaign, and (I like to think) the very grassroots work of Artists Resisting Exploitation (ARE). All of these groups fight for artists’ copyrights.
Note that there are groups like Fight for the Future (which is affiliated with Union of Musicians and Allied Workers (UMAW)), which are actively anti-copyrights but not always upfront about this. (Creative Commons and Electronic Frontier Foundation are also anti-copyrights and have aligned with Big Tech corporations’ “fair use” defense of scraping copyrighted work to train generative AI models.) However, for self-serving reasons, these anti-copyrights organizations are the groups academia (full of pro-scraping, Big Tech-funded researchers), the government, and tech policy groups and think tanks often turn to for “artists’ perspectives.”
In general, I suggest avoiding AI bros and focusing on uniting with likeminded artists. I think this is a better use of time and has more of an impact than attempting to convince those who put profits over people, including those who are paid to promote generative AI, invested in generative AI stocks, or employed by exploitative gen AI companies, to do what is right.
I firmly believe that if the vast majority of artists, who tend to care about protecting copyrights, band together, we can and will get through this. Popular generative AI models could not exist without us. In essence, these corporations and their users are dependent on us. But oppressors have historically (and possibly as a defense mechanism) long disrespected and despised those they’ve exploited. This is no different. Still, they only win if we give them our power by being complacent. I personally love art and artists too much to stand by while something that is so precious to my existence and to that of humanity is grossly devalued. No art form that can be digitized, however unique or innovative, is safe. Groundbreaking work that an artist has devoted years to creating can be pilfered, increasingly, in a matter of minutes.
We need solidarity between artists of all disciplines. For musicians, this means not using AI models that were created by exploiting visual artists (for example, for album art), writers, voice actors, etc. Fairly Trained has ethically created alternatives, and we should use those if we use gen AI at all. We also need to consider ways we, like visual artists, can poison models by supporting the development of tools similar to Glaze and Nightshade.
In the short term, we must speak up on social media, leave comments on articles and videos, and (most importantly) contact elected officials. In-person advocacy is especially effective. You can find your state arts advocacy group and get involved by meeting with or, if that’s not possible, calling or emailing your local and state elected officials. For Californians, these would be Californians for the Arts and its lobbying arm California Arts Advocates. In April, ARE joined other arts groups in meeting with the offices of seven elected officials in Sacramento. Remember, elected officials want to be re-elected.
Californians for the Arts’ and California Art Advocates’ rallying cry this year is #ArtWorkIsRealWork. Spread the word and post this everywhere, please. There is nothing wrong with wanting to make a living from work that you love and that you have devoted years to studying. Moreover, the fact that AI companies need and profit from your work is evidence of its value. There is something wrong with seeking to profit from another human being’s nonconsensual, unpaid, and (therefore) coerced labor.
Again, although there are advocacy groups, this is an all-hands-on-deck moment. Fighting Big Tech corporations that have seemingly unlimited wealth to throw at corrupt government officials all over the world—much of it, ironically, gleaned through exploiting artists—is exhausting extra work nobody asked for. They hope we will tire of it and give up. Those at the forefront of this struggle need to know that there are others who can take the baton when we need a break. I think I can safely say nearly all artists doing advocacy work on this issue would rather be making art. But we see a world in which that will be, increasingly, difficult as our works are stolen to line the pockets of the wealthy and then used against us to force us out of creative industries. So, if you love your art and art, in general, please do your part.
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I'm a songwritemusic producer who has been pretty deeply involved in these conversations for the past year. Below are insights I've gleaned. You can also join me at artistsresist.org where you will find my more or less monthly articles on generative AI and techsploitation. You can subscribe for free or (if you’re able to and want to support this work) support Artists Resisting Exploitation (ARE) at various tiers.
That said, we don’t actually need a single leader. The scope and reach of Big Tech is so great that no single person can seriously take this issue on and win. Moreover, elected officials like Senator Chuck Schumer have too much of a vested interest in our failure (including too many personal ties to Big Tech). Therefore, despite the fact that most people think stealing from artists to train generative AI on copyrighted work is wrong, the government continues to delay real regulation and to cater to Silicon Valley and Wall Street (fintech).
What’s working, nonetheless, are the efforts of and solidarity between many artists, including visual artists affiliated with the Concept Art Association and Create Don’t Scrape, writers with the Authors Guild, well-known musicians with the Artists Right Alliance, the Recording Academy, the Human Artistry Campaign, and (I like to think) the very grassroots work of Artists Resisting Exploitation (ARE). All of these groups fight for artists’ copyrights.
Note that there are groups like Fight for the Future (which is affiliated with Union of Musicians and Allied Workers (UMAW)), which are actively anti-copyrights but not always upfront about this. (Creative Commons and Electronic Frontier Foundation are also anti-copyrights and have aligned with Big Tech corporations’ “fair use” defense of scraping copyrighted work to train generative AI models.) However, for self-serving reasons, these anti-copyrights organizations are the groups academia (full of pro-scraping, Big Tech-funded researchers), the government, and tech policy groups and think tanks often turn to for “artists’ perspectives.”
In general, I suggest avoiding AI bros and focusing on uniting with likeminded artists. I think this is a better use of time and has more of an impact than attempting to convince those who put profits over people, including those who are paid to promote generative AI, invested in generative AI stocks, or employed by exploitative gen AI companies, to do what is right.
I firmly believe that if the vast majority of artists, who tend to care about protecting copyrights, band together, we can and will get through this. Popular generative AI models could not exist without us. In essence, these corporations and their users are dependent on us. But oppressors have historically (and possibly as a defense mechanism) long disrespected and despised those they’ve exploited. This is no different. Still, they only win if we give them our power by being complacent. I personally love art and artists too much to stand by while something that is so precious to my existence and to that of humanity is grossly devalued. No art form that can be digitized, however unique or innovative, is safe. Groundbreaking work that an artist has devoted years to creating can be pilfered, increasingly, in a matter of minutes.
We need solidarity between artists of all disciplines. For musicians, this means not using AI models that were created by exploiting visual artists (for example, for album art), writers, voice actors, etc. Fairly Trained has ethically created alternatives, and we should use those if we use gen AI at all. We also need to consider ways we, like visual artists, can poison models by supporting the development of tools similar to Glaze and Nightshade.
In the short term, we must speak up on social media, leave comments on articles and videos, and (most importantly) contact elected officials. In-person advocacy is especially effective. You can find your state arts advocacy group and get involved by meeting with or, if that’s not possible, calling or emailing your local and state elected officials. For Californians, these would be Californians for the Arts and its lobbying arm California Arts Advocates. In April, ARE joined other arts groups in meeting with the offices of seven elected officials in Sacramento. Remember, elected officials want to be re-elected.
Californians for the Arts’ and California Art Advocates’ rallying cry this year is #ArtWorkIsRealWork. Spread the word and post this everywhere, please. There is nothing wrong with wanting to make a living from work that you love and that you have devoted years to studying. Moreover, the fact that AI companies need and profit from your work is evidence of its value. There is something wrong with seeking to profit from another human being’s nonconsensual, unpaid, and (therefore) coerced labor.
Again, although there are advocacy groups, this is an all-hands-on-deck moment. Fighting Big Tech corporations that have seemingly unlimited wealth to throw at corrupt government officials all over the world—much of it, ironically, gleaned through exploiting artists—is exhausting extra work nobody asked for. They hope we will tire of it and give up. Those at the forefront of this struggle need to know that there are others who can take the baton when we need a break. I think I can safely say nearly all artists doing advocacy work on this issue would rather be making art. But we see a world in which that will be, increasingly, difficult as our works are stolen to line the pockets of the wealthy and then used against us to force us out of creative industries. So, if you love your art and art, in general, please do your part.
2024.05.16 21:02 cmcarter178 Offering Bookkeeping Help for E-commerce Sellers
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I'm a 7 figure Amazon seller and would love to help you get back on track. How can I help alleviate your bookkeeping pain?
2024.05.16 21:02 Assassin-Emiya 26 [M4F] A Journey Across the Stars!
I am 18+ and all participants and characters must also be 18+.
It was a warm day and the sun was shining high in the sky, the birds were chirping and a warm breeze was blowing out of the south. He stood on the walkway by the space center and looked at a picture in his hands. It was a picture of his home, he wasn’t even in space yet and he already missed his family. He put his picture back in his pocket and turned back towards one of the main buildings as the metal walkway clanked under his footsteps.
He had his belongings on his back in a bag and upon entering the building he went up to one of the desks there and spoke to the person sitting there. He introduced himself and explained why he was here as the front desk attendant let out an audible gasp before calling into the loudspeaker. He was then told to take a seat and wait for the director to come out. He did as asked and soon a man in a white lab coat came out, the man then came over to him. He stood up and shook the man’s hand and the man began to speak to him. The lab coat man said everything was in order and he was about to brief him on the upcoming expedition to space. Now he was to meet his crewmates and begin the long journey of training to be space ready…
This story is really open ended. I have some ideas as to where this could go, but I'd love to chat about what ideas you may have as well! If interested in discussing more feel free to hmu!
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It was a warm day and the sun was shining high in the sky, the birds were chirping and a warm breeze was blowing out of the south. He stood on the walkway by the space center and looked at a picture in his hands. It was a picture of his home, he wasn’t even in space yet and he already missed his family. He put his picture back in his pocket and turned back towards one of the main buildings as the metal walkway clanked under his footsteps.
He had his belongings on his back in a bag and upon entering the building he went up to one of the desks there and spoke to the person sitting there. He introduced himself and explained why he was here as the front desk attendant let out an audible gasp before calling into the loudspeaker. He was then told to take a seat and wait for the director to come out. He did as asked and soon a man in a white lab coat came out, the man then came over to him. He stood up and shook the man’s hand and the man began to speak to him. The lab coat man said everything was in order and he was about to brief him on the upcoming expedition to space. Now he was to meet his crewmates and begin the long journey of training to be space ready…
This story is really open ended. I have some ideas as to where this could go, but I'd love to chat about what ideas you may have as well! If interested in discussing more feel free to hmu!
2024.05.16 21:02 Sister-K $1000 build
Is this a brand new build, or an upgrade to an existing build?New
Please list any existing parts or monitor(s) you have that you would like to re-use with this build. For upgrades, a PCPartPicker list of your full build is extremely helpful. Be as specific as you can be here, including links or exact model numbers of each component whenever possible.This is the recommended build so far
What will this PC be used for? Examples include things like gaming, general/multimedia use, photo/video editing, coding, AI/ML, etc. Include specific games and applications you intend to run, and any particular performance goals you have, as each may have different specific hardware needs.Gaming-Valorant, Sims, GW2, Destiny, cozy games, BG3
What country will you be purchasing in? If you are in the US, do you live near a Micro Center? For other countries, please check if your country is supported by PCPartPicker by using the country selector dropdown on the top right - if not, please provide some links to reliable local vendors you are comfortable ordering from.USA near a micro center
Do you need one or more monitors included in the budget? Please list how many and any size/resolution/refresh rate preferences if needed.current monitor
What is your preferred and maximum budget range for this build, in local currency? Parts lists may sometimes have additional shipping costs. Please note whether prices in your country include sales tax or not, and adjust your budget accordingly. Typically VAT countries will have it included in the part list prices, whereas regular sales tax countries like the US and Canada will not.Around $1000 USD but no more than $1200
Do you need WiFi, or do you have a wired ethernet connection available?Need Wi-Fi
Do you have any specific size or noise requirements for the build?no
Do you have any aesthetic preferences for color or lighting? Describe what you're looking for, or feel free to provide some links to examples that may help. Some people prefer an inobtrusive stealth build, while others may prefer a case full of rainbow RGB.Love the look of an all white build and a more squared rather than rectangular tower case. If I can get a significantly better build using black parts and case, then that's fine as well and not a dealbreaker.
Any other specific requests or requirements? Examples might include a specific minimum amount of storage, or a particular CPU socket for a future upgrade path, etc.Would like to be able to upgrade this build in the future. Need decent storage, but other than that, I don't think I have any specific requirements.
2024.05.16 21:01 Decent-Wrap-1653 Uncertainty in Love Life
Theres a lot of uncertainty in my love life right now. Can I get a free reading? Looking forward Thanks!!
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2024.05.16 21:01 relationshipguy254 How Do Narcissists Act When You Start Giving Someone Else Attention and Not Them?
When you're in a relationship with a narcissist, it's incredibly draining and damaging to your self-esteem. You may become so accustomed to their behavior that you feel isolated from the outside world. However, let's say you become aware of their abusive behaviors and decide to start seeing other people or going out on dates. Maybe you're still in the relationship, considering breaking up, or you've recently broken up. You're now focusing on someone else, and they're hardly getting any of your attention. How would they react?
Rage
The first reaction typically is rage. They'll become extremely angry at you for moving on. Seeing you with someone else triggers their deep insecurities, and they often suppress this anger until it bursts out explosively. They may display aggressive or violent behavior, perhaps even breaking things, as their insecurities are laid bare. Being close to them during such outbursts is not advisable.
Hoovering
Another possible reaction is that they may try to lure you back. Narcissists thrive on power and control, so when they see someone else getting your attention, they may see it as a challenge to their superiority. They might exploit your vulnerabilities and weaknesses to manipulate you into returning to them. Their goal is not genuine change but to reaffirm their sense of superiority. They may apologize, ‘change’ their behavior temporarily, or resort to love bombing to win you back, all to maintain their position of dominance and control.
Play Victim
Another tactic they might employ is playing the victim. Seeing you with someone else may trigger their insecurities, causing them to accuse you of cheating or blame you for not wanting to salvage the relationship. They may guilt-trip you by claiming you were supposed to be there for them forever. In their eyes, your actions are a betrayal, and they may twist the situation to paint themselves as the victim, turning the blame onto you and making you out to be the abusive one.
Smear Tactics
Another tactic they may use is to smear your name. When they see you giving attention to someone else, they may start spreading lies about you to your family or mutual acquaintances. They might claim that you're being unfaithful or suggest that you were the problem in the relationship. By tarnishing your reputation, they aim to manipulate others into sympathizing with them and viewing you as the one at fault. This tactic allows them to elevate their own reputation while diminishing yours in the eyes of others.
So, those are some of the things that may happen when you redirect your attention away from the narcissist. However, it's important not to dwell too much on the potential consequences of shifting your focus onto someone else. Sometimes, you might be tempted to seek attention from another person as a way of seeking revenge or to prove to the narcissist that you're still desirable. But that's not the purpose of the your healing journey
If your intention in seeking out someone else or giving them attention is solely to make the narcissist feel bad, then you're approaching the healing journey from the wrong angle. While it might provide a momentary sense of relief or closure, ultimately, you're still caught up in a competition with the abusive person.
So instead of directing your attention inward and focusing on your own healing, you're inadvertently engaging in the narcissist's manipulative games. While it's fine to see other people if you choose to, doing so with the sole purpose of getting back at the narcissist or proving something to them only perpetuates the toxic cycle. In the end, you'll find yourself trapped in another unhealthy relationship, unable to move forward and sinking deeper into the same patterns of exploitation and manipulation.
Focus on yourself and prioritize your own healing without being overly concerned about the narcissist's reaction. While it's beneficial to gain insight into their behavior, the most important thing is to understand your own motivations. Are you seeking revenge or trying to escape from your own pain? Ultimately, true growth comes from facing your emotions and experiences head-on.
Note from the Author
If you’re ready and you’d like my help with healing, finding peace in life and breaking free from these toxic patterns, then you can book a FREE BREAKTHROUGH CALL with me HERE. Happy healing 💙💙. Feel free to share and comment! Use this information with caution, it comes from my own thoughts & bias, experiences and research😊.
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Rage
The first reaction typically is rage. They'll become extremely angry at you for moving on. Seeing you with someone else triggers their deep insecurities, and they often suppress this anger until it bursts out explosively. They may display aggressive or violent behavior, perhaps even breaking things, as their insecurities are laid bare. Being close to them during such outbursts is not advisable.
Hoovering
Another possible reaction is that they may try to lure you back. Narcissists thrive on power and control, so when they see someone else getting your attention, they may see it as a challenge to their superiority. They might exploit your vulnerabilities and weaknesses to manipulate you into returning to them. Their goal is not genuine change but to reaffirm their sense of superiority. They may apologize, ‘change’ their behavior temporarily, or resort to love bombing to win you back, all to maintain their position of dominance and control.
Play Victim
Another tactic they might employ is playing the victim. Seeing you with someone else may trigger their insecurities, causing them to accuse you of cheating or blame you for not wanting to salvage the relationship. They may guilt-trip you by claiming you were supposed to be there for them forever. In their eyes, your actions are a betrayal, and they may twist the situation to paint themselves as the victim, turning the blame onto you and making you out to be the abusive one.
Smear Tactics
Another tactic they may use is to smear your name. When they see you giving attention to someone else, they may start spreading lies about you to your family or mutual acquaintances. They might claim that you're being unfaithful or suggest that you were the problem in the relationship. By tarnishing your reputation, they aim to manipulate others into sympathizing with them and viewing you as the one at fault. This tactic allows them to elevate their own reputation while diminishing yours in the eyes of others.
So, those are some of the things that may happen when you redirect your attention away from the narcissist. However, it's important not to dwell too much on the potential consequences of shifting your focus onto someone else. Sometimes, you might be tempted to seek attention from another person as a way of seeking revenge or to prove to the narcissist that you're still desirable. But that's not the purpose of the your healing journey
If your intention in seeking out someone else or giving them attention is solely to make the narcissist feel bad, then you're approaching the healing journey from the wrong angle. While it might provide a momentary sense of relief or closure, ultimately, you're still caught up in a competition with the abusive person.
So instead of directing your attention inward and focusing on your own healing, you're inadvertently engaging in the narcissist's manipulative games. While it's fine to see other people if you choose to, doing so with the sole purpose of getting back at the narcissist or proving something to them only perpetuates the toxic cycle. In the end, you'll find yourself trapped in another unhealthy relationship, unable to move forward and sinking deeper into the same patterns of exploitation and manipulation.
Focus on yourself and prioritize your own healing without being overly concerned about the narcissist's reaction. While it's beneficial to gain insight into their behavior, the most important thing is to understand your own motivations. Are you seeking revenge or trying to escape from your own pain? Ultimately, true growth comes from facing your emotions and experiences head-on.
Note from the Author
If you’re ready and you’d like my help with healing, finding peace in life and breaking free from these toxic patterns, then you can book a FREE BREAKTHROUGH CALL with me HERE. Happy healing 💙💙. Feel free to share and comment! Use this information with caution, it comes from my own thoughts & bias, experiences and research😊.
2024.05.16 21:00 Ok_Swing_6754 NXT Japan Possible?
So yesterday it was stated that Pro Wrestling NOAH want a partnership with WWE and personally I love that. I think that when it comes to pure in the mat wrestling, despite WWE being the best company in the business, Japan and Europe have the best in ring quality. We did not get a partnership with NJPW, but I would love for us to collaborate with NOAH.
https://wrestlingheadlines.com/pro-wrestling-noah-parent-company-cyberfight-inc-sets-goal-of-strengthening-relationship-with-wwe/
They got some really good young talents under 30 like Kaito Kiyomiya, ninja mack, and Jack Morris who I would love to see in a WWE ring of some capacity. I think doing a NXT Japan would be an awesome way to bring them in and even be enticing to NJPW talents heading into free agency. I also like the idea of Shawn Michaels (who i personally believe to be the best booker in the business right now with his NXT work) having another show to cook with. It can also be cool if we can get Shinsuke down there to run wild as a world Champ (but he does like his surfing).
I love our product now, but I would love to see some collaboration and I am personally pumped that Triple H is opening the door to partnerships. I think WWE is really going to hit some crazy levels soon
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https://wrestlingheadlines.com/pro-wrestling-noah-parent-company-cyberfight-inc-sets-goal-of-strengthening-relationship-with-wwe/
They got some really good young talents under 30 like Kaito Kiyomiya, ninja mack, and Jack Morris who I would love to see in a WWE ring of some capacity. I think doing a NXT Japan would be an awesome way to bring them in and even be enticing to NJPW talents heading into free agency. I also like the idea of Shawn Michaels (who i personally believe to be the best booker in the business right now with his NXT work) having another show to cook with. It can also be cool if we can get Shinsuke down there to run wild as a world Champ (but he does like his surfing).
I love our product now, but I would love to see some collaboration and I am personally pumped that Triple H is opening the door to partnerships. I think WWE is really going to hit some crazy levels soon
2024.05.16 21:00 v3gg Any Next.js Developers Interested in Testing a New Transactional Email Platform?
Hey guys,
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To maintain the integrity of this subreddit, I won't go into further details about the platform here as I don't want it to be considered advertising. However, if you'd like to learn more or participate in the testing process, please feel free to reach out to me directly. I'll be happy to provide you with more information.
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I'm reaching out to share an opportunity for a small group of developers to test a new transactional email platform tailored for for Next.js applications.
The platform aims to provide an affordable and reliable solution for sending transactional emails without compromising on delivery quality. As part of the development process, we're seeking feedback from Next.js developers.
If you're interested in exploring this new tool and providing your honest insights, we'd love to have you on board. Your feedback will play an important role in shaping the platform and ensuring it meets the needs of the Next.js community.
To maintain the integrity of this subreddit, I won't go into further details about the platform here as I don't want it to be considered advertising. However, if you'd like to learn more or participate in the testing process, please feel free to reach out to me directly. I'll be happy to provide you with more information.
As a token of appreciation for your time, we'll be offering a complimentary one-year plan to those who participate in the testing phase.
Thank you for considering this.
2024.05.16 20:59 DividingHydra75 The new piston sounds.
So, as a lot of you already know, Mojang changed the sound a piston makes while having the intentions of making it quieter. Heres my offers, 1. Change it back, I dont think anyone likes the new sound anyways.
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- Change it back, but make it less loud, so your intentions are still granted.
- Change it back by default, but make it a toggle feature in the "Music and Sounds" tab