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tldr 1 - im looking for any advice/ some reassuring/ validating/ seeing im not alone as im shitting bricks for my upcoming appointment following an abdominal mri months ago to rule anything out before possible surgery, and i have ptsd (which is heavily related to my fears about this appointment and possible surgery) , autism and quite probably some medical trauma.
longer version/ context - im 22 and have had every endo symptom in the book since my first period and obviously has gotten worse and worse over the years, ive been going to GPs since i was at least 13 for extreme period pain and have been put on many different meds including NSAIDS, birth control, all the usual and nothing has ever helped. i also have PTSD due to sexual assault and abuse trauma and ASD so they make me more nervous about appointments for obvious reasons. more recently i have been more insistent on something being wrong and that i need to be listened to and believed and investigations need to happen.
so i had another gynae referral to a male consultant at a private hospital, about october-ish last year. The appointment was extremely fast, i came in he said so you think you have endo and i said yes, he asked if i had pain during sex, painful bowel movements and that was basically all he asked about symptoms.
i said im on the evra patch birth control as i went to another consultant privately (it went horribly i wont go into detail) prescribed it to me and said i had no other choice and that i had to, i did not want to, i hate the hormones, but ive been on it for a year and a half and i bleed every single day since, and the pain is still there but i can function and work with the pain most days of the month so i continue to use it because without it i cannot work as the period pain is so horrendous. i tell him she did an ultrasound and all she said was that i have a retroverted uterus, (she tried to force me to do a pelvic exam but i explained prior that i have diagnosed PTSD and absolutely cannot let her do that she was horrible to me about it).
He asked if i have any other conditions and i said ive recently been diagnosed with fibromyalgia and said what medication im on. I forgot to mention i have autism as i was so scared and my brain just forgot it haha, i dont know if he has me medical record and already knew? but i did not mention it.
He then after those few questions that took maybe two minutes said he was ordering me an abdominal MRI, and depending on the results of that, that i may need a laparoscopy. I had the mri last year in december and my follow up appointment is on the 20th of may in a few days. I assume he will tell me the results of the mri and i have no idea what else.
Im terrified. for so many reasons, what will the mri show? what will it mean? what if he just says it showed nothing or something and i dont think its endo? what if he says i need surgery and then i get a date for the surgery and i have no fucking clue what it entails, what will happen, the process of it all? obviously i have been researchign and learning about endo since i was 16 but i am so scared of surgery and any internal things like pelvic exams, like what if i have to have one before the surgery? I know you have a bladder catheter for surgery i think? Will that HAVE to happen when im awake? that is almost out of the question for me i couldnt go through that. And i know you have to pee before you can leave after the surgery and if you cant they have to put the catheter back in and ill be awake i cannot cope with that, that thought terrrifies me to my bones. And im pretty sure while youre under they have to go in your vagina to move your cervix and uterus around to see around it am i correct? i know ill be unconscious but ill wake up knowing that that happened and that will be a triggering thing i am so scared to feel that way knowing that happened.
But ive wanted this surgery since i was 16 and i might need it? What if it comes to the surgery and its not endometriosis and it actually HAS been all in my head for the past ten years and im just sensitive or a baby who cant handle the pain everyone else can ignore. but i also know that some people have three surgeries before they find stage four endo was hiding there all this time and the doctors keot missing it and not looking correctly. I think the thought of it not being endo is the most awful thing that could ever come of this because then it will mean ive been wrong this whole time and i genuinely am just a wimp, i dont know how ill cope with that.
Im crying writing this im so scared and i dont know what to do. Im also scared that i will shut down during the appointment like last time and forget to ask the questions or he will make me feel small, im a nervous person with ptsd and obviously autism and male doctors terrify me, like what if he doesnt answer my questions or answers them in a way that doesnt make any sense or shrugs my concerns away. My best friend will be going with me so i am going to come up with all of my questions and write them down and give them to me and her incase i forget or am too scared. and what if i have to have the surgery but no one cares about my concerns. I realise i must have some sort of medical trauma from all the doctors who have laughed in my face over the years, crossed my boundaries and told me its all in my head and the pain is just something you have to live with or to have a baby at fucking 14 so it reduces the period cramps after having a baby, i know im not the only person in this subreddit who has been told that surely.
FINAL TLDR :)
Im just asking for advice from people who have been through this process, and can help answer any questions, or reassure and affirm that my fears are valid and okay and i am in control of what happens to my body :(. And that i am strong and able to stand up for myself and advocate for myself. Im so bloody terrified i just want someone to hug me and hold my hand and tell me it is going to be okay. Im so sorry for this awfully long post i just dont know where else to turn to im so so afraid. If you read all this thank you so much :,( <3

In southern Cali. Looking for a nice smg m3 vert. Preference would be for white with the brown leather but carbon black and brown has is in the right price range. Looking for around 100k miles. Been looking for a few months so far and found a really clean one but colors aren’t my favorite. Having buyers paralysis. Only one with spec I’m looking for the guy is asking 17k it’s got a top and vanos done though. Subframe is good. 17k seems a bit much for 100k miles tho even with the work and top.

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*Disclaimer: If you are reading this, and your group is called Shadowmenders, CLICK OFF, I’m talking about you Kyler >~> *
To preface, I am an amateur DM who has been running an Eberron game for about 7 months now, I’m posting this in both Eberron and this subreddit because one is knowledgeable on the setting and one is overall DM advice!
Context Summary: My players are going to be venturing into an old hidden underground ruin that ends at an old ancient vault full of magical weapons and items that were used during the Age of Demons. Along the way/halfway through the ruins the party will be fighting cultists who opening a portal too Mabar (Plane of Darkness pretty much) and it will, hopefully, be one of their toughest fights yet. PCs are 4 level 6 characters, and are very familiar and experienced using their characters in combat. Once they reach the vault level, I want it to be guarded by what appears to be a Paladin fully plated in stone, with a greatsword covered in blood and corpses of cultists scattered around. The being will telepathically speak into the players minds and ask them a riddle, he is a celestial being bound to the vault in order to protect the great Paladin, Tira Miron’s, belongings, unless someone worthy of the gear or sent from the Silver Flame itself (the religion) comes to claim it.
The original plan is that this single knight is going to be a tough fight normally, but an extremely tough fight right after the party fought the cultists, seeing that they will be pretty tapped out. Only one of my players speaks celestial, but as a precaution I planned to have a cultist corpse at the entrance clutching a spell scroll in his hand, which would be Comprehend Language.
My issue is the riddle! A big theme of Eberron is “Prophecy” but my players are still first time Eberron players and the Draconic Prophecy hasn’t played a big part story wise so it’s doubtful they would guess “Prophecy” as an answer. I’m trying to come up with riddles that are on topic of “fate” “religion” and “light” and not be so off topic or simple as too “River” as ever riddle seems to have! Do any experienced riddle writers or creative thinkers have ideas as to the riddle asked?
(I thought of the concept of if the party guesses the riddle too easily, instead of preventing the fight, the beings armor begins to break off and his health and AC will be lowered, equally out to like 2-3 riddles. Or if it’s a tough riddle, they will have to shout out the answer as they are fighting and then the fight ends you know? Just some ideas I thought would be cool, seeing how this is there first dungeon delve!)
TL;DR: Party being asked a riddle by powerful celestial knight, want the riddle to have to do with fate, religion or light, otherwise party will have to defeat knight to get into the vault it protects. Struggling on riddle ideas that aren’t too basic or too complex!

One thing I’ve noticed about all these communities on Reddit is that every meme coin is the next “10, 100, 1000X” coin but none of them give you a reason as to why. The only thing that’s ever said is “great community, based dev, funny memes” and then you look at the chart and they are all rug pulls (with the exception of maybe 2 or 3)
With that being said, here are the reasons why SEAT will be one of the best projects out there and everything we’ve accomplished in a months time. We’re a group of traders that came from the OTC markets and know what it takes to send a project to the moon.
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• We donated $16,000 to Operation Underground Railroad (Sound of Freedom movie creators) they gave us a shoutout on their Twitter multiple times. We will be making community donations to The National Center For Missing and Exploited Children everytime our market cap doubles to help the fight against human trafficking.
  
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Video proof of token burning: https://x.com/crishensan/status/1789107909097640282?s=46&t=2Smk81RO_zugIs172_6dhw

• We got listed on https://gerygoonsler.com yesterday
  
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• The token supply is fully diluted and the LP is burned meaning no new coins can ever be minted/created. We currently have 996mil supply which will continue dropping with each merch drop because as posted above all proceeds go to burning the token supply with video proof.
  
• The dev is a full time trader who recently did an in person interview to explain our project and our cause
  

Interview: https://www.youtube.com/live/NgxqYqkuzAI?si=uRuwzGDD9pGmmxUU
So, with all this being said, if you are looking for a legitimate project where you don’t have to worry about rug pulls this is the one for you. We are working 24/7 to make this a life changing project not just for us but for others through our donations. Give us a look and do some research and I can assure you that you will love what you see.
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Got my first hole in one today, 120 yard par 3 with a pitching wedge. Ball hit the green about a foot from the stick, rolled straight left and dropped in. Hooked my next drive right into the opposing fairway from the jitters.

So, I've been battling these killer period pains since day one. My cycle? Pretty regular, lasts about 5-6 days like clockwork. But trust me, my pain levels are off the charts compared to the average woman.
It all starts with this subtle ache in the background as soon as my period begins. Then BAM! It ramps up, spreading to my lower back and legs. Feels like I'm getting stabbed, with a side of fiery agony in my belly and back. The worst? Day one, lasting a solid 1-3 hours before easing up a bit. It stops me from moving and it's so painful sometimes I feel like I could just pass out. But let's be real, I don't feel human until the next day.
I've got a stash of painkillers handy at all times. Can't step out without them, especially on Day One. And forget about planning anything major then.
So, am I alone in this? Anybody else out there feeling the burn like I am? I'm tired of people thinking I'm faking it or overreacting. Why would someone do that?
Ps: outside this time of the month, I'm symptom free.

I have had 3 other SP101s. All were great shooting guns. I regret getting rid of them. I have been Hankering for a 4.25 inch SP101 with the fiber optic front sight. I saw one on line and wondering if anyone has experience shooting one? Is the extra length and adjustable sights worth it? Is the trigger better.

My company does not have a formal in office policy. They just sent an email maybe a year ago saying that we need to be in 3 days a week, with one of those days being a Monday or Friday. No one follows this, it’s not enforced, and we don’t have any place to reference it. No employees handbook, nothing.
We have a few people working remotely out of state who only come in for big events. A few who live out of town and super commute as I proposed, and a lot who are local who don’t do 2/3 days or come in at all. Our work is very easy to do remotely, and I’m moving to where I can commute in bi weekly to care for sick family members . When proposing this, I was told that we have a 3 day policy and that because my move is permanent, I could continue to work until I find something else.
I don’t have anything in writing as of yet, but this is obviously extremely unfair and just plain stupid. Any advice would be appreciated.

The father of my four kids and I were together for five years. We have four kids. I had my first kid at 21. My oldest is 4. I have a 3 year old, 1 year old, and one month old. After I was pregnant with our 4th kid I knew I had to end my relationship with him especially due to the lack of help I was getting with parenting. I have always been the one to pay for the bills and child expenses for the most part. The only time he would ever pitch in and pay for the kids was if I literally told him that I was all the way out of money. We signed off on a house together and he has never helped with the house payment at all. In the past 3 years we’ve lived here he probably collective paid $1,500 altogether toward the house payment and we pay $1,400 a month. His main excuses for not helping me pay the bills was that “I make more money than him.” And that I “always acted like I could handle the payments on my own so he didn’t think he needed to help.” He knew we were behind on payments for a while and I told him I couldn’t keep up with them alone. I only got approved for the house because our incomes were both taken into account. With only my income I would not have qualified for the house. For months we regularly got behind on house payments. We almost lost our house. Our house payment got raised to $2,400 for six months to get caught up on payments. I managed to keep up, but if I hadn’t all of my kids and I would have ended up homeless. He works full time. I work 7 days a week between two jobs just to make ends meet. We have never been married and I have never asked for child support payments. For one, I know he wouldn’t pay them anyway, and in my opinion if I asked for payments he would be even harder to get rid of because he would try to stick around either to get out of the payments or out of spite. I figure not asking for the payments would allow me to get away from him easier. Lately my kids’ life has been rough. I live paycheck to paycheck paying for their expenses and the other bills while I get virtually zero help. He works a 9-6 job. I work overnight for both of my jobs and watch the kids during the day. I sleep in the evenings before work. Whenever he is home he goes to the basement and plays videogames nonstop. The same happens for the entire day on his days off. I know I can’t continue to have my kids live in an environment where their dad is essentially freeloading off me and not giving them any attention. It is not a good example for the kids. I don’t know the best way to get away from him at this point. I don’t want him to just have the house to himself because he hasn’t made payments since day one. I believe he will try to cheat the system as long as he can and try to stay as long as possible because he is on the mortgage too. My credit obviously plummeted after all of our financial issues so realistically I won’t be able to find another house for quite a while. I live in Wisconsin.

Hello everyone! I am currently a business student and just purely curious. I would be happy to learn and understand things so feel free to share your thoughts. Positive or negative. Let me learn from you respectfully.
I saw this article where this Rosmar (I don't know much about her honestly as I don't watch local TV or use any socmed that much) claimed in an interview with Toni that she earns 5M-13M in a DAY. Let me repeat in a DAY. Sounds inspiring and stuff like that bla bla but something feels off.
In my personal perspective, I am crazy with beauty products, focus on skincare (I don't wear make up that much). I am avid buyer online in different platforms and apps on my phone and its my ritual whenever I visit malls to check out Watsons/Sm Dept/Rustans, etc.
First, I don't know her brand (not aware?) and it doesn't look reliable to me. I don't even see it at malls that much or maybe an independent store or any presence like how Avon is marketed. Even in trusted online store like Sephora ph, BeautyMNL, beautyshopph, or even in watsons online, I don't see it? It's in Shopee and Lazada though but I dont fully trust products there with usually no FDA approval. I do use those apps a lot for different products coz it's cheap. So, overall, her brand doesn't have that solid exposure in the general public to be a household name that you can assume can cater a big number of consumers. Other than cringe reels of hers I see time to time when i scroll in youtube randomly, that's it. Even commercials? Or billboards (maybe I'm just not aware because I don't go out that much)
Second, the timeframe. Based on the things I read, in average, a good managed started up company can possibly earn millions in 3-5years, lots of factors, it varries. I only heard her name around after pandemic, with the economic issues the country have previously. If she say a million in a couple of months, maybe I'll believe it like 30% but does her company export outside that big to say that?
Third, her house is extravagant indeed with sport cars she boasts but the way she act and how she organised her household, it kinda gives me the feels of somebody who won lotto one day and just picked up a random mansion. Her mannerisms and the way she speaks is off. She doesnt even give a nepo baby vibes with rich parents as well or i just dont know. Successful hardworking CEOs stories that I see choose to customised and build their house on their own and you can feel how aura of someone who put their blood and sweat on their business. Forgive me if I'm judgmental but she doesn't sound like someone skillful by experience. I used to watched OFW stories who didn't have education and yet through practical skills they can specifically explain how they expanded their business. But in her shoes, it's like magic and like it just boomed one day.
I heard she stuff lots of cash in her house as well and she buy big things in cash. Now that's really suspicious to me. Someone rich would rather put it in a bank and pay in cheque for super big purchase.
To all struggling business owners out there. I salute you. I aspire to build my own in the near future too but I'm pretty sure it's a journey of trial and error and lots of never giving up. Cheers!

Kind of a vent, Through my teen years (15-20) I was a typical niceguy, trying to save girls, constantly being there when I was needed, afraid of conflict and confrontation, “You are the first guy to treat me right” you name it. I got fed up of getting cheated on and walked all over by pretty much every girl who I dated, ofc I’m no victim and my dating choices were really shitty too but the damage was done by then.
I decided to stop giving a shit and follow people like corey wayne and mark manson on youtube. dating multiple girls at a time (non exclusively, I’ve never cheated) Started having hookups after saying I would never do it, and just gave up on finding the traditional, loving loyal supportive girlfriend I’ve always wanted, I’m not a perfect guy or anything but I feel like it’s not a lot to ask for.
I started to get a lot of female attention, became somewhat of a badboy type (I know it sounds cringe af, but hear me out) I had 3 girls cheat on their boyfriends with me, at the time it made me feel so much better about myself, after being abused, cheated on and ridiculed for so long it gave me a powertrip. but it lasted very shortly, lately I’ve realized now instead of being the niceguy, boyfriend I’m just seen as hookup material, and well that fucking sucks, ik I did it to myself but I feel like there’s no middleground.
Maybe it really is just my dating choices, but almost every girl I’ve met has a history of cheating, oh yeah also I’m in art school so that probably has something to do with the kind of people there are.
My latest experience honestly kind of broke me, you can read about it in my last post if ur interested but tldr I really started taking a liking for this girl, we had sex and she was all over me constantly kissing me and wanting to see me. the moment she found a niceguy kind of guy who let her walk all over him (Her words, not mine) she just blew me off, even though I would have also treated her nicely idk, there’s just no winning I feel like, no middleground where I don’t get walked all over but someone loves me and wants to commit to me.
I’m a decent looking guy I’d say, I can get sex no problem, I play the piano, study, workout… I don’t know what’s so fucked up about me that I feel like I never see eye to eye with any girl
I guess I’m tryna see if anyone here can relate, or has any advice on what to do now, I’m just sick and tired of this.

Based on the handposition (a right hand next to Alicent's left side of her waist), those two characters seem to be either standing next to each other or back to back. But the most common and best way to threatend someone with a daggeknife is standing either infront of behind them.
So I think the person is protecting Alicent rather than threatening her. Or it could be neither but it does not seem threatening to me.
Note:

• the dress Alicent is wearing is one from the poster, not the B&C dress. (Based on the embroidery)
  
• The hand is a woman's hand, rumored to be Rhaenyra. The knife resembles Nyra's from ep 3.
  

I've played through it like 3 or 4 times now. And it felt good to play but the gameplay was never spectacular enough for me to consider it being the best game ever.
Gameplay wise, it's at most a 7 out of 10. And for a game to be "the best" you would assume both it's gameplay and story would have to be good. With mods, it's gameplay is improved, but I'm talking just vanilla RDR2.
If RDR2 had a similar or better version of the Max Payne gameplay, it would be one of the best games ever, but it doesn't.

So it's like a light discussion bout how i came to know about these communities. I do believe that the feelings of being gnc started in childhood for a lot of us. Same for me. I was an androgynous, awkward, and tomboyish nerdy kid who became more masculine as time went on.
As a little girl, all i had to do was take one look at some typical action hero, super powered macho dude and be like, yup, he's my bride now :).
My heart fluttered so much every time any of my cartoon crushes were put in an even slightly vulnerable position, maybe they got hurt, fainted or helpless. I might sound like a weirdo, but i used to save videos where they would be unconscious, falling or carried in that pretty thing, objectified sensual kinda manner. (I remember you superman, being all weak and passing out near any kryptonite 😳)
Cuz as a kid all i cared about was being cool and a show off irl, so naturally i was usually a badass in my imaginations who was either a detective, warrior or superhero that saved and bridal carried a helpless man, and the thought of them clinging to me, blushing and being in awe at how badass and strong i was absolutely melted me.
It's how i knew something was a bit different bout the way i perceived romance. Cuz mostly around me, little girls wanted to be the one saved, being the clinging and helpless one and to see how cool and fierce their crushes were. Even if they were badasses, it was very in that girlboss manner, and usually then it would not involve any guy cuz they were "independent" and "did not need saving"
Obvs my tastes became more diverse in future beyond just that.
I noted that people were a little bit gnc on internet like calling guys slutty or bbgirls and stuff like that. I found that i really liked it.
Ultimately, i would say it was my many searches of girlboss x malewife, strong fl x soft ml and similar stuff like this that lead me to rr and then this sub.
Before this, note, that i did not look for romance stuff much cuz, one, i grew up in religious conservative house where we would jump at even a simple kiss scene so i was pretty romantically repressed. Second, i often never felt romantic attraction irl cuz everyone was pretty hardcore het normative. Third, I, in general, don't read romance as a separate genre. Same for family dramas and slice of life. Not my cup of tea. Like its fine as a sub genre within a story but not as its own thing.
What started off me searching for rr romance stuff was interestingly cuz of one media that soon became my favourite anime; JoJo Bizarre Adventure.
I had long seen many memes abt it, including the "best waifu Speedwagon"
Long story short, i began actively binging many memes, without even having seen it. When part 6 was adapted, that's when i was watching it.
I feel like not enough people talk abt how gnc JoJo is, at least in presentation.
Like they were sometimes simultaneously the macho, normative, beefy guys and at same time so genderfucking, dramatic, fabulous and beautiful. Like legit everyone's poses go hard.
Poses are such interesting shit cuz unlike other action media, you'll be getting into the plot and fights and then momentarily they'll make you halt with someone's pose and be like drawing your attention to their objectified, beautiful bodies and energies its so hilarious xD
I mean consider the fact that the anime's best waifu is Speedwagon, and the best mom is Bruno, both of whom are MALE.
When i watched part 1 fr first time i finally understood all those best waifu memes like holy shit bro acts so much like a worried, nurturing and damsel in distress girlfriend
Not only that, like most of the jojo poses are inspired by fashion poses, most of them being done by female models. Dio's iconic pose? Done by female model. Most of Giorno's poses? Same thing here. Risotto? Same. And the body language of these characters. Like even if they may be the most mainstraightest characters, they don't care bout how they appear or carry themselves.
The amount of comments saying stuff like "Bruno got such mom smile" or "Abbachio wine aunt" or "diavolo a goth gf" or "giorno's stand posing with him like he's its baby mana" or "Prosciutto fast walked like a lady or worried mom" or how zesty so many jojos, even the early beefy ones like Joseph or pillar men act is absolutely fantastic. Their poses are such mixture of andro, masc or fem energies like they absolutely do not care.
Don't even get me started on their designs and clothing. Absolute gender fuckery. Pinkiest pink, flowers, earrings, slutty turtlenecks, heart accessories, strapless top, so many boob windows and crop tops, lipsticks, long hair, to name few.
Even if they are the machoest or het normative, they dress like there's absolutely no stigma in their world against how one presents. Rohan, diavolo, abbachio, bruno, dio, narancia, joseph, kakyoin, mista, giorno, anasui to name a few.
Sadly, women are the least gnc part of JoJo, and despite all this mentioned above , some semblance of mainstraightness still exists in jojoverse. There's either that, or just gayness.
Appearance wise the most gnc jojo women i can think of would be either ermes or hot pants. But that's realllyyy a bare minimum :(
Anyway, you can imagine i had many awakenings i didn't even know i had 🥴

You've spent an entire week with your Micro Four-Thirds camera, documenting the world as it is, how it was, or how you think it should be. It's time to show us those photos and bask in the glory that only a weekly photo thread can bring!
Rules:

1. The photo must be your own. No cross-posting someone else's work.
2. You may only post one photo per week. Pick only your best work and show it off!
3. Post your photo in a top-level comment for maximum exposure! (hehe get it, "exposure"?)
4. Include as much detail as possible about the camera, the lens and the environment as possible. Good: "Shot with Olympus OM-D E-M1 w/ Panasonic 25mm f/1.8 lens @ 25mm f/2.0 ISO100 Time: 5:40PM in Los Angeles, California" Bad: "Look at this shot, isn't it neat?"
5. Above all, be respectful. There's a big difference between the following comments: "OMG THAT PHOTO IS HORRIBLE" and "The lighting coming off his face looks uneven".

Hi, I literally made a reddit account just to post this lol so sorry if I do anything wrong. I (25F) recently got engaged to my boyfriend (25M) of one year. We’ve been together romantically for about a year, but I’ve never had a chance to meet his little sister (22F) until now. This is because she lives basically across the country. But he has a good relationship with her so obviously he wants her at the wedding, so he payed for her travel expenses and she came to where we live.
The day she was supposed to arrive, a guy showed up on our doorstep, and I assumed it was her boyfriend that fiancé hadn’t told me about or something. But no, it wasn’t, cuz it wasn’t a guy, it was HER. I literally could only tell cuz her voice, that’s how much she looks like a guy. She has a buzzcut, only wears guys clothes, and doesn’t even shave her body hair. Even her mannerisms were like a guy’s. And I’m not like some conservative who thinks women have to be feminine 24/7, but I’ve never met a girl like her in real life who’s NEVER feminine. I guess because of this I was sort of intimidated by her, even if she was friendly I didn’t know how to talk to her.
But despite my discomfort I wanted to get along with her cuz like I said she is legit nice and my fiancé loves her. So I invited her to go to the mall with me for a girls day, and she said yes. I thought this would make me feel less uncomfortable with her but if anything it made the feeling worse, we literally have NOTHING in common. Shes not into clothes, makeup, perfume, anything that all the girls I’m friends with are into. I wanted to get along with her but I just had no idea how to.
But what was really awful was when we were in the bathroom, and some old lady came in and thought SIL was a guy. She gently corrected the old lady (SIL had already been mistaken for a guy multiple times in the mall, it never bothered her), but the old lady didn’t believe her, I guess she thought she was trans or something? The old lady ended up kind of causing a scene and yelling awful stuff at SIL.
When we got home fiancé noticed SIL was pretty shaken and asked what happened, and she told him about it. From the way they were talking, this isn’t the first time she’s been harassed in a bathroom like this. And when she was telling him I couldn’t help but think that like…this wouldn’t have happened if she didn’t look like a boy.
Now here’s where I think I might be an asshole. I basically said this thought aloud, not with that exact wording though. I told her maybe she could avoid this upsetting stuff if she wore a bit of makeup or dressed up a bit. I even offered to teach her if she didn’t know (I really want her to wear makeup for the wedding anyway). This was apparently the wrong thing to say, both SIL and fiancé got mad at me, fiancé saying SIL shouldn’t have to change and that people should just know better. And like yeah that would be nice but it’s not how the world works. I explained this and the fact that I was just trying to look out for her, obviously she’s gonna be treated badly as a woman if she acts like a man, and learning simple skills like makeup could help her a lot. SIL was gonna stay overnight, but after hearing what I said left early.
Not much has happened since then except a phone call between my SIL and fiancé, where apparently she told him she wasn’t sure about coming to the wedding cuz she didn’t wanna “ruin it”. And when my fiancé told me this I felt bad, but also! She literally wouldn’t have to worry about “ruining it” if she just took my advice and was a bit more feminine! I’m not even asking her to drastically change her appearance, plenty of women have buzzcuts while also channeling their femininity, she just straight up looks like a boy! I told my fiancé this and he said I’m being a jerk. And ok maybe Im kind of being harsh about it, but I am legitimately concerned for her and don’t want her to hate herself or get harassed cuz she looks like a boy, and I do want her at my wedding but I don’t want her to feel like she’s standing out too much as a girl that looks like that.
Sorry this post was kind of word vomit like I said I’ve never posted on reddit and this is the first time Im actually talking about this situation with anyone. So AITA for giving my future SIL advice on being more feminine so she doesn’t get mistake for a boy???

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• I drink socially, maximum 1 drink per month.
• I do not smoke, nor do I use recreational drugs
• Had an eating disorder for most of my teen years
• Improper dental hygiene for most of my teen years
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