I'm 5'1, 130 lbs, and a lady for reference. I actually have the NEMO Forte 35 in the men's version, but when I purchased it, I didn't realize what the difference between men's and women's bags were. Since it was used gear, I couldn't return it. I didn't know women's bags are more well insulated until a few months ago... so even though I LOVE the bag, my feet are always cold when I use it. Otherwise it is so amazing- lightweight and comfortable!
I jumped the gun and bought the same one in the women's version because it was a really good price and because I have faith that this one is better suited for me, I hope lol.
Has anyone else had an issue with their feet getting cold in their sleeping bags? I'd say the coldest I've slept is 35-40F. I get that these temperature ratings are usually more "optimistic" but my feet were sooo cold the last two times I used the bag. I also use a bag liner but it's still cold down there. I'm wondering if I need to bring a lightweight quilt or camp blanket but I want to do more backpacking this year.

My associate F (20's) is 'friends' with M (20's). However, from my perspective his behaviour has been concerning and/or odd from the day she met him. My associate met him through her situationship (X). He M (20's) was a close friend of X.
X and her were seeing each other, but weren't in an exclusive relationship. M 20's, let's call him Y, began hitting on her and/or making passes at her behind X's back F (20's), let's call her Z, told X about the above because she didn't like it. Y stopped for a time. However, Z mentioned that Y was behaving in a manner that seemed like he has romantic interest in her even after the above.
Y and Z became quite close at some point as friends. He seemed to want and/or need access to her via call and/or in-person multiple times a day (sun up until sun down). Z informed me that Y often didn't want X to know that he's hanging out with her, and often looked guilty when she exposed him to X via video call. He often came to her house, invited her over and/or to sleep over, go out with her, called her multiple times a day, and would often tell her to 'come home' to his house.
Z also informed me he was quite touchy with her ie., hanging his shoulders over her, playfighting, touching her hair etc. Z told Y to limit and/or stop that behaviour multiple times but he wouldn't listen. I witnessed this when we all hung out before, and she got quite drunk.
He rarely took no for an answer regarding outings, paid for all her meals, sent Ubers to pick her up, if she didn't want and/or couldn't come to his house. Y would even show up at the house too regarding the above. The above concerned me, but I don't know whether or not this behaviour is normal for close adult male- female friendships.
He even confessed and/or indicated multiple times that he likes her. However, Z informed him multiple times that she doesn't feel that way about him. Y mentions every once in awhile how she should just pick him (romantically). Z considers Y her best friend atm. In the past she would call him controlling and/or domineering. On outings he would often limit alone time between her and X ie., preventing her from sitting beside X, limiting alone time between X and Z.
I'm curious whether Z's behaviour and/or lack of boundaries has encouraged him to continue to persue her romantically on the sly. Z is actively dating and/or talking to other man (romantically). Y is persuing a women in a relationship atm, while still engaging in the aforementioned behaviours with Z. Although Z has re-enforced boundaries with Y.

1. Z often gives Y access to her 24/7 either through call and/or in-person
2. Z doesn't like to be alone, and always needs to be talking and/or around someone. Y is usually available and/or intitates himself ie., during work hours and/or after.
3. Z calls him if she's emotionally distressed, and he is her go-to shoulder to cry on.
4. She has female and/or alt friends.
5. Z told Y never to keep anything from her. ** Y didn't inform her that X was married. However, it turns out he found out about it a little while after meeting her. Z found out months later.
6. Z gets offended if Y hangs out without her, and/or without her n' his roomies (who she now associates with). **Her relationship with them is weird/complicated.

Z can do as she pleases. However, I'm curious whether this is indicative of a standard close male- female frienship or something else? Z is new to these types of frienships too.
TL;DR - I'd like to understand whether or not this is a normal and/or healthy friendship between a man and women. Male friend appears to be making romantic gestures/passes at associate F20's even after being rejected multiple times. Male friend appears to go after women he can't have and/or in relationships.

Hey so this is a followup post fromm a pervious post where I talked about a girl who rejected me trying to study with her. Long story short, there was a female friend that I liked and wanted to get closer to by studying. She agree to study with me, but the day of she ghosted. I found out that day that she ended up studying with another guy that I think she likes. I found this out because they were in a room down the hall from me and she unintentionally ran into me.
Well after that day, I pretty much left her alone based on the advice that I was given by fellow redditors. Here the thing, SHE WONT LEAVE ME ALONE. She now comes and talks to me everyday. Just yesterday, she wanted to invite me to lunch with her and the other guy. I politely decline. Late last night, I was in my study room and she came barging in wanting to talk to me. I stay silent and she pretty much ran her mouth for 20 minutes. She also told her female friends some of my secret hobbies like ( me liking female pop stars). When I confronted her about it, She told me that she remembers everything about me. This particular hobby is something I told her one time 8 months ago. I'm surprised she remembered.
The biggest problem is that the guy she hangs out with doesn't like me. He constantly ignores me in convo and follows her around everywhere. If she comes to find me, he is always there. Plus it he plans an outing with the classmates, I'm never invited.
I'm trying to move on and she is making it difficult because I feel like she's dangling a carrot in front me. The part I don't like either is that she doesn't text me at all. But she's gets extremely mad if I don't want to sit next to her or talk to her throughout the day. At this point, I'm super quiet and she will run her mouth anyway.
What should I do?

Think about it, the market always crashes at a fed pivot so we just should never pivot. we could make no actual products and have no one be able to afford anything, but that’s irrelevant. you just pump, hype, take on new debt, dilute shares to get cash flow, up guidance on cash flow from dilution and if you ever miss estimates just announce buy backs with the diluted cash.
Just infinite pump. Plus why can’t we just secretly give the bank printed cash. The public doesn’t even have to know we can just sell our children’s futures for short term gain AGI is coming, sure we have only seen 2% of all ai promises and sure powerful bots can’t really challenge the system because that would require controversy in any direction but full self driving is only two years away, and next year it will be two years away.

Just played a few ranked tournaments for the first time in a while and was surprised to get into one in less than 30 seconds. Then figured out why. Now tournaments only require 8 teams and have 2 qualifying rounds before reaching the finals. Before, tournaments required a whopping 16 teams just for 8 of them to get dropped after the first round. Gotta say this new format just makes more sense, feels like the right length, and dramatically cuts down on queue times. Having 3 qualifying rounds felt kinda unnecessary tbh and the progression of qualifier, semifinals, then finals just feels more natural and it's how it always should have been. Gotta say I've been on board with just about every change the devs have made to this game. It just keeps getting better imo

10 years ago my mom, my little brother & I came to the U.S from a war torn nation. I have always praised my mom for seeking a better lives for us with her limited English. However, 2 years after living in the U.S, my mom started dating a guy in secret. I was 14. When he calls, she move away from us & scold us if we go near her. She started making me & my brother sleep at 7 so she could bring him over since we were still missing our dad that she didn’t want us to have a relationship with bc she was forced to marry him & she hates him. She told us about her bf one day and asked if we are okay with him being around. Mind you, we have only met him twice. We nodded bc we had to. The guy moved in with us w/o any notice. We live in a 2 bd & 1 ba apartment, so living with a stranger was weird for me & i barely interacted with him. I had to share a room with my brother as teenagers which is annoying bc no privacy. Despite her bf being in his 30s, he was working a pt that paid $10, my mom was working at a warehouse making a bit more. my mom’s friends warned her about the guy & she cut them off. She made me cook for him as a 14 yo while she was at work. I spent weekends cooking miserably instead of enjoying the rest of my childhood since my early childhood was stolen by the war.
They had a son and my mom became a stay at home mom relying on his unstable income. My half brother is now 4 & my mom is still at home. we are still in the same 2 bd & 1 ba moldy apt that leaks & soak the carpet & causing sickness, especially to me bc I have asthma .I got a job at 16 so I can take care of myself, my brother & even her bc I can’t ask her bf for money since he isn’t my dad. I hate my mom bc she went from being a strong mom to weak women in debt bc of her deadbeat bf. I now work ft while being a ft college student so I can take care of me & my siblings. My mom won’t get a job bc he doesn’t want her to work. He wants her to raise his son until age 5 before working again bc he is controlling. I find this so stupid bc in this economy, both of them need to work.
I can’t move out bc my job is not enough to get me an apt. I could get a studio but my heart won’t let me move & leave my siblings at the hand of my mom and her bf. I now sleep in my car & save $ so that I can graduate, start my business & get out of this poverty with my siblings. I am not close to my mom anymore . She never listens to us bc she is always right. She wishes my brother & I would die every time we make a mistake & make her mad. She regrets having my brother & I. She used to beat, bite, & call me names if I made a mistake. This has destroyed my self esteem. I am now almost 20 & don’t know myself & I am a people pleasure. don’t have a life or friends. All I do is work, study, & take care of my family bc my mom’s bf works far away.

I, f 25 have been with my boyfriend, m 28, for a few years now. Things have been great and we've been through quite a bit together already but there's always push back when it comes to his family. He can freely say how much he doesn't like my sister or other family members though they have went out of there way to do nice things for him. (My sister has no filter so she is a little rude at times but still makes him homemade desserts or gets him/makes him stuff for Christmas and birthdays) his family on the other hand can do no wrong. I am also very close with my sister as she is the only person I really have left. Her and I don't really have friends or much family left and what we do have is down right horrible. But anyway, his family disregards what I say or ignore me all together. They've given me multiple back handed compliments or just been rude to my face or they've went out of there way to invite him to family things but not me, whereas they specifically invite his siblings SO's. I know people say they assume he'll just invite me to go with him but it'd be one thing if they did that with everyone not just me. I practically begged to make Christmas cookies with his mom just to be blown off and when Christmas came around she proudly dispalyed they cookies they made as a family without him or me. But when I brought it up that she could've called or texted to as me to help she just started talking to someone else. He's left me alone with his other siblings and they've whispered together instead of talking to me or they've texted eachother while I'm just sitting there though I have tried to talk to them they ignore me or roll their eyes. I've made homemade dessert for family gatherings just for people to not even touch it bc someone else made something. I've given them a car without any sort of payment bc they needed it at the time. They don't treat him great either. Most of the time, when it's not a holiday, if they call him it's bc they need something done or fixed like a computer or they need help putting in a fence while the other siblings watch or stay in the house. The parents boast their other kids/kids SOs accomplishment but not his. He sees nothing wrong with this though, like even if it is the normal for him he's a grown man and should be able to see that it's not right. He gets annoyed when I say anything so I've just been holding it all in but should i finally say something about it? He keeps telling me I'm overreacting but I'm just sick of being quite about it now. I've stopped seeing them all together bc I can't deal with it anymore and I've asked him to say something at least on my behalf but he says there's nothing to say as they haven't done anything wrong. I just dont know what to do or how to handle this situation. Any ideas?

I got to know one of my brother's friends (male) a while ago. He has a girlfriend, we all know each other now. Somehow, I ended up moving in with them recently.
Sometimes he tells her he's sleeping over in another town because of work, but in reality he's cheating. He used to tell me this kind of stuff before I moved in, and I always reproachrd him. He stopped mentioning this at all after I moved in; I either sense it or my brother basically tells me.
She once called him at night being hysterical, telling him to come home, to do a video call...etc. He came back and made her apologise. He was cheating that night.
I don't want to meddle because of the "bro-code" or whatever it is (tho I don't care much for that sort of thing). I'm no snitch, that I really care about. I also sensed a crush for her for a while, so that's an even stronger reason not to meddle as I might not be objective. Basically not my place.
I can't help but like throw hints here and there when we talk about general stuff, like "follow your instincts," etc.
I won't meddle in, but humor me. Her and I, we have a different way of communication. Without getting into too much detail, I can basically convey the message without being present or using direct language (no metaphysics, lol). But still, I won't do it.
He says he wants to marry her. He believes that a relationship and his sleeping around can and will coexist. "These dreams are made of this, who am I to disagree?" AITAH?

Hi yall, Fairly new on here so bear with me. Looking for advice and open. I’m a very driven employee and is super focused at what I do. I ask lots of questions, coachable, always positive and a go getter. Sometimes im not feeling challenged in my role and I don’t get much feedback and feel stagnant. Most the time I get feedback like you’re doing good. Keep in mind it may affect my pay.. I’ve tried asking for help and it never happens. If I do better, I get paid more. I’m not sure I’m getting the right guidance. Most times I almost think I’m bothering my bosses if I ask for help. Any advice on another way to ask for help or am I just SOL?

22F. Seeing another neurologist and getting an EMG in three weeks but would like to get other people’s opinions - my PCP has no idea what’s going on with me. What am I missing/where do I go from here?
Current symptoms: - perceived weakness and neuropathy in left hand/wrist (feels like a weird burning/tingling sensation, sometimes triggered by the cold but present a majority of the time) - this is by far my worst symptom - occasional tingling sensations in other extremities, but never as frequent as left hand - bad upper back pain (comes and goes, gets worse with certain positions and never in one specific area) - derealization/brain fog (feels like I’m out of it/in a different universe, also hard to describe) - occasional chills/shivering - fatigue (sort of comes and goes in waves)
Timeline of my symptoms:
Feb 2023: fell twice while drunk (don’t have balance issues), woke up a two days later with terrible back spasms. A few days after that I noticed weird tingling sensations in my hands and feet and freaked out, also generally not feeling well/having a lot of fatigue. Freaked out about having MS - doctor did brain MRI and told me to chill out, symptoms went away.
Sept 2023: started experiencing chronic fatigue and derealization, chalked it up to weed withdrawals (I was cutting back at the time).
Oct 2023: got Covid - brain fog and fatigue got a lot worse.
Late Oct 2023: started having weird stomach issues - constant bloating and random sharp pains in lower abdomen. Got some tests done, this went away in around a month.
Early Nov 2023: started getting vaginal pain/constant burning sensation. Got more tests done, also went away in around a month.
Dec 2023: started feeling a bit better, then had a terrifying experience on THC (fully disassociated and thought I was dying multiple times), quit for good.
Mid Dec 2023: started talking birth control for PCOS as per gyno’s recommendation.
Late Dec 2023: started getting weird muscle weakness in both left hand and foot, went away in around three weeks. Also felt chest pain a few times and ended up in the ER for it, where I got my heart tested. Fatigue was pretty bad this whole time.
Jan-Feb 2024: muscle weakness mostly gone, fatigue slowly improving throughout these months, still dealing with some brain fog. Resumed weed use which was probably a bad idea.
March-May 2024: Quit weed for good. Switched to new progestin-only birth control because the combination one was giving me high BP. Started getting all this weird neuropathy and joint pain all over the place, for a few days it was super bad in my left/hand wrist and since then it’s been mostly in that area. Makes me wonder whether I have carpal tunnel or some nerve compression problem - it’s pretty painful. Sometimes shows up in left foot but not that bad there. Still have some derealization and brain fog that shows up for a few hours a day - it’s weird. Fatigue and back pain still present. Symptoms come and go in ways though - I have both good and bad days. I’d like to think I’m improving overall, but days like today make me not so sure of that.
Medical history: - had spinal fusion surgery for scoliosis in thoracic spine when I was 15 - PCOS - no family history of any autoimmune or neurological conditions except for grandmother with MS
Medications/drugs: - take 2,000 IU of vitamin D3 every day - started birth control in December (right before the neuropathy started - wonder if they might be related?) - chronic daily THC abuse for ~14 months right before all this started, been sober for several months now (possibly related?)
Tests I’ve already had: - brain MRI in Feb 2023 and March 2024 - both showed unchanged one/possibly two nonspecific T2 hyperintensities that the MS specialist said were benign - cervical spine MRI - 100% clear - full abdominal and pelvic ultrasound - clear except for benign liver finding that doctor is not concerned about - chest x-ray - 100% clear - two EKGs - normal - thoracic spine x-ray - clear, showed that screws from surgery are in proper place - stool test - normal - urine test - normal - pap smear - atypical cells of undetermined significance, HPV negative - doctor said not to worry about it/continue screening every three years - lyme disease test - initial screening came back positive but confirmation tests were negative so doctors concluded it wasn’t lyme - B12 test - 526 (normal) - A1C - 4.8 (normal) - Rheumatoid factor - normal - C-reactive protein - normal/on lower side - ESR - normal/on lower side - SPEP panel with immunofixation - all normal - Jo-1 antibody - normal - CBC and complete metabolic panel - all normal - hepatic panel - normal - Methylmalonic acid - normal - TSH with reflex - normal - troponin - normal - PT-INR - normal - magnesium - normal - lipase - normal - serum protein electrophoresis - normal - mono (multiple times) - negative - reproductive hormones - elevated androgens (hence the PCOS diagnosis)

So I've been wanting to rant this for a while and I'm finally willing. I had a journal when I was younger and I just found it again so I'm just posting based from what I read and remember. So first is kinda the backstory. This starts from 6th grade to 8th grade. In 6th grade there was two sides and the rest of the friends, these will not be real names. So I was on the side that was mostly in the right/didn't start it. There was me and this girl I'll call Kelly, then on the other side was Lav and Jams. The rest of the friend group was more like bystanders and kind of judges to both sides. The main judge was May, who was the therapist friend for a lot of my friends throughout elementary and middle school. Kelly and Jams always conflicted over stupid things. After me and Lav got our side of the story we came together and talked about it, sometimes bringing it up to May for help. At the time Lav had a boyfriend I'll call Bear. Bear and Jams hated each other, but they both wanted to hang out with Lav. Our teacher literally made Lav have to hang out with only one of them because they fought so much. During this time me and Jams were having problems with our sexual and gender identity, and Kelly was homophobic, which was also another reason Kelly and Jams conflicted. So in 7th grade Kelly and Jams were no longer friends, during some lunch hours I would go to Kelly and Lav's lunch (they had a separate lunch from me and Jams). They vented about Jams a lot and I never expected them to be friends again. Not much else happened in 7th grade besides Jams dating about 20 people (yes this is an accurate number) and finding out they were transgender. In March or some time near then of that year they brought a flag to school (I think it was omnisexual) and started telling people that was my sexuality when I wasn't out (they told Kelly and May). I didn't know about this until my birthday party in late summer when May and Lav told me. May started texting Jams and Jams ended up blocking me. About halfway through 8th grade me and Jams became friends again, although they manipulated me and my friends. Now, they still haven't figured out their gender and sexual identity at this point. They got mad at me for flirting (terriblely) with their boyfriend. Their boyfriend did flirt back and was totally comfortable about it and knew it was platonic. Me and their boyfriend did start dating after they broke up and that lasted for a month. We were friends afterwards but because we started dating Jams hated me. They said I was using them and making their boyfriend get a cursh on me even though I've told them we were just joking. Soon after I gave them a letter explaining everything from 6th grade from my PoV and they stopped hating me. They were still annoying and said stupid things, they also do not respect boundaries at all and have literally put their hands around my neck like they'd strangle me. They also jump on my back and said things that made me uncomfortable (flirting with me in a weird way) even though I told them to stop.

Hello people of computers. As said in the title I want to get into computers. By this I mean I want to learn more, I want to learn how computers work, I want to learn how to program, I want to learn Linux, and so on. I know this may sound like a lot and I already know the comments may think this is crazy but I’ve always liked them and just don’t know where to start. I’m not sure if this helps but I have a windows 11 laptop that’s fairly powerful, I know a tiny bit of python, and yeah, that’s about it. Thank you for any help.

Hello, I am a Single, 46yr old man, I have no children, no Baggage in Texas, close to Austin…I was in the Military for a while, always gone, other things in life just kept coming up...many years later, now I want that life I missed out on...
I am a laid back Texas Man, easy to talk to...Bonus points if your Local, but open to all of U.S., and probably Canada if you're willing to move to me.
(As for Ages,18+ Minimum and Older 20's - 30's message me...I'm open...) I am looking for a 'Longterm relationship', that will one day lead to a family, and children, this is what I really want…I am a kind man, with a good heart, I am just looking for my other half.... I have a home, and all that’s needed, just need the right woman…I am Willing to go Slow at first, so we get to know each other, date, whatever makes you feel comfortable.
You can work, or be a housewife who takes care of the home, cook's the food, care's for our future children, and care for me, and my needs. I prefer white, and Hispanic woman, on the slim, to slim thick size...You will Need to be willing to Show face, and eventually Face Time, so that I know you're real, and no ones time gets waisted, this is a must, pls send a pic or two with your first message, Anything else you'd like to know, just ask... Also, if you're just gonna message me, say a few words, and disappear, don't bother messaging me, I'm looking for something real here...No cat fish, and No sellers, Not Interested
Message me with your favorite color, and a pic or two, so I know you read this far...
(Also, if I don't reply right away, I will have limited wifi, as I will be on a cruise from the 16th-20th...I'll reply to you when I get back...

A federal judge has offered me an interview for a term clerkship and requires that I pass a background check. I would love to clerk, but I am worried about my ability to pass the background check. I have to fill out portions of the background check before for the interview. Trying to keep details somewhat vague so I don't dox myself.
One question on the application asks, "During the last 5 years, have you been fired from any job for any reason, did you quit after being told that you would be fired, did you leave any job by mutual agreement because of specific problems, or were you debarred from Federal employment by the Office of Personnel Management or any other Federal agency?" At the end of 1L, I applied for and was accepted to participate in a clinic through the USAO in a federal district. In the federal background check, I was honest about how I used drugs when I was younger and that I don't use anything right now except marijuana occasionally. In retrospect, I probably didn't need to be quite so forthright in voluntarily disclosing drug use, but I was perhaps naive and was just trying to be honest. The person running the program called me to tell me that I didn't make it past the security screening most likely because of past drug use and that I could probably apply for federal jobs after a little more time passes to make the drug use more so in the past. Because of this, I did not do the clinic.
It has now been 3 years, and I graduated law school one year ago. Obviously I can do some more research and potentially get in touch with the person who called me about not being able to do the clinic for clarification, but I thought it might be helpful to get some different perspectives here. Do you think what happened constitutes being "debarred from Federal employment by the Office of Personnel Management or any other Federal agency?"
I acknowledge that I haven't always made the best decisions in my life and that this post probably makes me sound like an idiot. I want to do the right thing here, but I also don't want to disclose negative information about myself when it might not be necessary. Thank you for bearing with this post, and I appreciate any advice you might have

Hi, all-like many of you, my life is already insanely busy and I would like to squeeze in the CFP exam.
A little background: I have been in the industry for about 15 years, worked at an RIA and then formed my own, which grew to 150 million before I sold my book.
I was always too busy running the company, doing marketing, and working with clients to take the CFP. I have done many financial plans and am good at the process – so I already have plenty of real world experience.
Now, I would like to finally get the mark, but my life is busier than it has ever been. Any tips from those who have been in a similar situation? You want to get the CFP but life is already full. Thanks in advance!

Yeah, I know I'm too old to still be a virgin, and it sucks. I'm not ugly; there are some people I know who like me. I'm an outgoing person and I like to travel.
I'm a very horny guy. Almost every day I masturbate, sometimes twice or more a day.
I'm attracted to both sexes, but more to guys. When it comes to girls, I only get horny for beautiful and sexy women, and I'm kind of picky with them. I know I'm bisexual, but I'm not out, although I have cousins and friends who are members of the LGBTQ community. Still, at this age, I'm afraid to come out because I know my friends and family say they accept the LGBTQ community, but deep down, they might still say something.
I think one of the main reasons why I'm still a virgin and having a hard time dating is because of my sexuality. I've tried using Grindr; I've talked to a lot of guys, but nothing happens in the end. I always end up deleting it. I've talked to and dated girls, but it doesn't work out.
Right now, I'm not pressured about being single because my focus is on my business, and I still have a lot of debt to pay off. I still want to end up with a girl because right now with guys, I only feel lust. I'm just afraid that when I find a girl I really like, I won't get aroused or won't be able to satisfy her.
I still want to have my own family and kids, but I'm afraid my sexuality might cause problems in my relationships.
I really just want to get this off my chest. Thanks.

TODAY'S RECAP

I was so bored with the show today. Liam gets all up in Deacon's business. Luna worries she's pregnant. RJ fusses at Brooke for fussing at Zende. Even Steffy's confrontation with Sheila bored me bc it was so very predictable. Knowing the topics, someone could write a recap without even viewing the episode.

RJ, Brooke, and Ridge at FC

RJ: MOMMMM! You shouldn't have fussed at Zende! 🤨 It's Luna's business. I want to respect her privacy. So, please stay out of it! 😦 I'm handling it. Gah! I don't need your help!
Brooke: I had to! 😦
RJ: No. No you did NOT have to! (💭 Don't make me regret telling you.😕)
Brooke: We're FAMILY! He slept with your girlfriend! 👩I had to know what he would say for himself (💭 🫤 Not much.)
RJ: Nuh uh! You did not HAVE to know ANYTHING! (💭 Getting mom to back off is not easy. Why does she have to know everything? 🫤)
I'ma draw a circle ⭕ around MY business and Luna's. That's called a BOUNDARY. This is you right here 👇 in the middle of OUR business. You need to get 👉 👉 👉 OUT. (💭 Okay, Reddit. That's what we wished he would have said 🫤.)
(What he really said, in the nicest way possible) Mommmmm. Don't do that. We need to respect Luna's privacy. I don't want you taking about it here or with dad.
Enter Ridge. 😀 What's going on? Something's up. What is it? 🧐 It's totally my business. Everything is. I get to butt in. That's my thing.
RJ: 🫤
Brooke: 🙄
Ridge: It's Luna right? 😀 Great gal! Office romance, huh. 👩‍❤️‍👨 I did that. I fell for this hot chemist 🔬😍. (Smoochy Smoochy 😘.)
RJ: (💭 Not your business 😒). Dad, it's not a BIG life or death thing, so can you just be cool with not knowing? 😐
Ridge: Nooo. Now I REALLY want to know!
RJ: It doesn't involve you two and it's not life or death, so. (💭 These two! Gah!)
Ridge: Ohhhh, I see. You're acting like a teenager, going to your mom for help.
Brooke: He's not in any kind of trouble 😐. (💭 Getting Ridge to back off is not easy. Why does he have to know everything? 🫤)
Ridge: Alright. Look, your mom gives great advice. Listen to her! 😀 I'm here too if you want to talk. (Redditors who are not fast forwarding are surprised he's letting it go. It's so un-Ridge.)
You're doing so great! 😀 HFTF👗is great! 😃 You have a great team 🙂 and that ain't easy! Your collaboration is great! 😊 It's all great! 😀 Everyone else thinks you're great too! 😃 And you and Luna are great! 👩‍❤️‍👨 Keep up the great! 😁
RJ: With Hope's vision, anyone coul--
Ridge: Nah. Not anyone. You're GREAT!

Luna and Poppy at FC

Luna: Ohhhhhhhh noooooooo.😟 I think I might be pregnant.🤰I have this pregnancy test, but I think instead of taking it, we should just speculate back and forth.
Poppy and Luna: (play 20 questions❓) We know you had sex❓ Yah 😟. With two guys❓Yah 😣. Did you use protection❓Yah 😢. Do you feel sick❓🤢 Yah yah yah! 🤢🤮 Have you ever felt like this before❓Noooooooooooooooo! 😩 It's a special, unique, new kinda sick! 😖
Luna: I don't want to mess up my life! 😫 What am I gonna doooooooo?! RJ just forgave me 😫.
Poppy: Oh! YAY! 😃👏👏👏 Told you so 😏.
Luna: I don't wanna baby! 👶🍼 Wah! 😩
Poppy: (💭 Yah. Obviously sweetheart. You might think your grown, but you're still a BABY! And kind of a big baby 🫤.) Don't get ahead of yourself. It could be something else. 🙄
Luna: Yah! 🙄 But nah 😞. Maybe I should just take the test? (💭 🤔)
Poppy: Yah. 😐
(⏰ Alarm rings.)
Luna: 😫 I can't look! 🫣 You look!
Poppy: 👀
Luna: 😟

Deacon and Liam at Il Giardino

Liam: Wtf are you doing? 🤨
Deacon: Working. Living my life. Saving Sheila. 😏
Liam: (💭 I'ma jump right into his business bc we used to hang out back when I was married to his daughter.) No one but you is happy Sheila's alive. 😒
Deacon: (💭 Dude. How is this your business? 🤔) I'm thrilled 😃 she's alive and so is Finn! 👨‍⚕️
Liam: 🤨 Ohhh, hey, that Finn part, that won't work for Steffy 😡.
Deacon: You want me to wish someone dead? 💀 Nah.
Liam: Wellll, no but you've invented an imaginary version of Sheila! 😇 Sheila BAD! 👺 She did all the very bad 😈 things. Don't you get that? Amirite?
Deacon: But not ONLY the bad things. Also a good thing - tryna save Steffy.🦸‍♀️
Liam: But the bad is very BAD 👹. And how do you know she tried to save Steffy? 🤔 You have only her word! She could be making shit up 🫲 left and right 🫱! She could be spinning stories ✍️, telling tall tales, presenting you with her fantasy 🧙🪄 fiction, exaggerating 😦, LYING!
Deacon: Or not. Look, I'm happy she's alive! And I didn't listen to anybody. If I hadn't searched texts📱, credit card 💳 receipts 🧾, and if Finn and I hadn't tracked her down and saved her from being chained up ⛓️ in that warehouse, she really would be dead ☠️😵.
Liam: Yay Columbo. 🔎 But what about STEFFY? I'm concerned about STEFFY! I have STEFFY on the brain! Finn can't protect STEFFY (💭 so I will!)
Deacon: Steffy is fine. Gah. I know Sheila's psycho 😵‍💫 history (💭🪓➰🔪🔥). And she knows I'm not a big fan of the attempted murders and shit. I was like, babe. Stop. 🛑 Not cool. And she was like, for you and my son, okaaaay, fine, I'll stop. ppffrrtt. Sheesh. 🙄
So yah, she's changed. She hasn't sprouted angel 😇 wings 🪽 but she's no threat. And Steffy can be relieved that Steffy The Blade Forrester 😏 didn't kill 🔪 Finn's birth mother.
Liam: Not funny. 🤨 All Steffy wants is NO Sheila in their lives. So maybe you and Finn could at least lay off the happy dance!🕺🕺
Deacon: Steffy could choose to be open minded and at least give Sheila a chance.
Liam: Nah! 🤨
Deacon: I'm in a happy dance🕺, cartwheel🤸‍♂️, spike the ball 🏈 in the end zone kinda mood. So's Finn. 😃
Liam: 😒

Steffy and Sheila at Deacon's apartment

(Sheila flashes back to Deacon's latest proposal. Steffy knocks, then walks in).
Steffy: YOUUUUUU! 😡😤 Alive and well! Blech! 🤮
Sheila: Hiiiiiii. I realize that you hate me, that you don't want to see my face, that you wish I were dead 💀, that all you can think about is the list of my violent 🪓➰🔪crimes against your family, but heyyyy. Let's chat. Why not? 🫲☺️🫱. I've been wanting to talk to you.
Steffy: Grrr! Snort! 😤
I hope you can at least understand Finn's feelings. He's jumping for joy 🤸‍♂️that I'm alive.
Steffy: 😡
Sheila: You too can feel the same if you just give a girl a chance, will ya? We can get our nails done 💅 and our hair cut 💇‍♀️💇‍♀️ together! I can be your BFF 👯, if you'll just overlook several instances of attempted murder 🪓, kidnapping ➰, arson 🔥, and what not. I'm all better 😇 now for real for real. I'm taking all soft and smooth and not choking 😵 you even a little. So, what'd ya say?
Steffy: Grrr! Snarl! Finn's emotions are all SCREWY, SCRAMBLED up, and FRIED by YOU! 🫨 He's essentially got fried egg 🍳brain! Huff! Puff! 😤
He's GOOD! 👼 He's a doctor!👨‍⚕️ He's saves people! That's his job! He NEEDS--
Sheila: Your support! Your understanding. (💭Your personality to be swapped out. 😒). He just needs a little--
Steffy: FINN NEEDS YOU 👉 and YOUR CRAZY ASS PSYCHO 🫨 BULLSHIT to STAY🫸 the iFUCK AWAY FROM HIM! 🤬 STAY OUT of our lives! Snarl! 😡
Sheila: (💭 This again. Reminds me of the time I shot 🔫🩸 this bitch. 🫤) I gave BIRTH to him. I--
Steffy: I! DON'T! CARE! 😤😡🤨 I DON'T CARE that YOU GAVE BIRTH to HIM! SOOOO FUCKING WHAT?! That means exactly NOTHING to ME! Grrrr! Growl! This stupid ass CONNECTION IS DONE! FINISHED! OVER! Got it BITCH? 😤🤨😡
Sheila: I'm his mother. You're a mother--
Steffy: DON'T TRY TO PLAY THE MOMMY CARD! YOU SHOT HIM!
Sheila: Well yah (💭 I was tryna shoot you). But that was 🫲 then. This 🫱 is now. Finn forgave me. ☺️ He's--
Steffy: HE'S kind and compassionate, unlike YOU! All you bring is LIES! MISERY! HEARTACHE! 💔 DESTRUCTION! 💥 TSUNAMI! 🌊 TORNADOS! 🌪️ And POOR WAIT STAFF CUSTOMER SERVICE! We could get pizza 🍕 again at the ONLY PIZZA PLACE IN LA! But you've DESTROYED our pizza outings that we just got back! We were FINALLY READY to venture into Il Giardino again. Now you've RUINED IT FOR MY FAMILY! ROARRRRRR!
Sheila: Well yah and I wanna change that. I have a new beginning. We can try different pizza toppings -- whatever you want!
Steffy: OHHHHHHH STFU about FRESH STARTS and FRESH IDEAS for TOPPINGS! I will NEVER try CHOCOLATE 🍫 or COCONUT 🥥 on MY PIZZA! It's just WRONG! Snarl! Snort! 😤 Grrr! 😡 Harumph! YOU run your STUPID, UGLY, BIG, FAT, STINKING MOUTH 👄 about FRESH STARTS every fucking time you pop back from the DEAD 💀 like a FUCKING ZOMBIE 🧟‍♀️or get released from prison!
STOP 🛑 STOP 🛑 STOP 🛑 STOP 🛑 with your FRESH START and your TWISTED BIOLOGICAL tie to FINN! It STOPS 🛑 TODAY! Right FUCKING NOW!
Sheila: Sputter. Ppffrrtt! Well. Gah! (💭 Little girl, aren't you the bratty, bossy bitch. Hmm. What to do about you. I'm not supposed to kill 🔪 you, dang it 🫤. Finn would prolly be mad 😠 and Deacon will scold me 🤨 and hafta bribe another judge. 👨‍⚖️ Phewy. 😕 Kidnapping ➰ is always an option, as long as they don't trace it back to me 😏. She's such a pain in my ass 🫤. I'll try to reason with her, but she's not exactly reasonable. Reformed me is an expert on reasonableness 😌.)
You're forgetting Finn saved me. He missed me and that changed him. He--
Steffy: He's DECENT! He's a DOCTOR. You ALWAYS SPEW the SAME STUPID INSANE GARBAGE. 🤮 Grrr! I gave FINN a CHOICE -- YOU or ME! He chose ME! And his SON! NOT YOU! WE are his PRIORITY! Harumph!
Sheila: Yah yah, as you should be, but he's made room in his heart ❤️ for me too. Why can't he have both? 😦
Steffy: NEVER! YOU are DEAD 💀to us. YOU don't MATTER. I don't care about you or what you do with your PATHETIC useless, pointless life. Growl! 😡
You are CANCELLED! ❌ I'm BLOCKING YOU ON INSTA and FACEBOOK! YOU OBSESSIVELY LIKE EVERY PICTURE! IT'S CREEPY AF! DO NOT try to sneakily FRIEND FINN on SNAPCHAT either! 😡 Huff! Puff! 😤 Or send him encrypted messages! And he's not even on Reddit bc he thought he was spending too much time looking at funny cats 🐱 swatting things! 😡 WE will NOT follow YOU on TIKTOK and YOU can't even DANCE💃 like a normal person! Your moves are demented 🫨! And your stories are LAME af! FUCK right tf OFF!
Sheila: But I'm MOMMY. I care about him and he--
Steffy: IF YOU actually CARED about FINN, you would LEAVE him tf ALONE! DON'T try to worm 🪱 your way into his heart! 😡
Go do whatever the fuck with Deacon. But STAY OUT OF FINN'S HEAD! 🧠 STOP 🛑 MESSING with his EMOTIONS! Snarl! 😠 FUCK OFF! WREAK your fucked up brand of havoc AWAY FROM US BITCH! Snort! 😤 YOU DON'T EXIST TO US!
If you don't, YOU WILL ANSWER TO ME! 😡
Sheila: 😐 (💭 Clearly, she's a problem 😕.)
Steffy: 😡😡😡 (💭 watching 👁️👁️ you).
The end.

The guy I recently started going out with is moving away to another continent for work. He asked me out and we made a loooot of plans which he all suggested. He really seemed into me and I started to really like him. All of a sudden its too much for him and he can't hang out with me anymore coz he's scared it's gonna compromise him going. He said he still likes me though but I'm doubting it. How can you let someone you like go? Wouldn't it make sense to explore what we have before he goes? He seems to insist to be friends but he takes forever to reply to my messages that are just me replying to what he asked me. And I know he's deliberately taking time to reply me coz we're in this group chat together and he always has something to say there, meanwhile he takes hours to respond to me and a times he responds the next day. I feel like I should throw in the towel and just let him go but I really like him and I feel there's hope he's going change his mind and want to hang out with me until his last day. What is his problem. Why do this to someone you like, I dont get it and do you think I should just let him go? HELP ANYONE😩😩😩😩

Before I start, let me apologize for the “long-windedness” of my story. It required a bit of explanation about the context and my job.
I work in property management as a consultant In a college town on the East Coast of the US. As you can imagine, it’s a lot of young people. Oftentimes a lot of college kids won’t understand a lot of concepts like guarantors, conditional deposits, and so forth. I personally enjoy it a lot, especially as a full-time student myself. I love being able to interact with people my age, it’s easier to connect, and I get a lot of joy from helping people understand things like this. It’s makes a lot easier since I worked in a banking for a little while.
While a lot of people might think that this “lack of understanding” would cause a majority of the issues and “problematic” people we have to deal with, I would argue the opposite. In fact, I tend to deal with a particularly higher number of entitled parents rather than students. Like your typical helicopter parent who still desperately tries to control every aspect of their little angel’s life, often at the expense of the student. Anyways, I had an interaction earlier that I think took the cake for one of the MEANEST parents that I’ve met. Not in the traditional way of yelling, screaming, and whining until your ears bleed, but rather, bullying completely random college-aged people.
We’re coming to the beginning of the summer, which means that “college housing” (for those who don’t know) is wrapping up. This is because a lot of people (students and parents) prepare for the next school year during the previous school year. This includes choosing classes, getting jobs, and, importantly, finding housing. This is especially so for upperclassman (sophomores, juniors, and seniors), who don’t live on campus as much (it’s possible, but off-campus housing is often nicer and you don’t have to share a bedroom/dorm).
Because of the fact that we’re coming to the end of our leasing period, we’re quite short on available housing. We sell 1, 2, 3, and 4 bedroom houses. The leases last for a year and we often have people renew. That’s good for us as it means we have to sell less, it’s bad for the college students who want to live where we are because we’re a small community and places within the community are often pretty competitive. With that being said, there is a somewhat common situation that presents itself. This is when a student renews their lease (for example in a 4 bedroom home) while their other roommate(s) don’t. For more context, each person signs an individual lease. This means some people can stay in a house while other people leave.
In order to deal with this, my complex tries their best to “roommate” match. Essentially, try to match hobbies, interests, and personality types to minimize the conflict between random roommates. However, bear in mind this is not a “requirement”. We cater to a lot of students, but we aren’t a student-only housing complex. With that said, one of the incentives to roommate match for my complex is that they make more money from the individual leases (more people that sign-on the more money), however, it’s worth noting that this benefit does NOT extend to us as employees. We don’t make commission, so for us it’s really just trying to be nice when we do it, because it is a considerable amount of extra work.
Just because we try super hard to make people happy, it’s doesn’t mean everything always comes to fruition. People fight, don’t get along, or just don’t “match”. We understand this, but we try our best.
Anyways, we received a call from a mother earlier today, she’d been trying for weeks to get her son (a renewing resident who currently lives in a 4 bedroom by himself who roommates left after the lease ended), lets call her Karen. Let me stop here and say that I don’t blame the son at all for his mom’s behavior. Sometimes it’s hard to control or think of the actions of the person/people who raised us as “wrong”. Especially as the son or daughter of a person.
Karen had been trying for weeks to find roommates for her son. A stipulation of our leases is that if you knowingly resign a lease knowing that your other roommates will not be renewing, that you are either willing to take the given roommate assignment (which again, we try super hard to match as best as we can, but are not “required” to), so in the case of Karen’s son, 3 additional roommates. Karen had been shooting down all of our roommate matches for weeks. She had given one of my coworkers an earful when she found that she would not be the one officially approving or denying each applicant for her son (again, they are not “their” rooms to choose, they only pay for 1/4 bedrooms and within the unit). Following hanging up in her (my coworkers) face, it would seem that Karen decided that was either going to find her son the perfect roommates or get the whole townhome for her son, but either way she was NOT going to pay the nearly $2400 for the four bedrooms (each room is roughly $599).
So as mentioned, good ol’ Karen continues to shoot down every one of the roommates that we find for her son. Also bear in mind that we are NOT associate with the university, so the people that we are giving her are other applicants that we actively have to SEARCH for in order to find. But as mentioned Karen shoots one after another down. Finally, my manager asks Karen exactly what she wants (what kind of qualities, person, etc.). Karen wants a graduate student or young professional for her son. This in itself is not an unreasonable request, not everyone likes to party (despite the fact we are a party school) and we do try to accommodate requests such as these.
Today, three young applicants come along (actually, one came a few days ago, one yesterday, etc.). We'd been compiling this list of people to go into the home who met Karen's specifications for roommates. We were essentially going above-and-beyond for no reason other than just being patient with her demands (sounds dumb, but other customer service people get me ;) ).
So, today, my coworker calls Karen and explains the good news that we have found roommates that fit her specifications. Karen inquires about the qualities of the applicants, what they do, are they in school, etc. My coworker proceeds to explain that two of the students are graduate students, and one of the people is a young professional (fresh out of college). The ages were about the same between residents, gender and personalities matched, and the specifications set forth by Karen were pretty much met. However, upon hearing that the other roommates were grad-students, Karen very suddenly exclaimed "ew, I don't want my son with a bunch of nerds, find him someone else".
Like WTF, she's never met them, she had barely even heard about them. We had just pitched the idea to her, and they met HER specifications, and she has the gall to say that they're "too nerdy" for her son. I took over the call and ended it somewhat professionally as my coworker was about to (reasonably) lose it. The guys were perfectly nice and seemed friendly, had similar hobbies, among other things. It's such a shame to see a GROWN-ADULT (Karen is 55 according to her profile with the company) bully actual college students. Especially completely and unnecessarily calling them nerds (which, for the record, just wasn't true, as when I met one of the guys he was JACKED), and even if he was, why do you have to say it?
Anyways, sorry for the super long rant, shoutout to my fellow college students, we'll see how it goes tomorrow when I get back to work (c'est la vie).

Hi!
I'm 21 and live with my parents in their apartment. My father is verbally abusive with my mom, I'm trying to get me, my mom, and 2 siblings out of here but in the meantime I don't know what to do. My father has been avoiding the apartment except to get his pills since mother's day as we didn't spend time with him obviously and did not let him talk to my mom. I live in California and have tried messaging his doctors, Partnership, various mental health hotlines, and they all say they can't do much and that our last resort might be to call the cops on him. I'm afraid that if I do, I'd be going against my mom's wishes (she doesn't want me to do much of anything despite the abuse taking a huge toll on me) or even worse the cops not doing anything. He's "calmer" than usual (cus we legit aren't seeing him around the apartment much except for an outburst right now in the moment I was writing this), but I'm afraid something will happen. He has threatened to accuse my mom of child abuse, yelled at me for getting between him and my mom (it's never gotten physical but there are lots of holes in our apartment, broken doors, and more because of his extreme anger and i don't want him to hit her. he once threw a TV at her or around her in Mexico when she was pregnant with me so he is definitely capable).
Who exactly am I supposed to call? My plan was maybe trying to get a subtle voice recorder and always have it on me at home and turn it on whenever he is yelling in that way to be able to show to someone else and see if I'm actually right or overexaggerating as we don't have any physical evidence, I know the recordings might not be admissible in court because California I think requires consent from all parties to record but I just want to get the opinion from a professional to see if this is actually abuse and enough to go off of currently. I was planning on maybe calling nonemergency police line but do they have to get involved or can they just park outside in an unmarked car just to see if it gets worse? I've seen my neighbor getting cops called but she was deep in a manic episode, destroying pots, breaking her husband's car window and my father wouldn't do that, he would simply drive off evetually after I get involved and tell him to leave.
I know the situation is bad, if you look at all my post history you'll see it's obviously bad but I've been talking to so many places and I think even if my mom were to get divorced from him, she would still have to interact with him because of my 8-year-old sister. My sister doesn't like him either I believe because she's seen firsthand and he has yelled at her before about stupid stuff. I think its really affecting her as she started fullout crying yesterday for accidentally making my glasses fall on the ground but I don't think any lawyers or cops I'll believe anything I say. I've been encouraging my mom and sister for my sister to go to therapy as I've been reading about custody fights where the therapist can help show that there is something going on, but I think my mom is just so used to it now that she doesn't want to do anything as we are financially dependent on him at the moment. I'm planning on taking a break from college again and get a job asap but I don't think she'll be convinced we can make it and my brother is trying to transfer next year to a 4-year so finances might be tough. My mom doesn't have a job as when she had a house cleaning one my father would always call her boss (he was a man) to check up on her out of jealousy and stay waiting for her at dropoff points. My mom only told her sister-in-law, my father's sister, and she passed away a few years ago so we don't have any witnesses. I was less than 10 years old and I had no idea until my mom told me. He's also tried to sexually assault my mom when me and my brother were 9-10 right in front of us but he didn't do anything because my brother came between him in time and me and him were kicking him out of the apartment - my parents didn't talk for weeks after that. I actually wrote what happened in a diary at the time in case I needed proof for cops but I have since thrown it away since I didn't want a reminder. I confronted him a few months ago about this after he threatened to take my mom to court over child abuse (she only smacked my sister's but after she smeared a whole bottle of lotion over herself and the bed - I'm usually with her and my mom and I've never see anything, my father was never around so I doubt he's seen anything I haven't seen), my brother has actually been hit by my father according to my brother but I think from what he said it was only one time when he was a minor. He's not mentally stable, he was also planning on suing his hospital after they told us about his history of 8+ years of meth use and how that is the reason he now has congestive heart failure, saying they painted him off as a drug addict and he never consumed meth and he doesn't know what they are talking about, and saying it would be karma if my mom, brother or sister died after a shooting occurred at a carnival they were at because my father had asked her if she wanted to go earlier in the day and my mom obviously said no. We never knew about the drug use, but we have seen him vaping, my mom has seen little packets of white powder in his clothes when she was pregnant with me in Mexico.
My sister is 8, my brother is 20 and I'm 21.
Sorry for the long post but I really just need some advice on what to do.