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2024.05.19 09:05 Alteredchaos š¢ Sunday News - with a focus on carers this week
Ministers apologise and return Ā£7,000 in benefits to woman, 93, with dementia
Government ministers have formally apologised and repaid Ā£7,000 to a 93-year-old woman whom they held responsible for running up benefits overpayment debts even though they were told she had dementia and was unable to manage her affairs.
The case, which the minister for disability, Mims Davies, admitted was ādisturbingā, was brought to light by the Guardian as part of its investigation into carer's allowance overpayments.
The agreement to write off the debt of the 93-year-old, whom the Guardian has chosen not to name, comes as ministers have promised to try new ways of sharing information with carers to try to prevent them building up months and years of overpayments.
Read the full article on theguardian.com
DWP confirmed that it is developing an āenhanced notification strategyā to alert carerās allowance claimants to possible overpayments
Notifications designed to encourage claimants to report changes in income and so reduce the risk of being overpaid.
As part of its policy paper, Fighting Fraud in the Welfare System: Going Further, that was published earlier this week, the Department says (at paragraph 78) -
Stephen Timms has also written to Secretary for State for Work and Pensions Mel Stride highlighting concerns about the DWP's lack of progress with overpayments since the previous committee's report in 2019. Mr Timms' letter repeats the committee's recommendation that the DWP increase the rate of carer's allowance and goes on to call for the DWP to review both the amount and the cliff-edge nature of the earnings limit and for the removal of the 21-hour study rule.
For more information, see Policy paper: Fighting Fraud in the Welfare System: Going Further from gov.uk
Carers UK has welcomed the DWP's plans, noting this is the 'minimum' they've been calling for to tackle carers' overpayments. However, Director of Policy and Public Affairs Emily Holzhausen also highlights that implementing the strategy is 'urgent', asks that the whole issue be moved out of being branded benefits fraud, and that carer's allowance be reviewed as it should be 'modernised to reflect the realities of caring'.
DWP-commissioned research highlights how the carerās allowance earnings threshold influences decisions about how many hours carers work
Report also makes clear that the Department was made aware three years ago that there was room to improve claimant understanding and possibly reduce mistakes leading to overpayments by improving its communications.
The research, Experiences of claiming and receiving carerās allowance, explores how and why people claim carer's allowance; their caring roles; experiences of combining paid work and care; and how well claimants understand the rules associated with the benefit. While carried out in 2020/2021, the research has been published today against a backdrop of calls for the wholescale reform of carer's allowance as a result of evidence that claimants who have earned above the carer's allowance earnings limit have been left with large overpayments and, in some cases, prosecuted for fraud.
While the research found that many claimants in employment felt there was a practical limit to the hours they could work, with many saying it was only feasible to be working part-time due to their caring responsibilities, it also found that -
In addition, with the Chair of the Select Committee Stephen Timms having said recently that the DWP has done nothing to stop carers building up huge overpayments despite knowing what people are earning, and the Committee having called on the National Audit Office to investigate the problems with the system, the research found that -
Almost 135,000 people currently have an outstanding carer's allowance debt, with more than Ā£250 million owed in total, according to figures supplied by DWP Minister Paul Maynard
DWP Minister also confirms that women represent 68 per cent of those with an outstanding debt.
Responding to a written question in Parliament from Work and Pensions Committee Chair Stephen Timms, Mr Maynard said -
Mr Maynard's written answer is available from parliament.uk
Total value of benefit overpayments in 2023/2024 increased to almost Ā£10 billion, representing 3.7 per cent of benefit expenditure for the year
New DWP figures also show that official error underpayments remained at around Ā£1 billion, and that people could have claimed more than Ā£3 billion more 'if they had provided accurate information about their circumstances'.
In Fraud and error in the benefit system: financial year 2023 to 2024 estimates, the DWP calculates how much money it overpaid or underpaid as a percentage of total benefit expenditure for the year (Ā£266.2bn) - for benefits including universal credit, housing benefit, personal independence payment, employment and support allowance and pension credit - and how many claims were paid an incorrect amount.
Note: the statistics no longer include estimates of claimant error underpayments as these are now published separately, as confirmed in recent DWP guidance.
In relation to incorrect payment rates across all benefits for the financial year ending (FYE) 2024, the figures show that the total rate of benefit expenditure overpaid was 3.7 per cent (Ā£9.7bn), compared with 3.6 per cent (Ā£8.3bn) in 2022/2023. In addition, the total rate of benefit expenditure underpaid was 0.4 per cent (Ā£1.1bn), compared with 0.5 per cent (Ā£1.2bn) in FYE 2023.
Looking in more detail at the figures for individual benefits, the statistics include data showing that -
Work and Pensions Secretary Mel Stride has set out the DWP's plans to scale up its 'fight against fraudsters'
New measures include using machine learning to detect and prevent fraudulent claims, as well as introducing a new Bill to enable benefit fraud to be treated like tax fraud.
Issuing a written statement in the House of Commons on 13th May, Mr Stride said -
For more information, see DWP updates Fraud Plan from gov.uk
In response to the above article the Disability News Service reported that the government's fraud policy paper ignores coronerās concerns over review of disabled womanās universal credit claim. Read the DNS article on disabilitynewsservice.com
Less than half of legacy benefit claimants who were sent a migration notice between July 2022 and March 2024 have made a claim for universal credit, according to new figures from the DWP
However, new DWP statistics also show that 60 per cent of households that claimed universal credit have been awarded transitional protection.
In Completing the move to Universal Credit: statistics related to the move of households claiming Tax Credits and DWP benefits to Universal Credit: data to end of March 2024, the DWP sets out figures for the period since July 2022, noting that -
Note: the DWP has also published Universal Credit statistics, 29 April 2013 to 11 April 2024Ā which show that there were 6.7 million people on universal credit in April 2024 (300,000 more than the 6.4 million in January 2024) and that half of households on universal credit that received a payment in February 2024 included children.
Department for Communities also confirms that claimants in receipt of other legacy benefits will be issued with migration notices 'in the coming months'
The Department for Communities (DfC) has confirmed that the 'Move to UC' rollout in Northern Ireland has expanded this week to include people receiving tax credits along with housing benefit.
Announcing the expansion of the process, Deputy Secretary of Work and Health at the DfC Paddy Rooney said -
For more information, see Tax credit with housing benefit recipients next to 'Move to UC' and Rollout of Universal Credit for Tax Credit and Legacy Benefit customers - screening from ni.gov.uk
57,000 adverse universal credit sanction decisions were made in January 2024, according to new DWP statistics
DWP statistics also highlight that around 95 per cent of decisions are as a result of failure to attend or participate in a mandatory interview.
In Benefit sanctions statistics to February 2024, the DWP reports on both the rate and duration of sanctions for universal credit claimants who are in conditionality regimes where they be applied.
Key findings include that -
The DWP notes that -
For more information, see Benefit sanctions statistics to February 2024 from gov.uk
DWP has admitted missing multiple opportunities to record the 'vulnerability' of a disabled woman whose death was later linked by a coroner to failings at the heart of its UC system
The Disability News Service reported on the case of Nazerine (known as Naz) Anderson, from Melton Mowbray, who died of an overdose in June last year, after receiving a UC review notice.
According to a prevention of future deaths (PFD) report sent to the department by coroner Fiona Butler, the DWP missed six opportunities to record Andersonās āvulnerabilityā on its IT system while it was reviewing her universal credit claim, and had failed to act on the mental distress she showed in phone calls about her claim. It also repeatedly failed to act on requests to direct its telephone calls and letters to her daughter.
The DWP admits multiple universal credit failures before disabled womanās death article is available on disabilitynewsservice.com
Number of emergency food parcels distributed across the UK by the Trussell Trust has increased by 90 per cent over the past five years
Food charity reports that it distributed more than three million parcels last year, with more than a million of them going to children.
In Emergency food parcel distribution in the UK: April 2023 - March 2024, the Trust says that it distributed 3,121,404 food parcels, the most parcels that it has ever distributed in a financial year, representing a four per cent increase on last year's record-breaking numbers for 2022/2023 and a 94 per cent increase since 2018/2019.
The charity also highlights that the number of parcels provided to children has continued to rise, exceeding 1.1 million in 2023/2024, and that food bank support is provided disproportionately to children, compared to the proportion of children in the UK population. In addition, it notes that pension age households are increasingly likely to need to use a food bank, with food bank support for these households having more than quadrupled between 2018/2019 and 2023/2024 (an increase of 345 per cent), compared to an 81 per cent rise amongst households without someone of pension age.
Also sharing statistics on the reason for referral for an emergency food parcel - which include health, benefit issues, work hour changes, insecure housing, changes in personal circumstances, immigration status and domestic abuse, as well as income and debt levels - the Trussell Trust says -
Employment Minister Jo Churchill has provided a House of Lords Select Committee with an undertaking that the administrative earnings threshold (AET) in universal credit will not be increased again without a 'sound evidence base'
However, Minister's evidence to Lords Committee fails to address its dissatisfaction with DWP's explanation for not publishing robust evidence to support previous increases in the threshold.
Further to the Lords Secondary Legislation Scrutiny Committee's report on new regulations that implemented a further increase in the AET from 13 May 2024 - that criticised the āinexplicableā lack of data evaluating previous increases in the threshold in September 2022 and January 2023 - the Committee held a one-off evidence session yesterday to question the Minister and DWP officials.
Introducing the session, Committee Chair Lord Hunt acknowledged that the DWP had agreed to share its informal findings supporting its AET policy. However Lord Hunt added that -
In response, Ms Churchill highlighted that the Department did publish a randomised controlled trial evaluation in 2018 providing the highest level of evidence on the impacts of increased in-work conditionality that Ministers have had sight of. When challenged that this evidence is somewhat outdated and 'a bit threadbare' - as it has been relied on for three increases in the AET - Ms Churchill indicated that Ministers also had early sight of unpublished research (a Regression Discontinuity Design (RDD) study) that compares the experiences of claimants who are just below and just above the AET.
When pressed on the expected publication dates for this and further evidence, Mr Churchill said -
Despite welcoming the Minister's reply, Lord Hunt went on to say -
Work and Pensions Select Committee has called on the government to bring forward proposals to compensate women born in the 1950s who suffered as a result of the DWP's communication failures when their pension age was increased, and asks that it does so in the current parliamentary session
Committee chair highlights lengthy delay and urgency for affected women and calls on government to act on Parliamentary Ombudsman recommendations before summer recess.
Writing to Secretary of State for Work and Pensions Mel Stride, Committee Chair Stephen Timms requests government support for 'urgent action' following the Parliamentary Ombudsman's final report in March 2024 which recommended a remedy based on level 4 of its severity of injustice scale, putting awards at between Ā£1,000 and Ā£2,950.
Mr Timms says that the Committee does not seek to question the Ombudsman's proposal for compensation at level 4, but instead has focused on what a remedy may look like -
Mr Timms also asks the government to consider -
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Government ministers have formally apologised and repaid Ā£7,000 to a 93-year-old woman whom they held responsible for running up benefits overpayment debts even though they were told she had dementia and was unable to manage her affairs.
The case, which the minister for disability, Mims Davies, admitted was ādisturbingā, was brought to light by the Guardian as part of its investigation into carer's allowance overpayments.
The agreement to write off the debt of the 93-year-old, whom the Guardian has chosen not to name, comes as ministers have promised to try new ways of sharing information with carers to try to prevent them building up months and years of overpayments.
Read the full article on theguardian.com
DWP confirmed that it is developing an āenhanced notification strategyā to alert carerās allowance claimants to possible overpayments
Notifications designed to encourage claimants to report changes in income and so reduce the risk of being overpaid.
As part of its policy paper, Fighting Fraud in the Welfare System: Going Further, that was published earlier this week, the Department says (at paragraph 78) -
'In carerās allowance we are progressing an enhanced notification strategy as part of our existing commitment to improve customer engagement, building on our existing communications with customers. As part of this notification strategy we are considering all forms of targeted contact to find the most effective and efficient solution, such as exploring the use of targeted text messages or emails to alert claimants and encourage them to contact the Department when the DWP is made aware of a potential overpayment.'The Department added -
'The new strategy will help claimants understand when they may have received an earnings-related overpayment or are at risk of doing so, and will encourage claimants to contact the DWP to meet their obligation to inform the Department of changes in their income and other relevant circumstances. This will reduce the risk of those customers being overpaid.'Note: having expressed concern that the DWP had 'done nothing' to stop carers building up huge overpayments of benefit despite knowing what people are earning, Work and Pensions Committee Chair Stephen Timms called on the National Audit Office to investigate problems with the carer's allowance system and, in particular, its failure to prevent or rectify overpayments.
Stephen Timms has also written to Secretary for State for Work and Pensions Mel Stride highlighting concerns about the DWP's lack of progress with overpayments since the previous committee's report in 2019. Mr Timms' letter repeats the committee's recommendation that the DWP increase the rate of carer's allowance and goes on to call for the DWP to review both the amount and the cliff-edge nature of the earnings limit and for the removal of the 21-hour study rule.
For more information, see Policy paper: Fighting Fraud in the Welfare System: Going Further from gov.uk
Carers UK has welcomed the DWP's plans, noting this is the 'minimum' they've been calling for to tackle carers' overpayments. However, Director of Policy and Public Affairs Emily Holzhausen also highlights that implementing the strategy is 'urgent', asks that the whole issue be moved out of being branded benefits fraud, and that carer's allowance be reviewed as it should be 'modernised to reflect the realities of caring'.
DWP-commissioned research highlights how the carerās allowance earnings threshold influences decisions about how many hours carers work
Report also makes clear that the Department was made aware three years ago that there was room to improve claimant understanding and possibly reduce mistakes leading to overpayments by improving its communications.
The research, Experiences of claiming and receiving carerās allowance, explores how and why people claim carer's allowance; their caring roles; experiences of combining paid work and care; and how well claimants understand the rules associated with the benefit. While carried out in 2020/2021, the research has been published today against a backdrop of calls for the wholescale reform of carer's allowance as a result of evidence that claimants who have earned above the carer's allowance earnings limit have been left with large overpayments and, in some cases, prosecuted for fraud.
While the research found that many claimants in employment felt there was a practical limit to the hours they could work, with many saying it was only feasible to be working part-time due to their caring responsibilities, it also found that -
- the earnings threshold appeared to influence decisions about how many hours some people worked. Even though claimants often denied that the threshold influenced their choices, they acknowledged being mindful to stay below the threshold. One claimant felt he had to refuse shifts at work that would take him over the threshold;
- in another example, the earnings limit led a claimant to reduce her hours as her wages increased, and eventually she was working so few hours that her employer felt it was not worth employing her due to her limited availability; and
- some claimants in paid work felt they might work more hours if not for the earnings threshold, and even suggested tapering the carerās allowance earnings rule to encourage claimants to work more.
In addition, with the Chair of the Select Committee Stephen Timms having said recently that the DWP has done nothing to stop carers building up huge overpayments despite knowing what people are earning, and the Committee having called on the National Audit Office to investigate the problems with the system, the research found that -
- poor communication on the part of the DWP meant that not all of those that had been overpaid benefit were clear on the reason for the overpayment;
- some said that while they were initially notified or questioned about an overpayment there was then no follow-up from the Department; and
- when the overpayment was initially raised, several claimants felt that they were spoken to or treated by DWP as though they had intentionally committed fraud when the overpayment had been a misunderstanding.
'... there is room to improve claimant understanding and possibly reduce mistakes leading to overpayments by improving communications around eligibility criteria. Since claimants did not engage with the detail of their benefit regularly, possibly only considering it once a year when they received their annual letter, more frequent communications may improve clarity of knowledge around carerās allowance.'Other key findings include that -
- most claimants cared for close relatives, with two in five caring for a child (39 per cent), a quarter caring for a spouse or partner (25 per cent), and one in five (22 per cent) caring for a parent;
- caring was a long-term and high-intensity commitment, with half of claimants (52 per cent) spending 65 or more hours caring per week and more than half (54 per cent) caring for between 5 and 20 years;
- only 16 per cent of carer's allowance claimants were currently in paid work, tending to work part- time in lower paid jobs that they were able to fit around their caring responsibilities, with most (81 per cent) working 20 hours or less a week;
- of those not currently in paid work, seven in ten (69 per cent) said this was due to their responsibilities as a carer, with other barriers including a lack of flexible working options, claimantsā own health and confidence issues; and
- there was a lag between starting caring and claiming carer's allowance, with seven in ten claimants (70 per cent) caring for 5+ years, but only 3 in 10 (34 per cent) having claimed carer's allowance for that length of time.
Almost 135,000 people currently have an outstanding carer's allowance debt, with more than Ā£250 million owed in total, according to figures supplied by DWP Minister Paul Maynard
DWP Minister also confirms that women represent 68 per cent of those with an outstanding debt.
Responding to a written question in Parliament from Work and Pensions Committee Chair Stephen Timms, Mr Maynard said -
'As of 14 May 2024, the volume of people who have an outstanding carers allowance debt is 134,800 with a total value of Ā£251 million. This figure represents the total stock and as such the total monetary amount may have been accrued over multiple years. Those who have an outstanding carers allowance debt may no longer be in receipt of the benefit.'Mr Maynard added that -
'Women make up the majority of carerās allowance claims, and this is reflected in the proportion of those with an outstanding carerās allowance debt. As of 14 May 2024, there were 42,800 (32 per cent) males, 91,900 (68 per cent) females and 100 (less than 1 per cent) not identified, with an outstanding carer's allowance debt.'The Minister also confirmed that, as of November 2023, there were more than 991,000 people in receipt of carer's allowance, consisting of around 271,000 (27 per cent) males and 720,000 (73 per cent) females.
Mr Maynard's written answer is available from parliament.uk
Total value of benefit overpayments in 2023/2024 increased to almost Ā£10 billion, representing 3.7 per cent of benefit expenditure for the year
New DWP figures also show that official error underpayments remained at around Ā£1 billion, and that people could have claimed more than Ā£3 billion more 'if they had provided accurate information about their circumstances'.
In Fraud and error in the benefit system: financial year 2023 to 2024 estimates, the DWP calculates how much money it overpaid or underpaid as a percentage of total benefit expenditure for the year (Ā£266.2bn) - for benefits including universal credit, housing benefit, personal independence payment, employment and support allowance and pension credit - and how many claims were paid an incorrect amount.
Note: the statistics no longer include estimates of claimant error underpayments as these are now published separately, as confirmed in recent DWP guidance.
In relation to incorrect payment rates across all benefits for the financial year ending (FYE) 2024, the figures show that the total rate of benefit expenditure overpaid was 3.7 per cent (Ā£9.7bn), compared with 3.6 per cent (Ā£8.3bn) in 2022/2023. In addition, the total rate of benefit expenditure underpaid was 0.4 per cent (Ā£1.1bn), compared with 0.5 per cent (Ā£1.2bn) in FYE 2023.
Looking in more detail at the figures for individual benefits, the statistics include data showing that -
- for universal credit, expenditure increased to Ā£51.9bn in 2024 with an overpayment rate of 12.4 per cent (Ā£6.5bn) and underpayment rate of 0.3 per cent (Ā£180m), compared to expenditure of Ā£43.4 bn, overpayments at 12.7 per cent (Ā£5.5bn) and underpayments at 0.6 per cent (Ā£240m) in FYE 2023;
- for personal independence payment (PIP), the overpayment rate was at the lowest recorded level of 0.4 per cent (Ā£90m), compared with 1.1 per cent (Ā£200m) in FYE 2023. However, the underpayment rate went up to 0.4 per cent (Ā£80m), from 0.3 per cent (Ā£60m) the previous year;
- for pension credit, the overpayment rate was 9.7 per cent (Ā£520m) in FYE 2024, compared with 6.8 per cent (Ā£330m) in the previous year, with underpayments remaining unchanged at 0.3 per cent (Ā£50m) for both years; and
- for housing benefit, almost Ā£1bn (Ā£980m) was overpaid in FYE 2024 (6.3 per cent of expenditure), compared with Ā£860m (5.7 per cent) in 2023. Underpayments remained stable at 0.4 per cent of spending (Ā£50m in FYE 2024 and Ā£60m in FYE 2023).
- the unfulfilled eligibility rate for 2024 is 1.2 per cent of expenditure (Ā£3.1bn), compared with 1.0 per cent (Ā£2.3bn) in the previous year; and
- universal credit, PIP and disability living allowance (DLA) account for around three-quarters of the total value of unfulfilled eligibility (at Ā£730m, Ā£870m and Ā£750m respectively in FYE 2024).
'PIP has the second highest unfulfilled eligibility rate [4 per cent] of all benefits and fairly high expenditure [Ā£21.6bn], so due to this combination, PIP accounts for around one-quarter of total unfulfilled eligibility in FYE 2024. DLA has the highest unfulfilled eligibility rate [11.1 per cent] but relatively low expenditure [Ā£6.8m], so even though its rate is higher than PIP, it accounts for a similar amount of total unfulfilled eligibility in FYE 2024. Universal credit has a lower unfulfilled eligibility rate than DLA and PIP [1.4 per cent] but its high expenditure means that it also accounts for a similar amount of total unfulfilled eligibility in FYE 2024.'For more information, see Fraud and error in the benefit system: financial year 2023 to 2024 estimates and Unfulfilled eligibility in the benefit system: financial year 2023 to 2024 estimates from gov.uk
Work and Pensions Secretary Mel Stride has set out the DWP's plans to scale up its 'fight against fraudsters'
New measures include using machine learning to detect and prevent fraudulent claims, as well as introducing a new Bill to enable benefit fraud to be treated like tax fraud.
Issuing a written statement in the House of Commons on 13th May, Mr Stride said -
'In the continued fight against fraud, today the Government will publish a new paper setting out the progress we have made in tackling fraud and error in the welfare system - Fighting Fraud in the Welfare System: Going Further. The paper sets out the progress we have made in delivering the commitments in the Government's 2022 command paper Fighting Fraud in the Welfare System and it demonstrates where we are going further to protect taxpayersā money from fraudsters.'Highlighting that the Data Protection and Digital Information Bill, currently before Parliament, will enable the Department to work with third parties such as banks to identify claims that signal potential fraud and error, Mr Stride says that the new measures being introduced include -
- bringing forward a new Fraud Bill in the next parliament to treat benefit fraud like tax fraud, by providing for the ability to make arrests and conduct searches and seizures by warrant;
- exploring a new civil penalty to punish fraudsters, potentially broadening the scope of cases that can receive a penalty when the courts are not prosecuting, and increasing the value of the civil penalty;
- tripling the size of the Targeted Case Review programme to reach almost 6,000 staff with the aim of saving Ā£6.6 billion by 2027/2028; and
- making changes to universal credit including new partly automated checks on self-employed income, new online prompts for claimants to re-declare their circumstances (such as if they have moved in with a partner), and increasing checks on capital when people claim the benefit to ensure they are eligible.
For more information, see DWP updates Fraud Plan from gov.uk
In response to the above article the Disability News Service reported that the government's fraud policy paper ignores coronerās concerns over review of disabled womanās universal credit claim. Read the DNS article on disabilitynewsservice.com
Less than half of legacy benefit claimants who were sent a migration notice between July 2022 and March 2024 have made a claim for universal credit, according to new figures from the DWP
However, new DWP statistics also show that 60 per cent of households that claimed universal credit have been awarded transitional protection.
In Completing the move to Universal Credit: statistics related to the move of households claiming Tax Credits and DWP benefits to Universal Credit: data to end of March 2024, the DWP sets out figures for the period since July 2022, noting that -
'In the period covered by this bulletin, the vast majority of migration notices have been sent to tax credit households whose likelihood of claiming universal credit and receiving transitional protection may be different from DWP legacy benefit claimants, the majority of whom had not yet been sent a migration notice in the period covered in this bulletin.'The statistics include that -
- a total of 824,050 individuals (in 540,070 households) were sent migration notices up to March 2024 - up by around 300,000 and 200,000 respectively compared to the totals for December 2023;
- a total of 400,940 individuals (49 per cent of those sent migration notices), living in 275,980 households, have made a claim for universal credit;
- of households that have claimed universal credit, 166,860 (60 per cent) have been awarded transitional protection;
- a total of 238,990 individuals who were sent migration notices are still going through the managed migration process; and
- a total of 184,120 individuals who were sent migration notices have had their legacy benefit claims closed.
Note: the DWP has also published Universal Credit statistics, 29 April 2013 to 11 April 2024Ā which show that there were 6.7 million people on universal credit in April 2024 (300,000 more than the 6.4 million in January 2024) and that half of households on universal credit that received a payment in February 2024 included children.
Department for Communities also confirms that claimants in receipt of other legacy benefits will be issued with migration notices 'in the coming months'
The Department for Communities (DfC) has confirmed that the 'Move to UC' rollout in Northern Ireland has expanded this week to include people receiving tax credits along with housing benefit.
Announcing the expansion of the process, Deputy Secretary of Work and Health at the DfC Paddy Rooney said -
'We continue to take a measured and carefully managed approach to migrating legacy benefit recipients to universal credit. We have already successfully completed issuing migration notices to tax credit only recipients and we will continue to take every step possible to ensure that everyone receives the help and support they need during this next phase of Move to UC.'The Department also confirmed that once it has issued migration notices to all those receiving tax credits with housing benefit, the following groups will be contacted in this order -
- people claiming income support;
- people claiming housing benefit only, and those claiming child tax credit with income-related employment and support allowance (ESA); and
- people claiming income-based jobseeker's allowance.
For more information, see Tax credit with housing benefit recipients next to 'Move to UC' and Rollout of Universal Credit for Tax Credit and Legacy Benefit customers - screening from ni.gov.uk
57,000 adverse universal credit sanction decisions were made in January 2024, according to new DWP statistics
DWP statistics also highlight that around 95 per cent of decisions are as a result of failure to attend or participate in a mandatory interview.
In Benefit sanctions statistics to February 2024, the DWP reports on both the rate and duration of sanctions for universal credit claimants who are in conditionality regimes where they be applied.
Key findings include that -
- in February 2024, 30.1 per cent of claimants were in conditionality regimes that were subject to sanctions and, of these, 6.52 per cent were sanctioned - down 0.64 percentage points from the previous quarter;
- over the last year, 94.9 per cent of adverse sanction decisions were for failure to attend or participate in a mandatory interview; and
- in February 2024, there were 20,000 completed sanctions in the 4 weeks to 13 weeks sanction duration band, 4,800 in the over 13 weeks to 26 weeks duration band, and 4,000 of over 26 weeks duration.
The DWP notes that -
'Comparisons with universal credit prior to February 2024 ... should not be made. This is because the data sources, methodology and rules of the benefits differ from those used for universal credit currently.'However, it adds that, following the reinstated duration measures and rate methodology improvements, the data is now determined stable and fit for purpose and, as of May 2024, it is published under the 'Official Statistics' label as opposed to 'in development'.
For more information, see Benefit sanctions statistics to February 2024 from gov.uk
DWP has admitted missing multiple opportunities to record the 'vulnerability' of a disabled woman whose death was later linked by a coroner to failings at the heart of its UC system
The Disability News Service reported on the case of Nazerine (known as Naz) Anderson, from Melton Mowbray, who died of an overdose in June last year, after receiving a UC review notice.
According to a prevention of future deaths (PFD) report sent to the department by coroner Fiona Butler, the DWP missed six opportunities to record Andersonās āvulnerabilityā on its IT system while it was reviewing her universal credit claim, and had failed to act on the mental distress she showed in phone calls about her claim. It also repeatedly failed to act on requests to direct its telephone calls and letters to her daughter.
The DWP admits multiple universal credit failures before disabled womanās death article is available on disabilitynewsservice.com
Number of emergency food parcels distributed across the UK by the Trussell Trust has increased by 90 per cent over the past five years
Food charity reports that it distributed more than three million parcels last year, with more than a million of them going to children.
In Emergency food parcel distribution in the UK: April 2023 - March 2024, the Trust says that it distributed 3,121,404 food parcels, the most parcels that it has ever distributed in a financial year, representing a four per cent increase on last year's record-breaking numbers for 2022/2023 and a 94 per cent increase since 2018/2019.
The charity also highlights that the number of parcels provided to children has continued to rise, exceeding 1.1 million in 2023/2024, and that food bank support is provided disproportionately to children, compared to the proportion of children in the UK population. In addition, it notes that pension age households are increasingly likely to need to use a food bank, with food bank support for these households having more than quadrupled between 2018/2019 and 2023/2024 (an increase of 345 per cent), compared to an 81 per cent rise amongst households without someone of pension age.
Also sharing statistics on the reason for referral for an emergency food parcel - which include health, benefit issues, work hour changes, insecure housing, changes in personal circumstances, immigration status and domestic abuse, as well as income and debt levels - the Trussell Trust says -
'Across all households the most common reason for referral was due to issues with income and debt levels. The vital role of the social security system in driving these trends is clear from the fact that the majority (78 per cent) of people referred to food banks were reported to solely have income from the social security system, with a further 8 per cent having earned income as well as income from social security.'Trussell Trust Chief Executive Emma Revie said -
'Itās 2024 and weāre facing historically high levels of food bank need. As a society, we cannot allow this to continue. We must not let food banks become the new norm ... A supportive social security system is the bedrock on which we end hunger for good. Building on this, we need much more effective employment and financial support for parents, carers and disabled people, and action to ensure everyone can have the security we all need to access opportunities and have hope for the future, through more secure and flexible jobs and investment in social housing. Food banks are not the answer. They will be there to support people as long as they are needed, but our political leaders must take bold action to build a future where everyone has enough money to afford the lifeās essentials. The time to act is now.'For more information, see End of Year Stats from trusselltrust.org
Employment Minister Jo Churchill has provided a House of Lords Select Committee with an undertaking that the administrative earnings threshold (AET) in universal credit will not be increased again without a 'sound evidence base'
However, Minister's evidence to Lords Committee fails to address its dissatisfaction with DWP's explanation for not publishing robust evidence to support previous increases in the threshold.
Further to the Lords Secondary Legislation Scrutiny Committee's report on new regulations that implemented a further increase in the AET from 13 May 2024 - that criticised the āinexplicableā lack of data evaluating previous increases in the threshold in September 2022 and January 2023 - the Committee held a one-off evidence session yesterday to question the Minister and DWP officials.
Introducing the session, Committee Chair Lord Hunt acknowledged that the DWP had agreed to share its informal findings supporting its AET policy. However Lord Hunt added that -
'... similar, no doubt to the material that the Social Security Advisory Committee saw but correctly declined, if information is not available to the House and the public, then we feel unable to consider it either.'The Committee then questioned the Minister about the Department's failure to publish evidence providing an assessment of the impact of increasing the AET either before or after implementing the change.
In response, Ms Churchill highlighted that the Department did publish a randomised controlled trial evaluation in 2018 providing the highest level of evidence on the impacts of increased in-work conditionality that Ministers have had sight of. When challenged that this evidence is somewhat outdated and 'a bit threadbare' - as it has been relied on for three increases in the AET - Ms Churchill indicated that Ministers also had early sight of unpublished research (a Regression Discontinuity Design (RDD) study) that compares the experiences of claimants who are just below and just above the AET.
When pressed on the expected publication dates for this and further evidence, Mr Churchill said -
'I have asked for [the RDD study] to be available as soon as it can be, and the date I was given was spring 2024 ... I would like it out the door as soon as possible, so you have more data ... RDD is the next piece, the next building block and then, the longitudinal study will come through in 2025.'Concluding the session with a final question, Lord Hunt, speaking on behalf of the whole Committee, said -
'... we're looking for an undertaking from you, not to further expand the cohort until the Department can publish robust evidence of its effects. Are you able to give us that undertaking?Ms Churchill responded -
'So are you alluding to us holding 15 hours or with this latest laying at 18? Because I could certainly say to you, I think with all confidence that at 18, we want to understand the iterations and make sure that we've got a sound evidence base from there.'NB - the increase in the AET in January 2023 was based, for individuals, on the equivalent of them working 15 hours per week at the National Living Wage, and this week's increase to the equivalent of them working 18 hours per week.
Despite welcoming the Minister's reply, Lord Hunt went on to say -
'... we accept your undertaking, except we are still as dissatisfied as we were because you haven't provided, in the view of the Committee, sufficient explanation yet. We are awaiting this robust evidence, which I think that we now expect in June 2024.'The evidence session Regulations to increase the Administrative Earnings Threshold (Legislative scrutiny) is available from parliament.tv
Work and Pensions Select Committee has called on the government to bring forward proposals to compensate women born in the 1950s who suffered as a result of the DWP's communication failures when their pension age was increased, and asks that it does so in the current parliamentary session
Committee chair highlights lengthy delay and urgency for affected women and calls on government to act on Parliamentary Ombudsman recommendations before summer recess.
Writing to Secretary of State for Work and Pensions Mel Stride, Committee Chair Stephen Timms requests government support for 'urgent action' following the Parliamentary Ombudsman's final report in March 2024 which recommended a remedy based on level 4 of its severity of injustice scale, putting awards at between Ā£1,000 and Ā£2,950.
Mr Timms says that the Committee does not seek to question the Ombudsman's proposal for compensation at level 4, but instead has focused on what a remedy may look like -
'The evidence we received indicated support for a rules-based system. This would be a system where payments would be adjusted within a range (based on the PHSOās severity of injustice scale) to reflect the extent of change in the individualās State Pension age and the notice of the change which the individual received. This would mean that the less notice you had of the change and the bigger the change in your SPA, the higher the payment you would receive. While not perfect, the advantages of such a system are that it would be: quick to administer; applying known data to a formula to determine the amount due; and relatively inexpensive (compared to a more bespoke system).'The Committee's recommendation also includes some flexibility for individuals to make the case for further compensation in the event that they have experienced direct financial loss, for example where a woman whose divorce settlement was less than it would have been because it was based on the expectation that she would receive her state pension at 60.
Mr Timms also asks the government to consider -
'... the need for urgent action, given that the Ombudsman started to look at this issue in 2018 and that every 13 minutes a woman born in the 1950s dies ... Implementing a remedy will need parliamentary time, financial resources, and the data and technical systems only available to your department. It cannot happen without government support. We would ask you to bring forward proposals for a remedy by the summer recess.'Mr Timms' letter to the Secretary of State for Work and Pensions is available from parliament.uk
2024.05.19 09:05 HeadConflict6769 Is my (32f) husband (31m) abusive?
Throwaway account for obvious reasons.
Some relevant backstory, around Covid my husband and I started drinking pretty heavily together. We were crazy binge drinkers. Got to the point of missing work and I had a mental episode while drunk that put me in the hospital. I quit drinking and have been sober a little over a year, he hasnāt. This week, I just picked him up from his second time in rehab. We have always jokingly picked at each other (sometimes too far and I always tell him when itās too far) but I feel like it may be escalating.
During his 2 most recent binges after months of not drinking, he has said some terrible things to me. I decided to get my septum pierced he was not happy.
āI donāt want you to uglify yourself.ā āYour nose is too big, you shouldnāt bring attention to it.ā
He sobered up and I told him what he said and he felt really bad and apologized. A week went by and he drank again. This time he said worse.
āIf it wasnāt for me you would have died alone.ā āYou could be hotter, you know?ā āI want a girlfriend, thereās a girl a workā¦.ā
He went to rehab before I got a chance to tell him what he said and how I felt about it. He got out and I asked him to go to couples therapy with me. He said yes. I told him certain things he said keep replaying in my head over and over and it hurts and idk how to forgive him. He said āIām not saying I wonāt go to couple therapy, but that sounds like an individual therapy kind of thing.ā Which hurt because heās the one who said these things to me and I feel like itās absolutely a couples therapy problem.
All of this to say, Iāve been thinking about things heās said and done since I quit drinking and Iāve talked with people very close to me and they think he is an actual narcissist. He said himself that he likes getting a ride out of me and watching my reaction to things. And he says he has a natural talent for finding insecurities and exploiting them. (Big ones for me are self esteem and being alone, hence why he said the things he did.) Iāve been reading a lot and we donāt argue, he never explodes, we talk about our lives and growing old and like spending time together. So Iām not sure what to think or feel about everything anymore.
When I told him everything he said he said he didnāt realize he was āabusingā me and that he promises he will never drink again and will get better about how he talks to me. I didnāt view it that way until he said it. Which is what has caused all of this reflection.
Does this sound like heās a narcissist? Is it possible for him to get better and not use harsh language toward me? Sorry if this seems jumbled Iām just very stressed. We have been married for 8 years.
tl;dr My husband says hurtful things to me and I donāt know how to forgive him or how to feel. Any advice on how to forgive him or proceed would be very helpful.
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Some relevant backstory, around Covid my husband and I started drinking pretty heavily together. We were crazy binge drinkers. Got to the point of missing work and I had a mental episode while drunk that put me in the hospital. I quit drinking and have been sober a little over a year, he hasnāt. This week, I just picked him up from his second time in rehab. We have always jokingly picked at each other (sometimes too far and I always tell him when itās too far) but I feel like it may be escalating.
During his 2 most recent binges after months of not drinking, he has said some terrible things to me. I decided to get my septum pierced he was not happy.
āI donāt want you to uglify yourself.ā āYour nose is too big, you shouldnāt bring attention to it.ā
He sobered up and I told him what he said and he felt really bad and apologized. A week went by and he drank again. This time he said worse.
āIf it wasnāt for me you would have died alone.ā āYou could be hotter, you know?ā āI want a girlfriend, thereās a girl a workā¦.ā
He went to rehab before I got a chance to tell him what he said and how I felt about it. He got out and I asked him to go to couples therapy with me. He said yes. I told him certain things he said keep replaying in my head over and over and it hurts and idk how to forgive him. He said āIām not saying I wonāt go to couple therapy, but that sounds like an individual therapy kind of thing.ā Which hurt because heās the one who said these things to me and I feel like itās absolutely a couples therapy problem.
All of this to say, Iāve been thinking about things heās said and done since I quit drinking and Iāve talked with people very close to me and they think he is an actual narcissist. He said himself that he likes getting a ride out of me and watching my reaction to things. And he says he has a natural talent for finding insecurities and exploiting them. (Big ones for me are self esteem and being alone, hence why he said the things he did.) Iāve been reading a lot and we donāt argue, he never explodes, we talk about our lives and growing old and like spending time together. So Iām not sure what to think or feel about everything anymore.
When I told him everything he said he said he didnāt realize he was āabusingā me and that he promises he will never drink again and will get better about how he talks to me. I didnāt view it that way until he said it. Which is what has caused all of this reflection.
Does this sound like heās a narcissist? Is it possible for him to get better and not use harsh language toward me? Sorry if this seems jumbled Iām just very stressed. We have been married for 8 years.
tl;dr My husband says hurtful things to me and I donāt know how to forgive him or how to feel. Any advice on how to forgive him or proceed would be very helpful.
2024.05.19 09:05 Front_Draft3692 Am I the jerk for defending myself against a psychopath
Ok I am 12M this my not seem important but I am 5,6 and big not fat but not skinny. The other person in this story I will call attacker he is 4,6M not to fat shame but he's a little over weight. This story starts I am playing basket ball attacker is on the other team.I am saying a bit trash talk but not much and nothing offensive. Now we have been playing for 5 minutes and I go get the ball after I went out. Just as I turn around attacker sucker punched me in the face. I am still in daze when i see another fist flying at me it missed but I put him in a simple head lock so he stops. He bits my hand its bleeding but I don't notice until 3 minutes later because of adrenaline. After I realized that he bit me I grabbed him the principal saw and the second attacker saw this he played victim
Now I am in the principals office geting talked to for defending my self they thought I pushed him not put him in a headlock. We ended up geting the same punishment BTW he has a history he transferred to this school in grade 5.on his first day he brought a knife and did it more than once. He also has bit multiple people.
6 weeks later. He curses at me and my little sister so loud you could here it 150 feet away. Next day. For no reason he is elbowing me a minimum of 50 times I asked him to stop told him to stop. Now we are at the end off the day in the boot room he elbows me I think schools done so I push him back. He punched me in the face luckly I am a pretty good fighter I was able to get 7 good hits below the sternum and 5 face shoots before I left he tried to bit my head.
Next day at the principals office. I can hardly plead my case because attacker was lying decent lies but anyone with a brain could tell he was lying he kept changing his story he was stuttering shaking. I ended up getting half a day in the office because it was my 2 strike he got no Punishment. I was glad I finished a day's work in half a day and actually ahead
It is now last week attacker is back t it again I will not get in to detail but hecalled my disabled friend the r slur and made fun of his medical condition.this a as at resses.back in class I call him a a&&(e for what he said he tries to punch me I block itonce again nothing happend to him
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Now I am in the principals office geting talked to for defending my self they thought I pushed him not put him in a headlock. We ended up geting the same punishment BTW he has a history he transferred to this school in grade 5.on his first day he brought a knife and did it more than once. He also has bit multiple people.
6 weeks later. He curses at me and my little sister so loud you could here it 150 feet away. Next day. For no reason he is elbowing me a minimum of 50 times I asked him to stop told him to stop. Now we are at the end off the day in the boot room he elbows me I think schools done so I push him back. He punched me in the face luckly I am a pretty good fighter I was able to get 7 good hits below the sternum and 5 face shoots before I left he tried to bit my head.
Next day at the principals office. I can hardly plead my case because attacker was lying decent lies but anyone with a brain could tell he was lying he kept changing his story he was stuttering shaking. I ended up getting half a day in the office because it was my 2 strike he got no Punishment. I was glad I finished a day's work in half a day and actually ahead
It is now last week attacker is back t it again I will not get in to detail but hecalled my disabled friend the r slur and made fun of his medical condition.this a as at resses.back in class I call him a a&&(e for what he said he tries to punch me I block itonce again nothing happend to him
2024.05.19 09:03 HeadConflict6769 Is my (32f) husband (31m) abusive?
Throwaway account for obvious reasons.
Some relevant backstory, around Covid my husband and I started drinking pretty heavily together. We were crazy binge drinkers. Got to the point of missing work and I had a mental episode while drunk that put me in the hospital. I quit drinking and have been sober a little over a year, he hasnāt. This week, I just picked him up from his second time in rehab. We have always jokingly picked at each other (sometimes too far and I always tell him when itās too far) but I feel like it may be escalating.
During his 2 most recent binges after months of not drinking, he has said some terrible things to me. I decided to get my septum pierced he was not happy.
āI donāt want you to uglify yourself.ā āYour nose is too big, you shouldnāt bring attention to it.ā
He sobered up and I told him what he said and he felt really bad and apologized. A week went by and he drank again. This time he said worse.
āIf it wasnāt for me you would have died alone.ā āYou could be hotter, you know?ā āI want a girlfriend, thereās a girl a workā¦.ā
He went to rehab before I got a chance to tell him what he said and how I felt about it. He got out and I asked him to go to couples therapy with me. He said yes. I told him certain things he said keep replaying in my head over and over and it hurts and idk how to forgive him. He said āIām not saying I wonāt go to couple therapy, but that sounds like an individual therapy kind of thing.ā Which hurt because heās the one who said these things to me and I feel like itās absolutely a couples therapy problem.
All of this to say, Iāve been thinking about things heās said and done since I quit drinking and Iāve talked with people very close to me and they think he is an actual narcissist. He said himself that he likes getting a ride out of me and watching my reaction to things. And he says he has a natural talent for finding insecurities and exploiting them. (Big ones for me are self esteem and being alone, hence why he said the things he did.) Iāve been reading a lot and we donāt argue, he never explodes, we talk about our lives and growing old and like spending time together. So Iām not sure what to think or feel about everything anymore.
When I told him everything he said he said he didnāt realize he was āabusingā me and that he promises he will never drink again and will get better about how he talks to me. I didnāt view it that way until he said it. Which is what has caused all of this reflection.
Does this sound like heās a narcissist? Is it possible for him to get better and not use harsh language toward me? Sorry if this seems jumbled Iām just very stressed. We have been married for 8 years.
tl;dr My husband says hurtful things to me and I donāt know how to forgive him or how to feel. Any advice on how to forgive him or proceed would be very helpful.
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Some relevant backstory, around Covid my husband and I started drinking pretty heavily together. We were crazy binge drinkers. Got to the point of missing work and I had a mental episode while drunk that put me in the hospital. I quit drinking and have been sober a little over a year, he hasnāt. This week, I just picked him up from his second time in rehab. We have always jokingly picked at each other (sometimes too far and I always tell him when itās too far) but I feel like it may be escalating.
During his 2 most recent binges after months of not drinking, he has said some terrible things to me. I decided to get my septum pierced he was not happy.
āI donāt want you to uglify yourself.ā āYour nose is too big, you shouldnāt bring attention to it.ā
He sobered up and I told him what he said and he felt really bad and apologized. A week went by and he drank again. This time he said worse.
āIf it wasnāt for me you would have died alone.ā āYou could be hotter, you know?ā āI want a girlfriend, thereās a girl a workā¦.ā
He went to rehab before I got a chance to tell him what he said and how I felt about it. He got out and I asked him to go to couples therapy with me. He said yes. I told him certain things he said keep replaying in my head over and over and it hurts and idk how to forgive him. He said āIām not saying I wonāt go to couple therapy, but that sounds like an individual therapy kind of thing.ā Which hurt because heās the one who said these things to me and I feel like itās absolutely a couples therapy problem.
All of this to say, Iāve been thinking about things heās said and done since I quit drinking and Iāve talked with people very close to me and they think he is an actual narcissist. He said himself that he likes getting a ride out of me and watching my reaction to things. And he says he has a natural talent for finding insecurities and exploiting them. (Big ones for me are self esteem and being alone, hence why he said the things he did.) Iāve been reading a lot and we donāt argue, he never explodes, we talk about our lives and growing old and like spending time together. So Iām not sure what to think or feel about everything anymore.
When I told him everything he said he said he didnāt realize he was āabusingā me and that he promises he will never drink again and will get better about how he talks to me. I didnāt view it that way until he said it. Which is what has caused all of this reflection.
Does this sound like heās a narcissist? Is it possible for him to get better and not use harsh language toward me? Sorry if this seems jumbled Iām just very stressed. We have been married for 8 years.
tl;dr My husband says hurtful things to me and I donāt know how to forgive him or how to feel. Any advice on how to forgive him or proceed would be very helpful.
2024.05.19 09:02 HeadConflict6769 Is my (32f) husband (31m) abusive?
Throwaway account for obvious reasons.
Some relevant backstory, around Covid my husband and I started drinking pretty heavily together. We were crazy binge drinkers. Got to the point of missing work and I had a mental episode while drunk that put me in the hospital. I quit drinking and have been sober a little over a year, he hasnāt. This week, I just picked him up from his second time in rehab. We have always jokingly picked at each other (sometimes too far and I always tell him when itās too far) but I feel like it may be escalating.
During his 2 most recent binges after months of not drinking, he has said some terrible things to me. I decided to get my septum pierced he was not happy.
āI donāt want you to uglify yourself.ā āYour nose is too big, you shouldnāt bring attention to it.ā
He sobered up and I told him what he said and he felt really bad and apologized. A week went by and he drank again. This time he said worse.
āIf it wasnāt for me you would have died alone.ā āYou could be hotter, you know?ā āI want a girlfriend, thereās a girl a workā¦.ā
He went to rehab before I got a chance to tell him what he said and how I felt about it. He got out and I asked him to go to couples therapy with me. He said yes. I told him certain things he said keep replaying in my head over and over and it hurts and idk how to forgive him. He said āIām not saying I wonāt go to couple therapy, but that sounds like an individual therapy kind of thing.ā Which hurt because heās the one who said these things to me and I feel like itās absolutely a couples therapy problem.
All of this to say, Iāve been thinking about things heās said and done since I quit drinking and Iāve talked with people very close to me and they think he is an actual narcissist. He said himself that he likes getting a ride out of me and watching my reaction to things. And he says he has a natural talent for finding insecurities and exploiting them. (Big ones for me are self esteem and being alone, hence why he said the things he did.) Iāve been reading a lot and we donāt argue, he never explodes, we talk about our lives and growing old and like spending time together. So Iām not sure what to think or feel about everything anymore.
When I told him everything he said he said he didnāt realize he was āabusingā me and that he promises he will never drink again and will get better about how he talks to me. I didnāt view it that way until he said it. Which is what has caused all of this reflection.
Does this sound like heās a narcissist? Is it possible for him to get better and not use harsh language toward me? Sorry if this seems jumbled Iām just very stressed. We have been married for 8 years.
tl;dr My husband says hurtful things to me and I donāt know how to forgive him or how to feel. Any advice on how to forgive him or proceed would be very helpful.
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Some relevant backstory, around Covid my husband and I started drinking pretty heavily together. We were crazy binge drinkers. Got to the point of missing work and I had a mental episode while drunk that put me in the hospital. I quit drinking and have been sober a little over a year, he hasnāt. This week, I just picked him up from his second time in rehab. We have always jokingly picked at each other (sometimes too far and I always tell him when itās too far) but I feel like it may be escalating.
During his 2 most recent binges after months of not drinking, he has said some terrible things to me. I decided to get my septum pierced he was not happy.
āI donāt want you to uglify yourself.ā āYour nose is too big, you shouldnāt bring attention to it.ā
He sobered up and I told him what he said and he felt really bad and apologized. A week went by and he drank again. This time he said worse.
āIf it wasnāt for me you would have died alone.ā āYou could be hotter, you know?ā āI want a girlfriend, thereās a girl a workā¦.ā
He went to rehab before I got a chance to tell him what he said and how I felt about it. He got out and I asked him to go to couples therapy with me. He said yes. I told him certain things he said keep replaying in my head over and over and it hurts and idk how to forgive him. He said āIām not saying I wonāt go to couple therapy, but that sounds like an individual therapy kind of thing.ā Which hurt because heās the one who said these things to me and I feel like itās absolutely a couples therapy problem.
All of this to say, Iāve been thinking about things heās said and done since I quit drinking and Iāve talked with people very close to me and they think he is an actual narcissist. He said himself that he likes getting a ride out of me and watching my reaction to things. And he says he has a natural talent for finding insecurities and exploiting them. (Big ones for me are self esteem and being alone, hence why he said the things he did.) Iāve been reading a lot and we donāt argue, he never explodes, we talk about our lives and growing old and like spending time together. So Iām not sure what to think or feel about everything anymore.
When I told him everything he said he said he didnāt realize he was āabusingā me and that he promises he will never drink again and will get better about how he talks to me. I didnāt view it that way until he said it. Which is what has caused all of this reflection.
Does this sound like heās a narcissist? Is it possible for him to get better and not use harsh language toward me? Sorry if this seems jumbled Iām just very stressed. We have been married for 8 years.
tl;dr My husband says hurtful things to me and I donāt know how to forgive him or how to feel. Any advice on how to forgive him or proceed would be very helpful.
2024.05.19 08:59 No_Extension_4527 Ingratitude journal
I am so insanely ungrateful...
... for you planting in me those thoughts of not being worthy of presenting myself to others, of taking myself seriously, of recognizing my needs as important. So important that the impulse would arise in me to act for myself, to take care of myself. To see myself as a valuable person, at least as valuable as everyone else.
My ingratitude also for you not making it obvious to me to take care of myself. That I don't take myself seriously. Because what others feel was always more important.
... and for smiling for others instead of myself. Why did I have to make sure everyone was okay?
Why was I not allowed to disappoint anyone? Why did you make me believe I was responsible for others' disappointments?
Why was I not allowed to have "negative" feelings? Why were those feelings equated with ingratitude (since one should always be happy for what one has, always keep in mind that others have it much worse!) "Eat your greens, especially broccoli. Always remember to say thank you (especially for the things you haven't had)!"
... That I don't take myself seriously or endlessly question myself when I feel bad. Am I even allowed to be sad about the things that were done to me? For the things that were dismissed, or withheld from me? Am I allowed to get help when I'm not feeling well?
That you didn't recognize or didn't want to see (so you wouldn't be blamed) how much my environment stressed me, despite signs like biting my nails, withdrawal, gaining weight etc. Why didn't you move away with me from that place, as you had considered...
... for never discussing feelings, my feelings, my condition, or our relationship. And conflict/argument was always avoided like the plague. The difficulties of talking about feelings and interpersonal relationships with others run like a thread through my life. What was so difficult about talking to me about emotions?
Then I often have to ask myself: Were my feelings even justified? Or just manifestations of my (of course undesirable!) (hyper)sensitivity? Was I only sad because I took everything too seriously? Because I wasn't grateful enough for this normalcy? Grateful for not having it much worse?
That it turned into me not being able to confide in anyone, because I'm actually ashamed of feeling like a victim of your treatment, or feeling anything at all. Of needing something. Useless things, like closeness and security. Help, sometimes.
That I only felt understood in music, felt held, not alone with my feelings. That sometimes I can even express myself better in English about myself and my feelings because of it.
Why did you leave me alone so often? At the inn? In my room? With my toys? While you got drunk? You praised me for my independence, for making myself so small and inconspicuous and keeping myself busy. Yes, I confirm that boredom also breeds creativity. Guess I should be thankful for that, too.
That I now feel constantly lonely, inwardly longing. Always searching for love from people who cannot give it to me. I searched for deep emotional connections, even as a child, and if I hadn't had Grandma, I would be completely lost today. Not just emotionally. So as not to be run over, one must keep up... be overlooked, step back. Why didn't we cuddle? Why was there so little physical closeness? Why did you never say you love me? It felt so weird and wrong to say it to someone else later in life even though I felt it...
My heartfelt ingratitude also for constantly telling me that self-praise is vain. That one should not be too proud of oneself, not think too highly of oneself, not be too convinced of oneself, but rather be modest. āToo much praise is bad for children, then they think they are something special, something better.ā
Now I don't really know anymore when I'm allowed to be happy about myself. When I'm allowed to be proud of myself. After all, I am special, and in some ways even better than others; as everyone can do something special or better than others.
My many talents, which I could be proud of... why do I always feel unworthy and inferior? Why are my paintings, my songs, ... never finished? I always feel I have to apologize for alleged mistakes in my art.
//
But the poet says defiantly: My whole art is one single mistake, born out of wounds. That you inflicted on me. It lives to defy you! To disturb you! To show itself to you! Why should I hide all the wounds I have survived, despite your treatment? They are not my weaknesses! They are not my fault! They are nothing I should be ashamed of. Instead: they are your hindrance to my perfect being. Your fault. Your shame. Your responsibility.
My songs will ring in your ears and echo and tell you what you don't want to hear! Because it reminds you of your own vulnerability, which you deny, which you hide from. My paintings as your mirrors. My words as your death sentence!
I am angry for you, little inner children, for being treated like that and for being asked to put your feelings and needs aside like that. For not even being allowed to be sad about it. I see you and now I'm sad for you. You deserve to be heard, to be comforted, to be freed from the garbage that was served to you. For this garbage, we can all be truly ungrateful from the bottom of our hearts!
I shouldn't be ashamed anymore for all the things that developed in me, because you are superficial, neglectful, insensitive, intrusive, spiteful people. I now know that you should be ashamed, not me.
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... for you planting in me those thoughts of not being worthy of presenting myself to others, of taking myself seriously, of recognizing my needs as important. So important that the impulse would arise in me to act for myself, to take care of myself. To see myself as a valuable person, at least as valuable as everyone else.
My ingratitude also for you not making it obvious to me to take care of myself. That I don't take myself seriously. Because what others feel was always more important.
... and for smiling for others instead of myself. Why did I have to make sure everyone was okay?
Why was I not allowed to disappoint anyone? Why did you make me believe I was responsible for others' disappointments?
Why was I not allowed to have "negative" feelings? Why were those feelings equated with ingratitude (since one should always be happy for what one has, always keep in mind that others have it much worse!) "Eat your greens, especially broccoli. Always remember to say thank you (especially for the things you haven't had)!"
... That I don't take myself seriously or endlessly question myself when I feel bad. Am I even allowed to be sad about the things that were done to me? For the things that were dismissed, or withheld from me? Am I allowed to get help when I'm not feeling well?
That you didn't recognize or didn't want to see (so you wouldn't be blamed) how much my environment stressed me, despite signs like biting my nails, withdrawal, gaining weight etc. Why didn't you move away with me from that place, as you had considered...
... for never discussing feelings, my feelings, my condition, or our relationship. And conflict/argument was always avoided like the plague. The difficulties of talking about feelings and interpersonal relationships with others run like a thread through my life. What was so difficult about talking to me about emotions?
Then I often have to ask myself: Were my feelings even justified? Or just manifestations of my (of course undesirable!) (hyper)sensitivity? Was I only sad because I took everything too seriously? Because I wasn't grateful enough for this normalcy? Grateful for not having it much worse?
That it turned into me not being able to confide in anyone, because I'm actually ashamed of feeling like a victim of your treatment, or feeling anything at all. Of needing something. Useless things, like closeness and security. Help, sometimes.
That I only felt understood in music, felt held, not alone with my feelings. That sometimes I can even express myself better in English about myself and my feelings because of it.
Why did you leave me alone so often? At the inn? In my room? With my toys? While you got drunk? You praised me for my independence, for making myself so small and inconspicuous and keeping myself busy. Yes, I confirm that boredom also breeds creativity. Guess I should be thankful for that, too.
That I now feel constantly lonely, inwardly longing. Always searching for love from people who cannot give it to me. I searched for deep emotional connections, even as a child, and if I hadn't had Grandma, I would be completely lost today. Not just emotionally. So as not to be run over, one must keep up... be overlooked, step back. Why didn't we cuddle? Why was there so little physical closeness? Why did you never say you love me? It felt so weird and wrong to say it to someone else later in life even though I felt it...
My heartfelt ingratitude also for constantly telling me that self-praise is vain. That one should not be too proud of oneself, not think too highly of oneself, not be too convinced of oneself, but rather be modest. āToo much praise is bad for children, then they think they are something special, something better.ā
Now I don't really know anymore when I'm allowed to be happy about myself. When I'm allowed to be proud of myself. After all, I am special, and in some ways even better than others; as everyone can do something special or better than others.
My many talents, which I could be proud of... why do I always feel unworthy and inferior? Why are my paintings, my songs, ... never finished? I always feel I have to apologize for alleged mistakes in my art.
//
But the poet says defiantly: My whole art is one single mistake, born out of wounds. That you inflicted on me. It lives to defy you! To disturb you! To show itself to you! Why should I hide all the wounds I have survived, despite your treatment? They are not my weaknesses! They are not my fault! They are nothing I should be ashamed of. Instead: they are your hindrance to my perfect being. Your fault. Your shame. Your responsibility.
My songs will ring in your ears and echo and tell you what you don't want to hear! Because it reminds you of your own vulnerability, which you deny, which you hide from. My paintings as your mirrors. My words as your death sentence!
I am angry for you, little inner children, for being treated like that and for being asked to put your feelings and needs aside like that. For not even being allowed to be sad about it. I see you and now I'm sad for you. You deserve to be heard, to be comforted, to be freed from the garbage that was served to you. For this garbage, we can all be truly ungrateful from the bottom of our hearts!
I shouldn't be ashamed anymore for all the things that developed in me, because you are superficial, neglectful, insensitive, intrusive, spiteful people. I now know that you should be ashamed, not me.
2024.05.19 08:59 Stage-Piercing727 Best Carbon Fiber Knife
 | submitted by Stage-Piercing727 to u/Stage-Piercing727 [link] [comments] https://preview.redd.it/pyjeqa520c1d1.jpg?width=720&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=81f14f00047544270b7c8bcfbe0be78e1fbcfe52 Welcome to our product rounded-up article featuring the sleek and versatile Carbon Fiber Knife. This cutting-edge innovation combines the durability of carbon fiber with the precision of its sharp and sturdy blade. Prepare to journey through the top-rated Carbon Fiber Knife selections available on the market today, as we walk you through their features, benefits, and expert reviews. Get ready to elevate your culinary experiences with this game-changing kitchen essential. The Top 6 Best Carbon Fiber Knife
ReviewsšFox Livri: Stainless Steel Slim Pocket Knife with Carbon Fiber Handlehttps://preview.redd.it/kozpqjh20c1d1.jpg?width=720&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=bd60b7186397f6e59bd117118bf9f631df21b729 The Fox Livri carbon fiber pocket knife is a sleek and stylish addition to your everyday carry. Handcrafted in Italy with top-quality materials, it boasts a blade made of M390 stainless steel, known for its sharpness and hardness. The black carbon fiber handle not only adds a touch of elegance but also ensures strength and durability, weighing just 1.6 ounces. The knife comes with a leather pouch for convenient storage and even has a steel lin. šStylish & Robust Modern Hunting Knife with Full Tang by Garberghttps://preview.redd.it/lw4rcgx20c1d1.jpg?width=720&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=f3924dedecb53c55068672d82d9968b8e49c4a1b The Garberg Carbon Steel outdoor knife is a true workhorse for those who love the great outdoors. With a full tang design and advanced mounting options, it's the perfect companion for adventurers facing various challenging situations. The Morakniv Multi-Mount system provides numerous attachment choices to keep the knife safe and secure. One of the highlights of this knife is its compatibility with fire starters, making it an essential tool for camping or survival scenarios. The protective black DLC-coating on the blade prevents reflections and keeps everything under control. The ergonomic handle, made of polyamide, offers a soft friction grip, finger guard, and a 3.2mm-thick carbon steel blade for both strength and stability during all cuts. While carbon steel can rust, the knife is designed to easily wipe and oil itself after use. The durable leather sheath attaches easily to your belt, making the Garberg Carbon Steel an even better choice for outdoor enthusiasts. With the knife's high rating, it's clear that this product is well-loved amongst customers, and its ease of use and long-lasting durability make it a great investment for anyone seeking a reliable outdoor knife. šTactical Damascus Steel Fixed Blade Knife with Carbon Fiber Handlehttps://preview.redd.it/e8owjjc30c1d1.jpg?width=720&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=3aeb556334f2685c04484d3634fa32be4c65bd13 The Civivi Midwatch Damascus Twill Carbon Fiber is a must-have for anyone who appreciates a knife that's as functional as it is beautiful. I've been using this knife for a couple of weeks now, and I must say, it has truly lived up to all my expectations. The full-tang construction and Damascus steel blade provide a level of durability and sharpness that I've come to expect from high-quality fixed blade knives. One feature that really caught my eye is the twill carbon fiber handle. It not only adds an element of beauty to the knife, but it also provides a comfortable and secure grip, ensuring that your hand doesn't slip even when the task at hand requires a firm grip. While the knife is perfect for tactical purposes and outdoor activities, I do wish it came in a larger size, as I sometimes find myself yearning for a little more reach. However, this minor drawback is easily overshadowed by the overall quality and design of the knife. If you're in the market for a unique and reliable fixed blade knife, the Civivi Midwatch is definitely worth considering. šSlim, High-Quality S35VN Stainless Steel Slip Joint Pocket Knifehttps://preview.redd.it/f6a78ax30c1d1.jpg?width=720&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=dff9773bdaabdfb4d45e92007cc0563ad088c280 One sunny afternoon, I found myself in need of a pocket knife while exploring a local nature reserve. I had my eye on the Kansept Bevy, a sleek and stylish slip joint folder known for its exceptional build quality and precise manufacture. With its under three-inch, non-locking blade, the Kansept Bevy is perfectly legal to carry in the UK and I was able to confidently bring it along with me on my adventure. The blade is made of S35VN stainless steel, one of the sharpest, hardest, and most durable options on the market. I was blown away by how effortlessly it sliced through branches and other obstacles I encountered. The clip point style and generous handle pay homage to traditional knife designs, but with the added bonus of high-tech carbon fiber construction. This lightweight yet strong material not only feels fantastic in hand but also adds a touch of style that sets the Kansept Bevy apart from other pocket knives. The handle is securely secured with a nylon and leather pouch for safe storage and convenient carrying. Overall, using the Kansept Bevy pocket knife was a true delight. Its combination of modern materials, traditional design, and reliable performance made it a welcome addition to my daily life and travel endeavors. šBenchmade Meatcrafter 15500OR-2 Fixed Blade Knife - Premium Cutting Experiencehttps://preview.redd.it/9rzk6hd40c1d1.jpg?width=720&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=7c16c0d1925d7b60baab5c21b9cc1d212bb36a63 Savor the perfect cut with the Benchmade Meatcrafter. I recently had the pleasure of using this knife for cooking at home and it was nothing short of a game-changer. The sleek, striking black and orange design caught my eye instantly, but it's the functionality where it truly shines. The razor-sharp blade made of cpm s45vn stainless steel and the lightweight carbon fiber handle made boning and filleting a breeze. It's built specifically for those push cuts, which is perfect for my daily cooking needs. I've been extremely happy with my choice and wouldn't want to go back to a less efficient and less satisfying cutting experience. šUltra Lightweight 440C Stainless Carbon Fiber Pocket Knifehttps://preview.redd.it/fhqhk6n40c1d1.jpg?width=720&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=99fdc123db5374196f30480bf95b3a9f1b9a157a I was recently introduced to the Fox 573 Carbon Fibre pocket knife, and let me tell you, it's a game changer in the world of every day carry knives. At only 1.1 oz, this lightweight companion is perfect for slipping into the deep recesses of your pockets. The blade, made from 440C stainless steel, is sturdy and sharp enough for cutting tasks but not too intimidating for the average guy. The back lock mechanism is firm and secure, providing peace of mind when you're using this knife day in and day out. But it's the handle that truly steals the show. Crafted from carbon fiber, it's both strong and stunningly beautiful. Top it off with a lanyard hole and a carbon fibre effect leather pouch, and you've got a knife that's every bit as practical as it is elegant. Of course, nothing is perfect. While I appreciate the Italian craftsmanship, I can't help but wish for a few more color options for the sheath. Still, overall, the Fox 573 Carbon Fibre is a reliable and sophisticated addition to any pocket knife enthusiast's collection. Buyer's GuideWhen looking for the perfect carbon fiber knife, there are several key factors to consider to ensure you end up with a high-quality product that suits your specific needs. https://preview.redd.it/ev25t3350c1d1.jpg?width=720&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=5ce085e5f67b1c2581cd8a48c73c7f1e1f378590 Material QualityThe material quality of a carbon fiber knife is of utmost importance. Look for knives made from top-grade carbon fiber, which is strong, lightweight, and very durable. A quality knife will have a uniform texture and color, free of defects like scratches, blemishes, or excessive wear.Blade Type and ShapeCarbon fiber knives come in various blade types, such as straight or serrated, and shapes, like drop point, tanto, or spear. Consider the purpose of the knife and your preferred blade type and shape that fits your needs. For example, a drop point blade is great for general-purpose tasks, while a spear point blade is ideal for piercing. https://preview.redd.it/qhj9zqk50c1d1.jpg?width=720&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=ec178153e3246251e6432d4521bc2d0510f4d8de Weight and BalanceOne of the main benefits of carbon fiber knives is their lightweight nature. When selecting a carbon fiber knife, ensure it strikes the right balance between being light and having a substantial feel. A well-balanced knife will reduce fatigue during long tasks and provide excellent control throughout diverse applications.Handle Comfort and ErgonomicsThe handle of a carbon fiber knife is just as important as its blade. It should provide a comfortable grip and be easy to handle, even in wet or greasy conditions. Ergonomic designs with textured grips help reduce the risk of slipping during use. https://preview.redd.it/wqkni3u50c1d1.jpg?width=720&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=55c6ae919ee350914cff52d5a3d25f3e5ae4b400 Maintenance and CareCarbon fiber knives require specific care and maintenance due to their unique composition. They should be washed and dried thoroughly after every use. Keep them away from excess moisture and oil, and regularly clean and maintain the blade to avoid corrosion and prolong its lifespan.Brand Reputation and ReviewsLastly, research the brand and its reputation within the market before making a purchase. Read reviews and product comparisons from other users to gain valuable insights into the knife's performance, durability, and overall satisfaction. https://preview.redd.it/85g9rw860c1d1.jpg?width=720&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=e32472a342318b4d23efa1b75a08c937572c4160 FAQWhat are the benefits of using a carbon fiber knife?Carbon fiber knives offer several advantages, including durability, lightweight, corrosion-resistance, and a sleek appearance. These knives are designed to provide a strong and long-lasting cutting edge, making them ideal for tough tasks such as cutting through bones and tendons. The lightweight nature of carbon fiber also makes them comfortable to use and easy to carry, while the corrosion-resistance ensures they maintain their quality even when exposed to harsh conditions or frequent washing. Lastly, the modern and stylish design of carbon fiber knives makes them a great addition to any kitchen or culinary collection.What is the difference between carbon fiber knives and stainless steel knives?The primary differences between carbon fiber and stainless steel knives are their composition and properties. Carbon fiber knives are typically made from a combination of carbon fiber and steel, resulting in a strong and lightweight blade. They require special care due to the carbon fiber composition, which can result in damage if dropped or improperly cared for. On the other hand, stainless steel knives are made from a single, alloyed steel composition with added elements of other metals to improve their properties. This makes them more resistant to corrosion and rusting, making them a good choice for everyday use and in humid environments. Both types of knives have their own unique benefits and drawbacks, making it essential to choose the right one depending on your specific needs and preferences.What is the care and maintenance required for carbon fiber knives?Carbon fiber knives require some special care and maintenance to ensure their longevity and performance. It is recommended to hand wash and dry the knife after use, avoiding placing it in a dishwasher. It is essential to use a non-abrasive, mild detergent and avoid using steel wool or harsh abrasive materials, as they can damage the carbon fiber. Additionally, avoid soaking the knife in water or leaving it in a wet environment for extended periods, as this can weaken the carbon fiber and result in rusting or corrosion. Lastly, it is crucial to store the knife in a clean, dry, and protected area to prevent damage and maintaining the knife's sharpness and edge.How much do carbon fiber knives typically cost?The cost of carbon fiber knives can vary depending on factors such as the brand, design, and size of the knife. Generally, carbon fiber knives are considered a premium product and can range from mid to high price points. While some budget options may be available, it is essential to remember that investing in a quality carbon fiber knife may be more cost-effective in the long run due to their durability and performance.Are carbon fiber knives suitable for professional chefs or experienced cooks?Yes, carbon fiber knives are popular among professional chefs and experienced cooks for their durability, lightweight, and corrosion-resistant properties. These knives can provide a precise and controlled cutting experience, making them suitable for various culinary tasks such as preparing meats, vegetables, and other ingredients. Additionally, the sleek design of carbon fiber knives adds a touch of elegance to any professional kitchen or cooking environment.As an Amazonā¢ Associate, we earn from qualifying purchases. |
2024.05.19 08:59 nomorelandfills San Diego Humane Society, Frosted Faces Foundation and Lexie the Biter
 | Lexie is a small, old dog but Lexie was a highly aggressive small, old dog when she entered the shelterescue pipeline in 2018. The shelter flipped her to a rescue, and the rescue spent 2 years letting her bite and attack people before finding a final adopter who tolerated the attacks long enough for (my opinion) Lexie's deteriorating mental state to reach a point that she lost the ability to carry through on her resource guarding/defensive aggression. I've seen that happen with aggressive dogs before, and it's a mercy for the owner and the dog - which is an incredibly sad reflection on the misery that is aggression, that mental deterioration can make life better. submitted by nomorelandfills to PetRescueExposed [link] [comments] December 2018 photo from original owner December 21, 2018 - a dog owner contacts Frosted Faces Foundation about surrendering their 13yo small dog, Lexie, who has bitten them recently. FFF, like many rescues, doesn't work with owners and prefers to do shelter pulls which are December 31, 2018 - San Diego Humane Society in Escondido contacts FFF asking them to take what turns out to be the same dog - 13yo Maltese, recently bit owner, January 3, 2019 - FFF sends a volunteer and minor child to pick up and transport Lexie to a foster. The child holds Lexie on her lap on the drive from the shelter. November 2019 - FFF posts on FB that Lexie has been adopted and returned 4 times. Each return has been within 48 hours. They blame the adopters, saying "We are always very up front that this girl bites, and she bites hard. Her fosters are patient and forgiving people who have given Lexie the transition time she required to trust them, and even still, they are careful." They also say that "Lexie is food aggressive so she eats in her crate, and does not get bones ever" and also that "she even goes to off leash dog parks." That'll be fun when someone drops a cookie in front of her. Their new perspective on Lexie is that Lexie is pretty much fine with anyone that comes over to the house, everyone can pick her up as long as they let her smell them first and she doesnāt āsmileā which means she doesnāt want to be bothered. She is the best with me and David, we can pretty much pick her up anytime and havenāt gotten bitten in a few months.Lexie has some trust issues for sure. She hates being pet when sheās asleep, doesnāt like getting her face washed in the bath, and wants you to check with her before you pick her up. As long as you avoid those, sheās honestly such a sweet pup and once you gain her trust you have it forever! Surprise, she's on the behavior med train. Lexie is on fluoxetine for behavioral reasons, and we have tried trazadone, clomicalm, and CBD oil. Recently Lexie has had a vestibular episode and has had a couple seizures this year, so we do believe there may be a connection between her health and behavior. 1 - interesting they aren't blaming themselves for her aggression, like they blamed her owner. 2 - Old dog vestibular and seizure activity are not linked to aggression involving resource guarding. btdt with both physical issues in an old dog, frankly a lot annoyed at these ailments being used as a cover for a violent dog. October 2020 - Lexie is adopted for the final time. She remains with these owners. Lexie in final home - clearly adored December 31, 2023 - FFF posts on FB Lexie is celebrating her FIFTH Frostiversary!Lexie found herself at the San Diego Humane Society after an unfortunate accident that led to her biting her owner. She was 13 years old and was understandably scared and untrusting. We made her a Frosted Face, and for nearly two years, she divided her time between foster families, several adoptive families that didn't understand her needs, and onsite at our rescue, waiting for a family who would give her the time and space to learn to trust again. In October of 2020, \*** promised to love Lexie forever, and today, they are happy to be celebrating her fifth anniversary as a Frosted Face!"Lexie is a happy puppy. She loves walking in circles; my family calls it her "mall walk" since she does it for hours with no goal and it makes her happy. She smiles a lot and spends all of her time either sleeping on top of Peanut (her bichon sister), walking, staring at random objects, or looking for someone to feed her. Her vision is very impaired so she stood in front of a house plant once for a real long while thinking it was a person that would give her treats.She used to be Lexie the Biter but she'd never bite anyone now.* When I first adopted her, she'd bite my face and I'd have cuts all over my hands and arms and had to leave her leash on her indefinitely because she wouldn't let me near her face. But now, she loves being held, cuddled, she's so sweet that it's unbelievable. She's loving and patient and will lick your nose if she thinks you're close." Essentially, I think whatever was going on with this dog neurologically in 2019 with the seizures has likely increased - hence the 'mall walking' and other odd behaviors. And likely the reduction in aggression. Some aggressive dogs who survive their own violence long enough to grow old will develop forms of doggy dementia that reduce their aggression. Note - the current owners obviously dote on this dog and of course they do, she's adorable and we're hard-wired to bond with dogs. This isn't an attack on Lexie, this is pointing out that the rescue placed multiple people, including children, in harm's way through a series of highly unethical actions - disregarding info from the previous owner, choosing to interpret a bite as unimportant, ignoring the dog's behavior, blaming anyone who refuses to live with a dog which will bite them, considering it a win to have gotten people attacked and bitten for 2 years while forcing a nervous and unstable little dog to live in a variety of homes. That it worked out is not an excuse or a justification for their reckless behavior. People drink and drive and make it home without an accident every day. That's not an excuse or justification for drinking and driving. https://preview.redd.it/ip7qq3tsyb1d1.png?width=637&format=png&auto=webp&s=d8979817f6061791dc247c6ccaadb931f5577d27 Kelly and Andy SmĆÅ”ek, Founders. https://preview.redd.it/0udyqbw5sb1d1.png?width=680&format=png&auto=webp&s=5abe115f69360be4072a2854610df016116e9547 https://preview.redd.it/bpkg9lrptb1d1.png?width=677&format=png&auto=webp&s=5132927f8e140c88c5545da3d5803c6477255d0b https://preview.redd.it/cnk7zbq9sb1d1.png?width=689&format=png&auto=webp&s=74314bb8bff6748dc69e3dce3bee749614d5cd1f The rescue which used a minor, an adolescent girl, to help transport Lexie on her "Freedom Ride," scornfully saying "Look at that liability!" about a photo of the child holding Lexie on her lap in a car. https://preview.redd.it/e0nrbbcqsb1d1.png?width=1002&format=png&auto=webp&s=c8de627f14d73a1ab6a81932b5bb323be1c8b320 https://preview.redd.it/g0xtw7hjsb1d1.png?width=1049&format=png&auto=webp&s=8f0cf300ced12c26ce0787489a9078d7dc953ca1 https://preview.redd.it/82pcpovnub1d1.png?width=679&format=png&auto=webp&s=f8cdf19913eb595516089310dab47e3a0eac87b0 https://preview.redd.it/izwtsv8orb1d1.png?width=586&format=png&auto=webp&s=1f5040e72b4db4b44206c7849ad5e89fccf26845 |
2024.05.19 08:55 No_Satisfaction_5315 Beautiful trainwreck
I'm sorry for all the pain I caused both of us due to my insecurities. I wish I wasn't this way,god I wanted to be your everything like you were mine and maybe in the beginning we were exactly that for each other but then we got comfortable and things changed. Im not much of a romantic and you were my first attempt at truly being one, I told you I did the opposite of what I usually did but thb I had no idea how to be romantic because I never saw it growing up a broken home by 3 with a divorce grandma raised me and you know how toxic they are. My only goal was to not be them and be better maybe I'm not much better then them but I'm trying I asked you what you needed over and over but I'm not psychic so when I asked I truly needed and wanted to know and I don't always know what to do. You were my first truly happy relationship and gave me everything I ever dreamed of and at a major risk to yourself. God I wanted to give you everything you ever wanted like you have me. My insecurities and our lack of time and we're major causes in how I started acting at the beginning I asked you for help with it but didn't want it to come off as an accusation and couldn't word how I felt so I just delt with it the way I had for the last 32 years previous you still mean everything to me even after everything that's happened and how it all ended but maybe in another lifetime I'll get it right heres to and end of 4 years And the first 2 were the best of my life I just wish I knew AND understood how you were feeling before it was to late. You saw the effort I put in to trying to save us at the end but by then it seemed you were to resentful and felt I was just doing it all out of spite but I swear and everything I love that it wasn't I just wanted to be your happiness like you were for me but didn't know how to show and do that
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Your still the first and last thought of each and every day beautiful ā¤ļø but I will do as you wish and only see or contact when it's over our daughter and I won't ask how my bonus kids are doing I have no right to them anymore I just wish things were different or the idea of trying once more was an option after what happened and the way it went down I couldn't tell what to do I was and still am filled with so many different emotionsI would do anything to get another chance to do it all again and I think we would get it right we had so many 1st together I couldn't keep count of them. I know my insecurities hurt you as well and that's exactly what I was trying to prevent from happening and I get being scared of it happening again and I am too the difference right now is who's willing to still try despite the fear of the hurt but with the tramas we both grew up with I get not wanting to risk it just know I will always love you yours truly that shipwreck Timmy
2024.05.19 08:53 Bentleyisback How much does your partner change when drinking?
TLDR: My partner (M28) is āflirty/touchyā when he gets tipsy. I (F28) have seen three occassions before I decided to have a discussion as boundaries need to be set.
For some context, my partner loves to tease people, can socialize easily, has unique actions and way of talking, no known history of cheating but these specific actions Iāve witnessed gave me the ick.
Itās been over a year since everything happened. He has not done anything to cross my boundaries. However, there was one occasion when he blacked out while drinking with his friends. He was telling them he loves me. But again, drinking and his actions are an issue to me. Heās trying and hasnāt blacked out since. However, I think Iām experiencing retroactive jealousy or insecurity? Trauma perhaps? I just donāt know how to deal with it.
Anyone dealing with or went through the same issue?
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For some context, my partner loves to tease people, can socialize easily, has unique actions and way of talking, no known history of cheating but these specific actions Iāve witnessed gave me the ick.
- My partner was teasing my girl friend who was sulking over a guy. He lifted the corners of her mouth to form a smile and kept poking her face so that she would stop sulking. He even lifted his dress and started laughing hysterically. I asked him why would he do such thing and he said he was just tryna cheer her up and did not mean anything about it.
- His girl friend got married and he lifted her twice! He even cried while saying goodbye to her saying āI usually donāt cry, but I cry for youā and then they hugged. When we got home I asked him if he meant anything by it as he rarely cries. He said āidk itās hardā (donāt know what he was trying to say as he was so drunk). The next day, I asked him again on what he meant and he said he got emotional because he was too happy for her and her husband.
- This one was random and icky. He likes and comments on photos of people he follows on this running app. He commented āwow š„ā on this girlās post. Sheās our neighbour. The post was the girl posing with her bike while wearing a two piece in snow and same photo of her decked out with bike clothing gear. I didnāt see this til months after. When I confronted him, he said he doesnāt remember anymore as it was months ago. He said he was just trying to build rapport with our neighbours as weāre new to the city. He said that also he doesnāt remember seeing that photo as people can still edit (add/delete) photos from their post.
Itās been over a year since everything happened. He has not done anything to cross my boundaries. However, there was one occasion when he blacked out while drinking with his friends. He was telling them he loves me. But again, drinking and his actions are an issue to me. Heās trying and hasnāt blacked out since. However, I think Iām experiencing retroactive jealousy or insecurity? Trauma perhaps? I just donāt know how to deal with it.
Anyone dealing with or went through the same issue?
2024.05.19 08:52 Progamer_animator Today I had my share of annoying relatives
So recently my tenth result had come out and it told me I had got 94.4%. I expected 98+ (as well as my teachers and family) so I was very shocked. I got my result when I was at Allen from my parents who had screenshot and sent it to me via WA along with a few š emojis, which made my day. However, I still felt deep down that I had not even got 95 and maybe they were only pitying me. When I reached home, I saw how happy they were, they kept hugging me and said I had done very good, and dad even brought home a cake from me.
Most of my relatives and teachers called to show their appreciation, some teachers said they expected a bit more for me but they are happy nonetheless, which I took in a good way as they genuinely cared. I was surprised to see that many of my toxic relatives who had openly challenged my parents that I would not do well even congratulated me.
Except one.
This person is my uncle by relation though his grandson is my classmate (Indian blood relations go crazy sometimes). Well, I had always overperformed his son academically and their family always put the pressure on him as they did not like that. They failed to realize how good their son was in sports and athletics, and kept pressurizing him in studies which killed his inner athlete.
He had scored 81% in boards which was outstanding as he rarely used to cross 70% mark.
Anyways, this uncle called and started by telling my mom that I had done good but tenth marks don't matter and it all comes down to being a good human being. He said that his grandson though was growing up to be a great person. My mother said that I too was empathetic and kind, to which he said, 'Hope so'.
Today he came home and my mom called me to greet him. I touched his feet as is our custom, and he started as soon as he had blessed me. He told me, 'You have done a good job, no doubt, but your 'good job' isn't good. Everyone gets 90+ nowadays so it is no big deal. Back in my day even 60+ was a great deal. However, my grandson has done very good according to his level but you have not done anything great.' He continued rambling while me and my parents listened awkwardly.
Please suggest ways to murder him.
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Most of my relatives and teachers called to show their appreciation, some teachers said they expected a bit more for me but they are happy nonetheless, which I took in a good way as they genuinely cared. I was surprised to see that many of my toxic relatives who had openly challenged my parents that I would not do well even congratulated me.
Except one.
This person is my uncle by relation though his grandson is my classmate (Indian blood relations go crazy sometimes). Well, I had always overperformed his son academically and their family always put the pressure on him as they did not like that. They failed to realize how good their son was in sports and athletics, and kept pressurizing him in studies which killed his inner athlete.
He had scored 81% in boards which was outstanding as he rarely used to cross 70% mark.
Anyways, this uncle called and started by telling my mom that I had done good but tenth marks don't matter and it all comes down to being a good human being. He said that his grandson though was growing up to be a great person. My mother said that I too was empathetic and kind, to which he said, 'Hope so'.
Today he came home and my mom called me to greet him. I touched his feet as is our custom, and he started as soon as he had blessed me. He told me, 'You have done a good job, no doubt, but your 'good job' isn't good. Everyone gets 90+ nowadays so it is no big deal. Back in my day even 60+ was a great deal. However, my grandson has done very good according to his level but you have not done anything great.' He continued rambling while me and my parents listened awkwardly.
Please suggest ways to murder him.
2024.05.19 08:52 Wolfwarrior121892 Poem I wrote
Can anyone tell me if I am the only one . Is it me am I the problem? I donāt know what to believe anymore I wanna know someone give me a reason an explanation fuck give me an excuse for all the moments in my life that pain so white hot and intense has wracked my body and brought me to my knees when my will to live has been brought face to face with my darkest fear. Where the only words i can hear as death whispers in my ear is my name sweetly spoken in promises of a quiet mind and peace. Can anyone hear me is this thing on. My fear is fading out and I know I should be scared at this but I donāt feel fear the same anymore. it is blurring around the edges and starts to look a lot like comfort something I just canāt seem to find or hold in my grasp, and I tell myself I should be scared at this but my soul is battered and bruised and I am running on fumes.I honestly donāt know how many more days I can wake up to this bleakness of my uncomfterably painful existence. Is my pain all in my head. Did I do something that has led the People i love to mishandle me. Do I deserve to be wrecked every day the minute consciousness returns to this weapon that is my brain. Ive torn myself apart so many times ive made myself BLEED. ive let my pain soak into me till I no longer existed in space, gone without a trace. I try so hard to do no harm. As I am falling apart. I pour and pour from my empty cup. Its been empty from my fucking start. My dad was the first to mishandle my fragle new heart. He is where my cracks did start. Home was a battle field amd my skin was where my fatherās anger would wage war. I grew up being told I held the golden cup full of my fatherās favor. It never would save my skin from his anger. And I was told, no reminded often, how wicked I had been to the first being my heart ever truly let in. I grew up feeling every blow they took wrapped in guilt savagely placed on my heart to go along with my skins own marks. I was Twice whipped but only one would ever heal the other would bleed me every day even till today. At 8 is when death would first whisper my name to me . I never knew never would he ever depart from my mind and heart. At 9 so small and yet already my soul felt so heavy. My wounded little family grew by one. And traveled miles back to where my first cry had taken place. Where I would be born again and die more than one time. 9 taking on a little one. The second soul who would come to know my heart. Cherished and so loved even before air would give raise to his own challenging start. My mother would finish the killing of me without stopping my heart. The tiny soul I had hoped for was ripped away from me unexpectedly. Given away to have a chance, a brand new start , Or so that is what was said. 17 years I would mourn this everyday feeling like a piece of me was lost. By 11 melancholy would already call me home. School the escape from the war at home had become a battlefield of its own. And wounds would be added to the collection that had started. My first brush with a razor and a mans warped desires would fall in this timeframe not too far apart. Ill never know why my mother would make guilt and not love in me grow. Love for my parents I have felt from the start and still with each mark on my heart they would leave on me, the only thing I would ever bleed is my desire that they would want me.that they would love me. Can a child grow up too young? I donāt think I grew up tho. Ive been trapped in the tiny body that never had a real chance to start. By 15 I had lost both parents and one sibling already I was torn apart and bleeding. My wounded heart festering as it began to rot. The razor blades became my closest friends. At least when they marked my skin, I had wanted it then. They always stayed and helped me cradle my already too heavy pain. They knew what I would feel and that it was real. They went in deeper,beneath my surface on purpose. Something no one else wanted to do or so it would seem to me that no one really wanted me. My first love found in a man would be one that would feel much like my dad. Hands too rough and words never in the only shape Ive ever really wanted L O V E He Left more torn up marks on my heart. Heartbreak at 16, you would think i would have welcomed it like an old friend . that I would have tucked it up besides my heart hidden beneath my ribs, where pain was already rattling around in. pain makes us seek out comfort wrapped in deceit. I looked to the arms that made me weep for comfort. I never would find comfort there. for me there all I found are things that broke me. 16 I was 16 when the first piece of me truly died. I watched it die in her eyes. as the words scorching up my throat and heart left my lips. I watched as they connected the dots of things that mothers should not behind her eyes as the piece of me died. I was a daughter never cherished by my father, pain the only thing he gave for me to gain. I was a daughter never loved by my Mother given to men and left to defend alone the monsters my mother let in. Pain separated me from bonds that should have been. I would later see that the monsters I fought inside of me had always really been me . I grew up lonely both on the battlefield I was forced to Fight to survive in real life and inside the prison bar confides of my own mind. I fought and waged war constantly never knowing the enemy I had been fighting the whole time was always me. I donāt know who I am I died before I got the chance to even begin . Love is supposed to fill up your heart and shape you into the person you are. Teach you to swim in the depths of our own emotions. I never learned how to swim in the oceans I hold within. Ive been slowly drowning since I was a kid. Told that the validation I would grow to need like a drug, heroin to a fiend just so that I could feel something good inside the depths of MY being, a liferaft to keep me afloat was wrong of me to ever have a need. But How do I save myself from drowning beneath each giant wave my emotions bring crashing down around me. I cant swim in the ocean beneath my skin. Waves constantly crashing in and dragging me under. My air is running out and the only thing I hear people shout is SWIM!. as water replaces my lungs empty spaces. Blood hurts more than water its true but let love boil the water and it will still hurt you just as much too. Never feeling loved by my makers I searched for it in other spaces. Except the only place it should have been. My children you will never know of the force of love I hold for them. But I am still only a human. Trapped and stunted in the child that has been calling out in pain. So many lessons I have gained I see them now neatly wrapped up in my pain. I have been told by the ones I love both with and without blood, that I am too much because of my pain. Yet when I agree and try to erase me I am told to stay as they then walk away. Why. Why. Why Do I have to stay and everyone else gets to walk away from the darkness that takes my light away. Happiness feels almost like a myth a conjured up dream to dangle just out of my reach. And I have been told that its happiness I thieve from those around me. What kind of monster does that make me. That I would take the thing I so desperately need from someone that I love. It has been told to me that I am the creator of my own misery. That I should be a better human being and stop claiming to be the victim to the things that have brought death to my mind so many times. When I reach for help. Water rushing in as my screams are ripped out. Never a hand has been held out. Only the boots of blame and shame to push me further down. My pleas have begun to fade out. my voice is weakened by the consistent beacon, the sos hanging above my head running down my eyes and out my wrists that everyone claims to miss. No one will hear me if they donāt believe me. How do I convince them my pain is real. it means its me I have to kill. Then everyone will say I had been real and not the ghost I thought I had been when i was drowning and didnāt know how to swim.
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2024.05.19 08:51 SquashJolly5992 How do I tell my wife things a bothering me in our sex life.
Hi!
I am a 25M married to my wife (26F) and we have been together since high school. We both have come from different family backgrounds, but we both have a good understanding of each other. While we were dating she always had issues explaining her sexual experience in the past (before us) but from what she has told me I was the first guy she had sex with (she did bleed the first time) so I never thought else. After a few months of us being together and finally getting to experience that moment with her was amazing. But here is where i struggle a little bit internally and donāt know how/what to ask to not sound like a complete fucking asshole but here we go. She never really was into masturbating and didnāt like to do it that much. After having sex a few times I noticed she wasnāt getting off and as a partner it made me kinda uncomfortable like I was doing it wrong or could change something to make it better because I felt very selfish. Iām not bragging but I knew it wasnāt because I was anywhere small or wasnāt thick enough so that wasnāt . We then took it and tried different positions and started slower but until I asked her to try and rub her clit while we are having sex to see if it feels good and BOOM! Iām not on of those men that is scared to have to get a lil helper in the bed so once we moved in together I got her a vibrator for the first time. After getting comfortable with it herself she told me to grab it before we start and now I always make sure to have it cleaned and ready whenever we plan a night together. That is about the craziest thing she wants to get into. She isnāt into oral sex (giving or receiving and never really since we have been together but thatās okay it really doesnāt bother me) but over the years I wouldnāt say I try to pay attention but can tell she been using it more and more since it moves or is put back on top clean. I am happy she is using it, thatās why I bought it. Here is where I struggle. I could have sex every day with her and still want more. She is the only woman on this planet I want to spend the rest of my life with. When I get home I usually go change, take my shoes off, wash my hands (I work with a lot of people) and sometimes peek to see if itās moved or not. I have always tried to hint at trying new things, but she really doesnāt seem too interested. Lot of the times she feels self-conscious about herself, even though I do nothing but shower her with compliments and really express how important she is to me. So I think that has to do with a little bit of it, I know some people on here might say that she just doesnāt like me or stupid shit like that but I would say Iām 99% sure that is not our issue. Recently weāve been trying to have a kid, but found out my wife has some fertility issues so that very well could feed into it because she is really upset about not being pregnant yet. So there are a ton of factors that could be bothering her and I really donāt know where to start. I feel so guilty to say this but even our sex life has hit a plateau and for us being so young I am worried it is just going to be the same thing every time from now on and itās not that I donāt love my wife or Iām not attracted to her but now instead of it being something that is exciting it is almost like Iām bothering her & itās a chore. We only do it missionary and sometimes she will get on top (every 9-10 times) I really am struggling so any advice would be greatly appreciated. Please if you think you will hurt my feelings just save the time.
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I am a 25M married to my wife (26F) and we have been together since high school. We both have come from different family backgrounds, but we both have a good understanding of each other. While we were dating she always had issues explaining her sexual experience in the past (before us) but from what she has told me I was the first guy she had sex with (she did bleed the first time) so I never thought else. After a few months of us being together and finally getting to experience that moment with her was amazing. But here is where i struggle a little bit internally and donāt know how/what to ask to not sound like a complete fucking asshole but here we go. She never really was into masturbating and didnāt like to do it that much. After having sex a few times I noticed she wasnāt getting off and as a partner it made me kinda uncomfortable like I was doing it wrong or could change something to make it better because I felt very selfish. Iām not bragging but I knew it wasnāt because I was anywhere small or wasnāt thick enough so that wasnāt . We then took it and tried different positions and started slower but until I asked her to try and rub her clit while we are having sex to see if it feels good and BOOM! Iām not on of those men that is scared to have to get a lil helper in the bed so once we moved in together I got her a vibrator for the first time. After getting comfortable with it herself she told me to grab it before we start and now I always make sure to have it cleaned and ready whenever we plan a night together. That is about the craziest thing she wants to get into. She isnāt into oral sex (giving or receiving and never really since we have been together but thatās okay it really doesnāt bother me) but over the years I wouldnāt say I try to pay attention but can tell she been using it more and more since it moves or is put back on top clean. I am happy she is using it, thatās why I bought it. Here is where I struggle. I could have sex every day with her and still want more. She is the only woman on this planet I want to spend the rest of my life with. When I get home I usually go change, take my shoes off, wash my hands (I work with a lot of people) and sometimes peek to see if itās moved or not. I have always tried to hint at trying new things, but she really doesnāt seem too interested. Lot of the times she feels self-conscious about herself, even though I do nothing but shower her with compliments and really express how important she is to me. So I think that has to do with a little bit of it, I know some people on here might say that she just doesnāt like me or stupid shit like that but I would say Iām 99% sure that is not our issue. Recently weāve been trying to have a kid, but found out my wife has some fertility issues so that very well could feed into it because she is really upset about not being pregnant yet. So there are a ton of factors that could be bothering her and I really donāt know where to start. I feel so guilty to say this but even our sex life has hit a plateau and for us being so young I am worried it is just going to be the same thing every time from now on and itās not that I donāt love my wife or Iām not attracted to her but now instead of it being something that is exciting it is almost like Iām bothering her & itās a chore. We only do it missionary and sometimes she will get on top (every 9-10 times) I really am struggling so any advice would be greatly appreciated. Please if you think you will hurt my feelings just save the time.
2024.05.19 08:49 ClassroomSouth6548 (I think) My pillow is pregnant ..... [Please be serious]
So i have a habit of cuddling my pillow before sleeping, and last night I did the same, but i generally put the pillow below my head after cuddling and then I sleep, but last night, I think I forgot that, and when I woke up today morning, I saw that the pillow was below me and I was lying on it in an uncomfortable position...
When I saw carefully, the pillow had a small bump on it so I placed my ear on it and you know what, I felt a slight kick there!! And a slow voice of crying child was also coming from it, guys I am really really scared rn, I don't know what to do, how will I show my face to the society after this incident!? š
What will i tell to my parents? Please help me guys, please suggest some pills that I can give to my pillow to prevent pregnancy, please help šš
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When I saw carefully, the pillow had a small bump on it so I placed my ear on it and you know what, I felt a slight kick there!! And a slow voice of crying child was also coming from it, guys I am really really scared rn, I don't know what to do, how will I show my face to the society after this incident!? š
What will i tell to my parents? Please help me guys, please suggest some pills that I can give to my pillow to prevent pregnancy, please help šš
2024.05.19 08:48 meowzzz4352 Thoughts on my Symptoms
Now that I discovered this community I am pretty confident what is happening to me is all tied back to this lovely little jaw muscle. I see my GP Monday 8am . Hoping for any advice - better details - corrections on my wrong assumptions or statements and ultimately a little reassurance and validation from yall , That what is happening to me right now is all connected and I am not crazy.
10 months ago I had my last 2 upper molars pulled the "ol fashioned" way with the wiggling and the tugging and the ripping and the "Okay now you're going to feel a bit of pressure" followed by the feeling that your jaw is in fact being ripped out of your mouth.
Things started mild 6 months ago intensified around the 3 month mark and now these last 3 weeks I can barely function. I feel the definition of "Malaise" hits perfect. I'm afraid to leave my house the head pain / brain fog has me feeling like I could blackout any second, And the whoosh / vertigo / world spins has me terrified of driving.
So here is what I'm feeling in order of how they hit , everything is on the left side if that matters
Shoulder Blade - Everything is felt along the bottom of the blade.
Jolt of fire and burning on the skin -- A tearing and ripping under the skin on the muscle - Starts to vibrate a tingling fire sensation outward in a semi circle
When I put my tens unit on there the flexing caused pain on the top of shoulder and collarbone.
Always strongest when I lift or carry, random bursts when I'm sitting doing nothing and now even the weight of my phone sends it to 11
Muscles Weakness and Tremors
When the blade pain is bad, I can barely grip anything with my hand, Hands tremble and different arm muscles randomly will twitch and flex.
My jaw is now (2 weeks) shivering / chittering (IDK wtf it is) as if im cold. Digging my fingers into the facial knots will stop it. Always hits when I first get out of bed, then a few times during the day no pattern in the trigger
Eyes/Ears
Couldn't keep my contacts in more than half day , left only felt cloudy hazy blurry - They are brand new lenses and Ive been use the good "eye juice" with no changes. Tried yesterday had to take em out within an hour.
Sharp twinge zap inside the ear - cold trickling sensation down the canal - ends with a punch of pain behind ear on the thick neck tendon
The Whoosh (Is this brain fog? Something else?) Zap / Jolt of electricity on top of my brain but under my skull - The whoosh when i see everything spin a 360 for a second - And ends with me "off kilter' for minutes to hours, As if there is a delay between what my eye sees to when my brain processes. During the spell ill feel "wonky" "Out of body" "tunnelly vision"
The Exploding Head
Its a constant feeling / sensation that my head is filling with sludge.
Forehead & eye have waves of intense dull aches, This part is killing so bad right now, even with NSAIDS it never stops having pressure just relieves it slightly. When it kicks hard and throbs my eyes go really fuzzy and that im going to blackout feeling hits. I have not actually passed or blacked out thank god - my cats would eat me alive in a day -
Jaw/ cheek & gums are twitchy with tightness/fullness and pointy pain shockwaves. The M in the TMJ is a ball of rubberbands and it is so very tender. My face does not appear to have anything swelling outwards from here but poking around in there i find tons of lumps I can break up.. Opening and closing i have full range I think and right now no popping or pains when i do. The area by my ear where the bones connect is so tender, but I dont feel lumps much here. I feel such relief when I hit here with my point tool.
Side of my Neck has small mushy lumps just under the skin and some big daddies deeper in and these ones get stabbyy pains that pulse with my heart.
Back of my neck the bottom half is gravel I can break up pretty easy but I think 3 more come back in their place.
Base of skull I have golf balls burried deep,. They dont throb but when I rub them it is painful but in the best way because I feel such release everywhere else but then they hurt for days. When I rub them to hard and deep oh man sore for days.
All this ends at my upper back and this area is awful. It burns on the surface level 24/7. Icy hot tricks my brain for about and hour. I did some scraping massage here and it sounded like rice krispies and I think hese are adhesions vs knots. .Deeper is full of thick knots, I have the trigger point hook to dig in there and sometimes magic happens and the ache everywhere else gets better for a bit.
The floating bone
It was mild discomfort, odd feelings of tightness inside my actual throat, tingles and a dry feel. It started wiggling around on its own pretty often and when I felt that first water balloon pop inside yikes I was scared AF. Now it just moves whenever it wants. I barely touch it and it "shoots" to the other side. Massaging in here hurts so GOOD! Looking all the way up and feeling from chin towards throat I have many bumps all different sizes. And lastly when I move my head certain ways it feels as if there is a leak happening and almost mucus-y like I could cough but usually dont need to
If you are still with me many apologies this got longer than I thought it would. Today has been my worst day so far, all the pains I mentioned are now hitting at once. Today I was sitting here sobbing in pain it because I was at 13 / 10 and wouldn't ease no matter what I pressed on . 3 Naproxen with 3 ibuprofen gives me about 3 hours of refief right now. I know posture is a part of my pain levels and ive aready ordered some tools so I can correct.
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10 months ago I had my last 2 upper molars pulled the "ol fashioned" way with the wiggling and the tugging and the ripping and the "Okay now you're going to feel a bit of pressure" followed by the feeling that your jaw is in fact being ripped out of your mouth.
Things started mild 6 months ago intensified around the 3 month mark and now these last 3 weeks I can barely function. I feel the definition of "Malaise" hits perfect. I'm afraid to leave my house the head pain / brain fog has me feeling like I could blackout any second, And the whoosh / vertigo / world spins has me terrified of driving.
So here is what I'm feeling in order of how they hit , everything is on the left side if that matters
Shoulder Blade - Everything is felt along the bottom of the blade.
Jolt of fire and burning on the skin -- A tearing and ripping under the skin on the muscle - Starts to vibrate a tingling fire sensation outward in a semi circle
When I put my tens unit on there the flexing caused pain on the top of shoulder and collarbone.
Always strongest when I lift or carry, random bursts when I'm sitting doing nothing and now even the weight of my phone sends it to 11
Muscles Weakness and Tremors
When the blade pain is bad, I can barely grip anything with my hand, Hands tremble and different arm muscles randomly will twitch and flex.
My jaw is now (2 weeks) shivering / chittering (IDK wtf it is) as if im cold. Digging my fingers into the facial knots will stop it. Always hits when I first get out of bed, then a few times during the day no pattern in the trigger
Eyes/Ears
Couldn't keep my contacts in more than half day , left only felt cloudy hazy blurry - They are brand new lenses and Ive been use the good "eye juice" with no changes. Tried yesterday had to take em out within an hour.
Sharp twinge zap inside the ear - cold trickling sensation down the canal - ends with a punch of pain behind ear on the thick neck tendon
The Whoosh (Is this brain fog? Something else?) Zap / Jolt of electricity on top of my brain but under my skull - The whoosh when i see everything spin a 360 for a second - And ends with me "off kilter' for minutes to hours, As if there is a delay between what my eye sees to when my brain processes. During the spell ill feel "wonky" "Out of body" "tunnelly vision"
The Exploding Head
Its a constant feeling / sensation that my head is filling with sludge.
Forehead & eye have waves of intense dull aches, This part is killing so bad right now, even with NSAIDS it never stops having pressure just relieves it slightly. When it kicks hard and throbs my eyes go really fuzzy and that im going to blackout feeling hits. I have not actually passed or blacked out thank god - my cats would eat me alive in a day -
Jaw/ cheek & gums are twitchy with tightness/fullness and pointy pain shockwaves. The M in the TMJ is a ball of rubberbands and it is so very tender. My face does not appear to have anything swelling outwards from here but poking around in there i find tons of lumps I can break up.. Opening and closing i have full range I think and right now no popping or pains when i do. The area by my ear where the bones connect is so tender, but I dont feel lumps much here. I feel such relief when I hit here with my point tool.
Side of my Neck has small mushy lumps just under the skin and some big daddies deeper in and these ones get stabbyy pains that pulse with my heart.
Back of my neck the bottom half is gravel I can break up pretty easy but I think 3 more come back in their place.
Base of skull I have golf balls burried deep,. They dont throb but when I rub them it is painful but in the best way because I feel such release everywhere else but then they hurt for days. When I rub them to hard and deep oh man sore for days.
All this ends at my upper back and this area is awful. It burns on the surface level 24/7. Icy hot tricks my brain for about and hour. I did some scraping massage here and it sounded like rice krispies and I think hese are adhesions vs knots. .Deeper is full of thick knots, I have the trigger point hook to dig in there and sometimes magic happens and the ache everywhere else gets better for a bit.
The floating bone
It was mild discomfort, odd feelings of tightness inside my actual throat, tingles and a dry feel. It started wiggling around on its own pretty often and when I felt that first water balloon pop inside yikes I was scared AF. Now it just moves whenever it wants. I barely touch it and it "shoots" to the other side. Massaging in here hurts so GOOD! Looking all the way up and feeling from chin towards throat I have many bumps all different sizes. And lastly when I move my head certain ways it feels as if there is a leak happening and almost mucus-y like I could cough but usually dont need to
If you are still with me many apologies this got longer than I thought it would. Today has been my worst day so far, all the pains I mentioned are now hitting at once. Today I was sitting here sobbing in pain it because I was at 13 / 10 and wouldn't ease no matter what I pressed on . 3 Naproxen with 3 ibuprofen gives me about 3 hours of refief right now. I know posture is a part of my pain levels and ive aready ordered some tools so I can correct.
2024.05.19 08:48 Despicable55 what shall i do?
I'm (F23) and my bf(M23) met online and known each other for 3.5 yrs and have been in a relationship for a year. We are in LDR, even when we were not in a relationship supported each other like anything and we have grown a lot since then.We are highly motivated and career-oriented individuals. I never ever thought of being in love and have always pushed men who approached but felt safe and happy with him so couldn't say NO to him just to push away, my heart said I couldn't hurt him by saying No. Later, he revealed that he went to the temple to worship god to say he wanted me to say yes. He loves me to the extent that he pushes himself to put in extra effort and always talks about how he will put effort to convince my parents since we belong to different castes and my family supports love marriages for others but their kids.We have met twice in total since we got into a relationship, the first meeting being exactly one year into the relationship, he never forced or pushed things and has always been gentle with me , tries to comfort me and even becomes emotional during goodbyes and being strong support by not showing any tear to him about departing. I don't want to be in a physical relationship before marriage. This time was our second meeting and we held hands and touched each other's faces experienced a scooter ride very very short though it sparked a lot of things because new experience. When I returned I was extremely happy about the experience but had to suppress coz can't tell my parents, also my panties were a bit wet, is there something wrong with me? We both have not been in a relationship before and don't know what it exactly is but we really feel calm and peaceful when together but I'm scared if we continue this way I might convey the wrong message to him and things might go wrong. He's extremely happy after this session and says he's more determined to bring me by his side
IDK, I'm just puzzled
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2024.05.19 08:48 PlsHlpMyFriend Those Days with the Monsters - 67
After the Khumans had settled down somewhat, Alex let out a rather shaky breath. "I don't know what I was expecting, but it wasn't that."
"What were you expecting?" Kirell didn't understand, and it bothered him, but he was suddenly also extremely curious. It should be safe to learn more about this, right?
"Well... something more along the lines of swearing."
"Um... Karyces, Alex, did you get browner?" Kirell asked tentatively, which apparently set off the Khumans again.
"Woah there, spaceman." Sleepy didn't seem thrilled to hear him say that one; Kirell felt a guilty flush of purple around the edges of his frills. He didn't know Sleepy knew what it meant. "That's a strong word around the little one, huh?"
"Oh." He looked down at NryxÉ guiltily, but she didn't seem to have noticed. At least he hoped she hadn't noticed. She was staring at the glassteel wall with her seven eyes wide open. Kirell didn't need his shiny new translator to know that her expression was curiosity. She probably didn't notice.
"You'll have to tell me what it means later. I mean it, Sleepy." Alex took a deep breath, let it out slowly, and closed her eyes. "I mean, I guess I got browner, but it's not.... Well. It's a scar."
Kirell's frills flashed open with a little pop, the whole width stained a deep red. "A scar? The whole thing?"
"Yep." Come to think of it, Alex's voice was a little lower than he remembered, a little raspier. "Iā Captain, could you? It's sore."
"Sure. Poke me if I say something bad." The Captain cleared his throat as Alex sat down, crossing her legs under her, on the floor. "So, you know we burned a lot of atmosphere on Kzrkn, right?"
"Yes." Of course Kirell remembered that; he'd been scared out of his wits at the time. It seemed so silly now, to be afraid of something on the ground while he was safe in orbit.
"Well, the gate they took you through... yeah, atmospheres started mixing up, and then they closed it on Hook's electric prosthetic andā" The Captain broke off as Alex grabbed his leg; the deep red from Kirell's frills grew even darker. She was shaking a little. "Sorry Hook. Anyway, Squishy, I bet you saw it from your end too, but Hook was real close. Doc fixed what was mission-critical and did a bunch of patching, but it's still rough, and she's.... I bet she'll be mad for telling you, but she's still pretty spooked. Most folks'd already be shipped home with a Heart for this kinda thing, but damn if Hook hasn't made us proud. Well, prouder."
"What's that got to do with being browner? Did you not fix the scars?"
"Not mission-critical." Sleepy broke in on the conversation. "Don't get us wrong, Spaceman, he wanted to, but Hook said to focus on gettin' ya back."
"I think her exact words were 'Being pretty can wait.' Gotta love Hook, huh Squishy?"
Kirell felt his eyes itching, as if he wanted to cry again. "I'm sorry, Alex. I'm really sorry. I shouldn't haā"
Alex slammed her synthetic hand into the floor with a bang; NryxÉ jumped in Kirell's arms. Alex was shaking again, but this time she didn't look scared at all. She looked angry, and her eyes were a bit wet. That felt wrong, somehow, and conflicting, but Kirell could remember being scared and happy at the same time while wandering with NryxÉ; it was probably similar.
"Shut it kid. Don't say that; don't you dare say that. I went after you 'cause I wanted to get to you. Don't ever say differently." Alex's voice seemed to squeak and thin out at the end of the last syllable; she pressed her lips together, looking frustrated.
"Easy there Hook. You've talked a lot more'n usual today. It's OK." The Captain reached down and patted Alex's artificial hand awkwardly. "You're doing good."
Alex swatted his hand away. Kirell's hearts abruptly thumped in his chest; he'd never seen that kind of expression on a Khuman face before. It was some mixture of ones he'd seen before; some kind of anger, sadness, coupled with a strange sick look he didn't recognize.
"Cap, ya aren't helping. If ya don't shut up I'd say it's about three seconds 'till ya get socked."
"Shi... crap. Sorry Hook. Didn't mean toā Uh, think I'll stop talking." Kirell didn't know what this situation had to do with closed tubes of fabric, or why the Captain had glanced at him and fixed his language, but he was too tired and confused to question it.
"Wait. So, Alex got burned, and Doc put her back together?" Kirell felt his own voice squeaking, not because he was injured but because the magnitude of Alex's injuries seemed to be stealing some of his air, along with much of the space in his stomach and most of his knees' strength.
"Burn care and puttin' someone back together aren't the same thing. Doc does both, but not the same way. Some parts, sure; it's why her vocal cords are weak right now. It's like a surgery; gotta be gentle with it."
Kirell's translator helpfully reminded him that Khumans were in the habit of cutting themselves open to deal with internal problems. He hadn't wanted to remember that.
"Anyway, Hook had to get most of her lungs and voice box rebuilt, so she's not got much voice to use right now. Still gettin' stronger. Her lungs are doin' great, but the voice is takin' a bit longer. It usually does."
Kirell's frills stained a deep blue. "Alex.... I wish you hadn't. I wish you weren't hurt."
Alex looked sideways awkwardly; she didn't look angry any more, which Kirell hoped was an improvement.
"I think what Hook wants to say is that she couldn't not come for you. And I'd agree with that."
Kirell didn't think that was right, but he couldn't figure out how to say so. Surely Hook had a choice, right? He wasn't somehow making a Khumanā a Khuman, of all thingsā do anything they weren't already going to do. Surely not. The idea of a Khuman being controlled by anything but their own wild Khuman-ness was laughable. Or, he acknowledged at the sight of the glassteel walls, by another Khuman.
"So you're in here because....?"
"Well, essentially we, uh... we were doing it again, huh Hook? We were just running in again like there was nothing there to stop us. Guess that's what we do." The Captain grimaced, one hand brushing the back of his head. "Right up until Sleepy showed up and said 'Hey stop that' with a bit more'n words."
A loud amusement sound made both Kirell and NryxÉ jump; Sleepy was apparently very amused by this rephrasing of his actions. The Captain bared his teeth, too, with a look on his face that the translator told Kirell was [embarrassed] and [slightly regretful].
"Well, ya saw him now, and ya see that he's picked up someone of his own."
"Does that make you a granddad, Sleepy?"
Sleepy shrugged, looking at NryxÉ, who looked back with seven wide eyes. "Dunno. I guess it depends on what the spaceman wants, right? And what'd be best for the kid. Whaddya think, Spaceman?"
"I, um... I don't know if I know what's best for NryxÉ, but I don't want her to be upset. Can we talk about this later?"
The Khumans froze for a moment before the Captain whistled long and low. "Right. Not exactly good practice, is it? Talking custody with a kid in the room. Sorry 'bout that, Squishy."
"Hey, speaking of which." Sleepy reached out and gave Kirell a gentle, very reassuring head pat. Oh, he'd missed those. "I'm not sure he should be 'Squishy.' He didn't like it before, and now... don't ya think?"
"Yeah, agreed, it doesn't fit any more. Blue? No, don't like that one. Zim?"
"Absolutely not, Cap. Nor Dent, nor Ford Prefect. Gonna cut you off at the pass on that one."
Alex made a strange noise in her throat; with more patience than Kirell remembered them having, the Captain and Sleepy waited for her to be able to speak. When she did, it was a single word.
"Ripley."
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"What were you expecting?" Kirell didn't understand, and it bothered him, but he was suddenly also extremely curious. It should be safe to learn more about this, right?
"Well... something more along the lines of swearing."
"Um... Karyces, Alex, did you get browner?" Kirell asked tentatively, which apparently set off the Khumans again.
"Woah there, spaceman." Sleepy didn't seem thrilled to hear him say that one; Kirell felt a guilty flush of purple around the edges of his frills. He didn't know Sleepy knew what it meant. "That's a strong word around the little one, huh?"
"Oh." He looked down at NryxÉ guiltily, but she didn't seem to have noticed. At least he hoped she hadn't noticed. She was staring at the glassteel wall with her seven eyes wide open. Kirell didn't need his shiny new translator to know that her expression was curiosity. She probably didn't notice.
"You'll have to tell me what it means later. I mean it, Sleepy." Alex took a deep breath, let it out slowly, and closed her eyes. "I mean, I guess I got browner, but it's not.... Well. It's a scar."
Kirell's frills flashed open with a little pop, the whole width stained a deep red. "A scar? The whole thing?"
"Yep." Come to think of it, Alex's voice was a little lower than he remembered, a little raspier. "Iā Captain, could you? It's sore."
"Sure. Poke me if I say something bad." The Captain cleared his throat as Alex sat down, crossing her legs under her, on the floor. "So, you know we burned a lot of atmosphere on Kzrkn, right?"
"Yes." Of course Kirell remembered that; he'd been scared out of his wits at the time. It seemed so silly now, to be afraid of something on the ground while he was safe in orbit.
"Well, the gate they took you through... yeah, atmospheres started mixing up, and then they closed it on Hook's electric prosthetic andā" The Captain broke off as Alex grabbed his leg; the deep red from Kirell's frills grew even darker. She was shaking a little. "Sorry Hook. Anyway, Squishy, I bet you saw it from your end too, but Hook was real close. Doc fixed what was mission-critical and did a bunch of patching, but it's still rough, and she's.... I bet she'll be mad for telling you, but she's still pretty spooked. Most folks'd already be shipped home with a Heart for this kinda thing, but damn if Hook hasn't made us proud. Well, prouder."
"What's that got to do with being browner? Did you not fix the scars?"
"Not mission-critical." Sleepy broke in on the conversation. "Don't get us wrong, Spaceman, he wanted to, but Hook said to focus on gettin' ya back."
"I think her exact words were 'Being pretty can wait.' Gotta love Hook, huh Squishy?"
Kirell felt his eyes itching, as if he wanted to cry again. "I'm sorry, Alex. I'm really sorry. I shouldn't haā"
Alex slammed her synthetic hand into the floor with a bang; NryxÉ jumped in Kirell's arms. Alex was shaking again, but this time she didn't look scared at all. She looked angry, and her eyes were a bit wet. That felt wrong, somehow, and conflicting, but Kirell could remember being scared and happy at the same time while wandering with NryxÉ; it was probably similar.
"Shut it kid. Don't say that; don't you dare say that. I went after you 'cause I wanted to get to you. Don't ever say differently." Alex's voice seemed to squeak and thin out at the end of the last syllable; she pressed her lips together, looking frustrated.
"Easy there Hook. You've talked a lot more'n usual today. It's OK." The Captain reached down and patted Alex's artificial hand awkwardly. "You're doing good."
Alex swatted his hand away. Kirell's hearts abruptly thumped in his chest; he'd never seen that kind of expression on a Khuman face before. It was some mixture of ones he'd seen before; some kind of anger, sadness, coupled with a strange sick look he didn't recognize.
"Cap, ya aren't helping. If ya don't shut up I'd say it's about three seconds 'till ya get socked."
"Shi... crap. Sorry Hook. Didn't mean toā Uh, think I'll stop talking." Kirell didn't know what this situation had to do with closed tubes of fabric, or why the Captain had glanced at him and fixed his language, but he was too tired and confused to question it.
"Wait. So, Alex got burned, and Doc put her back together?" Kirell felt his own voice squeaking, not because he was injured but because the magnitude of Alex's injuries seemed to be stealing some of his air, along with much of the space in his stomach and most of his knees' strength.
"Burn care and puttin' someone back together aren't the same thing. Doc does both, but not the same way. Some parts, sure; it's why her vocal cords are weak right now. It's like a surgery; gotta be gentle with it."
Kirell's translator helpfully reminded him that Khumans were in the habit of cutting themselves open to deal with internal problems. He hadn't wanted to remember that.
"Anyway, Hook had to get most of her lungs and voice box rebuilt, so she's not got much voice to use right now. Still gettin' stronger. Her lungs are doin' great, but the voice is takin' a bit longer. It usually does."
Kirell's frills stained a deep blue. "Alex.... I wish you hadn't. I wish you weren't hurt."
Alex looked sideways awkwardly; she didn't look angry any more, which Kirell hoped was an improvement.
"I think what Hook wants to say is that she couldn't not come for you. And I'd agree with that."
Kirell didn't think that was right, but he couldn't figure out how to say so. Surely Hook had a choice, right? He wasn't somehow making a Khumanā a Khuman, of all thingsā do anything they weren't already going to do. Surely not. The idea of a Khuman being controlled by anything but their own wild Khuman-ness was laughable. Or, he acknowledged at the sight of the glassteel walls, by another Khuman.
"So you're in here because....?"
"Well, essentially we, uh... we were doing it again, huh Hook? We were just running in again like there was nothing there to stop us. Guess that's what we do." The Captain grimaced, one hand brushing the back of his head. "Right up until Sleepy showed up and said 'Hey stop that' with a bit more'n words."
A loud amusement sound made both Kirell and NryxÉ jump; Sleepy was apparently very amused by this rephrasing of his actions. The Captain bared his teeth, too, with a look on his face that the translator told Kirell was [embarrassed] and [slightly regretful].
"Well, ya saw him now, and ya see that he's picked up someone of his own."
"Does that make you a granddad, Sleepy?"
Sleepy shrugged, looking at NryxÉ, who looked back with seven wide eyes. "Dunno. I guess it depends on what the spaceman wants, right? And what'd be best for the kid. Whaddya think, Spaceman?"
"I, um... I don't know if I know what's best for NryxÉ, but I don't want her to be upset. Can we talk about this later?"
The Khumans froze for a moment before the Captain whistled long and low. "Right. Not exactly good practice, is it? Talking custody with a kid in the room. Sorry 'bout that, Squishy."
"Hey, speaking of which." Sleepy reached out and gave Kirell a gentle, very reassuring head pat. Oh, he'd missed those. "I'm not sure he should be 'Squishy.' He didn't like it before, and now... don't ya think?"
"Yeah, agreed, it doesn't fit any more. Blue? No, don't like that one. Zim?"
"Absolutely not, Cap. Nor Dent, nor Ford Prefect. Gonna cut you off at the pass on that one."
Alex made a strange noise in her throat; with more patience than Kirell remembered them having, the Captain and Sleepy waited for her to be able to speak. When she did, it was a single word.
"Ripley."
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2024.05.19 08:47 RefuseHot4870 Monday morning buy early and fast!!!!!
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2024.05.19 08:46 EggClare69 My friends fiance left her last night with a two year old, currently staying at my house
My friend (26 f) and her fiance (47-50? Not sure M) have been having a lot of relationship issues. She never really sees her friends and it feels a lot like he doesnt want her to have friends, hes pretty useless, probably changed 3 poopy diapers in the span of 2 years and 3 months. He is quite manipulative and standoffish. But im not saying my friend does not have flaws of her own, they obviously have a lot of resentment towards eachother.
On Thursday I went to her house as I havent seen her or bub in months and we had a glass of wine, i am usually good for two glasses and able to drive but her expensive wine was too much for my body and I realised I couldnt drive home after one drink. So she offered for me to sleep over, I have been meaning to do this anyway so that I can learn her buns night routine so i can babysit for her if needed. I said okay because I had work the next morning and wasnt able to afford the 45 minute uber home and back in the morning to get my car. So in the end we decided to just finish the bottle. We were tipsy/semi drunk, i remember the whole night as I am not a light weight, where as she is very skinny and was on her way to drunk but not quite there.
We mainly played with bub (fiance wasnt home until 7pm) and throughout the night we sat downstairs and caught up and chatted. Her bub woke up screaming at about 11:30 do we went up to calm her and put her back to sleep (albiet badly as we were not sober) my friend ended up bring bub to bed with het and fiance and I was heading to bed when I realised we had accidentally switched phones. (Please know i am aware i should not have entered their room without express permission but in sullied mind i thought this is gonna take legit 10 seconds to switch our phone) mine was on her bedside table so, in order not to just randomly walk into theor room i told fiance im just coming in quickly to switch our phones, i placed hers on her charging pad on the bedside table where mine previously was. And crept back out (because bub was in bed sleeping and friend was downstairs doing something idk) then i went to bed.
Got up at 5:30 the next day and left for home and went to work. She was messaging me saying fiance was really mad and was stating I slammed into the room and threw her phone at him being really loud. I doubted myself for a second but thought no, because I remember the whole night, and even if i was black out drunk the worst i would ever do is stumble and maybe talk a little louder then i thoight i was.
I told her to apologise to fiance for me in the case i was loud by accident and for entering the room withoit explicit permission.
On Saturday i had a mutal friend of ours over to play a ages 5 and up riddle game and drink (no way we are gonna be able to do a normal mystery solving game whilst drinking lmao) and we had invited my friend too. She said she really wanted to come but didnt want to upset fiance. We said that in any relationship, why would wanting to spend a night with your friends ve something that would upset him. Its as if he is feeling like having to take care of their child alone, one time, was a huge burden for him, keep in mind she does everything for bub, usually without help.
She said she wanted to come and he responded by saying "fine if you want to leave then im leaving" got dressed and went out to the pub with his mates, leaving her by herself with the bub. So me and other friend said to just cone iver and bring bubba with her, so she did.
Important to know, she takes her ring off at night because its uncomfortable for her to sleep in, he knows this, and it has never been an issue, she had already taken her ring off to bath bub and put her to bed so when she came over she wasnt wearing it. Was a simple mistake. He became irate with her and advised over text that they were done and that she has to move in with her mum and take baby with her. She was obviously very upset but didnt want to reply whilst angry without thinking it through first and he was spam messaging her saying hes packing her stuff and bubs stuff and she has to get out.
Shes now at my house, because her mum and other friend lives over an hour away from bubs daycare. But I absolutely am so happy she and bub is here and safe with me. I would have always offered anyway regardless of distance.
But I am exhausted and she is exhausted and I dont know what to do to help. I am also not used to having a toddler around at all. I am disabled and so I have limitations for caring for a toddler for an extended period of time. She is doing everything herself but i dont want to just sit on the couch while she does everything (unpacking the random assortment of things she needed and stuffed into bags in a hurry and taking care of bub) so i am extremely run down and its been less then 24 hours.
I am not suggesting nor do I want them to leave in any aspect. I was just wondering if anyone has advise.
Fiance also cut off her card, which obviously she uses to buy things for bub and herself to live. I dont make very much money so cannot contribute unfortunately. He said extremely upsetting things like he is not going to pay for her schooling and will send a miniscule amount per month (he is very wealthy and practically convinced friend to be a stay at home mum with no form of income) I said to her that thisnis finacial abuse and if this is serious and sticks then she has a right to an amount that keeps bub in the same level of living conditions she was in whilst together. I dont really want them to get back together to be honest, everyone wants them to split. But this isnthe opposite of the way to do it. And he has money to get a fancy lawyer in the case this goes to family court, whereas she does not.
I am scared that the situation is traumatic for bub and I dont know what I can do to make things better.
This is barely scraping the surface but any advice would be appreciated.
Thank you.
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On Thursday I went to her house as I havent seen her or bub in months and we had a glass of wine, i am usually good for two glasses and able to drive but her expensive wine was too much for my body and I realised I couldnt drive home after one drink. So she offered for me to sleep over, I have been meaning to do this anyway so that I can learn her buns night routine so i can babysit for her if needed. I said okay because I had work the next morning and wasnt able to afford the 45 minute uber home and back in the morning to get my car. So in the end we decided to just finish the bottle. We were tipsy/semi drunk, i remember the whole night as I am not a light weight, where as she is very skinny and was on her way to drunk but not quite there.
We mainly played with bub (fiance wasnt home until 7pm) and throughout the night we sat downstairs and caught up and chatted. Her bub woke up screaming at about 11:30 do we went up to calm her and put her back to sleep (albiet badly as we were not sober) my friend ended up bring bub to bed with het and fiance and I was heading to bed when I realised we had accidentally switched phones. (Please know i am aware i should not have entered their room without express permission but in sullied mind i thought this is gonna take legit 10 seconds to switch our phone) mine was on her bedside table so, in order not to just randomly walk into theor room i told fiance im just coming in quickly to switch our phones, i placed hers on her charging pad on the bedside table where mine previously was. And crept back out (because bub was in bed sleeping and friend was downstairs doing something idk) then i went to bed.
Got up at 5:30 the next day and left for home and went to work. She was messaging me saying fiance was really mad and was stating I slammed into the room and threw her phone at him being really loud. I doubted myself for a second but thought no, because I remember the whole night, and even if i was black out drunk the worst i would ever do is stumble and maybe talk a little louder then i thoight i was.
I told her to apologise to fiance for me in the case i was loud by accident and for entering the room withoit explicit permission.
On Saturday i had a mutal friend of ours over to play a ages 5 and up riddle game and drink (no way we are gonna be able to do a normal mystery solving game whilst drinking lmao) and we had invited my friend too. She said she really wanted to come but didnt want to upset fiance. We said that in any relationship, why would wanting to spend a night with your friends ve something that would upset him. Its as if he is feeling like having to take care of their child alone, one time, was a huge burden for him, keep in mind she does everything for bub, usually without help.
She said she wanted to come and he responded by saying "fine if you want to leave then im leaving" got dressed and went out to the pub with his mates, leaving her by herself with the bub. So me and other friend said to just cone iver and bring bubba with her, so she did.
Important to know, she takes her ring off at night because its uncomfortable for her to sleep in, he knows this, and it has never been an issue, she had already taken her ring off to bath bub and put her to bed so when she came over she wasnt wearing it. Was a simple mistake. He became irate with her and advised over text that they were done and that she has to move in with her mum and take baby with her. She was obviously very upset but didnt want to reply whilst angry without thinking it through first and he was spam messaging her saying hes packing her stuff and bubs stuff and she has to get out.
Shes now at my house, because her mum and other friend lives over an hour away from bubs daycare. But I absolutely am so happy she and bub is here and safe with me. I would have always offered anyway regardless of distance.
But I am exhausted and she is exhausted and I dont know what to do to help. I am also not used to having a toddler around at all. I am disabled and so I have limitations for caring for a toddler for an extended period of time. She is doing everything herself but i dont want to just sit on the couch while she does everything (unpacking the random assortment of things she needed and stuffed into bags in a hurry and taking care of bub) so i am extremely run down and its been less then 24 hours.
I am not suggesting nor do I want them to leave in any aspect. I was just wondering if anyone has advise.
Fiance also cut off her card, which obviously she uses to buy things for bub and herself to live. I dont make very much money so cannot contribute unfortunately. He said extremely upsetting things like he is not going to pay for her schooling and will send a miniscule amount per month (he is very wealthy and practically convinced friend to be a stay at home mum with no form of income) I said to her that thisnis finacial abuse and if this is serious and sticks then she has a right to an amount that keeps bub in the same level of living conditions she was in whilst together. I dont really want them to get back together to be honest, everyone wants them to split. But this isnthe opposite of the way to do it. And he has money to get a fancy lawyer in the case this goes to family court, whereas she does not.
I am scared that the situation is traumatic for bub and I dont know what I can do to make things better.
This is barely scraping the surface but any advice would be appreciated.
Thank you.
2024.05.19 08:46 everything_is_stup1d this is my testimony
In kindergarten (sorry I'm from singapore so we follow British but if im not wrong its like 5-6 years old) I already accepted Christ into my life. But my mom is a "I hate Christians!!" kind of person so I didnt dare to tell her anything. I didn't really have a good relationship with my mom cos to her studies are everything and she made me (until now) think that I'm never good enough. And I was only in primary school thinking my mom doesn't like me. I'm worthless, I want to kms. I made plans to grab the knife from the kitchen, jump off and things like that. Eventually I resulted to scratching my own skin cos I feel most pain when it's right at the nerve uk.
My whole life was until the end of primary school (12) was only to do things to make my mom happy. I wouldn't mention a word about Christianity to her. And when my mom was out at night, me, my dad and my sisters would worship. The moment the door opens, I scramble into the room. This also make me walk far from God and I would curse, swear and stuff. One day in P6, the last year of primary school (12 years old) I thought "Hey, I'm Christian so why am I swearing? Isn't this a sin?" So I stopped cursing. Of course, my mom wouldn't want me going around cursing but I didn't really do it for her, but rather for God. But I still didn't want to tell her about it.
When I graduated from Primary school, in Secondary (Sec) school, I finally got to bring my phone to school (13 years old), but my mom still could track me. Anyways I got to listen to some worship songs my dad sent to me and because I didn't have a music player downloaded and wasn't allowed to download any apps, I would listen through the WhatsApp audio player thingšš on the way home. Usually on Sundays whene my mom isn't home,my dad would bring me to church. Then of course my mom would find out and scold me and this continued until sec 2 (14).
In Sec 3 (15 years old), I had whole control of my phone so I would listen to worship music on the way home. One day in, my dad brought me to church. My mom saw my location and immediately got mad because she knew where my dad's church is and also because my older sister attends service too and my mom was not happy. Since then, I was afraid to go to church. My mom even cornered me one day and made me promise not to go to church or I can forget calling her my mom. I kept crying that night and never dared to go to church (mind that i dont even cry often).
But towards mid year(?) I just decided ok Imma go to church. She can get angry but it won't really stop me. Because I got to know God through worship songs and now I wanted to know him more.
I regularly started praying in the morning on the way to school. Eventually my prayers became a ritual and dry. I felt no emotion and no pull towards God. Only on days when I was really upset/angry then I would feel Him comforting me. One day I really wanted to be the captain in my CCA (it's like after school activities but still part of school programs) and I didn't get it. I was so upset I cried on the way home because I actually put in so much effort into it. Then I became vice captain so ig that counts.
Anyways I became really upset and got frustrated because I didn't prove myself enough. I had so low expectations of myself, got depressed again, but I couldn't vent it out because I couldn't hurt myself anymore after learning my body is a temple of God. So I got super frustrated. I prayed for guidance decided to free up my Saturdays I went to church. Youth services for Secondary school students were on Saturdays and not Sundays so yeah. Towards like October last year I cleared up my Saturdays so I could go more regularly to church, and my mom was defo not happy AT ALL that I went with my own initiative. She ignored me for several weeks and of course I felt lonely and all buy eventually I felt okay because she doesn't even know me sooooo.
I'm still trying to patch up my relationship with her. Honestly, it's so strained I don't know what to do. I've prayed that she would accept Christ everyday but uhh nothing. This doesn't mean I don't believe in God if not this would not exist
One day I was fellowshipping with my dad. Why we did that is because of a long story that would be saved for another day.
But this is the part where it's important
Previously I had dreams and I shared with my dad because he is more experience in deciphering gifts and stuff (I'm sorry if you don't believe in gifts but I do!) And he told me to pray about it because I somehow knew these dreams had meaning and relation to God. A number of dreams had direct inference to God. I did pray about it, and also asked God along these lines; "God, give me guidance. I have strayed and I know. Lord please let me understand, and let me also be close to You. I want to know You, and I know, I haven't read the word. Lord, motivate me to read the scripture, and while reading let me also understand the dreams I have been having my whole life."
I can't remember what I said exactly. The one 9f the church sermons on one week talked about how God is not far, but we are far. And I felt that that was for me. Then one day my dad said to me and my older sister "I don't care you have to download the Bible rn" so I downloaded it but did nothing with it. Finally, one day I was late for work (yes I worked when I was 15 because I actually want an electric guitar) and it was New Year's Eve. My colleague texted me saying she'd pick me up and I said and quote "Isokkk I walk over" (me) ... "Give me your block" (colleague) "Omd tyyy" (me)
Part of me didn't want her to fetch me because it would be troubling her. But I don't know why I waited and was thinking "bruh I could've reached by now but she's late" but I just waited. I was wearing full white that day. And this woman must've thought I was going to church because it was a Sunday morning.
And she asked "Hello, are you going to church?"
I said "oh no no, I have church at night because it's countdown service. (basically the youth services brought our church service from Saturday 4pm to Sunday 8pm because we wanted to countdown service together)"
She said," Oh! So you're Christian! Do you read the Word often?"
I blushed because so many signs and I haven't read a single word. "No," I was so embarrassed
She continued "I used to be a teacher, a lecturer in a University (if im not wrong) There is a website called 7 minutes with God. It was originally created for Harvard students because they were busy and didn't have time to spend time with God." Then I couldn't hear what she said because she was talking so fast. All I knew was she was summarizing the website and encouraged me to read it.
I read it like on January 2nd this year on the way to school ( I'm 16 this year!!! But not 16 yet because as I said, it's not my birthday yet or anytime soon)
I was so inspired that I kept on reading the Word and devoted mornings to not only prayers (that I allowed God to guide me and not just pray for the sake of praying) but also for reading the Word!
See, when I prayed to have motivation to read the Word more, God gave me the sign THREE TIMES which I did not pick up until the 3rd sign, the lady. The first time during the sermon I was like "Yes God, I will do it!" but did nothing. The second time when my dad asked me to download the app version of the Bible, I said "Yes God, this is the sign!" and did not do anything. I got discouraged because my dad thinks I'm funny and wouldn't take my words seriously omd š. But the third time, God literally sent a random woman I don't know and told me to read. And I read, praise God!
this is the part where it relates to the meme
Because when I went to the shower I kept laughing because I thought of this meme. I didn't read the word or get touched because it was a coincidence. So coincidence? I think not! It's a miracle ā¤ļøā¤ļøā¤ļø
I finished Mark and the New Testament, I'm currently at John right now.
Just now, after a meeting with my cell group (a small group for easier prayers etc in church), I was listening to worship music, and my grumpy dad was like "GO AND SHOWER" liek chill brou. So I went to the toilet with my headphones on and sat on the floor and just continued listening to worship music. Then my dad sent in the family group chat (just me, my older sister and him, my mom got mad and left) an article about this man called Patrick Lee/Bezalel. He is a local artist faithful in Christ
But reading halfway I kept crying because I was so touched (again I do no lt cry, but I related so much I cried even though nothing had to do with me, but it was like my mother's story where she had a hard of stone towards God) and then my phone went flat š So I risked it and ran out to get my charger but thank God (like actually) my dad didn't scream like he would. Then I sat at the toilet floor and continued reading. Tears kept flowing down my face because Patrick Bezalel's story was such a miracle, and God kept giving him signs that God existed! And removed the layer of stone that surrounded the man's heart and made it soft and open to God again!
After that I continued worshipping God and was listening to worship music (yes in the toilet because I literally have 0 privacy because none of my parents think I need it). I kept crying because the songs were so related. Can you imagine? It went in this order:
1.Presence,Power,Glory 2.Hosanna 3.Promises 4.Holy Forever
Again, coincidence? I THINK NOT. It was so planned, like it was in my playlist for so long and I haven't really thought much about it. Tears kept streaming down and kept going and through sobs I silently prayed to God
"Oh my dear God you have been so so good to me, and so faithful to me Lord. You have guided me, guided my heart and nothing has gone wrong in Your hands Lord. I've been through the turning point I've prayed for. You have sent people, songs and my family members to come after me to open up to You Lord. Lord, I was having a CG (cell group) meeting and something just touched my heart. I am now sitting on the toilet floor and typing this, because Lord you have made a way to touch my heart, guide me through a prayer that came deep down from inside of me Lord, thank You for providing. Thank You God for the miracles You have did in my life, and all that I prayed for has came through Lord. The turning point I prayed for was when that lady had spoken to me about how to set aside time for You and the Word. Lord let me not forget this incident, this turning point, this miracle Lord. Let me put my trust in You Lord, and let You take my hand and let my life be walking next to You faithfully Lord. Lord I pray that I would not waver, and I would not take my eyes away from You. Even when I am crossing and walking toward You on water in the sea, let my eyes be on You, and the works You have done for me, and not be distracted by the worls around me, but to keep my eyes on You diligently Lord. Lord, I am a sinner, and now, I was, for You have sent Jesus Christ, Your Son, to die on the cross for me. Lord, I believe in You and I want to accept You in my life Lord, no matter what situation I am in. Lord, let people around me see Your love, joy, and faithfulness in me, and not let them see the girl I was before. Let them see change, and the love and desire I have for You, Lord. Let them see Your greatness, Your goodness and You. I thank You for everything You have done, and in Jesus's name, I pray that I will walk faithfully alongside You, and will not fail to continuously pray and worship You God. Thank You Lord for the miracles, for this turning point. Thank You God for guiding me, and let me be the branch that bears fruit, and let me be the branch that has life only through Jesus, Who is the vine, Who the reason I live Lord, Who is the reason I have life. Praise the Lord! Amen!"
This is the first time I prayed for so long and every one word was truly from deep down fron the depths of my heart. I couldn't stop crying. I really couldn't and I can't emphasize more that I don't cry often! Either it hurt me so much or that God moved my heart. This time was tears of joy.
I hope this could inspire someone out there, because in another prayer I prayed for those who needed God, even if I didn't know them.
Pray. Pray and ask God to help you seek Him. One thing I learnt from a sermon is the fervency in your prayers. I didn't mean to add this in but I suddenly saw this note I wrote on 25th February.
Title: fervency in prayer Fervency: being excited about something keen on something
At the heart of revival is the spirit of prayer ā¢ pray fervently ā¢ pray with faith
"But Jesus often withdrew to lonely places and prayed"
To be fervent in prayer is to pray tenaciously despite our struggles
Hopefully this helped someone out there, inspired you and is one of your signs to start giving your life to Him! It is actually proven 1 in 3 people are Christians. Isn't our goal to have this faith to reach all four corners of the world? It could sound impossible in the past, but now there is social media, anyone could read and realize "Hey God is actually with me!"
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My whole life was until the end of primary school (12) was only to do things to make my mom happy. I wouldn't mention a word about Christianity to her. And when my mom was out at night, me, my dad and my sisters would worship. The moment the door opens, I scramble into the room. This also make me walk far from God and I would curse, swear and stuff. One day in P6, the last year of primary school (12 years old) I thought "Hey, I'm Christian so why am I swearing? Isn't this a sin?" So I stopped cursing. Of course, my mom wouldn't want me going around cursing but I didn't really do it for her, but rather for God. But I still didn't want to tell her about it.
When I graduated from Primary school, in Secondary (Sec) school, I finally got to bring my phone to school (13 years old), but my mom still could track me. Anyways I got to listen to some worship songs my dad sent to me and because I didn't have a music player downloaded and wasn't allowed to download any apps, I would listen through the WhatsApp audio player thingšš on the way home. Usually on Sundays whene my mom isn't home,my dad would bring me to church. Then of course my mom would find out and scold me and this continued until sec 2 (14).
In Sec 3 (15 years old), I had whole control of my phone so I would listen to worship music on the way home. One day in, my dad brought me to church. My mom saw my location and immediately got mad because she knew where my dad's church is and also because my older sister attends service too and my mom was not happy. Since then, I was afraid to go to church. My mom even cornered me one day and made me promise not to go to church or I can forget calling her my mom. I kept crying that night and never dared to go to church (mind that i dont even cry often).
But towards mid year(?) I just decided ok Imma go to church. She can get angry but it won't really stop me. Because I got to know God through worship songs and now I wanted to know him more.
I regularly started praying in the morning on the way to school. Eventually my prayers became a ritual and dry. I felt no emotion and no pull towards God. Only on days when I was really upset/angry then I would feel Him comforting me. One day I really wanted to be the captain in my CCA (it's like after school activities but still part of school programs) and I didn't get it. I was so upset I cried on the way home because I actually put in so much effort into it. Then I became vice captain so ig that counts.
Anyways I became really upset and got frustrated because I didn't prove myself enough. I had so low expectations of myself, got depressed again, but I couldn't vent it out because I couldn't hurt myself anymore after learning my body is a temple of God. So I got super frustrated. I prayed for guidance decided to free up my Saturdays I went to church. Youth services for Secondary school students were on Saturdays and not Sundays so yeah. Towards like October last year I cleared up my Saturdays so I could go more regularly to church, and my mom was defo not happy AT ALL that I went with my own initiative. She ignored me for several weeks and of course I felt lonely and all buy eventually I felt okay because she doesn't even know me sooooo.
I'm still trying to patch up my relationship with her. Honestly, it's so strained I don't know what to do. I've prayed that she would accept Christ everyday but uhh nothing. This doesn't mean I don't believe in God if not this would not exist
One day I was fellowshipping with my dad. Why we did that is because of a long story that would be saved for another day.
But this is the part where it's important
Previously I had dreams and I shared with my dad because he is more experience in deciphering gifts and stuff (I'm sorry if you don't believe in gifts but I do!) And he told me to pray about it because I somehow knew these dreams had meaning and relation to God. A number of dreams had direct inference to God. I did pray about it, and also asked God along these lines; "God, give me guidance. I have strayed and I know. Lord please let me understand, and let me also be close to You. I want to know You, and I know, I haven't read the word. Lord, motivate me to read the scripture, and while reading let me also understand the dreams I have been having my whole life."
I can't remember what I said exactly. The one 9f the church sermons on one week talked about how God is not far, but we are far. And I felt that that was for me. Then one day my dad said to me and my older sister "I don't care you have to download the Bible rn" so I downloaded it but did nothing with it. Finally, one day I was late for work (yes I worked when I was 15 because I actually want an electric guitar) and it was New Year's Eve. My colleague texted me saying she'd pick me up and I said and quote "Isokkk I walk over" (me) ... "Give me your block" (colleague) "Omd tyyy" (me)
Part of me didn't want her to fetch me because it would be troubling her. But I don't know why I waited and was thinking "bruh I could've reached by now but she's late" but I just waited. I was wearing full white that day. And this woman must've thought I was going to church because it was a Sunday morning.
And she asked "Hello, are you going to church?"
I said "oh no no, I have church at night because it's countdown service. (basically the youth services brought our church service from Saturday 4pm to Sunday 8pm because we wanted to countdown service together)"
She said," Oh! So you're Christian! Do you read the Word often?"
I blushed because so many signs and I haven't read a single word. "No," I was so embarrassed
She continued "I used to be a teacher, a lecturer in a University (if im not wrong) There is a website called 7 minutes with God. It was originally created for Harvard students because they were busy and didn't have time to spend time with God." Then I couldn't hear what she said because she was talking so fast. All I knew was she was summarizing the website and encouraged me to read it.
I read it like on January 2nd this year on the way to school ( I'm 16 this year!!! But not 16 yet because as I said, it's not my birthday yet or anytime soon)
I was so inspired that I kept on reading the Word and devoted mornings to not only prayers (that I allowed God to guide me and not just pray for the sake of praying) but also for reading the Word!
See, when I prayed to have motivation to read the Word more, God gave me the sign THREE TIMES which I did not pick up until the 3rd sign, the lady. The first time during the sermon I was like "Yes God, I will do it!" but did nothing. The second time when my dad asked me to download the app version of the Bible, I said "Yes God, this is the sign!" and did not do anything. I got discouraged because my dad thinks I'm funny and wouldn't take my words seriously omd š. But the third time, God literally sent a random woman I don't know and told me to read. And I read, praise God!
this is the part where it relates to the meme
Because when I went to the shower I kept laughing because I thought of this meme. I didn't read the word or get touched because it was a coincidence. So coincidence? I think not! It's a miracle ā¤ļøā¤ļøā¤ļø
I finished Mark and the New Testament, I'm currently at John right now.
Just now, after a meeting with my cell group (a small group for easier prayers etc in church), I was listening to worship music, and my grumpy dad was like "GO AND SHOWER" liek chill brou. So I went to the toilet with my headphones on and sat on the floor and just continued listening to worship music. Then my dad sent in the family group chat (just me, my older sister and him, my mom got mad and left) an article about this man called Patrick Lee/Bezalel. He is a local artist faithful in Christ
But reading halfway I kept crying because I was so touched (again I do no lt cry, but I related so much I cried even though nothing had to do with me, but it was like my mother's story where she had a hard of stone towards God) and then my phone went flat š So I risked it and ran out to get my charger but thank God (like actually) my dad didn't scream like he would. Then I sat at the toilet floor and continued reading. Tears kept flowing down my face because Patrick Bezalel's story was such a miracle, and God kept giving him signs that God existed! And removed the layer of stone that surrounded the man's heart and made it soft and open to God again!
After that I continued worshipping God and was listening to worship music (yes in the toilet because I literally have 0 privacy because none of my parents think I need it). I kept crying because the songs were so related. Can you imagine? It went in this order:
1.Presence,Power,Glory 2.Hosanna 3.Promises 4.Holy Forever
Again, coincidence? I THINK NOT. It was so planned, like it was in my playlist for so long and I haven't really thought much about it. Tears kept streaming down and kept going and through sobs I silently prayed to God
"Oh my dear God you have been so so good to me, and so faithful to me Lord. You have guided me, guided my heart and nothing has gone wrong in Your hands Lord. I've been through the turning point I've prayed for. You have sent people, songs and my family members to come after me to open up to You Lord. Lord, I was having a CG (cell group) meeting and something just touched my heart. I am now sitting on the toilet floor and typing this, because Lord you have made a way to touch my heart, guide me through a prayer that came deep down from inside of me Lord, thank You for providing. Thank You God for the miracles You have did in my life, and all that I prayed for has came through Lord. The turning point I prayed for was when that lady had spoken to me about how to set aside time for You and the Word. Lord let me not forget this incident, this turning point, this miracle Lord. Let me put my trust in You Lord, and let You take my hand and let my life be walking next to You faithfully Lord. Lord I pray that I would not waver, and I would not take my eyes away from You. Even when I am crossing and walking toward You on water in the sea, let my eyes be on You, and the works You have done for me, and not be distracted by the worls around me, but to keep my eyes on You diligently Lord. Lord, I am a sinner, and now, I was, for You have sent Jesus Christ, Your Son, to die on the cross for me. Lord, I believe in You and I want to accept You in my life Lord, no matter what situation I am in. Lord, let people around me see Your love, joy, and faithfulness in me, and not let them see the girl I was before. Let them see change, and the love and desire I have for You, Lord. Let them see Your greatness, Your goodness and You. I thank You for everything You have done, and in Jesus's name, I pray that I will walk faithfully alongside You, and will not fail to continuously pray and worship You God. Thank You Lord for the miracles, for this turning point. Thank You God for guiding me, and let me be the branch that bears fruit, and let me be the branch that has life only through Jesus, Who is the vine, Who the reason I live Lord, Who is the reason I have life. Praise the Lord! Amen!"
This is the first time I prayed for so long and every one word was truly from deep down fron the depths of my heart. I couldn't stop crying. I really couldn't and I can't emphasize more that I don't cry often! Either it hurt me so much or that God moved my heart. This time was tears of joy.
I hope this could inspire someone out there, because in another prayer I prayed for those who needed God, even if I didn't know them.
Pray. Pray and ask God to help you seek Him. One thing I learnt from a sermon is the fervency in your prayers. I didn't mean to add this in but I suddenly saw this note I wrote on 25th February.
Title: fervency in prayer Fervency: being excited about something keen on something
At the heart of revival is the spirit of prayer ā¢ pray fervently ā¢ pray with faith
"But Jesus often withdrew to lonely places and prayed"
To be fervent in prayer is to pray tenaciously despite our struggles
Hopefully this helped someone out there, inspired you and is one of your signs to start giving your life to Him! It is actually proven 1 in 3 people are Christians. Isn't our goal to have this faith to reach all four corners of the world? It could sound impossible in the past, but now there is social media, anyone could read and realize "Hey God is actually with me!"
2024.05.19 08:45 GhoulGriin Best Car Wash Cannons
 | submitted by GhoulGriin to u/GhoulGriin [link] [comments] https://preview.redd.it/ujf931rfxb1d1.jpg?width=720&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=861903c2527ffc86dae7c3ee4d70e9d9cb7971c3 Get ready to impress with the ultimate car washing companion - the Car Wash Cannons! In this roundup, we'll explore the best gear on the market that'll make your car shine like new. Say goodbye to dirty windows and spots on your vehicle with these top-rated products. So buckle up your car detailing apron, and let's dive in! The Top 19 Best Car Wash Cannons
ReviewsšHeavy Duty Foam Cannon for Motorcycle & Car Washinghttps://preview.redd.it/qe9gzk7gxb1d1.jpg?width=720&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=3de9f922dfbb141bcd1e7f303765c4608a5b6e2b Last year, I got myself the FGDCHNJ Pressure Washer Foam Cannon for my daily car washing routine. I have the foam wash gun mounted on my pressure washer, and it has been a game changer for my cleaning game. The heavy-duty brass material of the foam cannon makes it sturdy and long-lasting, perfect for both residential and commercial usage. It's been months since I got it, and it still works like brand new! I'm surprised how versatile this foam cannon is. One thing I love about this foam cannon is the adjustable foam thickness level and spray angles. It's super easy to use, and I can switch it up to match my washing needs effortlessly. The wide-mouth bottle design also ensures that I'm using the foam efficiently without causing any cracks, which is fantastic. I have the foam cannon on a 2-5.3 GPM pressure washer that works with a 1/4 inch connector, and it's compatible with pressure washer connectors ranging from 725-4,000 PSI operating pressure. It can handle up to 60Ā°C/140Ā°F max temp. While I've had a great experience with it, there's one small con. The foam cannon is made in China, so some users experienced issues with receiving counterfeit products. But, the good news is that it has a free replacement policy if you face any defects. Overall, I'm satisfied with my purchase and highly recommend it for anyone looking for a durable and efficient car wash foam cannon. šMaximum Foam Output 3D Ultra Blast Foam Car Wash Cannonhttps://preview.redd.it/n0qeiqlgxb1d1.jpg?width=720&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=f76cc48491a9c068ae4a6af8a50411bdfdb45c34 Have you ever wished there was a better way to clean your car? 3D's Ultra Blast Foamer Car Wash Foam Cannon does just that with its shaving cream-like foam coverage and adjustable spray nozzle. 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Overall, however, I'm quite satisfied with my experience using the First Purchase Total Wash Street Foam Cannon Kit, and I look forward to continuing to use it for my car washing needs. Despite the minor drawbacks, the kit's versatility, cost-effectiveness, and time-saving capabilities make it a worthwhile investment for any busy car owner. šUltimate Touchless Wash Bundle for Effortless Vehicle Cleaninghttps://preview.redd.it/06tb62mhxb1d1.jpg?width=720&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=9b6db58872d35283e33663612ab43c6ebc2223d5 I recently had the pleasure of trying out the Touchless Foam Cannon Kit, and let me tell you, it's a game-changer for car enthusiasts. The kit includes everything you need to make your car washing experience a breeze. The first thing that really impressed me was the quality of the foam. It's so rich and thick, it practically clings to the car, ensuring every inch is covered. 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I'd highly recommend it to anyone looking to make their car washing routine stress-free and efficient. šHigh-Pressure Car Wash Cannons for Effortless Foam Applicationhttps://preview.redd.it/dfpa1u3ixb1d1.jpg?width=720&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=0585b3e0826e674aa5e106c4f5a8391ca10d0289 As someone who enjoys keeping my car clean and shiny, I recently gave the GDHXW X-887 High Pressure Washer Gun a try. This little gadget packs a punch, with a 3000 PSI rating that left my car looking brand new. The foam lance, with a 1/4" quick connector fitting, made the washing process a breeze, as I simply had to fill it with warm water and a bit of soap. One nifty feature of this pressure washer gun is the adjustable spray nozzle, which allowed me to find the perfect stream of water for my needs. With 7 different spray angles, I could easily switch between watering my plants, washing my car, and even cleaning my driveway with ease. The core, made of quality brass, added a layer of durability to the device, and its solid brass body made it quite heavy. Now, there were a couple of things that could have been better. First, connecting it to my garden water pipe turned out to be quite a challenge, as the product's instructions didn't quite line up with the hardware I had. Secondly, it wasn't as ideal for professional use as I had hoped - the spray nozzle seemed to need a bit more tweaking to get it to work just right. Despite these minor drawbacks, the GDHXW X-887 High Pressure Washer Gun has proven to be a reliable tool for car cleaning enthusiasts like myself. With its adjustable spray nozzle, sturdy build, and surprisingly powerful pressure, this device has become an invaluable companion on my car cleaning journey. šCar Wash Cannon: Easy, Foam Soap Blasting Systemhttps://preview.redd.it/3gxs1ibixb1d1.jpg?width=720&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=3d97abe8edc40d994b37ebefa4cc69113127c586 I recently tried this Carwash Cannon Foam Soap Blaster, and it turned out to be quite the experience. I have to say, the ease of use and convenience of this product impressed me right away. It was simple to attach to my garden hose and start blasting foam all over my car. One of the standout features for me was the 5 different spray settings. I found that the foam setting between 3-5 (high) worked particularly well in covering my car in thick, cleansing foam. After letting it soak for a while, I used a wash mitt to scrub each section of the car and then rinsed it off, revealing a clean and shiny finish. However, I did find that it didn't completely eliminate the need for manual scrubbing. Some stubborn spots still required a bit of elbow grease to remove, but overall, the carwash cannon made the process much more enjoyable and efficient. In terms of cons, one thing I noticed was that the foam gun's performance seemed to vary slightly between uses. Sometimes it would produce a thick, generous foam, while other times it seemed to produce less foam with less force. Although this didn't significantly impact the overall cleaning experience, it did require some adjustment in technique when washing different areas of the car. Overall, I'm quite pleased with this Carwash Cannon Foam Soap Blaster. It has definitely made my car washing experience easier and more enjoyable. By using the right soap and paying attention to the foam settings, it delivers impressive results, and I'd recommend it for anyone looking to make their car washing routine more efficient and less of a hassle. šCar Wash Foam Cannon with Adjustable Thicknesshttps://preview.redd.it/y1pkxkrixb1d1.jpg?width=720&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=7ee8a52edbe0923dee9ca7285078d126886e22cb I recently tried the Foam Cannon from Proper Detailing Co. to make washing my car safer and quicker. One of the standout features is the wide mouth design that makes filling the cannon a breeze - just add water and foam shampoo. This cannon can be used with both electric and gas pressure washers, making it versatile and easy to use. I also love the stainless pickup tube filter, which ensures consistent foaming action even when I'm spraying at an angle. Another great advantage is the simplicity of the thickness knob, which makes it easy to control the ratio of foam to water. By turning the knob, I can achieve the perfect snowfoam for a sparkling clean car. The Foam Cannon from Proper Detailing Co. not only saves time but also keeps my car safe by creating a safe lubricant for washing without scratching or marring the paint. This quality product made by an Atlanta-based brand has made my car washing experience more enjoyable and hassle-free. šEffortless Car Wash Foam Cannon: Powerful Cleaning with Non-Tip Designhttps://preview.redd.it/08v2dj2jxb1d1.jpg?width=720&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=1a47eff1d3a8519789784fb5a39e00770cab8349 I've been using the Armor All Foam Cannon in my daily life, and I must say it made my car washing routine a lot more enjoyable and efficient. The foam cannon not only saves me time but also provides better results as it evenly coats my vehicle with less effort, making it easier to clean and removing dirt and grime more effectively. One of the key aspects I appreciated about this foam cannon was its ease of use. The non-slip grip, along with the wide, non-tip bottle, ensures that I can control the foam cannon with ease while it effectively covers my car. Moreover, being compatible with a 1/4 inch Quick-Connect tip makes it more versatile and convenient to use, even with my existing pressure washer. While I've had a positive experience with the Armor All Foam Cannon, there was one thing that I found slightly frustrating. The 1/4 inch Quick-Connect tip that came with it didn't match my power washer perfectly, which led to an occasional overflow of foam and a messier experience. However, once I figured out the right Quick-Connect tip for my pressure washer, it made the foam cannon even more practical and efficient. In conclusion, the Armor All Foam Cannon has made my car washing experience a lot better, and I'm happy to see improvements in both the appearance of my car and my overall satisfaction. Despite the initial hiccup with the Quick-Connect tip, the foam cannon remains a practical and smart solution for anyone looking to simplify their car washing routine. šPowerful Car Wash Foam Cannon Kit for Pressure Washershttps://preview.redd.it/ozwy6djjxb1d1.jpg?width=720&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=3e95b77d8e14ccb064c38c7d3b9e859fd332a23b Recently, I had a chance to use the MTM Hydro 28 Special PF22.2 Foam Cannon Kit as a car wash solution for my weekend projects. The kit includes everything you need for a pressure washer attachment, from plug adapters to fittings. The swivel function on the SG28 Spray Gun is a game-changer, as it prevents tangles while changing directions. The PF22.2 Foam Cannon itself is impressive, creating a consistent foam that helps deep clean the surface while saving time. However, one drawback I experienced is that it might not be the most efficient for larger surfaces like houses or fences. When I tested the product on my car, it delivered a thorough and even clean. The adjustable fan blades and 2-stage nozzle are great additions, allowing me to control the flow and coverage of the foam. The car wash gun's flexibility made it perfect for cleaning nooks and crannies around my car. Overall, the MTM Hydro 28 Special PF22.2 Foam Cannon Kit is a powerful and versatile tool for anyone looking to make their car washing routine more efficient and eco-friendly. šMTM Hydro Ultimate Car Wash Cannon Kit with Spray Gun and Stainless Steel Fittingshttps://preview.redd.it/ce11z92kxb1d1.jpg?width=720&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=403b81a15e21b5a879503797e494d71ff8b4fb83 When I first tried the MTM Hydro Ultimate Foam Cannon Kit and Spray Gun, I was impressed by how quickly and efficiently it cleaned my car. The integrated swivel gun and stainless steel fittings made maneuvering it a breeze, even in tight spaces. One of my favorite features is the adjustable nozzle, which allowed me to control the amount of foam I needed to get rid of stubborn dirt and grime. However, I did notice that the maximum pressure it could handle was only 5,000 PSI and 12 GPM. Despite this, the car wash foam cannon still produced a thick and effective cleaner for my vehicle. With its compatibility with various pressure washers and its ability to eliminate the need for reaching, the MTM Hydro Ultimate Foam Cannon Kit and Spray Gun is definitely a must-have for both home and professional cleaning needs. šProfessional Car Wash Foam Cannon for Touchless Cleaninghttps://preview.redd.it/p9e1zvckxb1d1.jpg?width=720&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=7fe0cc26f0649a50d06504a6b3a2f9d6adef7144 The Suds Lab F1 Professional Foam Cannon has been a game-changer in my car washing routine. Its ability to transform liquid soap into a luxurious foam that easily covers my car in a matter of minutes is truly remarkable. The installation process is a breeze, requiring no additional tools and simply needing to be attached to my pressure washer. One of the standout features for me is the adjustable foam control, which allows me to fully control the level of foam dispensed. This has been incredibly useful in saving my soap, and I no longer have to rely on the traditional sponge and bucket method. The 32-ounce canister size adds to its convenience, ensuring a sufficient amount of soap for multiple washes. However, there is a downside to this foam cannon. It can be quite bulky, as it measures approximately 6.89 inches in length and 9.84 inches in height. This makes it a bit challenging to store when not in use. Also, the pressure wash can be quite powerful, which means it may not be suitable for delicate surfaces or those who prefer a gentler wash. Overall, the Suds Lab F1 Professional Foam Cannon is a fantastic tool for anyone looking to streamline their car washing process, but its size and power level should be considered before making a purchase. šUltimate Car Wash Foam Gun for Pressure Washer Accessories Kithttps://preview.redd.it/ps2d0upkxb1d1.jpg?width=720&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=6cd31410aa949e25072fa60beff226b38cb31355 I remember the first time I tested this foam cannon for my pressure washer. It was a game-changer! The powerful 1.1mm valve created the most impressive foam I'd ever seen. It made washing my car so much more effective and enjoyable. I was impressed by how easy it was to use - simply add soap, fill with water, and shake to create the perfect car wash foam. The adjustable nozzle allowed me to control the spray pattern, making the experience even better. One of the things I loved about this foam cannon is its durability. The wide neck design ensures it won't crack, even under heavy use. I've used it multiple times now, and it still performs excellently. Plus, the fact that it comes with Snow Foam Car Wash Soap makes it a perfect car wash kit. However, there was one aspect I found a bit annoying - the foam cannon can be quite heavy when filled with water. But overall, I'd highly recommend this foam cannon to anyone looking for an efficient and effective way to wash their car. Buyer's GuideCar Wash Cannons are powerful, versatile tools designed to tackle various car cleaning tasks with ease. They provide an efficient and convenient way to clean cars, whether it's for personal use or a professional car wash service. In this guide, we will discuss various important factors to consider when purchasing a Car Wash Cannon to ensure you make the right choice.Water Pressurehttps://preview.redd.it/u0pzthlnxb1d1.jpg?width=720&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=16311f8d593b007051bb97240927596b97d3c640 Water pressure is a critical factor when choosing a Car Wash Cannon. Ensure that the device you select can handle the required pressure for your specific application. Water pressure requirements may vary depending on the type of cleaning task, such as washing vehicle interiors, exteriors, or removing stubborn dirt and stains. VersatilityConsider the versatility of the Car Wash Cannon. Look for devices that come with multiple attachments, such as different nozzles, extensions, and brushes. This will allow you to tackle various cleaning tasks with ease without needing separate tools for each job. Versatile Car Wash Cannons can save you time and money in the long run.Durability and Build QualityCar Wash Cannons should be built to withstand regular use and harsh cleaning conditions. Look for devices made from high-quality materials, such as stainless steel or industrial-grade plastics. Inspect the build quality and construction of the Cannon to ensure that it can handle the wear and tear that comes with consistent use. https://preview.redd.it/sgwlqvxnxb1d1.jpg?width=720&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=b722717ee61e8360766a1251bf56d17117ca61fa Power SourceCar Wash Cannons can be powered by electricity, compressed air, or a combination of both. Each power source has its advantages and disadvantages. Electric car wash cannons are generally more powerful and easier to use, while compressed air cannons are more suited for specific applications. Consider the type of car washing tasks you need to perform and choose a power source that best fits your requirements.Noise LevelsNoise levels are an essential consideration when selecting a Car Wash Cannon, especially if you plan to use it in a residential area or close to living spaces. Look for devices with lower noise levels to minimize disruption to your surroundings.Maintenance and Cleaninghttps://preview.redd.it/xxrkq7goxb1d1.jpg?width=720&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=f80a7218db35f5099ba7cd8fa6fe8cf690171692 Proper maintenance and cleaning of your Car Wash Cannon are crucial to ensure its longevity and optimal performance. Choose devices with replaceable or repairable parts to make it easier to maintain and clean. Additionally, follow the manufacturer's advice on maintenance and cleaning procedures to keep your Car Wash Cannon in top condition. Price and ValueFinally, consider the price and value of the Car Wash Cannon you are interested in purchasing. Higher-priced models may offer advanced features and better performance, but this doesn't always mean they are the best choice for your needs. Evaluate the cost-benefit ratio of the device and choose one that offers the best value for your money.By keeping these factors in mind, you'll be better equipped to make an informed decision when selecting a Car Wash Cannon that suits your car cleaning needs and expectations. FAQhttps://preview.redd.it/dztawiroxb1d1.jpg?width=720&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=2074a0dd1318abbe5b290aeadd191e0fa0bef4a2 What are Car Wash Cannons?Car Wash Cannons are high-powered, industrial-strength car wash systems designed for use at commercial car washes. These machines are capable of washing an entire vehicle at once and are perfect for high-volume car wash operations.How do Car Wash Cannons work?Car Wash Cannons use a combination of hot water, high-pressure cleaning jets, and specialized cleaning solutions to wash a vehicle. The process typically involves a pre-soak, foaming, and rinsing stage, followed by a high-pressure wash to remove dirt and grime. Finally, the vehicle is polished and waxed to give it a shiny finish.Are Car Wash Cannons easy to operate?While Car Wash Cannons are designed to be user-friendly, it is essential to receive proper training from the manufacturer or a certified technician. This will ensure that you are aware of all safety procedures and maintenance requirements to operate the machine efficiently.What are the benefits of using a Car Wash Cannon?
How much do Car Wash Cannons cost?The cost of a Car Wash Cannon can vary significantly depending on several factors, including the size of the machine, the features it includes, and the manufacturer. It is best to contact the manufacturer directly or consult a reputable dealer for an accurate price quote.What maintenance is required for a Car Wash Cannon?Regular maintenance is essential to ensure that your Car Wash Cannon operates efficiently and safely. This may include cleaning filters, replacing worn parts, and inspecting the entire system for any potential issues. It is recommended to follow the manufacturer's maintenance schedule and consult a certified technician for any necessary repairs.As an Amazonā¢ Associate, we earn from qualifying purchases. |
2024.05.19 08:45 thatoneurchin I love Rachel
This is a really random appreciation post.
I see a lot of people say how Rachel is selfish, obnoxious, entitled, annoying, etc. and I think thatās all true, but I justā¦ love her character.
I love her brand of flaws, if that makes any sense. Like sheās so, so obnoxious and over the top, but that makes little scenes that could be boring comical. Take the first scene where sheās signing up for glee club, for example. Sheās just writing her name. Totally normal thing to do - but itās Rachel, so we get this crazy monologue about how she always signs her name with a gold star, got a teacher fired for not giving her a solo, and was allegedly conceived with a turkey baster. She has so much personality, Iād be entertained watching her fold laundry and do taxes.
Another thing I love is how her self esteem is portrayed. Cause on one hand, it seems like she has a hugely inflated ego, but on the other, she just seems a deeply insecure teenage girl. Sheāll proclaim that sheās going to be a star one episode, then be crying cause she doesnāt think sheās as pretty as Quinn the next. And it doesnāt feel implausible or give me whiplash either. I can understand how on stage, sheās completely sure of herself, while off stage, sheās unsure and desperate for approval.
Also love how much she loves performing. I think Lea Michele did a really good job, cause you can tell how happy it makes Rachel just by her face. Thereās little moments throughout the show where the group will be singing, and sheāll smile like sheās genuinely having fun, just being able to do it. Some of my favorite examples: when they first sing Donāt Stop Believinā, and sheās got this grin on her face, because for the first time, theyāre all in sync, and theyāre good. When she sings Take Me or Leave Me with Mercedes, and they both get distracted by each otherās talent. When she sings Poker Face with Shelby, and thereās this sheer amazement and vulnerability over getting to share something she loves with her mom.
Oh, thatās another thing. Her vulnerability. Whenever she gets bullied or insulted, thereās always this very hurt look that appears on her face for a second, before she forces herself to cheer up. It always makes me feel so bad for her. Yeah, sheās annoying, but a lot of her friends were comfortable casually insulting her. One example is in Blame It On the Alcohol, where sheās talking to Puck. She says she canāt have a party cause her dads trusted her, he tells her she sucks and is a total bore, and you see her face crumple like āis that what everyone really thinks of me?ā Then, when Finn walks in, sheās smiling again.
Sheās constantly picking herself up and putting herself back on the horse, while constantly getting bullied. I thought it was really brave of her to keep posting singing videos even when people were laughing and telling her to get sterilized - especially as a teen. Most people at that age would crumble and just want to conform.
Donāt want to make this too long, so lastly, I just love how insanely competitive she is. She has talent, knows it, and puts her heart and soul into winning. Iām never really annoyed when she complains about deserving this or that because I know sheās going to throw her whole ass into the part. She gets this insane look in her eye, too. Like when Jesse was singing Bohemian Rhapsody, she looked about ready to storm on stage and slit his throat. It makes me laugh. And it makes simple singing scenes seem so much more tense and entertaining. Itās like musical warfare with her lmao. There is nothing ironic about show choir!
Anyway, that said, I just have a huge fondness for her character. Could never hate her. I always see hate posts for her, and I read it like āyes, mmhm, obnoxiousā¦ selfishā¦ terrible, correct, still canāt wait to see her on my screenā
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I see a lot of people say how Rachel is selfish, obnoxious, entitled, annoying, etc. and I think thatās all true, but I justā¦ love her character.
I love her brand of flaws, if that makes any sense. Like sheās so, so obnoxious and over the top, but that makes little scenes that could be boring comical. Take the first scene where sheās signing up for glee club, for example. Sheās just writing her name. Totally normal thing to do - but itās Rachel, so we get this crazy monologue about how she always signs her name with a gold star, got a teacher fired for not giving her a solo, and was allegedly conceived with a turkey baster. She has so much personality, Iād be entertained watching her fold laundry and do taxes.
Another thing I love is how her self esteem is portrayed. Cause on one hand, it seems like she has a hugely inflated ego, but on the other, she just seems a deeply insecure teenage girl. Sheāll proclaim that sheās going to be a star one episode, then be crying cause she doesnāt think sheās as pretty as Quinn the next. And it doesnāt feel implausible or give me whiplash either. I can understand how on stage, sheās completely sure of herself, while off stage, sheās unsure and desperate for approval.
Also love how much she loves performing. I think Lea Michele did a really good job, cause you can tell how happy it makes Rachel just by her face. Thereās little moments throughout the show where the group will be singing, and sheāll smile like sheās genuinely having fun, just being able to do it. Some of my favorite examples: when they first sing Donāt Stop Believinā, and sheās got this grin on her face, because for the first time, theyāre all in sync, and theyāre good. When she sings Take Me or Leave Me with Mercedes, and they both get distracted by each otherās talent. When she sings Poker Face with Shelby, and thereās this sheer amazement and vulnerability over getting to share something she loves with her mom.
Oh, thatās another thing. Her vulnerability. Whenever she gets bullied or insulted, thereās always this very hurt look that appears on her face for a second, before she forces herself to cheer up. It always makes me feel so bad for her. Yeah, sheās annoying, but a lot of her friends were comfortable casually insulting her. One example is in Blame It On the Alcohol, where sheās talking to Puck. She says she canāt have a party cause her dads trusted her, he tells her she sucks and is a total bore, and you see her face crumple like āis that what everyone really thinks of me?ā Then, when Finn walks in, sheās smiling again.
Sheās constantly picking herself up and putting herself back on the horse, while constantly getting bullied. I thought it was really brave of her to keep posting singing videos even when people were laughing and telling her to get sterilized - especially as a teen. Most people at that age would crumble and just want to conform.
Donāt want to make this too long, so lastly, I just love how insanely competitive she is. She has talent, knows it, and puts her heart and soul into winning. Iām never really annoyed when she complains about deserving this or that because I know sheās going to throw her whole ass into the part. She gets this insane look in her eye, too. Like when Jesse was singing Bohemian Rhapsody, she looked about ready to storm on stage and slit his throat. It makes me laugh. And it makes simple singing scenes seem so much more tense and entertaining. Itās like musical warfare with her lmao. There is nothing ironic about show choir!
Anyway, that said, I just have a huge fondness for her character. Could never hate her. I always see hate posts for her, and I read it like āyes, mmhm, obnoxiousā¦ selfishā¦ terrible, correct, still canāt wait to see her on my screenā