At first, sorry because my natural language is not english and this maybe a very technical question, then I’m going to use google translate to help me, hope can anyone understand and solve my question.
Let's say that I have thought that through trade it is possible to manipulate which buildings may or may not be profitable, and therefore, apart from modifying internal prices, perhaps being able to favor the hiring or firing of workers. But I don't know if all this is profitable when I establish a commercial route that provides losses (in red in the budget).
Example 1 Plantations (for example sugar): I have a country with excess sugar, internal price -75%. To make this industry productive, it should export sugar and even remove tariffs to encourage its export. But what if I don't? That is, if I voluntarily put export tariffs so that sugar is not sold, keeping the price at -75%. - that should make my sugar industry unprofitable and therefore have fewer hires, making those employees work in industries more profitable (which interest me more), and thus weakening the IG Landowner. This is so?
Example 2: Mines (with the PM atmospheric engine): when I start to start my mining as an "underdeveloped country" many workers do not want to work in coal production because they get better salaries working on a ranch, for example. Although it generates internal demand, it is going slower than I would like. -In this case, could demand skyrocket (and the price rise to +75%) by trading A LOT of coal, making this production VERY profitable and thus favoring massive hiring? -Most of these routes indicate to me that they are not profitable (they appear in red), can these losses be compensated by the salaries and production of the mines? -And now if we combine example 1 and example 2, to make the companies owned by the Landowners less profitable and weakening this IG. Is all this correct?
Example 3: I am manufacturing a good that only high strata consume, for example luxury furniture. I produce a small quantity, but they don't buy it even though I don't have it recorded for taxes. Its market price is -75%, making the company not profitable and on top of that it is not consumed internally. - For this specific case, is it profitable to establish export routes even if they cause losses? -Would this be offset by the benefits that increased production would produce?
Thank you all very much for answering these questions and please forgive the translation.

This is for fun. This is what roles the extroverted types would provide and also what they’d struggle with when SHTF. I’ll do a separate introverts one so don’t make the wall of text too long.
I’ve also below put what roles they’d provide in a group setting. I’ve put the introverts in this list too but will elaborate on the introverts list.
ENFJ: Strengths: Providing emotional support to the group, coming up with ways that can make the experience more pleasant for everyone considering the circumstances.
Weaknesses: Taking responsibility for the group direction would make them feel uncomfortable, fixing things that are broke would not be their forte, strategising may be difficult especially if they are the sole strategised.
ENFP: Strengths: Coming up with useful ideas on where to find supplies, keeping the group entertained, chipping in whether help is needed as they pick up skills easy
Weaknesses: Not good at observing changes and dangers that may affect the group, difficulty keeping the living quarters tidy, will not blindly follow orders
ENTJ: Strengths: offering practical solutions to issues as they arise, taking leadership especially in stressful situations, knowing if a mission is a good or bad idea and taking accountability for making that decision
Weaknesses: Struggling to be able to provide emotional support to others, being too rigid with their thinking and not taking others views into consideration, may come across as insensitive or blunt.
ENTP: Strengths: Able to actively use their practical skills in real time, see many points of views and possibilities, appreciate that new ideas could be the new success story.
Weaknesses: May struggle to accept orders from a leader, likely to be distractable and lose focus, may become argumentative if their thinking is challenged and they perceive it to be a slight.
ESFJ: Strengths: Able to organise and keep the living quarters in order, happy to help out in any way they can, likely good at cooking or crafting things.
Weaknesses: Struggles with conflict and high stress situations, difficulty making decisions on behalf of the group, can be quite traditional and may struggle to accept new ways of doing things.
ESFP: Strengths: will uplift the group when morale is low, usually willing to take risks others are not comfortable with, good practical skills which makes them an all rounder for fixing as well as scouting for things in a dangerous situation.
Weaknesses: Easily bored so make become low of mood when boredom sets in, not very good and sticking to a plan, sometimes doesn’t take things seriously even when the situation calls for it.
ESTJ: Strengths: Incredibly reliable and if they say they are going to do something they will usually do it, great organiser and delegator, will make tough decisions using logic and practicality for the group.
Weaknesses: Can be quite blunt and dismissive of others opinions if they think the other hasn’t thought things through, struggles with uncertainty which may make them easily stressed in an ever changing situation, can be prone to arrogance and taking over even when input isn’t asked for.
ESTP: Strengths: Able to take feelings into account but not be ruled by them, passionate about their beliefs and interests, usually good on their feet which makes them able to protect and act quickly.
Weaknesses: Can become frustrated when people become overly emotional, are easily offended if they aren’t listened to or appreciated, act on impulse so often makes rash decisions.
Group Roles: - Leader: ESTJ -Co Leader: ENTP - Cook: ESFJ - Look after any pets: INFP - In charge of sustainable: ENTJ - medic: ISFJ - Counsellor: INFJ - Artist / Musician: ISFP - Provides Education: ISTJ - Crafte Maker: ISTP - EnGineer / Electrician: INTJ - Fighter / Protector: ESTP - Entertaine Morale Boost: ENFP - Scouter / Explorer: ESFP - Strategist: INTP - Organiser of Living Quarters: ENFJ

I just wanted to tell a story about my first run. I don't play pvp games too much since i'm not a really skilled player overall (objectively speaking), so i often play only pve games. Also, although i like challenging games, i don't tend to play punishing games. However, i finished loving this game. The first run i did was somewhat weird, since i was unfamiliar with the mechanics of the game, and i was more called by the atmosphere and hidden lore instead. Remembering back, I felt pretty lost (as expected), so at the beginning, I asked the friend who suggested me the game which area should i go next. He didn't want to scare me out so he gave me some substantial clues to things that got me stuck, like the "you don't actually need to kill that dragon to cross the bridge". But once solaire defeated the gargoyles for me and i touched the bell, he was kinda "now you're on your own" while smiling. Now i know he did well. But i was somewhat 'scared'.
So in the bonfire above andre, now alone, i sat and opened my inventory, and looked for the weapon with the highest base damage in my inventory, at that moment. It was the gargoyle halberd. I found the only 100% physical resistance shield i had, and i went that way. I was low on levels and i wanted the fastest roll so i could panic roll, hence i ended going naked.
My gameplay ended being me, that one halberd, a short bow, the pyromancy flame (started as pyromancer), and the strongest shield i could use, no armor, and usually double defense rings (like physical one and other based on enemy/boss/zone).
I sucked at parrying so i just dropped the idea and started using heavy shields as soon as i get one with 100% physical def.
But i didn't change my weapon. I got so used to the gargoyle halberd that using other weapons felt like trolling. So all those weapons with good strength scaling ended in the bottomless box with talismans and stuff so i could change shields in combat.
My worst enemies were alwais the knights, so when i reached giant blacksmith i infused the halberd with lightning and upgraded it till +5 using the only slab i had, no second thought, and just before discovering ornstein and smough.
Solaire couldn't carry me since i spent every humanity i had into upgrading bonfires in my journey so i could always have ten estus.
They took me around 70 attempts just because i refused to try something different than naked, with heavy shield, and lightning gargoyle halberd against super ornstein (since smough was slower it always ended dying first).
However, through those 70 attempts something grew inside. After receiving the vessel every enemy felt...easy.
I got so used to play this way that i ended with 50 point in strength in order to use havel's shield, yet i passed all the remaining areas using a weapon with no scaling stats at all due infusion. I defeated this way even artorias, kalameet and manus.
I only learned what poise was actually about when i finally faced gwyn and realized i didn't have enough stamina to survive him. So i finally changed something. Used iron skin piromancy with havel's set, physical+fire def rings, dragon emblem shield, and tanked him, spamming parry til i could connect one, pierce him with the old trustable halberd, heal with estus while he waked up, and repeat the cheese.
I find thrilling that the very reason i could do such a thing despite the obstacles i placed without realizing is because the game, although it was challenging, was never actually frustrating. I always felt i could actually beat it, and i think that's the core of the game, where it lies it's true balance, and the reason why is so easy to dive in it.
In my actual run i'm a dex enjoyer, with a proper build, and i farm and upgrade till +10 any weapon with B or most in dex scaling. I use all of them sometimes. However my most used weapon is the scythe, only because it has the same moveset than the gargoyle halberd, but with actual scaling.

I do tend to get a bit of gear fear, but my way around it is to just use easily replaceable gear. I end up having a lot more fun as I still do well, but don't get frustrated when I die.
My most common eco loadout is the m2 carbine (switch it to auto fire and it's basically a ridiculously accurate assault rifle) 2 bandages and a disinfectant. This way, I'm equipped to fight, and if I survive a gunfight with injuries I've got just enough to fully heal and hopefully find more in my fresh kill.
I also like the es17 every now and then (mostly just because I have so many). Not a fan of the Akm which I've seen recommended as the first blueprint you should focus on by some, it's too inaccurate for my tastes (admittedly better trigger discipline would probably get around this).
I've bought the plans for all the stuff I mentioned, each 75 to 100 (maybe 150?) crowns so it didn't take insanely long to get the crowns for them.
What do you think of my default loadout, and do you have a favorite eco loadout you either use regularly or just when you want a low risk run?

Excuse my spelling, English is not my first language.
I (29M) really can't wrap my head around it...
My partner (28F) left me yesterday after 6 months and I really have no clue what the real issue is.
For context, I was single for 7 years before and dated a few times over the years, but there never was a person I could really link with. I'd describe me as a down to earth person, no need for going to clubs, getting wasted all the time, got a stable job that I love, got friends and family, work out, got my own home and vehicles. Just a grown man who just wants a little bit love in his rather normal and stable life.
I was really happy alone, got used to it and then I met my ex. We just linked, had appreciation for each other and worked out really fine. I thought finally I met the one I can settle with. Every issuse I thought I would have was talked about and the biggest one was (so I thought) that I don't want kids. But that was no problem for her, so we were on the same page there as well.
Now the reason she broke up with me is (according to her), that I need to much love (wtf does that mean?) and that she is a really outgoing person and I am not. It is true that I'm kind of an introvert, but over the six month we did heaps of things with same interest. E.g. we both really like castles and nature and every time we spend time with each other we went outside and did hikes, visited castles and ruins, old towns, visited friends and family, had barbeque, etc. (she told me that our sexlife was perfect, so I don't think that's the reason)
I really don't understand what the real reason is noone wants me, 'cause I am loving and caring, cook meals, clean the house, am open minded, willing to compromise and always honest.
Now I'd like to now if there are other people like me, that just can't find the right person and how do you deal with it? I really am sick and tiered of these women that can't see that I'm a nice person.
What is wrong with a man, with his life together, loving, caring and honest? (I'm 6'4 and 242lbs so height and weight shouldn't be a problem either?)
tl;dr : girlfriend left me, because I need to much love and she is outgoing while I'm kind of an introvert

Help how would you move forward? I am ‘37 F’ husband ‘M36’ -we have been married 7 years together 11 years. Let’s start with we have had a lot of ups and downs, but I continue to support him and stick with him. We both have careers, we moved across country for his career, however we also moved because his family is very controlling. When I say controlling they would interfere in our marriage (they would try to egg on arguments after my husband would tell them we disagreed about something, his family would call our house HIS house, they also would come in and change how our house was decorated, and his family is manipulative to the point where holidays weren’t holidays anymore because his parents argue over our time with them even though we used to live 2 minutes from each of them, his mom is so manipulative that our first married Xmas together we wanted to spend just us and she said she would K** herself if we didn’t come over and she would write us off) We have no kids because I am actually afraid to have children with him, due to the fact that he puts all the household management on me, and I solely am responsible for our dog (I left for a week to visit family and he said he kept forgetting to feed the dog when I wasn’t home) when I also work full time and I don’t want to raise a child alone. With all that said he consistently argued with his family but they are so manipulative every chance they have they tell him to move back home, and then he feels guilty for leaving and then he starts a fight with me about how “I am keeping him in the current state we live in and I’m forcing him to live here” even though we are here for HIS job! We also visit back home every other month for a week… I try to get his family to come out here but they refuse saying “why should they have to visit when WE chose to move”. So it’s a constant struggle. I cook every night for him, I work form home he doesn’t, I am the one the cleans, mows and maintains the yard, I wash the cars, his parents also tell him not to “share” income with his wife (they are divorced), and so he has never wanted to shared bank accounts so I also pay separately for all my bills from “my” paycheck (car payment, student loans, all the house groceries, date nights, house utilities, cell phone bill, insurance you name it if it has to do with me it comes out of my paycheck) however he still wants me to pay for half the house payment… he also makes a lot more than me…I’m in the 90,000s but he is in the 300,000s, he paid for his car in cash, his second car cash… you get the point. When we got married it wasn’t like that we had talked about joint finances before marriage, talked about creating a bank account to share grocery expenses but 3 months into the marriage he decided (with the help of his parents) that his money is HIS money and he shouldn’t have to help with any of that. All this is compounding, married now 7 years, been great times, but been bad times… then tonight happens. We had a tornado last night, missed our house but we had extremely high winds that damaged just some patio furniture (we got lucky), but I found outside a baby bunny that was still alive but extremely scared, so I made a box of hay for it, put a heated water bottle by it and put it under our patio so it could hopefully survive through the storm… 12 hours later it hopped away but was still close by so I left its box outside in case it needed to come back before the next storm. I had told my husband that, said, don’t let the dog outside alone because the bunny house (also we have coyotes so I always watch outside). Well my husband didn’t listen let the dog out at about 3 am, I heard the door close got up from bed saw him walk away and I asked if our dog was outside and he said “what do you think”, and so I ran out there and what do you know he is eating the stuff in the bunny house. When my husband sees what he is doing he starts yelling at me saying “this is your fault, he can get diseases, why would I leave that outside, I need to leave the house, I need to not talk to him the rest of the day for letting this happen” ( also remember it’s 3 am… ), I’m just so tired of being treated like this all the time, he says something mean but then says it’s my fault for him talking like that. We tried counseling, then he started not going because he didn’t like what the counselor had to say… also he didn’t want to pay for it— he only did the free session available through work. We tried talking to church pastor.. he did like what they had to say. I’m at my last hope as I don’t know if it will ever get better, and I’m exhausted of my husband blaming me for where we live and making me feel guilty because I don’t want to move back near his family into an even worse situation. He acts so nice when friends are around but when we are home he treats me like that, belittles me about how little I make, tells me cooking/cleaning for him isn’t a big deal and is super unappreciative, me and my family are really close but I go to all my family funerals/events by myself and on the off chance he is there he acts miserable. Am I wrong to be thinking about divorce is the only way out? We have been together for 11 years but married 7 and nothing has changed.

"What distinguished the Indian system from that of the ancient Western world is the absence of slavery. The caste system made formal slavery unnecessary in ancient India." - from The Two Classes of the Four-Fold Caste System, by Sudheer Birodkar.

In Nikken's Threefold World, which is "the world of unenlightened beings who transmigrate within the Six Paths" [Hell, Hunger, Animality, Anger, Humanity and Heaven] ... the 1st chapter describes the structure of Nikken's World of Heaven.

Table of Contents

Part I: The Roles

1. The Hindu Caste System and Brahminism
2. The Nichiren Shoshu priesthood and Nikken Abe

Part II: The Actors

1. The First Rank of Nichiren Shoshu (Brahmin Caste - Priests and Teachers)
2. The Second Rank of Nichiren Shoshu (Kshatriya Caste - Warriors and Proxy Rulers)
3. The Third Rank of Nichiren Shoshu (Vaishya Caste - Farmers, Merchants, Artisans, etc.)
4. The Fourth Rank of Nichiren Shoshu (Shudra Caste - Laborers)
5. The Fifth Rank of Nichiren Shoshu (Untouchable Caste or Eta - Polluted Laborers)
6. Definition of Heaven (Ten)
7. Getting Some Help
8. The Survivor Gita

As Nikken Abe's successor Nichinyo moves ever closer to the moment that he will no longer be the high priest of Nichiren Shoshu ... those interested in the future occupants of Taisekiji will have in mind a question ... how will events unfold ?
What I will attempt to do in this polemical series laced with satire, is to give a view from which the seeming random or enigmatic quality of the various moves made by the priesthood, can be revealed to be more predictable and easy to understand.
In the analytic method that I have chosen, the grid for analysis, is the Hindu caste system.
The theme that will be employed to portray the flow of events to come is the "Survivor" series from CBS.
Think of it as the "Survivor Gita".

1. The Hindu Caste System and Brahminism

First, let's get a cursory understanding of what the phenomenon of "Brahminism" is all about.
From "The Caste System and the Stages of Life in Hinduism", by Kelley L. Ross, Ph.D, (abridged):

The Bhagavad Gita says this about the varnas (color):
Brahmins (white) - Priests and Teachers: The works of a Brahmin are peace; self-harmony, austerity, and purity; loving- forgiveness and righteousness; vision and wisdom and faith.
Kshatriyas (red) - Warriors and Rulers: The works of a Kshatriya are: a heroic mind, inner fire, constancy, resourcefulness, courage in battle, generosity and noble leadership.
Vaishyas (Brown) - Farmers, Merchants, Artisans, etc.: The works of a Vaishya are trade, agriculture and the rearing of cattle.
Shudras (Black) - Laborers: The works of the Shudra are service.
Untouchables (Outcastes - no color) - Polluted Laborers.
[chapter 18, Juan Mascaró translation, Penguin Books, 1962]
Associated with each varna there is a traditional color. These sound suspiciously like skin colors; and, indeed, there is an expectation in India that higher caste people will have lighter skin -- although there are plenty of exceptions (especially in the South of India).
So, there are these visibly separable classes of people, which perform specific functions, and which form the basic hierarchical structure of ALL theocracies, explicit and implicit.

An explicit Brahminist theocracy would be the Vatican, where the Pope and Cardinals = Brahmins, the Bishops = Kshatriyas, the Priests tending the flocks = Vaishyas, the Monks, Nuns and the Laity = Shudras, and finally the poor = Untouchables, except for once a year when the Pope washes a foot or two.
An implicit Brahminist theocracy would be the a 10-year-old high tech firm, where the Founder and the Board = Brahmins, the corporate officers and top managers = Kshatriyas, the middle management and technical leads = Vaishyas, the line managers and churn and burn salaried workers = Shudras, and finally the hourly, temp and out-sourced workers = Untouchables.
You get the picture. The need, which is held by all humanity, to improve their own and their family's condition ... is used to betray and undermine their own humanity and render the effect of slavery within a system that appears personally voluntary, however socially coercive it may be in reality.
Ross goes on ...

The twice born [Brahmins, Kshatriyas, Vaishyas] account for about 48% of Hindus. The rest are Shudras and Untouchables. The Shudras may represent the institutional provision that the Arya made for the people they already found in India. The Shudras thus remain once born, and traditionally are not allowed to learn Sanskrit or study the Vedas. Their dharma is to work for the twice born. But even below the Shudras are the Untouchables, who are literally "outcastes," without a varna [color], and were regarded as "untouchable" because they are ritually polluting for caste Hindus. Some Untouchable subcastes are regarded as so polluted that members are supposed to keep out of sight and do their work at night: They are called "Unseeables." In India, the term "Untouchable" is now regarded as impolite or politically incorrect (like Eta in Japan for the traditional tanners and pariahs).

These kinds of divisions of people only become more bitter, over time, as more and more distinctions need to be drawn to demonstrate clearly that one is not a part of a lower group. (Like the insanity of "Colored" water fountains in the South, when I was a child.)
Following the ritual tenets of animality and thereby preserving the pecking order become the overriding preoccupation of anyone desiring a better life. These demonic activities will ultimately attempt to occupy 100% of all human effort, since this particular evil is determined to undermine humanity's true mission of Kosen Rufu.
Ross finishes with ...

The Untouchables, nevertheless, have their own traditional professions and their own subcastes. Those professions (unless they can be evaded in the greater social mobility of modern, urban, anonymous life) involve too much pollution to be performed by caste Hindus: (1) dealing with the bodies of dead animals (like the sacred cattle that wander Indian villages) or unclaimed dead humans, (2) tanning leather, from such dead animals, and manufacturing leather goods, and (3) cleaning up the human and animal waste for which in traditional villages there is no sewer system. Mahâtmâ Gandhi referred to the latter euphemistically as "scavenging" but saw in it the most horrible thing imposed on the Untouchables by the caste system. His requirement on his farms in South Africa that everyone share in such tasks comes up in an early scene in the movie Gandhi. Since Gandhi equated suffering with holiness, he saw the Untouchables as hallowed by their miserable treatment and so called them "Harijans" (Hari=Vishnu). Later Gandhi went on fasts in the hope of improving the condition of the Untouchables, or at least to avoid their being politically classified as non-Hindus. Today the status of the Shudras, Untouchables, and other "scheduled castes," and the preferential policies that the Indian government has designed for their advancement ever since Independence, are sources of serious conflict, including murders and riots, in Indian society.

If you had a difficulty in understanding precisely what tied together the "Gandhi, King and Ikeda" exhibits around the country ... perhaps the point will become abundantly clear after reading this article, since all three of these men fought to end the exploitation and oppression of a large number of hard-working common people, who supported a parasitic caste system.
Gandhi, King and Ikeda are the three Anti-Brahminist heroes of the Common People, for the modern era.
Some argue that the SGI has Brahminist tendencies, and like all human organizations, that is surely exists ... but it is also true that those tendencies are sporadic, impermanent and rapidly shifting as the SGI undergoes it's own human revolution with the broadening of the Soka Gakkai activities to include all places where Dai-Rokuten-No-Mao (the Devil King of the 6th Heaven, or arrogant authority) might appear in the leadership of any organization, or group.
But let's go a little further in understanding the phenomenon of Brahminism. And then we will talk about the Nichiren Shoshu priesthood, Nikken and his successors.
From "The Two Classes of the Four-Fold Caste System", by Sudheer Birodkar:

The Brahmin-Kshatriya combine was thus the appropriating section as against the Vaishya-Shudra combine who represented the productive section. But although the two appropriating and the two appropriated sections of society performed different functions like the ritual worship undertaken by the Brahmins, warfare by Kshatriyas, cultivation by the Vaishyas and menial work by the Shudras they were essentially two broad economic categories with antagonistic interests of sharing the social surplus product which only the Vaishyas and Shudra created.

Dai-Rokuten-No-Mao is defined as the function of rapturous exploitation of the efforts of others, while grinding those others underfoot.
There is always a gloating rapture present. (Remember the gleeful pictures of those happy Southern men standing around a burning black corpse in the lynchings of last century? Remember how much they are enjoying themselves proudly in the Abu Ghraib pictures? It is the same function, the same demon.)
And there is always a hierarchy being enforced, which is a denial of the Lotus Sutra's universal equality.
Birodkar goes on ...

... Dana along with dakshina (a voluntary payment made to Brahmins for religious services which they rendered), has been represented as an offering to the clergy at our innumerable religious rites. Thus the spiritual clasp of the clergy on the general population came to play a vital role in appropriating the surplus in favour of the clergy, rendering coercion unnecessary and in perpetuating social practices which had lost relevance with day-to-day life.

The reference to day-to-day life and social relevance is indicating that those activities which were initially tribal social functions involving redistribution of food in an agrarian tribal culture, were no longer serving the function of allowing farmers to survive a bad year, or a flood in one part of the locality not affecting another part.
Birodkar goes on ...

The clergy firmly rooted in the minds of the masses, ideas about Karma - faithfully carrying out of duties assigned to each person on virtue of being born in any particular caste. Ideas about rebirth fostered a belief that sufferings of this life were a result of deeds of one's past lives and the faithful execution of duties that fell upon one in one's present life would hold a promise of rebirth in a higher caste. With their minds enmeshed in such dogmas, the masses mutely accepted a secondary status in the social hierarchy for centuries together.

The idea of waiting until the next time around, instead of enjoying this one and only precious instance of YOU, which will not recur in anyone's religious tradition ... this is the worst slander of humanity: wasting one's life, voluntarily, for the foul rapture of another.

2. The Nichiren Shoshu Priesthood, Nikken Abe and His Successors

There are many complaints about the behavior and activities of the Nichiren Shoshu priesthood, related to their pursuits of having a good time with bad women and expensive food, drink and parties with the member's money. It is not my intention to defend those activities, but my view of those activities is frankly, sociological. Impossibly bad and flagrantly unacceptable social behavior is to be expected when great evil is enthroned.
So, I do not expect Nichiren Shoshu priests, especially the priesthood elite, to behave well. This is secondary. It is an effect or symptom, or think of it as the warning label on a pack of smokes, or the nuclear symbol on a container of Plutonium. (It lets you know that you should keep your distance, for safety.)
Indeed, in all cases when the correct practice of Nichiren's Buddhism is considered, secular issues fade into insignificance.
From Nichiren Daishonin's Gosho "On Prayer", WND p. 345:

It makes no difference if the practitioner himself is lacking in worth, defective in wisdom, impure in his person, and lacking in virtue derived from observing the precepts. So long as he chants Nam-myoho-renge-kyo, they [the protective functions] will invariably protect him. One does not throw away gold because the bag that holds it is dirty; one does not ignore the sandalwood trees because of the foul odor of the eranda trees around them; and one does not refuse to gather lotuses because the pond in the valley where they grow is not clean. If they ignore the practitioner of the Lotus Sutra, they will be going against their vow.

The issue is the correct practice. THAT is my complaint against Nikken and his Nichiren Shoshu successors like Nichinyo.
From "Moral Philosophy and Dealings With Priests", written by myself (sorry about the self-quote):

1. Nichiren Shoshu and the Hokkeko have always called themselves followers of Nikko's Fuji School, but from the beginning (1912) they have followed priests that disobey the 25th Admonition against sexual abstinence, and they have followed priests that were trained by Nichiren Shu (5 Senior Priests) at Rissho University - disobeying the 2nd Admonition, and hence according to Nikko they are not his followers, but are instead followers of the Five Senior Priests. (Nikko would have kicked them out of the Fuji School just for training at Rissho.)

From the end of Nikko Shonin's 26 Admonitions:
"I have set forth these 26 articles for the sake of the eternal salvation and protection of humankind. Those who violate even one of these articles cannot be called disciples of Nikko."
In 1969, Daisaku Ikeda founded Soka University to train the future leaders of the Soka Gakkai, among others. This was a necessary move, because of the corruption seen in attitudes of Japanese Academics, and their determined resistance to recognizing the Soka Gakkai as a valid religious organization and worthy of respect. Witness the academic quotes in the LOOK Magazine article (1963) by the President of Rissho University, Rev. Shobun Kubota, D.T. Suzuki of Zen, and other academics, that the Soka Gakkai "can not be Buddhism".
' The Rev. Dr. Shobun Kubota, vice-president of Rissho University of Tokyo, concurs. "The principle of Buddhism," he says, "is to restrain man's desires, such as sex, hunger, wealth and fame, but Soka Gakkai promises the possession of these desires. It uses man's weaknesses as a tool for its own expansion. It has the same characteristics as Nazism. Finally, it is a corruption of Buddhism."' - LOOK Magazine, September 10, 1963
This from academic Buddhists who signed up unanimously, institution by institution, to bear the Shinto Talisman, and promote Imperial Way Buddhism and Imperial State Zen militarism for the God-Emperor. In support of that self-same Nazi Reich, while Makiguchi and Toda alone bore the brunt of oppression to the end. Such evil-doers call themselves Buddhists. Their tongues should rot in their mouths.
Soka University has created at least one academic environment where the Soka Gakkai can be viewed with objectivity by students. This was and remains an absolute good.
Nichiren Shoshu continued to allow the training of their future leaders by the Nichiren Shu Minobu Sect at Rissho University, even though they were aware that this was a slander of Nikko's school, and made them not followers of Nikko.
Excerpts from http://www.geocities.com/smimoza/vol275.html, the "Fake [High Priest]" Newsletter: "My view of the teachings of Nichiren Shoshu has been polluted with Minobu's wicked teachings," Nikken confessed at the opening ceremony for the Fuji Gakurin School (Dai- Nichiren, May 2000 edition).
Fuji Gakurin is the school that Nikken started to belatedly replace Rissho University as the source of priest trainees for Nichiren Shoshu. Apparently, he only took this action after people started talking about the 26 Admonitions publicly (Living Buddhism article by Daisaku Ikeda in 1998). The sad fact is, that Nichiren Shoshu has violated all 26, most by the letter of the admonition, but all 26 by their intent.
In relatively short order after being rebuked in 1998, Nikken officially opened the Fuji Gakurin School on April 10th, 2000. Many attended and heard his statements: Nichijun Fujimoto, Nichiyu Yoshida, Nitto (Juken) Ohmura, Nichijo (Gikan) Hayase, Nissho (Shinei) Yagi, Chief of the Overseas Department Kotoku Obayashi, Chief of the Public Relations Department Kogaku Akimoto and Vice Chief of the Study Department Kosho Mizushima.
Nikken went on to state that "he had been contaminated by Minobu's teachings"...
"I once attended the University run by Nichiren-shu. The hardest thing for me in my campus life was that the teacher said many false things about the teachings and history of Nichiren Daishonin. I had always thought that I should refute these false ideas. However, I cannot say that that was my true intention, because I was only a student."
"When we constantly hear false things, we will be caught up in false ways of thinking, or I can say, we will be trapped in it. As I recall my early days, false ideas did exist in my view of Nichiren Buddhism, especially regarding the legitimate teachings of Nichiren-shoshu. At that time, I was not able to straighten out my thoughts sufficiently from the viewpoint of faith, action, study.... If I were young now, I could study with you, young fellows, in these classes, taught by these engaged teachers."
But his distorted views from Rissho were not left there at the University.
We are reminded of Nikken's words on October 8th, 1985, when he attended the completion ceremony of Komyoji Temple, Hachioji City, Tokyo. Kotoku Hirayama, the chief priest of the temple, asked Nikken, "What is the biggest obstacle you had in your practice?" Nikken answered, "It is that I could not truly believe in the Gohonzon. I cannot believe truly now. I have to really try."
Also, we are reminded of Nikken's statement that "Daigohonzon is a fake" from the Kawabe memo. This statement seems to be influenced by the author of "view of wood honzon is false", Minobu priest Bentetsu Yasunaga, who is an associate professor at Minobu's Rissho University and chief priest of Zenshoji Temple.
'In recent years, the exchange of Minobu priests and Nikken sect priests has become more frequent. Monks of the Nikken sect make pilgrimages to temples of Minobu sect with Hokkeko members, or they invite Minobu monks to Taisekiji. General chief of the Hokkeko federation, Kisoji Yanagisawa, made a pilgrimage to Kuonji Temple, the general head temple of the Minobu sect. We [the Fake Newsletter] have mentioned this issue before, and even "Emyo," one of organ papers of Nikken sect, could not argue against this. Taisekiji priests Kaido Seki, Jikei Maekawa, Kosho Mizushima, Sonfuku Ochiai, Gishu Funabashi, all made visits to Minobu's temples themselves. They later made excuses during lectures at their temples or in their temple newsletters, saying, "We went and saw the temple but did not chant."...etc.'
The proof of Rissho's heritage is on their own website, the page on "History of Rissho":.
'Over 120 Years of Tradition and 70 Years of History as a Modern Educational Institution'
'No other institution of higher education in Japan has a longer tradition than Rissho University.'
'Our founding dates back to 1580 when the "Iidaka- Danrin School" was established to educate student priests of the Nichiren sect of Buddhism. The school took its name from its location, Iidaka Town, which is now Yoka- lchiba City in Chiba Prefecture. Some of the ancient wooden structures have been carefully preserved and form part of the Hanko-ji Temple. These structures include the lecture hall, gate, drum tower and bell tower, which are designated as "Important Cultural Assets" by the Government. The school closed its gates in 1875. During its 295-year history, it produced a great many talented figures who made prominent contributions to promoting Buddhism and education in Japan.'
'Shortly before it [Iidaka-Danrin School] was closed, the "Nichiren-shu Shukyo-in" (Nichiren Religious Academy) was established in 1872 at the Jokyo-ji Temple in Takanawa, Tokyo, to succeed the "Iidaka-Danrin School" in modern times.'
'In 1904, the Academy was moved to Osaki,Tokyo, the present site of the main campus of Rissho University.'
'Authorized by the Government ordinance concerning colleges issued that year [1904], it opened its gates as "Nichiren-shu Daigakurin" (Nichiren Religious College).'
'When the Government issued an ordinance concerning universities in 1924, the University was reorganized into Rissho University with Faculty of Letters newly opened. Its doors were opened to both Nichiren priests and ordinary students.'
Hence, Nikken is more than simply an enemy of the Soka Gakkai and a very bad High Priest at the Fuji School.
Nikken is clearly not a follower of Nikko's School and never has been at any time. He is a follower of the Five Senior Priests and a minion of Minobu, in spite of what his conscious mind tells him. Consciousness is, after all, only one of Five Components.

THAT is my problem with Nikken and Nichiren Shoshu priests, in general. It is not that they hang out with bad women or good women.
Nikko's intent on that is absolutely clear in the 25th Admonition:

25. My disciples should conduct themselves as holy priests, patterning their behavior after that of the late master. However, even if a high priest or a priest striving for practice and understanding should temporarily deviate from [the principle of] sexual abstinence, he may still be allowed to remain in the priesthood [as a common priest without rank].
(from Living Buddhism 4/1998)

Nikko did not want the priesthood to be a self-sustaining community, where priesthood positions could be handed down to the kids, like a family business. He clearly intended that every priest should come from a family of lay believers, or spring forth spontaneously from the new membership.
This is abundantly clear, since abstaining priests cannot even donate to a sperm bank for artificial insemination. THEY CAN HAVE NO CHILDREN.
Frankly it is not my concern that that imposes an unhappy restriction on priests. Nichiren, Nikko, Nichimoku and Nichikan followed all 26 Admonitions abundantly well, and I only need to have those four priests in my life. I don't need any false priests that are lay-person wanna-bes.
And I am not the author of these restrictions, Nikko is. Argue with him (heh).
For myself, I have ABSOLUTELY no argument with Nikko, I follow all 26 of his admonitions, even the 2nd and the 25th: I will not lower his standards on training at Nichiren Shu or in accepting a priest who does not practice abstinence. PERIOD. Never. Not for anyone.
I will accept a priest that has never had any contact with, or priest-training from a follower of the Five Senior Priests (Nichiren Shu or Shoshu, or any other slanderous funeral Buddhism), and who practices abstinence and follows all 26 Admonitions of Nikko. From an excommunicated (Gakkai) family or off the street (common mortals are the true Buddha, according to Nichiren), either source is fine.
It is Nikko's undying determination in action ... that having violated any of the 26 Admonitions in a clear and obvious way ... one will then proceed to violate all the rest, including Admonition #1, which requires us to practice Buddhism in exactly the same way as Nichiren.
They may erect statues of Nichiren at Taisekiji and worship them, in the same way that the Tendai and Nichiren Shu worship statues of Shakyamuni, but there is ultimately no difference between these two slanders. Idolatry is not Nichiren's Buddhism. The Gohonzon is the "supreme object of devotion in all of Jambudvīpa."
From "The True Aspect of All Phenomena", WND p. 384:

A common mortal is an entity of the three bodies, and a true Buddha. A Buddha is a function of the three bodies, and a provisional Buddha. In that case, though it is thought that Shakyamuni Buddha possesses the three virtues of sovereign, teacher, and parent for the sake of all of us living beings, that is not so. On the contrary, it is common mortals who endow him with the three virtues.

"A common mortal is ... a true Buddha". And Nichiren and Shakyamuni are endowed with the three virtues of sovereign, teacher, and parent BY the common mortal, who is the true Buddha.
If Nichiren and Shakyamuni are somehow "special people", then we cannot match their accomplishment, and attain their Buddhahood.
They are NOT special humans. And we CAN attain their fierce determination for Kosen Rufu, which is no more and no less than their Buddhahood.
Indeed, we MUST attain that determination, or we shall surely fail to accomplish the ultimate intent of the Thus Come One (our true self).
This is why it is a slander for common mortals to worship statues of provisional Buddhas (they are all just humans, not objects of devotion).
This is why we have the Gohonzon, which reflects the Thus Come One inside our very own Sense Field = Six Components in Three Realms.
This is why we do shakubuku. The common mortal (true Buddha) we shakubuku endows the three virtues upon us, and that is our provisional Buddhahood. Without shakubuku, there is no Buddhahood.
So ... slander of Buddhism will always identify itself, by raising one person over another: over the common mortal. In the end, slanderers of the Law all make the same appearance, by worshiping statues of someone or other. (And, by the way, appreciation of your mentors: those who helped you along ... is NOT worship, it is merely showing your gratitude. We need to discard that fallacy.)
Next in Part II, we will apply the grid of the Hindu caste system to the Nichiren Shoshu priesthood. We will talk about some of the priesthood's socially unacceptable behavior, but really ... I only mention these instances to show pattern and connections between priest families.

Hey all! I'm very thankful for the support received in my first concept ideas post and am very excited to share some more that I've thought about! once again, names and backstories are there for context, but the game mechanics and skills are the main focus :) Here goes Part 2!
(Some of the explanations are very wordy so please bear with me)
Part 1: https://www.reddit.com/thespikegame/comments/1d2cosh/srank_concept_ideas_pt1/
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Name: Takehibara Rank: S Position: Setter
Description: Plays on the same team as Nouya Toshio(MB) and Hito Sazaki(WS). Takehibara is an experienced setter and the captain of his volleyball team. What makes him stand out as a setter is his high perceptiveness and adaptability on the court which he uses to quicky identify weaknesses in the opposing team's game. With his game sense and perception he leads his team's attack by running his offense in a way which is flexible and can exploit the weaknesses of the other team. Takehibara also has 20/20 vision (just some more little details).
I figured I would flesh out the team which I made in my previous post, this team could be a great addition since it seems in the future Suncyan hinted that we could be going back to Japan and its volleyball league. Where Valentia Spike has power, and Art High has floor defense, this team (which I'm open for any team name suggestions) would shine in its unpredictability and ability to counter your defenses (blocking and receive, especially blocking) and would be a challenging team to play against and play as.
Height: 178cm Total stats: 585
Attack: 125/160 >> 160/160
Defense 100/140 >> 125/140
Jump: 140/160 >> 160/160
Speed: 120/140 >> 140/140
Active ability: Perception (Mode Switch/No cooldown)
Takehibara is able adjust his setting style while on the court in order to target the opposing team's weaknesses.
Mode 1: Zero-Tempo:
Takehibara runs a faster offense with his hitters. He will set similarly to Ahyeon, minus tempo attacks and fast paced follow up, 3-ball sets (in volleyball terms) to his wing spiker. When setting middle quicks, the spike power is slightly increased (+5). This mode is best used against opposing team's with weak floor defense, speed and when the other team's players are out of position.
Mode 2: Balanced:
Takehibara runs a more conservative offense which prioritizes high balanced sets, he will also be less likely to perform a jump set and mostly set from the ground like NN, making his set harder to read. In this mode his middle and outside sets will have a similar trajectory and the middle blocker Ai will run at a tempo where he jumps at the same time as the setter releases the ball to throw off blockers. in this mode, sets to the wing spiker will give a slight power boost(+5). This mode is best used against teams with better blocking, height and all rounder teams.
The vision for this s-rank character is to be flexible against different teams and maximize the efficiency of his S-rank team (+Toshio and Sazaki) when paired together. I imagine in playstyle, you would use his first mode state to boost the effectiveness of Nouya Toshio's ability (Vanishing Spike) by setting quicks more frequently at the start of a rally/game when the enemy has a high stamina bar. Then you would use his second mode to boost the effectiveness of Sazaki's ability (Chaotic Spin) later in the rally/game when the opposing team's stamina bar is depleted.
Passive ability: Observant
Takehibara keeps a keen eye on the court and when preforming a setter dump, will dump the ball towards open space making it harder for his opponent's to reach.
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Name: Hwang-jin Rank: S+ Position: Setter
Description: Korea's U20's men's national setter. When he was a kid, Hwang-jin didn't grow up with many volleyball friends so he spent most of his time alone working on his setting technique and honing the skill which an individual can use to influence the game by themselves, his serves. Due to his passion for volleyball and his hard work, he is a formidable player who has even been invited to train with the Men's national team and is gaining popularity with the younger generation of volleyballers. Hwang-jin believes that what makes a setter great is when they can uplift their teammates and hitters to new heights, and he abides by this in his gameplay.
(What better way to commemorate the release of playable setter on mobile than an S+ rank Setter!? Also, I really enjoyed playing as a setter on the pc version, and aim for this setter to be very fun to play)
Height: 190cm Total stats: 595
Attack: 160/190 >> 190/190 >> (210 during serve)
Defense 110/160 >> 120/160
Jump: 140/165 >> 165/165
Speed: 120/160 >> 140/160
Active/passive ability: Hybrid Serve
(+20 power and +5 jump when serving)
Hwang-jin is a monster on the service line and has developed a unique serve which is difficult to anticipate for receivers. He has perfected his jump serve and jump floater approach so that before he contacts the ball in the air, he can perform both a Top spin, power serve or a jump floater with an unpredictable pathway. His Topspin serves are given a power boost (+20) due to his confidence and mastery whereas his Jump floater travels faster and more disjointed/shifty with the ability to drop suddenly and rise suddenly, or both! (it would be almost impossible to cleanly receive unless u stand exactly where the ball lands).
Combinations:
Jump serve approach + Top spin serve (Nothing new, but more deadly due to power boost)
Float serve approach + Float serve (Nothing new, but more deadly with floater effects)
Jump serve approach + Float serve (This is already doable but for Hwang-jin, It'll be way more effective)
Float serve approach + Jump serve (New mechanic and would be really interesting to ace with his attack and power boost)
He would have a silvery/white movement and ball trail with white flashing stars/light effects (similar to Sanghyeon's trail). His feints/floaters and setter dumps will also have this trail effect.
Passive ability: Fly High
Hwang-jin sets his teammates with absolute trust and this allows for his teammates to play better and 'fly higher'. When Hwang-jin gets a nice pass from his teammate and sets a chance ball, the team's jump stat is briefly boosted (+5 jump) (was going to be +10 but it seemed kinda busted).
His setting style would be similar to a defensive setter, balanced, easy to spike sets and won't set u up into a block.
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Name: Daniel Cho Rank: S Position: Wing spiker
Description: A high school student who studies abroad internationally in the US and visits his family back home in Korea during his summer holidays. He is relatively new to the volleyball community in Korea and is much more familiar with the States as he plays in a Div.1 volleyball club. He is actually 1st cousins with Hwang-jin, Korea's U20's men's national setter (he sees him as an older brother) and was introduced to the sport by him. On the court, Daniel is a very well-rounded player but despite being on a Div.1 team, his team isn't considered a top level team. He is the kind of player who, when the team is in a tough spot, can always rely on to win the point and is very vocal on the court, never hesitating to demand the ball. However, due his teammate's over reliance on his ability to score, Daniel finds himself tiring out much quicker, and needing to be more selective on when he uses his full power.
Height: 182cm Total stats: 585
Attack: 130/160 >> 160/160 >> (170/180/190/200)
Defense 130/160 >> 120/160 >> (140/160 with +20 passive boost)
Jump: 130/160 >> 165/165 >> (170>175>180>185)
Speed: 130/160 >> 140/160
Passive ability: "Count on me"
Daniel gains a fixed stat boost to his lowest invested stat that doesn't add to the total stat count. Only applies when in a match, but will be represented in the player menu with a darker shade color in the stat menu to show the boost (+20)
Active ability: Ignition (4 charges / 5sec skill duration / 20 sec skill cooldown per charge exhausted)
Daniel exerts his true power for a brief moment. When consuming 1 charge, he gains +10 attack and +5 jump, these charges can be exhausted consecutively and the stat boost will stack, when exhausting multiple charges, the skill duration lengthens by 1 sec per charge (base 5sec>6>7>8>9).
He gains a fiery aura upon exhausting a charge and for the length of the skill duration.
Daniel does not have the boom jump animation (let me cook), instead, if all 4 ignition charges are simultaneously exhausted in one go, he then is able to boom jump and gains a fiery, spiral ball trail on his spike. The cooldown of his ignition charges will be sped up by 1.5x and slowly decreases over time (~50sec to fully recharge ignition charges compared to 80sec).
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Name: Kang-min & Yeo Chul Rank: S+ Position: Middle Blocker + Libero?
Description: Two best friends who have been playing volleyball since 3rd grade. Kang-min and Yeo Chul have played together in every team they've joined since junior up to (currently) college level and have formed an unbreakable trust and chemistry on the court. A competitive duo who have pushed each other into becoming incredible volleyball players.
(Introducing the 2 in 1 character concept, not sure how this will conflict with the developer's future plan to add more positions into the game but here goes nothing)
Kang-min: (the playable one)
Height: 194cm Total stats: 595
Attack: 165/185 >> 185/185
Defense 110/160 >> 100/160
Jump: 140/170 >> 170/170
Speed: 125/160 >> 140/160
Yeo Chul: (Ai controlled)
170cm tall and mirrors Kang-min's stats except that his and Kang-min's attack and defense stats are swapped.
Active ability: Dynamic Duo (Toggle on/off) (Cannot be toggled when ball is in play/during a rally)
Toggle ON:
Kang-min is unable to participate in serve receive, but he still remains on the court (and controllable by you). Instead, Yeo Chul will take a defensive stance in the middle of the court (+15 defense) and take initiative to pass the first ball and receive the opponent's serve. After Yeo-Chul passes on serve receive, he executes an athletic backwards roll and exits the court, gameplay resumes as normal.
However, If Yeo Chul makes a perfect chance ball pass (which will happen often due to high defense), Kang-min becomes inspired by Yeo Chul's impressive dig, making him want to one-up him and hit an even cooler spike. He is granted a power boost (+15) and speed boost (+10) for the duration of the play/rally.
When performing a perfect serve receive, Yeo Chul releases a simple shockwave effect on the ground with the words "Chance ball" appearing more clearly. Kang-min obtains a colored movement trail and a ball trail.
Toggle OFF:
When the ability is toggle off, Kang-min and Yeo Chul are both able to play on the court at the same time (4 player team) but their attack (defense for Yeo Chul) and jump stat is reduced (-10 and -5 respectively). In this mode, Kang-min is able to participate in serve receive and Yeo Chul will play defensively, covering for your spikes/blocks and staying deep in the court to catch receives by your team which ricochet backwards.
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If you've managed to make it to the end... I'm impressed because I didn't expect it to be that long either XD. Once again I'm open to any feedback and suggestions for these concept ideas! I'm trying my best to make them balanced and strong, whilst maintaining the fun factor. I will be continuing this with part.3 sometime in the future, but for now I hope you've enjoyed these characters I've thought up!
Edit: Spelling and Grammar

I just picked this game up on sale after looking at it for a while but sadly it does not seem to run very well (I have a potato pc and feared this would happen). While it seems fps can be improved with settings and the new build coming soon I feel as if there is a slight delay with inputs on keyboard. Whenever I try to walk there is a slight delay that feels strange and I cannot tell if this is intentional or caused by computer lagging. Can anyone explain if this is normal and to get used to it or if I am cooked and should refund? Thank you for reading!

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Imagine we have a flashlight and a camera floating in empty space. The flashlight is facing towards the camera and, from the perspective of the camera, is flying in the opposite direction with 10 km/h speed. Now the flashlight fires a photon - it's flying towards the camera with the speed of light. From the perspective of the photon, the flashlight should be flying away with the speed c + 10 km/h, which is impossible (the speed of light is the fastest speed). Does it mean we can't use massless particles as calculation system origins (can't look from their perspective), or some special effects kick in here to normalize that perspective?

All right, captains of Space Marine capital ships, we need to have a talk. Time and time again, the enemy sees you closing distance with them, they tell their defense turrets to hold fire, and then as you get into optimal range to launch torpedoes (which you, do of course, since it is optimal range), they open fire and 20-30% of the Emperor's Finest end up as splattered debris on the enemy ship's hull.
We need to do better.
What can we do?
Can we use some more decoy torpedoes? Torpedoes that are harder to detect and can be launched from farther away? Stronger defenses for the torpedoes? Perhaps a change in tactics that doesn't flash a sign as bright as the Astronomican that we're "TOTALLY GOING TO LAUNCH BOARDING TORPEDOES NOW!"?
Maybe a boarding ram on our vessels, so we can ram our entire ship into the enemy to disembark our troops like the Macross attack?
It all just seems so...wasteful. What do you guys think?

🌷 What to Do Series🌷 by Asma bint Shameem
❓ QUESTION❓
Is it okay for the family of the deceased to make food at the time of death, for the people who come for condolences?
🌿 ANSWER🌿
Instead of the family of the deceased making food, it’s Sunnah that the relatives, friends and neighbors of the deceased should make food and bring it to the person’s house who has passed away.
🍃 The Prophet sal Allaahu Alayhi wa sallam instructed us to do that.
When Ja’far radhi Allaahu anhu was killed, the Prophet sal Allaahu Alayhi wa sallam went to his family and said:
“The family of Ja’far are busy with the matter of their deceased, so prepare food for them.’ (Ibn Majah - hasan by al-Albaani)
The family of the deceased is already going through a difficult time and it’s just simply part of the consideration we have for others that people should help out and lighten this time of grief for them as much as possible.
So we can bring food and help out in whatever way we can.
The immediate family of the deceased should not cook food for the people coming for condolences for the sake of the person who passed away.
That’s a kind of “wailing” and “mourning” that’s not allowed.
🍃 Jareer ibn Abdullaah radhi Allaahu anhu said:
“We used to consider gathering with the family of the deceased and preparing food after the burial from niyahah (prohibited form of wailing and lamentation from the days of ignorance)." (Ahmad- saheeh by al-Albaani)
But if the family offers some tea, or food etc on their own, to those visiting, without any special preparations for it, then it’s allowed for the visitors to eat and drink there.
🍃 Shaikh ibn Baaz said:
“It is not permitted for the family to (especially) make food for people for the sake of the deceased.
This is one of the actions of the Jaahiliyyah, whether it is done on the day of the death, or on the fourth or tenth day after the death, or at the new year. All of that is not permitted.
But if guests come to the family of the deceased during the mourning period, there is nothing wrong with them making food for them for the sake of hospitality, and there is nothing wrong with the household inviting whoever they want of their neighbors and relatives to eat with them from the food that has been given to them.” (Majmoo’ Fataawa)
And Allaah knows best

What just happened? A New Vegas Story
What just happened? A New Vegas Story.
On my first playthrough on New Vegas (First time playing Fallout btw), I was heading to Novac from Nipton via the road up the hill for a quest, since I haven't discovered it yet.
In case you don't know, in the road between Nipton and Novac, you'll be ambushed by 2 enemies (Not sure who exactly attacked me. Didn't check their names) . I died 3 times in that path. The 1st time I gone through that path, I saw an oddly placed traffic cone on the ground. When I approached it, I realized what was inside the cone. A hidden landmine. Before I knew it... all hell breaks loose. Bombs exploding, bullets fired, smoke on my eyes. It happened so quick, I didn't have time to process it. I didn't even know where they are attacking. Next thing I knew, I'm dead.
Fueled by vengeance, I quickly head there again for the 2nd time. This time, discreetly. I carefully navigate around the debris on the road, trying to figure where they are hiding. I saw the traffic cone once again. I slowly walked up to the cone, waiting for the attackers to pop their heads out. As the cone stands before me... A bullet was fired... I looked where it came from... I see 2 figures up in high ground... 2 wastelanders... Found them. Unfortunately I don't know WHAT my dumbass was thinking but for some reason, I decided that knowing where those 2 are, with a lot of weapons in my arsenal, I decided to try to run away. It was not a good idea as the attackers decided to melee me, adding more salt to the wound. My body laid in the ground, torned up.
But now that I know their attack position, I decided to head to the road for the 3rd time. This time, instead of taking the direct road, I walked up the hill next to the road. I was being stealthy, trying to do my own sneak attack. As I'm loading up my Sturdy Caravan Shotgun™, it was a matter of time before we face eachother. There... I see them... hiding... preparing to ambush anyone, not knowing who is behind them... Gotcha! The fight commences. I immediately focus all my firepower on the first attacker. Bang! Bang! Reload, Bang! Bang! Reload. She did some good damage on me but it didn't matter, for I plummet her with my 20 gauge. She's dead. Now I turn over to the 2nd attacker. As I reload, I had a realization...
I FORGOT TO STOCK UP ON AMMO AND STIMPAKS!. How can I be so stupid? I was so focus on getting my revenge, I didn't even think to restock. Now with an empty double-barrel and 75 health, I thought I was done for. The attacker spray fire me will his trusty pistol. I'm doomed. No ammo for the 9mm and 10mm pistols and I shouldn't use my grenade rifle because I was near him and it could kill me via splash damage. I really thought all hope was lost... But then... I remember!
MY NEW SERVICE RIFLE, RECENTLY GIVEN TO ME BY JACKSON BACK IN THE MOJAVE OUTPOST FOR A QUEST! (Thank you, Ranger Jackson) as soon as I equipped the rifle, Immediately hit him with all I got! Now both of us are low health. This moment will decide who will come out on top.
As the smoke clears, the moment decided. The Courier Won! As the crowd cheers, a sigh of relief I did. As his body falls out the hill... Something happened. MY GAME CRASHED! I boot up the game as quickly as I ran. I hit play. I waited in the loading screen, hoping that I had a save. I waited... I waited... I waited... It was stuck on the loading screen. "What the hell happened?" I said. I restarted my pc to check and I boot up my game. It keeps getting stuck in the loading screen. All that time, all my ammo just for this to happen. I was thinking of resetting my game entirely to fix the issue. Is this what they call "Bethesda Magic"?

What just happened? A New Vegas Story.
On my first playthrough on New Vegas (First time playing Fallout btw), I was heading to Novac from Nipton via the road up the hill for a quest, since I haven't discovered it yet.
In case you don't know, in the road between Nipton and Novac, you'll be ambushed by 2 enemies (Not sure who exactly attacked me. Didn't check their names) . I died 3 times in that path. The 1st time I gone through that path, I saw an oddly placed traffic cone on the ground. When I approached it, I realized what was inside the cone. A hidden landmine. Before I knew it... all hell breaks loose. Bombs exploding, bullets fired, smoke on my eyes. It happened so quick, I didn't have time to process it. I didn't even know where they are attacking. Next thing I knew, I'm dead.
Fueled by vengeance, I quickly head there again for the 2nd time. This time, discreetly. I carefully navigate around the debris on the road, trying to figure where they are hiding. I saw the traffic cone once again. I slowly walked up to the cone, waiting for the attackers to pop their heads out. As the cone stands before me... A bullet was fired... I looked where it came from... I see 2 figures up in high ground... 2 wastelanders... Found them. Unfortunately I don't know WHAT my dumbass was thinking but for some reason, I decided that knowing where those 2 are, with a lot of weapons in my arsenal, I decided to try to run away. It was not a good idea as the attackers decided to melee me, adding more salt to the wound. My body laid in the ground, torned up.
But now that I know their attack position, I decided to head to the road for the 3rd time. This time, instead of taking the direct road, I walked up the hill next to the road. I was being stealthy, trying to do my own sneak attack. As I loading up my Sturdy Caravan Shotgun™, it was a matter of time before we face eachother. There... I see them... hiding... preparing to ambush anyone, not knowing who is behind them... Gotcha! The fight commences. I immediately focus all my firepower on the first attacker. Bang! Bang! Reload, Bang! Bang! Reload. She did some good damage on me but it didn't matter, for I plummet her with my 20 gauge. She's dead. Now I turn over to the 2nd attacker. As I reload, I had a realization...
I FORGOT TO STOCK UP ON AMMO AND STIMPAKS!. How can I be so stupid? I was so focus on getting my revenge, I didn't even think to restock. Now with an empty double-barrel and 75 health, I thought I was done for. The attacker spray fire me will his trusty pistol. I'm doom. No ammo for the 9mm and 10mm pistols and I shouldn't use my grenade rifle because I was near him and it could kill me via splash damage. I really thought all hope was lost... But then... I remember!
MY NEW SERVICE RIFLE, RECENTLY GIVEN TO ME BY JACKSON BACK IN THE MOJAVE OUTPOST FOR A QUEST! (Thank you, Ranger Jackson) as soon as I equipped the rifle, Immediately hit him with all I got! Now both of us are low health. This moment will decide who will come out on top.
As the smoke clears, the moment decided. The Courier Won! As the crowd cheers, a sigh of relief I did. As his bidy falls out the hill... Something happened. MY GAME CRASHED! I boot up the game as quickly as I ran. I hit play. I waited in the loading screen, hoping that I had a save. I waited... I waited... I waited... It was on the loading screen. "What the hell happened?" I said. I restarted my pc to check and I boot up my game. It keeps getting stuck in the loading screen. All that time, all my ammo just for this to happen. I was thinking of resetting my game entirely to fix the issue. Is this what they call "Bethesda Magic"?

History enthusiasts appreciate gifts that not only indulge their passion for the past but also provide a deeper understanding and connection to historical events and figures. Here are some thoughtful and unique gift ideas that will surely captivate any history buff:

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Gift idea: Replica of the Declaration of Independence

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Gift idea: Framed Vintage World Map

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Gift idea: “Alexander Hamilton” by Ron Chernow

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Gift idea: “Twilight Struggle”

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Gift idea: Authentic World War II Memorabilia

Gifting authentic collectibles from significant historical periods, such as World War II, can be a deeply personal and cherished gift for a history enthusiast.
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Gift idea: Annual Membership to a Local History Museum

An annual membership to a local history museum provides unlimited access to learning and exploration, making it an ideal gift for those who love to immerse themselves in history.
Where to Buy: Directly from the museum, either in person or through their official website.

7. Historical Documentary Series

Gift idea: “The World at War” DVD Box Set

A comprehensive documentary series like “The World at War” can offer hours of informative viewing about significant historical events.
Where to Buy: Online DVD/Blu-ray retailers or streaming platforms with a focus on educational content.

8. Time Period Cooking Class

Gift idea: Medieval Cooking Workshop

A cooking class focused on historical recipes offers a unique experience to dive into the culinary history of a specific time period.
Where to Buy: Look for culinary schools or historical reenactment groups that offer such classes.

9. Restoration of a Family Heirloom

Gift idea: Professional Restoration Services

If the recipient owns a family heirloom, offering restoration services can be a deeply meaningful gift that preserves a piece of their personal history.
Where to Buy: Seek out professionals who specialize in restoring antiques or specific items like books, furniture, or paintings.

10. Custom Historical Portrait

Gift idea: Personalized Renaissance-style Portrait

A custom portrait in the style of a specific historical era, featuring the recipient, is both a fun and unique way to celebrate their love for history.
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When choosing a gift for a history buff, consider their specific interests in periods, figures, or events, as this can guide you in selecting a gift that is both thoughtful and deeply appreciated.

TL;DR :- I got offer from another Company 3, another MNC. I again submitted my resignation in Company 2.
Just a few days before Joining Company 3, HR called me and stated that my BGV had failed because I lied. To my surprise, the BGV vendor got mail from Company 1 (startup) that I didn't resign. Rather I was fired for poor performance. Also, the document that I shared, the Experience certificate was not genuine, but forged.
Exactly 1 month before submitting my resignation, I got an award from the company for my performance (medal + cash price) in Company 1. And, my BGV was cleared by Company 2. I stated to HR that I can provide an affidavit stating that I did not forge documents, and that the same documents were shared with Company 2 as well. Clearly, Company 1 is lying and trying to destroy my career, or they already did. Thankfully, Company 3 has asked me to re-submit any and all supporting documents, and they will re-initiate BGV once again. I am preparing a few documents where I can prove that I was not fired, but I can only go so far. What steps can I take now ?
Long Description :-
I was working in a startup (Company 1). I was always a beloved member by mostly everyone. My Team lead used to hold me in high regards, my manager used to praise me all the time, the CEO was very happy. I was given somewhat special status, like leaving early, work from home, etc. , because all my members were sure that I would get the job done.
Due to low pay, and more opportunities, I had to leave the organization. I submitted my resignation as I got another offer. I left in good terms. The experience letter, relieving letter and all were shared to me via Whats app. I sent an email to the manager, asking for confirmation that these are indeed the documents that were shared with me. But, I didn't get any acceptance. The thing is, I didn't get the Relieving letter and Experience certificate over mail. I requested multiple times, yet the manager didn't budge. I went ahead and shared the documents that I had received over Skype/Whatsapp, and sent those mails to my manager and CEO, and asked my then manager to confirm that these documents are genuine. There was no reply.
I started working in Company 2, a MNC. Company 2 has strict background checks too. And my BGV was cleared twice.. Once while joining, and once while joining a BFSI Project. While transferring PF, I came to know that Company 1 had not cleared some PF amount. So, I sent several notice, and launched several grievances in EPF portal against Company 1, but nothing were answered. I finally decided to hire a lawyer to force EPF to take action against Company 1.
In between, I got offer from another Company 3, another MNC. I again submitted my resignation in Company 2.
Just a few days before Joining Company 3, HR called me and stated that my BGV had failed because I lied. To my surprise, the BGV vendor got mail from Company 1 (startup) that I didn't resign. Rather I was fired for poor performance. Also, the document that I shared, the Experience certificate was not genuine, but forged.
I felt like the Earth just slipped under me. Because, exactly 1 month before submitting my resignation, I got an award from the company for my performance (medal + cash price) in Company 1. And, my BGV was cleared by Company 2. I sweared to HR that I didn't lie, and that I can provide a few proof about it. I also stated that I can provide an affidavit stating that I did not forge documents, and that the same documents were shared with Company 2 as well.
Now, I am losing my mind. Clearly, Company 1 is lying and trying to destroy my career, or they already did. Thankfully, Company 3 has asked me to re-submit any and all supporting documents, and they will re-initiate BGV once again. I am preparing a few documents where I can prove that I was not fired, but I can only go so far.
Please suggest what to do.

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My first reddit post and it's a doozy Get ready for a lot of back story.
We have been together for 3 years in total, engaged for 1. We were introduced by our mutual friends (also dating) after I had been single for 3 years, and she had recently broken up with a partner. We are both neurodiverse (im autistic with depression she has ADHD), I also have a chronic pain illness I developed in our 2nd year of dating and we have had a lot of up and downs dealing with jobs, pain, life but rarely each other. I should mention I'm a good partner, i do most of the chores to try and make her life easier while im not working, we go on dates and have fun, we spend quality time together, i have a secure attachment style and like my alone time so Im happy to have time apart, I have been loyal throughout the relationship and have been constant emotional support through just about every breakdown over sense of self, relationships with friends and her job. I like doing these things for her, as acts of service are one of my love languages and I enjoying caring and showing my love for her by making her life easier so she has more time to focus on herself, or have time to unwind after a long day at work. We were planning to get married in October of next year before about a month ago when she went for a work trip to brisbane had a giant dopamine hit from having so much fun, and came home saying she wanted to break up . After a lot and I mean a lot of unpacking (we have been trying to practise healthy communicating through this) we have realised ;
She has a dismissive avoidant attachment style while I have a secure attachment style.
She is pulling away in a relationship that has pretty much always been open and healthy and its creating anxiety in me.
she has spent a lot of time bottling up problems and needs and not advocating for these needs (had a brief moment where she tried to turn that around on me) and now cant recognise needs and needs time to process these alone. (this felt odd to me, as we had practised a lot of healthy communicating, and in 3 years i have done nothing but show i am a safe place to discuss her wants or needs nor do i get defensive when its something I've done wrong, or she would like done differently I accept the response and try to fix what I have done. I kept encouraging her to do things without me, spend time alone, have fun with friends enjoy a sense of freedom. I asked her of her needs and when she showed them to me, like asking for time together, wanting time apart, needing something done for her I have meet the needs everytime or provided a space for it to happen)
I have been giving her space, not messaging her as much, still completing chores so she has time to focus on what she needs to deal with however she responds in what feels like an unhealthy way to the time alone. Instead of enjoying the time and doing what she needs to do, it just completely takes over almost like because she enjoys time alone she should just always have time alone and it no longer means she enjoys time with me. Which to me..feels off because i love spending time on my own, when she goes on work trips, when shes at work or goes out with friends or wants to be in the room alone, but im still happy when she comes back? i don't feel the need to break up with her just because time on my own is great. And she still has fun with me? we still laugh and play and although we are lacking intimacy it's not like we are having bad times together or anything worthy of a breakup.
What is more confusing is she tells me I'm perfect, that our relationship is perfect that I haven't done anything wrong and because our relationship has actually been good unlike her passed ones it has been part of the reason why she has realised that she is the common denominator and the one with the problem.
It has come down to a fear of commitment and a fear of loss of self in her.
She is planning to go to therapy to get her through this, because right now, she knows and has admitted to treating me unfairly even somewhat cruel compared to how she was previously and that she cant promise even at the end of the therapy she wont break up with me. Which..is fine, i have told her that if she still does, she should take time to sort her shit out and then come find me again..because ill still be ready for her, because i thrive being single so i wont be looking for a relationship anyway, and i will just be waiting for her to find me, just like she did last time. I'm worried she wont though, and will keep falling into karmic cycles having bad relationships and hurting herself. It hurts me, not because she's not picking me when i want her to stay with me so bad, but because it hurts knowing she would be hurting herself like that, thinking of her in pain crying over people, crying over herself, my heart breaks in knowing that.
Right now I'm trying to facilitate healthy distance between us (I've called her out for how she is reacting to distance though and given her some things to think about with it), while still showing mild levels of affection.I'm trying to slowly provide her food for thought, ask questions about her feelings and find a way to facilitate her needs while neither of us know what she needs (example "Hey, i was going to ask if you wanted to spend some quality time together, but would you prefer to have some time in here on your own doing your own thing?" and then i go read my book or do something on my own until she might be ready for some quality time) I'm scared of chasing her off and coming on too strong. It feels silly (its not silly we're being healthy), because she could ask me for the moon, and I would become Gru and try to steal it for her, id give her anything she wanted from me that was within my capabilities and own boundaries and even then depending on the level of the need I can compromise.
I'm hoping that with enough very gentle probing and some therapy that she will be able to improve and she seems motivated to do so, not necessarily for me or the relationship but for herself. For me, this has been enough, i don't want to abandon her, give up on her. im trying to create a safe place for her to heal what she needs and practise healthy communication, but i feel like she just wants to throw me away, even though our relationship and me have been nothing but good. I don't want to throw her away even if that would be better for my own mental health.. This is the best relationship i've had even with its current issue, i was going to marry her for Petes sake. I love her family, they feel like my own.
I feel sad for her, because if she breaks up with me, even though i have all the memories of the things she has said, done and the love she has shown me im loosing someone who doesn't care about me or does not want to love me, doesn't want to make it work. But her? she's losing someone who loves her more than the sun, who would do anything she asks, someone who cooks the best food shes ever had, someone who does their best to make life easier for her so that she can have her own time, someone who makes her a birthday cake every year in cool patterns, someone who listens to her about anything she could even think to talk about, someone who buys small gifts and gives her little letters each one filled with love and so much more. All the things that she has ever wanted in a partner i am, and i did a lot of work to be that person.
Im not mad or resentful with her because no one can help being broken and having the things that you need to face to be a better person and break your karmic cycles. I will be hurt if now that she knows what she is doing to herself and those around her, she keeps making and committing those acts and choices because that's when you start becoming a bad person. Because you make the choice not to heal you let yourself be a victim and let yourself drown and you drag people down with you.
So if anyone could give me some ideas on how i can better facilitate her getting needs met, or just what i can do to help her get through it. I've been staying at friends houses more so she has more time, ive even been thinking of offering if she wants me to go to my mums for a week with no contact to feel some freedom and work on herself but now im scared after that week, she'll kick me out and ill never see her again. Id love to hear if anyone has gone through similar things and what happened or anyones useful tips on having a successful relationship with a DA attachment person.
In the event that she does break up with me (like a 50/50 chance really) I've put a contingency plan in for my parents to come get my stuff and my cats, and my friend to check me into the psych ward for a while because I have a previous history, i've felt the nagging feeling and I know that although i want to, and think about it a lot especially in intense moments I don't really want to hurt, or end myself but on a whim, just better to be safe. So i may not get back to replies If this event happens sooner rather than later but, i may still need the advice for if she comes back. Thank you for reading my rant too, although Ive told a few people, felt good to talk about it to a bunch of strangers too.