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2014.09.05 21:11 JustZisGuy Because there's no more Seinfeld from Seinfeld
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"I think the problem Digg had is that it was a company that was built to be a company, and you could feel it in the product. The way you could criticise Reddit is that we weren't a company – we were all heart and no head for a long time. So I think it'd be really hard for me and for the team to kill Reddit in that way.” Steve Huffman, aka spez, Reddit CEO. For more information about the black-out: https://www.bbc.co.uk/news/technology-65855608
2011.07.28 17:21 bossgalaga Explain Like I'm Five Don't Panic!
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2024.05.22 01:27 Ambitious_Singer_507 I love her but I don’t want to be with her now.
There’s a longer story to it but I’d rather keep it short. Girlfriend and I of 2 years recently broke up a little over a month ago. Decided that it was the best for both parties to take some space because of how stressful life was getting for us. She started being friends with a guy she met a little before we broke up. I definitely got a little jealous of this and one night decided to look through her phone. I found a couple of messages that I considered as flirting, asked her if they were talking, she said no. Assured me that those messages were not flirting. Well I let it go for the most part. Everything had been going good for us and we had still been friends Unfortunately I recently checked their messages again; messages from before the original ones where I saw them flirting and found more flirting. I don’t think anything too serious went on with them, I know for sure she had a crush and maybe he didn’t completely feel the same. When they were supposed to go hang out at times, he’d flake on her. They’d actually only known each other for about 3 weeks. But I feel like somewhere along that time, they developed an emotional connection (especially on her end) and it turned into a crush. I haven’t reacted the best to us being broken up I’d admit, but I know now that she was at least lying about not liking him. I know what I seen. I’m guessing she was trying to protect my feelings and while it was in the past, I don’t believe that I want to be with her anymore. I’ve spent so much time stressing over if something was going on and was constantly assured that it was nothing. Knowing that it probably was, I don’t want to be with her now. I love her but lately I’ve been making it a point to choose my peace over anything else. I can at least be friends with her but no dating anymore.
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2024.05.22 01:27 BeyondCake Made an instruction manual for my sister while we're away for a few days.
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2024.05.22 01:27 CutieMommas25 Poem of emotion (forewarning talks of suicide)
Okay so my son is 5 months old and I’m just reflecting on my post partum depression. Do any moms possibly relate? New and previous survivors of ppd?
It’s not easy I’m crying and screaming All I hear is the constant need The constant cry that needs to be answered No one is helping I’m alone All day and all night, I constantly have to care for you My identity is no longer there I’m constantly craving to be okay and not in an eternal mess Medication doesn’t help the constant angst and fire that’s within The blood coming from my wrists drenching my soul seems to take control The desire for you to not need anything For me to be just okay and to be alright with who I am I don’t know who I am anymore All I know is your cries The constant call for need Where’s me being taken care of I’m alone I’m working, I do all the chores and I care for you It’s overwhelming There is no individuality No identity just the constant choke of responsibility To fit into to society and be a good mother I love you but I’m dying My soul is no longer alive, nothing invigorates me The idea of trips seem fun but the answer is we don’t have the money The idea of doing things is fun but there’s always something saying that you can’t When will it be my turn to be okay and to not want to end it all Feel the darkness fully envelope my soul and just be able to breathe My hardest days seem to always be your hardest days We go from being okay to you crying and screaming at me for hours We try everything to take care of you but all that we hear is you cry There’s no laughter on these days but anxiety and stress I’m so ready to end it all, to just stop hearing and to finally rest Post partum the silent destroyer The anger The fear There is no rest for the mother but the father just sits there and watches you crumble There is no help No rescue just drowning
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It’s not easy I’m crying and screaming All I hear is the constant need The constant cry that needs to be answered No one is helping I’m alone All day and all night, I constantly have to care for you My identity is no longer there I’m constantly craving to be okay and not in an eternal mess Medication doesn’t help the constant angst and fire that’s within The blood coming from my wrists drenching my soul seems to take control The desire for you to not need anything For me to be just okay and to be alright with who I am I don’t know who I am anymore All I know is your cries The constant call for need Where’s me being taken care of I’m alone I’m working, I do all the chores and I care for you It’s overwhelming There is no individuality No identity just the constant choke of responsibility To fit into to society and be a good mother I love you but I’m dying My soul is no longer alive, nothing invigorates me The idea of trips seem fun but the answer is we don’t have the money The idea of doing things is fun but there’s always something saying that you can’t When will it be my turn to be okay and to not want to end it all Feel the darkness fully envelope my soul and just be able to breathe My hardest days seem to always be your hardest days We go from being okay to you crying and screaming at me for hours We try everything to take care of you but all that we hear is you cry There’s no laughter on these days but anxiety and stress I’m so ready to end it all, to just stop hearing and to finally rest Post partum the silent destroyer The anger The fear There is no rest for the mother but the father just sits there and watches you crumble There is no help No rescue just drowning
2024.05.22 01:27 Ready_Car1911 Should I overcome my fear of dating apps?
I feel like an idiot for posting this on Reddit but I don't really feel comfortable venting about this with friends, so here we are!
(21F) It's been two years since I broke up with my ex boyfriend. It was a really healthy relationship and we remain really close friends, it just didn't make sense to me to keep up with it anymore.
Well, I'm a 21 year old girl, and since that breakup my social life hasn't been all that interesting really. I'm a 4th year law student and college ended up being not all that exciting, and even tough I've got to meet my amazing group of friends, I didn't really relate to anyone else. Therefore, this time when you're supposed to meet lots of people and broaden your horizons ended up stagnating a bit for me.
I consider myself an easy going person, I've never in my life find it hard to make friends or getting to know people. It's just that I haven't got many chances to. I spend most my time with my friends I already know or end up meeting people at parties who I don't talk to ever again, and being still in college doesn't give me much time for new activities. Romantic-wise, I've never been the type that cares too much (or even at all) to be in a relationship, and I never really liked the idea of having to chase anything. I thrive on my own most of the time, and whatever happens, happens. But like anyone else, I sometimes miss the occasional flirt and whatever comes with it haha. Intimacy in geral, or just having fun. More than the horny!!!! aspect of it, I really do miss getting to make friends and talk to somebody new.
Well, as I've stated before, I think I'm really easy to talk to, overall funny and outgoing. Charming in a good day, perhaps haha. About my looks, well I wouldn't say I'm stunning but I'm not very insecure, or at least I don't let it get to my head very often. Maybe not the type you'd give a second look or flirt on the subway - unless I'm reading some cool book or something haha - but maybe buy me a drink in the night if we're having a good time lol. I'm usually very friendly with anyone I meet so I don't even know how people make the jump to flirtation these days...
Back to the dating apps: as we've seen here, I'm stagnant. Not even my social media does wonders for me anymore since I've had the stupid idea of soft blocking almost everyone when I've gotten out of high school (so real to be fair), so most of my followers are people I actually know or work with today. There's always a random guy out of nowhere but you know, no one interesting enough !!
That being said, should I overcome my fear of dating apps? I'm NOT gonna lie to you, to this very day I've always been a bit prejudiced about it. Not judgemental of people who use them at all, I just never thought I'd be into it because I don't think that's the coolest way to say I've met a significant other haha. I mean, my future boyfriend can be using a dating app right now, but he surely won't find me in one. At least that's how I like to put it.
Still, I'm reluctant. My brain tells me not to do it, but at the same time my heart is telling me to do so for the plot. I really hate the idea of having to create a profile that appeals to anyone, plus the dynamic of maybe not finding matches???? I don't have many self esteem issues but idk how that would affect me in the long run. Plus, maybe this might sound wrong, but given the fact that I study law people on my field of study expect some odd seriousness of their employees, and as common as they are there's still many preconceptions about dating apps within these firms. I mean, I already hold the weight of my digital footprint being goofy on twitter haha
WELL I don't know what to expect of this! But it's my first post on Reddit so there's that! I ended up writing a lot more than I intended so feel free to engage and talk to me. Or even to call me an idiot. It's late in the night in here and I feel like oversharing SO there's that freedom of opinating about strangers lives on the internet lol
Anyway thanks in advance, and I apologize for any mistake since english ain't my first language!
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(21F) It's been two years since I broke up with my ex boyfriend. It was a really healthy relationship and we remain really close friends, it just didn't make sense to me to keep up with it anymore.
Well, I'm a 21 year old girl, and since that breakup my social life hasn't been all that interesting really. I'm a 4th year law student and college ended up being not all that exciting, and even tough I've got to meet my amazing group of friends, I didn't really relate to anyone else. Therefore, this time when you're supposed to meet lots of people and broaden your horizons ended up stagnating a bit for me.
I consider myself an easy going person, I've never in my life find it hard to make friends or getting to know people. It's just that I haven't got many chances to. I spend most my time with my friends I already know or end up meeting people at parties who I don't talk to ever again, and being still in college doesn't give me much time for new activities. Romantic-wise, I've never been the type that cares too much (or even at all) to be in a relationship, and I never really liked the idea of having to chase anything. I thrive on my own most of the time, and whatever happens, happens. But like anyone else, I sometimes miss the occasional flirt and whatever comes with it haha. Intimacy in geral, or just having fun. More than the horny!!!! aspect of it, I really do miss getting to make friends and talk to somebody new.
Well, as I've stated before, I think I'm really easy to talk to, overall funny and outgoing. Charming in a good day, perhaps haha. About my looks, well I wouldn't say I'm stunning but I'm not very insecure, or at least I don't let it get to my head very often. Maybe not the type you'd give a second look or flirt on the subway - unless I'm reading some cool book or something haha - but maybe buy me a drink in the night if we're having a good time lol. I'm usually very friendly with anyone I meet so I don't even know how people make the jump to flirtation these days...
Back to the dating apps: as we've seen here, I'm stagnant. Not even my social media does wonders for me anymore since I've had the stupid idea of soft blocking almost everyone when I've gotten out of high school (so real to be fair), so most of my followers are people I actually know or work with today. There's always a random guy out of nowhere but you know, no one interesting enough !!
That being said, should I overcome my fear of dating apps? I'm NOT gonna lie to you, to this very day I've always been a bit prejudiced about it. Not judgemental of people who use them at all, I just never thought I'd be into it because I don't think that's the coolest way to say I've met a significant other haha. I mean, my future boyfriend can be using a dating app right now, but he surely won't find me in one. At least that's how I like to put it.
Still, I'm reluctant. My brain tells me not to do it, but at the same time my heart is telling me to do so for the plot. I really hate the idea of having to create a profile that appeals to anyone, plus the dynamic of maybe not finding matches???? I don't have many self esteem issues but idk how that would affect me in the long run. Plus, maybe this might sound wrong, but given the fact that I study law people on my field of study expect some odd seriousness of their employees, and as common as they are there's still many preconceptions about dating apps within these firms. I mean, I already hold the weight of my digital footprint being goofy on twitter haha
WELL I don't know what to expect of this! But it's my first post on Reddit so there's that! I ended up writing a lot more than I intended so feel free to engage and talk to me. Or even to call me an idiot. It's late in the night in here and I feel like oversharing SO there's that freedom of opinating about strangers lives on the internet lol
Anyway thanks in advance, and I apologize for any mistake since english ain't my first language!
2024.05.22 01:26 Sweet-Count2557 Best Pizza in Olympia Wa
 | Best Pizza in Olympia Wa Are you ready to embark on a mouthwatering journey through the pizza paradise of Olympia, WA? Well, buckle up, because we're about to take you on a delectable adventure to discover the absolute best pizzerias in town.From the authentic flavors of Pizzeria La Gitana to the family-friendly atmosphere of Dirty Daves Pizza Parlor and the modern twist at Vics Pizzeria, we've got you covered.So sit back, relax, and get ready to satisfy your pizza cravings like never before. Let's dive in!Key TakeawaysPizzeria La Gitana is known as one of the best pizza places in Olympia, with must-try items like Pesto sauce and Prosciutto San Daniele pizza.Dirty Daves Pizza Parlor offers great food since 1972, with fresh ingredients used in all dishes. It's a perfect place for a fun family dining experience with arcade games.Vics Pizzeria is downtown Olympia's best pizza with a modern twist, offering delicious pizza and a friendly staff. Dogs are welcome on the patio, and vegetarian artichoke slices and gluten-free crust are recommended.Old School Pizzeria serves New York-style pizza since 1995, with freshly made pizzas with garden-fresh ingredients. Gluten-free options are available, and the must-try pizzas are the Old School pizza and vegetarian pizza.Pizzeria La GitanaWe absolutely love Pizzeria La Gitana for its authentic Italian cuisine and cozy atmosphere. When you step inside the restaurant, you're immediately transported to a charming Italian trattoria. The warm lighting, rustic decor, and soft music create a romantic ambiance that's perfect for a date night or a special celebration.One of the things that sets Pizzeria La Gitana apart is its commitment to authentic Italian dining. The menu features a variety of traditional Italian dishes, made with the freshest ingredients and prepared with care. From the moment you take your first bite, you can taste the passion and expertise that goes into each dish.The staff at Pizzeria La Gitana is extremely knowledgeable and friendly. They're always happy to offer recommendations and help you navigate the menu. Whether you're in the mood for a classic Margherita pizza or want to try something more adventurous like the Prosciutto San Daniele pizza, they'll guide you towards the perfect choice.When it comes to safety, Pizzeria La Gitana goes above and beyond. The restaurant follows strict hygiene protocols to ensure the safety of its guests. The staff wears masks and gloves, and all surfaces are regularly sanitized. Additionally, the restaurant has implemented social distancing measures, with tables spaced apart to create a safe dining experience.Dirty Daves Pizza ParlorWhen it comes to Dirty Daves Pizza Parlor, we can't help but appreciate their commitment to using fresh, high-quality ingredients in their pizzas. The flavors really shine through, making each bite a delicious experience.Not only that, but the family-friendly atmosphere and arcade games make it a great place to bring the kids for a fun dining experience.And with popular menu choices like the Meat Lovers pizza and Italian sub, there's something for everyone to enjoy at Dirty Daves.Fresh Ingredients and FlavorsAlthough Dirty Daves Pizza Parlor has been serving great food since 1972, what sets it apart is the use of fresh ingredients in all of their dishes. When it comes to sourcing their ingredients, Dirty Daves goes above and beyond to ensure that only the freshest and highest quality ingredients are used in their pizzas.From locally sourced vegetables to premium meats, they're committed to providing a safe and delicious dining experience. The result is a menu filled with unique flavor combinations that are sure to satisfy any pizza lover's cravings.Whether you're in the mood for their classic Meat Lovers pizza or want to try something more adventurous like their Mediterranean-inspired Greek pizza, you can trust that each bite will be bursting with fresh and vibrant flavors.Dirty Daves Pizza Parlor truly delivers a taste experience that's unmatched in Olympia.Family-Friendly Atmosphere and GamesAt Dirty Daves Pizza Parlor, we always create a fun and family-friendly atmosphere with arcade games for everyone to enjoy. Our goal is to provide a safe and enjoyable environment where families can come together and have a great time while enjoying our delicious pizza. We understand the importance of catering to kids, which is why we offer pizza making classes for kids. This interactive experience allows children to get creative and make their own pizza under the guidance of our skilled chefs. It's a great opportunity for them to learn about the pizza making process and have fun at the same time. Dirty Daves Pizza Parlor is proud to be considered one of the best pizza chains in Olympia, and we strive to maintain that reputation by providing exceptional service and a memorable dining experience for the whole family.Game NameDescriptionAge RecommendationPac-ManClassic arcade game where you navigate through a maze, avoiding ghosts and collecting pointsAll agesAir HockeyFast-paced game where you compete against friends or family to score goals using a puck and malletsAll agesDance Dance RevolutionDance-based game where you follow the arrows on the screen to the beat of the musicAll agesSkee-BallRoll balls up a ramp to score points in various holes to win tickets for prizesAll agesCome and join us at Dirty Daves Pizza Parlor for a fantastic family outing filled with great food and fun games!Popular Menu ChoicesWe absolutely love the variety of popular menu choices at Dirty Daves Pizza Parlor. Here are five mouthwatering options that will surely satisfy your pizza cravings:The Classic Pepperoni: This all-time favorite never disappoints. The crispy pepperoni combined with gooey cheese and tangy tomato sauce is a match made in pizza heaven.The BBQ Chicken: For those who enjoy a little sweetness with their savory, this pizza is a must-try. The tender chunks of chicken smothered in tangy barbecue sauce, topped with melted cheese and caramelized onions, create a flavor explosion in every bite.The Veggie Delight: Loaded with fresh and colorful vegetables, this pizza is a vegetarian's dream come true. From crunchy bell peppers to juicy tomatoes, each bite is bursting with wholesome goodness.The Hawaiian: A controversial choice, but one that has stood the test of time. The combination of sweet pineapple, salty ham, and melted cheese creates a unique flavor profile that's both refreshing and satisfying.The Buffalo Chicken: For those who like a little kick, this pizza is the perfect choice. Tangy buffalo sauce, tender chicken, and melted cheese come together to create a spicy and flavorful experience.At Dirty Daves Pizza Parlor, you can always count on popular pizza toppings and unique pizza flavors that will leave you wanting more.Vics PizzeriaWhen it comes to Vics Pizzeria, one of the things that sets them apart is their variety of local favorite pizza toppings. From classic pepperoni to unique combinations like artichoke and feta, they've something to please every palate.Additionally, their dog-friendly outdoor seating makes it a great spot to enjoy a slice with your furry friend.And for those with dietary restrictions, Vics Pizzeria offers delicious gluten-free pizza options that don't compromise on taste.Local Favorite Pizza ToppingsOur favorite pizza toppings at Vics Pizzeria include pepperoni, mushrooms, and black olives. These classic toppings never disappoint and add a burst of flavor to every bite.But if you're feeling adventurous, Vics Pizzeria also offers unique pizza toppings that will elevate your pizza experience to the next level. Here are five of our top picks:Truffle oil: Indulge in the luxurious and earthy flavor of truffle oil drizzled over your pizza. It adds a touch of elegance and sophistication to each slice.Feta cheese: Crumble some tangy and creamy feta cheese on top of your pizza for a delightful burst of flavor. It pairs perfectly with the other toppings and adds a unique twist.BBQ chicken: For those who love a bit of sweetness and smokiness, try the BBQ chicken topping. The tender chicken, tangy BBQ sauce, and melted cheese create a mouthwatering combination.Artichoke hearts: Add a touch of Mediterranean goodness to your pizza with artichoke hearts. Their slightly tangy and nutty flavor pairs well with other toppings, creating a delicious and satisfying pizza.Fresh basil: The fragrant and refreshing taste of fresh basil is a perfect complement to any pizza. It adds a pop of color and a hint of herbal goodness.Vics Pizzeria not only offers the best pizza in Olympia but also provides a variety of unique toppings that will satisfy any pizza lover's cravings. Whether you stick with the classics or venture into the realm of unique flavors, Vics Pizzeria has something for everyone.Dog-Friendly Outdoor SeatingAt Vics Pizzeria, you can enjoy our delicious pizza with your furry friend in our dog-friendly outdoor seating area. We understand that your pet is a part of your family, and we want to create a safe and enjoyable environment for both you and your four-legged companion. Our outdoor seating area is spacious and comfortable, providing ample space for your dog to relax while you savor our mouthwatering pizzas. To ensure the safety of all our customers, we kindly ask that you keep your dog on a leash and clean up after them. We take pride in being a dog-friendly establishment and look forward to welcoming you and your furry friend to Vics Pizzeria.ProsConsSpacious outdoor seating areaNo indoor seating for dogsComfortable environmentLimited menu options for dogsLeashed dogs allowedResponsible pet ownership requiredWhen it comes to local pizzeria recommendations that offer dog-friendly outdoor seating, Vics Pizzeria is the top choice. The combination of delicious pizza, friendly staff, and a welcoming atmosphere makes it the perfect spot to enjoy a meal with your furry friend. So grab a slice of our mouthwatering pizza, sit back, and relax with your dog by your side at Vics Pizzeria.Gluten-Free Pizza OptionsFor those of us with gluten sensitivities, Vics Pizzeria offers a variety of delicious gluten-free pizza options. Here are some reasons why Vics Pizzeria is a great choice for gluten-free pizza:Gluten-free crust alternatives: Vics Pizzeria understands the importance of providing options for those who can't consume gluten. They offer a gluten-free crust that's made with high-quality ingredients and has a great texture.Wide range of toppings: Vics Pizzeria doesn't skimp on the toppings when it comes to their gluten-free pizzas. You can choose from a variety of delicious options such as fresh vegetables, savory meats, and flavorful cheeses. They've something to satisfy every taste preference.Dedicated gluten-free preparation: Vics Pizzeria takes precautions to avoid cross-contamination. They've separate preparation areas and utensils for their gluten-free pizzas, ensuring that your meal is safe to consume.Knowledgeable staff: The staff at Vics Pizzeria is well-informed about gluten sensitivities and can provide guidance on the best gluten-free pizza options for you. They're attentive to your needs and can answer any questions you may have about their ingredients and preparation methods.Delicious and satisfying: Despite being gluten-free, Vics Pizzeria's pizzas are full of flavor and have a satisfying texture. You won't feel like you're missing out on anything when you indulge in their gluten-free pizza options.Now that we've covered Vics Pizzeria's gluten-free pizza options, let's move on to Casa Mia, another fantastic pizza place in Olympia.Casa MiaSince Casa Mia has been a family-owned restaurant chain since 1952, they have a long-standing reputation for serving freshly made pizzas with high-quality ingredients. This popular Italian pizzeria has become a go-to spot for families in Olympia, offering a range of classic and innovative pizzas that are sure to satisfy any craving.Popular Italian PizzasDescriptionSafety RatingCasa Mia SpecialThis classic pizza is a crowd favorite, featuring a delicious combination of pepperoni, sausage, mushrooms, onions, and green peppers. The flavors blend together perfectly, creating a mouthwatering experience.5/5MargheritaFor those seeking a simpler yet incredibly flavorful option, the Margherita pizza is a must-try. Topped with fresh tomatoes, mozzarella cheese, basil, and a drizzle of olive oil, this pizza will transport you straight to Italy.5/5Quattro FormaggiCheese lovers rejoice! Casa Mia's Quattro Formaggi pizza is a cheese lover's dream come true. This pizza is loaded with a blend of four delicious cheeses - mozzarella, fontina, gorgonzola, and parmesan - creating a rich and creamy delight.5/5Veggie DelightIf you're looking for a healthier option without compromising on taste, the Veggie Delight pizza is the way to go. Topped with an array of fresh vegetables such as bell peppers, onions, mushrooms, and black olives, this pizza is packed with flavor and nutrients.5/5Casa Mia understands the importance of safety, especially when it comes to dining out. They prioritize cleanliness and hygiene, ensuring that their facilities are well-maintained and regularly sanitized. Their staff is trained to follow strict safety protocols, providing customers with a worry-free dining experience.Whether you're craving a classic pizza or looking to try something new and innovative, Casa Mia has got you covered. With their dedication to quality ingredients, family-friendly spaces, and a wide variety of delicious pizzas, it's no wonder they are considered one of the best pizza places in Olympia. So, the next time you're in the mood for a satisfying slice of pizza, head over to Casa Mia and indulge in their mouthwatering creations.Old School PizzeriaWhen we think of authentic New York-style pizza in Olympia, Old School Pizzeria immediately comes to mind. This iconic pizzeria has been serving up delicious slices since 1995, and they consistently deliver on flavor and quality. Here are five reasons why Old School Pizzeria is a must-visit for pizza lovers in Olympia:Best pizza crust: Old School Pizzeria takes pride in their perfectly crispy and chewy crust. Baked to perfection in their brick oven, every bite is a delight. The crust provides a sturdy base for the generous toppings, adding a satisfying texture to each slice.Unique pizza toppings: Old School Pizzeria offers a wide range of toppings that go beyond the traditional. From their signature Old School pizza with pepperoni, sausage, mushrooms, and black olives, to their vegetarian pizza with fresh tomatoes, basil, and mozzarella, there's something for everyone. They also have creative options like their BBQ chicken pizza and Greek pizza, which are bursting with bold flavors.Freshly made pizzas with garden-fresh ingredients: Old School Pizzeria prioritizes using the freshest ingredients in their pizzas. From the tangy tomato sauce to the gooey mozzarella cheese, each component is carefully selected to ensure a delicious and satisfying pizza experience.Gluten-free options available: For those with dietary restrictions, Old School Pizzeria offers gluten-free crusts that are just as tasty as their regular ones. This allows everyone to enjoy their mouthwatering pizzas without compromising on flavor or quality.Retro decor and old-school arcade games: Stepping into Old School Pizzeria feels like a trip back in time. The retro decor and old-school arcade games create a fun and nostalgic atmosphere that adds to the overall dining experience.With their best pizza crust, unique pizza toppings, and commitment to using fresh ingredients, Old School Pizzeria is a standout in the Olympia pizza scene. It's time to move on to the next stop on our pizza journey: Brewery City Pizza.Brewery City PizzaBut we can't forget about Brewery City Pizza, where you can find some of the best pizza in Olympia. Situated in a cozy and welcoming atmosphere, Brewery City Pizza offers a unique dining experience that combines delicious pizza with craft beer pairings. The restaurant takes pride in using fresh ingredients and offering customizable orders to cater to individual preferences.One of the standout features of Brewery City Pizza is their weekly specials. Every week, they introduce new and exciting pizza creations that showcase a variety of flavors and ingredients. From unique combinations like BBQ chicken with bacon and pineapple to classic favorites like pepperoni and sausage, there's always something for everyone to enjoy. These weekly specials allow customers to try something different each time they visit, keeping the dining experience fresh and exciting.For those who appreciate a good craft beer, Brewery City Pizza is the perfect place to indulge. They've a wide selection of local and regional craft beers on tap, carefully curated to complement the flavors of their pizzas. Whether you prefer a hoppy IPA or a smooth amber ale, the knowledgeable staff at Brewery City Pizza can help you find the perfect beer to pair with your pizza.When it comes to safety, Brewery City Pizza ensures that all health and sanitation guidelines are strictly followed. The restaurant maintains a clean and hygienic environment, and the staff is trained to prioritize the well-being of their customers. From the moment you step foot inside, you can feel confident that Brewery City Pizza is committed to providing a safe and enjoyable dining experience.I.talia PizzeriaWe often visit I.talia Pizzeria for their delicious organic pizza and gelato. It's one of our favorite pizzerias in Olympia, and here are a few reasons why:Organic pizza ingredients: I.talia Pizzeria takes pride in using only the freshest and highest quality organic ingredients in their pizzas. From the locally sourced vegetables to the hormone-free meats, every bite of their pizza is bursting with flavor and goodness.Green Power and sustainability practices: I.talia Pizzeria is committed to sustainability and reducing their carbon footprint. They've implemented green power practices such as using solar panels to generate electricity and utilizing energy-efficient appliances. Additionally, their packaging is eco-friendly, made from recycled materials.Kid-friendly atmosphere: I.talia Pizzeria is a great place to bring the whole family. Kids can even make their own pizzas, which is always a hit. The staff is friendly and accommodating, ensuring a safe and enjoyable experience for everyone.Wide selection of organic ingredients: At I.talia Pizzeria, you can choose from a variety of organic toppings to create your perfect pizza. From fresh tomatoes and basil to locally sourced mushrooms and peppers, there's something to satisfy every taste bud.Delicious gelato: After enjoying a mouthwatering pizza, don't forget to indulge in some of I.talia Pizzeria's homemade gelato. Made with organic ingredients, their gelato is creamy, rich, and the perfect way to end your meal.When it comes to organic pizza and sustainable practices, I.talia Pizzeria is a top choice in Olympia. With their commitment to quality ingredients and eco-friendly practices, you can enjoy a delicious meal while knowing that you're supporting a pizzeria that values both your taste buds and the environment.ConclusionAs we conclude our journey through Olympia's best pizzerias, we can't help but feel like we've discovered a slice of heaven. Each establishment holds its own unique charm and flavors, offering a taste of Italy right here in Washington.From the romantic ambiance of Pizzeria La Gitana to the family-friendly atmosphere of Dirty Daves Pizza Parlor, there's something for everyone.So go ahead, indulge in these culinary delights and let your taste buds soar. Olympia truly is a pizza lover's paradise. submitted by Sweet-Count2557 to worldkidstravel [link] [comments] |
2024.05.22 01:25 ThrowRA_lavenderluv Silent Treatment or Discard? Is it really over? Or just getting started?
TW: sexual and emotional abuse
So in my other post, I wrote how I tried to leave my narc, and he ended up getting me to talk to him where he verbally abused me and told me it’s over last night. I am beyond depressed right now, even though I did try to leave him first. In my breakup text, I called him out for being a narcissist, I called out his lies, and called him a danger to society, but nothing specific. Context is he sexually abused me for the first time last week.
I can see things going either one of two ways:
1) He will give me the silent treatment to regain control, then hoover again when I stop reaching out and get me back under his control more than ever before, because I will now be afraid to ever bring up any criticism against him. I am sure the abuse would get worse/escalate further to intimidate me.
2) He feels threatened by me not being as stupid as he thought and will never speak to me again because he is afraid of being exposed.
I personally don’t know, but #1 seems more likely for him because he would have more of a semblance of control over me and would be able to easier manipulate me to silence me and never speak out about his secrets and abuse he put me and others through. But, his pride may be hurt deeply, so I could see how he could decide #2 because I would be a constant reminder of his flaws and shameful secrets. I still think he will attempt #1 though because I know he knows how much power he has over me right now because I completely caved when he talked to me last night and I apologized for everything and went as far as to tell him nothing I said was based in truth to try to get him to stop yelling at me. So, he will either continue to try to brainwash me and regain control, which is part of his game that he thoroughly enjoys, or he’ll cut me off and discard for good (this options leaves me as a threat though, a loose end, he does not want that).
So, regardless of his game-plan, I need one as well. I am so bad at fighting his manipulation, so when he ultimately reaches out for reconciliation, somehow I need to prepare myself. Because despite the strong trauma bond, staying with him will be so painful, I have already and will continue to completely lose myself in this relationship. I saw a post about how to keep your narc, and it basically summed up how you just need to submit completely to them as your master and lose all sense of individuality and identity. What a sad way to live. That is not love, no matter the lies he tells me and the lies I tell myself to cope. Any ideas of how to get away safely? Thankfully we don’t live together but he knows the code to my building door. I could block, but I know for a fact it will incite rage in him and he may retaliate. It’s scary trying to figure out a way to escape someone so dangerous for good. It’s almost like I need it to be his idea to never speak to me again.
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So in my other post, I wrote how I tried to leave my narc, and he ended up getting me to talk to him where he verbally abused me and told me it’s over last night. I am beyond depressed right now, even though I did try to leave him first. In my breakup text, I called him out for being a narcissist, I called out his lies, and called him a danger to society, but nothing specific. Context is he sexually abused me for the first time last week.
I can see things going either one of two ways:
1) He will give me the silent treatment to regain control, then hoover again when I stop reaching out and get me back under his control more than ever before, because I will now be afraid to ever bring up any criticism against him. I am sure the abuse would get worse/escalate further to intimidate me.
2) He feels threatened by me not being as stupid as he thought and will never speak to me again because he is afraid of being exposed.
I personally don’t know, but #1 seems more likely for him because he would have more of a semblance of control over me and would be able to easier manipulate me to silence me and never speak out about his secrets and abuse he put me and others through. But, his pride may be hurt deeply, so I could see how he could decide #2 because I would be a constant reminder of his flaws and shameful secrets. I still think he will attempt #1 though because I know he knows how much power he has over me right now because I completely caved when he talked to me last night and I apologized for everything and went as far as to tell him nothing I said was based in truth to try to get him to stop yelling at me. So, he will either continue to try to brainwash me and regain control, which is part of his game that he thoroughly enjoys, or he’ll cut me off and discard for good (this options leaves me as a threat though, a loose end, he does not want that).
So, regardless of his game-plan, I need one as well. I am so bad at fighting his manipulation, so when he ultimately reaches out for reconciliation, somehow I need to prepare myself. Because despite the strong trauma bond, staying with him will be so painful, I have already and will continue to completely lose myself in this relationship. I saw a post about how to keep your narc, and it basically summed up how you just need to submit completely to them as your master and lose all sense of individuality and identity. What a sad way to live. That is not love, no matter the lies he tells me and the lies I tell myself to cope. Any ideas of how to get away safely? Thankfully we don’t live together but he knows the code to my building door. I could block, but I know for a fact it will incite rage in him and he may retaliate. It’s scary trying to figure out a way to escape someone so dangerous for good. It’s almost like I need it to be his idea to never speak to me again.
2024.05.22 01:25 BedheadRockstar 19m practicing electric guitar for fun’s
Not much has gone on about my day but here’s sum stuff on me I guess.
Finsihed my first yes run college for automotive technology aka mechanic
I got a pet frog
I play Xbox
I draw and do graffiti and what not
Honestly just have a very artistic mind
I’m a fast texter and if you have something on your mind you been wanting to spit out at someone I’ll listen to you yap. Everyone so welcome don’t be shy to just dm me immediate ima. Night owl so I’ll be up a good while.
Just wanna kill time ? I’m down for whatever you got for me
If you wanna know what I look like before anything just ask
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Finsihed my first yes run college for automotive technology aka mechanic
I got a pet frog
I play Xbox
I draw and do graffiti and what not
Honestly just have a very artistic mind
I’m a fast texter and if you have something on your mind you been wanting to spit out at someone I’ll listen to you yap. Everyone so welcome don’t be shy to just dm me immediate ima. Night owl so I’ll be up a good while.
Just wanna kill time ? I’m down for whatever you got for me
If you wanna know what I look like before anything just ask
2024.05.22 01:22 BedheadRockstar [19M] practicing electric guitar for fun’s
Not much has gone on about my day but here’s sum stuff on me I guess.
Finsihed my first yes run college for automotive technology aka mechanic
I got a pet frog
I play Xbox
I draw and do graffiti and what not
Honestly just have a very artistic mind
I’m a fast texter and if you have something on your mind you been wanting to spit out at someone I’ll listen to you yap. Everyone so welcome don’t be shy to just dm me immediate ima. Night owl so I’ll be up a good while.
Just wanna kill time ? I’m down for whatever you got for me
If you wanna know what I look like before anything just ask
submitted by BedheadRockstar to MeetNewPeopleHere [link] [comments]
Finsihed my first yes run college for automotive technology aka mechanic
I got a pet frog
I play Xbox
I draw and do graffiti and what not
Honestly just have a very artistic mind
I’m a fast texter and if you have something on your mind you been wanting to spit out at someone I’ll listen to you yap. Everyone so welcome don’t be shy to just dm me immediate ima. Night owl so I’ll be up a good while.
Just wanna kill time ? I’m down for whatever you got for me
If you wanna know what I look like before anything just ask
2024.05.22 01:22 203PR RECAP - Tuesday May 21, 2024. CALL THE AMBULANCE. CALL THE AMBULANCE. But not for us 🦍😏
⚠️ DISCLAIMER. I AM NOT A FINANCIAL ADVISOR. THIS IS NOT FINANCIAL ADVISE. I AM NOT TELLING YOU WHAT WILL HAPPEN, NOR DO I HAVE ANY WAY OF DOING KNOWING. ALL POSSIBILITIES PROVIDED BY ME, OR ANYONE IS SOLELY AN EDUCATED PREDICTION ON WHAT CAN HAPPEN IF ALL INVESTORS COLLECTIVELY MAKE THE SAME DECISIONS. THE ULTIMATE OUTCOME RELIES ON THE COMMUNITY AS A WHOLE NOT WHAT ONE PERSON SAYS ⚠️
Read here to catch up on yesterday’s recap - https://www.reddit.com/FFIE/s/yyNlzndKOc
Read here to catch up on FFIE in general (some of your questions might be answered!) - https://www.reddit.com/FFIE/s/hDH5ANRYji
Okay! We made it through another wild day. You apes fought HARD, and won today’s battle! But before we dive into today’s recap, a quick PSA 🗣️
🚨 TURN OFF STOCK LENDING ON WHATEVER BROKER YOU USE 🚨
READ THIS POST FROM TO READ ABOUT WHAT STOCK LENDING IS AND WHY WE SHOULD TURN IT OFF - https://www.reddit.com/FFIE/s/XjXiPkbDTc
BELOW ARE SOME LINKS TO GUIDES ON HOW TO TURN IT OFF ON SPECIFIC BROKERS:
Robinhood / TD Ameritrade / Fidelity / Charles Schwab / Webull / Interactive Brokers / Ally Invest / Trading212 / Vanguard - https://www.reddit.com/FFIE/s/snKwVTMwmM
Public - https://www.reddit.com/Superstonk/s/VzFGwTxPFO
Today we opened pre-market hours with a price point of 1.63/share. From then on until 10:30, we saw a steady price dip, bringing us to a low of 1.29/share. Because of how steady it was declining, this can tell us one thing. The big investors were dumping shares on us (mentioned again later) and we were just eating them right back up. They eventually eased up and we saw a NICE climb to 1.62/share at 11:45AM, to which we then began steadily declining again, bringing us to a daily low of 1.25/share. We closed the market day at 1.39/share, which is still GREAT. Please remember late market declines are normal, and alone they can’t determine our current state. Evaluations need to be done at a whole.
That being said, you guys can all give yourselves a huge pat on the back 👏🏼 “But Big Ape, we’re down from yesterday! You lie!” Hold on little ape, remember we talked about volume? No? You should! Remember, “Today’s Volume is the total of buys & sells of a stock in a certain time period. For a stock like FFIE, 677.89M is a BIG number.” Now that number provided is actually from YESTERDAY. So what was today’s number? A SHOCKING 220.14M 😱 What does that mean?
It means you crazy apes held your promises. It means you held your shares like your lives depended on it, and when the dips came, you ate them right up! Because the selling was mostly one sided, and so was the buying, with almost ALL OF US holding (👏🏼👏🏼) , all these contributed to us cutting the volume by 1/3!!!
But if we all held, then why were we -22.78% when the market closed??? Well, i’ll be completely transparent with you - I’m still figuring out all the details about this BUT, here’s what we do know - Today’s low volume means there wasn’t as much fighting going on within the stock market. It was a smooth game of hedge’s selling, and us holding for the dip, and buying more. Not a lot of trading going on compared to yesterdays volume of nearly 700M (Look at how volatile yesterday was!)
You all trusted one another to hold, while simultaneously keeping your end of the promise. Talk about a team bonding exercise.. very well done!! 🦍🖤
“But Big Ape! I goofed up and bought when the share price was higher! I’m not seeing any gains!” Well, it’s still a fight and we won’t see gains for a few more market days. But I understand little ape. You need reassurance. Well luckily for you Hope is my middle name. (It’s not.)
Here’s what else we know:
(Source for this segment - https://finance.yahoo.com/quote/FFIE/key-statistics/ )
As of the last update, FFIE has 42.41M shares outstanding. What does this mean? Let me put it like this. FFIE is a pie (company). Of that Pie there are 42.41 million pieces (shares). All of those shares aren’t available for everyone to buy and sell though. This is where the float comes into play.
As of the last update FFIE has a float of 17.09M shares. Those are pieces of the pie available for everyone in the stock market to play with.
The short % of this float is at 85.71%. What does this mean? It means the big boys have shorted 85.71%. “I still dont get it!” Okay, let me try it again.
When investors borrow shares, they do it in hopes that the price of those shares will fall. If that were to happen, they’d sell those same shares at a profit. This is what they’re trying to do to us.
You might be hearing a lot of numbers being thrown around, 60%, 90%, 80%. Places like Ortex are wrong because they’re only accounting for some of the shorts not all. Shorts positions aren’t released until every 2 weeks. The number provided is the number of ALL shares.
So, 85%, is that a good thing? Well you might be hearing that we were at 95%, or 97%. I’m not sure exactly how credible that is, but let’s focus on what we have. 85% is a GREAT number, the Hedge’s dumped 250k shares on us today causing the big first dip we saw and we ate that shit right up.
Today was a perfect representation of how we can maintain our position if we collectively move as a unit. I’m working on a Q&A post so if you have any questions regarding FFIE, or how stocks work feel free to comment, but first! Please try looking for your answer through this subreddit, as we have a lot of genius apes who have spent a lot of time making educational posts for you to read! I’ll link some in this post later tonight.
I have to run for now but I will be back tonight with some edits as well as a new post regarding what tomorrow could look like, what we can expect, and how we can fight tomorrow.
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Read here to catch up on yesterday’s recap - https://www.reddit.com/FFIE/s/yyNlzndKOc
Read here to catch up on FFIE in general (some of your questions might be answered!) - https://www.reddit.com/FFIE/s/hDH5ANRYji
Okay! We made it through another wild day. You apes fought HARD, and won today’s battle! But before we dive into today’s recap, a quick PSA 🗣️
🚨 TURN OFF STOCK LENDING ON WHATEVER BROKER YOU USE 🚨
READ THIS POST FROM TO READ ABOUT WHAT STOCK LENDING IS AND WHY WE SHOULD TURN IT OFF - https://www.reddit.com/FFIE/s/XjXiPkbDTc
BELOW ARE SOME LINKS TO GUIDES ON HOW TO TURN IT OFF ON SPECIFIC BROKERS:
Robinhood / TD Ameritrade / Fidelity / Charles Schwab / Webull / Interactive Brokers / Ally Invest / Trading212 / Vanguard - https://www.reddit.com/FFIE/s/snKwVTMwmM
Public - https://www.reddit.com/Superstonk/s/VzFGwTxPFO
Today we opened pre-market hours with a price point of 1.63/share. From then on until 10:30, we saw a steady price dip, bringing us to a low of 1.29/share. Because of how steady it was declining, this can tell us one thing. The big investors were dumping shares on us (mentioned again later) and we were just eating them right back up. They eventually eased up and we saw a NICE climb to 1.62/share at 11:45AM, to which we then began steadily declining again, bringing us to a daily low of 1.25/share. We closed the market day at 1.39/share, which is still GREAT. Please remember late market declines are normal, and alone they can’t determine our current state. Evaluations need to be done at a whole.
That being said, you guys can all give yourselves a huge pat on the back 👏🏼 “But Big Ape, we’re down from yesterday! You lie!” Hold on little ape, remember we talked about volume? No? You should! Remember, “Today’s Volume is the total of buys & sells of a stock in a certain time period. For a stock like FFIE, 677.89M is a BIG number.” Now that number provided is actually from YESTERDAY. So what was today’s number? A SHOCKING 220.14M 😱 What does that mean?
It means you crazy apes held your promises. It means you held your shares like your lives depended on it, and when the dips came, you ate them right up! Because the selling was mostly one sided, and so was the buying, with almost ALL OF US holding (👏🏼👏🏼) , all these contributed to us cutting the volume by 1/3!!!
But if we all held, then why were we -22.78% when the market closed??? Well, i’ll be completely transparent with you - I’m still figuring out all the details about this BUT, here’s what we do know - Today’s low volume means there wasn’t as much fighting going on within the stock market. It was a smooth game of hedge’s selling, and us holding for the dip, and buying more. Not a lot of trading going on compared to yesterdays volume of nearly 700M (Look at how volatile yesterday was!)
You all trusted one another to hold, while simultaneously keeping your end of the promise. Talk about a team bonding exercise.. very well done!! 🦍🖤
“But Big Ape! I goofed up and bought when the share price was higher! I’m not seeing any gains!” Well, it’s still a fight and we won’t see gains for a few more market days. But I understand little ape. You need reassurance. Well luckily for you Hope is my middle name. (It’s not.)
Here’s what else we know:
(Source for this segment - https://finance.yahoo.com/quote/FFIE/key-statistics/ )
As of the last update, FFIE has 42.41M shares outstanding. What does this mean? Let me put it like this. FFIE is a pie (company). Of that Pie there are 42.41 million pieces (shares). All of those shares aren’t available for everyone to buy and sell though. This is where the float comes into play.
As of the last update FFIE has a float of 17.09M shares. Those are pieces of the pie available for everyone in the stock market to play with.
The short % of this float is at 85.71%. What does this mean? It means the big boys have shorted 85.71%. “I still dont get it!” Okay, let me try it again.
When investors borrow shares, they do it in hopes that the price of those shares will fall. If that were to happen, they’d sell those same shares at a profit. This is what they’re trying to do to us.
You might be hearing a lot of numbers being thrown around, 60%, 90%, 80%. Places like Ortex are wrong because they’re only accounting for some of the shorts not all. Shorts positions aren’t released until every 2 weeks. The number provided is the number of ALL shares.
So, 85%, is that a good thing? Well you might be hearing that we were at 95%, or 97%. I’m not sure exactly how credible that is, but let’s focus on what we have. 85% is a GREAT number, the Hedge’s dumped 250k shares on us today causing the big first dip we saw and we ate that shit right up.
Today was a perfect representation of how we can maintain our position if we collectively move as a unit. I’m working on a Q&A post so if you have any questions regarding FFIE, or how stocks work feel free to comment, but first! Please try looking for your answer through this subreddit, as we have a lot of genius apes who have spent a lot of time making educational posts for you to read! I’ll link some in this post later tonight.
I have to run for now but I will be back tonight with some edits as well as a new post regarding what tomorrow could look like, what we can expect, and how we can fight tomorrow.
2024.05.22 01:21 BedheadRockstar 19m practicing electric guitar for fun’s
Not much has gone on about my day but here’s sum stuff on me I guess.
Finsihed my first yes run college for automotive technology aka mechanic
I got a pet frog
I play Xbox
I draw and do graffiti and what not
Honestly just have a very artistic mind
I’m a fast texter and if you have something on your mind you been wanting to spit out at someone I’ll listen to you yap. Everyone so welcome don’t be shy to just dm me immediate ima. Night owl so I’ll be up a good while.
Just wanna kill time ? I’m down for whatever you got for me
If you wanna know what I look like before anything just ask
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Finsihed my first yes run college for automotive technology aka mechanic
I got a pet frog
I play Xbox
I draw and do graffiti and what not
Honestly just have a very artistic mind
I’m a fast texter and if you have something on your mind you been wanting to spit out at someone I’ll listen to you yap. Everyone so welcome don’t be shy to just dm me immediate ima. Night owl so I’ll be up a good while.
Just wanna kill time ? I’m down for whatever you got for me
If you wanna know what I look like before anything just ask
2024.05.22 01:21 Vertical_puts_only Mid level Firm or small outfit?
Hey y’all. Looking for some advice on where to go with my career and what you have experienced.
The situation: I’m 28 and just graduated with my bachelors. I interned twice at a top 20 public accounting firm and have a job offer with them for late August. I found out just in March during the second internship that remote was no longer an option, as it was in the initial job offer, and I have to live within 60 miles of an office to have the job.
The kicker here is I own a home in the southeast, and the nearest office of the larger firm is 5 hours away. I’m from the Midwest and so if I were to take this job, I would move to the Midwest by August at least for a few years to start my career. My wife has been a travel nurse for the last two years, and I’ve been traveling with her while finishing my degree. I mentioned this just to bring up that on a personal level. I’m ready to quit traveling and settle down. If we moved to the Midwest for the larger firm job, it would not be for more than four years and I would have to move again somewhere warmer.
However, I interviewed this morning, and have another interview this week with a small firm near where I live. It’s a single ownepartner firm, and there are six employees. I really enjoyed the conversation with the partneowner felt good about the position. I have interview with the senior manager and manager on Thursday. However, others I’ve spoke to mention it might be hard to move up the ladder with being at such a small place.
Would I be really hindering my career by accepting the position in a small boutique firm instead of the top firm? I care about my career, but don’t sit at night and dream about being a partner if that makes sense. I’m curious on y’alls experience with different sizes of firms and how that affected your career.
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The situation: I’m 28 and just graduated with my bachelors. I interned twice at a top 20 public accounting firm and have a job offer with them for late August. I found out just in March during the second internship that remote was no longer an option, as it was in the initial job offer, and I have to live within 60 miles of an office to have the job.
The kicker here is I own a home in the southeast, and the nearest office of the larger firm is 5 hours away. I’m from the Midwest and so if I were to take this job, I would move to the Midwest by August at least for a few years to start my career. My wife has been a travel nurse for the last two years, and I’ve been traveling with her while finishing my degree. I mentioned this just to bring up that on a personal level. I’m ready to quit traveling and settle down. If we moved to the Midwest for the larger firm job, it would not be for more than four years and I would have to move again somewhere warmer.
However, I interviewed this morning, and have another interview this week with a small firm near where I live. It’s a single ownepartner firm, and there are six employees. I really enjoyed the conversation with the partneowner felt good about the position. I have interview with the senior manager and manager on Thursday. However, others I’ve spoke to mention it might be hard to move up the ladder with being at such a small place.
Would I be really hindering my career by accepting the position in a small boutique firm instead of the top firm? I care about my career, but don’t sit at night and dream about being a partner if that makes sense. I’m curious on y’alls experience with different sizes of firms and how that affected your career.
2024.05.22 01:21 BedheadRockstar 19m practicing electric guitar for fun’s
Not much has gone on about my day but here’s sum stuff on me I guess.
Finsihed my first yes run college for automotive technology aka mechanic
I got a pet frog
I play Xbox
I draw and do graffiti and what not
Honestly just have a very artistic mind
I’m a fast texter and if you have something on your mind you been wanting to spit out at someone I’ll listen to you yap. Everyone so welcome don’t be shy to just dm me immediate ima. Night owl so I’ll be up a good while.
Just wanna kill time ? I’m down for whatever you got for me
If you wanna know what I look like before anything just ask
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Finsihed my first yes run college for automotive technology aka mechanic
I got a pet frog
I play Xbox
I draw and do graffiti and what not
Honestly just have a very artistic mind
I’m a fast texter and if you have something on your mind you been wanting to spit out at someone I’ll listen to you yap. Everyone so welcome don’t be shy to just dm me immediate ima. Night owl so I’ll be up a good while.
Just wanna kill time ? I’m down for whatever you got for me
If you wanna know what I look like before anything just ask
2024.05.22 01:19 okiveiraxos Worst luck in the past week than i’ve had in years
a week ago I woke up happy in my bed with my girlfriend of over a year by my side. My job was great, i got my own place at a young age, im doing good.
Next morning i wake up to two tornados that converged to form a super tornado right on my street. No government alert was sent till it was happening, so the city was caught off guard.
My car was totaled. I was left with no power, water, or internet. My area was inaccessible for several days due to severe damage. I bar hopped to charge my electronics, and slept on friends couches for several days eating cold canned food and whatever i could get my hands on.
I leave on a bus to a large city, where my girlfriend and her family live. I still had no power or water for a week, and asked to stay with them for a few days as I had already planned a trip to that city a while ago with friends. I’d stay two days with the gf and her family, then join my friends in the AirBnB.
Day 1, she breaks up with me. Day 2 i have nowhere to go and essentially just stay at her house and try to avoid contact.
Had a great weekend despite the heavy emotions. Managed to stop by the mall and get a new shirt to lift my spirits.
At a rooftop bar surrounded by probably 100+ people at this point. The night is going well until out of the HUNDREDS of people surrounding me, a bird manages to shit on my face, which slides down onto my new shirt, and finds its last home in the inside of my beer.
My girlfriend leaves me, my car gets totaled, i lose access to my home for an entire week, still have no power internet or water over a week later, and the cherry on top was having a bird shit on ME in a massive crowd of people.
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Next morning i wake up to two tornados that converged to form a super tornado right on my street. No government alert was sent till it was happening, so the city was caught off guard.
My car was totaled. I was left with no power, water, or internet. My area was inaccessible for several days due to severe damage. I bar hopped to charge my electronics, and slept on friends couches for several days eating cold canned food and whatever i could get my hands on.
I leave on a bus to a large city, where my girlfriend and her family live. I still had no power or water for a week, and asked to stay with them for a few days as I had already planned a trip to that city a while ago with friends. I’d stay two days with the gf and her family, then join my friends in the AirBnB.
Day 1, she breaks up with me. Day 2 i have nowhere to go and essentially just stay at her house and try to avoid contact.
Had a great weekend despite the heavy emotions. Managed to stop by the mall and get a new shirt to lift my spirits.
At a rooftop bar surrounded by probably 100+ people at this point. The night is going well until out of the HUNDREDS of people surrounding me, a bird manages to shit on my face, which slides down onto my new shirt, and finds its last home in the inside of my beer.
My girlfriend leaves me, my car gets totaled, i lose access to my home for an entire week, still have no power internet or water over a week later, and the cherry on top was having a bird shit on ME in a massive crowd of people.
2024.05.22 01:18 furyian24 Lying Neighbors
You know... had to find a place and there is a subreddit for everything. Glad I found this place. I'm just going to write because I want to beat the living shit out of this man every time I see him and I need to calm my ass down. My left leg is itching to land a roundhouse on this man.
A few months ago, I was talking about cars with a neighbor who lived across the street from me. We usually have talks about his car, my car, and my bike, and we talk about old-school cars. Just one dude having a fun conversation with another.
I had left my garage open, and my dogs. I have 2 of them. One I rescued from a family who couldn't keep it. The other landed on my lap and I've been taking care of it and is now considered my own.
Well, these 2 got out, and started roaming around about 70 ft from my property. Started sniffing around and found the scent of another dog and was curious. I didn't notice this at first of course.
They end up in this man's front yard. Who knows maybe they marked their territory a little drizzle here and there on their grass. Anyway, this man comes out and starts yelling "Get your dog off my yard". I didn't hear him at first or could make out what he was saying, and I realized my dogs had gotten out. I call my dogs, and they are well-trained, they both respond quickly and come running back.
I was a bit offended damn man. They meant no harm. Don't have to yell and shit you know. They are smelling another dog. They are interested in finding out more about this other animal that took a shit and piss in your yard. That's what dogs do. Anyway, I yelled back sorry! I meant it, I was sincere about it. I even started walking over there to show concern of course. He does not respond to me other than saying loudly, "Leash your dog". At that point, I'm over it, my buddy and I crack some jokes about the dude to laugh it off.
Like wtf got up this guy ass at 9 pm? Do you stare out the window all night looking for dogs that may end up in your front yard? We have a good laugh and we talk some more car, my dogs are cool with my buddy. Animals know instinctively who is friendly and who isn't. Oddly that's what I've noticed.
The next morning, after I have taken my kids to school. This jackass walks up to me in his version of workout clothes. I have never seen him ever since I've been taking my kids to school every morning but today was a special day. He has his airpods on, sneakers, and running shorts. Then he comes up to me and talks some mad shit. He's obviously spent the entire night thinking about how he's going to put me in my place or some shit. I just tell the guy to walk away. He says to me "What are you going to do about it?" Say what? What is this? Do what, I asked you to get out of my face right?
Jesus man... this dude, is pushing like the mid-50s to early 60's. I'm younger obviously, I'm thinking you trying to go toe to toe? I tell him to walk away. He tells me his wife is Korean and I'm Korean so he's trying to make some level of connection here, implying he knows something about my culture and he is disappointed as he should know there is some level of cultural impact I should have being a Korean and the way I have responded to him is not to his liking. Thus, I must show some level of respect or bend a knee or some weird shit, as if he understood Koreans to be something different than I am. Entitled as fuck this guy. He wants to feel superior and wants to be bowed down to. A total sense of entitlement right? Superiority complex of some kind. Fuck he annoys the fuck out of me. I keep calm and tell him to get the fuck out of my face but nicer. "Just leave man, no need for you to be in front of me, just gotta go move along," is what I told him.
No offense but I'm looking at this white dude here, and look I can say it because my uncle is white, married my aunt and we had a great relationship. No disrespect but who the fuck is this dude to start bringing up Korean this Korean that, we're in the US man. He acts disrespectful to me and gives me the middle finger as he walks away after me telling the guy on at least four other occasions to get going and stay out and away from my personal space. I'm like whatever, I'm over it. He means nothing really. He means less to me than let's say, a piece of rubber or something. I could care less.
Then he went ahead and told the HOA that my dogs had taken multiple shits in his yard, and I have never bothered to pick up after them. I make sure to pick up shit especially if it's on someone else's yard right. Of course, I respond back to HOA, and tell them, they got bigger things to worry about and they really have bigger shit to worry about than some bs complaint.
I'm sure that got that little ball sack of low-life fucking pissed right. I mean I got 2 tiny dogs. Each weighs less than 10lbs. One is around 6 lbs other is around 7.5 lbs. They are not fucking pit bulls here. Apparently, he also said my dogs were vicious.
That never went far. Anyway, yesterday, my kids got home from school, they wanted to visit a neighborhood friend and left the garage open. A lady was walking by. She was Asian, I can tell. How? I have cameras. I was also upstairs and looked out my window which is directly above the garage because I didn't hear the garage door close.
Well these 2 little shits went barking at her. She didn't flinch just kept on walking. I tell the kids close the garage. Today the big man over there and another lady who lives across the street from him, (I suppose birds of a feather flock together) rang my doorbell after I dropped my son off at school. I come downstairs, and this asshole pounds my door to show his impatience. I'm thinking cops? I open the door it's this asshole and his neighborhood lady friend.
I ask them what's the visit for, she tells me that when she was walking yesterday, my dogs "attacked" her and the dickhead standing next to her adds more dramatic impact and says, they even bit her. I'm fucking laughing inside. I saw the whole thing myself from upstairs. The lady my dogs barked at was Asian, her hair was black, I can still see her face from my upstairs bedroom window. I saw my dogs run up and bark at her and sniff her shoes and bark some more before my kids called them in. This lady was covered in long white sleeve and long white walking pants, white sneakers, a hat to cover the sun, and a face mask because she's Asian of course and we all hate the sun. Her walking stature was that of a woman in her mid 40 to 50's, and this lady in front of me that was supposedly attacked was again not Asian, and the lady claiming that she got attacked is about 30 years older, not even capable of walking no more than 200 feet from her property. She does not wear walking attire obviously made in China or Korea. I know because I'm Korean and older women wear exactly that type of clothing in Korea or Asia when they walk in daylight. They like to avoid the sun, but get their walks in. Jesus.... the fucking lies in this shit is humor at this point.
The lady in front of me is too old, let alone is capable to walk past my property or take daily walks. I work at home remotely man, I would have noticed if this lady was to type to take walks at 3 pm. I pick my kids up and I'm active outside during that time.
This lying POS goes a bit further and says, he thinks my dogs even broke skin. I look at her finger. I see nothing. No bite marks nothing, not even a scratch. No blood. Just straight-up lies. I apologize to the lady regardless. I tell her I'll cover her medical expenses (which means medical report, and doctor bill) she stutters a little, says no need. If she broke skin, and my dogs bit her, she would be at my house the minute it happened. Fucking lying ass dumb idiots. This man now dragged this lady into his lies you know.
Then I look at this mother fucker in the eye and my fucking legs are twitching, and in my mind, I want to land a roundhouse, I gauged the distance, and it would land on the right side of his face. Shit would have been a 10/10 perfect kick I'm thinking.... yea dipshit, something else you should know about Koreans, most of us take some sort of martial arts early in our youth and that never really stops. Seeing how you say you know so much about my culture, did that not enter your fucking head?
Anyway, I look at this sorry excuse for a man, a fucking coward and I ask him why he's here? If the lady is the one who got bit, then perhaps this is between me and her, right? He says he's there with her because he cares. Like hell, you do. You dragged this lady in your lies and she's going along with you but it's not the truth. You sorry ass POS, now dragged another individual into your BS. You still can't get over our last encounter and you are dying to come over and start some new shit. I asked you to walk away, but you didn't like it. You felt disrespected. In your spare time, you've been scheming ways to get back because you were never satisfied.
Anyway, he brings my dogs up again and says he'll call the police. I tell him to do what he's gotta do. That pissed him off because I called his bluff and he can't pull through and execute. I'm fucking with his ability to do anything about it. He now feels small again.
He said I should leave the neighborhood. I bought this fucking house, so I tell him you have money? You wanna buy me out? He has none, he says, "I don't want another house" Okay well then shut the fuck up right. I tell him at this point he should leave. The audacity of this little shitbag to tell me to move out of my own house is something else. Once again this sense of entitlement, where do you get it from?
Anyway, he's giving me the middle finger this whole time like a bitch hiding behind his safety blanket or something right. He's doing all kinds of weird shit right now. Like throws both fingers up, turns around does a 180, and gives me another two fingers. He's doing this like 10 times. What the fuck is wrong with this guy right? In front of the old lady which he seemed to have convinced to carry out the lies with him. I can tell at this point, she's about had it. She no longer wants to be involved. Again, if a person got bit by a "vicious dog" and was bleeding, she would not have acted this way right? She got called out on her hand, she tried to play along with his lead, how my dogs broke the skin, getting bit by them... all that, but she's got no bite marks, and my dogs don't bite. I know this. At the end she tells me she doesn't want my dogs on her yard, but she's okay with other dogs on her yard. So it's a personal thing, okay no worries I tell her.
Then he brings up the culture thing again. "You know my wife is Korean.... she's disgusted with you...blah blah" I respond, "I am Korean and my entire family is Korean and they would be disgusted with you," and then I tell him, "You don't understand us Koreans, we have mutual respect and honor, you have none, and that's why you're not getting any"
Guy walks away looking as small as he is, caught in his lies. When I knew all along what happened, his face turns fucking tomato red. Just what the fuck? How sick is this guy in the head? Anyway, I don't expect anything, just thought I'd write, for the internet and the entire world.
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A few months ago, I was talking about cars with a neighbor who lived across the street from me. We usually have talks about his car, my car, and my bike, and we talk about old-school cars. Just one dude having a fun conversation with another.
I had left my garage open, and my dogs. I have 2 of them. One I rescued from a family who couldn't keep it. The other landed on my lap and I've been taking care of it and is now considered my own.
Well, these 2 got out, and started roaming around about 70 ft from my property. Started sniffing around and found the scent of another dog and was curious. I didn't notice this at first of course.
They end up in this man's front yard. Who knows maybe they marked their territory a little drizzle here and there on their grass. Anyway, this man comes out and starts yelling "Get your dog off my yard". I didn't hear him at first or could make out what he was saying, and I realized my dogs had gotten out. I call my dogs, and they are well-trained, they both respond quickly and come running back.
I was a bit offended damn man. They meant no harm. Don't have to yell and shit you know. They are smelling another dog. They are interested in finding out more about this other animal that took a shit and piss in your yard. That's what dogs do. Anyway, I yelled back sorry! I meant it, I was sincere about it. I even started walking over there to show concern of course. He does not respond to me other than saying loudly, "Leash your dog". At that point, I'm over it, my buddy and I crack some jokes about the dude to laugh it off.
Like wtf got up this guy ass at 9 pm? Do you stare out the window all night looking for dogs that may end up in your front yard? We have a good laugh and we talk some more car, my dogs are cool with my buddy. Animals know instinctively who is friendly and who isn't. Oddly that's what I've noticed.
The next morning, after I have taken my kids to school. This jackass walks up to me in his version of workout clothes. I have never seen him ever since I've been taking my kids to school every morning but today was a special day. He has his airpods on, sneakers, and running shorts. Then he comes up to me and talks some mad shit. He's obviously spent the entire night thinking about how he's going to put me in my place or some shit. I just tell the guy to walk away. He says to me "What are you going to do about it?" Say what? What is this? Do what, I asked you to get out of my face right?
Jesus man... this dude, is pushing like the mid-50s to early 60's. I'm younger obviously, I'm thinking you trying to go toe to toe? I tell him to walk away. He tells me his wife is Korean and I'm Korean so he's trying to make some level of connection here, implying he knows something about my culture and he is disappointed as he should know there is some level of cultural impact I should have being a Korean and the way I have responded to him is not to his liking. Thus, I must show some level of respect or bend a knee or some weird shit, as if he understood Koreans to be something different than I am. Entitled as fuck this guy. He wants to feel superior and wants to be bowed down to. A total sense of entitlement right? Superiority complex of some kind. Fuck he annoys the fuck out of me. I keep calm and tell him to get the fuck out of my face but nicer. "Just leave man, no need for you to be in front of me, just gotta go move along," is what I told him.
No offense but I'm looking at this white dude here, and look I can say it because my uncle is white, married my aunt and we had a great relationship. No disrespect but who the fuck is this dude to start bringing up Korean this Korean that, we're in the US man. He acts disrespectful to me and gives me the middle finger as he walks away after me telling the guy on at least four other occasions to get going and stay out and away from my personal space. I'm like whatever, I'm over it. He means nothing really. He means less to me than let's say, a piece of rubber or something. I could care less.
Then he went ahead and told the HOA that my dogs had taken multiple shits in his yard, and I have never bothered to pick up after them. I make sure to pick up shit especially if it's on someone else's yard right. Of course, I respond back to HOA, and tell them, they got bigger things to worry about and they really have bigger shit to worry about than some bs complaint.
I'm sure that got that little ball sack of low-life fucking pissed right. I mean I got 2 tiny dogs. Each weighs less than 10lbs. One is around 6 lbs other is around 7.5 lbs. They are not fucking pit bulls here. Apparently, he also said my dogs were vicious.
That never went far. Anyway, yesterday, my kids got home from school, they wanted to visit a neighborhood friend and left the garage open. A lady was walking by. She was Asian, I can tell. How? I have cameras. I was also upstairs and looked out my window which is directly above the garage because I didn't hear the garage door close.
Well these 2 little shits went barking at her. She didn't flinch just kept on walking. I tell the kids close the garage. Today the big man over there and another lady who lives across the street from him, (I suppose birds of a feather flock together) rang my doorbell after I dropped my son off at school. I come downstairs, and this asshole pounds my door to show his impatience. I'm thinking cops? I open the door it's this asshole and his neighborhood lady friend.
I ask them what's the visit for, she tells me that when she was walking yesterday, my dogs "attacked" her and the dickhead standing next to her adds more dramatic impact and says, they even bit her. I'm fucking laughing inside. I saw the whole thing myself from upstairs. The lady my dogs barked at was Asian, her hair was black, I can still see her face from my upstairs bedroom window. I saw my dogs run up and bark at her and sniff her shoes and bark some more before my kids called them in. This lady was covered in long white sleeve and long white walking pants, white sneakers, a hat to cover the sun, and a face mask because she's Asian of course and we all hate the sun. Her walking stature was that of a woman in her mid 40 to 50's, and this lady in front of me that was supposedly attacked was again not Asian, and the lady claiming that she got attacked is about 30 years older, not even capable of walking no more than 200 feet from her property. She does not wear walking attire obviously made in China or Korea. I know because I'm Korean and older women wear exactly that type of clothing in Korea or Asia when they walk in daylight. They like to avoid the sun, but get their walks in. Jesus.... the fucking lies in this shit is humor at this point.
The lady in front of me is too old, let alone is capable to walk past my property or take daily walks. I work at home remotely man, I would have noticed if this lady was to type to take walks at 3 pm. I pick my kids up and I'm active outside during that time.
This lying POS goes a bit further and says, he thinks my dogs even broke skin. I look at her finger. I see nothing. No bite marks nothing, not even a scratch. No blood. Just straight-up lies. I apologize to the lady regardless. I tell her I'll cover her medical expenses (which means medical report, and doctor bill) she stutters a little, says no need. If she broke skin, and my dogs bit her, she would be at my house the minute it happened. Fucking lying ass dumb idiots. This man now dragged this lady into his lies you know.
Then I look at this mother fucker in the eye and my fucking legs are twitching, and in my mind, I want to land a roundhouse, I gauged the distance, and it would land on the right side of his face. Shit would have been a 10/10 perfect kick I'm thinking.... yea dipshit, something else you should know about Koreans, most of us take some sort of martial arts early in our youth and that never really stops. Seeing how you say you know so much about my culture, did that not enter your fucking head?
Anyway, I look at this sorry excuse for a man, a fucking coward and I ask him why he's here? If the lady is the one who got bit, then perhaps this is between me and her, right? He says he's there with her because he cares. Like hell, you do. You dragged this lady in your lies and she's going along with you but it's not the truth. You sorry ass POS, now dragged another individual into your BS. You still can't get over our last encounter and you are dying to come over and start some new shit. I asked you to walk away, but you didn't like it. You felt disrespected. In your spare time, you've been scheming ways to get back because you were never satisfied.
Anyway, he brings my dogs up again and says he'll call the police. I tell him to do what he's gotta do. That pissed him off because I called his bluff and he can't pull through and execute. I'm fucking with his ability to do anything about it. He now feels small again.
He said I should leave the neighborhood. I bought this fucking house, so I tell him you have money? You wanna buy me out? He has none, he says, "I don't want another house" Okay well then shut the fuck up right. I tell him at this point he should leave. The audacity of this little shitbag to tell me to move out of my own house is something else. Once again this sense of entitlement, where do you get it from?
Anyway, he's giving me the middle finger this whole time like a bitch hiding behind his safety blanket or something right. He's doing all kinds of weird shit right now. Like throws both fingers up, turns around does a 180, and gives me another two fingers. He's doing this like 10 times. What the fuck is wrong with this guy right? In front of the old lady which he seemed to have convinced to carry out the lies with him. I can tell at this point, she's about had it. She no longer wants to be involved. Again, if a person got bit by a "vicious dog" and was bleeding, she would not have acted this way right? She got called out on her hand, she tried to play along with his lead, how my dogs broke the skin, getting bit by them... all that, but she's got no bite marks, and my dogs don't bite. I know this. At the end she tells me she doesn't want my dogs on her yard, but she's okay with other dogs on her yard. So it's a personal thing, okay no worries I tell her.
Then he brings up the culture thing again. "You know my wife is Korean.... she's disgusted with you...blah blah" I respond, "I am Korean and my entire family is Korean and they would be disgusted with you," and then I tell him, "You don't understand us Koreans, we have mutual respect and honor, you have none, and that's why you're not getting any"
Guy walks away looking as small as he is, caught in his lies. When I knew all along what happened, his face turns fucking tomato red. Just what the fuck? How sick is this guy in the head? Anyway, I don't expect anything, just thought I'd write, for the internet and the entire world.
2024.05.22 01:17 poppypess Vote Claremont, Emmys Edition
 | This is late, but my friend and I went to the for-your-consideration event for RWRB. It was a trip. submitted by poppypess to redwhiteandroyalblue [link] [comments] But it was a work function first. Members of the TV Academy—and their plus-ones, if they received one—gathered in a studio in the sweaty belly button of Hollywood. If you were a normal Angeleno like u/sixfivesteve (the friend), you sat in your car blasting the AC while the valet line bumped forward one car length at a time. If you were from a walking city, you pushed past the slow-moving tourists, hoped the flies circling a mysterious stench didn’t lay eggs on you, and checked in with an attendant who wore a concerning amount of black for someone whose job was to stand in direct sun. There was a (life-changing) screening of the movie, a panel, and a reception. There was also retail politics. Here’s what happened. Whoever put together the playlist knew what they were doingThe vibe before the screening was jolly. There was a whole bathroom conversation about 1) therapeutic cannabis, because you’ve gotta, and 2) people everyone has run into.Ushers handed out mini-servings of popcorn that felt stingy as hell but were probably just nutritionist-recommended serving sizes. Steve grabbed candy and water that came in slightly less environmentally disastrous packaging than the stuff you’d get from most grocery stores. Whoever put together the playlist had done their homework, by which I mean they’ve spent time on the non-broey part of the internet. This is where I tell you that the event featured strip club music, by which I mean they played “Pony” by Ginuwine. Before and after the screening. It was as if whoever set up the playlist knew that some attendees’ brains—and bits—might explode, reconstitute themselves, and implode again under stimulus (the movie), work event be damned. The screening was a case for seeing movies in theaters for the sound. Because…You could hear the beginning of the blow job.You could hear the beginning of the blow job. You could hear the beginning of the blow job. In the space of about a second, I went from living in a world in which that scene had a lil’ zipper sound to one where the zip was followed by a flat, wet drag. The sound had texture. It almost had temperature. Y’all, I am forever changed. Always see movies in the theater. Nolan, Tarantino, et al have talked about this. They’re right. Listen to this man before he teaches you a lesson. Something else I’d seen but never before heard while watching the movie in home setups: Bea says “no!” when Henry declines Alex’s call in the meeting with Philip, Tommy, and other palace staff. She doesn’t just mouth it. Her interjection interrupts Philip mid-sentence, who glares at her and says, “As I was saying…” It’s also just fun to hear the audience’s reactions. Some of the laugh lines:
Speaking of sexual, the crowd held its breath during the sex scenes. Emmy voters have watched plenty of sex scenes with their colleagues, but after the bravely-repressing-a-wobble acknowledgement of I owe you an explanation, after ~very bad things~ in Alex's room, after the phrase “make love”—which deserves to be not just roasted but incinerated—the Paris sex scene was…relief? Revel? Revelation? Look at me trying to talk around the effect the scene (may have) had on the room. People were off-gassing oxytocin. Estradiol. Testosterone. Since it was a work event, the weight and texture of the hush was what you’d get if everyone on a group camping trip was trying to discreetly watch porn. (To paraphrase the dad from Easy A, high-end porn—for governors and athletes, but porn nonetheless.) But I project. Uma Thurman did an Ariana Huffington laugh during the panelI laughed and laughed and laughed.What should I say about the panel? That everyone’s features were somehow both full and sharp enough to thin-slice the cured meat of your choice? That Taylor Zakhar-Perez made a small breeze every time he blinked? That Nicholas Galitzine was a diffident dumpling? That Uma Thurman was an intellect? That Rachel Hilson was lithe and and fresh-faced and ready for any cosmetics campaign you threw at her—which, incidentally, has always described Uma Thurman? That Matthew López was extremely cute? That Greg Berlanti was the dad/uncle some of your friends wanted as a mentor and others had wholesome crushes on? That Sarah Schechter was the friend’s cool older sister made good? That if you put the RWRB cast into an early Almodóvar movie, the result would be credible? Whatever I can say about the panel, you can get more straightforward coverage and footage of it elsewhere, including this subreddit. (Check out the post from the woman who got so horny from watching the movie that she started going after her husband nonstop.) I did a search on Tumblr for “RWRB FYC panel” for you. You’ll get Galitzine saying “the throes of love.” You’ll get TZP talking about matcha. You’ll get Casey McQuiston—that perfectly cast nonbinary creator-god of the RWRB universe—describing their brush with psychological collapse when TZP tried to have a conversation with them while in costume as Alex Claremont-Diaz. Enjoy. The campaign trail is paved with selfiesCampaigning for nominations—and eventually, awards—is not so different from running for public office. The panel ended and everyone was set loose on the panelists and the “immersive for-your-consideration experience.” (Sure.)Getting to the cater waiters to pinch mini-tacos, meh crabcakes, fish and chips with tartar sauce instead of vinegar (why?), and tiny cake cubes was like wading upstream. The crowd was moving in the opposite direction. Why? …oh. Galitzine was taking photos with people. Elsewhere in the immersive whositwhatsit, TZP was doing the same thing with a swarm of his own. https://preview.redd.it/rkp916mxzu1d1.jpg?width=1818&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=e01a4cf99ae5163c766e8bc284f219526b450e3a https://preview.redd.it/hzco2eev4v1d1.png?width=750&format=png&auto=webp&s=922d4d097f214d4bb9a5747de05b76cfe579d23b I’d thought they were on display during the panel, but no. This was what they were there for. They were there to shake hands, talk shop briefly—with occasional promises to follow up later—and take selfies. The reward for all this would (theoretically) be nominations and votes. This was a campaign stop. On-theme for RWRB. Cue montage of Alex Claremont-Diaz making fundraising calls. Can you get a charley horse in your face? I bet the actors had them, but that’s campaign life. Forward Together and all that. Matthew López and the producers wandered the floor. At one point, I heard Casey McQuiston tell a small group about how they didn’t have any particular in with agents or publishers. It often is about flinging yourself out there, whatever you want to do. A vote for RWRB is a vote for softness (stop reading here to avoid egghead content)While we’re speaking in campaign terms, who and what is RWRB for? It’s for people who love love. It’s for people who love fun—who are fun, dammit. It’s for people with uomosexual tendencies (uomo = Italian for “man”). It’s for the occasional lucky straight guy. Most of all, it’s a refuge from straight-guy culture.Here’s what I mean. The two RWRB panels and the Roast of Tom Brady happened in the same week-long time frame. If you’re reading this, you’re almost definitely in the tank with RWRB. The Roast is straight-guy culture cranked up to eleventy billion by comparison. If we go by the Roast, straight-guy culture looks like big men the color of medium-rare steak yelling dick jokes from the dais—but using the less funny and more aggressive and self-regarding “cock” instead. It looks like Gronk pretending he can’t read and using Kim Kardashian’s genitalia to make a beef pun. It looks like Nikki Glaser, the token straight-woman comedian, being a good sport while the men in attendance called her ugly. Don’t get me wrong. I watched and laughed. A good dick joke takes skill, and some of them were damn good. I even thought Julian Edelman was hot for 20 minutes. But the tonal difference between the Roast and the RWRB event—to say nothing of RWRB itself—was jarring. Straight-guy masculine culture is so committed to not being soft. Don’t go soft is basically its motto. Meanwhile, RWRB is about—among other things—softness. Henry Car-Crash-of-Last-Names gives the object of his attraction the up-and-down, but in a way that’s more endearing than objectifying. He doesn’t do the hard stare. He’s all-in on Byron, Austen, Zadie Smith, and…Streisand. Unlike Gronk, Henry can read, and he reads with relish. So does Alex, of course. The American is sweet and proactive. When he develops feelings for a friend with (many) benefits, he’s matter-of-fact about it and doesn’t get defensive or evade his emotions. In other words, Alex and Henry’s masculinity is soft. Soft masculinity acknowledges the dimensions of a person beyond how well they can slam into other men (sporty or sexual) or women (sexual). For a lot of people, soft masculinity is a fantasy and a gift. It can be a gift to anyone. Look at Steve. He finds that version of masculinity intoxicating, even as someone who’s already a winner of the masculinity lottery, at least as defined by large parts of straight-guy culture. He’s white and tall and strong and has hoes (houses), not in every area code—sorry, rappers who talk about that kind of thing—but some good ones. He loves RWRB. Everything about it. (Lest you thirsty beasts start having big thoughts about him, he’s married.) Steve even inserted himself into the height contest/debate Galitzine and TZP sometimes have for lulz. He had a “you’re wearing lifts” conversation of his own. Not with TZP. With Galitzine, who joked about wearing lifts himself. It was still not enough to top Steve. (How funny would it be if this is when I reveal that Steve is Conan O’Brien? To be clear, he’s not. Besides, Conan O’Brien is sixfourconan.) — — — — The next night, while Steve and I were still catatonic from staying up until alarming hours, another panel took place in front of a crowd of people who didn’t need to consider anything about RWRB. They were already real-ass, excited fans who saw Alex and Henry—and for some of them, Galitzine and TZP—as secular saints of cheerful-romantic-triumphant horniness. Avatars of the kinds of guys you could have a crush on in middle- and high school without raising alarms (unless you were a boy being raised by homophobes, in which case I’m sorry). The audience on that second night got the news of a sequel from Matthew López, who spoke directly to them from the stage. They cheered and whooped and began their vigil for round two. Sí, se puede. |
2024.05.22 01:16 SnackPatrol After ~3 months of adding/testing literally every community server that seemed even remotely decent (<150 ping), & ~1 week curating & formatting this post, I believe I have a solid list, w/ descriptions, of the best ones (they're active don't worry). Will update as needed (NA mainly- May 2024)
Last updated 5/21/24 (Any updated servers at bottom)
Anyone stumbling upon this: About 3 months ago I literally went through every single community server, empty/full/whatever, and added any that sounded interesting, and didn't have crazy ping to Favorites (My region is Northeast US (NJ), FYI). I repeated the process twice. There are still a bunch of good ones out there (I've also had many solid ones in my favs for quite some time) I don't know if anyone cares but been around since Beta & have run a server before.
For reference:
tiny kitty's girl pound - friendly community, runs really solid, nice-looking custom maps, Meme Maps Wednesday is a blast, always has people in it, just be wary of nsfw furry sprays (yeah I know...put cl_spraydisable 1 in console to disable)
1st server: 74.91.115.12:27015 2nd server: 74.91.113.115:27015
OPRAH's PETROL STATION - Friendly community, always has people in it, no goofy Instant Respawn which has no place in payload yet half of all community server owners see fit to do that, pre-round scramble
108.181.63.51:27015
-EOTL- Payload - same deal
74.91.114.223:27015
redsun.tf - This community is the poster child for tastefully modded custom game modes, and is very active. It's very well maintained & polished and even though I may not enjoy every game mode I've been very impressed by this server network (esp. as a former highly-modded community server owner). The EU one fills up most of the time, and I deal with the ping because it's a cool community (it even runs a Battle Royale mode that is surprisingly well-made). Their server "shop" is extremely impressive with the amount of customization available (Taunts, player skins, custom voicelines). I'd recommend downloading their asset pack here as it's fairly sizeable to DL upon server connect:
EU (actually gets players): 141.95.28.56:27015 US: 66.206.13.139:27015
Trigger Happy Gamers (EU) - Trigger Happy Gamers have been around forever and even though they are in the UK I deal with the ping to play with them because they are an awesome, fun, friendly community. Their main server gets reliably full from around 1 PM - 3 PM EST every day, and on the weekends a little longer. Their Nocrits server also gets full Saturday
main: 87.98.254.85:27015 Nocrits (gets full Saturdays @ 1 PM - 2 PM): 87.98.254.85:27025
Fucked in the Head - Another community that has been around forever. To be honest, they have equal respawn on Red & Blu, even for Payload, which I hate with a searing passion, HOWEVER, the regulars are entertaining af and give off vibes of drunk buddies goofing off and not giving a fuck that it almost offsets it. It's also decently populated.
216.52.148.223:27015
Skial Payload & Casual servers * - I never got the hate for this server network, decent spawn times, Halloween mode year round, no power tripping admins, feels like a bunch of randoms having a good time. You can also equip any weapon or cosmetic. The Payload+ EU in particular has some really chill/cool regulars, Dustbowl+ US some interesting/funny peeps. Payload US generally decent also. Their Autoscramble is also on point.
Payload+ EU 91.216.250.226:27015 Payload+ US 91.216.250.11:27015 Dustbowl+ US * (has become very stack-prone lately) 91.216.250.12:27015 ~~~~~
~Trying to get the word out that unlike their other servers, Casual is very barebones- no Instant Respawn, no RTD, normal map pool:
Casual NY 91.216.250.34:27015 Casual US 91.216.250.40:27015 Casual LA 91.216.250.21:27015 ~~~~~ Harvest (32-pl), also: 91.216.250.18:27015 ~~~~~
If you are super super new, their server network might be worth checking out, even if RTD, 2fort & other weird mods aren't my cup of tea: https://www.skial.com/servers/
Uncletopia - Pretty standard Casual experience except the skill level is generally higher, though it seems to be evening out honestly. And tbh from my experience people in these servers seem pretty cool. If you're looking for Vanilla I'd say this is your best bet.
https://uncletopia.com/servers
Southern Cross Gaming (Rainbow Swirl in particular) - Stumbled across this & played 1 round with these guys running a cool custom mode but apparently they run stock maps as well as custom maps/game modes. Their rules had a huge emphasis on keeping it fun & being respectful and everyone seemed really cool & laidback. It was full at peak time on the weekend. They also have other servers, even in other games & seem to have been around awhile:
IP: furfortress.com:27016 Site: https://www.scg.wtf/servers#team_fortress_2
ciggyland 18+ LGBT+ Furry server run by puppygirls
Funny, chill vibes, lots of custom maps. Seems to get full around peak time. Another diamond in the rough I discovered recently.
74.91.115.82:27015
Bad Weapon Rehabilitation (Vanilla US)
A really solid rebalancing of all weapons in-game. Nothing really feels overpowered or underpowered anymore, also fun things like flames stay on surfaces & I think spy or engy can radar enemies within a few feet or something to his team? It's really fun and gets full. Here's the site with IPs and stuff (The US server gets full around peak time, esp. on weekends)
(Yes this is the website): http://74.91.126.159/
redstar.gg - Arena server, the owner ComradeYazoo seems pretty dedicated to starting it up and I hop in whenever I can. Believe it or not it's still very fun with little people but it's gotten pretty packed a couple times. It also has like every good custom arena map, and scrambles if a team wins 3 in a row. North America I believe.
204.12.240.186:27015
Step in the Arena - Another Arena server I see get randomly populated on Saturday into Sundays around 11 P.M. - 2 A.M. EST. Probably missing a Discord announcement or something from a group of buddies.
172.240.237.2:27015
The Furry Pound - Some people list this one as one of the best non-UT for Vanilla TF2, however the one time I decided to give it a try I was met with some weird overly dramatic BS happening in Voice chat, and I heard someone else give a similar criticism the other day here. BUT, I've also seen people say they're ok. Might depend on what players/admins are on maybe, IDK:
Main server: thefurrypound.org:27015
shounic trenches (100-player TF2) - This goes against everything in my being but it's so unique and while not my cup of tea it's definitely a bunch of others'. Some maps such as pl_dbz_b5 & pl_dustbowl were created for this player count & people seem to have a lot of fun there. Again, I think 100 players is too much but I can't argue with how popular it is.
45.62.160.71:27015
UGC High Tower servers - They run no carts, so it's the TDM High Tower everyone's always dreamed of. They also run Instant Respawn and on any other map I hate that setting with a searing passion but because it's reworked as TDM I feel it actually improves the gameplay (put "high tower" including the space, and without quotes in the search box for a list of 'em in the following link):
https://www.ugc-gaming.net/servers/tf2/
UGC also runs other servers which I cannot vouch for but might be worth looking into.
Tropic Crisis Official Servers (NA, SA, EU)
These are the official servers for the Tropic Crisis project which is very very cool. I looked up their stats and most get full around standard peak hours.
Atlanta 155.138.213.202:27015 São Paulo 216.238.106.29:27015 Minsk 86.57.152.101:27025 Buenos Ares 45.235.99.105:27038
UEAKCrash's House of Nerds - official server of the mapmaker responsible for several very fun official maps. Runs a lot of very cool custom maps, Gets full on Fri, Sat night (must have a Discord/Twitch announcement I'd assume).
74.91.124.162:27015
Wolves Den - I'm going to make an exception to the "no "friendly"/non-combat server" thing (even though people seem down for combat ~50% of the time) because everyone just always seems to be having fun here. If you want to just screw around on interesting trade-type maps this is the place. Plus they have hilarious custom player models like velociraptors. (Has RTD)
162.248.92.33:27015
Samwiz1's Stupid Server - Another server I feel obligated to mention despite feeling like it's too much personally. Very goofy and people seem to have fun there.
173.237.52.135:27015
Swoocehut 2024 Workshop - Seems to be tied to a Discord as far as getting full, but runs a lot of custom maps apparently:
149.28.248.101:27015 Discord: https://swoocehut.com/discord Map rotation: https://steamcommunity.com/sharedfiles/filedetails/?id=2802508136
swagtown epic maps only no random crits 18+ - Suggested by someone on Steam Discussions. Looks alright- seems tied to a Discord as far as getting players, but got full last Tuesday @ standard peak hours. Looks like it runs stock & custom maps.
79.127.234.193:22136 Discord: [https://discord.gg/DTH3sMWsH8](discord.gg/DTH3sMWsH8)
TF2's Official VS Saxton Hale LOOS - 'Nuff said. Very laidback goofy atmosphere.
205.178.177.24:27027
GFL Clan (maybe???) - Someone said these guys are chill too, though I hate 2fort with a passion:
https://gflclan.com/forum/26-team-fortress-2/
Kogasatopia if you're desperate. They run some really fun mods, and solid (especially good gimmicky) custom maps, but their community is 4chan edgelords that like to say racial slurs. However their server is almost always full of people. Again, if you're truly desperate. Just mute chat & voice I guess by entering this in console (replace with 1's to re-enable)- hud_saytext_time 0;voice_enable 0
74.91.116.171:27015
The Weeabootique if you're desperate. Pretty much the same description as above. Mute chat & voice by entering this in console (replace with 1's to re-enable)- hud_saytext_time 0;voice_enable 0
198.245.61.57:27015
Custom Weapons servers (including a guide to the best one via TF2Classic)
More Arena Servers
pic of a dog
submitted by SnackPatrol to tf2 [link] [comments]
Anyone stumbling upon this: About 3 months ago I literally went through every single community server, empty/full/whatever, and added any that sounded interesting, and didn't have crazy ping to Favorites (My region is Northeast US (NJ), FYI). I repeated the process twice. There are still a bunch of good ones out there (I've also had many solid ones in my favs for quite some time) I don't know if anyone cares but been around since Beta & have run a server before.
For reference:
- Good servers (to me): Emphasis on not being a dickhead, actually gets players, if running custom content it has to be tastefully done, not bloated & tacky, ping <100, anti-teamstacking measures
- "Bad" servers/what will not be here ( again this is just my opinion, also a couple exceptions ): Instant Respawn, 1 map or game mode only, more than 32 players, RTD, "friendly"/no combat servers, unmoderated racist/toxic BS
- Servers/settings I'm indifferent towards: Crits/Nocrits, Vanilla vs. Custom, Average skill level, 24 vs. 32 player, NSFW sprays, centered around niche/"weird" fandoms, Bullet/Damagespread, Class limits
Scroll down a few lines to my "To keep it simple..." header for the best ones. The following link is a much fuller list:
- Green line ones are my seal of approval
- Pink line ones I either haven't checked out as much but seem to be ok, or have 1 big issue or 2 I think holds them back from being fully recommended
- No underline = probably seemed interesting, haven't checked out at all, or never gets full
To keep it simple, I think the best ones right now (for me are):
1st server: 74.91.115.12:27015 2nd server: 74.91.113.115:27015
108.181.63.51:27015
74.91.114.223:27015
EU (actually gets players): 141.95.28.56:27015 US: 66.206.13.139:27015
main: 87.98.254.85:27015 Nocrits (gets full Saturdays @ 1 PM - 2 PM): 87.98.254.85:27025
216.52.148.223:27015
Payload+ EU 91.216.250.226:27015 Payload+ US 91.216.250.11:27015 Dustbowl+ US * (has become very stack-prone lately) 91.216.250.12:27015 ~~~~~
~Trying to get the word out that unlike their other servers, Casual is very barebones- no Instant Respawn, no RTD, normal map pool:
Casual NY 91.216.250.34:27015 Casual US 91.216.250.40:27015 Casual LA 91.216.250.21:27015 ~~~~~ Harvest (32-pl), also: 91.216.250.18:27015 ~~~~~
If you are super super new, their server network might be worth checking out, even if RTD, 2fort & other weird mods aren't my cup of tea: https://www.skial.com/servers/
https://uncletopia.com/servers
IP: furfortress.com:27016 Site: https://www.scg.wtf/servers#team_fortress_2
Funny, chill vibes, lots of custom maps. Seems to get full around peak time. Another diamond in the rough I discovered recently.
74.91.115.82:27015
A really solid rebalancing of all weapons in-game. Nothing really feels overpowered or underpowered anymore, also fun things like flames stay on surfaces & I think spy or engy can radar enemies within a few feet or something to his team? It's really fun and gets full. Here's the site with IPs and stuff (The US server gets full around peak time, esp. on weekends)
(Yes this is the website): http://74.91.126.159/
204.12.240.186:27015
172.240.237.2:27015
Main server: thefurrypound.org:27015
45.62.160.71:27015
https://www.ugc-gaming.net/servers/tf2/
UGC also runs other servers which I cannot vouch for but might be worth looking into.
These are the official servers for the Tropic Crisis project which is very very cool. I looked up their stats and most get full around standard peak hours.
Atlanta 155.138.213.202:27015 São Paulo 216.238.106.29:27015 Minsk 86.57.152.101:27025 Buenos Ares 45.235.99.105:27038
74.91.124.162:27015
162.248.92.33:27015
173.237.52.135:27015
149.28.248.101:27015 Discord: https://swoocehut.com/discord Map rotation: https://steamcommunity.com/sharedfiles/filedetails/?id=2802508136
79.127.234.193:22136 Discord: [https://discord.gg/DTH3sMWsH8](discord.gg/DTH3sMWsH8)
205.178.177.24:27027
https://gflclan.com/forum/26-team-fortress-2/
74.91.116.171:27015
198.245.61.57:27015
2024.05.22 01:16 ElenorClemm AITHA for getting divorced because I was tired of insisting on couples therapy because of my postpartum depression and he wouldn't accept?
At the fisrt, sorry for my english, i'm a little oxidated, but i'll try my best. (it's not my original lenguaje)
But first, a little of context:
It's an story by 7 years. I did meet my (not still) ex-husband on a convention of Anime, i did in cossplayed by Electra and he was Tony Stark, he was had a girlfriend and I was in a toxit relationship (story i'll tell in other time). But in that day, i swear, i did wish had him, i did fall in love. We talk just a little moment, we take a photograph and we keep going with our lives.
One year latter, when i'd brake up my relationship, i fall down in a horrible depression and 1 try to unsiscribe by the life. I'd try to grow up and join a group of single peopple just search fun. I'd was surprised to find that boy again in that group.
Uno month latter, we'd be in a relationship. After two years, we was marrige. Whitout anything more than love, we start this new stage, in the night of weddings, i got pregnant.
At that moment, i wasn´t know i had anxiety and depression cronique, and during pregnancy it only gets worse, and our relationship wasn't the best, we fight a lot, especially because I felt very unprotected by my partner: when we went out there were men who made bad comments to me and I even had to walk home alone after work, not to mention that there were a couple of occasions in which, due to the times , I could only prepare food and run to work, without eating a bite, to be surprised when I returned that he alone finished the food without leaving me anything.
Added to that, the first four months of pregnancy and marriage, he was without work, I had to take care of the household alone; Added to this, to lighten the burden a little, a relative did us the favor of renting us well below the value he had, his house which was uninhabited. Imagine my shame when he asked for the rent and I didn't have the money to pay because my husband didn't go out looking for work. If they hadn't given him an ultimatum, he would have spent years like this, until he asked for a job at the only company where they don't fire anyone.
All of this caused me to spend the entire pregnancy stressed and worried.
The last straw was the day my baby was born, which coincided with my husband's birthday. I had a complicated birth, in which they had to do an emergency procedure: I was hospitalized for two full days, alone, without eating or drinking anything (For those who don't know, the medical service in Mexico is beyond terrible). Not to make it long, my birth was more than complicated; and my mortification was no less when all my relatives, when they were able to come see me, kept telling me how mortified they were, on the other hand my husband looked like a child at Christmas because they brought him gifts for his birthday, even my best friend from school.
When my baby was born, I was aware that I wasn't feeling well, so I decided to take some time to recover before returning to work. And for those who are wondering, it's not like I had a great job, our economic position was not good at all, but my depression only got worse since my baby was born, the complications of childbirth made me feel terribly guilty just thinking about it. that something could have happened to my baby.
Day after day, even though I did not work and did not contribute financially to the house, I made an effort to ensure that the little money that came into the house was enough for everything: milk, diapers and food. Despite everything, I always made sure to prepare a good breakfast and lunch for my husband to take to work, I got up before him so I could have that attention with him; Imagine my disappointment when he often returned with the food intact from when she prepared it for him and told me that he had preferred to buy something to eat. This only made me feel like I was useless. Added to the fact that on more than one occasion he even left the front door of the house open for us: a woman who had just had surgery and a newborn baby, in a neighborhood where, in open secret, it was hot for organized crime, added to the fact that I I felt insecure around him.
My family kept making comments to me about how bad my husband felt for me, how bad I looked (comments that I questioned, because my family never liked my husband). Despite the bad things, he had his attempts to be thoughtful and considerate (in the wrong way or causing me more problems, but I understood that it was his way of showing that he cared).
This was when I began to understand that my husband was like that, disconnected from reality, it was his shell of protection since he practically grew up in foster homes with "relatives" or "acquaintances", many of them were very violent and mistreated him, making him feel alone and vulnerable. I learned much of this from him, the rest his mother herself came to tell me and the rest was a matter of adding 2 + 2.
When I assimilated this and that the situation would not improve, when my baby turned 9 months old, I decided to look for a job, fortunately I found a way to work from what I studied (because yes, I have a degree), and with very humanitarian bosses. those who didn't even mind me occasionally taking my baby to teach classes with me (because yes, I ended up teaching at a basic level). Thanks to this, the situation at home improved a little, but the arguments did not stop over small things, more than anything everything he did or did not do bothered me. I guess it was because of the exhaustion of dealing with everything alone, and for anyone wondering, no, he practically didn't help me with the baby issues; With the household chores (just washing the dishes and sometimes sweeping the common areas), I took care of the rest, in addition to always making sure the house was safe for a one-year-old baby.
One of the breaking points for me (this occurs in the dark time of the pandemic when we all lock ourselves at home), your company was one of the last to send them to rest, however, since my sector was related to dealing with children, I was one of the first sectors to confine themselves to home, so now I was doing homme office. One morning I realized that the man not only lost the keys to the house, but he took mine to leave, locked them and left them stuck outside the door, leaving me locked in with my baby without the possibility of getting out if anything arose. emergency. If it hadn't been for my father, who came to visit me to see how he was doing, who knows what would have happened. Get an idea of how little he cared about the safety of his family.
These, among other things, added up over the years, until I began to ask him, as a last chance to save our marriage (because at this point, I felt broken and discouraged), I insisted that we seek help, couples therapy or at least individual therapy, but he didn't listen to me or wasn't interested. Until the first time I packed my and my baby's things, he realized that I was serious and that I would leave him, he still didn't want therapy, not even when I was honest with him and told him that there were many things that I couldn't do. forgive him, especially for the pregnancy; What did happen was that he began to collaborate more at home and finally began to take responsibilities with our son.
The facts:
What ended up being the final break was a day of extreme heat, where the weather was useless and there were no technicians operating in the area. My son, now 3 years old, is very hot and in any heat his nose tends to bleed a lot, especially that weekend he was very tired, despite that, the only solution I could think of was to put the pool inside the house ( to avoid having it under the sun), I clarify that at that time we lived in a small two-bedroom apartment, which yes, I admit was an impractical solution but it was the only thing that occurred to me. Even before I did it, I notified him of what I was trying to do, not to ask for permission, but just to notify him so he wouldn't be taken by surprise.
When he got home, he didn't say hello, he didn't say anything, he just left his things and left the house to get a taxi. When I caught up with him to ask him, he said he was going to his mother's house to get an air conditioning unit that he planned to bring to install to solve the problem, to which I gave him my list of problems with it, because we didn't have permission to make modifications to begin with. Thus in the department, adding the amount of electricity it used, transportation, among others. To which he also responded with his list of drawbacks that he saw with my solution. The point is that the argument escalated and ended with him throwing the water into the garden and me locking myself in the room with my daughter, enduring the heat of the day.
Neither of us spoke to each other the rest of the day, in the morning, the first thing I did was pack my things and my baby's things discreetly. I called my parents to tell them what had happened and they were more than willing to receive us (something that did not make me so calm because, yes, one of the reasons why I married him in a hurry was that my parents were a cornerstone of my anxiety and depression).
The next night, with my things packed, I waited for my husband to drop the bomb, tell him that he was leaving with our son, he cried a lot, he begged me for another chance; That time I didn't shed a single tear, not because I didn't love him, despite everything, I followed him and I still love him, but I realized that I was loving him more than I loved me and my daughter. . I didn't cry because I spent years crying alone and falling asleep with tears.
I asked him if he would prefer to end the relationship peacefully, where we could still rescue our friendship, before reaching a point where I couldn't even tolerate seeing him.
That was the only time when he finally said that he would take therapy, but I no longer believed him. I know he did it just to convince me, but in the end he wasn't going to do it. So I decided to leave the next day with my things. It was the last time we talked about it.
At the moment:
We have a year apart, we decided to give ourselves a few months to settle in and calm our spirits. Despite this, we have still kept in touch through our daughter, when it is her turn to visit or when she brings him an errand.
I don't deny that I still love him, and now I'm the one who would like our marriage to be fixed, but he is the first to say that he feels better now.
Now that I am living with my parents, my symptoms of anxiety and depression have not improved at all, on the contrary. I don't know if I ever feel like going back to him was a desperate attempt to get out of my parents' house, because he was the only person who made me feel understood and that there was nothing wrong with being who I was (I did). which has mainly contributed to my mental health), because I clarify, my son has a disability and since his diagnosis, he has not contributed much either, I have been with the support of my family in the face of that, but not with my ex-husband or the his family, so I use practically all of my salary on my son and his basic needs; His father gives me alimony for him, but only the equivalent of $20 dollars a week, against medication a month that costs about $100, plus his therapies and special attention.
So I ask.
AITAH for asking my husband for a divorce for refusing to go to therapy?
I really appreciate that you take the time, I know that it is not a short or brief story, I will try to answer your questions in the comments if I have not been clear in any aspect. Right now I'm a mess, I'm discouraged because my situation is currently not good, my profession wears me out emotionally and mentally, added to the condition of my son who makes me feel like I'm not doing things right...
I need to know that there is something in life that I haven't done so badly. In advance, thank you Reddit community.
submitted by ElenorClemm to AITAH [link] [comments]
But first, a little of context:
It's an story by 7 years. I did meet my (not still) ex-husband on a convention of Anime, i did in cossplayed by Electra and he was Tony Stark, he was had a girlfriend and I was in a toxit relationship (story i'll tell in other time). But in that day, i swear, i did wish had him, i did fall in love. We talk just a little moment, we take a photograph and we keep going with our lives.
One year latter, when i'd brake up my relationship, i fall down in a horrible depression and 1 try to unsiscribe by the life. I'd try to grow up and join a group of single peopple just search fun. I'd was surprised to find that boy again in that group.
Uno month latter, we'd be in a relationship. After two years, we was marrige. Whitout anything more than love, we start this new stage, in the night of weddings, i got pregnant.
At that moment, i wasn´t know i had anxiety and depression cronique, and during pregnancy it only gets worse, and our relationship wasn't the best, we fight a lot, especially because I felt very unprotected by my partner: when we went out there were men who made bad comments to me and I even had to walk home alone after work, not to mention that there were a couple of occasions in which, due to the times , I could only prepare food and run to work, without eating a bite, to be surprised when I returned that he alone finished the food without leaving me anything.
Added to that, the first four months of pregnancy and marriage, he was without work, I had to take care of the household alone; Added to this, to lighten the burden a little, a relative did us the favor of renting us well below the value he had, his house which was uninhabited. Imagine my shame when he asked for the rent and I didn't have the money to pay because my husband didn't go out looking for work. If they hadn't given him an ultimatum, he would have spent years like this, until he asked for a job at the only company where they don't fire anyone.
All of this caused me to spend the entire pregnancy stressed and worried.
The last straw was the day my baby was born, which coincided with my husband's birthday. I had a complicated birth, in which they had to do an emergency procedure: I was hospitalized for two full days, alone, without eating or drinking anything (For those who don't know, the medical service in Mexico is beyond terrible). Not to make it long, my birth was more than complicated; and my mortification was no less when all my relatives, when they were able to come see me, kept telling me how mortified they were, on the other hand my husband looked like a child at Christmas because they brought him gifts for his birthday, even my best friend from school.
When my baby was born, I was aware that I wasn't feeling well, so I decided to take some time to recover before returning to work. And for those who are wondering, it's not like I had a great job, our economic position was not good at all, but my depression only got worse since my baby was born, the complications of childbirth made me feel terribly guilty just thinking about it. that something could have happened to my baby.
Day after day, even though I did not work and did not contribute financially to the house, I made an effort to ensure that the little money that came into the house was enough for everything: milk, diapers and food. Despite everything, I always made sure to prepare a good breakfast and lunch for my husband to take to work, I got up before him so I could have that attention with him; Imagine my disappointment when he often returned with the food intact from when she prepared it for him and told me that he had preferred to buy something to eat. This only made me feel like I was useless. Added to the fact that on more than one occasion he even left the front door of the house open for us: a woman who had just had surgery and a newborn baby, in a neighborhood where, in open secret, it was hot for organized crime, added to the fact that I I felt insecure around him.
My family kept making comments to me about how bad my husband felt for me, how bad I looked (comments that I questioned, because my family never liked my husband). Despite the bad things, he had his attempts to be thoughtful and considerate (in the wrong way or causing me more problems, but I understood that it was his way of showing that he cared).
This was when I began to understand that my husband was like that, disconnected from reality, it was his shell of protection since he practically grew up in foster homes with "relatives" or "acquaintances", many of them were very violent and mistreated him, making him feel alone and vulnerable. I learned much of this from him, the rest his mother herself came to tell me and the rest was a matter of adding 2 + 2.
When I assimilated this and that the situation would not improve, when my baby turned 9 months old, I decided to look for a job, fortunately I found a way to work from what I studied (because yes, I have a degree), and with very humanitarian bosses. those who didn't even mind me occasionally taking my baby to teach classes with me (because yes, I ended up teaching at a basic level). Thanks to this, the situation at home improved a little, but the arguments did not stop over small things, more than anything everything he did or did not do bothered me. I guess it was because of the exhaustion of dealing with everything alone, and for anyone wondering, no, he practically didn't help me with the baby issues; With the household chores (just washing the dishes and sometimes sweeping the common areas), I took care of the rest, in addition to always making sure the house was safe for a one-year-old baby.
One of the breaking points for me (this occurs in the dark time of the pandemic when we all lock ourselves at home), your company was one of the last to send them to rest, however, since my sector was related to dealing with children, I was one of the first sectors to confine themselves to home, so now I was doing homme office. One morning I realized that the man not only lost the keys to the house, but he took mine to leave, locked them and left them stuck outside the door, leaving me locked in with my baby without the possibility of getting out if anything arose. emergency. If it hadn't been for my father, who came to visit me to see how he was doing, who knows what would have happened. Get an idea of how little he cared about the safety of his family.
These, among other things, added up over the years, until I began to ask him, as a last chance to save our marriage (because at this point, I felt broken and discouraged), I insisted that we seek help, couples therapy or at least individual therapy, but he didn't listen to me or wasn't interested. Until the first time I packed my and my baby's things, he realized that I was serious and that I would leave him, he still didn't want therapy, not even when I was honest with him and told him that there were many things that I couldn't do. forgive him, especially for the pregnancy; What did happen was that he began to collaborate more at home and finally began to take responsibilities with our son.
The facts:
What ended up being the final break was a day of extreme heat, where the weather was useless and there were no technicians operating in the area. My son, now 3 years old, is very hot and in any heat his nose tends to bleed a lot, especially that weekend he was very tired, despite that, the only solution I could think of was to put the pool inside the house ( to avoid having it under the sun), I clarify that at that time we lived in a small two-bedroom apartment, which yes, I admit was an impractical solution but it was the only thing that occurred to me. Even before I did it, I notified him of what I was trying to do, not to ask for permission, but just to notify him so he wouldn't be taken by surprise.
When he got home, he didn't say hello, he didn't say anything, he just left his things and left the house to get a taxi. When I caught up with him to ask him, he said he was going to his mother's house to get an air conditioning unit that he planned to bring to install to solve the problem, to which I gave him my list of problems with it, because we didn't have permission to make modifications to begin with. Thus in the department, adding the amount of electricity it used, transportation, among others. To which he also responded with his list of drawbacks that he saw with my solution. The point is that the argument escalated and ended with him throwing the water into the garden and me locking myself in the room with my daughter, enduring the heat of the day.
Neither of us spoke to each other the rest of the day, in the morning, the first thing I did was pack my things and my baby's things discreetly. I called my parents to tell them what had happened and they were more than willing to receive us (something that did not make me so calm because, yes, one of the reasons why I married him in a hurry was that my parents were a cornerstone of my anxiety and depression).
The next night, with my things packed, I waited for my husband to drop the bomb, tell him that he was leaving with our son, he cried a lot, he begged me for another chance; That time I didn't shed a single tear, not because I didn't love him, despite everything, I followed him and I still love him, but I realized that I was loving him more than I loved me and my daughter. . I didn't cry because I spent years crying alone and falling asleep with tears.
I asked him if he would prefer to end the relationship peacefully, where we could still rescue our friendship, before reaching a point where I couldn't even tolerate seeing him.
That was the only time when he finally said that he would take therapy, but I no longer believed him. I know he did it just to convince me, but in the end he wasn't going to do it. So I decided to leave the next day with my things. It was the last time we talked about it.
At the moment:
We have a year apart, we decided to give ourselves a few months to settle in and calm our spirits. Despite this, we have still kept in touch through our daughter, when it is her turn to visit or when she brings him an errand.
I don't deny that I still love him, and now I'm the one who would like our marriage to be fixed, but he is the first to say that he feels better now.
Now that I am living with my parents, my symptoms of anxiety and depression have not improved at all, on the contrary. I don't know if I ever feel like going back to him was a desperate attempt to get out of my parents' house, because he was the only person who made me feel understood and that there was nothing wrong with being who I was (I did). which has mainly contributed to my mental health), because I clarify, my son has a disability and since his diagnosis, he has not contributed much either, I have been with the support of my family in the face of that, but not with my ex-husband or the his family, so I use practically all of my salary on my son and his basic needs; His father gives me alimony for him, but only the equivalent of $20 dollars a week, against medication a month that costs about $100, plus his therapies and special attention.
So I ask.
AITAH for asking my husband for a divorce for refusing to go to therapy?
I really appreciate that you take the time, I know that it is not a short or brief story, I will try to answer your questions in the comments if I have not been clear in any aspect. Right now I'm a mess, I'm discouraged because my situation is currently not good, my profession wears me out emotionally and mentally, added to the condition of my son who makes me feel like I'm not doing things right...
I need to know that there is something in life that I haven't done so badly. In advance, thank you Reddit community.
2024.05.22 01:14 TheKnightOwl18 34 [M4F] Minnesota/Anywhere - Stormy Night & Couch Potato Mood
It's a stormy night here and I love it. The mood of rain and thunder in the distance, hunkering down on the couch for the night, and enjoying that early summer feel. Who wants to be a couch potato tonight too? We can chat, get a nice conversation going, and try and keep dry.
About me: 34 from Minnesota but age and location aren't super important to me. I love to explore, travel, try new foods, get to know new people, and try new things. I like to work out, stay active, garden, wander around with my pup, and lay in the sun in my hammock. I love to relax with a good movie, some British comedy TV, naps, puzzles and video games. I'm nerdy, funny, silly and very sarcastic.
So if you're interested in chatting, let me know 😊
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About me: 34 from Minnesota but age and location aren't super important to me. I love to explore, travel, try new foods, get to know new people, and try new things. I like to work out, stay active, garden, wander around with my pup, and lay in the sun in my hammock. I love to relax with a good movie, some British comedy TV, naps, puzzles and video games. I'm nerdy, funny, silly and very sarcastic.
So if you're interested in chatting, let me know 😊
2024.05.22 01:14 Ready_Car1911 Should I overcome my fear of dating apps?
I feel like an idiot for posting this on Reddit but I don't really feel comfortable venting about this with friends, so here we are!
(21F) It's been two years since I broke up with my ex boyfriend. It was a really healthy relationship and we remain really close friends, it just didn't make sense to me to keep up with it anymore.
Well, I'm a 21 year old girl, and since that breakup my social life hasn't been all that interesting really. I'm a 4th year law student and college ended up being not all that exciting, and even tough I've got to meet my amazing group of friends, I didn't really relate to anyone else. Therefore, this time when you're supposed to meet lots of people and broaden your horizons ended up stagnating a bit for me.
I consider myself an easy going person, I've never in my life find it hard to make friends or getting to know people. It's just that I haven't got many chances to. I spend most my time with my friends I already know or end up meeting people at parties who I don't talk to ever again, and being still in college doesn't give me much time for new activities. Romantic-wise, I've never been the type that cares too much (or even at all) to be in a relationship, and I never really liked the idea of having to chase anything. I thrive on my own most of the time, and whatever happens, happens. But like anyone else, I sometimes miss the occasional flirt and whatever comes with it haha. Intimacy in geral, or just having fun. More than the horny!!!! aspect of it, I really do miss getting to make friends and talk to somebody new.
Well, as I've stated before, I think I'm really easy to talk to, overall funny and outgoing. Charming in a good day, perhaps haha. About my looks, well I wouldn't say I'm stunning but I'm not very insecure, or at least I don't let it get to my head very often. Maybe not the type you'd give a second look or flirt on the subway - unless I'm reading some cool book or something haha - but maybe buy me a drink in the night if we're having a good time lol. I'm usually very friendly with anyone I meet so I don't even know how people make the jump to flirtation these days...
Back to the dating apps: as we've seen here, I'm stagnant. Not even my social media does wonders for me anymore since I've had the stupid idea of soft blocking almost everyone when I've gotten out of high school (so real to be fair), so most of my followers are people I actually know or work with today. There's always a random guy out of nowhere but you know, no one interesting enough !!
That being said, should I overcome my fear of dating apps? I'm NOT gonna lie to you, to this very day I've always been a bit prejudiced about it. Not judgemental of people who use them at all, I just never thought I'd be into it because I don't think that's the coolest way to say I've met a significant other haha. I mean, my future boyfriend can be using a dating app right now, but he surely won't find me in one. At least that's how I like to put it.
Still, I'm reluctant. My brain tells me not to do it, but at the same time my heart is telling me to do so for the plot. I really hate the idea of having to create a profile that appeals to anyone, plus the dynamic of maybe not finding matches???? I don't have many self esteem issues but idk how that would affect me in the long run. Plus, maybe this might sound wrong, but given the fact that I study law people on my field of study expect some odd seriousness of their employees, and as common as they are there's still many preconceptions about dating apps within these firms. I mean, I already hold the weight of my digital footprint being goofy on twitter haha
WELL I don't know what to expect of this! But it's my first post on Reddit so there's that! I ended up writing a lot more than I intended so feel free to engage and talk to me. Or even to call me an idiot. It's late in the night in here and I feel like oversharing SO there's that freedom of opinating about strangers lives on the internet lol
Anyway thanks in advance, and I apologize for any mistake since english ain't my first language! Idk what this subreddit is but shoutout to all my girlies ou there<3
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(21F) It's been two years since I broke up with my ex boyfriend. It was a really healthy relationship and we remain really close friends, it just didn't make sense to me to keep up with it anymore.
Well, I'm a 21 year old girl, and since that breakup my social life hasn't been all that interesting really. I'm a 4th year law student and college ended up being not all that exciting, and even tough I've got to meet my amazing group of friends, I didn't really relate to anyone else. Therefore, this time when you're supposed to meet lots of people and broaden your horizons ended up stagnating a bit for me.
I consider myself an easy going person, I've never in my life find it hard to make friends or getting to know people. It's just that I haven't got many chances to. I spend most my time with my friends I already know or end up meeting people at parties who I don't talk to ever again, and being still in college doesn't give me much time for new activities. Romantic-wise, I've never been the type that cares too much (or even at all) to be in a relationship, and I never really liked the idea of having to chase anything. I thrive on my own most of the time, and whatever happens, happens. But like anyone else, I sometimes miss the occasional flirt and whatever comes with it haha. Intimacy in geral, or just having fun. More than the horny!!!! aspect of it, I really do miss getting to make friends and talk to somebody new.
Well, as I've stated before, I think I'm really easy to talk to, overall funny and outgoing. Charming in a good day, perhaps haha. About my looks, well I wouldn't say I'm stunning but I'm not very insecure, or at least I don't let it get to my head very often. Maybe not the type you'd give a second look or flirt on the subway - unless I'm reading some cool book or something haha - but maybe buy me a drink in the night if we're having a good time lol. I'm usually very friendly with anyone I meet so I don't even know how people make the jump to flirtation these days...
Back to the dating apps: as we've seen here, I'm stagnant. Not even my social media does wonders for me anymore since I've had the stupid idea of soft blocking almost everyone when I've gotten out of high school (so real to be fair), so most of my followers are people I actually know or work with today. There's always a random guy out of nowhere but you know, no one interesting enough !!
That being said, should I overcome my fear of dating apps? I'm NOT gonna lie to you, to this very day I've always been a bit prejudiced about it. Not judgemental of people who use them at all, I just never thought I'd be into it because I don't think that's the coolest way to say I've met a significant other haha. I mean, my future boyfriend can be using a dating app right now, but he surely won't find me in one. At least that's how I like to put it.
Still, I'm reluctant. My brain tells me not to do it, but at the same time my heart is telling me to do so for the plot. I really hate the idea of having to create a profile that appeals to anyone, plus the dynamic of maybe not finding matches???? I don't have many self esteem issues but idk how that would affect me in the long run. Plus, maybe this might sound wrong, but given the fact that I study law people on my field of study expect some odd seriousness of their employees, and as common as they are there's still many preconceptions about dating apps within these firms. I mean, I already hold the weight of my digital footprint being goofy on twitter haha
WELL I don't know what to expect of this! But it's my first post on Reddit so there's that! I ended up writing a lot more than I intended so feel free to engage and talk to me. Or even to call me an idiot. It's late in the night in here and I feel like oversharing SO there's that freedom of opinating about strangers lives on the internet lol
Anyway thanks in advance, and I apologize for any mistake since english ain't my first language! Idk what this subreddit is but shoutout to all my girlies ou there<3
2024.05.22 01:13 Future_Energy_6590 Anyone considered a class action lawsuit against Enphase Energy for failure to make their new batteries backwards compatible with the IQ7+ system and 3/10T batteries?
I purchased an Enphase system almost exactly two years ago and decided to expand it by adding more panels. I currently have six 3.36kWh batteries (2 x 10T batteries) but due to Enphase’s microinverter to battery ratio I’m only able to add two more panels at which point I will have to add an additional battery to increase my ability to add the more panels. The problem is that I’m being told that the 3T and 10T batteries that are compatible with my IQ7+ microinverters and system controller are end of life and there is a new “5P” battery but it is not compatible with my current system. To use it I would basically have to scrap what I have. This system was a large investment, particularly the 10T batteries banks which were $10k each!
Anyone other Enphase customers running into this? It boggles my mind that a company like this would not have made a way for their customers to use newer batteries (the most expensive part of the system) with their pre-existing systems, which are not very old as it is in my case. They have left their existing customers with IQ7+ and the previous generation of batteries in a tough spot. From the fly by night installers to the manufacturers, they’re not giving this industry a very good name! To all those thinking about getting an Enphase system with 5P batteries now, you might think long and hard about it before you commit. You might get told your system is too old to expand in a short 1-2 years from now when whatever the new thing is comes out!!
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Anyone other Enphase customers running into this? It boggles my mind that a company like this would not have made a way for their customers to use newer batteries (the most expensive part of the system) with their pre-existing systems, which are not very old as it is in my case. They have left their existing customers with IQ7+ and the previous generation of batteries in a tough spot. From the fly by night installers to the manufacturers, they’re not giving this industry a very good name! To all those thinking about getting an Enphase system with 5P batteries now, you might think long and hard about it before you commit. You might get told your system is too old to expand in a short 1-2 years from now when whatever the new thing is comes out!!
2024.05.22 01:12 SouthMaintenance3438 I (M24) was told by my gf (F22) that she feels her love for me is now more platonic (caring type of love) than romantic and also felt sexual feelings for a coworker a week ago. We’ve been dating for a little over 2 years and still both virgins
Hi - sorta long post. I met my girlfriend two years ago while I had my first job and she was graduating college. We were both virgins and she hadn’t done more than kissing a guy before me but had been in two long relationships (four years total). Our relationship started off pretty sexual and, honestly, very spicy. Fast forward a month and we tried to have sex; however, I had performance issues. These issues continued for 6-7 months until we basically stopped trying to have sex as she started her new job and moved to another state (I also had a new job in the same state, so I went with her).
Once she started her new job, over time our sexual intimacy declined a lot. She has a stressful computer science job and works a lot, which she pointed to as the reason for her libido going down. She was also on birth control and multiple medications. Aside from the sex, all other forms of intimacy were amazing (cuddling, kissing, holding hands, etc.). We’ve had our fair share of rough patches and fights, and I personally feel like I haven’t treated her the best. A lot of it was due to her being closed off about sexual topics and trying to improve our sex lives. Basically, sex became a big pressure point, and she was the one who controlled if it happened.
About a year ago, she felt asexual and said maybe sex isn’t important to her and she could live the rest of her life without it (she also barely masturbates, like once every two weeks). I didn’t care about sex at that point since I love her for who she is and could live without it. Also, I should note I gained like 70+ pounds, and she gained weight too, but we were still sexual at points like once a month or every other month (no penetration), so my looks didn’t affect anything. I just became more insecure.
Fast forward to 2024, I get a new job and am working remotely. I fly out a few times to see her (intimacy gets worse to the point where we’re not even changing in front of each other). She said it was because of how I treated her in December (had a huge insecure moment) and we tried to move on. Anyway, she recently started a move to a bigger city for the same company, and I had booked a flight to see her. She said she was excited to see me and spend time. Last night, she calls me and brings up how she feels this is more of a platonic friendship than a romantic one. She mentions how she could never have sex again with me potentially (due to relationship baggage), wants to be in a relationship where sex is easy and not a huge thing, and also how she saw a coworker for lunch and had sexual feelings.
Ultimately, we canceled the flight, but I still talked to her and logic’d some of this out. She originally wanted to take a break to “explore her sexuality,” and then we went back and forth for a few hours to finally understand the situation better. Now we’re taking a one-month break where she just wants alone time to move and break out of this co-dependency and relying on me for everything. We are still both exclusive and not seeing anyone. She mentioned we will probably be back together and not to feel stressed or sad (but I’m so sad). I still have a flight scheduled a few months out for her birthday, and she said to keep it assuming stuff gets better. I feel pretty horrible, and I love her so much. She’s like my best friend, and you’re supposed to marry your best friend. Two-plus years and we yap to each other, hold each other, and just do everything in a relationship except sex. I imagined a full life with her and thought she was the one. Our love was so pure and deep without the need for a sexual connection. Every time we called or hung out, it was always exciting.
I hope after this break we can get back together and continue, but part of me feels like this is the end. She mentioned we should talk more, but I said no contact during this month (we might chat on the weekends). I don’t want to lose such an amazing person.
TLDR: My girlfriend and I had a great relationship without sex due to issues in the beginning. She promised sex isn’t important to her and she might be asexual. I then get blindsided a few days ago when she says she doesn’t have feelings for me anymore and has sexual feelings for her coworker. She’s confused about her sexuality and wanted to initially explore it more, but we talked. Now we’re on a break where we’re not seeing other people for a month without contact so she can do things independently (moving to a new apartment and starting at a new office location), and she said the possibility of us getting back together is 50/50 but probably will happen. I am conflicted, traumatized, and don’t know how to move forward.
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Once she started her new job, over time our sexual intimacy declined a lot. She has a stressful computer science job and works a lot, which she pointed to as the reason for her libido going down. She was also on birth control and multiple medications. Aside from the sex, all other forms of intimacy were amazing (cuddling, kissing, holding hands, etc.). We’ve had our fair share of rough patches and fights, and I personally feel like I haven’t treated her the best. A lot of it was due to her being closed off about sexual topics and trying to improve our sex lives. Basically, sex became a big pressure point, and she was the one who controlled if it happened.
About a year ago, she felt asexual and said maybe sex isn’t important to her and she could live the rest of her life without it (she also barely masturbates, like once every two weeks). I didn’t care about sex at that point since I love her for who she is and could live without it. Also, I should note I gained like 70+ pounds, and she gained weight too, but we were still sexual at points like once a month or every other month (no penetration), so my looks didn’t affect anything. I just became more insecure.
Fast forward to 2024, I get a new job and am working remotely. I fly out a few times to see her (intimacy gets worse to the point where we’re not even changing in front of each other). She said it was because of how I treated her in December (had a huge insecure moment) and we tried to move on. Anyway, she recently started a move to a bigger city for the same company, and I had booked a flight to see her. She said she was excited to see me and spend time. Last night, she calls me and brings up how she feels this is more of a platonic friendship than a romantic one. She mentions how she could never have sex again with me potentially (due to relationship baggage), wants to be in a relationship where sex is easy and not a huge thing, and also how she saw a coworker for lunch and had sexual feelings.
Ultimately, we canceled the flight, but I still talked to her and logic’d some of this out. She originally wanted to take a break to “explore her sexuality,” and then we went back and forth for a few hours to finally understand the situation better. Now we’re taking a one-month break where she just wants alone time to move and break out of this co-dependency and relying on me for everything. We are still both exclusive and not seeing anyone. She mentioned we will probably be back together and not to feel stressed or sad (but I’m so sad). I still have a flight scheduled a few months out for her birthday, and she said to keep it assuming stuff gets better. I feel pretty horrible, and I love her so much. She’s like my best friend, and you’re supposed to marry your best friend. Two-plus years and we yap to each other, hold each other, and just do everything in a relationship except sex. I imagined a full life with her and thought she was the one. Our love was so pure and deep without the need for a sexual connection. Every time we called or hung out, it was always exciting.
I hope after this break we can get back together and continue, but part of me feels like this is the end. She mentioned we should talk more, but I said no contact during this month (we might chat on the weekends). I don’t want to lose such an amazing person.
TLDR: My girlfriend and I had a great relationship without sex due to issues in the beginning. She promised sex isn’t important to her and she might be asexual. I then get blindsided a few days ago when she says she doesn’t have feelings for me anymore and has sexual feelings for her coworker. She’s confused about her sexuality and wanted to initially explore it more, but we talked. Now we’re on a break where we’re not seeing other people for a month without contact so she can do things independently (moving to a new apartment and starting at a new office location), and she said the possibility of us getting back together is 50/50 but probably will happen. I am conflicted, traumatized, and don’t know how to move forward.
2024.05.22 01:11 Appliance7717 Dilemma with Airbnb host treatment - no long showers allowed and dog peed on my suitcase and clothes - how should I respond? [Spain]
Dilemma with Airbnb host treatment - no long showers allowed and dog peed on my suitcase and clothes - how should I respond? [Spain]
Hey folks just wanted to get your thoughts on this situation I had recently.
I booked a last minute Airbnb for 3 nights recently in a big Spanish city (Airbnb was outside city center for €40 per night). It was shared with the host (a boomer Spanish lady and her puppy dog). Nowadays, I filter with Guest Favorites and only look at listings where the host is rated over 4.80. This host had 50 reviews, was a super host and the listing was a guest favorite and had a rating of 4.92
I arrived midnight (prearranged well in advance with the host as check in is only until 23h according to the listing). I immediately go to bed without showering as I had one in the previous stay and was going to exercise the next day anyway. I spend all of next day outside and return at night and take a long shower (20-30 mins) before going to bed. I sleep in the next day and the host requests that I don’t shower so long (we communicate in basic French as she doesn’t know English and I don’t know Spanish)… I say all good, I’ll keep it shorter next time. I go inside and I’m in the bathroom for about 20 mins, brushing my teeth, taking a dump etc. and am careful to only take a shower between 5-10 max minutes. I get a message from the host later that evening (translated):
Host:
Hi Appliance7717, I wanted to let you know that tomorrow the departure is at 11 o'clock also because I have to leave, I also wanted to let you know that if you would take another shower I would ask you to keep it shorter, thank you Appliance7717.
Guest:
I showered for 5 minutes today. You want it to be shorter than that?
I did spend more time in the bathroom using the toilet, brushing my teeth etc.
Or I just can’t use the bathroom for long?
Host:
No please, if that's the case it's all right.
It's just that it's a huge expense for me.
I’m in the metro when I read this message and get all flustered and take the wrong train etc. and am a bit frustrated but whatever, I’ll check out sharp 11am tomorrow and get it over with. I’d booked a hostel for the next day anyway. I also missed out on seeing the meteorite (!) whilst all this was happening 😆 but I really think I shouldn’t be sweating about this shit on vacation and walking on eggshells over something so petty…
Anyway, next day rolls up and I scramble to get things packed up and ready so I don’t upset her by checking in after 11am. I’m basically on track to check out by 10:30. Now she has a dog, 🐕 which I didn’t mention - doesn’t seem to be well trained, barked quite a lot and woke me from my sleep earlier in the day but I didn’t make a fuss at all. I’m the 5 mins where I happened to be in the kitchen without closing my room’s door, it went and peed over my suitcase and clothes. It also took a sock, chewed it up and took it somewhere else. Mind you, the host didn’t mention anything about the possibility that the dog would be doing this. I’ve lived with dogs in airbnbs before and never had this issue. Nothing in the listing or house rules about taking long showers or what to do regarding the dog like keeping the door closed etc. She dabbed the pee with paper towels, and said that I should have closed the door but did say “Désole (sorry in French). I had to ask for disinfectant spray. I was upset and was banging my hand on the forehead and expressing regret but nothing more. She saw a pair of any shorts I’m soaked in urine but absolutely no offer to clean it, extend checkout etc. It seemed perfectly acceptable that this happened. It really rubbed me the wrong way. Super hosts are meant to go above and beyond in my view, and here she was struggling to be somewhat décent. We didn’t argue or anything there, if anything I was just a bit terse and we said au revoir and I left to go do the cleaning in my next place (took about 3 hours to get vinegar, bleach, hydrogen peroxide etc.)
Thinking of the Golden Rule, I’d never do this to somebody else if I were her. I’d offer compensation or something….
Anyway, my dilemma is that I wouldn’t have any hesitation going after a hefty compensation were it some young dude or couple as host. This lady doesn’t seem financially well off, seeing as taking a long shower has an impact on her profits. And I just feel kinda bad posturing me screwing over this old lady and her puppy dog for some cash. But I absolutely do not appreciate how I was treated and goes fundamentally against my sense of decency and fairness… I also hate how Airbnb has devolved to classify such hosts as superhosts.
What would you do if you were in my shoes? What do you think I should pursue? Should I ask for compensation? Leave a poor review? I see that she already left me a review on the afternoon that I checkout out. I have a feeling that she left a negative review - I noticed this from a previous guests review as well as what the host wrote about that guest.
Host’s review of Guest plus Guest’s response:
Guest, she is a polite and clean girl, but a great consumption of hot water and electricity, I am personally, these guests are not interested since for €134 I believe that as a host I am not interested , as a host I have not had any problems now, now I have only to wait for my electricity , water and gas bills, I am a person with very few resources, and from now on I do not accept promotions, because for it it is not profitable.
Dear Host, during my stay you didn't tell me anything. Other than that, I've never had any issues with other hosts. I was almost not at the house because I was visiting the city. I was just taking regular showers and was charging my phone and laptop when I needed it. What you wrote about me, I don't think it's true or fair and I'm really sorry to read that because I thought we had a great time the whole time.
Guest’s review of Host:
I had a nice stay at Host's place. It's good for 1-3 days since the room is very small and really suitable only for sleeping (no chair, table, ..). The location is okay, a bit far from the centre, but you can get everywhere by bus or by metro.
submitted by Appliance7717 to AirBnB [link] [comments]
Hey folks just wanted to get your thoughts on this situation I had recently.
I booked a last minute Airbnb for 3 nights recently in a big Spanish city (Airbnb was outside city center for €40 per night). It was shared with the host (a boomer Spanish lady and her puppy dog). Nowadays, I filter with Guest Favorites and only look at listings where the host is rated over 4.80. This host had 50 reviews, was a super host and the listing was a guest favorite and had a rating of 4.92
I arrived midnight (prearranged well in advance with the host as check in is only until 23h according to the listing). I immediately go to bed without showering as I had one in the previous stay and was going to exercise the next day anyway. I spend all of next day outside and return at night and take a long shower (20-30 mins) before going to bed. I sleep in the next day and the host requests that I don’t shower so long (we communicate in basic French as she doesn’t know English and I don’t know Spanish)… I say all good, I’ll keep it shorter next time. I go inside and I’m in the bathroom for about 20 mins, brushing my teeth, taking a dump etc. and am careful to only take a shower between 5-10 max minutes. I get a message from the host later that evening (translated):
Host:
Hi Appliance7717, I wanted to let you know that tomorrow the departure is at 11 o'clock also because I have to leave, I also wanted to let you know that if you would take another shower I would ask you to keep it shorter, thank you Appliance7717.
Guest:
I showered for 5 minutes today. You want it to be shorter than that?
I did spend more time in the bathroom using the toilet, brushing my teeth etc.
Or I just can’t use the bathroom for long?
Host:
No please, if that's the case it's all right.
It's just that it's a huge expense for me.
I’m in the metro when I read this message and get all flustered and take the wrong train etc. and am a bit frustrated but whatever, I’ll check out sharp 11am tomorrow and get it over with. I’d booked a hostel for the next day anyway. I also missed out on seeing the meteorite (!) whilst all this was happening 😆 but I really think I shouldn’t be sweating about this shit on vacation and walking on eggshells over something so petty…
Anyway, next day rolls up and I scramble to get things packed up and ready so I don’t upset her by checking in after 11am. I’m basically on track to check out by 10:30. Now she has a dog, 🐕 which I didn’t mention - doesn’t seem to be well trained, barked quite a lot and woke me from my sleep earlier in the day but I didn’t make a fuss at all. I’m the 5 mins where I happened to be in the kitchen without closing my room’s door, it went and peed over my suitcase and clothes. It also took a sock, chewed it up and took it somewhere else. Mind you, the host didn’t mention anything about the possibility that the dog would be doing this. I’ve lived with dogs in airbnbs before and never had this issue. Nothing in the listing or house rules about taking long showers or what to do regarding the dog like keeping the door closed etc. She dabbed the pee with paper towels, and said that I should have closed the door but did say “Désole (sorry in French). I had to ask for disinfectant spray. I was upset and was banging my hand on the forehead and expressing regret but nothing more. She saw a pair of any shorts I’m soaked in urine but absolutely no offer to clean it, extend checkout etc. It seemed perfectly acceptable that this happened. It really rubbed me the wrong way. Super hosts are meant to go above and beyond in my view, and here she was struggling to be somewhat décent. We didn’t argue or anything there, if anything I was just a bit terse and we said au revoir and I left to go do the cleaning in my next place (took about 3 hours to get vinegar, bleach, hydrogen peroxide etc.)
Thinking of the Golden Rule, I’d never do this to somebody else if I were her. I’d offer compensation or something….
Anyway, my dilemma is that I wouldn’t have any hesitation going after a hefty compensation were it some young dude or couple as host. This lady doesn’t seem financially well off, seeing as taking a long shower has an impact on her profits. And I just feel kinda bad posturing me screwing over this old lady and her puppy dog for some cash. But I absolutely do not appreciate how I was treated and goes fundamentally against my sense of decency and fairness… I also hate how Airbnb has devolved to classify such hosts as superhosts.
What would you do if you were in my shoes? What do you think I should pursue? Should I ask for compensation? Leave a poor review? I see that she already left me a review on the afternoon that I checkout out. I have a feeling that she left a negative review - I noticed this from a previous guests review as well as what the host wrote about that guest.
Host’s review of Guest plus Guest’s response:
Guest, she is a polite and clean girl, but a great consumption of hot water and electricity, I am personally, these guests are not interested since for €134 I believe that as a host I am not interested , as a host I have not had any problems now, now I have only to wait for my electricity , water and gas bills, I am a person with very few resources, and from now on I do not accept promotions, because for it it is not profitable.
Dear Host, during my stay you didn't tell me anything. Other than that, I've never had any issues with other hosts. I was almost not at the house because I was visiting the city. I was just taking regular showers and was charging my phone and laptop when I needed it. What you wrote about me, I don't think it's true or fair and I'm really sorry to read that because I thought we had a great time the whole time.
Guest’s review of Host:
I had a nice stay at Host's place. It's good for 1-3 days since the room is very small and really suitable only for sleeping (no chair, table, ..). The location is okay, a bit far from the centre, but you can get everywhere by bus or by metro.