Debunking Gender Stereotypes: Exploring the Complexity and Significance of Gender
In a world where gender roles and expectations have long been ingrained in society, it's important to challenge and debunk the stereotypes that limit individuals' true potential. The article titled "Debunking Gender Stereotypes: Exploring the Complexity and Significance of Gender" delves deep into this complex and significant topic, shedding light on the multifaceted nature of gender.
By going beyond the binary notion of gender, this article aims to dismantle preconceived notions and shed light on the lived experiences of individuals whose identities don't neatly fit into traditional categories. Through thought-provoking discussions and poignant examples, we explore the societal impact of gender stereotypes and how they contribute to inequality and discrimination.
From analyzing the role of media and cultural influences in perpetuating gender stereotypes to examining the psychological implications for individuals who challenge these norms, this article provides a comprehensive exploration of the topic. By understanding the complexity and significance of gender, we can work towards creating a more inclusive and equitable society for all.
Join us in this eye-opening journey as we navigate the intricacies of gender and work towards breaking down the barriers that limit self-expression and individual fulfillment.
The History and Origins of Gender Stereotypes
Gender stereotypes have a long history deeply ingrained in various cultures worldwide. These stereotypes are often perpetuated through familial, educational, and societal influences. From an early age, children are exposed to expectations and norms associated with their assigned gender. Boys are told to be strong, assertive, and unemotional, while girls are encouraged to be nurturing, submissive, and focused on their appearance.
These stereotypes have roots in historical gender divisions, where men were traditionally seen as providers and protectors, while women were confined to domestic roles. Over time, these divisions became deeply ingrained in societal structures and have continued to shape people's perceptions of gender. However, it is essential to recognize that gender is not solely determined by biological sex but encompasses a spectrum of identities.
The Impact of Gender Stereotypes on Individuals and Society
Gender stereotypes have far-reaching consequences for individuals and society as a whole. They limit individuals' freedom to express themselves authentically and restrict opportunities based on societal expectations. For example, girls may be discouraged from pursuing careers in STEM fields because of the stereotype that these fields are better suited for boys. Similarly, boys might face ridicule or judgment for expressing emotions or pursuing interests traditionally associated with femininity.
These stereotypes also contribute to gender inequality and discrimination. Women are often underrepresented in positions of power and leadership, while men are expected to conform to rigid ideals of masculinity. This perpetuates a cycle of inequality, where individuals are limited by societal expectations rather than their skills and abilities. Furthermore, gender stereotypes can also harm individuals' mental health, leading to feelings of inadequacy, low self-esteem, and anxiety.
Debunking Common Gender Stereotypes
To challenge and debunk gender stereotypes, it is crucial to question and dismantle common misconceptions. One common stereotype is that women are inherently more nurturing and better suited for caregiving roles. However, studies have shown that caregiving abilities are not determined by gender but by individual qualities and experiences. Men can be just as nurturing and capable caregivers as women, and it is essential to recognize and encourage their involvement in caregiving responsibilities.
Another prevalent stereotype is that men are naturally more logical and rational, while women are emotional and irrational. This stereotype not only perpetuates harmful gender norms but also undermines the diverse range of emotions and rationality that all individuals possess. It is important to recognize that emotions are a fundamental part of being human and should not be restricted or stigmatized based on gender.
The Role of Media in Perpetuating Gender Stereotypes
Media plays a significant role in perpetuating gender stereotypes by reinforcing traditional gender roles and ideals. Advertisements often portray women as objects of desire, emphasizing their physical appearance and reinforcing the notion that their worth lies in their attractiveness. On the other hand, men are often portrayed as strong, aggressive, and dominant, reinforcing the stereotype of toxic masculinity.
These portrayals influence societal perceptions and expectations, leading to the internalization of harmful gender stereotypes. It is essential to critically analyze media representations and demand more diverse and inclusive narratives that challenge traditional gender roles. By supporting and consuming media that portrays gender in a more nuanced and egalitarian manner, we can contribute to the dismantling of harmful gender stereotypes.
Breaking Free from Gender Stereotypes: Empowering Individuals
Breaking free from gender stereotypes requires empowering individuals to embrace their authentic selves and reject societal expectations. This empowerment can be achieved through education, awareness, and inclusive policies. Schools and educational institutions have a vital role to play in challenging gender stereotypes by providing comprehensive sex education that goes beyond biological differences and explores the spectrum of gender identities.
Additionally, creating safe spaces where individuals can explore and express their gender identity without fear of judgment or discrimination is crucial. Organizations and communities can also support individuals by implementing policies that promote inclusivity and diversity, such as gender-neutral bathrooms and dress codes. By acknowledging and respecting the diversity of gender identities, we can create a more inclusive and supportive society for all.
Gender Stereotypes in the Workplace
Gender stereotypes continue to shape the dynamics of the workplace, affecting hiring practices, promotions, and career opportunities. Women often face barriers and biases that limit their professional advancement, such as the perception that they are less committed or capable due to their potential reproductive roles. Men, on the other hand, may face discrimination when pursuing careers in traditionally female-dominated fields, such as nursing or teaching.
Addressing gender stereotypes in the workplace requires a commitment to equality and diversity. Employers must examine their hiring practices and ensure they are free from biases that favor one gender over another. Promoting flexible work arrangements, parental leave policies, and mentorship programs can also help create a more inclusive and equitable work environment. By challenging and dismantling gender stereotypes, we can create workplaces that value individuals based on their skills and qualifications rather than societal expectations.
The Importance of Education and Awareness in Challenging Gender Stereotypes
Education and awareness are crucial in challenging and debunking gender stereotypes. By providing comprehensive and inclusive education about gender diversity, we can foster a more accepting and understanding society. This education should begin in schools, where children can learn about the spectrum of gender identities and the importance of respecting and embracing diversity.
Furthermore, ongoing awareness campaigns and discussions about gender stereotypes can help shift societal perceptions and promote inclusivity. Engaging with individuals and communities to challenge their preconceived notions and biases can lead to greater empathy and understanding. By actively seeking out diverse voices and experiences, we can broaden our understanding of gender and work towards dismantling harmful stereotypes.
Promoting Inclusivity and Gender Equality
Promoting inclusivity and gender equality requires collective action and systemic change. Governments, organizations, and individuals all have a role to play in challenging and dismantling gender stereotypes. Governments can enact policies that protect and promote gender equality, such as implementing equal pay legislation and providing support for parental leave.
Organizations can create inclusive workplaces that value diversity and challenge gender norms. By implementing policies that promote work-life balance, offering mentorship programs, and fostering a culture of inclusivity, organizations can create environments where individuals can thrive regardless of their gender identity.
Individuals can contribute to this movement by challenging their own biases and assumptions, advocating for gender equality, and supporting organizations and initiatives that work towards dismantling gender stereotypes. By collectively working towards a more inclusive and equitable society, we can create a world where individuals are free to express their gender identity without fear of judgment or discrimination.
Conclusion: Embracing Diversity and Redefining Gender Norms
In conclusion, gender stereotypes have a profound impact on individuals and society, perpetuating inequality and limiting individual fulfillment. By understanding the complexity and significance of gender, we can challenge and debunk these harmful stereotypes. It is crucial to create environments that empower individuals to embrace their authentic selves and reject societal expectations.
Through education, awareness, and inclusive policies, we can work towards a society that values diversity and promotes gender equality. By embracing the complexity of gender and redefining societal norms, we can create a more inclusive and equitable world for all individuals, regardless of their gender identity. Let us continue to challenge, debunk, and dismantle gender stereotypes, paving the way for a future where true equality and acceptance prevail.
-Jack Bullock (Me)

TL;DR - this is an extremely long rant, feel free to skip ❤️
Hey. Im a 17 year old male of British Bangladeshi ethnicity from South London. Ive just recently been diagnosed with ME/CFS, and it has truly ruined my life already within the span of 4 months; although they suspect that I had had the illness for nearly 9 years prior to the diagnosis.
I'm sure everyone on this page is familiar with the notion of this illness ruining people's lives. But I feel I must share more about my story to you all, because I need help.
When I was 9, my father was diagnosed with stage 4 blood (Hodgkin's Lymphoma) cancer, and 6 years later or so; having survived the initial cancer, he came down again with yet another stage 4 cancer in his bowel. I was there on the day of diagnosis of the first cancer, and never really understand it all as a child. Furthermore, I never really got to be a child. With my father being ill, i was stuck being almost a nurse for him at home, while trying to do my best in other aspects of my life. I didn't cry. I didn't moan. I would just try and help my mum as much as I could.
The issue then was at the time, I was suffering from major physical issues, where the possible diagnosis spanned from juvenile arthritis to just growing pains. It was a nightmare, but it was still liveable and I was still able to somewhat enjoy my time in my hobbies I had at the time and with my friends at school. This would turn out to be the initial showing signs of the ME that has struck me down 8 years later.
Fast forward to present day, I'm currently bedbound, or more sofa-bound, as our family has always struggled financially. I dont have my own room. I dont even have a wardrobe in this house to call my own. A place to put the things a 17 year old needs to put. But thats not the main issue. Im a young 17 year old man, yet I haven't gone to school in months. Currently in Year 12, having done extremely well in my GCSEs and having had a year 10 with a relatively symptom free year, year 11 was when it all really started. My school attendance for year 11 was 56%, yet I was just able to do well in my GCSEs because, lets be honest, in the grand scheme of things they're not very difficult. But for A-levels, with my current attendance of 31%, it is just not possible to do well in this way.
I was also a major talent in football. Ever since I was born, i had a passion for playing the sport, and had gotten pretty good at it; playing for Fulham academy for a while in the younger years when I was more physically capable. As i grew older, I attented trials at Crystal Palace and got in, but had to pull out due to 'injury'. This was my one passion. My only proper passion in life.
ME has ruined my life. I was seen as an extremely gifted individual in both academic and athletic aspects, but because of the brain fog and constant migraines and of course the fatigue and physical implications of the cfs, all of that has gone down the drain. I can't deal with this anymore. I've been stuck at home for months. I cant have my friends over because the house is too small. I cant get out of the house because standing for more than 5 minutes makes me dizzy (I also suffer from POTS). My father, who had become crazy from his double dose of max power chemo, and had already given up on life and is now depressed and stuck at home with me, is the only face I see in the mornings. My brother has a life to live at 21 years old, so he must ignore us in a way to protect himself. My mother. I want to kms for how much sufferage ive caused my mum. she didn't get married for this. she didnt have kids to live like this.
Ive been struggling with sever clinical depression due to the cfs, as expected. But, as is normal in an asian household for a young man, emotion doesn't exist. Even my depressed, crazy father doesnt see depression and sadness as an emotion, more just a defect of life. I need help. No doctors know anything about this stupid illness. therapists tell me to do some exercise and get out in the sun, even when i tell them i cannot stand and just attending the session is a huge challenge.
I miss my friends. I miss myself, Im not who i once was. I don't love football anymore. I cant learn anything like i used to enjoy doing when i was younger. even things as little as gaming has suffered, because i cant even concentrate and my eyesight suffers from the constant migraines. im going insane from the constant headache. how can a 17 year old live like a 90 year old? how can a boy remenisce on his life as if hes even lived it? the only time my brain seems to work is when im desperate at 3 am in the long sleepless nights the goddamn insomnia causes. there was a period where i didnt sleep for 3 weeks straight. the other people my age seem to be living life, actually growing and making memories. my closest friend group have made plans to go to spain for the summer. they know i cant go with them. this hurts. i cant even cry. i dont have a place in my house, and i was raised so that i didnt show any emotion other than happiness to my parents. i cried for the first time in my mature lifetime in front of another human being in my first therapy session. it didnt feel normal. I told my therapist, 'crying always felt like i was admitting defeat' and i still feel that way, but she pointed out that this was because of how i was raised. is this really what life is? ive always been an overly empathetic person and it has gotten to the point that i dont even want to meet someone in a romantic setting or get married or whatever, because i dont want whatever is happening to my mum to happen to my future wife, where she has to take care of a useless thing like me. im not worth that and i couldnt bare the guilt of ruining a girls life just to say i got married to her. the reality of my loneliness in the future is dawning on me, or even worse the reality of depending on my parents as a middle aged adult. id rather die.
It was always my dream to travel and leave England, and live and die in Spain or Chile. ive even learnt spanish, almost B level fluency after a couple years of learning. I guess id have to forget that now.

So I was a fan of the LN's from back when the first season released. The things I identified with then, and the things I love about it now are still largely what I love about it. And I was for a long time willing to turn a blind eye to ALOT of what I felt were unnessicary parts of the story, as, this series is the work of an author, not something made FOR me. However as time has gone on, the series has leaned more into it's less savory elements, and it does genuinely hamper my enjoyment of the series now, to the point that I'm hesitant about the series moving forward (I stopped right before reading the succession arc). I'm just curious about more broader perspectives on the series, as someone who's going to attempt to lay out more than just "ew incest gross" arguments. I'd be happy if people are willing to engage in a more genuine discussion, but if not, hope you can at least enjoy the read.
I'll try and start positive, because I want to put it out there, I was largely positive on the series as a whole, and have recommended it to multiple friends with some pretty major caveats. And I have rolled out good faith defenses of each problematic elements of the show with in universe examples and reasoning. So the things that I genuinely love about the series. At the time, as someone who dropped out of collage, while always thinking myself the smartest guy in the room, it was easy to identify with a story that highlighted a character who's society's measure of a man wasn't accurately taken. I've since grown a lot since then, but I still do love this aspect of the story. Hatori's line saying "so this is what happens when a test doesn't accurately measure someone's strength" is a line that sticks with me to this day. I also love how deep the political intrigue is thought out, not to be overly exaggerated in my analysis, but there are times where the levels of geopolitical implications of certain actions are thought about on a level that you would expect from traditional spy fiction/thrillers. The fact that the implications of magical weapons and the socioeconomic implications of things like a fusion generator are taken into account with such detail is amazing to me. It isn't given a one side interpretation but rather a very realistic look at how the powers in play would fight over the use, implementation, and restrictions that might have to be placed on such technology.
Also the magic system, i feel like I don't have to preach to anyone about how cool it is, but it's cool, straight up, it's just cool, as a tech guy, to see the fusion of technology and magic in this setting is awesome.
Lastly the imperfect nature of the main character was always interesting to me. While the anime only ever hints at Tastuya's insecurities with subtext, LN fans will know his though process is PLAGUED with indecision and caution that remove him soley from the OP MC archetype that never thinks about or suffers the consequences of his actions. Yes in practice he is an OP MC, but just like how society inaccurately measures his strength because they don't value the thing's he's good at, the really fantastic character work putting in the juxtaposition of his OWN values, not aligning with his own strength is really smart character writing. Tatsuya himself doesn't care about regrowth, or his crazy abilities and capacity for magic despite his apparent disabilities in the magic department. While many people see him and recognize how powerful he is, none of that is what HE values. He values more than anything are the technical skills required to change the world through magical engineering, and while he makes GREAT strides throughout the series, ultimately he isn't at the point (where I am in the series) to effect the real kind of change he would like to see, outside role as the Yotsuba's secret weapon. The kind of ambition he might have fostered normally as just a young man, is still evident with his passions outside of the crazy family situation he was forced under.
Which is something else I love about the series, but with a bit of a mixed bag of feelings. The world building is genuinely really cool from a near future sci-fantasy setting. The staging of the energy crisis that led to the 3rd world war, the emergence of Mages, and the united pact against nuclear arms, only to be replaced by the very checks that locked the nations from nuclear armageddon. The cleaver setup and world play between the 10 master clan's naming conventions and even to a lesser extent the 100 supporting families, gives such a rich texture and great opportunities to have ENDLESS but distinct characters coming from every facet of society. Characters like the Chiba get to be all one note swordsman, then build upon individual character traits to differentiate them. Even the side stories with Morisaki Shun give texture to what otherwise should have been just a one off character that was done with after the first arc (honestly I wish we saw more of him as the series went on, and the ramification of him protecting the heiress of the no head dragons, the series clearly doesn't mind chinese influence being a driving antagonistic force, it would have been interesting to see them explore more morally complex but not completely antagonizing forces).
And that lead some to some of the negatives. In the same vein that the world building is very well thought out, I cannot view this piece as a piece of fiction divorced from the real world. Can you explain the incest, the way he writes female fashion and women with in universe explanations? Yes absolutely and I have gone to bat for it in the past. Preserving genetic bloodlines to increase the magical powers of a generation of magicians, when such a small subsection of the population have any degree of magic talent to begin with, would be paramount in the national defense of a country. Having siblings marry each other is both not even the craziest thing I can imagine NOR is the least crazy thing the SERIES has done to justify this. The fashion sense was born the energy crisis that predated world war 3, caused clothing to become heavier out of necessity and it became fuax pas to show as much skin, both as a means of survival and as a way to signal you had enough resources to keep yourself clothed. While the climate has recovered people's sense of fashion hasn't caught up yet, which is a great IN universe explanation for the more conservative forms of dress that seem socially permissible in the series. And the way they treat women as ladies constantly saying "is would be improper for a lady to be out at night by herself" can be (and this one is LESS SUPPORTED by the text but I think could be explained and inferred) to be part of the need to preserve reproducing members of society after a great famine that predated WW3 and further more of the "nobility" class of magicians which this behavior clearly emulates.
The problem with all of these is, the text also clearly wants to have it both ways and it just betrays a clear taste the author has that I find distasteful in the REAL world. Sure you tell women to cover up, but then you take every opportunity to put them in summer dresses, or skimpy costumes for performances, and dress up scenes. While all of this makes sense IN universe, I can't help but feel this is just a pandering to real world markets that like these niches, or further points to the authors own thoughts on the matter, with a regressive social structure that see's women lacking less moral and societal agency, having to "cover up" as it were, and the whole incest thing. It would be one thing if the series SAID anything about this. An interesting exploration on how both the Yotsuba and society as a whole put such immense pressure on all of these teenagers regardless of how competent they are, and them breaking that cycle of generational expectation would be perfectly in line with the broader social change Tastsuya is trying to work towards with his engineering endeavors. Learning to actually heal from, learn from, and distance himself from the ultimately toxic relationship he's being forced into with his sister would earn MASSIVE points in my book for actually tackling an uncomfortable topic with some nuance.
I'm going to sidebar for a moment because I know a lot of people love Miyuki and Tastuya in both the fanbase as a whole but this sub in particular. I'm going to approach this, in good faith and say all of you are fans of the characters and I'm not going to, nor do I think a majority of fans are problematic in their liking of this relationship. While I personally feel like the devotion Miyuki shows is pandering, as I said in universe it can all be explained and people can enjoy fiction for any number of reasons, I don't think anyone is gross or whatever for enjoying a pairing when the text of the show so adamantly presents it in the most positive light possible. BUT WITH ALL THAT SAID, i would be doing the rest of the series, which is so well thought out, to not lend a critical eye to the absolute blindspot the series has for this relationship. Miyuki's devotion to Tatsuya is born of her realization after being saved by him in Okinawa, that her life belongs to him because he saved it, and she will be at his side against all the injustices that he has and will continue to face. But that kind of single hearted devotion, is by definition, toxic to her growth as a person. No one can LIVE for another person and be a fully fleshed individual, it just isn't healthy and it cheapens what could be such a more powerful character that by her own rights has every right to grow with ambitions that still can ABOSLUTELY grow in parallels with, and in support of her brother. But the story doesn't really explore that, every choice she ever makes is with the approval of her brother or his ultimate success in mind. You cannot seriously get me to buy that their engagement and eventual marriage is a healthy one under these conditions. I am a modern man, I like my wife to be as strong willed as I am so we can make joint decisions about our life that we can both agree on, so hell call me biased but I don't actually think there's anything wrong with traditional relationships, but that's the thing, EVEN in traditional relationships, women aren't the objects that they're commonly straw manned into. While not all traditional relationships were like this, the foundation of them is supposed to be founded upon the idea that while men could be out in the world, providing for the family, the women would be at home nursing children, and making sure the HOME was taken care of. In practice this meant a lot of women were actually empowered to make many of the purchasing decisions for the house, under ideal circumstances (again in actuality I acknowledges the more problematic aspects of these relationships in history and that isn't the point of this post).
I bring all of this up to say that Miyuki isn't given the agency to grow enough as her own person outside being sometimes selfish over her brothers attention of her. If I had to write an essay on Tatsuya's driving purpose in life, I could write at length on interesting aspects of his character and his own inaccuracies when judging his own value, when he's so uniquely capable of judging others. But there is no similar depth given to Miyuki and that's just sad because the GLIMCES we get of her character are ACTUALLY great. Her interactions with Lina, were highlights brining to her a character that is as close to being her peer as we had up until that point in the series, but still having her show compassion to her situation because of how much it mirrored Tatsuyas despite being "competition" and someone who ostensibly was opposed to her brother. Her interactions could have been so much better with Ichigo Masaki ( a criminally underused character as a whole) but they never amount to anything other then him getting lil'broed the entire series. And Kuduo Minoru is just underutilized in his debut appearance during the upcoming Ancient city insurrection arc that's about to be animated. Tatsuya is able to be measured up against these characters to further his growth and further exemplify what sets him apart as an interesting character and Miyuki doesn't get the same opportunity.
There is so much more I can say, but this is crazy long and I suspect few people will read it all anyways. Some of this might be ranty but I have been stewing on these thoughts for ages, and with no one in my circle who has stuck out the series as far as I have, my only recourse is the broader fanbase to discuss my thoughts on the matter.
TL;DR- Tatsuya, the world, and the magic systems, the consequences, and the complex web of motives within the narrative are all huge pluses for the series, that ultimately get dragged down by the inordinate amount of time spent on what I feel is either pandering to certain audiences, or betray the authors less than savory tastes, that more than just being morally outrageous (because I don't really care about that) serves to under cut the otherwise great writing of the series, and I think that's the real crime. The incest doesn't bother me because a fictional sister and brother get together, it bothers me because it robs me of the potential character growth both of them could have had, fighting back against another backwards system in this world born of political and social necessities that would have rhymed with all the other themes of the series.
EDIT: yes I know I can just drop the series, if it isn't for me, and I might I really don't know, I'm just frustrated at what could be something that has so much potential, be inordinately focused on the least interesting aspects of it.

"5 minutes to touchdown, Commissar."
Commissar Aterine Vautte sat stiffly in her crash harness as the Arvus Lighter bucked around her, trying her best to not show any hint of the anxiety she'd been feeling the whole trip, even though no one was there to notice. It was practice, she told herself, for when she was in the company of her new regiment.
Her new Regiment...
Vautte couldn't help but think back to the Elysian 17th/23rd Drop Troops. Brand new, like her. Did their best, like her. Half-dead... like her?
She shook the thought from her mind, but even still, the practical implications kept coming back up. She'd been one of 5 Commissars in her unit, now she would be one of one. Moreover, she'd looked over the Taronian 8th's current organization; they were an eclectic bunch, but one thing they were not was an aerial assault regiment. Why had a Commissar whose only previous experience was with Elysians be chosen to be attached to them?
But this question, too, slipped from Aterine's mind as she heard the pitch of the Lighter's engines change, and felt the craft slow. "We're coming in on final approach now. Local command has been informed of your arrival and is expecting you." The Lethe Delta cargo shuttle pilot reported over the intercom.
"Thank you, Flight Lieutenant." Vautte said evenly as she made final checks on her uniform and adjusted her peaked cap.

Commissar Lion watched as the grey and green-liveried Arvus Lighter touched down on the airfield, resisting the urge to shiver from the shuttle's thruster wash; only hpurs had passed since the blizzard had largely passed, and it was still frighteningly cold out. Behind him stood more representatives from the Valyrrans, Praetorians, and Taronians, whose new Commissar they were all here to greet, after all.
To his left stood 2 squads of Valyrran shock troops, lead by a standardbearer. And to his right stood 1st Squad, Taronian 8th Boat Force lead by 1st Sergeant Kallin, and a Praetorian Color Guard squad lead by Major Potts. And standing more less just behind him were his adjutant Corporal Poli and Commissar Mason, who was wearing a very curious pair of sunglasses and seemingly trying to just stay unnoticed.
Lion wondered what kind of Commissar they were reveiving. Would she be another trigger-happy brute of a disciplinarian like Gardner had been, or would she be the type of Commissar who, judging by the sunglasses and Poli's facial expression, was currently nursing a hangover?
Or maybe, Lion thought with some small glimmer of hope as the shuttle's cargo door opened to reveal the tall and pristine (if a bit stiff) form of Commissar Aterine Vautte, just maybe he had a new officer of the Officio Perfectus who would actually prove useful...

Okay my old acc got perma banned (not cuz of what i posted here but a comment on another sub). This acc probably just gonna get banned too but idc. I need this place to rant and i want to hear others thoughts too. (So sorry if i dont reply to your comment).
There is no reward or pride in being a mom. Dads are the ones with all the prides. I never want kids but i want to be a dad so badly. I would have kids if i could have been the dad.

• Im not wasting 9 months of my life growing that parasite and then pushing it out
• Not to mention all the risks and permanent health implications/ risks. That long ass epidural. Ruining my body. Risk of bleeding out?! Emergency c sections. NOPEE
• Why do the dads get to cut the umbilical cord? They do absolutely nothing but jerk off almost a yr ago and then THEY get to do that?
• im tired of seeing the videos of dads carrying the newborn out of the hospital while A NURSE wheelchairs the new mom out. Like dude … help your fkn wife/ gf who just risked her life?! Like why doesn’t she get to hold the new baby on the way out? Afterall shes been carrying the damn thing for 9 months doing all of the heavy labour then the men just get the easy shit? F THAT
• im tired of seeing men being being praised for doing the BARE FUCKING MINIMUM. and then when people call out that it’s the bare minimum, others defend it by saying “yeahh but dads didnt do anything before so its good to see more hands on dads now”. When women have been “hands on” moms doing EVERYTHING FOREVER AND DONT GET ENOUGH RECOGNITION OR CREDIT AT ALL. dad changes 1 diaper or goes to one swimming class practice w their kids and its “omgggg what a core memory”, “such a good dad”, “parent of the year reward”. Its surprising and rewarded and appreciated and acknowledged when men do it but it’s EXPECTED when women/ moms do it?!
• Why is the dads name that’s the last name? Even if the mom keeps her last name, the kid almost always has his? And i dont wanna hear the dumbass “justification” that “ohhhhh i got to connect w my baby for 9 months. Its his turn now 😁”. JUST STFU YOU DAMN SURROGATE YOU AINT A DAMN PARENT JUST A FREE BIRTHING MACHINE AND FREE NANNY

All women are just disposable baby making machines and surrogates! No pride in that! And i want no part of it! This is not a bash on moms btw. More of a bash on society so dont get the wrong idea from my post.
Plus when you are a mom. You are JUST A MOM. But if youre a dad, then you’re life doesn’t change at all and you are still seem as your own person separate from your kids. You have your own identity while moms are just moms.

Sorry if this sounds selfish but this is really only a one time thing for a friend. I need someone to use there undetectable AI account to paraphrase this please.
IntroductionThe rise of fast food chains in the United States from 2000 to 2010 had an impact on both the culture and economy. This period saw an increase in obesity rates among Americans, which coincided with the growth of these eateries. In this essay we delve into the connection between the expansion of fast food franchises and the obesity epidemic examining factors that influence health. Through an analysis of data, health studies and relevant literature our goal is to provide an understanding of how consuming food has played a role in fueling obesity during this particular decade, in America.The Growth of Fast Food Chains
Between 2000 and 2010 there was a rise in the fast food industry. Popular chains such as McDonalds, Burger King and Subway expanded their reach by opening stores to meet the demand for budget friendly meals. Data from the U.S. Census Bureau shows that the number of fast food eateries increased by around 20% during this timeframe (U.S. Census Bureau, 2011). This expansion made fast food more convenient for a range of people, including kids and teenagers.
Obesity Trends in the U.S. (2000 2010)
The prevalence of obesity in America has been on a trajectory during the early years of the 21st century. According to the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention (CDC) the rate of obesity among adults rose from 30.5% in 2000 to 35.7% in 2010 (CDC, 2011). Similarly among children and teens aged between 2 and 19 years old obesity rates increased from 13.9% to 16.9% over that period. This continuous increase signals a concerning public health issue with impacts on illness rates, mortality rates and healthcare expenses.
The Impact of Fast Food, on Eating Habits
food is commonly known for its levels of calories, excessive saturated fats, sugars and sodium with little nutritional value. These aspects of food are closely associated with weight gain and obesity. Studies show that regular consumption of food is linked to consuming calories and maintaining poor eating habits (Bowman & Vineyard 2004). Research conducted by Pereira et al. (2005) revealed that individuals who ate food than twice a week were more likely to gain weight and develop insulin resistance compared to those who consumed it less frequently.
Influence of Socioeconomic Factors
The easy availability and affordability of food make it an attractive option for people with incomes. Fast food establishments are often concentrated in low income areas where residents have limited access to dining choices (Powell et al. 2007). This situation, referred to as "food deserts " , worsens the issue of obesity because disadvantaged groups tend to rely on food as their main source of nutrition.
Impact of Advertising and Promotion
The aggressive advertising tactics used by fast food companies also have a significant influence on eating behaviors particularly among young individuals, like children and teenagers.
Many businesses invest sums of money each year in marketing showcasing their products across platforms, like TV, the web and social networks. Kids are especially influenced by these strategies that highlight the appeal and ease of food reinforcing harmful dietary patterns early on.
The impact of obesity, on health is significant and variedObesity is a factor in chronic illnesses like type 2 diabetes, heart disease, stroke and certain cancers (Flegal et al., 2012). The rise in obesity rates has led to an increase in health issues putting a strain on the healthcare system. The financial implications of obesity are also noteworthy with studies indicating that medical costs linked to obesity made up around 10% of healthcare expenses in the United States during that time (Cawley & Meyerhoefer 2012).
Policies and public health effortsIn response to the escalating obesity crisis, different policies and public health efforts have been put into action at state and local levels. These initiatives aim to encourage eating habits through measures like food labeling requirements, restrictions on advertising foods to children and campaigns raising awareness about the risks of obesity (Koplan et al., 2007). Schools have been a point for intervention well, with endeavors to enhance the nutritional value of school meals and boost physical activity among students.ExamplesVarious real life examples and stories showcase the effectiveness of taking action to address the issue of obesity. For example, New York City put in place a set of strategies to combat obesity, such as displaying calorie information on menus and prohibiting trans fats in restaurant dishes. These initiatives led to improvements in people's eating habits and a slight decrease in obesity levels, within the community (Dumanovsky et al. 2011).ChallengesThe obesity epidemic still poses challenges despite the efforts to address it. Unhealthy eating habits deeply ingrained in society, the presence of the fast food industry and disparities in status all add layers of complexity to this issue. Moving forward it is crucial to focus on creating an environment that encourages choices for vulnerable communities. This entails advocating for policies that restrict the marketing of foods to children, enhancing access to options in low income areas and urging food companies to improve the health profile of their products.
Psychological marketingWhen it comes to food marketing companies go beyond advertising tactics by leveraging deep rooted psychological triggers that influence consumer behavior. Bright colors, catchy tunes and recognizable mascots are commonly used in food ads to build a memorable brand image. This technique is particularly effective with audiences like children and teenagers who're more susceptible and likely to develop lasting brand loyalties. Research indicates that exposure to these advertisements can lead children to prefer calorie, nutrient foods ultimately impacting their dietary decisions and contributing to weight gain (Boyland & Halford 2013).The impact of portion sizes
One overlooked but significant factor contributing to the obesity crisis is the increasing sizes of portions served by food chains. Over time portion sizes have substantially grown, with meals exceeding the recommended calorie intake for a single meal. Young and Nestles (2002) study reveals that fast food item portions have expanded over the years with some items now more than double their size. This phenomenon of "portion distortion" results in calorie consumption as individuals tend to eat when faced with larger servings often underestimating the actual caloric content.
Changes in lifestyle and time constraints
The contemporary way of life characterized by schedules and time limitations has also played a role in the heightened dependence on fast food. With an increase in dual income households and longer work hours many people find themselves lacking the time to cook meals. Fast food emerges as a solution offering cost effective options that align with busy routines. Nonetheless this convenience comes at a price as frequent consumption of food is linked to dietary patterns and increased calorie intake contributing to the surge in obesity rates (Smith, Ng & Popkin 2013).Another significant measure involves restricting the promotion of foods to children. By reducing kids exposure to food ads policymakers aim to lessen the impact of marketing on their eating habits. Some cities have also imposed taxes on beverages and unhealthy foods in an effort to discourage consumption through penalties. While the effectiveness of these strategies may vary they mark progress in combating the obesity crisis.
Approaches Rooted in Communities
Community based strategies for addressing obesity highlight the importance of initiatives and grassroots movements. Programs that concentrate on enhancing access to foods encouraging activity and educating community members about healthy eating have shown positive outcomes. For example community gardens and farmers markets can offer produce to residents living in areas with access to healthy food options promoting better dietary choices. Schools and community centers can also play a role by providing nutrition education and physical activity programs.
The Impact of Technology
Technology has increasingly become an asset in the battle against obesity. Mobile applications and wearable gadgets enable individuals to monitor their calorie intake and exercise levels offering feedback and motivating lifestyle choices.
Furthermore social networking sites can play a role, in advocating for public health initiatives and sharing details on diet and wellness. Although technology isn't a solution to the issue of obesity it provides avenues to involve people and groups in embracing healthier habits (Stephens & Allen 2013).
Future Directions and Recommendations
The approach to tackling obesity needs to be multi-faceted and should involve collaboration between government departments, health workers, local communities, as well as the food industry. In future, there is need for more efforts in creating an atmosphere that supports healthier selections particularly among the disadvantaged groups. This means that one should continue to campaign for policies aimed at reducing children’s exposure to unhealthy food advertisements, improving availability of healthy foods in deprived neighborhoods and encouraging manufacturers in the food sector to change their products into a healthier version.
Further still public health campaigns will try and focus on having balanced diets regularly done exercises. Schools and offices can succeed by developing well-structured meals alongside opportunities for exercising. More research is also needed to understand why some people are poor eaters or overweight than others.
Policy Proposals
To further combat the menace of overweight, policy makers should think about enacting a variety of evidence-based strategies. Some of them could be: Sugar-Sweetened Beverage Taxes: Taxes on sugary drinks can decrease consumption and raise funds for public health projects. Zoning Regulations: By controlling the number of fast food restaurants in given areas, intake will subside and encourage establishment of grocery stores among other healthier alternatives.Menu Labeling Laws: This makes sure that restaurants indicate calorie counts as well as other nutritional information to assist customers in making informed choices. School Nutrition Standards: Schools meals and snacks in the course of learning ought to meet recommended nutrition levels so that students are eating healthy. Addressing Behavioral FactorsBehavioral interventions also play a significant role in dealing with obesity. Cognitive-behavioral therapy (CBT) and other psychological approaches aid individuals to develop better eating habits and deal with triggers involved in overeating. Programs addressing weight control which incorporate behavior change counseling together with diet and exercise components show promise towards helping individuals achieve successful long term weight loss.Long-Term Commitment and Sustainable Change
Society must collectively make a commitment that will last over a long period to reduce obesity rates. The approach should be ongoing and flexible enough to accommodate changing circumstances and new information. For this change to be lasting, there must be continuous investment in public health infrastructure, research, and education. Therefore, significant strides can be achieved in reducing obesity rates by nurturing a culture that appreciates wellness.
Cultural Shifts and Public Perception
In addressing the obesity epidemic another critical factor is shifting public opinion as well as cultural norms with regards to food and health. The acceptance of fast food and oversize portions as normative has been one of the major drivers towards unhealthy eating habits over the past few decades. This would involve public health campaigns focused on what constitutes healthy balanced meals and promoting on good home cooked fresh meal benefits instead. To change public perception cooking classes nutrition workshops media campaign advertising preparation advantages of healthy meals at home for instance.
Strengthening Health Care Interventions
Routine screenings, counseling and support for weight management by health care providers are crucial in handling obesity. Obesity prevention and treatment should be integrated into primary care to ensure consistency and comprehensiveness in people’s health. Personalized advice can be availed by the healthcare practitioners and also set realistic targets as well as referring patients to dietitians or structured weight loss programs.
Advancing Research and Use of Proven Practices
To better understand the intricate contributors to obesity and curate effective interventions, it is important to sustain research. Longitudinal studies that follow diet patterns, activity levels, and disease outcomes offer useful information on how to prevent or reduce obesity. By exploring behavioral, environmental and genetic factors that affect obesity, this will enable us to make interventions that are specific for different populations and situations as well.
Conclusion
The period between 2000 and 2010 registered a sharp increase of obesity rates that is closely linked to the spread of fast food outlets across America. This public health menace can only be fought with multidimensional approaches that will change public attitude, improve education, enhance corporate accountability and support inclusive research plus health care interventions. By creating an environment where good health is appreciated through provision of necessary resources and support, we can achieve significant milestones in curbing cases of obesity within our population as well as overall improvement in their welfare.
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I have decided to switch careers from corporate HR to Audiology, specifically working with children in the deaf and hard of hearing community. I chose this path over speech pathology because the prerequisites for speech pathology would take longer, and I am more interested in the clinical aspects of audiology rather than speech therapy. I am driven by the desire to help children hear for the first time, bridge the gap between hearing technology and other modes of communication like sign language, and educate parents and families on various methods those who are deaf or hard of hearing use.
While I know the salary in audiology is not high, I have pursued higher salaries in the past and found that it is not what brings me joy and after a few career changes I am in my early 30's and I know what I like and do not like. My husbands going to be an MD, no I do not wish to be a PA or Nurse, not the clinical areas I want to work in. I want to do something meaningful. I have always been fascinated by sign language, so I plan to start learning it this summer to be more connected with my patients.
Although I understand the financial implications, this is not important to me. I have been interested in this field for a long time but only recently was able to define what this interest is.
Aside from salary and the debt-to-outcome ratio in audiology, what are the rewarding aspects of this career? Do you often work with deaf or hard of hearing patients? What is that experience like? For non-pediatric audiologists, what are some other specialty areas besides hearing aids or tinnitus? What do you find rewarding about those fields?

An interesting detail I noticed with the Valhalla nursing home. On the front of the house above the door where you first enter, it says 1887 in large letters. Presumably the year the house was made. However, upon entering and reading the plaque on the wall from Barry, he claims the house was built for Tom Zane in 1965. Pat Maine also claims the house is very old when you walk into his room, talking about how they built the ww2 (presumably) bunker there because of the house. These details makes no sense if the house was built in 1965, in which case Pat would be older than the house and it wouldn't exist during ww2.
The implication here is that the house always existed but was retconned to have belonged to Tom the filmmaker by whoever is rewriting Tom's history.
Only thing I'm wondering is, how does this reconcile with the guy who doesn't ever remember the house existing? Maybe it existed somewhere else and alan moved it? Maybe he's just misremembering things? Can anyone help me out with this as I'm a little stuck

Been on isotretinoin (accutane) for 18 months and I’m so tired of the side effects. Dry skin sure, nose bleeds all the time, excessive sweating, and insomnia. I have been fortunate enough to not feel depressed but now life has gotten harder I’m certainly feeling the stress isn’t going away as easily as before.
I’m supposed to have a nurse appointment last week but it’s been pushed back possibly by weeks or even months. I’m also almost of meds and I’ve let the doctors know … but thinking I am going to ask to come off this asap I wondered if there is a need to taper off, and if so for how long? I believe most people do 18months-2years (subject to severity of condition) but is anyone away of the implications of coming off too early, for instance could the issue come back and it would mean starting another 18 months or would I still then only do another 6 months or so?
Sorry for the long message.
Tl;dr- did you taper off or go gold turkey, and how was it?

In Alone Nurse Bendy’s part of the episode is the only part I see talked about, and I get it, hers ultimately impacted the story most seeing as how it led to Joe’s episode and also her story is more relatable to people seeing as how child sa is more common than the other 2’s story but I still would like to see their stories more talked about so here I go!! Ms Sculptham was raped by Mr Creepler and the thing is that the news person reported was the fact that she let him in to rape her the next time that happened which is actually kinda common among these cases, whether acted upon or not, victims will often have these intrusive thoughts of the event happening once again, thinking that if maybe it happens again them knowing it’s coming or asking for it even gives them a sense of control which is the ultimate thing they lacked during the situation and is something they are constantly looking for again also not to mention this event caused her to develop OCD and there was even an implied abortion I believe based off the coat hanger but I’m not quite sure Next is Ms Censordall, which her story is smth very original imo if what I gathered about it is correct, for some clearing up tho this is js from what I gathered seeing as how hers was more vague than Nurse Bendy’s and Ms Sculptham’s stories but that she was born intersex and as a child her mother made her have her female parts removed in order to be raised a boy which does happen called “sexual mutilation” this is probably why Ms Censordall appears much older, despite only being in I think her 30s? (Don’t quite remember) because of her lack of estrogen and also her obsession for eggs being her lack there of it which I think is a huge piece of evidence seeing as how in the last scene she holds an egg where her eggs would be I also don’t agree with adult swim cancelling this episode, in the episode “God’s Chef” it was literally about Orel impregnating multiple woman throughout the town while they were sleeping and it didn’t seem like they really cared during that, and if it’s the implications of SA and rape theyre worried then what about shows like family guy that they still have on the air with MULTIPLE sa/rape scenes but what do u guys think?

I got my first IUD on Friday. I had never had a pap or examine (32 yr) and have always felt guilty about being behind on preventative health care. I have also exclusively used withdraw since I was 18. I have only been in long term relationships and when the birth control conversation inevitably came up in the beginning of each, I would bristle. It would follow the ceasing of condom use and come with the implication that we (I) should be more responsible about birth control. I resented the suggestion that I alone should be responsible for altering my body to accommodate a man's, even my partner's, pleasure because they would rather not wear condoms and don't want to pull out. The idea of bearing the full burden of responsibility by inserting a foreign object in my body, in my most intimate organ has always insensed me on a fundamental level. But in truth, I always felt guilty for depriving my partner. and when friends would rebuke my choices as reckless- I don't know how many times I've been told I must be infertile if I haven't become pregnant yet while not using birth control. So when I went for my first exam, I thought it might be wise to do the responsible thing that I've felt urged to do from all fronts.
I wasn't nervous. In fact I saw it as a challenge to overcome. I listened to the information given to me during the consultarion. I felt like I had enough of a grasp of what was going to happen. I was offered xanax and lidocaine, but it was implied that lidocaine could be just as painful. I don't feel I was discouraged necessarily, but I felt it was not being encouraged. I wish I would have taken both offers instead of just the ibuprofen.
I was told of the potential pain and range of variable experience, that some women have felt the pain of insertion worse than child birth. But everyone that knows me knows that I have a high pain tolerance. And so say many women I imagine. The doctor told me I might have a "whoosh" experience, which I understood to mean fainting. I still didn't feel much fear leading up to the procedure.
I was told how the procedure would go, the assessment, the speculum, the measuring and the insertion. I was surprised by the size of the model iuds, though I'm not sure what I was expecting. I thought I understood the sounding- I didn't. I had no idea about the tenaculum. Once the examine was rolling it seemed all previously mentioned anxiety and pain management were off the table unless I insisted they stop.
I was uncomfortable from the beginning and realized I was in for an unpleasant experience if I couldn't get myself to relax. The resident MD was being coached by the doctor. I heard them discussing the tilt of my uterus as she seemingly went rutting around for my cervix. Even the cotton swab was painful. They brought in a nurse to squeeze my hand and try to distract me with idle conversation. He was a literal angel and I wouldn't have been able even attempt to mask the agony without him there.
I knew it could be painful but I had no idea. I have only ever heard of the "pinch" and some menstrual like cramps. I had only ever heard from women that had had relatively uncomplicated insertions with moderate pain if any.
The insertion was the single most excruciating event of my life. It is still so surreal as my mind is already trying to protect me from the memory days later. I was close to screaming but tried hard to laugh through the agony out of embarrassment and not wanting to make the doctors feel bad. I wish I had blacked out but I was acutely aware of every sensation. At peak pain, I did something I would normally never do and said "This Really Hurts". I can't put into words how much but I know some reading this may understand.
It felt like it lasted ages but eventually it was over. I felt absolutely broken. I was able to sit up even though I was in severe pain and all I could feel was my wrecked cervical canal and the device inside of me. I was able to dress and have some juice that was brought to me. The angel nurse came and sat with me some more to make sure I was okay. I was not, there was no position I could sit or stand in for relief but I again tried to put on a brave face, for a moment.
I felt delirious trying to make conversation and I suddenly realized I was sweating profusely. I informed him I needed to get undressed again. He suggested I lay back down. Terrible, no. I put my head under the faucet. My pelvis was screaming. Standing was awful. I hobbled to the bathroom across the hall and immediately took my shirt off again, more water. I felt like I needed to shit and puke. The pain was getting worse and worse so I weakly crossed the hall again shirtless back to the bed. Now the staff were concerned and coming to assist me.
I spent the next HOUR in pain again, nearly as bad as the procedure. Charlie horse level cramps all over from the waste down, the worst of which concentrated in my cervix. Fever chills and aches like the worst food poisoning/stomach virus you've ever had. The muscles in my hips were screaming and moving was not an option. I had ice packs on my head and warm packs all around my waste. I wondered if my body was in full assault mode against a perceived foreign invader. I am pretty sure I was in shock. I was hypotensive the whole time while a new nurse monitored my vitals. I struggled to respond to any one verbally.
The doctor overseeing the insertion swung by, placed pressure on my lower stomach and asked if it hurt. Yes. You're not gushing blood though are you? No. I don't recall him saying much else before a left again. Later, when delivering my exit consultation he reminded me of the "whoosh" sensation he'd told me about and explained thats what I had just experienced for the last hour and that it was not uncommon.
I felt like I was nailed to that bed for hours pouring sweat and trying everything to avoid the pain in my entire body. Eventually I noticed my breaths were finally seeming to connect back to my heart rate. I started coming back to life and immediately asked the new nurse if she knew why male birth control options were not available in the US after decades. She flatly responded, the patriarchy. I told her I had used tracking and withdraw for the past 14 years and I wasn't sure what I had just done to my body was necessary. She agreed, tracking could be a viable planning option she said. I still hadn't shed a tear during this ordeal.
Tears were to come and to come repeatedly in the following days, every time I remember anything about what happened. I was depleted and deeply depressed. I feel hurt and violated and alone. I'm not mad at any one in particular. I mad on the whole that we are made to feel we have an obligation to bravely endure Why?
The pain largely subsided after the worst of it but I could, and still can, feel the IUD inside me. I hope that awareness goes away and I can eventually forget it's there and what I went through for it. I was starting to feel better today until I got my medical report in my email. Notes for post procedure: "patient tolerated procedure well."
I am so beyond hurt and angry. This has to be a mistake? I've left voice messages with the clinic. This is very important for me that this is corrected, for my record and the larger record. I found it so hard to find stories like mine outside of this forum. Are they going unreported? How common is this? What are these statistics that are published?
I'm mad and exhausted and I hurt for anyone who had also experienced this. I want to hear your stories of your experiences, even if they were more fortunate than mine.
I don't not recommend getting any IUD, but I won't recommend it, at least not without pain management. do yourself the favor. But I feel more opposed to the concept now than ever before. I won't accept that this is the best option available in this day and age. Really?

Content warning: Trauma
I got my first IUD on Friday. I had never had a pap or examine (32 yr) and have always felt guilty about being behind on preventative health care. I have also exclusively used withdraw since I was 18. I have only been in long term relationships and when the birth control conversation inevitably came up in the beginning of each, I would bristle. It would follow the ceasing of condom use and come with the implication that we (I) should be more responsible about birth control. I resented the suggestion that I alone should be responsible for altering my body to accommodate a man's, even my partner's, pleasure because they would rather not wear condoms and don't want to pull out. The idea of bearing the full burden of responsibility by inserting a foreign object in my body, in my most intimate organ has always insensed me on a fundamental level. But in truth, I always felt guilty for depriving my partner. and when friends would rebuke my choices as reckless- I don't know how many times I've been told I must be infertile if I haven't become pregnant yet while not using birth control. So when I went for my first exam, I thought it might be wise to do the responsible thing that I've felt urged to do from all fronts.
I wasn't nervous. In fact I saw it as a challenge to overcome. I listened to the information given to me during the consultarion. I felt like I had enough of a grasp of what was going to happen. I was offered xanax and lidocaine, but it was implied that lidocaine could be just as painful. I don't feel I was discouraged necessarily, but I felt it was not being encouraged. I wish I would have taken both offers instead of just the ibuprofen.
I was told of the potential pain and range of variable experience, that some women have felt the pain of insertion worse than child birth. But everyone that knows me knows that I have a high pain tolerance. And so say many women I imagine. The doctor told me I might have a "whoosh" experience, which I understood to mean fainting. I still didn't feel much fear leading up to the procedure.
I was told how the procedure would go, the assessment, the speculum, the measuring and the insertion. I was surprised by the size of the model iuds, though I'm not sure what I was expecting. I thought I understood the sounding- I didn't. I had no idea about the tenaculum. Once the examine was rolling it seemed all previously mentioned anxiety and pain management were off the table unless I insisted they stop.
I was uncomfortable from the beginning and realized I was in for an unpleasant experience if I couldn't get myself to relax. The resident MD was being coached by the doctor. I heard them discussing the tilt of my uterus as she seemingly went rutting around for my cervix. Even the cotton swab was painful. They brought in a nurse to squeeze my hand and try to distract me with idle conversation. He was a literal angel and I wouldn't have been able even attempt to mask the agony without him there.
I knew it could be painful but I had no idea. I have only ever heard of the "pinch" and some menstrual like cramps. I had only ever heard from women that had had relatively uncomplicated insertions with moderate pain if any.
The insertion was the single most excruciating event of my life. It is still so surreal as my mind is already trying to protect me from the memory days later. I was close to screaming but tried hard to laugh through the agony out of embarrassment and not wanting to make the doctors feel bad. I wish I had blacked out but I was acutely aware of every sensation. At peak pain, I did something I would normally never do and said "This Really Hurts". I can't put into words how much but I know some reading this may understand.
It felt like it lasted ages but eventually it was over. I felt absolutely broken. I was able to sit up even though I was in severe pain and all I could feel was my wrecked cervical canal and the device inside of me. I was able to dress and have some juice that was brought to me. The angel nurse came and sat with me some more to make sure I was okay. I was not, there was no position I could sit or stand in for relief but I again tried to put on a brave face, for a moment.
I felt delirious trying to make conversation and I suddenly realized I was sweating profusely. I informed him I needed to get undressed again. He suggested I lay back down. Terrible, no. I put my head under the faucet. My pelvis was screaming. Standing was awful. I hobbled to the bathroom across the hall and immediately took my shirt off again, more water. I felt like I needed to shit and puke. The pain was getting worse and worse so I weakly crossed the hall again shirtless back to the bed. Now the staff were concerned and coming to assist me.
I spent the next HOUR in pain again, nearly as bad as the procedure. Charlie horse level cramps all over from the waste down, the worst of which concentrated in my cervix. Fever chills and aches like the worst food poisoning/stomach virus you've ever had. The muscles in my hips were screaming and moving was not an option. I had ice packs on my head and warm packs all around my waste. I wondered if my body was in full assault mode against a perceived foreign invader. I am pretty sure I was in shock. I was hypotensive the whole time while a new nurse monitored my vitals. I struggled to respond to any one verbally.
The doctor overseeing the insertion swung by, placed pressure on my lower stomach and asked if it hurt. Yes. You're not gushing blood though are you? No. I don't recall him saying much else before a left again. Later, when delivering my exit consultation he reminded me of the "whoosh" sensation he'd told me about and explained thats what I had just experienced for the last hour and that it was not uncommon.
I felt like I was nailed to that bed for hours pouring sweat and trying everything to avoid the pain in my entire body. Eventually I noticed my breaths were finally seeming to connect back to my heart rate. I started coming back to life and immediately asked the new nurse if she knew why male birth control options were not available in the US after decades. She flatly responded, the patriarchy. I told her I had used tracking and withdraw for the past 14 years and I wasn't sure what I had just done to my body was necessary. She agreed, tracking could be a viable planning option she said. I still hadn't shed a tear during this ordeal.
Tears were to come and to come repeatedly in the following days, every time I remember anything about what happened. I was depleted and deeply depressed. I feel hurt and violated and alone. I'm not mad at any one in particular. I mad on the whole that we are made to feel we have an obligation to bravely endure Why?
The pain largely subsided after the worst of it but I could, and still can, feel the IUD inside me. I hope that awareness goes away and I can eventually forget it's there and what I went through for it. I was starting to feel better today until I got my medical report in my email. Notes for post procedure: "patient tolerated procedure well."
I am so beyond hurt and angry. This has to be a mistake? I've left voice messages with the clinic. This is very important for me that this is corrected, for my record and the larger record. I found it so hard to find stories like mine outside of this forum. Are they going unreported? How common is this? What are these statistics that are published?
I'm mad and exhausted and I hurt for anyone who had also experienced this. I want to hear your stories of your experiences, even if they were more fortunate than mine.
I don't not recommend getting any IUD, but I won't recommend it, at least not without pain management. do yourself the favor. But I feel more opposed to the concept now than ever before. I won't accept that this is the best option available in this day and age. Really?

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When I found this forum about a month ago I was reading the back posts and weeping the whole time.
Background:
I have processed this in therapy, made my peace, and have empathy for the situations that made her who she is.
I don't want to cause her harm, and fortunately I am really bad at relationships, and do not have children. Because it would be very painful if she had grandchildren that she has no access to. My sister and BIL can't have kids. (Details omitted for TW)
I work in the MH field, I'm an Nurse Practitioner. I worked as part of a DBT team. I am not DBT trained or certified but I got really good at boundaries, and sensing manipulation, without having an emotional response.
Before I went NC I would directly and clearly set limits. I stopped her when she would try to split my Sister and I, or gossip about her. There were several times every visit where I would stop her, and explain how I would not engage, did not want to hear, or set a reasonable expectation. Her reply a few times was "Don't analyze me."
Which is amusing because after the last estrangement, I asked her to go to therapy.... never happened.
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Current Situation:
My Mother visited my Uncle who is dying of cancer and has by his estimation about 2 months to live.
My Mother sent me a text that I should visit him that she was down there and he does not have much time to live. I forgot I hadn't blocked her number on the new phone.
I have been NC for 9 years other then sending her a 9th Step (AA) letter. I intend to be NC for the rest of her life or mine whichever ends first.
I asked if she was present in the room. She left the morning of him calling me. I said I appreciated him not doing "One of those Ophra type interventions" as it's usually destructive.
I asked about visiting. Everyone has been invited down but me. He says he would like a visit.
He wants me "As a personal favor" to reconcile with her. I should mention he's a retired corporate attorney. Yes it's not amateur hour on either side of the phone. He said she was "Distraught that I would not talk with her."
I said let's address the second item, as you may not want me to visit depending on how I answer.
I would prefer having this conversation in person and to not have this conversation on a 2 sided Cell phone call either.
I said "no."
He pushed back and said this was not normal. I explained how it's more common then you would think both from people I know and also from being in clinical practice for almost 20 years.
He said "I can hear it in your voice that you want to reconcile." (Defining my feelings) I said I am speaking to you in the same tone I use with my patients.
I said that I will not be interacting with her for the rest of our lives. That this was a carefully made and considered decision.
I said we can discuss my reasons if you would like.
He said that was not his concern that it was between my Mother and I.
My mind formulates, "So no matter what happened, there is no reason that would cause you to find estrangement acceptable." Secondly you are implicating that I am being unreasonable, or worse yet cruel.
This goes in circles.
He bounces off a few boundaries, answer stays the same.
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I figure I am going to let him know some of the situation. Because he's dying and I don't want him to think I am just being unreasonable and stubborn.
I then explain a little of how our childhood was. The abuse that my mother and I got. I also said I suspect my sister getting other abuse. Left that one hanging out there... Remember this is what I do for a living so that should have significant weight.
The things I did that I regret, and have made amends, as well as going to therapy, stopped drinking, worked the steps, and so forth.
I mentioned my sister goes to Trauma therapy, partially because of me.
Which also puts out there "Has your Sister ever had any therapy for all the stuff she has been through?"
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He says "I can hear you are angry at your mother.." (defining feelings again) "
"Help me understand why do you feel that way."
"Based on what you said (above)" I said back, I am not angry at her. I have accepted and made my peace with this situation. I only listed my part in it, and what I have done to become a better person."
Which floats the unsaid question "What is her part in this?"
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I said the offer is on the table to talk about this, or not talk about it. That is up to him. If you do want to have this conversation then it needs to be scheduled so I can have my notes.
The offer of a visit is "We shall see, and depends on how I am doing, check back in a week." I know the answer already. I also explained if I visit I will be getting a hotel room and a rental car, and that it's probably better if we do 2-3 hour visits so I don't tire him out.
The unsaid part is I want to be able to leave if I need to immediately, I want to be able to go to daily AA meetings, I want my own space process this coming loss. I
wrote a poem about this situation and read it in at my AA homegroup (The meeting you go to most and help keep it going.) I haven't written a poem since HS writing class. I've been weepy about the whole situation on and off.
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I have a letter penned to my cousins, who I am in contact with explaining that he is a father figure in my life, that this is a very painful situation for me anticipating his passing, and that I apologize for not attending major life events in their lives and their children's lives because of this estrangement. That I won't be attending his service because it's the place for my Mother to mourn her last living sibling.
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Conclusion:

1. That firstly he feels that there is nothing that would justify estrangement.
2. That my Mother probably said she has no insight into why I estranged her.
3. Based on #2 I am guessing that she has had no therapy. A good therapist would turn that around and use certain questions to help her develop insight.
4. That he feels I am angry and I want to reconcile.
5. Defining my feelings is a huge red flag for me.
6. I bet he didn't expect me to be calm, collected and give a rational and consistent dialogue.
7. Having to hear about his Sister's home life probably hurts. The fact that he probably had no clue until my father passed, he has a lot of guilt.
8. He's formally trained and skilled in negotiation tactics.
9. He's dying so he has a huge ability to guilt me.
10. I gave him the option to understand, that I would visit if asked, that I would limit exposure, and that we did not have to address this, or we can look at photos and tell stories, etc. What is not on the table is reconciliation with my Mother.

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If you attend an International Cardiology Conference 2024, the role of AI in cardiology is one of the most common topics of discussion. At these events, you can learn from esteemed doctors and world-famous medical professionals from around the globe.
3D Imaging and Printing
Having an exact-size model for patients during heart surgery is critical for its success. The technology provides easy-to-understand details of complicated spatial relationships between the heart and vascular system. This understanding is helpful for cardiac surgeons, cardiac radiologists, and cardiologists to successfully manage complex heart diseases.
By attending Cardiology Conferences 2024 India, you will learn how 3D imaging and printing is shaping the cardiology field. Experts, session speakers, industry professionals, researchers, and influential cardiologists attend the Cardiology Conferences 2024 India.

Nanotechnology for cardiovascular disease

Nanotechnology involves working with devices and materials on a nanoscale level, and nanomedicine refers to the use of nanotechnology in healthcare. Nanomedicines are showing huge potential in various cardiac applications because of their unique properties. In simple words, nanomedicines are made of active pharmaceutical ingredients (API) packaged into nano-sized carriers made of excipients.
In addition, Nanotechnology may stimulate angiogenesis from pluripotent or vascular stem cells, resulting in various implications such as wound healing, cardiomyocyte regeneration, and organ recellularization. Similarly, the technology has shown great promise in cardiovascular surgery.
You can learn all about the role of nanotechnology in cardiology health by attending a Cardiology Conference India. These events showcase practical skills and help you gain a clear understanding of nanotechnology in cardiology.

Telecardiology

There are many circumstances where doctors cannot physically check the patient due to remote locations. Telecardiology is a modern medical practice that uses telecommunications for remote diagnosis and treatment of heart patients.
So, telecardiology is a hot topic of discussion at any well-planned International Cardiology Conference. Case studies from cardiologists and researchers will give you exposure to this fastest-emerging cardiovascular technology.

Implantable Cardioverter-Defibrillators (ICDs)

ICDs is a small battery-powered device put in the chest by heart surgeons. The device uses remote monitoring, personalised therapy, and algorithms to detect and prevent arrhythmias. You can learn all about this technology at the Upcoming Cardiology conference 2024. The practical exposure from live workshops and seminars can help you try this technology and learn how to use it in Cardiology.

Final Words

As you see, attending a Cardiology Conference can help you learn about all the latest emerging trends and technologies in this field. Attending these events not only provide knowledge but also give you endless network opportunities with world’s leading cardiologists and researchers. Attend a Cardiology Conference in 2024 today.
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Hi everyone, I'm here to give an update on my 15 day Post operation, fibroid removing hysterectomy and first off, I want to say it was the best decision ever in regards to my fibroid journey. I'm two weeks post-op and feeling great. Like many of you, I was very anxious in the weeks leading up to my surgery to remove two fibroids that had been assessed at about grapefruit and orange sized 6 months previously. I was on Lupron to stop my periods, which only exacerbated my anxiety. My doctor prescribed add-back hormones, which helped tremendously with the volatile emotions, and Zopiclone to help me sleep, as that was also disturbed by the Lupron.
On the day of the surgery, I was at the peak of my nervousness. The nurse helped ease my fears by giving me a low dose of Ativan, which definitely helped as I went through the motions of talking to the anesthesiologist, my doctogynecologist, and the attending surgeons and nurses. I made it very clear to my doctor that I don’t do well with pain and I didn’t want to endure any unnecessary discomfort. I was brought to the surgical table and got through the anesthesiology needle poke pretty easily with the aid of the Ativan (I hate needles!) and before I knew it, I was slumping into that glorious sedation daze and within what felt like seconds wheeled to my room for my overnight stay. During surgery, I was administered generous amounts of nerve blockers and Fentanyl, so I woke up literally feeling nothing in my body and feeling quite euphoric.
I live in a wonderful small community in Canada and received the most exceptional care on the women and children’s floor. A few notable aspects of that overnight stay: the pain from the gas they used to expand your chest to get into your abdomen is no joke. I could feel it across my shoulder blades each time I breathed. The apparatus they provided me to test blowing air out of my lungs was uncomfortable but manageable and really helped to get movement within my internal torso, which is super important as you need to get the gas flowing so that it exits out your butt. I happily took the Hydromorphone made available to me every three hours, as well as the Tylenol and Advil, which they cycled every three hours as well. I certainly felt some discomfort, and again, the gas passing was painful but everything was manageable and the addition of the opioids during my stay made everything quite happy and pleasant.
I had a catheter attached to me, which was a new experience, as you go pee without any effort. I had four bandages on my abdomen indicating where my doctor had gone in laparoscopically. There was some overall tenderness and achiness which I attribute more to the positions I'm sure I was manipulated into while under , so the surgeons could get in via different angles. I was admitted into the recovery unit in the evening because my surgery was over four hours (about eight hours altogether end to end from my 11am admission)and there was no meal service available. Thankfully the wonderful nurses procured a sandwich from the cafeteria. I was absolutely famished and ate it quite voraciously. I was quite high at this point, so I thought it was the best thing I’d ever tasted in my life (it was a pedestrian tuna sandwich on plain bread).
Sleeping was more difficult, between the opioids and just general discomfort in my body. Oh, and the gas—the gas exiting your body does hurt as it makes its way through your tender digestive system, but it's very satisfying when it leaves. I know I kept the poor woman recovering in the adjoining section up all night with my flatulence, but the nurses assured me that it was encouraged to get it all out. I did wake up a number of times with some sharper pain and took advantage of the drugs on offer. My sleep was not deep nor necessarily restful, but it was enjoyable because I was pretty hopped up and happy. The hospital had affixed circulating airbags onto my legs to help prevent blood clots, and I found them to be quite relaxing.
I managed to sleep a few hours. When breakfast was served, I was happy to eat it. My doctor came to give me my surgical report and advised me that she had removed TWO grapefruit-sized fibroids along with my uterus and a dozen or so more little fibroids in the mix. One of the fibroids had necrotized. She showed me pictures of all the pieces and tissue. I don't do well with anything medical-related, but it was actually quite satisfying to see what had amounted to about the size of a bowling ball removed from my body. I had my uterus, fallopian tubes, and of course fibroids removed but my ovaries left intact. She said the total mass of the removed organ and bits was about 4 to 5 lbs. I'm very happy she was able to do it mostly vaginally with some assistance through the four small incisions on my belly. After receiving the all-clear from my doctor, the nurses removed my IV, which had been hooked up to dispense electrolytes and vitamins. Then they removed my catheter. I was really nervous about having my catheter removed because I didn't understand the mechanics of how it was attached, but it was just a quick little pinch and then it was gone. Another thing I had to demonstrate before being discharged was that I could pee on my own. It felt odd because I was activating muscles that were still tender, and I was uncertain about what was going on down there, but after being filled with various intravenous fluids as well as the juice and water I had been drinking, it was pretty easy to just sit back, relax, and let it flow. My partner came, wheeled me out in a wheelchair, and took me home where she had configured the bed with a variety of adjustable wedge pillows to ensure I was comfortable.
I was also sent home with a prescription for 15 additional Hydromorphone tablets, and I diligently took those every three hours because I had no desire to be a hero and endure any pain. The doctor prescribed one to two every three hours; I took one every three hours and that was sufficient, cycled with one Tylenol and one Advil every three hours. Getting out of bed was pretty easy; it just felt like I had had a rigorous ab workout and was a bit tender.
The worst part was trying to compel a bowel movement. The opioids are a bit of a double-edged sword in that they really enhance the healing experience, but they also cause constipation at a crucial time when your bowels are already quite shocked and don't need any more discouragement. I started on doctor recommended Colace pills and Restoralax on day one. By day four, I still hadn't had a BM and was starting to feel quite bloated and heavily constipated. What worked for me was a combination of warm milk of magnesia and prune juice. I downed a large glass of that and within about three to four hours, I had explosive diarrhea, which wasn't as bad as it sounds as it was a relief to finally get things moving. I had to endure about a day or two of just expelling liquid but still feeling like I was constipated. I continued to take the Colace and then added in Senokot (which I wouldn't recommend until you've had that first explosive movement) and have been taking that combination now for about a week, and finally, two weeks post-op, I had my first normal bowel movement today.
I ended up refilling my prescription for another 20 Hydromorphone pills about four days after the first. Near the end of that prescription, I started tapering down my dose, which I think helped significantly with the discomfort of weaning off. I've struggled with substance abuse issues in the past (five years sober this month!), so of course, the prospect of using potent drugs for the surgery and recovery was concerning to me and my family, but I can tell you that I was able to ease off without relapsing. I got through the whole experience with minimal pain and suffering. If you can get access to the drugs, do yourself a favor and don’t try to be a hero—take them! You’ve already been a hero dealing with these alien tumors disrupting your body for so long. Honestly, I think the fact that I don’t drink alcohol has probably helped my recovery significantly.
Yesterday, my partner helped remove the steri- strips. They did not fall off on their own as I had read, but they came off easily with just a little bit of pinching. I now see the faintest scars you’d expect from a super minor cat scratch.
My body definitely looks different, and everything just feels better. I always felt that I had an unsightly paunch, but the reality was I had a massive collection of fibroids the size of a bowling ball, and having them removed has made me look quite svelte, and there's still some swelling reduction to happen.
I feel like I could run a marathon, but my partner keeps reminding me to take it easy and to stick to walking only for exercise for the full six weeks. It’s a small investment to make for lifelong health. All in all, my experience was as good as it could be, and to top it off, I got the call from my doctor that my biopsy came back all clear from cancer. Let me know if you have any questions , happy to help you with your journey!

Hi TT fam!
Here's the play by play of my experience today for those who are curious:
Last night I ate dinner at 6pm, showered with my surgical prep soap, got ready for bed, and was asleep by 8pm.
I got up this morning, per instruction, and again washed with my surgical prep soap at 3am. I blow dried and straightened my hair, put on an oversized Mario Bros t-shirt and some gray, baggy, drawstring sweat pants.
I woke up my husband, and we were off to the surgery center at 4:45am. Checked in at 5:45am, and we were called back to the prep room at 6am. Husband waited with me for a bit while I signed consent forms, provided my healthcare directive, undressed, wiped my torso with antimicrobial wipes, swabbed my nostrils with antimicrobial swabs, put on my gown, got my legs in the inflatable circulation devices, and the nurse put on my blood pressure cuff and heart monitors, and got my IV in.
My husband took off to do some shopping nearby. Then the plastic surgeon came in, asked if I had any questions, and marked my body. Next the anesthesiologist came in. He asked me some questions, gave me some oxygen, then gave me two nerve block injections in my abdomen. After that, they started both IV and gas anesthesia.
The next thing I know, I'm awake in the recovery suite and my husband and a nurse are smiling down at me. At this point it was about 11am. I was nude, except for a velcro binder around my torso. The nurse said "they really did you up tight! I think you're going to be very happy!" That made me smile. She went over post op care and medication schedule. They RX oxycodone every 6 hours, zofran every 8 hours as needed, and colace once per day. They also said I can alternate Tylenol and ibuprofen. My husband and the nurse helped me get dressed, and then we were on our way home.
Once home, husband helped me upstairs to our room where I slept for a few hours in our bed with basically a nest of strategically placed pillows. I then woke up and slowly went downstairs. I was greeted with an adorable Clefairy Squishmellow, a balloon and a card from my husband and kids. I was able to use the toilet (and um, hello! My 😺 looks so good now 😭🥹) and then had myself a banana and a protein shake, re-upped on meds, did a couple laps around the kitchen and living room, chatted with my family for a bit, then shuffled back upstairs.
Going from laying to sitting and vice versa is pretty tricky, also sitting to standing. My abdominal muscles are VERY sore and sometimes spasm. I'm also quite tired, but otherwise I feel fine.
I was previously 200 pounds and have also had 3 kids. I lost 90 pounds, leaving my 5'2" frame in rough shape... My insurance fully covered the drainless panniculectomy and abdominoplasty with muscle repair and mons lift! I don't know how much of me was removed yet. I weighed myself after and still weigh the same, so I'm probably swelling a bit. I haven't gotten the nerve to open the binder and peek yet. PS says I can shower tomorrow, so I guess I'll see then! I'll share pics when I'm ready!
TL;DR - Insurance covered drainless panni/TT/Mmons after 90 pounds weight loss. Play by play above. Super happy! Will share updates with pics soon.

Hi May TT fam!
Here's the play by play of my experience today for those who are curious:
Last night, I ate dinner at 6 pm, showered with my surgical prep soap, got ready for bed, and was asleep by 8 pm.
I got up this morning, per instruction, again washed with my surgical prep soap at 3am. Blow dried and straightened my hair, put on an oversized Mario Bros t-shirt and some gray, baggy, drawstring sweat pants.
I woke up my husband, and we were off to the surgery center at 4:45am. Checked in at 5:45 a.m., and we were called back to the prep room at 6am. Husband waited with me for a bit while I signed consent forms, provided my healthcare directive, undressed, wiped my torso with antimicrobial wipes, swabbed my nostrils with antimicrobial swabs, put on my gown, grippy socks, and hairnet, got my legs in the inflatable circulation devices, and the nurse put on my blood pressure cuff and heart monitors, and got my IV in.
The husband took off to do some shopping nearby. Then the plastic surgeon came in, asked if I had any questions, and marked my body. Next, the anesthesiologist came in. He asked me some questions, gave me some oxygen, and then gave me two nerve block injections in my abdomen. After that, they started both IV and gas anesthesia.
The next thing I know, I'm awake in the recovery suite, and my husband and a nurse are smiling down at me. At this point, it was about 11 am. I was nude, except for a velcro binder around my torso. The nurse said, "They really did you up tight! I think you're going to be very happy!" That made me smile. She went over post-op care and medication schedule. They RX oxycodone every 6 hours, zofran every 8 hours as needed, and colace once per day. They also said I can alternate Tylenol and ibuprofen. My husband and the nurse helped me get dressed, and then we were on our way home.
Once home, my husband helped me upstairs to our room, where I slept for a few hours in our bed with basically a nest of strategically placed pillows. I then woke up and slowly went downstairs. I was greeted with an adorable Clefairy Squishmellow, a balloon, and a card from my husband and kids. I was able to use the toilet (and um, hello! My 😺 looks so good now 😭🥹) and then had myself a banana and a protein shake, re-upped on meds, did a couple laps around the kitchen and living room, chatted with my family for a bit, then shuffled back upstairs.
Going from laying to sitting and vice versa is pretty tricky, also sitting to standing. My abdominal muscles are VERY sore and sometimes spasm. I'm also quite tired, but otherwise, I feel fine.
I was previously 200 pounds and have also had 3 kids. I lost 90 pounds, leaving my 5'2" frame in rough shape... My insurance fully covered the drainless panniculectomy and abdominoplasty with muscle repair and mons lift! I don't know how much of me was removed yet. I weighed myself after and still weigh the same, so I'm probably swelling a bit. I haven't gotten the nerve to open the binder and peek yet. PS says I can shower tomorrow, so I guess I'll see then! I'll share pics when I'm ready!
TL;DR - Insurance covered panni/TT/Mmons after 90 pounds weight loss. Play by play above. Super happy! Will share updates with pics soon.
Edited for spelling and punctuation.

DAY: MAY 9 2024

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• 5-9-2024STUDY SHOWS NOT ALL ULTRA-PROCESSED FOODS ARE BAD FOR YOUR HEALTH In recent years, there’s been increasing hype about the potential health risks associated with so-called “ultra-processed” foods. But new evidence published this week found not all “ultra-processed” foods are linked to poor health. That includes the mass-produced wholegrain bread you buy from the supermarket. While this newly published research and associated editorial are unlikely to end the wrangling about how best to define unhealthy foods and diets
• 5-9-2024KETO DIET BOOSTS LIFESAVING ANTIFUNGAL DRUG IN MICE In the United States fluconazole is commonly used to treat yeast infections and thrush, but in other parts of the world—particularly sub-Saharan Africa—it’s also the only drug available to combat life-threatening fungal infections associated with AIDS. For the roughly 150,000 AIDS patients who come down with a life-threatening infection called fungal meningitis each year, there aren’t many options
• 5-9-2024LOW-COST MRI PAIRED WITH AI PRODUCES HIGH-QUALITY RESULTS First introduced five decades ago, MRI scanners are now a cornerstone of modern medicine, vital for diagnosing strokes, tumors, spinal conditions and more, without exposing patients to radiation. A magnetic resonance imaging device built with off-the-shelf parts and paired with AI matched the performance of high-end MRI machines, according to a study published Thursday that could pave the way for greater access to the life-saving tools.
• 5-9-2024HOW ‘BUCKET LISTS’ HELP CANCER PATIENTS HANDLE LIFE AND DEATH In the 2007 film “The Bucket List,” Jack Nicholson and Morgan Freeman play two main characters who respond to their terminal cancer diagnoses by rejecting experimental treatment. Instead, they go on a range of energetic, overseas escapades. Since then, the term “bucket list”—a list of experiences or achievements to complete before you “kick the bucket” or die—has become common.
• 5-9-2024UNRAVELING THE LINK BETWEEN THE MICROBIOME AND ESOPHAGEAL CANCER Microbiota changes in esophageal cancer. The microbiota of the distal esophagus was influenced by acid reflux from the stomach. Acid reflux leads to inflammation and mucosal damage, resulting in the change of microbiome in the distal esophagus. This process allows the columnar epithelium to replace the original squamous epithelium of the esophagus, which can then progress to BE and EAC
• 5-9-2024WHAT MAKES A PUBLIC HEALTH CAMPAIGN SUCCESSFUL? The highest performing countries across public health outcomes share many drivers that contribute to their success. In recent years, the EGH program has begun to identify and study positive outliers when it comes to global health programs around the world
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My grandad is in a nursing home with dementia and no longer remembers anyone. Suspect that the applicant to the below is being shady due to no communication beforehand about sending this letter. Two other family members received the same letter last year, so timing seems weird to have received this now. Applicant already appears to have access to my grandad’s bank cards/funds. What are the implications of this please?
Dear Ms *** Court of Protection Application - We have been instructed to make an application to the Court of Protection on behalf of **, so that he can be appointed as Deputy to manage **’s financial and property affairs. We enclose form COP15PADep. If you are happy with the application proceeding then complete the form at Section 5 and then return it to us. If you have any objections or if you wish to take an active part in the hearing and the proceedings then you should complete the enclosed form COP5 and return it to the Court of Protection. As we are acting in this application then you should seek independent legal advice if you have any queries regarding this letter or the enclosed forms. Yours sincerely