Pain olympics 2 glass jar up

35F, 169cm, 80kg. Type 1 Diabetic on Novorapid and have a Mirena, no other medications.
Can I please have anyone in the know break down this report for me in terms of seriousness. I am in so much pain and my shoulder is "frozen". Any attempts to raise it or reach behind my back results in terrible pain. Orthopaedic Surgeon initially diagnosed me with frozen shoulder, prescribed a cortisone injection and physio. Neither have helped. He finally requested an MRI and l've been able to see this report. I don't see the Dr for a few more weeks, but I want to be able to go in fully armed to plead my case for other methods of treatment. He is lovely buy I feel like he brushes me off. So how serious are these tears and other issues please?
MRI SCAN Findings: Humeral Findings: Humeral head is enlocated and well aligned. No acute fracture or bone marrow oedema. No evidence of a Hill Sachs deformity or bony Bankart. Partial thickness articular surface tear of supraspinatus tendon measures 8 x 8mm. A second separate small insertional tear involving anterior fibres measures up to 3.5mm. Tendinosis of infraspinatus. Subscapularis tendon is intact and of normal signal. Biceps tendon is enlocated within the bicipital groove surrounded by small amount of fluid. Minor partial tear involving the long head of biceps tendon proximal attachment at the glenoid ridge. Labrum remains intact. Articular cartilage is preserved Moderate acromioclavicular joint hypertrophy noted narrowing the cuff outlet indenting and likely impinging supraspinatus at its musculotendinous junction. Bigliani type 2 acromion. Small amount of subacromial fluid in keeping with bursitis.
Conclusion: Partial thickness articular surface tear of supraspinatus as well as smaller insertional tear involving its anterior fibres Suspected partial tear involving the long head of bicep tendon attachment at the superior glenoid ridge. Moderate acromioclavicular joint hypertrophy narrowing the cuff outlet indenting and likely impinging supraspinatus at its musculotendinous junction. Small amount of fluid at the subacromial bursa suggestive of mild focal bursitis.

I, a FTM, am 8 days postpartum and have been trying to breastfeed since I was in the hospital. I started leaking milk at just about 38 weeks pregnant and went into labor at 38+2. I have been finding it incredibly frustrating because my breasts are in so much pain because they feel so full all the time, they leak, and they want to be nursed. My baby has trouble latching because I have flat nipples and I am also very large (38H), so I do what I can to get the nipples to poke out, but he still struggles to latch probably because of the size of my breasts. When he does latch, which I am able to get him to do fairly regularly, he basically gives up sucking within a minute or two because my milk will not come out. So, I pump and not much comes out. I also notice my breasts take turns producing- like one day, it's the left, next day it's the right, then left, then right- today was actually the first day I was able to get something out of both of them at the same time. Between my two breasts today, I was only able to pump 35ml in my first session, which is very low (I think) for 8 days postpartum. Typically, I only have one good pump session per day and after the one good session, I am able to get only 5-10ml out from one breast only.
I'm not sure what's going on or what I can do. I regularly eat lactation snacks and I think I'm pretty hydrated.
Any advice? Anyone know what might be going on? Or is this normal?
TIA.

I’ve been dealing with persistent, painful lip and chin eczema for almost 2 years, with my chin being worse lately. I had 2 painful flares last month and needed steroids each time because even eating was painful. I got a mito red panel, and started using it May 1. This past Friday I started to get another flare, but by bumping up the red light use to morning & night since then, my flare immediately started healing and never got worse than day 1 redness/dryness/pain. I’m cautiously optimistic, but thinking this could be my solution! I also use elidel at night, and will keep that up too.

TLDR: I started a fight and called my boyfriend a pr*ck, because he would not not bring me a glass of wine when politely asked. AITAH?
My boyfriend(31M), let's call him John, and I (30F) have been together for over a year. I live by myself, while John lives with roommates, so when we hang out we do so at my place. This does come with a burden. I do and pay for all groceries, plan meals and cook almost exclusively. He usually helps out by doing the rice/salad and with cleaning the kitchen afterwards. When we go out for meals we split 50/50.
Yesterday, we spent the day at mine. I cooked salmon for lunch, for which I bought all ingredients (it was very expensive), John cooked rice (and he also secretly ate part of my portion for Monday).
In the evening, I asked him to please figure out dinner. He agreed but then sat on phone for 2 hours and then offered frozen pizza, so I went to prep for myself. John asked me to also get him a portion of whatever I was making, then asked for fresh toppings for his pizza, and then he left to call his mum, so I made us both fresh dinner, pimped up his pizza and baked it for him.
After dinner, I ask him to please take the trash out. John said "later", but later he had too many things to carry to his house, so I took the trash out by myself. Before he went out, I asked if later we can open a wine he left behind the other day. John agreed, but not before asking "You don't have any wine around yourself?", which stang given the salmon situation, but I let it slide.
John then went to get stuff from his home and ended up doing chores for 2 hours. When he came back, he poured himself a glass of wine without asking me if I want one and sat down. I asked if he could please also get me a glass, to which he replied "I just sat down, you can get it yourself". I asked if he really won't get me one, he said "no". The mood was light in that moment, he just didn't feel like doing it.
Something in me snapped. I started a fight, called him a "selfish pr*ck" and went to the bedroom with a proper door slam. He called me an AH for fighting over a non-issue and being disrespectful, packed himself and left.
From his perspective, he was tired because he did hours of chores, he walked home and back (7 min walk one way), he hates the stairs to my 2nd floor, and that he picked up around my house last week when I was too depressed to get up (true and I'm forever grateful).
From my perspective, John failed the orange peel test by refusing to bring me the orange whatsoever. I would've gotten him that glass in a heartbeat, so I was blindsided by the fact that he won't. It's also hardly first such instance (e.g. a rage fit when asked to get a bread from downstairs bakery, because *stairs*).
AITA for picking a fight over a nothing-burger? Or was that moment a red flag on his part?

26F 5’2 115Lbs - Type 1 Diabetic, Stage 4 Kidney Failure, Gastroparesis (dozen of medications, that she has been using for a while.) - USA
My wife woke up last night with her throat in some pain, she went back to sleep after having some water. She woke up still with throat pain. I noticed she sounded sick, throat/nasal blockage, as we were talking I noticed, what I thought was a blueberry, something on her tongue. I said “what the f*ck is that?” She said I have no idea, but it feels like my uvula detached or something. She said that whenever she swallows it comes and sits on her tongue and she feels like she’s choking on it. See it here, https://imgur.com/a/UsfaOQ4 . She hasn’t had dialysis since Thursday, could this be a cause?
Any questions, please ask!

I wrote this party as a form of therapy and partly to have it read on okop. Love you guys!!!! You are all awesome! Especially Sofia! She made the podcast whole!!!
About 2 years ago I couldn’t find a place to live and ran out of money paying to live in air bnbs after moving back to the East cost. I was taken advantage by my cousins, I paid the equivalent of $1800 in work a month for a tiny room to live in while also expected to cook and clean 2 hours a day but I refused to do that part.
I had managed to get out of that situation and get my own 1 bedroom apartment and it cost only $1350 a month. A year later I needed help again. My mom who lives 3000 miles away asked my aunt to help me out. My mom had taken off work to help care for my grandpa so she was strapped for cash. My mom told me that my aunt had her old home still with a friend living there and that she would let me live there. But when I talked to her I was told that “you burnt every bridge when you claimed squatters rights and trashed their home.” I was appalled! And heart broken that people were just believing these lies. I had no idea anyone was even taking about me. I was taken advantage of? That’s how I burnt every bridge?????? So I posted this on Facebook
My cousin and her husband took advantage of me when I needed help. They OFFERED. They were my family. I worked my ass off to be treated like a servant (someone has a birthday in the home? I got him a present then They went out to eat without inviting me because I wasn’t considered family to them) I didn’t say anything. I just did what I was told until it became too much. It’s so sad that his fragile ego couldn’t take my criticism when he ADMITTED without me asking that he was testing me. Apparently a test from a book on war. The test is to see how much someone will sacrifice themselves for you with nothing in return. So I was treated like something to sacrifice not like family. And because I refused to sacrifice everything of myself and when I found out I condemned him for his actions He Literally tried to throw me out on the street. I Worked over 30 hours a week for him for a tiny room, while putting 3,000 miles on my car a month. While paying for my own food. I tried so hard because I thought his intentions were pure. In the end I didn’t complain to anyone about this but my mom and sister. Because I’m not that type of person. It was over. I didn’t want to ever think about it again. But recently I was told that I burned every bridge when I claimed squatters rights. Which didn’t happen. I claimed living rights. I didn’t want to be there but I HAD NO WHERE ELSE TO GO and I was working 30 hours a week for him! I was there for 1 day when I wasn’t working for him before I left. 1 DAY! So I was completely taken advantage and this is how I burned every bridge?? The only thing I did wrong was trusting them. I thought they loved me, I helped raise their children and loved them like my own. He WAS MY ONLY FATHER FIGURE GROWING UP. He knew how I felt about him and he completely took advantage of that. So I’m putting my side out there. Because I didn’t even know that any of them were talking shit to people.
Also important note my mom let her and her husband and 3 young kids live in our house for FREE FOR 4 YESRS!!! 20 years ago.
My mom was able to get my asshole father to pay for a down payment on a car for me to live in by taking the cash without permission lol and telling him the money was for her.
I do instacart for work so I really needed that car. I was going to just try to save enough for a room to rent but decided I was done working paycheck to paycheck. I currently am living in my car while saving every cent I would have spent on rent and utilities.
My mom called me yesterday 2 months after the post on Facebook to tell me how upset she was. She told me that after the Facebook post the whole family started talking about me and how I should be able to take care of myself by now. Even though they have no idea what I’ve been through.
(Necessary context) For years my chronic illness, EDS short for Elhers Danlos syndrome, was really bad. At one point I was completely Bed ridden. My boyfriend of 6 years was amazing and became my full time caregiver while working part time to pay for my pain medication. This went on for about a year. I then found a new doctor that put me on a new medication that changed my life. I was able to brush my hair again! I was able to walk again! I was able to work again! Before this new doctor I was looking into getting a wheel chair and filing for disability! Everything was perfect for a few months. Then my bf developed schizophrenia. We were living with my mom for all of this. With in a few months I went from being taken care of by my bf to being his full time caregiver. It took him about 1.5 years to stabilize. Though all this we were working doordash and instacart because neither of us could keep a full time job. When we moved out of my moms place back to the East cost we thought we could just keep working gig jobs but after the pandemic people wanted to go out to eat and shop for themselves. We tried to get real jobs but with out any recent regular work history or references it was really hard. On top of that any job I could get was either part time or lied to me about being full time!! That is the gist of our problems with paying for a place to live.
So back to the main story. My mom told me that her 6 siblings were contacting her one by one to tell her to cut me off. (She had been helping me financially as much as she could for years now) There was a reason my mom lives 3000 miles away and it was to get away from these assholes. The only reason she had contact with them was to coordinate care for my grandfather. Until recently I thought at least some of them were good people. They told her that I was almost 30 years and should be able to care for myself. I had never received help from any of these people! And only ever asked for help from one of them once! I didn’t understand why any of them even cared. Did I make them feel some type of way with my post that talked shit about none of them? (Unless calling out someone for talking shit is talking shit) it’s not like she had been giving me money instead of any of them. The 2nd Best part of the story is the hypocrisy. 3 my cousins, all from different parents, still live with their parents! And they’re all older then me! But no one has a problem with that? My mom asked her brother why it was ok that his daughter was still living with him? My uncle said it was because she has 3 children. My mom then asked him why she should abandon me for not having children I couldn’t afford? Great burn mom! Now this is the best part!! After telling me all of this she says that she wants to pay off my car for me. I was going to wind up paying 20 grand for a 10 grand car because of my lack of credit. So I guess thank you to everyone that told her to cut me off! Because it has only seem to inspire her to help me more!!!
Ps: my mom is writing a book that already has 3 publishers trying to sign her! Exposing all the reasons she moved across the county to get away from all of them. Go her!!!

Some background: I'm a little over 60. I'm an only child., widowed and childless. My father died in 2004.
My mother died February 18 after a year of struggling with stroke, heart failure and pneumonia. I missed getting to say goodbye to her by about 20 minutes. She was everything to me, and I miss her so much. Her birthday, she would have been 89, was late last month. Mother's Day yesterday was very hard. I miss her so so much.
On April 1,my job laid me off. A corporation bought out most of the corporation I worked for and my position was eliminated. I was the seniormost team member, lots of experience and skills and the remaining team couldn't do what I did, and would be overworked taking on my caseload. And yes I think age and disbility discrimination had a lot to do with it.
I am looking for a job. My last employer accepted my request for ADA accomodation to work at home. (I survived a bad car wreck, I walk with a cane, and a lot of walking is just painful). I'm not sure any new employers are interested in that.
I sold my condo I am getting enough money to buy something very modest for cash. And by modest I mean a 'manufactured home' or 'mobile home.' Yes, not many people's idea of 'ideal' housing. But for me - having a paid for little place, small but comfortable, for just me and 2 cats is perfect. Would I rather have a cottage of some sort? Yes. But I can't afford one. And having a paid for house and a paid for car is not a bad thing, you know?
I have found a really cute and well priced home in a clean park in a small city about an hour away. I wll have unemployment coming in soon and I would have enough money left over to pay lot rent, utilities, and food and gasoline and such for awhile.
The thing is - my credit took a dive and these mobile home parks run a check on credit, income, and crime. Let's take those one at a time. First, no criminal history at all. Second, I can say I'm on FMLA leave as a reason for not having May paychecks. (It was true when I was let go so it's lying but only a little). But my credit took a dip because I was paralyzed by my firing and did not pay my mortgage in Aprl. (TBH, I thought about killing myself a lot and I was just trying to leave money for someone to throw me in a cremation oven and rehome my cats.)
I could buy a home but not be allowed to live in a mobile home park because of my credit. I don't know of anything I can do to reverse this. I'm willing to listen to any ideas.
No job - no family - soon no home. This is not a good life. I realize some people have things worse - everyone is always better off than someone else, I suppose. But I have to live my life and it's so lonely and so bleak now. I go to bed (I'm up to 2 unisom, 4 melatonin, 4 tylenol pm now!) and try to stop my brain from going over and over all the ways I'm headed for ruin. But I wake up and my brain tells me that my best days are behind me and I'm going to live with my cats in my car until I just drop them at a shelter, then drive to a gun shop, then, do what I have to do. I don't really want to do that. But there's not much else to do with my crappy life, is there?

Hi, can anyone help me get my server back up and running.
I had it running last night and now when I was going to play I saw that it had crashed. I'm not very good at reading server crash logs :c
I will leave the crash log below:
---- Minecraft Crash Report ---- // This doesn't make any sense!
Time: 2024-05-13 23:46:41 Description: Exception in server tick loop
net.minecraftforge.fml.config.ConfigFileTypeHandler$ConfigLoadingException: Failed loading config file lost_aether_content-server.toml of type SERVER for modid lost_aether_content at net.minecraftforge.fml.config.ConfigFileTypeHandler.lambda$reader$1(ConfigFileTypeHandler.java:47) ~[fmlcore-1.20.1-47.2.20.jar%23908!/:?] {} at net.minecraftforge.fml.config.ConfigTracker.openConfig(ConfigTracker.java:60) ~[fmlcore-1.20.1-47.2.20.jar%23908!/:?] {} at net.minecraftforge.fml.config.ConfigTracker.lambda$loadConfigs$1(ConfigTracker.java:50) ~[fmlcore-1.20.1-47.2.20.jar%23908!/:?] {} at java.lang.Iterable.forEach(Iterable.java:75) ~[?:?] {re:mixin} at java.util.Collections$SynchronizedCollection.forEach(Collections.java:2131) ~[?:?] {} at net.minecraftforge.fml.config.ConfigTracker.loadConfigs(ConfigTracker.java:50) ~[fmlcore-1.20.1-47.2.20.jar%23908!/:?] {} at net.minecraftforge.server.ServerLifecycleHooks.handleServerAboutToStart(ServerLifecycleHooks.java:96) ~[forge-1.20.1-47.2.20-universal.jar%23912!/:?] {re:mixin,re:classloading,pl:mixin:APP:lithostitched.forge.mixins.json:common.ServerLifecycleHooksMixin,pl:mixin:APP:croptopia.mixins.json:ServerLifecycleHookAccessor,pl:mixin:A} at net.minecraft.server.dedicated.DedicatedServer.m_7038_(DedicatedServer.java:162) ~[server-1.20.1-20230612.114412-srg.jar%23907!/:?] {re:mixin,pl:accesstransformer:B,re:computing_frames,pl:accesstransformer:B,re:classloading,pl:accesstransformer:B,pl:mixin:APP:lithostitched.mixins.json:server.DedicatedServerMixin,pl:mixin:APP:mixins/common/nochatreports.mixins.json:server.MixinDedicatedServer,pl:mixin:APP:tombstone.mixins.json:DedicatedServerMixin,pl:mixin:A} at net.minecraft.server.MinecraftServer.m_130011_(MinecraftServer.java:634) ~[server-1.20.1-20230612.114412-srg.jar%23907!/:?] {re:mixin,pl:accesstransformer:B,re:computing_frames,pl:accesstransformer:B,re:classloading,pl:accesstransformer:B,pl:mixin:APP:kubejs-common.mixins.json:MinecraftServerMixin,pl:mixin:APP:kubejs-common.mixins.json:inject_resources.MinecraftServerMixin,pl:mixin:APP:modernfix-common.mixins.json:perf.dedicated_reload_executor.MinecraftServerMixin,pl:mixin:APP:ae2.mixins.json:spatial.MinecraftServerMixin,pl:mixin:APP:citadel.mixins.json:MinecraftServerMixin,pl:mixin:APP:balm.mixins.json:MinecraftServerMixin,pl:mixin:APP:dankstorage.mixins.json:MinecraftServerAccess,pl:mixin:A} at net.minecraft.server.MinecraftServer.m_206580_(MinecraftServer.java:251) ~[server-1.20.1-20230612.114412-srg.jar%23907!/:?] {re:mixin,pl:accesstransformer:B,re:computing_frames,pl:accesstransformer:B,re:classloading,pl:accesstransformer:B,pl:mixin:APP:kubejs-common.mixins.json:MinecraftServerMixin,pl:mixin:APP:kubejs-common.mixins.json:inject_resources.MinecraftServerMixin,pl:mixin:APP:modernfix-common.mixins.json:perf.dedicated_reload_executor.MinecraftServerMixin,pl:mixin:APP:ae2.mixins.json:spatial.MinecraftServerMixin,pl:mixin:APP:citadel.mixins.json:MinecraftServerMixin,pl:mixin:APP:balm.mixins.json:MinecraftServerMixin,pl:mixin:APP:dankstorage.mixins.json:MinecraftServerAccess,pl:mixin:A} at java.lang.Thread.run(Thread.java:842) ~[?:?] {re:mixin} Caused by: com.electronwill.nightconfig.core.io.ParsingException: Not enough data available at com.electronwill.nightconfig.core.io.ParsingException.notEnoughData(ParsingException.java:22) ~[core-3.6.4.jar%2358!/:?] {} at com.electronwill.nightconfig.core.io.ReaderInput.directReadChar(ReaderInput.java:36) ~[core-3.6.4.jar%2358!/:?] {} at com.electronwill.nightconfig.core.io.AbstractInput.readChar(AbstractInput.java:49) ~[core-3.6.4.jar%2358!/:?] {} at com.electronwill.nightconfig.core.io.AbstractInput.readCharsUntil(AbstractInput.java:123) ~[core-3.6.4.jar%2358!/:?] {} at com.electronwill.nightconfig.toml.TableParser.parseKey(TableParser.java:166) ~[toml-3.6.4.jar%2359!/:?] {} at com.electronwill.nightconfig.toml.TableParser.parseDottedKey(TableParser.java:145) ~[toml-3.6.4.jar%2359!/:?] {} at com.electronwill.nightconfig.toml.TableParser.parseNormal(TableParser.java:55) ~[toml-3.6.4.jar%2359!/:?] {} at com.electronwill.nightconfig.toml.TomlParser.parse(TomlParser.java:44) ~[toml-3.6.4.jar%2359!/:?] {} at com.electronwill.nightconfig.toml.TomlParser.parse(TomlParser.java:37) ~[toml-3.6.4.jar%2359!/:?] {} at com.electronwill.nightconfig.core.io.ConfigParser.parse(ConfigParser.java:113) ~[core-3.6.4.jar%2358!/:?] {} at com.electronwill.nightconfig.core.io.ConfigParser.parse(ConfigParser.java:219) ~[core-3.6.4.jar%2358!/:?] {} at com.electronwill.nightconfig.core.io.ConfigParser.parse(ConfigParser.java:202) ~[core-3.6.4.jar%2358!/:?] {} at com.electronwill.nightconfig.core.file.WriteSyncFileConfig.load(WriteSyncFileConfig.java:73) ~[core-3.6.4.jar%2358!/:?] {} at com.electronwill.nightconfig.core.file.AutosaveCommentedFileConfig.load(AutosaveCommentedFileConfig.java:85) ~[core-3.6.4.jar%2358!/:?] {} at net.minecraftforge.fml.config.ConfigFileTypeHandler.lambda$reader$1(ConfigFileTypeHandler.java:43) ~[fmlcore-1.20.1-47.2.20.jar%23908!/:?] {} ... 10 more
A detailed walkthrough of the error, its code path and all known details is as follows: ---------------------------------------------------------------------------------------
-- System Details -- Details: Minecraft Version: 1.20.1 Minecraft Version ID: 1.20.1 Operating System: Windows 10 (amd64) version 10.0 Java Version: 17.0.10, Oracle Corporation Java VM Version: Java HotSpot(TM) 64-Bit Server VM (mixed mode, sharing), Oracle Corporation Memory: 4734454720 bytes (4515 MiB) / 8589934592 bytes (8192 MiB) up to 17179869184 bytes (16384 MiB) CPUs: 20 Processor Vendor: GenuineIntel Processor Name: Intel(R) Core(TM) i5-14600KF Identifier: Intel64 Family 6 Model 183 Stepping 1 Microarchitecture: unknown Frequency (GHz): 3.49 Number of physical packages: 1 Number of physical CPUs: 14 Number of logical CPUs: 20 Graphics card #0 name: NVIDIA GeForce RTX 4070 Graphics card #0 vendor: NVIDIA (0x10de) Graphics card #0 VRAM (MB): 4095.00 Graphics card #0 deviceId: 0x2786 Graphics card #0 versionInfo: DriverVersion=31.0.15.5152 Memory slot #0 capacity (MB): 16384.00 Memory slot #0 clockSpeed (GHz): 4.80 Memory slot #0 type: Unknown Memory slot #1 capacity (MB): 16384.00 Memory slot #1 clockSpeed (GHz): 4.80 Memory slot #1 type: Unknown Virtual memory max (MB): 57510.62 Virtual memory used (MB): 34086.33 Swap memory total (MB): 24894.45 Swap memory used (MB): 102.54 JVM Flags: 20 total; -Xms8G -Xmx16G -XX:+UseG1GC -XX:+ParallelRefProcEnabled -XX:MaxGCPauseMillis=200 -XX:+UnlockExperimentalVMOptions -XX:+DisableExplicitGC -XX:+AlwaysPreTouch -XX:G1NewSizePercent=30 -XX:G1MaxNewSizePercent=40 -XX:G1HeapRegionSize=8M -XX:G1ReservePercent=20 -XX:G1HeapWastePercent=5 -XX:G1MixedGCCountTarget=4 -XX:InitiatingHeapOccupancyPercent=15 -XX:G1MixedGCLiveThresholdPercent=90 -XX:G1RSetUpdatingPauseTimePercent=5 -XX:SurvivorRatio=32 -XX:+PerfDisableSharedMem -XX:MaxTenuringThreshold=1 Server Running: true Player Count: 0 / 20; [] Data Packs: vanilla, mod:betterdungeons, mod:simplemagnets, mod:integratedterminals, mod:laserio (incompatible), mod:modernfix (incompatible), mod:evilcraft, mod:useitemonblockevent (incompatible), mod:yungsapi, mod:gateways 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Hello, everyone. I have an issue at my place of work, and I don't know if it counts as discrimination or if it's legal and I'm overreacting. I'm in the US and I'm above 18 if that means anything.
My boss had a talk with me recently about my attendance. I left work early on 2 different shifts due to pain (I had a flare up of back pain/tension on one shift, and I had an endometriosis flare up on top of an IBS-D flare up on another shift). I was also late a few times (deadass by ONE minute and I got a point), so now my points are "all added up for the year". She asked if I needed less hours to help with my issues. I said no because the amount of hours don't effect me, I just get flare ups. I work at a family owned/operated pet store as a cashiestocker, so the work isn't hard for me. She offered me a paper to get signed by my doctor for accommodations. However, she said that if there are "too many accommodations, we will have to take another route." I'm pretty sure that she hinted at firing me, but it's not my fault for being disabled? I got fed up and explained some of my issues (fainting, back/body pain, some walking issues if I have a flare up, endometriosis flare ups, IBS flare ups, ect) but she dismissed it all and it fell on deaf ears. She told me that they "like me as a worker, but I'm becoming undependable for leaving work early." I've spent NUMEROUS shifts throwing up or "going to the bathroom" just to sit and splash cold water on my face so I don't pass out. I do my best to not leave, but when I do it's because I can't function anymore. I also noticed that after our conversation, and after I told her no to cutting my hours, my hours HAVE been cut and now I have more days off and less hours. Like sis I need money to live. I said to not cut my fucking hours.
Does this count as discrimination in the workplace or am I just overreacting to the whole thing? If it does, what should I do?

So long story sort, not sure if this is related, but last week (10 days ago) my baby girl was laying on my legs infront of the sofa. When I stood up, I stepped with all my weight on her tail. Poor thing started barking, and she was very grumpy at me for a while (I would be, too).
Fast forward to yesterday, I noticed that she couldn't sit down properly. She is taking time, and it looks like she's favouring one of her sides. She has her tail down at all times, and she is very moody. She's not the heart of the party normally, but this is an extreme, even for her.
Today, we went to the vets for her vaccines, and I asked the vet to check on her. He checked her spine and her back chicken thighs, and she looked alright until he reached the tail. That was when she squealed.
He said it's either the tail or she pulled a nerve, but poor thing can't even lay down properly. I have stuck two beds on top of each other to make it comfy for her.
I'm so scared I broke her tail and feel so guilty that I forgot she's there. :'(
I touched her legs and her tail again this evening, but she didn't react, so now I'm back at not knowing.
Do you guys have similar experiences ? And how long after did you get symptoms of pain ?
I'm not sure if the below are relevant, but:

1. her heat cycle is due. Do you think it might be discomfort from that ?
   
2. She's been running off lead, a lot the past few days, which I didn't allow her to do before.
   

Thank you for all the replies. I might be too dramatic, but it's just me and her, and I hate seeing her in pain.

My boyfriend (30M) has been working for his stepdad (mid 50s) for the past 8 years as a carpenter. It's a small business with 4 guys total, including my BF and stepdad. None of the guys are actual employees, they're contractors, and the stepdad has explicitly told them before that he's not responsible for them, so they can leave and work for others at any point. It's a very negative environment, with constant drama, lack of communication, inconstant (and lack of) hours, etc.
Recently my BF received an excellent offer from his friend for about 40-50k more per year. He's extremely excited about it and when he went to explain to his stepdad that he would be leaving in 2 weeks, the stepdad FLIPPED OUT. He started screaming profanities at my BF, told him to tell his friend to go F himself, then randomly brought up my BF's mom's gambling addiction and said that the next time his mom goes gambling at the casino, he can be responsible for her and deal with it himself, that she's not the stepdad's problem anymore. He kept repeatedly saying "you're really sticking it to me, huh!" because the stepdad is beginning a new 3-month project and needs my BF's help (he's his best guy in the crew). Then the stepdad got the mom involved, and the mom told my BF he needs to help his stepdad, and that he's not supposed to leave the family business, and then said the stepdad is going to actually quit his own business and work for someone else, so my BF better not ever try to come back. Yada yada.
My BF maintained his composure, thankfully, but I've noticed he has been very "numb" the past few days since it happened. I am asking for advice on how to best support him, and how to manage the relationship with the family from here on. My BF is still giving his stepdad 2 weeks of work, and his stepdad never apologized to him and is acting like nothing happened. I can feel my BF's immense hurt deep down, and no matter how hard I try to reassure him that he made the right decision, and that he doesn't deserve to be treated that way, I feel like he has all his walls up and I don't know how to get through to him. It kills me that he is in pain, and I want to make sure I give him appropriate space to process right now, but also stay there for him as a strong support. I also don't know how to deal with these parents in the future, seeing as my BF and I plan to get married and have kids, and the parents seem absolutely nuts. Help!

A little back story: 2 years ago, I left a relationship that left me shattered and broken. He was the 1st person I actually felt something for, but now that I think about it, I think it was more of a trauma bond vs love, and the feelings were probably anxiety vs connection. I never got the closure I needed or wanted. We got in an argument, and he left and said he doesn't want to talk about it or deal with it, it's over etc. I never got to say what I wanted or needed. He didn't block me but he stopped replying no matter how much I texted. It was very cruel. I was so hurt and broken I think I subconsciously pushed aside all feelings and emotions associated with it and drank it all away. Then I got my life together and became sober. I've been sober for over a year now.
I got help, traveled, worked on myself, focused only on work, friends, family, and important people, picked up new hobbies. I started manifesting a new life, a genuine love connection, a healthy relationship, more money. Things were going really well, and things were falling into place. I got bonuses and raises at work so my money manifestation worked. I'm in transition right now, so will be moving into a new place in a few months in a city closer to my family and friends and I couldn't be happier. I was feeling at peace, and happy. Then this ex must have sensed it, cuz he texted me and came right back into my life. I forgot how I felt 2 years ago, and let him back into my life. Nothing happened, but we started to text and talk more, then last week we got into the same argument as we did 2 years ago, and it was like a huge flashback. And I lost my shit, and screamed and yelled and all the emotions I didn't want to feel all came rushing back and I felt everything. It was painful, heart shattering, and he did the exact same thing he did 2 years ago. He left, said he doesn't wanna deal with my emotions, and does not want to talk to me again. He called me crazy and immature. I was soooo angry I texed him how I felt and he never replied.
I'm right back to where I started (not entirely) with feeling crappy, angry, pissed off, all of that. I talked to someone spiritual and she said it's because I'm close to my manifestation for finding true love and the universe sent back this one incident so I could feel all I didn't feel before, put it all out on the surface so I can finally let go for good. I'm not really sure though and I can't figure out why the universe sent him back again and repeated the situation.
I would love to hear some thoughts on this.

I lost my pup 2 weeks ago now & I thought as days went on things would start to feel a bit “easier” but for me there have been mixed feelings… sadness, guilt & anxiety.
We discovered my 11yr old lab had a large mass on her liver after a scan that we were told to get because her liver enzymes were extremely high on bloodwork.
I was told surgery was the only option and was very hopeful of recovery. Unfortunately, during the surgery the surgeon found out the tumor was adhered to the organ and surroundings. It was very fragile and at high risk of her bleeding out. I was shocked to get a phone call from the surgeon mid surgery with my girl on the table asking if he should proceed and risk her bleeding out/ dying or just take a biopsy and close her up. I chose the second option as I wanted more time with my girl!
Unfortunately it was cancer & I think surgery caused a quicker decline. I only got 8 more weeks with my girl after this. I chose to do a scheduled at home euthanasia which I highly recommend but up until that day she was still walking & eating. Which made it tougher. Despite her living on pain killers and still constantly panting, yelping & losing a lot of her weight.
My guilt came even before putting her down.. maybe I could have gotten her bloodwork done sooner or possibly a second opinion or scan showing that the surgery was a bad idea! My rational mind says I know I tried my best given the info I had and I didn’t let her suffer more.. but I still feel some guilt all the same.
My anxiety comes in when I am alone.. I’ve had my dog since I was 18. I live alone now for the first time in my life. I find myself getting rushes of anxiety at night before I am about to fall asleep. I am terrified whenever I hear a noise in the house. I never worried about this before. My lab barked and protected the house.. if it was someone trying to break in she’d tell me.
I can’t fall asleep comfortably or stay asleep. I have nightmares and find myself waking up and not being able to fall back asleep for hours. I do have a bit of ptsd induced anxiety from a traumatic childhood/ teenage years. I didn’t realize how much she was helping me with this until now that she’s gone..
I’m not sure I can live without a dog.. but then the guilt comes back in if I am getting another dog too soon. 😔
Maybe this will subside? Has anyone else felt like this?

My PMDD symptoms used to be on the milder side - my period itself isn’t too bad and is relatively average, but the 2 weeks leading up to it is absolutely awful. I have really bad suicidal ideation, my energy is insanely low, and I am just so irritable and depressed. I also get horrible UTIs that keep me up for hours at night, even though I try not to drink water 2-3 hours before I go to sleep. Work is hard for me when I’m up until 4am with those pains. I also bloat so badly to the point where it’s painful and I feel like I’m going to burst after simply drinking water in the morning. For 2 weeks, it’s nonstop agony, pain, and suffering, but I get my period the next morning and I’m suddenly fine. It’s to the point where I count down the days to my ovulation and anticipate the next 2 weeks of hell. I talked to my doctor and I went on birth control, and it admit it helped, but I gained 40LBS in 3 months from the side effects so I stopped. And now shedding off that weight feels impossible. I just feel so stuck and lost. I’m primarily ranting but would love any advice.

I’ll go first today it’s my 28th,
In the last week we’ve had to buy a new washing machine and our oven has broke My car started pissing fluid, I called breakdown and as they turn up my toddler throws up,
Then I get an email saying I owe nursery fees which I didn’t, it was a computer error
Fast forward 2 days to my birthday I didn’t book my birthday off work, as it’s only the evening, my mum took me out and by time we got back I had to get ready for work didn’t get time to even fart
my car is currently unroadworthy and had to wait a week for the mechanic so my colleague took me,
I’m at work and the hoover wheel kept falling off and then so did the top of it, honestly I wanted to launch it
So I’m at work my first day back after missing 2 days due to my child & car, my partner calls me and tells me our child has a really high temperature and they need to go to hospital after calling 111, so I call my dad to take them and call my manager so I can leave (I’ve never met her she started last week so imagine she’s like wtf)
My phones about to die I realise I took my broken charger to work - I’m like fucking really at this point
My dad takes them then comes picks me up
But there’s another problem my work is gated and after a certain time you need a code, I forgot the code and my manager didn’t have the code neither so then we’re thinking of ways I can escape if my dad were to be much later than my colleague, Bins were suggested for the sensor to get out but I said they’re huge and it’s about 200ft to drag that, I’ll climb it (she said no girl cmon)
luckily through timing my dad arrives the same time my colleague is leaving, we drive up the road and it’s so dark because a country lane and the evening, she slows down to see if it’s my dad, I can’t see as I haven’t got my driving glasses on and my dads lights are like the fucking sun - I realised it is my dad just as he’s swearing at my colleague about stopping for no reason thinking she’s a random person
My toddler is okay now, but this has to be the worst birthday ever

40 yo female. 5'3" 115lbs. No pre existing health issues outside of this kidney stone. Daily meds are Slynd, Flomax, and pain killers.
3mm stone in the right distal ureter diagnosed by CT on 4/30. I presented with lower pelvic pressure/UTI symptoms. No flank pain. In a 2 week time span, I've had 2 episodes of severe 10/10 flank pain about 2 hours apart. Leading up to and between, my kidney hurt and felt swollen. Then it all just disappeared. A few days later I was passing tiny blood clots and had blood in my urine. Confirmed by 2 different urinalysis. In this time I was having intermittent pelvic pressure and UTI feeling.
However, the past 4 days I've woken up with flank pain. It typically passes with aleve within half an hour. This morning it did not pass and was on my kidney, my hip, and the right side of my stomach. It was significant enough I thought it was a precursor to another 10/10 episode. It has since died down but a dull ache has remained all day. I may be having visible hematuria again...not 100% sure.
It was not visible on xray and I had an ultrasound on Friday that showed no hydronephrosis and no hydrometer..
Why am I just now having flank pain and what point do I need to return to an ER?
Thanks in advance!

Hi all,
12 year old female chihuahua/dachshund mix, 12 pounds, (neutered), living in Bay Area.
My dog's tail has been permanently down since the afternoon of Friday, May 3. It's usually up. I noticed it happen right around the time I was thinking of taking her for her walk. She had been wagging her tail just before. No accident or big event to cause it. It's different from the tail down she normally does when she's scared or anxious (in those cases it's very wrapped down with her tail between her legs), but it seems more like she's lost the ability to lift her tail back up. It's almost like there's a little kink at the base of her tail. She does not seem to be in any pain when I manipulate her tail. She still gets excited and wags her tail but it's just permanently hanging down.
Playtime energy levels are about the same, still wants to play tug of war with her toys, will run and jump around chasing after toys. The 2 biggest differences we can see are on her walks (1) every couple of feet she will stand completely still on her walks and not want to walk anywhere, but also doesn't seem like she wants to go back home (2) her pooping stance has changed. She usually tucks her pelvis under in like a rounded squat like posture to poop but now she barely squats, almost just stays standing with her tail still hanging down, and her poops just fall out. Poops are much smaller than usual, but thankfully she is still pooping.
Any thoughts? Appreciate your help!

My surgery is scheduled for May 29th. I was planning on going through insurance, got the pre-authorization, but I had my last consultation with the doctor last Thursday and she hit me with a few sudden shocks.
She had told me at my first appointment that I was a good candidate for a reduction. At this one she said, "You're actually a little small for a reduction and your insurance is wanting me to take out at least 500g from each breast. You have maybe 700g in each breast so I don't know if I can do that safely." She recommended I do the procedure and pay privately so she doesn't have to try and go as small as possible. I didn't even know that insurance could refuse after the fact so now I'm facing down a bill that's 3-4x higher than I expected.
My insurance uses the Schur scale and I already knew about the Schur scale but after digging into it some more it's some bullshit. I've always been dense but not overly large, growing up at one point I was in like the upper 2% range of weight for my age group when I was in soccer and in the best shape of my life. The doctor told me I needed to lose weight and my mom was like "where??!?!?" So I've always weighed more than I actually look and that always gets me on BMI cause my BMI is always high but I don't look as big as I should at that BMI. So seeing that the Schur scale is based on weight is such bullshit. My breasts aren't massive, but they're massive for my frame, but because of my density, the Schur scale is saying I have a bigger surface area than I really think I do, and so because of that insurance won't cover me. So I'm pissed off.
But yeah, after digging into it I don't think there's any way the surgeon can pull out as much as insurance demands. I'm frustrated, I'm stressed, and I'm pissed. Guess my pain means nothing to the stupid insurance :/
I am at a loss. I don't know what to do. I was looking forward to it all, getting ready for it, (I even already had my pre-op physical) but now I'm not sure if I can go through with it. It's one thing to expect a bill and then be told three weeks out that it's actually going to be 3-4x higher than expected. Any advice or ideas would be extremely helpful. I truly don't know what to do.

A month or so ago I busted my phone, and it was a huge pain in the ass. Aside from some lost data which was minor, the biggest PIA was resetting MFA, getting in touch with my US banks, and any other services that were tied to my phone. The experience also made me take a step back and realize I am pretty lax with security, and if someone had gotten hold of my phone and somehow god-forbid gotten the passcode, then I'd be fucked. They could do so much damage with unlimited access to my email + MFA SMS, even in just a few hours.
As a result, I kind of went down the ADHD rabbit hole hyper-fixating on how best to "optimize" my iPhone and iCloud configuration for two things:

1. If it breaks, the transition to a new device will be relatively painless. I won't have to spend several days stressing and trying to find the right international customer support number for a myriad of institutions and services to get into my accounts.
   
2. If it gets stolen and compromised, then there will be enough barriers such that the I'll have enough time to lock down the device and/or my accounts remotely before the thief can get key data or move funds.
   

So I put together this guide and checklist that I thought I'd share with others. I am a programmer but by no means a security guru, and so if any IT, DevOps, or SecOps folks want to chime-in with suggestions or improvements, please do.

Requirements

• an iPhone XR, iPhone XS, iPhone 11, iPhone 12, iPhone 13, iPhone SE (2nd generation), and iPhone 14 or newer for eSIM compatibility.
• a US-based carrier with eSIM support + a pay-as-you-go model for international travel (I use Verizon)
• iOS 17 or above (may not be strictly necessary, but I know my setup works with iOS 17.4.1)
• a password manager. I personally use 1Password because it works, is reliable, has cross-device support, and is easy and intuitive. It's also only $3/month.

Dual Sim Setup

I have been rocking an iPhone 12 for the past few years, and it's served me very well. I know the newer iPhones (14 and up) no longer offer physical SIM card support, but carriers in most developing countries are behind the curve. Even if they offer eSIM support, it's been my experience that it's a major headache to get setup, there is a lack of customer support in English, and they may even require a local ID to register the eSIM. It's way easier to just head to a shop and pay $5 for a SIM card, load some funds onto it, and then you're good to go.
The eSIM has been very helpful for maintaining a US phone number for which I can receive SMS texts from my banks and other financial services as well as continue to use iMessage with all my US contacts since hardly anybody is on Whatsapp.
Most, if not all, carriers in the US support eSIMs now, and so you should try to find a carrier that offers an international pay-as-you-go plan. Verizon offers two international plans - one is a "Travel Pass" where it's a flat fee of $10/day anywhere outside the US or Canada (even for just one text message). The other is "pay for what you use" which has a rate per text, minute, and mb. For my US plan, I only care about receiving SMS texts from my banks and the occasional phone call to a service that doesn't have an international, toll-free number. Data will always be cheaper outside the US, so I disable cellular data switching for my US line.
The last time I was in the US was for the holidays and I bought 2 used iPhone 12's for about $200 each. They have some scuffs, but they're perfectly serviceable. In LATAM, it also doesn't attract nearly as much unwanted attention in the street as an iPhone 14 or 15.
I brought these with me as extra devices. When my phone busted last month, thankfully I had a backup in iCloud and everything was loaded in a few minutes as normal. This was before I was using the eSIM, but if I had the eSIM I could just go to Verizon support online via chat and they could help me switch the line to the new device easily.

Basic Configurations

• Always use the latest version of firmware
• Require a passcode that's unique to that device.
• Use FaceID instead of passcode when possible (a thief can't snipe your passcode from a distance if you unlock your phone with FaceID)
• Set auto-lock to 30 seconds (lowest possible)
• Erase data upon excessive passcode failures note, this is complemented in a later step with daily backups. The odds of you putting in the wrong passcode 10 times is low, but in the event you do and you wipe the device by accident, you should be able to easily load in a back-up from the previous day)
• Turn off "Ask to Join Networks"
• Forget unused networks so that you don't rejoin automatically (airports, hotels, etc.)

Creating Backups

• Set iCloud backups to run automatically every night. This will allow you to load your entire phone as is (contacts, call history, iMessages, apps, even your wallpaper) onto another device during setup. The iCloud backup usually runs at 2am while I'm sleeping.
• You may need to pay for a higher tier in iCloud if you have too much stored on your phone. It's $3/month for 200gb of iCloud storage, and I find it worth it. Though I know some people with tens of thousands of photos for which 200gb might not be enough.

Password Policy

• For any accounts that may contain sensitive data (payments, PII, etc), always generate a unique password with 1Password. Don't reuse passwords. Same goes for PIN codes.
• For core accounts, create a strong but memorable password and then memorize it. The odds of getting locked out of 1Password are low if you're diligent, but for 2 or 3 core accounts (where you access money, your primary recovery email, your iCloud, 1Password), it's worth it to create strong, unique passwords for each core service and memorize them.
• I try not to reuse passwords in general, but I still sometimes am lazy and use one of my handful of typical passwords if there's no sensitive data collected by the service and it's a service I don't use often.

MFA

Set up MFA with everything. Add multiple options if possible. My preferred MFA options are as follows:

1. One-time code that renews every 30 seconds. This is device agnostic and can be stored in 1Password. You could also use Microsoft Authenticator, Google Authenticator, Authy or similar, but there's just more overhead to now recover those accounts if your device becomes inaccessible.
2. One-time code to recovery email.
3. One-time code via SMS to my US phone number. On the pay-as-you-go Verizon plan, I only pay 5 cents per text message received. It's worth it to keep one consistent number.
4. List of recovery codes (stored in 1Password as an attached txt file for the given account)
5. Use another app for verification (Google does this a lot).

Lockdown your iCloud security

• Enable MFA.
• Create a strong, unique password.
• Remove any old or unused devices from the iCloud account (old phones, ipods, etc).
• Enable "Find My" for all of your devices.
• In Find My, configure all devices to send the last known location.
• In Find My, enable the configuration to remotely wipe a device.

In the event your phone is stolen, the idea is you could run back to any of your devices or even use a friend's device to log into iCloud on the web, go to Find My, and then in a single button click you can lock and wipe the stolen device. If the thief turned off the device or disabled wifi/cellular, then as soon as it comes back online it will be wiped.

Final Clean-Up

• Move any compromising photos to the "hidden" folder (which requires FaceID or passcode to unlock)
• Review the Files app for any documents containing sensitive info. If you need these documents to be accessible on mobile, then move them to 1Password and delete them from the Files app.
• Create a shortcut to trigger the lock screen (and thus require FaceID or passcode) when specific apps are opened (banking, email, photos, etc).
• Not sure if this is best practice, but I just keep everything in 1P and turn off apple keychain and the apple built-in password manager. I also don't save passwords in Chrome or Safari.

Extra tips

These aren't really iPhone tips but general tips. They are probably obvious to you if you aren't as scatterbrained as me, but I figured that I'd drop them here in case they help someone.

• Add thorough security measures to iCloud, primary email, and any banking or financial services. Review each account and make sure you have a strong, unique password as well as a unique PIN, MFA configured, login alerts, recovery codes, and an international, 24-hour toll-free phone number stored somewhere to contact the service in the event of a crisis. For banking services, add withdrawal limits, regional restrictions (if you bounce between the same few countries), and SMS notifications for charges over a certain threshold. Open up a second checking account with a separate debit card for trips to the ATM.
• Consolidate and close any unused bank accounts. I realized that on my phone I had Revolut, Venmo, Paypal, Nequi, plus 4 US banking institutions. I took this time to close my Discover account (which is pretty much useless outside the US anyway), close my Revolut account since I'm hardly ever in the UK/EU, and consolidate investment accounts from different institutions into just a handful that's easier to monitor.