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Cognitive Behavorial Therapy: Thinking ourselves better

2013.09.28 21:30 yellowyn Cognitive Behavorial Therapy: Thinking ourselves better

A subreddit focused on the practice of Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT). Cognitive Behavioral Therapy is a form of psychotherapy that emphasizes the important role of thinking. CBT starts with the assumption that changing maladaptive thinking leads to change in behavior and emotions. The treatment focuses on changing an individual's thoughts (cognitive patterns) in order to change his or her behavior and emotional state.
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2024.04.28 21:17 Dry-Exercise-275 Neverending situationship, to relationship. Breakup to rebound (Yes, I'm a mess)

Hello, I want to tell you a bit about my relationship story, if any of you relate or have any advice, perspective or anything I would gladly appreciate it! I also just want to provide some entretainment for ya'll as a way to cope. Thanks for reading:)
So I met this person (I'll call her "R") in around May last year. I had just ended a relationship with a long term girlfriend the year previous, and also having some failed dates afterwards. As a way to move on I started attending art shows and galleries, artists meetups in which I could meet new people and just overall be more social. This is where I met R. We were aware of each other beforehand, we just never got to "talk" until a mutual friend introduced us. Nowadays I see these as the good times. Life just felt better. It wasn't love at first sight, she was a somewhat akward, emotionally restrained and dorky person (I mean as kindly as I can) This is all something I wasn't used to, but I didn't let that detour my interest in her. There's just something about pationate artists that makes them endlessly captivating... We were both very eager to get to meet each other, and it really felt like we were taking things slow and calm, for a while. Hung out, went to cafés together, we happened to live nearby so we enjoyed a lot of calm walks. She was fairly quiet, but I just enjoyed soaking in her company. It felt right, it really did.
Turns out she was dating another person during this whole time. Enter "S" For some context, we both live in a small impoverished country, life's not bad but we are far from rich. This person is someone she met in one of her travels to Europe and so, at the time, it was a long distance relationship. I found out about this months into knowing her. I guess she felt somewhat guilty because she opened up about on the first day we ver held hands. R described how the relationship was failing and she was meaning to end it. I believed her, I was patient, understanding and I didn't mind. After all, we weren't techincally in a realtionship so why would I fret?
But of course, things ended up progressing. Things became more intimate between the both of us. I started visiting her regularly and this is where I actually and completely fell in love with her. The intimacy brought up a softer, kinder, more attentive side to her. She talked to me all about her interests, we went through her childhood photos together, cooked together and I got to know her family a bit. I visited her almost every week before going to class (We were both uni students). In retrospective, those months were the calmest I've ever felt.
Time is a bit foggy for me now, but it I would guess it was the week in which we kissed for the first time that I said "Hey, I just feel that if there was a right time to date, it would be now" She neither agreed or disagreed. I was okay with it. Maybe I brought it up too soon, I tought.
Imagine how I felt when she broke down the news to me. S was visiting our little tropical country, all the way up from europe for a videogame tournament. And being that he didn't know anyone else here, S would be staying at "R's" house. If you guessed I was angry, horrified, jelous, betrayed or whatever else, well I'm sorry to say you are wrong. I can see I acted a bit like a pushover at this point. Not only didn't I say anything, but I also provided full support and understanding in the situation. "Yeah, S already bought the tickets and he doesn't want to refund them, I understand" I said patiently. "Okay so he will be staying at your house for half a month? Alright, no issue with that" I'm now fully aware I'm also responsible for encouraging this behavior.
At the time, I learned to become as least troublesome as possible for her. And when he eventually came around, I stopped visiting, stopped uploading photos with her. All at her request. I learned to not complain or question at all. Nowadays i'm stuck between how I brough this own to myself and also her having some manipulative tendencies. It might be a bit of both, but i've always struggled at pointing fingers.
Still, there was something deeply wrong and embarrasing about this situation. I talked it out with friends and they all adviced me to dump her. Of course I didn't. We still had about half a year to go at this point.
Eventually this dude "S" left and I never brought up the topic again. She eventually told me they broke up, but, and would be deeply affected by it. I suppose she got over it. Still, it felt They would usually go like this: I would ask a question, she would answer in an ambiguous and obtuse way, I would press further, and at the end of it all, I would end up far more confused than before. These conversations usually ended when I felt dizzy and confused from all the semantics. Needless to say it was all very tiring and it went on for months and months. I would bring her over and my family will keep asking me if we were dating. i couldn't give them a straight answer.
During all this, we also had a lot of good times together. Things I still think about and deeply miss. I won't dwell on that but we became close friends, art collaborators, each other's comfort. We were always down for each other, when she was sick I would go visit her. She would pick me up from uni and said how she didn't mind at all, as she enjoyed my company a lot. I felt small and protected around her. It's weird I know. We would attend the same art events together and act like boyfriend and girlfriend in front of our friend group. She's this tomboy-ish, shy type person but let out her soft side around me. A fact that made me feel very special. I miss that a lot, too.
We made plans for long and short term, talked constantly. It really felt like the real deal, but it wasn't. The confusing conversations about the nature of our relationship were still as constant and tiring. I ended up not trusting her on giving me a yes or a no, ever. I ended up being okay with it all, but deep down I grew in resentment. I even went on some dates that never builded up to anything. This was my way to get back at her, but she still was the main character in my life. I was always, always there for her.
Things didn't reach a boiling point or anything. I was never argumentative with her, just genuenly curious on why was she doing this to our relationship, why wouldn't she just commit. I'll say this as unceremoniously as it felt at the time. I'ts january now, we had some great holidays together, with each other's family. We had this one call, the usual conversation. She eventually reached a point in which she said something among the lines of "Well I guess there's nothing stopping us from having a relationship. If it did were to happen, would you mind it happening over the phone?" I said no, and she replied "Well I guess that's it, we're dating now" I still can't understand this, but this moment felt empty. I didn't feel I earned it, or that it was special. But I knew it meant something, we were dating now.
Perhaps i've been painting myself as a bit of a victim until now, and even though it felt like it, this is the point I did very wrong. I just assumed the relationship didn't feel "real" And I was very unsatisfied for various reasons, most of them stemming from her personality. Perhaps this was unfair of me, I now think I don't understand how to truly love someone. It seemed she was commited to me, but at this point I was so exhausted I couldn't do the same.
Things dragged out, I dated her until I couldn't. I couldn't see a future with her anymore, I didn't know if I could even trust her. I still can't explain the mess of feelings I had at the time, but it felt as if I needed to escape, break off. I reverted to my old habits, I started talking to someone else. Let's call her "A" "A" caught my eye at the end of the year party at my university, she seemed like a fun, outgoing person and I ended up messaging her. We hit it off right away.
Long story short. I broke up with "R" with full intent to date "A" and "R" was heartbroken, absolutely hearbroken. She couldn't understand why I would do such a thing to her, and I did an awful job at explaining why. I was too afraid to anger her. Again, I take accountability for this and regret it.
She begged me, she reasoned with me, called me. I was over it, I felt unsatisfied and drained, didn't feel like myself. But I decided I should break things as soon as possible, as to not make them more painful and unfair for her. So a couple days after valentine's, I did so.
I started going out with "A" and had a great honeymoon period, had a lot of fun hanging out, sharing interests. At first "R" texted me, and I always replied back and was as understanding as I could be, but I always set the limit as to not meet each other. I don't know what to think about it anymore. Perhaps I was too dismissive. She needed me, but I was unavailable.
Things were a fog for the following two months after or breakup with "R"
I went out with "A" a lot, I didn't think about my past relationship at all. If you know anything about rebound relatinoships you might know where I'm going with this.
Two months pass and then, the smallest trigger hit me like a whole truck. "R" was my girlfriend, how did things end up so suddenly? What did it all meant? I felt like I did awful by not giving in to her offers to get back togehter, I felt I was blinded. I missed her a lot, I felt like i loved her and fucked it up. Couldn't sleep, couldn't eat, I was highly anxious, cried every day. I just missed her. I still do.
As you can tell, this leaves me no room to be a true partner to "A". This is something she doesn't deserve.
Three months in and I can sense how my shortcomings caused all of this. I failed both relationships. Nowadays I have convinced myself I truly love "R" but was too stuck up and blind to actually appreciate the way she loved me back. I still have this deep need to reach out and talk things out, but I also feel time is running out. This keeps me in a constant anxious state. I count the weeks with my fingers. One, two, three, four. How long was it the last time we talked? Is it too late now? would she hate it if I texted her? Does she still feel the same? Is she dating someone new?
Needless to say this compulsion took over my life for this past half a month, and of course my relationship whith "A" deteriorated. I stopped being as attentive to her, I started to dial back on my affection towards her and she noticed, she brought it up and I apologized, but still haven't given any reasons. She really is a sweet and understanding girl, but she also has a strong personality, she doesn't allow much BS in her life, and so she confronts things head on. I'm aware I should do the responsible thing and break up.
This past weeks i've been reaching out to friends, talking the situation out and also booked some theraphy appointments. I really need some help to sort things out. Im almost ashamed to admit this but deep down I feel the need to get back together with "R" I feel I became addicted to the challenge of our relationship, the rewards and the trials. "A" doesn't deserve this at all, of course. But i'm weak. I still can't build up the courage to break things off when she has given me no reason at all. This is how i've coped so far: I plan to bring up the topic on my first session of theraphy (That's tomorrow as the time I'm writting this) to get some guidance on how to break things off with "A" as I know, independently if I end up back in my old relationship or not, I'm in no position to date her, and it wouldn't be fair to lead her on. I know this will hurt the both of us too.
I know I'm not acting rationally but I figured I talked openly about it. I still have deep feelings for my ex and plan to talk to her about it before it is too late for the both of us. Everyone has adviced me to not to this at all, they've told me that "R" didn't respect me or my boundaries. I understand that, but I can't feel it as deeply as the need to explain myself, hear her out and just overall ammend things with her.
Again, this is were i'm at now. We're about two weeks from what would've been the aninversary of the first time "R" and I talked. Im delulu, I plan on texting her that very day for what I can only call spiritual reasons, but also to allow me to get some theraphy sessions in first.
I'f she's down to talk, I will. If she isn't I would at least not live with that regret forever. Maybe she's dating someone new, as she did with her last boyfriend and then me. I don't know. But that's my plan until now.
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TL;DR: I stayed in a long, confusing situationship for about a year in which my boundaries were not respected. Ended up dating a short while, broke it off, dated someone new and now I feel stuck, regretting everything. I'm aware none of this is okay.
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P.S, If any of you were invested enough to read until this point, I thank you a lot! Perhaps you are in a similar situation, or have been before, so I hope reading this has helped you gain some neutral perspective to your own situation, or just serve as harmless entretainment. I thank you for hearing me out.
I'm also aware I could come off as self pitying and frustrating to the reader, given my actions and apparent patterns of behavior. Still I thank you for reading and encourage you express your honest opinion if you feel inclined to do so. Just keep it respectful of course.
Again, thank you all for reading:) This has been very helpful to me so I'm happy I did it anyways. Have a wonderful day.
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2024.04.28 18:35 hahahaok7 How easy is it for you to claim something?

I’ve been thinking about this. There was this Gabrielle Arruda podcast episode on style impostor syndrome. She mainly talked about stuff like Kibbe, but I think it could easily be applied to this system as well. One thing she mentioned is how it’s hard to be sure of something when you don’t have enough style data. I think that’s definitely true. Lately I’ve been getting in the habit of taking daily outfit photos. I still haven’t tried to actually analyze them.
In this system claiming a quadrant was fairly easy. Maybe not at first, but after trying other style logics my real quadrant became clear. So I was mostly going by the process of elimination rather than identifying with descriptions, check lists or my essence. Archetypes are harder because they seem to mainly rely on identifying with descriptions and vibes. Like feeling strongly left, but not as up or feeling very up but not all that left. Those concepts don’t make as much sense to me. Those concepts being unclear to me also make me rely too much on outside feedback. That’s gotten me into a lot of toxic situations in the past.
I think this has been an issue for my life in general. To keep myself busy I’ve been into MBTI and personality typing. I sort of dismissed it at first because I kept getting different results every time I took a test. At first I thought I must be INFP or ENFP. Then someone suggested I might be an INTP instead. I’m still not sure about that, but that seems to be common for INFP/INTP. One thing that makes INTP make sense is that often don’t know how I feel about something or my values. That often seems very fluid. I have no trouble expressing how I feel about stuff when I truly have a strong feeling, but a lot of the time I just don’t.
That makes a lot of things challenging including going shopping or decluttering. I often just don’t know how I feel about things. It also makes it hard to read archetype and quadrant descriptions and know where I fit just based on that. I often just don’t know what I value, how I feel or what my vibe is. I know people can easily say I’m “over analyzing” everything, but maybe that’s just what I do when people expect me to know how I feel about something and I just don’t.
This also made a bunch of style books challenging for me because a lot of the style books I’ve read such as the Triumph of Individual Style often have worksheets about who you are as a person. I often either had trouble filling them out or figuring out why those questions are even relevant to what I want to wear. So I often gave up in frustration. I guess for me a lot of things feel compartmentalized from each other, so a lot of these worksheets don’t exactly work for me.
I know that my personality also makes me gravitate towards RU even though I know that’s not my quadrant. I just crave the control over interactions with people. The left quadrants don’t entirely “match” my personality. At first I thought it was just about your feelings or values. It can be, but I’m not sure it has to be. I guess for me I often just visualize what outfit I want to wear or just intuitively gravitate towards certain stuff depending on the day. I guess it’s also similar when I create art. I don’t usually have an emotion or deeper meaning in mind, so I just end up creating whatever is in my head.
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2024.04.28 18:10 ThreeFactorAuth Winners and losers of the Packers roster during the 2024 NFL draft

During draft weekend, GM Brian Gutekunst’s view of various players on his roster likely affected which positions he prioritized during the draft. The players he did, and did not, select can reveal a lot about what he thinks of the players already on his roster.
Winners: Eric Stokes and Carrington Valentine
Gutey gave fourth-year corner Eric Stokes’ hamstring a big vote of confidence when he declined to draft a traditional cornerback until his final selection, despite having multiple opportunities to do so with players that fell quite a bit (it wouldn’t have cost much to trade up for Alabama corner Terrion Arnold in the first, or Iowa corner Cooper DeJean, and he traded down with other Alabama corner Kool-Aid McKinstry on the board in the second). In his post-draft press conference, he specifically mentioned that he was confident that the injury bug that have taken away the last year and a half of Stokes’ career are behind him, and specifically, how well sophomore corner Carrington Valentine played during his rookie year. That’s high praise for a guy who was a seventh round pick last year.
Loser: Keisean Nixon
Nixon must have felt pretty good about getting his 6 million a year contract a few weeks ago, because that told a lot of us the Packers viewed him as a starter on Jeff Hafley’s defense. But the selections made on the draft’s last two days reveal perhaps a slightly different story. Georgia safety Javon Bullard, Green Bay’s third selection, played much of his career in the slot before transitioning to free safety. Sure, you say, he is more likely to fill the roster hole next to new free agent Xavier McKinney. Then Gutekunst went and drafted two more safeties. Fourth rounder Evan Williams profiles best as a box safety, while fifth rounder Kitan Oladapo is viewed by league scouts as being able to play as either a traditional zone safety, or a nickel. Gutey talked at length about how he viewed nickel and safety as interchangeable, and it’s hard to imagine Nixon won’t at the very least have to keep looking behind his back for one of these rookies to start eating at his snap counts if he doesn’t play well.
Loser: Anthony Johnson Jr. and Zayne Anderson
Speaking of drafting three safeties, hoo boy. There was some thought pre-draft whether the Packers might have been content to roll into the 2024 season with Johnson Jr., who was a projected fourth-round pick during last year’s draft that fell all the way to the seventh-round. After all, they declined to sign any other free agents with names like Jordan Fuller, Kam Curl and Justin Simmons either going for very reasonable deals in free agency or still being available. That was very much not the case. But even more so, nobody on the roster might have had a worse weekend than safety Zayne Anderson, who went from third on the depth chart to looking at an uphill climb to making the roster.
Winner: Malik Heath and Grant DuBose
These two from last year’s draft might have faced a stiff challenge for their potential spots in Green Bay’s final 53 man roster had Gutekunst drafted any additional wide receivers over the weekend. With the Packers’ returning all five of their top receivers: Watson, Doubs, Reed, Wicks and Melton likely did more than enough to keep their jobs, it would’ve been Heath on the chopping block first since Green Bay typically does not carry more than six wide receivers on their 53. And while DuBose faces a long summer to try for a roster spot after being injured for most of camp last year, he at least doesn’t need to compete with another new draft pick to do so.
Losers: AJ Dillon and Emanuel Wilson
Dillon’s status as a number two back was likely always in question — they brought him back because he was extremely cheap against the cap. But there were reports pre-draft that Green Bay might be content with them and new free agent signing Josh Jacobs into the season. That proved to be very much not the case when the Packers went and drafted USC running back MarShawn Lloyd on Friday, the number one back on Daniel Jeremiah’s board. It wouldn’t cost Green Bay very much against the cap to move on from either player.
Winners: Kenny Clark, Colby Wooden and Jonathan Ford
The selection of any DT would’ve put the jobs of Wooden and Ford in serious jeopardy. Green Bay does not typically carry seven defensive tackles on its 53. That much was clear. But there were also some rumors the Packers might select a defensive tackle early to potentially be groomed to replace Clark, who is entering the final year of his contract (and Mark Murphy has mentioned that the Packers typically do not give third contracts to most players unless they are Hall of Famers). That didn’t happen, and Clark should feel very good about how highly the front office thinks of him — the only remaining player on the roster drafted by Ted Thompson.
Winners: Kingsley Enagbare and Brenton Cox
Green Bay’s edge depth entering the draft looked fairly grim behind their three established starters, with it having been announced that Enagbare had torn his ACL during the team’s divisional round win in Dallas. After fans scratched their heads all weekend about why the Packers did not draft any additional edge rushers, coach Matt LaFleur announced at his post-draft press conference that Enagbare, the third-year edge rusher from South Carolina, might not have torn his ACL at all, and the team is hopeful to have him back at the start of the season without needing surgery. And not drafting pass rushers also projects well on second-year DE Brenton Cox, a former five-star recruit in high school who’s trying very hard to keep his NFL dream alive after being kicked off two college programs.
Winner: Ben Sims
Adding any other tight end to this room would’ve put the second year UDFA tight end on high alert, especially with the Packers getting special teams ace and occasional TE Tyler Davis back from an ACL injury. The opportunities were there for Brian Gutekunst — the only tight end who went higher than expected was Kansas State TE Ben Sinnott, but he never pulled the trigger, and Sims’ job is likely safe.
Loser: Isaiah McDuffie
The fourth-year linebacker found himself in a timeshare situation with established starter De’Vondre Campbell last year. He’ll face a stiff challenge from two newcomers entering this season though, particularly from the class’s consensus top linebacker, Texas A&M LB Edgerrin Cooper.
Loser: Sean Clifford
There was a massive run on quarterbacks fairly early on Day 3 last year, and the Packers found themselves short on players they liked and spent a fifth rounder on Clifford. While he played well in his preseason action, his spot for QB2 isn’t going to come easy for this year when Tulane signalcaller Michael Pratt, a projected Day 2 pick on some boards, fell all the way into Green Bay’s lap in Round 7. Pratt is younger, and there are some scouts who believe he can eventually become an NFL starter.
Loser: Caleb Jones
The former UDFA had a nice 2023 in which Green Bay did not select any additional linemen, but he faces a long summer to get a roster spot with Green Bay having added three new linemen this spring, and having signed former Eagles tackle Andre Dillard for the veteran minimum.
Losers: Josh Myers or Sean Rhyan
The Packers might not have taken an interior offensive lineman in the first three rounds, but the selection of Jordan Morgan as their top pick indicates the Packers are serious about moving Zach Tom inside. Whether he comes to replace Myers, entering the final year of his deal, or Rhyan, who split time with now-Giant Jon Runyan Jr. at right guard, remains to be seen.
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2024.04.28 17:35 subredditsummarybot Your /r/indieheads [FRESH] recap for the week of April 21 - April 27, 2024

Sunday, April 21 - Saturday, April 27, 2024

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2024.04.28 08:33 chinmay404 Bandit challenge

I was completing the bandit challenge (Rob 4 cash registers in a day), post epilogue and robbed the cash register in Armadillo, Strawberry, Valentine.
Rhodes store was next on list and I had completely forgotten about Mr. Pearson. I entered the store with complete determination to loot every penny, only to fall flat on my face! 😂
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2024.04.28 08:22 chinmay404 Bandit challenge

I was completing the bandit challenge (Rob 4 cash registers in a day), post epilogue and robbed the cash register in Armadillo, Strawberry, Valentine.
Rhodes store was next on list and I had completely forgotten about Mr. Pearson. I entered the store with complete determination to loot every penny, only to fall flat on my face! 😂
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2024.04.28 02:24 AppropriateWhile1765 What version of chinas or russias millitary can beat the U.S?

Look im just saying man. The U.S wouldnt be so scared of them if they wernt a threat in the first place. So it stands to reason that a stronger fictional version can stand a chance against U.S might. Say atomic heart or fallouts chinas army.
If you want a challenge. Have one that somehow beats funny valentines ameirica. He was the sole reason for why china such a shit country in their universe.
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2024.04.28 00:02 WhoeverMD My Messy Breakup is Heartbreaking: Avoidant attachment, family challenges, and a sudden cross-country move

Hey everyone,
I don't post much, but I'm going through a tough breakup right now and could really use some support from this community. Apologies in advance for the lengthy story.
Our Relationship
My partner (F28) and I (M32) started dating nearly two years ago, and from the get-go, it felt like we were meant to be. We clicked on so many levels—our family dynamics, values, hobbies, sense of humor, and life goals all aligned perfectly. We met at work, and funnily enough, we attended the same college and grad school, narrowly missing each other each time. But when we finally connected, I knew there was something truly special between us.
Our relationship progressed quickly, and it felt natural and right. Within two months of dating, she told me she loved me, and I was soon introduced to her family.
8 Months in, We decided to take the next step and moved in together, with plans to eventually relocate abroad. Despite her reservations about marriage due to her parents' tumultuous relationship, she assured me that she saw a long-term future with me and considered me her person.
Outside Challenges
However, our relationship faced significant challenges along the way. About a year ago, my mother was diagnosed with terminal cancer, which turned my world upside down. I became the primary support system for my younger siblings and dad as we navigated through this difficult time. Meanwhile, my partner was grappling with her own family issues—she was the emergency contact for her suicidal father, her sisters struggled with mental illness and eating disorders, and her mother often leaned on her for emotional support rather than providing it.
Despite these challenges, our relationship remained strong, filled with love and support. But beneath the surface, there were underlying issues on her end. My partner began to feel disconnected, though she struggled to articulate exactly what she was feeling. She did not say she was disconnected from me. I honestly thought it was depression because of everything else (not our relationship). Communication became increasingly difficult, especially since she had difficulty expressing her emotions—a stark contrast to my own openness and vulnerability. Yet, I consistently made space for her to share and celebrate the moments when she did open up. I gave her space and always checked in. I showed support by cooking her meals, offering date nights, supporting her family, and sentimental gifts.
Breakup
In the two weeks leading up to the break up she made me a handmade Valentine's Day card telling me how much she loved me and texted me “I miss you already” when she was away the weekend before. She also hung out with my sister days earlier.
Then, seemingly out of nowhere, came the breakup. Despite her previous displays of love and affection, she ended things abruptly, citing a lack of romantic feelings and a sense of obligation in caring for me, which first started because of how much she loved me. She said she needed to find herself and that she wasn't a long-term relationship person (which she proved she was in the two years of the best partnership I ever had). We tried to salvage the relationship, but it's hard to repair something when one person has already made up her mind. She made the decision to quit her job and move across the country, seemingly transformed into a different person overnight. I'm deeply concerned about her well-being and the suddenness of her actions.
Despite her claims of no longer feeling romantic love for me, she has sent mixed messages since the breakup—saying stuff like she loves me, that I am her best friend, that I’m her ideal partner, that she could see us having a family together, and that we were “ALMOST PERFECT” yet ultimately choosing to move out and not work on things.
When I asked her to tell me how she did feel about me she described intimacy (imo romantic love): I felt like home, I made her happy and feel safe, she said that we were best friends, and content with life. The romantic love that was missing was "the butterflies."
We've been in no contact for the past two weeks, which has been incredibly challenging for me.
Where I’m at
Despite all this, I still think she’s my person. I’m really concerned about her and I feel like she’s just incredibly overwhelmed and running away from family stress/responsibilities (and me). She’s a clear case of dismissive avoidant attachment and I have a great deal of empathy for her.
All that being said, I’m so fucking sad and I miss her so much. I think about her constantly. I am trying to come to terms with the real likelihood that all my psychoanalysis doesn’t mean that she will eventually come back.
I don’t really want to work on myself. I’m happy with who I am right now and I don’t have a lot of mental capacity to focus on myself with my mom’s very uncertain future.
Any insights or support you can offer during this difficult time would be greatly appreciated. Thanks for reading my long post.
TLDR: I (M32) and my partner (F28) were seemingly perfect for each other. Then a lot of external challenges happened like my mom's terminal illness and her family issues. She suddenly broke things off, citing a lack of romantic feelings and needing to find herself. Despite her mixed messages and our strong connection, she's moved out and cut contact. I suspect her dismissive avoidant attachment style plays a role, but I'm heartbroken and unsure if she'll ever come back.
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2024.04.27 20:31 MirrorMinimum3148 There gone and the guilt is killing me

So, it all started with my partner; we first crossed paths about four years ago back in high school. We hit it off instantly, becoming close friends and eventually transitioning into a romantic relationship. However, it wasn't all smooth sailing. My partner struggled with mental health issues – depression, PTSD, and suicidal tendencies – which made our relationship quite turbulent, often on and off.
When the pandemic hit, everything shifted digitally. We spent hours on the phone every day, dreaming about our future together – marriage, prom, you name it. But as time went by, they began to withdraw, eventually telling me to "f*** off" one day. Their best friend reached out, revealing they were talking behind my back and flirting with my own best friend. I was crushed.
Then, they disappeared from high school due to financial problems, and I didn't see them for two years. But in January of 2023, we randomly saw each other at the mall. They apologized, admitting they were toxic and had changed and I gave them another chance.
For the next five months, we spent a lot of time together, mainly at the beach, having deep conversations and supporting them through their depressive episodes. But I kept our relationship hidden from everyone, including my parents, fearing judgment because the last they know about them is what they did to me.
Eventually, they noticed and demanded I stop hiding them. I promised to come clean to my parents, which I did, though it didn't go smoothly. My mother was bawling and crying , but I stood my ground, believing they deserved a second chance.
Our friendship continued, with occasional flirting and intimate conversations. I even helped them financially, buying them food and or taking them out to get food. But cracks began to show – they developed a temper, lashing out at me and others.
Despite the challenges, I tried to integrate them into my life more openly. We had dinner with my parents, hung out with friends. But problems persisted.
In August, they confessed their feelings for me, but I wasn't ready to commit due to our past.But, I couldn't deny my own growing feelings for them. We agreed to wait for a better time to pursue a relationship. until they went to college because 1. They will be closer to me that way it wouldn’t be a long distance relationship 2. They will make friends because one of the things they kept screaming about during their depressive episodes is that they were so lonely, and that I was the only person that interact with them 3. They would be getting an education so they could fulfill their dreams.
They still had a few moments like for example, there was a time they told me that they felt ugly and stupid and my response was don’t be ridiculous Of course you’re beautiful and smart, and they took that as me invalidated their feelings and thought I was calling them stupid. There was another time when we were talking about clothing and I told them without any ill willed intentions, not genuinely thinking it was a bad thing. I told them that they would look good in some gray or white or green cause I thought you disappeared in the black; obviously, they did not take that well, and asked me to never comment on their appearance, and I said OK and that I was sorry. For Valentine’s Day, my own mother gave me a purse and told me to give it to them which I did.
Fast forward a month or two and I introduce to them the idea and they should come to my apartment and we could hang out play some games and what not and they were all for it but when the time came another friend of mine asked me if he could crash at my place because he was going through a situation in his house and I told him yes so I had to tell my friend that I couldn’t take them because somebody else needed to crash in my place and they were freaking out they were telling me” please don’t go. Please don’t leave me here I need to get out of here please I’ll a way back”. Then they sent me a picture of their arm with cuts on it with the caption, “thank you”. I freaked out and I told my buddy that something came up and I had to help someone else and sure enough I picked them up and I take them to my apartment which is an hour and a half away from my house. In the apartment they were crying saying things that they don’t think they are gonna live past 30, that there life is horrible and that nobody loves them. All this made me cry because I really love this person and they saw me and they told me that everything was gonna be OK and then they were going to go into therapy and that calmed me down. but that week, in my apartment did not go as well as I hoped troubles began the next day when they asked me to take them to their siblings house, which was nearby, keep in mind that their sibling did not like me because my friend told him about the Christmas thing and the fact that I kept them hidden, so when we got to the siblings house, I told them that I was going to stay in the car because I was a little scared of what could happen; my friend freaked out and screamed” that’s my fucking family, don’t be such a coward” I get out of the car and thankfully nothing happened. The next day I had to go to class so I give them the key to my apartment and I explained to them what key opens what and what floor there on then mid explanation they interrupt me and they say “I know I’m not stupid”/later on, they would say that I was Mansplaining to them. And the last thing to happen was that we were at a bar celebrating that I got a good grade on the test and when I got out of the bar, I saw them smoking a cigarette which if we would ever going to be in a relationship is something I told them that I wanted them to stop, so I confronted them and asked them why are you smoking a cigarette you told me that you stopped and they said “come on is the first one in months” I got frustrated and I said dude I much rather you just tell me the truth and tell me you’re not gonna quit than then lie about you quitting and then they got mad and said” come on stop being such a fucking bitch” the next day we were at Walgreens buying some products and they noticed a Tamagotchi toy that they said it was extremely rare, but they didn’t have the money to pay for it so they asked me to buy for them and I did. Finally the week is over and I take them back to their house
a couple of weeks go by and they blow up my phone that it’s an emergency. I pick it up and they tell me that they found out that their ex is involved in a criminal case. This ex had a girlfriend and the girlfriend disappeared and the last person who saw her was the ex. My friend found out about this in a news article and they started panicking saying things like” she’s dead/murdered in that could’ve been me”. I’m trying to calm them down and reading the news article at the same time but at one point I get confused about the victims age and I asked isn’t the victims age 16 and they got mad at me and yelled “ no I fucking told you already that they were 19 don’t be so slow pay the fuck attention”. And I was starting to get uncomfortable and I told them OK I’m sorry you don’t have to yell at me then they said that one of my friends followed the ex on Instagram and they threw in the idea that maybe this friend of mine knows something about the case and me without thinking said well, most people wouldn’t assume that their best friend is friends with a murderer; they freaked out and said” shut the fuck up you can’t trust anybody don’t be so stupid” then I start getting frustrated. I don’t yell at them, but I said dude I can’t talk to you every time I try to say something you just keep getting madder and madder at me and yelling more talking to you is like walking on eggshells and that just made them even more mad they start saying that they can’t trust me and that they just wanted me to calm them down and that I was making it worse and they hung up on me. The next day they called twice, but I was in class so I called once during the night, but they didn’t pick up and for the next 10 days I did not speak to them mostly because I was mad, didn’t know what to say, I was busy with 4 test and I thought with some time pass We would both get a cool head and discuss the situation better.
Eventually I reach out and I say that I was sorry for not speaking to them sooner and I knew the situation is very serious I want to be there for them. They tell me to meet in person and sure enough I picked them up from their house and I take them to the local park and they let me have it. And they start telling me that I never understood them that they told other people the same situation and they understood it better than me and that they told it to a specific person and they understood it better than me so I asked if they found someone else then they got mad at me and started yelling and said” you know what I don’t even know why I apologize to you about the emotional cheating. I didn’t do anything”. then they asked me to take them to the gas station so they could get some food but when we got to the gas station they didn’t want to get food they actually wanted to get a lighter but they Didn’t have the money to buy one, so they asked me if I could buy for them and I did and then I took them back to their house and I went home not thinking that it was gonna be the last time that I ever saw them. The next day they call me to tell me something so that they won’t lead me on anymore. They tell me that they have found someone else, and that this person understands them better than me, and that they have gone through the same experiences as each other and they hang up the phone. Stupidly I called the next day because I wanted to know if we were at least still friends and that I could talk to them and at first they said yes but during the conversation they got Madder, and Madder started screaming that I was a horrible person, that I was toxic, and that everything I did for them was the bare minimum. They said everything I've done to them, hiding them, the Christmas things, the comments that I've made, the apartment thing, the disappearing person thing, and the eggshells comment that all these things piled up so that it was more bad than good. I felt so guilty and I tried to apologize that they yelled at me not to give more excuses. I try to at least plead that I could say goodbye then they told me no that I don’t deserve to have a happy ending and I don’t deserve to have closure and started yelling at me that they hated me and that they want nothing to do with me and they hung up the phone. To say the situation has affected me would be an understatement ever since this phone call I’ve been feeling nothing but guilt and remorse and extreme pain. I haven’t been eating well because I’ve lost my appetite I even called the 988 hotline because I felt so alone. I really loved this person and I tried my best to treat them with the love that I thought they deserved. Of course I wasn’t a saint, but I did try I’ve told one or two of my friends and they told me that it isn’t my fault, but I can’t help but feel that they might be biased for me and I just trying to make me feel better, my heart is shattered into a million pieces. I miss this person so much but I know that they’re not coming back and don’t want anything to do with me and now I feel like a part of me is gone and I have no idea how I’m going to move on from this, so I guess what I’m asking is for opinions regarding the situation.
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2024.04.27 07:02 Ill-Land-3628 Chapter 2 veterans, please help

My game progress is 45,3% (chapter 2). I hunted all legendary animals in New Austen and collected local herbs. I don't have the sniper riffle. I completed the Hosea hunting mission. When I use the company glitch he doesn't have the rifle with him. During the hanging event in Valentine (the event is activeted after visiting the jail and taking to imprisoned the Ellie Anne Swan and saying hello to Benedict Allbright) sherif Malloy doesn't drop the sniper rifle no matter how many times I kill him. The letter from Mary is in the camp. The only missions left are the ones with Dutch and Thomas Downes. Is there any other way to complete the Sharpshooter 6 challenge without loosing my current progress and starting the game over?
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So, it all started with my partner; we first crossed paths about four years ago back in high school. We hit it off instantly, becoming close friends and eventually transitioning into a romantic relationship. However, it wasn't all smooth sailing. My partner struggled with mental health issues – depression, PTSD, and suicidal tendencies – which made our relationship quite turbulent, often on and off.
When the pandemic hit, everything shifted digitally. We spent hours on the phone every day, dreaming about our future together – marriage, prom, you name it. But as time went by, they began to withdraw, eventually telling me to "f*** off" one day. Their best friend reached out, revealing they were talking behind my back and flirting with my own best friend. I was crushed.
Then, they disappeared from high school due to financial problems, and I didn't see them for two years. But in January of 2023, we randomly saw each other at the mall. They apologized, admitting they were toxic and had changed and I gave them another chance.
For the next five months, we spent a lot of time together, having deep conversations and me supporting them through their depressive episodes. But I kept our relationship hidden from everyone, including my parents, fearing judgment because the last they know about them is what they did to me.
Eventually, they noticed and demanded I stop hiding them. I promised to come clean to my parents, which I did, though it didn't go smoothly. My mother was bawling and crying , but I stood my ground, believing they deserved a second chance.
Our friendship continued, with occasional flirting and intimate conversations. I even helped them financially, buying them food and or taking them out to get food. But cracks began to show – they developed a temper, lashing out at me and others.
Despite the challenges, I tried to integrate them into my life more openly. We had dinner with my parents, hung out with friends. But problems persisted.
In August, they confessed their feelings for me, but I wasn't ready to commit due to our past.But, I couldn't deny my own growing feelings for them. We agreed to wait for a better time to pursue a relationship. until they went to college because 1. They will be closer to me that way it wouldn’t be a long distance relationship 2. They will make friends because one of the things they kept screaming about during their depressive episodes is that they were so lonely, and that I was the only person that interact with them 3. They would be getting an education so they could fulfill their dreams.
They still had a few moments like for example, there was a time they told me that they felt ugly and stupid and my response was don’t be ridiculous Of course you’re beautiful and smart, and they took that as me invalidated their feelings and thought I was calling them stupid. There was another time when we were talking about clothing and I told them without any ill willed intentions, not genuinely thinking it was a bad thing. I told them that they would look good in some gray or white or green cause I thought you disappeared in the black; obviously, they did not take that well, and asked me to never comment on their appearance, and I said OK and that I was sorry. For Valentine’s Day, my own mother gave me a purse and told me to give it to them which I did.
Fast forward a month or two and I introduce to them the idea and they should come to my apartment and we could hang out play some games and what not and they were all for it but when the time came another friend of mine asked me if he could crash at my place because he was going through a situation in his house and I told him yes so I had to tell my friend that I couldn’t take them because somebody else needed to crash in my place and they were freaking out they were telling me” please don’t go. Please don’t leave me here I need to get out of here please I’ll a way back”. Then they sent me a picture of their arm with cuts on it with the caption, “thank you”. I freaked out and I told my buddy that something came up and I had to help someone else and sure enough I picked them up and I take them to my apartment which is an hour and a half away from my house. In the apartment they were crying saying things that they don’t think they are gonna live past 30, that there life is horrible and that nobody loves them. All this made me cry because I really love this person and they saw me and they told me that everything was gonna be OK and then they were going to go into therapy and that calmed me down. but that week, in my apartment did not go as well as I hoped troubles began the next day when they asked me to take them to their siblings house, which was nearby, keep in mind that their sibling did not like me because my friend told him about the Christmas thing and the fact that I kept them hidden, so when we got to the siblings house, I told them that I was going to stay in the car because I was a little scared of what could happen; my friend freaked out and screamed” that’s my fucking family, don’t be such a coward” I get out of the car and thankfully nothing happened. The next day I had to go to class so I give them the key to my apartment and I explained to them what key opens what and what floor there on then mid explanation they interrupt me and they say “I know I’m not stupid”/later on, they would say that I was Mansplaining to them. And the last thing to happen was that we were at a bar celebrating that I got a good grade on the test and when I got out of the bar, I saw them smoking a cigarette which if we would ever going to be in a relationship is something I told them that I wanted them to stop, so I confronted them and asked them why are you smoking a cigarette you told me that you stopped and they said “come on is the first one in months” I got frustrated and I said dude I much rather you just tell me the truth and tell me you’re not gonna quit than then lie about you quitting and then they got mad and said” come on stop being such a fucking bitch” the next day we were at Walgreens buying some products and they noticed a Tamagotchi toy that they said it was extremely rare, but they didn’t have the money to pay for it so they asked me to buy for them and I did. Finally the week is over and I take them back to their house
a couple of weeks go by and they blow up my phone that it’s an emergency. I pick it up and they tell me that they found out that their ex is involved in a criminal case. This ex had a girlfriend and the girlfriend disappeared and the last person who saw her was the ex. My friend found out about this in a news article and they started panicking saying things like” she’s dead/murdered in that could’ve been me”. I’m trying to calm them down and reading the news article at the same time but at one point I get confused about the victims age and I asked isn’t the victims age 16 and they got mad at me and yelled “ no I fucking told you already that they were 19 don’t be so slow pay the fuck attention”. And I was starting to get uncomfortable and I told them OK I’m sorry you don’t have to yell at me then they said that one of my friends followed the ex on Instagram and they threw in the idea that maybe this friend of mine knows something about the case and me without thinking said well, most people wouldn’t assume that their best friend is friends with a murderer; they freaked out and said” shut the fuck up you can’t trust anybody don’t be so stupid” then I start getting frustrated. I don’t yell at them, but I said dude I can’t talk to you every time I try to say something you just keep getting madder and madder at me and yelling more talking to you is like walking on eggshells and that just made them even more mad they start saying that they can’t trust me and that they just wanted me to calm them down and that I was making it worse and they hung up on me. The next day they called twice, but I was in class so I called once during the night, but they didn’t pick up and for the next 10 days I did not speak to them mostly because I was mad, didn’t know what to say, I was busy with 4 test and I thought with some time pass We would both get a cool head and discuss the situation better.
Eventually I reach out and I say that I was sorry for not speaking to them sooner and I knew the situation is very serious I want to be there for them. They tell me to meet in person and sure enough I picked them up from their house and I take them to the local park and they let me have it. And they start telling me that I never understood them that they told other people the same situation and they understood it better than me and that they told it to a specific person and they understood it better than me so I asked if they found someone else then they got mad at me and started yelling and said” you know what I don’t even know why I apologize to you about the emotional cheating. I didn’t do anything”. then they asked me to take them to the gas station so they could get some food but when we got to the gas station they didn’t want to get food they actually wanted to get a lighter but they Didn’t have the money to buy one, so they asked me if I could buy for them and I did and then I took them back to their house and I went home not thinking that it was gonna be the last time that I ever saw them. The next day they call me to tell me something so that they won’t lead me on anymore. They tell me that they have found someone else, and that this person understands them better than me, and that they have gone through the same experiences as each other and they hang up the phone. Stupidly I called the next day because I wanted to know if we were at least still friends and that I could talk to them and at first they said yes but during the conversation they got Madder, and Madder started screaming that I was a horrible person, that I was toxic, and that everything I did for them was the bare minimum. They said everything I've done to them, hiding them, the Christmas things, the comments that I've made, the apartment thing, the disappearing person thing, and the eggshells comment that all these things piled up so that it was more bad than good. I felt so guilty and I tried to apologize that they yelled at me not to give more excuses. I try to at least plead that I could say goodbye then they told me no that I don’t deserve to have a happy ending and I don’t deserve to have closure and started yelling at me that they hated me and that they want nothing to do with me and they hung up the phone. To say the situation has affected me would be an understatement ever since this phone call I’ve been feeling nothing but guilt and remorse and extreme pain. I haven’t been eating well because I’ve lost my appetite I even called the 988 hotline because I felt so alone. I really loved this person and I tried my best to treat them with the love that I thought they deserved. Of course I wasn’t a saint, but I did try I’ve told one or two of my friends and they told me that it isn’t my fault, but I can’t help but feel that they might be biased for me and I just trying to make me feel better, my heart is shattered into a million pieces. I miss this person so much but I know that they’re not coming back and don’t want anything to do with me and now I feel like a part of me is gone and I have no idea how I’m going to move on from this and the guilt is killing me and I can’t stop thinking that it’s all my fault so I guess what I’m asking is for opinions regarding the situation.
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2024.04.26 07:21 TheIncomprehensible Thoughts on the Alabasta, Sky Island, and G8 Arcs from a first time watcher

Almost 2 years ago, I made a post on this subreddit sharing my thoughts on the first 68 episodes (mostly the first 61), and since then I've managed to watch all the episodes from 69-206, except for the filler from episodes 131-143, and wanted to share my thoughts on those.
Like my last post, I ask for people not to share spoilers from episodes beyond the 206th episode onwards. Also, It's actually been almost a year since I watched Alabasta, so some of my memories of it might be fuzzy.

"What took so long?"

Frankly, going through One Piece has been a very enjoyable experience, but I admit it shouldn't have taken me two years to finish the block of episodes I watched in that time frame. Some reasons it took me so long:

General thoughts

My thoughts between the Romance Dawn arc and the Alabasta arc onwards closely mirrors Sajam's thoughts on Jojo's Bizarre Adventure. Sajam was talking about Jojo's in his chat after he watched part 1, and much of his chat kept saying "don't worry, it gets better later on", to which Sajam replied that he thought part 1 was pretty good, only to say that part 2 of Jojo's Bizarre Adventure was really good such that it completely blew part 1 out of the water. In the same vein, the Romance Dawn arc is pretty good, but One Piece got better later on starting in Alabasta.
I've noticed three general things that One Piece does really well, all of which have to do with Eiichiro Oda's long-form storytelling ability:
  1. Oda is very good at foreshadowing. The doctor from Nami's village says that the Straw Hats need a doctor, then Chopper becomes their next permanent crew member. Don Krieg says the Grand Line is crawling with Devil Fruit users, and Alabasta alone introduces 16 Devil Fruit users (4 times as many in Romance Dawn) while the Sky Island arc only introduces 3. Drum teases both Ace and Blackbeard, who appear on the next two islands the Straw Hats land on (or at least the canon islands) and both of whom have very different reactions to Luffy. The Sky Island and G8 arcs are teasing that the next crew member is going to be a shipright and that they're going to eventually have a musician, and I'm holding One Piece to those predictions.
  2. Oda is very good at dramatic irony, especially when it comes to splitting up the party members. Splitting up the party such that we know everything that is going on but certain characters don't because they can't communicate with each other increases a lot of the stakes of certain areas and really contributes to other areas. My two favorite examples of this is when Sanji splits from the rest of the Straw Hats on Little Garden allowing Sanji to play the role of Mr Prince to throw a cog into Crocodile's plans, and how withholding Luffy and Zoro's bounties until after the Straw Hats are ready to leave changes the entire course of Jaya and Luffy's relationship between both Blackbeard and Bellamy's crew.
  3. Oda is very good at revealing important information at the right time for maximum effect, whether it's making characters more relatable (done very frequently with backstories for the characters) or for raising the stakes of the story (such as revealing Crocodile's plan piece by piece). My favorite instance of this was the story of Great Warrior Calgara and Nolan Montblanc, which allowed Wyper to become invested in Luffy's victory over Eneru.

Reverse Mountain

Unlike my previous post, I want to mostly go by location instead of by character with Alabasta since I feel like it makes more sense to talk about very specific moments I liked and/or disliked. Reverse Mountain is unexciting, but otherwise does a great job of setting up the entirety of the Grand Line with the reveal of the Log Pose as a navigation tool and the transition to Whisky Peaks.

Whisky Peaks

I think Zoro has 2 of the 3 best fights in all of the Alabasta saga, of which Zoro vs Baroque Works is one of them. The way Zoro challenges Baroque Works makes it almost feel like Zoro is the villain and not Baroque Works themselves, and I love how Zoro eventually toys with them and decides to stick to his 2-sword style to test out his new swords, and how Baroque Works incorrectly assumes that Zoro is the captain given how strong he is and how seemingly effortless it was for Zoro to take down Baroque Works. Also, this is the best fight of the Alabasta arc that doesn't take place on Alabasta itself, in my opinion.
Zoro vs Luffy is just a plain good source of dramatic irony, but the best part about this fight is how they get mad at Mr 5 and Miss Valentine for interrupting their fight. I also like how this fight plays out: Luffy knows Zoro is a skilled enough swordsman that he can't effectively fight Zoro without risking grave bodily injury, while Zoro knows that Luffy is misunderstanding why Zoro defeated the "people who gave them hospitality", and neither of them can go all-out.
I have to wonder how Igaram survived being blown up though, which I'll talk about later on.

Little Garden

I feel like Usopp gets his best fight scenes when he's not fighting one-on-one and instead is fighting 2v2 or, in Little Garden's case, 3v4. His resourcefulness gives him a lot of unique value that the other Straw Hats don't provide, and I like that in complex fights he understands the win condition(s) better than the other Straw Hats.
However, my favorite Usopp moment in all of Alabasta is when he observes Broggy and Dorry's fight for the first time. He spends much of the Romance Dawn arc wanting to become a "brave warrior of the sea", but with how hesitant he was to share that goal with the rest of the crew at the end of the Romance Dawn arc it felt like he didn't really know what that meant. This fight gave Usopp a grasp of what that meant, and I felt was a very important moment for him, and is perhaps the biggest moment of character development for the Straw Hats so far.
I also love Zoro's sense of humor here, such as calling the triceratops a fellow user of the 3-sword style and posing for Mr 3 for how he wanted to be encased in wax.
Finally, I love the whole Mr Prince sub-arc that starts in Little Garden, with Sanji posing as Mr 3 with the line "it's the damn restaurant". Being able to use Sanji in such a discrete way like this really added a whole lot to the storyline since Sanji could be a spanner in the works to Crocodile's Baroque Works that could foil Crocodile's plans in a way that could avoid direct punishment from Crocodile.
However, I really don't like Dorry's laugh. It just sounds really unnatural, like it's being forced out for one reason or another, and unlike Broggy's laugh it's not really weird in a charming way.

Drum

Before we get to Drum, I want to talk about Nami's best moment, where she manages to protect the crew from a Grand Line Cyclone that Vivi said was unpredictable, all while being sick. That's by far the second best thing Nami does, after bargaining for the ship later on during Drum.
Drum was all about Luffy and Chopper I felt like. I found Chopper's backstory heart-wrenching and his fight against Chess and Kuromarimo was quite good, but Luffy I felt was the highlight:
There aren't any particularly great fights in this arc, but I think the story moments that showcase Luffy's character and the cherry blossoms at the end were more than enough.
Finally, I love how Ace and Blackbeard were foreshadowed in this arc and how they appeared later on. Ace initially appears as a mysterious figure that's clearly looking for Luffy, but because we don't know Ace's relationship to Luffy we can only suspect the worst with them. By contrast, we hear about Blackbeard for the first time here, but when we're introduced to Blackbeard on Jaya he seems like an actually nice guy, even if he's a bit eccentric, only to learn about how awful he is (he doesn't seem too terrifying on Jaya, but I feel like that will change later on in the story, which was foreshadowed with Shanks wanting to talk with Whitebeard about it).

Alabasta

There's a lot to cover in Alabasta, so I'll just talk about some moments I really liked and some that I didn't.

Bon Clay

I wanted a special segment for Bon Clay because I love how he influences the whole arc. His devil fruit causes the Straw Hats to come up with a solution to determine crewmate from friend throughout the entirety of the Alabasta portion of the Alabasta arc, but he's still a friend to the Straw Hats.
His fight against Sanji is a good, technical fight that manages to use his Devil Fruit in an interesting way, and I love that his values of friendship line up with those of the Straw Hats such that he's willing to sacrifice his life to let the Straw Hats escape.
I also love the gesture to Vivi at the end of this arc. The "x" on their wrists was a symbol of their friendship, and their display of those x's to Vivi at the end of the arc were a display of their friendship, but can also be interpreted as their friendship with Bon Clay since they no longer need to hide the x's anymore.
I wasn't a fan of his voice acting originally, but his voice grew on me as his character grew on me, and I hope he comes back later.
Finally, I had a question in my previous part about why Luffy could apparently flail his arms to keep his head above water long enough for Shanks to save him, and Bon Clay partially answered it here. The sea doesn't simply prevent someone from swimming, it just saps their strength so they can't swim (among other things). I'm glad that was cleared up by this point.

Nico Robin

I really liked how Nico Robin was handled throughout this whole arc. I like that her betrayal of Crocodile was foreshadowed with how she never fought the Straw Hats even once (and is the only Baroque Works agent to encounter but not fight the Straw Hats), how she didn't share pertinent information about Sanji that Baroque Works otherwise didn't have, and she even saves Luffy.
I also like how her joining the Straw Hats was both a choice she made and was a choice that was never foreshadowed. I feel like the shock factor of her joining adds a lot to the story because it's the same reaction the rest of the Straw Hats have to finding Nico Robin on the ship. I also really like how Robin manages to abuse the vices and personality quirks of the rest of the crew to gain their trust... except for Zoro. Robin and Zoro are arguably the most mature people on the Going Merry at this point in time, and the fact that Robin gathered information on the rest of the crew says a lot about her character and skillset while the fact that Robin didn't even try to gain Zoro's trust says a lot about Zoro's character.
I also like how the Sky Island arc and the G8 arc both put Robin in self-imposed information-gathering roles that didn't get a whole lot of focus because of how efficient her methods are and how boring the moment would have been to actually see. At this point, she's disproportionately powerful compared to how interesting she is as a combatant, so it's cool to see her in positions to help the crew in indirect ways.

Intermission: the filler between Alabasta and Jaya

I skipped the filler here in the interest of time: I wanted to get through the main story as quickly as possible to catch up with more recent parts of the anime.

Jaya

There were a couple really good moments here before going to Skypeia
Also, when Robin introduced Cricket Montblanc, I was of the impression that Blackbeard (who hadn't been formally introduced yet) was Cricket due to how both of them talked about dreams.

Skypeia

There are much fewer special moments in Skypeia than in the other arcs so far, so my list of favorites is much smaller.

G8

The main reason I watched this filler and not the filler before the Sky Island saga is because the anime transitioned so well between Sky Island and this arc that it felt borderline impossible to watch the next main arc before this. The whole setup was brilliant, not just putting the Straw Hats in the marine base but centering the first episode around the marines investigating the ship, determining who was on the ship, and setting traps for the Straw Hats that they inevitably fall for.
The star of this arc was, of course, Vice Admiral Jonathan. I love Jonathan's character and skillset: he's a tactical genius that understands how to maneuver his forces to capture pirates, he avoids physical violence even though you can tell he understands how to fight (and not simply because he's a high ranking marine), and I love how his passion for fishing infiltrates his traps, whether his fishing hobby gets him sight of the Going Merry when it falls out of the sky, using his fishing hook to play pranks on other marines, putting a swordfish portrait in the vault, and even using a meatball as bait to catch Luffy eating his lunch. Furthermore, I love Jonathan's integrity: when Sheppard asks for the names of the crew members that threw him in jail, Jonathan takes responsibility for their actions because he gave them the order. Then, when the crew escapes, Jonathan still manages to call it a moral victory since it boosted the morale of the troops.
I also love the relationship between Lieutenant Drake and Jonathan. Early on, Drake starts questioning Jonathan's orders, but as Jonathan repeatedly makes correct predictions about the Straw Hats and makes plans that promise success Drake stops questioning Jonathan's orders and obeys them without hesitation. The only reason the Straw Hats were able to make progress is because they had a mixture of technology Jonathan couldn't have known about, accidental help from Sheppard, and/or other unforeseen circumstances (ie hostages) that allowed them to escape.
The scenes with Dr Kobato was similarly amazing, where Chopper uses his medical expertise to help the marines, but also motivates Dr Kobato to overcome her fear of blood and help the patients that need her. It's so hard to give characters meaningful character arcs in a filler arc, yet they managed to do so with Dr. Kobato.
I have a few issues with this arc though, such as Dr. Kobato locking a medical ward with no locking mechanism on the door and Zoro going full Popeye on the marines and fighting on the bridge without using his swords. The most notable, however, was how Sanji attempted to use an impact dial with his hands, knowing that it could have very well damaged his hands if he did so. The fart-flavored flavor dial ended up working out better in the end since Sanji ended up not hurting his hands at all while still getting the desired effect, but it's still a risk he shouldn't have taken.
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2024.04.26 02:18 Platinum_Snowman13 1 New Character For Each Series That’s Been On Death Battle: Bonus Post (check description)

1 New Character For Each Series That’s Been On Death Battle: Bonus Post (check description)
My final post about new combatants from returning series! Today I’ll be choosing my most wanted character from each season post, since like I said, I’m interested in some of these guys more than others. I’ll give some honorable mentions down here, and I’ll list some potential matchups for the ones I did choose. I also decided to throw on a bonus at the end; the character I want most on Death Battle that’s from a new series.
Season 1: Rosalina is one of my favorite fictional characters, even though she’s VERY simplistic and fairly one-note. Super Mario Galaxy is my favorite work of fiction of all time, mainly due to nostalgia, so I’d love to see its most iconic character get an episode. She has quite a few matchups, but realistically her best and most likely would be Whis from Dragon Ball. Pretty bad stomp, but otherwise really cool. Elsa from Frozen is an even bigger stomp with less thematic connections, but I adore Elsa as a character despite not LOVING the Frozen films, and I have no connection to Dragon Ball. Palutena from Kid Icarus could work too, and I do love Kid Icarus Uprising, but that matchup doesn’t excite me nearly as much. Honorable mentions for this season go to Ridley and Majora, two of my favorite villains from two of my favorite series, and Cassie Cage. A very unorthodox pick, but one I would adore to see due to her unique fighting style and super enjoyable personality.
Season 2: I’m a pretty massive Kirby fan, and Meta Knight is my favorite character from the series. His best opponent is definitely Zero from Mega Man. There are others, such as Virgil from DMC, but Zero is easily my favorite of his options. Honorable mentions to Cervantes, who is just…one of the coolest designs I’ve ever seen for any character, and Skeletor, for being a super fun and goofy villain that can become an intimidating monster at the drop of a hat.
Season 3: Calypso may seem like a very odd pick, but that’s exactly the point. I value uniqueness on Death Battle more than almost anything else, and calypso would really test the team’s creativity and lead to a super interesting battle. I also quite like Twisted Metal, though mostly just the 2011 reboot lol. Unfortunately, he doesn’t have any great opponents that I’ve seen, but Monokuma from Danganronpa could be fun. My honorable mention for this season is Rodin from Bayonetta, a super badass and unique depiction of Satan that has a very unique fighting style, just like the title character from his series does.
Season 4: Chloe Frazer is a character that isn’t talked about much in VS, but I think she’s a great alternative to Nathan Drake. In terms of stats and abilities, she’s almost identical to Nate, but her personality would be quite a bit different in a fight. Since nobody talks about her, I have to come up with an opponent I’ve never seen elsewhere, and I think Claire Redfield from Resident Evil is a good fit. For honorable mentions, Mickey Mouse absolutely deserves an episode, and specter knight would be a really cool indie rep from one of my favorite indie games (though personally I’d like a new indie game to get a combatant first).
Season 5: Albert Wesker is my most wanted character to appear on Death Battle, hands down. He’s got a super unique and versatile arsenal, allowing for a gunfight, a melee fight, or even an army battle. He’s a super intimidating villain who could deliver some chilling lines of dialogue, and he could bounce off of his opponent super well, especially with his god complex making him angry at his opponent for “trying to play god.” On top of that, resident evil is one of my favorite video game series, and Wesker is one of my favorite parts of that series. It’s perfect. Liquid snake or Alex Mercer would be cool opponents, though he has plenty of options. Honorable mentions to Neo Cortex, a villain from a very enjoyable platformer series that could be super unique in a fight, and Chuck Greene, a character from another Capcom zombie series that could be really funny to see, especially with his unorthodox, wacky arsenal contrasting with his serious personality.
Season 6: I haven’t consumed much Castlevania media, but I REALLY want to. Alucard getting on death battle would be a great push for me to do that. Great banter potential, interesting arsenal, and a good representation of the series. My favorite of his matchups is Spawn, but Vincent Valentine would also be cool (if we didn’t have over saturation of FFVII only on Death Battle). My honorable mention for this season is Ashley from WarioWare. Seeing the WarioWare series specifically get an episode would be really interesting, and Ashely is a super fun character.
Season 7: Interestingly, I had no connection to any series introduced in season 7, not helped by the fact that there were only 6 (7 if you count Archie as its own series) new series introduced. Of them though, sailor moon is by far the most deserving to get on Death Battle, and it’s honestly surprising she hasn’t had an episode (actually no it’s not; copyright). My friend is a huge fan of sailor moon at least, so there’s SOMETHING here. Her opponent could be modoka, because that’s who she would’ve fought if her matchup had one the tournament of champions. I…don’t have any honorable mentions for this season for obvious reasons, I’ll just go with Archie knuckles because that same friend is a huge fan of Archie too.
Season 8: Yes, I unironically want Tony the Tiger on Desth battle. A lot, actually. He’s the perfect combination of joke character and serious challenger, and would be very interesting to see analyzed. Chester cheetah (Cheetos mascot) is the only real opponent for him that really plays to his strengths in my opinion. For honorable mentions, Bluto and Shifu are two awesome characters from series that could totally get another episode, even if they don’t NEED another episode.
Season 9: Mythology on Death Battle was such an awesome surprise for me, and it’s a shame that we likely won’t be getting any more (mainly due to the community’s terrible reaction to it). Still, that doesn’t change my most wanted combatant as Zeus from Greek mythology. Odin, the Norse figure, would be incredible to see as his opponent, and this battle could be absolutely outstanding in every sense of the word. It could be grand, mighty, powerful, and jaw dropping, but above all, both characters could have a nearly unrivaled amount of presence that we haven’t really seen on death battle. Honorable mention to squidward, a super important character in one of my favorite childhood cartoons, whose attitude would be very fun to watch in a fight.
Season 10: Finally, Delsin Rowe from Infamous: Second Son is my most wanted character from this season. I really love the infamous games, and really love Delsin as a character, so representing the second part of the series would be super cool to see on Death Battle. I must say, this will NEVER happen. Just making that clear; infamous is not relevant as a franchise anymore unfortunately. As for his matchups, he doesn’t have too many that really jump out at me, but scorpion from mortal Kombat or Blake from RWBY could work well. Honorable mentions go to Shaggy, a super beloved, wacky character from a massive franchise that was a huge part of my childhood, and Gwyn, Lord of Cinder, a powerful and terrifying presence from one of my favorite gaming franchises, who could make for a very unique and interesting episode.
Bonus: My most wanted character that has not had their series on Death Battle yet is Ellie Williams from The Last Of Us. I adore the last of us SO much (it’s my favorite story in all of fiction, when putting the two games together), and I would be very interested to see it on death battle, assuming they get it right. The tone could be unlike anything death battle has ever attempted, and would ideally be the most emotionally moving fight we’ve ever seen. Ellie herself can have comedic moments to shine, reminiscent of the first game, but as the fight goes on she begins to unleash her vengeance, alluding to her behavior in Part 2. Ellie’s unique and grounded fighting style would also lead to super interesting choreography, and watching her hide somewhere so she can craft in the middle of the fight is a must. Clementine is her biggest opponent, and while I haven’t played the walking dead myself (I’d like to though), I can’t deny that this is a perfect fit. Three honorable mentions for you. Breaking Bad is my favorite story in all of fiction aside from the last of us, and I really like grounded battles, so Walter white is obviously a character I’d be very interested in seeing. Isaac Clarke from dead space comes from another one of my favorite series, and he’s honestly a perfect fit for death battle. He has an expansive and unique arsenal, a ton of combat experience, and could bring a really unique and unsettling atmosphere to the show. Finally, on the topic of uniqueness, John Kramer, otherwise known as jigsaw from the saw films, would diverge HEAVILY from death battle’s conventions. The fight would be mostly made up of Jigsaw’s opponent trying to escape whatever trap he put them in, and would end off with a bare knuckle brawl at the end. The kill would have to be the most over the top and gory kill of the show, certainly involving one of John’s traps whether he wins the episode or not.
Whew! That’s all of them! Thank you so much for reading all this and checking out these posts I’ve made! It’s been a lot of fun!
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2024.04.26 01:53 CatWatt April 25th Special Days - Featuring Penguin Freebies!

April 25th Special Days - Featuring Penguin Freebies!

April 25th is... World Penguin Day/National Penguin Day
-- What can you do today to share the love of penguins? Find out more about penguins, explore what others say about penguins, tell your friends about penguins, send a penguin ecard, play penguin games, and share the penguin love! You don't have to wait until World Penguin Day because penguins can be loved all year!

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🐧 27 Super Cool Penguin Activities for Kids
🐧 13 Perfect Penguin Crafts
🐧 Penguin Crafts HungryHappenings - Chocolate Pretzel Penguins, Coca-Cola Chocolate Cake Roll Penguins, a Coke Bottle Penguin Craft, Marshmallow Penguins, and more!
🐧 13 Penguin Activities - Because Who Doesn't Love Penguins?
🐧 Printable Penguin Coloring Pages
🐧 Free Printable Penguin Shape Matching Game
🐧 Penguin Printouts - EnchantedLearning.com
🐧 Penguin - Printable Envelope Template
🐧 Penguin Connect The Dots printable worksheets
🐧 Printable Penguin Coloring Sheets and Facts for Kids LoveToKnow
🐧 Penguin Bookmarks - Free Printable Ideas
🐧 Free Penguin Games CrazyGames
🐧 Free Penguin Printables and Worksheets

Penguin Recipes:

🐧 No-Bake Penguin Cookies
🐧 Penguin Appetizers
🐧 Penguin Snack Cakes ButterYum.com
🐧 Roly Poly Penguin Snack Creative-Food
🐧 How to Make Perfect Penguin Onigir Rice Balls American Food
🐧 Sweet Penguin Snow Scene PartyPinching
🐧 Ladybirds Penguin Pears CookPad
🐧 End Of The March Penguins Snack CookPad
🐧 Wiener Sausage Penguins for Bento CookPad
🐧 Penguin Meatballs
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2024.04.25 06:02 anny_t_ka Cracking the Grammar Code: Gamified Tactics for Mastering German Like a Boss

Cracking the Grammar Code: Gamified Tactics for Mastering German Like a Boss
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Ah, German grammar — the looming, Frankensteinian beast that haunts the dreams of even the bravest language learners. With its daunting case systems, mind-boggling compound nouns, and delightfully tongue-twisting consonant clusters, getting a solid handle on the rules can feel more daunting than scaling the Matterhorn in lederhosen.
But what if we told you there was a way to tame this frightening grammatic franken-monster? By harnessing the power of interactive, gamified learning strategies, you could potentially reprogram your brain to absorb and apply the intricacies of German grammar like a slick Teutonic machine.
Now, we know what you’re thinking — how could something as humdrum as grammar drills ever be considered “fun”? But stick with me here. These aren’t your garden-variety fill-in-the-blank worksheets destined for the recycling bin. We’re talking full-blown immersive brain-training that hooks your competitive drive and transforms tenses into adrenaline-packed battles to the language victor’s podium.

Digital Duels and Quest-Based Conjugation

Thanks to technology, innovative apps and online platforms are transforming esoteric grammar concepts into epic story-driven campaigns. You’ll find yourself leveling uprie, verb tables as you progress through German language quests. By personifying grammar rules as mythical characters or fierce opponents to be conquered, even the dreaded Akkusativ and Dativ cases take on an irresistible video game sheen.
Better yet, many programs now integrate speech recognition, soarmed enemy figures on-screen will hurl gendered nouns at you to properly pluralize or identify the linguistic warriors lurking within compound word fortresses. Talk about immersive!

Board Games That Let Nouns and Verbs Mingle

On the flip side, plenty of old-school analog activities can still add some spice to textbook tedium. Board and card games offer clever physical mechanics for visualizing and internalizing syntax, article usage, gender agreements, and more.
Envision verb math races where you blurt out perfectly conjugated forms while hurtling tokens around the board. Or collaborative card-based storytelling that incentivizes creativity while organically reinforcing vocabulary alongside grammar lessons. All happening amid raucous laughter and friendly trash-talking that ups the learning ante.
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When Screen-Free Still Means Interactive

Even without digital frills or gamified bells-and-whistles, there are plenty of hands-on methods for getting your grammar groove on. Engaging classroom antics like drillithons — where students take turns verbally firing off grammar challenges — can harness peer competition and social dynamics for primo retention.
Or get your inner theatrical flair on through tools like grammar songs and cheeky skits acted out with exaggerated emphases on proper noun cases and verb conjugations. The sillier and more ridiculous the scenario, the more those foundational grammar tenets will solidify.
At the end of the day, injecting playfulness and immersive participation into the dreary process of grammar study accomplishes something truly magical — it goads your brain into processing linguistic patterns as familiar systems and symbols rather than ethereal academic constructs. Whether battling furry German mascots or clashing word warriors, those foundational grammar concepts become intuitive pieces of an irresistible gamified experience you’ll hungrily crave more of.
So ditch the dusty textbook for tech-savvy adventures, physical challenges, or straight-up ludic linguistic lunacy. Treat your brain to those sweet, sweet grammar gratifications it didn’t even realize it craved. The more you make grammar acquisition feel like indulging in German Gesamt levels of fun and competition, the more hardwired those pesky rules and exceptions will become.
And who knows — maybe with enough gamified grammar-geddon breakthroughs, you’ll find yourself actually looking forward to flexing those new hard-earned skills as you Anschluss to conversational mastery of this once-monstrous language.
So, what gamified techniques have worked best for your personal language triumph quest so far? Or if you’re still seeking the ideal immersive grammar hack, what’s your preferred learning style — app gaming, tabletop theatrics, good old-fashioned grammar games and stories? We’re all ears for new tactics to try, so hit us with those interactive German grammar secrets in the comments!
Read our blog on How to count in German
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2024.04.24 19:21 CorsairLucky Join the Official CORSAIR Discord Server

Join the Official CORSAIR Discord Server
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Did you all know that we have an Official CORSAIR Discord Server?

It's been a minute since we've made a post about it here and as the person in charge of the community shenanigans on both this Subreddit and the Discord, I thought it'd be a nice refresher to mention it here, especially with all the changes I've made recently!
Our Discord Server is another fun platform to be able to explore the latest announcements with CORSAIR while getting to know your fellow tech and gaming enthusiasts. I do share a lot of the same information here as I do with the Discord server so you're not missing out on any vital information by not being there!
So you're probably wondering, why join our Discord then?
  • Ranking System - you earn EXP through a variety of ways in the Discord allowing you to obtain special ranks. These ranks allow you access to various rewards (sometime exclusive swag) to a range of giveaways!
  • Giveaways - From our CORSAIR products to game keys, we host a variety of giveaways in the Discord and as you go up the ranks, you will start to earn access to exclusive giveaways!
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  • Community Game Times - I host a variety of game events in the Discord. As we are a global company, I aim to provide a variety of games that cover a range of time zones. They're a fun way to get to know each other and earn EXP! Just recently we've played Minecraft, Helldivers II, Lethal Company, and Trivia Murder Party.
  • Themed Battlestation Challenges - every month I create a flash challenge involving your battlestation for you to enter! I select a theme, you get a handful of days to decorate your battlestation to the theme and submit a pic to our pc-photos-only channel with the specified tag! From there, me and the mods rank our favorites and the one with the most points receives a prize.
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  • Variety of Conversations - we have a number of channels for a variety of interests! Chat about gaming, food, the latest tech, sports, and so much more with others within the community!
  • Live Stream Notifications - Want notifications whenever our Podcast or Twitch channel are live? We've setup a role in the Discord to alert you when we're live so you don't miss out on other opportunities to ask questions about our products, enter more giveaways, and interact with the community.
And this is just some of the things that our Discord features!
Being on both the Subreddit and Discord have their own unique benefits and definitely suit different online lifestyles so pick the right platform for you - I'm just happy to have you all in either or both!
Please know that the Discord Server is NOT an official support channel. While we do have a couple of support officials that hang out in there, as a whole the help provided in the Discord is mostly from the good will and time of our fellow members. As always, if you need immediate support assistance, it's best to submit a ticket with our team while submitting your question on either platform so while you wait for a response from our team, you might get some helpful tips from our members!

Check out our Official CORSAIR Discord today!

And don't worry Redditors, I'm working on some new plans and activities for the Subreddit as well, so keep your eyes peeled for fun things here Soon™️!

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2024.04.24 02:20 darkgoalie342ut Franchise Coaches and Coach Development year over year.

Franchise Coaches and Coach Development year over year.
System/ PS4 : NHL23
I have struggled to find the right coaches in my franchise. For my Team I brought back an old local minor hockey team to the NHL, with a current local minor Hockey team as my AHL team.
My Franchise:
(That was a frustrating process since just swapping a created team sticks me with an existing AHL team and now way to change that. I will say that figuring out how to get through the expansion draft, has taken me about a year of testing different things to get the roster I wanted – mostly historic figures from those two minor league teams that used to play in the old defunct IHL and AHL feeding the NHL from the 1980’s until the AHL team left in the mid 2000’s.) I had to create 35 of the players from scratch and a few of the others went on to be solid NHL players and end up on Alumni Rosters (mostly mid 80ish OVR). I used some of the recent local players who are on various AHL/ECHL/Euro rosters to fill in my AHL team. To keep things interesting in the league I added some Alumni teams (North Stars, Whalers, Sabres, and some others).
Back to the coaches.
  1. Budget: The best budget I could even get (restarting the franchise at least a hundred times) was 3-4 million on average. At the start of the franchise there are so few coaches even available this was a challenge. It was clear that I had to just eek out the first year.
  2. Coaches: I have been reading a lot of the forum posts about coaches, thanks to all of you have provided detailed and useful insights.
  3. Offseason 1 (Coaching Budget 4.353m): I used the trick to hire some coaches I thought were important and one I could fire for ridiculous money, spending my entire budget and then moving those coaches into the “non-critical” slots:
Coaches (I Hired to max out the budget)
· NHL Goalie Coach (Hired NHL Assoc Coach) With a Goalie Specialization A teaching and ended up keeping this coach in the position.
· AHL Associate Coach (Hired NHL Assoc Coach) This coach was a good fit - I kept with mind to use as future HC.
· AHL Asst Coach (Hired AHL Head Coach) I intended this to be my AHL Head Coach and ended up keeping as my Assistant.
· AHL Goalie Coach (Hired NHL Assoc Coach) this was my intended NHL Head Coach. Ended up making this my NHL Associate Coach.
4) Season 2 and Budget & Workaround: I used the trick left all my critical Coaching Spots Open. (NHL Head, NHL Assoc, NHL Asst, AHL Head) Budget increased to 8.605m!
  1. · NHL Head it gave me an expensive and very well rounded HC with a 4 year contract.
  2. · AHL Head it gave me an solid well rounded HC with a 3 year contract. I fired and rehired that coach to 8 year contract and extra 50k.
  3. · NHL Assoc, I moved my intended Assoc Coach here, he is B rated, so I figured good to learn from the excellent HC that the game hired for me since I have that coach for a 4 year contract. Then I will promote this coach to the HC spot.
  4. · NHL Assistant, I hired another NHL Associate Coach for 8 years.
  5. · NHL Goalie Coach I left in place, even though it was an expensive coach, helps me keep my Coach Budget maxed, since the unused funds do not buildup in a way that can be used later.
  6. · AHL Assoc, I hired a really good NHL Associate Coach, also on an 8 year contract.
  7. · AHL Assistant, I kept my intended AHL Head Coach, as he was Defensive and that rounded out my staff.
  8. · AHL Goalie Coach, I hired a coach that fit the remaining budget on an 8 year contract.
In my several attempts I have learned that there are not really good coaches until you get into the third off-season.
I put a lot of work into creating my team, creating the roster of historical roster (to the created team), and I honestly would create coaches if the game allowed. (Incomprehensible that with all the parlor tricks in the game, they don’t seem to care enough to add this tiny feature.) I would be unsatisfied going through the constant coaching carousel every off season.
After reading many great posts, I did not see a post talking about the coach development (one probably already exists). Hopefully someone will find this useful.
Tracking Coach Development
I put the information into a table on a excel worksheet to track the coach development and get a better understanding of how it was functioning in the game. This is not tracking the interaction or development of individual players. (Doing this for individual players would require weeks of data entry – so this is just a simple overview.)
After setting this up for the beginning of season 2, I have also finished season 2. (In the first season, I fired all the coaches. I did not learn about the budget trick until I had already started a second season. I was willing to replay the partial second season, but I was not going all the way back to start from scratch of the very first season of the franchise. So much of my time was spent getting the team with the correct roster of players, since as an expansion team with a created AHL Team – the options are, as well all know, frustratingly limited.)
On the individual coach profiles under the grades is the experience points. I have no idea how coaches get those, but clearly it is showing the skill grade C and under the C is 4201/5001. In my many restarts of my franchise it was clear the numbers were changing. (Don’t ask me to decode the specific coding in the game how those are determined. I am not that good on any day of the week.)
Predicting Coach Development???
Then I started thinking – could it be predicted how quickly a coach will develop year over year? I have calculated initial predictions based on the first year of performance using their starting stats as a baseline. I am currently in season 3. I will try to post a follow up once I have coach information from completed season 3.
I share a picture of my coach line up after completion of season 2/ start of season 3.
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In the picture the predicted category experience points are in orange font.
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2024.04.23 19:23 Future_List Explore a Tapestry of Love and Grief with Unique Mechanics to Master

"Valentine's Mixtape" is a game collection themed after a mixtape song list that delves into the emotional landscapes of relationships through a series of mini-games, each highlighting different aspects of emotional experiences like joy, grief, communication, and personal growth. The games are linked together through a narrative-driven hub world, offering players a journey through diverse emotional and psychological themes.
Gameplay:
Players explore a central hub that connects to various mini-games, each representing a different emotional theme and offering unique gameplay mechanics. For example, the game "Ember's Ascent" takes players through the stages of grief with changing gameplay styles that reflect each stage, from anger to acceptance.
What is the main gameplay loop?
The core gameplay loop involves players navigating the hub world, discovering and accessing different mini-games, engaging with each game's challenges, and experiencing the stories they tell. Completing each mini-game affects the hub world, revealing deeper layers of the overarching narrative and unlocking new areas to explore.
Mechanics:
Each mini-game introduces distinct mechanics:
Spectrum of Connection: Features a color-switching mechanic to solve puzzles, representing different emotional states.
Ember's Ascent: Uses changing perspectives and gameplay styles from the mini-games to depict the stages of grief.
Lips: Begins as a whimsical shoot 'em up and transitions into a stealth-horror game, reflecting the complexities of relationships.
These mechanics are designed to enhance the thematic depth of each game and provide a varied gameplay experience that keeps players engaged and emotionally invested.
Setting / Lore:
The games are set in a variety of environments that complement their themes, from abstract worlds representing inner emotional states to more concrete settings like towns and natural landscapes. The overarching lore connects these environments through a narrative hub world, where players uncover stories of love, loss, and growth.
Story:
The central narrative revolves around exploring and understanding complex emotional relationships. Each mini-game offers a slice of this larger story, providing insights into different emotional experiences. For example, "Ember's Ascent" narratively explores the protagonist’s journey through grief, while "Lips" plays with the idea of first impressions and underlying truths.

Let me know what you think!
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2024.04.23 17:31 CatWatt April 22nd Special Days - Featuring Earth Day Freebies!

April 22nd Special Days - Featuring Earth Day Freebies!

April 22nd is... Earth Day (1970)
-- Our planet and our homes are being neglected. Climate change continues unabated. There is a new ecological disaster happening almost every day. This Earth Day, it's time to mobilize our planet from the ground up to send a message the Earth won't wait!

Free Printables, Coloring Pages, Activities, and Crafts:

🌎 Earth Day Freebies and Offers
🌎 What to Expect From Earth Day Deals in 2020
🌎 Earth Day Sales, Freebies and Deals
🌎 Endangered Species: Save Our Species Coloring Book
🌎 Earth Day Printables
🌎 Earth Day Projects for Homeschool Families
🌎 Earth Day Activities For Everyone
🌎 Freecycle.org - give and get free stuff - Free membership
🌎 7 Fast Activities for Earth Day and Free Printables
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🌎 20+ Free Earth Day Printables for Kids Totschooling
🌎 Earth Day Archives Woo! Jr. Kids Activities
🌎 LEGO Earth Coloring Pages Little Bins for Little Hands
🌎 Celebrating Earth Day at The Holiday Zone: Printable Puzzles
🌎 Earth Day Archives - Buggy and Buddy
🌎 Home Composting – A Step-by-Step Guide to Getting Started
🌎 Earth Day Bingo - Wondermom Wannabe
🌎 Earth Day Posters NASA
♻️ Herman the Composting Worm's Fun Place
♻️ Backyard Magic - The Composting Handbook
♻️ Recycling Worksheets for Kids
♻️ Free Composting Printables and Worksheets
♻️ Composting 101 {+ FREE Printable} - Stacy Risenmay
♻️ Do the Rot Thing: A Teacher's Guide to Compost Activities
♻️ Composting Goes to School
♻️ A Kids' Guide to Composting
♻️ 31 Day Zero Waste Challenge - For Kids! - Going Zero Waste
♻️ 100Tips - Zero Waste Home
♻️ Composting for Kids - C.R.A.F.T. with coloring page
♻️ EEK! - Nature's Recyclers Coloring Book
♻️ KIDS: COLORING PAGES – Ottawa Valley Waste Recovery Center
♻️ Reduce, Reuse, Recycle Resources for Students and Educators
♻️ Caring for Earth and Earth Day Activities Printables, Worksheets, and Lesson Plans
♻️ Top 20 Earth Day Coloring Pages
♻️ 22 Earth Day Activities to Help the Planet
♻️ 8 Ways to Keep the Earth Clean
♻️ Quick and Easy Eco-Activities
♻️ Earth Day Resources and Activities
♻️ 25 Recycled Crafts Inspiration
♻️ Help Clean Up Your Neighborhood!
♻️ 11 easy ways you can help save the planet this Earth Day
♻️ FREEBIE: Learning about the Environment (ALL)

Earth Day Recipes:

🌎 Earth Day Cookies
🌎 50 Ways to Eat Green
🌎 Eat For The Planet This Earth Day With These 10 Recipes That Are Sustainable and Delicious!
🌎 Earth Day Cupcakes With A Surprise - Simply Today Life
🌎 Earth Day Food Ideas - 9 Best Snacks and Desserts for Kids and Party
🌎 Earth Day 2021: Tips To Make Your Kitchen Zero-Waste
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