You never said i m leaving poem

I posted this story in another sub when I learned about fearful avoidant attachment. and a couple commenter's thought some behaviors sounded more like bpd. I was wondering what it's like being close to someone with bpd & if this sounds similar at all? .................................
Awhile back my friend told me her therapist said she's avoidant. I'm not sure if it's more dismissive or fearful but my guess is fearful.
We've always had a slightly tumultuous relationship. & learning she's avoidant made past things make sense. Ive known her for 10+ yrs, both girls. Sometimes we're so close & she's always called me her soul mate. Then (what feels like) out of no where she'll shut down or get distant.
Anyways she's getting married this year & I'm not sure if she wants me there or just in her feelings or what. I want to support her but am very confused.
A yearish ago she sat me down & semi friend broke up with me saying I make her feel guilty/she doesn't feel like she makes me happy etc. That I didn't have to answer now but to think about if we really make each other happy.
Then she went on a trip with her bf/family, got proposed to, accepted & when she got back asked me to pick them up from the airport. I was surprised but figured this was her quirky way of waving the white flag.
Things seemed okay between us & then she comes over to hang out one day & is in her feelings wanting drink. She ends up clinging to me, crying, telling me she doesn't want to marry her fiance, doesn't want to lose their friends/family if they break up, tells me I'm her soul mate/best friend & feels safe with me etc..
Over the following few months, when we meet up she's telling me all the reasons she doesn't want to marry him but also they're in couples therapy etc.I just listen giving her a space to vent no opinions.
Then I don't see her for a couple months & when I do she's in full wedding planning mode. Again I'm a little surprised & mention something like I'm glad they've worked things out. She just laughs, says what do you mean we were ways getting married everything's great. Like nothing ever happened. I just say congratulations & leave it at that. She asks me to be a bridesmaid, I say of course.
We go on a couple group trips my fiance & her & her fiance + some of their friends. & I can tell after the 2nd one she was withdrawing from me. So I didn't reach out to her for awhile til she did me. We hang a couple times, I thought things were OK. the 3rd time we hang out. We get into a bit of an argument.
She's grilling me about when I'm going to get married/details & I'm trying to tell her i have no details to give her & were not moving at the same pace as her and her guy.
Then she tells me again that I still make her feel guilty & doesn't enjoy when we hang out anymore. She doesnt want to be around me. But loves me & still wants me in her wedding. I'm very confused.
Now I can't help but wonder if I'm just in the wedding party cause she feels guilty/obligated.
At the same time I'm trying to remember that she feels guilty alot. She vented to me about how her fiance & different members of her family make her feel guilty. She feels guilty if she doesn't complete a to do list etc.
So i guess im wondering if this seems like her going through something avoidant related & I should wait it out/give space.

Or if she means what she says, I make her feel guilty & truly doesn't want to be around me anymore. I feel confused & like I shouldn't be in her wedding in that case.

This was seemingly normal day in North Korea. It was cloudy some people were going to the work while some were trying to find whatever food they could get their hands on, like rats or pigeons. But there was group of people for who this was special day. Every single High schooler new that today was beginning of "Golden week", every year for 1-2 weeks glorious leader Kim Jong Un was abroad in Portugal visiting his childhood friend. Seemingly insignificant event, was long awaited for many high school students as during this period strictness in all schools saw massive decrease. Due Kim's commands caused by his nostalgia to childhood it is illegal to expel or punish any student during this "Golden Week" period, so usually obedient students turn into monster as this is only time when its possible to gain power over your and other schools, if person manages to maintain this power there is no way for anyone to oppose him once "Golden Week" is over and they are guaranteed smoothest High School life in NK, there are even rumors that if anyone manages to unite all 3 schools they will be send to South Korea as a reward by Kim Jong Un. No one managed to Unite even 2 schools yet though. Now lets take a look at people who awaited this "Golden week" for a very long
People's school
(short petite Girl was doodling in her notebook)
"Looks like Golden week has started, I will observe events maybe I will even get lucky"
Grace (F,F,B,S-,F)
(wide bodied tall kid stopped exercising and looked outside) "looks like this thing has started I forgot it's name, But it will be great to improve my skills so I will take part in it"
Si-woo (B,E,B+,F,B)
"hey where is my lunch box?"-Teacher screamed. As short student with scar on his face slowly walked out of class while taking bite of sweat bread, which looked suspiciously similar to one teacher had earlier
Junkeok Emanuel the III (F,C,A-,A-,F)
(kid was sitting in poor looking internet café as manager walked to him to tell him his time was up)
"oh okay I guess I will continue this project later"(kid said while closing tab that looked like some hacking software
Park Jin-Hyok (F,E,B-,A,E)
(kid was training in the woods)
"I can't wait for Golden Week to start! I can fight so much it will be very fun"
Lam Lee (F,F,B-,D,A)
Seonghan High School
(kid was running away from his bullies)
"why-why can't someone save me, I don't want to die!!!"
Li Yongsu (F,F,S,E,F)
(guy with long black hair which covered his left eye was sleeping in the class as bell rings he wakes up and slowly walks back to home) "hope some randoms wont disturb me and try to fight me today"
Lee Sung-Min (D,D,B,B,E)
"....."
Joyonghan (C,C,B+,F,C)
(handsome guy who looked sleep deprived was hiding from his female fans)
"this sucks much more then special force physical trainings"
Nae Minsu (F,D,B,B+D)
(student with bloody knife was talking to one of his victims)
"Looks like you wont be able to pick up on poor kids anymore,(he checks newspaper nearby) OH MY GOD today is the day! Golden week starts!"
Klein hong (D,D,B,B+,F)
Kim Jong Suk Secondary School No.1
(kid is sitting on bodies of dozens of other students)
"what? moving to South Korea? Why would I leave, I am future kind of North Korean Military anyway)
Tai Mao(???,???,???,???)
write you next course of action

I recently got a Flying Gecko at an expo and found out afterwards that there had been cross contamination with mites from one of the vendors, mine being one of the contaminated.
I messaged the business that sold him to me, they said to soak him in water for 30 minutes then use olive oil with q-tips and spray, I already purchased some spray.
All in all, I’m wondering what’s the best way to go about doing that with minimum stress. I attempted the olive oil and q-tip method only for him to get super mad and run off, considering how fast flying geckos are, what should I do as for soaking? By that I really mean how would I go about it so he can’t run around my room or get lost? Apologies if this has an obvious answer or anything, He’s probably already super stressed being in a new place especially in quarantine, plus when he jumped out of the container I was using I had to chase him down and I’d rather not put him through that again. Thank you!!

I’ve posted here before but removed the posts because I was worried my MIL would find them somehow lol but I don’t think I care now.
My in laws keep showing up early. Even if we call them the day before and say “okay we will see you at 9!” and they agree, they still show up an hour early. On Saturday, they called my husband saying they were an hour away…at 7 am. Frankly, I lost it. Every time they come over they’re early despite us knowing that they understand they’re supposed to come at a certain time and they ignore it. I get anxiety and don’t sleep the night before they come because I dread it now. When we made these plans, I was talking to my MIL discussing food and I made the mistake of saying “I wasn’t sure how long you guys were thinking of staying…” and she said “if you don’t mind, we’ll just sleepover!”. Me: “oh well we don’t have an AC in the guest room yet, I don’t think that would be comfortable.” Her: “that’s fine I’ll bring my fan!” Me: “husband has to get up very early in the morning for work, it’s going to be a bit busy here.” Her: “that’s fine we’ll get up when he gets up and leave when he leaves so you’ll have your day to yourself!” I realize now I should have said “sleepovers don’t work for us” (seriously they live less than 1.5 hours away the sleepover is not necessary especially with them coming in the morning!!!). My husband called them the day before they were supposed to come, stressed the coming at/after 9 and that sleeping over is not a great idea. She clearly ignored it and showed up with pillows and dog with leash in hands, ringing the doorbell multiple times like a child an hour early. Unfortunately for them, once we knew they were going to be early again, we decided to leave to get coffee. They pulled up, rang the doorbell multiple times and walked around the back of the house to see if they could see us (yay cameras!). Finally, they called asking where we were. My husband said “we had things to do this morning. this is why I told you 9.” I wanted to stay out until 9 but my husband felt bad so we went back to let them in at 8:30. We made them breakfast (which she picked out and did not provide) and my husband wanted to make add a little extra to it (meat, cheese salt and pepper). I told him not to make them their plates so they could make their own food but he made it for them anyways. 10 seconds later I could hear his dad yelling about sending his mom to the hospital…all because he put pepper on her sandwich and she’s on some crazy kidney stone diet that we did not know the specifics of. At this point, we’ve been with them for half an hour and I’m already done and want them to leave but we bought tickets to go to an amusement park. We’re there from 11-5 and my social battery is drained by the time we get back, despite me keeping my distance from them as much as possible. I head to my room for a bit to decompress. While I’m up there, the in laws said that they’ve gotten the vibe that I don’t want them there…husband says that they’re being overbearing towards me so they decide not to sleep over. They also told him they love me as much as they love him, which is not true (they rarely text or call me) and felt manipulative to me. I come down after all of this. We have an awkward dinner and they leave. Now I know my husband and I need to have a serious talk with them about this, but I don’t know how to start it and I know they are gonna be pissed. I do know we will not be having them over until we talk about this.

Every host knows, Airbnb listing process is that you publish your listing 1st and then you update the cancelocation policy, tax information and bank information later. right?
So, a guest booked my listing instantly before i could register my tax information and paperworks. By our country regulations, we can’t operate until tax information is provided.
So i reached out to Airbnb and asked for an admin cancellation. Airbnb specialist instructed me to explain to the guest that my tax information isn’t updated and the reservation would be cancelled no penalty to guest and airbnb would administer the no penalty cancellation. I told airbnb specialist, i feel uncomfortable with disclosing my tax situation to the guest, which is my privacy. I was pushed to send that explanatio to guest.
by following the instruction of airbnb specialist, next day, guest reported and stated that I have listing issues under “communication issues” since I “ encouraged her to cancel”.
Of course, airbnb is going to support me and removed the listing issues since i was just following airbnb instructions.
However, 2 months later, the same listing issues came back live and out of nowhere. It is definitely a technical issue.
When i report this technical issue back to airbnb, airbnb specialist refused to recognize it as a technical issue and re-reinvestigate my listing and claimed that my listing issue is valid.
You can imagine how frusstarted i’m. I followed airbnb listing process, follow airbnb specialist instructions, provided a nice curtesy explanation to guest about the airbnb cancel, guest reported me for an airbnb cancellation and framed things that I never did. i got issue resolved by numerous calls in March . 2 months later, I have to reexperience all these after reporting a technical issue to airbnb.
It’s never been so hard to host.

Me: Engaged in a long term relationship/currently long distance, open while long distance. Charlie: in an on and off relationship for the past year or so. // On Friday, I went out with a friend who we will call Charlie for anonymity on his half. We went for some drinks as he's been feeling pretty down recently. He recently broke up with his boyfriend of which he has been on and off with about 50 times with in the last year.
I'm always happy to talk to him and try to give him advice or even just chill with him if he needs company. We have never before done anything remotely sexual or romantic.
On Friday after a few hours of drinking and dancing he kissed me very passionately, then asked me about my fiancé and whats happening. I told him the truth which he wasn't happy with, he then broke down emotionally and told me how he feels about me.
He told me he really likes me romantically and that he broke up with his ex because of me. (I should note they were not together at the time of going out). I told him that we can't be a thing, my fiancé and I have a no strong feelings rule with others as it would get messy. Which is now clearly true.
He then left and has refused to talk to me after I've tried reaching out. I told him I'll give him space if he needs it. 2 days later his now boyfriend again sent me a message request stating "I thought you and Charlie were just friends?"
I've yet to reply and I think it's best to ignore it. But it makes me think that I'm being lied about now which kinda sucks.
TLDR: Went for drinks with friend. They told me they had the big feels for me. I said no as I'm engaged. They're now refusing to talk to me. Not sure how to proceed with the friendship. Or even if I should.

Hi there, I’m flying Lufthansa tomorrow for maybe the first time ever. I’m leaving from the United States and have a layover in Frankfurt into Istanbul.
I’m not new to flying, but noticed lately the aggressive weight limits on carry on baggage.
8kg is 17.6lbs Take into consideration the weight of the suitcase and it’s nothing. I am carrying a lot of electronics with me this trip. 2 laptops, SLR camera, iPad, cords, cables, batteries.
Does anyone know if Lufthansa weighs the carry on’s? Most don’t, but lately (in Europe) coming back to US, they weighed it and charged me.
I have weight in my baggage but don’t want to check this stuff as I do not want it to get damaged or stolen.
Thank you in advance!

So I recently purchased the revised core set again to do some solo adventures on days my friend group can’t meet up. We have only played it the first time we started doing Arkham and have never returned. I’m wondering if I am missing some cards? The item description when I purchased it (used) said it came with everything but I feel like something isn’t adding up. But again the first time we played was so long ago and I don’t remember it. Any help is appreciated, thank you.

Hey everyone!
Going to adopt my little fur ball around the beginning of July, from a friend of mine whose cats just had babies. I’m really excited, I’ve always loved cats and I’m so happy I’m finally in a position to get one and take good care of it.
The kittens are Russian Blues, born on April 1st, so they will be about 3 months old when I adopt. According to my friend, the kittens will be dewormed and vaccinated, but not yet spayed/neutered. I’ll have to get the neutering/spaying done. She said it’s better to wait until the kitten reaches 4-5 months of age to optimize their post-surgery recovery and minimize the risk of urinary tract problems?
I have a couple of questions I’d like to get sorted out before the little fur ball reaches my home:

1. I’m a medical student so I inevitably will get busy at times. I decided to adopt during the summer because I will be home from end June to early September, so I can spend a maximum amount of time with my cat in its early months at my home (and be around when the neuterin/spaying happens lol). However, when I do get back to school, how do I ensure a smooth transition so that my cat doesn’t feel lonely or anxious that I’m gone for 4-6 hours during the day? (Getting another cat is unfortunately not an option)
   
2. I live in an apartment (very spacious with good ventilation), any recommendations on litters with the best odour control? How often should I completely change the litter inside the box and clean the box?
   
3. In your experience, what’s a good ratio of dry food:wet food? In other words, how often should my cat eat wet food? I want to make sure I give it the best possible diet.
   
4. Are there signs of health problems in a cat’s early life that I should be on the lookout for? Like trouble walking/jumping, loud breathing, etc.? The cat will be checked by the vet before I adopt anyways, but I just wanted to make sure there is/isn’t something I should look out for.
   

Feel free to add any other advice you think might be useful to a first-time cat parent, thank you so much!

I used the live chat button on the Myriad website to ask a question about myriad prequel testing. The representative answered me and then said your results just finished processing (I was shocked because it had only been 5 days) then she said it should take 48 to 72 hours for you to have them from here…I’m confused because everyone online seems to say after processing it moves through lab reviews and clinical review in a few hours. Then I logged onto my account and saw it still says processing (even though the representative told me it was done processing a few hours ago). Now I’m worried maybe it wasn’t really done processing and I got my hopes up for no reason. The wait is so stressful.
Did anyone have something similar happen to them? I’m tempted to bother them again and ask if my portal is just not updating 🙈

I just quit Prodigy Acquisitions/First Gen Marketing and if you were considering working for them, I’m here to advise you not to waste your time. Essentially, they are a MLM scheme - First Gen is “partnered” with Prodigy, 99% sure they’re both under Smart Circle - regional manager was Kinsey Guenther. They post several job openings titled things like “Entry Level Marketing Specialist” with the promise that you will learn all about becoming a business owner in 8-12 months. All you’ll be doing is standing around at BJs or doing laps around Targets selling phones for AT&T.
During my interview, I confirmed that the base pay range was $16-20 (negotiable by experience) and I would get a consistent 40 hours a week. But I was later told that the base pay was only $16 an hour or we would get paid the commission from selling the phones - not both, but whichever was higher. In addition to that, I never actually got 40 hours a week during the time I worked there; most I got was 31 hours.
They have weekday morning meetings from 8:30am-10am consisting of cult-like chants, practicing the same pitch repetitively, and hearing the leaders recycle the same speeches about “hard work” and “dedication” while hip hop music played in the background. You will be expected to attend even on your off days, and more than likely you will not be paid for morning meetings…something else that was conveniently left out during my onboarding.
There are also multiple zoom meetings each week that you’ll be expected to attend. Some days I would attend the unpaid morning meeting, work form 11-7, and then be expected to hop on a “networking” call at 8 or 9pm. You are also encouraged to go out and sell on their off days (without being paid, ofcourse) to “get a head start” on your sales for the week. There is barely any work-life balance if you choose to dedicate yourself to this process. My best advice is to find somewhere else that will actually value and respect your time and effort.

Hi, the names agent on here and I’m 21. I’ve been rping for 6 years and am very literate. I was looking for a long term partner to do a rp plot I’ve been dying to do. As the title states I want to have a romance between childhood best friends that was never explore. Simply put, I want them both to start having feelings after college. To stir up some drama, we can make one of the characters be in a relationship and start to doubt their love for their current partner. Or even have a moment where they betray their partner unknowingly in the moment. That’s just an idea and doesn’t need to be implemented. We can brain storm ideas we want to happen in these stories and make it comfortable for the both of us.
Something’s that need to be known: I’m able to rp both in 1st or 3rd. I like to rp on discord but if you want to rp on here that’s fine. As of posting this it is 4 so keep in mind the time zone difference if there is one and let’s try to have fun. I’m very friendly and open so please don’t be afraid to dm me

So on April 15th I received a grand jury summons. The court is over 50 miles away and not even in my county. I'm the sole caregiver to my elderly disabled parents, the clerk courts said that isn't an acceptable excuse for being dismissed from jury duty. It's odd considering I got a summons for my local county court and was dismissed within a week with no problems last year. I sent my excusal request the day received my juror summons (4/15) and it said they would get back to me in 14-20 days (today is day 28) they never contacted me back to tell me my request was denied I had to call them multiple times today just for him to say to get out of serving in a grand jury the only accepted excuses are your dead, over 70 or have a doctors excuse saying you are too disabled to serve. It never says that anywhere in the packet I received, it says " cause you undue hardship, or extreme inconvenience by appearing". My mom has severe COPD and gets winded walking 10 feet and needs multiple inhalers and an oxygen tank to get around, my dad has dementia and needs a lot of supervision, both are over 70 and combined they need 17 different medications distributed to the two of them several times a day. The adult daycares said my dad would need specialized care that would cost a lot. I asked the guy at the clerk of courts if an email with my juror info from families doctor saying they need constant assistance would help he said it would but there still wasn't a guarantee they'd accept the request. If any of that was necessary it should have been in the packet or they should have contacted me back weeks ago saying the request had been denied giving me more time instead of ghosting me for a month. Unfortunately, my family doctor is on vacation till next week because of course he is. I still have 22 days till I have to appear but any other info or advice would be greatly appreciated.

To start, my sister (16) is 4 years younger than me (20). I struggled with my mental health and self harm since I was 12 and am about a two years clean. My parents knew about it and I have been in therapy ever since. I know my sister knows I self harmed as I have noticeable scars and I don’t really hide them anymore and I have seen her looking them before.
Last year, my sister started self harming and my parents found out as someone at school told them. At this point me and my sister weren’t that close and I wasn’t really sure how to go about the situation. My sister never went to any therapy (that I am aware of) apart from seeing the councillor at school a couple of times (i went to the same high school as she is at now and i know that they are shit). She then stopped for a year and I wasn’t aware she started again till today. She was showing me an outfit for a party tomorrow and as she was getting changed I saw that she has sh on her hip (i couldn’t tell how fresh it was but they weren’t old scars). I am aware I should’ve said something in the moment but I’m so unsure what to say. Since I went to collage we have got a lot closer and we are really close atm.
Anyway, I’m not sure what to do. I feel as if i should tell my mum but she has some health issues going on and I don’t want to put this on her aswell. My other problem is my mum didn’t seem to take my sisters sh as serious she did with me. I’m assuming it was because I was younger but I wouldn’t want to tell my mum and then she once again does not really do anything (as if it was the other way round i think it would make me feel worse). I do feel bad that my mum doesn’t take my sisters issues as seriously and dunno what to do about this aswell haha
All advice is appreciated 🩵

I have been all to worried about being in a relationship or getting in one. I want an opinion from people with TBI who have kids and a fellow partner. Do you regret it? Do you feel like it’s a lot of headache in your life?
I seen a short video of a younger man asking an older man - what do you regret? He said if you don’t have kids YOU WILL NEVER BE IMPORTANT

As a context. We've had many problems, from her not letting my game (in healthy amounts) saying it's childish and useless, judging me on reading fantasy books because it's useless.
We've had deadbeadroom problems, from me initiating all the time and feeling like she does it as a chore, to her saying she wishes sex was eliminated as it just brings problems because that's all men think about.
To give a background about me, I have had my share of errors obviously, but I always treated her with love, will buy her flowers, will cook for her, will take her out on nice dinners, even when my needs aren't being fulfilled. When I try and talk about my needs, I'm described as sex thirsty, or too sensitive if it's about something she said or did.
She has always had a low sex drive, and I've suggested books, podcasts, giving her more space, less space, I've suggested couples therapy. She didn't do any of those. She went to a sex expert, already saying beforehand "I know exactly what she's going to say, it's a waste of time but fine, I'll go". And she went to one appointment, didn't do what was recommended, and never went again. On the other hand, I went to a therapist on her suggestion.
In the meanwhile, although I consider myself to be a very calm chill person, our arguments don't stop, my opinion is mostly invalidated, I have to hear things like "it's 90% your fault", and "you need to change" and "speak about that to your therapist". I feel like I'm loosing it, I'm becoming a person around her that I know I am not, I am raising my voice, being mean back to her, feel sorry for it, apologize for what I did (she doesn't apologize for anything she does). And rinse and repeat, it's a cycle.
I even start to question myself, if I'm a bad person.
She has blamed the lack of sex on me not working out enough, because in the beginning of our relationship I had more visible abs. I am nowhere in bad shape, less toned from not working out as much.
I had a surgery and injured a tendon badly and struggled to recover from the injury. She still blamed me saying I should have gone to the doctor as soon as I injured myself.. While I agree, I usually think I'll recover with resting, like other injuries and only went after 1 month. So a total of three months not training.
Fast forward, she threatens to move out of the house, whenever we fight and sometimes does. Just yesterday we had a ridiculous fight. We were grocery shopping and we saw someone who most likely was from another country and commented that. She promptly added "oh yea and he is really good looking". Out of nowhere.
With our sex life struggling and her comments on my height (I'm 6 foot but she wishes I was taller, the guy was about 7 foot), I thought it wasn't the best time to make comments such as those and shared it with her, in an honest calm way. She starts acting all disappointing and judgemental saying that this just shows insecurities and jealousy. Again, asking me to mention this to my therapist, and saying that I need to change.
I just answer that I'm sharing my boundaries respectfully and that this is the way I am. Again, she leaves the house and hasn't talked to me since.
I'm really lost here, I don't know anymore how to speak to her. What I know is I'm suffering greatly from stress, getting beard patches and other skin problems. Can is this considered abusive in any way?

My husband (28M) and I (24F) will be married for 5 years in October. Before marriage, we were dating and engaged after a year. At first, we couldn't hardly keep our hands to ourselves and we were really into each other. We were both virgins before we got together so it was all new and exciting. About 6 months into marriage, he just stopped being intimate. I'll never forget when I wore my best lingerie and got dolled up for him, he walked into the room, stopped, said it was "awkward" and left the room. It broke my heart and I felt completely rejected. This went on for all of 2020. Then, I found out he had been emotionally cheating and was planning to physically cheat as well. Fast forward to 2024, the problems never have been resolved. Every year of being together, I have checked his phone at some point and found out that he's talking to other women online and this year, he decided to go to lunch alone with hie ex gf, who is also married. He deleted all of their messages between each other as well. I have begged him for a decent sex life for 5 years now and nothing has changed. I gained weight during 2020 so, I decided to start going to the gym in 2021. I go now 4-5 times a week, I've gained muscle and toned, and even all of that hasn't helped. He is very overweight and I'd like for him to be healthy so I invite him to go with me all the time and he always refuses. I work from home now, but even when I didn't, I cook and clean and take care of the dogs and take out the trash. He doesn't even shower most of the time anymore or brush his teeth. It's like he just doesn't care anymore. We both just got our degrees last week and I finally found my dream job. Now that I found my dream job, it's almost like he's jealous because all he does is complain now about his job and how he is going to get one like mine. On top of this, he can't complete on simple task, like buying condiments at the store, without callin gme 3 or 4 times to ask simple questions. I always tell him that he is a grown man and that he is a member of this household, I am not his mother. I'm tired of begging for him to sleep with me, spend time with me, and take care of himself. I feel like I'm finally growing into who I am and I'm nervous that him and I are not growing in the same direction. He keeps saying he wants kids (I absolutely do not) but, I do not want to have kids with someone who is selfish with food, time, and energy.
To sum it up: I feel like my husband has completely stopped all effort after almost 5 years of marriage. He can't do the simplest thing for himself and it's wearing me out. I don't want to lose our connection and I don't know what to do about any of it. How do you motivate someone who doesn't take care of themself, even when you give them all of the tools to do so?

I can’t help but feel a bit sad today. I have a 14 month old and take care of her full time.
My husband did a lot this weekend for me and I know he really cares about me. He gives me compliments and thanks me a lot. But he didn’t say anything to me on Mother’s Day. No compliments or anything. And I’m realizing I am sad about it. He is not big on holidays and prefers things to be natural and not forced, but still. My mom wished me happy Mother’s Day and so did a few friends, which is lovely.
I didn’t think I had expectations, but I guess I did? Even though I know intellectually social media isn’t real life, a lot of my friends had husbands who posted recognition posts and mine didn’t. He never does and he isn’t performative but it still made me sad. Perhaps it would have been ok if he has said something to me in person.
This isn’t my first Mother’s Day, but my baby was only 2 months old last year. I was definitely a mother then, but it feels different this year.
So if you didn’t get recognized yesterday, I am proud of you!!!

Hi all, 21(F) I suffer very bad with anxiety and have physical symptoms of anxiety pretty much all the time. I am on medication and I am seeing a physiatrist but my anxiety has recently led to agoraphobia where I struggle to even leave my room never mind my home. All of this has had a very big impact on my relationship with my partner and I’m scared that they are going to leave me. I really want to get better but I feel like nothing works and I never will. I’m scared if I loose them I will be all alone