Hi,
Here's what I can offer for trades. CIB unless noted otherwise. List may get updated after initial posting.

Have

PS1
Breath of Fire 3	Manual damaged. Missing first page. Disc plays okay.
Breath of Fire 4
Parasite Eve	Small crack in the case
Tactics Ogre
Dragon Warrior 7
Legend of Legaia
Metal Gear Solid	missing manual
Suikoden	small rip in first page of manual
Wild Arms 2	loose disc only
Final Fantasy Tactics
Revelations: Persona	box only
Star Ocean: The Second Story
Gran Turismo	Brand new. Plastic wrap is gone but seal at the top is still intact.
A bug's life
Black Dawn
Formula1 98
Small soldiers
The next tetris
Star wars: Episode 1 The phantom menace
Twisted metal III
Wu-Tang: Shaolin Style
Apocalypse
Playstation Underground Jampack
NHL FaceOff 99
NFL Xtreme
NFL GameDay 2001	Sealed. Small rip in the plastic wrap
NFL GameDay 2000
MLB 2000
3Xtreme
Contender
Jampack Summer 99
Jampack Winter 98
Interactive CD Sampler Pack Volume 3
Spyro
Bust A Groove

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PS2
Shin Megami Tensei: Persona 3 [Limited Edition]	outer box showing some wear
.Hack Quarantine	Missing anime DVD, Case may not be original
Front mission 4
Katamari Damacy
Silent Hill 3
Silent Hill 4
Suikoden 3
Final Fantasy XII Limited Edition (steelbook)
Xenosaga Episode 1
Xenosaga Episode 3
Guitar Hero
Guitar Hero Metallica
Guitar Hero III Legend of Rock
Rockband AC/DC Track Pack
Grandia II
Grandia III
Shin Megami Tensei III: Nocturne
Kingdom Hearts	GH
Dragon Ball Z Budokai Tenkaichi 3

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PSP
Untold Legends Brotherhood Of The Blade
Prince Of Persia: The Forgotten Sands
Legend Of Heroes III Song Of The Ocean	loose umd only
Grand Theft Auto Liberty City Stories	GH
Robots	UMD Movie

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Vita
Killzone Mercenary	loose

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PS3
Metal Gear Solid: The Legacy Collection [Artbook Bundle]	Sealed with artbook
Dante's Inferno Divine Edition	with slipcover, missing manual
BlazBlue: Continuum Shift Extend
Batman: Arkham City
Blazing Angels: Squadrons of WWII
Disney Infinity starter pack	Sealed
Record of Agarest War 2	Sealed, One corner of box is dinged
Dead Island Riptide [Rigor Mortis Edition]	Sealed
Dead Space 3 Dev-team Edition	Sealed, 4004/5000
Battlefield 3
Battlefield 4
Far Cry 2
Far Cry 4
Cabela's Big Game Hunter 2010
Heavy Fire: Afghanistan
Tom Clancy's Rainbow Six Vegas
Little Big Planet Karting
Batman: Arkham Asylum - GoTY edition
Medal of Honor: Warfighter
Need for Speed: The Run LE
Need for Speed: Hot Pursuit LE
Need for Speed: Hot Pursuit	loose, GH
Need for Speed: Rivals	missing manual
Sonic's Ultimate Genesis Collection
Duke Nukem Forever
Lego Batman 2: DC Super Heroes	GH
Lego Star Wars: The Force Awakens	loose
Destiny
Lost Planet 3	Sealed
God of War Collection	GH
Ferrari Challenge Trofeo Pirelli
Dead Space
Blazing Angels: Squadrons of WWII
Dead Island
Batman: Arkham City
Blazblue: Continuum Shift Extend
Blur
Prototype 2 Blackwatch Collector's Edition	Sealed

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PS4
Fallout 4 Pipboy edition	Sealed
Elder Scrolls Online Tamriel Unlimited Imperial Edition	Sealed
Wolfenstein II: The new Colossus Collector's Edition	Sealed
Final fantasy vii remake
Final fantasy vii remake deluxe edition	Sealed
Neptunia x SENRAN KAGURA: Ninja Wars	digital code
Kingdom Hearts All-in-one	sealed
Fifa 14
Battlefield 4
INSIDE / LIMBO double pack
WWE 2K15 Hulkamania Edition	sealed
Dying Light
Fallout 4
Borderlands: The Handsome Collection
Maid of Sker	Sealed, PEGI
NBA 2K19
Dynasty Warrior 7 Empires	Chinese version
R-Type Final 2 Inaugural edition	Sealed
Transformers: Rise Of The Dark Spark
Injustice: Gods Among Us Ultimate Edition

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PS5
Tales of Arise	Sealed
Elden Ring preorder code x3	Willing to throw this in free with any trade
Elden Ring with steelbook bundle	Bundle seems to be Bestbuy Canada exclusive
Scarlet Nexus	Sealed
Evil Dead	digital code
Horizon Forbidden West Collector's Edition	Sealed
Spider-man 2	digital code

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Xbox
Terminator 3: Rise of the Machines	gamestop sticker on manual

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Xbox360
Ace Combat 6: Fires of Liberation
Banjo-Kazooie: Nuts & Bolts
Fallout 3
Halo 4 LE	Sealed
Lost Odyssey
Silent Hill: Homecoming
Otomedius Excellent

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GameCube
Resident Evil
Donkey Konga 2	Sealed

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Wii
Super Mario All-Stars: 25th Anniversary Edition	Sealed
The Last Story LE
Sin & Punishment: Star Successor	Sealed

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Switch
Xenoblade Chronicles 2
Xenoblade Chronicles 2: Torna the Golden Country	Sealed
Xenoblade Chronicles 3	Sealed
Metroid Dread Special Edition	Sealed
Shin Megami Tensei V Fall of Men Premium Edition	Sealed
Hoa	Sealed
Story of Seasons: Pioneers of Olive Town Premium Edition	Sealed
Prinny Presents NIS Classics Volume 1 [Deluxe Edition]	Sealed
AI: THE SOMNIUM FILES – nirvanA Initiative Collectors Edition	Sealed
Legend of Zelda the tears of the kingdom Collector's edition	Sealed
Fire Emblem Engage Divine Edition	Sealed

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GBA
Platinum GBA SP	loose
Crash Bandicoot Purple: Ripto's Rampage	loose
Avatar: The Last Airbender	loose
SpongeBob SquarePants Movie	loose
American Dragon Jake Long Rise Of The Huntsclan	loose
Ty The Tasmanian Tiger 3	loose
Pokemon LeafGreen	loose
Pokemon Sapphire	loose, dry battery replaced
Chronicles Of Narnia Lion Witch And The Wardrobe	loose
Super Mario Advance 4: Super Mario Bros. 3	loose
Tales of Phantasia	loose
Shining Soul 2	loose
Kirby and the Amazing Mirror	loose
Kirby Nightmare in Dreamland	loose

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DS
Coral Pink DS Lite	Excellent cosmetic condition, charger included
White DSi	no charger, stylus
TMNT
Lego Harry Potter Year 1-4
Phantasy Star 0	missing manual
Flash Focus
Castlevania: Order of Ecclesia	loose
Valkyrie Profile: Covenant of the Plume	loose
Final Fantasy: The 4 Heroes of Light	loose
Pokemon HeartGold	loose, small damage on label
Pokemon HeartGold	big box with pokewalker
Pokemon SoulSilver	box only
Pokemon Diamond
Pokemon Diamond	loose
Pokemon Platinum	loose
Pokemon Black
Pokemon Black	missing manual
Pokemon Black	box only
Hoppie	no manual, some water damage in cover arts
Kingdom Hearts 358/2 Days
Metroid Prime: Hunters - First Hunt	loose
Diddy Kong Racing
Fossil Fighters
Professor Layton And The Curious Village
Pheonix Wright: Ace Attorney	loose

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3DS
3DS XL Black+Red	CIB, Cave Story digital installed
New 3DS XL Galaxy	loose. Charger included. Missing stylus, Dual IPS screen
Pokemon X
Rune Factory 4
Bravely Second: End Layer	Warning booklet missing
Kingdom Hearts 3D Dream Drop Distance LE	Missing AR cards
Pokemon Sun	loose
Pokemon Ultra Sun
Pokemon X	loose, have 2
Kirby Triple Deluxe	loose
LEGO Star Wars The Force Awakens	Case in rough shape. Missing manual
Etrian Odyssey V: Beyond The Myth [Launch Edition]	sealed
Sonic: Lost World
Super Smash Bros. for Nintendo 3DS
Mario Kart 7
Kirby: Triple Deluxe	Nintendo Selects
Donkey Kong Country Returns 3D	Nintendo Selects
Tales of the Abyss	sealed
Fantasy Life

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Amiibo (all SSB except noted otherwise)	All sealed in original box
Peach (Super Mario)	025W1
Yoshi (Super Mario)	524W2
Mario	434W2
Bowser	464S1
Diddy Kong	424S1
Luigi	434S1
Pikachu	474W2
Squirtle	279W5
Ivysaur	299W5
Snake	2559G1
Sonic	494W2
Peach	444W3
Link (Link's awakening)	2079G1
Link	524S1
Link (Majora's mask)	187S1

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Guides
Tales of Vesperia	BradyGames
Dark Souls	FuturePress, Sealed
Dark Souls II CE	FuturePress, Sealed
Dragon Warrior VII	Prima
Breath of Fire IV	Prima
Ni No Kuni: Wrath of the White Witch	Prima, Hard Cover
Wild Arms 4	Prima
God of War III	BradyGames
Resident Evil 6	BradyGames, Hard Cover, Sealed
Legend of Zelda Collector's Box Set	Prima, sealed

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Manuals
https://imgur.com/a/DLa5yM4	Too many to list. Some 360/PS3 ones may be in French. Please ask. Harvest Moon (GC) is traded.

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Steelbooks	G1 size unless noted. No games included.
Assassin's Creed 3	in shrink wrap
Assassin's Creed Collection
Batman Arkham City Armored Edition
Batman Arkham City	G2
Call of Duty Black Ops II
Dead Space 3	in shrink wrap
Devil May Cry	G2
Dishonored
Duke Nukem Forever	in shrink wrap
Epic Mickey 2
Farcry 3	in shrink wrap
FF XIII Lightning Returns	in shrink wrap
Hitman Absolution
Injustice Gods Among Us
Medal of Honor Warfighter	G2
New Super Mario Bros U
NHL 12
Prototype 2	in shrink wrap
Sleeping Dogs
Thief
World of Warcraft Mist of Pandara

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Misc
FF X Play Arts Tidus	Still in original box, never displayed out of box
FF X Play Arts Yuna	Still in original box, never displayed out of box
FF X Play Arts Auron	Still in original box, never displayed out of box
FFVII Advent Children Play Arts Sephiroth	Still in original box, never displayed out of box
FFVII Advent Children Play Arts Vincent	Still in original box, never displayed out of box
FFVII Advent Children Play Arts Cloud with Fenrir	Still in original box, never displayed out of box
Steer 'n win jr racing wheel/pedal	compatible with PS1/N64
Diablo III Collector's Edition PC	Sealed
Diablo III Reaper of Souls Collector's Edition PC	Sealed
Homeworld Collector's Edition PC	Sealed

Want:

Mostly interested in JRPGs and horrors. Working design, Enix, Falcom, NIS, Atlus, etc. Also looking for many turbo/turbo CD games. Must be CIB unless noted otherwise.
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PS1
Adventures of Lomax
Deception III: Dark Delusion
Echo Night
Kartia
King's Field (Long box)
King's Field II
Klonoa: Door to Phantomile
Koudelka
Misadventures of Tron Bonne
RayCrisis: Series Termination
RayStorm
Shadow Tower
Tail Concerto
Thunder Force V
Torneko: The Last Hope
Resident evil survivor

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PS2
Echo Night: Beyond
Forever Kingdom
Haunting Ground
ObsCure
Shadow Heart
Silent Hill 2 (Greatest Hits)
Silent Hill: Shattered Memories
Tsugunai: Atonement

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PS4
Atelier Ryza LE
Atelier Sophie LE
Tales of Berseria CE

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PS5
The Last of us Part 1 Firefly edition (sealed)
The Last of us Part 2 WLF edition (sealed)

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Vita
Hyperdimension Neptunia Re;Brith 1 LE

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GBC
Dragon Warrior Monsters
Dragon Warrior Monsters 2: Cobi's Journey
Dragon Warrior Monsters 2: Tara's Adventure
Dragon Warrior I & II
Lufia: The Legend Returns
Revelations: The Demon Slayer

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GBA
DemiKids: Dark/Light Version
Klonoa 2: Dream Champ Tournament
Klonoa: Empire of Dreams
Lufia: The Ruins of Lore
Lunar Legend
Summon Night: Swordcraft Story
Summon Night: Swordcraft Story 2

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GameCube
Star Fox: Assault	Manual only
Jet Black GameCube box and cardboard inserts
Indigo wired OEM controller	very low want

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Switch
Dragon quest xi	sealed preferred

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DS
Blue Dragon: Awakened Shadow
Commando: Steel Disaster
Dragon Quest V
Dragon Quest IV	Box and manual only
Etrian Odyssey
Izuna: Legend of the Unemployed Ninja
Lufia: Curse of the Sinitrals
Lunar: Dragon Song	Manual only
Resident Evil: Deadly Silence
Sands of Destruction
Super Robot Taisen OG Saga Endless Frontier

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3DS
Corpse Party: Back to School Edition
Dragon Quest VIII
Etrian Mystery Dungeon (Launch soundtrack bundle preferred)
Etrian Odyssey Nexus (launch edition)
Fire Emblem Echoes: Shadows Of Valentia Limited Edition
Radiant Historia: Perfect Chronology (launch edition)
Shin Megami Tensei: Devil Summoner: Soul Hackers (with soundtrack)
Shin Megami Tensei: Devil Survivor 2 Record Breaker (launch edition)
Shin Megami Tensei IV Apocalypse Launch Edition

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Others
Turbografx-16 Console	CIB preferred
Turbografx-16 and Turbo CD games	CIB preferred. Almost everything except sports games will be considered. Big priority now
Dragon Quest Slime controller for Switch
All Uncharted Waters games (SNES and Genesis, CIB)

Notes.

• Prefer to trade within Canada, but will consider cross border too if offers are attractive. I'm okay with conus (with some exceptions).
• Will provide pics upon request.
• I have not listed everything in haves/wants. I will gladly check your list and work something out.

For some background - my husband and I have been together since junior year of high school. We are now 37 - have been married almost 14 years, two kids ages 7 and 9.
His relationship with his mom has always been strained. The first time I met her when I was 17 she looked at me then back to my hubby and said “well i hope you use a condom”. When we got engaged she told him “theres so many fish in the sea”. So obviously her distaste for me has been since day one.
Ive expressed so many times over the last 20 years how I dont want to be in the middle of their discord and finally in 2022 asked her to please not call me or text me and to communicate only with her son as I need to protect my mental health and can not put up with constantly being blamed for my husband wanting no relationship and not allowing her around the kids.
My husband has also not spoken to her or responded to any calls or texts from her since around this time. So naturally in her head this is all my fault.
On Mother’s Day she called my cell. I did not answer. She starts off her message purposely calling me by the wrong name and then saying “whatever u wanna be called”. She then moved on to say its so difficult to talk to me bc Im always so mean. Its horrible and unhealthy for us to hold onto anger or the past. Everyone thinks its strange we behave this way.
This obviously ruined my day a bit. My husband was like just ignore it, she wants you to react and wants to piss us off so we look crazy. Anyone who knows us knows you arent mean and that shes not right in the head.
I know he is right and that shes just trying to get a reaction and she craves attention even if negative.
Should I just block her phone number at this point to not have to read or listen to her messages - I really dont understand why she cant respect such a simple request to not call or text me and only communicate with her son.

See comments for the rest of the story.
I need some opinions and advice regarding a job. I am currently a senior Health Science student (Pre-PA), and I am trying to gain additional patient care hours. I have enough to apply to the PA programs I wish to attend, but I would like more by the time I start grad school.
Last year (around March), I applied to a medical scribe job per the request of the doctor I would be working for. The job is through a major hospital system, which I will not name, that is in the south of the US.
To say the least, trying to get hired by this hospital system has been an absolute nightmare. (1) The job listing did not specify if it was part-time or full-time. I am a full-time student, so when the application asked which I prefer, I put part-time. HR communicated with the doctor that they did not want to hire me to work part-time. Due to this, I offered to work full-time (I would go to class, come in after, and stay late to get all of my hours). She used to scribe on paper and then have a medical scribe transfer it to EMR, so that would not be an issue to her. (2) The job listing specified that I had to have one year of scribing experience. I did not realize volunteering hours count, too, so my original resume only included paid hours (~ 3 months). HR communicated with the doctor that they would not hire me due to lack of experience, which is reasonable. I asked the doctor if volunteering would count, and she said yes. We ended up informing HR of my volunteering experience (~ 10 months). With my volunteering hours and paid hours combined, I have enough experience for the job. (3) We discussed plans for me to go to class, come into work, and stay late with HR. HR said they would not hire me unless I was in the room from 8–5 with the doctor. If I took the job and my clock-in/clock-out times didn’t reflect this, I would be fired. I could not do this because of my full-time, on-campus course load. (4) The doctor who wants me to work for them got the head of her specialty’s department involved to have a meeting with HR and plead my/the doctor’s case. They still refused to hire me. (5) HR said I could scribe for them if I worked for them for one year. The doctor tried getting me hired at the front desk with the understanding (and verbal agreement with HR) that I would become a scribe in the back after one year at the front desk. (6) The job listing said one year of customer service experience (no specification between paid or volunteer) was required, which I have from volunteering at various places (city zoo, church nursery, etc.) and from working in my university’s tutoring center. After I applied to the position, they refused to hire me without giving a reason. (7) The doctor and I were tired of going back and forth with HR. It had been two months at this point. The doctor requested to someone at the hospital’s associated med school to create a job position for me to be able to work front desk in her clinic. This process was a breeze, and the med school hired me without any problems! They even created a job position and title that did not exist just to help us out. I proceeded to work the front desk and do other clerical duties in the office for the next year.

I’m not interested in people who don’t give their introduction to me or saying only “ hi hru” and I won’t answer you in case u did not read my post clearly enough
Hi everyone, I’m looking for friends to do activities, talk with in daily life constantly during this school break for practicing my English.(I prefer vc but idm we chatting first)
First of all, I’m 21 college girl from South east asia (Yea, I’m Asian) I’m pretty introverted.Anyways, I’ll become to be a talkative persons once I get comfortable.
secondly, My hobbies are drawing, I prefer to draw in anime lines, playing pc games such as story games or coop sometimes on steam (we can play some games that we can coop)And, the last things is learning languages, I’m learning French and English right now, it will be good if I have some eu or the us friends to practice with.Morever, the things I really like is collecting K-pop albums, perfumes, and I also love fashion.I assumed you can count on me in term of fashionable.My style is Acubi, y2k, old money, and every core lol.
Finally, I mostly active on discord the most, and my intention is to make new friends here.And, I warn someone who has rude manner like text me without introduction or only flirting, you won’t give my reply back fr since I’m picky person to choose quality friends come into my life.
Bonus point : I really pref EU people, but not requested.If you feel like my post catch your eyes Feel free to dm me with ur introduction.

So my family has been managing my tanks while I’ve been far away for school and is doing a great job. Ammonia/nitrates get tested semi regularly, while other parameters are deemed less important and thus usually not tested in respect of their time.
I was curious where pH has been at so my bro just did a test. When I left pH was 7.8…. Now apparently 8.2- but tds only 231 o__O;
We use distilled water mixed with salty shrimp for the water because of the liquid rock that is our local water supply. This would target a kH/gH of about 3/6 assuming used as instructed and a neutral pH. The tank uses natural materials - pagoda stone, pond soil/aquasoil, black sand… so obviously something isn’t adding up 😅. I may request kH/gH tested sometime but given the tds is about right, I can’t imagine it’s far off the mark.
This leaves me with two variables… Plants… And the fact the pH kit might uh be 2 years old.
I’ll be sending a new pH kit soon just to sanity check. But I’m just curious if photosynthesizing plants could raise the pH that far. Not worried about the fish as everyone is thriving! Just please weigh in on my aquarium science

im coming here to ask for help, ive been searching around for some time now and im coming to a dead spot, ive tried many youtube videos for help but they are all so different ( due to being years ago ) ive also tried asking chatgpt and copilot. no help. Im doing my major project for design and tech in school and need help im very new to programming on python, so if anyone could help that would be great. Ive got a program which already works and you can talk to it and it will talk back. but i want to add functions to it such as: it being able to google search for me, open apps on my computer. this is my code:
import os
from os import PathLike
from time import time
import asyncio
from typing import Union
from dotenv import load_dotenv
import openai
from deepgram import Deepgram
import pygame
from pygame import mixer
import elevenlabs
from record import speech_to_text
load_dotenv()
OPENAI_API_KEY = os.getenv("OPENAI_API_KEY")
DEEPGRAM_API_KEY = os.getenv("DEEPGRAM_API_KEY")
elevenlabs.set_api_key(os.getenv("ELEVENLABS_API_KEY"))
gpt_client = openai.Client(api_key=OPENAI_API_KEY)
deepgram = Deepgram(DEEPGRAM_API_KEY)

mixer is a pygame module for playing audio

mixer.init()
context = "You are Cypher, Bear's human assistant. You are witty and full of personality. Your answers should be limited to 1-4 short sentences."
conversation = {"Conversation": []}
RECORDING_PATH = "audio/recording.wav"
def request_gpt(prompt: str) -> str:
"""
Send a prompt to the GPT-3 API and return the response.
Args:

• state: The current state of the app.
  
• prompt: The prompt to send to the API.
  

Returns:
The response from the API.
"""
response = gpt_client.chat.completions.create(
messages=[
{
"role": "user",
"content": f"{prompt}",
}
],
model="gpt-3.5-turbo",
)
return response.choices[0].message.content
async def transcribe(
file_name: Union[Union[str, bytes, PathLike[str], PathLike[bytes]], int]
):
"""
Transcribe audio using Deepgram API.
Args:

• file_name: The name of the file to transcribe.

Returns:
The response from the API.
"""
with open(file_name, "rb") as audio:
source = {"buffer": audio, "mimetype": "audio/wav"}
response = await deepgram.transcription.prerecorded(source)
return response["results"]["channels"][0]["alternatives"][0]["words"]
def log(log: str):
"""
Print and write to status.txt
"""
print(log)
with open("status.txt", "w") as f:
f.write(log)
if __name__ == "__main__":
while True:

Record audio

log("Listening...")
speech_to_text()
log("Done listening")

Transcribe audio

current_time = time()
loop = asyncio.new_event_loop()
asyncio.set_event_loop(loop)
words = loop.run_until_complete(transcribe(RECORDING_PATH))
string_words = " ".join(
word_dict.get("word") for word_dict in words if "word" in word_dict
)
with open("conv.txt", "a") as f:
f.write(f"{string_words}\n")
transcription_time = time() - current_time
log(f"Finished transcribing in {transcription_time:.2f} seconds.")

Get response from GPT-3

current_time = time()
context += f"\nAlex: {string_words}\nJarvis: "
response = request_gpt(context)
context += response
gpt_time = time() - current_time
log(f"Finished generating response in {gpt_time:.2f} seconds.")

Convert response to audio

current_time = time()
audio = elevenlabs.generate(
text=response, voice="Adam", model="eleven_monolingual_v1"
)
elevenlabs.save(audio, "audio/response.wav")
audio_time = time() - current_time
log(f"Finished generating audio in {audio_time:.2f} seconds.")

Play response

log("Speaking...")
sound = mixer.Sound("audio/response.wav")

Add response as a new line to conv.txt

with open("conv.txt", "a") as f:
f.write(f"{response}\n")
sound.play()
pygame.time.wait(int(sound.get_length() * 1000))
print(f"\n --- USER: {string_words}\n --- JARVIS: {response}\n")
if anyone can help please do!!!!!!!!!

Sorry this is so long 😢 I am a university student. At the beginning of the term, I experienced a pattern of deliberate harassment targeting my disabilities, culminating in physical aggression. The primary aggressor, a fellow student and a member of my cohort, engaged in an escalating series of actions that included derogatory comments specifically about my disabilities as well as physical intimidation. This harassment peaked when student accosted me in a threatening manner. The specificity and nature of student's actions, directed at my disabilities, suggest that this harassment could be considered a hate crime under federal law, as it was motivated by bias against my disability.
Despite multiple attempts to report these incidents and express my concerns about my safety, I faced significant obstacles within the university’s administration. My faculty member for the class not only refused to allow me to report the incidents, ignored my repeated expressions of concern for my personal safety, yelled at me for trying to report, and ultimately disciplined me without cause. Furthermore, the associate dean during a recorded discussion, explicitly stated her prioritization of the university’s reputation over addressing student safety. She expressed a preference for handling such complaints internally rather than involving outside police, and stated that campus security would defer to the school rather than take necessary actions to investigate or address the matter properly. In fact, in the recording this dean alluded to this happening many times, stating "a lot of things have happened that haven't made the news."
I also contacted the school's office of civil rights and set up a phone interview for a later consultation. After they contacted them on the phone they told me they would not create a report, just some intake notes. The intake person expressly told me that this was only an intake, no report or complaint would be filed. They would take notes, discuss with director of this office as to whether they would take action at which time I would need to file a formal complaint and they would write a report. After not hearing back within their specified time frame I contacted the university’s Office of Civil Rights and learned the employees there dismissed my case without adequate justification. I asked for more info and was told they forwarded my "report" to the sr. associate dean and stated to me no civil rights violations occurred. I was totally shocked because this was against what they said their procedure was. I asked for a copy of the "report" and was very shocked to see it absolutely full of deliberate lies, serious omission and designed like a targeted attack against me. My concerns were minimized, the seriousness of the events were omitted and all the relevant information excluded. I did file a complaint with local law enforcement when the incident peaked, and this detail was left in the "report" by the school's civil rights report but as if I made a false criminal complaint. I was also hearing different reports from the sr assoc dean that the official report was that a student tapped me on the shoulder and I went off. This never happened. So far everything I have heard, read or been told has contained falsifications and misrepresentations of my statements, deliberately altering the severity and nature of the incidents reported. This office failed to accurately record my experiences and intentionally downplayed the seriousness of my situation, and later forwarded the report to the Dean without my knowledge or consent, intentionally compromising the integrity of any future investigative process.
My efforts to seek justice and safety have been documented through various means. I have maintained written correspondence, including emails and text messages with university personnel, that chronicles my attempts to report the harassment and the inadequate responses received. Additionally, I possess recordings that were made by request and approval, that further substantiate my claims regarding the university’s handling of my complaints. I also believe there is security footage capturing the incident that escalated the situation which could corroborate the physical confrontation initiated by the other student.
The school did not help or support my concerns for safety. However, after repeated writing and advocating I was placed in a new clinical team and site with new faculty supervision. The student in question was my close associate and the faculty that refused to acknowledge my complaint is the one replaced.
However we are a cohort. So I see the student at other times and also had to do small group work with them. I repeatedly reached out to all of my faculty about this. Because in addition to the increased potential for physical violence from this student they had also made up false allegations against me. Obviously, it's a mess. Our term is almost over and I just got switched to a new small group, where the new faculty literally took my grade from an A to an F in less than a couple of days. The new faculty graded my work from previous/original small group and failed me on everything. They gave me two failing marks for missing group despite numerous emails regarding safety concerns. The new faculty also doesn't accept my health-related academic accommodations. They also required I do the work of the previous small group as well as this new group. The new faculty knew of my concerns for safety as well as health issues. They offered to walk me to seminar and then proceeded to leave before I noticed and never told me where their small group met. I sent her an email right away and she didn't respond for over 10 hours. So I was late because I had to wait for someone from the group I was joining to respond. So she marked me down for lateness. She also accused me of taking a photo of her (I'm still talking about the faculty) which is very weird. I had my phone propped up on my laptop and was using like a second screen and she was trying to lean over to see what I was doing. There was no test or any cause to suspect I was cheating, etc. Weirdly, the camera part of my phone was against my computer and so obscured.
I am absolutely not sure what to do. The sr assoc dean is very pushy and made numerous phone calls to me. I had hoped that she was on the up and up but after reading what they sent from the school's civil rights office to her, I told her that all correspondence must be written due to discovering multiple false reports and misinformation. I also asked for all notes, reports, info on my case -no response to that but she did say ok to emails.
I did file a complaint with the U.S. Dept of Justice office of civil rights since the student was targeting my disabilities and I reported the problems with trying to go through the school. I will also file a complaint with the US Dept of Ed office of civil rights shortly.
What the hell can I do here? This is a healthcare degree and I have one term left ---but I won't because this new faculty dropped my grade to an F. I was suspicious of this fac to begin with and was sickened when told I was being transferred to her. Today was the first day I was officially in her class. She works fast.
Any legitimate suggestions? I need a lawyer but don't know where to begin. Also, I want this fixed now before it goes any further. I have sent an email to my academic advisor. But I really don't trust anyone at my school.

I have studied for five years at IE with a dual bachelor, one of them being a bachelor of Law. I can tell you that the law school is the shittest people out there. Do not choose IE for law studies. It is completely a waste of your money and time. A lot of rich brats and "professors" that do not know how to teach. In case of unforeseen circumstances, they have no compassion. For example, during COVID they remade the teaching which resulted in less lectures and more self-taught through groupworks, while requesting the same tutition fee from us. This resulted in a spike of students suffering from anxiety and stress. Coupled with having economic struggles (the few of us on scholarship) they did not care a shit for.
The LLB office is notorious for its rude behaviour in IE and they do live up to that. Being a class representative was so draining that I quit after 3 years of constant fighting with them. The worst, however, is their constant misunderstandings that cause delays, frustrations and even fuck up your receiving grades for other applications.

so this isn't my story but my bsf. sorry for the wrong punctuations am doin this in a rush)
a little backstory so my bsf and i used to attend the same school last yr but this yr she transferred bc of personal reasons but anyway were super close n sht
my bsf and her manliligaw has 2 yrs age gap not a big deal and they have been talking for maybe about 3 weeks
so she told me that she was talking to this guy(irl and online) and he was her exact type i was happy for her because shes rlly unlucky with guys and always get shit eating humpy dumpy bimbos for bfs she talked to me abt his personality and looks,his looks r pretty good hes and hes tall the personality is decent hes always buying her drinks n stuff
then one day out of the fuckin blue she send me a text but me being a nocturnal wannbe i slept through her mssgs and yk what she sent me, That courter of hers sent her some batshit odd stuff like "bebe can u show me ur 🍒" or "love i wanna see ur 🐈‍⬛" etc BITCH DYK HOW TRAUMATIZED I WAS WAKING UP AROUND 3-4AM AND SEINF THIS BATSHIT BIZARRE ASS REQUEST I WAS PETRIFIED AND MORTIFIED I told her to fuckin dump his ass and shet told me they weren't even together, THE FUCKING AUDACITY MADE MY JAW DROPPED because who tf asks for that type off stuff when courting????? i asked her if she said no and she said "sorry i cant show that those are my private areas and were not really dating ur jst courting me"(if u ask me that too soft) but she told me that he would keep pressuring her n stuff i wont really get into detail since its personal but yea and he would still ask batshit reqs and if she didnt show her yk he would say "do u like doin wild" she said yes because for our age she should already know what it means but she doesn't soooo I FUCKIN SCREAMED I TOLD HER THAT SHE SHOULD HAVE SAID NO TO THE WILD THING AND SHE SAID ITS TOO LATE AND HE SAID THIS "love im horny rn eh" she then asked me what she should say i told her that she should say " were not even fucking together and ur already asking for ____, i dont care if ur horny or hard i dont want anything to do with someone as immature as u, and given by our age gap u should know how to act better than this" she copy n pasted everything and the guy got mad and stuff on how boring she was and stuff but in short they got into a sort of big argument and i told her to block his ass and ghost him and thats what she did and it worked out good thing he gos to a diff school

wtf

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So I was just hired on the 1st. They told the 4 of us during orientation that we have to submit time requests 30 days (rather than 2 weeks) in advance because they have us on the schedule for the whole month.
That just makes it harder for people who have doctors appointments or school work they have to do to request time off for any amount.
My doctors appointments are all usually scheduled 2 weeks ahead. I have school work to do in the mornings but the lady who set the schedule has scheduled me at 8am and 6am. For 4 days now. I can't do that.
I've never had a job that schedules employees for a whole month.
Tf man, I'm gonna miss my assignments for school.

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Hello all and thanks in advance for taking the time to read and provide any assistance or two cents you may provide.
I'll start off by saying I work for one of the largest companies in Australia, in a Melbourne location. One whom has a relatively consistent reputation for intentionally misleading its clients, mishandling private and confidential information, and often times providing no solution to any client whom has been effected by any wrong doing of them. I will add that within my company, I feel as if the same culture is reflected internally toward employees too.
I currently have an annual leave balance of 37 days. Today my line manager (let's call him Harrison) received a teams message from his line leader (let's call him Keith). Keith provided a screenshot of my annual leave balance and stated that it was not acceptable that I have such annual leave balance and my balance must be either at, or below 5 days at any given time. All of the other employees on my level have received the exact same correspondence regarding their annual leave. I will add- It is not, and has never been a term or condition (or even mentioned at the slightest) on any employment contract, internal document, or agreement by anyone in my position.
I have been directed that I must submit annual leave requests (dates at Keith's discretion) so that within 6 months time, I will hold no more than 5 days in my balance. I have been told, just after finding out of this strange demand today, that my deadline is at the end of the week (3 days from now). It has been STRONGLY recommended to everyone on the list that they use their annual leave to provide themselves with 3 day weekends for 6 months to minimise the impact to the business of having someone out of a desk for a long period at a time. They state that doing so will provide 'mini recharges' and 'mini energy boosts' through bus times of the year for our business to sustain productivity through the end of financial year period.
This absolutely does not reflect my personal goals or objectives as I do not need, nor want 3 day weekends for 'mini recharges'.
I have explained to my employer what they already know ( and surprisingly still sent this insensitive direction to me) that I currently have a very close family member overseas whom is about to pass away due to a terminal illness, which my family and I will need to visit before this occurs. The timeframe which we will do that is outside of this 6 month window, It is more like 6-12 months. The leave required for me to do this will be approximately 3 or 4 weeks, understandably to spend the last month of their life or so with a very close member of our family whom has been a part of our lives for 20+ years.
My company has already asked me to move to a different location whilst another employee deals with a family emergency because they could not find a candidate for it, I agreed to move to the other location for one month and was not provided any compensation for doing so. One month had passed and I had to ask my employer when I would be transferred back to my original home location. I was told "oh yeah they quit because they had some family issues and nobody wanted to move here and we couldn't hire anyone else because they were all rubbish, so you're staying here now". -all without signing any documents or any notification on my part. And for the cherry on top, my annual salary was cut $14,500. I only realised after 4 months, and upon asking Keith why this was, I was told "yes this location has less clients than your original home location, so the salary reflects that" - May I also add, my new location, because of me, is now sitting on the top of the leaderboards for the performance for all locations, and I am by far the hardest working and highest achieving in my role out of all of our locations- as shown in the company's own data. Though I am paid $14,500 less than before and even a whopping $24,000 per year less than my old colleague at my original location whom was in the same role as me with only 6 a month more tenure.
Further, I have explained to my employer that I am on the brink of experiencing financial hardship and cannot continue to have my paycheques issued with incorrect payments on them (which they frequently admit to making mistakes on), that I need to ensure my sick leave is processed correctly, that my annual leave is taken seriously etc. As well as that I, not only have a whole family, including children with early childhood education to pay for, though a car repayment, a mortgage and food and living expenses for us all. My employer does not seem to take this seriously and has currently spent a grand total of 9 months investigating a significant claim I have made regarding over $10,000 of underpayment to myself. The HR team whom has been tasked with reviewing it seems to disappear off the face of the earth and be uncontactable for 3 weeks at a time whenever they feel like it, and seem like reviewing HR cases is what they can do if they so feel like it, but that is kinda deviating from my issue at present though.
I feel like I am being wronged and violated at every stage of my employment an absolutely squeezed to work the life out of me with zero regard to even let me have my own annual leave balance that I have accumulated and have already told the company I will definitely use, just not within the next 6 months, and I have explained time and time again that forcing me to diminish my balance so low would put me at a 100% risk of significant financial hardship, such as not being able to make mortgage or car repayments, and my children attending school without lunch, and myself not being able to eat any proper and nutritious meals whatsoever. It seems to fall on deaf ears each time.
TLDR; I am being forced to purposely diminish my annual leave to an amount that would put me in significant financial hardship even though I have never signed or agreed to do such thing and this policy was made at the drop of a hat and my employer simply won't listen and doesn't care about my genuine reasons why I do not want to intentionally diminish my annual leave balance so low.
Of course I understand that no advice here provided replaces a face to face consultation with a legal advisor in this area, though am interested to receive insight and opinions from those in the field, with a legal background or those opinions of laypeople reading this.
Thank you all so much for your time and lots of blessings to all who provide insight!

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• There is a serious lack of Abortion Care options in Canada, particularly in the rural areas, and for those living on reserves, they have almost no access to Abortion care. People may have to travel more than 100km and across provincial lines to access abortion. Some have to travel by plane from their rural community to one with an abortion clinic or hospital. This puts an unfair financial and logistical burden on those that need to access abortion care. Provincial Health Insurance Plans do not cover travel costs related to receiving medical care.
• Because many provinces have few facilities that provide Abortion care, this places an unreasonable load on the clinics that do exist, forcing clients to look elsewhere for facilities with capacity to help them. In Alberta, there is one clinic for every 209,077 people who can become pregnant (number of assigned-at-birth females between the ages of 15-29). PEI, the Northwest Territories and the Yukon Territory each only have 1 Abortion care provider. Nunavut only has 2 abortion providers, and of those, only one offers medical abortion covered by the provincial health insurance plan. In fact, 9 (out of a total of 13) Canadian provinces and territories have five or fewer facililities offering abortion care in their entire province. And 10 Canadian provinces and territories have one or fewer (0) rural facililities offering abortion care.
• Some provinces, like PEI, have more restrictive guidelines regarding abortion, limiting access to abortion care to those with a gestational period of less than 12 weeks (meaning, 12 weeks since the first day of your last period, not 12 weeks since you discovered you were pregnant). Many people who menstruate have irregular periods. Some people might only menstruate every 2 or 3 months, and might only discover that they are pregnant near the gestation limit of 12 weeks.
• Insurance coverage also limits access to abortions. Provinces such as Nunavut do not offer coverage for medical abortions unless they are prescribed and performed in a hospital. And being a rural province, there also happens to be only 1 hospital in Nunavut - Qikiqtani General Hospital in Iqualuit. New Brunswick will only cover abortion services in a hospital setting, which means that abortion medical care provided in clinics are not covered by their Provincial Health Insurance Plan.
• Sexual and reproductive health services are among the services that physicians, pharmacists and nurse practitioners are most frequently unwilling to provide on moral or religious grounds. People may be harassed and attacked while visiting an Abortion clinic may experience stigma and/or discrimination from their peers, especially in smaller, rural communities where everyone knows one another. People refused care by health care professionals because of personal beliefs may experience stigma and/or discrimination, forcing them to travel outside of their community to receive the care they need. This can all be particularly daunting for young people or those with limited resources.
• Everyone in Canada is supposed to have equal rights to access health care, regardless of race, age, class, immigration status, gender expression, sexuality and ability. Nevertheless, anyone's right to seek abortion care can be be impacted by discrimination and bigotry, both systemic and as a result of individual prejudice on the part of service providers. Racism, xenophobia, classism, homophobia, transphobia, ableism, and ageism in Canada are all direct and intersecting barriers to accessing abortion. It is much more difficult for a person who doesn’t speak English to access abortion services, despite the presence of a translator. Transpeople also experience discrimination at higher rates in reproductive health care settings. Providers may also lack the knowledge or training to provide trans-affirming abortion care and abortion services are typically housed within *women’s* health care departments.
• Further compounding the issue of inequitable abortion access are unregulated crisis pregnancy centres (CPCs), which are anti-choice pregnancy centres that advertise in hospitals, doctor's offices, churches, schools and community centre. They deceive people coming to them for options and advice by giving misinformation about abortion or by insisting on options that may delay or interfere with the clients ability to access the care they need. CPCs far outnumber abortion care providers in Canada. In Ontario alone, there are 77 active CPCs but only 38 abortion care providers. Overall, in Canada, there are 165 known CPCs compared to 147 abortion care providers (as of August 2022).

Reference: Policy Options, via the Institute for Research on Public Policy and Action Canada for Sexual Health & Rights
What can you do to improve access to abortion care in Canada?

1. Listen, research and learn. This is always the first step to understand any problem.
2. Send a letter to your MP and MPP. Tell them that access to abortion care is important and how difficult it can be to access it in your province. Urge them to prevent anti-choice groups and CPCs from receiving charitable status, and to revoke the charitable status from CPCs that already have it. Encourage them to include reasonable reimbursement for travel costs related to receiving medical care when it is not available in your community. And push them to pass Safe Access Zone Legislation to protect patients, practitioners and their staff from anti-choice harassment and intimidation.
3. Give a donation to a pro-choice charitable organization of your choice. Remember, if you give a total of $201 CDN or more to Canadian charitable organizations, you'll get a credit of 29% of your total annual donations on your income taxes (for those that file Canadian Income Taxes, only).
4. Sign up for the Abortion Rights Coalition of Canada Newsletter. https://www.arcc-cdac.ca/
5. Participate in local marches and rallys in support of access to abortion care.
6. Spread the Word. Tell your friends and family. Encourage them to research, listen and learn. Encourage them to contact their MPP and MPs.
7. If you work in a Doctor's office or as a family physician, consider incorporating Mifegymiso into your practice to ensure patients have timely access to this essential service. If you are a Doctor, or studying to be one, consider opening an Abortion Care practice when you are licensed and qualified to do so, especially in rural areas where there are a lack of options.
8. If you work in politics, consider proposing legislation that will ensure safe access zones for abortion care providers and their clients and covering reasonable travel costs for constituents when medical care is not available in their community.
9. If you are a journalist or work in media, consider preparing pieces sharing the difficulty Canadians can have accessing medical care such as abortions.
10. If you work in the area of Not For Profit/Advocacy, consider partnering with a Pro-choice organization and helping them spread information and lobby for improving access to abortion care for Canadians.
11. If you know someone who needs abortion care, consider giving them a ride to a clinic, helping them access the advice and care they need, and provide non-judgemental support.
12. Ensure persons of First Nations, Metis and Inuit heritage know about Jordan's Principle, which ensures that First Nations children (which includes people who can become pregnant under the age of 18) can access the products, services and supports they need, when they need them. https://www.sac-isc.gc.ca/eng/1568396042341/1568396159824

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I’ll try to keep it short. Even during school elders and brothers were discouraging me from attending university. After years of zero to fake support I finally graduated. Had a rough time finding a job. During those months someone told me „see that’s why should listen to God“ saying this because he told me before to do a simple window cleaning job. Few months ago I started working and I already got the question how much I earn. That brother was surprised how much I earn, even tho that what I earn rn is very little amount of money to survive alone. But still for the mediocre jw it’s a lot. Now I got a big offer from another company. Earning about 20k more yearly. Even 5 hours less per week. I live in a PIMI household that’s why they still get all this information unfortunately.
And guess what? I got told that i should tell my boss to work less so I can spend more time in theocratical activities. And even the question or better the request that I can spend more money to the borg 😭😂😂😂
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The EXTREMELY detailed, mega-anxiety edition!!! Major events like consult and surgery day are labeled like this:
——— EVENT TITLE ———
Surgeon was Dr. David Whitehead and I saw him on Long Island (New Hyde)
Summarized list of major dates:
Consult: July 19 2023 Mental health letter acquired: August 9 Dates discussed: September 12 Pre-op appointment: December 18 Surgery day: January 8 2024 Post-op: January 17
November 11th 2022: Emailed northwell health for the first time, they emailed back saying to call. I was too anxious so I avoided it for a few months.
Called northwell a few months later but got too anxious talking to the person who picked up. They were being normal and talking normally, it was just personal anxiety on my part.
October 2022 - Early March 2023: Spent time talking to trans friends and family members about their timelines and processes for top surgery.
Looked into Penn medicine for a bit but wasn’t happy with the surgeons there, specifically as a nonbinary person. The patient navigational team however is lovely.
March 2: emailed Penn health patient navigation
March 3-10: correspondence and phone calls w patient navigation (absolutely wonderful people, some of the easiest phone calls I’ve ever had) Got lots of into on surgeons, things I’d need, processes etc.
Date unknown: phone call to Penn medicine asking about surgeons and possibly setting up as a patient (v long wait time on phone) Surgeon I had heard good things about only works w CHOP program and I’m was too old for that program. Other surgeons I was v iffy on.
March 23rd: Back to square 1. Called northwell again to set up an appointment. Everyone I spoke to was really nice. Could have set up an appointment within the week but decided to wait till the end of the semester. Scheduled a trans care and primary care appointment for May
Couple of calls In between for confirmations. Trans care appointment got moved around a bit and ended up being moved to a phone call.
May 8th: Trans care call: Basic preliminary questions like: Emergency contact, what you’re looking for, are you thinking of looking into hormones, experience w dysphoria or dysmorphia, mental health, and eating/nutritional concerns, things you might want doc to know, piercings or tattoos, do you do any drugs or drink often, etc. total call time was about 20 minutes. Doctor was incredibly kind, I still experienced a good deal of anxiety but the call was super easy, welcoming, and friendly. Got sent contact referrals for the surgeons, as well as trans-friendly therapists under my insurance.
May 9th: started looking at list of therapists and making respective emails and calls. Checking per session costs and double checking insurance. Most charge 100-150 per session. Got in contact w one.
May 10th: Called w first therapist talking about what I’m looking for, where I am in this process, if parents are supportive, and talking about costs. She was very friendly and affirming, wants to have a few sessions to get to know me and my situation before writing a letter. Understandable and expected, but frustrating.
May 15th: Primary care appointment: Went to northwell health primary care, parkinglot was a little scary (just a large lot with a lot of cars) but everyone working there’s is super kind. Office is incredibly affirming, pride flags and lgbtq+ art everywhere. Gave my insurance card, filled out some paper work, got called in pretty quickly. I have a needle phobia and medical trauma so I was panicking a bit in the office, nurse was good w me about it and doctor was very kind, I just requested to not have any blood work done that day and that was totally fine, so I could schedule that at a later date and go w a friend. Recommended to get blood work done before scheduling a consult w a surgeon. Also prescribed me a single dose anxiety med for the bloodwork which I was very happy about. I found over time that the anxiety meds unfortunately do little to nothing for my panic attacks personally when it comes to needles but regardless having a doctor acknowledge and respect that fear and listen to me was incredibly helpful and reassuring.
May 30th: Got blood work done in a different lab, went w a friend. Scheduling for that is super easy, I think I did it online actually I don’t entirely recall. they do take walk ins but I made an appointment to minimize complications and make sure I could prepare properly. Front desk/lobby area was a little spooky, but I think that is mainly just bc of my social anxiety. They take a urine sample, you give them your prescription, eventually they call you over for blood work. Quick and easy, tech was v nice and having a friend with me was incredibly helpful. Probably the best I’ve ever done with a needle despite the fact that I did still panic and get very lightheaded lol.
Got blood work results back within the next couple days, all looks a-okay! Neat :)
June 15th This day was incredibly difficult. I had my first session with a therapist to establish some ground knowledge around my dysphoria and the way that I view myself. Top surgery is something that I know from research and related experience Can be difficult and expensive to get and can take time, so much of my prep work has been on the understanding of taking things a step at a time and just knowing that the current way things are doesn’t have to be forever. It allowed me to be able to live with myself while prioritizing my health better. This read to the therapist as “not having the level of dysphoria [she’s] come to expect and look for in someone who is trans” and was largely based off the fact that I don’t want to go on hrt. Past that point I started to break down because now my method of learning to live with myself felt like it was actively going to work against me and prevent me from getting top surgery. I’m not good at talking about my dysphoria, I can’t imagine it’s easy for anyone, especially to a stranger I just met. It was rough, and I felt incredibly mentally drained after ending the session.
June 19th Called it quits with the first therapist, I felt incredibly disrespected and the one session we had put me in a mental spiral for days. It can feel some times in this process like the people you have to get permission from need you to be severely depressed and unable to wait another second for this procedure just in order to take you seriously.
After I left that therapist, I immediately got back to the list to find someone new. Spoke to a new therapist via email, but my insurance is kinda weird (Blue Cross Blue Shield out of state) so its off putting to some people. This therapist recommended I go through the office she started out at (Heart and Soul Counseling)
————- Time Skip ——————
IM BACK its time for some record keeping. Got super overwhelmed and lost the energy to document my process for some time so here goes.
HEART AND SOUL COUNSELING: My experience w/ this therapy office was mostly good. The person in charge, Jesse, was absolutely lovely and responsive. Never spoke in person, but any text/email interaction was prompt, respectful, and kind. The office is stellar with email/text communication, so I only ever had to call them once when I was initially inquiring about the office. This is something I wish all therapy/counseling centers did better, eliminated a ton of my anxiety and hesitation to speak to therapists.
I got set up w someone as quickly as possible and established what my goal was (to acquire letter document for my surgery team). I attended multiple session w the therapist, she was a kind lady but the sessions were unfortunately p miserable for me. We didn’t fit well, but I was willing to stick it out rather than backtrack on my process. She also did not invalidate me or accuse me of not being trans which was a major step up from my first therapy experience. Once I acquired my letter I did stop therapy there, I kindly explained to the therapist that it wasn’t a good match, but I may honestly explore my options at the office in the future. Receptionist there was also lovely and they had a cool fish tank.
———- CONSULT STARTS HERE —————
July 19th: CONSULT!!! My mama and I went to Dr. David Whiteheads office for a consult. Parking was a nightmare so I’m super glad I didn’t have to drive for this one (ty mama). Consult went really well, and the staff were all super friendly. Dr. Whitehead is cool, very chill energy and a bit intimidating, but I’m scared of everyone so that’s nothing new. First question he asked me is what I wanted/what he could do for me which caught me more off guard than it should have? I didn’t realize going into this process how many times people ask you what you’re having done even if it’s already written down, because there’s so much variety in what you can look for in the results.
We talked about the procedure, went through a slideshow n stuff, and discussed how I wanted a flat chest w/ no nipple preservation. They made sure to specify that my mental health professional letter had to include that I did not want nipple preservation because thats technically a “non-standard” appearance. Also had the first breast exam I’ve ever had in my life. Can’t say i’m a fan (not that I need to worry about that anymore!) Took pictures n measurements n such, and also discussed recovery supplies and care w me and my mom.
August 9th: After a plethora of painfully awkward therapy sessions, a decent amount of crying, and a couple breakdowns in friends cars/backyards, I got my therapist letter and sent it to the surgeons office. It ended up needing minor revisions to which I contacted Jesse from Heart and Soul and he got me the revised letter immediately. Unfortunately the surgical coordinator was out of office for the rest of the month the next day ;w;. Is how it be.
September 12th: Got a call from Surgical coordinator mid-painting class that I stepped out to take. Started discussing surgical dates!! She was kind enough to email the dates to me which was lovely because I was absolutely shaking/mind blank haha. There was an option for January 8th which felt like an absolute miracle the way it would work with my school schedule. It would give me a solid two weeks recovery time before spring semester began. Because it would be a couple months out, I was asked to contact her in the second week of October to submit documents to insurance.
(Timeline note: earliest date offered was in early December)
October 10th: Documents sent to insurance, predetermination started
October 30th: Received mail from my insurance approving my procedure as medically necessary (YAY) But! This is also where things get,,, fun! Dr Whitehead’s surgical coordinator, Alyssa, is a blessing and was very helpful and prompt with me despite the fact that I had to email her pretty constantly during this general time which I still feel bad about.
Around this time, my mom got diagnosed with breast cancer, which I reported to the surgical coordinator because it influences my family history (grandmother also had breast cancer). It was asked that I get genetic testing done because this could impact my surgical procedure. Now I’m handling the setup on this between helping my mom in her process setting up consults and considering her options because there of course is a lot of crossover to the steps I’ve already completed and am familiar with.
November 1st: Very kind person at cancer genetics calls me, sends me a family history questionnaire to fill out before I can be scheduled to see a genetic counselor. Filled out the questionnaire the same day.
November 8th: Called cancer genetics to check about scheduling, office was not open so left a message. Got a call back later in the day. I have a virtual appointment with a Genetic counselor Tuesday the 14th. Current plan is a mailed saliva genetic test but I’m going to ask if theres anything I can do to get results/materials quicker. If I can’t get results/feedback by December 8th my surgery date may get deferred.
Trying not to stress too much because there is little to nothing I can do about this, and I just don’t want to be sad. I’ve kept telling myself throughout this process to not get excited and not let myself believe anything is solid because something could happen at any time that might mess up my schedule or plan, and If I convince myself I’m in the clear, those changes will hurt a lot more. So far I think thats been a good move, because this really sucks.
My surgery date is still officially scheduled as of now as well as my first post-op. I will also ideally have pre-surgical testing done December 18th should I be cleared by genetics in time (Fingers crossed!)
ALSO! Def lean on friends if/when you can during this process. It can absolutely be challenging, and having a support system is incredibly important and helpful. I’m super lucky to have really lovely and supportive friends that are around to listen to me and send me pictures of stupid little animals.
November 9th: My mama is scheduled for her double mastectomy on December 4th
November 10th: Did some shopping with my mama for recovery supplies for double mastectomy/top surgery. Having watched a million and a half transition/top surgery videos and tiktoks and having read all the blogs and posts and tweets makes you a great support for someone suddenly faced with an upcoming double mastectomy! We might go shopping this weekend for some button ups and zip ups for her, clothes shopping is better done when you can try stuff on
November 14th: Meeting w genetic counselor: Victoria Webb, one of the loveliest medical care workers I’ve ever met. Had a virtual appointment with her to discuss and set up genetic testing. I explained to her about my situation w the proximity of my surgery and tight deadline as well as my willingness to do a blood test instead of a saliva kit to get results quicker. She was so incredibly kind and good with me, ended up being able to do a saliva kit and get results in time she deserves every good thing in life.
December 18th: pre-surgical testing: This was at the main hospital, everyone was really nice but I had a really bad panic attack despite being on Xanax.
The process is sort of like getting a physical. Measurements like weight and blood pressure get taken, lots of preliminary health questions. The people working with me were really kind and I was very open with them about my anxiety, it was visually apparent though anyway because I started crying the second we even started talking about the blood draw.
Once the equipment was actually brought into the room I started to panic. Both of the women working with me were really kind and helpful and tried to distract me and keep me talking the entire time, but I did still have a really horrible panic attack. Every muscle in my body locked up and I lost all my color, took a bit to get back to a spot where I could move and talk properly because my speech was affected too. It was a bit scary but funny to think about in post. Thanked the medical staff for being patient w me as always, a good portion of the anxiety is also guilt about making things harder for them. Got through it tho. Def eat before presurgical if allowed, I didn’t and that probably didn’t help!!
———- SURGERY DAY ————-
January 8th:
Ok so surgery day:
This day was very scary. Got my phone call the Friday prior for my surgery time which ended up being 1pm and I was asked to arrive around 11. Got there at 10 and went in at 10:30.
Called up to check in then in waiting room till someone brought me back to change. I told her right away about my anxiety with the iv bc that’s legit all I could think about. Got changed right after. I was generally shaky and a little disoriented the entire time because I was panicking but everyone was very patient with me. Clothes and belongings go in a bag in a locker and you get two gowns one that faces back and one that faces front. I was given underwear and a pad as well because lucky me I got my period a couple days before my surgery.
The pre-op area is a lot of little cubicles with curtain divider things, blue soft chairs, and medical equipment. Everyone I met and spoke to was very kind, but any time someone even suggested starting my iv I would panic. I was informed it would have to be placed in my hand and that terrified me, I’m especially anxious and sensitive about my hands and fingers. I think doctors and nurses tend to misunderstand exactly where my fear is with needles and ivs. It isn’t the pain that scares me, but the concept of veins and and anything being in them. Even writing this right now is horrible so I’m going to stop w any further detail. I spent the entire two-ish hours of pre-op absolutely terrified about this iv.
I wasn’t really keeping track of time but dr whitehead came in to do markings for surgery. They had cool rainbow socks on,big fan. Having your chest drawn on and just like, moved around n shit is such an experience. Felt bad because I kept losing my balance but doctor Whitehead is cool and I am 98% less scared about them now.
Probably my most favorite person I met during my entire hospital experience was the anesthesiologist. I know he told me what his name was but I couldn’t focus on or retain information at the time. He told me we could essentially put me to sleep with gas before putting the iv in and for the first time in probably a solid week I felt like I could calm down a little. He took a look at my hand and arm to check my veins which always does freak me out a bit but I’m more used to that kind of thing at this point and I know nothing bad is going to happen. One of the nurses came in with the iv equipment and he let her know that were going to wait till in the or which was also incredibly helpful because I absolutely panicked when I saw that little supply kit again.
V nice lady brought me into the or, I’d never been in one before it was cool. They had a little music speaker which was really cool. Took off blue jacket gown and they helped me onto the table. They put a warm blanket over my legs and my chest to help me calm down. Before long they gave me a mask w fun happy sleepy time gas, they let me keep my arms on my chest for a while which was really nice because I was still scared. I started getting loopy pretty fast but I still heard when someone mentioned where the iv equipment was and panicked a little because of that. I remember feeling them take my hand for that but never actually felt anything happen. Just some fear but the gas was v helpful obvi. Someone said they would see me in a little bit, and then I was groggily waking up in recovery.
Recovery was a little rough bc the iv was still there (fully wrapped up so I couldn’t see it though which was rad) but I was still really anxious about it until it was taken out and when it was taken out. For anyone that struggles w this i did not feel them remove it, just the tape. Everything was mentally much easier after that. After a while, going over instructions w parents, a cracker , some ginger ale and some juice, my dad helped me Get dressed and I was helped out to the car in a wheel chair. Ride was smooth bc of remaining numbness and meds except a few Bumps in the road
TOP SURGERY GOTTEN
My post op date was scheduled for Jan 17th and that’s the day I got my drains out followed by several post op check-ins. First week of recovery was miserable but things exponentially approved each day past that, and I went back to school in person two weeks post-op with driving and item-carrying assistance from friends!
Will upload recovery notes at a later date! Feel free to message me with any questions, more than happy to answer and give info! I’m a bit over four months out from surgery now and thriving 🥳

School is situated in England. Names changed for protection. Incident happened yesterday.
Our child 6yo (Julie) was attacked by another 6yo (Sam) in school who used a rock they found on the playground to hit Julie on the head.
The attack split Julie’s head open and an ambulance was rang to the school before the school then rang us to inform us.
There was a lot of blood and our child was deeply traumatised. This is not the first time that Sam has hurt Julie. We reported this at a parents evening that Sam had punched Julie and also thrown a toy car at her. We’d always been told by the school that they would handle it.
At the hospital, Julie needed a neurological exam as well as her head needed to be glued back together. The hospital staff expressed disbelief at a child doing this.
We are reporting this incident to the police to start a paper trial (we understand due to age he does not have criminal responsibility) however, we are wondering where we might stand for suing for the school. We have contacted the school to request either constant 1:1 supervision of Sam (which they do not have the resources to do) or to consider moving him to another school that can best meet his needs. We have no plans to move Julie from the school but are unsure how the school would react to us if we did sue. Any advice/support would be greatly appreciated.

I’ve been living in Gurgaon for a few years now. Had a good circle of friends when I was a teen in high school. But it has been 6 years now since I have graduated from high school. And with COIVD and all. I feel like my social skills have gotten rusty. Currently I’m preparing for an exam which will hopefully in the future get me a high paying job. And due to this, spend most of my time at home. I have been going to the gym for the past few months to work on my physique. And was hoping to join swimming lessons soon. But even at gym and these types of locations it often feels like people aren’t willing to socialise they just want to mind their own business. They appear crude and closed. And any attempt to socialise is shut down or brushed off.
I don’t even use Instagram, Snapchat and other social media apps designed to meet and converse with people since I’ve noticed I spend an exuberant amount of time on them and also seeing other people succeed and get ahead in life (even though it’s only either fake or selected data sharing) gives me insecurity. I feel fine when I’m off these platforms. But these platforms only make my mood worse and mess with my emotions. I can’t seem to control my usage. It’s either 4+ hours or nothing.
Due to a lack of any social media presence for 5 straight years, I’ve lost contact with any and all friends from high school, tuitions and other places.
The only one friend that I currently have who lives in my colony recommended me to get on these apps and download Discord, Bumble as well. And start messaging people over there. Text random people. Since that is how he made his current girlfriend and made dozens of friends from the opposite gender. His strategy was send Hi! to as many strangers as possible on Instagram. And then if anyone replies. Continue the conversation. And if not, then simply unsend the message. It’s a solid strategy I guess for someone who’s Vella and Berozgar and has a baap ka business. I have asked my friend to introduce me to his friends. But he keeps saying, akele nahi. If I also brought another friend. Then he might do it. Which is a valid request.
Is this truly the only method to meet people and make friends nowadays? I guess I can sort of understand how the veil of the Internet hides an individual and prevents them from danger and gives the illusion of safety. Also having a social media profile acts as a filter. Similar to how some corporate chooses individuals based on LinkedIn profiles. A good aesthetic profile passes the filter of many companies.
I guess yeah, how do you guys make new friends in your early to mid 20s? Is it impossible to do so without social media? I feel like my brain is starting to fry by being alone for so long. And I fear the longer I stay like this the worse the my health would get.
PS. I know this sub likes commenting a lot of jokes. But I’d appreciate if the comments only stick to giving genuine helpful advices.