I'm so sorry about the length of this post but I feel I need to get this off my chest.
I'm almost 38 weeks along (37 weeks 5 days) and my pregnancy is labeled high risk due to a birth defect I have in my uterus that has caused multiple miscarriages. I am unsure if my previous loses have made me more sensitive or if this all is something other pregnant women would have a problem with also.
I feel like I started having negative thoughts towards my mum not supporting me through my pregnancy when she yelled at me and called me selfish when my doctor told me I had to go on bedrest. I was in bedrest for about the first 7 months of my pregnancy. Apparently, my mum does not believe in bedrest or high risk pregnancies (she said this). She has also said some pretty horrible stuff to me about social services taking my baby away because my apartment was a bit of a mess due to me having no help while on bedrest.
Honestly, the negative feelings did get worse when my mum told me I could not have a baby shower because she had a lot going on. I was willing to plan it myself and just needed her to go and look at a venue for me but she refused, then went and told everyone I was not having one. She also got mad at me for making a baby registry, saying she has never heard of a registry for a baby before. My SIL had one for her oldest and we both bought things off it for her.
I have been really sad about not getting a baby shower, so I try not to think about it. My gender reveal was also a bust because nobody in my family wanted to come to it and I ended up doing it alone. My sister told me that the whole idea of a gender reveal was stupid anyway. I just wanted to celebrate getting far enough in my pregnancy to tell what gender my baby was. I have been struggling with depression since no one came to the gender reveal and it has only been getting worse. I'm excited about having my baby but I wish people would be more supportive.
On top of that no one has bought anything off the baby registry, except for my dad. I'm really thankful for my dad as he has been helping me a lot even though he lives the farthest away from me. I know gifts are not really important, but I cannot help but to think about the family members who have had babies in past years and how many gifts and all the support they got from everyone in the family. I feel like my own mum was more excited for my SIL's pregnancies than mine.
Yesterday while out with my mum and sister the topic of me giving birth came up. When I first got pregnant my mum was constantly insisting that my sister should be going to my parenting classes with me and should be at the hospital with me, I always told her that wasn't happening when she brought it up.
For some background, my sister is about 20 years older than I am and cannot have children of her own. She has also always been quite mean to me and therefore we do not have the best relationship at all. Luckily for me, she has since moved 6+ hours away from where I am and my mum has stopped suggesting she go to my parenting classes and the hospital when I give birth.
Now my mum is insisting on being there herself. I'm not a big fan of that at all and on top of that she cannot drive herself, meaning my aunt would have to drive her to the hospital. I am dead set on my aunt not being there at all since she does not respect boundaries and is prone to throwing fits when she does not get her way. I do not get why my mum wants to be there (she has never been there for me for anything else) and am thinking about not telling her until after the baby is born, but I think that will really upset her. I kind of don't care at this point though and I'm so confused on why she would want to be there after everything she has said to me during my pregnancy.
I am having my dad take me to the hospital when it is time because he will be staying with me before the baby is born. He has been more understanding than my own mum through everything, especially my pregnancy. Everything that's happened has made me not want anyone to meet my baby except for my dad and some people from his side of the family.
At this point I do not care about having support after my baby is born because I feel like my entire pregnancy has been lonely and unsupported (except for my dad). So would it be justified to not tell my mother that my baby was born until after? And would it be rude to tell people to not come and visit me?

Talking to men. You can’t realise it yet but this is the truth
Women whether Christian or not work based off the same principles, especially on the app. Stop thinking that because it says 'Christian' dating it's going to be different - the one who stands out more will be the winner (handsome, taller, more figures etc.). It's all bs and coping mechanism for anyone that isn't strong enough to realise this will say they're waiting for 'the one' when in reality they're just choosing the winner, natural selection, hunger games mentality.
Stop chasing, and get going, or life's going to give you a woman you'll chase whilst she runs away, and you'll be a slave like other people here who have no backbone.
Come and tell me otherwise. I am open to opinions, but based off these threads the opinion stands. You are in desire for a woman, and forgot that God made women for man not the other way around.
You were probably upset or even disturbed by that statement which proves yourself to be deceived by the propaganda, the devil is shuffling roles and making the women the head by empowering them in a toxic way, and even by me stating that I know for a fact I’ll get downvoted to show how deeply rooted your minds are by this world and its perpetuating lies.
The devil strikes families and works not only by destroying current ones but most importantly by not even allowing new ones to be made - so many people in their 30s suffering from ‘the one’ phenomenon and other weak links telling them they’ve got plenty of time - meanwhile Muslims have 3 babies by 20 and will easily destroy us in terms of numbers. Atheists throwing babies in the hospitals sinks and celebrating calling themselves sane. We as human Christians failed, devils plan is uncovered behind our eyes and we give advice such as ‘focus on career’, ‘make MORE money’, ‘kids will come now it’s time to have fun!’, ‘you’re young don’t worry about it too much, go gym!’
It is only Jesus Christ that will avenge us, glory be to Him that He won the fight on the cross.

Natural selection = withstanding nature and having what it takes to survive
Sexual selection = female preference, like by aesthetics (how male peacocks are brighter)
I was looking for height data from indigenous tribes that actually have to deal with nature, but could only find stuff on mens' height. So instead I looked at the heights of men vs women in actual countries. Most countries have about a 5 inch height difference between men and women, according to Wikipedia. But some had even a 2.5 to 6 inch difference. I thought in places where nature is a great threat, men might be closer in height to women but this was wrong, as I didn't really see much correlation to developing vs developed countries in their height difference. Maybe the height difference was evolved way before humans migrated.
I don't wanna hear this from any of you self hating short guys, but from ones that understand the science or have a good perspective.

Im with my 5 month old baby overseas by myself. I have only been here 2 weeks so far.
Staying at my MIL’s house (my husbands mother) and his old unmarried sister also lives here (who’s kinda really bossy and thinks she knows what’s best for MY child when she doesn’t have one herself… and she always turns out to be wrong, doesn’t let me do what i KNOW my baby wants, & her controllingness ends up making my baby cry worse
For example if my baby wants to make small naps during the day, a freakin 5 month old, let the dang baby nap! But she’s like “NO, she slept too much” so my baby cries hysterically until she well… NAPS. I KNOW MY BABY BEST. BACK OFF or if i wanna feed my baby constantly she’s like “DIDNT SHE JUST EAT??? Give her a break. Jesus.” OK THEN. watch what happens if I don’t feed her. See all that crying? Yeah… back off and let me just do my thing please. 🙄
Ok this ain’t even the topic of my post, I just wanted to off topic trauma dump.
Here’s what the real juice is:
I have another sister in law, who I’m not even staying with (my husband’s other sister who’s married) and my husband gave her $600 of our savings from our joint income, which is like not much in USA, but A SHIT TON in this country I’m visiting. it’s like two months of salary for a skilled worker here or an educated professional. Here, they make a big deal for even just $2 which kinda breaks my heart.
My point is, I came already with $300 bucks and I’m buying everything myself. Our outings, baby diapers, formula which is really cheap here. I’m also sometimes buying their groceries which also happens to be really cheap and idc it’s not a big deal to me. And I also buy the clothes i shop for.
My husband gave this SIL the money so that she could spend on me, so that she doesn’t have to use her own money. So far she took me to the salon to treat me, as per my husband’s request, (she kinda embarrassed me and told the hairdresser that my husband begged her to take me here so she had to drag her feet here and how she’d rather enjoy her day at home instead) and got BOTH our hair done, hers and mine, and pretended she paid it from her OWN cash 🙄 I thanked her when deep down I knew my husband was the one who paid and she’s like “yeah you’re welcome, don’t worry about it.” I was kinda hoping she would be humble and say the truth that it’s not from her own money but ok… and then there was two other occasions where she treated me and a couple of my relatives to a lunch / dessert, and when I thanked her profusely for like the $9 dollar meal, she was kinda cocky like “yeah, it’s no biggie.” Even tho she spent on every one else too and no one thanked her, and it’s from my husband’s money.
Idk, should I say something?
Still my husband tells me I should use my own money for things, so I’m confused. Idk. I don’t see the point him sending her $600 of our shared money and what bothers me is how she’s kinda acting snobbby like “yeah yeah, it’s alright. No prob” when I thank her, instead of being honest like “no. Don’t thank me. Your husband sent me this money, it’s your right.”
Idk. That’s all. I just wanted to vent What would yall do/say in my shoes??

What’s up guys! Gonna share some insights, especially for the younger guys.
Stats: 20y- 6’0 - Handsome/Cute (6-7/10) - Nice Build Mediterranean looking + Mixes (🇻🇪 fam)
Context: Well travelled since youth, not rich but was a family thing to do. By default became a passport bro haha. Difficult kid, intelligent odd ball, not bad with girls but bad with girls lmao. Good but weird upbringing. Chaotic and a bit of a demon, impulsive, low self control. (Much more mature now)
Mexico 🇲🇽 Ok let’s get into it. My first real experience and love was at 19. I was in a bad place for many years prior and didn’t let people in. Anyways so yeah I met a 🇲🇽 girl who I found really cute through mutuals in the capital. I rarely found any Mexicans cute, so she was special in that point of view. We also had many similarities and I loved how feminine she was compared to girls back home. Beautiful country and culture I thoroughly recommend CDMX as a beginner location. I quickly began solo traveling to 🇲🇽 to see my “friend” and it quickly got out of hand and ended abruptly in a moment of my immaturity. I learned many things though: Long distance is not my style- too complicated and heart wrenching- I quickly made a mental note to not take any relationships serious. Also noted to be weary of girls who approach you haha. Here is where I noticed how insane I pulled outside of the country. I live in a city which has the most hyper-competitive sexual market in the United States (world) and I still do surprisingly well (especially at night lol). But nothing compares. Also I’m a Latino by blood so the dating culture just feels better.
Venezuela 🇻🇪 Anyways after the Mexico era I went on a family trip to Venezuela which I basically haven’t been there since my balls dropped. Wow. The natural beauty of Venezuelans is striking. Beautiful girls everywhere. The country itself is a mess. Everything is slow, expensive, and inconvenient. Had some fun there with a local girl but was not able to enjoy as much as I wanted to as I was with family the entire time. I don’t use tinder- all IRL into instagram as a funnel. Maybe I’ll explore more with dating apps as I get many matches especially overseas but the quality seems shitty and it can be a waste of time also a lame way to meet people. Never got to go out or party solo-dolo so that was a bummer. Will be back soon enough though so I’ll update you guys on Venezuela Nightlife experience. All I can say is it’s the second most beautiful place when it comes women I’ve been to. The country itself is by far the most beautiful place I’ve ever been. Terrible government- felt surprisingly safe though.
Europe 🇪🇺 Ok here’s were it gets weird haha. So Europe is definitely a place with more nuance. With that said I went to both western and eastern locations. It’s much easier to have casual sex in Western Europe due to the culture. Many American and European solo traveling girls as well… they are rather promiscuous. Eastern Europe was by far a beauty haven. From Romania to Russia you will find some of the most beautiful women on earth just walking on the street. The culture shock is large though and dating becomes a bit more “serious” which for me doesn’t work. I would recommend Europe as a traveling destination if you think you’re up for it. I did well and met, partied with, and traveled with girls but I felt like it the more east I went it just wasn’t the right vibe for that. Which is a bummer because Western European girls don’t compare to for example Ukrainians and Moldova. The farthest east I went was Turkey and the girl I was with had to sneak out everyday out of fear of being basically ostracized. Turkish people are very nice though. Spain was the most degenerate place I was in, if I wanted to party everyday I pretty much could. Great food, pricing varies widely based on economy, girls get hotter the more you go east but also more tricky. Great location to party hard, techno, etc.
So when it comes to Europe results may vary on many things. Your relative attractiveness, your ability to adapt and be outgoing even in “colder” nations, and how you carry yourself + where you stay. Staying in good locations is key. As an American you either get a buff or a de-buff and “wealth” is the main factor. European girls are very direct. Which I found off putting. Latin culture can be hyper sexual but I find it more classy.
Pro tips 🧠: - Don’t drink too much- you’ll get robbed or worse - Don’t get attached to anyone if you’re solo traveling it’s “solo” for a reason. Explore man. - Have travel cards with 0 international/atm fees - Learn how to say “hi” “nice to meet you” “my name is” “you’re gorgeous” in whatever language it shows you’re somewhat cultured. - If you’re young fuck the clubs! Go to raves, underground events, concerts, festivals. The young person and pretty girl ratio is 100x better. - Party hostels are a great way to meet “fun” people - Be careful with drug use, have been fine but honestly most of it is just unnecessary lmao. - Pub crawls are the easiest way to get laid in Europe lmao. Everyone is there for a reason. Just don’t do it if the ratio is completely busted as it’s not good for meeting local girls and stay away from the girl guides- trust.
Future travels 🌎 Peru 🇵🇪 - Machu Pichu + Lima Brazil 🇧🇷 - 🤤 nuff said Colombia 🇨🇴 - Venezuela lite more dangerous imo Argentina 🇦🇷 - seems fun
Asia as well- China 🇨🇳 would be crazy. Rarely find Asians cute but some are gorgeous.
Please share your thoughts / tips on these locations as I will be there shortly.

A quick google search tells me that women only make 83 percent of what men do, with some numbers varying, but this just doesn't make sense to me. I'm sure that it happens as some employers are scum but how on earth could it be so often and by such a large margin that it affects a national statistic by 17 percent? This would mean that this statistic, as an average, the companies that underpaid women would have to be paying them far less than the men to cancel out the companies that did pay fair wages. (ie if a math test average is 80 percent then there are some below the line as well as there are above it at 100).
If this is true, how is this not a lawsuit haven? If women are cut short a sixth of the pay men are everywhere constantly so often that a national statistic is affected then how can companies get away with it? It has been illegal to pay women less than men since 1963.
This also doesn't make sense to me logically. If a company could get away with paying women less than the men, why not underpay everyone? Wouldn't it make more sense to just pay everyone like trash instead of just the women and not risk a major lawsuit? If an employer decided that men did better work and therefore paid them more, why would they not hire just men and avoid a lawsuit that way? If they were saving money, why not just women? If it was for quotas, again, why not underpay everyone instead of hiring women because you have to but then paying them less and again risking a lawsuit?
I have been told over and over that this statistic is just one big average, and derived from the fact that women on average work less than men, take maternity leave, work in different jobs, and don't often climb ranks as often as men do (which in itself could be agender issue due to a glass ceiling and whatnot), but I want to hear from those who will fight tooth and nail to say otherwise.

Venue: Bon Secours Wellness Arena (Greenville, SC)
Attendance: ~8,400

Winner	Loser	Match Finish	Stipulation
Iyo Sky	Shayna Bazler	Over the Moonsault	Queen of the Ring Quarterfinal
GUNTHER	Kofi Kingston	Boston Crab	King of the Ring Quarterfinal
Bronson Reed	Akira Tozawa w/ Chad Gable	Tsunami
Lyra Valkyria	Zoey Stark	Nightwing	Queen of the Ring Quarterfinal
Sami Zayn	Otis w/ Chad Gable	Helluva Kick
Becky Lynch	Dakota Kai w/ Damage CTRL	DQ when Iyo and Kairi attack Becky
The Judgement Day w/ Carlito	The Creed Brothers, AOP, and New Catch Republic	Coup de Grace	#1 Contender for the World Tag Team Championships
Jey Uso	Ilja Dragunov	Uso Splash	King of the Ring Quarterfinal

IMPORTANT NOTES

• Kickoff with Drew McIntyre storming backstage and making his way out to the ring where the crowd instantly starts chanting for CM Punk. Drew says Punk only makes the big towns and he won't be showing up in Greenville brothers. Drew says the greatest trick Punk ever pulled was looking like a drug addict despite never taking any, and his other greatest trick was him convincing people to keep taking him back after he keeps breaking their hearts and yet they still buy all the crap he spews out and calls CM Punk fans stupid. Drew says last week Punk only called him a coward after he knew that he left, yet when he was on the stage Punk stayed up in a skybox. Drew says he won't keep wasting his time on someone who won't be cleared for 20 years, and speaking of things that'll never happen Jey Uso lost another title match and now he took his spot in the King of the Ring tournament. Drew calls Damian Priest a paper champion which causes the World Heavyweight Champion to make his way to the ring. Priest tells Drew he's got some serious issues and tells Drew maybe he should do something different tonight and say what he wants to say to someone's face. Drew says he'd love to but Punk keeps running away from him, but since Priest is here he'll say something positive and says that Damian put all the work in and made it here, but he isn't World Champion material. Drew says it is a case of the title making the man and right now that title is in its infancy and it needs someone like him to elevate it, not someone who cashed in on him. Damian says Drew knows what came with this life but Drew says he's a BS champion, but Priest says he's still a champion. Priest tells Drew to find a mirror and blame that asshole for all his faults. He wanted to cash in on Seth Rollins but Drew stopped that from happening multiple times and that's on him, at Wrestlemania all he had to do was leave with his wife, but instead he saw Punk and made him more important than himself, the title, and his wife, all after he got his ass kicked by a one armed man. Priest says once Drew is cleared he'll get a shot at the World Title, but warns Drew after he beats him he'll be eating his words and everyone can rise to that.
  
• Iyo Sky is interviewed after her victory, she rips the mic away and speaks in Japanese and motions to herself being crowned Queen of the Ring.
  
• Priest walks into the Judgement Day locker room and Dom tells him that despite their history Priest should work together with Carlito. Carlito says they all agree Rey is a selfish bastard and they could all benefit from this relationship. Priest says if the boys want to work with him it's on them, but he doesn't want him around. Carlito get he doesn't trust him, but even the most stubborn minds could be changed.
  
• Chad Gable is talking to the Alpha Academy, he tells Maxxine she blew her opportunity at Queen of the Ring and embarrassed the Academy. He tells Otis and Tozawa that he has jobs for them, Otis is going to soften up Sami Zayn and tells him to not do any funny business, he needs serious Otis and tells Tozawa not to blow his opportunity against Bronson Reed. Gable and the rest walk off as Maxxine stays behind, Ivy asks Max why she didn't tell her about the Queen of the Ring opportunity and says they could have trained together. Maxxine explains that Gable doesn't want her training outside of the Academy when Gable storms back in and tells Max to stop standing around and get to training. He tells Ivy she has potential and she shouldn't be wasting it on Taylor "Not so" Swift over here.
  
• Kofi Kingston is interviewed before his match with GUNTHER. Kofi says he's familiar with doing the unthinkable but tonight is about payback for what GUNTHER did to his boy Xavier Woods. Kofi says last night he went toe to toe with the greatest luchador of all time and he's not just winning this tournament for himself, he's doing this for Woods. Woods says because of GUNTHER he can't defend his crown, but he can think of no one better than Kofi to become king.
  
• Lillian Garcia returns to do the ring announcements for Kofi vs GUNTHER! She tells Samantha Irvin that she's doing an incredible job and she is making them all proud.
  
• R-Truth is talking to Adam Pearce and says he thinks he has a great idea for their tag titles. Miz walks in and says Truth better not putting their titles on the line again when Pearce explains that he is giving the Raw tag division and opportunity to become number one contenders tonight. Kiana James enters the office and tells Pearce she was thankful for their meeting over the phone last week but is looking forward to showing him why she is the top 1% and show off how well she can adjudicate. Truth questions if you should really do that at the workplace and asks if that's PG.
  
• Lyra Valkyria is interviewed, she says Damage CTRL better get used to seeing her and says she'll always have Becky's back. Becky comes by and thanks Lyra for the help last week and says they gotta stick together before walking off. Liv Morgan comes up and welcomes Lyra to Raw, but asks her if Becky has always been such a bitch but Lyra tells her to asks her herself and Liv turns to find Becky standing behind her. Becky punches Liv and tells her she isn't the one afraid of a face to face fight, bitch.
  
• Backstage Karrion Kross tells Kofi it was a tough loss, but there is always time to turn things around and walks off. Woods gives Kofi some ice and asks what he wanted but Kofi says he doesn't know.
  
• Ludwig Kaiser chastises an interviewer for trying to interview GUNTHER after his match. She says that she wanted to ask about GUNTHER's history with the other competitors in this tournament since Ilja beat him the last time they faced off, and the last time he faced Jey Uso he won due to Imperium, the same way he beat Sheamus last week. Ludwig says that Sheamus has done a lot in his career and Sheamus should be thanking him for what he did last week and should be standing beside him but instead it is up to him to embarrass Sheamus now.
  
• Adam Pearce is interviewed but before he can make his announcement about the World Tag Team Championships, the New Catch Republic walk in and Tyler Bate thanks Adam for the opportunity and Pearce says he is sanctioning a fatal four way to determine the number 1 contenders for the World Tag Team Championships. Adam is asked why he didn't allow Bron Breakker into the King of the Ring tournament and he explains he didn't want to throw Bron into the deep end but Bron walks in and say anyone he faced in that tournament would be in the deep end with him and he'd drown them all.
  
• Lyra Valkyria is interviewed after her victory, she says she's a former NXT Women's Champion and she travels as the crow flies, straight to the top and speaks something in Irish.
  
• Backstage Jey Uso says Drew McIntyre couldn't cut it so they threw your boy into the King of the Ring and promises to give a yeet down to both Ilja and GUNTHER on his path to becoming King.
  
• Chad Gable berates Otis in the ring following his loss and shoves him which casues Sami to rush back into the ring and attacks Chad and sets up for the Helluva Kick but Gable ducks out of the ring. Otis picks him up and apologizes but Chad slaps him and walks to the back.
  
• Backstage JD McDonough warns Braun Strowman to keep out of Judgement Day business, Braun laughs him off to the Creed Brothers and wishes them luck tonight.
  
• Following Becky's match, Lyra Valkyria runs in to make the save, throwing out Dakota and Kairi before squaring off with Iyo as Becky takes her out. Lyra and Becky stand tall until Liv ambushes Becky from behind.
  
• Ilja Dragunov is interviewed backstage, he says that some people think it is their dream or destiny to be here, but for him it is not enough to just be here and it all starts with him being the Czar of the Ring. He says he'll bring the same kind of fight to Jey Uso tonight, he knows Jey is ready for battle but he is standing across the ring from a different kind of animal, he is a mad dragon and he has beaten GUNTHER! GUNTHER appears behind Ilja and stares him down as Ilja breathes heavily.
  
• Ilja is preparing for his match when a suit-clad Ricochet enters and tells him he earned his respect last week but next time the result won't be the same before wishing him luck in getting the crown.
  
• Backstage Damian asks Dom if he's good with Rhea when Finn, JD, and Carlito storm in celebrating their victory. Priest tells Carlito what happened out there was cool but asks Carlito if he's going to handle his business with Rey because the crew doesn't roll with cowards.
  

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Okay so I just wanted some advice on this and sorry for any typos. me and my bestfriend recently stopped being friends me and her have been friends since 6th grade this year we have had some tension and some weirdness but my mom is the guardian on both of are cards and she locked both of are cards I got a new guardian (it takes anyone over 18) she didn’t and kept asking me about it I tried to fix it I didn’t know how she orders a new card but keeps it under my mom as the guardian then was mad it was locked and texted me about it this about 3 months give or take after my mom locked the card I told her to get a new guardian like I did I also told her this months about she proceeded to tell me I’m to busy with my boyfriend anyways (side note we have had talks about me not spending enough time with her) I tell her sorry I’m in a relationship but I cant hang out with her every weekend I had literally seen her the day before and we hung out 1 weekend before this I say I’m allowed to be in my relationship she decides to go deep and say all my boyfriend wanted me for is my body in the first place we have been together for 10 months.. then I kinda just cut off the conversation and the friendship a day or so later I ask for my AirPods I left at her house and whatever clothes she has of mine and I know she has because I had been asking for a few shirts she told me she didn’t know where the AirPods were and ignored me about the clothes then told a mutual friend that she’s not give me clothes back and I owe her from nail sets she’s done for me in the past that I pay for all most all of in way way or another maybe other then my birthday set a year ago.. yea a discount price but she was my best friend I just said whatever and put it behind me but I just want to know if I’m the asshole in the in some short of way or handle it different this is the short version so I can clarify things need be .

Title says it all. It’s exhausting being chronically single. Yes I have hobbies, friends, a pet, and have achieved many milestones and goals in life. Yes, I have traveled with friends and solo. Yes, I do self care daily and treat myself. But all that doesn’t take away from the fact of not having a significant other.
I feel like women are running with the narrative of the decentralization of men. I agree with that narrative to a certain extent, but dam I wish I could genuinely find someone to do life with. I have truly worked on my self/ goals for the last four years. I truly feel like I would want to date me .. but I’m in my 30s and haven’t experienced mutual love.
It’s frustrating being told how “pretty” I am on the outside and inside. But still not having any luck in love. I’ve dated outside my race …. Looked past height and other superficial things . But it’s not happening.
Sometimes I feel like I have it all… like the things I’ve worked hard for and achieved are mine. But I still can’t seem experience love. Vent over

This is my incomplete SVTFOE the movie script. Until my friend thomasmfd convince me to scrap it here’s my incomplete SVTFOE the movie script.
Star Vs. The Forces of Evil the forces of evil the movie The film with a song called Empire of the Sun Walking on a dream while the camera pans down on a mural with the credits rolling by and hits the floor showing a Blue man with a blue sword wearing a Space helmet and a orange Tee shirt with black spots all over his shirt. Who is protecting the Empress of the Sun Hestia look who has Red hair and Red eyes and wears a White Kimono with red spots. Just then a group of people wearing brown robes and white masks are led by a bald creepy dude with a Scar on his right eye. He approaches the throne and begins to speak.
The creepy dude My majesty My name is Bob and my group are a bunch of nomads who travel from World to world gathering intel and giving them to each kingdom and we heard rumors about Cataclysm prison weakening. And we would like to have your Sword Empress of the sun. So we can use it to defeat Cataclysm.
Bob walks up the steps before Cutie's sword hangs by his neck stopping him.
Bob What’s the meaning of this guard!?
Cutiesaurs: The name is Cutiesaurs or Cutie for short. Bob Okay Cutie. Why did you stop me!?
Cutiesaurs Because I don’t trust you. Besides, Shady people are always up to no good.
Bob It’s for your own protection so let me through. Besides it is rumored that The Sun Sword is the only sword left.
Cutiesaurs I don’t Care the Gods hid those swords for protection from thieves like you, including the Fable Mew sword. Besides, it appears you want to use the empress sword to find the other swords.
Bob Well you two figure out my plan already so I guess I have no option but to take it from force.
Just then Bob uses his magic spell to pull out his sword and he and his minions begin to attack. Cutie and Molly try to fight back but it is too much for them and get captured and Bob’s minions capture Hestia as Bob grabs the sword and glances at it.
Bob This Sword is a decoy. (Bob then shatters it with his magic) Minions drag Cutie to the Castle dungeon while carry Hestia to that special place)
Cutie struggles against the minions' control while they drag him to the dungeon. Cut to five years later and we see Cutie shirtless hung up in the dungeon walls shirtless wearing only his pants and a piece of cloth covering his head except his eyes. Then Bob and his cultist.
Bob Well Cutie it’s been five years and still you won’t tell us where the Real Empress sword is!
Cutiesaur
Like I said for the last five years I don’t know.
Bob Well Cutie. I don’t need you anymore. Not since I detected the Sword of Mew and we’ve set up a trap for the holder of the sword. So Now I will give you this radio to keep you comfortable. I’ve got a queen to catch.
Bob Leaves the dungeon and enters a room which is in some blackish glow surrounded with red hue. At the floor is a star shape enclosed by a circle on the floor. There Bob stands at the edge and raises his hands which then begin to be turning a metallic silver. He begins to wave his hands and a Star shape pattern begins to have a pinkish water swirling around it then when it clears out we see Star Butterfly at the center of the Star pattern.
Bob Hello Princess My name is Bob and you have something that we need. (Bob then materializes some mask’s then drops them on the ground where mud surrounds the mask’s then the mud raises the Mask which then forms into humanoid shape).
Star Butterfly I’m sorry but this Wand isn’t yours to keep.
Star Shoots a Rainbow energy beam at Bob but he blocks it with nothing but his bare Metallic hands.
Bob I’m impressed that the sword has a few tricks up his sleeves. But I’ve had a few tricks up my sleeves myself.
Bob then shoots a sliver beam at Star and pulls out a golden butterfly from her chest and places it into a jar.
Bob I’ve taken your powers. If you want them back, give me your wand. What do you say Star?
Star Butterfly I say Narwhal blast. A large Narwhal appears and slides down destroying many of Bob's minions and then pinning Bob to a wall. She then runs away from the room.
Bob After her she must not escape with that sword.
Star flees Bob’s goons and hides in the dungeon where she begins to hear the song Always look on the bright side of light she follows the sound to a cell where she see’s Cutie hanging from the wall.
Cutiesaurs Hi there little girl, what brings you to this dank little dungeon?
Star Butterfly I’m hiding from a man and his goons who want my wand.
Cutiesaurs Oh Bob yea he wants that wand since it’s the Sword of Mew.
Star Butterfly The Sword of Mew?
Cutiesaurs Let me get out of these chains and find my helmet and shirt and find a safe place before I can explain everything
Cutiesaurus tries to break his chains but with no success.
Star Butterfly Need help?
Cutiesaurs Yeah sure just blast those chain’s
Star uses her wand to blast the chain off of Cutie
Cutiesaurs Thank you… Um I haven’t gotten your name.
Star Butterfly It’s Star Star Butterfly.
Cutiesaurs Why thank you Star. I’m Cutiesaur’s but people call me Cutie for short and I’m the royal guard of the Empress or was before Bob and his golem army took me and put me in this dungeon. Now where is my shirt? Cutie searches everywhere for his shirt until Star shows him his shirt and grabs it and puts it back on.
Cutiesaurs Thanks Star. Now I need my Helmet.
Star Butterfly Why?
Cutiesaurs Because it protects people. Because I was born with a face that is so handsome that it melts people's faces. You wouldn’t want to see people's faces melting. It's nasty.
Star Butterfly Eww. But anyway I think I saw it over there at the bench.
Star points to a bench where we see Cutie Helmet. He then grabs it and puts it on.
Cutiesaus Thanks Star Now we need a plan.
Star Butterfly Um would that involve these guys.
Star points to a group of humanoid creatures wearing black cloaks with hoodies and pale white masks.
Cutiesaurs Looks like the plan is to fight. (He pulls out his blue sword) It’s a good thing this sword is bound to me and no one else.
Star Butterfly I would like to help but that Wizard Bob just stole all my powers.
Cutiesaurs Except for the Sword of Mew
Star Butterfly I keep hearing that my Wand is a sword. How is this possible?
Cutiesaurs You must focus, be one with the wand and think of a burning blade.
Star focuses on it and her wand turns into a burning blade with rainbow fire. She then uses it to defeat Bob's minions.
Star Butterfly Wow this is incredible I didn’t know my wand could do that! How did you know!?
Cutiesaurs It’s a long story but we need a hiding spot and I know one. Follow me.
Cutie drags Star to a long forgotten cellar.
Star Butterfly Wow you sure know your way around the castle.
Cutiesaurs I like to walk around the castle patrolling it in my spare time and also reading books. Which is why I know that wand is a sword that is a key to one of the locks. Of a prison
Star Butterfly What Locks?
Cutiesaurs Let me explain. Long ago before you before me before the kingdom of Mewni before time. Three gods and three goddesses appear. They created the rift then they created time then they created the universe then gave life to them. They taught each creature in the multiverse how to care and love and respect one another. However for order there must be chaos and chaos took the form of Cataclysm. He corrupted everything the gods and goddess did, undoing their work. So they fought back; the battle lasted a thousand year with the records of the events being lost though a few survived. After Cataclysm was weakened the Gods and Goddess locked him up in a prison out of space and out of time. With their own swords. They then gave the six swords to six universe’s. The Sword of Retro, The Sword of the sea, the Sword of sweets, The Sword of reality, The Sword of the sun, finally the Sword of Mewni. They form the kingdoms around the swords. But sadly over time the kingdoms lost knowledge of their past and swords. Except for two. The Kingdom of the Sun saved knowledge of the past and the kingdom of Mewni kept their sword safe. Which is why that wand you have is important; it's the last known sword that prevents the unleashing of Cataclysm.
Star Butterfly Wow I didn’t know my wand was a sword. But it still doesn’t explain how Bob managed to steal my butterfly forum. With some strange magic power.
Cutiesaurs It’s called forum splitting.
Star Butterfly What?
Cutiesaurs Forum splitting it’s a spelical spell that splits someone with transformations and turns their transformation as a spirit. We used it to cure someone from their Werewolf forum.
Star Butterfly Oh. Because my butterfly forum is important to me.
Cutiesaurs I’m sure it is Star.
Cutiesaurus begins to leave Star behind.
Star Butterfly Where are you going Cutie?
Cutiesaurs To find my Empress.
Star Butterfly Don’t you mean queen.
Cutiesaurs They both mean the same thing.
Star Butterfly Okay you’ll do that while I find some help.
Star pulls up her scissors but when she tries to use them they begin to crack and then turn to dust.
Cutiesaurs By the way, scissors are useless in the kingdom of the sun.
Star Butterfly (talking to herself) Great, I can’t get to Mewni or Earth now. Those scissors are my only escape. But maybe Cutie knows another way.
Star races to Cutie
Star Butterfly Hey Cutie I was thinking we can team up to take down Bob.
Cutiesaurs I prefer to work by myself. But thanks for the advice.
Star Butterfly (with her puppy dog eyes) Please!
Cutiesaurs (staring blankly) Your puppy dog eyes have no effect on me. Now would you excuse me? I got a queen to save.
A Cutie walks away Star Butterfly gets a idea
Star Butterfly You said Bob is looking for the six magical swords.
Cutiesaurs And What are you getting at?
Star Butterfly Well we can do what I forget.
Cutiesaurs A barter?
Star Butterfly Yea a barter.
Cutiesaurs By getting the four other swords by doing a trade for the empress then we use our might together to defeat Bob and kill two birds with one stone! I’m such a genius.
Star Butterfly Yes you are so how are you planning on getting to the realms?
Cutiesaurs I have a ship. In an old hanger.
Star Butterfly But how do we get there?
Cutiesaurs Well I know the secret paths around this old castle.
Cutie pulls an old touch handle but discovers it’s the wrong one and then pulls the right one. Which reveals a path which Cutie enters and Star follows behind. It leads to a rusty hanger with a giant shiny red space ship with jet engine thrusters and a jet pilot cockpit.
Cutiesaurs Behold the Gummi ship the most advanced ship in the kingdom, well the only one since all are now scrap. It took me 13 yea… (Notice Star biting the ship) Star what are you doing!?
Star Butterfly You said it’s a Gummi ship and I thought it was made out of gummi’s.
Cutiesaurs I called it the Gummi ship because it looks like it’s made out of gummi. Not made of Gummi.
Star Butterfly Oh. But how would this old thing get us where we are going?
Cutiesaurs Well it takes us to the rift.
Star Butterfly The Rift!? What’s that?
Cutiesaurs It’s like a highway. Star Butterfly What’s that?
Cutiesaurs (I might be too smart for her) It’s where a group of car’s go very fast like a road.
Star Butterfly Oh like a shortcut?
Cutiesaurs (sarcastly) Yes, much like a shortcut. (sarcasm ends) Anyway The rift used to be how one person got from one realm to the other. It was the world that was between realms. However with the invention of technologies and how certain realms like our Kingdom of the sun here isolated themselves. The Rift was no longer used and ships were turned to scrap. Well before I came along and fixed this baby up. Let’s go inside and take a tour and start this baby up.
Cutie and Star enter’s the Gummi ship
Cutiesaurs This ship has everything we need for our trip. It has bed’s and a guest bed for passengers. (in case it was an overnight trip.) A dining room, A kitchen for cooking food, A fireplace. A bookshelf with books throughout the realms is my favorite and finally the cockpit with an autopilot so the captain can do other things and it has a comfy seat with cup holders. It has everything to make you feel right at home. Any questions?
Star Butterfly Yea where is the kitchen sink?
Cutiesaurus then bang his head on the controls
Cutiesaurs I knew I forgot something. I guess I add this on stuff to add to the ship along with weapons. So let’s start this ship up.
Star Butterfly By pressing the big red button. (Star looks for the big red button) where’s the big red button?
Cutiesaurs Yea I did not add one since I don’t want people to be tempted by pushing a big red button. And besides, I don't want to discard myself when I start up the ship. And besides that’s not how you start the ship. (Pulls out the keys) This is how you start the ship
Cutie inserts the keys while the hangar doors open and the ship hovers for a bit before bursting into speed and opening a hole to the rift. But not before Bob and his minions race to the hanger seeing them fly away. The camera fades while Bob quietly makes a grin on his face. The screen then pans to the Gummi ship flying across the rift. Inside Star and Cutie figured out what to do next.
Star Butterfly So um Cutie do you know where the swords are?
Cutiesaurs Well legends say that one of the Swords will reveal the next sword. And since your sword is the only known one I think we’ll start there.
Cutie leads Star to the Bottom of the ship
Cutiesarus This is the map room. Well the only one that functions since this is the only ship that can travel across the rift. Since I have that ship I will navigate our course to where the next sword is.
Star Butterfly How are you gonna to do that? Since you have the knowledge and I have magic.
Cutiesaurs Correct Star but I have an idea. If you cast magic on your wand then it should act like a beacon. That only the swords will hear pinpointing its location. Thus selecting the location and flying to grab it. Any questions?
Star Butterfly Yes, one. I didn’t know Bacon could do that.
Cutiesaurs (Talking to himself) Sometimes I wonder if my kind is too advanced for people who look like they didn’t pass the middle ages.
Cutiesaurs No it’s not. After this read my books. Just use your magic
Star Butterfly I’m gonna create puppies that shoot laser beams.
Cutiesaurs I was thinking of dynamite with a laser beam but your idea sounds fair enough. (Though I must give someone a box of puppies when we land. Because one puppy is enough for me to handle for me right now.

Before we start, allow me to lay all my cards onto the table: No, this is not me bashing Stellar Blade, just Eve's character (or lack there of). No, this is not going to be a "Culture War" fest or whatever, go find a Marvel movie to complain about. Yes, I am a Bayonetta stan. No, I did not play the game, but I've watched playthroughs and I'm not talking about gameplay anyway. Ok?
So Eve Stellar Blade is the new It girl that's been causing a stir with her "sexy" boobs and butt and it's all talk of the town and la de da. There's people saying she's a "fighting fuckdoll trope", there's men putting her on their anti woke pedstal and saying she's the chosen one that's going restore the world back to the good old days and kill the left like Sydney Sweetie's chest or whatever, and everything in between.
Well I, the local contrarian, have chosen the position to say she's barely sexy at all. Now, is she sexualized, are her developers pushing her into sex symbol status? Yes, that comes with the territory of her defult clothes being Ned Flanders Ski suit and her unlockable outfits including pin up girl cosplay. But is Eve Stellar Blade sexy? The answer is no and here's why:
1) We've seen this before
Oh boy, a woman in spandex so tight she almost looks like she's wearing nothing at all! There's only like 100 other female characters who do that!!
Eve Stellar Blade needs to fire her wardrobe manager because her design is boring AF, just the tried and true Si-Fi spandex that every other girl has worn before. Sad thing is, her unlockable outfits that give her a cute, baggy jacket make her one million times more appealing than the sexy outfit version of cardbord box that she's wearing.
2) She has zero personality
So the worst part of this whole culture war surrounding Eve Stellar Blade is I've been seeing people compare her to Bayonetta and like, first of all, keep the queen's name out your mouth. She's sleeping.
Second of all, forgive my tone but Bayonetta cannot be compared to any old raggedy trick. She is Bayonetta . Everything about her, from her clothes, to her hair, to her personality, to her name , it all demands you pay attention to her. Bayonetta is a stripper dominatrix witch with the personality to match. There has never been a leading lady in gaming like her before, and there most likely won't be another after her. No. Comparison. But even if there was a new girl that tried to take the queen's throne, it ain't Even Steven Blonde.
Quick question, type one quote, something iconic that came from Eve Stellar Blade's mouth. Cuz I can think of several from Bayonetta, byt I'll wait.
Back on track, Sexy is more than just your looks, it's how you carry yourself. You think the reason why all the girlies are thirsting after corpse man from Fallout is because they have a no nose fetish??? No!!! It's because that guy is charming and endlessly confident. Bayonetta is charming, endlessly confident, and the baddest bitch of every room she ever walked into.
What does Even Stellar Blade do, other than rely on her looks to secure anti wokers? I'll tell you what, nothing!! She has zero personality, zero charisma, zero prescence, her aesthetic is looking like an airbrushed Korean model in Spandex, and her greatest assets aretried and true gainaxing that's been in every game ever! Yall are comparing this girl to Bayonetta when Mother brought you disappearing clothes AND monstergirls? I'd ask you to raise your standards, but worshipping Even Steven requires you not have any anyway.

TL;DR

Eve Stellar Blade is a bitch and Bayonetta's son. She is also the J Lo of video game girls.

Further tags: talks about extreme misogyny. Anti-feminist propaganda, Racial fetishization.
I ain’t really want nothing fr, just a place to share my thoughts on the K-pop industry+ the fetishizing of Korea through its media. I will I can’t really speak on the whole perspective as I am not Korean, but as a feminist I still feel like I have to say something and take the proverbial plank out of my eye.
I was reading this really good thread on Twitter from a feminist in Korea. She details many systematic problems in the county that women face and are harmed by. Fem-scide, extreme misogyny, abuse, etc. I share it because I feel like her voice needs to be heard on a wide scale. I know everyone in this sub is cool, but I say it for brevity sake to go and read about what she says and engage with it respectfully and show her just as much respect. Do not harass her! Thread talking about that:
https://x.com/ciljdw467/status/1789382955560837538?s=46
Now, I read a pretty interesting quote tweet about the thread ( same demand engaging with this tweet and to not harass the creator:
https://x.com/tigertombs/status/1790032815804817432?s=46
Now this gave me some pause, I’m not going to lie. It’s not everyone’s problem, but it sure is the problem of a dangerous amount of people, and that scares the shit out of me. The thread is making me look twice at how I consume K-pop and K-drama as an outsider looking in. Yes, both of these things have introduced the world to a wider perspective of Korean culture, yet I still feel like people are falling for some bells and whistles, and I feel like I’ve fallen for it at some point in my youth as well. People are spreading their personal problems with fetishizing a whole Country and its People to create ideal images and spread these “ refined” ideas to others, causing this weird “ they can do no wrong attitude” to happen. Flawless images like that penultimately hurt movements like feminism.

The reality of women in Korea is very scathing, too scathing for people to have back’s and forth’s about how “ unproblematic” a certain idol member is compared to others. Spreading useless “ He would never” when in reality, he just might be, hell maybe he totally would. Like yes, not every man is going to be horrible, but aligning every one of them to a media stereotype not only blinds women to the reality of character, but also puts a unrealistic and dangerous stereotype on Korean men, no one deserves to be thought of only as an idea to be lusted over. 

I have already met so many people who absolutely have these gross ideas of Korea and Koreans, and when that happens, nasty results is all you get to see. Now I’m kinda scared because I feel like engaging with idol culture, I’m actively giving money that harms a human rights movement, I’m giving my money to an industry built to be a beacon of misogyny, and intended to spread it. Paying the bills of the people who create these distractions from liberation. And that really scares me. I can’t really look at my groups the same way again.

important context; I already know that this friend has taken both hard and soft drugs and drinks often.

//death, murder, fighting
I (18ftM) and my friend since childhood (19~F, I'll call her Alice) invited me to go to a drag show with her. It's not my usual scene, but I like cosplay and I'm queer so I agreed to go. I show up on time and wait awkwardly. When Alice gets there, shes normal and she has a friend (19~F, I'll call Ginny) I've met in passing with her.
They let me know that they're high and have taken edibles. I'm already a little uncomfortable because I have bad experiences with drug users in my family, but I've taken edibles before. I was iffy because I wasnt told before that I'd be the only sober one there, but shrugged it off. Been there done that myself, I cant be too judgy. They even offer me some, which I ashamedly considered but ended up turning down. Then, Alice complains that the bar is ID-ing. No biggie again, I already know she drinks sometimes. As the show goes on, Alice gets a bit disoriented and goes to stand by the door to cool off. Ginny then decides to tell me that it is her first time in year trying edibles and that the kind she gave her are very strong. I was more worried about Alice than upset, so when she goes to the car to get water we leave her be and chat with some friends before going to check on her.
Alice was in her car and upset, and told us that she needed to be alone. Ginny suggests taking a walk and I, being an idiot, agree. By now me and Ginny are getting along really well, having spent the entire night talking since Alice wasnt around for most of it. At one point, a car stops next to us on the walk and rolls down his window. He yells "How much?" Out of his window like a jackass and drives away like a pussy because he cant pick a struggle. I get out my pocket knife. I hadn't realized we were in the bad part of town before but something told me to open the knife, because that wasnt the end.
I tell Ginny we can just take my car (we were looking for a gas station to kill time and get an energy drink) and that we should head back to Alice anyway. On the way back, I'm getting really paranoid. Every car passing a little too slow is scaring the shit out of me, and I'm just glad I thought to bring the knife. Then, a car stops across the small street from us as we pass some storage units where a homeless guy was standing. Two men get out of the car. I start speeding up.
Ginny asks, "why are you walking faster," and I whisper to her about the car. One of the guys very obviously heads for us. I believe he saw my knife. It was dull as a rock but it was big and looked scarier than it was. He pivoted and headed for the homeless man instead. I look over my shoulder and these men immediately, no words no hesitation, start beating and kicking this man to the ground. I start running with Ginny away from the units. Whoever the driver was came back around and yelled, "Beat his ass!" To the men as we did. I look over my shoulder and they are curb stomping this mans head. I'm in shock, but not so much that I dont tell Ginny that we should call the police when we get away.
We call the police and tell them what happened- or more like I tell them what happened because Ginny is already forgetting due to her being high. I can remember vividly, even now a few days later. When I let Alice know that shes on call with the police, she flips put a yells at me how stupid that is, how she has edibles in her car. I try and tell her that they wouldnt search her car, shes not involved, and she apologizes but it was still jarring.
The police may have come, but I drove them (I didnt want them to drive) to a store and we got some drinks for Ginny to sobewake up so that she could drive Alice back to hers and she could sleep it off. At some point, they mention doing more stuff at Ginny's. Now I'm just plain tired and the shock is wearing off. No one else in the car realizes, but I saw a man likely get beat to death, and it was almost us. I never told either of them, of course, I dont want them to give it more thought than 'a cool story' (Ginny's words). A man is probably dead and I dont want them to live with that, its affecting me badly.
The more I think of it, the more uncomfortable I feel at the thought of possibly being around them in conditions where I am the only one to see those realities, especially when they take acid and shrooms and who the hell knows what else. I know it's my fault for agreeing to go on that walk when I didnt know the area and she was high, but I'm a gullible and easily peer-pressured guy. I know that.
Basically I want to tell Alice I dont want to hang out, but in a way our mutual friends wont think I'm evil. I also dont want to tell them and seem like I'm whining about something that ALMOST happened to make Alice look bad. I just want a clean cut where we only hang out in groups and she knows its not because I dislike her.
TLDR; I was into a bad situation as the only unwilling sober person to supervise my friends' high. I want to cut her off without any drama or seeming like I dislike her as a person.

Why did the farmer visit the pharmacy? To speak with the farm-assist.
Hi and welcome to my post! Wanted to start off with a funny to me dad joke.
Nice to meet you, I'm Dylan! To put it simple, I am a single 22 year old man who has been pretty lonely in life and lacking in female connection and interaction. And part of what comes with that is the desire to be intimate with a person. I am very mature for my age and will always be respectful of your boundaries and feelings, especially with anything sexual. Lately all I have is myself when it comes to sexual desires, so I would like to have someone to keep company with in that regard too.
I'm just relaxing at work since there's nothing really going on and thinking about going home tonight and burning a woodwick candle. Perfect for when there's a storm outside. I love candles! 🕯️ Sometimes a campfire outside on a fall night or a crackling WoodWick candle is a relaxing constant among our busy and hectic world. It's nice to just disconnect, feel grounded and happy in your own little cozy space. Feeling calm and collected and at peace. Something that fewer people take the time to do these days.
I am seeking a woman around my age or older to build a close connection with that could possibly lead to a relationship and something intimate which includes the possibility of teasing/sharing pics etc. but only when we were comfortable. Figured I would be open in my Intentions as that's the best way to be.
You:
Kind, respectful, and easy going.
Comfortable with the idea of eventually sharing intimate things together.
Willing to eventually move off of Reddit.
Want something genuine and fun!
Are honest in your intentions and a good person to be around!
That's about it, we will get along great I know it.
I've been feeling a little bummed out lately. I always try and stay happy and see the best in things. But.. I've just been so alone. Most of my whole childhood and adult years have been spent feeling lonely. I grew up surrounded by cornfields which was peaceful but also has a lonely aspect to it. My family never really were close and never did anything as a family really. And part of it too is the fact that I never had any neighbors my age to interact with. But aside from that, my adult life has been very lonely. I'm just always by myself. I barely have any meaningful adult relationships or experiences, or even any friends.
I work a 3-11 job in building maintenance at my company world headquarters building which I love, but again it's very lonely. I work the off shift so the building is always empty. I don't get normal social interaction with people my age or a chance to build relationships. I only have 3 older men as co-workers and we are mostly in the basement away from any people on the floors from knowing our existence. I always walk the floors and see office people laughing and chatting with their coworkers and I just don't have that kind of experience. And just.. no one knows I exist really. Everyone probably assumes I have a lot of friends, but I'm struggling inside with being so alone and trying to meet people and get past the "hi how are you?" "I'm good thanks" stage. Most people don't seem to want to talk beyond that. And most women are already in relationships and thus it would seem weird to approach them in an office setting trying to get to know them deeper. But man those "hi how are yous" are the only real interactions I get during my day.. so thus I decided to come here lol. Rant over, sorry! I promise I'm not a downer. 😅
Now for some things about me!
As you can tell, I am very mature for my age and am polite and have good grammar which unfortunately not everyone my age does anymore lol. I am not active at all on social media/internet culture really and don't know much about all the slang the younger people these days use. I feel like I'm 50. 🤣
I am left handed which is pretty cool. I'm not much of a party person or a drinker, I much prefer a quiet night at home and maybe a beer or two on a weekend but that's about it. I am simple and stay out of drama and trouble and don't get much into politics or other things that cause drama with people. I much prefer a relaxing campfire and a night at home and to just let the world keep on turning haha. I consider myself pretty intelligent and mature, especially for my age which is why I'm open to older ladies.
Physically I'm 180 pounds, have brown hair, green eyes, and a typical build. There's a few pictures on my profile.
Some of my hobbies are:
• Photography
I have a Nikon D200 and D5500 that I love to shoot with. I love nature scenes, abstract, black and white/goth kinda photography, sunsets, etc. it's so fun to just let your mind explore. It's not about what camera you have, but those who are behind the camera! I'm gonna try and photograph the northern lights tonight!
• Cooking and baking
I loveeee to cook and bake! I enjoy making various meals but also love to just have a frozen pizza once in awhile or something like that. I recently made homemade chili which turned out great. I love to bake, especially in the fall! I love pies, cakes, pastries, cookies, etc. I restored a vintage KitchenAid mixer that needed tbe gearbox rebuilt. Eventually I would love to practice home canning my own food.
• Music
Oh my gosh, I like so much!! Alternative rock, punk, post punk, electronic, synth pop, psychedelic rock, hard rock, etc. I am very non judgemental and open when it comes to music. My three current favorite bands are Type O Negative, Joy Division, and the Cure.
• Nature walks and camping
I really enjoy camping, making fires, and relaxing by a campfire. I love to take walks outside and just enjoy the beauty and simplicity of nature. It's wonderful, especially in a world so focused on everything digital.
• Repairing things
I'm a maintenance guy and one of my hobbies is electronics repair so I am good with my hands and just all around good at troubleshooting and fixing all sorts of things around the house. Last week I helped my elderly neighbor get his tractor started, it needed a new component in the starting circuit. So I'm pretty handy which... Comes in handy! 😂
• Autumn 🍁
This isn't a hobby per say, but man do I love the fall!!! It's my absolute favorite time of the year. Oh my gosh. The beautiful colors, crisp cool air, misty and foggy days, rain, lack of bugs, being cuddled up with a candle or by the fire drinking a tea, etc. I love it! There's only two seasons for me. Fall, and waiting for fall! Haha.
• Scented Candles and incense
Going along with my love for fall, I absolutely love candles! I have like 30 something lol. 😂 Currently my favorite are WoodWick, which are owned by Yankee candle. They have such a soothing crackle and the scents are great! I also love to burn incense from time to time as well. I have cottagecore hippie vibes.
• Old houses and architecture
I love old houses! Especially 1900s and Victorian era homes. Old homes have so much character to them and are just so beautiful from a time when people took pride in their craft. I strongly dislike the modern cookie cutter cheap construction of homes today. I would love to live in an old home one day. I also love their architecture and uniqueness, as well as architecture of old cathedrals and other buildings.
• Relaxing
Basic I know, but sometimes on the weekend I just love to get cozy in bed and relax and put on a YouTube video or an album! 😊
That's about it for me, I'm a pretty laid back and simple person. My ideal person is someone who is respectful and honest! I am very straightforward and open minded and would hope that you are as well.
If I seem interesting to you at all I would love to hear from you!
Thank you so much for reading.

I downloaded bumble for the very first time a little less than a year ago. I was excited to actually try dating apps at first, since I never had. I had done online dating, but through the old school PC based apps like OK cupid, I got 2 long term relationships from those and was now trying bumble since it seemed that's where the people were.
I even liked the spin where women had to message first. As a man, her showing some effort is wonderful, I don't have to come up with my most witty opener, just to hear crickets. If she engages first, there must be something she likes about me. At first, this worked well. I got a few matches, and went on some dates, but within a few months, the matches started to degrade in quality and they became less frequent and the experience got stale. I don't know for sure, but I suspect your algorithm "got to know me" a little better, and decided I was only worthy people I wasn't overly interested in.
I could tell your algorithm was struggling when the distances from my place started getting longer and longer for my matches. I live in a place of over 2 million people, so that's not the problem. But let me tell you something, I was getting notifications from my phone 3 or 4 times a day! I want desperately a long term relationship again.
I do well in relationships and when my phone would ding, I'd get excited, only to have it be an ad from YOU bumble, or some sort of weird pep talk that "Confidence is hot" or that "my boss wouldn't know about my profile?" What? Thanks but having been in several relationships and knowing women in real life, I really didn't need the pep talk that "confidence is hot" and I'm quite sure my boss doesn't give a shit what I do on bumble. So since I now equated notifications with nonsense from you. I stopped even checking, maybe I'd check a couple times a week instead of everyday like I was. I lost engagement and yes, I even lost matches, because it was easier to risk losing a match than get my hopes up over your harassing notifications.
Then I noticed something else, almost every profile had heavily filtered pictures, and very few of the pictures were of someplace local. Again, I live in a place of 2 million people...sort of strange that almost no one has a picture that looks like it was taken around here. Nope, apparently everyone is in Bali all the time. I can only assume that these profiles are to pad out your women numbers. I don't know how you're doing it, but I've seen the picture of heavily filtered Megan by the Eiffel tower at least 3 times now. It's getting old.
Because I wasn't engaged as much, I obviously got less dates. You can certainly blame me for that if you wish, but I think I'm the kind of man you want on your app. I'm not perfect. I mean, I'm divorced for one.......but I'm well educated and I think I have my house in order and I'm not out here just sending dick pics or trying to get laid. I put some thought into my messages and into my profile. I'm really looking for a woman to experience the world with!
Now with your rebrand....I have to say, I'm getting tired, I understand you need to build a user base of women and need to cater to that, but it is us men that are paying the bills, we're the ones buying spotlights, or super likes or whatever you're calling it these days, we're the ones shelling out hundreds of dollars in just a hope that we might go on a date with a woman that we can share the world with. The reality bumble, is that dates aren't happening anymore or at any frequency that justifies spending anything. I'm not on your app to swipe, I'm not on your app to spotlight, or like or even text with someone. I'm on your app because I want to go on dates.
Now let's go through the progression of how that happens on your app.
First I have to create a top notch profile; And because your gender ratio is 2 to 1 men to women, I better be in the top half because if not, there's not going to be any matches, just by simple math. If the ratio is 2 to 1 and every single woman matches with a DIFFERENT man, there's still 50% of men without a match.
THEN, I have to swipe, which....is a soul crushing activity on any app if you're actually looking for a long term relationship.
THEN I get a match! Oh boy!.............Then she has to respond in 24 hours. Hope she doesn't get sick or have a big work project or forget about me in her sea of matches and dick pics!
THEN she gets to send an "Opening move" AKA AI Generated nonsense.
THEN I Have to respond.....and again, it better be a top notch witty response. Like it has to be funny and interesting at the level of Anthony Bourdain Meets James Bond Meets Robin Williams meets Bob Ross levels!
THEN if she likes it, then and only then will I get a text, a text, not a date, a text from an actual woman, and its likely to be "Hey or something else low effort"
THEN we have to hope that continues long enough to appropriately share numbers or get an actual date arranged.
If this is the way you're going to run it bumble.........then I have to say, I'll just walk up to some woman at a bar. She might say no, we might find we're incompatible in the first 5 seconds, but at least a date or prelude to a date happened.
You're a dating app after all. If dates aren't happening or require that many hoops, that could get screwed by your algorithms at any time, than I, and I hope many other men like me get off your application yesterday, and I certainly hope they spend not one more dime until this subreddit's front page is filled with stories of GOOD MEN and GOOD WOMEN meeting from bumble. THAT is how you will make money, and THAT is how you will repair your significantly tarnished reputation among both men and women. Ladies, I can't imagine this is working for you either.
As an epilogue. I hired matchmaker............she wasn't cheap, but unlike you, she doesn't upsell me daily, she listens to me, she doesn't blow smoke about what is and isn't realistic, and more importantly, her matches are good and getting better, and dates are actually happening. That's more than I can say for you. It's a shame matchmaking isn't accessible to everyone, or you'd be out of business even faster. Reading this back.......it appears I was having an abusive relationship with Bumble that needs to stop.

I'm a male victim of csa. I'm not open about what happened and very few people know except my closest friends.
Just over a year ago in my final year of school. I yelled at a girl to fuck off and called her fucking disgusting and other things after she had got my male friend drunk to the point of passing out and then sexually assaulted him at a party. She had been harassing him and other guys the whole night and everyone was mad at her before she did this.
I just lost it. I really did. I'd seen how bad my friend's mental health had gotten after the party. He had tried to take his own life after it and that girl came to school, laughing about his failed attempt. She kept exaggerating what he'd done to himself to make it "funnier". We had found out what she'd done not long after his attempt.
Her parents knew many of the teachers at the school personally. I was told to stay away from her after causing her emotional distress. I was separated from all my friends during classes. I was called a bully and an "aggressive and terrifying man who verbally attacks women". She didn't get suspended or kicked from the school, not even a slap on the wrist. She just got moved to separate classes from mine and sympathy from teachers for her "traumatic experience" of being accused of SA. I was treated like I was the sexual predator not her.
I was also told by one of my teachers (a female teacher) that I "had no right to get involved and if I was that concerned I should have called the police or told a member of staff". My school was full of drug addicts, pedophiles and teen parents, yeah I wasn't telling a teacher shit. The teacher who "confronted" me also kept calling my friend "that boy" even though she knew his name, kept dismissing him as he "wasn't her concern" and acting like he didn't exist. The girl had told the teacher about my history, when I was yelling at her I told her I didn't feel safe around her as a SA victim myself. My teacher said I was projecting my experience onto this girl and it was an "alleged" sexual assault. She asked to "imagine if you were accused of sexual assault" and didn't like my answer of "I'd never sexaully assault someone so I don't have to worry".
Funny how this teacher was one of those white women who years ago went to India, became spiritual, took up yoga and preaches mental health to the high heavans. She literally made us sit through several presentations about mental health, men's mental health and about speaking out against abuse.
Fuck everyone who says they actually care about male victims, most of them are liars. I don't regret what I said to that girl, she deserved every word.

I copied and pasted what a random said to me on a reply I made in ask women about being treated badly by ppl and he said it was bc of my looks when I wasn't even the poster I curiously asked how and this is what he said
Thank you for taking the feedback well and asking for some clarification!
That is generally my impression from the pictures, of someone who's a bit of the way into chemo (pale/wan skin, thin hair, somewhat gaunt appearance). None of them in isolation are all that bad, but there's something about the way they all come together.
Perhaps if one of them improved, the rest wouldn't be amplified so much. I'd suggest starting with the hair. Save up and splurge a bit on a stylist. Tell them your goals - that you're coming to them to help you design a look and haircare plan to give your hair volume and compliment your regular appearance (wear typical clothes and makeup). Take all-around pictures of the cut immediately after, and then use those pics to guide your regular hairdresser.
My read on your paragraph is that you're in a bit of denial and reaching to justify how people treat you. Most people are about their appearance.
It's extremely well established that people treat attractive people better.
Yes, you're right, the extremely unattractive/frail/etc, but it comes from a different driver in the mind.
In between the two extremes, there's an uncanny valley type effect. Someone moderately ugly will be treated worse than someone extremely ugly.
Maybe it is something in your demeanor, speech, whatever. If you want to do a video call, I can give you feedback on that.

I'm in a Facebook group for gay men sharing their travel stories and learning about travel destinations. Majority of the posts are about sex, and the primary usage for the platform appears to be as an alternative to apps like Grindr. Doesn't surprise me.
A recent post caught my attention - a guy was seeking recommendations of places in Iceland where he could go stare at naked men, because he wants to see penis. Lots of recommendations encouraged him to visit public pools where men, women and children shower naked. Anybody raising concern over that discussion was ripped to shreds for disrespecting a "safe space" for gay men to be themselves. Fine.
And more recently, a man was seeking recommendations to visit Islamic states and Muslim majority countries due to his interest in architecture and culture, and inquired about safely navigating those regions. Somehow the responses gravitated towards encouraging him to find sex parties in such countries, going drinking and engaging in risky behaviours.
I grew up in the middle east and another Muslim majority country. I immigrated to the US to save my life. I weighed in with my experience, recommended "safe" regions to explore, and maintaining discretion. Other Americans insinuated I was being hyperbolic and that there's no need to avoid public sexual intimacy with other gay men nor consider caution when using apps like Grindr because they can't imagine law enforcement breaking in and targeting gay men in countries like UAE, Jordan and even Saudi Arabia. I alerted them that law enforcement lurk on apps like Grindr to catfish gay men, and lure them out to "catch them." How do I know? I lived in those regions.
I'm alright with people taking calculated risks for themselves. But encouraging others to participate in risky behaviours troubles me.
One of my responses:

I grew up in the UAE. You can take a trip around that country and venture into Qatar and Oman on your way, but UAE has plenty of attractions to enjoy. Avoid summer time. End of the year is a good time to go.
It's very safe there as long as you keep your sexual orientation private, and don't use apps like Grindr.

A response:

you just get a VPN. I was getting 50-80 messages on GROWLr a day when I was in Dubai & Qatar for the Qatar World Cup. Men were thirsty! If you like bears, some of the men you will meet are the hottest you will meet anywhere. Plus they dig us bigger guys too! 💦

I take my safety seriously because I've survived years fearing for my life. I find the obsession with sex among gay men problematic.

Was work-trading here through a workaway program and was just given until Saturday (shabbat) to move! Because she “doesn’t like having other people in her house and forgot that”…… i am human too and don’t deserve this level of discarding and disregard for my immediate well being. After i uproot my life and choosing to spend my time assisting someone else
Am nb and have had guns pulled on me in rest stop bathrooms etc- was a city kid homeless 1.5 years- moved into a studio in a rural “liberal “ majority goyish area and am beside myself while experiencing the insidious inhumanity of compounded bigotry. The worst is being assumed to be completely incompetent or otherwise lacking. Some people almost pity me it’s insane. . Wanted to trust this opportunity. I feel sick.
Wanted to think i did something wrong and it was my fault and be accountable to whatever it was….. but i asked snd she said it wad her first workaway and she bit off more than she could chew. But until sat? Wow…
She said that gay marriage and zionism were the two biggest components keeping everyone paying attn to clinate change and none of us should protest it’s selfish and “men are men women are women” in that convo..
I never want to think its bigotry but it is. Mizrahi and on T so hard to hide it. Grateful for this sub for existing in these moments snd beyond

Assalamalaikum friends…
I am about two years into my journey as a Muslim hijabi, and I have found that it’s time for me to get out of my comfort zone and begin my attempt at making clothing. There are so many inspiring women (and men) behind modest clothing brands and I am feeling empowered to take that step and try making some things for myself, and hopefully others inshallah.
I am open to any advice, support, or resources that any of you have to share!
I’m nervous!!!

• Spawn system is unbearable after extended play time. Half of the game is just deathmatch fighting at spawn in which kind of defeats the purpose of an open world style game. Please add many other spawn points with a wider range on the sides of maps or make a dynamic spawn system that detects other player proximity and moves your spawn based on range so there is at least a buffer of room to get away. I know this is hard to do on farm based on the map size but currently this spawn system is going to turn off a lot of players since the game is built around hardcore loss of gear.
• Initial recoil bounce of guns should be removed/reworked. This was already hated in tarkov for years and makes semi auto guns really unviable compared to full auto. Please change this to be a more consistent curve of recoil instead of just a barrel bounce. Think Counter-Strike but more realistic based on attachments, etc.
• Jumping and shooting with full accuracy (super manning corners) needs to be nerfed. This is especially bad with scavs who have zero reason to lose anything and can still melt your legs/face with stock guns. I do enjoy the more arcadey movement but please don't make this into a call of duty 360 noscope type of game. If your feet are off of the ground your gun recoil should be double in my opinion. Easy fix.
• Full auto spread needs increased (lazer hipfire is bad FPS design). Currently full auto guns are way too strong in terms of being able to just hipfire horizontally and not really aim the gun. I do not want the goofy solutions that tarkov did like durability and jamming to make full auto not so dominant. Just make the recoil realistic in terms of the first few shots are accurate where aiming and then if you continue full auto the cone spreads. This is a known design that works in just about every single FPS game. Keep the realistic ballistics of course but also make the recoil patterns realistic as well. If you want an FPS shooter that is skill based than the player should be controlling the recoil not some arbitrary system. The current design just promotes cheesing as players will shoot the first 2-3 shots prefire into the corner of a wall knowing by the time they strafe out the recoil is "fixed" and they laser. It is just bad design overall for a game that wants tactical realism.
• Scav detection radius is absurd. I am not sure if it changes based on your player level but after hitting level 30 scavs see me from EVERYWHERE. I am talking like a 150m radius if I am anywhere near them I am spotted. They very often comm and rush at me from behind cover or non line of sight where they really should have no idea of my exact location other than general footsteps. Sniper scavs on valley are just as bad and I have been hit through trees at like 300m out just randomly moving through cover. Either please reduce the detection radius or make thier shots a bit less accurate. Sniper scav will basically kill you by shot 3 if you do not have hard cover or some serious armor. I have even multiple times (im taking like every other raid) will see a scav in the distance just straight rushing at my location when I have not fired a shot or given any target inidcator and I will just watch them path right up to me like a magnet. Its both immersion breaking and annoying as hell.
• Scav tanking expensive ammo. This one drives me insane. If you want to make scavs be stronger by increasing health pools than please make some kind of visual change to thier clothing to look armored, especially the face. They dont actually have to have lootable gear obviously to keep the loot balance but there is nothing more immersion breaking or frustrating than shooting a scav with a baseball cap in the face and they just flinch and run off. This is one of the worst design aspects of tarkov and how BSG uses hp pools to balance the boss/AI and it kills me to see it copied in ABI. Please ask the art team to do some kind of pass even making the scavs have ghetto looking armor like something out of the game Rust to keep with the lore feel.
• Higher tier 6-7 7.62x54R does same TTK hits as lvl 5 making the cost pointless in many hours of sniping with a mosin. So basically T5 ammo costs roughly $1k. It on average will two shot body a naked and three shot a geared player with L4+ armor. Headshots are one hit kill. T6 and T7 mosin ammo again from my extensive tesing does the exact same damage counts in terms of hits. So you are paying an extra $1k per round to get the same bullet DPS. Of course yes these rounds will shine vs level6+ armor players but I do not think any ammo worth $1k+ per round should take more than two body shots for L4 armor players. There are a few exceptions to this but I have used mosin on Valley for multiple 10+ hour sessions and something is weird with the 7.62x54R T6 and T7 ammo class.
• Shoulder swap for weapons to left peek. This is an easy addition and honestly should be in any tactical FPS game that requires CQB fighting. Please add this for a huge quality of life.
• Option in player list that can be enabled so whatever team mate gets the killing blow can only loot that body who they killed locking out the rest of the team. This would greatly help with players not wanting to join random squads and get thier stuff taken after putting in the hard work of securing the kill. Not a perfect solution but would greatly help stopping thieves. Yes would players try to "last hit" to steal your loot? Sure. Would this system work 10x better than currently just watching a teammate rat your gear? Absolutely. Again make this a selecable option in the lobby so party leaders can choose and everyone wins. You don't want that option just don't enable it.
• Allow ANY keyboard key to be rebound. Many of us use custom key binds that are shared across multiple game titles and having to "relearn" the keys for this game because certain keys like ALT can not be bound to crouch for example makes the player controller feel really bad. A normal person is not going to just unlearn 15+ years of gaming keyboard binds and so every time there is a panicked firefight I naturally revert to the expected keys and it gets me killed. Super annoying and again very basic fix to allow those keys to be rebound.

My main concern right now is that these types of changes I have listed have taken tarkov YEARS to update. So what I do not want to happen is players having to camp the ABI patch notes for another 2-3 years just to get back those quality of life changes missing in this game that tarkov now has resolved. I do expect ABI to be much more efficient with the patch releases but none the less for someone who has played tarkov for many years some of these changes feel like "starting over with an old version" waiting for the same fixes that already exist in tarkov. They copied a lot of the bad design aspects of tarkov along with the good in my opinion.
At the end of the day this game is fantastic and really blends the casual and tactical mix to hit a wide audience. If you do not currently have beta access please do understand watching the game really does not do it justice. You have to play it to feel all of the small quality of life changes that make this title rival tarkov. I personally could care less if the game is copied or not. They did it better and BSG had 6 years to get thier act together. Someone like myself has been praying for this exact mix of extraction for a long time now. As long as the monetization does not impede the hardcore looting aspect AKA buying gear than I think this game will be just fine for the long run. Good luck out there!

This question is out of curiosity. I’ve never had a relationship before as well. Regardless of what you think of age gap relationships, I do wonder if it’s realistic.
At the end of the day, I’ll take what I can get.
I’ve wasted enough of my life. I’d be willing to date someone 28 to 32, but on condition that kids are never on the table.
I'm not saying all women 25 and above want kids and marriage, but I do bet they want something serious and committed; yes I dare say something very adult.
I'm just not ready for that type of relationship yet where most of my days are work and doing errands. I very still much want to go out until 4 in the morning on a Saturday. And I'd be cool with it if it was almost every Saturday. I feel people my age are past that now.
I just want my first relationship to be fun as it can be even though I’m in adulthood now.
So yes, as a male that's never ever had a girlfriend ever, I much prefer women on the younger end. If that makes me a creepy pervert, so be it. But that's not the point of post.
I just want to know if it's feasible to be in age gap relationship like that despite it being unlikely. I do recognize that at the end of the day, women prefer men their age.