L'anno scorso, io e la mia ragazza, abbiamo visitato, in due periodi diversi, l'America che gli Americani non chiamano così, ovvero New York City ed L.A. Con tanta voglia di tornarci, abbiamo deciso di fare qualcosa di diverso e di più "in". Un road-trip.
Premetto che per me è sempre stato un sogno, più che per motivi economici, per motivi legati al tempo non sono mai riuscito a realizzarlo. Viaggiare fra gli States a bordo di un V8 5.0 cabrio sembra veramente incredibile.
Abbiamo iniziato a programmare il tutto, ritagliandoci una quindicina/ventina di giorni totali, non abbiamo un limite vero e proprio per il budget, ma abbiamo un limite legato alla stagione, siamo proprietari di Hotel ed attività turistiche nel nord Italia, dunque l'estate è totalmente da escludere. Fra le proposte cha abbiamo buttato nero su bianco, due sono le favorite:
1) Fare il classico "Coast to Coast".
2) Concentrarsi sulla West Coast ed un pò di entroterra.
Per la prima opzione abbiamo programmato una percorrenza di circa 400/500km giornalieri (Ci piace guidare) visitando rispettivamente:
San Francisco - Los Angeles - Palm Springs + Joshua Tree - Las Vegas - Monument Valley - Holbrook - Albuquerque - Amarillo - Oklahoma - Springfield - ST-Louis - Chicago - Detroit - Pittsburg - New York
Per la seconda opzione abbiamo programmato più o meno 400/500km ma fatti ogni 2/3 giorni, con ovviamente più tempo per visitare le singole città, rispettivamente:
San Francisco - Los Angeles + Malibù - Palm Springs + Joshua Tree - Death Valley +Las Vegas - Grand Canyon + Monument Valley
Il dubbio è grande su quale opzione scegliere, sicuramente la prima è sbrigativa e ci sarà ben poco tempo per visitare effettive usanze e culture, però in cambio si ha un'esperienza molto ricca in termini di stati, e penso ben poco relax, la seconda è più completa, sicuramente avremo modo di visitare parchi naturali, attrazioni, posti e viverci molto di più il momento, a discapito di un territorio ristretto.
In entrambi gli itinerari abbiamo già trovato Hotel o strutture alle quali appoggiarci per passare le notti.
Qualsiasi esperienza, consiglio, posto da visitare o opinione sui percorsi sono ben accette. L'inverno inteso come Novembre e Dicembre sono buoni periodi per visitare la costa occidentale? Avete consigli in merito ad agenzie che trattano il drop-off dell'auto delle quali ci si possa fidare? Spot non troppo turistici da visitare durante il tragitto? Criminalità?
Grazie in anticipo!

Hi folks,
I'm buying a loft apartment of 72.9m2 usable space (785 square feet) distributed as follows:

• Open Plan Kitchen / Living Room of approximately 36m2 (387 sq ft)
• Bedroom 1: 8.6m2 (93 sq ft) (Main Bedroom)
• Home Office 2: 7.8m2 (84 sq ft)
• Bedroom 2: 8.1m2 (87 sq ft) (Spare room and changing room) (can live without an inverter in this room)

The property is located in Barcelona, Spain, and currently has an old, outdated single compressoinverter unit in the living room.
Typical occupancy is 1 - 2 people, and typically will be be running as follows:

• Bedroom 1 on, others off (i.e., nighttime usage).
• Home office on, living room kitchen on, others off (typical day usage).
• Bedroom 1 & Bedroom 2 on (i.e., if I have guests, and this would be nighttime usage).

Spain has a Csa climate according to the Koppen classification, similar to US cities including Colorado Springs, CO, Amarillo TX and Albuquerque, NM, though it does get excruciatingly humid in summer since we're on the coast.
The construction means that a mini-split is the only real option, and I have no strong feelings between two or one compressors as they will be wall mounted and not taking up any space.
Other than adequate cooling, my top priority is energy efficiency, followed (at more or less equal priority) by reliability - I'm relatively flexible on budget if it means a more efficient system.
Energy efficiency rating notwithstanding, is there any particular setup out of the following that offers the best performance, reliability and energy consumption:

• 1 compressor with 4 inverters
• 2 compressors, each running 2 inverters
• 2 compressors, one running 1 inverter (i.e., for the largest space, the living room) and the other running 3 inverters.

For context, in any of the above circumstances, the ducting would probably be a comparable length as the units will need to sit in the same place on the external wall. There are no /few efficiency gains to be made with shorter ducting by installing one at one end of the apartment and another at the other.
Thanks!

QYResearch released the latest report Global E-cigarette Market Outlook: 2024-2030 that presents a grand panorama of a thriving e-cigarette market. In the coming years, the e-cigarette market is projected to continue its robust growth trajectory at a steady annual rate of 8.7%. By 2030, its size is expected to soar to a remarkable $44.87 billion, showcasing the thriving potential and boundless business opportunities in the e-cigarette industry. The research data reveals the competitive landscape of the global e-cigarette market in 2023. In 2023, those top ten e-cigarette manufacturers collectively hold a significant share of 43.0% in the global e-cigarette market. Among them, these renowned brands include British American Tobacco, ELFBAR, Altria (Juul Labs), SKE Crystal, Imperial Tobacco, RELX, Japan Tobacco, MOTI, Boulder, and Smoore International, etc. The following chart illustrates the specific percentage of each global leading market share:
In 2024, which e-cigarette brand will make it to the list, and which one will drop off?
SMOANT and ANTBAR, two best vape brands with a decade-long history in e-cigarette research, production, and sales, which have a great potential and change to catch attention and make the ranking!
In terms of the division of the global e-cigarette market based on QYResearch’s research data, the offline channels have become the main driver of demand, accounting for approximately 82.8% of the market share indicating the core position and significant influence of offline channels in e-cigarette sales.

My girlfriend and I are both sales people and are looking to supplement our income by expanding into the vending machine trade.
We are based in the Austin, Texas area and are looking into a model involving adult vending machines. (e-cigarettes, hemp products, 5 hour energy, gum, condoms, phone chargers) for 21+ venues. We're working with a lawyer who specializes in compliance as we know e-cigarettes are a legal grey area.
The biggest gap in our knowledge is the technical and vendor component. We understand that outside of location the biggest mistake you can make early on is equipment- we are looking for someone who would be willing to chat with us for 30 minutes about the best machines to use for Nayax card readers and where is typically best to source. We've looked into importing from China but are a little nervous although we've heard good things about a few particular brands and figure most machines aren't manufactured stateside in the first place.
If anyone with longterm experience is willing, please send a DM or comment below. We'd be happy to send an Amazon gift card as a token of our appreciation.

My girlfriend and I are both sales people and are looking to supplement our income by expanding into the vending machine trade.
We are based in the Austin, Texas area and are looking into a model involving adult vending machines. (e-cigarettes, hemp products, 5 hour energy, gum, condoms, phone chargers) for 21+ venues. We're working with a lawyer who specializes in compliance as we know e-cigarettes are a legal grey area.
The biggest gap in our knowledge is the technical and vendor component. We understand that outside of location the biggest mistake you can make early on is equipment- we are looking for someone who would be willing to chat with us for 30 minutes about the best machines to use for Nayax card readers and where is typically best to source. We've looked into importing from China but are a little nervous although we've heard good things about a few particular brands and figure most machines aren't manufactured stateside in the first place.
If anyone with longterm experience is willing, please send a DM or comment below. We'd be happy to send an Amazon gift card as a token of our appreciation.

It's not currently an emergency. 35, male, in the US. Thanks for reading my novel, I've tried to cover everything. TLDR I _think_ I'm pretty healthy, but I've been having a few pangs of chest pain that are out of the normal for me.
I've had no health problems as an adult other than seasonal allergies, common colds, and I got covid twice (after vaccination but everybody's a statistic eventually). My BMI has been 23-29 as an adult, recently closer to 23 because I got into bicycling and I do it around 15 hours per week for both commuting and exercise. I've never smoked cigarettes or used drugs harder than marijuana. I socially drink alcohol two to three nights a week but not to the point of feeling unwell the next morning. I take a multivitamin daily, a Claritin daily during allergy season i.e. now, and I eat vegetables when I see them but otherwise don't closely monitor my diet. One parent survived a heart attack in their 60s, no other family heart problem history.
My concern: a couple weeks ago, while I was out on a long brisk walk of around 2 hours, I felt a single beat of pain in my left chest, around where my heart is. That's happened maybe three times before in my life, and it wasn't overwhelming pain, but it naturally occupies all of your attention when something like that happens in that region, where I normally feel nothing. I didn't experience any spreading pain, didn't feel dehydrated, and was able to carry on with the walk. My smartwatch said my heart rate then was around 115 (it's 65-ish resting).
Normally, no harm, no foul, but the next day, on another long walk, the same thing happened: a beat of pained panic with a very definite but not overpowering or sharp pain point, centered on the left chest, then I'm able to continue normally. It didn't happen again for several days after that, and I haven't noticed it during anything more intense like bicycling. I did feel another one yesterday, Sunday, that lasted around twice as long as the previous ones, again during a long walk. This is certainly the first time in my life I've experienced multiple of these in a short time span. I felt generally shitty yesterday but my HR and blood pressure were both normal when I checked them. Feeling fine again today.
I figure I should "get this checked out," but I don't even know where to begin. I haven't had a primary care doc since childhood and I'm currently on a self-granted long break between jobs in a stressful industry so no traditional health insurance.
What info have I left out? What tests should I ask for? What kind of conditions are *probable* / should I expect based on my info? Is it fine to keep going on long walks? Anything I can do to manage the risk if I need to wait until I'm on real health insurance? Is my heart going to pop like a grape any day now?

By hearing contradictory speeches, we no longer understand anything. So, are e-cigarettes really an effective aid for quitting smoking? Yes or no, is vaping better for your health than smoking? Answers from a tobacco specialist and an epidemiologist.
In 2022, 7.3% of 18-75 year olds reportedvaping, including 5.5% daily, according to the latest figures from Santé Publique France (source 1). In just a few years, smokers have adopted e-cigarettes as another means ofquitting smoking. However, in a July 2019 report, the World Health Organization (WHO) criticizedelectronic cigarettesfor being “unquestionably harmful”. So, what should we think about it?
https://www.seraviral-ova.com/2024/05/do-electronic-cigarettes-really-help.html

By hearing contradictory speeches, we no longer understand anything. So, are e-cigarettes really an effective aid for quitting smoking? Yes or no, is vaping better for your health than smoking? Answers from a tobacco specialist and an epidemiologist.
In 2022, 7.3% of 18-75 year olds reportedvaping, including 5.5% daily, according to the latest figures from Santé Publique France (source 1). In just a few years, smokers have adopted e-cigarettes as another means ofquitting smoking. However, in a July 2019 report, the World Health Organization (WHO) criticizedelectronic cigarettesfor being “unquestionably harmful”. So, what should we think about it?
https://www.seraviral-ova.com/2024/05/do-electronic-cigarettes-really-help.html

As school graduations are underway, it is hard not to think of one of the most puzzling cases in the last 50 years, which took place the night of graduation: the mysterious disappearance of Suzie Streeter, Stacy McCall, and Sherill Levitt, dubbed "Springfield Three". I thought I'd bump it back to the surface given we are nearly 32 years from the event, and hopefully provoke some more discussion on the topic!
Introduction
On 6th June 1992, Suzanne “Suzie” Streeter (age 19) and Stacy McCall (age 18) both graduated from Kickapoo High School in Springfield, Missouri. Graduation always brings an air of celebration... This was no exception for Streeter and McCall, who attended several graduation parties around Springfield and in nearby Battlefield throughout the night. The girls were last seen around 2 am, when they departed from a party at friend Janelle Kirby’s house. While they had initially planned to spend the night at Kirby’s house, they ultimately decided that it was too crowded and decided to return to Streeter’s mother Sherill Levitt’s house for the night. Had the girls decided to stay at Kirby’s house as they’d originally planned, true crime history as we know it might be entirely different, and the tale of the Springfield Three might not exist. Perhaps Streeter and McCall would have wandered home the next morning to find Levitt missing, a tragedy for sure, but one of more than 600,000 persons who go missing in the United States every year. Perhaps the tragedy may have been avoided entirely had they stayed at Kirby’s; without any clear motivation, we can merely speculate. Unfortunately, however, this is not what happened. The two girls made their way home, and they, along with Levitt, were never seen again, alive nor dead. This is the mysterious and disturbing story of the vanishing of the Springfield Three, still unsolved over thirty years later.
The Disappearance
Streeter and McCall were last seen around 2 am leaving friend Janelle Kirby’s graduation party. While some factors could point to this time being unreliable (drinking @ party, overall vibe of celebration, and there was no reason to think that the time they left was significant in the moment), there would have been multiple witnesses at the party who sawthe girls leave, lending more credence to the idea that they did indeed leave around 2 am. By all accounts, the last time anyone heard from Levitt was approx. 11:15 pm, when she spoke with a friend about painting an armoire. Given the seemingly mundane nature of the conversation, it seems likely that the events that led to the vanishing of the Springfield Three had not yet occurred at this time; while it is possible that someone had already broken into the home and was forcing Levitt to “act natural,” this seems highly unlikely given the nature of the conversation and the fact that the friend did not mention anything seeming off or wrong during her conversation with Levitt. Additionally, Streeter and McCall almost certainly made it back to the house. While there are no eyewitnesses, their cars were parked in the driveway, and their purses were found inside. Additionally, McCall’s mother confirmed that the clothes that McCall had been wearing the previous day were found neatly folded inside the house. Streeter and McCall’s friend Kirby states that she attempted to call the house at approximately 8 am and received no response. Therefore, we can say with near certainty that the event that caused the vanishing of the Springfield Three occurred sometime between 11:15 pm on June 6th and 8 am on June 7th -- though much more likely to be between the hours of 2 am and 8 am.
Crime Scene Discovery
On the day of June 7th, Streeter and McCall were scheduled to go to the water park with their friend Janelle Kirby, whose party they had visited the night prior. This is why Kirby had called the house at 8 am that morning. After not receiving an answer or hearing back, Kirby made her way over to the house on 1717 E Delmar Street, along with her boyfriend, around 12:30 pm. They found the door unlocked but nobody home, with the exception of Levitt’s dog Cinnamon, a Yorkshire Terrier, who they claimed seemed agitated. There were no signs of a struggle besides the front porch light, the glass shade of which had been shattered while the lightbulb itself had been left intact. Not realizing that they were snooping around a crime scene, Kirby’s boyfriend swept up the broken glass from the porch lamp, attempting to be kind but in the process possibly contaminating evidence. While in the house, the phone rang, and Kirby answered. She said that the caller made sexual innuendos, and she hung up on them. The phone rang again, but after realizing it was more of the same, Kirby hung up yet again. Likely confused but not panicked, Kirby and her boyfriend left the house. They did not contact law enforcement, as they did not yet realize that a crime had occurred.
Janis McCall’s Discovery
Several hours later, around 7 pm, Janis McCall, Stacy’s mother, grew concerned when she hadn’t been able to contact Stacy, and decided to visit the house. Inside, she found the women’s purses upright and in a line. All the women’s car keys were in their purses, as were their cigarettes. Janis was apparently sufficiently alarmed enough that she called the police from the home phone at 1717 E Delmar Street. After alerting law enforcement, Janis checked the voice mailbox and heard what has only been described as a “strange message” that she accidentally erased before anyone else, including law enforcement, could listen to it.
The Investigation
This investigation has repeatedly lead to dead ends. Local police began investigating the house on June 8th, and the FBI was called in the very next day. Numerous searches were conducted in nearby wooded areas with no luck. Police investigated a number of tips, including one regarding a “transient” or homeless person supposedly seen near the house, one regarding a man pretending to be a utility worker investigating a gas leak, and one involving a Dodge van that was supposedly seen around the house. None of these tips, and many, many more that were submitted both in the immediate aftermath of the vanishing of the Springfield Three and in the years that followed, led to any substantial developments in the case. Before long, the case of the Springfield Three went cold, but it has never been forgotten.
The Main problems with this case...

• Red herrings: Just about every piece of evidence mentioned above (the broken porch light shade, the purses, the agitated dog, the crude phone calls, the strange voicemail, etc.) could be vital evidence or a red herring, but we have no way of knowing which is which. Any of these items could have come to be prior to the incident that led to the vanishing of the Springfield Three, but could be directly related to the case, making it hard to know what to focus on.
  
• Contamination of evidence: The contamination of evidence is also highly problematic. It’s hard to tell what, if anything, could have been gleaned from the broken glass on the porch or the deleted voicemail because those things were already gone or severely contaminated before they could even be examined. Police estimated that 10-20 people had passed through the house before police began their investigation, mostly from friends and family members passing through looking for the women.
  
• Police incompetence: The police have been criticized for their handling of the case, though it’s not entirely clear how far this mishandling goes. However, the estimate of 10-20 people filing through the house feels like a case of exaggeration to explain why they were able to glean almost nothing from the crime scene (regardless of whether there was actually anything to be gleaned or not). The police have also stated that the voicemail that Janis heard and accidentally deleted may well have contained vital information for the case. Without knowing the context of that voicemail, we cannot say whether this is true or not; however, it seems odd that a perpetrator (or perpetrators) would pull off an almost perfect crime but leave something damning behind on voicemail. However, the fact of the matter is that we simply don’t know, and due to the criticisms levied at local law enforcement for their handling of this case, it’s tough not to view any announcements they make without at least a hint of skepticism.
  

Discussion
While a number of possible suspect names have been tossed around over the years, none stand out as truly likely, with almost all lacking the means or motive to pull off what seems like the perfect crime. Some speculate it was one of the girls' high school friends (possibly Janelle) or romantic interests, but a crime of this nature feels far outside the scope of a recent high school grad. Some suspect Bart Streeter, Sherill's son & Susie's brother, who struggled with drug and alcohol issues. Others suspect prominent serial killers at the time (Robert Craig Cox is often mentioned), though the crime doesn't match his MO. It's tough to say, and I personally don't have any leading theories.
Thought I'd ask the following discussion questions as well:

• What is your personal theory as to what happened, and why?
  
• What popular theories do you rule out, and why?
  
• Who was the intended target?
  
• What pieces of evidence do you consider red herrings? What evidence do you think is significant?
  

as the title saids my game crashes after i play for short time any idea as to why?
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Hey everyone, I'm currently interning in the IT department of a company, and I've been facing a bit of a dilemma. The workspace we're in is quite small, fitting only five desks and cannot put the 6th, and unfortunately, it seems like everyone in the room is a smoker (vape/pod/e-cigarette). The problem is, I'm not a smoker, and the secondhand smoke is really starting to affect me, yes they are smoking in the room and not outside. I even piss off just thinking about it at home. It's been 2 months. I've tried addressing the issue with my supervisor twice now, explaining that I can't tolerate the secondhand smoke, but unfortunately, nothing much has changed, and he smoke it the day after. It's gotten to the point where one of them, who knows I dislike the smoke, still continues to smoke as usual. And they still smoke often like a muscle memory. I'm feeling stuck because I don't want to come across as overly dramatic or cause any tension in the workplace, especially since this is my first internship experience. But at the same time, I'm genuinely concerned about my health, especially with four more months left in the internship. Can I have an advice on what to do? The supervisor said there's no other room for me to move to. I'm planning to change intern workplace, is that even possible as this is workplace problems. Thank you.
TL;DR: I'm interning in a small IT department where everyone smokes indoors, including my supervisor, and I'm concerning my health. I've raised the issue twice within the room, but no significant change. Feeling stuck and considering changing internships. Any advice?

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My parents were strict growing up. In particular, my sister and I had a tightly enforced curfew - no going out after 6PM. As a homebody who preferred to read in my room, I didn't mind much.
My older sister Jasmine hated it. She misbehaved frequently, stayed out late and made friends our parents didn't approve of. Dad would lock her in the house when she came back from school, and she would throw ear splitting tantrums that gave everyone headaches. The more they tried to control her, the more she rebelled, until she became an absolute menace. We fought a lot too - she spat in my food at the dinner table, and I pulled her hair in return. My parents would scream at her to stop and stand in the corner for an hour as punishment. They threatened that if her behavior continued, they would send her away to a boarding school for difficult children, where the punishments wouldn't be as kind.
The final straw came when I was ten and Jasmine was fourteen. Mom found a pack of cigarettes in Jasmine's room. She came to us at the dinner table.
"Jasmine," she said calmly, holding up the pack. "What is this?"
I saw the color drain from Jasmine's face. She'd gotten them from an older boy at school. Her expression cycled through fear, dread, denial then rage in a few seconds. A violent argument broke out.
"Fuck you!" She screamed, "They're mine and you bet I'm gonna smoke them! You can't fucking tell me what to do!"
My parents decided it was time to play their final card. It was boarding school, or getting disowned and put up for adoption. They had enough, and as she was becoming older, taller and more violent, they were starting to become concerned for the family's safety. She had little choice, and a month later, dad took her on a flight to the boarding school. I don't remember many details about it from listening to their conversations. I just picked up the fact that it was in a hilly area in a far away state, and they took discipline seriously there. No technology, makeup or drugs were allowed, there was a strict daily schedule beginning at 5AM and ending at 9AM sharp, and those who broke the rules were served their just desserts.
"See ya in fifty years," I taunted, "enjoy being a nun."
She stuck her tongue out at me and flipped me the middle finger. She disappeared, and the front door slammed shut.
The home was much quieter thereafter. I liked it at first. No more fighting over stuff and screaming around the house. But over time, it got lonely, especially on the evenings and weekends. I now felt like an only child.
Despite our differences, Jas and I did have a few good laughs over dumb Youtube videos on the odd occasion. Three months had passed since she had left, but the entire time I never heard my parents call Jas or the school for updates. I asked about Jas a couple times after a few months.
"Is she coming back?" I asked.
"Of course, dear. She's there for a year, so she'll be back when the school year ends," she replied.
The year droned on, and half a year passed in a blink. I started taking violin lessons, and my parents even extended the curfew to let me attend late night school events. It helped me make some more friends, and the extension allowed me to stay at their houses, as long as my parents approved of them. Being accustomed to restrictions for my whole life, those allowances were a breath of fresh air. Still, I was alone in my room most of the time, and the house felt empty.
I came home from school one day and both my parents were still at work. As I went to my room and set my things down, I heard the home phone ringing from downstairs.
Taking off my coat as I walked down the stairs, I went to answer it.
"Hello?"
"HELP ME! HELP!" A shrill voice shrieked from the other end. All the hairs on the back of my neck stood up instantly as soon as I heard it, and my heart rate began to accelerate. I held the phone a little further from my ear.
"Jas?" I asked.
"Harry," she sobbed, a terrified urgency in her voice, "I need help, please. Where's mom and dad?"
"They're at work," I replied.
"Harry, I'm sorry." Her voice became quieter. "I'm sorry I spat in your vegetables. I'm sorry I called you a dumbass. Tell mom and dad I'm sorry I gave them hell. They didn't deserve all of that. I'm so sorry. I didn't mean to hurt you guys, I swear."
"I know, Jas," I said, concerned, "but what's going on?"
"Oh my God, they're coming," she whimpered, "they're gonna get me, I can't run anymore. Fuck…"
I heard a loud smash and commotion on the other side, and screaming erupted from the other end of the line. Ear piercing screams that could've shattered glass. They became more intense but quieter, as if she was being dragged away from the receiver.
"No, NO! PLEASE DON'T! HELP!"
The line hung up.
Shaking, I called mom and dad immediately. When they came home, I explained what happened and thought Jas was in serious danger. Mom hurriedly called the school, and the woman on the other end explained that Jas had a tantrum earlier, but was otherwise fine and didn't want to speak to her. She took that as sufficient, and hung up. I pressed her a little, but that pissed her off.
"It's just one of her tantrums, and she's being dealt with. She's getting the help she needs. I don't want to hear you mention it again, Harry."
I never recalled Jas apologizing during a tantrum. Before then, she had never apologized once in her life. It was very out of character. I knew something wasn't right, but I couldn't do anything about it. I tried calling the unknown number back from the home phone a couple of times when my parents weren't at home, but to no avail. Three months passed. Some nights I would wake up drenched in sweat, screams ringing in my ears.
The end of the school year came, and I thought it was time for Jasmine to return home. I asked dad about her.
"They've said she's making really good progress, so she's going to stay for a few more years," he beamed.
"How do you know she's even alive?" I asked.
"What kind of question is that?" He laughed. "She spoke to us herself, sounded like she'd grown up a lot over the past year."
She didn't come back home.
Over time, I grew accustomed to being alone. Mom and dad never talked about Jas again. They acted as if she never existed, and for some reason, I never dared to ask. Perhaps I would've forgotten I ever had a sister, if it weren't for the periodic nightmares of that phone call which returned to haunt me every few weeks. When I turned eighteen, I moved out and went to college. As soon as I left home, the nightmares returned with a vengeance, revisiting almost every night.
Back when I was ten, after mom had called the boarding school following the horrific phone call, she left her phone on the kitchen table and I saw the number. I didn't note it down, but it was one of those that was easy to remember. I specifically remember thinking it was odd that a number had such a long string of fives.
One night in my dorm, I tried to recall the number, typing several possible combinations into my phone keypad and tapping the call button. After a few invalid attempts, I was surprised to finally get through to someone.
"Hello, this is the boarding school reception," A voice came from the other end. Bingo.
"Hi there, I'd like to ask about a student who once attended your school, her name is Jasmine Collins."
There was a pause.
"What is your relation to this student?"
"I'm her brother. She attended the school about eight or nine years ago, and I haven't seen her since. Just wanted to know if you knew where she graduated to."
"I'll search the records."
"Thank you," I said. After a few minutes, she piped up again.
"Apologies, there are no records matching this name."
"Are you sure?" I frowned, "It's J-a-s-m-i-n-e C-o-l-l-i-n-s." I spelt it out.
"Nope, nothing in our system."
Silence. I grew frustrated.
"Listen," I growled quietly, "I know something happened to my sister while she was at your school. If you don't tell me exactly where she is right now, I'm going to involve the police."
"Sir, we do not appreciate unfounded accusations or threats. if you like, I can do a second search, but if nothing comes up there isn't much I can help with," she said.
"J-a-s-m-i-n-e C-o-l-l-i-n-s," I repeated, "do it."
Two minutes passed.
"My sincerest apologies," said the woman on the other end, "I indeed misspelt the name. Miss Collins was a student here until she turned eighteen. She was discharged thereafter. Would you like the address?"
A wave of relief ran through me, and my racing pulse began to ease.
"Yes please, thank you."
She gave me an address in Pennsylvania. The following Friday evening, I took a flight over and made my way to the location. It was a wide two-storey building in the middle of a well kept garden. Colorful, well trimmed rose bushes and plots of tulips lined the perimeter. There was a small fountain on the path that led up to the main entrance of the building. I expected it to be a house or block of apartments, and double-checked that the address was correct, which it was.
I walked into a reception area. Glass panels surrounded by wooden frames made up one of the walls, with a door leading to a corridor. A blonde lady was sitting at a desk, and some elderly people were talking in the corridor. There was a colorful poster on the wall.
'Celebrating our care home's 40th anniversary. Come join us for cake!'
Care home? I thought to myself, confused.
"Hi there," said the woman at the desk, in a cheery tone.
"Hello, I'm looking for my sister, someone told me she would be here."
"Name?" She asked.
"Jasmine Collins?"
She typed it, and clicked.
"Take a seat, I won't be two seconds."
She descended down the corridor, and returned a few moments later, pushing a wheelchair with someone on it. My eyes widened as she came closer.
The woman in the wheelchair had big bulging eyes, with pupils that pointed away from each other absently, and a crooked neck slanting uncomfortably to the right. Her arms and legs rested limp, feet bent in an uncomfortable position. Her thin, brittle brown hair hung from her scalp, which housed specks of dandruff. Her limbs were stick thin, but her midsection bulged slightly. She sat almost motionless as she was pushed towards me, apart from her chest, which rose as she gasped in breaths of air. A drip of saliva ran down from the side of her open mouth. She wore a pink shirt that said 'Mondays' and a blue flowery dress. There was a cannula and dressing on her left arm, and a yellow feeding tube came out of her right nostril, taped to the side of her face.
The blonde lady brought her in front of me, then flipped the brake on the wheelchair. She crouched down next to it, and stroked the woman's sparse strands of hair.
"Say hello, Jasmine," she said softly.
The woman in the wheelchair let out a long groan. I stared in disbelief, horrified.
"What happened to her?" I choked.
"She was admitted to us a few years ago, before I started working here," explained the blonde lady. "I heard she contracted bacterial meningitis at another residence, and got brain damage as a result."
"No," I said, shaking my head, my voice trembling.
"This isn't right," I continued, "something very bad has happened to her. How did she get here? Can you check the records?"
"Well, before I started working here, this place had paper records. Some of them got lost, hers was one of them, but what the staff at the time could remember was transcribed onto the new electronic system."
She reached over the desk and flipped the computer monitor around.
"Her notes here just say she was admitted at age eighteen having suffered brain damage after contracting meningitis as a teenager, and presented as quadriplegic with greatly reduced cognition and speech. She had a medical exam on admission, which confirmed this. No suspicious circumstances were reported."
"Where was she brought here from?" I asked in a panic, trying to read the text on the screen. "And by who?" The lady looked at the screen and scrolled down.
"Doesn't say," she said.
"Is that all you can find? Everything?"
She nodded. I stared for what seemed like hours, and finally broke out of my trance.
"Thank you," I croaked, rattled.
I took the handles of the wheelchair and unlocked the brake, wheeling it and the woman outside into the garden area, down the path leading to the front doors and past the fountain. I eventually stopped beside a far away bench. I sat down, still light headed.
It was a bright, sunny day. Children walked hand in hand with their elderly and disabled relatives along the green grass, admiring the roses. Some families were having picnics in the distance. A cool breeze swept by, the sound of water flowing like white noise in the background.
I looked in the woman's eyes, trying to find my sister locked inside. Her gaze shifted to meet mine. I could see in her eyes that she desperately wanted to tell me something.
"What did they do to you?" I whispered. She just stared at me, unblinking. A single tear ran down her left cheek.
When I returned to my dorm, I was angry. I wanted answers, and picked up the phone to dial mom and dad's house and ask them what they had done. Perhaps I should even call the police first, I thought, pacing up and down my room for hours, thinking about who to call and what I would say. Then I sat down on my bed, as a realization came over me.
Mom and dad had been good to me. Mom had been diagnosed with breast cancer just before I left for college, and seemed to be fighting a losing battle. Dad had lost my grandparents on his side, and was also slowly losing his eyesight. Their marriage wasn't doing too well, but they had somehow stuck it through for the family. Did I really want to do this to them now? I thought back to when I had asked dad if Jas was coming home.
"She spoke to us herself…"
I pondered what I should do next for days upon days, and I came to the conclusion of… nothing.
Call me a bad person, call me a coward, call me selfish. Believe me, I badly wanted answers to what the hell happened in that boarding school.
I just didn't want to lose anyone else.
I went to PA to visit Jas every college break, pushing her in her wheelchair down the pathways in the park surrounding the care home. Eventually, I graduated and my fiancée and got our own place. After we had settled in somewhat, we brought Jas back from the care home to live with us. I knew it we were taking on a big commitment, especially as we were planning to have a family in the near future, but somehow I felt like I owed it. My fiancée Marielle is an absolute star. She was an accountant who mostly worked from home and was happy to accommodate, which is more than most would do for a partner. Marielle even helped prepare Jas' nutrition at home, which we fed her through the NG tube, and other aspects of her care.
I came home from work one day.
"Welcome back babe," chirped Marielle. I kissed her and hung my coat up behind the door.
"How was your day?" I asked.
"Decent, same old. Did some work in the morning," she replied, "in the afternoon, I took Jas out on a walk along the river. I think… she tried to say something."
"Jas tried to speak?" I asked, intrigued.
"I think so. I listened closely, and she kept repeating something. It sounded like…" Marielle did an impression.
"Harry? Was she trying to say my name?"
She pondered for a second.
"No, I think it sounded more like, 'sorry'."

Sorry for the long post. My (35f) grandmother (85f) started showing early stages of dementia several years ago. She was deemed a fall risk and, after a ton of battles with my family, she was finally put in an independent living facility. My younger golden child cousin (34m) and I are the only ones in our state here with her while my dad and uncle are living in other states. (Mind you, he and I have NEVER gotten along) A little backstory: GM and I have been close but had a bit of a back and forth relationship. I am the oldest grandchild and my family instilled this ideal in me that the oldest takes care of everything (i.e. my dad being the oldest son). When I was younger, my weight fluctuated a lot due to hormonal issues (undiagnosed until 30 when I learned I had PCOS) and having a stressful home life. She knew my home life was difficult and still would tell me that I needed to lose weight, drop a few pounds, boys like skinny girls, etc etc In addition to this, she was a gossip hound. She loved to talk trash about people to make herself feel superior even to the point where she made my uncles former significant other cry. Despite this, and my difficulty letting people go due to dealing with my fair share of tragic loss, I still would visit her, take her out, rush to see her if she was hospitalized, pick up her cigarettes and drive out on road trips when I wasn't exhausted from work and had the extra cash. My cousin hasn't done a damn thing to help. Since my dad lives in a different state, we would drive and meet at a halfway point to pass her off so she could get away for a little while. The drive was about 2 1/2 hours one way for me, 3 or so hours for dad. (She didnt fly because she gets lost and an airport would be overwhelming) I like to drive so it was fine with me. We did this many times over the years and though the drives were typically fine, there were times where she would get salty because she didn't want to go home. My dad, bless his heart, spoils her. Everything she wants, she gets and when she whines, he gives her something to make her happy. Now I'm not clocking people who like to spoil family, I too like to spoil my friends but there's a limit. Like if my step-mom makes a delicious meal and worked hard on it, GM whines that she wants Chinese food and complains until dad gives in and gets it for her. When I push back, dad gets me with "she's old and doesn't remember, we can't hold that against her, she's your grandmother" the pressure to care for her when I wasn't financially (single income) or mentally able to (looooooong story) was pretty heavy. Anyway, this last weekend was the last straw. I am very busy with my job and I'm constantly exhausted from work, depression and the hobbies I have to cope with it. Still, I arranged with my dad to "pass off GM", no biggie. My roommate, who is the best friend ever, was gonna come with to keep me company on the drive back. We usually drive up in the morning, have breakfast at this amazing place and part ways. So it's early, I'm tired from work and not a morning person, but stopped to pick up coffee for all of us and went to the home to get GM. GM says she doesn't want to go claiming she doesn't feel well. I check her temp, breathing and give her a once over and everything appears fine, so i ask what doesn't feel good. GM: I just don't feel well Me: is it your tummy? Congestion? GM: yeah im congested Me: knowing our allergy season has been worse this year we can get you some meds and dad will get you to a good dr GM: OP just let it go
Now, when GM has been sick, she's usually a lot more clearer with her symptoms (usually detailed and exaggerated for pity) and after watching her for years, I can tell when she's actually sick. This was NOT the case, she just didn't want to leave (despite her pestering us for weeks to get out) I call my dad and he had already been on the road for 3 hours so he was trying to convince her to go. She starts getting nasty and telling my dad to shut up. Then she started getting nasty with me. This is where I lost it. All the years of frustration and abuse finally poured out. Me: are you really not feeling well? Or do you just not want to go? GM: I don't want to go! Me: you're being really mean and it's not fair. you're obviously well enough to get up and walk around to have a smoke and get coffee and sign yourself out for the weekend GM: just let it go OP Me: we got up early to drive you, dad is already most of the way there, this is insane! You always do this! GM: Bull@%^# Me: you're a selfish spoiled brat! GM: I don't know who you think you are! Me: who I am?! I am the grandchild who comes to check on you,, im the grandchild who has left work early numerous times to meet you at the hospital only to find out there's nothing wrong! I get you smokes, I drive hours to take you on vacations and never ask for anything in return! Where are the rest of your damn grandkids? Huh? NOT HERE!"
This is when she grabs her walker and just walks away. Her last comment was "I've always been good to you..."
No, no she hasn't. So I'm done. I'm done being her errand boy, her punching bag and her scapegoat. The worst part is that she tells her friends that I'm her favorite. But we all know it's because I'm the only one who actually gives a damn besides my dad... So, AITA?